I just naturally repressed my feelings when I couldn't relate to my parents at all. Now I feel like a cold, emotionless bastard when there's a death or something and I'm the only one just sitting around not really caring that much.
imhotep4 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 00:06:37 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:09:20 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Lol my dad had Asperger's and my mom never finished the 8th grade and they were generally unsupportive and hindering when it came to most issues because they were ill equipped to raise a child. When I saw the /r/videos post "We need more mentors like this" or whatever with the taekwondo teacher emotionally supporting his young student when be failed to break a board, I cried for the first time in years because I realized just how important it is to have strong, reliable, caring role models, and how drastically my own parents failed to meet that criteria haha
Sometimes I worry that I wouldn't be able to emotionally support my own children because I have no idea how to and they would grow up resenting me haha
sameth1 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:05:12 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Autism made sure that I didn't have to try and repress my feelings.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:25:24 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Tapoke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:12:56 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
I used to be like that, but I recently lived a raw moment of brotherly love with 2 friends after a night of drinking.
Since then, I have cried watching the last episode of Game of Thrones (promise me, Ned, promise me...), and I got to the verge of tears while reading a scene in a book I had already read while a teen.
In hindsight, both scenes are extremely similar. A dying mother letting her child to the care of an incredibly badass knight while making him promise to keep it's indentity secret to save it's life.
So, maybe I was shook by my friends feelings for me (which I always doubted for some reasons), or maybe this particular situation strikes my chords?
Phew thank god. I felt like I took a really big gamble there, because while I wanted to make the moonrune-joke I, I didn't want to be taken for a dick who means it like "wow you are so cool with your runes haha... NOT!"
I switched out a capital W and added the dope to look more like a friendly dude. I'm happy I got that across.
liojki ยท 120 points ยท Posted at 18:24:04 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I would say that's pretty true, at least for me. I was in the gifted program in elementary school, and that kinda fucked with my work ethics as I could accomplish things easily without any effort. When I got to high school my bad work ethics really fucked me over.
It's like there's this natural intelligence dead zone, where you're talented enough that all the early stuff is way too easy and you never develop proper work ethic. But it inevitably catches up to you because you're not really hot shit, and you gotta sink or swim. With many folks sinking.
On either side you got the people who had to work hard enough to develop work ethic and really cultivate their talents. And on the other you have those real upper-end of the bell curve folks where things never get truly difficult, and challenges are just road blocks waiting to be crushed.
Though I guess this depends on the kind of program kids are put into. It feels like if you notice that your kid is doing better than average you really should make a point of really challenging them (within reason) early on so they gain these skills as soon as possible.
Puggpu ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 18:40:00 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I'm sort of similar. I learned how to read very quickly and later when I couldn't pick up math or languages easily I struggled a lot because I wasn't used to having to study a lot.
Hey same. I'll be a college freshman in the fall and I've been spending this summer trying to unfuck my habits.
Puggpu ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 19:21:50 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I just finished my freshman year of college. I got all A's but failed one class my first semester. I think the important thing to realize is that you have to study a lot of time out of class to make up for the shorter classes. Also don't skip class just because you can.
College basics shoulden't be terrible in your first year if you've been the whole "Gifted" routine throughout your K-12. I mean you have to study (in most classes) and I know you might say "I've never studied! I'm going to procrastinate it!" and like you will some things, but it's a different environment and some light study sessions will just make sense in the atmosphere.
Just don't take like Organic Chemistry first semester dumbass.
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Same but with math, I was able to do every problem in my head up until high school, then We had problems that required memorizing formulas and using calculators. That was the first time I actually had to listen to what the teacher told us to do instead of just going over some weird method I made in my head.
More or less same for me. That along with the fact that I never strove for perfect grades, so a B was upsetting, but nothing I couldn't live with. Hence why they call me the King of the Losers. I was right outside the top 10%, mate. That applies to more or less every aspect of my life.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:30:43 on August 7, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I'm 8 years into my 4 year degree because I never took school work seriously, everything just sort of came easy. College turned out to be a different scenario, but by then I was already fucked cause I didn't have the skills everyone else had learned about how to study properly. Yay Gifted kids that grow up to be idiot adults!
This is what I'm currently scared about. I was in the gifted program since Kindergarten, hell I even skipped 1st grade. But I'm about to start my freshman year and I did completely horrible in 7th grade, and I screwed up my 2nd semester of 8th grade pretty bad as well, although not for all the same reasons. I've been praised as "Gifted" and "Smart" since before I started schooling, but the fact that school is starting to require some more effort that I'm not putting forward, combined with the fact that my self-esteem is low due to my barely average recent grades (and feeling like I let so many people who care about me down), and my time management is terrible, I'm in a state where I honestly hope I don't fuck up and waste my entire time in high school.
liojki ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:49:11 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I'll tell you what I'd tell myself if I were a freshman starting High school:
Even with minimal effort you'll probably be able to pass. I put in very low effort and was still able to take advanced classes and graduate with an advanced degree, albeit with somewhat mediocre grades.
But if you wanna make most of your high school experience, you have to try. Don't let yourself look back with regrets, thinking 'I could have done so much, I could have been a top student if only I had tried a little bit more.'
My biggest regret of high school is that I didn't complete a full IB degree. It required a lot of work and taking a lot of advanced classes and I was only missing two classes by the end of senior year. I keep kicking myself for not going all the way, putting in the effort so I could get it.
So my advice is this: do all of your homework. Seriously, do all of it. You seem like me, the kinda person who has difficulty with motivation and dedication. Pushing yourself to complete your homework everyday will be really good for you, as it will give you structure and a goal. I wasted a lot of time in high school on the internet so I would say take at least one hour everyday to study and focus on school.
That being said above, my second biggest regret is not getting involved more in high school. Studying is important but enjoying your time is just as important. I had some friends that I would spend time with, but I would often just stay home and do nothing. High school is a great time, it is your last bit of childhood. Enjoy it. Spend time with people you care about. Have fun. Get involved in after school activities and club.
What I'm writing probably isn't coming out as eloquently as I would like, I'm probably being redundant, and I'm missing a lot of points I would like to address, but they all boil down to one point: don't waste your time. Use it wisely, do your best, have fun. High school can either be terrible or great; it all depends on what you make of it.
Good luck. While you're starting your first year of high school, I'll be starting my first year of college. We'll both try our best.
And do your fucking homework.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:16:38 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like you're just retarded haha
liojki ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:33:10 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
A little bit yeah haha
Billabo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:22:34 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Same, except I was able to slide through highschool honors and AP classes without any effort, got a scholarship to college, and dropped out because I hadn't learned to make myself do homework (in HS, my parents' presence was the motivation). Now I'm in an IT job that I'm only in because my mother works at the company and she recommended me, and here I am slacking off, reading Reddit instead of running those Ethernet cables.
Sirtoshi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:50 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
It worked out weird but okay for me. I was told I was very smart all throughout growing up. Even then I had a decent work ethic until about...11th grade (by USA system). After that I got sick of school so my work ethic tanked.
I still got pretty decent grades throughout the rest of high school and college, but I was never "top of the class" good anymore (plus my major wasn't one of the notoriously difficult ones like engineering).
ya you can tell who the actual gifted people are by the ones who barely have to try in college during their major classes lmao, very ez. and while the rest are struggling who are so used to being called genius and special and gifted like this dumbass culture we have now.. smDh
unless ofc ur major is something ez as shit such as ........ hahahaha not gonna start the fire on that one here xD
[deleted] ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 20:40:31 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Learn how to study before it's too late. It caught up to me in my senior year of high school when all the "normal kids" were suddenly getting better grades than me and not trying to cheat off my tests anymore. If you're still in high school, you can talk to your teachers/counselors about it and they'll probably hook you up, if you're out of high school already then you can probably find lessons on the internet? I dunno. I learned it the hard way with two years of sleep deprivation, depression and drug abuse, you don't want to do it that way. There are actual classes and lessons out there on study habits and work ethic, go look into them. And actually do what they tell you to.
Claumax ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 20:34:19 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
You really are me, holy crap, currently on my first year of depression and sleep depravation. Thanks for the advice, I don't know why I didn't try looking for advice, I just thought I was supposed to figure it out by myself.
Edit: you are another dude, but thanks, this looks like a common problem.
Most things that you're supposed to "just figure out on your own" have someone that would be glad to teach it to you. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you're struggling with something - that's another thing that my public school teachers always tried to impress upon me and I never listened to.
Claumax ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:50:17 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I feel better now, sometimes I feel helpless about this type of things. It's nice to remember that people are always happy to give advice. :)
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 21:31:52 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
MGLLN ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:58:36 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Learn to study before it's too late. Not studying and just "cruising" (as i like to call it) will catch up with you eventually, unless you're a literal genius/prodigy.
One size doesn't fit all. So, I suggest learning what studying techniques fit/help you the most. I would also suggest learning multiple studying techniques.
and the advice given by /u/skulblaka is pretty good
I never studied for anything either, but I did read the classroom textbooks if there wasn't anything else to do. It was useful for chemistry, but English was fucking terrible. Literally nothing new from the previous year. I didn't pay attention to any of the lectures or anything because I just remembered everything from last year.
I think the suggestion isnt negative reinforcement, but positively reinforcing traits like working hard rather than something passive like intelligence.
Actually it isnt about positive vs negative. Smart is something you either are or aren't. Rather Ghana praising a child for being smart, which is like praising a child for being tall or having brown hair, you should praise them for specific tasks and accomplishments. Instead of being smart, the thing being praised is them always doing their homework or getting a food grade.
The difference is realising what is tangible in the real world and encourage that instead. Intelligence is useless unless you can translate it into productivity. So praise productivity and significant accomplishments instead of perceived intelligence.
But what if you're not doing great things no matter the effort? Suddenly you feel like you've wasted your talent and that you're useless...
Icemasta ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 00:54:06 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
the more you tell kids how smart they are the less effort they put into doing things.
It's not really telling, it's just that if a kid isn't challenged, he gets used to it, develops bad habits, and sits on his laurel.
That's a big problem in public schools, they have one size fit all classes, so you got slower kids that slow down the class, and fast kids that are bored out of their minds.
I was one of those fast kids, my last year of high school, I pretty much missed 75% of classes, only showed up to turn in reports and for exams, and I got 95% everywhere.
Then college in Natural Sciences 'cause I had no fucking clue what I was doing and all those bad habits I learned through elementary and high schools? Turns out it's really fucking bad. I was doing fuck all in class, I had learned for 11 fucking years how to lose myself into daydreams. Now I had to actually listen, college is actually really fucking easy ,but the first semester I almost flunked. Had to learn to apply myself.
The biggest problem is that if you've never dealt with failure before, and you fail for the first time at college/Uni, you're in big fucking trouble. It can be a crushing blow to some people, and that's why you end up with smart people that do fuck all once they're adults, because suddenly, they are challenged, and they can't deal with it. They haven't developed the skills of "What to do if I have difficulty with something.".
I've had a few classes in college, especially advanced physics classes, that had people dropping like flies. They couldn't understand it, and because they couldn't understand it on the first try, they did not know what to do. They thought "if I can't understand it, that means I am dumb, it's impossible". Some kids think the same thing about fucking multiplication in elementary school but they slug through it and that's a very valuable skill to learn at a young age.
So yeah, it's not really the "tell kids", if the public schools actually challenged the smart kids to keep their intelligence sharp, I am pretty sure we'd have a lot more people in high end research.
Yup. I was told I was gifted all my life. Just barely graduated high school because I didn't do shit. I kept being told "well youre too smart for this so you slack off". Eventually I realized that's bullshit and pulled it together senior year. Graduated 3rd from last in the class, but still graduated. Last semester I had a 3.4 GPA at my community college because I actually did my work and studied.
500lb ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:10:07 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm. I was given basically a child IQ test and scored the highest the school ever had. I never really tried in school and still can't work very hard. And I know I'm a fucking dumbass now. I'm too lazy to even think.
I've never known a child who's been told to "they're better than average" to ever turn out more than average. Kids aren't good at the whole "your future is hard work whether you're smart or not" rationalization.
Ayowyn ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:32:29 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I really don't want to blame my mother for this but I also really think this is the case. She went wild bragging about me when I was a kid. Now I...damnit.
Ha haha ha yea I know right so you got any links to those puppy videos?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:57:22 on August 30, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Same here. I've been to every corner of youtube. Lets plays, Star Wars fan theories, WatchMojo Top ten lists, ASMR videos, Food review videos, Beauty vloggers, Mukbangs, Filthy frank, idubbzzz. I don't even enjoy it anymore.
ranthria ยท 171 points ยท Posted at 17:08:44 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
hm. was gonna comment on the reason behind, but hadn't considered this simple explanation. It makes total sense since there will pretty much always be a few kids that seem 'better' than the rest in every class. also, perhaps people 'peak' at different ages, which means there's place for more than a few in the 'gifted' bracket...
pete404 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 21:36:25 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Like were you guys in the actual gifted program where they took you out of class for 3 hours to give you more challenging material or did you just make A's n shit? I was in the program, but I feel the same as OP
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:34:09 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Same here. I loved the program but my parents refused to pay for the trips so i never got to really bond with the other kids in there. Because i was out of class i never got to really bond with my classmates. Because i was an outsider i was bullied so i stopped trying and changed schools. Because i stopped trying and never developed the right study habits i fell behind bad. I changed schools again and had to make up classes (still suck at algebra).
Now i have basically no direction in life and im just now (after 2 years an 10k worth of college later) finding what i think i want to do and planting my feet.
I was in the program for a time in grade school. Then they're all, "wait, you're not gifted, back you go"!
Turil ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:35:21 on August 23, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I was in the program for a time in grade school. Then they're all, "wait, you're not gifted, back you go"!
Heh. That was me, too! Genius, but living in an abusive (not to me) home, and thus too stressed out to be consistently awesome. Also, mainstream schools don't get truly gifted people, usually, and still try to force them to be robots. More clever robots, perhaps, but still robots. I'm SO not a robot.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:46:23 on August 5, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
I basically didn't exist until Junior year in highschool, so I never really had a peak. I don't remember the large majority of my life because I wasn't on pills back then.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:38:02 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I know that is a donk meme but it's not far from the truth for me.
Just finished (and aced) orgo. Listen, DO NOT MEMORIZE. I cannot emphasize that enough. Do not memorize. Organic is all electrons, figure out where the electrons are going and you'll never struggle. David Klein has written a great book on first semester organic. Get a head start and start teaching yourself right now. University of California Irvine has the absolute best lecture on it. 51A and 51B are organic 1 and 51B and 51C are organic 2. Watch those lectures. I hope you kill it!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:49:05 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
What if I would rather figure out how fast they're going?
don't let it happen. Stay on top of your shit, use all the tools available to be successful
ajp0206 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:57:04 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Don't try to memorize mechanisms. Know why they happen. If you don't understand something go to office hours ASAP. Everything you learn stacks on top of each other and you're fucked if you miss a key concepts. You should be fine.
The way they made the comic is one of them provided photos and the other added text. Sometimes the text has some connection to the photo, but a lot of the time it doesn't.
dekrant ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 18:27:25 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Because it's also whiny bullshit about not living up to expectations.
r/meirl isn't supposed to be this me irl. It hurts, guys.
๐๏ธ FourtE2 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 01:36:08 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
You know what's worse?
My older sister sent this to me :(
antsugi ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:39:29 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
That's the problem. Children who are raised constantly being told how amazing they are internalize that and stop trying as hard as others.
The compliments go away, but the person has their exceptionality ingrained into their mind still, even though they don't get complimented any more. They then begin to warp ideas and start believing the average person isn't actively thinking most of the time - that their wandering mind is one in a million.
This leads to them isolating themselves, and posting ironic memes online to other self-aware strangers that probably live right near each other. But in public, they're all disgusted by all the normies. They wish that they didn't have this "gift" of exceptionalism, that they could be "stupid" like the others. They view their gradual slacking as an ironic curse of being intelligent.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:48:51 on August 12, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
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antsugi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:45:52 on August 13, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I watch children a lot, yes
Mostly it's been a unanimous sentiment between me and other friends I've made through the years. Large enough diversity to assume it's not abnormal
wolfgame ยท 44 points ยท Posted at 00:21:32 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
My IQ was tested as part of a mental health screen at 143 when I was 12. I skipped prerequisites for classes because I screwed around with computers. Never studied. Never received any encouragement or assistance because "wolfgame's a genius, he doesn't need any help. He should should know this already."
Grades were shit. Dropped out of high school in 1996.
I was scouted by a major online service to join their web services team the same year.
Went in to IT consulting. Didn't know about the stigma surrounding consultants.
Worked at a couple of firms. Skills developed, got pretty good at a few things. Eventually found a job as an infrastructure manager.
Had a breakdown after my CFO refused to work with me and the CEO blamed me for a project stalling. Quit my job. Went back to consulting.
Friend went in to the business. Offered to pay him 10% of my billables to handle my collections, contracts, etc...
Friend stole $27,000 from me.
Tried to kill myself. Failed. Taken to the hospital for observation for two weeks. Diagnosed Bipolar I.
I'm now 38. Unemployed. Living in mom's attic.
She's had enough. Wants me out by 8/15. I can't find a job. Don't have a home.
wolfgame ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:57:59 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Loophole in the contract. He did it legally, but by distorting our agreement.
Our agreement was that he was to take 10% of my billables. He took over a year to get an attorney to write up the contract. I asked my attorney to take on the job. She advised me against it, because she would be working for him and not me.
I should've listened.
He had her write the contract that I would be paid 90% of my billable time, which is vastly different from 10% of revenue generated by me.
I landed a contract for a large A/V supply company to build out their new office space. Spent about 6 months on the project and kept asking for access to the location to get everything done. And then was given something like three days in the middle of a blizzard to get the job done.
I had a panic attack and couldn't get any motivation going.
Friend hired contractors, took all of the profit. Sent me a check for $1000. It was a $45,000 contract. Once the contractors had been paid and he took his $4500, there was roughly $27,000 left.
Since the contract was based on billable hours and our agreement was based on gross billables, he was legally in the right, but it completely violated what we had agreed upon in the beginning.
Life is sometimes shit, and I'm sorry that it shit on you. Brains are dicks too, and I hope you can kick it's ass someday and be happy despite everything.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 13:28:22 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
That's what you took from that?! I saw it as the complete opposite. Chosen profession? That's a pigeon-hole. Don't get along with your boss? Quit. Friend going in to business? Partner up! Friend not doing his job? Do it for him. Lawyer advises not to provide service. What does she know?
These are my decisions and my consequences.
Blaming everyone else? Nothing could be farther from the truth.
As for kicking a man when he's down? How's that working out for you?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:05:49 on August 6, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
Being "gifted" is worthless unless you actually do something with it. Not saying I'm gifted, just that I realized years ago that effort matters waaaaaaay more than ability.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:46:34 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
This is completely subjective, but a lot of people who seem very smart as children tend to be lacking in other areas of intelligence like ability to understand social cues.
TLDR: It's because redditors are fucking autistic
That was me until I started smoking weed. As my grades got worse, my social skills got better. I'm off it for the time being, but I think I'm better for it. Never would have met a lot of people and learned to socialize with different kinds of people than the little "gifted" circle. Even then it sucked. Anyway, I don't know why I'm writing this. I guess I thought it would be relevant, but I just started rambling. Bye.
[deleted] ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 17:33:33 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I used to be so smart as a child. But now im a step off from being mentally retarded. I ate a lot of tuna when i was younger so i blame mercury poisoning
Damn. He mentioned something about a guy being from a specific forum(not the warlizard one). So I wanted you to come by ready to "เฒ _เฒ " only to find it wasn't needed
Better to tell your kids they're retarded and have them strive to show you otherwise than to tell them they're special and ruin them when they aren't.
uwhelp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:52:21 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
...way too real (except for the crying part). I was in the gifted programs, didn't study more than 1-2 days for any exam and graduated high school with marks in mid-high 90s. Been in uni for 3 years now and I'm still struggling to pass, barely passing my courses and actually failed a few. I even had to repeat a term in my first year because my average was too low. I really don't know how to study. I wish I had failed and learned when the consequences weren't as high (I'm actually glad I hit this block now rather than even later in life). Can somebody who successfully learned how to study give me any tips or resources?
4entzix ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:55:53 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
If I had a dollar for every time I was called gifted in school I would have more money than I make in a year
Can someone just pay me based off my act score?? And not off my work experience??
It's the Internet. Pretty much everyone on here jacks off a lot. That's how the Internet got so much growth. Funding from porn sales increased the size and capability and now we get to have other things besides porn like YouTube videos, funny memes, some knowledge things... ... ... and more porn.
My feelings of sadness or anger were almost always disacknowledged/invalidated by my parents, so now I have literally no way of telling whether my negative reactions to situations are call for hahahahah ๐๐ซ
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:52:20 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Actually me_irl, but I can't cry tears, they are just silent sobs, with the occasional bout of depression
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:55:01 on August 30, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Can I just say that I relate to a lot of the things written in the comment section. High school was easy, I didn't put much effort into it and got by okay, graduated with above average grades.
Uni started and in my first year I passed all my classes, one of which I did by scoring the bare minimum score to pass. Second year comes along and I fail two classes. It fucking broke me, wrecked me. I couldn't cope with the workload, I withdrew myself. Stopped studying or looking at the material because why bother when you're so far behind. Just stayed in my room all the time, masturbating the entire day and crying myself to sleep. If not that, then I'd either be watching youtube videos or browse reddit. I hated myself so much that I had to constantly distract. I couldn't bear "existing" so I tried to numb my brain using all these distractions. Even the thought of getting better seemed impossible during this time.
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prabhbhambra13 ยท 1829 points ยท Posted at 17:13:31 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
me too thanks. just not the crying part, I haven't been able to cry for over a decade because I don't feel anything.
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[deleted] ยท 512 points ยท Posted at 18:53:04 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
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qjornt ยท 206 points ยท Posted at 20:15:56 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre giving me the โ๐๐ซโ routine? I invented โ๐๐ซโ. Nobody tells me ๐๐ซ.
NsfwOlive ยท 140 points ยท Posted at 20:19:01 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
me too thanks ๐๐ซ
[deleted] ยท 119 points ยท Posted at 21:23:38 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
me doot thanks ๐๐ซ
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[deleted] ยท 100 points ยท Posted at 21:47:23 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
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pauksk ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:47:04 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
๐๐ซ
drekonil ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 21:59:15 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Based automod bringing the memes
[deleted] ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 21:37:58 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
nifty
[deleted] ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 23:02:11 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Who's a good bot rubs belly
mostly_dick_jokes ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 00:18:58 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Please stop rubbing your belly
InsanePsycologist ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:48:11 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Doot tell him what to do
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[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:56:14 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
WHOS A GOOD BOT? YOU ARE! petting intensifies
pauksk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:38:26 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
๐๐ซ
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:46:38 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Well stop telling dick jokes then... for the most part, of course.
magnora7 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:18:48 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
๐๐ซ
sameth1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:09:15 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
You shot yourself so hard that the skin on your head blew off? Spoopy.
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 21:49:06 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I'm going to kill myselfMe too thanks
Istencsaszar ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:16:11 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Ukraine approves
pauksk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:46:08 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
๐๐ซ
Handhunter13 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:44:22 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
You merely adopted the "๐๐ซ"
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:35:05 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
/u/qjornt IS GETTING FRUSTRATED!
Q1189998819991197253 ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 21:19:17 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Water guns sure are fun, aren't they?
ps am I shadowbanned
sonargasm ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 21:22:53 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
yeah sorry buddy
Q1189998819991197253 ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 21:24:27 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
o. even this lonely place doesnt want me too thanks
sonargasm ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 21:29:37 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
๐๐ซ
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:31:48 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Well well well look who decided to show their face
sonargasm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:15:38 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah the [water] gun is actually taped to me.
Haha
pauksk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:47:50 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
๐๐ซ
Nubbiecakes_Gaming ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:22:27 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I don't think so
ihadaquestion ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:26:01 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
nope to shadowban
Q1189998819991197253 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:33:23 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I thought this was me_irl and was curious to see if they banned me yet. Surprisingly not.
EFlagS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:01:19 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Mods can't do that. Only admins.
If you comment a lot and haven't got replies for a few days it's still good to check just in case.
There's even a sub.
Tyler-Cinephiliac ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 21:35:56 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I have iOS 10 beta 4, which takes a the gun emoji and replaces it with a squirt gun so this is actually pretty funny.
http://i.imgur.com/E4MpfLD.jpg
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 22:24:14 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Well i might as well go shoot myself with the hose now
Yenwodyah_ ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 22:20:45 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
What. That's dumb.
superezfe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:40:26 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
First world problems: http://i.imgur.com/QoLto0m.jpg
BlueBICPen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:02:40 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
Why are you holding a water gun to your head?
nagaroht ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 21:19:17 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Did you download the iOS 10 beta?
leverrevide ยท 58 points ยท Posted at 17:34:09 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Me too, thanks
Miguelinileugim ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 19:42:01 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Me neither, I'm gifted but just a little lonely and improving thank you :)
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 18:46:23 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Haha
prpldrank ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:27:16 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
lol
KSPReptile ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:44:06 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Haha
Typicaldrugdealer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:17:02 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Too perfect
theSchlongMong ยท 109 points ยท Posted at 17:37:40 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Also the child genius part. I used to be pretty stupid. I still am, but I used to be too
[deleted] ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 17:57:12 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
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flashpanther ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 18:11:57 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Schlong is such a great word
pbzeppelin1977 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:29:59 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
moist
Supersumo2 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 21:47:56 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Nothing better than a good moist schlong.
ChubbyMonkeyX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:03:09 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
thick creamy moist schlong
imhotep4 ยท 83 points ยท Posted at 20:33:01 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
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[deleted] ยท 55 points ยท Posted at 20:45:36 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
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Everyonewillusebing ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 22:17:11 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Haha lol, same except with my dad, thanks.
pauksk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:48:50 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
ha
__PETTYOFFICER117__ ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 22:19:10 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I just naturally repressed my feelings when I couldn't relate to my parents at all. Now I feel like a cold, emotionless bastard when there's a death or something and I'm the only one just sitting around not really caring that much.
imhotep4 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 00:06:37 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
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[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:09:20 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Lol my dad had Asperger's and my mom never finished the 8th grade and they were generally unsupportive and hindering when it came to most issues because they were ill equipped to raise a child. When I saw the /r/videos post "We need more mentors like this" or whatever with the taekwondo teacher emotionally supporting his young student when be failed to break a board, I cried for the first time in years because I realized just how important it is to have strong, reliable, caring role models, and how drastically my own parents failed to meet that criteria haha
The_American_Tragedy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:01:55 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes I worry that I wouldn't be able to emotionally support my own children because I have no idea how to and they would grow up resenting me haha
sameth1 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:05:12 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Autism made sure that I didn't have to try and repress my feelings.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:25:24 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
haha
admiraltarook ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:18:19 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Lmao that's funny cause you just described me better than I ever have ๐๐๐๐๐
shootingtsar ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 23:28:11 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I love all the positivity in these comments.
MRSandMR-D ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 00:01:25 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
> r/meirl
> positivity
Pick one
screamingmorgasm ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:20:58 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, they're positive that they feel nothing and would wecome death, so that's something.
muchtooblunt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:18:15 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
lol
FlipskiZ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:19:40 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, me too, thanks.
strictlytacos ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 18:51:32 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
That's cool I cry enough for the both of us.
prabhbhambra13 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 19:36:06 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for having my back and picking up my slack.
CapnSippy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:35:36 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Jack.
Gabbegegubengegeben ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 18:53:49 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Me too, thanks
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99Pro ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:53:51 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I can vouch for this method, it works great.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:24:58 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
same
ShadowCory1101 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:39:40 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
......I have no strong feelings one way or the other.
Just_Some_Man ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:31:22 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
i cry at times that make no sense sometimes. i think it's just my body pretending to have emotions.
xerocomplex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:41:10 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Same tho
SpacemasterTom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:11:02 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Wow, it's almost like I'm in /r/meirl or something
Ihaveanusername ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:22:38 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Aren't we all apathetic? Or are we dancer?
fistulaspume ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:10:13 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Came here to not cry about this.
Tapoke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:12:56 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
I used to be like that, but I recently lived a raw moment of brotherly love with 2 friends after a night of drinking.
Since then, I have cried watching the last episode of Game of Thrones (promise me, Ned, promise me...), and I got to the verge of tears while reading a scene in a book I had already read while a teen.
In hindsight, both scenes are extremely similar. A dying mother letting her child to the care of an incredibly badass knight while making him promise to keep it's indentity secret to save it's life.
So, maybe I was shook by my friends feelings for me (which I always doubted for some reasons), or maybe this particular situation strikes my chords?
Erh, I mean, me too thanks.
Ghnarlok ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:29:12 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
same thank you
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demosthenocke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:02:20 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
2meirl4meirl
1337Gandalf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:24:19 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
That's literally my life, but 6 years instead of 10...
GlazedReddit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:58:29 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
PRO TIP: Carry a piece of onion around with you to elicit tears in case someone needs you to feel something about what they said or are doing
ErectusPenor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:51:24 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Good meme
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:28:50 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
GOOD meme from prabhbhambra13
vVvMaze ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 21:51:18 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Im sorry. I hope things get better for you.
TufffGong ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 00:16:37 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
/r/im14andthisisdeep
Wadriner ยท 896 points ยท Posted at 17:44:37 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Those might be related, the more you tell kids how smart they are the less effort they put into doing things.
Lemon_Dungeon ยท 534 points ยท Posted at 17:48:32 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
That's why I tell all kids they're idiots.
[deleted] ยท 146 points ยท Posted at 19:46:26 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Jokes on you when they all become super successful but think it's in spite of what you said and not because of it.
Lemon_Dungeon ยท 101 points ยท Posted at 19:48:09 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
All according to keikaku.
keikaku means plan
anotherawkwardadult ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 19:59:32 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
่จ็ป ya casual
Skumbag_eX ยท 92 points ยท Posted at 21:17:38 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
wow he speaks moonrunes, dope
WhackTheSquirbos ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 21:26:02 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
i get that reference nice
Skumbag_eX ยท 52 points ยท Posted at 21:53:42 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Phew thank god. I felt like I took a really big gamble there, because while I wanted to make the moonrune-joke I, I didn't want to be taken for a dick who means it like "wow you are so cool with your runes haha... NOT!" I switched out a capital W and added the dope to look more like a friendly dude. I'm happy I got that across.
I mean oops me too
Scholles ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:35:13 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
me too thanks
LordPadre ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:41:23 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I bet you can't speak moon runes, you big dummy
MoHashAli ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:34:49 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
And that's a bad thing?
gotreh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:39:28 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
r/your_son_irl
liojki ยท 120 points ยท Posted at 18:24:04 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I would say that's pretty true, at least for me. I was in the gifted program in elementary school, and that kinda fucked with my work ethics as I could accomplish things easily without any effort. When I got to high school my bad work ethics really fucked me over.
RabidHexley ยท 44 points ยท Posted at 19:40:04 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
It's like there's this natural intelligence dead zone, where you're talented enough that all the early stuff is way too easy and you never develop proper work ethic. But it inevitably catches up to you because you're not really hot shit, and you gotta sink or swim. With many folks sinking.
On either side you got the people who had to work hard enough to develop work ethic and really cultivate their talents. And on the other you have those real upper-end of the bell curve folks where things never get truly difficult, and challenges are just road blocks waiting to be crushed.
Though I guess this depends on the kind of program kids are put into. It feels like if you notice that your kid is doing better than average you really should make a point of really challenging them (within reason) early on so they gain these skills as soon as possible.
Puggpu ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 18:40:00 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I'm sort of similar. I learned how to read very quickly and later when I couldn't pick up math or languages easily I struggled a lot because I wasn't used to having to study a lot.
sugar_price ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 19:03:52 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Hey same. I'll be a college freshman in the fall and I've been spending this summer trying to unfuck my habits.
Puggpu ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 19:21:50 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I just finished my freshman year of college. I got all A's but failed one class my first semester. I think the important thing to realize is that you have to study a lot of time out of class to make up for the shorter classes. Also don't skip class just because you can.
ELI5_MODS_SUCK_ASS ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 21:00:06 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
College basics shoulden't be terrible in your first year if you've been the whole "Gifted" routine throughout your K-12. I mean you have to study (in most classes) and I know you might say "I've never studied! I'm going to procrastinate it!" and like you will some things, but it's a different environment and some light study sessions will just make sense in the atmosphere.
Just don't take like Organic Chemistry first semester dumbass.
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awsomazinfulnez ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:46:33 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Same but with math, I was able to do every problem in my head up until high school, then We had problems that required memorizing formulas and using calculators. That was the first time I actually had to listen to what the teacher told us to do instead of just going over some weird method I made in my head.
epicblob ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 19:41:35 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Same here. I've been in a gifted/accelerated program since like 3rd grade and didn't develop a work ethic until my junior year.
Huttingham ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:26:50 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
More or less same for me. That along with the fact that I never strove for perfect grades, so a B was upsetting, but nothing I couldn't live with. Hence why they call me the King of the Losers. I was right outside the top 10%, mate. That applies to more or less every aspect of my life.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:30:43 on August 7, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
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epicblob ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 19:35:59 on August 7, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I don't see what was humble about it.
amorsemper ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 22:50:06 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
It was also a blow to my self esteem in high school when I wasn't as smart as everyone told me I was. :/
IM_A_WOMAN ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 23:29:30 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I'm 8 years into my 4 year degree because I never took school work seriously, everything just sort of came easy. College turned out to be a different scenario, but by then I was already fucked cause I didn't have the skills everyone else had learned about how to study properly. Yay Gifted kids that grow up to be idiot adults!
TheLightSeba ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:12:10 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
same, straight up didnt do homework in middle school and it really fucked me freshman year
SonicSpeed54 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:02:53 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
This is what I'm currently scared about. I was in the gifted program since Kindergarten, hell I even skipped 1st grade. But I'm about to start my freshman year and I did completely horrible in 7th grade, and I screwed up my 2nd semester of 8th grade pretty bad as well, although not for all the same reasons. I've been praised as "Gifted" and "Smart" since before I started schooling, but the fact that school is starting to require some more effort that I'm not putting forward, combined with the fact that my self-esteem is low due to my barely average recent grades (and feeling like I let so many people who care about me down), and my time management is terrible, I'm in a state where I honestly hope I don't fuck up and waste my entire time in high school.
liojki ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:49:11 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I'll tell you what I'd tell myself if I were a freshman starting High school:
Even with minimal effort you'll probably be able to pass. I put in very low effort and was still able to take advanced classes and graduate with an advanced degree, albeit with somewhat mediocre grades.
But if you wanna make most of your high school experience, you have to try. Don't let yourself look back with regrets, thinking 'I could have done so much, I could have been a top student if only I had tried a little bit more.'
My biggest regret of high school is that I didn't complete a full IB degree. It required a lot of work and taking a lot of advanced classes and I was only missing two classes by the end of senior year. I keep kicking myself for not going all the way, putting in the effort so I could get it.
So my advice is this: do all of your homework. Seriously, do all of it. You seem like me, the kinda person who has difficulty with motivation and dedication. Pushing yourself to complete your homework everyday will be really good for you, as it will give you structure and a goal. I wasted a lot of time in high school on the internet so I would say take at least one hour everyday to study and focus on school.
That being said above, my second biggest regret is not getting involved more in high school. Studying is important but enjoying your time is just as important. I had some friends that I would spend time with, but I would often just stay home and do nothing. High school is a great time, it is your last bit of childhood. Enjoy it. Spend time with people you care about. Have fun. Get involved in after school activities and club.
What I'm writing probably isn't coming out as eloquently as I would like, I'm probably being redundant, and I'm missing a lot of points I would like to address, but they all boil down to one point: don't waste your time. Use it wisely, do your best, have fun. High school can either be terrible or great; it all depends on what you make of it.
Good luck. While you're starting your first year of high school, I'll be starting my first year of college. We'll both try our best.
And do your fucking homework.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:16:38 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like you're just retarded haha
liojki ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:33:10 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
A little bit yeah haha
Billabo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:22:34 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Same, except I was able to slide through highschool honors and AP classes without any effort, got a scholarship to college, and dropped out because I hadn't learned to make myself do homework (in HS, my parents' presence was the motivation). Now I'm in an IT job that I'm only in because my mother works at the company and she recommended me, and here I am slacking off, reading Reddit instead of running those Ethernet cables.
Sirtoshi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:50 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
It worked out weird but okay for me. I was told I was very smart all throughout growing up. Even then I had a decent work ethic until about...11th grade (by USA system). After that I got sick of school so my work ethic tanked.
I still got pretty decent grades throughout the rest of high school and college, but I was never "top of the class" good anymore (plus my major wasn't one of the notoriously difficult ones like engineering).
danielvutran ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 19:48:18 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
ya you can tell who the actual gifted people are by the ones who barely have to try in college during their major classes lmao, very ez. and while the rest are struggling who are so used to being called genius and special and gifted like this dumbass culture we have now.. smDh
unless ofc ur major is something ez as shit such as ........ hahahaha not gonna start the fire on that one here xD
[deleted] ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 20:40:31 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
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Nellyneil ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 22:41:05 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
https://www.reddit.com/r/iamverysmart/
NoSourCream ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 23:13:40 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
haha damn dude, really hope for your sake that was sarcasm.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:52:24 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
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Piyamakarro ยท 80 points ยท Posted at 18:21:46 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
It actually depends on the kid. Some react differently to positive and negative reinforcement.
Otterable ยท 189 points ยท Posted at 18:29:18 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone else kept giving me encouragement so I felt like I needed to hate myself for things to balance out.
MGLLN ยท 85 points ยท Posted at 18:50:43 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
Everyone kept giving me encouragement, so I ended up being an arrogant little shit who never studied for anything.
....until I almost got wrecked in my first semester of college
Wolfy21_ ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 19:06:33 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I never was smart, i just liked watching dumb documentaries on literally everything, i was and still am procrastinating as fuck.
Enesmirac ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 20:25:11 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
me too thanks
Auctoritate ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:21:20 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I still like watching documentaries, but not really pure science ones. I'd recommend The Death of Superman Lives and Sicko.
Claumax ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:10:15 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Are you me? Do you have any advice for the future?
skulblaka ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 20:23:42 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Learn how to study before it's too late. It caught up to me in my senior year of high school when all the "normal kids" were suddenly getting better grades than me and not trying to cheat off my tests anymore. If you're still in high school, you can talk to your teachers/counselors about it and they'll probably hook you up, if you're out of high school already then you can probably find lessons on the internet? I dunno. I learned it the hard way with two years of sleep deprivation, depression and drug abuse, you don't want to do it that way. There are actual classes and lessons out there on study habits and work ethic, go look into them. And actually do what they tell you to.
Claumax ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 20:34:19 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
You really are me, holy crap, currently on my first year of depression and sleep depravation. Thanks for the advice, I don't know why I didn't try looking for advice, I just thought I was supposed to figure it out by myself. Edit: you are another dude, but thanks, this looks like a common problem.
skulblaka ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 20:39:39 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Most things that you're supposed to "just figure out on your own" have someone that would be glad to teach it to you. Don't be afraid to ask for help when you're struggling with something - that's another thing that my public school teachers always tried to impress upon me and I never listened to.
Claumax ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:50:17 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I feel better now, sometimes I feel helpless about this type of things. It's nice to remember that people are always happy to give advice. :)
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 21:31:52 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Can you teach me how to finger my butt hole?
Fanushkah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:06:44 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
When /r/meirl is more helpful than /r/getmotivated in getting me motivated
MGLLN ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:58:36 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Learn to study before it's too late. Not studying and just "cruising" (as i like to call it) will catch up with you eventually, unless you're a literal genius/prodigy.
One size doesn't fit all. So, I suggest learning what studying techniques fit/help you the most. I would also suggest learning multiple studying techniques.
and the advice given by /u/skulblaka is pretty good
Auctoritate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:19:56 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I never studied for anything either, but I did read the classroom textbooks if there wasn't anything else to do. It was useful for chemistry, but English was fucking terrible. Literally nothing new from the previous year. I didn't pay attention to any of the lectures or anything because I just remembered everything from last year.
No wonder we're dropping in English grades.
TheLightSeba ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:10:20 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
yeah i felt like some huge dick since i had it easier than most people
humanlogic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:03:59 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
me too thanks
Wadriner ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 18:29:54 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
It's just generally better to reward effort.
pimpstripes94 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 19:41:35 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
"I like the way that you figured that out" as opposed to,"Wow you are so smart great job!"
MasonNowa ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 18:29:25 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I think the suggestion isnt negative reinforcement, but positively reinforcing traits like working hard rather than something passive like intelligence.
Polaritical ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:27:23 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Actually it isnt about positive vs negative. Smart is something you either are or aren't. Rather Ghana praising a child for being smart, which is like praising a child for being tall or having brown hair, you should praise them for specific tasks and accomplishments. Instead of being smart, the thing being praised is them always doing their homework or getting a food grade.
TheLightSeba ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:56:26 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
yeah a lot of effort goes into making high grade food, thats why its so expensive
bobojojo12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:25:51 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah nah
sicinfit ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:13:06 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
The difference is realising what is tangible in the real world and encourage that instead. Intelligence is useless unless you can translate it into productivity. So praise productivity and significant accomplishments instead of perceived intelligence.
zCourge_iDX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:32:17 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
But what if you're not doing great things no matter the effort? Suddenly you feel like you've wasted your talent and that you're useless...
Icemasta ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 00:54:06 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
It's not really telling, it's just that if a kid isn't challenged, he gets used to it, develops bad habits, and sits on his laurel.
That's a big problem in public schools, they have one size fit all classes, so you got slower kids that slow down the class, and fast kids that are bored out of their minds.
I was one of those fast kids, my last year of high school, I pretty much missed 75% of classes, only showed up to turn in reports and for exams, and I got 95% everywhere.
Then college in Natural Sciences 'cause I had no fucking clue what I was doing and all those bad habits I learned through elementary and high schools? Turns out it's really fucking bad. I was doing fuck all in class, I had learned for 11 fucking years how to lose myself into daydreams. Now I had to actually listen, college is actually really fucking easy ,but the first semester I almost flunked. Had to learn to apply myself.
The biggest problem is that if you've never dealt with failure before, and you fail for the first time at college/Uni, you're in big fucking trouble. It can be a crushing blow to some people, and that's why you end up with smart people that do fuck all once they're adults, because suddenly, they are challenged, and they can't deal with it. They haven't developed the skills of "What to do if I have difficulty with something.".
I've had a few classes in college, especially advanced physics classes, that had people dropping like flies. They couldn't understand it, and because they couldn't understand it on the first try, they did not know what to do. They thought "if I can't understand it, that means I am dumb, it's impossible". Some kids think the same thing about fucking multiplication in elementary school but they slug through it and that's a very valuable skill to learn at a young age.
So yeah, it's not really the "tell kids", if the public schools actually challenged the smart kids to keep their intelligence sharp, I am pretty sure we'd have a lot more people in high end research.
Edward_Threechum ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:24:42 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I just want to say that I related to and 'took from' your comment, thanks for typing it out
chennyalan ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 17:48:55 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
/r/2meirl4meirl
gigabyte898 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:22:42 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Yup. I was told I was gifted all my life. Just barely graduated high school because I didn't do shit. I kept being told "well youre too smart for this so you slack off". Eventually I realized that's bullshit and pulled it together senior year. Graduated 3rd from last in the class, but still graduated. Last semester I had a 3.4 GPA at my community college because I actually did my work and studied.
500lb ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:10:07 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm. I was given basically a child IQ test and scored the highest the school ever had. I never really tried in school and still can't work very hard. And I know I'm a fucking dumbass now. I'm too lazy to even think.
Auctoritate ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:02:42 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Wow. People haven't told me I'm smart in 5 years, but I'm still lazy. Does that mean I'm a super genius?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:35:30 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Probably loyal too.
THANK_MR_TRUMP ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:43:38 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
That explains a lot.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:04:58 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I agree... Fuck.
retrofuturejon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:43:40 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone said I was a genius when I was a child but now at the ripe age of 19 I'm pretty damn stupid
TheBreathofFiveSouls ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:55:47 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Yup, you're meant to praise kids for hard work, not for being smart.
knifebaum ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:51:16 on August 25, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm. Really put me down when I accidentally did a test and they said I was not 'gifted'. I never put an effort to anything in my life. Fuck IQ
MissFemale ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 19:31:36 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I've never known a child who's been told to "they're better than average" to ever turn out more than average. Kids aren't good at the whole "your future is hard work whether you're smart or not" rationalization.
Ayowyn ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:32:29 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I really don't want to blame my mother for this but I also really think this is the case. She went wild bragging about me when I was a kid. Now I...damnit.
simspartan ยท 80 points ยท Posted at 19:27:54 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I watch 1000+ YouTube videos instead of crying. But yes so me
heyluno ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 22:15:01 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Can't cry at the mess you've made of your life if you're too busy laughing at puppies getting into hijinks!
--__--__---__--___-- ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:02:27 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Ha haha ha yea I know right so you got any links to those puppy videos?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:57:22 on August 30, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Same here. I've been to every corner of youtube. Lets plays, Star Wars fan theories, WatchMojo Top ten lists, ASMR videos, Food review videos, Beauty vloggers, Mukbangs, Filthy frank, idubbzzz. I don't even enjoy it anymore.
ranthria ยท 171 points ยท Posted at 17:08:44 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Too real. Can't handle.
sparkly_butthole ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 18:04:35 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Me too thanks. :(
Everyonewillusebing ยท 98 points ยท Posted at 19:58:21 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Woah, was everyone on this sub once a gifted kid like me, that became Stressed, Lonely,Deprecated,Lazy etc. over the years?
OFCOURSEIMHUMAN-BEEP ยท 130 points ยท Posted at 21:55:24 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
People are very quick to call children "gifted"
Everyonewillusebing ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 22:18:39 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
You're right
colonel_p4n1c ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 22:34:37 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
My left
ProWaterboarder ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:13 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I am left*
Flatscreens ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:57:09 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
โญโญโญ
Xeezar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:11:02 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
MY LEG
ItsGunmo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:47:11 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
DID YOU SAY CHOCOLATE
goddamnrito ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:26:43 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
hm. was gonna comment on the reason behind, but hadn't considered this simple explanation. It makes total sense since there will pretty much always be a few kids that seem 'better' than the rest in every class. also, perhaps people 'peak' at different ages, which means there's place for more than a few in the 'gifted' bracket...
pete404 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 21:36:25 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
There's some research on it...
IlIIIIIIllI ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 00:38:36 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Intelligent People are more likely to get depressed so yes
ThatGuyBradley ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 00:32:54 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Like were you guys in the actual gifted program where they took you out of class for 3 hours to give you more challenging material or did you just make A's n shit? I was in the program, but I feel the same as OP
Everyonewillusebing ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:13:49 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I was in that program.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:34:09 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Same here. I loved the program but my parents refused to pay for the trips so i never got to really bond with the other kids in there. Because i was out of class i never got to really bond with my classmates. Because i was an outsider i was bullied so i stopped trying and changed schools. Because i stopped trying and never developed the right study habits i fell behind bad. I changed schools again and had to make up classes (still suck at algebra).
Now i have basically no direction in life and im just now (after 2 years an 10k worth of college later) finding what i think i want to do and planting my feet.
IEatsRawks ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:02:02 on September 11, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like you're figuring things out :)
NoSarcasmHere ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:31:47 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I dropped out of that program. Does that count?
ComradeCatfud ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:36:47 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I was in the program for a time in grade school. Then they're all, "wait, you're not gifted, back you go"!
Turil ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:35:21 on August 23, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Heh. That was me, too! Genius, but living in an abusive (not to me) home, and thus too stressed out to be consistently awesome. Also, mainstream schools don't get truly gifted people, usually, and still try to force them to be robots. More clever robots, perhaps, but still robots. I'm SO not a robot.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:46:23 on August 5, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
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30260159487 ยท 97 points ยท Posted at 17:47:53 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
/r/2meirl4meirl
M00SK ยท 102 points ยท Posted at 17:04:23 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Don't worry Billy the Quizboy, life will turn around.
[deleted] ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 17:51:21 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
No it won't
Mekroth ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 19:58:36 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I have never tasted the flower of a woman.
IMightBeEminem ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 20:06:02 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
It's kinda overrated.
At least that's what i tell myself because it's been three years now and she was ugly
GoodHumorMan ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 21:13:04 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I fucking love it but i'm also a huge pervert
seal_eggs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:32:26 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I agree, overrated. Been about a week. Tastes ok I guess.
flucksy ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 22:09:00 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Is that literal? Because I don't take many trips down south myself.
Mekroth ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 22:12:57 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I DIDN'T UNDERSTAND THE QUESTION!
Vocalite ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 18:37:19 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Wrong thing to post on this sub friend. /r/depression is our main sponsor and /r/circlejerk is our sister subreddit.
mdbkey ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 18:23:22 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
It only ever turns into something shittier, even when you think it can't get any worse.
MITPewPewPew ยท 76 points ยท Posted at 17:30:51 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I remember how I felt after I got my first F. That's when my life officially started going downhill.
PwmEsq ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 18:30:13 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Same for me that was freshman year college unfortunately
MITPewPewPew ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 18:33:15 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Mine was in middle school.
rightinthedome ยท 78 points ยท Posted at 18:34:00 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I peaked in kindergarden
SageWaterDragon ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 20:45:09 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I peaked in fifth grade. Tons of friends, popular, straight As, student of the month, the whole deal. It was all downhill from there.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:45:46 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Hello me.
MITPewPewPew ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 19:00:47 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I basically didn't exist until Junior year in highschool, so I never really had a peak. I don't remember the large majority of my life because I wasn't on pills back then.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:38:02 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I know that is a donk meme but it's not far from the truth for me.
mcdinkleberry ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:11:52 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
The donkest.
Seriously though I can't remember a good day.
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 20:31:30 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I made it to sophomore year, but yeah same deal. Never learned how to study because I never needed to study before.
Hamza78ch11 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 23:09:55 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Just finished (and aced) orgo. Listen, DO NOT MEMORIZE. I cannot emphasize that enough. Do not memorize. Organic is all electrons, figure out where the electrons are going and you'll never struggle. David Klein has written a great book on first semester organic. Get a head start and start teaching yourself right now. University of California Irvine has the absolute best lecture on it. 51A and 51B are organic 1 and 51B and 51C are organic 2. Watch those lectures. I hope you kill it!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:49:05 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
What if I would rather figure out how fast they're going?
Hamza78ch11 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:01:55 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Then you study physics!
speedyskier22 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:44:03 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
As a guy about to start sophomore year with organic chemistry being one of my classes, I fear that the same thing is going to happen to me...
Only_Movie_Titles ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:27:25 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
don't let it happen. Stay on top of your shit, use all the tools available to be successful
ajp0206 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:57:04 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Don't try to memorize mechanisms. Know why they happen. If you don't understand something go to office hours ASAP. Everything you learn stacks on top of each other and you're fucked if you miss a key concepts. You should be fine.
speedyskier22 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:24:26 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I'll definitely take advantage of office hours. Thanks for the advice
AshnakAGQ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:21:09 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
It's a wakeup call that's for sure.
THANK_MR_TRUMP ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 21:45:03 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
My life started going downhill when I didn't feel bad about getting an F.
[deleted] ยท 139 points ยท Posted at 17:30:18 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I posted this some days ago. Feels appropriate.
[deleted] ยท 87 points ยท Posted at 18:02:36 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
What do these pictures have to do with the quote?
person66 ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 18:43:25 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
That's just what that webcomic does. http://www.asofterworld.com
A personal favorite: http://www.asofterworld.com/index.php?id=1247
[deleted] ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 20:43:42 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
lol that's fucking brilliant.
this one is hilarious, http://www.asofterworld.com/index.php?id=47
seal_eggs ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:30:15 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
You mean dark as fuck
spockporn ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 18:39:10 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
That's the webcomic's gimmick. A Softer World is pretty much me_irl the comic.
Hi_mynameis_Matt ยท 74 points ยท Posted at 18:26:38 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
That shoe has some deep intellectual symbolism.
Just kidding it's just teenage artsy bullshit.
LordofNarwhals ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:52:35 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
The way they made the comic is one of them provided photos and the other added text. Sometimes the text has some connection to the photo, but a lot of the time it doesn't.
dekrant ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 18:27:25 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Because it's also whiny bullshit about not living up to expectations.
LordofNarwhals ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 22:07:28 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I really miss this comic. It was funny, weird, sad, and a little poetic at times.
I'm glad I got the book.
Chouzetsu ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 23:57:56 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I must be the only one who thinks a softer world is pretentious garbage
Beowoof ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:03:45 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
It's sort of satirical, so I think it's supposed to be pretentious.
๐๏ธ FourtE2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:39:13 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
What the FUCK
What_The_Shoe ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 22:19:09 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
r/meirl isn't supposed to be this me irl. It hurts, guys.
๐๏ธ FourtE2 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 01:36:08 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
You know what's worse?
My older sister sent this to me :(
antsugi ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:39:29 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
That's the problem. Children who are raised constantly being told how amazing they are internalize that and stop trying as hard as others.
The compliments go away, but the person has their exceptionality ingrained into their mind still, even though they don't get complimented any more. They then begin to warp ideas and start believing the average person isn't actively thinking most of the time - that their wandering mind is one in a million.
This leads to them isolating themselves, and posting ironic memes online to other self-aware strangers that probably live right near each other. But in public, they're all disgusted by all the normies. They wish that they didn't have this "gift" of exceptionalism, that they could be "stupid" like the others. They view their gradual slacking as an ironic curse of being intelligent.
I- I mean, me t-too, th-thanks
seal_eggs ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:51:03 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I came here to laugh, not feel.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:48:51 on August 12, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
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antsugi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:45:52 on August 13, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I watch children a lot, yes
Mostly it's been a unanimous sentiment between me and other friends I've made through the years. Large enough diversity to assume it's not abnormal
wolfgame ยท 44 points ยท Posted at 00:21:32 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
My IQ was tested as part of a mental health screen at 143 when I was 12. I skipped prerequisites for classes because I screwed around with computers. Never studied. Never received any encouragement or assistance because "wolfgame's a genius, he doesn't need any help. He should should know this already."
Grades were shit. Dropped out of high school in 1996.
I was scouted by a major online service to join their web services team the same year.
Went in to IT consulting. Didn't know about the stigma surrounding consultants.
Worked at a couple of firms. Skills developed, got pretty good at a few things. Eventually found a job as an infrastructure manager.
Had a breakdown after my CFO refused to work with me and the CEO blamed me for a project stalling. Quit my job. Went back to consulting.
Friend went in to the business. Offered to pay him 10% of my billables to handle my collections, contracts, etc...
Friend stole $27,000 from me.
Tried to kill myself. Failed. Taken to the hospital for observation for two weeks. Diagnosed Bipolar I.
I'm now 38. Unemployed. Living in mom's attic.
She's had enough. Wants me out by 8/15. I can't find a job. Don't have a home.
There's no joke here.
CuteDreamsOfYou ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:49:41 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know what to say to this, so this will have to suffice.
I'm sorry.
FluffyPigeon ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:51:01 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
How did your friend steal 27k? Fraud?
wolfgame ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:57:59 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Loophole in the contract. He did it legally, but by distorting our agreement.
Our agreement was that he was to take 10% of my billables. He took over a year to get an attorney to write up the contract. I asked my attorney to take on the job. She advised me against it, because she would be working for him and not me.
I should've listened.
He had her write the contract that I would be paid 90% of my billable time, which is vastly different from 10% of revenue generated by me.
I landed a contract for a large A/V supply company to build out their new office space. Spent about 6 months on the project and kept asking for access to the location to get everything done. And then was given something like three days in the middle of a blizzard to get the job done.
I had a panic attack and couldn't get any motivation going.
Friend hired contractors, took all of the profit. Sent me a check for $1000. It was a $45,000 contract. Once the contractors had been paid and he took his $4500, there was roughly $27,000 left.
Since the contract was based on billable hours and our agreement was based on gross billables, he was legally in the right, but it completely violated what we had agreed upon in the beginning.
wolffpack8808 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:36:33 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Well, if it.makes you feel any better, we will probably all be in the same boat in 5 to 10 years.
VivaLaPandaReddit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:01:30 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Life is sometimes shit, and I'm sorry that it shit on you. Brains are dicks too, and I hope you can kick it's ass someday and be happy despite everything.
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wolfgame ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:21:21 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
That's what you took from that?! I saw it as the complete opposite. Chosen profession? That's a pigeon-hole. Don't get along with your boss? Quit. Friend going in to business? Partner up! Friend not doing his job? Do it for him. Lawyer advises not to provide service. What does she know?
These are my decisions and my consequences.
Blaming everyone else? Nothing could be farther from the truth.
As for kicking a man when he's down? How's that working out for you?
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u/BugaTuga รฉ um filho da puta
[deleted] ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 22:14:51 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I read this and I felt something. I don't like that.
Tyler114 ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 21:47:40 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
So was everyone apparently told they were a child genius or something? Because from this thread thats what it seems like.
AJF93 ยท 53 points ยท Posted at 22:04:21 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
The people who see this post and relate to it are leaving comments while the people who don't relate are simply not leaving as many comments
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Tyler114 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 22:55:42 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I'm just guessing that the majority of people commenting are confusing being told you're smart vs being told you're a child genius.
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ComradeCatfud ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:41:24 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Being "gifted" is worthless unless you actually do something with it. Not saying I'm gifted, just that I realized years ago that effort matters waaaaaaay more than ability.
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SnowGuardian08 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 23:25:30 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I guess people who were treated like they were special, but now feel like failures are drawn to this sub. That is why I am here amiright.
harambe_glue ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:58:34 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
This is completely subjective, but a lot of people who seem very smart as children tend to be lacking in other areas of intelligence like ability to understand social cues. TLDR: It's because redditors are fucking autistic
seal_eggs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:39:52 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
That was me until I started smoking weed. As my grades got worse, my social skills got better. I'm off it for the time being, but I think I'm better for it. Never would have met a lot of people and learned to socialize with different kinds of people than the little "gifted" circle. Even then it sucked. Anyway, I don't know why I'm writing this. I guess I thought it would be relevant, but I just started rambling. Bye.
[deleted] ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 17:33:33 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
lol omg this so real, God how pathetic I am
APizzaMachine ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:03:14 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Haha
BlackAxon ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 20:46:26 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
This hit a little too close to home to be that funny. Fuck.
thestickystickman ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 22:56:41 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I laughed at this, then realised there was no punchline and it's only funny because it's relatable and I got sad.
SubtleMockery ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 18:53:22 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
The world rewards effort, not potential.
TheyAreAllTakennn ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 21:10:43 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
The world gives potential, but it rewards effort.
VivaLaPandaReddit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:02:27 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Short truisms rarely are completely accurate.
The_Real_Adam_West ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 20:32:33 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
not me_irl!
I was always the one with bad grades, and laughed at for it by immediate family/cousins/aunts/uncles.
Now I am part of the 2/13 cousins with a degree and steady job!
Ridicule works!
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:54:40 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
/r/2meirl4meirl
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:04:54 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Basically the past 21 years of my life in a nutshell :(
nak2319 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:15:25 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Thank god, I missed the memes that remind me of my crippling depression
bobojojo12 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 23:24:12 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I used to be so smart as a child. But now im a step off from being mentally retarded. I ate a lot of tuna when i was younger so i blame mercury poisoning
venomous_pastry ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:01:25 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
me?
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๐๏ธ FourtE2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:38:41 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
That's me.
Haven't killed myself yet, just bathing in depressing memes as of now.
CKlandSHARK ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:35:45 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
/u/warlizard
Warlizard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:50:37 on August 8, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry, missed it.
CKlandSHARK ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:02:18 on August 8, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Damn. He mentioned something about a guy being from a specific forum(not the warlizard one). So I wanted you to come by ready to "เฒ _เฒ " only to find it wasn't needed
Warlizard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:36:25 on August 8, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Whew. Close call.
Worlds_Best_Coffee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:35:39 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Please ask for my permission before you quote me in this sub.
sameth1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:08:31 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Wow, this thread actually turned out to not be full of shitposts about suicide but with serious and depressing comments about childhood.
This thread has already become too sad for me, let's just go back to shitposting.
๐๏ธ FourtE2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:19:23 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
No.
Here's some depressing music
grizzlycustomer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:22:38 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
you played yourself
obadetona ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:53:48 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
How did you make the messages pink?
seal_eggs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:53:09 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Different app?
goemon45 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:03:55 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Millennials irl
danielvutran ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 19:49:27 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
tbh 90s kids too, if u dont realize that then ur prob just a poser lmao
Jean-Paul_van_Sartre ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:16:10 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Millennials were born from 1982 onwards.
goemon45 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 20:44:54 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Millennials were also born in the 80s but I guess I'm an asshole or something
danielvutran ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:31:20 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
i am actually an idiot and so are the 14 other people that upvoted me LMFAO.
wolfgame ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:49:41 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
80's kid checking in. Yep, me too.
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goemon45 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:11:32 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I'm 19. I was taking about this is what our generation has to go through because of the boomers
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bitchslap2012 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:18:39 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
lol same
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:38:56 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Gay
Everyonewillusebing ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:44:54 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Haha lol Xddd, thanks.
romulusnr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:15:10 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe that is your gift!
it1345 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:02:54 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
so what do we do if this hits to close to home
seal_eggs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:54:45 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Die
santsi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:15:27 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Classic /r/me_two
agrajagthemighty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:33:31 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
same
jorjx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:02:59 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)*
ศters
MrTopHatMan90 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:33:39 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
r/tifu
kazooie5659 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:50:30 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Better to tell your kids they're retarded and have them strive to show you otherwise than to tell them they're special and ruin them when they aren't.
uwhelp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:52:21 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
...way too real (except for the crying part). I was in the gifted programs, didn't study more than 1-2 days for any exam and graduated high school with marks in mid-high 90s. Been in uni for 3 years now and I'm still struggling to pass, barely passing my courses and actually failed a few. I even had to repeat a term in my first year because my average was too low. I really don't know how to study. I wish I had failed and learned when the consequences weren't as high (I'm actually glad I hit this block now rather than even later in life). Can somebody who successfully learned how to study give me any tips or resources?
4entzix ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:55:53 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
If I had a dollar for every time I was called gifted in school I would have more money than I make in a year
Can someone just pay me based off my act score?? And not off my work experience??
srock2012 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:04:01 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
That's The New American Odyssey right there boys.
MyGl0ryh0le ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:12:42 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Don't forget about eating a shit ton.
Gunter101 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:04:50 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
This actually hit my feels...
richaaronhowell ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:04 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
It's the Internet. Pretty much everyone on here jacks off a lot. That's how the Internet got so much growth. Funding from porn sales increased the size and capability and now we get to have other things besides porn like YouTube videos, funny memes, some knowledge things... ... ... and more porn.
Playboyinpjs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:21:48 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Too close to home
Krono5_8666V8 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:11 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Too real...
downvoteiamatheist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:38:56 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
How do you know your not insane?
Fanushkah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:23:12 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Because you have the sense to question it
downvoteiamatheist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:57:21 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
im not questioning my sanity anymore
chipthamac ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:39 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
sounds like Lip.....
WantingToHear ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:12:40 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Off topic, but what app is this?
eggbert194 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:38:22 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Yes.
CucumberGod ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:56:49 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Ooooh fuck this hits too close to home
CaliNavy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:24:16 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
college life
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:12:31 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I'm laughing so much. This has been my whole life for the last 3 years of university. Now I have literally nothing to do.
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Jitterrr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:30:15 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
holy shit way /r/2meirl4meirl this is my life
PorblemOccifer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:01:36 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
My feelings of sadness or anger were almost always disacknowledged/invalidated by my parents, so now I have literally no way of telling whether my negative reactions to situations are call for hahahahah ๐๐ซ
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:52:20 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Me too thanks
silverkingx2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:52:31 on August 9, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Actually me_irl, but I can't cry tears, they are just silent sobs, with the occasional bout of depression
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:55:01 on August 30, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Can I just say that I relate to a lot of the things written in the comment section. High school was easy, I didn't put much effort into it and got by okay, graduated with above average grades.
Uni started and in my first year I passed all my classes, one of which I did by scoring the bare minimum score to pass. Second year comes along and I fail two classes. It fucking broke me, wrecked me. I couldn't cope with the workload, I withdrew myself. Stopped studying or looking at the material because why bother when you're so far behind. Just stayed in my room all the time, masturbating the entire day and crying myself to sleep. If not that, then I'd either be watching youtube videos or browse reddit. I hated myself so much that I had to constantly distract. I couldn't bear "existing" so I tried to numb my brain using all these distractions. Even the thought of getting better seemed impossible during this time.
Pls help
danielvutran ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:46:30 on August 3, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
no one thought any of u fucks were geniuses lets be honest here LMAO!
;(((((
TyrannosuarezRex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:32:55 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
I wonder how many people in here who relate to this story also played sports through all of high school
seal_eggs ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:54:33 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
None
VentoSolar ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:50:48 on August 4, 2016 ยท (Permalink)
Every indigo kid