Was it Morgan Freeman March of the Penguins-style or Richard Dreyfuss Stand by Me-style? Everyone always says Morgan Freeman, but for me it's always Richard Dreyfuss.
[deleted] ยท 48 points ยท Posted at 00:29:26 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He's trying to set up a relationship between the two of them where she's on the defensive and constantly wanting to prove herself to him. If he finds a woman who will put up with this, he'll know she's someone he will be able to manipulate.
I hear once you're old and a walking paper husk it kind of dries up into a thick crust.
Honestly though? Most of us are bleeding. But it does get better (for lack of a better cliche). Or... Better yet, it CAN get better. Or at least you can staunch it a bit and seal up some of the most infectious or noxious of wounds. Takes effort and labor and it's shitty and it's painful and sometimes new wounds manifest... but it can get better.
ryatt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:01:32 on October 11, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Lololol...btw If you have a sister let her know that everything she cares about is pointless and stupid, you know, just in case things dont work out between us.
My wife suffers from terrible self esteem. Her entire childhood she wasn't allowed to have an opinion. If she ever expressed an opinion or idea it was shit on. Then in her previous marriage her ex would do the same thing. She was expected to be fine with anything he did, including disappearing for days at a time while he went on a drug binge. Even when we met I could tell she was timid and I thought she was just an easy going person. She is those things but not in a healthy way, she won't voice her opinion even when she disagrees with me. So now I don't make any decisions without asking her opinion, including something as small as what's for dinner. She's slowly getting better about it and I've seen her confidence go up dramatically now that she's realizing she's full of great ideas and shocker, they're often better than mine. She loves feeling valued and included and it warms my heart when I can see the satisfaction on her face.
Hah! Tell her that when her pregnant ass can't sleep at 3 in the morning because she can't get comfortable so she wakes me up and says in a demonic voice "You did this to me!!!"
I think pretty much everyone falls into this sort of dynamic at some point or another, be it romantically, professionally, or just among friends. It's an archetype of human interaction that's pretty much everywhere. If you ever, as an adult, listen to a group of teenagers talk to each other you'll notice they all pretty much exclusively communicate in attempts to do this.
I get what you are saying, but it is a very different thing when it's done as the basis of a romantic relationship. This is how many abusive relationships begin.
Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that the gravity of it is always the same. Just that that particular kind of predatory dynamic can exist on a spectrum in a lot of places.
Ubereem ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:28:50 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Hey your reply is ugly. Any man that finds it attractive... good luck with them.
chelclc16 ยท 133 points ยท Posted at 01:57:19 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm pretty sure this is a main strategy for guys who subscribe to, 'The Red Pill,' philosophy
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:08:45 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Are you talking about the movie? What does that have to do with this?
mdmrzk ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:30:30 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Basically some sexist male dominance shit from what I've heard.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:46:56 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ooooh these types, they've got some good points but I think they get way too cought up in the "correct" way to be a man. I'm all for self improvement but All that beta and alpha male shit is just toxic. it's not about male dominance I think, they just oppose a lot of the ideas that come from feminism
JenifaO ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:31:33 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This girl just got reprimanded at work for being wildly inappropriate and just performing bad in general and she couldn't handle it. She left and within the hour had a rant about everyone being intimidated by an alpha female. It belongs on r/insanepeoplefacebook
mdmrzk ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:56:54 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Problem is, their ideology is to improve their self confidence by shaming their partner. A alpha male never compliments a girl, or thanks her for her work, for an alpha male, what a girl do is never enough. That shit is not self improvement, you're not building yourself, it's just a toxic relationship recipe.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:23:25 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah some of them are genuine mysoginists, i just ignore those. but for most of them the main point is that you should take responsibility for your life. And that's pretty good advice. They all just tend to get caught up in how to take responsibility, and if you don't meet their idea of the perfect man you're just a beta
Even if it wasn't an intentional attempt at manipulation, it's a bit more than being socially awkward. The guy comes off as a total asshole.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:55:26 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's a bit beyond "socially awkward" and into "complete arsehole", but I agree he's probably not going for anything clever here.
lolihull ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:36:34 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Socially awkward guys do tend to be the ones who flock to those online self help sites and communities that advocate techniques like this though. When you're a woman on a dating site you get negged so often it's hard to tell whos doing it because they're oblivious and who's doing it because they've read that it's how you make women want you.
He's definitely not self-analyzing if he's getting on her for using "TIL" and following his criticism up with "LMAO" and "LOL" as if that's more acceptable
People who do that seduce you with their charming personalities first. No one's abusive as a pick-up line: they convince you they're nice guys first, thereby convincing you that you must be the problem.
I fell into this kind of abuse as well. Women do this to us guys more than the other way around nowadays, I think. We're all trying to be so nice and sensitive, and we let the gals take advantage of us.
I didn't know they let children in this sub to reply to threads. I must have said it one-hundred and forty-three times, It's really unattractive when people use child speak for numbers.
hahaha, resorting to childish number spellings. There is only an "and" if there is a decimal - it should be "one-hundred forty-three" - ohhohohohosnootsnootsnorf
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 23:14:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No kidding, anyone with a brain would instantly find her unattractive.
Meanwhile, average dude gets like 1 every few days? It's sad
Trucidar ยท 65 points ยท Posted at 21:59:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Personally, I think 1 person who seems to have actually found something interesting about you probably beats 50 who only swiped cause you have female parts.
[deleted] ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 22:01:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, it's really obvious that the 1 girl who randomly swiped on you per 200 profiles is really into you and isn't just a sheer matter of probability. You can tell by how they flip out when you message them.
It's only because I used boosts. If it makes you feel any better, I measaged all five and only one responded. Because it doesn't make me feel any better.
Meanwhile on Bumble, I've gotten exactly one match all month.
As someone who's been accused of being a bot a few times... maaaaaybe there aren't as many "bots" as everyone assumes and it's preventing genuine matches from happening.
Unless calling women bots is some new negging technique I'm behind on?
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:20:24 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's his way of dealing with this appearent unattractiveness. Since anyone who doesn't respond to him is a bot.
I genuinely can't believe it's that bad unless their pictures are all blurry/horrible angles and their profile is empty and they're just sending "hey." But granted, there are tons of profiles just like that.
RHPR07 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:37:44 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I can understand the spirit of presenting the best you and seeming mature, professional, and collected, and even being honest about your expectations and straightforward that you're not looking to waste time.
But the execution... MY GOD the execution is incredibly poor. There's a time and a place to let someone know you respect someone that uses a stronger-than-average vocabulary. Pre-first date isn't it.
After about age 35, the tables flip pretty hard. Single, employed, age appropriate, in shape men are in the drivers seat.There are way more single women looking for a guy than the other way around in that age bracket.
I think this guy is a douche, donโt think Iโm defending him.
I dunno man, I'm 41 and female and it's staggering the number of likes I get per day (I have Tinder Gold). When guys try to be a dick I just unmatch. I literally have hundreds of others behind them to choose from, from today alone. Nobody is getting desperate over here. Then again I only date younger guys. You're right that the quality on Tinder of guys who are my age is...lacking.
I love that the thing I used to finally quit smoking after a decade of cigarettes is considered even worse than being a total asshole to a stranger.
mjoed ยท 182 points ยท Posted at 20:14:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
yeah, it sucks so much man. it's much more accepted to smoke than to vape, which is so fucking weird and idiotic.
soodeau ยท 188 points ยท Posted at 21:08:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I have a friend who vapes and comes outside with us when we go smoke. He has never mentioned it to me, never brags about it, doesn't blow crazy obnoxious clouds, and never does it indoors.
I have a friend who vapes anywhere we go unless there is a sign specifically forbidding it, and he is constantly trying to get other people to try his new flavors even though none of us like vaping.
We only clown one of those dudes.
atm0 ยท 44 points ยท Posted at 21:48:52 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I honestly don't know how people can rip huge clouds in public and not be embarrassed if it's anywhere other than a vape shop. I have a mod/atomizer that's a pretty big cloud chaser combo, but I just love the flavor and airflow combination. When I'm out and vaping outside the bar or something I never take huge rips because then it looks ridiculous when you have this huge cloud blowing down the street while everyone else is puffing small little bits of smoke out. I know how annoyed I get by other people who vape doing it and try to avoid it as much as possible.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 22:28:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:07:52 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Can't you just do the thing where you can make it harder to inhale and you get less smoke?
I basically only use mine in private so I don't actually know lol
Not really. I use a sub ohm coil, so I don't want to use it on a lower setting and have it taste shitty. Much easier to just control my smoke and not be a dick than risk burning out a coil on the way to or home from classes.
Totally agree. I went back to using a vape pen recently because I hated how on mods, it's much easier to end up with lots of.juice in your mouth. Makes me gag. Plus the pen is less bulkey and had a much smaller cloud. Sometimes vaping is amazing, especially for people not wanting to smoke anymore, but the stigma around it does seem warranted when you see the people you mentioned.
I really think it's just a case of a small group creating a cast for the majority.
Like, think about it. Most vegans are probably fine. In fact, you likely don't even know most of them are vegans at all. And yet the joke "How can you tell if someone is a vegan? They'll tell you!" is a thing. Of course the people you know are vegan probably mentioned it at some point; why else would you know?
Look at Rick and Morty. This is the first time I've ever mentioned the show in a comment, yet the fans have a reputation for talking incessantly about it. Well, frigging duh, of course the ones you hear talking about it are talking about it. And you don't know that the ones that aren't talking about it are fans. So 100% of the people you know are fans talk about the show -- by definition. It's a glaring sampling bias.
Same thing with people that smoke weed.
And liberals.
And redditors.
And crossfitters.
And conservatives.
And, like, everything else, man.
Similarly, the vape... ers... that you know vape are probably the ones that are most obnoxious about it, so you associate "vaping" with "being obnoxious about vaping" when, in reality, they're the tip of the vape-berg.
I really don't think a smear campaign was necessary. We just sort of do it, ourselves.
Conbz ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 23:08:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I like this comment. It's just a well composed explanation of a thing that humans do and as a self-contained post it reads particularly well.
Still, though, somehow smokers manage to get left off that list. When an asshole lights up in your house without asking, he's just an asshole, not one of those cigarette douches. When someone starts vaping in a restaurant, it's because ALL people who vape are douches.
[deleted] ยท 44 points ยท Posted at 22:42:07 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This is like, some straight up victim complex shit. Ya it's kind of a joke on Reddit but in the real world smoking is much more heavily frowned upon than vaping. You light up in somebody's house, I guaran-fucking-tee the reaction is going to be "goddamn fucking smokers..."
People literally screen out smokers for dates. I've never once seen a Tinder profile that says "no vapers" but probably 3 out of every 10 say "no smokers." People won't want to ride in your car, will make comments about how you smell after you come inside from a cigarette, nag you to quit, give you dirty looks if your smoke gets on them, the list goes on and on.
As a smoker, I feel like most smokers respect where they smoke and generally take steps to not bother anyone (mostly because we've heard the rhetoric and we know it's bad, so we just avoid the conversation by being respectful). Vapers, on the other hand, haven't quite developed that courtesy because, "Bro, it's just water" and don't think they're being a nuisance.
I dunno, man. I switched from smoking to vaping about a year ago and even though I have a tiny little vape that I NEVER talk about, I still get tons of shit about it if I do it in public. Not to mention how every time I cough I get some pointed comment about how it's probably all the chemicals I'm putting in my lungs, and half the time it's from actual smokers. Sometimes I get so sick of it that I switch to cigarettes when I'm out at a bar.
If you lit up a cigarette in a restaurant and I could smell it, I'd tell you to put your shit out or leave. If you vape in a restaurant and I could smell it, I'd tell you to stop vaping or leave. Repeat for any public space where smoking is not permitted. IDGAF if you're smoking or vaping, it's all fucking gross and I don't want to inhale your second-hand death. Respect others and be respected yourself.
Number one. There is no such thing as second hand vaping. Number two. Vaping is not deadly. Vaping in closed spaces where there are other people is still most certainly a bad idea and not courteous, but don't go around saying it's killing you like second hand smoke can
It's nicotine vapor, which is still pretty bad for your heart. It's certainly healthier to be breathing second-hand vape rather than second-hand smoke, by several orders of magnitude I'd imagine, but I don't really want to be inhaling any nicotine... even minute quantities of it. I don't know that there's much scientific evidence to prove whether or not second-hand vape is linked to any sort of heart disease; still, I imagine in an enclosed space, prolonged second-hand vape would probably have a tangible effect.
You sound like a big tobacco shill. You cannot get even trace amounts of nicotine from "secondhand vaping". Also mentioning the effects of nicotine on your heart might sound scary and all, but people will go right ahead and drink energy drinks and coffee all day long
โSecondhand vape clouds are probably less harmful than secondhand smoke by orders of magnitude, but I donโt want ANY fucking nicotine anywhere near me.โ
There is a difference between not doing something out of courtesy and not doing something out of endangerment of others. Smoking falls under both categories, vaping under one.
Every study I can find indicates that exhaled vapor contains more than โtrace amounts ofโ nicotine, which has assuredly not been established as safe (nor, for the sake of academic integrity, has it been established as โparticularlyโ dangerous, though it does have known negative effects, including increased blood pressure and the induction of abnormal heart rhythms โ the research is ongoing).
You arenโt in a position to say โsure, itโs totally safeโ. No one knows that, today. Perhaps itโs just a courtesy, but itโs the courtesy of respecting someone saying โHey, I donโt know if that stuff is harmful or not, and I donโt want to inhale it until thatโs establishedโ โ which is different than the courtesy of respecting someone simply saying โI donโt like thatโ. Perhaps youโre actually not breathing dangerous chemicals on people.
Admittedly, itโs still not the same as smoking, which has clearly-known negatives. That said, to act as if not blowing clouds on people is out of sheer respect for their preferences and not at all for their health is academically unsound.
and thats the danger of vaping. People over do it because they tell themselves "hey, this isnt as dangerous as smoking!" which in and of itself can be damaging
In all fairness, itโs probably not as bad as smoking (which is the leading cause of preventable death in the world: the overwhelming majority of things are โnot as bad as smokingโ). Vaping may, in fact, be harmless. But... it might be harmful. We just donโt know, and thatโs the entire crux of the issue.
Every time you vape, you take an unknown risk โ and thatโs fine. Itโs your life, do with it what you want. Just donโt force anyone else to take that unknown risk with you, much as you wouldnโt force anyone else to accept the known risk of inhaling your secondhand smoke.
Lol, you're delusional if you think I'm a shill. I agree with your second point about caffeine consumption. I do think the evidence will agree with me when I say that nicotine is worse for your heart than caffeine, though. Maybe I'm wrong, not gonna bother to research it right now. Night dawg.
p_iynx ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 00:20:34 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's not true. Smoking is still seen as more dangerous and frowned upon. Vaping stuff is just a joke, and it's mostly aimed at the people who make their entire existence about vapes.
skeron ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 22:10:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Because smoking was a thing way ahead of today's meme-culture.
Public smokers were assholes long before it was cool to make fun of them.
Part of that might have to do with vaping being a relatively new phenomenon and smoking having been around pretty much since the dawn of humanity. Smoking has spread out, cigarettes can be bought all over etc. There isn't a cigarette subculture.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:05:26 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I once made mistake of saying "here I go killing again" during a board game when I knew that one of the players was a R&M fan. He laughed and kept repeating the joke over and over again like as if it gets funnier the third or fourth time its repeated. The he went on to other things like pickle Rick -_-
So basically what you're saying is there are a variety of different people out there all with different thoughts and opinions and some of them just happen to be annoying and dumb? Huh.
skeron ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:09:32 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
There's liking something.
And then there's liking something so much that it completely consumes you and you adopt it as part of your personality. Then you proceed to incessantly talk about it and segway it into every conversation with people who have absolutely no interest in it.
The people that you describe fall into the first category.
The people that are satirized on the internet are the second category.
Very big, very clear difference between the two.
ender52 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:11:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It seems just like what the skateboard industry did to rollerblading.
I do feel bad for anyone who's trying to break or modify an addiction though that they get associated with those morons.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:45:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Like most things, it absolutely depends on the manner in which it's done. Vape like a normal person, no one cares. Vape like an asshole, don't be surprised when you're called an asshole.
I used vaping to quit, and refuse to vape in public because of this. Although I hated smoking in public places before too, I think I was embarrassed or just afraid someone would come up and tell me to put it out.
Berowulf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:13:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think that's because a lot of teenagers vape just to look cool, and therefore everyone thinks that if you vape you're just trying to look cool, while in reality, you're vaping because it's better for you and because well, vaping is cool. ;)
(vaping is completely fine as long as you're not being a hipster about it and you try to like, purposely do it near people, if everyone vaped outside away from people then it wouldn't look cool, smoking cigarettes inside I think is trying to be hipster and look cool, people who do it outside though, they don't look hipster and cool, they just look like dudes outside smoking. Someday, vaping will be looked at as being as lame and boring as smoking. :))
I think it comes from the fact that there are a lot of jerks that think they can vape anywhere and blow it into non-smoker's faces.
I have family that have no care if they are blowing it into your face or not. It absolutely infuriates me. Whereas a smoker typically goes outside or to bars/locations I do not frequent and I avoid.
Exactly. Smokers had been conditioned by years of new anti-smoking laws and shaming, to know that it would be considered beyond rude for them to not do everything they can to minimize the amount of smoke they expose non-smokers to. There still certainly are smokers who won't do that, but it's not because they don't know they'd be considered assholes....they're usually actively trying to be assholes.
Meanwhile, vapers have the people who do it to be assholes....but then also a large contingent who think that "Hey, it's not tobacco smoke" means there is absolutely nothing rude about vaping anywhere.
a) smokers leave and go smoke that's the only reason its "accepted"
b) its really not accepted and everyone you know and everyone you don't know will lecture you about the dangers of it like you haven't heard yet.
c) if you treated that vape like a cigarette and walked outside and a good distance from doors to go do it with the smokers i doubt anyone would care. but that's never what vapers do is it?
Because it isn't a better alternative. Its just another can of soup really. Add it being popular and generally male only practice and you have a recipe for disaster
mjoed ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:17:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
oh boy, have fun with your inbox after that one.
i don't really care. i don't differentiate between vaping and smoking when it comes to where/when i do it, if i wouldn't smoke, i won't vape. and i'm not interested in it at all, i don't know which model or ohm or whatever i have - i have it and use it, that's it.
it's simply 100 times cheaper and doesn't stink up my place whatsoever. seems much "better" to me. if it's additionally "healthier", which it afaik is definitely, good shit. if not, whatever.
True, but unlike a lot of things vaping is equated with being an annoying douche in the general sense. Like you can be an annoying music listener (e.g. blasting your phone on max volume with no earbuds on public transportation) but no one is ever like "oh, and he's a music listener" in the way that people like the person I responded to just use the fact that someone vapes as like a shorthand for saying they're insufferable.
but no one is ever like "oh, and he's a music listener" in the way that people like the person I responded to just use the fact that someone vapes as like a shorthand for saying they're insufferable.
They didn't do that either, though. They said blowing a vape cloud in someone's face, i.e., being an annoying vaper.
Vaping in someone's face is analogous to blasting your phone on max volume with no earbuds.
CloudEnt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:46:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not a smoker but I vape cannabis in the privacy of my own home at night. I have no issues with vaping anything and I find it weird that many people do. Most of my family struggled to quit smoking when I was a teenager and I wish they had access to vaping back then. I have heard a few people take specific issue with cloud chasers. Vaping doesn't require giant clouds to be effective so people take issue with an unnecessary cloud of annoyance showing up with every hit. It's so temporary it seems silly to let it upset you, but it takes all kinds. I wonder if vaping would still be seen as douchy if the clouds were less impressive.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 20:31:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I... I like the smell of most vapes and I don't smoke.
Nahhh, people look down on vaping and despise pop music and hate on Apple in real life, unless.... I don't go to tye office everyday but actually just plug into a VR reddit-matrix without know it o_O
Let me put it this way. Apple is the most successful tech company in the world. Firefly was cancelled because not enough people watched it. Pop music is the most listened to genre in the world, even when itโs by choice (see Spotify streaming numbers where pop dominates, whether itโs raw numbers or playlists).
Maybe in your real life bubble where everyone is similar to you, sure, those things are true. But if you look at whatโs actually happening in the world, it couldnโt be further from the truth.
Juul is covert, but cheaper and still good is the Vuse Vibe. I can use it on a plane/train/subway, at a concert/movie, at work and no one knows unless i forget to hold it in a few seconds
It's just the culture around it. Some people who vape are dicks. When I was in nyc so many people Vaped and had no decency to anyone around them. Would literally just take big puffs and blow and it lingers behind and gets in people's face.
I don't mind vaping but if you pull out your vape be curtious to people around you because if someone behind you gets vape cloud in your face you are getting judged
Sivel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:39:57 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
There will probably be a big documentary in a few years that uncovers how the cigarette industry used social media to ruin the perception of vaping as obnoxious and childish to simultaneously discourage adults and encourage younger demographics to get hooked on nicotine. We'll also probably come to learn that millions have increased their risk of cancer by vaping with cheap Chinese made components.
I think it's the common viewpoint that if you're using it to quit smoking that's good, but when people vape for fun it's kinda silly, and when people get obnoxious about it, it's stupid.
Sorry that's the way, as far as I'm concerned it's way better. Not just for your health but for me as a non-smoker I actually enjoy walking past people vaping, it smells wonderful.
Cigarette smoke is disgusting.
Issvera ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 20:26:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Fanbases ruin everything, no matter what.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:24:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Genuinely glad you could. I tried cold turkey 3x plus the patch and the gum once each. I'm willing to admit that this provides evidence that I'm a weak-willed beta or whatever but I definitely have an addictive personality and I'm willing to swallow my ego if it helps me get harm reduction.
It's not you guys man. Most people have no problem with people who used it to quit smoking, it's the 19 year olds who rip fat clouds because they think it makes them look cool.
There's a joke that vapers will go out of their way to talk about vaping. It's not true. Non-vapers go out of their way to talk about vaping.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 21:38:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Non-vapers go out of their way to talk about vaping.
And speaking of people who suck - Rick and Morty fans. Rick and Morty fans all think they're smarter than everyone just because they watch Rick and Morty. DAE hate Rick and Morty fans?
Only if you blow the biggest of clouds. None of this vape pen bullshit. You need at least a car battery, 72 feet of wire, and half a cotton field before you should even think about macking on hoes.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:36:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
[deleted] ยท 278 points ยท Posted at 19:29:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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Malkiot ยท 88 points ยท Posted at 20:00:43 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That explains why I actually got dates from Tinder. I was wondering how that worked, with them being really great and probably being able to get 100 matches a day, if they swiped 100 times. Unfortunately, they also had issues which made them entirely incapable of reciprocating, but yeah...
It also explains why straight up telling girls (stranger) that I find them attractive and would like to get to know them, works far better than Tinder.
ive seriously found that asking a girl out in person will yield way better results than tinder. in person they probably will give you a first date just to see, on tinder they just send a few messages then get bored when their phone blows up with 30 superlikes. hell i went out with one girl that wasnt even extremely hot, not saying she was ugly by a long shot, but she was able to just scroll through showing me the superlikes.
[deleted] ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 20:26:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If you can approach girls in public, you're already ahead of 90% of men.
but then you're the asshole bothering women in public. it's lose/lose
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:54:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Nah that's a negative mental projection that is all in your head.
If you know you're a cool, fun guy who's approaching a girl because you think she looks interesting and you want to offer some fun/ possibly get to know her, then you won't be bothering her.
It's win win. Either you end up getting along, you have a memorable interaction that she can tell her friends about or she's let's you know she's not interested and you both go on with your life with nothing lost.
The key is to work on yourself, so you are that cool guy and not giving a fuck what people think about you.
As a non-tinder-user, can you explain to me what superlikes are?
Malkiot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:29:22 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You get normal likes and a limited amount of super likes (1-5 a day depending on whether you pay), you can also purchase more.
A super like puts you in or near the front of the person's queue, so you guarantee that they at least see your profile. They also get a notification upon liking you, that you super liked them.
I think the system would be better without that notification.
With dating apps I never want to meet up because I live with my parents and they worry about me. Or because my skin doesn't look good that day, or I'm tired. I come up with so many excuses that I've decided I'm not ready to date right now.
i found my favorite dates from apps is driving around. no pressure to look good, doesnt cost me anything but gas, no awkward silences since i can play music.
Well I stopped using them so it's a little hard to bask in all the attention now...
Ok?
Malkiot ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 20:34:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I was getting a decent amount of matches for a guy (3 a week, one meet a month), I think.
But, yeah, it pales in comparison to being able to approach pretty much any random attractive girl in public and walking away with your contact details exchanged.
I do it rarely enough, only when I find someone incredibly attractive, but I have a success rate of 100%. I've not been blown off yet, though, of course, most of them don't really work out in the end.
Now I'm the douche! Glad you're a genuinely nice dude. :)
harlanjs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:10:51 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I found that being active in the community (non profit boards and the like) as a dude yields 5-10x the number of real life women who would be willing to date me than either the bar scene or Tinder.
Your approach did serve me well in college and early 20s for sure.
Malkiot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:31:39 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I did try that for a bit (dog shelter etc) but they were always all already taken. At least the ones I was interested in were.
harlanjs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:45:14 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"Taken" is flexible for the modern, educated woman. Even with a ring on it.
Malkiot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:20:08 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I know, but a) it's more work and b) I don't feel entirely comfortable aiming for that.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:56:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
*doesn't
[deleted] ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 21:00:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know, a lot of the really attractive girls are used to guys liking their arse, telling them their attractive etc, they probably get told it 10 times a day/ realise what's up with the way guys act around them. So not necessarily negging but being playful and not putting them on a pedestal will definitely get their attention/ make you stand out better.
Maysock ยท 113 points ยท Posted at 20:41:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"TIL all of my mannerisms and speech patterns must be carefully crafted to your liking" removes match
xgardian ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:42:21 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But if you remove them right after saying something they might not see it because once you unmatch the messages go away.
Why do you assume it's a strategy? Seems to me it's more likely the guy was turned off and is generally an asshat. Reading this exchange, I highly doubt he's interested in her.
Allow me to proffer a different scenario. He didn't actually know what "TIL" meant, because there's no way someone who's that offended by "child text speech" is on Reddit, got embarrassed, and in an effort to save his giant fucking ego from something she'd never know anyway, decided to just berate her for making him feel stupid.
Neh. first of all, TIL isn't a particularly dumb looking acronym. Second, he was already using emoji right from the start. Nobody who actually uses emoji actually thinks using acronyms is childish.
He was just negging, or genuinely lashing out that she knew something he didn't.
Reddit is just so fucking ridiculous with the attempted mind reading and deep analysis of every conceivable situation with little-to-no actual, useful information to go on.
Michamus ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:26:18 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Are you actually so fucking socially awkward and unaware that you cannot see the sarcasm, even when he is laying it on SO THICK?
Just like the guy you're replying to... Both of you need to go out more, meet actual people that aren't like yourself, sitting there nodding your head and agreeing about everything.
Just because someone isn't like you or share all your values or opinions doesn't mean they are bad people.
Likely the man in the OP is even old enough to be the father of both of you. Fucking stupid kids.
How do you figure I wouldn't be? Because I call out your absolutely insane lack of social awareness?
That you would rather recede into some bubble of "men are angry and stupid" (or is it "adults"? or maybe "the working class"?) than give that man the benefit of the doubt and look beyond your own immense bias to find the extremely evident sarcasm.
Easier to just affirm what you already know, right? That he is some loser and you're the king of the world, yeah?
Fucking kid - and thanks for the downvote, by the way! Not sure those are meant to be used that way, but hey - I disagree with you, so you should rob me of some of that ever-so-precious karma, right?
Edit: Just to make sure you understand. I should clarify that the last sentence I typed out above is indeed me being sarcastic. Just in case you weren't sure. Cheerio.
It genuinely makes me very angry that people like you exist in the world. I hope you never procreate, though I suppose a redeeming factor is that it seems incredibly unlikely you ever will.
I really, really hope you're just a kid and will grow out of it. If you're older than say 15... Hey - here's to hoping you never adopt, either.
I know what negging is... what I'm saying is that in this case it doesn't look like negging. It doesn't sound like a strategy, it sounds like the guy is just an asshole and lost interest.
Opening with an obscure phrase to make her feel like she doesn't know things.
Lying about not knowing what TIL means
Making a wrong assumption about her (supposed to indicate that he's not overly invested and 'high status')
Pushing the neg 4 separate times, ending with "not attractive"
Mentioning her age (it's supposed to make her insecure)
The point he's making obviously isn't a sincere expression of his values; "LMAO LOL [emojis]".
To me, it looks like he was trying to put her down, and couldn't "handle his own medicine" (he didn't know what 'TIL' means, though she was saying it naturally and not to manipulate him), and got a little butt-hurt.
Vengrim ยท 69 points ยท Posted at 20:53:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'll add another. He didn't come right out and say that an over and under was a shotgun and tells her to google it.
Honestly I would have been annoyed by that. If he did that to me and then asked me what TIL meant I would have said "Google it." and ended the conversation there.
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 22:00:32 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:57:58 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
His ego crumbled to dust the minute she said something that wasn't fawning over him. The entire rest of it was him trying to build his ego back up by pushing someone else down. He's a real keeper!
jeufie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:19:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Eh. Doubtful. If she's 39, they're probably close in age. Dude is probably just a 35 year-old, single moron.
As a 35 yo who sometimes dates morons, this totally looks like a strategy to me. I just wish I were better at spotting it. Usually they have to literally tell me they've "studied the art of seduction" before I catch on, haha. There should be a handy checklist or something to weed these guys out.
"Lost interest" doesn't seem like the simplest explanation to me though.
Why press the point? Why insult her? Why does he keep messaging her? He was the one driving the conversation; she's just responding. This doesn't look like behavior of a disinterested person to me. It looks like the behavior of a person who thinks they have something to gain by putting her down.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:23:58 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
eh, idk. It's intuition for me too, y'know? I guess I was hoping someone could point out something. "occam's razor" didn't do it. I've had a hard time recognizing manipulative behavior that was pretty clear when I looked back sometimes so I don't find "but that doesn't seem manipulative to me" to be that convincing, personally. Idk. I don't, like, want to be wrong, I'm just not convinced at the moment, personally.
Well, she didn't know what it meant, and neither do I... idk. Maybe "obscure" was too strong but does it not seem like it was used strategically in the way I thought?
It's a double barreled shotgun that has a top barrel and bottom barrel rather than left and right barrels (which is called a side-by-side). Here's one I've wanted for a long time.
And here's a side-by-side from the same company for comparison.
Ah, thanks. I have to say I asked a couple of other people and they also didn't know. But they weren't gun people either. So no idea how known or obscure that phrase with the enthusiast crowd but it doesn't seem very well-known with the general crowd.
So maybe it was a little bit of a gatekeeping question?
Could have been that, definitely. I really don't think it was meant as a "haha I know something you don't know" thing, though.
And I'm speaking from an enthusiast perspective, side-by-side and over-under are pretty well known terms if you're at least slightly more involved with guns than "I have a gun, this is my gun, it shoots bullets." But I can see how someone who just happened to go to the range and should shoot one wouldn't necessarily know the name.
So I guess it's obscure like the phrase "And one" is obscure. Particular to a group, and outsiders may or may not understand, but not just one person who dug through the annals of history to find something to flaunt.
I think I get what you're saying. To me it's perfectly indistinguishable from negging initially, but strategy might be too generous a word. This seems to rapidly devolve into something more like "escalating so I can think of it as a fight instead of a rejection," like the whole "you can't fire me, I quit" thing.
But Reddit is meant for discussion (or flaming strangers, take your pick). Tinder is meant for hooking up with people you like. So it's weird to use it just to argue with and put somebody down.
Nobody is saying that? And I could easily be reading him wrong, especially since I definitely go out of my way NOT to interact with that kind of guy. My read was that he was an asshole, then she rejected him, then he counter-rejected her.
"You talk funny." (Dick move, not a clear rejection)
"You suck the possibility of a good time out of the room." (Pretty unambiguous rejection)
Again, I could be wrong, but I wasn't saying jack shit about gender.
Ok, I see where youโre coming from but at the same time why would he have bothered to match her on tinder/sent the first message only to become disinterested after she used an abbreviation? Doesnโt add up if you ask me.
Not everyone is desperate to bang anyone that glances their way. That is exactly how it works, if someone does/says something that turns you off you disengage. Only thing here is heโs an asshole.
He might just be weird and that might be a pet peeve. I used to really hate when people typed lol, unless it was meant as ironic. Not because it was an abbreviation, but because it was an outright lie. 9/10 you're not laughing out loud at all. You're just a liar.
It got on my nerves. It doesn't anymore, but I can totally see how that might, for some people, be an instant turnoff. Now it pisses me off when anyone uses the hashtag or even says the word hashtag. I find it grating, and I immediately think that the person is not my type of person. But I'm a bit of a weirdo.... my point is, so might he be.
Negging is usually a bit more like banter. A subtle jab. "You write like a child" is not subtle. No one would find that anything but insulting. And not in a good way.
Meh, I'm just an asshole I guess. At least today, for this interaction.
Guess I've never heard anyone call herself beautiful so matter of factly. It's a bit off putting.
But maybe that's only because I have to put up with a lot, being a breathtakingly handsome genius and all. (Do you see how that's a bit off putting when someone else does it?)
Yes, you are being an asshole. There's nothing wrong with someone being confident in their appearance, and you should examine why you are put off by women who are aware of their looks. It's ok to be honest about our positive attributes and our flaws.
It has nothing to do with gender, and it isn't about looks either. It's about flagrant self aggrandizement. A lack of humility if accurate, and a lack of honesty if not. Either way, it signals a missing virtue.
Ever visit the sub r/iamverysmart? Maybe that will clear it up. It makes fun of people who talk about how great they are (specifically regarding intelligence, but the same rule applies to everything really).
Once again, as a stunningly handsome genius, I can come across as a little brusque at times. (You really don't find that sentence offputting? Calling oneself stunningly handsome, or a genius? That's perfectly normal where you're from? Or is it a bit of hypocrisy?)
I never said I was great, I mentioned an attribute that I have. I won't lie and say I'm an ugly goblin. When I was a teen I nearly died because of my self-loathing and it has taken years for me to see what others do, so I will fucking call myself beautiful if I want to.
If you're really stunningly handsome or a genius feel free to call yourself that. No skin off my nose.
I am both stunningly handsome and a genius.... I have business cards that say so, as proof.... but you can't have one... for reasons I can't explain right now. Get off my back!
Lokifin ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 19:56:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's a possibility, sure. This guy didn't even know what TIL stood for, so it wasn't that it was a particular pet peeve of his. Maybe he hates all abbreviations in text? But the next thing he says uses LMAO LOL. So probably not that. Maybe it's only okay for him to use them but not people he wants to hook up with?
I've seen a lot of negging that is not subtle at all. And I've seen subtle negging that is straight up insulting. It's all a turn off if it's strategy.
I don't think it's really about it working more often than not being an asshole. Creepy guys like it because it's a great way to filter women for the ones most vulnerable to abusive manipulation strategies.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:03:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Shuwayze ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:28:44 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well considering the guys's name in the picture is Gayme
sorry, Graeme. Doesn't sound like he looks forward to much in life other than being an asshat.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:22:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This isn't negging.
Negging is giving a backhanded compliment. Probably a bad example but something like "wow you have really nice hair, it's very frizzy".
Something that makes the girl unsure of your are flirting or fucking with her. This guy is just being a dick.
He just has low self esteem, emotional stupidity with a paired hate for women out of frustration. Met a ton of guys like that online who wouldn't stop bothering me.
They don't do it consciously but they basically have an underlying level of anxiety that makes them say offensive shit (because they constantly feel rejected and therefore defensive) while hoping for a "sorry :(" from your side and the feeling of higher acceptance when they're being an asshole and you still like them.
Acting out to feel higher approval.
I couldn't figure out what was missing that made me think he wasn't into her, but you nailed it. He doesn't appear to follow up, or backtrack, as they so often do. He seemed like he just didn't like her. Maybe his initial interest was based on the over and under she was holding (I don't know what that is either), and then when she didn't know what he was talking about he was over her. Then the abbreviating things might have been an additional turnoff and he just didn't care anymore.
Though what makes me think I'm wrong, when I think about it, is that he focuses on TIL, and not lol. She used both in a single message. As someone who hates abbreviations, I have no problem with TIL and am annoyed by lol. So it's jarring that he specifically mentioned the one and not the other.
It does read like he didn't know what it meant, then got defensive when she explained it. Like he thought it was a typo or something.
I don't know. Hard to say. I'm in a weird mood today where I don't want to judge something based on a tiny snippet of conversation. Not my usual judgmental way, but we each have moments. I do find him to be a dick though (can't be entirely nonjudgmental after all)
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:57:11 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You articulated everything perfectly, don't be down on yourself dude. You make an excellent case and I can't argue with it.
I was thinking it was a gun based on her comment about being a good shot or something. Thanks for clearing that up for me (was going to google it but I just forgot to care enough... haha).
Thanks bro, nice chat.
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 21:46:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
According to this thread, a guy not being interested is creepy af. Fucking sexist tbf.
could be, or the guy could have been neggin to try and "get her to need him"
it's all asshole shit anyway perpetuated by morons
Berowulf ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:09:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think that he didn't actually know what it meant and then felt embarrassed, and therefore started getting defensive and saying that using that type of "language" is childish and unattractive. -- however, he is obviously wrong...
Dlrlcktd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:24:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think by that point you've gone past the edge of no return.
D_Greene ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:54:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I've been out of the dating scene for a while now, but I feel like just asking her if she wanted to get a pizza and talk about stuff would be a sure fire way to meet up.
Bozly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:11:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I mean he obviously already decided that he wasn't attracted to her anymore, though. I doubt this guy is having a ton of trouble getting dates. He's just an asshole while he's on the dates, probably.
Is that the oft used "negging" technique so popular with the PUA crowd?
AHrubik ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:09:28 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well Cotton here we the see a poor version of a tactic called "the neg" being used to adverse affect. His poor form and rapid apparent frustration are not going to win the game today. I suspect his only visitor tonight is going to be Rosy Palm. We'll be right back after a word from our sponsor.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:42 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty sure he's already not interested at that point...
Using a question mark to emphasize the fact that you're statement is indeed a question comma is despicable period Only to be followed be two more childish short cuts comma clearly you cannot speak to women exclamation point
Aipre ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:51:05 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I want to imagine it's from a series of bad bets. It started at one dollar and they keeps needing to bet more and more so that they can pay off their debt.
Tomnnn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:00:12 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The 5 is there to distract you. 4 next to the 16 is a series of x^position.
sneijder ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:12:29 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Abbreviating โThat isโ ?
You set yourself low standards and fail to achieve them kiddo.
Double your money that his dad is exactly the same way. Wearing a shitty Brooks Brothers suit in his photo, nasty to women, is named Graeme... He's definitely a trust fund "my dad will sue you!" asshole.
Wow, very solid evaluation my man. Graeme lmao. I'd never even considered his parents would have had to sign off on that name, which is another clue about his parents.
"Where ADULTS come from, in Adult Land, we use the adult term The National Aeronautics and Space Administration, not childish terms like NASA, you child."
KJBenson ยท 54 points ยท Posted at 21:50:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Did you get those cigarettes yet dad?
Itโs been 20 years, we miss you....
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:53:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Did you google before posting this? I know id have to if I was gonna write NASA long hand.
"Because I'm an emotionally stunted, abusive, controlling asshole who enjoys demeaning everyone for my personal enjoyment. Now go fly your little toy rockets so I can mooch off you in my retirement."
He is a moron but I'm pretty sure he was using those to try and show how dumb he thinks they look. Not that it worked, but yeah, I think he was using them ironically
mwinks99 ยท 403 points ยท Posted at 18:56:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm pretty sure he wasn't using them ironically. I think he either just tried negging the other person, or somehow was angry she used some term he didn't know. Notice how he didn't react to the actual lol used.
Craylee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:47:36 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, sure, but he still resorted to "child text speak" to get his point across, so he is immediately a hypocrite in his next message even if he was doing it ironically.
[deleted] ยท 52 points ยท Posted at 18:46:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Didn't adults use those first?
asyork ยท 99 points ยท Posted at 18:49:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I've been using them since I was a kid. I'm in my early 30s now. Still use them. Since before texting was really a thing.
For a while, "lol" was in every single text I sent. If you sent a text that didn't have "lol" or "haha" in it, it came off as mean and serious. Also, if you ever switched from "lol" to "lls" you were trying way too hard to be cool.
I feel like every relationship starts off with lots of emojis and lols, then as you get comfortable with each other the emojis tend to fade and the lols (and especially lmaos) become less and less frequent. I don't think it's a bad thing, but being able to attach emotions to simple text is very important in keeping a significant other aware of your commitment.
I'm also talking straight out of my ass I'm not married and haven't kept a relationship for more than six months.
It should be typical! I still share tons of emojis and โlmaoโ with my husband and weโve been together for almost 6 years total. Relationships should be fun. Thatโs what keeps them going during the crappier times. So our texts are filled with goofy nonsense and emojis.
Nah you're fine, I've been with my girlfriend for 9 years and use emojis and lols all the time. If one of us didn't at this point, the other would think we're upset or in a bad mood.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:47:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I can't help but read that as "laughing my ass off off off off off off off..." I blame ATM machine and PIN number for this.
My texts with my husband are filled with emojis and โhahaโ and โlmaoโ and etc. Weve been together for 5 years and we still text during the day about nonsense. There are the normal boring texts about what to pick up from store, and how did someoneโs meeting go, but the majority is nonsense.
I want to be like you. I've been dating a woman for 4 months now, and I'm head over heels in love. Half of our texts are full of emojis, or are literally just a bitmoji, and it is great.
I am going to marry this woman...I can already feel it. I just hope we can keep up our current level of playfulness.
p_iynx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:15:16 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly that's still pretty accurate. :) I think our ability to laugh and have fun is what has helped my husband and I get through a couple of really rough years. Our texts have jokes, silly words, and emojis. (He is currently in my phone as Husbum, for no particular reason other than me saying it once and it making us both laugh.)
However the difference is now, I add those things for fun, whereas before I felt like I had to add them so that he didn't read my texts in the wrong tone, or whatever. Now I'm not as worried about sounding "mean" or grumpy or whatever because he knows my personality and the way I say things.
Started using these on yahoo chat 20 years ago.. we wrote the book on this shit! Asl?
[deleted] ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 19:24:43 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Also ICQ and AOL, lest we forget.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 21:53:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
the icq โuh ohโ noise still haunts my dreams
O2XXX ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:33:52 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I learned a couple days ago that ICQ is owned my mail.ru. I remember dropping my UIN in Quakeworld Team Fortress servers to recruit people for my โclan.โ
To be clear, this wasn't supposed to be derogatory. It just feels like guys in the military miss some crucial steps growing up, especially if they joined right out of highschool.
Namaha ยท 135 points ยท Posted at 22:38:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Says who? The word police?
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 00:07:32 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Because he wanted to call it something else and correct someone! Pfft
njlx1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:42:41 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Wtf is your point? Thus logic applies to literally and word
Namaha ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:34:10 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Thus logic applies to literally and word
Are you having a stroke.
My point is that there's no governing body that dictates how fucking "TIL" is pronounced. You aren't "meant" to pronounce it "tee-eye-ell" any more than you're "meant" to pronounce it "till"
njlx1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:27:54 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry about the spelling, but like i said that applies to any word
Namaha ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:39:11 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm glad we agree that classifying it as "definitely an acronym" or "definitely an initialism" is dumb af then
Strฤ prst skrz krk ( strฬฉtส prฬฉst skrฬฉs krฬฉk] ) is a Czech and Slovak tongue-twister meaning "stick your finger through your throat".
The sentence is well known for being a semantically and syntactically sound clause without a single vowel, the nucleus of each syllable being a syllabic r, a common feature amongst many Slavic languages. It is often used as an example of such a phrase when learning Czech or Slovak as a foreign language.
In fact, both Czech and Slovak have two syllabic liquid consonants, the other being syllabic l.
An acronym is a word or name formed as an abbreviation from the initial components in a phrase or a word, usually individual letters (as in NATO or laser) and sometimes syllables (as in Benelux).
There are no universal standards of the multiple names for such abbreviations and of their orthographic styling. In English and most other languages, such abbreviations historically had limited use, but they became much more common in the 20th century. Acronyms are a type of word formation process, and they are viewed as a subtype of blending.
Not necessarily. Itโs different for different people. Some people say โL-O-Lโ and others just say it as โlawl/lowl.โ Same with TIL. Iโve heard people say โtillโ and someโT-I-Lโ
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:39:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Does anybody actually laugh at loud when typing it? No, they generally donโt. They usually just blow some air out of their nose and maybe smile a little.
AnothaSK ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:12:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
WILCO was never used to mean something. Neither was ASAP.
I know it's Sunday, I know the National Football League game is on, but if you could turn off the Entertainment and Sports Programming Network... I've got bad news. I just got back from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention where I had some testing done... I've got Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome, it's gone beyond Human Immunodeficiency Virus, now it's full blown Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome... you should get tested.
moush ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:04:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL is used by childish redditors tho, memes like thst
nmezib ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:23:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I find the best parties to be the ones where the "life and soul" are grumpy, humorless, ignorant men in suits who think they're smarter than anyone else. I only go to those parties. Those are the most fun parties.
[deleted] ยท 458 points ยท Posted at 17:46:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Wait...I could see that being a positive, as in he's saying you're so subtle and devastating that hardly anyone is going to catch it, but I want to let you know I appreciate it.
Of course, that probably wasn't it. Dude was just a dick.
Occasional sarcasm is cool to mix things up a bit but it gets tedious when someones replacement for a sense of humour is to just say the exact opposite of what they mean. There are people around like that but this doesn't seem to be the case here.
Lack of wit, painful grasp of irony, insulting people right out of the gate, and his insistence that he is the "life and soul" of a party. A little humor would have gone a long way in this scenario but this was awkward af.
mf_memes ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 18:47:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I only saw the first picture haha. Never mind my comment.
Nothing is wrong with suits. But when your main profile pic is of you making a tight-lipped smile in a bathroom wearing a medicore suit and tie combo, that speaks volumes. To me it says, "uptight", and apparently I'm not wrong.
[deleted] ยท -12 points ยท Posted at 17:37:19 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You sure can tell a lot about someone from one conversation posted over the internet. Sounds quite bitter.
blosweed ยท 1605 points ยท Posted at 17:30:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This guy sounds like he makes up stories at parties thinking he sounds intelligent and interesting but everyone knows hes a manager at taco bell and is a single middle aged man.
If Iโm honest he looks like the loud drunk guy that THINKS he is the life of the party but is just the annoying arsehole everyone just wants to pass out
He's the guy who has no friends because he won't stop talking about himself. And according to him, the reason he has no friends is that everyone else is jealous of how great he is.
hes a manager at taco bell and is a single middle aged man
Are you suggesting a single middle-aged manager at taco bell can't possibly be intelligent and interesting?
blosweed ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:34:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ok no that's not what I meant. A middle aged Taco Bell manager can absolutely be interesting and intelligent but when they are trying to be something they're not, people see right through that and it looks pathetic.
Tehmaxx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:17:29 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Manager at Taco Bell makes good money though.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:40:09 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:51:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Or the story might be somewhat true but they over exaggerate details to make the story seem more cool than it is. I had an ex who do that in front of me, even though I had been there when the story he's telling happened and I would know that a lot of the things he was saying didn't actually happen. No shame in his game though. That's why he's my EX.
You're wrong. I know for a fact that he's a double middle aged man.
Subtac ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:34:29 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Insulting two demographics in one sentence
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:59:32 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I don't go to taco bell because I always want to save all the employees, they're clammy faces, stained t-shirts, and messed hair makes me feel real bad for them.
narse77 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:42:42 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone knows the guys who's photos only have them in suits are the most insecure about their jobs. The ones who know they are doing fine are happy to show off that there is more to life than their job
This guy looks like some 23-year-old who thinks wearing a suit makes him look more mature so he wears the suit his mom bought him for prom on literally every occasion possible.
Like, who the hell takes a bathroom mirror selfie in a suit? Literally the least classy thing ever.
DrQAlias ยท 135 points ยท Posted at 19:08:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
As someone who wore a suit everywhere at the age of 20 cuz I thought it made me look mature and sexy, I can confirm. So glad I outgrew that phase and started wearing dresses everywhere instead.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:51:07 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
๐๏ธ yerwoman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:02:47 on November 8, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm Irish and this is in Ireland. I don't think it's the same person you know?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:43:50 on November 8, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Then nope, definitely not. Though maybe it's a Graeme thing. And they look identical, not even joking.
๐๏ธ yerwoman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:07:18 on November 8, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That might be it lol
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 20:59:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I can't imagine a worse idea for a Tinder profile pic.
You're allowed one selfie in your profile, and it better not be a fucking mirror one.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 21:57:26 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Nah mirror ones are definitely better than front camera selfies
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:17:11 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Meh it's not as black and white as that though. Mirror selfies are fine, imo, as long as you can't see the toilet or bunch of mirror specs, and aren't using a tablet. I also think the fact that he's wearing a suit makes the mirror selfie a bit worse.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:02:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Disagree strongly. Mirror selfies are lame as fuck.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:06:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Fair enough!
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:41:11 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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Muckl3t ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:37:30 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
When you get into an elevator with a woman, press a higher number than her and then make a big deal about it.
I watched this episode a couple of times before I realized some guy actually did this to me. He got on the elevator with ~5 women, including myself, and said, "Work hard, ladies, and one day you can make it to the 18th floor."
We don't even work for the same company. There are probably dozens of businesses renting office space in that building, so what floor you're on literally means nothing of any significance.
It's both horrifying that people can actually be that stupid, and absolutely amazing- because that joke had me laughing off and on for like a week after I watched that episode, and I never would have imagined it could actually happen. It just sounds so absolutely ridiculous and arbitrary, but just like some pickup-artist or whatever might try and think was helpful.
ok_heh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:40:18 on October 12, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Be one of the tallest guys in the bar and brag about how long your butt crack is.
I... you know, maybe this might be something worth bragging about. We don't know for sure just how long his butt crack is. Might be a world record length one...
Jenysis ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:06:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Haha, yeah, it is, "The Prince of Persuasia". Not sure if the other reply is confused or trolling but I'm pretty sure Rob Huebel voices both him and the Deuce of Diamonds (that's the baseball guy right? )
Negging is chode-speak for โteasingโ which is totally fine for flirting if you keep it light.
But I feel like a guy who uses the term โneggingโ probably doesnโt have a clue in any social party.
โNeggingโ shudder
akcaye ยท 160 points ยท Posted at 20:59:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No, flirting is done by being nice to a person. Negging is the exact opposite, a manipulative piece of shit trying to hurt someone's self-esteem to hopefully bring it down to a level that the manipulative piece of shit will have a chance of looking somewhat desirable.
edit: Why the fuck do people act like I said being nice is flirting? The word "nice" isn't reserved for Nice Guys™. That's why we capitalize and use the proper trademark sign. What I meant was while you're flirting, you are not negging the person you're flirting with. Banter is different from trying to break someone's self esteem. If you're flirting with someone, they should know you like them, which is not usually accomplished by being an asshole. Different things.
Fgame ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 21:16:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
'Man, I really have a thing for girls with droopy tits' is negging.
Negging is where your intent is that the person takes it personally. The ideal "neg" is where the victim is 90% sure that you were just teasing but has some doubts and those doubts stay around swimming in his/her mind and impact his/her self esteem.
How can you tell if someone is negging you vs teasing? When teasers hit a sore spot, they stop, look guilty and/or apologize. A negger doesn't, they leave it hanging and maybe add on a backhanded compliment.
Source: Had an ex that manipulated the fuck out of me and often used negging. I'm also the target of much banter in my family/friend group. I know the difference.
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 21:16:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
A lot of guys who use it claim the idea behind it is to make the girl ask herself, โwhatโs this guy got going on that makes him think he can talk to me this way?โ If you use it on that type of girl, her self esteem isnโt really something you can affect in any meaningful way.
I knew how it sounded as it wrote it, but just went with it instead of walking on eggshells. The way I was thinking about it - thereโs a type of person who will react to the strategy one way and a type that will react another way. Itโs not pigeonholing as much as itโs just setting a dividing line that people can understand.
You can flirt by teasing. But itโs the way you tease a friend. Itโs a light touch, a needling at something actually funny. โYouโre stupidโ isnโt teasing. Making lighthearted jokes about a job can be teasing.
akcaye ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:48:59 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I agree. That's my main method of showing affection in the first place. Well maybe not main, but I like to do it. I tease and engage in banter with my wife all the time.
You can tease AND say negative things AND positive things. You're having a lighthearted conversation, not talking to a fragile egg ready to crack at the slightest hint of a tease.
I swear, people in this thread are going 0-100. No wonder they have issues with flirting.
akcaye ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:26:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You're having a lighthearted conversation
And who said the egg shit? I was replying to someone saying negging is teasing. It isn't. Negging is designed to lower the other person's self esteem. Teasing is just joking around in a playful manner.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:52:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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akcaye ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:02:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Just look it up on the wiki. It's deliberate emotional manipulation to undermine one's self esteem.
Zongap ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:15:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Don't ever disrespect m'lady, even In the form of playful banter
akcaye ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 22:15:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's not what I fucking said. Negging is not playful banter.
That's all well and good. But you said flirting is done by being a nice person. That's not always true and when guys think that they end up dumbfounded when doding all over a girl and showering her with compliments doesn't work.
akcaye ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 22:48:11 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But that's not being a nice person means. That's what disingenuous people do to look nice without being actually nice. You can tease and make playful banter with people and still be a nice person. By nice person, I meant well-meaning, not "showering them with compliments".
You're saying "negging is abuse" used by "a manipulative piece of shit trying to hurt someone's self-esteem to hopefully bring it down to a level that the manipulative piece of shit will have a chance of looking somewhat desirable."
Like, holy shit dude. You're like all black and white - I didn't say Nice Guy first, but you sure as shit fit the bill buddy. Taking it 0-100.
akcaye ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 22:35:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yes. Negging is exactly that.
Urban Dick:
TOP DEFINITION
Negging
Low-grade insults meant to undermine the self-confidence of a woman so she might be more vulnerable to your advances.
Wiki:
Negging is an act of emotional manipulation whereby a person makes a deliberate backhanded compliment or otherwise flirtatious remark to another person to undermine their confidence and increase their need of the manipulator's approval.
It's not simply "teasing".
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 22:12:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No, it's nothing like that. It's about saying stuff that doesn't make you seem like a sycophantic "nice guy" that the girls are so used to. The person who's being "nice," buying drinks and such, is just as manipulative.
Negging is an aspect of sarcastic banter. It's for teaching it to guys who don't understand how to do it naturally. A lot of guys' first strategy is to be extra nice and complimentary. It's bland, boring, and makes them appear servile. When girls say they want a guy who treats them like a real person, they're talking about this sort of guy, who thinks women are some other species that need to be treated like princesses. A lot pick up is teaching guys how to relate to women the way they want to be related to.
Here are direct quotes from the Mystery Method chapter on negging (I found it online. I don't own it.) He's the one who coined the phrase:
All my girlfriends were wonderful human beings.
She needs to have a standard when all these loser guys approach her.
the guys are stupid enough to buy her one [a beer]
show her you are sincerely being funny and not insulting
Does that sound misogynistic? Does it have a more positive attitude toward men or women?
The whole "negging is someone trying to hurt someone's self esteem" is some narrative people made up to make these people look bad because they don't like the idea.
akcaye ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 22:18:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The fact that people automatically assume I'm a Nice Guy™ just because I said you don't fucking neg when you flirt with people is insane. Thanks Nice Guys, I guess, we can't use "nice" as a genuine way to say "not a fucking shithead" anymore.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:37:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I wasn't talking about you. I'm also not saying that pick up theory is true. I'm just explaining the theory and how it's not about being insulting or lowering a girl's self esteem.
I do think it's a good rule to not be disingenuously nice, or try to buy a woman's interest with drinks and compliments. Say I start talking to someone in a natural way and we're hitting it off, and I want to get another drink, there's absolutely nothing wrong with offering to get her something, too. No one is saying not to do that. They're saying not to go up to her and offer her compliments and drinks before there's any connection whatsoever. Many people do do this, and some people need it spelled out explicitly. Those people are the targets of this information.
"not a fucking shithead"
But no one is saying to be a shithead. The person who is negging isn't being a total shithead. The guy in the OP is being a shithead and thus is not negging.
akcaye ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:44:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The person who is negging isn't being a total shithead
If you're deliberately trying to undermine someone's self-esteem to make them more susceptible to your advances, you're being a manipulative shithead.
Just because I say that, it doesn't mean I believe that being disingenuously nice, buying shit, or empty compliments, or other disingenuous thing you do in order to get into someone's pants, or expecting that you're owed access to someone's pants for anything, like so many Nice Guys believe, is not manipulative.
I think by saying "being a shithead" you thought I mean being rude or whatever. What I meant wasn't about mannerisms. You can totally disguise negging in a nonchalant, even "polite" manner. But one's intent in negging is what makes them a shithead as a human being.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:52:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If you're deliberately trying to undermine someone's self-esteem to make them more susceptible to your advances, you're being a manipulative shithead.
I just got through explaining that this isn't the point of negging.
And trying to manipulate people is human nature - grooming, fashion, fragrance, plastic surgery, teeth whitening, making money, working out - all done in an effort to manipulate people. Why is changing the type of things you say any different? Do you go up and talk to unattractive girls with the same frequency you talk to attractive girls? Why? Are you trying to get something out of the interaction? Does that make you a piece of shit?
akcaye ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:08:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
this isn't the point of negging
Top google hit:
Negging, as it is called, is in essence a trick. The idea is to undermine a woman's confidence by making backhanded or snide remarks โ give a compliment with one hand, and take away with the other. It is about control, putting the man in charge of the interaction by pushing the woman to earn his approval
Top definition on urban dictionary:
Low-grade insults meant to undermine the self-confidence of a woman so she might be more vulnerable to your advances.
Wiki:
Negging is an act of emotional manipulation whereby a person makes a deliberate backhanded compliment or otherwise flirtatious remark to another person to undermine their confidence and increase their need of the manipulator's approval.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:17:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, it's been well established that that's what people who don't know what it means say it means.
It's not like some vague idea with hazy origins. You can go right to the source of the idea and see that it states that negging isn't supposed to be insulting.
akcaye ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:32:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You know what you're right... I don't know why Google doesn't directly link to you to define its meaning.
Seriously though. Well established? By whom? TRP?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:52:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well established by this thread. And, sure, if The Red Pill were saying "negging isn't meant to lower someone's self esteem, that's just what the people who don't understand it think" then that would be a great proof of it's actual meaning because The Red Pill are some of the people using it. I mean where else, other than the people who actually use it, is the meaning of the term supposed to come from. Google? Just because Goolge says so that's what it means, even if the people who use it are saying differently, and not just publicly but amongst themselves?
r/theredpill is notoriously the worst of the worst pickup community, yet:
egs are one of the most infamous, misunderstood, but effective, parts of the game. Theyโre also, unfortunately, why the Red Pill and seduction community have a reputation for being full of manipulative douchebags: guys going around insulting women and lowering their self-esteem
A neg isnโt an insult. A neg, rather, is merely the kind of comment that someone who was interested in her wouldnโt make
Negs donโt even have to be โnegativeโ โ what theyโre really doing is negating your own interest.
The purpose of your neg is to break the frame of you being just another guy whoโs hitting on her
Even negs like these should be reserved for โ9s and 10sโ โ highly attractive women. Model-looking women are constantly besieged with unwanted attention from men
So, again, how does "neg" mean anything other than what the community that invented and makes use of the idea uses it to mean in practice?
akcaye ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:11:15 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The same way the confederate flag doesn't mean "states rights" just because people who defend it say so.
Wow, shitty pickup artists and even shittier TRP guys are saying they're not manipulative assholes. It's good to learn that everyone else in the world is wrong.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:27:52 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's why I specifically said "amongst themselves" and "in practice." I also pointed out what the source of the idea said.
It's not the same as the confederate flag because the confederate flag has it's origins in history. The people who defend it didn't invent it, and it has been used mainly in a completely different time period by different people. "Negging" originated with pick up artists, specifically Mystery, who defines it in his manual, and is used solely by pickup artists, so it makes since to look at how they use the word in order to derive its meaning.
shitty pickup artists and even shittier TRP guys are saying they're not manipulative assholes
It's not just them claiming they aren't manipulative assholes, it's looking at their actual instruction, the actual behaviors and attitudes they advocate.
It's good to learn that everyone else in the world is wrong.
I'm glad you realize and appreciate this. It's the first step in learning to think for yourself and find things out for yourself.
In argumentation theory, an argumentum ad populum (Latin for "argument to the people") is a fallacious argument that concludes that a proposition is true because many or most people believe it: "If many believe so, it is so."
This type of argument is known by several names, including appeal to the masses, appeal to belief, appeal to the majority, appeal to democracy, appeal to popularity, argument by consensus, consensus fallacy, authority of the many, bandwagon fallacy, vox populi, and in Latin as argumentum ad numerum ("appeal to the number"), fickle crowd syndrome, and consensus gentium ("agreement of the clans"). It is also the basis of a number of social phenomena, including communal reinforcement and the bandwagon effect. The Chinese proverb "three men make a tiger" concerns the same idea.
akcaye ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:45:59 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Argumentum ad populum is not a fallacy with word definitions. The definition of a word is what the majority of people mean when they say it. All credible sources say it's what I say it is. A bunch of assholes say it isn't. Therefore it is.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:23:04 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Except we're talking about what pickup artists mean when they say "neg" and what their intentions are, so it doesn't really matter what other people say they mean. "urban dictionary" and wikipedia are your "credible sources," as if the people who wrote those entries didn't have an agenda.
The definition of a word is what the majority of people mean when they say it.
Exactly, and the majority of people who "say" the word - as in actually using the word - are pickup artists, so it makes sense to look at how they use it and what they say it means, and not look to google or wikipedia.
The only other time the word is used is in discussions like this about what the word means, which isn't the word actually being used.
You're arguing that a word doesn't get its meaning from its use, but by what the majority of people say it means, which is ad populum.
and from your source, urban dictionary:
The real definition of a neg (straight from the horse's mouth): A neg is active disqualification. It shows that you aren't hitting on a particular woman and don't have interest in her at that particular moment. You're not being mean, per se, you're telling her that she does not meet your standards of attractiveness.
It isn't a direct comment, either. When you're engaging a group you can "toss it like a pebble" at her or towards her social circle.
Many, many guys use this the wrong way, and end up leaving people with a bad taste in their mouth. To be used by licensed professionals, only.
akcaye ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:11:19 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That definition is saying the same thing with softer words. An ass can be called a pegasus by its owner; it's still an ass. Also you don't get to define a word by being a minority who says it a lot; that's not what I meant when I said "majority of people".
You're arguing that a word doesn't get its meaning from its use, but by what the majority of people say it means, which is ad populum.
Argumentum ad populum is a logical fallacy. That means the argument is not logically sound. If you define something that can be measured in another way as a fact because most people believe it is one way, that's a logical fallacy.
It can't be a fallacy is the measurement is based on what most people believe it is.
You can't call someone out for saying peanut butter is a popular thing to spread on bread. You can call them out if they say peanut butter is healthy for you because most people like to spread it on bread.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 06:03:55 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If everyone agrees that peanut butter is made of almonds that doesn't mean it's made of almonds.
If we're not talking about what pickup artists mean when they say neg then what are we even talking about? Who gives a shit what most people say it means. Fine. I'll agree that when most people say it they mean insulting someone in order to lower their self esteem. But, when a pick up artist or anyone trying to pick up girls says it, they mean playful teasing.
akcaye ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:41:41 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's what I said. Whether peanut butter is made of almonds isn't measured by popular opinion. That's why that would be a logical fallacy. Words, however, are defined by popular opinion.
If pickup artists only meant playful teasing, they would use a word we already have for that. It's "teasing". You can neg someone with playful teasing. Playful teasing in this case would be just the manner in which negging is made. Negging has a specific malicious intent. It doesn't mean you outright insult people or be rude to them. It's usually hidden in backhanded compliments, which is much more insidious than that.
It's more than just "being nice". You oversimplified it and now you're getting shit for it.
akcaye ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:36:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't oversimplify it. I said that to contrast with negging, not to mean a specific way of behavior; just well-meaning. Even if I said "you can only say nice things if you're flirting", that still doesn't make your reply any more valid. If anything, you oversimplified to "doing anything nice is flirting, therefore if you treated anyone nice you flirted with them". Which is not what I said by any measure.
Murtank ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:39:26 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Um youre wrong. the intention of negging is to make a woman question themselves and look to a man for validation
That is never the intention for flirty teasing
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:24:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
For it to be neg, there has to be even a small compliment in there.
There is totally a difference... People who aren't even into pickup "neg"... It's just playful teasing. Negging isn't saying, "Hey you're shirt looks ugly, now fuck me you insecure bimbo!" It's more like, "Hey, you want another drink already? Okay, I'll see if we can get you the number to AA while I'm at it :p"
"Hey, you want another drink already? Okay, I'll see if we can get you the number to AA while I'm at it :p"
Aaaaaand I'm running away as fast as I can...
(and just to be clear since you're vaguely defining the term, negging is specifically giving backhanded compliments, not just playful teasing. it's always a variant on "i like this shitty thing about you". I guess your AA/drink example is kind of negging, because it's being nice - getting another drink- while being shitty - seeking to make the other person self-conscious about their drinking)
There's how you may intend your comments, an then there is how your comments reasonably come across. If you don't know me, and you're trying to buy me a drink, making a joke about AA reasonably comes across as somewhat dickish. there's a WIDE chasm of unpleasant comments between "comments that make me feel insecure" and "comments that continue to pique my interest in a person".
And yes, Negging is quite literally designed to make a woman feel insecure while also dangling your personal approval in front of her, to suggest that "most people wouldn't enjoy you, but don't worry I do." that is negging at its very core. If you paid much attention to the PUA community's discussions on this, you'd have seen men lay that out explicitly. BecausePUA is not about making a woman feel good, it's about the PUA getting their desired results regardless of how other people feel.
It's not that the comment makes me feel insecure - it's that the man's conduct is unpleasant and at that early stage, I have nothing invested in that person and would simply walk away from unpleasant stimulous.
If I find music on the radio unpleasant, I change the station - and not because the music made me feel "insecure". Presuming that I feel insecure and telling me that the guy is just trying to have fun with me is just more negging. No thanks!
you're gonna buy her a drink and simultaneously suggest she has a drinking problem where on earth does that make her want to sleep with you? even if she's not offended it's just a weird thing to say, clearly you're at a bar to drink and it implies a condescending attitude on your part bare minimum. some women might be into it, the ones with low self esteem who are used to being told what to do by their abusive fathers for instance
You're taking the tone wrong... It's supposed to be in a jjoking playful way, not an insulting way... More of a fun way. The same way that if I were at the movies and my GF gets some candy and popcorn with extra butter, I'd joke, "Looks like someone's getting diabetes tonight, I'll make sure to prep the insulin shots for the drive home." I'm not calling her fat, not trying to tell her not eat junk food, just joking around.
i completely understand the tone you are intending i am saying the content of your 'joke' is weak and reveals a condescending 'oh aren't you a stupid helpless idiot' mentality even if you don't intend to reveal what you really think of women
also, that joke is definitely gonna make her feel insecure lmao have you ever had a girlfriend. any comment regarding her weight or eating habits is best left way the hell over there
It's not supposed to be seen as that though... That's how outsiders looking into the pickup world like to define it, as a strawman to attack.
Like I said in another comment in length, I knew one of these guys when I lived abroad, who was actually good at it. The intent of these things is to not put her on a pedestal. While other men are falling all over her, getting nervous, treating her like a queen (like many many many men do to really attractive women) saying things like this lets her know, "Hey I'm not like the other guys... I am not going to walk on eggshells and seek your approval around you. I'm going to treat you like everyone else. I'm going to tease and give you a friendly hard time for fun and laughs." It's not supposed to be a put down, rather a signal that you treat her as an equal because you are an equal. This, in return, causes her to become interested and stand out, because you're not drooling over her and showering her with affirmations.
You don't get to control how other people take your comment. Your intent in these moments is literally less important than how the comment will reasonably be taken.
"outsiders to the PUA world" is most people. when most people see your comment a certain way, you're failing at the very concept of communication by saying that the majority is wrong, because you intended to say something different.
If I intend to complement someone on their hat, but it comes out "fuck your mom", other people aren't wrong just because they also didn't hear "nice hat".
This is a problem with the PUA community writ large - you think you have more control over how other people take your conduct than you really do.
you control yourself. I control my reactions to you. If you were "supposed" to come across as nice, but people react like you weren't nice, and in large groups - that's feedback for how effective you were at doing what you were "supposed" to do. that's how casual communication works - the outcome is more important than your intent.
"outsiders to the PUA world" is most people. when most people see your comment a certain way, you're failing at the very concept of communication by saying that the majority is wrong, because you intended to say something different.
Well over text is different. You should not be looking at my comment in how it could be said in the most rude way possible and be thinking, "Okay if this guy says it's not supposed to be done in a dick way, how can I read this comment in such a way?"
The only people who would see my comment as rude, in person, would be a minority. Most social and engaging people wouldn't taken as rude because they have a social competancy to understand I'm joking and saying it in good fun;... Based on my tone. I wouldnt say something like that staring them down and accusing them of crippling alcoholism, obviously. But instead in a fun playful way that you'd play with a friend you get along with.
I can't control how you react to that, but if you took that as an insult, I wouldn't get along with you anyways.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:51:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"Hey, you want another drink already? Okay, I'll see if we can get you the number to AA while I'm at it :p"
Presumably delivered in Californian upspeak for maximum effect too.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:50:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I agree. Their interpretation of how women like to be treated is from anime where you put them on a pedestal and worship them. No teasing. No being playful. No fun.
Kasplazm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:16:06 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's threads like this that remind me that population of this site aren't normal people, and that I should log off the internet lol
ipn8bit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:44:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Honest question, what difference is there? The intent seems the same to me.
Azertys ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:18:04 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If you're an asshile you'll belittle other people because you feel like it and it makes you feel superior.
If you're negging, it's because you learnt somewhere that lowering a girl's self esteem is going to help you get into her pant, so you do it in hope you'll get laid. I don't think the asshole think it will get him laid.
bugbits ยท 60 points ยท Posted at 19:17:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Negging is BS but at least has an end-game strategy, this guy is just lighting dynamite and blowing the convo to smitherines
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 21:39:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
all neggers are assholes but not all assholes are neggers
the difference here is he was being an asshole to no end. he actually wished her luck and presumably stopped speaking to her. if it were negging he would be an asshole while simultaneously trying to meet up with her.
Why do you so readily express ignorance as though it's a prize worthy of value?
Being an asshole usually manifests in antagonism as a result of attempting to cope with insecurities.
Negging is a very specific method of communicating emotional energy used in very specific contexts that of course gets blown out of proportion and completely misused by people who have no idea what they're doing, then misinferred by more people who have even less of an idea.
Imagine you're a 10/10 woman. Looks, lifestyle, mentality, everything. Just about every man wants you and they don't let you forget it. The left half of the bell curve usually expresses this in very basic terms that don't address you as a person: "You're hot," or maybe "Nice clothes," or even "Your physical form is very aesthetically pleasing," etc etc. To them, it's the first time they've told you some very nice things. To you, it's the same effortless garbage compliments trying to get your attention that you hear day in and day out.
Imagine you encounter a 10/10 man. He possesses emotional intelligence by way of insight and empathy. He subverts what you, the 10/10 woman, are expecting by not only ignoring your pulchritude but also the idea of complimenting you altogether. He teases you in order to test your ability to build rapport, gauge how valuable a partner you are by trawling for issues with spoiled entitlement, and also to just have a fun interaction. Because of this, he stands out to you and the both of you may pursue a connection.
Now, none of that inner communication is evident to anyone who's just watching from the sidelines without applying any critical anlysis. They just see you, a good looking woman who just previously rejected them even though they called you beautiful, giving attention to a good looking man because he called you a butthead.
That bullshit is not for the masses. It might be a niche way of successfully interacting with certain types of women, but it's just going to hurt most of them in a way that benefits no one.
The only reason you perceive it as bullshit is because you're right about idiots who don't know how to express themselves and further idiots who don't know how to receive expression.
Obviously, it isn't and can't be properly used by anyone but top tier people. It's a very common behavior to model the superficial shape of professionals without understanding why and how it works, then have completely disastrous results.
It might be a niche way of successfully interacting with certain types of women
Congratulations on your learning experience.
but it's just going to hurt most of them in a way that benefits no one.
How do you reach this conclusion? Why do you have such a low opinion of women and of men?
A) You're judging a method based on erroneous execution, and B) They're only hurt if they choose to allow themselves to be.
What I've learned over the years is that there are people who think like you - ones who come across as very pretentious, very "sure" of the things you think of what woman/man falls into what category - yet you let your world view become so small through this bizarre lens of rankings and value.
I didn't downvote your comment, even though you directly insulted someone who meant no harm with their comment, because I always appreciate other views, even if just to get an idea of why people are the way they are. Yet mine gets downvoted instantly because you think you have something to teach me. But you don't. I could consider myself a "top tier" woman in my own slice of humanity and I would have no interest in entering the one you describe.
I couldn't care less about people having their own elitist ideals, but when you think hurting someone is within their control (for every single human being), and you would look down on someone if they couldn't control it, that's when I have a problem.
You sure have a lot of excuses for why there is no substantiation to your argument.
What I've learned over the years is that there are people who think like you - ones who come across as very pretentious, very "sure" of the things you think of what woman/man falls into what category - yet you let your world view become so small through this bizarre lens of rankings and value.
Using what you think are big words doesn't make you conceited, but thinking they do does.
I didn't downvote your comment, even though you directly insulted someone who meant no harm with their comment, because I always appreciate other views, even if just to get an idea of why people are the way they are. Yet mine gets downvoted instantly because you think you have something to teach me. But you don't. I could consider myself a "top tier" woman in my own slice of humanity and I would have no interest in entering the one you describe.
Sure, that's why you went to all the effort of articulating it. If what you say is true, you wouldn't feel the need to express it. As if anyone cares about posturing online.
I couldn't care less about people having their own elitist ideals, but when you think hurting someone is within their control (for every single human being), and you would look down on someone if they couldn't control it, that's when I have a problem.
The moment you stop relying on external validation as a band-aid for insecurities is the moment you start improving. Inferring injury and victimization is a choice.
[deleted] ยท -12 points ยท Posted at 20:20:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Lol no one likes the real you so you resort to manipulating someone into depending on you. That has to be the single most pathetic thing I've read online today lolol
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 21:39:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's not exactly obvious that you don't support it because I don't know you and have no reason to believe otherwise given this whole thread. Maybe put somewhere in your post that you don't support it so you don't get backlash for no reason.
I mean, everyone plays games online. That's why tinder is full of comments telling OP not to do the things he do and stick with plain responses that don't express anything.
I mean it's better to express nothing than to express the fact that you're so incredibly insecure you need to literally yank another person down to below you to date them.
Malarazz ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 20:45:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Negging is supposed to be done on very attractive girls who get approached by 10 guys a night, to bring them back down to your level. Models, strippers, that really hot waitress.
It's not supposed to be used on any average girl, and it's definitely not supposed to be used in a manner that's not playful.
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 21:44:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Difference is a negger is interested, this guy isn't.
[deleted] ยท -62 points ยท Posted at 18:05:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think what you're thinking of is "ribbing" like harmless poking fun, there is no nice negging because negging is supposed to hurt someone's feelings in a stupid attempt to make them crave your affection or something (at least that's my understanding of it)
al666in ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 18:36:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, negging is explicitly the art of reducing someone's confidence in order to make them more attainable.
Very different from flirtatious teasing, which is what /u/PancakeParty98 was trying to describe (I believe). They were correct that it's a fine line.
[deleted] ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 19:24:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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al666in ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 19:38:20 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Cheer up, honey, you're bringing the whole place down. How about I get you a drink? Hey, did anyone ever tell you that you have asymmetrical lower eyelids? It's a shame, otherwise you could have been a model.
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 19:49:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Sure whatever, just let me finish this post about this easy smash real quick.
Malarazz ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 20:46:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Lol it definitely worked, otherwise people wouldn't have heard about it. The problem is its meaning and purpose got twisted by random douchebags who aren't pickup artists.
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 20:52:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well that clearly isn't correct since you don't believe it and you're a grade A sucker
Malarazz ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 22:34:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Be that as it may, they still sleep with hot girls whenever they feel like, something that the majority of straight men dream they could do.
Negging started being used for a reason and it became a concept for a reason. Regardless of how frat boys distorted the concept to be used in a different way.
As a tactic to pick up women, it's ineffective. As a general way of interacting with people, it's an asshole move. Trying to make others feel shitty is never "kind and funny."
potpan0 ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 18:43:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If you're 'negging in a nice way', then it's not negging. The whole point of negging is to make the other person feel insecure so that you can swoop in later.
LeKa34 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 18:22:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Isn't negging just that, but with the goal of manipulating a woman into sleeping with you?
ashok36 ยท 76 points ยท Posted at 19:00:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I only know this because I watched that stupid VH1 reality show with Mystery and the house full of fake-nerds but...
Negging is not being a dick. Negging is saying something like, "That's not your real hair color, is it?" when you know that is actually is. That way the girl can say, "No! It's totally my natural hair color." and the guy can be like, "Wow, That's crazy. I would have thought you'd have to pay good money to get hair color like that." or similar.
It's like a compliment given in reverse. It is not supposed to be just an insult.
-edit- for those down voting, I am not encouraging or endorsing negging. Just trying to explain what it's actually supposed to be.
What? I'm confused. How is the example you gave anything close to an insult? It just sounds like a compliment to me. Like "your hair looks so nice I thought you had it dyed". Have I been negging people unintentionally my whole life without realizing it?
He's not really explaining it right. Negging is usually a backhanded complement. That example kinda works because phrasing it that way puts the girl off kilter and in theory gets you onto her radar.
The theory is supposed to work on girls who are 10s (the pick up artist's target), because those girls get so many people hitting on them or grovelling in every conceivable way that just complimenting them makes you look just like every other guy out there. If she has pretty hair you can guarantee she's been told that a million times, so saying it basically makes you just another guy trying to get to her by mentioning her hair. BUT if you start with, is that your real hair color, you are doing the opposite because you are expressing doubt about her appearance, something most people either wouldn't dare do because she makes them nervous or because they are trying to be nice to her to get in her pants. It demonstrates you have some high personal value that you don't just grovel or compliment her but can actually take notice of something like that, but in any case you did something different which makes you stand out.
By turning it around you are still complimenting her but you've demonstrated that you believe yourself to be on her level by being willing to either criticize her or generally not believe she is some impossible goddess.
It might sound ridiculous but in context it sorta works but requires a few things. One, the girl to be kinda vapid because a smart girl will be looking for a person who is genuine and not just a bar hopper trying to get laid with tricks, and two pick up tricks are meant to get a socially awkward person to simulate a high value person until they figure it out for themselves. So in this case a genuine person wouldn't neg but at a simple basic level being able to doubt a girl's appearance and make a comment on it is something a high value person could do. It won't work on every girl in every situation but the goal is to just get used to doing it until you can actually have a balances conversation with a girl you used to believe was "out of our league"
You have to remember that all of this was thought out by insecure socially inept nerds with women issues who taught themselves how to pick up people by trial and error. Their philosophy is a weak, "just so" justification after the fact where they themselves don't really get what they were actually doing. They needed the idea that they were getting one over on the beautiful women because their low opinion of themselves and the women they were talking with made them believe that they must be tricking women in order to have a chance.
The dudes just mistakenly thought it should be considered insulting because through their misogyny thought only "natural looks" counts and that it was some brilliant "hack" while for the women they were targeting they were just compliments given in a none traditional way. Since they didn't share the bizarre idea that recognizing that somebody went to the salon, was supposed to be an insult
Generally, coloring hair and going to the nail salon aren't considered taboo by club going LA women. In fact most would appreciate that you'd notice the effort they put into themselves. And if they're actually natural then you've just told them that they achieve naturally what others need to put a lot of work in.
TL,DR: The original socially inept dunces found a compliment that they thought was an insult, sold the mistaken idea to other socially inept wannabees and women have been getting insulted and actual backhanded compliments for real ever since.
flipshod ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:23:38 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think "trail and error" is actually closer to what I've experienced.
"puts the girl off kilter and in theory gets you onto her radar."
What in the actual fuck? I think maybe this is the type of strategy you use on unstable girls with daddy issues/low self esteem to exploit it... like the kind you might find drinking themselves silly at the bar frequently.
Not me. But yes that's generally the type of girl that might fall for this type of tactic. Remember pick up artists aren't looking to bring a girl home to mommy
Yeah, it's just strange to me that people think their tactics through this fully. I can't imagine they have all that much success. Successful socializing relies more on instinct than anything. Maybe they think they do because drunk girls are easy?
ashok36 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:29:29 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think for them it's more of a numbers game.
It's like the really obvious scams that you think to yourself, "there's no way someone would fall for that." But the trick is, they make the scam just obvious enough to filter out the people that would see through the scam after half an hour (wasting the scammed time) . The mark they want is stupid enough not to see the obvious scam. The same thing is going on with these PUA dudes.
Exactly. A smart girl can read a guy pretty well and see through something like negging. The comment in context of weak body language or some tell of insecurity sends a different message than the one given by a confident person who is genuinely asking. But a girl who can be manipulated like that is the girl a pickup artist uses to boost their confidence until they learn to talk to women like people rather than mysterious objects of sexual desire.
Niirai ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:04:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Especially that last part is I think the crux of the whole negging situation and method. If you follow a certain method long enough they become natural to the point where you don't need it anymore and have actually learned or changed.
In the case of negging I think that can go in 2 directions. Either you get rejected enough times and have some nice experiences in there that make you realize there is no such thing as leagues just people who match and those that don't. Or you get rejected enough and bask in the ego boost you get from the successes that you become someone with a red pill mentality.
Last thing I'd like to add is that I think looking for casual sex chosen by more direct criteria like looks, or direct conversation starters are fine. I don't think a girl needs to be "vapid" to be interested in someone that uses pick up tricks. She's most likely not going to spend her life with him. The objectification part is tricky but even that doesn't need to be an issue if both parties want the same thing.
I agree, I guessโ vapid wasnt the right word. I meant in the sense that a put together woman with good social awareness and self esteem would likely notice the neg as a parlor trick (because she sees by body language or otherwise that he's insecure) or not base attraction on a guy who feels comfortable rejecting her. Of course she may see that and go with it because she is just looking for a lay but I mean this all in a general sense
Your description doesn't match your link at all. It is not a compliment in any way. The goal of negging seems to be to lower a girl's self esteem without her perceiving it. Like "is that your natural hair color?" and if it wasn't her natural hair color, then she'd feel a little bit shittier about herself without you looking like a dick.
The point is that if you are doing it "unnoticeable", it wouldn't be an said in a tone that was insulting by itself. And the insult would depend on the action itself being shameful or "then she'd feel a little bit shittier about herself without you looking like a dick." isn't going to work.
Ask yourself, why would it be insulting for a club going LA woman that somebody recognize that they went to the hair salon? It presupposes that the women would be embarrassed by the fact that it wasn't their real hair color, instead of taking it as a compliment that somebody recognizing the effort and choice they made.
Since the whole point was to not make it sound like an insult and the person they were talking to almost certainly didn't think of the action of going to the salon as insulting, it probably just came across as compliment.
Probably didn't stop the PUA idiots from feeling they had one up on her but there is a reason why PUA's don't have succesfull long term relationships.
[deleted] ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 19:30:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Holy fuck...the real cringe is the word โneggingโ. I had never heard of the word before this thread. Now I wish I didnโt know it existed.
I didn't before think of them before, but I certainly will now.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:49:58 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well shit...now I canโt unthink that. I will forever be confused by โneggingโ
Niirai ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 20:41:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Just wanted to let you know that I disagree with you not because of whiteknighting but because I disagree with your statement. There is a clear goal attached to the word "negging" that is about bringing the other person down. I think negging is all about intent, like the page that you linked has psychology behind it where the goal is to let the other person know that they're replaceable or whatever. Bashful flirting like you describe might sound the same but is different in intent. I'm very much like that with girls and my friends where we insult each other a lot, but the intent is never to harm but it's just our humor.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:18:26 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Why do you disagree? You can look at any PUA text or video and it will explicitly state that negging is not meant to be insulting or hurt feelings. The intent is to change the way the woman sees you, not the way she sees herself. A PUA would never want to associate himself with actual negative feelings.
I'm not in pick up. I think it's cringey in many ways, but I'm also not into bullshit.
Niirai ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:09:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Actually upon further research I agree with you. Pick up artists describe it as a tactic to make themselves stand out from all the other men by being dismissive and careful not to be too negative. And my disagreement with the guy was not about it not being a dick but about it coming off a playful jab.
I think the core psychology behind it is to inflate your own self worth by attacking another's. Which I personally don't feel good about, it's not nearly as evil as people make it out to be especially when done like pick up artists describe.
However in practice, most people who apply this strategy are either inexperienced with it and come off as assholes like the guy in the post. Or know how to effectively use it but embrace the objectification part of women with it.
Which brings me back to the point I was trying to make in my previous post, intent. It's called negging for a reason. There is negativity in there, as subtle as it may be done by professionals.
The big problem with the term is that it's been so wrapped up in heated opinions and controversy that it's original and singular meaning has all but disappeared. I mean the guy above us got down voted simply for trying to give an explanation. The meanings of words change and I think the public's definition of the word negging is more synonymous with the guy in the picture than it is with how pick up artists describe it.
"Negging" is a haggling tactic too. "Oh, that thing? It's not worth much..." (Yes it is.) It's an attempt to get a better price in that context, or perhaps trick an ignorant person out of getting proper compensation for a valuable antique.
I've heard bad personal trainers try to do this too. "Oh your form sucks! You need me". Or other marketers.
maybe people use it in different ways, but the basic idea is just an insult.
[deleted] ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 19:26:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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ashok36 ยท 51 points ยท Posted at 19:31:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I really hate that people conflate explanation with approval or defense of stuff. They are not the same.
[deleted] ยท -14 points ยท Posted at 19:32:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:02:45 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Why not just say "Is this your real hair color?" "yes it is why?" "I think it looks great on you, etc etc"
or just say you like the hair color and skip the stupid question because it's obvious when someone has their hair painted
ashok36 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:47:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well, that's what a normal person would do, yeah. We're talking about jerkoffs that can't talk to women without resorting to manipulation.
That's basically what they did. They just dressed it up with a lot of hateful misogynistic rationalizations after the fact because they couldn't believe they could get a women's approval without somehow "tricking" them.
Nertez ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 19:54:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Dude, get ready for downvotes. Reddit doesn't like to be explained that their wrong idea of negging is actual flirting and not "manipulating women into having sex with you" (whatever THAT means). Been there, done that.
Actual flirting would be teasing instead of negging. Shit like negging is for people with poor social skills who are trying to manipulate a social interaction to go to their way.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:25:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Negging is teasing.
Shit like negging is for people with poor social skills who are trying to manipulate a social interaction to go to their way.
Yes, that's exactly what it is. Just like teasing is a way for people with good social skills, who pick up on it naturally without needing to be taught, to manipulate a social interaction to go their way.
What should someone with poor social skills do - continue to have poor social skills and accept that social interactions won't go their way? Or should they learn social skills? But, wait, wouldn't learning social skills be manipulative? No? Then, what if "negging" is actually a social skill? No! Couldn't be! It must be an evil plot hatched by men to lower women's self esteem.
amyslays ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 20:20:07 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
People thought you were advocating negging?
Pro-negging?
That's not at all what I took away from that comment. Upvote from me.
Also reverse compliments are the best way to not get laid.
e_z_p_z_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:53:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
you only need it to work like 10% of the time
GaySwans ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:34:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like "negging" is widely misunderstood. You don't insult people, you tease them. It can help break the ice to tease someone. It's the difference between saying something like, "wow your hair is ugly," and "you know, I might think you were cute if that potato chip wasn't stuck in your hair." If someone walks up and says that with a big smile, it's funny and disarming.
It makes it a bit funnier that while it may technically be correct (not actually sure), I've never heard anyone who actually knew what they were talking about call it an "over and under." They just call it an over under or sometimes written as over/under.
I might be overthinking this, but it seems like he only brought it up to sound smart in the first place. Certainly anybody who talks about them regularly wouldn't bother saying the "and".
GTBlues ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 17:43:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I want to know that too. I googled it and it was something about sports betting odds and I'm none the wiser. Hopefully some kind person will explain it to us!
mreed911 ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 17:46:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Shotgun.
GTBlues ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 18:16:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry, I still don't understand. I thought shotgun meant getting the passenger seat in a car?
Just googled "over under" myself. Got a bunch of results for split underwater photography.
mreed911 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 18:46:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre still not familiar with the origin of the phrase โriding shotgun.โ It literally came from the guy on a stagecoach riding up front with a shotgun.
GTBlues ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 18:58:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No, I knew the term but I didn't know the origin. I like it though! That makes sense and is interesting! :)
Youโre still not familiar with the origin of the phrase โriding shotgun.โ
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No, I knew the term but I didn't know the origin.
GTBlues ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:25:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I knew the term as it relates to cars in American language, all I was saying that it was interesting to know that it related to stagecoaches and that the person who was holding the shotgun wouldn't be able to hold the reins at the same time and I was just saying that it was an interesting thing to learn.
What you're thinking of is just called an over/under. Basically a way of saying what you think the ballpark estimation of something will be. Like the over/under on a coin flip is 50%, for a super simple example
Over/under is usually only used for point totals. Like the over/under for the Chicago/Minny game might be 45.5 points, if they hit 46 or more it's over, 45 and less it's under.
It works with anything where the total number is unknown or is a big number where the final result falls somewhere in between. Total points scored, percentage of votes received, number of beers drank, etc.
What someone calls an over-under that doesn't really know what he's talking about.
As others have said, it a double barrel shotgun that instead of side by side barrels there's one on top and one on bottom. Over-unders are easier to lead targets with since you don't have to adjust for horizontal lead like you do side by sides.
mreed911 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 17:46:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
An overโunder or over/under (O/U) bet is a wager in which a sportsbook will predict a number for a statistic in a given game (usually the combined score of the two teams), and bettors wager that the actual number in the game will be either higher or lower than that number. For example, in Super Bowl XXXIX, most Las Vegas casinos set the overโunder for the score of the game at 46.0. A bettor could wager that the combined score of the two teams would be either more than or less than that number. Since the combined score of that game was 45, anyone who had bet on "under" won.
I guess I assumed that saying youโre the life of a party is the same thing. There should be a sub for that if it doesnโt get categorized under niceguys. /r/imgreatatparties.
G_man252 ยท 51 points ยท Posted at 20:24:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
'Oh my God you used an acronym? Youre so childish' That dumbass probably had no idea what it meant and has such a low self esteem that he took it as some kind of slight.
He probably didnโt realize he was talking to the wrong person, and then was in so deep he had to try to brush it off with the โeven so...โ after she said she wasnโt one.
Wait, wouldn't that make the awful ones normal, if they were the most common? ;)
blosweed ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:56:31 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Lol there's just a high percentage of awful people using tinder to boost their ego. Most girls just talk to you giving one word answers and then dip when you try to make plans.
Don't give up just because you had to talk to one douche. There are a lot of guys out there that would be more than happy to get a date with you, I'm sure.
Don't let one asshole discourage you.
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 18:59:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Dude I hate these people. The dudes who correct your grammar on the comments of a twitch stream... The dudes who think girls should only behave in a manner that they see fit
.. I hate these people.
I googled "over and under" and I found "A crude sexually pleasuring move that you can get cheap where the said prostitute doesn't actually have to touch your genatalia"
"LMAO LOL". isn't that redundant? And doing exactly what he said is unattractive.
Bro. If you come here and read this. We are all laughing AT you. You're a fucking joke on the internet now. If you got kids I hope they laugh at you behind your back.
Me4Prez ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:04:35 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
and the old classic ROFL
[deleted] ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 21:04:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So the cringe part is that you used Reddit language on Tinder right?
[deleted] ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 21:34:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 21:37:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm glad at least 2 other people felt that way. It doesn't bother me on reddit to read stuff like that, even if it is way overdone, but if someone tried to text me like that, I'd get a weird "I'm quirky" vibe.
Its pretty easy to see that hes using LOL and LMAO in a mocking fashion because he uses the crying laughing emojis after. I really doubt that he would just contradict himself like that
You'd have to be very insecure to make a big deal about one little thing. No wonder he's still looking. Good luck finding a woman who can put up with your insecurities, mate. You're gonna need it.
Idarola ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:04:15 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You have to respect a guy who uses a mirror cell phone selfie as his profile picture and still feels superior enough to start attacking a common abbreviation as "Child text speak".
I mean, that is the very definition of having cajones.
He tells someone to "Google it", giving off the impression that he can't be bothered to explain something, but then questions something immediately after.
He (apparently) already knows what TIL means but questions it anyway.
He tells her using acronyms is childish yet proceeds to use two in a row (childish emojis included).
This guy is a walking oxymoron, emphasis on the "moron".
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:29:16 on October 13, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I got a girl like this today. I was just messing around making some lighthearted jokes and she goes "I'm not into sarcasm or dry humor. I'm into serious conversations. I just got out of a three year relationship. What are your interests?"
Yes, she put the extra spaces after the periods. I did the only reasonable thing and kept making sarcastic, dry comments to her until she unmatched me.
This dude can get matches but I only get bots? Hmmm
Mr-Klaus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:01:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Probably the same kind of guy who doesn't understand why women go for the "bad boys" instead of r/niceguys like him. Wouldn't be surprised if he also a member of the r/Incels club.
I don't understand why people hate "text speech". I can understand that in a formal text text speech would be inappropriate and childish but I don't mind using it with friends/family as long as it's not excessive.
Ahh the classic suit in front of the mirror selfie. What a stud.
bisjac ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:56:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
i still dont know what smh is. i see it 50 times a day on reddit and fake like i know whats up. nor have i taken 10 seconds to look it up :D part of me knows i will never google it, i will own it.
Because I know how Reddit works, here's what I'm predicting: Some gigantic dipshit is going to comment with some form of "paranormal just means things we don't understand," because he's actually an idiot and it's a lot easier to argue the semantics of what 'Paranormal' than it is to convince anyone that ghosts exist.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:21:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
As much as I dislike when people use internet memes and acronyms "IRL", it's not really out of place here. You dodged a bullet. This dude would have berated your children in public for speaking out of turn.
I think it's funny that it's basically forbidden for one of the sexes to rule out potential mates over silly inconsequential things, while it's completely celebrated and normal for the other sex to do it.
kryptx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:44:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What I really want is a woman whose dignity is inalienable, who is single solely because she has such high standards, only I am good enough for them. A woman who understands I can't be dressed up all the time, so I gotta take the mirror selfies when I can. A woman who drinks the finest herbal teas, not too hot, and not too cold. Where would I find her? What method is this woman using to seek me out?
Wow that's kind of sad. He's probably some sad cuck who has been walked all over by the women in his life (probably his mother) and somehow thinks it's okay to be a dick to women he doesn't know at all.
ste6168 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:56:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
drew442 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:00:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Xiaomi phones have a scrolling screenshot option, you take a screenshot and then you can scroll in whatever app you're screenshoting do it makes one contiguous screen grab.
This sub will be amazing once all phones have that feature.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:15:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
maybe people like this get super elitist over the way they talk because talking is the only skill they have, so they don't get to be elitist about anything else?
Itโs nice that Reddit is around to provide forums for the public shaming of dotards like this. Maybe over the long run itโll change behavior for the better.
untakenu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:38:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Says 'TIL' is childish text speak, then says 'LMAO LOL'
TIL that in addition to being actually unattractive, I am additionally unattractive for using TIL. And I'm over 39
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:21:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
A one man crusade against "child text speak", aka; acryonyms.
This was actually a pretty common attitude when I was a teen. Using acronyms or any kind of "online speak" was considered "childish". Nowadays with the rise of smart phones it's a bit different but this guy's holding out on the 90s and early 00s mentality.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:21:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Over and under is cumbersome to say. Us children in the know abbreviate it to O/U
You can just say "the thing you are holding in your second pic". You are trying to tell this woman this thing called "google" exists and she can use it to verify information?
But he said lmao and lol.... Now I'm confused. Is he saying that he's not attracted to her because she's at his level of childishness? Which means that he prefers women "older" than him?
The real question is what the hell is an over and under
SKNZ_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:55:05 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I might be incorrect but in Nz over and unders are double barrel shotguns, the ones with the barrels vertical rather than the iconic side by side double barrel shotgun.
It's just "over under", and like SKNZ says, it's a shotgun. Two barrels stacked vertically, generally with a two-trigger set, one for each barrel. EDIT - actually the two-trigger setup is a bit of an anachronism... older side-by-side or over/under shotguns are likely to have dual triggers, while more modern implementations of the two-barrel shotgun almost always have a single trigger which acts on one hammer after the other in two successive pulls.
I really need to go to the US. The bar for how bad the conversation can go and still get an earnest reply from an attractive woman is so much lower. Not says no that as a bad thing โ British girls are like Abras
Someone used an abbreviation while typing on a two inch wide keyboard that they have to use their fingers for. Better belittle them and call their worth as a person into question.
The people on that app seem to be so misogynistic, narcissistic, and desperate. Itโs like everyone they talk to is suppose to cater to exactly what they were expecting out of them or they feel they have the right to start insulting them. Either that or I feel like theyโre upset about their dating life and go on literally to pick on random strangers to vent in their own sick way.
I also see that it refers to a bet or wager probability or something like that.
Just saying in case the guy was being crude and then putting her down for shortening a phrase. Although it doesn't sound like it was intended or taken as crude
TezzaMcJ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:27:52 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You're 39, surely you can get your point across without having to resort to speaking like a child.
Exact previous message
LMAO LOL (EMOJI)(EMOJI)(EMOJI)(EMOJI)
ndewing ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:34:56 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's weird, he was solid until he started acting like a total asshole.
I understand that people are annoyed with dumb text language, but TIL I'd say is far from dumb text language. Also, I'm biased because TIL is all over Reddit lol lmao haha.
while he unquestionably sucks, i've never met anyone who was remotely amusing who uses "you must be fun at parties" it's the laziest most generic response, get creative with it
You're saying using acronyms shows someone has "a better personality" and I'm saying it shows nothing. I'm not implying there's a problem with it at all if that's what you think.
Well from my experience, people who use โlmaoโ, โlolโ, and even โlolzโ are people who have good personalities, are nice, and tend to be humorous in person.
People who donโt use such acronyms related to laughing are more laid back and less expressive in person and more serious.
[deleted] ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 21:53:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I've had this response from women several times, some even have it in their bio. Some people just don't like lazy text chat. Don't see a problem with it, everyone has a right to have their own standards. Except men of course, according to half the people in this thread. Creepy motherfucking men that don't want to fuck anything that moves. Creepy ass guys that have standards. Bet he's a serial killer.
[deleted] ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 03:22:41 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Saved comment
Liesmith424 ยท 1238 points ยท Posted at 20:44:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"I"m very much the life and soul of the party."
Narrator: "He was very much not."
Soundtravels ยท 194 points ยท Posted at 23:40:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Why can i hear the voice perfectly?
SaintNack ยท 147 points ยท Posted at 07:15:43 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I heard the narrator from Arrested Development
[deleted] ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 11:57:06 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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delrio56 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 16:12:06 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I just saw Hitchhiker's guide to the galaxy so I heard Stephen Fry
odth123456 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:38:50 on October 13, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He really wasn't.
Joona1410 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 15:26:30 on October 20, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I heard the one from The Stanley Parable.
zezo510 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:35:02 on November 11, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone did!!!
K_Pumpkin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:53:21 on October 15, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Older thread but had to add
I heard the narrator from the Grinch who Stole Christmas.
Julian_Assad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:10 on December 3, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I heard the narrator from Sarah & Duck.
tony_spumoni ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 00:17:20 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Was it Morgan Freeman March of the Penguins-style or Richard Dreyfuss Stand by Me-style? Everyone always says Morgan Freeman, but for me it's always Richard Dreyfuss.
[deleted] ยท 48 points ยท Posted at 00:29:26 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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Liesmith424 ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 00:39:28 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's who dictated the comment to me.
Ymir_from_Saturn ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:25:49 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The comedic style of a narrator directly contradicting a character's line is most recently popular from AD, so you are definitely not alone in that.
ThisNameIsFree ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:17:17 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This is the correct answer.
MiklaneTrane ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:00:28 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I heard Ralph Fiennes and a Wes Anderson-esque score in the background.
pHScale ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:26:10 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm hearing the narrator from The Sandlot
Soundtravels ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:33:42 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Morgan freeman-esque but not his exact voice. That raspy, rumbly wise voice.
Tsorovar ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:48:47 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The narrator is standing behind you?
GeekoSuave ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:28:12 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Damn nobody got my narrator. Mine was Hitchhiker's Guide to the Universe's narrator.
TGBGM1ndless ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:56:16 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Because you made it so
OhDeerieMe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:35:52 on October 12, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I heard the narrator from the early Harry Potter games haha
Spizak ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:42:52 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You win sir.
joettshowbiz ยท 9629 points ยท Posted at 17:41:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Telling a girl what is and isn't attractive has to be one of the most 0/10 strategies I've ever seen
overlordpotatoe ยท 2570 points ยท Posted at 20:42:47 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He's trying to set up a relationship between the two of them where she's on the defensive and constantly wanting to prove herself to him. If he finds a woman who will put up with this, he'll know she's someone he will be able to manipulate.
RobotPolarbear ยท 666 points ยท Posted at 21:36:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This exactly.
I fell for this sort of thing when I was young and had very low self-esteem.
Contemporarium ยท 212 points ยท Posted at 01:32:11 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Hey, me too! Fuck yeah low self esteem issues that bleed into adult life and make you hate yourself more than you knew you could possibly hate anyth-
I mean..lol that sucks
lizzyb187 ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 03:24:23 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Does the bleeding ever stop? I'm about to bleed to death.
Ostmeistro ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 05:48:29 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, you'll be fine just hang on
mutatersalad1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:39:32 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Deep.
yamiatworky ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:44:27 on October 11, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I hear once you're old and a walking paper husk it kind of dries up into a thick crust.
Honestly though? Most of us are bleeding. But it does get better (for lack of a better cliche). Or... Better yet, it CAN get better. Or at least you can staunch it a bit and seal up some of the most infectious or noxious of wounds. Takes effort and labor and it's shitty and it's painful and sometimes new wounds manifest... but it can get better.
Contemporarium ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:51:02 on October 11, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Why the fuck would I want to do all that work when I can sit here and feel sorry for myself
ryatt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:13:29 on October 11, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You use the word "Fuck"? How childish...FOR A TEACHER! Wanna go out you pice of crap? Your treat.
Contemporarium ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:49:17 on October 11, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yes. VALIDATE ME
ryatt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:01:32 on October 11, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Lololol...btw If you have a sister let her know that everything she cares about is pointless and stupid, you know, just in case things dont work out between us.
Contemporarium ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:06:27 on October 11, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well I'm a guy so I guess JOKES ON YOU FAGGOjust kidding please don't leave me you're all I care about
ryatt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:21:19 on October 11, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I couldnt quit u bby
Fearstruk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:58:43 on October 13, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
My wife suffers from terrible self esteem. Her entire childhood she wasn't allowed to have an opinion. If she ever expressed an opinion or idea it was shit on. Then in her previous marriage her ex would do the same thing. She was expected to be fine with anything he did, including disappearing for days at a time while he went on a drug binge. Even when we met I could tell she was timid and I thought she was just an easy going person. She is those things but not in a healthy way, she won't voice her opinion even when she disagrees with me. So now I don't make any decisions without asking her opinion, including something as small as what's for dinner. She's slowly getting better about it and I've seen her confidence go up dramatically now that she's realizing she's full of great ideas and shocker, they're often better than mine. She loves feeling valued and included and it warms my heart when I can see the satisfaction on her face.
Contemporarium ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:40:17 on October 13, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm very jealous but I'm glad she was able to find someone as good as you
Fearstruk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:09:19 on October 13, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Hah! Tell her that when her pregnant ass can't sleep at 3 in the morning because she can't get comfortable so she wakes me up and says in a demonic voice "You did this to me!!!"
taintpaint ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:46:27 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think pretty much everyone falls into this sort of dynamic at some point or another, be it romantically, professionally, or just among friends. It's an archetype of human interaction that's pretty much everywhere. If you ever, as an adult, listen to a group of teenagers talk to each other you'll notice they all pretty much exclusively communicate in attempts to do this.
RobotPolarbear ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 19:44:31 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I get what you are saying, but it is a very different thing when it's done as the basis of a romantic relationship. This is how many abusive relationships begin.
taintpaint ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:24:05 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that the gravity of it is always the same. Just that that particular kind of predatory dynamic can exist on a spectrum in a lot of places.
Ubereem ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:28:50 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Hey your reply is ugly. Any man that finds it attractive... good luck with them.
chelclc16 ยท 133 points ยท Posted at 01:57:19 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm pretty sure this is a main strategy for guys who subscribe to, 'The Red Pill,' philosophy
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:08:45 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Are you talking about the movie? What does that have to do with this?
mdmrzk ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:30:30 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/
Basically some sexist male dominance shit from what I've heard.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:46:56 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ooooh these types, they've got some good points but I think they get way too cought up in the "correct" way to be a man. I'm all for self improvement but All that beta and alpha male shit is just toxic. it's not about male dominance I think, they just oppose a lot of the ideas that come from feminism
JenifaO ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:31:33 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This girl just got reprimanded at work for being wildly inappropriate and just performing bad in general and she couldn't handle it. She left and within the hour had a rant about everyone being intimidated by an alpha female. It belongs on r/insanepeoplefacebook
mdmrzk ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:56:54 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Problem is, their ideology is to improve their self confidence by shaming their partner. A alpha male never compliments a girl, or thanks her for her work, for an alpha male, what a girl do is never enough. That shit is not self improvement, you're not building yourself, it's just a toxic relationship recipe.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:23:25 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah some of them are genuine mysoginists, i just ignore those. but for most of them the main point is that you should take responsibility for your life. And that's pretty good advice. They all just tend to get caught up in how to take responsibility, and if you don't meet their idea of the perfect man you're just a beta
thelizardkin ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:06:44 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Also used by many conservatives, like on the Donald.
Mintuteman_ ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:37:00 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Gotta politicize everything these days
thelizardkin ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:55:31 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm just saying it's a commonly used term by them, used to mean waking up to the "truth" of society. I don't agree with them, but that's the logic.
Ciao_patsy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:28:56 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Nothing, I guess they were trying to be edgy maybe?
[deleted] ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 01:10:07 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What the fuck.
badjohnbad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:03:55 on October 11, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Worthwhile post
Fe_Vegan_420_Slayer1 ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 00:26:19 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
or he's just like an asshole with no ability to self-analyze.
godzilla_killa ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:02:16 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah seriously. This dude is probably just socially awkward. I really doubt he's got some grand scheme.
Ymir_from_Saturn ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 01:23:33 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Even if it wasn't an intentional attempt at manipulation, it's a bit more than being socially awkward. The guy comes off as a total asshole.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:55:26 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's a bit beyond "socially awkward" and into "complete arsehole", but I agree he's probably not going for anything clever here.
lolihull ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:36:34 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Socially awkward guys do tend to be the ones who flock to those online self help sites and communities that advocate techniques like this though. When you're a woman on a dating site you get negged so often it's hard to tell whos doing it because they're oblivious and who's doing it because they've read that it's how you make women want you.
weeblewobble82 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:31:54 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He's definitely not self-analyzing if he's getting on her for using "TIL" and following his criticism up with "LMAO" and "LOL" as if that's more acceptable
Astrologian ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:28:14 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I wouldn't put it past him, or anyone, but maybe he's just an asshole?
EDIT: I just realized he'd be an asshole either way haha.
harlanjs ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:03:43 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Telling someone to "google it" after making a reference that's not common knowledge is a pretty big red flag.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:02:24 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for the advice!
Raziel66 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:00:34 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Man, that hits hard. I just got out of an almost three year relationship like this.
jkwolly ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:38:36 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So fucking creepy.
italianpoetess ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:56:48 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Red pill shit?
Evilpessimist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:18:16 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Or heโs really not interested and just being an ass.
hopelessurchin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:37:15 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's also a good indicator they'll let him continue after Mac bursts in trying to see her naked.
touching_payants ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:14:41 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
People who do that seduce you with their charming personalities first. No one's abusive as a pick-up line: they convince you they're nice guys first, thereby convincing you that you must be the problem.
kaptainkomkast ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 03:26:55 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I fell into this kind of abuse as well. Women do this to us guys more than the other way around nowadays, I think. We're all trying to be so nice and sensitive, and we let the gals take advantage of us.
VodkaBarf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:24:18 on October 15, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
/r/niceguys
Thrumpledenoozitty ยท 1501 points ยท Posted at 18:37:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If you were the only dude on Tinder it might work? Acting like you're not just one of 50 matches she got that day.
[deleted] ยท 404 points ยท Posted at 20:47:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
haha 50
Large_Dr_Pepper ยท 662 points ยท Posted at 22:17:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ikr right? No way a chick who uses child text speak is getting 50 matches in a day. And if she does get that many matches... Good luck with them.
BlackRobedMage ยท 209 points ยท Posted at 23:49:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"50"?
I didn't know they let children in this sub to reply to threads. I must have said it one-hundred and forty-three times, It's really unattractive when people use child speak for numbers.
aberrasian ยท 127 points ยท Posted at 01:19:21 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"It's"?
Surely you can get your point across without resorting to using childish contractions. LMAO LOL :) :) :)
BlackRobedMage ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 03:55:53 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Contractions are actually a sign of intelligent usage of space.
Or going into labor.
One of those.
fite_me_fgt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:57:27 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Depending on who you ask, those might be the same thing.
BlackRobedMage ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:46:31 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well, they don't call it The Mother Land for nothing.
oOshwiggity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:57:58 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
hahaha, resorting to childish number spellings. There is only an "and" if there is a decimal - it should be "one-hundred forty-three" - ohhohohohosnootsnootsnorf
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 23:14:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No kidding, anyone with a brain would instantly find her unattractive.
cipher__ten ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 23:48:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I have an IQ of 150 so I only date women with an IQ between 145 and 149.9
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 23:54:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That low? Anyone I date has to be above 160. But props to you for slumming it.
SovietK ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:29:26 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
To be fair,
jzmacdaddy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:23:53 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
ROFLOL
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:25:10 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ah dang it! I was going to ask you out but you just blew your chance.
haragoshi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:04:54 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Nice over and under by the way
RoyBattyLives ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 21:40:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Meanwhile, average dude gets like 1 every few days? It's sad
Trucidar ยท 65 points ยท Posted at 21:59:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Personally, I think 1 person who seems to have actually found something interesting about you probably beats 50 who only swiped cause you have female parts.
[deleted] ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 22:01:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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cheeeeeese ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:04:47 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
yeah but shes too thick
kellykebab ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 00:45:08 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, it's really obvious that the 1 girl who randomly swiped on you per 200 profiles is really into you and isn't just a sheer matter of probability. You can tell by how they flip out when you message them.
RoyBattyLives ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:55:57 on October 11, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
NO thanks bro: https://i.imgur.com/Brl42KH.jpg
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 22:45:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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the_number_2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:03:13 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's 100% because you're on a college campus.
DetectiveCactus ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 00:02:44 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Step 1. Be attractive
Step 2. Don't be unattractive
RiversBromo ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 22:53:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Not gonna lie I miss the mid to late 2013 tinder days where everyone accepted it was a hook-up app
Life was easier back then...
RoyBattyLives ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:56:23 on October 11, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It really was dude.
Chaotic-Catastrophe ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:55:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I've gotten five this month
Dr_Stranglelove ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 22:25:52 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You don't have to brag
Chaotic-Catastrophe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:54:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's only because I used boosts. If it makes you feel any better, I measaged all five and only one responded. Because it doesn't make me feel any better.
Meanwhile on Bumble, I've gotten exactly one match all month.
the_number_2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:02:43 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Bumble "ran out of matches" for me.
I haven't matched with anyone.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 00:24:49 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Dude I get five a day atleast with boost. And im a fat guy.
Fix your profile
Chaotic-Catastrophe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:00:13 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Bots don't count
ScienceYouMonster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:55:52 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
As someone who's been accused of being a bot a few times... maaaaaybe there aren't as many "bots" as everyone assumes and it's preventing genuine matches from happening.
Unless calling women bots is some new negging technique I'm behind on?
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:20:24 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's his way of dealing with this appearent unattractiveness. Since anyone who doesn't respond to him is a bot.
Chaotic-Catastrophe ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:01:09 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
There definitely are that many bots.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:58:32 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty sure theyre not bots
Doigenunchi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:35:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Same. 3 didn't respond and the other two I haven't messeged because they're hella far away
RHPR07 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:15:23 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Damn that sucks guys. Iโve got about 200 matches that I havenโt messaged and I get about 5 every time I open the app....
ScienceYouMonster ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:57:19 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I genuinely can't believe it's that bad unless their pictures are all blurry/horrible angles and their profile is empty and they're just sending "hey." But granted, there are tons of profiles just like that.
RHPR07 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:37:44 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Stop. I like thinking Iโm pretty.
UrsulaMajor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:33:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I've gotten two in the last year. RIP me I guess
the_number_2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:04:46 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Not counting bots, I've gotten two... ever, one stopped responding after one message and the other unmatched before I could even draft a message.
DetectiveCactus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:02:09 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I've been on tinder for a few months. Haven't gotten one match. And it's not like I'm picky who I swipe right on... Its almost everyone.
the_number_2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:03:53 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That must make me below average.
WAY below average.
Painfully below average.
UnknownStory ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:55:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
In a remote location in Antartica, maybe
Chaotic-Catastrophe ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:55:07 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Stop, stop....I can only get so depressed
CedarCabPark ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 21:27:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think its hilarious that the redpill subreddit believes shit like that too
the_number_2 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 00:07:20 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I can understand the spirit of presenting the best you and seeming mature, professional, and collected, and even being honest about your expectations and straightforward that you're not looking to waste time.
But the execution... MY GOD the execution is incredibly poor. There's a time and a place to let someone know you respect someone that uses a stronger-than-average vocabulary. Pre-first date isn't it.
kellykebab ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:45:58 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It doesn't
PS_karina ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:00:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Not even then.
Evilpessimist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:21 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
After about age 35, the tables flip pretty hard. Single, employed, age appropriate, in shape men are in the drivers seat.There are way more single women looking for a guy than the other way around in that age bracket.
I think this guy is a douche, donโt think Iโm defending him.
Thrumpledenoozitty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:23:10 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I dunno man, I'm 41 and female and it's staggering the number of likes I get per day (I have Tinder Gold). When guys try to be a dick I just unmatch. I literally have hundreds of others behind them to choose from, from today alone. Nobody is getting desperate over here. Then again I only date younger guys. You're right that the quality on Tinder of guys who are my age is...lacking.
FirstNamesMusic ยท 629 points ยท Posted at 19:22:31 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The only way to top this:
Tell a girl how smart you are, WHILE Vaping a cloud in her face.
works 12/10 times
PerfectiveVerbTense ยท 395 points ยท Posted at 19:57:45 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I love that the thing I used to finally quit smoking after a decade of cigarettes is considered even worse than being a total asshole to a stranger.
mjoed ยท 182 points ยท Posted at 20:14:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
yeah, it sucks so much man. it's much more accepted to smoke than to vape, which is so fucking weird and idiotic.
soodeau ยท 188 points ยท Posted at 21:08:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I have a friend who vapes and comes outside with us when we go smoke. He has never mentioned it to me, never brags about it, doesn't blow crazy obnoxious clouds, and never does it indoors.
I have a friend who vapes anywhere we go unless there is a sign specifically forbidding it, and he is constantly trying to get other people to try his new flavors even though none of us like vaping.
We only clown one of those dudes.
atm0 ยท 44 points ยท Posted at 21:48:52 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I honestly don't know how people can rip huge clouds in public and not be embarrassed if it's anywhere other than a vape shop. I have a mod/atomizer that's a pretty big cloud chaser combo, but I just love the flavor and airflow combination. When I'm out and vaping outside the bar or something I never take huge rips because then it looks ridiculous when you have this huge cloud blowing down the street while everyone else is puffing small little bits of smoke out. I know how annoyed I get by other people who vape doing it and try to avoid it as much as possible.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 22:28:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:07:52 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Can't you just do the thing where you can make it harder to inhale and you get less smoke?
I basically only use mine in private so I don't actually know lol
UnlimitedOsprey ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:14:45 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Not really. I use a sub ohm coil, so I don't want to use it on a lower setting and have it taste shitty. Much easier to just control my smoke and not be a dick than risk burning out a coil on the way to or home from classes.
panella_monster ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:10:09 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Totally agree. I went back to using a vape pen recently because I hated how on mods, it's much easier to end up with lots of.juice in your mouth. Makes me gag. Plus the pen is less bulkey and had a much smaller cloud. Sometimes vaping is amazing, especially for people not wanting to smoke anymore, but the stigma around it does seem warranted when you see the people you mentioned.
Bartleby_TheScrivene ยท 79 points ยท Posted at 20:52:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The tobacco lobby is at it again.
Evisrayle ยท 207 points ยท Posted at 21:27:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I really think it's just a case of a small group creating a cast for the majority.
Like, think about it. Most vegans are probably fine. In fact, you likely don't even know most of them are vegans at all. And yet the joke "How can you tell if someone is a vegan? They'll tell you!" is a thing. Of course the people you know are vegan probably mentioned it at some point; why else would you know?
Look at Rick and Morty. This is the first time I've ever mentioned the show in a comment, yet the fans have a reputation for talking incessantly about it. Well, frigging duh, of course the ones you hear talking about it are talking about it. And you don't know that the ones that aren't talking about it are fans. So 100% of the people you know are fans talk about the show -- by definition. It's a glaring sampling bias.
Same thing with people that smoke weed.
And liberals.
And redditors.
And crossfitters.
And conservatives.
And, like, everything else, man.
Similarly, the vape... ers... that you know vape are probably the ones that are most obnoxious about it, so you associate "vaping" with "being obnoxious about vaping" when, in reality, they're the tip of the vape-berg.
I really don't think a smear campaign was necessary. We just sort of do it, ourselves.
Conbz ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 23:08:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I like this comment. It's just a well composed explanation of a thing that humans do and as a self-contained post it reads particularly well.
Just thought I'd mention it.
NotElizaHenry ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 22:00:52 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Still, though, somehow smokers manage to get left off that list. When an asshole lights up in your house without asking, he's just an asshole, not one of those cigarette douches. When someone starts vaping in a restaurant, it's because ALL people who vape are douches.
[deleted] ยท 44 points ยท Posted at 22:42:07 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This is like, some straight up victim complex shit. Ya it's kind of a joke on Reddit but in the real world smoking is much more heavily frowned upon than vaping. You light up in somebody's house, I guaran-fucking-tee the reaction is going to be "goddamn fucking smokers..."
People literally screen out smokers for dates. I've never once seen a Tinder profile that says "no vapers" but probably 3 out of every 10 say "no smokers." People won't want to ride in your car, will make comments about how you smell after you come inside from a cigarette, nag you to quit, give you dirty looks if your smoke gets on them, the list goes on and on.
the_number_2 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 00:11:39 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
As a smoker, I feel like most smokers respect where they smoke and generally take steps to not bother anyone (mostly because we've heard the rhetoric and we know it's bad, so we just avoid the conversation by being respectful). Vapers, on the other hand, haven't quite developed that courtesy because, "Bro, it's just water" and don't think they're being a nuisance.
Kharing-Sharing ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 00:41:23 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Vapers don't stink of cigarette smoke. I will take a vaper over a smoker any day.
Evisrayle ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:49:47 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, sure, if it's one or the other, most reasonable people would probably choose to be in a secondhand vape cloud than a secondhand smoke cloud.
But it's not one or the other.
NotElizaHenry ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 22:49:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I dunno, man. I switched from smoking to vaping about a year ago and even though I have a tiny little vape that I NEVER talk about, I still get tons of shit about it if I do it in public. Not to mention how every time I cough I get some pointed comment about how it's probably all the chemicals I'm putting in my lungs, and half the time it's from actual smokers. Sometimes I get so sick of it that I switch to cigarettes when I'm out at a bar.
s3attlesurf ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:05:18 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If you lit up a cigarette in a restaurant and I could smell it, I'd tell you to put your shit out or leave. If you vape in a restaurant and I could smell it, I'd tell you to stop vaping or leave. Repeat for any public space where smoking is not permitted. IDGAF if you're smoking or vaping, it's all fucking gross and I don't want to inhale your second-hand death. Respect others and be respected yourself.
sabasco_tauce ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 00:27:08 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Number one. There is no such thing as second hand vaping. Number two. Vaping is not deadly. Vaping in closed spaces where there are other people is still most certainly a bad idea and not courteous, but don't go around saying it's killing you like second hand smoke can
s3attlesurf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:07:59 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's nicotine vapor, which is still pretty bad for your heart. It's certainly healthier to be breathing second-hand vape rather than second-hand smoke, by several orders of magnitude I'd imagine, but I don't really want to be inhaling any nicotine... even minute quantities of it. I don't know that there's much scientific evidence to prove whether or not second-hand vape is linked to any sort of heart disease; still, I imagine in an enclosed space, prolonged second-hand vape would probably have a tangible effect.
Evisrayle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:35:14 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Nicotine, itself, is not correlated to heart disease associated with smoking.
Bartleby_TheScrivene ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:21:18 on October 11, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If I recall correctly, nicotine has some health benefits such as suppressed appetite.
sabasco_tauce ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:18:52 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You sound like a big tobacco shill. You cannot get even trace amounts of nicotine from "secondhand vaping". Also mentioning the effects of nicotine on your heart might sound scary and all, but people will go right ahead and drink energy drinks and coffee all day long
Evisrayle ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:16:37 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
โSecondhand vape clouds are probably less harmful than secondhand smoke by orders of magnitude, but I donโt want ANY fucking nicotine anywhere near me.โ
โYou sound like a Big Tobacco shill.โ
...Fucking kidding me?
sabasco_tauce ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:19:35 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
There is a difference between not doing something out of courtesy and not doing something out of endangerment of others. Smoking falls under both categories, vaping under one.
Evisrayle ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:31:16 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Every study I can find indicates that exhaled vapor contains more than โtrace amounts ofโ nicotine, which has assuredly not been established as safe (nor, for the sake of academic integrity, has it been established as โparticularlyโ dangerous, though it does have known negative effects, including increased blood pressure and the induction of abnormal heart rhythms โ the research is ongoing).
You arenโt in a position to say โsure, itโs totally safeโ. No one knows that, today. Perhaps itโs just a courtesy, but itโs the courtesy of respecting someone saying โHey, I donโt know if that stuff is harmful or not, and I donโt want to inhale it until thatโs establishedโ โ which is different than the courtesy of respecting someone simply saying โI donโt like thatโ. Perhaps youโre actually not breathing dangerous chemicals on people.
Admittedly, itโs still not the same as smoking, which has clearly-known negatives. That said, to act as if not blowing clouds on people is out of sheer respect for their preferences and not at all for their health is academically unsound.
sabasco_tauce ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:37:45 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
and thats the danger of vaping. People over do it because they tell themselves "hey, this isnt as dangerous as smoking!" which in and of itself can be damaging
Evisrayle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:45:25 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
In all fairness, itโs probably not as bad as smoking (which is the leading cause of preventable death in the world: the overwhelming majority of things are โnot as bad as smokingโ). Vaping may, in fact, be harmless. But... it might be harmful. We just donโt know, and thatโs the entire crux of the issue.
Every time you vape, you take an unknown risk โ and thatโs fine. Itโs your life, do with it what you want. Just donโt force anyone else to take that unknown risk with you, much as you wouldnโt force anyone else to accept the known risk of inhaling your secondhand smoke.
sabasco_tauce ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:59:48 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for the civil and insightful discussion. Hopefully others will see it and it will make them think about what they put into their body
Evisrayle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:00:50 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Likewise!
s3attlesurf ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:45:53 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Lol, you're delusional if you think I'm a shill. I agree with your second point about caffeine consumption. I do think the evidence will agree with me when I say that nicotine is worse for your heart than caffeine, though. Maybe I'm wrong, not gonna bother to research it right now. Night dawg.
sabasco_tauce ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:52:11 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Peace
p_iynx ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 00:20:34 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's not true. Smoking is still seen as more dangerous and frowned upon. Vaping stuff is just a joke, and it's mostly aimed at the people who make their entire existence about vapes.
skeron ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 22:10:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Because smoking was a thing way ahead of today's meme-culture.
Public smokers were assholes long before it was cool to make fun of them.
panrestrial ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:15:26 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Part of that might have to do with vaping being a relatively new phenomenon and smoking having been around pretty much since the dawn of humanity. Smoking has spread out, cigarettes can be bought all over etc. There isn't a cigarette subculture.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:05:26 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I once made mistake of saying "here I go killing again" during a board game when I knew that one of the players was a R&M fan. He laughed and kept repeating the joke over and over again like as if it gets funnier the third or fourth time its repeated. The he went on to other things like pickle Rick -_-
Lost-My-Mind- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:02:02 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I want to make love to your soul.
Spoonwrangler ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:50:30 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
More people in general need to read this comment.
ThanksObama92 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:27:57 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So basically what you're saying is there are a variety of different people out there all with different thoughts and opinions and some of them just happen to be annoying and dumb? Huh.
teddyr222 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:31:55 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Bring a vegetarian is a huge missed steak :/
ImReallyFuckingBored ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:52:32 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Damn Scots! They ruined Scotland!
skeron ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:09:32 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
There's liking something.
And then there's liking something so much that it completely consumes you and you adopt it as part of your personality. Then you proceed to incessantly talk about it and segway it into every conversation with people who have absolutely no interest in it.
The people that you describe fall into the first category.
The people that are satirized on the internet are the second category.
Very big, very clear difference between the two.
ender52 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:11:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It seems just like what the skateboard industry did to rollerblading.
DannoHung ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:13:31 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
https://www.google.com/search?q=vaping+competition
I do feel bad for anyone who's trying to break or modify an addiction though that they get associated with those morons.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:45:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Like most things, it absolutely depends on the manner in which it's done. Vape like a normal person, no one cares. Vape like an asshole, don't be surprised when you're called an asshole.
chris9321 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:32:45 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I used vaping to quit, and refuse to vape in public because of this. Although I hated smoking in public places before too, I think I was embarrassed or just afraid someone would come up and tell me to put it out.
Berowulf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:13:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think that's because a lot of teenagers vape just to look cool, and therefore everyone thinks that if you vape you're just trying to look cool, while in reality, you're vaping because it's better for you and because well, vaping is cool. ;)
(vaping is completely fine as long as you're not being a hipster about it and you try to like, purposely do it near people, if everyone vaped outside away from people then it wouldn't look cool, smoking cigarettes inside I think is trying to be hipster and look cool, people who do it outside though, they don't look hipster and cool, they just look like dudes outside smoking. Someday, vaping will be looked at as being as lame and boring as smoking. :))
embrex104 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:37:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think it comes from the fact that there are a lot of jerks that think they can vape anywhere and blow it into non-smoker's faces.
I have family that have no care if they are blowing it into your face or not. It absolutely infuriates me. Whereas a smoker typically goes outside or to bars/locations I do not frequent and I avoid.
JCBadger1234 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:51:09 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly. Smokers had been conditioned by years of new anti-smoking laws and shaming, to know that it would be considered beyond rude for them to not do everything they can to minimize the amount of smoke they expose non-smokers to. There still certainly are smokers who won't do that, but it's not because they don't know they'd be considered assholes....they're usually actively trying to be assholes.
Meanwhile, vapers have the people who do it to be assholes....but then also a large contingent who think that "Hey, it's not tobacco smoke" means there is absolutely nothing rude about vaping anywhere.
embrex104 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:15:04 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This exactly. I always get the "It's only water vapor!" when I complain about it. No. Water vapor doesn't smell like Swedish Fish.
freeworldslave ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 21:37:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Smoking makes you look cooler.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 23:55:19 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I have a silent burning hatred for both when jerks think bus stops are the perfect place for it. LET ME BREATHE JERKS!
Otherwise you do you, just be polite about it please.
CycIojesus ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:38:31 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
a) smokers leave and go smoke that's the only reason its "accepted"
b) its really not accepted and everyone you know and everyone you don't know will lecture you about the dangers of it like you haven't heard yet.
c) if you treated that vape like a cigarette and walked outside and a good distance from doors to go do it with the smokers i doubt anyone would care. but that's never what vapers do is it?
crunchymunchys ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 23:02:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Because it isn't a better alternative. Its just another can of soup really. Add it being popular and generally male only practice and you have a recipe for disaster
mjoed ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:17:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
oh boy, have fun with your inbox after that one.
i don't really care. i don't differentiate between vaping and smoking when it comes to where/when i do it, if i wouldn't smoke, i won't vape. and i'm not interested in it at all, i don't know which model or ohm or whatever i have - i have it and use it, that's it.
it's simply 100 times cheaper and doesn't stink up my place whatsoever. seems much "better" to me. if it's additionally "healthier", which it afaik is definitely, good shit. if not, whatever.
roboticmumbleman ยท 60 points ยท Posted at 20:10:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I feel you, but it's always the extremes of a group that portray the majority
See: The Rick and Morty McDonald's shitstorm
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:15:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
yeah! most fans of McDonald's aren't really that bad!
amyslays ยท 70 points ยท Posted at 20:06:58 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously! Yes, some people can be obnoxious with vaping but that's like anything in life.
I vape because it helped me quit smoking.
So I totally agree.
Iteration-Seventeen ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 20:22:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I vape because taking up smoking to deal with my stress was going to give me a heart attack.
And apparently 3 years smoking weed everyday made me annoyingly calm at all times(according to my wife.) So i cant do that either.
Appaloosa_Slim_Chode ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 21:55:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Life is tough,
Love is rough,
He started vaping,
But it wasn't enough
Iteration-Seventeen ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:02:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No, its great. I just fill my office with mist and then pretend im dreaming and go to sleep.
yourbrotherrex ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:17:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The nicotine in what you're vaping is still a pretty major vasoconstrictor; it's by no means a "healthy" alternative to smoking.
debugman18 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:24:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
There's vape fluid without nicotine, for people who can manage to get to that point.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:09:06 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yep, Ive never actually smoked so I have nicotine free when I vape. O basically just do it for fun when in relaxing.
Iteration-Seventeen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:14:58 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I was smoking 4 packs a day, so this is much healthier.
Im trying to just get it be the habit of doing it and am lowering the nicotine level quite a bit.
zzz0404 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:03:38 on October 25, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Holy fucking shit dude. Did you do anything else but smoke?!
I'm glad you're making changes though. I bet you feel healthier already.
Zamora91 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:53:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Hookah got me to quit smoking cigarettes. It also got me to quit smoking all together because I got tired of cleaning my hookah.
amyslays ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:56:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Whatever works! If cleaning my tanks and replacing coils ever get me to that point, id be okay with it.
FreddyFuckTits ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:20:56 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I picked up smoking a hookah a few years ago and I was getting rice crispy lungs, so I switch to vaping.
I really should just quit peroid.
amyslays ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:03 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You can get 0mg nicotine and just vape.
But quitting all together is not a bad plan.
I went from 6mg to 3mg recently. Hopefully I'll get down to 1.5 mgs in coming months. I like the taste of certain juices.
CloudEnt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:19:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Most things in life can be awesome for one person and obnoxious for another person at the same time. It keeps us on our toes.
amyslays ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:21:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
True but it tends to make me think they view all people that vape as obnoxious and we all aren't.
PerfectiveVerbTense ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:38:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
True, but unlike a lot of things vaping is equated with being an annoying douche in the general sense. Like you can be an annoying music listener (e.g. blasting your phone on max volume with no earbuds on public transportation) but no one is ever like "oh, and he's a music listener" in the way that people like the person I responded to just use the fact that someone vapes as like a shorthand for saying they're insufferable.
yoshemitzu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:00:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
They didn't do that either, though. They said blowing a vape cloud in someone's face, i.e., being an annoying vaper.
Vaping in someone's face is analogous to blasting your phone on max volume with no earbuds.
CloudEnt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:46:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not a smoker but I vape cannabis in the privacy of my own home at night. I have no issues with vaping anything and I find it weird that many people do. Most of my family struggled to quit smoking when I was a teenager and I wish they had access to vaping back then. I have heard a few people take specific issue with cloud chasers. Vaping doesn't require giant clouds to be effective so people take issue with an unnecessary cloud of annoyance showing up with every hit. It's so temporary it seems silly to let it upset you, but it takes all kinds. I wonder if vaping would still be seen as douchy if the clouds were less impressive.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 20:31:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I... I like the smell of most vapes and I don't smoke.
trollfriend ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:11:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs not actually looked down upon in the real world, just in this little Reddit bubble.
Other topics that full under the Reddit bubble include:
BunniAlive ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:17:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Nahhh, people look down on vaping and despise pop music and hate on Apple in real life, unless.... I don't go to tye office everyday but actually just plug into a VR reddit-matrix without know it o_O
trollfriend ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:28:32 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah sure, itโs a fairly sizable minority.
Let me put it this way. Apple is the most successful tech company in the world. Firefly was cancelled because not enough people watched it. Pop music is the most listened to genre in the world, even when itโs by choice (see Spotify streaming numbers where pop dominates, whether itโs raw numbers or playlists).
Maybe in your real life bubble where everyone is similar to you, sure, those things are true. But if you look at whatโs actually happening in the world, it couldnโt be further from the truth.
piicklechiick ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:31:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
hahaha right?! i vape and i constantly get made fun of and have idiots yell VAPE NATION at me. wtf
Waveseeker ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:50:32 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Vape is great, it's just been attributed to "better than thee" assholes for a while.
Ihaveopinionstoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:12:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I need some help getting into the vape thing.
every time I go to the store i'm overwhelmed with hundred dollar products.
I don't need a pen that turns me into a fog machine...just wanna get that smoke.
BunniAlive ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:19:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Juul is covert, but cheaper and still good is the Vuse Vibe. I can use it on a plane/train/subway, at a concert/movie, at work and no one knows unless i forget to hold it in a few seconds
frizzykid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:27:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's just the culture around it. Some people who vape are dicks. When I was in nyc so many people Vaped and had no decency to anyone around them. Would literally just take big puffs and blow and it lingers behind and gets in people's face.
I don't mind vaping but if you pull out your vape be curtious to people around you because if someone behind you gets vape cloud in your face you are getting judged
Sivel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:39:57 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
There will probably be a big documentary in a few years that uncovers how the cigarette industry used social media to ruin the perception of vaping as obnoxious and childish to simultaneously discourage adults and encourage younger demographics to get hooked on nicotine. We'll also probably come to learn that millions have increased their risk of cancer by vaping with cheap Chinese made components.
antisocialmedic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:18:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I don't care about vaping, just don't blow it in my face.
PerfectiveVerbTense ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:33:52 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I won't ๐
antisocialmedic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:21:36 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Awesome! I actually really like vaping CBD. It's super effective.
DetectiveCactus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:04:07 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think it's the common viewpoint that if you're using it to quit smoking that's good, but when people vape for fun it's kinda silly, and when people get obnoxious about it, it's stupid.
CycIojesus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:19 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
yeah engulfing people around you in your vape clouds is the definition of being a total asshole.
vape nash bro.
DoofusTinyRick ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:45:30 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I find all smoking shameful, but I can hide and vape in a toilet stall and I don't smell like smoke all day... 1,000,000/10 better than smoking!
ScrufffyJoe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:52:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry that's the way, as far as I'm concerned it's way better. Not just for your health but for me as a non-smoker I actually enjoy walking past people vaping, it smells wonderful.
Cigarette smoke is disgusting.
Issvera ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 20:26:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Fanbases ruin everything, no matter what.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:24:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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PerfectiveVerbTense ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:13:11 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Genuinely glad you could. I tried cold turkey 3x plus the patch and the gum once each. I'm willing to admit that this provides evidence that I'm a weak-willed beta or whatever but I definitely have an addictive personality and I'm willing to swallow my ego if it helps me get harm reduction.
Packersrule123 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 20:49:26 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's not you guys man. Most people have no problem with people who used it to quit smoking, it's the 19 year olds who rip fat clouds because they think it makes them look cool.
FieelChannel ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 20:43:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
How the fuck is vaping relevant now?
What the fuck?
The_Derpening ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 20:47:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
There's a joke that vapers will go out of their way to talk about vaping. It's not true. Non-vapers go out of their way to talk about vaping.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 21:38:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
And speaking of people who suck - Rick and Morty fans. Rick and Morty fans all think they're smarter than everyone just because they watch Rick and Morty. DAE hate Rick and Morty fans?
Bartleby_TheScrivene ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 20:52:32 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Big tobacco shills, you mean.
wsbking ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 21:56:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Reeee everyone who doesn't like things I like is a shill
Vaping, like anime, rick and morty, Reddit, weed, and countless other things is ruined by a subset of its users.
Berowulf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:16:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
it should be relevant, fuck smoking, it's stupid, and, ITLL KILL YA. :P
arthurdent ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:34:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"Yeah, I mean I could have gone to Harvard, but it's just a piece of paper so I went to the local community college instead."
Exhales vapor
FrenchFriedMushroom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:35:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Only if you blow the biggest of clouds. None of this vape pen bullshit. You need at least a car battery, 72 feet of wire, and half a cotton field before you should even think about macking on hoes.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:36:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This could actually work.
arisingone ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:04:32 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Don't you mean 1 1/5? Not reducing your fractions to their simplest form is so unattractive.
thelizardkin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:14:28 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Vaping is my life https://youtu.be/-0w57ZoloYc
youtubefactsbot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:14:38 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
bot info
[deleted] ยท 278 points ยท Posted at 19:29:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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Malkiot ยท 88 points ยท Posted at 20:00:43 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That explains why I actually got dates from Tinder. I was wondering how that worked, with them being really great and probably being able to get 100 matches a day, if they swiped 100 times. Unfortunately, they also had issues which made them entirely incapable of reciprocating, but yeah...
It also explains why straight up telling girls (stranger) that I find them attractive and would like to get to know them, works far better than Tinder.
Damn, Tinder is a waste of time.
darkflash26 ยท 63 points ยท Posted at 20:21:11 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
ive seriously found that asking a girl out in person will yield way better results than tinder. in person they probably will give you a first date just to see, on tinder they just send a few messages then get bored when their phone blows up with 30 superlikes. hell i went out with one girl that wasnt even extremely hot, not saying she was ugly by a long shot, but she was able to just scroll through showing me the superlikes.
[deleted] ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 20:26:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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sacrecide ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 20:58:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Isnt bumble the one where girls have to message first?
[deleted] ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 21:03:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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CycIojesus ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 01:44:24 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
she still messaged you...
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:51:53 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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CycIojesus ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 01:52:55 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
no shit.
have you also heard that water is wet?
i_give_you_gum ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:57:15 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Not the same guy, but you realize some people use this medium to discuss topics of interest, not simply to argue
warlockjones ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:25:21 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Dude. Chill.
darkflash26 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:30:35 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
thats how i got with the one girl. didnt work out between us,but whatever.
CycIojesus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:43:49 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
... I don't think you did.
you can't do that on bumble. its literally the whole point of bumble... she has to message you first.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 21:24:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah tinder is so bad for meeting girls, unless you just want to bang an average girl.
If you can approach girls in public, you're already ahead of 90% of men.
UrsulaMajor ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:43:20 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
but then you're the asshole bothering women in public. it's lose/lose
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:54:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Nah that's a negative mental projection that is all in your head.
If you know you're a cool, fun guy who's approaching a girl because you think she looks interesting and you want to offer some fun/ possibly get to know her, then you won't be bothering her.
It's win win. Either you end up getting along, you have a memorable interaction that she can tell her friends about or she's let's you know she's not interested and you both go on with your life with nothing lost.
The key is to work on yourself, so you are that cool guy and not giving a fuck what people think about you.
guywhodoesnothing ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:44:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I would say its probably more like 95-99%
O___o__O__o___O ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:14:13 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'd say it's over 100%
whatyousay69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:31:31 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Isn't that what most people want to do?
IrrateDolphin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:31:41 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
As a non-tinder-user, can you explain to me what superlikes are?
Malkiot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:29:22 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You get normal likes and a limited amount of super likes (1-5 a day depending on whether you pay), you can also purchase more.
A super like puts you in or near the front of the person's queue, so you guarantee that they at least see your profile. They also get a notification upon liking you, that you super liked them.
I think the system would be better without that notification.
IrrateDolphin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:10:45 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, gotcha. Thanks!
scupdoodleydoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:33:43 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
With dating apps I never want to meet up because I live with my parents and they worry about me. Or because my skin doesn't look good that day, or I'm tired. I come up with so many excuses that I've decided I'm not ready to date right now.
darkflash26 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:10:54 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
sounds like you just want attention honestly
i found my favorite dates from apps is driving around. no pressure to look good, doesnt cost me anything but gas, no awkward silences since i can play music.
scupdoodleydoo ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:18:20 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well I stopped using them so it's a little hard to bask in all the attention now...
Ok?
Malkiot ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 20:34:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I was getting a decent amount of matches for a guy (3 a week, one meet a month), I think.
But, yeah, it pales in comparison to being able to approach pretty much any random attractive girl in public and walking away with your contact details exchanged.
I do it rarely enough, only when I find someone incredibly attractive, but I have a success rate of 100%. I've not been blown off yet, though, of course, most of them don't really work out in the end.
candacebernhard ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:44:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
By being the least douchey of the bunch? Probably.
Malkiot ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:58:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think the words they used were "you're a really nice guy."
candacebernhard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:13:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Now I'm the douche! Glad you're a genuinely nice dude. :)
harlanjs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:10:51 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I found that being active in the community (non profit boards and the like) as a dude yields 5-10x the number of real life women who would be willing to date me than either the bar scene or Tinder.
Your approach did serve me well in college and early 20s for sure.
Malkiot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:31:39 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I did try that for a bit (dog shelter etc) but they were always all already taken. At least the ones I was interested in were.
harlanjs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:45:14 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"Taken" is flexible for the modern, educated woman. Even with a ring on it.
Malkiot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:20:08 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I know, but a) it's more work and b) I don't feel entirely comfortable aiming for that.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:56:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
*doesn't
[deleted] ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 21:00:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know, a lot of the really attractive girls are used to guys liking their arse, telling them their attractive etc, they probably get told it 10 times a day/ realise what's up with the way guys act around them. So not necessarily negging but being playful and not putting them on a pedestal will definitely get their attention/ make you stand out better.
Maysock ยท 113 points ยท Posted at 20:41:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"TIL all of my mannerisms and speech patterns must be carefully crafted to your liking" removes match
xgardian ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:42:21 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But if you remove them right after saying something they might not see it because once you unmatch the messages go away.
crybannanna ยท 109 points ยท Posted at 19:18:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Why do you assume it's a strategy? Seems to me it's more likely the guy was turned off and is generally an asshat. Reading this exchange, I highly doubt he's interested in her.
PreOpTransCentaur ยท 138 points ยท Posted at 20:04:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Allow me to proffer a different scenario. He didn't actually know what "TIL" meant, because there's no way someone who's that offended by "child text speech" is on Reddit, got embarrassed, and in an effort to save his giant fucking ego from something she'd never know anyway, decided to just berate her for making him feel stupid.
crybannanna ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 21:32:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's entirely plausible. Makes him even more of an asshat if that's the case.
Hard to tell what is inside that mans head, but one thing is for certain, he's a dick.
Penny_InTheAir ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 20:27:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
....Decided to berate her for making him feel stupid while using the same kind of child text speak he was complaining about.
No_ThisIs_Patrick ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 20:44:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Fairly certain that message was in the context of something like "that's you, that's how dumb you look"
Ishouldbepolite ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 21:15:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Neh. first of all, TIL isn't a particularly dumb looking acronym. Second, he was already using emoji right from the start. Nobody who actually uses emoji actually thinks using acronyms is childish.
He was just negging, or genuinely lashing out that she knew something he didn't.
vegasbaby387 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 22:32:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Reddit is just so fucking ridiculous with the attempted mind reading and deep analysis of every conceivable situation with little-to-no actual, useful information to go on.
Michamus ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:26:18 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Tell me more about this Reddit fellow.
vegasbaby387 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:59:15 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
There's not much to tell, other than that he's ridiculous.
TruthTellerBot ยท -17 points ยท Posted at 21:05:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Are you actually so fucking socially awkward and unaware that you cannot see the sarcasm, even when he is laying it on SO THICK?
Just like the guy you're replying to... Both of you need to go out more, meet actual people that aren't like yourself, sitting there nodding your head and agreeing about everything.
Just because someone isn't like you or share all your values or opinions doesn't mean they are bad people.
Likely the man in the OP is even old enough to be the father of both of you. Fucking stupid kids.
Penny_InTheAir ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 21:08:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Woah. You must be fun at parties.
TruthTellerBot ยท -13 points ยท Posted at 21:15:58 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
How do you figure I wouldn't be? Because I call out your absolutely insane lack of social awareness?
That you would rather recede into some bubble of "men are angry and stupid" (or is it "adults"? or maybe "the working class"?) than give that man the benefit of the doubt and look beyond your own immense bias to find the extremely evident sarcasm.
Easier to just affirm what you already know, right? That he is some loser and you're the king of the world, yeah?
Fucking kid - and thanks for the downvote, by the way! Not sure those are meant to be used that way, but hey - I disagree with you, so you should rob me of some of that ever-so-precious karma, right?
Edit: Just to make sure you understand. I should clarify that the last sentence I typed out above is indeed me being sarcastic. Just in case you weren't sure. Cheerio.
que_hora_es ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 21:24:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This is hilarious.
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 22:07:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Is this some kind of meta argument about sarcasm? I feel like the bloke in Inception who went in too deep.
TruthTellerBot ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 21:36:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Glad to hear it.
Penny_InTheAir ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 21:17:19 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Whoosh
TruthTellerBot ยท -8 points ยท Posted at 21:26:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It genuinely makes me very angry that people like you exist in the world. I hope you never procreate, though I suppose a redeeming factor is that it seems incredibly unlikely you ever will.
I really, really hope you're just a kid and will grow out of it. If you're older than say 15... Hey - here's to hoping you never adopt, either.
Penny_InTheAir ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 21:55:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ok Graeme. can I call you Graeme? Thanks for your advice, I'm going to print it out and paste it in my journal. Have an awesome day!
TruthTellerBot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:14:22 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
A shame there is no obvious way to kill yourself with it.
TenderizedVegetables ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 21:28:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This is a copypasta, right? Someone tell me it is.
-susan- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:04:55 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
who hurt you?
TruthTellerBot ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:47:35 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Noone.
user_48217 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 21:57:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I actually do hate that "you must be fun at parties" retort. So overused and stupid.
kaztrator ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:33:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I have no doubt that's exactly what happened. Surprised to see this so low in the comment chain.
InteriorAlligator ยท 170 points ยท Posted at 19:25:19 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Google โnegging.โ Itโs definitely a strategy. One that hardly, if ever, works.
crybannanna ยท 78 points ยท Posted at 19:36:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I know what negging is... what I'm saying is that in this case it doesn't look like negging. It doesn't sound like a strategy, it sounds like the guy is just an asshole and lost interest.
SometmesWrongMotives ยท 106 points ยท Posted at 20:18:47 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This exchange looks very "strategy"-ish to me.
Opening with an obscure phrase to make her feel like she doesn't know things.
Lying about not knowing what TIL means
Making a wrong assumption about her (supposed to indicate that he's not overly invested and 'high status')
Pushing the neg 4 separate times, ending with "not attractive"
Mentioning her age (it's supposed to make her insecure)
The point he's making obviously isn't a sincere expression of his values; "LMAO LOL [emojis]".
To me, it looks like he was trying to put her down, and couldn't "handle his own medicine" (he didn't know what 'TIL' means, though she was saying it naturally and not to manipulate him), and got a little butt-hurt.
Vengrim ยท 69 points ยท Posted at 20:53:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'll add another. He didn't come right out and say that an over and under was a shotgun and tells her to google it.
LordHussyPants ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 00:45:19 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Oh is THAT what it is. I was thinking of betting odds
SenorGravy ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:03:45 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Me too. I've been combing Urban Dictionary for 10 minutes. haha
emanasaur ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:26:48 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly I would have been annoyed by that. If he did that to me and then asked me what TIL meant I would have said "Google it." and ended the conversation there.
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 22:00:32 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:57:58 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
His ego crumbled to dust the minute she said something that wasn't fawning over him. The entire rest of it was him trying to build his ego back up by pushing someone else down. He's a real keeper!
jeufie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:19:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Eh. Doubtful. If she's 39, they're probably close in age. Dude is probably just a 35 year-old, single moron.
SometmesWrongMotives ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 21:21:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You think 35-yr-old, single morons wouldn't try something like this?
jeufie ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:41:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think it's more likely that he just says these things because he is a moron, not because he has a "strategy".
TheFantasticAspic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:17:03 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
As a 35 yo who sometimes dates morons, this totally looks like a strategy to me. I just wish I were better at spotting it. Usually they have to literally tell me they've "studied the art of seduction" before I catch on, haha. There should be a handy checklist or something to weed these guys out.
SometmesWrongMotives ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:24:09 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's so hard for me to recognize in the wild when it's being done on me. I want to believe people, y'know?
creepypms has a guide about how to recognize some of it.
TheFantasticAspic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:30:38 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That looks potentially useful. Thanks.
[deleted] ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 21:32:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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SometmesWrongMotives ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 21:37:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I've always hated teasing
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 21:01:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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SometmesWrongMotives ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 21:15:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"Lost interest" doesn't seem like the simplest explanation to me though.
Why press the point? Why insult her? Why does he keep messaging her? He was the one driving the conversation; she's just responding. This doesn't look like behavior of a disinterested person to me. It looks like the behavior of a person who thinks they have something to gain by putting her down.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:23:58 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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SometmesWrongMotives ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 21:34:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
eh, idk. It's intuition for me too, y'know? I guess I was hoping someone could point out something. "occam's razor" didn't do it. I've had a hard time recognizing manipulative behavior that was pretty clear when I looked back sometimes so I don't find "but that doesn't seem manipulative to me" to be that convincing, personally. Idk. I don't, like, want to be wrong, I'm just not convinced at the moment, personally.
The_Derpening ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 20:49:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm gonna dispute your first point here. Over-under is not an obscure phrase.
SometmesWrongMotives ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 20:53:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well, she didn't know what it meant, and neither do I... idk. Maybe "obscure" was too strong but does it not seem like it was used strategically in the way I thought?
Ishouldbepolite ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 21:09:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No idea what it is in this context. Googled it, and just got the betting definition.
The_Derpening ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 21:13:45 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's a double barreled shotgun that has a top barrel and bottom barrel rather than left and right barrels (which is called a side-by-side). Here's one I've wanted for a long time.
And here's a side-by-side from the same company for comparison.
SlappyMcGillicuddy ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 22:30:32 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'll be the one to tell you then: it's an obscure phrase. A vast majority of people (even Americans!) aren't into shotguns.
The_Derpening ยท -8 points ยท Posted at 22:57:19 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You don't have to be "into" shotguns in order to know the names for different types.
Ishouldbepolite ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 22:51:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, thanks. I have to say I asked a couple of other people and they also didn't know. But they weren't gun people either. So no idea how known or obscure that phrase with the enthusiast crowd but it doesn't seem very well-known with the general crowd.
So maybe it was a little bit of a gatekeeping question?
The_Derpening ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 23:00:35 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Could have been that, definitely. I really don't think it was meant as a "haha I know something you don't know" thing, though.
And I'm speaking from an enthusiast perspective, side-by-side and over-under are pretty well known terms if you're at least slightly more involved with guns than "I have a gun, this is my gun, it shoots bullets." But I can see how someone who just happened to go to the range and
shouldshoot one wouldn't necessarily know the name.So I guess it's obscure like the phrase "And one" is obscure. Particular to a group, and outsiders may or may not understand, but not just one person who dug through the annals of history to find something to flaunt.
Ishouldbepolite ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:40:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Cool, thanks for explaining.
MontgomeryRook ยท 61 points ยท Posted at 20:11:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think I get what you're saying. To me it's perfectly indistinguishable from negging initially, but strategy might be too generous a word. This seems to rapidly devolve into something more like "escalating so I can think of it as a fight instead of a rejection," like the whole "you can't fire me, I quit" thing.
crybannanna ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 21:33:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That is absolutely plausible.
I'm not sure. Hard to get into someone else's head. All I know is, he's a dick.
candacebernhard ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:45:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Why does he keep engaging if he's uninterested? Just unmatch
crybannanna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:47:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Could be bored. Could be he's an asshole who needs to feel superior.
We're both on Reddit right now. You know as well as I do that sometimes you continue interacting with people you despise for no good reason.
theabominableunicorn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:20:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But Reddit is meant for discussion (or flaming strangers, take your pick). Tinder is meant for hooking up with people you like. So it's weird to use it just to argue with and put somebody down.
IDontDownvoteAnyone ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 20:38:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think he was just moody because she wasn't super into him at first. Her reactions were pretty non-chalant and it probably triggered his ego.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:31:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Does the sexual frustration cause the emotionally unstable behaviour, or does the emotionally unstable behaviour cause the sexual frustration?
Zen koans for the modern age.
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 21:45:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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MontgomeryRook ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:42:47 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Nobody is saying that? And I could easily be reading him wrong, especially since I definitely go out of my way NOT to interact with that kind of guy. My read was that he was an asshole, then she rejected him, then he counter-rejected her.
"You talk funny." (Dick move, not a clear rejection)
"You suck the possibility of a good time out of the room." (Pretty unambiguous rejection)
Again, I could be wrong, but I wasn't saying jack shit about gender.
InteriorAlligator ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 19:38:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ok, I see where youโre coming from but at the same time why would he have bothered to match her on tinder/sent the first message only to become disinterested after she used an abbreviation? Doesnโt add up if you ask me.
illusions_in_life ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 19:51:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Not everyone is desperate to bang anyone that glances their way. That is exactly how it works, if someone does/says something that turns you off you disengage. Only thing here is heโs an asshole.
Katzenklavier ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 19:54:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You never met 16 year old me on MSN.
crybannanna ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 19:45:09 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He might just be weird and that might be a pet peeve. I used to really hate when people typed lol, unless it was meant as ironic. Not because it was an abbreviation, but because it was an outright lie. 9/10 you're not laughing out loud at all. You're just a liar.
It got on my nerves. It doesn't anymore, but I can totally see how that might, for some people, be an instant turnoff. Now it pisses me off when anyone uses the hashtag or even says the word hashtag. I find it grating, and I immediately think that the person is not my type of person. But I'm a bit of a weirdo.... my point is, so might he be.
Negging is usually a bit more like banter. A subtle jab. "You write like a child" is not subtle. No one would find that anything but insulting. And not in a good way.
scupdoodleydoo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:36:59 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Some woefully mediocre men enjoy attempting to prove their supposed superiority over beautiful women.
Source: My online dating chat logs :/
crybannanna ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 12:47:08 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm hoping you are calling yourself a mediocre man and not a beautiful woman.
scupdoodleydoo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:18:16 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'll call myself whatever I want.
crybannanna ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:04:51 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Sure, no one can stop you from lying.
scupdoodleydoo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:09:33 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, anyone who likes their appearance is a liar /s
crybannanna ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:37:04 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
One can like their appearance and still be ugly (or at least far from beautiful).
I guess maybe they could be deluded, and not lie. It's not a lie, after all, if you believe it.
The funny thing is, you probably think I'm into you now because I'm making fun of your self compliment. Haha.
scupdoodleydoo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:43:22 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's not a self-compliment. It's just reality. People like the way I look, and I do my best to look nice.
I don't think you're into me, in fact I don't really know what your problem is.
crybannanna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:16:14 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Meh, I'm just an asshole I guess. At least today, for this interaction.
Guess I've never heard anyone call herself beautiful so matter of factly. It's a bit off putting.
But maybe that's only because I have to put up with a lot, being a breathtakingly handsome genius and all. (Do you see how that's a bit off putting when someone else does it?)
Anyway, take it sleazy.
scupdoodleydoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:27:24 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, you are being an asshole. There's nothing wrong with someone being confident in their appearance, and you should examine why you are put off by women who are aware of their looks. It's ok to be honest about our positive attributes and our flaws.
crybannanna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:40:24 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It has nothing to do with gender, and it isn't about looks either. It's about flagrant self aggrandizement. A lack of humility if accurate, and a lack of honesty if not. Either way, it signals a missing virtue.
Ever visit the sub r/iamverysmart? Maybe that will clear it up. It makes fun of people who talk about how great they are (specifically regarding intelligence, but the same rule applies to everything really).
Once again, as a stunningly handsome genius, I can come across as a little brusque at times. (You really don't find that sentence offputting? Calling oneself stunningly handsome, or a genius? That's perfectly normal where you're from? Or is it a bit of hypocrisy?)
scupdoodleydoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:49:44 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I never said I was great, I mentioned an attribute that I have. I won't lie and say I'm an ugly goblin. When I was a teen I nearly died because of my self-loathing and it has taken years for me to see what others do, so I will fucking call myself beautiful if I want to.
If you're really stunningly handsome or a genius feel free to call yourself that. No skin off my nose.
crybannanna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:43:22 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Fair points. Sorry about being a dick.
I am both stunningly handsome and a genius.... I have business cards that say so, as proof.... but you can't have one... for reasons I can't explain right now. Get off my back!
Lokifin ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 19:56:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's a possibility, sure. This guy didn't even know what TIL stood for, so it wasn't that it was a particular pet peeve of his. Maybe he hates all abbreviations in text? But the next thing he says uses LMAO LOL. So probably not that. Maybe it's only okay for him to use them but not people he wants to hook up with?
I've seen a lot of negging that is not subtle at all. And I've seen subtle negging that is straight up insulting. It's all a turn off if it's strategy.
crybannanna ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:31:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You might be right. If so, that's the worse negging I've ever seen. It isn't even mildly amusing, it's just straight up being a dickhead.
overlordpotatoe ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:44:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I don't think it's really about it working more often than not being an asshole. Creepy guys like it because it's a great way to filter women for the ones most vulnerable to abusive manipulation strategies.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:03:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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overlordpotatoe ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 21:07:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
There's more than one kind of creepy guy.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 21:48:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Not being interested is apparently creepy now.
jackasseress ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:15:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think the point is that he's SO bad at it that you literally cannot conceive of how this was a strategy.
crybannanna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:41:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That is entirely plausible.
Shuwayze ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:28:44 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well considering the guys's name in the picture is
Gaymesorry, Graeme. Doesn't sound like he looks forward to much in life other than being an asshat.[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:22:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This isn't negging.
Negging is giving a backhanded compliment. Probably a bad example but something like "wow you have really nice hair, it's very frizzy".
Something that makes the girl unsure of your are flirting or fucking with her. This guy is just being a dick.
Variability ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:55:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It works on people who have low self esteem, but almost anything would work on them, ask OP's mother.
Uferstein ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 20:49:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He just has low self esteem, emotional stupidity with a paired hate for women out of frustration. Met a ton of guys like that online who wouldn't stop bothering me.
They don't do it consciously but they basically have an underlying level of anxiety that makes them say offensive shit (because they constantly feel rejected and therefore defensive) while hoping for a "sorry :(" from your side and the feeling of higher acceptance when they're being an asshole and you still like them. Acting out to feel higher approval.
Like neglected constantly angry kids.
crybannanna ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:36:09 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's totally possible. I think it's hard to assess the guys mindset from this one interaction is all. Guess I'm playing devils advocate.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:55:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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crybannanna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:41:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I couldn't figure out what was missing that made me think he wasn't into her, but you nailed it. He doesn't appear to follow up, or backtrack, as they so often do. He seemed like he just didn't like her. Maybe his initial interest was based on the over and under she was holding (I don't know what that is either), and then when she didn't know what he was talking about he was over her. Then the abbreviating things might have been an additional turnoff and he just didn't care anymore.
Though what makes me think I'm wrong, when I think about it, is that he focuses on TIL, and not lol. She used both in a single message. As someone who hates abbreviations, I have no problem with TIL and am annoyed by lol. So it's jarring that he specifically mentioned the one and not the other.
It does read like he didn't know what it meant, then got defensive when she explained it. Like he thought it was a typo or something.
I don't know. Hard to say. I'm in a weird mood today where I don't want to judge something based on a tiny snippet of conversation. Not my usual judgmental way, but we each have moments. I do find him to be a dick though (can't be entirely nonjudgmental after all)
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:57:11 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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crybannanna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:24:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You articulated everything perfectly, don't be down on yourself dude. You make an excellent case and I can't argue with it.
I was thinking it was a gun based on her comment about being a good shot or something. Thanks for clearing that up for me (was going to google it but I just forgot to care enough... haha).
Thanks bro, nice chat.
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 21:46:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
According to this thread, a guy not being interested is creepy af. Fucking sexist tbf.
LyingRedditBastard ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:45:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's the "I don't really need to date you since I have a pornhub account and a nice pocket pussy" tactic to garner the sympathy screw
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 21:55:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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LyingRedditBastard ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 21:59:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
could be, or the guy could have been neggin to try and "get her to need him"
it's all asshole shit anyway perpetuated by morons
Berowulf ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:09:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think that he didn't actually know what it meant and then felt embarrassed, and therefore started getting defensive and saying that using that type of "language" is childish and unattractive. -- however, he is obviously wrong...
Dlrlcktd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:24:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Not being attracted to me is unattractive.
nonametogive ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:27:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think by that point you've gone past the edge of no return.
D_Greene ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:54:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I've been out of the dating scene for a while now, but I feel like just asking her if she wanted to get a pizza and talk about stuff would be a sure fire way to meet up.
Bozly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:11:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Telling me the odds isnt sexy
ulfberhxt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:11:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I mean he obviously already decided that he wasn't attracted to her anymore, though. I doubt this guy is having a ton of trouble getting dates. He's just an asshole while he's on the dates, probably.
IForgotAboutDre ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:57:09 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Right. He dried up that box in seconds.
pHScale ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:22:13 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, telling a girl that what she does is attractive to you is a pretty solid strategy. But that's not at all what this guy did.
Lance_Henry1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:19:41 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Is that the oft used "negging" technique so popular with the PUA crowd?
AHrubik ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:09:28 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well Cotton here we the see a poor version of a tactic called "the neg" being used to adverse affect. His poor form and rapid apparent frustration are not going to win the game today. I suspect his only visitor tonight is going to be Rosy Palm. We'll be right back after a word from our sponsor.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:42 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty sure he's already not interested at that point...
its_a_me_garri_oh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:41:06 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Fuckinโ Graeme, man.
GerundQueen ยท 11952 points ยท Posted at 16:52:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL only children use acronyms.
Edit: TIL I learned what an initialism is.
Edit edit: Whatever. I'm leaving it.
JammieDodgers ยท 8147 points ยท Posted at 18:17:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"Hey dad, I just got a call from NASA, I got the job!"
"NASA huh? I didn't know they let children fly spaceships"
"Why are you like this..."
Gsteel11 ยท 1082 points ยท Posted at 20:15:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He will never have children.
JellyBeanKruger ยท 444 points ยท Posted at 20:41:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
We can only hope
NoJelloNoPotluck ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 21:06:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's the scary part of Daditis. The disease lies dormant for decades until an offspring is produced.
By the time a male begins displaying symptoms, it is too late.
UltraCarnivore ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 21:13:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What are the symptoms?
ButtLusting ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 22:38:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You.
MegabyteMcgee ยท 143 points ยท Posted at 21:14:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He hates his Mom, I bet $5,416.
The_Narrator_9000 ยท 192 points ยท Posted at 23:09:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Using a symbol as a short form for dollars? I hope you get some medicine to fix your attention deficit disorder soon, kindergartner.
Zom_Betty ยท 53 points ยท Posted at 02:42:40 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Dollar? What's a dollar? I feel like you're starting to say a word and not finishing it. Do you mean dollarydoo's?
ElevatedInstinct ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:57:39 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Using a question mark to emphasize the fact that you're statement is indeed a question comma is despicable period Only to be followed be two more childish short cuts comma clearly you cannot speak to women exclamation point
Jimmy-TinkerBull ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:14:28 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Using a symbol for a comma question mark new line new line Grow up exclamation mark
MegabyteMcgee ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:54:48 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
laughing my gluteous maximus off
Contemporarium ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:33:21 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Fuckin LOSER
Nachtraaf ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 22:06:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's an oddly specific amount.
Starved-Nutritionist ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 23:38:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's how much he owes the loan sharks.
Aipre ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:51:05 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I want to imagine it's from a series of bad bets. It started at one dollar and they keeps needing to bet more and more so that they can pay off their debt.
Tomnnn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:00:12 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The 5 is there to distract you. 4 next to the 16 is a series of x^position.
sneijder ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:12:29 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Abbreviating โThat isโ ?
You set yourself low standards and fail to achieve them kiddo.
Nachtraaf ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:22:21 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's correct English.
datsundere ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:20:14 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
wow did you just predict the value of bitcoin?
MegabyteMcgee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:03:21 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No you're thinkin ButtCoins, the new cryptocurrency you mine in Butts
MiklaneTrane ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:55:08 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Double your money that his dad is exactly the same way. Wearing a shitty Brooks Brothers suit in his photo, nasty to women, is named Graeme... He's definitely a trust fund "my dad will sue you!" asshole.
MegabyteMcgee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:47:29 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Wow, very solid evaluation my man. Graeme lmao. I'd never even considered his parents would have had to sign off on that name, which is another clue about his parents.
I_Object_ ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:45:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
M E T A
E
T
A
Alarid ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:44:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Or he has several and we just didn't know
we just didn't know
PolkaMango ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:55:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What, are rapists somehow infertile all the sudden? /s
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:24:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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Gsteel11 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:39 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like the type of person that's an idiot but has super high standards.
Aka...a lonely person.
1337butterfly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:45:44 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
His wife probably would have children.
blueberrythyme ยท 286 points ยท Posted at 20:57:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"Where ADULTS come from, in Adult Land, we use the adult term The National Aeronautics and Space Administration, not childish terms like NASA, you child."
KJBenson ยท 54 points ยท Posted at 21:50:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Did you get those cigarettes yet dad?
Itโs been 20 years, we miss you....
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:53:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Did you google before posting this? I know id have to if I was gonna write NASA long hand.
blueberrythyme ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 00:06:19 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yup, even copied and pasted because otherwise I probably would've spelled Aeronautics wrong.
karijay ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:51:07 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What does ADULTS stand for, though?
blueberrythyme ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:42:57 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Adult Denomination Unappreciative of Loser Toddler Syntax
GoPanthers88 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 21:04:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
logged in to upvote this
yamiatworky ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:35:38 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"Because I'm an emotionally stunted, abusive, controlling asshole who enjoys demeaning everyone for my personal enjoyment. Now go fly your little toy rockets so I can mooch off you in my retirement."
nxvacaiine ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:37:52 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
!RedditSilver
DONT_SCARY ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:00:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for the laugh LOL
NASA_janitor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:46:09 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You better not steal my job!!!
Adamskinater ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:08:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What, do you own space? No. NAYSA does. Rocket people, perhaps you've heard of them?
ITS-A-JACKAL ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:10 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
On Canadian thanksgiving, this comment is what Iโm thankful for
dstaller ยท 386 points ยท Posted at 19:31:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Meanwhile dude's in a suit taking selfies in the bathroom mirror. Adult lyfe.
xheist ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 04:11:13 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Bathroom suit selfie + Negging
Such game! So very alfa. Tell me more about your plates you fucken hero.
totes_inapprops ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:38:44 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Taking a selfie in landscape nonetheless.
Pissed-Off-Panda ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:12:34 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
โI have a job and everything! Iโm so adulty!โ
you_clod ยท 2240 points ยท Posted at 16:54:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Like LMAO and LOL
MyNameIsEthanNoJoke ยท 1139 points ยท Posted at 18:03:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He is a moron but I'm pretty sure he was using those to try and show how dumb he thinks they look. Not that it worked, but yeah, I think he was using them ironically
mwinks99 ยท 403 points ยท Posted at 18:56:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Your an idiot... wanna fuck?
BadAdviceBot ยท 218 points ยท Posted at 18:59:26 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You need to work on your negging game.
1YearWonder ยท 214 points ยท Posted at 19:29:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah. Total amateur.
It should be "you're an idiot".
[deleted] ยท 117 points ยท Posted at 19:46:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Man that got my panties soaked and I'm a dude...
RedForman- ยท 68 points ยท Posted at 20:38:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Thank God I'm not the only dude who wears panties when browsing reddit. In hopes to saturate them based off comments.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:05:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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MegabyteMcgee ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 21:17:26 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's weird, I only secrete poo from my eyes. You freak
An_Arrogant_Ass ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:47:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You guys are dumb, you can't tell us where your poo comes from otherwise it won't be a secrete.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:46:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think this is enough reddit for today.
Dusbowl ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:00:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Know what's awesome? McDonald's fries dipped in a Wendy's frosty.
RedForman- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:09 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You got my fries a'tinglin.
pledgerafiki ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 20:30:26 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
you may need to go change
laxation1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:59:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"I'M"??
I am - thank you very much
Stop talking like a child.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:35:28 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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laxation1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:00:09 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
u wot m8
wtfdaemon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:17:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
SO WET
The_Narrator_9000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:11:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Depends sells a line of garments that can help you with that.
redditor787 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:10:34 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
LMAO
korbin_w10 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:21:59 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Youโrve and idiot**
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:53:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Found the teacher.
1YearWonder ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:06:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well I schooled him, if that's what you mean.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:13:26 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
/u/1YearWonder for Secretary of Education!
TheyCallHimBrownies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:42:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Your not making you're self clear.
offenator ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 19:27:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
username somewhat checks out
antisickness ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:58:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No need to be racist
dudeman773 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:02:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You ever had your asshole licked by a fat man in a trench coat?
MegabyteMcgee ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 21:19:20 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No I eat hobo asshole for change so I can buy more POGS, like a normal person you fuckin freak
SauronGamgee ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 19:31:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
My an idiot?
mwinks99 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 19:34:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The miss-usage of your/you're is simply another layer on my comedy onion. Im on a hole nother level then you son!
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:53:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
hole is gonna keep bothing me even tho I know its the joke and im biting the bait D=
rata2ille ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:12:50 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
เฒ _เฒ
mwinks99 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:16:35 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
... I think you may need to re-read that whole sentence if thats the only problem you have.
rata2ille ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:17:10 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yuppp my bad. I got sad and stopped reading.
SomeOtherNeb ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:58:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Me, fail English? That's unpossible!
RoguesScholar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:05:35 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Nothing is in possible
RandomCandor ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 19:17:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Almost... you forgot the lol / jk (either or both)
Ruggsii ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 19:35:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Can't tell if you purposely used the wrong "you're"
mwinks99 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 19:38:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Indubitably
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:05:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ugh it's spelled yure.
gruesomeflowers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:37:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
ur*
Flexappeal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:50:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
found my new opener
MegabyteMcgee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:23:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I always open with the topic of bestiality with ants
Berowulf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:00:19 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You're* props on getting "an" right, a lot of people say "a"
mwinks99 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:01:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
My smarts > ur smarts ... u wanna this 8=====D ?
Berowulf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:23:57 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I don't think I can translate this. I am stumped.
stillline ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:45:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty good, needs more implication.
Win- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:42:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You're
we_re_all_dead ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:10:38 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I do
frameratedrop ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 20:40:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
His first message has a thumbs up emoji. How is that any less childish than acronyms and initializes?
I wonder if we should tell him that Winston Churchill was the first person to use OMG?
Ishouldbepolite ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 20:58:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm pretty sure he wasn't using them ironically. I think he either just tried negging the other person, or somehow was angry she used some term he didn't know. Notice how he didn't react to the actual lol used.
Craylee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:47:36 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, sure, but he still resorted to "child text speak" to get his point across, so he is immediately a hypocrite in his next message even if he was doing it ironically.
[deleted] ยท 52 points ยท Posted at 18:46:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Didn't adults use those first?
asyork ยท 99 points ยท Posted at 18:49:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I've been using them since I was a kid. I'm in my early 30s now. Still use them. Since before texting was really a thing.
heefledger ยท 100 points ยท Posted at 18:53:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
For a while, "lol" was in every single text I sent. If you sent a text that didn't have "lol" or "haha" in it, it came off as mean and serious. Also, if you ever switched from "lol" to "lls" you were trying way too hard to be cool.
canadiancarlin ยท 78 points ยท Posted at 19:25:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like every relationship starts off with lots of emojis and lols, then as you get comfortable with each other the emojis tend to fade and the lols (and especially lmaos) become less and less frequent. I don't think it's a bad thing, but being able to attach emotions to simple text is very important in keeping a significant other aware of your commitment.
I'm also talking straight out of my ass I'm not married and haven't kept a relationship for more than six months.
heefledger ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 19:28:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm 2 years deep with a girl and still send a "lmaooooooooo" at least twice a week. I don't think I'm typical though.
gavemybossmypassword ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 20:41:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It should be typical! I still share tons of emojis and โlmaoโ with my husband and weโve been together for almost 6 years total. Relationships should be fun. Thatโs what keeps them going during the crappier times. So our texts are filled with goofy nonsense and emojis.
karmakatastrophe ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 22:48:43 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Nah you're fine, I've been with my girlfriend for 9 years and use emojis and lols all the time. If one of us didn't at this point, the other would think we're upset or in a bad mood.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:47:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I can't help but read that as "laughing my ass off off off off off off off..." I blame ATM machine and PIN number for this.
gavemybossmypassword ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 20:36:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
My texts with my husband are filled with emojis and โhahaโ and โlmaoโ and etc. Weve been together for 5 years and we still text during the day about nonsense. There are the normal boring texts about what to pick up from store, and how did someoneโs meeting go, but the majority is nonsense.
DynamicDK ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:55:15 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I want to be like you. I've been dating a woman for 4 months now, and I'm head over heels in love. Half of our texts are full of emojis, or are literally just a bitmoji, and it is great.
I am going to marry this woman...I can already feel it. I just hope we can keep up our current level of playfulness.
p_iynx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:15:16 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly that's still pretty accurate. :) I think our ability to laugh and have fun is what has helped my husband and I get through a couple of really rough years. Our texts have jokes, silly words, and emojis. (He is currently in my phone as Husbum, for no particular reason other than me saying it once and it making us both laugh.)
However the difference is now, I add those things for fun, whereas before I felt like I had to add them so that he didn't read my texts in the wrong tone, or whatever. Now I'm not as worried about sounding "mean" or grumpy or whatever because he knows my personality and the way I say things.
Baardhooft ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:06:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt care if itโs real or not, because I want to believe.
Sparkfairy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:52:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Nearly nine years in and I still type โlolโ and โhahaโ a lot and use heart and kissy emojis oop
BamShazam86 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:02:54 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If you're in a relationship and start getting "lol"s with little to no emojis, things have headed south. Expect a "we need to talk"
ankurama ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 22:35:38 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If someone did that to me every sentence, I'd think they are very insecure.
smallwonkydachshund ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:49:32 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Whatโs lls?
LPQ_Master ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:51:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck does that mean im an adult when I hit 30?
asyork ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:20:52 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Try to avoid becoming an adult. I have yet to find the upside.
SLCer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:12:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
My 67 year old mother lols me all the fucking time.
DeckerR ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:18:38 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Im in my 30s and texting didnt really exist when I was a child. Maybe we live in different timelines. If that is the case, who is president in yours?
lizzyb-bythesee ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 22:39:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
His comment said before texting, you fucking idiot.
DeckerR ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:05:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ouch. I misread what he said. My bad.
No need for insults
asyork ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:21:53 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I should have reordered the sentences when I added the last one. I almost posted without it, and realized my point was unclear.
Forced__Perspective ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 18:54:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Started using these on yahoo chat 20 years ago.. we wrote the book on this shit! Asl?
[deleted] ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 19:24:43 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Also ICQ and AOL, lest we forget.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 21:53:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
the icq โuh ohโ noise still haunts my dreams
O2XXX ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:33:52 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I learned a couple days ago that ICQ is owned my mail.ru. I remember dropping my UIN in Quakeworld Team Fortress servers to recruit people for my โclan.โ
italianpoetess ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:03:44 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Powwow!
TruePseudonym ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:12:26 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
ICQ?
Diakko ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:20:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
http://lmgtfy.com/?q=Icq
TruePseudonym ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:40:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
And I didn't even have to leave my Reddit app. Nice.
zxDanKwan ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:14:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Do this first.
ZsaFreigh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:55:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Before Yahoo we had KidsCom chat.
That's where I had my first sexual experience.
AnothaSK ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 19:13:19 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yes. Military used acronyms for a loooooooooong time.
THANE_OF_ANN_ARBOR ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:16:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not sure about that, but these days, I feel like 70% of people non-ironically using text speak are older than 40.
lumabean ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:11:31 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
IANAL
TandBinc ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:18:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The first OMG in recorded history was in a letter about a WW1 battle to Winston Churchill
chaos0510 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:24:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Adults have been using SSDD for years. Same shit different day
go_ask_your_father ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 18:53:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
๐๐๐
Doob4Sho ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:35:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Whoosh
Rarus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:01:09 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
LOL has turned into something so many people just toss on at the end of sentences.
It almost never looks good, just makes you look insecure in what you've said. lol.
Gr1pp717 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:20:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Those are okay, you see, because they didn't make him feel stupid.
YeltsinYerMouth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:54:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
And three fucking emoji
hypmoden ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:54:52 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
LOLing out loud
[deleted] ยท 164 points ยท Posted at 16:57:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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OptimusSublime ยท 103 points ยท Posted at 17:09:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
the real TIL is always in the comments.
NovaLext ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 18:19:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
the real TIL the real TIL is always in the comments
DJsupaman ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 18:33:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
the real TIL the re... ah fuck it, you guys get it.
InsaneImmortal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:58:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I always thought TIL meant Today In Life.
Catholic_School ยท 58 points ยท Posted at 18:18:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The FBI are a bunch of unattractive children
vivestalin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:15:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
this but unironically.
Zbignich ยท 152 points ยท Posted at 17:33:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL the US armed forces are full of children.
SafeReturnDoubtful ยท 89 points ยท Posted at 17:51:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You just now learned that?
ImperialHedonism ยท 81 points ยท Posted at 17:57:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry weโve been too busy yelling USA USA USA
Abraveliltoaster ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:38:32 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What's 'oosuh'? Only children use acronyms roflcopter
SafeReturnDoubtful ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:59:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
To be clear, this wasn't supposed to be derogatory. It just feels like guys in the military miss some crucial steps growing up, especially if they joined right out of highschool.
Dead-A-Chek ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:25:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, you're kinda right, but saying it the way you did makes you look like a hell of an asshole.
SafeReturnDoubtful ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:26:57 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I work with a lot of assholes.
ciao_fiv ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:21:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
really? us adults yell UNITED STATES OF AMERICA! UNITED STATES OF AMERICA! UNITED STATES OF AMERICA! none of that child speak shit
huggiesdsc ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:15:57 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's actually completely true
Frommyiphone2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:28:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Every soldier was a child first.
Tehmaxx ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 00:15:09 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The adults aren't going to fight the wars.
Jamlpr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:19:21 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Am adult. Am in Afghanistan.
You sure about that?
Tehmaxx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:15 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
People living there obviously are adults.
People like you and I who consciously joined at 17-18 under the impression of fighting a war for freedom was a very childish choice made.
Very sure of it.
Jamlpr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:27:11 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I joined at 22 wanting to fly. I do that. Make really good money doing so. I feel very good about my choice and am happy with it.
TheKhajiit ยท 238 points ยท Posted at 17:29:35 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL is an initialism
MrT_riding_a_unicorn ยท 99 points ยท Posted at 18:04:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
An acronym is pronounceable. Can you not pronounce TIL?
TheKhajiit ยท 217 points ยท Posted at 18:34:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You aren't meant to pronounce it as "till"
Namaha ยท 135 points ยท Posted at 22:38:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Says who? The word police?
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 00:07:32 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Because he wanted to call it something else and correct someone! Pfft
njlx1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:42:41 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Wtf is your point? Thus logic applies to literally and word
Namaha ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:34:10 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Are you having a stroke.
My point is that there's no governing body that dictates how fucking "TIL" is pronounced. You aren't "meant" to pronounce it "tee-eye-ell" any more than you're "meant" to pronounce it "till"
njlx1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:27:54 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry about the spelling, but like i said that applies to any word
Namaha ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:39:11 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm glad we agree that classifying it as "definitely an acronym" or "definitely an initialism" is dumb af then
Asian_Domination_ ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 04:43:39 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The grammar nazis you mean
Aerowulf9 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 21:13:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Why the heck not
IzarkKiaTarj ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 19:01:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Haikubot says otherwise.
[deleted] ยท 127 points ยท Posted at 19:24:32 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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WaffleApartment ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 20:20:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Noo that's original haikubot, and is the good one. The crappy wrong one is something like "English_haikubot" and it counts words instead of syllables.
MisfitPotatoReborn ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:28:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL all words are one
syllable. Who knew programming a haiku bot
for upvotes was this easy?
TacticalFX ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 21:35:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Actually the bad haikubot gets showered in downvotes almost every time which is good since it is completey wrong also almost every time.
dmkolobanov ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 21:24:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve never seen /u/haikubot-1911 make a mistake, unless you count that TIL thing. Thereโs a different haiku bot that always gets it wrong though.
LavastormSW ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:04:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think it's hilarious and I love it.
Ragnrok ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:15:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Bad human.
EldeederSFW ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:05:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ha! I pictured you throwing your beer at the tv after saying this!
RES_KnowsYourSins ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:21:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Your passion will be useful in the war against the robots.
Stay prepared, comrade
Quick_MurderYourKids ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:23:30 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
bad bot
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:37:23 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So it's settled, TIL may or may not be an acronym.
ciao_fiv ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:22:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
you also arenโt supposed to pronounce lol as lol but thatโs how i read it in my had every time
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 23:42:11 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
According to who?
djdadi ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 18:05:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's how I say it outloud: "oh, till"
pass-the-butter ยท 76 points ยท Posted at 18:42:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Huh, I always say "Tee-Eye-Ell"
djdadi ยท 53 points ยท Posted at 18:52:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I was kidding. You read an acronym outloud? What a savage.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 20:54:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You do read an acronym out loud, because an acronym is initialism that forms a pronounceable word. Maybe you meant to say initialism here.
I think we're going in a loop here now...
Default-Punk ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:34:45 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
/r/madlads
nfsnobody ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:08:35 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What is an "outloud"? Is that like a henweigh?
ren410 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:49:37 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
More like an alot.
fite_me_fgt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:55:58 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I like this alot.
Metapoetic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:23:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Whatโs a henweigh? Like four pounds?
nfsnobody ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:57:37 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Badum tish!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:18:20 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Dรฉjร vu
ibizan5707 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:26:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Nice save
ren410 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:48:19 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ellowell
Mayor_of_Peachtown ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:12:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Oh worm?
DaTerrOn ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 18:13:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Not pronouncable so much as meant to be pronounced. You can pronounce CIA or FBI just fine.
bigsim ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 18:20:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Effbie? Fbye?
sam2099 ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 19:17:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Fuh-bee?
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 20:20:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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Cthulia ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:34:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I KNEW IT, I KNEW THEY WERE SPYING ON ME
nowItinwhistle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:36:00 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But that would require a vowel between the f and b to be a pronounceable word in English.
jacluley ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:41:43 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
fibbie
DaTerrOn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:43:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly
z_plash ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:53:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No problem for Czech people
Strฤ prst skrz krk
WikiTextBot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:53:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Strฤ prst skrz krk
Strฤ prst skrz krk ( strฬฉtส prฬฉst skrฬฉs krฬฉk] ) is a Czech and Slovak tongue-twister meaning "stick your finger through your throat".
The sentence is well known for being a semantically and syntactically sound clause without a single vowel, the nucleus of each syllable being a syllabic r, a common feature amongst many Slavic languages. It is often used as an example of such a phrase when learning Czech or Slovak as a foreign language.
In fact, both Czech and Slovak have two syllabic liquid consonants, the other being syllabic l.
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fite_me_fgt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:55:01 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Bless you.
karijay ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:53:45 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Eeny meeny miny moe
strฤ prst skrz krk.
It rhymes!
Idlertwo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:54:46 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
One letter at a time. It's exactly the same as TIL. All sort under initialism
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 21:00:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Initialisms are acronyms.
TheKhajiit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:08:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Debatable
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:10:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
An acronym is just an abbreviation formed with the first letter of each word. It doesnโt have to be pronounced as a word.
An initialism is a type of acronym.
WikiTextBot ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:10:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Acronym
An acronym is a word or name formed as an abbreviation from the initial components in a phrase or a word, usually individual letters (as in NATO or laser) and sometimes syllables (as in Benelux).
There are no universal standards of the multiple names for such abbreviations and of their orthographic styling. In English and most other languages, such abbreviations historically had limited use, but they became much more common in the 20th century. Acronyms are a type of word formation process, and they are viewed as a subtype of blending.
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TheKhajiit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:14:35 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
We have conflicting sources because it's debatable
ComeAtMeFro ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:47:26 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
How about it's interchangable and it doesn't matter. Thanks for the new word though.
"Our research shows thatย acronymย is commonly used to refer to both types of abbreviations."
TheKhajiit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:04:15 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The issue with agreeing on that is that neither of our previous sources can coincide with this. It's just a "pick a side" issue.
I prefer colloquially to refer to each differently because it's more precise and no clarification is needed when referring to one or the other.
JacksonBlvd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:53:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL TIL is an initialism.
you_got_fragged ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:26:42 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
WTF is an initialism.
Hourglasspony ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:55:02 on October 31, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks, I learned something today.
SmartAlec105 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 21:50:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I don't say the individual letters so for me it's an abbreviation.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 07:51:57 on October 15, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Are you stupid?
TIL is pronounced till... It is an acronym
TheKhajiit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:30:46 on October 15, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's the dumbest thing I've read today. Kudos.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 14:32:00 on October 15, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
How do you pronounce it then?
alaf44 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 17:30:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Initialism*
Berowulf ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:06:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
At first, I thought that said autism, I am going to continue believing that is what it said, just because it is random and funny. :P
DeathlyVortex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:03:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Not necessarily. Itโs different for different people. Some people say โL-O-Lโ and others just say it as โlawl/lowl.โ Same with TIL. Iโve heard people say โtillโ and someโT-I-Lโ
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:39:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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DeathlyVortex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:44:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Does anybody actually laugh at loud when typing it? No, they generally donโt. They usually just blow some air out of their nose and maybe smile a little.
AnothaSK ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:12:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
WILCO was never used to mean something. Neither was ASAP.
Ansel_Verdigris ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:56:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL is an initialism though
masterxak ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:29:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm 28. We practically invented the acronym for text messaging because you had to press the numpad 2 or three times for each letter.
KanyeWestNile ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 18:04:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The English language is not just some sick Graeme you can play around with your simplifications
throwyrworkaway ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:52:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Gereameame
ssnakeggirl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:02:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Someone should inform the federal government!
AsashinDaka ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:28:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL?
DriveACarIntoMyButt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:43:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
LOL
shizenmeister ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:46:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The US federal government and military must be run by children then.
CrookedCreature ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:19:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's actually initialism
MidnightRanger_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:20:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's actually just fact
Source: am young child
LyingRedditBastard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:44:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL that using acronyms make you a child
Let me call MSFT and tell them....
Sengura ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:49:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I like how he used an emoji in his first text, but he draws the line on acronyms as children text.
And then he uses more acronyms with more emojis to mock her for using an acronym. Sigh...
ePants ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:50:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The military may be full of kids then.
I_Said ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:51:52 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I remember in the 80's my parents screaming at me "IT'S A VIDEO CASSETTTE RECORDER! WHY CAN OUR SON ONLY SPEAK LIKE A CHILD?! WHERE HAVE WE FAILED!"
Borngrumpy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:53:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The IT industry is made up of children apparently.
keepbusywastetime ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:54:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
And that using a four period ellipses with no space after it is clearly how adults write
calcuttacodeinecoma ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:03:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I know it's Sunday, I know the National Football League game is on, but if you could turn off the Entertainment and Sports Programming Network... I've got bad news. I just got back from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention where I had some testing done... I've got Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome, it's gone beyond Human Immunodeficiency Virus, now it's full blown Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome... you should get tested.
moush ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:04:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL is used by childish redditors tho, memes like thst
nmezib ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:23:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
LMAO LOL
chaos0510 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:23:38 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL?
Dr_Evil_173 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:25:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck saving time, right?
bonicr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:26:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
LOL LMAO are different though.
jg1459 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:32:11 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He says LMAO LOL at the end. Hypocritical douche much?!
metaconcept ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:33:09 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, your comment! I laugh out loud!
ChromeKorine ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:38:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
IKR
DreamblitzX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:44:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
LMAO LOL
IbnKhaldune ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:54:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Go back to class, recess is over
ImThatGuyToday ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:56:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL is technically an initialism, not an acronym :O
Buuuut neither are called 'child text speak' so UNLEASH THE KRAKEN! (lmao my autocorrect made it 'brakeman')
ram-rom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:11:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
LOL LMAO :) :) :)
swim_shady ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:19:52 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
LMAO LOL
esoteric_enigma ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:20:47 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Today you will also learn TIL is an initialism, not an acronym. An acronym forms a word that people say.
GerundQueen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:23:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I have learned that today. Like a lot. I have never gotten so many informational messages about acronyms.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:43:11 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Except LMAO that's for adults.
Mutoid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:47:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But it's specific to Reddit, no? Seems like a case of social awkwardness to not know your audience IMO
Dshark ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:12:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL isnโt an acronym, itโs an initialism.
brothermonn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:37:45 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He said "lmao" and "lol" with an emoji all in the same text, this guy is either the best troll ever or the biggest idiot alive.
hyperformer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:03:48 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL?
5thThroAway ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:09:02 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Speak like a grown up you child!
rata2ille ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:26:45 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So what is an over and under?
wacrover ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:56:59 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Hijacking top comment to say I'm glad you learned something new today.
Also, fuck the guy in those texts.
RMcD94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:14:40 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Today I learned I learned?
Bill_NyQuil ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:51 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Your edit reads โToday I learned I learnedโ
Sylthrim ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:10:25 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"Today I learned I learned what an initialism is."
thekamara ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:10:44 on December 3, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I pronounce it till so it's an acronym for me.
nushublushu ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 20:49:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL is not an acronym bc you don't pronounce it. You say each of the letters so it's an initialism. Acronyms are like scuba or NASA.
Thrumpledenoozitty ยท 2259 points ยท Posted at 17:00:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I find the best parties to be the ones where the "life and soul" are grumpy, humorless, ignorant men in suits who think they're smarter than anyone else. I only go to those parties. Those are the most fun parties.
[deleted] ยท 458 points ยท Posted at 17:46:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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Lunitidal ยท 118 points ยท Posted at 18:26:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Did... did you kill them?
[deleted] ยท 67 points ยท Posted at 18:29:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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TheConqueror74 ยท 66 points ยท Posted at 18:50:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Not with that attitude!
Noxid_ ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:55:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Quitter.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:59:35 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:28:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:32:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:57:32 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:00:51 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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KJBenson ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:53:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Is it because you bored them to death with your jokes?
DrFaustPhD ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:41:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So you just left them disfigured because you couldn't finish the job? That might be worse!
pHScale ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:19:28 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You should've tried a bit harder
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:23:41 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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pHScale ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:28:34 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well, "couldn't" bears with it a certain implication.
fnordfnordfnordfnord ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 21:35:31 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Username checks out.
annana ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:21:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But even your username is hilarious!
Xaguta ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:11:38 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Your username is dope.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:13:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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sushisection ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:59:32 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Are you the roller skater chick?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:05:42 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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sushisection ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:09:39 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Shes pretty badass
https://youtu.be/JNWp9FQV2t4
youtubefactsbot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:10:30 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
bot info
Q1189998819991197253 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:15:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Same.
Ariphaos ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:36:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe he was trying to neg?
That sounds suspiciously close to the 'no one else will ever' sort of... person.
The_0range_Menace ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:02:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Wait...I could see that being a positive, as in he's saying you're so subtle and devastating that hardly anyone is going to catch it, but I want to let you know I appreciate it.
Of course, that probably wasn't it. Dude was just a dick.
CantBelieveItsButter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:25:31 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's terrible!
However: if someone is constantly sarcastic, it's hard to tell if they really mean something, or if it's just another joke.
/soapbox
That being said, I'm sure that guy is a humorless pile of rocks and your sarcasm is appreciated universally :)
eyelikethings ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:29:32 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Occasional sarcasm is cool to mix things up a bit but it gets tedious when someones replacement for a sense of humour is to just say the exact opposite of what they mean. There are people around like that but this doesn't seem to be the case here.
cleanedmyhouse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:26:28 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
And the last bit was your sarcasm?
Remember- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:23:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Sarcasm is the best form of humor though! Well that or dadjokes
touching_payants ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:37:47 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I went to an adult party ready to be reserved and judgmental. Turns out it was an orgy.
Thrumpledenoozitty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:44:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I hate when that happens. Then I have to be extra grumpy.
mf_memes ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 18:36:26 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What about this makes you think he's grumpy and humorless other than him wearing a tie and not knowing an acronym
Edit - Only read the first pic...NVM
Thrumpledenoozitty ยท 52 points ยท Posted at 18:42:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Lack of wit, painful grasp of irony, insulting people right out of the gate, and his insistence that he is the "life and soul" of a party. A little humor would have gone a long way in this scenario but this was awkward af.
mf_memes ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 18:47:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I only saw the first picture haha. Never mind my comment.
effyochicken ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:18:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Now if only the guy in the picture was so graceful at admitting he was wrong....
Garden_Of_My_Mind ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:29:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This whole post must have confused the shit out of you then.
heefledger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:54:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What's wrong with suits?
Thrumpledenoozitty ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 20:28:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Nothing is wrong with suits. But when your main profile pic is of you making a tight-lipped smile in a bathroom wearing a medicore suit and tie combo, that speaks volumes. To me it says, "uptight", and apparently I'm not wrong.
Iteration-Seventeen ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 20:40:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You should only wear a suit 3 times in your life. When you kill your first enemy, marry your first wife, and die the first time.
After that, you should always be in denim.
one-eleven ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:37:43 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Suit up! It's time to ruin some people's night!
Dinosauringg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:14:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The dude who calls himself the life and soul of party typically isnโt.
Unless theyโre my father.
Coffeechipmunk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:52:09 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm the life and soul of all the parties I go to.
I mean, I don't go to parties, but still
Thrumpledenoozitty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:24:15 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You're a party of one, baby!
Thameus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:01:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
https://i.imgur.com/hLkOUuO.jpg
[deleted] ยท -12 points ยท Posted at 17:37:19 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You sure can tell a lot about someone from one conversation posted over the internet. Sounds quite bitter.
blosweed ยท 1605 points ยท Posted at 17:30:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This guy sounds like he makes up stories at parties thinking he sounds intelligent and interesting but everyone knows hes a manager at taco bell and is a single middle aged man.
Fire_Bucket ยท 380 points ยท Posted at 18:37:58 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He makes up stories about parties. This guy doesn't have any friends.
Chrislawrance ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 21:41:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If Iโm honest he looks like the loud drunk guy that THINKS he is the life of the party but is just the annoying arsehole everyone just wants to pass out
O___o__O__o___O ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:17:40 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So we have something in common
[deleted] ยท 59 points ยท Posted at 19:27:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre much more lenient than me. I canโt picture him getting invited to parties.
effyochicken ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:18:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I can imagine him getting invited to one. Just one.
annaftw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:15:58 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
And you seem like you know more about Taco Bell than the average joe.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:53:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I canโt even vouch for Taco Bell serving actual meat. I just donโt know....I just donโt know. :(
Esteedy ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 20:38:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But he drives a convertible Sebring.
SongForPenny ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:33:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I drive a Dodge Stratus!!
k-uke ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 20:32:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Can I level with you all?
I don't have a clue what that text exchange is all about.
Edit : got it now. I looked with a fresh pair of eyes today.
InZomnia365 ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 20:59:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
She said "TIL". He considers shorthand like that (text speak) to be childish.
theonewhocouldtalk ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:05:36 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Then he goes on to use LMAO LOL.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:58:10 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He was mocking her.
Rehabilitated86 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:44:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I was confused until I scrolled down, there are more images than just the one.
Garden_Of_My_Mind ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:37:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Did you see that it was multiple photos? Someone above said they only saw the first one and was also confused.
joshuatxg ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 21:02:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That hit me hard and close to home. I'm going to go to work and kill myself.
wanderingsheep ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 22:42:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ain't no shame in managing a Taco Bell.
touching_payants ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:36:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He's the guy who has no friends because he won't stop talking about himself. And according to him, the reason he has no friends is that everyone else is jealous of how great he is.
moondizzlepie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:03:47 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"I had 11 beers. That's the drunkest anyone in our school has probably been."
indefattygobble ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:06:35 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Are you suggesting a single middle-aged manager at taco bell can't possibly be intelligent and interesting?
blosweed ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:34:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ok no that's not what I meant. A middle aged Taco Bell manager can absolutely be interesting and intelligent but when they are trying to be something they're not, people see right through that and it looks pathetic.
Tehmaxx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:17:29 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Manager at Taco Bell makes good money though.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:40:09 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:51:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Or the story might be somewhat true but they over exaggerate details to make the story seem more cool than it is. I had an ex who do that in front of me, even though I had been there when the story he's telling happened and I would know that a lot of the things he was saying didn't actually happen. No shame in his game though. That's why he's my EX.
robosnusnu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:18:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You're wrong. I know for a fact that he's a double middle aged man.
Subtac ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:34:29 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Insulting two demographics in one sentence
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:59:32 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I don't go to taco bell because I always want to save all the employees, they're clammy faces, stained t-shirts, and messed hair makes me feel real bad for them.
narse77 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:42:42 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
/r/iamverysmart material
Ultraballer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:07:49 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone knows the guys who's photos only have them in suits are the most insecure about their jobs. The ones who know they are doing fine are happy to show off that there is more to life than their job
ftctkugffquoctngxxh ยท 172 points ยท Posted at 20:18:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This guy does not fuck.
Ya-Dikobraz ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 22:31:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But he is the heart and soul of the party.
ncnotebook ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:54:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
His body is a one man party. And he still fucks up.
touching_payants ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 20:39:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
r/ihavesex
Omelettes ยท 718 points ยท Posted at 17:59:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This guy looks like some 23-year-old who thinks wearing a suit makes him look more mature so he wears the suit his mom bought him for prom on literally every occasion possible.
Like, who the hell takes a bathroom mirror selfie in a suit? Literally the least classy thing ever.
DrQAlias ยท 135 points ยท Posted at 19:08:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I thought his profile picture was Dwight Schrute.
RambleOff ยท 66 points ยท Posted at 19:52:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Not enough earth tones
XZeeR ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:27:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I thought it was chandler bing
BrattyNixie ยท 166 points ยท Posted at 20:25:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
As someone who wore a suit everywhere at the age of 20 cuz I thought it made me look mature and sexy, I can confirm. So glad I outgrew that phase and started wearing dresses everywhere instead.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:51:07 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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BrattyNixie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:30:32 on October 11, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I love nudity!!!! I just do it as often as I'd like >w< dysphoria can kinda make your feelings about being naked really weird
[deleted] ยท 51 points ยท Posted at 19:16:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I have known this guy since kindergarten. You're not wrong.
horse-vagina ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 20:46:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Do you guys make fun of his name?
[deleted] ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 21:16:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
We did in school. We used to call him Gray-eeem or Greem
Lington ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 21:27:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You should send him the link
7832507840 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 21:28:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Small world or I'm naรฏve
FolkSong ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:49:35 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But he really is the life of every party though, right?
scupdoodleydoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:40:41 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
OMG deets? Did he wet the bed until college?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:34:33 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know, we lost touch after graduating high school.
scupdoodleydoo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:43:38 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I don't blame you.
๐๏ธ yerwoman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:02:47 on November 8, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm Irish and this is in Ireland. I don't think it's the same person you know?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:43:50 on November 8, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Then nope, definitely not. Though maybe it's a Graeme thing. And they look identical, not even joking.
๐๏ธ yerwoman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:07:18 on November 8, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That might be it lol
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 20:59:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I can't imagine a worse idea for a Tinder profile pic.
You're allowed one selfie in your profile, and it better not be a fucking mirror one.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 21:57:26 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Nah mirror ones are definitely better than front camera selfies
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:17:11 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Meh it's not as black and white as that though. Mirror selfies are fine, imo, as long as you can't see the toilet or bunch of mirror specs, and aren't using a tablet. I also think the fact that he's wearing a suit makes the mirror selfie a bit worse.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:02:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Disagree strongly. Mirror selfies are lame as fuck.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:06:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Fair enough!
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:41:11 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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Muckl3t ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:37:30 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
None. Ask someone to take a pic of you.
camyers1310 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 22:37:19 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
.....but I'm 25 and I wear a suit 50 hours a week. ๐ฃ
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:20:24 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Chill on the suit actually, I'm a huge fan of the food critic kid on YouTube who always wears suits. Long as you aren't condescending, suits are okay.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:19:55 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
For prom? Try the 'invested in politics in grade 10 so wears a suit and carries a briefcase every day' guy from my high school.
gatitosforever ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 20:27:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
any bathroom mirror selfie usually is garbage
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 23:15:57 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I took a bathroom selfie when i bought my first suit.. theres nothing wrong with it
Dick_chopper ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:49:19 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Don't put too much thought into reddit comments. They hate everything
brain89 ยท 2316 points ยท Posted at 17:10:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Just remember guys, negging totally works on every girl every time.
DigThatFunk ยท 401 points ยท Posted at 20:21:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Dress like her dad, it releases a hormone called Moanatonin.
When you get into an elevator with a woman, press a higher number than her and then make a big deal about it.
Push her in a lake.
Be one of the tallest guys in the bar and brag about how long your butt crack is.
Sing a song that you supposedly heard on the radio and then make fun of her for not knowing it.
Use the word idiot.
NEVER make her pancakes, force her to make YOU pancakes, in the middle of the night.
throwyrworkaway ยท 61 points ยท Posted at 21:31:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
bonus points if you use the phrase "stupid idiot"
CheBeaR ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 22:35:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Stupid idiot!
Now I will like my points.
Please!
Zecklehiney ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:21:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I can give you my body. Does that count?
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 00:36:17 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You just made the list for this!!
GailaMonster ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 22:16:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Step 1: Trap your princess!
Step 2: Insult your princess!
Step 3: Brag! Not Lying, but close!
sweet_baby_bladefoot ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 23:01:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I watched this episode a couple of times before I realized some guy actually did this to me. He got on the elevator with ~5 women, including myself, and said, "Work hard, ladies, and one day you can make it to the 18th floor."
We don't even work for the same company. There are probably dozens of businesses renting office space in that building, so what floor you're on literally means nothing of any significance.
Oh, and the 18th floor wasn't even the top floor.
JamesGray ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:47:07 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's both horrifying that people can actually be that stupid, and absolutely amazing- because that joke had me laughing off and on for like a week after I watched that episode, and I never would have imagined it could actually happen. It just sounds so absolutely ridiculous and arbitrary, but just like some pickup-artist or whatever might try and think was helpful.
ok_heh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:40:18 on October 12, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's hilarious. And what show is this?
sweet_baby_bladefoot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:58:48 on October 12, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Bob's Burgers! The entire series in on Hulu.
In this episode, one of the minor characters emulates techniques he learned from a pick-up artist to try and get lucky with a lady.
Here's the clip that /u/DigThatFunk quoted.
mandydax ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 21:06:45 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
When I read this, the voice I heard was John Hodgman.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:01:52 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You hear a voice?
usechoosername ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 22:13:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Do not do these in this exact order. Pushing people off tall buildings, even into lakes, kills them.
ISpeakFrankly ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 21:45:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm learning so much today, I'll never sleep alone again.
effyochicken ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:20:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I... you know, maybe this might be something worth bragging about. We don't know for sure just how long his butt crack is. Might be a world record length one...
Jenysis ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:06:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Is this the dentist's video?
Imthemayor ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:23:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No, it's the Deuce of Diamonds
DigThatFunk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:34:07 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Haha, yeah, it is, "The Prince of Persuasia". Not sure if the other reply is confused or trolling but I'm pretty sure Rob Huebel voices both him and the Deuce of Diamonds (that's the baseball guy right? )
NaturesWar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:57:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm really short, can I go to a bar for midgets or am I so blinded by my douchiness that I believe myself to be taller?
floccinaucin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:57:56 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I've never tried this one before, what's the success rate?
MsCrazyPants70 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:16:59 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This might actually be entertaining.
Zulous ยท 701 points ยท Posted at 17:58:20 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This isnโt negging this is just being an asshole
[deleted] ยท 1219 points ยท Posted at 18:01:19 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I've yet to been able to tell the difference
jmerridew124 ยท 460 points ยท Posted at 19:08:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
There isn't a difference.
ChodeWeenis ยท 108 points ยท Posted at 20:04:58 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Negging is chode-speak for โteasingโ which is totally fine for flirting if you keep it light.
But I feel like a guy who uses the term โneggingโ probably doesnโt have a clue in any social party.
โNeggingโ shudder
akcaye ยท 160 points ยท Posted at 20:59:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No, flirting is done by being nice to a person. Negging is the exact opposite, a manipulative piece of shit trying to hurt someone's self-esteem to hopefully bring it down to a level that the manipulative piece of shit will have a chance of looking somewhat desirable.
edit: Why the fuck do people act like I said being nice is flirting? The word "nice" isn't reserved for Nice Guys™. That's why we capitalize and use the proper trademark sign. What I meant was while you're flirting, you are not negging the person you're flirting with. Banter is different from trying to break someone's self esteem. If you're flirting with someone, they should know you like them, which is not usually accomplished by being an asshole. Different things.
Fgame ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 21:16:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
'Man, I really have a thing for girls with droopy tits' is negging.
snugglezone ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 02:52:25 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This is a thing though /r/hangers
anzuo ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 00:25:25 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's basically nice though.
I bet you like fat girls too! Ok let's go to the bedroom.
daffydunk ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 21:24:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The sentiment is true, but it's not exactly that simple. Treating people like they are lesser is never going to fly though.
effyochicken ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:24:47 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a 30 minute conversation and slip in a 20 second tease in the middle of that, does it count as "treating people like they are lesser"?
KitaShika ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 22:59:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Nope. Teasing is fine.
Negging is where your intent is that the person takes it personally. The ideal "neg" is where the victim is 90% sure that you were just teasing but has some doubts and those doubts stay around swimming in his/her mind and impact his/her self esteem.
How can you tell if someone is negging you vs teasing? When teasers hit a sore spot, they stop, look guilty and/or apologize. A negger doesn't, they leave it hanging and maybe add on a backhanded compliment.
Source: Had an ex that manipulated the fuck out of me and often used negging. I'm also the target of much banter in my family/friend group. I know the difference.
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 21:16:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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moveslikejaguar ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 21:29:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Negging isn't teasing though, it's mean spirited and meant specifically to make the woman value herself less.
IsNotHotdog ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 21:45:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
A lot of guys who use it claim the idea behind it is to make the girl ask herself, โwhatโs this guy got going on that makes him think he can talk to me this way?โ If you use it on that type of girl, her self esteem isnโt really something you can affect in any meaningful way.
moveslikejaguar ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:25:42 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I understand you're just trying to explain a concept, but that's not a great thing to say
IsNotHotdog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:02:29 on October 12, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I knew how it sounded as it wrote it, but just went with it instead of walking on eggshells. The way I was thinking about it - thereโs a type of person who will react to the strategy one way and a type that will react another way. Itโs not pigeonholing as much as itโs just setting a dividing line that people can understand.
moose_man ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 00:44:33 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You can flirt by teasing. But itโs the way you tease a friend. Itโs a light touch, a needling at something actually funny. โYouโre stupidโ isnโt teasing. Making lighthearted jokes about a job can be teasing.
akcaye ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:48:59 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I agree. That's my main method of showing affection in the first place. Well maybe not main, but I like to do it. I tease and engage in banter with my wife all the time.
loftywolf ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:52:07 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You have no clue about what flirting is.
noiserr ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 22:55:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You can totally be nice to a person while flirting.
Nrksbullet ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 23:19:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You can also totally be flirting while teasing someone and not being nice.
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 22:08:26 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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effyochicken ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 22:23:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You can tease AND say negative things AND positive things. You're having a lighthearted conversation, not talking to a fragile egg ready to crack at the slightest hint of a tease.
I swear, people in this thread are going 0-100. No wonder they have issues with flirting.
akcaye ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:26:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
And who said the egg shit? I was replying to someone saying negging is teasing. It isn't. Negging is designed to lower the other person's self esteem. Teasing is just joking around in a playful manner.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:52:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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akcaye ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:02:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Just look it up on the wiki. It's deliberate emotional manipulation to undermine one's self esteem.
Zongap ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:15:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Don't ever disrespect m'lady, even In the form of playful banter
akcaye ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 22:15:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's not what I fucking said. Negging is not playful banter.
ChodeWeenis ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 23:54:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You sound upset lol.
akcaye ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:05:25 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's because I don't enjoy the company of morons.
BrohanGutenburg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:33:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This isn't true for a lot of girls. Light teasing is totally fine and usually works really well.
akcaye ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 22:38:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Light teasing is not negging. It's also not being a shithead. Negging is.
BrohanGutenburg ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:41:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's all well and good. But you said flirting is done by being a nice person. That's not always true and when guys think that they end up dumbfounded when doding all over a girl and showering her with compliments doesn't work.
akcaye ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 22:48:11 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But that's not being a nice person means. That's what disingenuous people do to look nice without being actually nice. You can tease and make playful banter with people and still be a nice person. By nice person, I meant well-meaning, not "showering them with compliments".
effyochicken ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:25:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Who hurt you, akcaye? :(
akcaye ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 22:28:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
People who assume by saying negging is not simply "teasing while flirting" means I'm a Nice Guy™.
effyochicken ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 22:32:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You're saying "negging is abuse" used by "a manipulative piece of shit trying to hurt someone's self-esteem to hopefully bring it down to a level that the manipulative piece of shit will have a chance of looking somewhat desirable."
Like, holy shit dude. You're like all black and white - I didn't say Nice Guy first, but you sure as shit fit the bill buddy. Taking it 0-100.
akcaye ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 22:35:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yes. Negging is exactly that.
Urban Dick:
Wiki:
It's not simply "teasing".
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 22:12:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No, it's nothing like that. It's about saying stuff that doesn't make you seem like a sycophantic "nice guy" that the girls are so used to. The person who's being "nice," buying drinks and such, is just as manipulative.
Negging is an aspect of sarcastic banter. It's for teaching it to guys who don't understand how to do it naturally. A lot of guys' first strategy is to be extra nice and complimentary. It's bland, boring, and makes them appear servile. When girls say they want a guy who treats them like a real person, they're talking about this sort of guy, who thinks women are some other species that need to be treated like princesses. A lot pick up is teaching guys how to relate to women the way they want to be related to.
Here are direct quotes from the Mystery Method chapter on negging (I found it online. I don't own it.) He's the one who coined the phrase:
Does that sound misogynistic? Does it have a more positive attitude toward men or women?
The whole "negging is someone trying to hurt someone's self esteem" is some narrative people made up to make these people look bad because they don't like the idea.
akcaye ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 22:18:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The fact that people automatically assume I'm a Nice Guy™ just because I said you don't fucking neg when you flirt with people is insane. Thanks Nice Guys, I guess, we can't use "nice" as a genuine way to say "not a fucking shithead" anymore.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:37:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I wasn't talking about you. I'm also not saying that pick up theory is true. I'm just explaining the theory and how it's not about being insulting or lowering a girl's self esteem.
I do think it's a good rule to not be disingenuously nice, or try to buy a woman's interest with drinks and compliments. Say I start talking to someone in a natural way and we're hitting it off, and I want to get another drink, there's absolutely nothing wrong with offering to get her something, too. No one is saying not to do that. They're saying not to go up to her and offer her compliments and drinks before there's any connection whatsoever. Many people do do this, and some people need it spelled out explicitly. Those people are the targets of this information.
But no one is saying to be a shithead. The person who is negging isn't being a total shithead. The guy in the OP is being a shithead and thus is not negging.
akcaye ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:44:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If you're deliberately trying to undermine someone's self-esteem to make them more susceptible to your advances, you're being a manipulative shithead.
Just because I say that, it doesn't mean I believe that being disingenuously nice, buying shit, or empty compliments, or other disingenuous thing you do in order to get into someone's pants, or expecting that you're owed access to someone's pants for anything, like so many Nice Guys believe, is not manipulative.
I think by saying "being a shithead" you thought I mean being rude or whatever. What I meant wasn't about mannerisms. You can totally disguise negging in a nonchalant, even "polite" manner. But one's intent in negging is what makes them a shithead as a human being.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:52:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I just got through explaining that this isn't the point of negging.
And trying to manipulate people is human nature - grooming, fashion, fragrance, plastic surgery, teeth whitening, making money, working out - all done in an effort to manipulate people. Why is changing the type of things you say any different? Do you go up and talk to unattractive girls with the same frequency you talk to attractive girls? Why? Are you trying to get something out of the interaction? Does that make you a piece of shit?
akcaye ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:08:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Top google hit:
Top definition on urban dictionary:
Wiki:
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:17:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, it's been well established that that's what people who don't know what it means say it means.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1fGOROkZiZE
It's not like some vague idea with hazy origins. You can go right to the source of the idea and see that it states that negging isn't supposed to be insulting.
akcaye ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:32:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You know what you're right... I don't know why Google doesn't directly link to you to define its meaning.
Seriously though. Well established? By whom? TRP?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:52:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well established by this thread. And, sure, if The Red Pill were saying "negging isn't meant to lower someone's self esteem, that's just what the people who don't understand it think" then that would be a great proof of it's actual meaning because The Red Pill are some of the people using it. I mean where else, other than the people who actually use it, is the meaning of the term supposed to come from. Google? Just because Goolge says so that's what it means, even if the people who use it are saying differently, and not just publicly but amongst themselves?
r/theredpill is notoriously the worst of the worst pickup community, yet:
https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3xjzt1/art_of_the_neg/
https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/2uoyhx/the_end_of_negging/
https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/anldy/reminder_insulting_is_not_negging/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1fGOROkZiZE
So, again, how does "neg" mean anything other than what the community that invented and makes use of the idea uses it to mean in practice?
akcaye ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:11:15 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The same way the confederate flag doesn't mean "states rights" just because people who defend it say so.
Wow, shitty pickup artists and even shittier TRP guys are saying they're not manipulative assholes. It's good to learn that everyone else in the world is wrong.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:27:52 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's why I specifically said "amongst themselves" and "in practice." I also pointed out what the source of the idea said.
It's not the same as the confederate flag because the confederate flag has it's origins in history. The people who defend it didn't invent it, and it has been used mainly in a completely different time period by different people. "Negging" originated with pick up artists, specifically Mystery, who defines it in his manual, and is used solely by pickup artists, so it makes since to look at how they use the word in order to derive its meaning.
It's not just them claiming they aren't manipulative assholes, it's looking at their actual instruction, the actual behaviors and attitudes they advocate.
I'm glad you realize and appreciate this. It's the first step in learning to think for yourself and find things out for yourself.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Argumentum_ad_populum
WikiTextBot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:27:56 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Argumentum ad populum
In argumentation theory, an argumentum ad populum (Latin for "argument to the people") is a fallacious argument that concludes that a proposition is true because many or most people believe it: "If many believe so, it is so."
This type of argument is known by several names, including appeal to the masses, appeal to belief, appeal to the majority, appeal to democracy, appeal to popularity, argument by consensus, consensus fallacy, authority of the many, bandwagon fallacy, vox populi, and in Latin as argumentum ad numerum ("appeal to the number"), fickle crowd syndrome, and consensus gentium ("agreement of the clans"). It is also the basis of a number of social phenomena, including communal reinforcement and the bandwagon effect. The Chinese proverb "three men make a tiger" concerns the same idea.
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akcaye ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:45:59 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Argumentum ad populum is not a fallacy with word definitions. The definition of a word is what the majority of people mean when they say it. All credible sources say it's what I say it is. A bunch of assholes say it isn't. Therefore it is.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:23:04 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Except we're talking about what pickup artists mean when they say "neg" and what their intentions are, so it doesn't really matter what other people say they mean. "urban dictionary" and wikipedia are your "credible sources," as if the people who wrote those entries didn't have an agenda.
Exactly, and the majority of people who "say" the word - as in actually using the word - are pickup artists, so it makes sense to look at how they use it and what they say it means, and not look to google or wikipedia.
The only other time the word is used is in discussions like this about what the word means, which isn't the word actually being used.
You're arguing that a word doesn't get its meaning from its use, but by what the majority of people say it means, which is ad populum.
and from your source, urban dictionary:
akcaye ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:11:19 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That definition is saying the same thing with softer words. An ass can be called a pegasus by its owner; it's still an ass. Also you don't get to define a word by being a minority who says it a lot; that's not what I meant when I said "majority of people".
Argumentum ad populum is a logical fallacy. That means the argument is not logically sound. If you define something that can be measured in another way as a fact because most people believe it is one way, that's a logical fallacy.
It can't be a fallacy is the measurement is based on what most people believe it is.
You can't call someone out for saying peanut butter is a popular thing to spread on bread. You can call them out if they say peanut butter is healthy for you because most people like to spread it on bread.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 06:03:55 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If everyone agrees that peanut butter is made of almonds that doesn't mean it's made of almonds.
If we're not talking about what pickup artists mean when they say neg then what are we even talking about? Who gives a shit what most people say it means. Fine. I'll agree that when most people say it they mean insulting someone in order to lower their self esteem. But, when a pick up artist or anyone trying to pick up girls says it, they mean playful teasing.
akcaye ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:41:41 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's what I said. Whether peanut butter is made of almonds isn't measured by popular opinion. That's why that would be a logical fallacy. Words, however, are defined by popular opinion.
If pickup artists only meant playful teasing, they would use a word we already have for that. It's "teasing". You can neg someone with playful teasing. Playful teasing in this case would be just the manner in which negging is made. Negging has a specific malicious intent. It doesn't mean you outright insult people or be rude to them. It's usually hidden in backhanded compliments, which is much more insidious than that.
UnknownStory ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 21:58:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL I have flirted with all my friends. Even those I haven't the slightest interest in
akcaye ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 22:10:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, because I said if you're nice to a person, then you're flirting. That is exactly the same as what I said.
UnknownStory ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 23:08:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You sound like a real nice person.
Are you flirting with me?
I'm flattered.
akcaye ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:09:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Reading comprehension. See into it.
UnknownStory ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:20:11 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Over-simplification. Look into it.
akcaye ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:29:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's... what I was going to suggest.
UnknownStory ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 23:30:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's more than just "being nice". You oversimplified it and now you're getting shit for it.
akcaye ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:36:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't oversimplify it. I said that to contrast with negging, not to mean a specific way of behavior; just well-meaning. Even if I said "you can only say nice things if you're flirting", that still doesn't make your reply any more valid. If anything, you oversimplified to "doing anything nice is flirting, therefore if you treated anyone nice you flirted with them". Which is not what I said by any measure.
Murtank ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:39:26 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Um youre wrong. the intention of negging is to make a woman question themselves and look to a man for validation
That is never the intention for flirty teasing
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:24:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
For it to be neg, there has to be even a small compliment in there.
This is just being rude.
duffmanhb ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:54:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
There is totally a difference... People who aren't even into pickup "neg"... It's just playful teasing. Negging isn't saying, "Hey you're shirt looks ugly, now fuck me you insecure bimbo!" It's more like, "Hey, you want another drink already? Okay, I'll see if we can get you the number to AA while I'm at it :p"
Ishouldbepolite ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 21:21:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, your example still sounds like something only a complete manipulative asshole would say.
CookieDoughnt ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 21:26:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's a rude, dickish thing to say.
jmerridew124 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 21:35:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I hate to pile on, but you might want to not talk to women like that. In my experience they generally don't like it.
GailaMonster ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 21:45:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Aaaaaand I'm running away as fast as I can...
(and just to be clear since you're vaguely defining the term, negging is specifically giving backhanded compliments, not just playful teasing. it's always a variant on "i like this shitty thing about you". I guess your AA/drink example is kind of negging, because it's being nice - getting another drink- while being shitty - seeking to make the other person self-conscious about their drinking)
duffmanhb ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:15:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs just being playful. Go ahead and start running away simply because a guy is having fun. Itโs not meant to make her feel insecure.
GailaMonster ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 22:22:07 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
There's how you may intend your comments, an then there is how your comments reasonably come across. If you don't know me, and you're trying to buy me a drink, making a joke about AA reasonably comes across as somewhat dickish. there's a WIDE chasm of unpleasant comments between "comments that make me feel insecure" and "comments that continue to pique my interest in a person".
And yes, Negging is quite literally designed to make a woman feel insecure while also dangling your personal approval in front of her, to suggest that "most people wouldn't enjoy you, but don't worry I do." that is negging at its very core. If you paid much attention to the PUA community's discussions on this, you'd have seen men lay that out explicitly. BecausePUA is not about making a woman feel good, it's about the PUA getting their desired results regardless of how other people feel.
It's not that the comment makes me feel insecure - it's that the man's conduct is unpleasant and at that early stage, I have nothing invested in that person and would simply walk away from unpleasant stimulous.
If I find music on the radio unpleasant, I change the station - and not because the music made me feel "insecure". Presuming that I feel insecure and telling me that the guy is just trying to have fun with me is just more negging. No thanks!
E: spelling
slainbabyyc ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 22:43:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
you're gonna buy her a drink and simultaneously suggest she has a drinking problem where on earth does that make her want to sleep with you? even if she's not offended it's just a weird thing to say, clearly you're at a bar to drink and it implies a condescending attitude on your part bare minimum. some women might be into it, the ones with low self esteem who are used to being told what to do by their abusive fathers for instance
duffmanhb ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 22:48:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You're taking the tone wrong... It's supposed to be in a jjoking playful way, not an insulting way... More of a fun way. The same way that if I were at the movies and my GF gets some candy and popcorn with extra butter, I'd joke, "Looks like someone's getting diabetes tonight, I'll make sure to prep the insulin shots for the drive home." I'm not calling her fat, not trying to tell her not eat junk food, just joking around.
slainbabyyc ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:13:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
i completely understand the tone you are intending i am saying the content of your 'joke' is weak and reveals a condescending 'oh aren't you a stupid helpless idiot' mentality even if you don't intend to reveal what you really think of women
also, that joke is definitely gonna make her feel insecure lmao have you ever had a girlfriend. any comment regarding her weight or eating habits is best left way the hell over there
duffmanhb ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:16:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's not supposed to be seen as that though... That's how outsiders looking into the pickup world like to define it, as a strawman to attack.
Like I said in another comment in length, I knew one of these guys when I lived abroad, who was actually good at it. The intent of these things is to not put her on a pedestal. While other men are falling all over her, getting nervous, treating her like a queen (like many many many men do to really attractive women) saying things like this lets her know, "Hey I'm not like the other guys... I am not going to walk on eggshells and seek your approval around you. I'm going to treat you like everyone else. I'm going to tease and give you a friendly hard time for fun and laughs." It's not supposed to be a put down, rather a signal that you treat her as an equal because you are an equal. This, in return, causes her to become interested and stand out, because you're not drooling over her and showering her with affirmations.
GailaMonster ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 23:30:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You don't get to control how other people take your comment. Your intent in these moments is literally less important than how the comment will reasonably be taken.
"outsiders to the PUA world" is most people. when most people see your comment a certain way, you're failing at the very concept of communication by saying that the majority is wrong, because you intended to say something different.
If I intend to complement someone on their hat, but it comes out "fuck your mom", other people aren't wrong just because they also didn't hear "nice hat".
This is a problem with the PUA community writ large - you think you have more control over how other people take your conduct than you really do.
you control yourself. I control my reactions to you. If you were "supposed" to come across as nice, but people react like you weren't nice, and in large groups - that's feedback for how effective you were at doing what you were "supposed" to do. that's how casual communication works - the outcome is more important than your intent.
duffmanhb ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:47:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well over text is different. You should not be looking at my comment in how it could be said in the most rude way possible and be thinking, "Okay if this guy says it's not supposed to be done in a dick way, how can I read this comment in such a way?"
The only people who would see my comment as rude, in person, would be a minority. Most social and engaging people wouldn't taken as rude because they have a social competancy to understand I'm joking and saying it in good fun;... Based on my tone. I wouldnt say something like that staring them down and accusing them of crippling alcoholism, obviously. But instead in a fun playful way that you'd play with a friend you get along with.
I can't control how you react to that, but if you took that as an insult, I wouldn't get along with you anyways.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:51:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Presumably delivered in Californian upspeak for maximum effect too.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:50:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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duffmanhb ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:14:58 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I agree. Their interpretation of how women like to be treated is from anime where you put them on a pedestal and worship them. No teasing. No being playful. No fun.
Kasplazm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:16:06 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's threads like this that remind me that population of this site aren't normal people, and that I should log off the internet lol
ipn8bit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:44:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
negging is a complasault
jmerridew124 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:59:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Did you mean to type "complinsult?"
ipn8bit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:58:33 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
yeah, I'm not the best. lol
jmerridew124 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:24 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Typos don't reflect poorly on you. I liked what you were going for.
Azertys ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 21:42:35 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The difference is intent. But I guess the result is the same
jmerridew124 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:44:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Honest question, what difference is there? The intent seems the same to me.
Azertys ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:18:04 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If you're an asshile you'll belittle other people because you feel like it and it makes you feel superior.
If you're negging, it's because you learnt somewhere that lowering a girl's self esteem is going to help you get into her pant, so you do it in hope you'll get laid. I don't think the asshole think it will get him laid.
bugbits ยท 60 points ยท Posted at 19:17:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Negging is BS but at least has an end-game strategy, this guy is just lighting dynamite and blowing the convo to smitherines
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 21:39:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
all neggers are assholes but not all assholes are neggers
Lemon_Dungeon ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 00:35:27 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's a typo away from being bad.
Quick_MurderYourKids ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:26:02 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
the difference here is he was being an asshole to no end. he actually wished her luck and presumably stopped speaking to her. if it were negging he would be an asshole while simultaneously trying to meet up with her.
thelizardkin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:18:27 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Being an asshole isn't always malicious, but negging is blatant manipulation.
Helmet_Icicle ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 21:42:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Why do you so readily express ignorance as though it's a prize worthy of value?
Being an asshole usually manifests in antagonism as a result of attempting to cope with insecurities.
Negging is a very specific method of communicating emotional energy used in very specific contexts that of course gets blown out of proportion and completely misused by people who have no idea what they're doing, then misinferred by more people who have even less of an idea.
Imagine you're a 10/10 woman. Looks, lifestyle, mentality, everything. Just about every man wants you and they don't let you forget it. The left half of the bell curve usually expresses this in very basic terms that don't address you as a person: "You're hot," or maybe "Nice clothes," or even "Your physical form is very aesthetically pleasing," etc etc. To them, it's the first time they've told you some very nice things. To you, it's the same effortless garbage compliments trying to get your attention that you hear day in and day out.
Imagine you encounter a 10/10 man. He possesses emotional intelligence by way of insight and empathy. He subverts what you, the 10/10 woman, are expecting by not only ignoring your pulchritude but also the idea of complimenting you altogether. He teases you in order to test your ability to build rapport, gauge how valuable a partner you are by trawling for issues with spoiled entitlement, and also to just have a fun interaction. Because of this, he stands out to you and the both of you may pursue a connection.
Now, none of that inner communication is evident to anyone who's just watching from the sidelines without applying any critical anlysis. They just see you, a good looking woman who just previously rejected them even though they called you beautiful, giving attention to a good looking man because he called you a butthead.
Edit: spelling
Risikabel ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 22:01:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That bullshit is not for the masses. It might be a niche way of successfully interacting with certain types of women, but it's just going to hurt most of them in a way that benefits no one.
Helmet_Icicle ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 22:06:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The only reason you perceive it as bullshit is because you're right about idiots who don't know how to express themselves and further idiots who don't know how to receive expression.
Obviously, it isn't and can't be properly used by anyone but top tier people. It's a very common behavior to model the superficial shape of professionals without understanding why and how it works, then have completely disastrous results.
Congratulations on your learning experience.
How do you reach this conclusion? Why do you have such a low opinion of women and of men?
A) You're judging a method based on erroneous execution, and B) They're only hurt if they choose to allow themselves to be.
Risikabel ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 22:49:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What I've learned over the years is that there are people who think like you - ones who come across as very pretentious, very "sure" of the things you think of what woman/man falls into what category - yet you let your world view become so small through this bizarre lens of rankings and value.
I didn't downvote your comment, even though you directly insulted someone who meant no harm with their comment, because I always appreciate other views, even if just to get an idea of why people are the way they are. Yet mine gets downvoted instantly because you think you have something to teach me. But you don't. I could consider myself a "top tier" woman in my own slice of humanity and I would have no interest in entering the one you describe.
I couldn't care less about people having their own elitist ideals, but when you think hurting someone is within their control (for every single human being), and you would look down on someone if they couldn't control it, that's when I have a problem.
Helmet_Icicle ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 23:06:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You sure have a lot of excuses for why there is no substantiation to your argument.
Using what you think are big words doesn't make you conceited, but thinking they do does.
Sure, that's why you went to all the effort of articulating it. If what you say is true, you wouldn't feel the need to express it. As if anyone cares about posturing online.
The moment you stop relying on external validation as a band-aid for insecurities is the moment you start improving. Inferring injury and victimization is a choice.
[deleted] ยท -12 points ยท Posted at 20:20:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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TheCheeseSquad ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 20:43:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Lol no one likes the real you so you resort to manipulating someone into depending on you. That has to be the single most pathetic thing I've read online today lolol
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 21:39:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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TheCheeseSquad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:10:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's not exactly obvious that you don't support it because I don't know you and have no reason to believe otherwise given this whole thread. Maybe put somewhere in your post that you don't support it so you don't get backlash for no reason.
Lemon_Dungeon ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 00:36:55 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, everyone plays games online. That's why tinder is full of comments telling OP not to do the things he do and stick with plain responses that don't express anything.
TheCheeseSquad ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:40:20 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I mean it's better to express nothing than to express the fact that you're so incredibly insecure you need to literally yank another person down to below you to date them.
CookieDoughnt ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 21:28:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Gross.
Malarazz ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 20:45:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Negging is supposed to be done on very attractive girls who get approached by 10 guys a night, to bring them back down to your level. Models, strippers, that really hot waitress.
It's not supposed to be used on any average girl, and it's definitely not supposed to be used in a manner that's not playful.
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 21:44:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Difference is a negger is interested, this guy isn't.
[deleted] ยท -62 points ยท Posted at 18:05:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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KorovaMilk113 ยท 102 points ยท Posted at 18:08:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think what you're thinking of is "ribbing" like harmless poking fun, there is no nice negging because negging is supposed to hurt someone's feelings in a stupid attempt to make them crave your affection or something (at least that's my understanding of it)
al666in ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 18:36:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, negging is explicitly the art of reducing someone's confidence in order to make them more attainable.
Very different from flirtatious teasing, which is what /u/PancakeParty98 was trying to describe (I believe). They were correct that it's a fine line.
[deleted] ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 19:24:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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al666in ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 19:38:20 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Cheer up, honey, you're bringing the whole place down. How about I get you a drink? Hey, did anyone ever tell you that you have asymmetrical lower eyelids? It's a shame, otherwise you could have been a model.
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 19:49:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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VunderVeazel ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:53:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Sure whatever, just let me finish this post about this easy smash real quick.
Malarazz ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 20:46:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Lol it definitely worked, otherwise people wouldn't have heard about it. The problem is its meaning and purpose got twisted by random douchebags who aren't pickup artists.
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 20:52:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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SnorlaxTea ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 20:57:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well that clearly isn't correct since you don't believe it and you're a grade A sucker
Malarazz ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 22:34:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Be that as it may, they still sleep with hot girls whenever they feel like, something that the majority of straight men dream they could do.
Negging started being used for a reason and it became a concept for a reason. Regardless of how frat boys distorted the concept to be used in a different way.
collapse_turtle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:13:35 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
negative, ghost rider.
Malarazz ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:41:26 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Which part? Lol
whatyousay69 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 21:12:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So basically the DENNIS system?
KorovaMilk113 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:00:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm honestly surprised r/theredpill doesn't have the DENNIS system chart as their banner lol
I_am_the_Batgirl ยท 59 points ยท Posted at 18:07:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
As a tactic to pick up women, it's ineffective. As a general way of interacting with people, it's an asshole move. Trying to make others feel shitty is never "kind and funny."
potpan0 ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 18:43:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If you're 'negging in a nice way', then it's not negging. The whole point of negging is to make the other person feel insecure so that you can swoop in later.
LeKa34 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 18:22:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
At that point it's not negging any more.
kancitbassdud ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 18:21:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Then that's just teasing, which is funny and harmless
BadAdviceBot ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 19:01:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
found the red-piller
Nalivai ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 19:42:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You seem to know a lot about it for an overweight social inept kid.
Was it funny but sarcastic enough? Will we fuck now?
crybannanna ยท -8 points ยท Posted at 19:16:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The difference is intent. Hard to tell someone else's intent but that makes all the difference.
stridersubzero ยท 85 points ยท Posted at 18:19:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Isn't negging just that, but with the goal of manipulating a woman into sleeping with you?
ashok36 ยท 76 points ยท Posted at 19:00:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I only know this because I watched that stupid VH1 reality show with Mystery and the house full of fake-nerds but...
Negging is not being a dick. Negging is saying something like, "That's not your real hair color, is it?" when you know that is actually is. That way the girl can say, "No! It's totally my natural hair color." and the guy can be like, "Wow, That's crazy. I would have thought you'd have to pay good money to get hair color like that." or similar.
It's like a compliment given in reverse. It is not supposed to be just an insult.
-edit- for those down voting, I am not encouraging or endorsing negging. Just trying to explain what it's actually supposed to be.
Source : http://negging.com/learn.htm
Apokolyptyk ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 20:11:35 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What? I'm confused. How is the example you gave anything close to an insult? It just sounds like a compliment to me. Like "your hair looks so nice I thought you had it dyed". Have I been negging people unintentionally my whole life without realizing it?
Nighthawk700 ยท 62 points ยท Posted at 20:38:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He's not really explaining it right. Negging is usually a backhanded complement. That example kinda works because phrasing it that way puts the girl off kilter and in theory gets you onto her radar.
The theory is supposed to work on girls who are 10s (the pick up artist's target), because those girls get so many people hitting on them or grovelling in every conceivable way that just complimenting them makes you look just like every other guy out there. If she has pretty hair you can guarantee she's been told that a million times, so saying it basically makes you just another guy trying to get to her by mentioning her hair. BUT if you start with, is that your real hair color, you are doing the opposite because you are expressing doubt about her appearance, something most people either wouldn't dare do because she makes them nervous or because they are trying to be nice to her to get in her pants. It demonstrates you have some high personal value that you don't just grovel or compliment her but can actually take notice of something like that, but in any case you did something different which makes you stand out.
By turning it around you are still complimenting her but you've demonstrated that you believe yourself to be on her level by being willing to either criticize her or generally not believe she is some impossible goddess.
It might sound ridiculous but in context it sorta works but requires a few things. One, the girl to be kinda vapid because a smart girl will be looking for a person who is genuine and not just a bar hopper trying to get laid with tricks, and two pick up tricks are meant to get a socially awkward person to simulate a high value person until they figure it out for themselves. So in this case a genuine person wouldn't neg but at a simple basic level being able to doubt a girl's appearance and make a comment on it is something a high value person could do. It won't work on every girl in every situation but the goal is to just get used to doing it until you can actually have a balances conversation with a girl you used to believe was "out of our league"
For what that's worth....
Ishouldbepolite ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 22:06:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You have to remember that all of this was thought out by insecure socially inept nerds with women issues who taught themselves how to pick up people by trial and error. Their philosophy is a weak, "just so" justification after the fact where they themselves don't really get what they were actually doing. They needed the idea that they were getting one over on the beautiful women because their low opinion of themselves and the women they were talking with made them believe that they must be tricking women in order to have a chance.
The dudes just mistakenly thought it should be considered insulting because through their misogyny thought only "natural looks" counts and that it was some brilliant "hack" while for the women they were targeting they were just compliments given in a none traditional way. Since they didn't share the bizarre idea that recognizing that somebody went to the salon, was supposed to be an insult
Generally, coloring hair and going to the nail salon aren't considered taboo by club going LA women. In fact most would appreciate that you'd notice the effort they put into themselves. And if they're actually natural then you've just told them that they achieve naturally what others need to put a lot of work in.
TL,DR: The original socially inept dunces found a compliment that they thought was an insult, sold the mistaken idea to other socially inept wannabees and women have been getting insulted and actual backhanded compliments for real ever since.
flipshod ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:23:38 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think "trail and error" is actually closer to what I've experienced.
Ishouldbepolite ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:47:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Fixed! thanks.
flipshod ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:32:19 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I wasn't getting on your typo (was sincere in my comment).
I think "trails and errors" means a new thing. Not just a trial, but going down a road for a while, and only then learning.
An auto correct creating a good play on words.
vegasbaby387 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 22:51:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What in the actual fuck? I think maybe this is the type of strategy you use on unstable girls with daddy issues/low self esteem to exploit it... like the kind you might find drinking themselves silly at the bar frequently.
Nighthawk700 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 23:59:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Not me. But yes that's generally the type of girl that might fall for this type of tactic. Remember pick up artists aren't looking to bring a girl home to mommy
vegasbaby387 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:05:13 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, it's just strange to me that people think their tactics through this fully. I can't imagine they have all that much success. Successful socializing relies more on instinct than anything. Maybe they think they do because drunk girls are easy?
ashok36 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:29:29 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think for them it's more of a numbers game.
It's like the really obvious scams that you think to yourself, "there's no way someone would fall for that." But the trick is, they make the scam just obvious enough to filter out the people that would see through the scam after half an hour (wasting the scammed time) . The mark they want is stupid enough not to see the obvious scam. The same thing is going on with these PUA dudes.
Nighthawk700 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:38:01 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly. A smart girl can read a guy pretty well and see through something like negging. The comment in context of weak body language or some tell of insecurity sends a different message than the one given by a confident person who is genuinely asking. But a girl who can be manipulated like that is the girl a pickup artist uses to boost their confidence until they learn to talk to women like people rather than mysterious objects of sexual desire.
Niirai ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:04:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Especially that last part is I think the crux of the whole negging situation and method. If you follow a certain method long enough they become natural to the point where you don't need it anymore and have actually learned or changed.
In the case of negging I think that can go in 2 directions. Either you get rejected enough times and have some nice experiences in there that make you realize there is no such thing as leagues just people who match and those that don't. Or you get rejected enough and bask in the ego boost you get from the successes that you become someone with a red pill mentality.
Last thing I'd like to add is that I think looking for casual sex chosen by more direct criteria like looks, or direct conversation starters are fine. I don't think a girl needs to be "vapid" to be interested in someone that uses pick up tricks. She's most likely not going to spend her life with him. The objectification part is tricky but even that doesn't need to be an issue if both parties want the same thing.
Nighthawk700 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:48:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I agree, I guessโ vapid wasnt the right word. I meant in the sense that a put together woman with good social awareness and self esteem would likely notice the neg as a parlor trick (because she sees by body language or otherwise that he's insecure) or not base attraction on a guy who feels comfortable rejecting her. Of course she may see that and go with it because she is just looking for a lay but I mean this all in a general sense
RedditGuy56789 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 20:30:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Your description doesn't match your link at all. It is not a compliment in any way. The goal of negging seems to be to lower a girl's self esteem without her perceiving it. Like "is that your natural hair color?" and if it wasn't her natural hair color, then she'd feel a little bit shittier about herself without you looking like a dick.
Ishouldbepolite ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:20:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The point is that if you are doing it "unnoticeable", it wouldn't be an said in a tone that was insulting by itself. And the insult would depend on the action itself being shameful or "then she'd feel a little bit shittier about herself without you looking like a dick." isn't going to work.
Ask yourself, why would it be insulting for a club going LA woman that somebody recognize that they went to the hair salon? It presupposes that the women would be embarrassed by the fact that it wasn't their real hair color, instead of taking it as a compliment that somebody recognizing the effort and choice they made.
Since the whole point was to not make it sound like an insult and the person they were talking to almost certainly didn't think of the action of going to the salon as insulting, it probably just came across as compliment.
Probably didn't stop the PUA idiots from feeling they had one up on her but there is a reason why PUA's don't have succesfull long term relationships.
[deleted] ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 19:30:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Holy fuck...the real cringe is the word โneggingโ. I had never heard of the word before this thread. Now I wish I didnโt know it existed.
LavastormSW ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 20:06:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I always think of the Neopets egg things. They're called "neggs" and are much nicer than the act of negging.
ineffable_mystery ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 20:17:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm glad I'm not the only one who does this
reusablethrowaway- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:27:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't before think of them before, but I certainly will now.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:49:58 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well shit...now I canโt unthink that. I will forever be confused by โneggingโ
Niirai ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 20:41:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Just wanted to let you know that I disagree with you not because of whiteknighting but because I disagree with your statement. There is a clear goal attached to the word "negging" that is about bringing the other person down. I think negging is all about intent, like the page that you linked has psychology behind it where the goal is to let the other person know that they're replaceable or whatever. Bashful flirting like you describe might sound the same but is different in intent. I'm very much like that with girls and my friends where we insult each other a lot, but the intent is never to harm but it's just our humor.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:18:26 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Why do you disagree? You can look at any PUA text or video and it will explicitly state that negging is not meant to be insulting or hurt feelings. The intent is to change the way the woman sees you, not the way she sees herself. A PUA would never want to associate himself with actual negative feelings.
I'm not in pick up. I think it's cringey in many ways, but I'm also not into bullshit.
Niirai ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:09:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Actually upon further research I agree with you. Pick up artists describe it as a tactic to make themselves stand out from all the other men by being dismissive and careful not to be too negative. And my disagreement with the guy was not about it not being a dick but about it coming off a playful jab.
I think the core psychology behind it is to inflate your own self worth by attacking another's. Which I personally don't feel good about, it's not nearly as evil as people make it out to be especially when done like pick up artists describe.
However in practice, most people who apply this strategy are either inexperienced with it and come off as assholes like the guy in the post. Or know how to effectively use it but embrace the objectification part of women with it.
Which brings me back to the point I was trying to make in my previous post, intent. It's called negging for a reason. There is negativity in there, as subtle as it may be done by professionals.
The big problem with the term is that it's been so wrapped up in heated opinions and controversy that it's original and singular meaning has all but disappeared. I mean the guy above us got down voted simply for trying to give an explanation. The meanings of words change and I think the public's definition of the word negging is more synonymous with the guy in the picture than it is with how pick up artists describe it.
SometmesWrongMotives ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:07:31 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"Negging" is a haggling tactic too. "Oh, that thing? It's not worth much..." (Yes it is.) It's an attempt to get a better price in that context, or perhaps trick an ignorant person out of getting proper compensation for a valuable antique.
I've heard bad personal trainers try to do this too. "Oh your form sucks! You need me". Or other marketers.
maybe people use it in different ways, but the basic idea is just an insult.
[deleted] ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 19:26:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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ashok36 ยท 51 points ยท Posted at 19:31:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I really hate that people conflate explanation with approval or defense of stuff. They are not the same.
[deleted] ยท -14 points ยท Posted at 19:32:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:02:45 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Why not just say "Is this your real hair color?" "yes it is why?" "I think it looks great on you, etc etc"
or just say you like the hair color and skip the stupid question because it's obvious when someone has their hair painted
ashok36 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:47:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well, that's what a normal person would do, yeah. We're talking about jerkoffs that can't talk to women without resorting to manipulation.
Ishouldbepolite ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:10:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's basically what they did. They just dressed it up with a lot of hateful misogynistic rationalizations after the fact because they couldn't believe they could get a women's approval without somehow "tricking" them.
Nertez ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 19:54:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Dude, get ready for downvotes. Reddit doesn't like to be explained that their wrong idea of negging is actual flirting and not "manipulating women into having sex with you" (whatever THAT means). Been there, done that.
NotKateBush ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 20:40:38 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Actual flirting would be teasing instead of negging. Shit like negging is for people with poor social skills who are trying to manipulate a social interaction to go to their way.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:25:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Negging is teasing.
Yes, that's exactly what it is. Just like teasing is a way for people with good social skills, who pick up on it naturally without needing to be taught, to manipulate a social interaction to go their way.
What should someone with poor social skills do - continue to have poor social skills and accept that social interactions won't go their way? Or should they learn social skills? But, wait, wouldn't learning social skills be manipulative? No? Then, what if "negging" is actually a social skill? No! Couldn't be! It must be an evil plot hatched by men to lower women's self esteem.
amyslays ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 20:20:07 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
People thought you were advocating negging? Pro-negging? That's not at all what I took away from that comment. Upvote from me.
Also reverse compliments are the best way to not get laid.
RajaRajaC ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 18:21:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I was convinced that this was Negging. Now I am told that it is not? So confusing
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:26:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, because the people who convinced you had and agenda and don't care what it actually means or what it's supposed to be.
IDontLiveInYakima ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:38:27 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Same thing.
TheStalk_Freelancer ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 18:24:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
60% of the time, it works every time.
nailnubs ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:42:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously. Douching out always wins the ladies.
Just ask Chad.
ambitiontowin56 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:09:11 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
For what it's worth, this is a really really shitty example of how to neg
madd74 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:21:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well, 60% of the time it does work all the time.
Dangly_Parts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:22:08 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Dafuq is negging?
e_z_p_z_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:53:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
you only need it to work like 10% of the time
GaySwans ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:34:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like "negging" is widely misunderstood. You don't insult people, you tease them. It can help break the ice to tease someone. It's the difference between saying something like, "wow your hair is ugly," and "you know, I might think you were cute if that potato chip wasn't stuck in your hair." If someone walks up and says that with a big smile, it's funny and disarming.
Thebravery1 ยท -40 points ยท Posted at 18:08:52 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He's not neggin, he just pointing out ops cringing language. Who says til outside of Reddit. Surprised she didn't say when does le narwhal bacon xD
MrRobotsBitch ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 18:58:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL is not a term exclusive to Reddit.
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 19:27:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL
Dead-A-Chek ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 19:26:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Your self awareness needs some serious work.
Pozla ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 18:23:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
LOL XD
69SRDP69 ยท 381 points ยท Posted at 18:22:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He literally starts the conversation with an emoji
ThrustfulBonzai ยท 195 points ยท Posted at 21:41:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
And then says "lol lmao"
ImKindaBoring ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 22:52:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Fairly sure he meant that last part to be sarcastic.
xyroclast ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:54:22 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Twist: He's a kid
Ya-Dikobraz ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:31:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
And ends is with LMAO LOL.
Tiger-Gautreaux ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 22:55:35 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Sarcasm, though. Made him even more of an asshole.
JSaltsea ยท 581 points ยท Posted at 17:40:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What the hell is an over and under?
[deleted] ยท 457 points ยท Posted at 17:48:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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๐๏ธ yerwoman ยท 415 points ยท Posted at 18:09:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL the barrels are arranged vertically!
pass-the-butter ยท 568 points ยท Posted at 18:44:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Weird to see an adult speaking in baby talk.
MoribundCow ยท 111 points ยท Posted at 18:48:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Weird to see an adult speaking in fetus talk
throwyrworkaway ยท 124 points ยท Posted at 18:55:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Weird to see a fetus.
bokurai ยท 64 points ยท Posted at 19:56:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Probably is.
floccinaucin ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 00:58:50 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Weirder to be one, that's for sure.
middlefingerpuppet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:45:35 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Weird to see a fetus toting an over and under. Google it.
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 20:43:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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04pags ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:40:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
๐
ghpkhg ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:25:33 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
u/ChrisHanson ?
MrSantaClause ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 20:12:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not a teacher.
AaronVsMusic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:42:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a sexy widdle baby
PinheadLarry_ ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 18:55:32 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL?
andthatswhyIdidit ยท 55 points ยท Posted at 20:46:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Totally Infant Language.
Straziilgoth ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:50:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Tibetan Infantry Leauge
throwyrworkaway ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:33:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Explain Like I'm Fetus
thisrockismyboone ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:15:13 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Unless they were arranged horizontally then they are called a side-by-side
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:41:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Have I been holding them sideways this whole time?
Egardat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:08:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That would be a side by side
brin722 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:39:29 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL?
BramblePaws ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 18:15:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Glad you said that as my search brought up urban dictionaryโs meaning: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=under%20and%20over and wondered what their pic was!
PM_PICS_OF_ME_NAKED ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 18:49:47 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I wonder what OP has been getting up to...
darktree27 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 18:59:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This is exactly what I found and thought the same thing.
gatitosforever ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:26:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
thought she might have been a bookie with great odds on today's matchups
elSacapuntas ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 18:24:32 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
We refer to them as OU where I work. I guess we are a childish company.
TheCakeBoss ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 23:20:32 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
so you mean the barrels are like
o
o
instead of
oo
EarthSlapper ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:43:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It makes it a bit funnier that while it may technically be correct (not actually sure), I've never heard anyone who actually knew what they were talking about call it an "over and under." They just call it an over under or sometimes written as over/under.
AlwaysAngryyy ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 23:05:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I might be overthinking this, but it seems like he only brought it up to sound smart in the first place. Certainly anybody who talks about them regularly wouldn't bother saying the "and".
Iteration-Seventeen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:42:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This is my favorite type of shotgun barrel as well. Looks so god damned classy.
Up_North18 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:57:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Oh wow, I'm a huge gun nut but reading the texts I had no idea what he was referring to based on the context.
joegrizzyIII ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 21:08:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Okie here.
Never actually heard it called an "over and under".
Only ever heard "over under".
ARQBZAK ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 21:51:43 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously, who the hell calls it an over and under?
FolkSong ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:48:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
ADULTS
I can't believe you call yourself a teacher.
xyroclast ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:53:14 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Is that an acronym? What are you, a kid?
NoFreeSpeechHere ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:50:50 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I OWN one and I didn't get the reference.
GTBlues ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 17:43:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I want to know that too. I googled it and it was something about sports betting odds and I'm none the wiser. Hopefully some kind person will explain it to us!
mreed911 ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 17:46:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Shotgun.
GTBlues ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 18:16:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry, I still don't understand. I thought shotgun meant getting the passenger seat in a car?
cosmicosmo4 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:35:36 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, when two people call it at the same time, one sits on the other's lap. That's called an over and under.
mreed911 ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 18:25:31 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs also a gun. A shotgun. An over/under shotgun.
Your google skills are weak.
You should also google โriding shotgun.โ
RabidWalrus ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:56:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Woah. You must be fun at parties.
mreed911 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:33:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
A double barrel of laughs!
[deleted] ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 18:35:58 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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PM_PICS_OF_ME_NAKED ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 18:51:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No, recheck the post. He was talking about a shotgun, she then replies that she's actually a good shot.
There wasn't a joke, you just horribly misunderstood the post.
scrubzork ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:47:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Just googled "over under" myself. Got a bunch of results for split underwater photography.
mreed911 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 18:46:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre still not familiar with the origin of the phrase โriding shotgun.โ It literally came from the guy on a stagecoach riding up front with a shotgun.
GTBlues ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 18:58:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No, I knew the term but I didn't know the origin. I like it though! That makes sense and is interesting! :)
MyAssIsGlass ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 19:23:38 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
ย
GTBlues ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:25:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I knew the term as it relates to cars in American language, all I was saying that it was interesting to know that it related to stagecoaches and that the person who was holding the shotgun wouldn't be able to hold the reins at the same time and I was just saying that it was an interesting thing to learn.
Have a great day
The_WA_Remembers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:47:31 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Get out of my car.
The_WA_Remembers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:47:34 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Get out of my car.
The_WA_Remembers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:47:36 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Get out of my car.
The_WA_Remembers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:47:37 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Get out of my car.
The_WA_Remembers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:47:40 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Get out of my car.
The_WA_Remembers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:47:47 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Get out of my car.
The_WA_Remembers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:47:48 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Get out of my car.
The_WA_Remembers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:47:49 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Get out of my car.
The_WA_Remembers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:48:11 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Get out of my car.
The_WA_Remembers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:48:11 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Get out of my car.
nyaleo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:50:29 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Over/Under
Side by Side
stropheum ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:46:58 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What you're thinking of is just called an over/under. Basically a way of saying what you think the ballpark estimation of something will be. Like the over/under on a coin flip is 50%, for a super simple example
one-eleven ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 20:34:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Over/under is usually only used for point totals. Like the over/under for the Chicago/Minny game might be 45.5 points, if they hit 46 or more it's over, 45 and less it's under.
It works with anything where the total number is unknown or is a big number where the final result falls somewhere in between. Total points scored, percentage of votes received, number of beers drank, etc.
Ride_A_Cowboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:57:45 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Real name is just Over Under. No and. I've never heard someone call it a over and under.
SuperHICAS ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 18:43:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The thing you're holding in the second picture. Google it.
ThisNameIsFree ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:21:06 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Googled
Gerbils74 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 21:37:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What someone calls an over-under that doesn't really know what he's talking about.
As others have said, it a double barrel shotgun that instead of side by side barrels there's one on top and one on bottom. Over-unders are easier to lead targets with since you don't have to adjust for horizontal lead like you do side by sides.
mreed911 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 17:46:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Shotgun.
FuckOffHey ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 20:55:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Shotgun! ...fuck.
DukeboxHiro ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:53:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Shotgun's lap.
FuckOffHey ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:56:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
FUUUUUCK.
The_WA_Remembers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:48:24 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Get out of my car.
The_WA_Remembers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:48:26 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Get out of my car.
TheGizmojo ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:49:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Also, no one actually calls them an "over and under." Everyone says "Over Under"
ConebreadIH ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:35:41 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
My dad has been wing shooting since a little boy and he calls them over n unders..
kristianur ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:22:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
A crude sexually pleasuring move that you can get cheap where the said prostitute doesn't actually have to touch your genatalia
justin_says ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:54:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Why dont you google it instead of asking!
I hate when people youre talking to say to google something that can be explained in a few words... its different if its something long or complex
ThisNameIsFree ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:22:07 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Especially when the top result from google gives you this
justin_says ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:09:22 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
maybe thats what the picture was of, not a shotgun... never know!
iekiko89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:47:07 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Meanwhile I thought it was jump roping
Schnabeltierchen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:48:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
toilet paper orientation
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:42:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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WikiTextBot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:42:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Overโunder
An overโunder or over/under (O/U) bet is a wager in which a sportsbook will predict a number for a statistic in a given game (usually the combined score of the two teams), and bettors wager that the actual number in the game will be either higher or lower than that number. For example, in Super Bowl XXXIX, most Las Vegas casinos set the overโunder for the score of the game at 46.0. A bettor could wager that the combined score of the two teams would be either more than or less than that number. Since the combined score of that game was 45, anyone who had bet on "under" won.
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degorius ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:01:19 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Lots of people are saying shotgun but they also make rifle over single shotgun variants too Good for varmint control
ThisNameIsFree ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:19:10 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I googled like he suggested... the top result was interesting...
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=over%20and%20under&=true&defid=4014779
TheVagWhisperer ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:22:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Google it.
[deleted] ยท 407 points ยท Posted at 17:45:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This is prime /r/iamverysmart material. You should cross post!
SpikeShroom ยท 66 points ยท Posted at 20:50:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
/r/niceguys
Clorst_Glornk ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 23:55:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Why do nice guys get all the upvotes, girls never upvote me
SpikeShroom ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:19:35 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The sub is actually the opposite. Mocks people who swear that theyโre the โnice guysโ in creepy PMs or posts.
Lemon_Dungeon ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 00:37:41 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
How is he being nice?
saichampa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:59:04 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He didn't really try and claim to be a nice guy though
SpikeShroom ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:42:58 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I guess I assumed that saying youโre the life of a party is the same thing. There should be a sub for that if it doesnโt get categorized under niceguys. /r/imgreatatparties.
G_man252 ยท 51 points ยท Posted at 20:24:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
'Oh my God you used an acronym? Youre so childish' That dumbass probably had no idea what it meant and has such a low self esteem that he took it as some kind of slight.
Mayo_Spouse ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:28:34 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Then he uses LOL and LMAO...what a child.
ThisNameIsFree ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:22:50 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously, wtf
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:56:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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guacamully ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:13:39 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
nice analysis Freud
_Anal_Juices_ ยท 190 points ยท Posted at 18:59:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Oh jeez, silly me, I forgot that as women, we are supposed to model our behavior on what men find attractive. What a silly female I am.
pm_me_bad_fanfiction ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 20:53:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Which is precisely why subs like /r/Incels exist.
Chipwar ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 21:08:45 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Anal_Juices You have my attention.
EccentricFox ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:30:34 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
God, independent thought and agency is so unattractive in girls.
legospidey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:20:31 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That was the best part! He sends her a message and expects her to be concerned about what he thinks
learnyouahaskell ยท -14 points ยท Posted at 22:40:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No but whether you intend it or not, design of clothing historically is
eunonymouse ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 20:53:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
There is nothing more childish than an obsession with being very grown-up.
ThatJamesGuy88 ยท 58 points ยท Posted at 18:54:57 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"With all due respect "Graham", your parents couldn't even spell your name correctly"
saichampa ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:01:03 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Graeme is a known spelling, a famous one being Graeme Base
-LuciferMorningstar ยท 88 points ยท Posted at 17:36:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Sad thing you didnโt get a chance with him, seems like a real nice guy... /s
Edit: whoops, sorry for the /s child speak.
rougecinc ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 19:47:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL Graeme is a negging man-child.
Narb_ ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 18:26:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I hope he finds himself here.
Useful-ldiot ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 21:36:09 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If he has a problem with initialisms, he definitely doesn't reddit.
tekkenDDRagon24 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 19:18:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What a cocky bastard. Bullet dodged. Gross.
[deleted] ยท 565 points ยท Posted at 16:54:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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kruemelmonstah ยท 365 points ยท Posted at 17:13:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think he was trying to show how childish it looked?
RandomCandor ยท 286 points ยท Posted at 19:22:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This is a good strategy, as a matter of fact.
When my toddler wets the bed, I piss all over his toys so that he realizes how childish it looks.
We haven't had any problems since CPS took him away. It works.
Lugal-Sharak ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 19:35:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You heard it here first, ladies. If a guy's bothering you, just pee on him until he goes away!
JabbrWockey ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 20:26:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Works on kids too. Remember this on Halloween when you get those pesky trick or treaters.
MiklaneTrane ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:02:56 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
There is a non-zero number of people that would find that even more attractive.
Lacriphage ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:41:33 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
According to my Tumblr feed the probability approaches 1.
poochyenarulez ยท 67 points ยท Posted at 18:10:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Because thats very adult behavior.
kingtauntz ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 17:54:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
๐
nonametogive ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:30:45 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It totally looks intentional... I guess it's only childish if you're accusing someone of it.
kenman884 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:56:23 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Confession time, I thought he was being serious. You never know with these types.
negedgeClk ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 18:03:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He was being ironic. He's still a douche though.
Gsteel11 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:18:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm still not sure.
Tombo_64 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 22:26:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I can't really tell either.
PM_PICS_OF_ME_NAKED ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 18:46:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What a huge douchbag.
[deleted] ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 20:05:19 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Says the guy taking a mirror selfie.
fifteencents ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:49:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously. Supposedly he's the life of parties, but had to resort to an Applebee's bathroom mirror selfie?
sammynicxox ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 20:15:07 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I just want to know why he assumed she was a teacher.
PummelingAngus ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:30:23 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He probably didnโt realize he was talking to the wrong person, and then was in so deep he had to try to brush it off with the โeven so...โ after she said she wasnโt one.
TLDR: dude sucks.
pandoracube ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:28:02 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TLDR? I am shocked that an adult would use such childish text speak.
[deleted] ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 19:29:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What a fucking Turkey. Canโt believe some people.
touching_payants ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 20:41:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I read this as "Tulley" and spent two whole minutes trying to figure out the GoT reference.... :| Time for bed I guess
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:13:01 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Heโs more of doughnut than a turkey.
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 17:44:07 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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TerraTempest ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 19:05:45 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What are you, a child?
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:06:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 19:23:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Then that F better have stood for something else, or Iโm telling your mom!
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:25:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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silveake ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:43:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This is your mom. You are grounded. ๐๐ค๐โบ๐
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:03:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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silveake ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:36:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Do these emojis look like I'm playing? ๐คก๐คก๐๐ค๐คค
tjfrank94 ยท 64 points ยท Posted at 17:06:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What the fuck kind of name is Graeme?
rampop ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 17:37:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The name of a cracker.
ted234521 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 19:13:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
WACIST
touching_payants ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:39:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
ba dum tss!
Fire_Bucket ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 18:42:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's an alternate spelling of Graham.
keratadikatse ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 19:38:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
A Scottish one. It's pronounced like "graham".
chirgalfrog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:46:07 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I pronounce Graham like Grey Ham
Mr_Siphon ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:40:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
the name of someone that was hated by his parents
thegoodbadandsmoggy ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 17:15:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Soulless ginger
djacob12 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:02:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Couldn't get past trying to pronounce it
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:28:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Rhymes with โnameโ?
saichampa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:02:58 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It has two syllables in Australia, grey-em, but they run together to almost be one
Flexappeal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:53:38 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
it's gaelic or something. "Graim" except you flick the tongue on the "gr"
JasonYaya ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 19:35:09 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Like a Graeme cracker. Those crazy Brits don't know how to use the language they invented, like spelling Jeffrey Geoffrey.
[deleted] ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 19:04:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 19:22:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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Stuck_In_the_Matrix ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:38:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What kind of adult uses a smiley face? LOL.
Orleanian ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:41:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I hear she's a great shot with an over and under. That's gotta be valuable skills.
WolvoMS ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 19:39:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He must watch Rick and Morty
touching_payants ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:42:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
ooh la la, somebody's getting laid in college!
camerkay ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 18:37:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Mirror selfies are the epitome of maturity.
ncnotebook ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:56:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Dumb question, but whenever we take a photo, is the universe taking a selfie?
willmaster123 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 21:06:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Jesus christ it is not 2002 anymore, its not only teenagers using those terms.
I am in my 30s and I grew up using those terms in high school. We GREW UP with that stuff.
rigel2112 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:53:45 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It never was. Adults started it back in the BBS days using just text for them 7:o
eponymouslynamed ยท 91 points ยท Posted at 16:59:58 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What a psycho
r/creepyPMs
๐๏ธ yerwoman ยท 117 points ยท Posted at 17:13:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I cringed so hard I deleted my account after that.
wibblett ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 17:14:43 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I cringed so hard my phone turned off
[deleted] ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 17:31:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I cringed so hard your phone turned off.
[deleted] ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 17:58:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Could you please stop turning off my phone? Thx.
๐๏ธ yerwoman ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 18:14:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Could you please stop using that child text speak? Thanks.
EDIT: /s
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:10:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
np
Edit: No problem. I'm so sorry, don't be mad!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:39:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Cannot, is too much cringey.
blosweed ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 17:35:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
On tinder you're gonna find a lot of awful people you just gotta sort through the shitty ones to find a normal person.
usagizero ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:49:47 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Wait, wouldn't that make the awful ones normal, if they were the most common? ;)
blosweed ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:56:31 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Lol there's just a high percentage of awful people using tinder to boost their ego. Most girls just talk to you giving one word answers and then dip when you try to make plans.
TerraTempest ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:05:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Best just burn the phone while you're at it, don't want to chance it.
xPREVA1Lx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:35:43 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Can you please let me know what an over and under is? Haha
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:48:19 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I cringed so hard I set my phone in a volcano.
poochyenarulez ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:10:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
really? After just a single bad experience?
[deleted] ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 18:31:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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PM_PICS_OF_ME_NAKED ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:55:47 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Don't give up just because you had to talk to one douche. There are a lot of guys out there that would be more than happy to get a date with you, I'm sure.
Don't let one asshole discourage you.
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 18:59:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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PM_PICS_OF_ME_NAKED ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:05:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well nevermind then, it would appear you don't need tinder anyway.
poochyenarulez ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:43:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
me, personally. I got a pet bunny to help deal with the loneliness, but staying at home all day, every day is lame. Pets can only do so much.
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 18:49:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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smallwonkydachshund ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:53:15 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Dogs are a little more social bc you have to walk them/encounter other people. But also: friends!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:38:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Good god, Lemon. You really do use all the clichรฉ reddit ways of speaking, don't you?
[deleted] ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 23:16:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
LOL keep coping. 39 and can't get a date
OldDryCum ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 18:15:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But he used an emoji?
IslandTwig ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 20:45:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Surely there is a better way he could have expressed himself other than using childish doodles.
ncnotebook ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 23:55:47 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But let's be honest. Who do you picture when somebody uses a ๐๐๐๐?
countrybreakfast1 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 19:47:38 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Dude I hate these people. The dudes who correct your grammar on the comments of a twitch stream... The dudes who think girls should only behave in a manner that they see fit .. I hate these people.
springchikun ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 19:06:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Wow. I wonder if he spends time seriously contemplating why he's single.
OP- You are wonderful.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 19:07:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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Fermats_Last_Account ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 19:14:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So you single? ๐๐ป
tryin to make a change :-/
springchikun ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:22:29 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Oops, I responded to that and then deleted it and got all excited because I love this idea! You should go out! If it works out, what a great story!
Fermats_Last_Account ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:02:45 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Lol what? Me and OP? Me and you ;;;))
springchikun ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:36:39 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Lol! I like my idea, it would be so cute! And I wouldn't have any 'splainin to do to my hubby!
Magnum_Dongs3 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 19:27:58 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Op, you gotta update with the follow-up message of โso when you wanna hang?โ
Ricks209 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 19:42:07 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
LaughingMyAssOff LaughingOutLoud
asefas3faw ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 20:36:47 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So these are the kinds of asshats left in the dating pool now that I'm in my 30s?
I've failed at life.
nicklebackstreetboys ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:38:14 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Go get yourself a divorced dude. Thereโs some good ones coming up for the next round.
MisterDarcyType ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 22:06:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This is the most Reddit conversation ever. You two are perfect for each other.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 22:32:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"TIL" isn't even text speech, I honestly didn't know people used it outside of Reddit
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 17:59:43 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
For future reference, it's spelled "whoa".
IAmLionella ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 19:24:19 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'd be like "k byyeeee ttyl! jk"
folkadots ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 19:38:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Of course his name is Graeme.
Jolloway ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:02:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But..... Lmao and lol are abbreviations
touching_payants ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 20:42:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
they're respectable adult abbreviations, you peon
zombiemadre ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 20:03:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If 'TIL' is children's text speech what is 'LOL' and 'LMAO'?
DestyX ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:05:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Old people Tinder seems like a really, really unfun place.
KopitarFan ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:19:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Jesus. This guy doesn't have a stick up his ass. He has a whole damn redwood tree up his ass
imhere4thecomments ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:38:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The Graeme of the crop
becksftw ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:40:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Big talk coming from the guy with a mirror selfie.
Jacksonkisses ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:15 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
A very mechanical selfie at that
sheeeeeez ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:48:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Such a strange thing to be offended by
Doctor_Oceanblue ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 22:03:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Reddit is leaking
FakeDrPanda ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 23:01:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Photo is taken down
saulschindler ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 23:55:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Criticize her for saying TIL, proceeds to say LOL and LMAO in the next text.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 19:15:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Oh my god. I know this guy. We went to elementary school together.
He has been this way his whole life. Not joking.
TakeOnMe-TakeOnMe ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:14:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The irony is rich indeed
PM_PICS_OF_ME_NAKED ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:43:26 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Huh, TIL.
DtotheOUG ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:01:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
>calls acronyms child speak
>uses LMAO, LOL, and emojis
neverr_ben_better ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:12:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Wow, what a genuine piece of shit.
eits1986 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:25:09 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Telling someone to Google something, then immediately following up with a "What's [a thing they just said]". Beautiful.
XxSliphxX ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:41:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Why did he think she was a teacher in the first place?
rockidol ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:57:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Man this is even worse than the people who insist that anyone who uses profanity isn't worth taking seriously.
Diablo165 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:18:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, shit. Negging is still a thing?
we_re_all_dead ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:09:28 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I googled "over and under" and I found "A crude sexually pleasuring move that you can get cheap where the said prostitute doesn't actually have to touch your genatalia"
did I miss something?
P1ac3h01d3r ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:27:11 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
irony....
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:56:08 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What a shithead.
WolfDank20 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:19:25 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Gets his panties in a twist when she says TIL. Proceeds to use two abbreviations himself: "LMAO LOL"....
Lo8ot_42A ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:11:49 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Graeme is the same motherfucking second grader that called my kindergartener โa babyโ today. Bring it, punk-ass
FourthAge ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:24:00 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So are dating apps just for roasting strangers now?
mattmcinnis ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:47:58 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He used an Emoji. Child Text Speak.
Palachrist ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:18:14 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"LMAO LOL". isn't that redundant? And doing exactly what he said is unattractive.
Bro. If you come here and read this. We are all laughing AT you. You're a fucking joke on the internet now. If you got kids I hope they laugh at you behind your back.
HAHA LOL LMAO ROFLMAO
beansworth ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:28:44 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Fun fact: "OMG" was first used in a letter from John Arbuthnot Fisher, 1st Baron Fisher and Admiral of the Fleet, to Sir Winston Churchill.
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/08/06/first-known-use-of-omg-winston-churchill_n_1748042.html
meurtrir ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:03:40 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He's cracking on at her for using TIL but then responds with "LMAO LOL"?
ClumsyDumpling ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:54:41 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"Wow child speak grow up", proceeds to use "LMAO LOL"
Kellyanne_Conman ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:43:47 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Love how he ends with "lmao" and "lol." Pot meets kettle.
RooneyNeedsVats ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:19:19 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"You shouldnt use child text talk" goes on to send a message which he uses both "LMFAO" and "LOL".
seeingredagain ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 18:57:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, negging. The hail mary pass of the socially inept.
violet_smiles ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 17:43:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Then proceeds to use LMAO and LOL.
[deleted] ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 17:59:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He was trying to show how childish it looks.
touching_payants ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:40:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
epilogue: she realized the error of her ways and he got some pussy
realworldeditor ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 17:58:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly. He's probably just trying to neg, but comes off cringey as hell.
moveslikejaguar ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:24:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I mean negging is cringey by itself
Me4Prez ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:04:35 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
and the old classic ROFL
[deleted] ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 21:04:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So the cringe part is that you used Reddit language on Tinder right?
[deleted] ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 21:34:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 21:37:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm glad at least 2 other people felt that way. It doesn't bother me on reddit to read stuff like that, even if it is way overdone, but if someone tried to text me like that, I'd get a weird "I'm quirky" vibe.
ElloJelloMellow ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 22:25:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I also agree with you three
RemixxMG ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 18:31:26 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Belongs on /r/wtf honestly. Ive only had 2 girlfriends in my time, but jesus I'm so much smoother than that. These dudes just torpedo themselves.
Hayleycakes2009 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 19:03:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You dodged a bullet with this one.
Milhouse_is_a_meme ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:26:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Says the guy who used an emoji in his opener.
Jonathan_Rambo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:59:52 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This whole conversation is cringeworthy, oddly enough that seems to be a trend with posts in this sub about half of the time
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 21:34:07 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The guy is cringey and creepy, but OP talks like a redditor, so nobody wins
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:17:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Even though I know it's "Today I learned" my brain always defaults to "Things I learned". Not sure why.
SJignacio ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:18:26 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
long story short he didn't know what TIL meant til she explained it
Meevex ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:20:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Say what you will, but this Graeme is a real meanie.
dryan3032 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:22:09 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It looks like his name was spelled by a child
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:48:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Lol
RedditGuy56789 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:22:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What an ass hole!
JackColor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:38:58 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL is reddit lingo, or at least thats where most people I know ran into it from.
Aconserva3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:53:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:57:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
And yet they use emoji, which are pretty much on the same level of acronyms IMHO
gpod69 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:59:52 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I can't believe you use text speach. That's so unattractive.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:05:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You must be fun at parties
gpod69 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:09:07 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm actually the life of the party %100 of the time, the jokes on you.
redditer1148 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:12:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL I'm a child
FreudoBaggage ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:23:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He has evidently been to one of those Male Seduction classes where he learned that being a hyper-critical jerk really gets the ladies revved up.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:42:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Isn't TIL pretty specific to reddit?
This guy made an ass out of himself though, what a goof.
stanleythemessiah ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:05:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If TIL is childish text speak, why does he use โLMAOโ and โLOLโ?
Considir ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:14:43 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
No one who doesn't use Reddit knows what "TIL" means. It literally originated from an abbreviation of the subreddit.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:32:26 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The number of subreddits this could be reposted in makes this nearly a plantation for karma
Azukus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:37:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
but he said LMAO LOL
BITCRUSHERRRR ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:38:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
As expected from a dude in a tie on Tinder
Meanmonkey007 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:40:09 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Someone's a wittle insecure
akaito_chiba ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:41:26 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Dude doesn't have much graeme.
mtnb1k3r ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:46:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So using the neg angle on her. Dude needs to stop watching the pick up artist reruns.
Rcm003 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:46:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What a hypocrite...."TIL is child talk", then proceeds with "LMAO LOLOL".
AllwaysConfused ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:06:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Okay, I'm an idiot...what's an over and under?
dalek-king ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:17:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"LMAO LOL XD XD XD XD" - a real grown up
BSGBramley ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:45:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He used โlolโ??
justafuckingguy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:45:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I wonder if the "Be Insulting and argumentative" route has worked for him.
Reddzler ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:48:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's obvious why he is using dating apps at his age. I can only imagine she is using them because she USED to be married to someone like him. .
Theons_sausage ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:49:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"Child text speak" for some reason reminds me of "bone hurting juice."
This guy is just the embodiment of a shitty meme.
Fellidae ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:00:48 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"I go on tinder to lecture people about proper grammar. It's a tough job, but someone has to do it!"
Nova-Prospekt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:14:14 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Its pretty easy to see that hes using LOL and LMAO in a mocking fashion because he uses the crying laughing emojis after. I really doubt that he would just contradict himself like that
MintChocolateEnema ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:17:30 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's not an Over and Under, it's an Over-Under!
VivaLaSam95 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:29:50 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL TIL is child text speak.
imsuperserialrn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:41:59 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Wow triggered.... also I'm pretty sure TIL is an adult abbreviation and not somethings kids use.
Mcstringflow ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:45:40 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Graeme on the loose
BaltSuz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:50:31 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Canโt imagine why the guy canโt get any dates?!?!
shadowbannedkiwi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:57:00 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You'd have to be very insecure to make a big deal about one little thing. No wonder he's still looking. Good luck finding a woman who can put up with your insecurities, mate. You're gonna need it.
vanillavanity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:43:19 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He used more "child text speak" than her though? She said "TIL" & he brought out the "LOL" , "LMAO" AND some emojis...
Brickhead16 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:51:28 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So apparently everything a woman does has to be attractive. Or is an attempt to be attractive.
biggumsmcdee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:59:50 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This guy doesn't reddit
imacleopard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:02:03 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
LMAO LOLOh the irony.
senor-queso ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:02:32 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes I feel like I'm not smooth with women. Then I see stuff on reddit and I think, maybe I'm not so bad. Thank you reddit!
_5erendipity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:20:41 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Im sure this has been mentioned already but...
He uses LMAO and LOL after critising her use of TIL? Is it not the same principle? !
ShappaDap ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:24:11 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
B-but they used 'LMAO' and 'LOL'...
never_safe_for_life ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:53:40 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Le sir is quite efficient at determining non-worthy women!
BeWithMe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:19:52 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Saying "TIL" outside of Reddit IS pretty cringe, but not as cringe as how this guy handled it.
MedRogue ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:37:54 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Was this guy looking for an argument or a date?? Literally sounds like my last gf . . .
AllPurposeNerd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:40:02 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL using abbreviations and acronyms is childish.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:11:33 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
LOL RAWR xD
slynk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:53:22 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Acronyms and initialism are for fucking children OMG LOLOLOL LMAO ROFL.
I_forget_users ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:10:28 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Looks like someone read "the game"
theUSpopulation ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:58:28 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So "TIL" is child speak, but "LMAO LOL ๐๐๐" Isn't?
Xtermix ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:53:40 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"LMAO LOL ๐๐๐๐"
saichampa ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:55:27 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He followed up with LMAO LOL which are both not needed with each other and are probably more "child like" comments than TIL
PM_ME_CUTE_FUTANARI ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:12:36 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Wait so this guy has never heard of acronyms?
Yeah, no, I can totally see him being the life of the party...
Dan_The_Gamer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:11:48 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TL;DR
Idarola ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:04:15 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You have to respect a guy who uses a mirror cell phone selfie as his profile picture and still feels superior enough to start attacking a common abbreviation as "Child text speak".
I mean, that is the very definition of having cajones.
WhiteGirlsOnly ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:19:21 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Deoxyribonucleic Acid
SupperTime ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:57:25 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He proceeds to use LOL and LMFAO? Derp?
culinarycrime ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:54:47 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He tells someone to "Google it", giving off the impression that he can't be bothered to explain something, but then questions something immediately after.
He (apparently) already knows what TIL means but questions it anyway.
He tells her using acronyms is childish yet proceeds to use two in a row (childish emojis included).
This guy is a walking oxymoron, emphasis on the "moron".
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:29:16 on October 13, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Good observations.
Podalirius ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 18:47:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Means a lot coming from the emoji user.
MarieCakeAntoinette ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:49:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What's an "over and under"?
AnotherLameHaiku ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:43:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's a type of shotgun.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 19:21:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I thought it was something you get from a prostitute.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:40:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I thought it was when you went #2 & #3 at the same time
Diffident-Weasel ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 19:16:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"Smart" enough to shit on you about it, not smart enough to see the contradiction.
callmetmrw ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:19:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
His name was Graeme...
You have only yourself to blame. Like when Ted brought a chick name Strawberry to Hibachi on HIMYM
CotonKennedy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:41:09 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
r/iamverysmart
FattyWnnaCookie ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 20:57:45 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"You must be fun at parties" has got to be the worst and most unoriginal comeback ever.
JV1107 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 22:15:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You must be fun at parties.....
lightzoud ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:15:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This guy...
KrombopulousMary ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:55:45 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So I guess "LMAO LOL" doesn't count as text speak?
aToiletSeat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:22:36 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I got a girl like this today. I was just messing around making some lighthearted jokes and she goes "I'm not into sarcasm or dry humor. I'm into serious conversations. I just got out of a three year relationship. What are your interests?"
Yes, she put the extra spaces after the periods. I did the only reasonable thing and kept making sarcastic, dry comments to her until she unmatched me.
SpaceGhost1992 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:01:56 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Criticises TIL as "child-text-speak" uses " LMAO LOL ๐๐๐๐"
BassSounds ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 19:00:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well, he is not wrong. This place is full of children and immature adults.
chief89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:05:22 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Get out of here, GRAEME.
Brownsome ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:06:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Just stop trying to be attractive... /s
Edit: spelling
BoyFromOnett ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:52:38 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"LMAO LOL"
GreenCricket ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:44:52 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Is he trying some lame negging strategy? If not he's either a moron or not looking to form real human relationships.
IntroSpeccy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:49:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He literally just used emoji and "lol" "lmao" what the fuck is wrong with this guy
Daronmal12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:53:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This dude can get matches but I only get bots? Hmmm
Mr-Klaus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:01:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Probably the same kind of guy who doesn't understand why women go for the "bad boys" instead of r/niceguys like him. Wouldn't be surprised if he also a member of the r/Incels club.
shoogshoog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:03:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
LMAO LOL
TraumaJuice ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:03:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
True in life
jawrsh21 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:05:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Lmao lol are just as child speak as til
Vatrumyr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:05:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He then uses text speak
NEM3S1S ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:14:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He looks exactly like he sounds.
TWD_Sucks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:14:20 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"Graeme"
PM__ASS_IN_THONG ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:18:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Says the dueschebag with the sideways 1 handed mirror picture, that's child pics.
Joll19 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:22:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Worrying about seeming childish is one of the no. 1 things an actually child would worry about.
Not caring is a sure sign of maturity.
Toolspaper ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:33:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
spoken like a person named Graeme
jago81 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:36:01 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Using a thumbs up emoticon and needless exclamation points are just fine though.
Rancidcannibal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:36:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The fuck is an over and under anyways?
BradyDoesFire ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:22:02 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
A shotgun.
touching_payants ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:37:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I went to an adult party ready to be reserved and judgmental. Turns out it was an orgy.
Envoy_to_the_Stars ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:37:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Says the guy taking bathroom mirror selfies for his online dating profile.
weesteve123 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:38:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Are you Irish? Yer man over there wants to know
JayLapse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:39:07 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
'you use abbreviations lmao lol'
ArtsyFartsyAlcoholic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:39:20 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
To me it kind of sounds like he didnโt know what TIL stood for so he tried to turn it around. What a fuckin ding dong.
NoTFTLight ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:39:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So lol and lmao and over and under are all acceptable terms for adults but TIL isn't.
Either this is set up for Karma or he is an idiot.
Zeromous84 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:41:13 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This tool can't even figure out how to use the front camera on his phone. Nice bathroom selfie kid.
TheManWhoWasNotShort ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:41:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The amount of cat emojis I send my girl would probably give this dude an aneurysm then
Blazemaster505 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:42:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"Even so . . . An adult using text speak" some dude "LMAO LOL" same dude . . . seems legit
Oh, and nice redundancy btw
Spaghetti_Bender8873 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:43:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You handled it well
IslandTwig ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:44:20 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL that TIL is child speech...
Bumbalo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:44:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yet he uses LMAO and LOL, which are acronyms as well.
Nague ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:46:57 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
and yet Mr serious is on tinder
Random_Link_Roulette ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:47:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Trashes on her about TiL but uses lol and lmao and emojis.
Negging level -10
Six6six666 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:47:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But.... he said "lol lmao". Why the fuck didn't you call him out on his text speak ?
GryphonWhitchurch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:49:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
โChild text speakโ
โLMAO LOL ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐โ
Hitchens92 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:50:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Isn't LMAO child text speak?
qetqevg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:50:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Y'all are acting butthurt, but this is the entire point of texting on Tinder, to find out if you both are compatible.
jokersleuth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:53:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I don't understand why people hate "text speech". I can understand that in a formal text text speech would be inappropriate and childish but I don't mind using it with friends/family as long as it's not excessive.
mindophobic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:54:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"text speak"....?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:56:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL TLA are for children.
getbackjoe94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:56:09 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This seems like some r/iamverysmart material.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:56:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Bullet = dodged.
In a way it's nice when they out themselves as a bellend so quickly.
TheAdviceYouNeedRN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:56:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ahh the classic suit in front of the mirror selfie. What a stud.
bisjac ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:56:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
i still dont know what smh is. i see it 50 times a day on reddit and fake like i know whats up. nor have i taken 10 seconds to look it up :D part of me knows i will never google it, i will own it.
azwethinkweizm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:58:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Not cringe, this is more iamverysmart material
Ezekiiel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:59:31 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Someone on r/tinder would post this as the perspective as the guy and say how much a dick the woman was and it'd get loads of upvotes
zippy_jim ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:01:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"Graeme"
tdeam1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:03:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Wait so he can use "LMAO" and "LOL" but she can't use "TIL"? Sure thing guy.
enlyze ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:04:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Obviously he was trying to make a point.
tdeam1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:36:11 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Didn't catch that first time 'round
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:03:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ohh no bby wat r u doin
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:03:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
G R A E M E
somethingstrange777 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:06:44 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Because I know how Reddit works, here's what I'm predicting: Some gigantic dipshit is going to comment with some form of "paranormal just means things we don't understand," because he's actually an idiot and it's a lot easier to argue the semantics of what 'Paranormal' than it is to convince anyone that ghosts exist.
We're talking about ghosts, o-b-v-i-o-u-s-l-y.
1:10 AM EST
xBMxBanginBUX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:08:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It killed me when he said LMAO LOL and a bunch of those emojis that scream "I care but im pretending like I don't! :'D" Fucking pathetic.
lolo210 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:10:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I wish this guy could see he is on a front page post. CHILD TEXT SPEAK
gunfox ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:10:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Boasting on a fucking dating app.
totallynormalasshole ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:15:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Y I K ES
aspoonybardisyou ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:16:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
How does someone get to that age while still being a complete fucking asshole?
beareee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:16:19 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
โGoogle itโ was an instant red flag. Hard pass.
argonianord ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:18:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"Anyway, this is the longest conversation I've had with a feeeemale in a long time. Which is weird because I'm such a nice guy. LMAO LOL"
madeyegroovy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:18:43 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Even his โgoogle itโ just before seemed pretty aggressive.
ItsColeOnReddit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:19:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He is really annoying
Jazzdaddy66 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:20:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That guy is a fucking douchebag!!!! he deserves to be put to shame on here lol
GentlemenOfLeisure ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:20:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This guy Seddits
Strawberrycocoa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:20:52 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This is how you stay single.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:21:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
As much as I dislike when people use internet memes and acronyms "IRL", it's not really out of place here. You dodged a bullet. This dude would have berated your children in public for speaking out of turn.
andycarver ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:22:41 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I like the guy. But I think itโs an ugly spotty kid masquerading to get chicks. With a robot personality.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:23:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Could not finish, the cringe was to strong. Help me Obi-Wan Kenobi.
longducdong ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:24:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think it's funny that it's basically forbidden for one of the sexes to rule out potential mates over silly inconsequential things, while it's completely celebrated and normal for the other sex to do it.
Rockaustin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:25:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Shouldnโt this guy be happy that he got a match on Tinder?
Super_Ninja_Gamer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:25:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
r/gatekeeping ?
JunkratRoadhog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:27:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
-.- so what job do you have op?
Redditaurus-Rex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:29:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Calls out TIL as child speak. Almost immediately follows up with LOL LMAO.
Stand up dude right there.
PlatypusPerson ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:29:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
As he responds with "LMAO LOL" and 3 smiley emojis... He's far more 'childish' than she is, going by his own standards.
snalar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:29:15 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The usage of TIL became popular by the subreddit r/todayilearned. I don't think there are many children posting on that sub.
moogleslam ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:31:31 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I hope Graeme comes here to attempt to defend himself.... or apologize; either way, I want more fuel added to the fire!
theresaholeinmyshirt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:34:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Both these people seem awful. Damn.
EagleDarkX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:35:31 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"I'm too good for you. I am above having fun."
Useful-ldiot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:36:31 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's too bad he'll never see this because he definitely doesn't reddit.
aHugeGapingAsshole ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:37:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
has to be a troll
Ihavesomethingtosay9 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:37:35 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I dated a guy like this... So exhausting
wait-whoisthat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:39:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
SHE WASNT SPEAKING IN 'CHILD TEXT SPEAK'
she was speaking in reddit speak r/todayilearned
spark0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:39:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
is it called over and under because the barrels are on top of each other rather than next to each other.
dontneednomang ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:39:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
i still donโt get what an over and under is?!??
Gosco_S ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:40:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Has anyone else pointed out that he uses LMAO LOL...which are acronyms...like TIL.
Irony can be depressing.
DanishNinja ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:42:38 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
LoL
emmycarp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:42:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Eww
crap4you ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:43:47 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Is he negging?
waitingforfrodo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:44:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What's an over under?
kryptx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:44:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What I really want is a woman whose dignity is inalienable, who is single solely because she has such high standards, only I am good enough for them. A woman who understands I can't be dressed up all the time, so I gotta take the mirror selfies when I can. A woman who drinks the finest herbal teas, not too hot, and not too cold. Where would I find her? What method is this woman using to seek me out?
Definitely Tinder.
safety_shane ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:45:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty sure the military uses acronyms for everything. Is this guy disrespecting the troops. Heโs a communist obviously.
86tentaclesurprise ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:46:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He's clearly not one of us. PASS
rabbitjazzy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:52:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Does this guy really get so lanky matchges that he can afford to be an ass when he get some one?
rabbitjazzy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:52:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Does this guy really get so lanky matchges that he can afford to be an ass when he get some one?
nickl104 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:52:27 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Did he not see the irony in following with "LOL"?
Kemfox ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:52:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL that LOL isn't child speak apparently .
Desert_Nanners ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:55:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He still didn't unmatch, though.
apollodynamo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:55:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Good riddance
downtherabbit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:56:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Wow that's kind of sad. He's probably some sad cuck who has been walked all over by the women in his life (probably his mother) and somehow thinks it's okay to be a dick to women he doesn't know at all.
ste6168 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:56:08 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
LMAO LOL
Mydogatemyexcuse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:58:31 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Holy fuck he had it too!
jMyles ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:58:39 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Parody, right? Satire?
sad_samurai97 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:59:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
BURN
souljabri557 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:59:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL emojis are more sophisticated than acronyms.
sgtobnoxious ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:00:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
r/iamverysociallyretard
drew442 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:00:51 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Xiaomi phones have a scrolling screenshot option, you take a screenshot and then you can scroll in whatever app you're screenshoting do it makes one contiguous screen grab.
This sub will be amazing once all phones have that feature.
Average_human_bean ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:01:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think it's great he's being so upfront about it. Very easy to know better and avoid him.
DrivenandDistracted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:03:47 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yet another reason why online dating is terrible. Then again you immediately know he is awful.
sgonzalez1990 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:04:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Hey OP. Don't let insecure guys get into your head!
Thatguysstories ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:04:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What a douche.
Lisu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:05:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So... What is lmao and lol then??
Please_Label_NSFW ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:06:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL isn't really a child acronym.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:09:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL TIL iz 4 kdz LOL bcky lts g2tm & $uy frapzz~!
Snack_on_my_Flapjack ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:10:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yet he uses "LMAO LOL" with a bunch of emojis. Yea that isn't "child speak" at all...
MangakaPoof ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:11:30 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But he used LMAO....
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:15:12 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
maybe people like this get super elitist over the way they talk because talking is the only skill they have, so they don't get to be elitist about anything else?
PantsMcGee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:15:17 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Oh wow what. No need for that matie.
ciao_fiv ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:16:52 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
i would never use child text speech, LMAO LOL ๐๐๐
TheVagWhisperer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:21:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He would have been unmatched and blocked the moment he said Google it
Colleenie11 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:21:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But he said lmfao???
HilariousMax ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:23:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He doesn't approve of TIL but will unironically use LMAO and LOL back to back followed by 4 LOL emoji.
The only one who came off childish was the social reject in the suit.
duaite_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:25:38 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
but why
wuchta ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:26:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"LMAO"
walkingstrawberry ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:26:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
just wow...
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:26:29 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This should on /r/iamverysmart as well
Wolf_Mommy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:28:02 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Seemed alright when he used โLMAOโ and โLOLโ.
theghostmachine ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:28:18 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He seemed to have it in the bag until he decided to blow it for discernible reason.
The_UnApologist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:28:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I just googled "over and under" myself and the top 2 returns were shotguns from Cabela's and a wikipedia entry about sports betting.
I'm still confused.
bsmanx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:30:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
lol we know why he needs the dating app
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:30:19 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a real deviant, I love a girl that uses acronyms.
WilliamifyXD ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:30:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
BAN HIM FROM REDDIT
GO FIND HIM
akitagirl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:33:09 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This could also be posted in r/iamverysmart lol
shamonington ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:35:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs nice that Reddit is around to provide forums for the public shaming of dotards like this. Maybe over the long run itโll change behavior for the better.
untakenu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:38:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Says 'TIL' is childish text speak, then says 'LMAO LOL'
Iceraider1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:39:00 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"LMAO LOL"
KissMyDupa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:48:14 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But he used "LMAO LOL" with emojis... Is that not child like by his own standards?
lieutenant_pandaman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:49:32 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He said lmao and lol
I'm pretty sure TIL is more adultlike than lmao
Anus_master ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:50:31 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Soon he'll be posting on /r/incels
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:50:46 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Do people like this match with the intention of insulting people or is that just their personality naturally brings them to in conversation
lazcas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:53:32 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well that escalated quickly
dumbass_hedgehog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:54:34 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Dick
Circle_0f_Life ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:55:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Not to shit on anyone with that name.. but how tf (child speak lol) do you say that
ruler710 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:55:19 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Surely LMAO LOL ๐๐๐๐ is not child text speak no sirree
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:55:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Who the fuck molested him as a kid?
chambertlo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:01:49 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL is "child speak"? He sounds like he has some issues to resolve.
critical_thought21 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:02:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL people still think negging is effective. Well I guess he may just be an asshole and not using this as a pickup attempt.
Rtat ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 23:20:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Negging does work lol you just have to be subtle
viperex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:02:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Not really cringe. More like they have differing opinions. One is a tight ass and the other is more carefree
SethRogen-Not ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:06:03 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Says the guy who uses "LOL OMG EMOJI EMOJI EMOJI"
Notsslyvi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:11:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What in the fuck does he think LMAO and LOL are? Not child text speech?
Luizltg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:12:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Graeme'd
JustJoeKingz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:13:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Graemes got no game
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:15:10 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I hope I never get this old, no matter how long I live.
Gafgb12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:18:35 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He's perfectly reasonable.
friendlessboob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:19:47 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL that in addition to being actually unattractive, I am additionally unattractive for using TIL. And I'm over 39
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:21:24 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
A one man crusade against "child text speak", aka; acryonyms.
This was actually a pretty common attitude when I was a teen. Using acronyms or any kind of "online speak" was considered "childish". Nowadays with the rise of smart phones it's a bit different but this guy's holding out on the 90s and early 00s mentality.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:21:48 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Over and under is cumbersome to say. Us children in the know abbreviate it to O/U
yosoyellogan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:23:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Now I just want to know what an over and under is
Kryptosis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:25:43 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Darktidemage ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:28:38 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The bad part about this is "google it".
You can just say "the thing you are holding in your second pic". You are trying to tell this woman this thing called "google" exists and she can use it to verify information?
Mythologicalcats ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:29:45 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He said LOL though
nayan742 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:46:20 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL TIL
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:48:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The fuck kind of a name is Graeme
Thelife1313 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:48:59 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But he said lmao and lol.... Now I'm confused. Is he saying that he's not attracted to her because she's at his level of childishness? Which means that he prefers women "older" than him?
44r0n0wnz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:50:36 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yet he says LMAO and LOL almost immediately after. The irony is strong in this one
SOS_MY_SOLEUS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:51:04 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
To be honest, I've never see anyone with a profile picture like that (the way they're holding their phone and dressed in a suit) to not be a dick.
Nayborg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:51:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Gotta love the irony in the mirror selfie.
Spacegod87 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:51:53 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He's really hung up about not being seen as a child. I'm assuming he's not even 20 yet...
SilvaticusNatticus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:52:33 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL if you use abbreviations like almost every human being who uses the internet, you're a child and nobody likes you
You-SeeBerkeley ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:52:47 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Ugh. >|
eowynmn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:00:16 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL I must be the only adult on Reddit.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:07:52 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Efficient communication is childish!
letsgocrazy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:08:02 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
How does he go to any nice parties if he can't RSVP them?
Does he ever write stuff like PS or eg, or etc?
character-name ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:10:01 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So, lemme get this straight: TIL is Child Text Speak but LMAO and LOL are not?
...I think I need an explanation
ThomasAdlard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:21:11 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
R/tinder
GaylrdFocker ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:33:57 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Somebody should tell this guy that he shouldn't be texting children. How else would he know what TIL means if it's child text speak?
justminick ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:36:21 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yet he uses emojis. Nice one, Graeme.
bagofdickzz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:39:16 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The real question is what the hell is an over and under
SKNZ_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:55:05 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I might be incorrect but in Nz over and unders are double barrel shotguns, the ones with the barrels vertical rather than the iconic side by side double barrel shotgun.
ShitOnRickard5 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:40:24 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's just "over under", and like SKNZ says, it's a shotgun. Two barrels stacked vertically, generally with a two-trigger set, one for each barrel. EDIT - actually the two-trigger setup is a bit of an anachronism... older side-by-side or over/under shotguns are likely to have dual triggers, while more modern implementations of the two-barrel shotgun almost always have a single trigger which acts on one hammer after the other in two successive pulls.
Danielogt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:39:47 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
God damn it Grahem, I always wanted to be a friend of a celebrity, but not like this :(
MrAchilles ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:42:12 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Hey baby, lemme tell you what's wrong with you and why what you're doing is wrong!
Solid moves.
FERGERDERGERSON ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:46:03 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Lol.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:52:51 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm pretty sure if someone says I have a good over and under, they're getting unmatched immediately anyways.
floccinaucin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:56:22 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That went from decent to trainwreck real quick.
PotatoRelated ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:57:48 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Why is no one talling about the fact that he went on to say LMAO LOL and the crylaugh emoji..
ShitOnRickard5 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:35 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I've scrolled through about 20 comments and about 1/4 of them are making that exact point, so...
PotatoRelated ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:39:05 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well i didn't see them while scrolling through. I did just skim though
HauntedJackInTheBox ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:59:29 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I really need to go to the US. The bar for how bad the conversation can go and still get an earnest reply from an attractive woman is so much lower. Not says no that as a bad thing โ British girls are like Abras
DynamicDonkey0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:01:02 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
/r/TodayILearned TIL is childspeak
mellowmonk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:02:08 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm an American. "Over and under" sounds like a kind of shotgun. What is that narcissist talking about?
ShitOnRickard5 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:35:54 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That's what he's talking about. He also apparently doesn't know it's just "over under".
SF_CrawNik ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:04:04 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Tells someone to Google "over and under"
Doesn't Google "TIL"
hogie48 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:04:18 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL Child Text Speak
kfmush ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:06:38 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
โLMAO LOLโ
... is he trying to prove his point that only childlike individuals use โtext speak?โ
i3na ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:11:01 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL abbreviations are not sexy
FetchingTheSwagni ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:11:54 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"An adult using text speak? ew"
proceeds to type "LMAO LOL" followed by emojis
jfk_47 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:13:01 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
not sure if this is /r/tinder or /r/iamverysmart
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:19:18 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If someone can invent a way to screenshot or copy an entire phone conversation, they would be a millionaire.
bulnreinhart ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:27:20 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Possible on Android
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:30:18 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Dammit Android continually proves its superiority.
BradyDoesFire ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:21:53 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think being 39 and on tinder is a secondary cringe here.
stoney2boloney ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:22:12 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
She shoulda known by the way he is holding his camera in his profile pic
Jpxn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:25:57 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
/r/iamverysmart
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:27:40 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This guy literally cock blocked himself.
boose22 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:30:34 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly I kind of side with the guy here even though I use LoL all the time.
MatrixTime69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:31:26 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"LMAO LOL" - Child Text Speak
The_Great_Curve ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:33:40 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
r/iamverysmart
CreamyGoodnss ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:39:14 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'll bet this guy has a hard time spelling out Automatic Teller Machine and Personal Identification Number whenever he has a conversation
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:41:12 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
dodged a bullet there with that black jacket, cauliflower blue dress shirt, and a red & white striped wide tie DEAR LORD
legoracer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:48:42 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You mean to tell me a guy named Graeme is a condescending prick?
spicyicee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:03:21 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Graeme sounds like something I should probably call my grandmother.
GL_HaveFun ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:36 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Graeme's got bad game...
cardboardtube_knight ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:27:17 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Someone used an abbreviation while typing on a two inch wide keyboard that they have to use their fingers for. Better belittle them and call their worth as a person into question.
ecksdeeeXD ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:27:28 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Someone call r/iamverysmart
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:29:44 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
When 'LMAO LOL ๐๐๐๐๐' isn't cosidered speaking like a child
Yuccaphile ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:39:45 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Who the hell takes a mirror selfie with the camera in landscape. That's like the self obsessed douche version of holding a gun sideways.
narse77 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:41:11 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well I am 40 and use TIL. What a damn douchebag!
AJam ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:51:05 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Wow he was really butthurt about not understanding the TIL acronym. LMAO LOL ๐๐๐๐๐
Kosmosnoetos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:56:07 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The people on that app seem to be so misogynistic, narcissistic, and desperate. Itโs like everyone they talk to is suppose to cater to exactly what they were expecting out of them or they feel they have the right to start insulting them. Either that or I feel like theyโre upset about their dating life and go on literally to pick on random strangers to vent in their own sick way.
JackBond1234 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:56:07 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
If that guy is anywhere near 39, he's one to complain the way he talks. He may not use 13375P33K, but he's got the mindset of a child.
stealthdawg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:04:24 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
ONLY AN IDIOT WOULD USE TEXT SPEAK LIKE A LITTLE BABY LMAO LOL :THUMBS UP:
Mieux2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:11:27 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He's like Vincent Adultman, but lame.
deedeethecat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:11:37 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I Googled over and under and this was the first response: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=over%20and%20under
I also see that it refers to a bet or wager probability or something like that.
Just saying in case the guy was being crude and then putting her down for shortening a phrase. Although it doesn't sound like it was intended or taken as crude
TezzaMcJ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:27:52 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Exact previous message
ndewing ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:34:56 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It's weird, he was solid until he started acting like a total asshole.
Ardalerus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:41:50 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
lmao
babytwoh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:46:32 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Googled over and under. Still don't know what an over and under is.
cincyjoe12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:08:42 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
A shotgun that has 2 barrels one on top of the other.
babytwoh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:21:31 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you. Makes sense
quentinthequibbler ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:49:12 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL what an asshatdouchecanoe looks like.
maxpookie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:58:59 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
his parents pay all of his living expenses and bills, but he's a REAL adult
kid_crad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:07:36 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Letโs flood his inbox with โTIL youโre a fucking loser.โ Let me at em
automata33 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:29:48 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Dodged a f**king train wreck on that one! That guy would have been a nightmare.
ConebreadIH ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:57 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You're holding a shotgun in your second picture right? That's what he means by over and under?
nowItinwhistle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:48:12 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I bet he corrects people that call a magazine a clip.
weareonewithall ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:54:28 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
God what a dickhead
Jacks_Lack_of_Sleep ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:14:41 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So?? How was the date???
SlytherinsPride ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:55 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Every dude with names like Graeme are always assholes. Itโs like a curse.
OzzyE5150 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:06:31 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I find it attractive OP hmu lol jk idk ...etc (that's a bonus one)
Zeov ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:31:19 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
with a mirror selfie like that, you shouldn't exactly act all grown up.
nickyobro ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:00:08 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Op try posting on /r/choosingbeggars
Xtermix ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:54:19 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Who is though?
BakerBalls ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:11:34 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What the fuck is an over and under?
lyonslicer ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 14:00:56 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Google not working for you? It's a type of shotgun.
BakerBalls ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:11:33 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I was simply waiting for someone to reply google it.
Pacify_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:14:56 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Complains about TIL, proceeds to use LMAO and LOL... Irony.
jkwolly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:38:03 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I wonder why this dude is still single......
Yokom_1001 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:08:40 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
woow!!! d- d- d- douche! i want someone to humor me. lol he trollin #kidlanguage
Josef_Joris ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:40:28 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
so whats an over and under?
awaiy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:54:38 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But... he even used LMAO and LOL himself..
knightryder45 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:53:40 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I hope you pointed out to him that after he gave you shit for using TIL he proceeded to use LMAO so...
tjstalcup ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:37:20 on October 11, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He said LOL and LMAO
BroItsJesus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:16:17 on October 11, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"You speak like a child" "LMAO LOL"
ryatt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:11:54 on October 11, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This is the result of no hugs, and people saying things to him like "man, you are so smart". I hate this guy...
charredest ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:57:08 on October 15, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He gets mad at her for using an acronym, claiming it's childish, then says "LMAO LOL" followed by four consecutive identical emojis.
Ironic.
DelfonicSonic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:57:31 on October 16, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Bro, your profile pic is a mirror selfie taken on a phone that clearly has a forward facing camera...
CarxmelCoffee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:24:46 on October 24, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Wait,,, but he used "LMAO" and "LOL" in the same text
SurvivorPrisonMike ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:07:54 on December 13, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I understand that people are annoyed with dumb text language, but TIL I'd say is far from dumb text language. Also, I'm biased because TIL is all over Reddit lol lmao haha.
DJSharkyShark ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:42:12 on March 4, 2018 ยท (Permalink)
She was definitely using TIL as a last ditch effort to turn this guy on, darn!
Darnit_Bot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:42:28 on March 4, 2018 ยท (Permalink)
What a darn shame..
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Shufflegoop ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:54:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Wait, wait.. "TIL" is baby talk but "LMAO" is okay?
taeg1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:01:50 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think heโs mocking her
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:43:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
This really isn't cringe. Guy just sounds like a dick.
I feel like this sub is really setting the bar low
carbonxe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:39:58 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Using abbreviations is childish but using emojis and ellipses instead of commas isn't?
EmFitzroy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:05:22 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
But... He said "LMAO" and "LOL".. Why didn't you point that out to him and show us how he could defend it.. I feel like I got cheated here.
paranoid_giraffe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:22:41 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
And nobody likes a major hypocrite as it turns out
sijura ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:28:23 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
TIL LMAO LOL is โadult text speak.โ
bizzyj93 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:28:57 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So "TIL" is unacceptable but "LMAO LOL" and emojis? Totally fine. Or maybe he holds her to different standards than himself?
2paymentsof19_95 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:53:05 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty sure he was being sarcastic
igame2much ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:46:23 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
"I can't believe you use child speak! LMAO LOL!"
ApollyonX210 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:50:10 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Complains about her using TIL, then proceeds to use "LMAO" and "LOL." Stay classy.
Kelderic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:52:06 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
The best part of this is that he used "LOL".
OneOfDozens ยท -8 points ยท Posted at 20:22:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
while he unquestionably sucks, i've never met anyone who was remotely amusing who uses "you must be fun at parties" it's the laziest most generic response, get creative with it
DarrelleRevis24 ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 21:29:19 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
He has a point you sound air headed before even saying TIL.
[deleted] ยท -19 points ยท Posted at 18:27:06 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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Mongfight ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 18:58:42 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I think his point is negated when he follows it up with LMAO LOL and some emojis.
tekkenDDRagon24 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:18:45 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That could've been sarcasm though.
youwillbetakenagain ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 19:24:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
exactly.
Fermats_Last_Account ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:15:22 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Whatโs the problem with it? It shows a better personality.
ElGenioDelDub ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:48:49 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
What I've come to learn as an adult is that it shows absolutely nothing.
Fermats_Last_Account ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:55:00 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
So then it makes no difference whether they talk like that or not then.
And before you ask: then why do they talk like that? Because everyone talks different.
ElGenioDelDub ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:10:38 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
You're saying using acronyms shows someone has "a better personality" and I'm saying it shows nothing. I'm not implying there's a problem with it at all if that's what you think.
Fermats_Last_Account ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:12:22 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well from my experience, people who use โlmaoโ, โlolโ, and even โlolzโ are people who have good personalities, are nice, and tend to be humorous in person.
People who donโt use such acronyms related to laughing are more laid back and less expressive in person and more serious.
ElGenioDelDub ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:58:20 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah mine too. I also know people who use lol and such that have terrible personalities.
FerventFapper ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:39:53 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Well he's not wrong guys
crabsneverdie ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 21:05:47 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Gross. I wouldn't fuck either one of you
Iorith ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 22:51:37 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I'm sure they've both very disappointed.
crabsneverdie ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 22:55:43 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
reddit never disappoints if you're here for the 5th grade "burns"
Julianhyde88 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 00:19:00 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
r/Choosingbeggers
bryanrobh ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 23:09:25 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
To be fair we donโt know what she looks like
go4theknees ยท -22 points ยท Posted at 17:56:21 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
People use tinder at 39?
benderrobot ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 18:00:11 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
It is legal to use tinder over the age of 30, but only a few dare to.
Fermats_Last_Account ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 19:14:54 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
People of all ages can be single? What a shocker!
[deleted] ยท -10 points ยท Posted at 23:01:23 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Uh that dude recked you... It's funny how you're trying to get support on reddit when you're 39 years old and someone gave you the cold hard truth.
GottaKeepYaHeadUp ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 18:54:56 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
... Just shocked that a teacher would ever name their child "Graeme"
raddits ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 19:06:45 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
That dude was gay
il_the_dinosaur ยท -8 points ยท Posted at 19:55:28 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
can someone please explain this to me, somehow everyone in the comments seems to know whats going on, why is he a douchebag?
abyssalaesthetic ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 20:57:05 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
saying that its childish to use "text speak" is pretty lame
xian0 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 21:46:11 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Using "TIL" and "you must be fun at parties" is also pretty lame. Unless they are one of these guys then it's bad but expected.
abyssalaesthetic ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 22:03:40 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
its literally an acronym and an expression dude
2paymentsof19_95 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:55:07 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
An acronym only used here on this website and an oversaturated, low-effort comeback.
xian0 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 23:05:16 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Mumsnet have their own acryonms and expressions too.
Banned_By_Default ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 14:57:43 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Oh no! Man has opinion. Defend the damsels!
[deleted] ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 21:53:55 on October 9, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
I've had this response from women several times, some even have it in their bio. Some people just don't like lazy text chat. Don't see a problem with it, everyone has a right to have their own standards. Except men of course, according to half the people in this thread. Creepy motherfucking men that don't want to fuck anything that moves. Creepy ass guys that have standards. Bet he's a serial killer.
[deleted] ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 03:22:41 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
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FearofFingers ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:43:59 on October 10, 2017 ยท (Permalink)
Funny how you are bringing race into this.