๐๏ธ Blossom_Butt ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 03:38:25 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I need advice on how to control my jealousy. My bf (27M) and I (25F) have been together for almost 3 years but have been friends longer. I was never a jealous type. I follow Instagram models and always thought they were gorgeous and always goals. At the beginning of our relationship I would share models on Instagram and girls with tattoos. I didnt mind because I thought they were pretty and gorgeous. We recently decided to have a baby together and I'm pregnant now. Almost to my third trimester.
I have been feeling down on myself alot lately. I always struggled with my body weight and how I looked. I did love myself at one point. But now I look down and I see my round belly. I really have to push myself to say out loud in the mirror that I'm pregnant with a baby, and it's what we wanted and I'm happy. But the more I get bigger the less and less I have confidence in my body.
With that being said recently my bf hasnt been making me feel like I'm the best or the prettiest. It feels like he only touches me when he wants to have sex. It's annoying because he wont hold me after or touch me. He will just zone into the TV or be on his phone. It's honestly annoying. And sometimes I feel like he hides his phone from me. And I, being my pregnant self. Get mad real quick and ask him what's he doing and hiding and he always says nothing and he let's me check his phone. But lately I have been doing it more and more... I tell him like i dont like when you tilt your phone away from me or sit up and turn your back towards me to check it and he tells me I'm overreacting and I'm to jealous.
I recently saw that he started following more and more girls on Instagram and some pornstars. I really dont have a problem with it except that when I get a follow request from someone i dont know or i accept and request to follow them back. He gets upset. And asks me if I know them and I say no? But you do it too? And he gets defensive and says like who?? And i am not one to argue. So I stop and just be quiet.
I'm not sure if any of this made sense but thanks for reading all the way through if you did.
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florettesmayor ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:58:35 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You should try sharing how you feel about your body, and how you wish you guys cuddled more. That's a great place to start. Your jealousy will die down when you feel more secure, I bet. I'm not sure what advice I'd give on the instagram stuff, but open communication is always good. Also, you can divide the paragraphs better by pressing enter again.
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 06:47:57 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It seems a lot of guys in here also share my sentiment. I was always a hefty guy, I am about 325 lbs and have dated my share of skinny or average girls (100 - 130lbs). But, I have always wanted to date heavy women because I just imagined I would feel more comfortable with someone who looks like me you know. My fiancee and the love of my life is only 120ish lbs and it looks so awkward when we go out and people see the weight difference between me and her. Her personality and absolutely perfect cooking is what keeps me in love with her - and keeps me heavy! When I was trying to date heavy girls they would always show their insecurity and if there is one thing that isn't very attractive it is lack of confidence. Love yourself first!
DeanLivanos ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:50:53 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My current girlfriend is 45kg and the one before that was 50kg. I like bigger girls to be honest being 100kg myself but they just had such good personalities
Throwawaycel2589 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:05:40 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's ok, there's tons of guys out there who dig "bigger" women. If my girlfriend was heavier than 110 lbs I'd still be attracted to her personality. Weight doesn't matter as long as you have confidence.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:19:43 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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album1 ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 04:59:31 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A womanโs weight doesnโt matter. I like bigger women, but my girlfriend is at 95lbs. If I was single Iโd go after a bigger lady.
[deleted] ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:25:42 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He's kidding. Most men actually prefer heavy women. As long as she has a great personality and confidence then it doesn't matter if she's even 120lbs or more. My girlfriend is only 115lbs but she has an amazing personality which is really what I look for.
FreshCustomer ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:37:31 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I definitely agree that big girls are the way to go. I used to date a heavy girl in college (130 lbs), but she was so self-conscious about her weight & it really turned me off. Now I'm married to an average weight woman (85 lbs). She has a great personality, but I really wish she were bigger. It's all about the confidence!
ch0res ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:01:26 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I also used to date a heavy girl (90 lbs) in the past, but now I'm with an average weight woman (40 lbs)!
blackcat1212 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:30:09 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You mean kilograms right? I used to date a โbig girlโ too at 70 kg but she dumped me because of her insecurities. Little did she know I loved her in every way but she wouldnโt believe me and thought I would cheat. Now Iโm with a girl at 40~ kg, sheโs toned and fit and an Instagram model ... she could use some love handles though
notsdnask ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:34:27 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow, are you guys me? ๐๐
ALittleBelle ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:47:34 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wtf, since when is a 130 lbs girl plus sized? And 85 lbs normal? Like, I'm 5'7, 115 and considered too thin by many.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:50:59 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you sound bitter and entitled hun
yikes on a bike, lets leave this packed
ALittleBelle ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 20:06:44 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Uh, how on earth did my comment give you that impression? Maybe I didn't get my point across, I'm curious what you think I'm saying?
Athousandkites ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:18:43 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yikes
Micery ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:58:39 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They are brigading from braincel https://www.reddit.com/r/Braincels/comments/cb84z2/i_prefer_plussize_women/eteau2t
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:00:09 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
source?
Micery ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 18:23:28 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The link is the source. In it, they link directly to this thread to brigade.
Itsoverfortindercels ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:58:27 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Personally I love heavy women, my current gf is 85 lbs though I only date her for her personality
Scotch_Brains ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:12:39 on July 11, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Part of jealousy is about control and change. Let that go, there is change and you can't control it.
He will still want to watch tight bodies and wank to them. Yes that's not you right now. But if this is the first pregnancy it will also take some time for him to start to actually see the beauty of your new curves. But rest assured most men will.
Tip, let him rub some cream on your belly and breasts. Give him a chance to touch you and notice that it makes him hard.
๐๏ธ Blossom_Butt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:21:58 on July 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you. This made me feel better.
NewestNightmare ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:32:44 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trust me when I say a lot of guys out there, myself included, donโt care about a girls weight. Personally Iโve only ever dated slim attractive women and my current gf is no exception but thatโs only because of her amazing personality. I have no doubt in my mind Iโd still be with her even if she was fat. Hope this helps!
Ultramegasaurus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:07:59 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Weight doesn't matter, it's all about confidence and humor. My current gf is slim but I'm with her for her personality.
You might want to work on your negative attitude instead of blaming something as insignificant as your looks
CalienteMonarch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:43 on July 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a guy that has cheated in my life but is now happily married to my best friend I can say that turning away from you when checking who messaged him and his anger with you accepting friend requests from other guys is a red flag. I did the same things when I was with my ex and my own awful actions were why I didnโt like her talking to guys. It doesnโt necessarily mean heโs cheating but i can relate. Might be worth while to see if he would swap phones with you for a day or 2. As for the feeling of him being distant try to do some of the things that you did when you got together so both of you can relive why you got together in the first place. Itโs not good that you two are already having issues as well seems how throwing a child in the mix will really test your commitment to each other. I hope you figure out what it was that got you two together in the first place and rekindle the flame before it goes out.