The Mormon Dilemma

๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 6604 points ยท Posted at 19:34:05 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)


MorpheusTheGreat ยท 480 points ยท Posted at 19:36:06 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Jw here same applies to us haha

๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 292 points ยท Posted at 19:37:15 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Welcome, cult cousin!

NicolasCageLovesMe ยท 102 points ยท Posted at 20:44:50 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
HollisRules ยท 60 points ยท Posted at 20:52:20 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
bag_of_oatmeal ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 21:59:20 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cleway ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:30:25 on July 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
FullClockworkOddessy ยท 132 points ยท Posted at 20:59:16 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Former Catholic here. Same shit applies.

hosanex ยท 123 points ยท Posted at 21:46:23 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Exmuslim here, can confirm it works with our cult too

Frommerman ยท 51 points ยท Posted at 22:18:17 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Kid of two Christian clergy of (then) non-evil denominations. Can confirm of all Abrahamics.

BakerIsntACommunist ยท 52 points ยท Posted at 00:19:51 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Kinda crazy how you look at any organized religion on earth and find that theyโ€™re all full of lies and meant to manipulate people.

Pastoredbtwo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:16:09 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Really?

In which brand of christianity did your parent's serve?

Frommerman ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 21:18:20 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

My mom's an Episcopalian. From what I can tell, about half of her church is some flavor of LGBTQ because the Episcopalians are about the only church in the American South which accepts them. A few months ago, an exmormon couple even joined. When she isn't at church, she's protesting the death penalty and the treatment of undocumented migrants. Her church once briefly offered asylum to a guy brought here by his parents but too old to be covered by the Dream Act, until they could arrange for him to have actually decent legal counsel instead of being railroaded. On a mission trip to Cuba, her church did their research and realized the best thing to bring in their extra luggage space to donate to the church they were visiting was feminine hygene products, as the Cuban equivalents are terrible. Her church routinely removes clergy who cheat on their spouses, much less ones who rape people. They accept scientific consensus on all topics without question or debate. The finalist pool for the recent replacement of the bishop of Detroit was all women, and they chose a lesbian. They used to have social conservatives...ten years ago, before they all left the first time they elected a gay bishop.

They're way better than non-evil. If you still have a hankering for some flavor of Abrahamic doctrine, I recommend them despite being a grumpy anti-theist.

My dad's a United Methodist. They used to be ok, but recently decided that hating gay people is great. My dad has concluded they will disintigrate over this decision within a few years and was devastated by it, and is quietly trying to join a non-evil Lutheran synod.

one_excited_guy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:42:23 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

(then) non-evil denominations.

i wasnt aware they come in that flavor

Frommerman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:18:50 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Check out the Episcopalians. Very non-evil, arguably a net positive for humanity.

LegalisticMormonGod ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 04:16:52 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Looking for a new cult? Ours has polygamy and you can't drink coffee...

hosanex ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:20:12 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Lol we also had polygamy but was impractical so I said Nah I'm gonna be a polyamorous Satanist if I wanted that kind of benefits ๐Ÿ˜…

frogprincet ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 00:38:36 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Wiccan here, canโ€™t relate

[deleted] ยท 73 points ยท Posted at 01:29:08 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

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DoubterDarkness ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 02:10:14 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Go on...

stabatha_christie ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:52:21 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Arsonist here. It's very hot.

whatsthisallabout247 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:40:21 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Pervert here. Where's the funny underwear?

L-Neu ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 05:21:07 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Pessimist here, and I'm not happy about it.

WakandaNowAndThen ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:02:44 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Publicist here, and can you write 300 pages about that?

nicotineapache ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:16:38 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

36Crazyfist here, get the fuck up, stay the fuck out!

Naviolii ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:51:34 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

mormon here, would you like to get baptized?

/s

HotGeorgeForeman ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:11:48 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Then you haven't read the history of Wicca, which, while not evil, is still pretty fucking stupid.

Like it was literally made up 50 years ago, by 1 guy, as a syncretic pagan fanfic. It's basically the exact same kind of shitty fan fiction Joseph Smith wrote for the Abrahamic religions.

squeakymousefarts ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:12:50 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Maybe, but it isnโ€™t making demonstrably false claims about history and the world, and since it isnโ€™t centralized, it really canโ€™t be used to control and abuse the same way the abrahamics can.

HotGeorgeForeman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:42:39 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Maybe, but it isnโ€™t making demonstrably false claims about history and the world

You also haven't read much on Wicca then.

celestjill ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:51:22 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’• Iโ€™m happy for you.

kend4ll ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:57:22 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Interesting. How'd you get into that?

frogprincet ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 14:40:51 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I was introduced to it by a friendโ€™s aunt when I was in highschool.

Iโ€™ve always been spiritual but Iโ€™ve never been able to believe in one benevolent god especially when thereโ€™s so much suffering in the world. Which is why I like that the Wiccan concept of god is as a neutral force who sets the stage and it is the responsibility of people to be good to one another.

tickingboxes ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:31:38 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

If your god is neutral and doesn't influence the affairs of humans, it seems to me that there is very little difference between this god existing and not existing. What is the point of this god? Why believe in it at all?

frogprincet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:23:01 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

The Wiccan god isnโ€™t really a god at all but rather the force of energy that breathes life into all things. Itโ€™s up to the individual to decide if we give this energy sapience, personally I believe in it as a force of nature that just is, and that when you die you become a part of it.

Itโ€™s the residual energy of the world around us. Maintaining the balance of life and death and fate. It sits in the air like a billion invisible strands connecting one thing to the next and to the next.

DoubterDarkness ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:09:42 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Are you still allowed to say muslim?

hosanex ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:59:09 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

You mean allowed to say I am Muslim? Nobody can't stop me, but I am not a muslim by choice and actively avoid participating in anything that promotes or resembles Islam.

Also it's not like a race, it's just an unfortunate imaginary system my parents believed in and I was born into.

mrfoof ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 20:57:36 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I wasn't under the impression that church history was a big deal to the legitimacy of the Watchtower. Are you thinking of all the failed prophesies or something else?

MorpheusTheGreat ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 22:54:25 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Hello all you heathens! Hahaha well to much info to write down so i have provided a link https://jwfacts.com but yes jw history does not go as far back as mormonism or Catholicism it was started in 1879, so our history is shorter then other cults.

King_Folly ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:21:00 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Thanks for the link! I'm gonna read up. It's always great to hear from our "cult cousins"!

Side note: on my mission in South Korea, there were many JWs and we always felt a bit of competition with you guys. Now I feel a special kinship with the ex-JW community!

MorpheusTheGreat ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 05:33:08 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Its interesting you say that cause ive been seeing a lot of mormons around town lately, just two days ago i walked by some mormon girls who were preaching to a man at the bus station, i walked pass them and felt bad for them, cause even though i was never a mormon i do know how it feels to have to go up to a random stranger and share with them your believes i ended up turning around going back to the bus stop and sat down and set my body up in a way that a stranger would think im friendly and approachable so that these girls would come to me and i could try in a inconspicuous way make then reason and view there belives in a analytical way but not come off like im attacking their believes, but after finishing with the young man walked right pass me. Either ways i went back home and went on the mormon offical website to try and learn some of their believes. Is there any "apostate"(not sure if mormons are familiar with that word) website that you could recommend to me about mormonism? So next time i run into some mormons i will know from what angle to come at them and make them reason. I just joined this subreddit 2 days ago after that encounter so my apologies if i asked a question thats been answered before.

King_Folly ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:48:26 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

There are a few websites you can check out and refer people to!

www.cesletter.com

www.mormonthink.com

lasidlas ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 22:25:30 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I'm actually interested in the answer as well

zooout1738 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:52:43 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Does jw stand for Jew-wish?

MorpheusTheGreat ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:16:39 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Hahah first time i heard that one, no it stands for Jehovas Witnesses

zooout1738 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:36:18 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I feel like a fucking idiot

MorpheusTheGreat ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:04:02 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Hahaha i can see how it could be mistaken for jewish, but we all felt like idiots once we woke up to the realisation we were all in cults

DoubterDarkness ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:08:43 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Mormon apostles are...'special' witnesses...dontchaknow?

_that___guy ยท 192 points ยท Posted at 19:41:42 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

To the front page with this!

Also, you don't even have to go that far back into history to have troubles with the church. Even just one week ago could be a big problem, or yesterday lol.

๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 52 points ยท Posted at 19:43:26 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Totally agree! Today's non-prophets can still lead people out of the church.

yagaboosh ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:02:40 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Random aside, but I went to a Sunday Assembly where the local band was the Non Prophets.

4444444vr ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 23:08:07 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Face to Face firesides really settled things for me

PorcupAnna ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:54:40 on July 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Do you mind if I ask what made you throw in the towel? Iโ€™m in the process of leaving and my brain is so fucked up with indoctrination that I canโ€™t notice fairly obvious problems with some of the practices. What firesides were they and what were some of the things you noticed were fucked up?

4444444vr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:48:15 on July 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*

The Ballard and Oaks fireside was one (details here: https://www.reddit.com/r/mormondebate/comments/8e5vmk/star_did_elder_ballard_lie_when_he_said_there_has/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app) and then there was this one:

https://www.mormonchannel.org/watch/series/face-to-face/worldwide-devotional-for-young-adults-a-face-to-face-event-with-elder-cook

I understand the difficulty. Religion is resilient, especially if it is tied to your family life and in shaping your entire concept of reality.

Iโ€™d recommend RadioFreeMormonโ€™s podcast. This one goes over Elder Cooks face to face:

https://radiofreemormon.org/2018/09/special-episode-the-dissection-of-elder-quentin-l-cooks-face-to-face-on-church-history/

But honestly I think listening to RadioFreeMormon from the start is the way to go. His first episode is enough to convince me the church is not of God, but by the time you get through 10 it will be painfully clear.

I consider history nebulous at best, so I wanted to see if the current church was in any way deviating from how I thought Christ would run a church, those two firesides were enough. Also, just the fact that the church doesnโ€™t share its finances. I just cannot imagine Jesus being like, โ€œTell them to pay 10% but if they ask you what you do with it just tell them not to worry, you hire a company to audit you and they said everything was coolโ€

Also, I remember that the church printed thousands of manuals that portrayed Lorenzo Snow to have taught that you should pay tithing no matter what, by omitting critical wording within his statement that said โ€œwho has the meansโ€ - you can look at page 160 of this, then look up the real quote. I cannot imagine Jesus doctoring quotes for try to manipulate people into giving more money: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/bc/content/shared/content/english/pdf/language-materials/36787_eng.pdf?lang=eng

Feel free to dm me or ask more questions. I was very Mormon and leaving it basically shattered my concept of reality but Iโ€™m convinced it is a basic small town charismatic cult that spun out of control and is now is running on deception, shame and guilt.

Also, if youโ€™re into the history I think an efficient way to get a fair grasp on it ask is to go to the Mormon Stories podcast and listen to the Terryโ€™s Givens and Richard Bushman interviews, at least the last portions where they are asked more directly about how they reconcile things and their specific beliefs.

Anyways, I could go on but I have to get off the toilet now.

bobswifis ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:56:25 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Uh oh. I haven't been keeping up with news. Something happen this week?

foreversole ยท 99 points ยท Posted at 20:16:52 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Just try your best to hide the church history toggle. Your faith crisis is solved! (Brought to you by the First Presidency)

[deleted] ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 21:27:13 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*

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๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 22:42:41 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I'm convinced that exmormons couldn't turn off the research or the honesty buttons while Mormons simply can't turn off the Mormon button and have to choose another one.

celestjill ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:52:58 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Iโ€™m sure thereโ€™s a sticker we can print for that.

butt_thumper ยท 85 points ยท Posted at 21:49:40 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Holy shit this is so perfect. Hilarious and accurate portrayal of the core of the issue. Reminds me of a quote I saw somebody from here say a few months ago:

"When an honest person learns they are mistaken, they either cease to be mistaken or cease to be an honest person."

๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 22:38:46 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

This is where I got the idea. This concept really resonated with me, so when I saw this format somewhere else, I thought it was perfect.

Lodo_the_Bear ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:06:56 on July 21, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

That quote can first be traced to Fanning Yater Tant in volume 5, number 47, page 4 of the Gospel Guardian. Here's Mr. Tant's original quote:

When an honestly mistaken man sees the truth, one of two things happens: (1) he will either cease to be mistaken, or (2) he will cease to be honest. For he will either accept the truth or he will reject it. If he accepts it, he is no longer mistaken; if he rejects it, he is no longer honest. It is as simple as that. There cannot be such a thing as an "honestly mistaken man" who has once seen the truth.

butt_thumper ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:51:39 on July 21, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Wow, I had no idea there was a known source! And itโ€™s all the more beautiful and meaningful with the additional context. Thank you for sharing.

ldsheartsell ยท 117 points ยท Posted at 21:04:26 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

A little context. Mormons sing hymns about their leaders in church. They have to swear oaths of support to their leaders in secret ceremonies. They prove their loyalty to other Mormons by getting up once a month and affirming their belief in their church leaders. If they don't do these things they won't make it into heaven. Jesus to them is just kind of a janitor figure, he only gets you a little of the way there by "cleaning you up" a bit. To Mormons, real salvation lies in performing ordinances that require oaths of loyalty to their leaders and the church itself. So, when Mormons find out about their church history and the incredibly evil things the Mormon founders did in God's name they have two choices. They can choose moral bankruptcy and dishonesty by continuing to support these leaders, or they can choose honesty and morality at the risk of loosing literally everything on this earth and the next. Its not an easy choice. I made it about 5 years ago and almost lost everything but have gained way more from the choice.

Long_DuckDonger ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 21:08:35 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I was looking for this in the comments, thanks. How exactly is the overall organization structured? Is it more centralized or decentralized?

ldsheartsell ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 21:14:38 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

"North Korea" centralized

sexysmith_14 ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 21:17:50 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Everytime I watch something about North Korea I imagine this is exactly how the leadership of TSCC sees its ideal operation

Long_DuckDonger ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 21:15:50 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

So is there a pope like figure? Or do you swear loyalty to your local leader?

smamc ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 21:22:11 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*

Yes, there is a prophet. The Mormons equivalent of the Catholics' Pope. Catholics say their pope is infallible, but no Catholic actually believes that. Mormons say their prophet isn't infallible, but no (true believing) Mormon believes that. For them, the Prophet can do no wrong. And yes, you swear loyalty to ALL of you leaders. Local all the way up to the Prophet.

Long_DuckDonger ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 21:37:36 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I'm Catholic, papal infallibility is a bit complicated.

How is the prophet or other leaders chosen? Is there an ordination type thing? Do you give out the Eucharist?

In Catholicism we call an unbroken line of bishops going back to Jesus, Apostolic Succession and generally where we view the authority of priests to come from. How did Smith convince others of his authority?

Joss_Card ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 23:04:30 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

The story is that John the Baptist came down from heaven and conferred the Aaronic Priesthood and Peter, James, and John conferred the Melkezidek (sp) priesthood. That line of authority is still a big deal in the Mormon church. I had my line of authority which I could trace back to Jesus, but that whole thing hinges on whether or not Joseph Smith actually was visited by angels.

The story of the angels didn't show up until a little after Joseph Smith announced that they had priesthood power restored, so the story is all sorts of suspect. But if it were true, that would put Mormons on the same short list as Catholics as far as Christian churches that can trace Priesthood authority to God himself.

Tobefaaair ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 13:38:11 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Itโ€™s even more complicated than that. Initially, Joseph Smith conceived of priesthood power the way recited in the Book of Mormon with Alma, who prays to gain power to baptize, feels the Holy Spirit come down, and self baptizes. This is most likely what Joseph himself did as well with his scribe, Oliver Cowdery. When they first form a church a few months later (1830), Joseph is the โ€œfirst elderโ€ and Oliver the โ€œsecond elder,โ€ with others then being ordained by one of the two as elders, priests, or teachers.

Later, Joseph Smith starts adding more offices to continue expanding the hierarchy. First deacons are added as the lowest group of men, then a โ€œhigh priesthoodโ€ was added (which was initially above elder) to make an inner circle above the others (1831). Finally, as Joseph adds further pieces of the hierarchy, including a first presidency, a high council, and 12 apostles, he starts speaking in 1835 about the two priesthoods having been restored in 1829 by angelic visitation. John the Baptist was supposed to have restored the โ€œAaronicโ€ priesthood, which now includes the deacons teachers, and priests. Peter, James, and John were supposed to have restored the โ€œMelchizedekโ€ priesthood, which now includes elder, high priest, apostle, and prophet.

utlaerer ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 23:21:17 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*

Angels.

(And how else could he have come up with the Book of Mormon if God didn't have his back?)

Peter, James, and John supposedly came back to earth as resurrected beings (but nobody knows exactly when) and put their hands on Joseph Smith's head to give him the power and authority to speak for God as his prophet. Joseph put his hands on the heads of a dozen of his friends to transfer some of that power so they could be a modern set of 12 apostles. Most men in the church are given some level of this power, which is why your neighbor down the street might one day end up randomly becoming your bishop (aka leader for your congregation).

Mormons think that because Jesus' original apostles kept getting killed and Christians had to go underground for a while, the line of succession from Jesus to the modern Pope was broken and that the true authority was lost and had to be brought back.

Mormons claim that when one prophet dies, God calls his new prophet by revelation/inspiration to the apostles and that it could be anybody. But in reality, it's always the guy who's been an apostle the longest. Which still makes Mormonism true (/s) because isn't it amazing how orderly God makes it all and the way he prepares someone by calling them when they're younger than the average apostle and having them serve in that position for so long. Plus God can just make any of the other apostles die as needed to put his next prophet in line.

Once the next prophet is chosen, the apostles all put their hands on his head to "ordain" him to that role and give him the "keys," or authority (because as a whole group, they have that power even though none of them individually do). Sometimes this even happens before the mock vote by the members of the church that happens in their big semiannual conference (because everyone knows nobody's going to vote against them, or at least isn't really supposed to).

Something kind of like the Eucharist called the Sacrament happens every Sunday but it's not as ornate and Mormons use water in place of wine.

[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:28:18 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

It's not that complicated. The pope is infallible only when he talks about our religion. That's it

ldsheartsell ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 21:19:29 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Yes, they have a "Prophet" and 12 "Apostles" but you also are required to support your local leaders. Loyalty is sworn to the highest leaders as a requirement to get into the Mormon temples, where more rituals of loyalty are performed.

newnamesaul ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:17:33 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

And every six months, Mormons vote to โ€œsustainโ€ the prophet and apostles. Guess how many people ever vote against them ... think Saddam Hussein election type of landslide.

CurvedD16 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:41:15 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Automobile!!!!! Love the username โค๏ธ

footdoctor33 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 00:06:07 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Great way to illustrate the true Sophie's choice we all had to make.

fog1026 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 22:53:26 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Ex mormon here. What did for me is just that the whole system seems to build subservience and brainwashing. I am curious what atrocities the mormon leaders have committed

cremToRED ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:01:43 on July 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*

If you believe, as many do, that the whole thing was a sham, then that could be a starting point for a long list of atrocities (depending on your definition): deception of millions, stealing money from them, building malls, excommunicating questioners, murdering native Americans and other settlers in your territory, committing adultery then hiding it behind revelation and causing others to do likewise whether complicit or not, illegal plural marriage, โ€œmarryingโ€ other mensโ€™ legal wives including one while he was away on a mission, institutionalized racism, lies, more lies, and continued lies.

EDIT: from the Wikipedia article โ€œMormonism and violenceโ€: โ€œUnder the direction of Mormon prophets and apostles, Mormons burned and looted Daviess County, attacked and killed members of the Missouri state militia, and carried out an extermination order on the Timpanogos. Other Mormon leaders led the Mountain Meadows Massacre, Battle Creek massacre, and Circleville Massacre.โ€

fog1026 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:22:21 on July 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Bu bu but it was God's will to be man sluts

limatango24 ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 20:11:34 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Looks like a game of Whack-a-Mole...

heywhatareyoudoing ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 20:44:39 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Too soon.

[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 00:15:48 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

What does this reference?

HolyBonerOfMin ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:39:50 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

It's from a joint talk given by Ruth Renlund and her husband, whatever the fuck his name is.

Asking questions that are motivated by faith can lead to more faith, but questions that begin with doubt can often lead to more doubts, Sister Renlund said, noting that consistent doubting can become a form of โ€œChurch history whack-a-mole.โ€

[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:22:37 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Lmao what the fuck is that even supposed to mean

kurinbo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:52:37 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Except in the end, the moles whack you. Because they're real and real powerful.

stillinbutout ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 20:51:30 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Triggered

celestjill ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:54:20 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

not as much as the mole

๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 19:34:33 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
howardcord ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 20:32:00 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Technically a Trilemma.

celestjill ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:55:25 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Always three degrees with these mormons...

bearsinthesea ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:29:11 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

huh, how about that.

Mathguy43 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:27:28 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Came here to say that. Have an upvote!

HolyBonerOfMin ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:31:05 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Username checks out

three_pillars ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 19:58:06 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

That is fantastic. Well done!

divinepolygamy ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 23:53:13 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

oh my mormon god this is great

๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:12:53 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

This is a great swear word. Since our neighbor found out we used to be mormon, she always curses by saying "Jesus Christ of latter day saints!" It cracks us up everytime!

Gurrllover ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:33:41 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Amusing when TBM lurkers get triggered profoundly enough to comment "mistaken" or "not true" here but then fail to provide substantive evidence refuting the criticisms -- but maybe they'll eventually get curious and/or brave enough to read the facts on the church's own website and better understand our various responses. https://churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/gospel-topics-essays/essays?lang=eng

Happy lurking; once read, such truths can't be unseen...

MattCurz83 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 23:33:35 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

This is too perfect. If you understand church history (and science I'll add) and you're still active, you're lying to yourself. I chose to be honest with myself, so I can't and won't be Mormon or in any way religious. I couldn't handle it.

๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 23:39:07 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

That's exactly it! I refuse to stop researching. I refuse to own the cognitive dissonance. So therefore I refuse to be Mormon.

sack_of_eye ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 20:47:57 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

This made me laugh so hard it made my day hahaha thank you

ialmostmadeit62 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 20:42:41 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I love this๐Ÿ™ƒ

Gitzit ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 21:05:49 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

That explains my thinking so well!

PM-ME-RABBIT-HOLES ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 21:16:54 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Wow this puts it very well, and is super simple!

lionofthe ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 20:29:33 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

A-maz-ing

alicenotinwonder2 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 21:07:27 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Bahahhahahhahhahhhhah

MrMaryJuana ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 21:35:21 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

This is great

1cursedchild ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 21:54:00 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Ahah too true

noahthe14th ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 22:59:09 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Hell yea, these are the buttons.

MuzzleHimWellSon ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 23:04:03 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

This is exquisite in its simplicity and truth.

GrahamPSmith ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:52:26 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

lol'd

TipToeThruLife ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 23:09:02 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I literally LOL as I watched that!! how do I share this as a stand alone???

Gonococcal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:48:37 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Right-click on the clip and choose "Save video as" (in chrome and firefox)

morumon_k ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 00:32:44 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Best username ever.

LePoopsmith ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 22:03:58 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
jumpedoutoftheboat ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 22:13:50 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

This is brilliant.

Shadow-man105 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:24:48 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

They are much more of sliding scales than toggle switches but either way...too true. Better turn down that honesty.

BobblingAlong ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:54:13 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Mormon version of product delivery: good, cheap, and fast. Pick any two.

SarcasmCynic ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:32:34 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I love it! That summarises what happened to me beautifully.

flyingtapir ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:08:47 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Saving this one!

gnovos ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:43:44 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

works for pretty much all religions

CCCmonster ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:29:47 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

What was it that gave it away? The magic underwear or the do over with writing the book when the golden tablets couldnโ€™t be found?

10RunLimit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:13:53 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Excellent

FuckTheFuckOffFucker ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:49:32 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Mesmerizing!

hartjako ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:50:51 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

This is excellent ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป

NovyNovak ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:39:51 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

This is awesome! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ

scaredgrandma ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:07:50 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I love this! So true!

rhenderson4343 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:45:27 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*

All lies, religious and otherwise, make war on reality. Please choose honesty. But buckle up. This ride will take you to awesome and unexpected places.

Stop 1: There is no god.

If that's true we all get to determine our own morals and reason for living. That freedom is exhilarating. It also comes with the reality that all morals and reasons for living are made up and not really true. It's weird to reject a religion for not being true, yet embrace a morality and reason for living that's equally man made.

To not lose your mind you have to embrace the idea that truth isn't important. But, now you have no reason to reject the false religion you left.

Just something to think about.

Stop 2: I dont know if there is a god.

Everyone is agnostic about something. That's not a bad thing. "I don't know" is part of the journey. It's something to work through, not settle in. Saying, "I don't know" feels humble and often is. Saying, "Ive become convinced about god..."feels and is often treated as arrogant. That means embracing the idea that certainty is a bad thing.

Are you certain that certainty is wrong? Just something to think about.

Stop 3: Shift your allegiance to whatever is true, regardless of what it ends up being.

Reading that line may have caused you to throw up in your mouth. I get it. So let me ask, are you committed to never committing to something again?

Every worldview, approach to life, religion or whatever you want to label it, is trying to answer 4 massively important questions.

Origin: Why is there something instead of nothing? What's the best explanation for the universe?

Meaning: Does my life inherit meaning and value, or am I just pretending it does? If you think racism and discrimination is always wrong, what makes that moral claim true?

Morality: Are there things I should do, even if I don't want to? Are there things I shouldn't do, even if i want to?

Destiny: Where is all of this headed?

These are the questions we aren't afraid of at my church. My name is Rick. I go to South Mountain Community Church. If you're in the Salt Lake Valley, I'd love for you to join me sometime.

๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:46:36 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

You do you! I had a friend go to smcc who was very happy with it.

The way you view the world doesn't resonate at all with me. I think saying I don't know is a fine place to settle. If you don't have enough evidence to make a determination, then it is the only reasonable place to be. Just because you don't know, doesn't mean you just pick your favorite answer. It means you need to keep investigating and you are not justified in drawing any conclusions yet.

I think you could shore up your knowledge of secular morality. I'd recommend listening to what Matt Dillahunty has to say on the subject. You have fallen into the trap of thinking that God is somehow responsible for morals and that morality can't exist without some deity. The Bible doesn't contain a moral system. It has simple moral pronouncements. The only useful ones are those that any society not intent on destruction figured out on their own with no help from God. The nice thing about waking up from the God delusion is learning to build a moral system based on real things not outsourcing your morality to an old book. The god of the Bible, if judged by his actions, is an immoral thug.

rhenderson4343 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:15:07 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

You're right. Just because you dont know doesn't warrant picking whatever you like. We agree on that.

I wouldn't say that God has to exist for morals to exist. All you need are your own thoughts on morality. But if you're talking about objective moral truth, that requires a objective standard.

What do you think the standard for moral truth is?

๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:34:40 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Your line of thinking is what Sam Harris calls the myth of secular moral chaos. His take on it is interesting and is probably worth your time to read. https://samharris.org/the-myth-of-secular-moral-chaos/

A good objective standard for morality is wellbeing. If you're not familiar with secular moral reasoning, you should really look into it.

rhenderson4343 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:59:04 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I'm very familiar with it. Sam Harris is correct that you can build a morality on well being. You can build it on empathy or an other starting point. Yet, Sam Harris has failed to establish what makes that the standard. While we can measure well being through science, you cant establish that the standard is well being through science. That is his presupposition (assumption).

What authority says you should defer to well being? And whose well being? What about when your well being is in conflict with another's. What about when your well being is in conflict with your own desires? It's easy to see what makes his moral framework preferable. But what makes his moral standard more viable than a nihilist like Nietzsche?

In a universe that is the product of some really cool science, but doesn't have a mind or deity behind it--how do you account for his binding, objective standard? I promise this is an honest question, not a snarky one.

Well being is a fine starting point. And I bet you are a good person. But if you were to read atheist philosophers like Thomas Nagel, or historians like Thom Holland (not Spiderman), you might come to share their perspective...Sam Harris is smuggling in Christian morals, but calling it science.

๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:33:17 on July 21, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I appreciate the civil dialogue.

The issue is that the Bible does not present a moral framework. It describes a god that condones slavery, child abuse, incest, and many other things which are wrong. While Jesus does a better job than the old testament God, he still holds positions that I find to be immoral.

So, your major concern about no supreme being to dictate morality doesn't mean much. For one, we have no evidence that a god was involved with the Bible at any level. And two, the moral pronouncements in the Bible are contradictory, outdated, and often degrade wellbeing.

For the sake of argument, say the Christian God exists. Does his mere existence somehow make his actions better? No. In fact, you and I can judge his actions against wellbeing with no need to appeal to another entity. Those actions are wrong. We know that because of wellbeing.

You jump immediately to moral relativism. But you seem well read enough to recognize the false dichotomy you have set up. If someone holds the position that feeding babies battery acid is moral, they are wrong due to objective facts about wellbeing. Battery acid is harmful. We don't need a god for any of this. Wellbeing can be supported by objective facts about reality.

We don't need anyone to tell us what's moral. The idea of obedience itself is immoral. Religion teaches us to do what we are told no matter what right. Morality should tell us to do what's right no matter what we are told. How many examples are there in scripture of someone doing something truly awful but it's ok because God told them to do it? That is destructive to morality.

I don't see a way to get from the Bible to a coherent moral system that is sufficient for our advanced understanding of health, relationships, community, and life.

rhenderson4343 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:05:06 on July 21, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Likewise. I feel like we could have have this convo over a beer and enjoy it.

Thus far, I haven't attempted to present or defend a biblical morality. I'm not even defending religion in general. Really, I just want to set the table and see if there are facts on which we can agree.

While we can define generally what well being is, that's a cry from establishing it as the objective standard. Can you share with me a little more about why that is the universal, objectively true and binding standard?

If well being is the objective moral standard, and the universe is purely the result of cold, impersonal forces, what's the explanation for this immaterial standard?

๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:33:32 on July 21, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I'm on the East Coast, so I'll drink my next beer in your honor.

I only bring up biblical morality to demonstrate that having god as the basis of a morality system does not resolve your own concerns. So this whole discussion is rather unproductive. All we have to do is turn each of your questions around. Can it be demonstrated that god's law is the universal, objectively true and binding standard? The answer is no. Even if we just accept that for argument's sake, take it one more step back. Why is god's law the standard? It turns into an infinite regression loop. So simply saying that god is the basis of morality gets you no further than saying morality is based on a hedgehog seeing its shadow. God is only necessary to your moral system because you say he is.

There is no intrinsic, universal imperative for anyone to care what god says. At the end of the day, you think I should listen to what god says to live a better life, or go to heaven, or avoid going to hell. But isn't that just a reimagination of wellbeing?

This is where we need to discuss "binding." I'm guessing that you position is that without assured punishment for my sins, the moral code is invalid. So if morality is based on wellbeing, and I rape someone then commit suicide, I never suffered; therefore my moral code was invalid. My issue is that the entire point of christian theology is that we need not be punished for our sins. I'm not sure where you stand on grace/works, but couldn't I rape someone, get saved, then die and avoid punishment? If so, then the moral pronouncement to not rape (which the bible doesn't contain by the way) is not binding. The very basis of christianity is that god's rules have a big exception. They are not binding.

There isn't a charge you have levied against secular morality that is resolved by appealing to divine command theory.

So, let's start instead with what we know. Let's start with the objective facts about the universe. Some things are beneficial to us and some are harmful. We can determine those things by observing reality. We can then make determinations of what we ought do or not do to increase wellbeing or to avoid diminishing wellbeing. Those determinations are objective in that they are not unique to any individual. They are universal in that they apply to everyone who lives in the same reality we do. Are they binding? This depends on what you mean. If you mean it the way I think you do that I addressed above, then it's irrelevant because nothing can be demonstrated to be binding in that sense.

Since we want to have discussions about morality, we have to lay some groundwork. We can choose as a basis anything we want. The basis we choose is kind of irrelevant, because we use the facts of the universe to judge our work. If we choose as a basis that death is preferable to life and sickness is preferable to health, the facts of reality will show that our system is not sustainable.

The only reason we even need a basis at all is to aid in conversation. Whether we believe something is moral or not, natural processes are going to dictate the results of our actions. And just because we all agree, doesn't mean we are right. The truth is independent of our system. This is another area where biblical morality fails. Biblical morality is the ultimate moral relativism in that each community of believers defines their own moral code and defends it by appealing to god. Even though the moral codes differ (sometimes materially), each community clings to their code because they believe it is from god when it is demonstrably man-made and enforced.

Long story short, the facts of reality are the basis for the best moral systems. Welbeing is simply a framework for discussion.

rhenderson4343 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:43:55 on July 21, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Looks like a beer is out of the question. I'll raise my next one in your honor as well.

I think you'd enjoy reading Making Sense of God by Tim Keller. Based on how you write, I suspect you'd at least appreciate his intellect and how he honestly engages the questions you raise

Have a great night. Thanks for the dialogue.

straightchbe ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:47:32 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Mormons are dumb just like ever other religion. Archaic bs that shouldnโ€™t still be troubling people

gngstrMNKY ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:01:20 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
iBoojum ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:22:56 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

This.

dukeofgibbon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:11:10 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Once that last switch hey flipped though, it can't be unflipped.

tomohacked ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:05:33 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Man this explains the crazy confusion so incredibly well.

zauggThomas ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 22:25:03 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I don't know, I think it's like autism in many respects. If you're born with it, it's just gonna be part of your life. I'm kind of thinking about checking out the community of Christ myself... they seem more... chill.

๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 22:39:51 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

You do you!

Patriot_Repatriating ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 23:48:05 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

My cousin went that route after her mission. She's WAYYY happier now. I think she actually works for them full time in Missouri. Way more chill.

zauggThomas ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:45:41 on July 22, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Yeah I checked out the Sunday Service in Toronto, It's a small group, but they are much more philosophical. We talked about Sodom and Gomorrah and how it's not necessarily a true history as much as it is an attempt to explain the dead sea. He really drove home the point about how the crux of the issue in this story was not homosexuality, but rape. That's been my view of for quite some time, so I think I'm going to keep chilling with these folks. They even serve coffee after mass.

churchistrue ยท -8 points ยท Posted at 23:46:37 on July 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Cute. But I'm taking a shot at all three.

a_teenage_smog ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 01:40:13 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Nah, you aren't. You already decided long ago, you're just trying to convince yourself that they are all checked like you've always believed.

churchistrue ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 13:28:01 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

What ways do you think they're not checked for me?

whatsthisallabout247 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:30:40 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Do you understand how the Rosetta Stone relates to the Book of Abraham (ie understand church history?)

churchistrue ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:35:33 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I think I do. I wrote this on the BoA. https://www.churchistrue.com/book-of-abraham/

whatsthisallabout247 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:41:01 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

This is starting with a conclusion and then making the data conform to your view, ie dishonest scholarship.

churchistrue ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:54:33 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Wait. What is?

whatsthisallabout247 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:15:22 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

The explanation you linked to.

churchistrue ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:16:58 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

You must not have read it.

whatsthisallabout247 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:34:45 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I read it. All of it. Without using the exact word, you said Joseph Smith clearly committed fraud. You then take a nuanced approach that allows him to still be a prophet of God, ie dishonest conclusion to support your worldview.

churchistrue ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:48:29 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Don't you need to find out what I mean when I call him a prophet before you call me dishonest?

whatsthisallabout247 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:58:16 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Do you sustain the President of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints as the Prophet, Seer, and Revelator and as the only person on the earth who possesses and is authorized to exercise all priesthood keys?

You said you hold a temple recommend. Let's hear it.

churchistrue ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 17:00:55 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Yes. I'm at the gym. Difficult to attach lknks. Google churchistrue temple recommend questions.

whatsthisallabout247 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:08:49 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Sorry. Your version of utilitarian Mormonism is not what is taught and definitely could not be honestly preached without being excommunicated. You've toggled through "Mormon" and "understanding church history", but your version of Mormonism is an affront to the modern one.

churchistrue ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:15:25 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

There are wide spectrum of beliefs within Mormonism. I agree I'm not ordinary. But I think it's a valid way to be Mormon. I am ramping up to make my views more visible. We will see if there is room in the tent for me. I have high confidence. But time will tell. That's why I originally said I'm trying to do it rather than I have accomplished it.

๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 01:17:15 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Good luck!

fog1026 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 00:30:37 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Have fun with reading with all those verilys thrown all through the book

[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:22:39 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

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churchistrue ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:29:07 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

The church history deep dive started 10-15 years ago. I don't hold to the traditional Apologetic views.

[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 13:37:59 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

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churchistrue ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:48:56 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I don't believe in scripture literalism or that the LDS Church is the one and only exclusively true religion. I know that people have been hurt by church leadership, but I think the church is a net good in my life individually and the world in general. Though my testimony is not orthodox, it's not accurate at all to describe me as Mormon in name only. I attend every week, have a TR, a calling, hold FHE, and love the church.

[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 13:54:27 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

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churchistrue ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:11:43 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Yes, I know I'm unorthodox. But "Orthodox Mormon" wasn't one of the sliders there, so I completely disagree that disqualifies me as a valid refutation.

๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 22:03:26 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*

If you hold an active temple recommend, you have most likely told a member of your bishopric and stake presidency that you believe in the restoration. Another question asks if you sustain the prophet as the ONLY person authorized to exercise all priesthood keys. You need to respond in the affirmative to get and keep your recommend. Yet here you are saying you don't think Mormonism is exclusively true. These positions are mutually exclusive. So maybe you are working too hard on keeping the Mormon toggle switch on to notice that the honesty toggle has been off for a while.

churchistrue ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:19:02 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I'm glad you're not my bishop. This is my logic for answering the temple recommend questions. https://www.churchistrue.com/temple-recommend-questions/ I don't think it's dishonest.

๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:50:38 on July 21, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I'm glad I'm not your bishop too! I remember reading this (or something similar) at the beginning of my faith evolution. I can see the appeal to it, and I don't blame you for liking it.

I think this demonstrates my point very clearly. You want to be honest and you want to be Mormon. You're trying to find ways to make them both fit in your mind despite knowing the church is not what it claims to be. So you play word games with the truth and skate by on technicalities so you can feel ok about not believing what they are asking if you believe. They ask point blank if you have a testimony of the restoration. Your comments here indicate that you don't. But you find a way to justify saying yes. That is absolutely dishonest. That's the whole reason I made this gif is to highlight the fact that these three things can't coexist.

One of the things I love about this sub is that people here understand things I have gone through like no one else. I feel like I was at a point where I wanted the church to be true and was trying to make it work despite what I had learned. It was finally honesty that broke me. I realized that even if I only taught the young men things I actually believed, my presence and participation in church signaled implicit approval and belief of the doctrines. I couldn't know what I knew and be in the church, because doing so would be misrepresenting what I believe.

You may feel ok with your implicit dishonesty, but it's still dishonest.

churchistrue ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:28:35 on July 21, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*

I think that's an unnecessarily rigid view of truth and honesty. In order to live an honest life, it's not required to fully articulate all of one's views and definitions in every conversation and when participating in a group to fully explain all the nuances in which you might differ from the majority of the group. I do fully explain all my views and definitions on my website, and I am working towards integrating that into my local ward life best way possible without disrupting meetings. I can honestly bow to a Hindu shrine, for example, without all the implicit meaning someone else might intend with that. Should I stand up in a loud voice to get honest with everyone when I worship with other religions? I can teach the story of Adam and Eve while believing it is metaphorical. Do you call everyone in all Judeo-Christian religions who do that liars? I think if I never did anything to tip others off that I had a different belief set, it might be approaching dishonesty. But I don't. I'm not in everyone's face all the time, but I do frequently say things like "I tend to view this as metaphorical" or to acknowledge how revelation typically doesn't come with God speaking directly to prophets, etc. And it's all out there on my website in a way that I'm not sure has been done by more than a dozen other people who call themselves Mormon. Then there is also an element to this where I am truly a theist, and I do acknowledge there is some sort of transcendent, some sort of unexplainable. So I don't think it's dishonest to say Joseph Smith had a First Vision event or was inspired at different times of his in some way. Can I push this back to you? Does it really seem right to you to say all Mormons are dishonest? Does that seem a little too black and white to make blanket statement like that?

๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:38:06 on July 21, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I am not calling all mormons dishonest. I know many honest mormons. In my opinion, they don't fully understand the criticism's of the church's claims. To be clear, I am not calling anyone anything. I am pointing out that it is dishonest to simultaneously hold two mutually exclusive beliefs. If you understand that the church is not what it claims to be, yet continue to say you have a testimony, that's dishonest. I'm not calling you dishonest. I am just defining honesty.

There is another point to be made here though. Words themselves don't have any intrinsic meaning. They have agreed upon usages. When we communicate with each other, we expect that the other understands they way we are using each word. If we have reason to believe that the other person means something different than we do, it's dishonest to use that misunderstanding to our advantage. So what does your bishopric or stake presidency member mean when they ask if you have a testimony of the restoration?

https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/gospel-topics/testimony?lang=eng

Here is a good place to start. The website formerly known as lds.org has it's definition of the word testimony. Here is a quote: The foundation of a testimony is the knowledge that Heavenly Father lives and loves His children; that Jesus Christ lives, that He is the Son of God, and that He carried out the infinite Atonement; that Joseph Smith is the prophet of God who was called to restore the gospel; that The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is the Saviorโ€™s true Church on the earth; and that the Church is led by a living prophet today. With this foundation, a testimony grows to include all principles of the gospel.

Here's an older source that is not favorable to your word-game position either: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/new-era/1995/04/your-temple-recommend?lang=eng

So it looks like you are misleading people intentionally. You know (or should know) what they mean when they ask about your testimony, but you provide an answer to a different question that you have made up.

Of course you don't need to expound your full opinions every time a question is asked. Everything is nuanced. That is totally reasonable. But if you are asked a direct question and know that the asker means something different than what you are answering, I don't know how to defend that as honest. I've read info on your site, and it just reminds me of grade school where kids would offer to pay with doll-hairs knowing full well the other person misunderstood the words as dollars.

And to answer your question about teaching the adam and eve story, if someone believes its a myth and tells someone else it actually happened, then yes, I would call that a lie. If you believe it as a metaphor and teach it as a metaphor, I have no problem with that. But this is where I found that the implicit dishonesty was too much for me. If I taught the young men about adam and eve, I had a choice to make: teach exactly what's in the manual no matter what i believe, teach the parts of the manual i believe (or can accept as metaphors) and skip the others, or teach them the truth about where humans originated. Because the official church position is "young earth," unless I explicitly said that I disagreed, then it is implied I agree with the church about the age of the earth. I did that for a year or so before the weight of all these indirect lies and half-truths forced my hand. If I wanted to be completely honest with myself and with the people around me, I could't hide behind word games.

As I said before, I understand why your line of thinking is appealing. I don't blame you for espousing it. It may be your best option. I don't know your life! But, you fit perfectly into this trilemma. You are affirming you have a testimony of the restoration, despite knowing the church is not what it claims to be. Therefore you are in a dishonest position. Explain it away however you'd like. I'm not your moral arbiter. But with all the cards on the table, would an impartial bystander think that you are being completely honest? Unlikely.

Fun aside, your username and website both proclaim the church is true, yet here you are saying that you disbelieve its claim to be the one true and living church on the face of the earth. I'm not sure how you think you have a leg to stand on in a discussion of honesty.

Happy Sunday!

[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 19:19:11 on July 21, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*

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๐ŸŽ™๏ธ golfandtaxes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:06:04 on July 21, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Don't put too much stock in the idea that I think your approach is dishonest. I'm just some guy on the internet who knows remarkably little about you and your ideas. My comments are a reflection of my experience.

I have read both the links you posted as well as several other pages on your website. So I don't think I dismissed your views too quickly. I am sure I made some untrue assumptions about you, but that was not malicious, just an unfortunate reality of anonymous debates.

All the best!

belac321 ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 02:32:38 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Nice, I've already got them all checked.

belac321 ยท -20 points ยท Posted at 02:25:53 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Except, of course, that this is completely and totally wrong. Anyone who thinks otherwise has been sorely misinformed.

whatsthisallabout247 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:45:58 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

That's what someone in a cult would say...

belac321 ยท -14 points ยท Posted at 04:55:08 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I don't think a group of 17 million people can really be called a cult...

DontTitheMeBro ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:58:41 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Lol I got news for you...

belac321 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 05:13:54 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Please do enlighten me.

Athrul ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:34:34 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

It's a big ass cult.

bestdisappointment ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 11:06:50 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*

Scientology claims to be a group of 10 million members.

Of course non believers dispute that number, but the same is true for Mormons, and for the same reasons (discrepancies between claims and census findings).

Edit to add example

whatsthisallabout247 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:14:43 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Yes...it can as evidenced through the BITE model. Sure, it's a little less cult-lite than yesteryear when you had to pantomime slitting your throat and disembowling yourself in the temple, but still a cult. I experienced over 40+ years in the Church until I woke up.

belac321 ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 05:21:56 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

I can see that I cannot change your mind and you can't change mine, how about we just leave it here?

Archmonk ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:38:20 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

Yeah, you tend to lose the not-a-cult discussion pretty hard after the "throat slitting gestures while gathered in robes around an altar chanting prayers" stuff comes up. And that is just the cartoony part, the real culty stuff is the high-control, follow the leaders without question, no dissent allowed, stuff.

If I were you, I'd quit the conversation too. Maybe even close your eyes and chant the "follow the prophet" kids song chorus a few times...

FuckTheFuckOffFucker ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:11:54 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

My family of 7 is included in that number, and have not gone to church in 20 years, nor will we ever go again. The 3 people I baptized are still included in that number, and they haven't been to church in 20 years. That's 10 people in my little sphere. How many others are there like me? 17 million is a joke.

footsnotfeet ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:39:57 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)

read the ces letter