I am a terrible procrastinator by nature. I have totally done the "well now it 5:02 so I have to wait until 6:00 to start cleaning" and I like making things seem like Soo much work that I can't possibly do them unless I take time off of work. In reality if you just start a project without thinking about it you can get everything done in like fifteen minutes a day and it's never really that bad.
Laeryken ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 04:28:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stephen Duneier said in his TEDx Talk that he used to be a procrastinator and overcame that by working for 5-15 minutes, having a 5-15 min. break, working for 5-15 min., and so on.
I thought that I would spend to much time for breaks but I actually ended up getting more work done than before.
I am guilty as hell of leaving projects half finished or finishing them immediately, no in between. Broke a window on the porch? had it cleaned up and replaced in an hour and a half. Fixing my SO's prized sunday cruiser? I started that.... 2 years ago? And it still doesn't have brakes. Or a throttle at this point...
I feel like most of the time, if it's something I don't exactly know how to do, or if it'll take some figuring out, I am more likely to put it off. Even if there's only one step of the project I don't know how to do, I will procrastinate it.
Dude on top of this. If you plan for something after procrastinating, you can have something to look forward to after you finish. EX: Money, Gaming, Store run, ice cream, etc. hold those things off until after your procrastinations so you can rush through it faster. I learned this as a kid and still apply it to my quick cleans.
rakmode ยท 2764 points ยท Posted at 02:04:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This too shall pass. On those days when I just feel like I can't take it I think of that, and I know tomorrow will be different. Someone once told me, "tomorrow may not be better, but at least it'll be different." In a strange way that too is comforting.
AlRedux ยท 62 points ยท Posted at 00:27:26 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How sage. The darkest hour still only has 60 minutes.
Learned this through a shroom trip. There was a really intense moment in the trip that caused me to panic. I had to keep reminding myself that in 2 hours, I'll feel completely different and in 4 hours, I'll be feeling good again. Definitely worked for the trip and has been working for my difficult work days.
The one and only time I had mj I ate it, and I hallucinated. Later my friend admitted that it may have been spiked with something else. It was a miserable experience. I thought about shrooms because I heard that it can cause changes in how you see and feel the world, but honestly I'm too scared to. Two hours seems like a long time to endure a panic.
edibles affect the body differently than inhaling smoke. they can have psychedelic effects that scare people who had no experience, which you didnโt have. iโm sorry you had a bad time :(
This is gold standard advice to try to impart to anyone having a difficult time on a psychedelic trip, that it's just a trip and you will come down in a couple hours. Good on you that you had the presence of mind to still understand this on your trip.
As a kid I once got very scared at night, and was afraid to fall asleep in fear of getting nightmares. Eventually I thought to myself, "No matter how scared I am or what will happen, this night will eventually be over anyway," and calmed down enough to fall asleep. It's a very comforting thought.
I like it because the story is more or less that a king wanted an object that made sad moments happy and happy moments sad. He was given a ring with the phrase โThis too shall pass.โ
So I like that it doesnโt just include sad times moving forward; itโs a reminder to appreciate the good moments and the bad moments for what they are while they exist, because they will not last forever.
Unfortunately, this advice applies equally to really happy times. If I'm not mistaken, the phrase has its original with the stoics, who believes that any extreme of emotion was bad.
I'm okay with it applying to all of life's moments and emotions. I can look back and appreciate those happy moments, and be glad that they happened. I can also be glad that the horrible moments are gone and done, and that I got to learn from them.
I use this for minor annoyances. Whenever I get a zit or cankersore thatโs really bothersome, I literally just think of a date maybe a week out by which time this problem will be so long gone, and tell myself to check in about it then. Inevitably I put it out of my mind and realize sometime later that itโs gone.
Sevival ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:47:25 on May 27, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I remember when I was 18, I was texting a girl for a couple of weeks and we literally had 1 date and kissed. Afterwards she dumped (more like friendzoned) me and i was so heartbroken, I actually believed she was the one and I never could find a better girl again. I felt like she was the only one and now my future was gone and I was gonna end up alone. Needless to say i was extremely naive back then. I talked to friends and nobody seemed to understand me and dismissed my sadness and said I should move on and start dating other girls. For 6 months i refused giving up but when I finally forced myself to start dating again I was never more happy
My therapist told me the next time I'm going to have a panic attack to just give in and tell myself it was ok to have one . I told him he was crazy. After a couple tries it started working to my amazement. I haven't had a panic attack in 3 years.
i do this too, kinda. in an intense moment of anxiety it's easy to forget the tips and tricks you've learned because you're in that fight or flight mode. but when i'm really anxious, but not panicking, i say, "Fine. Let's just get it over with" but it doesn't happen! my anxiety is like "fuck.. you aren't scared of me??? that was the whole point :("
That is exactly what I do. It takes the power away from panicking.
Krompsch ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 15:15:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This helped me a lot in the past. Instead of fighting your own feelings, give in. It can be overwhelming, but you cant win a fight against yourself. I would constantly stress myself in these moments to not panic until it breaks out.
I too deal with panic attacks and use a similar strategy- focusing on riding the feeling out rather than fighting it. I still kinda get them, but seldom have bad ones anymore. Fighting it just stresses you out and makes it worse, but if you acknowledge what's happening, you can begin the process of calming down.
My grandfather told me this and I never understood it until I had my own place. Always buy the cheap tools at first and if you wear it out/break it then you use it enough to justify getting a nicer more expensive one.
RottenLB ยท 1009 points ยท Posted at 10:14:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I guess with powertools and stuff, but my grandfather used to say the opposite:
I'm not rich enough to buy cheap things.
I still have his tools (think pliers, screwdrivers, files...).
And that's regardless of quality. The tool bag and tools my dad gave me from his own tool set when I first moved in with my now wife were probably his "lower quality" set of stuff that he had better duplicates of but for me those were the best tools money could buy. I walked into our rental house the first day and had plumbing issues and was able to fix it with my "new" tools. Whether they're a crap brand or not means nothing to me I love them.
Deep, based on feelings and emotion.
The feeling you get when you see someone you loathe and your entire body and soul reacts negatively to them being there
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 16:55:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Some asshat just broke into my storage and stole my toolbox, too!! I feel your pain, man. Thatโs especially rough, with the history there (your grandfathers tools). You have my sympathy
mike_d85 ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 15:40:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This advice is for anything non-basic. Screwdrivers are cheap even if you get the top of the line so there's no point. Getting a pulley puller for a weird repair it makes way more sense to buy the cheap-o you'll probably use twice than to buy the top of the line guy.
On a related note, check if the auto parts store has the weirdly specific tool you need as a loaner. A lot of them loan for free (with deposit) or for cheap (like $5).
buckus69 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 16:21:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hardware stores also rent out heavier-duty machinery like backhoes, trench diggers, etc.
Lilz007 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 20:34:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ha! I was at bootsale the other day, and I always like to have a nosey at tools, and I found the exact same set of blunt and long nose pliers that my dad has owned for as long as I can remember. They would have been expensive when he bought them. His are still going strong, and he's used them quite outrageously over the years! They're pretty distinct, though they don't look "attractive". Bought for ยฃ2 to replace my more expensive "cheap/starter" set. Probably one of my better purchases, and I reckon there's a lot of life left in them. I like to pick up screwdrivers, too, ones which have worn handles but sharp heads.
Awesome find man. Usually those can long outlast the newer made ones just because the quality of the material. It does not matter they are old if they are not chipped or have any other structural weaknesses.
Also when buying new ones, it's usually better to spare a few $ more to get higher quality ones, because the return is there (boight a good torque screwdriver and quality bits, now I don't have to replace them every five screws or so)
I'm with your grandfather. When a cheap tool fails, it's going to be when you need it the most. Which means another trip to the goddamn hardware store. fuckthat. Also when tools fail; you're right there with them. also fuckthat. wear PPE. And even when cheap tools work; they make your work suck more than it might already suck. Yeah, your little narrow body handles on those box wrenches might be okay, if all you got to do is work one nut/bolt. Any more than that and it starts to hurt your hand to use.
My grandfather told me this and I never understood it until I had my own place. Always buy the cheap tools at first and if you wear it out/break it then you use it enough to justify getting a nicer more expensive one.
Yeah, but no. I don't want a tool breaking on me in the middle of use. At the minimum, that usually means a trip to the hardware store, but it could mean an injury as well. I'll pass. Buying them twice isn't cheaper. Better off borrowing or renting than buying cheap shit.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:04:56 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always buy the more expensive power tools (Like DeWalt or Makita, nothing crazy) because itโs cheaper to buy those once then to have the cheap ones break or not be good enough and have to get them again or buy the nicer ones, because theyโre usually less or around twice the price.
Last weekend I was at a small renfaire event. Some guy stumbled and fell on my chest, bending one of the latches. Fortunately I keep some cheap tools in my car. It's literally a dollar store toolbox filled with dollar store tools. I was repairing the latch while we were shooting the shit, one of the guys mentioned that dollar store tools only need to work the one time you need them.
There is definitely a balance, things that you will more than likely use often get nice stuff, if you only plan on using it once or twice cheap out. Also know where to put your money, I have an old Craftsman table saw but I bought Freud blades for it, it cuts through 2" hard maple like a dream where a really nice table saw with a cheapo (or dull) blade will struggle.
scw55 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 13:34:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm like this with arty things. Bought a ยฃ1400 Cintiq when I really should have bought a cheaper model. I was blindly following the advice of a digital artist I admired. I naively thought I'd get the money back. I use it a lot, but its size is a problem.
Unless you've got a huge budget, buying the expensive tools first really limits how many tools you can buy.
Buy all of the cheap tools needed to do the job you're doing. After a few jobs, you'll have a wide range of tools, know which tools you use most, and know which tools you'd like to be better.
Youโd be surprised, some cheap tools will be a good value buy if you arenโt a tradesmen. I flipped a house using a $20 battery operated drill for the entire thing, and stil works. I was amazed, might go back and get a second so I donโt have to switch out drill bits lol
(I do this stuff in my spare time, not for a living)
ert-iop ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 12:01:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
15 years ago I bought the cheapest table saw I could find, about 70euro. It has been worked and worked. This morning, as I was cutting wood for the new kitchen it died. All the magic smoke came out. 15 years and God knows how much work for 70 euros. I will never find another like it. Looking at a Makita for 450 euro or a scheppa for 320 now. Nowhere sells a 70 euro table saw any more. Today was the end of an era.
Oh yea you definitely become attached to them after a while. I know Iโll be sad the day that drill breaks Bc of everything we have done together, as crazy as it sounds.
But if you are smart about buying the cheap tools that (might) last you can save yourself a lot of $/ยฃ
I bought a ryobi table saw for the same project, not super cheap but on the cheap end of the good brands, Iโd love to get 15 years out of it.
Table saw is not something I would cheap out on... The better ones have pretty important safety features, and I like having fingers more than I like having money.
Donโt need to ball out and get one of those saws, but having one with a fence that doesnโt wiggle on you is pretty nice, or a riving knife. Itโs the little things that count
ert-iop ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:47:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was wiggling fences on the expensive 600-1000 euro saws today. They still wiggled. I guess you always end up with a good straight edge and a couple of clamps to get the job done :)
Flipsii ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:16:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup works for everything. Like recently my car died on me and once I found it what was broken I started saving for a car which is more fit for my driving I guess.
As long as there's a distinction made between cheap tools and shit tools. If your cheap tool is shit then you'll regret not spending a little bit more for something more substantial that can actually do the job. Otherwise, In the end you'll spend twice as much. So really the disclaimer should be: as long as that cheap tool can perform the function sufficiently well.
The exception to this is socket wrenches
In my experience, Chinesium Harbor Freight socket wrenches aren't built to very exact tolerances. They don't fit correctly on the bolt/nut and you end up rounding it out.
This is actually great advice. I've recently started gardening but not gardening enough to consider getting top notch tools. I have cheap Big Lots tools which are pretty hardy. If I continue gardening, I WILL get better tools.
I've had the same set of big lots tools for the better part of a decade. I keep telling myself that i too will buy new tools one of these days, but the big lots ones just won't die.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:35:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just bought a cheap angle grinder for this very reason!
zerohm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:02:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone with 3 kids, this is really good advice. Also we now live in a world with eBay and Craigslist so it's really easy to get it used, and if you wind up not using it you can resell it.
On the flipside, there is an argument to be made that people that don't know much about computers should not buy cheap computers. They should get a good one with lots of power, memory, and storage.
I think that's good advice for a hobby so you don't dive in too deep and waste money. But I feel like people responded to you with anecdotal thoughts about work and lifestyle.
Sidzejs ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:41:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is a saying - cheap man pays twice. Meaning if you buy cheap shit, it will break fast and you'll have to buy it again. And why buy tools you don't know if you'll need in a first place??? If you know you need something, and will need it a lot - buy good one. Also, the most basic things, yes, just buy good ones and you'll have them. And if you need something you're not sure you're gonna need again - cheap out...
There is a saying - cheap man pays twice. Meaning if you buy cheap shit, it will break fast and you'll have to buy it again.
Yeah but I bought a lot of tools I don't use. When you have little knowledge and just started your own house where you have to do a lot of things alone you can waste a lot of money on unnecessary things.
I can see the logic in that. But Iโve learned โbuy it nice or buy it twice.โ If I know that Iโll be using the equipment/tools/gear often, thatโs justification itself
Keeping my shoulders back. It was a suggestion I saw for preventing panic/anxiety. Idk what it is, but when your shoulders are in that position it gives some strange feeling of control. I also read somewhere that during panic attacks the body basically wants to curl into fetal position for protection, so I feel like focusing on keeping your arms down and shoulders back is a conscious way to go against that and stay grounded in reality. Works for me, could work for you too.
wyer89 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 13:58:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's true, although imagine it has a lot more to do with the effects of power posing. Which can actually change testosterone and cortisol levels in a person.
tchabes ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 14:46:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry but thatโs refuted pseudo-psychology, none of the proposed effects have been replicated and itโs just marketing from Cuddy et al.
See Cesario et al., 2017 for the discussion of the special issue of the Comprehensive Results in Social Psychology focusing on the attempted replications.
wyer89 ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 14:47:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
sagard ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 15:13:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for this. It's a little ridiculous that people are attributing the immediate benefits of not having constricted breathing to hormones (which generally act slowly) as compared to oxygen tension (which manifests itself quickly).
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:49:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This isnโt /r/science though- your comment is valuable of course, but if power posing works for people with anxiety just let them try it, yeah?
sagard ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 15:16:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/u/tchabes isn't saying that rolling your shoulders back doesn't work (it does, as stated early, through not having impaired respiratory function, which is generally helpful in someone with anxiety ... and also everyone else). They're saying that it doesn't change one's cortisol and testosterone levels.
There's more! Point your toes outward instead of inward, look ahead not down and place your hands in your backpockets or on your hips instead of crossed. All of these things radiate confidence, and confidence is one of those things where 'fake it till you make it' is the best way to improve.
When ever I see someone walking like the guy on the right, with the elbow or higher grab, I feel like someone told them to walk with thier shoulder's back but not the rest of this
Only mildly related, my grandad used to stand like this and he said it was because at school they made them stand like this so they could smack your hand with a ruler if you were naughty, and if you weren't standing like this they'd whack it over your knuckles instead which was worse.
I don't know if it's true but that's what I think of when I see people standing or walking like this!
Oh wow!!! I recently thought I was having a heart attack because I was driving around for work and I was getting these abnormal chest pains that felt like my heart, my entire left arm was weeeeirdly numb on the inside, there was a strange pain in my left shoulder and neck and back, I was profusely sweating cold, and my blood pressure had skyrocketed (I knew this because I had called my manager who drove to me, and took me to a nearby CVS to measure my blood pressure) and i was at 150-something over 90-something. My manager goes โYes, somethingโs definitely going on.โ
...
After going to the hospital and having all kinds of tests and xrays done, doctors told me everything looks fine and that I probably just experienced a panic attack or the beginnings of a fainting episode...
It was kinda embarrassing cuz I thought I was gonna die. My body eventually relaxed by itself and I felt better after laying in the hospital for 5 hours. I was kept calm the entire time but I was reeeeeallly freaking out in the inside.
Yep! I couldnโt agree more!!! I was on the verge of tears the entire time but I kept my composure. It was very very difficult though.
I think I had an anxiety attack before too.
I was watching TV with my roommate, sitting on the couch, feeling perfectly fine, and suddenly this feeling took over my entire body that made me feel HOPELESS and like I was about to die. It was sooo fucking weird.
I slid down so my body could be laying down. I was trying to keep calm and let it pass.
I was sooooo close to telling my roommate to call 911 cuz I felt like I was gonna die. Not that I know what it feels like to die, but thatโs what it felt like.
Eventually it passed and immediately after I was breathing hard...but that shit was scary.
Fuck panic attacks. Fuck anxiety.
Yep! I know exactly the feel. The sudden onset of complete DREAD kicks in out of nowhere. You can't breathe, you get tunnel vision, your hands go numb, ears start ringing...it's awful. I wouldn't wish panic on my enemy.
Hopefully you're doing better now! Anxiety is a bitch to manage, and always remember you're not alone! <3
OMG EXACTLY!!!
Whew! Iโm just glad I can say itโs in our past.
And thanks love! Life is a roller coaster. Still trying to defeat my anxiety. Anxious right now actually. My subconscious is cooooonstantly thinking and overthinking and analyzing and overanalyzing and its sooooe exhausting but I have the gift of โsuppressionโ which might actually be unhealthy and I hide it all with a smile and a personality but honestly the only thing giving me anxiety is my job.
Itโs a sales job. Commission. Still trying to make that my main job and leave the restaurant industry forever.
Itโs been proving to be something more difficult FOR ME cuz of horrible anxiety.
Recently watched a buuuunch of YouTube videos of people using CBD for their anxiety and OH MY GAWD!!! Everyone was saying how pleasant it was AND HOW THE OVERTHINKING STOPPED!!! ๐๐๐
I AM ECSTATIC to try cbd.
I feel like weed gets you high, but not necessarily eases your anxiety. Cannot waaaaiiiiiiit for CBD lol
I hope youโre doing well yourself!!! โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
I hope the CBD works for you! I have yet to try it myself (a lot of my anxieties come from health/contamination/medication type things- I have GAD with slight OCD behaviors so it's a little challenging haha) but if you find yourself spiraling again, therapy is incredible. CBT and exposure therapy have done wonders for me so far and I'm only about 7 sessions in. :)
CBT and exposure therapy, huh??? Iโm totally gonna look into that!!! Iโve dwelled on therapy for a looooong time I just dont know what first step to take. Iโm in California and everything is expensive so for sure my brain is focused on the money part of therapy, but Im sure it cant be THAT expensive like a surgery right???
I DID see some videos where people were saying they didnโt feel a difference with CBD. So I could possibly have to take your route!!!
I was absolutely in the same boat as you. I should've gone into therapy yeeeears ago but I was afraid. If your insurance doesn't cover therapy, a lot of places are "sliding scale" which means they can work out a self-pay fee with you depending on your income. It's cheaper for me to pay out of pocket at a sliding scale then go through my shitty insurance. It's different for everyone, but I pay $60 per visit and I go biweekly. Sessions are about 60mins give or take. I think that's absolutely reasonable for my current situation. Just talk to them and you can work something out for sure! And if you don't jive with a particular therapist don't let it discourage you, just find another one more aligned to your situation.
Therapy can be tough and dig up a lot of emotions you aren't ready to feel and face, but it's worth it in the end. I've gotten so much better at controlling my anxiety and retraining my brain to handle things. You can always PM me if you want!
moal09 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:11:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every time I hear CBT, all I can think of cock and ball torture.
Sounds like EXACTLY what I would wish on my enemy...
Seriously tho, that sucks. I am epileptic and before I had my first grand mal I thought my little partials were mild panic attacks. Obvious now that they werent. The whole vision blurring/'flickering' heart beating fast, sweating and not being able to speak (left temporal lobe) was so effed up. And really scary because these would happen while I drove. Progressively getting worse for a few months, until I had my first grand mal - at work. Just chance that it didn't happen while driving.
one specific panic attack put me out $1,000 for the ambulance ride, and a fed up surgeon telling me I was wasting his time (they wheeled me straight into the stroke ward because the symptoms I was describing fit that of a stroke or anyurism)
I had this drilling left side head pain come on strong and out of nowhere and i got up and immediately passed out and my friends called 911
hospital just injected me with ativan and wheeled me into the hallway where I laid for 4-5 hours until my mother showed up and brought me home
I think so, never got a scan and the pain never came back. This was 2 years ago now so I think I'm okay at this point
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:52:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You might want to look up hyperventilation syndrome (as my doctor put it, the one medical problem an anxious person can look up and have it make them feel a bit better). The erratic breathing and rapid heartrate during panic can cause symptoms that appear dead-on for a heart attack. The cure is, literally for once, taking deep breaths. Even if that's not specifically the problem or it's not persistent, I feel like just knowing that can help a little bit because the anxiety of thinking you're having a heart attack obviously compounds things if you feel that way because you're panicking.
Deep breaths can make a HUGE difference sometimes. My anxiety can agree
osk213 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:25:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Absolutely. Deep breathing is essential and has gotten me out of incoming panic attacks.
sagard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:17:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did they check for thoracic outlet syndrome?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:08:50 on May 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im miles late but, standing up straight and all that wouldn't have helped much. It's okay to just have episodes sometimes, it really does happen to even the best most confident peeps.
Similar thing but smiling can change your mood. You have to do it with your whole face but I read it somewhere and it works. Itโs the same idea that activating certain muscles can release cortisol or whatever and change your brain chemistry.
When Iโm in a mild panic attack/depressive state I force myself to lift my chest/shoulders, smile and box breathe (5s inhale, 5s hold, 5s exhale, 5s hold). It wonโt fix everything but itโs a quick fix for a lot of stuff that especially if I start it before it gets too bad.
Part of this is tilting your chin up. We put our chins down when we are in fear or shame, and the position triggers a vagus nerve response to send more cortisol. Chin up both opens the airway, and stimulates the vagus nerve to have more testosterone, or confidence and calm.
Troebot ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:58:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
raises head "Hey, this does feel bett-" Trips over own feet
My massage therapist pointed out that I stand with shoulders rolled forward, which is bad for my back, which is in enough trouble. Now I constantly remind myself to keep them back. Feels amazing when I actually carry myself properly.
Telenike ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 06:45:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do some weight training that focus on your lower traps and lower back.
My therapist gave me this advice and it felt great for my mental well being but I have lifelong poor posture and it hurt my back like crazy. Targeting those things in the gym has made it heaps easier.
I can't weight train due to disability. I've been told only swimming (no pools with accessible hours near me)and body weight type exercises like yoga and dance.
There is so much you can do with body weight exercises. I used to workout with a celebrity type trainer. I knew I was going to get utterly destroyed when she didnโt get the weights out. I mean burpees are absolutely brutal and thereโs a lot of yoga stuff that I still find very difficult even when Iโm in great shape.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:55:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yoga would certainly be helpful for this sort of thing. Isolating particular muscles is likely quicker to get that result, but yoga isn't exactly going to make your posture worse!
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:40:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
You may have posture problems and muscle imbalances if holding your shoulders back hurts. Unless you're forcing them back really far.
I presumably do, but I don't know how far back is really far. I don't know what is normal. Is the top of my back meant to be straight, are my shoulder blades meant to be further out?
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:42:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's very hard to tell without being physically with you. I was taught by a physiotherapist that if you stand with your heels a few inches from the wall such that your butt is lightly touching the wall, your shoulder blades should also touch the wall (WITHOUT sticking your tummy out) and the back of your head should barely touch the wall. Of course this probably differs a lot if someone is overweight or has a lot of junk in the trunk, neither of which are me.
If you spend a lot of time at the computer, chances are that your resting posture has your shoulders rolled too far forward and your neck/ head craned too far forward. At first, proper posture was very uncomfortable for me and felt like I was sticking my chest out and squeezing my shoulder blades back with effort. Now, it feels comfortable and my back hurts much less day to day.
You could also have bad hip posture contributing (anterior pelvic tilt is a common problem).
So uhh.. did that thing, and my butt and shoulders touch the wall about evenly. My hair, with a pony tail coming down the back, doesn't touch the wall, so my head is a good 3+ inches away there.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:26:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah sounds like you probably need to straighten your neck. Bring your head back with your chin a little tucked, like there's a string at the top of the back of your skull pulling you taller. Anyway looking up some posture guides might be better but I hope this helped anyway. Having your neck so forward can really limit your neck and back flexibility and will eventually cause chronic pain.
I mentioned this in another reply, but hold a pencil with loose fists in each hand. The pencils should be pointing forward(if they are pointing in, shoulders should be further back/down).
I'm tall (6'4"), and when I tried this the first time a few years ago, the pencils were turning all the way into my thighs- it ended up giving me bad shoulder issues (dislocation) amongst other things. It really relaxes me, raises my confidence, and actually just looks better(look at yourself from the side in the mirror as you do it).
It can be uncomfortable for a bit at first, but your body will adjust(mine did). Shoulders back, then down (they will roll forward a bit).
Try holding a pencil in each hand, they should be pointing straight forward.
Also, the yoga could be massively beneficial if you can't lift. Try Yoga with Adrienne on YouTube, try to push yourself a bit on the poses(feel the stretch etc.).
bekstow ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 13:31:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! This works wonders. I have also been taught to plant your feet firmly on the ground (like not crossing your legs at all) it makes you feel like you are grounded and more in control.
siecin ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 15:11:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The part that is usually missing from the advice is how to properly position your shoulders. Roll them back to where your hands are flat parallel to your body with thumb forward. If they are rolled forwards your hands will typically show more of the back of your hand and not thumb front.
It usually happens anyway when you pull your shoulders up but it also allows you to notice when you are slouching easier.
Ha, I used to do jumping jacks to stave off panic attacks, this seems much easier.
wyer89 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:59:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would assume that it has to do with the effects of power posing. There's a really good Ted talk on it's effects!
aaflyyy ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:15:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You, fellow redditor, might just helped me in staying alive until I finally get to talk with a specialist about the mad shit that is going on in my head. If this works for me, thank you!
Yo! Thank you for saying that, I really do hope this helps you out in some way shape or form. I spiral into that negative head-space often and I've made this action a nice tether back to the real-world. You've got this! We all got this!
I dunno what it is, but how you ended this just felt wholesome af. Actually offering the advice with the hope of helping someone, not just telling a story for upvotes.
PT_024 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:36:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This comment and many replies to it seem like they're needed in my life rn. I'll be trying them ASAP and hope it goes well.
dedzip ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:26:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโll try it, thank you
thwumph ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:16:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also on that note, I've heard that sleeping with your legs and arms straight helps to relieve stress and anxiety
B362220 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:22:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know how people say smiling will make you happier? Same idea. Showing off your chest and acting like you're a big person will make you feel like a hard ass.
DJNoona ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:40:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wear a posture corrector shoulder/clavicle brace at work to help me stand straigher and look more attentive/professional. It has helped my neck and back pain. Highly reccomend. Just search on amazon for "posture corrector"
Breathing from your stomach also works to help this. If you put one hand on your chest and the other on your stomach you can feel and adjust where you are breathing from. Similar to posture breathing from the chest is the bodyโs reaction to stress, prepping it for fight or flight. Moving your breathing to your stomach signals that itโs okay to stay vulnerable and relax.
This is one I managed to stick with for years now. To be clear for folks, it's not about sticking out the chest, bring your shoulders all the way back, then bring them down (they should roll forward a bit).
Easiest way to know you are doing it right:
If you hold a pencil in each hand, they should point forward, if they are turning inward, they're too forward.
That's awesome to know! You might have already been taught this but square breathing has been a good technique for me. Inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, exhale for 4 slow seconds, hold for 4 seconds, repeat. It helps to slow your heart rate and recirculate blood flow through your body, rather than have to rush to your heart. I also find after a few rounds I can take a nice deep breath after which is nice for all us who feel like they can't breathe!
Yeah! It's been a good tool for me so far. I do believe I've heard of that just not refered to as "square breathing", and I don't usually factor my breathing in when it's just as important, so thank YOU!
I think itโs something to do with how your posture affects your mood. Youโll see animals like bears and peacocks making themselves appear bigger to assert their dominance. Thereโs a ted talk on it, itโs titled something along the lines of power poses.
I watched a video on an actress talking about how she plays a queen and the advice she gives is 'shoulders back, head up and think of murder' and if ever I feel self conscious or anxious I do this and it does actually make me feel like royalty. Specifically, the medieval kind that killed at least two siblings and permanently imprisoned their nephews to get where they are.
I have really bad posture and it kills my back. Iโve tried keeping my shoulders back to help out, strangely enough I have been feeling much less anxious and more confident
For me slow breathing works well. 5 seconds in, hold, 5 seconds out. Surprised how many timeโs that one reset me back to normal after getting worked up.
Believe it or not the positioning of your body affects the way you think. When you have your shoulders back, your cortisol โstress hormoneโ reduces, and allows you to have better critical thinking rather than anxiety.
Good posture in general makes such a huge difference. You can feel how much better your body is functioning which can definitely improve confidence. I used to be super slouched over and had a bit of an anterior pelvic tilt (as do a lot of people) and when I finally got off my ass and worked on the necessary muscle groups at the gym there was a huge difference and I โgrewโ 2-3 inches and now Iโm not sore all the time for 0 reason
Yes, if I am ever on the edge of an anxiety attack or paranoid I always make sure to not cross by arms, legs, of lean forward. It is primal that if we open up our bodies and make ourselves big it shows and feels confidence
Xolam ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:05:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That also works because when you open your core like that you actually change your brain chemistry, temporarily. There is an article from 2018 Forbes about it, as well as a TED talk.
*There was an attempt to refute this, but the 2018 article claps back at that diss.
That Forest app. It grows a tree for up to 2 hours and during that time, you can't access any apps you think will distract you. If you wanna open a distracting app, you'd have to kill your tree. All your trees, dead or alive, appear in a little forest. I have always had trouble motivating myself to focus on homework and not look at Reddit/YouTube, but this app is just enough guilt to not open them. I haven't killed anything yet and I'm surprised at how much I can care about a small virtual tree. People told me about it and I just completely assumed that I'd never use it or it wouldn't work for me considering how distractible I am, but it works wonders
Yup I installed it. I love trees and I need to stop reading before sleep
*my work uses duoauth... this isn't going to work for me when working. Had to kill my tree already in order to work lol
**I feel like an ad baby saying this but after trying the suggestions I'm super happy. Mostly cause completing a tree gives me points to have a real tree planted
Lissmels ยท 60 points ยท Posted at 14:47:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can manage what apps are "good" or "bad", so if you need an app for work then you can list it so that the tree doesn't die when using that app
That's not bad, that's about what i "donate" when I like free things. Look at me assuming these things that turn out to actually not be that bad. Thanks everyone for encouraging my productivity and screen addiction rehab!
The app 'self control' does that! You can either blacklist all the bad websites or white list the websites you want to be allowed. I know it as a laptop program. And it 100% contributed to me surviving college.
This app has saved me so many times when studying, the idea of having a visual representation of how much you've worked is pretty motivating for me.
I've recommended it to many people, but the answer is usually that it's not enough and they need an app that actually prevents them from using their phone.
Ive always represented how much I've worked by looking at the hours that have passed while completing a set amount of work and comparing the results to others based on previous comparable tasks.
Generally if i dont complete them as efficiently as previous peers, I have to start the app again and grow another tree to distract me from the deep dark pain of screaming at the abyss
Value is a made up number. Although itโs a mere $1.99, why would I buy something just because? I turn my phone off or throw it in another room if I need no cell distractions. I have paid for software which has worth to me. If this was free, Iโd be curious to check it out, and then most likely delete.
nonowh0 ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 13:14:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In addition to all the things you've mentioned, you can tag your trees with the type of work you've done, and the app will keep track of everything and give you nice stats about your workflow.
If that isn't enough, you can export the raw data into a .csv file and do your own data analysis....which is a 100% valid thing to do and is not to be confused in any way with procrastination.
leo3r378 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 12:21:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And if you get the premium version (for like 2$) once you get to 2000 coins you can even plant a real tree!
seconding this. tried this during the exam session, saw how much i'm working and that motivates me.
also, we're keeping track on how many hours we study and then we turn it in for the university. The reason for that is that in course description we have a table where its explained how many hours we have to spend working by ourselves and with the professor based on how many credit do we get for the course.
this app really helps to track that.
Laeryken ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:38:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
On a similar note, Plant Nanny works with making sure you drink enough water in the day. You log your intake by watering your plant, and if you don't water it enough it will get sad and slowly wither away and die. Don't care about your own hydration? Well I sure cared about this fake cute plant's hydration at least.
If you have a Mac, SelfControl (one word) is a great app that blocks websites entirely on your computer, so you canโt access those websites on any browser. You also canโt turn off the blocking once the timer starts!
My boss just pulled me into her office today to talk about my excessive phone use. I was wondering how I was gonna change it and this comment was like a sign from the heavens
E72M ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:34:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know, this app is an amazing idea. I can see it working for me but I set my tree for half an hour to start studying and at that moment the girl I'm talking to messaged me. Ty for that...
Mad magazine did a similar thing except with a dog. Then some lunatic found the dog and killed it.
Seige_J ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:30:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I haven't spent money on an app in years, let alone a $2 app. And I just bought this app with no remorse at all. $2 for productivity and little trees is worth it.
Thank you for posting this. Not only did I download it, but I had therapy today, and my therapist LOVES this idea, as did the other girl I go to therapy with. I'm going to start growing trees during therapy and when I meditate!
Reddit and YouTube aren't the only things distracting him. It's a riddle. You have to mix Reddit and YouTube to see what's actually been distracting him. Turns out it was Redtube.
I donโt like it because it makes me feel like I need an app, to not use apps. Which means I have poor self control and makes me feel terrible that Iโm addicted to my phone. So I just donโt look at my phone.
Degio92 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:35:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use it too and find it extremely useful!
laser41 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:42:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think this is because you associate those trees with the time you spend growing them for example I grew this tree playing outside.
niks_15 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:49:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never heard of this but I turn off all notifications on my phone. It is harder to get distracted if you donโt have a distraction machine distracting you with beeps and buzzes constantly.
Are you able to still play music/playlists in the background while your in this app.
Seriously thinking about downloading this for using on my commute to work (Iโm vvvvv bad about distracted driving) but still want the ability to listen to my own music.
You should try Sleep Town. Same concept (I think it's even made by the same people) but for your sleep schedule. Has done wonders for me and I don't even know why I care about my town but it works.
It's also available as a chrome extension. Probably won't save you if you're determined enough to use another browser, but hopefully will at least make you think twice. Alternatively, if on a Mac, Selfcontrol is the king of distraction prevention. You add sites to a blacklist and set a timer. Once you click go, there is no going to those sites. Not on another browser, not if you close the app, not if you reboot... you're done.
My dad always told me โAsk anyway, the worst they can say is noโ when buying something or when I needed something from another person. Seemed stupid to ask if I was sure they would say no but I was also a socially anxious kid. Turns out that advice has helped me with school, with raises, with people in general, with plans with new friends...
Pikiinuu ยท 7556 points ยท Posted at 03:47:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another thing: "A stupid question is better than a stupid mistake"
I wish more folks in college knew this. The whole room doesnโt understand something but everyone thinks they will look stupid if they ask a question. Smart people are smart because they sought answers they didnโt know.
The problem is there are equally popular posts promoting (in some way) the "better to be silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt" saying or something like that. So that doesnt help either.
Personally I'm asking a lot more because it always feels sucky when you don't ask: you'll never know what could have happened. While asking tends to resolve the choice for me so I'll never go wondering "shit if I had asked something maybe something else would be different"
teh_fizz ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 11:20:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most people donโt understand that โbetter be silentโ quote is more about not mouthing off thinking youโre intelligent or saying something for the sake of saying something.
I've always thought of that "remove all doubt" quote in the context of the person making a dumb assertion. I'm not sure I have specific cause on that, just my interpretation.
Same here. Asking for clarification isn't dumb because it shows you are willing to learn. Stating something stupid with full gusto though, that is dumb.
4qsa ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 16:12:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Better ask a question and sound stupid for a little bit than stay silent and be stupid all your life.
Or
Better stay silent and google that shit when you get home
Interesting. I never thought of that reasoning behind folks not asking questions.
My opinion? I donโt give a flying rat flatulence what anyone else thinks about me, I have enough friends, anyone who doesnโt like me is missing out. Iโd rather ask a dumb question and remove the judgmental pricks from my buddy list, than go on not knowing the answer to my question.
I'm not necessarily disagreeing, but realize there are plenty of situations in life where it does matter what people think of you. If your boss thinks you're an idiot, it matters. If your coworkers think you are an idiot, it matters.
That being said, smart people tend to ask smart questions. If you got a 3.89 it's pretty doubtful you did it by asking stupid questions. You likely asked the questions everyone else was thinking instead of the questions everybody else already knew the answer to and didn't need to ask.
smart people ask questions about the things they dont know, they dont ask neither stupid nor smart questions, they just ask
if you dont know something you ask, maybe it will initially make you look like an idiot but at least you learned something new
also whats a stupid question and what is not a stupid question tends to vary, sometimes certain knowledge that looks like common to you can be completly alien to someone else, so dont be afraind to ask
Yes, but smart people know a lot more than dumb people.
If everybody in your class already knows the answer to your question, it means you are the one who isn't understanding what you are reading or what the teacher has explained. Maybe you aren't a complete idiot because you know you don't understand, but it certainly doesn't qualify you as smart.
the only reason smart people knows more is because they ask more questions that everybody else, or what, you believe that people is born with pre packed information or something
everyone has to start asking from somewhere, thats how knowledge works, it acumulates through the years and countless questions asked, everyone can know a lot, they just need to ask a lot of questions
also there is a thing called diferent intelligences, everyone is smart in a given field, is just that that field is not always academics, einstein for example wasnt the best in mathematics, but he asked for help when he needed to ask for help and payed attention, he also had a lot of free time to think, thats how he revolutionized physics
"if you judge a fish for its ability to climb trees he will grow his whole life believing that he is an idiot"
some people are really bad at mathematics but are excelent remembering dates and places, some people have the capability to easily remember a lot of information, others are good at numbers, some have a lot of muscle memory, depending on where you excel you can be a genious in that field
so yes, people can be smart, just in diferent ways, school is not always a good metric to know that
the only reason smart people knows more is because they ask more questions that everybody else, or what, you believe that people is born with pre packed information or something
Of course not. But smart people often don't need to ask questions because when they do the homework and listen to the instructor, it all makes sense to them. They don't need to ask questions, because they already know the answers.
Note: I am talking about very specific instances whereas you seem to be trying to apply it to everything in the world. I'm talking about situations such as where you are in a university class. Or even in the real world, when you're talking to peers about your job related tasks. There are stupid questions, because those questions reveal you don't know something that you should know because it's your job to know it. Imagine if a doctor asked you how to perform CPR or what Opiates were.
Sounds like your hypothetical doctor should have asked someone that question a lot earlier. If you don't know something, and you don't ask, you still don't know. You gain nothing by not asking. You become smarter by asking.
Wow. "Anyone who doesn't like me is missing out." I'm tempted to think you're cocky, but on the other hand I admire people like you when they're honest and upfront about their feelings and opinions with other people.
I used to be pretty cocky, now Iโm a music minister. It doesnโt change the fact that I know people tend to enjoy being around me, I just try not to rub it in peopleโs faces like I used to. Thank you.
There's nothing wrong with asking, but usually it's easier and less disturbing if you at least try to find out on your own first. Depends on the size of the class of course, but I won't bore the other 600 students in my lecture with my questions and I don't like it when others do. Smaller, specialized classes, that's another story.
This perfectly summarizes how I feel about it. Like there is always that annoying kid who asks 10 questions every lecture because they don't understand while everyone else is just groaning because they all got it the first time.
Asking questions isn't a bad thing but asking your professor or your boss should be the last thing you do. You should first try and figure it out, then you should ask a classmate/coworker, then if you both still don't get it escalate it. I used to be a TA and the kids I absolutely hated were the ones who asked for help on every single thing we did without ever trying for more than 15 seconds. You learn more from failure than from success.
I'm on the other side of the fence here. To me, you should try to figure it out on your own first, and only ask once you've failed.
Unless it's a topic of personal opinion, there is some underlying logic to be found, and forcing yourself to understand that logic makes you understand the material better. At the same time, asking questions wastes the time of those who already caught onto the logic, and makes those who haven't complacent in their understanding.
Tabnet ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:10:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So true, I knew a kid in college who would always ask questions and stay after to talk to the professor. Guess what, he's the only one in my class that graduated with a 4.0 (College of Engineering).
I wish more people knew that thing you said about smart people. It seems like too many people think being smart is knowing a lot of stuff. Really, being smart is valuing understanding more and learning a lot of new things just comes with that.
Oh yeah, especially with todayโs entertainment and accessibility. I love to read but I find myself having to make myself sit down to read a book. Once I do, Iโm in it until Iโm through the whole book but itโs like trying to start flossing when Iโve just found a new show, or a new season of something is out.
I used to teach at a college and I always told my students that there is no such thing as a stupid question. Chances are, if you are wondering about it, someone else in the room is too. Also, questions help me to see what the class struggles with, or reminds me of something else I need to mention. Stupid questions are important!
akod1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:39:53 on May 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do tech support for old people, theyve never known this stuff and they ask me many questions, and they nearly all start with "this is a silly question but.."
I follow up with "the only silly question is the question not asked"
I read somewhere that if you're ever worried you're about to ask a stupid question, remember that NASA scientists once asked a female astronaut if 100 Tampax would be enough for a 7 day trip to space.
I get a lot of twenty-somethings on their first real job at my work, and I always tell them to ask any questions they canโt figure out, because in my field (animal care) I would rather someone feel stupid for thirty seconds than possibly risk injuring an animal or some related mistake.
I love this. I ask a lot of โstupid questionsโ but thatโs because the times that I havenโt, the resulting error is far worse than whatever Iโll get from asking and maybe looking a little dumb.
xylvera ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:18:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's an expression I like that goes something like: Ask a stupid question and be an idiot for a moment, don't ask the stupid question and you'll be an idiot forever. Or something like that. I like it, and I ask stupid questions all the time.
elaerna ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:26:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is like 90% of one of my jobs. I work with doctors who make you feel stupid if you ask a stupid question but also it directly negatively affects the doctor and patient if you guess wrong. Sometimes it takes new hires a long time to realize the docs will like you even less if you never ask your stupid question.
Klime22 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:09:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Almost every time I tell myself this, and ask the stupid question, Iโm told โyou should know thatโ, โI shouldnโt have to tell you thatโ, or some variation of โitโs dumb to ask thatโ. :(
McMyn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:37:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be sure to hear those โanswersโ for what they really mean in >90% of cases: โI wish you hadnโt asked because I donโt have a good enough answerโ.
Edit: the other 10% itโs โ... because I donโt have time/energy to get into the answer right nowโ.
I kind of disagree with this, but I understand the sentiment. Personally, the only way I can make sure that I donโt fuck up is if I make a really stupid mistake and feel utterly embarrassed for it. That embarrassment makes sure I NEVER make that mistake again.
franzee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:11:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great thing to say when someone say "That's a stupid question"!
Fucking thank you, my parents and other people around me always berate me for asking so many questions when I do tasks, I do it though because I would much rather ask the 10 second question rather than fuck up on something small then have to do damage control
This is true until Karen asks the same stupid question for the 10th time. I am all for stupid questions until that person has been educated and should know the answer. At that point if you have to keep asking then you aren't making an effort to know and your wasting everyone else's time.
Hahaha! I'm laughing because I worked at a horrible company that constantly punished me for asking "stupid questions." They were always making stupid mistakes because they were afraid of asking questions.
This is gold. The amount of times i stress at work... "When in doubt, ask me." Its so much easier guiding someone than coming into a clusterfuck, trying to understand what happened, and then fix it.
Can you elaborate on that? What I meant is that it's better to make sure that what you're doing is correct rather than winging it and fucking it up so you have to clean up the mess. I feel that it applies to all time periods.
I know what you meant and i agree with it. It was just a joke about all the people constantly on pc watch, saying words equals violence even when they're taken out of context
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:08:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. When I start a job and am in training, I straight up tell whoever I'm working with that I may ask "stupid" questions because in the past when I assumed something, sometimes it was wrong. Even if it seemed obvious.
I'd rather ask a stupid question than fuck up.
ppffrr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:40:42 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah until that Stupid Question is just Rational Thought you ask away at another less Rational thought made by an Empath. Resulting in Physical Conflict because Empaths & Political Correctness ... guys ... are Irrational. And i talk from experience.
What the fuck does that even mean?
I think you took me in the wrong context.
If I were to elaborate, "It's better to ask questions that may seem obvious to make sure that you are doing something correctly rather than winging it and fucking up majorly" Like the captain of that one German submarine in WWII that fucked the entire thing over because he flushed the toilet wrong.
For real. I was a super scared, super anxious little kid who couldnโt do anything. I couldnโt even order my own meal at restaurants, I couldnโt go up to a counter and pay for my own meal. Then one day I was like โok whatโs the worst that can happen, theyโre not gonna cut my head off.โ And it was like a breakthrough moment. I am still super scared and anxious but I get a lot of comments on how confident I am, because I push through it. Because I know the result will never be terrible.
And itโs fun to just go for something and see what the result will be. Thatโs how I ended up with a wonderful boyfriend.
If they're in an at-will state you can get fired for no reason.
bestoboy ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 07:00:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Semi unethical lpt: just ask people to do stuff for you. You'll be surprised how much simple shit people are willing to do for you if you just tell them to
[deleted] ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 08:40:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I canโt remember the comedian, but I heard a hilarious joke based on this once.
โGo ask her out man, the worst thing she can say is no.โ
And with buying things, particularly used things. Just ask, not in a rude way, but asking, "Is this the best we can do on this price?" works more often than not. It's saved me money a few times.
I always give this advice! Except I phrase it โHey, the answer is always no until you ask.โ
It doesnโt hurt to ask, the worst they can say is no, but more often than not they say yes and you would have never known.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:51:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad says something similar:"If you ask, you might not get what you want. But, if you don't ask, you're guaranteed not to get it." I find that encouraging.
Iโm going into a new job today after many months of searching for one, I got training today and even though I know the tech I havenโt touched it in a while so Iโm afraid of sounding like an idiot, gonna try to remember this
If it's a big ask, the worst that can happen is they say "yes" out of politeness, or because they can't think of an excuse fast enough. They're annoyed you asked, do the thing while feeling bitter about it, and hold it against you thereafter.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:55:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not really your problem though is it?
"You should have said no then. Noted though I won't ask you in the future."
My dad always says this, too! I remember being petrified to ask for my first raise. High school cashier job, and in the job description it mentioned that after a year of working you would get a raise. Thanks to my dad, I went in (still nervous, mind you) and asked, because "The worst they can say is no". The woman was like, "Wow, you've been here for a year already? OK, I will check into this and correct it". WOW! Thanks Dad! (And nice boss lady!).
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 13:51:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Choosing beggars is more entitled people who can't take no for an answer. There's a difference between feeling entitled to something and asking for something.
Comms ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:05:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Here in the Netherlands we have proverb that goes like this "Niet geschoten is altijd mis" it means if you don't shoot your always going to miss. (translated literally) it's saying that you always need to try since if you don't try you know you will not get what you want.
It's my go to advice. I always tell people, just ask, asking questions is free, the worst you could get is a no, if you don't ask, you'll get a no anyway. So if in doubt, ask!
Same here, I was often scared to ask for things I wanted. But I started to think "the worst that can happen is they say no which will get me the same as if I didn't ask at all" so you can only gain or the same place so why not ask?
Works well with airlines. Always dress decently or nicely if you can and ask for an upgrade politely. If they have it available and you're nice to them, chances are they'll give you an upgraded seat.
My wife has a hard time talking to people in public. I don't. She'll walk out to the street to have a smoke when we are out. I'll ask the bartender if there is a preferred place to smoke and they'll tell me where the place is that has Ash trays and chairs.
This is actually known as the Benjamin Franklin technique (coined by.....Benjamin Franklin) as a way of befriending your enemies.
If Franklin ever had to build some kind of relationship with one of his enemies, he would simply ask a small favour of them. For whatever reason people warm to others they don't like if they do a small favour for them at their request, and Franklin apparently made many friends of for enemies this way.
scw55 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:14:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ask anyway has helped with friendship with a mate I was very fond of. We hung out more doing unexpected things, which we wouldn't have done as much if I hadn't being forward with inclusion.
Thank you for kindly pointing out and correcting my sub-conscious gender-bias. Your correction will serve as a reminder of a small way I can ever-so-slightly better citizen of this planet.
My dad used to tell me the same thing!! I use this in everyday life and also tell my friends/boyfriend, which seems to help them be a little less fearful of asking people for things
You have no clue how cocky and mostly wrong about anything I was until I humbled myself a little and asked questions. I would go around spouting my opinion as fact and I had nothing to back it up. Once I got schooled hard in front of a lot of people in my late teens I decided to actually research, which led to asking questions. I now never hold a belief unless I have asked enough people how they feel about it or have done enough research to actually hold an opinion. Some people get annoyed but anyone who gives a damn loves it, it shows maturaty and a willingness to learn and be wrong.
Goetre ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:35:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm.
My university put me on a graduate scheme for a month because I hadn't found a job. It's just a boost to your CV essentially.
1 week in asked my boss at the time would he ever consider me for a PhD candidate. Am now doing a Mphil and starting a PhD with him in November.
Very few raises are handed out to people who don't ask for one. Always ask about pay increases whenever you have a performance review.
augur42 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:44:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only downside is when you're asking for free stuff from someone who's already been asked for free stuff by twenty other people that day. Then you're responsible for making their day just that little bit worse.
xisnotx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:54:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate when people ask me for things that put me in an uncomfortable position. I'm not saying this is bad advice...but I'd say you shouldn't just ask willy nilly for everything just because you can. Some people have a hard time saying no and it will get to a point where you'll come off as being a user, and you'll end up losing a relationship because it's easier to avoid you then to constantly say no to you ..
Well also this could become a problem when it comes to asking for favors... people around you will generally say yes anyway and you might find yourself over relying on your friends. I guess this could be specific to where I am from (France and maybe a specific social group) where it seems the implicit rule is : always help when asked to but be careful not to ask too much or too frequently. That way everybody gets to be a good person easily.
In a previous job I asked for a $5000 raise since I had taken on a lot more responsibilities than what they originally hired me to do. They gave it to me without any negotiation. It never hurts to ask!
When you ask women out, the worst is no longer a "no", though.
somedk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:19:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, this is absolutely not true. You still have to read the situation. People can refuse to continue to engage with you because they are annoyed with your request.
My mom told me that when I was too afraid to ask the waitress if there were free refills
Dan4t ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:34:48 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well they could get annoyed or offended and retaliate to make your life harder in other ways.
My boss got annoyed by one coworker calling to much to ask questions, and came to the conclusion that he was too stupid for the job and eventually he was fired.
My mom always had something similar! Hers was โno wonโt knock you downโ and somehow that ripples through my life. Iโve been told on several occasions that a person applauds my straight forward attitude and the fact that I just ask for what I want or need.
I just think back to โwell...no wonโt knock my down so I might as well askโ
Not just girls. Just normal people at work that spread word about you being dumb etc. Beeing snarky doesnt help against consequences. Not living "yolo" style, sorry. You first need to learn where its socially acceptable to ask questions.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:06:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We must be living completely different lives because that has never once happened to me.
It's also not snarky it's not letting people shame you for doing normal things. Like we're all adults here. I'm not going to stay ignorant just because someone isn't able to grow past their high school mentality.
Didn't happen to me personally, but seen enough around me who were socially outcast, reprimanded or fired because they asked too many or the wrong questions. Social power games are real everywhere, going bright eyed with "we are all adults and can talk openly" is just naive imo.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:58:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No that's fair. I wouldn't ask certain questions of my boss.
I still think day to day though it's a lot better to ask than to remain ignorant.
Usually there aren't that many social consequences or they're nothing you can't smooth over but you're right that they should be considered before asking.
I end every game with 40000 potions in the bank, and Ive only ever used 1 (by accident), and I spend a solid 12 hours of play time over the playthrough running back and forth to the free healer in town.
Iโd take it as โif you canโt pay the mortgage payments twice a monthโ for home ownership. Which is a pretty good policy in general - The common advice is paying rent / mortgage shouldnโt be more than 30% of your income.
mcbeef89 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 16:14:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*cries in Londoner*
Sayakai ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 15:33:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a shame that in some cities that just straight-up doesn't exist.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:01:37 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's literally impossible for me. My rent is 70-75% of my income depending on electricity usage, and the place I'm renting is an illegal apartment that's nearly 40% below average market rate in my area.
In all seriousness, I feel like managing money in RPGs as a kid is the reason I never buy anything unless I can afford it. Learned from blowing all my gold on a cool looking weapon only to find out there was a better one later, but had no money left.
Well, be clear about your skillset: You're awesome at getting by with little money. Don't confuse it with being awesome with money in general once you get more.
When I played DnD, my buddy Scott, a healer taking a vow of poverty, saw I was saving money for better stuff. Then he told me a piece of advice that never left me...
"I see you're saving your gold to get better weapons, armor and such. This is a great mindset that works well in the real world, where we have air conditioning and the number to 911, but here--we fight monsters, skeletons, douchebag warlocks...you name it--and if you don't spend all of your current paycheck, you might not live to see your next paycheck."
A lot of things end up being way more expensive than you think. Imagine a vacation you take on the cheap: you have to add in Ubers or parking at the airport, checked bags, food eaten in transit (there is a point where you will pay just about anything for a sandwich). And that is just getting there.
I have found this: usually stupid doesnโt stay successful. Lindsey Lohan is talented but stupid whereas Kim Kardashian is not particularly talented but is quite astute.
Agree. People always call Trump an idiot. While I agree hes has many negative attributes you dont become a billionaire being stupid. Millionaire maybe, billionaire no.
Genius, you should write a book. Better yet he should have invested in apple from day one and he'd even have more money. Or since were talking about knowing the future he should have won the lottery a couple times. Please tell me where to invest my net worth so I too can become rich.
Yeah. It's not a one-size-fits-all policy, but think about all the people out there that buy jet skis on credit and then default. Its catered more towards reckless spenders
My mortgage is approximately a quarter of my total income. But with bills, household expenses and debt payments, thereโs no way in hell I could afford to spend half of my take home pay on mortgage.
BizzyM ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 12:52:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The way I approached it was if we (wife and I) can afford it with one income and no frivolous bills.
We also lucked out and bought a house that cost $212k to build at the peak of the housing bubble for only $98k at its lowest point in the recession.
This has just solidified an idea Iโve been having in my head for a long time and Iโm starting literally right now.
Every time I go out for fast food, Iโm going to match the total in my savings account. (I just spent $12 at Taco Bell, so $12 is going into savings).
If I canโt afford to do that, I canโt afford eating out.
And maybe Iโll be less fucking fat ๐คค
Raiquo ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:01:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This sounds like half-way good advice. Iโd extend that with; if itโs an impulse purchase that you couldnโt buy twice, you canโt afford it. Still very generalized but a bit better.
ZannX ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:41:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exception being a house. There are some things that are worth getting a loan for.
That being said, you still need to be careful about what house you buy. Perhaps for houses it should be "if you can't afford a loan for a house twice as expensive as the one you're buying, you can't really afford it."
That depends. Does "can't buy it twice" assume no other purchases? Like based soley on my take home pay, I can afford to pay my rent twice. But if we factor in all the other things I need to put money towards (student loans, groceries, car payment, insurance, gas, electricity) I couldn't affor to pay all of those twice
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:49:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well actually I think in the case of rent or a mortgage, you should strive to keep that payment low enough that you could double the payment and still meet all your other needs. In that scenario you would be able to quickly pay off your mortgage, or save/invest more money if youโre renting.
I've heard that one with the added "50/30/20", as in 50% of your income for needs, 30% for wants and 20% for savings (for the things you can't currently afford).
Adjust the ratios. Check how everything is being spent. Dont waste on pointless things. Stretch every dollar. Rice is an awesome food. COUPONS. Of course, off-brands. Goodwill and similar. Make your own food.
That's most of the tips I've learned from when my paycheck to paycheck single mother raised me. (Except the rice part)
enakcm ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 09:57:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
60% is rent right now. 50% needs :( I want a haircut.
jlking3 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 10:50:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A decent haircut is kinda worth it for the self esteem, tbh I'd rather skip a couple meals and get an ok cut that makes me feel better about myself, but I also earn a decent amount so I'm not in a place to talk.
I'm sure if you get a friend to do it you might be able to get a semi decent undercut or something
When your barely making it financial responsibility should trump things like self-esteem. It's much easier to deal with your emotions later once your not homeless or living in a house without the bare basics (like AC if you live in Florida).
True. I don't have experience struggling paycheck to paycheck, I just saw it as one of those things where the less you have the more important it is to care about some things that don't seem important, staying clean and looking good and taking care of yourself contribute to a feeling of self worth and you should try to maintain that even when things are bad. It's why we find those stories about barbers giving the homeless haircuts so inspiring, it's just one of those things that keep you feeling human.
My dad always said just cause you have the money to buy something doesn't mean that it's a good idea to buy it, always make sure that you have money to replace the things you actually need.
This actually reminded me I needed to pay my gas bill. It wasn't due for a little bit but I like to get it out of the way as soon as I can. A lot less stress, and it usually means means I have more money for what I want later.
I'm just kidding haha but Dave Ramsey says stuff like it, but anyone with an ounce of finance knowledge essentially knows this. Whether they have the wisdom to follow through (not buying 'wants' you can't afford) is a different story haha
This is the reason I buy so many things second hand, do I really need a stereo amplifier for my hifi? Well no I don't, but If I buy one second hand I can probably afford one.
Do I really need a power washer for the garden? Nah I can get the same results with a hard brush and a ton of elbow grease, but if I buy one used then I can probably justify it.
I have to go through this mantra so much since I'm saving to buy my first house. I'm actually thinking that un-subbing from the subreddit that keeps urging me to build a new computer is the way to go.
Along this line, I've noticed younger people complaining about not being able to buy a home are trying to buy homes in the most desirable areas rather than starting with a "starter home" in a less desirable area in order to build some equity. My first house was 850 sq ft in a not desirable area, don't be scared to take a step back in order to take 2 steps forward.
My parents have been urging me to buy in the nicer neighborhood. The difference in house prices are 100k vs 250-300k, and for really not that much more space. I'm almost ready to just buy in the less desirable neighborhood. I could put 20% down on a house there immediately.
Buying a home in general will build equity since your payments go towards your home instead of to a landlord. Buying in a less desirable area is, by definition - less desirable. So of course your buyers are not the same as those looking to live in more desirable areas, but everybody needs to live somewhere and not everyone is wealthy enough to live in desirable areas. So that's who your future potential buyers are.
By buying something more affordable, you are able to put more money towards your payment each month, and anything above your payment all go towards principal <---this significantly increases your equity much quicker. This also results in being able to cut your interest payments over the course of your loan by half or more. That's just wasted money, might as well reduce it. Then when you sell, you owe far less on the mortgage which means you'll end up with more in your bank account which you can then use to put down on a home in a more desirable area.
Any homeowner who isn't wealthy and doesn't start with a "starter home" is very likely being financially irresponsible. If you're in your 20's and buying a dream home, you're probably making a really bad decision.
I was fortunate enough to find a small house like yours in a neighborhood of similar, smaller, tract homes. It didn't have central air or things like that, but it was a solid little house. Our street was OK - homes were well maintained on the whole. A few streets over there was a little run down area and some rental areas but like I said, we were OK.
Our house had been a rental and I fixed it up, remodeling the kitchen and bathroom and landscaping the yard substantially - a lot of sweat equity. We sold it 6 years later to buy another house and it had grown in value a bit - I used some of the $$ we earned on it to pay off one of my student loans.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:05:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad had this same concept, but heโd say โnever stretch your feet out further than you have a blanket to cover.โ It sounds better in his language lol
If you can tell that someone is going to hit you, tilt your head down. Teeth don't grow back. Your jaw is lights out. If they punch the top of your skull, they will probably break their hand. Always be drunk.
Ok I got it. A hit to the jaw causes the head and neck to rotate very quickly whipping the brain around inside the skull. All that movement damages the brain usually causing a concussion and the now overly active neurones override the brains usual activity forcing it to shut down for repairs. This causes temporary paralysis and loss of consciousness otherwise called a KO
Posting what you found. Its kinda like when you google a problem youโre having and find a forum post of the same problem, and then OP finds the solution and posts it.
You can also do this with several other techniques. If someone is trying to provoke you, a fast, hard jab to where the ribs meet will knock the wind out of them. A slap to the neck will do the same thing, because it triggers the same reaction. A kick to the groin will do the same thing. Remember. A street fight is never a fair fight. Use any force necessary. Run when possible.
To add to this, hit the side of their neck with the side of your hand. Easy to do, it really knocks the wind out of you and hurts if you're the one being hit, and if you're the one doing the hitting, the side of your hand is harder and a smaller surface area so requires less force for a greater result.
Haha no. Not trolly. I used to be a police officer in the UK. We don't have guns. We have to learn to defend ourselves. I'm a small woman. If I slapped someone's neck it wouldn't have much of an impact.
Speaking from personal experience I know the discussion is much more aimed around arming them with tasers. At the moment only a few have tasers but I know they've discussed arming a lot more with them in the Met at least.
i have a pre-teen daughter, 2 twin baby girls, and a wife who only weighs 3 digits if we go to a seafood buffet. I've been into muay thai for a while now, and when it came time to teach them self defense i didn't show them how to get into a proper stance, jab, or how to defend themselves from punches.
I taught them to shove their fingers into eyes, grab a handful of trachea, headbutt the nose/eye/cheek, and frame using elbows/forearms/knees to create enough space to break free and run away from the situation. I'm not saying my 10 year old is going to beat up a grown man, but she is going to hurt him bad enough to either get away or make him think this isn't worth losing an eye over and run off himself.
My pops used to say "You gotta be able to do three things to fight: breathe, see, and stand. Take away one of those and you'll win. There's no such thing as a fair fight where I'm from."
Perfect, people dont understand enough of this. Imo the fingers/( or anything really) in the eyes is the most effective. But everything else you mentioned is great advice too.
One thing i always hated to hear is to go for a kick in the groin. It sounds like it should drop a man but it most people could fight through the pain. And thats if you get a hit on target.
Kick to the groin forces the guy to double up. Even if you don't connect, the reflex still kicks in. That gives you a good few seconds (more if you do connect) where the eyes, nose, trachea are easily accessible.
What is funny about protecting oneโs self with finger and wrist locks? As a smaller person Iโm greatly limited in my reach and strength. A man my size is still usually stronger than me.
Iโm limited to either running away (preferable) or using their weak points to my advantage. Thereโs no way I could win a slug fest. If their hands are on me, I can probably reach their fingers and hands, which compared to an arm are weak.
Itโs not fool proof and you can still be hurt, but I have found it to be a very strong deterrent to strangers touching me without permission.
h3lme7 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 20:03:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes and no itโs that plus there is a artery behind your jaw. You get punched in the jaw it kind chokes that artery down n u pass out from lack of blood flow to the brain. Head tilted down means you jaw is also setting on neck muscles instead of holding itself.
Yup. It also severs a few connections. That's why people can develop a "glass jaw" after being knocked out once. It's easier to sever connections after they've been severed at some point, and even easier after repeated events.
Ah, the kind of informative comment everyone comes to the comment section for.
Pikiinuu ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 23:44:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah the kind of sarcastic comment that would make me lose sleep. But seriously, how else would I explain that?
slaeha ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 16:21:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Enough rotational force to spin the brain and sort of turn it of for a second. I think KO speed is the brain moving 180 RPM.
I mean a straight back and forth shake from a punch something sucks too but only leaves you concussed compared to completely knocked out AND then concussed upon bouncing off the floor
Also, there are a lot of nerves that run from the shoulder up to the base of the skull behind the jaw. A sharp blow to the neck area or jaw can overload those nerves and you lose consciousness for a short period of time.
KOs happen two ways. First way is a massive blood pressure spike, causing you brain to shut down for protection. This can happen if you get hit in the jaw causing your head to sharply rotate or by getting hit directly in the jugular vein. Second way is literally brain trauma, you get hit hard enough (by a fist or pavement) that your brain slams into your skull... again causing preventative shutdown or shutdown from the damage itself (this is the most dangerous, can easily cause coma or death).
As a boxer, this is good advice. One of the first things they teach you in boxing is to keep your chin down and keep your hands up. You are much more likely to be knocked out by a punch to the jaw than the top of your head. Also, it hurts a lot more to punch someone in the top of the head than anywhere else
Heath776 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 18:07:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The hardest part of the skull in the top of the head right?
Well, I assume the back of your head is still pretty hard. However, getting hit on the back of your head can cause a lot more damage to your brain I believe as the back of your brain is responsible for vision. In boxing youโre not actually allowed to punch your opponent on the back of their head.
tmed1 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:29:40 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The brainstem is there and controls involuntary functions like breathing. Fuck it up bad enough= you ded
All my alterations start with a hem. I try to get the proper waist size do I don't have to get the upper cut. Unfortunately you have to be standing quite close when they're measuring.
In my experience, you can't start a fight with an uppercut. You have to get a STAR first with normal punches (A or B button, head or body blows) timed correctly, then you push the START BUTTON (again, timed correctly) and you can knock your opponent down or take their power bar down quite a bit.
That's not how uppercuts work. It's more of a right hand that comes from the legs. They usually start with feeling someone out. A good uppercut is more of a jab that starts with the legs. Sometimes they land in the sternum, sometimes you wake up dizzying. Watch Mike Tyson and you'll understand.
I know what an uppercut is. Thanks for the underhanded comment buddy, but I've seen plenty of Mike Tyson. 'A good uppercut is more of a jab that starts with the legs'. Near most movements in boxing come from the legs but you made yourself sound silly. You go watch some Mike Tyson :)
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:31:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also (amateur but have been around) a really effective uppercut is a short range uppercut, not a jab right?
Depends on where you hit the opponent. Correct me if I'm wrong but the chest wouldn't hurt at all. Neither would the head. The chin though, that could hurt and let you open them up. Forehead hurts as well.
Well, there's more than one type of uppercut. Sorry if I offended you. But as you said, " don't you have to be really close to start a fight with an uppercut?". How do you think a fight starts? No pushing or shoving, what happens after that. Do people just run at each other and start swinging? As I said, an uppercut is usually set by testing the opponent. It's not some huge overly complex haymaker. Just a simple test of gauge. I really hope the " underhanded comment was a pun.
To clarify I'm not trolling or disagreeing with anything. I'm legit asking?
Laoleng ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 08:18:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A punch to your face (nose, jaw, cheek, eye...) is more dangerous than a punch to the upper part of your head because the bones of the face are waaaaay thinner and fragile than the frontal bone for example. To put it simply, your head was designed so that you have more bone resistance above the eyes than lower.
I havent ever seen anyone throw an uppercut in street/barfights. Youโre pretty right though.
zbeezle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:48:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
an uppercut with any power to it is gonna be in real tight, meaning youve already fucked up by letting someone whos aggressive towards you get super close. Most people toss a haymaker to start. And if the haymaker has to hit your head, it should hit the hard part of your skull. Haymakers have very little structure behind them meaning that the thrower is pretty likely to damage their own hand impacting a hard surface. But in all reality, its better to block the hit, or, even better, dodge it.
As for vision, tucking your head does restrict your vision a bit, but youll still be able to see all or at least most of your attackers body. At least the parts that matter (hands and feet).
And don't stick around longer than you have to. If you get an opportunity to run away, fuckin run. Your honor aint worth your life, brother.
Good advice. Not a tough guy here but was in several altercation in my younger and wilder 20s (dealing with drunks at bars mostly.) And had never thought to put my head down. I mean I knew to tuck it in and just keep my hands up to defend any strikes but you're dead on with the mostly throwing haymakers. Most wouldn't even connect or would throw them off balance enough to get punches in or decide to flee. I think it would be hard to make this an instinct to put my head down and fight. Hopefully don't have to find out anytime soon.
Chin down, hands up is like one of the first things you'll be taught boxing. Problem being that the second you get hit chin comes up and hands go down as you flinch away from the damage.
If you're really worried about this happening go train boxing, bjj, muay thai or wrestling. One off self defence classes are worse than nothing.
I don't know about other countries but in the UK it can be a valid legal defence if you can show you were genuinely in reasonable danger of physical injury and the best way to prevent it was to attack first.
Youโre the stereotypical Redditor Iโm sure itโll bother you at some point. If your iq was higher than 85 you would understand the only insults that matter are the ones that are true
It isn't common at all, you kinda have to try somewhat hard to be unlikable because people would usually upvote a lot more than downvote. On average karma tends to go up, even if you don't get voted tlyour karma goes up because of your own automatic upvotes.
There are a lot of myths about fighting, and thats one of them. Just like the old "you can drive someone's nose into their brain and kill them!"
I'll put it this way. If there were places on your head you could punch that just kill you outright, there would be a lot of boxers dying in the ring. I've been training for a while, fought a little. Been punched there. You don't want to get punched in the temple, it's pretty fucking unpleasant. But it won't kill you unless it's a one in a million shot.
ledow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:21:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1) If they know how to strike, it won't make a difference (you don't punch the jaw, you heel-of-palm it from below, and pull to the side late to dislocate).
2) If they catch your temple, you're in for a world of hurt far worse than a broken jaw.
3) Someone accustomed to punching won't be put off by hitting a solid object, they positively expect it, but they also wouldn't aim for anything solid on you (heads are a bad idea, there are much better targets).
It'll work against amateur street-brawlers, but it wouldn't work against anyone who seriously meant you harm and knew how to do so.
Generally, you're "correct" but boxers and martial artists cover their solar plexus and kidneys for a reason - and they can only deliver head-strikes because of boxing gloves and padding.
How is this not common knowledge?!?! I've struggled with ingrown hairs from shaving for years and no one ever recommended this, not even my doctor. So much aggravation I could have avoided with 1 tip.
It was part of the process when my dad taught me how to shave.
Shave immediately after you've come out the shower, your pores will be more open. Alternatively fill the sink up with warm water and splash it on your face. Pat dry.
I learned by watching the Cosby show. Cliff Huxtable taught me how to shave and inspired me to become a doctor. He was a more positive influence than my own father. Still hard to accept what he did.
At first I was going to write something snarky but as I thought about it if I found out that James Avery (Uncle Phil from The Fresh Prince) had done what Cosby did I'd feel the same way.
So, I feel you man.
I donโt want to destroy your image of your hero but I feel you should know... He ran a criminal organization (a cult really) that took advantage of young children in New York. He broke many laws. He was also infatuated with turning 4 overgrown mutants into turtle soup and was mortal enemies with a 4-5 foot tall rat.
If you watched the cartoon when you were a kid (if you were a kid that watched 1990โs turtles) and think back you can probably hear it. Itโs just Uncle Phil using a nasally voice hahaha blew my mind when I read it
[deleted] ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 11:52:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, sorry, I remember now it was a daughter.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:33:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:01:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
... nephew?
rsn1990 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 11:52:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless youโre back from the dead, I think not
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:54:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well I had a visit to Winterfell, not sure what you remember but it really cleared my head and I think I'm ready to see you again.
d1x1e1a ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:03:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For those of us like yourself and myself with absent fathers i found the best tip is to ensure you inherit a straight ginger hair gene this ensures that ingrowing hairs dont occur because the fuckers are like welding rods and simply burst through the skin.
Down side is that shaving using water that is anything less than near boiling is like trying to cut welding rods with a butter knife.
I used to have a plastic โshaving setโ that was really just a soap dish and a Roxie shaped chunk of plastic. I would โshaveโ with my dad every morning and heโd teach me how to do it properly.
Same. People think I'm crazy.
They ask how I don't miss spots. I go by feel and not by sight, I have lighter-coloured facial hair, so it is hard to see when it is very short. But you can feel it.
rf_king ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 16:52:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
viriiu ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 13:42:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
your pores will be more open.
Pores don't open or close. Pores don't have muscles/ are not muscles. It's an old myth that just refuse to die. Heat does warm up the sebum in your pore tho, which when picking on pimples makes it easier to pop. Idk how it affects hair removal but I can imagine it helps.
nicehats ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 08:57:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can vouch this works.
Also, always shave in the direction of the hair. The cut angle across the hair makes it difficult for the hair to "catch" under the skin. Don't use electric shavers!
Untreated, it's a frustrating affliction underserved by us lovely curly boys.
[deleted] ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 09:07:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait wait wait.... why "don't use electric shavers?" I like my electric razor.
nicehats ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 09:17:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Well, everyone's hair is different.
Ingrowing hairs are more common with curly or thick wavey hair. The hairs have a stronger growing direction and will often grow in sporadic directions. Following the direction of the hair while shaving greatly minimised the chance of it ingrowing.
This is almost impossible when using an electric shaver as the blades can cut at many angles, loosing control over cutting them in the most effective way to avoid ingrowing hairs.
Again, everyone's hair is different, so it's definitely worth experimenting with a rasor instead of an electric shaver.
I'm now 98% blemish free and I can show my neck without embarrassment :)
I'm no dermatologist! But I did study this heavily and experiment, as I was determined to get rid of that hideous rash and spots that made me look dirty or unwashed.
I also got a great cheap USB microscope from eBay to take a real good look! Plucked the real bad ones out with a sterilised pin. Please don't try this, especially if you're on meth.
Do you still get a close shave if you shave with the hair? Iโve noticed if I donโt shave against the grain I have a much worse shave. Dunno if itโs me or the razor
nicehats ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 13:08:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You are right in thinking the shave is not so close.
But it's worth "training" your hair growth for a couple of months, especially if you have been suffering from ingrowing hair for years.
For occasions I need to be dapper, I shave against the grain. My face handles it well as long as I don't always shave this way.
I normally shave with the hair the first time around and do a round two of going against the grain. I don't know if it'll help you, but I've found it to be a much smoother shave for me.
Yeah, I have this one place on my neck where the hair grows in a different direction, no idea why.
But that spot looks like shit when I use an electric shaver, hard to shave around anyway, but much worse with the electric shaver. I got a really nice one too, hoped it would do better, it does but still not great.
Hair on the neck isn't really like on the face it doesn't all grow in one direction so where on your face you would shave with the hair, On your neck it's best to shave in every direction a few times if your looking for a clean shave
rootb33r ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 09:14:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm guessing because electric shavers have circular rotating blades, so the chances of the blades cutting a hair against the grain are pretty high.
The chances of ingrown hair problems increases with electric razors.
But that said, everyone is different. If you don't have that problem then keep on keepin' on. Electric razors are convenient at the very least.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 11:49:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One equally game-chamging thing that I found out was about them, that you are essentially not supposed to press them into your face, only to keep them lightly on your skin. That changed them for me.
I use a Norelco electric shaver and it changed my shaving lifeโ no more nicks and cuts! Plus, easier clean up, less expensive (have used the same shaver for 10 years and changed the blades once), maybe less consumable waste generated too.
I donโt have curly or wavy facial hair so never had an ingrown hair problem though.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:47:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I imagine you also disassemble and clean it often?
I rinse after every use and every so often use rubbing alcohol or hydrogen peroxide to disinfect the part that contacts skin, and use the little brush it came with to clean out crevices inside.
Very occasionally I will take out all the blade parts and clean them with the brush and rubbing alcohol.
since you got the tips.. I havent shaved my face in years and have a big beard simply because i could never give my self proper side burns. how do you guys get normal looking sideburns??
Electric shavers are the worst invention in human history. Looking back, I canโt believe I actually used to use one.
My problem with shaving in the direction of the hair is that the direction โflipsโ as you go across my face/neck. I inevitably catch a few spots going the wrong way.
Me too. My neck hair grow upward toward my face. My face hair grows downward towards my neck. At the jaw bone is where things get a bit blurry. Most of my jawline hair, except for the chin area is actually pointing toward my chin! But on the chin area itself my hair is growing downward towards my neck. I learned this over the years of shaving with a razor. Now i have muscle memory when the razor touches my face I automatically shave towards the correct direction. And for the bulrry areas, I don't go against the grain but rather at 90 degree angle.
Whatever free sample I can get from Sephora that week.
TCAkula ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:33:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use a homemade mixture of equal parts tea tree oil, eucalyptus oil, and lavender, with a splash of witch hazel. It keeps the razor burn away, and keeps my skin conditioned.
chwq ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:31:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bold of you to assume Iโm using this tip to shave my face
Using shave oil helps a lot. And a badger hair brush with real shaving cream/soap. Nothing from a can. Also, ditch the cartridge razor. Safety razors are better and the blades are dirt cheap. These things changed my life.
anakaine ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 09:46:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried a number of these, specifically the safety razor, shaving cream, and brush. I went back to the cartridge razor after not too long. Still got a decent shave, less risk of a painful cut that took ages to heal, and the can stuff I use works quite well as it is.
Peopleโs skin generally improve with age and they attribute this improvement with changes theyโve made to their shaving routine when in reality their skin is just better than it was.
For sure. I noticed the biggest difference after I had been using real shaving cream and a safety razor for a while. Then I went on vacation and figured I'd just bring along a Mach 3 and some Gillette shave gel. Big mistake. I had the worst razor burn of my life. Didn't shave the rest of the vacation. I find that I get less nicks with a safety razor since I have don't need to work as hard.
My roomate showed me the way of the safety razor. Never went back. Damn thing cuts like a 6 blade at the fraction of the cost. The damn 99 cent store carries safety razor blades now. Dollar shave club to the max haha.
haha my 99 cent store is my go too "Dollar Shave". Pretty damn good blades. But I only do single use, I never really reuse blades because I always end up getting cut.
Interesting. I've used a synthetic brush before but it was pretty cheap and I didn't like it. I've stuck with badger ever since. I didn't like boar hair, either.
They are softer, don't need soaking, dry faster, and don't need to be maintained at the very least. You get a better lather faster. And they are much cheaper despite being better. Most people who are into straight shaving prefer them nowadays if you hang around forums. And for those who care, you don't help animal cruelty (badger hair comes from china since badgers are a protected specie in the EU and US, there are articles and horrific videos about what is going on there but i know many people don't care). You can try Tuxedo Knots and Yaki ones, they're the ones most often recommended.
Up until about 6 months ago (Iโm 22 and didnโt start legitimately growing facial hair until about a year ago) I tried everything except shave butter. My face would shave fine with whatever I used, but my neck is a bastard. Shave butter + cold water and peroxide has done miracles.
Cold water acts as an astringent by making your body โseize upโ (closes up the pours). Heat to open them pre-shave (shower or like a hot towel in a barber shop) then shave, but a super cheap astringent that isnโt โnamed branded expensive bsโ is just witch hazel. https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/witch-hazel-benefits-uses
I have sensitive skin and itโs what has worked best for me. And moisturize your skin always, avoid the fragrance crap. Think of it like flowery body armor versus functional body armor. Go with functional.
viriiu ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 13:39:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pores don't close or open. Pores aren't muscles. Heat however does warm up the sebum in the pore
This might be unpopular but I have my best shaves dry+pre shower. Never cut myself dry shaving, lather up with foam and I have a lot more accidents. The hot shower after helps sooth the dryness that tends to occur after shaving.
Filling a sink with water and throwing that water on my face sounds like a great recipe for me to break out (bacteria from the sink basin would quite enjoy growing in my pores).
So I would just let the faucet run hot and use the water as it pours :)
My dad taught me to put a bit of rubbing alcohol on your hands and pass it on your face to clean after shaving. I never did because it seemed like and awful idea and like it really wouldnt be good for the skin. Appearently my grandad taught him thats how you should shave.
How bad is it to put alcohol on your face after shaving? does it do any cleaning or is it just bad?
pjgpv ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:51:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alum block works better for the same process, is less aggressive on your face and actually works a little like an antiperspirant for your face.
Elvthee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:06:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bad, the alcohol is going to dehydrate your skin as it evaporates.
This post by a chemist goes in depth about humectants and mention ethanol and how it dehydrates your skin.
antbrit ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:37:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup. And if you want to make it even easier, get a small beard comb and use it in the shower. You can really, really tell the difference.
And they are double sided! That's like 10 blades for a dollar!
XFMR ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:31:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That depends. I have really thick and curly facial hair coupled with sensitive skin so i dull blades easily and I can really feel the difference as they dull. So I only get two or three comfortable shaves out of safety razors blades. Thereโs this one generic brand of blades they sell at military exchanges that the general consensus among everyone Iโve talked to seems to be that brand is terrible and you get one good shave out of their blades if they even made them well enough for that.
No, I'm pretty sure that's still like 10 blades for a dollar.
I have thick and curly hair, as well.
The trick is, don't buy the shitty blades at the commissary. There are plenty of good blades out there that are the fraction of the price of a cartridge blade. I find that a good safety razor blade lasts me the same as a cartridge (or more) but only costs around 30 cents per blade.
XFMR ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:43:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh I know not to buy those, ran out of my derbyโs on an underway once and had to settle for them when we pulled into port. Iโll agree they are a significantly better deal than disposables and cartridge razors and I havenโt used one of those in about 4-5 years now, itโs not even a cost reason for me. Itโs that I get significantly less irritation. If the cartridge stuff produced the same results or better Iโd pay more for them but they never will.
XFMR ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:49:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
If youโre just looking to get into it and see if you like it without wasting a bunch of money the holder doesnโt matter much. I use that Van Der Hagen one that you can buy at Walmart and I started with their blades cuz thatโs what I could find out in town when I started out. Iโve seen guys on wicked edge shit on that one before but itโs lasted 5 years with no problems and I havenโt had to break it down yet for cleaning... Iโm really just biding my time on that. So really just pay what youโre willing to pay into it and get something you like the look of and call it a day. Derby makes good blades in my opinion.
If you want to get into straight razors a great brand is Dovo. Theyโre German and they still use Swedish steel which is great for straight razors. You can snag a starter blade for like $80 but you gotta get a good 3โ strop with it. So initial cost can get you into like well over $150 but if you take care of the stuff well the strop will last years and the blade will last til you die with only occasional honing.
For more info on the whole she-bang I recommend r/wetshaving since itโs a bit more approachable of a sub and tailors more to beginner wet shavers. Wicked_Edge is great, donโt get me wrong, but itโs a bit more intimidating if youโre new and just looking for a jumping off point as a lot of guys there are hobbyists and you see shave of the day posts more than anything. Wetshaving has a stickied thread for questions.
Edit: I got my dovo 4 years ago for $80 and itโs been great. I think I had found a deal that was going on when I got it so it may be more pricey now. It wasnโt their top of the line but even their lowest priced ones are basically considered what you shoot for when youโre making a quality straight razor and having used a few other brands I can absolutely agree.
Get proper gear. Most importantly a safety razer with interchangeable single blades (so you can get really good,sharp ones) and a good shaving cream with plenty of fats and a brush to apply. Once I researched into it shaving stopped being a dreaded chore. Cartridge razers suck big time.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:36:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How is this not common knowledge?!?!
It's far from a sure thing.
Jonaxg7 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:38:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Neither of my parents told me to use shaving cream after seeing me shave. I didnt realize it was important until I tried it months later. I thought it was normal for skin to sting and get inflamed after shaving.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:00:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did too. Cold water helped but wasnโt/isnโt enough on its own. I ended up adding Bump Stopper to the mix and my face looks so much better.
A lot like a zit. Instead of emulsified oils blocking your pore itโs just the hair. Problem is as the hair keeps growing it gets worse because it has nowhere to go.
This single mom from Arkansas has changed the shaving industry with this one weird tip. Doctors hate her!
antbrit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:36:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Agreed. You use warm water to open the pores and soften the hair, and cold water to make your skin tense up. Then you apply after shave or moisturiser, and off you go.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:03:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What is aftershave? What is it for?
antbrit ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:05:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know if you're being serious or not, but it's a lotion or balm you put on your face to moisture the skin after shaving. It helps with cuts, dry skin, etc.
A lot of people (including myself) didn't know what it was actually for, and therefore never bothered using it!
antbrit ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:45:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really?! Well give it a go, my man. It'll make your face feel soft and you'll look fresh. When I don't use it, my face feels the same way as running your hand over a wall lol
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:11:20 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How does moisture "help" with cuts?
antbrit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:47:56 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Shaving can be quite aggressive on the skin, especially if your exposed to very cold or very hot weather. When you shave, you are removing the hair but you are also exfoliating in the most extreme way. If you don't moisturise it, it's going to stay dry, which is going to make your face look dry, tight, rough, and even a bit swollen. However, if you moisturise it, your skin is going to be full of all the stuff it needs to be healthy.
If you get a cut and don't put anything on it, you're having a bit of your skin cut open when all the surrounding area is also dry, tight, etc. Not only is an open cut that could get infected, but it's going to take a few days to heal. If you put something on it, first of all, your skin is going to be healthy. So it'll have all it need to heal the cuts and the aggressive process that it is to constantly slide a razor over it, but also, it's going to be this protective layer that is going to stop the filth in the air and in your hands to get into the cut.
I'd say, give it a go. Get some Nivea moisturiser/aftershave (one with no alcohol). You'll go from, like a said, feeling your face is like a wall (i.e. hairless but rough) to looking and feeling like the face of guys who never gets any facial hair and have a very smooth beard area.
For better results, make sure your beard/stubble is really, really wet. Ideally do this in the shower. Run your fingers across your beard to untangle it. Once you are out of the shower, run hot water and put the razor under the tap for like 10 seconds. Shave always following the grain, never against. Stretch your skin if you need to pulling from areas where you dont get hair like the cheeks or the side of the neck. Once your down, run the cold tap, rinse all the hairs and shaving gel still in the direction in which the hair grows. And then put on the moisturiser/after shave. Put on enough to see it shine a little bit. Cover all the areas you've shaved, and let it dry on you. Once it dries, you'll feel how it feel way smoother than it normally would. You can put on some more at the start of every day.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:35:02 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting. I'd be interested if it does help cuts heal. But I'm also actively trying to cut down on this kinda thing. All that plastic waste etc. I already stopped using shampoo. Maybe if there was one of those refill shops doing it... Or if there was a homemade solution.
24 hours after you shave, also try a gentle DIY scrub. Olive oil, coffee grounds and sugar is the best scrub I've used. It helps prevent ingrown hair. Also, try scrubbing your skin with this about 20 minutes before you shave (maybe save this for weekends).
Rikolas ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:51:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you not wash your face with cold water after a shave anyway??? How else do you get the residue off??
For legs, the most important thing is to exfoliate first. I use the cheap Italy towels from amazon (I think theyโre actually Korean, I donโt know why theyโre called that). And I read something on here a couple years ago about using rubbing alcohol immediately after shaving. I donโt know why or how it works, but exfoliating, shaving, then spraying with alcohol has honestly fully eliminated razor burn and ingrown hairs for me. Itโs a life-changer.
See now I'm confused because I have been shaving my face for 10+ years and cold water on my face would cause Razer burn almost immediately. Hot water is way better I thought
How to Shave:
1. Splash warm to hot water on skin (opens up the pores and lifts hairs from skin)
2. Use a shaving brush to add shaving cream or balm to skin (softens and lifts the hair from the skin, making it easier to shave)
3. Shave, but going the same direction your hair grows.. DO NOT shave against the grain/flow. Try to only shave once on the area
4. Wash off the remaining cream/balm with fresh/COLD water
5. apply a moisturiser to the shaved area
6. Done
I've done this since I start shaving and my wife says I still have a faceas soft as a babies bottom....apart from the wrinkles
It is. I mentioned in a different comment that we donโt have tiny muscles around each pore that would allow them to open or close. Warm water or steam can loosen the shit that is clogging your pores, making it easier to remove, but your pores themselves donโt have anything about them that would allow them to react to temperature.
Thereโs a single little muscle at the base of each of your hairs. Thatโs the little white bit you see at the end of a strand if you pull it out. That muscle can tighten and straighten out your hair just a little.
Iโve never understood the โwith the grainโ advice though. Maybe you can elaborate on why?
If I do only with the grain I have hair remaining clear as day both visibly and by feel. I go against the grain, multiple passes, havenโt had any trouble.
Going against the grain is more efficient, but more likely to cause cuts, ingrown hairs and irritated skin. Some people never have that problem but alot people do.
That's unfortunate. I guess I'm lucky. I usually shower/splash warm water, shave with a shaving soap, and brush. Use an old school safety razor, and do 3 passes (one with the grain, one across it, and one against it, to make sure the hair gets cut shorter each pass instead of all at once.) With little to no, pressure on my face with the razor. Followed by cold water, and a moisturizing aftershave balm.
That's been my routine for a while now, and I haven't had an ingrown hair since. I understand that there is no, magic solution to everyone's skin problems though. So what works for me may not be true for everyone.
It works for me. Also the cold water is meant to close the pores again. It seems to work ok for me unless Im just blessed with a baby face under my beard
Des0lus ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 11:28:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is no opening or closing of pores. Its a myth. Please don't give a how-to packed with myths and lies.
maybe, but it still cleans your face better than cold water. Plus I was just showing what I do for shaving, I'm not an expert and never said I was. Calm down, its just advice that works for me.
Des0lus ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 13:12:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
maybe, but it still cleans your face better than cold water.
Its not 'maybe'. Its a myth, and it was proven to be false. And no one was talking about cleaning the face, you were talking about opening pores. If you want to clean your face use a cleanser.
Plus I was just showing what I do for shaving, I'm not an expert and never said I was. Calm down, its just advice that works for me.
You didn't say you were an expert but you worded it like that. Funny how everyone complains about fake news and the such, but random people giving 'how-to-advives' is okay.
You can state your experiences, but don't wird it call it how-to if its only your opinion!
Fucking calm down you plonker. I never said it was expert information at all. I was just giving an account on how to shave. Fuck me sideways eh !
Plus warm water does wash your face better than cold. Why don't you fuck off back to your dark dingy room and do something better with your life. ta ta
Des0lus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:24:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
calm down
Take your own advice.
I won't repeat myself about your original comment, since you don't seem to care.
But I will add that I never said anything different about the cleaning aspect of cold vs warm water.
Plenty of people (like me) will still end up with a light stubble if they only shave with the grain. Going against the grain is necessary for a clean shaven look.
Or do it like me: dry and against the grain, with a dull razor. :P I sometimes use water or soap and water, but it is usually not necessary. I must have been blessed with good skin since shaving is never a hassle for me.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:40:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow. I literally take a dry razor to my legs. This sounds much nicer.
I thought everyone knew that. Warm water to loosen the skin (if you donโt use electric razor). Cold water at the end to tight back the skin and protect it.
Vcent ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 12:30:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Note, this is all anecdotal.
It probably won't do much, seeing as the point of the cold water is to make your hair stand slightly straighter, hopefully preserving the canal that it originally grew out of, and keeping it growing out of that canal, or at the very least keep it growing out of the skin.
When epilating, you're removing the hair much deeper(comparatively), so there's no real way of preserving the canal it came out of. You might want to try some gentle exfoliation a few days after epilating, wait a day or two and exfoliate again, adding in skin care if you need it.
This is all conjecture though, I ain't got no PhD in ingrown hairs.
Me three. Never had problems with ingrown hair until I started using epilators. Went thru the pain of getting used to the pain, only to find out that shit gives you ingrown hairs thru the wazoo. Lol.
Sadly, Willie was in a tragic accident while cleaning a handgun Willie did not own in a field Willie had never been to before. Big Derma sends its condolences and a portion of its most recent check from Gillette to loved ones.
So out of all the tips about shaving not one person suggested this or adding after shave. It's like you're literally saving off the top layer of skin with a blade that's been sitting out. Why wouldn't you disinfect it? Also I've been out of aftershave and used hydrogen peroxide to clean my face after. Standard 1st aid. Get a cut, clean it.
Does this also work if you (edit: also) shave against the grain? I tried recently just to see if my skin could handle it, but sure enough i got a shit ton of ingrown hairs. This is lovely advice though, sure hope i remember it lol
b11haf1 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 09:10:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is a halfway house. Going across the grain is far gentler on the skin. You can also then go across in the other direction to get even closer.
Thank you! I get the all the time and my showers are a bit hotter than I'd like otherwise the hot water trips out and suddenly all you get is cold until you turn the water off. Definitely going to pay more attention when I do this (requirement for fake tanning to stop the black dots in your pores is to run some cool water over it after a shower).
For a solid 5 minute, I was like "freshly shaved skin" so like you cut it with a knife just enough so it doesn't bleed? Like you remove the top layer? Must be painful but I am going to try it out.
I FACEPALMED so hard when I realized what it meant.
Learning new things every day after starting to use Reddit. Now I know what ingrown hair is and how to deal with it. Thnx
I used to start my showers off ice cold, work it up to hot, clean out my pores with an exfoliating brush and soap, manscape, then switch to cold quickly and all my pores would seal and my skin was really clean.
Its pretty painful jumping into a cold shower so the habit eventually disintegrated.
And like that, my life was changed. Seriously, this is the most underrated thing Iโve ever read. I and everyone in the โholy shit how do I get so many ingrown hairsโ club would like to honor you with this award.
I wish this worked for me. I have hair on my face/chin/neck that will grow out of the hair follicle sideways and will always lead to painful ingrown hairs. Haven't touch a straight razor for years because of this.
Ooh, sorry, I forgot where I was. Um, while you're here, can you help me find a book?
bob669 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:29:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As hot as you can stand then nice cold tap!
Struggled with razor burn till I was 19.
Was told this by a mortician friend very useful, also told me not to cough so hard as you could irreversibly damage your lungs...
My wife tries this occasionally. The only hard and fast rule I gave her is not to do it on the stairs. I have a hard time controlling my reaction sometimes and I'd rather not have a police investigation into my wife's new bruises.
Today I asked my not quite but living as married husband if he wanted me to get him a pie from the deli. He made a non-committal noise, I have no idea what it meant. It meant yes. Guess who didnโt get a pie. This is an ongoing problem that Iโm slowly training out of him.
If you tell me you want pie, you get pie. If you don't tell me you want pie, you don't get pie. It would only take me one missed pie to get with the program.
Don't train him. Communicate with him. Training is manipulation. How would you feel if you found out he was training you into someone he wanted you to be? My wife and I are trying to dig our selves out of a 10 year hole that started over this very issue.
Communicate and create space for each other. Don't train and manipulate.
Sorry, the whole training comment was a poorly made joke, he isnโt a dog or a child, and Iโm not his owner or mother. We are equals, and we do communicate. Iโm just really awkward, and not very funny, as Iโve learned from other replies. Thank you for the advice though.
krink0v ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:07:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I find it funny that you put dogs and children in the same level. Would never want to be your dog. (It's a joke you guys)
I have both a dog and a child and the similarities are startling. Dog is acting up, when did he last get a good walk. Kid is acting up, when did we last go outside and run around.
My wife and I deal with this. Her response would be something along the lines of, "I didn't want it when you asked, but then I thought about it more and you should have gotten the pie anyway." Then we fight about how a simple phone call (communication) while I'm at the store would have netted some pie and I wouldn't be in trouble for saying I was getting pie then not delivering.
I absolutely did. I said I didnโt realise he wanted one, I thought he said no. I realise now I didnโt actually finish the story. I took his non committal noise for a no. Itโs up to him to communicate properly to me, and not just all on my side. I canโt tell you how many times Iโve had to ask โis that a yes or a no?โ so Iโm well within my right to guess and blame him when I get it wrong. Communication works both ways.
[deleted] ยท -10 points ยท Posted at 11:58:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Iโm under the impression that you think I planned this. As in, I woke up this morning and thought โIโm going to offer him something and heโll make an indecipherable noise and then I wonโt get him that thing just to teach him a lessonโ. No, that didnโt happen, Iโm not a manipulative person, and Iโm actually feeling a little strange that you care more about the situation than even he was? So I think Iโd rather end this conversation now, thank you.
> Itโs up to him to communicate properly to me, and not just all on my side
Correct, but how is he supposed to know if you didn't tell him?
How about next time you don't play that petty game of "Oh haha I'll just do something that will upset him because I didn't like the way he answered" and instead communicated that you are annoyed by his lack of a valid answer.
Too many times relationships are put into this position of pettiness where people will do something they know will piss off the other person, just to 'get back' at them. If you're doing this, your relationship is doomed. I stopped tolerating behavior like that, and my happiness has increased massively these past few years since I have.
You're also coming off as snarky, which makes this even worst.
The man isn't innocent either, but I'm not speaking to the man. I'm speaking to you. If I was talking to him, I'd be scolding him too.
Saying "is that a yes or a no" is not communication. It's coming off as attitude, and he will retaliate by doing exactly what he's been doing. THAT'S why it's unhealthy. It doesn't express why it upsets you, it doesn't express how it upsets you, and it doesn't express your feelings accurately to him, so he can get a better picture of how he's treating someone he cares about. You share blame in this, and stop trying to deflect it.
I started with โpardonโ, I moved onto โis that a yes or a no?โ, I didnโt deliberately fail to get him a pie because I knew it would upset him. Iโm not playing petty games, and that was the point of the post. I donโt play games, I ask for things directly and expect the same in return. Iโve told him I need proper yes or no answers, I have communicated to him properly about all of this and now the ball is in his court. He didnโt get a pie because he didnโt properly tell me that yes, he would like a pie, and thatโs on him, not me. Iโve told him I donโt understand what โughโ means, because with him, it could literally mean both. Sometimes it has meant yes, and sometimes it has said no, and I canโt tell the difference. Itโs a small quirk of our relationship that isnโt detrimental at all because neither of us are that frivolous that it matters (also, I made him dinner as soon as I told him โsorry, I didnโt think you wanted oneโ).
I think it might help to re-read the original comment. They asked someone a direct question, got a vague answer, and accidentally came to the wrong conclusion based on that vague answer. She then said she is working on the issue, implying there is already communication on the subject.
Also, if someone replies to a question with a noise instead of using words, it is absolutely appropriate to ask "was that a yes or a no?" How else are you going to understand exactly what that person meant?
A marriage license was $75 in my state. Unless you're in a country that respects common law marriage, "basically a husband" doesn't mean much to hospitals or lawyers.
I'm not trying to beat up on you, and I don't know your life. I do know a lot of good people with live-in baby daddies who need to man up.
Itโs okay, I get youโre not trying to beat up on me or hassle me about it.
In my country and state, it costs almost $300 for everything needed for a civil marriage ($297). Itโs not a whole lot, but itโs more than we can spend on something like that. As for hospitals and lawyers, Iโm not too sure, if you mean medical decisions and what happens in the event that I, or he, dies? Iโd have to look up hospitals, but because of the length of our relationship, itโs recognised by the state and all areas of the law.
xiroir ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 08:26:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im still young and the amount of people in my agegroup who dont yet realise this... i honestly blame education for not teaching us communication skills. Both me and my SO are social workers and thats helped a lot. And even then its hard work! (But worth it!)
Well I mean to be fair this shit you can't teach in schools, and even if it WAS, who would listen? Only the sensible students who already thought the same or similar things that they were being taught about communication (which is sorta ironic really). The idiots at the back would merely scoff and tune out like they normally would.
Mya__ ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 10:43:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You absolutely can teach socialization skills...
That's how anyone ever learns them, by being taught, by self or others. Saying you can't teach something in school is just an incompetent persons excuse to not try.
Somewhere between "no kid left behind" and "common core" and "standardized testing", a lot of the group projects and social skills got shelved.
My wife went to a small private school and it worked a lot easier when there's 10-12 kids per grade, before the year is over you worked with every one. I had just over 20 classmates 15 years ago at a public school, compared to my freshman nephew who has 37 classmates being taught by a 2-year new teacher who has to have good tests scores if she hopes to get tenured.
Yeah that's what I'm sorta saying, only the people who would want to listen will listen. It's just the way it is, you unfortunately can't get everyone to tune in to what you're saying, especially if it's as 'unimportant' as learning to socialise or communicate.
I took a course last year on it for I.T., can firmly backup my claims, everyone thought the class was bullshit.
Mya__ ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:01:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's how it is for all learning though.
So it means nothing in this context. You can still teach it in schools, but it's not currently being done or given emphasis.
xiroir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:30:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only People who want to understand math will understand math. Its just the way it is. Especially since how 'unimportant' math is. I took statistics in college, can firmly backup my claims, everyone thought the class was bullshit. You only need basic math, just enough to know how to pay for groceries. So lets not teach anything beyond that.
I agree with what you're saying. I completely wholeheartedly agree that communication is important (in fact it's probably the most important skill that anyone can learn). However, what I meant to get across is that the way communication class is taught is not effective enough to BE taught. As another user mentioned earlier, it needs to be engaging in order for students to want to listen and learn.
xiroir ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:48:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Who says communication class wouldnt be engaging? If anything it would be a DO class. Not a memorise class. And from what i remember kids love those more cause they are more chill. Ive had many classes like this in highschool and collage cause i went for social sciences. From my perspective you just dont know/see how such a class would work or be engaging. For me they were the most engaging classes ive ever taken. That will be different for everybody ofcourse. But i fail to see how thats any different with any other kind of class. My point is, these communication classes exist, but only in social degrees. When i think they should be for everbody.
Communication skills is the kind of thing that should be taught at younger ages by activities that help exercise those muscles. It wouldn't be taught in a lecture format in high school.
xiroir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:25:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So if i get this right. Because some kids wouldnt pay attention/wouldnt find it usefull, we shouldnt do it? In my experience if you make it fun kids will learn. Communication class would be a pretty chill class if you ask me. Also please dont get me started on how schools treat kids who are behind/ uninterested or slow. Thats an other huge problem in my opinion.
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xiroir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:21:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha! Thats awesome! Keep it up! When they grow up they will appreciate it! At least their partners will!
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xiroir ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:33:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy poop you reply fast! Hey its good you working on you while working on them, you are helping them but also gettin used to it yourself. Lead by example we are all works in progress. You can only do your best! And doing your best is always good enough for me!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:34:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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xiroir ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:36:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, you are a superhero. ...Speedymessageperson ... ... its a name in progress.
I blame the entertainment industry, myself. Everyone is set up with really unrealistic expectations and no good examples! Glad you are able to talk with your SO!
You've only been in a classroom for 15% of your life by the time you graduate high school. You can't learn everything you need in school.
xiroir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:20:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ofcourse not but id rather learn about how to communicate with people (something we all need to do and would increase happyness of all) than learn how to do logarithms.
People always say "marriage is hard" but shouldn't it be "marriage is hard SOMETIMES" because my relationship is very easy and we do talk about "hard" stuff. I think of the whole marriage is hard then maybe it's not quite right??
My marriage hasn't been hard at all. We are straight up with each other and super honest. We are best friends and when there are issues expressed we try to work on those issues.Those issues are generally "hey when you empty out the egg carton throw it in the trash instead of leaving it in the fridge" type of issues lol.
Honestly (hehe) honesty is the biggest part of a relationship. That is earned though..but I trust my wife 100% and I know she trusts me. The biggest issues I see with couples now in my late 20's are trust and their future expectations. Future expectations like: marrying someone who isn't religious and doesn't want kids versus someone who is religious and wants kids. Get those big life details worked out before you get married.
I literally asked him about kids and religion within a month of starting to date him bc that's a pretty big deal for me. Then we mostly agree on how to spend money and are both saving, so I think those are some of the biggest things.
Then of course, potential in-laws. I love his family so much! And my family lives pretty far away so I think it will work well.
Definitely another thing to consider is the in-laws. Another thing I didn't (and possibly should have, but I really love their daughter) think about was their family. They are all nice and fine to be around but we aren't best friends. Sounds like you have a good BF!
In our house I can pack a dishwasher like nobody's business - therefore I load the dishwasher. My wife will just leave stuff in sink or if motivated will stick stuff randomly in the dishwasher knowing I will rearrange it.
Thinking about our marriage/partnership, I would say rather than share everything equally, we go with our strengths - she usually makes dinner, (although I can and do cook, especially on weekends) because she's a good cook and she's home while I am at work and commuting and I don't have time. I clean the kitchen and prep things for the next day because I'm good at that and she hates cleaning the kitchen.
Although I think everyone should be able to do everything in the kitchen, clearly some people are better, or enjoy it more, or just have more opportunity. The same foes for all facets of our life. She pays the bills and watches the money - she's better at it and has the opportunity and I trust her and let her do it her way. I'd say we pretty much do that for all things in our life.
Well, I did say โwork,โ not โhard.โ Itโs like when you do something really taxing but at the end you feel GREAT and you have accomplished something. Youโre already doing the work with the hard conversations. I did things like hide the mail because I was too scared to talk about money and bills. I was not doing the work then.
I had a discussion with my girlfriend about love and lasting relationships. Long story short: I believe love is that can start on it's own, but can only last when both parties make conscious, determined decisions to stay in love. Which is why "Marriage is work" is true.
My husband and I have this saying: "word sounds are good sounds"
It just means we're not allowed to grump at each other, unless we expressed ourselves clearly, because we aren't mind readers. Even jokingly saying "word sounds, not grump sounds" kept us from many a fight.
Alright any tips for getting my husband to stop hinting everything? I've asked him not to, both when exasperated and when calm. I've tried ignoring hints.
He gets it from his mom but I doubt "you're acting like your mom" is a good approach lol
sacca7 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:54:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously, go to a marriage counselor. When one person doesn't "get it," a third party can often convey what is needed to help the marriage function.
My in-laws (in their 90s) hint at every f***ing thing, and it drives me nuts. Thankfully, hubby and I did get marriage counseling decades ago (yeah, I'm old) and it payed off! He never hints, always is clear regarding wants and not-wants.
In-laws are too old to change, it's weird how stuck people in old age are. So, best resolve the communication skills early on!
More people need to do this. I like to ask when someone tells me about a problem, "Do you need me to give advice, just listen, or offer support?" That helps them be direct, so it's very clear what they need and it avoids the whole "I don't want you to help, I just want you to listen!" argument.
That's a really good idea. I'm the "always give advice" guy and my gf sometimes gets a bit mad if she was just looking for support and someone to vent to.
xiroir ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:29:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im in the same boat. Im gonna do that guys suggestion next time
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:40:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've always had this problem. At some level I find it hard to get my head around people wanting to just talk when the solution is actually quite easy. Though in some cases I think that says as much about me as them
What do you do if you say this to your partner, and then they freak out because you're making it so 'clinical' and unnatural by asking, which makes them feel even worse?
I think tgere are ways to ask it like a human, not an "emotion machine 2000".
Don't ask it like: "Hi, I noticed you're feeling down. Do you want me to a- listen, b- offer advice or c- leave you be".
Just say something like. "Hey, I noticed you're not feeling well. Hope it's all good. If you want to talk about it or something, I'm always here. You know where to find me." And then act accordingly depending on response.
I'd recommend being just slightly more specific in how you phrase it, like "What could I do to help?" It informs the person that you want to help and gives them the opportunity for them to answer the question right then and there.
Shu088 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:07:19 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This just helped me a lot! Thank you
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:36:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd say this. It gives the other person an opportunity to say exactly what they want without sounding a little on the robotic side. I do find, however, that sending the exact message is best when texting/emailing/messaging someone.
rofex ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:42:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn good idea. Will definitely use in the future.
People always say this about romantic relationships, but it works in any type of relationship. Making the active choice (with the help of a modicum of alcohol) to just tell my friends that I often feel like an outcast in our group and that I'd just like to be more included was the best decision I've ever made. Turns out they thought I wasn't ever asking to hang out because I didn't want to, and now they invite me over a lot more. My friends actually like me, who knew?
I think that is often the issue, someone wants to be included and the other party times they don't want to be included.
I remember my brother once telling me I never wanted to come to family occasions, I wanted to come, but I worked a night job for minimum wage where taking a day off was basically forbidden, for several years. I certainly WANTED to go, I just didn't have that option.
Abell370 ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 08:12:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People often say I'm a bit direct, I never understood why this would be considered something bad. People always know what I want, what I think and what I mean. No second guessing, no implying, no doubt.
I have yet to experience any downsides as well, so I see no reason to stop.
Exactly, just give people a way of saying no without it being awkward and you're fine.
Some people are socialised to be inappropriately responsible for other people's feelings, and not to "upset" people by refusing a direct request/suggestion - to the point that doing so was almost unthinkable.
However, making an honest, sincere attempt to work together towards more openness is a good thing. It's not an excuse to be socially unintelligent or willfully ignorant, but it's an opportunity for healthier, less co-dependent relationships in the long run IMO.
I'm not calling you an asshole, just also relating that there are people who use the phrase, "sorry, I'm really direct" to mean "sorry, I'm an asshole."
I started consciously doing this as a new yearsโ resolution this year and it completely changed my life for the better. Silently stewing about not getting what you want when you havenโt even said what you want helps no one and hurts everyone.
spinana ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 07:55:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think of this same thing but another way 'figure out what you want then ask nicely for it'. Works wonders when you take the time to do it.
xiroir ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:32:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When something starts bothering me about someone i try to think of all the other good things they do. Puts them into perspective, cheers me up enough to tell them in a neutral way that thing you doing is bothering me. Doesnt always work because heat of the moment. But it works wonders when i do, do it.
are you my wife? we've been working on this for the almost 5 years we've been together. she's better than when we started, but every now and then she forgets how to be an adult (I am certainly not blameless either.)
With me it's my husband. It doesn't happen unless he's frustrated with something else, but sometimes I have to remind him that I'm not fucking clairvoyant.
Hinting is fine so long as you can take them not figuring it out. It can be fun to just hint and play those games, but again, they're just for play and no one should be getting upset over it.
Not being direct with your wishes and is pretty much the single worst move you can make in a relationship. This should be the top post.
22ndsol ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:32:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deadass got sucked into a sexually and emotionally abusive relationship because I couldn't do this when I was young.
Y'all. It's magic. Even if you can't do it completely, saying
"Hey, I have trouble asking for things directly. If I'm talking around something or seem weird, asking me directly if I need or want anything lets me actually make my needs known"
will help a lot.
Do iiiiiit.
[deleted] ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 16:23:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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22ndsol ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:26:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
your username isn't though! that's a hell of a name. how'd you pick it?
[deleted] ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 17:06:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
That's what happens when the only need you express is 'me want the butt sex' (/s...obviously)
SOwED ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 08:38:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah the advice is about needs. I need butt sex
3_Slice ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:54:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt know? Thatโs kinda why I like Fetlife. Everyone is very direct about what our needs are sexually. So far, Iโve had the best sex and exactly how I wanted it.
Last night I got home real late from school. I got myself some mcdonalds and my gf said she didn't want anything. So I wanted to be extra fat and got a burger aaaaanddddd chicken nuggets. When I got home her eyes lit up and she said, "you got me chicken nuggets even though I said I wasn't hungry?" So of course I immediately said, "yep," with a smirk and gave them too her. She is none the wiser and i'm not a total fatass lol. win win.
I learned this very early in my relationship with my husband. He does not pick up on subtle hints, so I stopped giving subtle hints. I donโt know why people continue to give subtle hints for years when the solution is so easy.
Pac_Eddy ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 12:42:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife uses hinting, hoping and implying ALL the time. It is so frustrating.
Sometimes I miss the hints. Other times I catch them, but I feel like I'm being manipulated, so I am angered, and I ignore the hints.
On the flip side, it feels like she's dissecting all my words and actions for hints. I'm pretty straightforward, so again, it doesn't go over well.
We are working on it though. Just a lot harder than I thought it would be.
I feel you. Have you and your wife checked out the โlove languageโ and apology language assessments to help you figure out your emotional needs? Made by a therapist. They made a HUGE difference for my husband and I. Going on 15 years together and these helped me know what I need and just ask
Yes, we did just recently take the quiz from The 5 Love Languages. As expected, we are polar opposites. Knowing that helps, but changing how we operate is tough.
When I met my husband, he affectionately called me after a few dates his โbrick through a windowโ and was thrilled that I am not subtle about what I want. (Although he mainly meant if itโs regarding sex or food, lmao) I do think there are areas I could work on being more open and expressive with him. I struggle with doing that with my emotions, but have no qualms about telling him if I want a kiss, to snuggle, to fuck, to have a snack with him, etc. The emotional stuff is harder.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:24:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How does "I need to see your testicles, right now." sound?
2mg1ml ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:16:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll just close the door
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 11:27:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck, my plan has been foiled. Now I'll never find love.
Zjoee ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:40:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless they're closing the door so you two can have privacy.
2mg1ml ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:29:59 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, that was just one big failed RP haha should've chosen better wording
Zjoee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:04:22 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll just hang my head in shame over here in the corner haha
I hate this. Iโve had people get mad at me before because I wasnโt doing what they wanted me to do when they never explicitly asked. Theyโve even gone behind my back and talked shut about me for not doing it.
This, everytime this. Nothing infuriates me more when my partner infers she wants something rather than just coming out and saying it. Then gets angry at me for not picking up on what she wanted. This builds up a lot of resentment and latent irritation that takes quite a long time to go away.
Also puts you on edge. Constantly re-reading things to make sure you haven't missed out on some far away meaning of an intonation.
Adding to this because someone said it was the answer to marriage. Sometimes admitting how you feel, and even saying "I know you didn't mean for it to come off like this, but it made me feel like this" is amazing. Always directly express yourself and your feelings. My husband and I found that our communication got a lot better. We also stopped taking that honesty from the other personally. Because we're not criticizing the other person, we're trying to rework the way we behave to be better.
Iโve been working on this, I was raised with hinting being the norm for all requests so I sometimes realize I was hinting when I thought I was making a straightforward request.
The worst is working hard to be upfront, honest, and clear with someone who doesnโt realize theyโre not being clear. Someone once communicated all her issues with me through a mutual friend and Iโd come around and talk to her directly. She had a tendency to freak out with no warning so on one sensitive topic, I tried to communicate through the mutual friend (mutual friend was much closer to both of us than we were to each other so I thought he could be more delicate than I could) and the mutual friend was afraid to talk to her, too. When it became clear that he hadnโt said anything I went to her to talk. At that point she was offended Iโd tried to go through our friend so she told me I should try to be upfront like she had always been. Thatโs some high grade bullshit so between that and just how many problems she had with me for barely knowing each other I uninvited her from the regular hang outs at my house and stopped talking to her.
THIS! It took me SO long to figure out I need to ask the questions I want answered... not pussyfoot around them and wait for the other person to guess what I really want to know.
And its corollaries: the other person directly expressing their needs is not attacking you, and that neither your nor their โneedsโ might actually be needs.
You need food, water, shelter, clothing, protection from harm, and respect: you donโt and could never and will never โneedโ a certain specific sex act or a certain food or a certain level of wealth.
This. I literally went through a breakup yesterday because my partner couldnโt express their needs. Itโs so important to healthy relationships, romantic or not.
mnyc86 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:09:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This should be at the top, and especially for people in relationships
I need to work on this so bad. I never got what I asked for growing up, only what my dad decided I needed. I never learned to express my wants and needs properly, now I just automatically put myself last in line for everything and automatically assume what I want, need, or desire, isn't important.
Idk man i have. Afetish for just getting what i want while mildy hinting and than if at any moment i hint to much its over and i no longer want to do anything
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:52:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A lot of people discuss relationship issues with me (I hate it, I must have a pheromone or something) and 99% of the time my response, after hearing everything out is "well have you told them this?"
You already know they haven't.
Like, I get that it's not easy to express your wants and needs, but not doing that is clearly making you miserable. Maybe, just maybe, express some wants and needs to your partner?!
But that sounds so needy & wimpy and a little bit gay.
'you're ignoring me and I feel hurt.'
It's like saying LOL instead of actually laughing. The way to express some feelings is to express them, not articulate them. If you are sad, you cry, you don't tell the other person 'I'm feeling sad and am going to cry'. If you do that, it means you're not sad enough to cry.
You've taken the wrong message. No one is saying to tell your partner "I'm sad and I plan on crying in 10 minutes".
The idea is if you want or need something, you need to communicate it. How will you partner know they hurt your feelings or upset you if you don't tell them? People aren't psychic.
Also, your first sentence is incredibly immature.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:20:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
it does not work for things like "Since it is my birthday tomorrow, I would like to inform you that if my needs are to be met, you have to buy me a gift. If not, I am going to be upset. And the way to remedy that upset-ness would be for you to apologize for forgetting and make up for it with another better gift."
Why not? If your partner doesn't do it, and it upsets you, you should tell them. You can say "My birthday is important to me, so I'd like to be treated to a night out as my gift." I did, and it turned out a hell of a lot better than if I just wished really hard and made passive noises at my partner. You don't have to express yourself like a robot.
But sometimes the importance to people of being treated well on their birthday is that their partner/friend thought to do/get something for them of their own accord. It can be more important than the gift or treatment itself.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 18:36:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please stop construing what I'm saying in an emotionally-blind manner. No one is saying, and I'm not advocating saying, anything like "Oh hey wife, I would like to kiss you, and would like it if you didn't push me away cos that hurts my feelings. If you accept these conditions, please sign here." People don't speak like that, and that is absolutely not what I'm saying. You would say something like "I've noticed that we haven't been intimate or kissed in a while, and I miss you. Can we plan some time together?"
If your partner doesn't know what you want or need, how are they going to give it to you? People can't read minds, and if you and your partner are so incompatible that you can't express or get what you need, then you need to separate.
[deleted] ยท -10 points ยท Posted at 09:02:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Young children, working in the Welsh coal pits just last century, opening and closing doors for ventilation purposes, had to sit in the pitch dark for twelve hours a day, six days a week, in silence.
They had food, water and shelter.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:32:21 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I got an electric toothbrush (after wanting one for years). On advice from my dentist I used the softest brush head and โgentleโ setting. It still felt very harsh on my gums. I was also told my gums have receded slightly, probably due to poor brushing technique, so Iโve been a bit worried about what the electric brush was doing. (Iโm 31, if that has any bearing). So because I was being careful of my gums I ended up not cleaning my teeth around the gum line properly.
I brought it up with my dentist and was advised to just go back to a manual brush.
My question, as I see advise to use an electric brush all the time, is: are my gums in danger and what can I do to use the electric brush more effectively?
My husband used to brush too hard. He got an electric toothbrush that lights up red to let him know when he needs to ease up, it's been super effective.
kaynpayn ยท 63 points ยท Posted at 09:50:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Any oralB I think. Mine lights up to warn you and if you ignore and push harder it stops until you ease up. I think mine is the Oral B Oxyjet + PRO 3000
At least the image looks the same as mine. It has an extra tool that shoots pressurized water to clean between your teeth. It's not a substitute to those tiny brushes that clean between your teeth or dental floss but it does remove a ton of gunk that would remain otherwise.
If feels awesome, use it with warm water and it's like a Jacuzzi for your mouth/teeth. Your dentist uses something similar except his is a much higher powered version, usually to remove plaque. This one isn't meant to do the same, just to clean in hard to reach places.
Bac2Zac ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 13:47:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm broke as fuck. The most expensive thing I've bought all year is this toothbrush. I regret not a cent.
Yeah, I thought it was a gimmick until my GF (who turns brush heads into war zones within a matter of days due to how hard she pushes), stopped doing it, on account of how disturbing the red light is, lol.
When push the bristles right up to your teeth to the point they're bent, they aren't really able to clean much at all (especially in the tiny crevices around and between teeth), even if the pressure is making you feel like it is.
Think of a long-bristled broom, and you trying to sweep with it my pushing down on it until the bristles are almost parallel to the floor. How effective is that?
What if youโre vigorously brushing side to side whilst you smash it against your teeth? I guess my question is, how is it better than a regular tooth brush?
What if youโre vigorously brushing side to side whilst you smash it against your teeth?
Again think of the broom. The force you're applying is ironically impeding an effective cleaning.
I guess my question is, how is it better than a regular tooth brush?
When used correctly, electric brushes have more variations in movement (they "brush" with circular heads in a half-circle movement in the case of oral-b), and just plainly do it so quickly that you end up brushing a total many more times than you could possibly do with a manual brush, even if used correctly.
In your example, if you brush side to side, you're not really getting any/many bristles in the space between your teeth and close to your gums, where it's even more important to clean. And if you only brush up-down (as you're told), you also miss some crevasses that are around your irregular molars. Electrics just. Get tons of bristles inside everywhere, and move them around so many times that it's just that much of a superior clean, even with "soft" brushes.
That's the mechanism, but if you want actual evidence that they're that much more effective, that's just unquestionable as well. I could attempt to dig some up for you, if you're really interested.
What finally got me to realize I had been doing it wrong by applying too much pressure was to consider what a toothbrush + paste really is. Toothpaste is an abrasive cream. The brush, besides some mechanical removal of bits of food is only there to facilitate the paste doing its job. If you've ever done any bodywork on a car you're basically dealing with the same scenario. Too much pressure just makes the bristles lie down flat and so when they're going one direction they're just sliding over the surface of the teeth without actually grinding the paste against the teeth effectively. Then when the brush head reverses you end up with the tips of the bristles stabbing into your gums and ruining your day. Light, but steady pressure keeps the bristles straight and they work in all directions.
Not really. She's the healthiest, most stable woman I've ever been with. She just brushed too hard. Also, that saying (and related ones) is something I don't really agree with. I'm also having the best sex in my life, without question.
My hygienist said to just use the normal brush that comes with. The others arenโt necessarily better for normal cleaning. I bought a bundle when they were in sale (I go through one every 3-4 months) and it costs me a bit more than buying 4 regular soft bristle toothbrushes.
My last hygienist appointment was filled with compliments over how good a job Iโm doing, plus I feel cleaning in the mouth, so itโs worth it.
I mean, the thingโs nice and all, but $99 for a 4-pack of proprietary brush heads built specifically for a $50 e-brush I found in Wal-Mart clearance for $10 is a tad on the ridiculous side.
EDIT: Itโs what you get when you buy an As-Seen-On-Tv product with disposable/consumable parts.
He got his a few years ago, I don't think the exact model is available anymore. However, it is an Oral B and many of these have the same pressure sensor as his.
When switching to an electric it's totally normal for gums to bleed and to have sensitivity problems for up to 2 weeks. Remember that forcefully pushing the brush head against your teeth won't result in a better clean. Simply hold the brush against the teeth gently and cover all surfaces. Flossing and mouthwash will get the hard to reach places a tooth brush can't.
Try flossing before you brush! You'll open up your gums to get a deeper clean with your toothbrush. Always remember your teeth are hard, but your gums aren't! Quality dental care is all about healthy gums.
ilski ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 10:27:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate flossing with dental floss:/ it uncomfortable and it sucks. Any techniques to make it not suck ?
I hate flossing but the floss sticks changed that for me. It took me a while to get used to flossing but the sticks made a difference after lots of dental work and reminders to take care of my teeth.
As for getting stuck, just keep at it and rock the floss back and forth as you pull it out. Don't just yank it.
What about a waterpik? I hate flossing with actual floss but a waterpik works well for me. I am not sure the benefits of floss vs waterpik is on gum health though.. But I'm sure it massages the gums as the water pressure is pretty high
RDA here, waterpik is great! Itโs like an electric flosser. We recommend it to all of our patients any my work. Pour some mouthwash in there too for maximum results.
Idk, we see all kinds of patients. All five dentists and 5 hygienists at work recommend it. Itโs great if you have fragile tooth structure or braces.
Thanks for the advice! That's great to know it is recommended. I wasn't sure if it had the same effect on the gums as floss. I like the waterpik because my teeth are so close together so when I use actual floss it really hits the bottom of my gum hard when the floss finally gets through the tooth gap
My hygienist recommended I donโt floss. But she did recommend dental sticks. Basically theyโre pieces of wood that you push between the gaps to get any stuck food out. Maybe that works for you?
the more you floss and the better your oral health gets, the less flossing sucks. it used to be a chore for me, too, and sometimes painful, but now it's so quick and barely any effort. just gotta do it until it's part of your routine.
You could try brushing avoiding the gum line like you described, then turn it off and brush the teeth and gums manually. I always turn the brush off to do the gums, tongue etc
I personally use oral B haven't had a tooth problem in ages. I say get an electric toothbrush from oral b (I own the "genius") and make sure it has a pressure light that let's you know if you are brushing too hard.
Even with an electric toothbrush and soft head people tend to push in their teeth too hard. Brush along the gum line because that brush head will reach the entire tooth. Also that dentist doesn't care IF they didn't sit you down to explain the use of the brush for at least one minute which is all it takes.
The oral B has a quadrant timer which let's you know to mive on from a section of your mouth after 30seconds so brushing properly with that electronic brush should have helped you I say try again after learning a bit about brushing with the oral B brush.
I should just make honest dental youtube videos.
Yokiboy ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:46:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sonicare has all the same technology. As long as you have a pressure sensor, you should be fine. And donโt scrub... especially not with an power brush! Guide it around and let the brush do the work. 30k+ strokes a minute doesnโt need you to do much more than guide it around your mouth.
I'd like to agree with Sonicare but I'm not a fan of the ultra sonic vibration vs oscillation. The pressure sensor is definitely the key IMO and Yesss no scrubbing.
I think thatโs the one I have. I felt like I was brushing too hard before the โtoo hardโ sensor went off, although that may be due to unhealthy gums.
Yeah, the dentist doesnโt care about electric brushes and acknowledged as much. Sheโs great at getting my young kids to sit in the chair and open their mouths so weโll keep seeing her otherwise.
Ahh I get why she didn't instruct, sensitive gums will definitely make you feel like things are going wrong but keep flossing despite all that and your gums should improve. No ribbon floss though as it contains Teflon known to be harmful.
Registered dental assistant here, I have a sonic care electric brush which can get intense. I keep it on the lowest setting. You may want use it every other day without turning it on. Just move it around in gentle circles. You can do this after the electric part ends. I still keep on brushing if I feel like I missed an area after my brush cycle ends.
Are you a flosser? Flossing is the only action that removes the acid around your gumline. The acid will erode little pockets of the enamel at the gumline. If you brush, floss, and finish with mouthwash, then you shouldnโt experience any problem if you have healthy teeth. Use your 6 month check up to check your oral hygiene habits. Good luck!
Five days a week is a good amount! As you get older, your gums will recede. Patients with gum disease or recession need to floss every day to keep debris out.
If you use the electric toothbrush enough your gums will eventually adjust, unhealthy gums are tender and not attached to the teeth properly due to build up underneath the gums, and if you use a good electric toothbrush such as an oral b- the only one that is ada approved it usually has adjustable settings so you can show it down and will turn red whenever you are brushing to hard. Keep n mind to let the brush do the work for you so no"teeth brushing" method, just hold it on the tooth for a second and move to the next. Once fun health is in check the Ligaments around the teeth will harden up and adhear back to the teeth causing no pain
Okay, cool. Thanks. I used it for a week or so then went back to manual. Iโll give it another go!
Blokey1 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:14:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dentist tells me to hold my electronic toothbrush like a flute. Hold it lightly in your hand. Don't press it down hard against your teeth or gums. I didn't know this either. Give it a try.
Which model/brand electric toothbrush did you get?
I also have receding gums. The only one I really think does a good job and doesnโt require much pressure at all is the Sonicare. You just sort of make contact at an angle from your gum line and move down your tooth and the brush does the rest. Very effective. It seems to have helped halt further recision of my gums (along with 2x daily flossing).
I donโt see how circular brushes can do better, but thatโs just me.
gums recede from many reasons. if its receding from abrasion, then its really the method of toothbrushing rather than the toothbrush itself. A gentle setting and gentle bristles in a non motion (so the let the toothbrush spin) or a downward stroke without hitting the gums should work.
However if you dont really hit the gums and they still recede, it can be from a lot of reasons which may later lead to bone loss ---> and teeth may fall out.
Idk if OP intended for it to sound like using electric toothbrushes are an alternative to flossing or if itโs just crossed wires, but my mom is a dental hygienist and I think I can explain this.
Flossing can be a pain, but switching to a new kind of toothbrush wonโt take away the necessity. You need to take care of your gums.
I could be wrong, but I think they mean that flossing is best, but if you're only going to brush, at least use an electric. It's not a replacement for flossing, but if you're only brushing anyways, may as well do the best you can.
sigmaco ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 08:12:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really? The waterpiks advertise themselves as X% more effective than flossing as a selling point.
HawkkeTV ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 08:28:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lots of baby wipes say they are flushable as well. Doesn't mean you should flush em and absolutely don't believe waterpik.
TiTaak ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 09:07:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously though, no wipe is flushable.
sigmaco ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 09:35:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
CONCLUSION: The Waterpik Water Flosser and manual toothbrush is significantly more effective than a manual brush and string floss in removing plaque from tooth surfaces.
I dunno, if there are clinical studies on baby wipes being flushable I might start to believe it.
Yokiboy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:42:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs as affective as string floss. Thereโs studies done to show that, same with the AirFlossPro.
Theyโre better than not flossing at all. Although they donโt really get between the contact points (where your teeth touch) as well as regular floss.
sigmaco ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:46:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, I just linked a study to the other guy that showed it was superior to wax flossing.
Yokiboy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:55:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thereโs a few out there. I read a few saying itโs as effective. Either way, itโs not detrimental to use haha.
I recently purchased a Waterpik while at the dentist for a cleaning and was told they are NOT a substitute for real flossing.
Honestly though, theyโre nice to use during the middle of the day when you have a bad taste in your mouth, or just ate like Oreos or something that will make your mouth visibly dirty.
kinzer13 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 07:22:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I floss but I also used to have a water pik. How is it not a substitute? It is literally a thread like stream of water shot between teeth.
I mean, it's doing the same thing.
tbex93 ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 07:36:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When youโre flossing youโre meant to use the floss to scrape the gum line where a brush/waterpik wonโt get too. Not just run it up and down between your teeth.
"Sure... It's not really a substitute for flossing... But it's a whole helluva lot better than NOT flossing... And let's be real... are you really gonna start flossing?"
Years ago my dentist told me that I was getting early stages of gingivitis and I needed to floss more, so I was like "Yes! Definitely will do!" The snarky hygienist goes "Didn't you say that last time?" And I replied "Well yeah, but I lied that time. This time you told me I have gum disease."
TiTaak ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 09:06:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can use it to spray water at people, that's a bonus
You need to scratch and destroy the network and connections of biofilm thatโs built up around your teeth as a layer of bacteria. You canโt scrape that off with water streams.
Ever pressure wash something? You can totally destroy the biofilm. I had one for years. Your gums will bleed just like flossing if you don't use it often.
No, an electric toothbrush is great, much better than manual, but it's not enough. Source: brushed electrically, got gum problems anyway. Now I use interdental brushes to get between my teeth, and my dentist is happy with my oral hygiene.
Like other people already said, a waterpik is not succesfull in really disturbing the biofilm of bacteria on the teeth.
Toothpicks can be a good alternative to flossing though, when used correctly. Also, those round sticks that you see a lot at restaurants are NOT toothpicks, don't use those. You need to use a proper flat toothpick, and maybe look up some youtube videos for technique.
nat_rdh ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:50:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are many options for flossing and your teeth can sometimes dictate what you can use.
Traditional string floss- for tighter contacts
Floss piks- some issues with manual dexterity
Reach flosser-same (this one has a long handle)
Proxy brush- bigger spaces between teeth (they look like little pipe cleaners)
Water pik- for people who hate floss, better than nothing (good with braces or people with bridges)
Air flosser- same (made by sonicare)
Tooth picks- I have no idea why people use these, very harsh on gums.
I regularly recommend the Reach Flosser (Johnson and Johnson makes one too). Really helps for people who struggle with string floss. Hopefully I've answered some questions.
Dental hygienist 9 years. Also, Sonicare and Oral B electric brushes are worth every penny!!! Don't scrub, let them do all the work.
Floss! Itโs the only way to combat acid buildup! Waterpiks work better that manual flossing bc user error is removed. Proper flossing hits the distal surface of one tooth and then focuses on the medial surface of the other tooth. In other words, remember to floss two surfaces when your floss goes between two teeth. Donโt just go down and up but rub one tooth and then rub the tooth next to it before you come up with the floss. Waterpik takes away this worry and does both actions so you donโt need to think about it.
No not even close. Brushing is used to clean every proximal surface of our teeth I.e not interproximal/in between. Flossing and using interproximal brushes is used only for clearing plaque and food debris from the interproximal surfaces, where the brushes bristles cannot navigate to....so in the long run you need to do both for adequate dental hygiene.
Gum inflammation and gingivitis/bleeding gums is just the body's response to external bacteria/plaque. So if you are cleaning well both proximally and interproximally you should be able to have healthy gingival tissue...that Dental hygienist who just said use an electric toothbrush in response to OPs flossing comment is missing the whole point
*my opinion on waterpik flossing is that it's fine. It's just a more expensive way to physically remove plaque and debris from in between your teeth
My teeth are very close to each other that the floss canโt get between them without using force. Also, getting it out is also difficult and breaks into many strands as I pull it out.
You should be using it to scrape the side of your teeth up and down, above and below the gumline. Then pull through. Just saying, I had horrible teeth and we found out I didn't know how to floss properly so my dentist had to teach me this at 28 years old, so don't feel bad. https://youtu.be/vfLOgPzwny4 this lady explains pretty well. (Just in your situation, pull through after you have flossed, instead of breaking it by pulling up)
slvhwke ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:25:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The link I've been waiting for! Pretty sure I've been flossing wrong. ๐
I was hoping she would explain how to not snap the floss into your gums. All of my wisdom teeth grew in literally sideways, and pushed my teeth together really bad (after like 5 years of braces.....awesome). I literally donโt know how to get floss in between my teeth without forcing it.
My dentist says to brush, then floss, then use my rinse. It's a good method but sometimes I'm lazy and don't want to use my fluoride rinse (I also have a large ish gap or two and crowns) and so I prefer getting the larger chunks of food out first and then brushing. I think the most important thing is to just get it done. Basically, don't let the plaque have a chance to harden and really stick to the teeth and cause tooth or gum decay.
Definitely floss before you brush. You want to break apart the bacteria between your teeth and then brush. Otherwise you're just leaving that in your mouth after you've brushed your teeth, and getting what you can out with fluoride rinse. Keep doing what you're doing.
My periodontist recommended doing it during a shower before brushing my teeth, after I've eaten, in a 24 hour period. Has worked wonders for my oral health.
I'd be happy to elaborate! Before I started flossing I brushed, had a waterpik, did all the things. I was pretty diligent. Despite that I'm predisposed to large calcium deposits around my gumline, so my back molars would become calcified, and my bottom front teeth would discolor despite the fact that no other teeth would and I was focusing on those teeth.
I ultimately had to have a pretty expensive deep cleaning done so they could start fresh, but their main advice to me was "FLOSS, FLOSS, FLOSS" which is something I've basically never done my entire life. I'm 28. They recommended that I floss once every 24 hours, and to make it routine; she suggested adding it to something I already do, like showering.
Since I've started flossing daily, on top of the other things I was already doing, I've had much better dental health. The calcium deposits accumulate much more slowly, my gingivitis is gone completely, and my bottom teeth are sparkling white. I've even had people tell me my teeth look great which...well it's not a compliment I'm used to hearing.
My periodontist goes through and presses the gums above each of my teeth and lists a number for sensitivity. 1-5. 1 is bad, 5 is good, I believe (may be reversed). Before I had a lot of 1s, and now I have only had 1 or 2 ones mostly in difficult places in my mouth to reach.
Additionally, this has all been in the span of 3 months! I don't know how to extol the virtues of flossing more than that. It's been great.
Wow thatโs really in depth and I enjoyed reading it all. Thank you for taking your time writing this. In just 3 months a big difference is already noticeable and you dental health really showed a big improvement.
Iโm on a two-day streak now and it feels better everytime. Hoping I could do this for three months!
Oh no I tried doing this and it got stuck in my teeth. I had to run to the kitchen to get the scissors and hope no one saw me.
beah22 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:18:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to the pharmacy and get some interdental brushes, the different colours are for different sizes of the floss. You should be able to get a mixed bag with different sizes
I actually couldn't find a size that would fit but I will have to go and have a look. To be honest this incident made me stop flossing, it was such a panic and I always cut my tongue on the slight gap at the back of my teeth, not a good combination.
I struggle with this too and have had no luck with the floss pick things or the interdental cleaners (even the smallest size is too thick!). I now buy floss that is called 'dental tape' and is more flat than round, and as long as I put it through at the right angle it slides through even my tightest teeth.
You might need a dental hygienist clean, calcified plaque can block access to the gum line. Even with flossing and an electric brush I still get calcified spots.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:13:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have that same problem, and I use interdental brushes to get between my teeth instead. I asked my dentist, and he said it's OK; and he is happy with my oral hygiene now.
fribbas ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:28:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try glide floss!
Instead of a string, it's more of a thin ribbon. My posterior teeth have tight contacts and it works great.
The bacteria in your mouth slowly build very powerful and sticky networks around your teeth after 12 hours. It just becomes one giant biofilm that attaches itself to your teeth as one entity.
You brush your teeth to constantly ruin that network that takes them 12 hours to rebuild (which is why you brush your teeth twice a day). Water canโt break it apart. You need to scrape it off to ruin all the billions of connections that hold it all together with floss. itโs like bacteria glue.
From everything that Iโve read, no.
I bought an expensive one and was proud of it, did some research and asked my dentist...and another dentist and itโs just a gimmick thing.
Itโs no substitute for flossing (which even the companies admit) so whatโs the point of it? If it canโt replace flossing, why would you add it to your routine? They try to give you the impression that itโs like a power washer you use on cement and on your deck, but itโll never have that type of power and the highest settings on my water flossed just hurt my gums and have water splashing all over the place after youโre done.
Damn what a shame, I've always told my customers that "it's the same as flossing but it wears away at the teeth 90% less than regular flossing." (because that's what our training video said).
And the customers even say that THEIR dentists recommend Waterpik and other such water flossers as well.
Iโm not an expert. I just asked my dentist and another dentist and both said the same thing. And when I looked it up on my own, some Waterpik companies were careful with their advertising and mentioned that โit was not a substitute for flossingโ. Iโm guessing they would absolutely not say that if there wasnโt some research standing in their way. Biofilms are very powerful. Iโm guessing youโd need similar pressure to what you use to clean dirt off cement to get water to scrape that film off your teeth and that just seems unhealthy.
Iโm in Canada so maybe these companies can be more ballsy in other parts of the world but advertising here is a bit different.
Definitely not the same as flossing, general consensus is that its only good for removing larger debris not the biofilms as mentioned. Floss does not appreciably wear away at teeth
Interesting! I use it before I brush my teeth to get rid of bits of food that have got stuck between the teeth (a big issue for me and the cause of 100% of my fillings). I find it does this very effectively, so maybe its good for that but doesn't do some other things that flossing does do.
I love my sonicare so does every hygienist at my work.
fribbas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:34:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have both a sonicare and a oral b and I love my sonicare. I feel like the sonicare is gentler and cleans better than oral b. The oral b felt like taking a jackhammer to my teeth and felt like I was tearing up my gums. Ended up giving it to someone.
Full disclosure: I didn't pay for either of them
Kleiran ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:06:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes but actually no, the electric toothbrush won't be of any help if you keep avoiding the junction of the gums and the teeth.
Source: have an electric toothbrush and just had a gingivitis
Then you need to keep doing it until your gums start healing. And if you have that problem, stop using mouth wash and pour some salt in a warm glass of water and start using that instead of mouth wash. Itโll kill any bacteria under your gums so they can heal better (itโs what dentists recommend after oral surgery to help your gums heal faster)
Iโm not OP but I am a dental hygienist as well. There are several reasons why electric is better than manual, but this is what I usually tell my patients:
An electric brush like Sonicare uses ultrasonic waves to break up the plaque and debris.
An electric toothbrush has a built in two minute timer to make sure you are brushing for the full time, instead of just 30-45 seconds of vigorous brushing. Most new ones also have a sensor that lights up if youโre pressing too hard as well, so no damage to the teeth/gums.
Technique becomes less important with an electric brush so itโs easier to handle, because it basically does the work for you. You just have to move it to different areas of the mouth and make sure to get every surface.
All in all I think 2 minutes of electric brushing is equivalent to something like ~6 minutes of manual brushing, and that is if the manual technique is perfect.
You can use electric toothbrushes specifically designed for kids for a 3 year old. Just be sure to be gentle and use soft or extra soft bristles.
Unfortunately, not really. Alcohol makes cells more permeable, making it easier for the carcinogens to penetrate them, so avoiding drinking is definitely better for any tobacco user. But the only real way to prevent oral cancer is quitting.
If anything, an electric brush will keep your enamel strong and healthy longer!
Manual brushes are very technique sensitive, so most people donโt do a perfect job. This can include not brushing for long enough, pressing too hard, not reaching all the surfaces, and a lot more.
With this you risk damage to you gums (gingivitis, periodontitis) and your teeth (wearing away the enamel causing your teeth to be weaker, more sensitive, and more prone to cavities.)
An electric toothbrush pretty much eliminates technique all together. It does the work for you, you just have to make sure you cover all surfaces of your teeth. Youโre no longer scrubbing or brushing, just holding the brush to your teeth.
Most of the new ones have sensors telling when youโre using too much pressure, so wearing away enamel really isnโt a concern as long as youโre listening to your toothbrush.
Dude I just bought my first one 4 days ago after remembering a dental professional saying too. My mouth has never been cleaner. I donโt wake up with morning breath, my mouth never gets s mid day funk, and my teeth are way shinier.
Is there a proper technique for using a electric vs manual? Like should you still do two minutes, make the circular, up/down and side to side motions all over in series or just like the thing do itโs thing. Because Iโm doing the former, but donโt want to over do it.
I have an electric toothbrush and it ran out of charge yesterday when brushing so i had to use a normal toothbrush like a peasant.
ozaku7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:54:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I used an electric toothbrush, even correctly (my mom is a assistant dentist), they would feel all fine. Until I switched to a regular toothbrush and I would bleed like a slaughtered pig and my gums hurt.
I stopped using my electric toothbrush and my gums are fine now.
That sounds dangerous. Do you shake off or pat dry the brush head on a towel when you're done brushing so that the toothbrush dries quickly? I'd lysol-wipe all of the surfaces in my bathroom and dunk my toothbrush in a high-alcohol mouthwash (or vodka) to sanitize it, and then watch for any sources of mold. Some brands of electric toothbrushes have a case with a UV sanitizer.
I shake it a little and then place it in my own shot glass, brush up, and she does the same (we live in the same apartment).
Iโve cleaned different brush heads with Listerine and/or 12% vinegar but the black doesnโt disappear, I still have to brush it off afterwards (maybe I should do the physical cleaning first?)
You donโt think the handle could be the source, then? That and the mouth it brushes is the only difference I can think of and Iโm the only one getting mold over and over again.
Yup, 10yrs as an assistant giving the same advice and always good results when people comply. Also oral b ribbon floss contains Teflon if you didn't know (don't use it)
We just got an Oral B rechargeable spinning electric toothbrush, and it makes the old toothbrushes we were using (vibrating non rechargeable) seem like we were just chewing on sticks. It is incredible how much cleaner my mouth feels!
Learned this was true after being told I have gum disease. Only 26. When I flossed it looked like I had just lost a fight. Flossed after that you better believe and would you belive it? No blood.
I have flossed after every meal for years and my gums feel invincible. I never bleed after flossing and my teeth feel great, and my gums are a nice shiny pink. My dentist told me years ago that your gums are made of the exact same skin as your face, so you wouldn't want your face to start bleeding if you scratched it would you? Floss daily people!
I didnโt start flossing daily until about 10 years ago, when I went over to my childhood friendโs parents house after the town fair. They saw me and threw an extra steak on the BBQ, and made me an amazing dinner.
After dinner, Mom disappeared briefly. She returned with a bag of floss sticks, and handed at least one to everyone. Between the steak and the corn, I was grateful.
Iโd always hated flossing because I hated wrapping the floss around my fingertips. But with floss sticks you donโt have to do that! It was thin, and smooth, and easily fit between my tiny teeth.
I bought my own floss sticks immediately afterwards. I found out, through trial, error, and advice from my dentist, that I should stick to the super thin ones, due to the small spaces between my teeth.
I floss at least once a day now. My gums feel amazing. My dentist is never disappointed in me. I recommend it to everyone.
Togii ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:01:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, I love those things! I was introduced to them when a friend lost a hand and his physical therapist had him start using those. I keep them in my bathroom and my purse and my cubicle.....
A) If you scratch your face, it DOES bleed.
B) Are you saying that if our face was wet all the time, it would look like our gums do, because itโs the same skin?
Are you saying that if our face was wet all the time, it would look like our gums do, because itโs the same skin?
Precisely. And a light scratch should absolutely not make skin bleed, but if it does then you have real problems. Many people have very unhealthy gums, simply because they don't floss.
Not necessarily, we have tools for both problems-- you can floss one handed with the little plastic tooth flossers, and masturbate with the other using a vibrator (or fleshlight).
Turns out you can actually have sensitive gums that keep bleeding after years of flossing, and teeth that are too close together to properly get floss in between. So I have to use one of those electric power rinser things or an electric toothbrush, I'm no longer allowed to use actual floss says my dentist.
I feel you! Same here. So happy to know I'm not alone. I'm really thankful for modern technology and being able to take care of them in my home, my actual teeth are of good quality but they're too close, and my gums are way too sensitive and weird (I got small tumours during my pregnancy for example). Ten years ago I had to visit my dentist almost every month, now What brands you use? My braun is about to crap out and I'm looking for new ones.
Not sure if Iโm a weirdo, but once I got a full time grown up job with dental insurance, dental cleanings were my favorite and totally underrated ๐ If your insurance covers it definitely do a deep clean, my gums are in the best condition they have ever been! Thought it sounded scammy but definitely worth it.
Dental cleanings are important. They remove plaque that you can't get with floss and a toothbrush alone. That scraping they do is getting crap off your teeth that stays there.
fribbas ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:01:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
definitely do a deep clean
Yo, just want to share do people don't get the wrong impression. "Deep cleaning" aka SRP isn't for everybody, just people with periodontal issues. If you don't have much bleeding (<30% at my office) and your numbers are good (<4), you only need a "regular" cleaning, or prophy.
Insurance usually covers regular cleaning but not deep cleaning, and those are a crap ton of money. Like, hundreds
Interesting, my gums were at a 2 when I went for a normal cleaning and they still recommended it. I honestly thought my gums were already pretty decent. However they kept suggesting I do the deep clean and said my insurance had approved it. So not sure what happened with that ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ anyways I enjoyed the results of it though!
Also if you're apt to not floss often, buy a bag of flossers (those plastic things with the floss threaded through them) and keep them somewhere you sit often. I have a bag in my desk drawer by my computer and find that I end up flossing now multiple times a day, and because of it, my gums not only don't bleed anymore, but there's been improvements at the dentist. All because of changing one little behavior in my life of where the floss was kept, and what kind I was using. While regular floss is better, I wasn't really using it ever. So what's better in that case? Never using something that is 100% or using something daily that is only 80%?
Thatโs called gestational gingivitis! Donโt let that discourage you, just make sure you keep flossing and your gums will be back to normal after you have the baby :)
Another dentist told me 3-4 times a week, if your gums always bleed, so that you give enough time to recover,
Brushing is the most important, and doing that regularly is more important, - but If you get your angles right your brushing can be as effective as flossing,
P.s. Brushing your tongue - is the most satisfactory way of eliminating previous food tastes/smells.
I can't stop tongue brushing. Flex Abs. No gag reflexes ever
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:42:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
to prevent the gag reflex, yes,
There are also muscles below the jaw/ neck area that get used to flexing,
but if you do the abdominal flex you prevent them from automatically going up, thereby preventing the reflex reaction.
Try it :)
I always floss before I brush to scrub any of the crap I've knocked loose flossing out of my mout. Floss>brush>mouthwash. I also only floss before bed because I feel like if I floss before I go to sleep there is no real point in doing it again when I wake up, I haven't eaten since the last time I flossed so there is nothing new stuck in there.
I have always heard to floss before you brush. You break up the stuff with floss and brushing gets rid of it.
mahade ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:50:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Floss first to get rid of bits between your teeth. Then brush as your dentist would. You can ask them to show you how to brush, they love showing off. If you rinse with water you lose most of the fluoride from your toothpaste, so you should then also rinse with mouth water (find the ones WITH fluoride!)
Get a tongue scraper to clean your tongue every other day. It will lead to less plaque.
My dentist told me that when theres foreign substances in your gums, bloodflow to that area is increased to fight infection. This brings the blood vessels or something to the surface and makes it them bleed when you irritate them with flossing. No foreign debris for long periods of time, no blood.
But if your gums never get inflamed or have any problems when you don't floss, is flossing really important? It sounds to me like saying your hands only bleed when you slice into them with a knife because you don't slice into them with a knife often enough, so they haven't calloused properly.
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 08:14:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought it was more of a preventative thing. You may not have issues now but your risk of gingivitis is increased or may be subclinical. AFAIK flossing helps to reduce that risk.
wgel1000 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 10:13:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Plus, when you floss you remove the remainings of food between in your teeth, it helps preventing bad breath. It surprises me people don't know that.
Genetics and diet are big as well. My girlfriend, as attested by her parents, has never had a cavity in her life. No dental issues, no gingivitis, etc. She never flosses. Ever. Doesn't even own a roll of it.
Or you could be like me and have both shit genetics and bad diet, which results in bad teeth health no matter what you do.
Fair enough. It's possibly just subjective to me because I have zero gap between any of my teeth, but the only time I've ever had gum problems was during the 6 month period when I was forcing floss in there. Half the time, as well as the bleeding gum problem, I'd also get the frayed strands of floss caught in between my teeth and need to use more floss to get it out. I'm unlikely to ever go through it again, regardless of how indignant my dentist gets.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:16:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had the same issue so I just switched to the tiniest possible interdental brushes, much more comfortable. Ribbon floss rather than the regular stuff also helps.
Just because you don't know there is a problem there, doesn't mean there isn't one. You might not know you have cancer until you have a scan done but you can still be dying of a disease. Flossing has a purpose other than just not bleeding when you go to the dentist.
It is the equivalent of picking dirt out of a would so that it can heal. There are hundreds of thousands of bacteria living in your mouth at all times and the mucosa in between your teeth cannot "callous", it is unprotected and easily infected. We want you to be flossing daily to disrupt the layer of biofilm that is migrating underneath your gums. Otherwise the bacteria grows and over time invites other, more malicious, bacteria to grow until it develps into periodontal disease. Ginvigitis is an easily remedied infection which can be cured and reversed by daily brushing and flossing in about 7-10 days. Left ignored it develops into periodontal disease, which is no longer curable or reversible and results in bone destruction and tooth loss.
I don't think you understand what ginvigits is. It literally means "inflammation of the gingiva". If your gingiva is bleeding when you floss, then yes you have gingivitis.
I'm not sure why you're fighting so hard on this. I'm a dental hygienist and I deal with gingivitis everyday. Take your oral hygiene seriously or enjoy your gum disease, dude. It's your gingiva, not mine.
How long does it take to reduce swelling enough for gums to no longer bleed? I've been brushing/flossing every day for almost a year and I still have bleeding gums.
Itโs likely there is some plaque buildup under the gum line that is causing the bleeding and the floss isnโt taking care of it. A good thorough cleaning st the hygienist should take care of it.
I've flossed every day for over five years (as a kid and college student I didn't care). My gums never bleed and I went three years without going to the dentist and my teeth were fine. Flossing seriously helps.
If we're thinking of the same study, yes... But no. It showed that flossing does nothing for preventing cavities. However, the purpose of flossing is for gum health, not cavity prevention. Flossing removes the biofilm (and food gunk!) in areas where brushing cannot reach such as beneath the gum line.
Also, if you haven't flossed in a while, floss and then smell the gunk that comes out - it's fucking gross and even if there wasn't a benefit to flossing, I'd do it just to get those nasties out.
I'm using an electric toothbrush and I floss every day and it's still bleeding every time: it still sounds like a terrible advice to me, from my personal experience.
When's the last time you went to a dentist? The same was happening for me and it turns out I had gingivitis. Got that fixed up and now no more bleeding.
My buddy was in the same boat and the dentist recommended that he get a water flosser. I dunno the effectiveness between the two but I would assume they are similar.
Bedangu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:20:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You mean the dance?
root66 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:21:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I clicked the wrong comments link for a thread about "13 reasons why" causing more suicides and thought you were just making a really dark analogy.
linkjn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:36:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs just what Big Floss wants you to believe!
Avinse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:57:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Arenโt you supposed to go like two millimeters into your gum when you do it to, or is that just false
My gums bleed because of the extremely tight space between two of my teeth. I floss every day.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:50:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Corsodyl made a fortune off "implying" that bleeding gums when you brush/floss "could" be a sign of gum disease. Your gums are meant to bleed slightly if you haven't brushed or flossed in a while. The number of people buying this mouthwash who didn't know this was astronomical. I kept telling my friends: dude, it's perfectly normal if you've never flossed. And now they are all throwing money at corsodyl mouthwash.
Is this really true in all cases? I have super sensitive gums that bleed like a LOT, enough that when I was a kid my dentist had me gently brush my gums for a half hour sometimes to try to get them stronger.
It didnt work, and when I floss all of my teeth it looks like a massacre occurred so I just brush really well, use mouthwash, and only floss the front terth that I can do without my gums bleeding.
I floss after every meal, the only time i haven't in my life was when i had braces cuz it was a pain. Now i'm a floss snob... not just any floss will do for me.
This is the best advice, and also any small teeth/tooth/gum pain go away. My teeth are in good condition, rarely ever get cavities but eating apples used to give me pain until I started flossing a lot.
I automatically wanna whine about how the floss really snaps down on my gums, but I also know that it still probably wouldn't hurt as much if I actually flossed... *shame face*
literally 2, maybe 3 'sessions' of flossing and you'll be a flosser and it won't hurt at all. The amount of shit you get out from between your teeth is so gross that you'll never NOT floss, and is actually quite satisfying in that "pressure washing a dirty deck" kind of way
See I have been flossing much more & I was told it is likely making my gums recede :(
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:09:11 on August 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to floss and use an electric toothbrush. My gums would bleed when flossing. I would develop tons of canker sores in my mouth that would then become infected (redness around the outside).
I then started using mouthwash after brushing. I rarely have a canker sore unless I do not use mouthwash. If one develops, it does not hurt and it goes away quickly. My gums would still bleed when flossing.
I then started using a waterpik. My gums do not bleed when flossing.
Zumvault ยท 888 points ยท Posted at 00:55:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For gamers, play games that have a beneficial afk element (in-game), then whenever you need to do some afk stuff spend the time it takes cleaning your house.
Started playing Black Desert Online on xbox, my house has never been cleaner and I'm doing it so regularly that It's becoming a habit and when I'm all caught up I nap.
It's like a tricked myself into taking care of me and my place with games. Easily the best life change I've made this year. I'm productive in-game, at home, and I'm well rested. 10/10 highly recommend.
Rishnixx ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 02:08:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Punch Club.
That game is a lot of choosing what to do and then watching the results. Considering it's a game about training and boxing, basically Rocky the game, it motivated me to lift weights while I played it.
Minecraft works great for me due to the fact that if I unplug my mouse while one of the buttons is held down it's effectively an autoclicker. As long as I don't click again once it's plugged back in, it doesn't stop. Any reason you need to click a lot in the same spot? Well, I can AFK that.
games with definite break points can be good to manage your time playing.
MOBAs like Dota2 or League of Legends
The more often you check in on yourself, the easier it gets to prioritise things over gaming.
It is so weird to see it all together. I would never recommend MOBAs to someone who wants to prioritise things over gaming.
Roonage ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 12:22:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know right.
I wouldnt say i would recommend MOBAs, but if your already playing them the breaks are there if you look for them. Definitely harder if your playing with a group though.
I never made it very far, I did a lot of fishing and when trying to do combat I'd always get distracted by the... ahem... character design.
It's innovations in gameplay changes were astonishing to me, I loved that it would swap from intense combat to a side scroller bullet hell and then swap off to galaga style bullet hell and back again, it was awesome.
Exactly. Soundtrack was one of the best Iโve ever heard, but you do gotta play through the game properly to experience the various endings. Itโs actually quite amazing when you play ending D etc. I just speedran the part where you play as 9S
The music was great but incredibly distracting, it was constantly stealing my attention to the point of dying a couple times, I didn't make it far enough to figure out if that was intentional or not.
The parts that caught me were in mid-combat in the early areas when all of a sudden female vocals would drown out the sounds of combat and just rip my attention from the fight. I loved the music though, and straight up sat by the jukebox in that one camp with the bots playing outside in the water, I napped to that a few times, it was great shit!
My last comment before bed. Absolutely this. It helps me feel I can progress in a hobby while staying deeply in the work game. Sometimes I get time off and can log over to enjoy the fruits of my labor :)
[deleted] ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 06:43:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It just means you're not at the keyboard.
Some games, if you get up, the character will just stop until you return.
Like pacman or sonic the hedgehog. Nothing can happen unless you're there.
OP was talking about games that have something useful happening for the game that you just sit and watch. You can click it to start and then go do something else (vacuum, hang laundry) and come back to continue.
It's about maximising your in-game time and your real life time, I stead of sacrificing one for the other.
For example in Minecraft you could make a farm that works automatically, but only when you're playing the game. So you leave the game running while you do something else.
50m4ra ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:11:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its also used as "non-present" due to its use outside of computer games
Is BDO worth getting? Apparently itโs a massive p2w
Rysilk ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:29:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
BDO is only somewhat p2w if you care about being in the top 1%.
If you don't care about that, then BDO is the best bang for free of any mmo out there.
I play BDO, but I don't PvP. I can log in, and have a hundred different things I can do, on my own time, without having to "race" progress. It's awesome. I've been the same lvl for 8 months now, and I play about 12 hours a week. And I am having a blast.
Paying definitely gives you some peripheral advantages but the game itself is worth playing despite that.
Also the primary recommendation players give is purchase the game, then purchase 4 pets. It's nearly mandatory to have 4 pets by the time you reach level 50 or so.
Value Packs and Artisans are definitely not "peripheral advantages". Basically if you're able to pay you just straight up get better gear 4x more easily. It's a great game, but I quit because there's no way you can keep up with endgame grind for TET or PEN without paying or a crazy amount of time.
That's fair, this game definitely requires a pretty large time investment. Just getting a piece of gear to TET can take a few weeks of effort. And Artisan Memories definitely make that process faster.
t4th ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:18:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For good times you have to spend some money for pets and costume. But then it is so much fun! Learning and discovering the world is awesome, but I gotta agree than getting to the top tier pvp is time and money sink - luckily for me I do pvp sparsely and still have a blast.
OMG, I need to try this. Mortal Kombat 11 has some pretty grindy elements. I just started having the AI run some of the harder towers, gonna do this while I clean and shit now
I play total war games a lot, in the campaign map after a turn I'll get a set of 25 push ups in, curls, squats, basically a full at home workout while playing.
Jellyka ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:35:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I stopped playing BDO when I noticed I'd play pokemon tcg in another window at the same time, and still had enough down time between my turns that I'd browse reddit too at the same time..
At some point I went, what am i even doing ? These games aren't really good I guess lol
If you spend all of your active time in BDO performing afk or semi afk activities then you're your own enemy tbh.
Afk activities are far less efficient and engaging than active ones. But some people can't overcome the desire to get rewards for as little effort as possible.
The game gives you the option to do next to nothing for minor rewards or be active for significantly better rewards.
Folseit ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:48:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I played an Asian MMO game when I was in my teens that had a built-in afk bot system. From what I remember, you controlled a party of 3 and you could set up a series of actions for them to perform when grinding. The game was so grindy that you had to do the afk bot thing to get anywhere though.
Introducing afk or bot mechanics can be great but adding grind do that they are necessary is poor design, It's my biggest issue with Korean MMOs tbh.
The worst aspect of BDO in my opinion is the fact that you don't have an option to process materials in bulk. The worst aspect for someone who spends $ on the game is that Costumes are class or character specific and cost $20-$30.
Expeditions, specifically Ursulaโs ones. They are too short to get properly stuck into something else in the game, but you can pretty realistically do some quick things around the house in those ten minutes.
This. I play smite and have to wait for a few minutes while the game finds a match for me. There's also deadtime while the game is launching. I spend this time lifting weights and it works wonders, I finally feel fit without having to spend any time in the gym!
Games used to take time to process. You would take a turn in civ and then have a few minutes while the computer did its thing. I got a lot done in those short breaks
There is a ton to do ranging from your basic questing and mob grinding to exploring complex subsystems! You can build a node network and a worker empire to work in it as well as crafting loads of goods from processed materials.
Processing materials is the bulk of my semi-afk time and when I lay down for the night or go to work I set my character to fish.
Fishing is the closest to autoplay I'd say because once you hook a fish you can either hit "A" and play the minigame (button combinations) or wait 3 minutes and you'll just reel it in.
Huh... Is the rewards worth it? Some games, either require ALOT of time to get a decent item or they require you to whip out your credit card and "Smite down thy Broke noobs"
BDO can require a ton of time to get the best weapon and gear available due to RNG and low drop rates.
The best weapons in the game atm are Kzarka weapons, they drop from the only World boss Kzarka. He spawns at scheduled times and his health is shared across all servers, the top 20 damage dealers per server have a higher chances at getting a drop, I believe it's 4%. For anyone who hits him they have a .3% [fact check needed] to get a drop.
I'm in a guild of 4 people, one of ours got a Kzarka on his 12th time, I'm on my 80th and still have not recieved a good drop, good meaning either a Kzarka or a Liverto, Liverto is also a weapon type and so far as I am aware Liverto weapons are the second strongest in the game.
For reference a +15 Liverto Blade [weapons are class specific, Blades are for a Samurai type class named Musa] costs about 75.5m, I earned the money to purchase one from another player in about a week, then waited about two days before someone sold one and I recieved it.
A Kzarka is usually 200m+ though for most players you will be able to buy one before you get one to drop.
As for the P2W aspects of the game they aren't too bad in my opinion, people can't outright buy the best gear or buy skill points to cap out their skills. No matter how much money you spend there is still a ton of legwork and time you have to put in to be good.
There are a fair number of purchases you can make that will meaningfully impact your gameplay and allow you to earn more in-game money than other players but nothing game breaking as far as I'm concerned. Once you reach level 56 and have full TRI gear It's primarily about skill at that point.
You can completely avoid PvP by staying at level 49, and ignoring the quest that allows you to go higher until you get fully geared and get your skill points up.
Sounds great, but how the heck can I get into BDO? I bought the game, but it comes across as simply so confusing to me. The graphics are incredible, but It feels poorly translated, and my attacks feel pretty spammy (not sure if using any specific combos has real advantages). Generally knowing what quests are best to do as well
Quests are actually not very beneficial if your goal is to get leveled asap, but they do provide general tours through cities and regions as well as helping you discover new nodes.
It has a high barrier of entry for the reasons you stated it is somewhat poorly translated when it comes to explaining mechanics and definitely lacks on tutorials, my main recommendation would be to check out some YouTubers to get an understanding of the broad concepts and the dive in and learn as you go. It's fantastic though that learning curve is hard to swallow unless You're really interested in the game and willing to Google a fair amount.
Goal #1 should be to learn what you can as the game teaches you and work towards getting a +15 weapon via enhancing all while questing so the game will introduce you to new concepts.
Do the main quests first, they give you decent gold, gear and something called "advice of valks" (save them they will be very usefull around lvls 56 onwards) also you get to lvl 56 extremely quick after that is the grindfest
Also the "inventory expansion quests, those will give you 16 or more slots
I disagree. The ability to have the non-mandatory option to gain unnecessary but useful resources at a slower rate when not actively playing a game is a nice bonus.
The keywords being non-mandatory and unnecessary.
The game is entirely playable without utilizing afk or semi-afk activities when you aren't actively playing. They exist so you can perform them while planning your next move and exploring the node network via the map. They just have the ability for specific ones to be extended for up to 8 hours at a time.
Any game that hinges or relies on afk activities is poorly designed for sure, this game doesn't and isn't.
Don't suffer future pain. In other words, worrying about all the stuff that could happen stops you from doing things and worse, turns potential pain into actual worry and mental pain.
tionanny ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 07:09:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worry is interest paid on a debt you may never have.
Been doing this for months in a long distance relationship. Creates hell for your mind. A very deep and dark place when it goes unchecked. Take heed with this advice people!
I have my final exams and I am acting like I'm not scared but I actually am horribly scared I might mess up. Which is why I keep going on the internet to distract myself.
But you are right. One should never fear the future or suffer for something that didn't even happen (yet).
So I will go off now as hard as it is and study as long as I can!
And I want you, person who reads this to stop for a moment too and think about this: Is there anything you have to do but are distracting yourself instead of doing it? Yes? Then GO and make a CHANGE. Don't hide but go out there and proof to yourself and everyone else that you are a fighter- not a coward.
Now GO
LWY007 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 13:12:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eiikare ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:22:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks friend! I was putting a crochet project off because I am down in the dumps today, but youโre right, I will feel better once I start working on it again. ๐
suncourt ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:48:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is what I think when people say they're afraid to get another pet/date someone because they could lose them too. So you're going to suffer years of being alone because being alone in the future will hurt?
[deleted] ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 05:37:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then you have an awesome advantage in life and you probably achieve all your dreams because you're not spending 50% of your resources on someone else. So the advice doesn't apply to you.
My mom is always afraid of a new pet because losing them always hurts. I know this pain but animals bring so much life to a home. They change your life. They make you feel good. You have less existential angst when you take care of them. Rescuing a shelter animal is an amazing thing to do even if you know you'll outlive them.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:45:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then you have an awesome advantage in life and you probably achieve all your dreams because you're not spending 50% of your resources on someone else.
Than your dream is to live a life where you can be lazy whenever you want. Still things you can do that will move you closer or farther from the goal. There are also factors you cant control. You do have a dream, and that alone is a thing. If our dreams were all the same we'd be a boring bunch, dont you think. Your easygoing nature and want to relish the gifts of this magnificant earth is the yin to a workaholics yang.
Instead of saying lazy I'd say you're someone who and appreciates the that is the beautiful stillness and peace we are able to bathe in in a chaotic and ever moving universe, and who appreciates the gifts and pleasures and joy of our being that we feel out of simply living in and witnessing conciousness and often feel through the worldly pleasure of existing and experiencing.
Eh but what do I know lol :P I enjoyed writing that though
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:27:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Than your dream is to live a life where you can be lazy whenever you want.
Its not a dream of mine, its just my current functioning. I dont make a dream or something to strive towards out of it. I dont have anything I strive towards in my life apart from everything I do, whatever I do I strive to do it or get it done.
Still things you can do that will move you closer or farther from the goal.
I dont have any long term goal. I might have some goals sometimes like I boiled some water for the goal of making tea which is now done as I am drinking it.
You do have a dream, and that alone is admirable.
I dont have a dream in the sense that people mean by dream, something the are working towards with their life. Unless everything we do is a goal such as I go to the toilet for the goal of relieving myself or I go to the bar for the goal of meeting friends and drinking a few beers.
I think that's a whole different statement and situation then. It changes from "I'm afraid to get another ______ because it hurts to lose them", to "I'm happy by myself" Which is great. There's also the related statement of " I'm not ready yet because it still hurts to much" Which is also entirely valid and should in no means be argued with. I'm specifically talking about the people who are interested and denying themselves having something specifically because they won't always have it.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:24:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whulum ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:12:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cant find the post but some tinder girl stated in her bio "My jaw is wired shut so go fuck a blender first if you want me to suck your dick" or something like that.
Maybe far fetched but I'm keeping my hopes up for OPs response!
Take a mindfulness class or alternatively look into mindfulness online. Force yourself to be in the moment while you go through the exercises too. It's difficult at first and you will catch yourself thinking about what you need to do immediately after it's finished, but just keep bringing your focus back to right this moment as you notice it trying to get away. Also pay attention to sensory things like 'What can I hear right now?' or 'How many people that I can see right now are smiling?' or 'What 3 things can I smell right this second?' 'How many things can I feel touching my skin right this second.' especially when you find yourself going through countless imaginary future scenarios that most likely won't ever happen.
โWorrying is like praying for what you donโt want.โ
Press-A ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:33:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My internship that was great the first few days got turned around completely the next week. They cut me from the agenda and deleted my name from their website she had just put me on. They did not talk to me unless they needed me to do something. My anxiety is at a peak because I don't know why they treat me like this. I have to go again tomorrow and I won't even be able to talk to the owner the day after tomorrow. My depression is rising again and with my social anxiety, ASS and ADD I just can't cope with this stress.
I need this internship to get my degree even though I've passed all my classes without any re-do's and it's the best achievement of my life. I just don't know why I'm such a failure as an intern.
My point is, I don't know yet why they treat me the way they do but I cant keep my feelings and body in check. Sorry I just had to vent.
I find that while it is important to not worry about the bad stuff that could happen, it is still beneficial to recognize that it could happen (premeditatio malorum) and to plan accordingly.
Pretty much the same thing, but the version given to me was "don't worry about things until you absolutely have to." It saved me so much unnecessary stress.
My wife does this all the time. She worries about stuff that isnโt even a problem yet (and might not even become a problem). She worries all day every day and I feel like I canโt get her to live in the moment and enjoy what we have going on.
Weirdly enough theres been two occasions where it helped future me. One was graduating highschool. Senior year was a lot of processing that life was going to change from then on and be very different and I would not know how. I want sure I wanted to know or live it. I realize school was home to me in a lot of ways and that made me sad. So when graduation actually came i wasnt emotional at all the way a lot of kids were, or it was only then sinking that that they would never see these people and this place again in the same fashion. It didnt help after for me but that was a whole other can of worms and depression.
The second was my cat. I had plenty of pets before but this one...he wasnt my fur baby, he was something better, like my familiar. Just so much respect and love going both ways. I dont know how to explain it without it sounding weird. All I can say is I learned a lot more about boundaries and animals from that cat. I just knew that when he was gone I'd would be devastated. Shattered. Cried about it before it could happen. Then with only four years with this amazing boi he went missing. And i skipped some grief stages and landed on angry rather than mentally gone.
I was weirdly emotionally prepared for things I thought were going the decimate me because I let it do its thing before it happened. But I guess part of it was those were inevitable. I'd have to process them at some point and no matter what it would be emotionally impactful to do so. For other things that you dont know are inevitable, or you just worry about, it's never going to be worth it.
mike2R ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:43:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
"Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof" Matthew 6:34
edit in response to downvotes: it's literally this exact thought, from nineteen hundred years ago (or whenever Matthew was written), you don't find that even a little interesting?
Hard to believe you're getting down voted, honestly what's wrong with people?
Take my up vote good friend
[deleted] ยท 646 points ยท Posted at 01:50:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercising helping with depression and anxiety. It's not a cure all and I needed to be on meds to get to the point where I could do it, but it really does help me. I've been off my meds now for over a year (under doctors supervision don't stop taking your meds unless you run it by your doctor) and when I can't exercise for a few days, I can feel the depression and anxiety coming back. Now instead of going through a million things I did wrong in my head, I run for 3 miles or lift some heavy shit.
That's great man, exercise can really solve a lot of issues. For me is the physical discomfort - I work a sedentary job, and if I don't go to the gym for a few days I feel like my ass becomes numb, my lower back hurts and I'm sooo bloated.
Exercise really helped me as well back in college. Run a mile, lift some weights, bike 5 miles or run another 2. About an hour and a half a day including travel to the gym, but it was well worth it. I didn't have to go every day either, I would usually go every other day, or do harder workouts on my days off. Fast forward a couple years, I've stopped doing that. Between an office job and 2 other much simpler jobs, I find myself craving the time to get back into the gym again because adulting is depressing as shit.
My husband read this book called Spark (something about mind and depression and exercise) and started doing this too. He wakes up easier in the morning and is more cheerful since he has constant low level depression. He was always a weight lifter, but adding running/aerobics was the game changer.
I kept reading through all the comments just to find this! Iโve been told for years that exercise can help with depression but I never would have believed it until I experienced it for myself. Iโm 11 weeks into a regular exercise routine and going to the gym has easily become my favorite part of the day (after I got past the initial dread of it the first few weeks). My mood is so much better and Iโve actually started to lose some weight which was my main goal initially but all these other great things are happening too. Iโm just so excited to be genuinely happy again.
Man I'm on medication and I still can't find the drive, kudos to youโค๏ธ
kchow81 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:30:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also find that exercising helps me sleep better, which also helps with my anxiety, since Iโm not strung out on gallons of coffee to get through my day. Iโm with you, when I donโt exercise for a few days, things start to go south quickly.
Beck83 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:27:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me personally, I feel like this is the advice that can potentially help me the most.
Yes. Thank you for telling me what I literally just read. Instead of using your brain. To see that that's obviously not what I was saying.
joshi38 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 12:09:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's all about who owns the distribution rights in other countries. It's not so much that Comedy Central randomly decided "fuck Canada", but more that some network in Canada bought the rights to air the show and got Comedy Central to geo-block their Youtube videos in Canada so Canadians would be forced to watch the show on said Network instead of watching the clips online.
Uh, alright. Do you know what network this is? Because I can't find it anywhere. Kinda counterproductive.
joshi38 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:39:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No clue, I'm not in Canada. It may well be that some Network has it and just isn't airing it right now, but may in the future. Either way, they want exclusivity in your area, so no more watching on Youtube.
That's... very very very very very very false. Like, incomprehensibly false.
Its not false in the slightest. Not using someone's pronouns violates your "human rights" code, thanks to C-16, which results in fines or jail time if you refuse to pay said fines. They also have entire categories of "hate speech" and numbers of "reasonable limits" that they impose on speech.
Which means your speech isn't free or protected, what you can say is at the whims of whoever is in power.
I literally live in Canada. I'm Canadian. I know my own country's laws and I know what I'm talking about. C-16 prohibits discrimination against different gender identities, meaning you can't refuse to hire someone because they're a girl with a penis. Under no circumstances does it mean that accidentally calling someone the wrong gender/sex is illegal. That's not at all what the law says, and it never has had any chance of meaning that.
Americans have straight up been arrested for saying fuck the police.
The United States is the least free western developed country out there. You keep screaming for freedom but you might as well be North Korea compared to any other western country.
I literally live in Canada. I'm Canadian. I know my own country's laws and I know what I'm talking about. C-16 prohibits discrimination against different gender identities, meaning you can't refuse to hire someone because they're a girl with a penis. Under no circumstances does it mean that accidentally calling someone the wrong gender/sex is illegal. That's not at all what the law says, and it never has had any chance of meaning that.
Your issue is you've included the word "accidentally" where I never used it. You absolutely can be arrested or fined for using the pronoun. Accidental or not doesn't matter in the slightest. You guys have already fined one man $55,000 for using the wrong pronoun on someone
Americans have straight up been arrested for saying fuck the police.
No American has been arrested for saying fuck the police, because that's a legal statement. They may have been arrested for disorderly conduct or something similar, but that is easily overturned in a court if inapplicable. I'm talking about the end result of your system, not morons who go outside of the system.
The United States is the least free western developed country out there. You keep screaming for freedom but you might as well be North Korea compared to any other western country.
Fact of the matter is you can't point to a single piece of legislation to support your assertions. Whereas I can and have already.
Could you link me to the case of the person who was fined?
Accidental or not does matter. Using the wrong pronoun accidentally has absolutely nothing to do with C-16. Deliberately using the wrong pronoun as a pattern of harassment or discrimination might. Just like it's not illegal to use racial slurs while hanging out with your friends, but if you call your employee racial slurs all the time that's a problem.
Could you link me to the case of the person who was fined?
I told you a very specific amount, two seconds of Google would have gotten you a source you prefer so that we don't have to go through this idiotic source shopping bit. Here if you want a different source then find it yourself.
Accidental or not does matter. Using the wrong pronoun accidentally has absolutely nothing to do with C-16. Deliberately using the wrong pronoun as a pattern of harassment or discrimination might. Just like it's not illegal to use racial slurs while hanging out with your friends, but if you call your employee racial slurs all the time that's a problem.
You don't seem to understand, that is exactly the problem. I don't give a shit if it's intentional or accidental free speech is free speech, it doesn't come with a bullshit tag like that.
Fact of the matter is there's no line that you can give me that you can say in Canada but I'd be arrested for in the US. But I can give you an endless number of lines that you would be arrested for in Canada and not in the US.
You guys don't have freedom, you have privileges your government gave you and can take back or limit any time they wish to do so. Our founders were much better in framing the bill of Rights. They don't grant us those rights, they view them as intrinsic to being human and recognize that they should only ever be infringed upon in very specific circumstances. Hurt feelings is not one of them.
I haven't said anything about that. I asked you to link me to the case you're talking about and I clarified what C-16 means because I think you are confused. The case you're talking about has nothing to do with C-16 at all, so of course it would not come up in a search.
Edit. And, of course, the case you're talking about wasn't about someone using the wrong pronoun. It was about someone distributing flyers attacking someone running for public office because they are trans. That's quite different.
I haven't said anything about that. I asked you to link me to the case you're talking about and I clarified what C-16 means because I think you are confused. The case you're talking about has nothing to do with C-16 at all, so of course it would not come up in a search.
You're incorrect about what C16 means, I've read through the wording in it's entirety. It classifies misgendering as a form of discrimination
Edit. And, of course, the case you're talking about wasn't about someone using the wrong pronoun. It was about someone distributing flyers attacking someone running for public office because they are trans. That's quite different.
Incorrect. The bulk sum of the money was awarded because the flyer said that the person was "male." The only real "difference" is that the statement really isn't about pronouns specifically, as "male" isn't a pronoun. But that would actually make it more damning, your speech is so limited that you actually fined someone for stating a biological fact.
In the Vancouver case, $35,000 was rewarded based on "injury to her dignity, feelings, and selfโrespect." Gender pronouns were a minor part of a campaign of discrimination, humiliation, and attempting to incite hatred, which would pretty clearly injury someone's dignity and feelings. Far more important than gender pronouns is the fact that the campaign questioned Oger's morality, integrity, and fitness for office based solely on the fact that she is trans and strongly implied that trans peopleโsuch as Ogerโare associated with criminality (including, but not limited to, sexual violence against women). Significantly, he not only expressed his own clear hatred and contempt for her, but encouraged others to discriminate against her and prevent her from being elected due to her gender identity.
The campaign also compromised her personal safety, as evidenced by the police advising her to "not to park her car in front of her home, to avoid a person tampering with it. She had to advise the police hate crimes division when she was going to appear at a public event and follow complex security arrangements as a result." She feared for her family's safety as well.
Overall, the tribunal found:
"The vilification of Ms. Oger in this complaint drew on the very stereotypes that would see transgender people treated as inferior and inherently unworthy to hold public office. The Flyer was disseminated at a time when Ms. Oger was in the public eye and targeted to those
people in her riding who would be assessing her merit as a candidate. It referred to her genitals โ something that Ms. Oger rightly points out that no person would want discussed publicly โ and associated her directly with disease and social ills. The intent was to generate an
immediate negative impact on her campaign, on the basis that she was inherently untrustworthy and not worthy of due regard or respect."
So, no, the $35,000 was not awarded solely or even primarily on either gender pronouns or the word "male".
When it comes to costs: they awarded $20,000 based on conduct that happened in the tribunal process itself, not due to the originating complaint. So, that money was not rewarded based on the flyer. This is part of the reasoning:
"Participants in the Tribunal's process are entitled to be treated with respect, and a costs award is available to sanction parties who engage in conduct that is inflammatory, derogatory, disrespectful and inappropriate."
Misuse of pronouns was found to be disrespectful, inflammatory, derogatory, and inappropriate due to their intent. But misuse of pronouns was not the only issue or, again, even the primary one. This was all the conduct that was found the have occurred during the hearing:
a. attending the hearing, and giving his testimony, wearing a tโshirt that denigrated Ms. Oger based on her gender identity, in the face of the panelโs clear statement that it was improper;
b. throughout the process, referring to Ms. Oger as a man, in violation of the Tribunalโs direct, and repeated, orders to stop;
c. testifying in a manner that demonstrated contempt for the Tribunal and its process;
d. filing a response to the complaint that denigrated Ms. Oger based on her gender identity, in terms very similar to the Flyer which I have found violated s. 7 of the Code;
e. publicly posting a photograph of the inside of the hearing room, in violation of the Tribunalโs "Public Access & Media Policyโ;
f. repeatedly reโarguing issues that had already been decided by the Tribunal; 99 g. repeatedly denigrating Ms. Oger in connection with her gender identity and this complaint, in his public posts through social media, his website, a printed flyer, and on a podcast; and
h. denigrating Ms. Quail in connection with her sexual orientation in his public communications about this complaint.
You may want to read this to understand what C-16 really means:
Your link literally backs up exactly what I've claimed. It even says it gives tribunals the ability to include misuse pronouns in their considerations.
In the Vancouver case, $35,000 was rewarded based on "injury to her dignity, feelings, and selfโrespect."
That in itself is absolutely stupid. She wasn't injured in any way, hurt feelings are a moronic excuse to infringe on free speech.
Gender pronouns were a minor part of a campaign of discrimination, humiliation, and attempting to incite hatred, which would pretty clearly injury someone's dignity and feelings.
Your dignity and feelings shouldn't be protected under anything. Its nobody's responsibility but your own to preserve them.
Far more important than gender pronouns is the fact that the campaign questioned Oger's morality, integrity, and fitness for office based solely on the fact that she is trans and strongly implied that trans peopleโsuch as Ogerโare associated with criminality (including, but not limited to, sexual violence against women). Significantly, he not only expressed his own clear hatred and contempt for her, but encouraged others to discriminate against her and prevent her from being elected due to her gender identity.
You're not making a good argument for Canada being "more free" than the US. You're literally fining people for campaigning against people they don't like, because it hurts her feelings.
The campaign also compromised her personal safety, as evidenced by the police advising her to "not to park her car in front of her home, to avoid a person tampering with it. She had to advise the police hate crimes division when she was going to appear at a public event and follow complex security arrangements as a result." She feared for her family's safety as well.
That's complete bullshit, there were no threats issued at all and no reason for her to fear for her safety. This is like saying racist white people should be able to sue black people because they feel unsafe around them. Its moronic.
Overall, the tribunal found:
"The vilification of Ms. Oger in this complaint drew on the very stereotypes that would see transgender people treated as inferior and inherently unworthy to hold public office. The Flyer was disseminated at a time when Ms. Oger was in the public eye and targeted to those
people in her riding who would be assessing her merit as a candidate. It referred to her genitals โ something that Ms. Oger rightly points out that no person would want discussed publicly โ and associated her directly with disease and social ills. The intent was to generate an
immediate negative impact on her campaign, on the basis that she was inherently untrustworthy and not worthy of due regard or respect."
Do you not understand that nothing you've said is an argument in your favor? Every single thing about that case proves your laws and system is far more draconian than anything the US has.
You're too busy focusing on being correct on minor details to see that your corrections make no difference to my argument. Its still an abhorrent infringement on the concept of free speech.
"Participants in the Tribunal's process are entitled to be treated with respect, and a costs award is available to sanction parties who engage in conduct that is inflammatory, derogatory, disrespectful and inappropriate."
Misuse of pronouns was found to be disrespectful, inflammatory, derogatory, and inappropriate due to their intent. But misuse of pronouns was not the only issue or, again, even the primary one. This was all the conduct that was found the have occurred during the hearing:
In other words $20,000 was due to using the wrong pronouns during the trial. Absolutely moronic.
a. attending the hearing, and giving his testimony, wearing a tโshirt that denigrated Ms. Oger based on her gender identity, in the face of the panelโs clear statement that it was improper;
Very "free" isn't it?
b. throughout the process, referring to Ms. Oger as a man, in violation of the Tribunalโs direct, and repeated, orders to stop;
Such free speech
c. testifying in a manner that demonstrated contempt for the Tribunal and its process;
Much deserved, your tribunals are a kangaroo court that mocks the idea of Justice.
d. filing a response to the complaint that denigrated Ms. Oger based on her gender identity, in terms very similar to the Flyer which I have found violated s. 7 of the Code;
Again, no free speech.
e. publicly posting a photograph of the inside of the hearing room, in violation of the Tribunalโs "Public Access & Media Policyโ;
Wow you guys really have no freedoms there.
f. repeatedly reโarguing issues that had already been decided by the Tribunal
As anyone in their right mind should. Your tribunals are disgusting to anyone who has experienced actual freedom.
g. repeatedly denigrating Ms. Oger in connection with her gender identity and this complaint, in his public posts through social media, his website, a printed flyer, and on a podcast; and
So again, no free speech.
h. denigrating Ms. Quail in connection with her sexual orientation in his public communications about this complaint.
And again, no free speech.
You can read the full decision here:
Why would I need to? You've more than made my point for me. The vast majority of the issues they took were based on his pronoun usage, even the ones that weren't infringed on various freedoms.
Canada may as well be North Korea, you guys have basically no freedom.
I have made no argument about Canada vs. the US. Perhaps you are confusing me with a different poster. I really have no interest in that argument.
My argument is that, no, C-16 doesn't simply penalize people for using the wrong pronoun. It has to be something far bigger than that, of which pronoun misuse can be one part. My argument is that the Vancouver case is not an example of C-16 in action and that the award was not given solely or primarily due to improper pronoun use. You seem to think "denigrating Ms. Oger" = "using the wrong pronoun", but that is not the case. He did far more than that. You have clearly not read the decision and your repeated claim that "the vast majority of the issues they took were based on his pronoun use" is absurd to anyone who has read it.
You can claim that the US has greater free speech protections (I really don't care), but your claims about what C-16 means and what happened in the Vancouver case are incorrect. Now you say they are "minor details" but they started as your evidence for your assertions.
At this point I'm just going to assume you're trolling.
My argument is that, no, C-16 doesn't simply penalize people for using the wrong pronoun. It has to be something far bigger than that, of which pronoun misuse can be one part.
I never claimed it was only for wrong pronoun use, only that pronoun use was covered under it. And you absolutely can be fined for only using the wrong pronoun, your own link said as much.
You can be fined if it's part of a greater claim of harassment or discrimination. Your previous posts implied that it could be used as the sole basis and you specifically said that someone was fined $55,000 for using the wrong pronoun, which is clearly not the case.
You can be fined if it's part of a greater claim of harassment or discrimination. Your previous posts implied that it could be used as the sole basis
Your own link has people saying it can be used as the soul basis. They put forward the argument that
gender harassment should include โ Refusing to refer to a person by their self-identified name and proper personal pronounโ. ย In other words, pronoun misuse may become actionable, though the Human Rights Tribunals and courts.
Which means they're considering a constant misuse of pronouns as harassment. That's the point I was getting at.
and you specifically said that someone was fined $55,000 for using the wrong pronoun, which is clearly not the case.
Part of the fine is for using the wrong pronoun. Whether it's the full amount or just a chunk doesn't make a single difference to my argument. And the entirety of the case reinforces the original argument I presented.
We're just going in circles. Yes, misusing a gender pronoun will likely be interpreted as part of harassment. But would have to be part of harassment. It has to have a particular malicious intent. And that quote is from an OHRC document, not from anything to do with C-16 itself.
And, yes, as I have already said, using the wrong pronoun was taken into account in determining monetary compensation. But after reading the decision, it is crazy to come to the conclusion that it was a significant part of it. The overwhelming majority of the decision deals with issues not related to incorrect pronouns at all, particularly the most import sections.
Ultimately, if his whole campaign had been "I refuse to call him 'her!'" it's pretty obvious there would be no claim in the first place. So saying someone was fined $55,000 for using the wrong pronoun is either a wildly misinformed statement or a deeply misleading one that willfully ignores 98% of what actually happened.
We're just going in circles. Yes, misusing a gender pronoun will likely be interpreted as part of harassment. But would have to be part of harassment. It has to have a particular malicious intent. And that quote is from an OHRC document, not from anything to do with C-16 itself.
The link that you, yourself, provided claims that it is harassment. Not that it's part of harassment.
And, yes, as I have already said, using the wrong pronoun was taken into account in determining monetary compensation. But after reading the decision, it is crazy to come to the conclusion that it was a significant part of it. The overwhelming majority of the decision deals with issues not related to incorrect pronouns at all, particularly the most import sections.
In your listing you had several points dedicated to him misgendering her. Even had to where you flat out said it and didn't use general language to lump it in with general disrespect.
Ultimately, if his whole campaign had been "I refuse to call him 'her!'" it's pretty obvious there would be no claim in the first place.
It can be harassment in certain contexts. It does not mean that it inherently always is.
I'm done with this. I encourage you to read the actual decision. If you read it and still think this was mostly about pronouns I don't even know what to tell you - it would be absurd.
I agree and also didn't say that they did. That is actually the opposite of the point I was making; they're just people who deserve no special treatment, good or bad.
Certain liberal philosophers and politicians simultaneously claimed that all men are equal and entitled to freedom, whilst owning slaves.
Their ideals weren't wrong, and they weren't wrong to promote them, but at the same time there was a a disconnect between theory and reality.
I can't emphasise enough how helpful it is to realise that politics and philosophy cannot be reduced to the act of placing people on a moral hierarchy, no matter how much conservatives and some capital-L liberals alike seem to think so.
In calling for freedom without including racialised people, without acknowledging the economic reality of slavery and the ideological contortions which that economy generated, they were being racist. They were, like all of us at times, making a philosophical and an ethical error. What they were saying was worthwhile and I'm glad they said it, sowing the seeds for the destruction of their own class (slave owners) in their war against another class (monarchs and imperialists), but sooner or later the contradiction had to be acknowledged.
There came a time when that form of liberalism had to face up to its contradictions. It did so, slavery was abolished, and as a result enlightenment values(โข) remained viable, thank goodness.
Clearly, the modern-day question of whether some people use statutory equality as a smokescreen for de-facto systemic racism is a matter of debate. So why not allow that debate to take place? Why the kneejerk, unreasoned, out of hand rejection of that argument on principle and the recourse to liberal idealism?
If equality means screaming ALL LIVES MATTER over people attempting to start a sincere discussion over a specific perceived problem, then that "equality" is racist, even though the sentiment is perfectly correct. It's not the ideal that is wrong, it's the self-serving paranoia.
Context matters.
Also, I have to say, who are these people you're talking about? Commenters love to repeat this vague claim endlessly in the hope that people start believing it, but aside from a few idiots I don't see anyone on the left whose ideals are not fundamentally egalitarian.
Also, they were pretty aware of the issue. They just couldn't figure a way to free the slaves. Slavery had robbed them of their ability to be self sufficient. (I'm not saying that's true, but the slave owning moral philosphers definitely knew slavery was an issue, but thought that it was better for the slaves to remain slaves then be set free with no land, no jobs, and no easy way of surviving by themselves. They would turn to outlawry and be hunted as a result)
I exactly how "not seeing color" can be racist in my previous post. I am paying attention (though maybe not to TiA quite so much) - I'm afraid we just disagree.
The Democrat Party no longer supports treating people equally regardless of race, and instead they seek to equalize outcomes. If you criticize programs like Affirmative Action which are literally by definition - institutional racism, then many on the left will call you racist for thinking we should treat people equally, and not use their skin color to determine how we treat them.
I'm sure many of them mean well, but treating people differently based on race never works out well, and yet there they go.
"I'm not a racist" is usually followed by a racist comment, as a justification. It's like how people say "no offense" then they say something insulting.
Anilxe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:16:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually heard something similar to this when passing a coworker's office. They had their back turned and was talking about me to another fellow coworker.
I kept walking and tried my best to not cry.
kesht17 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:48:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I meant to text friend B about friend A but texted friend A instead. I was saying wonderful things about her. I canโt prove it but I think itโs done wonderful things.
I had an awesome employee with the same name as my husband and I occasionally accidentally texted him instead of my husband, once when I was raving about how much that employee helped me that day. It was awkward but also probably best case scenario.
One of my friends had confidence issues and I used to do this to him. He knew my phone was fucked up and would genuinely missend texts sometimes so I would randomly "talk behind his back" by texting compliments about him to him.
Great question. I do not think so. The scenario was that friend A was going through a divorce and her husband was really awful to her. I was explaining the situation and saying that I hope the next person she is with treats her better. The reason why I texted that friend was because she had been through a nightmare divorce and she could relate. Friend A was not upset at all. She made jokes that I should do it more often. lol
trsam ยท 61 points ยท Posted at 03:49:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read this as a life-pro-tip on reddit a ways back. 'Always talk about folks as if they are in the room.. ' still bounces around my head a lot. Good tip indeed with the flavour of goodness.
Hey, I have a friend who does the opposite, does that count
To clarify I mean he insults them behind their back. It's not genuine hatred for the person as far as I'm aware as it never really further than "ya they're a bitch" but yea it still is rude nevertheless. I've begun mocking him everytime he does it so hopefully that will make him stop.
I think he meant illegal immigrant, which tend to be from Mexico in the United States. The US has a big problem with their southern border, if you've been living under a rock.
I used to be timid but I was full of unresolved anger and hatred for other people. Once I started telling peolle what I thought of them to their face my life got alot better. Not to say I go out of my way to be a dick to people that dont deserve it, but if you're an asshole to me more than like 3 times in any given 30 day period, I'll probably tell you to go fuck yourself with a geode.
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:59:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
If you mean that they compliment people to their faces, then yeah, that counts.
If you mean that they insult people behind their backs, then drop them immediately, because a person like that is definitely talking about you that way to other people.
My best friend and i do it all the time though, we even insult eachother when we say something nice about the other because thats not what we do. It really depends on how people do it though ofcourse and if both parties are okay with that
I did not, but i did tell everyone at a party he was gay and when all the girls started talking to him because of that he thought it was because they thought he was hot, until someone asked him if he really was lmao
Haha, thank god people never believe im gay for some reason. Point being that you can go as far as you want with insults etc as long as you know the other is okay with it, theres no specific line as to what is too far
[deleted] ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 04:30:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree that itโs toxic and people shouldnโt talk shit about everyone but acknowledging someone is a bitch is normal. I mean, obviously you wouldnโt say it to their face because duh but if others agree someoneโs a bitch then theyโre probably a bitch
Yea but he does this thing where he basically tries to do it in front of their back, but not to their face, so he just starts saying compliments while facing away from them. He refuses to acknowledge what he is doing is strange. It's become a problem. We're seeking help.
So you mean he compliments them to their face, insults them behind their back, or insults them to their face? I'm not actually sure what the opposite would be.
330000 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:00:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre not...SERIOUSLY asking if those are the same thing right? Like you donโt actually think that complimenting and insulting are the same thing? Please say you were being rhetorical
I've begun mocking him everytime he does it so hopefully that will make him stop.
I doubt this strategy will ever work the way you want it to. I'd guess that instead, it's more likely to fuel just how insulting he is when speaking about you, behind your back. Watch out, because even if others don't value his opinion very much, they'll still be influenced. They may not even consciously realize it, but they will tend to devalue you.
Alej915 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:14:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your friend is a bitch. Be rude when you don't like people. Don't fucking fake it. What do you gain from faking it? That person now likes you? Wonderful. Your friend. Is. A. Bitch.
One reason to not speak negatively of others is that doing so kills the creativity. When he speaks that way around you he is killing your creativity, and everyone elseโs. Thatโs one thing to bring up to him to show that heโs being very unethical
Talanic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:54:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a coworker who would talk negatively about anyone who wasn't there.
I'm sure he was doing the same about me when I wasn't there, too.
Nothing makes me instantly dislike someone as much as hearing โIโd say this to their face, but...โ โ it really doesnโt matter whether or not they would, or even what they say, I just know that anyone whoโs aware that what theyโre about to say isnโt ok, but wants to assure me that theyโre aware of this yet not an asshole or coward because they would (not) say it directly, is not worth my time.
A: if heโs your friend then just tell him heโs being an asshole. Donโt just mock him. Flat out address it as a friend to another friend.
B: why be friends with someone whoโs doing this anyways?
C: people who do this are usually talking about you behind your back as well
One of comedic legend, Norm Macdonald's regular sayings after shitting on people is, "He's a great man though..." And I find myself doing that more as I get older, except I do it when other people shit on people. Such as any moment the people at work go in gossip mode.
Just some examples this past month.
"...And we all know what Matt's like..."
"Yeah, but he's a good man, always giving me rides home, and anyone else if they don't have a car. He'll go the opposite way from his home to do it and won't take no as an answer if it's raining. He's a good man."
"And you know fucking Carl is being fucking Carl..."
"Yeah, but Carl's a good man. And I'm sure if he heard anyone else talking shit about you and me, he'd speak up."
"Yeah, that Dan is such an unsocial asshole who has no good things to say about anybody."
"Yeah, but you know, he's had a real hard life. Vietnam veteran. Dude was a ranger. Bi-Polar, his friends are all in prison or killed themselves. And what's he got to show for it? He works here...Sure he's crotchety but he's alright. Yeah, he's a good man."
It usually really puts out the fire. The most I ever got as a push back was, "What? He's a good man!? He's a good man!?" And they just kinda shake their head. And I say, "Yeah, he's a good man." It's kinda fun.
lol I do this too and I didn't realise it was a thing. But yeah, I say "He's a good person" about pretty much everyone. Even people I don't like. (Even with people who have reeeeally fucked up, it's along the lines of "I'm sure he could be a good person but he's making some terrible mistakes and I hope he realises that soon.")
What work does it do exactly? I tire of the common workplace gossip that I'm surrounded by. I don't like talking bad about people if I can avoid it, but specifically, what good comes from your suggestion?
RexDraco ยท 526 points ยท Posted at 02:56:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're the guy that talks positively about someone behind their back, the people you're talking to will trust you're doing the same for them and they'll open more to you and shit. It's kinda like how you don't trust that one person that talks behind everyone's back, but you will trust that other person that's always positive.
I learned this the hard way- When I was younger I had issues with my anger, so when I discovered that I couldn't really go to my friends with issues I had with them in a reasonable way I chose the easy way out and just talked about them behind their back to gauge if I even had the right to be upset with them in the first place or if it was just my anger.
I've since taken measures against it and worked on my own mental health and while my anger issues aren't "gone" you wouldn't really know about it unless you reaaally pissed me off or I told you. Being able to take control of my anger made it so I was able to calmly and rationally tell people when they upset me and my friendships began to mend and grow stronger and now that things are starting to fall into place it just became natural for me to refrain negative gossiping to the point where I've noticed a change in my own friends as well. Now when my buddies start up I just ask them if they've talked to the other person about it and if they say no I reassure them that if they talk to them and try to remember that they care about one another then it will all work out
Talanic ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:55:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah that's the part I'm in right now. I also struggle with depression so what's getting me is that my "depression voice" aka critical and mean thoughts about myself, versus my "self reflection voice," which is actual self reflection and analytical thinking. I am struggling to tell the difference between the two.
How did you pull yourself out of the dark places it took you?
tough love I suppose, I would pretty regularly tell myself to "stop being a lil bitch and be the man you want to be"
that's not to say that I think people who struggle with anger or depression or anxiety are little bitches- but it helped me at least.
eventually though I learned that there's only so much you can give before you stop being yourself, and that''s not necessarily a bad thing; everyone should always strive to be better than they were the day before, and while no one is perfect, we can die trying. Change is an inevitable part of life, and you can choose to be swept up in it or create it, I don't know about you but I rather be at the reigns than Fate. Just don't forget that everyone's happiness is important, and that includes you.
If you hate talking bad about people imagine the difference it can make talking good about them. Plus if youโre the one in the group only talking good about people 2 things could happen...
People say what the heck Iโm trying to gossip I donโt want positivity (which can lead to them realizing that theyโre dicks.. or not but they are dicks so who cares)
Or
They start to talk good about people instead
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:48:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This guy has never been friends with a nice person.
Toxicity isn't the only behavior that's genuine. There are actually decent people that can feel good about themselves without tearing other people down.
[deleted] ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 04:24:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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SatNav ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:59:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Becoming ostracized from a toxic person isn't so terrible though.
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SatNav ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:19:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeh, that is a tough situation, especially when the toxic person holds some sway over your career :/
Did you at least have a chance to respond to the "criticism"?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:25:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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SatNav ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:51:17 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think that's a pretty damn good response tbh. It's about as close as you can get to the truth, while remaining professional and not giving your mentor anything to hold against you. I doubt I could do better.
I get your point. I will say though that I used to be super negative about a lot of things and gossip was really fun (albeit never constructive). It wasnโt until I started to hear my husband say the opposite that I realized I didnโt like it. Iโm still negative from time to time but he always offsets me and I realize I donโt like being negative nearly as much when itโs put in perspective.
Iโll give an example: we were riding in the car and this guy drives up next to us in this tiny little convertible and looked kind of silly to me. I voiced my opinion by saying โwow, what a gay ass carโ and my husband responded with โit looks like heโs having funโ and I realized... why did I say that? The guy does look like heโs having a lot of fun and my opinion doesnโt and didnโt matter to him anyway so why did I feel the need to say it?
My point is not just talking good about people all the time even though thatโs what I addressed in my first response. But talking good about everything, or at least as much as you can. Iโm just saying being more positive and having a better outlook can only make you feel better. Toxicity will almost guarantee you feeling worse. So thereโs that.
Edit: thank you for the platinum kind stranger! My first award ever!
There's a huge difference between butt kissing and being realistic. You talk like someone walks on water then you're going to be disregarded, but you make a fair positive comment with reasoning and most people will take it at face value.
Fair point. I think you also have to mean what you say. Obviously don't hand out compliments if it's not realistic. But delivering the thought with authenticity helps avoid the butt-kissing vibe.
People are generally pretty damn good at recognizing authenticity imo, they may not be 100% sure about your intent initially but that fades if your intent really isn't to butt kiss.
In your response below it seems you imagine an entire community all with a poisonous attitude to positivity, seems unrealistic.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:59:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It builds a better work environment. Having people say good things behind their back makes them feel good if they hear about it.
MasterEk ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 03:44:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Along with all the other stuff, people pass on what you say, one way or another. They find out what you've said about them.
Also: you often have no idea how other people feel about each other. If you goodmouth a colleague, there is a reasonable chance that the colleague you are talking to likes that colleague.
I told this story once [of praising a stranger] in public and a man asked me afterwards "'What did you want to get out of him?"
What was I trying to get out of him!!! What was I trying to get out of him!!!
If we are so contemptibly selfish that we can't radiate a little happiness and pass on a bit of honest appreciation without trying to get something out of the other person in return - if our souls are no bigger than sour crab apples, we shall meet with the failure we so richly deserve. Oh yes, I did want something out of that chap. I wanted something priceless. And I got it. I got the feeling that I had done something for him without his being able to do anything whatever in return for me. That is a feeling that flows and sings in your memory lung after the incident is past.
Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Chapter 6.
Boboar ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:43:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man, I gotta read that book again. I read it like twenty years ago and I still draw on some things from it. A reread can only do me good.
The children misbehaving on the bus still sticks with me. You never know what is going on in a person's life to make them act like they do. Give them the benefit of the doubt.
meno123 ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 03:46:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That book sounds so desperate and cringy, but has a lot of really solid advice. I think I only read the first half, but the book started getting me to catalogue one thing from every conversation I had with someone so I could follow up on it the next time I talked.
Turns out people like it when they think you're invested in them (hint: by doing this, you technically are invested in them).
Every time I hear about this book, it all seems like common sense (ie be nice, don't be a dick) but everyone raves about it. I wonder if I'm missing out.
meno123 ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 03:52:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Almost all of it is pretty basic when you really think about it, but it helps you become more cognizant of how you're interacting with other people. At that point, it's consciously forcing yourself to do them until they become habitual.
I thought it was all stuff Iโd heard before and a lot of it was but the way the author communicates it is what is special about the book. He says the obvious in very poetic and non-preachy ways. And then you add to the fact that he wrote the book in like the 30s or 40s where he wasnโt worried about his social media influence or when being a dick was generally more acceptable, it really makes you like the guy
It was written in the like 1920s or something. I don't think it sounds cringy. I just imagine a guy from the 20s, enthusiastic about what he's talking about, talking to a crowd. In that way it seems to sound perfectly reasonable. I hadnt thought about it as a one on one conversation, which, for that, the books tone may come off as overly enthusiastic, or desperate like you said.
I think was very worthwhile. I've read it a good few times, and I've bought copies for my friends.
meno123 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:03:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually didn't know it was that old. The idea of reading a book to learn how to make friends definitely still sounds cringey to me, but good advice is still good advice.
Sure. The title, in our more modern use of English, doesn't sound quite right. "how to influence people" sounds almost sociopathic, like I'm trying to get people to follow me down a path they would prefer not to. Well, to me that's what it sounded like.
But the other commenter was right, it's about winning people over.
To lots of people, some of the advice may be something they already do, possibly without being aware of it.
But to a great many people, theres a habit you have, with good intentions, that makes people dislike you. For example I was very quick to disagree with people, I still do it now, as I am with you, you say something I don't agree with and I love to get in an tell you so. But I was rude, I was intolerable. I was right, but I never won anyone to my own way of thinking by talking to them in that way. I didn't think twice, I was right and I knew it. It didn't matter how I told you, what I told you was more important.
Reading the book with a sceptical mind is a good idea, but you have to want to to deal well with people to want to read the whole thing.
My wife, bless her, was having trouble at work with some coworkers. She told me about the issue, and like any man I didn't listen to her without trying to solve the problem. I told her to read the book. She was making classic mistakes everyone makes. She didn't read it more than a chapter or so. She didn't want to get better at talking to this person, she wanted this person to do things her way. She put all the responsibility on the other person to realise their mistakes.
It's a challenge, to win over unfriendly, unhappy people, but I love it. Which is probably why I've read this book as many times as I have. I like to make people feel happy, and I don't do it enough, but I'm not good at planning and telling people what we're going to do. My wife likes things to get done, and doesn't care too much about how it makes you feel. We're a pair like that, either side of a sensible middle ground. She should read my book, and I should take a page out of hers.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:31:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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meno123 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:45:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would argue that the advice given in the book is absolutely good at learning how to make friends. Anything you can do to make an existing friendship better you can also do to make a new friendship.
Long term it can. If it makes your circle of friends into better people, and their friends into better people ad infinitum, at least some of those better people will turn their newly good hands towards ending world hunger, and one of them might just hit on the solution.
See the part where it says to be sensitive when dealing with others. Reading isn't your strong suit is it
Goullet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:08:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And since when. Has not shoving sunshine up someone's ass been an insensitive thing to do? Like goodbye and leave me out of it. Jesus you don't know how to appreciate people.
That seems like quite an assumption.Not saying i agree with them overall (i think it can be healthy to push yourself to see the good in people) but surely there's a big difference between not feeling like complimenting someone unless you feel they deserve it and being actively rude?
The entire point of this to my knowledge was trying to find the good in any person. I think it is a tactful act to do so. That's really the crux of my position
Perhaps i'm wrong but however healthy that practice may be i wouldn't view it as tact,to me they are very separate things.Have met plenty of people who were tactful without being friendly/positive and visa versa i know people with very little tact,who just blurt stuff out as it comes into their heads but are actually lovely.Tact (at least to me) really just implies awareness of when something is appropriate,whereas weather it is a compliment or a constructive criticism is different.
Goullet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:03:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They don't care, they just want to have what they think is the popular viewpoint. Youre correct though, tact is knowing how to avoid or how to approach things. This guy might be 12.
This word came to English directly from French (a Latin-based language), where it can also mean simply "sense of touch". Dealing with difficult situations involving other people can require the kind of extreme sensitivity that our fingertips possess. As Lincoln once said, "Tact is the ability to describe others as they see themselves", which doesn't usually come naturally. Someone tactful can soothe the feelings of the most difficult people; a tactless person will generally make a bad situation worse.
You both know how to use language better than Lincoln I guess. Idiots.
Goullet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:17:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That has absolutely nothing to do with what were talking about. So the only idiot here is the one spouting off shit they think makes them smarter. And dont whore out someone like Lincoln just to talk down to others. Have fun being such a cool dude.
This word came to English directly from French (a Latin-based language), where it can also mean simply "sense of touch". Dealing with difficult situations involving other people can require the kind of extreme sensitivity that our fingertips possess. As Lincoln once said, "Tact is the ability to describe others as they see themselves", which doesn't usually come naturally. Someone tactful can soothe the feelings of the most difficult people; a tactless person will generally make a bad situation worse.
Goullet ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 14:01:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fancy words that you have no idea how to use don't make you sound smart kiddo. They certainly don't make you anywhere close to right either. Have fun in make believe land
I think you need something better than lemming there to make it work but I like the concept.
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:38:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People love to talk about other people in their social circle/workplace/etc and most of the time itโs something negative (omg did u hear what so and so did/said the other day? What a prick/bitch/asshole) but if you go out of the way to talk positively you are just seen as a good human being that people wish they could be.
People will feel bad about talking about you negatively, people will be much more receptive to you in person, and most of all youโll just feel your own sense of being elevate. Itโs cliche but you receive the energy you put out and if you make a point to see the good stuff, youโll start to get it back.
The compliment can feel more genuine if you overhear someone saying it rather than someone saying it to your face.
Plus itโs a great way to make people feel nice, and if it doesnโt end up getting back to them, the people listening to the compliment will end up having a more positive day!
1) The compliment has a good chance to get back to them and can make them feel good about themselves to hear it. A compliment feels so much more genuine when it wasn't intended for you to hear it because the giver of said compliment isn't seen as trying to butter you up. As an example overhearing someone say "Hey did you see X's new tattoo? It looks awesome!" Is way more meaningful than "Thats a cool new tattoo you have" because you know that they actually mean it and aren't just being nice.
2) It creates positivity in the workplace which is better for everyone and makes going to work less of a drag. It isn't fun to be around negative people all the time.
3) In the more cynical sense in the off chance someone talks shit about you behind your back if you are civil and only say nice things it can be pretty clear who the real asshole is. Obviously don't let people walk all over you or claim credit for your work but keep it civil and keep it factual and you will be seen as the reasonable one in a dispute.
atle95 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:42:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The words you say about people may eventually be the words they say about themselves. If you give honest, clear insight into what you like about them, they are more likely to continue doing those things.
I can clearly see good coming from this. The question wasn't asked because I'm ignorant. The question was asked to provoke people to respond differently because I can't see every way a thing is good
Thus "specifically" was thrown in
Dan4t ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:20:36 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because often times word eventually comes back to them that you said good things about, which is a bigger and more useful compliment. People often say nice things to people's face that are exaggerated or just lies, but if someone compliments you behind your back, it is perceived to be more true.
uwl ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 05:26:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Compliment people behind their backs
I've overhead people talking about me, completely unaware that I was on the other side of the wall or behind them... And I gotta say that shit hits you in the feels when you hear how proud the person is to be your friend.
Limmy92 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 06:33:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Nice ass." That sorta thing?
Ryachaz ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:01:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is more important than people realize in the workplace. You never know who will talk to who about what you said, and complimenting really helps you stay out of workplace drama. I am actually betting on a promotion because the shit talking has been getting so bad at work, someone is going to go soon.
bunnyrut ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:57:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i try to do this often.
"omg look at her shoes. they look so cute."
"i love that dress. it looks really good."
"i'm so glad coworker is here, it really makes my day better knowing i have someone here to really help."
i do this too. people love to think you're complimenting their baby, hair etc when you think they can't hear them. sometimes i do is as a cover up though... like elbowing my friend and gesturing at someone who notices. then i pretend i don't notice them noticing and say something like, "isn't that bag great?"
Oh my god. This all day. I actually make it a point to talk up coworkers to other colleagues if the first coworker is having a rough day. Always where they can hear it. And (this is key) I NEVER acknowledge what I did. If they believe it was just you talking about them positively when they donโt think you notice them, it can really boost their morale.
I'm at a festival the other day and I had a buddy that couldn't make it he'd been there the last few years with us so some of the people that I was with were talking s*** like he couldn't afford it and I jump right in and reminded them when he came last year he didn't have a job or his own place or his own car he has all of that this year motherfukers hustling and has his responsibilities straight and then I pointed out how these m************ didn't even have a job and somehow we're at a festival got to go home and try to figure out how to pay the bills lol some people want to hate for no reason I hope people talk good about me behind my back
[deleted] ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:38:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. And i think my friends are the same way...we just donโt say shit behind each otherโs back. And if someone really fucks up like โjay got a duiโ...itโs โman, heโs been goin a little hard lately, ended up gettin a dui, hope heโs doin wellโ...itโs never like โyah that dude got a dui hahahโ it makes it so much easier to open up to your friends, knowing that if they talk about what you said...itโs because theyโre concerned and are tryin to see if they can help, not talk shit
I've been doing this at work once in awhile and I realized the people I complemented behind their back would approach me more and attempt to be friends.
Lmao I do that all the time. That's the only reason I can confidently talk shit about people to their faces because behind their back they know I'm praising them lol.
I've done this, and it's fuckin HILARIOUS! It's super common for people to say disrespectful things within earshot of their target. So people just expect it. They'll hear you talk in a low voice, react like you insulted them, think about what you said, then feel dumb, then really happy. It's really entertaining watching the wave of different emotions.
If you and Jenny happen to be talking and the topic of Max comes up when Max isn't around, say good things about Max. This has two positive effects- first off, Jenny will probably be friendlier and more trusting of you because she'll assume you're also saying good things about her behind her back- and when the things you've said about Max make their way back to him (as secret gossip always does) he'll probably be flattered instead of offended.
People are more willing to trust someone who is not two-faced and who they know genuinely likes them instead of being "fake nice." This makes you a more befriendable person, thus eventually making you the kind of person people want to be friends with- leading to you having more friends.
So, if I'm sticking to this advice not because I think Max deserves praise but because I want the benefits you talk about, does that make me a "fake nice"? Assuming my praises of Max sound real enough and not just like ass kissing.
Honestly, "fake nice" is indistinguishable from "real nice" as long as you don't drop it and start being mean. Being a nice person is about choosing things that make other people feel good so by making that choice, you ARE nice. It might not feel right to you (that's why it feels fake) but once you get used to it you do it out of habit and then you are being nice and it feels authentic to yourself too. During the transition stage it might seem fake to other people too (because they're used to you choosing the less-nice options) but once it becomes your normal behaviour it will only seem fake to people who just can't accept niceness.
Not really. More like it's not fake if you're actually being nice. No one has NO positives, you just focus on the positives.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:22:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the same way that talking shit behind someoneโs back, not because you think negatively of them at all, but because you want the benefits of talking shit about them (making them look worse and therefore you look better etc.) would make you โfake meanโ
Complimenting another person's achievements or personality is generally a good way to go. "Man, Sarah is such a great friend, she offered to help me cook the other day," or "Sarah is an amazing person, I can trust her with my deepest feelings."
"Man, Sarah is such a great friend, she offered to help me cook the other day," or "Sarah is an amazing person, I can trust her with my deepest feelings."
Maybe Im the wierd one but if someone kept complimenting someone else to me behind their back eventually it would be very off putting.
This is why male bonding works, we compliment people behind their backs but call them names to their face, it might be an Aussie thing but it's why is guys never have drama and why the girls do
mugbee0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:24:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tell my friend all the time about how we talk about him behind his back, but itโs always like โremember when X said _? That was hilariousโ Iโm almost jealous because most of my work friends have nothing bad to say about him.
idk why but when a compliment is said to my face it has no meaning to me but. on the other hand if i here a compliment being said to someone else about me it brightens my day
Ha, I've always done this! When I'm in a group of people and one person leaves, I wait a few beats and then quietly say something really nice about them to the others.
The cool part is that eventually, everyone around you starts doing it, too. At least when you're there.
Works amazing. I do it often. I also like to send emails to companies when their employees are nice or helpful. โEmily helped me at your store today, she is really an employee you should value! She was so helpful and kindโ. Itโs fun to spread joy and i like to think it helps people have a nicer day!
Dire87 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:41:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How "does" it work? I've never had anyone come up and tell me so and so has said something nice about me...mean things on the other hand...unless girl groups do that...but then they might get jelly...oh boy. I'd rather just make a compliment to the person I'm complimenting. Seems easier.
EdVolpe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:50:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh I thought you meant saying people had nice backs and I was slightly confused.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:32:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People just think Iโm into them if I do this
Javop ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:20:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It works! I was complimenting everyone on their talks without them being in the room and in the end my talk scored the highest because everyone liked how nice I was too everyone else. Won hand selected wines and a self written book from my professor.
Yes. Also works well for your self image. From the perspective of someone else, it is a true measure of character and integrity. It is in fact a leadership trait.
To up the game. Try complimenting people other people know you had a rough time with, argued with or dont like. That one is a killer.
Neugda3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:54:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. Went to see my nan in the hospital the other day, when leaving another lady on the ward said to her daughter how my outfit (cutesy/lolita style) was gorgeous and it really warmed my heart to hear. When people come up to me to compliment my outfit i just feel really awkward, but its lovely to overhear them say it to their friend instead.
Okay not exactly related but Iโve also heard donโt talk poorly about people (behind their back or otherwise). 2 questions: 1 what about people like who literally donโt do their job and everyone knows it? They just donโt do anything but they canโt get fired because they always show up. 2 what about when people are venting to you about them? Do you just mmhmm? Or that must have sucked but overall theyโre pretty chill
Sarsmi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:21:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pass along compliments as well. I was with a friend who said she thought another friend has the perfect figure for clothes/fashion, and when I relayed it later to the second friend she was over the moon.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:37:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I look at strangers and wish them happiness. Same thing I suppose.
KPokey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:44:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read this as "compliment people on their back" and I was like, yeah it's nice when people say I have a nice strong back.
I met my best friends buissiness partner for the first time when he wasn't with my friend and he started telling me about how much my buddy respects me and tells everyone how great of a guy I am man that felt fucking great.
Dan4t ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:17:31 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ya, because it often gets around back to them, and it makes them much happier to learn that you say good things about them to others. Plus, it benefits them more, because you're basically influencing others to like them more.
Make sure you speak just loud enough where it doesn't sound like you want them to hear, but they hear anyway. Or maybe leave a text conversation displayed talking good about a specific person. It's a win-win
RexDraco ยท 165 points ยท Posted at 02:59:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if you can't do a single push up?
Jag94 ยท 324 points ยท Posted at 03:30:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Attempt one pushup.
If you fail, start over.
Repeat 10 times.
Tomorrow, do it again.
By the emd of the week, youโll be able to do one push up.
Do that every week.
In a month youโll be able to do 4.
At the end of the year youโll be able to do 48.
First step is to try. You will fail. I promise you that. But when you succeed after multiple failures, your brain will be wired to handle adversity just a little bit differently.
If youโre lucky, you just might start to understand how someone can be really good at the thing they do really well.
zaffle ยท 90 points ยท Posted at 06:47:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can tell ya now, within a year youโll be able to do way more than 48. Itโs not linear. I couldnโt do one and three times a week within 3 months I could do 50 easily.
Yeah, I started out like that till I started injuring myself from my 50 pushups. Looked up online how to do them correctly and went back down to 20. The handicap is real with them and I learned your not doing yourself any favors by cheating them for that "50" count. 48 is considered excellent for 20-29 year olds. I know I wasnt anywhere close to being an athlete at the time. It was obvious I was doing something wrong. 0 to 50 in three months? I was kidding myself.
TiTaak ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 09:09:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Proper form is extremely important and I see a ton of people that give up form to increase load.
If you're working your arms, there's no point in increasing the weight if your back ends up doing the work.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:06:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. Also wouldnโt it be better to just do knee pushups if you canโt do standard pushups anyway? Itโd allow you to increase time under tension and actually focus on form, especially if you canโt already do a single pushup.
TiTaak ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:45:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly, I replied on a thread not so long ago about exactly this, it's perfectly fine to do knee pushups and you shouldn't feel ashamed for doing so.
Zicopo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:51:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs really quick, I dotbmenan to be rude but youโre likely cheating yourself such reps in such a short period of time. Your chest has to touch the floor when you hold a plank position and typically it should be done 2/2sec
zaffle ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 10:35:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmm. Youโre flat out saying Iโm likely doing it wrong. Next time try removing the accusations of cheating and, if you must, simply inform me that Iโm doing push-ups wrong.
No problem. Informative to me. Words have a tone, implicit context can be a bitch. I'd probably throw cheat around myself without realizing someone could take it negatively.
Because progressing that quickly is unheard of. Itโs like saying someone got their bench scores up 100 pounds within 3 weeks or something. From not even being a single push-up to 50 in a week isnโt something commonly done, probability dictates you likely are doing it wrong. You technically arenโt even supposed to progress the push-up that quickly either, itโs not that kind of exercise unless youโre heavily compensating. Of course if you want then post a form check.
zaffle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:01:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, I see the misunderstanding. I said I worked out 3 times a week for 3 months. At the end of 3 months I could do 50.
Thatโs still unheard of though, I work with a personal trainer/physical therapist and literally nobody has gotten up that quickly. Weโve some people who within 3 months said they got to 30-40 but after making them actually go down all the way and use proper eccentric/concentric contractions go down to >25 unless they were previously athletic
zaffle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:08:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There was a "100 push-up challenge" floating around about a decade ago that I attempted. After about 10 weeks I could do close to 100 without breaks. Unfortunately an old elbow injury came back and I never made it to 100.
It's all in the technique if you want to get to 100.
Can confirm that this works. I was in okay shape due to a background in gymnastics, so I started with pullups rather than pushups, but the principle is the same. At the start I struggled with 3x3 (3 sets of 3) , but ended up with 10x3 within a few months (Don't worry if you can't do pull ups at the start, I had a solid foundation in gymnastics, even if it had been a few years. Find your starting position and work from there). I ended up stalling due to poor nutrition, but if you eat right you'll keep progressing. Seriously, don't stop eating if you want to get in shape, just do your best to cut down on unnecessary sugar. (That said, a bit of chocolate on the weekend wont kill you as long as you're good during the week. Don't starve yourself!)
A lot of us try to go from 0 to 100 all at once. Cutting out all the 'unhealthy' stuff at once only to crash and burn later on. The truth is it's all about averages. If you can maintain a good caloric deficit during the week you can get a way with a hamburger during the weekend and still loose a bit of weight.
On the other hand, if your goal is to bulk up, make sure you eat enough to allow yourself to grow. Yes, your body fat % will increase as you bulk up, that's unavoidable and can be remedied later if you so choose. but without a caloric surplus you wont build any muscle.
Running yourself into the ground wont help anyone, take your time and set realistic goals. You'll be surprised at what you can achieve. (Take it from someone who accidental caused all his friends/family to worry, increasing your workouts without adding to your caloric intake will slim you down way too fast and alarm your friends/family at an astonishing rate. (Sorry Mom!)
Finally: Something is going to mess up your exorcise plan. For me it's a medical condition, but for you it might be something else. Don't worry about it. If something gets in the way of your exorcise for a day/week/month/year, just dial it back a bit and keep going and gradually scale it up. Life isn't perfect, the important thing is that you don't give up. Good luck! :)
Sound advice. I tried this with a friend and she just did not believe me. I then told her that she was willfully choosing to not be able to do a push up and we kind of had a fight. I haven't seen her since then. It would be rough to have lost a friend over this.
That's actually exactly how it works; through attempting it again and again you're forcing your body to realise that it needs to grow a little in the strength department and thus you gain some strength over time which will then allow you to do the pushups.
Now thats a really basic explanation of how hypertrophy (muscle growth) can occur and i know its a bit of a clichรฉ but if you keep trying very soon you will be able to do pushups from not being able to do one at all.
pua6384 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:24:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You need to actually do it with full range of motion with lower resistance first, then build up to it. If someone lacks muscles to do a push-up, they need to start small with resistance they can handle, then gradually increase the tension while keeping full ROM.
We actually do agree here - of course itll be much harder to do a push up if they continually keep trying a full push up, what I was thinking of was starting with push ups on the knees, focusing on creating a slow, concentric motion downwards which helps activate hypertrophy as well as getting used to the act of pushing themselves up off the ground. This is where the resistance comes from while the progressive overload (increasing the stress/tension on the muscles) comes from adding more reps and transitioning from push ups on the knees to full push ups.
Not true at all about the full range of motion. Here's an example. Take an untrained person, give them a weight that will allow them to do bicep curls only half of the way. Eventually they will be able to do the full range of motion. Sure you're not incorporating every single muscle fiber by not doing the full range but you are incorporating fibers, and those fibers don't need every single other fiber in the muscle to be exerting itself before it will grow.
pua6384 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:48:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Obviously full ROM is ideal, 1/2 ROM is not as ideal.
If you give someone a 500 lb dumbbell and tell them to curl it everyday for a week, theyโll get nowhere. This is essentially what happens when you tell someone to do push-ups everyday when they canโt at all.
Well yeah when you take an example that hyperbolic. But isometrics can and will work for someone who can't even do a pushup just fighting against that one single rep over time. How fat they are is going to play a big role in how fast it would happen. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15075307
The eccentric motion of an exercise should typically be done slower than the concentric. Releasing slowly is how you create myofascial tears and stimulate eutrophy/hypertrophy.
Iโm curious how lowering yourself down slowly will help to build the muscles that eventually allow you to be able to push yourself up in proper form. Because one movement is actively pushing up (exerting force) and the other is just resisting gravity.
Are the muscles being โtorn upโ the same muscles that are activated in the push up? I heard this is the same for pull ups as well.
Well I am not using the terms entirely correctly, but basically on the movement where you are exerting effort you can do it quickly, but you want to pause and do the motion where you then let the weight down slowly. So on a push up you would push yourself up as quickly as you would like (not like exaggeratedly, don't jump off the floor), and then slowly lower your body back down on the reverse motion. If you put your hands far apart, slightly outside shoulder width, your pecs will do most of the work. If you put your hands close together in front of your chest, your triceps do a lot of the work. Your core does a bit of work to stabilize your body and keep it straight if you are using proper form too.
A good rule of thumb I have heard is that it should take about twice as long to lower/release the weight as it does to raise it. Exceptions to this are things like deadlifts when you're going for your max.
Because a clogged nose is usually from swelling of blood vessels, not boogers. The pushups draw the blood to your arms/core muscles, reducing the swelling in the sinuses, allowing air to pass through again.
Serisu ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:57:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly though. Do some. I started really trying about a year and a half ago. Couldn't really do 3 without struggling. Now I can belt out multiple sets of fifty throughout the day. My chest is tighter and more pronounced too. Seriously, start with five in the morning and five at night. Try it. You'll surprise yourself:)
Gotbn ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:00:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You could also just plug your nose a exhale all of your breath. The whole idea is that your brain/body opens its airway the most it possible can because youโre โsuffocating.โ Doing push-ups has the same result, because your body is trying to get in more oxygen.
If you want your nose to not clog ever again do 100 PUSH-UPS, 100 SIT-UPS, 100 SQUATS, 10 KM RUNNING! EVERY SINGLE DAY for three years then punch yourself in the face once.
Iโve heard whispers that of a man in Norway who can also clear you up for life. The rumour goes that he possess a certain set of skills learned through years and years of mastering the โI got your noseโ game.
Rishnixx ยท 59 points ยท Posted at 01:58:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm really tempted to call bull on this one, but there's not really anything at stake, so I'll give it a shot next time it happens. Worst thing that happens is you got me to do some extra pushups which is never a bad thing.
Well essentially it's adrenaline and noradrenalin (or epinephrine and norepinephrine) that does the trick. It doesn't last long, so if you stop working out it ends fairly quickly.
If you've ever worked out with a cold you'll notice it there too, any physical activity helps clear your nose up (tho you shouldn't really be working out if your sick as it'll weaken your immune system)
Yep! I canโt tell you how many times Iโve woken up in the middle of the night unable to breathe, only to start doing jumping jacks, or air squats, or something to get the heart pumping ... it feels like bliss when the airways open up for a short time
I believe this. Actually after i get high sometimes i get allergies and a stuffy nose before bed. Then when i get up and walk up stairs to get water it clears up when i get a lil blood moving i guess. Then i lay down and its back.
So the effect is, that excess blood in the nasal mucosa causes the swelling. Ever Kind of blood redistribution or vagal Stimulation Works. Exercise, masturbation, taking a dump...
But of you wake up from a clogged nose standing up really quickly should to the trick Long enough to Fall asleep again.
If mental strength is more your suitor than letting out all your breath and holding it until you cannot stand it should also help remediate it. I believe this is like Chinese homeopathic technique.
True, specifically any movement at all will solve the issue. At least temporarily.
Noticed it myself when my several hour clogged nose immediately got freed up when I got up to get something. And then clogged back up right soon when I got back and sat down again.
Nyaschi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:40:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lel, you got that as a advice?
I figured it out myself in the time i did a few push ups per day
Btw. the explanation why this does work is blood pressure
Pufley ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:40:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This advice would have been helpful like 1 day ago...
awawe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:42:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, it's still useless because pushups are impossible.
Gotta start pacing the room and grab a glass of water. Take a mouthful and take little sips of the water in your mouth, alternating with breathing. So it goes like this: little sip - breath in - little sip - breathe out - repeat.
You obviously (try to) breathe through your nose and that together with the swallowing will sort of massage your sinuses open, in my experience. It always works for me extremely fast and efficiently.
SL__ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:45:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know what clears your nose just as well? Arousal caused by sexual stimulation.
Serpian ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:03:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm. My nose easily clogs up no matter if I have a cold or not, if it's allergy season or not. Often it's not even clogged with snot and boogers, it's just the mucous membranes that seem to swell shut for no reason. Usually one nostril at a time.
I got hooked on a nose clearing spray that you're only supposed to use for a week at a time. I used it every night for almost a year, because my stupid brain wouldn't let me fall asleep breathing through my mouth. I built up a tolerance to the spray so I had to stop using it, and pushups before bed were often enough to let me fall asleep.
Cleanining your house before leaving for more than 5 days. Nothing is better than coming to a clean house.
Jag94 ยท 5888 points ยท Posted at 03:04:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I travel a lot for work and can sometimes be gone for two to three weeks at a time. There is nothing worse than finally coming home and remembering how bad you left the place. I learned this real quick and make a point to clean up before i leave.
dweicl ยท 186 points ยท Posted at 05:17:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I forgot chicken on the counter one time and left on a 2 week vacation. I have ptsd and clean everything now. Even weekend trips. I pray no one ever comes to that smell.
[deleted] ยท 55 points ยท Posted at 06:51:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Good Lord you made me remember the burrito maggot incident. About 100 maggots fell on to the carpet after I dropped the four day old carne asada burrito on the floor, I had no vacuum cleaner. Had to pick em up one by one with toilet paper. They kept crawling out of the trash and back on to the floor. I sprayed an entire god damn can of raid in the bag and on the maggots and sprayed one individual maggot for 5 seconds at close range. not a single one was affected in the slightest. I had to resort to squishing each maggot with the small amount of tp I could spare in order to kill them and prevent them from crawling out of the trash bag. Threw up a lot that day, I've been a much cleaner person since then, and I immediately throw up at the sight of maggots.
I'm always forgetting to put my trash bags on the curb on rubbish day. So often I've forgotten and had to leave them on my deck for next week and had hundreds of maggots crawling along my deck and into my house under the door.
I donโt get maggots (and Iโll never google for fear of seeing images) - where do they come from? How do they sense something rotting? How do they know where to go? Itโs amazing in a terrifying way and I donโt know if I want to know. But I need to know.
flies lay eggs. Maggots are the larval stage. then they turn into a lil brown pupa that looks like a fat dark grain of rice. then a housefly emerges from that.
Do they lay their eggs on rotting stuff specifically, or anywhere and they just prefer purification? And does this mean if I ever get maggots and let them be, theyโll turn into flies? Sorry, still not gonna google.
The larva, maggots, eating the rotting materials. It's their food source.
And yes if the maggots have enough food to consume and are left alive and don't die from say heat or something they'll eventually pupate and then emerge as flies lol.
That's typically why they're in dark moist places with rotting materials. They're decomposers and needed for the world to function, but you can murk em in your house lol. Don't need em there if you clean
thats also one of those moments where if you live alone it finally hits you that you HAVE to do these gross things and clean up or else no one would and maggots would be all around the house
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:39:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep haha. The thought of just moving out and living in my car briefly crossed my mind as I realized I would have to individually pick up and squish 100+ maggots.
Must have been brutal, you came out a different man.
Last week I was cleaning my bathroom sink because it was kind of clogged, I opened the bottom part of the tubes and unbeknownst to me it disconnected. Like a fool I turned on the water to clean the gunk inside. I don't know why I didn't expect it but water sprayed all the disgusting clogged drain gunk in liquid form all over my little "closet" under the sink, getting all my towels, bags with bathroom supplies, rugs, nail cutters, etc dirty in the process.
It took me about one hour to fully clean everything, these experiences are grim reminders for sure lol
Hopefully we've paid our dues and done enough disgusting cleanup for the rest of our lives?
pquince ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:32:22 on May 15, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That would legit give me PTSD. You poor thing.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:33:07 on May 15, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not quite at the level of PTSD, but good Lord I can't handle the sight of maggots.
vSTekk ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 07:53:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, chicken risotto left on the cooker for two weeks. Covered by glass lid and with window right behind it.
Completely forgot about it, so when I came back I was pleasantly surprised someone remembered and cooked sth for me. Up goes the lid to smell what they cooked. I imediately violently vomited into the sink. That shit was totally rancid.
Someone once told me that the state of your home is a reflection of your headspace. I thought that was dumb. I started to really keep on top of things, and noticed my headspace was a lot clearer, and at peace.
AnbuAntt ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 06:46:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I relate to this 100% . I thought it was just me. I know Iโm off when my room gets messy. Thanks.
I'm currently pregnant and had a pretty rough first trimester and couldn't do much. Our kitchen got really cluttered and it was at the point where I was too ill and overwhelmed to tackle it. My husband did his best to keep on top of it but he works full time and was doing all the other chores so it never really got back to normal. My mum came over to visit for a weekend and I ended up basically having a breakdown about the kitchen because it was stressing me out so badly. Bless her she rolled up her sleeves and deep cleaned the whole room (I helped where I could) and it was like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders. The stress melted away and I was so happy to have it clean and organised. It can definitely make a huge difference to your mind!
Thank you for posting this. My headspace isnโt amazing and my bedroom/bathroom have really reflected that. I spent an hour cleaning when I got home instead of plonking myself down on the couch. Bathroom, bedroom are now clean, clothes are away or the dirties are ready to wash. Gonna try think back on this post every time I start sliding โค๏ธ
Jag94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:24:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is so true. The difference it makes is remarkable.
Stop reminding me, we have been in Japan for a month and my wifes staying here for another 2 months. It was such a rush for us to leave in time that the house is a tip and now you all have me dreading the 20 hours of flights to come home to a mess >.<
It really bring home (heh) the idea that you've returned to your haven or sanctuary. And you know that when you arrive, things are already taken care of the way you like it, so you can really just relax and unwind without needing to stay on and keep getting stuff done.
Last fall, I went on a week-long trip while my roommate was still around. The place wasn't completely spotless when I left, but I did a bit of cleaning and made sure it wasn't too bad. I came back a week later, getting in at 1am after a stop on the runway that was-- I shit thee not-- longer than the flight itself, and the place was fucking disgusting. I honestly sobbed.
Jag94 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:13:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is nothing worse than leaving your apartment for 3 months and returning to realise that you switched your fridge (and freezer) off by mistake before you left. And yes. There was food in it.
Jag94 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:09:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I play ice hockey 2-3 times a week, i am the drummer in 4 rock bands, and when im not traveling for work, im working on my house. So to answer your question... ... ... no, Iโm not, and its getting worse every month. Getting old sucks.
Whatโs your address and next trip? Asking for a friend.
Dire87 ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 07:44:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean after 3 weeks...there's gonna be dust everywhere anyway, whether you cleaned before or not...
Jag94 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:16:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean more along the lines of laundry done, folded and put away, dishes done and put away, sheets clean and bed made, house in generally good order, shower and toilet clean, etc. yes, dust will accumulate, but if thats the only thing you have to worry, your life is much easier.
NotKay ยท 83 points ยท Posted at 04:35:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
YES! Also, make sure theres a day or two between coming home and going back to work.
My husband and I take two vacations every year. One for 4ish days, the other for 2 weeks. I make sure the house is deep cleaned and all the laundry is done. It's incredible to come home and unpack, throw dirties in the wash and relax in a perfectly clean house for 2 days before going back to work.
This is seriously the way to do it. I see thing up this way as often as possible. I did the exact opposite of this today, woke up at 1:40am MDT to catch a 4am flight, get to home state with barely enough time to run home and shower and rush to work. It sucks and it was a rough day. I'm on reddit because I came home and crashed out immediately, only waking up at like 10am to eat. Looking forward to sleeping more
NotKay ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:25:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did this after our honeymoon. We also worked for a week before we left.
I moved most of my stuff in a few weeks before the wedding. Got married, worked for 4 days, left Friday on our honeymoon. Took two days to rest when we got back.
Having 4 normal days after running out of gas with the final wedding odds and ends was great. I can't imagine getting up early the next day to get on a plane, I would've been exhausted the whole trip
NotKay ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:26:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We waited two days after our wedding to start the trip. It was nice to relax after that chaos. Got to visit with some out of town family, open gifts and return what we didnt want for extra cash for the trip.
Also make sure to have an empty garbage can inside the house. Made the mistake of leaving garbage inside before leaving. Kitchen was smelly for a day but I could of avoided the smell
And set the roomba to vacuum the living room the day you return. Itโs freshly vacuumed from pet hair/dust. Having a freshly vacuumed floor is such a good feeling.
jeckles ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 05:08:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look at mister fancy pants here with the robot vacuum.
Sfork ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 05:22:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
$100 for a vac you use once a month or an automatic one that runs every day for $250
Oh man, I left banana out on the counter before leaving for two weeks. Apartment full of fruit flies.
BTW apple cider vinegar works to kill them. Put plastic wrap over the top of a bowl and poke holes in it. Fruit flies get trapped and drown in the vinegar.
Tangentially related: Clean up before going out for the night. If you're single and looking for company a clean house will always make a positive impression. Got unlucky? At least you wake up in a clean house and won't have to spend a hangover doing any chores at all.
My mom alway cleaned the house before we went on vacation. I never got it until I went to a festival and came home to a dirty bedroom. What an eye awakening thing.
My wife and I always do this before trips, on our most recent trip we had a really early flight (like 4am) and the week before had been crazy and we did not get a chance to clean. Coming home to the mess made us realized how much we value coming home to a clean place.
badanas ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:04:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn off your water supply too. My dad had his toilet crack while he was on vacation. He had a lovely water fountain down his stairs when he came home
XGPHero ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:24:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My buddy asked me to house/dog sit for him on short notice due to a family emergency. He didnt really have time to properly clean before he left. I picked him up from the airport a few hours ago and his house is like a nice hotel. I even turned down the bed for him. He is super stoked as he has been travelling for 18 hours today.
At least get rid of any perishable food in your refrigerator, then empty the trash. If something spoils in my fridge, subconsciously feel like everything is affect.
I always deep clean before a trip. Once I decided to surprise my kids with a trip to Disney World. I picked them up from school and was going to spring it on them as soon as we got home. My youngest walked into our house and said loudly, โIt smells like we are going on vacation! Where are we going?โ
Went on vacation with the wife, cleaned the whole house for this very reason. Came home to a shit covered house. The cat went crazy and literally shit everywhere. On the bed, on the kitchen table, on the counters etc.
Came home at 10pm after flying/layover for 24 hours. Exhausted and starving, we stayed up till 2am cleaning everything followed by work in the morning. God damn nightmare.
My parents were messy people and I subsequently grew up in a messy house. BUT, if we were going on any sort of trip away, my mother would clean like a madwoman. This has been drilled into my brain and now as an adult if I am going away even just for the weekend I clean my house top to bottom. Iโm generally a clean person anyway but more so when Iโm going away. I also have a lot of issues with clutter and mess in general due to my childhood.
Yes!! Weโre not massive clean freaks but just ensuring the trash/food waste is out, wiping down surfaces, pouring boiling water down all the sinks/toilets followed by a spray of bleach/cleaning fluid/disinfectant means the place smells fine when we get back after a week away.
xeladra ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:57:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This one is so true. I spend half my year in Australia and half in the UK. I cleaned my house in australia to perfection before I left. Felt so good to come back to a clean house. Unfortunately the Australian summer had been extremely hot where my house was so it smelt like death, but still, I couldnโt imagine how much worse it would of been if I hadnโt of cleaned it
Yeah my wife hates cleaning so our house is pretty regularly cluttered and just overall not clean. Not super messy but not clean. I always make her help me clean before a trip because coming home to a nice clean and non-cluttered house is so relaxing.
konq ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:23:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is honestly why I make my bed in the morning. It's always a better feeling getting into a made bed when going to sleep. Also builds good sleep hygiene
100% this. I am not a bed maker at all. Sorta thought I would become one magically when I became an adult but that didn't happen. Still, any time I go away on a trip I always tidy my room and make my bed. Nothing better to come home to (except maybe a dog).
I once had a dog sitter who got bored and cleaned my house while I was gone. Other than being horrified of what she may have found, it was like a damn dream walking into my house that was cleaner than I'd ever seen it. I told her this was a genius business plan and people would pay more if it were dogs+cleaning.
I'm much less stressed cleaning the house after coming back from a trip. Before the trip just makes everything more stressful. Plus, I have to unpack and dust settles so I pretty much have to clean the house when I come back either way. I don't leave it filthy, with dirty dishes, full trash, etc., but I think vacuuming that kind of thing can wait.
Also cleaning as you go. Instead of letting mess build up and putting it off, tidy up here and there. Itโs so much better living without piles of washing and dishes and other stuff just building up. A tidy living space does wonders for the head in my opinion.
My roommates did the same thing before they went on vacation this week, but their trick was living it has filthy as possible so that I would clean it while they are gone
nsqrd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:08:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless you get robbed lmao
JvN_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:09:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm leaving for a big trip soon... I was planning to clean today... but watching Friends for the millionth time seems like the better option right now.
Oooh god yes. I was raised in messy appartment and even messier house. I didn't want that in my home. Well, I am being messy, so I can't help it. But man, nothing is better than freshly cleaned home. Aaand comming back into freshly, sparkly, nice smelling home
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:02:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife makes fun of me because Iโm always cleaning before we leave, but it beats coming back to a mess.
This is something I discovered and it is so true. Clean your house and do all the laundry. I sometimes do a deep clean if it's a trip I'm excited about and can't sleep
armo511 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:16:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Egyptian people always do this.
This pissed me off when I was a kid, since I hated cleaning (I still do btw) I thought "Do you like cleaning it for any theft breaking in to think wow these folks are clean while we are away"
Don't leave dishes in the sink. Just rinse them off right away and put them in the dishwasher, or wash them right then. I notice that if I leave dishes in the sink, other clutter starts to pile up as well.
Reddit is such a fickle place. I posted this exact same thing as an LPT (and deleted it) and got downvoted and told off to no end. People saying to keep your house clean in the first place. Such assholes I swear. I LOVE this tip and swear by it. Now my adult kids do the same thing. Thereโs nothing like coming home to a sparkling clean home. Itโs more of an incentive to deal with all the dirty clothes immediately and put things away. You feel more organized heading back into normal work/home schedule.
My mom always did this for our family vacations. Just logistically it makes great sense. You strain yourself cleaning up before you go relax for a week and when you get home you're free to catch up on laundry and get back into the groove of daily life without any added chores (exception for lawns).
I forgot to take the bin out before a weekend retreat, came back to fruit flies, fruit flies every where!
Ciellon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:08:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is why you should always make your bed in the morning when you wake up.
It's your first success and accomplishment of the day and, even if your day is shit and you get nothing else done, you can always come home and be satisfied that your bed is made and crisp and clean.
US Navy ADM McRaven, commander of the US Navy SEALs for a number of years, made a highly motivational speech at his alumni university and suggested this. It instills a sense of confidence and changes your perspective on the day. I highly recommend it.
Along the same line: when moving the first thing you should set up is your bed with all the sheets, covers and pillows. My mom told me this when I moved away for school and I have done it every time since. Moving is tiring, frustrating work and there is NOTHING better than flopping into your own bed with your own sheets, pillows and blankets.
Cleaning at night after a house party before you go to sleep is my clutch move. I don't mind the cleaning as I'm usually buzzed/drunk and not waking up to a mess or empties when I'm not feeling 100% the next day is so satisfying.
I tend to tear apart my house looking for that one thing I forgot to pack 5 minutes before I have to leave.
B191 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:29:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me and my SO do this everytime when we travel for more than 2-3 days. Its the best feeling when you get back from a long trip or vacation and your home is clean and tidy and you can just relax.
I always clean if my roommates leave for more than a day so they come back to a clean house. Wish they did the same...
Mckavity ยท 29553 points ยท Posted at 00:43:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fans on my old MacBook died. Saw a YouTube video that said to simply take your fist and bang on the part of the computer that housed the fans.
Thinking it was a troll, I gave it a shot out of pure frustration, and lo and behold, they purred back to life and I never had another issue with them for the rest of the time that I owned that computer.
Back when iPods were all the rage, mine got an error, I googled the error, and the "fix" was to drop it from about 6 inches. I did so thinking at worst my broken iPod will be more broken, but it started right up.
Same here. Forgot about that. Thought my ipad2 was finally officially done for after dropping it, otherwise I probably wouldnโt have tried it, and I gave it a solid knock on the back of it with my knuckles, and...fixed
Trakkah ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 07:36:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same thing with one of the old Macintoshes (I think it was the 3). Rumor has it Jobs himself was so pissed off that he just picked it up a few inches and dropped it. That was the fix
I used to have a Sony Ericsson play and there was a flexi ribbon wire that connected the base of the phone to the screen which could slide up to reveal a PlayStation controller. The flex strip would often come loose fucking the screen up and the drop 6 inches fix was a regular one for it. Did it about 3-4 times in the two years of owning it before it stopped working for good. Legit think it was just kinda bumping the wire back into place
skylarmt ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 08:10:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I worked in electronics repair when the ipad2 came out, it always made me feel like a wizard when I โrepairedโ one in front of the customer by smacking it. Percussive maintenance!
When you say smack do you mean like a slap to the back? And how firm should i smack it?
I dropped my ipad 2 in 2013 and the screen colors are messed might as well give it a try :(
I have an iPad 2, I'll be thanking you if this happens!
axen999 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:48:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had same issue with my MacBook and dropped it from 2feet to make it work.
Whulum ยท 78 points ยท Posted at 05:14:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here. The CD slot on my ps3 was not working so out of frustration and lack of ideas I smacked on the unit on the side and it must've realized my dominance from that as that little fucker worked as good as new again!
I bought a "new' (as in never opened old stock at Best Buy) 120 gb ipod video. I hate the touch screen crap. With a case I have I don't have to take it out of my pocket to do most things cause I can feel the wheel.
This reminded me of the same thing! The fix was to hold it upright and bang the bottom on something hard a couple times. Worked for a little while until my iPod gave out for good.
peanut88 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 09:43:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to work on the Genius bar in 2007. We'd get gen 3 and gen 4 iPods in that were apparently broken in all the time. You'd tell the customer you had to use a tool in the back room, go and hit the iPod hard against the sole of your shoe, and come out with a magically working device.
I assume the hard drive read heads were getting stuck somehow and a sharp impact knocked them loose.
Former apple genius too. Same story except weโd reboot it and just as the disk was trying and failing to spin, slam it on its side into the steel genius bench.
This was of course just for out of warranty repairs. Weโd do a swap if in warranty.
When my apple mouse gets a little wonky I just have to Fonzie that shit and smack it against the desk lightly. Works every time. I donโt know what it is about apple but their high tech is susceptible the most Neanderthal fixes sometimes.
D8-42 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 12:46:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I remember having to wrap my xbox in a towel and putting it in the oven to fix it.
It was out of warranty so I figured "why not", and then it actually worked.
Found out years later it was apparently because some units had bad soldering or something? and that a bit of heat could be enough to get it working again or something like that.
Definitely one of the weirdest tech fixes I've done.
Dropping fixed my old iPod. The reason that fixed it iirc was that the harddrive arm could get stuck in the wrong spot and you could hear a clicking sound. By using a bit of force it would be able to move properly again.
It was either the video or photo, but the classic still uses a mechanical hard drive. It may be that the drive is just too old, as mechanical hard drives will fail eventually. It is possible however to replace the hard drive with an SD card.
Theres many a ways to backup the ipod with non apple software. 3rd party programs. The best thing I've do e is upgrade a ipod mini to use CF cards. You can also upgrade a classic to use SD cards instead of the spindle disk for longer battery life and better capacity
I used to sell phones and tablets. We had an iPad come in with a messed up screen, all the colours were wrong. Told the customer I was taking it in the back to have a look. Debated with myself for a moment as it wasn't my tablet to break but figured we had a policy where we'd replace it if it was damaged in our care. Held it out screen faced down at arms length, dropped it flat onto the carpeted floor.
Now I want to go charge my old iPod, drop it, and see if it works. My first was a second or third gen and I was devastated when it stopped working about a decade ago.
I just recently had "auto movement" issue with my new PS4 controller (already past the 30day warranty). YouTube video said to place my mouth around the joystick and blow... Or suck. It seriously fucking worked!!!!
Kalzert ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:45:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or how about cutting you sim card with average scissors making sure to cut a slim piece or the metal off. Couldn't believe it was that easy. Didn't need a trace or anything.
When Apple made the Apple /// it had horrible overheating problems (due to Steve Jobs' insistence that the case act as a heatsink despite not being designed to do so) that caused the motherboard to warp. Their solution was to tell people to lift it 2 inches off the desk and drop it to reseat all the chips that had come loose due to warping.
They've put 3 nouns and a verb into the list so it looks like the verb applies to 1 noun against the other 2.
Han Solo (noun) fixing (verb) the millennium falcon (noun) and the Fonz (noun)
The confusion comes from the fact that unless you have context for the Fonz you could treat it as an object or a person.
Now most people understand the Fonz reference as a person hiiting a jukebox and therefore the context is implied.
But if we are being pedantic (this is Reddit after all) you would need to add a verb and further noun to the Fonz noun in order to clarify that there were in fact 2 parties acting on 2 different objects using the same technique
Therefore
Han Solo fixing the Millennium Falcon and The Fonz fixing the jukebox.
biese28 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:37:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work with a guy we call crack head John because he is exactly that a crack head. And one day one of our company cars wonโt start. We have fuel battery and pump is all good but the thing wonโt work. So low and behold crack head decides its a great idea to beat on the gas tank with a big ass hammer to โprime the fuel pumpโ well the jackass hit the tank so hard so many times that he cracked the tank and we lost all the gas. So yeah lesson here is donโt always use the knock it till it works because soon enough things are gonna be worse than how they started
biese28 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:01:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Idk dog they just got that thing to em where there all jumpy and weird and stuff but for some reason they talented as hell crackhead John (mentioned in hammer story above) can drive a bus really well and can sometimes fix things with a hammer and should not have been fixed with a hammer. Kinda like the old saying goes literally everything is a nail to this guy. Just beat the shit out of it and it may work. Come to think of it thatโs Prolly why he doesnโt have a wife
Some tweakers are idiot savants at diy engineering. I sold speed in my youth and some of those fuckers could fix anything.
I always had some broken bit of kit on the table for them. That or a bowl of marbles. If you didn't give them something to fiddle with they would open up your shit when you turned your back. Many of them carried screw drivers (for car locks and steteos)
I've legit been trying to remember this phrase for years, I always tell people, "there's a smart-sounding phrase for this but I can't remember it" and they're always so impressed by my knowledge. Will likely forget again by the next time it comes up but thanks
See and in my family we say โpercussive recalibrationโ
R3DNano ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:52:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mi wife has a 2013 nexus 7 tablet that stops responding from time to time until you apply some percussion adjustment. Going to tell her now we can drop the term "torture the tablet until it talks again"
sol- ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:25:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
D8-42 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:44:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worked wonders on a lot of the older CRT screen TV's.
My parents had one that would bug out and it needed 2 hits in just the right places (first hit on middle of the right side, second hit on the leftmost part of the top) and then it'd work again for a random amount of time.
In college I worked for the IT department at my school. For some reason, all of the Mac images for setting up computers were in one hard drive, with no backup. One day it stopped rebuilding all the images was going to take hours upon hours, so my boss was desperate to get it working. Tried everything short of opening it up and moving the physical platters. This included putting it in a freezer to try and flex the components back into place. Nothing was working.
So my boss turns around, grabs a rubber mallet and gives it a good thomp. Up it spools. "Quick, make a copy!" He tells at me, and we start backing it up. A couple minutes later things have settled down while it was transferring, and he looks at me "never do that to a hard drive. Just because it worked this time doesn't mean it will ever work again."
Itโs called a precordial thump. Basically you thump (punch) someone in the chest the moment you witness them go into ventricular fibrillation or pulseless ventricular tachycardia. Itโs basically a low level defibrillation that can get a patient out of those rhythms.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Precordial_thump
Varyx ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:12:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Funny enough this works on humans too, especially little humans.
Whenever my son gets chest congestion or what we have coined "gooey lungs" I'll flip my son over on my legs, cup my hand, and lightly snack his back. I do it to the left and the right for about a minute, sit him up and ask him to cough. It loosens up the mucous so they can cough it up easier.
We call them "chest percussions" and use them a lot for kids who have cystic fibrosis.
That also works well in more of a grid. Start going left to right on his back near his diaphragm and work your way up twards the shoulders. It helps get a little more out of the bottom of the lungs when he is super sick. On an adult same thing but make a fist and hit with the side of the hand near the pinky. Like the part you hit if you are hitting a desk. Gentle but increasing in pressure until you get it right.
I worked on a job and there was a light we couldn't replace hanging about 25 meters above the audience so we put someone in safety gear and tell him to wait up there and hit the lamp with a rubber mullet every time the light goes off.
Worked perfectly for the 90 min show and nobody noticed.
Rudirs ยท 95 points ยท Posted at 02:58:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've always called it percussive maintenance
meno123 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:38:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Old CRT TV went off colour? WHAM fixed.
oneEYErD ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:50:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a CRT that a power surge had messed up. The screen was out of alignment and had all these funky lines. My parents used to get drunk and fight and the TV was knocked off the dresser. It worked great after that until another drunken fight saw it take another plunge and it reverted to its previous state.
etennui ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:25:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm so sorry. That sounds terrible. I can't imagine not having a TV.
Haha beat me to it! I looked so fucking long for this video too. Such a great video, a classic! The exact embodiment of what this little thread is about. I thought this video deserved more recognition than it got.
What was that movie? It was that Russian actor (itโs always the same one in all the American movies) and he was yelling you stupid machine hitting it with a wrench and it fired up? Reminds me of him.
Percussion adjustment is a beautiful term to describe how I used to pound the hell out of my old TV to get the vert hold to straighten itself back out. Thank you for this.
The speaker for playing music stopped working properly on my phone. Fixed it by applying gently increasing pressure on the screen right above where the speaker is located. Haven't had an issue since.
The hard case for my musical instrument never closes right when I try to put my instrument away. I just give it a good smack and it latches perfectly every time.
Exactly! Just this morning my car window wouldnโt move whenever I would press the button. Two punches to the car door and what do you know, it started working perfectly again
Do you know that 007 goldeneye (the vidya) where if you pushed down on the processor of a controller you could beat the game faster? Yeah they banned the speedrun strat cuz it was OP
Zavetro ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:37:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I swapped the engine in my subaru and when we started it there was a problem with the temperature gauge. It spiked all the way to the opposite side of the meter. One good thwump and it's worked stellar since lol.
I used to have an old probably less than 13" TV that whenever it stopped working properly you could just smash that shit with a punch and it magically would work again.
See what you do here is get one of those Soft face mallets from Harbor freight and then youโll have an easier time. Percussion the parts you need and not the ones you donโt
pinkham ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:12:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A while ago I had a safe that I lost the keys to which had some fragile / important stuff within. Was about to force it with a crowbar or something drastic when I just typed the name of the safe into YouTube. One of the first results was this adolescent kid who demonstrated whacking the tip of it while turning the latch and the door just effortlessly swinging open. I tried it and did it within five attempts.
Yes! Pretty much anything that has moving parts in it, this is the first thing I try. Obviously you can't just hit it as hard as you can, but try a level appropriate for the object. I would say 7/10 this will usually fix the problem or make it better. At the very least, temporarily. Computer making a strange high pitch buzzing noise? Give it a light smack.
Though, if it doesn't work on the first few tries, don't keep going.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:28:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs one of the biggest lessons I learned in the army. There was not a single problem I ran in to that couldnโt be fixed by beat the hell out something.
One of my hobbies is fixing things, so when something breaks in my family they just give it to me and I get back to them with what I need to get it to work. I get to keep the tools when Iโm done and they get to cut costs on professionals that would charge them $200 to do something I could do with $10 and a 0000 screwdriver.
My little brother came into my room with his iPad this morning. There was a purple line running down the screen. As he was asking me if I could fix it I noticed if pressure was put on the part of the screen in front of the contact pad the line would flicker away, but as soon as contact was removed the line came back. I flicked above the contact pad and the line went away.
Percussion adjustment is no joke. That shit works.
A million years ago, I was a computer technician repairing Atari computers (yes, this was the early 1980s). The Atari repair manual included the recommendation to pick up the entire computer, hold it about 10" above the bench, and let it drop. This actually worked to re-seat a lot of the ICs that were installed in sockets. I used this procedure several times :-)
We called it "Manual Agitation" for the circuit board testing things at ESchool in the Navy. You would pick it up about 6-8 inches off the table and just drop it.
I worked as an instrument technician in a large primary plant for a few years. It's amazing how many times the 'calibrated tap' will kick the loop back into life
It's the knowing where to tap that costs the most money-
"Then they brought in an old man who had been fixing ships since he was a young. He carried a large bag of tools with him, and when he arrived, he immediately went to work. He inspected the engine very carefully, top to bottom.
Two of the shipโs owners were there, watching this man, hoping he would know what to do. After looking things over, the old man reached into his bag and pulled out a small hammer. He gently tapped something. Instantly, the engine lurched into life. He carefully put his hammer away. The engine was fixed!
A week later, the owners received a bill from the old man for ten thousand dollars.
โWhat?!โ the owners exclaimed. โHe hardly did anything!โ
So they wrote the old man a note saying, โPlease send us an itemized bill.
The man sent a bill that read:
Tapping with a hammerโฆโฆโฆโฆโฆโฆโฆ.. $ 2.00
Knowing where to tapโฆโฆโฆโฆโฆโฆโฆโฆ.. $ 9,998.00"
Ford, whose electrical engineers couldnโt solve some problems they were having with a gigantic generator, called Steinmetz in to the plant. Upon arriving, Steinmetz rejected all assistance and asked only for a notebook, pencil and cot. According to Scott, Steinmetz listened to the generator and scribbled computations on the notepad for two straight days and nights. On the second night, he asked for a ladder, climbed up the generator and made a chalk mark on its side. Then he told Fordโs skeptical engineers to remove a plate at the mark and replace sixteen windings from the field coil. They did, and the generator performed to perfection.
Henry Ford was thrilled until he got an invoice from General Electric in the amount of $10,000. Ford acknowledged Steinmetzโs success but balked at the figure. He asked for an itemized bill.
Steinmetz, Scott wrote, responded personally to Fordโs request with the following:
TAP test for Development Engines that power the biggest aircraft in the world. Literally just hitting bits of an engine to listen for anything rattling about.
It's related to the manual torque wrench. Using normal wrench, turn the fastener until something that feels kinda like the right torque (no knowledge of correct torque required) is achieved, then say "click".
Mech. Maintenance phrases Iโve heard:
โPut down your purse and hit it!โ
โCome bleed or blister itโs coming out.โ
โDo you want me to call your Mom so she can do it for you?โ
โI got it 2 grunt tight.โ
โItโs t-I-t, tight. Itโs d-u-n done .โ
โYou just had to twist your tongue the right way.โ
Raunien ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:09:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TECHNICAL KNOCK
Prerequisites: Intelligence 30
Either through the ease of long practice, or the proper ritual
to appease a weaponโs machine spirit, the Explorer can clear
stoppages in weapons. He may un-jam any gun as a Half
Action, but may only perform this rite on one weapon per
Round. He must touch the weapon to enact this rite.
Something similar happened to me, the headphone jack on a phone I used to have was not working, saw a forum that said to put your mouth in it and blow hard.
I thought "well, I have nothing to lose". It worked.
Well the main reason that you have to blow with your mouth is the moisture in your breath, so if you can just mix in a bit of MOISTURE in there it will work just as well.
stuffeh ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:19:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have an xbox 360 that sometimes refuses to open the disc thingy, and any time it gets stuck i can just give it one solid wack in a specific spot and it opens immediately. i feel like the fonz every time.
nor312 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:06:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was a kid, I had a digital watch that just stopped one day. I took it off and smacked it as hard as I could against a wooden dresser. It's worked perfectly ever since.
I have fixed computers before by kicking them. A swift smack is usually on my troubleshooting list after reboot and google.
In my first "real" job in IT, we got a server in, and it wouldn't boot. All kinds of weird bios errors. It was hard to see, but during shipping, a riser card had popped up slightly. It couldn't fully pop back down because there were small metal guides on either side of it, and it was stuck on one of them. Smacking it off the guide, it snapped back down and suddenly the server was bootable.
I would laugh too. The frost could possibly damage your device. I hope you waited till after it thawed and the water could evaporate before turning it on.
Be real cairful doing shit like this to laptop though. I had a laptop that would sometimes freeze up, only unfreezing when I hit it. No idea why. One time I hit it a bit to hard because I was really fucking frustrated and pissed off from various forms of bullshit that day and the hard drive platters literally shattered in to pieces. Computer no worked no more lol. I replaced the hard drive and installed Linux mint on it to get me by until I could get a new laptop since that one was outdated as shit anyway. If the laptop wasn't a peice of crap beforehand I probably would have fucked with Linux for a while honestly, it was quite a pleasant experience.
Nothings soldered anymore, except components of the motherboard but you just replace the motherboard. You can also transfer a windows license after swapping the mother board these days. Everything else just clips in. The only โhardโ part is putting in the cpu if youโre a Neanderthal. Anyone can watch a video on YouTube and build a pc though. My friend did it with no prior knowledge which prompted me to do it then my brother. Hell Youtube applies to more than just computer building. Thereโs a guide for everything.
I agree with this. There really is a guide for almost anything.
Really hard finding guides for obscure stuff, like a project 1985 Corvette I have, and reassembling the doors. Most "guides" show basics and not anything step by step (there's a lot to them).
And percussive maintenance pisses me off. Things aren't working for a reason. If you wack it and it loosens up, it's likely a stuck bearing, or dirt buildup (which could easily have burned through a few turns off the motor or inductor coils for that fan when it's seized and drawing stationary current).
Simple to change the fan. A little more complicated to do the job right and pull the cooler out to apply new thermal compound. The old dried up shit in there probably being what caused the fan to run excessively and wear out in the first place.
My father in laws iPhone mic stopped working. I looked it up and saw advice that said push really hard on the mic part. Tried it and the phone still works great 4 years later.
This worked with my PS2. I slammed it in a fit of rage, and if freakin read the disc! Later on, my dad followed a tutorial video to permanently fix the problem, so all good.
Had a similar issue with my old MR2! Electrics and solder points wear our on a 30 y/o car so I heard banging on the dashboard when the dash lights go dark get them back on again.
True enough, that worked for a while until I resoldered the faulty wiring!
My PS3 just gave me a dirty look. Been down this road before
TheRune ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:12:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had something similar but with my car! My first car was a VW Golf Manhattan, 18 y/o when I got it (both me and the car) - it was a smooth ride and with normal older-car issues. One day I would not start. Asked for advice at some car forum. A dude told me to take a rubber-hammer and gently smash the starter engine a few times.
I went out, expecting nothing to change. Located the starter and gave it a few wacks - it worked and never had any issues again till i sold it 4 years later.
Not unlike the "bake" method of fixing early Xbox 360. They would overheat and cause the processor to have a bad connection with the motherboard. Advice was to cover with a blanket and let it run until it shut off, then remove the blanket, let it cool, and make sure it was well-ventilated and the fans were clean. It would soften the solder and allow for a better connection when it cooled. We did this, and it worked. No more Red Ring of Death!
I smashed in my power button on my iPhone, looked it up on YouTube on how to fix it, and I was told to brush he smashed in button with a toothbrush and it worked.
When the screen of my old flip phone used to black out I'd (gently) throw it down the stairs and then it'd work fine for a few weeks. No YouTube videos, found out in a moment of clumsiness.
I had an old air conditioning unit and it's fan stopped. I got mad and kicked it. It started up and never had another problem with it for the next ten years I lived there.
There was actually some section of an old PC manual that suggested picking the unit up about 2 inches and dropping it when other things failed. They called it "Percussive Maintenance".
same thing if your automatic window sticks in your car- bang on the inside of the door in the area that you think
covers the motor.. its worked for me with my van and two friends cars as well
One side of my Apple earbuds wasnโt working so I went to Google for a solution. Turns out that 95% of the time, there is just ear wax in your earbuds that you can clear out with a pencil. After you clean it up a little bit with a pencil, suck on it, sounds crazy but it works.
Dude my MacBook keyboard jammed once and I tried so many gentle manoeuvres to get it working, ended up Googling it, the answer was to blow super hard directly onto the stuck key while clicking it furiously, and it WORKED. Incredible
I remember when I was about 18 I had to get into the fuel tank in my car. Had a big screw lid on the top and a friend and I spent half the fukn day trying to get this stupid thing to come off. Went and bought special tools for unscrewing it the whole deal. Finally about to admit defeat and just get a mechanic. The old boy from across the road came over and asked about what was happening. He then just picks up a screw driver and a hammer and whacks it and wouldnโt you know it, fucking thing came straight off.
A common problem with the model of car I own is the windows not going down. I seen a similar tip and had a similar disbelief. And sure enough, knocking on the door fixes the problem.
Saved having to spend hundreds of dollars on a new motor and is now the manufacturer reccomended way of fixing the problem.
blink0r ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had this exact same problem with my Keurig coffee maker!
It would make the sound like it's going to brew but it would only cycle the water back into the reservoir. I was so confused so I looked into how to fix it.
Turns out I just had to drop it a few times down a small flight of stairs.
I had a similar thing where my laptop fan died. I watched a 62 second youtube video where the dude blows super hard into the fan exhaust as the computer is booting up.
Tried it, got a bunch of dust in my mouth, but the computer booted up and the fan stopped having problems. That was....2 years ago and it's still fine.
Had a galaxy s3. The GPS kept getting worse and worse, so I looked up a solution.
First website: Tighten all the screws on the back.
Me: pft no.
Second website: Tighten screws on the back.
Me: That's so dumb.
Third website: This is going to sound dumb, but tighten all the screws on the back.
It worked. GPS worked better than it ever had after that.
Edit: punctuation
worosei ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Something similar happened to my iPad 2. Screen died/had weird colours, went to apple shop who quoted a hundred or two to fix and said it was a dead screen.
Read online of someone giving it a solid thump
I tried it, it didn't work.
I figured I'd have to buy a new one, so gave it a super solid thud in exasperation
I have a MacBook that I got at the beginning of college. Midway through my grad year, it kept restarting when you put too much pressure on a certain area. I decided to punch that area because it happened like 10 times in a row. Didn't have a problem for like 2 months, then the next punch gave me 1 month, and this lasted until I was punching it everyday. Lasted 3 months after I graduated, then it became a brick.
Was taught how to use โCommo FMโ (commo fucking magic) during radio operator training at Ft. Gordon back in โ09. The army was literally teaching soldiers to bang the shit out of equipment until it worked.
Same time happened to my lawn mower. Damn thing wonโt start. Took the top off where the string goes caused it was hard to pull. Cleaned the rope and bam, the lawn mower worked.
Usually work for older electronics and mechanicals because they were mostly hand built, and there could be a loose wire or something. Banging it will actually repair it
MXXlV ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:58:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's called percussive maintenance. My microwave needs it every other use
MijK7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:58:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's also working with your gf if she's talking to much. But now she's not working anymore. WELP
cyberm3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:59:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can take it to apple n they can clean it for free
When I was in high school, if you had a problem with your laptop IT would usually just replace the part and do a full wipe of your computer, like every time. There was a problem that happened frequently, at least for me, where it would just not boot no matter what. Eventually we figured out that if you just slap the bottom a few times it would start working for a few days again. After a few weeks of doing this it just started working for good and I never needed to do it again.
Fan is one of the simplest circuits in existence. Computer fans probably have added complications, what with most computers being able to control fan speeds, but if bashinโ it worked, that implies a loose or dirty connection somewhere. If Appleโs usb/wall adapters are anything to go by, they tend to skimp on some electronics.
Rockauto commonly does closeouts on high quality wiper blades for like $2-3 a piece. The type you normally pay $20-30 for. I buy like 5 sets at a time to save on shipping, spend less than $40 on enough really nice wipers to last me a couple/few years.
Edit: I have no affiliation with Rockauto. Just a customer.
Most often, new wipers will fix that. As wipers age the soft rubber that squeegees your windshield becomes dry and rigid, and squeaky against the glass.
Can confirm, I worked at Napa for quite a while and interchanging part numbers from RockAuto found me parts in NAPA's system that I otherwise wouldn't have found on more than a few occasions.
And next thing you know you're 45 minutes in with 7 tabs open, 3 catalogues on the counter, and 3 of your fellow partsmen trying to find an axle seal for a 1989 Suzuki Grand Vitara.
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 11:00:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rear stub axle for a 92 Toyota Paseo. I spent 2 full days searching every catalogue, forum, EPC I could lay my hands on. Apparently theyโre part of the whole rear beam assembly. Customer was expecting $150/$200 part. $1477 direct from Toyota. Plus freight.
And if you're talking seals, at least one of your fellow partsmen has got a set of calipers out, trying to get an accurate diameter from a seal that hasn't been a proper circle since it got shredded lol.
And next thing you know you're 45 minutes in with 7 tabs open, 3 catalogues on the counter, and 3 of your fellow partsmen trying to find an axle seal for a 1989 Suzuki Grand Vitara.
I know this drill. Dad has a 1958 Farmall tractor that (up until he rolled it), was getting daily use. Finding parts technically designed for other makes and models that will fit and work is some black magic fuckery reserved for the ancient dudes down at the local John Deere dealership.
hkd001 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:58:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rockauto was the only site where I could find parts for my Dodge Stratus RT (2 door). Other sites and stores thought I was looking for the sedan model. I don't think they used the same part for anything.
It's been a while since i bought any from them, but they separate by category. Look for beam style, teflon coated, and get whichever category they list as best. There's various brands, but my experience is they're essentially name brand quality wipers in off-brand wholesaler packaging.
I always buy Bosch icon I love how good they work and they usually last me a couple years and I live in an area where it snows a lot. Theyโre expensive though it costs about $50 a pair for my truck.
The quality of the Bosch Icons have dropped significantly in recent years, I used to sell tons of them, until they started coming back with complains, I think they're made somewhere else now, I never sell them anymore!
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Durania ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:00:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I found those to be the worst wipers I ever bought. Just skipped and bounced when swiping the windshield. Took them back.
Dude, I love rockauto. They consistently have low priced quality parts. I just got my radiator from them for $80. Pretty good deal all things considered.
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ozaku7 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:56:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fun fact, according to spectroscopic study, all wiper blades rubber is made from the same material.
ozaku7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:03:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like the same as in atomic composition. Only silicone is different. What you really pay for is the wiper blade structure design that allows for aerodynamics and such so your wiper blade doesn't lift. It also includes the warranty of say 2 years, so if it wears down within 2 years you might get a second set for free under certain but not impossible conditions.
Holy shit, how have I never herd of Rockauto? I have a money pit of a car and Rockauto's prices seem much better than retty much anywhere else! Guess I'm only going there from now on for anything I don't need OEM for.
Yeah Iโm in NJ and they are pretty much toast after every winter from all the rock salt filth and ice that adheres to the windshield.
I used to spend decent money on wiper blades and Iโd get a year out of them. Now I spend almost nothing on Walmart blades and I get a year out of them.
PapayaSF ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 06:15:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a windshield wiper blade sharpener that I bought years ago, and it works well. Or try this: fold a small piece of fine sandpaper into a V, get it wet, and pull it along the edge of the blade 8-10 times. (Careful, it will make black water.) This will remove the cracked edge that causes streaks. I get years out of blades this way.
That can help but when your daily commute is traveling major roads like I-80 and it is barely raining or even not at all but is just above freezing after a snow storm, you end up getting that brown salty mist thrown all over your windshield that instantly dries into a salty dirty rough layer. You canโt travel more than a few miles before you canโt see and need to run the wipers and washer to clear it which wears down the blades. By the end of the season the blades are pitted enough that they leave streaks all over and do a poor job of clearing the windshield.
Yes better blades resist this longer, but relatively speaking on the cost difference vs the slightly longer life of the blades, Iโll exhaust the life of the car before I cross the savings threshold of having been buying good blades every 13 months instead of crappy blades every 11 months. (Plus even good blades sometimes have issues like you donโt realize they are frozen to the windshield when you turn the wipers on and it rips the rubber destroying the blade. Thatโs far more annoying on $20 blades than $3 ones)
I saw this tool the other day that just barely takes the worn bit off and creates a new seal between the rubber blade and your window. Might be worth looking at
Yeah I live in the middle of the desert and they just rot out all summer and then once it starts raining again in the fall I get reminded that I need to change them out lol
Better still (if you drive a European car) is FCP Euro because they will literally replace your wipers (actually anything you buy from them!), for free, forever
Between two BMW and one Volvo, I am a forever loyal FCPEuro customer.
Edit: I actually started by buying some parts for BMW from RockAuto, but quickly realized how some brands work better for euro cars than others. Because FCPEuro has lifetime guarantee on all parts, they only carry brands that are not likely to fail quickly or have poor fitment.
No problem! I always check their site before ordering from other places. The selection of OEM quality parts isn't as great as other places, but when they have the brand I want, it's usually the cheapest price.
No worries, thanks anyway. I don't need anything yet, I was just curious for the future.
aws4k3 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:32:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate their commercials way too much to use them
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:01:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Commercials are weird. Makes it look like a scam or something. But itโs literally another parts store online. They carry all the major brands as your local store and usually cheaper even with shipping.
patx35 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:05:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, they got to cut costs somewhere to get their competitive pricing. Cheap parts, strong catalog, reasonable shipping rates, and easy returns makes me a returning customer.
mrvas ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:06:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought those were a good deal at first, but I had several of them fail on me. The plastic end clips break very easily, causing the rubber blade to slide out. The first couple of times I fixed it with a zip tie, but now I changed to calling them 'Bad Year' wipers.
Michelin wipers at Costco have a different design, but time will tell how long they will last. They looked very cheaply made, which was only apparent after I took them out of the box. I'm starting to think that maybe I should be looking elsewhere for the windshield wipers, and up the budget for those things.
I too have no affiliation with Rockauto, the best place for all your automotive needs. Their prices are Rock Bottom! Guess you can say they deserve a lot of "karma"!
Rockauto really kicks ass when it comes to prices... brakes for a fifth of what they retail in town, oil filters for 2$... ect ect, this site is just so awesome (p.s. I am canadian, bought there a few times, changed my life)
I would give you fake internet medals that cost real money if I had real money. I will have some extra leftover real money because of this website, though.
I think that anyone who's used rockauto.com is going to sound like a paid shill because there's really nothing bad to say about them. I even like their terrible commercials.
I kinda like the design. Refreshing to not be assaulted with extra crap you find on other sites. How else would you display 100+ options for something like F-15- brake pads?
I recently bought Trico blades and returned them because they were streaking out of the box. I exchanged them for RainX blades, but out of that list Iโd go Bosch.
I now religiously use Bosch icon's, consistently the best wiper blade. Buy through rock auto instead of the parts store though, way cheaper on there.
ppqpp ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:50:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was at the parts store and was looking for wipers. The guy goes these are $2 cheaper and fit the same as those Bosch ones. Guess what...... they dont. Ended up finding the Bosch ones a few months later cheaper and haven't looked back (they fit perfectly too).
I was a manager at an autozone for a few years and the Bosch Icons were by far the best we carried. Skip the rain-x, when they wear out the water repellent can leave streaks in your windshield that are a pain in the ass to remove. It's also much much cheaper to buy your wiper blades online than it is at the parts store. $50+ for a pair in store compared to $25-30 online.
I also use Bosch but i spent a little more than $50 at the auto store for the set and havenโt needed to replace them. Good to note the rock auto place if itโs cheaper for same quality though!
I bought some Goodyear blades from Costco for like $8. Figured if they only work for a year it's still cheap enough. 30+ minutes trying to figure out adapters I need I gave up and ordered new Icons. Never again.
Unless I need a part right now I order it, Rock Auto is a great option. I am done buying crap parts for full pop at the national chain store down the street.
I'm an automotive mechanic and I always get the dealership blades. Although I do get them for $7 a piece. I'll get about 6 months out of them, but $28 a year for wipers blades is still cheaper that $25 per blades.
I buy the expensive ones because I canโt stand my windshield being dirty. The only issue is that I live in the desert and itโs get to 115 for a month or so here so I end up buying wipers every winter after they get all sun baked and donโt work right
I have some Michelin branded ones from Costco that last me a few years. I live in SoCal where it gets hot (not as hot as that though, but maybe around 95-100 for a month), and I haven't had to change it for approx 2 years and it held up pretty well in today's rain.
cwmtw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:50:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm an automotive mechanic and I always get the dealership blades.
I used to deliver to mechanics and 99% of the time you guys are buying the cheapest shit on the shelves.
That's the point. Wiper blades cost pocket change. I'm okay with replacing them every 6 months for 7 dollars a blade. It's still cheaper than spending 28 dollars per wiper.
pat1122 ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 03:01:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I buy the premium rain-x ones, $25 each blade as opposed to the $15 ones I used to buy. The quality is great and I always get mad that I used to cheap out on them before.
Unfortunately I had some bad luck with rain-x in the past, I'll have to give them another go. I usually run Michelin, no sound and they leave my windshield very clean.
Iโve never liked the Rain-X blades personally. Rain-X itself is a fantastic product. I love the window spray and the windshield wiper fluid additive. But I do not like the blades. Way too expensive for the quality of blades, plus you can get the same application benefits from the wiper fluid or the wiper fluid additive for much less. I get Bosch wipers and have good luck with them.
Do you have an old car (old windshield)? I recently got a new windshield due to a rockfall(?) on it and my wipers not only work a thousand times better but they also last way longer.
Mine are almost six years old and still work like the day I put them on! We donโt have harsh winters in Texas, but the intense heat can really chew up cheap wiper blades.
I just switched to silicone blades. I believe any will do, but you're not going to find it in an auto supply shop. They're supposed to last a long time and they want to sell you more stuff.
On top of their enduring quality they also leave a small layer of silicone on your windshield as they wipe. The silicone layer they leave behind is hydrophobic and water will clear off even quicker.
The only catch is that you have to clean your windshield before you swap to them.
Years ago, I found a local AutoZone that offered premium wiper blades that had a "lifetime warranty". I asked about what counted as "going bad", and they said that it was pretty much any kind of performance degradation. I paid like $25 each for them for my old Accord.
I would take those suckers back every few months and get them warrantied. They started to grumble about it, but they always swapped them out. I don't think they did that anymore after my (and others, I'm sure) shenanigans.
Which ones last forever (or at least a couple years)? In my experience, the blades need to be replaced about every year regardless of how much I spend on them. I still buy decent quality (from Costco), but Iโm not spending $20-30+ on a blade.
This is definitely how it is. Summer heat and winter freezes are not great for blades, so going much longer than a year is really pushing it for even the best blades.
Exactly. For me there was never much difference between blade for ยฃ5 and blade for ยฃ18, they need to be changed every year and they damage usually at same speed.
None last forever. Buy cheap ones and just replace them every 6 months or so. They'll last longer in beautiful 70f all the time California but in the north where it get really cold and then really hot they won't last nearly as long.
I totally understand that, i worked in an auto parts store for a few years, some people legit couldnโt afford, which we helped out, but mostly people were just cheap on the parts they got for their $60k cars
I just get the $9 ones at Costco. Iโve accepted that I will always be tempted to try to use the windshield wipers as ice scrapers. It never works. I know it will rip them up. but I canโt stop.
vreten ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:51:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know there is special winter blades? They are softer and have a heavier metal to move the snow. Rockauto like 5 bucks.
Narkova ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:55:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bosch Icons + the orange Rain X washer fluid does great on getting ice off my windshield.
Holy smokes. Youโre not kidding. Iโm going to give those a go. Thanks!
Muhen ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:43:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem with this is if you live somewhere that has harsh sunlight, like Florida, because it kills the rubber quick no matter how much you spend.
pat1122 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:52:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Agreed, Iโm in TX so I normally change them out once a year after the first big storms once summer passes as it reminds itโs time for new ones. I hate driving with blurry windscreen and not worth the risk for a few bucks since I normally have the kids in the truck.
Wiper motor went out before I had to deliver pizza in the rain...
Rain X is miracle shit if you haven't tired. Survived comfortably in the moderate rain.
nova46 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:33:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is pretty awesome. One time we had an Uber pick us up in an absolute downpour late at night and when we got on the highway I was like you use rain x don't you? The wipers literally didn't even help, because the water just beaded right up the windshield with the force of the air at that speed. He kept the rest of his vehicle very clean as well, we had a nice chat about the importance of taking care of your cars.
I wonโt argue that you might be able to find a lower price on lots of items Costco carries; but I can tell you why it doesnโt make sense to me to do so.
They are ALWAYS reasonably priced. So even if you do find a particular item for a lower price, you had to go looking for it. I spent zero effort trusting that Costco was going to charge me a reasonable markup to purchase an item from them. My time is worth a lot more than the few dollars I could save if I spent plenty of time searching for the lowest price on every item I bought.
Their executive membership rebate (I think itโs like 1% of my purchases throughout the year) means I get my dues back every year, PLUS whatever additional rebate Iโve earned.
They have the lowest price gas in my town. And yes, they may be tied with someone else or even a couple pennies more every once in a while, but again- Iโm saving loads of time not looking for the cheapest gas and just getting it at the (almost always) cheapest place in town.
They have an amazing return policy. Iโve had an item break about a year after I bought it, and the next time I was in I asked a coworker about it. They told me to just bring it back- so I did. No issues what so ever. They didnโt even give me a hard time about it and they trusted I was being honest with them. If I had done that at Walmart, Target, Loweโs, et cetera (heck, even Amazon), I would have never gotten past the comment that my item is a year old.
They take excellent care of their employees and pay them a fair wage. And yes, as important as this is to me, I recognize that itโs last on my list for a reason. There are very few people who will actually pay considerably more for an item because of their morals; with Costco I donโt have that struggle. Their prices are very low and, even if they are a little more than a competitor on some items, generally speaking- they are making less profit to take care of their employees.
Last time I bought wiper blades I was lazy and just went to the auto supply store instead of shopping around. It was like $60 for the 3 blades. I felt like I was ripped off!
I bought Bosch wiper blades 5 years ago, they are still fine and since they are 5 years old, they actually did last longer than the original ones the car came with.
There is one auto parts store in my town that carried the Trico refills. They were awesome and like $3 a blade. Unfortunately that store burned down. It was a small brand auto parts store - Auto Value, or something? - and they never built back.
I live in a desert. It rains every winter atleast a couple times but the heat makes it necessary to replace the wipers every season. It's really not worth spending more for us.
But in rain heavy areas? Hell yeah. Driving in the rain is dangerous enough without not being able to see well.
Look into silicone blades. I live in the desert too and I've had my set of PIAA blades for 4 years and they just recently started leaving two little lines on the driver side. Worth it if you ask me.
I bought Silblade on Amazon. A pair lasts me a few years. They are much better than the Goodyear I got from Costco that I have to replace every few months.
I believe I read in consumer reports that there was a negligible difference between cheap and expensive blades. The best thing you can do is just get new ones. Remember that wiper blades have zero protection from all the elements and the hot and cool cycles and moisture can greatly deteriorate them. Better to spend 20 bucks every 6 months than 40 a year. Also if you're having trouble with streaking, you can try wiping the actual blades with some isopropyl alcohol to clean them
Serious q...does it make an actual difference? I am someone who needs a clean windshield, and my solution is to change my blades about every 6 months or so, buying the cheapest blades possible.
I haven't had any issue and the reason I started doing is because I found even with the expensive blades they all seemed to have about a 6-8 month life before they don't work to my satisfaction anymore.
How often do you change yours?
pat1122 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:08:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey bud, Iโm not sure how often you use them so that may make all the difference. Iโm in Dallas so we see rain with transition into spring/summer then again summer/fall so I honestly donโt use the wipers all the often. They do however sit in the 100-110 degree sun during summer which bakes them. I change mine once every 12-18 months. Honestly, I just really hate to have a blurry shield, if it gets blurry and the wipers donโt do their job properly I get super annoyed for some reason. Plus, I will almost always have the kids with me and to spend an extra few bucks on wipers that do their job is worth it to me. However, I havenโt tried to find a pair of cheaper ones that do the trick, so if you found a brand that work perfectly for the 6 months you use them then you may have a winner.
Also, I saw a few posts mentioning rockauto.com is a good source to buy from so you can check them out too, wipers a few bucks each on that site.
I apply this with other things too. The difference in cost between the most expensive rake and the cheapest rake in the hardware store is $12. That extra $12 is worth the risk of it not actually being marginally better. (Hint: it was way fucking better.)
PIAA or any other good quality silicone wiper. Desert dweller here. Can't tell you how make sets of conventional rubber sets I've thrown away between monsoon seasons due to heat. Silicone just keeps working. Even when they get worn they still work better than a slightly old set of rubber wipers that have seen a summer.
That and a 6$ 16oz spray bottle of rain-x that will last years changed my life.
monthos ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:19:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Never buy the cheapest products when safety is on the line."
This does not mean to buy the most expensive, but paying a little more moves you out of the "we're making this for bottom dollor and don't care how well it works" category manufacturers have.
bAZtARd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just put some glycerine on mine. Now they are nice & smooth again.
Second that! Also try some silicon wiper blade refills, since some blade designs are easier than others just to swap out the blades instead. Way cheaper in some cases.
kr2c ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:30:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My advice would be the exact opposite. I've had cheap blades last years and expensive brands (Rain X) fail within hours every time I've installed them. For what it's worth the Rain-x water repellent makes wipers basically unnecessary in anything less than a monsoon, but their blades are overpriced trash and anyone who pays extra for them is throwing money away.
Can confirm. Bought the cheepest ones as mine looked like a comb. Was so exited to see all the water go away I almost ignored the sound of it's people. It's now all I can hear every time I use them, horrible, just loud enough screetching....
If you drive a Honda you can just replace the rubber portions at the dealer for cheap. Change mine once a year and it's something like 12$ for both and they last through Canadian winters
TSW-760 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:29:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I disagree with this one, could you give your reasons?
My experience has been that I can either buy expensive blades at Auto zone for $15-20 each, and replace them every other year, or I can buy dirt cheap ones at the bargain store for $3-4 each, and replace them once a year.
mmbc168 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:43:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This can not be overstated. Best extra money you will ever spend.
The key is just to find good ones, they don't have to be expensive. For a long time, I was cutting down 15" wipers for my 2004 Wrangler because finding 13" blades is impossible and they are almost always junk in 2 weeks. That led me to only buying beam style wipers because I needed to be able to remove the end caps to cut them down (and I was also cutting them to a custom size for better windshield coverage). I came to like the Michelin wipers, and more recently the Rain-X Latitude with rain repel. Both last for 6+ Months and I regularly get a full year from them as long as I clean the windshield and wipers every month or so. I believe the Rain-X wipers are ~$13 each at Walmart so they are a pretty good value.
no way. I just continually buy the cheap $4 ones from walmart. as soon as it starts streaking a bit swap it over to the passenger and get a fresh one for the driver.
I tried the $15 latitude RAINX blades side by side with walmart's supertech and it left a giant streak in middle of the window where the middle of the blade wouldn't contact the windshield.
Maybe my car was rather old and the springs didn't hold the wiper hard enough to the window, but I get better performance and can replace with new blades for a lot cheaper than the expensive ones.
i haven't tried the Bosch or michelem brands though.
Also wipe off your wipers every time you fill up your tank, itโll make any last longer.
bone420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:18:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I live in the desert. Ive had a broken balde for over a year. It rained 1 day (one) so i had to take the rubber off the pasanger wiper and wrap it around the driver side.
Should be good for another year or so....
I will NOT be spending extra on useless gadgets, thank you
You should purchase silicone wipers on Amazon. Its a secret that manufacteurs dont want you yo know for they last up to 5 years so u never need replace ur wipers , just a tiny bit more expensive is the beauty part
is it me or are wipes getting crappier? when i was 17 and had a crappy job i would get the cheapest wipers, they would last for 2 years easily and work well for that time, now i spend more and they dont last a year.
Also.... Wipe your wiper blades off when your getting gas. Spray with silicone spray and they'll last you find years with perfect clear windshield when you use them
If you get yours from an Advanced Auto Parts store, check online first. It's usually cheaper and you can just pick up at the store that you were going to visit anyway. This happened to me last week and got 2 wiper blades for $17 each, instead of their $25 per each price at the store.
To add on this, keeping your windows clean (inside and out). I also recommend using rainx or any other hydrophobic coating. You can almost drive in heavy rain without turning on your wipers.
I get the RainX ones, and use RainX washer fluid. Not only does it extend the life of the blade by acting as a slight lubricant to minimize chatter, but RainX does its job well, so, spraying the washer fluid once in a blue moon, you may not have to have your wipers on quite as fast as you normally would, so less use means longer life. Also, I clean the blade when I notice any streaks, and that usually makes it streak-free again. My RainX beam-type blades are closing in on 2 years old now, and, while they look like they have aged a bit, they still donโt streak, chatter, or show any signs of failure. Itโs great really.
Plus, life tip for any wiper blade: if your wipers are on a higher setting and are skipping/chattering loudly, turn it down a notch. I see plenty of people, where, what was a regular rain, lightened up to a light-ish rain, hey I hear the car next to me has their wipers on high, and they are jumping and skipping all over. That will wear them out quickly.
Actually if you can, keep your original wiper blades from the dealership and just replace the inserts. You'll save money and be using a blade specifically designed for your vehicle.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
noooo! The expensive ones are a scam. The cheapest metal ones from Crappy Tire work best.
And if you're a rich car fanatic, there's a special ceramic coating you can apply to the whole car. It's extremely pricey but your driver will be the happiest driver in the world. She/He will never ever have to dust it, ever; let alone, wash it... Ever. If you don't believe me, ask Jay Leno or look for your local bourgeoisie auto detailer and ask.
Tehsyr ยท 24407 points ยท Posted at 01:46:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unclench your jaw, open your hands, drop your shoulders, and breathe in.
[deleted] ยท 7001 points ยท Posted at 03:11:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had super diarrhea for a few years. The first few months was a lot of bathroom trips but with so many trips being a no show from the brown team I got tired of that quickly and started holding it. Let me tell you, that's some serious work. My butthole would be sweating all day until one day that mother fucker was so yoked out I can hold that shit for hours no sweat, literally. Could probably smash a watermelon if I could fit it (I don't want to try.)
Never been checked out. There's a position I wake up in often that makes me vomit untill everything is back where it's supposed to be. Also it tends to give me diarrhea. Like I'll be good then get into that position and it's everyone out. Runners diarrhea is an option, which when I properly adjust my abdomen it goes away, same with the vomiting. I usually just end up puking cuz it takes too long to adjust it all, I only caught it once so far. I'm one of those people who's every part of my body hurts weekly or bi weekly. Went to ER once cuz my appendix was in horrible pain. Your illeocecal valve is right in there, that's in your intestines and that thing can give you the runs or constipate you. Well in all my self adjustment there's like 5 spots on the body that pull on that spot. Also kind of a bitch to fix, I have it right now. It was my hip this time. Feels good man.
I do turn 35 soon. It is about time to start getting checked up regularly. Then again, would be interesting to one day just drop lol. No I notice something is wrong with my body pretty quickly. So far there's no pain I haven't been able to get rid of, and with being able to both stop from having to puke and stop from having the runs by moving my body in certain ways, I'm not too concerned. By the end of the day I usually have my body back in tune. It's the sleeping part that messes me up. I'm pretty fit, used to being on my feet all day, tons of energy, fast physical recovery, great metabolism, reflexes, flexibility. Just, my body hurts from being out of whack often because, honestly probably hip damage. One leg has been shorter than the other most of my life. Chiropractor puts it back in, I put it back in, but it goes out all the time. Talking too much. Off work now with a bowl and a beer. Thanks KS for the concern anyway.
my body hurts from being out of whack often because, honestly probably hip damage.
Honestly, it doesn't really explain the periodic vomiting and diarrhea, and for all your hypotheses, they shouldn't be happening at all, and there's no discernible mechanism by which they should be going away "by making adjustments".
It's not only concern for a stranger on the internet, but as another commenters said, it could be an inflammatory bowel disease (wouldn't dare to attempt to diagnose you, just an example).
Imagine for a second that you have such a thing, which causes more damage over time if left untreated; but on the other side of a coin for a vast majority of cases can be managed by taking a pill a day.
Doesn't not having periodic diarrhea and vomiting like at all, sound appealing to you, all else aside? This is a likely outcome, and in the absolute worst case scenario, they are able to find nothing and you can carry on as usual making weird body movements to manage it.
I mean I get constipation the same way, then adjust myself and suddenly have to poo. Mostly to do with which guts are being pulled on by what. When I say adjust myself, I'd like it to popping your back. It eases the tension of muscles and such pulling abnormally on the surrounding tissues. An aggravated ileocecal valve can do all that too, and my hip pulls on it all the time. I popped it in earlier but it hurts again right now, and popped back in. Also I should mention I have beers daily, so having less solid poo isn't all that irregular. Used to drink more, just not digging the drunk lately. Not currently in the 10%.
Thank you, you do the same. I can honestly say I am currently better than any other time in my life. Never been better has never been so accurate.
Vasoir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:44:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone's different so take this with a grain of salt
Make sure you don't drink alcohol and eat right before you sleep and eat enough, it may also be partially psychological.
I have awful nausea and constipation problems daily if I A. Don't eat enough, B. Eat right before I sleep, C. Drink alcohol right before I sleep, or D. Get really excited/ anxious when I wake up.
I was really convinced, when I hit this constant nausea and constipation spell in 2016, that I had something wrong with me, took all sorts of medication, changed up my diet (though didn't eat enough), etc. Even got a colonoscopy done to check. And I was clean as a whistle.
I noticed that after that I mentally started to feel less anxious and in turn, better and more comfortable with eating and therefore better overall.
I eventually found out that I have bad acid reflux and anxiety that creates a majority of my issues and it's super bad when I'm sleeping.
Omeprazole may be a drug you'd look into trying.
As well as either an antidepressant or benzo for anxiety.
And trust me I already smoke weed and drink, weed sorta helps but it's temporary for me.
I'm documenting them and am going to record a how to. Should work for others. Every headache/migraine I get, every pain in my hands, arms, legs, body, head, and joints. There's well over 1000 so it's not easy to just explain.
Well yes, but I've been dealing with pain all my life. Head smashed in an orbatron when I was about 10. Basically downhill from there. Didn't know my one leg was over an inch shorter than the other til I was like 13 when I was getting church pants hemmed up and the legs weren't the same size. Been to the chiropractor a lot, to the ER for some pains, but realistically I can't get looked at every time I hurt, and it's like a headache, just different parts of my body. I adjust it and it doesn't hurt anymore. Actually I've learned a ton from it. No more sore back for weeks and shit like that. If I wake up with a stiff neck or sciatica, actually the last time I had sciatica I was just stepping out of my car to go to work. BAM! But I had figured that out and it took me a few hours to be good.
My strategy to check with patients is to ask them to clench, then to relax. With a maximum clench, they can really feel the difference when they relax.
Another way is to lay on your back on the bed, then bend your knees and put the feet on the bed. In this position, with a finger, you can check the area surrounding your anus. This area should be soft. If it's tense, try to clench as much as you can, keep the tension for about 4-5 seconds, then relax. If you check again with your finger, you should feel that it's now much softer.
Analisi fissures can damage the pudendal nerve, and a suffering pudendal nerve can lead to sciatic nerve suffering, and can mimic low back pain in certain cases
Pelvic tension is a bitch. I didnt realize how bad it was till i tried CBD. Now when I relax for bed i make a point to take my tongue off of the roof of my mouth and relax my sphincter, then typically the rest of the relaxation happens on it's own.
Good advice.
Moralio ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 06:42:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you clench your butt hole repetitively (say 40/50 times) it has a relaxing effect. It has worked for everyone I know that has tried it. Just takes a while to admit what you just did.
That's actually the best piece of advice I ever received for freediving (breathold diving). Clenching uses your muscles uses oxygen, so you cant stay down for as long ๐คท๐ฝโโ๏ธ
It was all silent here until a laughed loud and now my mom is staring at me help
milo_mb ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:35:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I laughed out loud in the office and tried to stop myself laughing, and somehow inhaled my saliva and now I'm just choking and coughing instead. Thanks mate.
qdust ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 05:03:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
F? F what? The letter before G? The letter after E? Did you know that in Fu the F stands for โfuck?โ So your reply is โfuck?โ or F as in Flourine? Do you need some Special F for breakfast? F as in I can fuck you? Can I fuck you and feed you to hungry falcons? Falcons have an f in it. "Fโ? Are you fucking kidding me? I spent a decent portion of my life writing all of that and your response to me is "Fโ?Are you so mentally handicapped that the only letter you can comprehend is "Fโ - or are you just some fucking asshole who thinks that with such a short response, he can make a statement about how meaningless what was written was? Well, I'll have you know that what I wrote was NOT meaningless, in fact, I even had my written work proof-read by several professors of literature. Don't believe me? I doubt you would, and your response to this will probably be "Fโ once again. Do I give a fuck? No, does it look like I give even the slightest fuck about a single letter? I bet you took the time to type that one letter too, I bet you sat there and chuckled to yourself for 20 hearty seconds before pressing "send". You're so fucking pathetic. I'm honestly considering directing you to a psychiatrist, but I'm simply far too nice to do something like that. You, however, will go out of your way to make a fool out of someone by responding to a well-thought-out, intelligent, or humorous statement that probably took longer to write than you can last in bed with a chimpanzee. What do I have to say to you? Absolutely nothing. I couldn't be bothered to respond to such a worthless attempt at a response. Do you want "Fโ on your gravestone? Do you want people to remember you as the asshat who one day decided to respond to someone with a single letter? "Hey, look, everybody! It's that "fโ guy!" That's who you are. You're going to be known as the "Fโ guy. How does it feel? Do you feel happy? Quite honestly, I don't care, which is why I'm not even going to respond to you. Goodbye, and good luck with your future as that guy who said "Fโ. Alright listen up motherfucker, and get your comfy seat because we're gonna be here a while. Do you really think you can just get away with "f" as a message? What if someone did that to you, huh? Do you think you would like it? Making an entire paragraph to get a fuckin' one letter response of the sixth letter in the alphabet, you think that's fuckin' funny, jackass? Do you want your crush to respond back with "fโ after you spill your feelings out like this? (Take me back, Emma.) Huh? What if I did it to you? F. Did you fuckin' like that? What, did you just jizz in your pants because someone disregarded your entire effort of writing this ENTIRE paragraph FROM HAND in about fifteen minutes? That just makes me feel fucking rejected just like my ex. (Take me back, Roxanne.) f. What're you, fuckin' gay? Can I have a response that actually MEANS something instead of just shitfacing our "conversation" with the spam of "f?โ. Now occasionally with questions or something it's reasonable, but doing it to any fucking response they say. "We're having a nuclear crisis, you have fifteen minutes to evacuate." You're the type of person that would fuckin' say "fโ to that, you limp dick hypocrite. You think you can get away with this, right? You think it's SOOOOOO funny to do this shit, but I can guarantee that you'll be taken out back and shot soon. You're fucking dead, "fโucker.
okovko ยท 131 points ยท Posted at 04:32:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, release your brow. We are constantly holding our faces to keep up appearances. Just let your face go dope-y and enjoy.
I learned to do that when I noticed myself doing it all night, unable to sleep, replaying memories.
ha
this was my reaction when i was a younger, more belligerent type. anytime i saw a post online pointing out the mental benefit of relaxing i would tense right up and hunch/furrow even deeper as some kind of rebelious fuck you to the ether and whoever it was daring to offer me unsolicited good advice on the internet, i wasnt online to chill! serious fuckery was afoot and damned if i wasnt going to fuckerize along with it.
w_actual ยท 48 points ยท Posted at 04:44:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think I just had a stroke
okovko ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:08:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm glad you relieved that tension! I get a tingly feeling in behind my eyes after I'm particularly stressed and I remind myself to relax. I think I know what you mean, it's like a feeling of blood rushing. It's weird.
okovko ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 05:06:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, when you totally relax your face, you look kind of like an imbecile. So, yes. You are doing it now and you haven't even realized it yet. I mean, IDK, maybe you go around everywhere looking like an imbecile. In that case, I recommend that you furrow!
When taking a relaxing deep breath, try to feel like you're breathing into/expanding the space behind your lungs. Makes for a nice full diaphragm stretch.
And try and push your belly out at the same time.. I went through this with my psychologist and felt like a complete potato because the lady had to teach me how to breathe in, but just the act of fully inflating my lungs cut my base level anxiety by half.
Snukii ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:23:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
nhillen ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:16:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This seems backwards.... chin down, hands up, light on your toes, flex and exhale as the punches come in. Remember you won't knock them out with one punch, throw combinations, and the worst thing you can do when you get hit is just stand there and let them keep hitting you.
ebwax24 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:19:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I am constantly tense. CONSTANTLY. Like almost every part of my body. I've had to recently start teaching myself how to relax and it isnt easy for some reason.
But when i do actually remember to do this, and can actually get my body to do it, it feels amazing.
Lie down on floor (soft mat under preferably) and just let your jaw and tongue drop as much as possible. Preferabbly a few big breaths and some sighs help with that.If you can do that, you can probably do it consciously at some point by breathing in through nose, and out through open mouth.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:34:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your comment probably made the world a better place by 6500 happier peeps and counting, nice!
Tehsyr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:23:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been on reddit to know the only reason why my inbox would go well past a 100 notifications would either be that I finally made that one comment that got a crap ton of upvotes and replies, or I did something to piss off a user, which is usually the latter. I'm glad this time it's the former, and it makes me happy knowing I was able to help people from so far away with just a simple sentence.
I just can't believe this is actually a thing. People actually go about their day with every with their jaws clenched, hands in fists, all tensed up. It must be exhausting. That shit must shorten your lifespan.
jhryjm ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:09:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
On my third hour of breathing in, i think my lungs have rup
It was probably too tense already, and what you feel is the release. A professional massage might be a good idea for the short term, and doing yoga or similar stretching exercises to prevent it in the future.
I learned this and a golden aura meditation in rehab from someone who was super proud of his job. Got him through prison. He was the first murderer to be let out on parole in my state. It was pretty much aggravated manslaughter these days. Back then I was a murder charge. His winking at me made me feel like a piece of meat though. Dude scared me in a legit sence.
People tend to hold a lot of tension in their bodies. You may clench your jaw, tense your shoulders or squish your facial muscles. This is just a reminder to let go of that tension and relax.
Iโve been actively reminding myself to do this over the last month or so and it actually really helps.
OraDr8 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:23:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always have to consciously relax my face when I'm trying to rest, I think I'm relaxed but until I make sure my face relaxes I realise I was actually still tense.
Luhnok ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:25:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Elliot Hulse?
Sylfaein ยท 6795 points ยท Posted at 01:02:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
As someone with a phobia of needles my entire life, I finally (30 years in) had a nurse tell me to ask for a spare alcohol pad and sniff it right as Iโm about to get jabbed. She said the harsh smell is enough of a distraction to keep your mind off the needle. I was there for a flu shot, so I got to try it out right away; I wasnโt expecting much, but it worked! Ive been doing it ever since, and have no trouble with shots or blood draws now, which is huge for someone theyโve triggered panic attacks and near fainting in, before.
Edit: Thank you for the silver!
Hoping this helps everyone as much as it helped me. Explain it to the nurse whoโs doing your shot/blood draw, too! I always do, in hopes that theyโll remember and use it next time they have someone who struggles with needles, and pass the knowledge along.
For some reason I associate the smell of rubbing alcohol with shots, and so just the smell makes me dizzy. Itโs awful because my dad is diabetic and I can smell the alcohol prep pads and nearly vomit.
Iโve gotten better over the years, mostly because I need regular blood draws.
But sadly it doesnโt work if the smell triggers the phobia.
Edit: So this blew up a bit! I get blood work done about every 6 months due to a thyroid disorder so hereโs what I do.
If itโs not fasting labs, be sure to drink plenty of water! When youโre dehydrated your veins shrink and collapse some. If youโre hydrated itโll make it easier on you and the phlebotomist!
Close your eyes and take really deep breaths and exhale. Focus on your breathing, feel the air fill your lungs, feel the air leave your lungs as you exhale, DONT LOOK!
If you canโt close your eyes, focus on something in the room. Analyze the object, think in depth about it.
The alcohol has painkillers in it! It numbs your skin. ;) Remember this.
Maybe this sounds kinda bitchy, but donโt worry. Ask the nurse or doctor for their โbest stickโ or best phlebotomist. Some people are just really good at drawing blood.
Tell then beforehand you have a phobia. They get it. Theyโll do their best to help you.
Ask if they have a stress ball or someoneโs hand you can squeeze. That really helps.
This one is silly: Do it for your favorite person! Real or fictional, human or otherwise. Just imagine they need you to do this. Itโs kinda silly, but it works.
These are things that work for me and have made it easier. Iโm also lucky that Iโve had really good people in the past. I still go to the childrenโs center because where I live you can go until youโre 21. So theyโre really good because they work with kids so they have โnumbing sprayโ which is just cold spray, tbqh. It works in some weird way.
Fuck, now I don't know if I want to try this, since I spend most of my job cleaning electronics with isopropyl alcohol and don't want to associate the two.
A nurse about to draw blood told me to imagine my dream vacation and tell it to her. Was it the beach or the mountains? What excursions would you want to sign up for, etc. Before I knew it, she had finished. Before that I would sometimes have to lie down and/or get lightheaded.
I now ask nurses as they get started if they have any vacations planned, and as they talk I listen, and I haven't had any problems in years.
Iโm the exact same way. Last time I had to get blood drawn the nurse said to cough just as the needle goes in. The brain canโt process the pain at the same time so itโs not as bad. You could try it next time, but just tell them beforehand so they donโt get startled by the noise :)
2mg1ml ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 10:24:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But don't you have to be adequately still for needle insertions? Coughing sounds counterintuitive.
Unless you are trying to cough up a lung , a little cough that doesnโt really move your body should be ok. Better if you can just give the person using the needle a heads up about what you are going to do so they can just give a touch more stabilization to the limb they are working on as well as the vein they are about to access.
Source: EMT/Nurse for forever. Been starting IVs for 25+ years. Well, in between card playing and all.
Iโve only tried it once, while laying down and the nurse was holding my arm onto the bed. With that support I didnโt move enough for it to be a problem. Might not work if youโre sitting up
chefe57 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:08:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This entire reply makes perfect sense if you were talking about shots of alcohol
Hey man, I use them for anxiety not as a vaccine like some of the crazies out there. But hey, maybe shoving them up my ass will have a more direct impact.
jenflu ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:01:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chill my guy. They were saying to use essential oil's for aromatherapy essentially, their intended use. I would get if they were trying to sell them to you or telling you that they heal broken bones.
Exactly. And just like how people can associate certain smells with bad memories (like the one person above who gets nauseous at the smell of alcohol) some smells can have positive associations and help a person relax, such as in some essential oils. Itโs a thing.
You have friends over in r/antiMLM if you're feeling lonely over here.
Fenbob ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:51:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It gets better for you? Itโs got nothing but worse for me. My veins have stopped working in my arms, and now Iโm having to have blood work done from my wrists and itโs incredibly painful. Iโve gone hyper sensitive to it I think. I absolutely hate having blood done. And itโs a regular occurrence.
Have you tried having them rub and rub and rub some more, the spot they are going to poke? Wrists are painful anyway but once they identify the vein, have them rub briskly with the alcohol or chlorhexidine and the stimulation of the rub makes the poke hurt less
Fenbob ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:13:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think Iโve got a mental thing going on, but I really canโt deal with them rubbing or tapping my arm where theyโre about to dig. It kinda hurts but also feels really weird for me. I just think my heads trying to reject everything to do with needles now.
Which is annoying cause I never used to be like this, I was typically good with needles. But as itโs just got worse and worse, and my veins are getting just as bad(steroids).
Got one tomorrow, so Iโll ask them to rub me vigorously and see how it goes!
My daughter is 8 and has huge needle phobia to the point that during an emergency at the hospital, it took 5 nurses to pin her down while she screamed, fought and broke two fingers of a male nurse while trying to pry off his grip. After comforting her and reassuring her that she wasnโt a bad girl, the male nurse thankfully told her the same and that he wasnโt mad at her, explaining the fight or flight response to her, etc. She was crying hysterically that she hurt someone and didnโt mean to, that sheโs going to get arrested, etc. It was horribly traumatizing. After she went to sleep, I cried and cried because I know that whole experience had made her phobia even worse.
I warned and warned them, I warn every doctor, nurse or tech about her phobia and ask what I can do to help, that I donโt want her to have every experience reaffirm that fear for her.. and they always, always resort to pinning her down. This has created huge trust issues and more.
I recently read about something called a Buzzy which is basically a vibrating bee that you place on the arm thatโs supposed to help distract from the poke and reduce fear and anxiety. It may seem childish for an adult to try but I figure, if it works, why not have a needle phobic adult try it?? I bought one for my daughter to try next time she needs blood drawn, but in her case I hope itโs not too late for it to be effective. The second I even mention a shot or needle, she gets that wild look in her eye and starts looking for an exit, even if weโre at home. If an exit canโt be found, she immediately starts to fight. It sucks so much and I worry about the future, when sheโs too old for me to make her do what she has to do; will she avoid doctors and hospitals, even in an emergency, because of her experiences?
Iโve tried distraction, reward incentives, books, videos, meditation, and a hundred other โlittle tricks,โ to no avail.
pquince ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:51:23 on May 15, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Poor girl, I can definitely understand how she feels Iโm just as upset about the needle as she is. Only that Iโm an adult and I donโt wanna make a scene at the clinic. Over the past year I had GDM during my pregnancy so had to have a lot of blood work done.
Only one method truly worked for me. And that is to apply a numbing cream. Iโm hyper sensitive to the moment before the sting so the numbing cream when applied for an hour before the poke makes me feel so much better knowing that Iโm not gonna be feeling it at all. Even though I begin moping and dreading weeks and days leading up to that blood work appointment, and the drive to the clinic and wait for my turn makes me super nauseous.
The topical numbing cream that Iโm using is called Emla and itโs not cheap where I am in Asia. But I would gladly pay an arm for whatever helps with my phobia for needles. You maybe able to get it cheaper or even free in your country please check with the doctors or pharmacists!
Iโm the same way. Iโve never fainted, but I almost would every. Single. Time. That, and the nervous laughter. Pissed off many a nurse.
This gives me hope though, because Iโve always wanted a tattoo, but figured Iโd freak out about the needle too much to sit through it. And I canโt possible do the sniff thing all the way through!
Some places have a recliner that you can lay back in or a medical bed you can lay on. I ask for this and being able to recline when they do it greatly decreases the fainting for me. Will still feel a bit woozy but I donโt faint now.
I was told by a nurse to sniff an alcohol pad while I was in labor and feeling very nauseous. Thought for sure I was going to puke but something about that acrid smell made my nausea pass. It was like magic.
Nurse here, was gonna comment this! I used to work a floor with lots of postop patients and nausea is real bad in that population. I've shoved an alcohol wipe under many a nose before running to get antiemetics lol it can take someone from dry heaving misery to pleasant conversation in like 30 seconds.
I'll have to dig it out if you want, but I found some papers comparing alcohol rubs and either metoclopramide or ondanstron for nausea. There was very little difference.
[deleted] ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 13:56:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you can compare jesus christ and spiderman, doesnt make them the same. and its Ondansetron not ondanstron, and metoclopramide is for gastroparesis not nausea.
That is a very closed critical response one might say condescending when you discuss spelling of a drug.
There are papers going back 20 years discussing nasal isopropyl wipes as a treatment for nausea. A quick literature search will reveal that it appears to have a quicker onset of action than ondansetron and more recently its use in Paeds ER has been commended.
Further, Metoclopramide is used as a treatment for nausea yes it is used for motility of the gut but from experience it is more frequently used for treatment of nausea and vomiting.
I was jealous of me too... I was pretty miserable when I had my first baby, didn't learn this gem till baby number 2. I was like crap how did I miss something so simple for relief. You can bet when I had my third I asked for some and had to explain the trick I had been taught to the nurses. Hopefully they passed the wisdom on, they might have thought me weird though.
THATโS why the suggestion sounded familiar to me! Turns out that fentynol makes me sick and loopy as fuck, and the nurse had me use the alcohol pad trick until the anti nausea meds we brought and had time to kick in.
I had this fear my whole life until diagnosed with cancer. Needles are everywhere. Counting ceiling tiles or floor tiles always works for me. As soon as they start prepping...start counting.
Recently when I had to have some needles, which Iโve had previously and knew theyโd hurt like a MF, the nurse started drumming her fingers on my shoulder and the sensation took away SOOO much of the pain. Weird. But totally worked - not sure if it would help with your needle phobia, but pain wise, can recommend.
Sylfaein ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 10:49:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Funny thing about mine is that I know it doesnโt hurt, and itโs not pain thatโs bothering me. Itโs something about the needle itself that wigs me out. I have to be completely distracted, because if I see or think about that needle, my eyes roll up into the back of my head, and I scare people.
Itโs real. I bought a piece of plastic called a shot blocker after reading about the effect. Something about the way your nerves transmit pain signals to the brain and you can disrupt the flow if thereโs too much information.
Cost me like $3 and you canโt even feel the shot (you can feel the medicine though if itโs one that burns). Got it for the kids who donโt even care about shots at all now and I used it all the way through pregnancy since I got jabbed like 80 times. Itโs awesome.
Thatโs awesome - Iโm at the tail end of my pregnancy so wish I had have known about it earlier! Might look into it for the shots for the baby. Thanks for sharing
Firyali ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:19:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm notorious for having panic attacks over getting my blood taken. It got so bad once that they brought in an ultrasound to find a good vein. Will definitely try this. Thank you!!
Sylfaein ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:51:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I hope it works for you! Itโs been life changing for me.
Man, I wish theyโd tried that on me when I was getting the IV before my daughterโs birth. I was so freaked out, they stuck me 7 times trying to get the IV in, because my veins kept shredding (BECAUSE I was freaked out). They brought in an anesthesiologist to finally get it in.
Edit: Thank you for the silver!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:40:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If they require an ultrasound they shouldn't be practicing medicine. You can most often find a vein somewhere. If a patient is really difficult and options are non existent for a surgical team will place a port. This is common for cancer or dialysis patients. There's also a neat tool called a vein finder that shines a red light through the skin. I find it amazingly helpful. Source: I am a lab tech
10 years of medical school and expensive ultrasound machines or your index finger.
Belutak ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:30:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i got dizzy just by reading that
Firyali ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:53:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think it was mostly because I was freaking out so bad. The first person tried a few times, and after the third time I basically told him to fuck off, I was so worked up. So the doctor came and did it with the machine.
That seems a strange hospital policy - I would imagine that doctors are too busy for routine blood draws. But I don't know what hospital policies are like outside of where I live.
I ask for it every time, and explain the whole thingโhow I would nearly faint every time Iโd get a shot/blood draw before, and then they get to see how this works for me. My hope is that they do use this information later for others who struggle with needles.
That said, Iโve gotten some very weird looks when asking for the alcohol pad.
nlarita ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:20:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I will have to try this. I instantly turn into a scared child when I have to give blood. Itโs embarrassing.
Fun fact: alcohol pads also work as an anti-emetic. They actually work better than a medication called zofran which is used to treat vomiting. This trick has worked on tons of patients in the ambulance.
You could also do what I did. Get appendicities but be hard to diagonise. The pain from your appendix almost bursting combined with sepsis will make you completely forget that someoneโs drawing six huge vials of blood from you every three hours. I used to be terrified of needles, but those five days in the hospital almost cured me from my fear. I still canโt look at the needle going into my skin without feeling like Iโm about to faint, but I no longer have that crippling fair that would leave me crying at the doctorโs office or with the school nurse before a vaccination.
People told me being pregnant would cure my needle phobia. And I had a complicated pregnancy. I think they drew enough blood off me for another whole person. Still phobic. :(
Oh, that sucks! I think the reason I'm okay-ish with needles now is that I was in too much pain to care and realized that it needles weren't that bad after all. My phobia started when a nurse's hand slipped as she was drawing blood from me when I was 5, and the memory of the pain as my skin sliced open stuck with me, but once I realized the pain wasn't so bad after all (at 23, that took a while...) I'm okay with needles. Still won't ever get a tattoo though.
Congratulations by the way! Hope you and baby are fine now :)
I was told to do some push-ups right before getting jabbed and then getting the shot while lying down, itโs worked wonders! No more fainting episodes at the vaccination centre ๐
I also have a fear of needles, i unfortunately also have kidney disease so im getting stuck several times a month. Here's some things ive learned:
don't drink caffeine before, it makes me hyper sensitive to the needle and shakey.
Watch it happen, the surprise always made me jump and sometimes that led to a second poke. Also it helped me get used to what's happening eventually.
For IVs request a numbing agent first then dont watch. Always struggled with IVs, cant even feel it this way it made a HUGE difference.
Try sour candies like warheads, similar to sniffing alcohol.
For renal panels do NOT squeeze your first. This will show artificially high potassium and you'll get another poke.
A glove filled with hot water on your vein just prior to a draw might make the vein expand and a little easier to get, making it less painful.
Box breathing during. Inhale through nose, hold breath, exhale slowly, hold breath, start over. This will give you something else to focus on and breathing will calm you.
I hate getting my blood drawn, I'm not as bad as I used to be, but I still hate it. When I was 23 I got my blood drawn and almost passed out, the lady broke open a smelly tube to keep me awake. Maybe ammonia?
Thank you for the good advice, I will try the alcohol pad trick. Usually I just turn my body, look away, and focus on my breathing.
Man, I have a hard time turning away! If I know the needle is there, itโs all I can think about, and I canโt not look. I donโt want too, but I canโt help it. :(
Abdico ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:34:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone who blacked out before while seeing a needle at the doctor's I will definitely try this!
I don't really have a fear of needles, I just don't like them. I just tell the nurse to get everything ready behind my back while I look the other way and tell her to just get it over with as fast as possible.
I grew up in a doctors office and my parents had to keep yelling at me to stop sniffing the alcohol pads. I sniffed too deep once and got lighted and thought I had brain damage. They didn't tell me I didn't.
Man I just cry no matter what when a needle comes near me. I don't move i'm just sobbing without a single change in my posture so I don't make anyones job harder it's just weird
If you're afraid of fainting during a blood draw, focus on tensing your trunk and legs (while keeping the arm the needle is in relaxed ofc) it helps keep your blood pressure up and stops the blood pooling in your legs (stopping you feeling light-headed) and gives your mind something to focus on instead of the needle.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:53:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think this an actual technique. Where you regularly exercise on keep BP high so when you feel low. You just flex like a fighter pilot
When I went in for surgery they had this cold spray they they used while putting the needle in and I could hardly tell it was going in, which helped because they usually have to try a few time before they find my veins.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:20:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I'd like to try that as I'm giving blood tomorrow and hate the whole thing, but decided that wasn't a good enough excuse not to donate. Think I might get some weird looks if I ask to huff an alcohol pad though ๐
I hope it works for you like it does for me. Itโs made it so much easier!
Youโre going to get weird looks from the nurses when you ask, but itโs worth it, and those looks disappear when they see that it works. Iโm always hopeful that they learn and apply it next time they have someone whoโs having a hard time with the needle. This needs to be more known.
I fainted a couple of times because of my fear of needles as a kid but now I try to give blood as much as I can. And those are big-ass needles so it's still scary
I tried once when we had a blood drive at school. It was Carter. Saw a number of classmates and staff walking around with bandages on both arms, so by the time it was my turn, I was freaking out. Walked in, and found them digging around with the needle in one girlโs arm to find the vein, and her nearly passing out... By the time I made it to the chair, my nervous laughing had taken a turn toward hysterical, and I pissed off a nurse who obviously didnโt understand how phobias work. I havenโt been able to try since, but at least Iโm AB+, so itโs not like Iโve got great donor bloodโmy people can take anything. LOL
I throw up basically every time I get needled and my doctor prescribes me a combination of meds to be able to calm down enough to do the actual thing, I'll try doing this next time it's needed
Are you me? Iโve had this exact problem since I can remember with pretty much identical symptoms. Definitely gonna try this out the next time I have to endure that much dreaded moment.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:47:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was in a motorcycle accident. The nurse from a nearby clinic had me sniff a cotton bud soaked in ammonia to keep me conscious until the paramedics arrived.
Behn00 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:58:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs great that instead of refusing needles and putting yourself at risk you would still power through them
I need to try this on my next blood draw. Shots donโt bother me but I get that clammy, cold face, about-to-puke-or-pass-our thing every time I get blood drawn. Iโve had 2 kids and both pregnancies required a lot of blood tests so you would think I had gotten used to it, but nope.
Same! I had a complicated pregnancy, and Iโm sure they took enough blood for another whole person. Prepping for delivery, they still had to stick me 7 times for the IV, because I was so freaked out that my veins kept shredding when theyโd get a needle into them.
Ugh! I feel you there. They had to start using my feet when I was in for my first kid. I had severe preeclampsia. Iโm glad Iโm done having babies because the needle part alone was horrifying.
Me too (eclampsia, not the feet)! They went all up both my arms, and finally got it into the side of my left arm. Had bruises all over my arms for weeks...I looked like a domestic violence case.
After 30 years of fainting from injections, my dentist said "Breathe...your holding your breath" I never realised I was doing this and I haven't passed out since!
Iโve used this trick on patients with severe needle phobias! Or I get them to focus on wriggling their toes, and as the needle is about to go in, I say something really random like, โhey do you like pineapplesโ, โwhy arenโt cows blue?โ. They almost always go ummm wtf and by that point they have had the injection or blood test.
Needles make me feel faint, I donโt have a conscious fear of needles but I get really light headed anyway. Had a nurse hand me an alcohol swab for the same reason and it worked well. Asked for it the next time and the nurse was like โ...? Ok?โ But I didnโt faint on her sooooo
I would think of that as phobia, if itโs a reaction to needles. I would almost faint, too. Never quite fainted, but scared many a nurse. If you can get to the point where theyโre about to stick you and sniff as it happens, it works. At least it has for me. Hope it does the same for you!
i have a genuine question. why do shots bother you? you have had them before and know that they dont hurt THAT much, so what about the process troubles you?
Honestly, itโs a phobiaโan irrational fear. I know Iโve had shots. I know it doesnโt hurt really hurt. But thereโs something about seeing that needle, or even knowing thereโs one near me that sets it off. The rational side of the brain is reminding me itโs not that bad, and that Iโm embarrassing myself, but the louder part of the brain is screaming โNEEDLENEEDLENEEDLE!!!โ
I had a nurse take some blood one time and I didn't even feel the needle. She said the pain associated with the needle jab is actually the alcohol from the wipe coating the needle then irritating the hole. So she wipes the alcohol away before jabbing the needle. No other nurse has done that since.
It's not something that would work if you knew before hand but I remember being nervous about a shot when I was about 9 and the nurse said "Tell you what, I'll count down from 10 and do the injection when I get to zero so you have time to prepare", started counting, then did the shot on 8 when I was off guard and it was over before I knew what had happened.
It works with nausea too. When I came out of surgery, I felt great and tried walking around while still under a lot of medication and immediately got super nauseous and the nurse saw me about to throw up so she ripped open an alcohol swab and stuck it under my nose. My nausea went away immediately.
I just went in for surgery and hate needles too. They tried to talk to me and ask questions to help but I just zoned out. Right before they handed me an alcohol pad to sniff just in case. If never been given one before but just having a task to do as simple as holding a little wipe distracted me more than anything in my life.
Do it, pay yourself first. My paycheck auto deposits money into a savings account each month. Then I wait and cobble together the mortgage payment. I have never paid on the first, but I always pay by the 15th. Never impacted me negatively.
Since I'm saving so much in my check, I need my check and my wife's to pay the mortgage each month.
Treat savings like a bill. You HAVE to pay it each month. Transfer that dollar amount every month on the same date to your savings. Budget your savings into your monthly cash flow.
See, that phrasing has never occurred to me. We are saying the same thing, but that resonates differently. Treating it like a bill makes it "mandatory" and not a "luxury". Good stuff!
raikmond ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 06:41:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is extremely good advice that's consistent with several personal finance books I have read.
I like this. Here's how I think about it, as someone who is very comfortable despite not making much money.
I'm not just a single person who gets a paycheck and then spends it. I'm actually three people: Basic needs, no joke me, who takes what he needs from my paycheck and pays the bills. Responsible me who takes what is left over and puts as much as he can into retirement and savings (usually it's a predetermined amount). Then there is day-to-day, fun me who likes to go out to eat and do fun stuff, he gets what is left over.
Here's the best part. When something comes up, say I have an unexpected $700 dentist bill. Fun me doesn't give a shit, because it doesn't change my life at all, I don't have to pay for it. Responsible me has to pay for it, that's what he's been saving up for. Once my savings hit a certain level, like 5 digits, a multi hundred dollar unexpected expense doesn't even change the look of my savings account balance and doesn't stress me out at all. I decided to replumb my house last summer, didn't even think about. Responsible me paid.
And once you're really into it, fun me starts to like responsible me, so he even gives anything left over back, and even tries to have some left over.
Neither of us like no joke me, but we don't fuck with him at all.
Same. Not student loans but just regular old crippling debt. I always laugh at the "pay yourself" folks, like I'm supposed to just poof extra money out of thin air to do it with.
And of course 78% of the US population live paycheck to paycheck, so there's that too.
ogunther ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 05:30:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This SNL video is great and speaks to what your saying. https://vimeo.com/199334296 โDonโt Buy Stuff You Cannot Affordโ
he should look for a different place to live, or a different job. But yea those options and hard and scary, so let's rather bitch and make fun of the person who is telling you unforgettable truth about your life choices.
Oh I'm doing fine with my bills, I'm just not in denial that some people don't have that option. Not everyone is privileged enough to be able to just "look for a different place to live, or a different job". If it means abandoning family members, risking homelessness for months to years. Sometimes there just are no jobs where you live, and you need a job that pays well to move. But if you are naรฏve enough to say that, I don't expect you to understand anyway.
If it means abandoning family members, risking homelessness for months to years.
well thats a mayor exaggeration . Changing your place of living doesn't mean emigrating to Africa and not seeing your mom and brother for the next 40 years or something, and I think you understand that.
But it would mean you wouldnt be able to hang our with your buddies like you can now, and changing your current environment which is a scary experience. If you dont want that its understandable, however dont try to portray that as the end of the World and ''madness'' as if its not a alternative to a position where you struggle to even pay bills and have anything left afterwards. If you are too afraid to do it, just say so. Rather than making some excuses
Not everyone is privileged enough to be able to just "look for a different place to live, or a different job"
I would say that there are far more of those who can, than those who cant. And many of them dont, not because they cant, but because they are too afraid of changing stuff.
Sometimes there just are no jobs where you live, and you need a job that pays well to move.
If you live in a place where you literally can't save up any money for anything, you are already in a desperate spot and need to make major changes already. Asking your parents or friends or bank to loan money to you so you can move, or whatever like that. If you are in a shit position like that, staying put and thinking things will get better if you change nothing is even more stupid than risking. Complacency is its own stupidity if there is no future.
Again all said from a privileded perspective. "Asking your parents or friends or bank to loan you money", there's really no point to trying to continue with someone who says that.
...where do you think I am from friend? I give you a clue, I am not American, and I am not from a first World country either, nor are my parents wealthy or even middle class.
I have separate accounts for each. A checking account for bills, a savings account for saving, and a checking account for spending. I have the amounts direct deposited according to my need so I always have the amount I need.
Also retirement savings in a fourth account. And then a fifth account that holds money for paying taxes because my wife is a realtor, and we have to pay taxes out of her comission checks.
Literally the only reason I have a really great savings account that I'm fortunate about. Pay all of your bills, going through everything for the month, and then set aside X amount of dollars, and THEN when you spend money, only think, "I now have Y amount of dollars to spend for the pay-period."; don't think that you can pull money from savings. You can't.
If you're not used to it, it starts off kinda shitty, but it actually becomes something where you're like, "I really need to be setting aside more money into savings."
You know what feels good? 10% of my income in savings, all my bills paid, and enough money left over for almost anything i want. You know what feels bad? Enough money for literally anything i want and then a call from my credit card company.
What I do is put money in my savings as if it was a bill. If I know I can afford it I will increase the amount. I do this every time my paycheck clears.
I have direct deposit set up for two accounts, a fixed amount goes into my checking, whatever's left goes into savings. Raises, bonuses.. goes into savings.
I can add that when you have saved money and feel the impulse to buy something cool, wait a couple of days and think about it first. Often you realize you dont really need that thing or wont use it much and its not really worth it.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:55:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We factor a certain amount into our budget for saving. We act like itโs a bill each payday and transfer it into savings. Makes saving easier.
prep04 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:48:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not sure how this felt useless before you tried it?
ssntf7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:04:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having a rainy day fund is the most important thing. Also, "if you can't pay for it with cash, don't buy it with a credit card". This has saved me countless times from being broke AND in debt.
The Rich Dad, Poor Dad method switches the first two. Pay yourself (save), then pay your debts, then spend. But, this may work better on a larger scale. If you owe the bank $10,000 you have a problem. If you owe the bank $10,000,000 the bank has a problem.
mangist ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 14:55:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No. Save first, pay bills last. Bills can wait until their due date.
millre01 ยท 1054 points ยท Posted at 01:44:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bribe yourself with fun things to do the not so fun things.
Today I was tired after work but got a little care package in the mail, so I made myself go on the 2.5 mile run I didn't want to do before I could open the package. Now I'm refreshed and happy that I did the thing I was pseudo dreading, and I have a fun care package to open.
Iโve done this with video games. If I do my homework and clean up the house then I can spend the evening playing. I feel like a teenager but it really works for me.
i was told to do this as a teenager, but what ended up happening was it felt like a trap since by the time evening would come, i would spend the whole evening doing more work, and then realize i just wasted a whole day doing shit for my dad that seemed super pointless. Thats when i switched it the other way around. you can argue staying up late to do homework at that age, but not staying up late to do video games.
now, about the habits it's created 10 years later...
bamaja ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:49:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As an adult (LOL) between degrees working 3 jobs, I still do this. Dishes need done? Gotta do them before video games. SO's car needs an oil change or brakes changed? Guess what.
aside from it helping me, I think it teaches my kids something. They donโt get games or phones until their room is cleaned. Or whatever it is they have to do that day. Some days, their room doesnโt get cleaned until itโs supper time. But then Iโm like โsorry. Itโs dinner time now. Then bath time and bedtime. Maybe we will try again tomorrow.โ Lol
i ask myself, would future bakedlayz be grateful the dishes are done?
i read a tip on reddit about doing 3 things each day, 1 for my past self, one for my present self and one for my future self. when i do things for my future self, like pack lunch the night before, i make sure to thank my past self for being smart and practical and looking out for me lol because it really makes it easier to take care of myself
Reward systems don't work for me.. Why bother with something I don't want to do, just to do something I want to do and can do without doing the unpleasant thing? I can see how it could work, but I don't see the logic in it so my brain doesn't like it.
Get a bunch of pennies and two jars. The next time you're hanging out at home and do something that is "good for you" or has delayed gratification, add a penny to one jar. Every time you do something that has immediate gratification that you know might not be ideal in the long run, add a penny to the other jar. It's a dumb little trick to see how well you're taking care of yourself vs. spoiling yourself.
That's good advice, and I'm thankful for it, but honestly unless these pennies are gonna give me motivation to live that's not gonna do much in the long run. If anything it would make it worse because I would feel guilty.
It does not help, it makes it far worse. I've tried using guilt to push me into things before, but all it does is make it worse and make me resent whatever made me guilty.
Like walking the dog, he needs walked, I'm the only one who does it. So I feel guilty when I don't walk him that day. Only the guilt opens the floodgates and any progress I made is destroyed. I hate having to say it, but my mental health is more important than the dog getting a walk.
I honestly give myself pokemon stickers. Its stupid and childish but if I get enough stickers doing crap I DON'T want to do I get to do something I enjoy.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:15:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is specifically known as "temptation bundling." So to those saying the negotiating and bribing doesn't work - you could think about it a little differently. Instead of "rewarding" yourself with a positive if you do a negative, Pair them up so they have to be done at the same time.
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Love watching a TV show? Only allow yourself to watch it while you walk on the treadmill.
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More info (in an easy to consume way) from Freakonomics Podcast:
I felt that on a spiritual level. I went on a 10 month streak unemployed and ended up in extreme poverty. I'll never complain about having a job again.
Here's some Great Value Silver ๐ฅ
eyekunt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:44:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Thank you, you generous human.
Bard_17 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 06:39:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The reason I love cleaning is because of the satisfaction you get from delayed gratification. Nothing beats on the weekend putting on some tunes, eating a healthy breakfast and going to town on cleaning. I feel like I can do anything afterwards, haha
Bard_17 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 07:14:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tbh a little sativa helps, haha. If that doesn't work for you, just change hotel priorities. Make a list of things you have to get down by the end of the week or day and stick to that. Getting rid of little things day by days makes a huge difference imo for keeping a clean living space :)
Although on advocating for the devil.. Your mess, your fucking hard work and stress, piled in the places you took your last steps before surrendering to the day and readying for the next one. All in moderation.. I go a couple days of working and sleeping before I snap and clean it topside down.
Topotu ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:06:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And freshly washed sheets
ZonTeeN ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:01:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read that as "No greater feeling then coming home to clean a bedroom after working late" and thought you were a psychopath for a second.
L6fty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:59:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's so true. When i used to be very depressed as a teenager I'd never clean my room, like ever!
These days when I'm getting into a depressive rut it might take a couple weeks before i even notice my room is starting to get really messy. Once i realise i clean it then & there, even if i realllyyyyy don't want to & it really does help me feel a hell of a lot better then beforehand.
gtjack9 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 05:56:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The condition of your bedroom tells a lot about the person and their mood. I noticed my room is much tidier when I've been in a good mood.
I can totally relate. Iโve been in a rut lately and Iโve been totally neglecting my room, kitchen, and vehicle. I feel awful every time I come home to the same mess. But when I get it all cleaned up it really is a great relief and such a good feeling.
I agree with the guy below me(or above?), a persons room kind of represents a persons mind. Feeling like Iโve been doing okay because I made my bed today but yet my dresser is piled with junk. Just like Iโve been feeling better because I got back in the gym and exercising but Iโve still got financial and health stuff I need to still take care of that I shouldnโt be putting off.
L6fty ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:24:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im so happy for you!
E72M ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:46:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I'm getting depressed I normally start doing my weights to relieve stress.
I've noticed whenever I start getting really stressed I start slipping back a little into depression.
Final month of my course with 7 more exams to go...
Yeah but if I follow the other advice of cleaning up messes right away, I won't get a chance to "clean my room" really. So what I do is live like a pig for a couple weeks until my room is in squalor, then spend a whole day cleaning it inside out until it looks as good as the day I moved in.
That way I get to live out my innermost desire of hedonism and laziness, AND get to pat myself on the back for doing a good job cleaning up and taking positive steps. Faultless logic!
L6fty ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:29:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find myself doing the same thing but in shorter time periods. I dont think I could go weeks in a mess
I wish my SO understood that.... They said our house "isn't a priority right now".... It's so stressful having to clean alone (when I'm able) when they just trows trash under the bed.....
On god. I remember when I was at my lowest point I always remembered that if I can wake up every morning and clean my room I knew my day would be better
Amen! I felt so unmotivated for way too long and finally had the energy on the weekend to clean my long overdue for a clean bathroom. Instantly felt better. 2 birds 1 stone!
I wash dishes/clean kitchens for a living. This dramatically makes my job easier: clean up the space you are working in before you start work, maintain that area clean it as you go. When you finish and your dead tired you have nothing to clean.
gama3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:47:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Explains why everyone's first reaction to getting super pissed is wanting to wipe everything off your desk with your arms in a fit of rage.
Clean everyday! It will only take 1 minute to tidy up compared 1 hour or more! I got sick of cleaning being an event and deep cleaned and kept it clean and its improved every aspect of life!
Nowabo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:12:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Life is really much easier if you clean your workplace/room. I clean my room often and it makes me feel calm and clears my head.
When I tidy up my room, I can't find my shit, so when I find my shit I leave it out in the open so I can find it easily. Then it all accumulates and it looks like chaos, but more like... organised chaos. Then I tidy up again and the cycle repeats itself.
L6fty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:04:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get rid of stuff you dont need and you will be more efficient :)
After about... 20 years I managed to finally discipline myself to brush every time i eat something (anything)
but for the life of me, i simply can not discipline myself
i've tried doing it bit by bit. I've tried putting on music. I've tried inviting friends to force myself to clean (lol fail all my friends have no prob with my place being a mess). I've tried assigning time periods.
it's not that they fail as methods, it's that apparently i am unable to keep consistent.
plus, the apartment complex must have a serious issue with roaches... and the roaches are downright trolling me: One day i go and hoover the 6-7 dead roaches on the floor... Next day there are 6-7 different roaches at pretty much the same spots. And, fuck me, I can't stand roaches >_< Sometimes i think of just finding half a dozen house centipedes and let them hunt down the disgusting fuckers...
(btw, i know the roaches aren't trolling me, they are just avoiding places where they can sense existing dead roaches)
Apparently the reason for the calmness is because having a dirty room and constantly having it on your mind ( particularly when you find excuses to not clean it) is actually tiring for the brain over time
My ex wife kept a horrible house, no excuse for a housewife. Now that she's gone, the house stays clean because I clean it. Coming home and having to tiptoe around crap all over the floor and sit around filth, gnats everywhere, filled me with so much anxiety and anger. I was in a state of constant irritation.
kmjar2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:06:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cleaning in bulk is slightly more efficient, but everything is messy 90% of the time.
Cleaning as you go is slightly less efficient, but everything is nice and clean 90% of the time.
Easy decision to make.
I start my work days cleaning my office/desk. 1, I immediately accomplish something which gives me momentum, and 2, it is satisfying and reduces stress etc.
Iโm a little bit nuts and keep my spaces tidy. Not obsessively but probably verging on it. Part of my weekend is me looking forward to cleaning. Saturday is my day and Iโll do all my errands in the morning then come home and top to bottom clean my bedroom, then my bathroom and every fortnight my car.
Lying down to relax on my bed after cleaning and showering feels so good. Iโll go through my paperwork and make sure itโs all sorted as well. Waking up Sunday to completely neat and tidy spaces is almost like a drug.
Yeah, problem is that my room is a mess so im not really motivated. Suddenly I get motivation to do homework/ coursework. I think "I'll tidy my room, then start it, so that its nicer to work", then tidy my room. After tidying up, I'm now too tired to do homework and dont to it xD
I guess it depends on the person. For me, I need to have some mess in my room on my desk to be able to feel comfortable. If it's tidy, I make sure that I mess it up a little.
Stress cleaning and anxiety cleaning are productive ways to channel those emotions. It takes your mind off of what you were originally freaked out about.
It's finals week and my house is spotless.
8igby ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:19:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This isn't universal though. It works for my GF, for me it's just wasted time. I'm first annoyed I have to spend time tidying up something that isn't very messy, and them I'm annoyed when I have to go find that thing that I usually leave lying on my desk. But sure, for a lot of people this is great advice :)
If i put away everything orderly into boards and drawers, it always takes longer to take it out again than just leaving what i need everyday laying on the table.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:54:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If there's one thing I do everyday it's this. When you wake up make your bed and make sure all your dirty clothes are away. Even if all else fails in the day you've accomplished something.
I clean my aquariums and it gives the same feeling. My room is messy though, I don't have the energy to clean in after I'm done fiddling with my tanks.
niks_15 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:54:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. This is me
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:17:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this religiously on a Saturday morning. Gets me up after a good 8 hours sleep and means the start of my weekend is productive. Much recommend!
I love this advice. I clean my room/remote workplace the day before I work remote and it helps wonders. I am too easily distracted if there is any type of mess in my general vicinity.
I've always been on the opposite end of this, every once in a blue moon I get the urge to completely clean my room and every single time my room feels uncomfortable and alien afterwards until I slowly but surely clutter it up again.
My sister on the other hand got my mothers OCD and can't function in a cluttered environment. Different strokes.
Our bedroom is a mess at the moment as weโre in the middle of decorating. It is genuinely causing my depression at the moment. I know once we get it done that Iโll feel better but god damn.
I always thought it was a nervous tick with me. Before practicing for an interview, I would clean my office. I guess I was just trying to clear my head.
moal09 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:22:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Better watch out. Giving the same advice as Jordan Peterson is likely to get you lynched on this site.
My grandma, rest her soul, gave me a similar piece of advice, but with a variant. If you feel like you canโt survive a week, focus on getting through one day. One day too much? One hour. Too much? One minute. Whatever it takes, if you can survive one, you can survive another.
EDIT: Reddit gold?! Whoa dude! Really all I can think is Grandma would have been so happy to know that a lesson she taught me is being shared and hopefully heard by so many people.
Not joking, but I sing her โ10 seconds at a timeโ song almost daily. Sometimes I have to go through it a few times before I feel better, but it definitely helps. And itโs true- when I am feeling anxious or sad or stressed, it calms me down a little and I can continue on with my day for a bit longer.
Karmago ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 03:29:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For real, I've been taking life 10 seconds at a time the last month, and it's really the only thing helping me keep my shit together and not just break down and give up.
They've been saying that in drug and alcohol rehabs for 50+ years
klop422 ยท 292 points ยท Posted at 00:48:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I remember sitting in a double period of English in what's so far been the least fun year of my life - not as bad as others' worst years, sure, and I'm still young, but I got a little caught up in pining after someone who I'd stopped talking to, the same year the most important school exams were happening. Anyway, we were supposed to write some essay, and no ideas were flowing at all - I'm horrendously bad at practice essays in 'exam conditions' (under real exam conditions it's actually alright. I don't know what it is), so I looked at the clock and said "5 minutes is no time at all. It's over very quickly. I have an hour left in this class. That's just 12 times 5 minutes, and 5 minutes is no time at all." It was longer than no time at all, but each individual 5 minute span went by surprisingly quickly. I did have to take one toilet break, to be fair, complete with sloooow walk to and from the toilets :P.
I've been using the same trick since, though. It really helped me then.
(If you were wondering, I got over my cowardice, finally talked to her again, was good friends for the last year and a bit of school, and am now currently back out of touch a couple years after school)
Ooh the counting time in class thing does really help. I have a 3 and a half hour class three times a week and the only way I get through it is counting the amount of 5 minutes's left.
My entire life motto is I can do anything for five minutes.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:47:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A variant of this also works for doing long packets/other multiple choice things: oh Iโll just get to 25, oops, I did 26, better go to 30. And so on. I did this on a 150 question packet just this morning and it made it 10x more bearable.
Iโve always used fractions and percents to help break up time it really helps for those slow agonizing moment. Only downside is that Iโm 25% to death
I used to do basically the same thing on the more unbearable conditioning runs in when I played sports in middle and high school. Essentially, I would find a landmark about 10-20 meters ahead of me and tell myself that I would hold my pace until I got there, and only then could I ease up a bit- though I rarely actually did so. Repeat this after each landmark, and you can hold a decent pace and the run is over in no time! Same idea for timed runs, as well as set distance runs. Tbh, I think this made me a better, more confident runner in the end.
Also if you look at a clock and its 11:25, and you can leave at 12, tell yourself there are 35 minutes left, not "only a half an hour". Because when you look again in 5-10minutes it will still feel like a half hour and feel like its dragging.
Someone else may have already chimed in with this, but what you came up with that day is remarkably similar to the Pomodoro Method. Also a time management method created by a student who was working under pressure. It's pretty cool you can check it out online sometime. I like your version a lot.
guyhabit ยท 60 points ยท Posted at 00:24:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, it helps me with my anxiety and depression when it becomes too much. Having running thought, or intrusive thoughts can really ruin a day, but once I put my mind on just getting through the day it really helps.
I donโt know if this will help you but some things that Iโve learned that help me with intrusive thoughts and ugly uncontrollable feelings is instead of fighting and judging myself when that happens, is taking a step back and remembering that those horrible thoughts and feelings are not me they are just thoughts and feelings. As long as I donโt take any actions based on them they are completely powerless. Thoughts and feelings come and go, I get to choose which ones I act on. If I just wait it out, and donโt make them worse by hating myself and others and taking destructive and self-destructive actions, the bad ones will drift away like they drifted in.
I visualize it like sharks in the water. Some of us attract sharks, maybe we attract more because we are hurt from things that happened to us or things we ourselves did. If we fight and rage, the sharks just hurt us more but if we sit calmly they swim away and nice fishies can swim up to us and we can follow them to more peaceful waters. But the most important thing is remembering that you are not your thoughts and feelings - you are the person who chooses what to do with your thoughts and feelings. Donโt judge yourself for having intrusive thoughts - just donโt feed them, donโt fight them, identify them as irrational and wait them out. Anyways that helps me. Also the right combination of antidepressants and mood stabilizers and meditation. Best wishes friend.
I'm not going to lie it took a while to grasp and understand when people say certain key statements or words to get above the intrusive thoughts. It will take a moment to gain mental clarity of what it means (like an epiphany), but once you fully absorb its idea then it becomes clearer.
With the "one day at a time" I never really thought of or even cared what it meant when I was younger. I just thought it was for alcoholics and drug addicts to follow, but in reality it is something we should all follow within our everyday struggle. When the true meaning is found you kinda look at it and say, "ohhhhhh, so that's what it means" Once it's found though, it is up to you to keep that idea going. Fight against the negative and only remember the positive, and remember to live in your present self.
Another thing I heard that helped was: "thoughts are not facts."
Kitty42 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:28:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup I do the same, if i have a really busy day and it feels overwhelming, i take it one thing at a time. Ok I've done this.. now let's concentrate on doing the next and so on.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:29:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This has literally got me through life and kept me alive. Sometimes it has to be down to surviving for just a minute
This is how I think of it. My survival rate up to this point is 100%. Surely I can keep that going.
trgrz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:03:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I apply this theory to running and it helps me get there every time. Some days itโs one mile, some days itโs a 400 and some days itโs just one more step. But it really helps me to not give up :)
This mentality is how I got through my pregnancies with HG. Nine months was devastingly overwhelming. One hour was doable. "One little hour at a time" was my mantra.
This is true. I've had health problems that have very seriously made we wish I could die to be released from the hell. It just takes making it one second at a time in those moments
On that note, something that really struck me was the thought of going "If it's worth doing it's worth half-assing", on the notion that doing even a poor job at something is better than doing nothing when one is feeling incredibly dejected and unmotivated.
Sure, it seems like an absolute chore to go clean up a room while down in the doldrums, but cleaning it half-assedly is going to be so much better than not doing it at all.
BetaHH ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:56:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is 100% how I survived everytime I was somewhere I didnt want to be while in the military. Count the hours, count the days, if there are too many days count a specific day. For example, how many Saturdays until you're done. How many times will you wake up before youre done. Makes it all easier.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:55:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reminds me of very similiar advice in the book Infinite Jest. The book talks about using similiar methods to deal with pain and drug withdrawal.
maora34 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:41:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is exactly how we all got through basic training in the Army.
akg720 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:46:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve had to do that. It started as Get through this week. But life got harder and my mind and heart kept sinking to darker places. A week turned into Just one more day, then One more hour. Finally it dropped to silently repeating all day long, Just one more minute, Just get through this minute then weโll deal with the next, Just one more minute. Then I attempted suicide when even the single minutes became too much to bear. That was 7 months ago. I can safely say Iโm at least back up to One more month now.
This is exactly how I got through my first real struggle with anxiety a year and a half ago. I thought I was at my breaking point, but thinking about things in those terms absolutely helped keep me going
That's how I rolled at boot camp. One day at a time became a bit overwhelming, so I went with chow. Wake up, chow. Cool. Now two things before next chow. Now another 2 things and then chow. So much easier that way. Graduated, no problem.
KverEU ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:11:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this when I hurt (or hungover), works ridiculously well.
A Company Sergeant Major in the army used to say about tough physical exertion: โabsolutely everyone can work for 10 seconds. Once youโre done, just do it for another 10 seconds.โ
Now I apply that to way more than just hard physical work.
I love this comment because people often forget how wise the older generation is. Just try to ask your grand parents. My grandfather, rest his soul, used to say the same thing and he survived WW2, nazis staying in their house and killing his brother, communist uprise and years of non-stop bullying from communist party and much more. So i always remember this saying because if he survived all of this, i sure can survive my pitty troubles.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:33:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A variant of this really helped me once, I was doing a 50km walk and had hit a point where I didn't think I could carry on but I kept telling myself that if the finish was five metres up the track I would make it, so I could always get five metres further on
effa94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:54:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i do this for when im really sick or hangover or in pain, not for any depression related stuff
This has been my go to for much of my professional career. It is amazing how much easier it is to manage times of extreme workload when you stop focusing on how much you have to do over a multi week period of time when you stay focused on just TODAY.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:29:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We have this saying in drug addiction recovery circles. "I won't use just for this next minute, hour, day, week, month, etc.." "One day at a time". "I won't use today" etc.. It's very applicable to life, too.
I'm sorry but for some reason focusing like that just really makes me want to kill myself more then usual. Something about repeating that time over and over and over.
gabe1108 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:08:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"It gets easierโฆ Every day it gets a little easierโฆ But you gotta do it every dayโโโthatโs the hard part. But it does get easier" -Jogging Baboon
I dropped out of school because the first time I tried college , I did stuff like this. Eventually, the assignments piled up and I couldnโt do them well. There simply wasnโt enough time to turn in a good assignment, let alone keep up with the studying I had to do. I ended up getting so overwhelmed by all the work, my grades tanked. Eventually they got so bad that I ended up getting kicked out of school.
Now, there were other things going on that also influenced why I dropped out. But, Iโm not gonna get into that.
Iโm at my second attempt at college. I started keeping one of those agendas in my backpack. Anytime I get an assignment, I immediately write it down in that agenda. When I have a gap between my classes, I use it to knock out some of the work I need to do, even if it isnโt due for another week. This made school 1746266362x easier for me. Somehow, my days got easier because Iโm not always scrambling to get the work done the day itโs due. In my opinion, writing down what needs to be done and applying a little โapply ass to chairโ mentality can really make life easier.
Now, I know this is some unsolicited advice. Maybe what you are doing works for you, maybe it doesnโt. All I know is that it didnโt work for me. Hopefully, you take this into consideration because what I have mentioned before was a game changer when it came to school.
Best advice my best friend gave me was to take it one day at a time. The past has already been written. The future is distant. The only thing that matters is NOW
Iโm not a huge religious person at all, but one thing I once read and then heard again was something one prophet said, โDon't be worried for tomorrow, for tomorrow will be worried for itself. Each day's own evil/trouble is sufficient.โ This has actually helped me focus on resting when I was up at 3am worried about the mortgage, bills, work, relationships, etc. It would always work out, even with me giving myself anxiety, depression, and probably close to ulcers in my early 20โs. Itโs been many many years and Iโm still here without anyone dying or going to jail because I didnโt pay the mortgage on time when things were bad! Things change very quickly, good and bad.
Also putting things off until tomorrow/later is easy until you realize today is yesterday's "tomorrow" so you might as well just do it now. I've been so much more productive when I realized that I'll feel the exact same way tomorrow as I do today, so I might as well do those things now.
This is the premise of programs like NA. โJust for today.โ Then the next day, โjust for today.โ Soon enough, youโve wracked up a year or five clean (or whatever it is that weโre talking about).
I really hate that idea of living in the now to the exclusion of thinking about the future. Because itโs fucked me over so many times that I end up procrastinating and hurting others.
mus0u ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:35:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I went through basic training some kid in my flight had a countdown of days until graduation. My brother (also prior military) told me in a letter to stop counting the days (after I wrote him a letter saying the days drag) and to live chow to chow. You get three square meals a day, pretty much at equal hours between each meal so knowing you have two hours to lunch or dinner or a lot better than saying there is 14 hours until bed time.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:34:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have been using this through my entire high school year. Last year it was "get through the week and you'll soon be on break." This year it has been "get through the day and you'll soon be through the week." Its been a really tough year for me but this mindset has been getting me through it
_xephia ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:00:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't even begin to explain how helpful this mindset is. It allows me to ease my anxiety and get things done faster. As a student who worries too much, I always get stressed every Monday while thinking about everything I have to do for the rest of the week. By taking it day by day, I get to solve problems when I meet them, which keeps my mind at rest for everything in the far future.
nayiro ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:24:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Won't you afraid there's something big enough that entire day won't be enough? Wherever I plan, I can't get those out of my head and I keep worrying until they are all done.
When I was going through the hardest point of my life, I read somewhere to just keep saying to yourself what you are doing right then. "Right now, I am driving down the street. Right now, I am looking at a bird. Right now, I am listening to music." When I was at my worst moments, this helped me survive the next few minutes.
My version of this is along the lines of "If you always make today the best it can be then you never have to worry about tomorrow". This is for people (like me) who tend to try to orchestrate things with a view to the future. Can really get in the way of the present.
Every time I've toasted someone (as in "Cheers!" when drinking, not got someone stoned) I've always said "Happy Tuesday 30th April", or whatever day and date it is. It's always reminded me that today only happens once - make the most of it, do something you've never done before.
Someone told me a while ago that they started copying me when they heard me do this and it really helped them live more in the moment. That made me happy.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:32:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandmother use to ramble that, all the time. She was always saying "there's nothing you can do. What're you gonna do? Just take it one day at a time, that's all you can do." When I was younger, it was just a quirky thing Grandma muttered. Now that I'm all grown up (HA!), I find myself muttering the same thing, to myself, on occasion. It was probably a coping mechanism she developed, as a single mother with 13 children, and just continued it as a means to deal with the stresses of getting older. But, yeah, one day at a time...
An old boss of mine was an alcoholic in recovery... not sure if it was AA or another 12 step program, he wasn't as open about that part because it was still an uncomfortable thing back when he started the program... but a piece of advice/command that he would often give me when I was overwhelmed was "The war is already won, I just need you to win the day".
Any time I got overwhelmed by a professional or personal problem, I would think about that... I don't have to save the world, I just have to get through the day. It gave me a lot of comfort.
Yes! When I started being a vet tech, there was one super difficult day and my supervisor said just know that the day will end. It really helped getting through super long days.
I used to go to bed every night telling myself I just had to make it through the night and tomorrow it will be okay, I can give up then if I want. Then repeat the next night, etc
Another way to think about this is that many people are always living in their heads, the past, or future. Rather than living there and occasionally visiting the present, live in the present and visit the past and future as you practically need to.
If you ever need to visit the present, focus on every detail of a situation, from the colors on the walls, to the temperature of the room, to the sounds in the air
Not taking your cellphone into bed with you. After awhile you will sleep much easier without the distraction and blue light shining straight into your eyes before bed.
[deleted] ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 05:21:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Jam3z01 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:02:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No sleep gang
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:05:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just last week I passed out in the office. I'm in my 20s. Thankfully someone caught me or I would have been concussed and that can paralyze you or kill you. The most embarrassing thing ever as I lay on the floor waiting for the ambulance with everyone in the office sees me there, weak, vulnerable.
The doctor did full checkups. Everything is fine. I had just been chronically sleep deprived. I learned it the hard way.
If it takes work to sleep, if it's not easy, you fucking put that work in and make sure you get your sleep hours. It might happen at school or home, it might be next time you're drinking or skip a meal. The longer you are sleep deprived, the more inevitable that embarrassing moment becomes, but you might not be that lucky, and end up dead.
Is that automatically on? Because something within the last year was screwing up my settings and made it so I had to uninstall f.lux because it was screwing everything up. I wonder if they were fighting each other and that's what caused it.
It seems that other people have answered it, on the Samsung and Google phone, it's an option on the quick bar or the display settings. I have mine set to come on at sunset through sunrise.
how do you manage to go to bed so early, i canโt fall asleep until 1 am
Eliongw2 ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 06:04:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if you have to wake up every day at 5 am and come home at 6 pm you will fall alsleep at 10 pm quite fast... never happend to me before my first job either, was always awake until 1
It's also nice to get up with enough time to relax in the morning before you go to work. I get up an hour before I need to, so I can slowly drink coffee and wake up before I have to actually get ready to go.
LeO-_-_- ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:54:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also don't go to sleep early, but I think routine and not using your phone in bed are probably your best shots.
On the other hand, if you've already tried that and it's impossible to sleep early, you should probably see a doctor. You could have some condition.
If you are like me and can't resist using your phone in bed, install an app like Twilight that lets you turn your phone to a way more warm color than the standard 'night mode' will allow. Mine makes the reddit dark mode look like a dark red at night.
munit_1 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:53:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude they are browsing and stuff, i can go to bed too at 10pm and shure i wont sleep before midnight.
I'm not a tech savvy person so I don't know how to properly explain, so here's my best attempt: Your phone has a very clear picture and it's bright. They also subliminally keep your brain alert and tire your eyes. Part of what makes your picture so crisp is the blue tones. Most phones have the ability to turn that off so the picture becomes softer, with a yellow hue and can aide in going to sleep (as opposed to keeping your awake with the blue lights that stimulate).
Part of the goal is to disassociate your brain from laying in bed and playing with your phone. This goes for reading, watching tv, or whatever else you may do while laying in bed before you sleep. If you do these activities in a separate room and only go to bed once you're truly ready to commit to sleeping, then your brain will start to identify your bedroom with only sleeping. It sounds silly, but it's made a world of difference for me. I fall asleep much faster now.
I do want to try this stuff, but I live in about an 11x9" box and my only furniture is one wooden desk chair and my bed. So I use my bed as my couch. I know mentally separating spaces is important, it's hard to sleep three steps from where I just worked for 5 hours in a row
i have mine set for 8:30pm-8am (i get too many work calls/txts at like 9pm), you can also set it so a immediate call back will go through for like emergencies.
Interestingly, it's the opposite for me. Reading a little Reddit in bed will make me super sleepy and will make it easier to actually fall asleep. The only downside is I sometimes forget to put my phone on its charger before passing out.
dlawnro ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:06:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to charge my phone overnight, but I started noticing the battery life degrading pretty quickly, so I decided to switch it up. Now I charge my phone in the evening, so it's fully charged by the time I go to bed. Then I plug it back in first thing in the morning and top it off while I'm getting ready for work.
I feel like it's helped a lot with maintaining battery health since it's not sitting on the charger all night long. Plus, I don't have to worry about forgetting to charge it or it coming unplugged overnight.
kmeyer63 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:32:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This! My wife and I charge are phones downstairs so we don't take it in the room with us. Helps keep the bedroom for it's best two uses.
Not taking your cellphone into bed with you. After awhile you will sleep much easier without the distraction and blue light shining straight into your eyes before bed.
Since I use it for my alarm, I put a little black cloth over the light. It helps greatly!
The twilight app is great for reducing that blue light, times itself to the sun or you can set your own time for the filter to come on. I have bad anxiety, if I'm left alone with my thoughts before bed I work myself into a tizzy, heart racing and wide awake, feeling like I need to jump out of bed and tackle that thing I'd forgotten about. Instead, I will read and fall asleep, either to a reddit thread going through the most mundane comments or reading a book I've read before.
qaisjp ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:52:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think this will solve the inverse problem for me where I spend too much time on the phone in bed when I wake up.
It's funny, I take mine to bed sobi can fall asleep. I tried leaving it out but I couldn't distract myself to sleep. Before I knew it, it was 4 am. Grabbedy phone, started playing some stupid word game and passed out.
So, genuine question, do you not worry that friends or family wouldn't be able to get a hold of you at night (thinking for emergency things)? Do you not worry about not having a phone nearby to call for help if something happens or someone breaks into your house? Or even something as silly but useful as using the flashlight on your phone?
I'm on call 24/7 for work so I always have at least one phone with me, usually two. I don't consider it a burden at all.
Edit: just realized maybe you meant just 'into bed' I was thinking you didn't even bring phones into the bedroom. I know some who leave phones in another room or at work/school or in a car, just baffling to me.
OMG I started having my husband plug my phone in on his side of the bed every night and it has changed my life so much! He has never had a problem going to sleep but I would stay on my phone until 3 or 4am. Now when he goes to bed he takes my phone and plugs it in on his side and it's great! Sometimes I have a hard time sleeping but since my phone isn't within arms reach I don't look at it. I sleep way better now.
Honestly I hear this a lot when I tell people I have sleeping problems but it just seems like I'm the exact opposite. I can not fall asleep when it's quiet and just the noise from a fan or something does not work. I have to be focused on something like my phone and allow myself to drift off slowly, even if it's off to the side and it's just someone narrating a YouTube documentary. I even went and bought a wireless charger so I could set my phone elsewhere and let it charge up but I haven't been able to use it effectively yet.
This sounds so good in theory, but what to do to fall asleep then? On days when I'm not that physically tired, I end up tossing and turning for hours - very frustrating. Better than that is to let something on Netflix wear me out until I fall asleep. At least I'm entertained.
As a caveat I like to keep my phone next to me to help me wake up in the morning. It sounds silly but the screen does wake up my brain more quickly plus I get to do something I enjoy.
My phone has a blue light filter function. I keep it on all the time.. This started accidentally because I forgot to turn it off one morning. My eyes/head hurt less overall with it on though. Also, it makes you realize how damn blue the "white" is
I have a really old alarm clock. One that goes BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP until you want to hit not just the clock but yourself. It's effective because I hate it so much that I've activated my inner clock, almost always waking up naturally before that fucker goes off.
My tactic, which I hate myself for doing but works perfectly, Is having one of those kind of alarm clocks on the other side of the room where I can't reach it. Actually have to get out of bed and take a few steps to turn it off at which point the hardest part is already over.
I did try it but did not notice any difference. So I changed it back - itโs my ritual to watch one (or max two) YouTube vids before sleeping. Had no problem falling asleep.
Hoedoor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:42:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This works, i don't do it anymore, but when I did do it, i slept easier
Especially combined with not drinking caffeine past a certain time
Turn off blue light filter at a certain time, then do not disturb filter. My phone goes to blue light off at 9 and dnd at 1030. Helps me get off work he phone on time and get to bed, but then I also get a few minutes when my alarm goes off to wake up and read the headlines.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have the cellphone thing down. Now if only I could just leave the laptop out of the bed.
I don't use my phone in bed! - me with one of those hospital table things that slides over your bed so i can laptop and lie down without making it lose all air flow.
100%. I stopped when I got to college and I'm much happier for it ever since. I've suggested it to my roommate, but she ignores it, even though he talks about how hard it is for her to sleep
Reading a book before bed is the best thing. Keeps you occupied but I often find that I read two pages then pass out immediately. It's less strain on your eyes and just enough stimulation to slow down your brain for sleep.
I usually spend up to 10+ hours a day in front of my computer (2 monitors) + there's a bunch of RGB lights sinse its a gaming system. I don't think I've ever had trouble sleeping besides when ai get woken up by loud noises. Guess I'm lucky?
I don't understand people who do this. When I'm up, I'm up, when I'm in bed, I'm either fucking or sleeping.
I can understand staying up late into the night till you realize it's 3am and you're surfing reddit on the couch.
But once I meet the bed it's bye bye world and hello sweet sweet sleep. I use a regular alarm so the phone just ends up on my charger by the bed, un-used.
I can't imagine the neck, back, and eye strain from using a phone in your bedroom at night while laying down.
impossible when you work for a 24 hour job and are on call all day every day.
i can't wait to leave this place, it's exhausting. (currently working an overnight because of a call out, and have to be back in at my regular scheduled time tomorrow.)
Ahmrael ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:29:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's a nice idea and all, but my ambient noise app is on my phone. I need to look at the screen to start it, and it needs to be near my bed to be the most effective it can be.
im not quite that disciplined yet, but i have made the rule that if the light is off, the phone is off. the second i decide to turn off my bedside lamp i put my phone down. ive been falling asleep much faster and more easily.
Opposite effect for me.
Watching random shit in bed lets my brain engage with it enough so I don't think of other things.
I realize that's more of a 'me' issue though.
More on topic - definitely do get blue light killers for your PC (either natively in windows 10 display settings or by f.lux program).
It helps to prevent pushing your sleep schedule forward by staying up too late.
rit96 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:01:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is it weird that i can sleep easier with my phone? Because i'm doing something and that would make me tired
Also my phone has a "bedtime mode" where it shuts off all the blue lights. A lot of stuff doesn't look right, but you can still read just fine and it doesn't leave you wired.
Also turn on the sleep mode or whatever itโs called which turns your phone yellow-ish (rather than using blue light) after the certain hour of your choice.
As someone who has done a lot of research into this kind of things effect on sleeping etc, this is true, HOWEVER what I will say is that if you can make your phone's screen dim (literally turn down the brightness to 0) then it will have little to no effect on you getting to sleep.
My phone has what is called "night light" and basically what it does is that it applies a red filter that is easier on your eyes. I first thought it was kinda weird, but now I feel like I sleep way better and my eyes don't hurt when I look at the screen.
Ive never taken my phone to bed and always sleep around 10 pm, my friend sleeps next to his pc and ends and starts the day with his phone yet he can manage on going to bed at 11:30
Stick to the same sleep schedule on your days off that you follow on days when you have to be somewhere at a specific time (like school or work days).
I spent my whole life sleeping until noon on weekends, thinking I was storing sleep in some imaginary sleep bank. I recently started waking up early on weekends, and now I don't have trouble waking up when my alarm goes off during the week. Plus I have all this extra time to do stuff because I'm not sleeping all day.
[deleted] ยท 4173 points ยท Posted at 01:31:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I loved working the swing shift, 2-10 PM. I'd sleep from 1-9 and got the best sleep of my life. Had several hours in the morning to use how I wished, I actually ate breakfast and exercised before work. I've given up on exercising before 7 AM, I just can't bring myself to do it.
katasian ยท 688 points ยท Posted at 02:25:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I honestly wish I could work swing shift sometimes. That sounds like it would fit me just right. But thereโs not a lot out there that isnโt 7-4 or 8-5 if I want to keep a govt desk job.
Best of luck to you! Iโve seen it be a difficult adjustment for some officers doing radios. Usually when the adrenaline of a call comes in you get to act on it in a way that involves physically moving. When some switch to dispatching they seem to have trouble adjusting to the new way of handling that adrenaline.
Iโve also seen a prior officer become one of the best dispatchers Iโve seen. So it really can go either way.
I would recommend going on ridealongs! Good luck and thank you!
Afternoon, or 2nd shift, generally 3pm to 11pm, is my least favourite due to the heat (I'm a welder) but I love being able to sleep in and go in refreshed. My favourite Aare nights, usually 11pm to 7am, its so much more laid back, the heat dies down, I get home, shower, sleep till 3, have the rest of the afternoon to chill, run errands. I sleep lesx (6ish hours) when i work overnights and feel thd best before and after.
Day shift can fuck right off, the only good thing is I can jump into the pool after work on the hottest part of the day. It gets hot where I am, southern Ontario, Canada.
Fortunatelyin the construction and i dustrial sectors wd rotate shifts weekly, people hate it, I love it. Dentist appointment? Schedule it in the morning after a night shift or before afternoons, for example, rather than straight days. Plus, when you rotate, they pay shift premiums. On midnights, i was making $2/hour more than days. I'd take nights as my favourite, rotating next.
On the flip side, I have my kids all day and don't have the benefit of daycare until my husband gets off work at 430. But, I find there just isn't a lot out there from 4 or 5 to midnight or later that pays enough to make it worth it. Oh, just noticed you mentioned govt job. Disregard everything I said. Y'all are special.
Reading this thread made me realise that the job fields I want are typical 9-to-5s. I work nights and absolutely love it. For whatever reason, I am alert and happy when the sun isn't overhead.
But it's retail work and barely pays the bills. The only positions I know of with overnight/swing shift hours that aren't retail are manufacturing (still pretty menial) or doctor/nurse (which is not for everyone and I can't afford).
Try being an emt you can work any time because people always have emergencies and the cost of entry into the field is much lower than being a RN or MD if you find out you like it you can transition into being a medic. It was also said above you could try dispatching which is less hands on but if that's more your speed it makes decent money and you could be either a glorified call taker or you could be running the operations behind the scenes calling for other units and making sure people on scene have the tools they need.
We had a cool manager at my last job that allowed us some flex time, so I chose 10am-6pm. I could bike into work, and have the gym showers to myself since everybody else was at their desks by 9am.
Take the train home, after the worst of the rush hour, and be done with my workout by the time I got home. Next day, train in after the worst of rush hour, ride home, workout done.
Same here. Most of my work week is the swing shift, and I love it for all the reasons you do. I love waking up when my body is ready to wake up, not when an alarm tells me to. But then I get to the weekend where i do early mornings and it throws everything out of whack for me. Especially working till 10 on a friday night and having to be in for 9 the next morning. I think consistency is the key for all schedules, and working either all nights or all days makes a big difference in how functional people are.
Right! Its rather scary to think that those who are in charge of our lives (doctors, nurses, medics, police, firefighters) can start their shifts at any time of day/night and work for up to 12-24 hours at a time. Pulling all-nighters and then having to be awake & coherent in the morning should be for college students, not surgeons.
You're absolutely right. My above comment I was working on an oncology floor. Who wants a sleep deprived, hysterical nurse? No one. But apparently 12 hour shifts improve "continuity of care."
IDK about you but I'd rather have three well rested people than two hysterical people.
Oh geeze โcontinuity of careโ my ass! Lol I bet any patient would rather 3 well rested nurses. On the plus side though, 12 hour shifts instead of 8 means working one less day, so one less time you have to put on a bra & make up & deal with traffic. Right? (Also thank you for all that you do!)
Best friends fiancรฉ is a firefighter. Starts his shift at 8am and ends it at 8am. So all of the night EMT and Fire calls are run by people who have been up all day and may or may not have been up all night.
After shift, heโll sleep during the day if hes able to, but sometimes he has stuff to do and thereโs been times where he literally wonโt sleep until the following night.
I have so much respect for first responders and doctors who do this for years as their living. Crazy shit, man.
Yep. Can confirm as my ex husband is a ff and works 7am-7am. He can go to sleep at work at 9pm but obviously has to wake up & go to every call throughout the night. If he canโt fall back asleep when he gets home at 7am the next day, he is a zombie. Its nice that he is available to get the kids ready & bring them to school, but most of the time I would prefer he would change into his pjs, close the blackout curtains, turn on the fan, close the door, and sleep until dinner. He doesnโt have to work for 72 hours, so itโs not like he has to worry about messing with his work sleep schedule. But he feels like heโll miss out on the day and pushes himself to stay awake most days. Poor first responders man...
Jeez... more power to all you guys! I had to work a swing shift and I absolutely hated it! I'm a mess if I'm not asleep by 10 at the latest, weekends included. It's too bad more people couldn't schedule their work hours how they want to!
See, everyone thinks my claims of hating mornings are because I dont get enough sleep. U get plenty. My brain just reacts to being awake in the morning the way yours does if you're up too late - everything feels wrong and I'm a cranky mess. I'd rather sleep from 4am-noon and work late.
I remind myself that there are studies showing that 'night people' were important to early civilizations as someone had to be awake at night to watch for dangers. This means that we arent weird or wrong! :)
I will be an evening shifter the rest of my life. Waking up early makes me panic, because I can't make myself go to bed earlier. I literally drove myself insane to the point I had to go in and get a shot of Ativan trying to work at 6am with a 30 minute commute.
Some people are not cut out for mornings. I am those people.
Same. It was the best. Non-packed gym, non- rush hour commute, running errands in the morning; and hey staying up late asf if I felt like it.
Now I have a diff gig and get paid more but I still long for those days.
Ya I think some people just have a much easier time on unorthodox schedules. It has never been about the number of hours of sleep I get, but about when I wake up specifically.
If I have to wake up at 4-6AM even if I had 8+ hours of sleep, I still feel terrible, and it can take 1-2 hours for me to really feel awake and energetic, whereas if I'm working a swing shift or graveyard shift, waking up for work at like 1PM or 10PM or w/e, even if I only had 6 hours of sleep I generally feel amazing and full of energy immediately.
There were two options for shifts at my first job: 6AM-3PM and 3PM-12MN. Really wish I got the first one so Iโd have had afternoons and evenings free, but the great thing about the night shift was I could go to sleep as soon as I got home (around 1:30-2:00) and never needed an alarm to wake up.
Thats not a swing shift. I work a real swing shift and it fucking sucks. Its called a 6-7-7. 6 days on day shift, 2 days off, 7 days on after noons, 1.5 days off, 7 days on midnights, long weekend. 28 day cycle. It has ruined my life.
This sounds great, but I donโt think I could do it because it gives me anxiety to have to work at the END of the day. Iโm always worried Iโm going to forget to go in and be late, and I have to plan activities knowing I have to go to work later. For example, if friends want to go to the beach or pool and day drink, I canโt day drink (or at least have to be VERY careful).
I had that shift at a video store before they all went over and it was amazing. To have my current job with those hours... Thank you for reminding me about how good that was.
I have been mocked at so many job interviews when asked what shift I wanted to work and my reply was third. In fact I'm sitting here at 4:30 am typing this because I cannot sleep at night. I usually sleep well when I sleep at my natural sleep times, but sleeping outside of them? Nope! So why should I slave in an effort to try to get up for work to punch in at 7 am when my natural sleep cycle is telling me that is bedtime?
Ariscia ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:37:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TIL I have been working the swing shift because I can only get up for work at noon.
Swings is a great shift. You can get all your errands done any day of the week, and since it's before work you're never burned out and far less likely to procrastinate it (at least I am). Plus you can have a nice lunch at a leisurely pace. Sometimes it sucks to get home so late when all your buddies are going to bed for work in the morning, but you still get weekends.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:06:08 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm late to post, but I currently work 1-9 and yaaas. It's so nice. I never need an alarm anymore :)
Working overnights is much the same for me. Working from 9pm to 6-7am and then shopping from 9-5 in the day everyday, I get into a rhythm that feels weird compared to the rest of the world but honestly I hate working during the day since it's about 100% more stressful.
Yep my favourite shift is 1- 930. Fits my daytime routine perfectly. I am not a morning person and I find if I finish at 3 I get stuck in afternoon traffic and am too tired to do anything anyways.
If you go to bed 3 hours after you finish an 8 hour work day, it is. The mistake people make is working 8-5, stay up until midnight, then try to get up at 6am and get burned out.
I understand it's probably easier to go to bed earlier on your schedule and you have more hours in the morning when other businesses are open so you can get things done.
ihrable ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:29:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't even crack the sheets before 11am! And at my age, why should I:)
I recently started working from home for a company based in L.A., and it's glorious. I wake up pretty naturally around 7am, start working, take a lunch, end my day at 4pm, sleep for an hour, then I'm up until midnight. I can't think of how I could improve on that.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:12:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm sure thereโs people that it doesnโt affect or matter to but this is why I think night shifts shouldnโt exist. How can you function when youโre throwing your rhythm off like that? How do you enjoy weekends if you keep your same work sleep schedule?
95Milk ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 02:04:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Back when I worked 10 pm to 7 am, I felt like I had the best sleep. I would sleep right when I get home and wake up in the afternoon. Hang out with friends or whatever until I had to go to work then repeat. I wish I could still work that schedule but I'm glad I don't work in a warehouse anymore.
Glatoams ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:16:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try bartending brk
95Milk ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:35:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe when I'm old enough to work I'm a bar. Or maybe when I get over my crippling social anxiety.
I loved working graveyard (9pm - 6am). The key was sleeping the same schedule on the weekends and it was no problem. The people I worked with over the years that couldn't do it always tried to sleep a different schedule on weekends and that will dick you up in a hurry.
I work a very similar schedule and love it. My graveyard is 6:00pm to 6:30am, so I get 4 days (nights?) on, 3 days off, then the next week is 3 on and 4 off, and it repeats. Unless I'm asked to work more overtime, which I normally do. That sleep schedule is hard to keep up with when I have the 4 days off though, but it's getting better.
I donโt think thatโs ever work for me. Iโm a โget things done so you can relax laterโ kinda guy. When I worked at a movie theater there were some days I couldnโt get myself to do anything cause the feeling was as soon as Iโd start Iโd have to stop to go to work. It was easier if I didnโt have to go in til 4 or later but anything before that I couldnโt accomplish anything
I work nights and don't mind it. People need to be at 911 centers, network operations center, doctors and nurses, police and fire. So while yes, it's nice if you can be on a normal sleep schedule, be appreciative for those that can't so you can enjoy your life in relative peace.
We might be lol. DSPD is rare, though, so there are likely far more morning people suffering through night shift than anything. I feel for them since I know how miserable it is having a job that clashes with your natural sleep/wake cycle.
Also a lot of people with DSPD don't work 2nd or 3rd shift. The variety of jobs is limited, they can clash with school, child care, maintaining relationships, etc., and the hours might still fuck with you (though maybe not as much as someone who didn't have DSPD!).
Oh Iโm still a night owl when I can be but for day in day out life I would be miserable. ESP when 98% of the people I know work fragility 9-5ish jobs.
Night owl here. My body just feels more natural and rested when I'm up between the hours of 4pm to about 6am or 7am. I don't know what it is, but I have a much harder time now that I'm on a first shift schedule. Everybody has a differentlp rhythm. Night owls feel the same about you guys and day shift.
On weekends I would just fall asleep about an hour after I got home from work and wake up at about 5pm. I have no "morning" routine aside from hygienic stuff. So I'd just go meet with friends about an hour after I woke up to hang out, party and whatnot. We're probably the friends you have who are making more plans at 4am after you had a night out with the boys/girls.
It's a different lifestyle for sure, but I prefer it way more than the one I have now. I felt more alive.
tasoula ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:07:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm the same way! I'm such a night owl. I work second shift now (1-9), so it's not terrible for me, but I absolutely feel better during night time hours.
The biggest advantage really is that you don't stay up late because you've lost track of time or wanted to watch some TV or play a game. You get home and go straight to bed, and your downtime is whenever you wake up.
You're not waking up for work so there's not really any time you have to wake up. You only lose social hours if you sleep in, even on a work day.
P3ccavi ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:35:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I loved night shift when I was single, because I'm a night owl and I always had friday-sunday off. Once my fiancรจe and I started dating and after she moved in, it started to suck because if we had the same days off she would be awake when I was asleep and vice versa (she works Mon-Fri).
So I started doing my normal 10pm-6am shift on my work days and then on Friday I would stay awake once I got off work at 6am until 10pm that night and completely rearrange my sleep schedule. I would start sleeping at night until Monday morning when I would stay awake until I went to bed Tuesday morning. So in essence, 2 days a week I would be up about 25 hours each day.
It.....sucked! I was constantly exhausted, I'll never do night shift again
As someone who works a night shift: it's alright if you don't mind it gradually turning you into a vampire. And not all night shifts can just stop existing; in my case, the place I work has to be staffed 24 hours. But at least I get a consistent 4x10 schedule, same nights every week. Much better than the last place I was at, where it was shiftwork and you had to pick up whatever you could get, day or night, which drove you batshit much quicker
Yeah. Thatโs the worst. I would work opening night at the theater and get out after 3am just to drive home 30 minutes and then have to be there to open up at 9am. I think places like that shouldnโt be able to schedule you within 8 hours of your last shift so you can at least get some sleep.
Guessing they canโt in Europe? (Youโre right. America) theyโd typically be between 6 to 8 hour shifts as I was out of school by then but 3am is 3 am regardless of the shift length.
It's not super clear cut but I'm pretty sure here in Alberta, you have to have 8 hours between shifts. I know you can have split shifts, I think to be considered a "split" the total hours have to be 12 or under.
Anyway, yeah, no surprise American labour laws would give you the short end of the stick
Edit: also, as far as these Canadian labour laws, i have a hunch you couldn't try to sell a closing shift followed by an opening shift the next calendar day as a "split shift" but I could be wrong
For some of us our rhythm is the night shift. My natural sleep cycle is 2am-11am and has been for decades.
I tried a morning job for years and was stressed, depressed and miserable. I never got enough sleep, and no amount of forcing myself to bed early ever helped. Ditching that schedule and being awake at night was like coming into my own as a new, happy person.
kelce ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:14:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You don't. I work nights and "flip" on my days off. If I didn't flip back to a regular schedule I'd never see the sun or get anything done. The first day I flip is incredibly hard but then after that i start to feel normal again.
I work 3 7:30 to 7:30 nights. I flip my schedule on my off days as well. I just get lots of extra sleep the first night off: sleep until the afternoon and then sleep again at night.
Hubs loves his third shift. I did it for 6 years and while I was able to manage it ok, I am really not a third shift girl. I followed him to second shift and I love it. Now suddenly he's back on 3rd for the foreseeable. I miss being home together every day after work but I don't miss third shift. For the moment I don't have to decide if I miss him more than I miss my comfortable time table as there aren't any openings available on third. I'm kind of glad. He doesn't hate 2nd shift as much as I hate 3rd so I'm hopeful he'll rejoin me in a few months.
Same here. I don't get up till nearly 2pm in the afternoon for work. I'll stay up till around 6am. It works out for both work and the fact I don't want to be doing anything when it's 120f out here in hell.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:56:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What job is that, and what's your sleep cycle like?
ZeMoose ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:54:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unfortunately my natural sleep cycle is "don't", and that's just not functional.
Condawg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:34:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My natural sleep cycle is just fucked and all over the place, so I work for myself. Most work days are like, 3pm-midnight, but that's from home, with a break now and then to listen to an album and unwind, eat, pet the dog, smoke some weed, etc. Usually short breaks, like 20-30 minutes, once or twice a day, depending on the workload.
It's dope! I just don't make enough money yet. Gettin there.
god i wish i could find an employer that would work with me on this. I've got a circadian rhythm disorder, my body seems to think a day is 28-30 hours long, not 24. So it's a weird cycle of being synced up to what's considered a normal schedule then slipping into a nocturnal schedule then slipping back to a normal schedule. Its so frustrating.
Same, now that I can work from home and set my own start time, it's done wonders for sleep and happiness. Of course, I have friends who act like I'm committing some grave sin by not waking up at 7 am.
Ditto. I achieved this by working from home and making sure to do a kickass 8-9 hours a day. My natural sleep schedule is like, sleep at 2 wake up at 10. I unfortunately do have 9AM meetings but it sure beats getting up at 5:30 to commute in to the areas near me that have tech jobs.
That too! Ill be damned if im getting up at the crack of dawn to work. Hell no! Give me night shift only!!
Rindan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I miss working the night shift for this reason. I have a backwards ass sleep cycle. My life was misery with 3 hours of sleep being perfectly normal. I was always sick because I was so sleep deprived.
Then I started working the night shift. It was fucking awesome. I'd come home and fall asleep without any effort. I'd wake up without an alarm clock. I'd wander into work every single day feeling fully rested. It was glorious.
Alas, night shift demands its dues. The night shift job was a career dead end and murderous on my social life. I had to go back onto day shift.
That said, I did find something that works almost as good as night shift. Marijuana. It isn't as good as an alarm free life on night shift, but it knocks me out at night early enough to get 6-8 hours of sleep.
Same. Itโs everyone else that wonโt let me sleep my normal schedule of 4 am to noon. But Iโm so much more functional and happy.
Gl33m ยท 90 points ยท Posted at 02:30:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can't "bank sleep," but sleep debt is a real thing, and you can indeed "recover sleep". What you say is absolute true for general purpose sleep hygiene. Sticking to a schedule 100% of the time is a major boost to adequate sleep. But, at the same time, if you're one of those people sleeping 3 hours a night during the week or less, you're better off sleeping in on the weekend. Yeah, your best bet is to simply tell people to stop having such a devastatingly unhethy sleep habit, but I've found people are gonna power through anyway. So sleeping in on the weekends to recover can at least counteract some of the damage they're doing all week.
After thirty years of intensive research, we can now answer many of the questions posed earlier. The recycle rate of a human being is around sixteen hours. After sixteen hours of being awake, the brain begins to fail. Humans need more than seven hours of sleep each night to maintain cognitive performance. After ten days of just seven hours of sleep, the brain is as dysfunctional as it would be after going without sleep for twenty-four hours. Three full nights of recovery sleep (i.e., more nights than a weekend) are insufficient to restore performance back to normal levels after a week of short sleeping. Finally, the human mind cannot accurately sense how sleep-deprived it is when sleep-deprived.
He wasn't saying it's a good strategy, just that getting some extra sleep when you can (in the context of not sleeping enough during the week) will still be better than not doing so.
moal09 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 16:26:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem is that current work schedules aren't conducive to 8+ hours of sleep.
Most people barely have 3-4 hours of free-time as it is. Getting a full 8 hours would reduce a lot of people's free time to almost 0. At that point, what are we even working for? Just to keep breathing?
Gl33m ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:23:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So sleeping in on the weekends to recover can at least counteract some of the damage they're doing all week.
So, yeah, I was saying... The same thing as your quote. I didn't say it just fixes all your problems, and noted explicitly how damaging and unhealthy living like that was. And I continued that sleeping in on the weekend fan help mitigate that damage, but not fix it. And said explicitly that the right answer was to just sleep more in general.
Yeah. I'm in my late 20's so not even that old but when I was about 19 I'd be up until the early hours of the morning then struggle to get up at 10am the next morning, now I start getting too tired to do anything somewhere between 11PM and midnight then wake up on my own at about 6:30-7:00 and have no desire to sleep in.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:10:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me too! Can't get used to it. I need more sleep but I can't get it :(
Shit, I'd love to wake up at 7am. My weekday alarm is set for 4am. I know my sleep schedule is really messed up if it wakes me up; most days, I wake up anywhere from 2:45am to 3:30am. I can go months without the alarm waking me. On weekends, I know I stayed up late (ie, 10pm or later) if I'm still in bed at 6:30.
You wouldn't think it but weekends are definitely the hardest part of working nights. The way it works out for me is that if I want to spend time with my family on the weekends I end up pulling two days of being awake for over 24 hours.
I get off work at 08:00 Friday morning and end up staying awake all day Friday and crash around 21:00 after getting up for work at 20:00 Thursday night.
Sunday morning I'll wake up bright and early and then if I can't catch an afternoon nap I'll end up being up until I get home at 09:00 Monday morning.
Bad times; especially since my employer doesn't accept see fit to pay more for working nights.
Youโre fucking your health over big time with this dude. Itโs not worth it, believe me. Your life span, cognitive abilities, endocrin system, generell mood etc gets drastically reduced through this.
Kind of on the same subject, please stop telling pregnant women to "sleep while you can, you'll need it!!" It's not like my sleep accumulates and I can save it up to spend when I'm awake with a newborn every hour around the clock. Babies are fucking exhausting no matter how much I slept while pregnant!
That was the one piece of advice that people gave me all the time and it drove me bonkers. In fact, I wish I would've slept less while pregnant. I didn't have a baby yet, there was no need to follow anyone else's schedule and I had the energy of 3 people in the second trimester. I could've accomplished so much more.
Yes thatโs because it does work the other way around where cumulative amounts of missed sleep add up.
Unfortunately you canโt sleep for 18 hours and make up for it, you only get things back on track by getting enough sleep every night for a solid period of time.
I always hear this one and I do believe it works but on weekdays I sleep 4 hours a day, 5 if I'm too lucky, and am exhausted, worn out and anxious from Monday to Friday. On weekends instead of waking up at 4am I usually wake up around 9 or 10. I feel way better on weekends.
the shorter your sleep, the shorter your life. The leading causes of disease and death in developed nationsโdiseases that are crippling health-care systems, such as heart disease, obesity, dementia, diabetes, and cancerโall have recognized causal links to a lack of sleep.
getting too little sleep across the adult life span will significantly raise your risk of developing Alzheimerโs disease. Precisely this relationship has now been reported in numerous epidemiological studies, including those individuals suffering from sleep disorders such as insomnia and sleep apnea.VIII Parenthetically, and unscientifically, I have always found it curious that Margaret Thatcher and Ronald Reaganโtwo heads of state that were very vocal, if not proud, about sleeping only four to five hours a nightโboth went on to develop the ruthless disease. The current US president, Donald Trumpโalso a vociferous proclaimer of sleeping just a few hours each nightโmay want to take note.
Matthew Walker, Why We Sleep
I'm aware of all the risks, however I can't do much until I'm done with school. I'm in medical school (so unfortunately I know the risks) and live two hours away and commute back and forth everyday. Get home late and need to be up early. I'm not proud of sleeping less, I was simply venting. I would love sleeping more hours a day, but I can't.
No but exciting things usually lead to staying up late.
Watertor ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:31:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is my issue, and thus leads to a very confusing thread.
Plus I have all this extra time to do stuff because I'm not sleeping all day
I mean how? If you go to bed at 4 am and wake up at noon, then decide to stop that and go to bed at 11 pm to wake up at 7, you don't have any extra time in the weekend you're just giving yourself more Sun. Which if you want that, great. There is no "extra stuff" to be done though, unless waking up early somehow means you get more time in the day. If that was the case I'd be all aboard, but this sounds like typical morning person propaganda. I can understand some people aren't very lively in the night and thus do more in the morning, but again that's called being a morning person. Some of us are more lively at night and thus this makes no sense on an "advice" thread.
It depends on what kind of things you do. If you want to do exciting things like rock climbing and kayaking or shopping and visiting museums, you'll have more time for that by waking up early. If you want to do exciting things like going out to bars and nightclubs, you'll have more time by staying up late. If you want to exciting things like video gaming or reading books, the time of day isn't as important.
What if you want to do exciting things like ignoring your partner and kid bu staying up late watching videos, coding and or jerking off in secret, thereby slowly but surely ruining your relationship, but feeling like you cant fix it because you've been like that for years even before you had them in your life and everytime you try and change your patterns you've failed, literally dozens of times?
True, but it's dependent on what kind of video games you're playing and who you're playing with. It doesn't fit neatly into a daytime or nighttime category, but you're right.
I get up at 5:30 but habitually wake up at 5 every day. I normally just sleep in on weekends until 10, but make sure I'm exhausted for bed sunday, and then go to bed an hour early sleeping like a rock.
will_ww ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:01:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a class teach me you do have a bank but staying up pulls from it and you are tired you are eventually able to catch up to it. Like sleeping 12 hours one day trying to refill it. But you don't overfill it
Honestly, I can't even sleep in on weekends anymore. This would've maybe been my problem when I was 20-24, but as I got older I just couldn't sleep in as much. Now I get up at 7am on Saturday even though I wish I could sleep in until noon.
Pretty much any advice about good sleep habits fits this. You always think the advice is obvious but you're too busy to follow it but actually sleeping on a good schedule, and having good sleep, and getting enough of it makes you so much more efficient. You make less mistakes that you then don't have to correct. You can think clearly and find solutions to problems quickly. You can concentrate. Being well rested makes everything else half as difficult. You literally free up twice the amount of time you freed up by skimping on sleep.
I started taking work shifts on weekends when my classes start and it had such a massive effect on my well-being that when I got promoted and no longer was needed on weekends I was high key upset
This also actually helps a lot with insomnia! Bedtime routines are super important, as is waking up within an hour of the same time every day. Then your brain knows what to expect every day - routine can be a beautiful thing for mental health.
-Tom- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:45:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bingo. Its so nice being able to get laundry done and some cleaning around the house, then go to the grocery store while stuff dries by 9AM on a weekend morning and having the whole weekend free to do whatever.
mayseek ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:57:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is great advice! I used to just wake up naturally at about 10-11 AM, but since my boyfriend goes to work at 9:00, I began waking up earlier to talk to him on his car ride.
Waking up at the same time every single day has been one of the best changes I made last year :)
You don't need less sleep when you got more earlier. All you actually do is change the cycle in which your body naturally wants to be awake and go to sleep.
On top of that, pretty much everyone has a phone -I gotchu blizzard- so even if you don't want to get up and out of bed when you wake up on your day off, just browse YouTube or twitter or reddit or wherever you fancy instead of going back to sleep.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:59:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whats funny is we kind of do have a "sleep bank". Studies have shown that we need a certain amount of sleep over about a week, not daily. So sleeping 5 hours one night and 9 the next is the same as sleeping 7 and 7.
Sleep debt is (supposedly, I'm not a scientist) real, but I have never heard of a sleep BANK, where if you sleep extra one day you need less sleep the next day.
stupv ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:45:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I mean, unless you're severely sleep deprived you shouldn't just be able to sleep until noon on a whim. I get up at 7 for work during the week, but sleep in until 9 or so on weekends. It's nice and doesn't involve any alarms, and i feel better for it...but i couldn't just casually sleep for an extra 5 hours because my alarm didn't go off
edit: the unspoken qualifier on my original statement was 'healthy individuals with roughly a standard 9-5 work day'. If you are on medication that will cause this, or have a work routine that makes 12-noon a totally normal time to be asleep this obviously doesn't apply - and for good reason. Mostly an observation of my own sleeping pattern, and those of my friends, that when we were staying up late playing games, going out.etc it became pretty easy to sleep until 12 because we simply weren't getting enough sleep. Now that i'm a bit older and more sensible, go to bed by 10pm every night, sleep for a good 8-9 hours.etc....sleeping an extra 4-5 hours just isn't possible, and most of my friends have made that same transition. Plenty of people just dont realise that getting 5-7 hours each night isn't enough, so it isn't surprising that they are able to sleep until 12 on a saturday.
mpyne ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 01:59:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, unless you're severely sleep deprived you shouldn't just be able to sleep until noon on a whim
For some of us it's easier than you think.
stupv ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 02:02:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dont suppose you have a sleeping pattern that is something like 1am (or later)-8am do you?
mpyne ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:47:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had different sleep patterns based on work. At the time I was referring to I had a highly different pattern, typically I could go 18-21 hours awake and then sleep 10-12 hours or so.
Some people's natural sleep cycle wants them waking up at noon and going to bed at 3-4 am. For those people going to bed at the nice early hour of 10 to wake up at 6 is true hell and they often revert back almost immediately. While you may feel great doing it, others may not. Sadly the world has taught us that to be a "functioning adult" you need to fit your square peg of sleep into the round hole of society because fuck you I guess.
I've never been more depressed and unhappy then when I had a job making me wake up at 7:30 every morning and going to bed at 11 every night for years. Now that I set my own hours I wake up at 10 to 10:30 am naturally (not quite noon, though) and it's done wonders for my overall alertness and happiness.
I work night shift and I can sleep till noon or anywhere on a whim
stupv ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:05:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Working night shift i would expect you to sleep until mid afternoon :) Both myself and my wife work shifts, and it certainly makes sleep schedules a bit fucky, but that would be a 'special case'. The unspoken qualifier on my original statement was 'healthy individuals with roughly a standard 9-5 work day'. Personally i work 8-4:30 but it's close enough
Theres many reasons why someone could, i take quetiapine every night for panic disorder. But if i dont set at least 3 alarms, i will not wake up for an extra 4 hours or so, it doesnt matter if i sleep earlier or on time since it is such a heavy sedative.
stupv ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:14:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah there are obviously medical or work-related reasons that 12-noon is a relevant time, i mentioned elsewhere that the unspoken qualifier on my original statement was 'healthy individuals with roughly a standard 9-5 work day'. I should probably edit that into the original...
Oh ok I understand you. However, i think there might be some people who can just sleep until you let them. A good friend of mine who is perfectly healthy, on no medication, can sleep till 2 pm if you dont wake her. I think it may have to do with some peopleโs brain chemistry, like melatonin production and what not, but im no neurologist.
Yeah but people don't usually get as much sleep when they have to wake up at a certain time vs being able to wake up whenever you want. You'll have more time during the day, but unless you were going to sleep at 9pm and waking up at noon, you will have the same amount of time overall, because if you're waking up at noon, then you probably went to sleep at like 3am or later
I used to sleep til noon on the weekends because I had too much homework to get enough hours on weeknights. Thanks overachieving school
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:55:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cannot catch up on sleep no matter how hard you try to store it up in the bank. You're right that's not how it works physiologically. I think I owe myself a few years worth..
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh my god this killed me when I worked nights. Worked from midnight to 8:30, ended up being so exhausted on my days off that I fell asleep around 10 pm or so. Completely screwed me over every week.
I worked 6p-6a for a few years and loved it. It suited me because I'd always been a night owl and the older I get, the more I dislike being around people.
The problem with sticking to the same sleep schedule is that a lot of regular errands can't be done at say, 10 pm. Doctor visits, in person banking, even most phone calls to businesses would have to be done in the daytime.
But the absolute worst part was that the same job that had me working 12 hour night shifts would also schedule mandatory meetings for 2pm. And would sometimes write you up if you didn't show. We got paid for them, but there are times that 30-60 minutes of pay wasn't worth losing sleep.
I've just started a new job working 6a-2p, with every weekend off, which is great. But I'm having a real hard time making the sleep switch. Which is why I'm still up browsing reddit.
I can't convince myself to do that. I wanna try so bad but it's just hard
Anivair ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:55:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mostly do this. I basically pick one day a week to sleep as late as I want. I usually end up waking up close to the time I usually do oh, but I get to doze and roll around in bed and cuddle with my phone. It's not a bad way to wake up.
I work 12+ hours a day for 14 days and then I'm off for 14 days. I get what you're saying but I'm not ruining the vacation half of every month getting up at 0430 in the morning.
xtenyia ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes yes 100x yes. I type this as I'm lacking sleep :/
I work night shift, so I definitely do this. Nights off I still stay up all night, but maybe go to bed a little earlier in the morning than I can on work days.
My coworkers all sleep during the night when they're off and I can't understand how they do it! I don't sleep well anyway, so I can't switch my sleep schedule around like that
If I need to run errands I just do it after work when I don't work the next day so I can stay up a little late.
Yelov ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:07:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I sleep 12 hours during weekends and 4-5 hours on work days. Fuk. I just naturally like to go to bed late and wake up late.
I work nights, varying start and end times but usually finishing around 5-6am. Even on my days off I will go to bed at around the same time, maybe a bit earlier if I'm super tided and I rarely wake up early unless I have shit I need to do during the day.
I'm naturally a night owl, so it doesn't bother me much, although I also have a sleep disorder called Delayed Sleep Phase Disorder so my circadian rhythm doesn't match to 24/hrs - I find it's around 28-30 hours.
n1c0_ds ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm on a long trip now, which means I wake up whenever I want to. Apparently, that means 8:30 AM anyway.
I work overnights and sleep from 8am to 430pm. I stick to it on my weekends. I feel so much better now that Iโve stopped trying to change my sleep schedule every weekend
Being on night shift and my girlfriend being on day shift makes this impossible come the weekend. It makes the work week tougher and the weekend tougher but I want to spend time with her. It kinda really blows. I wish there was a happy median.
gabz09 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:36:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol I work shift work so I can only wish ๐คฃ๐คฃ but otherwise this is very good advice
"Going to the bathroom" does not mean literally walking to the bathroom (at least in American English), rather it means peeing/pooping. So you could "go to the bathroom" while not being in the actual bathroom.
Teekoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:42:44 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please clarify, because I asked where the bathroom was in a restaurant and the waiter said we do t have a bathroom, but we have a toilet. I was under the impression that a bathroom had a toilet and is more polite to ask. This was in the UK.
I know it's been a few days but FYI, it IS supported by scientific research and used by millions of women who have found it effective. I'd say it's a practice with some pretty solid evidence behind it.
For real! I waited an hour or so after I lost my virginity because he and I were cuddling and it was a new relationship, and within 2 days I was feeling dizzy and sick. I went to my school clinic (college) because I suspected a UTI because it hurt when I stopped peeing and it smelled gross. They said I likely had a virus.
The next day, I had a fever of 103.4ยฐ. My urging was dark brown and bloody and it fucking hurt to pee. Turns out, I had a kidney infection and I was going into septic shock. Thankfully, after antibiotics and a med for bladder spasms, I felt a lot better.
The doctors at the ER were very impressed I wasnโt in more pain in my kidneys. They said my urine sample was the worst theyโve seen.
XIIIJinx ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 10:03:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Male here. When I first discovered masturbating around 11, 12, whenever, there were times I'd finish and pee immediately it was painful or at least uncomfortable. And I dont think I had an STD or anything. Hasn't happened in a long time since I started waiting a few mins before peeing
This is exactly right. It's fun to see how many people just assume the worst.
pb4000 ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 05:11:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read somewhere that a mild pain or burn right after finishing had something to do with acidity levels of pee and cum or something like that. Is that not true?
That as well as stationary cum thickens, takes a bit of pressure from the urine to expel. That being said if it's more than slightly uncomfortable I'd for sure get a test done.
Nope. I used to dizzy out every time I did that. Got it checked, might have a condition called micturition syncope. My BP drops after urinating only after sex though. Untreatable. Asked what to do?
DOn't pee after sex.
Still didn't explain what to do about the pain right above my groin after peeing.
Also, keep forgetting to thank my ex for solving that problem for me.
Swanh ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:46:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're probably not squeezing the last drops of semen out, try that and it shouldn't hurt to pee anymore.
It happens to me too. I went to a urologist and had several STD tests done with negative results every time. I have no idea why this is the case and have never been able to find information on this that doesn't turn into talk about STDs. The urologist couldn't tell me anything either.
Generally what happens for me is that it'll hurt to pee after I ejaculate for a while. I'll have a feeling like I still have to pee but nothing more than a trickle comes out during this time, but the feeling in my urinary tract is a mild to moderate pain for 30 minutes to an hour. When the pain subsides I always have to pee. This never happens after sex and only when I masturbate. I've tried using lube and being gentler with my grip, but it doesn't seem to make a difference. Also, it's only about 50-60% chance of it happening after I masturbate. Usually it happens, but not always.
Hope you can find some info because I sure as hell haven't. It's a pain in the ass (or penis, rather).
edit: forgot to add that it only seems to happen if I pee soon after ejaculating.
if you're ejaculating with your dick pointing upward at all, you are likely not getting full emission and the lazy spunk is hanging around in your urethra. try finishing from a standing position (dick horizontal) or pointed downward
netok ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:28:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Retrograde ejaculation
Find another urologist and ask to be tested for this.
SlyPhi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:05:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This happens to me to... but only if I've been drinking alcohol. No alcohol - no problem.
pb4000 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:09:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm going to assume you're a male as that happens to me and seemingly other men too. I recently realized that drinking Gatorade legitimately energizes me and helps get me up and moving again.
This might be a little graphic, but if I go to the bathroom RIGHT after sex, I end up feeling the urge to pee for hours. Literal hours. Like, I'm stuck on the toilet feeling pee dribble out the entire time. It's miserable. Is this because of a urinary problem? Or is there such a thing as TOO fast?
Wish I took this more seriously. I got epididymitis twice from it and the second time it won't go away. It's been almost 6 months and multiple courses of antibiotics for it to go away and now it's just.. there
I used to poop once a month when I was a kid. I always felt I had stomach pain, but doctors always said it was just constipation and to take laxatives, which never actually helped.
My grandma eventually took me to this Indian homeopathic doctor who said my 'bellybutton" wasn't in the right spot, whatever that meant. I think he could tell I wasn't buying it so he made me take off my shirt and then measured the distance between my left nipple and bellybutton and then my right nope l nipple and bellybutton -- turns out he wasn't wrong
Anyways, my grandma told him to "fix it" so this guy pulled hard on my big toes and strongly punched the soles of my feet. I'd be lying if I didn't feel like my bellybutton came back into place and my stomach pain instantly went away. The guy charged 40 bucks and sent me home, where I took one of the best poops of my life.
Long story short, if you have poop problems, just get an Indian guy to measure your nipples and bellybutton and punch your feet. You'll be better in no time
aj3x ยท 169 points ยท Posted at 04:37:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey quick question, what the fuck?
fullup72 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 04:59:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have no idea, sorry! This is the first time I heard such a thing.
It's hard to believe there is any truth or logic behind it. If I had a medical condition, like any sane person, my first choice would be to see a doctor. However, I can totally understand the frustration if multiple doctors can't fix it, and the frustration leading to search for alternatives. Glad you were able to find something that worked for you! Like they say, a clean colon is one less thing to worry about :D
As a male, I was unlucky enough to get a UTI. I donโt blame women when they say itโs the worst feeling, but my girlfriend explained that the pain the I exuded and that the way I was while urinating or even getting morning wood never compared to how she experienced it.
A longer urethra opens more length for pain. This is the best advice.
So many of my friends are sexually active while ive been a virgin and they always tell me how they get UTIs one day i just mentioned peeing after sex for some reason and they had no idea what i was talking about. Realized that none of my friends knew they were supposed to do that. They all went to the gyno and confirmed it. I dont actually remember anyone telling me that you had to. Must have seen it in a movie or something.
This is especially important for girls. Guys donโt typically get UTIs, but girls can easily get them after sex. Clearing out the small pipe is an insurance policy against them.
Only finally learned this 2 years into being sexually active and after a trip to an immediate med for a UTI that took 3 hours and the only thing on the TV was fox news. The doctor was a fucking moron and prescribed me meds that cost over $100 even with insurance. Had to call my GP the next day and ask for something cheaper.
I would eat a big meal and wonder why I still felt hungry.. It is because I wasn't drinking a glass of water with my meal. Now if I notice I am hungry after eating normal portions I have a glass of water and wait 5 minutes before I continue eating.
I started intermittent fasting and therefore increased my water intake- holy hell! I went from being hungry ALL the time to content with 1 meal and a snack in a 6 hour window. Guess this bitch was just thirsty?
I don't know about this guy but there are mutiple types- day on day off, long fast then normal eating etc. The method I think is easiest and works best is just 8 hours on, 16 off. Pick 8 hours you'll eat in and 16 you won't (adjust a bit if needed) and eat whatever. After not even very long you'll become hungry less often and later in the day and will feel like you naturally need to eat less. Pretty cool for not that much effort
Not just doable, it becomes normal and amazing. I stop eating at 9pm, breakfast is water and a half decaf coffee. Light lunch at noon, then go crazy at supper.
Ha_omer ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:20:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can I drink a cup of caffeinated black coffee in those 16 hours?
Coffee is a natural appetite suppressant. There are lots of people who do intermittent fasting who will only have water and coffee in the mornings to hold them over until the next meal time. I donโt do it anymore but I did fasting for a few months a while back. Iโd wake up in the morning and have coffee for breakfast. Then Iโd have a decent sized lunch around 3 when I go on break at work. Then Iโd go back to work and get off around 10, which is when Iโd go home and have a decent sized dinner. Then Iโd go to sleep, wake up around 7 or 8 in the morning, and start over. For me I was only going 7 hours between lunch and dinner so I wasnโt getting hungry enough to need coffee during that time. Iโd have roughly 17 hours between dinner and lunch the following day though, so Iโd definitely need that coffee in the morning. As for your question though, I donโt think drinking a cup or a half cup of back coffee in your fasting window will hurt.
I personally struggle the most with missing sweetness, so it tends to keep me going longer than it making me eat sooner. But everyone is different and I think avoiding it is the better advice in general indeed.
I started doing this by accident. I got busy in the morning so just coffee, I'd eat lunch at noon or one, dinner at six, snack at maybe 8. Rinse and repeat. I lost 40 pounds. My portion sizes dropped drastically, I drink a lot of fluids. It actually gave my energy to exercise. So I do that now too I guess.
Trust me dude. It'll take longer if you're not used to it and starting is definitely the hardest part, but once it does become routine a bit it's just... easier. You spend less on food, eat less food AND get less hungry. Worth it. Only issue I found is it takes longer to get used to no midnight snacks haha
You get less hungry from drinking coffee, disregard if you've got heart problems or something. You can also eat dinner earlier and/or go for 10 or 12 hour fasting.
Skipping breacfast is just a suggestion and works for many people. Some might need a specific scedule and some don't. However, no matter what you do you need discipline and don't give up when you slip up.
Another thing you learn the difference between is mental hunger, physical hunger and REAL hunger.
Mental hunger: when you have a craving (like when you smell nice food) but if you really think about your stomach, it's not actually hungry.
Physical (not real) hunger: when your stomach wants food (regulated by hormones and follows your circadian rhythm) but you realise your body has plenty of energy and can do normal physical activities without needing to intake calories.
falfu ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:06:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, thankfully it works for intermittent fasting.. however Ramadan is coming up and Iโll be switching the fasting hours all to waking and I just know itโs gonna be hellish in the heat :(
falfu ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:55:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you, I need it ๐ญ
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:45:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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falfu ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 13:20:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you, kind Redditor! However Iโm pretty sure I have it way better than a lot of the worldโs population of Muslims, many of whom donโt even have proper food or water to break their fasts, so it puts my complaining into perspective :) thank you once again for the kind thoughts!
I somehow accidentally began intermittent fasting last year. I was playing too much Stellaris and couldn't be bothered to eat what was available. When I realised I had lost weight I just put in a more conscious effort and already lost over 20 kg (50 lb).
Just got to be ok with being hungry between meals and not have a large pizza and a 2l coke for dinner.
DanJohnB ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 07:53:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This always amazed me, I won't generalise where you're all from my as a kid I watched a program about food problems in America. One section was how there's an increasing amount of the population that confuse being thirsty and hungry, I thought it must have been fibbing.
Who knew! To me they're fundamentally different sensations.
Fun fact, cats have a symilar thing. They can get dehydrated from eating only dry food because they evolved from desert cats that got most of their water from their food.
I used to drink coffee most of the day and evening because I was tired.
I tried one week of one coffee in the morning and 7-10 pints of water the rest of the day. More if I exercise.
That was 2 years ago, I still continue and the only time I'm now tired is if I've had a late night.
Water is the best thing ever and it'll increase your taste, health and happiness.
If anyone gets bad hangovers, drink plenty of water the days leading up and day of drinking and a pint before you leave to go home, you'll wake up feeling so much better. Especially once you cross the 30 years barrier.
It astounds me that people just don't drink water. This isn't meant to be a slight to the OP or anything, but I drink loads of water. My boss bitches at me because I have to take a piss every hour or two.... Like a regular fucking human with a bladder and urinary tract.
I kinda of got trained out of drinking water during grade school.
Our teachers wouldn't let us go during class because "you have plenty of time between class." Between class, it was physically impossible to get from one side of the school to your class on the other side before the bell if you even swung by your locker. There weren't any bathrooms in the cafeteria, we weren't allowed in the halls during lunch, and the lunch monitors would only allow 2 students at a time have bathed passes, out of 700 students who had lunch in the same block. Then at the end of the day there wasn't time to go to the bathroom and still make your bus.
I didn't notice I was dehydrated because I'd been dehydrated for like a decade.
People ask me how I lost weight. They get mad when I tell them I made lasting changes, like drinking more water! You'd be surprised how little you actually get hungry.
wolfcede ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 08:51:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try waiting 30 minutes before and after a meal as water can speed digestion of food and nutrients and you can adequately hydrate outside of these food digestion windows. Exception being of course if youโre thirsty, then by all means drink up at dinner. If you can feel thirst in your mouth you are likely experiencing pretty severe dehydration already. An 8 oz glass of water was shown to be an appetite suppressant when used 30 min before and 30 minutes after a meal.
DenSem ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 17:30:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can feel thirst in your mouth you are likely experiencing pretty severe dehydration already.
What are the signs that you are thirsty before that point?
Iโm just a hardcore bro scientist but Iโll point you in the right direction: โ The bodyโs many cries for waterโ was written in โ92 by a dr who had been assigned to a prison in Iraq but was given no budget for research so he started doing research just on water intake of the prisoners... an example would be back pain. Back pain can be a sign you are chronically dehydrated ;)
This needs more attention. Really shouldn't be drinking water with meals. Also should never drink ice water. Room temperature water is best for digestive tract
Graupel ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:31:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 07:09:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm, ever since I started drinking 2 liters of water per day a few months ago I always feel hungry after a meal if I didn't drink any water with it
I still don't understand why so many people have a problem with that. For me, the sensations of thirst and hunger are very different. If I'm thirsty, my upper stomach (roughly) and chest feel kinda tight and my lips feel dry. If I'm hungry, my lower stomach rumbles and just feels .. empty. Isn't it like that for everybody?
I'm trying to gain weight so should I just not drink?
E72M ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:35:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you are trying to gain weight wouldn't it be better to do it through muscle than fat? You would be surprised how quickly you can see results after begging a new exercise.
True, but you still need to take in some excess calories in order to build muscle bulk.
E72M ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:59:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True but for starting out depending on what you are doing, so say just getting toned I found eating lots of protein helped even though my calorie intake didn't really change too drastically I don't think.
Honestly I don't know how many calories I take in cause I've always just eaten and been thin and without much muscle until I started working out and trying to have a bit more protein.
No you should drink plenty of water. Just dont drink with meals. Drink a glass about a half hour before. Eat standing up to not get as full as fast either. Make sure you are working out too. Will make you more hungry and your body with crave healthy foods
I have this Muslim friend who told me that in their religion it's recommended to fill once stomach 1/3 with food, 1/3 with water, 1/3 with air.
EDIT: after some googling around, I found this :
It says in al-Mawsooโah al-Fiqhiyyah (25/332): Part of the etiquette of eating is to be moderate in eating and not to fill the stomach. The most that is acceptable in this regard is for the Muslim to divide his stomach into three parts: one third for food, one third for drink and one third for air, because of the hadeeth: โThe son of Adam does not fill any vessel worse than his stomach. It is enough for the son of Adam to eat a few mouthfuls to keep him going, but if he must (fill his stomach), then one third for his food, one third for his drink and one third for air.โ
Drinking pop is the problem. Sugar expands the stomach, probably a revolutionary trait to always have room for such a valuable resource.
I cut out soda a couple of years ago. I started with sodas with less sugar, then sweetened carbonated water and now I'm at carbonated water for my hurty bubbly addiction.
You can still stuff yourself and lose weight as long as you aren't stuffing yourself 3-5 times a day. Skip breakfast, just have a coffee and more before lunch, have a stuffed lunch and wait for dinner to stuff yourself again and don't stuff yourself until next lunch.
You have to cut out your snacks for this to work and be ready to be hungry between meals. When hungry, especially at first, have some water or coffe and decide to wait 15 minutes, without setting a timer or constantly looking at the time, until you do something about it, it's just 15 minutes after all. If that doesn't work have a single handful of something that isn't just sugar and keep the packaging in another room. You can wait as you know you're going to have a big dinner/lunch.
You can also go for an 8, 10 or 12 hour eating period if sticking to a schedule is more your thing.
Went on a bit of a tangent but I stopped gaining weight from not drinking loads of soda and lost over 20 kg in less han a year from eating less frequently.
No. You're just not trying hard enough. I know, because I was the same for over 20 years. Lost 35kg/77lbs about 2 years ago in just over 7 months simply by drinking more, eating smaller portions and walking about 20 mins a day. Not a lot of effort and the weight just fell off. I assure you, you get addicted to that feeling pretty quickly!
Oak kills HungryThirsty Dead. First thing I thought of when I started reading this.
https://youtu.be/67yUZX5HKsY
cqm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:10:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes I always remember to ask myself this. Its like I'm hitting refresh on my own self-diagnostics. The mere idea of thinking about what signal your body is broadcasting to you helps alot. If you are just on autopilot then it is back to the fridge, or back to an unnecessary restuarant. If you think about it "but do I need sustenance? did I drink enough water today?" leads me to an outcome more in-line with supporting my desired physique.
I don't do the water thing, but I definitely learned the same lesson that you should wait a bit before grabbing another serving after eating an amount that should have been enough. I'll usually feel hungry still for about 5-10 minutes and then my stomach settles out and I feel full.
Sarsmi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:28:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm trying to drink a glass of water when I wake up and before I go to bed at night, every day. I don't always remember but I feel better the days that I do.
Also on this note: You may be eating too fast. Almost no one chews as much as they're supposed to and it can take your stomach 10-15 minutes to register that it's actually full.
there are thousands of reasons somebody could feel hungry lmao. eating too fast for your stomach's brain to process the satiation, eating food low in calories or things like fat, just generally not eating enough...
By that logic you should never be hungry if you drink seltzer water, because the carbonation makes you feel even more satiated for longer.
SOwED ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:37:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So do other things
Raichu7 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:46:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I still donโt understand this, hungry and thirsty feel very different. Iโve never once felt hungry, had a drink and then felt fine unless it was a smoothie or soda or something filling like that and Iโve been made to try multiple times. Iโm not stupid, I do know what thirty is.
This applies to everything that has a computer or any sort of electronic. People laugh at me when I ask them โhave you tried turning it off and back on again?โ
ancilot1 ยท 4873 points ยท Posted at 00:46:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, but when thatโs all your IT office knows how to do...
MrVeazey ยท 2698 points ยท Posted at 01:13:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unfortunately, Reddit has a cap the amount of charachers in a subreddit name too r/21CharactersAndNoMore, but there are the following Monty Python related subs you might be interested in:
tomfooly ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:44:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know the whole "turn it off and on again" thing is mainly from the IT Crowd, but I can't help but think of This, long but well worth the read anytime I hear it.
lunixss ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 01:52:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Sometimes your IT department changes things on the back end, and will have you reboot once again to flush your DNS/DHCP/Group Policy/ect. When you log back in, "woah it works!" "I swear I rebooted it before!!"
Edit: Since people are reading this: Don't lie to your IT about rebooting. They can and will check if it was rebooted quite easily, including how long it has been. It's really awkward to convince you guys to "Reboot again", I know that you didn't.
[deleted] ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 05:35:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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lunixss ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:28:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But then you'll boot them into Recovery :P Easier to just fix the issue than explain that they are in BIOS/Windows recovery menu and what that is
Yeah, but even then, forced group policy updates don't get pushed to everyone or somehow admin privileges are lost and need system requires a fresh authentication.
I use google for cars more than for IT....but just because computers and cars are a big part of my every day life. Not out of a deep interest of either one, though over about the past year and half Iโve learned a ton through google/YouTube about computers in my journey toward becoming a PC gamer.
Eh start out small, do your oil, or change your battery, or break pads, or rotate your tires then maybe a radiator flush, or a drive belt replacement keep going until you need to use Google or a car guide.
Its all really about knowing enough to know how to frame the question when asking google. It is why those with training can search and those without have trouble. The most helpful answers on a topic are often filled with jargon in my experience which you need the jargon to search properly for in a keyword search, among other reasons.
A healthy adult that can't change a tire is pretty fucking sorry. It's not "not being mechanical". It's being fucking stupid, lazy, or both. It's like claiming doorknobs are too complicated.
Yeah it is. You arbitrarily picked this one specific task and decided to make someone's ability to perform that task a measurement of their complete worth. It'd be like if I decided that people who couldn't reinstall an operating system on their computer were "lazy" and "stupid."
You know what is lazy? Your mental schema for interpreting the world around you. You're a lazy thinker.
Nope. Operating a jack and a tire wrench is so basic that there is something wrong to the point of a lever being magic to those that can't understand it.
Until you account for the fact that someone might not know where to place the jack, which could result in much worse damage to the car, or maybe they have a car where the spare is hard to access, such as trucks I've seen where you have to find a specific rod to put in a hole to blindly turn something to release the wheel. To you those things are simple, but if you haven't been taught, then it's not your fault for not knowing necessarily.
Like I said, fucking basic. Even if you lost the manual, this is rock chucker level complicated
ochaos ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:04:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
car's you need to find the correct niche on the internet for the automotive knowledge you need. Usually a 20 year old forum where most of the image links are broken. (as an I.T. guy with a '47 lincoln I've learned this the hard way.)
It's cause your base knowledge in IT is high enough to weed out the youtube n google idiots either incompetent or trolling. I the opposite, with the cars and not the IT. And, fuck me, every second car problem solve is wrong and shockingly ignorant online.
It's not the amount of information that is the problem, but if all you know is how to Google then you don't know how to apply it. Too many junior IT guys all they know is Google and god help you if the exact problem with a solution can not be found with a simple search.
Bullshit. All IT is about is utilizing resources. its about knowing what to google, when the average user doesn't. If the problem's solution cannot be found then you utilize other resources, meaning those who know more. Or you reimage. Not that difficult, so quit being so condescending towards the junior IT. It makes you sound like an elitist neckbeard douche.
Ahem. It's about knowing what to google, how to sift through a ton of irrelevant or only partially relevant info and figure out which info is what applies to this individual circumstance, and then apply said info. It's also about being able to learn from these experiences so you 1 - don't need to google it in the future and retain the info if it's likely to be a problem you'll run into again, and 2 - so you get better at finding solutions.
Nevermind being able to actually identify the problem, not just the symptoms which can sometimes be terrifically misleading, in the first place.
All IT is about utilizing resources. GOOD IT is about becoming the resource that others utilize.
Thank you! You put that way more eloquently than I could. If you're a senior tech, you should be a role model and teacher for the junior techs, not be condescending towards them. You deserve to be gilded.
Negative, u/Slaves2Darkness. Did the neckbeard comment come across as a personal attack? I was just saying what your condescension made you look like.
eno_one ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:03:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
u/Slaves2Darkness isn't wrong though. I still consider myself junior IT, but there are a lot of my peers who think that what they google or what they find in a book is the answer and the only correct answer. But when it isn't the answer they don't know what to do.
I remember this guy who complained about how the certification test was nothing like the questions or examples taught in the recommended book. He failed to understand the principle behind the examples and adapt his understanding. But that's why there are junior techs. They are still figuring things out. And the ones who can't adapt have to find something else that is more suitable to them.
So what I am saying is you are both right in your own way, so stop bitching at each other. Yes there are a lot of Junior IT people who cannot adapt. If they can't adapt then how can they utilize other resources which as you mentioned is what IT is all about? We can try to help others adapt but if they are unwilling or unable to let their preconceived notions go, its gonna be tough. You can't teach those who don't want to be taught, and its hard to learn if there is nothing/no one to learn from.
You should read /u/budlightguy 's comment. He explains what I was trying to say in fewer words.
Sure, there may be some Junior IT people who are just there for the paycheck, but most people in my area actually want to be in IT. As such, they put in effort. Yes, you may have those few who would make better software developers than service techs because they're too booksmart or lack common sense, and I agree that in general there are some junior IT techs who are just lost causes and found themselves in the wrong field. But, that doesn't mean that you have to be condescending towards them and sound all elitist because you have the experience that they dont. And again, if you're junior IT, there's always an option to reimage. If you're junior IT and handling equipment that can't be fixed with a reimage or engaging a higher tier while you perform hands and eyes, then your HR failed the company when they filled your spot with someone inexperienced.
The way he sounded so definite about how a Junior tech would be lost without a google result to tell them what to do is just condescending.
I'm by no means saying all techs are competent, just that being a junior tech is indicative that they aren't 100% competent and that they need help.
brch2 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:17:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People who don't already know how to use Google to fix tech problems are not going to suddenly figure out how just because you tell them that's all you do.
Eh, thereโs a lot more in the IT profession than level one helpdesk. For example my job I sometimes have to google two things!
But yeah I do wish people would learn to google basic troubleshooting steps, make my life easier. Then again, if people want to pay my rates to reboot things then theyโre most welcome.
Anyone can Google something, the expertise is knowing what to Google and how to follow instructions. It seems simple but you would be amazed at the number of people in my office who cant follow basic instructions when it comes to doing something simple on a PC.
Ha, as an IT guy I somewhat agree here. Problem is when you google things and the answer is right there for you. Except you have absolutely no fucking idea how to implement or test it. Then whatcha gonna do? Of course we arenโt talking about desktop and laptop/printer issues here. Lmao. Unless youโre immersed in the software and server configuration everyday you arenโt googling your way out of these issues.
rblue ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:53:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We usually make fun of the users who are too lazy to attempt any research of their own. We google the easy stuff that the complainer should have done prior to calling.
The more a user escalates a ticket, the more likely it is to be a simple fix like they need a reboot or their network cable is plugged into the wrong port on their IP phone.
I had a lady ask me how do i turn it back on then? The power button on the front? Didn't you just tell me you turn your pc off for the weekend that rebooting wouldn't help since you don't let the PC stay on for to long????
eno_one ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:11:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes it takes multiple power cycles to fix something like printers. Fuck printers. Sometimes restarting it once works. Other times you got to pleasure it, fingering the power button until it wakes up. Some times you have to make an animal sacrifice to make the damn things work.
Trust me, my father works in IT. Most people, especially the 55+ crowd, donโt know basic troubleshooting so he has to start from the very beginning. Most IT people know what theyโre doing or can at least figure out how to fix the problem, but some just suck at explaining.
its called troubleshooting, you need a process of elimination to determine the source of the issue, rebooting the system is everyones first step.
Rammite ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:12:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I guarantee you, your IT office only knows how to google stuff. And it works.
You might be thinking "But, I can google stuff too!"
Yes, it's quite easy to find useful answers to fix computer problems. And yet, there are tons of people that fuck it up.
Friend of mine is part of a 10-person IT group for a company of 2,000. She regularly gets tickets where the computer doesn't work, and it's because someone unplugged the monitor.
When you're faced with people like this, being able to spout "turn it off and on again" is still worlds smarter.
Yeah I understand. Iโve helped people like that myself. Itโs just that back at my school, the IT there literally knew nothing else. If they couldnโt hard reset it, theyโd try to force wipe the whole device. I hated that.
I worked in Thailand for a while, and the computers they provided us with were ancient pieces of shit. The IT guy was a fat useless guy whose only English word was "leesatat", a broken-ass Thaiglish variation of restart. He'd say that, then disappear while the computer restarted. It rarely fixed the computer issue, but did solve the problems, according to Thai culture, by allowing him a minute or two so he could get out and pretend the problem didn't exist.
graebot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:02:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
95% percent of the time, it works every time!
Rodo20 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:03:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No thats whats People is getting hired at support. Imagine you having super good education in the it world. Would you want to work at phone support or chat support and have minimum wage?. When you can have a really good job somewhere else.
I work in a software company. If something goes wrong with our laptops the IT department will reimage it straight away. They doesnโt know shit and they wonโt give us admin privileges to try. We have all learnt to back up our data properly as a result. But any open document at that time is just gone.
To be fair giving people admin privileges (even developers) is just bad practice. Then again I'd give developers two machines so that they have one proper pc in the domain for documents and email and then another one where they can test with admin privileges and that can be quickly reinstalled in case something breaks
Also, naps! Same thing! Sad? Try turning it off and back on. Headache? Try turning it off and back on. Need to make a big decision? Try turning it off and back on.
Enovara ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:17:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This! Sometimes I'm just having a bad day and need to turn it off and back on. 90% of the time I feel better after a nap.
If I end up taking a nap during the day, without fail I feel sluggish and foggy the entire rest of the day. Perhaps I'm napping wrong.
Anrikay ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:19:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're probably tired because of either dehydration or low blood sugar!
Drink a couple glasses of water and eat a small snack (apple with peanut butter or an orange with a handful of almonds are my go-tos). If that doesn't help, try a short walk. Sometimes just getting your blood pumping a little bit will wake you up.
Your body's response to not having needs met is pretty much always...sleep. Dehydrated? Sleep. Hungry? Sleep. Haven't moved around enough? Sleep. Need sleep? Sleep.
Since I don't like to spend all day sleeping, I knock out the other three before resorting to a nap. At the very least, I wake up having eaten, hydrated, and walked, and it usually means I wake up rested rather than groggy.
I did this with a Chevy 5500 today 3 times. Solenoid in trans sticks, if not babied, and doesn't shift. Motor revs over 3k and ecu interprets it as an over-rev and puts it into low power mode. Vehicle now has a max speed of 55mph and won't rev over 1500rpm. Shut off the vehicle for 5 mins, any less won't work. Solenoid resets and code is cleared from ecu. Really damn annoying.
Any time I have to put in a help desk with IT, regardless of what I'm asking for help with, the last sentence is always "I already tried turning it on and off again." I know IT has to get soooo many stupid requests, but I genuinely try to figure something out before I ask for help. It's always annoying when I get a snippy "turn it on and off and update me" :(
Look, we understand that you have probably tried turning it off and on or other troubleshooting steps. We just have a sequence that we have to do things. You never know exactly how knowledgeable a user is and they may think closing the lid on their laptop is turning it off. It may come off as condescending, but even we make the same mistakes sometimes and it just helps to go through troubleshooting from bottom up, meaning physical connections and buttons, etc.
I work in a lab and someone was struggling with a mechanical pump and asked me for help and I told them to turn it off and turn it back on. They were mad at me at first, but about 10min later they apologized and said it worked after they turned it off and on again and it worked.
It applies to my $8 million airplane (I don't own it, just fly it). Just yesterday the #1 Nav radio broke in flight. Landed, turned it off, turned it back on, and it has been fine ever since. There is even a joke that the name of the manufacturer is an acronym for needing to reset it all the time.
I've even used this method to fix my car, had a check engine light that never came back after I turned my car off but now it makes me nervous sometimes lmao
One time someone in a discord server posted a picture of a computer they used to use. They said that they had tried to fix it to no avail. It was also physically roughed up. I couldnโt resist.
I asked them โHave you tried turning it off and then on again?โ
There was a series of sarcastic replies that followed.
I've literally had to "reboot" my car at a red light because the Bluetooth/stereo will randomly die on me.
r6raff ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:55:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously lol, my wife and kids are constantly asking for help with an assortment is electronics and devices, I always ask if they tried a reboot (spoiler alert, they never do) so I reboot and walk away, 99% of the time that's all it takes.
I administrate Salesforce for my company and some people follow this too closely. "The report didn't show all the opportunities so I restarted my computer." Ok, maybe we ought to check the report filters first next time.
Even modern stoves/ovens can benefit from this! Went to my in-laws once, their oven had stopped working though the stove was fine, I pulled it out and unplugged it for 30 seconds or so and plugged it back in and all was good.
neewom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm the resident in-office nerd, and often act as the hands for the guys that do the bulk of our actual technical work. I'm not a computer idiot, but these guys put me to shame. Mostly, I'm the person that deals with the day-to-day stuff that crops up like "my [remote desktop app] is doing weird things" and "my internet's not working" issues (or replace a fan in one of the enterprise routers, then call the actual nerd who then walks me through what I've already done and listen patiently because I know he has to do that with everyone, and why). It's scary how many of them think that I'm the genius when all I do is basically turn shit on and off, maybe reset a setting. I'm sure our actually-credentialed nerds think the same about me.
I used to have a 1993 4Runner. The cruise control would just stop working on road trips. So I would push in the clutch, completely shutoff the engine, start it back up, release the clutch, and the cruise would work fine.
I work on one of the detectors at CERN. We have the largest manmade detector (basically a MASSIVE camera) ever made with over a dozen subsystems that have to work together to run. It's essentially the most complicated and I would say sophisticated electronic device humans have made. When something doesn't work or stops working, our first response is still to turn off that system and turn it back on. 90%+ of the time that fixes it.
Works for self checking on hurt feelings for me. If I sleepon it, and I am not still upset then I was just tired and needed a nap. Saves so many arguements
In the new multi million dollar lab I am in. We were having trouble with this new machine that was meant to streamline an experiment and just no one could get it working. Everyone looked at me like I was insane when I suggested turning it off and on again... Guess what, it worked.
There's a Pepsi machine that is a twisted mother fucker outside my lab. When I showed my lab mate that it works perfectly after unplugging/replugging, she simply couldn't believe it, until
I told her it was just an innocent computer.
The equipment I run at work was mostly a prototype. Cost something crazy like 5-6 million.
Something goes wrong we can't figure out pretty quick? Flip the big power switch, leave it off about 10 minutes, kick it back on and 90% of the time it's resolved itself.
Blows my mind that with something that big and expensive that our go to fix is the ol "cycle the power".
squigs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:20:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A friend of mine found this worked for a sewing machine. Given that the electronics in it consisted of a motor and a foot pedal, there's no way this should work but it did.
The best way to think about it is that if an orchestra is off its easier to start the whole thing over again than for the instruments that are behind to try and catch up to the other instruments as the piece is being played.
True story : my laptop wouldn't boot for some reason. I called up the tech support at my office to raise a IT ticket. The guy asked me this exactly, "have you tried restarting your laptop"
I used to work in 1st line tech support so you can imagine how often I had to say that, I never got many approving responses when I'd say it, and I'd have to remind them that its a clichรฉ for a reason. Then the problem was resolved 90% of the time.
Some computers I seen with run times of over 6 months, and you "turn it off every night", good one. We know you don't.
This hides systematic issues. Correcting the root cause is more important long-term.
barsoap ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:27:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Suggest to reinitialise the primary power coupling, then.
rblue ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:51:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I fixed a transmission by doing this. It was stuck in second gear. No issues for the rest of the ownership.
Jake63 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:33:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
only if it doesn't have batch / background processes that aren't restartable - a PC, perhaps, but a server that does long batch jobs - NO, Never, until you check that all jobs are finished.
Oh this applies to your brain fam. Sometimes you just need a reboot, you've been going too long and your mental RAM is cluttered and your PC is running slow but you don't know why. Just turn it off and back on again.
Also, unplugging/taking battery out and holding down the power button for 10 second to drain the capacitors/residual electric is the advanced version of this if things are still acting wonky :)
That one has earned me some really rotten responses at work but they go real quiet when it works.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:36:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've rebooted my refrigerator to kick start the ice maker! It worked
My teacher had a long talk with us today about why huge multi-million dollar companies use PLCs (Programmable Logic Controllers) instead of computers, and that is the very reason. Computers hang up and may lock the system up, while PLCs are simple, cheap, and stable.
This applies to people too. Stuck on something you canโt solve? Walk away for a bit. Having a strained relationship at home or work? Some time away can bring new perspective and opportunity to improve.
Bamith ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:14:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean this technically doesn't fix the "problem" it just resets the situation, if you do the exact same thing again where all the 0 and 1s align, you'll probably get the same outcome.
Though most situations that is fairly unlikely, unless whatever it is is just poorly coded and optimized making it more unpredictable.
Ardub23 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:51:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can make your computer run more efficiently by renaming it to System1. This lets it bypass the 31 checks that are still present as a carryover from when they were reserved for floppy disk drives.
Iโm pretty sure you would need delete capabilities for update purposes. I may be wrong, but I feel like that would be the main reason to keep system32 deletable
nlfo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:26:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Windows is in the recycling bin. Would you like to delete all items in the recycling bin?
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:53:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh boy back when we got the family computer for the very first time, I wanted to clean our hard drive and saw this unfamiliar system32 folder with so many weird files I've never seen before so I just dragged it to the trashcan.
Best thing is someone actually fell for that. They made fun of him but I donโt blame him, I wouldnโt even know what system 32 is if it wasnโt for the joke.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:19:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Windows is 64bit these days anyway, don't need 32
/jk
OGC- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:58:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You see, that's actually not a problem in modern systems. Windows 7 and up are 64bit machines, so you'd just be deleting hold-over data from the previous build.
There can be hundreds of services running in the background that are responsible for endless functions on your computer, phone, smart TV. In a lot of these circumstances it may be that one of these services is failing and needs a restart. 2 options, check through hundreds of services restarting each one until you find the culprit, or turn your device off and on again which starts all services cleanly, eliminating the problem.
Turning a device โoff and on againโ is actually the most efficient and effective routine in many scenarios for this reason.
Anrikay ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:22:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's why I always restart daily. Phone, laptop, and PC. Prevents obnoxious slowdowns from some program or other that's hogging your RAM.
el_seano ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:05:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, it's about re-initializing state. If you reboot any electronic system, it'll power on and run through a pre-determined series of instructions to arrive at a "okay, I'm ready to go" state. Or it won't, which is fantastically easier to troubleshoot than whatever fuckery you were getting up to to get it to the point where you're calling somebody for assistance.
This is the first time I have heard the rationale for rebooting explained in such a way that it made sense to me. Every other time it's something obtuse and I'm like "buildup of crystallized internet in the router, got it"
daedrin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:32:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, most issues that are fixed by restarting tend to have to do with a broken cache somewhere. Easiest way to restart 100 daemons and clean every cache? Just reboot.
What I tell my users is I could probably fix the issue without a restart but it will take the both of us at least another 30-60 mins which wastes everyone's time.
Me: โHave you rebooted yet?โ
User: โI already rebooted it.โ
Me: *reboots it anyway.
User: โI donโt know what you did but it works now.โ
Me: ยฏ\_(ใ)_/ยฏ
That is HILARIOUS! If she didn't laugh at that she doesn't deserve you.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:58:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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rj4001 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:30:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turning yourself off is easy. Turning back on again is a bit more complicated. Apparently there's this one guy that figured it out a while back and now he's got like a bunch of churches named after him or some shit.
Being in IT people often think your less smart because you use this. This is the optimal answer and it is because... all of the processes of software that launch from scratch upon a restart is the most efficent solution to one off problems.
I put my oven on the self clean cycle and the oven door locked... permanently. I tried everything, looked up old Kenmore ovens in forums, texted my landlady, even debated taking apart the door. I turned it back on clean and pressed a button, turned it off clean then CLICK I never thought it would apply to 1970 ovens
I fix computers for a living and like 15-20% of computers that come in exhibit none of the issues that we're described because they were turned off before being brought in.
I'm not even a 40k fan (the lore kinda scares me with how much there is, and I have a family to support, I can' afford to play), but if I could take a test or fill out a form or something to get a "Tech Priest" certificate or diploma or something, I would frame that shit so fast.
I work on supercomputers professionally and you'd be shocked how often this advice works for me.
Apollo guidance computers as well. That was their main failure mode - drop all low priority tasks, and if necessary, restart. Quite a sophisticated failsafe OS design for the time.
I've worked testing cell phones that were built with Java, android, and iOS. I've worked on wireline backbone equipment ranging from a fractionalized T1 circuit to SONET rings and DWDM, and I currently service automated key cutting kiosks with a Linux OS and lots of tiny little motors, switches, relays, and what have you.
Reset, reseat, replace or some variation is the gold standard on so much of this crap. Doesn't work? Turn it off and on again. That didn't work? Pull the battery, reseat the card, unplug the sensor and plug it back in again. Clean the component is also listed here, but it doesn't start with R so it's lumped into this R. Finally, if that doesn't work replace the component if possible.
If fixes so so much more than just a windows machine.
It works on just about all operating systems. I use MacOS, Linux and Windows and I canโt even begin to count how many times a reboot has helped fix things. Sometimes all your computer needs is a fresh start in the morning.
Literally did this just a few days ago with my CAR of all things. I was stopped at an intersection in my town and when I tried to go it just wouldnโt. After a moment of panicking I was able to get it into park and turned it off. Turned back on, boom, it was like nothing even happened.
When my dad and I looked under the hood, everything looked fine, so I have NO IDEA what happened to make it just not go like that, but Iโll be damned if turning it off then back on didnโt work like a charm.
2004 Pontiac Sunfire. I havenโt had any problems with it since, everything seems to be running and sounding fine ๐คท๐พโโ๏ธ I just hope it doesnโt take a shit, I just got new tires and brake pads like a month ago
My manager at work put an emergency call out to have our walk in fridge fixed since it was about 10degrees over what itโs meant to be and wouldnโt go lower.
I asked if heโd tried turning it off and back on.
read a story on reddit about an Amish guy who joined the navy and became an electronics tech.
If there was a problem with equipment most techs. say to turn it off and back on. This guy didn't know this and would come and trouble shoot the problem without trying to reset it 1st.
Turns out he became the ships best electrician because he would find the problem
I work for a software company and had a call from a customer who uses our software with his airplane. Now this is a legit airplane, not a model or RC plane. He says he's having some weird problems and I troubleshoot the best I can given the circumstances (no remote access, not familiar with the airplane systems at all) and his battery just died on the plane even though he has direct power.
So he tries powering down the airplane and starting it up again. And what do you know? Our software starts to play nice with his airplane after the "reboot".
Funniest instance of "have you tried turning it off and on again" I've ever had.
If you learn why it works, it actually makes a lot of sense
cvmn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:38:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I recently moved to tech support and knew of the old adage but wasnโt prepared for how often it really is just that simple. I donโt mind helping people but it does waste a lot of my time.
actually we go new trucks at work and it has spooky wiring/computer faults that if you disconnect the battery let it sit and then hook it back it if fixes it. thats fucked up
I work IT, and we recently did a policy update for one of our clients that fucked with their settings pretty hard, until you rebooted. So for a couple days meow Iโve just answered half the questions with โhave you tried turning it off and back on again?โ
This was a South Park episode too where the world goes crazy when the global Internet router goes down. And one of the boys just pull the plug and put it back in.
Im IT at my place of work, most people now try turning it off and on again before asking for help. That also can suck because if its an issue ive never delt with before Im like "fuck, they've done what I would have done, now I have to make it seem like i know what im doing"
I was in the navy not too long ago, just finished my contract. I worked on two CIWS guns and theyโd always break. Before we started to troubleshoot anything, weโd just turn off and on the entire mount and system. 9/10 it would fix the issue.
Honestly works for people too. If I'm upset or having a really hard time in the evening, rather than fret about it for hours I go to bed. Usually it looks better in the morning.
But all the tech in the cars themselves has caused drivers on the whole to get lazy. Adaptive cruise control, blind spot monitors, parking sensors, and back up cameras have caused drivers to rely on them too much.
Then they blame the tech for accidents.
There's a fine line between helpful features and features that make it easier to look away from the road
Just my 2ยข
Wormbo2 ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 04:18:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I personally find that I'm WAYYY more attentive in my old bunky work car, with no cruise, no aircon, no cameras. It requires me to actually drive the thing.
Then I get in a nice new Euro or Japanese flash mobile, and I'm distracted by adjusting the heated ball fondlers and eyebrow pluckers installed on that model.
Oh I donโt mean all that fancy shitโI personally am amazed and in love with the fact that my car has Bluetooth and I can just yell at my phone to get it to do things. The car I had before this one had a cassette player, so.
I have front+rear sensors, reversing camera and regular cruise control.
In regards to the cruise control, I like it because I find by not worrying about my speed, I can remain more attentive of the road and my surroundings.
In regarding to my parking assistance, I still keep an eye out all around, but it makes me more confident in my choices and helps prevent any potential collisions (as rare as they may be).
Overall, I prefer the tech. It helps, and it may make me a bit lazy, but it's also better overall. There's shit drivers all around, so the more stuff to help them avoid collisions (especially when parking) the better imo
Me too. Dad and sisters cars have backup sensors. I use them generally at the very end of my parallel park or a glance before pulling out of the driveway. Still trust the mirrors and window more.
It comes down to responsibility. These features are useful if you can be responsible, and a lot of people can. But it makes anyone who can't much more dangerous
I disagree about that last part. If someone can't be bothered to listen to their sensors, check the camera etc. then chances are they're a lazy driver anyway who's risking themselves. The sensors might give them a prod if they can't be arsed checking their mirrors one time.
Not sure how it can make them more dangerous though.
It can make them more dangerous if the driver now only uses the camera or only checks the blind spot monitors. Instead of using the windows and actually checking their blindspots. Not that they can't help, but it can make certain drivers less safe
Fair enough. But I'd hazard a guess that anyone lazy enough to think the camera is enough probably wasn't properly checking their surroundings when reversing anyway.
My backup camera has made my experience nothing but better. I like not having to angle mirrors when parallel parking, and having a wide angle view behind me as I'm backing out of a busy parking lot is comforting.
I wish I could use this, but Dutch Siri never understands anything. It's really frustrating. Instead, I just don't use my phone on the road at all, but it would be convenient to be able to use it sometimes.
(I'd turn Siri English if I could, but the language is forced to Dutch by my company as it's a work phone)
I use ok Google, and loved it for when I needed to text on the go.
Now they've updated it to be "more secure" and there's no voice match unlock option, which means you can no longer text from the lock screen, which means you can't use it to text while driving.
Thanks, Google. You've just made your mediocre "AI" worse. I understand there's risks with voice unlock, but I accept those risks. Why do you force this choice upon us, instead of before when you informed us there was a risk but let us to ahead ahead?..
I think you light be able to work around this by enabling Bluetooth unlock with your car. Mine always stays unlocked I'm the car so I would imagine Google Assistant would work
I never knew about home unlocking. I wonder how that works (maybe certain wifi networks?).
Not everyone has car Bluetooth BUT an easy workaround would be to buy any cheap Bluetooth device and leave it plugged into your car. For example, you could leave an old Smartwatch in the car and enable Bluetooth unlocking for it.
I never knew about home unlocking. I wonder how that works (maybe certain wifi networks?).
It's based on GPS. You set an area (or multiple areas) where you consider your phone "safe", and are happy for it to not require unlocking. However, so often do I find that it doesn't bloody work.
Not everyone has car Bluetooth BUT an easy workaround would be to buy any cheap Bluetooth device and leave it plugged into your car. For example, you could leave an old Smartwatch in the car and enable Bluetooth unlocking for it.
Still a stupid workaround. Seriously, just let their users know of the risks (as they already did) but then let us decide what we want to do. Don't nanny us.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:26:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was explained to me that both texting and driving a car both require executive capacity brain function. Your brain can only handle one executive function at a time. So it is physically impossible to be doing both at the same time.
Shout out to my family for calling me โthe grandma driverโ because I donโt touch my phone while Iโm driving. Ever.
For context: Iโm a 19 year old man and I donโt give a flying fuck what they call me because Iโve never been in an accident because of my phone, and most of them have.
Thanks for saying this! A man does whatever the F he wants as long as it's reasonable. I've been using one of those grandma groceries carts for ages. Now that I have a baby girl to carry around, my back says "thank you for taking care of me me all these years".
I have one of those carts because where I park my car is two buildings away from my apartment. That cart is tge best thing I ever bought! Keep on cartin', brother!
I just got home from work, and on the drive home the car in front of me came to a sudden stop at a set of green lights. I stopped suddenly too assuming something was happening instead of beeping or anything, and as we started going again changed lanes and drove past the car.
The bitch was on her fucking phone.
I was furious. She wasnโt doing the speed limit, kept suddenly stopping and was just an all round nuance.
All to be on the fucking phone like a dumbass.
thebumm ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:10:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's no such thing as texting and driving. They are separate activities that render the other impossible. When you're driving, drive and do not try to text!
I created a habit where I NEVER EVER look at my phone while crossing the street. Just keep my head up for those 10 seconds or so, look at the cars, maybe smile to a driver, then resume scrolling facebook.
So many times I saw people walk on the street looking at their phones like the world around didn't exist, and cars having to brake hard to not cause a collision. And there are LOTS of distracted or just plain crazy people. Blindly trusting that they won't kill me just to look at my phone for 5 seconds doesn't seem worth it.
I can't believe the amount of people I've seen on reddit saying things like "yeah but I only use my phone responsibly when I'm driving." I had someone tell me they only send very quick texts. What the fuck
These people don't think they're taking a risk; it's some Dunning Kruger shit. Someone once replied to me with:
Frankly, with iMessage, I'm much more likely to try to type out a quick text while driving because I know I'm not going to remember/have a draft later. Not a good excuse, but reality
Can confirm. A guy was on his phone, ran a red light and I hit him. I was going approximately 55-60mph. The last thing I remember was a little kids face peering out the rear drivers side window of the truck. I woke up in the middle of getting a cat scan. Everyone in the guys truck walked away from the accident. The cop that responded to the accident said he was sure I was dead. The engine of my work van was in the seat next to me. Turned out to be a lengthy court ordeal but worked out in my favor thanks to witnesses who saw the whole thing. I never could find the off duty nurse who kept me stable until the ambulance arrived. I have a dash cam now because too many damn people are too concerned with their phones instead of driving safely.
jrep_ ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:40:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not gonna lie, I definitely drive too fast. I do not drive like an asshole, though (there is a difference). I'm a 21 year old who is definitely on my phone way too much but won't touch it while I'm driving unless I'm at a red light and need to change the song.
It amazes me the amount of "responsible" adults are on their phones while driving a car. THEY'RE the ones driving like assholes and not paying attention to the road. Frustrating as hell.
Itโs no joke.. Over 1000 people died in vehicle related accidents in S.C.
It has nothing to do with you being a great driver. Itโs that you canโt pay attention to the rest of the dickheads hat populate the pavement, the asses littering the asphalt, or even the bitches on the blacktop.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:25:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Werner Herzog made a film about texting and driving some years ago. The same applies to making calls or doing anything else on your phone while driving. You do NOT want to be one of those people in the film.
I used to live in a city where thieves would steal things out of the passenger or back seat while the driver was still in the car (and would even smash a window to do so). The safest place for all things was in the trunk/boot of the car. It's a habit now to put my bag and phone in the trunk before I get behind the wheel.
only time you should be allowed to be on your phone is when the vehicle is stopped. and even then, you should be looking up constantly every couple seconds to see if you should be moving.
I've tried this and I have still managed to cause a small halt because I did't check fast enough if the car in front of me started moving. So I stopped using the phone altogether and it sits in the holder. If I have a really urgent message, I send a voice message while the phone is still in its holder.
It takes a minute to pull over, get the whole thing over with, and continue without having to worry about getting to the next lights to finish your text. I prefer this approach.
I drive, at least, 4 hours a day. Sometimes 2-3 hours at a time. If I can make it that long without looking at my phone. People can last 10 or so minutes.
The threat of death is lost upon convenience. Something that only takes you a few seconds canโt possibly cause death, right?
Use your turn light and don't make sudden lane changes.
gurutar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:02:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude yes!! had to drive an hour and a half yesterday to Ann Arbor and saw 2 accidents, one was 2 cars and the other was 3, roads were clear so what happened..? ๐ค cops still there and everything within half an hour! then 5 minutes after the last one someone in front of us had their tire fly off and roll away.
I'll agree last guy not his fault but still crazy to see them all so close together!!!
raddits ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:12:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I usually just put on a movie because I'm too lazy to rotate the screen to answer the text and not to mention interrupt the movie.
Iโve had to pull someone out of an upside down car because they lost control when texting and driving. (I know you shouldnโt move people in these circumstances until the ambulance turns up but she was going batshit crazy thrashing about in the car and I reckoned she was better off out than in)
She had almost hit several people at a bus stop when she veered off the road.
And yet I notice that when I tap on the window of cars pulled up at a junction and do the little pinky-and-thumb out putting-a-phone-down mime to the driver , people rarely thank me.
I genuinely believe that allowing phones on the road will save many more lives. Everyone already uses their phone but tries to hide it so it's in their lap. If they stopped trying to hide it and used it on to of the wheel, the road would be a lot more easily visible and easier to pay attention to both at the same time.
In addition to this, if someone is going fast, just let them pass you, donโt be the asshole that drives aggressively to combat that because it makes everything worse
Just because someone is driving fast does not mean that they are the bad driver in the situation. If the speed limit is 65 but traffic is going 80, you are not the good driver for going the speed limit in the fast lane.
As someone with several decades commuting experience in northern and southern California, I can tell you that a person going 10 miles slower than everyone else on the road is more dangerous than a person going 10 miles faster than everyone else. Hundreds of people have to make the decision and action to avoid the slow driver, but only one person has to avoid a collision if that person is going fast (assuming the fast person is not an idiot.)
Isoldael ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:49:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's all great, but with the speed cameras everywhere going 15 miles (~24km) per hour over the speed limit is still going to land you a nice โฌ241 fine here, not including administration costs.
I might not drive on the left, but I'm certainly not going to rake up fines just because people decide the speed limit isn't for them.
I don't know how roadways are in other countries or even out in California where the person you responded to lives, but the places I've been, you absolutely must follow flow of traffic. Shooting down the interstate in Atlanta, GA and everyone is doing 75 mph+ in a 55 zone. 6 lanes and were doing 90 in the left. Suddenly we're all having to make some quick ass decisions because some dumbass is going 55 in the far left. Police seem to be pulling over only people trying to do the speed limit. Certain areas of America, the driving is super aggressive and the numbers on the signs mean absolutely nothing.
I joined a caravan of 8 vehicles once doing 90 in a 65. Cop was on the side of the road motioning us to slow down a bit, but never pulled anyone over. Speeding is one thing, but maintaining the flow of traffic is another. It was 430, so when people were started to get off work.
I've always been taught to go with the flow of traffic, but living in Canada was also told (and this is typically true outside of an occasional asshole driver) that if you're going the limit and traffic catches up to you, you're under no obligation to speed up to accommodate them
I've embraced my cruise control and will happily putter along at like 3-10 km/h (depending on base speed) over the limit, and that's mostly because even cops around here will tailgate you and pass pretty aggressively if you're doing exactly the limit. On the plus side lights around here are timed pretty well and nothing feels better than puttering along, having someone scream by you and stop at a red light, and I watch the light go green and not need to press the brake at all, just putter along, this time 'screaming' by him because he's at a dead stop
Was once told as a young driver who was speeding up to accommodate a tailgater: "They aren't driving your car. Drive how you need to. Fuck them."
Thanks, Dave
I have a friend like this. He's the super aggressive where nothing is ever his fault. If he thinks someone is trying to 'angry pass' him he'll intentionally cut them off.
I will not get in the car with him if I can avoid it. Every time I say something he gets defensive and reminds me I've been in more accidents than him (I have been in two, neither of which were at all my fault and were caused by drivers like him).
I wish more people followed this advice. Driving is one of the most dangerous things a lot of people do in their day-to-day life and they donโt even realize it.
The speed is not really the root cause. It is the lack of awareness and focus while driving.
You can easily drive fast on the German autobahns if you're just focused while doing it.
Agree, but the Autobahns are designed for fast driving (I'm Irish, but I did my Fรผhrerschein in Germany) with big, long, almost-straight bits (and limits at the junctions). Irish motorways can have bendier bends and I wouldn't feel as safe when driving over the speed limit on them.
So "obey the local speed limits" is probably a better one.
Although there are many 80 or 100kmh speed limits on tiny Irish country roads (one lane, grass in the middle, nothing but blind bends), so maybe "drive the road that's in front of you and ignore the tailgating jerks" would be better again.
Speed isn't the danger. Like previously said, Its the person not paying attention to the road and their surroundings. Its the driver who thinks it is their duty to put hamper that aggressive driver.
What I do while driving is, monitor not just in front of me, but all around me. And I then ok, what is the dumbest thing that driver can do and mentally prepare for that scenario. I've avoided a lot accidents (Orlando) just because of that thinking. And most crashes Ive witnessed have involved a slower driver.
Isoldael ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 05:55:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Speed isn't the danger, but you can't always account for everything, and if you do get into a crash speeding is going to make everything much worse (not only for you, but also the other party involved).
At one point last year, I was overtaking a lorry on the highway and going ~130kmph. From in front of the lorry, a car suddenly pops out going in my direction. I think the guy must have hit something on the other side of the lorry and out of my sight that spun him right around and caused him to go against traffic. I managed to swerve around him and avoid a head-on collision, but had I been going any faster, it would have been a terrible accident. Even if you're a great driver, you can't always predict everything.
My mom is always scrolling through Facebook or texting clients when I'm in the car with her and that shit gives me MAJOR anxiety every time I notice. She says she'll stop but it's been going on for years...
Seriously, I'm going to drive near the speed limit (maybe 5-10 over). Honking at me, flashing your highbeams, or tailgating me will not make me move faster. If there's a right lane, I'm there.
My boss speeds everywhere. We went from one job site to another about 20 miles away. He was there more than 5 minutes before me and yelled at me for it. 2 days later, between the same two job sites, I was there 2 hours before him. He's fine (so is the other driver), but he got into an accident while weaving in and out of lanes. Any time he mentions that I take longer than him now, I just say "Yup. Until I don't"
I use a commuter train in my city. The number of people that cross the tracks when a train is approaching to try to get work is maddening!
I've stopped several people that are about to cross not realizing an express train flys through before the train they want. It's completely safe to cross and catch their train after.
This is so true. On my 1 hr trafficy commute, too often I see people driving aggressively and constantly changing lanes to find the fastest one. I just stay steady in my lane till my exit comes and very often I pass those aggressive drivers along the way.
I generally go 70-75 on the 65 mph speed limit highway where I live, but I NEVER do that kind of driving. Iโll chill in the left lane with the rest of the cars going my speed (which a ton do). If they happen to be going slower Iโll follow the flow. If theyโre going faster I move over.
I wish I had that luxury everyday. My commute is mostly going 45mph on a 65mph 4 lane highway. People still try to swerve through the traffic which is absolutely pointless because they're risking a collision, slowing traffic further, and not going anywhere any faster.
I drive through traffic jams on the interstate a lot. And let me just say, I love driving fast. But you have to recognize that when everyone is jammed up, there's nothing you can do other than make the situation better/worse. I just stay in my lane, don't tailgate, and let cars merge on and off. I feel like if we just used our brakes less, traffic jams wouldn't be so bad.
Not_dM ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:32:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I got this advice once, phrased like this: it's better to be five minutes late than dead on time.
AX_ZonE ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:41:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My brother gave me his version of this advice once:
Better 10 minutes late than 10 years too early in hell
ArielRR ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:58:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to be a speed demon teenager. Thankfully it never turned into a bad thing, now I go a bit under the speed limit and let most people pass while looking at sidestreets and such.
People complain about bad drivers all the time (they're obviously out there) but I avoid potentially dangerous situations by allowing myself extra distance for stopping abruptly, etc.
If someone is tailing me, I slow down just a bit more to get them off my ass. Defensive driving is something everyone should know and practice
I find that the speed limits in my area (PA) are weirdly low. Like, I've been all over, and for some reason they tell you to drive 20 mph even though it's a straight road with no stop signs, and plenty of room on both sides.
Meanwhile when I lived back in NC all the speed limits GENERALLY made sense, and that exact same road would have been a 40-50 limit.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:50:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have never heard of someone yeeting himself over a bridge because he went 20mph too fast
And injuries hurt!
Source - rode a motorbike for ten years and now have a false testicle. Funny now, sure. But when your sack is the size of your fist and dark purple it is not funny.
Symotix ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:46:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh lol I thought you meant the road of life and that genuinely helped confirm a difficult decision that I have to make
This needs to be the top comment. Slow down people, stop tail gating and weaving, relax (no one is personally attacking you when they change lanes in front of you).
Hell yeah, people on the road are so stupid. And I mean pedestrians. Drivers at least have read the traffic rules once in their life. I always wonder why people stand at the red traffic light then (if the light has a countdown) they just rush to cross the road when it's 10 seconds left until green light. What the fuck? Will 10 seconds save you more than your life?
Madcowe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:57:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work at a gas station, one time this woman with huge pink headphones drives in... She was the driver... With huge headphones.
I dont know about other countries however in pretty sure that should be unanimously illegal
Watch out. Redditors get extremely defensive over their right to drive excessively over the speed limit for no good reason.
Personally, Iโve seen and heard of a lot of fatal speed related crashes and think itโs better to go a reasonable speed and stay safe. 5-10 over maybe if traffic is moving crazy fast for some reason, but thatโs IT.
a-r-c ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:10:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
driving is prob the most dangerous thing you'll ever do
I like to watch people cut me off, just to get to the off-ramp first.
Joke's on you, this ain't my exit!
Also I walk fast, so even if they get to their destination first, I can beat them to the door.
70 miles an hour, or 80 miles an hour- congrats; you could have just left about 5 minutes earlier.
My driving teacher always said โThe most important thing is to arrive in one piece, so take your time, you will arrive, this one or two minutes wonโt make a differenceโ
I wake up early so I can have a relaxed shit, shower, and drive to work. Everyone else can try to weave through traffic all they want, I'm gonna be cruising steady in the right lane drinking my coffee and listening to music. I'm not gonna get my panties all in a bunch before I even get to the Stress Creation Factory that is work.
Honestly, I don't understand why people speed? There are a good amount of safe ways to get the adrenaline rush of driving fast. Most states have race tracks that allow for track days (and europe loves their race tracks so go to pretty much any track) where you can bring your own car and have good, safe and fast fun. Only thing is, you gotta pay a track fee and bring a helmet.
Hell, if you don't want to do that, find a go-kart racing track. Usually something like 30 bucks that includes track fee, helmet rental, and firesuit (if required). Basically, people, slow the fuck down when on the road. If you wanna go fast, do it safe and legally.
It has nothing to do with an "adrenaline rush" and everything to do with the fact that when I am in the car, I am going somewhere, and I want to get there as quickly as possible, because driving is super boring. We're all dying from the time we're born, and there are so many books to read, languages to learn, friends and family members to catch up with, foods to eat, places to visit, and hobbies to take up - I don't want to fritter away my limited time on this earth sitting uselessly in my vehicle trapped behind some unbearably slow twatwaffle!
Just gotta ask...did you for a /s on the end of this? Because if your reason to put other people in mortal danger is because you're too impatient, than you can fuck right off.
I think a lot of people would disagree that going 5-10mph over the speed limit (which in most places is way lower than road studies suggest is actually necessary for safety) is "putting other people in mortal danger", my dude.
It makes me so mad when I see someone swerving and when I drive by theyโre on their phone, and what makes me even more mad is when people literally have their phone in their lap and theyโre looking straight down while driving
Used to drive a truck. I went from one of the worlds most unsafe drivers to one of the worlds safest overnight. Once you understand how little control semis have in braking you learn to not be a dipshit reap quick.
Also, always have a car gun. There's a million holsters made to mount in you car and although i only drove for a year i was in 4 instances where i wished I'd had one. Fuck the DOT. Carry one.
Cire101 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:35:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think people overestimate their ability to drive at that fast of a speed and it's really unfortunate they think like that
Maybe it's just me getting old, but it seems like people are more aggressive than ever while driving. Like they just NEED to cut in front after ignoring the giant flashing arrow that let them know a mile back that their lane was about to end. WTF.
Some dickhead driving a loud shiny chunk of Godโs disappointment in humanity tailgated me for at least half a mile on a 45mph road, passed me literally the instant the dotted line appeared (at least he was following half the law, right?), and then accelerated to speeds which suggested he was A) trying to keep a bomb from exploding, or B) in hot (albeit belated) pursuit of Doc Brown.
Had he been alone in the car, and we not in the suburbs, I would have wished for him to collide with something less inclined to move than he was. Unfortunately, there was someone in the passenger seat who I presume he was trying to impress, and we were, in fact, approaching a residential area. So I just hope he got/gets pulled over and tased, a lot.
Keinichn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:10:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Some people need to speed up as well. If everyone is going 70 and you're going 55, you're the hazard and any accident you get involved in is going to be worse than if you got in one going the speed of traffic.
Yea speeding sucks, but in some areas it's required to be safe, as unintuitive as it sounds. And my 70 in a 55 example is an every day occurrence on a stretch of highway near me. Speed limit is 55, but you'll get passed like you're not moving if you go anything slower than 65.
YES. Also when getting on a freeway it is crucial to speed up to freeway speeds. I canโt tell you how many dipshit tourists in my town donโt get this and we start merging on the freeway going 35/40 when itโs 65. I feel like I might die every time that happens
Kfey93 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:00:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
However, people who are driving 10mph under the speed limit, staring out their side windows, smoking, on the phone, not signaling need to STAY OFF THE ROAD FOREVER BECAUSE YOU CAUSE MORE ACCIDENTS THAN PEOPLE WHO SLIGHTLY SPEED!
My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Cheap and extremely effective. :)
Edited for spelling it โsweet & condensedโ. Hey I thought it was funny!
a few more edits: Thanks for the precious metals guys!
Iโm reading a ton of folks say it works on ants too! Score! Also, yes you can sprinkle the boric acid (some are saying borax works too), on the floor but I like the balls because thereโs no dealing with a dust layer. To hide them, drop them behind a refrigerator, in a hole under the sink, above a kitchen cabinet. Is it toxic to kids/pets - I was assuming so - many say no, but Iโd rather just keep them up and away and not have to find out! Donโt need any diarrhea or vomiting in my life at the moment. I have no idea why it works for years, but Iโm guessing itโs because roaches feed on each other when they die so the dead ones become poison to the living ones, so the ratio of dead ones continues to increase!
Please don't ever delete this because one day if I have roaches I will dig through my saved comments looking for this
iCanon ยท 5132 points ยท Posted at 03:39:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Cheap and extremely effective. :)
Edited for something spelled poorly, albeit hilariously.
I saved a picture with your names so when you all don't have accounts in the year 3019 you will be remembered for preserving the sanctity of future kitchens in some historic photo archive. Doing invaluable work, folks.
FivesG ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 05:32:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
also in the URL if you replace โredditโ with โremovedditโ you can see deleted/removed comments.
My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Cheap and extremely effective. :)
Edited for something spelled poorly, albeit hilariously.
Saving in case op deletes his account and someone finds this on Google in 8 years.
My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Cheap and extremely effective. :)
Edited for something spelled poorly, albeit hilariously.
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:18:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Cheap and extremely effective. :)
Edited for something spelled poorly, albeit hilariously.
Saving in case op deletes his her account and someone finds this on Google in 8 years.
My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Cheap and extremely effective. :)
Edited for something spelled poorly, albeit hilariously.
Saving in case op deletes his account and someone finds this on Google in 8 years.
My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Cheap and extremely effective. :)
Edited for something spelled poorly, albeit hilariously.
Saving in case op deletes his account and someone finds this on Google in 8 years.
My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
A seven dollar tube of combat gel does the same thing. We lived in an apartment that was heavily infested and when we moved we brought a bunch of the little fuckers with us despite our best efforts to leave them behind. We tried all manner of products including boric acid (without the luring properties of the sweetened condensed milk, that seems like a game changer) but nothing worked until we found the combat gel. Just squirt it in places like OP said away from pets and kids and I swear it was I snapped my fingers and the roaches were just gone one night.
Combat is a brand name of pest control products, and they make a gel that comes in a big syringe you can just squirt it strategically around your home and put the cap back on and save it for next time. Though to be fair I just used the entire tube and I've never had to reapply.
Yep some roaches ain't that bad to get rid of with the right tools, I used a combo of igr, some sort of gel I can't remember the name strategically placed, and a mix of Ortho homedefense with igr added. Spiders in the back yard though? What a pain, this one jerk made a web across the main entrance I would use to the backyard multiple times a day. I ended up leaving a broom handle to swing around when I walk through.
A growth inhibitor thingy that prevents all the babies that are in already laid eggs from maturing enough to reproduce. Most insecticides don't kill anything in eggs.
Oh, someone commented and I edited it. I had written โsweet & condensedโ. Just had surgery and running on lack of sleep along with some pain so my brain wasnโt working at the moment.
My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Plot twist: Iโm a woman! I canโt ever see myself deleting my account. I hardly know anyone who Redditโs (poor suckers) so itโs my late-night place to read because Fakebook newsfeed is too much of an eye roll. Yโall know what Iโm saying. ;)
Hold on, going to get my house infested with roaches so that I can use your above advice, in the off chance that your account or this thread and everyone else's comments are deleted.
Saving in case op deletes his account and someone finds this on Google in 8 years.
My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Cheap and extremely effective. :)
Edited for something spelled poorly, albeit hilariously.
Saving in case op deletes his account and someone finds this on Google in 8 years.
My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Cheap and extremely effective. :)
Edited for something spelled poorly, albeit hilariously.
> Sharing to help in the future hellscape where /u/iCanon 's account is deleted for copyright infringement
Saving in case op deletes his account and someone finds this on Google in 8 years.
My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Cheap and extremely effective. :)
Edited for something spelled poorly, albeit hilariously.
Making a backup of a backup, 'cause you can never be too sure...
My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Cheap and extremely effective. :)
Edited for something spelled poorly, albeit hilariously.
Jviv308 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:03:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Looking forward to tomorrow's BuzzFeed article: Most Effective Insecticide That You're Not Using!
not26 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:02:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is super useful when you are trying to save that reply to an image or gif post that you just had to know the source of. And someone replies with a gallery...
I screenshot things from Reddit and actually keep a folder, "Life Tips". I have them broken into legal stuff, financial tips, technology, food/cooking, cleaning/household hacks, and more. Reddit is fucking amazing
Just pick up 20 Mule Team Borax (it's a white powder) from the store and sprinkle it around, you don't need to go through all that trouble in the comment above.
It's a laundry booster, you're supposed to use it in the washing machine, but you literally just sprinkle it along your baseboards and every kind of insect will fuck right off.
It sucks up moisture, and insects need a thin layer of oil on their exoskeleton to stay moisturized or they die.
Use snipping tool (Win 10), Grab (OS X) or screenshot it to be extra sure, and save it into Dropbox or your cloud storage. Then label the folder you save it in โCOCKROACHES OMG AHHHโ or something like that
I would just like to say that you can save up to 1000 comment/post, anymore will get the oldest ones deleted.
In case you save lots of things (like me) you can always create a private sub for you where you post whatever you like there (comments, posts, pics...etc) and not fear them being removed or deleted.
If you donโt have condensed milk, I use flour and karo syrup with the boric. Mix to a peanut butter consistency and dab around the house. Donโt have to worry tooooo much about leaning it out of reach of pets as it isnโt fatal to mammals in such small amounts.
Because you never know when someone will delete a comment, I now share comments I want to save to Evernote. Works great, as I can save in searchable topic-based notebooks (home tips, travel, etc.).
Actually probably type in roach infestation solution and Reddit in the same google search and boric acid comes up often. Same with lacing a sweet treat with it too
It's called Borax, and if you go to a hardware store and ask for something to kill roaches, that's the first thing they'll suggest. No need to save this, it's a pretty common thing.
Thatโs what makes it so mind-blowing...so many people spend endless energy trying to spray/bomb/professionally exterminate roaches, yet the solution is so simple...everyone needs to know!
If you want to save a comment forever, try copying it and pasting it into a text file on your computer. If all of your saved Reddit comments are in one text file, or several text files in one directory, it's really easy to search and you don't have to worry about someone else deleting it.
kate__8 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:42:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mixing it with anything is unnecessary and shortens the duration the acid is effective. It should be a very fine dust like coating. Too heavy and they avoid it. You can read about it and other methods from this entomologist.
I know this is 6 days old, but why rely solely on the comment not being deleted?
Copy-paste the entire text to notepad, save it as a text file, use snipping-tool (built into Windows) to save it as an image, save it in OneDrive, GoogleDrive, iCloud, print it out, put it in a folder in your fire safe, have it tattooed on your back, carve it into the wall.
It's free information. These websites can go down, comments can be archived, subreddits can be removed (unlikely for AskReddit, aka Reddit's honeypot for gilding monies), but if you have multiple places for it, or at a minimum in some kind of cloud storage then you've got it for basically forever.
This works, I did the same thing in my apartment except I used boric acid and peanut butter. You really gotta be careful if you have pets though because they WILL find them.
[deleted] ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 03:21:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good lord, Iโm so sorry. Do you have a mattress/box spring right on the floor? When I did, I saw more awful shit on my bed. When I got a bed frame with small metal legs, and pulled it away from the wall a little, this decreased drastically.
Correct. Roaches feed on decaying stuff and will each another dead roach, therefore when they bring the poison to the nest, they will also feed on the dead ones who are also full of poison.
I would just put one in your room. Jam it up under a dresser where a pet or kid canโt get it. If there are any in your room theyโll find it. Because youโre hiding them well you never see them take the bait, you just suddenly realize that you never have roaches anymore!
Tursiart ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 03:43:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, but the best part is that boric acid isn't really that poisonous if you eat it. It's about as bad as the equivalent in table salt. So like table salt, you can technically overdose on it, but it tastes terrible in significant quantity so no kid/animal/etc would ever eat enough to cause serious harm.
[deleted] ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 03:48:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The sweetened condensed milk is to avoid having to sprinkle dust particles everywhere that later have to be cleaned. You can stick a ball behind the refrigerator and not only will you not have to not clean up but your pet canโt find that. If your pet can move the fridge out to eat something behind it, you have bigger issues.
Dee-j ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:49:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is this dangerous for pets tho? That's what I am trying to figure out...
Yes, which is why you should only put them where they can't reach. Children too. a small amount isn't deadly (Maybe if you have a SUPER small animal?) but it can give very nasty side effects if consumed.
I remember my dad putting them up above cabinets, behind the fridge/stove. He dropped one behind a hole where the sink was. Basically his goal was to put them where kids or pets couldnโt access at all and if they did (like pulling the refrigerator out), it would be him or my mom doing it and theyโd know to toss the ball of poison. I donโt think he put many - 8 or so? He also didnโt put them in most other rooms. Maybe one in the bathroom and a few in the laundry room. I grew up not really knowing what roaches looked like because of this trick. I would see a bug and ask if it was a cockroach! Clearly the days before google!
No it's an actual poison, just a relatively mild one, it takes a ton to kill anything but insects. Boric acid is extremely effective as a bait type insecticide because when you mix it with any sweet food that attracts bugs (or just straight sugar) they will carry it back to their nest and it will kill them all. I use ~10/1 sugar to boric acid mix with enough water added to make it a paste to deal with ants. Just spoon it into a small container (like a lid or something) and cover it up with a can or something with holes it in for the bugs to go through. After a few days there will be dead bugs all up in the container and if you mixed it right their nest will be mostly dead too.
Sparkism ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 06:33:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem with reddit is that you guys are always giving me solutions to issues I don't have; which is fine by itself, but then y'all put it in such interesting ways that I feel like I NEED to try it out or i'd be missing out on the science fair or something.
Ah yes! Hilarious what the mind does when itโs exhausted. Iโve just had surgery and running on empty between lack of sleep and pain! Itโs funny to me that I typed it that way. But, alas, I must correct it now. :)
Yeah but it says 'sweetened condensed milk' on the label. Did he ever edit his OP?
Rengiil ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:28:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't think so, maybe he forgot. And it says that on the label? Guess the guy who originally pointed it out has some explaining to do. This thread is a mess.
There is condensed milk, sweetened condensed milk and even caramellized sweetened consensed milk. The latter two usually are available at Eastern European/Russian stores.
While were on the topic of non toxic insecticides, I have one for ants. Get some warm water in a bowl, mix borax and some sugar in the bowl, place tiny bits of cotton balls in the mixture and put it where you have a trail of ants inside. The ants can't tell the difference between borax and sugar so they carry it back the their nest so everyone can enjoy it. The ants eat the borax and it kills them but the sugar is there to lure them in. You'll kill the whole nest of ants in a few days.
hqtitan ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:27:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And if, for some reason, your ants are ignoring the sugar mixture, try peanut butter instead. It works the same way, but some ants seem more partial to protein than sugar.
Depends on what they need at the moment in the nest. They need both sugar and protein to make the eggs. Bigger ants also eat more protein so they will look more for protein than the smaller ants.
I donโt know what time zone you are in, so I am only hoping itโs before 8am. I want to use this trick, but your user name makes me think otherwise.
I've done a lot of work on run-down rentals, and Harris' "Famous Roach Tablets" are essentially the same thing and come prepackaged, are cheap, are available pretty much everywhere and are extremely effective.
But seriously, they were about the size of grapes. I suppose you could do whatever size you wanted. A great big basketball sized one on the dining room table could make for nice conversation?
Same lol. I definitely wish we knew about this tip when we lived in our old apt. The trouble with apt living is that you get neighbors always moving in and out and you never know what kind of people might move in. We had new people move in right next door to us and then the entire building got very heavily infested with roaches (like lift up the edge of the carpet and find them swarming under the rug even UGH!). We ended up having to move to get away from them but stowaways just made a nest in our new place and we struggled for years to get rid of them, eventually moving yet again. When we moved the 2nd time we put Combat traps with egg baits all over and that eventually killed off the stowaways. The ones without the egg baits didn't kill them off. This was all before the internet was invented and so we didn't have access to so much good advice back then.
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:42:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, wait a minute, how many parts boric acid to the sweet condensed milk?
Bwhahahahahah!!! Well everyone is saying you can use borax which is a laundry additive, so maybe try that? I havenโt googled it. Good luck with the meth-making!
They are different things, but in this application, it's a distinction without a difference. You can use either mixed with sweet paste of choice to remove insects. Boric acid is made from borax.
I buy a roach bait/poison that looks like altoids mints, it's just sugar and boric acid. Just have a few in different corners of my apartment. It's very effective.
So my guess is that because they take it back to the nest and they all die, and they all eat each other that it just takes several years for the process to start all over again. I never really thought about the why. I mean I suppose they could have been regrouping and forming a militia. Not sure...
I would try Home Depot or a hardware store but not sure if it is still available or not. Another person said they don't sell it where they live because you can use it to make meth (who knew?) so get 20 Mule Team Borax if you can't find it. That's in the grocery store in the laundry detergent aisle, sold in a boxes like those that are common for dishwasher detergent. I buy it all the time and use a tbsp of it in my dishwasher with every load to help the dishes rinse better now that they removed phosphorous from the dish detergent. It's a useful product :)
Ive used grape jelly and borax to kill ants. Works great.
5redrb ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:00:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And boric acid is about the safest poison possible. For comparison, in rats it takes about 40% more boric acid than salt to kill one. But it kicks ass on roaches.
I'll try this. The spray bottle thing will never work on the roaches we have here in Malaysia unless I can flip them over on their backs; those things are armored beasts.
I gotta figure out where to get Boric Acid here though.
Boric acid works great for killing ants too. Buy these little triangular shaped ant bait traps (search โant cafeโ on Amazon. You get a bunch, so they last for years). Fill one with equal parts peanut butter, jelly and boric acid. Mix it up. Maybe start with a tablespoon of each. Fill the station and set it out where you see ants in your house. It takes a week or two because they take the bait to share with the colony. Eventually they will all die off. Problem solved! Just make sure itโs covered so a dog or cat canโt get ahold of it. Cheap and very effective.
They arenโt exactly the same, borax is a mineral and boric acid is what is produced when itโs refined. Many people commenting that it works the same, so thatโs a plus.
does this work against ants too?
i tried recently.
sugar + boric acid + flour.
[a] i made dough-like small balls, and the ants took them all to their home.
[b] i made a bit more watery, batter-like. and the ants waited till it fully dried and took the sugar+flour, leaving behind boric acid.
[c] i just kept the mix , as dry powder. ants took sugar & flour, leaving behind boric acid.
From what I understand they canโt tell the difference between the boric acid and the sugar so they eat both. The boric acid is supposedly their equivalent of eating glass so it rips them apart from the inside.
Also works on ants. You can mix it with powdered sugar and sprinkle it around where you see trails of ants.
And it is for the most part non toxic and harmless to humans and pets so if you spread it around there is little need to worry about a cat or dog licking it up. (It is toxic but only in reasonably high doses, higher than a pet is likely to ingest by licking up the boric acid sugar combo. I believe it is actually less toxic than table salt).
I use boric, powdered sugar, and cornmeal. Spoon the powder behind furniture, back of cabinets. Only roaches I ever see are dead. The cornmeal works as a declumping agent
You can just squirt dish-washer detergent at them. Kills them instantly.
How does it work? Roaches are hardy as fuck and hard to kill, but lots of insects breathe through their skin, roaches included. Water beads up from surface tension and won't drown them, but detergent has very little surface tension and clogs up their breathing holes (membranes?) instantly. It's really incredible to watch-- sometimes they don't even squirm.
Yep. It seems unreal that it happens so fast, but it does. And I use dishwashing soap.
tjoh127 ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 03:57:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like dawn soap right?
Fanrific ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 04:38:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you put a light over a shallow dish of water with a squirt of Dawn fleas jump into it
DoJax ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 04:49:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How the hell do I get rid of wasps with no money and just household supplies? I have three nests on my back porch, two out front, two one my she'd, and a ton of red ones in my wood pile, and then I have to check my van when I run through the ones out front or back, because they keep finding ways inside and wait on the inside of my windows. Like, I have a can of gas, a bug pump spraying backpack, and a bunch of lighters, I'm about to risk burning down my house in an attempt to use a homemade flamethrower to stop getting stung.
Any help will be tried on a different group of wasps.
I use simple green. It can be like 10% simple green and 90% water and it'll still work.
You can spray whole nests too. They drop like flies
Fanrific ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 05:33:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sounds hair raising. Wouldn't know where to start with actual nests so did a google and found this article You can hose them down with soapy water using a hose
If youโve got large nests, you may want to tackle them with a garden hose. Just attach the hose-end sprayer and fill it up with the same solution of water and dish soap. As this technique can be quite a bit messier and could increase the risk of getting stung, be sure to stand as far back away from the nest that you can, and wear protective clothing too. Let the hose run for a few seconds to get it going, and then totally douse the nest with the soapy water. If there are any wasps that survive, they wonโt stick around โ theyโll take off to avoid risking harm and build a new nest somewhere else
Or put a cotton bag over the nest and drown them in a bucket
You can get rid of aerial nests and their wasps by drowning them, but itโs important to be sure you arenโt allergic to them first, as this method comes with some risk of getting stung. If you have an allergy, a sting can be life threatening, so give this job to a professional or someone else. Either way, protective clothing like long pants, socks, boots, a hooded sweatshirt with the hood pulled over your head, gloves and protective goggles or glasses is a must. Also keep in mind that this is a job thatโs best done at night because thatโs when the wasps are least active, so their reaction time is slower, and they are less aggressive. Use a red or amber colored light for safe visibility as standard flashlights will attract wasps to you.
Carefully place a cloth bag over the entire nest, and then quickly tie it off at the top. As you draw in the tie, pull the nest free and the bag should be well-sealed. Now, set the bag in a bucket of water, and drop a large rock on the bag so that it stays totally submerged
Once you've got rid of them you can keep them away with peppermint oil
A study published in the Journal of Pest Management Science in 2013, reported outstanding results with peppermint oil. In addition to planting any type of mint in your garden, you can simply add a few drops of peppermint oil (such as this Plant Therapy Essential Oils Peppermint Oil) to a cotton pad and place them strategically around the outside of your home where wasps like to build nests, such as porch roofs, under eaves and other crevices and ledges. Target spots where youโve discovered old nests in the past and some types of wasps build new tests in the same locations again and again
Good luck!
DoJax ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:42:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is useful, but my problem is that they are in areas I cannot reach easily, as in under patches of the roof, there is one that is underneath the house siding, that I'm getting ready to wear 12 layers of clothes and go out and fuck up tomorrow. I've had it with them, I can't take much more of it, I have spray bottles, I'm going to try to start picking them off with soapy water, it's just there are easily over two hundred wasps in total. I'm sick of getting stung while trying to mow, and it's time for them to die. Unfortunately a water pipe busted, so I don't have a faucet on the outside of my house, nor a hose, if I could even reduce the numbers of them, I could spray foam shut all the gaps, but when there are 20 in an area buzzing around in the air, it makes it a hazard trying to do anything.
Short of running a garden hose off a laundry faucet, not sure what you can do about the water supply. However if you want a real weapon of mass wasp destruction.... pressure washer.
Rent an electric pressure washer, get one with the soap dispensing bottle that attaches to the end and you have a foam cannon! Best thing ever for cleaning and you can fill the dispenser with dawn dish soap, I never dilute it as it does that for you. It is my favourite thing for cleaning and no hoard of wasps could stand up to that glorious high velocity fan of cleansing suds.
If it's possible, paint the areas with a light blue paint. Down here it's called Haint Blue. It supposedly confuses them into thinking it's the sky so they won't build their hive there. We did it for our front porch and the little gazebo out back and haven't had wasp nests there for 3 years. They did try to make one in the storm drain.
Tomble ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:23:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can get poison wasp dust it works really well. A good puff of it into where they are coming and going, and they will track it back into the nest. Do it late at night while covered up to prevent stings.
or use an empty Windex bottle and mix the dish soap and water to spray at them to see if that does work to kill them. they seem to like making nests in rotting wood
I've seen videos where you can make your own wasp traps
Also, do it near sunrise or sunset. That's when they are leaving/returning to the nest and you can destroy them all at once. Don't want to have any vengeance driven wasps repopulating the same spot
DoJax ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:04:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think these are descendants of the ones I killed last year back for revenge.
Jesus Christ dude, don't spritz a wasps nest with a soapy spray bottle. Just spend the few bucks on a can of wasp spray. It's not that expensive, and you can stand really far away to use it. It's like pressurized shaving cream.
DoJax ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:09:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gonna buy one of those auto air fresheners that sprays every 5 five minutes and fill it with raid. They actually live under siding and in the roof where I can't spray.
I've done it. It works great. I was told to use laundry soap like a1/4 cup and water. Maybe 2 cups? We were living in FL at the time. Someone told me try it early in the morning. They are less active. I sprayed the nest and they started dropping right out. They could barely move. It was waaaay better than spray which seemed to just tick them off.
I live in the middle of nowhere in South Carolina. Every summer nature makes a solid attempt to reclaim my house with me still living inside.
I deal with tons of wasps, and dish-soapy water really helps when one wanders into the house, and I want to kill him quickly without the risk of failing and pissing him off.
LPT: if you use a port-a-potty, look up to see if there is a wasp's or hornet's nest on the ceiling first. I just encountered one of these recently - it really makes you feel more in touch with Nature to look up and see an angry swarm in the middle of your deuce droppage.
I call it a Florida time bomb. It's only a matter of time before the fumes from the aftermath of some guys fish taco and margarita night yesterday puts them on the defence.
Maybe it just mellows them out. These guys were actually pretty chill as hornets go, although that didn't stop me from sending them all to Hell with the spray next time around.
bjhww95 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:03:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I literally cant imagine anything worse
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 10:22:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And you mother fuckers go on about Australia being deadly. Man fuck this. All we have is the occasional spider hiding- super easy to deal with. Never seen a god damn wasp nest in the dunny. Fuck me.
Yeah I saw some video of ground wasp/hornets or some shit and some dude made a trap with a plastic tub, filled it with water and soap/detegerent, put a small wooden board across it about 1-2 cm from the water, put some meat or something underneath the board and it was literally trapping and killing hundreds and hundreds of of them. I can't seem to find the video but it was fascinating!
YoYoPop ยท 51 points ยท Posted at 05:14:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He used some nylon string or some type of string I think? But yeah, you could get creative on how you want to do it. He showed a different type of trap but I don't know how to explain that one...
Shawn Woods is a wonderful person for his videos. Found him randomly trying to deal with a rat problem and it worked amazingly. Plus, seeing all the weird mouse traps he finds is oddly interesting.
I wish I knew this two weeks ago. Moved to NC and this is my first real summer here. Was home alone when a wasp wandered into my kitchen. I secured the baby in another room and started playing music to amp myself up as I entered the kitchen with wasp spray and a broom. I didnโt get stung... but EVERYTHING in that kitchen was coated in wasp spray. Not ideal.
You know you can use like...a shoe, and just mash on the fucker. Wasps/hornets generally seem a bit more docile when theyโre inside. Just pound it into wasp pulp, pick it up with a towel/oven mitt/tongs/whatever, and toss it in the drain.
Funny you refer to wasps as him. Is that bc bees are hers? I imagine wasps are bee MGTOWs. And they're just mad bc they got nothing to do and no honey and no honeys
Oh, it works.
Central Texas wasps are dicks. Came across two nests and each was the size of a cantaloupe. Spray poison just made them mad, and I had to get the job done quick. I went to the closest Wal Mart and bought the largest Super Soaker I could find and saw one that had a โshotgunโ feature where it would empty most of the tank in one shot. Nice.
The next day I added a 20/80 mixture of soap and water to the tank, pumped it up, and blasted the first nest. It was incredible. Every single wasp that was visible fell to the ground because they couldnโt fly with soap-stuck wings and died in seconds. The ones that didnโt fall immediately did within 30 seconds and landed dead. The second nest had the same results.
I have pets and kids so I donโt like using poisons around the house if I can help it, and a spray bottle with soapy water is my weapon of choice to keep wasps in check.
teh_fizz ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 04:59:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I went to the closest Wal Mart and bought the largest Super Soaker I could find and saw one that had a โshotgunโ feature where it would empty most of the tank in one shot.
One of the most American sentences Iโve read on Reddit.
I had a squirt bottle filled with soapy water to spray the gas line of my oven one time (will bubble if there is a leak). My dad's suggestion. I got a wasp problem, he asked for the bottle and sqirted the little shits on stream mode with surprising accuracy and they dropped dead from the air.
I had a nest in a piece of soffit, so the nest was technically outside my house, but an ASSLOAD of yellow jackets were in my attic.
By the time I noticed they were up there, there were dozens banging on the window, trying to get out. But the window ALSO had a few hundred banging to get in, so fuck opening it.
The 2 shooty-jet-stream cans of yellow jacket killer I bought emptied quickly, so I grabbed a spray bottle and put soapy water into it.
I then grabbed a scrap of wood, and proceeded to spray them, one or two at a time, and slice them in half.
It was a slaughter, and an easy at that. 66 was my count. The nest abandoned soon after.
rpmc83 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:32:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a pump sprayer which I fill with water and dish soap. I shake it up after sealing it, pump it to pressurize it, then use it like a super soaker on wasp nests. Typically the wasps begin to climb out but can't fly, they just drop to the ground and die in seconds. The sprayer can got them from a good 10 feet away.
Iโve done it! Recommended by a bee keeper (these were yellow jackets- nasty buggers that donโt pollinate much). Get a bucket of super soapy water, wait until dusk when they slow down, and dump on the nest. If they donโt drown, the soap clings to their wings and they canโt fly. Depending on the size of the n st, you might need to repeat the next day. Works very well! We had a nest by our front door that was so bad Iโd be bringing groceries around to the back. .. finally got stung and was done with these @ssholes.
Air freshener sprays like Febreeze and Glade work well for this too. Even if it doesn't kill them right away, it sticks to their wings and prevents them from flying, so you can squish them without retaliation. This is an excellent way to kill a wasp if it gets in your house and you don't want to spray toxic insecticides around indoors.
Helps with ants as well. Make sure the water is tap hot not nessisarily boiling. The ones that live wonโt stay around. Ps there are always two mounds.
You are a godsend. We've been dealing with wasps for years and we hate having to use those sprays because we have pets and small children. They literally invade our house, we never get to go outside in our yard or porch during warm because the wasps are everywhere and I have an admittedly severe phobia, plus I don't want my kids/pets getting stung. I want to call an exterminator but they're so expensive and again, bad chemicals.
I sit on my balcony in the summer with a spray bottle of soapy water. I squirt the shit out of those bastards. They fall and die almost instantly. It's crazy.
If I've found the nest I'd much rather splash some gazoline at that thing ...
Qtsan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:50:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works on horse flies too. When I was a kid we got horrible horse flies by our pool so my dad would always arm himself with a squirt gun full of soapy water and just take them out one by one while we played in the pool.
Thats fantastic! When you spray them with Raid the little fuckers run around for a few minutes and usually make it under the fridge or something before dying. And raid smells awful.
Oh wow. I was always told to use orange oil as a cleaner because it kills bugs or at least makes them uncomfortable enough they won't cross an area freshly cleaned with it. Orange oil is a really great cleaner for oil and grease with just a little in some warm water working extremely well. I bet this clogging breathing is probably why spraying a little on ants and roaches does them in almost instantly! Thanks for teaching me something today!
Can we reverse engineer other legitimate names for insect body parts so they sound as ridiculous as "breathing holes"? Antennae becomes "feeling wands", etc.
Yah!! Absolutely disgusting. I remember they would all come out at night and when I had to use the washroom, I they would all run away and that's all I heard... Ugghh
Oh, so that's why! I used to do this years ago when living in Florida but was worried because whatever was killing those roaches so efficiently was what I was using to wash my dishes. Never realized it was about physics and not about chemistry.
Detergent washes your dishes because it associates nicely with water, but also forms bubbles called micelles which themselves can dissolve oils. Your gallbladder also produces detergent of a sort (bile) which helps you get all the energy out of oil and fat.
I'm no toxologist, but I imagine the perfume they put in it to make it smell like apples is more toxic to your body than the detergent itself. This is Reddit, so someone who knows is going to correct me in 3... 2... 1...
This is also how I kill stinkbugs. Grab them and put them in a cup of soapy water. Kills them, and prevents them from stinking the place up when they die.
ogasdd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:07:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doesn't work fast enough for me though...So i kinda draw mutation circle around the roach with detergent first....And than proceed to dump more detergent on it.Come back with paper tower and wipe and rag after a while for that corpse.
Mizzet ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:57:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Squirt bottle with dishwashing liquid has been my go-to bug killing solution for some time too. It's been a great leveler against nasty bugs I don't care to get up close to. It's got great range, great spread, and even leaves the place smelling nice to boot.
I feel like I'm more horrified than curious, but this is super interesting.
khc15 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
how do you squirt dish-washer detergent on roaches tho? You would have to be pretty close and the roach would have to be still? Do you mix it with water and use a spray bottle?
Maybe, but spiders breathe through their mouths like people. In fact, on average a spider swallows 8 humans a year by breathing them in while sleeping.
Spiracles -- tiny valves on the surface of the exoskeleton that admit air to the trachea. Water has a surface tension too high to allow it to infiltrate the tiny spiracles. But soap reduces the surface tension of water, allowing it to infiltrate the spiracles, causing asphyxiation.
I used coconut oil for my cat's ear mites. Oil does work. I learned about it here, though this vet used a different type of oil (I used what I had on hand).
Instantly? Well, I guess stinkbugs are tougher than roaches, then. Cause I remembered this and tried it on those fuckers. Merrily running along after the fact.
At least they didn't start flying which was a plus.
They're called spiracles. They're holes in the exoskeleton though which the insect breathes. The soap forms a film over them, preventing the insect from breathing.
Zallun ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:45:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had good results (at least flys die quickly, havenโt tried on roaches) with glass cleaner. The good thing is that glass cleaner evaporates without residues and usually comes in a handy spray bottle.
Insects and some more derived spiders have spiracles on their exoskeletons to allow air to enter the trachea. In the respiratory system of insects, the tracheal tubes primarily deliver oxygen directly into the animals' tissues.
When I was in entomology class we had a bunch of leftover German cockroaches from an event where they were 'racing' one another. They're a different family from American roaches so we got more points for having them in our collections.
Trouble was, these leftover insects were alive, and they are very fast. Like nearly as fast as a house centipede. Mine led me on a chase through half the entom lab room, escaping all attempts to place it in the kill jar. After 2 escapes, I had learnt my lesson, and instead of trying to place it in the jar I kept it caged in my hand and directly sprayed ethyl acetate all over it and my hand. My professor told me that I shouldn't do that again.
Is that because of square-cube law? Surface area doesn't increase proportionally to volume, so the larger the bug is the more difficult it is for it's surface area to provide sufficient oxygen?
Don't go back to the Carboniferous period when the time machine is ready
mildiii ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 06:32:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everybody wants to go back and kill Hitler. But not everyone can. If you're assigned to find out what it sounds like when a tall tree collapses on a sea of fallen tall trees before bacteria exists to eat them. Well, that's the job.
when a tall tree collapses on a sea of fallen tall trees before bacteria exists to eat them.
One thing I never understood about this period is how the trees kept continuing to grow if there was nothing to break down the ones which had fallen over? It seems like the ground would be quickly covered by massive trees, sticks, leaves, etc. How can seeds grow without these breaking down?
Better idea than killing Hitler - save Franz Ferdinand from being assassinated. Stops World War One, and means no Treaty of Versailles is needed, so you don't create the conditions in Germany that prompted the rise of Nazism. All killing Hitler would do would rob the Nazi part of a charismatic speaker - but that doesn't really solve anything because right-wing charismatic speakers are and always were dime-a-dozen. Also, you deal a hard blow to Communism as well, so that's a bonus.
I wouldn't be so sure about that. Europe at that time was a powder keg ready to explode. And Austria just looked for an excuse to go to war. So it would maybe have delayed it by a few months, but not more.
DaSaw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:23:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's just a shame so few in positions of power watched the World War 1 previews the Japanese and the Russians staged.
Insects have a pretty inefficient respiratory scheme.
I wouldn't say that at all. Inefficient isn't the word you're looking for, but they're certainly constrained in size and metabolic capacity due to it. In exchange for that, they don't really need to grow and maintain an extremely expensive organ and set of muscles that takes up 80% of your thoracic cavity.
So I thought soap increased the surface tension? When I had fleas invade my apartment I used bowls of water with a few drops and dish soap stirred in and was told it increased the surface tension so they canโt jump out. Now Iโm confused.
No it decreases it, but the effect is still what youโre describing. Normally the flea could sit on the surface and therefore jump off but the soap causes the surface tension to decrease so the flea breaks the surface and sinks.
I usually just berate them, call them names, just really make them feel worthless until they just give up and kill themselves. It takes longer but they tend to bring down the other roaches around them, a bit of a domino effect.
When I lived in NY, I stomped on a roach, and left it in the hall to serve as a warning to its stupid roach friends. But, as the exterminator explained the next day, it turns out that they are attracted to their dead friend and will come from miles around just to snack on his carcass.
You're probably looking for the cantrip "Vicious Mockery" & the target makes a Wisdom saving throw, so there's no attack roll & you certainly wouldn't want the target to roll a Natural 20. "Cutting Words" is a reaction Lore Bards can take to roll one of their Bardic Inspiration die & subtract that number from the targets attack roll, ability check or damage roll.
Tzayad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:25:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Double got me, vicious mockery is what I was thinking
I usually radicalise the roaches to commit crimes in the name of religion, gets a little messy, but really brings the population down and those who survive migrate to safer apartments.
[deleted] ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:56:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get them hooked on reality TV and junk food, they're too preoccupied with superficial nonsense to bother me now.
Does anyone remember when an exterminator company (I think) was sued because they made a commercial with realistic looking cockroaches crawling across the screen? Apparently people were throwing boots, remotes, house phones, etc, at the tvs, thinking the bugs were real, and broke their tv screens. This was back when tvs were absolute units. I doubt the dumbass screen crackers won their case, but I never saw the commercial again.
toktobis ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:58:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I remember that commercial. It scared the crap out of me because I was a kid and we didn't have roaches, or any bug approaching that size, where we lived. So there was a big element of WTF KS THAT going on. Thought it was a mutant earwig.
Oh good, I didnt dream it up cuz someone else remembers!! The reason I knew they were cockroaches was because MIB came out around that time. And that dude from Law & Order was like made of cockroaches.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:23:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Heh heh heh heh. That brings back so much old anxiety. Thank you for taking the time to find that. Im going to see if I can use it to get my mom to break her ancient tv.
Smashing roaches is a bad idea. One reason is because they may be pregnant and after smashing you have baby roaches running around. Other reason is because they secrete a scent that attracts other roaches because roaches eat dead roaches
Witnessed my friend step on a spider, instantly a hundred babies scattered in a million different directions. Very traumatizing. I, myself donโt step on insects or arachnids anymore due to this.
Man, you know I had a much more boring childhood than kids today, cause I used to shoot nerf guns at insects in my house for sport.... or maybe I had a more exciting childhood....
Spray bottle of rubbing alcohol will also kill roaches pretty Damn quick. You know, in case you wanted a choice in ammo. Will evaporate=minimal cleanup except for the corpse. Perfect murder.
Not just roaches. My wife and I had a problem with paper wasps building nests in our mailbox. Some water and down dish soap in a spray bottle will kill them damn near on contact (like someone else said, they breath through their exoskeleton, so this suffocates them.)
Get your mail out, and spray down the inside of the mailbox, let it dry, and they will stay away for a little while. We respray once a week when we see them flying around and they've never come back.
Also, put used coffee grounds at the bottom of a mason jar, line the rim of the jar with Pam cooking spray. Put a tiny bit of hot water in the bottom, then lean the jar against a wall outside.
The roaches will roast in the sun during the day and youโll be left with a Jar full of dead roaches
You can yeah, especially at night. Get some water hot enough that it steams, I have literally caught THOUSANDS of roaches in an apartment complex that had them everywhere. I had two 5 gallon buckets full of dead roaches in 3 weeks.
They crawl in at night and then roast in the sun during the day
Yeah man it was bananas. My girl lived in this complex and you had to literally jump around them on the sidewalk. I had it, so I bought a 24 pack of jars and went to a bunch of Starbucks for used coffee grounds.
Obliterated the roach population lol. I was very proud
I live in Florida and we have these giant palmetto bugs. Essentially giant roaches. I'm terrified of them. I feel a lot better now knowing how to kill them without getting near them. Thank you so much. Every room will now have a spray bottle of soapy water!
When I moved into my apartment, there were dead cockroaches all over the place, and multiple roach baits in literally every corner (of the rooms, cabinets, places where the furniture meets the floor, everywhere). I wash my dishes as I go, take my trash out every other day, and do not keep food in my cabinets unless it is canned or in a jar that is still vacuum-sealed. Not even pasta in cardboard boxes or flour or sugar in unopened bags stays in the cabinets - there's room for all of it to go in the fridge, since it's just me in the apartment. I Clorox all my work surfaces in my kitchen after using them. I threw out all except 3 of the roach baits and I've only seen maybe one live cockroach per week since I moved in - all at the cost of a little basic food hygiene and 10 minutes of cleaning per day.
Edit: For clarification, I'm in Florida. The cockroaches live here and we are only guests in their world.
This is what I do with ants. When they have found a way into my house to get to the sink, i spray the trail all the way back to the entrance with some kind of cleaning solution. It kills them and if you leave the soapy stuff on the wall, they won't use that trail again.
Yep.. they crawl out and fall instantly and they are all black no more yellow on them.. never to fly again... they crawl out dead.. if they get that far
This saved my ass when I had roaches in a 100+ year old house. 3 kinds of poison and a squirt bottle of dish soap. I got to be quite a sharp shooter. They slow down until they are running in slow motion in the bead of soap, and then they just stop. Can be wiped up and tossed, and as a perk, your kitchen smells so clean!
Also windex. It's amazing. It'll kill ants immediatly and knock out large bees. Sadistic child me also found it effective in gassing flies. Windex makes it so they cant fly, A good puff, put a jar over them, RIP within a minute.
mataeka ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:48:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My husband used absolutely useless alternatives (like wood polish or perfume) that just stain the carpet or make the vinyl too slippery. I'll give this a go. Thanks!
Do you know if this work for ants, by any chance? I have a roommate who keeps dirty food containers and stuff in her room and we have a nasty infestation right now that wonโt go away no matter how clean I keep the common spaces. We have cats so Iโm hesitant to use anything super toxic.
I had an exterminator tell me to mix 4tbsp of salt into blue windex, and spray around doors and windows. Has to be the blue kind. He said that blue dawn works too.
I name them all Larry and we make agreements that they are not to come out of hiding until I've been asleep for at least an hour. They only then come out to die and say farewell.
elaerna ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:05:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you just fill up a spray bottle with soap and water every time you see a roach feels like you'd lose it they move so fast
Airazz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:15:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This information would've been really useful when I found a half dead roach in my bathtub last week. I will not forget this advice forever now, thank you.
This is the type of thing I wanted to read more of in this thread. Nice!
ashemm ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:00:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rubbing alcohol is also super effective. Buy a bottle for a couple bucks and put a spray bottle top on it. Sterilizes, and doesn't leave any residue behind, just death! Yay!
Literally just found a giant roach in my bedroom and ran to get my spray bottle to fill with soap! Thanks! It totally worked and my room doesnt smell like nasty cockroach spray!
Jwin227 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:36:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also got the same advice from my vet for fleas.
Recently adopted a stray kitten who was covered in fleas. Poor thing had basically given up. Gave her 3-4 baths (one each day) with Dawn dish soap, the fleas die quickly or scramble to the dry areas, like the face, and then you just comb them out and drown them in soapy water just to make sure they stay dead. It's been a week now since she joined the family and she's a happy addition :)
This was a game changer for me when I discovered it. Iโve used it for crawling bugs but I discovered it by using the method on flies. Instead of chasing them with a newspaper, simply spray them with a cleaning solution. The canโt fly away and then you pick it up and clean the area all in one
Fastest way to kill a wasp or errant angry bee and avoid inhaling/using insecticide is to just use hairspray. Clogs their wings, they fall, you stomp. Learned this by accident when the nearest thing within reach with a yellow jacket dive bombing me was aqua-net.
To get rid of ants, soak cotton balls in a mixture of warm water, sugar, and Borax. Set them close to the source and they'll take the borax back to the colony and kill it. Make sure not to allow pets or kids to access the cotton balls. We did this recently and it worked like stink. You just have to deal with a trail of ants for a day or two.
i killed a wasp with soapy water in a spray bottle! โ๐ฝ
Recon718 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:03:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Hereโs an excellent roach and mouse repellant, and it apparently works for spiders although I canโt vouch for that, just read it online. I had some roaches in the past and occasional mice and since using this havenโt had any signs at all.
Try mixing 2 parts water, one part white vinegar, and peppermint oil in a spray bottle (10 drops or more depending in the strength you want). Spray problem areas nightly.
Iโve tried a few โhome remediesโ and can swear that this works like a charm! And the best part is the smell goes away by morning so it can be applied daily. Your place will smell like a candy factory but itโs better than disgusting bugs and critters running around.
The little shits can survive nuclear apocalypse but can't handle a squirt of dish soap
n3m37h ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:00:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lysol Antibacterial spray alcohol kills insects almost instantly, works well for wasps
DiMoess ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:18:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
killing roaches with toxins doesn't work because before they die they feel the toxin and release eggs, neither smash them, you going to release the eggs, a good way to kill them is a toxic gum or something, that they eat and die slowly, when they are dead, grab a paper, place them in the middle of it, "close" the paper so the eggs won't accidentally go to the ground, and fucking destroy those with your fingers strength
source: a roaches killer that came for the restaurant i worked at
ps: roaches ain't the restaurant fault, most of the time, it's the suppliers fault, cardboard is like roaches home so we gotta deal with it but i assure you, we cleaned every single day, after lunch time and after we closed the kitchen but they just come
I used to kill them with shaving cream that goes from gel to a mousse-like texture. It first encapsulates them enough so that they canโt breathe and then kills them, and a while later you can just scoop the whole thing up with a piece of paper or magazine since itโs all foamed up now. Worked wonders for me :)
In the same vein, 50/50 solution of vinegar and water in a spray bottle for ants. Spray their trail, kills them and doesnโt allow other ants to find the trail again. Smells weird if you donโt like vinegar but itโs safe to spray in your kitchen where you make food, so win-win
dick_in ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This my go to advice for people with this problem.
I lived in Taiwan for three years which has a roach problem everywhere. My first boss showed me this and it blew my mind how quickly the roach slows down and dies. Now I tell everyone the same thing, and they have the same skeptical look they had. And after I show them, they have that same astonishment on their face.
You can also mix Tobasco and water in a spray bottle to make pepper spray, and spray it along baseboards and thresholds. My grandparents did this to keep ants out, and I never saw any insects in their house, roaches or otherwise.
cygnus2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโd try this if I werenโt terrified of roaches. Even the word makes me shudder.
I use isopropyl alcohol in a bottle. Also relatively non-toxic, disinfects and cleans, and even easier to clean up (no need, it just evaporates after a few seconds).
That's similar to how I unclog drains by making baking soda and vinegar volcanos. Works a thousand times better than drano and costs a fraction of the price.
I used to pour soap directly on house centipedes (like a cockroach and centipede had a baby with super long legs and super-speed). I could never smash them because theyโd hide in corners and run super quickly, but if I dribbled soap from directly above the soap would slow them down enough
meacrom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To add to your point, don't spray at them from the top. Their wings are pretty hardy, so they will withstand the spray. Spray at a low angle from both sides. That's where they breathe through. Soapy water clogs up the little holes, and they suffocate and die.
Give up caffeine to help with anxiety. I gave it up to help with my vertigo years after this was first suggested to me, but it did help. I'm still anxious as fuck but I'm not reacting to it like a hummingbird on cocaine anymore.
I'm just going to keep pretending like this advice is bullshit because I don't want to imagine a world without coffee. It's my last vice. I quit smoking 5 years ago and quit drinking 3.5 years ago, I don't want to have to give up caffeine... But I also don't want to be stuck with anxiety forever.
Do what I do - I have a full cup of normal coffee in the morning, but everything after that I either do half caff or just decaf - and I NEVER half caff past maybe lunchtime. It's helped a ton with my anxiety and panic.
That's what I did while I was pregnant and I contributed the lack of anxiety to hormones, but I'm now wondering if it was the lowered caffeine. Maybe I'll try that again!
Wikider ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 02:52:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know this pain all too well....canโt live life with this much anxiety all the time. Iโm not living, just existing most days. Itโs insane how good I am at hiding it from everyone not because i donโt want to bother anyone with my issues, so Iโd rather suffer alone. Hope all is well and I genuinely hope you find the strength to fight back
I have been there before friend. It will get better. It doesn't feel like it while you're trapped in a panic for months or years, but some day it will be easier. Do the work, see a therapist if you can afford it. Share your pain with a friend or family member. You can get better.
Try swapping to a morning and a late-afternoon/evening cup. I used to power through coffee like a champ, now I actually savour it and can feel the little boost without depending on it.
k-tax ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:38:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why would you drink coffee in the late afternoon or evening?
My schedule is: one coffee around 1-2 h into work and another one after lunch (around 5 h after I start). I try to avoid caffeine on weekends or when my work schedule allows me to be slower.
Stimulants in general have a different effect on ADHD brains, rather than the "buzz" that others encounter it allows the body to catch up with the brains thought processes and the harmony achieved can bring about a state of calm.
In my earlier years I was confused about why cocaine, mdma etc would send my friends bouncing whilst I sat in the corner chilling and wanting a nice nap. Once I found out why it started making a lot of sense.
Were you often called lazy as a child when faced with something you just weren't interested in, something that no matter how hard you tried you just couldn't make it happen?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:46:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's still a great pick me up in the morning, but once I'm at the right speed I stop now.
If you haven't done coke I recommend keeping it that way, It's an expensive habit to be trapped by, have seen plenty of friends with less discipline lose themselves to it. LSD though, give it a go at least once, it helps you find your inner calm :)
I switched from coffee to tea, which gives me the morning caffeine I need without the anxiety. I actually dislike drinking coffee now because tea is a much smoother ride.
You can do it. I work at a coffee shop and having CPTSD/panic disorder. I realized a few months ago that I don't even like coffee. Drink water when you wake up instead.
0ttr ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:35:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I gave up caffeine. While it works for me, this advice is not a panacea. I get tired more. But my anxiety and blood pressure seem a bit more normal.
I think the best advice is don't drink caffeine after lunch as it can still interrupt your sleep patterns 6 - 9 hours later.
Not OP but I have anxiety issues and used to drink heavily. I quit drinking nearly 6 months ago, it has helped tremendously. Anxiety is tough and the severity can come in waves but I find it's much easier to manage it with a clear(er) head.
nptown ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:13:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tobacco is same way, you think its helping but itโs actually making it a lot worse. Trust me on that, done both
Agreed, I quit both around the same time. I thought dropping alcohol would be harder than it was but it was the tobacco that kicked my ass for a few weeks before I was finally able to ween off of it for good.
It helps incredibly. Alcohol is a depressant. Also, hangovers can be very similar to anxiety which can be confusing. A lot of people self-medicate with alcohol which can help in the short-term but exacerbates anxiety in the long-term.
It did until I had a baby! The alcohol withdrawals were probably the worst anxiety I've ever experienced, but I think a lot of that was from all the heart palpitations and sweating. Plus knowing that withdrawals can be deadly, it just made a perfect panic storm.
But it was so worth it. I had so much more time and energy, not to mention money. My skin looked way better and I wasn't so puffy all the time. I haven't embarrassed myself or forgotten anything I've done in the past 3.5 years either!
I got pregnant on my 1 year soberversary and since having my son, the anxiety has been ramping up again, especially if I'm tired. Parenthood has taken away my time, energy, and money, so that's why I used past tense above. But still worth it!
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:04:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me, my anxiety got way worse after I quit drinking because I was using alcohol to run away from my feelings & anxiety. It was pretty rough at first but it eventually got better. It wasn't an immediate positive outcome though. But everyone is different!
I tell people that I'm the most boring person on Earth now: I quit caffeine two years ago, stopped smoking almost a year ago, and can't drink because of the medication I started taking almost a decade ago now. I live in a state where pot is legal but I had a bad reaction to it so I abstain from that as well. I feel like I need to develop a new addiction or vice just to be interesting.
Will CBD make me less alert though? Like unable to properly care for a toddler? I've got some CBD honey sticks, but I've been too scared to try them in case they turn me into a zombie.
That's what the guy at the smoke shop told me when he gave me the sticks, and said that they would just lessen my anxiety. I think I just cant imagine that feeling because I've got nothing to compare it to. I'll have to give it a go this weekend!
You're safe with CBD. I can't guarantee it will lower your anxiety, but I can guarantee it will not raise it in the same way THC would.
I get heavy anxiety with THC, I get none of that with CBD. I am an anxious person, and I can't say that CBD helps in the way that ice water does, but it does chill me out a bit. Give it a shot, a little at a time. No rush.
Thc is the active ingredient that would make you a "zombie" CBD isn't going to make you less alert. If you aren't comfy taking it with a toddler around wait until they are in bed.
Your username and me misreading ashwagandha as ayahuasca had me going "Yeah, I don't think 8 hours of intense hallucinations is going to help." haha. I'll give these a try. Thanks a lot.
dmt267 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:01:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lmao yeah definitely wouldn't want that . Sure thing~
rkent27 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:32:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was really hopeful about ashwagandha, but it did not help me at all. Actually it makes me break down in tears for no reason. Heard a lot of good about it though, worth trying.
dmt267 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:01:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can but it's best to cycle between them,like say 2 weeks of Valerian then switch to ashwagandha. Noticed Valerian isn't working as well as it did back in December so I've switched to ashwagandha for now
I got a battery less vape from select cbd while I was in NYC I think it was like 250mg. It worked so well I bought a tincture from Lazarus Naturals 750mg. Check out the CBD subreddit too!
I'm genuinely curious as someone who enjoys high TCH weed for recreational purposes, but hasn't ever tried any of these new cbd products or CBD dominant strains that keep coming out.
My anxiety is mostly during the day, so what I do is drink decaf in the morning and afternoon. In the evening if my schedule is clear and I don't have to go anywhere I can drink coffee with caffeine.
Works wonders for not having my anxiety shoot through the roof for a couple of hours. I should have started doing this years ago.
Try working your way down to a cup a day, if you feel better try switching to two cups of green tea a day, if you feel better try one cup of green tea โ it doesnโt have to be all or nothing, you can do experiments.
For what itโs worth, Iโve got pretty rough anxiety and reducing my caffeine intake made a dramatic difference โ in addition to therapy, exercise, meds and reading about the affliction.
I gave it up after drinking 5-6 cups of strong coffee a day. The withdrawal headache was murder, but you only go through the withdrawal once, maybe 36 hours after your last cup, and never again.
You only get them over and over if you keep relapsing lol
Try gradually less coffee+decaf as a replacement. Life without coffee is so much less jittery. Source: Coffee addict for 10 years. Quit in November. Flat whte decafs taste like a real deal.
Smoking cigarettes and drinking coffee reduce your odds of getting Parkinson's disease. Guess what happened to my dad a few years after he went cold turkey. My Keurig is a goddamn life raft.
Yeah, I didn't. I figured out I could live without it after drinking mostly water at a convention one weekend (I disliked coffee, but I was addicted to Pepsi). To ween myself off, I switched to iced tea which had a fraction of the caffeine Pepsi has, and alternated that with water or juice. Eventually I cut out the iced tea. I also lost a lot of weight giving up soda, but I gained it back and more when I quit smoking.
Jesus, yes. It can make such a huge difference. I was one of those people who could not imagine life without caffeine. Then I kind of quit by accident, and I felt SO MUCH BETTER. But when I tell my friends with anxiety that, they just laugh because "What is life without caffeine?"
Zukazuk ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:59:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tell people I don't drink caffeine because I have anxiety and I'm really sensitive to it and I get a lot of weird looks. The only time I drink coffee is when I have a migraine. I also feel like not being acclimated to it makes it more effective for treating my migraines as well. I can tell though when I do drink it my anxiety skyrockets, but then I usually pass out and try to sleep off the migraine.
Medications like Midol (recommended not just for period pain) and Excederin actually have caffeine right in it because in small doses, it CAN help, especially with headaches and migraines. It's like any drug: in small doses it can be helpful, but if you develop a dependency on it it's not going to work right and you'll need more.
I just gave up caffeine this past December. I canโt believe how less anxious I am. I donโt even miss coffee anymore. I used to drink a trenta iced coffee (light or no ice) with 3 espresso shots from Starbucks.
I used ice tea to help me ween off of it. I'd switch it up with water or juice and drink less and less of it until it was cut out of my life. I didn't think I could stand the withdrawal but doing it that way made it manageable.
I've got a case of vertigo once. It was like riding the gravatron at six flags for a week straight. Worst feeling ever. Can't imagine what it is like to get it on a regular basis
I should do this but it makes me so unproductive. Iโve definitely learned the hard way that it increases my anxiety, so Iโve taught myself to cope better.
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:34:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try a 15-20oz glass of water with electrolyte tablets added. Itโs amazing what that will do to you. You may quit coffee on that alone.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:48:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
According to the ADHD thread the other day this isn't good advice for people with ADHD who seem to become less agitated with more caffeine. Not an expect though so I'm not sure how true it is.
Can confirm. Was consuming 200+ mg of caffeine every day for a few years straight with maybe a few days here and there with 100 mg or none at all. Never noticed withdrawal symptoms when I stopped or when I had less. This winter I slipped into a depression and eventually had a major anxiety break. Had sleepless nights on end, but quit caffeine and it took a couple weeks, but symptoms began to subside. When I would feel normal again, Iโd try caffeine. It would feel good, but after a few days straight of 100 mg, anxiety would begin to return. Unsure if I went sober long enough to break the association and the cycle, but itโs a work in progress, and Iโve noticed I really donโt need the caffeine the way I thought I did. (Also reduced alcohol intake, appears to help a lot as well).
I used to drink a pot of coffee every morning and after a few years I started to have random anxiety attacks for no reason (I'm not a nervous or anxious person so it was very weird for me to be having them). I quit coffee and haven't had one since.
mayseek ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:05:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I had a decently low caffeine consumption until a few weeks ago, when I began to drink the new green Monsters. I felt exhausted without having one or a cup of coffee.
I quit caffeine a few days ago and now that the withdrawal headache is gone, I'm already feeling better!
I'm surprised no one has suggested tea as an alternative to coffee. Green and black (though, less so) tea contain L-Theanine, which "counteracts" the caffeine in a way. It is the supposed reason that tea doesn't give you a "buzz and crash", but instead makes the caffeine effect milder and over a longer period of time. It has also been shown to reduce anxiety and depression in some studies. And green tea is pretty good for you as well, for other reasons.
I switched to half-caf a week ago, and Iโm amazed at the difference. I sleep better, my mood has drastically improved, and I manage to get a little bit more stuff done each day. 10/10 Highly recommended
dmt267 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:28:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm the opposite, caffeine actually helps with my anxiety specially social anxiety
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:53:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me it helps too. It could be that it stops the withdrawal symptoms which can include anxiety but it could be something else.
I'm not reacting to it like a hummingbird on cocaine anymore.
Thank you for this beautiful analogy! It made my day :)
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:24:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to get vertigo and/or hearing loss, crippling at times (had to leave my students in the care of another so I could lay down for a couple hours). I finally recognized caffeine and salt were two certain triggers. By cutting back, my symptoms went away.
Now I can feel the vertigo or hearing loss sensations building up and either drink a ton of water or prepare to lay down. I also went to an ent doctor who recognized Meneireโs Disease as a likely culprit.
I am 15. Those around me, younger, and peers, have mostly all tried coffee. I have not, and I don't plan to. My sister likes it, and my friend posts pictures of his Starbucks on Insta occasionally. I just need a better sleep schedule
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:00:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt start.
I didnโt drink coffee (or even tea) until i was 19, and I was doing absolutely fine before that.
Now I have this voice in my head that says that coffee makes me more fun and extroverted (it most likely doesnโt), which makes it hard for me to quit.
I was never a big fan of coffee, although it's what go me started on caffeine when I was REALLY young (I used to finish the sugary remains of my grandmother's coffee before she went to work from the age of three on). I was also fortunate to have never gotten into energy drinks. Part of it is my age and where I live: I grew up in a mostly rural area where things like Starbucks and energy drinks didn't reach (and I'm in my 30s, so I grew up before energy drinks were a huge thing). Soda was my huge vice. I'd say stay the course and don't let your friends and peers get to you for your decision not to touch caffeine. The short term benefits aren't usually worth the addiction and long-term issues. For when you get to college, there are herbal teas and such with no caffeine that can help you with energy if you need it to study.
You may feel like youโre missing out at times, but youโre not. If weโre all honest it doesnโt taste good, it eats up your money, and itโs addictive so fast itโs nuts. The habit and ritual around drinking coffee is just there to make it more socially acceptable (excusing cultural differences) and enjoying a hot chocolate or a nice herbal tea is just as nice.
(This message has been brought to you by a 35 year old coffee addict with anxiety)
If your blood pressure is wonky it can cause anxiety by causing a fight or flight response in your body. Learned that little tidbit from my rheumatologist and fixed mine and my anxiety disappeared.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:26:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No problem. For some people itโs just nothing much, but for some people it really can cause some weird issues. Connective tissue is in everything and itโs basically defective connective tissue ๐
dume- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:48:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm on day 10 caffeine free and I wish I had stopped drinking coffee a long time ago. Itโs done a lot to help reduce my anxiety. I can manage it easier now.
I quit caffeine a few months ago suddenly. I drank/ate 200-300 mgs a day. Funny thing that i feel nothing really changed, I still work like before. What is changed though that i yawning much less and having fewer and less painful headaches.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:56:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drugs (yeah even CAFFEINE) + anxiety = more... Anxiety.
mckatli ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:04:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have anxiety and IBS so I absolutely cannot deal with coffee. Lack of caffeine makes some mornings hard, but it does force me to get a solid 8 hours of sleep every night so I can actually function the next day
Physical. It was actually a rare side effect of a medication I took, but after I stopped taking it the effect was permanent. The "attacks" I got would last weeks and render me unable to stand, walk, or even watch things without getting sick. I gave up gaming for a while because sometimes bright, flashing colors would trigger the attacks. I still get them occasionally, but not as often or for nearly as long. Hoping the imbalance in my head that caused it is finally correcting itself.
Oh, that sounds awful. I hope it gets better. I was asking because I was diagnosed with panic disorder and I get the sensation of falling or walking on a boat quite a lot. I was never an anxious person, all of this hit me out of nowhere. I'm on zoloft now, but the vertigo hasn't gone away, and I'm wondering if it's something else. I get heart palpitations all the time too.
I started to pee blood and my drs were freaking, had to have tests and it ended up being a reaction to caffeine. I was literally being checked for cancer etc, I had to give up decaf for the most part too because if a coffee shop gives me caffeine instead of decaf by accident I end up being ill again.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:36:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At various points I have taken breaks from caffeine and alcohol. Although reducing caffeine certainly helps ease anxiety, Iโve found (for me at least) that the reduction is MUCH more substantial when you cut out alcohol.
kchow81 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:19:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Upvoting for the advice- witching I could upvote a second time for the imagery of a hummingbird on cocaine. ๐
I was having panic attacks (which i didnt know were attacks) where everything went blury and i felt like i was falling. After seeing like 6 doctors thinking something might've been wrong with my brain, turns out it was anxiety that was triggered, sometimes, by my caffeine intake.
Currently laying in bed with what I believe to be my fourth vertigo attack since having my baby in January. I actually fell down this time. The room spins like Iโm drunk, I have a headache, and I want to vomit. Any tips you can share on how to deal with this?
Cutting out caffeine did help, but if you had a baby I assume you already did that. For me, avoiding things like flashing lights and colors helped for a while. And just closing my eyes and waiting it out, which might be hard with a little one.
I still have some espresso every morning, but will eliminate. I am wondering, too, if this can be a side effect of Zoloft now that I think of it. Will call my doctor this morning. Thanks for your reply!!
I recently switched coffee for matcha tea for the same reason. Not as strong as coffee, but it lasts way longer and there is no crash or anxiety
Itโs more expensive, and itโs a pain to prepare, but Iโve never been more relaxed in my life. Ironically, I feel more awake now
Pixikr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:23:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Strange enough caffeine actually helps me with my anxiety. I feel more confident and put together after a coffee. I stutter less and stand my ground more often.
I donโt exactly have traditional vertigo. Itโs just a โvestibular disorderโ which sucks because you canโt count on vertigo treatments for the most part. But Iโll try anything so maybe the coffee is an issue. I do drink a ton of coffee.
[deleted] ยท 21737 points ยท Posted at 23:14:15 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practice gratitude. Grateful people are happy people.
klop422 ยท 5743 points ยท Posted at 00:42:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This includes just saying 'thank you' any time someone does something. Everyone likes to be acknowledged for something, even if it's something small, and just making other people a little happier makes you happier
And I imagine even just noticing how much others do for you is bound to help
I'm a good cook... my wife is better. She likes to cook for me. She likes to put food in my hands that she made for me.
Every time... EVERY TIME, I make sure to thank her for the food that she has put into my hands, for me to eat. Also, I always say after, "Thank you for my dinner, that was delicious."
I've just started dating a guy who is an incredible cook, everything he's made me has been the sort of good that you have to put your fork down after the first mouthful because it's just so DAMN GOOD. I make sure to thank him each and every time because I never ever ever want him to stop cooking food for me. I'm also unbelievably embarrassed when he comes to mine and I cook for him, I'm so much worse than him!
jiasss ยท 78 points ยท Posted at 02:15:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Awww you and your husband are so cute. It's always the effort that counts anyway!
finnknit ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 05:16:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's the same with putting away the dishes at our house. My husband doesn't always know where they belong, and sometimes looking for certain items after he put them away is like an Easter egg hunt, but somebody else put away the dishes and I'm grateful.
I've been trying to beat this into my husband's head. His mom loses her crap over everything. It HAS to be done this way or that way or god forbid something end up somewhere beside where she keeps it. She gets angry and pissy over it and generally made him afraid to mess the smallest things up.
He loaded the dish washer by himself for the first time the other day the whole time saying "Sorry, I hope I'm doing this right." or when he peeled and cut potatoes for me "are they okay, did I do it right?" like dude..im going to boil them then mash them, you can't eff them up.
It makes me so angry that she made him this way. But it's also been a really good reminder to have patience with my own children when they aren't doing something "right"
Sometimes I need to go back and fix things because I am super picky about things to a degree.. But I'm not a jerk about it and I'm so grateful I don't have to do all of it
Itโs crazy how lazy parenting can really mess someone up like that. He sounds very insecure and I hope you thank him for his efforts when he does something nice for you.
I thank him for everything, sometimes just for being him. He's an amazing and kind individual (sometimes too kind). I constantly reassure him as well. He's more assertive and confident now, but he still needs some work. We've talked about therapy but unfortunately can't afford it right now.
She wasn't a lazy parent, just too much of an involved parent, what people now call helicopter parenting. She takes her children's failings as her own personal failings.
We've butted heads multiple times because she doesn't want my 5 yr old to do pretty much anything because "he'll get hurt." No running, no jumping, no being loud.. Basically don't be a 5 yr old boy. I'm more of a "if it won't kill him and he won't listen, I guess he has to learn the hard way" type of parent. I'll watch him get hurt after multiple warnings, comfort and clean him up, and then have a discussion about thinking things through before you do them...
Maybe you aren't wrong, maybe being a helicopter parent IS lazy parenting
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:08:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im a bit conflicted here because my mum is exactly the same. Never wanted me to do anything that was even slightly risky and its hard to please her at times. Ive turned out to be a very anxious person and its partly because of that but she is also the most kind and loving mum i could ever possibly ask for
She's very kind and loving too. I love her as much as I can't stand her. It's a strange balance. I know she seriously means well, she isn't trying to be mean, hateful, or disrespectful.. It's just the way she is. She also does make an effort to not do things you don't like.
She experienced a lot of trauma growing up and holds a lot of anger because of it still. She also isn't handling aging and being less able-bodied as well,or the death of her husband of 50 years. I guess she's always been like this to a degree, but it's exacerbated quite a bit now.
I know from personal experience that attempting control everything you can is an anxiety reaction to coping with things you have no control over. I'm very guilty of it myself and have spent years training myself to deal with it and not allow it to spill onto others.
My wife and I thank each other for everything. Cleaning, cooking, shopping, feeding dear daughter, etc. I thought it was weird at first but you know what... there's something to it.
Curried chicken wings my friend. Put some olive oil in a dish, add your tumeric and other spices you like and mix it all together. Put some chicken wings in the dish and let it marinate for 24 hours. Then, throw those suckers in the oven and let them get nice and crispy. You'll want to eat them all the damn time.
THIS so much this! I grew up listening to my dad constantly critique every meal my mom made, which was 100% every meal. One day my dad said something about a specific meal my mom had made the previous week, which he of course bashed the week before. I couldn't take it anymore. So I instigated the following conversation...
Me: "Dad, since you're such a better cook, why don't you ever cook?"
Dad: "That's your mothers job"
Me: " ok, so if her job is to come home from work and cook dinner, then your job is to come home from work, watch tv, and then complain about dinner."
Dad: "I have a hard and stressful job"
Me: "so does mom, when she gets home"
Family: *awkward silence
Me: "Mom, I appreciate dinner tonight. It is delicious. Thank you"
Dad: *up and leaves table.
Me: "You didn't ask to be excused."
Dad: "I didn't raise a brat."
Me: "No, you didn't do that either, Mom did. Im sure you'll complain about that too."
Dad: *slams door as he leaves the house.
Me: "I guess I'm doing dishes tonight for punishement."
Mom: "No, you're doing dishes tonight because it's your assigned chore. We're making popcorn and watching whatever movie you want as your reward."
Me: "But I made dad mad"
Mom: "you just told the truth about how you feel. Telling the truth is not always easy."
Side note, my Mom was a terrible cook. All her meals were awful. I ate everyone happily though. I was a shit teenage daughter in many other ways. I did always appreciate her meals though. Even as an adult when I visit her, her cooking is terrible. No I don't want to eat smashed, low fat grilled cheese with split pea soup sans salt, unless my mom makes it.
I've turned out to be a very good cook myself. On the level of friends invite themselves over and bring specific foods for me to cook for their meal preps.
100% the best meals I've ever had are the ones made for me. I can stomach anything (so far) that someone else put their time and pasion into. I ALWAYS praise them and thank them, its not even fake. Seriously, you did this! You did this for me! Best seasoning... Even better than hunger.
Also, parents now long divorced. Mom is living a great life, has a long term partner that adores her. She smiles now, something I never saw before.
As a former chef...no one EVER cooks for me. I remember the exact moment I fell in love with a ex. She told me to sit down and she was going to cook for me because she bet no one ever does.
She made a curry fish stew that was out of this world. Coupled with the fact that she made it for me it was still one of the best things Iโve ever eaten.
The thing that really stood out was how unapologetic she was. The gesture was nice, the food was spectacular, but that level of confidence just did it for me.
Good for you! I've switched 'shit I have to cook dinner for the family' to 'I get to cook a meal for my family, then sit with them and enjoy it, to talk and laugh and see my children enjoy something I made.' It really does make a difference.
As a guy in college, cooking has become a huge outlet for me. I really enjoy cooking different things. I've been watching a lot of binging with babish on YouTube, as he gives a lot of great tips on how to elevate your cooking skills.
Cooking is an integral skill in my mind, and I'm not going to have my future wife cook dinner every night, that's not fair to her, plus I enjoy cooking.
In my family, I am the dinner-cooker, and he's the breakfast maestro. I'm better at dinner, but that man makes melt-in-your-mouth crepes, waffles that make angels sing, fluffy omelets, and crispy bacon.
Just because I cook dinner doesn't mean that the division of labor in my household is uneven.
Well... no. The point is to be sincerely grateful for what people do for you, because that frame of mind is good for your mental health. The fact that people like you for your gratitude is only a very nice side effect.
Agreed, I am not totally appreciative of the person making my sandwich at Subway, they're being paid to do it and I am paying for it. But you're damn-well sure I am saying thank you when they hand me it.
Humans do not work like that, you can't magically force yourself to care about every little thing out there. Let me know the peer reviewed science that says you can if I'm wrong, I'm waiting. I do sales and I'm sure the legion of people who work customer service, sales, tech support and every other call center and remote support jobs can agree with me when I say there is hardly anyone going through anything unique.
Most costumers make the same stupid joke when I read a particular part of my disclaimers, most respond the same a little family joke I tend to make when wrapping up, everyone just lost a job, got divorced, lost their mom or some other tragic shit. After a few few years or months of this even the most empathetic human will be numbed and I wasn't very emotional from the get go.
Now you say, "that's called being fake as shit", as if it's a bad thing to let someone believe you did feel appreciative for the help/assistance/purchase or whatever? Care to state exactly what would make it so?
Being appreciative is polite. Politeness breeds politeness and a polite interaction is a nice interaction. It helps everyone, I like it and I'm paid for it, it doesn't hurt. So even tho I don't feel like being polite inside, where's the harm in simply pretending? It solves more problems. Same with being appreciative. You'd have to be an idiot to not see that laughing at the joke a guy who just lost his mom made(as lame as it is) and sharing a few light-hearted anecdotes hurts no one and is a damn decent thing to do. Vs what you seem to be suggesting and just being blasรฉ and going, "I'm sorry to hear that your mom died", in a monotonous 'I-Heard-This-A-Million-Times-before-just-pay-your-bill-on-time-next-time-pls' voice.
So what exactly is wrong with being fake here?
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:09:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think this goes double in a relationship too. If you notice the dishwasher is suddenly clean, laundry is folded, or you have a bit more groceries than you did yesterday, say "thank you for doing this," to your partner. It costs you nothing, makes them happy that their efforts were noticed, while also helping you recognize when you might be slacking a bit, if you ever notice you've been saying "thanks" a lot but haven't done much yourself.
Such fucking good and under appreciated LTR advice. Itโs so easy to stop acknowledging, which leads to not noticing, which leads to taking for granted.
Yep! My parents were very much of the mindset that you don't get praise for things you're supposed to do, but I've happily bucked that trend in adulthood, as I think a lack of praise (even for things that we, yes should probably do anyway) contributes a lot to negative feelings. I think it not only makes people take their partner's work for granted, but that it also leads to resentment. If you overlook your partner's contributions while tallying up your own, you'll eventually have a (possibly incorrect) perception of imbalance-- or maybe the imbalance is correct, but you'll be more likely to be okay with letting your partner lean on you if you know you can lean on them too.
Also, at the end of a long or particularly stressful day, sometimes just acknowledging that someone took something off your plate can be a huge relief!
Also "thank you" is a whole lot better than "I'm sorry" when someone is being patient with you. (Obviously apologize when you do something wrong, but this is more towards people who endlessly say I'm sorry).
Sometimes if the waiter brings over food/drinks I'll say "awesome" or "great" or something to that effect. I feel like it breaks up the monotony of saying thank you to everything while also showing appreciation for the action.
The Canadian โthank-youโ game is no fucking joke. Phone calls with clients can get insane:
โHey just getting back to you about that job you wanted done. Thanks again for your interest.โ
โNo problem, thanks for getting back so soon.โ
โSo this is the price and this is when we can do it.โ
โSounds great, thanks!โ
โOkay, see you then. Thanks again.โ
โThank you, bye.โ
I have that exact conversation about a dozen times a day.
I don't think I've sent a single email in the past two years without "thank you" or "thanks" somewhere in there. I've been trained from birth, like the Spartans, except in thanking people rather than slapping invading persians upside the head.
klop422 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:09:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just use it as my greeting at the end at this point. Sounds less weird than telling the recipient I'm 'theirs'
djfl ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:28:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I volunteered at my daughter's school today. I worked in the cafeteria for a few hours. Two things to validate your statements. 1) The cafeteria lady was so grateful and appreciative for the (I'm pretty sure substandard) work I was doing. I'm a 40 year old dude, and it made me feel useful. People naturally feel good when they're contributing to the group. Saying thanks just does help this. 2) I noticed on the cafeteria lady's bulletin board that she had 2 pictures. One was of her kids...standard. Another was from a girl who graduated last year, and a note that said "thanks for feeding us and the great conversation! Angela". I don't know how close these two were, but I remember doing stuff like that when I was a kid and thinking not much of it. Now, I see that a similar photo/card in one of two on this lady's bulletin board 9ish months later.
So, you're right. Gratitude is a really good thing that makes people feel better and perpetuates itself.
This is something I actually practice, especially when I receive good service from someone who works in a job that's regularly shit on, such as (fast) food service workers, call centre workers, etc. I also try to show my gratitude to people who work in call centres who can't actually do what I'm requesting, even though I'm pissed off at the policies or circumstances, I want them to know I'm not pissed at them.
I'm learning to say thank you, I struggle with it bc I always got shouted at when I didnt say it fast enough. Or i always say thanks after I eat bc it feels weird to say it before for some reason and I always feel extremely rude the entire time I'm eating at someones if it's the first time and they dont know me that well.
megggie ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:07:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, there's "thanks for cooking!" and "thanks, that was delicious!" The first always applies; the second may or may not (but in 90% of cases you should say thank you anyway).
Food I don't have to cook is ALWAYS worth a thank you.
As a cart pusher/grocery bagger, just hearing someone say thank you can turn your day around. (Also when people actually put small carts and big carts in different lanes of the cart chorale.)
My favorite thing to do to praise my fiancรฉ is to thank him for asking me to help him. He knows Iโll do what I can to ease his load, but he still has a hard time letting me help. So when he asks, itโs a big deal.
Thanking someone for things that they arenโt used to doing or have a hard time doing reassures them that thereโs nothing wrong with doing the thing. Help people do the thing. Itโll help you, too.
I was at a Starbucks once and thanked the barista and she literally stopped the line to thank me for my gratitude. I was a tourist so she laughed and said not a lot of people thanked her where she was.
So a little while ago I went through some intense shit (long and hard story) but I walked away from it with a promise that I made - I call it my "2 x philosophy" just so I can explain it.
Basically, I promised to make 2 people smile a day - help 2 people a month in any way possible and to change 2 peoples lives during my lifetime.
2 is such a small number that it is always achievable and I hope that some of those people that I reach will pay it forward and create a ripple effect.
Its my small way of trying to change the world with a little bit of kindness.
I am an American wrapping up a couple weeks in Vietnam. My buddy has been my translator but I made sure to learn Thank You in Vietnamese. Even just that little gesture turns their impression of you right around. It makes their whole day, year even hahaha. I make sure to say it to my hosts when I leave all the way to when a waiter brings me a tea. It's so simple and yet so rewarding.
klop422 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:16:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hear also that if you're in a foreign country, even trying to speak their language really improves their opinion of you
megggie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:03:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I live in the South-- "yes ma'am/sir" and "thank you" are ingrained. I think we should think about what we're saying (showing respect, being grateful) more than just saying it.
However if this is new to someone, saying it is a great start :)
well also being grateful to people that do something for you and expressing how much you appreciate it gives them gratification and makes them want to do more things for you. its a great manipulation tactic. trust me.
klop422 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:21:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, I use it to manipulate people to be happier, but I'll keep it in mind if I ever become a cultist
This is good advice. My girlfriend has a thing about gratitude and thank you, like borderline obsessive. It feels odd to say that her wanting me to say thank you is a burden, but she had a childhood thing that makes her want me to say thank you for stuff that I just normally donโt... just a difference in approaches.
Regardless, I figured that it wasnโt worth picking a fight over saying thank you, because thatโs really not a battle I can justify. So I do now, I thank her for everything and it spilled over into the rest of my life and people notice. You can see it in peopleโs faces at work, they kind of stop and look at you a second and you can tell they appreciate it... and thatโs kind of gratifying in its own way.
It started out as a mindless thing, like saying bless you after every sneeze, but I love started realizing that Iโm genuinely more aware of what people do for me, in my work life and just going around town. And thatโs spilled over to genuine gratitude, where Iโm appreciative of most of the things in my life, not just my girlfriend bringing me a glass of water when she gets one for herself.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:38:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learned to say โthank youโ for whatever someone does. Just because I thought itโs nice thing to do.
Later I discovered I think about every โthank youโ I say. I realized those words, said without much thinking in the beginning, led me to appreciate everything I was thanking for.
(Kind of โfake it till you make it.โ)
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:52:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I've got a bad habit of saying Thank You. I say it anytime someone gives me more work to do at work....I never realized it until someone at my last job pointed it out bc they handed me something to do knowing I was drowning in other work and I still said "thank you." I was one of those ppl who was good at my job and instead of hiring when someone left, I would have to do their job (took over 2 positions on top of my own and no raise...).
You know i always say thank you but I never really mean it you know? Itโs just something I say almost under my breathe as i walk through a door someoneโs holding for me or when someone picks up a pencil I dropped. I am only now realizing that and Iโm definitely going to put a conscious effort in to stopping that. So thank you.
I actually donโt have thank you as my default work signature for this reason. It means I have to type it out for every email. I do it so I get a constant reminder to actually thank people with every email I send.
It also helps me mentally de-escalate and remember often the person has to deal with me as much as I have to deal with them. A little consideration and acknowledgement go a long way internally and externally.
But dont over do it. My boss is too nice. Says thank you for the same thing 10 times in a convo. Asks 6 times if something is okay even after you've expressed it's perfectly okay. Etc.
klop422 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:23:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll agree I do it a bit too much - it took some time to stop confirming plans with someone so much, assuming I have any
klop422 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:24:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Better or worse than "enjoy yourself"?
dimlink ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:32:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I say Please and Thank You to any Alexa or Google device I ask something from. My friends say I'm just trying to earn points with Skynet. But honestly it just helps me appreciate what a wonderful resource they are. I don't need a response (though Google now offers an acknowledgement). I do it in traffic, on the bus, to animals, to people I am just thinking about - anytime I can. It makes a huge difference on my inner dialogue and orientation of appreciation.
My (future) husband is a great cook. I always say thank you when he cooks for me. Even when he is rewarming leftovers I am grateful because he is doing me a huge favor because I just dont feel like it! I appreciate him
gabz09 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:35:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because of my mother's advice I go out of my way to compliment workers if they do a good job, because most of the time they only hear the complaints and when they do a good job it goes unnoticed. I personally know that hearing a compliment about the work you do makes you feel valuable and good and will make you strive to continue to be as good as you can.
I wholeheartedly agree. Except the cold reality is that most people don't give a flying fuck about anyone but themselves.
klop422 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:30:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eh, even so. Many people care about other people in at least the moment they're doing things, and even if not, if they're doing something for you mindlessly, letting them know still makes them notice it and feel good
My mother raised me with really good manners. It's hard for me to not say thank you and have a good day to someone even if they are rude to me.
The number of times I've seen a smile and those words make others perk up.... even the rude ones.
kittyy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:23:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I make a point of thanking my fiancรฉ everytime he drives me to work. He doesn't have to, I don't ask him to, and he knows I am A-OK with walking. But everyday he brings me there because he "wants to spend more time" with me. I don't ever want him to think I take that for granted.
Practice gratitude, it can only help you.
I always say thank you to people after they finish their shift, even though many supervisors and managers take the stance of "it's their job to do it, we shouldn't have to thank them." People respond to it so much and they're much more likely to go above and beyond for you if they know they'll get praise from it.
joshi38 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:26:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's also one of those things that we all crave and almost never get. We want to be acknowledged for the things we do but rarely are. So when we're thanked, it does mean something.
Level up by saying WHY you appreciate it. "Thank you for taking out the garbage - it was really nice to not worry about it last night." "Thank you for cooking, I love your meals!" "Thank you for handling that problem for me, it was stressing me out and I appreciate the help."
I find so many people say thank you because it's automatic and polite, even if they are being genuine. Add WHY you're thankful and the other person feels even better.
_zzr_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:32:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im a waiter and always notice how often people thank me. Sometimes i get through the whole meal without hearing thank you once, and sometimes people thank me for everything i bring and remove from their table. Wonder which table gets the priority service hmmmm
And even if youโre an atheist, as I am, a generic โthank youโ to the universe, good fortune or serendipity (or your deity of choice if religious) when something does go your way leaves you in a better frame of mind, simply from the fact of having acknowledged it.
Iโve been doing this since having my son, and I can attest to the fact that it has a really positive impact on your life.
We taught my son sign language before he could talk, including โpleaseโ and โthank you.โ We would always say/sign those things to each other and him, and would always make sure he was doing the same. People would get weirded out by it, surprisingly...like if someone gave him something, weโd remind him to say thank you, and they would be like โno no itโs ok donโt worry.โ Which struck me as odd. But anyway....now heโs four, and trying to model that behavior for him has turned it into a habit in my own life.
Lately weโve been working teaching him to say โIโm sorryโ and โI was wrong.โ Iโm starting to notice that creeping into my life as well, and I think itโs a great thing.
Itโs true. And so simple and easy. Iโm crazy busy with really thanking people in svc industries and throwing in an actual, observable compliments that I go out of my way to notice, ie telling the cab driver heโs a great driver, telling a server they did a great job at x, y, &/or z, or when a man holds the door for us, I say TY Chivalry lives! My notices are always met with smiles, and sometimes conversation!
And whatโs more, my kid notices! She once wrote a paper about empathy and how you can express it in little everyday moments, โlike when my mommy noticed a blind man struggling to get around people (and a pole) one day, she asked if she could help out. Iโll never forget how helpful my mommy was and how happy the old blind man was for a little help. They made friends.โ ๐ญ
This should be at the top. Practice gratitude every day, even if it's for the smallest thing. Be grateful for waking up on time, or that your lunch was extra good, or that you got off work when you were supposed to, or that it wasn't a bleary day.
Grateful people ARE happy people and if you can find at least one thing in your day to be grateful for, it makes an impact. It really is the little things.
It takes not a lot of concerted effort to be kind to others, and once it's started it gets easier. And smiling at people (even just once in a while) does really help your mood, especially if they smile back. There are plenty of grumps in the world and I try my best to not be one of them unless I need to.
The best thing Iโve ever learned was to also show MYSELF gratitude. I did the dishes tonight even though Iโm exhausted? Tomorrow morning I say a quick โthank you, Last Night Me!โ because I was happy to wake up to a clean kitchen. Knowing I can make Future Me happy is a pretty good incentive to keep doing nice things.
kea5223 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 03:22:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I read "practice gratitude," I have always thought of things or people to be grateful for. Your comment made me realize I can be grateful to myself and my actions. Like leaving for work 10 minutes early so I don't have to jog to my building. Good comment, I will try to remember I can be thankful to myself.
this times 100x. I always start my mornings off with: "Theres a lot to be grateful for" and i'll proceed by saying three things i'm grateful for on that particular day.
This should be at the top. Practice gratitude every day, even if it's for the smallest thing. Be grateful for waking up xx xxxx, or that your lunch was extra good, or that you got off work when you were supposed to, or that it wasn't a bleary day.
Grateful people ARE happy people and if you can find at least one thing in your day to be grateful for, it makes an impact. It really is the little things.
I feel like on my worst days, days where I'm just feeling awful or something is going on in my life I tend to practice gratitude even more. It actually makes me feel better and when it doesnt I think, well, I feel like shit but maybe I can make someone else feel good.
Is life really so bleak that the things we have to be thankful for are 'not being coerced into working extra hours' and 'waking up on time to get to work'. If that was me I would end it right then and there.
mamajt ยท 52 points ยท Posted at 01:48:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The idea is that your life is going to happen, and you can either find things to complain about, or you can instead choose to find something to be grateful for. It's about attitude. The more you choose to practice gratitude, the brighter life will seem.
As someone with lifelong (medicated) clinical depression, this is something I believe in strongly. I'm already bombarded with feelings of negativity. I can either dwell on the little things that go wrong or I can choose to find pleasure in little things. Eventually the little things merge into one big feeling. Some days my big feeling is horrible misery. But as many days as I can manage, the feeling is gratitude for what I have. Many have far less.
Tvayumat ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:14:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I try to be specifically grateful for the things it's easy to take for granted.
Running water today? A miracle of modern engineering! Imagine life without it.
Sure is great having roads all the way from my house to a grocery store, and a car to drive on them. Most of the historic human experience hasn't had that and much of it still doesn't.
Taking the time to appreciate the things I've had most of my life through little effort of my own has made me a more positive person most of the time, I think. I could be wrong.
I think thatโd be a very big mistake. Lots of people do have very bleak lives if not for accepting the little positive things as big blessings. I donโt think they should kill themselves.
It's done wonders improving my mental health. I spent a few minutes each morning and at night listing at least five events that were positive and that I was grateful for. I started to notice I felt more positively after a few weeks. You start looking for and sometimes creating positive interactions to add to your list.
It helps.
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:54:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's awesome to hear!
"Just because your life is worse off than someone else's doesn't mean that good things aren't happening to you at the same time."
Relative privation certainly works in more than one way!
Yes! Whenever someone compliments you the correct response is "thank you". And optionally: An affirmation to reinforce that compliment.
Ex: "I love your hair"
"Thanks! I did it myself"
or
"You've got a great voice"
"Thanks. I've been working on it."
You don't need to use those responses but affirm the compliment back. Don't say something that will negate someone's kindness, because it's like saying "Thanks, but I don't agree with you". As I said; it's optional, so use your own judgment.
One last piece of advice: Take any advice you find with a side of salt. That includes everything I just said.
This. I used to think that being โgratefulโ meant I could regurgitate a laundry list of things I liked about my day. Now that Iโm practicing gratitude, though, Iโve realized that itโs all about making time more often to think about the things that make you happy. Itโs also about noticing the small things that happen throughout the day that make you think โthat was nice.โ
He had Stage 4 cancer and fought through it (as a 21 year old) and talks about "consicous gratitude" and appreciating the little things.
Jag94 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:34:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mother used to fake gratitude thinking she was being nice and that it would get her free stuff. Even as a child i would see the bullshit and felt embarrassed. I have vowed to never be that person, and when i say thank you to someone, i make it a point to look in their eyes and mean it when i say it. I like to think they feel my sincerity, not because i expect anything from it, but simply because I genuinely mean it.
A few years back, I decided to start thanking everyone, smiling at people. When I went out to eat, I would thank the waiters, anyone who held open doors, cab drivers, bartenders, cleaning staff I would see in public toilets, and now it's just become a habit.
I don't know if it's made me happier as a person, but I learned that there are so many people it can make happy. People who just go unnoticed, invisible because we take them for granted. So many times when I smile at someone, like the security personnel at airports, or metro stations, or thank people, so many of them are taken aback because they don't know how to respond. Sometimes it makes me sad, but it only encourages me to keep doing it.
I go out of the way to thank folks who are working on holidays. Most really seem happy and taken aback after being yelled at by unhappy holiday folks searching for a last minute item.
I learned from a positive psychology class to write down 3 things every night that I am thankful for from that day, doesn't have to be big things. This helped me out of a depression, and also reqired me to actively look for something good during bad situations. For example, even if I had a day of misery, I might just say, man I'm so thankful I had a cup of coffee in the morning, or enough gas in my car to get me to work, or just the fact I have a car...etc. etc.
My girlfriend is in graduate school right now, and I started asking her to tell me just ONE good thing from her day (started about a year or two ago) and now when I talk to her, I often just say, "ok, what's your one good thing?" and I like to think it helps her get off a bad train of thought when she feels lost or frustrated.
This is a really good answer because it so often comes off as a veiled way of saying "you're being a brat", and then people get defensive and classify it as "useless advice" before even trying it. But that's not the implication AT ALL, it just feels really really good to actively focus on the random little things that we're glad exist (that actually aren't a given, despite how much it feels like they are), so people want to give it as advice.
I finally got convinced to keep a "gratitude journal" (really just a dated list in spiral) and it's so fun to write in and look back on. I've gotten to the point where I try actively to write down the TINIEST things I can because I get a kick out of it. Yeah "having a roof above my head" is a super real answer, and I'll be sure to put it on the list on a day it storms or I feel particularly cozy, but stuff like "wore a white shirt all day and didn't get a stain on it" is what I've learned really keeps me going apparently lol.
It also helps me realize what I really need to change in life. If I've been avoiding writing in my journal because "how am I supposed to be grateful for anything when I hate my job and had a horrible day", then I need to change jobs. Hypothetically, we should all be able to be grateful for some things while struggling with others, but I've found there are some things that are so basic to quality of life that they can really dampen one's ability to find joy in even the big things, let alone the small stuff. And funnily enough, once I can finally admit to myself that I'm job searching now (or working on whatever other huge problem), it's like I feel like I "deserve" to be grateful for stuff and to make myself feel better.
It 100% keeps me in the most productive and stable state of mind---but I get why people brush it off and get defensive, it was probably recommended to me by at least 3 different mental health professionals before I actually lost the ego and gave it a shot.
People brush it off because they're caught up in foishness and stupidity. I used to be far more grateful when I was a child before I let adult tards get into my head. It increased by fascination. Ever think about a lighter? Fire helped build all this around us. It helped build civilization. And now I have it in my pocket. I find it incredible how far humans have come.
shawn77 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:51:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It really helps to think of things in this matter. My MIL grew up on a farm in rural Wisconsin. She remembers when they got indoor plumbing. I am grateful I donโt have to shit in an outhouse in North Central Wisconsin in February. Iโm grateful for indoor plumbing.
As the second youngest of 9, she was second to last to take a bath. In the same, now cold, water as her siblings. I am incredibly grateful that I get to turn a handle and get nearly instant hot water for a shower.
If you want to go further with it, make it a goal to add at least one thing a day that was bad or went wrong. Don't write it until you're actually grateful though, that's the challenge and the fun part ๐
Also be conscientious. I think that's even more important, honestly. Care about doing what's right and doing things well. Be that guy that picks up some random trash or puts up an abandoned cart at Walmart or catches that part defect that most people aren't looking for or whatever. People, including bosses, notice that stuff.
This has gone a LONG way to stop a lot of fights in my family.
I take care of my parents and because of my own health issues, I get support too. And food has always been a very unhealthy power play in my family. And I don't even remember a lot of why it was, but I know that once I started making an effort to just thank others for cooking, even if it was a crappy meal, not only did the meal taste better, but the fighting stopped. And soon if I didn't want to eat something, it wasn't forced to have to eat it because someone else cooked it anymore.
At first I thought "I'm grateful for a short list of things: family, close friends, and good health. Won't constant gratitude cheapen that?"
No. Maybe? Doesn't matter. Finding things to be grateful for, even absurd things, has immediate utility. "Hey, I'm not being stabbed right now! Hey, I still have both my legs!"
Being good at meditation is hard to access. It takes serious practice and it can atrophy without maintaining that practice. But thinking of things to be grateful for is easy to do, and it has similar benefits.
Hm I like the sentiment but I'm always trying to express gratitude because I don't want people to feel as bad as I do. Even if they probably deserve a degree of "reality shock," I don't want people to feel alone, discarded, or ignored. Sometimes people are grateful because they are unhappy.
my wife and her family are fucking excellent at this. it boggles my mind. a few years ago their house got broken in to while they were sleeping in it. it was our engagement party earlier that night (talk about bad omens) and i guess they were really tired and slept heavy because they got fucked. whoever it was made off with literally a suitcase worth of stuff.
She called me early the next morning to let know, so i stop by a local bakery then i drive over to be with them at what i thought would be a difficult time and they were making this lavish breakfast and just talking and laughing like nothing happened. they were just grateful that they were not hurt.
it's like this with everything!
car totaled - thank god we're ok
got hurt - thank god its not worse
fired - hey i get to try out something new
cancer scare - thank god i have such a supportive family
business failed and almost went bankrupt - hey at least we got to enjoy for a little while
i try to be like them but im just too fucking bitter.
I've recently had something of an epiphany on this topic.
When I was happy I never really thought in terms of positive and negative. The notion was even bizarre to me - how does me analyzing a mistake or problem translate into me complaining? I wasn't complaining, I was just trying to learn. ... But now that I'm depressed I find focusing on the positive to be helpful. Important, even.
Which makes me wonder - are we effectively promoting depression? I mean, when I was happy people were always bashing me for being negative, even though I wasn't. I just wasn't mindful of the whole positive/negative thing that so many are sensitive to. Now that I'm depressed people seem to think that I'm doing better. The feedback that I've gotten throughout my life effectively paints the picture that I ought to be depressed (or else they'll make me depressed).
Is this done on purpose? Caused by envy of those who don't loath their life? Or simply an inherent flaw in the positive thinking movement?
Gratitude is an action, which doesn't always include words. If you're grateful for being invited to an event, you can help clean up. If you're grateful to a friend, help them out next time they need it.
In the same vain ACCEPT gratitude. Someone says "thank you" then tell them "you're welcome". Ever feel like people don't appreciate you and what you do? Well is it because YOU DON'T LET THEM? Stop and take the time to say you're welcome and you might notice people really do thank you, people are grateful for what you do. I admit I had that problem myself and decided to start accepting that people really were thanking me and did appreciate what I did, that they were just saying it and yeah turned around that issue.
Khmera ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:02:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I say "thank you" to the universe when I find something I'm looking for and I always say "thank you" to people. Learned it from one of the audiobooks by Deepak Chopra, although I'm sure he's not the only one who has said it, by any means. Thank you notes are a rare and special treat these days too. People don't even know how to react to them nowadays.
Yes! Holds hand in hand with networking. Appreciate your fellows, appreciate your colleagues. Never forget what kindness brought you to where you are, but never forget the strength of lending a hand or a kind word. It is easy being cruel, but kindness can be ever harder. What is right is never easy
Unless surrounded by a bunch of ungrateful energy sucks constantly. Then sorry, it can be hard to cultivate gratitude without feeling like a total doormat.
Hylas7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because a thankful heart
Is a happy heart
I'm glad for what I have
That's an easy way to start
Iโve always been like this and i remember starting at my job, i was always saying thanks even if what that person did was all of our responsibility. At the beginning, my co-workers said โyou dont have to say thanks all the timeโ, then after a while they used to mimic me (in a harmless mocking way), specifically the way i say โaw thanksโ like the avocado kid, and now itโs just a thing that EVERYONE says โaw thanksโ for everything, and honestly it has changed the workplace in a way that i never saw coming!! The kindness!!! I LOVE!!!
Tell you what the idiots that slammed in their brakes this morning because they almost missed their turn followed it with rolling down the window extending an apology wavy and screaming "sorry". I instantly went from wtf asshole to you're and idiot but acknowledged it and did your best, thanks. Sometimes the smallest of guestures makes a huge difference, and most of the time they take little to no time.
Thank the people you work with and/or who work for you. I try to thank each person on my crew at least once a week, but it has to be in earnest and not just to check a box.
Iโm extremely gracious and thank people even for the smallest stuff ordinary people typically look past. It really brightens up peoplesโ days. Iโm still fucking miserable. I need to work on that. Might be the Ritalin tho.
it takes observance to be grateful, and when you start to be observant you start to realize just how big and rich with nuance the world is. It makes you happy the same way you are happy when you see a high def tv for the first time or put your first pair of glasses. It doesnt matter what you're looking at, its the resolution itself that is amazing.
This extends to internalizing any experience, not just your eyesight. It's easy to become depressed when you lower the resolution of your experience so much that you cant even see the detail anymore. If you find that over a length of time of you actively trying to improve your resolution and being unable to, then you might need some chemical support
But at the same time, donโt expect gratitude from others. I donโt mean this in a bitter way, but people who help out others and are then disappointed not to be lavished in thanks are negative people. Do something for other people because you want to help them or the situation, because it makes you feel good that you made the world a little better, not because you want to be admired for being so kind or helpful. Donโt open tabs with people. Just like being grateful, helping freely makes you a happy person.
Celanis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:21:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's a Ray Wylie Hubbard line that resonates with me along those lines. "The days I keep my gratitude higher than my expectations, well, I have very good days."
I have 3 gratitude alarms on my phone that goes off during the day. One in the morning, one at lunch and one before bed.
I have to say something I am thankful for out loud. It has to be specific, not something like "I have a house". More like " I am great full for my home that I share with my husband and pets who love me and who I adore".
Or even being great full for how the sunlight falls on a flower petal that I was fortunate enough to notice.
It really has pulled my life into a more positive direction and I find myself complaining less. Even when I do complain, I try to find something in the situation that might be positive.
"You know what the best currency is and I just thought about this yesterday, the best currency, the most valuable of all, is gratitude. when you're dead you're dead, but you're not quite so dead, if you contribute something." John Dunsworth
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:04:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A guy insulted me yesterday and I reflexively said ty lol
0ttr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:27:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Corollary to this: when a driver cuts you off, don't flip out, just realize you've probably pissed other people off in your life, so let it go. We're all human.
Every night my girlfriend and I do our 3 gratitudes, then once a week we have a meeting, on meeting night we do a mass gratitudes to catch things we missed, and our goals etc. It's surprising how good it makes you feel.
My girlfriend and I have this ritual, where every day we ask each other what we are grateful for. It really helps you keep a positive light on things in your life!
This is not true for me. Im always on my A-game when it comes to manners and politeness. Iโm severely depressed also. Although I think the reason I am so good to others is because I wanted to be treated the same way and I donโt want anyone to feel like I do.
~typed from my bed where Iโve been daydreaming about suicide since I woke up.
NK1337 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:45:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never understood what this meant until my father used his old broken down care as an example. For years he saved up to buy a car, and when he finally had enough he got a junker. He spent some time to restore it but he knew it was a crap shoot at best. And yet every time he got into that broken down car he was grateful that it turned on. He said he always cheered and was just happy that it worked, because up until that point he would have to walk everywhere he went. And it didn't even matter if the car stopped working, because he was grateful that it was even able to give him a small reprieve. Compare that to someone who just expects their car to work and the stress and frustration they feel when the car doesn't start up, its enough to ruin their entire day. It's far better to be grateful for the things you have.
Im not a religious person, but my SO is so I go to church with her, and this is one or the first things I noticed once I really got to know people from church. They are always grateful, for literally everything, and I noticed they are always in good moods. I adopted the mentality and it is amazing what it does to your overall mindset.
split41 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:12:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No. Happy people are grateful people. This is absurd abuse of causality.
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catsilo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:42:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey there! I'm grateful to be able to speak to this a little bit, and for your comment! I hope that my words can convey what gratitude means to me, as it is certainly not grounded in any god-like entity.
I feel gratitude is a gift you give to yourself.
I'm pretty much an atheist. I started a gratitude journal because I was depressed, and I thought it would help me to look past the stuff in my life I didn't like. Every morning, I would write down one thing I was grateful for, and one thing I was looking forward to. As I did this, I found I wasn't ignoring the things that were wrong or unpleasant, but instead was giving myself perspective on the wonder of (my) life.
I went from feeling like everything was stuck or decaying, to feeling like although my life doesn't have a purpose, exactly, I could be happy for the experience all the same. Everything that exists must exist. But we're some of the rarest of the rare things that exist and know we exist!
Because of that perspective, gratitude transformed from a medication to a practice to a true joy. I practice gratitude daily, publicly, because I know that my joy can bring others joy - and that's one of the only things you can give away and get back more in return.
Anyway, TL;DR God or not gratitude feels good, costs nothing, and gets easier with practice. It's basically calisthenics for my own psyche, not a worship to someone else for who I am and what's around me <3
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:47:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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catsilo ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:01:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've read that "comparison is the thief of joy." That's where at least some of my depression came from. I will cop to not having any severe disabilities of my own, but we all look to people who lead "normal" lives and think "why isn't my life like that? Why do I deserve less?"
I would say, for me, the greatest difference between "feeling happy" and "being grateful" is mindfulness. When I am grateful, I am naming a thing, thinking about that thing, and really feeling how that thing makes me feel.
To wax poetic, the difference between happiness and gratefulness is the difference between tasting food and savoring it. You don't savor food for anyone but yourself, and you don't have to be grateful for anyone but yourself :D
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catsilo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:31:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes that's great! I love my Google Play Music for the same reason! I'm grateful to be able to hear music I...acquired...years and years ago and sometimes I really like listening to it and sometimes I can't believe I used to like some stuff lol
I'm grateful you took the time and energy to try! I hope you'll keep it up, it's hard and seemingly impossible some days, but on those days I try to look more closely, and I'm never worse off for trying, when when I fail - good luck and please feel free to bug me about this stuff!!
Gratitude doesn't have to be directed towards anything...for me it's more just a feeling of being happy with what you have and not letting the absence of what you don't have make you unhappy. Alternatively, you can be grateful to yourself for having done all the things you've done to be where you are with whatever you're feeling grateful for
xford ยท 7710 points ยท Posted at 02:11:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Never take I-90 through Chicago" my sister said to me in 2002. 'Yeah, ok, thanks' was my reply.
In 2004, just over the border of Wisconsin we stopped for gas. We were on day 3 of our drive back from Yellowstone and had been on the road for almost two weeks in total. Funds were low, there was nothing left for another hotel that night. It was 11am, our calculations (pre-gps) had us home at about 1am. We looked at the map, saw the upcoming highway split and were debating between heading straight for I-80, or staying on I-90. 'Well, the last sign said 90 minutes to Chicago, may as well have a deep dish pizza for lunch. Plus, it looks like a more direct route."
Mistakes were made.
At 3pm we had admitted defeat. There would be no lunch. The infinite traffic wouldn't allow for it. By 4pm my will was broken, I pulled the e-brake, opened my door, and walked from the middle lane to the ditch just after a bridge to relieve the pressure in my bladder. Shortly after we would say 'fuck this, lets just get off here', that too was a mistake. The signs were in Spanish, the route back to the highway eluded us, we weren't even sure what time zone we were in. We asked a guy at the corner at a red light, 'hey man, what time is it?'. I'll never forget his response. "Your mother."
At 630pm we finally drove past what is now Guaranteed Rate Park, fully immersed in Chicago rush hour. An hour later we crossed into Indiana, broken people. We had an utterly forgettable pizza, got back on the road, and endured a drive home that lasted well past dawn.
"I told you to never take I-90 through Chicago" my sister said to me when I told her our tale of that day. She was right, I should have remembered that.
Use the Waze App. Adjusts routes based on traffic to save time.
Public transit will be your friend as well. Apple Maps (and most likely other maps but I actually like the way Apple Maps does it so I stick with that) will actually give you step by step directions for taking busses/trains/walking all in one. Use the โtransitโ option at the bottom of the route. Helped me figure out the train/bus schedules very very quickly.
People will sell you on other deep dish pizzas but Giordanos is as big of a chain as it is for a reason. Simply cannot be beat.
Navy Pier is touristy nonsense. Itโs cool to see, but donโt plan your day around it. Maybe package that in with Magnificent Mile if you like shopping.
Avoid being in the Central Loop at any point during rush hour. The amount of people walking/driving/shouting is astounding.
Visit the Lincoln Park Zoo. Itโs free, and itโs actually one of the better zoos Iโve been to!
Portillos
The Logan square bar district is a great place to drink a lot of alcohol for a long time. (Pretty sure a bar there stays open till 4-5AM
Thatโs about all I can think of now but if any more come to mind, Iโll edit this.
Source: Am touring musician who goes through Chicago about every 2 months.
Definitely don't go to Giordano's. It is the worst of the deep dish options in Chicago. Pequod's is the best and a more traditional option with more locations is Lou Malnati's.
Sure, Giordano's is a huge chain but so is McDonalds. Having a ton of locations doesn't make it the best.
Visit the neighborhoods. Wicker Park, Lincoln Park, Wrigleyville, Old Town, are all tame and safe places but with a lot of unique character and accessible by the L. If you're going in the summer, you're likely to encounter a neighborhood festival or block party, which are great. Wicker Park fest is an incredible music show with three stages for bands playing music late into the night. Old Town has art festivals that take over long stretches of the street to display and sell art. Google the "barcades" like Headquarters or Emporium for good craft beer and old arcade games. If you're into dark music and burlesque shows, Debonair in Wicker Park can deliver.
I'd skip Navy Pier but if you've never been it won't hurt. It's just a tourist trap, but the old building and pier itself might interest you. I got to ride the ferris wheel for free by completing a survey and found that enjoyable with a great view of the city. But I don't know if I'd otherwise pay for it.
Chicagoans are super friendly and proud of their city so feel free to ask nearly anyone for directions. It's also a grid with the streets lining up north/south and east/west, so if you know something is X blocks west and Y blocks north, you can just zig zag your way in that direction as you please. Be wise and don't stare at your phone when entering or exiting a train, thieves use your distraction and the crowds to steal from you then. Keep your legs closed when seated on a train or bus to share the space with those around you.
South Chicago is a well known touristy area. Feel free to visit, show off your latest set of wheels, your newest, most expensive jewellry, etc for appraisal.
It's been under construction since the day its opened. They keep promising more lanes less traffic all I've ver seen is those satanic ass orange cones and one construction worker. The only poor fucker out there is some dick with the slow/go sign for no damn reason. The only thing worse than being stuck in that traffic is being the poor worker the people in traffic are yelling at, they have so much time to sit and analyze you all the sudden everything that went wrong in their lives is your fault fuck you chicago.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:36:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I'm a trucker and when I was over the road went through Chicago very often. It's pretty much bad traffic, only highway in the Midwest that reminded me of downtown Atlanta at rush hour. 294 around the city gets congested too and costs a bit more but is a lot better.
gtg930r ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 09:03:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone from Atlanta I just thought that's how roads were supposed to be. But not just one, all of them.
Interstate highways are usually called I-Number (unless youโre in California, the itโs just โthe Number). If the number is even it runs east-west, if itโs odd it runs north-south. If itโs a three digit number itโs an auxiliary highway that branches off of the main interstate. Thereโs more to the numbering system, but thatโs the basics. For more information consult your local public library.
*Culturally Midwestern was implied. Just like thereโs cultural exceptions to the geographical โSouthโ, Chicago isnโt midwestern, itโs in the Rust Belt
Took I-90 through Chicago on Saturday. GPS recommended the toll because itโs faster. I took the toll and am rejoicing because itโs nearly empty (though getting through main Chicago wasnโt bad). After 2 tolls and โincidentโ occurred and everyone had to exit the toll road. This is where Iโm full of regret. I was backed up in rerouted traffic on a two lane for an hour. Roads got bad and I almost slid in to the person in front of me. After that (and 14 hours on the road) I decided I was done for the night and got a hotel at the next town.
My grandparents, aunt and uncle lived in that part of Chicago, it was really rough when I was a kid. They told me not to look people in the eye and don't look up at signs and buildings, they'll know you're not from there. When we went to Blockbuster there were always hookers sometimes doing Johns right up against the wall as you exited. One offered me a $10 blowjob, I was ten years old. Now it's gentrified.
Yep, North and Ashland. My family lives closer to Chicago and Ashland. Both Chicago and Ashland and North/Damen/Milwaukee were crazy but a lot of fun back then, too.
Honestly thought that it was ingrained in all wisconsinites at birth that you should never drive through Chicago unless you're actually trying to go to Chicago
Born and raised in Wisconsin. My parents still live there. I moved to Ohio. Chicago is the only fast way to get to my parents. Get yourself an IPass, hit Chicago between 10am and 11am or 1am and 4am. 60% of the time, it works every time.
Driving in Chicago is easy. Imagine yourself as a fighter pilot in a vicious dog fight. Be constantly aware of what's happening. Then, drive like an asshole. Your following distance should be 1 second and you signal after you start moving, not before. A turn signal is not suggestion. It is a demand. You are claiming that space. Be assertive.
Stay in the left two lanes, switch to pass people that didn't get the memo the fast lane is minimum 75 mph. Important! Do not exceed 85 mph. You are aiming for fast and alive, not reckless. If anyone rides you really close, get out of their way. This isn't a contest. Do not attempt to pass slow drivers in the right lanes, you can't see past the trucks and they weave around people going 45 mph.
Obviously, if the weather is bad, stay in the inner left lane. Go your best possible speed, moving right occasionally to let the crazies pass. If you can't maintain speed of traffic, use the inner right lane and hide between the trucks. Whatever you do, don't ever use the rightmost lane. That's for trucks, cars going under 55, and cars going above 95 mph.
Follow this guide, and you too can rocket a Prius from Gary, IN to Pleasant Prairie, WI in under 90 minutes. *tips tiny fedora*
Just in case you're wondering, Priuses aren't slow. I hit 109 mph in an empty stretch of highway during my last speed run through Chicago on a Sunday morning.
I-90 was rated the most congested highway in the country a few years ago. I'm sure others like around d Atlanta or LA get equally as bad or worse depending on the day. But Chicago's I-90 ain't nothing to fuck with. I avoid it at nearly all costs
This might get buried, but of you're the tenacious type and got this far, here's the "avoid downtown" options from a trucker that's been through the windy city many times. (Reverse all of these routes if coming from the east or southeast.)
Reliably smooth: coming from the Madison area in Wisconsin on I90/I39, when you get into Illinois you'll come to the 39/90 split. Take I39. This will take you straight south to I80. Go east from there across the south side of town. There's a brief toll section concurrent with I294 (the Tri-State Tollway), but that's fairly cheap. Off and on congestion occurs at Joliet and on the stretch of concurrent I80/I94 near and across the Indiana border.
Shorter route, slightly more of a gamble: Again from Madison, see above but take I90 east (toll road). When you get to I290, take that south and east. Then get on I294 (Tri-state tollway) and pay to scoot south to I80. Regular congestion at the junction of I290 and I294, spotty elsewhere. Reliably lower speeds during rush hour, but generally not stop and go more than a few junctions.
Alternate to I290 to I294 (Tri-state): if, for some reason 290 is really hosed (as suggested, use google maps or waze for traffic conditions), you can go a little farther east on I90 (toll) directly to I294 (Tri-state tollway). A bit more money, but cheap at twice the price when 290 is having trouble.
In the event that I294 is really messed up (which does happen from time to time) take I290 south to I355. Then proceed down to I80 and on east from there. I355 is a tollway. There's also the brief toll section of I294/I80 on this route.
Coming from Milwaukee: take I94 south (technically eastbound) to I294 (Tri-state tollway). Bite the bullet, pay the tolls, and breath deeply in any traffic. There are rush hour slowdowns near the junctions of I90 and then I290, and intermittent choke points here and there. But it's faster than going right up the gut.
Going the direct route through downtown works reliably between 11pm and 2-3am, but does get screwed up on occasion for events or serious accidents (wrecks will occasional bork any of these routes). Watch out for drunk/impaired drivers during these hours, though.
In general, don't take I94 south of I294 (Tri-state tollway), I90 east of I294 (Tri-state), I290 east of I294 (Tri-state) [see the pattern?], or I94 north of I80 (if you're coming from the east or southeast. Take these routes only if you specifically need to get to a destination inside the I294 loop (Tri-state tollway).
One special case: if you're coming from the east or southeast, it can be tempting to take I90 west of I65 into Chicago. It's almost always wide open and green. There's a reason for that. It's called the Chicago Skyway, and it's uncomfortably expensive. It will also dump you directly into the throat of the worst traffic bound for the north side. If you've got extra cash and a destination in town, ok fine. It's your wallet.
Plus if you wanted original Lou malnatis deep dish pizza you would have gone to Lincolnwood, which is right off of i94, which isn't a very long trek off of i90. The original store is there, and would have saved you much of your traffic trouble.
The Lou malnatis I'm talking about has been there since at least the 1970s. I'm talking before they chained out, if that's what you mean by 2002. I ate at that Lou's before 2002. I could easily say as early as 1997 I ate there, and maybe even other times before then.
Or Pizzeria Uno/Due which is a few blocks off the highway in downtown Chicago.
My only argument would be that the parking would be pricey, but good point on location.
xford ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:41:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes when the mission is an utter failure, obtaining any semblance of the goal becomes a victory. Plus, we were hungry, short on cash, and just wanted to get back to PA.
It took until 2016, but I finally got back to Chicago and had a deep dish pie at Pizano's on State St.
Pizano's was rated by Oprah for best thin crust pizza (had to be 10 or more years ago now)
I haven't tried their deep dish but I know the flavors!
xford ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:44:16 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We had two or three meals there since it was walking distance from my cousin's apartment. Wasn't disappointed in anything our party of four had the entire trip!
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 07:12:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did the same thing trying to get to Taos, NM. Brother told me don't take the eastern route through the mountain. He said take the longer route to the west. Of course, we took the eastern route because "It's so much shorter!" Big fuckin mistake. It added 2 hours to our trip, because it was a steady 30 mph the entire route and the constant swerves and turns made us nauseous.
awww iโm sorry guys. you only use i90 for getting off on streets that lead you directly downtown for job interviews. we should put signs up at the entrances to the state.
sween64 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:02:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt have plans to drive near or through Chicago (I live in Australia) but Iโm worried Iโm going to forget this advice.
I've often gone from Wisconsin to Michigan via the I-90/I-94 or I-294 route, and you honestly have to time it right. Most people I know who would travel through Chicago timed it so that someone was driving it overnight to bypass most the traffic. But, I also have had family stuck on there with a flat tire once. I was home and my mother called, they were stuck and waiting to try to get help so she called me to look up numbers of tow trucks in Chicago when a Minuteman arrived. I heard the guy there and the entire interaction over the phone and it was a godsend in their case. And I think had they taken a different route, they would not have gotten that help.
Healy_ ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:31:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm a Chicago resident and I havenโt seen it posted yet so I will.
294 / 290 will take you around the city and some of the metropolitan area.
Itโs a toll road, have cash on you. Coins are best.
I also once saw a bumper sticker that said โF**k the wall, fix i90.โ
Regardless of political beliefs, I think all Chicagoans would agree that about sums up the i90 situation very well.
Funny story, but a few things don't add up. First, at 11 a.m. you were at a split which could've taken you to I-80, or stay on I-90 and you're 90 minutes away from Chicago. So you were in the Rockford area. Fast forward 90 minutes and you're near O'hare Airport, just inside the city limits. It's 1:30 p.m. now and Guaranteed Rate Field is roughly 20 miles away. With no traffic, it'd take you less than 30 minutes to get there. At this time of day it should've been relatively smooth sailing. Even during a blizzard and traffic down to one lane it wouldn't take 5 hours to get to the stadium. In fact, Google says it would only take 7 hours to walk there from O'hare.
Secondly, Chicago has its share of strange street names, however, there is no area where the signs are all in Spanish. Maybe you're just talking about signs above storefronts?
Thirdly, nobody drives through Chicago and ends up buying pizza in Indiana. Nobody.
xford ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:48:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was nearly 15 years ago and well before I could rely on Google to tell me where I was at any moment in the past. I'm sure some details have faded. Rockford area seems to be about right as far as the starting point. I believe there were signs for the upcoming 90/39 split indicating that 39 would take us to i80.
By the time we hit the second toll booth it was already a shit show. I'm not sure what happened but eventually it was a total parking lot, l literally got out of the driver's seat in thr middle lane, walked to the side of the road to relieve myself, walked back to the car and traffic hadn't moved an inch. When I said signs I was referring to the billboards on the sides of buildings.
As far as the pizza in Indiana,well we come to the from northeast PA, where we have the highest density of pizza places to people. Pizza is literally the answer to nearly any food related question.
Funny my girl friend and I just did that exact drive, we both live in big sky, Montana and stopped through Chicago on our way to Georgia. It was raining today and only had about 40 min worth of traffic, never stopped once except merging on the on-ramp for the I-90. Guess we got lucky ๐คทโโ๏ธ
xford ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:08:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You dueled with the devil and won, congratulations.
djfrey ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:59:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I drove from Rapid City, SD to Buffalo, NY in a day and a half, I-90 the entire way, about 23 years ago. The part through Chicago stands out as one of the most terrifying driving experiences of my life. Massive construction. No shoulder, just concrete barriers. Everyone driving 90 MPH, mere feet between you and the person in front of you and behind you. White-knuckle, bug-eyed fear for the duration.
On the plus side, traffic zipped right along. Must've been the right time of day.
I'm not sure if it was 90, but I drove my Navy nephew's parents through Chicago (from New Hampshire) for my 'phews boot camp graduation at Great Lakes. All I remember is sorta going up and rounding a curve on a highway only to be dumped into 7 Levels of Hell. The GPS was telling me to take the next right exit. I was entering that road from the farthest left lane, the fast lane, and there was no way I had time to move over that fast, even after shouting at my uptight sister-in-law/backseat driver to "Close your eyes and shut your mouth, Darlene!" And flooring it! Ended up passing that exit and working back. Memorable :)
Because there are a lot of areas where the majority of the population speaks spanish. I used to live in Corpus Christi TX and signs in Spanish were pretty common, especially on the west side.
No I live in the UK. But I highly doubt there are any non english speaking areas in an English speaking country. Otherwise, why would there be use for the word "minority"?
Because it's a national term, not a localized term? There are a lot of areas in the US, especially along the border in which the dominant language is Spanish. Where I lived in TX non-Hispanic whites were not the majority, and only made up 1/3 of the population.
Notice I didn't say "non-English speaking". Most people in these areas know English to some degree. If like 90% of the neighborhood speaks Spanish though, business are going to advertise in Spanish there because it works better.
Both El Paso, TX and Miami, FL are US cities where a majority of people speak Spanish as their primary language. There are others, those are just the largest.
Also, if you want to get *really* technical: Puerto Rico is an entirely Spanish speaking area that is part of the US.
Oh. I thought Puerto Rico was south of Mexico. My confusion was that the original post mentioned near Chicago, which is northern US? So what would a Spanish speaking area be doing there?
Nah, Puerto Rico is a US territory in the Caribbean.
Chicago is a) huge and b) has a very large immigrant population. I mean my step-grandpa grew up in a Chicago suburb in a Finnish speaking household.
Individual ethnicities tend to form enclaves, and by far the largest immigrant group in the US is Mexicans, both legal and illegal. Nearly every large city in the US has a neighborhood where a lot of Spanish speakers congregate.
Also distance from the host country doesn't matter. Remember, Chinatown in New York City is way further from China than Chicago is in from Mexico.
Are there seriously no ethnic enclaves where you live?
I agree with you. Where I live in the north east of England is 95% white British. There is a significant Jewish population in Gateshead and there is a Chinatown in Newcastle. But nowhere near enough people of minority to have signposts of different languages, let alone billboards.
And if the Jewish population over there is much like the one here, they're probably speaking English anyway...every Jew I've known stateside speaks English both in public and private. I wonder if there are any areas like that in England at all? I mean I know London is pretty immigrant-filled.
I suppose it is just a matter of density: I mean even Nashville TN (which is big, but not Chicago big) has a neighborhood with Spanish-language billboards on the southeastern side.
xford ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:16:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was referring to billboard advertisements, not the physical street sighs.
I really want to know where you bought your pizza.
xford ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:07:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh man, I wouldn't even be able to make a guess. It was unremarkable other than the fact that we hadn't eaten since breakfast and were just happy to be out of Illinois.
The signs were in... Spanish? As an Oregonian, closer, technically, to the border with Mexico, with absolutely no Spanish signage here, despite our high Spanish speaking population, am confused.
xford ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:49:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's not accurate. There's only more deaths there because they are horrible drivers and the highways are usually pretty good so they're going about 70mph. The drivers in Chicagoland are much much worse and do their worst when the traffic is flowing maybe 20mph, nobody is going to get killed!
Never ever drive through a major city. Should be universal advice unless its past midnight.
wgc123 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:04:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wonder if thatโs still true with GPS/traffic reports.
We used to say the same about the cross-Bronx expressway: from Boston, it looks like the most direct route to points south. After consistently being stuck many hours on it, never again: going around, NY Thruway to Garden State is only like 30 miles longer and much faster. However for the last couple of years, now that GPS has good traffic data, weโve let it take the lead, and it works. Iโve even been on the cross-Bronx without spending the whole afternoon there!
I have to go through Midway for work every once in a while. I live in a city where I can get to the airport and on my plane in an hour. I'd heard about how bad it could be at Midway, so I left for my flight about 3 and a half hours before my boarding time, from about 30 miles from the airport. I made my flight with 2 minutes to spare. What would have taken 70 minutes in my home city took more than 200. I have never seen such traffic. How THE FUCK can it take an hour to go 10 goddamn miles?!? ON AN INTERSTATE?!?? Chicago traffic is amazingly terrible.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:32:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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xford ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:38:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd rather stand in line at the airport on a major holiday than drive inside of St. Louis ever again.
I do this a lot and it works amazingly well. You donโt know what you really want unless youโre put under pressure, even if said pressure is as small as a coin flip.
BTW I didnโt know what to call it, so I said pressure
So like a seven page essay due in an hour kind of pressure and not a my parents expect grandchildren but I'm not even financially stable enough to support myself pressure?
Definitely. I also always have the issue of โshould I try something new or something I know Iโll love?โ
Kylynara ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 03:23:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think pressure is a good word for it, in the "oh shit what am I gonna be stuck with" sort of way. But I think the trick works because when you're trying to decide between two things there's a pressure to have a reason. Once you decide to pick at random it frees you to listen to your instincts, to go with your gut, because that's a "more valid" basis than random.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:37:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pushing down on me!
davy_li ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 04:24:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My girlfriend has a similar process. She asks me to pick between two choices (like do I prefer the red or yellow dress). I usually just blurt one of the choices back. At that point, she suddenly realizes the choice she actually wanted and ignores anything that I say, even though that yellow dress objectively looks worse on her.
My gf and I do the same thing when we canโt decide where to eat (weโre both women this happens a lot). We call the unrealized preferences โsecret opinionsโ lol
DaneOak ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:30:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To me the feeling of โpressureโ is like suddenly being confronted with being forced to choose the one you donโt want and realizing you want the other thing
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:36:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah fam. Pressure is a homeless man who doesn't know where his next meal is coming from.
I've done this since I was a kid. I did it at first because I thought flipping a coin made me look cool, and then realized it's easier to do what the above comment said. Funny that so many others do it too.
And if you still can't decide, go with whatever the coin said. If the two choices are that neck and neck it's better to just pick something than spend time agonizing trying to pick the 'right' thing.
Also, if you just pick something, and it turns out wrong, that's a great learning opportunity. Then you'll have more information next time you make a similar choice.
Someone said that's a trick to show you're psychic. You don't know which option you really want, but if you flip a coin and get an answer. Either you're disappointed with the result (and thus change your mind knowing it's the one you want most) or you're fine with it (and have thus confirmed it was the best choice for you).
Iโve heard a similar one to this. Flip a coin, go with what it says. If youโre disappointed by the choice then change it to the other one, and choice made. If not, great, choice made for you.
This is something my dad and I have discussed. People who have grown up in the information age seem to find themselves constantly experiencing overchoice/choice paralysis/the paradox of choice/whatever you want to call it.
When my dad was young, he says it was easy to buy a house, or a car, or marry someone, or get a job - you looked at the half dozen places your realtor showed you, the two dozen cars on the lot, the handful of girls you liked at church or school, and the few dozen ads in the paper. There was usually one, maybe two standout options, you picked the best one, and ran with it. If it was a lemon, eh, how were you supposed to know? You did the best with what you had. Chalk it up to experience and move on.
Now, with the internet, I can see thousands of houses for sale on Zillow. I can thousands of cars for sale on Autotrader. Thousands of single girls on Tinder or Bumble or whatever. Thousands of jobs on Indeed. And I can research every single one to death. Does this girl have an Instagram? Is this a good furnace? What do people think of VW infotainment systems? What's the Glassdoor reviews for this place?
Not only is it more to sift through, but it shifts the blame onto you for what really is just bad luck. Got a crappy job? You should've put more stock in that 1-star review on Indeed. Girlfriend cheated on you? Should've scrolled back down her Twitter and seen that she did that 3 years ago when she lived in Maine. Uncomfortable seats in your car? Just ONE more YouTube review would've told you that.
So we end up agonizing over these decisions, sifting through blog posts and YouTube videos and review sites and Facebook profiles trying to find that ONE golden nugget that tells us what to do. But of course, it never comes. You're panning for gold in a garbage dump. The internet isn't a library full of all the answers, it's a back alley full of graffiti, folks yelling at each other, and cats. You can find someone there who will tell you anything about anything. The Cruze is the best/worst car ever made! This school district is the best/worst district! This company is great/horrible to work for! There's rarely enough data to cancel the noise.
Honestly, the best answer is often to just pick something and move on. Your gut feeling is probably good enough, and doing something is better than doing nothing. Often times online research is little more than reading tea leaves or looking for shapes in the clouds, so might as well just buckle up and do it.
Paleork ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:09:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Frank talked about this.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:08:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've only used this technique for whether I should order Pizza or Burgers and sides.
I order whichever I get based on the coin and then kind of at the end of eating, I go I mean, the other would've been nicer.
When I was stuck, I used to ask my family to decide. And if I was happy with the answer, I knew that they picked what I wanted. And if I was disappointed, clearly I didn't want what they picked.
I do this sometimes but then people sometimes get frustrated if i change to the one they didnโt pick when i realized i wanted the other one. Like even if it was a decision that didnโt effect them at all.
true. but what if i donโt have a coin?! haha, i sometimes just try and imagine me choosing one/flipping a coin and then gauge my reaction by that if i have no other options.
I find looking at the least-significant digit of a clock to be a pretty quick, lightweight method of choosing a random-ish seed. It usually works pretty well if I haven't been following the time very closely.
i also can ask siri to flip a coin. or just ask a person to pick either one or two. so many solutions! in most situations i wouldnโt have google super readily available as i probably wouldnโt be near my computer and i donโt use google as my phone browser, but that is a good option.
Far worse advice. Not only are you subconsciously abdicating responsibility ("well I didn't pick it, I knew it was a bad idea"), you're setting your family up for disappointment if you decide against their human coin flip.
Flip a coin. You get the same emotional feedback while owning your decision and never running a risk of disappointing other people.
It was something my mom and sister were on board with. And I'd tell them ahead of time that it was to help me make a decision. Usually not on things that impacted them in any way.
Nor was it meant as advice. Just sharing a personal anecdote of what I do sometimes to see if I connect with other human beings on the matter. Nothing more.
So slow down your judgy McJudge pants there buddy. You don't know the whole situation.
Absolutely stand by it, despite that very specific set of unmentioned details.
Not judging, simply stating facts. Anyone not in your exact situation who thinks "hey, that's a good idea" is making a poor decision based on your anecdote, and should be fully informed when reading this.
[deleted] ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 03:06:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I don't like it. You need to own your decisions as your own. You can't give someone else the credit or blame. Own it, stand tall and work with your decisions.
I literally just got off the phone with a mentor... late night call to have him make a decision for me. The conversation brought me to an opposite conclusion than what I started with, and I liked his final answer.... so your comment helped me know I did the right thing!! Thanks!!!
SAME and I hate when they refuse to answer me now because I very rarely ask them anything its only like once a year when I truly cant decide because I either hate both or love both
Hmm... then probably your between a rock and a hard place and neither option is going to make you truly happy. So it becomes a decision of which is the lesser of two evils. Or at least that is what I think.
Yeah I figured this out on my own. I'd flip a coin to decide between doing two different things, and if I was sad about the outcome, I realized that I had already made my decision long before the coin flip.
Me too and I have this same reaction. Otherwise if I feel indifferent about the outcome I just go with what the flip was. Decision made no matter what.
When you need to make a decision but don't know which choice is better, flip a coin. Then, rather than deciding based on the outcome of the coin toss, decide based on how you feel about the outcome. Even if you didn't realise it before tossing the coin you'll most likely prefer one outcome over the other, and the feeling of relief or disappointment you get from seeing the other outcome will make you realise which it it.
Oh sorry! So you have two choices which you assign to Heads and Tails. Flip the coin, and while it's in the air, pay attention to what result you want.
u/TheMaddMan1's method is also a great way of doing it.
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Basically, it informs you of the choice you actually want or are hoping for.
I understand what you're saying, but I can't think of a single situation where I've been stuck trying to make a decision. I understand if it's truly 50/50, but if you already want one of the options, then what's the hold up?
Is it really that common to not recognize what you want?
Honestly, yeah. I used to overanalyse everything. Even the tiniest things like "bus or train today" or "left or right to my lecture theatre." You're definitely one of the lucky ones!
This has helped me tremendously in the past. I just started flipping a coin and wouldnt look at the result. Knew what I wanted immediately.
snpods ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:32:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad used to call this the โGeorge Bush deciderโ approach, because he was (sarcastically) convinced thatโs how we wound up in Iraq hunting for weapons of mass destruction.
Be sure to remind her of this later in life when the real emotions come so she can better know how to make herself happy.
ndgrey ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:19:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But what If what you want is wrong?
Loebb ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:29:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think the advice only comes into play with trivial things, or the ones in which the consequences doesn't come into the decision or are meaningless.
More "blue or black shirt?" not "should i call my ex?" or "should i buy a house?".
ndgrey ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:32:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know a guy who based life changing decisions on a coin toss. Broke up with a girlfriend because of a coin toss, and accepted another job in a different state because of a coin toss. He said if you do it right without flipping again or going against it then you live life without any stress because you dont have to worry about what could be. You just flip a coin. Not sure if I could live like that.
Loebb ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:41:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If someone is so sure about the outcome of doing something or not, , why do a coin toss?. The part about going against it seems weird though, because if you decide to go against it just mean that you already make your mind about a choice, so why go for a coin toss in the first place?
But yeah, im overthinking this and probably thats why i wouldn't go for that either.
There is actually a research project which is two lengthy for me to type out because I'm lazy but the upshot was: people who make a decision are happier with a decision they made then people who take a long time to analyze or agonize over their decisions. This was done by testing a group of students in having them pick their favorite pictures and decide whether or not they were going to submit which ones. The ones who had to make the decision right away always rated their choices highly compared to people who had a couple weeks to decide and the option to change their mind.
Ironically when people were given a choice whether they like to take the class where they had to decide right away or the one where they would have time to decide people almost always picked the one that would give them more time to decide and they actually chose (albeit unknowingly) to be less satisfied...
I do this but with hands and numbers, mentally I assign an option to either hand, or if thereโs more than two options I use number (ex: pick left or right or pick 1, 2, or 3) or itโs not in person I assign numbers, then have someone choose one and if youโre disappointed you know what you wanted and if youโre not, hey, a decisions been made!
โWhenever you're called on to make up your mind,
and you're hampered by not having any,
the best way to solve the dilemma, you'll find,
is simply by spinning a penny.
No - not so that chance shall decide the affair
while you're passively standing there moping;
but the moment the penny is up in the air,
you suddenly know what you're hoping. โ
Whenever you're called on to make up your mind,
and you're hampered by not having any,
the best way to solve the dilemma, you'll find,
is simply by spinning a penny.
No - not so that chance shall decide the affair
while you're passively standing there moping;
but the moment the penny is up in the air,
you suddenly know what you're hoping.
That's my philosophy too. Whenever someone asks me about two things they're trying to decide, I tell them to flip a coin for it. If they hesitate with the result, pick the other one.
Been using this for years, and I live for the moments where I really am fine with either option - the bigger the choice the better, too. Gimme the Lords of Chaos any day of the week!
Oh wow. I do this too but I go with what coin decides. Going with what I immediately hope for in the moment sounds so much better and makes so much more sense. Thanks eventstranspired!
Morug ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:36:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The version I was taught was to flip a coin if you can't decide. Then check and see if you are disappointed. If not, go with the flip. If yes, then go with the other.
Dsnake1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:37:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to carry a d20 for the same reason. Real easy to do ranges for a handful of choices.
After a few months, I started disobeying the die with what i wanted to do, and now, I just do what I want.
I didn't even know other people did this. I always suggest this to my friends thinking I came up with it. And I can second this, it's my favorite piece of advice.
akg720 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:41:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My husband carries with him at all times 2 things. A little 1 inch glass turtle named Franklin that says โThinking of Youโ I bought for him 3 years ago and a half dollar coin. Any time we canโt decided something we let the coin choose. No arguing with the coin. Made our lives much easier.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:41:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if what you want is stupid and you cant decide because you know its stupid.
The only issue is that sometimes what you're hoping for is the path of least resistance. The comfortable, safe option. Not always the best path for long term happiness.
Used to carry a die around for a similar reason. I find that even holding it helps me make decisions now. Used to not know what I really wanted until I rerolled it a few times to try and feel satisfied, and totally missed the point of the advice. It feels kinda nice, to have this little item I can go to for advice to tell me what I really want when I'm unsure
Doofuhs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:50:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you place the coin on your thumb to flip, then flip it and catch it, then flip it over to show it to someone, it's always the opposite of what was sitting on your flipping thumb. Always. That's why the NFL let the coin fall on the ground.
This works for me all the time, but the wife isn't always so pleased to see me flipping a coin to decide on things so I find random things in the environment that could be the decider and it becomes a little more interesting to me with the process.
For example, driving down the highway I'll look away from the mile markers or what have you(odometer), then peer back and if it's even or odd there's my choice. Also if it's a 3 option choice, it becomes (1)1,5,or 7; (2)2, 4, or 8; (3)3, 6 or 9. If it's a zero then I'll just delay, then roll it again or just make it a 2 if time is a bit of a contraint. Option 2 is usually what I may think my wife might enjoy more. Random colors work great too.
I wish this worked for me but it just confuses me a bit.
Do I want apples or bananas?
Ok let's flip a coin. Heads is apples.
Flips coin. Tails
I feel disappointed, so I guess I want the apple.
And then I eat the apple and am regretting it. I should have ate the banana.
And this happens every single time. I have settled on the fact that I am just indecisive and unhappy in general. I probably didn't want either one, who knows.
I guess the thing to remember is that you can always have the banana next time! Cause ultimately what's it going to change if you choose one or the other?
I mean for big decisions, sure. But for small ones, just go with the flow it's not going to be significant 30 minutes down the line. Plus you know next time what you're gonna hit up: the banana!
JADW27 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:11:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always do the opposite of what the coin tells me to do because I've found coin flips to be unlucky. If I have trouble following through with the opposite, I know what I really wanted to do.
Explaining this process to others is pretty difficult, but effective.
"Heads. That means we go with the blue one."
"Wait, you said tails was the blue one."
"Yes, but you should always do the opposite of what the coin tells you."
One time, I had a friend who could just not make up his mind about something. So I pulled out a quarter to let the fates decide. "heads you pick A, tails you pick B. Call it." And I flipped. He chose heads. Without knowing what the result was, I pocketed the quarter. When he asked what it was, I said, "it was heads."
It took him a moment, but watching the realization of what I did dawn on him was one of the most satisfying moments of my life.
Iโve flipped coins to make wild decisions. Itโs made me move across the world on more than one occasion. Iโve now lived in 4 different countries and Iโve been on some incredible adventures. Live and die by the coin.
I do a similar thing with eenie-minie-mo when thereโs multiple choices. Go through it, and if I donโt feel satisfied, I eliminate that one and do it again
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:44:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
100% works. I use a list randomizer usually, and I either pick the one I actually wanted all along or just whatever the randomizer says.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:55:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do the coin flipping thing all the time. Its not about leaving it up to chance, its about figuring out which option I want more. If it comes up heads and I'm like "oh", then probably I actually wanted the other option more. Helps me make decisions based on intuition instead of what I think I should do.
When my wife and I can't pick what to have for dinner we will come up with a list of options, we each get one veto. Then we put them in brackets and flip coins. The winner is where we eat (or more accurately where we order takeout from)
I do this with my wife and rock paper scissors. I assign a restaurant yo her and me and whoever wins we go to that restaurant. Normally that let's us know where she really wanted to go.
If you feel like quitting then just tell yourself that the story doesn't end this way. Sounds cliche, but you decide when your story ends when you stop trying. You may fail, but you will not fail today. Don't let the story end this way.
ArhezOwl ยท 57 points ยท Posted at 02:55:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Imagining my life as a story is what has helped me through some pretty dark days. Ending it all would be a pretty crappy way to end the story.
What if I was never interested in the story in the first place though?
Edit: I didn't imagine everyone would immediately jump to this being some sort of cry for help. The idea was more on the lines of not really caring about the end result of a project one might have been working on, not something as important as a life. The massive outpouring is appreciated though.
The answer is kind of silly, actually: read more books.
As humans we're culturally designed to learn from people who came before us. We model ourselves after other people, real or fictional, and apply the lessons they learned from their experiences to the way we process our own lives. It can be tough to see the way out of your depressive funk if you have never "met" anyone who managed it.
I don't think movies and shows are an acceptable substitute. The format and consumption is totally different. Read books. Go to the library and wander through, I dunno, the scifi aisle. That one always brought me joy.
Some books that really inspired me as a kid which continue to get me revved up as an adult:
Dune (there's a whole series)
Game of Thrones (you think dany was boring in the show? wait'll you learn about Danaerys Targaryen, Tax Attorney)
I, Robot
Sherlock Holmes (bunch of these)
Ender's Game and its spawn
These are books with strong, intelligent heroes who overcame many different kinds of adversity. They offer pointed philosophical questions and really get into political intrigue. It's kind of my aesthetic to be a conniving but brilliant little shit, and I really identified with characters who shared a personality type with me. Fuck John Galt though. I'm not giving Ayn Rand the time of day. Insufferable. Runs away from "communism" to create a nice little communist utopia in the middle of nowhere, and then refuses to share with anyone who isn't independently wealthy. Disgusting.
Other books that may strike your fancy with interesting and heroic protags are:
Lord of the Rings/The Hobbit
Dust of 100 Dogs/A Nameless Witch
Slaughterhouse 5
The Odyssey
American Gods
Good Omens (Pratchett and Gaiman in general, honestly)
Hunger Games (trilogy)
Harry Potter (septology?)
I would avoid anything involving themes of suicide (hamlet, the awakening) if you're feeling depressed. It's not cathartic at all. I got moodier and way more withdrawn, and it really intensified my self-harming and suicidal urges in an unpleasant way.
Corvado ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 09:46:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also recommend anything by Kurt Vonnegut, although that might not be for everyone. His books can be bleak, but they always offer me so much insight into the human condition. They remind me that we all have struggles, and teach me to laugh them off because everything really is absurd if you think enough about it.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:17:56 on May 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can you recomend a particular book to start off with?
I do admit that part of the inclusion of these two is because the protagonists are female. It wouldn't be very cash money of me to only include books with male heroes.
Pmang6 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:30:14 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Red mars series by kim stanley robinson. Basically game of thrones but its hard scifi about colonizing mars. Lots of flawed characters that are doing incredible things.
There's a song about exactly this in the Matilda musical
Condawg ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 06:13:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's your story. If you don't like it, change it. (Keeping in mind that characters never change their circumstances without adversity. Easier said than done, but it's in your power to do it.)
Edores ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:50:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Something someone once said to me when I was expressing that I didn't want to grow old:
"I don't feel that way. I want to know how history turns out!"
And I was like damn. Yeah. My life isn't very interesting, but you know what is? The totality of human existence and where it is heading.
We live in crazy times. It's hard to realize sometimes, but think back to 50 years ago and think about how unrecognizable the year 2020 would be to someone in 1970. The same differential is going to apply to 2020 and 2070.
So yeah. Even of my story sucks, mine isn't the only one to enioy.
I, too, want to watch history unfold.
Pmang6 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:31:17 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This and empathy for my family is keeping me alive right now.
The story is also something that you get to write; it is not served to you on a platter. If you passively wait for the "good part", you're going to be bored and have a miserable time. I know I did.
But once you are able to engage more, it's actually pretty cool. Be the change you want to see in the world, as they say. And I realize this is way easier said than done. But on the other hand, you've got nothing to lose.
Just think of all the sequels that were better, or the shows that really picked up after the first few seasons as the show found its feet. You got this.
Conversely, quitting isn't failing. Sometimes quitting is the best step for you, you shouldn't try and force yourself through something terrible just hoping that it gets better, and you'll be happier once you quit.
So many people stick with things that are harmful for them because they've been conditioned not to quit, socialized to think that quitting is failure. I know people who saw the warning signs, tried to stick it out, and 5 years later almost ended up worse than where they started off.
duke838 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 07:56:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup was looking for this. If you are fantasizing about car crash, serious injury, or anything like that just so you dont have to go to your job then quiting is probably the best decision you'll ever make.
Quitting is a power move. You give yourself control that you lost. Courage is not within writing the letter, giving it to your boss, and facing coworkers questions in the last two weeks - courage is found within being honest with yourself about what you actually want versus what you will admit.
Ahh, I can see that. I was definitely reading it more from the perspective of depression rather than suicidal ideation, within the context of people quitting a job or a PhD program or something.
Well, if you ignore society's taboo on suicide, all of his advice about quitting a job applies to quitting life too. You shouldn't have to force yourself through something terrible hoping that it will get better, because it very well might not.
But if there's even the tiniest chance that you can experience any happiness in the future, it's better than death. And you never know what happens, everything is evolving so rapidly nowadays, maybe a superintelligent AI will take over in one or two decades and solve all your problems. Or any of the other thousands of ways your life your could improve.
Think of it like gambling, if someone was losing every bet, would you tell them to keep on plowing money in as they may win big on the next one?
Nope you'd advise quitting.
esesci ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 03:08:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah man, Iโll keep smoking! The story doesnโt end this way!
[deleted] ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:14:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thinking of your life as a story is actually a really great way to contextualise the ups and downs of your life and progress. Whenever I feel down or hopeless about my current circumstances u always remember the trajectory of my life so far and the story it tells about who I am as a person and how great it will feel when I rise out of the rut. It works Evey time.
This has gotten me through many times where I almost quit tobacco
Molerus ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:06:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
'It'll be alright in the end. If it's not alright, it's not the end.'
-John Lennon (possibly)
Corvado ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:53:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read this on a Dove chocolate wrapper I got on Easter and it actually helped me through the day. It wasn't attributed to John Lennon though, just some lady who sent it to Dove.
This reminds me of playing prince and Persia and whenever you die the voiceover goes โthis is not how the story was supposed to endโ and you go back to your last save.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:57:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nobody is stopping you but yourself, BUT, instead of ending your story, you can also change it, add in a major plot twist by leaving all behind and go on a backpacking trip, or volunteering somewhere abroad, to just name something that changed my life into something worth living.
It's your story, you don't have to justify your choices to anyone, and anyone who does not support you, is not worth your time. Those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter.
Obviously some judgment necessary but this mentality can actually do harm if youโre unwilling to accept failing. Sometimes you need to fail to move on
I went to culinary school a few years ago and I worked a placement at a restaurant that I swear almost killed me. Working from 6am till 1pm, driving 30 minutes home, eating for the first time that day and getting into bed at 2am only to get back up at 5am and do it all over again. This was my life 6days a week for 3 months. I was so tired that I cried myself to sleep most nights and usually had a few cries at work in the walk in during the day too. I was busting my ass daily too my absolute limit.
The only thing that got me through those 3 months was promising myself that if I wanted to quit, I would ONLY do it first thing in the morning before shift starts. And somehow every morning when I got to work, the previous day didn't feel that bad and I had a little strength to get started and somehow keep going. In the mornings things never seemed as bad as at the end of the day.
Always sleep on a big decision - sometimes life seems a little less dark in the morning.
Yeah, but that's also how you end up looking back on the last 6 years thinking, "man, I still hate this and I just wasted 6 years trying to tough it out"
On the other hand, this can neither be proven or disproven.
1) At any given point, you can always say, "there's more to the story".
2) anyone who eventually quits will always say, "it was terrible, but the experience led me to be who I am today", because... well, we all want to think things aren't for waste, so at least we got experience out of it. The same applies for the quitters. otherwise, too much cognitive dissonance.
and
3) No one can ever live two lives, so it's not like anyone can say it really would have been better the "other way".... so we're back to #2.
etmhpe ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:09:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
or you might quit and the next thing you try is the thing you were always meant to do
Without un-collapsing the chain of 27 (currently) replies to your comment, Iโm just gonna assume that at least one of them is โdonโt let your dreams be dreams!โ
If you feel like quitting then just tell yourself that the story doesn't end this way. Sounds cliche, but you decide when your story ends when you stop trying. You may fail, but you will not fail today. Don't let the story end this way.
Nah. Thatโs desperation talking. Iโve heard that voice. Now I tell that voice to fuck off. Antidepressants, therapy, something outside myself to live for all helped. But what really did is it the idea that the timeline canโt end that way. Iโm the protagonist, goddammit. I deserve better than that shit. So I keep putting one foot in front of the other until I donโt see shit anymore. Some of those slogs took years.
EWVGL ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 13:44:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reminds me of this line from The English Patient:
I once traveled with a guide who was taking me to Faya. He didn't speak for nine hours. At the end of it, he pointed to the horizon and said, "Faya!" That was a good day.
leintic ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:03:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it makes you feel better I worked at a place for 8 years and still don't know my bosses name
[deleted] ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 04:07:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
duaneap ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:45:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dunno the whole โcrying is reserved for funerals and the Grand Canyonโ thing is like some bullshit my fucking asshole uncle would say to me when I was 8 and broke my finger. Ronโs idea of manliness was fairly archaic.
Of course it was but he had a point. If you let yourself get too worked up about small things you'll stress yourself out. He didn't say crying is unacceptable, he said it's reserved for things that he deems momentous enough to illicit tears.
duaneap ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:48:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That was not his point, youโre reaching a lot with that interpretation considering thatโs not what he actually said. Ron is an old school macho man, Offerman (who I actually think is a great dude) has said in plenty of interviews that he and Ron would disagree on many things and would only really get along over outdoor activities.
I remind myself of this line CONSTANTLY!! I am the type of person, while cleaning, who will pick up one item to put it where it goes in the other room, then, while walking up the stairs, will see that the little stair mats are crooked on a few of the stairs, and struggle to straighten them while holding the first thing that hasn't been put back yet.
I consciously stop myself, sometimes saying out loud "One thing. ONE thing," and then I'm able to focus and remind myself to put the first thing away, and THEN come back to the stairs, and to put blinders on the other little things that I notice in between those two things, too, lol.
FML I feel personally attacked and have the same middle middle class issues I grew up watching and laughing about because my parents had the same problems. This show has become my life for better and worse.
I'm the type of person who goes to put something away in one room, and then start cleaning that room until I find something that belongs in a different room, then I take that item to its room and then I clean that room. So, I clean the whole house in a matter of about 4 and half hours. But, it's not half assing.
And then someone complains that you're not cleaning stuff and just walking past it. -_-
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:53:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I pickup a thing to go elsewhere. Then another thing to go else elsewhere. And another. As I head to elsewhere I drop off things and pick up things. Then I get to elsewhere and I drop off the thing and have other things in my hand and no recollection of where I grabbed them or where they were destined. So I have to backtrack until some thing looks familiar then start the process over again.
I have a container handy when cleaning to put all my 'migrated' items into. That way I clean a room and then walk around afterwards with my migration box and put all those items where they belong.
Wow. I've followed this advice for years now. Well, at least been conscious of my efforts. But I'd never thought to apply it to something g as small as cleaning! I do the same thing you did with the mats, constantly holding something in one hand whilst attempting to fix another thing because I just happened to see it. Thanks!
However, I recently heard this piece of advice: โanything worth doing is worth doing half-assed.โ
I have depression and this has helped me immensely on my worst days. There is a lot of stuff worth doing, but I just donโt have the energy or motivation for it. But I can half-ass it and still feel like Iโve accomplished something.
Runs4Rum ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:54:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Fuck it, that'll do" is my motto when it comes to half-assing housework. It's still better than it was before. Depression is exhausting - give yourself whatever victories you can.
true, I find this a MUCH MORE sound advice than the original.
I think it's because the scenario contemplated in this one is much more likely than the one in the original. that scenario where you really don't want to do anything at all, but have time to do so, as opposed to only having time to do 1 thing.
Gishnu ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:57:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup, as good as the other one sounds, it's bad advice.
Iโd heard โAnything worth doing is worth doing poorlyโ, and on days when itโs Hard to do anything at all that advice had been so motivating. Effort takes energy and when you donโt have it the things you may do may not be pretty but at least theyโre off the list!
On the flip side, one of the most important lessons I learned is that itโs okay not to give 100% on everything I do. I used to put things off if I wasnโt prepared to complete them perfectly (like organizing all my crap after a move), or I would shoulder enormous anxiety if the task was unavoidable (school work). But itโs okay to operate at 80%, hell even 50% as long as the job gets done. Itโs better to do it halfway than not at all.
โJack of all trades, master of none, is oft times better than master of one.โ
Well. That doesnโt work so good with career things, but it is important to know how to do a lot of basics.
I.e. Learn how to change and tire and your oil.
Learn how to basic troubleshoot your computer.
Learn how to snake a drain.
Learn how to swallow your pride.
It seems silly, but will save you a lot of money in the long run.
A reasonable motto. If you grab your girlโs ass with two hands there are two happy people. If you grab two asses with one hand each, there are about to be 3 unhappy people.
As someone with chronic illness I like the variant, โAnything worth doing is worth doing badly.โ In to much pain to take a shower, try just washing your face; too tired to make that sandwich just eat the pieces separately. This also works for overachievers who get to overwhelmed due to the need to make things perfect.
I frequently remind my students that they canโt really multitask. Like, you canโt be having a conversation about your friends via text AND reading a story (in another language, no less) at the same time.
I read an essay about business management, it was aimed at startups but really it's more general than that.
tl;dr: The biggest obstacle to getting projects finished is starting new ones. The more projects you start the slower you will finish them.
You'll notice highly ineffective people have dozens of unfinished to abandoned projects going all at once. And they spend 90% of their time trying to figure out which one is more important. Effective people will have like three tasks total.
"I'll have you know I've half assed my whole life up until this moment. but now I'm pissed, and you're going to find out what quadruple assing whooping your ass looks like"
"I used to work in a sheet metal factory, but then a job came along at the tannery. The hours were better and I would get paid. Also, I had the chance to work with leather both before and after it was on the cow which had always been a dream of mine. I didn't want to give up my sheet metal job so I tried doing both jobs, and finish middle school. I was 11 years old.
The point is, I was so I tired I tried to puncture an 8 gauge aluminum foil with a leather awl... Hahahahhahaah ๐๐๐
I learned a lesson. Never half ass two things. Whole ass one thing."
But if you absolutely have to do a thing that you know youre going to half ass, its better to try and do a half assed job than nothing at all.
I learned this especially helps with people with depression who have trouble with cleaning/eating/self care/working out/etc.
Kind of the opposite, anything worth doing is worth half assing. Brushing your teeth for 30 seconds instead of 2 minutes. Don't want to go to the gym do some push ups and sit ups.
Not necessarily. There's the 20-80 rule which means in 20% of your time, you will achieve 80% of the result. That means if you have to juggle multiple tasks, it's best to spend 20% of your total time on all the tasks individually. You won't get a superb result that way, but it will be better than spending all your time and effort on one task.
It's worth pointing out though, that even though you are whole assing one thing oh, don't expect it to be perfect. Be okay with something you pour yourself into having flaws.
zerohm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:55:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the military, a Colonel once told me, "the eagle that chases 2 rabbits catches none." I use it as motivation to finish a project instead of start a new one. :P
It worked great for me since I was little. One tiny problem though, now the world expects me to whole ass two things and I have no idea how to do that. Meanwhile, everyone else who half assed two things, just needs to get better at those two things, while I need to learn something from the ground up. I'm typing this for all the younger redditors (I'm only 23, but I fucked up early). Make your mistakes. Learn from them. Don't take older people's wisdom before you can understand it and understand why it be like it do. Have someone tell you the right way, then do it how you were going to anyway and see exactly how it goes wrong. It was my life's mission to do everything right, to not make mistakes. Now I don't know how to deal with mistakes.
What I did by just following the great advice I received was like someone who constantly disinfects his room. Clean is better than dirty right? Well is better than sick, right? And he never got sick in his life. Life was good. He might have even looked down on all the peasants with their fevers and diarrhea that he was comfortably above. Maybe he even took pride in how he did it himself, not being some sheltered mama's boy. But one day he has to go into the real world and it's impossible to sanitise an entire planet. Everyone else knows how to deal with sickness, but this guy gets ravaged by disease like a native American facing Europeans in the 16th century.
I don't know how to adapt to problems because I either ignored or crushed any problem small enough to do so. Now that the problems are too big to ignore or crush, I don't have any experience with actually dealing with problems to do anything effective about them. It's like suddenly everything is like banging my head against a wall. Well, not fun things, but anything I might be able to make a living off of that won't disappoint my parents. So basically any intellectual endeavour.
I don't know. Maybe change course (I'm in college btw), maybe give up and be a leech on society. I have the option of moving to America and being a landlord using my parents' money (and having that backup makes my problems feel less valid) but I don't want to be useless, but I don't have any skills or abilities to live a life I can be proud of. If I could do anything I wanted, I'd go to trade school or something, but if I did, I still wouldn't deserve any of the cool stuff I'd have in my life. It would all have come from my parents.
I suffered severe insomnia for years. Someone told me I should get up an hour earlier, go for a 30 minute run in the morning, then do yoga for 15 minutes before showering and getting ready for work. Seemed ridiculous, but I decided to try it for a month.
Haven't suffered insomnia since. Have way more energy, sleep better, feel better. It's amazing.
huxysmom ยท 126 points ยท Posted at 04:42:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I went to a sleep doctor today.
He gave me the following advice to start improving my sleep habits:
1.) Donโt go to bed unless you are tired. Donโt set a specific time in which you need to go. Doesnโt matter if its 1 am, etc.
2.) If you havenโt fallen asleep within 20 minutes of being in bed. Get out, go to another room, and read or clean or do something else until you are tired.
3.) Wake up at the same time every single day. Doesnโt matter the day or the plans. Same time.
4.) Within 30 minutes of waking up, go outside without sunglasses for 30 minutes. (If you live in a place with minimal light, you can get a light box.) My dog is going to be super stoked on this.
He also gave some other advice but I wanted to keep this somewhat short.
Day 1 for me is tomorrow.
I hope this can help others!!!
โโโ
Additional instructions in no particular order:
Your bed is only for two things, sleep and sex. Keep it that way. This means when you wake up in the morning, get out of bed. Donโt chill and โwake upโ or read the morning news. Donโt get in bed before itโs time to sleep to do work or read.
Only take naps between 12 pm and 2 pm. Try to limit them to 40 minutes. Set an alarm to get yourself up.
If you wake up in the middle of the night and canโt go back to sleep within 20 minutes, same as above, get out of bed and do something until youโre tired.
Pick up blue light blocking sunglasses. At the very least, put them on when you wake up in the middle of the night and canโt fall back asleep, regardless of activity. Ideally, wear them an hour or two before bed especially if youโre watching TV or on the computer.
You can order custom frames (with or without prescription) from a retailer and it will be $300-400 US or you can find whatever style without prescription for $40-$50 US.
Try to avoid eating or drinking before bed.
I donโt drink caffeine, I am overly active with exercise, and I donโt keep screens in my bedroom. We didnโt touch on these topics as it doesnโt apply to me.
For me in particular, I struggle with sleep due to several factors such as ADHD, bladder urgency, and nightmares. We are ruling out sleep apnea. Based on my history, itโs highly unlikely I have it but we want to be sure I donโt.
The whole process is designed to learn positive sleep behavior. I am on short term prescription anti-anxiety meds to aid sleep. The goal is to get me off those, find the root of my issues, and correct.
Under his practice he is not opposed to supplements or prescriptions, however he wants to follow a process that corrects behavior first before medication. In his professional opinion he does not feel medicated sleep is as beneficial for the body, particularly because the majority of any prescription drug used for sleep causes memory loss. Behavior changes are much more difficult but are better for your health long term!
For my case specifically, weโre trying to avoid medication for the nightmares but realize it may be necessary. The bladder issues just throw another obstacle in the sleep process.
Good luck everyone!!
Edit: Added more instructions from doctor and information about my sleep issues
I have class at 9am everyday and used to wake up at 8 and always feel tired. I changed it to waking up at 7 and going for an hour run or 7 miles whatever comes first and when i wake up in the morning i feel energized and ready for the day regardless of how much sleep i got the night before.
Iโm taking my 30 minute walk and then I will edit the most with more of the instructions/tips he provided.
Of course itโs raining...
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:43:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is so much better advice than "go to bed at the same time every night". I just can't do that. If i realise sleep isn't imminent i get up and have a potter around, maybe watch slightly more TV, maybe read more of my book, and return back to bed when i am ready.
My ability to fall asleep has improved significantly.
Waanie ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 11:03:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Getting up at the same time every morning" is way more useful for me as well. It is self-limiting, in the sense that you are tired and want to go to bed early if you got a couple of short nights as well.
I work essentially a random mixture of early/mid/late shifts, different shift lengths, different days off each week... no wonder I'm so tired all the time, my sleep pattern is completely fucked and I wouldn't be able to follow any of these rules around my current schedule... I need a new job
Beck83 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:32:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt want to harass you but Iโm a freaking insomniac and would love if you could keep me updated on how you go.
No pressure though, wish you all the best!
I can say that I also had terrible insomnia and saw a psychologist who gave me basically the same advice, and it worked very well. Sometimes I let my habits slip and it gets worse again, but I know how to get back to sleeping well which is good
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:44:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then do it over time. For the first two weeks, walk for 20 minutes and jog for 10. Then walk for 15 minutes and jog for 15 minutes. Then walk for 10 minutes and jog for 20 minutes, then jog for 30 minutes until that feels comfortable. Then start increasing the pace of your run until you find a happy medium.
Like most things in life, nothing will be easy or come quickly. But if you have the discipline to work at it, you'll get there and it will feel fucking awesome.
The basic level of fitness should not be 'not being able to run for 30 minutes'.
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:10:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually commented that to joke around, but once again you deliver solid advice. Might try it out ! Thanks
Honestly, as someone that went through it, just google any "couch to 5K" program and follow it. It starts with something like "run 90s, walk 5 minutes" if memory serves.
ovie_a ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:08:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I need to try this. My insomnia is draining my life energies
No idea. Never looked into it. I just assumed a lot of 'insomnia' is really just people not burning enough energy during the day, or not waking up at a time early enough to ensure they are ready to fall asleep at a normal time.
If you have issues sleeping, I'd definitely recommend it, though.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:16:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting up early and going for a run/doing yoga will ensure you fall asleep earlier at night. I used to be the same as you. Could never go to sleep early. Now it feels natural to.
I normally get home from work around 11 or 12 at night and I find myself going to sleep at 4 am and never having time to do things. I wonder what a reasonable time to go to sleep is?
When you're texting/emailing between colleagues, friends, etc. don't put anything you wouldn't say to their face in writing. If you have it in writing they've got something physical they can hold against you or gossip about.
Even if the door is closed, speak quietly if you're going to vent. Your coworkers can probably hear you clear down the hallway if you're bitching after-hours. Take it down to a whisper.
CC your admin on every email asking a professional question to anybody else or in any conversation in which the slightest bit of conflict could arise.
If you don't trust one of your coworkers, don't say a word to them beyond basic greetings. Trust your gut. Sit quietly in the lounge at lunch.
If you think something is wrong, speak up. You probably aren't the only one to notice and your voice does make a difference.
[deleted] ยท 76 points ยท Posted at 06:02:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Talking about conflict with my manager at my last job got me identified as trouble. Everyone else just kept their mouths shut.
If that identifies you as trouble, you're working in a toxic environment. Keeping your mouth shut until things inevitably explode is unhealthy af.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:31:59 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're right but the damage was done by the time I realised. I went from a favourite to enemy over night because I told them about conflict and problems I foresaw the company facing. I was right. A year on they're hitting the exact problems I predicted. Maybe they did too but for whatever reason they disliked me openly talking about it.
The CEO had a verbal tirade about how bad the engineering team was only a few weeks before I left too. I was the only team leader there with a working product on the market too. Really the whole situation was bonkers. They also got angry at the employees who would go to the pub after work to unwind calling us toxic, never asking why we would do this or why we weren't happy. The only thing they did was send down a mole to report back to them. Not kidding either. Super unprofessional company.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:44:28 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks! I'm between that job and my next one now on a 5 week break from working. I needed to reset between. I didn't want to bring my defensive and unhappy mentality from my old job into my new. Also need to undo some burnout. I haven't touched a single line of code in ages and it's refreshing.
I wasnโt a teacher but a para-associate for a while and this still rings true; school faculty tend to be gossipy as hell and word travels fast, this definitely isnโt limited to a couple of schools
It's an odd balance. Some days I hate all my coworkers and other days I hate them slightly less :) In all seriousness, you find a couple of gems who you get close to and it makes the whole environment so much more tolerable. I lucked out and have a great, flexible boss, who gives me the space I need to be productive.
It is, but I love it. When you have so many people that need to work cohesively, things get a little dramatic at times. It's difficult to keep everyone on the same page and happy.
Where are you going for your teacher training? I'm thinking about quitting my job and becoming a teacher. Curious about the whole steps that I need to take.
Even if the door is closed, speak quietly if you're going to vent. Your coworkers can probably hear you clear down the hallway if you're bitching after-hours. Take it down to a whisper.
This, it was at uni, but we were working in a group of 5 in one of the little almost-sound-proof work rooms they have. Another guy was working in an room 2 over. It was a hot day so we all had the doors open. We had a bit of a casual friends group going so one of our guys was burping loudly, why I don't remember, don't think I knew in the first place.
I didn't really bother me so I didn't say anything but the guy two doors over came to ask to stop as it was bothering him. He just asked nicely and wanted to leave when the guy burping said something insulting, I don't remember what exactly. It obviously pissed him off but I could see he was trying to be the bigger man and stayed calm, he said to grow up or something similar and left.
Then after a minute or so had passed burp guy started laying on on the other guy, 'I'm thinking shut up he can hear you the doors are open', and try to make him aware, but he's laying in so hard on the guy with things like 'who the fuck does that asshole think he is', he doesn't see or hear me.
Other guy obviously came back hearing everything and that started a pretty loud argument that took a few teachers to intervene, in the single most childish thing I've seen in university in my time there..
moal09 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 17:37:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't think he cared if the other dude heard him. Not everyone wants to avoid conflict.
I partially disagree, Iโve got a few colleagues and ex colleagues on mine but the only ones on my allowed list for updates are ones that have proven I can trust.
Most colleagues Iโve added/accepted are ones I actually have common interests with which means I sometimes see events etc that interest me that I may not have seen if it wasnโt for them
I donโt want to connect with co-workers outside of work. I want to go to work and then be left alone afterwards. If I want to connect with co-workers, LinkedIn is right there.
I just say โNothing personal, I just donโt mix my work and my social life. Youโre a valued part of my work team.โ
Krypta ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 06:25:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah the good old teacher whisper. Everyone can hear what they're whispering and they know it but they keep doing it anyways
bjoynow ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 13:25:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The CC thing is too much . Everyone will feel like your an asshole for doing this . The email itself is a personal record of conversation. Even managers complain about employees who CC them on everything. That shit is annoying
Chasim ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:10:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not too much especially when it comes to working as an educator of any sorts. I think originally they were talking about CCing on things that SHOULD have your advisor looking over. Like deciding on a learning path for a student with a disability and accommodations required. You would want to discuss this with your team, and ultimately get it finalized by your admin. By CCing your admin it kind of removes the extra work of getting it approved finally. If the admin sees nothing wrong with how whatever is resolved you won't hear anything and proceed as usual, if the admin has an issue you can bet you'll hear from it then some way or another. It's a nice thing to have all parties plus your boss know what's going on in case the parents had an issue down the road. You have no idea how much you have to watch yourself based off parents alone
I beg to differ. Teaching staff is pure drama. Between admin, sped team, gen-ed team, and specialists, I CC everyone that is involved in the issue. That way there's no excuse for not being on the same page.
Had a teacher last year that did drugs and didn't teach. Spoke up about it many times but it took until the end of the semester for her to leave (relatively sure she got deported for theft)
Flextt ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:22:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You would think. Unfortunately it's rarely the case. Or we end up with 1-2 people that can make the entire team of 15 or so that generally works together miserable.
This advice can apply to when texting a girl/guy or anyone you're interested in: text or message them as if all their friends will see it. Cause most likely they'll see it anyway.
Literally don't say anything about anyone at work unless it is to do with your job and do it in a professional manner. Never gossip, gossip will get you sacked like hot shit. Plus if you don't gossip people get to know you don't talk and will actually come to you with the best gossip lol
When you send an mean, there are always the options "to" and "cc" (and sometimes there is "bcc").
The "to" field is meant to be where you put the email address of the intended recipient. Normally this is who you would want to answer your email, for example.
The "cc" (carbon copy) field is where you can put an email address if you just want them to have a copy of your email. Perhaps it's for their records, or they just want to have some oversight on the email your sending.
The "bcc" (blind carbon copy) field is like the cc field, but the recipient (the to field people) cant see who you bcc in an email.
When you write an email there's a recipient line, a cc line (means the recipient can see who you sent copies of the email to), and a bcc line (means the recipient cannot see who you sent copies of the email to).
CCing those that are involved in the issue helps ensure everybody is on the same page.
From a youtube video dictated by a heavily accented doctor: Unclog your nose by sitting up straight, holding your breath and tapping your nose, untapping and breathing in to about 80% of what you'd normally breathe in, exhale, and repeat for a period of about 40 seconds to a minute. The point is to get a response to where your body almost feels like it's drowning. It's tough but it clears your sniffles right up for a long while and works 90% of the time.
Then I went on to suggest it to so many people but they won't believe me or try it even if they're desperate.
EDIT: My native spanish was showing through. Used a false cognate. What I meant by "Tapping" was "tapar" which means to cover.
I do remember being at a friends place and they got super trashed while playing. One dude fell asleep under the table, but he did so with his next moves in mind.
So the game proceeded and the night wound down. His roommate tells him people are leaving and its time to move to his bed.
"SHUT UP AND SACRIFICE TWO CREATURES!" from his sleep.
Pretty much the only thing I remember of the game.
Try laying/lying(?) in bed on your side with the "open" side down and the blocked side up. Move your head up, so away from the bed, a couple of centimeters. Tap on your clogged side of the nose, just on the egde between the hard and the soft part. After a while the "clog" starts kind of moving to the other side. Stop before the clog is stuck in the other side, stop when it is kind of in the middle, so it is not annoying. Immediately sit upright.
Maybe that works?
0Nyxee ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:19:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh wow thanks for that and here I was breathing and tapping my nose like a maniac. This makes much more sense and looks much less idiotic than my interpretation.
Thanks for sharing, I was curious about the video. Unfortunately that did not work at all for me. My left was totally blocked now theyre both totally blocked.
A suggestion: go ahead and change it in your post, then use your "EDIT" comment to say you changed it. That way people won't be confused reading through it the first time.
There's an easier/faster/more reliable way to get this result.
simply exhale all of the air in your lungs as far as possible. Empty empty empty.
Then plug your nose tight. You can just pinch with your fingers, ala cannon ball.
While continuing to hold your nose, move your eyes up as far as you can towards the ceiling and hold for 2 seconds, then move your eyes and head down to floor and hold for 2 seconds, repeat. Looking up and hold, looking down and hold. Repeat this up-and-down process for as long as you can (you look funny doing it, so maybe do it in private)
When you think you can take no more, release the grip on your nose, take a deep breath in through the mouth, and on the exhale blow your nose.
this provides temporary relief I usually find for 15 to 30 minutes, but then I can simply repeat the process.
Just make sure to use distilled water to avoid brain parasites.
brad218 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:53:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
More prevalent in warm areas with stagnate water reservoirs.
jansskon ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:21:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In a similar vein. If you have a stitch, lie as flat as you can (doesnโt really need to be perfectly flat but it works best the flatter you are). Then pull your knee up on the side you have a stitch. Then hug your calf so your knee and thigh are pressed against your rib whilst your other leg is out straight and hold for 11-30 secs. Should clear up your stitch. Works around 80% of the times Iโve tried it. Yet no one Iโve told it to will do it. They can sit in pain then I guess
No idea, I saw it on an episode of Brainiac (I think it was that or it couldโve been Mythbusters) and I didnโt believe it so the next time I got a stitch I tried it and it worked, but I canโt remember if the show explained why it does.
I do not need to give definition to clear up a misunderstanding of supposedly interchangeable words. All I need to do is give a distinguishing feature of one or the other. A cramp involves muscle spasms. Let me spell it out to you now. The obvious implication is that stitches do not. I am not trying to show you what one or the other is, but show their difference and thus show they are not the same or interchangeable. Nonetheless, here are the definitions:
Cramp - painful involuntary contraction of a muscle or muscles, typically caused by fatigue or strain
Stitch - a sudden sharp pain in the side of the body, caused by strenuous exercise
There they are defined differently, they are not interchangeable and I can distinguish between them by noting the involvement of muscle contractions.
Yeah i hate this. It makes a reddit thread turn into facebook where many of the comments are just people saying "following" or tagging their friend. It's annoying and fills a thread with useless comments.
Think about how awful reddit would be if everyone did this instead of using the more convenient saving feature or hitting share and shooting it thru a pm to their friend
Imagine reddit turns into a place where people that aren't as experienced or unaware of a feature are chastised for their lack of knowledge... there is also a hide feature to hide those atrocities you speak of
As opposed to ... replies somewhere in your extensive backlog of comments that are somehow intended to "save" them? That you're still never gonna get back to, because it's impossible to locate them?
I was laughing so hard once I read your note, because I was sitting there tapping my nose! That's what I get for not reading all the way through before starting, lol
Spax_ ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:26:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An easier method is to take a mouthful of water and hold it in your mouth then try to breathe through your blocked nose. It should just clear.
Similar to a (probably dangerous, I dunno, not a doctor) method I used where I would just cover my mouth with my hand and try to suck in my hand like I was suffocating until my nose/sinuses eventually made a high pitched suction noise and suddenly I can breathe through my nose again.
No, it's like inside my face - around my cheeks and the bridge of my nose, almost feels like its echoing through my cheeks into my ear.
It happens sometimes even if I don't do my suffocation method, On the last few days of a bad head cold If I bend over or move my head quickly my sinuses make this "pffffffft" noise, like slowly opening a bottle of soda (only its a suction noise, not pressure escaping), and I can feel my sinuses draining and opening, and I can breathe easy for a while.
I do have chronic post-nasal drip so sometimes I get the sensation right at the top of my mouth but that's only when I blow my nose really hard and I also have a phlegmy throat.
Also sometimes I feel congested in my nose but i'm not congested, i'm mechanically blocked by what I describe as "a collapsed passage", I usually insert my pinky finger into my nostrils, and press on what I assume is a nasal turbinate to push it outwards, It's usually very floppy and pushing on my septum, I press it outwards and it makes a pop noise and feels more secure/firm, and my nasal passage is open again for a few hours to a few days. I have a connective tissue disorder and my GP joked that "even your nose subluxates" but obviously that's not what's actually happening, My CTD specialist said it's probably related to floppy collagen structures in the nasal passage being made apparent by inflammation from mast cell allergies, I need to see an ENT but I have so many other health stuff going on because of the CTD that I've been told to wait until other stuff is sorted before adding another specialist into the mix.
Ah okay, I thought you had a hole in the roof of your mouth that leads to your nasal passages like I do. Apparently it causes your nose to be normally stuffy, and it only clears out if the tube clears out, when it's clear it makes a high pitch sound when I put suction in my mouth.
Also that CTD sounds like it sucks hope you're able to get your health stuff sorted out.
Iโm sitting on the front porch reading this and tapping my nose... neighbors walking dog are looking at me strangely... I am now in the bathroom tapping... my cats are staring at me... MAKE IT STOP!!!
This does actually work. I had sinus infections 1-2 times a year my whole life until I learned this method. The method I learned was this:
-Breathe out all air out through your nose.
-Hold your nose closed with your fingers or just don't breathe in for as long as you can possibly stand it.
-Once you can't hold your breath out anymore very slowly breathe in through your mouth.
And yes, it kind of feels like you are drowning... this tricks your nose into clearing up because your body believes it needs more air and opens your airways. It works for a while, usually about half an hour to and hour, and then you can repeat. The trick is to not breathe in too much through your nose. Breathe out fully and breathe in slowly and shallowly.
If your nose is extremely clogged and you want to sleep you can try this method and then plug your nose with your fingers and try to suck your snot down your throat or blow it out. Sounds gross, but it always works for me. Haven't had a sinus infection in YEARS now.
This sounds like pretending youโre drowning without the adrenaline rush. With that in mind, what works for me is to get caught off guard such as called on in a meeting when Iโm not paying attention. The sudden burst of panic clears my sinuses immediately. Too bad I canโt plan this.
Pull your earlobes laterally and slightly downward which may take some figuring out for the proper angle. My left and right ear are different I've come to notice
Open your mouth as wide as you can and hold for about 20 seconds.
Close your mouth but force and exaggerated underbite and hold for about 20 seconds.
Repeat the process above until you literally feel your eustachian tubes drain and your sinuses (most noticeably all but the frontal sinus for me, which is the set between your eye brows)
The above was suggested by someone with decent production value on YouTube who claimed to be a doctor. What I've noticed after and on my own is that if I pull those angles that work just hard enough, there is a noticeable crack/pop that is distinctly different from the feeling of "popping" your ears. When I do this, it bypasses the need for doing the mouth thing from above for extended periods of time. I crack each side separately, then maybe 20 seconds later I start to feel my sinuses drain to my throat and my ears feel much better.
I am sure I read a story where it said you just need to hold your breathe and your body will react by clearing your nose, the tapping may not be needed.
I think the doctor was explaining Pranayama which is a breathing exercise in Yoga. As a lot of you are confused I have attached a link - https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=395ZloN4Rr8
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:01:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you have advice for fluid behind the eardrum? Cuz it seems I probably have that rn. Ear's been ringing for days and it started poping(which is a good sign but yaknow more advice is nice)
you're a lifesaver. I woke up just now not able to breathe thru my nose, saw this, tried it and it worked instantly. now I'll always try this whenever I'm sick or stuffed up! thanks, friend.
Nug_Pug ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:06:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have super bad allergies and I was super lucky to figure this out on my own and since then I've told people this same trick
In relation to the nose and sinus, if youโre feeling the need to sneeze but youโre in a place where sneezing would be inconvenient, take your tongue and press it against the roof of your mouth very hard. The feeling of having to sneeze will go away 100$% of the time.
You're literally better off than every roommate I've ever had. Things have places they go, not just wherever it was used last. It's such a simple concept to keeping a space tidy.
I had a flatmate who liked to drink 6 beers every night while we're all on the couch eating dinner, watching tv/movies. He would slam his empty bottle down on the coffee table, get up, walk to the kitchen, grab a beer, come back and sit down. We'd have 6 bottles on the coffee table every single night/morning. Apparently it's inappropriate to suggest he carries the empty bottle with him to the kitchen to chuck it in the bin that was there, practically next to the fridge.
Itโs also fun to collect empty beer bottles tbh. However after a certain point(I.e. he table becoming crowded it becomes ridiculous)
rihanoa ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 04:52:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Assuming he at least takes care of them at the end of the night, I think youโre being a little too nit picky. To be fair itโs a lot easier to keep track of how many youโve had (especially after youโve had a few) if the empties are staring you in the face.
Counting drinks wasn't an issue as he only bought a 6-pack per day because was an alcoholic and didn't trust himself to stop at 6 even though it's cheaper to buy a carton. And no, the bottles were sometimes left until the following evening... which stank because he always left the last few sips in the bottom as didn't like drinking the "dregs" - in a commercial beer without any dregs. Is it really "nit picky" to ask someone to throw out their rubbish when they're on the way to the room with the bin in it? This was every single day when we all had day jobs and girlfriends that might come over unexpectedly in the evening. Anyway, that was over a decade ago so thankfully I don't have to live with someone like that again.
My roommate is extremely clean, I probably drive him nuts...our common area is kept neat, but my room is a pit. At least it's contained and not on a shared table. There's 3 old beer bottles right now, but it's in my room where I can have depression and he doesn't have to see it.
Yeah we never shared a bedroom (3 bdrm townhouse) so he could keep it as messy or as clean as he liked. I didn't think it was too much to ask to at least keep the common areas somewhat presentable. I mean 3 dudes living in a place is asking for trouble, but I just wanted it to not smell like rotten food, stale beer, or stinky socks haha
I guess I just prefer to be an efficient lazy person.
dis_bean ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:23:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm a very lazy person, so I like efficiency. I like a clean house so that I know where things are and am not scrambling to find stuff. Plus small time invested upfront leaves more time later for laziness (sleep).
jpark28 ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 02:48:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a roommate who would leave everything exactly where it was when he finished using it.
At one point he finished using the vacuum in the kitchen and literally just left it in the middle of the kitchen. That was also probably the only time he ever vacuumed.
a9a1m8 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:42:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think you're in my house right now...
There's been a vacuum sitting in the kitchen, plugged in right next to the table because he didn't put it back since Saturday.
You could always start taking selfies with said items and tagging them on the item on Facebook, too.
โHaha so-and-so just left the vacuum in the middle of the kitchen again and left. What a goofball!โ
โThis guy keeps forgetting his empty beer bottles in the living room each time he goes to get more from the fridge...and the trash/recycle bin is right next to the fridge!! Lmao heโs so silly...Update: He fell asleep, ate and went to work, completely forgetting theyโre still on the table. Someone had one too many hahaโ
Sweeping for me just throws sand and dirt everywhere you sweep, youll never get it all. A vacuum on the other hand, well its better. Not all vacuums are big and clunky, they make them pretty small now. Try using a small vacuum on hardwood/tile and then try to sweep. You'll find that our way is better, faster, and more effective.
My wife always says โeverything has its placeโ and I guess if it doesnโt than itโs not something you really need. Iโve learned to understand what that means and everything I like or cherish or want to keep quickly finds a permanent spot to live when itโs not being used.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It may seem simple but isn't always to people with depression and executive functioning issues, of which I have both.
I'm working on being better, but being around roommates who get upset because there are a couple of plates on the counter when they don't even bother cleaning up the disgusting mess they make of the stove and sink doesn't help me get my head into a place where I can get better.
Wait is this a thing? I have semi controlled depression and i think maybe add. Its not that I'm lazy and don't put stuff away, its that I literally forget about it as soon as I'm done. My mind is already racing to the next thing. That's if i even finish the one thing. It is so incredibly frustrating to me and has greatly affected my quality of life.
Yeah, I've heard people with depression, anxiety, and executive functioning issues alike talk about it and it resonates with me. But it's so hard to explain to other people that I'm not just lazy, it's that for some reason these simple tasks can drain me of energy that I'm already low on.
By the same token, if you are always using the same thing in one place but store it in another consider finding a way to store it close by that place in a tidy way.
This also applies to helping others become tidy people... If you provide them an easy way to do something and be clean they are much more likely to take advantage.
My current roommate drinks close to 10 cans of orange crush a day. He never throws them out. When he's done he just places them on the closest flat surface, even if they still have liquid in them.
He even puts them on the stove. Like, walk literally 5 paces to the recycling bin.
This is probably the biggest argument I have with my wife. She NEVER cleans up after she's done pretty much anything. I end up doing it because otherwise I get anxiety. Then she claims that the kitchen (or wherever else) is clean and to go look. I'm like...fucking really BRO???
Her not cleaning is the reason I don't want her to cook. If you're gonna do something, do it right and not such that the work you're doing creates more work for others. When I cook, I put everything back and clean what I can. When she cooks, pots stay dirty for days because she claims she's letting them soak to clean easier later. One time, I shit you not, a pot was soaking for a fucking month. I just left it there to see when it would actually get cleaned, before I caved.
Things have places they go, not just wherever it was used last.
Please tell this to one of my roommates. He leaves his shit everywhere and doesnโt pick up after himself. Just this morning there were 3 empty beer cans on the counter right next to the trash can. Like within 1 feet of it.....
I do this because I naturally prefer clean spaces but also because Iโve worked in so many restaurants and bars. When Iโm at work, I pick up glasses on the way to get an order, and pick up glasses on my way back to the POS to put in the order. I canโt stand still anyway, might as well move my body and have a spotless section!
Random question, do you also call your Point of Sale a piece of shit? Cause ever since I was introduced to one that's all I can ever think of when it's mentioned lol
Or Iโve just used too many in my life...I used to call myself the โPOS Whispererโ because I hated asking managers to do shit for me, so I figured out backwards ways around the system. I make a POS my /bitch/
My husband takes his boots and socks off every day after work. He throws the socks under the table and then goes to use the bathroom where the hamper is. He literally goes straight from the table to the room with the hamper and still leaves his socks under the table every day. I love him dearly but some day I am going to end up ax murdering him.
There's actually I think a two minute rule. It something takes less than two minutes to do, do it now. It'll save an hour down the line somewhere and a lot of stress
My mom does this to a fault. I'll be sitting on the couch with my phone next to me and she'll come try to grab it.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:55:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pro-tip: surprise her by tidying the whole house for Mother's Day! Sounds like she is the type to be over the moon for that work to be done for her. :)
Yes! Sometimes I'll be hanging out in the living room chatting with my mom while visiting, and she will get up like as if she was going use the restroom or something. Comes back a few seconds later and I'll ask where she went so quickly. She's like, "Oh, just went to wipe down the kitchen counter".
Nobody was in the kitchen or using it! Hahahaha. She has been this way my entire life though. Her house is immaculately clean and that's why. If she finds herself bored, she will just get up and clean something. It is amazing. But my parents have never dedicated a day to cleaning each week because of it. They prefer to enjoy their time off.
My last roommate would make huge meals and leave the dishes in the sink. I talked to him NUMEROUS times about cleaning up after himself. When I confronted him about it the final time he said, "I try to get to them within 24 hrs." Well, that's great dude but I have to use the kitchen too and adults should clean up after themselves. I continued to clean up his messes for a month while I found a sublet. He also turned up the heat while I wasn't home and refused to pay extra for the personal space heater he used in his room. Meanwhile, I just bundled up none-the-wiser because I'm trying to budget. It wasn't until I came home early from work one day that I found out he was turning up the heat. Sorry to rant, but fuck him. He was a total douchebag.
This is the best way to do it! Sometimes I put all of the things that need to go upstairs on the first step. My personal rule is โdonโt go upstairs empty handedโ because it keeps everything so clean
teetoc ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:23:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Procrastinate about any and everything but opening mail and throwing crap out.
ran0ma ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:08:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually actively look for things that need to be put in a room Iโm going to. If thereโs a glass on my nightstand and Iโm going to the kitchen, it comes with. If Iโm leaving the kitchen to go to my room, I look around first to see what I can bring with me. It definitely makes a difference!
Putting things back where they belong instead of just dropping them wherever might take you two seconds longer now, but those 2 seconds will be worth it when you're not living in a mess for a week waiting for time to clean.
Changed my life.
ert-iop ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:48:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this, always have full hands. But my wife and children? Never. "I'll put it away later" they say. Two days later muggins here is putting it away. Makes me sooooooooo mad.
My only issue now is dishes because I never cook at home anymore. Yeah I only use like two bowls and three cups a week (I eat at work on weekdays and eat out on Sundays).
I have a habit of keeping a lot of bottles in my room. I maintain it by making sure I bring a couple of bottles downstairs to the recycling each time I go
erikpdx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:28:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! My goal is for my living space is for each room to always be 15 minutes of cleaning away from decent guest readiness. That requires that every thing has a place.
My parents used to do this growing up. I couldn't even read a book and put it down for a minute to grab a drink without finding that the book had been put back in its place.
It seriously grinded my gears to have my stuff moved every damn time. It didn't even make sense a lot of the time, I think my parents are just obsessively putting things where they 'belong'.
My parents were the same way, but I've been out on my own for 10 years now and I see the light. I always considered my parents' home, certain relatives' homes, my SO's parents' home to be "adult-clean". Just a totally different level of clean than my place or the place of other people my age.
But I'm finally getting really into the habit of putting things up immediately and it has totally changed my house. I'm still not on the level of parents, especially since certain things I need out all the time can look out of place (laptop on the table, for example), but I am finally at a point where people can drop in at pretty much any time and it is okay.
Biggest game changer here. Prep your food. Start baking / cooking / boiling? Get on those dishes while it's cooking. Serve up the food, immediately toss leftovers into storage containers before eating and get in soaking those pots and pans. Enjoy the meal, rinse plates immediately before food cakes on, and clean the remaining dishes. Clears up so much more time waiting for things to soak and scrubbing harder.
I've got young kids and grad school after work. This is the only way I can cook now and keep on top of dishes. Slack even one night and I pay for it severely the next day.
[deleted] ยท 370 points ยท Posted at 02:54:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you. at times I think it is the dumbest thing I ever did to go to grad school. But long term it should help me get to the next level I am aiming for. So i tolerate a ton of relatively short term pain for that goal.
zebozebo ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 03:23:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Still making time for Reddit and hockey games. Good on you!!
100% agree, grad school is both the stupidest and smartest thing I've ever done! 373 days, 8 hours, and 3 minutes until I'm done... Not that I'm counting or anything...
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:47:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
INDEED!!
nerbovig ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:30:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I just finished grad school and my youngest turned two. I have a combined two-three hours of me time each week now. Relatively speaking, it's amazing. You'll get there soon!
I've got one toddler, a small house, and my husband and I only work slightly more than 40 hours a week. I still can't keep on top of dishes. (Though today I spent an extra half hour picking up the kids from my in-laws with the promise that my husband would start the dishes that piled up while we were sick over the weekend - he did them all. It's amazing how much better that made me feel walking into the house.)
1) chemicals migrate out of plastics. I'd rather they weren't in my food.
2) it's incredibly wasteful and damaging to our planet. Every piece of plastic you buy is going to be around for a long, long time. We really, really need to stop using it for trivial things. Soak that pot, wash it out right after dinner and it'll clean out really easily.
Chicken breast down one side. Split the other side with green beans and cut red potatoes. I drizzle evoo over the potatoes and then use a few packets of the ranch dressing powder onto it all. Cover with foil and cook until appropriate temp.
Honestly how is anyone able to do this? I'm single, no kids, didnt finish college, I work full time and yet I cant muster enough will power to cook a meal most days. The thought of having one kid is a literal nightmare to me
And the unofficial parent of the year award goes to...
bcoug ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:47:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My roommate lets so many things "soak" that don't need to soak. It drives me nuts, especially because most of the dishes are mine, so I end up having to use a different pot/pan than the one I want to use because the one I want is dirty (and I'm stubborn and refuse to wash his dishes). It really just feels like an excuse to not do dishes at that time. Also, he doesn't rinse things before he fills them up with soap and water... what's the point of putting soap and water into a saucy pot when you could rinse most of it out in the first place? AhhhhhhHHH /endrant
I mean, I think in the posted case โsoakingโ a lot of times is more โstopping from dryingโ so itโs still easy to clean off after the meal and so everything can be โsoakedโ. But yeah, it is an easy way of deferring the dishes for later if they arenโt washed after the meal. Roommates are tough to deal with!
bcoug ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:54:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just keep telling myself: 5 more days until he moves out. Then I get 3 whole weeks to live on my own.
Then I move into a house with 3 other people and 4 children.
:D .... D: whelp. Hope you have good ground rules established! Or if your moving back in with family...good luck haha! Transitioning from living on your own back to under someone elseโs rules is tough (if thatโs what it is). But if those are your biggest problems life canโt be too bad!
bcoug ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:59:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Internship in a group home situation! So some shared general rules but hopefully there will be wiggle room. It will be nice because we'll all have the same position so no one person is really "in charge". I would potentially cry if I had to move back in with family right now. Thanks for the well wishes though! :)
When you say group home I think of a halfway house.
bcoug ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:37:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a gated community with homes for children from backgrounds of abuse and neglect. From there, they are either returned to their families if they get their shit together, or are adopted. I will be one of the adults taking care of them.
And filling the fucking sink so full I can't even wash anything in it. Ugh. I actually like doing the dishes, but not if I have to reorganize the kitchen first. My kitchen is tiny already, I don't need that crap clogging up the spot I'm trying to work in.
And of course, once it's in the sink it gets soaked so even if you take it out to make room, you get dirty dishwater all over the fucking place. I may have gotten a bit grouchy about it and said next time anything that's clogging up the sink is not getting washed, it's going in the trashcan and getting replaced.
Portion it out on the plate and put the leftover hot food into an open storage container so that it has time to steam off before getting the lid on and going into the fridge. It can do that while you eat. Cold stuff can stay in the bowl while you eat unless youโre planning to have a really long meal. Then it should go to the fridge.
THIS. I always say Cleaning Dishes is part of Cooking (process). Clean EVERYTHING (you can) before eating - usually the food is too hot at the start anyways. And clean up the dishes straight away after the meal. Unless you burned something or you had been making dough mixture there's no reason to soak your pots/pans/dishes over night - stop lying to urself - life sucks when u wake up and the sink is full with shit.
I def cleats as my food cooks because thereโs that down time where you donโt need to stir or flip, so I clean in between those times.
Cooked yesterday and husband promised heโd do the dishes but I got bored and did them myself. All of the dishes I prepped with were done, it was just the ricer cooker pop, the wok and the cooking utensils that needed washing,
I have to agree to everything you said except soaking a (cast iron) pan right after cooking. If you put cold water in it while it's still hot it might bend the bottom of the pan.
Soak your pan after you have finished eating and it cooled down a bit.
POSVT ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:35:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're a bad guest. Taking <2 min to set dishes in the sink/wipe down pans/utensils saves your host a ton of after dinner work with minimal, if any change in your free food.
Guests help clean after the meal. Not before. Wtf? You're exactly the type I'm talking bout.
POSVT ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:28:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When did I say you should help clean before? Read shit before you post.
Cleaning while you cook, and taking a minute or two to clean after finishing does not require you to do a god damn thing other than wait two minutes for your meal. It's not getting cold, get the fuck over yourself.
I'll say again - you're a bad guest, and I feel bad for anyone who's home you inflict yourself on.
That's a little much, but I agree that the food isn't getting cold that fast, and if someone wanted to speed things up they could help in the prep and cleanup.
Unless you're constantly cooking more than you should this is really bad advice. If you're cooking more than you need then you need to step back and examine what a portion for you or your family members is
Then you're clogging up your fridge space. Add in that 3-4 nights a week and you're most likely wasting a fuck load. Eat what you're going to do. Then put it away. You may not even need storage containers that night
Nah, it's breakfast. Who the hell eats lunch 6 days a week? I got other stuff to do.
Still very stupid to put everything away before you even start eating. It's wasteful and you might just be creating more of a mess than you think you're preventing.
I cook for 3-4 days, just finished Dahl Makhani that I made on Saturday, I know this is considered strange in UK and probably lots of other countries too. But there are dishes that get better being stored for some time, Thai Tom Yum and Russian Schi soup definitely are one of those. And it also saves time and money, large packs are cheaper.
That works as well but we also use the rule โif you make the meal you donโt do the dishesโ it just seems such a obstacle if I made the food to clean them afterwards but nothing if I didnโt make it. Also do it right away or that evening. 3 dishes is easier than 20 that weekend.
My ex always used every single pot and plate cooking one meal and never completed the cleaning. Heโd wash but leave them on the bench, heโd dry but not the big items - I could never understand it. And it would mean Iโd do it because why have clean dishes on the bench?
Then I noticed his sister did it, his brother, older sister etc etc etc (big family) because yes, there was one kid for each job - cooking, washing, drying. So doing all of it like I did seemed like this enormous job.
luzzy91 ยท 350 points ยท Posted at 02:38:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just picture your ex being an old man, scrubbing his dishes and trying to hand them over to his brother who has passed away and imagining his ghost makes him happy, but dishes still never get done.
Yeah, I'd love to do the "you cook, i clean" thing, but I am conscious to use as few dishes as possible, I clean as I cook, and have most of the dishes in the dishwasher and the counters wiped down before we sit down to eat. My bf is like your ex, using every dish, food all over the stove and counters, the kitchen is a crazy mess. Id rather cook AND clean than have to clean after he cooks.
Our arrangement at home was one sibling washed up (this included cleaning down all the work surfaces, hob etc) and the other dried up and put away.
Tbh I just assumed that made sense.
But when I ask my husband to do the washing up he'll literally just wash dishes. And leave the general mess of the kitchen.
Or if he does drying he'll put away obvious things like cutlery and then just leave dishes out.
I'm trying to accommodate the fact we obviously were raised with different ideas of what these tasks means but it's so endlessly frustrating to be 'husband is washing up tonight' then walk into the kitchen to find the dishes washed but everything else dirty.
Or 'he's doing the drying up' but then you down in the morning and everything's been left on the side and needs re washing now.
It took a while to bring him round to the concept of doing it daily - when we first moved in he'd leave it all week then complain about much there was. Made more sense after he mother said they'd had a maid for most of his life...
We have a dishwasher now and when he empties it and doesn't know where something goes he just shoves it in a random cupboard.
I lost a spatula and set of measuring cups for 3 months.
Wait... Why do you need to re-wash dishes if they were left to dry overnight? That's literally how everyone I know does dishes where I live- wash them, put them on a dish rack, put them away when dry (usually the next day).
If they're left on a rack to air dry they should be fine, if they just get left in a random pile then the water pools between them and can get a bit rancid.
My dad has raised with me with an incredible sense of paranoia. Mostly. So I've always just been told they could have got germs on them since they're left exposed. I know by and large this is mostly not a big deal so I don't need 400 comments telling me I'm crazy thanks.
But also legitimately if they're left over night flies etc could have landed on them especially during summer when houses are often open for cooling, I've also traditionally had pets who roam the house and could have stepped on them, licked them etc.
And yeah I know plenty of people see no issues with cats and dogs touching things and don't agree theyre dirty.
But my personal preference is not to put my dinner on a plate my cats arse may or not have been on.
Yeah, dish drainer/rack but usually just loose straight on the bench top. I guess his siblings would be ready with a tea towel so it made sense to him?
There was a lot about him that didnโt make sense.
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:40:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Until 1 person is terrible and uses everything in the kitchen and makes a big mess. There is plenty of time while making food to clean as well for 1 person. It helps drive accountability in both pairs. Whining about too many dishes? Why'd you use 2x the amount of tools than you needed?
CharZero ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 03:07:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is exactly why I prefer to clean up after myself when I cook. I am aware that I use way more utensils and bowls and cutting boards than I should. But I like my cooking style, it works for me, but that means I do the extra clean up required.
There is no need to look like Gordon Ramsey when cooking. Leave stuff on the cutting board. Only bring out a bowl when it is absolutely needed. And for the love of God do not bring out every measuring tool for putting spices/salt into a dish. Use your common sense and taste.
This sounds a lot like my mom and I. She would wash; I would rinse, dry, and put away. Nowadays, I can slowly scrub up a dish and ensure it gets done, but when my wife gets that part of the job, I'm like the Flash.
Only use multiple dishes if itโs for sanitary reasons. But if Iโm cutting for a salad itโs all going into one bowl.
typesett ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 02:34:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I will clean as a I cook even though my wife washes dishes. My reasoning is we always say โI love youโ but do you actually mean it? Do you show it? We say weโd jump in front of a bus for you but would we clean a dish? So I will do nice things for her for no reason
My rule is, โif you cook, you clean.โ But i end up cleaning most of time, no matter who cooks.
I also like to joke, โ look at me, i cook, i clean, and the best part, i dont even say anything about it.โ
Shieya ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 02:34:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My husband and I don't use this rule because it ended up breeding some resentment. I'm very much a "clean as you go" cook who rinses dishes rather than using several different bowls/pots, and he uses a lot of dishes and utensils to cook. So if we followed the rule of "one lesson cooks, the other cleans up" I would almost always end up doing more cleanup. Instead we clean up after ourselves and that pushes us both to be conscientious about how much mess/dishes we're making.
For me I figured out that I absolutely hate having to do dishes before I start cooking, so if I don't clean the pan after I use it, I'll have to clean it before I use it next time. When I decide to start cooking I want to start cooking, damnit. That's been all the motivation I need.
What about when i get home to make dinner and my wife has the sink loaded up with shit but it was empty this morning, maybe a plate or two on the side. It drives me nuts, you cant even wash anything because the pots and pans are full of water, stacked up until they touch the faucet!
I don't even care that there are a lot of dishes to do, I actually like doing them. I just put in my headphones and zone out. But for God's sake, stack the dishes to the right or left of the sink (right in my case, as my drying rack just barely fits on the left side and there's more room for dishes on the right). I don't care about a cup or two, a plate, or some silverware in the sink but when I have to disassemble my entire workload first to even have room to work I get a bit frustrated.
Yeah thatโs annoying. When I brew I do the dishes myself as she never touches them in the first place and I know what needs care and what can be tossed around and I just pop the headphones in and zone out as well.
Oh thereโs limits for things like that but thatโs also when a dishwasher is handy.
technon ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:51:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's why that rule is bad and it shouldn't be used. Cooking and cleaning are so inextricably linked that it's ridiculous to suggest someone should clean the kitchen after someone else made a mess. Different people make different levels of mess when cooking, the cleaner person will just end up hating the messier person.
It makes way more sense to just switch off cooking and cleaning.
Only if someone uses way more dishes than they need. Neither of us do so it works. Never said it was a fix all for everyone.
remlu ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:45:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is totally the wrong way to go. My family used to to this and it turns dishes into a separate chore. The person cooking does the dishes as they cook, wait for something to boil, etc. What you find is that the person cooking dirties a lot less dishes if they are cleaning them. One hour to cook and one hour to clean up miraculously turns into 1.5 hours to do both.
Thatโs just ridiculous in itself. To me it was just always common sense to reuse the dish unless it had raw meat on it.
S100p ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:17:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
100% disagree. Cooks who donโt have to clean up after themselves leave huge messes. Itโs way better to clean as you go. Especially when different people have different cooking/cleaning strategies. If youโre worried about it being fair then simply trade off who cooks.
We've given up on that rule. Somehow I use twice as many dishes and make a bigger mess when cooking than my GF. We've switched to I do the dishes and she does the laundry. I'm okay with this.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:38:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I disagree w this one. Cooking is fun, cleaning is not.
We do the opposite - if you cook you clean. It's your incentive to clean as you go and be efficient. Someone who doesn't have to clean tends to use every bowl.
Works great until the person who's supposed to do the washing up does a few plates and bowls then declares that the rest "has to soak" and leaves it. You tell yourself you're not going to do it and leave the dishes to sit in the sink, a passive aggressive monument to their sloth, until three days later you want to cook something and have to do the dishes. So you fire up the hot water and resign yourself to the task and, right when you've gotten into a dishwashing groove, you hear from the couch "Oh hey, I was just about to do those!"
Then I would ask them to finish the dishes so I can cook them dinner. Otherwise Iโll just make something for myself cause thatโs what dishes are available.
In college my buddies and I had an agreement. If you didnโt do your dishes and they were left for more than 24 hours not cleaned and put away, you could put those dishes on their pillow for them to take care of when they wanted to. Our place ended up being fairly immaculate.
Good plan. My friends dad would wipe the toilet seat with their pillow case f they didnโt wipe up their drips. Theyโd come home to bed and boom face of urine stench. They learned quickly to clean up after themselves after a few times.
โif you make the meal you donโt do the dishesโ
I know this works for some people, but didn't work for me and an ex. He was lazier/had a much less strict demand for cleanliness so it never got done. He'd put it off until later, which turned to tomorrow, which turned to the next night. I'd either have to complain for him to finally do it, or I'd have to do it myself, or I'd have to live with a disgusting kitchen. So it just didn't work.
For my SO and I currently, tag-teaming the cleanup turns a 20 minute task into a 5 minute task. It is a lot less daunting when you can clean an entire kitchen so quickly.
I never understood how people cooked in those teeny tiny kitchens, my family all had big counters and would use every inch of them when baking or canning. Then I learned from a friend that to an extent being able to let your dishes pile up, or even to wash your dishes all at once after you cook, is a privilege. Limited counter space means you physically donโt have room to have everything dirty stacked up at once or everything clean air drying at once. Limited kitchen tools and utensils means you donโt have four different forks or three different bowls or two different pots, and if you are preparing something that requires more than you have, you might even be washing dishes in order to reuse them immediately. Hand drying becomes necessary because things have to be used or put away as soon as theyโre washed. It made me feel better about not currently having a dishwasher. I put a bowl of soapy water in the sink to collect dirty dishes as I go and typically wash them all at the end, myself.
We use both -I clean as I go and then my partner cleans (he rarely cooks but Iโm fine with that since he cleans). He didnโt realise I clean as I go until following a minor tiff I decided to show him how much worse he could have it. The next few days I didnโt clean as I went resulting in triple the dishes. I won that fight.
Smauler ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:53:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I think that's a silly rule. Sometimes I do the meal and dishes, sometimes other people do the meal and dishes.
Sometimes people have been out all day and are proper tired, and you don't mind doing both. Sometimes you've been out all day and would appreciate someone else doing the dishes.
edit : And yes, I have done the meals for my family the last 4 days in a row, and have done the dishes too (though most of the dishes just get put in the dishwasher). This is not torture, it's just a little bit out of your time.
It doesnโt work for everyone but for us it does as itโs just me and my wife and we both work full time so doesnโt matter whoโs more tired for us.
We started with this rule, but I clean as I go, so the actual clean up was quite manageable. My husband dirties more dishes than I would have thought possible. So it never felt like a fair rule so we scrapped it. Now whoever isnโt putting a kid to bed does the kitchen clean up/packs lunches. If the kid is asleep before that is done, the other parent starts to chip. We just generally have a list of what must get done each night, and both work towards that goal.
No no no! In our house, we also have that rule but Iโm about to start a rebellion. I clean while I cook and by the time we eat thereโs basically just the dishes weโre eating off to clean. But when my partner cooks thereโs a billion pots and measuring spoons and bowls and knives and chopping boards and EVERY GODDAMN INGREDIENT we own flamboyantly strewn over every kitchen surface. Things are about to change: you cook, you clean.
Why are people like this? Iโve got so many replies stating someone uses every dish. Iโve only seen two people like this in my life. Itโs just common sense to reuse the dishes.
Yeah I miss having this lol, I usually don't have the energy to cook, if I know I have to do the dishes after. So either I've optimized my cooking to use as little dishes, or I just microwave up some shit.
Iโve been doing this with the wife for over 10 years. It works well. Once in a while, Iโll try to do the dishes while I cook as a โnice thing to doโ, but it has caused me to burn food and/or get dinner on the table late. If you value your meals, focus on cooking - and make the other person clean up.
We do this too, but the difference is that I make sure the dishwasher and the sink are empty before I start cooking and I still try to clean a bit as I go. I canโt stand cooking with dirty dishes piled in the sink. My husband just throws things in the sink as he goes and doesnโt worry about anything. His biggest sin...even if the dishwasher is 90% full, he wonโt start it before he starts cooking. So Iโm left with a dishwasher AND a sink full of dirty dishes. Luckily he works later than me so he only cooks once or twice a week. He is a great cook though (better than me) so I guess it works out.
Edit: I don't think your situation is like this, I just want to share so maybe you don't wind up being awful like my narcissistic mother lol
Yeah, that's nice, until the double standard kicks in. I am 30 and living back with my parents, who seem to be under the impression that they can do whatever they want with dishes (or food) and I'll follow them around and clean it up. Yet, when I cook a meal for everyone, I clean up the whole kitchen and they eat the food. I remind them that growing up, the rule was, whoever cooked didn't wash the dishes, but it was just a farce so my mom didn't have to do everything. Now, she washes her dishes only, and I wash for myself, my dad and my brother, regardless of who cooks.
Wow. I washed the dishes after my mom cooked as my way of thanks for the meal. Then learning to cook from her I realized how much easier it is if you just rinse your measuring cup right away after using it. One less item to wash later and to use the same bowel for plate for prep.
Holy crap, that would not work in our house! It's hard enough to get my daughter to use fewer pots and make less mess when she's cooking. How does cooking one meal take so many dirty areas, utensils, and pots?!!
Our rule is that you cook, clean as you go, and others will set the table, clear the table, and your dishes that you ate from.
Except when every person you've ever dated used a minimum of 20 dishes and pots and pans to cook a single meal. Then they also insist on cooking because that's just how our schedules worked out, and of course they won't rinse them because they cooked, the dishes are my job. I was always left with a million dishes to wash and no help. And somehow on the days when I cooked I was still left with the dishes. Every time.
No, you cook, you clean up after yourself. Or at least be respectful about the number of dishes used and rinse that shit over you're done with it!
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:42:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use the โif you make the meal you donโt do the dishesโ rule even though I live alone.
dx__dt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:06:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Well, looking at this from the viewpoint of an economist: If one of you cooks and the other one does the dishes you run in to the risk of suffering from market failure; i.e. the cook does not bear the external costs of hir choices and isn't incentivized to properly calculate the cost/benefit of hir actions during the cooking process.
Here is a link to a comment about this from economist David Friedman in one of his talks about market failure:
You can still follow that rule. I cook and my partner cleans the dishes as I go. We're in the kitchen together chatting and catching up on the day, the dishes get done, and no one has to eat his cooking!
Passing the task onto someone else is the quickest way for a system to fail. The only thing that is actually an obstacle is all the thinking you do about a thing instead of just doing the nearest work to be done.
I had a friend that would cook for our "movie night" group that would say that all the time. Except he often cooked at my place and made a huge fucking mess every time that would take hours to clean up. I would have to wipe down counters, mop, and run several loads of dishes every fucking time. I eventually talked them into just ordering takeout or eating before they came. Plus everyone was appreciative of the people that cooked but it seemed like they rarely thanked me for cleaning up since I would do it after people would leave or the next day. Sorry, just venting, I hate that fucking rule. People that cook ostensibly enjoy it, I don't know a single person that enjoys doing the dishes.
Thatโs when you move the location or have everyone else help clean up as well. Thatโs just part of being considerate. And using every dish you can just never made sense to me.
For various reasons, my place was the only viable location. Some people tried to help but they kinda half-assed it so I'd still end up doing most of the work. I moved apartments after a few years and used that to say I was pretty burnt out on hosting so my friend that took over my old lease took up the mantle. But soon after a lot of people started getting busy with work, new relationships, etc. We still hang out and get lunch and stuff pretty regularly but that particular tradition has kinda fallen by the wayside.
Pretty much just a stone circle you put in your oven when you preheat it. Cooks the crust like it was in a stone oven. (Side note: you wouldnโt use detergent or dish soap on it as itโs a porous stone and can absorb the suds and flavor your food weird at least for a bit. So no dishwasher for that either.)
Not my experience, had roommates who never did their dishes where as I would always wash mine right away. They always blamed me for never doing dishes. Because they wouldn't see me spending 30 minutes laboring through the overcrowded neglected stinking dish mess they made every week or so because I always washed mine right away.
Glad to be rid of them, gaslighting ass couple who always had eachothers backs and would manipulate like you wouldn't believe. I warned some folks who ended up rooming with them after me, and guess what? Same shit with the dishes lol.
EDIT: OHHH "without" roommates. Your point stands, I misread as with.
Sirrwinn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:40:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I have a roommate and her and I both complete 100% of our own dishes every single day. Never a dish left in the sink after we cook or overnight, or an uncleaned kitchen. Luckily we both are just clean people and are also cousins so itโs been good.
Look for people who have the same living standards as you, it will cause less frustration for both parties.
This exactly. I don't like doing dishes. In fact I dislike it so much I've found ways to make it easier, like rinsing dishes when they are fresh and not dried like concrete.
They say lazy people find a better way. They don't talk about the lazy people who are too lazy to make it easy.
mdp928 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:24:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Somewhere in a thread on here I saw a comment that recommended the same, because 'at some point you're just waiting for the food to cook anyway' and I swear that random little phrase blew my mind. If you make a little game out of speed-cleaning before dinner is ready it feels like it frees up damn near your whole night. Magical.
I try to live by a โtouch it onceโ rule. Instead of changing into pajamas and putting the day clothes on the ground to grab later, place them straight into the laundry bin right then and there. Instead of leaving the trash from lunch on the table, put it straight into the garbage bin. Instead of throwing your coat on the couch after a long day, hang it right on the hanger instead of having to go pick it up later. Saves you so much time taking out the steps in between and just doing it right then and there. Touch it once and youโre done.
The clothes part was hard for me for a long time. Id always think "i cant put this in the dirty bin! Its clean enough to wear again". Honestly the hamper is probably a cleaner spot to keep clothes to wear again than on the floor, where youre walking all over them and kicking them around.
I recently just broke up with my girlfriend and its been a real rough experience. Doing exactly this has made my life just a little easier/less draining.
No. We were both depressed and let the cleaning go undone for way to long. We took turns doing bits and pieces of but many times never finished. It was 50/50. But the first week after we broke up I lived in a shithole because I didnt care.
This works on so many levels. Eating right, working out, cardio, etc. There's a limit in time and energy in a day, but this one is it. It truly is.
It's easier to stay in shape than it is to get in shape.
-Dakia ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:27:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife and I do this, but we also do what we call night jobs. I picked it up from my parents who did the same. No matter how exhausted you are, you both (and I do mean both, not just one) go through the house and pick up anything you can or get backpacks and lunches ready for the morning for 15 minutes. At 15 minutes you stop.
You have to both do it to avoid resentment of one doing all the cleaning, but it also just helps get a start on the morning to come.
Iโve found cooking is so much more enjoyable if I have a completely clean kitchen first. Then I rinse and load the dishwasher with pans as I finish things.
Double sense of accomplishment and bonus points for the pregnant wife not having to clean.
That and if you make something semi regularly stream line the process, reduce dishes ect, I can make fettuccine alfredo with 2 large dishes and 2 utensils, while making the sauce from at home, and I can make the whole thing in 20 minutes or less
I have too much on my mind when I'm cooking so I cook sit down to eat cause I'm tired and then my gran walks in and starts asking me why I didnt clean up and I say that I'm going to but I wanted to eat first and then she cleans it herself and complains about it a week later in a completely separate convo, my grandmas are the worst.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:43:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean as you go and everything in its place has been a staple of mine for a long time.
There's nothing better than serving/eating dinner and only needing to wash the plates afterwards.
Is also very easy to prepare a meal or do any task when everything is in its proper place.
Yes yes yes! I keep a small spray bottle of hydrogen peroxide/Dawn detergent in the shower, and a small grout brush. Little bit, every day. Always clean.
I do the 10 min of cleaning a million times a day with a 3.5 year old. I also always end up with 2 loads of dishes & 2 drying racks every day. Vacuum every other day. Deep cleaning different areas on the weekend when dad is playing with our son.
Part of it is because my son โhelpsโ me and it takes us a lot longer.
bj_good ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:26:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have found the same is true with laundry. Small loads of laundry are very easy to manage and when they come out of the dryer don't take that long to fold or even put away. also, you don't need urgency in getting the laundry done because you're out of shirts or pants or whatever. Makes everything feel easier
bcoug ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:42:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me, I try to do the dishes as I'm cooking, but if they don't all get finished, I have a rule: No going to bed with dishes in the sink. I follow this about 90% of the time. Now I need to adopt this mentality for clothes in my room, because I tend to throw them on my desk if they're clean instead of hanging them back up, then they pile up until I have to spend more time at once putting all of it away. No more going to sleep with clothes not put away!
TELL THIS TO MY WIFE! She makes amazing dinners but I have to clean up twice as long as it takes her to make them. Sometimes I think I would rather just fast than to eat great and have to clean for an hour.
My problem is I time everything to all finish at once. I might be able to clean my cutting board, knife, and a few mise en place bowls, but once the cooking starts everything is in use until I suddenly have 2 pots, 2 sauce pans, a baking sheet, spatula, and 2 spoons all dirty at once.
This is something I learned during my time as a Domino's manager, but it was absolutely one of the hardest things to teach because kids who didn't close didn't see the value in it as they never had to deal with closing super late after doing all the cleaning.
Since then it's become force of habit. I'm really glad this is the top response, it's probably the best lesson you could teach kids.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:57:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh god yes.
It took me 2 weeks of working my butt off to get my house decluttered and tidy and clean after years of just leaving things until they were bad enough to make me actually clean
Now it's so much easier to keep it nice by just having a quick tidy morning and evening and spending 10 minutes each day vacuuming or cleaning the bathroom or kitchen.
Conclusion: my mother was right all along. Much better to do a little every day than leave it and do it all at once
THIS. I just started cooking recently and have always wondered how my parents always have like 30+dishes out after I ate dinner. While I cook, I clean while the food is sitting on the pan and I have nothing else to do (it has only burned once), and when everything is done before I eat I put the last few dishes away or in the dishwasher, and leave the pan to cool. Then when Iโm finished eating I only have one thing left out.
I do the 2 minute rule. If a task or chore will take less than 2 minutes to do, do it now.
Failgan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:23:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I resented my roommates for this one. I'd lived on my own for a bit and got into the habit of cleaning dishes while I cooked, or at least before I ate. It made the kitchen so much more organized.
My roommates would leave dishes in the sink that'd pile up so I couldn't even rinse my stuff off. I'm also a minimalist, trying to use a few dishes as possible, and in contrast they'd pull out half the kitchen to make a sandwich and leave a mess all over the counter space.
I stopped using the kitchen after a month or so...
I never realized just how much time this saves until I started doing it. It takes about 3 seconds to put my dirty clothes in the hamper when I take them off which beats the 20 minutes of attacking the giant pile of dirty clothes every weekend.
Greasy pan? Let it sit and and harden and it will take 20 minutes to clean. Alternatively, wipe it with some paper towels while it's still hot and you'll only need to rinse it with some hot water and soap and it will be ready to go.
I can't eat unless the kitchen is clean, so sometimes this really sucks when the food is ready but I still need to clean the pots and pans and etc. before sitting down to eat. On the bright side, the only cleaning left after eating is just putting the plates in the dishwasher!
Jag94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:38:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I live this mentality, but im in the middle of remodeling my house, and itโs SO difficult to keep things cleaned and organized. Im going mad because of it!
I give you a silver, not because it's advice I live by, but advice by which I try to convince myself everyday to follow & just seem to screw up every time.
A chef trick I still use it to bring the trash bin to you when prepping food instead of moving the waste to the bin. You can also use a small plastic bag, jar or tin that one of your ingredients came in. It keeps your workstation clean while you are using it and prevents making mess elsewhere.
> 10 minutes every day walking through the house picking things up/organizing
Ideally you make this part of your daily routine. I spend 10 minutes as soon as I get home.
THIS! Cleaning as I cook is something I started doing because of my mom and it makes SUCH a difference. No having to do all the dishes and wipe everything down after dinner because 90% of them are already done, it takes like ten minutes afterwards for clean up max!
See, the problem with this is that anything which increases the difficulty of cooking decreases the likelihood that I'll actually bother cooking, and then I just end up stuffing my face with junk food instead while all the "healthy" options I bought rot in the refrigerator.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:27:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Personally I find it easier to cook if you prep and clean as you go. It's less chaotic and organized.
You learn this very quickly if you ever work as a dishwasher. The difference is leaving on time/early or staying 1+ hours late and being super stressed.
Iโve been trying to tell my parents this for years. Theyโre too stubborn to listen. If you get it done as you go, since youโre already up and around, you wonโt have to worry about it afterwards. Then right after you can proceed to relax.
Dammit, I have to wash these dishes before I put them in the dishwasher. Next time Iโm rinsing my dishes after I use them!
-me every day telling blatant lies to myself
teerude ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:20:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was having a conversation with a friend last night. It sucks to both cook and clean (we had a cooking party and it was easy and it was split up). But the lesson that I learned from my dad, if I do it all myself, I will never even start cooking until the sink is filled with dish water
idejmcd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean as you cook I learned working in restaurants. Couldn't be more grateful for that tip, 15 years later
abraders ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 10:54:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty good thank you! It's probably the longest time I've been sober in years. I thought I'd miss it more than I have been. Found myself with more money and time to do things like reading, seeing family and going out for coffee. And the sleep is better!!
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:15:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The energy boost and quality of sleep are the biggest game changers. Even one every so often causes me brain fog for a week or so after until I get back into a rhythm.
I feel bad for the moms out there who are constantly barraged with messages like "Mommy needs her juice!" when talking about wine etc. It's considered not only acceptable, but normal and even entertaining to need alcohol just to get through looking after their kids.
For me, I think there was an underlying depression that contributed to drinking and smoking, so overall it was a good choice for me and allowed me the wherewithal to make choices to benefit my wellbeing. It's definitely something that I researched before jumping into though. Totally understand your point.
I think for my S.O. this would be a good option. For me it's just a good old oral fixation. I'm trying to deal with my overeating habit first and then do something about smoking.
I've found that knitting helps keep me distracted from eating or smoking as much so it's just about baby steps for me.
adab1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:24:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same but over 13 years ago. I've been off cigarettes almost twice as long as I smoked.
Subreddits are amazing for identity change. Humans learn habits through others by osmosis and having hundreds of people in your pocket who also are quitting is such a powerful tool.
There's a guy in that sub who draws a new pokemon on a whiteboard for every day since he quit. Feels like yesterday when he did ivysaur and he is getting close to mewtwo. Best of luck to you when you are ready.
Yeah subreddits are amazing. I'm in r/loseit everyday trying to get to a healthy weight. I think I have to take one step at a time though and losing weight is easier than quitting smoking for me right now. I'll definitely quit soon though. I'm about 30lbs from a healthy BMI and I'll tackle quitting smoking when I hit that goal (or sooner if my bf wants to quit together before then).
I sort of do the opposite. I can't stop for a day, my mind's basically already thinking about how to sabotage my plans for tomorrow so I can consume.
Instead I pretend the stuff doesn't exist anymore. Throw all I have away and when going to the store pretend the section of booze doesn't exist. Even if I get hungry for a drink, I can tell myself 'There is no booze'.
abrads ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:16:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
im at 29 days. i struggled to quit for a long time, could only do a few days or a week tops. then i adopted this mantra and it seems to be working this time around. which, as a bartender, is saying a lot.
I see you getting downvoted, but I agree with you. Surely one beer in the shower at the end of my shift isn't going to kill me, and I enjoy it. Not everyone who drinks is an alcoholic, and not every alcoholic drinks.
If you can't go a day without your beer, that's a problem, and drinking every day is probably not that great for your health. Of course, until it interferes with your life, it's by and large harmless
I like beer, but some days I don't drink it. I like coffee, but some days I dont drink it. I really dont try to overthink these things. If it makes me happy, awesome. If it doesn't, then no thanks. That's why I don't over drink booze. I hate feeling like shit. I also don't over drink coffee because the caffeine makes me feel anxious.
I just had a physical yesterday, and the doc said I'm good to go. So I guess I'm not doing too much damage yet. Time for a shower beer.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:26:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I drink pretty heavily at home in the UK but as soon as I go on holiday I have like, one on each long flight and then one or two to taste local beers.
Not everyone who drinks regularly has a problem. It's bad for our health sure, it can cause weight gain primarily at lower levels of drinking and much worse at higher levels. But the majority of people having a casual drink aren't alcoholics and going cold turkey is not for everyone. It's bad advice. It'd be like telling people to cut out cake permenantly because it's not perfectly healthy, or telling people to cut out hobbies with risks attached. People don't live to live in a perfectly healthy safe bubble. It's fine to accept risk for enjoyment.
Hey man. You mind me using your comment as the cover art for a song that's spewing in my head? Shit you said was hard af, hit me really hard. Was wondering what I could do for pops, this line of thought kicks a train of thought like Hulk kicked it.
If someone has a serious tolerance to alcohol, stopping cold turkey can be fatal. If you think you have a high tolerance (e.g., you can drink a bottle of liquor or a 12 pack in one go by yourself) consider talking to a doctor first.
opie2 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 17:53:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're absolutely right and this needs to be emphasized - it's one of the only substances where sudden withdrawal can be extremely dangerous, and possibly fatal. This happens when there is an actual physical addiction to alcohol, which was not the case for me, but you are right, and it bears repeating.
AA BS. Thatโs no way to live. Youโre not over an addiction doing โone day at a timeโ, youโre still suffering. Years of NA 12-step cult bullshit and I only got clean when I did it by myself- contrary to thier dogma. One day at a time is hell, and not the answer
[deleted] ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 09:35:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saying you'll "never" do something again is the best way to set yourself up for failure. Never within someone's life means that all they have to do is once slip and they're now instantly back in the old mindset they had before they decided to "never" do it again.
The person who changes their mindset over time, gradually, and changes their relationship with the problem to a healthy/healthier one is most likely to actually recover. It's not some looming problem in their life, it's a story they now have about a person they used to be.
There are certain behaviours you need to say "no" to in order to actually change but that's not the same as saying "never". If you're the kind of person who can't stop drinking after the first pint when drinking with a certain group of people that you have no power over then you change your behaviour instead to stop drinking with them. It doesn't mean you can't have a glass of champagne with friends over a celebration. You're welcome not to as well, it's up to you of course, but if you want to be able to be a more flexible person that can enjoy the occasional simple pleasure instead of having the guillotine of your alcoholism hanging over your neck until death then you don't go to AA or cold turkey.
I quit drinkin' and it's been better. I thought I was gonna have a big awful battle with drama and relapses but instead I just stopped and never went back.
I'm extremely proud of you. Wish I knew these words before pops passed away, poor guy could've used it. Pitiful how he went out. You have my support bruv.
arno911 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:29:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't have a friend circle who drinks or smokes coz i distant myself from them just to avoid it and i am down to my little 4 clean ass people group lmao
I was writing my Maths O levels when I see a question my friend and I had done like a couple of times for fun but they changed the numbers a bit. I looked up and across to my friends and we start laughing. Everyone looked at us like we're crazy.
Exactly, I had a professor who stressed the importance of practice problems, assigned specific problems, but told us he didn't collect homework. Exams were basically exactly those problems with one digit changed. He didn't collect homework because he didn't need to. Grades were split between 96 and 60-70. Students went the entire semester without figuring out why they were in the bottom half . . .
FourO40 ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 05:33:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do practice problems in general.
Just reading notes is useful for remembering things but for trying to solve test problems? Nothing beats getting actual repetitions in.
I was a math teacher. I know there is this big "no homework" movement, and I just can't get behind it. Math is about practicing and repetition. Trying to do things with increasingly difficult numbers until you master the concept. Often, there isn't enough class time to do it. But by practicing at night, you learn.
YES! Iโm a tutor, and every time one of my students says something like โI donโt learn anything in that classโ I say โof course you donโt, the lecture is literally the very first step.โ You donโt learn by listening to someone explain something once. Thatโs the introduction. You have to do the work to learn after that. You read the textbook. You follow along with the example problems. You use your notes and your book to work through some practice problems. You ask questions about what you donโt understand. Then you do more practice problems. Repeat until youโve learned it. There are very few things that you can learn, as an absolute beginner, from a 60 minute lecture. You have to do the work.
People seem to have the impression that a teacherโs job is to funnel information directly into a studentโs passive brain. It is not.
You think it's not really going to pay off until one of them turns out to be the extra credit question on the exam!
(Happened to me a couple times in college chemistry classes! I got those bonus points!)
abrads ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:13:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have a physics exam in about 8 days thanks for this
DJSnaek ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:21:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is actually great advice; it gives you an idea of what you do and don't know of the subject, and lots of times where you can read up on those things.
I taught college chemistry classes, and would assign practice problems. I had weekly quizzes, most of those problems came directly from those practice problems.
I'm not a fan of this. There are often benefits to doing things the "hard" way. And others being too lazy/stupid to take the time and figure out how it was done shouldn't be made into your problem.
Well I do like the show (nothing sexual) I thought "hey, the German maus is pretty cool, it also may be considered 'thicc' so what if I put it on a body pillow as a joke" then I thought "hey, I should put ahegao on the tank just because" so I went with that. My favorite character is the driver with low blood pressure because she doesn't exaggerate and stuff that the rest of them do.
I was only judging you on thinking the Maus is thicc and putting ahegao (a pretty sexual thing) on a tank, but, honestly, you do you and don't even worry about what I think. :)
Conversely, for anxiety, I ask myself would mom/my manager/my friend do this? If yes I do it and the anxiety subsides. I second guess myself and run through too many scenarios so I watch people who can do stuff seemingly with no forethought and I pretend to be them for a minute.
Ehh. Sometimes, the memories are worth more. Is it idiotic to get raging drunk with your friends? Yes. But is it fun? Hell yes. And you can look back fondly on those times when you're older and can't do it anymore.
FionaNJ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:01:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One time I was going on a ladder because one of my lights was broken and after 1 step on it my brain pinged a subtle sensation of "I feel samething stupid in what I am doing" so after that I looked around for the think triggering it and I noticed that the light was on.
So yeah, look around before you do things
Madcowe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:02:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Granted, I do the idiot thing a fair amount, for the stories. But I also frequently stop and say "What would make this safer, idiot?" Then do THAT thing as well.
They totally will most likely be! My friends in the ER have harvested many organs from motorcycle riders. Usually the head that's either gone / damaged too much.
I dunno man, you could be the best driver or motorcyclist in the world and you'll still be at the mercy of everybody else on the road, the difference is that if they're in a car and you're on a bike it's probably gonna end much worse for you than for them.
(I'd really like to ride a motorbike because they're cool as hell but I'm a coward and also really clumsy and would probably die)
If you can afford it at all, I can't see why you wouldn't do this-- save you a trip to the gas station.
I guess you could argue you're carrying an extra hundred pounds around, but I think saving the trip is probable more efficient.
stuffeh ยท 182 points ยท Posted at 02:25:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gas serves as lube and coolant for the fuel pump. So keeping the gas tank on empty will shorten its life in most vehicles. It also allows more gas to evaporate, but that's what the evap system is for.
ValkyrX ยท 84 points ยท Posted at 03:27:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try to tell my wife this but nooooo she like to play a game to see how low she can get before getting the next fill up.
cphcider ยท 58 points ยท Posted at 04:15:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Filling up before you're close to empty is just being inefficient from the other direction.
I feel so validated by this chart. I drive a Honda Accord and whenever the light comes on my friends freak out when I don't immediately go get gas. I have a minimum of 70 more miles left in the tank avcording to this chart. That will cover me for at least 2 more days. Maybe driving to practically empty isn't the best for the car but I definitly am not going to run out of gas.
They should really specify year and at least engine lol. My Civic is helluva lot different from most others. At 1.9 gallons remaining I've got 40 miles left tops.
All of this. Especially the fuel pump, and ESPECIALLY for cars with HPFPs. But another thing is that the less air you have in your tank, the less moisture the ethanol has to absorb. Very important when flying planes, as finding out you have bad gas mid flight is, as you can imagine, not ideal.
scuba156 ยท 103 points ยท Posted at 03:42:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having bad gas while driving isn't ideal either but at least you can open the window.
Right?! I had no fucking clue, this whole time, that there was anything to consider. No wonder my car seems to run a little better after I fill it up. I just thought it was happy after a big meal!
(Last bit was a joke, the rest was true -why don't they tell us!)
zzuil93 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:34:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had two cars and just found out you're supposed to replace the cabin air filter on the car. No one in my family told me about this before. Doubt they know it exists.
It was easy to replace and really cheap. The filter was disgusting and now my car smells so much better :)
That has nothing to do with how your car runs though, just in case you didn't know. It just filters the air into the "cabin". So if you turn your fan or A/C on and it smells dusty, change that shit.
I mean if you have the manual chances are your car is pretty new. And that filter will get changed during dealership maintenance.
I've only had used cars and the only things I cared about were main car maintenance stuff: oil type and change intervals, tires size, air intake filter
1.) It's self-explainatory if you think about it for a while.
It's not, especially in context of an engine where you explicitly need another fluid to lubricate it, it would be easy for a random person who doesn't particularly care about the specifics to think the oil also lubricates the fuel pump
2.) If #1 doesn't work, there's a back-up plan. The manual of your car, which you probably never read a single page of.
The manual in all of the three cars I've owned (I still have two of them) says absolutely nothing about gas serving dual purpose as also lubricating or cooling the fuel pump, because it doesn't extend the life of the pump enough to make a large difference in expected service timelines, and will always recommend having the fuel pump either replaced or at least checked at the same time regardless of how full you keep your gas tank
it would be easy for a random person who doesn't particularly care about the specifics
This happens to be also the type of person that won't think about it for a while, given that they even know that they have fuel-pump.
I guess manuals being explainotary has too many variables to be a reliable argument. Mine specifically states to not go as far as you can without filling up to prevent damages in the fuel systems.
Well they say 100 pounds of cargo (or a passenger) reduces duel efficiency by 1%, but I don't believe that. Once you're up to highway speed, it doesn't matter if you're one pound or a million, wind resistance doesn't change.
asswhorl ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 04:12:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1% seems in the right ballpark. There's still some small effect of weight even when cruising; it affects the rolling friction.
Gas is absurdly volatile (as in evaporates super fast) and nearly all systems that are meant to keep vapor from escaping while also allowing them to be filled up have some amount of leakage.
The more air space in the tank, the more gas can evaporate into the tank and eventually escape.
It's not much. For a 10 gallon tank you're only talking about ~65 pounds. When a midsized sedan weighs over 3000 pounds the fuel is just 2%. The weight of the car impacts fuel use due to acceleration and losses from rolling resistance but at any reasonable speed your fuel usage is dominated by air resistance which isn't impacted by weight.
psi- ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:51:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the long run the price of gas is not going down. So you "save" a little by buying gas while it's "still cheap". Micro fluctuations might change the situation day to day, but year on year this holds.
Also keep an eye when "your" station has cheaper gas. My local is usually cheaper after workday and expensive in the morning.
What! That's ridiculous! Gas used to be 60 cents when I was a kid, then in my teens it was a buck fifty, and it's been going above and below a dollar for the last decade.
Mukor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:09:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some people find little-and-often expenses easier. If youโre paid weekly for example.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:43:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, this. I knew no one growing up who only added a little gas. It's a poverty issue not a choice.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:27:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
According to google, the average weight of a mid-sized sedan is about 3300lbs. The extra 100lbs amounts to 3.03% of the car....comparable to a 180lbs human carrying around an extra 5.4lbs. Most people's clothes and shoes probably weigh about that. Perhaps in a laboratory setting, the extra poundage would amount to slightly higher fuel consumption, but considering how many additional times someone makes a trip to the gas station, any savings would probably be more than eaten up by driving more often at lower speeds.
Because if I need gas to get the rest of the way home, and the only gas station on the trip is $0.50 more per gallon than the station my my place is, I'm only going to put a little in
I think there was also an episode on mythbusters... That a more than half filled tank will save you gas. Not sure why this is but I try to keep my tank above half.
I've had to replace a fuel pump on at least two cars. And, I've never had to do it on a car with an empty tank! :( Those things are HEAVY when they are full!
Just like every time I've had to fix the washing machine, it's had a full load of wet towels in it.
Yeah. There was a trick I could do with the old machine where the water would keep filling as long as you held the knob on "reset". So, you could do EXTRA large loads. I KNOW I pushed it too hard sometimes. I had to replace the belt every few years. And, I replaced the wig-wag twice. It was always towels, though. But, I guess wet towels weigh more than anything else.
Once I have access to the tank it doesn't take long to drain it. The trick is finding someplace to put 16-20 gallons of gas. With any luck, the other car is close to empty. But, if one car is full, the other one was probably double pumped for fuel points and is also full.
I've always found it tricky to get a hose into the tank thru the fuel filler. I just braced the tank with a couple of boards while I unstrapped it. Then, I slid it down the boards like a ramp to the ground and drained the fuel. It won't ever be a problem again, though ...because I am WAY beyond ever wanting to do that myself. I'll just pay someone.
I had an old crown vic, did the front pads and rotors, figured I might as well buy the new battery I had been putting off.. get new battery, fry my fuel pump. Apparently it's pretty common if you've been running an old fuel pump on a low battery for a new battery to kill the pump. The kicker? I had just filled my tank the night before. Another fun fact, gasoline fucks up asphalt lol.
Newer cars are crazy to me. Drop the tank on a truck or take the bed off, because the fuel pump is inside the damn tank. My classics I like that the fuel pump is right the hell next to my engine right where I can see and reach it lol.
Sometimes you can access the fuel pump by removing the seats, there's usually a cutout for accessing the fuel pump from inside the car under the seat and carpet.
Well of course you have. If you weren't driving (gas in the tank) you wouldn't know the pump's gone bad. And if you weren't doing laundry, you wouldn't know the washer died. Much the same as always finding stuff in the last place you look for it :)
Average tank is like 15 gallons. So like 125lbs. Who can't just pick up an average woman? Yeah. Lizard people. I know you're an alien Jew. Go away, you stinky lizner jerk.
I have a floor jack I was gonna jack up the rest end and see if my rear brakes seized up on me. But it seemed like my parking break cable broke and was stuck on. I was going 80 on the freeway though. Weird. I just floored it and it started rolling again fine when I made it to my destination it did it again but when I made it home 80 miles later (I know Iโm stupid) it is just fine. Also my roommate is a mechanic and of course when we go looking for the problem. It wonโt be broken.
Itโs a 01 GMC Sierra so I know itโll have issues but no clue whatโs wrong. Iโm glad she is running again i made it work and back today. I was wore out and fell asleep when I made it home so Iโll check it tomorrow.
Thanks for asking how it turned out
I've been on the side of the road with a busted car often enough that I will always stop and offer someone a hand if they are! Glad you've got a handle on it.
We had the gas tank drop out of the bottom of car after filling up.... While driving down the road. It stayed attached and dragged for a moment before we realised what happened. We actually jacked it up and put it back in place with rachet straps to get home. Then, not more than a month later we filled up our truck to just find the gas tank had a crack half way down. Emptied half the tank in a giant puddle around our truck while we were in the store. We drive older vehicles so its a sucky gamble filling all the way up.
I've lucked out in that the pumps that failed on me were in cars with easy access cutouts. Then I bought an Astro van. Just the fact that there are multiple videos on Youtube telling you how to cut a hole in your floor to access the pump should tell you just how damn hard it is to get to that thing, and god forbid it goes out on you with a full tank.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:20:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is why I don't drive clunkers. I bought my car new when I had more money. Babied it for 15 years. Got routine maintenance done. Still runs great and still looks new with 85,000 miles.
Still runs great and still looks new with 85,000 miles.
That's around where I've BOUGHT most of my cars.
Slashxl ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:41:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs ALWAYS how it works for me. Iโll fill โer up & it will break down within hours or a day. I also narrowly avoided a wasted repair within the last month. My mechanic cousin ordered the wrong size pipe for my broken exhaust & had he ordered the right size, wouldโve cost me $100+. Well later that day thereโs antifreeze in my oil. Head gasket blown. Close call. I have a new POS now lol
I just filled all the way up the ither day using the last of my money on gas. Not even 5 minutes after filling up got rear ended leaving my car undriveable. So now i have no car and no money. ๐
Also, when I have a full tank Iโll drive way riskier and waste gas, and thatโs when Iโm driving all over the place. If itโs only quarter full I would be more conscious of that and drive more economically
Plus prices fluctuate so much, you really want to bet on that price with your full tank?
Yup...I almost never fill my car past 3/4's full, for the simple reason that I've had a lot of junkers and several times filling the tank completely was met by the demise of the vehicle within 24 hours.
I suggest driving a 90's toyota in that case, they never break down
fitz_y ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:04:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My car wasn't a POS but I filled up the tank and then was in a car crash 30 minutes later... everyone came out uninjured but couldn't help feel sad for the wasted petrol money lmao
Rueff54 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:26:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Back in the day, it seemed like on the rare occasion I did have enough money to fill my tank, my car would all of a sudden quit working and you leave half a tank of gas on the side of the road. Every damn time... smh
Totaled my 03 grand am just short of 200,000 miles.... 3 miles after filling the tank, filling the washer fluid, and topping off the coolant. Working a minimum wage job at the time, I was more upset about having dumped a sizable portion of my check into the vehicle than anything, since I already had another vehicle i was fixing up to replace it.
If it makes you feel better, I sprung for brand new tires(albiet, the cheapest ones I could) on my last car because the technician said, and I quote:
"Well she's just hit 200,000 miles but everything is in perfect condition. You can get another 50,000 out of her easy."
The engine exploded a week later, and I had to scrap it because I was not going to spend 5,000$ to fix a 3,000$ car.
I paid $500 for the tires, I got $70 back from them.
One time I got in a motorcycle accident and it wasnt until hours later, after I left the hospital and was back home, that I realized I had literally just left the gas station before the wreck.
I have to admit the first time I drove across the border to Canada I got all excited to see prices were amazingly cheap at $0.98 - didnโt realize that was for liters. Iโll have $10 on pump #2. Wait, why did I only get a quarter tank? Duh.
I think that was probably closer to 15. i remember prices hitting a dollar growing up, and wondering why people cared about a dollar for a tank of gas because Im a dumbass
Winter prices are usually around $1.22 where I'm at and $1.55 in the summer. Last summer Alberta got into a trade war with BC which caused a gas shortage. The gas stations that actually had fuel in my town were charging over $2 which majorly sucked. Especially since my truck was getting 9 MPG due to the incredibly thick smoke from the wildfires.
Here in Australia at the moment fuel prices are awful. Premium fuel is up around $1.80/L AUD and cheap fuel (we call it e10 as it has 10% ethanol) is $1.60/L AUD. That said, I don't actually know anyone that uses e10 because it's rubbish.
Yeah, our awesome Prime Minister and his idea on fixing the enviroment by taxing the hell out of middle class Canadians... I bet all across Canada will be $2/L by the end of the summer
No it just says fill your tank rather than get a little gas at a time. For instance, if someone is particularly broke, and they have a bill to pay in a day or two, they might get $10 of gas just in case an extra $20 or so would cut it too close and they wouldnโt have enough for that bill. Pretty common thing that poor people have to consider.
I mean I'm literally coming from third world poverty and I couldn't conceive it. If someone is so poor that filling a gas tank might break the bank, how do they pay for the car, insurance and maintenance? Sounds like a problem drug addicts or severely short sighted people in self inflicted poverty would have rather than real poverty.
Yeah but there are lots of people who have to decide between spending $50 or $20 on gas.
Noah-R ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 05:21:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously. I get it that it's impossible for a not poor person to understand what it's like to be poor, but certainly if you can afford a car, you should be able to afford a tank of gas.
Literally all you need to do is set aside an extra $50 one time. Use it to advance your regular gas expense if you need to, replenish it when you get paid, and you'll never need to make extra trips to the gas station or worry about evaporation and the like ever again.
I'm not in this position anymore, but is it too hard to imagine that $50 is a lot to set aside for someone who can't afford a full tank of gas.
It's a sad world when we can't even imagine the notion that someone might not have an extra $20 for gas or doesn't want to spend it because of a potential emergency.
Noah-R ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:34:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can totally imagine that $20 or $50 could be a lot for someone, I just canโt imagine that amount being the make-or-break point for someone who can afford to have a car and buy gas regularly.
It seems ridiculous but easily the situation many people in America face. Cycle of poverty is vicious. That's why cash advance places exist and the poor perpetually get poorer.
Food definitely comes first, but this advice will save you money in the long run.
A full tank is more efficient.
Still, don't know if it's efficient enough to prioritize over the other necessities. Good luck! I can't really help you, but I have faith in you that you'll get out of this situation.
I'm managing to put a little money aside each month, to go toward any unexpected expenses or christmas etc, and I'm working my ass off at my job which has led to a couple of pay rises and bonuses over the few years I've worked there
I only really use the car to get to and from work though, so its no huge worry if I can't fill the tank, which is why it isn't my priority
But as long as my kids have clothes, food, and a roof over their heads, that's what matters to me.
If all goes to plan, I'll have successfully paid off one of my big debts in a couple of months which will help immensely, amd then I'll be able to start filling my car properly haha
Others explained better in the main thread, but basically the fuel is less volatile when full. More air in the tank allows for more evaporation (?).
Also, I believe cars are produced and calibrated to the weight of a full tank of gas. Too many variables otherwise. So the engineers are maximizing efficiency with the full weight of fuel accounted for.
I don't have time right now to double check this info, so don't take it as fact until you check for yourself. I'll update with some sources if I remember to find some later.
Itโs expensive to be poor. You donโt have access to the money you can spend to save money. Things like having a full tank, buying better quality shit so you have to buy less of it, buying in bulk is often difficult
If you can manage to scrounge together enough to start doing this sort of thing it can help a lot on a monthly/yearly basis. But that can be hard to manage as well.
Itโs the biggest problem with escaping poverty in the world IMO. Itโs such a trap that leaves you spending more money just so you have to spend less at a time and thus afford things.
I feel that. My buddy's used to say it was stupid because I'm going to buy the gas eventually anyways. But if I have $30 to last until I get paid in 2 days, I'd rather put $10 in my car to get to and from work for those 2 days and have $20 left for food.
These are things I have considered but they just aren't feasible for me
I work night shift, so public transportation isn't really running at the times I would need, and my journey already takes me half an hour by car, so a bike would take much longer, in the dark
I would have to wake up much earlier than I do in order to get to work on time, so I would get even less sleep than I currently do, which is an unhealthy amount at the moment
I did initially look at the costs of the local bus/trains I would need, but it worked out costing more per week than I use for fuel, and unfortunately i would get home too late to get my kids to school/nursery on time
I ride my bike to work every day, it saves about $6k a year that I'd have to spend on public transport, the 1 hour commute is about ten minutes quicker each way than it would be using the train (although I do have to take showers and get ready AT work) plus exercise!
Fill up every paycheck no matter where your tank is at. Some people may have to do it more often than that, but itโs nice to get paid and have that expense out of the way before it costs more a week later.
Not OP but maybe he's using public transportation, etc.
I personally moved to Madrid Spain earli last year and don't have a car, so I walk and use public transportation everywhere I go. It helps that Madrid is a very connected city through public trans. The bad is that it's not that cheap either . My wife and I pay about 110โฌ per month in public trans.
GVPN ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:03:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doesn't that also require you to be on time everyday?
I get payed weekly and have to fill up twice per paycheck every once in a while. I donโt drive a gas guzzler, but driving 5 cities away for morning classes, then 5 cities back in the afternoon, then driving 2 cities away to get to work takes up some gas.
Right here. I know I'm just one example, but I live 5 minutes from work. And I drive a Jeep, which has all the aerodynamics of a cinder block, and about as much fuel economy.
Iโve heard this advice before, but it never made sense to me why someone wouldnโt fill the tank all the way up. Do some people have poor self control and drive more if they have a full tank? Not having money is not a reason because it literally costs the same to fill up all the way less often than to give yourself a partial tank more often.
The thing is, if you have to take a detour to fill up your tank, you are spending more than $10 per trip to the gas station. And I'm not just talking about gas itself. Tires, brakes, battery, lights, and also the risk of something happening to you or your car on the way.
But if it's not a detour then it doesn't really matter. If I know I can find $10 rn but don't know if I can afford another $30 then I'm not gonna risk having gas but not being able to pay for whatever else. And even though going to a gas station is technically a detour even if it's along the way it'll take a looong time for that 30 ft to add up.
or you have a really sketchy car that breaks down a lot and filling it up seems wasteful when it'll end up sitting
I work for tips, so if I need gas but also am broke and have a bill to pay, I might get less gas now and get more gas in a few days, you feel me? Iโm always passing gas stations so the extra stop later is a negligible cost.
It makes more sense for people who get paid small amounts every day versus twice a month or whatever.
For me its because i want to wait for gas to go down in price. So if i spend 20 bucks on expensive gas and then fill up when its cheap then ive spent less.
Iโve lived paycheck to paycheck for several years. I just always made it a priority to put gas in the car. I knew it would hit my account right away, and I might be eating ramen and eggs for a couple days. But it meant I didnโt have to put gas in my car for almost a month. Iโve always done the same thing with car insurance: paid 6 months in full.
It isnโt always easy to do that stuff, but itโs never impossible. Even the $800 for car insurance is really only 2-3 weeks of shit pay.
I used to try to put off filling up my gas because I figured "gas has been expensive recently, I'll wait for it to go down" and then when I HAVE to fill it, that's when gas is even more expensive.
Was poor for a long time and I'd put fuel in >$10 at a time. Any time id have enough money and fill it up it would break down. Now that I have money I still only put it in $25 at a time because I'm superstitious
idejmcd ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:24:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Easier when you're not in highschool hahaha. I remember being like "$5 is enough".
You could cruise all night on 5 bucks. I pawned my cds for gas money back then lol
Verdahn ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:10:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought having less petrol in the tank meant less weight, therefore less petrol consumed as there is less to push around?
Garblin ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:33:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People don't do this?
Noukkis ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:11:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I never heard of people not doing it, I guess it's an american thing
Gsgshap ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:41:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just because you donโt do this and have never heard anyone do this doesnโt mean itโs an American thing. People say this all the time, and itโs kinda annoying. Iโve never heard of anyone do this, but I donโt automatically think itโs a European thing or an Asian thing or whatever.
Noukkis ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:25:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I assumed it because when you read this treqd it seems like a common thing and reddit is 70% american so it's not a stupid thing to do
Is there more fuel cooling the pump than actually being pumped? Honest question, I have no idea. I mean as long as there is some fuel that can be pumped isn't it enough for cooling it?
The pump is submerged in gas. So in addition to the pumped gas cooing it, the gas that surrounds the pump cools it. Just pumping the fuel isn't quite enough.
Which is a terrible reason. Either you truly can't afford the amount of fuel you need(to go to work or whatever) in which case you should really reconsider your options in general, or you can and you just don't budget it properly. Splitting it does not save you money.
The logic is: I have $53 in my bank account. $10 of gas will last me until payday, and I can use $20 for food and $11 to get some toiletries that I ran out of including toilet paper and $2 to get a candy bar at the checkout because I'm hungry and sad.
So it doesn't matter that $50 will fill the tank, you just need to survive until the next paycheck, at which point you'll pay for electricity and rent (and maybe some late fees) and then squeeze out some more miles until another paycheck comes around. Rinse and repeat.
Because the prices fluctuate, and when it's a few weeks of being really expensive I dont want to spend 60 euros on a full tank instead of 40 a few weeks later. So i buy less for the more expensive price and wait for the price to drop.
I've found there's almost no situation where it makes sense for me to put less than five gallons in. If I get "a couple gallons to hold me until the next time I pass the cheap gas station", I always end up doing that at least once more before I make it there.
The only time I don't fill up all the way is if the servo is way overcharging but I'll run out if I wait any longer. I'll get maybe a quarter of a tanks worth and then try to find a cheaper place
subm3g ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:50:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only reason I don't fill up entirely is due to watching the price cycle. If I know the price will fall in a few days, I will add a little and then fill up when cheaper.
The station I go to is on my way to work, so not going out of my way to fill up.
the less fuel in your tank the more you run the risk of water and rust forming in it and causing all kinds of havoc
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:56:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a truck with two gas tanks...my version of this is filling them both.
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:30:59 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Huh?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:52:18 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:15:14 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah yeah, back in the early 90s they didn't care too much about fuel efficiencies. To combat the lack in distance per fill up they just doubled the amount you could fill up! They are both 60 liters so I guess it's extra weight even when empty. Nowhere near 200 pounds however, I just replaced one last summer and it didn't weigh that much. Still, extra mass. Same with the fact that everything including the bumpers is made of steal. Vehicles used to be heavy!
My car is currently on the side of the interstate out of gas....listen to this man. Fortunately when we started walking a nice individual picked us up. Still I gotta find a way to get gas and get to my car........
Technically yes the weight is a detriment. Itโs why track cars run with low amounts of fuel. Thatโs because even 1 second is massive on a lap. But daily driving impacts of a full tank vs low tank are gonna be negligible.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:58:46 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well think of how much the vehicle will weigh when on low tank vs full tank. A small sedan like a civic, corolla, etc hole no more than 50 litres IIRC. This can be googled. So 50L of gasoline vs say 5L of gasoline.
Apparently a litre weighs about 0.75kg. So that means 37.5kg (full tank) vs 3.75kg. It's a solid difference on a racetrack I know that much. And since physics exists of course it will affect in daily driving especially over time. But then you can offset this be looking at the amount of trips to a gas station, weigh that against the average time of human life spent filling gas, and by the end of it all, running a full tank just seems like a better decision to me lol.
My grandma always told me dont fill it up all the way unless you're going on a road trip, just in case it gets stolen. She is a paranoid woman but I get her philosophy behind it
Iโve heard a similar thing from a friend. But itโs more if you think you can fill it up, you think life is going a little too well for yourself and the universe will put you into line. He says that the few times heโs filled up all the way, he had a huge bill come his way unexpectedly.
Makes no sense logically but itโs fun to be superstitious and I just time it that I fill up once a week. That way I clean up my windshield too.
I have this stupid irrational fear of filling my tank up because the only time I've been in an accident and totalled my car was right after filling it up.
Unless you use the vehicle in question infrequently enough that the gas will go bad before you use it all. In that case you should be buying ethanol free fuel, and only enough to last a few months.
This saves time but I don't see any other advantage (unless price raises). You actually get slightly worse fuel mileage with a full tank because fuel has weight.
In college I went like 4 years never filling my truck up. When I finally started filling it up all the way, rust from the top of the tank got into the fuel system and effed all kinds of stuff up.
The only time I donโt always fill it up is when Iโm on empty and I had to go to an expensive station to keep me going until I can go to the cheap place.
Pull up your socks. Literally. When youโre feeling flagged and weary and still have two hours left before you can go home, sit down, take off your shoes, and literally pull your socks up.
I belittled this forever until I tried it. Itโs actually a nice little pick-me-up
Give yourself one plate, bowl, cup, and utensil to use for you if single. Put the rest of your dishes on the top shelf, hard to get to, and only bring out for guests.
When I've got stuff going on the stove or something, I start washing dishes. Anything in the oven doesn't need my eye on it if there's a timer, so might as well get some of the little stuff out of the way.
Everyone in my family is always in awe of how clean the kitchen looks when I've just been the equivalent of a cooking typhoon in there.
mamajt ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 01:52:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously my wife has no idea why I get so upset that she leaves everything out when she's cooking until long after dinner. You're just standing there poking hamburger meat and stirring something! PUT AWAY THE INGREDIENTS YOU'RE DONE WITH AND THROW AWAY PACKAGING.
I had this conversation with a friend. I always take quick showers and he was surprised (I am a woman) as he said he always contemplates life in the shower. Tbh I'd rather be in bed 5 min longer than standing around in the shower but I do a lot of driving and walking around for work so I have loads of thinking time. Everyone is different.
mamajt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:55:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am actually not generally a super efficient person. We have a big clutter/hoardy problem, and when things get left out it makes it all worse and sometimes food spoils. I just don't get why it's so hard to put a lid on a jar and put it back in the fridge 3 feet away, if you're standing around anyway.
It's not just efficiency. Pooping is passive, cooking is active. You shouldn't be daydreaming about life and philosophy you should be paying attention to the food and the environment you're making it in. By not cleaning you create a risk for food poisoning, extend the amount of time doing chores instead of doing things you enjoy (like being with your friends and family you're eating with), and not focusing leaves more room for error.
Saepod ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:01:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
A buddy of mine is the son of a fairly successful restaurateur. He told me once: "the secret to great cooking is to wash while you cook." My cooking improved so much from such a simple change of mindset.
Mise en place is different, and something I donโt really agree with. Set up what you need beforehand, sure, and err on the side of caution if itโs your first time through a recipe. But itโs going to go a lot faster if you can time out cutting up/measuring things right before you need them. Saves on dishes too, since you can reuse cutting boards and temporary holding glassware.
I'm willing to go to bat for mise en place (you're right, it is different).
I find it helps me react to the unexpected better. Like if the recipe calls for a sliced lemon for a pan sauce I don't realize I'm out after having cooked everything else and forcing me to figure out what to do before dinner gets cold. Or if I mis-estimated the size pan I need (which happens shamefully frequently) my time to prep veggies isn't affected. Also I find having all the bowls filled with prepped stuff doesn't take all that much time to clean since nothing really cooks or dries onto them.
Learned this a little growing up, but really learned it working in food service. CLEAN AS YOU GO. It saves so much time and stress at the end. Even if the clean-as-you-go is just wiping things off or rinsing them out, it makes it easier to do the dishes and such. Every bit helps.
I've been doing this for years. After a nice meal, the last thing you want is a pile of dishes, pots and pans. I also pack away left overs once food is plated, and wash those pots right away. Takes a quick second and then all that's left after a meal is the things we ate from.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:12:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"the first step in cooking is cleaning," I say. When I'm fixin' to cook the first thing I do is get a load of dishes soaking while I pre-heat the oven or cookware, melting butter, toast takes 3 minutes, eggs on, all this once the fries are nearly done; dovetail, dovetail. Presentation. There's random forks and knives dirty at the end, and that is the start of the next load of dishes, which starts at the beginning of cooking again. I am kinda organized, lol.
I do this as well. I clean as I go and it makes cooking so easy. It also had helped to set out ingredients of stuff I'm getting ready to cook and put them back as I use them. I've saved myself the headache of realizing halfway through making something that I don't have the ingredient I need.
"If there's time to lean there's time to clean." I worked in pizza kitchens all through college and high school and it drilled into me the importance of cleaning whenever you have a free moment from work. If you don't, the end of your night is a nightmarish state where you sweep and do dishes until the wee hours of the morning. Now I can meal prep breakfast and lunch for a week and have a sparkling kitchen by the time everything is cool enough to go in the fridge.
Me too! My roomate thought I never cooked for myself and my kid and would be shocked when I would tell her there was dinner in the fridge if she was hungry. I had to explain that I clean as I cook, by the time we sit down to eat I just have one or two pans and my plate to wash, which I do right after I finish eating. My four year old puts his own plate in the dishwasher immediately after too. I couldn't deal with a sink full of dirty dishes 3 times a day.
If I've spent the last hour cooking I'm not going to spend another second in that kitchen when the food's ready. Get it while it's hot. You're just going to have to wash up when the crockery and cutlery is done with anyway.
No one is saying to clean after the food is ready to be eaten, just if thereโs downtime during the cooking process. But if you have a routine that works for you then keep on keeping on!
Put on a YouTube video or a podcast while doing dishes. I do this with RedLetterMedia stuff. It's amazing how much it actually makes the chore that much more bearable.
IlikeJG ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:27:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wireless headphones have revolutionized chores for me. You can still hear it even over the clinking and water.
I do this with tasks at work where I typically don't have to communicate with anyone. Bluetooth noise cancelling earbuds and a very loud playlist on shuffle make me much more productive.
Due to my schedule I sometimes do all the dishes for the week on the weekend. It's gonna take me 40 minutes anyway, and watching YouTube with it makes the time fly by. I sometimes look forward to it now!
I would like to add some suggestions because I do this all the time.
On YouTube, The right Opinion is a good commentary channel that is actually more open and agreeable than you'd think. I listen to him while cleaning. Want to hear a guy shit on books or praise them? KrimsonRouge, he goes into detail and is a very good reviewer. The best are his reviews of Onisons books, he absolutely destroys them and its hilarious.
Wait Wait don't tell me I'd an NPR classic and is extremely funny, Doctor Death is a great mini series about a quack doctor and the health system. I like crime podcasts so more of my suggestions are those.
I listen to A LOT of podcasts and I think Dr Death is probably the scariest/most disturbing. Just thinking about what he did...and his best friend!! Ugh. Sorry, off topic, but I have to vent about it whenever someone brings it up.
I know what you mean! I was absolutely shocked and disturbed. I almost cried listening to his friends story, it's truly heart breaking, I don't want to spoil it just in case but damn it's such a good podcast about a terrible story.
All of KrimsonRogue's 'the book was better' videos are great, I'm a fan of the Eragon one because he shares the same annoyance/disappointment as me about that terrible movie
I was never allowed to read or see the movie so I actually haven't watched that one yet, I do agree though the same frustrations with writing he and I share.
I do this with Alan watts set to chillstep on YouTube...the music is usually low enough so that you can hear him talking and it provides stuff to think about, and his voice is just great background sound if I stop paying attention or get distracted
I do this. It usually takes me an hour to clean the entire kitchen, that's about the length of an episode of SYSK or Stuff to blow your mind, or Foodstuff (Savor now ugh.)
xf- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:44:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just discovered this little tip a week ago and it's amazing how now I actually look forward to doing the dishes. Usually I watch episodes of Mystery Inc or something educational/informative
Yes itโs infinitely harder to clean dishes with dried food! So I got in the habit of rinsing dishes immediately, at that point it only takes a few extra seconds to run some soap over them so why not. I never used to care about future me, but Iโm trying to look out for her more now. I see you, future me. I got you.
Oh, seriously. Every piece of cutlery I own is currently dirty.
Namika ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:09:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One trick (albeit a wasteful one) is to get some disposable utensils made from renewable resources. Like bamboo chopsticks cost just a few cents, and you can eat most meals with just chopsticks. No washing necessary, just put them in with your compost when you're done with the meal. It ends up being like just $20 a year to use two pairs of chopsticks every single day. However realistically that's kinda wasteful even if you are composting.
The more practical advice is to only own a single set of silverware. One fork, one knife, one spoon, one plate, and even just one cup. When it's dirty, you have to wash it. It's just 1 item so it's not a big deal, and since you only have 1 set you'll never end up with a bunch to wash.
Also, there's no need to have 8 of every kind of dish/cup if there aren't 8 people in your household. When I had to get an apartment with my younger brother (who was notorious for never doing dishes) i just got two of everything and put everything else in storage. Two cups, two plates, two bowls, two of each utensil. Also one large frying pan, and one large and one small pot.
This also made it impossible to overfill the sink, so doing the dishes never became a daunting task.
Also put the same type of cutlery in the same holder in the dish washer if you have one (all knives in one shot, all forks in another). You'll be grateful when it comes to putting them away again. So many people at our workplace don't do this... And it's infuriating.
It used to bug me how much the dishes piled up and Iโd be the only one to wash them. Didnโt realize how much more relieving it is to do this while cooking or doing immediately after eating. Itโs ended up being quite therapeutic and much more satisfying feeling to leave the kitchen clean after a meal.
My SO started noticing and has even started washing the dishes more without me having to ask. Now heโs gotten into that habit, too.
Espa89 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:18:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve seen this mentioned before and I also often see people doing dishes on TV. Donโt Americans (statistically I guess you are American) have dishwashers?
Yucares ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:54:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I only have one plate and didn't feel like washing it yesterday so I ate from a pot lid.
Yucares ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:11:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm also the kind of person that stirs coffee with a for or knife because I only have one spoon and it's been lying dirty in my sink for like a month or so.
I wash the dishes every day anyway but I just don't feel like washing that spoon and sometimes I leave something else dirty, like that plate and then I have to improvise.
DJ_Apex ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:55:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I worked in kitchens for a lot of my early adult life. Clean as you go is basically hard wired into my psyche now and it gives me anxiety when people start cooking when there's already a huge stack of dishes.
My fiance does not get that, she always says doing the dishes right after using them or when stuff is cooking is pointless since there will be more anyways. However, there is no bigger struggle than trying to do dishes when the sink is full. THAT ALONE is why I do dishes immediately.
I just own less dishes, they accumulate in a tolerably small pile and they all go in the dishwasher every couple of days. Only really works if you're a bachelor though
Also buy nice smelling dish soap like Mrs. Meyers or Caldrea. It helps you enjoy washing dishes. I do it for my cleaners and laundry too. Makes cleaning delightful because it smells like heaven.
am0x ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:38:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean everything when done with it. What I do. Never a mess, never time to clean up
My god, my ex-roommates would use as many dishes as possible until I couldnโt clean the dish I wanted to use until after I had cleared the sink of all the ones they had already used to get to the one I was looking for.
I miss making enough money to safely spend $3.24-$4.78 (depending on my order) on one meal a day at a โfamous Taco Place, that perhaps should have something to ring every hour or so... perhaps like a bell?โ
...that said, I like my homemade tacos more, now, so fakkโem lol
This might be to late to add but if you have a dishwasher Know How To Use It.
Three things.
You CAN put you dishes in with all small (no large chunks) food stuffs still on them (even crusted on)
Now-a-days dishwashers run on CHEMICAL clean not water pressure or scrubbing or anything else you think is going on in there. The best thing to use is pods because the manufacturer knows how much detergent is needed for a load of dishes (instead of you guessing what's enough)
ALWAYS run your tap to hot before starting the washer. The chemicals need two things to activated fully HEAT and FOOD.
Bonus: if you ever foam out you fish washer just use some coffee creamer and itll take care of itself.
Edit: came back to say that if your are washing by hand you'll basically be wasting water by then putting the dishes in the machine. It's there to do all of the hard work for you.
To add to the solution of this, only have as many plates/cutlery/cups etc as there are people in the house. Put the rest away for when you have guests. That way, the dishwashing is minimised and so much easier.
IceeIvy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:36:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If only my siblings know how to clean their own dishes after using plates n forks. Itโs always a never ending pile for me to clean
If people are really struggling with this situation, especially bachelors or people with roommates, you can step it up and try the "just one" method:
Pick out your favorite mug, a good glass which is a decent size, one dinner plate, one side plate, a soup bowl, a cereal bowl (if you're a cereal-eater), one of each piece of cutlery. (Two chopstick if you want to nitpick me on this, you smartasses.)
It works even better if they are different to the rest of your set. Go to a thrift shop and pick out something cool or interesting if you like.
That's it. That is all you are going to use from here on, except under unusual situations like a dinner party or hosting guests.
Soon, you will get into the habit of returning your "just one" set to the sink when you're done with it because it's more convenient for you. You'll probably give your side plate a quick clean while you're waiting for your toast and things like that.
A little later you'll probably start finding that you clean up your "just one" set once you're done with them and you'll leave them on the rack to dry and await your next use of them. If you have fussy people in the house then stake out a small place for your "just one" set to live.
Some tips to help:
Have a dish brush on hand at the sink to help with cleaning up as you go.
You can get a small spray bottle and put a squirt of dishwashing liquid mixed with water by the sink. Just spray your dish down, scrub, and rinse or (if you're feeling lazy) spray and soak so it's ready to be cleaned later.
Don't use a huge bottle; this mix doesn't last forever. Try to have a turnaround of a week or less with the mixture, so use a small bottle to ensure that you aren't "cleaning" dishes with month-old dishwater which probably is more unhygienic than your dishes are.
If you live in a sharehouse or whatever and leaving your dishes in the drying rack means that people will use your stuff or tell you off, get a small container with high sides and put a dish drying mat in the bottom. Put your "just one" set in that. Maybe leave the container in your room or somewhere else out of the way.
Well, I see a guy being happy and solving his problems, and another meddling into other's affairs and worrying about a cup. The lesson of the story is clear.
My current apartment has the drying rack inside the cabinet, two wire shelves with a plastic catch pan on the bottom. Saves the visual clutter as they dry and saves a step of having to put dishes away. Brilliant!
My first step when cooking is always to fill one sink with some hot soapy water. That way it's super fast to just turn to the sink, wash and rinse whatever items you're done with and you'll likely have some soap water leftover at the end of the meal for the rest
My mum only let me bake stuff as a kid if I cleaned as I went, but I wasn't allowed to do the dishwasher, everything must be cleaned by hand. I still clean as I go now, 15 years later, and my kitchen is a happy place to be even if I've been knocking up a 3-course meal with numerous parts.
It's ironic, really, because my mum is shit at that kind of thing, she'll leave her cooking utensils and pots out and crusted in food until she's good and ready to clean up (usually a few hours after she's eaten)
I just went to disposable only. Aside from the pot/pan used to cook with, Im off dishes.
Namika ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:10:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same, bamboo chopsticks are just pennies and they can be composted afterwards so it's not even going to a landfill. I'll gladly pay a few cents a day for disposable chopsticks and never have to wash shit.
Unfortunatly cups are still moderatly expensive in the long run, and incredibly wasteful since they are usually plastic. So I'm stuck having to wash cups. Not having to wash utensils is a godsend though.
It's also easier to clean if you do them right away.
Raaqu ยท 24850 points ยท Posted at 22:51:09 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Faking confidence to become more confident.
Edit: thanks for the gold and the silver kind strangers.
Gmen9256 ยท 7449 points ยท Posted at 00:18:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I 100% agree with this but where I have seen people go wrong with this is thinking that exuding confidence = being an asshole. There is a very major distinction between them.
Raaqu ยท 1863 points ยท Posted at 00:30:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't even think about that. I've seen quite a bit of that too. I'm not sure how to explain the line between the two well, though.
If you are confident, other people's happiness/confidence/success will never affect you negatively, because you know that you are doing fine regardless of what they are doing.
Iโd argue the difference is in how you express that. If you still respect people, donโt treat them like shit, regardless of how you feel about their skills and abilities, youโre not an asshole.
I think it's more that you should flip the second half, and say you don't care what anyone else is unless they prove they're a bad person, in which case forget them and move on with your confident self.
This is the correct definition, IMHO. You are confident in your capabilities. Others may be as good or better than you, but you don't care because you're putting your best foot forward and you know you can do it.
Malak77 ยท -27 points ยท Posted at 02:55:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Along the same lines, never worry about how much a coworker makes. It will do nothing but cause problems. Just worry about yourself!
Actually, I disagree with this. If no one knows how much everyone else is being paid they don't know how much they are worth and maybe getting fucked by their employer
Niku-Man ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 03:11:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, fair and transparent pay makes a company run better. But it requires a competent and confident manager who can explain to people why someone else is worth more
I work for the military, if you tell someone you've been a Corporal for 2 years, or that you just got promoted to Captain they will know exactly how much you make. Perfect transparency, near zero favouritism.
I get an extra allowance that my coworker does not which at the end of the day probably gives me about $200 more than him a month. We have a pretty good working relationship but it does bug him as he brings it up every now and then. There's nothing that any of us can do about it but him bringing it up creates unneeded friction.
Malak77 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:20:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
And this proves my point. It causes him issues just knowing that.
nop. The point of confidence is knowing you can offer something others can't. The actual fine line between confidence and assholery is whether or not you step on others or pull them up along the way to the top.
I don't think confidence can be described as 'being able to offer something someone else can't'. If I'd follow this rule I would be confident a lot less of the time. Take learning a second language for example. I'll never speak it like a native, but when I do I'll do it with confidence.
In my mind confidence is believing in yourself that you aren't any less than others. E.g. you can do things just as well as everyone else.
I might even go as far as to say that comparison doesn't play a role in confidence. Just believing that you can do good is in my opinion the basic of being confident.
My bad. Confidence by definition is being "sure". E.g. you can be confident that you're useless.
I confused confidence with pride. Confidence takes root from prior experience and your assessment in the subject/skill. Confidence is bad and turns you into an asshole when you are steadfast in a belief in a way that blinds you to other factors, especially other people's opinions.
but if someone think they're better than someone and ergo is an asshole and I think I'm better than the asshole by virtue of not thinking I'm better than anyone else do I suddenly become an asshole for thinking I'm better than the asshole?????????????
You just acknowledge the asshole, and be a better human. If the asshole challenges you and your virtue, do not become an equal asshole to show them youโre better. Remember to be humble. You do not know what has made them the asshole they are in their walk of life. Perhaps they donโt even realize. If they wonโt take your hand in friendship and equality, shake the dirt from your sandals and walk away. Remember them in your prayers and donโt anger yourself trying to change them or reach them. Arguing to make your point to them probably wonโt be heard. Let a higher source reach them. Leave it in the universes hands.
skeeeee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:40:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can understand that the path they are on is not as good as the more virtuous one that you are on and feel sorry for them that they are bringing the negativity of assholeness into their life without placing yourself above them. It's a lot harder than just calling them an asshole and moving on though lol
The trick is to not take part in the one upmanship at all. Be better than someone else at a thing, but realize that better only exists because of the comparison. Someone has to be at the bottom of the list, every time.
Could you ever truly think or accept that every single person is important? From the best, most effective employee to the rudest, pettiest, most difficult manager in the place?
hmd27 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:17:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The thing to remember is no matter how great you think you are, one needs to be able to talk to everyone the same, and treat everyone the same, regardless of if it's the clerk behind the counter, school janitor, CEO of a company, doctor, etc. Treat everyone equally and with respect.
I think that's going away from confidence and moving towards respect. Shy people don't treat others badly because they're in a lower position. Insecure people might though.
hmd27 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:15:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not depending on how you carry yourself. We've all met the confident guy that always has time to say hello to everyone. Not just respectful but genuine. It's the "never met a stranger" personality.
I keep saying I'll do this but then I get tired of doing it. Sometimes people want to talk but I just don't want to. My friends feel the need to go clubbing and party but I'd be happy just playing games at home. I do enjoy parties but I've never felt the NEED for social interaction.
hmd27 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:51:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I relate. I'm very outgoing, and only because I force myself. I take my downtime, and I run hot and cold on socializing. I prefer to just be home, reading, watching movies, and doing my thing.
I push myself to have dinners every week, or to go to friend's homes. I'm too old for clubs, and I rarely go to bars anymore. I wish I would have been like this when I was around 26-38. I remember a time when not going out at night felt like something was missing. I don't know how the hell I did it for so long.
I'd say confidence is walking into a room and believing that everyone likes you. Being an asshole is walking into a room thinking that everyone should like you.
My husband was the first person I think Iโve ever met with true confidence. Heโs willing to learn new things but the things he knows, he doesnโt do until he can do well. He wonโt join a conversation until heโs sure about what heโs saying and wonโt attempt to do something seriously without tons of practice. So, heโs very confident in his current self, his current self is exactly how he likes it and isnโt offensive to 90% of the world and so that makes me want to like him too. If he has that much fun liking himself and is t an asshole, I want to like him too.
I'm the opposite. I have a small amount of knowledge on a lot of topics but I was never really a confident person. After some time I've managed to make it seem like I might but I'm still not down to dance in public or something.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:52:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, I was raised that you're no different from anyone else. You're not better or worse. People are people
I mean I would say treating people equally is an important moral virtue to uphold, but the truth is more complicated than that. I mean, woukd you say Jeffrey Dahmer and Terry Crews aren't different people?
Some people suck and are going to be shitty until they are dead for whatever reason. Some are amazing.
Confidence is trusting that you are as good as everyone else.
That's an impossible though to have. This implies that you think that everyone else is equal. If you are as good as Suzy who's better than Nathan then how can you be as good as both of them?
If you're as good as Suzy you're obviously better than Nathan.
No person thinks that everyone they know is doing equally well.
Koovin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:14:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But if youโre competing for something confidence isnโt being as good as the other people, itโs thinking that youโre better than the competition.
To me, confidence is a by product of resilience. You don't even have to be good at something. If you show that failing didn't affect your overall well being very much, that comes across as confidence. It's a lack of insecurity, self doubt, and/or second guessing
Confidence is knowing you are probably equal or better to or equally or more informed than everyone else in the room.
Projected confidence is picturing how a confident person would appear and mirroring that while being willing to concede that you're wrong.
Assholery/arrogance is refusing to entertain the thought that there's someone better or that you could make a mistake.
I know that I'm probably better than most people in the office at chess so I play confidently, but if I play dangerously and arrogantly under the assumption noone is better than me, eventually I'll lose because there will be someone better than me.
Similarly in meetings or presentations there are areas where I am the subject matter expert because I know more than the people in the room - this is factually accurate, but that doesn't mean the others there can't contribute or spot mistakes I make - to assume that would be arrogant.
Arrogance can also work out but it's riskier. Having arrogance when pushing a business idea can force others to take you seriously when you're dogmatic that it will be the best and it will succeed, although those who are arrogant and don't succeed topically fade into history.
Confidence is knowing how good you are and not bragging about it. Assholery is thinking that everybody around you is bad and that you need to point out how much better you are,even if you're not.
I donโt necessarily agree with this. If youโre successful or skilled at something, you are necessarily and by definition better than others at it. I think the distinction is being insecure about this and going out of your way to โproveโ to everybody else that youโre better than them.
I think this is where truly exceptional people shine- by being humble and giving credit to everybody else. Take Wayne Gretzky for example- in every interview heโs ever given he attributes his success to his teammates. come on- it would take some serious lack of self-awareness on his part to not recognize that he is clearly the best hockey player to have ever lived. But heโs not an asshole. Not because he doesnโt think heโs better than everybody else- but because he never rubbed it in everybodyโs face.
Then you have seemingly opposite examples like Mohammed Ali. he went out of his way to point out that he was better than everybody else - but still not an asshole. paradoxically- he did it in a loveable way. here, I think the distinction is that he never said negative things or resorted to personal insults against his opponents other than in a playful manner- and even then he would almost always focus on himself (Iโm am the greatest) as opposed to focusing on the opponent (never would he say something like โhe sucksโ- rather heโd say things with a smile like โI feel sorry for him having to face meโ, which still has a flavour of respect in it).
To me, being an asshole is simply putting others down. You can most certainly think youโre better than everybody else and it might be true but itโs picking on others that is assholery- and this is particularly true when you ARE better than everybody else because then it counts as picking on somebody weaker than you.
The line is between knowing you have just as much value as everyone else and having to prove you are. Confident people don't spend all their time proving how confident they are. Take the back seat once in a while.
This is not it like. Confidence us knowing what you're good at. Assholery is believing that others are stupid for not being that good. I'm confident I'm better at accounts software than everyone in my office. I also know who to go ask with the difficult vatvquestion. And because I show and don't treat people like idiots when they ask about accountancy software they do the same when I ask questions. But I'm still better at the software, it's not being an arsehole to know that
fradd13 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:42:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
being confident is actimwithout fear, being an asshole is acting without consideration, being brave is acting despite fear
rtj777 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:41:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True, though you can still be an asshole and self assured.
Knowing you have full control over your actions and how they affect other people is a great next step. Although personally I don't think there are "good" and "bad" things and that morals should be decided in the moment, based on logic.
I almost always think I know what others think, mostly because I have really bad social anxiety and self esteem issues so I end up thinking others must be judging me in a, "he's so fucking awkward" kind of way. I'm highly critical of myself.. It's crippling but I don't know how to stop doing it.
Practice talking to strangers and try to be as genuine as possible with them. Tell your mind that a stranger has no reason to judge you, that person barely knows you.
Happy cake day!
Emilia Clarke is a great example of... well, kind of the perfect person tbh. She's utterly charming and charismatic to boot and a huge part of that is she's confident without bing an asshole. She definitely comes across as being sure of herself, but not ever at the expense of others.
If you're being an asshole to exude confidence it's because you're trying to convince other people you're confident. A truly confident person doesn't care how others perceive them.
It's a very subtle line, but anecdotally I think confidence is more "I am good at things and I look good and I'm comfortable" and being a dick is "I'm better than others, I'm more attractive than you, and I'm going to make you uncomfortable"
I feel like this was the biggest internalization that made me feel less like an asshole. When I win, I don't boast. When I lose, I don't whine or make excuses. (or at least I try)
dactyif ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:31:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just talk to people like I've known them my entire life. My tables absolutely love me at the bar I work at.
Yup. That, and that in being actually confident, some people recognize it as just being confidence, and others just think you're just an arrogant bitch. So, while there is a line between them, it clearly either varies between individuals, or individuals change the line because they don't like you.
Real confidence, or even faking real confidence enables you to elevate the people around you. It's in being so secure with oneself that you are able to recognize the talents, attributes, and beauty in others. Especially, without feeling that you somehow don't measure up.
It creates an atmosphere where people seek you out. Obviously, constantly showering your peers with compliments will completely diminish the value of a compliment, so there has to be a happy medium. Like that "Wrinkle in Time" movie.
I like to simplify it to confidence without cockiness. Being confident is sexy, but putting off the vibe of 'knowing' you are better then others (whether it's true or not) is not a positive quality.
I've experienced both of these. I used to fake self-esteem; the result was arrogance. But having self-esteem isn't about having something you didn't have before. It's about giving up the insecurities you have. We're born with self-esteem.
On the other hand, playing the game like you've already won does help you to win.
I disagree that there's a major distinction (to them). The asshole portion is typically related to arrogance and in my opinion there is a fine line between arrogance and confidence that takes time to learn how to walk.
This is why I unsubscribed from /r/howtonotgiveafuck. I donโt know what itโs like in there now, but it just got frustrating to read. You should absolutely care if everyone thinks youโre a jerk.
wtph ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't you know that real alpha men use all their strength in their handshakes that betas just hand their testosterone over in fear?
I've always associated assholiness as incredible insecurity & lack of confidence. No one has come from a position of confidence and attacked someone elses self-esteem.
The problem is, they hold these unrealistic expectations of what confidence is and believe that they just have to sound like theyโre tough and anything they do is suddenly correct, when in reality confidence is just making decisions, believing in those decisions and yourself, and following through on those decisions completely.
Trust me, I used to think confident people were assholes just because they were โluckierโ than me. Now Iโm pretty sure people who are similar to who I used to be see me as the same kind of person as the people I used to be irrationally bitter at (it wasnโt actually bad, more like I just had that โthis is unfairโ mentality until I realized I was the only one limiting myself).
Being an asshole is the opposite of confidence, usually. Especially in this context.
If youโre actively trying the โfake it til you make itโ method for confidence, but youโre being an asshole instead, youโre probably acting more insecure than if you didnโt try to fake it in the first place.
Itโs really hard for people to realize theyโre doing that, though.
I think it's because in most observations, people tend to note that confident people are either legitimately awesome, or act like asses. Since I'm not legitimately awesome, the only options are to have no confidence or be an ass.
What helped me avoid being an asshole but still wanting to exude confidence is to act like a good host even if it's not my own home. Be hospitable, attentive and entertaining. Might have to tweak it for professional settings.
Sure, but the two groups probably don't overlap much. People that are too shy in life and need to find confidence don't generally go straight to the ahole side I wouldn't think.
Iโd disagree, I think they are exactly the type of people who try to over correct and move into the asshole phase.
I knew a guy who was a late bloomer, at 18 he looked 12, by 19 he looked his age, got into the gym and became a great looking guy.
He went from shy and reserved to a total asshole. He felt the need to put down everyone around him, try to show people how strong he was and became generally unlikable.
Smile, make eye contact, introduce yourself, push yourself a little bit. For me it was like jumping into a pool, you get used to the temperature more quickly and painlessly than if you take the stairs
I do exposure therapy with people with anxiety (itโs super effective, btw), but I love this analogy for doing things that youโre scared of/dreading! Thank you, Iโm going to steal this :)
It's a form of therapy in which the client and therapist work together to come up with situations or things that provoke anxiety for the client. Then, you work on systematically and intentionally exposing the client to those situations with the goal of making them anxious (knowing that the anxiety will come down). It's the most consistently effective first-line treatment for any anxiety-related problems so long as it's done intentionally and correctly.
It works on the principle of conditioning: a person with anxiety generally has a mental connection between "feared situation/thing" (example: dogs) and "danger/catastrophe" that produces the fear response (tension, heart racing, breathing fast, etc.). By having the client repeatedly confront the feared thing and see that the result isn't dangerous or catastrophic, that association gets much weaker. Over time, the brain/body stop producing the fear/anxiety response (or much much less of it). An added bonus is that the client starts to see that they can do a lot more than they think they can - even if you do it scared, you're still doing it!
If anyone is interested in doing it - look for therapists that have expertise in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). It's a core part of the therapy (though not the only part).
So I have extreme anxiety before and during exams. By doing exposure therapy I am exposed to the exam environment to bring down the anxiety? Is that correct, so would this fall in line with practice makes better?
Ideally, you would want a therapist to guide you through to process bc there's a particular way to making it most effective & each person has a different constellation of feared situations. There are also workbooks you can buy to help guide you through it (the Treatments that Work series is a good, research-based option). This is generally what's done:
First, the therapist helps the client identify if it's just exams that make them anxious, or if it's generally about being evaluated. Second, the therapist/client would make a hierarchy of situations that make the client anxious, going from 1 (very low intensity) to 10 (the most anxiety you can imagine).
Third, the therapist helps the client practice some healthy coping skills (like progressive muscle relaxation and "belly" breathing) that bring down the intensity of anxiety as they go into the exposure situations. The therapist and client might also identify together what they client is thinking about the exam that makes it so scary and evaluate how likely or unlikely those feared outcomes are.
Finally, the therapist walks the client through "exposure" exercises where they face those feared situations in a specific order (working up from the bottom of the hierarchy toward the top), then (and this is important) debrief with the therapist about each exposure afterward. It's important to recognize that through exposure, people have done a really important (and fucking hard) thing for improving their own health, even if it didn't go "perfectly". So it's similar to "practice makes better," but also greater than that!
Lskdidit ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:38:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is me now, I used to talk with my small group, now Iโm the guy to talk to at work, and i talk with random people all the time because I did this. Never have to worry about not having friends because of this.
Aeolun ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 04:49:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can do all of these things, but theyโll never not be exhausting to me.
I have social anxiety and used to be really afraid of water.
I learned to swim in the past two years, and did a lot of things including talking to strangers on numerous occasions,acting in front of large audiences, working on inbound calls.(I get double stressed as Iโm non-native English speaker so thereโs always accent thing, sometimes I say something and realise thatโs not a correct way of saying it etc.)
My advice? Jump in. Do it. Itโs alright once youโre in and your mind plays tricks on you, feeding you the most dramatic / anxiety inducing scenarios that 99% of the time donโt happen.
do this and there will be a buzzfeed video about you saying Europeans dont understand why Americans smile so much and make eye contact. If you're an American
This works, seriously. I'm in my twenties now and ever since high school I learned to walk with purpose, been friendly to everyone I meet, and I always dress up as opposed to dressing down. I've made and kept a lot of friends, gotten a few job offers, and have stayed relatively happy by doing these things.
But don't overdo it! People can smell a fake from a mile away.
It's more fake confidence and learn as you go until you are actually capable at something. It's not good if you fake confidence forever without making an effort to improve as you go. "Fake it till you make it" still includes the "make it" part.
Yeah, fake it til you make it basically boils down to "practice it". Most people aren't willing to make mistakes while practicing but if you're "faking it" its ok to make mistakes that you may learn a lot from.
"Hey, can you help me with this?" ~ Manager/superior/people on my team.
Internal monologue "I got trained on that six months ago and did it for one day on my own. I'm barely keeping up with my own workload and I slept for four hours. I don't even know if I can help myself, much less make my quota"
My response, "Yeah, what do you need?"
I've gotten a lot faster at some things. Necessity is the mother of adrenaline.
Jake63 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:19:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you're part of a team. If you haven't slept enough and it's due to work, you have to make sure that supervisor is aware of that and takes care of you. that's what teams do. They take care of each other - or they should
Instead of 'fake confidence', I like to say 'confidence in training'. Smiling and being polite gets you going in the right direction, and seeing other people's smiles and politeness creates good feelings and a good experience for everyone. Experience is the best teacher, and class is always in session.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:02:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously though. I'm a small chick but I walk tall and its helped me many a times. It makes you seem more reliable too (not in a fake way) but as an "oh hey, I kind of trust this person" kind of way.
To take a small point from this, the always dress up part makes a huge difference. Everyone has a first impression. One of my coworkers looks like sheโs going somewhere important all the time, makeup done and nice clothing. I was talking to her one day and she said โthereโs no such thing as being overdressedโ and it really changed the way I thought about the way fashion influences things.
Same for me! I consider myself to be a bit on the introspective side, sometimes I need time without social interactions to recharge, if I don't have that I burn out.
So I got pretty surprised when I heard people telling me they "wanted to be just as outgoing/sociable" as me. It's hard sometimes forcing myself to socialize and to take initiatives in conversations but it has lead me to quit a few good friendships and fun life situations.
I realized in high school that everyone was looking at everyone else to try to determine what was cool. So I decided that I would just tell everyone that I was cool, and then act like me. Folks bought in to it so there were a ton of dorks in high school who thought I was cool, even though I was really just as dorky as them.
It didn't work on the *actual* cool kids though...
Confidence is one of the biggest and most important traits that anyone can develop. A confident dork is infinitely more times more likable than a cool kid who fakes it and is dishonest with themselves. Props to you.
Learning this never seemed fake to me, i just had to do what a confident me would want to do, and then i got used to it. 2015 is when I truly gained my confidence, and it has paid off greatly.
So dressing "up" doesn't mean dresses, suits, formal, red bottom Louboutin heels. It just means putting in a little more effort into your appearance because you never know who you're going to meet. For guys, it can mean shaving and keeping you hair combed, not wearing sandals or slides to bigger events, and wearing nicer shirts. /u/sirgentlemanlordly the guy who wears suits all the time does a bit much, but wearing a business shirt on a busy day never hurts.
For ladies it could mean improved makeup (not a must), wearing better shoes, switching out basic studs for pearls, wearing dresses or skirts. Anything that makes you look a bit more polished every so often until it becomes habit.
This can also go for events- if an event says business casual and I know that I'm going to network with some heavier hitters, then instead of wearing basic sandals, pants, a plain tank top and a cardigan, (I'm a chick) I'll wear professional shoes, nicer pants like slacks and the same top combo. Alternatively I personally would probably wear a dress that's a bit nicer, maybe even professional. You want people to remember you.
Basic grooming and washing aside, if I see a person overdressing, I remember the fact that they overdressed and probably don't have very great judgement.
Dress appropriately. Otherwise, you just seem awkward / trying too hard. Your actions are what counts. Don't draw attention to yourself by such shallow means.
I have struggled to try this for years with no success. I just can't fake things. In my head, it will always be a fake veneer easily peeled off. I don't know why to be honest. I also cannot "suspend disbelief" in other situations and suspect its the same or a similar issue.
If I could somehow figure out how to believe my own fakery, I could perhaps "fake it till I make it".
I hate "fake it until you make it". It always implied to me that I'm pretending to be something I'm not. Like I'm trying to deceive others. Instead I found more success "practicing confidence". Try a couple of things people consider confident, practice them around others. If you fail that's ok, it's just practice. Eventually you get better at it, it gets easier to be confident. No faking, no deception, no thin veneer of lies. Just someone honestly practicing their confidence. You can't be faulted for practicing something.
For confidence I fake that they're my friend, and then I find it a lot easier to just be myself and not act nervous or awkward. Making eye contact, smiling, standing up straight with shoulders up, dressing well makes you feel well, working out are all things that helped me be less shy and more confident
I still get nervous, and blush harddddd when I feel the slightest bit embarrassed at anything. but Im either in a position to drink some alcohol to loosen up or take a beta blocker which helps with anxiety and flushed face
It's a life saver. Beta blockers reduce your blood pressure, and blocks the hormone adrenaline, which treata stuff like high blood pressure, anxiety and my face flushing. I personally take metoprolol for dates, presentations, or other kinds of social events
Most people are bad actors. Fake confidence is easy to see.
Cajbaj ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:22:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually disagree on the grounds that A. I can't think of anyone I've ever met as having obviously fake confidence, and B. I've gotten to know a lot of confident people and found out later they felt like it was an act.
Maybe I'm just oblivious, but I'm pretty sure that fake confidence is just confidence.
Well by it being fake that means it canโt be the thing itโs pretending to be. Or it wouldnโt be fake. Fake confidence is cubic zirconia. When your girl figures out what it really is she is gonna have a choice to make.
Cajbaj ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:33:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The thing is that conventions like "confidence" only exist in the human mind and in society, two things that are extremely hard to understand fully. What exactly "Fake" confidence is isn't as clear as something with a defined molecular structure. I think it's hard enough to tell the difference between fake confidence and real confidence that they are the same thing.
If someone gets to know you well enough that they know that you don't feel confident and they reject you for that, that's on them. That's a shitty thing to do.
No, confidence is a thing in animals too. Thatโs why they tell you to not act like prey towards certain predators. Make yourself big and loud. So yeah, I guess if you fake it well enough then whatโs the difference. Just hope no one calls you on your bluff.
And yeah it might be on them but if it happens enough youโll learn not to own up to being insecure.
mmat7 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:59:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As much as it doesn't work for me a "fake it till I make it" is an actual thing
Its called cognitive behavioural therapy, to put it short its basically the idea is that if you do stuff like acting confident or do things that used to bring you joy (that don't any more) even if you have to force it at the beginning it will eventually learn how to be confident (or how to enjoy those things that you don't any more)
Again it didn't work for me but a lot of people say it helps them a lot
Yes it is an actual thing. An actual thing that has never worked for me. It requires a suspension of disbelief (especially initially) that I am incapable of.
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 02:36:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hereโs an easy one. Stand up straight, shoulders back, head up. Do the superman pose, hands on hips, hold it for a few seconds.
Pretty sure I heard this releases whatever chemicals or whatever that help you feel confident. It feels a bit silly, but I find it works a little. I guess the connection between body language and confidence goes both ways, so faking a confident stance helps to fake a bit of confidence. Which then feels less fake because your behaviour follows actions.
And other than the hands on hips thing, thatโs a good way to get used to carrying yourself. Posture is important
Okay so this seems true at first, and is to an extent.
I built up a lot of fake confidence to do stuff and eventually ended up with the thought
"Hey, I can be genuine now. There's nothing to fear with how I am now".
Wrong. When you finally let down the facade entirely and go fully genuine, you'll realize there's there a good 100 different fears you never actually overcame, you simply ignored them. Maybe even super stupid ones that shouldn't even be fears.
If at all possible whatsoever, start overcoming your confidence issues one by one while staying genuine. Faking it will make it easier for a while of course, but you're leaving a lot of shit on the table that goes completely unsolved.
After starting this 'proper growth', I've noticed an insane difference. So many things I never even considered doing, all of a sudden opened up and it was like my mind viewed the world as a completely different place. A place with far more freedom than I ever knew.
Thornum ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:07:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haven't read every single comment, but I feel this is an important caveat to what OP said.
Faking confidence can generate positive outcomes and responses from your environment, which in turn can actually boost your confidence. However, a lack of confidence is always caused by fear. Recognizing, accepting and overcoming that fear is the key to real confidence. For some people acting confident can confirm that your fear was unfounded and help you overcome it. For others, acting confident is merely masking that fear, meaning it is not a lasting solution as that fear will still be there when you let your guard down.
wyzapped ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 01:34:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I admire the spirit of this comment, but ultimately think it's kind of dangerous. I don't want to deal with someone who's confident because they're faking it, I want to deal with someone who's confident because they are competent.
Try smiling right now. There's a good chance that you'll start to feel happier.
Cajbaj ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:25:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To some extent, yeah. Happiness is unfortunately more abstract so it's hard to say how to fake it, but the principle of "fake it till you make it" really does work.
I've never been able to fake confidence. I can only become confident by learning and getting better. Until I get to that point I'm cautious, but if I want it, I can get there. For me, I'm confident about actions and things I do, it's not an all encompassing feeling on it's own.
"Listen OP... Don't forget. Believe in yourself. Not in the you who believes in me. Not the me who believes in you. Believe in the you who believes in yourself.
idejmcd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:26:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good advice but not the best for some people. As a professional in a hiring position I've hired a lot of confident idiots.
So this may sound silly, but I can force myself into a better mood in the morning by just repeating aloud โtoday is a good dayโ over and over again. Usually incorporate stretching, just some light easy blood flow mixing with the mantra works wonders.
How much confidence you have is derived almost 100% from how much you portray yourself as having.
When you walk into a room, do it with a cheeky smile on your face. Say hello to people, keep your shoulders back and your chin up.
All of these things are minor, insignificant things. When you start doing them all however, you'll realise how easy it is to act and say things with confidence. Then you'll realise that you have literally faked it until you made it.
maselsy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:41:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spasay ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:04:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's what got me through teaching. I also used the "I'm not nervous, I'm excited" technique of trying to turn my anxious energy into enthusiasm. I still made mistakes, but answering questions and presenting things slowly got easier.
I did this last year and got a lot of ass because of it (I'm ugly), until I got destroyed by my childhood crush lmao. It's been 7 months since she moved away but she comes to town now and then and thats when we hook up. (Silver lining)
Moral of the story. Use it for only good, not to get laid lmao
Sadly, I have learned that you have to be good at faking it. There's a very cringey difference between the beta guy pretending to confident to get a girls number and the actual alpha guy who gets the girls number
Used to hate myself. One day in high school I just started in my mind "lying" out loud about how good looking I was. I was genuinely surprised that people didn't bust out laughing. That got me thinking that maybe people didn't think as negatively about me as I do. So I kept doing that until I realized that people don't give a fuck about me and that some of what I was saying was true! it helped me believe that my worth is based on what I tell myself not what I think other people are thinking about me
laxt ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:20:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is terrible advice. When it works it's a fluke.
Fake confidence only works around people who also not confident with themselves.
The praise of this advice speaks volumes. Are you all in high school?
AlaWyrm ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:35:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Fake it 'till you make it is real.
Source- once shy, apprehensive teenager with no education,no direction in life, and no desire for responsibility (though I was a "know it all") that is now a director of a multi million dollar per year project that impacts hundreds of millions of people and requires know how and managing client and vendor relationships on a national scale.
Edit: I've been with the same project for 20 years. Started as a green kid, now seen as the "expert". Don't know how I got here other than faking it for years until I "made it".
Edit #2: Like I teach my kids and try my best to adhere to, there is a fine line between arrogance and confidence. Confidence just means you can back up your words with your actual (not percieved) actions/skills/knowledge and also treating people right regardless of your skils/experience/knowledge etc. In a nut shell, everyone has something to offer. Arrogant people live and act as if they always know best, regardless of what other people can bring to the table. After doing my job for so long, I no longer try to be the best at everything, I have too much to do for that to be possible. I now look for the best people to do it. They will do it better than me anyway and I can focus on what I am best at. My best attribute now is identifying who is best to assign to what project, not trying to impress anyone by doing it myself.
Edit #3: For those that inquired, confidence is trusting what you know and standing up for when your are right, but also admitting when you are wrong, learning from it, and not worrying about the consequences of being wrong. Arrogance is always assuming you are right and defending it no matter what.
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:00:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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AlaWyrm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:02:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Faking confidence is what makes you an eventual professional, so I agree with you. Lol.
Hi, for someone that has been told that I need to show more confidence, I'm trying to learn the difference between arrogance and confidence.
For me personally, while I agree with the points you made, I feel the way you wrote it is cocky. I don't care if you run multi-million dollar budgets, or your "best attribute is identifying who is best to assign to what project". I feel you can get your point across without including those things.
Can you maybe explain how adding those pieces of information help perceive confidence, and not arrogance?
Cause I'm confident in myself, it seems like nobody else in the workplace sees it, and hopefully you can give some perspective
AlaWyrm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:58:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No worries. I was often called "cocky" when I was younger. Most of it was projection back then. Maybe I am, who knows. I try not to be. I see it in my son as well and try to guide him away from it while at the same time not kill his drive and self confidence. It is a tricky endeavor.
That said, I only mentioned those things you referenced to give perspective on where I came from to where I am now. Am I Warren Buffet? Hell no. Could I have ended up barely supporting myself and doing enough in life just to get by? Hell yes. I started out in my adult life with almost everything stacked against me. I strived to not be a statistic. I won't go into details here for fear of sounding cocky again, but I made a personal choice to, as Dave Matthew's once sang, "Make the Best of What's Around". In other words, I chose not to care what others "thought" I was or what I should/could be, but to be the best best me. In all honesty, my greatest motivation in life was to prove all of them wrong and I have. If that means I'm perceived as arrogant or cocky, that is thier problem. If I needed to exude confidence to get ahead, even if internally I was severely self conscious, then so be it. Thier opinion of me was less important than my and my family's well being. Yeah, I understand that sounds selfish in the grand scheme of things, but my family is what matters to me.
To answer your question directly, be the best you. No one can ask for more and if you do that, you will be successful in what ever you decide to set your mind to.
No, the shell cracks eventually. When you look in the mirror and realize you are lying to yourself and everyone else. Better to have not started faking at all.
"Confident actions come first, feelings of confidence come second". This is what I remind myself. It's the same sentiment but sometimes taking confident actions are easier than faking feelings.
Unless people inherently think that you're smug. Then it just reinforces the notion. It's like trying to be stern while also having a resting bitch face...
Maybe its courage what you're looking for? I used to think about confidence a lot back in the day. Now I understand that im just a tired, overworked pussy overall.
simat8 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:26:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People also seem to confuse intense apathy with confidence!
Fake it till you make it has become something of a mantra for me but sometimes it doesn't 100% work. Like with feelings. When feelings are involved it's all about keeping your focus. You have to know what you want long term and don't let in-the-moment decisions ruin that long term goal. But yeah fake it till you make it. With enough time it can actually help you get over someone.
Confidence or shyness is just the way you think; when you reframe your thoughts and "fake" confidence, you're teaching your brain to see see the world that way! It's great. Same trick got me (almost) out of my depression.
SCB360 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:39:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a firm believer of "Fake it til you Make it" just know when you've "Made" it to stop faking
micmea1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:18:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The trick to mastering the adult world. It's a weirdly scary and comforting truth all at once. No one knows what the fuck we're doing. Not you, not your parents, not your grandparents, not your teachers, not your government. I'm sure there were people working on sending the Mars rover to space who have had that imposter syndrome panic attack of, "What the hell am I doing here?! Why are people trusting me to do this?!" But the rovers got up there, right?
I have an unfortunate side effect of this. It seems like everybody thinks I know what I'm doing. Apparently I exude confidence, and this has lead to me being put in charge of things. Things I have no business being in charge of.
Note: this does not mean to be more confident than your actual abilities. Iโm sorry but I review thousands of resumes and lying is not how you become โconfidentโ. Be yourself 1000% youโll be surprised how much better it comes off and if it doesnโt work out it wasnโt meant to be.
I, like many other teens, am a tragically insecure kid. I was so insecure about myself that I would skip school almost every day because I didnโt want people to look at me. Iโm almost sixteen now and over a year later of just โfakeโ confidence has turned it all real. Iโm way happier than I used to be and I havenโt skipped a single day of school since.
Meevex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:55:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Precisely so. I asked advice from an experienced colleague before teaching my first lecture. He simply said 'It's all an act, act the part of the teacher/lecturer, even if you've no idea what to say, confidence will make anything you say sound legitimate'.
I was in HS theater. I was a ham so I ended up as trees and mannequins and other shit that didnโt talk. I had no issues being up in front of tons of people and just clowning it up.
Iโm a stripper now and people ask me all the time what it was like to be naked in front of people all the time. I say that when I was in theater, theyโd tell me to imagine the audience in their underwear to get rid of stage fright. It works pretty good but it works even better the other way around where Iโm in my underwear and the audience isnโt.
There are areas where this is VERY bad advice. I met engineers who work like this (or the similar "fake it till you make it"). In that profession it's horrendous advice and can topple whole projects.
matt88 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:01:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
100% accurate. Ever since i picked up playing drums, Iโve become more confident in myself from performing for people
GSG2150 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I once read something about a โSuperman stanceโ, you stand feet shoulder length apart, fist your hands and place them on your hips, stick out your chest and take deep breaths. I did this in the bathroom before a job interview and nailed it. Iโve tried it again when I went into the interview for the job I am at now. It makes you feel strong and confident. Try it now in the mirror.
Faking acting "I'll just pretend to be a teacher, doctor, lawyer, king etc" is what we all do before we actually learn the routine of every occupation ever.
this really helped me in job interviews. I went in with my internal voice screaming "YOU GOT THIS YOU GOT THIS THIS IS EASY YOU GOT THIS!" drowning out all the doubt and anxiety
I did this when I moved schools at thirteen, and quite honestly I think I have a completely different and completely better personality now than I did before thirteen.
I have had trouble sleeping in hotels, and I travel a lot for work. Iโve gotten in to these songs on YouTube that use โdelta wavesโ and itโs working miracles on me. I donโt care if itโs science or bullshit and I donโt even want to look it up because itโs going so well for me.
Edit: so tempted to Rick Roll the fuck out of you guys but this sleep track literally fucks me up:
Edit2: seriously Iโm pretty stoked that this helped so many people. Anyone reading this i highly recommend you look through the responses to this comment and see all the different apps, websites, and tactics. Good luck and happy sleeping everyone!!!!! โค๏ธ
Oh the oscillate one is garbage. Its too realistic. It used a defective model that was recorded so after about 20 minutes into the track the fan got stock on one end of its sweep and kept going CLICK CLICK CLICK CLICK CLICK CLICK
One gigantic constantly updated collection of ambient noise generators that are fully customizable, don't have loops and don't repeat patterns. And is developed by a professional sound engineer.
Use the Rain Rain app. Bunch of different sounds you can choose from (forest rain, thunderstorm, ocean waves, crackling fire, etc.) and you can set it to fade out at a certain time. I just set it to end one minute before my alarm clock and Iโve slept like a baby ever since
Smiff89 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:28:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for telling me this is a thing. Every time I go to a hotel I have to try to fall asleep while the air conditioner is running really loud because I miss my box fan. Iโm going to start using this.
flushkz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:03:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually just have a box fan running in my room almost every day of the year because I like it cool when I sleep and I like the white noise it makes.
I have a google home in my bedroom for one purpose. "hey google, play the sound of the ocean" - it was for the newborn but I can't sleep without it either now.
Went on camping trip and in middle of night downloaded a box fan noise track out of desperation. Next morning awoke to discover I had actually purchased the entire album of baby sleep tracks which had 99 tracks. This was before I got on an unlimited plan. Oof.
Rain ambience does it for me. I try to trick myself into believing it's actually raining. I feel so much more comfy under the blankets this way! Plus, if I wake up in the middle of the night, it's still going, and you get that sort of warm buzzed vibe before going back to sleep.
MBncsa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:56:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Totally get it. Hair dryer sound videos on youtube help me cancle out any noisy environment I try to work in. Also: mynoise.net is one of the few online services that I ever paid for. tabletopaudio.com is a lovely website with tons of genre-specific 10 min loops...I like not listening to my colleagues.
I'm sure someone told you, but you can buy a machine that makes fan noises. I have one, it was like 50 bucks, it has 10 different fan noises and 10 different variations of generic white noise. I use it at home. I use it when I travel. I always use the same noise.
After only a week or so you condition your brain that when you hear that sound, it's sleep time. It works WONDERS. Well worth the investment.
I take the smallest dose melatonin tablets I can find sometimes. I doubt it really makes much of a difference chemically, but at the very least the routine and placebo effect definitely help.
Edit: So perhaps I was wrong. I know that melatonin is definitely not a placebo, but I was unaware of its baseline active dosage. It definitely does work for me chemically, it is my go-to solution for when I may have ingested certain other chemicals a little bit too late at night.
Also I think I may have crossed 50k comment karma today.
Faux-pa5 ยท 338 points ยท Posted at 01:16:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find that larger dose melatonin pills keep me awake, but smaller dose (2-3mg) is ideal for sleep. Research backs this up.
You're actually only supposed to take about 1.5 mg, no idea why the fuck they have stuff out there that's 10 MG per dose or more
Regilppo ยท 141 points ยท Posted at 01:34:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah fuck I've been using 10mg a night recently. They are gummies that come in 5mg doses. I feel it helps me get a good sleep so idk if it's bad to take that much.
Have you tried caffeine free pre-workout? If you already sleep 7 to 8 hours I find I don't need the caffeine, plus I usually have coffee in the morning anyways. The hardest part of my day is falling asleep, and getting moving in the morning. but even with 6 hours of sleep and 1 cup of coffee I don't run out of energy.
Joy2b ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:03:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre probably going to need to work your way down gradually on both.
You can probably drop both around 10-30% tomorrow with little impact, and do the same again next week with equally controllable impact, but persuading your body to make and want a reasonable amount of melatonin again wonโt be instant.
Donโt be afraid to talk to your doc.
[deleted] ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:39:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You build up a tolerance to it and it turns ineffective. Someone in this thread said they take 1.5 but Iโve read in many places itโs better to take .5 mg.
Itโs done my insomnia wonders.
eiggaMAD ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 01:50:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I believe there is also evidence to suggest taking a โmicroโ dose after lunch time is even more effective
djfl ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:18:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even more effective for sleeping at night, or for having an efficient afternoon nap?
Maybe whichever one you choose???
Though I think he meant sleep at night
Ulti ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:59:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
From what I've read about it, the sweet spot for dosages varies pretty widely between people, which explains the whacky range in dosages you see sometimes, ranging from .5mg to 5 per dose.
Staerke ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:13:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The half life of caffeine is 6-8 hours, meaning if you had 120 mg of caffeine at 4 pm, you still have 60 mg (6 oz of coffee) worth of caffeine in your system at 10 pm. And your body can acclimate to melatonin and you'll stop making your own. It's a really bad cycle to get into.
I'd find a new preworkout.
djfl ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:21:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This seemed wrong, so I looked it up. Google says 5-6 hours in healthy adults fwiw, but this is still depressingly higher than I thought it was. No wonder I feel like crap the morning after a dozen Jagerbombs.
There is a really great podcast episode of Stuff You Should Know about caffeine that is well worth the listen. I worked 3rd shift for about 4 years and drank more than my fair share of coffee and energy drinks and after that podcast I decided to cut back a bit.
I'm completely off energy drinks now and only about 3 cups of coffee a day and none after noon. Working on getting that down to 2 cups and the last one a couple hours sooner.
djfl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for the info. I will look into that. By "third shifts", do you mean midnight/overnight shifts? I do rotating shift work, so rotate through all 24 hours at different times. Good on you for getting off them if so. They take years off your life. According to the studies I've come across, if you work for 25 years...working all midnight shifts takes 1-3 years off your life, and working rotating shift work with midnights takes 3-5 years off your life. I'm not sure how much of that is direct and how much indirect (you eat worse, you exercise less, etc). Either way, cheers.
Yes I worked overnights. I did some research on it as well and found the same kind of results. Higher risk for many diseases and cancers also worried me. Many days it was hard to get more than a couple hours of sleep without waking up and then taking a couple hours to fall back asleep again. Even with blackout curtains and melatonin and a solid routine I still often had trouble sleeping more than 4-5 hours.
I got to the point without an energy drink I'd get a headache and they would last for hours until I had one. Once I had a few sips from it I could feel my headache go away almost instantly. That's when I knew I had to quit drinking those things.
Melatonin eventually slows, or even stops itโs own production with enough replacement. Itโs not recommended to take it often or much of it due to your body being tricked to slow down natural production over time.
0Nyxee ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:27:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This so much. A lot of people don't realize it when they're taking melatonin.
Melatonin is a hormone that's part of the body's circadian cycle. Your body starts releasing it hours before you're actually sleepy. It's not a sleeping pill. The idea is to boost your body's natural production.
That happened to me a lot when I first started taking melatonin and I donโt know if this is accurate or not but I felt like maybe it was just the first time in a long time that I had had any decent amount of REM sleep so I was dreaming like crazy. No idea if that is accurate or not. I do know that on melatonin I would wake up feeling better than I ever had in probably years.
Something about patents, I think. Regulation around supplements is super fucked up, even for an already-fucked-up area of US healthcare. Assuming you're in the US.
Anything more than 1 to 1.5 fucks my ass up the whole next day. Like I might as well have just gotten drunk and had a deep hangover.
Oh boy I got great sleep the night before! But I'm completely useless and unproductive.
It's like bargaining with the devil. get no sleep tonight and be fucking useless? I'll get all the sleep and be useless? Which form of useless is least worst.
I have a really hard time finding Melatonin at that low of a dosage. Usually I have to buy the gummies that have a recommended dosage of two gummies and only use one gummy, or one half of one gummy.
I tell this to other people and I think I'm crazy. I've told it to doctors and they tell me that low of a dose doesn't work and I must be wrong.
Welp! I'm not. And I'm so glad to finally find some other evidence of this experience.
I'm perscribed 10-20mg because I have severe insomnia to the point where some nights my brain doesn't produce ANY melatonin. However, once I took 2 10mg when I was having a particularly anxious and anticipating night, by 11 I forgot because it wasn't working like normal and I took 2 more. It wasn't until 2am when I had given up trying to sleep that I realized "oh shit. I took waaay too much."
10mg tends to work pretty good for me - less doesn't do much. Haven't tried more since 10 does it. I don't know if working graveyard shift has anything to do with it or not, but it helps, so whatever.
alexm42 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:28:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
10 mg is what they give nursing home patients who don't get enough sun to establish a proper circadian rhythm. I'm of the opinion that such a large dose shouldn't be available OTC, even though it's not that bad for you, just because of all the people who don't take the time to properly inform themselves about what a reasonable dose is or consult their doctor.
Wryel ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:31:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've heard of people taking Jess than 0.5mg and getting good results. I have 5mg tablets and chew a little chunk. Works and I don't feel groggy in the morning.
tiorzol ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:13:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How much do you chew?
Wryel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:56:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't take it with water, so I chew it until it's completely dissolved. Usually because I'm taking it later than I'd planned and assume that will make it work faster.
They have time-releasing melatonin. They worked better for me because I have a HARD time going to sleep and I have bad back issues. On regular melatonin it takes a few hours to kick in and Iโm up every 1-2 hours.
Sarasha ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:46:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've tried it. I grow a tolerance to it. I've tried just about every kind of sleeping medication since I was a teenager and within a week or two it stops working.
This is good to know.. my 5mg was good the first few times and now it feels counter productive.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:37:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only time I got insomnia was from melatonin. It fucked me up and I kept needing more and more and my sleep even with it was horrible but worse without.
Unisom does wonders though
Yeah youโre not supposed to take large doses. I had to go to the doctor over sleep issues. She asked me if I take melatonin and I said โyeah about 20 mg a nightโ. She said higher doses actually have a reverse effect. Youโre only supposed to take 10 mg at the most
Tfapone ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:42:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shiet so I've been doing it wrong. I took 10 of those zzzquil gummies and was hyper as shit. Also 12 hrs later when I was able to sleep I dreamt I got shot.
djfl ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:17:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
whaaaaaat? I tried high-dose melatonin when I was young and having some trouble sleeping. The melatonin had the opposite effect. I had no idea that less is more...
My mom has melatonin that she takes and she encouraged me to take one once. After I did, I googled it to see how long it should take me to get to sleep, and then I noticed that like 1.5mg is how much you should take.
So I go to see how much I've taken and it was a 10mg pill. I had a terrible night, didn't sleep at all, I'm pretty sure I had some auditory hallucinations, not to mention weird half-dreams that I only seem to have when I'm on anti-anxiety medication. I have no clue why they sell 10mg pills when that's way too much.
I have overdosed on melatonin before, only had the 10mg pills, popped 5 and stayed up all night sweating and gritting my teeth said fuck it and bought the 3mg can confirm works much better
They tend to knock me out in like ten minutes, but I have a small stature and work/commute a lot so maybe it's just all those factors combined and not solely because of the quantity of the dosage itself...?
It might just have the opposite effect on you. My mom tried giving me Benadryl when I was younger to sleep. I was bouncing off the walls the whole night.
Lately I've been taking 10 mg and it makes me really sleepy, but it puts me in this weird half-awake half-asleep fog where my brain is still really active all night. I didn't know larger doses could do that, but it lines up with my experience recently.
Just a small thing that probably doesnโt mean much but melatonin can be detrimental to your brain. Itโs better to take magnesium as it calms you instead.
source: my nurse practitioner mom (sheโs always been right so i donโt question her)
kayelar ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:25:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve read that the therapeutic dose of melatonin is actually a fraction of the smallest dose you can buy so Iโm sure itโs helping.
This is accurate. The MIT scientists that discovered melatonin patented all of the doses they believed would be clinically effective. Since it's tolerable at very high doses the supplement industry just started putting out significantly higher doses so they could sell it.
300 mcg is the recommended dose. I've seen 10mg doses on the shelves before ~33x higher.
I sometimes take 1/4 or half of one and still get the sleep cuing effect.
I also highly recommend the long acting stuff. There's a 300 mcg long acting one you can get on Amazon that will give you some rull good sleep.
"scientists led by Professor Richard Wurtman, principal investigator for the current study, showed that only a small dose of melatonin (about 0.3 milligrams) is necessary for a restful effect."
"The researchers also found, however, that commercially available melatonin pills contain 10 times the effective amount. And at that dose, 'after a few days it stops working,' said Wurtman,"
"When Wurtman first discovered the efficacy of small doses of melatonin, he and MIT patented its use for dosages up to one milligram. Because the FDA defined the hormone as a dietary supplement, however, manufacturers were free to sell it in much higher dosages, 'even though we knew they wouldn't work,' Wurtman said."
Man, I'm a shift worker where I switch nights and days pretty regularly. Melatonin is awesome. 90% sure its total effect on me is placebo since for some reason it knocks me out in like 10 minutes, but I'll take it.
Yep I take it for the placebo effect as well! And Iโm really good at forgetting I took it and freaking myself out that I wonโt be able to sleep (anxiety ftw!) I told my neuroscience professor I take melatonin and he said it was not a good idea... two years later and Iโm still taking it lol
I have medication-induced insomnia (thanks Lexapro) and take 3mg melatonin, 500mg magnesium, and 25mg doxylamine. My doc didn't want to prescribe benzos since they're addictive, so that's what he recommended instead. Individually they don't do much for me, but all together it's an effective cocktail.
Like the others said, melatonin as sold is in a crazy high dosage. I have a bunch of the 3mg tablets and I'll nibble off a third of one. Yes, it tastes chalky but not bad. This sounds weird, but chew that bit, mix it with your saliva and try to keep it between your gum and lips. That gets the small amount in the bloodstream way faster than taking a pill. It works great and my dreams aren't too weird, which is a common side effect from taking higher doses.
Speaking of Melatonin, I was trying that when I was having trouble sleeping (think prince of bel-air but without the rich uncle). Gave it a shot with the thought of 'no idea if this will work, but it can't hurt', and what I found out is it was pretty potent for me. Put me out in a half hour and if I woke up with less than seven hours' sleep, I was a zombie for the day. So I keep it around if shit gets bonkers and I can't sleep well.
I see this discussion about melatonin and my experience with it was that i felt my heart slow down a scary amount and had palpitations when laying in bed also breathing was a bit harder. I only took 1,5mg
It probably does because most melatonin tablets have way too much in them. 0.5 mg give or take is all you need since melatonin is already being produced, I see the most well-branded products dosing at 5 mg which is quite a bit more.
Damn this reminded me of this program called iDoser that was going around in 2006 or so. Basically it played a noise for 30 minutes and when you were done, it was supposed to get you high. Me and a friend did it in 9h grade and he swore he got high. I obviously did not.
I tried the โHand of Godโ dose once, and oddly enough it did make my eyelids flutter, which I saw afterwards was reported by others too. Didnโt do anything else but I did find that strange!
Ulti ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:00:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really like using delta waves too- thereโs an App called โsimple habitโ that has that as a option for falling asleep- you pick the length of time and I love it because no ads and it shuts off once itโs cycled through the 30 minutes or so. :)
How can I listen to this while my phone automaticslly locks after a few minutes?
The usual lock after doesn't work because itms a video and I don't want my phone to stay on throughout the night
I always wake up very early in the morning and struggle getting back to sleep and this morning whilst reading reddit at 4am I noticed this comment, played the video you shared and fell nicely back to sleep. How can I repay the favour?
They have a lot of other good channels, too... including Black Rock FM (from Burning Man). I like it because it "follows the sun" (PST8PDT) and the tempo of the music changes appreciably with the time of day. Though, the techno and dubstep (?) / high-voltage party music goes until about 3am on the weekends.
Edit: Linkage
Edit 2: Another "odd pleasure" is their SF1033, which is a mix of ambient music with a reverberated backdrop of the San Francisco Public Safety scanners, in the background. It's weirdly soothing (coming from a person who uses Live ATC radio to fall asleep to on cross country redeyes)
edophx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:34:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did you try hookertin also known as prostitunol availible at the bar of hotels, I heard it tires you out when you travel, but then you sleep well. Side effects may include ghonoherpasyphilaids. :)
If you can't think of one, do 3 for the previous letter and 3 for the next letter. Looking at your phone will only work against you, so it's better to have a system in place to "make up" for when that happens.
I do something similar but I start with the last letters of a word then go through the alphabet and skip over letters that donโt work: at. Aat (nope), bat, cat, dat, eat, fat, gat, hat, etc.
i also pick random words from whatever nature documentary i have playing and 'draw' them out in cursive with my big toe. like literally moving my foot around and tracing it in the air.
This gives me so much anxiety as a person with ADHD.
Iโd get three letters into the alphabet for any given category before I my brain was suddenly buzzing with a thousand different thoughts about
are anchovies good or bad? That Barracuda song is good. I liked anchovies that one time, why are they salty? Carp carp magikarp. Damselfish like damsel in distress like Daphne from Scooby Doo. Are they salty? What is the flavor of an anchovy? Oooooh, Barra-cuda! What is Sarah Michelle Gellar up to? Does magikarp evolve at level 20 or 21? I think anchovies would be good on like a foccacia. That one episode of Buffy was actually scary but I donโt really remember what happened. Ooh, flounder! dum-ta-da-dum ta-da-dum ta-da dum ta-da dum ta-da dum ta-da dum DOO-DOO-DOOOOOO Where is my DS?
Iโd end up googling a fruit that starts with a D and two hours later come up for air from the rabbit hole Iโve been down and then spend the next hour trying to remember what started me down the rabbit hole, and then Iโd end up back on Reddit and rinse and repeat until 3am. Any advice for this sort of issue?
I do something similar but I start with the last letters of a word then go through the alphabet and skip over letters that donโt work: at. Aat (nope), bat, cat, dat, eat, fat, gat, hat, etc.
This is a game my daughter's pre-k teacher taught her class to help learn the alphabet. She enjoyed it so much, we played for years afterward around the campfire.
Funny, my girlfriend and her sister do this as a form of entertainment on long car/plane trips
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:38:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Poobyrd ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:51:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Indubitably ;)
Robbie-R ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:41:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I play a game like that with my wife and kids in the car on road trips. One person says a food that starts with the letter A, "Apple" for example. The next person has to say a food that starts with the last letter of the previous food, in this case E, so egg would work. It's not the greatest car game but it gets the passengers off their phones for half an hour and mildly entertains the driver.
hypo11 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:51:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to try to name all of the teams in the NFL, NHL, MLB and NBA.
Oh wow, I do this too! Animals, colors, dog breeds - you name it. Itโs fun to do with your SO too if you want to bore each other to sleep.
Itโs almost nostalgic to do it now that we live in the age โphones before bedโ - shutting off electronics and being alone with your thoughts is relaxing in and of itself.
Yes! Iโve been doing The Alphabet Game since I was a kid to help me lull myself to sleep; my favorite categories are authors, book titles, people I know, land mammals, and celebrities I would sleep with ๐
I do this too, but all together! โAdam eats apples from Austin with aardvarks. Billy eats berries from Boston with bears. Charlie eats cantaloupe from Cincinnati with cats...โ
Me too! I thought I was the only one! I am a master at Scattergories. I never thought about doing countries or fish...I usually do video game-related categories.
When I canโt fall asleep, I replay my last round of golf in my head. I typically make it to about hole 12 before Iโm out. Turns out replaying golf in your mind is just as effective at making one sleep as watching it on TV.
cjog210 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:10:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll definitely try these out next time. I usually stick to counting down from a thousand in intervals of 7 or some other prime prime numbers (e.g., 1,000, 993, 986, ...)
This would absolutely not work for me. As soon as I get to a letter I can't find anything for I'm going to have to get out my phone and Google "countries starting with the letter H"
Poobyrd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:11:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
codyish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:12:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I had nightmares as a kid my parents taught me to play a singing version of this in my head.
"A my name is Adam I come from Alabama and I like to eat Apples! B my name is Brian I come from Baltimore I like to eat Berries!" (Where you tried to think of different names/places/foods every time). I don't think I ever made it past "F".
Oh my gosh thank God itโs not just me. Now we need to collaborate on the lists where we canโt some up with something in that category for that letter. What you got, Iโm ready.
kea5223 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then wake up wondering who charged my account for a plane ticket to Albania via the Bahamas with a half eaten apple in my bed and an uneaten anchovie pizza.
Coloring is amazing for insomnia because you are required to focus but you are focusing on a thing that is not also stimulating you in a way that keeps your brain active.
Poobyrd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:12:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I already draw and paint all day, it would just feel like more work haha.
I do this, sort of. I like to pretend im playing in the World Series of Poker. I run through my hand, and what all the other players do at my table. Usually I am passed the ass out by the flop.
Did that and hit the nuts on the flop with the 4 final players of the event fighting the hand. I m the Big Stack and now I'll have insomnia thinking about what to do with the prize money! 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 elephant help!
This is close to what I do. I have been doing this for probably 20 or more years.
I have on going stories about space, and the universe and galaxies where humans have the technology to cross vast distances in the blink of an eye, and in this universe.. stuff happens. There is a one universe government, but very little other intelligent life in this universe. There are different groups, like a system where AI can be given freedom, but free AI do not live and work with humans, they have their own place to live, and they have issues that people have with debt and poverty and will at times sell themselves back to servitude to humans. There is also magic and shit because it's my fucking universe so whatever.
it's weird to think there are people on this planet that do the same exact shit that you do when trying to sleep. Especially because it feels so random lol
This tends to help me a lot too! Shutting my eyes and trying to not open them rarely helps for me, instead I just stare at the ceiling until my eyes are too heavy to keep open.
My brain will keep itself occupied and it takes a lot of effort to go to sleep. Laying in darkness. Eyes closed. Tired and relaxed. But my mind just goes.
Yep, that's how I fall asleep. I can't sleep when my mind isn't going. Usually I try to focus it away from "hey remember that dumb thing you did in 3rd grade" by thinking up dumb stories.
Usually I start with something interesting (magical kingdom fantasy adventure) and then move to something relaxing (tired from the adventure, the characters get ready for bed) or boring (the characters have to sit around and listen to fantasy politics for forever) to actually fall asleep.
I probably do after spending hours thinking about all the dumb things I did as a kid, eyes wide open.
[deleted] ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 01:36:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly! I just give up and tell myself "well I'm going to stay up all night then, who needs sleep any way, I've done loads of productive things on no sleep before" and that's pretty much the only thing that'll do it. Actively trying to fall asleep out of an anxiety that lacking sleep is a big problem, using whatever technique, is way too stressful to fall asleep doing.
Mine is similar. I sometimes close on eye and try to concentrate to leave the other only halfway open. A lot of times my body gives up easily and closes it, and I falk asleep quickly. Weird, but it works for me.
sosila ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:41:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read once that if you canโt fall asleep itโs better to do something else until you end up tired enough to sleep. Sometimes I reread books Iโve read a million times or manuals until Iโm tired.
If only that worked for my little brother. It's actually quite a problem when he goes in to the hospital to do a sleep study. One time in particular he wound up with triple the recommended dose of sedatives in his system, and he was still up, still reading, still claiming to not be tired.
Condawg ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:11:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is generally what I try to do, just stay up until I'm tired enough to pass out, but I can stay awake for so long. I think I should do a sleep study or something, but I really don't want to.
I can easily stay awake for 20 hours after each sleep, but if I get less than 6-8 hours of sleep, I'm pretty useless. This results in my sleep/wake time being pushed back, and back, and back, until I'm waking up at 8pm and just staying up into the next night to "reset."
I'm fortunate that I've found work I can do from home in my own time, because trying to hold a regular sleep schedule together for a regular job is nearly impossible. I end up not sleeping enough and hating my life. Sleep just doesn't happen when I want it to. School sucked.
ColumW ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:36:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You have to be very careful with this, though. For example, it's NOT better to scroll through your phone until you get tired enough to sleep...It won't work at all. Things like this actually keep you awake.
HapaDis ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 01:40:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve always struggled with insomnia. Growing my my dad told me โyou donโt have to fall asleep, you just have to keep your eyes closed.โ
Whenever I remember this at night, it takes the pressure off trying to fall asleep and Iโm out within five minutes. Every time.
Syphe ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:35:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yeah this is what helped me, I remember reading somewhere that more important than sleep is just to be resting with your eyes closed, since I read that I can probably count the number of sleepless nights I've had on one hand.
jb2386 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:51:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also just cycle through the muscles in your body tense them then relax. Then slow your breath. Basically if you act like you do when youโre asleep (closed eyes, relaxed body, slow breathing) you trick you mind into falling asleep.
Itโs like the if you force yourself to smile, youโll become happy thing.
HapaDis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:44:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even if itโs just a trick to get me to stop freaking out about not being able to sleep, I totally stand by it. It helps me surrender.
When I was young I figured out how your breathing slows when you're asleep and if I wanted my parents to think I was sleeping I would fake it when they checked on me. 2/3s of the time I ended up falling asleep while pretending to be asleep because I was trying to stay awake.
This requires too much thinking. I'll keep myself awake trying to think of things. I just start counting backwards from 1000. I can check out from that enough to fall asleep. And I half to count backwards, because if I go forward, I'll keep myself awake trying to see how high I can go.
When I do something that simple my brain just counts while also thinking of other things. I need to make myself think enough that I don't get distracted.
bgwinup ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:42:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I pretend Iโm an eagle sitting on top of a mountain looking over a gorge. I then walk toward the edge and get my wings ready to jump off into the gorge. I dive down into the gorge piercing the air with almost complete silence. I then slowly tilt upwards until I am level with with the trees, river, and rocks about 100ft below me.
Thatโs always about as far as I get before I fall asleep. Iโve been doing this for 10 years!
The thing that Iโve found helps me the most, by far, is thinking about a really intense fantasy situation. My go-to is surviving a zombie apocalypse.
So Iโll imagine fortifying an old building and doing patrols around the perimeter, etc.
I know this sounds totally insane because it seems like that would stress a person out and actually prevent sleep.
But it works for me because it prevents me from thinking about real life. If I think about real life Iโll be up until 3 AM (even if itโs positive thoughts).
Carmany ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:00:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do the same thing, currently have a group of survivors hanging out in an apartment complex with an underground parking garage.
My go to use to one of being stranded on a desert island or deep in some impossibly vast mountains. Every time it would always be the earliest stages of setting up a living space, hunting for food, etc.
For a little while it was a scenario where I wake up and almost everybody in the world has disappeared, forcing me to team up with an odd group of the few "survivors" left in my town and trying to make a new life out of the ashes of our old ones.
For some reason those survival scenarios are just an easy go to, and it's also kind of a fun distraction while waiting for my brain to fall asleep. I'd always end up getting too wrapped up in the details and never really advancing the "story" very far before I konk out for the night.
Yeah, fantasy does wonders for me. If Iโm watching a show I usually try and imagine myself doing something in that show. For the duration of that show, during the night, I try and continue the โmini-saga.โ Then Iโll jump to a different time period and do something similar. Iโve been doing it since I was a kid, and still do it well into my 20s. Like right Iโm watching GoT and rewatching Avatar, so I go wild with that.
I do something similar but thereโs science behind it.
You imagine an animal in an unnatural color ie a pink giraffe. You imagine every detail you can and then when youโve gone from head to toe imagining every detail in a different shade of the unnatural color you picked you move on to an orange alligator or a blue rhino etc.
Imagining a familiar animal in an unnatural color distracts both sides of your brain- the memory (the animal) and the creative (the unnatural color).
sshrimpp ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 23:04:22 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So when you say count you mean go through the letters tight?
Ooooh, I was imagining picking a random letter (let's say K), say a word starting with K, then count 8 letters from that - L,M,N,O,P,Q,R,S, then say a word starting with S, etc.
This is basically what I do too. If I'm really tired but my brain won't shut up, i can usually just count backwards from 100 and force my body to relax slowly from toes to head. If I'm kinda tired but need to sleep because I have to wake up in 5 hours or my day will be dogshit, I start at 1000. I occasionally reach zero and have to start over, but it's rare.
Namika ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:56:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do the tried and true "count sheep". I just imagine a sheep (or horse, whatever) slowly walking up to a fence and hopping over it. Repeat.
Having to wait for the animal to walk over to the fence and then jump is a pretty effective way to pace your counting (you end up counting about once every 3 to 5 seconds). The only other trick to it is just the fairly obvious advice to remain perfectly still. Flip your pillow, get nice and comfy, and just go totally numb and start counting.
I don't think I've ever had to counnt past 40. It's remarkable how quickly it works.
When your mind is racing you gotta fill it with something so it can't go off on it's own. Years ago when unemployed I had this trouble nightly. Eventually I started watching the western channel. Not the cool Clint spaghetti westerns around midnight but the hokey old ones from the 50's that came on way way later. It was just a good guy, bad guy, the girl, the horse, and maybe the poker game or something benign like that. Their problems seemed so simplistic and insignificant compared to what I had on my mind.
I started by picturing myself out in that time period. Eventually believe it or not it somehow turned from westerns to RV's. Taking an RV ride out indefinitely by myself. I love my wife and kids but they can cause stress. Are they learning as well as they should, am I as good a father as I need to be, as good a husband, etc. In this world I'm magically on my own and independently wealthy so no money issues. Just cruising around small town midwest with no goals in sight. At this point, by the time I get going anywhere I'm snoozzzzzing.
Choose a single word. I'll use the last word in your username: "mountain"
Mountain has eight letters, "eight" has five letters, "five" has four letters, and "four" has four letters...four is cosmic.
Try this with any word. You will always end up with four.
rydubb ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:30:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's just a function of the length of the number words themselves, as opposed to what word you choose no? One, two, six, and ten all have 3 letters, three points to five, which points to four. Seven and eight point to five, which as stated above points to four. And five, nine and four itself all point to four. The longest word in English is forty-five letters, which is reduced to 9 and then 4.
Perhaps finding the most number of steps you can take would be an interesting alternative, but I'd imagine it will be hard to go past 6 steps.
I do something similar to this. I close my eyes and visualize colours. I start with red, which is easier for some reason, and then once I get red, I try to do other colours. Just sort transitioning from one to another. If i lose my way I go back to red. But then sometimes those colours turn into imagery. And then sometimes that imagery transitions me into a lucid dream. When it works, it's a beauty way to go.
This is one of those things where if you want to sleep you gotta keep your mind focused on something. Usually for me I focus on my breathing, taking long deep breaths and breathing out slowly. Eventually I fall asleep.
In Saving Private Ryan, theres a scene where a character mentions the trick to fall asleep is to just try to focus on staying awake. I've found it to actually be very effective, I think you're right about using your brain as you fall asleep. It really helps.
I picture myself in one of those endless white rooms. In front of me is a giant wall of light switches. If I switch the very last switch, it turns off the lights alllllll the way at the back of the room. Then I switch the next switch and the next row of lights goes out. And on and on and on. I have never made it to the last row of lights before falling asleep.
When I can't sleep, I pick up one of my old textbooks. I'm out before I finish the page.
sivadon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:43:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think of a destination and then try to get there by any method. Walk, drive, fly, whatever. Then I think of every detail I can that I would pass along the way. Iโm out in no time. Also, I never make it to the destination. Worked for years.
My go to trick is to focus on seeing the darkness and listening to the nothing. It's hard to explain, but trying to do both at once forces my mind to clear and I normally am out shortly after.
I like to think I'm a time traveler and go back in time and need to explain something like a smartphone.
You see, it's a small pc that runs on electricity....oh yeah, electricity is....wait, how do I explain this invisible juice that runs things....rinse and repeat until we can finally find common ground....all while trying not to get hung as a witch.
Learn mindfulness meditation, it takes a while for it to work well but it's a skill and it helps change the relation ship with those thoughts so you can clear your mind push them to the side which is what this is trying to do. Check out headspace and insight timer apps.
The way I distract my brain is by turning on a YouTube video/channel that I've watched to death and put it on loop. I know it's not good but I also get nightmares if I sleep in silence and it helps distract my brain while I sleep as well
My husband does this too!! I can never tell if heโs watching a video or trying to go to sleep. He picks channels who he thinks have soothing voices, like Shaun. I definitely had no idea other people did his.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:11:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always just replay forest gump in my head.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:19:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I found that opening my eyes in complete darkness makes me feel tired
jbhilt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:38:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try ASMR videos. They works great. I have a hard time falling sleep, but these videos put me out within minutes. Look up TingTing, she's amazing. Her videos are so relaxing.
My trick is to imagine you are teaching someone the rules of a somewhat complex game (baseball, starcraft, poker, etc.) and try to describe it as clearly as you can. It puts me out in minutes.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
1.Pick a letter of the alphabet
In that case I choose "X"
2.Count to 8
1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8
3.When you get to 8, think of a word that starts with your letter
Xylophone. Easy
4.Count to 8 again
1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8
5.Think of a different word that starts with that letter
Umm.....Xenophobe
6.Repeat ad nauseum
Aww shit, can I get some help?
seag ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
how fast do you count?
Namika ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:00:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think of the old "counting sheep" thing you always hear about. Just imagine a short fence in a field somewhere, and a sheep walks over and jumps the fence. Count. Then another sheep trots over, and he jumps the fence. Count. Then another little sheep shuffles over and he jumps the fence. Count...
It ends up being a really relaxing way to pace your counting. It ends up being like one "count" every three to five seconds. If you ignore the sheep thing and just count abstractly you can end up counting way too fast, or get too worried about keeping the right counting speed. By counting sheep you are naturally pacing yourself.
seag ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:08:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always listen to an ambient music playlist quietly (general ambient stuff and pink noise) and start counting backwards from 1000 by 7s when I canโt get my brain to shut up.
If I think of things while I sleep then my thoughts just keep me awake.
I found the best way is to just think of nothing, just like you're meditating. If you feel a thought come on, just stop and let it go. Try to keep your head completely empty and not 'holding on' to anything. Works like a charm!
I count backwards from 300 by 3's. Just enough concentration to distract you from your thoughts, but not so much that you can't fall asleep. Never made it to less than 200.
It's so weird how your thoughts are controlled by your brain in the first place, yet you can purposefully think of certain things and bore it to sleep.
wired89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:52:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I rearrange furniture in my mind.. works pretty well
I WISH that worked for me. About the only way to get my asshole brain to shut off is to take Ambien. I keep a journal. Normally, an entry takes up one page. When I'm unable to sleep, an entry can take up 10 pages or more. Hand-written, mind you. I write down every fleeting thought, anxiety-induced what-if scenario, just in an attempt to wear my brain out. Doesn't work a lot of the time.
Allowing my brain to think those anxiety-induced thoughts just keeps me up. I cast a mental net over an unpleasant subject I donโt want to dwell on, visualize the net being caught up and tightened closed around the subject, and thrown away or buried, or some other method of containment. If I start thinking of another negative thing, I trap that one too and visualize disposing of it. I usually fall asleep pretty quickly if I do that.
It usually works for me, sometimes I have to do it a second time, but rarely a third. Itโs a way of refusing to allow myself to dwell on stressful thoughts.
I read an article once about โ4-7-8 breathingโ and itโs helped me a lot on sleepless nights. Basically you slowly breath in 4 for seconds through the nose, hold your breath for 7 seconds and release it slowly through your mouth for 8 seconds (then repeat of course).
My old boss always said "Experience is what you get just after you needed it." Now when I screw something up, I just think "well I know what not to do next time!"
For sure, ruling out poor choices is super important. That's happened at work and home many times in the past where one of us will say "well what if we do this?"
"because that has electricity running through it and doing that would make us die." (or something else equally important)
"so what do we do instead?"
"iunno, but not that."
ObieUno ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:47:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So deep, so inspiring.
9212017 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:32:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or watching other people messing everything up. My old manager never reported anything to HR or LP. He got into so much shit. Now that I have his job is like "report all the things!" Cover your ass at all times.
This is a fun lesson I learned when replacing the top element in a water heater. Open the pressure vent while filling it. If you don't the top element won't be submerged and will fry when power is applied.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:21:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Experience is what you get just after you needed it."
I Love this, but also think its stupid. Its another way of saying you cant predict the future.
Im not sure i see that perspective...what i was thinkin was when i have a task i dont know hiw to do, thats the time i would need the experience, but dont have it. Once i stumble my way through the task, i now have the experience. So i got it, just after needing it. (I know i just like repeated the damn thing but it sounded like an explanation in my head! Anyway i was trying to think.of it as cant predict the future, i couldnt get there
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:00:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Experience is your minds way of predicting future outcomes based on past outcomes. You cant predict the future based on the future.
cgello ยท 5100 points ยท Posted at 01:51:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought depression is what you get when you don't get what you want.
The best kind of pranks! I tricked my friend into letting me suck his dick and we all laughed at him for hours. He fell for it like five more times! We laughed all day.
dblink ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 05:23:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
__set ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:23:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In most programming languages, a single = means youโre setting something. So you just caused Depression to equal experience and I just realized that I donโt know where Iโm going with this. Okay, good night, internet friend.
This is very important to consider. People see depression as a monster to escape from and never look back at it ever again. But the more you try to deny your depression and kill it off, the stronger it comes back because you thought you got rid of it. Instead you have to accept that depression has taken up a part of your life, whether youโre still in it or have come out of it.
I was depressed for 5 years. I still have days where I feel like Iโm going back down again but now I have the energy to fight it and go to bed in peace. I know itโs going to be a part of me for a long time, but I know I have the power to say โfuck you, depressionโ because Iโve fought it long enough.
For me depression was caused by trying to fit into how I thought others saw me, and how I should be. Sometimes I think that a lot of depressed people do this without realizing they are. When you're not the person who you truly are then who are you? It throws out your sense of self and it can really mess with you trying to live up to others' expectations of you, whether real or imagined.
Pmang6 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:22:26 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depression is what you have when you don't even know what you want. Or maybe you got what you wanted, but it still doesn't make you happy. Or maybe you have every reason to be happy, but you're still not.
If you got what you wanted, but still don't feel satisfied, only part of you wanted that. It appears the part of you that wanted it does not have control over your emotions. So why are you listening to that part of you anyways? Is it because you can't distinguish between the part of you that control your wants from the part that controls your actual desires? You need to be able to identify the different emotions that pop up in your head. Find out what you really want, not what others think you should want.
But let's suppose you did take this advice, but you're still struggling. Consider this example of a concept you might relate to: Your dad's cancer just went into remission, but you still don't feel relieved. You feel nothing despite knowing the fact of the matter. What have you in this scenario? Well for starters, sometimes reality takes its time to set into your head. It may not have set in that your dad has been saved, or it may not have set in that your dad was in danger in the first place. If you haven't been thinking about his situation too deeply, this could also be the case. Whatever the scenario though, it probably comes down to a lack of mindfulness on your part. Be aware of yourself, no one actually knows themselves with 100% accuracy.
Modorox ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:00:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know you were making a joke but I think mental health is taken more seriously when we don't equate feelings to things like depression.
To anyone interested - Being sad, upset, or frustrated sometimes is fine. It is part of the human experience. Depression is an extended period (2 weeks, generally) of low mood often accompanied by feelings of helplessness and isolation. Many patients describe it as a black mist that takes the rest of the world away. If you are feeling like this, help is out there. Therapy is a great place to start, whether through a professional or self-help if you are able. Medication may be useful, too, to support you in therapy if needed. You are not a freak or weak for having depression but it will help take your life back.
Hell I've never seen or heard of someone with depression until I registered on Reddit. There are so many depressed people. I feel like people here in central/east Europe doesn't even know depression.
maselsy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depression is what you get when you get what you want but still feel empty -- prompting you to question if you really even wanted that. You should want it, but you don't, probably because you don't deserve it. Does it matter then? Not really. Probably not. You don't really care either way. Except that you should, which engulfs you in guilt.
You're conflating depression with sadness. Which may be good for some pointless virtual karma, but is dismissive of the extremely serious reality of depression, which kills a lot of people -- probably including people you care about.
The Last Lecture taught me so much. This one in particular helped bring my confidence out of the dirt with regards to my job when I realized I have far more experience than I gave myself credit for. Really helped me realize how to market myself in a job interview.
I t s l i t e r a l l y t h e t o p c o m m e n t.
Like I get that when you saw it it wasnโt the top comment or maybe not anywhere near but if you think itโs so good it will probably get more upvotes.
I needed this today. I was the top candidate for a promotion I applied for in a different area of the department. I really want out of my current job, which I hate Rather than give me the promotion, my boss eliminated the position and split the work amongst my coworkers.
She says I'm too valuable in my current position. So now I'm studying for a certification that will hopefully earn me a position in a different department entirely.
This is a pretty big one. With my job, you will literally never learn much of anything until something goes wrong. You can train just about every scenario but you'll still go into panic mode when something goes wrong. The stakes are high too. You either learn, quickly, or you just made a $500,000 mistake.
jbmaun ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:43:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I remember a fantastically old physics professor I had in college telling us something similar. โI wan not going to touch the terminals on the capacitor. Thatโs called good judgement.
Good judgement comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgementโ.
I also think it's useful to have the mindset that you're gonna get some experience with something, learn about it, not succeed in it. If you succeed, that's great, but if you fail and get experience that's great too, because that's what you set out to do in the first place.
This doesn't apply all the time I guess, but you can mostly apply such a mindset successfully.
In the context of an internship. You WANT the internship for the experience. If not experience what word would I use to describe what I got from the internship?
xbwtyz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being awful at something is the first step to being really good at it.
I have a horrible habit of holding onto every little mistake I do for too long. If it's a relatively major mistake, I find ways to punish myself for it.
This is the advice my dad gave to me last year when I broke down with him on the phone and it has really helped me stay optimistic about life. Yes, you fucked up, but you're lucky you fucked up now and learned a great lesson so you won't fuck up later when the consequences would be much larger.
I swim. Let me tell you that drinking water during practice is vital. Just donโt do it during a lap. That is probably pool water, and will not taste nice.
Source: frequently consume people soup well traversing it.
oneEYErD ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 04:11:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're telling me drinking pool water is bad? I've been bottling it from my neighbors for fifteen years...
I recently learned that thereโs a parasite that can live in chlorinated water for an hour to two weeks depending I guess on the temp of the water. Nasty little buggers too.
I always thought chlorine killed everything in its path, but apparently not...
Although there are some germs that are only killed by peroxide, so...just try not to think about it day to day lol.
Well I read itโs mostly in really unclean water like lakes and ponds especially in less developed countries. So I think youโre probably fine ๐๐ป. Unless youโre doing laps in a stagnant pond somewhere remote full of grossness ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ
[deleted] ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:31:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
the soup is made of People!
"sir, I must ask you to stop drinking the pool water."
Chakylin ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 02:00:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Came here to say this. Twice, I've had to go to the ER because of overhydration. It gets 110ยฐF here with 100% humidity, so I thought I was doing well. No, in fact I was diluting my blood so much that I started uncontrollably vomiting with added dizziness. Nearly fainted in class because of it.
Gauge how much you need to drink based on your urine. You want it to be barely yellow, but not clear.
Nothing that effects my water retention, sweating, or urinating. I have an oral fixation, so having a cup with a straw is really addicting for me. But in the back of my head, I always hears "never stop drinking" and fucked myself over.
Granted, I had SO much. But still, I thought I was doing good since it was summer and I was sweating and walking across my college campus.
Did this once. Several hours later, threw up mostly water. A lot of water. Cannot stress how much water came out of me. Very unpleasant. 10/10 ould not recommend.
Fun fact: babies shouldnโt drink a lot of water (like, a 10 month old shouldnโt really have more than 3 oz pure water a day) because it can be toxic to them. So yes never stop drinking water, except you babies. None for you.
betaich ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:16:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Water can also be toxic to adults. The levels for babies are just easier reached, because they are smaller and have less blood.
I see this advice alot. Are more people dehydrated or do you mean drink water instead of soda? How do I know if I'm already drinking enough water or I'm in denial of your advice?
I hated drinking water because our well water is horrific and I didnโt like the bottled water my parents always bought. I bought a bottle of everything affordable at the store and tried them all till I found one that quenched my thirst and tasted good. Now after a good 5 years I actually CRAVE water, something I never thought would happen to me. It makes such a difference. That and carrying a water bottle 24/7 so I have instant access no matter where I am.
I liked the water that came out of my fancy filter pitcher i got for my wedding, but it got lost in a recent move. Our new apartment's water is DISGUSTING. Unfortunately, the only bottled waters i like the taste of are Evian and Fiji. RIP my wallet.
If you think you're hungry - drink water, if it doesn't help and it is not the time to eat - take the lightest snack you can find. Lost around 60 pounds doing just that and bare minimum of exercise.
say592 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:51:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It helps!
I found the easiest way is to not try to drink more throughout the day (though you should), but rather pack it in a couple times. I have a cup that holds about 20oz, and a couple hours before bed I drink at least one, just down it. Then, about 30 minutes before bed I do it again. 30 minutes later I can pee some of it out and finally sleep. Even I wake up, down another 20oz before I start on something with caffeine.
Hydration is important, and water also helps flush our body out. Our kidneys rely on it to dilute all the shit they have been filtering all day.
Whats the deal with the hydration stuff? I am 31 so i guess i am to old and its not my generation. How did people survive without \hydrohomies or stuff like that?
Is it really that much better to stay hydrated? Will you live longer? Tell me your secret?
Are you asking if people drank water in older generations? Yeah... and they didn't need the help of a reddit support group to do it. I'm also 31 and I pretty much drink tea, coffee, and water. I've had maybe 5 sodas in the last year. I'll drink milk as well when there are cookies around.
:( the water that comes up from my kitchen drain when someone in my building does laundry (I'm guessing) smells like sulfur, are you getting drain water in your taps? D:
Adding to this, always carrying a water bottle is very helpful and assuredly you'll be carrying your water with you, therefore making you a true r/waterniggas member
Tempso ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:38:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if youre dinking lots of water daily and get a headache that normally you'd associate with dehydration DO NOT drink more!! your actually over hydrated and could die!
Whenever you are at home you should have a glass of water nearby. When you visit someone else's house ask for a glass of water. When you are going for a drive make sure to fill your water bottle first.
You don't have to be always physically drinking water, but always be in the middle of drinking a glass of water.
MrsBox ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 07:43:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a problem looking at peopleโs shoulders while they were speaking instead of their face. I told a coworker my problem who said โwell just look at their ears, nobody can tell the differenceโ. Life changing, seriously, no one can tell the difference.
People asked why I was staring at their shoulders pretty frequently so I donโt think theyโd have a problem asking why Iโm looking at the ears if they noticed.
I can definitely notice when someone is not looking me in the eyes. I've noticed people looking at my mouth, my eyebrow, my nose, my dick, you name it! Puts me in a weird situation because then I can't tell if they are listening to me.
-evadne- ยท 468 points ยท Posted at 00:45:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've heard the nose is a good target.
100Nips ยท 599 points ยท Posted at 01:02:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think the space between the eyebrows is easier
rtj777 ยท 71 points ยท Posted at 01:47:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, no, no. The best method, if you're comfortable with it, is to spend about 2 seconds on the right eye, then move on to the left for another 2, then toward the forhead for the final two (or the lips, if you're flirting with them)
Staring at one place on someone looks creepy, and cam come across weird after a while
meno123 ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 03:47:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eh, studies have shown that you should aim for ~75% eye contact time. More takes you into the creepy/flirty zone, less takes you into the uninterested zone.
I naturally maintain 100% eye contact if I'm not being mindful. So many people thought I was intentionally staring daggers at them. Pairs great with my RBF.
rtj777 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:59:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What's RBF?
Zenode ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 06:00:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was reading something on body language and I remember being surprised to find that if you stare above someone's eyes it can be a power move, but not in a good way. Like, don't do it to your boss because they won't feel respected.
But to put that ass hole who won't stop shoving their opinions down your throat? Stare away. They actually shut up quicker.
Unless they have a unibrow. From a guy who has to tidy my eyebrows once a week people get very self-conscious when they think you've noticed they have one...
Careful, that can be hazardous. Once I realized the tip of Sarah Michelle Gellar's nose would bob up and down as she speaks, I was never able to unsee it.
But I'm always self conscious of my fat nose so I can't stare are others' noses
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just stare intensely into people's eyes.
That's a lie. I usually get distracted by things in the room or distance and speak to people while looking around. If it's an important conversation I can force myself to look at them for a short period. But it becomes agonising after a while.
There's a world of difference between staring at someone's nose and looking then right in the pupil. It's very easy to tell the difference; I'm not sure who's perpetuating this.
[deleted] ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 07:29:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ye looking at someones ear is 100% noticeable, sorry to say OP, but they most likely know. Maybe try and look at the space between the eyes, I am not sure someone would always notice that.
[deleted] ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 01:44:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can see this has come across as me as limited social skills however this is not the case, looking at their ears helped me break my self confidence issues with looking at people directly. However I work with VERY direct people who give great constructive criticism and if they thought I was looking at them funny they wouldnโt hesitate to tell me.
Felgh01 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:47:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I've literally seen a comment on Reddit that suggested looking at a person's ears in response to "what is a good way to subtly freak someone out".
It worked when tried on me, also people can definitely tell when you look at their mouths too
dwmfives ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 02:31:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Life changing, seriously, no one can tell the difference.
I had a problem with this, and now Iโm able to look right into peopleโs eyes while talking to them without breaking contact. The trick is to study their eyes โ what color are they exactly? Do they have flecks of other colors in there? How dilated are their pupils? What about their eyelashes? How long? What color?
Eventually it stopped being a problem, and people respond really well to direct eye contact.
nor312 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:08:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practice staring at strangers until they look away, that will normalize you to how much time people are willing to look someone else in the eye. Then warm up to people you know.
matlydy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:34:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like to look over someone's shoulder while they're speaking. It makes them uncomfortable and they always turn around confused thinking someone is behind them. When they look back at me I'm looking at their eyes like I normally do and act confused as to why they turned around.
Oh shit I stare at people's mouths while they talk. When I mentioned it to my boyfriend, he said he could always tell something was off but couldn't tell where I was looking. I'm going to have to try this!
Tbh, as someone who also struggles with eye contact, direct eye contact is way better. I can tell if someone isn't looking right at my eyes. I try to figure out people's eye color as my trick to make eye contact.
I've had this for years as a teenager. I had trouble looking at people's faces too. I would focus on a point behind their head while I'm talking to them. Which means I can look like I'm looking at them in the eyes, but I'm really not. It helped for me to get used to looking at their faces for real.
I have a really hard time looking people in the eyes, so I pick a spot on their forehead, or between the brows to stare at. No one has ever called me on it.
I'm the kind of person who just can't stare at the face of the person (especially not the eyes) when they're talking and being talked to (I'd have to try the ears I guess), it makes me feel anxious and uneasy. What do people usually think of this?
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:20:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this too.
I don't know if this is accurate, its just my perception based on knowing myself, understanding my c-ptsd and gaining the knowledge that I've probably been on the Autism spectrum my whole life... but I think people perceive it as being sketchy or a sign of being dishonest/manipulative because when I'm talking, I look everywhere except for at the person with the exception of glancing to intentionally make eye contact so that they won't think I'm fabricating or manipulating. I can't win for losing because that is still manipulation. Social interaction is exhausting!!
I have a hard time looking at people's eyes without basically brain dissecting them noticing every little color til I am tuning the person out and making them and me uncomfortable by staring too intensely, so I look back and forth between cheeks and eyebrows. not a problem anymore
Funny, I was taught to use this trick to intentionally make people feel uncomfortable when talking to them because it seems like you're looking through the person
Not really right... I have a scar above one of my eyes. I notice every single time when new people's eyes drift to it. Maybe if you were looking at my ears when I'm talking to you I'd notice it wasn't my eyes? but that is kinda weird tbh.
lol they can definitely tell the difference. You can tell if someone is looking at your eyebrows or your eyes and thatโs a much smaller distance than eyes to ears
what's with the obsession with staring at eyes anyway? i've never done it or noticed anyone else do it IRL. just look at the face in general, hyperfocusing on any one feature is weird
same with the public speaking advice to pick a spot on the wall behind your audience. that's fucking weird. let your gaze move over the crowd so everyone feels like they're being addressed
Yes, but when you look at someoneโs face it should be in the general direction of their eyes, not just some random spot or behind them.
Itโs not so much an obsession, just more so considered rude if you canโt look at someone while talking. It could come off as not paying attention to whatโs being said, or somewhat implying that whatโs being said is not deemed important enough to hold your attention.
No ones saying stare at them intently, you can break it here or there to look elsewhere so itโs not tense. But you canโt just get away with not ever doing it imho.
it should be in the general direction of their eyes
that's mainly because the eyes are in the middle of the face. there's nothing wrong with giving equal attention to the rest of it. but the advice is always phrased like the intention is to appear to be focusing specifically on the eyes
I have a similar problem staring at peopleโs mouths when theyโre talking close to me. Especially if theyโre wearing sunglasses. Iโm sure it looks super weird haha.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:33:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I usually focus on looking at the middle of their face, right above the eyes. It looks like you're looking right at them so they can't even tell
I just now signed up for reddit just to comment on this nonsense!!!! That is how you LITERALLY try to drive someone crazy!!!! Not being able to hold eye contact is bad enough but looking past the eyes and focusing on the ear is something Iโve done to prove how insane that is!!!! If you honestly think that is an option you should be in a mental institution kept away from society... it would be the best for all of us!!!! Seriously, you are disturbed and should be locked up if you really think that is a good idea!!!! That is how insane your post is!!!!
It is soooo amazingly insane to think you can stare at peopleโs ears to avoid eye contact
I really feel like I should report someone like you to, well, somebody that can help!
Yep. Nose, forehead, ears, just about anywhere on the head and people can't tell the difference. I'm autistic and just can't make eye contact, I can't do it. But once I started looking at other parts of the head instead of shoulders, people starting thinking I had learned to tolerate eye contact.
Eh maybe. I have had several people at least act surprised when I mention I don't make eye contact, as they hadn't noticed. So it works sometimes at least, and isn't so bad for anyone who might notice that they bring it up.
Before I started doing that I had people like aggressively staring at me trying to get me to meet their eyes, or stopping in the middle of conversation to tell me to look at them.
Right above their eyes is a good spot, like on their forehead. Also random weird fact, if you are looking directly at them and then change suddenly to look over their shoulder, it will really freak them out. Our primitive instincts kick in and we wonder what is right behind us!
My mom told me to spend good money on the things that separate you from the ground: tires, shoes, mattress. I finally bought good not cheap shoes and life was SIGNIFICANTLY better. They last so much longer and my back and posture improved too. Sheโs not wrong about tires and a mattress either
I've had the same pair of hiking/combat boots (5.11 atacs storms) going on 6 years now. 7 states, 30+ trips, even use them in the winter if it gets bad enough out because they're leather and waterproof with great traction in the soles (imo). Very happy I dished the extra $$ over the cheaper option (Bates) I was considering.
KR21980 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:04:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you figured out how to prevent the heels inside the work boots from wearing out? Is there something you can buy to possibly even glue to it? I find that area wears out after a year or so from me just putting my foot inside or pulling it out of the boot. Any tips?
The reason that the rich were so rich, Vimes reasoned, was because they managed to spend less money.
Take boots, for example. He earned thirty-eight dollars a month plus allowances. A really good pair of leather boots cost fifty dollars. But an affordable pair of boots, which were sort of OK for a season or two and then leaked like hell when the cardboard gave out, cost about ten dollars. Those were the kind of boots Vimes always bought, and wore until the soles were so thin that he could tell where he was in Ankh-Morpork on a foggy night by the feel of the cobbles.
But the thing was that good boots lasted for years and years. A man who could afford fifty dollars had a pair of boots that'd still be keeping his feet dry in ten years' time, while the poor man who could only afford cheap boots would have spent a hundred dollars on boots in the same time and would still have wet feet.
This was the Captain Samuel Vimes 'Boots' theory of socioeconomic unfairness.
Absolutely agreed! High quality shoes and mattresses are great for your posture and your back. Plus as an added benefit, they'll most likely last longer. With that being said, "expensive" doesn't always mean good. Be sure to do your research before buying and don't immediately go for the most expensive item. Lots of times there are cheaper options that are close to the same quality or in some cases even better. Allen Edmonds is a good example of that in the shoe world. They're expensive but not designer brand expensive, can be found on sale (especially factory seconds which often have practically unnoticeable damage), and will last you a lot longer than shoes from DSW while also looking a lot better.
Noctec ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 07:14:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is true. I spent a bit over 1200 swiss francs for my mattress. If people call me crazy for it I usually tell them. "A mattress will be good for around ten years. Which makes this mattress cost me 120 francs a year and 10 francs a month and you really want to tell me a good sleep isn't worth less than a franc a day?"
Ndosbeos ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:21:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My 400 dollar chair is so much better than my dad's 20 dollar chair.
My mattress is one of my most important possessions. I don't have chronic pain, but I am definitely at an elevated risk of changing that and have had some previews of how it feels. Never skimp on protecting your body if you have any choice at all in the matter.
Rikolas ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:58:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good tires are the difference between crashing and not crashing. Don't scrimp on tyres ever. Shoes wont make you crash but will hurt your feet
My friends laugh at me for spending so much money for my matress while these dumbasses... one lives in a dorm on a matress so bad and dirty I could vomit, the other has mama-hotel still.
So what I spent 500 dollars for a matress? It was 50% off, it is HUGE, I love it, my GF loves it, it has smart foam on top and it will serve me for at least 6 years. I can spend 500 dollars every 6 years, and it will probably last even more.
There's honestly some really good mattresses on Amazon for cheap. You don't have to spend 2-3,000 for a mattress got a good night sleep. Most of the ones online have a 90 day return. Take advantage of that. Buy a decent one online, listening to the reviews, and if you don't like it, don't feel guilty returning it. Sleep is very important to how your entire life goes, you just don't have to spend thousands to get a good night rest though
simat8 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:42:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha cool,I sorta arrived to this conclusion at age of 30 lol! Anything you spend a large amount of time using should always be good quality.
Shoes, Seat & Matress were big ones!
Seriously, this advice has saved my feet. This is the first time I have had a pair of shoes last more than a year since I was like 8 years old. And I put lots of miles on them.
JADW27 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:14:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When buying nice shoes, ask the salesman what he wears. He's on his feet all day, paid to look good, and forgot more about shoes this morning than you will ever know.
I disagree on tires. Iโve used the same tires for 6 years and they were the cheapest POS tires they had. Just donโt drive like a maniac and your treads should stay good for quite awhile.
Im in the middle of trying to help a family member get help now. Iโm really her only family thatโs trying to help and I donโt know what to do. I applaud you for getting the help you need!!
Maybe help her get with an addiction specialist who can get her on some medication-assistance, like Suboxone. Even if she just maintains with that forever it's a miracle compared to continuing to use heroin. It's probably one of the most important medications to come out recently.
aJcubed ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:30:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
6.5 years clean here, keep up the good work! You are in my thoughts!
Occasionally smoking by yourself isn't necissarily a bad thing. Sometimes it's nice to just chill by myself. I don't always get alone time without something on my mind
Not impossible, but yes, hard to keep it under control. I've had times where i found myself smoking every night for weeks, but I find as long as I make a conscious effort to keep it under control and do stuff OTHER than smoke weed, it evens itself out.
it's the self control where most fall short (myself included)
I used to always put rules in place but you can always find a reason to allow yourself a cheat day which turns into smoking every day before you realise you've allowed it to get that far.
Yeah, it might just be me being bad at weed but I have to basically plan a whole night around it. It's just almost never practical and becomes a once or twice a year thing.
I prefer edibles personally, and they very much have this problem.
But I can do it pretty much every friday. Have a few friends over, we get absolutely ripped, and just have a good time. It's replaced drinking for me entirely.
I quit smoking weed at the beginning of April for this reason. Prior years had been a cycle of stopping and slowly getting back to a point where I smoked every day again.
Cold turkey baby. No desire to go back. Makes me a loser.
doesnโt make you a loser at all! i quit cigs cold turkey in january and weed a month ago. your lungs, brain, and family will thank you in the long run
I quit smoking it about 3 weeks ago, as it got to the point where I would come home from work and the first thing I would do is smoke a joint. Everything else was secondary. I smoked it almost every day for 15 years.
I'll still have a toke if I'm out with friends, but I'll never get stoned on my own at home again.
The guy who introduced me used this all the time when I'd smoke his stuff. I was really disappointed when I later learned that I wasn't one, he just had really nice weed. Shits expensive.
I smoke it every other day or so when I get home from work. I'm really productive the rest of my day so I don't see smoking as an issue in smoking to unwind and relax.
Cigs, sure. Weed really depends on the person. I have friends who definitely smoke too much, but I have always been fine just being an occasional - couple a week with friends or after work - weed smoker.
this! the insomnia was real and then once you actually do get to sleep you wake up soaking wet.
Nearly 2 years without smoking dope for me. If you'd asked me if I'd ever stop smoking a 5 years ago I'd have said 100% no.
Personally, I'm a kind of guy that smokes when has it, cigarettes or weed. I buy the former to roll the blunts and find myself working out what is left in the pack for the next couple of weeks. If it comes to weed, I usually get myself something for the weekend, but if I don't finish it I catch myself smoking almost every night till it's gone. Now I'm close to two weeks without weed and don't crave it at all.
I never had a prob smoking weed only rarely, in college is was once every few months, now it is more like once every few years. Last time I did, I noticed it really screwed up my sports abilities for a few days afterwards so not sure if I will do it again any time soon. Now nicotine, that stuff is WAY more addictive. I took one inhalation of my friend's vape and I could already feel the addiction trying to take hold, a part of my brain was already saying that was interesting, do it again! (I didn't though).
Edited to add: I HAVE known peeps much more susceptible to weed than me though, so it's probably a bit of a Russian Roulette situation.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:01:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The thing with vapes is they don't smell nasty at all if the flavor is good. That's why I was interested to try it although I had never wanted to touch stinky cigarettes. I can totally see why vapes make it easier to get addicted, but on the flip side, I've known peeps that got off their nicotine addiction using vapes as well, by slowly cutting back nicotine content in the juice.
They do smell nasty, just not as gross as cigs. Had someone staying with us (who would not stop vaping inside) for a short time and I had fake-sweet coconut-cherry-toffee-vanilla-retch flavor stuck to and irritating the back of my throat the whole time. It smells fucking gross and people who don't think they have to follow the same rules that cig smokers have to, are wrong and probably assholes.
I think a lot depends on the quality and flavor of the juice, a lot of the low quality ones smell bad, some of the better quality ones smell quite good actually at least IMO.
You are damn right. It is easy for me to quit smoking cold turkey but when I buy a pack hoping to do it once in a while, i finish the whole pack in a day
I never smoke cigarettes amd smoke weed maybe once every 3-4 months. I only ever smoke it when offered and not even close to everytime as pretty much everyone I know is a daily smoker. I've never found myself craving it. I do drink though but not crazy amounts. I love craft beers but sometimes I just decide not to drink for a couple months. I also never drink coffee which most people find weird when they offer me some and I tell them. Addictive substances are what you make of them and willpower goes a long way.
That is true for most things - sugar, meat, processed food, porn, swearing, using (or not using) a seat belt, flossing - itโs always hrdest to do sth โin moderationโ because it reuires conscious effort and we are lazy. What you always or never do doesnโt require any effort, itโs just autopilot.
I needed this too. Currently smoke 2 packs a day and an oz. a month. Iโm literally always smoking and Iโm in my 30โs and I can tell a major difference in my breathing abilities. You know, the thing thatโs supposed to come to us without thinking about it.
Nah, I'd equate weed to chocolate cake. It's really hard not to have a slice of chocolate cake for dessert every day if it's just sitting in your fridge.
I can't say about cigarettes but I only smoke weed once in a while. Used to do it more regularly in high school but now I only do it once or twice a year maybe, whenever someone is feeling it.
Does this apply to drinking? Iโve always wanted to try wine but Iโve never drank before. I like the smell of red wine but Iโve always been out of the house or the driver so I refrain from drinking anything.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:37:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
6 months clean here. Yes, MUCH MUCH easier to cut out alcohol entirely than futile attempts at moderation.
hogey74 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:57:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always figured that but now the damn hard one is how I am. I reckon I am still in column A but there are too many other things I'd rather be doing!
I seemed to have mastered this. Had an issue toking up too much at one point but after 4 months of a t-break I was able to just do it once a week give or take. It does get harder tho if I smoke two days in a row, but overall just keeping it to social settings or when I truly just wanna unwind works wonders.
I think it depends on the person, I used to smoke weed every day, but then it got boring and I didn't feel like being high all the time, so now I only smoke occasionally, with friends. I don't remember the last time I smoked it up alone, for no reason.
For me this is really easy actually. I think it would be way harder for me to do something all the time or never at all. I just like being conscious and having control over myself too much to be constantly stoned/drunk/on drugs. Once in a while its like a nice vacation but I dont like doing it regularly.
Dunno, I have no problems smoking weed only once a month or so.
stuber_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:51:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im managing that right now though
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:54:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
damn hard to only do it once in a while.
for like the past year or 2 I've been smoking like a ciggy a week/every 2 weeks just to relax me at the weekend. Will I eventually become a chain smoker?
S2G ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:48:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ive not found that for weed, I smoke once every few months, casually with friends, and dont really feel like smoking more, and my friends are the same.
Weed is easy to smoke all the time if you have nothing else to do. I went from smoking an ounce every 2 weeks to making a quarter last that long just by getting busy with fixing my house and not having a job that makes me super depressed and pissed off. Obviously this is anecdotal but it is possible to smoke less weed but not stop
Specifically, at least for me, when Iโm about to cum donโt suddenly go SUPER HARD. Itโs probably different for everyone but man, the number of times Iโve lost an orgasm because of this
My ex was going down on me, and when I told her I was close, she'd try to speed up, which half the time made me lose my erection, whereas if I was going down on her, even if my jaw was on fire, I'd keep going if she seemed like she was close.
There's no way anyone could comfortably fellate me as long as it would take to give me an orgasm. It wouldn't be a reasonable request. Bless those who have tried, I appreciated it.
If he wants me to give him a bj with a happy ending, we have to prep for like a week so heโs quick to cum, by prep I mean withhold sex. Otherwise itโs a 20min ordeal and I just canโt.
No, for most guys we pick up the pace the closer we get. However, that's a super useful piece of information about women. It's very counter-intuitive from our perspective.
Sounds delightful!...and what you're describing is intentionally not having me cum, which is different from suddenly getting harder/faster amd wondering why I don't :-)
Zaudi133 ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 01:30:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No thank you. That would just piss me off and I'd probably lose the mood.
If I've come once, it's gonna happen again more easily, and it's likely to happen again when you're coming.
[deleted] ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 03:12:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For guys we normally want the same motion, more intensity. It's hard for us to break that habit after decades of masturbation and sex with that being true.
Stop squeezing my head between your thighs then, because I have to adjust when you do that shit!!!
hogey74 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:59:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I told a friend the other day that sex is really just like dancing only better. We riff off each other's vibes, especially when getting close! She semi agreed :-)
[deleted] ยท 510 points ยท Posted at 23:15:19 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Am guy can confirm. Ex Girlfriend of mine basically pulled a card I was not expecting and my only response to that was "Well damn. Guess I gotta eat." It was the most lazy I had ever been, just drawing circles with my tongue inside.
She told me it was the best, and that she came several times. She was not the type of person to fake an orgasm. More like the type to say "Well that was... almost fun. When do I get mine?"
My new lazy technique extended the relationship for a long time.
[deleted] ยท 814 points ยท Posted at 23:59:04 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've gone down on both genders and it's so much easier with women. Much less physically demanding, and you don't have to worry about gagging. I don't know why guys pretend like it's so hard.
Every guy I've met who thought oral was complicated just had uncommunicative partners (and often were themselves poor communicators). Turns out the biggest secret to good sex is to talk about your likes and dislikes openly with your partners.
It's the only secret IMO. That's why I never really liked casual hookups very much. Sex is 1000 times better taking your time to get to know each other's bodies.
Seriously! My ex always complained about how pushing his tongue hard against my clit and turning left to right hurt his neck. Like ahem, I just gagged on your dick for 20 minutes. You can give me a few minutes of shaking your head. Jfc.
My theory is that a lot of guys think they need to go ham down there. They really don't, unless she prefers it that way, I suppose. I guess I can really only speak for myself, but I'd prefer if a guy just went slow and "lazy" and maybe picked up the pressure a bit towards the end, but no need to do tongue Olympics. I feel like that's got to be easier than having a dick shoved down your throat repeatedly. It takes me like 2 full days to not have a sore throat!
Yeah, my first sexual partner I was with tried to tell me what she liked. But, she didn't really know, because the guys she had been with before would "act like a dog" and lick her clit, her labia, stuff like that. So, I experimented. Literally spent an hour or so going down on her and asking "Does this feel better than x?"
Discovered that slightly suctioning her clit with my mouth, and alternating between broad strokes with my tongue on her clit and more concentrated, harder strokes are what got her going. Combine that with a finger or two stimulating her gspot and fingering, and she told me I was the only guy to get her off with his mouth. I'm sure the clit suction will vary girl to girl, but after I figured it out I really enjoyed it. I enjoy it so much now that I honestly wish I had someone to go down on most of the time ๐
As for blowjobs, I'll never understand why guys want to shove their entire dick down someone's throat. I always enjoyed the slower blowjobs, with tongue and hands involved. Different strokes for different folks I guess ๐คทโโ๏ธ
Different strokes absolutely. Been with enough guys, gals and other to have found out that you can't go by gender. You got to listen to the person you are having sex with.
Like during oral or just fingers? Oral can be taken up a notch (or ten) by inserting a finger or two and pushing up toward the belly to hit the g-spot, but in my case, I'm often happy just to have the clit stimulation.
As far as just using fingers, I feel that one varies way more per person. Probably because we're used to using our own hands, so it's hard to finish with a different technique. My husband has been the only guy to ever be able to get me off using his hands, and that was one time when we were 16 (we're 27 now). It's not that it doesn't feel good or that I don't enjoy it; it'll get me very close, but I can't get over the edge without using my own hand.
Gotta regenerate the area. Soon there will be students and hipsters living there too. Plus several artisan coffee shops, small micro brewery pubs, world food cafes and pushy ladies selling bespoke hand knitted cardigans made from the finest Himalayan mountain goatโs pubic hair.
Personally this is BS to me, I've asked every gf what they like/don't like, and every single one except for one, gave vague unhelpful answers, so frustrating.
I finally learned thru slow trial and error, what each girl would like. Yet I had no problem telling what I liked and didn't like.
Well, I'm a woman who has never gone down on another woman, and I'm not sure it's all that easy to describe what's going on down there from our perspective. I'm in my 40s now so obviously I'm old and wise, but in my younger days I think I would have had a hard time explaining exactly what I like. Sometimes it feels like the other person's tongue is really broad and in five different places at once, and then it'll feel very pinpointed on one spot. There are a lot of nooks and crannies down there, and I can't say exactly what spot you're in or precisely what's going on, just that it feels good.
Maybe you should play 'optometrist' with your current/next girlfriend, and figure out what she likes best.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:58:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
u/moikepdx is correct, but I've heard it said that 'you shouldn't have to explain a joke in order for it to be funny' so I'll have to take a penalty on that one
you know, i've always wondered about this. i'm generally articulate and well aware of myself/how i'm feeling/what effect something is having on me, but i cannot, for the life of me, do better than "no, no, a little to the left.. not that left.. no, kind of up, but from the down.." and vague nonsense.
i wonder if it has to do with not being able to visually map it out while learning yourself.
I think giving affirmations is more useful than directions. Tell him you want to explore what works best and you'd like him to change things up a few times so you can let him know what works and what doesn't. Then all you have to say is "yes," "keep going," "try something else," etc.
because it doesnโt immediately gratify them so why would they bother lmao
I had an ex who never went down on me bc he just wasnโt as โintoโ giving oral sex as I was. even after I told him it was basically the only way to get me off. gotta be a special kind of rude to hear โthis exact commonly done thing gets me offโ and respond with, essentially, โIโm not โintoโ giving you orgasms.โ
edit: โbUt WhY aRe YoU mAkiNg tHiS a gEnDeReD iSsUeโ headass
Selfish people are selfish my dood. They come in all stripes.
[deleted] ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 01:20:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
because it doesnโt immediately gratify them so why would they bother lmao
It's not uncommon for guys to receive little to no oral in a relationship either you know.
There are always going to be people like that on both genders, no need to try and make it into an us vs. them thing. You just have to learn to navigate around/through it.
Please tell me you ACTUALLY believe the numbers of guys vs girls who don't give oral to their partners is equal....
Things can be said in a gendered way when they're LITERALLY gendered. If it doesn't apply to you, great and more power to you, but that doesn't make it not true.
Nearly all of the men said โyesโ. ย One said take it or leave it , and two said โnoโ, but none of the three said why.
The women were a bit more diverse. ย Two thirds enjoy giving oral sex, with one third being split evenly between โtake it or leave itโ and โnoโ.
Wives say:
I do (40%)
He does (27%)
Same (33%)
Husbands say:
I do (47%)
She does (26%)
Same (26%)
All of men, but one said โyesโ. The one said take it or leave it.
4% of women said they donโt enjoy it
15% said they could take it or leave it
81% said they enjoy it
If something is a gendered issue, it's allowed to be framed in a gendered way. Because that is literally the point being made. Someone saying "DON'T BRING GENDER INTO THIS!" when it's an issue split on gender is ridiculous.
I feel like the debate here comes down to if a person is more inclined to give oral sex. So perhaps that could be what the person meant. Itโs more of a personality trait of someone who enjoys sexually pleasuring the other partner, rather than whether or not the type of pleasure is a blow job or eating out.
However, I see your point as well which I believe is: sucking a dick is literally, by gender, different than eating out.
Does that make sense?
[deleted] ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:04:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I never said it was equal.
If you're going to choose to treat this as a gender issue, then you're honestly just feeding into gender division. The most productive way to treat this would be to treat this as a human issue, related to selfish emotions and the lack of desire to put forth mutual effort. Because that's what it is, and that's not something one gender has more than another.
Hyper-focusing on the gender aspect and trying to frame the problem in a vacuum where context never matters doesn't help anyone. What's your goal exactly, by defining even more borders and sides to a problem than necessary? If this is a gender problem to you, then do you think girls who don't give oral do it for a completely different reason than guys?
Youโre entirely right, I donโt know why there is even any disagreement really. There are selfish people. Not selfish boys and selfish girls, but selfish people that happen to be boys and girls. Boys may be selfish more than girls, but thatโs not BECAUSE theyโre boys. I thought the biggest movement these days was about gender equality due to the fact that weโre really not all that different? How is this an argument?
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:15:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having dated someone who visited a lot of self-labeled feminist websites, I find that a lot of vocal feminists care less about the movement and to them it's more about having an outlet to express frustration at gender inequality.
So a lot of divisive rhetoric gets channeled as feminism leading to a lot of guys misunderstanding what feminism is about and increasing the feedback loop of frustration -> divisive rhetoric for women.
I find that a lot of feminists are more than happy to stereotype men and frame them in the same ways that women are unhappy being framed. If you take issue with this, the response usually tends to be something along the lines of "deal with it" or this attitude that men deserve it.
It's frustrating to engage with, because if I try too hard to empathize then I'm accused of being a superficial poser by those feminists, but if I don't try hard enough I'm accused of being apathetic fuel for the patriarchy instead.
Ultimately, that's how you know this is just a human issue at heart. It's no different from any other social conflict in human history. Injustice is part of it, but part of it is also that people as a whole are selfish and want happy lives for themselves above all others. What a lot of people who identify as feminists want isn't something that works for the greater good, what a lot of them want are better conditions for themselves and social reparations from men.
Feminism itself is actually a hugely diverse school of thought. Feminists disagree with each other all the time but gets incorrectly framed as a singular movement all the time because honestly it's kind of impossible to have a general discussion about feminism without doing that.
Whether it's racism, sexism, classism, or any other form of discrimination, the population that experiences the discrimination doesn't automatically become altruistic. A very human response to receiving injustice is to want the other side to experience it too. You just need to penetrate the toxic idea that women are above men in terms of behavior, because women really aren't.
[deleted] ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:24:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Tone policing"
At this point, what you're really saying is "if you're disagreeing with me then you're infringing on me."
Grow up and learn to deal with adversity like an adult, or don't and stay mentally and emotionally immature forever. Using meaningless fad words to complain every time someone argues in a way you don't like isn't going to get you anywhere in life.
BindaB ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:10:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay, so you're just being a condescending asshole for fun. Gotcha.
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:17:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If your only response to someone making calm discussion is to use buzz words to control their argument, then my tone held the exact amount of respect that you deserved.
Here's another lesson to you, respect is earned. Just because you exist doesn't mean you deserve to be treated as if you have the same level of maturity as everyone else, because it's abundantly clear you don't from your complete inability to handle criticism in a mature way.
[deleted] ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 05:16:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:47:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thinking you're cooler than someone because you spend less time on a website than them is just a projection of your own insecurities.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:18:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:42:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trying to use my own insult against me is pretty lazy and ineffective. Not only does it make it obvious I hit the mark, it shows you're too stupid to reply with anything besides "no u".
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:44:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:58:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like I said, your insecurity bleeds through your comments. Only someone woefully self-conscious of themselves would think something ridiculous like that was an effective insult.
I applaud that you tried something different after I called out your "no u". Keep dancing monkey, what will you try next?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:01:20 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:03:49 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Very predictably, you realized that changing your insult would be playing into my "dance monkey" statement, so out of fear you just stuck with the same one.
This is hilarious.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:04:14 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:05:26 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
LOL. Poor guy broke from his inability to handle this argument. Never seen someone go that fast.
I hope your life gets better soon buddy, it's abundantly obvious you've got some issues to sort.
In my sample size of one partner, I went down on her probably 10 times as much as she went down on me.
Granted I like giving oral and she really didn't
[deleted] ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 01:47:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:22:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Just because someone has an opinion you disagree with doesn't make someone a troll.
It's not really realistic or sustainable to try and get 10k upvotes on all your comments. Unlike most of this site, I don't really give two shits about my internet points and don't spend every comment pandering for them.
Tw161 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:20:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Difference is:
A) usually after a guy orgasms he is physically unable to continue PIV and/or mentally not willing to continue anything sexual while most women can continue after orgasm
B) men usually orgasm from PIV while most women canโt. BJs are like a supplement but oral for a girl is a little more necessary
Women are like combination locks. Every one has a different combination, and it takes some time to find the right one for that specific lock. But once you've got the combo it'll be easier to open that one up in the future.
Men are like basic key locks. Once you learn how to pick a few you can use those same methods to open pretty much all of them.
[deleted] ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:48:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Depends on the woman, sometimes hair, or thick thighs can make it harder, there are also less positions that you can breathe well. I've gone down on many of each gender and I don't think females are easier, they're both difficult in different ways, guys with small-average dicks are super fucking easy, same with fit, shaved and flexible women.
As a large person (193cm/6'4), when you go down on guys you can position your body more comfortably like 90% of the time. If a woman lying down takes roughly 1m from head to genitals, that leaves like 90cm to fit the whole body on most beds.
You can have her legs over the edge of the bed but you get sore knees or a stiff neck.
I'm general from my experience guys are much much easier to give oral to, and I don't mean to orgasm, I mean in comfort, either gender cums from the same basic principles.
[deleted] ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:51:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I have a small mouth and quite a gag reflex so that may sway my opinion a bit. Smaller dicks are pretty easy for me though, average is not.
I'm also quite a bit shorter than you, so I'm sure that's a factor as well!
This is actually why I prefer the slightly smaller side when it comes to dicks. I don't orgasm from penetration anyway, so as long as I can feel it in there I don't really care. And I don't feel like a hamster eating a banana.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:46:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ahh yes being large goes make it rather easy to deep-throat most dicks with little to no difficulty. I love large dicks ๐คทโโ๏ธ makes me feel like a pornstar
Then ask? Not open ended like โwhat do you likeโ but just do something and ask โdo you like this?โ Take your time to experiment. Think of the questions youโd like your partner to ask you. Pay attention to small sounds and movements to point you in the right direction.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:37:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think it's full in the Internet (not the prono thing but the academy thing) isn't it? Or am I wrong all the time?
Alot of misinformation, some guys are just assholes, some women don't taste the best, and probably the biggest thing is that people fail to realize that there is going to be alot of differences between women in what they want.
It does make it harder, though lips and fingers can do a lot of the work and make it easier on the tongue and jaw. Many women can come from a single finger massaging the clit; learn to do that and oral will be much easier.
Because guys try to impress by doing a really good job, but since women don't generally tell guys what a "good job" is, they try everything. Hard and fast, smooth and slow. And then they wear themselves out doing these crazy things that apparently aren't even pleasurable.
Personally, I found it extremely difficult because I was focused on the vaginal part. The second I switched to focusing on the clit, it became super easy. And don't even get me started on how lazy I can get when she's riding my face.
Honestly depends on the woman in my opinion. A lot of it is in their head. Some will come at a drop of a hat and others are hard work. Men, in general, seem to be much more reliable when it comes to making them orgasm.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:45:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not super uncommon to be fair. It could be on your side but it could be those performing on you. I take it you think the experience pleasant even if it doesn't finish you? Or you just don't enjoy the entire experience?
I have no idea what I'm doing down there i just float between different rhythms until I get a response and stick to that one. My GF says I'm the best she's had and apparently it keeps getting better.
Yeah, but there is some kind of pheromone or something ladies give off when they're close to orgasm that causes my muscles (face and/or hands) to just cramp up right then and there. You're close? Good, I'm dyin here!
Its gotta be anxiety induced. Imagine your licking and flicking away and you feel her get tighter. She tells you sheโs getting close, then all of a sudden youโre super focused on how fast your arm is moving and how your fingers are wiggling and what your tongue is doing.... wait, what was it doing? Shit, shit maybe that one thing? And then you feel like youโre in grade school again where you pat your head and rub your belly in a circle - hey, youโve been trained to multitask on the body your whole life! And then she finally fucking cums and you can relax your muscles and have a juicy reward for all of your hard work. (Thanks for coming to my nsfw Ted Talk no one asked for.)
[deleted] ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 01:51:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Is this actually a thing? The only problem I have is my partner starts trying to crush my head like a watermelon between her thighs. This also sometimes pushes me away slightly making it more difficult but usually no problem
Heโll let you know if heโs struggling by asking how youre doing or if youre close (after heโs been trying the same thing for a while). Or you can always casually ask him (not during sex obv) if anything ever hurts or aches during play time. Thats how I found out my nails are a bit sharper than I thought.... now I keep em super short and smooth and everyones happy.
I accidentally purchased an embarrassingly large bottle of Astroglide online. So I cleaned out a SoftSoap pump container, removed the labels, & filled it with lube. Now itโs in my nightstand in a cute lil box with a washcloth (to prevent lube drips) & my 2 favorite toys in cute lil silk drawstrings. That little box gives me so much joy, in a dirty Konmari way.
Iโm the opposite with lube! I donโt like it. Iโm very petite and my husband is large. Lube makes it glide in way too easily, and I really need that slow warm up where my own moisture is letting him in little by little. Even so, he canโt always go all the way in. We only use lube if we really need it.
Oh noo! That could be very scary! Glad you know your body!! I always enjoy the physical pressure during the first couple of minutes when hes working his way inside. Just doing that or rubbing his tip in quick circles around the opening of my lady bits will get me wet enough to get going. I usually only use lube for anal or when we were having sex for a long time or with the fan on (that inc airflow dries ya right up)!
Rush_nj ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:36:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like this should have the caveat of โwhen sheโs close to cummingโ. Just keeping the same movement going the entire time will just cause your tongue to tire out. Switch it up, lick different areas, different directions, suck, use fingers etc to build her towards a climax but when the train is leaving the station just keep going with the same thing.
Guys, too. Had a gf who just liked to play down there. One time I told her โwhen youโre ready to be done, pick a beat and donโt stop.โ
zushiba ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:24:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know how when youโre walking down the street and you see someone you know or someone who looks like they are judging you and you suddenly become acutely aware that you walk like some kind of dodo bird with an umbrella stuck up your ass, so you try to โwalk normallyโ but that just makes you look even more like a super villain?
Yeah, same thing goes through the head of a guy whoโs told by his girl that sheโs about to cum. He becomes hyper focused on doing whatever ancient Chinese king fu he was accidentally doing and ends up screwing it up.
The fix is to rid him of this anxiety by practicing over and over again the ability to just zen their way through to the other side.
I'd discuss beforehand for sure. Orgasm denial can be extremely enjoyable for some, while others will want to murder you. Definitely a kink to discuss and see where your partner stands!
Omgyes.com was such an eye opener for me as a girl. A one time payment and a half a day later I was able to give myself my first orgasm without using toys. I was so happy I cried.
I'm a guy. I'm emotionally stable, so I thought it was a pointless idea. Went with my ex-gf, in order to work out problems in our relationship (mostly on her end). I learned so much about myself and got some amazing life advice. 10/10
This is helping me so much right now. It's not that the past two therapists weren't good, they just weren't good for me. My current therapist is more conversational and laid back, and actually listens to me. I don't get to see him as often as I need to (Thanks, VA!) but my short visits have so far had much more impact than my weekly hour long sessions before.
Just go, and if you don't click with your therapist, then go to another. Which can be really hard, because it can take a lot of effort to go in the first place. I had to take months off in between therapists just to find the will to do it again. But if you can find the energy, it can be worth it to keep trying until you find the right person.
truth. I've been with mine for 3 years and he is so insanely kick ass. I moved out of state, hated it, and came back. I'm guessing largely because of him
This. I went through so many mental health professionals as a kid and young adult, but none of them were helpful. I don't know if we just didn't click or if I was just resistant to all help because of my issues, but it all ended terribly and I was soured against the idea of psychotherapy.
Then, years later, an abusive roommate demanded I see a therapist. He forced me to call places on speaker and get an appointment. I'm incredibly lucky that the one lady with an available spot clicked. She helped me see the abuse for what it was and get me out of there, and after that continues to make sense of the rest of my mental health.
It was a shitty situation and I was incredibly lucky to find someone whom I like and want to divulge my issues to, but it was worth it. I would have probably killed myself if I hadn't been forced to seek help.
That's honestly why I haven't reached out to find a therapist. You need to find the right fit, and... being the right fit for people is what causes my problems. I haven't found a right fit for me in anything(which leads me to believe I'm the problem, but then people say believing that I am the problem is the problem, hence considering therapy).
Also, I'm worried that calling my insurance's number for mental health would set off a red flag for them or my employer and cause problems, and mental health is not worth risking my job for.
Falling asleep?! Oh my god. I feel like thatโs a reportable offense for a therapist! Jeez. I am so sorry! I recently just went to my first therapy session and I would cry if he fell asleep. Or walk out!
brtrobs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:33:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The search is so taxing, though. Especially if you see more than one person who seems like they either come off as judgmental/aloof or trying to diagnose and fix the problem like an auto mechanic rather than talk with me like a human being. I've had way more success with a local nonprofit walk-in counseling center than I've ever had with a conventional long-term therapist. It's free, too!
Therapy has been helping me out a lot, too, I wish I did it 10 years ago.
If you don't think you can afford it, check anyway, they'll usually work with you if money is tight. I thought my anxiety was something I could control and I had a handle on it, but I never realized how much it affected the rest of my life until I got on meds for it and started therapy.
Quelklef ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 01:47:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Absolutely. I started therapy because I was in a tough spot, but I am definitely interested in continuing even once I get better. If I ever have kids, I might get them therapists, tooโregardless of if they're struggling or not. Itโs so valuable to have someone else that understands humansโand therefore youโto the degree that therapists do.
Just the fact your can say things without feeling like a burden. Like sure I could call my best friend and talk about my life, but I'll hold back. There are things in not going to say to my wife.
At therapy, I can just let it all out. My therapist will just listen if I want.
Also the impartial advice. When I am in conflict with someone, everyone I go to for advice will have some kind of emotional involvement with the outcome. A good therapist can cut through your narrative and give you advice that you don't question the motive.
While not enough people go to their doctors for routine physical exams, almost nobody goes to a therapist for a routine mental check-up, which I wish would change.
When I was in grad school for psychology, a common thing teachers would share: "If people waited to see a doctor as long as they do to see a therapist, doctors would be morticians."
Currently learning this. Ended things with a girl I was madly in love with because I wanted her to give me things in a partner she just didnโt have. Itโs okay for her not to have those things because sheโs not that person. Weโre not exactly on good terms right now, Iโll admit. But I loved her, and learned a lot from her about what I TRULY want in somebody to be with for the rest of my life.
There are days I want to call her because something small in my routine reminds me that I miss her. But then I remember that although those small compatibilities were there and even some big onesโ the overwhelming picture was that we werenโt right for each other.
Been there. Probably stayed there a little bit longer than I should have, but it was several very important lessons and sometimes two people just don't work out together. It's sad for them, but beauty often comes from sadness.
People that think a failed relationship is failed are the real failures mate. I did it for years and when I met my wife I knew she was the one instantaneously
Exactly, me too. Not to mention how people are stuck in high school when it comes to this sort of thing. Just because you go on one date doesn't mean you're marrying this person. Stop making it out to be a bigger deal than it really is.
[deleted] ยท 109 points ยท Posted at 01:12:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Agreed. In the words of sex columnist (and asshole) Dan Savage, โevery relationship you're ever going to be in is going to fail - until one doesn't.โ
My ex husband and I went to therapy to try to save our marriage. While we ended up divorcing a couple years later, I am still so happy I went through that process. I learned how to communicate better, a skill I've brought into relationships of all varieties. I also learned what I want for myself and my future - part of what we learned together in therapy was that our future goals were not the same.
While we did divorce in the end, therapy helped us come to the realization that that was the best option for us. We didn't stay stuck in relationship for decades that would ultimately make us unhappy. We worked through our problems together and realized that some of those problems were irreconcilable. I consider this to be a success!
dejaime ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:03:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It means it worked.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:30:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes what you get out of therapy is a better ending to a relationship.
Working out the problems doesn't always mean keeping the relationship alive. Sometimes you work out the problems and discover that you're just no good together, and the best thing for it is to end the relationship.
Having worked out the problems to come to that conclusion tends to lead to much more amicable breakups, too.
...sounds like you dated my ex...wanted to go to couple's therapy while we were dating; she was actually revenging her ex-husband, using me as a surrogate.
You know what dude? Thank you for writing this, Iโve been thinking about going a lot lately but always makes excuses for myself.
Iโm gonna treat your post as a sign that I should ๐
TSOD ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:17:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish I would have started therapy years ago, itโs so helpful. You wonโt regret it.
Whenever I tell people I'm in therapy theyre like "for what?" You dont need some crazy traumatic reason to start, and with the right therapist everyone can improve their mental state.
You dont need some crazy traumatic reason to start
I really wish more people would understand that. If you have a pattern of thought or behavior you don't like, and can't seem to make good progress on your own, a therapist can help with that.
Santi871 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:15:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Where I live it's quite common for people to go to therapy just to cope with daily adult life, nothing wrong with it and there's not much of a stigma attached to therapists
For once, I feel better about the US healthcare situation, since therapy sessions with my insurance are only $20/session.
I take issue with "for every little problem", though, because that's not what anyone here is saying. The point isn't "go for every little thing", but rather "it doesn't have to be a huge issue". There are points in between...
Amen to this. I was in group therapy having been pulled in due to issues my ex had. My most serious problem was procrastination, which is generally not something people go to group therapy for.
So I'd tell people why I was there (the ex, plus procrastination), and they'd be like "yeah, right" implying I had a more serious reason I was hiding. Which I didn't. But obviously plenty of people in the group certainly did.
Still, doing that group therapy was one of the most enjoyable and meaningful experiences of my life.
Yes! In my opinion everyone could benefit from a therapist at some point in your life. I'm so happy that people are fighting the stigma.
After all you might not 'need' a therapist but they might still be able to help you deal with things better that will result in you having a happier and better overall life.
I feel like a lot of people could benefit from better mental health support. I really wish it was more accessible in general.
etds3 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:43:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs like a physical check up. You go because youโre doing well and want to keep it that way. You want to discover the increasing cholesterol level and deal with it before itโs a big thing. Or even just deal with the patch of eczema thatโs just annoying.
I wish mental health checkups were a thing for the same reason. โI get super irrational when this topic comes up in my relationship. Whatโs that all about?โ Or, โWhat are some strategies I can use to put a bad day at work behind me and not be mad all evening?โ
Yessss more men need to talk about going to therapy! As soon as people find out Iโm a therapist, they often tell me about their/their brother/ex/friendโs mental health issues out of nowhere (plz donโt do this, people). Itโs really sad when I hear about highly upsetting or relationship-ending issues that we actually know how to treat really well, but they refused to get help for!
Also, I often tell people that Iโm a therapist and I have my own therapist, as does pretty much everyone else in my grad school cohort. You might know something about managing emotions, but you just canโt be your own therapist, period.
To play devil's advocate, I have been through 15 therapists in life as a man. I have no doubt it works for some, but I have given my most honest hardest effort with them, and it still doesn't work. Not like working out my own problems have. Therapy can be amazing, but it isn't for everyone.
Iโm in a similar boat, Iโve gone through 2 therapists already, I need to find a new one but for whatever reason I feel bad about the fact that this will be the third therapist Iโve gone through, like I feel like a failure for some reason, like Iโm the problem. Iโve just had so much trouble connecting with the therapists Iโve had:/ Iโm really hoping I eventually find a good one.
Well, first off, don't feel bad, yes I know that's REALLY hard when you're in the wrong headspace, but you should never EVER feel bad for trying to find the right person to help with getting to the correct headspace.
Secondly, you aren't failing at anything therapy related. You literally can't. You aren't failing to get the help you need. You aren't failing to get better. It's a long process for anyone. Me, after four years of some SERIOUS reworking my life am now just getting to the point where I feel like I'm normalized again. Look it, I haven't found the magical formula that makes the thoughts of being an abject absolute failure go away. I'm not sure if it ever fully goes away, honestly, but you need to know you're stronger than that voice. I know you're stronger than it, and I (probably) haven't ever met you in person. Just by looking to get better, you're already winning, not being a failure. Keep your head up, dude or chica. You're awesome in my book.
Finally going to therapy and seeking the help I so desperately needed was the best decision of my life. I remember where I was 6 months ago and I'm in such a better place since then. I'm glad you took the leap too.
Ehrre ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:08:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Basically this. I got my ass some counseling 8 years ago and it really helped me see a lot of things I was ignoring were causing me a lot of pain
I know Im somewhere on the autism spectrum (high level functioning though (maybe Asperger's)) but it's a total pain to get a diagnosis. There is a place at a local hospital (in another state, but it's 15 miles away) that will diagnose and treat you, but they don't accept my insurance as I have an Obamacare plan, so I tried to make an appointment with the one psychiatrist in the area that is covered and they don't do testing, so they recommended me to go to a university psychiatrist in another state about 15 miles away, but since I'm not a student, it would be almost $2500 to get tested, do I'll probably end up going back to my university to get tested and it may be like 6 months to a year before I can get a fucking appointment since they rarely test at my university
Idk, I'm just really frustrated with trying to get a diagnosis
Raibean ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:11:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry, I totally didnโt mean to downplay the struggle of getting diagnosed or to exclude people who are still working on getting one, but have one in mind. I tried to choose my wording to imply that some people might know something is wrong but donโt yet have a diagnosis because they donโt know whatโs wrong, or to imply that this was advice for people with a mental illness or other disability, rather than people who go to therapy for other reasons, like an impartial advisor, coupleโs counseling, or trauma/abuse counseling.
No worries ๐. I honestly just had to vent about the clusterfuck I'm trying to deal with to get a diagnosis in a mildly related thread as it's getting real annoying
Raibean ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:24:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It sounds very frustrating. I hope that everything can be resolved for you soon.
I mean, I can't say everything is bad. I lost a really awesome internship due to something that wasn't really my fault due to essentially miscommunication between me and a coworker last fall, and that spiraled into some pretty bad depression, but I've been seeing a therapist and I'd say I'm having 80+% fewer depressive episodes and tendencies and I really like the guy I'm going to and I actually have an interview with the same company for a potential job this Thursday for something very similar to my internship
meowzik ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:01:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can do this, but I would say it's only a good first step toward healing for most people. Reducing symptoms is a good first stage or primary goal because in the short term it gives tangible improvements in daily living and improved mood. For a small portion of people this is all that's needed to get through a tough spot. But for most people, especially with longer term issues like anxiety or depression, you gotta dig deeper eventually to figure out why the symptoms are there in the first place. This takes more time and effort and can be really scary for a lot of folks, but the real long term growth comes from understanding your issues and their origins more deeply and making sense of them in the narrative of your development.
Raibean ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:56:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I disagree, I think itโs the other way around. Most of us, are symptoms are symptoms of our disorder and donโt exist because of a specific event in our history or even a pattern of events in our history.
etds3 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:30:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
YES!!! I only went to a handful of personal therapy sessions, but they changed my life. I struggle with anxiety, and having tools to unravel whatโs behind it and/or calm myself down has made my life so much better.
Oburcuk ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:34:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm training to be a therapist and this makes me really pleased to hear.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:37:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait, are you my boyfriend? He REALLY needed it, but thought he was fine. Now heโs hit the rough patch between accepting he could use help and feeling well thatโs filled with... emotions.
apetoo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:45:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't agree more. Just because you can continue through life in your current state doesn't mean it'll be awesome doing things the same way. Everyone can benefit from a little hard self-reflection.
I like this a lot. Kind of straying off talking to a therapist, but I've been a very independent person my whole life. Always felt strong enough to handle mental problems on my own. But I've learned that there's a natural relief/release, one that you can almost feel physically, that comes with simply talking things through with...anyone really. Isolation is almost never good. Humans were meant to be social. No matter how much you think most people suck. I had to learn this the hard way
Sethger ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:22:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hear this often but I am not really sure if I know what this means.
Which kind of therapist do I have to go to? Psychotherapist? Psychologist? What do I say? I cant say I just want to come to a sesson because I want to find my self can I?
Therapy is such a good investment into yourself. I'm in a stable place because of it.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:13:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I kinda feel like a dick because a looong time ago someone on facebook was talking about going to couple's therapy even though they weren't having problems. I was like why the fuck would you do that? Never thought about it, and it just seemed stupid. Just talk to the person.
Years later I was watching an interview with Dax Shepard and Kristin Bell and they were talking about how they went to couple's therapy at like the beginning of their relationship. Then they actually talked about how much it helped them because they figured out all the issues that would probably arise in the future right away instead of finding out later and having it be major.
The more I thought about it, the more sense it made.
TL;DR: Couple's therapy is a good idea even if you don't need it yet.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:29:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish I did this when my ex-partner cheated on me. I went into depression for years just coz of her. It was such a heavy blow for me. I hope my son never noticed.
I've tried to take off pilling this way and it didn't work :( I don't know if it's cuz they were disposable razors or because it was funny material or what
You can get a fabric shaver on amazon for $15 or less! This technique tends to work best with natural fibers; some synthetics do ok but some are just lost to pilling forever.
Different materials respond to different blades. I got a shaver on amazon that has 3 different blades with it and a guide for which one to use for what fabric
They arenโt expensive. Just be sure to test it on an area of the fabric thatโs not visible. And itโs super easy to overdo it. I just repaired a big basket of clothes, so I feel like an quasi expert now :)
Also, after I moved, a bunch of my clothes started pilling. I realized the washer and dryer in my unit are hard on my clothes. I wash most clothes inside out now, I got fabric bags for the delicate things (dollar tree has them and amazon), and air dry now. Just in case anyone needs to hear it
Cher9969 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 05:24:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You canโt help anyone effectively if youโre not OK yourself. I was always self sacrificing - to the point of being hospitalized for exhaustion. Iโd always been told to give till it hurts and then push through the pain to give more, and so thatโs what feels natural, and anything else is pure selfishness.
A great therapist told me that Iโm good at helping but I have to be at least at a baseline before Iโm effective, and, oh, it makes everything so much better.
xilix2 ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 05:33:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's good therapist advice. I once had someone tell me, "You know, at your funeral, no one is going to be standing around saying 'if only he was able to give a little more...' "
You canโt help anyone effectively if youโre not OK yourself.
As a fire marshal at work, they told me outright that my first responsibility was to get myself out. I can't help anyone if I'm unconscious from smoke inhalation.
Yep excellent advice. Spent the last 2 years recalibrating after self sacrificing for 20 plus years. Thing is you don't know how bad you are getting giving all the time and putting yourself second.
I have been working on exactly this. I still sometimes work myself too hard trying to make sure my friends are happy. (But not enough to be hospitalised).
And after taking on this advice finally that many people have told me (But I ignored for ages). I have been able to take care of my friends better and feel better in myself. Itโs a win win all around.
I still sometimes slip and get caught up though. But Iโm working on it.
Always reminds me of this quote from Neil Gaiman in Trigger Warnings
"Secure your own mask before helping others. And I think of us, all the people, and the masks we wear, the masks we hide behind and the masks that reveal. I imagine people pretending to be what they truly are, and discovering that other people are so much more and so much less than they imagined themselves to be or present themselves as. And then, I think about the need to help others, and how we mask ourselves to do it, and how unmasking makes us vulnerable . . . "
Sometimes you help others so you dont have to help yourself.
Thornum ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:51:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was expecting a story about an oxygen mask and maybe a plane crash, got good life advice applicable to many more situations instead!
I have a similar saying I've taught myself while going through therapy: be selfish before you are selfless. I also used to give my everything when helping others that I never got around to doing stuff for myself. Being selfless can be very exhausting at times.
I tell my ex husband this all the time! Before we can adequately take care of the people who depend on us, we need to be dependable. I can't help my daughter if I neglect helping myself.
I donโt mean to be a dick here but everyone Iโve ever met who talks about being overly giving also has some serious complex about not being thanked enough/appreciated, and/or โhelpโ when it is neither requested nor desired.
Do you feel like either have ever been an issue youโve had to work through?
You know, Iโve been thinking about this, and your other comment below, all day. While Iโm not like this, I do know people who are - who use โhelpingโ as a form of manipulation and forcible involvement in othersโ lives, and are hard done by no matter what. My dad was a narcissist, so Iโve some familiarity with the behavior.
For others, though, we just never learned healthy boundaries for ourselves, and have such a screwed up perception of them that we donโt know how to say no, and feel awful if we even try. We donโt tend to complain about it except extremely privately, either - only my partner and my therapist ever knew when I was at the end of my rope. In my experience, itโs only the narcissists who bitch, or grandstand- because they like the feedback loop.
There are a few things that are key in not feeling hard done by:
โwould it be helpful if...โ - usually spoken softly and away from the crowd. โI know things are awful right now. Would it be helpful if I came over and did some laundry or the dishes while you take care of more important things?โ If you donโt know whatโs needed, say you have a few spare hours and would be happy to help with whatever they need, but people in crises arenโt always good at thinking about peripheral needs either.
โThat wonโt be possible. What I -can- do is...โ - if someone is asking for something beyond what I can give. It sets a good boundary, but doesnโt quite feel as harsh as a flat no.
Letting go of the outcome. If someone doesnโt want or feel they need help, Iโm ok with that. If theyโre going to go crazy in response to something not being possible, thatโs on them. If they canโt reciprocate when you need help, well, now you know and you can decide what that means for you. You canโt reasonably ask more from a person than they can give, even if you feel they (or others) are doing the same to you. Relationships are always a little unequal in the moment. Itโs the average that counts.
Thanks for bringing that up - I think itโs an important point to make and I hope some of what Iโve said makes sense!
Dromeo ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:55:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've seen the same thing; maybe it's because of this oxygen-mask analogy?
They put other people so far ahead that they keep getting hurt from it, but eventually they start noticing other people don't even particularly acknowledge the help they bent over backwards to give.
People don't expect the help offered to them to cause damage to the one offering, because then it's a bit nuts to even offer. At that point, they payoff for helping - the thanks - can never match up to the amount of effort put in.
I had my oldest son helping me change tires on the lawnmower. I didn't realize that this isn't common knowledge until he was having a hard time removing a bolt. Poor guy, I told him this and it blew his mind. I should tech my kids more.
Ramady ยท 55 points ยท Posted at 02:40:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's common knowledge because our parents taught us.
I hate it because pipefitting I would often be removing a nut from the other side. I've always done clockwise counterclockwise. Plus half the nut is going left and half is going right. Like I get where righty tighty leftie loosie comes from, but it's still dumb.
If you look at the threads you can tell. If it spirals to the right itโs right handed and vice versa.
Or, make a fist with each hand with your thumbs pointing out as an easy but daft way of remembering, if it matches up with your left hand itโs a left handed thread etc.
And it's all well and good until you're undoing a bolt that's upside down, with your left hand. Then you have to stop, think, double check with hand gestures, and then try.
Source: had to do exactly that yesterday on a 30 ton excavator.
I usually just turn it one way until it's too tight, then realize I've been turning it the wrong way the whole time, then go the other way. Works every time.
The lefty loosey bothers me because it requires you to have a top down view on the bolt in question. Staring from the side and pushing the wrench to your right now loosens it.
Grab the bolt with your right hand and snap your fingers. That is the motion that will tighten. It helps when you have to adjust something blind, or through a mirror.
Yup, anything where its typically encountered force would rotate it counterclockwise benefits from lefthanded screws/bolts. My dad had a motorcycle whose left mirror attached with a lefthanded bolt so the wind force would tighten it instead of loosen it.
There's this meat slicer at work that I have to clean, the first time I had to this really fucked with me because the screw is leftie tightie, rightie loosie, then you put this cover on it and thats when you rightie tightie, leftie loosie.
This never meant anything to me (maybe because Iโm left handed), so for anyone in a similar boat:
Wrap your right hand around the screwdriver with your fingers pointing in the direction you want to turn the screwdriver. Your thumb will point the direction that the screw will go when you turn. So - if you want to remove the screw, make sure your thumb is pointing away from the screw.
If youโre left handed/using your left hand, your thumb will be pointing the opposite direction.
I have a better one: "time is tight" (clockwise tights; because left and right can be ambiguous, especially if you are not in a good position with respect to the screw).
"So lang das Deutsche Reich besteht wird die Schraub(e) nach rechts gedreht." German version of it. Meaning as long as the German empire stands, the screw will be turned to the right
Only time this fails me is for a clamp in my lab that can be screwed tight 2 ways. I have to do mental gymnastics each time to open it without accidentally tightening it to oblivion.
I said this to myself last weekend, kept turning right, and snapped a bolt on the bottom of my lawnmower. Only $40 replace the part I ruined, but damn do I feel like an idiot.
Also good advice: donโt say it out loud to someone that youโre working alongside- it usually comes off as incredibly condescending. My old landlord said it to my boyfriend while he was trying to help him fix some things around the house. My boyfriend was... displeased.
however if you are trying to run a bolt into a hole and you hear a faint click about once every turn, check to make sure it is not a left handed thread. This is usually only the case on an object the turns clockwise most of the time. I watched someone try to reattach a drill chuck to a motor for like 3 minutes hearing click click click. Took the bolt from him and really looked at it, it was a left handed thread.
Nextran ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:24:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Solang das deutsche Reich besteht wird die Schraube rechts rum reingedreht.
This is like the same thing but in german, i just love it cos it sounds cool
Muzer0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:20:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was little I came up with "anticlockwise: undo, clockwise: do (up)", which I remembered as AU CD. CDs exist so this made it easier for my young mind to remember.
This. I'm always getting mixed up when turning something upside down or whatever. The better way to think of it is "counterclockwise loosens, clockwise tightens".
I could never figure out which way to move things untill I started pretending the screw was a soda bottle. Now I just think of what motIon I need to open (loosen) it or close (tighten) it. You have to make sure the head of the screw is the cap though so sometimes I picture my bottle upside down or on its side.
Take your right hand with your thumb up and curl your fingers. Your fingers curl toward which direction to turn to move the screw or whatever in the direction of your thumb.
clefairy ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 03:41:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Steering wheels are also circular and not much (I hope) people get confused. Treat the screw as a steering wheel.
We have a saying in our religion that every smile is charity. I constantly have to remind myself and my kids how true that is.
This behaviour is instantly disarming and more than half the time contagious. Even if I was down, seeing someone smile back at me after I smiled at them was very uplifting. So it is charity, but one that can give back.
[Sorry for the Reader's Digest corny point to ponder but I regret nothing!]
[deleted] ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 02:59:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best life hack. It's universal and so kind. I read a post where someone was thinking about killing themselves because no one, not a stranger not anyone, hadn't even looked at them. They changed their mind when someone smiled at them because it made them recognize their humanity. You never know what someone is going through and sometimes a reassuring smile is just it.
This. Be nice and people will be nice back. I have befriended the Starbucks baristas at the one I frequent, and they will often give extras for free. Whether that be putting the whip cream in the bottom of my cup or just adding extra cookie pieces to my java chip frap. Be nice.
betaich ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:10:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As are Austria, Switzerland, Sweden, Norway, Finland, Estonia, Latvia, Lithuania, Russia, Belarus, Ukraine, Poland, Hungary, Czech Republick and many many more.
Thereโs another post on the front page that forcing a fake smile at work makes you more depressed and more likely to drink later.
fj333 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:58:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can get a lot just by smiling to yourself. When you're unhappy you can literally change your emotions by forcing a smile. Obviously there are limits to this, but it's still something I'd never have believed until I tried it.
Honestly, I found very little success with this as an American married to a German woman that lived in Germany for 8 months.
They have their smiles for their friends and family. This is not to say they aren't friendly, or helpful, to strangers but they hold you at arms length unless your in their inner circle for the most part.
DisMaTA ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:24:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True. Smiles are usually genuine.
That's why you can do quite a lot with one.
Just don't smile all the time, it will come across as fake/untrustworthy.
As a super friendly German who loves to smile at people, that's not my experience at all. Maybe it depends on where you live? Here in Hamburg people won't react weird if you smile at them during conversations.
If you somehow find a reason to smile, even one so simple as just to show friendliness, and itโs coming from a genuine pla e, people will appreciate it even if they donโt outwardly show that they do.
How to find a reason to just be happy? Now that takes some self-discovery...
I'd just advise women to be careful about it in Europe. I smile at everyone out of habit, a homeless man and an economic refugee (separate occasions) in Germany took it as an invitation to follow me on my walk and try to marry me.
In Italy, where older men and younger women are semi common pairings, an older gentleman took it as an invite to, again, come try to date me.
I was raised to smile, it was considered to be polite. It works in rural America near the Canadian border, where people understand that it just means you were raised to be polite. However, life taught me that this does not work so well in big cities. When a guy smiles at me, I think, "His mother raised him to be polite." But when I smiled at men, they somehow turn that into "SHE WANTS ME" and that can lead to unwanted sexual advances. So guys, when you see that older woman at work who frowns all the time, there's a reason. She learned to do that, in order to reduce the number of embarassing and sometimes terrifying sexual advances on the job. It just becomes a habit that persists long after we've reached the "age of invisibility" and are no longer the target of sexual advances/assaults on the job. I've noticed female bartenders who aren't trying for tips tend to frown at all of the men, it probably makes their lives easier/less terrifying, not being followed out to their car after work...
They do in some, not in some others. In much of Europe people will think you're crazy or trying to scam them if you smile until they learn that you're American since it's pretty well known that Americans smile a lot (there are theories that we, in the US, use it to diffuse any potential conflicts since we have a lot of people who won't speak a common language in bigger cities).
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:22:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's a pretty terrible theory given how cosmopolitan the larger EU cities are compared to the US. We just like to be neighborly to everybody until they prove they don't deserve it. "Everybody" means something different in different communities though. There are a lot of places where "outsiders" are certainly not getting a smile and a nod.
That's just not true, in both historical and modern times; the US has one of the highest rates of immigration population (people whose relatives/ancestors came from another country) overall, and from very diverse countries. Check out the data underlying the analysis, linked in this article. https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2017/05/why-americans-smile-so-much/524967/
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:10:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No idea why you got downvoted. Still disagree with the theory. Really seems to be more about national ideals. The US models "good neighbors" after Mayberry and Lake Wobegone. Smile. Put on a happy face for the public. Be dead and judgemental on the inside. Would assume the German stereotype comes from Protestant "life is suffering" ideology coupled with the idea that what happens in public is business and therefore should be serious by default.
Toralar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not in Ukraine
Warpato ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:44:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
like most body lanaguage/expressions it varies culture to culture
most people just spend all day looking like this? :|
calling bullshit on that one.
betaich ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 02:26:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Germany, Switzerland, Czech Republic, Poland, Ukraine, Russia, Austria, Sweden, Norway, Denmark, Finland and a lot of others would like to have a word with you.
so, if I go to any of these countries and someone needs my help, they would just request it and not smile once at the beginning or end of our meeting? just a gruff thanks? not even that?
none of the people in the countries you listed engage in social niceties?
like, say I see someone struggling with pushing their broken down car down the road. I offer to help, we easily get it down to the place they need it. they don't smile once as we go our separate ways?
smiling at people isn't weird or creepy, everyone smiles.
I feel like people are missing OP's point and assuming they mean "smiling at everyone all the goddamn time." yeah, that's weird, even here in the States.
quick smiles are basic social niceties, and they're not restricted to America. I can't stop you from thinking every other country in the world looks like Charlie's house in the Willy Wonka movie, but, I assure you they don't.
Smiling is much less common in many countries than it is in America. American's in general are perceived as too friendly outside of America to the point that they're obnoxious, smiling and staring incessantly is one of the reasons why. Maybe you don't notice because you're so used to it.
Rengas ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:12:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That perception sounds like a you problem, not a them problem.
I'm not saying I necessarily perceive Americans that way but that's a commonly held sentiment...
When you're a foreigner in someone else's culture and your behaviour is perceived as weird it always your problem. Maybe that's the issue... Americans go to other countries, do something they think is totally normal but is weird in that culture, then blame the culture they're in for not being like America.
Rengas ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:26:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Funny. I've traveled across four different continents and not once did anyone ever react with hostility when I smiled at them. Your prejudice definitely isn't as common as you think.
smiling and staring incessantly is one of the reasons why.
Maybe you don't notice because you're so used to it.
did... did you just ignore the part where I said people here do that too and we think they're weird? it's not a national quirk, the vast majority of people here don't smile and stare incessantly.
it just seems like you're turning this into an America vs. the World thing. guess what? tourists from other countries come here and smile. I've seen people smile when in other countries.
yanno the "america is one big happy sappy nation" circlejerk is beyond outdated, right? that shit stopped being a thing like 17-19 years ago.
people here are meming about wanting to cannibalize the rich on a daily basis, our political system has failed us, we've been at war or in conflict for something like 20 years straight, the youth are realizing exactly how fucked the boomers and dumb white people have left them, we have terrible education, corporations have long since been selling every detail about us because we don't have anything like GDPR, we have the worst prison system, and, most sadly, this country is extremely full of hate.
you can make fun of us all you'd like, but, please trust and believe we aren't walking around grinning like saps as a nation. you see the people that can AFFORD to leave their jobs and blow money on a trip across the ocean for a vacation. these are primarily the folks who are above the issues the majority of the nation is dealing with. the rest of us barely make ends meet because livable wage is a joke and cost of living just keeps going up.
people here are meming about wanting to cannibalize the rich on a daily basis, our political system has failed us, we've been at war or in conflict for something like 20 years straight, the youth are realizing exactly how fucked the boomers and dumb white people have left them, we have terrible education, corporations have long since been selling every detail about us because we don't have anything like GDPR, we have the worst prison system, and, most sadly, this country is extremely full of hate.
Yet most of you still voted for an elderly TV personality to be your president ๐ค
lol, no, it's a well known fact that the country voted for someone else.
it's just that due to the failed political system I mentioned above, popular vote doesn't matter and a far smaller group of knuckleheads basically decide the election without needing to consider the whims of the public.
man, people say Americans don't know shit about other countries, but, looks like that's something we share with folks around the world.
it's a well known fact that the country voted for someone else.
Only if you define "the country" as "half the country"... Regardless of how shitty the electoral roll and all that is, the idea that HALF of your population went into a voting booth and put down vote for that ridiculous idiot is still mind boggling.
In my country I've yet to meet anyone who supports him. In your country I could probably find someone pretty easily. That's incredible to me.
Eastern European? Found this true when I lived there a little. Seemed to stem mostly from older generations when they lived under Russian influence as a satellite.
klop422 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 00:49:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I disagree. Many smile back, and others are likely just a bit shy.
And even if not, doing it just means you're smiling more than you would otherwise, and smiling improves the mood
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 00:47:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Am not American, can confirm, I don't like interact with complete stranges unless is for a totally necessary reason (Work, asking for a direction, ect), but out of the blue? not thanks
The4ker ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:58:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Found the Frenchman
Jokes aside in the UK we smile at each other all the time, especially the north, it's considered ANTI social to not smile at the random person you accidentally made eye contact with
I was talking to whoever was downvoting me, there were a few.
But I've also had people tell me that 'American' refers to people on those continents. Since I know first hand how much Canadians and Mexicans smile, I wondered if you were using it that way.
Now I know you weren't.
And I also remember why I stay away from the larger subreddits.
Iโm definitely not a smiler, but one day I was walking and a guy and a girl was in front of me. The guy was wearing a magikarp beanie that got me smiling and the girl glanced back at me then fully turned her head to smile back at me. I donโt get a lot of attention from girls so it kind of surprised me and made me wish I could smile genuinely on command.
I never smile if I can help it. Showing one's teeth is a submission signal in primates. When someone smiles at me, all I see is a chimpanzee begging for its life.
This. I am always smiling, whether it's to other people or to myself. I have lost count the number of times people have come up to me and say how I'm always smiling and seem happy, and how it has made them smile/cheered them up as well. When they ask me why I am always smiling, I usually reply that there is always at least one thing worth smiling about, whether it's the nice weather, a good cup of coffee, or just being alive.
I have also suffered depression most of my life, so this has also helped me change my negative thought processes into more positive ones, since I am focusing on things to be happy about, vs ruminating on what is making me miserable.
That, and the joy of seeing others smile back, and sometimes sparking conversations with strangers is a gift unto itself.
youll have a buzzfeed video made about this saying how Americans smile a lot.
chu100 ยท 3776 points ยท Posted at 22:51:29 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop chasing girls. Most times now they notice me as an individual, not as someone begging for a girlfriend.
Teoshen ยท 1650 points ยท Posted at 00:24:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This seems really counterintuitive, but I can confirm it works. They can smell the desperation coming off you. When I gave up and worked on personal projects, I found a lot more success with women.
That said, you still have to be in an environment that leads to talking with people. Giving up doesn't mean to sit in your apartment and mope, it means to not have getting a girl as the goal for the day while you're out and about.
Yoshi_XD ยท 147 points ยท Posted at 01:44:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Biggest piece of advice I gave to a friend who was looking really hard for a girlfriend: Don't go out specifically looking to meet women, just go meet people.
If you're that guy at the party that can get along and have fun with everybody you talk to, people will take notice, and also take interest.
Y6Y1Y9 ยท 69 points ยท Posted at 01:55:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only thing i don't understand about this is that at a certain point, someone has to be the one to say hey i like you we should go on a date. By the logic of the don't pursue, don't go looking specifically for dating, that would never happen. It has to happen at some point does it not? I'm not trying to be facetious, i really don't understand it because it seems like such a catch 22. Everyone always says don't pursue and don't be desperate obviously, but everyone then also says "well are you trying? did you go out and talk to people" and all that. And just going out and being social doesn't get you to a relationship, that just expands a platonic friend circle. I'm struggling to see where that step to a romantic relationship comes into play.
If thereโs a good connection between two people, even in the context of a platonic friend group, if itโs worth pursuing IMO it makes itself apparent without anyone having to โtry.โ Like yeah maybe at some point someone has to initiate a date or something but if thereโs chemistry I donโt think it needs to be like a big scary thing? The whole thing with not trying is that youโre doing your own thing until someone comes along that admires that thing and is compatible with you. Itโs not about never pursuing a specific person you like, Iโd say itโs more about changing your focus away from searching for a mate.
Yes, all of my previous relationships have been from approaching people in this way. Just being in the same situation, and then having a chemistry with some of them, then one day having dinner, and another one, and another... On and on until you're official.
If you like a person, and that person likes you in return, you'll likely notice if you're put in the same situations.
Even if you aren't you can always create a situation, ask out on a date, but if they don't want to or if they "don't see you that way" don't get disheartened, desperate, and pushy, just treat them as a friend and move on. Many people would like you.
Or not like you. I do not like many people. So it would be odd to assume that many people would like me. People do like me, but the world is full of all sorts of weirdos.
[deleted] ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 02:46:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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Y6Y1Y9 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:00:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I see what you mean for the most part. There needs to be a degree of familiarity between you and the person before someone makes a move. Doesn't naturally wanting to spend more one on one time together inherently involve asking someone out somewhat before rapport is fully established, specifically so you can further build on the rapport? Isn't that the dating process before you're exclusive? I guess i'm seeing the distinction with a lot more crossover/grey area than the people who have this figured out do. Fuck, i think i'm the guy who can't read the room.
Sometimes you will have to guess, and you will guess incorrectly. One type of dude will go on reddit ranting how he doesn't get women and dating and how is this ever supposed to work?? Other type of dude will let it roll right off him and go on with his life, happy to look for the next opportunity. It's frequently a matter of perspective.
Y6Y1Y9 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:31:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True. I can at least say I'm the latter. When I get rejected I'm never angry or bitter, but I do over think how I misinterpreted the signs or lack there of and got it wrong a lot and how I can avoid that the next time/person.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:22:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I am a psych student and I can confirm that a ton of people in my classes have spoken openly about their mental illness or past trauma. A lot of psych people first become interested while being treated it seems. I've had my struggles same as anyone else in any other field, but I majored in psychology because I love science, and I believe the knowledge gained through psychological experiments is important and meaningful. It's not a useless degree it just requires a graduate degree to work in the field. I'm also doing a minor in stats to make myself more marketable.
But why would I try and build rapport with a stranger? Unless I want something? And if they read that I want something then I should already be coming across as desperate by your logic.
I date women (including those half my age) so I'm not lashing out about it not working. More that my experience is that you are wrong. I'm not saying your method doesn't work, but I've not needed to do it that way.
Are you asking why you should talk to people if you donโt intend to date them? lol
Thereโs much more you can get out off getting to know knew people. Friendships, life experience, fun stories to tell, Networking for your career...
But in the end you're still trying to get something out of them, so why should they be receptive? And I guess you're going to target specific people to try and make progress in your career rather than women you don't know.
What I would say is it's a gradual process. You start off by just being friendly and having fun, but as you progress through new conversations/interactions with the same person, your appreciation, attraction, feelings towards the person, etc., begin to develop and your relationship grows from there. If you go into it pursuing them right off the bat, it's like you're skipping the buildup steps where you learn about each other, and to the other person it seems like you could like them just as much as you like a stranger, which conveys desperation and neediness. Eventually, and gradually, you get to the point where one or both of you realize that you like each other, and then someone makes a move; but I would say that the pursuit comes later, not at the start.
But that's a problem if you don't really get to interact with someone much. That's the point of dating. I don't mean being in a relationship, I mean going out on dates... That's how you get to know someone. I might take part in 9 recreational activities a week that involve groups. But most of those groups focus on doing what they are doing and then go their own separate ways. It's hard to develop relationships (non-romantic) that way.
None of my relationships have come from dating friends or co-workers. But it's really easy to tell if I like someone quickly because I don't like most people at all.
Durpurp ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 05:45:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This so much.
I went to a friends 18th birthday. There's a few guys from his school and his gf who brought a few of her girlfriends from out of town. Have a few drinks, chat for a bit, go home at 2 am.
A few years later, he celebrates his 25th at the same venue (different gf, same friends from his school) and we reminisce about the first party. Offhand, he tells me how after I went home, the girls mentioned that it was great to have someone actually talk to them instead of hitting on them constantly like the other guys there. It's nice to hear that, but all the other guys are there with their SO's and I'm the one who's never been in a relationship.
I know it's not as simple as that and me being eternally single is probably because I'm just too fucked up, but it still stung like hell.
Yteburk ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:59:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And that has always proven to be a crock of shit. There are a lot of "ugly" people in relationships and a lot of awkward attractive people who are single.
The people who say shit like "be attractive; don't be unattractive" are usually "ugly" people who don't want to date other "ugly" people.
Felgh01 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:05:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Just want to say this tip is the opposite of 'rules 1 & 2', if you start chasing girls they have nothing to judge you on but your looks, but if you actually get to know them looks don't matter.
Which is the problem with dating apps; for most of us, there is no way we'd be picked out of hundreds of others based solely off of profiles.
Edit: I mean the original tip. Also I'm not saying they have to be ugly, they'd just have to be good looking to not be rejected with that many choices
Part of the issue is that men tend to be goal oriented, as youโre exhibiting here.
Thatโs great for most things, not for this.
Going to the party with any conscious goal about meeting girls or getting laid will be read plainly in your actions and body language. Instead, have the goal to be fun.
Of course, someone has to make a move eventually, but thatโs not the issue for 99% of guys. The issue is seeming low-status by seeming desperate by seeming to be at a party only to get laid.
Iโve been very successful with women my whole life and I almost never โmake a moveโ. I have fun and eventually they make a move or they send signals so obviously that Iโd have to be an idiot not to make a move. And my โmoveโ aligns with everything weโve been doing.
I disagree also with your premise about it crossing some sort of Disney movie line between โwant to go on a date?โ and simply hanging out more.
If youโre out with people and have fun, youโll want to do it again. If you and a particular person have fun, youโll both want to do it again. Plan that next thing openly and without fear and, again, not as cover to get laid. And it will be read as โthis guy is fun and doing that thing will be funโ. Which is mostly the issue with guysโ โgameโ anyway - making it like a proposal makes it too intense and on the nose and comes off creepy or desperate unless they already see you as a cool fun guy they want to be with.
a relationship can go from plutonic to romantic and back again in an no time so I wouldnโt worry too much about how it begins. there is nothing wrong with โpursuingโ someone but it might be easier to foster levity and attraction in your relationships by not focusing too much on romantic expectations to start. if youre approachable enough women may even ask you out though for the most part you need to accept the possibility of rejection. With experience it becomes easier to tell when people are attracted to you but I wonโt lie and say I havenโt gotten it wrong before.
[deleted] ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 02:19:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep, following this advice is a good way to watch many years go by being alone.
They will give you the signals that tell you they want to have sex, from you not seeming like you want them. You will know because they will make it obvious.
Its not all about dating. The sex is usually going to come first
Turned out I'm super easy with getting along with the guys but not with the girls. I can't approach a random girl at some event and start casually talking. Because a)women these days often feel like prey in such cases and I can't blame them, b)girls mostly go to events with their boyfriends. And in case b I have way less problems with smiling to their boyfriend than to them.
As a current apartment moper with too much time on his hands, any suggestions? I've been meaning to meet more people in general lately. I don't think bars are a good idea for me because I don't drink, and I'm not in college, and I live in a fairly small town... Ack.
While itโs my opinion that bars are probably the most efficient way to meet new people (since thatโs where a lot of people go for the express purpose of meeting new people), the best ways to meet more would be in any club or other social thing/event you could join. A club for your favorite hobby (or even a new hobby), you could meet someone at a concert or sports game, or maybe even church if thatโs your thing. Anywhere other people are out and about.
First don't try and date. Go spend sometime doing things for yourself first. How are you going to come across to women if you describe yourself as an apartment moper? There must be something you want to do in life.
I do this but I inevitably get surrounded by other guys (not a bad thing as I've made some friends), but it's incredibly frustrating. I'm at my wits end since I have no way of meeting women and literally none of my friends have single mutual friends.
Tried online dating, turns out it's significantly harder for men of colour where I live.
Anything that interests you that might appeal to women more? My experience of yoga and dancing (not things I'm really into) has been that those classes were mainly populated by women.
Hmm, I do enjoy cooking. I'm pretty active within my little circle of other photographers as well, and I know many women do photography but my particular circle is pretty much fully male.
Counchsurfing app. They regularly put on events and stuff you can go to. It's great to just meet and be social. No pressure on you for anything and it can be fun.
Or everytime I get a GF, I ignore other girls and then have them climbing over fences and crawling through windows like an episode of the walking dead.
It also makes you more interesting as a person.l which gives you better luck. When a girl says โso what have you been up toโ talking about a project or goal you have is interesting. Saying nothing is not. Saying chasing girls is not.
Tried many different ways, never been able to make it work with even one girl. I'm 26. Not really sure what to do at this point. I pretty much am done putting in any effort at this point. Maybe that will work! Haha
But really, I've tried not coming off desperate but out of every time I've asked a girl out, I've had I think two go on a date with me? One I found out was in a relationship.
I've tried not being weird about it too. I try to ask for just getting dinner a night. I always set a specific date so that I don't corner them with a "What day works for you?" That way if they are interested they can say "Oh I can't that day, but what about this other day". If they give a response that just seems like a deflect I leave them alone and don't pester them with it. I mean, that's the right thing to do, right? I don't just ignore them, I've stayed really good friends with girls after asking them out, so I think I'm doing that right. But still, I'm not really sure what I need to improve on. It just gets really discouraging to keep trying. Rejection is frustrating.
Teoshen ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:47:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So I don't know your numbers, but between conversations with general people, and active attempts on tinder and okcupid, I averaged a success rate of around 2% for first dates. The women who I found attractive, who found me attractive, in each of our acceptable age ranges, single, and in a good spot to pursue some kind of relationship, was a pretty low number. And after that, not many first dates turned into second and third dates because of personalities not meshing and other life happening.
All in all, it is a lot of luck that I found my lovely wife, but a lot of that luck was manipulated by how many people I've collided with over the last decade. I wouldn't have met her or someone like her if I didn't meet a lot of people.
If you want proof that it works as a guy you'll notice you get a lot more attention from women after getting in a relationship. That's cause you aren't acting like a predator out hunting anymore and are just relaxed and yourself.
Really the whole thing is phrased as a kind of apology to the protagonist's father for being wild and breaking the rules. Cuz girls, they wanna have fun.
I read somewhere that the song was originally intended to be from a guy's perspective explaining to his father his philandering ways and that girls just want to have fun.
Yeah, right. It's a feminist statement about girls in the 80s, when we were still dealing with "girls are subject to different rules than boys." cyndi Lauper tried to say that girls also got to reach out and be themselves. She threw in a verse about oppressive men. Cyndi Lauper was a leader in female freedom.
I have a friend who recently learned this tidbit. So, now he is always "having fun, laughing and enjoying himself", while his eyes still dart around the room scanning if the prey has noticed him having fun.
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[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:01:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This explains so much to me wow thank u!! I always look like I'm having the most fun too as a woman. Does it go the same the same both ways? That explains everything to be honest
Yes. I never had much success with clubs because my standard method was "awkwardly shuffle in the corner for a while."
Then someone said "just put yourself out there and have a good time, girls want to dance with a guy who's already having a good time." And lo and behold, the same night I started focusing less on finding a partner and more on just enjoying myself, a girl came up to me and started dancing with me.
Of course, I fucked that up by accidentally repeatedly kneeing her between the legs to the beat of an EDM song, but that's a different story for another time.
Arktuos ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:39:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always wondered how I managed to find girls way out of my league. Back in college I decided that I was more important to me than finding a girlfriend. I suppose I agree. It works.
Sometimes, sometimes not. People certainly become less attractive if I dislike them. Although I think in theory I could get behind a hate fuck in some cases.
But here's the secret they don't tell you- people look at the guy having fun and think "man, he looks like he's already having so much fun. I wanna have fun too, let's go hang out with him and we can have fun together."
On the flip side, they see the guy awkwardly standing in the corner not being social and they think "he doesn't look fun and I want to have fun, better move on."
You gotta be comfortable having fun by yourself without relying on other people to provide fun for you. People don't want to be saddled with entertainment duty, they want to have fun with someone who is also fun.
In other words, having a good time makes you more attractive.
Women used to come up to me all the time when I was sitting alone in the corner of a bar. People do all sorts of weird shit. But it's about identifying what is most likely to appeal to the kind of women you are interested in. But do it for you, not for them.
I am female, and used to attract men by studying at the bar in college. Appearing to be engrossed in something made them want to know what was so interesting that I could ignore the bar life.
Some girls do. Women still approach me when I'm sitting alone in a dark corner with my usual grim face on. Their definition of fun must be somewhat different to the norm. It takes all kinds I guess. But I also guess that by sitting in the corner I'm also not chasing them.
So, so many men do not understand this. You can SMELL the preying vibes coming off them when they approach you and try super super hard to impress you. It is super tiring and boring to talk to. I will happily chat to anyone, literally anyone, if they're just chill and being themselves and having a good time.
The other thing is that sometimes men try this, and even though they get better at conversations etc, they still think it's unfair or something when they don't get a girlfriend in like a week. It isn't about being "friendzoned" because you're the worst, it's the fact that not everyone will be your perfect bloody match. Think about how many people you meet and either think are just okay, or don't like that much. Then apply that same statistic to finding a partner, and heighten it a bit because you have to REALLY like someone and click with them to want to put your face close to their face (maybe unless drunk idk). It is NORMAL to struggle to find a good partner, and women struggle with this too, everyone does.
Oh yeah also being "nice" and "respectful" is literally the bare fucking minimum for being a good partner. Like, that's great, but it doesn't mean the universe owes you a partner. Everyone in my life who I choose to associate with on any reasonable level is "nice" and "respectful." Doesn't mean they are automatically my dream person. I hope people search for a lot more than just those two things in a life partner!
That's the thing for me. I'm a guy but basically have resting bitchface syndrome. I never look happy unless I'm already engaging with someone. When someone approaches and talks to me/us, my mind goes into overdrive from social anxiety and the smile fades instantly. I usually don't initiate a conversation either, so it's really difficult to talk to new people for me.
I mean part of the concept of waiting for the guy to ask first is so you know he is actually interested in you. A lot (not all) of guys will say yes to any girl who asks; so letting the guy ask is a way to pre-filter for interest. Obviously this is a huge generalization, can work both ways, and isn't for everyone, but its a thing.
It would be so easy for them, too. Outside of the 10% of guys who look like Brad Pitt, most guys almost never get asked out. They'll say yes just out of reflex if they are asked.
Definitely a filter for interest. I always thought waiting for the guy to ask first was strange, and the only time I haven't followed this rule I turned out to be a rebound before getting dumped so he could go back to his ex.
Nice. I heard another way of thinking about it: Women want to go on an adventure, not be your adventure. They would rather go to an exciting, fun destination... not be the destination. Except some of them. And those are the ones you probably want to avoid.
See, I did this and just wound up getting utterly ignored.
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doctor_7 ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 00:27:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
FWIW I lost a lot of weight and I am now better looking. Have been with ladies that I would've considered so far out of my league it's not even funny.
Being better looking gets your foot in the door but they'll shut the door if you're still undesirable to them. All the bros that hook up with chicks really just do it the Boomhauer method, they don't give a shit if they strike out. These guys go 1/25 but that 1 still goes for it.
MrVeazey ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:25:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1/25 doesn't sound too bad actually. I had a pretty plain looking acquaintance that seemed to hit paydirt almost every evening he wanted to. He went totally statistical and just increased his odds by frequenting places with a lot of women and just propositioning like crazy till he got a hit.
I was (and still am) happily married, but I still have to admire his technique.
Imagine that, women will "shut the door" on men they don't like? Being a good looking guy doesn't entitle him to women. Women are people too and aren't obligated to like every guy that's nice to them.
The guys that don't give a shit understand not everyone will like them.
Your response is insanely over the top compared to what OP said. Nobody suggested women โwerenโt peopleโ.
[deleted] ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 01:40:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being good looking only gets you so far, as a man. If your personality is terrible, girls notice it.. at least the girls you want will notice it and walk away pretty quickly. Reminds me of a guy I briefly dated. I'll be fair and say he had a really good looking face, and I could see him being successful (in the short term) with a lot of girls, but he was honest and said most girls who showed interest in him weren't attractive to him, and that I was basically the most attractive girl he'd dated. But the problem was, he kept trying these tricks on me that he would try on the girls he assumed had low self esteem. He was mean enough to have a nickname for those girls. I picked up on these cues pretty quickly and lost real interest in him after a whole week lol. He kept trying, but just kept failing.
Even being really pretty has its limits, ESPECIALLY for men. I can see men putting up with shit a lot more from a "hot" girl because guys often value that too much over other qualities... but as a girl who has various good looking options most times, I'm not settling for the guy who's nasty on the inside, no matter how pretty he is.
It might only get you so far, but it at least gets you started
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:01:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It has damaging impacts too though. The false starts are probably pretty psychologically damaging and I can see how a good looking guy - who lacks the right personality or the skills to develop something - can become really insecure and even more insecure than a guy who's average looking. I see it the same way for women as well. Being above average in terms of looks can lead a lot of crazy men to pursue you and you deal with a lot more psychological warfare than the girl who's more plain does.
In short, what I was trying to say is... being good looking doesn't give you a free pass to be a bad human.
A hundred percent, but it does make life a lot easier.
tercoil ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:37:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt show off that youโre interesting. Just be interesting. Have hobbies and passions that you can talk to others about and even if they donโt share the similar interest if youโre passionate about something chances are people will at least enjoy hearing you talk about it (to an extent of course)
Here's what you do: you forget about them entirely.
You decide what you want to learn next and you give yourself a purpose. It could be cooking, or rock climbing or whatever. And you go out and learn it.
Thursday cooking class is Italian, so you made some fancy pasta. You have a good time and talk to your classmates. These are your new cool friends from cooking class.
Or maybe you decide on the weekends to learn a new language and now you've made some friends from Japanese class? They probably like games so hey; now you're playing Mario Kart next week after class.
Get out of your comfort zone. Define who you are, you don't need anyone but yourself. Mold your tastes and interests exactly how you want them to be. When you least expect it; someone will probably say: "Hey rick_blatchman! pasta and Mario Kart?".
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Tonikupe ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 01:04:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I go shoot hoops by myself, its been a miracle change for me. people come out the cuts and notice me. Ive always been ignored and now that im making healthy decisions and making myself the best I can be I get more attention than I could have ever imagined. good attention too
I also don't like doing some of the things I love the most when it involves a group of people. As an introvert I recharge my batteries doing the things I like the most by myself too.
But there are some things that I want to learn or get better at; where I don't mind when others are involved. These aren't necessarily my favourite things to do, but it's more about me developing a skill or finding meaning in something outside of what I do everyday.
I surprised myself one day when out of pure boredom I struck a casual conversation with someone at the grocery store. I wasn't even thinking about it, it just happened.
Ultimately, I won't lie that it's a very conscious effort. The first time I went by myself to a class I just sat there, didn't ask any questions and left after the class was done. It sometimes feels like you are wasting your time, but I guarantee it starts getting easier the more you push through it.
I'm painfully introverted and have always had a problem with this. What I've found is often times, there are still people who will want to do that stuff with you! (some platonically, some as an so).
I really like to read, so lately I've been inviting a friend or two at a time to come read with me somewhere cool! Last week an old coworker and I went to a gorgeous indoor garden to read, and after just walked and chatted, and it was really wonderful.
I waste a lot of time watching TV so a friend and I are watching a show together and then talking about it. It's fun and I get to see how she thinks.
Most things you like to do, even if they're solo, other people like to do as well and you can find cool ways to do them together. It often opens up opportunities to genuinely get to know that person and build a relationship of whatever kind.
And if you don't have any ideas, next time someone suggests something in the vein of what you like (a book, a game, a show, anything you're into) give it a shot! As long as you dont hate it, you can ask them about it! If someone likes something enough to share you, it means something to them and gives you the chance to learn about them, which is usually super fun.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:54:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I feel that! I was homeschooled and ended up with both social and general anxiety, it's hard. Don't give up on yourself yet, I bet you're more capable and interesting than you ever imagined! It just takes some time, I didnt figure it out till I was 28 and it's still rough a lot of the time (I often have to take multiple days to talk to literally no one to recuperate), but its doable and worth it!
Then you stop looking for reasons to not do something and just do it instead. Find a way to meet people that you want to meet.
Plamore ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:01:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Say yes to the next thing that comes up. Not necessarily to someone inviting you, even just like an ad for something. Just go and explore different parts of the life you could choose to pursue. There have probably been plenty of things you like that you found by accident, so go looking for accidents. Not the best way to phrase it but hopefully that makes sense.
Iโm veering a little off topic here, but your post was timely for me. My wife and I have been happily married for over 20 years now. Together for 27 all in. I havenโt had to think about dating for the majority of my life.
We had a very close friend who just recently got divorced after 20 years together. Heโs in the dating pool now and itโs an entirely different world today than it was two decades ago. We have watched him figure out tinder and other dating apps, and all of the weirdness that comes with it. He had a date not show up once because she thought she was being catfished. That sentence did not exist the last time he was dating.
So naturally my wife and I started talking about how we would go about dating if we were suddenly single in 2019. Your answer would have easily been the best answer given because we both came to the realization that we had no idea how to go about dating after nearly 30 years. Your answer is rock solid.
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:27:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
still didn't work. Many years went by and then I realized I was far behind.
Cpont ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:58:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm confused. You say "forgot about them entirely," but that's not clear. Is forgetting about them not talking to them at all (if that's the case, who's going to ask you out?). Is it stop feeling attraction to people? That doesn't seem viable.
I think it means โdont make dating or finding someone the goal.โ I think it means, get into something for yourself, and then the rest will follow. And i kinda get it now. Because lets look at where most everyone in America usually finds their first relationship(usually) : Highschool.
You dont go to school for dating, you go for education and life preparation. I mean of course some kids only ever focus on fucking around, but the main purpose of school itself is education, youโre going there for yourself. And through those 4 years, you potentially find someone to be with.
Another example can be work. You go there for yourself; to make money, further you career, put money and achievement into the things you want. And there you often find some of your friends. You dont go there solely to find friends and have the income as a benefit, its the opposite. So the advice โforget about themโ seems to be calling back to this, at least to my understanding. Do the things you want, and find people through that.
EXACTLY THIS!๐๐พ
Iโm doing something similar and building myself up. Because of it -and the added peace that comes from knowing myself, people seem to notice that Iโm a person of some value.
Hereโs a silver๐๐พ
I am living my best life doing what I really want to do as far as I can given my situation, and it's definitely making me Way less dateable than if I led a random normal life.
Grimpaw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:43:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've seem to unlearn and relearn this multiple times in my life. Currently my VBA course is the highlight of my week and i'm exited about meeting new people. I was much more depressed and miserable before it started. I almost unsigned when the start was postponed due to not enough students.
it is not at all that binary. I am not good looking and got zero girls in high school. In college, I made friends with a group of guys who were all really cool and I wanted to impress when I went out with them the first time. I walked up to a very good looking girl and said that her eye makeup is perfect and she laughed in my face, that fucking hurt. But I kept up my fake confident face and smiled back and just said I am serious and I went back over to my new friends who were laughing about it. I tried to ignore that it happened since I was pretty embarrassed and she ended up literally jumping into my lap an hour later asking for a ride home. I am by no means "good at getting girls" but the one time I made a solid effort I accidentally did the perfect thing and figured it out.
Show interest in a genuine way, then give her space cause its all up to her
My understanding of what OP means is "don't act desperate," not "don't put in any effort." If you're interested in someone, show it in a respectful, thoughtful way. This could mean as little as smiling more around her, wholesome compliments, etc. Make her feel special when you're around her and that you're thinking of her without over-the-top expressions of affection. Treat her like an equal and that her independence is important. In the same vein, make yourself desirable. By desirable, I mean projecting confidence and self-worth. When you walk, hold your head high. When you talk, speak clearly and intelligently. Don't be afraid to express emotions and show a sense of adventure. Make it clear that I'm rick_blatchman and I'm freaking awesome. Show some style in your appearance. Dress cleanly, but not over the top. Wear clothes that fit you well and roll up long sleeve shirts. I don't know why, but I've learned that it's something girls really like. Find a hairstyle that works for you. Definitely don't wear a fedora. Over the past year, I've payed a lot more attention to the way in which I dress and holy shit has it made a difference. This is something that takes time and to be honest, I'm still working on it.
The only way in which you'll be labeled a creep is if you try chasing every girl that comes by---this is the spirit of chu100's message. Don't show exaggerated displays of affection, keep it simple and wholesome.
Here's an example of exaggerated affection:
A coworker of mine started at the same time as me two years ago (we're all college-aged). He used to be a very positive influence and fun to be around until he started hitting on just about every girl on our staff---regardless of their relationship status. The way in which he's done so has ranged from pestering girls and showering them with affection whenever she's near (way too much) to flexing his wealth by buying expensive presents when he comes back from exotic vacations. By going around to every girl and getting shot down by each of them, it devalues the self worth of the next girl he pursues. How must it feel to be the sixth girl this guy has hit on in the past three months? Definitely not special. Definitely not like an equal.
Don't get me wrong, dating is complicated and really fucking hard. As humans, we're really bad at showing intimacy. It's easy to get jaded and fall into a hole of frustration at girls, yourself or whatever, but keep in mind that it's difficult for just about everyone. Very few people hit it off with the exact right person right away, and while it's easy to think of these people, I'd encourage you to think of everyone else you know who hasn't yet, but keeps their chin up.
I may not know you personally, but there are definitely aspects of your looks/personality that others will find attractive.
I had a friend who would answer this with the phrase "you don't hunt in your backyard". What he meant that even if he was successful initially, there was too much to lose if a relationship went south.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:23:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If that's your problem, then you need to look at other explanations, like the possibility that you're not attractive.
I don't mean just physically, I mean as a package. If you're being ignored when you keep to yourself and you're being perceived as a creep when you show interest, it's because people don't want you. That's just the harsh truth.
The good news is you can do something about it. Work out, start eating healthier, dress better, take care of personal hygiene and learn to start liking yourself and going out to have fun. People can see/sense desperation, so if all you can do is think about getting a girl or meeting someone when you're out, that's part of what can make you unattractive too.
Itโs not about showing interest or not. Itโs about being interesting yourself. Thatโs why being confident and fun works. And why ignoring doesnโt.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:40:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, you still need to be interacting with your gender of interest regularly.
it's 90% showing up, like most things. But let's hyperfocus on the 10% and how to optimize it
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:59:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not about showing interest. It's about being an interesting person. Don't show them you want them. Just be a desirable person. That doesn't mean be hot and an insane athlete. Just show that you're an interesting person. Talk about something your working on, personal projects, something you've learned, and be a fun person. Don't be a desperate creep who chases women. Be an interesting person who has fun.
I find the right balance is necessary. Show that you're interested but be ready to walk away.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:37:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah honestly this advice doesn't work for most guys. I think it only works for guys who are normally overly eager (as in, don't value themselves at all) or guys who go for girls who are kinda beyond their reach.
It doesn't mean ignore them or avoid them. It means stop trying to bring a girl home from the bar and just hang out as if they were another guy at the bar. Eventually you start to pick up on which girls are interested in you. Plus because you aren't targeting a single girl, but rather just hanging out with whoever, you cast a pretty broad net.
2) Don't treat your life as a quest for sex.
I've done this. I've shaved my pubes before going to social gatherings, gone to them with "am I gonna get laid, am I gonna get laid?" foremost in my mind, and come home alone with my head hanging. Not only did this make me miss out on all the other fun I could have had, not only did thisย hurtย my chances of getting laid by someone who'd like to get to know me a little first, but it was creepy. It meant that I'd do things like:
-Only talking to people I wanted to bang, and ignoring others (people really notice this)
-Turning the conversation around to sex (and specifically, toย myย sexual desires) too eagerly and too often
-Propositioning people as soon as they seemed remotely friendly
-Giving the impression that I was desperate and would fuckย anyoneย (people are not flattered by "so, you seem to have a pulse" as a come-on line)
-Publicly sulking when it became clear I wouldn't be getting laid
-Emitting loud, obvious vibes of "I'm only here to get laid" (people are amazingly good at receiving those vibes)
All of these were creepy-ass things to do. Once I started going to social events toย socialize, with an attitude of "if I get laid, great, but if not, I'll definitely get to hang out with my friends and meet new people," not only did people feel more comfortable around me, but I got laid more often to boot.
How it worked best for me was using the "lost keys" mentality. Let me explain...
You are trying to go hang with friends, you're super excited and ready to go, but you can't find your keys. You look everywhere, for like an hour, but can't find them. You give up, decide to just stay in and watch a movie. You make some popcorn, pop a beer, have a seat on the couch, then boom, you feel them poke you, in the same spot you looked ten times when you were actively searching.
When you look hard, you miss stuff. You miss the details and the nuance. When you know what you're looking for, but can wait, you will remember what you want, but can take your time.
"Those that go searching for love only manifest their own lovelessness. And the loveless never find love; only the loving have love. And they never have to search for it." -D.H. Lawrence
I became much better talking to women after I got married. Turns out its much easier to get to know someone when you arnt trying to fuck em. Made some cool friends that way.
This (and stop chasing boys too, btw, it's not gendered). But it doesn't mean do nothing and hope a relationship happens either. Put the effort you currently spend chasing into bettering yourself and making friends, and keep your eyes open for sparks of interest -- it's amazing how much easier finding a relationship becomes when you're interesting and like yourself.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:04:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I stopped chasing women and know they dont know i exist.
This, itโs obvious when youโre just thirsty, people arenโt stupid. And so youโre likely to just a get in a relationship with another thirsty person if any relationship at all. Which is fine if thatโs what youโre looking for, but those relationships usually come with their own issues.
100% this. Was way more fun for my wife to do the leg work on setting up our first couple dates. And thank god she did because it wasnโt even until the second or third one that I was like, โOh.... shit, didnโt even realize we havenโt been in a group setting the past few times.โ
Can confirm this works. But also luck helps. Not only did the search for comfort drive me nuts, it drove many lovely women away. It was only when I said "fuck it treat yoself" did it change. I stopped active pursuit and did my own thing. Got laid a few times along the way. Met my fiance and now have a kid.
I think a lot of it comes down to confidence. Especially after a long term relationship and all that stuff. We're all a bit broken and confused and seeking comfort after a breakup. Women can sense that urgency I think. It's pretty obvious looking in hindsight. Once you start focusing on yourself and enjoying the things you love your confidence shines.
Am female, can confirm. Met the love of my life happenstance at a bar. Nothing special, he was just talking to his friends and I was invited to join. No showboating. Nothing.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:59:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Very true. I've been very focused on my own dreams and goals for the past few years with no desire to date. I was outside for a workout and a girl walks by and compliments my tattoo. Next day I'm in her apartment and have a FWB situation currently. Dating should never be the primary goal.
Instead of chasing girls, spend time, effort and money into becoming the guy women chase.
It is easier, cheaper, faster, and more sustainable this way.
Actively looking for a girlfriend is how you find the wrong girl.
I found a girl about 8 months ago completely by luck (ended up working together all summer, just her and I from 9-5) we're still together and very happy
My buddy decides every few months "I'm gonna get a girlfriend" and he either dates someone bitchy or he strikes out and then gets depressed for way too long
I have never seen this actually work in practice. I do not get when people suggest this. Granted, I cant say I myself know exactly what it is women want in a partner. For example:
Roomate is about 30, and has has zero hobbies. He works 40 hours a week at a typical office job, comes home, eats pizza and hot pockets almost exclusively. Spends all his free time watching Netflix or playing Counter Strike while lying in bed. When hes not doing that, he is watching porn-without headphones. Never works out or goes out for any hobbies. Trash and dirty clothes all over his floor. Moldy rotten food around his bed. His room always stinks. He is neon-white and a huge Trump fan. Loves to rant about political nonsense off of infowars. He's also an "aspiring rapper" and tries to show everyone - especially girls - he meets the song he wrote, by literally pulling out his phone to play beats while he raps to them as part of his "standard introduction conversation." You know, in addition to telling then how much he likes Trump. He is also the epitome of the nice guy, and always feels sorry for himself and mopes around when something doesnt go his way. I have literally seen him collapse onto his knees in the rain and beg a girl he had just met an hour before to "give him a second chance". When this didn't work, he basically cried on the couch back at our place. Like his long time girlfriend had just broken up with him.
And I've seen how he acts around these girls too. Hes always very awkward whenever we go out together. I dont mean shy, as hes very bold about talking to girls. I mean more like creepy. When we first started going out to bars together I'd even have to regularly give him a nudge and be like "hey, ease up a bit, you're coming on way too strong, shes obviously really uncomfortable"
But now, I dont even bother, because he is constantly bringing these girls over and getting laid. On top of that, he is a Tinder pro and gets girls to respond to him and come over on the regular. He is always bringing home girls and getting laid. Like, at minimum once or twice a week. Usually more. I mean, I live with the guy, so I can verify it happens. Fuck, he even brought home 2 girls at once one time. And I should add that because I see these girls that he brings home, I can also say that they are all always at minimum an 8. So, they're all hot. It's not like hes just bringing home ugly or fat girls. Nope. Smoke shows. All of them.
I thought so, but I can usually hear him talking to them on the phone prior, because he loves giving his whole life story to everyone he meets. He's a very loud person. I'm not familiar with them myself but I would've thought escorts would be more...down to business? They usually stay over for a while, and it always seems like they're on a date or something. Like, one girl he brought in he walks past with her as I'm sitting on the couch and he literally asks her if she wants to go to Waffle House after they finish watching a documentary together. Heard them going at it like 20 minutes later. And she was still there in the morning when I got back from the gym and made breakfast, walking around in her underwear.
So, doesnt seem it, no.
I also seriously doubt he has the disposable income to pay for that many women. Or that there are even that many attractive young women in our area moonlighting as escorts.
Also, shut up about the friend zone. Friends are good, they are human beings you enjoy spending time around.
If you think you've been friend zoned it means that you were rejected in a way meant to turn you down easy because women have to worry that saying no to the wrong asshole will literally get them assaulted or murdered.
No is fine. No is what you had with that person your entire life up to that point. No is no loss. Let it be.
Acting needy/greedy is a turnoff for many. Instead just be cool nice person that seems satisfied with life already and the chicks will come to you. ;-P
hogey74 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:02:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There it is. If you're living well, positive energy is just coming out of you. I've never asked a girl out. Never had to. You turn around and awesome ones are right there :-). When they haven't been around, it's because I've been living shitty.
KatKume ยท 6251 points ยท Posted at 22:34:28 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you are sad eat healthy, do a lot of sport and try to take fresh air under the sun. It sounds like the tipicial piece of shit, but it works incredibly well. It probably is something purely chemical, so it is definetly worth a try.
KatiushK ยท 2021 points ยท Posted at 23:51:05 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was doing that, was feeling well.
Had a few rough weeks at work, currently not doing these things anymore and I feel like shit, no energy, depressed.
Thanks to remind me the answer was right in front of me.
In addition to those, force yourself to watch funny things- like movies and shows. I always go to specific ones that I know I will laugh at and it really helps snap me out of it.
Gmen9256 ยท 580 points ยท Posted at 00:13:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me, it's The Office.
Then again, I watch The Office no matter what my mood is. My Netflix subscription is just a The Office Streaming subscription.
[deleted] ยท 132 points ยท Posted at 00:28:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Office got me through a really rough breakup because I was able to laugh the whole time. It's one of the main things I recommend watching to brighten your mood. lol
Same! Itโs such a comfort show. A friend is going through a divorce right now and my advice was โgive yourself permission to sit on the couch, watch The Office, and just breathe for a while.โ
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:23:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It really is a comfort show. I'm a counseling intern and I even recommend it to some of my clients (usually adding "or another show you like" to the end of my statement lol). I used to use it for study breaks in undergrad too, because the 20 minute length was absolute perfection.
Office got me through my family's bankruptcy. Almost 10 years ago or so now. Not knowing if we could keep the house, having to eat really basic, just trying to make it through. I'd play the dvds non stop for the first couple of seasons. I can basically re-enact those now.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:10:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My parents went through bankruptcy and they're only just now starting to climb out of the hole. If only they'd watch The Office, haha. Hope your situation is better now!
Oh this hits so close to home. Going through a miserable breakup, could barely smile or talk. But started watching The Office and I'm pretty sure the show kept me from falling into a deep deep depression.
I don't know why, but this is the comment that finally made me add the Office to My List on Netflix. I've never seen it before and never really had an interest in watching it, despite the many, many gifs and memes I've seen that have made me chuckle. But this comment... I'm gonna make my boyfriend's month and say it's time we finally watch it. He's been trying to get me to for years.
I also recommended the office to my dear friend who was suffering depression and anxiety cause she hadnโt seen it- she loved it and binge watched the whole thing and then I recommended parks and rec next! :)
I didnt care for the office that much. However the guy spilling chilli all over the office floor and trying to scoop it back into the giant pot with the lid has me absolutely dying everytime I see the gif.
How much of it did you watch? Season 1 really isnโt that good because they tried to re-create the UK version. Once it became its own show in Season 2 it get wayyyyy better
I got like halfway into season 3 or 4. It was ok and parts of the show are very funny but overall it's just not really my flavor. I can see why people love it though.
According to Netflix's data, that's actually the norm. Their highest grossing shows by FAR are Friends and The Office. Nothing else even comes close =P
I love the office but New Girl and Parks and Rec always makes me laugh out loud more often.
cerofox ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:29:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My boyfriend has been deployed for 9 months and The Office was such a strong source of comfort that it gave me something to look forward to when I came home. Plus cuddling with my dog while watching it.
djfl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:31:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Schrutes produce thirsty babies.
drysart ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs false. They just announced its extended until 2021. Barstool posted that they were losing it and everyone took it as gospel.
garvony ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:53:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for the correction.
They were just talking about it on the radio this morning on my way to work. I don't really follow the office that closely as I've seen it a few time through already. I've moved on to Supernatural myself.
I also find having orgasms daily when depressed really do wonders. You may not be in the mood but the release of chemicals is really a great mood booster.
Agree with this. It can really boost your mood and make you forget about whatever it is making you feel terrible. Makes you feel something at least and something positive at that. For me, it's Jenna Marbles. Probably not funny to a lot of people but whatever works for you. I don't really have time to just sit and watch a movie but than again, I haven't really found a movie that's consistently funny, especially if it's meant to be a comedy.
For me the key is to make sure I only listen to upbeat music. Sad songs just keep me spiraling to darker places and never help anything, conversely, happy tunes can usually snap me out of a funk pretty quick.
Depression is a bitch. Comes up suddenly, and you feel like all your amazing work is in the shitter. You can't continue it, so you get in that rut where you keep putting it off.
Nah it's cool. Just keep starting. Maybe you missed a workout, no biggie, your new streak starts now. Forgot to wipe down the counters? Start on them now. Forgot a homework assignment and failed? Start the next one.
I do that sometimes, and when I feel like exercising the least, thatโs when I know I need it the most. I also force myself to go out with friends. Even if Iโm down, most of the time, theyโll lift me right back up, just with their presence alone.
In the middle of this myself, committed to the gym at the start of the year and made it 4 months 4 times a week. Got drunk one night and said fuck it I'm too hung over to go. It's been 2 weeks since I've been back. I'm just tired, and don't feel like it and I know it's because I stopped.
Though this is good, don't discount therapy! It's incredibly helpful and controlling diet and lifestyle can only do so much.
sloggo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:35:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its so hard to connect the dots when your stressed and/or anxious and/or depressed, but so so obvious when you're feeling good. Good Diet. Plenty of Sleep. Exercise.
otepp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same boat, bud. It's amazing how we can know what will make us feel better, but still find it so hard to do sometimes. I saved this whole post for that same reminder.
Sometimes you're just going to feel shitty, even when you're eating healthy and getting plenty of exercise and sleep. Just remember that it's temporary.
Just getting outside on a sunny day can help. Remember, if things seem like too much, focus on one thing. For me it's "get out of bed and feed my cats". This leads to, "well I fed them so I guess I should eat too.." A bowl of cereal later and wow! I got out of bed and ate! Depression is a bitch.
What you mean ? Like the change of season ? Probably, I always feel weird at the start of spring. I'm kind of sensible to pollen and my building cut the collective heating way too early this year and it's pretty cold / uncomfortable at home since early April.
I'm not too worried, it was just a pretty mediocre period. I'll be fine, but it was good to stop and realize that I was not really helping myself with not going outside much and eating worse than before.
No biggie dude, I'm fine really. A little blues never killed anyone. Got a decent job, a cool fiancee and I'm healthy. Just got bummed out by work and lower energy than usual.
Care to "explain" the joke ? I don't get it. Even if it kills it, I'm curious to understand.
Don't give up! It's easy to be a shitty lump(speaking from experience). The hard, worthwhile part of living is not giving in to the easy way, and pushing to make yourself better, wether your brain wants you to or not! Today is the best day to start being a better you!
I was a 14 and got the prescription 50,000 IU weekly pill. OMG I didn't know I could feel like this!! I still get tired, chronically fatigued, and have other health issues, but gosh it's like that feeling just after turning on a light after it's gotten just too dark to see well. Everything is a slowly-worsening dimness that you hardly notice, until you do, and turn on the lamp with relief at what a huge difference it made. Vitamin D.
Same, except 18. Lost an entire semester of college to "not leaving the bed for 14 hours" depression. And then I got a blood draw, and got I think that same exact amount, and boom. World changed in an week.
I was at 12 when I got tested a couple years ago. I take vitamin D daily now (1000iu) and it makes all the difference in the world! Sometimes I forget to take it and can tell a difference. So be sure to take it - I hope it does for you what it has done for me :)
Emfx ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:26:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The worst part is it snowballs in depressed people as they typically will leave the house less and less as their depression gets more severe. Forcing yourself out into the sun really helps.
My wife had bad Seasonal Affective Disorder, but drinks TONS of milk, like, all the time. We switched to Vitamin D milk, and it actually did make a difference for her.
I actually have solar urticaria. I am literally allergic to sunlight. I take vitamin D supplements with a doctor checking my levels to make sure I get enough, though. I also take B12 on my doctor's advice, which helps with depression.
These two vitamins make a world of the difference! Anyone feeling incredibly tired & depressed should get blood work done to check B and D levels. Source:I had B12 and D deficiency,felt like shit.
I second this. I was very depressed at uni for the first half because winter here was more grey and dark than back home. When I got back after a couple of weeks of spring break, I was so happy and I went outside. Now I make it a rule to either walk outside or play frisbee every day unless it's raining. It's honestly been the best experience I've had at uni
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:26:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
also electrolyte imbalance. It's like many people wake up with a 'hangover' just from regular life. I started eating pickles in the morning, then drinking brine shots (eww, I know) and finally I just bought Pedialyte electrolyte supplement at the pharmacy and mix it into my remineralized water. I take supplements too, potassium, magnesium, calcium, all the ums are electrolytes.
I guess I needed it because it really changed my mood and thinking.
Mate just think about for a few minutes. Norway, Sweden and Finland get about the same hours of sunlight yet have about the same rate as Bulgaria and Romania who get tenfold the amount. Now look at this double blind studyย http://bjp.rcpsych.org/content/201/5/360.short.
Conclusions
Low levels of serum 25(OH)D are associated with depressive symptoms, but no effect was found with vitamin D supplementation.
Says :The overall reduction in depressive symptoms associated with vitamin D supplementation was small and nonsignificantย (SMD, โ0.14; 95% CI, โ0.33 to 0.05; P = 0.16) (Figure). Analyses of heterogeneity revealed substantial variation among intervention effects (Q6 = 20.2, P = 0.003, I2 = 70.3), and SMDs ranged from โ0.96 (P = 0.004) in favor of vitamin D supplementation to 0.15 (P = 0.49) in favor of control.
Subgroup analyses were conducted to identify potential sources of heterogeneity among intervention effects (Figure). The 4 studies of participants whose baseline vitamin D status was sufficient (>50 nmol/L) showed a larger reduction in depressive symptoms (SMD, โ0.22; 95% CI, โ0.53 to 0.08; P = 0.15) than the 3 studies of participants whose baseline vitamin D status was insufficient (SMD, โ0.05; 95% CI, โ0.31 to 0.20; P = 0.69);ย however, the difference in intervention effects between these 2 subgroups of studies was not significantย (Q1 = 0.70, P = 0.40)ย and neither subgroup of studies had a statistically significant intervention effect.
This systematic review and meta-analysis report is the first to examine the effect of vitamin D supplementation on depressive symptoms. We found that vitamin D supplementation neither worsened nor improved depressive symptoms across 7 randomized controlled trials.
Notwithstanding the biological plausibility of a causal role for vitamin D deficiency in depression (33), the results of this review suggest that the use of vitamin D supplementation to reduce depressive symptoms for individuals without clinicallysignificant depression may not be warranted
Although trials of nonclinically depressed individuals differed considerably in the type of participants they included, their study locations and designs, and characteristics of their intervention and control conditions, 4 of these 5 trials had nonsignificant intervention effects (15, 27-29). These null findings are not entirely surprising given that the association of vitamin D with depressive symptoms has not clearly been established in nondepressed individuals.
In particular, cross-sectional studies cannot rule out the possibility of reverse causation in which patients with subthreshold depressive symptoms or depressive disorders have less exposure to sunlight and thus lower vitamin D levels
**Omega 3 deficiency is also found in depressed individuals and supplementing it has had greater or equal success as vit D. The only people that are affected by supplements are clinically depressed individuals, which BTW is not associated with weather mood swings but genetic factors and brain deficiencies. **
According to Bridges, recent research from industrialized countries (including Finland, Sweden, Australia, New Zealand, England, and Wales) has provided enough information to show a decrease in seasonal effects on suicide rates over the past few decades. In the case of Greece, seasonal variations in mortality from suicide are โmore frequent during the spring and summer monthsโฆbut [have]ย no regular annual rhythmโ.
Studies in Brazil have shown that "the peak number of suicides occurred in spring (November) in men and women of Rio Grande do Sul state and in men of Paranรก and Santa Catarina states, and in early summer (January) for women of Paranรก state."[5] One international study on seasonal effects on suicide rates involving 20 countries showed an early summer peak in suicides. She concluded that โseasonal variation in suicide incidence could beย explained by the increase in sunshine in summer monthsbecause of a relationship between sunshine, high temperatures, and suicide rateโ
Along with the Organization for Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD), Petridou and colleague showed a โconsistency of an early summer excess incidence of suicide around the world, and the further association of suicide with hours of sunshine, strongly [suggesting] that a physical environmental factor plays an important role in the triggering of suicideโ across twenty OECD countries around the world.[6] All but two of the countries on their listย (Australia and New Zealand) showed peaks in suicide rates between April and June;ย Australia and New Zealand, being the only southern-hemisphere countries in the study, peaked in November or December.Petridou notes that "it is possible that the excess suicide risk during the summer months could be associated with behavioral changes of the persons not attributed directly to sunshine...so that suicide risk could be affected by factors associated with more free time rather than more sunshine". Regarding Australiaโs seasonal rates of suicide, studies have confirmed that the country's suicide peak in December and January is also from the number of "bright sunlight hours"
Vitamin D deficiency is observed in depressive cases, treating these deficiencies does not seem to help. This means that the likelihood of the depression being caused by the deficiency is low. But the chance the deficiency being a symptom, aka depressed individuals stopping interactions and staying indoors, rises.
These null findings are not entirely surprising given that the association of vitamin D with depressive symptoms has not clearly been established in nondepressed individuals.
In particular, cross-sectional studies cannot rule out the possibility of reverse causation in which patients with subthreshold depressive symptoms depressive disorders have less exposure to sunlight and thus lower vitamin D levels.
A link between depressive moods and vitamin d has not been established, meaning there is not enough proof that vitamin d causes bad moods.
We've only found that a lot of,not all, depressed individuals have lower levels of vitamin D. Which means depression is associated with low levels of vitamin D.This does not prove the cause relationship with depression.
Low vitamin D has be correlated with depression and cause effect relationship may be reverse. Most papers studying this mechanism notice depressed people have less vit. D but it could just as easily be that depressed people go out less and that causes the lov vit d. No paper I've read confirms vit d ~>depression but most point out how the relationship is not yet determined.
In conclusion to sum it up. Vid D deficiency does not explain sinilar suicide rates in different countries with different light levels, supplements have failed to help people whi have it, no study has actually shown a relationship beyond corelation, you need a little time outside to actually get your fix, depressed people simply stay indoors is a more likely explanation.
I can agree 100%. I'm pulling myself out of a long depressed period. I'm getting more exercise, spending more time outside, eating better, went to the doc for antidepressants, and I'm feeling better than I have in a long time.
My appointment is tomorrow. It took a few months of mulling over the last few years and one recent qualifying event to realize little things shouldn't require so much effort and life doesn't have to feel like so much work. I look forward to joining your ranks.
It'll make your life so much easier. The medicine I'm taking is supposed to help with anxiety, headaches, and sleep also so everything will be easier. I did and still kinda feel like everything is difficult, but I can tell a very clear difference. Glad you're getting some help!
I am taking Amitriptyline. I just started taking it last Thursday and they say it takes about 4 weeks to start working because it has to get built up in your system. I'm hoping it will work for me. I've already been feeling better because I've been doing some quality of life improvements, but I'm sure the medicine will help even more.
tsukiii ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 00:55:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great for body image (which is often connected to depression), too. I feel so much happier about my body when I'm exercising regularly, even if I'm the exact same weight and size as when I'm more sedentary.
snorlz ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:26:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
the endorphins released by exercising play a huge part in that as well. exercise helps even people who dont have body image issues feel happier
tojoso ยท 106 points ยท Posted at 01:04:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some people get aggressively angry at this advice. Even if they notice you giving it to somebody else, they'll flip out in a blind /r/wowthanksimcured rage. It didn't work for them (or they didn't bother trying) and you're an asshole for even suggesting it as an option.
For some people, living a healthier lifestyle is literally all they need for a massive improvement to mental health.
For other people, literally the only thing that will help them is therapy and medication, which they may or may not be in a position to obtain.
Taking the steps to a healthy lifestyle requires a willpower entirely inaccessible to some people. "You really gonna tell me to go shopping for food, prepare it, and go jogging when I haven't showered, brushed my teeth, or gone to class in three days?"
However, I've totally witnessed the sort of takedown /r/destroyedbywords hypersensitivity you're talking about, and it's also annoying.
Taking the steps to a healthy lifestyle requires a willpower entirely inaccessible to some people.
Worth mentioning that this is often through no fault of their own. Lack of motivation and energy are hallmark symptoms of depression. It's a vicious cycle. If you're one of these people, don't take your lack of willpower as a personal failing.
I was high on life, tackling tough shit, emotionally regulating like a boss, decided I was ready to go off my meds with doc's help... Nothing changed in the following 2 weeks except I fell into such a deep hole, it felt like there were 10 lb weights strapped to my limbs and nothing brought me joy. I could look into the face of husband, dog, friends, and feel nothing. I was back in my "old" brain and it was terrifying.
All these habits work great on me... As long as I'm medicated.._. I'm very much a proponent of a holistic approach. If you need medication, don't be afraid to ask for it, but do all these other things also!
What medication helps you, if you donโt mind me asking? Have been suffering from anxiety and most recently really bad depression. Started going to therapy and hopefully can get out of this. But trying to see what medication helps people with the least amount of side effects.
It's different for everyone... But for me it's Wellbutrin. I think it targets not just the proper chemicals in my brain, but is used as a way to cut down on smoking, overeating, any reward seeking behavior. In my case I was frequently trying to distract myself from depression by "treating" myself to booze/food/shopping so it was a double whammy good thing. couple things to be cautious of: it's slightly stimulating so not a good match if you're super anxious, and it can cause dry mouth and teeth grinding so messes up your teeth. Have regular dentist checkups.
I'm definitely somewhere in between. When I'm exercising regularly and eating well, I feel so good for 80% of the day, and the other 20% is still depressed/anxious. But when I'm not doing one or both of those things, the whole day just sucks.
I think that reaction comes from those who are (or have been) in a debilitating state of depression. The "Get out and exercise!" advice is great...when you can drag yourself out of bed. From my own experience, there are times when that advice is helpful, but it was very demoralizing when I was struggling to put one foot in front of the other. At those moments, that kind of thing made me feel like even more of a useless failure than I did to begin with. I know I feel protective of someone who is going through that because those well-intentioned comments could be pretty hurtful, and in those moments I didn't feel like I could stand up for myself. I was definitely met with the notion that I just hadn't bothered trying, and it truly hurts. Certainly it doesn't help anyone to flip out on someone suggesting it, but I do my best to kindly talk to people about how that can affect a person in the throes of depression.
Yeah, there's a difference between real depression and just being a bit mopey. If you're not depressed but just sad or lethargic or bored the advice works great.
It is one of many options. The only time I ever get irked by this advice is if it is given and presented as an "end-all be-all".
I view it as one of several things to try. If something doesn't work, I try the next option.
jseego ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:32:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's the difference between
"this can help"
and
"all you need to do is..."
tojoso ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:10:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For sure. But for many people, there's no difference between those two. They refuse to believe it can help depression. Just read some of the replies to my comment.
My best response to those people is: Living a healthier lifestyle can't hurt. It can only help. It may not be enough by itself, but that doesn't make it worthless. You may still be depressed, but now you're healthier and depressed - which is going to go a long way towards preventing relapse when do start feeling better. You've lost nothing.
And if it is enough by itself, you've just saved yourself a lot of money and saved your body unnecessary side effects - and you're healthier.
I went to a therapist who basically said there was nothing wrong with me and that I just needed to eat better. She literally used the phrase "I bet if you could get a few sardines down every day you'd be a new girl."
The main reason why people get "aggressively angry" at that advice is because people get told that usually in an aggressive tone and you sound like you're just assuming that they're not trying or doing anything to better themselves when you don't know what they're doing. The other thing is is that when people say this it comes off as being told "all your problems are gone when you do this." Sure, all that is good for you but it can't make your problems go away. Last - just about everyone knows this anyways so there's no point in saying it to someone. It's better to just listen to what people have to say instead of giving advice.
tojoso ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:15:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not just that, though. Some people refuse to believe that "clinical depression" can ever be made better by making positive changes in lifestyle. That if it's cured or relieved by positive life changes, then it wasn't really depression. These people are gatekeepers who cause more harm than good because they refuse to accept that their situation is in any way a result of their own (in)action. They believe chemicals are the only solution for "real" depression.
k_nasty ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:20:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Today I went to the grocery store for the first time in a long time so I could actually cook myself a meal and nearly got overwhelmed and quit. Taking that advice is so so so so so so so far easier said than done for people who need it the most
tojoso ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:11:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nobody said it was easy. And it doesn't work for everybody, either.
Being sad is very different than being depressed. Most of the posts on that sub are about advice like that given to people with depression.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:59:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find that if I stay up watching TV or on the computer before bed (even if I don't stay up too late), I feel like crap the next day. And this effect compounds so if I do it for a few days in a row i'll feel really crap by the end of the week. Whereas if I do other things like go meet friends, go to a quiz night, go to the gym, etc in the evening, I start feeling great.
I've had friends that always complain about how crap they feel in the morning, so i've suggested reducing their evening screen time and trying to do other stuff, and my god did they flip out at me for it. Like they will get unreasonably angry at just a simple suggestion, like i'm attacking their religion or something. It's crazy. But at the end of the day it's their problem, if they don't even want to try changing things then they will keep on feeling like crap and struggling to get up every morning.
The problem is people take this advice, which is incredibly effective when you are sad, and try to apply it to people who are depressed, because they don't understand the difference.
Sadness is an emotion, which is fleeting, and can be cured with fresh air, exercise, sunshine, and just your generic "good" things, because they make you focus on all the good around you that can change your emotional state. Depression is a state of being, a chemical imbalance in the brain, and cannot be cured by those things. You can be happy and depressed at the same time. Depression requires professional help and usually pharmaceuticals.
Actually, it can help people who are depressed too. It may not be enough for them, they'll probably need therapy and/or medicines too, but getting physically healthier is good for anyone. (People who say 'just' do this and you'll be cured are annoying as heck, though.)
tojoso ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:08:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See, you're wrong though. That's the problem. You're creating your own personal definition of depression and gatekeeping it. That harms people.
That's one of the things I hate about r/wowthanksimcured half of it is actually good advice that they play off as bad advice because it requires actual work to improve themselves and fix their problems and that's too hard for them
Both fortunately and unfortunately, I tend to not eat at all when I get into depressed states. But I'd try to force myself to not eat junk food or frozen/microwavable meals. Even making ramen with some spinach and egg is better than those foods.
Since moving in with my SO, it's become my responsibility to feed us. Since then I haven't gone into a vicious cycle of: depression -> don't eat -> weak from hunger -> more depressed . Now it's just feeling deep sadness. ๐
OP forgot to add "and if that doesn't work, go to therapy and/or to a shrink for some pills". Been in the same boat as you, pills did wonders - some 18 months between taking the first and the last one, it's not like you have to be on meds for your whole life.
x_ray ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:25:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thereโs always a strong positive correlation of how fit I am to how sad I am. Kinda sucks when Iโm happy lol.
Asciana ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:30:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also make sure you arent dehydrated. It plays havoc with my mood if i've not been taking in enough water.
I screenshotted this. When I get depressed, it's so easy to get into my own head and stay there and fail to look at myself and my surroundings. When I finally ask myself these questions, I can pick out what's bothering me and then I can usually take a step towards making myself feel better. It's usually sleep or having untidy surroundings but a couple of months ago, I couldn't figure out why I was spending all day in bed, not eating and wasting time on my phone. Turns out I had some emotional burdens weighing me down and when i went home, I talked to the people that were causing me to feel down (I had to clear up some things and apologise for other things). And now I feel very happy. I'm not 100% there yet but I go outside every day and I'm way more productive.
Tl;dr: screenshotted this because it always helps me. Sometimes asking yourself whether there is an emotional burden also helps
Glad to help, Iโll admit Iโve never had serious depression, and Iโd see a professional if it was severe enough to be beyond me, but this is my way of โbeating the bluesโ.
Also, accomplish something. Just... something. Doesn't have to be a big thing. Doesn't have to be an important thing. Just so long as it's your thing, something that you either want to do or think you need to do. Set yourself a task and complete it, no matter how small.
Clean the bathroom. Or just clean the bathroom counter. Read that book. Or a third of it. Take a walk around the block. Shred your 8 year old tax documents. Organize your spice rack. Doesn't matter, so long as in some small part it matters to you, and you can do it. Give yourself something every day that you can point to and say "Because I got up, this good thing happened."
I started taking that attitude when I was unemployed and freezing in my house after my father died, and it helped. It's not a cure, just like aspirin won't cure a wound. But like aspirin, it'll take a little bit of the edge off.
I love this. Shooting and dribbling the basketball and soccer ball and jogging outside has helped me through so much. even just yesterday I was super sad and shooting which usually is impossible because I am so happy while shooting. I thought it had finally lost its sheen bc I do it so much. slowly but surely I kept picking up the pace, hitting more shots, feeling more of a workout and just feeling so happy and one with myself. it never fails. on top of that some of the little neighbor kids came by and shot around with me which made my day :)
Just being outside makes so much of a difference. I have a yard for the first time in nearly a decade, and when I let my dog out, I sit outside with him while he does his business, and I had forgotten how much I enjoy just being outside for twenty minutes a day.
It worked incredibly well for me. I asked my doctor about it and he said "yeah, you're about the right age to develop a chemical sensitivity to artificial food colourings, preservatives and alcohol. Eat better."
I'm mid-40s, but it can happen to different people at different times. My SO is younger than me, and she started developing new sensitivities before I did.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:32:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, to completely fail to answer your question I'd say most people should avoid these things at all ages whenever possible, but I am curious about this as well.
When my hubby hit 31 he noticed a sensitivity to dairy and certain oils and preservatives that he'd never before experienced. We asked a friend who's a dietitian and she said that's pretty normal and those sensitivities are likely permanent, but easily manageable and just to watch out for any major reaction that would imply a true allergy has developed.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:38:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alternatively, rub one out, same rush of dopamine.
elaerna ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:58:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
also gotta remember that these things sometimes won't work immediately in the case of eating well and being in the sun or the good adrenaline feelings will taper off after you've done the exercise. this doesn't mean that you aren't helping yourself and the brain you live in, you sort of have to let the effects build up with time. also just because you feel great after a little dose of health positive food or exercise don't think you can go back to trash living, this isn't a one time magic pill but an accumulated set of services to yourself. build these things into your everyday life and watch as directionless sadness slips away.
My grandmother died a little more than a week ago. When it happened, my girlfriend rushed to my house, brought me orange juice, chocolate and fresh strawberries, and said โcome with me, letโs have a walk in the sunโ (it was a beautiful sunny day). Despite the sadness of losing my lovely grandma, everything my girlfriend did for me made me feel infinitely better. This is really good advice.
I never believed working out could actually help with depression until i started working out, then had to take time off for an extra job. I'm just getting back into it and I'm amazed at how much it effects my moods.
Cpont ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:53:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree to an extent. It is definitely worth a try and works wonders for a lot of people, but I think that it's super important to note that it really doesn't work for some people.
BabyCat6 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:31:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
The only reason this advice would be a "piece of shit" is when used on the clinically depressed. This advice always helps when you are down in the dumps or sad. Making sure your physical health is good will make your mental health good.
The only reason this advice would not work is if you have major depression.
I had depression and all this did not work. I was on top of a rollercoaster at a theme park and all I could think was, "why can't I feel the joy I should be feeling?".
Currently I am stable on antidepressants and I recently had a little sad period, I could still feel happy when I did something fun but I was acting depressed. I got myself up, atehealthy, I'm going to the gym and I'm not as sad.
This advice will cure your sad, it will not help you if you are unable to be happy.
I used to go to the gym at least once a week, aiming for 3 times.
Since starting school, I haven't gone. That's almost 4 months of gym membership wasted. But I'm not sure if I miss going, or having the time to go.
Probably both but still
aubgur ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:15:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is similar to behavior activation: identifying healthy activities to engage in that are easy and pleasurable. It has to do with replacing a negative avoidant behavior with a positive one to basically suck you out of a depression. It is a (3rd generation) behavioral approach to depression. I use this with teens, and this seems to help pull them out of ruts.
Can't agree more with the eat healthy thing (especially b/c I'm mega prone to emotional eating). If I find myself in a depressive husk, I'll eventually have to climb out of that AND the 10lbs I put on.
If you feel really awful, try just taking a short walk. Walk just around the block or the street if that's all you can do. Don't need to get ready or do anything to prepare, as long as you're wearing some form of clothing you're good to go.
If you don't have the energy to do sports or whatever, a walk can do similar for you. And if it doesn't? A short walk is low effort enough for most people that you didn't lost anything trying.
Eating healthy and working out provide a consistent release serotonin and dopamine, which regulate your mood and motivation. However, eating or working out excessively eventually causes you to become desensitized and can have the opposite effect.
Pylgrim ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Felt sad when I got home from work, planned on taking a walk but took a nap instead, felt more sad so I ate like crap. Thank you for the reminder that I knew I needed. I have been looking for motivation all day.
Interestingly, there has been a lot of recent research suggesting that gut bacteria and one's diet are heavily related to serotonin and norepinephrine levels which are the main neurotransmitters that are imbalanced in psychiatric conditions like depression.
This is very true. Though, you feel the urge to just spoil yourself and live extremely unhealthily, living well will get you out of your slump and improve your mood immensely.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:19:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Vitamin D deficiency can actually cause or exacerbate depression... It's because we need vit D to make serotonin. Get that sunshine, people. Or take supplements (under doctor supervision so you don't overdose the D which is possible)
Works well with procrastination too. If you are avoiding certain tasks (homework, studying, chores etc.) It's stil better to get some excerise and time in the sun instead of just wasting time on the internet or staring at the wall. You are still procrastinating but you are more likely to eventually get back to the task refreshed and more motivated.
But for heaven's sake, don't tell a depressed person to just eat healthy, do sports and get sun, unless they ask for it. They likely already know that.
Part of depression is a reduced dopamine response to happy activities. Which means although doing sports and getting sun give a dopamine rush to a normal person, a depressed person will not get the same intensity of rush. It's incredibly hard to go out for a run, if you're feeling like shit and you know for a fact that you'll still feel like shit after the run, even if it's relatively better than staying at home.
Honestly just getting out is a huge boost. I was pretty down the past month or so and one day I decided to stop laying in bed and go be social and active. Ended up having one great day that changed my mood entirely
My grandmother was not in shape to do sports when my grandfather died, she took herself out to the movies to see a comedy each week and watched a comedy on tv every day. Laughter is the best medicine has a basis in fact. She always ate healthy but you will always feel better to some degree when you do.
โIf you leave your pen in one spot for too long, all you have is a big puddle of ink!โ
Itโs much better to get something down and tidy it up later.
Thank you for this, Iโm going to get back into writing lol.
Avalon9 ยท 195 points ยท Posted at 00:52:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been planning on writing one for years, but my fear of ditching it when I get bored and fail my chance at ever writing one stops me. Not that easy!
FaithCPR ยท 237 points ยท Posted at 01:41:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
By not starting, you've already ditched it.
Start now. You can start as many times as you like. But it's never going to happen if you don't start at least once.
Just a single page, with a sentence that forms a mobius loop back to the beginning, has no capital letters, and can naturally continue from the last word back to the first.
godbois ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 02:05:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Check out the Writing Excuses podcast. It's great for learning about the process and getting motivated.
I feel your pain. But get writing.
Do it.
Shit is hard. But you can always edit. No one will see a thing unless you show it to them.
So what? If you get bored with it, you can pick it up later or start another story. ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ
[deleted] ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 01:43:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It really is. Just start writing.
Ditching one 3 pages in is still infinitely closer to a full book than never starting at all. Plus it's experience for the next time you manage to write 10 pages before ditching it.
I got major headway on my script by waking up early and knocking out a mandatory 4 or 5 pages M-F for a while. You can always rewrite, edit, take pieces, etc. You tend to over plan and underwrite waiting for perfection. Almost every single screenwriting panel has someone ask โwhatโs the best way to write a script?โ, and the answer is almost always โjust writeโ.
You just @ me. I've got close to 200 unfinished stories saved because I get bored with them. I'll work obsessively on a single story for a few weeks and start a new one. Write it, save it, come back to it. I always jump between each one. They're not finished but they're closer than they were before I started writing
Yep. People think the Beatles were naturally great. But what they really were was very industrious. Their great collection of tunes seems like it must have been divinely inspired, until you learn that they only recorded one out of every two hundred songs they wrote. Most creative work, even for those at the top, is just noodling around with whatever comes to you, and then sorting the wheat from the chaff.
To put it another way, the visible success of great artists is often only the very tip of the iceberg of their real body of work, most of which no one else will ever know about, because it was discarded or redone. You see the bullseye, but not the countless shots that missed the board. Getting the occasional bullseye is a product of many throws.
Daeurth ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:52:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some other advice if you havenโt gotten it yet. I wrote two long stories maybe 100-200 pages each over maybe 5-8 years, just chipped away, it was a good outlet. I kinda accidentally moved on to other things once the story ended but even though theyโre โdoneโ theyโre in desperate need of editing. Iโm trying to get back into it when I have time but looking back this is what I think wouldโve helped.
Begin with a summary or draft of what you want. Itโs a lot less work, you get a feel if you like the story youโre writing and you skip a lot of the slower moving parts. Start with a setting and tone of what world youโre in. Is it a dark post apocalyptic world, well how did the world get that way and how does this impact how/why/when/etc. your characters start things off? Then work through your beginning, middle, and end summaries. Start VERY basic; no dialog or lengthy descriptions for each step just try to get down your who, what, when, where, why, and how. Also write down your character bios; their personality traits, past, how they meet, flaws, skills, goals and possible archโs. Take your time on the layout cause ideas might pop in later that effect the start of the story.
The thing I wrote has a lot of depth, at least to me. I honestly spent so much time and want to continue that even though I rarely touch it, I think about it constantly, which makes me happy in its own way. BUT because I didnโt have a crystal clear plan from the beginning of where it was going and all my characters fleshed out it ended up a little sloppy, which just means I have to go back and fix it. And lemme tell you going back and editing to me is more like pulling teeth than writing.
Indeed. You have a lot of bad mechanical habits, such as rampant comma splices. You need editing very badly. And you should work on being a better writer technically. But you're right that they main struggle is just getting things down.
Lol Iโm a little less stringent on the technicalities when on reddit and in no way a professional writer. I just do it for fun. I was more so referring to general plot structure, character motivations, themes, etc. You can probably hire someone to clean up sentence structure but problems with the overall story is another issue.
My best advice for that, be prepared to write a bad book especially if it's your first. You will write a bad book but the object is to finish. After you finish you put that one on the shelf and you begin to write your second book. After you write your second book, put it on the Shelf, grab your first book and edit. After the first book has been edited perfectly, put it off to the side as a maybe. Then write your third book. After you finish your third book, put it on the shelf and begin to edit your second book, etc ad infinitum.
It all begins with you finishing the first one. If you don't finish the first one, you can't move to the second.
I get this. I have a writing folder with hundreds and hundreds of dumb stories I started and like immediately lost interest in. Really trying to figure out how to not do that.
I'm not good at finishing short stuff either, haha. Usually I'll get all excited about one scene, write it, and then not know what to do.
The only thing I've ever finished was only because I was really excited about writing all the scenes. Maybe I just need to figure out have to have better ideas where I'm super eager to write all of it. But my brain is always going off in a million directions, I don't know how to force it to do anything in particular.
Is is, though. Overcoming the fear is most of the struggle. Just write. It doesn't matter what is, or if you like it. It doesn't matter if you get bored and ditch it. What matters is doing it. If you start and then stop, no problem. Just start again on something else. Maybe all you have is some fragments or vignettes, or even just character sketches, or some random details that you haven't attached to anything else. That's fine. Write those down. Maybe they'll never come back to you. Or maybe they will, you can't know for now. Just get it down while you can, and worry about it later. The important thing is to develop the habit of writing. If you do it enough, you'll eventually finish something even despite your fears or whatever else might stand in the way. It might not be something you like, but even an ugly dog is better than no dog at all. Just keep at it. Every writer started as a noodler who didn't stop noodling. Even Douglas Adams, who hated writing, just stuck with it until something came out, and what came out happened to be brilliant. That won't be most people's experience, but there's still a satisfaction in the act itself, and you should focus on that instead of the more abstract idea of completion.
klop422 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 00:55:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Write drunk, edit sober.
I think that is a fake quote attributed to Mark Twain
-uzo- ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:09:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually did this. Drunkenly got up to a 200k word novel ... then once I'd sobered up I trimmed about 60k of fat out of it.
Editing is far harder than writing, as you have to 'kill your babies.' Lots of people can write expansive, detailed stories ... writing them well is the hard part. Giving the reader enough information that they can follow it all, but no so much they get overwhelmed (or worse, bored!).
You want to make a name writing The Hobbit, not The Silmarillion.
Know what's even harder than editing? Getting the damned thing published!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:05:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I think what he meant was that you don't need to worry about fleshing everything out right away, or getting down all of your ideas/the entire scope of what you're trying to achieve all at once. Just start somewhere and then you can add the rest as you go.
It's an analogy aimed at aspiring (i.e., inexperienced) authors, not a critique of Tolkien.
And Tolkien didn't make his name with The Silmarillion either. It wasn't even published until after his death. AND it abso-fucking-lutely has epic stories that could make great films. Now that I've typed this, I'm really not sure what you're on about.
[deleted] ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 05:42:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I don't think it's implying that at all, but feel free to take it that way I guess. The Silmarillion is amazing but accessibility is something it lacks entirely. No problem when there's already four beloved novels in the setting, but no one would have read it if it had been published first.
The Silmarillion is a poor example here. It was not an intentional composition by Tolkien, and wasn't even his idea. It is incomplete and not even entirely consistent with itself.
A common nickname given to The Silmarillion by fans, "the Tolkien Bible", is very apt. Like the real Bible that it's compared to in that jocular association, it's not one story, or even fully cohesive, but instead a collection of tales and related works of disparate origin (all coming out of the same mind, but at different times and with different reason or inspiration). The work was the idea of Tolkien's son, Christopher, who understood that all the writings people were familiar with all grew out of a great legendarium that existed in a disparate collection of many papers his father had, as well as things that existed only in his father's head. (Especially, how they all connected to each other.) In trying to compile it, he realized that only the great man himself could bring it all together, but that he never had any intention to. His published works were his paintings, and the legendarium merely his paintbox. But Christopher understood the enormous cultural value of what Tolkien considered merely noodlings and background notes and incomplete historical accounts, and convinced his father to help him compile an anthology of this work, in part to preserve it in clearer form, and in part so that people could better appreciate the sweeping majesty of the over-arching mythology behind Tolkien's better-known works. What came out of that effort is the work we know as The Silmarillion.
It is not an epic, or a great novel. It doesn't even have what might be considered a coherent throughline. It was never expected to. It's what it looks like, a loosely connected collection of disparate tales related to Middle Earth. (Specifically, for those who've never read it, it's sort of Tolkien's Old Testament of Middle-Earth, if the stories you know could be said to make up a companion New Testament of Middle-Earth. It tells everything up to the point where The Lord of the Rings starts, and covers a vastly longer stretch of time. It's like if Tolstoy put out a later work providing the background for War and Peace which starts with the creation of the world and key events that happened between then and 1812, and important persons associated with those events.
jseego ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:38:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I disagree. I'm currently writing something and I've redone everything multiple times, slowly refining it until it's on a plotline I like. My first drafts were just basic ideas for two characters, no plotline or story in mind, just some dumb scene of their normal lives. As the years went on, I developed a decently structured plotline that's constantly changing every so slightly the more I write it.
I highly recommend, if you've an idea, to just start writing something down, it doesn't even have to be good. I honestly doubt anyone has ever been too successful in writing a first draft and publishing it. Take inspiration from different sources, take a creative writing class, or read. Reading is one of the best ways to "study" creative writing. And dont just read the stuff that goes along with your idea, pick a few to make the styles vary. Writing is never a waste of time because if you write something down that you dont like, then you know you dont like it and you can slowly sculpt it, chipping away the imperfections, until it's something you like.
What you're describing is architecting or outlining a story. That's one way to do it. The other is gardening or discovery writing. You build the story as you go and fix things that don't quite work. Either can work. Just get writing!
I would have agreed with you up to the year I did Nanowrimo for the first time. And this extremely common view is discussed in the explanatory pages of that challenge, which I strongly encourage you to take on. I was skeptical, having written my whole life, but it completely changed my understanding of the process and was very helpful. I believe it could be for just about anyone.
Just write. Don't worry about anything else. Don't worry about it making sense. Don't worry about it being good. (It won't be, but that's okay. Every great chef started by making a lot of messes. There is no other way.) Don't worry about where the story's going (or if it is at all), or how it will end up, or what might or might not happen along the way. Don't let it bother you if something you think you planned changes along the way. Once you get it flowing, characters come alive and start doing things on their own, often things that will surprise you. Let them do that, and go with it.
You will have the rest of your life to revise. But you can't revise anything that you haven't written yet.
I did this last year and it was really great! I had been mulling on a YA novel idea for years but never got more than a couple pages down. I have no desire to become a professional writer, it's just a hobby, so I had it edited through an online service and self published it on amazon. My friends and family read it and now I have a book on the shelf with my name on it. Planning a collection of short horror stories next. You don't have to be Stephen King or JK Rawling you be a writer...just have fun with it
I recently read โSalemโs Lot by Stephen King and he wrote this in the forward:
โOf course, the writer can impose control; itโs just a really shitty idea. Writing controlled fiction is called โplotting.โ Buckling your seatbelt and letting the story take over, however...that is called โstorytelling.โโ
Completely changed how I thought about writing novels. I always feel like I need the whole story before I start writing and so I never start anything.
The importance of editing cannot be overstated. I've read a lot of legitimately very good novels that still made me want to scream due to poor or non-existent editing (looking at you, Wheel of Time and ASOIAF).
I couldn't agree more. It is the hardest part, I find. It's one of the hardest lessons to learn, how to be severely critical of your own work without throwing yourself down an, "I suck, I can't write, who am I kidding" well.
The trick I learned is to put it down and walk away from it until I'm sufficiently distant from it that it no longer seems like my creation, but someone else's.
Anyone who's gone back and read stuff they wrote many years ago can appreciate this. You might cringe at something you wrote as a little kid, but the point is, you now feel that the person who wrote that was someone other than the person you are now, and that makes it easier to approach it objectively and critically.
It's going to be different for every person. Stephen King said that he needs to complete anything he's working on within about three months, because otherwise he loses interest. But I think he's only talking about the creation phase, because he's also talked about going back over works he set aside years earlier and redoing them.
Yep. Great works aren't written. They're RE-written.
I read the Hunger Games trilogy, and it was clear that by the third book, her editors had thrown in the towel. I don't know why, but that book either needed to be a lot shorter, or split into two books. But either way, it needed a lot more attention than it got from anyone, including the author.
That's just not true. A large numbers of us have no trouble starting. It's our favorite part, but we don't finish because we don't know where we're going and the middle is the hardest part.
I can't count how many writers i know who start projects they never finish.
Outlining does wonders after you learn how to write. If you've never written creatively, your outline will have countless flaws that you won't notice until you actually start writing, and after you get ~20 pages in you realize you might as well not have written one at all.
Don't get me wrong, once you have a handle on basic pacing and story structure, an outline is fantastic, but you can't learn the fundamentals just by thinking about it a lot.
Outlines can be revised. When I tried writing without an outline, I had to abandon the story because the plot laid there like a unrolled a ball of yarn and dropped it in a pile. I then outlined a new story and finished writing a book (it was only mediocre, oh well).
I think the key is outline as much as you need to. Don't try to tell the entire story with your outline but giving yourself direction is key for some folks. Other people discover as they write. Different creative process for different people.
The problem is, outlining is an expository tool, and the expository skills we're taught in the Western world are a vocational method that's anathema to creative writing. You're better off with no plan at all. Trust me on this.
Seriously. 100% start with a draft of some kind. I wrote this long story and it really evolved while I was working through it. Itโs not a mess by any means but I needs a lot of work, especially in the details, so now I need to go back and edit the whole thing to the point where I might as well just be rewriting it.
Not at all. 100% is just a strong recommendation, itโs just slang, like saying โtotallyโ or โdefinitelyโ. By no means does every writer do that.
Twinge ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:56:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You want to write, but you're afraid:
What if they laugh at what you have made?
You've grown weary and anxious over the years.
But it's time to reflect- time to reject those fears.
How to improve, the only way to grow:
Just move your pen, and let the ink flow.
Sometimes I'll start a sentence, and I don't even know where it's going. I just hope I find it along the way. Like an improv conversation. An improversation.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:03:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
juxtaposition of opposites. "somehow I manage" sounds like a poor person title, but the photograph would be the opposite: a rich person. Therein lies the humor.
this is how haruki murakami came to fame. he just had the thought of "what if i just write a novel?" and now he has many hits. if you want something, yolo and do it
I feel like that could be how the Dark Tower series started. "The man... in black... fled... across the desert... and... the... gunslinger followed." I haven't finished it but I like it so far!!!
Get the first draft out, and get into the detail. It makes it easier to get out the basic concept of a story without forgetting what you wanted to say. After that, flesh out the plot, build your world, develop characters, make words sound pretty.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:04:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
While this is really good advice I will add
After you start writing make dot points for major plots and character development or your story will be never ending with no depth
Goes for a fair amount of 'project'-ey things, honestly. I've been talking about making a game for like three years and I just fucking started doing it the other day on a whim - something completely different to all my complex plans and concepts, just something I thought of on a whim.
Guess who stuck with it three days in a row? Yea, just fucking do the thing you're saying you will. Just do it. Thats all it takes, as dumb as it sounds.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:34:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know, i'm gonna do this. Thanks, kind stranger.
Yep. I don't do Nanowrimo anymore, but it had a huge benefit for me. I'd been writing pretty much my whole life when I found out about it, and originally did it as a lark and didn't tell anyone, figuring it would be an amusing writing exercise or maybe garbage. When I was done, I told people, I learned more about writing in the last thirty days that I had in the previous ten years.
The most important lesson of all is to just do it.
Or just literally skip the conversations. When I read Hundred Years of Solitude, realizing just how much of it was told in summary opened up a while world for my own writing, like a get out of jail free card for the bits I worried were getting boring.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:08:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
grain of salt, but I like interspersing other actions that really aren't about how the speaker is speaking, if that makes sense. Like...
He fidgeted with his pencil. "Maybe I'll do that."
Adds some characterization, a way I think "show, don't tell" can be applied (maybe he's nervous or otherwise uncomfortable) and doesn't weigh it down. Everything in moderation, of course.
Plus, I've read that you should only put dialogue in that has a purpose. Maybe you're just putting in too much. Does it advance the plot? Develop a character? Create a mood? Is it foreshadowing? I've even seen "conversations" where it'll have parts that aren't actually dialogue, just a summary of what was explained, mixed with dialogue bits, and that works pretty well too. Experiment with what you like - it never hurts to practice :)
Not all writers are outliners. I've tried, but what works for me is to imagine scenes of my book in my head first and then write them, especially dialogue. Too much outlining takes me away from immersing myself in the world I've created. That said, some people have to outline to keep things straight. Whatever works for you.
Yes. Sort of. I started in October and Iโm about 80% through with my second draft. I donโt think Iโll feel like Iโve โwritten a novelโ until I get it to where Iโm ready to let friends read the whole thing for feedback and not just random excerpts.
And then once that initial burst of inspiration is over, take the time to plan. Write an outline for your book.
Outlines are so helpful! They help you remember everything you wanted to include, can guard against writers block, gives you an overall snapshot of your book, and can serve basically as a first draft.
I'm an author, ghostwriter, and book coach for new authors. Outlines are hugely helpful when writing an entire book and in breaking down there writing process so it doesn't seem so big, this idea of 'im going to write a whole book.'
My doctor told me when I feel anxious or something like that to wiggle my toes and count them for every wiggle. It is something that distracts your mind and you can do it anywhere cause it just means moving your toes.
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TheBause ยท 325 points ยท Posted at 00:45:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I felt like an idiot when I realized that the only purpose of this is a plot device just to get McClane's shoes off. I still do it after flying just as a joke, but boy did I feel stupid.
Movies never really waste any time. Anything they spend more than ten seconds on is coming back later. Oh hey that innocuous statement in the first act? Yea that's how they figure out whatever. That random gun on the wall they brought attention to? They're gonna use it.
TheBause ยท 62 points ยท Posted at 02:15:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is the owner of that gun Chekhov?
Rush_nj ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:29:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, do not say the Chekhov gun Cyril. That, sir, is a facile argument.
I've given up trying to explain Last Jedi. I'm half expecting Rian Johnson to reveal that the entire movie was a giant troll because it's so badly made. Almost everything about it seems deliberately bad.
Doubly so in an Edgar Wright film. Every line of dialogue and little detail is crafted. In every film he openly explains the plot of the end of the film in the first half.
such a great movie...I notice new shit every time I watch. I can't wait until Christmas so that I can watch again. (last year I watched "Trading Places" as my Christmas movie, this year I'm going to add Gremlins part 1 to the rotation also)
Nevertheless, exercise related to flying is real, and in some cases or for some people can be important. Flying (especially these days) puts a lot of stress on the human body, and it's a good idea to have some way to counteract that.
My brother made all of the fake cabinets in that scene while working at Control Data (long since bankrupt). It was simply known as the "Hollywood project".
jaktyp ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:44:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When possible, I always have my toes curled under my feet. I have no idea why I do this, but I continue to do it until itโs pointed out, and then go back to it after I forget.
Edit: the big toes kinda flip flop. Sometimes they go under, sometimes they point out.
This is a CBT technique called grounding, and I personally find it highly effective. I've taught it to many people, and it's been a useful tool to them as well.
I had the hygienist at my dental office tell me to alternately squeeze my hands into fists. It's a legitimate EMDR therapy practice, and it totally works.
It's more visible than your toes though, and if you have resting bitch face (like me), people might think you're going to go postal when you're just concentrating. But it has helped a lot with the low-key panic attacks over the past few months, so, whatever. Judge not, judgey pants.
I count To 4 while taking long comfortable breath. I used to count to ten but my mind got lost in my anxious thoughs. I learned that listening a weird tv show. The girl said everything was tolerable for short amount of time. She said she holds the pain for 10 second at the time because pain is tolerable on short period. Wash rinse repeats. So basicly I do that with anxiety. 4 seconds at the time.
My dentist taught me this trick when I was 12. That was a long time ago and it still works.
Also if you are getting a shot if the person injecting will tap their finger near the injection site you can't feel the pain. The nerves that register pain are the same ones that register motion and they can't do both at the same time.
Another thing I have an app called Calm Harm and it has many different suggestions for things to do. My favorite distraction it suggests is counting odd numbers from like 523 - 627 or something like that cause it takes the brain a second to count odd so it makes you think about it instead of what you are panicking over.
When I was a kid I watched some show about people with social anxiety and they gave the advice to focus on rubbing your thumb with your middle finger to distract yourself. Iโve done it so much that I unconsciously do it when I get nervous.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:42:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone has their ups and downs and itโs sad that it doesnโt work for you and hopefully things get better for you and it sounds like your anxiety is more intense it might be something else entirely but I canโt say considering Iโm not a professional. I do know panic attacks are more extreme then anxiety attacks. Both very bad mentally but panic attacks are more extreme. I did experience that before and during those times grounding wasnโt working. Nothing did. I didnโt know how to fix it and well maybe other do. But for small anxiety that bothering you In the moment this helps enough.
Zanpie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:28:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a really great mindfulness technique! As an explanation, doing something in the present moment that focuses on your body takes your mind out of either fortune telling (future events) or ruminating on past events.
You can kick yourself back into the present by focusing on your breathing, entering into the moment by focusing completely on the sensual experiance (smelling coffee, listening to bird calls, touching a surface). Counting, making lists, rhyming - all those things redirect your mind away from anxious thoughts.
Progressive body relaxation meditation which is like what the op described is probably my favorite. Starting from your toes, and going up your body, tense each group of muscles for 5 seconds and then release.
txPeach ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's a great one! One of go-to's is Counting Fives. Find 5 things you can currently see, smell, hear, touch. Also, describing objects or surroundings in detail.
When I'm trying to be professional or seem focused I move my toes around like crazy instead of fidgeting with my hands or doing anything they can see. I am always fidgety so this has helped a ton
In between each item, take a slow, deep breath in through the nose and out through the mouth - three beats in, three beats out. Repeat with new answers until you feel calm. I like this because you very quickly run out of smells and taste and can use this as an opportunity to get up and move to another part of the house, hydrate, maybe grab a snack, etc. The point of it is to remove yourself from your inner mind, bring your senses back to the world around you.
Omg, I wiggle my toes when I'm getting a shot or getting blood drawn, I didn't know it was an actual THING though. I just needed a part of my body moving and for my brain to focus on a part of myself that's far away from wherever the needle is.
Funny that you mention this. Iโve been doing this subconsciously for years. When I notice Iโm wiggling my toes is when I realize Iโm feeling anxious and am then enabled to do something about it
It's very helpful for physical pain as well. One of my nurses suggested it when I was having a very painful procedure performed during my induction of labor for my 2nd child (foley bulb insertion failure, 5 times). It helped! Also squeezing her hand. That nurse was amazing, seriously.
Your brain sort of has 2 things that control it, emotion and logic (going back to caveman days, the emotional side was fear, which would help you get away from a sabre tooth tiger), anxiety is obviously emotion. So when you are freaking out, your emotional side is in charge. If you start using logic or memory (counting something, or trying to remember details of an event, like what colour your shirt was, or what your mom's phone number is), your emotional part of the brain thinks that if you are trying to count something, then you are not in danger, so it lets the logical side take over ......calming you down.
My doctor told me this when I was four or five and having some vaccinations. Iโm now 40 and I still do it every time I need to get a needle for something.
Used to sext a really cute girl. One days she keyboard smashed after an orgasm. Your keyboard smash reminded me of it. Thank you for the memory of her orgasm
On my wedding day my Grandmother said to me "Never do anything around the house that you don't plan on doing for life". At the time I thought it was a terrible advice. When I was mowing the lawn at 7 1/2 months pregnant I got what she meant.
I wish I could stop doing this. Whether itโs with boyfriends or flat mates, I always end up doing the house โworkโ.
Iโm a huge perfectionist though and quite honestly, even their best efforts are like pigs living in shit.
Iโve started giving my boyfriend non-detailed jobs like taking out the rubbish, checking the recycling bins, hoovering. The rest of it (as in the bits that actually take a bit of time and care), I have to do myself.
That would work if there wasn't a real passive-agressive reason that they perform household tasks like shit. They KNOW that we'll scurry to do the tasks ourselves to prevent property from being destroyed. E.g., don't like doing the laundry? Just mix everything together. The sane member of the household will flip out when she sees the whites turned pink or grey, the passive-agressive slacker will whine "you're such a perfectionist, you don't even appreciate that I did the laundry" and he gets to be the victim AND knows that he'll never have to do laundry again. I'm far from a perfectionist, but I do expect adults to perform household tasks without destroying valuable items. I do all of the cooking and cleaning because if my spouse cooks, there will be food splattered on the walls, floors, ceilings, etc. which he NEVER cleans. It takes like an hour and a half to clean up the stains after he "cooks." If the stains can't be cleaned, then I have to pay for paint, a new countertop, etc. I can cook and clean up after myself in like 20 minutes. So having my spouse "share" household tasks just creates a longer day of cleaning for me. It's a net loss of time, and thousands of dollars to repair the damage to the house. The point is, dude doesn't care that he's stressing her out. He's intentionally stressing her out so she'll do everything herself. There's method to the madness.
Uhhh, yeah. My wife told me "You're doing the laundry wrong" and I do it right now. Usually. We still disagree about what exactly a "light" piece of clothing is.
Same thing here. I noticed the dishes would be still oily after my bf washed up. I asked him to be a bit more thorough, so he watched what I did a few times and copied. Problem solved.
0nmute ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:24:01 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
wow i can relate to this
[deleted] ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 13:19:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
My husband and I are like this - we have assigned chores based on what we hate doing/don't mind doing.
Me: Bills, budget, all cooking, all meal planning, a lot of the "mental" tasks like getting gifts for relatives birthdays, planning holidays, remembering where he put his lost XYZ, remembering to remind him to schedule dentist appts, etc. (we count mental load as work in our house even if it's invisible).
Him: All trash/recycling, all yardwork and snow shoveling, all dishes, car and house repairs, negotiating with and overseeing contracters, dealing with the cat's litterbox.
We share general tidying and care of the pups/cats.
It really helps us feel like we're doing equal shares and we get to do things we (mostly) don't mind doing.
Except my husband also does laundry. In return, I do all the things you do, as well as plan (and pay for) epic international vacations. I am a terrible housekeeper and we both know it. Best marriage ever. I think my husband agrees, lol.
Iโm gonna say it and get crucified. Were you with the father at the time? Your partner should have stepped it up. Not because you couldnโt cut the grass but, while growing an entire New human, sometimes you need to rest and NOT cut the lawn. This comment made me angry. Sorry.
I think thatโs their point though? If youโre sharing a house with someone and do a task a few times they get so used to not having to do that task that youโre stuck with it for life, even when you clearly canโt do it, not because the others are mean or anything but because they simply forget that task was even a thing in the first place.
Yes I was and am still with him. He was working 2 jobs at the time and the lawn needed mowing again. We have worked out the mowing and I only mow when I want now.
As a dude I recommend you find someone else. No matter if it's a guy or girl, if they bitch about having to wash their own clothes they deserve to be single
his mom did it for him growing up and he claims he doesn't know how ... even though he's been taught on multiple occasions. i didn't mind to do it cause i was raised that way (my mom would scream at me if i did my laundry and not hers...) but he doesn't even appreciate it or reciprocate in any way so i'm done lol. he won't even put them away or keep them folded nicely
bamaja ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 13:47:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this is how my wife and i operate. she does the laundry, for dishes, the hot water is enjoyable and i am weird.
i used to do my own laundry, and would do the loads after we moved in together. but i have since been effectively banned. who knew that women's clothes need specific temperatures and drying instructions??
needless to say, after several shrunken blouses, we arrived at our current agreement. everyone seems happier.
This was us when we first got married! Now, my husband does his laundry, I do my laundry, and we both do sheets and towels whenever they need it. I don't want him touching my laundry with a ten foot pole though he doesn't mind doing it.
She has been gone 17 years now and I miss her and her advice every damn day.
scw55 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 13:37:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've realised that I love living with a lawn. However, I don't actually enjoy cutting it. The machinary is bulky and heavy. The bag must be emptied during the job. I end up feeling itchy.
This is why I love living in an apartment! There are these guys in overalls that come every now and then and keep the courtyard looking neat. And I don't have to do anything about it.
Hopefully not a push mower? I can see how this could happen, though. Just like in a job, make sure your husband is cross-trained with you so that if either of you is out of action the other can step in.
This goes for all kinds of relationships - if someone wants you to do something, assume they'll always do it. They want to borrow money? Now won't be the only time. They want you to run an errand for them? They'll get you to do it whenever they feel like it.
The only exception is if you've known and trusted them for years. Relationship precedents get set very, very early.
Iโve actually made a couple of friends doing this!
For those of yโall in comments above me wondering how to compliment girls without coming off as creepy, PRO TIP, super simple solution: identify WHAT about that skirt is cute, and compliment that specifically!
โI like that pattern on your skirt!โ
โThatโs a cool color!โ
That way youโre complimenting the personโs TASTES, not their FORM.
I've wanted to tell people they look nice or I like what they're wearing, but I think I'm going to come off as creepy. So I just never do. I'm going to have to try this. Thank you!
ItsMeTK ยท 366 points ยท Posted at 01:21:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or it weirds them out and you become the creepy skirt guy.
Or you like the skirt, but itโs mistaken as flirting.
eukomos ยท 313 points ยท Posted at 01:37:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs all about phrasing it in a way that implies โyou have great taste for choosing that skirtโ and not โyour ass looks great in that skirt.โ
That's true but not all styles lend themselves to everyone, I think it can be nice to recognise that
eukomos ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:11:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True, but thatโs best saved for a different situation due to this dynamic. Many compliments that would be fine to offer a woman you clearly have no sexual interest in can come off slightly unnerving to a stranger youโre flirting with. Remember, strangers have no way of knowing youโre not a date rapist yet, so you have to go the extra mile to assure them youโre not.
I tend to avoid compliments altogether, I don't want it to be seen as flirting or rapey. If I do, I might mention something before leaving cause then I don't have to deal with the aftermath of how it's interpreted and everyone can go about their day
Compliment things that arent able to be seen that way.
"Wow, cool teeshirt!" Or "that's a neat lanyard!" (I get that one at work a lot, always leads to a convo about pokemon.)
That kind of compliment is about the item/object, and not the person wearing it or even how they look in it.
It always seems so simple but it really isn't. Case in point, I tried the "Woah, I really like your Reddit account!" And she just went on saying "Sir, this is a funeral parlor" "I'm going to have to ask you to leave" "Hey is that famous Hollywood Actor Ben Stiller?" And I don't think those were positive responses
Compliment the person, not the object. "You make that [blank] look good."
I have always thought that complimenting clothes / possessions is weird. I guess the message is supposed to be, "I think that you have good taste in [blank]". When someone says to me, "I like your shoes," my thought is always, "Thanks, but all I did is buy them; I didn't design them or anything. "
Interesting how differently we interpret it. If someone told me they liked my dress, I would think it is a compliment for whoever designed the dress, not for me.
Does that really matter though? They think the designer did a good job and, since you're wearing it, so do you, I guess. Worst case scenario that's just you and another person mutually admiring someone else's work. It may not be a big compliment to you, but it never trots into creepy territory. Saying something like "You make that look good" sounds SUPER creepy to me. I get that it can be meant well, but it just doesn't come across that way at all. It sounds lewd.
It's also complimenting your taste in clothes. And half the time I am the person who designed/made my dress anyway so it's still a compliment to me in that regard as well.
DisMaTA ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 03:22:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You: You make that skirt look good
My thoughts: Oh, so you think I bought an ugly ass skirt but somehow it pleases you on my body? Or do you just think it looks good because the ugly skirt fits me? I don't need to "make" it look good, it's a nice skirt and I like it, you ruiner of good moods. Ugh, go bother someone else.
Me: Thanks.
Nope, that phrasing wouldn't come across to me as you meant it.
....unless you get creative and wear one as a top in a desperate moment of fashion crises.
Shh, that's supposed to be a secret! ;)
Rengiil ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:44:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks, I'll remember in the future by thinking of the phrase, dress for success. Dress being both a top and bottom, nobody is successful just putting on pants, or a skirt.
It actually depends on your looks. If you look attractive, your flirting/compliments will be accepted. If she isnt attracted to you it will seem creepy. You have less leeway if you have less looks. Its just how it.
Think of the extreme. Girl at a party. Two guys walk up to her and tell her they think she is cute and if she would like to go in another room. One guy makes her wet. One guy isnt really her type. One guy gets sex or a joking turndown. The other is labeled a creeper she tells her friends about.
Looks somewhat play into it? But so does, like, what you actually say and how you say it. Being hot and saying something creepy will still creep a woman out. Weโre pretty likely to get hurt on dates, so we get very sensitive to these signs.
This might depend on tone and wording. "Your skirt is hot" feels way different than "your skirt is cute!" Also "you're cute in that skirt" is different than "that skirt is cute."
Compliment the item instead of the person, that makes it a little less threatening for someone who might take it the wrong way.
Its not creepy if you just say "that skirt is really pretty" and they say thank you and you walk away. Its the staring, or the further commentary, or anything else weird that makes guys creepy.
To the second part, who cares if they think youre flirting?
If anyone says anything you literally just say "I wasnt flirting I just thought the skirt looked cool."
As long as you complimented the person in a normal way, no one can dispute that.
If your wife or their husband doesnt believe that someone can just like a piece of clothing, theres a bigger problem there. I'd suggest couples therapy.
Totally agreed. I've given compliments to other females out of the blue and then, holy smack they just OPEN UP. For someone with social anxiety it's amazing to have a positive experience where the one little thing you said hit just the right nerve and now they're engaging you in a bluster with almost no effort on your part. Love it!
Girl to girl is a lot different though. Im a transwoman so I've seen both sides and let me tell you, guys giving compliments out of the blue is a bad idea. Does not go well.
Ugh at that point it's their problem not yours. So long as you didn't suddenly turn around stalk her for 3 weeks, Google her, follow her on Facebook and like all her pictures, download all her profile pictures and create a mosaic on your bathroom wall with quotes from her tweets written in gold paint (actual gold not gold coloured) then no you're not a creep. You're just a normal guy complimenting someone's shirt.
Yeah, and someone telling me "I love your hair." Or "You look good in those pants" is way different from "Hey, cool belt/shirt/lanyard/pin."
Complimenting something that's part of my body, or something that has to do with my looks just says the person is only talking to me because they're attracted to me. I'd rather someone compliment something that speaks to my interests.
Iโm sorry for stopping you, can we have a five minute conversation about your interests so I have enough background information to pay you a compliment without you being creeped out at my attempt to be a mildly decent human being?
Unless youโre REALLY interested in lanyards and belts.
Lol, I wear a pokemon themed lanyard and belt. I also have a couple of pins on the lanyard.
...I am also very much a fan of these belts. They're from Buckle Down, and they fasten like a seatbelt, and are made of the same material. I've worn the same one to work for like 5 years and it still looks as new as the day I bought it. Theyve got them in just about every Fandom you can imagine, from Pokemon to Disney, Walking Dead to My Little Pony. And more standard ones that are themed around car brands, etc. They're super sturdy, and dont do that annoying rolling thing that some thinner belts do after a while.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:58:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think overall it's best just to not make a comment. Odds are someone at some point is going to be offended and then you're in HR or getting yelled at in the street.
Yeah I've seen women wearing dresses that look really good on them, but I won't say anything because I don't want to come off as creepy. Same with dresses I know my wife would like, can't just go up and be like "Hey, your dress looks great, where'd you get it?"
It's all in how you say it if you're a guy talking to a woman. I'm a girl and work mostly with men. I've had guys make my day with "you look nice today!" I've had guys ruin my day with "you look nice today!" Suggestion, dont look a girl up and down while saying it haha.
All true, but you know what, there is no technique you can use that will give a 100% success rate when interacting with another human who has their own thoughts, preferences, free will, etc.
So I find it's best to just do stuff that might work, and if it doesn't, it doesn't necessarily mean you did it wrong. Obviously there are better and worse ways of doing things, but there is no perfect way.
sosila ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:46:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe it depends on how you word it. If someone said โcool skirtโ I wouldnโt think it was as creepy as โhot skirtโ lol
I think most guys have a problem finding the right way to compliment. The intention is there, but a lot of guys are missing that bit of tact or finesse. Like you said "hot skirt" is just brash. But saying something like "I like that skirt. It suits you" tends to have more success for me. It compliments the choice of piece, while also acknowledging that it works with their style. It works for me and I'm not even very good looking. It seems to only get easier to compliment women the more attractive you are.
As girl can confirm that "that suits you" is an excellent compliment and much better than "You look good in that". I dunno why.
Saying it suits you is like saying "Hey, you look put together and confident and on top of the world today." I guess? And "you look good in that" is like "Hey, I find you sexually attractive and want to put my dick in you." Even though that's a huge leap, it's where the brain goes, because social norms have taught us that guys always want sex.
You know what, I've been talking to alot of my female co-workers about this. Many of whom are 10 years younger than me (32) The general consensus is (according to them) as long as you don't act creepy, it's a good thing. Some people have a wierd way of going about it though, which is kinda why I asked about it in the first place. I can see both sides
I started doing this and it actually began to brighten my own day. If I think something is nice about someone, I'll tell them. 9/10 you'll get a genuine smile and a thank you from them. Half the time, they might even compliment you back. Feels good to be a bright spot in someone's day and it feels good to be nice. Positivity breeds positivity.
Anytime i see someone wearing something i like, or that looks good on them i compliment it, if i notice theyve gotten a haircut i mention it and compliment them. looking extra nice that day? BOOM. complimented. New glasses? BOOM. complimented. Nice makeup? BOOM. complimented.
Personally i remember compliments people give me, and it brightens my day, so i want other people to feel that way too.
Theres an older guy that comes into my work and he always compliments my hair (it's really long). Then he continues to talk about how his wife has really long hair, and how much he likes long hair, and that hes a 'hair guy' the same way that some dudes are 'ass/boob guys'.
Likes thanks, now I know you're thinking sexual fetish thoughts about my hair, and I want to shave it off.
Adding to this, if you notice a person making an effort to change/improve their appearance, complimenting them works wonders since it shows that you're mindful and validates any new style they're trying to pull off. Hell of a confidence booster to the person you're complimenting.
Recently we had a meeting at work and a girl had made/brought some food. My parents always taught me to be polite. I didn't like the food but I instinctively said "thanks, it was good" to her. By her reaction I could tell me saying that kind of made her day. Her whole attitude changed. It's a shame that food actually sucked.
Try to go farther with the compliment, if possible (works better with actions than with physical appearance). Follow through with an impact. As in, *why* are you paying the compliment, or why should they care? It's a way of encouraging them to repeat the action, but will make everyone (yourself included) feel good in the process.
For example: "Your face lights up when you talk about your job. It's clear how happy it makes you. Did you know people who are happy with their jobs live longer?"
I have received one random compliment from someone I don't know. It was a girl behind me in a lunch line saying "you smell nice". I'll never forget. It's the only random, completely out of the blue compliment I can think of I've ever received. And it felt really really good
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:01:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Guys, don't tell random girls in line they smell nice. Not if you value your external plumbing staying on the outside.
I try to do this. I missed a chance with someone today and I was really annoyed with myself. She's someone I'm not crazy about but her hair looked great today. Maybe I'll see her again tomorrow.
The only time I ever did this, there was a woman wearing this really pretty headdress--it was absolutely gorgeous. I don't know why she was wearing it: she was judging at a major Magic tournament and not in cosplay. (In fact, I've had a lot of encounters with judges at tournaments, and she's one of two I remember: the other one was the guy who patiently explained how Banding worked.)
chongmc ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:04:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always do this, especially to another female. If I like their hair, make up, clothes, jewelry, Iโll tell them. Makes them and myself happy.
Sometimes I am about to compliment some one's clothing, and I think to myself "what I am wearing looks terrible, if I compliment that person looking like this, they're going to never wear it again because they'll think it's crazy-person-chic"
There arenโt enough people who do this. Anytime a compliment pops into my head I say it! Itโs so amazing seeing someoneโs grin of happiness or shy smile at being complimented.
A compliment might make someoneโs day, or it might be someone who is struggling to find the will to live and you complimenting them might just be what gets them through the day. You just never know.
Either way, you can never go wrong by spreading kindness throughout this world.
How do you take a compliment like this? โThanks, I got it at so-and-soโsโ, โThanks, I like it too.โ, or just a โThank you!โ? I guess Iโm a little awkward...
You know, creepy comments from attractive males don't make them any less creepy. They're not exempt from being creepy just because they're good looking.
Drink less caffeine. I didnt realize how much it affects my mental disorders (anxiety, depression, ADD) until I started drinking less, and realized I function way better when I don't have a soda or two every other day.
Edit: alot of people are saying it could be the sugar, but I always have diet soda. I will admit that sugar and soda, diet or not, arent healthy, but there shouldn't be sugar in diet soda.
Edit 2: my parents both have caffeine sensitivity, so I probably have really high sensitivity. Like, even if it's one soda for 3 days, the first day I stop having soda, I get a headache.
Everybody is different. Maybe the way his brain chemistry works is different than mine, and he reacts to caffeine different than me. My parents also have issues with caffeine, so that doesn't help.
If you still want to drink coffee for energy and don't want that flighty feeling(I used to get that too) you could look into Ltheanine pills. It's what gives green tea that calming feeling. I take one before my morning coffee and I don't get any bad affects from the caffeine anymore.
Another thing that works for me is espresso rather than regular coffee. Espresso has less caffeine while still tasting great!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:33:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think there needs to be an instruction manual that we each fill out for ourselves, I mean a car is simpler than a human and it comes with a whole maintenance schedule and monthly/quarterly/yearly checks.
Caffeine is a stimulant. In OP's case, they're already stimulated by anxiety. This is a huge oversimplification, but someone with depression alone will be more likely to benefit from stims.
Precisely why I said it was a "huge oversimplification". Also have ADHD and take prescription stims. But I have personally noticed when I have too much. And a stim come-down can feel a lot like sudden-onset depression.
I am not an expert but certain neurotransmitters like those when sort of on the low side or not well regulated have been implicated in problems like ADHD and narcolepsy. Narcolepsy in a mild form can yield daytime sleepiness and/or muscle weakness, and/or disregulated sleep but not the more extreme forms of suddenly falling asleep. ADHD in mild form may show as not being good at concentrating and staying on task, your mind wanders or you are impulsive. Stimulants during daytime can help alleviate those symptoms because they stimulate the neurotransmitters than help with those problems. You may notice that peeps with ADHD often enjoy big doses of caffeine for instance without feeling jittery, a dose that would make a normal person very very jittery and uncomfortable. Since i am not a doc, this may not be a perfect explanation but you get the general idea.
You won't believe it but my psychologist at the time.
In my personal, non-scentific experience, the hyperactivity calms down but everything else is the same (or worse?).
Yes this is verifiably true on my part. I'm not as jumpy jumpy and fidgety as I used to be (but I still can be sometimes) but everything else is still there. Impulsiveness, lack of maintained focus, etc. Scariest part I only began to realize it like recently. Like this week recently. Ugh
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:15:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going to bed and waking up at the same time, meal planning, cooking (which takes me at least half again as long as other people), keeping things organized etc. I can get things where I want them and set up systems and routines but it all goes to shit and then I have to start over again.
I can really relate to this. I've had the same problems but it kinda scares me that in your 30s you still face the same challenges. I thought by then I'd have sorted them out.
Getting rid of my optimism has been especially helpful. I used to reach these points when my house was clean, my to-do list actually written and a manageable length, plans in place, food in the fridge etc. I would think I finally had it sorted out and I could do it right from there on out. Then it would fail and I'd feel like a complete failure at life I'm and lose all hope. Knowing it's a cycle and I can get back up there but also that it will get worse and better and worse and better has really helped me cope.
Hmm again I eerily have the same problems haha. I find myself excitedly jumping into challenges (ooh let's learn about this, let's make this) go the full 100 yards prepare and even start but the momentum dithers very quickly. Then I get deflated and you know the cycle. My main strategy right now is essentially to focus on the passion and pleasure (that's a possible name for a sexy podcast ( อกยฐ อส อกยฐ) ) of what I'm doing. So if I'm writing, instead of trying to create the next 1984, I just write about topics that interests me. Same with every other thing. It's difficult but it's slowly helping. I haven't had the chance to get therapy and get back on track with treating the ADHD but I will soon so I'm just trying to manage the conditions best I can right now.
At least on a simple subjective level, I say it's correct, my brother has ADHD and the stimulants calm him down. I was never diagnosed but may have a milder form. If i take mild stimulants, I feel more mentally balanced and less stressed.
I still disagree, I sleep better even on stimulants, and I feel more relaxed, so it's close enough to a flip. The one thing that is sort of stimulantlike is my mind is more clear and organized instead of fuzzy. But normal peeps that take stimulants seem to get a jumpy anxious mind so maybe that is still a flip.
A number of peeps i know use marijuana at night to calm down and sleep. I am not a huge marijuana person myself but one time something really stressful happened and then I smoked some and my stress was instantly gone. Some peeps get paranoid though so it may not work for them.
Yep but I think people decide they were already not sleeping for many years, so the dependency but getting sleep is the obvious preference in many cases.
Maybe for normal people but she's bipolar and on a lot of meds, doc wanted to give her more meds with bad side effects, she opted for a few puffs of marijuana per night instead, less side effects. Actually I think it's is a bit condescending to imply that you know how to fix everyone's insomnia in a better way, you do not know everyone's issues and how complex they are.
Maybe you did not mean it that way but that's the way it sounded to me. You did not know anything about her but said "there are so many ways to fix insomnia that don't include marijuana." as if to imply she should try those, as if to imply she has never tried any other ways.
Nah man I'm just saying that there are alternatives, I'm not trying to imply I know who she is or anything, if it works for her then all the power to her :)
I'm more talking about daily users. Weed used to calm me down but eventually if you abuse it you will become habitually dependent. That's when things are no good.
To anytime reading this, is you feel you can't enjoy things without being high, you are habitually dependent and should check yourself.
Peeps I know use it just for sleep, not really for 'fun.' I do agree that it has its dangerous and can be addictive, just for some I think they could not function without it, it's like self medicating. Obviously it is best if you do not require drugs as a crutch though.
Caffeine is usually linked to having less sleep and causing insomnia. Also I read somewhere recently that if you drink caffeine 8 or less hours before sleeping then your brain won't sleep as well because you still have caffeine in your system. This is why it leads to depression.
Less sleep makes depression and anxiety worse (source: watching my bf be worse on days where he gets 5 hours of sleep vs 10 hours and seeing the relation in his caffeine intake).
I don't have ADHD, but caffeine doesn't have a noticeable effect on me. Whenever I see advice about drinking a cup of coffee, go for a nap and you'll wake up in 20-30 minutes, I just scoff because I always though it was bs. I could never do that. But I can drink a coffee, energy drink etc. Right before bed and still go to sleep just the same.
My mum has previously pondered if I have ADD, but other than that yeah, definitely not ADHD.
Caffeine is a stimulant, so if you (like me) have ADD/ADHD it can calm you down and/or help you focus. I've been drinking coffee pretty much my entire adult life as a means of self-medicating. Sometimes I contemplate quitting but withdrawal is a bitch.
Meds can help you get rid of caffeine dependence quite well, and going off meds is generally easier than off caffeine (because it's more stable and step by step)
Oh I've been diagnosed since middle school, took Ritalin for a couple years before I was able to wrangle it in enough but in hindsight I should have probably stayed on something through college and early adulthood. Finally went on back on Adderall about five years ago, but as with coffee I often weigh the pros and cons of coming off it.
I thought he teacher was out of her mind when she suggested coke or coffee before school, but her take was โif it those pear-shaped, it will be me who takes the brunt of it.โ
My mom was likewise gobsmacked, and wished sheโd known when I was a kid.
My parents are both really sensitive to caffeine, so you can imagine how sensitive I am! I get awful headaches when I drink soda for a few days straight and then stop.
Sounds like a joke but i was browsing r/waterbros and started drinking more water first as a joke but now, i can:t help but crave the thirst quenching nature of H2O
If you were getting your caffeine from soda, I would wager that the bigger effect on your mental wellbeing was your sugar intake. I've recently cut out all sugar from my diet, and haven't had a suicidal thought since the beginning of the diet
It seems like not everybody is like this, but DAMN if that wasn't a major contributor to my anxiety and panic. I now cut my coffee at home to be half normal, half decaf and I have cut out soda completely. It's done wonders for my head.
Yes! I quit when I had post partum depression and it helped me with a ton of issues. I haven't had caffeine since (maybe with a handful of exceptikns) and find my energy and mood way more consistent.
okovko ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:37:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I function so much better when Iโm hyped on various stimulants. I think this is different when you tend to have a dopamine deficiency. Itโs like, you know how when you get depressed you never get excited about anything? Except youโre not depressed, thatโs just you your entire life. But if you have some coffee and a couple drags off the vape suddenly you feel motivated.
Iโm just noting that this is not universally good advice.
Soda has barely any caffeine whatsoever. (In comparison to other sources, about 30mg in a 12 ounce can of coke, compared to 120 in a 12 ounce coffee). It's insane that a soda or two has that effect on you. An entire 12 pack of coke has the same caffeine as 3 cups of coffee. Must have some type of sensitivity to caffeine.
Definitely a caffeine sensitivity. My parents both are a bit sensitive, and I think I got a bad hand and got double the sensitivity. Luckily, I hate coffee, so my only caffeine intake comes from soda and tea, but tea doesn't affect me much at all.
I think you would feel much better if it was black coffee or caffeine pills rather than Soda.
I agree, being dependent on caffeine is real bad for your mental health and leads to crashes. BUT, I've found that sugar is way worse, PLUS it's addictive.
I struggle to keep it this way (e.g today I ate a brownie and yesterday I had a small cone of ice cream), but cutting out added sugar has made me feel more emotionally and energetically stable, more productive, and just all around healthier.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:12:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I canโt drink large amounts of caffeine, like in coffee, for this reason. Sets off a panic attack, every time. The problem is I also have depression so Iโm sleepy all the time, and canโt get a quick pick-me-up like most others.
or just drink water more. its one of the healthiest things to drink out there (unless you're somewhere like flint, Michigan). so much stuff today has so much sugar it might as well be the equivalent of a caffeine free coke.
Iโve given up on soda for the past 5 months. Just decided to stop one day and keep the streak going. Now I donโt think Iโll ever be going back to drinks like that ever again.
Hmm I should try this. I've been drinking a coffee everyday since about 5th grade, so I dont really know too much what it's like to go without it for extend periods of time. I probably have a minor dependence on it, by now, as I'm ending my junior year in high school without skipping more than a few days so idk if my routine will go down without a fight.
The problem with caffeine is it's literally a drug. You will get withdrawl for a few days, but once you get through that in my experience you feel alot better.
Lol. Yeah, I didn't realize soda effected me. I was drinking 6-7 caffeinated sodas (diet) a day. I went off and felt like crap for like 2 weeks. Now I drink maybe a caffeinated soda a day and it is great.
I got depressed and started drinking coffee and it was almost magical how my mood brightened. Also anti depressants and sleep made a huge difference but coffee just makes me feel good in the moment.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:03:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wonder if quitting other drugs would do the same for me. Hmm, maybe the bottom of this whiskey glass'll tell me. Hmm. /s you're right! So many people view vices as cheap therapy. Turns out you're actually doing more harm by trying to escape than just riding the flow with your body and treating it nicely
imranov ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:53:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to drink wayyy too much coffee and one night i got a panic attack. Worst experience of my life, now i still take coffee but in a non-addictive manner
Hmm, I have ADD, and I donโt drink caffeine very often, maybe once or twice per month, but I havenโt really noticed anything when I do. Iโll pay more attention
Defends on the person and your personal balance. I do great on mild stimulants, it actually makes me feel more alert but also more mentally calm. I think it's that ADHD runs in my family and I probably have low levels of catacholamines and stimulants help counterbalance that.
Roonage ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:40:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve been told caffeine competes with Ritalin uptake.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:42:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a job sitting behind a desk most of the shift and was drinking 5 or 6 cups of tea each shift. I've switched to hot chocolate instead and have found im more awake and more cheerful by the end of the shift
Jeez, that's nothing. Some people have had 2-3 cups of coffee (or equivalent) by lunchtime. Most sodas are relatively low in caffeine content compared to energy drinks or hot drinks too.
Learning all the scale positions on the fretboard. Felt pointless to learn more than one way to play the same thing. Then 10 years later, I sat down and decided to learn them and it blew my mind. Everything clicked and all of the sudden I had a frame of reference for all the theory I've heard over the last decade. My perspective changed from "I have to memorize all this boring stuff and I don't know why I'm doing it instead of just playing, why do I have to do it the way theory tells me to? " to "learning these things isn't meant as a punishment, it's just the standard most people have agreed upon to communicate about musical ideas. It's like everyone agreeing to use the alphabet and grammar in order to facilitate communication."
After playing guitar for a decade and never really caring to learn the theory, I think I needed to read this. Do you have any suggestions on websites/books to look into to start practicing these scales?
i always remember this piece of advice from John Mayer: โfor everything you learn, learn the building blocks for that thingโ - i.e. learnt a song you really like? learn how the guitarist wrote that song (in terms of scales and keys etc). you can then apply those building blocks in an infinite number of ways in your own playing. Really opened things up for me, as it forces you to teach yourself theory without feeling like youโre giving yourself homework
Seriously, I could just be bad at googling, but it's surprisingly hard to find this information. Scales are so fundamental, it feels like it should be easy to find a straightforward tutorial, but I haven't managed it. It's basically CAGED tutorials, blogs about why CAGED is bad and endless single scale examples without explanation or any kind of comprehensive system you could follow.
I really hope someone chimes in with some useful information.
Instruments like guitar and ukulele are often not learned to be played in a fingerpicking style nearly as often as chord progressions. Especially the types of people that go to learn from YouTube videosโthe goal is not very often to get an in depth understanding of theory, itโs to play Freebird. Not that thatโs a bad thing, I think itโs just a more catered to audience.
When most people want to learn guitar, theyโre after accompanying themselves and not theory. Because theory isnโt 100% necessary to have a good time playing guitar.
Instead of tutorials on blogs and things, I would recommend getting an actual fundamentals book. Theyโre not expensive and theyโre indispensable if you get the right kind. The one I had for my class strings course in college was really well put together and mixed theory and practice together. I havenโt found that people who blog about playing guitar are exactly authorities on theory/education.
It doesnโt have a lot of specific guitar examples, but musictheory. net is one of my favorite resources for teaching, and my husband uses it for his guitar classes to make sure students can read music before getting the guitars in their hands. There are some specific fretboard exercises but I havenโt done them myself.
I hope this helps some, Iโm not totally sure what youโre looking for but maybe this can point you in the right direction?
Get a keyboard and start there. A keyboard just lays all the notes out in front of you in one line, and makes it easy to get the theory. I'm not much of a musician so maybe it only works for noobs like me, but after taking guitar lessons and just kind of getting things, I had an into to music class using keyboards and even simple shit like 'o middle C is the C in the middle of the keyboard' blew my mind.
It's a quick reference tool for scales and chord progression.
Here's a more readable and usable explanation: link
Edit: in short, if you memorize it and how it applies to guitar in particular, you'll be able to pretty much instantly put together chord progressions, scales, and chords.
There's a method of using it to go through each note one by one playing every place they appear on the fretboard. My brain is super foggy atm, it's more than that but it's a really useful way to practice memorizing where all the notes are.
Kinda in the same place right now. I went with a friend to jam with his bandmates and they were playing in a couple keys i havenโt played in too often so i felt kinda paralyzed even though iโve been playing for over 10 years.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:43:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I exported my whole Facebook birthday calendar to my Google Calendar before deactivating my account. Everyday I have been deleting the entries in my Google Calendar if I don't recognise their name or actually talk to them.
Shows are what's keeping me around too I think. EDMtrain is useless for smaller events and I have a bunch of people on there I've met at festivals around the country I would lose touch with. My unprofessional opinion is that moderation is key.
hparadiz ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 06:19:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This has been the biggest problem for me too. But I'm a coder so.... I've been thinking that what we really need is an event feed format sort of like RSS that people can host themselves. Then you'd just subscribe to the feed.
BigPegs ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 06:24:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's the only reason I signed back up to it - tried subscribing to bands' email lists but they don't use them as much as Facebook. I'm also in a band too, so it's helpful for that.
Whaines ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:41:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For shows Iโve been using songkick and itโs been pretty good. Synced it with Spotify and it puts shows on my google calendar.
I just want to be able to use the marketplace, but every time I go to make an new account for that I get reminded how obnoxious the rest of the app is.
Wormbo2 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:10:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
YES!!
And Craigslist and Gumtree aren't always easy to post on, so you miss SO MANY possible bargains and items, because FB is just... easier!
I find that Craigslist is now like 80% bullshitters who will waste your time or just insane assholes. I don't have a problem with posting on there, it's just not usually worth the effort. I think the lack of anonymity on FB marketplace helps keep potential buyers a little more in line. Never tried Gumtree though.
I tried looking for cars on both Facebook and Craigslist and it seemed like nothing but scams. Not sure what they get out of it but I've never seen so many shady car ads, like photos of the same cars repeated, a Range Rover parked in front of a mansion that's obviously not anywhere near where I live and they are selling it for $3,000.
Yep Iโve done the same. If I feel I look at a person and decide canโt trust them, then I donโt pursue the item. It does save time. Like the market place , hate Facebook social.
I left FB for 7 years but when I came back I unfollowed pretty much every friend and left the majority of groups, so all I see on my feed is things for sale, as they're the only groups I joined. Facebook, to me, is just another gumtree/Craigslist.
Man that is what reddit is. You can post things and not have to worry about offending someone if your opinion differs. Who cares about a few downvotes?
Plus there are way more useful thing here.
iTzHard ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:08:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's still there so I can use the messenger, but otherwise its untouched.
Easiest addiction to break... EVER
r0ll1n4 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:00:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to think this way, but after committing to deleting, I got a phone call from one of my best friends, we talked for hours, caught up on some real life stuff. Considering the theory that we're only really capable of maintaining up to 150ish strong relationships apiece, I see no need to be connected so much in a quality over quantity kinda way. In the future, I might hire a Social Media Specialist to advertise my services, and extend a professional network, but as far as my private life goes, I love all the extra free time.
Christ, I re-uploaded the damn app recently to unload some tickets from an event... Got sucked into a few groups I once frequented & came fleeing back to Reddit. That place is a cesspool of nonsense. I want to rid myself of the whole damn thing, but I'm logged into so many apps with it & too lazy to remedy the situation...
Thereโs an option where you can still deactivate it. You just tick or untick a box regarding whether or not you want Facebook to still log in to apps using it. Itโs just taking your profile down from Facebook. And you can choose to still be invited to events etc. Thereโs different ways you can do it.
I deleted it... But kept messenger because I use it more than anything else to communicate.
sdh68k ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:19:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
a few of my friends have deleted their Facebook and as such have lost out on knowing when one of their friend's husband died. the problem is is the people that are still using Facebook also assume that everybody else is still using Facebook.
it is quite possible to set it up to never notify you on anything so that you use it on your own terms.
I actually liked it. I liked posting stuff about movies for my friends to read and I enjoyed posting about politics, but Facebook is a shit company and the bullshit theyโve been under the spotlight over the last few years convinced me to delete it.
Same. Deleted it one night and haven't regretted it for a millisecond. My partner thinks I should miss it and I dont understand why...I couldn't give two flying fucks that so and so checked into McDonalds or someone put up an attention seeking status. If we are mates you have my number and know where to find me.
the only reason i keep using it is to stay connected with my mom. we share things back and forth. once she stops using it i have no further use for it.
I deleted the app at least and check it a lot less. I only keep it because that's how one of my friends messages me, but deleting it would be neat.
blob420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:28:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I only deleted it from my phone. It did wonders. I realized how much time I spent mindlessly scrolling. Now I donโt got to Facebook for hours and sometimes days.
I don't even use it anymore but I still got an account. It's not my fault cosplayers I know only use that and instagram, and I will never use Instagram.
rohdawg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:00:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I deleted my entire fb account but opened an account just on the messenger app, without its facebook counterpart. That way my grandpa can still send me his favorite dad-jokes easily, as he'll use messenger but not text for some reason.
Edit: added words for clarity.
Imabum ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 05:05:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How can you do that
AzzaaR ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 05:20:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can deactivate your account but still use messenger
If you download the messenger app but dont have a fb account (i didnt just deactivate mine, I had them delete the entire account) then messenger will just have you create a login for it. I havent figured out how to use messenger on my laptop since my fb account is gone, but I can still use it on my phone.
That is how to get to it, I used it on my laptop before I deleted my account, but for some reason it wont let me login. It acts like the login doesnt exist, but it works fine on my phone.
Nbd anymore as my laptop has slowly turned itself into a paperweight over the last few months, but it was annoying when I did use it more.
If you have windows 10 there's a Facebook Messenger App on the Windows Store.
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:50:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This and also I use it to keep track of local events (free food warehouse, they let you know if/when they'll be open) and people selling things or advertising services locally.
I deleted mine in my senior year of high school last year. I figured I knew who my friends were and anyone I wanted to stay in contact with I could text or call. It was absolutely fine for a year, and I didn't really use Facebook anyway so I didn't miss it.
Then I went to college. Turns out that most people at my college use Facebook for a lot of social things. Most group chats are on Messenger, there are pages for barter & trade and lost and found, several great meme pages, a page specifically for students from my state (which people use to set up rides home), and I'm realizing as the end of the year approaches that it's the easiest way to stay in some contact with graduating acquaintances whom I don't know well enough to have the phone numbers of.
Unfortunately, Facebook has decided not to let me open a new account. I've tried twice and each time it flags me for some reason, asks me to upload a picture of my face to prove I'm a human, and then tells me I failed the test and deletes my account. I appeal it and submit a photo of my ID. They still don't believe I'm human.
If anyone made it to the end, sorry for ranting. I'm so frustrated.
Did you not have any contact with 70% of your family 10 years ago?
[Not being facetious... But it's important to be reminded that there are lots of ways to communicate besides facebook, and people who genuinely want you to be a part of their life will still be in contact with you]
Did you not have any contact with 70% of your family 10 years ago?
Thatโs pretty accurate for me. Even more so now that I live way out of state from most of my family. People that I would see weekly or monthly when I lived in state, I now see once a decade. So where we used to keep up in person we now do on Facebook.
I uh. Lived with my family before Facebook because I was like 10.
[deleted] ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 06:25:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Goddamn millenials moving out of their homes and trying to kill Facebook.
The_RTV ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:45:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My parents retired overseas and my bro is in the military stationed overseas as well. Along with messenger, the picture and status update is just the easiest way to keep in touch.
We've tried a lot of the other methods prior to social media and this works the best. Plus all my parents friends are on Facebook and they call them through messenger as well.
Personally I haven't had an issue with Facebook and other people's drama or whatever. If I did I just unfriended them or unfollowed.
Yeah that's cool. I mean it's a good product, which is why it has caught on so well. I mainly don't like the fact that it has become a de-facto communication standard, however, which I feel keeps many using it more than they otherwise would. ["I use it because everyone else I know uses it" etc...].
With an open communication platform [email, telephone/sms, XMPP, for example], I can move between providers [or run my own] and am able to communicate with anyone else regardless of their provider. Facebook being a closed environment doesn't sit well with me personally. It is hugely convenient now that most people are on it. However that convenience comes with a price I am personally not willing to pay.
I guess it's just that there's this feeling of impending doom of life without facebook, when in reality everything was perfectly fine in the decades before it. People lived interstate/overseas from family. Maybe it's a quantity vs quality thing. In my time with facebook, I never felt like the communication was of great quality even though there was more than I could literally give my full attention to.
When not using facebook, communication is a lot more deliberate and more focused. I'm taking the time to write an email, include some photos, and address it to specific people whom I want to share my life with.
Sure, but it hasn't been a de-facto communication medium for family for more than 10 years.
gizamo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:42:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It definitely still is for many (probably most) families. Perhaps it's not for your family, and perhaps you don't like that other families use it, but that's the reality we're in.
Honestly, I have almost no contact with my (extended) family except through Facebook. Iโve never kept up with them- I have a huge family. But now itโs so easy to keep up! I didnโt even know my cousin was dating someone, let alone married with 2 kids. Now Iโm in the loop. Itโs not all bad :)
I guess from my perspective, I don't feel the need to keep up. If the only way for me to know that my cousin is married with 2 kids is on facebook, then in reality I probably don't really need to know that [as we're probably not really involved in each others lives].
I know it may come across as cold, but it's not. I'm more than happy to be involved in anyone's life who wants it, I just see facebook as a little too low-effort and with too high of a social cost to be worth it. I keep up with many people close in my life, whom I talk/interact with regularly. I don't think it is at all necessary to keep up to date with every aspect of everyone's life if you're not interacting with them on a regular basis.
So for context I'm one of 9 kids, and my mother was one of 10 kids. I have more siblings and cousins than I know what to do with! They're all over the country, and a lot of them are 15+ years older or younger than me, so I never really got to know them.
But, it feels really nice to be able to congratulate them for a wedding, wish them the best when their kids are at home with the flu, and be able to interact with the little things :)
That's great you're able to have such great connections from the service, and that it's providing genuine improvement to your life :-)
I guess my initial reply is just in the context of people who wish to leave, but are worried that they'll suddenly lose communication with everyone. For those people, I just like to remind that it isn't the only game in town, and generally speaking the world keeps spinning ;-)
I like communication via the internet and I have lots of people I keep in touch with on Facebook. I hate talking on the phone. Unfortunately Facebook has become inundated with political shit and trolls and is downright depressing these days, but I still go on occasionally to interact with people I know that live all over and am in a few groups too.
Labick ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:39:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Family and friends change address/phone numbers without us knowning. Facebook is the web they all used and agreed it' the easiest way to keep in touch. I would probably delete mine soon but i have to weight wether its worth it to cut communication for less privacy intrusion.
I solved this problem by simply gutting my facebook of all posts, photos, and personal info. I also changed my privacy settings so that pretty much everything is hidden, even from friends.
Now I still have direct contact with everyone on my friends list through messenger, but I don't have to worry about people digging up weird shit I said when I was 14.
It also helps to turn off notifications and refrain from browsing your feed.
I never even created a Facebook account. When my family complained that I should get one so we can stay in touch, I told them they can always text me (also using various messenger apps) or (gasp) call me when they want to talk to me.
I prefer direct communication over the "speak into a megaphone for everyone to hear but not talking to anyone directly" style of communication.
What I did was that I went in and I've blocked nearly all news outlets on it. BBC, FOX, CNN, NPR, etc. All blocked. Facebook at this point is for family, friends, and meme pages.
gizamo ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:37:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't buy the delete it hype. If you block/unfriend the toxic people, FB is great. It's the horrible people who make it bad, and unfortunately, we all know a few of them.
Ax6644 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:04:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Too bad you can't block the adds.
FB lost me when I could no longer sort straight by most recent. I don't care that Carrie has 400 likes on her mommy power post.
gizamo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:51:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chronological order was nice. I miss that. Ads are just the cost of the phone being free. I'd rather have ads than pay monthly.
Not sure who Carrie is, but whatever... feminists gonna feminise. Imo, that's a dumb reason to not use a useful platform.
I would delete it but its really the only way I have contact with 70% of my family
So you're telling me that 70% of the family doesn't bother emailing, texting, calling, writing letters, dropping by, sending care packages, or even organize future get-togethers while already in person for unrelated reasons?
Sound like a family of convenience. Well, get what you give, afterall.
I dont use email, dont keep many contacts on my phone, writing letters takes too long, care packages I get every now and then, and we rarely do family get togethers since we're all scattered across the country, some in Alaska, Massachusetts, Iowa, North Dakota, Arizona, etc.
blue-vi ยท 56 points ยท Posted at 03:10:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you had balls you'd delete reddit
Otakeb ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:23:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is true, but I don't like that it is. I have a problem.
Shermix ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:33:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
-pseudo delete reddit.com
gizamo ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:45:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Imo, Reddit is much worse than FB is nearly every respect, but I'm good at keeping my Fb limited. I'll friends people I meet, but I alwaya unfollow or unfriend them if they say/do things that annoy me. Fb figures it out and shows me less of them. On Reddit, I block one bot, 100 take it's place, especially with elections coming up.
What are these bots? How do you know they're bots? Genuine questions here.
gizamo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:45:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been a programmer for 20 years and I'm on Reddit way, way too much. ยฏ\_(ใ)_/ยฏ
There are many give aways, but some commons ones are that they're always triggered by the same text; their grammar is all mixed up; they're often out of context or off topic; and their post/comment histories are usually non-existent or had drastic shifts (when the account was likely bought).
They're also nearly always saying some dumb political nonsense that is way too passionate (usually angry) given the context. For example, if someone says, "I think Elizabeth Warren's hair is nice for an older lady" and someone else responds with an 8-paragraph tirade/tantrum about all her policy proposals, maybe claiming something absurd like she'll start world war III, that's probably a bot.
Currently experiencing this. I just put a time use tracker on my phone to try and find out how much exactly and then I'll probably try to cull it using the metrics on the app to measure success.
I keep my phone permanently on silent (no vibrate). Iโve also turned off pop-up notifications for everything except phone calls and texts. That way, I can still have access to my productivity apps, Google Maps, etc but am not tempted to use my phone when I donโt need to. Only pulling out my phone intentionally (instead of every time I would get a notification) changes everything. To limit my screen time even more, Iโve deleted almost all non-critical apps and use Appleโs App Limit feature for the few that squeaked through (like Reddit).
n1c0_ds ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:48:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turning off most notifications is liberating. Turns out you don't need to know about new emails, tweets etc as they arrive.
It's really odd. As someone with ADHD, you would think that this would be worse for me, but it's not much of an issue at all for me. Maybe I just get way less notifications than most people (Or I'malienatedfromsociety...)
I catch shit for it but mine is always on silent too. My phone is for googling things, texting the few people I actually want to hear from and emergency calls should something happen while I'm out and about.
Glad im not the only one. I started with just leaving it home when I went to work and Ive slowly phased it out of leaving the house unless im on a date with gf. Its crazy how much time people spend engrossed in their phones nowdays. Just thankful this would never have been possible with my old job or previous lifestyle.
I do this too. It kind of scares me now when people answer a message right away. It will usually take me several hours (or days.... Or weeks....) to get back to someone.
Maintaining contact with these people feels like a second job where i'm constantly on call. It doesn't help that these types of people are usually the kind to send/ask crap that kill conversations before they've even begun.
This is how people need to use Facebook more. I started muting my friends and just joined a bunch (10+) of groups that fit my interests and now I actually like Facebook.
Same here, thereโs so many groups for specific interests that you canโt get anywhere else. I just donโt add people as friends that I donโt want to.
Way too many idiots are just deleting their shit instead of removing things they donโt want to see. Like hey, this one guy keeps posting random shit and I think heโs a moron. Instead of deleting my Facebook and thinking about how it freed me, I just removed him.
imenotu ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:24:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Facebook's privacy/security is a joke. Every other week you hear about how your data has been leaked or sold off. The platform is nothing but an advertisement scheme disguised as a social media device.
Problem is all my university events and opportunities are advertised through Facebook. Without it I would miss out on many campus events or networking opportunities
If you absolutely can't delete your account, uninstalling it from your phone is a big improvement. I don't miss having the app, and I check it on a PC maybe once a month.
_mizzar ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:09:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is what I did just because I don't care if the account exists or anything, I just don't want to constantly compare my life to other's and constantly have to try to think of meaningful things to post and getting all stressed out if certain people don't engage.
Got a new phone, didn't install the app (or Instagram/Twitter), and over 6 months later I haven't had the urge to check it once. Love the feeling and it's been great keeping up with real friends/family by FaceTime/texts.
TBH FB is kind of useful if you unfollow all people that share personal or useless information. Great for discovering new events, music, trading stuff, hobby groups, etc. Also, a good way to contact small businesses. At least where I'm from.
Yeah I unfollow all the individuals on my FB, so it is a useful address book for messenger and that is about it in that regards. I have notifications when certain people post (close friends, family, particularly interesting folk I know who share good stuff). The rest is bands, groups and interest stuff, so that is what my feed is. On desktop I have the chrome plug in to remove the feed so I just use desktop for maintaining my various FB pages. Phone app for distraction scrolling and discovery.
I detest the platform and what it has done to the web, but at least you can make it useful for find good stuff sometimes (still doesn't show me a lot of shit I'd like to see though because algorithms).
bjb406 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:11:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't want to delete it just because there are so many people I don't want to completely lose touch with, and there is no way I will otherwise. I just don't use it at all.
I thought this too - turns out either I sought them out or they sought me out by other means - I just donโt need to know every detail of their lives and vice versa. Iโm so much happier not having it despite me wanting to share things sometimes - I find I just share the same things I would with people I actually care to know such things.
I don't think most of the older people in my family even know their email address. At this point fb has become sort of an address book for me. I don't get what I'd gain from deleting it, I just never use it unless I have to contact/look up someone.
Don't know why you're being downvoted. After I stopped using facebook, I just had my parents text me/call me, if they needed anything.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:55:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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n1c0_ds ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:52:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Miss out on what? Maybe it will encourage you to catch up on person
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:54:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Ax6644 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 06:02:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you care you'll find their phone number, if they care they'll find yours.
Hell strip the dumb stuff from your FB and put your phone# in the contacts.
If it matters they'll find you.
As I've gotten older, (I'm 34 had Facebook when you had to have a .org (college email) deleted the app about 2 years ago) " I don't do Facebook" is a valid answer.
[deleted] ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 03:12:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To everyone reading this who is on the fence about deleting their account: No, you don't actually need Facebook. You don't need Facebook to keep in touch with relatives or old friends. You don't need it so that they can keep in touch with you.
Deleting my Facebook is probably the only reason I decided not kill myself.
However, if you do want to use it to keep in touch. What I did was just not go on it for a while. Purged all of my friends except people that I really care about, started using the FB purity extension, and only see actual posts or pictures that people I care about post. I don't see if they posted something for sale or if they shared a political post. I ignore the number of likes. I only post things that are meaningful to me. I'm much happier for it and I found my balance, but for some it is way better to just be off of it for good.
+1 for fb purity. Really trimmed down any fb time i had to little to none.
I still keep it only for setting up events though.. still havenโt found a good alternative. people are hit or miss with email contact for some reason.
THIS. I deleted my Facebook then decided I wanted to have it again to stay in touch with people. Problem is, it was months later so I couldn't recover my account and for some reason they are making it impossible for me to open a new account (keep getting flagged for not being human or something. After submitting photos of my ID twice to prove I'm a human and getting rejected, I gave up) and I know others have had this problem.
I video chat with my son. Only reason mine exists. My friends that still use it think I'm dead.
emm479 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:52:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm usually more of a lurker on here but I just wanted to say thanks for the suggestion (I deleted mine earlier last week and although I still look for the app and feel like I may have missed out on something, I find out I really haven't which is making it easier.) I'm definitely more attached to it than I would like to be even though I don't post or comment much hence the break. Also I'm glad you decided life was worth living and glad you made the choice to help yourself by deleting it :)
Big yes - I was addicted but now I donโt even care
bunk999j ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 03:20:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did this 4 years ago, best thing ever. Shows true friendship when people will text you invites vs assuming your on Facebook. My SIL texts me photos of my nephew when she posts them. My mom on the other hand "oh you didn't know that? It's because you're not on Facebook " Thanks for reconfirming my decision mom!
I was the first in my family to drop fb two out of my other four brothers have since dropped it and the other two are on there but log in maybe 3 or 4 times a year according to them. Was a weird turn of events seeing each of us embrace social media then slowly dial it back to where most the family just doesnt use it anymore.
Yep, same here I wish mobile developers would step away from using Facebook as account backups. One of my favorite games has two ways to sign in, as a guest (which doesn't save to a cloud so if the game crashes I'm screwed) or from Facebook.... ugh.
Social media in general fucked with me. I'm so glad I don't use it anymore (beside Reddit of course). Not being focused on people I don't really care about and general bullshit online has gotten rid of a ton of stress for me.
I'm the opposite and love Instagram, but maybe it's in what accounts you follow. I mostly look at dog pics on Instagram so it's a happy thing 99% of the time. Anything crappy I ignore.
iamreea ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:15:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean I use to only follow friends and like thedodo and meme accounts. I just find the explore page to be so toxic. all the news articles that just caused anxiety because they make you feel like the world is literally ending. It literally made me not want to leave my house. Or feeling fomo from seeing other people traveling and stuff. Idk it just wasnโt for me. So now I feel great. Only social media I use is reddit and I love it. I donโt feel the need to compare everything Iโm doing with someone else.
Instagram really fascinates me. It makes you believe that weight lifting and cardio means you'll lose fat (but somehow maintain your giant boobs/bum), that everyone can do yoga, and everyone has such amazing lives (and suitably made-up, nice clothes, etc.) and has huge friendship circles who all drink cocktails with sparklers in and get their nails done. Lol. Then I met/saw the people behind their Instagram accounts. D: Dayum.
Turns out the 'candid' photos were all staged, groups of friends sit in silence to update their stories (and not actually drinking the cocktail until everyone has updated), Instagram-ready make up is really really shite, people are struggling for money because their money goes on new clothes to show off on social media, holiday photos are a bunch of throwback reposts from like two years ago. Naaahhh. That's too much stress.
I deleted my Facebook 6 years ago, didn't miss it at all. However, I just rejoined. My kid's school puts so much information on there, from pictures of the kids to important meetings, and I was missing out on so much stuff. I have email and text notifications, we get bulletins and letters, but there is always something my kid was missing out on because they only posted the information on Facebook. I finally gave in and rejoined, but I keep my friends list short and I've unfollowed many of the friends I do have so I don't have to see their bullshit posts.
Facebook marketplace is really nice, though, since craigslist is basically 100% a scam anymore.
I mostly just use the messenger app to talk to people. I rarely open the fb app or go to the web page.
shlam16 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:57:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah this exactly.
I feel like these are the people who were literally addicted to it and couldn't go a second without checking it.
I haven't posted anything in years, haven't read anyone's feed in even longer - but I keep it for Messenger and because it's literally the default mode of keeping in touch in this day and age.
The people who pat themselves on the back for deleting it are akin to people 30 years ago saying "I don't need a telephone, I have a mailbox".
Yeah i get the feeling people who delete the account wouldn't be able to stop themselves from using it if the account was still open. That's fine, self control can be difficult.
I cant stand social media, but I'm in acting, so you basically have to have thousands of followers to make a good impression on casting directors and modelling agencies. Its annoying as heck.
I deleted all social media apps except snapchat back in July, since I use that to text people. But even on that, I muted all stories. It helped to completely shift my mood in a positively, I can't recommend it enough!
I've effectively done the same. It's still there, I just don't go on Facebook. Since I deleted the app from my phone and stopped using it roughly six years ago, I can only remember using it twice. I'm sure I've used it a couple more times than that, but it's so infrequent that I can only remember the two most recent occasions which occurred sometime in the last year.
Occasionally my wife will tell me about something she saw on Facebook and it just reminds me of why I will never engage with that platform again. The toxicity, vanity and stupidity is overwhelming.
jpp01 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:44:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I still have my account as it's the only online platform my mother and Aunt are willing to use.
But I only use messenger to talk to them. I haven't seen my "facebook feed" in something like 5 years.
Honestly it, and other "social media" are just trash that's looking to hoover up your time though repetitive boredom.
I also only have a charger for my phone in my bedroom, so when I get home and put it on charge I don't have to look at it and it's little flashing screen when I have free time.
Did this as well, I am so much better off now. That thing is poison to the mind. I encourage everyone to do this. Dont worry, you'll still talk to the people that matter. And you'll ACTUALLY talk instead of just 'liking' stuff.
I deleted Facebook a year ago. Itโs such a sense of relief. It was just memes, peopleโs children and peoples fake happy lives. Reddit for memes now. Itโs changed my life, as I didnโt notice but it stressed me out seeing everyoneโs fake shit. Good for you - go do that, I donโt wanna see your children 17 times a day, and good luck with your broken relationship.
For anyone that doesnโt want to do this but wants to cut down on Facebook use, do what I did: Delete the app off of your phone. You wonโt see notifications until you log in through Safari. Doing this made me realize Iโll have 12 notifications and only 1-2 actually matter. I check Facebook a lot less frequently now.
Facebook HAD its uses (it was a free alternative to Friends Reunited) but now it is a platform for posturizing, vulgarity, shameless boasting and its a huge waste of time.
ljubaay ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:10:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I knew it was time to delete fb when I took a buzzfeed quiz to see which non-dairy milk I am.
I got oatmilk, when CLEARLY im such a hazelnut milk.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:11:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
HOT TIP: You can de-activate your Facebook and still use messenger. I noticed that was a big reason people in the comments were hesitant about deleting their facebooks.
...Wait what? I'm gonna deactivate y account right now then
I really wish I could do this, but part of my job is managing the company's business page and replying to messages there. I pretty much never use it otherwise anymore.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:38:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same. I deleted mine on New Yearโs Day, and I thought for sure I would have caved and I havenโt thought for a second of bringing it back. Iโve noticed so many improvements in my life and habits that I realize just how toxic Facebook is. I donโt care how many people that are deleted or groups unfollowed, FB is toxic as fuck.
I decreased my screen time by over 40% (I get those weekly screentime things).
I noticed who my real friends were
I started reading about things I really enjoy (through Reddit and Pinterest) and focusing on me instead of other people and their problems/drama
No drama at all from THOSE friends/family members. None of the โwell Justessforall said this on Facebook and then aunt XYZ Said this and now Aunt XYZ isnโt talking to Justessforall and...โ. Nope. None of it.
Feels DAMN good and Iโm never going back. I made it past my birthday (last week) and I didnโt even miss the birthday notifications. I seriously recommend it to every single person that will listen. My mental health has improved (I also noticed I actually have really bad anxiety that I ignored because of Facebook).
Seriously. If you keep telling yourself youโre too addicted and โcould never do itโ... thatโs when you need to do it the most. The world is a huge place and Iโm glad Iโm not living it through a screen or trying to be better than other people or post my accomplishments to brag about.
I just deleted the app from my phone and stopped using it for the most part cause iโm too lazy to browse it on my computer. I just receive the birthday alerts via mail.
Tbh Iโm not surprised this isnโt bumped up higher or something since Facebook and Reddit are competitors.
But yeah I got in trouble a lot in high school because of Facebook (24 now, turning 25 in a couple of weeks), and my dad suggested I delete it first when I was 16. I did, and have been back on a couple of times for college, never going on again, now HEโS the one addicted to the site. He and my mom both.
Tech06 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:18:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ha! I never signed up at all! I skipped all the un-necessary bullshit.
Yes! I don't even remember how long it's been. The only issue is that my extended family don't realize they can email me so they just don't contact me anymore but maybe it's for the best.
I recently redownload it to look for a truck and literally nothing has changed on it. It's still bullshit facts and people over sharing personal problems.
I think it is trying to say that no matter where you are in life you are going to to have to struggle for happiness. So you should not seek out some idealized conception of what would make you โhappyโ and just be happy.
Totally agree. I was sort of splitting hairs on the difference between โseeking happinessโ and simply โbeing happyโ but also recognising the need to give gifts to tomorrowโs version of yourself and use the gift of your agency in life to achieve something worthwhile.
Although in the end I guess contentment and ambition are at odds and am not sure how to reconcile that beyond some conceptually Ill-defined โbalanceโ.
Also stunned at the downvotes but only one reply
selbrat ยท 256 points ยท Posted at 02:39:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have body image issues, find one even very small thing you like about yourself. My starting point was a freckle in the middle of my left hand. Whenever youโre feeling bad about yourself, remember you like that ONE thing. Find a new small thing to like about once a month if you can. It becomes easier to find things, and eventually easier to like yourself, in my experience.
Thanks for that advice, Mom.
[deleted] ยท 3010 points ยท Posted at 23:16:24 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
In regards to dating: "You'll find someone when you're not looking".
Sounds like total bs, but it's proven true for me a few times.
Edit: This also assumes that you go do social things sometimes. This absolutely will not work if you just sit at work/home all day.
Regdren ยท 1876 points ยท Posted at 23:52:06 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Should probably add that you need to be interacting with people in general for this to work. Extreme introverts shouldn't use this as an excuse not to go outside.
This sounds like good advice for the general population, and bad advice for most people browsing /r/askreddit, to whom ''not looking'' means literally going straight home from school/work.
Yoshi_XD ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 02:20:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My advice is always "don't go looking to meet somebody to date, just go meet people in general".
I'm no Adonis but nearly every relationship I've been in was when the woman made the first move because I was "interesting and fun to be around".
What should it mean though? I never ever succeeded with finding a girl at any events. Not a single time. All my relations were originating either from the friends I used to have when I was younger, or from "targeted search" in internet. Now internet dating is broken, the crews fell apart and I have no idea where to start interacting with people. Say, i've been at a concert yesterday, met a few guys, had a few fun conversations, but I didn't see any boyfriendless girls there.
I really feel like Work/School has just taken over my life and would really like to get out more. Do you have any ideas for good places to meet people? Especially when everyone already seems to have their own group.
She seemed perfect. I couldn't believe my luck, meeting someone so accomplished and interesting and attractive. We clicked so well that we never really got around to talking about D&D, despite it being the thing we first connected over in that brief chat in the waiting room. I remember watching her, puzzling out her ethnicity, watching the movement of her lips as she flicked through whatever on her phone. I almost never approached women, but she seemed approachable, somehow. By our fourth date, my ears were straining for the sound of a shoe dropping, even as we laughed, even as we sat and straight faced our way through a conversation about what we wanted and what our futures might look like, even as we laid bare our mistakes, exes, old addictions now turned to pale scars , even at home, as our bodies curled against each other, as gentle and insistent as the thin root that wears through stone, the climbing vines of her fingertips up my spine, my lark-tongue flicking against her cardinal feather lips. Black father, Ghana by way of France, redheaded English mother. Her copper coils came free with the butterfly clip spring twist and bounced, and my column rose, swollen with the salt river of my pulse, the Tigris and Ganges and Nile in me. My palms eclipsed the blood moons of her areolae. When it was done and we lay together, casually and messily interlinked, she giggled a bit.
"I think I need a healing surge."
A What.
"A healing surge, like in D&D...?" She reached behind her pillow and slid out a well-thumbed 4E PHB.
Goodbye, Adonna. I'm sorry about breaking your front door in my haste, i'll send you something to cover the locksmith's fee.
E72M ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:40:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
love comes just once or twice in this life, unheralded, as an abrasive aunt or a footpad does. Love demands sacrifice and compromise, but there are some lines a man does Not cross.
I mean, just gotta do some leg work to find social groups that do those things. You certainly arenโt the only one with those interests, and not the first one to think maybe doing them in person could be fun!
I believe there are writers groups where people share their stories and get constructive criticism or just discuss it and the origin or where it is leading. Might not sound intriguing, but maybe give it a few tries before definitely saying itโs not for you!
Drawing is a bit more intimate I think. Iโm not sure what group outlets there are for that haha
Any hobbies you think look like fun, but havenโt had the courage to try?
There are all sorts of drawing groups out there. I also like to take my sketchbook to random places (the zoo, the museum, bars) and people will just kind of gravitate towards me. It's bizarre, but nice. A lot of social media has groups and clubs for these exact hobbies, too! Check Facebook and Meetup.
This was exactly how I was, I gave up after trying really hard to land a few dates. I eventually got a new job and gave up dating and chasing girls and just decided to focus on finishing school and my hobbies.
First week on the job I met this awesome girl who was a customer, and we just clicked. After being friends for a while and on/off communication we decided to hang out outside of my work; it was one of the best nights of my life! I didn't feel depressed afterwards and nothing that night felt like a chore. At that point, we started chatting almost every day.
This theory can be related to conceiving a child as well. "Stop trying / planning for it and you'll get pregnant a lot quicker if you just have fun and don't think about it."
If you want children, that is........
rtj777 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:38:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unfortunately there is a bias at work on this one. That is, you hear all about the stories of people who stopped trying so hard and then eventually conceived. What you don't hear about are all the ones who stopped trying and then never conceived. Therefore you hear many more success stories, leading people to belive this actually works. Oh, it does work to relieve some of the stress, but it's only a minor factor. (Soruce: Used to work infertility.)
Iโve heard this happens for exactly that reason when a family is close to completing the adoption process. I babysat for a family with two kids in the same grade because the mom got pregnant after a long time trying when their adopted son was already coming to them.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:45:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think that's kinda different. Stress is a huge reason why a lot of women don't get pregnant, and being too focused on getting pregnant = super stressful. Your body literally shuts down.
On the other hand, with dating, you need to be proactive to a certain extent. And proactive might even mean just saying yes to dates, but there's still some level of it.
I mean, I was sitting at my first appointment at a fertility clinic, thinking, "maybe I'm already pregnant and don't have to go through with all of this," and it turned out I was right- we had stopped "trying" and I guess I'd opened my mind to the possibility that we just had to try something else
This is so true. For people trying to get pregnant, the stress of trying and failing can be counterproductive.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:12:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Stopped looking, FIVE YEARS GOING STRONGofbeingsingle
mookyvon ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 02:02:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is complete bullshit advice that gets parroted everywhere. This advice will only work if youโre a girl or hot guy. The average guy should never follow this.
Have hobbies and interests and have a passion. But also approach women and ask them out.
What's weird is that's how it's been for me with every serious relationship I've been in. I'll be single for a while and be trying like crazy to find someone, then after so long, it gets old. I give up and just do my own thing, and sure enough someone came along.
wow I've been concentrating on myself for 11 years and only ever had one gf for 6 months. This advice kinda just sucks for me. Like I don't think it works. Maybe for the average person it works or maybe its just survival bias but i think it takes a specific type of personality to make it work. I just don't have that personality and this type of personality seems to be very common too.
He has a point though. This topic always reminds me of the tidbit for dating apps like Tinder that "the top 80% of women (regarding attractiveness) get to choose between the top 20% of men" and I think that holds a lot of weight in the real world too. Men are so much less selective about their partner than women are.
Like the other guy who replied to you, this worked for me and I'm maybe a 6/10? Might be higher and she thinks I'm hot but eh, I know where I stand lol
But I found my current long term gf this way when I was doing my job and she thought I was cute and ended up getting my number weeks later. This was when I stopped trying to hit on girls and just do my stinking job well and it worked.
Of course this gets 2k upvotes on one of the most introvert encouraging social media*
GL jerking off for the rest of your lives
Seriously, my rude comment aside, this is horrible advice unless youโre actively interacting with people already (doesnโt have to be dating, just interacting in person on a regular basis)
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:09:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Top reply already addressed this, maybe I should've edited this?
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:44:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes and no lol. I've "met" people when not looking at all, but I didn't pursue them because I was too closed off. The moment I opened up, there were tons of options. And there usually is at least one option. Whether it's quality or not is debatable.
You have to be open to it, just not overly focused on it or the outcome.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm an average looking man and it's worked for me. All I did was be social and have fun with friends. Don't go looking for a partner, just go have a good time. A partner will find you if you seem fun to be around.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 00:51:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Weirdly worked for me. I was wondering why it was that all my close female friends were all in relationships, and I realised itโs because I tried too hard with single women and it sort of pushed them away. With women with whom I had no romantic aspirations whatsoever I was able to just be myself and so proper friendships were able to form. So, by not specifically looking for a romantic partner I was able to weirdly build much stronger and better relationships with women and ended up finding a girlfriend that way
Truth!!!!! I got divorced a couple years ago. After an off and on type of terrible relationship that left me so unhappy. I tried online dating, going to singles shit. Whatever cause I WANTED a girlfriend. I WANTED real love.
Then. I got annoyed. I quit that nonsense. Started just doing my own thing. In January. A young lady Iโve known about 5 years reached out to me for a lunch cause she owed me for helping her with some tech stuff. I wasnโt looking for a girlfriend. Friendship was fine. Sheโs my girlfriend now.
Iโm very happy.
Lorrena ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:03:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same thing happened to me.
I had a 5-year long relationship, got my apartment, moved in with my then bf. Some time later we break up. After that I had a few pretty bad relationships, the last one horrible, guy just emotionally tortured me.
When Iโd finally broken up with him, I decided that it was enough, I didnโt want to date anymore, and I even moved back with my parents and decided to put my apartment under lease.
The same day I leased my apartment, a guy that Iโve played WoW with for couple of years asks me out to coffee, because Iโve helpled him something in the game.
I said sure, why not, Iโve been talking with him every day in game for years, he was nice.
So in a year we got married :) 8 years now, and I love him more than I ever thought I could love someone.
My experience has been that you don't find an SO as soon as you stop looking; you just stop worrying about it and keeping track of the time you've been single. Which helps.
Single for 12 years. Havenโt looked for 10 of them. Still nothing.
Fudgms ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:51:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In my phase of looking for only flings i met my fiancee.
It sounds dumb as fuck but during that phase i kept telling myself that i will find "the one" when i least expect it and sure enough i am now engaged and so excited for my future
Found my now GF at a taco truck in DTLA. She was cute and I started talking to her. She was blabbing about god knows what and then I asked if she had a food truck number. She thought I meant phone number and started to put it in my phone. That was 4 years ago and I really donโt know, or really care to think, about where Iโd be if I didnโt find her. She is an amazing person and Iโm very lucky.
P3ccavi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:47:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was looking for someone for years (dated a lot of women that were the opposite of what I wanted), finally just said fuck it I'm just destined to be a bachelor. Not long after, the woman who would become my fiancรจe started working at my job. I just knew I was destined to marry her but she was a lesbian so I figured I'll at least get a great friend out of this. 5 years later she's asleep in our bed while I'm in the living room looking up wedding stuff on Pinterest and scrolling on reddit
Aeolun ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, naturally, at some point this has to be true.
This happened to me! She was recently out of a relationship, I hadn't had one for a few years, we started talking, I expressed I was interested. We had a great few weeks together, and a couple not so great, and we split because of compatibility reasons - I started having anxiety attacks and she didn't feel like she could handle it or support me in the way I needed. We split yesterday, I'm still quite sad about it. I just hope we can remain friends.
I can vouch for this. Had 0 interest in a relationship. Same did my now wife. We meet in school & became friends. It's been almost 3 years now and we couldn't be happier
Indya89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:23:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But how can you not look when a relationship is the thing you want? Or you mean donโt be desperate?
b3avis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:55:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd rather describe this as: 'not searching actively'
Hexipo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:32:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I believe it to be the desperation - some people say you can smell the desperation on someone. And when you are looking you give off unattractive qualities whereas if youโre comfortable with yourself and more chilled you will naturally attract.
Think on how easy it is to play flirt with friends then it is with a person of genuine interest to you :)
I am Totally not looking. I live alone in the woods and work nights. Sometimes I go a day or two without seeing a human. Prettty sure looking works better than not looking
The advice is predicated on assuming you actually have a social life. It means go do things with people and meet people without expecting an activity to turn into a date.
This is true. Five years ago, a cashier at my local supermarket asked me if I fancied going for a ride on my bike with her sometime. I wasn't looking for a girlfriend or anything at the time but I had nothing better to do, so I said OK sure.
We're getting married in a few months. I found the soulmate I wasn't even looking for.
If you live for yourself and enjoy what you're doing and do more stuff for yourself - it will most likely happen with little to no effort. Chances increase with your social circle.
I heard this too and thought it was bullshit, too. I went from relationship to relationship to relationship with little to no breaks. Typically, I had a female friend who would become a girlfriend. Then, I had enough. I realized i was just a serial relationship person and i had 2 long distance relationships and I surely was NOT FUCKING DOING THAT AGAIN!
I was single for a year and met this girl. Online. She was hot but I wasn't interested. 6 months later i was asking her out. 5.5 years we were long distance. I will NEVER date someone long distance again. Ever. Mostly because my Wife would be upset with it.
Truth. There's a sort of shift that happens when you can find love for yourself without the validation or permission of someone else. People can sense it and gravitate towards it. I think it's because it's something that we all want, but few actually work to get. Sometimes, it's easier to try to gain the love and approval of others than working on yourself so that you can get that love and approval from yourself.
1melly1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is my bf. He was desperate pretty much all of high school, then senior year just didnโt care anymore and was having fun. We met and became friends and eventually started dating
this has always led to my best relationships- every time i chased a guy i was always left disappointed but every time i decided to relax and just be me a good guy came along and i had a happy relationship! of course this only works if youโre in an environment when people can actually notice you
That's only a small part of it...while it's true that it is tougher to get laid (as a guy) when you try to meet people for the solve purpose of fucking them, It is easier to meet people and get to know them on a deeper level if you go in to it with no expectations.
But you still have to be willing to try to meet people.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:17:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought the second part would be understood, but I forgot for a second that this was Reddit...
Cause youโre not trying to impress or hide other likes/dislikes to seem more compatible youโre just being yourself. If I was trying to impress my now wife or hide other interests probably wouldnโt have had much really in common and not worked.
People think it's the stupidest advice, but it rings true for most couples in my life. They stopped actively looking for someone and started working on themselves.
The whole thing about loving yourself before you love someone else plays into this concept as well. If you love yourself, you aren't looking for a partner for validation. Then partners come naturally!
Happened to me and my current boyfriend. He was in a relo for 18 months. Gave up on love and said he was gonna full hoe it. The first night he went clubbing he met me, this saying is really a thing. (Weโre both 18)
Doesnโt work. I donโt have the confidence to look a single woman in the eye and Iโm 30. Am I doing something wrong. Where are my damn instructions?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:45:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You just answered your own question. Confidence is important. Just start a casual conversation with a random woman at the grocery store, coffee shop, etc. without the outright intention of asking them out, and that will help build confidence. Work your way up from there.
Changing something about your appearance to gain confidence/self-esteem (getting a haircut, going to the gym). I thought it was a cop out piece of advice and then I got a haircut and I felt so comfortable in my skin and at peace that I remember the exact moment it happened.
This is a bit of a weird one for me because I had a personal crisis, cut my hair and instantly felt better. I had been meaning to do it for a while and the stress just made me think "fuck it, it's coming off" and I love it!
Yea I think if its something you were seriously considering before you got freaked out about something it's going to be fine. If it's one of those crazy ideas, like buying a really risque dress or something you bought because it looked good on the model but its not a style you've ever worn before than it's better not to attempt it when you're in freak out mode.
Yeah that's a really good point - if it's something your rational mind thought was a good idea then it'll probably be fine, but don't make an impulsive decision in that moment.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:53:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:02:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm a dude with PTSD. I buzz my head a lot due to freak outs. I always regret it, but then I just do it again lol.
I wholeheartedly disagree with this. In the few times that something in my life made me feel offbalance and totally crushed, a new cut or color instantly turned a page for me.
Unless you've never been able to find a hairdresser to call your own and everytime you go (even when you aren't feeling shitty) makes you cry for an hour D:
When the processing time on my husbandโs permanent resident status went way overdue I was freaking out that they would make it our fault his green card and status were no longer valid. That and his driverโs license expired and they wouldnโt renew it because of his out of date papers. Getting immigration to tell you anything helpful is a shit show and our only office in the state is open 4 days a month and wouldnโt do shit and it is wildly impossible to get an unscheduled appointment at the Denver office. My grandmother told me to contact my senator and make them deal with it. I thought she was just a dingus but I was desperate so I did. I just filled out a form for both of us stating we give them the right to discuss our private case and their office harassed the ever loving shit out of USCIS and lit up our state DoT. They would call me just to see how I was doing. They got shit done and I think they pushed his case to the front. They really came through. Heโs applying for citizenship now and the processing time was almost two years when we submitted the application in February and we already have an appointment for the final interview and test in the next two weeks. I am positive there is a flag or something on his case/account now that they did that for us because everything else had been slower than molasses in winter. Fuckin bless you Pam, you are a badass!
Ella1570 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 08:29:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slower than molasses in winter made me laugh, you write well.
Same happened with my mother. Even though her mother was born here, she couldn't get a visa. Her aunt went to her MP and they cralwed up immigration's arse, and I was born five years later.
Same here. I've had a rough few months and started going to therapy/counseling. One of the first things that got me to really stop and think was my reaction to my therapist's use of the word "shame" to describe my feelings. It felt like a dirty word. I thought I liked who I am but was just falling victim to some evil boogeyman called Depression. It's jarring to discover that you only thought you had a decent self-esteem but it's actually pretty poor due to feeling great shame about yourself, and that's what causes most of your Depression. Especially when there's not much to be ashamed about, but you feel it anyway. I suspect many people think of shame as a dirty word for "other people", much like I did.
Yup. It is hard to care less about what other people think if you don't like yourself. I hated myself all through my adolescence and childhood. I am still trying to figure out why and how to not hate myself.
My goodness. Im going thru the same journey as well. You are right about caring less. When we realize our value, other peoples thoughts dont hold as much power against us.
"It's hard to do your best when nobody hates you more than your reflection."
Atmospheres' song Painting hit me like a ton of bricks in the feels after my divorce.
I've always had very low self esteem, but I have been using the "How long would you stay friends with someone that spoke to you like you speak to yourself?" mentality a lot lately. It really helps.
Yeah, similar problem. I don't like myself much. And I guess I just don't think others can really like me either. Even though I have a good group of friends who seem to really like me, I just struggle a lot with new people and can't really be myself.
Hixt ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:56:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At first I wanted to downvote you, but you have a point...
Say you want to do something, act out, whatever... then this thing kicks in and keeps you from doing it. I suppose that thing could be seen as shame. As in, "I would be shamed if I did that." You second guess yourself, and end up just receding within yourself, and hide that you were about to do whatever. Well that sucks.
So given that, yeah, my advise would be to be free with yourself and express yourself however you want. Never be ashamed to be yourself!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TBH it was hard for me to do for a while. I was isolated for a long time in grade school (homeschooled in the country, no one around), and when I got back to school I was terrified of doing something strange. I made no friends, except in Latin class, but that's because we were all oddballs, and the had no social boundary awareness.
I probably would have stayed that way, but I met a person who showed me that if a person cannot handle or doesn't like the way that I am, they can suck my nuts cause that's who I am.
I don't know if such an aggressive pose is the best pose for everyone, but really, be yourself.
There's no point to your life if isn't yours, is there?
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:46:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because not everyone's going to like it, and it takes courage to accept that.
Because A. You're not perfect, and B. You won't explain yourself accurately every time. But it's not about being perfect. It's about being as accurate as reasonably possible.
be the BEST VERSION of yourself. Just "being yourself" simply means devolving into your most base and immature instincts. This is how we get incel neckbeards to exist; its the ultimate self-expression not tempered by self-improvement.
be the BEST VERSION of yourself. Just "being yourself" simply means devolving into your most base and immature instincts. This is how we get incel neckbeards to exist; its the ultimate self-expression not tempered by self-improvement.
The way I think of it is that my "real self" is the idealised perfect version of me that I wish I was. Then I bust ass to get there.
I found the exact opposite to be true I used to "be myself" and was never liked but I started going out of my way to act cool and "hip" I was liked a lot more
I agree 100%. Early twenties was socially awkward, scared to voice opinions. Wouldn't talk to girls. Early thirties, I can talk to anyone. The ones I can't I simply move on. Can get a laugh out of almost anybody with my antics, because I mostly just care about enjoying myself. Those that share a sense of humor or opinion are right there by my side for the ride.
Being yourself is one of the most freeing things you can do.
The more I loosen up, the more the internet concludes I'm an asshole and needs therapy. Working on the not caring part still lol. :')
I feel 1000% better from doing though forsure.
I hope others pick this up. It's so sad when you only catch glimpses of someone's true self.
nah, be the BEST VERSION of yourself. Just "being yourself" simply means devolving into your most base and immature instincts. This is how we get incel neckbeards to exist; its the ultimate self-expression not tempered by self-improvement.
As a caveat to this, take the time to get to know yourself first. If you can say "I would like who I am if I was someone else," then you're probably on the right track. If you look at yourself and don't think that, figure out what particular traits make you think that.
If those traits are legitimately something you should/could improve on, focus on that. (Also, from personal experience, I wasn't really able to be myself until I was diagnosed with ADHD and was able to separate symptoms from what I thought was an unfixable, crappy personality; I had a lot of coping mechanisms in place to make me functional, but medication and new self awareness have done wonders for interpersonal relationships.)
TL;DR? Basically, be yourself...but be your best self.
Yep. I tend to be the "weird" one because I just do what I like. If I want to sing spice girls, you'll be sure to hear me singing it.. if I want to learn to juggle, I will practice and won't care who's around to see it. The cool thing though is I own my weird so people tend to gravitate towards me and always seem interested in my interests because I make it seem completely natural and ok to do.
Eep1337 ยท 82 points ยท Posted at 04:51:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trying to lose weight?
When going somewhere in your car, try and park as far from your destination as you can, when you can.
I read this tip somewhere else when I was at my heaviest and really trying to lose.
Every morning instead of taking the first spot available at work, I'd take the farthest one back. I had to trek a bit to just get to the door, then through the office and upstairs to my cube.
It felt good whenever I did it, and it put me in this mode where I wanted to do other healthier things throughout the day.
I went from 385+ to 220 in about a year and a half after I started adapting those baby steps (among many other baby steps, of course!)
vannana ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:20:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good job! It helped to get a step counter to motivate myself to walk more. I really should start exercising more though (on top of a daily step goal).
Eep1337 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:41:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you! Yeah, it's the same for me. After I lost the weight I am not so good on daily exercise now lol. I do way better in the summer.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 16:37:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good job! I lost 60 lb, all baby steps. Add a new baby step every week or two and ta-da!
Eep1337 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:43:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep! I initially started out with cutting out all calorie filled drinks (soda, sweet tea, etc), walking after work, and the parking lot thing I believe. Then just added more things over time.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 19:34:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! Just in case someone is reading and needs more small ideas: Getting better/more sleep, add some strength training a day or two a week (even just body weight exercises, you can get free apps for guidance), take your vitamins if you need them, switch your snacks to only fruit/nuts/veggies.
I got one of those keloid scars on one of my ear piercings. A really big, hard bump on the back of my ear. I heard that tea tree oil would make it go away but it seemed so outlandish that oil would do anything; I assumed it was MLM essential oil nonsense. Went to the dermatologist, had it cut off, it grew back in a few weeks. Got it cut off again, grew back again. Dermatologist then does a cortisol injection. It went away for about a year then reappeared one day.
Tried putting tea tree oil on it every morning... gone in two weeks! Whole thing basically peeled off in layers, which was disgusting but very satisfying. My mom was not thrilled about having paid for all of those appointments when the TTO was $10.
Super cheap basic aspirin crushed up with a few drops of water to form a paste applied to the keloid allowed to dry them washed off also works wonders.
It also doesnโt smell as bad as the tea tree oil if your on the โthat shit stinksโ end of the spectrum.
.. I have one in the middle of my chest, and now I think I am going to try tto to remove it..
Pidgetha ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:35:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get hypertrophic scars any time i get a cut that breaks the skin and a few drops of tea tree oil in a tablespoon of coconut or lavender oil is like magic to make them go away, just wait until theyre fully healed first or else itll burn like a mother fucker
Thank you for that reminder! I use tea tree oil all the time for various little things (acne, mixed w/ natural deodorant, etc) so I'm accustomed to the "tingle". Sometimes I forget that mother can outright BURN!!!
I basically just soaked a bandaid in the oil and kept it on all day and did a new one each morning! It makes the skin around it very dry also so definitely put some lotion on it overnight. Good luck!!
I know it seems like skin is skin, but moisturizing your body is very different. You WILL get acne, it WILL take ages to go away, and it WILL be horrible.
I learned this lesson two months ago. My face is only just now starting to get back to the point that I dont have to hide every inch of it under makeup to feel like a human.
I love TTO and the smell too lol.I grew up with it as a low income household child. Helps with lots of stuff. My brother got earaches a lot, my mom used it to help clear it up. Definitely helped him.
I did the same thing with a mole.
I just put a bandaid on it overnight with the tea tree oil.
Then the next day it was dried up and fell off.
That was 2 years ago.
LPT - essential oils are not any kind of nonsense. They have amazing properties and many can be had for quite cheap from the supermarket or other normal outlets.
Tea tree for cleaning and antibacterial - also antifungal. Yes it can cure tinea
Lavender for similar uses and BURNS - LAVENDER HEALS BURNS!!! And helps you sleep
Eucalyptus - again, lots of uses. Clean your floors with it, throw some in your laundry, inhale it to clear your sinuses
Yeah all the essential oil hate bothers me. Theyโre really effective for a lot of mild issues, they smell nice and theyโre not toxic (some are for pets though). MLMs come around and say ridiculous things about them, and everyone just doubled down into two camps: theyโre either absolute poison! or the cure for everything! In reality theyโre pretty benign and donโt require an extreme position either way.
Oils come from herbs, herbs are where your medicine comes from.
vannana ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:14:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was kid, whenever I got a toothache, my mom would give me this horrible-smelling ointment. I HATED that ointment and hated that smell and would gag whenever I smelled something similarโ despite the fact that it was totally effective and would make the toothache go away. It was only as an adult that I realized that what she was giving me wasnโt a medical concoction for toothaches but clove.
For anyone out there planning on using this method on recent piercings, please reconsider and wait it out until itโs properly healed. You donโt want to get anything like that into a fresh piercing
81525 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:19:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow. Glad that worked for you. I had a keloid on my ear and tried TTO for about 3-4 days but felt like it wasn't working. Then got it surgically removed and it was gone for good. Maybe if I stuck with the TTO more consistently it would have worked, not sure.
Same type of thing here but with warts, take 3 apple cider vinegar tablets a day for a week or so ($10 a bottle) and the 2 warts I had for 6 years disappeared without a trace!
Bucky508 ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 01:49:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This right here.
Sweep the floor, itโll take 2 minutes.....an hour later and Iโve got a green pad, wash cloth, and Murphyโs oil soap out scrubbing myself into a corner.
A great example of this is cleaning the kitchen after cooking/eating. If my SO and I hit the kitchen cleanup together, it takes about 5 minutes to get it back into perfect condition (and I use a lot of dishes, we just have a super efficient cleaning system).
I used to live with someone who would want to wait to do the dishes until later in the evening, and then push it to the next morning, and then the next evening we'd be cleaning disgusting old food off of the dishes so that the kitchen/sink would be usable again.
It is nothing magical, unfortunately. We just play well off of each other's strengths. I do the cooking, so he will often grab things I'm finished with while I'm finishing up cooking and rinse them/get them into the washer prior to us sitting down to eat. I eat less than him, so I'll start getting things rinsed and loaded up while he's finishing up his plate. Then he hops on sink duty and I bring everything over to him as he washes/loads the washer. As he finishes up rinsing/loading the washer (and washing anything that is hand wash only), I spray the countertops/stove/table with cleaner and get it all cleaned off.
We finish at the same time and the kitchen is back in clean condition. I love to cook and typically use numerous dishes, as I'm not much of a one pot meal type of person. And we still finish in 5 minutes.
nwkegan ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 01:48:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He is a bit neurotic about the dishes so they've often been soaped and rinsed in hot water before he loads them into the washer.. so he essentially hand washes. It shouldn't take you any longer to hand wash than it does us :)
I'm the same way. I absolutely hate when dishes come out of the dishwasher still dirty so I usually at least scrub anything visible off first, though not necessarily with soap.
Shit you not, my wife, my former roommate, and my sister in law all believed that the damn dishwasher fills completely with liquid to wash everything. And somehow just by filling the thing up the dishes become clean.
So since they thought a dishwasher is supposed to get all the stuff off, none of them ever wiped food off their plates before placing them inside. Except bones or other large things, they just left pieces of chicken and bread with full on half servings of veggies.
I felt like a crazy person trying to explain to them how a dishwasher works.
NYIJY22 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:21:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I do the same. I don't scrub endlessly or anything, but i always take a soap and hot water to everything and basically make them look clean before running them through the washer. I don't think I've ever put an item with visible dirt on it into the washer, lol.
Sorry for not express myself right. I said that not with the intention to imply that they said. When they said "system" in the first comment I thought it was the way their kitchen was designed or some revolutionary kitchenware that make their "system" efficient.
rozzy1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:35:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait are you my girlfriend? This is exactly how it works for us too
Bingo. Done with the pot? Clean it. Don't stand there waiting for the water to boil, just wash stuff you already used. Then by the time you're done eating, it's rinse the dishes, put them in the dishwasher, clean 1 or 2 pots, and presto, dishes done in 5 minutes or less.
Clean while you cook people
BruceJi ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:24:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh man, even just rinsing the plates and pans as soon as they have been used is much better than that.
A lot of cooking mess is oil-based and heat makes cleaning oil-based dirt off pans and dishes so much easier.
It is well worth doing the washing up immediately after cooking or eating.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:40:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. I donโt have a dishwasher, so I would let clean dishes pile up in the drainer...
Now I either dry them after Iโm done washing, or go back and put them away as soon as I see most are dry.
It really doesnโt take long to do most tasks at home, but we condition ourselves to think it does and put them off.
[deleted] ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:41:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think it's different than that. At the end of the day, you've worked 8 hours or so, you are just getting home from an hour in traffic, been up since 5:30 am. All you want to do is get home and veg. That's if you aren't active in the evenings too. Sometimes you leave home and don't get back until 8 or 9 that night. You see these chores as work, and after working all day you don't want to do that shit. Unfortunately it still has to get done whether you want it to or not, but I can definitely still see it as feeling like more work piled on your work and therefore avoided.
Definitely. I have a dishwasher, but I actually hand wash a lot of things that don't even need it because it is just so simple to get them knocked out while you're standing there already.
I do this. I don't have a dishwasher though. I bought a few bar mops and rotate them through the week. Dishes get washed as we're cooking and whatever we eat from gets washes as soon as we're done eating. Piles of dishes to wash by hand is so demoralizing.
My wife follows the philosophy of your second example. We've gotten into heated arguments about the state of the kitchen after she's been in it. Our current "system" is that I agree to do the dishes when she cooks, which is most of the time (and she is really good in the kitchen at least, and I do not mind this one bit--you cook, I clean). But then she'll make some soup for lunch and then leave the pot on the stove. She's always going to "get it later, my soup will cool down if I wash it now." And somehow I still have to wash the dishes when I cook, which is only maybe a couple of times a week, but still. I feel like I have to gently ask her to help me, for fear of reprisal, that sometimes I don't even bother.
I'm the exact opposite. I'm no neat freak, but this is something that's just ingrained in me. For example, I'll cook some eggs, plate them, and then immediately start scrubbing the pan. My eggs are still hot when I'm finished cleaning since it only takes seconds to soap, scrub and rinse. Soup that has just come off the boil is not going to become ice cold in the time it takes to wash out one pot, but somehow I can't get her to understand this. And somehow I always become the bad guy for wanting a clean kitchen for fuck's sake.
The other thing that drives me mad is dirty dishes in the sink. I've stopped being merely passive aggressive: "Hey babe, the dishwasher is empty" and now just plainly say "Are you going to put that in the dishwasher?". Sometimes even that doesn't work: "nah, I'll get it later." It'll still be there the next day, and she will slowly fill the sink with dirty dishes until one of us (usually me) is forced to clean up in order to be able to use the sink. The dishwasher, I might add, is RIGHT FUCKING THERE. The only way it could be closer to the sink was if the sink was right on top of it.
I love my wife, I really do. We've been together for almost 20 years, but I swear to the gods that if I ever become single again, this will be in the top five deal-breakers for new relationships. Maybe the top two.
Rant on, man. I totally understand. It is really difficult for some people to wrap their head around how much easier it is to just do it right away, and sometimes I wish I could just shake them and say "SPEND A MONTH DOING IT AND IT WILL BE A HABIT AND YOU WON'T EVER BELIEVE YOU LIVED ANY DIFFERENTLY!".
The thing about leaving stuff for later is that your house is a lesser level of clean even when you do finally clean it. Hard to explain. I guess I see it as "layers". If you sweep or vacuum (I use a little lightweight hard floor vacuum in the place of sweeping because animal hair) every day, you never need to spend a day rounding up dirt from the past 3 weeks. It never gets bad enough to need that. Or, if you clean dishes (or rinse and put them in the washer) right after using them, you never have this long 30 minute process of doing dishes piled in the sink. Or if you clean your laundry as soon as it hits 1 load worth, you don't spend 4 hours on Sunday doing 5 loads of laundry.
My brother always puts stuff off, so anytime we end up at his house unplanned, he refuses to let us go inside because of how it looks. And when he does have people over that he planned, he has to spend a FULL DAY cleaning it. And you know it isn't 100% clean because he is dedicating so much time to picking up stuff, doing dishes, etc. that you know he isn't getting around to dusting, disinfecting surfaces, etc. You never truly live in a clean home when you have to spend all your time on a cleaning day just tidying.
It may seem like putting something off is the easier option for people who put it off, but they're forcing themselves to waste precious time on a chore that wouldn't even exist if they did it as they go. And a nice clean house at all times just makes you feel like you are just OWNING at life. You don't have to scramble when someone says they're coming over in an hour. It is freeing.
jfk_sfa ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:39:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The key is to clean during cooking. Then after, all thatโs left are the plates, utensils, and glasses.
anoxy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:44:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. I clean the kitchen after I cook every night and leave it the way I started. Itโs a nice peace of mind.
This is my landlord. I come from a house where dishes left in the sink, even if they weren't mine, were broken in a fit by the other occupant the next morning. Somebody please buy me a sink
You're absolutely correct. Idea being it takes you more than two minutes to get out the right list, work out the next action, write it all down, etc.
Yet I find in practice the "Two-Minute Rule" in GTD works better when applied to thinking tasks as part of processing your work.
For physical tasks walking around the house or garden, doing something directly for five or even ten minutes is probably more beneficial.
JCongo ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 01:25:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem is when you have a lot of tasks that take 5 minutes each.
But good advice is simply make your bed. After you spend the effort doing that, it kind of kicks off doing everything else you need to do no matter how big or small that day.
Djeheuty ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:52:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The key to not having a ton of little things to do is to do whatever it is when you're done with the task at hand.
Just finished eating a meal and have a dirty plate and a fork? Wash them now. It takes like 3 minutes if you have to wait for the water to warm up.
Just finished using a pair of scissors and a pen to cut out labels to ship stuff (I had to do this today for an Amazon return)? It takes 30 seconds at most to put the scissors and pen back in their place.
If you do things right away they don't get the opportunity to pile up for later.
But making your bed is possibly the most useless thing you can do. Unless you don't plan on using it again.
levibevi ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:05:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually really disagree with this. The bed takes up a pretty high percentage of a room's surface area. Depending on how messy your bed is, that's a big portion of the room which is untidy or messy. And making the bed is actually super easy. Like, what. Spread out a blanket. Big deal.
But, it is a big deal. With not much time at all, suddenly a fairly vast percentage of your room is clean. Then for the whole day, your room is considerably more clean, and it took sheer moments. You don't even have to do a good job. Just spread the blanket out, you know? Mission accomplished.
It's possibly the highest possible yield on time invested to cleanliness ratio of ANY chore. Sure, you'll make it messy again within 24 hours, so what's the point? Well, you spent a tiny amount of time for a huge return on tidy surface area, for a whole day.
For me, I dunno man. It's like, why would you possibly pass that up?
allanbc ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:05:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I leave my bedroom, I generally don't see it again until I'm just about to go back to bed. So this argument doesn't work for everybody. Still, I think the accomplishment one sort of does. You made your bed, finished the first task of the day. That was easy, might as well get to the next one.
Homework benefits from being done in one continuous session, but housework is made up of little things here and there that add up on the time. What that means is that if it takes you a minute to put your cups back or fold cloths, then do it.
I think the hardest part for me isnโt the homework, Iโm a very good student, I just donโt want to get started on it. I think if I tell myself Iโll only do a bit Iโll end up pushing through, thank you for the inspiration.
I'm not sure what your housework entails, but sweeping/vacuuming the floors in a quicker casual manner every day will mean you never need to spend 30 minutes doing a "deep" sweep/vacuum. Running the laundry when you have just enough to fill the machine means only needing to do 1 load rather than do multiple in a row. Giving the toilets an easy scrub each week keeps it from building up and becoming tougher to clean.
Basically, a lot of chores that take people 30+ minutes each only take that long because they were left to get bad for too long. In fact, I can't think of many chores that take a minimum of 30 minutes besides cooking, mowing the lawn, etc. That's a longer than average chore time.
EDIT - I see you said homework. Are you referring to schoolwork and possibly misread the comment?
Understandable. In my case for homework assignments, I think if I did one assignment at a time or at least a piece of an assignment at a time it would be beneficial, but that first push to do even a little bit is excruciating.
When doing papers, do random paragraphs with available citations. Later on, put them together in a logical order. This way, you can get things done when you have little available time.
Personally for writing papers Iโm a pretty fast typer so getting it done in one go isnโt that painstaking however, for a recent research paper similar to your suggestion I found evidence for my claims separately and then synthesized it later which did actually help.
Break down the tasks! Also you have other aspects of your life than school and homework. How about your life goals or chores or housework or friends? Sending a text to someone you've been been meaning to catch up with takes less than 5 mins
If a few of your teachers gives you some time at the end of class to relax that time adds up. Your half hour of some assignment can be turned into a 10 minute assignment by the end of the day (assuming youโre on a 4 block schedule like me)
ckowkay ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even then, compared to the hours you could spend procrastinating, 30 minutes is nothing
As a major ADD procrastinator, you may have saved me major pain
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:41:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was in the same boat!
You can do it :)
sheffy4 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:49:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also love this tip, but at the same time it can also be counter productive because Iโll start a never ending series of small tasks without ever sitting down to freakin relax or play with my kids, or do other โdown timeโ self care like yoga etc. For instance, Iโll see a few dishes in the sink, then when I go to put them in the dishwasher, I see it needs to be unloaded, then Iโll do that and realize the dish rag I was using to clean the pots is really dirty, so I throw it in the towel laundry basket, which I see is full, so I run upstairs to throw it in the laundry, and if Iโm doing a few dish towels I might as well throw in some of the bathroom towels also, and then I see the counter is dirty, so I get a Lysol wipe to wipe down the surfaces, and since I have those out I might as well wipe down the toilet, and oh yeah I was trying to start laundry so I go back to finish that, and then I realize there are clothes in the dryer that I left from a few days ago, so I need to fold those and put them away, and then I realize itโs never gonna end and I fall asleep exhausted in my toddlerโs bed at 9pm to avoid doing the million other small tasks I know I will see when I leave the bedroom.
I think you're doing it backwards and you need to be a bit more proactive. I am work from home parent with a toddler, and also the anal retentive one about cleaning and straightening up. If you devote a rolling 30 minutes a day to the small stuff, it never piles up to where you're swamped.
I don't use Lysol, but I do have a few spray bottles under kitchen and bathroom sinks: vinegar+soap, bleach+soap, rubbing alcohol. And lots of microfiber cloths all over. Takes less than 5 to wipe down the vanity and mirror once teeth are brushed. 5 for the toilet bowl whenever it starts to smell gnarly. 5 minute morning and another at night to put away stray toys so we're never living in a pile of blocks and balls and paw patrol paraphernalia.
Cleaning isn't ever done. Make your peace with that. But if you're always knocking out smaller stuff day to day, there's never the soul sucking "chore day" that really eats all your down time. Also, it helps if everyone who lives in the house is on board and held accountable. So, aside from teeny, tiny humans, no one is allowed to leave even a spoon in the sink, which I find is the single biggest issue. The other things tend to be easier to keep in check.
Related: Time how long it takes you to actually do things. I used to dread emptying the dishwasher because in my head it took FOREVER. One day I timed it, and turns out it was only seven minutes. Now I don't hate it because I know it's such a comparatively small percentage of my day!
Hacky03 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:01:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if it takes longer than 5 minutes, estimate how long EX: 30mins , then set that time aside for when your pumped (after gym, run, intense gaming, fav song etc) then finish it while excited to build a routine.
I started doing this thing, when I'm going into my living room, I pick up 3 things. Clothes, the remote, what ever is out of place. So far, it's looking way better...
I read this exact advice on Reddit a few years ago and I applied it to my day to day. This has helped me tremendously! I don't like when things pile up because then I have a huge to-do list and I get so anxious that I have so much shit to do. This is really good advice!
Housework = done, one section of one room at a time.
Small errands = done
It frees up so much time and stress, because I spend less time worrying about when I can do somethng. It also makes me look more efficient which is a nice bonus!
It really helps keep things organized, too, because you're constantly putting things back where they came from. Once you have a clean room it also stays clean.
So much free time at the end of the week that I can game for hours without putting anything off. Or if it's nice out, I can go out on a hike without having to worry about what has to be done once I get home.
I can see how that would work if you were able to do each 5 minute task as they coe up. The problem is how do you even start that? There are hundreds of things in here that would each only take 5 minutes to do right now. It's obviously not realistic to do them all. And it's not like I'm slacking, I've already done laundry, dishes, and cooked tonight. So what? Do I need to do X 5 minutes task a day? Ok but then the schedule is doing the work, not the "If it takes less than 5 minutes, do it immediately" advice.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:19:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Been there dude
Donโt think too hard about it, look at the room youโre in and go for the simplest thing.
Ex. Bathroom
TP needs replaced, place your toiletries standing upright. 5 mins.
Boom, you feel better, donโt do anything else or youโll get overwhelmed.
Tomorrow, wipe down your sink and counters in there. Thatโs it.
If you try to do too much at first youโll overwhelm yourself and not have motivation to do more the next day.
Strive for progression, not perfection.
In a few months your cleaning tasks will be so minuscule and youโll have so much more free time with no guilt. Youโll get there :)
A thing each time you enter or exit a room. In the kitchen? Put away that cup and wipe off the counter while you're there. Put stuff back on the shelves when you go in the bathroom or fix that shower curtain clip real quick.
When you actually do it, it's awesome and you wind.up with a clean house without really noticing.
Itโs crazy how much it helps. And once you start thinking like this itโs a much smaller step to โwell it will only take 5 minutes to get some part of this big project done so I might as well do It nowโ
Whenever my teacher lets us relax at the end of class Iโm doing a problem or two of my math homework, or reading a few pages of a book for English, or working on some project for history. There is always something you can be working on and Iโve started realizing that Iโm at school to work so I might as well get some work done.
After years of stressing myself out with procrastination, I started doing something like that with my work and daily habits, and it has lessened the amount of stress in my life. At the very least, I've reduced the avoidable stress, and that alone makes a huge difference.
Caty907 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:00:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Props on correct use of "less" vs. "fewer."
missmka ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:45:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if it takes less than five minutes, it may not be a priority. this is great when it comes to, yes homework, housework and stuff but at actual work- if I stopped my major work flow to attend to every email or issue because it'd only take 5minutes I would never meet my major deadlines.
sometimes also equally important to slot time in day (or two) to attending to all your "5-minute" tasks which built up during the day.
Of course I see this as I have basic geometry homework that would probably take 2 minutes to do. But here I am...7 hours later..on Reddit..
mksound ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:17:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
YES. My girlfriend will leave stuff all over the place and always eventually clean it up, but for me the end result is 1. We live with stuff all over the place until the cleanup, and then once it's clean things accumulate again. The only time its actually clutter free is right around the big clean up.
We have to do a big clean up! I much prefer just putting dishes straight into the dishwasher, clothes straight into the hamper etc. I'm lazy about actual cleaning like with a mop or whatever but I don't have to do it as much since I clean up after myself right away usually.
Love this one. I gained it over a year ago from an AMA with a farmer right here on Reddit! He said it was the best advice he ever got from his Dad I believe.
Yup. Cooking fried eggs on the stove talks like 5-8 minutes. Empty (or fill) the dishwasher. Clean the coffee pot. Fold some laundry. Play with the dogs.
I feel this potential everytime I'm standing still.
Also if you notice something small you need to clean just do it. Right then. Otherwise it has a chance of becoming invisible to you. Went on a cleaning spree recently and found a bunch of small areas Iโd โbeen meaning to cleanโ that really added up. Took me way longer to deal with than it would have if Iโd just wiped something down or dusted when I noticed them individually. Like the spot where a candle dripped wax onto the wall. That shit became dirty cement basically. Lost a bit of paint. So stupid that I didnโt just wipe it off before it got super stuck.
I started doing this recently without even realizing it. Quick scrub of the sink, quick wipe of the table, quick trash bag swap. My place is tidy because I just do a little bit here and there over the course of a week. It's pretty good stuff.
kea5223 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:17:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use this ALL THE TIME. and read it on Reddit.
It has genuinely helped my relationship, as I can be messy. I like to leave messes for a few days, then binge-deep-clean. Now, instead of saying I'll do the dishes tomorrow, I take 5 or less minutes to wash them which means my partner doesn't have do to it when they get home from work. Same for writing thank you notes, starting laundry, cleaning out my car, etc.
Yes. Holy shit thank you for this.
I already know this is going to help me so much. I have this bad habits of piling the little quick & easy stuff down the line just because I felt like procrastinating. About time I fix that
Honestly, I'd amend that to 15, though 5 is a good place to start. You'd be amazed how much cleaner you place can be with 15 focused minutes of cleaning.
I'm constantly asked to do things that would take less than five minutes, and I mean constantly. This is why I can never get actual tasks done, and people wonder why I am so frustrated at work. It's not even like "Hey, when you're done with that, can you help me?" They walk right into wherever I am and just start asking things.
But household chores? Hell yeah, I'll do them. There's something soothing about it. Maybe because the little feelings of accomplishment add up and make up for lost productivity at work.
I heard what sounded like "useless advice" at a convention conference once. The speaker said you can manage your time best in a general office setting with these 3 tips:
Always arrive at work with your first coffee in hand. You'll miss the first wave of coffee chatters in the break room, and they'll be gone when you go for a refill.
In an open office where people just pop in to chat or ask questions, wear headphones to look like your talking on the phone. If the interrupter tries to speak, politely point a finger at your ears and whisper, "They are talking, I'll get back with you." Then get back with them when you have the time. I used to wear headphones that weren't even connected to anything and that trick worked every time!
Finally, most importantly, schedule your interruptions. Someone comes in a with a task or question they want your immediate attention for - ask how long it will take. Whatever they answer, " 5 mins , 15 mins, an hour..." Look at your day schedule and set an appointment with them. Say, " I can meet with you at 10:30. Then jot it down. "Ok, I'll be able to help from 10:30-10:35. See you then!" Many times they've handled their issue by your appointment time. GREAT! Go refill your coffee!!
Show up. You donโt have to be the best worker or friend. Just being the one that shows up it will mean a lot to everyone.
I got this advice from a Redditor on a post similar to this. It has help me a lot. I never participated in shit because I felt like wasnโt wanted or needed. Turns out a lot of people are self absorbed or flaky and the simple act of just being the one who shows up is monumental.
Show up to the moving party
Show up to your kids events
Show up to your company picnic
Show up to the HOA meeting
Show up to your awkward friends open mic night.
When you show up for other people they will start showing up for you.
If you make your bed in the morning, it will help you to get started on your day and make you feel better when you get ready to go to bed at night.
Jag94 ยท 163 points ยท Posted at 03:33:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I saw a video of a Navy Commander talk about why making your bed as soon as you get out of it is so important.
The first thing you do when you wake up is stand up and get out of bed. If you make the bed, you have accomplished a task. You have succeeded. The first thing you did today was succeed at a task. Take that with you and use that success to fuel everything else you have to do for the rest of the day.
Repeat tomorrow.
Le_Graf ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 07:01:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, if I'm up, I already succeeded in my task of getting up, arguably one of the hardest task of the day!
I never make the bed AS SOON as I get out of it, I pull the covers back and open the window to air my room off. After I've had a coffee and start to get ready, THAT'S when I make my bed.
Jag94 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:17:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You do you, boo.
umfum ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:32:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If my bed is unmade, it's ready for me to hop into when I'm ready to go to sleep. Mission accomplished!
Jag94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:30:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A fellow calvin and hobbes fan, i see?
umfum ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:01:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I don't make my bed I crawl right back in every chance I get. If I make it, I don't want to mess it up. I end up being productive instead of napping all day.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:50:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs so weird how this doesnโt apply to me. I am perfectly happy diving into a messy bed! I do like my house to appear tidy generally, so I usually make the bed, but I stopped using a top sheet so itโs insanely easy.
Came here for this. It instantly makes your bedroom feel cleaner and less chaotic. It also discourages me from laying back down, and it makes me feel more "together" and accomplished to prevent me from falling into the dolessness that I so desperately crave in the height of a bout of depression.
This is actually bad advice for people with dust allergies. Making the bed stirs up allergens which is a bad start to the day. Although for most people it's probably good advice lol.
So, the point of making your bed is to stand up, move about, and accomplish something. Find something that ticks those three boxes.
Find what cloths you want or have to wear for the day. Make breakfast. Make your lunch for the day. Get a shower. Make a deposit in the bank of porcelain.
Get up, and do something. Rather than waking as late as possible to make sure you get where you need to on time, get up slightly earlier, and get something done.
If you still feel the need to do something with your bed cloths, neaten them up. Just pull the comforter up enough to mostly cover the sheets, stack your pillows, and leave it at that.
To be fair the alternative is to then later get into said bed that now contains accumulated allergens... Iโd rather shake the dust off in the morning and suffer the sneezing fit than have a shitty nights sleep due to a blocked nose and itchy eyes.
Also rotate pillows/change pillow cases every other day. Absolute game changer.
Fuck that, even at the age of 36, I will never do something as useless as making my bed. No one sees it but me and my wife anyway, and I will just mess it up with my nap/ later that day anyway.
I've started doing this just to see what would happen. I'm not sure how fulfilled I feel after doing a chore, but it becomes mindless and I definitely feel better in a room with a made bed. Going strong for probably a few years now.
GnuGnome ยท 368 points ยท Posted at 00:48:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I heard this as "first get good, then get fast" as in, once you become proficient at a thing then you can increase the speed at which you do said thing. Prior to sufficient proficiency, any attempt at increasing your speed, usually ends in some form of disaster.
clahey ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:40:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is so good for flight students who get it... works for all sorts of physical activities that require precision, but thatโs the one I specialize in.
My mother-in-law has been all over me for years about this. I finally buckled tonight -- and spend about half as much as I usually do on groceries. Damn it.
ALDI has changed its image a lot recently, but nearly 20 years ago, that's just how it was seen in my area. Once GM left, a lot of people changed their tune and it's really popular now.
Their camping stuff is awesome! Affordable quality, and their cast iron pots and pans are a steal compared to camping stores.
Naltoc ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:59:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most of it is worse quality than the brand named stuff, but better than regular offbrand stuff. I love their stuff for unannounced guests (air mattresses, sleeping bags etc) and their non-powertools are better than harbor freight for the same price or lower.
And the amount of flower buds, seeds ec I have bought through the years is ridiculous xD
CubLeo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:30:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ooh, i came in for eggs and milk amd came away woth a circular saw!! Thanks Aldi
They built an Aldi near me, and first time in that aisle I lost it. Want to know where to buy ceiling fans in Aldi? Chances are, inbetween the wheel chairs and the 60 inch TV. Also just across from the lawn mower.
We don't have Aldi where I live, but we do have Trader Joe's. I started going there and cut my food bill way down. And their Orange Chicken is the shit!
Aldi Nord (North) owns Trader Joe's, but all the actual Aldi stores in the US are owned by Aldi Sud (South). They are owned by brothers and for all intents and purposes are independent companies.
zayap18 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:52:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aldi in the US is owned by Aldi Sud. Totally different merchandise, company, and shopping experience.
zayap18 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:52:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a different Aldi. Aldi broke up into Aldi Nord and Aldi Sud. One owns Aldi in the US, the other Trade Joe's.
ken-4 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 02:54:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You should tell her before she finds out herself and bullies you about it for the rest of your days
I like goat cheese but it is too friggogin expensive at $5 for a little log of it. $2 a log at Aldi's.
LPT, though: soak some chopped herbs in a little rice vinegar and mix it into a bar of neuchatel cheese instead of using goat cheese. $1 for twice as much and I actually prefer this to goat cheese now.
plzstap ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:08:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to make fun of one of my relatives for only shopping at Aldi and being cheap. Now itโs me, since Iโve been out of college, I have been a HUGE Aldi advocate. I recommend it to anyone and everyone. I love saving money and we donโt need much else from other stores.
Aldi has been a life saver for my girlfriend and I. We go once every 2 weeks and buy enough essentials till our next payday. We walk out of there spending between $125-$150 and that's being SET on food and supplies. Love that store.
beaplagg ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:19:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aldi saves you so much money and there's really no disadvantage. My mom is so sad that there isn't one near where we live now, we used it all the time where we used to be.
Everyone tells me this but the Aldi here is so awful. Everything is so close to the expiration date it's basically going bad before you even get it home. The selection is so ridiculously small compared to other stores. It may be a great place somewhere else but man ours is crap, never again.
We have two in our area and the first one I went to was awful -- which is mostly why I was so resistant. But the other one, that I checked out tonight, is pretty nice. I mostly needed staples -- ingredients for 10 batches of chocolate chip cookies for the high school play concession stand -- and I saved a ton.
We use our regular grocery store for meat and some produce. Itโs nice to buy the bulk of our food for a fraction of the price. They carry a lot more organic items now as well.
Kunphen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:11:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is what I've been wondering - organics. The one time I tried Aldi there was very little so not worth it to me.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:23:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to feel this way but I'm finding they've upped their game. Organic veggies and meat for less than the price of non-organic down the street. Better diapers at 1/3 the cost. Better fizzy water than LaCroix at half the price. Better high protein ice creamthan Halo Top for $3/pint.
Total Aldi devotee.
Edit: where you pay for it is in returning your own cart, bagging your own groceries, and the shelves being somewhat disorganized because they have such a small staff.
AD1066 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 03:23:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't forget the pseudo Girl Scout cookies. At $1.35 a box, the Samoas are threatening to ruin my life.
Edit: where you pay for it is in returning your own cart, bagging your own groceries, and the shelves being somewhat disorganized because they have such a small staff.
Well we have to do this with every grocery market so no loss in that regard. But the shelves here are organized, way much more so than in other markets it feels like. Also the ALDI employees here are FAST at the cash register. And I really appreciate this because one of the biggest markets in Germany (ReWe) seemingly only employs people like this and it makes my blood boil every time I need to get something from there.
I also remember back in the days ALDI was like the last super market to introduce scanners at the cash register and they hit the keys so fast, I'm still jealous that I'm nowhere near as fast let alone be able to remember the codes for everything. Unfortunately I can't find a video because I guess it was before the era of YouTube.
Yeah the speed of the Aldi checkers is impressive. It seems like they have their registers better set up to weigh things quickly and to input multiples of the same item faster than other places.
Cut the price of my shampoo and condition down by 75% because the Aldi knockoff brand just happens to be imitating the stuff i was using before, and it imitates it damn well.
We have to return the trolley to get our ยฃ1 back. (You need to insert ยฃ1 to unlock a trolley). This was mostly down to young idiots or drunk idiots chucking trolleys in rivers for a laugh, or stealing them for random reasons like using them to transport drunken mates home.
The one thing I would not cheap out on is food. Many things in Aldis are as good as the others but 30% is definitely not. I wouldnt get cheap meat, you really don't know what happens behind the curtains. Especially chicken. Double that if you live in america with way less regulations and control of goods.
Instead of saying, "I'm sorry for being late," or something,
say, "thank you for being patient"
Didn't realize the effect that could have on people, and instead of putting yourself down, you bring another up.
[deleted] ยท 119 points ยท Posted at 03:56:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
This seems presumptuous... What if they were super annoyed and were not being patient at all because you should have been on time? Then it just sounds passive aggressive.
EDIT: Please stop replying to this. I've had so many different people explain this to me in so many different ways. I get it. I understand now. Thanks.
[deleted] ยท 80 points ยท Posted at 04:22:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Say "Thank you so much for waiting for me" in an apologetic tone. It's also alright to say sorry AND thank you. "I'm really sorry for being late, and thank you for waiting for me."
[deleted] ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 04:50:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I would disagree. I remember reading somewhere, whenever you use the phrase โthank you for waitingโ in the other persons mind their first thought isnโt โwow what a nice guyโ but actually โyes I was waitingโ which increases their frustration they had to wait on you at any point because it reminds them they were waiting. I said this before but again, thatโs why itโs best to simply say โthank you for your time.โ Phrasing can lead to a negative experience in the other persons head. Kind of weird but it makes sense.
I'm a lawyer. Was five minutes late to a status hearing before a Judge once. Tried this. Judge responded, "you assume I was being patient or waiting for you."
This is one of those things Reddit likes to push that just doesn't work in real life. Just admit you screwed up and apologize for being late. If they actually waited for you or dismiss it as not a big deal, then you can thank them for their patience or understanding.
Say the thank you part and then your excuse will sound that much more okay to them instead of โsorry Iโm lateโ hereโs why. The latter sounds like you are trying to cover your tracks and the former sounds like you are taking responsibility and respecting their time. Subtle but it has worked many times for me.
Also validate their probable feelings about/reaction to you being late.
โIโm so sorry Iโm late. There was a huge accident on the freeway and the police detoured everyone a half mile out of the way. I know how frustrating it is though when a meeting doesnโt start on time, so I really appreciate your patience. Thank you so much.โ
I always end with for example thanking them for their patience. If you know them well and they arenโt too perturbed you can throw in a โyou guys are amazingโ or โyou guys are the bestโ at the end.
To add to what you said, it doesnโt matter if they were patient. You say that and show gratitude and that makes them the good guys. People are funny, they could have been disgruntled and impatient but people want to think of themselves in a good light, so they might end up downplaying negative emotions afterward and remembering more โhey I was patientโ. Especially since people might be crabby but those feelings can fizzle out quickly, and leaving them with a good taste in their mouths about themselves is a great way to put out any smoldering embers of crabbiness.
I agree. Thatโs why I was taught to say โThank you for your timeโ when you have someone waiting for a long period on you. You are not thanking them for a positive gesture that you tried forcing on them, youโre thanking them for the their very time which is extremely valuable.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:38:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not. It's about turning your bad thing into a virtue for them.
I used to be a serial apologizer (yes, I'm Canadian, but that's besides the point) until I realized that this was actually impacting other's perception of the quality of my work.
The idea behind this is that you aren't waiting for them to complain. You're entering, late, and immediately thanking them for their patience. If you can be sincere about apologizing for being late, then I should hope you can be sincere about thanking them for waiting.
It's more likely to put them into a better mood than just apologizing. An apology focuses on what you did wrong; thanking them for what they did (wait [patiently or not]) or apologizing and thanking them focuses on what they did "right".
You'd think so, but people love to have positive attributes applied to themselves. The trick is to be really sincere with your apology, but also like you truly think they are an awesome person for not flipping out about the situation. As a server of many, many years, I've seen so many tables getting visibly annoyed and worked up about waiting for something, only to smile and relax when I come over to thank them for being "so patient." As long as you catch them before they've started to verbally express their impatience to you, they'll almost always try to adjust to meet the "good" attributes you've ascribed to them, and are reluctant to prove you wrong by acting "impatient" about it now. There's a limit to it, of course, but used sparingly it's magic. It's not even about them hiding/not expressing their feelings, it literally shifts their focus to what good people they are and how nice it feels to be acknowledged, and they generally have a much better overall experience!
Keplz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:57:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I say thank you for your patience. Rather than assuming someone was being patient the whole time then it's thanking whatever patience they did have while waiting even if they got impatient.
It depends on the situation. Sometimes, yeah. Be a little aggressive so they learn their lesson. Other times, like with friends, be more uplifting of others. It'll improve relations with that person.
[deleted] ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 04:46:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
That is certainly a view on it. And I respect it. I said before to another person. It's situational. With friends, maybe you use this advice. When in more serious situations, definitely apologize.
BI1nky ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:35:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A meaningless sorry and move on doesn't show that it respects your time. Recognizing that they wasted at least part of your time shows that they at least consider it.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:04:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This phrase infuriates me. Probably because it's most often uttered by companies leaving me on hold for an hour who most definitely do not value my patience or time.
Related, be true to yourself too. For me, it changed from: "I'm sorry, traffic was bad" to "I'm so didn't plan for traffic". The seem like the same thing but they're actually quite different. Spend enough time admitting to yourself why you're actually late and you'll be motivated to fix it. Spend time blaming others and it won't change.
Ever since I first read this piece of advice, I noticed how damn often I start with the sorrys. I do at least follow up with a "thanks for X", still trying to put that first.
I am not buying that. Sounds to me like "thank you for your understanding" after a very long stretch of a construction site in the highway with no workers working on it currently - a big presumptuous expectation.
This one is a no go. You are trying to turn your disrespect for someoneโs time (being late) on them. There is a reason phrases like this are used in customer service - itโs to deflect from the company. If you are good with people you wonโt say this
Maybe I'm missing the point. I don't think you should be trying to make others feel better about your lateness. You shouldn't be late in the first place.
Maybe you should make this thinking a pair: saying thanks for being patient while at the same time, internally make a note to really not be late next time.
If someone said 'thanks for being patient' multiple times it would make me think that they're doing nothing to correct their selfish behaviour.
As you might guess, I really don't like lateness. I would much rather be 15 minutes early than 2 minutes late.
"Thank you for waiting" reminds them of the negative experience. "Thank you for your patience" deflects from your punctuality while complimenting a positive trait of theirs.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:59:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be vulnerable! My therapist encouraged me to watch this this ted talk by Brene Brown. When I first heard that I thought something along the lines of โwell thatโs stupid... thatโs how you get hurtโ
Now, a year later, I feel much closer to the people important to me, and rather than being hurt, Iโve become much more open and happy in all areas of my life.
We were just talking about Brene at group therapy tonight. She has some really good videos about blame and empathy on YouTube, and I think she has a show on Netflix now.
My mom would tell me a version of this when I was kid. When I couldn't sleep, and sometimes when I just wanted to stay up late, she would tell me to go lie in bed with my eyes closed. Worked every damn time, and I still use it to this day when I have trouble sleeping.
When youโre stressed, make a to do list. I was always like, I KNOW WHAT NEEDS TO GET DONE I JUST CANT DO IT ALL. But if you write it down it doesnโt have to all live in your brain and you can focus
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:15:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So much satisfaction in crossing things off that list!
Spasay ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:16:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh man, it's so true and I realize it now because I stopped doing it for a while. I need to start doing this again: I have a notebook on my desk. I write the date and the week number at the top and what needs to be accomplished short term (that day or week) and long term (that month or term). Crossing out stuff on that list felt good and also kept me from spiraling into stress. Since I stopped doing that, I've been forgetting things and letting work pile up. Bad me. So bad.
Hexipo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:33:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This literally does the opposite to me - I guess people are different. A list stresses me the fuck out.
I just pick one, say : โright thatโs just one thingโ
Do it. Then repeat. And all your jobs are gone.
hfuga ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:31:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lists help me SO MUCH and it took me until I was 26 to finally figure it out.
Even if I have 100 things to do (literally), writing it all down and crossing it out as it's done is so satisfying and decreases me stress by at least half.
Sometimes you populate the list too much and arenโt able to complete it. You should mark the tasks that are high priority, medium, and low. So you donโt waste all day working on things that donโt matter right now and avoid pressing problems.
And then when you do remember to slow down the speaking the ol' social anxiety will take over & it's a million thoughts in a split second & then the wrong thing will come outta your mouth anyway. Being human is weird.
My dad, " dont marry that women because she has mental issues". i listened. About 3 years later i found out she was on trial for murdering her husband.
I didn't know it at that time but he saw how manipulative she was. He heard us arguing one time, he said how cruel she was and how there was no compromising with her. He also said she flips everything back on me. One time she threaten to hurt her self if i didn't do what she wanted. I was 18 at the time and i thought i was in love. So one day she said wanted to get married asap to stop my family from getting in the middle of things. My dad forbid it. I told him he had no fucking idea what he was talking about. We argued but In the end i listened and broke it off with her. I resented my dad for a few months, untill i found she was with someone else getting married. 3 years later, my father calls me says " hey i saved your life". I was like what are you talking. He told me she was on trial for murder. I looked it up and yeah. She stabbed him in his sleep because he was going to file divorce.
This. Listen to your family and friends who you know, from years of experience, have your back over a person newer to your life-especially a romantic interest. If I had listened it would have saved me so much pain. But I learned that lesson well.
tempski ยท -49 points ยท Posted at 05:47:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I follow the same rule.
Once I find out someone has mental issues be it depression, anxiety, bipolar issues or anything like that, I run the other way.
vevmx3 ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 06:07:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think thatโs a little unfair. If they are seeking treatment and putting forth an effort to treat their illness, itโs no reason to dip out on someone. They are actively trying to make their lives better, which is admirable.
If they use you as a crutch or start to say things along to lines of โI canโt live without youโ, tell them it is unacceptable and then if no progress is made thatโs when you should go.
I think itโs unfair to leave someone because of an illness. Mental illness can actually be a good thing, if they are seeking treatment. They may end up helping you to become a happier person along with them.
honestly, imo if someone has their life being a total mess, be it from mental issues or none at all, that someone is in no condition to have a partner and shouldn't even be trying before having fixed their own life
Harsh but true. You need to be your own person and have the big issues sorted out before you consider joining up with another person, complete with their own set of struggles.
I'm not saying be perfect first, but be stable and have a good record for being consistent.
tempski ยท -30 points ยท Posted at 06:56:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Life is unfair.
I'm not a therapist and I don't want the burden of guiding someone through their issues. I feel bad for them, but I don't want to end up in prison because some crazy chick thinks it's funny to call the cops at 3 am because I didn't want to go get her some ice cream in the middle of the night.
Trust me, bipolar chicks are not worth it.
Best sex I ever had though. The crazier they are, the better they are in bed.
ev710 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 08:14:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That last line solidifies you as a troll. Bravo, you fooled us all
tempski ยท -10 points ยท Posted at 08:25:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not sure how old you are, but I speak from years of experience. Loony girls will do things in bed that normal chicks will never do.
If you believe I'm trolling you obviously haven't been with some crazy girls yourself.
ev710 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:27:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
havent been with a girl at all, but if you wont be with a girl because of anxiety thats enough evidence even if thats unrelate
tempski ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 08:55:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I say "be with", I'm talking about a relationship.
Booty calls or a ONS are a whole different story.
If you're a virgin, what do you know about girls exactly?
ev710 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:57:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bro I never said I knew anything about girls but that line kinda rocketed you to the troll line, the way it was said combined with the other things you said
Yeah, fuck that noise. Tried that one time with a girl who was fucking nuts. Only lasted 2 months until I couldn't handle all the insane gaslighting and using depression as a crutch to make me feel like shit. Never again.
[deleted] ยท 57 points ยท Posted at 02:18:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think positive thoughts before you go to bed.
Seems like inane horseshit but damn if it doesn't positively influence sleep, which influences life. Now I have a whole post-sleep relaxation routine and the shit that has improved in my life is amazing.
Please elaborate on the routine if you dont mind, I'm interested.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:19:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always make sure to have really clean pillows, blankets and sheets.
Clear your room of all pointless clutter.
When laying down to bed, budget a solid 5 minutes where you do nothing but close your eyes and visualize good, uplifting things. Either things that have happened, or things you want to happen.
Then, you'll go to sleep but what you're really doing is training your brain towards happiness and away from involuntary negative thoughts.
Go to youtube and browse 'sleep' or 'meditation' or 'soundscape' videos, find one that you like and use that to start with. I also use a white noise machine.
Also, the last time I bought a toilet, I looked for a high one thinking I'm aging and it would be easier to get on and off.
Seriously regret it. Lower is better for the obvious reason (alluded to above), but also cause I avoid getting numb in my legs from sitting where the seat is pushing up into my thighs.
I bought one when I spilled coffee on a new white sweater, and wow! It sounds very hail corporate, but for someone whoโs a mess itโs really saved a lot of clothes.
I was literally a cheap college student, and one time there was a Tide bottle that was at the laundromat lost and found for weeks, I happened to have run out of my el-cheapo wash liquid and borrowed a cup. (I put a dollar under the bottle)
That wash was the freshest laundry I've ever smelled. I've bought tide and Tide pods ever since. It's more expensive, but immediately worth it.
Tide pods are pretty expensive compared to just powder. My mom swears by ride though. I don't get it. They should all be just soap but apparently tide is the best.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:05:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have been a wife and Mom for a long time and Tide is the best, hands down.
I just broke down and got this bottle of stain remover that was on some BuzzFeed shopping list and I shit you not, after soaking a dried in grease stain with it for a couple of days it actually got it out. It's also gotten like car oil out of shirts and pants that had been set as well as old blood stains. I've already got a refill pouch in my cart for my next order. Anything that helps me feel less like a disgusting slob is a win in my book.
I absolutely relied on these when I made gelato and led a coffee stand during my downtime at the same job. Eventually when I was given my chef jacket I was able to ditch the white shirts, but everyone had to wear these white long-sleeve button downs and that originally included me. The fucking stains were out of this world - between coffee and all the add-ons for that, and the ingredients that went into the gelato, it was the worst idea to give us white shirts. I always had a Tide pen and lent it out all day long to panicking coworkers. Seriously good item to have.
Itโs shaped like a marker and contains detergent or spot removing solution or something and the felt tip is rather sturdy so you can really work it in. They do tend to get the job done too. Keep one in your car and you might save a shirt or two. This is a tide ad /s
4x4taco ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:03:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a "pen" that has a bit of Tide in it that you can use to scratch out/remove stains on the fly.
I kept it in my back pocket - you don't need a "bottomless purse" to carry something the size of a pen. If you aren't in a situation that doesn't lead to stains often, then of course you wouldn't need to bother with it. If you are, then it's worth having. Why are you seemingly so affronted about a recommendation that doesn't apply to you? Nobody is saying to carry one if you have literally zero reasons to ever use it. Besides which, your example is terrible - people who routinely use medicine DO generally carry it on them in case they need it, since that's what it is for and you can't take it if you don't have it, rendering it purposeless. I don't really get your need to complain about something that doesn't apply to you as if you're being imposed upon. If you don't need it, don't do it. That easy.
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 10:20:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We bought a Leesa and I love it. Depends on your preferences though. Good thing there is a mattress store on every corner and never anybody in them besides the employees wanting to help!
I live in Europe (Switzerland, where landfills are strictly forbidden), and while this is a great advice, thereโs always a problem of getting rid of the old mattress. Canโt be recycled, and large items disposal is expensive here, and have to be planned well in advance.
There are a few companies in the US that strip the stuff off and send all the springs to metal scrap and I believe they end up reprocessing all the fabric and stuffing for other use, I suppose people could theoretically do that themselves where itโs difficult to get rid of them
Too many people don't know how to just listen without thinking that they have to add to the conversation. No just stop. You don't have to add anything. You are not helping. You aren't even paying attention to wait is being said because you are thinking of what you can say.
Well it all depends if somebody just wants to talk or have a conversation. If somebody wants a conversation; then yes talk all you want. If somebody wants to talk; listen and wait until they are waiting for input. Don't just jump in without paying attention to what they are saying
cheachxo ยท 162 points ยท Posted at 02:26:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get dressed up when you feel shitty about yourself. You don't even have to go anywhere. It's an easy way to practice some self care. When my depression is bad, I will just sit around the house with a full face of makeup on and a fancy house dress and since I took the time to do it, I feel like I did something just for me and it feels like a huge victory.
Oh god damn I did this by accident yesterday and wondered why it felt so good. In my case, it was because I was bored. Did a bunch of laundry and threw on a nice dress shirt from the mix. Went to a bar, had a beer, and decided to talk with the bartender instead of looking at my phone aimlessly. I was there alone while everyone was in groups, but still feel happier today for some reason.
It makes such a difference and it's such a small thing. Even when I am in a hurry, I brush on some mascara and do my eyebrows and I'm gonna have a better day
Yep. Crossing my legs to sneeze, or when I got morning sickness with baby 2, was a real eye opener as to what those crotch goblins do to your downstairs mix up.
Its an exercise for.the muscles of your pelvic floor.
From what I know of, for women, it tightens the vagina, after giving birth all of those muscles in the pelvic area are stretch to their limits, even if they are meant to do it.
Sexually, for women, it tightens the vagina and helps in muscle control. Which can make sex more pleasurable on both ends,and again on both ends allows for more "powerful" orgasms. For men, it supposedly can allow for orgasms without ejaculation, thus increasing endurance.
Lastly, for both men and women, it solves incontinence issues, since many of them are due to relaxation, and weakening of those muscles.
It's fine to say it unless you are using it to describe someone who is actually mentally disabled. It's the equivalent to making fun of Amish people on tv.
NikkiRex ยท 855 points ยท Posted at 22:19:16 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A psychologist with 30+ years experience told me this was something she recommended regularly. Really does work, just got to stick with it through the initial awkward stage.
I don't know how licensing worked 30+ years ago, nor do I much care, but having gotten her masters and APAC accreditation makes me think she's somewhat qualified now.
Recently connected the dots on this oneโ the dunning-Krueger curve means that people with less knowledge are more confident. Then they get more knowledge and know enough to accurately judge how much they actually suck. Itโs good advice to get through that stage.
Honestly I spent five years in a decent job but I wasn't happy. Coworkers and pay were okay. More than most and enough to get by. I quit caring entirely and one day my director pulled me into his office and said why don't I just quit. He liked me too much to fire me but he saw my decline in happiness and engagement. He said if it got too bad he would let me go to give me the push I needed. Well I decided it was time to look. Went and found a job I had no business in (same job but skipped levels in seniority) and nailed my interview. Figured most of it out along the way. And got a 40k annual increase. Well after about a year and a half I started feeling the same as before, I actually wans't being challenged anymore and knew what I had to do. I applied for a job at a different company several levels above my current position and white lied my way through and nailed all of the interviews and just accepted the offer last week. More than double my salary. I honestly have no clue how to do the job, but honestly, fuck it. I'll figure it out.
I am doing that in my job right now, been here two years and I feel like I can almost see the light at the end of the tunnel. Duck and dive beneath the radar whilst you learn. This step up was worth 10's of dollars to my family; definitely worth the stress.
proc89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you know when to stop faking it though? 2 and a half years at my job, most people bring their questions to me (high turnover rate), and it still feels like I'm faking it
[deleted] ยท -57 points ยท Posted at 23:26:01 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
that strategy is also known as affirmations, and they can be incredibly helpful.
it feels like you're lying to yourself because you've spent so long feeling negative towards yourself. after a while, you really do feel what you've been telling yourself.
it's hard to call it fraud when it improves people's lives and self worth.
[deleted] ยท -17 points ยท Posted at 00:05:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're being really cynical about this and purposely misunderstanding. Every time we start something new, we're being frauds. You have to give yourself a confidence boost and say "I may not feel comfortable doing this right now [new job, new school, new hobby, new town] but if I just go out and do it, pretend like it's no big deal, it'll get better."
I know what you mean by being a fraud, or a con man. That's being purposely deceitful. But sometimes you just have to start doing something to convince yourself you can do it.
[deleted] ยท -10 points ยท Posted at 00:54:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It doesn't mean be an unlicensed doctor until everyone believes you or pretending to be a good person when you're a psychopath. It means if you're unhappy, give a smile. That fake smile can become a real smile. If you have low self-confidence, fake confidence. You'll slowly begin to feel confident.
that shit literally made me into a friendly and outgoing person who strives to be a ray of unrelenting positivity in the lives of all he meets. I was not anything like that before I told myself I was.
the only person I deceived was the old me, and fuck that loser. my friends and loved ones love the person I am now, and so do I.
Choose your reaction. Itโs a thing from โ7 Habits of a Highly Effective Peopleโ. What it boils down to is, nobody can actually โpiss you offโ. You have to react in a pissed off manner to the situation. It doesnโt always work because things like a death in the family are going to make you sad or whatever. It has helped me at work though to realize that no matter how stupid the person I am dealing with is, or how nasty they are being, I can choose to not go to that level. I can choose to stay factual and deal in logic. What do I know though?
I donโt think you get to choose how you feel but I think you do have a chance to decide how to express how you feel. People can piss you off, sure, but how you react to that feeling of anger is up to you alone
I know Iโm about 5 hours late but I couldnโt resist sharing one of my favorite passages from the Tao which goes hand in hand with what youโre saying; and hey, you know at least as much as Lao Tzu:
People are born soft and weak.
They die hard and stiff.
All things such as grass and trees
Are soft and supple in life.
At their death they are withered and dry.
So, the hard and stiff are death's companions.
The soft and weak are life's companions.
Therefore:
The unyielding army will not win.
The rigid tree will be felled.
The rigid and big belong below.
The soft and weak belong above.
fvvx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:07:14 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sure, Lao Tzu was a general and statesman on top of being a philosopher, so his writing was intended as a guide to leaders primarily. The metaphor about the tree and the unyielding army is just a different way of phrasing OPโs and Steven Coveyโs idea: shit is gonna happen that you canโt control, but you can control your reaction and should be like the supple tree: Rooted enough not to be blown along by any breeze, but soft enough to bend and move with the wind as required (this idea is the core of Taoism), and that anyone who wishes to govern or lead people should follow this philosophy.
fvvx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:43:43 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for that. Resonates with the observation of the behaviors of the young and old. Great advice.
This is a great philosophy to apply to your own reactions to events. It, however, is a terrible cop out that is often used by people to deny responsibility in damage that they do to others.
So you can use this in one direction but not the other. If a person provokes you to make you angry, you need to remember that you have control over your reactions, not them, and that anger is a choice. This will help you not fall into that trap of doing something rash. On the other hand, if you are intentionally provoking someone to try to get them to do something out of anger, you are still responsible for that anger and have partial responsibility of whatever happens from it.
harswv ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 07:09:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad always said โYour response is your responsibility.โ
This! It took me 33 years to understand this! I think once you learn and understand that only you can control how someone makes you feel youโll see the world differently.
So much this. Im an engineer and work for a pretty large medical device company. About a couple years into working for my current position, I woke up one day and decided i wanted to dress in dress shirt, dress shoes and slacks M-Th (Friday Iโd keep as Hawaiian shirt day). Many of my direct superiors made jokes about me going for an interview but after a while, they stopped. The one who didnโt was my lead who he himself would dress up every day and come to work (a discipline that had been taught to him by his dad).
I have been consistent with my work attire now for about 3 years. I make sure to set everything up in the evening before so that Iโm ready to hit the ground running in the morning. Itโs actually pushed many of my colleagues and leads to step it up with their attire as well. Even the ones who originally made the jokes about my dressing up.
Iโm guessing my lead (one who dresses up for work everyday) took notice to it because he became my manager about a year ago and gave me a huge bonus and raise in my yearly review. I have this gut feeling that my attire was a significant contributing factor. Itโs not that huge of a change but itโs def noticeable.
Naltoc ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:08:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup.
I always dress nicely. My workplace (developers, tech support, booking and finance) is fairly casual except the CFO and one of the finance guys, I always have, at a minimum, nice jeans, nice shoes, colared shirt and a blazer. My boss will dress nice chest up and totally casual (old sneakers and baggy pants with paint flecs) down. Often a blazer from the 90's over a rock'n roll t-shirt. I blodoy love him for not giving a fuck, but whenever he comments, I spit back and now he actually managed to find a matching set for the days when he's meeting clients and whatever. Still need to see him wear a tie, then again, whow ants to voluntarily strangle themselves on a daily basis?
Would probably assume you have to see the commander๐
Landowl ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:01:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm. As a woman, wearing nail polish got me treated with more respect (in a workplace where nail polish is not the norm).
People often (unconsciously) respect others who dress up compared to the norm. I notice this in myself too!
I have to wear scrubs but Iโve noticed putting in extra effort in my hair and skincare helps me receive more respect. Stuff like a sleek ballerina bun, a cool braided hairstyle, or taking time to moisturize my skin to make it all glowy and awake. Maybe a little concealer, mascara, and tinted lip balm.
Z_T_O ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:45:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No. Being deaf doesn't change this. This person clearly didn't get the fact that you were implying they were a man who has an extremely effeminate routine. Being able to hear wouldn't change that. Disabilities can suck in a lot of varied ways, but they aren't an end-all be-all for scapegoats.
qatts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:57:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried that at a job where I was the new guy...the old guard got really offended like I was trying to upstage them. I stopped wearing a tie after I found out that folks were taking hella shit behind my back.
[deleted] ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:34:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The guys on the construction site will probably be really confused, but Iโll give it a shot.
If anyone where I work (other than CEO or sales director) wore a suit people would think they were going to interview for a different job on their lunch break.
Yeah, you need to be careful with this advice. It doesn't work everything. My last employer(an investment firm in the US) would tell employees who wore suits to work to stop.
[deleted] ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 00:48:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't chose my career to dress a suit, in fact, I hate formal clothes
Same with me. I'm luckily at a company that cares more about what you do rather than how you look. I mostly wear a silly graphic tshirt and jeans and have been promoted twice. I've only been there for a year.
When I had a big test in college I would shower, shave, have coffee, read the paper, and wear a collared shirt and dress pants. Typical business man morning. Would keep me focused and feel confident.
I once had an interview where I wore a pant suit. Iโm a nurse so Iโm always in scrubs in work, but the way I presented myself that day got me the job. I didnโt find out until months later when someone mentioned theyโd bought a suit for an interview because theyโd heard when I got the job it was down to me and one other person, and Iโd got it because Iโd made an impression by wearing a suit. When interviewing for a job that requires a uniform, everyone will dress smart (shirt and pants/skirt), but the super smart will stand out.
more like "dress for the job you want, not the job you have"
elaerna ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:08:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only kind of related because just came from class but my prof dresses like a hobo most days but then sometimes randomly dresses in a suit and tie. What does he want to succeed only some of the time or something? You confuse me dr. C.
I sometimes wear a suit after being depressed for a couple days in a row. The routine and attention to detail tends to lift my mood and help me find purpose in the minutia.
elaerna ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:46:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a casual dress code for work, but I dress up in business casual (chinos and buttoned shirt) when I have to meet people from outside (I work as a recruiter). I just like how it feels and how I look. Plus it makes me stand out in the hierarchy of my team and others take me more seriously. Sometimes I just enjoy looking good when I go out.
elaerna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:23:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks Dr C.
dryj ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:33:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My advice would be to look for jobs that value people for reasons other than dress.
โSlow is smooth, smooth is fastโ is comprised of two separate and distinct statements. Truly fast, repeatable actions must be smooth, but you cannot perform a smooth action fast if you cannot first perform a slow action smoothly.
Getting upset and crazy over inconveniences or losing your cool because things donโt go as planned accomplished nothing. Many times I have either at work or on trips had successful outcomes because of focusing on the problem at hand and what I can do about it.
Also while others get worked up and fly off the handle when nothing can be done. I make my piece and focus on relaxing or staying productive.
Meditation has taught me to be more aware of my body while I try to sleep and I can relax my body quickly. I'm not so good at this outside of trying to sleep. Meditation works wonders!
Stsrt by getting in a confortable position and then set a timer for how long you want to meditate. If you've never done it before start with 5 or 10 minutes.
Then you just focus on your breathe and simply observe your thoughts. If a thought arises simply observe it and then let it go while trying to maintain focus on your breathe. This is a rather simple explanation and there are plenty of more in depth methods online. You can also use guided meditations. There are plenty of them on YouTube.
I feel like I do this at night a bit while I'm trying to fall asleep. I'll calm myself down and just process everything that happened today and everything I need to do tomorrow and I think it's very relaxing.
There are many different ways to meditate. I learned Yoga Nidra in high school. It's a form of guided meditation. Parts of it resemble things like mindfulness and other meditation/relaxation techniques. I haven't meditated in years but can still apply the practice to relax.
In a very brief description:
It goes through each part of your body to relax which brings awareness of your body. I visualise each part of the body, take note of tension and try to relax it. When the body is relaxed the process is repeated in the mind. You bring awareness to your thoughts. This is probably the hardest part as you have to silence your thoughts and it takes a lot of practice. The last part is about bringing awareness of your surroundings(without sight). Like the sounds you can hear and where your body meets the ground. When it ends you are gently roused from it.
The more it's practiced, the easier it becomes. Basically, you practice mental and physical control to put yourself into a different state of consciousness.
Well, how about telling people to either meditate for 5 minutes or tell people to meditate while doing other tasks (i.e. practicing mindfulness while driving, meditating in the shower, ect..)?
abcq02 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:06:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
is "dream life" a specific religious thing like rainbow body? or it's a figure of speech I don't know?
It's more or less a figure of speech. Basically, it's imagining the type of life you would like to live (the job you would like to have, the type of house you like to live, the hobbies you like to have, the family you like to have, ect..)
Ask your brain to work on a hard problem while you sleep.
Over several years as a programmer, this has had an amazing success rate. The nastiest, most confounding problems I've been under pressure to resolve, I have always gone back to this technique. It has never let me down.
I spend a few minutes before falling asleep, relaxing and focusing on the problem, and reviewing whatever facts I know for sure. Inevitably, in the morning I'll wake up with an epiphany that helps me resolve the problem first thing when I get to work.
I don't usually wake up with the epiphany, but I certainly do solve the problem in my dreams, wake up, and actually do the same thing I did in the dream to solve it and it works. Because of course it will. I knew everything I needed to know about the problem, it was just a function of thinking about it.
Zaxora ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:09:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
It's because your brain attains information during the day and processes while sleeping. Same reason you can play a game and failfailfail, then wake up the next day and beat that boss in a single try.
Another good one is to think through a hard problem while going swimming. Swimming laps can be insanely boring but itโs also perfect for allowing your brain to wander a bit. The repetitive motion helps keep you focused, while the exercise keeps oxygen flowing through your body.
Itโs excellent for working out a problem or for planning for something (like an interview or speech, for example).
I imagine you can do the same while running/jogging/cycling, but I find swimming to be the best exercise for it.
Or (and this assumes you're not working in the service industry) reply with uncomfortably kind words. It's hard for a normal person to be angry or rude to someone kind.
Sounds obvious to people from certain cultures or climates but it was never part of my routine growing up. I had some asian room mates and was astonished at the knock on effects this little habit has for cleanliness and comfort.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:44:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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YetiGuy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:49:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
U use them all the time? We all have multi pair of shoes, doesn't mean we leave then all by the door. Use the one that u use most by the door. Rest in the shoe rack.
If you get water "stuck" in your ear. tilt your head so the filled ear is aimed towards the ground and hop on one foot landing on your heal. It usually clears in a hop or two... the longest for me was 5.
Thank you, James Clavell, tip is taken from Shogun.
My friend made a point to go out of her way to be polite and nice to a coworker who hated her for some reason. She would always make sure to offer her cupcakes or cookies at the staff events, or compliment her hair/etc.
Eventually the girl got really confused about why she didnt like my friend in the first place because she was always so nice, and it drove her crazy, because she had absolutely zero validation for her negative feelings.
arctic92 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 06:11:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I try to teach this to my boys about bullies at school. Luckily there have only been a few occurrences. We watched this video together and tried to practice it.
Iโm glad you took the high road and also your tactic worked to stop the bully! Kind of curious how long it took for it to work and what exactly you did.
That app on the Apple watch that has you breathing slowly.
Most of the time I lowers my heart rate - aka basic human anatomy but can be handy. But twice so far it has spiked up to 120+ when I tried it.
Turns out I couldn't breathe properly. I was struggling to get to sleep and figured I was at the point I would give it a go. Until I focused on it I couldn't realise one of my nostrils was totally broken and I was struggling to breathe. Adjusting my pillow fixed it. I have some allergies and some other medical shit being addressed so it's not just a quick fix for a potentially serious problem that is getting ignored but holy moly having it track my heart rate while I did it was so helpful. I probably wouldn't have gotten to sleep without it.
Nothing big but you know I figured it was just one of those things that lowered your heart rate while you do it but not much else.
That's common. Your body will prioritise one nostril for a while and then swap to the next one. IIRC Scishow on YouTube did a video about it.
What happened to me was as if there was a total airtight seal on one nostril. And somehow I wasn't able to notice it. It was a mix of the nostril just turning off but I didn't have a load of mucous or a partial use of it that was saying "hey blockage here" it just was not working my and my brain never realise there was a nose issue - adjusting my pillow I guess shimmied whatever was causing the problem.
You get three fucks a day. When sonething comes up, decide if you want to give a fuck. If you do, you've got two fucks left for the day. If you don't, then clearly that thing wasn't important enough for you to worry about.
Helps you figure out what's important for you and what isn't. Thought it was kind of petty and shallow, but prioritizing in that way has helped my mental health a good bit.
When you are anxious, feel stressed, or just plain old and remember the rule of 7s
Will this matter in 7 seconds? If not it is unimportant
Will this matter in 7 minutes? If not it is of little importance.
Will this matter in 7 hours? If not it is small potatoes compared to a day
Will this matter in 7 days? If not it is less than 1percent of your time here
Will this matter in 7 weeks? If not it is just another step on the journey of life
Will this matter in 7 months? If not it is just a fad, quickly coming and quickly leaving
Will this matter in 7 years? If not then it is footnote in your own story. If it is then perhaps it is just a paragraph
Reflect on all of these things. See the truth in the situation and remember, if you do not appreciate the present, then the future will surprise you for the last time.
Hey. Sometimes youโve gotta release the stress and thatโs okey. Weโve been there and almost there myself due to being cut hours at work. I hope once you de-steam you get some good healthy food with a multi-vitamin, some sleep/exercise and sunlight. Thatโs my plan as I figure out what to do before my money runs out. Goodnight.
Holding my breath for 30 seconds while covering my ears to get rid of hiccups. Works. Every. Time. I have no idea how or why it works for me (and doesnโt seem to work for others), but it does.
I read somewhere that hiccups are the result of over-stimulation of the diaphragm, and removing sensory stimulation may help calm it. I havenโt tried it, but Iโm glad to hear itโs working for you!
My personal hiccup cure is to take a deep breath into the lungs, fill 'em up so your chest rises, then hold that breath. After 4 or 5 seconds, while still holding the breath, forcefully drop your chest. I think this pushes the pressure from your chest into your diaphragm, but it's just a guess. What I do know is that it works every time, and it's quicker than most 'cures'.
I always hold my breath and take about 10 Gulps of water. Sometimes if itโs a really bad case, I have to do it twice. But it always works for me and I get the hiccups often. My husband, on the other hand, never gets the hiccups. Iโve never seen him have the hiccups in the past 7 years ๐คจ
I suffer from hiccups a LOT. Someone once came up to me, placed there hand on my shoulder (cupping around it and putting some pressure on it) and said " do you want me to get rid of your hiccups for you" my response was yes and they said " your hiccups are gone" and walked away. And it worked! Ive since repeated this on many people! I think the weirdness of it all startles people's and disrupts their breathing in a way to get rid of them.
This is more of a way to help others cure hiccups, but every friend of mine canโt have any hiccups around me because of this trick Iโve been using since I was a kid. You simply wait for them to hiccup, and then right after theyโve hiccuped, tell them to hiccup again, when they say โwhat?โ Or โI cantโ just tell them to hiccup again, they wonโt be able to from that point onwards
xpwnx4 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 19:27:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
so, when i was in high school i met this guy, he told me that he hasnt had hiccups in years one day when i was hiccup-ing non stop, he said
"I did a essay on hiccups in middle school, i found out that hiccups are all mental and that hiccups only happen because your brain gets tricked into thinking it cant breathe its a reflex from birth and its why newborns get burped as they are pushed out of the womb is to force air through the lungs of the baby"
Now, i dont know how much of that is true cause i never looked it up, but the basis is, since its all mental, you can basically tell your brain that there is no actual problem and breathe accodingly almost of a monkey see monkey do scenario, you take a deep breathe and exhale while simultaniously thinking of some abstract random thing and at the end you kind of think to your self "see?" as to say "thats how its done" and your hiccups should be cured. thought this was not true until 3 years later when i finally tried it, very hard to master to do it on command, but once you can, youll get a hiccup once in a blue moon and when you do its only the 1
Hiccups arenโt mental. >.> itโs a bubble/irritation in your diaphragm trying to correct itself.
xpwnx4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:07:23 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
well just by a quick google search, the irritation in the diaphram hiccups only occur in certain scenarios such as eating food/eating too quickly, which those are solved by just taking a sip of water usually, they can be caused due to nervousness as well, the main reason for hiccups is actually because of the nerve that connects the diaphragm to the brain getting irritated..
[deleted] ยท 126 points ยท Posted at 01:30:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was complaining about my wife for the 700th time my friend said "if she's so awful why not just divorce her." It was good advice.
[deleted] ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 13:42:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:48:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because I married for life so I had never even considered divorce.
Finish nice hot shower with 30 seconds in cold. It closes up your pores and reduces acne build up. 14 year old me really should have listened.
Edit: silver... Really thank you kind stanger for my first silver.
Since I'm editing in more I'll add if you have a sunburn a warm/hot(whatever you can handle) shower will reduce the sting and help keep it from peeling. But it hurts like a bitch while your in it so be forewarned on this front.
Also, never use any moisturizer/lotion/product on your face that isnt specially made for your face. I'm 31 and I have only just learned this the hard way. It's been 2 months and I'm only JUST able to not hide my whole face under makeup.
You don't get a cold from being cold. You get a cold from viral/bacterial infections. It is true that the cold can lower your immune system, but not from 30 seconds of a cold shower. Just don't stay long enough to become hypothermic.
The reason things like the flue are associated with the winter season is mostly because people spend more time in badly ventilated rooms with lots of other people, who may then infect you.
hp3155 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 17:05:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for your response. Just for clarification, you meant ice cold water or just colder than the rest of the shower?
The colder the better but no need to push yourself
Blazic24 ยท 143 points ยท Posted at 02:33:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Removing self deprecating or suicidal jokes from your vernacular.
Even though you know 'I'll just kill myself then' and 'yeah I'm a terrible person' aren't said seriously, your brain internalizes it, takes 'you're terrible' as something that you repeat so much it must be true, says 'killing yourself then' is your solution to so many issues, it might as well be your first proposed actual solution.
Changing one's common language is hard, but god does it help.
How do you make a word? You spell it. It's called "spelling" for a reason. Every word you say is an attempt to manifest it. Choose your words wisely, cast spells with intention.
It defenitely feels like coping with depression - I've done it, and many people that I know have, or still do. But it really only hurts oneself in the long run, from what I've seen.
if someone still does it, threaten to report them to the police for that shit. a lot of times, they stop making them pretty quickly and sometimes start getting help
I live with a therapist and sometimes get name-redacted stories about how to respond to different situations.
One was a girl who repeatedly threatened to kill/hurt herself to manipulate her parents. They tried all manner of other solutions first, but eventually it came down to "Call her on it. Next time it happens, call the police."
So they did. And she got herself taken seriously for the threats, and was on a psych hold for 24hrs.
Next time she started the same behavior, they reminded her they took those comments seriously, and did she want to try again to express her frustrations.
Pretty much everything my therapist has said to me.
1. Holding ice cubes and feeling them melt in your hand to combat anxiety. A way to make yourself present
2. Writing down 3 things youโre grateful for, โwinsโ if you will on a daily basis, helps you realize even on the worst days there is still something good that has happened.
3. Finding something that youโre passionate about and making it a point to incorporate it into your life on a regular basis. Seems obvious but idk
4. No one cares after a certain age, so just be yourself and even if they do care why does it matter?
I have some anxiety issues. I have always enjoyed the feeling of ice melting in my hands but my friends give me weird looks when I do it. Now I know why I probably like it so much.
I just think growing up our society puts pressure on people to fit in, and it makes individuals care a lot about others opinions. I noticed in my early 20โs that no one really cares if youโre different. People become more inclined to live their own lives without worrying what others think. Some people do care, but if itโs not hurting anyone or ruining your life then itโs their problem and it shouldnโt impact how you chose to live your life
Yoga as silly as it sounds. It makes my joints feel so much better and I donโt feel so old when I wake up in the mornings. Plus Iโm almost as flexible as I was when I was younger.
kiddhpla ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 04:08:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know how common this is, but I almost never feel thirsty. I once complained of a mild headache and was told that drinking water would help. Now I know how to tell if I haven't had water for too long.
More in general: feel shitty/upset/have negative thoughts? Ask yourself if you didnt eat/drink for a while or if you are tired. Everytime its one of those three. (Insert harry potter meme)
Same here, but sometimes with mood swings and all that, you will still feel awful regardless of how much (and what) you've eaten, how much exercise you've gotten, how much you've slept, and how hydrated you are.
I took much better care of myself as a teen than I do today and yet I still feel so much better. Sometimes feeling badly isn't within your control.
Accept that you aren't for everyone, just like everyone isn't for you.
I spent a long time constantly worrying about what people thought of me. If they secretly hated me, were talking crap about me to others.. Then I realized one day it doesn't matter. Knowing about it doesn't change anything, does it? I don't like everyone so why should (or would) everyone like me? It's made me more confident and it's easier for me to talk to people I don't know
Omg how is the possible? Iโm always horribly, miserably exhausted when I get home (with a suitcase).
Jag94 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:53:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unpacking takes about a total of 5-6 minutes. In your brain you think its this half day extravaganza of shit to do. But in reality, your dirty clothes go in the hamper, any extra/clean clothes go back in the closet/dresser, and your toiletries go back in the bathroom. Literally 5 minutes worth of shit and youโre done. Try it. Youโll be amazed at how much better youโll feel when youโre done.
It also helps if you clean up before you leave. I.e laundry done and put away, bed made, dishes done, wtc. When you come home to a clean house it is FAR less stressful to readjust to normal life again.
Is something wrong with me? That would take me way longer than 5 minutes.
Jag94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:57:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How so? How long could it possibly take you to take dirty clothes from your suitcase and put them in a hamper? 30 seconds? A minute tops? Thats most of your suitcase!!!
Idk. I have a lot of toiletries and makeup. And like stuff. Idk how but Iโve become an overpacker. Oh plus all my meds.
Jag94 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:10:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok. Fine. 10 minutes. I promise you. Next time you travel (for work or pleasure), time it. Put your phone on โstopwatchโ mode and time how long it takes to unpack your suitcase, and nothing else. If it takes you more than 10 minutes, its likely because youโre doing 73 other things including dumb shit on your phone.
Even better; use that exhaustion and know your reward will be to rest in a nice clean room and you wonโt have to stare at your luggage with guilt the whole time!
Jag94 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:48:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I travel for work and am sometimes gone for weeks at a time. It was a game changer when i started unpacking as soon as i got home. It makes the next day or so of adjust back to normal life that much easier.
TL;DR: Homeopathic MIL gives me a home remedy for a cough, actually works surprisingly well.
Oh, I have a good one for this.
My MIL is a pretty hilariously stereotypical old German woman who somehow manages to be insanely well educated (two law degrees) and also very much into charms and homeopathy stuff. She was staying over the holidays a few years back when I had caught a nasty head/chest cold that was just destroying me. Couldn't sleep, coughed all day and night to the point where I could barely talk and was basically coughing up red from my throat being so raw, etc etc.
Well she says that back in Germany, they do a "Hot Neck Wrap" for curing bad chest coughs. What they do is they boil a scarf in some salt, garlic, and lavender water -- Then you wrap the scarf around your neck and go to sleep with it. I am a pretty science-y minded person (my wife and I are both researchers) and so I immediately am like "Ok, this is a crock of shit," but I was so fucking miserable that I opted to try it. Really I would have tried just about anything at that point.
Hooooly crap did I feel fucking fantastic in the morning. Like. 100% turn-around the painful cough was basically gone all night and only came back a bit towards the mid-afternoon and evening. It was such a massive 180 that I could hardly believe it. I wore it for another night and after that the cough was completely over the day after that.
I've since used it (albeit without the salt, garlic, and lavender) whenever I get a nasty cough and it works like a charm. Best I can guess is the heat allows your larynx to relax and keeps down some of the inflation, letting you cough less, which lets you heal faster since you're not tearing up your throat all night.
I should also add that my MIL is not homeopathy for like cancer or essential oils any of that stuff, just like for the little annoyances kind of ailments. Perfectly harmless and she's a super awesome lady.
Edit: I've been informed by a few people that this isn't actually homeopathy and is just home remedy type stuff. Sorry for the confusion :)
An old ratty winter scarf, probably some kind of cotton? Not 100% sure on that. Just long enough for the water to boil. She put the scarf in with all the "ingredients" and once it boiled, she pulled it out, wrung it slightly, and then rolled it in another (ratty) scarf so that you weren't putting boiling water directly onto your skin.
These days I just take a long hand-towel and wet it really good and then microwave it until it's really hot. I'll say it never worked quite as well as the first night I tried it. Maybe somethin to do with the Lavender or whatever, maybe because I was expecting nothing and got something, so it felt like it was more effective.
snpods ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:40:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok, dumb question time! After wringing it out, Iโm thinking the scarf would still be damp. Did it get cold wearing the damp scarf overnight?
I get crazy bad coughs any time I have a cold because of my asthma. :( might have to try this ...
I haven't used it in quite some time, but yeah it does get colder as the night goes on, but I don't remember it getting super cold. Could be that I keep my bedroom warmer than most -- But I do also remember taking it off in the middle of the night once the heat ran it's course. Sometimes I'll get up and take it to the microwave and re-heat it in the middle of the night if I really need to though.
snpods ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:49:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gotcha - Iโll keep this in mind next winter! Thanks, human. :)
i feel like the scarf wouldโve had to be wool. wool still keeps you warm even if it gets wet. cotton and other materials donโt. if it were a cotton scarf you wouldโve probably woken up wet cold and miserable.
This sounds like a jury-rigged version of those red rubber hot water bottles that I feel like everyone had in their house before the 90's. You could fill them with hot water to rest on your chest or on a sore muscle.
Are buttershots a thing or are you mixing butter in with hot chocolate and taking shots of it
zuklei ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:50:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think buttershots refers to a drink called butterscotch schnapps . Thatโs what we used to call it. Damn it was good. Now that Iโve been reminded it exists Iโm going to have to get some.
Edit: schnapps not snails. Never butterscotch snails.
Not to nitpick but what you described is categorically nothomeopathy. Homeopathy and Chemistry as we know it are pretty much mutually exclusive.
It's a home/alternative remedy though, those things work better than over the counter medicines in some situations (my mama taught me similar techniques).
Huh, TIL about the definition. I always thought Homeopathy was just kind of a catch-all phrase for a lot of the "home based" mumbo-jumbo type remedies for ailments.
Awesome! I'm really glad to have clarified then :)
Spread the awareness to those you know who assume the same, working alternative remedies should be kept alive for their inherent value. Whilst I hate using the phrase "big pharma", promoting alternative remedies is not profitable when a customer buys garlic instead of their own special formula of cough medicine. Hence why as a community we must endeavour to maintain the provably beneficial and destroy superstitious nonsense like "ground rhino horn tincture".
Homeopathy can jump off a bridge with all the other hokum "new-age" spiritualists buy into to support their intellectual posturing.
Edit: just in case, none of that was directed at your lovely sounding mother. no offense intended
Thatโs โfolk medicineโ or โa folk remedyโ , not homeopathic
Homeopathy refers to the specific belief that water โremembersโ its interactions with compounds after being absurdly diluted ( think, grain of rice in a sphere of water the size of earthโs orbit around the sun dilute ) and will cure things caused by those compounds, like diluting caffeine will create a sleep aid.
My daughter, 3 yo, got a nasty cough and the doc told me to use the medicine prescribed at the times indicated. If she was still coughing to give her a spoonful of honey every hour. Couldn't believe how well it worked for her or that a freaking doctor prescribed a spoonful of honey. It was great and inexpensive.
I believe honey has a number of anti-bacterial properties due to certain chemical compounds in it. Itโs been used for a long time as treatments for burns and wounds.
Fascinating. Thanks. I am trying this and the wet scarf trick next time.
XenomP1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:28:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It has been so long ago and I forget why I was sick (probably sore throat), but my mom brought me to a traditional Chinese medicine doctor to be checked out. The guy inspected one of my hands and mouth, and prescribed some really odd things like the skull of some animal, other gross things, and some spices.
Went home and had it all boiled in a pot and poured into a cup. It tasted strange. Anyway, by evening of the same day I started feeling better, and by morning, I was essentially all good.
Yeap. My MIL wrapped it up into another scarf after wringing it slightly so that you weren't putting boiling water right on your skin. I think the idea is to get it as hot as you can without it actually being painful in any way, so as to help relax your throat.
Thefar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is no perfectly harmless in telling people to take any kind of placebo for their illnesses. Either you need medicine or you need therapy. But sure as he'll you don't need 10 euros a spoon of sugar and water.
As for the scarf. Salt and lavendel will probably do the effect without the garlic. At least you won't smell like the anti Dracula. And these are old house remedies. Nothing to do with homeopathy.
When you are in the desert (or any very hot place), put wipes on your wrists and leg-wrist things, it cools the circulating blood and makes you feel very cold.
jec_9 ยท 72 points ยท Posted at 04:42:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When my first was born my aunt told me "if you don't know what to do, if they won't stop crying, if you're falling apart, if you're losing your sanity, dance like a pineapple". Made ZERO sense until he was about 4-5 months old, I had a broken arm, he had gastrointestinalitis (explosive diarrhea), neither of us had slept much, he wouldn't stop crying... my aunts words sang in my head like some goddamn epiphany... worked!!!
You, yeah you thinking this is crazy talk... just you wait and see.
wryan18 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:46:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I see that you have posted this many times. I think you belong to r/woooosh now
laundmo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:28:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
idk maybe. but personally i think its important to know this
wryan18 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:30:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get that. Everyone knows the golden rule, most comments are a joke referring to a song by Lonely Island. The link that was a reply to you would show that
laundmo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:41:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
there was some confusion + i didnt know the song or the joke, so at first i thought the golden rule i know was wrong (maybe cause i didnt look up if it was called golden rule in english, so i assumed that what i know as a golden rule in my language isnt the golden rule)
wryan18 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:45:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
[deleted] ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 04:44:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
My father bought me my first car and told me this is not a present you are going to pay me back every cent I have lent you, I am going to be your bank manager instead of you having to take out a bank loan.
I was 17 at the time and he was as strict as strict could be with my on time payments of the car, If I missed any he was going to take the car off me at intervals that increased for each time I missed a payment and at the time not only did I think his advice was useless I started to resent what he was doing.
Fast forward roughly 20 years and the advice and what he taught me along the way with the car helped me pay off my home loan by the age of 40 and set myself up for early retirement. I never did miss a payment with the car or the home loan.
My father is no longer with us but it still makes me smile the way he guided me with financial advice without me ever realizing at the time what he was doing.
Befriending anyone in admin like receptionists is your best bet for anything. You can learn so much from people who's job is to organize everything. Obviously don't try and be a dick about it, but small favors can add up if you need them
Treat admins with nothing but respect and kindness. They make any company run, they are the gatekeepers, they know everything, and they can make shit happen. If they like you, theyโll make things happen for you. You cross them, they can destroy you.
Yup. Every time something comes out of the White House with a typo in it -- which happens ALL THE TIME -- I know that someone there was a jerk to the support staff and they are getting their revenge. (And I smile and raise a fist in solidarity.)
Honestly, they're just really fun people to talk to. They have fun stories and they're p happy to chat with someone who will treat them like an actual human being instead of a servant.
The best part about befriending them too is often times you get the office tea either directly or though their body language and it can help you be aware of who to avoid and who to rely on based on that intel alone. Helped me learn who to stay away from and who to listen to and within months I got promoted due to this.
G1lv ยท 176 points ยท Posted at 01:58:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
First things first: change your mentality. Don't consider them "little people", because they are equal to you.
Edit: a comma for syntax reasons.
bkaybee ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 03:15:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
IMR800X ยท 125 points ยท Posted at 02:17:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The even better LPT is to pull your head out of your ass and stop thinking of them as "those little people."
You're not the fucking Queen of Sheba. You're no better than the guy scraping turds out of the bathroom, and probably contribute less actual value to society as a whole.
Tried that, it has its downsides (ending up living with a secret racist for a year at college being one such downside). Maybe "be willing to befriend everybody."?
The way Iโve heard it is pretty similar, never shit on the support. They have more power to help and hurt you than you realize. And try to give at least as much if not more than you take from the relationship
Not a fan of this tbh. Befriending people only because you might get something out of it is rough. Be polite to everyone unless they don't deserve it, but don't use people.
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:08:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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kflyer ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:36:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your.... advice is literally being friendly to others because they might help you in return. Not because itโs the cool thing to do regardless of reward. And โlittle peopleโ? Wtf?
I'm a licensed real estate agent with a fair amount of experience, and I have a side gig answering calls and emails for one of the top agents in my area. The number of other agents who won't talk to me on the phone ("Just have her call me back, okay?!") is astounding and insulting. There's about a 75% chance that I can answer their questions, and an even greater chance that I can at least find the answer before Herself is done with her appointment. But the person on the phone won't talk to me because I'm "the help."
A couple of days ago I was able to play a small part in a big deal coming together because the other agent spoke frankly to me and treated me like an actual human, a professional with knowledge and experience, rather than an answering machine. Felt good on many levels! And as a bonus to that other agent, it left our whole team with a favorable impression of him, making us more willing to work with him in the future.
In general being nice to people who are performing some sort of service for you. Barista? Mailman? Trash collector? Waiter? Bus/metro/Uber driver? Be nice. I work in retail, luckily it's in a niche business that 99.5% of the time people are at least generally nice if not awesome and friendly but I know what it's like to be treated as if what I do is something to be looked down upon simply because I do it in a store and I function as a salesperson/cashier sometimes while also offering services that require varying degree of skills and knowledge that I have built over a 25 year period (jewelry repair) including intensive consultation. So I take my experiences with customers to heart and when I deal with others in service positions I live by the rule: Do I want to be the person my Barista or Waitperson or Mailman or Uber Driver or Trash Collector goes home and complains about to their family (or on social media) or do I want to be the type of person that a person would go home and say "I met the nicest person at work today!"?
My mom was in a MASH unit in the Army during the first Gulf War (1991). She told me always be friends with the cooks. She said they used to give her hot waters for showers. Plus it doesn't hurt to just be a nice person in general, no matter their position on the totem pole.
Remember this. The people you're trying to step on, we're everyone you depend on. We're the people who do your laundry and cook your food and serve your dinner. We make your bed. We guard you while you're asleep. We drive the ambulances. We direct your call. We are cooks and taxi drivers and we know everything about you. We process your insurance claims and credit card charges. We control every part of your life.
We are the middle children of history, raised by television to believe that someday we'll be millionaires and movie stars and rock stars, but we won't. And we're just learning this fact. So don't fuck with us.
Also, those background job employees know all the ins and outs of the places they work and the people who hang around them. People don't suspect the janitor to hear everything you say in the break room, but they do. ..I mean, not that you need any of the secrets these people carry about, but ehm.. ahem could make for good story telling?
badanas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:50:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Treat the Prime Minister and the Janitor the same way
When I go visit my old employers it's those people who are the happiest to see me.
eklatea ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:54:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm currently graduating and a few days ago I met the cleaning lady from my school. She was so excited to see me and introduced me to the person she was in the store with (maybe her husband). I don't even know her name (shame on me, I never asked her, just always said hello).
Once I had cupcakes over (because no one wanted my cupcakes ...) and I gave her one and she gave me a few days later a bread roll.
Kinda wholesome now that I think of it, but it's mostly caused by the fact that I wasn't ever really able to connect to people my age and talked to adults instead.
What a strange thing to say. So not only are you putting yourself above anyone that serves you. You're only befriending them to get something out of them. 'Little people' wtf man?
Befriend IT and HR folks usually got the newest equipment quickly (pizza and dounts and being somewhat computer literate helps) and never got questioned on hiring or firing employees (keep good records helps).
That lizard part of your brain that gives you feelings in your subconscious. When you start feeling uncomfortable in a situation and you donโt know why.
My kid was playing with an older kid on a playground and I started getting so many uncomfortable feelings. I was sitting on a bench 10 feet away and just had an urge l to go stand near my son while the other boy was around,even though weโve played together before.
Iโm the opposite of a helicopter mom but I started hovering over my kid for probably the first time ever this afternoon when that feeling kicked in.
My son was standing with his back to the opening to the slide on a playground set. All of a sudden this other kid ran up, screamed RAWR and fucking shoved my 1 year old son backwards into the opening.
He didnโt fall backwards down the slide, he tripped over the side of the slide and would have landed 5 ft below on his head/neck but mama was there to catch him. ๐ข
#Curate the fuck out of your lizard brain, inner voice, fear instincts. We notice so many things subconsciously and you have the ability to listen to it and turn up the volume on it.
Edit because a word thanks for gold!!! I just hope people listen to their alarm signals!
Edit again to add the dog story below
Ok so I mentioned my gut saved my dog and actually that is the first time I can confidently say I really felt that gut instinct go into overdrive.
My husband and I had just adopted a Belgian Malinois. We met the whole little and adopt the one dog that was not acting like a total spazz ball, she was soooo sweet. She just laid with us and let us pet her. I knew this was my dog!! I was 7 months pregnant and a low key puppy sounded great.
Her first night with us was rough. She was very timid (not like her breed at all) and I noticed poop in her blood. I called the person we adopted from and he insisted it was just stress but it would go away. โYeah rightโ I thought.
We were set to leave town the next day and rather than leave her at the boarder we dearly love with our other dog, I knew I better keep her close or I would worry constantly about whether her state of health was improving. So we drove a brand new puppy from Oklahoma City to San Antonio and she was so sweet but the whole time she was at my feet I couldnโt stop looking into her little puppy eyes and thinking โsomething is wrong with youโ.
The night we got San Antonio she exploded diarrhea all over her crate and again I thought something was wrong even though itโs not considered abnormal puppy behavior.
The next day I skipped work to hang with her. She started pooping her intestines out. We took her to the vet, they said she is stressed and it will stop, give her these antibiotics. 2 hours later I called my husband sobbing, saying โthis just isnโt right- something is wrong, we need to take her to another vetโ
Another vet told us the same thing! More antibiotics. I am not a vet, I know nothing about dogs. We got in the car and I remember holding he puppy and consciously thinking โyou are dyingโ and I told my husband we were going to the animal hospital.
again the doctor said she was probably totally fine but they would observe her tonight and do an ultrasound because there is a small chance she could have something in her intestines. I shoved my dog at them and left.
They called me at about 9 that evening and said the ultrasound didnโt show anything so I could get her in the morning. I insisted something is wrong with her, and the doctor said the only choice they have is to do exploratory surgery($$$$$$) and I begged him to do it. At this point in be story, I hope you realize I would have to have so many alarm bells going off in my head above and beyond normal anxiety to pay $5k for exploratory surgery on a dog that had been cleared by 3 doctors.
I got a call around midnight from the doctor. They opened the dog up and found she was suffering from a giant intestine issue I canโt spell and they fixed it and would monitor her for 3 days to see if she was going to pull through. :(((
Long story fast forward she lived, was on insane meds for a month and thank god I listened to my gut and saved her guts.
People will doubt your gut because itโs not your own gut, donโt listen to people.
**also want to add my mom is the person who always told me to trust my gut because she dated a guy one time and her gut told her to stop seeing him and it turned out to be a serial killer. Please donโt ask for that story because itโs not mine to tell.
My friend and I were driving on the highway once, and out of nowhere and for no apparent reason she changed lanes.
It wasnt to speed up and pass the truck ahead of us, it wasnt because a space opened up, or a car was tailgating... there was very light traffic on the road and we were cruising at a comfortable speed.
She just said afterward that she'd just had the sudden, irresistible urge to change lanes.
About 2 seconds after the car had gotten into the other lane, the back left tire on the truck ahead of us shredded into pieces, and sent a chunk the size of a small child flying through the air at exactly the height of our windshield. It would have hit us, probably shattered the window and caused us to wreck at about 70mph.
My gut saved my kid too! She was complaining of leg pain but I brushed it off as growing pains. Until her school called and asked me to come get her. My instincts said this was doctor-worthy so I took her in. She ended up being diagnosed with a fatal tick-borne illness, but surpassed all of the symptoms because I took her in so early!
That's interesting. Now that you say it, when i was suffering from panic attacks i always had this feeling in the back of my head like "you're not going to die here today".
God damn, the number of times I can look back on and think, yeah I knew that wasnโt a good idea. From dangerous situations to unhealthy relationships to shitty haircuts. I had a gut feeling and I ignored it.
gudbote ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:10:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm struggling to get a good grasp on my 'sixth sense' but I can confirm it can work in ways that would be worth its own episode of X-Files.
Your instinct kills your rationality. Do you know how often at night my instinct tells me to run, arm up, fight, or hide when I am at unease for some reason? Quite frequently. Though there is never anything actually wrong.
It also plays into (underlaying) mental disorders of some, including but not limited to: autistic spectrum disorders, schizofrenia, psychosis, DID, ADD, and ADHD. These are disorders that are fought by rationalizing. Blindly following instincts in day to day life would be very counter intuitive for people who either have one of these disorders or for people susceptible to it.
Obviously it needs to be paired with logic and rationality. Im not implying one needs to โme hungry go hunt nowโ but I cant even begin to explain how often my gut instinct allows me to make a correct or better decision. Once i started going with it instead over thinking iv had a much better time, and the times i dont listen i really wish i had.
Your instinct is just your brain subconsciously picking up on lots of little signs you may not notice, and then feeding that information to you. It's your subconscious understanding your surroundings in a way that your conscious brain may not.
So don't go blindly following anything, but allowing your instinct to guide you, while still using your rational mind to think it through as best you can in the moment, is a very smart thing to do in most circumstances, for most people.
Although that's true, our brain still has many instincts that are not at all useful in our time. A lot of people instinctually wake up after 4 hours of sleep, before falling asleep after an hour or shorter. This is due to the fact that many many generations before us, humans were reliant on waking up in the middle of the night to restart the fire they were sleeping around.
Many of our instincts are fear driven and primal, whereas we as a society no longer are. It would suprise you how many people today experience anxiety due to their instincts telling them something is wrong when there isn't anything wrong. If one of these people were to blindly follow their instinct, he/she would go home where it feels safe, learning that the only way to prevent anxiety is to stay isolated, leading to even more anxiety and a smaller safespace. That's just an example.
Unless youโre buying an Apple, this does not apply to technology (computers, american cars, TVs, etc). It changes too fast to worry about quality. Go for the cheap, upgradable, biodegradable advanced crap.
Buy cheap, buy twice. Since being a home owner and earning enough to actually buy some better quality things I have learnt that I was wasting so much money doing things cheaply. Iโd end up spending more money eventually anyway. This goes for most things, cheap clothes for example wonโt last long and youโll just replace it anyway.
I could see this. There are lots of weird sweet/savory combos that just oddly work. Chicken and waffles. Salt in your coffee. Anything dipped in a frosty is winning imo though
What I don't understand is why we have to specify a chocolate frosty. That's what a frosty is. What the hell is a vanilla frosty?! Kids these days... Ugh
A coworker and friend bought me chocolate covered potato chips for my B-day. They were wonderful. The store that carried them closed right after that, never found them anywhere else.
kj9219 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:10:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In n out fries into a neopolitan
coffcat ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 02:00:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use visual imagery to fall back asleep when I start thinking about stupid crap in the middle of the night. Just picture a large white board filled with all of your thoughts, then picture your hand with an eraser slowly wiping it all away. The thoughts have to stay on the board and get erased, if you start thinking of them again, you refill the empty section with thoughts again and slowly erase them. No thinking, just erasing. It works surprisingly well.
When I was a kid, I was getting bullied by an older kid on the playground. The teacher asked me "well, have you asked him to stop?" I thought it was the most asinine thing I'd heard in my six long years on the planet.
But, in a move I still use today when talking to tech support, I went ahead and did the thing they asked even though I knew it wouldn't work, just so we could move on to the next step quicker. So I saw him one day playing tetherball with his friends, and I walked down to him. I then asked, in front of the other kids in his grade, "hey, can you stop chasing me and my friend? We don't like that." He shrugged and said "okay."
He never picked on us again. No more wrist locks, no more having dirt thrown at us, no more being chased around the playground. I actually missed it once I realized I wasn't going to be bullied any more.
[deleted] ยท 147 points ยท Posted at 00:49:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You need to push yourself to break through your anxiety.
Me: What the fuck do you mean, push myself? What do you think I've been doing? It makes me miserable!
That's what you need to push through.
It's the truth. Push through it. Fight as hard as you fucking can, and don't give up. Cry your eyes out when you need to. Scream when you need to. Just push. Fight.
Also:
If life seems pointless, just devote yourself to *anything*
For the most part yes. But I think it's also important to know that sometimes it's okay to give up/ quit.
For example I was enrolled on a postgrad cause that was causing me so much stress and anxiety on top of my other life pressures that it was making me ill. I eventually decided it wasn't worth it and left the course. No regrets since. It was the best decision I could have made for my health at the time. But I was so afraid of being a "quitter" and giving up it took me far too long to get there.
This. Iโve been anxious my whole life and finally went to therapy and really, honestly did the work, and it has made an incredible difference in my life. I had been to therapy before but didnโt really push myself. I wish I had just listened when people told me it would be hard work but worth it.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:13:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If life seems pointless devote yourself to anything... so true. Just pick something. Anything. Also, if you canโt do it for yourself, do it for someone else... helping other people is the only thing that has gotten me out of really bad ruts
LaneyRW ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:35:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree with this because I have anxiety and I have to push myself to do certain things. I'm always glad I pushed through it. Sometimes it's a bit easier the next time too. And yet I've tried to encourage other friends with anxiety to do this, but sometimes I get accused of being insensitive. I'm not trying to be insensitive, I honestly believe sometimes you have to find a way to push through and do what's most important.
When you are trying to catch a fly or mosquito, hold your hand right in front of your face and approach it slowly. It wonโt fly away! I have no idea how this works but itโs freakin magic.
the real question is why do you care? the other person is someone else you likely wont see again, wont care about, and if they are, they likely wont care enough about how disgusting you sound while taking a shit to notice.
Gonna have to disagree on nofap. Masturbation is normal and healthy. If youโre taking it to an extreme, you need to learn self discipline and probably get therapy, not quit masturbating forever. Because thereโs some underlying issue where youโre masturbating constantly.
[deleted] ยท -11 points ยท Posted at 06:37:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:07:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oops, I guess it kind of read like Iโm a pervert that mentally fucks girls with his eyes but really it was my attempt at a humorous way of describing the fact that I sometimes tend to look at girls instead of talk to them but I donโt do this as much anymore.
If you spend much time in the sun, it's probably a good idea to go to a dermatologist anyway to get a periodic skin check. Due to my family history I'm on an annual schedule now.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs true I have to take antibiotics and apply two creams a day and you must be regular too but diet helps a lot too especially cutting out junk food and eating lots of foods high in vitamin A like liver and kale
probably because they prefer face-to-face interaction, but i know a little trick to get around that: talk to her in front of a mirror, so you can peek over her shoulder to stare at her ass
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:11:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Definitely agree with the Dermatologist. I didn't want to go for a long time because I didn't want to take any medication for same reason. After finally going, my skin did a 180 and made me wish I went years earlier. Although it's important to note that if you do have to stick with the routine and watch your diet (for me it was cutting down on sugar significantly) otherwise it's totally pointless.
Deleting Facebook. Actually don't miss it or the need to be connected to everyone all the time. I spend more time with my family and I don't feel the pressure to be perfect or living up to others expectations. I also don't have to deal with all the military wife/base drama.
jow97 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 05:06:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Relationship advice I got once, donโt just act like your in a relationship,
โAct like your on the same teamโ
Works a charm! Everything seems easier to accomplish and more fun too. feelings get hurt less and we communicate more. Sadly I often only remember this advice slightly too late.
Rue9X ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 05:06:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey, this is my first post here, so sorry if I somehow mess up--
My mom has all sorts of weird tricks on how to make yourself feel better. For example, today my stomach hurt like somebody had put a knife in it, so I remembered my mom's trick to pinch the skin and muscle-thing in between my index finger and thumb, and I suddenly hadn't hurt so much. Sure, the skin I was pinching hurt a little, but it was sure of a better trade than silently dying in Spanish class. Another trick for my eyes feeling better was to pull on my index finger, which actually worked from what I remember, but nowadays my vision is starting to worsen, so it doesn't Mozart-Magic it's way into your brain. Still, gotta thank my mom for these random tricks.
Slow becomes smooth, and smooth becomes fast.
If you donโt learn the fundamentals of something, you will not have a solid base to build your knowledge from.
Saying a phrase that's really out of place helps too! Because you remember you said that weird phrase for some reason, why was that-OH that thing you have to remember to do!
Mine for a while was "4011 is the code for Bananas."
I've been managing anger quite literally since the first grade. (Never got violent, just was becoming a problem with interaction so they sent me to the school therapist every Monday and Wednesday.) I found out that the whole stereotypical crossed-legs-closed-eyes-and-deep-breathing thing really soothed me and helped me manage it.
horror- ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 01:55:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Done is better than perfect."
I started applying this to my hobbies and it sorta bled over into everything else I do.
When I first heard it I thought that dude must just suck at everything. I was wrong.
When you are anxious and feel adrenaline coursing through you due to something stressful that you are doing or about to do, I was told to open and close your fist since it uses the tendons all up your arm so it quickly expends the energy from the adrenaline.
Idk if this has any scientific backing but it works for me
Gonna try this next time Iโm road raging. I donโt let it come out in my driving, Iโve been a passenger to aggressive drivers- wonโt ever do that, but I swear like a sailor and get worked up. I recently missed my turn because I was too busy spewing rage over being cut off. Hopefully this will help. Thanks.
When you hit that point in your run when you feel like you have to stop, don't. Your second wind is in there. My buddy forced me to keep going and I was genuinely astonished at what I was capable of. It's stuck with me ever since.
(Obviously, this doesn't count if you're injured. Never try to push through an injury.)
Everyone told me about the importance of networking when looking for a job when I was younger and it felt useless. When I thought of networking I thought about schmoozing people at a wine and cheese event and it just wasn't me.
Turns out networking can be as simple as building and more importantly maintaining relationships as you get older and it's been extremely important in my career development. I now won't even consider applying for a job if I don't have some sort of connection through my network.
Keep in mind that building worthwhile and lasting a network in your industry is not easy. It does take work, so for anyone reading this...work at it. It only takes a few minutes each month to reach out to folks and say hello. Write peopleโs kids names down and a fact about them, even if just their age. Use that as a way to catch up. โHey how is sally doing? Is she applying for colleges or taking some time off?โ Works miracles, Iโm telling you.
Spiffy87 ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 02:47:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hitting things when angry just conditions yourself to hit things when you're angry. Then you end up in a situation where you are angry and can not hit a thing, which will cause frustration and intensify the anger.
There's a reason anger management teaches breathing and thought exercises, instead of carrying around a plank of wood to judo chop.
Actually, this isn't very good advice. It does give momentary relief, but it also increases your predisposition towards aggressive action. Essentially it creates a cycle that causes you to become more and more easily frustrateded over little things.
It may not be as fun, but it is far better for you to learn how to breathe and let things go.
gullgum ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:23:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm, I felt better when Auggie was wacking the sign with his sword.
Edit: Just so we are clear this is not a euphemism, but a scene in Role Models
voidptr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:11:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is only helpful in the short term. There's evidence that expressing anger like this regularly is bad in the long term, because it habituates you to violent expressions, making angry outbursts more likely. It's better to figure out what it is that is making you angry in the first place, and dealing with that.
Saying "you're welcome" instead of "no prob" or any slang version of it. It's more of a subconscious thing that makes people feel like you put in extra effort making them more grateful towards you and generally boosting their opinion of you
Not necessarily. Sometimes โyouโre welcomeโ can make it sound like you feel entitled to receiving thanks; whereas no problem shows that helping out wasnโt a burden.
Trust me, lol, it works. I use a low pressure filtered water tap. Wet the top and bottom of the pizza before nuking. Something to do with the way microwaves heat the food, vibrating the water molecules.
dbenz09 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:05:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alternatively put a glass of water in the microwave with your pizza slice
Hope I remember to try this next time I have pizza to heat up.
Huckdog ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 01:17:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This will get buried but I hope it helps whoever does see it: when you burn your finger, whether on a joint or whatever, grab your earlobe. I'm guessing the cartilage sucks the heat out of your finger but I'm not sure. All I know is that it works.
Patch_ ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:09:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try mindfulness. Suffered with anxiety all my life and just relaxing sometimes and clearing my mind works wonders.
Dfekoso ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:55:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Righty tighty, lefty loosey.
Xenjael ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 06:13:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When fighting clap your hands once loudly. The sudden noise will shock and confuse attacker long enough to hit or get away.
Do martial arts, people laugh at me when I mention it. Then they try it. Don't laugh after.
Clever fighter has better chance.
propoach ยท 63 points ยท Posted at 01:49:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
shower before bed, instead of in the morning. looking back, it's gross that i would get into bed dirty.
Jag94 ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 03:39:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An argument against this is that when you sleep you sweat (as well as excrete other bodily fluids), so when you wake up, your skin is covered in a layer of dried sweat which could clog your pours. Thats why showering in the morning will keep you clean and feeling refreshed throughout the day.
So what you both are saying is, SHOWER BEFORE BED AND WHEN YOU WAKE UP! Now the only issue is if I wake up in the middle of the night and have to pee, do I shower before I pee or after I pee or both? Or do I just say fuck it and pee in the shower? I mean I want to stay clean and refreshed. Also if I take a nap ever in the afternoon do I shower before and after the nap, or just sleep dirty. Like is there a guideline, such as โnap over an hour take a shower, nap under thirty stay dirtyโ. This really sounds like I should invest in 55 gallon drums of body wash or very large bars of soap. I better stock up on more towels too. Oh and canโt forget lotion cause my skin is going to dry out losing all these oils.
Jag94 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:50:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hahahaha. Love it. Actually research suggests we already shower too often, and its bad for our skin/hair. So really, just find what works best for you. If you feel better showering before bed? Great! If you feel better showering when you wake up? Great! You do you, boo.
So this actually came about super recently. Waiting in line for Avengers Endgwme with about 30 people ahead of us. My mum tells me and my brother to go to the far set of steps instead, we thought it was dumb anad couldnt see it being worth it but it actually worked, everyone files up the first set and most stopped near the middle so that side of the seats got real full we went to the far steps and just went to the top row and sat slightly off center. Because the left hand side was empty and the right hand side all full.
In big crowds go left. Concerts, leaving or entering a stadium, airports. If thereโs more than one path, go to the one farther away.
klop422 ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 00:58:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't know about useless, but one of my favourite bits of advice is a bit of meta-advice:
Listen to all advice. Think about it. Try to apply it. If it works, great. If not, then you know it was bad advice.
For some advice, that of course doesn't mean literally try it out. Someone tells you "best way to hide the body is in front of the police station", then you can logic your way out of it. But be open-minded about advice.
This works for any and every kind of advice. Personal advice, advice about your work, about your creative endeavours.
Yes! I used to be stubborn and thought no one knew more about my life than me. Once I got out of that, and started taking advice, my life improved so much. My internal thought process even changed for the better.
Get up and try to walk soon after having a c-section and it makes recovery easier. Worked. First c-section I struggled, next one I pushed myself to walk sooner. It was heaps earlier the second time and that was even after being gutted vertically like a fish. :)
I'm a surgical nurse, and this applies to pretty much any surgery. Do laps of the ward 3 times a day from the day after your operation. Although definitely speak to staff before getting up the first time.
Yes! 8 months after my last baby I had to have a massive abdominal repair (incisional hernias), but I was up and walking 3 days afterward whereas so many others said they were โstuckโ in a recliner from pain. I truly believe the longer you lay in bed, the harder it becomes!
The pain sucks, but if that's the case you need stronger pain killers. You need to put the repairing muscle under stress to stimulate it. You're trying to grow muscle, you don't do that by lying down lol.
I always wondered why it helps! It seems counterintuitive to get up and walk after surgery as itโs been all sliced and diced! Thanks for commenting!!
Yeah seriously, I've had so many friends and family asking me about stuff that they can figure out themselves from a 5 second Google search. I mean I appreciate conversations but still..
If you feel like killing yourself, make a promise to yourself that you can do it next week if nothing good happens. Any time something good happens, no matter how small the good thing is, could be a cute animal picture or a good happy doggo you walk past, a pretty sunset, a funny cat video, glitter, anything that makes you smile or laugh or go "aww", but it counts and you have to live for another week. Keep doing this. Eventually, the time will increase to two weeks. To a month. To several months. Then one day, you will be able to look back like I did and can confidently say I beat being a suicide statistic. Sounds lame and stupid but it worked for me after twelve years of being suicidal and two failed attempts. As I always say. You can't get any lower than your lowest. What have you got to lose trying it?
I love being able to tell my story in the hopes that it might help somebody else. Might sound selfish but no body should ever feel like they are alone and if me going through something can help stop somebody else going through it then great. I'd do it again.
Such a cliche until I installed an app to prevent me from using my worst time wasters in excess. It's like I finally figured out why there are some humans who get everything done while I never could before.
Doing squats felt useless for a long time.
But then I started doing something like a 100-300 body weight squats everyday.
(That I wasn't sore) and guess who has legs Now! I mean tree trunks.
Too bad I never got to do a before pic.
Actually, that's a variation of a very widespread adage credited to the British Army. The original, typically known as "The 7 Ps," was: Proper Planning and Preparation Prevents Piss Poor Performance.
Growing up, I often heard one of the common variations "Proper Prior Preparation Prevents Piss Poor Performance" from my Dad (former USN pilot).
Never stay up late to do something you wouldnโt get up early to do.
So I will never stay up late on reddit because thereโs no way in hell Iโd set an alarm for 6:30 to get up and read.
I finally have a normal schedule now and I sleep great!
[deleted] ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 02:34:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That if you lead others will follow, even if you aren't in a leadership role.
If you want your roommates to clean the apartment, do it yourself. If they are decent people, they will see you making the effort and you wont even need to ask for their help.
The same goes for the opposite. If you're always late to work and lets say your boss makes no attempt to penalize you for it, other people will see this and they will get lazy and show up late as well.
The point is that you should always try to be the first to act if you want to make things happen with people around you. Throw out the resentment and take ownership over the things you want to happen. Others will follow.
Yeah, Iโve changed a few things about my workplaceโs culture by doing things repeatedly, to the point where new people donโt know something isnโt actually a policy, just a safety thing Iโve implemented, and the older employees just wound up following suit.
For example, I work for a doggy daycare, and right after Group Play is over, Private Walks (single dogs who donโt play well with others, family groups who donโt share the same schedule, medical restrictions) go out. I donโt consider Park empty until the last dog is secure in their room, and I was having a problem with the Walks people putting their dogs out while I was still in the hallway. So I reverted back to my zookeeping days and started calling out on the radio โLarge Park is clearโ to let them know I was done. It took a few months, but now itโs something that everyone participates in.
(I wish this worked at home. Iโm moving houses today/tomorrow, and one of the biggest reasons Iโm getting a place by myself is because my roommate has never cleaned the bathroom once in the last two years. He cleaned the tub/shower a couple weeks ago when the new landlord came by to inspect things. It still doesnโt count. Nothing could get him to do anything about it: no conversations, no notes, no schedule on the mirror, not waiting a few weeks, not even doing it by example.)
Not procrastinating for a test/project. I usually cram for a project last minute and ace it (I am one of those laid back students who can ace a test that wasn't studied for and remembers vital information easily.). When I don't wait until the period before the test or the day before a project is due, it's amazing how much free time you'll have to do other things.
ashrae9 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:00:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you feel like crying, pick a random word and think of as many words as you can that rhyme with it.
Distracts your brain while you get your emotions back in check. Works for me every time.
Could you possibly elaborate on this? I'm intending on going back to university as an adult. Haven't been back to school in a decade and this simple thing makes sense, but what is smart studying exactly?
Read the recommend text books but donโt waste time trying to memorise it all and write pages of notes, just enjoy it, find people to talk about it with, even if theyโre not on your course. What was interesting about what you studied, what was surprising?
Disagree with your lecturers, have a controversial opinion youโre not there to be a yes man.
Befriend the nerds and hang with their study group the month before the exams.
A week before the exam, split the text book between three friends and take turns explaining the summary. Youโll spend half the time studying and will all have something interesting to say in an exam.
Donโt get nervous in exams, sleep well the night before and plan on winging it. Calm beats panicked every time.
Write some of an essay drunk and high, write it early enough before the deadline that itโs a fun exercise rather than a stressful chore to be resented.
Socialise, take breaks, donโt waste too much time staring at books. Hang out with smart interesting people, no one cares what grade you get, just learn for the sake of it.
Doing your homework right after class would be a good one. Its not technically "studying" but you will retain the information far better than if you do it last minute andddddd if you retain the information better, less studying for you pimp
Smart studying, or studying efficiently is a way that studying should be done. Reviewing/organizing topics and taking breaks (like a good nightโs rest) is much more efficient than trying to study hard. Studying hard is the incorrect way to study that takes longer, and forces yourself to study. Studying hard could lead to all-nighters, which will most likely slower time to learn topics, and makes you even more tired than you were in the first place. People study hard by forcing themself to study whatever they can in a short amount of time, but takes so much more effort and time. Trying to force yourself to study just to get a good grade is why many people dislike studying. (Studying is not for improving that grade in science, but itโs to improve your growth and understanding on the topics included.) Smart studying, on the other hand, will help you study to learn the topic. (You know youโre studying smart if you donโt realize youโre remembering topics just for grades.) Forcing yourself to remember something is harder than learning something. I study smart by first reading all my notes, organizing the topic into sections, taking the main bullet points and rewriting it. I then elaborate on those points, and reread it over. I take small, short breaks, and try to review those points again. I distract myself by taking those short breaks, and trying to see if I remember the topics still. That way, I know that Iโm studying smart. This method makes me learn rather than remember topics easily, and I can relate the topics to real life situations. Smart studying is efficient, fast, and the right way to study. Some real life situations could be learning a new recipe to bake a cake, and trying to braid hair for the first time. If this is even more confusing, please let me know because I honestly have no idea if any of this makes sense.
Also, the best way to study smart is rereading new notes, or think about what youโve learned after class every day. A teacher once recommended that tip to me, and Iโm not having as much trouble as I did before in learning in class. Wowzers, that was a lot! -w- time to take a snack break
I think I can see the distinction between the two. One method (smart) you genuinely learn for potentially the rest of your life while the other (hard) you remember the information to simply regurgitate it for a grade.
How feasible is this for maintaining a high GPA? The way you've described it, while definitely seeming beneficial for life, seems kind of relaxed for university. I'm not saying this to discount your methods.
They seem like how I would want to study for my career path as it reveals a genuine curiousity for more than a singular topic. I am typically a curious person, usually unable to maintain long-term focus and so feel like I need to "study hard".
EDIT: I also could have just read it too quickly and missed a few points
Okay, so I asked a scholar. He told me to brag about how he has 5 college degrees. His advice was to โstudy what you believe is on the test, and donโt study everything. And donโt study โwhat ifโ is on the test.โ
Drinking water. I used to get sick a lot. Usually blamed it on allergies and stuff. My recent ladyfriend told me I'm never drinking enough water. My new goal is a gallon a day. I feel so much better now
Thatโs awesome! I can never manage to drink enough and I pay for it with headaches. Just donโt go too crazy. 128oz is a lot and there is such a thing as too much water. It fucks with your electrolytes or some shit.
Yeah, I never get all the way to a gallon. But it's technically half your weight in fluid ounces. So for me that's 80 ounces or so. That's only if you're not moving or sweating at all. I'm pretty active, and drink a lot of caffeine. That's why I go for the extra.
Building and maintaining a personal network. I've always been shy and not suave in social situations but 3 years into my professional career I've known people that have new job opportunities with excellent promotions from knowing people.
When you are trying to pee at the urinal and you get stage fright - recite your social security number backwards in your head. I usually donโt even get 4 numbers in before the floodgates open.
When driving, use your turn signal, even when no one is around. It's better to have that habit all the time than forget to do it and cause an accident.
My PS4 controller was not charging. Looked at the internet for a solution and found an answer saying I should blow air to the charging port on the controller.
Thought this was stupid and ordered another one. After it arrived, I said why not try the solution anyways.
In early 2000's, we used to have NES clones available in the market for less than 15 USD. Nintendo does not have an official presence here.
Kherus1 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 06:04:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
WAIT. Why Am I Talking?
As a manager, and from NUMEROUS seminars, training courses, development days, motivational talks that you do as you progress through the ranks, the most valuable one was when someone comes up to you with a problem or wanting to get something off their chest and it can be a normal reaction to just start saying shit like โoh, Iโve been through that. What happened to ME was...โ
But almost always, they arenโt there to hear you talk about YOUR problem but need someone to bounce or vent off of and so itโs important to stop and use WAIT, and ask yourself WHY are you about to say something and is it really valuable or applicable in this context or is it just a way to fill the gap where itโs your turn to talk? Are you LISTENING or just WAITING for your turn to speak?
Iโm not saying just stand there and not talk, but to identify when itโs best to assess the severity of a situation and how to be mindful of your words. Youโd be surprised at how often theyโll solve their own problem just by saying it out loud at you without ANY input and youโll gain respect for being available and actively listening.
ZzLy__ ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:38:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never borrow money for anything except a house. Everything else you can just save up for.
Eat within two hours of waking up. You next meal should be no more than six hours after that and then your final meal should be no more than six hours after that. It sounds stupid but it made a huge difference for me.
Yeah, just a cuppa black coffee for breakfast and I feel so much better than I ever did when I tried to eat breakfast. I don't even get hungry until 1pm and the energy all morning is great.
So I was eating at weird times and although I was watching calories and stuff I wasnโt losing weight but once I started following this I started losing weight and wasnโt as lethargic and stuff.
[deleted] ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 23:02:19 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat a spoonful of sugar, then wash it down with water to get rid of hiccups.
Gasp and hold your breath. Thatโs what people mean when they say โhold your breathโ or when they try to scare you. But really you just need to gasp (as big as you can) and hold. Itโs like 60/40 but itโs great if youโve not got sugar
I let a spoonful of sugar dissolve under my tounge. Ill be damned if it doesnt work every time. People look at me like im NUTS when i tell them to do it though.
Raiko99 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:50:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not useless but felt like a hassle and I'd screw it up anyway. Open a separate bank account and every paycheck save whatever you can. Even if you deposit 5$, it creates the habit.
06EXTN ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:46:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When backing up a trailer, put your hand on the bottom of the steering wheel. Then just turn the wheel in the direction you want the trailer to go. BOOM - MIND BLOWN.
When I was planning to move into my first apartment, my dad gave me advice for how to handle sticky money situations with roommates.
Instead of buying things for the house on a rotation, or paying each other back, avoid the problem from the beginning by setting up a house fund. The way he suggested doing it was getting a jar or something and each putting a certain amount of money into it ($20 each to start, for example). Then, whenever someone had to go buy toilet paper or soap or anything that everyone would be using, they could just take the money out of the jar (and, hopefully, remember to bring back a receipt). When the money ran out, everyone would put in another $20, or however much you decided on.
I never actually used the advice (I only ended up living with one other person, and we split everything evenly anyway), but I thought it was a pretty clever way to avoid conflict with friends over money!
If suffering from allergies, buy local honey and eat it by the spoonful.
I had moved to Tennessee and had NEVER had allergies before, and once I got there, it hit me hard. A friend of mine said to go get some local honey, normally I would have just ignored the advice because I needed a guarantee fix, but I was desperate. LET ME TELL YOU SUMTHIN. Best best thing of my life. My allergies were cleared in less than 72 hours. Years later, Iโm now flying weekly for work to different states. My tradition is to always pick up local honey if Iโm in a new place and add to my ever growing โlocalโ collection. That way I can just down some honey from the town Iโm about to travel to before I fly out, and not even Georgia in spring affects me.
Yay Iโm so glad! Thereโs usually a local bottle that can be found in any Walmart, I usually hit up Whole Foods first so I can buy a small size to fly back with :)
DamuBob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for this. Allergies have been hitting me harswr than usual this year;a lot of things are blooming early in the PNW.
Phalter ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:54:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Win the day. Once I started focusing on the things I needed to accomplish THAT DAY and said fuck tomorrow next week and next month I realized that all that was taken care of by winning the day.
When I was at the height of my highschool depression I would take forever to get ready to leave the house because I was always so afraid I wouldn't look perfect (eating disorders are a bitch). One day my mom told me "no one cares," and I was initially offended, until she explained that everyone else is so caught up worrying that other people are judging them, they don't have time to care if your hair is messy. It was something that stuck with me as I started to get better.
LawnyJ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:41:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I say this to people that are too scared to go to the gym. Everyone else is caught up in worrying about how they look that they don't care how you look.
If you get a money as a present or a bonus (and you're in the position to do so), spend it on an experience, not material goods or consumables. You will make memories that can last you you're entire life.
I was given this advice on my birthday by my family, I ended up going on a trip with the help some money I had saved myself and the amount of fond memories and wonderful people I met while I was away is something that will never leave me.
Went traveling around the USA, mainly mid-west went on road trips, camping, generally experiencing the different culture and things to do. Was my first time leaving Europe.
My best friend told me "If you're drowning, curl into a ball, you'll float to the surface". Me, who doesn't know how to swim at 14, remembered this as I was thrown in a pool. Saved my life. Thanks Bestie.
Yeah, as a woman, no. Rhythm, not random, is the key.
Noromac ยท 61 points ยท Posted at 01:56:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As an experienced man, do NOT use the alphabet please for the love of god. Find her spot, find her pace, STICK TO IT
kygroar ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 03:25:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think the alphabet thing has a place, but it should be more about trying to find different patterns that work well for a new partner than getting from A to Z. It gets people involved in their partners pleasure - but only if theyโre paying attention - and helps you find that spot and rhythm. Because the most important part, and what is often left out, is once you find a letter they like, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD STAY ON THAT LETTER!!
That like saying oh baby your dick is so big. Come out on ladies night. How many women tell their guys that one. A gal knows when youโre bad at oral, we just wont say so, not to your face.
Haha. Iโm a whore, an addict, a shooter, a guru and Iโve been on this side of the clit my entire life. if you donโt think Iโm a woman with experience enough to know what Iโm talking about you donโt know women. I know men and the male ego is a huge part of his performance. If I want the best sex a man can give I donโt tell a guy heโs bad at oral. I have no investment in you, Iโm sure you have your strengths. If you thinks youโre good at it, Iโll moan and move like itโs the best I ever had. When itโs my turn to get what I need you are built up with confidence thinking you rocked my world and you are as hard as a rock and ready to put out your best. If youโre a great guy and suck in bed weโll play with toys and have great passionate sex but if a guy thinks he has to recite the alphabet, count or resemble any kind of systematic, methodical, sterile lover, heโs boring, Iโm going to take what I want in that moment, if possible, and get out of there.
I think you misread my post. I never said "stick with the alphabet", I said that starting with the alphabet is a good place for noobs, because for young boys who have no experience, you don't know to try different things and places to find out what your partner likes. Once you understand them better you evolve to different techniques.
My next post said that enthusiasm can be just as important as skill, because you need both to please your partner, and a lot of one can compensate for a lack of the other. Even if you don't have a lot of experience, It can be a turn on to know your partner is in to your body and working to please you.
I'm not inexperienced myself...i don't have a clit but I have dealt with several dozen of them so I've got a good idea of what is specific to some women and what is universal for most all women. It's not about "male ego of knowing I can please a woman"...I'm not sure why you assume that I can't actually accomplish that task.
Ehhhh. As with all oral sex advice (especially on people with vulvas), it's very, very situational. If nothing else, it can be a good way to run through a variety of different motions to see what gets a good reaction.
As someone who has been told I'm a good kisser but have never really known what I'm doing, I've found that girls are appreciative if you are just tender. Don't just mouth fuck them with your tongue.
klop422 ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 00:54:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have no idea whether you meant what I did or not, but I just went through all the tongue motions for the alphabet.
Also, I am now acutely aware of where my tongue is and how my saliva tastes. Fantastic.
I have a friend in high school with a stutter; He was very popular because someone started a rumour that he always stutters, a few girls wanted to find out for themselves.....
RepTexas ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 01:35:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Bite the head off the frog.
My boss would say this ALL the time..so much so that I say it All of the time now.
It means to do that which you don't WANT to do but HAVE to do immediately. The early grind makes the rest of your time YOUR time.
I routinely do everything I hate first thing every morning, work out at 4am, get to work do all my reporting and communications, knock out any high priority projects....this gives me the rest of the day to slack off. :)
The 5 minute rule. If you have something you need to do and it will take less then 5 minutes do it right away. See a book that needs to be put away upstairs? It will take less then 5 minutes so do it. It is shocking how quickly this will make your house tidy.
Before you open a can of drink (especially one that is super carbonated), tap the top of the can a few times beforehand so that it doesn't spill at all when you open it. Seriously, no matter how much you shake it, you just gotta tap and it won't explode at all when you open it.
Fake it till you make it. I thought it was stupid but one day I decided to act really confident and people were complimenting me all day and I started marking more friends, but the whole time I was literally freaking out.
"Aim while shooting" for FPS computer games like Counter-Strike. Sounded like the lamest, most Captain Obvious advice ever, until I actually started purposefully aiming the cross-hairs with care, even in the midst of a hectic firefight. My kills jumped 3x or 4x.
I always perceived this as a way to selfishly indulge yourself, until I realized that what it means is I should be treating myself the way I would treat the person I'm dating.
So, yes this does somewhat mean indulge yourself a bit, as in go to a movie you want to, or go out to a nice dinner once in a while. But also, it means treat yourself nicer in the way you think about yourself. Forgive yourself for mistakes and learn from them. Be patient with yourself. Think about the stuff you do, and if it's something that you'd give someone else a break for, then give yourself a break for it. Also, think about things you'd be hesitant to do, like learn to dance or go for a trip somewhere, and do that. Invest time in yourself and you will begin to attract people who see you doing so.
The hormones, newness, and infatuation of "love" is great, but it doesn't last and it only works on the few people you "love." Choosing to love my wife, my kids, my neighbors, my coworkers, and the random people I meet (even when I often don't like them) makes life so much better. I treat others so much better and I like myself so much more when I choose to love people because they are worthy of love rather than try to "love" myself and be a crappy person.
Collecting cargo using the Oppressor MK2 in GTA Online, ramped up my cargo collection by 20-25% I was already using the buzzard, a pretty fast chopper already with good weapons, the OPMK2 is a godsend in comparison.
lnfx ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:23:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Crush the garlic and release the allicin! It's like a two-part epoxy
ell98584 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 01:50:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed every morning. From an admiral speaking at UT I believe. It means no matter how shitty a day I'm having at least I've accomplished one thing
It's certainly a way to, but I do it because then I can get the bat faster to the ball. Then I just have to extend instead of relaxing my elbow, then extending it.
"You keep making mistakes they're going to start costing you money" Told to me by my father when I was a teenager. He knew that in adulthood, I wouldn't have my parents to bail me out every time I fucked up. That advice has helped me be very cautious when making decisions, especially decisions that involve money or prison. I'd say it half worked. Though I haven't had any super expensive mistakes, I still don't have great credit but I am the only person in my family that doesn't have a mugshot.
sweadle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:16:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Credit is easier to fix than a felony record, so congrats.
Instead of cramming for tests and exams, review your notes at the end of every day and add more notes. I did this in College and never had to pull an all nighter
Read books/Readers are leaders. Eight years ago, I was an aimless underachiever dropping out of college and joining the navy as a last resort. Started heavily reading nonfiction books across a broad range of interests and cultivated an interest in domestic policy. Getting ready to graduate with my bachelor's and I'm starting a Master's program at an Ivy League school this fall, fully funded. There is no better way to find internal motivation and realize your options than reading. Also makes you way more interesting to talk to.
My grandfather gave me a piece of worldly wisdom when I was 13 or so. He said it in a joking way but as I've gotten older it's rang true. He said "Son, 3 things will give a man problems in his life: money, women, and whiskey. If you'd don't have a problem with one of those things then you don't have a problem." I wish that onery old cuss was still around.
As infuriating as it sounds, the whole 'just be happy' thing really changed my view on life. Being depressed or down isn't something that is always under your control but your own attitude is. I heard someone say happiness is a choice almost every day for over a year before one day I said fuck it lets give it a shot. It wasn't an over night change but it worked out for me
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:29:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking pills with tea or hot cocoa is a lot better than taking it with water. I've always been really bad at taking pills, So when I need to take one now I make myself a cup of tea and it makes the pills go down without me even noticing :)
If you work in a place with a lot of oil/grease, use dawn dish soap when you take a shower.
I do machining/manufacturing of cabinet components, and every day I am surrounded by a lot of gross oil and coolant to keep it all from burning down or jamming, and it gets in and all over EVERYTHING. I come home stained black from the stuff, and it seems like it takes a whole bar of soap to cut through it. Once my coworker casually mentioned that he uses dawn in the shower, and I thought to give it a try.
Cut right through all that crap. Dawn and hot water washed it all away, easy.
Admit it when you're wrong. Initially it's tough but you receive a ton of respect and goodwill back, especially if you compliment the person who was right.
Swallow your pride and do it. Nobody likes pigheadedness but someone who can admit they're wrong and listen to a different point of view will go far.
Stress costs money. If you have a stressful job, for example, you will spend more money on mental health care, shopping, massages, junk food, whatever you need to relieve your stress. It's worth it to switch jobs even if you make less money, because it will likely balance out. I didn't think this made any sense until I left a bad relationship and found that it was suddenly a lot easier to manage my budget. In reverse I also left a good job for a stressful one and found that even though I was making the same salary it was a lot harder to manage. Now I constantly evaluate the cost of stress in my life and what I can do with my money to try to avoid stress, because the benefits will compound.
Zelyrun ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:04:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do everything you have to do ASAP so you don't have to worry about it later. I've been doing this in my adult years and it's such a sigh of relief. Sometimes I just do whatever I'm supposed to do out of this habit, then later on I realize "oh fk, i gotta do ***" then I see that I already did "***" and it's literally the best feeling ever. Feels like you're the best partner for your future self lol
As a kid, I had a Garfield poster (back when the comic was fairly new and not horrible) that said, "I might as well exercise, I'm in a bad mood anyway."
This has been in the back of my mind for decades. I could be depressed and on the couch, or translate that mental pain into physical, but productive, pain.
This advice comes up a lot on here as "exercise helps depression," but to a depressed person, that might not hit home. Instead of "I'm too depressed to do X," think of it as "I might as well be depressed while doing X." Chores aren't usually fun even for non-depressed people, so it's not like it'll take anything away from your day!
Maybe it's just a personal mental game that only works for me, but I find it effective.
I do the 16/8 mentioned and did that from June til September and lost 30 pounds. No other changes same food and beer just in the window instead of whenever I wanted. I'm down to the last stubborn 20 pounds but the 50 to this point was cake. Ran into a female friend this weekend who I convinced to start at New year's and she's lost 40 pounds and is almost wearing her high school clothes again at 32.
I do longer fasts now for health reasons (a lot is still speculation but the evidence is getting stronger and exciting) it taught me how addicting food is and the difference between hungry and bored. A year ago this sounded impossible but never going back now. Feel like shit if I eat all day now.
Don't loan anybody money. Doesn't matter who it is or the reason. Even if it's just a dollar, the next time that person needs money, they're coming to you. If somebody asks you for money, (they will usually try to guilt you into it) tell them you have a personal policy of not loaning money to anyone.
Cher9969 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 06:43:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can afford to give them money do it instead of loaning it. You know how hard it mustโve been for them to ask. If it was easy for them to ask for money, default to the first guys answer.
See, I agree with this BUT... I still do it. Selfishly. I do it because I would want that kindness done for me if I was in a rough spot. Right or wrong, it makes me feel good. Youโre prob way more right than me, I realize this. But Iโm writing this for all the people out there that do loan money....
It's olay to think about growing up. Just don't get too caught up in your thoughts and enjoy being a kid. Enjoy everything about it. Don't miss on being a kid, ever.
To be honest people in my generation seem to be growing up too fast around me. Iโm only 14 and I hear stories at school of people having sex in the all gender bathroom. I still play with sticks in the woods with my friends on weekends.
Happy spouse happy house, women should make an effort to keep their men happy too.
celenei ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:00:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't understand why this is downvoted.
I'm not a very physically affectionate person, but my partner is. If I remind myself to just give him a hug at least once a day, our relationship is noticeably better.
hapibun ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 23:53:39 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To ignore bullies and not give them a reaction.
zerbey ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:40:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This didn't work for me. What did work was just calmly stating they were boring me. My daughter was bullied too and I gave her the same advice, just calmly dismiss them. Bullies want a reaction, ignoring them sometimes works unless they're persistent. Being totally nonchalant works for the persistent ones, they simply don't know how to deal with it and move onto the next victim.
hapibun ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:57:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Currently trying this with my middle child who "bullies" the entire household with epic tantrums. We have started just walking away when she fires up. No reaction, no talking, just leaving the room. It's been very effective! With no audience, she winds down a lot more quickly, and once she's done, she serves her time-out without much push-back and the whole incident is over.
I could definitely see it being effective with bullies IF their peers are able to do the zero-reaction thing. It's hard for kids, when someone is pushing their buttons. It's hard for ME when my kindergartener is pushing my buttons!
Some of them might think you're willing to participate in their punching games, so they continue, others might think you're willing to resort to violence and could bring a gun to school, so they stop.
Never worked for me. They still trod over me. Limited success in speaking their language and fighting back: became the "uh oh, we got a badass over here" instead of "the loser", but at least the most physical aspects stopped.
There's a town an hour away from me that has a peanut butter and jelly bacon cheeseburger. My fiance and I both tried it and it was actually pretty good.
I've had this a few times. The peanut butter really overpowers a lot of the other flavors, but it's still pretty damn good. They called it the "peanut butter and jealousy" at Slaters 50/50.
sr71pav ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 00:27:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay this is fucking me up. I've heard of peanut butter on a burger, and I don't think that's for me, but for some reason peanut butter on a BLT sounds amazing! Probably substitute the Mayo for PB, yeah?
Holy shit you madman! Does the Mayo and the PB work well together? I mean, I would try it without Mayo for sure but if you say it's good with it, I'll give it a shot.
Thereโs a brewery in my town (they make the best beer!) that has a large selection of hot dogs. One of them is the PB & J dog. I was skeptical, but itโs pretty dope!
I thought the same exact thing until I tried it. I did a burger with peanut butter, bacon, and maple syrup and it was really good. Everyone who I have cooked them for likes it too. Don't knock it until you try it.
So I'm gonna add one thing to this. Add some Sriracha on there too! The oily peanut butter mixes ssssoooo well with the Sriracha! It's my favorite way to eat burgers now. Give it a try some time!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:58:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude, peanuts are GREAT with savoury things. That's why so many asian dishes feature peanut sauce. It goes great with fat and salt, which a burger is primarily a lump of.
LaneyRW ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:45:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's a hamburger festival once each year near where I live, and they have all kinds of unusual burgers. One of the best sellers is the donut burger, a hamburger on a donut cut in half as a bun. My dad tried it and said it was good! I haven't tried it yet.
...or anyone older than you with experience, for those who donโt have moms. I canโt tell you how many things wise older people told me while growing up just went in one ear and out the other without a thought until...I grew older and realized....they knew what they were talking about.
Congrats!!!! One day at a time turned into 5 minutes at a time and got me through those first 6 months I hit 2 years next month! It really is a whole different life I never know ever existed and better than anything I could have hoped for.
When cleaning, take care of the biggest items first. Didn't realize how it would make the tasks go faster, but it's merely to make the mess seem less daunting... And it worked. Put away the biggest three items, and the room already looks 90% finished.
Iโm and avid tennis player and when my dad told me that once you didnโt worry about the losing, then I would do better. Currently 12-0 after he told me that.
Tie your shoes properly. If you have to tie your shoes more than once in a day, you're doing it wrong. It has to do with the way you tie your first knot. you can tell that you did it right if the bow when you're done is horizontal, not vertical. I've been doing it wrong for 30 years and when someone pointed it out to me I just brushed it off and said something like "I just double knot it".
Honestly, "Just do it" when I hesitate talking to girls. "What's the worst that could happen? You get a no and move on" might sound dumb and simplistic but after you convince yourself of that and do it once, the other times won't seem so scary
My dad always says this about eating in moderation - "If you eat only small amounts of something in one sitting, you'll be able to eat it for longer in your life"
Such a good advice which I follow everytime I am offered anything sweat, salty or fried.
rrk99 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:34:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keeping a water bottle beside your bed to drink as soon as you wake up in the morning helps to decrease the drowsiness. It works wonders and help me to wake up in a chilly Monday morning. ๐โโ๏ธ you guys should try it.
โMan is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems.โ
Whenever I find myself dreading something in the future, it helps to put that thing in perspective and take a step back. You can get out of touch with reality if you spend too much time in your own head.
Instead of apologizing when you mess up or do something wrong, thank the other person. For example, instead of saying โSorry I was running lateโ, replace it with โThank you for waiting for me!โ
When in a heightened emotional state that you need to calm down. Like anger, anxiety or something. Take 3 deep breaths. If you are standing, sit. If you are sitting, lie down. If none of that works. Wash your face with cold water and try again.
Getting a present for your partner, but have no idea what to get?
Move ยฃ50 (or however much you're hoping to spend) into your PayPal. Tell partner you got them a present that you paid for with PayPal, and say if they can guess what it is you'll give it to then as soon as it arrives.
They'll now give you a list of the things they would like to get as a gift.
Exercise. Getting out of the house. Eating more healthily.
They all sound like dumb advice, and I think a lot of depressed people will try them once or twice, notice it does fuck all, and think 'ugh, what shitty, condescending, overly-simplistic advice'. The key is doing that stuff consistently, though. And it does help if you stick to it.
The problem of course is the sticking to it, when you're depressed...
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:50:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reading is fundamental.
Seriously grown ass adults will go out of their way to ask questions with the answer literally in front of them.
Paperwork at work, how do I do this? Did you read the instructions at the top of the page? No.. mmk.
Get in trouble with the boss about something? Did you look at the policy handbook? No? Well you're both technically in the wrong.
New house hold item? What do you mean you don't see why the can opener has a magnet on the side?
Didn't know you had that option in your car? You mean you didn't glance through the manual for the $30,000 purchase you just made? Bet you put the wrong gas in it too.
Fucking read it's not hard to tell genuine information from legal BS, and safety warnings.
My Dad has said this particular piece of advice for years, "your health is your wealth." I quit a job that made me utterly miserable last Summer to travel, I saved for months to do it. My savings were low when I came back but I felt better than ever. Money will return, time will not.
"Whenever you want to feel what someone is feeling or know what he is going to do, think from his side."- My Grandma
"No shit, grandma"-Me
Jokes aside, this got me through bullies, interviews, relationship and the best part is that it works most of the time(unless the person is a psychopath) and can be used in any scenario.
This is going to sound so dumb, so I guess Iโll share. I used to work in outside sales, going business to business trying to get them to change their business phone service. I was fresh out of college with basically no sales experience, so I was looking to pick up some tricks on how to avoid the typical โfuck off, get out of my shopโ that I was getting regularly.
I had this guy Keith training me at the time, who was a total slimeball aka great at sales. One day he told me โYou gotta not talk to people straight on when youโre trying to sell something to someone. Too intimidating. If you feel some push back, turn your body a little and relax. Lean your elbow on the counter and just talk to them. Theyโll forget youโre trying to sell something.โ
I spent 4 years of college learning business tactics and etiquette, and nothing has helped me more in face-to-face sales than the olโ โturn โn lean.โ Literally makes no sense, but store owners stopped looking at me like a sales person and more like just another dude.
Don't go to bed/leave the house with dishes in the sink. I thought this was dumb until I lived alone. I never had to do dishes in order to eat or cook because I had already done them. Thanks, dad.
Men, stop cursing all the time. Itโs not funny or endearing. Those words lose their impact if you use them all the time. If they become a placeholder, like -ya know, um or er... then you just seem dumb and coarse. You donโt need to say fuck, fuckinโ or fucker six times during dinner, at her Momโs house.
When you need to include your age in a comment/post donโt say โIโm ___ years old and....โ, say โWhen I was ___ years old...โ, regardless if itโs your current age or not.
There are weird people out there. Could save yourself from a number of situations.
Interesting. I always lie about my age and location. I kind of pick someone in my life who is fairly similar to me but not exactly the same and pretend to be them online. I pick a second person to model my romantic life. I pick and choose what to share about each individual. This helps me keep the lies consistent and straight and the weirdos at Bay.
The worst case scenario... These people I don't know are discovered and something bad happens to them. I take it as a cautionary tale and disappear.
If you get up early you'll feel better across the day. Thought this was bollocks because sleeping in feels so nice, but all it needs is a little kick of unpleasantness to have a better day.
Not using your phone at night will improve your sleep. It's just true. You feel more refreshed in the morning.
I try to go for a run three times a week, and I can say with almost 100% accuracy that if I plan to go for a run on a specific day, if I get up before 7:30am on that day I will go for the run and if I don't get up that early I won't. Simple as that.
Sort of. I think also I'm just naturally quite lazy, so if I don't do something at 'The Right Time' I probably won't do it. I think by also forcing myself up at an early time I just feel refreshed once I'm up, maybe in a part because there's a prevalent idea in internet culture that Productive People Wake Up Early, because every single blog/video/comment etc. of someone talking about improving productivity seems to include the tip "wake up early".
I have some bad anxiety, so here goes this old gem: "stop caring so much what others think about you."
I always thought this was useless, bad advice. Until I started to actually embrace what it meant. It sounds easy to do, and it isn't, but it became one if my mantras I'd repeat to myself A LOT. Wound up making me really realize what other people think of you doesn't really matter, or define you. Wish I had been able to believe it sooner than I did!
If you have super low confidence and self esteem you can start off the day with this bullshit sounding technique. It takes a few weeks to start working though.
Every morning you say with the most conviction you can muster "I like myself." You repeat it 5-10 times as loud as you want. What really matters is sounding commanding about it.
I thought it was a load of shit until I started doing it and eventually my inner monologue changed. Now my brain just compliments me a lot of the time.
This. What also helps is to think about 10 things you like about yourself. They have to be 100% true things you genuinely fancy about yourself. Write them down. Read them each day and think of more and more.
The App Down Dog. I'm at the height of finals right now and I tend to spent my time "off" studying on reddit or gaming. So I made a point of just doing a 30min yoga practice during my study breaks instead of going straight to my computer/my phone and it helps me clear my head way more than being focused during my off time.
J_Degiu ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 16:38:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If one day you will be in the position to have a gun poited at you , try to smile at the man who is holding It
Well to create empaty, and to male belive the aggressor if Is a soldier that you are from his side , I get this lesson from a journalist who was in war territory, and he actually save his life
TINITUS.
A friend showed me this.
Cover your ears with your hands, and flick the first two fingers of each hand off each other so one hits the back of your head.
It instantly reduces the noise.
Incredible.
bSad42 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 16:46:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom and I are quite poor (not like homeless poor, canโt pay bills but more like canโt afford some stuff sometimes or running out of money). She always used to say โHappiness does not come from money but from people around you that love you. You will find out when you are older.โ I was 6 at that time. This came from a mom who had a bad background, became a teen mom, lost that child a few hours after it was born, had another child a year later that was extremely disabled and epileptic, had an autistic child 8 yesrs later (me), had a tiny house with my dad, got evicted, moved into my nans house, got physically abused by my other nan when she found out about all this, got cheated on, had to move into a special home, having to look after two disabled children and having severe anxiety and depression and always seemed happy even with all the shit thats happened in her life. I never took that seriously because all my friends were rich and bitchy and caused me to be lie them. Once I was about 8 we went into the Disney shop and I saw something that was ยฃ100. She said we canโt afford it and I was really annoyed at her, had a tantrum and screamed โAll my friends are rich and have money! Why canโt you be more like their parents and actually have a job instead of sitting at home all day doing nothing!โ I stormed out of the shop and when we got home shut myself in my room. I didnโt talk to my mom for 2 weeks. Iโm now 12 years old and now Iโm realising money really isnโt everything and Iโve stopped talking to those โfriendsโ. I have new friends that love me for me and a mom that loves me no matter what and I love her as well. I now accept that me and my mom canโt afford everything and accept the things I have instead of the things I want. The reason my mom doesnโt have a job is because she needed to take care of my disabled brother and I and she wouldnโt have time to do that with a job. She didnโt actually sit at home doing nothing I just thought that because most of the time I saw her she was sitting down. It was because my brother or I didnโt need her at that time. Just remember money isnโt everything.
My dad always told me to โbe smartโ when dropping me off at elementary and middle school. It wasnโt until I thought about it as an adult that a realized my dad, although educated with bachelors from a university, felt bad about his education and didnโt want me to experience his regret. Growing up on a farm his family didnโt emphasize education. In moments where he needed to spell, reading, etc.. we would laugh at him. My mom was a highly educated medical doctor and Iโm sure him felt inadequate
To stop drinking pop/soda. I didn't think it would make much of a difference but when Andrea gave up smoking for New Years I said I'd stop drinking Coke. I've lost ~25 lbs without changing anything else I do.
AT1787 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 18:29:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was young and dating challenged, I heard from other guys that it was simply "a numbers" game. That you need to put yourself out there and try. Reeling from repeated rejections, I scoffed at it, particularly since I passed it off as some machismo alpha male PUA advice.
What I realized was that it was good advice delivered terribly. Yes, technically it can be summed up as being as numbers game, but it really meant to undergo trial and error. You need to put yourself out there and at times even be hurt to learn and build confidence. Dating itself requires vulnerability.
What is actually a useless advice that I didn't know until I tried it was the idea that someone will come along when you least expect it, that you should just trod along as you are, minding your own. Right, sure, I get that it probably was meant to quell acts of desperation but after following that advice up until I was 29, I realize that in and itself is terrible advice in the most literal sense. At least for a single straight male with a gender norm expectation that you should be the one to initiate for dates.
Yeah the whole "right person will materialized out of thin air" is bs. You gotta throw yourself into the fire so many times until it just stops burning you.
AT1787 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:45:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like that analogy. Getting burned seems like my kind of thing.
dmizzl ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 18:45:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You often need the advice that you give to others. (If you struggle with something and need advice, then what advice would you give someone else struggling with the same issue?)
If you want to stop those horrible robocalls, pick them up and immediately mute your phone so they only hear silence.
I read this in a reddit comment about six months ago when I was averaging 5 calls a day, sometimes getting into the double digits. It was the worst, and this advice seemed really counterintuitive and stupid. But I was desperate and I tried it and now, six months later, I am down to one call every week or so. I have no idea why it works but it does.
Mines a bit flipped, my dad would always walk in on me studying and give me like a small wrapped sweet. He knew I hated revision but those sweets kept me sane during exam prep.
He said recently that his dad had told him to try it but he never wanted to. Only realised how much more motivated me and my brother are when we do revision or homework.
When I first began working at a bank branch I had this old, quirky man who would come in and tell me corny jokes. He worked for an office supply company and used to talk to me about his sales endeavorsโhe didnโt seem to be much of a sales man. He randomly told me one day โa great piece of sales advice? Always have a second pen.โ So I took him up on that.
When I did loan documentation work sometimes a clientโs pen would die and needed a new one. I always made sure I had a duplicate. That came in handy for other things too. I gave someone my number once for networking purposesโhe later helped me get a jobโand my first pen died halfway through him scratching my number down. Itโs good thing I had a second pen. But his advice wasnโt really literal, I know.
I started balding real fast and I asked my dad what he did, (because if he doesnโt share our genes idk who does) he told me to rub almond oil in my roots and itโll make the scalp tougher or something. Turns out that shot works and my hair is thick af too
if you still want something in a week, then get it. If the desire for it wanes, then you never really wanted it at all
Dudukf ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 20:52:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you find something you were looking for, use it then put it in the first place you looked for it.
carsann ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:38:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be nice to yourself.
I think people just donโt like it bc they donโt know how.
The key is talk to yourself like you would talk to a friend.
Really helped my mental health
Be more positive. I've dealt with low self-esteem and just being sad in general. Went to the dentist today (Am deathly afraid) and it went good because I just talked and had a good time.
Don't spend time doing things other than sleeping in bed. I used to be constantly on my laptop, watching TV or studying in bed since it was the comfiest place to be. Apparently your brain associates it with being active and tested so you sleep worse. I thought it was bullshit until I tried it. Not only that but I focus better watching stuff / scrolling through stuff on the sofa, and working / looking stuff up online at a desk.
FatherAb ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:58:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
French fries + mayonnaise (not the American, sour, gross kind though, but the normal, amazing, Dutch kind).
majeric ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:28:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be specific when describing yourself in a dating app. Be specific in your interests.
People cast a wide net thinking it will catch the most fish, but there's a greater risk of incompatibility. Don't be "I like ot hang out with my friends. I like movies and long walks. I like to laugh".
Casting a narrower net means that you are more likely to get what you want. "I'm a Doctor Who fan. I love heavy metal and going for High Tea. I play soccer with a local intermural league. "
If youโre in a bad mood, smile. My dad would always tell me this and I thought it was the most annoying thing until I tried it and it helps me at least
No, honey. You should not put soap on your labia. I know how it sounds, but soap will fuck up you vaginal PH, and as a self cleaning organ, does not need much in terms of outside intervention. Just rinse it with warm water, look it up. Soap actually ends up irritating the sensitive skin, which causes stronger odours. Try it for like a week, you'll notice a difference.
I get the part about not shoving it inside your lady bits, I hope that's not an issue for a lot of people. My point is, most soaps are scented. unless you go out of your way to get a specific kind of soap, most people will just use what they have on hand, and you really don't need any soap at all.
Thomsa ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:51:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop smoking pot. My life got so much more value afterwards. It feels like waking up from a coma. People please stop telling yourselves that weed makes everything better. It does for a little while and itโs al very relaxed and funny but after a while you start to turn into a moronic zombie and you donโt even realize it.
Also when in doubt over the dicision: at night before bed make the dicision and first thing in the morning feel how your body likes the decision. You will feel relaxed or stressed. Then you know what the dicision should be.
thetigg ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:23:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going to the gym to feel better physically and mentally. It seemed useless because I thought Id hate it the whole time and it would be a struggle forever but I now look forward to it at the end of every day!
When you feel like you are starting to get anxious in a social situation, look around and name a few things you see in your head.
When in a conversation it's easy (especially for people with anxiety) to get stressed or forget what to say. When that happens just look around and say the name of an object you are looking at.
For example: "garbage bin, glasses, banana, wooden door, clock".
The expression โItโs easier to ask for forgiveness then to ask for permissionโ
My dad used it very jokingly from time to time so thatโs how I always took it. As Iโve gotten older Iโve realized a lot of the time itโs easier to take initiative(for me itโs usually at work) and if I fuck up own up to my mistake, than to try to talk to one of my bosses or a family member.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:43:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honesty lasts the longest, or as we say in the Netherlands: eerlijkheid duurt het langst.
Being an honest and open person to everyone you meet creates better and stronger relationships, usually with other honest people and that's the people you want by your side.
6070924 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:46:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try on clothes that you think will look terrible on you.
cade841 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 18:57:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
On relationships, don't be in a hurry to get into one. If you are you rush into one that is not good for you and will make you miserable.
and for those who are afraid to go out to find someone, my advice is to go out with a group of friends every now and then, you never know who you will meet.
To add on to this, obviously be respectful and mature about it, but if you're into one of your friends, don't be afraid to say something. If you're good enough friends, then you can stay friends if they turn you down, and who knows? Maybe they're into you too. I was best friends with my husband before we started dating and he confessed he was into me, and at first I said no, but he was very mature about it and we stayed best friends. And then I fell for him, luckily before he moved on. I'm not saying every declaration of love for your best friend will end up in you marrying them or anything, but dating a friend does away with the shitty "getting to know you" part where people so often hide the worst of themselves to impress you.
Every time I was feeling depressed, my roommate told me to take a shower and clean myself and put on clean clothes. I always thought "how is that gonna help me feel better I just wanna wallow in my sorrow alone" but one day I tried it because I had nothing better to do. When I got out I felt refreshed and better about myself and whatever situation I was in. I don't know much about why it does make you feel better, but it does.
If someone doesn't hear you the first time, don't repeat the same words, rephrase it.
Using the same phrase doesn't add any new auditory information for the listener to clarify what you said. Even a more vague follow up can often avoid confusion.
Frustrating way:
A: Where did you put that box?
B: What?
A: Where did you put that box?
B: Your what?
A: The box!
B: Your sox?
etc.
Instead try:
A: Where did you put that box?
B: What?
A: That package I received earlier, where is it?
B: In the kitchen.
or even:
A: Where did you put that box?
B: What?
A: That thing from before?
B: In the kitchen.
If they're in the other room or hard of hearing, changing up the sound pattern or adding more context is usually enough for them to figure out what you said in the first place.
OMG I have to show this to my family. I have hearing loss and I'm constantly saying What? And then the people in my house repeat the same words AT THE SAME VOLUME. So of course I have to say What? AGAIN. I can't get them to understand I CAN'T HEAR THEM. Maybe if I can get them to do this it will help.
My mother taught me both of these:
1. When in doubt, throw it out. This has kept me from becoming a hoarder.
2. You donโt ask, you donโt get. Self-explanatory, but Iโll explain anyways. If you want something, ask for it. You might get it. Iโm always surprised at the things I get just for asking.
to drink water to help acne. i used to think it was not that simple to get rid of acne like that until i started drinking six bottles of water a day and now my acne has completely vanished.
Brush teeth daily. I didnโt buy it, and my teeth were initially fine; though they were beginning to yellow as I changed my ways. Finally started brushing regularly because I read that it might help my sinuses to be less swollen (allergies) and it worked well for that purpose. Within 2 months my teeth became very white and smooth and I now consider them a bonus to my general appearance. Now, I am slightly addicted to the feeling of smooth clean teeth - if I gunk them up with soda or something I often do an extra brush just to keep them feeling nice. Full convert.
Eat breakfast. I take add medication (kills appetite) and have just never been a breakfast person, so I never used to bother eating in the morning; often I would not eat at all until the evening, then Iโd eat lots. I tried forcing breakfast on myself many times on the advice of medical professionals but it could never stick well enough to become a habit, because it was just so revolting to eat anything when I was so whole-heartedly not hungry. However, I escaped this situation using a milk-powder-based nutrient-fortified โmeal replacerโ drink. Many such meal replacements exist, I used one called โcomplanโ . After only about a month of drinking a complan each morning, something triggered in my body and I began to distinctly crave my โbreakfastโ drink - no longer did I force myself to drink it because I told my therapist I would, I drank it because I very clearly wanted it. As a side effect of actually breakfasting, I am also hungry (in a healthy, normal way) for lunch. My daytime energy levels are somewhat improved and I feel slightly more emotionally stable. More or less exactly what people told me about breakfast since I was a child, but I thought I was an exception until I found a way (drinking breakfast) to make the habit tolerable enough to entrain. I get so hungry for breakfast now that think I could eat non-liquid breakfast food, though I have not tried
Wake up at the same time every morning. Again. I started this on blind faith because my therapist told me to, and it has been a magnificent boon to my happiness and productivity. My body seems to enjoy the regularity of my wake-up alarm, as I find myself sleepy at night and relatively well-rested in the morning; neither of which have been generally true in my life.
This will be the hardest of all to accept: eat LOTS of vegetable matter; it should be 80% of your diet, not too processed, and slanted away from starchy stuff like potato and toward leafy green fibre-y stuff. You know, the stuff that does not give you a dopamine hit. My stomach/gut was beginning to show signs of problems such as bloating, constipation, acid reflux, as a result of poor diet. I have found that consistently eating a large proportion of vegetable matter prevents these problems entirely, even though Iโm still poor as fuck and eating cheaply.
It has often occurred to me that itโs a bit stupid the way I tend to automatically ignore societyโs wisdom until such time as I get bitten in the ass and learn it the hard way. I have never found a way to reliably tell between the wisdom society dispenses and the goo that plops out of its collective ass - maybe the answers in this thread will be a good source
Where are you from lol? Brushing your teeth daily is more than ordinary where I'm from, it's absolutely necessary to be a "normal" human being. Also, you didn't veggies were healthy ?
Just don't brush too soon after drinking soda or juice. The acid makes your teeth weaker and brushing right after can erode the enamel more than usual.
Pantyliners don't let your bits breathe properly, which makes you anaerobically produce all kinds of nasty stuff down there and you'll also sweat more. Without them your bits are better "ventilated" and there's less nastyness.
Pantiliners are like thin, mini pads. They are a little sheet that goes in your underwear so that nothing that comes out of a vagina gets on your undies. Vaginas naturally make discharge. It's usually cervical mucus made by the cervix that comes out periodically. I believe it serves the purpose of self cleaning. They may cause more discharge by not allowing the vagina and vulva to breath as well (they have plastic backings) and therefore throwing off the pH balance and stuff.
Come on, no one is happy. Being in some sort of problem is how you know youโre alive and living right. Being happy is crazy and cutting people out of your life because they donโt make you happy is ludicrous unless you live in the circus. Those miserable people were put in your life to make you a better person.
My mom was a pretty toxic person in my life. Between drugs and abuse she made me who I am but even though shes my mother I'm glad I left her in the past with the rest of it and I can honestly say I'm a happier person without it. Now I'm not saying itll fix all your problems but it can definitely build on your character and you start realizing who you are and what you can do.
Iโm a nobody. When I say something Iโm not always right. You used the negative in your life and used it as a springboard to throw youโre life forward. Perhaps sometimes leaving the past in the past is necessary. Just remembering where you came from is enough?
I thought it was completely useless but then I realized that it actually made everyone hate me and not want to be my friend, so now I have more time for myself.
When you fall off the horse, just get back on.
This meant nothing until I actually fell off, and got back on a horse.
Losing a battle doesnโt have to be losing the war, even if itโs hard to keep going.
Breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth when working out or do anything really. More so when working out though. Itโs hard to get used to at first and still sometimes end up forgetting.
"Just do 5 minutes of a boring or hard task". Turns out I make mountains out of mole hills and one of my biggest problems with ADHD is initiating tasks that either bore me or challenge me. I'll spend days, weeks or longer procrastinating a job that wouldn't take long to do if I just started it. I'm still working on it but I like not wanting most of my time feeling shitty and anxiety ridden
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:32:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โJust remember that this too will pass.โ Meaning that what youโre currently going through might seem like the end of the world, but in time, things will get better. Have told myself this many times over the years and have overcome many seemingly insurmountable obstacles.
Bo7a ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:00:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another great piece of advice that is also part of a great song:
Exercising helps anxiety. I thought my doctor was nuts because the anxiety was so bad and I didnt know how I'd make myself actually do the exercising. I told her at my next checkup that she was definitely onto something and thanked her.
When you eat something spicy, get rid of the burn by drinking milk, or an otherwise dairy product. Also works well if you dip your fingers in a dairy product when your fingers are burning from chopping jalapeรฑos without gloves. Nobody ever believes me when I tell them.
Papitz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's because capsaicin isn't water soluble, but is fat/oil soluble, so fatty drinks will pick it up & wash it away. This trick works best with full fat drinks.
Time heals heartache. It really does. And another stupid saying thatโs related and also true - you just need to take it one day at time. Thatโs literally the only way to move through grief. It always sucks to hear it though.
This is true, but you have to take the shirt out of the dryer while it's still hot. If you leave it there to cool, you'll get new wrinkles. (Although not as bad as the old ones.) The same trick works for freshly washed shirts to cut way down on your ironing. Take them out hot, & either put them on hangers straight away, or lay them out flat, & they'll need little or no ironing.
Get up early and go to bed early. Seems stupid but you really are more productive and get better sleep. Now I like getting up at 5am and going running, then coming home, taking a cold shower and making breakfast. You feel like Superman after.
Wrap your celery in tinfoil to keep it fresh longer. Celery goes limp in my fridge in about a week, which is inedible to me because I like the crunch. Wrap it in foil and it stays fresh and crispy for over a month.
NewRelm ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:32:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for passing that tip along. I'll have to give it a try.
Celery has to have a crunch if you're going to eat it raw. Limp celery can still be sauteed with onions and peppers in a range of dishes. Even when it dries out, I still add chopped celery to soups and stews.
Something my father told me a long time ago. I've found this advice to be extremely helpful and numerous times it has, for example helped advance my career.
While others were too greedy to realize the opportunity front of them, I availed them all, made myself indispensable and quickly climbed the corporate ladder.
Thanks Dad. You're the best!!!
avaani ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:50:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
not to let the world harden you, despite its best efforts
Someone once told me: "you can never be sad when you're listening to Africa by Toto". Now, when I'm sad or upset I listen to it and it brightens my day...even for a little while.
When I was fighting with depression (I still am on some level) a friend of mine told me to get direct sunlight, preferably in the morning as much as I can and that helped her in some degree. I used to think this is clear bs but I felt the difference myself. It really creates positive vibes and lifts up your mood.
katkula ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:38:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think I heard a doctor say that mood is to a certain extent regulated with vitamin D, which we get from sunlight. If you don't get enough sunlight (like in winter), you should supplement vitamin D. It could improve your mood.
I didn't know that. I thought it has something to do with warmth. Because when you're depressed it kinda feels cold, like tip of your toes and fingers and your ears. Thanks for the info though!
If you have trouble falling asleep, visualize yourself doing something mundane like walking through a store you know well. The familiarity and monotony help ease you into a dreamlike state pretty quickly once you practice enough. I can fall asleep in under a minute now using that technique, and oftentimes even quicker.
Phlosky ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:23:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you get the hiccups:
Close your mouth
Breath in through your nose
Swallow twice
Breath out through though your mouth.
Your hiccups are gone
When I first heard it, I thought it was just gonna be bullshit. I've been using it about 5 years now and it's worked every damn time.
Exercise to help with depression. Itโs easy to be depressed laying in bed all day, but honestly thereโs no downside to exercising. It gets your heart pumping and pumps hormones. Also you might end up getting fit/lose weight
It always seems stupid when someone says it to you, but remaining calm really is the best way to make good decisions and handle situations rationally to achieve the best outcome.
chasewa ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:04:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If your PS4 keeps beeping, remove the piece of rubber underneath the eject button
chasewa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:39:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought it was garbage advice. But it works. As PS4s heat up, the rubber pad underneath expands, causing it to put pressure on the eject button. This leads to the phantom triple beep and disc ejects. Removing the rubber pad under your PS4 solves it.
If you ever have a hard time starting a daunting task then just try breaking it up into smaller more manageble pieces.
Cleaning the entire house is alot of work but if you start by just emptying the dishwasher then you've done something!
I do trampoline gymnastics, and sometimes I nearly shit myself cause some skills I perform are actually scary as hell. My Coach gave me that advice, meaning if I'm scared of it, just "chuck it" (at least just go for it, no matter what)
This advice still gets me through skills and routines all the time. Aiming for world champs this year.
Don't like flying? After you get where you're going, take offย your shoes andย yourย socks then walk around onย the rug bare foot and makeย fists with your toes.
I know, I know, it sounds crazy. Trust me, I've been doing it for nine years. Yes sir, better than a shower and a hot cup of coffee.
Going outside more. I woke up early the other day and walked around for a bit. When I came back inside I felt much more inclined to be productive and actually got tons of work done that day.
My mum tells me "you need an early night" in response to pretty much any problem I have, turns out a early night does make a big difference with most things
Turns out starting your day with a quick win helps get you on the right track emotionally. Huge help to beat depression. Coming home to a nicely-made bed is just the sugar on top.
I really wanted to play a gamecube game on the wii but in order to do that you have to click it with the wii remote. However my sensor broke and i googled on how i could play the game anyway, turns out you can light 2 candles and it works as a sensor. Didn't believe it at first until i tried
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:05:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
save your money.... we all hear it.. ignore it... but it works
Saying this as i caught myself always deflecting it when someone said i did a good job. And as much as it feels to you're sharing spotlight with those that helped you do your great job. At some point it comes across as you're not acknowledging the compliment (and subconscious you even kind of do)
So for both your own confidence and the one giving you praise, just say thanks in stead of 'well it wasn't just me' even if it wasn't all you (the one complimenting you probably knows it wasn't all you but goes out of their way to say you did your part well)
z71kea ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:19:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Replace apologies with gratitude,
"sorry" with "thank you".
For example if you're late for a meeting instead of "I'm sorry for being late", use "something like "thanks a lot for waiting". It works really well in most situations and creates a positive and likeable image, notice how the message of your response remains same. It switches the opposite party's mood from getting mad to actually forgiving with a positive atmosphere.
It doesn't to the people who regularly keep their rooms filthy. Most folks who get told to clean up their room seem to assume that it's for the sake of some authoritarian power play, or orders for the sake of giving orders.
I try to clean it so I can find my stuff, problem is tiny room and Iโm sharing space with my kid so yeah... never stays organized more than a few minutes
Sounds like it would be a good time to instilling this wisdom. Make it a fun part of your day together. Because the benefits of this are far beyond being able to find your things. Teaching them to be ok with a period of organizing leads to regular reflection and strengthens ones motivation for self improvement.
If you're lightly choking and need to cough it out, lift your arm straight up above your head like you're asking a question like the know it all in class. It will open your airway and make it easier to cough harder and relieve you quicker.
Sleep when the baby sleeps (before you can get them on a schedule)- itโs giving up your freedom of schedule, but Iโm a happier person with rest and have more patience for baby shenanigans
SweatyK ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:13:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If youโre ready to have a bowel movement, but you just canโt get it out - rock back and forth on the toilet to stimulate your bowels.
I have social anxiety and borderline agoraphobic. But when I'm pounding down the pavement with my heels bossily click clacking away, I feel like a bad bitch on a mission. It helps loads.
Browsing Reddit. One day my friend told me to go on Reddit because I was an anti-social piece of fucking shit and needed to the internet to be happy. He was right. But I wasn't expecting this.
When I was a high schooler. My father told me that the g rass isnโt always greener on the other side. I left my girlfriend for a different girl. The new girlfriend cheated on me. Lesson learned.
Having a good old clean is an easy serotonin dump.
Definitely helps clear the mind
fatnoah ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:35:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This was my life in college. I had to clean my entire apartment before studying, otherwise I couldn't concentrate. I'm in my forties now and a disorganized room makes me very uncomfortable.
Lol, only yesterday I was trying to dissolve some powder in cold water and it just wouldn't dissolve for like 30mins and mom told me to do it in hot water. Instant dissolve
Our credit card readers at work suck, and I spend a lot of time typing in the individual card numbers. My boss saw me do this a few weeks ago and told me to rub the magnetic strips on my shirt to clean them off before swiping and it would work better. Brushed it off and ignored it because I thought it wouldn't have any measurable difference, but I tried it when he wasn't watching once, and haven't had to type a number in since
Stomach pains, cramps, gas pain? Work out! You know... the LAST thing you want to do when you're having pain to the point of doubling over.
I always thought it was stupid, but it worked... ugh. Yes. It worked. Worked for a headache a couple of times too. Guess I can't use that as an excuse not to go to the gym anymore...
When you are criticizing someone (even just mentally) give the person a (non-sarcastic) compliment. It helps you reframe your thoughts into something positive and helps with relationships.
e.g. Ugh... I can't believe he couldn't put the dishes away in the right place! It's just not that hard and... "Thank you for putting the dishes away."
(This next part is directed towards myself. )
And donโt confuse relaxing with sleep.
Sitting on the couch watching tv and flipping through Instagram isnโt sleep. Close ya damn eyes.
GPAD9 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:32:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My aunt told me to inhale as I get injected by needles instead of holding my breath and bracing for it.
I had (and still go to) appointments where I get jabbed like a dozen times so that ended up being helpful. Had to stop at like 2/3 the first few appointments because I couldn't bear it until I just accepted her advice. It was almost painless that the shock of it got me laughing.
Can't be bothered to check if it's an actual thing but if it does turn out to be placebo, I'll take it anyway.
Narcann ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:33:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt spend money on things you donโt need wish I listened sooner ๐๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ
"Don't use flea medications, powders, shots, or expensive dips to get fleas off a dog. Just use dawn soap. It'll wipe out the fleas and give your pup a shiny, healthy coat. No need to worry about poison either."
I thought this was one of the dumbest things I'd ever heard when my spouse and I were dog hunting and happened to be talking to a breeder. Why in the world would a two dollar bottle of dawn soap work better than a thirty dollar powder, dip, collar or shot? But we did stumble across a mutt pup from an unwanted litter, and he was brutally flea bitten. To the point it looked like his skin was crawling beneath his fur.
So we tried it.
It absolutely murdered the fleas. We had to put him through the wash a few times, and thrice empty out the kiddie pool we were using to wash him - there was literally a tide of dead fleas so thick you could barely see the water - but it worked wonders. The fleas seemed dead the moment the dawn laced bubbles touched them, or at the very least immobilized. They couldn't jump on us either, though we made sure to check one another and scrub down afterwards.
And yes, that coat was shiny and fresh by the time we were done. Used dawn soap every warm month ever since, with a flea collar for the in-between times, and I've yet to see another flea or tick.
For those of you outside of the United States, dawn is a type of liquid dish soap best known for emulsifying oils and grease off dishes. It's also, if I remember correctly, used to clean animals who get caught in oil spills because it's non-toxic. I use it as an fine clean after I've finished working on our house vehicle, after I've used a heavier texture soap to scrape off the majority of oil, grease, or so forth.
I'm a tennis player and a view weeks ago had to play an important mach against a good player. A little old man who always is on the tennis court told me to just hit the ball hard and make sure it lands on the other side. I followed his advice and it actually worked. (I won BTW.)
Noone really told me this, but i found it out myself.
If you have motion sickness on vehicles, put on headphones (ones that cover your ears), listen to music that makes you beat to the rhythm, and focus on beating to the rhythm to yourself.
I spent 15 years afraid to get into a car for 5 min ride because i would throw up midway. Now i regularly go hours traveling by car no problem
Lift my knees. There's a game in xbox 360. It's a sports game. There is a mode where we have to run (well not run but pretend to run). My character was so slow. I was running it my way so my knees isn't high at all. Until my friend told me to lift my knees and i lifted it so high it almost smacked my face and my character ran. I didn't get first but at least i got 3rd
Respect your bedroom. Your bedroom is your sanctuary. Its for sleeping and fucking,Itโs not a second TV room. Intimacy is limited by the idiot box. People (married especially) that watch TV in their bedroom, quit fucking. Donโt replace your quiet space with just another place to stare at a screen.
I struggled with depression for years and I assumed that gratitude was just something happy morons without real problems told me to do. I've done a lot of work and I'm on medication, I'm happy to say I'm no longer depressed. Some of that was from therapy and meds, but a large part of that came when I hit rock bottom and was suddenly grateful for the smallest comforts and kindnesses. It saved my life. It changed my world. Slowly, things got better and better. Gratitude gave me the strength to continue treatment even when it stalled. The more I practice gratitude, the more I have to be grateful for. I have become a kinder more patient person, the kind of person I want to be. I have a loving partner and a good career. I am not afraid of change or challenge. I have done things that I would have never believed possible in the depths of my depression. Gratitude and kindness saved my life.
Listen twice as much as you speak. People always come to me if they need to talk cos they say I'm a great listener. I never give advice if they have a problem I just ask how they are gonna deal with it because they usually already know.
Zelyrun ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:42:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take a break every hour to stand up, stretch, and/or take a small walk. Your body and mind will thank you for it!
If you do not know the answer in an exam just try it because you do not lose marks for getting a question wrong. My teacher is amazing and this advice helped me squeeze in some extra marks to make my grade that little bit better.
Underlining/marking books as you read. Helps me remember stuff, pay attention better, just feels like a much more active experience (I read all the time now).
Tightening every muscle in your body and holding them flexed for one minute if you struggle with getting settled in in bed. I thought it wouldn't work, but it does.
And also drinking from the opposite side of the glass if you have hiccups. Hiccups are really easy to cure if you focus on something else.
Quo210 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:19:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to believe eye contact, smiles and lightly using physical contact, such as hand shaking or tapping a shoulder were over rated and unnecesary for people to open up.
It turns out people don't open up, they melt in your hands and stare up friendly like you have years knowing each other.
As a socially awkward guy all my life, lifting, fixing my wardrobe and doing that has made me look at people completely different.
ami719 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:22:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put your antiperspirant on at night before you go to sleep. Gives the aluminum time to settle into your pores and block the sweat glands and won't wash off even if you shower in the morning.
(Also, there's no clinical evidence to suggest you need to be worried about heavy metals in antiperspirants. The existing studies indicate that the amount you might absorb through the skin is negligible. Way, way lower than what you get in your regular diet and other exposure, etc.)
amywokz ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:32:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1- If you have laryngitis, put a teaspoon of white vinegar in 6 oz. water and gargle. No more laryngitis!
2- To avoid "brain freeze" when eating something real cold (like ice cream), place the cold bowl of ice cream in the palm of one hand. It works!
3- To keep a dog from digging in the same spot over and over, bury dog shit in it.
4- To score a "home run" with a woman, buy her flowers. 'Nuff said. ;-)
otastco ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:32:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed as soon as you wake up. Even if you're feeling depressed, sick, angry... just do it. Coming home from work or school to a made bed is actually super nice. Even looking into your room and seeing a made bed can give you a 1% boost.
If you want to +1 that, wash your sheets once a week and pillow covers once every 2 weeks. Clean + made bed = the good feelings
Got a flash drive, external hard drive, or something that you cant access but has no obvious problems? Try popping it in the freezer...it could be stuck in an overheat protection safemode. Saved my passport this way. Source: college finals panic.
My dad taught me something similar. Avoid being an asshole as much as possible but understand that some people are just aggressive, hostile, nasty, and they DGAF about consequences. This is especially true for low-lifes and losers.
They're going to try and fuck with you at some point in your life. Go for the jugular when they do. Make it as miserable as possible for them to fuck with you. Make it as painful, humiliating, and miserable as you can for them. They're going to begin fucking off after that. It's been true so far. Punish them for shitty behavior. Reward them for fucking off
"Wash your pillowcase more often" in my 20s I'd still experience acne and tried all kind of expensive creams etc. After my girlfriend told me to clean my pillowcase more often the acne disappeared within days!
exgerex ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:44:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The percent chance something will happen does not depend on what just happened...If the coin just landed on heads, it is not more likely to land on tails next time.
My dad used to tell us growing up that it's easier to do things the right way. Do it the wrong way and you still have to do it the right way later, but you've spent more effort doing it twice. It's always stuck and helps me reason out why I'm doing myself a favor not half assing things.
For my engineering thesis in undergrad we had a class to go along with it since most of us are writing-challenged. I remember the teacher going over the components of a good argument and one of them was โacknowledgement and responseโ, where you mention potential counter arguments to your point and go over why they arenโt correct or donโt matter. Learning all of that Iโd roll my eyes and be like โpsh, I know what an argument isโ
Fast forward and itโs insane how many people donโt use A&R. Often times it will be about points that everyone has some surface level knowledge about, so just bring up common comebacks and dispelling them outright can add so much integrity to your argument, and when people donโt do this it just makes me think they donโt know what theyโre talking about.
โItโs better to have it and not need it, than to need it and not have it.โ
Basically realized this to be true after years of my mom telling me to bring a jacket when I thought I wouldnโt need one
Haylit ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:36:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โPeople come Into your life for a reason, a season, or forever.โ
My dad told me this after I had to give away a dog I had grown really attached to. At the time it didnโt help and I was still sad but looking back itโs really good to keep in the back of your head.
It doesnโt work all the time, but demanding someone who has hiccups prove to you that they have them will get them to stop. If youโre lucky, you can even do it to yourself!
I thought that talking about your problems would just make your problems worse. Kinda saw it as a waste of time. Wasnโt until I actually brought up what was bothering me and I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. Nothing had been solved but just having that support from someone else really helped. Iโm never afraid or hesitant to ask for consolidation as I know that itโll make me feel better once Iโve discussed things
My dad was studying psychology when I was little and one time he explained in depth to us how to tell if someone is lying, obviously brought on because we'd lied and he called us out lol.
I took it all with a grain of salt until my first live-in relationship took a turn for the worst when he was cheating, but being so sneaky about it that the only evidence I had was him acting weird. His eyes got darty and his voice octave would go up ever so slightly when he talked about her (or any chick he had a thing for) so I kept sleuthing around. Eventually I found out for sure because I found where she worked and bullied her into asking him out to lunch and I "coincidentally" showed up at the restaurant. He told me he was going to eat lunch with his dad when he left the apartment lol. Got to see all the messages after that. Thanks, dad.
"If a kid throws a tantrum. Ask them to look at they're shoes, they will immediately stop to look at they're shoes."
I never used this knowledge until I started working in a kindergarten. A boy was throwing a big tantrum, screaming, crying, you name it. I couldn't get him to calm down no matter what I said. Then I remembered this and used it out of pure frustration and Boom, he gets quite immediately and slowly looks at his shows. Doesn't even answer my question, just looks quietly. After a few seconds he's ready to talk again. I used it a couple of times since then and it never fails.
Pretty much everything about CBT/DBT. Being depressed and cynical, the idea that I could make myself better by simply changing the way I thought about things seemed naive at best and kind of insulting at worst. The thing is, although CBT does seem simplistic (which is what irritated me about it initially), that doesn't mean to say it's easy - it's not a matter of just waking up one day and deciding not to be depressed any more and being like "oh wow, i'm cured!". It's about coping strategies, not cures, and it's like training โ something you have to work at constantly, every day, even when you don't feel like it, ESPECIALLY when you don't feel like it. And if you get good enough at it, it does get easier, and it is worth it.
Ny baby niece was crying my mother told me to may her on her stomach hold her little ankles and firmly rub her back. I did and after 5 minutes she was a sleep. It works each time.
If a friend of mine ever burnt himself he would cover it in mustard even though we always had burn gel in the first aid box. I thought he was daft until I tried it myself but the stuff works great!
Tell people (your boss, your friends your family) that you failed when you do. Don't try to cover up just throw it at them and don't apologize if you learned something valuable from it.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:09:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandfather uses to say โDrink the drink, donโt let the drink drink youโ
Thought it was useless until I was most of the way through college when I realized the importance of it.
If you're not confident, fake it till you make it. I heard this all throughout the first half of high school and blew it off as a massive load of stupid BS perpetrated by preppy kids that wanted to seem nice by talking to the nerds, but halfway through my sophomore year, I decided I was done being a loser and started putting myself in situations where I would either have to be confident and social, or look like a total idiot reject not worthy of oxygen. In two years, I went from being the shy drama/ band nerd, to someone that wins state titles and school beauty pageants put on by the pretty popular kids. Just try it.
"If you start cleaning you'll probably find what you're looking for."
My wife tells me this, and I often dismiss it. I gotta admit, probably 90% of the time when I clean, I find what i'm looking for. I can find it eventually if I don't clean, but it takes a lot longer.
"Don't trust anyone. All you get in return is pain and misery." It seems shitty advice but personally in my case I wish I used it earlier.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:09:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
faking confidence. iโve heard people say that, to get confidence, you can fake it and soon enough itโll become real. i always thought that was a dumb piece of advice but now itโs been 2 years and shit iโm more confident that i ever was before
Many people claim self deprecating jokes are their way to deal with their depression/anxiety/other mental health issues, and I was one of those people too. Honestly, your brain believes what you say. When I was saying "Lol, no one likes me" "Haha, I'm just fat" "I'm trash" etc, I was literally feeding my anxiety and depression and just making everything so much worse in my head. I was talking to my therapist one day about this (I apologise, but I can't quite remember the conversation word for word, as my memory of that time is still very messed up), and she told me "DragonQueenLaur, every day when you wake up, after you brush your teeth, give yourself a compliment. And whenever you try to make a self-deprecating joke, say to yourself "No" and give yourself a compliment, or rephrase what you said to be positive instead."
Seriously, this change in my mindset helped me more than words can express. Loving yourself and being kind to yourself are such important and powerful things, I'm so glad, and lucky, I was able to learn this (fairly) early on, before things got too bad. I recommend this technique to everyone, and almost every time, I am brushed off with a "Jokes are how I deal with things." At the end of the day, I have to just shrug and remind myself that I'm only responsible for myself and my happiness. But, if you make jokes like these, I urge you to try and compliment yourself (even if it's only in your head), instead. Be kind to yourself!
Walk like youโre wearing a cape. Itโs weird, but it works. You might not feel particularly Super, but just imagine that cape and all sorts of subconscious things start to happen. Itโs another bit of advice that opens your chest and pushes your shoulders back, which always helps to project confidence. It straightens you up, generally. You look forward instead of at the floor. If you tell someone to imagine themselves as Superman all sorts of baggage gets in the way. If theyโre feeling down thereโs a resistance to imagining themselves as a powerful, in-control superhero, but imagining a cape? Thatโs a piece of cake.
What you take in becomes how you think. How you think becomes what you put out. This works in both directions.
Trying to get better at speaking clearly? Listen to music that is enunciated fully, read books where the characters talk without an accent, and when you catch yourself thinking with a stutter or slang, stop and correct your thoughts. It doesnโt take long to generate noticeable effect.
I did this to get myself used to thinking and speaking the right way for work, Iโve used it to get people on track in English classes. Consciously adjust your intake to adjust your output.
When you're done using something, put it back. Used to have a couple of hours every couple weeks dedicated to tidying and cleaning my room. Now I got more free time.
Emotions can influence our decisions and judgments, so keep them in check. Don't completely destroy them, just keep an eye on them when deciding or judging on things.
Learned this in my critical thinking class in 6th grade. At the time, it was too boring to me.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:46:45 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It sounds cold when you hear it, because you don't want the advice. It always comes from someone your grandparent's age too, so it is really hard to hear.
I was told this advice when I lost my husband and it felt like my whole world shattered. When my Nan told me I'd be ok, I was mad. The advice was not what I wanted to hear and it felt like she was minimizing my pain. Well, she was 100% right, she had enough wisdom to know that I was not going to listen no matter how she sugar coated the truth and so she just said it.
I appreciate her bluntness now (9 years later) because it made me actually pull myself out of grief and look around. When you pay attention to your life and take care of yourself....well, you realize you actually will be ok.
โThere are plenty of fish in the sea. Just throw your hook back in.โ This statement is so overused that it seemed useless when people would say that after my now-ex and I broke up. He cheated on me with the girl he left for me, right after I got out of the mental hospital, and talked me into trying to kill myself again. I was found before I succeeded, obviously, and went back to the hospital for a week. I never wanted to be with anyone again until one day I found out that a super sweet guy liked me, so I thought โWhat the hell, why not?โ I โthrew my hook back inโ and gave him a chance. Been together for almost two years now.
Fake confidence and security in your everyday life and social interactions until you feel it for real. This seriously turned my life around, made me like myself, and helped me show people what I had to offer.
Stop giving a fuck works the same way as having confidence and security.
ferbz20 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:08:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont stress over something that hasn't happened. If it happens you stressed over it twice as much. If it doesn't happen, you didn't bother to stress over it anyway.
Pretend to be the person you want to be for long enough and soon enough you will be that person (talking about personality)
I was a super depressed emo kid and I wanted to be that wholesome girly happy person. I started dressing in tanktops meeting everyone with a smile and fake giggling and pretending to have fun with everything, soon enough I actually enjoyed life and wasn't faking it. I also actually liked those clothes
"You should see a therapist." I hated any time it was suggested. My depression had shoved me so far up my own ass that i got so so angry when therapy was mentioned. I was very ignorant. Till one day i had a moment of clarity, fog cleared type shit, and i reached out. Its the best decision ive made for myself, ive been thankful ever since
If you want to stop smoking, just stop putting cigarettes in your mouth and lighting them up.
If you want to stop eating junk food, stop buying it.
If you want to control some of your habits, break them down to the simplest element, so that it doesn't require any brain activity to manage. Make it so that it doesn't require any evaluation, just make a decision on how you want to go about it and accept it unconditionally. As soon as you let yourself judge the calls, you will surely find argument to do that bad thing again. Just don't let yourself think.
[deleted] ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 22:57:34 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Believe me, even your super close soulmate is still a separated individual you canโt control.
Had to learn this very hard life lesson when my ex-boyfriend cheated on me with my ex-best friend I ran a business with who was our roommate too.
JCHABS ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:29:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't work/study with your phone in the same room.
Seriously, it makes it so much easier to get stuff done. While working, I would convince myself I deserved a "break" and check Twitter, Reddit, etc. I would end up spending more time on my phone than on-task. Just try it, you'll find you are getting stuff done much quicker if you try and eliminate potential distractions.
As I was leaving an Alice Cooper concert a security guard gave me a very detailed description of Frank Sharp's travel itinerary, which felt completely useless at the time. However, it ended up being extremely helpful a few days later and I was able to score a record deal for my girlfriend's band.
I have a tragically bad sense of direction. Recently I decided to stop fighting it. When I have to decide which way to go, I figure out which way I am 100% sure is the right way and then I go the other way. So far this method is actually working out really well!
I do something similar when I choose which Tupperware to put leftovers in. I decide which one I think will fit everything, and then choose one size smaller. Works every time. Know your own limitations, I say.
You think itโs working? Or do you just think you are always wrong? If youโre always wrong, how do you know this is right? Stop betting against yourself. Fuck! Practice being right. Let everyone else tell you, you suck if they want but always be on your side.
Taking a second to breathe when Iโm anxious / overwhelmed.
Take a deep breath and count to 7. Exhale and hold for 10. Repeat until you feel calm. I swear by it. I know it sounds so clichรฉ and like โeh just relaxโ but it truly works for me.
Azuenz ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:11:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Start exercising if you're depressed. Didn't do it for years thinking it was bullshit but after I started and stuck with it I can handle life's problems so much better. Seriously, if you are depressed, just go on a jog a couple times a week. If you feel up to it, maybe even go lift some weight. After a week or two you will start feeling better. Just don't quit due to the initial soreness you get. That will go away eventually.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Vests. They changed my life. I used to think they were a sham (if you can wear a whole coat why not, right). But no. Vests are magical and keep me so warm.
Don't apologize at work for being late for a meeting or delivering a wrong result. Thank the others for their virtue of being patient. Turn your apology into their virtue.
Listen to your body. If you want to cry:cry. If you need to lie down: lie down. If your leg hurts: dont use it.
I had a undiagnosed chronic disease and all my doctors kept telling me it was psychological and that I needed to exercise more. (This put me in a wheelchair.)
It was only after I listened to my body and took things slowly that I noticed an improvement. I now hardly ever need to use my stick and can usually walk up stairs by myself!
Rubbing urine on your face gets rid of acne. For those who are willing to try anything to get rid of acne like I was. An old man told me that rubbing a wet baby diaper was an old cure for acne. I put two and two together. For more specific directions get in shower, pee on hands, rub face with hands, wait 30-60 seconds rinse off. Wash with regular soap. Had no acne in a week doing it everyday. Then just used as needed. It worked for me when nothing else would. For those that need it your welcome in advance.
Really fucking hard, i don't even do the correct rutine but still works pretty well. The original rutine is to do 100 push-ups, 100 sit-ups, 100 squats and to run 10 km every single day. I do half the rutine and remove the running part because my neighborhood is pretty dangerous
minus9 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:26:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try jiggling the handle.
JGTalks ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:32:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holding your finger right above your nose to help clear your nose. I never thought I would use it until I was in the allergy season. I'm not particularly allergic to pollen but this year was horrible. I had to blow my noselike a trumpet and do other things. I remembered the video I had saw and decided to try it. After about 30-50 seconds I could breath. It felt great ๐.
Holding your finger right above your nose? Where, how? You don't happen to remember where you saw the video do you? Asking as someone with a perpetually stuffy nose.
JGTalks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This may seem odd, but Ive seen it on a youtube video. I'm not the person to believe in everything on the internet, so I was pretty skeptical about this. I apolagise for not knowing the title but if I see the video I will let you know. Though, if you can, search up how to treat a stuffy nose. Just thought this may help.
"keep your hands off your face and stop picking" when i came to pimples. i had a horrible acne problem from middle school to my sophomore year in college, but once I kept my hands off my face everything started to clear up
FlipNog ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:05:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To procrastinate less, you can give yourself small rewards for 10, 20, 30 minutes of work, it actually helped.
I do something similar for housework. I'll set 1 task and then give myself 15-30 mins to do whatever depending on how long it took, then do another one. This house gets to be a mess with 3 working adults living here so it can seem daunting if done all in 1 go but breaking it up on a day off I can get it all done it it still seemed like a rather relaxing day off.
eating hot food in hot weather.
I thought it was stupid at first but it actually kinda makes sense
makzter ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:11:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turning it on and off again.
Sherirk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:20:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being an student of telecommunications, I have to say, it's way too good of an advice. Most times it should not work, and everytime it works you feel relieved and stressed for not knowing what solved it.
When youโre aiming at something, take a breath as you get set, then let it out as you release.
Works for billiards, shooting guns or arrows, throwing a ball, shooting marbles, bowling, darts, all kinds of things that required accurate hand-eye coordination.
I thought it was stupid as a kid, because of course I have to breathe! But that wasnโt the point of the exercise.
Anandya ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:13:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you wake up? Make your bed...
Like it makes you move around so you are less likely to stay in bed, your room looks good so you want to keep it clean and you are up and about and not fucking about sleeping.
Getting outside, talking to others, eating right, and exercising. To think that I could've been so much happier if I just stopped being a little shit and actually listened to others.
If youโre sad or depressed, go volunteer - meals on wheels, soup kitchen, sit with an elder at a rehab center....it will take your mind off your troubles and give you perspective about your own issues.
faousa ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:17:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mother has always been pestering me to eat better. Teenage me would roll my eyes because she kept saying it like it would solve most of my problems.
Adult me came to realize she was absolutely correct when a nutrition switch to healthy foods eliminated most of my physical and mental health issues...
Anthoz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:23:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Let go.
Florgio ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:24:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you wake up in the middle of the night, before you turn on the light, cover up one of your eyes. That way, when you turn the light back off you uncover your eye and itโs already adjusted and can see perfectly.
Exercise really does help manage depression, (along with all its other benefits).
Also, you are 100% responsible for your own feelings. That was probably the hardest piece of advice to follow but it did help me to get better control over how I react to things instead of being at the whim of every negative emotion.
When I was depressed my I ended up kinda half venting to my old man (super fricken nice and sweet) bus driver about how I hated myself (in a self hurting jokish way) and about how i didn't like my body. He told me to look in the mirror EVERY morning and tell myself that i'm good, and everything will be ok.
I'm SUPER pessimist and actually hate looking at myself since I don't think my face is me. So I got up the next morning and sarcastically and in a dead tone say "its gonna be ok... i guess"
However it started working out. I had a moment of realization some day close to then that i WANT to get better. So that was my start. I didn't look at my face but I told myself I look good. Its gonna be ok. I started having better days and am actually doing a lot better now. I wanna thank him a lot but a bit too nervous to admit it after telling him it "wouldn't help" hehe.
IISinII ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:25:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer.
Ingury ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:27:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having trouble landing a solid high-five with your pals? Look at each otherโs elbows while swinging and youโll never miss.
Sounded like baloney to me but I tried it with a friend we made very satisfying contact.
"Fake it Till You Become It". My interpersonal communication professor showed us an Amy Cuddy TED talk about power posing, and how posing in a confident way can actually affect your mood. I thought it was all BS until I had a huge presentation in another class. I power posed in the bathroom beforehand and the professor told me I had the best presentation when class was over (I have pretty bad social anxiety, especially when it comes to public speaking). Body language affects way more than most people think.
TDE00 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:30:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keeping a diary.
I know itโs well known to have positive effects, but it actually is a ton more fun to do than I ever thought it wouldโve been. I give myself about half an hour every night to just talk about my day, and itโs really nice. Plus itโs nice to look back at past entries and be reminded of how I felt when writing it.
Hell yeah. Gotta endorse diaries here. Iโve been keeping one since February of this year and itโs been great so far. The toughest part is getting myself to write, even if Iโm super tired.
TDE00 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:06:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What the heck. I started mine in February of this year too. Feb 8th to be precise. And often I make my entries late at night. So Iโve fallen asleep while making an entry a few times. Lol
Donโt remember the exact date for me. Iโll have to look but I know it was later. Any advice for someone having trouble committing to writing entries consistently?
TDE00 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:11:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The main thing I really do is just write what I want to. Just write what comes to mind. That just happens to be writing about my day, mostly, but if you get off track and start rambling just go with it. Thatโs what makes it nice, you literally donโt have to follow any rules with it.
And I tend to do it at around the same time every night. I just look at the clock and see that itโs 12:30, and stop what Iโm doing and just write. I give myself half an hour usually.
I canโt agree with you more. Writing with no lens or plan ahead of time makes for some great trains of thought. Writing without limitations makes a sort of conversational connection between the reader and writer (both are usually past me and present me). Iโll take your advice and set aside a designated writing time. I usually do it whenever I like and sometimes I forget or slack off.
TDE00 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:20:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. One thing Iโm often told is I can convey emotion into text very easily, and itโs super interesting rereading my past entries and being able to feel exactly how I felt.
I actually have my diary on my phone, and I use this app called PenCake. I think itโs nice for a lot of reasons, but whatโs especially great is you can make it password protected. Like it literally takes a password to open the app. Itโs free too.
Edit: Oops I wrote this when I was tired. I originally had useful.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:34:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dust everything at least once a week
Didnโt learn this lesson throughout high school and the first year of college. Iโm leaving my apartment this week and Iโm having the worst allergies because of dust all over the room
Complete a task every morning. Doing little things like making your bed starts you off productively and puts you on a roll
jstucco ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:34:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep your eye on the ball.
Literally, it makes hitting and catching a ball so much easier if you are watching the ball as it approaches.
Itโs like your body just knows how to swing your arms to intercept what you are looking at.
I had knee surgery and my knee was pretty painful afterwards. I was up to 6 oxy a shot and it was doing next to nothing for the knee pain. Went to the Dr. and he says "try taking an anti-inflammatory, like Aleve". I thought, yeah right. Took two and the pain went away like magic. Stopped the oxy that day.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:36:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh shit it sounds so full of shit new wave right? But do it every day just to get your head straight before your day or after a stressful fuck you day and suddenly you go why in the fuck isn't this part of everyone's routine.
Way too late to this but establishing a routine when you're depressed. I didn't see how making my bed or waking up at the same time every day would actually make an impact on my mood but the consistency of a routine added stability to my life that was desperately needed.
Breath in through your nose and out your mouth. When I was a young tornado, my mom would always tell me to do that breathing technique. But of course, as a stubborn the brat I was, I never did it. But now, with anxiety increased from school and general life, I now do that technique and damn it does it work.
Move your wrists around more if you have a desk job! My yoga teacher told me to do wrist circles daily because I was telling her how sore my wrists were. I thought she was crazy and that was too simplistic for this very serious medical problem I had. Nope, just needed to move them!
Positive thinking. I was an extremely pessimistic person for YEARS and only recently have discovered how different my subjective experience interacting with my environment is with positive framing.
I'm 27 and was still breaking out a lot 2 years ago. I was annoyed because I'm an adult and I thought my skin would clear up. My coworker told me to cut out dairy and I thought was just another "no greasy foods, no chocolate" but I tried it (no milk, ice cream, yogurt. I still have a little cheese and things cooked with dairy) and bam, my skin really improved. It's been 2 years and still going strong. Whenever I slip up, my face breaks out.
Sounds really off topic maybe , but actually putting a timer for two minutes when brushing my teeth. I always felt that the timer was โuselessโ , but more just being a timer for other things I guess... I sound like a idiot.
I always brush my teeth for too short a time. I need to remember to do this.
Vozz27 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:41:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When losing weight, just make little changes to your diet.
It helped me so much, first I added a banana to my lunch at work, then I've started drinking a protein shake in the morning. It helped me so much & I didn't get tired of eating/drinking those healthy things.
โAlways give a day to yourself if possibleโ- My Uncle. It really helps my mental health just having that day where Iโm not doing any work and I donโt have to worry about anything for just that day
Learn to have healthy coping mechanisms. Instead of going into a downward spiral focus your energy on things that are good for you like cleaning your space, getting out to do some exercise or spending time with people you love. I always thought I could only soothe myself through isolation and self sabotage until I started focusing on working out and cleaning and masking healthy meals when I could feel my depression getting bad and the results have been incredible. Anytime I feel sad I can look at how much weight Iโve lost (20 lbs) how cute and nicely decorated my room is now and how Iโve been able to open up more and I feel more motivated to keep going.
I had throat inflammation, i could not stop coughing for days and probably a week to the point that i started wheezing hard, my housemate suggests that i try leaning to the left when sleeping on the bed, then i tried that for 3 days straight and it got better, something about your stomach acid not reaching your throat if you lean to your left? Idk.
This is actually advice I got when I was pregnant. The esophagus comes out of the right side of the stomach and up your throat. If you lay on the left, there's less of a chance for stomach acid to breach the opening and travel up the esophagus. Saved me many nights of unneeded heartburn.
Twirling my spaghetti anti-clockwise on the fork. I thought what the fuck you talking about, but she was right. It stays on the fork better. Ex-wife now though.
Control your breathing. I use to swim and I guess I heard this a lot but was like whatever, I'll get better as I practice. I was always gassed just from warming up though until one day it was pretty intense and I tried to focus on my breathing, then bam, I wasn't tired anymore from things like just warming up.
Prepare for the worst, and hope for the best.
I was told this at such a young age but it stuck with me. Whenever my mother made plans with me, I would be so excited, but then she would bail last minute. I learned to always expect something to go wrong, but always enjoy the moment when it went accordingly. It has made me into a more positive person that can enjoy life and whatever it may bring.
Deep. Breaths. In for a count of 5. Out for a count of 8. Slow. Down.
oniwuff ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:46:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An ex of mine didn't believe "squinting" would improve your vision slightly.. needless to say, at some point in our relationship did he finally attempt it and felt dumb for making other ppl feel dumb about it.
Always expect the worst.
That way, if the worst thing that could happen actually happens, you're mentally prepared for it. And if anything better than the worst happens, you're instantly in a better mood because you were expecting the worst.
bisteot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A better for me is hope for the best, plan for the worst
When you need to do something, tell yourself โin 6 seconds Iโll do itโ and count down from 6. I donโt know why it works but it really does in my experience
Either put left contact in first then right or vice versa. Don't switch because then you'll mess up your contact prescription if your eyes are different.
This work wonders when I was learning how to use contacts in high school and couldn't see where I put my contacts.
Never mixed them up since.
bishdoe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:50:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just take a second and look at nature sometimes.
My buddy told me this when we talked about my depression at the time and my first response was basically โthanks Iโm curedโ but then I actually did it when I would be walking to a lecture or something and holy shit that actually helped a lot in the long run. Initially I felt like a fool for just looking up at the trees when everyone else either looked straight forward or at the ground but after a little bit I started getting into it and now Iโve got a real love of nature and a distinct lack of depression. Sometimes I just go outside and look at plants now and itโs pretty much the highlight of my week
When youโve lost something and canโt find it no matter how much you try and think, look in the places you donโt think itโll be.
Looking where you think it may be and retracing your steps is a good start, but if youโve already done that a couple of times itโs more likely to be somewhere you wonโt have thought of. Do the silly thing of checking the fridge for your keys or under the bath mat for your wallet.
Even if itโs not there by taking your mindset away from being caught up in how you canโt find it, youโre more likely to remember bits of information that will help you.
Shawaii ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:51:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never trust a fart.
Never waste an erection.
Never pass a urinal without using it.
Told to me by my 80+ year old manager many years ago. I didn't realise, then, how valuable these words of wisdom were. The older I get, the more I relate.
If something takes less than 2 minutes to do, do it right away. Really helped me complete the smaller tasks so I could move onto the big ones.
ludanto ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:52:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try new things.
I used to get so annoyed when people would tell me this. "I don't want to try new things, I like the things I already know." Thing is, every thing I like was once a new thing. Since I've started trying new things, I've discovered many new foods and activities that I love. You don't have to continue to do the new thing, you just have to try it.
MichuV5 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:52:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean your own room.
Like, I feel physicaly better but also my mimdset is a lot healthier when I have some order around.
Drink water after you are done with vodka.
I have pretty weak stomach so I was sure that it would cause me to throw up. But I had almost no hangover after I tried
Don't be afraid of breaking something. Trust that there's enough talent in your body or information online or smart people to turn to that whatever you break can be fixed.
You can learn so much by just poking around and exploring, but too often people will leave it be because they don't want to mess anything up. This applies to computers, cars, relationships, houses, anything really.
Fellow parents, let me give you some hard-earned learning.
ADD is both over-diagnosed and under-diagnosed, because people -- including yours truly, as of ten years ago -- don't really understand it.
The key point is that people with ADD don't have a problem with focusing, but they have a problem with being able to direct their focus. Being so focused that they don't notice that the building is on fire is as much a symptom as not being able to focus on their schoolwork.
And it's a truly devastating disability.
Its cause is physical, which is why treating the body with a good diet, healthy exercise and yes, medication, works. Stimulants raise the amount of two chemicals in the body that ADD people don't have enough of.
If you have ADD, don't be afraid to medicate.
Build68 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:57:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do a sleep study. Sleep apnea, and now that i have the magic breathing machine, so much more energy.
I have seen Things on making your bed before you leave your house makes you feel better when you get home.I tried it and after a long day just laid on my bed not worrying about getting my mattress covers dirty is pretty nice.
I don't know if this applies to trying it, but my dad is a very talented and smart man when it comes to hands on things. Electrical, carpentry, mechanical, etc. He does it all and is well known for it in my home town. I remember once when I was about 13 I was helping him with a job, and I wired everything backwards. So as soon as we threw the breaker it tripped. I was so embarrassed. He told me, "If you never make mistakes you never learn anything ". And that has stuck with me to this day. Anytime I go to do something new and I start worrying about making a mistake I remember that.
On a life hack thing it said if you close one eye then look at your nose itll not feel like it's there anymore and I thought this was fake but when I got something in my eye and di that it worked
Slowing your breathing and practicing deep breathing when youโre anxious, having an anxiety attack or are otherwise worked up. I used to roll my eyes all the time about it (apparently so did my therapist) until I (same for my therapist) found out that there is actually a scientific basis for it.
4-7-8 is a beautiful breathing exercise, look it up by Dr.Andrew Weil.
It's helped my recovery ten fold.
sweadle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:15:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also try washing your face with cold water. We have a reflex to hold our breath and then breath normally when our face hits water. It can resume normal breathing.
A cold shower does the same trick. Cold enough that it makes you catch your breath.
eotabby ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:08:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To retry foods that I didnโt like when I was younger. I used to hate avocado, crab, coffee, and burgers that had anything on them except ketchup. All the wasted years...
jlk422 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:08:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โDonโt sweat the small stuff.โ Easier said than done, but lovely advice from my favorite high school teacher.
I spent up until about a year ago doing everything I could to take what is commonly referred to as "my hair", but is actually a biologically independent being that gets smarter the more you mess with it. It can and will retaliate at every opportunity. I finally went to a stylist who GETS IT. She helped me find a low-maintenance style and cut I could work with, not against. No more blow dryers or straighteners or frizzballs on my head.
It's just so much easier and I'm SO much more confident. Feeling better about myself has made me kinder and more approachable, as well.
Not to mention the money and time I save on products and doing battle on the daily. Spritz of leave in conditioner, and I'm good to go. (I know not everyone can afford a stylist-I go maybe twice a year since budgets are a thing. But her daughter is a friend of ours and has given me a cut as a gift for birthdays/Christmas so we've been really lucky. A typical cut and color for me clocks in around $140 with a big tip because I love Jenny and I have A TON of hair.)
Thank you, Jenny. I OWE MY SANITY TO YOU.
P.S. Tip your stylist. Be good to your stylist. Love your stylist. They will always take care of you.
by_whom ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:15:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A bit late, but someone once told me if I'm in a tough situation that's getting to me, I should loudly and fabulously declare:
Bow chicka wow wow
Which is advice I ignored for a long time. Until a tried it. And it does an excellent job of reminding me not to take myself too seriously.
Not drinking coffee (any coffee, including decaf) or highly caffeinated drinks, like energy drinks or sodas, in excess or at all. Personally, I don't drink coffee or energy drinks period, and then soda only occasionally, but even just cutting down on these things helps you so much. I know lots of people say they rely on coffee to wake themselves up, but that's honestly really not healthy. I would even venter to say that it could be addictive...but that's not for me to determine.
I thought that it wasn't a big deal, but I can honestly tell the difference in how I act and feel after drinking caffeine as opposed to how I felt before.
Eli1026 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:17:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I have trouble relaxing I listen to "weightless" by Marconi union. It plays for a solid 10 hours when using YouTube. I usually end up calling asleep.
Another thing that helps me fall asleep is turning on Forensic Files. That narrators voice just does the trick.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:19:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"If they're crabby put them in water." Never really paid attention to it till one day my firstborn wouldn't stop crying because he was sick. Only thing that could give him some peace (and me.). It's worked miracles for my other 2 ever since.
StvnPdx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:27:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking a spoon to ginger. I thought they were messing with me at first. Peeled away like a dream....then I felt dumb
First thing in the morning, say out loud something that you like about yourself. You have to actually say it, and it canโt be something youโve said in the last week. As an example, this morning I said โI like that making people laugh comes naturally to me.โ
I donโt know if thereโs any science to it, but being that itโs the first thing I say and the first thing I hear every morning, it kinda sets the tone for the day. Youโd be amazed how such a little thing makes your day significantly better.
If you donโt already, drink more water. Not kidding and not trying to make a slot for someone to reference waterniggas. Being hydrated affects all aspects of your life. If youโve gotten used to living life partially dehydrated, you will be a new person. Especially how much better your sleep is.
I was exceedingly self deprecating. A defense mechanism for sure. But a "cool' friend once said "do you think I'm cool and would I hang out with you if you were such a loser? Stop it." So the advice is not to downgrade yourself to others. Be real, but realize your strengths along with your weaknesses.
A. Tape a piece of paper over your graphics tablet to get used to the texture, makes it feel so much better and
B. Write out answers to math problems like essays, with your reasoning worded out and stuff. Sounds weird and laborious (it is), but it got my math grades from C's to A's like magic. My math teacher told us to do that in 9th grade and it took me until almost 12th to try it...
I've always had issues drawing people, and never really managed to "find the shapes" for some reason. People always use boxes and hourglasses, but I found a thing on Google that was literally just body shapes drawn a specific way. I started by copying one of the easier body shapes down, and realized holy shit this is how to do it and now I can draw people (albeit not the best people, but at least semi-realistic)
Keep a journal and write down major events in my life. I have a tendency to get embarrassed over things I shouldn't and to bottle up all my other emotions until I explode. I've learned that writing things down helps me to release my emotions at a more convenient time than waiting until I explode, and with embarrassing things, I feel like reading what I wrote really helps me to see how ridiculous it is that I feel embarrassed and move on.
My dad told me that I decide whether or not I'm happy. That sounded so stupid because there's all these outside factors that really fuck with me and will turn my whole day to shit. Once I grew the fuck up, I realized I was letting little shit get to me and keep me from appreciating the fact that I'm living life. All I needed to do was decide that no matter what, I was going to have a good day. Some days it's harder than others, but I always go to bed happy and wake up ready for the day.
Sorting by new on Reddit, At first thought, it would be useless along with the sorting by new meme until I realized I kept getting the same threads over and over again. Now I found a lot of interesting post from my favorite boards.
P.S. This thread was on the top of my list when I got on.
Going to bed and waking up at the same time each day. It was really hard at first, just laying there unable to sleep but once my body adjusted it helped reduce my stress and also my nights sleep leaves me feeling fully rested.
You can get rid of hiccups by drinking a glass of water upside down. No, dumbass you don't need to do a handstand, just bend over and with your head upside down, drink from the opposite side of the cup.
In my experience, doctors are the worst people to ask for dietary advice. They get minimal dietary education, but being smart, are quite cocky about it.
You can drink too much water, but the main issue is too rapid of water intake.
I would recommend talking to a registered dietitian for any information regarding food and drinks.
Apologize and own up to something bad that you did without making any excuses. Makes you seem mature and people will be more forgiving to whatever bad thing you did.
If you are sick and you can't breathe through your nose, find the spiciest pepper you can and take a big bite and chew thoroughly. It's like a nuke but for your sinuses. I never thought it was useless but I never really liked spicy things. One day I decided that being able to breathe was worth more than mouth pain.
oatea ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:44:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trying to be happy
I mean it means a lot more than just pretend you're happy but I'm recovering from depression and it's because I tried really hard to be happy
Drawing to vent. It works for me, but might not for others. I used to live my life from the age of 12 wanting to kill myself and on my first day of highschool someone told me they could tell I wasn't alright and told me to try venting in a non-harmful way like drawing, writing, or making a video diary. Drawing was what worked for me. If you are going through a ruff time try venting or talk to someone.
Having patience not just with people but with life. I am a teen when I was younger though i always thought that everything for me needs to happen now due to social peer pressure like being mature or being an responsible adult to society and not just having fun with the people around me in the moment. I learnt this the hard way, I when through high school not learning much social cues with people around my age the trends and etc and ending up being the quiet one not understanding anyone around me.
oneinch ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:46:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You reach your bottom when you quit digging." - made me mad as hell when I was told that, but he was 100% right.
Godredd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:48:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking deep breaths to calm you down, stabilize your mood, or give you the ability to press forward with something you're uncertain about.
I though that was the dumbest fucking thing I've ever heard in my life. Like REALLY just doing an exaggerated version of what I ALREADY do is somehow gonna fix things? No, get that the fuck outta here.
Then, one day, I just found myself shit outta luck, having nothing else to console me, no weed, no sex, no money, it was just me and some really nerve-wracking social situation/career advancement opportunity.
I said, fuck it, what have I got to lose, and after 10 slow, long, CORRECT breaths (those who play wind instruments will know what I'm talking about), I felt like a new man. I was completely calm and collected and felt, for some weird, undeserved reason like I could take on the world, and I did, for sure that day.
Hasn't failed me since, I just don't remember to apply it all the time as much as I should.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:48:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I'm in a bad mood I'll compliment a stranger. I don't know why but it makes me happy for the rest of the day
xubax ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:41:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A few weeks ago i was on a commuter train. Two women were standing in the aisle waiting to disembark. One of them (she had white hair) mentioned that a hairdresser or someone said, "are you thinking of doing something with your hair? You know it's going gray? "
I said without thinking, "you're rocking it". She asked if i meant it and i said i did. She told me she really appreciated that and thanked me.
I was happier for the next 24 hours or so than i ever remember being. I'm 55. I know I've been depressed at least since the age of 12 and probably earlier than that. I'm on meds. I've had therapy. I'm on my second marriage and have two kids. And this 90 second interaction profoundly changed my life. For a day. I tried to hold onto it. I've tried to find her just to have a cup of coffee or something, but i was on a train i don't usually take.
One time I read on Reddit somewhere that if your ever homeless, get a cheap gym membership so you always have access to water and showering and you clean your clothes there. Never thought Iโd ever be homeless.
Well several years later gotta a little down on my luck and was having trouble finding some good paying work. I mean I had enough money in my savings to have a place, but I wasnโt trying to blow all my money on rent so I just lived in my truck and got a gym membership for a few months till I started getting a steady paycheck again. So moral of the story, donโt blow some advice just because youโll never think itโd happen to you
Just today I fixed my wireless mouses (g403) double click issues by breathing into it. It's been having issues for months. I was researching either RMA or replacing the switches themselves today and came upon a reddit post that explained the issue with static buildup in the clickers, and how to discharge it with moisture.
That you can really control wether youโre happy or not and the sooner you choose to be happy or change your mindset the easier things will be. If you never try to enjoy things and always have a negative out look things will always be negative. I kept myself from being happy for years because I never realized I could be happy I was always holding myself back with negative and pessimistic. Be positive and opened minded looking for that growth and you will receive it.
Compliment coworkers to leadership. They almost always hear complaints about people, it makes them happy to know things are going well and they usually treat the staff better.
Force your tongue to the palate (Is it right? The inside top of your mounth? Like in portuguese is Mouth's Sky) but anyway, force your tongue into there when having your brain get frozen by a ice cream.
Plus look straight to the place you wanna go and people will oppen a path for you to pass.
Having a schedule. I used to go to bed at 6am and wake up at 3 and watch tv all day. My therapist recently put me on a schedule. I wake up around 8 and shower everyday then eat breakfast etc etc etc. It helps a lot. Like, really.
I hate to say this because I feel like I know how people will react (like I used to upon hearing this) but faking it till you make it actually helps somewhat. It doesn't cure anxiety or social awkwardness or shyness but it can really help you navigate your way to possibly getting over those. I'm a strange mix of outgoing and anxious/shy because, due to work, I had to fake it and it helped me a little.
I'm sure there are others but that one came to my head immediately.
Edit: and now I see someone already said this and they were gilded. Why am I always 5-10 hours late to threads?!
Stop planning and do what you can when you can. I realized I spent so much time trying to theoretically make time for everything that I never did the things I wanted or planned. So I just started doing whatever I could whenever I could and little by little it became so easy that now I have to force myself to stop the tasks to get enough sleep haha. I hope that made sense.
That the little stuff matters. Like, instead of a whole meal, have an apple or something like that. Drink water and if you donโt want to hardcore exercise, walk outside. Yes even in a hoodie because you sweat more then which means more weight lost.
I was told while working drive through that you should smile, bc even if they cant see you, they can hear it, which I thought was creepy but interactions between customers became much easier
Developing things called triggers that people used to tell me to do in door to door sales. I/E Donโt put on your hat until you get to location/throw in a piece of gum as soon as you start knocking. Surprisingly really helps switch gear back into salesman mode if you do it consistently.
Stuff toothpicks into stripped out screw holes in wood before you put the screw back in. I thought this was one of those silly grandpa repairs until I tried it and it's now holding in most of the hinge screws on a door.
I heard a YouTube Ted Talk, the speaker said she couldnโt get out of bed in the morning, miserable, indecisive, going nowhere, marriage was failing, etc. She could not be asked to deal with her life.
Fed up she tried this stupid thing she heard about, count down from 5 when youโre laying in bed in the morning. When you get to 1, jump out of bed. Oddly, she would jump out of bed.
Itโs so effective that I have to catch myself, I donโt count down from 5 any more. Lol
If youโre feeling anxious focus on something you can see, something you can smell, something you can hear and something you can touch. It grounds your body and calms it down.
Laying down on your left side stops heart burn. Sounded like complete BS. Tried it one time, went away instantly. Although it comes back once you sit back up lol
Make lists of everything you have to get done, from the most menial tasks like "throw out the trash" to "work on essay." Something about seeing items crossed off is so damnรฉd pleasing
pcy623 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:15:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bit late to the party but here's my contribution:
If you start getting tinnitus in an ear, cover it with the palm of your hand, get a good air tight seal, and pump 5-7x times until it hurts a little. The ringing usually goes away for me.
My car has a push to start button. I was on a road trip hundreds of miles and from home and 1 day my car won't start. I just get nothing pressing the button. Had no idea what was wrong. I googled possible solutions and nothing seemed quite right and then I found 1 post that sounded like mine and the comment to fix it was to push the push to start button with the top of the key fob. I thought that's the stupidest thing I've ever heard but had no other choices so tried it and sure enough the car started. I guess the battery in the key fob died and if you use the fob itself to push the button it works.
Create a vision board. It seems like such a cute waste of time but when finally got around to doing it changed my life. Also, ask for what you want in life. Be clear what you want. Do the prep work first by figuring out this one thing and vision board the heck out of it. This is key.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:26:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed every morning. I used to think this was pointless as a kid, but it isnโt. It makes your life feel much more put together. Iโm not saying the sheets need to be pressed and everything look perfect. Just pull up your comforter and prop up the pillows. It will make your space feel much neater than it actually and takes less than a minute to do.
Ask for help when you aren't in a good place mentally. Growing up I thought I was bulletproof, and that it was my family that was 'weak.'
Mental health doesn't give a shit about your ego. Fast forward and I was a 27 year old in a disaster of a messy apartment (I'm usually pretty neat), drinking every day, routinely breaking down and crying alone to myself, and wondering if my ex from 2 years prior would ever want me back (she didn't, and our breakup was actually initiated by me, but in my mind she was the last girl who would ever show interest).
Asked for, and got, help, and happy to say I'm in a much, much better place. Mental health is no joke. Good therapists are as close as we have to miracle workers, IMO.
gjaho ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:28:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Believing in God. Changed my psyche for the better!
If you go to the toilet and you leave behind a floater, take some hand soap and squirt a little bit in there (bonus points if you hit the poop) and flush again. Works 98% of the time. Sounds completely stupid until you're sharing a place with people and cannot afford leaving a piece of poop floating around - then this advice will save you.
Using notecards while presenting. All throughout high school I thought it would make you seem unnatural and scripted but after I was forced to in a public speaking class Iโve used them ever since.
Kinda benign but drywall anchors. Idk why I just always would toss a nail in the wall for a picture frame so what was the point of the little plastic deals and getting out a drill? I shrugged them off for way too long and made so many unnecessary weak and broken holes when I started actually mounting shelves orb larger items. They are truly amazing.
When I had anxiety/depression I thought really low of myself, my therapist told me to say those things out loud to a mirror, tried it one day and realised how stupid those thoughts were. Was a real help to me tbh.
If you have a runny nose or heavy cough. Before you go to bed, rub a bunch Vick's on the bottom of your feet. Put a pair of socks on. Go to sleep. It feels weird at first, but you will wake up feeling amazing.
Didn't believe it when my wife first told me, now I do it every time I feel something coming. Doesn't work every time, I would say 90% of the time.
Got Hiccups? Stand up. Sip a mouthful of water into your mouth and hold it there. Lean over so the top of your head points directly at the floor. Swallow the water. Stand up slowly. No more hiccups. Repeat if necessary, but has always worked on the first try for me.
Stimulates the epiglottis and shuts down the spasms.
Just holding your breath until it gets uncomfortable works, too. Repeat if needed. Got rid of every hiccup within five tries. I think all the tricks with holding water etc in the end are actually about holding your breath.
Don't ever, for any reason, do anything, to anyone, for any reason, ever, no matter what, no matter where, or who, or who you are with, or where you are going, or where you've been, ever, for any reason whatsoever
Deadpool has been out for a few years now and I still say "Maximum Effort!" before I do anything I don't want to do. It's surprisingly effective.
mcjon77 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:41:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
EASY. There was this kind of scruffy looking guy in college, who all of a sudden was going out with these BEAUTIFUL girls. It made no sense whatsoever. Me and some other nerds asked him how he did it, what was is secret.
He said "I found out that if you just ask a girl out, she will usually say yes." That was it. No master class in "game", just ask girls out. Complete bullshit.
I dismissed it. While back home on break, I was talking to a friend (or should I say, a girl who had friendzoned me for 6 years) about what he said, and the girl flat out said that she would go out with any guy who asked her, at least to give him a shot. 3 other girls in the room agreed. I was shocked.
I got back to school from break and tried it out. I'll be damned if it didn't work like a charm. From then on, I was asking girls out all the time. I was going out 1-3 times a week. It was heaven. Not every girl said yes, but MOST did. The other weird part is that there was ZERO correlation between how attractive a girl was and whether or not she said yes.
And if anyone thinks that I am some hunk who just didn't realize he was hot, I am tall (6'4"), but I was also overweight (300lbs+) and a total geek with no fashion sense. I had no business going out with the quantity and quality of women I went out with back then, but it happened.
moe87b ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:46:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had an iPhone 4s that refused to connect to WI-FI, searching on the Internet, people said that if I put it int the freezer for 15 minutes it will work, I did it, it worked for a few days and then it became a routine, every couple of days, I put my phone in the freezer for 15 minutes
Slow down when youโre talking. It allows people to have more to absorb what youโre going so say, and if you donโt know what to say next donโt say filler words such as โahโ or โum.โ Just donโt use them and pause instead. Itโll make the silence seem intentional when in reality youโre looking for your last train of thought.
Alternatively you could repeat what you last said to make it seem like your emphasizing a point before leading into what you want to say next.
It saves you from seeming like you didnโt prepare well during a presentation/at a loss for words.
Physically writing down college notes to improve memory retention. I thought typing things was more efficient and a better use of my time. When I started writing things down, my memory retention of the subject matter increased higher than I thought it would. I'll still type things out, but then I'll go back over my notes and physically write the important bits a few times.
I swear I am not an aggro person and I have never use my knife to harm anyone. But blades have this violent stigma that prevents people from realizing a fantastic tool.
I was gifted a few knives (2+) in quick succession, and decided to start carrying them around. To my great surprise, I found myself using the knives almost every day. You would be surprised how many seconds you save opening packages or scraping surfaces or separating two very closely aligned objects with a blade instead of your fingers.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:06:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spend 10 minutes learning about calories/macros, then start tracking them, and you can forget about 95% of fitness advice you've ever heard and immediately start seeing results for the first time in your life.
It's easy af with apps now. I put it off for years cause I thought it was unrealistic. Then I finally committed to it half a year ago and I've made more progress in 6 months than I had in the previous 6 years.
Add lifting heavy weight and you can look like whatever you want within 12-24 months.
Meditation. Sounded boring and a little bit silly to my skeptical self. Turns out itโs the cheapest, easiest way Iโve found to cope with stress and anxiety.
Love is a choice, not something that happens to you. You are not an object to be acted upon, quit acting like you are. Own your choices, once you understand this you will never "fall in or out of love" but you will choose who you love and be happy about it.
Put a teaspoon of soy sauce in a bowl of vanilla ice cream and mix it up. I swear it tastes like butterscotch. I learned that trick from another navy guy and I was dead sure it was a prank until I watched him do it and let me try some.
Ask for help. No matter how smart you are. Learn to ask people so you know how to do it when you actually need it. I was a cocky POS back then and it surely came back to bite me until I learnt this lesson.
Boopy7 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:20:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting up early and getting going, but I can't do it very well because I am lazy. Plus I dread each day. I only get up for breakfast and then want to go back to bed.
"You seemed stressed out, you should try meditation."
This really used to annoy me in the past. Like, I'm stressed because of specific things, and as long as those things stay the same, meditation isn't going to help me.
I started mindfulness meditation a few weeks ago on a whim, because a monk was offering free group sessions at my university. It's already helping me so much, and I can feel that my emotional responses to adverse events in my life have become a lot healthier.
Can't poop? Lift your arms up above your head and hold them there, push your chest out a little so that you're not hunched. Lift up your knees a little as well.
It tends to work best with outside-the-box thinking, put the right thoughts in, the right attention, and you'll get out what you want and probably more. Be smart with it.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:22:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed every morning. Makes such a difference in your room looking clean. Plus, itโs super satisfying to jump into a nice neat bed.
If you r constipated or think you are done taking a shit, reach around to your left side as though you are reaching around to scratch to your left rib with your right hand then turn and face your left. Then push out a loogie..
Every day, make at least one person glad that you're around.
Roxxso ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:24:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Had some guy tell me that a great way too get over flying anxiety was to, once you get where you're going, take your shoes and socks off and make fists with your toes. I thought he was crazy, but I tried it and it totally worked.
Of course, a bunch of thieves masquerading as terrorists came and screwed things up, but my flying fears were all gone!
Drink water as the solution to literally everything. โIโm feeling kinda down and I donโt know why.โ Try some water. You might just be dehydrated. โIโm so anxious rn.โ Drink some water. โI have a terrible headache.โ Water again. โI just ate but Iโm feeling snacky.โ Drink a glass of water. โMy skin is terrible!โ Water, again!
It sounds dismissive but water seriously cures SO MANY OF LIFEโS PROBLEMS!
Overnight oats. Mix equal parts of milk and oats in a bowl, and let it rest in the fridge overnight. When you wake up you'll have this nutritious pudding, to which you can add jam, muesli or whatever else you'd like. Because of how the food is built, you'll have energy that stays with you for the entire day
Saves you from saying something youโll regret. I preach it to my students as they reach the age where the โdramaโ begins and as they mature into young adults.
If you genuinely take a second to think twice about what youโre about to say, not only can it save you from saying something youโll regret, it allows you to process whatever you want to say and possibly say it more effectively, helpfully, carefully, clearly, etc.
SovArya ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:28:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you never know until you try.
having thought of every counter argument, upon trying - i was able to succeed in it. it's very powerful but got to temper the doubt barrier.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:28:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โItโs either two minutes now or two grand later.โ My dad on cleaning your teeth
Putting your car key/alarm to your chin (or any body part really) will increase the signal range. Handy when youre at a big parking lot and not sure where your car is!
Something to do with the fact that our bodies are mostly water and the water is a better signal conductor than air. I felt stupid the first time I tried it but it def works!
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:31:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be yourself. Iโm was in sales and my sales manager saw that I was a different guy when I was working compared to who I was at sales meetings and social events. He just said โyour a funny guy, just be that guy and people will like you, be yourselfโ. I gave it a shot and it changes everything.
Chewing gum when chopping onions to stop the tears and stinging. I donโt even like gum. I donโt understand why it works and I didnโt expect that it would, so Iโm pretty sure itโs not psychological
Me neither. But then again, I've actually tried it, and it was a pretty big perception shift. Not saying anything, scanning things on Reddit tend to lead to misinterpretations. But at this point, if I got 5 words in, I'd be all like NOPE.
I was beyond sleep deprived in the beginning. But these little cat naps really did help! All the house work can wait, you need to take care of yourself so you have the energy to take care of the baby. 9 months in, my house is still a mess, but my family is well taken care of.
As someone who wasn't big on using computers for a while, I always thought it was stupid how much pressure teachers put on learning to type fast through school. Now I'm at about 70 wpm and wow I cannot imagine ever going back to 35 wpm I would struggle so much.
Take the time to become a quicker typer! Do a couple typing tests a day! It's worth it!
If you want to incorporate a behavior into your daily routine, try and pair it with something you already do regularly, as a reminder, and for 3 weeks push yourself to do the thing each time it comes up and you will find that you no longer need to think about doing the thing, it will have become part of your daily routine.
Stand up with your back straight and your shoulders back. I started doing this a couple months ago because I read it on a Jordan Peterson thing. I didnโt really think it would do anything but for a month now I have been getting complimented on my posture which has been cool.
116rip ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:41:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
go for a half an hour walk every day
i_roh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:41:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't attack peoples opinions or comments on reddit(any platform.)
When you wanna reply to a comment just type it, wait for a while(5mins max?)
Then check it for typos and/or mind change and then most of the times you'll just delete the reply rather than sending it in the heat of the moment.
Will save you a lot of agruing and make you more calmer to send a better reply.
I do this most of the times and 90% I never reply to anything just ponder about it and let it.
I spilled coffee on my keyboard, and it stopped working after that. My co-worker suggested that I dunk it underwater. I had nothing to lose, so I figured I'd try it.
Exercise to benefit mental health. I went through a really rough time with anxiety and depression, people told me exercise would make me feel better. I thought it sounded like totally useless information and of course, they were right. Nothing works as well as medication, or professional help, but it sure does help me pull out of a slump.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:43:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Self talk in various forms.
One day I was just a huge ball of stress and focusing on all the negatives in life like crazy. At some point, I just got fed up with myself and decided I was over feeling like shit. I did some deep breathing and started saying positive mantras to myself. I framed everything as if it already is. For eg. "I feel happy" vs. "I want to feel happy". I did it for about 5 mins and when I stopped I felt a million times better. I legit feel like I averted a panic attack by repeating a bunch of positive shit to myself.
Another one I sometimes use when I feel stuck in a state of procrastination is a One Step at a Time method. Say I'm lying in bed and really don't want to get up. I say each step out loud for the process of getting up. For eg. 1) Wiggle my right foot. 2) Move my right leg closer to the edge. 3) Wiggle my left foot. It may take like 20 steps to get up but eventually, I'm standing next to my bed and all the resistance just leaves me and I get going with my day.
Taking my vitamins regularly. I was one of those "yeah yeah yeah, when it becomes an emergency I'll take some tablets," people. Well my doctor nagged atme so much that I was like okAY!! and now I'm not a cranky tired bitch with no appetite all of the time.
Fill a bowl with ginger or apple ginger and place Duran wrap around it. Then poke holes in the Duran wrap. This attracts baby flying roaches. I thought I never use it till I forgot to clean dishes Defoeโs I left town for a trip. That damn thing caught like 50 in a few days. The bugs go in and find them selves trapped and then later die.
When driving, don't look where you're going, look where you want to go. Nobody believed this when we were taught it in driving school, including me. Until I tested it more out of spite, and suddenly I could take corners easily with speeds that would have me lowside previously.
My Nintendo DSI back trigger buttons broke several years before. Advice said to shake the DS, then blow in at the side of the button. I have now fixed both mine and a friend's DS.
Eating mustard to get rid of heartburn. Once I tried it out of desperation. Now, I stopped taking prescription medication and just eat a TBSP of mustard instead.
I struggled with alcohol addiction for several years and the piece of advice that really helped me get sober was when my dad (completely unrelated to the addiction) said โmake sure you live in the lightโ as in natural light. Being outside in the sun made me just want to be more active, more positive and just be a nicer and better person. When he said it the more I thought about how much more โgoodโ happens in the sun vs how much easier it is to make poor decisions at night. I started walking more often, and going on hikes, even just laying out in the grass looking up at clouds alone affected me in positive way.
So if anyone here struggles with addiction, try living in the light. It certainly helped me
Going to shopping on a full or partially full stomach.
I did go on an empty stomach and oh boy, I bought all unnecessary, useless food items that 2err unhealthy and rocketed the bill.
g_hi3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:49:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I told my friend to drink sparkling water to keep awake (he was trying to drink less coffee). the reason I told him that is that I tried to use the placebo effect to make him believe it was true and I didn't really believe drinking water would help him
the same week I noticed that when I drink water after waking up, I would feel noticeably more awake
g_hi3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:57:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
also, be yourself
not only does it make you more attractive, but it costs a lot of energy going out of your way to appeal to someone (applies to relationships, work and other kinds of relationship)
jpipson ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:54:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it's bigger than your thumb, don't stick it up your bum.
Bugazug ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:58:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly. I actually got it from reddit, my apologies that I can't link the source
But basically it means like if you're depressed and don't want to brush your teeth, even doing a poor job is better than not doing it at all. Even if you don't feel like going outside, getting dressed is still a step in the right direction.
"It get easier with time" it sounds like a way to get you to calm down about things you don't want to but eventually you realize that all you have to do is start, whether that's breaking a habit, cutting off ties with toxic people, moving, or just generally trying to improve mental health. It sounds cheesey but "the first step's the hardest" is true, imo tho it's also actually the easiest.
Also clean your room over time so you don't have to haul 2 garbage bags of shame out the front door
Forgiving people and letting it go, because I have seen piece of shits in my life and if you don't forget it will stay in your mid, so just let them go and don't think about them
Hiccups can be cured by drinking out of the opposite side of the glass. For real. It sort of curls your chest and diaphragm as you swallow and relieves the cramping.
Before you leave work take 5 minutes to organise your work for the next day. Make a list of what you need to do and when you walk in the next morning youโll have a plan and structure. Works wonders and also stops you thinking about work stuff all evening.
Best advice on internet I found...
If it is not gonna matter in 5 years then don't spend more than 5 minutes being upset about it...
Helps you focus on work and develop more confidence and have good sleep(cause these type of shit keeps you awake at night๐)
Have a nice day!!!
If your depressed talk to someone and ask for help.
When I was younger and heard that I thought to myself โwell obviouslyโ. But you donโt realize how much effort it really takes to tell someone you feel low and ashamed of something in you/your life. You really do have to force yourself to do the right thing and reach out in the moment of just wanting to hide from the world and not exist.
This saved my sanity when pregnant and still regularly helps now four years later! It genuinely works, the nausea is just gone and often stays gone longer than tums or rennie works for.
Just a polo or mentos or a ginger tea and you are good to go again without throwing up!
Buy a dishwasher. You'll save on water, energy and time.
n1c0_ds ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:11:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You are responsible for having your needs met. If you need something, ask. If you have been wronged, say it.
If you have social anxiety, this is a lot more difficult. It became easier when I figured out that nobody would hate me because I asked for a glass of water or said that I didn't understand something. Brooding until I'm asked what's wrong is a lot more damaging than just saying it.
When doing an assignment or quiz or any kind of school work, anything is better than nothing.
If you canโt figure out a question, just write what you know, or take a completely random guess. The worst that can happen is youโll get a 0, which will happen anyways if you leave it blank. Also if you put down what you think you should do, even if itโs completely wrong, it may help you understand why you got it wrong retrospectively.
When looking for something you lost, ask yourself what sequence of events happened when you last had it. Your brain stores events better than locations so you're more likely to find it.
mac_n ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:15:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The secret to surviving air travel:
After you get to where youโre going, take off your shoes and your socks, then you walk around on the rug barefoot, and make fists with your toes.
This totally makes sense because a brain freeze is actually rapid constriction of sinus blood vessels near the roof of your mouth typically in the back. And the quick constriction of these blood vessels cause the nearby nerves to react causing the brain freeze.
It absolutely does! I was just unaware what was happening to my body when I got a brain freeze. Therefore, rubbing my tongue on the roof of my mouth seemed completely useless and silly.
Had a bad case of hiccups one day, you know the type when you can barely finish a sentence!
This guy I was with said for me to breath in as much as I could then to place the palm of my hand just under my ribcage (just under the base of your sternum though), push in firmly and hold it there and your breath for as long as you can then exhale slowly.
I called bullshit when he told me but dam it works well
"Pay attention to the teacher" as a kid I hated listening to the teacher. One day, for whatever reason, I watched the teacher's face and eyes as she spoke and really listened to each word, it felt like an epiphany. "Oh my god" I thought, "if I just watch her when she's talking about shit I'll get it." Guess I just didnt feel like looking at a wall or my desk or drawing so I watched her for a second and the information hooked me.
Just trying to ignore someone. I used to complain but if I tried, it was better.
MaaiWah ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:29:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you are planning on doing something exciting like performing, don't forget to enjoy. Being nervous can ruin a whole experience while you can also enjoy it. I have stage fright and this thought of just enjoying it has helped me a lot.
If you can't enjoy it, try to smile, smiling even fake smiling can help you feel happier
drexbus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:29:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't waste money daily on pointlessly expensive little treats. I used to "treat myself" to a coffees and cookies or sconces from overpriced coffee shops, usually at least twice a day, maybe a third time while I was doing evening classes, for about fifteen years. That's about an average of 8 dollars a day times roughly 365 days times 15 years: I spent something like $43,800 on coffees and pastries. When I think about what I could have done with that much money, it makes me fucking insane.
Now that I'm making my own coffee at home and buying pastries from the grocery store, I have a little bit of extra money that I can use to try to build the life and career I should have had. Once in a while, on special occasions or to reward myself for accomplishing something, I get a coffee and pastry out like old times; But half the time tasting it just reminds me of how much money I wasted on it, and how stupidly.
My motherboard had died in my old laptop after 3 years of use. Went on YouTube to find a fix and ended up finding a video saying that you should put it in the oven. Out of pure desperation, I tried it, and the computer started working, and kept working for the next 2 years.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:40:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Probably late to the party, but as an art major a lot of beginner artists forget to practice from references or forget the basics and are unhappy with the results.
Learned this the hard way myself by jumping into things that were way over my head way too early.
Learn the basics (composition, color theory, drawing from life). It seems silly but itโll make you a better artist.
60Dan06 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:43:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use a heat gun (or a fan or even the oven) on your dead graphic card.
I had a laptop for quite a long time and it finally decided to die. I tested it around and found out that graphic card is the problem.
Since repair shop told me that to repair it it would cost about as much as a new laptop (which wouldn't as I later found out, liars)
I had nothing else to lose. I opened it up, aimed the heat gun on the GPU and heat it up for a few seconds. After that leave it to cool down (DO NOT TOUCH THAT) and after that it magically starts to work!
The theory is that some wire connections are burnt and not properly connected. Heating it will melt it and reconnect it back together (that's why you need to cool it down and don't touch it, because you would move with the whole melted thing and kill it)
you gotta suck a cock fto know you don't like sucking cock.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:45:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't live in the past. I used to think it was impossible to truly live in the past and people were exaggerating. As I grew up I was diagnosed GAD and depression, and actively go to therapy now. I'm in a way better place mentally and am slowly rebuilding myself. A huge part of that was learning to focus on the now. Not what I said, what I did, what everyone else must be thinking, what I've done wrong, etc. Just focus on my goals and take it day by day.
Someone once said this on Reddit and it stuck: stop worrying about a bad thing happening which is out of your control. If it does happen youโll have gone through that bad thing twice. And if it doesnโt, you wonโt have gone through it at all.
Somehow it feels like better logic than just โstop worryingโ.
That you should try looking at and appreciating the little things in life. It doesn't sound like it's gonna have a huge impact on your everyday life but trust me. It's worth it.
moonjok ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:51:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My uncle told me that if someone faints, hold their legs up high. Thought is was crap until a girl at my acting club fainted and no one had any idea what to do so I thought "screw it" and held her legs up. When paramedics got there they gave me a pat on the back and said it made blood go to her head.
And then it turns out it was a stroke and you assisted in the clot remaining in the brain.
Honestly donโt help people if you arenโt the paramedic or doctor. Even if the intentions are well, they can unfortunately sue you and usually win. Worlds fucked up like that.
Example:
Save someone from choking to death but bruise their rib?
Just ask for help. It will never be "bad enough", but right now, it isn't "good enough" either so just get help.
LeoGin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:07:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A lot of people like to think about how they would go back in time to either experience something again or do something differently. I like to give the advice of living your day as if youโre already coming back to this very moment, enjoy every second. Make use of all the little things that we usually take for granted. It goes by quicker than we all think, so take as much in as you can. Itโs made me enjoy life a lot more, and Iโm way less worried about what the future holds and instead just grateful for what Iโve got in this very moment.
If you are ever stuck on a hard part in a video game then take a nap and or sleep on it and you'll find yourself pushing past that obstacle much easier after.
If you have water in your phone speaker play 2-3 heavy metal songs and the water will clear out.
GeeSpee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:12:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going to bed early consistently. You actually feel good when you wake up and donโt really feel the need to โsleep inโ more. Who wouldโve thought?!
while something is in the microwave, do a small task while its cooking
what else are you gonna do? look at your phone and accomplish nothing? sometimes i will get home and put something on in the microwave immediately before unpacking my shit
wipe down the bench, fix the cushions etc, anything is better than nothing!
Making your bed. It was the first step in becoming a tidy person for me. Previously my room always had clothes and junk thrown around it, and these days itโs always nice and organized. Makes me feel so much more relaxed and comfortable. Just taking that first step of making my bed every day gradually led to the rest.
Someone once taught me how to face myself and I honestly took the advice but didn't know how to apply it. Now that its hitting me in the face I wish I had understood sooner.
mrmesmg ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:31:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My old iPhone lost the ability to connect to wifi out of nowhere. Tried dozens of solutions, took it apart and put it back together countless times, then resorted to the most outlandish solution I found: putting it in the fridge for 5-10 minutes. Somehow, that fixed it for about a day at a time, just had to keep throwin it in the fridge every morning.
Amukoo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:32:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The willpower needed to quit smoking cold turkey successfully is less than the willpower needed to quit smoking by tapering- with or without vaping industry merch. They're just trying to fuck up your quit by feeding your addiction to their merch. Cold turkey is the easy way out.
Advise that myself and my wife tell our children:
When youโre thinking of buying something you โwantโ, wait 3 days. Think about if you actually want the item for those 3 days and if by the 3rd day you still want it, and can afford it, then go ahead and buy it. Usually by the 3rd day, the urge to just by random things you think youโll want has gone away. If it hasnโt, then it is something you actually want so go for it.
ausaur ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:39:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Pain isn't normal"
Growing up around working people, all my pains, physical and mental, were quickly dismissed.
"Oh, wait till you're my age"
"You're young, you'll bounce back"
"Welcome to the working world"
This mentality made me ignore my depression, my anxiety, severe nerve impingement, poor vision, scoliosis, and more until I met people who had never been around it.
Seriously, if there's a way for you to afford it, talk to a doctor about any pain you have, anything you're feeling. Make a list so you remember. Hand them the list. Do not be embarrassed, this is their job. And fuck anyone who tries to degrade you for working to be and feel better.
x_YC ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:44:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make sure it's plugged in
gabraww ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:46:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saying โ1,2,3, GO!โ To get myself up and do something rather than just telling myself Iโll do it soon. I have never failed it once. Got it from Steve-O.
Its true, it works. People who play victim and cant overcome adversity are destined to grow weary of failing before those who persevere through their failures and lifes challenges.
Clean my room.
I've always had a problem actually getting to work on my studies and having a clear desk and room really helps getting up and just getting on with studying.
I mean, this is silly. Of course, you're kind to yourself. Why wouldn't you be? Turns out, you're going through a bad breakup and the only guy you have for yourself is you? Yes, be nice and kind and patient to yourself, and you'll be so much better.
When browning cut up meat don't brown it all at once or you get too much liquid in the pan. Brown it a handful at a time and you get a nice crisp browning, plus more extra good stuff stuck to the pan to deglaze for sauce/gravy.
Don't worry about pooping when giving birth. Especially the final hurrah. The doctors, midwives, nurses have seen it all before. You won't be the first Mom to poop when pushing. Seven deliveries later- THAT advice I pass on to my friends. Did I poop? My sweetheart of a husband claims they cleared something away really quick when having baby#2 (pun intended) and my last baby (1st water birth) he claims something may or may not have floated up, but a quick nurse scooped it out of the water like scooping a goldfish from a tank.
Drink a glass of water when you wake up, before lunch and dinner, and a glass of water before bed. Sounds like something your mom would say but it has helped me immensely. I work out a bit and always felt stiffer during and then exhausted after. Really does help. Oh, and your shit comes out without having ton strain.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:11:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Swim parallel to the shore when caught in a riptide.
There weren't really any riptides in the placid Long Island Sound beachtown I grew up and took swimming lessons in. Fast forward to a few years later I am enjoying the comparatively massive waves of the Northern California and after tiring myself and letting my body temp drop a bit too far notice I am way farther out than I meant to be and I can't swim back in. I start to panic then remember an even more seemingly useless piece of advice which was 'if you think you are drowning, don't panic.' I treaded water for a bit then swam along parallel to the shore for a bit until I had some energy and the conditions seemed more favorable and doggy paddled my exhausted self in. Stood up on shore and tried to walk up the beach and immediately toppled over. Not sure if it was actually a riptide or if I just needed some time not fighting the surf to regroup. But either way that advice saved my life. Swim instructors of the world, you do important workโก
This is advice given to me by one of my supervisors at the company I work
This is situation dependent but in my profession (procurement at a construction company) it works well when negotating contracts. I used to rely on email A LOT when making offers. But calling someone and making an offer works so well for many reasons: you often get an immediate yes or no; any doubts or clarifications can be discussed; and you get real time feedback instead of back and forth emails which can sometimes span an entire day, so it is a huge time saver
There was lots of advice my therapist gave me for my anxiety/panic attacks (hypochondria) that just didn't work. There was one thing, however, that sounded really dumb to me but ended up doing the trick:
Make up an alternative theory, say it out loud. Then create triggers around the house (e.g. post-it notes) and whenever you see a trigger, you think of your alternative theory.
Took only two days to get from "I am sure I have cancer" to accepting "It's probably just muscle tension", something that would otherwise take me months...
Puggymon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:31:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
You are still here. Don't worry about things that happened or be scared of the future. You waded through all those problems, soldiered through so much crap to get right here. Yes it sucked, yes it was terrible but despite all the things the world has thrown into your way, you are still here. You are still alive.
My grandfather used to say that when I was a stupid, moody teenager and he was an ill man. Never really knew what he meant but as I grew older it slowly dawned on me. Life is bad at times. But it only is bad, because you can take it. It is a challenge you face and overcome, until it has nothing left it can throw at you. And at that point you are the winner.
โFake it til you make itโ depression to confidence even addiction all can be beat with that lil blip of advice. Idk if it was already said.
YU5AKU ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:35:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
The cashier literally doesn't care about your social awkwardness.
She just wants to do her job and go home. Luckily, the world doesn't revolve around you. That's not a negative thing. Just say that to yourself whenever you're scared about messing up an interaction with a stranger. There's less spotlight on you than you think. And also people will judge you or notice and care less about mistakes or your imperfections than you think. Stop thinking in other people's place.
Hexipo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:35:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt chase some idyllic โhappinessโ look around yourself and appreciate the happiness that is around you - it is there. Somewhere. Somehow
Look into the light when you need to sneeze... works 9/10 times. I have no idea how it works but I hate it when I need to sneeze but it doesn't come, only that tickling feeling, but when I look into the light (sun, lamp, whatever) then it does come and I can finally sneeze.
Being told (while obviously pregnant) - โHaving children will change your lifeโ - well, thanks Captain Obvious, but Iโm going to be the parent that will champion self-help books for the next century.
Now I realise they were only trying to warn me!
Entrepreneurial idea for free: get some friends to join you and write down exactly how you will parent before having kids (serious references as to how you will incorporate your child into your existing life are comedy gold) then a review 5 years later. This would be an amazing book and has potential for a reality TV series.
When I was in highschool/college I had mildly bad acne. Id try all these different washes and scrubs but it wouldnt go away. I even tried prescription face cremes.
My Mom would ALWAYS tell me to stop touching my face. Id ignore her and keep popping and zapping those blackheads.
The end of freshman year of college almost on a whim I decided to listen to her. I stopped touching my face almost completely (a big white head needs to go).
Within a few months my acne problem all but disappeared.
heck600 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:48:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn all the notifications off for apps like facebook and instagram
Meditation clears your mind. I used to be so stressed all the time skipping meals and loosing sleep, my friend kept telling me to meditate and obviously I blew it off thinking only hippies and yobbos meditate, but I tried it in desperation and didn't like it, but after watching videos on how meditation effects your psychological side rather than the spiritual, I tried it, and kept at it since and it's something I wish I done years ago
"just because you make more money doesn't mean you need to spend more money".
Background:
My dad came to the US with little to no money and worked his ass off to care for our family. He's an engineer and managed to do well for himself (currently VP at a company). When I was younger I always asked why he didnt want a nice car or a bigger house or etc.. he always said "just because you make more money doesn't mean you need to spend more money".
I didn't realize how important that would be until I recently started my first career and I'm saving a ton of money. It also makes for a great reply to friends who egg me on about not wanting to eat out or get drinks all the time.
My Mum had her cling wrap in the fridge, thinking she was just having a moment I put it in the pantry for her, until she saw me and said put it back in the fridge it works better!!
I was like Uhm righto... until I went home, put ours in the fridge, and what do ya know!! It works so much better, itโs less โstickyโ and fly away-ee.
tha_nut ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:56:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know if it's been posted yet but:
Measure twice, cut once. It's an old saying that you may have heard thousands of times but it will save you money, time and sanity in the long run.
Also, a bit of my own advice.
Don't buy cheap drill bits or painting equipment. If you spend good money on these, any work you do around the place will look a lot cleaner, better and usually take you less time.
Not useless, but I was told it and didnโt think it was too important till I had to deal with end results.
Do not flush your tampons at home, and try not to flush the โflushableโ wet wipes. Plumbers can be expensive especially if your sewer system isnโt easy to work with.
Source - I did plumbing for a few years.
Umnya ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:04:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't have to use it and I was the one that gave the advice, but I told a work colleague of mine that the easiest way to keep an even pace during CPR is to sing the song Stayin' Alive by the Bee Gees. The song's consistent beat proved helpful when he found himself administering CPR on a patient in the midst of cardiac arrest.
Making your bed every morning will help you overall in life.
It really does set an intention for your day and shows that you care about yourself/ your home. Tiny things like keeping one specific area clean or just taking a few minutes to tidy up really helps you feel less stressed on the bad days. Plus itโs always a nice treat to come home to.
When faced with a situation that makes you nervous tell yourself it doesnโt matter.
This helped me gain confidence with girls and in important areas such as job interviews. Additionally, considering the long term consequences of an action puts things into perspective. Oh I failed that test and it feels like the end of the world, well there is usually more than one test for my one class of many for only that single semester of all of my years at this school.
Go to the gym to help with mental health. Humans are meant to DO and when you get a chance to propel yourself past physical limits, its often easier to conquer mental limits :)
It took me way too many years to lug my depressed self into a gym and I wish I had done it sooner!
RSCyka ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:32:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you ask nicely people will do things against their interest. I read it on reddit somewhere.
I tried it yesterday, four times.
My friend was packing for his flight home. I asked if he could buy me lunch. He said no. But ended up doing so because "fuck it man you took your time today what's 20$ worth if it can't keep you full"
We arrived at the airport. His flight delayed so we had to rebook his connections. He always wanted to go to ฤฐstanbul. I asked nicely to the guy if there's any connection from there. He said yeah but it'll take me some time. I said please man my friend and I are pretty sad we missed the flight, he'll already be late, might as well see a city while he's on a trip. The guy hooked him up with a nice layover so he can go out and explore a bit when he's there.
I asked if he could hook us up with any "Sorry we fucked up" money for the delay. He said I can do 15$. I said what are we going to get? Coffee? Could you bump it up a bit we are 2 people. He got it to 35$ and said look you're 3kg over I'll pretend I didn't see that either. Deal.
So we go to the food place and they charge exactly 35.80$ for a 2 guy meal. (We went all out, we aren't paying anyways) I said hey man could you waive that 80 cents. He looked at me. I said we don't have any change and I don't want to break a 100. He said yeah okay and took it out the tip jar.
YU5AKU ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:38:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop caring so much about your first x or your last y or your continuous perfect streak of z.
Your first experience with something is likely to suck. So what. Maybe the next one will be better. The first is not much more valuable than the fifth. Stop fixating on the thought that it must be perfect. And don't feel bad for screwing up something for the first time that you had a perfect streak in up until now and asking yourself what happened. You were bound to screw up one day. So what. Just get back up and continue. It doesn't make your past or future achievements any less valuable.
โIf you be nasty, Santa wonโt come with your Christmas giftsโ, mother told me as a little child.
Surely, surely I thought, Santa isnโt real. I wanted to try it out, turns out, the year after, I was given no gift. Coincidentally though, my dad died the same year.
Get a dash cam. Mine has bailed me out of trouble with the police twice in 6 months. Both times because the other people said I did/said things I did not do. Make sure the dash cam records audio, and know how to pull video off the cam.
The police will thank you for providing incontrovertable evidence. Makes their jobs easier.
Somebody told me once that when you try and make your back straight by "putting your shoulders back" you should try in to put each shoulder blade into your opposite back pocket, it's worked wonders.
migzara ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:04:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its better to half arse something that not arse it at all. In other word a job only 50-60% done than is better than just not doing it at all. I know this seems obvious but I'm perfectionist I would rather not do something than do something poorly. Its alway better to get 60% than 0%
It's amazing to me that clenching your shoulder blades together, rolling your shoulders back, pulling your head back and chin down, and squeezing your stomach muscles until your hips align makes you appear relaxed, healthy and confident. While actually relaxing makes you appear stressed, lazy and sloppy.
Drinking a cup of water before you go to sleep and when you wake up makes a big difference to your body. Even if you are a person that drinks a lot of water already drinking water or ice water at these times has really good benefits for people. I can personally vouch for them.
Maybe it seems a bit obvious, but I had phase where like many I guess, I was in the "I'm a nice guy, why don't girls like me phase?" And after feeling bumbed about it for a couple of years I watched this YouTube clip by Hank Green where he explained the friend zone and stuff like that, and his conclusion that just being a nice guy, or claiming that you are one presents in no way shape or form an obligation for anyone to sleep with you, cause being nice is basically what you're supposed to be. And as blindingly obvious that piece of advice is to me now, I never saw it that way up until then. So that moment is now also a few years back and basically every day is a struggle to keep doing the right thing, for its own sake, what will happen on the relationship front, I have no idea, we'll see I guess.
My dad told me once, when I was looking for my car keys, "check where you found them last time they got lost" I rolled my eyes and went to check under my bed and... there. they. were.
If you put pop tarts in a toaster they taste better... And they do.
madmes ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:54:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Studying for electronics quizzes . Everyone said DO NOT STUDY EXTRA, i studied extra, solved 10x the number of problems as my colleagues and got suoer confused with the questions. However those who only reviewed the course material aced every quiz. So much for "tests test you knowledge"
When you have an issue with your computer, restart it. Most of the time when IT says that people get angry or lie and said they have already (am IT) but it actually fixes a LOT of issues
Just keep stumbling about avd you can find subreddits related to your interests
mysfull ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:58:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ever had the problem with one of your iPhone earbud/Airpod loosing most of it's sound? Well of course you have, happens to me like clockwork. Anyways i read somewhere that the problem could be earwax that has entered into the earbud (so cleaning it with an ear swab wouldn't work), so all you had to do was to suck the earwax out with your mouth, gross right? Well i tried it on my Airpod, and lord and behold it actually worked, have done it twice now and works every time.
Itโs by no means a guarantee that people wonโt continue to try and screw you over. But youโll come out of a bad situation squeaky clean, with you and everyone else involved knowing that you made the integrity move.
Not I. The least. Iโve been hospitalized 3 times in the last 2 years because I didnโt take time out to heal and my body couldnโt cope.
Your comment sir, is rude and unnecessary. No one said you had to follow the advice. They asked what the best advice you received but didnโt think to follow.
Then you didnโt understand.
Iโm saying you are blessed as fuck if you have the ability to take time to rest when sick or hurt. Even Moreau if you can afford doctors and hospitals
I got sick recently and still havenโt had time to rest, itโs been months and i seem to no longer be sick but Iโm still fatigued from it, to the point it seems to maybe be a permanent change to the negative. Maybe one day I can take a few extra hours to rest but thatโs a fucking pipe dream.
Just the slowdown I had from that nearly cost me my home, and my daughter.
Usually I'm on the helping side. But there was one time I was having internet troubles that were fixed by turn off\on. Now its my go-to step 1, and more often than not it works.
Yup! Confucius setting doesnโt load right, temp change causing an issue, file partly loaded, new update to a setting of whatever, corrupted or didnโt open right, etc
Good stuff your the guy we skip the basics with then :)
"Fuck your ideas get to work"~MyFather
i get ideas regarding technology and spend alot of time on that and ended up slacking in school, my father said that to me and boom got a good balance of both, in that im shipping to college next year to learn programming wich sticks to the stuff that u like to make
kickme2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:12:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was a bit stressed out at work because the work was piling up and we couldn't keep up with it. When I told my colleague that I wish I could do more, she replied to me: "There is no need to stress yourself out with this, we aren't saving lives, you know? No one will die because a bit of work is left at the end of the day." Since that day I've started to see things differently. Obviously that advice only works if your job doesn't revolve around saving other people's life.
akuzin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:13:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you know you want to do something, just go do it instead of thinking about it while doing something else you're telling yourself you'd rather be doing
and thus making yourself miserable.
I find myself wanting to study, but for some reason I convince myself that I want to watch stupid time-wasting vids on YouTube. In the meantime, I'm not enjoying the vids because I keep thinking about how I actually want to study, so I'm literally just wasting my time in every single way.
I want to clean my room but I tell myself that I'd rather be staring at the ceiling, or I tell myself that I want to watch another tutorial while I actually just want to try out what I've learnt already first.
This advice is valid whether you're procastinating being productive or trying to be productive while your mind is elsewhere.
If you really, really just want to watch that movie so badly that you're not taking in anything you're learning, maybe you should just take a break and get that out of your system.
If you want to be productive but convince yourself that you're having more fun by being lazy, you're just lying to yourself.
I want to study more than I do but instead an working, cleaning, cooking, driving kids around, eventually crashing hopefully on my bed for just long enough to most likely be able to get up and do it again.
I also desperately long for dnd or gaming or something, closest I can get these days is browsing reddit during slow moments at work. Would study but canโt effectively study like that, too many interruptions
To avoid slipping in a shower/bathtub, place a towel on the tub floor. No need for rubber or silicon non-slip thingies. Works fine and is particularly useful if you are in a hotel that has not installed non-slip surfaces on the tub. Not practical for everyday use, perhaps. Got this advice from a hotel receptionist, when my uncle complained about the slippery tub surface.
beley ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:21:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making fists with your toes after a long flight. Try it.
Just donโt get caught barefoot by terrorists trying to take over the building...
Forgiving is only partly for the other person.
The person that gets healed the most... is you
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:56:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try going gluten free because I might have celiac disease.
I said why?? I eat bread and beer all the time and Iโm fine. Turns out itโs a complex and slow reaction totally different from food allergies and my self diagnosis was useless. Turns out yep, I have celiac disease and it was the cause of what seemed to be literally a dozen other health problems.
If you have a trail of ants in the house, douse the trail and ants with Windex and leave for a day or so, then clean it up. This seems to send a message to the ants and they stop coming in. It is even better if the trail leads to the source of entrance into the house.
Wake up early. Having that extra time to get stuff done really helps.
DJSnaek ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:58:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was really young my dad said "Ask lots of questions. It's better to ask and know, than not ask and not know".
I ask lots of questions now, and it's gotten me far.
When I was a kid, I had to go on an airplane with an ear infection. It was one of the worst pains I had ever felt. The flight attendant saw me crying and my mom explained that she has an ear infection and the elevation was hurting my ears. The flight attendant said โIโll be right backโ...
She came back with two styrofoam cups that had small paper towels soaked in warm water. She told me to cover my ears with the cups.. I thought it was a joke...but I covered my ears with the cups and bam.... pain totally gone
The advice from my dad: "Never Get Distracted by others' opinions. They will point out your mistakes even in your greatest success." First I neglected that advice, but now that I look back, I feel its the truest thing that I ever heard in my life. Love you dad!!
viishu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:11:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saying 'you're Okey, you're fine, everything is fine' over and over again until you've calmed down after a panic attack, I've only tried it recently and well it actually did help, a lot
If you are trying to make a change or break bad habits work on one change at a time. Commit to the change for 30 days diligently. After doing something consistently for 30 days it becomes a habit. This has helped me make many changes in my self care because after 30 days I can see benefits of the habit I have formed. Then I move on to the next desired change. Things like using my electric toothbrush(rather than a quicker brush with a manual), flossing, facial care and taking vitamins are all things that are now second nature where before I would skip over some things and never was consistent.
For anything you havenโt been able to do for a long time (year, month), break it down into parts that you can actually tackle. Similarly, when your to-do list seems impossible, break down each step into small micro steps. Makes it so much easier to tackle and a lot less overwhelming.
โBuy a carโ seems like a huge undertaking, but breaking it down into bits - read 1 article today about cars, speak to 1 dealer tomorrow, talk to friend who recently purchased this weekend - makes it a lot easier to tackle and check off each thing from your to-do list.
"Forgive yourself"
First reaction? "emo-cheesy-sh*t? Sry, we don't do that here.."
But then I noticed I was holding back a lot of regrets, it kept me from being happy with myself (which is one of the main steps to be confident). Also, I wouldn't blame a kid for a common mistake, cause I know he's just a kid and he got to learn, but I can be ruthless with the kid I was.
So I sat for a minute, I tried to remember the thing I regret the most: the things I've done, the things I didn't do or not enough.. and for each I stick a thought to it saying "You did your best with what you had at that time. You didn't know [this] or [that], there's no moral issue with not knowing something and it could've been worst. I'm still here and now I know".
And since then, I stopped being obsessed with the things I missed, it really helped :)
If you're going to sneeze, try biting your young just to the point it hurts and generally it stops the sneeze. Learned this from a scuba diving instructor, he also said try not to vomit...
using your earwax for cold sores, if you time it right you can stop it from ever surfacing. you need to put it on when your lip starts getting soar, or if it does surface it dries it and cures it better than any cream out there
"Just ignore them and they'll leave you alone" as a method for dealing with bullies. It was useless up to and including after I tried it. Still useless to this day. Thanks teach.
v-tree ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:42:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you are dreading doing something, always ask the question, is it a life or death situation? More than likely, it isn't which means you can walk right out of there if things don't turn out the way you want them to. Gets me through job interviews, exams, presentations etc. when I'm stressing out for no reason.
Walk with your head up, looking straight instead of down.
My dad's perpetually drunk friend Paul told me that when I was in high school. I was reluctant to believe him because of the nature of who he was and my thoughts of him but I figured I'd give it a shot. I nervously tried it, saw the positive results, kept doing it, and slowly became comfortable with doing it. I've never looked back down since. #sorrynotsorry for the pun
Ask her out, ask for a pay rise, whatever. Obviously don't go leaving your job on a whim, but if you've wanted to do something for ages but feared rejection then just do it. If she knocks you back, you can move on instead of wondering "what if" etc
"Write down five things you are grateful for every night"/"Write down the happiest moment of the day"
Didn't think it worked, thought it was stupid, it works really well. You realize that there is happiness in every day.
BizzyM ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:45:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go slow to go fast.
My dad gave me this advice when I was racing RC cars. When Disney Pixar's Cars came out and Doc was trying to teach McQueen how to drive on dirt, it was exactly how it was with my dad trying to teach me driving techniques with an RC car. "Whatever, old man." Until I actually tried slowing down a little and driving clean.
jum_p ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:46:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just stop being sad and then your depressi-
Haha jk but can you imagine?
Practice the golden rule, treat others how you would like to be treated.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:52:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Forcing yourself to fake smile and fake laugh can actually improve your mood and is an excellent way of getting yourself out of a temporary funk. It sounds dumb, but it works!
J0rdeau ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:57:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using birthcontrol.....
Learned how to use it the hard way.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:58:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use beard oil and always brush your beard.
abryce_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:03:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being confident when you want something. Always thought it was BS but it worked like magic.
Me (guy, married 26 years now) at my bachelor party. I got lots of advice, but my buddy's dad said to do things her way and go along with her decisions 99% of the time. Pick my battles to win 1% of the time and win them and make sure she knows my plan. This has worked like a charm. To this day, when we disagree and I actually give a crap about my position, it tell her "you are going to lose this argument" and she literally stops arguing. I probably only use it 0.5% of the time.
"Don't ever, for any reason, do anything for anyone, for any reason, ever, no matter what. No matter where. Or who, or who you are with, or where you are going or... or where you've been... ever. For any reason, whatsoever."
Drinking a large amount of water as soon as you wake up I drink 24 oz + of water I have prepped next to my bed every morning changed mornings forever for me. Used to hate mornings but I'm awake and alert alot faster and also seem to need less caffeine during the day by alot
Always be really nice to the janitors, lunch staff, secretaries, phone operators and cleaners. They can all make your life miserable if you are unpleasant.
(And itโs the decent thing to do.)
zezhf ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:30:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is going to sound fucked up but hang out or study with really intelligent people. You will pick up their habits and copy their tendencies and this will help you by leaps and bounds
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:30:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy a cheap $1 plunger only to be used for your shower. Makes unclogging the drain so much easier and less disgusting.
Iโm late to this party, so I doubt anyone will see this, but learn to accept a compliment. A simple yet genuine โthanksโ is all you need to say. Donโt deflect or come up with excuses for why you donโt deserve the compliment. You do deserve it and youโll feel much better about it if you accept it.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:35:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think before you speak. If you watch skilled orators like Obama, they always pause before responding. It's to make sure dumb unfiltered shit doesn't come pouring out.
You go to an outdoor swimming pool and its freezing, someone will tell you "its alright once you're in". After a few min of feeling like you're freezing, it becomes bareable and then enjoyable
You want to know the secret to surviving air travel? After you get to where youโre going, take off your shoes and your socks, then you walk around on the rug barefoot, and make fists with your toes.
It sounds crazy. Trust me, Iโve been doing it for nine years. Yes, sir better than a shower and a hot cup of coffee!
odynous ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:39:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing but with the lower part of your upper body, as though you are breathing from your stomach or something. It helps with anxiety
jack104 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:39:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep your eye on the ball. It's my dad's go to advice for everything. It started in baseball but I swear he said it once when I was learning to change my oil and I dropped the filter. But I used to be a horrible golfer. Just hit worm burners all day long and had no control and it all finally turned around when I finally got lessons and the pro basically told me what my dad said, "Stop trying to kill it and keep your eye on the ball through contact." I'm still not a great golfer but I am lightyears beyond where I was just a couple years ago and it's all because of that.
Clean your nose with salt water when getting stuffy. Almost never get any flu or cold since then. Same for my son. He got sick 2 or 3 times in the winter.
kemen01 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:41:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read the requirements/technical spec before coding.
xapajoy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:45:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWhat Is Important Is Seldom Urgent and What Is Urgent Is Seldom Importantโ - This really helps me keep things in perspective when Iโm anxious. It has also helped me realize that I donโt have to give my answers/opinions on a topic or situation right away. Thereโs nothing wrong with saying you need more time to think or mull something over.
track your time using a time tracking app. not one of them automatic ones which can't account for time away from computer. just good old manual entry time keeping using an app. (eg.toggl) blew my mind.
Sidzejs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:46:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandma's favorite was - if you can do it in the next 5 minutes - do it now! And it really does wonders if you don't put off those small things that has to be done.
I have a bad case of gagging over so many things, things I don't like, If I try taking medicine, ect, so I was given advice that if you squeeze/ push your Thumb hard enough you don't get a gag reflex, which works for me.
if you don't understand how that works lemme Just Give a small guide
Put your hand in a fist but your thumb is under your other fingers and then start to squeeze hard, it work for me like a charm.
Closing your nose is good too, usually the smell of it Will Also cause gagging, Those are some good advice as well but I prefer the one I have cause I can test it out to see if it works easily without having to take something I don't like.
I thought it was BS until I had done some hiring for my job. Since then it has proven to be true pretty much 100% of the time.
For those who donโt know this one. You have it good and fast but it wonโt be cheap, Cheap and good but it wonโt be fast, and you can have it cheap and fast but it wonโt be good.
el-ammo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:47:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve totally changed all my screens to red lighting and havenโt had a panic attack since. Iโm an N of one but i suspect the blue light is acting on my serotonin release.
Also warms my heart to see so many โmy Dad/grandma/mom, etc says,โ posts. Alot of good parents/family with good advice out there. As it should be.
Park your car facing North. South if your in the southern hemisphere. Not really life changing, but I appreciate a cooler car when I have to leave it out on the sun.
Conversely in colder areas in winter, park so that your windshield will be facing the sun in the morning and you should have less frost to scrape in the morning
"Fake it until you make it" in reference to having confidence. I didn't have a ton of confidence in high school and started to use the tip after reading about in Mens Health. It ended up working really well!
From my dad: โEat your broccoli first, then eat what you like.โ At the time, he told me that because I despised broccoli and would put it off until the very end, at which point it would be even nastier.
When I was a little older, he explained that the principle extends to everything in life - do the stuff you dislike or donโt like as much first, then save the stuff you enjoy for the end. I thought he was full of shit until I got into college and had to start triaging assignments.
Do the hard shit first, do it fast, and do it well. It will make your workload way lighter.
CICO. Burning more calories than you consume. I know it's simple math but I was CONVINCED that I must have bad genetics, big bones etc. In July I decided to try it out on a whim and lost nearly 50lbs in 3 months
When I have hiccups, my dad taught me to take a big mouthful of water but don't swallow it yet, cover both my ears and my nose at the same time, and then swallow the gulp slowly in 5 separate swallows. Works every time after one or two tries.
Yell "PINEAPPLES!" at someone who has to sneeze. Doesn't work for everyone, but works way more often than I ever thought it would.
Thumbs in the ears, pinkies covering the nostrils. Don't worry, I was confused when he told me to do that too, he showed me how.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:06:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always wash your butt and genitals after using the bathroom. At first I wondered why not just wipe, now I know that washing makes wiping easier and washing is 10x more effective
Stay positive and be grateful for what you have in your life instead of focusing on what you donโt have.
Once a day, around the time of day I know is always the most difficult part of my day. I stop and mentally (started by physically writing it down) make a list of the people and opportunities you are thankful to have. It really helps. It sounded like nonsense to me but putting positivity or into the world brings it back to you. I make a point to ask how everyoneโs day is going when I greet them, if they want to talk more about it we talk more about it. You never know how your small interaction with someone could impact their whole day, so why not make it a positive one. Like I said I was so skeptical, but this new point of view has changed my life.
Just put $20 a paycheck in your savings every payday.
DeDe129 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:12:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Witch hazel makes a bruise go away.
I once was getting a black eye shortly before a weekend away, so I kept a bottle of witch hazel and cotton near my desk as I worked and applied some every half hour. Never got the black eye. This is cosmetic only, though, the pain was still there--the bruise just wasn't visible.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:12:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad always says..."If you're going to do something, do it right the first time. Otherwise, don't do it at all." It's easy to make decisions using this advice.
"if you want to do stuff, just try to du it over and over". i had a catastrophic stroke a little over 2 years ago. i was told that when i was in the hospital, and thougght "yeah of course, practice something to get better at it, that's the same if you didn't have a stroke". i was wrong and neuroplasticity is more impactful than i thought possible.
the first 7 months i was in a wheelchair. the next 5 i was on a walker. the next 5 i used a cane. since then i've been walking unassisted. it's the same for everything. my vision is still improving, my speech is improving, and my coordination is improving even though my stroke was jan. 10th, 2017.
if somebody you know has a stroke, the most important thing you can tell them is to keep doing things
โWhether you think youโre right or wrong, youโre right.โ
My mom always said this to me growing up.. it wasnโt until I read a book about psycho cybernetics, that I realized however you think about something is what you become. Any sort of change in mindset is possible with enough willpower and effort.
When maneuvering your car in a tight space and your brain starts telling you โI think I can make itโ stop, reverse your direction, and do it again the right way.
Flexing your abs when you stand up quickly and get light headed. Flexing your abs stops the head rush dead in its tracks. Try it. It works beautifully.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:27:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Staring at a screen intently causes your eyes to dry out due to the lack of blinking and may potentially cause future damage. I was told this by my optometrist.
Cut out cream and sugar from your coffee and force yourself to drink it black or just a few drops of milk for a few weeks. Then go back to the cream and sugar and it will be disgusting and then much easier to drink coffee black.
"fake it til you make it"
if you act confident you'll eventually start to feel more confident. if you act tough you'll start to feel tougher. it's actually really interesting psychology
Fold the laundry AS you take it out of the dryer. My parents always used to just take it out and throw it i a laundry basket and throw it on the couch to fold later. Being the half-kid (this was my dads and stepmoms house) Iโd have to move laundry baskets (sometimes three or four) just to sit on a couch that seats 5 or 6. On top of that, my clothes would always be wrinkly and full of dog hair because the dog and I shared a spot on the couch. Just fold them before you put them in the basket. Takes a bit longer, but then when you put them in your room to be put away, you donโt have to fold them.
If you are having a bad patch in life, โjust batten down the hatches and weather the stormโ. It will pass and life will get better. This sentiment saw me through some tough months and now all that shit is just a distant memory.
"If would have done this you could've gotten what you wanted".
Parents, while they sound stupid. They are smarter than we think.
FaPaDa ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:56:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know it sounds stupid afterwards but i always used to get off a bike on the right sidem however my stand was on the left side, so i used to bend over my seat and setting it up. However my father, when i was younger, got actually pretty angry all the time "Why do you need to make everything so complicated, just sit down on the left side" i refused his advice for years, until i was around 15 and realized how much more easier it was.
I was ice skating and someone told me that if I was gonna fall, I need to force myself to fall forward. I thought it was dumb cause to prevent yourself from falling, I was taught to hold onto my knees (which work BTW). I was like : if I could make myself fall forward , why can't I just reach for my knees?
Then I saw my friend fall backwards and she almost broke her spine. She had to stay in the clinic for hours.
I was so traumatized so I forced myself to fall forward. My knees hurt but at least I have a lower chance of breaking my spine.
Realizing that while in High School literally none of the drama matters because you wonโt talk to or see 90%+ of those people again. Just live your life and do what you want and donโt care about others opinions or youโll hate your high school years.
Yes but .. unfortunately you will run into the same people in different bodies. There will be bullies, shitty people, jealous motherfuckers, and garbage individuals in your life. Learn to deal with them ASAP or you'll end up 29 years old and struggling to figure out a jealousy problem you could've worked out at 16.
Replace saying โSorryโ with โThank youโ. People will feel more appreciative of receiving gratitude than having to give forgiveness. Also just puts an overall positive light to what could be a bad time.
Make her orgasm once before she even gets to see your cock. Putting actual EFFORT into giving a woman orgasms with your hands is an incredibly important, LEARNED skill that will reward you tenfold.
Anything worth doing is worth doing badly. Helps me a lot when Iโm depressed.
Donโt have the energy to brush your teeth - fine, mouthwash is better than nothing. Canโt bring yourself to shower? Baby wipes and deodorant. Etc etc
if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all people always told me this then as soon as I kept my mouth shut when I really wanted to yell at somebody they thought they would win an argument, so I punched them in the gut. I feel like it's better to just say something.
Not necessarily useless but I've done this every day and when I go to bed I feel better than want I did before. "Do one thing today that makes tomorrow better than yesterday" Matt Carriker
Turn your commute into your daily exercise. Walk, run, cycle, swim, whatever. Even if it's just 2 or 3 times a week. Before long you'll be doing it everyday. Fitter, better mood, no rush hour traffic, takes less time than you think when compared to sitting in your car, a bus etc
This is amazing advice. I force myself to read cognitive behavioral therapy audiobooks during my 1.5 hour commute to work and 1.5 hour commute back and it's changed the way I think and experience my moods.
Putting my chin on my chest and swallow a bit of water to get rid of hickups. It actually works
owozer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:17:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Somebody told me once that if I unzipped my jacket zipper my handwriting would be more legible, which I thought was total BS until I tried it, and it actually worked, It's easier to write when your clothes are looser.
I was starting to wake up feeling hung over even though I hadn't had anything to drink. Someone told me "you know, sugar is as bad for you as alcohol is."
I thought it was bullshit, but I tried cutting back on sugar and now a year later here I am, 80lbs lighter and haven't had any Advil in months.
If something takes less than 5min to do, then do it right away. You get so used to it that you become more productive naturally.
lirmy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:18:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had troubles with eczema since I was about 12. In high school a girl told me I needed to use lotion. At the time I said that wouldn't work, I needed something medicinal.
Then I'm in my late 20s and the skin is literally falling off my hands and I'm on sick leave from work. Dermatologist tells me I need lotion, I listen this time, I've been eczema free for about 5 years now, the longest I've gone without an eczema rash since first getting them.
My hard drive died and after testing all the cables and the drive in other computers and so forth I read a thing online that was like "plug in the power but leave the sata cord out and boot to bios for 30 minutes, then plug in again and run it" and wtf that worked?
When I was studying and dong my Bachelors (was in 1st year), one of my neighbor suggested I should think about studying abroad. Did not think about it until I finished my final semester (4th year) and then gave it a shot. That was 2009. Now I have spent a decade in US, have my own house and family and sincerely thank my neighbor every time I meet him for opening my mind to this idea. New culture , new experience and wonderful memories so far !
Everything. You are told by your relatives or friedns crucial and necessary advices. But if you act ferociously and fiercely anything comes to your mind. You aren't taking these advices to your heart. And in majority you would not have been succeeded if you won't listen to their advices. You remain their advices when you will be down. That's surely. I acted similarly. Nothing to me was to follow or listen to. But when I eventually opened my mind and let myself help I felt gargantuan relief. They advices were to help me and give me a hand, but my brain tried telling me I did not need help, go live your solitary life and do not listen to anyone. When I leapt from my mental breakdown to life fulfiled with happiness I realized one fucking important issue: If people take you the hand, don't you miss it and try to listen to what they have to say.
You have more energy if you exercise. Doesn't need to be much, go walk a mile. Amazing how a little exercise stops you from feeling like a slug. In the winter I slack off exercising, and feel like a slug.
I never knew how cold I was willing to be until I started paying a gas/electric bill.
Acryas ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:28:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Green tea bags, brew them in hot water for a minute. Let them cool and put them on your eyes for 15 min. I'm not into herbal remedies but it instantly wakes me up and significantly reduced the bags under my eyes.
Usually I would dismiss something like this, but as it was so cheap to try it I thought I would. Felt so much better ever since.
My dad always said this and it annoyed the shit out of me: youโll learn when youโre sick and tired when you get sick and tired. Didnโt make any sense to me from childhood to young adult but once I hit college it finally clicked. Was in a bad relationship and woke up one day and was sick and tired of all the fighting and loneliness that I left them that day and never looked back. Now I know that when Iโve had it, itโs time to leave.
My old maths teacher used to say all the time "To pass your GCSE, you will have to THINK".
Nobody knew why he was saying something so fucking obvious until we got in front of that paper and then it all made sense. The only way to answer those questions was to stop and THINK.
My grandpa use to say this and more times than I can count (especially lately) it has proven true. Whether you believe in God or not I'm sure you all know one person who is a damn fool and always ends up ok lol
Write down little moments that make you super happy. I use my Notes app on my phone.
It helps me remember the way my daughter used to mispronounce my sonโs name. The cute little thoughtful things my husband does. The first โpicnicโ we had as a family the day we closed on our house. Song lyrics that my son makes up.
Super helpful when Iโm going through a depressive cycle. I read all those little memories and feel a little better.
Also have a document for writing negative feelings. Feels like I empty them out somehow. Do not recommend reading those during a depressive cycle though. Haha.
I take a lot of selfies on days where I feel pretty and log my weight for that day. Whenever I feel "fat" , I look back at the photos I recently took and feel better. I log my weight too. Sometimes having objective data about perceived weight gained dispells your cognitive distortions and helps you think objectively and feel better
Accepting life as it is, rather than what you want it to be.
Yes it can be rough sometimes, but you can relieve a lot of stress in your life if you stop trying to change what is out of your control. If it happened, it happened. Learn from your mistakes and experiences so you can prevent something happening, but life is a mystery. Some things just happen and we canโt do anything about it, so just be happy with what you have because at least you have that, right?
The power windows on my โ04 Mustang stopped working. I read a blog post that said โhold down the button and slam the door.โ I still do it at every drive through window to this very day. It looks dumb, but less dumb than stepping all the way out of the car.
When I had a bad dream as a kid, my mom would tell me to tilt my head to the side, and 'tap' the bad dream out of my head and onto my hand, and then blow the bad dream away. I obviously know it was all in my head, but it works for my 5 year old now too.
LahTrey ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:34:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not giving people advice when they vent to me, but just listen.
Something I was taught recently, which is pretty Jedi like is controlling emotions.
Try to look at the things that emotionally effect you in a perspective of observation. In other words if someone says something that stirs an emotional reaction in you, try to see it as information, not the feeling. Youโre feelings have huge effects on your body and can effect your health. I have found if youโre able to control the way you feel, you become more clear in situations rather then reactive. This helps immensely in situations you need to swallow your pride or bite your tongue.
EX. Your boss says to you, youโre not good enough and youโre lazy. Instead of reacting, breathe, and observe. Control the emotions you are feelings, and focus on your power/self belief. Ask questions, listen, and feel out the best way to navigate the situation. Youโre intuition is always with you, though it can be clouded by emotions.
This takes much practice but has a huge payoff and has changed my life.
Don't buy a gym membership until you've worked out with enough day passes to cover the cost of 2 months of a membership.
My husband and I have regrettably paid for over a year+ of memberships for only a month or 2 of true motivation. Even more embarrassingly is that we've done this twice ๐ถ
walking away from situations when you're angry. I was taught it was supposed to be a moment of cooldown and gave you time to think of the situation. I was like wow this is actually dumb. But I myself have never experienced anger issues so I guess it's more for people who REALLY need to walk away for a moment. I did use this method once while arguing with my brother and I genuinely thought about the issue and I was like 'wow why am I even fighting about this?' and then I went back to solve the problem and it wasn't that bad honestly.
Cs626 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:37:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you fake a smile long enough, eventually you'll actually feel happier
Look both ways before crossing a road... I know it sounds stupid, but you'll be surprised how many pedestrians get hit by a vehicle because they assume the driver can see them.
Cs626 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:39:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Set keyboard shortcuts like eml1, eml2 to enter email addresses faster
Bata_El ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:40:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't drink and drive, because the person texting in the other car will blame you for the accident.
Take your tongue off the roof of your mouth to calm down and lower stress.
I realized how often - like ALL the time - my tongue was pressed up against the roof of my mouth and my jaw was clenched aggressively. Itโs like being ready to start an argument at any moment (at least with your mouth body language.)
Dad taught me out of the work truck gloves on unless you have to take them off to work on something small. In the truck gloves off.
Nothing is worse than a lazy shitbag that gets paid the same as you to stand there and watch you work. And if the bosses drive by and see you moving around with gloves on you should be fine while lazy ass gets chewed out.
And greasing up a stearing wheel or dash with gloves on is a quick way to piss anyone off.
Never though much of it but it's an extremely good habbit to have. Served me well for over 20 years until i got crippled up. Now I'm mostly the lazy ass watching people work no matter how hard i try and help.
Clean your kitchen sink every night before bed. It really does make you feel more organised and prepared for the day when you come down to the kitchen in the morning.
slaab9k ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:46:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A dull knife is a dangerous knife. I now use a 8" Miyabi chef's knife and cooking has turned from a chore into some type of therapy.
Networking at work. I am introvert so I skip the happy hours, team building events, and don't speak up in meetings.
For past 5 years I've been trying to get promotion and it happens for me when I start getting involved and making an effort to show my name.
You could be amazing at your job, but it's a popularity contest.
12thtry ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:54:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"The Perfect High Five".
The High Five. We greet each other with it, celebrate together with it, it is a simple and common bonding experience that transcends race, gender, religion, age, and sexual orientation. What's worse than a bad high five? Almost nothing. It's worth mastering.
When you go to high-five someone, keep your eyes on their elbow.
Pro: You'll never miss a high five again.
Con: your palm will hurt from the sheer perfection of the connection.
A friend taught me this 7 years ago and it does work amazingly if you both know to do it. But if one person doesnโt know how to do it then itโs just an OK five.
I once heard
Have just 20 seconds of insane courage and i promise you something good will come out of it
anieke_S ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:56:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Saying random numbers when I get a panic attack. It actually helps to calm me down.
For anyone who needs this advice, whenever you have high levels of anxiety just recite random numbers. (It can also be letters, book names, vocabulary words, animals, whatever you desire. I also like to recite my favourite authors when I can't sleep. )
Numbers work perfectly though.
E.g. 73, 45, 66, 180, 406, 53, 1122, 11, 8, 99
Saying the numbers out of order forces your brain to think of a new number instead of just reciting an order that you already know.
I used to get these and would find touching things and naming them would help. This is a couch, this is a cushion, this is a wall, this is a picture frame, etc Don't know why it worked but it did.
If something is worth doing, do it with confidence.
Even if you have never done said thing before, your own reassurance and confidence can help pull you through doing it.
My favorite motto is "Do it once, do it right". I am currently renovating and every time I come up to a job I need to do, I remind myself to do it right the first time. Even if it's that little bit more expensive (time or money wise), it will be well worth not having to fix it in a few years/decades.
PKLYT ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:59:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holding your breath and eating really does take the taste away, thought that was a myth made up by some parents trying to get their kids to eat broccoli or something
yax01 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:59:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a smartphone. People were telling me to get one and I resisted because I was too cheap to dish out extra for data. Then I finally got one and never looked back.
trfyuh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:02:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When my mom tells me to check somewhere to find something.
My aunt (R.I.P) said: "Always try, even if you can't win" at first, i tought it was just useless (I was an 10 yo). But it really helped me trough some situations, like in school, i thought i messed up the semester, but i did my best and got a B, it's a really good advice that you, redditor who's reading this, should try, no matter wichhat are your odds, no matter what you think it's gonna happen, always give your best, and i ensure you that it will make a change in your life.
If you actually work hard at something, you can accomplish it. I thought it was just some fake motivational quote that was over-used but with hard work, you can genuinely accomplish anything.
curvedy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:03:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking water while upside down to get rid of hiccups. It's a weird feeling to expect a hiccup and then nothing. Works everytime for me!
cip43r ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:03:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always treat people how you wish they'd treat you when you were at your lowest point. If someone asks for space, give it to them. If someone reaches out to you out of nowhere asking to hang out, make time for them. In doing so, don't sacrifice your own wellbeing by using all of your energy worrying about others.
ko3ak26 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:07:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok this ones already not as cool as some of the other posts but
One of my friends had shown me an article about displaying your thumbs. Apparently itโs supposed to make you seem more confident and if thereโs anything I need a bit more of its confidence.
I ended up trying it at school and the first day I had like 3 random people compliment me. The change was very noticeable because usually I blend in with the background. So I guess it actually ended up being kickass advice.
Save anything you can and donโt touch it. It doesnโt matter how little or how much it is, saving it over time will add up.
I spent so many years after college making decent money and I always figured out how to spend it.
Once I started saving, a big part of my stress went away. I no longer had to worry about the main โwhat ifโ scenarios about needing money but having no way to produce it.
So many times, my savings have literally saved me from going completely broke or maxing out a credit card.
My best friend, 2.5 years ago saying "dude, I know your ex Bree fucked you up, she was a cunt, said some mean shit about you. But you gotta get back in the game." He then proceeded to install hot or not on my phone and told me to talk to some girls. Needless to say, Ive been with my current girlfriend for a bit over 2.2 years and that was the best piece of advice my boy has ever given me. I'm proposing next summer :)
Answer emails and texts as soon as you get them. Even if you have to reply with something like "I'll figure that out as soon as I can." People really appreciate a response! It also takes away the stress of realizing you didn't get back to someone when you see them in person.
My parents have always said that poor cannot afford to buy cheap. Meaning if you buy something cheap (machines, appliances, clothes, shoes, etc.), they'll break easier and you end up having to buy a new one. And eventually you'll end up paying more for many cheap ones than you would've spent on a good, more expensive item.
CHEAP EFFECTIVE POISON FOR ROACHES
.. Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
DO NOT FILL UP OLD CARS AND TRUCKS - DYING FUEL PUMPS
.. if you suspect your old car will have a dying fuel pump DO NOT FILL THAT TANK UP .. siphoning a tank before dropping is a pain
.. you also never want to run empty which can burn up the pump which needs liquid to cool it down you want to stay around a quarter to one third full at all times
BUY SILICONE WIPER BLADES
.. they last 10x longer than the rubber ones
MASSAGE YOUR NASAL SINUSES THROUGH YOUR SOFT PALATE
.. you can massage them through your soft palate in the upper jaw with your tongue to a degree
..I have a similar method that isn't based on trying to make yourself suffocate.
Put 2-3 fingers on the base of your nose, just between and slightly below your eyebrows
Place your tongue on the roof of your mouth a little back towards your throat.
Alternate between pushing on the base of your nose and pushing your tongue up on the roof of your mouth.
Do it until you feel your nose declogging, 1-2 minutes usually.
NEVER TAKE I-90 THROUGH CHICAGO AT RUSH HOUR
NEVER TAKE YOUR CELLPHONE TO BED
TILT YOUR HEAD DOWN IN A FIGHT
.. If you can tell that someone is going to hit you, tilt your head down. Teeth don't grow back. Your jaw is lights out. If they punch the top of your skull, they will probably break their hand. Always be drunk
BUY USED TOOLS FIRST
My grandfather told me this and I never understood it until I had my own place. Always buy the cheap tools at first and if you wear it out/break it then you use it enough to justify getting a nicer more expensive one
HOT NECK WRAPS FOR CHEST COLDS
.. they do a "Hot Neck Wrap" for curing bad chest coughs. What they do is they boil a thick cotton scarf in some salt, garlic, and lavender water -- Then you wrap the scarf around your neck and go to sleep with it. microwave and reheat a few times to keep it warm .. it worked
REMOVE WATER FROM EAR
.. If you get water "stuck" in your ear. tilt your head so the filled ear is aimed towards the ground and hop on one foot landing on your heal. It usually clears in a hop or two... the longest for me was 5. Thank you, James Clavell, tip is taken from Shogun
When tightening or listening a bolt/ screw that's upside down, or at an odd angle I get turned around with "rightie tightie, left loosie".
So I use the right hand rule. Curl your fingers around the bolt head with your right hand. The way your thumb points is the direction the bolt will move, if you rotate the direction your fingers are curled.
Really helps when I'm bent over half upside down to loosen a bolt I can't see.
It seems like such an easy thing to do, but even be honest about the little things. Be honest that you don't actually want to go to this expensive dinner. Be honest about how you feel. Be honest about your passions and the direction you want to take your life.
Not only will it make you feel better but it will make your life much easier.
Before doing something ask yourself if youโll be glad you did. Trying to develop better/happier habits for future me. For example, will I be glad I sat and watched another episode or will I be glad I changed the cat litter and did the dishes?
Chick in a check out line looked in my basket and noticed I was buying razors. She said to put them back and get the $1 cheap ass POS 3 bladed ones instead of the $20 "fancy" ones. I said I'd give it a shot...haven't looked back, best fucking advice ever. $7 lasts me 4 months instead of $20 for one or two months. Never get razor burn or anything.
Even better to buy an old school safety razor with a double edged replaceable blade and you can get a pack of 20 blades for like four dollars. I shave all my lady parts with those. Thereโs no plastic waste either.
Spend good money on a good bed, your back and sleep will thank you; plus any partner you have over will love it as well.
Spend good money on shoes/boots, your feet, posture, and ankles will thank you.
Spend good money on proper summer/winter tires for your cars/bikes/motorized vehicles. They are safer, lower the stopping distance, increase traction and can save the life of others around you and yourself.
We don't know if one advice is useless, if the person that gives you the advice had a history that demonstrate the advice is useful you can try. Because we don't know how the people can reaction to the action.
Japots ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:44:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve had low self esteem my whole life. Living life the way I know I should be acting has helped me to raise my standards a lot.
mmosta ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:48:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is one advice that my grandma gave me when I was a kid. It translates from Spanish like this: โlook, hear, and donโt say nothing if you want to live a happy lifeโ. Itโs more about following rumors or not get your plans ruined before even start them.
Do not have a reason to be happy. Do not have a reason to be unhappy. Just be happy.
"Fuck that." was my initial thought. I was so pissed when I heard this phrase because it seemed like nonsense. It stuck with me because of that anger. I didn't understand it until I realized reasons can change which will thus change being happy/unhappy. Simply being happy, having peace of mind, is the only way because it is a choice and choices are purely in our own control. It doesn't mean I won't have problems. It doesn't mean sometimes I'll be sad or angry. It just means I try to be happy regardless of what is going on by seeing/finding/discovering/etc the pleasure or gratitude or something positive in a given situation. There is a calming underlying power to view everything as OK or will be OK. And if I think about it enough I have no answer for the question... Why not?
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:52:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practicing gratitude and daily affirmations in the mirror. Every morning I talk to myself in the mirror for ~5 minutes. I say out loud what Iโm grateful for and it puts me in a good mood for the day. I then go through my goals for the day/ year/ life and talk (to myself) about how Iโm going to achieve them. Hearing these things out loud coupled with seeing myself in the mirror makes it feel more real.
Iโm embarrassed to say I got this from an episode of Keeping up with the Kardashianโs. They did a segment about how Khloe does this every morning and it sets the tone for the day. Personally, this has 100% worked. I feel good about myself and my life. I start every day with a plan and feelings of gratitude.
If you have a problem with carpenter ants, sprinkle dry grits around the outside of your house and around the yard. The ants eat the grits, which puff up in their stomach, and in turn kill them. Pet and child safe and super simple. My mom uses this every year to get rid of them when they start coming into our house (Its a log house up in the mountains) and after about two days they completely disappear.
When giving gifts for things like baby showers, write what you gave inside of the card. That way, if the recipient wants to write thank you notes, they can just look at your card.
Being on the receiving end of this tip has made life easier. I just had a baby shower a couple of weeks ago, and relying on the gift log didnโt produce entirely accurate results that I felt confident about while trying to personalize each thank you note.
Exercise. Seems stupidly obvious but for a person who never played sports and literally never thought about it...well I started one day when I was 22 and I never looked back. For me it's not about having a perfect body or 6 pack abs (I don't have those lol) but just how I feel and my energy/happiness.
Have not read through everything, but "sit up straight!" Or "stop slouching" is good for anyone.
Edit: Posture has be covered. Thats good, also it's very important to take care of your feet, if you have trouble walking its certainly best to look after your feet.
cyama ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:11:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation. I've always been told by people to try out meditation and I've always ignored it. I've tried once a long time ago and what I did was sitting still for 10 minutes and closed my eyes, but that wasn't meditation, that was just sitting and closing my eyes. After reading more on meditation, I decided to do it properly and it really helped as far as making you grounded.
gudbote ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:15:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Vodka with pepper for nausea / indigestion.
I thought it sounded stupid but apparently in Eastern Europe it's a common remedy in some countries.
A small shot of vodka with a medium pinch of ground black pepper.
My Russian neighbor recommended it to me once and it helped me many times.
Taking a breath when angry. It sound really dumb and stupid, but when actually practised in the moment, it genuinely does help with controlling yourself and keeping your cool in the situation, which leads to rational choices and decisions on your end :)
Ever since I could remember my mom always said, "stupid hurts", so every time I go to a party, or hang out with my friends I remember, "stupid hurts". I can say it is extremely effective...
Make ranch dressing yourself and it will taste like the kind found in restaurants. I like ranch served in restaurants so much better than the bottled kind but I never believed it was because it was freshly made. I assumed restaurants had some secret restaurant only brand in the back. From Sysco or something. It was years until I finally actually made homemade and it was so much better and does taste like restaurant ranch. Only downsides are you need to go get buttermilk, which you will only use for the dressing and probably nothing else, and they don't sell half cartons. Plus your homemade batch will not last too long so you are going to have to have to eat a lot of salads and chicken fingers for a couple of days.
I've used a few different ones from the web. The ones that use the hidden valley packet turn out good, you can also find a diy for the hidden valley packet itself look up diy dry dip mix. This one is also good if you want a lighter ranch https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/162925/low-fat-buttermilk-ranch-dressing
sidd332 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:03:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My math teacher used to say "attempt the question till the dead end and does not leave it by just looking at it or solving small part of it " usually answer comes out on it's own
If you canโt sleep without your phone in the room then turn night shift on and put it on minimum brightness. Sounds dumb but it doesnโt produce blue wave length light so it wonโt hurt your sleep
Bacon grease will clean tree sap off your hands as good or better than gasoline. Then it washes right off and you smell a little bacony instead of terribly gasoliney.
If your dog has bad breath, it could lead to medical problems later. Smear doggy toothpaste on a crunchy treat they like before bed. My dog's love chicken flavor toothpaste. Has antibacterial action. Do NOT use human toothpaste. Our Vet says their teeth looked brushed. No more doggy breath.
Someone telling me โbreatheโ in the middle of a panic attack.
Sounds stupid- I am breathing, Iโve got more important things to worry about than breathing, etc.- but taking the time to actually concentrate on a nice, deep breath means Iโm not focusing on the source of my anxiety. It slows me down, forces me to actually think, rather than just get dragged along for the horrible, horrible ride.
Itโs my go-to solution to calm down now. Might not work for everyone, but it sure as hell does for me.
When I was about 10, my mum told me: "It's not illegal if you don't get caught."
Later that same week in class, I went up and stole someone's roughly $3 earbuds. They were broken to shit and had one earbud missing. The teacher didn't see me and also didn't notice that I stole them. I still have them to this day, and that's been roughly 2 years ago. Thanks, mum.
Getting over the person that dumped me but then kept trying to drag me along. My parents, and friends all told me to try to move on and Iโd be happier. I didnโt listen and my attitude got so bad, I was depressed all the time. Then one day I woke up and said itโs time to move on. Best decision I ever made, in the happiest Iโve ever been. I have an amazing family and amazing friends. Glad I took the advice
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:23:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pushing my shoulder blades together and using my back muscles when shooting a bow
Batatta ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:56:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take notes in lectures
Dudukf ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:00:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditate.
I was always really skeptical about this kind of thing, so I never got the effects of it when I tried because I was not putting in the effort.
When I decided to give it a judgement free shot, it metaphysically blew my mind.
5-10min a day is enough. Try guided meditations or apps like Calm, Insight Timer and Headspace.
I know I'll get shit for it because I know I hate hearing it from other people, but "just stop being depressed". I went to therapy and the TL;DR is essentially just recognizing that you're digging yourself into a hole of depression and to combat it by saying to yourself "no, I don't want to be depressed" and doing something else to make you feel better or take your mind off it. Like it really is that simple of a solution and I felt like a total idiot afterwards, but it genuinely helped me deal with my depression. The hardest part is recognizing when you start digging yourself into that hole of depression, and caring about yourself enough to want to dig yourself out, that's what people get wrong the most when offering advice about dealing with depression. But once you've done those things, the solution really is just to change your way of thinking to combat it whenever it starts creeping back up again.
Pasjaz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:44:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom use to tell me and my siblings that when it came to adult conversations they were having in front of us we could listen, watch but keep to ourselves. As in keep what was being said to ourselves. Never understood it until I had my own kids and realized they will repeat everything that me and my husband say about others. Makes total sense now.
Look at a bright light when you sneeze. Thought it was a myth, found out my mom has light sensitivity and sneezes whenever she sees bright lights, and it really helps me to sneeze when I can't.
I lost wifi connectivity on my Macbook whenever I used an hdmi to USB-c converter I bought on Amazon (don't ask me why). I Googled this issue and the first thing I found was a video with a guy saying that the solution is to wrap the converter's cable in aluminum foil. I thought it was a troll until I tried it and it worked (don't ask me why)
My parents always told me to 'buck up'. And i feel dumb for the fact that i used to never do that. And then when someone tried to boss me around i yelled at them and they cried. I still feel bad for doing that, yet dont. Its like discovering you have a super power except instead of a power its making people feel bad.
"If you want to lose some weight, drink more water" You would be surprised as to how much you being hungry is actually just being thirsty. Lost 30 lbs just from this trick over 6 months.
Doubt yourself. Don't believe all this 'believe in yourself' crap you see. Re-evaluate your life, don't just think you're right and fine and okay. Take everything back to the bare bones, start from the absolute minimum you have. Disavow all this 'you're a star' shit. Don't own a t-shirt that says 'hope', own one that says 'doubt'.
If youโre getting a shot in the ass, turn your toes in. You canโt tighten your glutes if youโre pigeon toed. My GP taught me this many years ago when I was a kid.
I've been playing drums ofr 6-7 years now and a piece of advice is got was to "beatbox the sheet music while playing". I thought this was complete Llamashit until I actually tried it.
Wash your feet with cold water. If youโre having a long day at work, and you have access to a private sink/bathroom, take of your shoes and socks, wash your feet and put them back on. Itโll clear your head and make you more comfortable. It sounds dumb but damn if it doesnโt work wonders.
(Be careful not to make a mess though, thatโs just bad etiquette.)
donโt worry about things you have no control over.
I struggle with anxiety a lot and I always thought this advice was stupid because having no control made me even more anxious. Of course Iโm gonna worry about it!
Then, after a breakup from a very toxic relationship and the start of my final, very difficult, year of my degree, I said to myself, โokay, letโs put all my energy into things I control. I control my money, I control how hard I work, I control who I do and donโt have relationships with. Letโs work to make that as good as possible and think less about what I have no say in whatsoever.โ
I still have my moments, but after doing this I am so much happier as a person and feel so much more accomplished. Of course hints happen that are out of our control and that make life sad and difficult, but Iโve learned to deal with those things when they happen and, for now, concentrate on whatโs in front of me.
So I was struggling in math and my teacher really cared about me and wanted me to succeed we will call her mrs d. Mrs d knew I was a really good student and she knew I can do better. So she suggested staying after every day in order to get me grade up and I did. The she suggested that I should actually try in the first few weeks in the quarter (which is 9 weeks) and I did and look at me now a b honor roll and I really want to give mrs d all the credit.
A little late but here it goes:
Student-athlete here, fight in taekwondo tournaments representing my school as a varsity. Been doing taekwondo for a little under 6 years. (Iโm 14) My coach and some of my teammates told me that whenever I fight, I should just be chill and focus on the opponentโs movements. While I do agree with the latter, I didnโt believe that being chill and relaxed while fighting an opponent was the way to go. Instead, I would fight with rage and have the intention to hurt the enemy, making me kinda seem like a war freak to the others. I just liked fighting like I wanted to kill. (nowadays taekwondo is a sport based on points, so even if you break a few bones and your enemy being unscathed, if you have more points you still win) When I did this, Iโd lose a lot, and I didnโt know why. I trained my hardest, I worked my hardest, and I put my best effort into becoming strongest. However, I still kept losing. Then I remembered what my coach said about relaxing and being chill, and I tried it on one fight. I felt like I could see through his moves. When he got exhausted from fighting, I still felt like I could go all day. The best part was that I could focus better on what I needed to do and when I had to kick. All-in-all, I felt completely different and felt like fucking Bruce Lee. From that point on, I started winning more often. Iโll take this chance to say that whenever you fight someone, itโs best to relax and keep your composure, and not act like the goddamn hulk.
Ace9825 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:27:47 on May 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When learning something there are 3 steps to success:
1) Accuracy
2) Speed
3) Complexity.
Master it accurately, then do it faster, then add complexity to the task. You canโt skip a level (I love to jump to complexity & speed). This was the #1 rule from my Occupation Brain therapist and it rebuilt my life after a severe traumatic brain injury (TBI).
If you have a headache, imagine your brain is covered in a black, tar like substance. Now imagine your favorite scent of soap. While thinking of your soap, imagine it cleaning off the tar, especially in the area your headache is localized.
Thought this was absolute bullshit until I tried it. It works. Until you stop thinking about the soap.
My sister once told me that dating a friends ex was something I should never do. I thought it was common sense, at least until I accidentally fell for my friends ex. I didnโt even know they dated, but after him and I went out for a while we split up (mainly cause I felt guilty).
If you're ever tired, or just feel like you don't want to do anything, change your clothes, preferably into a pair of clothes particularly suited to the activity you want to complete. It's an incredible boost.
When I was little, around 2nd grade, we learned about the golden rule: Treat others how you want to be treated. I thought it was so stupid because I always thought of how other people are so unpredictable. You never know if someone will act like how you act towards them. Anyways, fast forward a couple of years later, I met this family friend. I forgot her name. She was an absolute bitch to me for no reason. I kept trying to be her friend and asked her how she was doing, shit like that. Nothing worked. Then, I acted like a bitch to her and she started to stop. I guess the advice kinda worked.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:26:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gargling then Drinking a shot of apple cider vinegar cures hiccups. First thought was nothing cures hiccups this is just another one of those stupid things you try that doesn't work. It has worked literally every time, instantly, and without fail, not only on me but on the people I make try it (who are always reluctant to). I don't know how this isn't one of the most well-known solutions by now because it really does work.
If you have a Charlie horse cramp in your leg, don't try to remain motionless or massage it out - get up as fast as you can and put all your weight on it. Instant relief.
My dad has spent years in the 12 step program so the Serenity prayer (it should say "God, grant me..." but it works just as well as a secular mantra):
Grant me the serenity,
To accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
Kolazar ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:35:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was doing physical training with a fellow solider and there was one particular exercise he hated. So he'd say "I love pull ups they're my favorite." I thought it was funny as shit cause of the up beat enthusiasm and how blatant the lie was. ( considering were doing this at 6 am and pretty much no one wants to be there) When I got out and started going to the gym with a friend I'd repeat the phrase when ever I was doing sets of an exercise either him or I were bad at for shit n giggles. I didn't expected it to be so radically motivating and cause me to actually like the workout. I was just doing it to harass my friend a little and cause it was funny.
Listen to instrumental music while you work. It actually puts your mind at ease and gives you some nice noises to listen to without being distracted by lyrics. I've been listening to Lofi playlists recently while doing homework and it helps a ton rather than listening to my usual music.
bsash ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:54:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try classical, most people like it more than they expect once they give it a try as background music
Your can stop hiccups by focusing on the next hiccup.
You say it's gonna happen now, it's gonna happen now. It'll never happen. You do that for about 10 seconds. I just did this this week for the hundredth time.
I've more than once made people think it was "real magic" by having them do this lol.
It doesn't work on drunk hiccups.
kdu3142 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:53:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being creative is not about having an idea just pop into your mind from an absolute vaccum...
Creativity is studying and researching and learning, and being able to get all your research to fit what you need to create.
If youโre a guy, especially 14-24, jerk off in privacy before going to the pool/beach. Youโre less likely to get a awkward erection when you see the ladies.
ADDITIONALLY:
If you need an erection to go away pronto, flex your arm (or any muscle really) as hard as you can and hold it. The flexed muscle will begin to demand the extra blood flow, and the erection will go down.
A bit late to the party here, but if you're having trouble sleeping due to an overactive mind or that, hold on to a piece of string while you're trying to sleep and concentrate on holding the string, eventually you'll drift off
I do it a lot, basically grab a piece of string( or something like that) and just hold it while trying to sleep, I find that I'm concentrating so hard on holding the string that I forget what I'm thinking about and I'll just wake up the next morning
Spooki ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:31:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take your empty glasses back to the bar. Bartenders appreciate it a lot
The best way to get over someone is to get under someone.
This was told to me when I was 17 by a friendโs mother. While I still think it was horrifically inappropriate to say to a teenage girl, after my most recent break up it came to mind and actually helped me. I had been in a 5+ year relationship and I was afraid that maybe I would never meet a good person again. Dating/sleeping around more than I normally would actually helped remind me what it was like when someone put in effort into pleasing and impressing me.
Not for me.
For me, the best way to get over someone is to work yourself to the bone. Take on extra shifts at work. Take on more difficult tasks. Hit up the gym every day and go hard. Cook elaborate healthy meals. Clean up your place. Tackle jobs you were meaning to get to.
When your head finally hits the pillow, you have 5 seconds to look back on a super productive day that you can be proud of before you pass out from exhaustion. You have no time to be sad.
Interesting because it ended up being kind of similar for me.
Itโs hard for me to do things for the sake of myself so my dating life became a motivator. For example I would keep my apartment clean just in case someone came over, Iโd spend time randomly researching various topics so I could hold a conversation about almost anything, Iโd wake up early to make sure Iโd finish my errands in the afternoon so Iโd have time to go out in the evening, and Iโd treat my body extra nice with good food and exercise because I wanted to live up to my dating profile pics. On top of that meeting new people is exhausting for me mentally, so Iโd end my day content but fully spent this completely unable to be sad.
That being said, I do genuinely admire your ability to do these things without external motivation!
Tell her โ60% of the time it works every time.โ
ketzo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:38:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a pair of Apple earbuds/AirPods, and you've used them heavily for a while, likely you hit a point where they get really quiet and seem not to really work.
You might have noticed that they still play sound out of the little side vents, just not out of the main vents.
Suck on the earbud. Pretty hard, until you can feel/hear air flowing through the earbud. I've never not seen it work.
The first time I heard this, I genuinely thought I was being pranked. Nope. Works a charm.
Ask that girl to dance! If she says no, tell her you donโt want to fuck just dance and have a good time.
I did it, sweated my ass off getting up the courage. It worked. Girl gave me a funny ass look when I said it to her, because at first she said no. I told her I donโt want to have sex I just wanted to dance and have a good time. We did and she stayed on my arm the whole time. It cut right through all the bullshit.
Don't care about what other people think. It's such a simple thing to hear, but only recently have I started practicing it. I used to care a lot about what other people thought of me, but now I have so much less anxiety. Sometimes it's good to listen to what people have to say, but don't get so worked up about it. It's just not worth the mental energy.
Using the back of a spoon to spread stuff onto bread/toast instead of a butter knife. Makes it much easier to spread stuff onto untoasted bread without damaging it.
A bit on the weirder side but my RA in college said these words. "You can be stupid. Just don't be fucking stupid." Like, have fun! Try new things, maybe do something legitimately stupid, just exercise a little caution ya know?
Not like super sage or anything, but that mindset definitely helped me loosen up and enjoy my first years of college A LOT more.
Instead of apologizing for something, offer thanks... (especially when the apology will often come across as empty or insincere).
For example โ I tend to run a little late for things, particularly client appointments during the day. Sometimes because of the kind of person I am, but also because I get caught up spending a bit too much time with one client, which snowballs into the next, then the next, etc... itโs good client care, but pisspoor time management. Anyway, rather than routinely entering a room and immediately spitting out, โsorry to keep you waiting!โ , Iโve started walking in, smiling, and thanking the client for waiting, and 9 times out of ten I get a sincere smile and nod in return.
Itโs astounding how a simple wording change can improve the mood in the room. Everyone appreciates being thanked.
Make a list of all the activities you need to do in a day or a week.
Seems useless right, you already know what you have to do. But if you procrastinate like me you'll probably never end up doing it. Its actually pretty helpful to not forget about a said activity too and it's satisfying to check off your list of things to do. Very satisfying when you finish it with nothing left on your mind.
My mom always made me try on clothing as a kid that I was sure I wouldnโt like. Most of the time it was those items that I left the store with. Basically just be open to trying new looks and you will be surprised what you might look really good in.
donโt just wrap yourself in a towel, rub that shit on your body. no one gave me this advice, so i had to discover myself as an adult. pants go on so much easier now!
t7jw ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:48:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This old video of a guy with a thick accent teaching you how to get rid of a headache. Should be one of the first if you look it up on YouTube
The basic technique involved him (or yourself) asking a series of questions, and you were supposed to close your eyes and visualize the response.
Where is your headache?
What color is it?
What shape is it?
And repeat these until itโs gone. Sounds BS but itโs gotten rid of even the most splitting headaches Iโve had.
Exercise helps with anxiety in depression. I mean, it is obvious now that I think about it, but at the time it wasn't. I tried and it didn't work, but it wasn't until I started jogging that I felt happy/normal. Turns out regular stretching doesn't help lmfao
I'm sure this'll be lost, but cry. Go to a quiet, calm, and comfortable place and just cry. Don't think "this is so immature" or "I'm just being shitty, I shouldn't cry. I'm in the wrong." Just ignore it and cry for a while. After I cry I can always think much more clearly and figure out what's going on and why I'm upset, and if I need to apologize for something.
If you are down in the dumps and having trouble taking care of your body and mind (eating well, sleeping well, washing regularly, etc), pretend you're a demon possessing someone else's body.
Sounds really dumb, I know, but someone gave me this advice and it works really well. It makes your body seem like a valuable asset to maintain.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:11:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you have hiccups, plug your ears and drink water from a straw. Sounds stupid. Looks stupid. Was told to me by someone who is stupid. Damn if it donโt work.
When stressed or nervous, take five deep breaths, counting to five on the inhale and on the exhale. It always helps me--at least for a little while--to settle down and focus.
The more you smile the happier you are. Originally I was kind of offended that I should smile more but I tried it and it makes socialization and random chit chat much easier.
m7md29 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:12:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was advised not to attend lectures at college because i won't understand anyway , i didn't care about that .. I actually was wrong . They are useless.
As someone intending to go back after a decade of no schooling. Why are they useless?
I've heard from many people you're basically teaching yourself the course, but aren't lectures a good resource to use?
m7md29 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:41:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually , for me , they aren't absolutely.
Only few professors are brilliant in the academic teaching way. Colleges in their staff-choosing process depend on the people with highest marks not on the people who can teach. You tube has been a better source. In a 5-minute video I can learn more than a 3-hour lecture.
Had leg cramps all the time. Thought I had some problems with my body, doctor told me to stretch my calves right before bed. Haven't had a cramp since.
I have started oil pulling in the last couple weeks. It seems to have a nice overall affect. Whiter teeth, better breathe. Helps alleviate inflammation.
I was a target child. Bullied, a lot. The bullying didn't stop, but it dropped, when I let go of the need for responding to every insult that someone gave me.
My dad says cleaning your asshole with a jet of water rather than using toilet paper. He had a little shower handle installed next to his toilet for precisely this. A habit he picked up in India.
aurKINR ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:47:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
gotta watch out in india might have a huntsman spider crawl up u like antman
You better get up off your rump, if you want to make it
zerbey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:35:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a shy bladder, start doing sums in your head. It switches on a different part of the brain and you can pee with confidence.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:35:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes you fuck up so bad your parents donโt have to punish you. When I asked my friends dad why my parents gave nary a shit about my being arrested.
Ok, so not quite till I tried it, but rather till not doing it bit me in the ass. My mom always told me to pack a change of clothes in my carry-on, but nooooo, I'm the experienced traveler who flies around the country for work, with status and everything. Till I got stuck overnight in Atlanta and they wouldn't give me luggage. Moms are usually right.
When falling asleep, I imagine moving water. I focus on visualizing the way it moves (be it ocean lake or river), the sound of it, and the smell. It makes my brain slow down and relax.
Just ask people how they're doing and take it to at least a third step. Don't say anything about yourself during those steps.
I do it with cashiers all the time and they treat me differently than other people. It's made my day to day easier, especially when I'm having a shitty day and they reciprocate.
For so many years, my parents told me to drink water whenever I felt sick (like headache, metabolism issue etc.). And every time I said hey it sounds silly how can water fix it.
But last year, when I had uric acid levels, I made water a habit and since then I have fallen less ill, have been happier, and have been fitter.
To improve your mood all you have to do is fake smile at yourself in a mirror; you trick your brain into releasing more happiness chemicals which in turn makes you happier
It's so easy to stay in the loop of downturns. It's so easy to dismiss my right to happiness. It's so easy to dismiss this advice as... Dismissive. But taking my life and my ability to manage my own... satisfaction in my own hands is actually possible too
I hate my job and dread it so much that looking at the time makes me dread it even more. This advice works wonders. I also been really good at my job since then.
SolHS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:38:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Write down your lists, don't just keep them in your head.
sporks_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:40:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I perform dances on stage a few times a month, and I also love dancing at weddings. I was told I should get ballroom dancing shoes about 5 times and never listened because what a waste of money - I already have heels. Finally was told NO REALLY, GET BALLROOM DANCING SHOES!!! Life changer. Weddings are way more fun when you can dance in heels all night and NOT feel miserable because nobody else is going barefoot so you have to leave on your painful heels. Also, much easier to do cool choreography when your soles bend and move with your feet. 10/10 would recommend.
Honestly, taking medication the doc prescribed. Seems dumb now, but for a long time I refused to take certain meds cause I didnโt want to admit I was at the point I needed them.
Make my bed, every morning. Somehow, I'm working out, doing great at work and waking up at 630 now, I don't know how or when it happened... But it can all be traced back to the day I started making my bed in the nothing.
โJust think positiveโ. It sounds like BS until you actually give it a genuine try, and realize positive thinking really does impact not only your mental health but the way you approach day to day challenges
Tomorrow will be better. Somehow that small bit of advice gets me through my worst days, even though the first time I heard it it sounded straight up fake
Put it in the freezer. Like overnight. Then try it out. Mine crashed about halfway though recovery, but another night in the freezer let me get about 90% of everything off.
I learned my lesson and keep multiple copies of everything now.
Time Management - schedule your meetings, estimate the time for your tasks, know your typical waste time in a work day. Those three added together for a given day should not exceed the amount of work time you have for that day or you're going to get behind.
Putting fake toy snakes around your plants to keep squirrels away because they tear plants out by the root.
Astonishing how well it worked. I haven't seen a squirrel on my deck since.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If ain't broke, don't fix it. Now i don't do anything at work.
Roivas7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:43:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Writing down notes and reminders.
At first I thought I'd be able to keep it in my head and that writing notes took too long. Fourteen-year-old me was like, "Writing? Pffft. I can use that time to take care of important stuff instead."
Fast-forward to now, where I'm constantly forgetting about important stuff due to memory problems I ignored since I was fourteen. Thanks, me.
Nobody actually thinks about you as much as you think, people really don't care as much as you believe they do so stop trying to impress anyone other then yourself!
'If you never shoot, you never know'. Not literally speaking by the way, but if you have a big or important question to ask someone or you need to tell someone news but you're not sure in the moment if you should say it, just say it. It's harder to hold on to whatever information it is, especially when an opportune moment might not present itself again.
That being said, there's always an element of tact that you should still employ. Don't be a dick and just blurt it out if it's a very sensitive issue. That works on a case by case basis though so just kinda read the situation and base your delivery of said news or information on that situational reading.
Make it your goal to play guitar every day for at least 15 minutes.
This keeps you present, makes every day a potential success and you'll get a lot more enjoyment out of your craft. Much better than placing all your happiness and fulfilment far into a future that may never come into fruition.
Look into a bright light when you feel a sneeze coming on. I hate the feeling of needing to sneeze and it going away. Looking into a bright light actually helps a lot and I've never been blue balled by a sneeze since.
acetek ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow. I was surprised to see I'm the only other person outside of the give minute people! Respect your elders was my advice! Never understood until I was an 'elder'!
Galaxey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you travel take off your shoes and socks and make fists with your toes on the carpet.
I overheard two men talking on an airplane in the row in front of me when I flew into Century City, CA back in the 80's.
It seemed that one was nervous about flying but probably had other things on his mind. Anyway the older gentleman said that when you get where you're going you take off your shoes and your socks and you walk around the rug barefoot and make fists with your toes.
Drink water. I didn't realize I was dehydrated every day off my life only drinking coffee, tea, juice. Making sure I drink several glasses of unadulterated water every day was a game changer. More energy, more focused
When I started a software business 18 years ago, my dad insisted on giving me a license to a full scale CRM system. Frankly, I would have rather had the cash at the time and implementing it while trying to get my first customers felt beyond pointless. But he was my dad, I didnt want to tell him he was wasting my time and his money. Roll forward a couple of years, I was obliterating competitors in the market... almost entirely due to the planning and forethought of that damn CRM system. That's dad! God bless your soul... RIP.
If you tightly grab the base of your dick with your index and middle finger, and move up, it will get rid of all the extra piss, making it not go into your shorts when you're "done".
mangha7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:49:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yoga, always found it to be slow and ineffective.
Now that I've tried it, I can't imagine a life without the benefits of yoga.
I always thought fake it till you make it is the most useless advice. Until I got two exclusive contracts from the manufacturer. Fake it but be prepare and do your research!!
I hated high school, being told what i had to learn and why this or that is important. I thought that was dumb. It took 4 years of the marines beating sense into me and then when i went to college afterwards it turns out im smart when i apply myself and i liked going to school.
Fake it til you make it. Hard to fake confidence when you're in a self esteem deficit during puberty but once I got to 16-17 years old, that false confidence shielded me from a lot of potential bullying cause I no longer seemed like an easy target. Helped me build real confidence cause no one was constantly trying to tear me down anymore.
Doing the dishes before they pile up that goes for house cleaning to if u straiten as you go saves time and the stress of trying to do a quick clean before company comes over
When cutting corn off the cob, put the end of the cob in the hole of an angel food cake or bundt cake pan. It holds the corn up right and the pan catches the kernels so they don't fly all over. Why would I ever need to know that? Because a local farmer gave away a TON of corn last year. I froze 18 quart sized bags.
Saying something nice when I don't have a thing to say at all is actually a good piece of advice. It makes me feel far better saying something complimentary than me knowing I'm saying something that I don't necessarily believe to someone I don't necessarily like. I get way more from the deal. I feel like I've done a simple good and I get the whole butterfly effect thing- well I hope it has the whole butterfly effect thing for something postive for someone, somewhere, somehow...
If you pretend to be happy long enough youโll no longer be pretending.
Made my old job more bearable. instead of sulking there in my chair all day I would interact with the guests and put on a smile, it made the days go by faster and helped lessen the mental tax.
It's always better to have too much than not enough.
Was told to me in relation to pulling network cable, but it applies in a lot of places in life. But especially when pulling network cable, you can always cut off the extra but it's a bitch to add more.
1 making my bed in the morning. it honestly made me able to sleep better
2 I enrolled in the navy and during bmq a master Corporal asked me if I really wanted to be there. when I said yes he didnโt believe me. I ended up having to leave because of health reasons. I may have wanted to be there but i wasnโt able to and him asking that helped me realize that i wasnโt able to.
The 5 minute productivity rule. โJust start and do it for at least five minutes.โ
Put that rule into play this past weekend and got SO much done. Literally more housework and cleaning than I usually get done over the course of months. My wife is thrilled and I feel incredibly accomplished.
Basically everything I've ever been told. I have a terrible habit of not believing anyone's advice at first.
Fb62 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:59:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For FPS games, I knew a pro UT99 player who when I asked how to get better at aiming, she said "just click on people". Of course it doesn't really make sense, but I think it helps simplify aiming. Most people just think too much. Aiming is a simple concept, understanding and getting used to game mechanics and prediction are what is hard about it.
If you want to do or learn something big, do a little bit everyday.
Iโve learned more in a year doing something an hour a day than I ever thought I would. Time waits for no man, and before you know it youโve spent it waiting for that big thing to pan out.
Eating kiwis with the rind on actually tastes pretty good and is faster, cleaner and more convenient than messing around with spoons and knives.
oguz279 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
All sorts of motivational bullshit that claims happiness. Source: tried most of them in the book; quit my 9-to-5 job, got my dream remote job (which I'm really happy with), traveled 40+ countries (and counting), met so many people, made so many friends, seen most beautiful places and experienced many different cultures. I'm really happy I did all these, but did these make me a happy person (whatever that means), not so much.
I didnโt take my advice but I told someone online that ketchup is good for mosquito bites. He messages me and tells me he thinks itโs not working I almost died laughing . I told him it takes a few hours ๐คฃ
Just listen to your wife. No need to explain, don't tell a story tha tutu relates all the time and you think will make her feel better. Just. Listen. Best advice ever.
The silverware divider thing in the silverware bins in the dishwasher always seemed like a bougie and unnecessary addition. Until we tried it. And life is so much better and will never be the same.
don't put your fingers where you wouldn't put your penis
Denahda ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:01:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation.
I've been struggling with my mental health, anxiety, motivation and concentration for a while now and it's amazing what 20 minutes a day does for your mindset and mood!
"Find a girl that'll lick your asshole and marry her."
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:03:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
After 2 or 3 dates with a girl, let her do most of the texting and when she does reach out, you as the man set up the date. Letting the girl come to you will keep her attracted. Women don't like bad boys because they are bad boys, it's just that bad boys are often the only ones willing to take a step back and let a woman do the pursuing. To add to this, if a girl is acting a little distant, cancels a date, or says maybe to a date. Tell her, "ok i'd love to see you so let me know when your schedule opens up." And you do just that, wait for her to reach back out, then you as the man set the date up when she reaches out. You might wait a couple days, you might wait a week. Either way, you wait. She either reaches out and wants to see you or she doesn't want to see you. Attraction is not negotiated so you over pursuing won't make her attracted to you. Give her the time and space to miss you, as I've said, even if it's a week. Especially early on in the dating process. Most guys start chasing in this scenario and that is the worst thing that you can do.
Women need to do 70%-80% of the pursuing to feel fully attracted to a guy, whether they admit it or not. My dating game has improved dramatically after developing this mindset.
When you're upset about something, imagine crumpling that emotion into a tight small dark sphere. Then visualize yourself throwing it away/destroying it. Repeat a few times.
kasskar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:03:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Choosing to change certain things like:
I became a morning person by forcing myself to wake up early.
I forced myself to drink a ton or water instead of soda or sweet teas and now I mostly prefer water.
I am now trying to be more outgoing by going to social events Iโm usually avoiding and talking to people when I usually be too nervous to introduce myself.
Move your To Do list to your calendar. Parkinsonโs Law states โwork expands so as to fill the time available for its completionโ. You will get a lot more done when you block off your calendar with 15 minute To Do work blocks.
Set a time to do your work each night and stick to it. This seemed impossible to me, as someone who procrastinated often, but as soon as I made it habit, I was much less stressed.
I never believed my friends on this, but if you can't find your car in the parking lot, putting the remote to your head and pressing the button can reach farther than just pointing the remote around the lot.
Being a self motivator as far as the hardest part is getting started. Meaning like sometimes you have to do a small minimal task to motivate you to work on something you actually want to do.
I like to draw/paint a lot so on days when I know I want to but just canโt find the motivation Iโll force myself to go do dishes or clean the cat littler box, set a timer for 10 minutes and clean up as much as I can.
This is much better than just looking at the internet for an hour and just saying fuck it.
Then when youโre done with any of those things itโs much easier Transition into something you want to do
Donโt worry about your outfit. If you like it, like it and feel confident. People will see that your feeling good. If youโre self conscious about it theyโll see that.
This happened when I(male) bought a bracelet cause I liked it then later said I wasnโt sure about it. He asked โdo you like it?โ Then where it cause you like it no one will noticeโ โtheyโll notice you if youโre feeling uncomfortable though.โ
Stop trying to hit the golf ball. Just get in a good stance and focus on doing a nice smooth pendulum with the club.
Also, stop trying to hit that billiard ball. Line up your shot, then forget about that ball and just focus on a nice consistent stroke that hits the cue ball clean, centered, and straight.
Two simple examples of over-focusing on the goal and losing sight of the process.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:06:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You have to love yourself before you can love someone else
Wear good shoes. Comfortable with support in the right places. Ironically, itโs not so much for your feet. Your feet are really resilient and can take a lot of abuse. But your lower legs and eventually your lower back can suffer when you wear flats, sandals, high heels, etc.
When prioritizing- do what you want to do least, first! Get the dreaded stuff out of the way! You will feel less stressed and more accomplished the rest of the day!
The cops were all business.
They donโt take kindly to citizens disagreeing with them. Fucking scary how things could have gone if I didnโt take the advice. I felt I was justified.๐๐Naivety.
H00ston ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:08:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if you want to roll around in your sleep stay completely still for 15 minutes. I know it sounds obvious but if you stay completely still for that long if feels like your floating and i fall asleep immediately
Squeezing the skin between your thumb and pointer finger to stop a headache. It doesn't always work for really bad headaches, but it often helps relieve some of the pain when you don't have headache medicine.
dedzip ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:31:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use peoples names more often. It makes your statement directed at someone thus avoiding possible confusion, it helps you be taken seriously, and youโd be surprised how nice servers/cashiers/anyone on the clock can be just by using their name that is most likely on their shirt.
fadgi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:11:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hitting something that doesn't work anymore. Still can't believe it works
dbradx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:11:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Take off your shoes and socks, walk barefoot on the carpet and make fists with your toes."
dedzip ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:29:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting red light in the bathroom when you shower, makes it much easier to fall asleep if you go to bed right after not exposing yourself to any other light sources.
For some reason it has always bothered me that using more than one paper towel to dry your hands is so wasteful.
dedzip ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:29:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
h o l y s h I t hank you
grahag ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:39:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
haha... Glad to have helped. I was super excited to try it and people look at me and are like, WTF, when I use a half a sheet to dry my hands. It's almost a game now. :D
daggarz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you feel you need to sneeze, look up at a light and you will
caimca ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Outlines for papers. During the 1st of college thought they were a worthless waste of time. Until the beginning of my 2nd year it was required and I can write much better essays now
When checking into a hotel, sandwich your ID and credit card with $20-$40. Chances are you'll get bumped up to a nicer room. Didn't believe it till I tried and got a nice suite.
dedzip ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kind of confused by what you mean by โsandwichโ. Could you elaborate?
That you should open bananas from the bottom, like Mario cart. My brother normally slips on our floor, so I decided why not just do it, and put the banana on the floor. My brother fell and then proceeded to chase me out of the house.
(sorry for grammar, I'm on mobile.)
Always pre-fire your corners and never trust a Smoke or Capitรกo
CO_74 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:17:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To get rid of hiccups, place a folded paper towel over a glass of water and drink through the paper towel until you canโt breathe or the water is gone. Sounds so stupid. Somehow works every time for me.
dedzip ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve seen it work for everyone I know except for me and I hate it
If the reply to an email takes more than five sentences you have selected the wrong protocol for communication; change the reply to change the protocol (โWe should really meet to discuss thisโ, or โCall me to discuss this...โ etc.)
Say โthank youโ instead of โIโm sorryโ. For almost every occasion where you might apologize, there is a deeper thank you.
Example: Iโm sorry Iโm late. Thank you for waiting for me.
My husband apologizes for everything out of habit. Trying this instead really changed the conversation.
I have a really hard time sleeping and my husband begged me to get a white noise machine for years when we were dating. I thought they were obnoxious and wouldnโt help me sleep. He finally just bought me a $20 one from Amazon, and now I have it on all night.
Take a deep, slow breath when you're feeling a strong emotion. (Anxiety, anger, sadness, etc) Then take another. Then another. Sounds stupid-simple, but works like a charm!
When eating in a fast food place donโt put ice in your cup when you get soda. It waters your drink down and the soda comes out cold anyways. (Also frees up room for more soda)
โDonโt love someone else is you canโt love yourselfโ
Iโm only 17 but I finally figured out what that meant and itโs one of the best pieces of advice I could ever give someone. And for so long I thought it was stupid!
That the secret to surviving air travel is as soon as you get to where you are going take your shoes and socks off and walk barefoot on a rug and make fists with your toes.
Seriously Iโve been doing it for about nine years now.
So one day, after leaving the hospital, we were in the parking garage and completely forgot where we parked. So we did what any lost idiot does; pulled up the key fob and started pressing the alarm button.
Not a peep. We must have been out of range. This is gonna take a while...
Cue a little old man from stage left... he tells me "You know... if you hold the thing under your chin like that, I betcha you'll hear your car".
YEA RIGHT OLD MAN, GTF OUTTA HERE I GOT A CAR TO FIND...
...and then I tried it. And from like 3 floors away.... BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP.
Getting adequate sleep. Ideally, 7-9 hours per night.
I used to place sleep on the backburner because I thought that by doing so, I would be able to get more work done. But it wasn't until I got an adequate amount of rest that I realized how much more productive I became and how much my mood improved.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cleaning a bit everyday instead of all in one day.
As a young child, I was told to never stop learning when at the time, I really didn't enjoy school much. I've really taken this to heart and over the winter, I taught myself to fish which I'm really enjoying.
My counselor back in my middle school helped me with anxiety by making me focus on a pen, and only a pen, for 2 mins. It was wierd, and i thought I looked like a complete idiot (this was for anxiety "therapy" or "counseling" with other students), but it actually worked lmao.
And no I do not have anxiety problems I just ended up breaking my wrist so I had a LOT of catching up to do.
Instead of making a mental reminder to do something, write it down, right away as soon as you think of it.
Having a constantly open list on my phone has saved me so many headaches and trips trying to remember the things I had to do, but coil t remember what it was!
Crosswalks are for everyoneโs safety. Iโd always wander across the street staring at my phone and make cars stop for me. While driving, I nearly hit a pedestrian doing the same thing. I realized, โHey, these special crossing zones where people can walk and cars stop safely are a great idea!โ
My 14 focus has an issue with the horn. I found a crappy YouTube video that showed a fix of taking off the front panel and hitting the horn mechanism with a wrench and it magically started working again. In a vain attempt to try anything I did it and it started working like new! Have no idea how this percussive maintenance actually fixed it but it's my go to fix for the horn every time it decides to act up
When I was first in the army, I got a nasty case of athletes foot. Like...REALLY bad. So bad that one day I went to sick call because of it. The medic gave me some anti-fungal cream and put me on profile to keep me out of boots for a few days while it cleared up.
Then he said,โ you know, you can piss on your feet and it will clear up faster.โ
I room this as Doc just fucking with the new guy but my squad leader also suggested it so I tried it and it fucking worked. How about that....
I now piss on my feet regularly. I donโt get athletes foot anymore.
When you start to feel panicky and overwhelmed. Count the things you know to be true.
The wall is blue
My sheets are purple
There are six empty soda cans on my table. Etc.
It helps you to slow down and breathe. Start really simple like the color of your walls or shirt and move up from there. Breathe for each thing you count. It helps it really does.
When you're feeling out of sorts, sad, kinda down...do something nice for someone. It doesn't have to cost anything or take copious amounts of time. You'll feel better making someone else happy.
If you catch yourself randomly thinking about bad stuff, ask yourself why the heck you're thinking about it, and then focus on something happy.
I've started to become more aware of what I've been thinking since when I think about not so great stuff it just starts making me angry or really sad when I have no reason to be. So whenever I catch myself thinking bad things, I just focus on a little memory I had whilst taking the bus home of a little girl in these bright pink boots jumping in all the puddles. I dunno why, but that little image makes me feel all happy inside.
Like as a very pessimistic person, and just I try to stay grounded in reality this all seemed like idealistic hippie bullshit. But it really works. Helped me a lot when I was trying to get fit and get out of depression
I have/had chronic, treatment-resistant depression. I hated this advice. I had a condition, it couldnโt possibly be that simple.
Then I read this book by a psychiatrist that explained that what you actually have to do is retrain your brain to avoid negative thoughts, and counter them when you do think them.
When in Japan, if the locals don't understand what you are saying and you don't know how to say it in Japanese just say it in English with a Japanese accent.
Some people might not like kids. But they bring so much positivity and innocence, they always lift my spirits. Granted, I have worked as a teacher before. So I may be a little biased.
If you donโt want to do a certain work related task, just take a few minutes to prepare to do the task. Most of the time youโll end up just doing the task anyway.
Iโve also extended this mentality to the gym. When I donโt want to go to the gym I just tell myself, โAll I have to do is drive to the gymโ. Once Iโm there I always end up working out.
I have a lot of trust issues, and so did an old friend of mine. They told me the way they got through their issues was to find just one person, one singular person, to talk to. That person doesn't have to be a paid therapist. Just a friend or family member could work. But just someone to listen. They don't have to give advice or tell you how to fix anything. They just have to be an ear so you can vent.
That seemed like such stupid advice to me years ago, because I felt that if I trusted someone they'd only end up using that trust against me in the future. But then I met my fiance, and realized... I was an idiot. I found the one person I can vent everything to, without feeling like he'll use it against me. I should have started looking for someone like that years ago, but I was too caught up in my own BS to even try.
So, if you're like me and have trust issues, don't be like me and push everyone away. Find at least one person you can lean on. This advice is honestly worth trying
Think ahead before you do something. Crazy how obvious bad situations can be avoided with a little thought.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:27:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it until you make it. - I never realized how true it was until I had reached the "make it" phase for some things. I thought it was silly until the moment that I realized that it works.
Finally started using my elliptical for just 20 minutes in the morning a few weeks ago and I feel more awake and in a better mood throughout the day. Amazing that they weren't lying!
Epley maneuver for BPPV. BPPV is freaking annoying condition where you get extreme dizziness when you turn your head a certain direction. I literally thought I was dying.
Epley maneuver is a simple 'sit-this-way-tilt-your-head-that-way' thing that takes 2 minutes. Fixes it instantly and permanently.
After (or before) a strenuous workout or exercise, chug a Gatorade cause your body needs to replenish electrolytes. - I heard this a couple times and just thought my dumbass friends bought into some marketing gimmick.
So after a long hike, I'm used to feeling sore the next day. This time I actually take the advice and drink some Gatorade. Felt absolutely fine the next day.
Drink more water. I used to have a lot of diarrhea, now I think I was walking around dehydrated all the time. All the coffee and beer probly didn't help either.
Downloading the credit karma app. I used most of the advice it gave me and raised my score significantly within a year. It also has many useful features.
Microwaving brand new sneakers to stretch them out
Kudaja ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:37:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dryer sheets can take off paint scuffs on your car. If your car is hit with something and has a light paint scuff not deep, but just a different paint laying on it basically. Get a dryer sheet, damp it with water and rub the unwanted paint clean off. This WILL NOT hurt your cars original paint.
Whenever someone does something for you, say thank you. Even if it's something you don't necessarily want or like. The point is they thought of you and they love you.
Thank you for that lesson, Grandma. She taught me true gratitude
Keats81 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:38:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it till you make it.
Itโs amazing how something that starts out as pretend can turn into something real over time.
You see a lot by looking.
This might seem obvious and/or a stupid thing to say, but if you look at the world around you more youโll start to notice more things going on. This is also some handy advice for when you need to find something.
โJust blowโ. It saved my original NES โMy Little Mermaidโ game and I was able to defeat Ursula, thus bringing me my crowning (and only) video game achievement until this year when, while recovering from surgery, I realized adults are more coordinated than kids. Still have to have fiancรฉ beat anything hard for me, just like my Dad had to do when I was little.
My parents had said its better to take on a problem bit by bit if its too hard to take on. This I ignored and Id rather do a big problem in a day not day by day/bit by bit. Later I learned when I had a post test that had over 200 question and procrastinated till the last day and when I had to do it on one day... oh well it was hell..
Water.... Drink lots of water. I work in kitchens and staying hydrated with lots of water helps immensely. It also quenches thirst the best. I hate water but I force myself to drink at least a quart a day. I feel better overall because of it
If you have problems going to sleep (putting away your phone/computer, closing twitch/youtube) set a timer for five minutes and lay there with your eyes closed.
If you still want to hang out on your phone when the timer goes off, do it. But you won't want to, you'll want to go back to sleep.
Wear a jacket/sweater or you'll catch a cold. I thought how can being cold makes you sick....sickness comes from germs. Once I moved out I found that colds can come from anywhere.
Drinking Powerade/Gatorade when I get a headache. I thought it was just my parents trying to get me to quit complaining with a good drink, but it actually works
Goddamnit, I fully expect my wife to shove this whole thread in my face when I get home lmao.
To be fair though, most of this is good advice and had already started trying to do little things more effectively like cleaning as I cook and what have you.
Smiling more. Even if I have to force it. Found that I was happier overall and the little things didn't bother me as much and actually gave me a little chuckle. I didn't realize how angry I was at everyone and everything looking back.
When you get an injection in your arm in the deltoid muscle, move your fingers like youโre playing the piano. I guess it makes you relax so itโs less sore.
Had an older friend of mine tell me to always approach a conflict with someone with the question โhow does this person perceive me?โ. He used to make me answer how I thought he thought of me. Makes you really want to be a better person when you have to think long and hard about what youโve said and done around just that person and how that may affect how they see you in comparison to who you really are.
Cognitive behavioral therapy for depression. See "Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy" by David Burns. I had my doubts but became interested after reading that it was evidenced-based.
Dont just think of a favorite song. Try and "hear" the music. It'll help calm your mind and drift off to sleep. You'll know your doing it right when you actually hear the music.
When you exercise, do everything in units of one. Don't think of that set of bench press as 10 reps. Just bench once, then if you can do it, again, and again, and again, and boom! You've done your set and have gotten just a tiny bit stronger. Now go again!
The Japanese have a phrase โshouganaiโ. I donโt know if this is one of those things where itโs just a regular word but people add a bunch of bullshit meaning or make it seem like a really common word when itโs archaic. You know the kind, in lists like โ10 words for emotions that English doesnโt haveโ and itโs sort of wrong. Anyway literally not the point. The point is that โshouganaiโ sort of translates to โit is what it isโ/โnothing can be doneโ. If theres nothing you can do about something then thereโs no point in worrying about it. Itโs really helpful.
This one is kind of gross but itโs only gross if youโre gross. When pouring beer or coke or anything that can fizz up. Stick your finger in the foam to speed up the... dissolving(?) of the foam. Maybe donโt do this for other peopleโs drinks
If youโre in a rage or having a panic attack/ anxiety attack then write down what youโre feeling. Preferably on paper because thatโs more physical but your phone works too. It just helps get your thoughts straight and you can kind of start to see how big the problem is by physically how much space it takes up on a page. And you can start to think clearly and might even find what caused you to feel that way.
Similarly, if youโre angry or panicking then look into a mirror, it just can help calm you down having a visual of what youโre putting out to the world.
If you work somewhere, treat it as if you own it, like it is your business. If you want it to succeed then it will reflect in the way you work, treat customers, solve problems, all that noise. It doesn't matter what you do for a living or the size of the company, you get further and feel much happier.
If you do run your own business always remember that your customers talk, they'll caste you in a positive light if you get to know them a bit better. Always remember their names and don't forget to ask how they are doing, you never know how much that might help them.
Look at the other personโs elbow when you go for a high five and youโll never miss. Messed me up the first time I actually tried it... like 100% accuracy high five
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You power down any device. If youโre having trouble sleeping, try turning off your body parts one by one, starting with your feet, ending with your mind. Over and over again. And meditation is extremely helpful for anxiety, learned it all in yoga
Budgeting every penny. Wife and I went almost 10 years living paycheck to paycheck until we finally buckled down and made a budget. It has really relieved a lot of stress.
Seriously. It's hard to ruminate when you're doing intense cardio stuff like running uphill until you physically can't anymore. You don't have any room to do anything but focus on your breathing. It forces you to sort of meditate.
It is also a lot easier to sleep after you have physically exhausted yourself.
arj1985 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Showing up to work on time. Doesnโt matter if ur mister Perfect once ur clocked in, if u show up late to ur shifts and not follow the policy whenever u canโt come to work then u being a good worker wonโt help u get promoted
Closing my eyes and taking a deep breath when I am stressed or something ducks me off. I was a bit of a dick in school and would constantly ignore this advice from teachers. I think it triggers some primitive reflex in our brain that allows us to relax.
Go to the left. It is a right-handed world and everyone goes to the right. Zoos, amusement parks, seating at movies- ic thereโs a choice, most choose right.
Use hot water to brush your teeth. I never even considered it, until someone said it. Then I realized it's just like washing dishes, you always use hot water. Have never brushed with cold water since.
Let people do nice things for you. This was very counterintuitive to me for a long time based on how I was raised. I never accepted help or favors. I do more nice things for others now, too. Itโs a much better way to live.
Donโt use fragrant shampoo during summer. I didnโt listen, got followed around/ harassed by bees. One was even in my hair without me noticing. My friend pointed it out and I freaked out.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:54:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep trying, stay strong, and don't quit.
Those words have rung through me time and time again but they never really registered until recently. I'm still weak but I'm stronger now than ever before.
The so-called โnoob comboโ on halo 2. Was having a tough time on legendary difficulty (on the first level yikes) and looked up tips for that difficulty. Now, the plasma pistol is my best friend.
Also, anyone got tips for the first part of Gravemind?
Making your bed everyday to feel productive. I thought it was stupid but it was one of the biggest things that helped pull me out of a deep dark place.
My parents always tell me to watch out for deer on this one road near my house. Always said โokayโ without thinking about it., since I had never seen any. This one night I could almost hear my momโs voice in my head saying โthereโs always deer on this road, keep your eye outโ so I slowed down a bit, and just like that, a deer ran across 10 feet ahead of me
Basically any advice my parents gave me between the ages of 12-20. I hate getting older, realising your parents were right about most of your problems and you were just being a dick by not listening..
If you can tell if a battery is used up or not. Hold it positive side up and lift an inch or so. The empty ones tend to fall over and full ones stand up
Make your bed in the morning. It'll feel so much better climbing into a made bed at the end of the day, instead of having to pull sheets over you. Keep at it, and eventually you'll do it every morning without thinking about it, even on the weekends.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:01:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Foreplay before putting on the strap. Works wonders and it's not a distraction.
I always was like yeah okay. But seriously itโs like my new high. I went from drinking every night to hitting the gym 4-5 nights a week. I get home and crave a good workout like I used to crave a beer after a stressful day.
When our kid were born, my wife's mom told us, "When you feel sleep-deprived, just pretend you're not tired."
That seemed almost mean-spirited at the time. But it absolutely saved us. Turns out the worst part of new parenthood sleep deprivation is dragging your sorry carcass around, bemoaning your fate. By pretending you're not tired, you actually torture yourself a lot less. She was a wise lady.
veekerz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:02:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Just practice." I know it doesn't work for everything and everyone, but there have been a significant number of times that I somehow managed to stick with something and it just... worked.
I felt like an idiot with my awkward dance movements and couldn't get this one move. One day, I could do it. I couldn't believe it.
Another example, volleyball. I bought an outdoor net with zero prior experience. I simply wanted something both active and social to do with my friends. A year and three months later, I'm playing with those friends at a tournament and I (5'11" though I tell people I'm 6') stuff block a 6'7" dude who's starting in a college team.
When walking towards someone, walk as if you were driving (stay to your right) to avoid walking into them and doing that weird dance where you go left and they go right and you continue to block their way.
My AP Calculus teacher says this all the time, every single day, and it honestly holds true. I'm sure we've all "tried" at something pretty hard, but didn't really try for real. As soon as you seriously start putting all of your effort into something, it makes a huge difference.
The best and hardest to live by advice I was given hands down. "You are what you Eat".
In particular, taking care of your gut biome, and the tens of thousands of microbes living inside you. What you feed yourself correlates to how your body functions. Depression, Anxiety, obesity, diabetes, heck even controls brain function and how you make decisions. You body is composed of more bacteria and "other" organisms than you have of you. There is a direct link from your belly to brain.
So cut the Sugar, lessen the meats, and graze the greens and beans!
I cannot think of advice, but this bit piece of information:
Many, many moons ago before I was ten, which was 25+ years ago, I was at the bowling alley with a friend and I was getting mad because I lost my quarter in a gumball machine when an old grandpa-ish guy came up to us and said this exactly phrased statement: "That's like being screwed without ever getting a kiss." I had no idea what he meant, but if it meant feeling like this after losing a quarter ok. I eventually (I think) learned what that piece of advice meant and I knew then and there and all these years later...no sir I won't be getting screwed without ever getting a kiss.
(this story shows how one random sentence can stick with you the rest of your life)
To be honest, I am not sure, but the saying always stuck with me, because it was so odd out of nowhere. I took it as dont let things run over you for no reason, but your right it seems more like make sure you get something out of life because sooner or later it will scream you. It was just such an odd saying and I took it as do not let something take advantage of you if your not benefiting from it. Just so odd that I remember that one specific meaningless words of advice.
Frungy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stretching. Seemed like a waste of time when I could be doing other shit.
Holy crap my aging but now agile as a motherfucking fox body! A perfect 5/7, 11 with Rice would recommend to anyone over 30. Not even before exercise. Just fucking stretch.
Chxo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wipe from front to back, I no longer get shit on my balls.
Hold your car key remote to your head to get extra range when locking/unlocking the doors.
jrwahl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Given two choices you can't decide on, imagine one choice is taken away. Your reaction (unhappy, indifferent, etc.) can shed light on which choice you really want.
Every experience (even bad experiences) are good experiences, so long as you learn from them. This will make you not stress over anything that happens.
Xenton ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:08:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ginger beer to settle a stomach.
I've studied pharmacy for years and the scientific basis is virtually not there at all, especially given the low amount of ginger in most commercial ginger flavoured carbonated drinks,
But ginger beer has worked better than any antacid or alluminium based heart burn remedy I've ever tried, despite the thousands of papers of evidence to the contrary.
sweadle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or if you don't want the beer part, try some fresh ginger in cold water. Sliced thin or grated in. It doesn't take much.
Put hand sanitizer on sap in clothes and rub it against itself. After 30 seconds of rubbing and one run through the washing machine, it will look good as new.
As a teenager who spends his free time splitting firewood, my mother was elated to hear about this one.
Stop feeling entitled to anything from anyone. Peopleโs time, service, and reciprocation of gifts/money. Makes relationships of any kind way less stressful and makes you less of an angry person.
Old dude who had been working at the same place for 25 years told me if you see someone at work doing something difficult, Dont offer to help. Wait for them to ask.
He had more eloquent phrasing, but thats the gist of it.
Chances are they dont need your help, and you might learn a new, more efficient way of doing the thing.
Buy lets say they dont really know what they are doing and encountering issues. If you jump the gun and tell them what to do, it'll fall on deaf ears. People who swallow their pride first are more open to advice.
The Lord helps those that help themselves. Used to think it was just a rude way of saying no. But in my experience the universe is more likely to cut you a brake when you've been trying on your own accord
Whenever you're at home, always have something in your hand when you go to a different room.
If you have a cup on your desk, take it with you to the kitchen. If you have your towel in your room, bring it with you to the bathroom. When put into action, the clutter seems to disappear and you never really need to clean that hard because everything is where it belongs. It makes life easier and makes you feel good about your home.
Also, stop complimenting on looks. For example, instead of saying "you look sexy in that dress", say "that dress is beautiful." It sounds silly because you're not complimenting the person, but it means so much more and you get a much better response and you gain a lot of respect doing this.
"It's not you versus me, it's us versus the problem."
Idk who told us or where we read it when we got engaged but at first it turned into an inside joke. Until we had a fight, and remembering that you both want the same thing and you're a team really helps shift your perspective . I can go from raging "i must win this fight" to what's really the best solution for us.
Growing up with depression, I would say most of the help adults tried to give me, advice, guidance, etc. It wasn't that it fell on deaf ears as much as I would automatically respond to it with an "I know" attitude.
When I had grown up, much of what was said to me started to come back to me and I would consider it deeply, often seeing it in a new understanding, and it became infinitely more useful in overcoming some of the worst bouts of depression I'd face.
I always have issues with this one because I have to remember it is from the top as you are looking at the tool... so if your wrench handle is pointing down, this is backwards...
Pick out tomorrow's work clothes the night before. I didnt think anything of it until I tried it. This was like a pressure-release valve for my mornings.
wojar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:14:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I initially had trouble making friends in my new school. All the advice from my family is to be yourself. Which I always thought never really made sense. It seemed stupid to me because every action you make is who you are. Even your insecurities or even if you fake everything. It's all you. At the time, I had low self-esteem and because of that, I had a lot of social anxiety. It's not like people will instantly like you when you admit you have low self-esteem or social anxiety. If anything, it could make you a bigger target for bullies.
Then, eventually, I just started talking to people. I didn't really talk about myself and my issues. But I talked to other people and what was going on in their lives. It actually helped in that I was able to not be as self-conscious. Eventually, once I built the trust up. I was able to talk about my feelings and shit. I still get depressed and get anxiety from social situations but not as much as it used to be. I will say I did a lot better socializing in college.
cenTT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:09:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, it feels better to eat the whole apple like that and less weird to eat the center. It's such a waste to throw the center away like we are tought.
Check your blind spot before merging into a different lane.
Learned this When I was only looking in the side view mirrors and almost hit a car.
I sounds really dumb but us Jersey drivers are shit at doing this.
Thinking positively goes a long way. As a kid, I was afraid to think positive thoughts in fear of having the opposite outcome. So for a long time I only thought in a negative manner until I meet my now bf, he told me about if you think positively good things can manifest from it. I know I probably sound stupid but I REALLY believed that thinking negatively would stop bad things from happening but its the complete opposite now that I think back on it
It sounds like a bs platitude but having moved countries and making the conscious decision to not pretend to like or dislike certain things to try and make friends. I realised quickly that people themselves are so diverse and have all their own quirks about them that whoever you meet will see you and like or dislike you on face value as who you show up as. If you show up unapologeticallly as yourself then the people who like you, truly you, will and you learn quickly who doesn't appreciate the real you.
This one is for small businesses. Early in my career as a freelance photographer, I was told "Don't mess around with low end clients. Only deal with the kind of clients you really want." This seemed cliche and impossible. How does one magically find high end clients? But after a year or two of working with whomever I could, I started booking higher-end clients, not all the time, but I'd get lucky here and there. Once I got busy enough, I trimmed off the lower end. Rinse and repeat. Now I only work with people I like and who are willing to pay me a fair wage. I donate a good bit of my time taking photos for non-profits but it's only for organizations who really appreciate it like a kids' theatre or local food bank and not some huge org like the Red Cross. NEVER do freebies unless you really want to. At first you might feel guilty about saying no. But remember 2 things. 1) All other professionals are getting paid at events (caterer, venue, DJ, videographer, MC, etc.) You should too. 2) Their CEO probably makes more in a week than you make all year. Why are they asking YOU to volunteer?
oillbak ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โThe best lessons in life are the ones you bought and paid for.โ
My dad says this all the time. Especially after I screw up like I did when I was using and almost cost me my children. But I got sober and got them back. But those 2 years without them were the hardest times of my life. But it taught me to appreciate and value what I have and to never ever go back to where I was. I paid dearly for my mistakes and almost paid the ultimate price but it taught me a very hard lesson.
Somebody I met a few weeks ago told me that centipedes are crunchier and juicier than millipedes, but millipedes are longer and mushier, sorta like pasta. I never made that comparison, and after that perspective shift I found a whole new way to enjoy them!
When I was carrying something heavy as a child, my mum would say, take two trips, you daft lad. Me being a mentally challenged youngster would think to myself "Oh if you purposely trip yourself twice before you get going, then you get that out of the way and it is smooth sailing from then on out. I now know she meant divide it into two parts and be more efficent. It was good advice
Fake it until you make it. I was in a bad place and decided to do something to improve myself instead of staying down because fuck it what else did I have to lose. Started feigning confidence and better attitudes when lol and behold it worked. Obviously everyone's circumstance is unique but it did wonders for me.
Can't never did nothing. I hated to hear it growing up, but if you say I can't, you won't do anything. Turn can't into I can, and you'll go further than you'll ever expect.
Force yourself to smile and it might just brighten your mood. Spent most of highschool moody and depressed and then I finally took this advice seriously and while it didn't solve all my problems it did make me feel slightly happier. Majorly helped with my anxiety.
if you're trying to learn english (or any other language, really), but are an olympic procrastinator and a lazy piece of shit like me, just watch the movies and shows you were gonna watch anyway in the language you're trying to learn. Turn on the subtitles and read along. Got from an A2 level to a C2 (basically as well as my mother tongue) within 3 years or so. All I did was watch The Sopranos 18 times.
Meditate. I disregarded the advice for many years, when I was suffering from debilitating anxiety and bouts of depression. I can't emphasize how much it helped me. Took some practice, sure, but I am super glad I tried and found the cure to that ugly infliction.
Felt dumb because I assumed a majority of people will scrutinize everything you do on every level, since my dad used to do it to me all the time.
You'd be surprised the things you can get away with with an air of confidence, especially when dealing with people like customers or managers in a work setting. I keep a shell of confidence that I know what I'm doing at all times and half the time, customers or managers will let me do whatever as long as it gets results.
_FTP_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:30:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To stop the hiccups:
Breathe in through your mouth and out through your nose. This requires effort, because it is very abnormal, but it is 100% effective. (from my experience)
Don't loose sleep over anything you can't fix right now. Have to wait till tomorrow or the weekend to do something that's frying your nerves? You can't fix it till then so don't worry about it till then. It seems impossible but if you can just think about anything else and fall asleep your mind will thank you endlessly and the problem will seem so much smaller when it's time to deal with it.
Keep taking in breaths till you are beating capacity, hold it in 1-2 seconds then slowly exhale. Goodbye hiccups. I just learned it this year and I wish I knew 30 years ago.
Idk if this fits here but curing hiccups by bending forward at a 90 angle and drinking water whilst in that position. It looks really dumb and you should use a bottle or straw for the easiest way but it's always worked instantly for me.
cppr47 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:36:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use discipline, not motivation to complete tasks.
It took me far too long to realise this but itโs changed the game for my productivity.
I've been thinking about this a lot recently as I sit at a job that I actually don't mind, but don't make enough in salary. Sure you're giving me benefits which is great and all, but I haven't used any medical in 2 years aside from just checkups..
I would much more prefer that $250+ per week you're (the company) spending on that to use for myself, or to save for a house I can't afford.
Stretch correctly everyday to easy back pain and build strength. Just started a few months ago and it is my number two life changing decision I have made.
Itโs important to properly try to extend intended muscles and feel them out. Yoga helped me understand how to do this. I had back pain always especially in my hips and it all went away after starting a yoga based proper stretching regime at least 5 days a week.
I start on my hands and knees with my knees pointed out and my feet touching. I do a pretzel stretch and exaggerated cat cow rolls and finish with thread the needle. I move to down ward dog and walk out my calfโs and then extend each leg and circle my hips. Next I do lunges before moving to warrior pose where I side stretch and do shoulder movements. I stretch quads next while I balance on one leg then put feet together and bend over doing forward folds and hugging my arms to work hips as I rock side to side. Then I do full body yoga stretches from this stance and when Iโm upright I make sure to stretch neck muscles. Then I sit and do legs together quad stretches. Move to a back twist, then figure 4โs and then I roll back while pulling legs apart to stretch groin and extend lower back. Finally I do windshield wipers body stretches and work out remaining kinks.
Again learning to stretch out the body the right way is important. Going through motions is useless. Gotta actively try to work the target muscles. Yoga is a great place to start. If you are having pain or soreness in back/hips/neck this is 100% something to look into. You will not regret.
No problem. I can do the entire routine in 10 minutes and itโs easy to do while watching tv or at lunch break on the floor. I should make a video and post it to show people how easy it is.
Worst part is my wife complains daily about her back and โnever had time to stretchโ but then spends $100 bucks on a massage. Meanwhile my dad is pushing 70 and has had 3 back surgeryโs and he plays golf 3 times a week. He does daily back stretches everyday when he wakes up.
zanyyy ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:42:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel better now knowing how best to stretch from internet friend.
Lairdy_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:39:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learning to be thankful, instead if apologetic has helped me communicate better.
For example, rather than saying 'sorry for being late' i might say 'thank you for waiting'
Using language that expresses gratitude makes me feel a lot better, and it acknowledges the other person for what they might have been doing.
"Thank you for your patience " over "sorry for taking so long" ect ect
Jordan Petersonโs stand up straight with your shoulders back. I did what he saidโi walk with my back straight and tallโand I feel like a million bucks after taxes. I walked slumped over before and it made me feel like a bitch. Now I feel confident. It really, truly builds confidence, and it makes others think youโre confident too.
Slow is smooth, and smooth is fast. If you aren't good at something new take it slow and once you get the basics you'll get better a lot faster as opposed to jumping in the deep end without knowing how to swim.
The No Zero Days thing. Just doing something, anything, is a step forward. Whether it be sweeping the house or reading a chapter in a book, whatever little thing you accomplish can be the start something bigger you want fot yourself. =]
m1sta ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:41:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If nobody can decide on dinner ask "what do you think I want for dinner?"
If you don't remember a word in English, say it but in Spanish (it can also be for some movie, book or song title), the people find it to be some cute stereotype or even funny.
Adding group yoga/ vigorous exercise to my weekly routine to help my depression. It doesn't cure it, but it gives me a more immediate thing to focus on.
if one of your apple ear buds stops working, try sucking on it. thereโs probably just ear wax stuck in it, suck the headphone then wipe off what comes out.
bsash ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is easier to eliminate temptation than to resist it. This is why I don't keep ice cream in the house. It's not there so I don't have to spend effort not eating it. Then when I want some it's a special treat.
Make your bed first thing each day. I had always been against making my bed, but it works. It gives you a sense of accomplishment and helps you jump into action for the rest of the day. If you have a rough day, at the very least you know you did one thing right.
jiff111 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:48:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditating. It's amazing what 10 minutes a day does for your peace of mind.
BetaHH ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:48:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read the syllabus.
lekaik ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:48:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โNobody is obliged to do something for someoneโ
Don't be an idiot, changed my life. Everytime I'm about to do something I ask myself would an idiot do that and if that answer is yes I don't do that thing.
โWeโre too poor to buy cheapโ meaning, buy the more expensive good quality item that will last you several years rather than buying crappy quality items that will give out in a few months
Contene ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get eucalyptus scented cleaner or eucalyptus essential oil mixed with water in a stray bottle. Spray this around your house and the bugs will run away. Worked so well that I didn't have to use the clearer for several months and by then I had forgotten where it was!
(Note: I used this to get rid of Asian lady beatles, your results may vary)
That you have to want to get better for it to actually work, as in, if you want changes, you canยดt expect them to just magically happen, you gotta get out there and make change happen.
Put your thumbs up against the little fold, wrap your habds around parallel to your thumbs and flick your pointer fingers against the space where they touch together at the back of your head. Ringing stops immediately.
Honestly, positive mindset and positive words. Taking โhateโ โdonโt likeโ out your vocab helped me so much. Even โI canโtโ or โI wontโ. I know even jokingly saying โI want to dieโ is just so negative and removing it feels like removing the weight on your back.
Putting any loose gas cap in your pocket while getting fuel. I've left one top of my car before and scoffed at this old man that gave me the advice but I got in my vehicle enough times with it still in my pocket to wish that I could thank him.
Friend told me to start smoking weed. It's helped a lot with my anxiety and depression plus it's hella fun. I was also prescribed oxy recently but I didn't really want to fuck with that so I just smoked instead. Was a good pain killer.
A few years ago, some nVidia GPUs had a bad solder point on the card. The solution was to bake the GPU in an oven at a certain, low temp (forget the exact numbers and model of GPU it was). It sounds incredibly stupid and like it would damage the card more, but it really would just remelt the solder and allow it to take a better hold, thus fixing the problem.
Meditate.
When I was younger I thought it was a weird thing only hippies and monks did, as an adult it's the best thing I've ever done for my brain. Not meditating is like the brain equivalent of never getting off the couch/exercising.
(If you've never tried it, watch a YouTube video or download an app for guided meditation, headspace or calm are good ones)
Obizues ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:06:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to think that large meetings with very simple generic messages were a giant waste of time.
After holding them for a while, I realized that when I held them everyone goes to and from that meeting with a different context. The conversation that follows clears up things that couldโve been very problematic quickly.
I still hate them, but when Iโm on the receiving end I understand the purpose now.
Email is not a time management system. If it requires a response, respond right away after reading it the first time, even if it's only to request more time for a more detailed response.
Put your seemingly dead hard drive in a ziplock bag in the freezer overnight. Put it on the computer one last time and recover what appeared to be tons of lost data before it heats up again.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To get rid of hiccups. My friends dad was a neurologist, not that it makes him an expert but he swore by it. It does actually work. You hold your breath, tilt your head to the side and take 8 small sips of water without letting out your breath. He claimed it messages the diaphragm. IDK- it works.
phs125 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yoga for stress and back pain. I was so sceptical my first class but it worked. Still not keen on the hippydippy stuff for sale outside the class but it's easy to ignore.
If you donโt like needles, focus on wiggling your toes from left to right, and then from right to left and you probably wonโt even feel the needle!
If you tend to procrastinate but have to get something done, try the 25-5 minute approach with a friend/colleague where you work uninterruptedly for 25 minutes then break for 5 and check in with a short progress report. Change times to suit your needs, and do it with a friend who prioritizes their own work too. Works for me when I need to get a lot of writing done.
sszivos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you have the hiccups, chug a glass of water with a paper towel over the top of it. Works every time
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting an 1/8 tsp +/- sea salt on your tongue then swallowing will stop hiccups in their tracks 9 out of 10 times.
Now I got this advice in college. It was a buddy of mine that told me it. It was initally in relation to hooking up with girls. Basically if you never ask them out or ask them to do anything (sexual or not) it will never happen. I took that advice to heart and got with a girl that weekend who ended up being my girlfriend for a while.
Going forward I realized that this applies to almost everything in life. Want a raise. Ask. Want something done differently. Ask.
You will be shocked what asking politely for things will get you in life. But the key is also to ask confidently. Not smugly. Just confident and with a smile.
Buroda ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt compare yourself to others. Sounds like a very run-of-the mill advice, but at a certain point in my life I was so consumed by insecurity and jealousy towards others, understanding this was an eureka moment that probably saved my life. It honestly went downhill from there.
I used to skin it first, and it took me ages. I never believed my father-in-law when he told me to cook it first, and finally once I tried it. The skin peeled right off.
My reaction to seeing the first advertisement for sending pictures via your phone/text message was, "How useless. Nobody is ever going to use that." Not long after that thought it quickly became a daily activity!
try spreading some positivity. for some reason I've noticed that if I'm being nice to people through super low investment things like saying "nice shoes" and making them feel happy/better about their day I feel better about everything(also some people have hella cool shoes)
writing things down; whether it be a list for the store or a list for serious changes you need to make in life; things are so much clearer and better remembered when you write them down
The Cure to Hiccups. I've had them for as many as 5 days straight (so I've heard it all). ** Deep Breath-- Hold and keep holding as you-- Swallow-- Inhale more air-- Swallow-- Continue repeating inhale/ swallow while still holding full(er) lungs. No exhale until necessary.
Works for Me... (but don't hold Your breath..)
That taking even just a 10 minute walk in the morning can greatly boost your energy for the day. Been doing that every day for 3 years taking my dog for a walk around the block. Now I live in LA and my dogs are with my parents, so I haven't been talking the walk, and I definitely notice the difference.
living completely in the moment. not trying to envision possible outcomes of any actions or any past events, just being aware of your surroundings and you
Bought a capture card it never worked from the day i got it read a post on a forum saying to put it in the freezer tried it and it acctually worked. atlesst for about 20 mins anyway lol
Read somewhere(maybe on one of the r/askreddit threads) that if a goose is trying to attack you donโt run away,Instead grab it by the neck and yeet that goose.
Thought it was useless until 3 days ago.
I was walking to my class In college when a goose was blocking the door into the building. I tried to walk around it but it flew up a little and tried to bite me so I grabbed it and threw that goose away from me and ran into the building.
Don't be proud. If someone shows you a better way, accept it and think about changing your mind. Stupid are not those people who do not know but those who refuse to learn.
A bit of moisturizer on your butt hole as part of your normal lotion ritual. It helps if it's sensitive and you sometimes see a bit of bright red blood when you wipe.
When youโre depressed and feel like isolating yourself/just crawling into bed, do NOT do that.
I used to wonder why I couldnโt just lay in bed all day and sleep if it seemingly helped my depression, but Iโve started getting up, opening my windows, and cleaning/organizing whenever I feel that way and it helps so much more.
"Clean as you cook". Seriously saves so much time. Then when you're done eating you have, at most, a few plates and pieces of silverware to clean. Amazing.
I recently got a new Tab S4 and the pen wasnt working right so I asked my friend for help since i was coming up with nothing. His search results advised banging the tip a bit to get it to work. I blew it off as a joke till a few days later I was frustrated and voiced it and he asked if I had done it lol told him no cuz I thought he was joking. Turns out it was correct advice. A few good bangs got it working perfectly! Sometimes hits or bangs really do work lol
I word vomited what could have been said in a sentence or 2 ๐
Bengeva ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:21:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One side of my earbuds stoped working so like looked up how to fix it on YouTube and the person told me to put your mouth where it goes into your ear and blow into it. It seemed stupid but I tried it and now my earbuds work.
Cinnamon on doorways and window to keep out ants.
Thought it was crazy, but I tried it.
Very few ant get in my house. Have to replace it only twice all summer last year.
Note- I live on a small incline and have several ant hill on my tiny property. There used to be ants everywhere
Getting rid of ants with black pepper or cinnamon. I was super doubtful it would work. It totally does. Supposedly it confuses their chemo receptors so they lose the trail they're following. I believe because they freak out if drop it near the line. I prefer pepper as its easier to clean up IMO but both have worked. It does take a bit of time so have to be patient, but once word gets back that the trail is messed up ants will stop coming
Rids85 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:26:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not me, but I remember telling a friend in college what to do if you skid out on black ice while driving. Years later I ran into him and he told me my tipped saved him one night when he skidded out taking an exit off a highway during a storm.
Of course! Glad to share what I know and happy others maybe interested: If you find yourself spinning or losing control of your wheels to the ice: first don't slam on the brakes. Worst thing you could probably do and will cause you to wreck 99 times out of 100. Make sure your hands are 10-2 on the wheel, if not both secure on the wheel; do not grab hold of the wheel tightly- lighten up your grip, (sounds hard to do under pressure, you just have to trust your car to fix itself sort to speak) and try to feel the car out, tap on the breaks very lightly if you feel the need or you're going fast, the car should, grab back to the road and straighten back out. Depending on how aware you and your reflexes are, you can put your 4 ways on to signal viability to others
jcat910 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:27:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can't eat a elephant in one bite. Really helps to stay focused on one task and picking a place to start. Also really helps with big projects when you seem to be drowning in things to get done.
Surface pro 3 wouldn't turn on. Someone in an online forum said to try bending it a bit until I heard a crack. Did so and it works fantastic up this day!
sega702 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:28:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't hand write your uni lecture notes.
Just switched over to typing after 2 months of stubborness and now it takes half as long. face palm ctrl-f saved my finger tips.
Cut dairy out of your diet to eliminate acne. LIFE CHANGING. I wish I had followed this advice 10 years ago when I first heard about it.
(Yes I still miss real cheese but whatever Iโve got perfect clear skin when I used to have horrific cystic acne everywhere)
โShow up for yourself. Every dayโ. And โBe your own best friendโ
Until I began doing it, it sounded totally stupid to me. One day, it just, clicked.
Facial bars prevent acne. Seemed dumb for the longest time. I got rid of my acne and was told Iโd have it again but never got it back because I prevented it. Cleaning your face helps grow facial hair and now I have it.
I never viewed it as a useless piece of advice but before he died my grandpa told me that if I ever find a lot of ants in the house I should spread some oregano (spice) everywhere. Tried it some times, ants always gone in less that two days.
Do mindfulness practices. Iโm a psych student and I thought they sounded useless when I first learned about it but being present really does help anxiety, stress, plenty of issues.
Take a deep breath when youโre having a panic attack.
And then, slowly, breathe in and breathe out.
I thought it was bullshit, like the person who told me that had no idea of what a panic attack really feels like to say that breathing could defeat a monster called anxiety.
But yeah... focusing on my breathing had helped me a lot! Iโm not saying it was the answer to all of my problems, but sure helped a lot!
Drink a gallon of water a day. It sound hard but if you just drink it throughout the day believe it or not, you'll look better, feel better, and (for my fellow dudes out there) smell better.
If youโre studying material that deals with a lot of equations i.e thermodynamics, physics, higher level math courses; donโt memorize the equations. Memorize the concepts behind them. The equations become secondary to the concept. If you understand how something works then itโs easier to apply the equations after.
I didnโt realize this until I got to college and started to see just how far down a rabbit hole you can go if you donโt understand the meaning of an equation.
Dont use lotion/moisturizer meant for your body or hands on your face.
I never really used it much anyway, but my hands were cracking a bit and I got lotion. It helped. Then I had some dry patches on my face, and figured what the heck.
Two months later and I am only just beginning to be able to not wear makeup over every inch of my face in order to feel like a human being.
Only use moisturizers and lotions that are SPECIFICALLY for your face on your face.
Things made for your body are generally not formulated not to clog pores.
Using them on your face will clog your pores up and trap oil under your skin, causing acne. All over.
I never wear makeup or even do much of a skincare routine, but a couple dry patches got me to start using a moisturizer I had... suddenly acne all over my face.
Since then I've had to invest in an exfoliating sugar scrub, a proper moisturizer, and makeup remover, as I was covering the spots up with foundation/concealer during the day. My skin is really light, so they were just huge red angry spots you could see from miles away.
I also learned that proactive makes my skin worse. :|
Thanks a lot for the info, I started using body lotion as a light moisturizer before my thick face moisturizer. I felt like it helped me spread the thick one more evenly and being absorbed better... I will stop now though!!
Yeah, I think some brands are alright, but other times they'll just clog up every pore on your face and break you out in dozens of tiny little pimples.
Mine was all over both temples and around my nose.
Money ACTUALLY isnโt the key to happiness. I used to think โahh thatโs just a platitude to make the unsuccessful content in their mediocrity.โ But itโs actually true.
"There's nothing common about common sense." My old crew boss while fighting wildfire said this to me on multiple occasions. It wasn't until I had to train, manage, and organize groups of people that I finally realized the severity of the aforementioned comment. It may not be from a wise philosopher, but we're all wise in our own ways. Cheers to your wisdom and you're "common" sense.
Get a messenger bag. The small packs that you wear around your shoulder. Keep your phone and wallet in it. It really helps me stop losing my things and I look really cool while wearing it.
When you feel the air pressure goes down in the airplane, take a gulp down. It protects your eardrums.
After every continuous use of screen, fill your mouth with water and then splash running water on your open eyes few (3-5) times. You won't believe how better your eyes will be.
My dad used to say this all the time and I would roll my eyes and do a half assed job of whatever chore he asked me to do and I would have to come back and do it again, or fix what I didn't finish. But as I grew up I learned that taking a little extra time and care, whether it is for a household chore or a work project, ends up saving you tons of time and effort on the back end and leads to better results.
Best thing a boss ever told me was, "people don't like you." Until then I never cared, that was when at least at work I started thinking through how I was perceived and trying to control my brand to others.
peon72 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:43:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The whole go no contact with someone who hurt you. I ended up having some problems with someone who was the best friend I've ever had. We were like family, I wanted her to be in my life forever when we were close. When I started noticing how it became a chore to talk to her, how every interaction only seemed to make my mental health worse, I refused to end the friendship no matter what everyone kept saying, I knew I was stronger than that...
After maybe 6 months of slogging through, I finally cut her off. It was really the best outcome of that friendship, for me at least. I don't regret it in the slightest.
swing your arms when you run. naturally i thought arm swing made no real difference when running. turns out that it helps you keep a rhythm and gives you a little extra oomph.
After a long flight, take off your shoes and socks and then walk around on the rug barefoot and make fists with your toes. I know, it sounds crazy. Trust me, Iโve been doing it for nine years.
My old iPhone 4s refused to connect to WiFi for some reason and someone recommended i put it in the freezer. I thought it was some dumb meme but it actually fixed the phone (temporarily).
I used to think, โbut thatโs my hobbyโ. Nope. I now have plenty of time to read books, been playing the guitar more and am getting plenty of time for exercise.
I donโt even miss playing games much. I still play it every once in a while but there was a time when I spent every hour of free time playong videogames
Eating food when I feel sad or crummy. I donโt realize how much accidentally missing a meal affects me until I do. As well, if youโve missed a meal today, go eat! Your body is important. Keep it happy and healthy.
If youโre in writerโs block, just write shit. It can be awful. But if you put at least something down, it will spark different ideas and end up helping you in the long run.
BKBaker ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:46:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mediate, and practice the same breathing techniques you use for concentration during meditation for when youโre being productive or making decisions so you focus and so you can achieve flow states more consistently:
We had to give speeches yesterday in university and write anonymous critiques. I told one girl to smile more cause she has a great smile and she said it melted her heart. She loved it. She has no idea itโs me though lol
Wearing socks with your shoes will make your shoes smell less. Yeah. Being 10 was a wild ride lol
cliive ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To get rid of the hiccups:
Tilt your head back and have someone firmly pull your ears toward the ground. Drink a glass of water for 10 seconds while you stay like that. 99% of the time it works every time.
WKaiH ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:52:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you get off a long flight and get to where you are going take off your shoes and make little fists with your toes. Works better than a hot shower and a cup of coffee...
If you've got hiccups get someone to pull down gently but firmly on your ear lobes, enough that you slightly bend your knees, while you drink a glass of water.
Consider, at least for the moment, that you might be wrong and the other person is right.
When if a person is telling you that the spade in their hand is a shovel, instead of just correcting them "No that's a spade", even if the evidence of your own eyes is clearly telling you that it's a spade, go through the mental process of asking yourself if it's a shovel. Why would this person think it's a shovel? Is there any benefit in correcting them? Is it in fact a type of spade and I'm lacking experience that my ego tells me I have? Have I seen it from the wrong angle?
This idea of at least considering that I might be wrong was so alien to me that I physically resisted it for a year. Possibly a sign of ASD in me that I have such a barrier between what I KNOW to be true and what I'm willing to accept as only almost true.
As an engineer I'm daily in the position of disagreeing with people to their face, and that disagreement is often genuinely because we're talking about something I have knowledge and experience with. I'm right. They're wrong. It's mostly a matter of educating the ignorant.
And I've found it so beneficial sometimes to just physically bite my tongue, blink a couple of times, and allow the person to carry on. At least consider that I might be wrong.
I thought it was useless to run the magnets over the HDD from my dad's computer to make sure I covered my tracks. Little did I know it was not at all useless. It was very useful for me to follow my dreams of being beaten by my father, then kicked out of the house. It was useful to make me homeless and quickly get addicted to drugs, frequently having to bend my morals for my fix. But I'd say that overall the most useful thing in the pursuit of life ruining was all the advice the internet gave me. Fuck you internet. Your advice wasn't useless at all. You life ruiners can go fucking fuck yourselves, you useful bastards
Useful advice: you are responsible for all of your choices past, present, and future.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:56:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To stay away from Reddit, Users are Assholes but Learning that people on Reddit are Actually Caring, Thoughtful and Smarter than the average Internet User!
Coconut oil for baby cradle cap. Was told by a public health nurse to try rubbing coconut oil into my baby's head where the cradle cap was, brush it in lightly, then wash out with baby shampoo. I never thought something like that would work so ignored the advice for months until I couldn't figure out what else to do. The cradle cap was gone after a couple rounds. Who knew.
My daughter got an iPhone 3 from my mom that had busted wifi, the slider was just greyed out. Saw a website that said to heat it with a hairdryer then put it in the fridge. My daughter begged me to do it even though I thought it was silly. 6 months later and the wifi still works...
This is a great tip to save money. Before you buy something such as expensive clothes, shoes, etc, ask yourself, Am I going to buy it because I WANT it or because I NEED it? This has easily saved me a few thousand dollars in these past few months.
Ingbo_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:02:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reading this post, then finding some legit advice.
If you are uncomfortable making eye contact with someone, look in the centre of their eyebrows just above the nose - they wonโt be able to tell the difference
Xanza ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:03:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Traveling is as easy as deciding to do it.
Traveling always seemed out of reach because it's always a huge deal to travel. Planning, saving money, etc.
Finally one long weekend (5 days) I was exhausted from working all the time I purchased a round trip ticket from JFK to Miami. Cost me $250 and another $200 for an airbnb. Had an amazing time and realized that traveling isn't so scary.
Just gotta get up and decide to do it whenever you can fit it in.
my mom always said that if I were to sleep longer I would get more rest and it worked but instead of sleeping longer here I am on Reddit, 6 in the morning, because I couldn't sleep...
Just in case anyone is still reading: if you feel light-headed or get a head rush, flex your thighs and butt a few times. It really helps. The idea is it gets blood back up to your head.
Don't make promises you can't keep or won't be important enough for you to remember to keep. Saves disappointing people even just little and often. Think seriously for a minute about whether you can keep it. And if you're worried about forgetting it (if it's something you deem little) make a reminder on your phone. Could save your relationships.
delaty1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:09:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Act enthusiastic and youโll be enthusiastic. -Dale Carnegie
Using scissors to cut your pizza instead of a knife
RajuTM ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:11:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My volume button was stuck on my phone. Saw a youtube video saying you should put saliva on your fingers and slide your fingers on volume up/down furiously. It worked.
Get a planner. I just thought making a pretty to do list would add more to what I had to do already but honestly it was a big help. Writing things down helped me remember and helped me organize! I also used it as a mood tracker, with homework, my work schedule, etc etc.
I honestly prefer a notebook planner, although some apps I tried were really cool and helpful! I got my planner from Barnes and Noble, it's one of those basic ones with the "you can do it" quotes through out it but honestly the cheesy positivity is nice sometimes :)
And I will add this, because it stopped me from getting "razor rash". Get a good razor, a safety razor. Before you shave, soak the blade in rubbing alcohol (normally while you shower, doesn't need to be for days). This will kill any bacteria on your blade that might be giving you "shaving bumps".
Maybe only applicable to Filmmakers, but imagine Stanley Kubrick is watching you during every aspect of filmmaking. You WILL start to care about details.
Ring of death on Xbix 360, the one where there wasn't a good connection to the corners of the machine. Googled how to try and fix the problem and seen where you wrap the Xbox in a towel and let it heat up so it expands and connects. So I did it fir a few hours and lord and behold it never happened again. The Xbox was fixed dor a long while till I got the full circle rings of death 2 years later.
read the subtle art of not giving an fuck.... the whole idea of not giving a fuck about the things that you shouldnt give a fuck about sounded stupid..... i tried it and holy shit its a great feeling.
Was playing Halo 2 Vista with my friend and he was sick and was drinking tea, he spilled the tea on his keyboard and so jokingly I told him to vacuum the keyboard, he did it and miraculously it somehow worked
Doing sleep therapy. If you cant fall asleep, squeeze the muscles in your feet for 5 seconds and release. Then repeat your legs, butt, stomach, arms, face. I go through periods of insomnia and a therapist told me to try this, I rolled me eyes and threw away her advise. Until one night I had enough and I tried it... it actually works!
60% of the time, works everytime
If it moves and isn't supposed to use duct tape. If it doesn't move and is supposed to use WD-40.
ajm_sj ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom always had three go-toโs for people:
1) Never trust someone who doesnโt keep sheets on their beds.
2) People who donโt sleep arenโt worth losing sleep over.
3) Punching a brick wall only hurts you...not the wall. And the wall isnโt going to budge.
I think 2 comes from some of her exes doing hard core drugs without her knowledge such as cocaine which keeps you up ๐คทโโ๏ธ
Theoost ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"DONT DO IT YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LIVE FOR BUT STILL!" my mum. idk what year.
817mkd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
when youre tired and you just woke up for school and work from an alarm, hitting snooze and any amount of extra rest wont do anything, you just need to get up and start moving.
My dad told me that, i thought it was the least helpful advice ive ever gotten but no,discipline like that helps
EnXigma ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:17:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt remember the video but it was a Commander saying how you should tidy your bed, that way if your day ever goes bad you come home to a well made bed. He gave me a different outlook to things.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:17:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The system where you take 5 minute breaks after studying in 20 minute intervals. It's called the Pomeo method or something like that and it is the most efficient system for me.
Also if you have an ant infestation, sprinkle grits every where. When someone told me this I was like โyeah ok๐โ but I became desperate and tried it and oddly enough, I havenโt seen a single ant in my home since I did it about 2 weeks ago.
Making your bed every day. I used to not care but once you start doing one good habit daily, it snowballs into more good habits. I'm eating healthier, I'm procrastinating less, and I'm exercising every morning and evening now. I've got a long way to go but it's a good start and makes me feel amazing.
If you get hiccups, stand still, hold your breath, close your eyes, check your pulse and focus solely on the rhythm of your pulse. If you do this quick enough after the hiccups started, it almost always cures it.
I'm probably too late, bit here's a trick to stop your nosebleed:
Uptilt your head so you are looking right above you;
Hit the back of your head with your palm, not that hard, enough to make your head bob;
Wait about 1 minute.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:21:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
deep breathing
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:21:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jelqing. It fucking works.
htbs57 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:21:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If life is getting you down, focus on the little things!
This really helped me out when I was going through a tough time - instead of thinking โin ten years time I could have a great jobโ, think about what you have to look forward to in the immediate future. For instance - I have to get up tomorrow because thereโs that chocolate in my fridge I want to eatโ or โthat movie is coming out in a few days and Iโd like to see itโ
When I wanted help in a video game, I always asked my big brother.
Sometimes, he would tell me to โjust keep your heart at 100, and the enemy at 0โ. I just thought it was something he said, when he didnโt have any tips to give, but then I was really focused about it, and I would get much better in the game.
KDish87 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:27:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thinking of money as time. For example, if you make $10/ hour, and you see a cool sweater for $30. Instead of thinking about it as $30, think of it as 3 hours of your life working. Youโll have a whole new view on spending and be waaaay less likely to waste time of your life on frivolous items.
Exercise makes you feel better for the rest of the day. No matter how bad Iโve been feeling it helps every single time
lilm303 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:28:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Appreciate how good you have it at the moment, you never know when things will turn around for the worse. Life is short. Every second of sadness is a second less of happiness. I feel a bit happier these days following this advice. We really gotta try to make the best of everything.
Not useless but cool in my opinion. Actually watching the YouTube recommended videos can actually teach you something. Who knew that One in every five adults believe that aliens are hiding in our planet disguised as humans. ๐
Bee231 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:31:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting a bar of Irish Spring under your mattress sheer to prevent calf cramps. I thought it was ridiculous, but I was desperate. As long as it was under there, I never had another calf cramp at night.
Breathe in and hold for 5 seconds then breathe out
hsklmn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:32:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop a bloody nose right away by sticking your finger into your mouth where the gum and lip have a gap. Touch that little skin part near the roof and it should go away. My math teacher told me this and it worked for me.
Putting oil stop leak in my diesel engine motor when the electric fuel pump seals broke. Got me out of a fix in a remote area (I'm an Aussie). Thank you google /s
make a gratitude list. being grateful will just become part of your nature, and you will begin to look for, recognize and acknowledge the good things that happen to you, and receive the gifts that you are asking for. I believe good things can only come to us, if we ask for it and are open to receiving it. when we are feeling good we are generally nicer to people, maybe more social, maybe more polite and that might cause you to meet someone you wouldn't have met if you were otherwise staring down at the ground and your cellphone, brushing by people never looking up at the beautiful world around you. Look for the good all around you, and be the good that someone else will begin to recognize, you never know who you may attract. <3 cheers
Changing how you talk to yourself and giving yourself positive affirmations. When you tell yourself youโre terrible all the time you really believe it. But when you force yourself to tell yourself positive things it has an insane positive effect over time.
Be sure to ask the people you care about if they are happy. Often times, we get distracted with the progression of professional and social lives, when what matters most is our mental state.
Towels are important. I didn' t really believe it at first, but you really do need them a shit ton of times. Douglas Adams was right. I live in one room and I need it basically everyday, and not just to clean up spilled things.
psyqqer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:42:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shot of pickle juice to help relieve constipation. Thought I was being trolled but tried it anyways bc I love pickles. Lo and behold 8ish hours later bowels were completely evacuated
"Tell me when you're going to hiccup." Sounds real stupid to a person who has been struggling with hiccups but they'll be thanking you a second later when they can no longer hiccup.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:43:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chopping up almonds into an almost paste consistency then mixing it to horse radish mustard and a small amount of olive oil to use as a topping for baked Chinook salmon..
hks2293 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:45:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Switching hands for masturbating.
abbyfla ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:45:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Carrying a positive attitude as often as you can. Your brain works like a muscle, so every time you meet stressful thoughts with positivity, your brain gets better at it and it becomes easier to fight the negativity. My depressed brain called that a lie until I started to truly lead with positivity.
If your going to pass the kitchen, bring the dirty plate or whatever trash. Cleaning and picking up stuff while passing helps a lot. Makes you feel more efficient and your home will almost always be ready for guests.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:51:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you feel tired after a very stagnant day, it's not a sign you shouldn't exercise, it's a sign that you should exercise.
13D00 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:52:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Last Friday i was supposed to go out with friends. I was getting ready when I cut myself while shaving my beard. Now this was a very small cut but it didn't stop bleeding for like 30min so I started asking friends what to do.
"Pepper. Put some pepper on the cut!"
Aah why not, I figured. I did not believe it at first, but I put some pepper on my hand and dabbed it on the cut.
It stopped bleeding within seconds!!!
I only got a kind of good/pepper stain on my chin. I let it sit for a couple of minutes and washed it off lol.
Doozerz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:52:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
banana and onion smoothies. I saw it on a cartoon when I was trippin acid and now I love them.
Jadienn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:53:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My truck wouldn't start at my sister's house. Her boyfriend got it running and showed me how to fix it if it happened again (he explained it was a temporary fix and I should have it serviced) anyway, he showed me this innocuous metal looking round mechanical something or other under the hood. Told me to bang on it a little bit. I shrugged it off.
Sure enough, my truck won't start a few weeks later. So I fished this bamboo stick from behind my seat and started poking the metal thing vigorously.
Y'all. My truck started right up and I sat there and immediately called my sister.
Learn to drive "dangerously".
Learn how to make a car slide, do burnouts, donuts, stop on a dime and swerve left to right quickly like you're in a chicane, aswell as techniques like left foot braking and understanding concepts like weight transfer.
It might one day save your life (or your bank account if the crash wouldn't have been fatal).
When your car gets into one of these situations without you wanting it to, because you've done it before on purpose and know how to create these situations, you also know how to safely correct them.
Or if you were to get into a situation where something like a quick use of left foot braking is all it takes to correct the vehicle.
Note:
Not advice that I though was useless until I tried it, but I feel like many more people would be alive if they'd tried it.
All the little catchphrases used by AA. Iโm a cynic and an anti-organisation type and at first dismissed all of them as trite, daft or even a bit cultish, but you know what? Theyโre all right, they all have meaning and work, and I use them all. Iโm still sober.
EDIT :
Examples are :
First things first
Keep it simple
One day at a time
This too will pass
Etc etc
og_clex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mine is in a youtube video the dude said you can clean the inside of the ps4 but you can lose some part of the ps4 at first i said fuck that but after month i said fuck it after i clean it my ps4 is not load anymore.
You want to know the secret to surviving air travel? After you get where you're going, take off your shoes and your socks then walk around on the rug bare foot and make fists with your toes.
Taking deep breaths and/or counting to ten when I'm getting angry. I don't literally count to ten, but I stop what I'm doing as much as I reasonably can and try not to speak or look at whatever's making me angry. It's actually helped me lose my shit a lot less often, especially when I'm mad at a thing instead of a person.
Slow down when you eat. Rather than eat as much as you feel you want, eat half that, then wait 10 minutes. If youโre still hungry, go right ahead! More often than not however, youโll realise that youโre actually full.
It takes quite a long time for the body to catch up to that fact, and thatโs why you can eat happily and all of a sudden you feel sick.
k4y133n ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:08:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
don't get social media at age 7. i deeply regret violating the terms of services because now i have 5 accounts i can't get rid of, which are vv embarrassing.
Floss every single night and never skip a night. It doesn't matter if you're buzzed or if you're traveling; no excuses.
Drackir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:09:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat while doing nothing else. Turn off the TV. Put down the book. Turn off your podcast. Just focus on the food. You'll eat less, you'll notice when you've had enough and you'll enjoy what you have more.
Especially with food you've been looking forward to. Just savour it!
Mind you, mindfulness improve nearly every aspect of your life.
Put a sizable chunk of your post taxes, bills and rent salary into some investments and keep your bank balance low but adequate. Too much money will get spent too easily and you'll have no savings.
You are conserving energy. Plus you can do other tasks, meal prep, instead of constantly stirring the pot. Does not want work well for spaghetti, linguini, etc.
Get rid of hiccups by closing your eyes and using both your little fingers (pinkies to you Americans) to touch your eyelids as lightly as physically possible. As lightly as you can imagine.
It sounds stupid, yet it has never failed to get rid of my hiccups on the first attempt. I'm guessing its just because it makes you focus really hard on something else.
Sounds weird but my older brother said if it's getting hot and heavy with a friend over the internet, before you go too far relieve yourself sexually and you're whole perspective will change of the person, sounded really weird till I almost got with the wrong girl and stopped myself a day ahead ๐
In a relationship the problem never exists between you and them, it's always around you both. Pushing against each other means the problem doesn't go away
If you get blisters from new kicks, unwrap a dinger (condom) but keep it in that little circle shape. Put it over the blister and chuck a band-aid/plaster over the top.
It won't rub at all and it'll let the blister heal.
If you want to sneeze and just can't, you can look at a bright source of light and you'll sneeze easily.
IIRC doesn't work for everyone because of science but hey, it's worth a shot.
There is never too much preparation to remove a rusted or corroded bolt on older vehicles (especially in areas that have winters) during automotive repair work.
Juxtys ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:19:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want to say or do something you might regret later, wait 24 hours before doing it. That might be enough time to realise what a mistake you were going to make.
One of my friends told me on Mario Kart Wii that shaking your controller when a POW block appeared would cause you to spin around 1 time instead if 3.
Man, I've won races alot easier with this trick
"Jump up and down stretching your arms and count to 30"
My primary school PE teacher told me to do it when I had an asthma attack. Didn't listen to him, but years later it saved my life.
i was a shitty person and i read some books and decided to be better, and a few years later i realized what everyone meant by "networking." if you're good to people, they remember you and they just might do you a favor some day.
You have to move to change. Hate where you are? Then move. Just take that small first step.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:23:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Messaging the friend of my baby-in-my-bellyโs father. Itโs still a useless piece of advice. Seems like Iโll be fighting for child support with the 0 communication going on.
Respect money. My parents always told me to keep my dollars neat and organized.
I always keep bills faced the same direction, keep the edges straight and highest value bills goes to the back.
"Having proper sales training will change every aspect of your life". I thought what a load of wanky bullshit. But it's true, it allows you to be a better friend, have better relationships, solve problems more efficiently and self criticize.
ccbee_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:25:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have hiccups, drink water 'upside down'. Never failed me yet!
Chin down when diving. Spent years frustrated cause I couldn't in the swimming lessons. Fast forward a few years and I ran home from the neighbour's pool to excitedly tell my mother that I'd finally done it.
bluexde ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:25:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take deep breathes to calm yourself down. dunno why but it works
Try switching it off and on. Can't believe the amount of things for which this has worked!
8one6 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:27:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A former supervisor told me to write tickets/emails/anything business related "as if the CEO was going to read it." It's just a normal part of CYA/being thorough. "Write emails as if they'll be read in court someday" was also a useful variation on that advice.
Ive had bad ankles all my life. This one doctor visit for a sprained ankle got me into a conversation about why I turn my feet over/roll my ankles so frequently. The doctor advised me to be more self-aware of foot placement, or in other words: watch your step especially when stepping down. Reduced my injury count quite a bit.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:30:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do everything that you've ever been scared of just that one time. If it's still scary, you don't ever have to do it again, and now you can say that you've done it whenever anybody asks.
The best tip my mum gave to me was to choose and lay your clothes out the night before. Honestly for an indecisive person like me it gives me an extra 10 minutes in bed!
For guys, a really great pair of underwear (e.g. Exofficio boxer briefs) is as life-changing as a great bra is for women. Yes, theyโre expensive, but you donโt realize how important it has always been until you finally try it.
An old NCO told me this back on my first deployment. Thought he just assumed I was some rocket fuel powered gunner ready to dive into combat. Never gave it a second thought until we had our first mortar attack and I was moving at the speed of an F-5 tornado trying to get all my gear on and murder the mean boys who so rudely woke me up in the middle of the night. After I had fallen on my ass for about the 15th time trying to wiggle into my kit, I thought, "What if I try moving at a speed slower than my heartbeat to get my shit together?" Worked like a charm.
My first smartphone was a shitty Motorola Moto E. The speaker stopped working suddenly and I freaked out, after hours of searching on the web a guy on some forum mentioned he hit the phone on his bed and it started working. I did the same and I have no clue how it fixed itself.
Improving my vocabulary has been the catalyst of getting out of a boring office job and starting a business. A turning point for me was discovering my resistance and anxiety towards the word 'sales'.
It was one of those things that was suggested to me by people who didn't deal with anxiety or depression. It turns out that it's really really hard to start meditation when your mind is a clusterfuck. I had to wait for it to be a little bit less of a flaming dumpster fire before I actually "got" it.
This is late and IDK if someones already said it, But proper hydration is SO fucking underrated. I made it my new years resolution to drink more water at the beginning of 2019, Fast forward to now; I have a generally better mood, Skin is clearing up fast, My voice is less raspy. Even a single bottle a day helps a lot if its something you've been neglecting.
Tapping your work piece after you've tightened in the vice of a metal mill with a hammer, when a teacher showed it to me i chuckled thinking he just tapped it with a hammer and nothing visibly happened. But actually if you don't do it your work piece is very likely to be launched around the room.
When you meet a girl you really like, take things slow.
rosetk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:38:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
opening your windows to let the sun in and keeping a tidy space ((once you finally have it clean)) really helps with depression
I thought it was dumb
But then I didnโt open my window for 3 months straight
Got really depressed
Let that sunlight in
Got enough energy to clean
I open the window every day now, it also helps me get out of bed in the morning so I feel even just slightly motivated to do things
Drink a lot of water. Replace soft drinks and other sugary goodness with water as much as you're able to.
Now to add a piece of advice of my own to make this easier to go through with, fill a large empty bottle with tap water and put it in the refrigerator. Pour that water into cups or glasses and refill it once it's empty. (If it's a soda bottle or similar, make sure you properly clean it beforehand.)
While young and wanted to learn how to backflip on trampoline my friends said that a way of learning is to kick me on the back of the knee while I jump on my back.
Obviously I didnโt trust them and obviously I tried. On the first try I had no expectations and tried to jump and land on my back. My friends then (one on each side of me) kicked me in the in the back of my knee and i flew like a guy in a Bollywood motorcycle-crash landing on my feet (and later fell).
We tried a few times until I felt safe enough to do it by myself. I later found out that this is actually a somewhat legitimate technique for learning backflips. But instead of kicking my friends should had swung me with their arms while grabbing my pants.
It really sucks ass to get up early and go work out for an hour before work, but God damn, I was Skinny, strong, hot and I could eat any damn thing I wanted. Life was great! I slept better without noticing, felt like there were more hours in a day, and someone said something about endorphins- I dunno what they are but I was happy as fuck all the time!
When people say to get regular exercize, you think they're saying to just get out of your house and do something when you don't feel like doing anything. Or maybe you think these simpletons assume that you're depressed cuz you're fat. Either way, you think it's just another moral platitude, but holy shit, go work out, an hour, three times a week, and come back in a month and tell me your depression hasn't gotten a tiny bit better. You can't. It's about hormones, not you being a lazy fatty. It just...helps your circadian rhythm.
The only better advice for depression is to discontinue all caffeine, nicotine, alcohol, drugs, medications and then start off with your brain on straight. You can't tell how you feel, biochemically, when you're altering your chemistry all day every day. But the working out thing is WAY easier to do. And easier to explain.
You can suck your own dick by dislocating your rib cage.
roxadox ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:54:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โYour depression will be worse with a messy room.โ At first I was like โyeah okay depression is a little more serious than thatโ but... goddamn a clean space really does help a clean mind. Same with sometimes just putting on pants helps you get some motivation.
I have asthma and bronchitis. Now winter is here in my place, and my lungs were a little congested this morning.
I tried some Yoga breathing exercises[ specific name Kapalbhati Pranayam], i felt normal again. Interesting how it cleared my mind and my voice seems to be light too. (I am learning singing as well). My nose is not blocked and my phlegm reduced too(in nose and throat).
I would advise anyone out there to try it. Irrespective of your religion or views. It is just breathing exercises!
A superstupid guy told me and my friends to put hash in a grinder with a little bit of tobacco and we were laughing because we thought that this will never work and that the whole hash would stick to the grinder.
After we tried it though it was the best fucking thing to do with the hash we bought earlier on.
Neti pot to relieve hay fever. Refused to try it for years. Over the counter drugs weren't helping much so I gave in and got a neti pot. It's not nearly as nasty to use as you think and brings so much relief.
A ice cold shower before going to bed actually help you sleep. I have insomnia and this trick from my tattoo artist actually have making me sleep better.
If you're trying to fall asleep but your eyes are dry and it stings when you close them, simply rub your toes together and pinch on your body somewhere and concentrate on that pain. After a while your eyes will relax and you can sleep in peace without your eyes stinging.
Be cheeky in life, ask for those pay rises, ask that guy with an expensive car how he maintains the cost of it, what he does etc. All this should be done within reason!
Successful people donโt mind talking about themselves / their journeys and are actually inclined to tell you how to get places in your life.
If you want or need something but youโre not sure how to not feel like a burden about it, it never hurts to just ... ask. Since the worst that can happen is someone tells you no. Lol
Ask for what you want, and tell people what you need.
Even if you don't think your going to get it, it opens up the possibility. I'm not always good at doing this, but when I try it I'm usually surprised. It's transformed things for me in relationships and at work, and it's a great opener in negotiations. Don't over think it, just ask for what you want.
when procrastinating for a task, try cleaning up your workspace. for me the hardest thing about doing something has always been the start. i have a huge assignment and am afraid to start it because i dont even know how/where to begin.
i've found this advice on r/nonzeroday and it proved to be really effective. you trick your mind into thinking you've already begun your task, simply by cleaning up your workspace and not even having begun said task. really helped me a lot.
Self Talk and the law of attraction : That you can actually improve traits about yourself and manifest things into your life by simply by telling yourself something over and over.
Excersise will clear your mind and is a great thing to add to your life no matter what, it helpsnyou stay healthy physically and mentally and there is seriously no excuse for the overwhelming vast majority of us.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:05:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mantras help with self esteem. Always thought they were bullshit, but it helps.
Lleggss ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:05:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Give your children diluted juice by giving them mostly water instead of the whole juice box/pouring them a whole sippy cup.
It will save you money and your child wonโt be hyped up on sugar.
I donโt have children lol.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:09:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you give your children water to begin with they will genuinely enjoy drinking it.
My kids only drink water and theyโre no problem at all
Lleggss ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:03:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh yes. My cousins all love water as well! :)
They are 5 and under lol.
Making a weekly schedule/timetable for studying, plus just a general plan of attack: what you want out of each session, overall, what the information targets are.
Basically planning your study rather than just randomly reading material ;-)
smile (teacher)
i didn't think the students actually care. but they won't participate well in class if they think you're strict or quick tempered. i started sniling, and things actually started getting livelier.
when I first started clubbing, I took my friend on his first time ever to the club, and he told me when asking the girl don't grab her hand instead whisper in her ear something like " you are charming", and then proceed to grab her, the soft words soften her up, didn't believe as he hasn't been to the club before until I tried it, and it worked 9/10 times.
How to get rid of a stomach cramp because you ate too much before exercising. What you do is exahle all of the air in your lungs and jam your thumb where the cramp is. Then inhale with you thumb still there.
Okay so you know when your parents would turn down the music when looking for a house, restaurant etc in a car. I thought this was stupid when I was younger, now I find myself doing this everywhere I go.
When I was a kid I thought it was just something old people say, meaning you should take time to think things through.
But there have been so many times in my life when I wanted to do some stupid impulsive thing, decided to wait a day or two just in case, then woke up in the morning wondering what the hell I was thinking.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:34:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If your feeling low and clogged and just donโt feel clear headed, drink two - three glasses of water. The lack of water is usually a common factor in people feeling down or tired
If you're always overridden by not procrastination, but this weird unmovable feeling of just, 'I want to MOVE and DO stuff' but just can't, try telling yourself 'well then don't do it' in a way that sounds uncaring and annoyed. Made me go to the gym out of spite for myself instead of being lazy at home
haemess ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:35:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Point your toes as hard as you can when you get a charlie horse. Instantly stops it every time.
People telling me to enjoy my son's early years. He's only six and I love that every year brings change. I love my second son who is.still a very young baby. Somehow, I also miss my eldest as a little baby and that sweet toddler anyway. I'm glad I really took in all those moments. They all mattered so much and I feel like there are 6 years of my life that I have no regrets about. It was good advice.
Spoken self affirmations. I always thought they were silly, telling myself that thinking an affirmation was enough. Actually hearing my spoken voice say something positive is immensely different, in a good way!
Change "I'm sorry." To "I apologize" or "Apologies." Why?
Saying "I'm sorry." Implies you are a sorry person, as in pitiful and insecure, ect. People pick up on this. We hear "Sorry" constantly probably everyday (maybe it's just Canada? Idk) and it doesn't have much back or substance to it. Changing this will make you sound more sincere as well.
If you have time to lean you have time to clean. If there is things to be done and your just sitting around doing nothing, just get the shit done it will ending up freeing up way more time for you.
994212 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:42:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tuck your legs in a foetal position when doing a front flip on a trampoline.
Just force yourself to do the things you know you should be doing but don't actually want to. I call it autopilot mode.
I don't mean this as some /r/wowthanksimcured material. Obviously you first need to be somewhat confident that it is worth doing, but once you've got that part down but are still struggling to do it, just forcing yourself can also help you realise that it isn't as bad as you thought and makes it easier to do in the future.
zaffle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:44:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup, although I confess I did neglect to mention I was also doing other fitness enhancements too. So whilst pushups were my only arm muscle building exercise, I was improving my overall fitness too. That always helps.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:45:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a stomach sickness, even if it feels impossible, eat something. Yeah you might throw it back up, but you also might not and not having any calories in you doesn't help your body fight the illness.
Once I was told to believe in the power of logic. It was terrible. The world began to shatter.. People died. How does logic work when you live in a world devoid of purpose.
Well let me tell you. The world isn't devoid.
One day in my small village we had a large feast to celebrate the coming of the matron. This must have been about 200 years ago. Anyway, we talked. The elders asked a simple question:
"What is this world?"
Brant died from the mental strain of answering this. I truly didn't know. There was no logic...
If you are too broke to fill your gas tank all the time, just start treating 1/4 tank like empty. Put in gas whenever it gets close to that low. Better for your engine ( empty tank means sediment from the bottom of the tank can get sucked up with the dregs of the gas) and it gives you a built in cushion of 1/4 tank if you ever need it for some reason.
This is a little bit 'sensitive', but I was having 'bedroom trouble' and I'm not allowed to take those pills. I remembered some old gents speaking about stinging nettles, and hid some behind the toilet. I did the 'wringing a cloth' action, and walked out Proud, with 'junior' at his best. Mmmmmmm...
My car would not start, no matter what I tried. While on the phone to my dad he told me to look under the bonnet for a silver thing (the starter motor) and hit it.
I thought he was joking because it seemed so stupid, but I whacked it with a metal pole and to my surprise the thing started.
skxvngr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:48:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When your heart feels heavy, breathe in through your nose and let out a deep breath through your mouth lmao works like a charm after/during running or being too baked.
Eating healthily and avoiding carbs to help alleviate my depression and anxiety. Never thought changing my eating habits would help my mental state quite as much as it did. Seems obvious now.
Squinting when drawing. I heard about it, and for a good few months couldn't get passed the idea that if I can't see my work as well how can it help?
Eventually I tried it and it sounds counterintuitive but it was an eye opener. Squinting at a drawing makes all the little details that distract the eye and draw your focus go away. Suddenly light and dark areas and proportions become so much easier to place and correct because you're not worrying about individual lines but the over all form of the subject.
Spanking my Keurig. It wasnโt putting out as much coffee as it should so I googled it and was told to literally turn it over and spank it. So- I did and it worked perfectly after that
If you're in an argument with someone try to sort it out as soon as you can.
Nothing worse than having it in the back of your head. And leaving it longer usually makes things worse
Drink water. Useless when you're trying to fix a single issue (acne, trouble sleeping...) but it has tons of little benefits that are pretty neat. No, you won't clear your skin, cure your depression and lose all your extra weight by drinking 8 cups of water a day, but you definitely will help your body and mind by doing so. Being even slightly dehydrated will cause trouble focusing, increase the risk of cramps and other types of muscular pain and make your lips all dry, painful and crusty, which is terrible enough on it's own. Basically, drinking water doesn't fix your life, but not drinking water absolutely does make it worse, so please, drink water, right now if you can, even (especially) if that means you have to get up and clean a cup :)
"Don't ask, don't get". Essentially, if you don't ask for something, then you definitely won't get it. If you ask, at least you've given yourself a chance.
Donโt rush life or youโll mess it up. Cars, money, relationships will all come naturally at the right time, if you try and force it youโll mess it up.
My mum always says this because I used to refuse to work behind my desk. My bed was just too comfortable. But I've found that staying in bed all day won't just give me a backache, but it'll also make it less satisfying to go to bed after a long day. It's nice to get up from your desk, stretch a bit and get into bed. Oh and make your bed when you get up. It makes your room seem more tidy than it is.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:53:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Just hold on, it's going to be okay." This would piss me off whenever I heard it but once I thought about it, I decided to complain less and focus on actually trying to improve my situation more. Of course this doesn't work for everything, but you'd be surprised how far you can come.
When you're cooking or baking, measure out everything first. I never did it for many many many years and I tried it once and realized how much more convenient and efficient it is to have everything ready
I had a really glorious phase as a morning person last fall. My roommate didn't have her current job and would just sleep in for however long, so I got up before 7 and basically had the world to myself. Ate breakfast outside, relaxed, got ready, and started my day super refreshed before 9 at the latest.
It's almost impossible for me to wake up without sunlight, so I got off the wagon in winter and by the time the sun was back my roommate started a 9-5, so my super-tranquil awesome mornings are now loud, crowded, and full of blender noises. I end up just avoiding it, then waking up at the last minute and feeling rushed and unprepared every morning. God... I miss it.
โYou canโt edit a blank page.โ Still trying to live by this. I see this a lot in university students I teach. Itโs like you get scared of committing pen to paper when assignments are due. But the first draft doesnโt need to be perfect. Just get something down and then work on improving it.
YisDAT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:59:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Never lick a knife." This advice is from George Carlin in one of his stand up shows. I once slightly cut my tongue while licking a knife. Should've listened to Carlin.
If you have something to do and it is not gonna take longer than 5 minutes, do it immediately. Don't put it on the "later" shelf. Do your bed straight after you get up - 3 minutes, put dishes in a dishwasher - 1 minute, etc. Small things but building up by the end of the day, and makes you angry.
If you have a diesel anything don't let it run out of fuel trust me it's very bad. If you have a diesel car try to keep it 1/4 full all the times and if you have a generator make sure you know when you will run out and stop it 10/20 min before. We thought "well will just fill it up when it runs out" Nope diesel it's not gas and if it runs out you will have a bad day.
My razer mouseโs scroll click no longer worked, and when I searched it up, people were smacking it as hard as they could with spoons and shit on YouTube. I didnโt really believe it, but it somehow worked.
25554 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:08:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
okay so that is not advice so much as my STATE of being as of LATE but I thought it was worth mentioning as I had always been like not okay with being DRUNK in public. I thought OMG people will know I am drunk and was worried people would care somehow.
Anyway someone DRUNK put their arm around my neck and said in a Very SAGE VOICE whispering this like advice.
Drunk *IN* Public
Like that was the answer to the life universe and everything.
That was the very drunk at the time Dwarf actor who played R2D2
He said some other memorable things. All a little Cryptic...
but to my unasked question of what is the point or bars /parties
was that it is to be done in public - to actually dance like you dont care etc.
That man - had no SHITS to GIVE
GlbdS ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:17:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why the random all caps words, makes it incredibly tedious to read
"FEEL HAPPIER INSIDE" and not argue with people...
People tend to respect the fact you are happier and listen to you, they accept your thoughts quicker then when you present then anger. I practice this alot and things have changed drastically over the output of the situation. My worker take orders smoothly and my business partner enjoy my thoughts more often. I complain in such a way that they get the joke and the message.
Edit: this is the most important lesson of my life that paid of
Sounded like a confusing advice then but now it makes more sense. Was given to me casually by a senior level researcher in our lab. Came to bite me in the ass when the other senior level researcher with whom I confided in about my project talked to my supervisor and said that I was "too dependent" on him. Bitch, he was the one who asked me for what he can help me with in the first place and even went on saying shit like "we're the same people; very private" so that made me feel like "he gets me". People.
Anyway, sounded more like a rant but yeah, be wary of who you trust. Sounds common sense but people can be cunning.
Anything involving being social or confrontational, because obviously as an unsocial person, you can not imagine life socially, but hence the nature of the question: If you try out being social, you will literally find that it snowballs and does in fact become easier.
For me, it was forced, I had a job that required me to talk to people, but the thing I did, I think anyone can do. I just chose "intentionally" a phrase to say to new people. "Hi, how are you?" and as weird as it felt the first few times (working their for over a year and continuing) it became as easy as saying hi to a family member or friend. Then obviously I branched out and tried new phrases, until I eventually felt like I could just say whatever I thought (within reason).
Part of it is just repetition, but part of it is just becoming desensitized to interaction. You start to realize these small interactions don't mean a god damned thing. The over thinking of your small tip with the driver who delivered your pizza late, or how you had to cut back into line because the new cashier gave you the wrong cigs becomes smaller naturally, because it becomes a daily part of life.
Meditation. Even when you remove all mysticism junk it still looked like junk. How would doing nothing help with anything? For me it doesn't help me to actually do stuff, but I feel so much better from just 10 minutes a day.
Put some toilet paper in the water and back of the bowl before you lay a log. Thought it was stupid and a waste of time.....that extra 20 seconds has probably saved me lifetimes of embarrassment
My Grandmother once told me "If you don't want anyone to know something, don't tell anyone." So, when you have something that you want to stay a secret, but you feel like you just have to tell someone, don't. You're not even safe from your best of friends.
That the first thing you should do each morning you wake up is to smile at yourself in the mirror, because it supposedly made you happy. Thought it was bullshit until I was feeling really blue and decided to try it, stood there for about 5 minutes fake smiling and I couldn't help but feel happy and relieved.
Raziel2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:20:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put a rubber band (not a hair tie, like the rubber band you get on produce) between the screw driver and the stripped screw to unscrew it.
putting a rubberband tight around the pinkie finger when bleeding from the nose. Sounded like absolutely wierd to me until i tried it. It actually works like a charm and even is used by the ambulance guys here where i live.
ashy_ge ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:21:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking deep breaths when I'm feeling anxious, angry or scared. I put it down to being another bit of nonsense but man when I breath deeply and take a few moments to think all my worries fade away.
This is why itโs a lot easier to fall asleep for a lot of people on the couch than in bed. If the goal is not to sleep but hang out, you will feel more sleepy. The effort to sleep often raises stress and paradoxically makes it harder.
I thought this was a dumb idea but works wonders. I even pushed this concept by trying not to sleep- strangely still worked better than trying to sleep.
If you swallow a beverage and a bit goes down the wrong way, causing you to cough and choke, hold your arms over your head. It sounds funny, but it opens your airways and minimizes recovery time.
"You never know before you try." Sounded like the dumbest advice of all time to me, especially when asking a girl out. Well now I know that I have wasted way to many chances by convincing myself there is no chance she is going to say yes. Stupid me.
โIf you have the hiccups, hold your breath for 30 seconds and theyโll go awayโ has worked for me every time.
Wei5252 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:33:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just say no and dont find excuses to get around something. Example: your friend asks you out, and you perhaps dont like to hangout so in this case just say no. Stop finding excuses like oh i got this and that
If you are having trouble relaxing just think about your tongue. Consciously try to relax it. Take a breath and relax it a bit more. Do this 4 or 5 times. Now you are relaxed.
When you feel like sneezing press with your tongue on the top part of your mouth (English is not my main language so idk how it's called) and the "I am about to sneeze" sensation is going to disappear 9/10 times in my experience.
When my stomach was aching my boss said I should eat white bread and drink cola It helped the next time I tried it it didn't work but the third time it did work again so idk what I did wrong the second time
Running faster than my friend in the woods with a bear in pursuit. :)
Hurreh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:49:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Clean your pan while it is still piping hot. It makes it super easy to clean. If something gets stuck to your pan and won't scrub off just heat it until it is very hot and put it under cold water.
Edit: Heat it slowly. Don't put it on high heat immidietaly.
Fans on my old MacBook died. Saw a YouTube video that said to simply take your fist and bang on the part of the computer that housed the fans.
Thinking it was a troll, I gave it a shot out of pure frustration, and lo and behold, they purred back to life and I never had another issue with them for the rest of the time that I owned that computer.
nerunas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:49:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Blow on the mouse switch if it double clicks or does not register every click. I was sceptical and sure that I needed to return my mouse, but it actually stopped double clicking and registers every click properly.
brucie5 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:58:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An exercise I call โpie faceโ for tension headaches. You kinda push your head backwards as though someone has shoved a pie in your face. Repeat a few times holding for a second or two. Really helps to release the muscles that are worsening the headache.
Toxilyn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:58:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use an app to count your kcalories to loose weight.
Original thought: Ugh counting kcalories is too complicated. Would be even on an app. Not going to bother. I can't do math in my head. Too much to remember. Nah.
Thought now: Easiest piss in the world. Scan the barcode of the food. App instantly knows how big your portion is. Eat with glee. Why the hell did I not do that sooner? Lost 44kg on counting my kcalories with Lifesum.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:00:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Similar story to the guy with the Macbook somewhere in the top replies.
My Xbox One's disc try was refusing to spit out the disk and making these weird grindy noises. A piece of advice on the internet suggested turning it upside down, lifting it up maybe half a foot or so, and dropping it. So of course I took this sane sounding advice and did it. One horrifying crash later and it worked fine.
if you have a "dead" phone, that seemingly died for no reason. Doesnt look like its charging or turning on. Hold it up to a bright light, for 30 seconds. Sometimes they get stuck in "pocket mode" and the bright light can help snap them out of it. Especially if a phone ran out of battery while in a pocket.
I had a samsung that died and i saw this tip, didnt believe it. Everyone said it worked.. i tried it, phone worked fine after that.
Kipdid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:17:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know that trick you see characters in older cartoons do to stop themselves from sneezing (back if the finger up to bottom of nose)? Yeah, that shit actually works if you push up a little. am not a doctor so I havenโt the vaguest idea why, but I got curious and tried it one day and it worked pretty well. Does sometimes causes the sneeze to come back with a vengeance like in the cartoons as well though, but itโs great to give you a bit of extra time to grab a tissue.
keep a fake gun in your house, i got a bb gun from somewhere for 3 euros. thought i would never use it. 1 month after someone tried to break into my house and i pointed it at him, he ran faster than flash.
Struggling with weight loss, I discovered that it turns out Nike's slogan is actually the best advice for how to make yourself go to the gym. "Just Do It".
Turns out there's no secret technique to gain motivation, you just have to stop making excuses and get in there.
Probably โIf it doesnโt work, hit it.โ That does actually seem to make it work again. That said, I work in an arcade now and am constantly having to tell customers to stop hitting the machines.
This ones probably silly but if you use a quick saw in construction to cut concrete or block, rock the saw back and forth. It cuts faster, smoother, and especially will drop the risk of breaking a block.
โI'm not sure how to meet people / make friends at my new college.โ
โYou could try joining clubs.โ
This seemed pathetic before I considered it, but doing so allowed me to meet people with similar interests. I made friends with some of those people that I'm still friends with today. I met some attractive people and got laid a few times because of this advice as well. Most of all, the best memories I have from this time of my life actually came as a direct result of following this advice.
For those trying to quit smoking: Big, deep, breaths in and out will help kill your craving and focusing on the your breathing will distract your mind.
Itโs all in your head, youโre not gonna die, you can do this!!
yzzyzz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:29:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandpa once told me, when i hasked him how to crave a head out of wood (He craved as his hobby) that it's simple 'Just cut away everything that doesn' t look like a head. As a kid the advice sounded like he made fun of me because I asked such a dumb question but it turned out that carving is actually cutting away wood until you get it to the desired form...
Brushing your teeth for a short time is better than none if you don't feel like you have energy or time.
A short shower is better than none.
Washing some dishes is better than none.
Etc. Etc.
ch3mp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:31:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything related to studying. I was terrible at it. Luckily I was strong enough to still pas most things. Now I'm a math teacher and I help guide students with their learning process. Everyone has different ways of studying and you just have to find your style. The key is trying out all kind of things.
I used to just write summaries and memorise them. But after years I learned that the best way for me is to make cheat sheets and use them during exercises. I'm bad at memorising and I pretend like I'm cheating a test. After enough exercises I memorised it without even trying.
IKanS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:33:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You should enjoy childhood while it lasts."
Oh boy, do I regret scoffing at that now.
"The most important thing is life is getting by." -dad
Mum hated this, she interpreted as: "the most important thing in life is thing thing you stop at when you achieve it".
So, I never took it seriously until I failed university too many times for too long, ran out of money and got extremely depressed.
Remembered this and realised that my father meant: "the most important thing in life is a foundation to work off", so got a 'loan' from mum, got a truck driving licence, got a job, worked for 3 years, now I'm getting by, have a savings, have a fall back skill and I can more comfortably start reaching for my goals.
Honestly lip balm. I know it sounds stupid but Iโve always been a fairly lucky person never had chapped lips/ dry skin etc etc, until this year and god damn lip balm is awesome
Five second rule to go and talk to people. Waiting until the best moment makes you loose opportunities. And as a introvert I must say: works like a charm.
When the Xbox 1 originally came out there was a design flaw with the disc drives that would cause them to malfunction and make a grinding sound. Found a YouTube video of a guy wrapping his in a towel and dropping it from a few feet upside down. Didnโt really want to take the possible months to send it back to be fixed so gave it a try assuming I was about to destroy my brand new Xbox. IT FUCKING WORKED. 6 years later and itโs still going strong!
It is easier to gain weight than to lose it. Stay healthy and donโt let yourself go because itโs a long road back to being healthy once youโve gone too far.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:41:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you need to sneeze, but don't want to, press down on the indentation on your upper lip for a few seconds. Usually the sneeze goes away then.
Szukov ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:42:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed everytime you leave bed. No matter how bad your day is at least there is a fresh bed waiting.
When parallel parking on a hill, you need to turn your wheels (so if the car moves, you donโt roll into the street) a different direction if facing up hill or down. Which way is which? โUp, up and away!โ I still say it to myself every time I use it, which is multiple times a month haha
Letting your wife relax after work does wonders for your relationship.
Xpiggie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:43:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You're not drinking enough water."
Having started actually drinking around eight 8oz glasses of water in a day (or more if I exercise!), I realize just how little water I was drinking. And I feel a billion times better, less hungry, and just more clear. Kind of amazing what being hydrated does.
Wish people on their birthday. It always leads to a little conversation, a little catching up, and over many years, it helps you stay friends/ at least cordial acquaintances for a long time without a lot of effort.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:46:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn your burger upside down before eating it.
Life changing.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:47:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been wanting to try that, does that actually work?
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:48:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Almost always. If it's one of those huge stack burgers nothing will help, but for most it's a game changer.
I can't stand watching people struggling to contain the broken, sloppy contents of their burger when I know there's a simple solution.
Can't force yourself to start a task such as cleaning? Tell yourself you'll do 5 minutes and then can do anything you want. Chances are, after the 5 minutes is up, you'll be in the swing of things and will just carry on. Or like me, you'll completely forget about the 5 minutes!
Diet and exercise helps with depression. Initially looked at doc like he was belittling how bad I felt. Turns out diet and exercise gives this really satisfying stability and progress that reeeaaaally helps with depression
aoyfas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:49:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not caring what other people think.
It took me 33 years to truly embrace this concept...couldn't be happier.
Eat your meat to get strong and healthy. Now I actually eat lots of meat after years of being vegetarian and vegan and it's the first time I experience what health actually is.
โDonโt spend money you donโt haveโ and โWhen all else fails, read the instructionsโ are two of my dadโs favoriteโs. Amazing how far they can get you.
In the past I would look for items in the fridge and when I couldn't find them she'd always reply, "did you move things around?".
jdjdjdw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:55:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This may be stupid but "eat breakfast" I went for a VERY long time on two meals and a snack cause I didn't have time for breakfast and then I would wonder why I was tired when I had a good 8 hours yeah that wasn't sleep deprivation it was low blood sugar.
If something has put a dampener on or even ruined your day, ask yourself if youโll care about it a week from now, overwhelming majority of the time the answer is no, and you immediately donโt care about it anymore
If you have a problem with something a friend said or did, bring it up to them politely but firmly and give them a chance to clarify or apologise. Don't hold it in because you are either nervous or not sure. You'll resent them for something that might have imaginary.
Calisthenics / body weight exercise. I thought it was dumb shit you did in gym class because thereโs no equipment. When I lost 30 or so lbs a few years back half of what I did was calisthenics.
Running makes you happy, thought it was useless advice until I started running.
Goodemi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:01:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything is temporary.
pronoke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:01:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nothing is expensive if you enjoy it.
Not strictly true but it allows me to not be scared of spending money on things rather than trying to save everything.
harm0a ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:02:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Posative self talk.
Refers to the conversations or statements that run through your head.
Changing it from negative to posative has really helped with my depression.
Itโs a daily thing you have to monitor and actually actively correct. But after a couple of months it really did start to change my mood.
Fniley ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:08:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Masturbating will temporarily clear a blocked nose. Has helped me a lot whenever I get a cold. ๐คง
Manidix ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:09:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise, when i became more active my overall disposition changed. Dont be afraid to be adventurous with the activity you try.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:10:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
After shaving, avoid aftershave lotions. Use potassium alum. It is natural antiseptic and doesn't make your skin dark when you advance towards old age.
As long as you keep working for it, things will get better. Keep making actual attempts to improve your situation, rather than waiting for opportunities to progress.
Nobody has ever climbed a mountain by sitting still, and even a couple XP at a time contribute to that level up.
jdjdjdw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:11:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fucking quit soda/monster it never seems like it affects you much but after like a week of just lemonade and water I have like 3 times the energy I used too anx I'm way less crabby
If you need to just reduce speed in a downhill situation try downshifting and do not step on the gas when possible. Since the car is not burning fuel the Pistons will be pushing against a vacuum and the engine size itself will slow the car a little This will make your brakes last longer and save fuel
when you need to remember something put an item out of place that would catch your attention. This seemed dumb but now I always hang my sunglasses on my steering wheel to remind me of anything I need to do before I get to work.
plmsw12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:14:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Greet someone with a "Good Morning" or give small gesture of gratitude to people especially people working in the food service. It might mean a lot to them!
NEVER use hot water when trying to wash cum out of hair/clothing. All you'll do is make an even bigger mess by denaturing the protein in it. Use cold or barely warm water instead.
When I was 12/13ish my stepdad told me to put the guitar down because I was shit at playing it, so I practiced for about 3 weeks and got no where. He was just right about it I suppose.
R1pZone ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:23:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was a kid, I went on a camping trip with a Scout troop. The campsite was based on a large field in a hilly area and after investigation of the location, we found a great little river with a natural waterfall on the other side of the field (maybe a 10 minute walk). Of course, we all had to go in for a swim, and so we did. I ended up heading back a bit early, but a rather brisk breeze had picked up. I was still soaking wet from the swim and I walked the ten minutes back to camp while being buffeted by the wind and getting chilled as heck.
I swapped out of my wet gear when I got back to the campsite, put on some regular clothes and I realised that I was shivering and couldn't seem to get warm. A leader noticed this and told me to go have a warm shower (there was a small public shower at this campsite). I was a bit shy at the time, I didn't want to have to shower unless it was necessary, so I just dismissed the advice. I rolled out my sleeping bag, got inside to try and get warm, but it didn't really seem to help. I did fall asleep there for a few hours, but I was feeling terrible - waking up intermittently, almost delerious towards the end.
Eventually, my friends who had now returned and had been back for a while were worried about me and notified a leader. Same leader, woke me up, walked me out of the tent and told me to go have a warm shower.
I was shivering uncrontrollably, I could barely walk and I felt like death. I ended up walking back across that field to the shower, knees knocking together and feeling like this was a huge waste of time (took me twice as long to go half the distance). The second I went under the warm water, it was like a switch just flicked and I was back to normal. I towelled off properly and walked back to the campsite perfectly fine.
It was useless advice to me at the time, but I will remember it forever.
My grandfather used to say โbuy land, itโs the one thing they arenโt making any more of.โ I love having my own space even if it is only a few acres.
Monddo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:32:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chewing longer when eating
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:32:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A bobby pin is most effectively used with the wavy side being placed against your head and the flat side facing out.
"Studying sets you up for life, it's your own enrichment etc. "
I was a very rebellious teenager. First few years of primary school I was acing everything but then you had to actually revise a little at home and that's when my grades started to drop. On top of that I was never liked by my teachers, all of which made me develop this hatred towards school and everything about it.
I was alright with highschool exams because they weren't so much about the material as they were just kinda checking if you're dumb.
Once I finished highschool I moved to a different country with the idea of studying, but I thought 'you know what, I'm earning proper money now (I went to UK which is much wealthier than my home country), I'm just going to work and have fun, maybe studying and me weren't made for each other.
After a year I realised that I really want to broaden my knowledge because I just felt so unhappy without it. One year turned into two because I applied too late, and after this second year I was as motivated as ever.
Studied a few different subjects trying to find out what I enjoyed and never felt so thankful for the opportunity- also I expect more from myself and I do better. Working really helps you realise that studying is not bad at all because you hardly ever study 8 hours straight, and you enrich yourself which means that after a day of lectures / revising you actually leave with raised market value.
Sure, earning is fun, but you soon realise that money just by itself is not very satisfying if you're an ambitious person.
Warren Buffet gave a cool speech in one of the unis about how uni is the best investment that you can make and I totally agree, once you finish a degree, your marked value is elevated for ever.
When preparing instant noodles keep the crumbled little noodles at the bottom of the sack or cup dry and when your noodles are done mix them with the other noodles, this will make your noodles crunchy and more delicious.
Fake it till you make it. I was a mediocre student in highschool and I wanted to do better in college. So I just did what I thought smart people did. I literally just pretended like I was a hardworking, smart student and did whatever I assumed they did. It worked.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:43:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"smile more"
Seemed like dumb "happy people" bullshit growing up but I decided to give it a try one week as part of a "let's make my life better" period I was going through.
It's like the entire world changed how they responded to me overnight. Everyone went from short and to the point and dismissive to helpful and positive and going out if their way for me.
A smile goes A LONG way with people, even if you fake it. After a few weeks of faking it I found myself doing it without thinking. It turned my life around and I started loving interacting with people for the first time in my life.
I am cronically depressed (yes, cronically. According to symptoms, I've been depressed since the age of 6-7, and I'm 23, now), and someone once told me that if you cover your sadness with a smile on purpose, you'll start actually being happier, if just for some time. This has helped me go through hard situations on a badly depressing day.
I won't say it works for everyone, cause I am not everyone, but it certainly works for me.
Could very well be patience. A lot of people assume it's easy, but it's really not. It can take a lot of practice for some people (myself included). Another misconception is that it takes a lot of time to meditate. Sure, the ones who devote their life to meditation can go on for hours, but all it really takes is as little as 3-5 minutes a day of silence and focus on your body. I'd advise to download Headspace to get you started, if you feel like it. The app is free, and there are 10 free main courses, and you can set how long each course will take (between 3-20 minutes). Other courses are subscriptions, but it's a good way to get you started.
Edit: Not 10 courses, but 1 course with 10 sessions.
When you just woke up to an alarm, Don't take your phone and silence it, instead, stand up, look at something bright then turn of your alarm, this stops you from going back to bed for longer ;)
Use a journal or diary to note down positive events and memories each and every Day. Even if your day has been uneventful, write down something that brought you even the smallest joy, like if you talked to a friend, bought that dress you've been eyeing for the last two weeks, you got paid, you found a penny on the pavement.... Anything! A long as it is positive.
I thought it was ridiculous to begin with when my therapist recommended it, and I would often just blow it off because I thought it wasn't worth it. But over time, I never realized how much it had impacted me. It has helped with my confidence so much that I haven't had a depressive stint in 3 months now. I'm happier. Every single day, I have been writing down things, even the stupid little things that seem insignificant, like watching my Betta decide it doesn't like something I set down in front of his tank for two seconds, and now he's trying to size it up, or I ordered some delicious food in, or I went out after work, or I did my laundry, or I talked to my mom today....
Writing down the good stuff helps reinforce the notion that you're good at things, and that you shouldn't take the little victories for granted. It helps condition you to stop thinking of the negativity in your life and is a great tool for those of you that have issues with PTSD, Anxiety disorders and Depression. Try it.
Old old lady I did lawn-mowing work for used vinegar for everything.
She treated her sicknesses and wounds with vinegar.
She cleaned her house with vinegar.
She kept insects and critters out of her house, just by spraying some vinegar.
I thought it was just some old-timey remedy for a lack of anything better, but then one day I witnessed her -as she had claimed before- spraying ants with vinegar. The ants actually went away.
A few days later I cut myself decently and she demanded I put a vinegar soaked rag on my arm. Burnt like hell, but worked just as good as peroxide.
A wise ole gal once told me to "Live in your heart and do only what you ~feel~"
At the time it seemed revoltingly simplistic and highly selfish.... I mean, really? Just make myself happy regardless of others and somehow, magically, everything will be "ok"? Suuuuure, whatever.
But I get it now and maybe what she should have said was "do the things that make you, You"
Over the past 5 years I've done exactly this... I have created time, daily, to do those things that are utterly inconsequential to anyone but me and me alone & in placing myself first, truly first, without worrying how it will affect others I've been able to drop the emotional bullshit, step past it to the core of my issues/fear/whatever to process and everything has become easier and I somehow got bigger, braver and so utterly satisfied with life.
Funnily enough, by being "selfish" in this way I've also been able to love deeper because I have so much more to give and so in improving my relationship with myself, it got better for everyone around me.
Everything that you need to do, will down in a to-do list. They may be absolutely useless, maybe even a regular core. Your mind will be clutter free.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:49:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Counting to ten along with deep breaths l to alleviate anger , I never realised how much anger I was quietly carrying around with me until I legitimately tried this
Adequate exercise actually helps with Anxiety and depression. Ive suffered with severe anxiety for over a decade and never tried exercise despite recommendation from my doctor.
I recently started rollerblading and the difference in my anxiety is significantly noticeable.
Exercise doesnt have to be hitting a gym or running long distance. It can be anything that races your pulse and forces you to sweat. Find something fun and physical and reap the rewards.
NoMaans ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:53:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fixing the red ring of death by wrapping your xbox in towels. And or soldering pennies to the heat sink. The towel trick work wonders for a few months. Then I did the pennies trick and never had RROD again till after I got my ps4 when it launched.
When clearing out closets or clutter: donโt think about how much you paid for it, think about how much itโs worth to you now. If you wouldnโt buy it today, donate it to someone who will use it.
"Count down with random numbers" (The idea is to not just count down "100-90-80-70 etc." but for example changing the number substracting from the previous number - if that makes sense. Substract 10 from 100 (=90), then substrat 9 from 90 (=81), substrat 8 from 81 (=63) and so on.
"Breathe unregularly"
"Drink a glass of water slowly" (small sips)
"Sing a song" (remembering song lyrics)
And another one - when cutting onions stick you tongue out (looks ridiculous but helps for some reason - in my experience anyway).
If youโre having a Charlie horse in your leg, stand up! It will go away. I didnโt receive this advise until I was in my twenties. For years, every time Iโd get one Iโd curl up into the fetal position hopelessly squeezing and massaging my calf until it passed. ๐คฆโโ๏ธ
When traveling anywhere that you'll be staying for at least a night, carry a power strip that has a long cord with you.
it lets you have all your electronics be able to plug into one outlet, and in the case if you need a special power adapter for a different country, you only have to use one.
Truth is, we push this agenda of "If you're single, you're not happy, and you have a hole in your life" which is just untrue.
You can get happiness and fulfillment from things/experiences other than a relationship, and I urge every single person to find that. Find your fulfillment that doesn't consist of having kids or a relationship, because then you will be much happier. If having kids is how you find your purpose, then let that be your purpose. But it's okay if it's not yours.
It is okay to not have children. You are not wrong, and do not listen to a single person who tries guilting you, or making you feel bad.
Flicking the back of your head in a certain way stops tinnitus for about 10 seconds. I โheardโ silence for the first time last year (when I was 23), pretty mental.
I tried this but didnโt help my situation. Turns out there are three to five people rummaging through everything with no shits given to my organizational efforts. They still give me the list speech as Iโm showing it to them and pointing out they fucked up my organization.
Stretch before / after sports in high school. I thought this was pointless because I was already very flexible and never got injured, even when I didnโt stretch.
10+ years later my physical therapist is telling me that my bad posture, back pain, etc. is most likely due to not stretching overlooked muscles and tendons my entire life. KIDS - stretching isnโt just for NOW you - itโs for FUTURE you! DO IT!!
โUse a condom.โ โDonโt leave any dna behind.โ My phone just autocorrected โtapeโ into โrapeโ my phone is growing up. These are the moments you look forward to, you donโt understand how special they are when someone else tells you about them. You just canโt know.
Just cry, you will feel less stress when you finish crying. I used to not cry when I needed to and when i decided to give it a go I felt so good afterwards.
Just cry, you will feel less stress when you finish crying. I used to not cry when I needed to and when i decided to give it a go I felt so good afterwards.
My dad would say, don't do anything you'll be ashamed of and if you did it, you have nothing to be ashamed of.
I thought it was stupid when I first heard about it but it actually made my life simpler and taught me how not to give a damn much. When I feel absolutely stupid for making a mistake, I remember this and leave it behind to get better. Thanks dad!
My Cousin told me that if you cant sleep listen and focus on your breathing.
D-Angle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:40:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you don't think you're attractive, that doesn't mean you have to be unattractive.
It sounds counterintuitive, but it's true if you think about it. Think of all the things you can do that are attractive that don't involve being born with good looks: keep yourself clean, wear decent clothes that suit you and have been washed, take care of your teeth and hair, don't slouch, make an effort to smile and be pleasant, make an effort with diet and exercise, take pride in your home and your possessions etc.
There's lots more, but none of them involve being born with good looks.
this advice always sounded stupid to me. After ten years give it a try, and turns out it legitemitly whiped out my addiction problems. Living a long mindful life by now
thygovn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:46:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation keeps the stress away. It seemed so pointless and taboo to me before I started trying but it has completely changed my life the past year. Meditating just 10 minutes twice a day helps keep you focused and stress-free throughout the day.
macbobs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:47:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just sit down and continue writing your thesis even if it's just for 30 minutes.
54DB01 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:49:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I almost failed every english test when I was in high school and before my finals my brothers friend just told me to actually just learn the material well enough to answer any question thrown at you for a topic. two years later a 92 atar is what I can thank him for. (92 is top 8%)
Exercise can make you happier. Or course, it canโt โcureโ depression but it is insanely addictive and produces dopamine. Definitely used to scoff at people who suggested it to me when I was at a low point a while back, but once I started, it moved my recovery along at crazy fast speeds! It might not work for everyone, but even 7 minutes every day can make you feel SO much better.
Ditch social media and web services that farm your data, self host if you can. I got so much IT sysadmin experience doing this and I have a whole lot less distraction in my life. Replaced Facebook/insta with a WordPress, Google drive with a NAS + Owncloud, and a few others! Special thanks to /r/sysadmin
Stop drinking sugared drinks and start drinking more water. I realized that my body felt like sludge in the morning because I was drinking more Gatorade then I was water.
My Dad told me this after he found a girlfriend had/was cheating on him.
"I'd rather be one in a million than one of a million". Works for quite a few things to be honest - don't be so keen for the first thing that comes along.
Cutting calories will cause weightloss. So simple and so true. And conversely, consuming extra calories over what you burn causes weigh gain. It's just math. Thanks r/loseit.
Mom said that when I grow up, girls will run ... I didnโt really believe this moment)
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:07:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop Masturbating...seriously how is this not common knowledge. Every time you rub one out you lose seconds of your life doesn't seem like much but that shit adds up.
JLP122 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:07:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Working out when hungover. I always thought it was a dumb way to dehydrate yourself even more, until I tried it and realized how much better I feel afterwards. Maybe sweating all the evil out helps take pressure off your liver?
If you need to sneeze, but can't for some reason (for example during a job interview) press the tip of your pinky finger (arond the part where the nail starts) until the sneeze reflex goes away.
Don't do this too often since it's not healthy, none of my friends believe me when I say this but it works, for me and my step-dad who taught the trick to me.
Also if you want to sleep faster, but can't, try holding your mouth open, after a little while you'll automatically yawn, this might help you.
Darguel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:11:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To think about my doing when l have the impression someone other than me ruins my life
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:18:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Happiness is a choice."
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:20:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom says Hi! Everytime she had her picture taken....Took me way to long to figure out it's because it's the closest to getting an authentic on forced or abnormal looking smile in a photo.
Mr. Late-to-the-party here..... Putting stuff back where you got it from. My dad used to get.....well.....pissed when I didn't put a tool back in its home or left a mess after doing a project.
It took me years and having a workshop of my own to understand how big a time saver it is to not have to search for the tools and materials I need.
Thanks Padre, I get it now.
FirmMap ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:23:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're making a sandwich that you're not going to eat for a few hours, dry off any wet ingredients like tomato or cucumber with paper towel to stop the bread going soggy.
I know this wasnโt the question but Iโd like to give everyone a little bit of advice that feels useless but is actually awesome โ always bring a plastic bag. Iโve started having a plastic bag in my jacket pocket and Iโve used it so many times โ grocery shopping, storing used gym clothes, sitting outside when itโs wet etc etc. I highly recommend it!
Not necessarily advice, but there's a working supplement that increases and activates beard growth. The substance is called "Minoxidil" and it can be found under brand names like Rogaine and Kirkland Signature.
Maybe this is more known in the US but I was really surprised when I learned that there's actually a product that can increase beard growth, and I don't think I'm alone. I just thought there was nothing you could do besides wait or get beard hair transplants.
Results may vary but for me it worked like a charm.
I work in the back of a kitchen but was told to wear long sleeve shirts. I thought it was a bad idea because it can get very hot in the back and also messy but wearing long sleeves helps when the occasional splash may happen. The burn just gets deflected completely.
"eat healthy and exercise it will make you feel better" it really does do wonders
"focus on / blame yourself" it may be someone elses fault something went wrong but you can still prevent it next time if you adult up and take responsibility and initiative. for example being lied to in a business deal its not fair but your the only who can / will fix it so just do it.
The best way to be kind/ helpful is by helping with the little things. If someone has a hard time, just help them with something small rather than asking what is wrong. If they wanna talk, they will ask you, but most of the time they just need space and time.
When I'm trying to fall asleep but my nose is super clogged, I've found that masturbating helps clear my sinuses. I read it years ago but only recently found that it actually was effective.
My old, hippy neighbor who has since passed away saw me moping around my house one day as a kid , having a rough day.
She had a lot of advice and the best piece she ever gave me was โjust keep on smiling.โ
That has stuck with me over any advice Iโve received from anyone in my life.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:14:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean your penis after you masturbate, or your dick will smell.
Ex-girlfriend found out the hard way. Don't do it to em boys.
Attitude is paramount. I can accomplish anything if I go after it with a positive attitude. Walking around complaining how unfair life is gets you nowhere.
Know that if you have problems, then the person next to you likely has problems as well. It's hard to consider the other persons mental struggles if you are too focus on how you feel in the moment.
Stand up straight. Don't slouch. I slouched for 36 years before it caught up to me. Then I had to have physical therapy and basically learn how to stand like a normal human all over again. It still feels weird to stand up straight and put my shoulders back, but the pain immediately goes away.
Start a dedicated savings account for a car. I'm a well-paid professional with nice savings account and retirement and all that. I thought it was silly to start an account for a car--I keep enough in savings already. I started an account to save up for a new car two years ago, $200 a month, and saved up enough to make a 50% down payment on the car I just bought. Plus, I've already adjusted my spending habits around the $200 a month car payment I now have, so my daily economy hasn't changed.
Never thought it to be useless just never really applied until lately. (Also I saw this somewhere and donโt know who said it first)
If youโre in a rut, or feel like life is getting the better of you and you start feeling like you canโt go on any longer, find something that needs you to live or itโll die. It can be as simple as a fish to feed or a plant to water. If you have a cat or a dog, they need you. It doesnโt have to be complex but if you are struggling living for you, live for something else until you get you under control.
I'd think that I'd never check the notes or that I'd just remember.
Now I have a little pocket book full of random keywords and tasks that I never check, but I always take a moment to scribble thi gs down because the act of writing them creates a much more clear memory of the thing than simply thinking "I need to remember this."
Pressing either side of your nose, in line with the gap between your tearduct and your pupil, will release pressure in your sinuses, so if you have a cold or flu and want temporary relief, give it a try!
Make your bed in the morning. That way you start your day off doing something right, and if nothing else goes right one day, you still get to come home to something you did right.
Taking a bath with a very low concentration of bleach as an eczema remedy. When I saw "bleach bath" after Googling "eczema treatment," I was sure some malicious troll was just trying to fuck with desperate people. However, with some research, I found Mayo Clinic and the National Eczema Association endorsed it. Basically, it kills all the bad bacteria on your skin (Staphylococcus). I've been doing it like three times a week to treat a really bad flare-up and so far it's working like a charm.
If you can't decide between two things, ask yourself : "If I choose either one of these choices, would they all make me happy the same way ?" If the answer is no choose the one that makes you the most happy, and if the answer is yes just take one at random (I usually just go for the first option).
Taking a decision at random is hard to do because your brain can't process randomness, and likes when everything has a reason. Don't listen to it and dedramatize.
Hds613 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:47:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you're nervous, Breathe.
I know everyone says it but I never actually properly tried it until right before my first race in the world championships last year. I'd always struggled with stress and nervousness and in the first race of any event, I'd always do badly which would affect my result as a whole. I was super stressed and shaking on the start line and, trying anything to calm myself down, took some deep breaths. I don't know how but it actually calmed me so much and when I repeated this technique for the rest of the event (it was 6 days) I did so much better than usual, becoming youth world champion and 7th overall.
Seriously, just try it next time you're in a stressful situation, even though it's the most obvious thing it's amazing how many people never do it.
When you get to you destination after a very long flight, remove your shoes/socks and clench your toes while resting your feet on a carpet... as if you're making a fist with your toes. Do that 15-20 times or as long as needed. Please note that this does nothing to help after running over a floor covered in broken glass.
Drinking pickle juice and mustard during outdoor tournaments to avoid cramps and to avoid passing out. Originally I thought it was just a way to get me to look stupid but not only do I love drinking pickle juice now but it also has so many minerals and salt that it helps your body retain water on the hottest days so your muscles donโt get dehydrated.
long story short : i have a really busy schedule.... heard from a lot of people about the 5fruits/5veggies variation a week for a good motion. i would just buy my lunch at the nearby joint and get back with work....
Until recently i started including a fruit in one meal (yes, started cooking the lunch myself). I used to feel constipated earlier. Not any more. Been a bit tiring though to shop and cook every other day. The benefits are extensivly visible.
"Put vinegar on a burn to sooth it." It actually works. Wouldn't try it if there was open skin, such as a popped blister, though. Alright for sunburns, or minor kitchen accidents.
"think on your actions as if you're going to be asked about it for later"
j4yw4lk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:00:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating fiber
justtxm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:03:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing without raising your shoulders. A drama instructor told me this, when babies breathe their stomachs rise, not their shoulders, and as we grow up and become more troubled by the world our shoulders rise when we breathe. Making sure the air goes down into your lungs can help you feel calmer and it improves your vocal quality. Iโve been doing that lately and itโs working well. I recommend it even if it seems useless.
Breathing. I figured Iโd been breathing for so long, that Iโd been an expert in it. Changed my life when I started to pay attention to how to breathe.
'Just try' it sounds so stupid to just tell someone to just try to do something, my violin teacher says it. If you try something youre morely likely to do it right than if you didn't try it at all
Simply stop doing things you donโt enjoy or stop surrounding yourself with people whose company you donโt like.
I thought about how obvious this seemed until I actually realized I wasnโt following this sentiment because I was too afraid of change. Some things are not meant to last forever, you donโt have to hold on to things just because youโre scared of the pain or inconveniences of letting go. Youโll be much happier doing things you actually enjoy, surrounded by people that you actually like.
Really reevaluate your life and donโt be afraid or too stuck to not make these changes.
That trying to give some thing like a present, attention, love... is much more satisfying then just reserving it. Took me a while too understand that..
gakthat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:20:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Owning up to my mistakes and not making excuses, sometimes even if my excuse is valid. Becoming more accountable for my actions required me to think more about potential outcomes.
MrADHD ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:32:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I saw a show that joked that if can't pee, (because your stressed or piss-shy), singing "happy birthday" actually helps, I guess maybe it distracts you.
Want to talk to somebody but don't know the most opportune time? Ask them, it'll make them feel good that somebody wants to talk to them, and you're able to get answers
swam3r ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:56:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I watched this video about how people in the military were taught to fall asleep anywhere. It boils down to essentially closing your eyes and relaxing your muscles, starting with the very top of your head. Thinking about each area you relax as you slowly move down your head and body. Then laying there imagining yourself laying in a boat, alone, looking up at a nice clear blue sky.
Works great for me. Hope someone else finds it useful too.
"Be patient." โ I used to not care for a guy giving me oral. Always just wanted to finish myself. I was 8 months into a relationship with a guy, and he was determined. So, I just laid back and let him do his things for a very, very long time. And then it happen โ it's become one of my favorite things!
Talk about someone as if theyโre standing right beside you. Always thought this was dumb until I was about 18 and I realized how much shit talking had affected my relationships with people. (Not me blatantly ripping the person, but me chiming in when other people would)
"Go out and get some sun every day" This was given to me as advice to help boost my mood. I thought it was just an old wive's tale. Turns out it is legit and works very well.
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"Self Help Days" Another thing that is bandied around that can sound sketchy, but really works. Now this also depends on what you believe is self help. But I have taken a day off of work now and then simply for the purpose of taking some time to relax and recharge. I also occasionally cancel plans for the same reason. Since I started this practice, it has greatly improved my overall outlook. This is especially important for those that are introverts and need some time away from too much noise/input. Now, I do think some people may use this as an excuse just to be lazy, and that is not a good idea.
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"Fake it til you make it" Not sure I ever considered this useless advice per se. Honestly, I was kind of living this advice before I ever heard the phrase and when I heard it, I did not recognize that what I was doing myself was related. At first I thought this was just advocating lying about stuff and getting rewarded for it. It wasn't until I realized the nuance of what was actually being implied in the statement. But today I am fairly confident in who I am and my abilities. This was not always the case, I had many years as a kid where I battled through anxiety and self-esteem issues. But early on I was pushed into situations I was not comfortable with and instead of resenting it, I decided to challenge myself and keep telling myself to be confident even when I wasn't. After faking it enough, it became real. This has also applied to my entire career. Now, to be fair, I do not fake what I know, but I do consistently reach beyond my immediate grasp knowing that I can do more and that I am the right person for the role. It took me awhile to figure that one out as early in my career I kept selling myself really short of my abilities. This is my favorite advice now in the proper context.
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"Dream Big, Aim Small" This is actually a combination of two sayings, "Dream Big, Aim High" and "Aim small, miss small". It also incorporates two different philosophies into a bigger concept. The idea being that you should dream big and not let anyone defuse your dreams. But to reach your dreams you should aim for smaller goals as steps towards the bigger dream. The two complement each other, without the big dream, the steps either don't lead to anywhere or are limited, and thus you limit yourself. Without the steps, the dream seems too unreal and out of reach so that it becomes more crushing than motivating. Make big dreams, but plan steps to get to that dream. Reaching and accomplishing those steps will help give you the confidence and motivation to continue towards the dream. The other advice here is don't let not reaching the dream by a certain point dissuade you, even if you never reach it, if you are constantly working towards it, you will still be a better person for it.
S2Pac ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:45:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought it was stupid to throw pasta on the ceiling, so I threw the bowl at the ceiling and it killed my cat I had been trying to get rid of ๐ 10/10
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:52:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't spend more money than you have (credit cards)
ButlDC ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:53:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A co-worker told me to put alcoholic aftershave on my lips every day to prevent cold sores. I would have them 2-3 times a year, since then maybe once every three years.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:14:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
its always good to never look back on the past or look foward to the future. only to live in the present moment and to only focus on the present moment.
Korzynn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:10:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โIf life gives you lemons make lemonadeโ
I just kept squirting the juice in my eyes to cover the pain of loneliness, turns out making lemonade is just as effective
Listen to your heart and not your brain my grandma use to say that to me before she passed away always thought I was one of those cheesy quotes but it was not until she passed away that I finally realised what she really went and why she said it
even if it feels like your life is out of control and you can't handle anything and you're a total fuck up.... at least you made your bed this morning. It totally helps my anxiety throughout the day. I have no fucking idea why. Whatever mom, you were right.
When youโre away from home, always choose the gas station with the most lights. My dad was always saying this and heโs right. If they spend that much on electricity then they spend money on keeping it clean and well stocked. Plus well lit is always safer.
I'm a type 1 diabetic, so I have to have daily shots. My sister who also has type 1 diabetes always said to scratch near wherever I'm getting my shot as it distracts the pain. I thought it was the dumbest thing ever until I tried it myself recently and it works great. I also heard that sniffing alcohol pads also do the same, and they both work well.
jahdey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:17:33 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saving a file in microsoft word as soon as you create it. Even if you havenโt really typed anything yet. This was something my high school IT teacher taught me and I have gotten in to the habit ever since learning it. This is great because of the auto save feature. If you start working and you are on a roll and forget to hit save the software will do it for you. Itโs also great for the recovery feature because if your computer crashes it will recover the document from the last save point.
Thats soo true.... I advise every dude to learn to edge
Ijsaw1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:23:26 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you arenโt sure if you should buy something you want, ask yourself โWhy do I want this?โ If you canโt think of a good answer, donโt buy it.
Clean the tip of your wiper blade if it streaks. Often that can fix the streaking. This along with using something like RainX or other water-repellent washer fluid, not only acts to reduce chattering of the blade by acting a bit as a lubricant, but also beads up water instead of water flattening into a sheet on the glass. It does help you to see easier without needing your wipers on quite as fast as you otherwise might have them set at. These things makes wipers last so much longer. And applying said RainX or other water-repellent is as easy as hitting the washer fluid switch. A gallon of the stuff is usually like $3 cheap as well, and so my beam-type wipers (RainX brand if it matters) are closing in on 2 years old now, and the plastic being slightly brighter than new ones, is the only thing showing their age. No streaking, chatter, or noise. No cracks in the blade either.
TL;DR: Buy a quality brand wiper blade, quality washer fluid (preferably rain-repellent ingredient based), clean them once in a fortnite, and be mindful of what speed you run them at. In the long run it saves you a lot of money, and annoyance of streaking or chattering blades.
Tip 2: check your oil every other fill up or sorts. By the time your oil light comes on, that means youโre already having oil pressure issues. Leaks have to start sometime. For whatever reason, if you lose oil and donโt know it yet, then this can save you. Iโve had โMalWartโ oil change places forget an oil cap once on my dadโs car a decade ago, and forgot to thread the cap down last year on another of his cars, lost a quart of oil over the 5k miles til the next oil change, was pretty low. Fact is, average cost of a quart of oil is around $5, compared to the average cost of an engine rebuild at sometimes around $5,000 or more, well, it doesnโt hurt.
TL;DR 2: Check your oil at the pump. Itโs probably fine. But if it isnโt, you want to find out early.
Edit: this advice given to me by a shop class teacher and a very wise friend. Saved me money and possibly an engine.
I remember reading something along the lines of, "You are a person as much as anyone else. Make sure your decisions also consider and respect the individual you see in the mirror."
Seemed like shallow r/GetMotivated advice at first but when I thought on it for a second it was like my self awareness expanded another dimension. The person you know most intimately is yourself, always consider that person's needs first before others.
โDonโt stop till your idols ask you for advice.โ
It might be a pipe dream for some with lofty, top-of-the-world goals, but if you keep your idols close, and work diligently, youโll get to where your idols are. And when you do, and youโve come from a different road, theyโll ask how you did things differently. If they donโt, then maybe they werenโt as diligent as you in the first place.
I applied this mostly to sports in my life, but also to video games that I enjoy watching on twitch, until streamers I watch actively ask me questions on things Iโve seen that they may have not yet. As for sports, I practice jujitsu, and a few rounds outside class and some binge sessions on youtube will get you that attention from your teachers.
When someone makes you mad, sing a song lyric/say a prayer immediately. Distracting yourself from the negative helps you let go faster and will prevent you from forming a negative opinion and carrying it with you.
Didn't believe but I did it at a job I really didn't like, never hated a single person I worked with. Even as frustrated as I was with all of them. Helps me send less time focused on negative.
js2589 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:47 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wash your eyelashes with baby shampoo and warm water if you have oily eyelids and/or wear makeup. My optha gave me this advice because for more than a year i kept on having styes (probably caused by stress too but can't really confirm)
I havenโt tried it, but when my mom said some sort of oil (coconut oil?) or something like that is good for touching yourself (Iโm a girl). Uhhh Thanks mom.
She's right, I'm wrong you do have to hit the side of their neck just below the ear and with the side of your palm opposite of your thumb. Also, point your fingers toward you so you have your wrist on the inside. Stay away from the inside of the neck as you could severely hurt them
Everything happens for a reason. It may take years before you see a link but I can see positives that have come through all the shit I've lived through (obviously this gets easier as you get older) but it helps me when the chips are down.
Sorry but that is all nonsense!!! It will register on a subliminal level and confuse or irritate!!!! Worst advice ever!!!! I did that a few times to show people how amazingly horrible and uncomfortable it makes you feel to stare right past them... just learn to make eye contact you morons!!! It is not that hard!!!!! Just focus on one eye if you canโt focus... just donโt tell people nonsense like that!!!!!
(Someone said if you have trouble making eye contact just stare at the personโs ear and nobody will notice it...)
If you have trouble sleeping (especially waking up during the night), hide your clock (or phone).
A sleep specialist told me this, and I almost rolled my eyes, but I tried it and I "never woke up in the middle of the night again!"
My theory is that we all do little wakeups in the night, but checking the time seems to awaken an area that has to interpret numbers, and then creates internal thoughts about what time it is (e.g. "I have to be up in 3 hours").
With the clock hidden, none of that stuff happens, you go back to sleep, and then you don't remember even waking up.
My cousin used to say "Always thing negative until the girl you like says yes. Never hope that she will go out with you until you get confirmation" Worked likes a charm for me rejected 4 times and don't even care at all.
Wpbdan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:06:22 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So I bite my nails and I have tried to stop but nothing would work so one of my friends said that I should put hot sauce in my nail polish that was 2 years ago I havenโt bit my nails since I tried it but it turns your nail polishes a different colour
My grandfather would always say "A good education is expensive". At first, I thought he was just commenting on tuition costs, but later I would learn the wisdom of that statement. The reason a good education is expensive is that you often don't learn until it costs you something. So, when I was feeling down about accidentally buying tickets to a 21+ concert when I was only 18, or failing Linear Algebra because I didn't attend class enough, I could always take comfort that I had bought myself a good education in the process
This is a clichรฉ piece of advice.However itโs very true.
Back when I was only 11,I use to try to be different than how I normally are.I tried to act more mature and extraverted.I wanted to fit in so badly that Iโve started losing my uniqueness.I only wanted to be like everyone else.Iโve had forced interests and I was being strict about it.
It continued like that until I became moodier than usual.These were the dark times I started engaging in self harm behaviors.It was terrible.But besides,the good side effects of that was learning to be true to myself.I became more individualistic and I felt way more open-minded.
Iโm never gonna force myself to socialize ever again.Not for an asocial person like me at least....
I am fine with loneliness
Emarges ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:33:07 on May 16, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To get rid of hiccup: stand up, stretch your body straight, lean in the hips at 45 angle, head back, mouth up on the line of core body and slowly drink water. That's all.
Explanation AFAIK is easy: hiccup is a spasm of diaphragm and you need to stretch and relax your core body to end it.
Fake it till you make it. We fake sleeping to fall asleep. We can fake a smile all day and actually feel better. I resented that notion, but then realized that all the nice people who made my day probably were also just being nice out of habit. Do why not do the same to spread the cool attitude to the world? Same goes for attracting people. If you start being active and kind even if you don't feel like it, it will become a helpful habit, and friends and potential partners will feel more drawn to you. Feel intimidated before an important job meeting? Doesn't matter how you feel, if your posture is confident, your speech prepared and your eye contact direct (I barely register people I stare at when giving a speech yet they don't have to know it), you will intimidate the listeners (who are just like you internally) , not the other way around, making you in turn feel more secure. This advise is not about being fake. It's at the core of all improvement and progress.
Had a friend tell me to drink milk if I was having a bad trip on shrooms. I tried shrooms and had a bad trip. Drank milk and felt 100 times better. Not sure if this works for everyone but I suggest if you have a bad trip to try it
zababs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:07:52 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My brother told me that I shouldnt check the time during ramadan so often cuz that is how it takes longer. Obviously I thought that it wasent true bucause I would just still check the time anyway. Guess what, time goes faster that way
Going on nature walks actually helps. Big time. I was told this as a kid to go for a walk when i felt mad. A few weeks ago i started going on daily nature walks when i felt down and it worked, i started feeling much better and happier and i didnt have as many moodswings
Well my 5th grade teacher was big on meditation and constantly told us that if we were ever stressed, all we needed to do was breathe in for 4 seconds, hold your breath for 7 seconds, and breathe out for 8 seconds. I never took that stuff seriously but recently Iโve been really stressed with school and other stuff so I finally decided to try it. It obviously didnโt completely help with all my stress but it actually helped a lot and I do it whenever I feel stressed now
To always speak loud and clearly, regardless of how uncertain you are of your wording. It shows self confidence and makes you a more enjoyable person to be around in general.
When taking a shit to prop your legs up on a stool or squat. One time I had constipation and thought what the hell, tried it and the shit literally slid right out of me.
Telling your brain a different outcome. If I already am on the verge of loss. Think that I won. I always thought it was bullshit but it actually is somewhat work.
lil-eep ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:59:53 on May 26, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was sad for a long moment in my life before I met my best friend. I met him in high school and always asked why I was sad. I shrugged him off until my birthday and I told him that my parents divorced last year. He told me that when he thought everyone was hopeless, he smiled. I thought he was fucking with me till the next day I was at a breaking point so I simply smiled. I looked outside and everything was brighter. Smiling was the cure I thought optimistic people were just being fake, but now I see life in ways I have never seen before.
Kayev5 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:56:42 on May 26, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't listen to yourself listen to the advice you'd give other people.
Its true we tend to be harsher on ourselves sometimes and when it comes to others we often give them the best advice despite not using it on ourselves.
My therapist introduced me to something called tapping. I watched him do it and thought it was dumb as hell. I wasnt sure why in the middle of a ptsd attack, I should tap on my face. After doing it in the moment, it doesn't get rid of it, but it brings me down just enough to breathe. Which helps considerably.
I know this sounds really stupid, but I actually tried it while visiting my brother in college for his freshman year.
Stuck in a crappy hotel, or really just any place that smells bad? Peeling potatoes or something? Rub a tiny, tiny bit of stick deodorant right between your nose and upper mouth. If youโre trying to go to sleep, the scent will easily mask everything else long after you fall asleep.
cockutu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:59:38 on May 27, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWrite down your goals.โ I always thought this was useless. It had always been my goal to complete a marathon, but had only ran 12 miles maximum before I stopped running altogether about 7 years ago. Then I read a book called Finding Ultra. Itโs about a man with a history of alcoholism and poor health turned ultramarathon runner. After the umpteeth time, there it was again. โWrite down your goals.โ In all fairness, the book made a good argument. By writing them down, you can break up a huge undertaking into small, digestible chunks. Additionally, the thinking portion is done for you. That way, you just have to do what is written down without second-guessing it. โFine,โ I told myself, โIโll give it a try.โ
I chose the most challenging but attainable goal I could imagine: I would run the Dopey Challenge at Disney World. This is a 4-day, 48.6 mile running event held every January. To complete it, you have to run a 5K on Day One, a 10K on Day Two, a half marathon on Day Three, and finish with a full marathon on Day Four, all in under a 16-minute mile pace. I had 5 months to train. Side note: I am 50 lbs overweight.
I followed the bookโs advice and wrote down a training plan. In a nutshell, I would run 4 days per week. Two smaller 3 mile runs during the weekdays, a Saturday run that would increase by 1/3 mile every week (initially about 4 miles), and a Sunday run that would increase by 1 mile every week (initially about 6 miles).
It worked like a charm. I ran all four days within the time limit, even after having caught the flu and taken two weeks off a month before the event. There is no way in the Seven Rings of Hell I could have accomplished this goal otherwise.
Fun fact: distance running causes you to gain weight because your body responds to the extreme caloric usage by increasing the glycogen your body stores.
tl;dr I ran a 48.6-mile race by following the โuselessโ advice of writing down my goals.
When you are in direct contact with dumb costumers or in a talk with you co-workers about their actitudes, think, make a point and talk slowly, if they get angry first everyone in the office/room/street will have a bad mood with the guy that is mad and no one is going to talk with them
I have severe depression paired with severe anxiety that I need 3(or more) prescriptions to get through the day, anyway I felt like therapy of any kind of sort isnโt just helping and this has been going on for about 5 years ever since my first day in highschool since I rarely talk but when I do talk Iโm a bit loud(but I can control that now) and people always looked at me weird because I stood by everything I loved like videogames.
Fast forward I was getting worse and graduation was around the corner, my ex-girlfriend whom I was in a relationship for 3 years broke up with me accusing me of cheating when I was with my bestfriend( A guy I could never hurt ) and his cousin (not my type) when we went to a club to celebrate( my ex couldnโt come because she had strict parents ) and she was making me more and more depressed as time let on and now Iโm driving home a little tipsy and riddled with anxiety and I crash into a parked car. It was so bad my mom had to pick me up and now Iโm just fucked as I down as many pills I thought was enough. The next morning she knew my financial status out of the damage and left me telling me all the shit people had been saying other people behind my back, like how annoying I was, that I ruined a good time for people just for being there, and how people always used me because I always pay the tab.
A month after graduating I cut off 99% of the people who I knew and that was hard (I am a people pleaser) with how much anxiety was bottled in me so I couldnโt sleep at night and just became depressed everyday.
2 days ago I got a message from a childhood friend who is halfway around the world right now and congratulated me on graduating since I did the same for her, we got to talking about how our lives were now and reassured me with all kinds of things I would only ever hear a friend say in the movies, she told me to be positive because someday we would see each other again geeking over comics and play videogames, someday.
Yesterday I tried it and it turns out positive thinking isnโt just a plan or goal. It can always be someone or anyone. โน๏ธ
"Stop playing on your phone, read a book or something."
I used to think I should be able to reward myself after a day of school, not torture myself with blocks of sliced wood.
Well guess what, I have a bigass book collection and finish a book almost everyday now and it had improved my life.
Clenching my left fist and squeezing the thumb to cope with gag reflex. Stumbled actoss it in a NSFW thread and used it when i was having a tooth removed at the dentist lol.
Holding your thumb when giving a blowjob. Its probably not real just works because i think it does but dang i didnt gag once when i gave my first bj i tried it and havent since.
This is late and my comment is kinda stupid but oh well
My friend once told me to put the little broken crispy bits of ramen noodles on top of your ramen when youโre done and it changes everything, at first I didnโt really think about it until one time I actually tried it and trust me it was an emotional experience
Wait 10 minutes after eating your plate before going for seconds / dessert. Apparently the logic behind it is that it takes time for your body to sense whether it had enough after eating or not (or how much room you really have for that chocolate cake) so you dont over stretch your stomach.
When I was younger I never had a problem with weight so it wasn't something to worry about. Now as I am getting a tad older I am noticing the changes (portion sizes getting bigger, feeling more hungry immediately after meals, etc.). So now I wait the 10 minutes to see if I am truly hungry or not and it has worked fairly well.
Iโm lactose intolerant and so is my mom. She told me to lay down with my butt slightly in the air when Iโm having tummy troubles due to my love of dairy. I didnโt believe her but one night I was having particularly bad cramps I did it and within minutes I erupted in the biggest fart followed soon after by a visit to the toilet and then it was instant relief
Sere101 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:32:06 on May 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go for the woman out of your league -dad
Two months after having an attractive girlfriend and all of a sudden the girls who curved me are the ones hitting on me, trust me, even my girlfriend notices
luisc86 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:59:19 on May 31, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โDo the things that make you feel good, you get to decide whatever this means to youโ
Keep this in mind......nothing that people say to you that could pull you down.....can do so until you enable it/give it the power to do so. Don't give negativity power by accepting it/ enabling it.
Nice lack of respect for anyone in your home who may take baths. The drain closes below the thing you stomp your shit through. Your shit stays on the backside of said thing, then gets in the bath water of anyone filling the tub. Even animals show more care and intelligence in disposing of their bodily waste.
It's not really random. It's said in the context of mr krabs trying to recall a piece of important advice that spongebob had given him. But instead he remembers a completely unrelated piece of advice that spongebob told him. Yeah it's an inane joke post, but it's a reference, not just some random shit, people post references all the time. And I'm not sure why it offended you or so many people so much. It's not like this post is marked as serious or as though askreddit threads are known for their complete seriousness and qualified answers. You're just getting offended over literally nothing and doubling down on it because you don't want to look like the sperg you are.
Lleggss ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:07:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another children tip:
Give your child/children activities to do at a restaurant like crayons and paper. I donโt understand why so many people give their children their cell phone at the table when they barely ate anything or they have 2 chicken wings and have a hissy fit for the cell phone.
Let them use their imagination than some game unless itโs an educational game.
Fake it until you make it. Works with everything tbh need to seem confident - act like you are, Are you scared of something act like you are not. your brain will be confused for a moment but at the end it works out
Nelaryn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:32:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was in grade and I dropped my rubber I used to try my best to retrieve them with my feet, dragging it close and picking it up.
One time I failed spectacularly trying it for a good minute, then I had to get up from my chair walk around my desk, bend down pick it up and walk back.
Then my teacher said with a smile: You see my dear, the lazy suffers twice!
Ever since, when I'm about to try and cut corners somewhere I actually think about the consequences of being lazy which would lead to alot more time wasted than if I had done it the right way (just think about leaving the dishes "I'll just wash them later").
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:14:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If there is a cow smell somewhere, you will be lucky for the next day. I did this when i was a kid when i wanted a new bike so i found a farm and took deep breaths just to be lucky. Didnโt happen ๐
I was told by a therapist that a gluten free paleo diet could improve my mental health. I didnโt believe it and was incredulous at the idea and avoided changing my diet for 5 years. However after a near death experience I gave it a go and incredibly after just 2 weeks following this diet I completely and permanently reversed my bipolar 1 disorder, never had another migraine, regained a functioning memory and basically got my life back. It turns out I had encephalitis due to a faulty immune system reacting to gluten. I donโt have celiac disease, itโs all in my head.
Getting out of the house for anxiety/depression. Obviously it's not an alternative to proper treatment--it's definitely not enough to just "get some fresh air"--but it makes me feel so much more normal and gets my brain active on other things.
Stay in the theatre till the end of the credits. A lot of people worked hard to make the movie. Watchi ng all the names scroll past gives you an appreciation for all their hard work and gives you time to digest whatever you just watched.
koincex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:27:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"The best way to kick a habit is to not start one."
BlasI ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:56:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I'm a NY cop but I get really nervous when flying.
I was on a flight one time and the guy sitting next to me noticed I was nervous, and he gave me some advice: "After you get where you're going, take off your shoes and your socks, and you walk around on the rug barefoot and make fists with your toes".
I was pretty incredulous, but he did say it was better than a shower and a hot cup of coffee.
So anyway, I land in LA and meet up with my wife (she works in the Nakatomi Plaza) and I try it, and lo and behold, it feels fucking fantastic.
Late to the party but WTH: peeing on your toes to cure athletes foot. Uric acid (urine) wipes that shit right out. I recommend in the shower and washing with soap and water after.
Fidget Spinners sound retarded and I agreed but my friend just told me to spin one and it was actually kinda relaxing, eventually I got one but after time I just stopped using it, tbh idk where it is
miketax ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:16:40 on May 18, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you ask, the worst thing someone can say is no. Best negotiating advice ever.
I think this is a good learning experience for all of us. Donโt get all your knowledge about women from the internet.
hrm0894 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:55:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol I actually have a lot of experience. When I stumbled upon the internet knowledge I thought it was stupid (hence the title of this thread) until I tried it. Next thing I know women who would have rejected me become obsessed with me. It is what it is.
โPfft I have a lot of sexes, yesterday I had twelve sexโ
I can tell you first hand that asshole men like you spread lies to make other men think itโs ok to be assholes. Itโs not fun
hrm0894 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 11:04:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not a lie. What I consider being an asshole is what you consider dominance. Women love to be dominated. Turns out assholes are dominant. Not a lie whatsoever but believe what you want.
I donโt really like being dominated. I feel like relationships should be mutual beneficence and not one side dominating the other. Women donโt like to be dominated, thatโs just another example of the internet lying to you.
hrm0894 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:11:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Women donโt like to be dominated
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Maybe YOU don't, but nearly all women are programmed by nature to fall for a man that dominates them. Or else they end up on /r/niceguys and get made fun of.
Seriously dude, women donโt like to get dominated and I think you need to understand that before you finally leave your parents basement and hurt someone. Youโre an abuser in the making and the internet is making you so.
hrm0894 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:40:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Idk why you're trying to change my mind. The question was what was useless advice until you tried it. I tried being a douche to women and saw positive results.
I mean youโre 100% right that I will die alone but that doesnโt mean you should treat women like shit
hrm0894 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:14:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I already told you, what I define as "shit" is what women define as "attractive." I'm just playing by the rules. Women love a man that's puts himself first, and that's all I'm doing. Not like I beat women or anything.
Again, stop believing everything you read on the internet. What youโre saying is absolutely not true, itโs a perpetuated myth by people like you because you want to believe that women donโt like you because your nice when in actuality itโs because of your awful personality.
I can tell you without a doubt that most women donโt like being treated like shit. I recommend changing yourself before you start blaming women for your lack of a sex life.
...No this is just commen sense. Have fun being opening the door for them and saying "m'lady" and hoping to get laid.
swayemo ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:07:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs not what iโm saying. The fact that youโre saying treat all women like shit, that is the furthest thing from the truth. Sure a lot of women will be attracted to you if you treat them not nicely but not everyone. Saying that is not true at all. Not all women want to be treated like shit.
hrm0894 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:02:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not all, just most.
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:24:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why are you getting negative votes.. this is true..
hrm0894 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:58:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
By women or men in denial. I don't really blame them tbh.
Arkady93 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 06:04:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
My phone got the blue screen of death. I was devastated - I hadn't backed up any of my photos and it looked like I'd never get them back. I scoured the internet for advice and saw the most ridiculous thing repeated on multiple forums: bake the motherboard in the oven. Like, literally disassemble your phone, take out the motherboard, put it on a baking sheet or some aluminum foil, and bake it at 300-400ยฐ fahrenheit for 10-15 minutes. And I'll be damned, that shit worked. I got to backup everything I wanted, and the phone kept going for a couple weeks before I got a new one to replace it.
Idk about for phones....but this is a pretty common thing for older Playstations. The solders crack and shit stops working. So you take out the board, bake it, it "reflows" and it works again. I got it to work once on an old PS3 but it's a temp fix. Tried it again a couple months later and it didn't work.
I wouldn't believe it either, but it fucking worked. It was a temporary fix. Some people on the forums said their phone lasted 2-6 more months, but all I cared about was getting my photos and contacts off of it.
The heat causes the solder to melt which can fix a electronic device if the problem is due to the solder no longer making a connection. Wont fix every problem, but is a good last resort that can sometimes work. Of course it could do more damage as some other components can melt due to the heat, or it could theoretically lead to a short circuit if the solder melts and forms a connection to another wire.
I think as long as you donโt mix to much sugar and gross stuff youโre fine. Like if you drink some beers and whiskey later youโll be fine. But if youโre mixing long islands, tequila, and beer youโll probably be sick.
It's not true, it all depends on your personal tolerance level. All those rhymes are bullshit. How does the order do jack shit, it all mixes in your stomach and getting sick/ too drunk/ hungover in large part is about volume and sugar content and how fast your liver works.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:18:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you do something, imagine potentially worst case scenario happening and โexpect itโ. It will take the pressure off performing well and actually make you perform your best.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:19:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop using a VPN with Tor unless you have a good reason.
spec149 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:20:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
just saving this comment section fo later
mjalt96 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:21:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gfuel at first i thought what how can that be better than normal energy drinks. With energy i only get hyped up for 10 minutes but with gfuel i get energized the whole day get 10 percent off with code
Bertry ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 01:40:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy 5 bean burritos every Friday instead of something bad that cost the same amount. Maybe not every Friday but 5 bean burritos equal around 7 dollars and a lot of useless items cost the same amount. Taco Bell is your best bet
If you start choking and coughing after you hit the weed and your throat starts to burn, take another hit immediately. The new smoke will sooth your throat and stop the coughing.๐
Drink .5L (1.3 Gz) water when you wake up. Kind of cleanses your body from the day before. Feels way better than expected (and works really good for weight loss as well, talking personal experience)
Worst piece of advice I got is be an asshole to a female you like. Call me an Avenger, because I am thinking end game. Anyone worth being with, will be there at the finish line. Not at the snap of the beginning
Had a buggy old iPad that I dropped and the screen just stopped working. I saw some video of a person hitting the back of their iPad and it turning on. My dad totally thought it was fake so he wouldnโt let me try it. Later I ended up doing it and it works. It would still turn off the odd time and people still thought I was crazy when I was playing a game, screen randomly turns off, me flipping the iPad over and smashing it with my fist until it started working again.
This whole deal is suck it up bitches. Learn and love. And live. No way am I and expert. I'm still wondering about the bots. We can love. Fuck those bots.
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Slashing the tires of those who have yard signs supporting Democrats for any elected office. It does affect their turnout, and can make a huge difference in saving your community from the spread of COMMUNISM!
when wanking, towards the end, when ur about to cum, go tighter on the tip of ur dick to get more cum out and a better orgasm. Still dont always do that but always works better for cumming.
no need to worry, i dont do this all the time, just if im in a particular mood, i can still cum from vaginal sex and without doing it so hard, so im not effected from death grip (yet) mainly just been joking about but thanks for the advice anyways.
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stabatha_christie ยท 1490 points ยท Posted at 02:53:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Once begun is half done.
I am a terrible procrastinator by nature. I have totally done the "well now it 5:02 so I have to wait until 6:00 to start cleaning" and I like making things seem like Soo much work that I can't possibly do them unless I take time off of work. In reality if you just start a project without thinking about it you can get everything done in like fifteen minutes a day and it's never really that bad.
Laeryken ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 04:28:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The ADHD in me says "Nyah, not even!" hahahaha.
TinyCatCrafts ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 05:14:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saammmeee. I've been on reddit fo like 2 hours and have been trying to get up and shower and find a shirt to wear for work and I havent moved.
THATS IT. IM DOING THE THING DAMNIT.
Laeryken ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 08:17:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
LET'S GO GO DO IT! Getting up is the hardest part
YoungHaki ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 07:42:05 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stephen Duneier said in his TEDx Talk that he used to be a procrastinator and overcame that by working for 5-15 minutes, having a 5-15 min. break, working for 5-15 min., and so on. I thought that I would spend to much time for breaks but I actually ended up getting more work done than before.
acer34p3r ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 13:58:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am guilty as hell of leaving projects half finished or finishing them immediately, no in between. Broke a window on the porch? had it cleaned up and replaced in an hour and a half. Fixing my SO's prized sunday cruiser? I started that.... 2 years ago? And it still doesn't have brakes. Or a throttle at this point...
Pseudonym0101 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 00:03:55 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like most of the time, if it's something I don't exactly know how to do, or if it'll take some figuring out, I am more likely to put it off. Even if there's only one step of the project I don't know how to do, I will procrastinate it.
AttackOnTARDIS ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:11:12 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/NonZeroDay granted I'm still a procrastinator, but
Meeepyy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:01:06 on May 11, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/procrastinationism
Americanragetv ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:18:26 on May 16, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just joined an army of my people. Now i dont have guilt
iixsephirothvii ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:46:24 on October 15, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude on top of this. If you plan for something after procrastinating, you can have something to look forward to after you finish. EX: Money, Gaming, Store run, ice cream, etc. hold those things off until after your procrastinations so you can rush through it faster. I learned this as a kid and still apply it to my quick cleans.
anticlockwize ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:57:26 on July 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As long as it's a very minor project I guess
rakmode ยท 2764 points ยท Posted at 02:04:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This too shall pass. On those days when I just feel like I can't take it I think of that, and I know tomorrow will be different. Someone once told me, "tomorrow may not be better, but at least it'll be different." In a strange way that too is comforting.
AlRedux ยท 62 points ยท Posted at 00:27:26 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How sage. The darkest hour still only has 60 minutes.
TellTailHeart ยท 56 points ยท Posted at 16:56:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mother likes to add on to the phrase. "This too shall pass, like a kidney stone, but it'll pass."
my_toes_sis ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 21:10:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like that... It kind of struck a nerve in me, I guess.
paralleljackstand ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 23:37:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learned this through a shroom trip. There was a really intense moment in the trip that caused me to panic. I had to keep reminding myself that in 2 hours, I'll feel completely different and in 4 hours, I'll be feeling good again. Definitely worked for the trip and has been working for my difficult work days.
rakmode ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:30:16 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The one and only time I had mj I ate it, and I hallucinated. Later my friend admitted that it may have been spiked with something else. It was a miserable experience. I thought about shrooms because I heard that it can cause changes in how you see and feel the world, but honestly I'm too scared to. Two hours seems like a long time to endure a panic.
curlycatsockthing ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:42:56 on May 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
edibles affect the body differently than inhaling smoke. they can have psychedelic effects that scare people who had no experience, which you didnโt have. iโm sorry you had a bad time :(
astraladventures ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:18:42 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is gold standard advice to try to impart to anyone having a difficult time on a psychedelic trip, that it's just a trip and you will come down in a couple hours. Good on you that you had the presence of mind to still understand this on your trip.
anotherbaldguy ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:14:02 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have this tattood on me! I'm persian. And the original "this too shall pass" is a persian adage.
it's 'in niz bogzarad'
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Check out how beautiful it is in calligraphy
https://cdn.hinative.com/attached_images/101399/2c8d3718f04a95d3b099d20e5f34abc851784595/large.jpg?1494329585
rakmode ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:34:09 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's beautiful.
Digitonizer ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 08:12:11 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a kid I once got very scared at night, and was afraid to fall asleep in fear of getting nightmares. Eventually I thought to myself, "No matter how scared I am or what will happen, this night will eventually be over anyway," and calmed down enough to fall asleep. It's a very comforting thought.
ScreamoUke527 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 11:02:29 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandma used to say that to me, after she died that quote got me thru the grief.
b4d4ndyg00dpizz4 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:44:56 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have this tattooed on my side.
I like it because the story is more or less that a king wanted an object that made sad moments happy and happy moments sad. He was given a ring with the phrase โThis too shall pass.โ
So I like that it doesnโt just include sad times moving forward; itโs a reminder to appreciate the good moments and the bad moments for what they are while they exist, because they will not last forever.
spazz4life ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:09:42 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
WHEN THE MORNING COMES! ๐ผ๐ผ
roguebuckeye ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:10:25 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unfortunately, this advice applies equally to really happy times. If I'm not mistaken, the phrase has its original with the stoics, who believes that any extreme of emotion was bad.
rakmode ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:16:23 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm okay with it applying to all of life's moments and emotions. I can look back and appreciate those happy moments, and be glad that they happened. I can also be glad that the horrible moments are gone and done, and that I got to learn from them.
Pinkypiesho ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:28:14 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most certainly is, if you're going through something you just need time.
rakmode ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:07:10 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Time is a horrible horrible friend
ilovebaconmore ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:32:29 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
good one
Malabar101 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:53:43 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I live by these words now, really did help me through some tough times.
Redhotkitchen ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:56:21 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is my mantra during a hungover work shift.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:13:41 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Weirdly enough those words helped me in my down times
anotherknockoffcrow ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:47:01 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use this for minor annoyances. Whenever I get a zit or cankersore thatโs really bothersome, I literally just think of a date maybe a week out by which time this problem will be so long gone, and tell myself to check in about it then. Inevitably I put it out of my mind and realize sometime later that itโs gone.
Sevival ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:47:25 on May 27, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I remember when I was 18, I was texting a girl for a couple of weeks and we literally had 1 date and kissed. Afterwards she dumped (more like friendzoned) me and i was so heartbroken, I actually believed she was the one and I never could find a better girl again. I felt like she was the only one and now my future was gone and I was gonna end up alone. Needless to say i was extremely naive back then. I talked to friends and nobody seemed to understand me and dismissed my sadness and said I should move on and start dating other girls. For 6 months i refused giving up but when I finally forced myself to start dating again I was never more happy
ObviousNegotiation ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:00 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is a great saying. I agree with it. Nothing can last forever, not joy or pain.
ZB_Exchange ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:29:09 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think so. Truly a strange way.
Donkey0394 ยท 431 points ยท Posted at 01:43:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My therapist told me the next time I'm going to have a panic attack to just give in and tell myself it was ok to have one . I told him he was crazy. After a couple tries it started working to my amazement. I haven't had a panic attack in 3 years.
okiedokedudedamn ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 09:32:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i do this too, kinda. in an intense moment of anxiety it's easy to forget the tips and tricks you've learned because you're in that fight or flight mode. but when i'm really anxious, but not panicking, i say, "Fine. Let's just get it over with" but it doesn't happen! my anxiety is like "fuck.. you aren't scared of me??? that was the whole point :("
Donkey0394 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:00:22 on May 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is exactly what I do. It takes the power away from panicking.
Krompsch ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 15:15:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This helped me a lot in the past. Instead of fighting your own feelings, give in. It can be overwhelming, but you cant win a fight against yourself. I would constantly stress myself in these moments to not panic until it breaks out.
If you cant hold it back, why not let go?
Donkey0394 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:01:55 on May 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly!! It's not easy at first but it gets easier with practice.
wowitscold ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:44:02 on May 17, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I too deal with panic attacks and use a similar strategy- focusing on riding the feeling out rather than fighting it. I still kinda get them, but seldom have bad ones anymore. Fighting it just stresses you out and makes it worse, but if you acknowledge what's happening, you can begin the process of calming down.
DrMeatpie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:26:38 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do you mean? What do you think about when you say it? How do you BELIEVE it
Donkey0394 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:58:15 on May 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just say fuck it! I know it won't kill me because I've had them before. It was really hard at first.
the-silliest-goose ยท 4211 points ยท Posted at 03:40:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandfather told me this and I never understood it until I had my own place. Always buy the cheap tools at first and if you wear it out/break it then you use it enough to justify getting a nicer more expensive one.
RottenLB ยท 1009 points ยท Posted at 10:14:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I guess with powertools and stuff, but my grandfather used to say the opposite:
I still have his tools (think pliers, screwdrivers, files...).
II_Confused ยท 81 points ยท Posted at 13:46:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a couple of my grandfathers tools (tape measure, screwdriver) until some asshat broke into my garage and stole my toolbox.
dasvendetta21 ยท 65 points ยท Posted at 14:43:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
God....I hate that asshat on your behalf on a visceral level. Tools handed down from father to son are always special.
Wolfskin17 ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 16:44:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And that's regardless of quality. The tool bag and tools my dad gave me from his own tool set when I first moved in with my now wife were probably his "lower quality" set of stuff that he had better duplicates of but for me those were the best tools money could buy. I walked into our rental house the first day and had plumbing issues and was able to fix it with my "new" tools. Whether they're a crap brand or not means nothing to me I love them.
silentGoose76 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 22:56:17 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did you mean to use the word visceral? In what context?
Trying to learn English.
mrsexlegs ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 23:31:23 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deep, based on feelings and emotion.
The feeling you get when you see someone you loathe and your entire body and soul reacts negatively to them being there
silentGoose76 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 00:58:24 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks :)
Calgaris_Rex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:21 on August 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You feel it in your viscera, to be literal (you feel it in your guts).
Mrkvica16 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 23:40:00 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And from father to daughter!
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 16:55:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Some asshat just broke into my storage and stole my toolbox, too!! I feel your pain, man. Thatโs especially rough, with the history there (your grandfathers tools). You have my sympathy
mike_d85 ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 15:40:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This advice is for anything non-basic. Screwdrivers are cheap even if you get the top of the line so there's no point. Getting a pulley puller for a weird repair it makes way more sense to buy the cheap-o you'll probably use twice than to buy the top of the line guy.
On a related note, check if the auto parts store has the weirdly specific tool you need as a loaner. A lot of them loan for free (with deposit) or for cheap (like $5).
buckus69 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 16:21:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hardware stores also rent out heavier-duty machinery like backhoes, trench diggers, etc.
ImNotBoringYouAre ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 16:25:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are tool libraries some places too.
RottenLB ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 18:13:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, makes sense. Thanks.
[deleted] ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 16:35:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Also knows as Boots Theory.
Well damn, thanks for the gold. Now I can afford to buy the nice boots!
ilumEmma ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:00:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That was a great read! Thank you
Lilz007 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 20:34:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ha! I was at bootsale the other day, and I always like to have a nosey at tools, and I found the exact same set of blunt and long nose pliers that my dad has owned for as long as I can remember. They would have been expensive when he bought them. His are still going strong, and he's used them quite outrageously over the years! They're pretty distinct, though they don't look "attractive". Bought for ยฃ2 to replace my more expensive "cheap/starter" set. Probably one of my better purchases, and I reckon there's a lot of life left in them. I like to pick up screwdrivers, too, ones which have worn handles but sharp heads.
RottenLB ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:49:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Awesome find man. Usually those can long outlast the newer made ones just because the quality of the material. It does not matter they are old if they are not chipped or have any other structural weaknesses.
Also when buying new ones, it's usually better to spare a few $ more to get higher quality ones, because the return is there (boight a good torque screwdriver and quality bits, now I don't have to replace them every five screws or so)
drot525 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:16:31 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm with your grandfather. When a cheap tool fails, it's going to be when you need it the most. Which means another trip to the goddamn hardware store. fuckthat. Also when tools fail; you're right there with them. also fuckthat. wear PPE. And even when cheap tools work; they make your work suck more than it might already suck. Yeah, your little narrow body handles on those box wrenches might be okay, if all you got to do is work one nut/bolt. Any more than that and it starts to hurt your hand to use.
silentGoose76 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 23:00:01 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lets not forget what OP said
drot525 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:42:12 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, but no. I don't want a tool breaking on me in the middle of use. At the minimum, that usually means a trip to the hardware store, but it could mean an injury as well. I'll pass. Buying them twice isn't cheaper. Better off borrowing or renting than buying cheap shit.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:04:56 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always buy the more expensive power tools (Like DeWalt or Makita, nothing crazy) because itโs cheaper to buy those once then to have the cheap ones break or not be good enough and have to get them again or buy the nicer ones, because theyโre usually less or around twice the price.
The_Revolutionary ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:33:12 on May 27, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Professional millwright. Buy it nice or buy it twice
dohdoe420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:55:57 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
like my good buddy once told me is, is not about cantidad es la calidad lo que podria hacer la differencia down that long road.
_umut4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:55:32 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
to be fair those things are hard to break. With screwdrivers I would always go cheap.
II_Confused ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 14:06:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Last weekend I was at a small renfaire event. Some guy stumbled and fell on my chest, bending one of the latches. Fortunately I keep some cheap tools in my car. It's literally a dollar store toolbox filled with dollar store tools. I was repairing the latch while we were shooting the shit, one of the guys mentioned that dollar store tools only need to work the one time you need them.
seems_fishy ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 10:26:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah.... Bought a really nice breaker bar thinking I would use it all the time ... Used it once, that's it
tastefullydisgusting ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 16:07:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breaker bars / pry bars are not the types of things you ever cheap out on. I almost lost an eye when my pry bar snapped and sent shrapnel flying.
I'm not a big fan of the "buy only cheap tools first" advice. Depending on the tool, the job can go bad real quick, or worse, you hurt yourself.
Tools are an investment in doing the job yourself. The money saved and feeling of accomplishment should offset the price of a quality tool.
I'm pretty sure I heard that piece of advice on myth busters, and I disagreed with it then also.
Many quality tools last for life and can easily be sold for a good chunk of what you paid for it. Don't cheap out on tools.
[deleted] ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 15:11:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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MEatRHIT ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:16:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is definitely a balance, things that you will more than likely use often get nice stuff, if you only plan on using it once or twice cheap out. Also know where to put your money, I have an old Craftsman table saw but I bought Freud blades for it, it cuts through 2" hard maple like a dream where a really nice table saw with a cheapo (or dull) blade will struggle.
scw55 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 13:34:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm like this with arty things. Bought a ยฃ1400 Cintiq when I really should have bought a cheaper model. I was blindly following the advice of a digital artist I admired. I naively thought I'd get the money back. I use it a lot, but its size is a problem.
flugundraumfahrt ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:32:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*unless you break it using it for a purpose it was not intended for.
E.g. if you snap a flat head prying on things then go buy the right tool first
DoctorRoosterMD ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 09:51:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've always been told the opposite, buy the nicest you can afford
rigby1945 ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 10:08:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless you've got a huge budget, buying the expensive tools first really limits how many tools you can buy.
Buy all of the cheap tools needed to do the job you're doing. After a few jobs, you'll have a wide range of tools, know which tools you use most, and know which tools you'd like to be better.
StrokeGameHusky ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 11:53:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youโd be surprised, some cheap tools will be a good value buy if you arenโt a tradesmen. I flipped a house using a $20 battery operated drill for the entire thing, and stil works. I was amazed, might go back and get a second so I donโt have to switch out drill bits lol
(I do this stuff in my spare time, not for a living)
ert-iop ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 12:01:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
15 years ago I bought the cheapest table saw I could find, about 70euro. It has been worked and worked. This morning, as I was cutting wood for the new kitchen it died. All the magic smoke came out. 15 years and God knows how much work for 70 euros. I will never find another like it. Looking at a Makita for 450 euro or a scheppa for 320 now. Nowhere sells a 70 euro table saw any more. Today was the end of an era.
MajorCocknBalls ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:31:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah when it starts smoking you know it's done. There's only so much smoke in there so you can't let any get out.
StrokeGameHusky ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:12:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh yea you definitely become attached to them after a while. I know Iโll be sad the day that drill breaks Bc of everything we have done together, as crazy as it sounds.
But if you are smart about buying the cheap tools that (might) last you can save yourself a lot of $/ยฃ
I bought a ryobi table saw for the same project, not super cheap but on the cheap end of the good brands, Iโd love to get 15 years out of it.
Good luck with your next table saw, friend!
Mackem101 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:17:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Not got a Lidl nearby? They had some Parkway saws in the UK stores for under ยฃ80, and their Parkway stuff has never let me down.
karmapuhlease ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:28:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Table saw is not something I would cheap out on... The better ones have pretty important safety features, and I like having fingers more than I like having money.
Seanbikes ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 13:49:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The ones with those fancy safety features like not cutting a hot dog or your finger are also crazy expensive.
MudderThudderMike ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:19:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt need to ball out and get one of those saws, but having one with a fence that doesnโt wiggle on you is pretty nice, or a riving knife. Itโs the little things that count
ert-iop ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:47:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was wiggling fences on the expensive 600-1000 euro saws today. They still wiggled. I guess you always end up with a good straight edge and a couple of clamps to get the job done :)
PapaMukwa ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:37:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would trade all 10 of my fingers if I could have 10 money.
DuhMayor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:34:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Check eBay or the like, you might be able to find a replacement motor and get another 15 years out of it.
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 10:29:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
WOW! Thank you for sharing this. I'm going to share this with my boys when they encounter the need for it.
thegreattrun ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:08:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This can be applied to a lot of things.
Flipsii ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:16:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup works for everything. Like recently my car died on me and once I found it what was broken I started saving for a car which is more fit for my driving I guess.
F1eshWound ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:00:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As long as there's a distinction made between cheap tools and shit tools. If your cheap tool is shit then you'll regret not spending a little bit more for something more substantial that can actually do the job. Otherwise, In the end you'll spend twice as much. So really the disclaimer should be: as long as that cheap tool can perform the function sufficiently well.
Pairaboxical ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:09:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The exception to this is socket wrenches
In my experience, Chinesium Harbor Freight socket wrenches aren't built to very exact tolerances. They don't fit correctly on the bolt/nut and you end up rounding it out.
DingGratz ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:38:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is Harbor Freight's business model.
qClem ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:03:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's sound way to good for me thank you!
smokedogseadog ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:06:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is actually great advice. I've recently started gardening but not gardening enough to consider getting top notch tools. I have cheap Big Lots tools which are pretty hardy. If I continue gardening, I WILL get better tools.
Carbonbasedmayhem ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 15:54:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had the same set of big lots tools for the better part of a decade. I keep telling myself that i too will buy new tools one of these days, but the big lots ones just won't die.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:35:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just bought a cheap angle grinder for this very reason!
zerohm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:02:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone with 3 kids, this is really good advice. Also we now live in a world with eBay and Craigslist so it's really easy to get it used, and if you wind up not using it you can resell it.
On the flipside, there is an argument to be made that people that don't know much about computers should not buy cheap computers. They should get a good one with lots of power, memory, and storage.
Chris142 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:20:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mother in law always saidBuy cheap buy twice. Some towns have took libraries which is awesome if you only need a tool from time to time.
syko82 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:38:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really like this. Harbor Freight at first, then buy something that'll last longer.
Lammy3002 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:58:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like how you have wood tools before diamond tools in Minecraft ๐
_forum_mod ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:27:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good one!
Twisterlord ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:18:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
damn thats actually a really clever way of thinkng things
RSpudieD ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:16:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Adam Savage said that....seems true enough.
smartlikehammer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:59:07 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A wise man once said โa nice toolbox never made anybody anymore moneyโ
mrsexlegs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:29:36 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think that's good advice for a hobby so you don't dive in too deep and waste money. But I feel like people responded to you with anecdotal thoughts about work and lifestyle.
Sidzejs ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:41:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is a saying - cheap man pays twice. Meaning if you buy cheap shit, it will break fast and you'll have to buy it again. And why buy tools you don't know if you'll need in a first place??? If you know you need something, and will need it a lot - buy good one. Also, the most basic things, yes, just buy good ones and you'll have them. And if you need something you're not sure you're gonna need again - cheap out...
MudderThudderMike ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:19:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy once cry once
INJORFEJSBICZ ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:18:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah but I bought a lot of tools I don't use. When you have little knowledge and just started your own house where you have to do a lot of things alone you can waste a lot of money on unnecessary things.
schemaddit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:10:31 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
well i guess before cheap things can actually last longer unlike today cheap things will break on your first use
itsMe_doodlebob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:14:11 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can see the logic in that. But Iโve learned โbuy it nice or buy it twice.โ If I know that Iโll be using the equipment/tools/gear often, thatโs justification itself
StrawberryAqua ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:09:35 on May 14, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm doing this with my crochet hooks. I first bought a plastic set, but I replaced the one I use the most with aluminum after it broke.
themightyneln ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:10:28 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless itโs a condom...
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:55:52 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is terrible advice. Cheap tools can last years but they just suck.
subbsworld ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 02:06:38 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same strategy I use with women
coralclouds ยท 6315 points ยท Posted at 02:13:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keeping my shoulders back. It was a suggestion I saw for preventing panic/anxiety. Idk what it is, but when your shoulders are in that position it gives some strange feeling of control. I also read somewhere that during panic attacks the body basically wants to curl into fetal position for protection, so I feel like focusing on keeping your arms down and shoulders back is a conscious way to go against that and stay grounded in reality. Works for me, could work for you too.
MedjoolStudent ยท 568 points ยท Posted at 05:15:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It opens up your airway because your chest isn't being smothered by your tensed shoulders. You can get full breaths.
coralclouds ยท 66 points ยท Posted at 06:04:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That makes more sense actually, good point
tba85 ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 13:57:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Super hero stance helps this and you also look like a badass
MedjoolStudent ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 13:58:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going out for my morning run in the rising sun, and just going to hold that superman pose the entire run hahah
tha_beans ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 16:14:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone knows you run faster if you stick your arms out straight behind you.
nicostein ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:37:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, it makes you more erodynamic.
The_Ironhand ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:21:52 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
( อกยฐ อส อกยฐ)
MedjoolStudent ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:06:27 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
wot kinda weeb heck is this heresy? I'll have to give it a go.
tba85 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 14:00:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I need video of this
MedjoolStudent ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 14:03:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Perhaps some blessed passerby will record me. grins
brokeninskateshoes ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 15:09:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i recorded you, how do i send the footage?
DueOverAnxiety ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:48:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Send me too. I wanna see how to do it thanks
brokeninskateshoes ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:54:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ok sent.
DueOverAnxiety ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:56:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Where
MedjoolStudent ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:07:00 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Upload it to the FBI website lol
wyer89 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 13:58:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's true, although imagine it has a lot more to do with the effects of power posing. Which can actually change testosterone and cortisol levels in a person.
tchabes ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 14:46:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry but thatโs refuted pseudo-psychology, none of the proposed effects have been replicated and itโs just marketing from Cuddy et al.
See Cesario et al., 2017 for the discussion of the special issue of the Comprehensive Results in Social Psychology focusing on the attempted replications.
wyer89 ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 14:47:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for the heads up
NastyGuido ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 20:33:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did we just see a civil interaction on the Internets? ๐ฒ
p0tts0rk ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 17:48:15 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The fuck you didn't, you r-word.
NastyGuido ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:58:14 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The internet never fails.
sagard ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 15:13:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for this. It's a little ridiculous that people are attributing the immediate benefits of not having constricted breathing to hormones (which generally act slowly) as compared to oxygen tension (which manifests itself quickly).
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:49:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This isnโt /r/science though- your comment is valuable of course, but if power posing works for people with anxiety just let them try it, yeah?
sagard ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 15:16:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/u/tchabes isn't saying that rolling your shoulders back doesn't work (it does, as stated early, through not having impaired respiratory function, which is generally helpful in someone with anxiety ... and also everyone else). They're saying that it doesn't change one's cortisol and testosterone levels.
MedjoolStudent ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:02:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oooh I didn't know that!
wyer89 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:16:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You should look at the Ted talk on it. I found it pretty interesting and it's useful to know.
https://youtu.be/Ks-_Mh1QhMc
VenerableAeolist ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:12:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cool to know the science. I feel that area get bathed in oxygen when I put my shoulders back.
Sakurablossom90 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:25:42 on May 24, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is like an old post but I read the last part as "full breasts"
UndiagnosedSiren ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:43:35 on May 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really? I feel the opposite. I've always had low self-esteem and hunched shoulders and when I have them back I cannot inhale for the life of me.
bakedlayz ยท 97 points ยท Posted at 08:55:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
imagine your nipples are headlights lol
Deadmirth ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 13:44:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go from fog lights to high beams!
NotTheTerminatorYet ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 16:42:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Night drivers hate him!
penislovereater ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 11:33:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Panic is weird. The physical and psychological play off each other, so if you can change one thing, it helps the other thing.
coralclouds ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 17:53:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Very true. The mind/body connection is an awesomely real thing
SerialDeveloper ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 13:57:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's more! Point your toes outward instead of inward, look ahead not down and place your hands in your backpockets or on your hips instead of crossed. All of these things radiate confidence, and confidence is one of those things where 'fake it till you make it' is the best way to improve.
Hereforpowerwashing ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 17:25:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is that why mary Poppins stands with her toes pointing to her shoulders?
theDoublefish ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:54:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When ever I see someone walking like the guy on the right, with the elbow or higher grab, I feel like someone told them to walk with thier shoulder's back but not the rest of this
190_tiny_bears ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:16:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only mildly related, my grandad used to stand like this and he said it was because at school they made them stand like this so they could smack your hand with a ruler if you were naughty, and if you weren't standing like this they'd whack it over your knuckles instead which was worse.
I don't know if it's true but that's what I think of when I see people standing or walking like this!
HomeWreqqer ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 13:51:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh wow!!! I recently thought I was having a heart attack because I was driving around for work and I was getting these abnormal chest pains that felt like my heart, my entire left arm was weeeeirdly numb on the inside, there was a strange pain in my left shoulder and neck and back, I was profusely sweating cold, and my blood pressure had skyrocketed (I knew this because I had called my manager who drove to me, and took me to a nearby CVS to measure my blood pressure) and i was at 150-something over 90-something. My manager goes โYes, somethingโs definitely going on.โ ... After going to the hospital and having all kinds of tests and xrays done, doctors told me everything looks fine and that I probably just experienced a panic attack or the beginnings of a fainting episode... It was kinda embarrassing cuz I thought I was gonna die. My body eventually relaxed by itself and I felt better after laying in the hospital for 5 hours. I was kept calm the entire time but I was reeeeeallly freaking out in the inside.
I wish I would have known about this.
littlemiss1565 ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 14:08:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And people still think that "just calming down" can stop a panic attack. I don't think people truly understand how physical panic attacks are.
HomeWreqqer ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 14:29:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep! I couldnโt agree more!!! I was on the verge of tears the entire time but I kept my composure. It was very very difficult though.
I think I had an anxiety attack before too. I was watching TV with my roommate, sitting on the couch, feeling perfectly fine, and suddenly this feeling took over my entire body that made me feel HOPELESS and like I was about to die. It was sooo fucking weird. I slid down so my body could be laying down. I was trying to keep calm and let it pass. I was sooooo close to telling my roommate to call 911 cuz I felt like I was gonna die. Not that I know what it feels like to die, but thatโs what it felt like.
Eventually it passed and immediately after I was breathing hard...but that shit was scary. Fuck panic attacks. Fuck anxiety.
littlemiss1565 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 14:31:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep! I know exactly the feel. The sudden onset of complete DREAD kicks in out of nowhere. You can't breathe, you get tunnel vision, your hands go numb, ears start ringing...it's awful. I wouldn't wish panic on my enemy.
Hopefully you're doing better now! Anxiety is a bitch to manage, and always remember you're not alone! <3
HomeWreqqer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:40:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
OMG EXACTLY!!! Whew! Iโm just glad I can say itโs in our past.
And thanks love! Life is a roller coaster. Still trying to defeat my anxiety. Anxious right now actually. My subconscious is cooooonstantly thinking and overthinking and analyzing and overanalyzing and its sooooe exhausting but I have the gift of โsuppressionโ which might actually be unhealthy and I hide it all with a smile and a personality but honestly the only thing giving me anxiety is my job.
Itโs a sales job. Commission. Still trying to make that my main job and leave the restaurant industry forever.
Itโs been proving to be something more difficult FOR ME cuz of horrible anxiety.
Recently watched a buuuunch of YouTube videos of people using CBD for their anxiety and OH MY GAWD!!! Everyone was saying how pleasant it was AND HOW THE OVERTHINKING STOPPED!!! ๐๐๐ I AM ECSTATIC to try cbd.
I feel like weed gets you high, but not necessarily eases your anxiety. Cannot waaaaiiiiiiit for CBD lol
I hope youโre doing well yourself!!! โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
littlemiss1565 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:55:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hope the CBD works for you! I have yet to try it myself (a lot of my anxieties come from health/contamination/medication type things- I have GAD with slight OCD behaviors so it's a little challenging haha) but if you find yourself spiraling again, therapy is incredible. CBT and exposure therapy have done wonders for me so far and I'm only about 7 sessions in. :)
HomeWreqqer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:59:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
CBT and exposure therapy, huh??? Iโm totally gonna look into that!!! Iโve dwelled on therapy for a looooong time I just dont know what first step to take. Iโm in California and everything is expensive so for sure my brain is focused on the money part of therapy, but Im sure it cant be THAT expensive like a surgery right???
I DID see some videos where people were saying they didnโt feel a difference with CBD. So I could possibly have to take your route!!!
How long are sessions???
littlemiss1565 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:03:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was absolutely in the same boat as you. I should've gone into therapy yeeeears ago but I was afraid. If your insurance doesn't cover therapy, a lot of places are "sliding scale" which means they can work out a self-pay fee with you depending on your income. It's cheaper for me to pay out of pocket at a sliding scale then go through my shitty insurance. It's different for everyone, but I pay $60 per visit and I go biweekly. Sessions are about 60mins give or take. I think that's absolutely reasonable for my current situation. Just talk to them and you can work something out for sure! And if you don't jive with a particular therapist don't let it discourage you, just find another one more aligned to your situation.
Therapy can be tough and dig up a lot of emotions you aren't ready to feel and face, but it's worth it in the end. I've gotten so much better at controlling my anxiety and retraining my brain to handle things. You can always PM me if you want!
moal09 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:11:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every time I hear CBT, all I can think of cock and ball torture.
HomeWreqqer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:53:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like blue balls lol Have you experienced CBT before???
moal09 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:23:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have not in fact
shunkamunka ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:29:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like EXACTLY what I would wish on my enemy...
Seriously tho, that sucks. I am epileptic and before I had my first grand mal I thought my little partials were mild panic attacks. Obvious now that they werent. The whole vision blurring/'flickering' heart beating fast, sweating and not being able to speak (left temporal lobe) was so effed up. And really scary because these would happen while I drove. Progressively getting worse for a few months, until I had my first grand mal - at work. Just chance that it didn't happen while driving.
brokeninskateshoes ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:15:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
one specific panic attack put me out $1,000 for the ambulance ride, and a fed up surgeon telling me I was wasting his time (they wheeled me straight into the stroke ward because the symptoms I was describing fit that of a stroke or anyurism)
I had this drilling left side head pain come on strong and out of nowhere and i got up and immediately passed out and my friends called 911
hospital just injected me with ativan and wheeled me into the hallway where I laid for 4-5 hours until my mother showed up and brought me home
HomeWreqqer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:15:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh Gawd what a horrible experience especially that asshole surgeon!!!
So m, ultimately, it was just a panic attack?! Drilling pain and all???
brokeninskateshoes ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:48:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think so, never got a scan and the pain never came back. This was 2 years ago now so I think I'm okay at this point
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:52:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You might want to look up hyperventilation syndrome (as my doctor put it, the one medical problem an anxious person can look up and have it make them feel a bit better). The erratic breathing and rapid heartrate during panic can cause symptoms that appear dead-on for a heart attack. The cure is, literally for once, taking deep breaths. Even if that's not specifically the problem or it's not persistent, I feel like just knowing that can help a little bit because the anxiety of thinking you're having a heart attack obviously compounds things if you feel that way because you're panicking.
HomeWreqqer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:23:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deep breaths can make a HUGE difference sometimes. My anxiety can agree
osk213 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:25:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Absolutely. Deep breathing is essential and has gotten me out of incoming panic attacks.
sagard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:17:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did they check for thoracic outlet syndrome?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:08:50 on May 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im miles late but, standing up straight and all that wouldn't have helped much. It's okay to just have episodes sometimes, it really does happen to even the best most confident peeps.
RoarEatSleep ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 14:41:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Similar thing but smiling can change your mood. You have to do it with your whole face but I read it somewhere and it works. Itโs the same idea that activating certain muscles can release cortisol or whatever and change your brain chemistry.
When Iโm in a mild panic attack/depressive state I force myself to lift my chest/shoulders, smile and box breathe (5s inhale, 5s hold, 5s exhale, 5s hold). It wonโt fix everything but itโs a quick fix for a lot of stuff that especially if I start it before it gets too bad.
Heath776 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:52:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Facial feedback.
crannyGSdays ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 13:46:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck me. Ive been having anxiety and chest tightness a lot lately. Sitting at PC shoulders rolled forward. I needed this so badly.
vagiantvagenius ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 13:22:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Part of this is tilting your chin up. We put our chins down when we are in fear or shame, and the position triggers a vagus nerve response to send more cortisol. Chin up both opens the airway, and stimulates the vagus nerve to have more testosterone, or confidence and calm.
Troebot ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:58:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
raises head "Hey, this does feel bett-" Trips over own feet
TheEmsworthArms ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 13:49:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My massage therapist pointed out that I stand with shoulders rolled forward, which is bad for my back, which is in enough trouble. Now I constantly remind myself to keep them back. Feels amazing when I actually carry myself properly.
Rising_Swell ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:56:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find that it just hurts >.>
Telenike ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 06:45:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do some weight training that focus on your lower traps and lower back.
My therapist gave me this advice and it felt great for my mental well being but I have lifelong poor posture and it hurt my back like crazy. Targeting those things in the gym has made it heaps easier.
TruthAddams ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:08:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't weight train due to disability. I've been told only swimming (no pools with accessible hours near me)and body weight type exercises like yoga and dance.
RoarEatSleep ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:38:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is so much you can do with body weight exercises. I used to workout with a celebrity type trainer. I knew I was going to get utterly destroyed when she didnโt get the weights out. I mean burpees are absolutely brutal and thereโs a lot of yoga stuff that I still find very difficult even when Iโm in great shape.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:55:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yoga would certainly be helpful for this sort of thing. Isolating particular muscles is likely quicker to get that result, but yoga isn't exactly going to make your posture worse!
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:40:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
You may have posture problems and muscle imbalances if holding your shoulders back hurts. Unless you're forcing them back really far.
Rising_Swell ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:18:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I presumably do, but I don't know how far back is really far. I don't know what is normal. Is the top of my back meant to be straight, are my shoulder blades meant to be further out?
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:42:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's very hard to tell without being physically with you. I was taught by a physiotherapist that if you stand with your heels a few inches from the wall such that your butt is lightly touching the wall, your shoulder blades should also touch the wall (WITHOUT sticking your tummy out) and the back of your head should barely touch the wall. Of course this probably differs a lot if someone is overweight or has a lot of junk in the trunk, neither of which are me.
If you spend a lot of time at the computer, chances are that your resting posture has your shoulders rolled too far forward and your neck/ head craned too far forward. At first, proper posture was very uncomfortable for me and felt like I was sticking my chest out and squeezing my shoulder blades back with effort. Now, it feels comfortable and my back hurts much less day to day.
You could also have bad hip posture contributing (anterior pelvic tilt is a common problem).
Rising_Swell ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:01:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So uhh.. did that thing, and my butt and shoulders touch the wall about evenly. My hair, with a pony tail coming down the back, doesn't touch the wall, so my head is a good 3+ inches away there.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:26:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah sounds like you probably need to straighten your neck. Bring your head back with your chin a little tucked, like there's a string at the top of the back of your skull pulling you taller. Anyway looking up some posture guides might be better but I hope this helped anyway. Having your neck so forward can really limit your neck and back flexibility and will eventually cause chronic pain.
BennyBenasty ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:07:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I mentioned this in another reply, but hold a pencil with loose fists in each hand. The pencils should be pointing forward(if they are pointing in, shoulders should be further back/down).
I'm tall (6'4"), and when I tried this the first time a few years ago, the pencils were turning all the way into my thighs- it ended up giving me bad shoulder issues (dislocation) amongst other things. It really relaxes me, raises my confidence, and actually just looks better(look at yourself from the side in the mirror as you do it).
BennyBenasty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:02:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It can be uncomfortable for a bit at first, but your body will adjust(mine did). Shoulders back, then down (they will roll forward a bit).
Try holding a pencil in each hand, they should be pointing straight forward.
Also, the yoga could be massively beneficial if you can't lift. Try Yoga with Adrienne on YouTube, try to push yourself a bit on the poses(feel the stretch etc.).
bekstow ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 13:31:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! This works wonders. I have also been taught to plant your feet firmly on the ground (like not crossing your legs at all) it makes you feel like you are grounded and more in control.
siecin ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 15:11:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The part that is usually missing from the advice is how to properly position your shoulders. Roll them back to where your hands are flat parallel to your body with thumb forward. If they are rolled forwards your hands will typically show more of the back of your hand and not thumb front.
It usually happens anyway when you pull your shoulders up but it also allows you to notice when you are slouching easier.
SooFloBro ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 13:44:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jordan Peterson fans: ooh! I know that one!
coked_up_tourist ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 15:18:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lobster society!
Jamilacus ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 14:14:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
First thing I thought of :)
Solithic ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 15:35:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Found the top lobster
Quickerier ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:39:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ha, I used to do jumping jacks to stave off panic attacks, this seems much easier.
wyer89 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:59:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would assume that it has to do with the effects of power posing. There's a really good Ted talk on it's effects!
aaflyyy ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:15:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You, fellow redditor, might just helped me in staying alive until I finally get to talk with a specialist about the mad shit that is going on in my head. If this works for me, thank you!
coralclouds ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:29:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yo! Thank you for saying that, I really do hope this helps you out in some way shape or form. I spiral into that negative head-space often and I've made this action a nice tether back to the real-world. You've got this! We all got this!
aleoyakas ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:11:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dunno what it is, but how you ended this just felt wholesome af. Actually offering the advice with the hope of helping someone, not just telling a story for upvotes.
PT_024 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:36:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This comment and many replies to it seem like they're needed in my life rn. I'll be trying them ASAP and hope it goes well.
dedzip ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:26:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโll try it, thank you
thwumph ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:16:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also on that note, I've heard that sleeping with your legs and arms straight helps to relieve stress and anxiety
B362220 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:22:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
u/delta_australis_83
saefi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:48:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shoulders back
Hips forward
POSE!
Litty_McGritty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:49:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know how people say smiling will make you happier? Same idea. Showing off your chest and acting like you're a big person will make you feel like a hard ass.
infinitestardust3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:09:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The fact that this is the top comment says a lot about the average mental health of reddit users.
BennyBenasty ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:18:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would imagine that frequent computer users struggle with this issue in general.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:10:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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coralclouds ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:59:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm so glad man :) have a great day
DJNoona ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:40:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wear a posture corrector shoulder/clavicle brace at work to help me stand straigher and look more attentive/professional. It has helped my neck and back pain. Highly reccomend. Just search on amazon for "posture corrector"
demonhunta ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:41:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Medical marijuana saved me from it not my shoulders
SolidLab ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 16:15:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why not both?
tonedtone ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:50:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing from your stomach also works to help this. If you put one hand on your chest and the other on your stomach you can feel and adjust where you are breathing from. Similar to posture breathing from the chest is the bodyโs reaction to stress, prepping it for fight or flight. Moving your breathing to your stomach signals that itโs okay to stay vulnerable and relax.
BennyBenasty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:54:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is one I managed to stick with for years now. To be clear for folks, it's not about sticking out the chest, bring your shoulders all the way back, then bring them down (they should roll forward a bit).
Easiest way to know you are doing it right:
If you hold a pencil in each hand, they should point forward, if they are turning inward, they're too forward.
alloutofbubblegum00 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:25:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife once at a panic stack so bad that it appeared she was having a seizure. Scared the hell out of me. Some panic attacks can be so debilitating.
lieverrosie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:59:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
U also gain good posture, win win situation
anniemademedoit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:01:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's awesome to know! You might have already been taught this but square breathing has been a good technique for me. Inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, exhale for 4 slow seconds, hold for 4 seconds, repeat. It helps to slow your heart rate and recirculate blood flow through your body, rather than have to rush to your heart. I also find after a few rounds I can take a nice deep breath after which is nice for all us who feel like they can't breathe!
coralclouds ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:47:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah! It's been a good tool for me so far. I do believe I've heard of that just not refered to as "square breathing", and I don't usually factor my breathing in when it's just as important, so thank YOU!
Jack_Nelson04 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:47:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think itโs something to do with how your posture affects your mood. Youโll see animals like bears and peacocks making themselves appear bigger to assert their dominance. Thereโs a ted talk on it, itโs titled something along the lines of power poses.
190_tiny_bears ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:30:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I watched a video on an actress talking about how she plays a queen and the advice she gives is 'shoulders back, head up and think of murder' and if ever I feel self conscious or anxious I do this and it does actually make me feel like royalty. Specifically, the medieval kind that killed at least two siblings and permanently imprisoned their nephews to get where they are.
spoonbread28 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:53:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โStand up straight with your shoulders back.โ - Dr. Jordan Peterson
Otakufy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:15:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stand up straight with your shoulders back
YouBeFired ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:05:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always think of being Grant Cardone when I get a panic attack... 60% of the time, it works every time.
ImperialPC ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:39:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've also heard that tensing your shoulder muscles can spread to your jaw and temple muscles. So relaxing your shoulders can affect your entire mood.
scarypetes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:42:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have really bad posture and it kills my back. Iโve tried keeping my shoulders back to help out, strangely enough I have been feeling much less anxious and more confident
The_Strange_Visitor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:54:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bench press
Poopystink16 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:57:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also good for posture
ken_jammin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:11:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me slow breathing works well. 5 seconds in, hold, 5 seconds out. Surprised how many timeโs that one reset me back to normal after getting worked up.
MuskyCat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:24:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Believe it or not the positioning of your body affects the way you think. When you have your shoulders back, your cortisol โstress hormoneโ reduces, and allows you to have better critical thinking rather than anxiety.
Takamasa1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:56:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good posture in general makes such a huge difference. You can feel how much better your body is functioning which can definitely improve confidence. I used to be super slouched over and had a bit of an anterior pelvic tilt (as do a lot of people) and when I finally got off my ass and worked on the necessary muscle groups at the gym there was a huge difference and I โgrewโ 2-3 inches and now Iโm not sore all the time for 0 reason
NotAtWerk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:00:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, if I am ever on the edge of an anxiety attack or paranoid I always make sure to not cross by arms, legs, of lean forward. It is primal that if we open up our bodies and make ourselves big it shows and feels confidence
Xolam ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:05:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
is there any scientific explanation for this
BlockHead824 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:31:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You a fan of lobster man too?
coralclouds ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:50:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I keep seeing this, but not yet at least. Gotta check this lobster tf out
BlockHead824 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:53:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jordan Peterson, 12 rules for life, itโs rule no1.
I recommend the audible audio book (read by him) above just reading it because it is a dense book.
the_untidy-vaginas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:32:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chin up..literally
cantstop4u ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:57:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rule #1!
THEFakechowda ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:11:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck, just posted good posture. Yes it's great for your shoulders and over all ballance. Great advice.
Alpha3K ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:20:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hm, seems like a reasonable idea..
all_i_see_are_legs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:28:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's a guy at work that does this and honestly, he just looks like a militarized dork. I always want to walk up to him and say "At ease, dude!"
TrickSanchez ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:59:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I found Jordan Peterson
YouAreSoWierd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:56:01 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for this
KingsoftheBronze_Age ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:31:39 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
when I do this and stand up straight I also get lightheaded from the larger amount of oxygen that just hit my brain
Knives_Ciao ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:17 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i pretend i have lazer nipples and aim them at peoples faces
ObviousNegotiation ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:09:36 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
That also works because when you open your core like that you actually change your brain chemistry, temporarily. There is an article from 2018 Forbes about it, as well as a TED talk.
*There was an attempt to refute this, but the 2018 article claps back at that diss.
maxthechuck ยท 6338 points ยท Posted at 03:26:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That Forest app. It grows a tree for up to 2 hours and during that time, you can't access any apps you think will distract you. If you wanna open a distracting app, you'd have to kill your tree. All your trees, dead or alive, appear in a little forest. I have always had trouble motivating myself to focus on homework and not look at Reddit/YouTube, but this app is just enough guilt to not open them. I haven't killed anything yet and I'm surprised at how much I can care about a small virtual tree. People told me about it and I just completely assumed that I'd never use it or it wouldn't work for me considering how distractible I am, but it works wonders
missmoneypennymaam ยท 1652 points ยท Posted at 10:29:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Goodbye, Reddit.
DaughterEarth ยท 85 points ยท Posted at 13:41:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Yup I installed it. I love trees and I need to stop reading before sleep
*my work uses duoauth... this isn't going to work for me when working. Had to kill my tree already in order to work lol
**I feel like an ad baby saying this but after trying the suggestions I'm super happy. Mostly cause completing a tree gives me points to have a real tree planted
Lissmels ยท 60 points ยท Posted at 14:47:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can manage what apps are "good" or "bad", so if you need an app for work then you can list it so that the tree doesn't die when using that app
DaughterEarth ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 15:05:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sweet thanks I'll look for that setting
It's a premium feature:(
So close
maxthechuck ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 15:16:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's worth the two dollars tho. It's a one time payment and I definitely have been better for it
DaughterEarth ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 15:34:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's not bad, that's about what i "donate" when I like free things. Look at me assuming these things that turn out to actually not be that bad. Thanks everyone for encouraging my productivity and screen addiction rehab!
annahatesbanana ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 16:21:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The app 'self control' does that! You can either blacklist all the bad websites or white list the websites you want to be allowed. I know it as a laptop program. And it 100% contributed to me surviving college.
CypressBreeze ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:58:42 on May 26, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This doesn't work on iOS ๐
mizzourifan1 ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 11:20:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See ya next week!
iella_w ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:10:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
More like, *close reddit* ... *home screen* ... *reopen reddit app*
Or, the web version of this... close tab, new tab, immediately navigate to reddit
Sofaqueensad ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 14:45:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reddit still works while the tree is growing
maxthechuck ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 15:17:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you spend $2 to get premium, you can manage what apps do and do not work while it's growing. But that's still weird
uknowdamnwellimright ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 15:24:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just get a second phone.
TacoNomad ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 16:48:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Goodbye trees
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:01:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Goodbye, Mom!
Darkpolearm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:50:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Goodbye, Trees
uhhmisterdavis ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:29:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yea ok see u in a few hours with your dead tree
CantFindMy666 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:54:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hello tree
buddyboyfriendo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:32:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
have a great day
ciochips ยท 56 points ยท Posted at 10:38:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This app helped me so much with homework. You never realize how easily you can focus if you know there's nothing you can do besides studying.
_senpo_ ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 13:34:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try me, I'll fail anyways
cyberporygon ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 23:44:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd watch the tree.
lobstercoder ยท 53 points ยท Posted at 11:35:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This app has saved me so many times when studying, the idea of having a visual representation of how much you've worked is pretty motivating for me. I've recommended it to many people, but the answer is usually that it's not enough and they need an app that actually prevents them from using their phone.
Verbatimgirraffe ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 12:47:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ive always represented how much I've worked by looking at the hours that have passed while completing a set amount of work and comparing the results to others based on previous comparable tasks. Generally if i dont complete them as efficiently as previous peers, I have to start the app again and grow another tree to distract me from the deep dark pain of screaming at the abyss
yallqwerty ยท 50 points ยท Posted at 10:52:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Forest - iOS
MannyDantyla ยท 50 points ยท Posted at 12:16:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, I was wondering why โThat Forestโ wasnโt returning results
1cculu5 ยท 50 points ยท Posted at 12:34:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Two dollars to be more productive... I dont know...
mushroomstop ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 12:46:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
thereโs an almost-identical app called โFloraโ thatโs free
Melonbark ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 13:09:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
on android it's free
Peppeperoni ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 12:45:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah for that reason, Iโm out.
GourdGuard ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 16:51:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously? How did software get to have such a low perceived value?
Peppeperoni ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 16:58:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Value is a made up number. Although itโs a mere $1.99, why would I buy something just because? I turn my phone off or throw it in another room if I need no cell distractions. I have paid for software which has worth to me. If this was free, Iโd be curious to check it out, and then most likely delete.
GourdGuard ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 17:26:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That makes sense. I was assuming that you thought $2 was too expensive for software in general.
Peppeperoni ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 17:27:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nooo not at all! Thatโs a steal if thatโs what your looking for! Iโm very aware of how much work gets put into these apps! Cheers!
fancydjs ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 12:36:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
your literally me rn. let me know what you decide so i can do it too.
Skeltzjones ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 12:44:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It looks like a free one is right below it. Has anyone tried that one?
niks_15 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 12:51:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Guys, there's family sharing. We can pool together!
GPAD9 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:34:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One big family?
DaelinD93 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 13:27:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's less than a mcdouble. Spending 2 dollars on an app is nothing. Think of it terms of all the food you buy that you didn't need.
IAmAWizard_AMA ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 14:03:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Forest - Android
viceroypaak ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:46:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is it worth it? Or is free one better?
msn-nard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:19:20 on May 27, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
On Android it's free
Salmon_Quinoi ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:42:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting, I found one called: Flora - Focus Habit Tracker by AppFinca Inc.
stellarspacer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:46:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you.
nonowh0 ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 13:14:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In addition to all the things you've mentioned, you can tag your trees with the type of work you've done, and the app will keep track of everything and give you nice stats about your workflow.
If that isn't enough, you can export the raw data into a .csv file and do your own data analysis....which is a 100% valid thing to do and is not to be confused in any way with procrastination.
leo3r378 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 12:21:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And if you get the premium version (for like 2$) once you get to 2000 coins you can even plant a real tree!
TheEroticToaster ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 18:21:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do they burn down the real tree if you lose focus?
Verbatimgirraffe ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 12:50:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For 2 dollars you can buy nursery stock and plant a real tree. For 50 cents you can buy sedge and grass to plant in wetlands
Buya248 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 11:19:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Name of app pls.. for android.
SanderTheSleepless ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 12:08:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Forest: stay focused"
E72M ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 11:26:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Type in forest. Should come up
Verbatimgirraffe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:48:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuckin focus
possibleavenger ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 12:18:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
seconding this. tried this during the exam session, saw how much i'm working and that motivates me.
also, we're keeping track on how many hours we study and then we turn it in for the university. The reason for that is that in course description we have a table where its explained how many hours we have to spend working by ourselves and with the professor based on how many credit do we get for the course.
this app really helps to track that.
Laeryken ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:38:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks! Done :)
The_BenL ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 14:33:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just installed, tree is growing!
Yet here I am on desktop... I'm doing this wrong I think.
bumblebatty00 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 15:11:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
On a similar note, Plant Nanny works with making sure you drink enough water in the day. You log your intake by watering your plant, and if you don't water it enough it will get sad and slowly wither away and die. Don't care about your own hydration? Well I sure cared about this fake cute plant's hydration at least.
jeckylln ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:25:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for sharing this! I'm excited to grow myself a forest!
donteatalmonds ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:32:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What an excellent exploit if my otherwise frustrating tendency to empathize with things that don't feel. (Or are actually fine, and tougher than me.)
Tong0nline ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:30:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
jokes on you.. i have many phones
Midnight-sh_code ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:45:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
nice idea.
shame i still have a computer too.
Berdiiie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:42:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I struggle way more on the computer. Maybe there is a website version?
Midnight-sh_code ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:35:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
website can't block apps or websites.
even making a desktop version to work properly would be kind of hard, i think.
Berdiiie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:14:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dang. Good to know though! I'll just have to work on not getting distracted via will power.
lambocinnialfredo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:50:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Self control is a great chrome plug in to do a similar thing, prevents you from going to certain websites
Berdiiie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:14:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice! Thank you.
donttrustya ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:36:45 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a Mac, SelfControl (one word) is a great app that blocks websites entirely on your computer, so you canโt access those websites on any browser. You also canโt turn off the blocking once the timer starts!
orangealoha ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:32:41 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My boss just pulled me into her office today to talk about my excessive phone use. I was wondering how I was gonna change it and this comment was like a sign from the heavens
MannyDantyla ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:16:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Iโm going to need this when I start working remotely
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:50:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At least buy it dinner first!
MannyDantyla ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:57:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*need
E72M ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:34:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know, this app is an amazing idea. I can see it working for me but I set my tree for half an hour to start studying and at that moment the girl I'm talking to messaged me. Ty for that...
SuperSimpleSam ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:37:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reminds me of the guys holding the bunny for ransom.
EstwingEther ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:00:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mad magazine did a similar thing except with a dog. Then some lunatic found the dog and killed it.
Seige_J ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:30:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I haven't spent money on an app in years, let alone a $2 app. And I just bought this app with no remorse at all. $2 for productivity and little trees is worth it.
cudderbup ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:29:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use this to track my actual focused studying time. Thereโs a big difference between actual studying and distracted studying
littlesizzleone626 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:41:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Regretting buying a $50 food locker for my phone after reading this...
Strange_andunusual ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:56:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had this sitting on my phone forever and never used it, so thank you.
you-spooky-bitch ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:59:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use Forest. Last week I only grew as many watermelons as I could, just to see them taking over my forest like a weird plague.
TrynaBeFunny ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:32:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude, I just got this week last week and my revision and is improved so much!
Project2r ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:25:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this is the first comment where I was like, "yep this is a useless piece of advice."
"...holy shit, it might work..."
sweetlew07 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:38:39 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for posting this. Not only did I download it, but I had therapy today, and my therapist LOVES this idea, as did the other girl I go to therapy with. I'm going to start growing trees during therapy and when I meditate!
maxthechuck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:48:09 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow! Hope it works well for you
Just_some_reddituser ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:19:37 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reddit and YouTube aren't the only things distracting him. It's a riddle. You have to mix Reddit and YouTube to see what's actually been distracting him. Turns out it was Redtube.
Ireceiveeverything ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:53:01 on May 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh wow. Downloading this now.
Brinxy13 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:38:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt like it because it makes me feel like I need an app, to not use apps. Which means I have poor self control and makes me feel terrible that Iโm addicted to my phone. So I just donโt look at my phone.
Degio92 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:35:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use it too and find it extremely useful!
laser41 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:42:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think this is because you associate those trees with the time you spend growing them for example I grew this tree playing outside.
niks_15 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:49:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy shit thank you
twistedlimb ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:59:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never heard of this but I turn off all notifications on my phone. It is harder to get distracted if you donโt have a distraction machine distracting you with beeps and buzzes constantly.
Error404Android ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:14:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just love how someone can have enough guilt over killing a virtual tree that it makes them change
maxthechuck ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 15:20:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It works tho
86overMe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:57:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also...plant a real tree the feeling is great!
_Little__Wing_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:03:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy shit. Thank you
phasexero ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:09:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I'm going to go plant a tree now and get back to this when I'm not procrastinating
Amosname ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:10:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow cool!
JoyBoy39 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:12:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gonna try that
pigeonkiller36 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:21:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
F for Reddit
kevin_hall ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:27:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Solution: buy a second smart phone to run your tree app. Then you can continue tweeting while watching your trees grow. ;-)
maxthechuck ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:58:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds more like a problem than a solution
kevin_hall ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:11:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's why I put the winking smiley on there. It was a joke.
remosquito ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:37:36 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eventually you put the app onto your second phone as well. Could always buy a 3rd...
TheManWithSomeGoals ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:50:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you able to still play music/playlists in the background while your in this app.
Seriously thinking about downloading this for using on my commute to work (Iโm vvvvv bad about distracted driving) but still want the ability to listen to my own music.
maxthechuck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:57:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you pay $2 for premium, you can whitelist certain apps (aka allow the usage of these apps without killing your tree)
GoneAtSea ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:12:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does it exist for PC (windows 10) or just android/ios ?
justessforall1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:36:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow. Thank you for this. Iโve been struggling lately and downloaded it this morning and I was able to focus WAY better. You have changed my life!
TaylorKun ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:48:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for posting!!! I downloaded it- open invitation: anyone want to connect so we can see the group forest(s)?
bearstopher ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:47:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You should try Sleep Town. Same concept (I think it's even made by the same people) but for your sleep schedule. Has done wonders for me and I don't even know why I care about my town but it works.
Somuchpain01234 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:56:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would just go on the PC or ps instead lol
maxthechuck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:02:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm less prone to slacking off using my PC so it's not much a problem for me, maybe there's an online version?
Somuchpain01234 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:04:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mostly play games when iam on my PC lol
dazedan_confused ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:53:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am Groot?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:26:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I be making firewood.
maxthechuck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:18:58 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Das not the right attitude
ForEden ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:52:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is there something like this for desktop browsers? I work on a computer and distraction is always immanent.
nightzephyr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:36:49 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's also available as a chrome extension. Probably won't save you if you're determined enough to use another browser, but hopefully will at least make you think twice. Alternatively, if on a Mac, Selfcontrol is the king of distraction prevention. You add sites to a blacklist and set a timer. Once you click go, there is no going to those sites. Not on another browser, not if you close the app, not if you reboot... you're done.
JourneyAfoot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:04:27 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alternatively, I'm tempted to get it so I can have the satisfaction of being a Capitan Planet villain without the guilt.
coolwindow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:15:50 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you so much
_ellavated ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:09:29 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anyone else having trouble finding the app? I want it but nothing with that name shows up in the apple store. Help please?
Ricks_Liver ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:24 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What is this app called?
maxthechuck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:08:54 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's called Forest
TintlingMitA ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:27:12 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what is the name of this app? sounds very interesting
maxthechuck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:08:36 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's called Forest
TintlingMitA ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:18:19 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
thanks
astrocanyounaut ยท 12736 points ยท Posted at 01:45:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad always told me โAsk anyway, the worst they can say is noโ when buying something or when I needed something from another person. Seemed stupid to ask if I was sure they would say no but I was also a socially anxious kid. Turns out that advice has helped me with school, with raises, with people in general, with plans with new friends...
Pikiinuu ยท 7556 points ยท Posted at 03:47:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another thing: "A stupid question is better than a stupid mistake"
Drewbixtx ยท 1002 points ยท Posted at 06:45:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish more folks in college knew this. The whole room doesnโt understand something but everyone thinks they will look stupid if they ask a question. Smart people are smart because they sought answers they didnโt know.
GalerionTheAnnoyed ยท 76 points ยท Posted at 08:21:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem is there are equally popular posts promoting (in some way) the "better to be silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt" saying or something like that. So that doesnt help either.
Personally I'm asking a lot more because it always feels sucky when you don't ask: you'll never know what could have happened. While asking tends to resolve the choice for me so I'll never go wondering "shit if I had asked something maybe something else would be different"
teh_fizz ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 11:20:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most people donโt understand that โbetter be silentโ quote is more about not mouthing off thinking youโre intelligent or saying something for the sake of saying something.
dudekhed_broman ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 09:24:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've always thought of that "remove all doubt" quote in the context of the person making a dumb assertion. I'm not sure I have specific cause on that, just my interpretation.
Photon-from-The-Sun ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 11:18:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here. Asking for clarification isn't dumb because it shows you are willing to learn. Stating something stupid with full gusto though, that is dumb.
4qsa ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 16:12:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Better ask a question and sound stupid for a little bit than stay silent and be stupid all your life.
Or
Better stay silent and google that shit when you get home
Drewbixtx ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 08:24:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting. I never thought of that reasoning behind folks not asking questions.
My opinion? I donโt give a flying rat flatulence what anyone else thinks about me, I have enough friends, anyone who doesnโt like me is missing out. Iโd rather ask a dumb question and remove the judgmental pricks from my buddy list, than go on not knowing the answer to my question.
Asking questions is why I graduated with a 3.89.
thetasigma_1355 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 12:46:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not necessarily disagreeing, but realize there are plenty of situations in life where it does matter what people think of you. If your boss thinks you're an idiot, it matters. If your coworkers think you are an idiot, it matters.
That being said, smart people tend to ask smart questions. If you got a 3.89 it's pretty doubtful you did it by asking stupid questions. You likely asked the questions everyone else was thinking instead of the questions everybody else already knew the answer to and didn't need to ask.
carso150 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:43:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
smart people ask questions about the things they dont know, they dont ask neither stupid nor smart questions, they just ask
if you dont know something you ask, maybe it will initially make you look like an idiot but at least you learned something new
also whats a stupid question and what is not a stupid question tends to vary, sometimes certain knowledge that looks like common to you can be completly alien to someone else, so dont be afraind to ask
thetasigma_1355 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:57:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, but smart people know a lot more than dumb people.
If everybody in your class already knows the answer to your question, it means you are the one who isn't understanding what you are reading or what the teacher has explained. Maybe you aren't a complete idiot because you know you don't understand, but it certainly doesn't qualify you as smart.
carso150 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:19:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
the only reason smart people knows more is because they ask more questions that everybody else, or what, you believe that people is born with pre packed information or something
everyone has to start asking from somewhere, thats how knowledge works, it acumulates through the years and countless questions asked, everyone can know a lot, they just need to ask a lot of questions
also there is a thing called diferent intelligences, everyone is smart in a given field, is just that that field is not always academics, einstein for example wasnt the best in mathematics, but he asked for help when he needed to ask for help and payed attention, he also had a lot of free time to think, thats how he revolutionized physics
"if you judge a fish for its ability to climb trees he will grow his whole life believing that he is an idiot"
some people are really bad at mathematics but are excelent remembering dates and places, some people have the capability to easily remember a lot of information, others are good at numbers, some have a lot of muscle memory, depending on where you excel you can be a genious in that field
so yes, people can be smart, just in diferent ways, school is not always a good metric to know that
astraladventures ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:44:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really, isn't that a myth that has been laid to rest?
thetasigma_1355 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:23:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Of course not. But smart people often don't need to ask questions because when they do the homework and listen to the instructor, it all makes sense to them. They don't need to ask questions, because they already know the answers.
Note: I am talking about very specific instances whereas you seem to be trying to apply it to everything in the world. I'm talking about situations such as where you are in a university class. Or even in the real world, when you're talking to peers about your job related tasks. There are stupid questions, because those questions reveal you don't know something that you should know because it's your job to know it. Imagine if a doctor asked you how to perform CPR or what Opiates were.
shevrolet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:14:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like your hypothetical doctor should have asked someone that question a lot earlier. If you don't know something, and you don't ask, you still don't know. You gain nothing by not asking. You become smarter by asking.
insanelyirrelevant ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:44:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, asking dumb questions may make people think you look like an idiot.
Never learning the answers to dumb questions is what actually makes you an idiot.
JadetheJewel ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:16:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow. "Anyone who doesn't like me is missing out." I'm tempted to think you're cocky, but on the other hand I admire people like you when they're honest and upfront about their feelings and opinions with other people.
Drewbixtx ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 19:56:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to be pretty cocky, now Iโm a music minister. It doesnโt change the fact that I know people tend to enjoy being around me, I just try not to rub it in peopleโs faces like I used to. Thank you.
ilovebaconmore ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:39:39 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
youve obviously gotten better at it
Drewbixtx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:35:27 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you
ilovebaconmore ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:39:09 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yes- thanks for the great first impression :P
morbid_platon ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 09:07:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's nothing wrong with asking, but usually it's easier and less disturbing if you at least try to find out on your own first. Depends on the size of the class of course, but I won't bore the other 600 students in my lecture with my questions and I don't like it when others do. Smaller, specialized classes, that's another story.
Whystare ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:53:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought people sought after answer because they were smart!
dalernelson ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:56:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are no stupid questions...just stupid people asking them.
IKnowGuacIsExtraLady ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:03:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This perfectly summarizes how I feel about it. Like there is always that annoying kid who asks 10 questions every lecture because they don't understand while everyone else is just groaning because they all got it the first time.
Asking questions isn't a bad thing but asking your professor or your boss should be the last thing you do. You should first try and figure it out, then you should ask a classmate/coworker, then if you both still don't get it escalate it. I used to be a TA and the kids I absolutely hated were the ones who asked for help on every single thing we did without ever trying for more than 15 seconds. You learn more from failure than from success.
Gr1pp717 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:35:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm on the other side of the fence here. To me, you should try to figure it out on your own first, and only ask once you've failed.
Unless it's a topic of personal opinion, there is some underlying logic to be found, and forcing yourself to understand that logic makes you understand the material better. At the same time, asking questions wastes the time of those who already caught onto the logic, and makes those who haven't complacent in their understanding.
Tabnet ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:10:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So true, I knew a kid in college who would always ask questions and stay after to talk to the professor. Guess what, he's the only one in my class that graduated with a 4.0 (College of Engineering).
PianoMastR64 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:26:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish more people knew that thing you said about smart people. It seems like too many people think being smart is knowing a lot of stuff. Really, being smart is valuing understanding more and learning a lot of new things just comes with that.
Phoenixmaster1571 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:07:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or just reading in general. even if it's fiction or very unrelated to your life. Reading makes you smarter, and its free and enjoyable.
Drewbixtx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:47:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh yeah, especially with todayโs entertainment and accessibility. I love to read but I find myself having to make myself sit down to read a book. Once I do, Iโm in it until Iโm through the whole book but itโs like trying to start flossing when Iโve just found a new show, or a new season of something is out.
magic7ball ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:46:58 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to teach at a college and I always told my students that there is no such thing as a stupid question. Chances are, if you are wondering about it, someone else in the room is too. Also, questions help me to see what the class struggles with, or reminds me of something else I need to mention. Stupid questions are important!
akod1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:39:53 on May 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No stupid questions, just stupid people
DarkJarris ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 09:41:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do tech support for old people, theyve never known this stuff and they ask me many questions, and they nearly all start with "this is a silly question but.."
I follow up with "the only silly question is the question not asked"
blindgorgon ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:44:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That plays a lot better than โthere are no stupid questions, only stupid people who ask questions.โ
DarkJarris ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:41:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yeah my version tries to encourage questions rather than discourage them.
no one is born with the knowledge to do everything, and if you dont know, then ask.
CatTheParrot ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 10:56:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read somewhere that if you're ever worried you're about to ask a stupid question, remember that NASA scientists once asked a female astronaut if 100 Tampax would be enough for a 7 day trip to space.
UnsignedRealityCheck ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 08:24:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Can I touch your boobs?"
aurapup ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:09:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"No, but thank you for asking me instead of getting all grabby."
Pikiinuu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:12:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's simultaneously a stupid question and stupid mistake lol
Somebodys ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:00:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would rather ask and sound dumb than get fired for being dumb.
DethFace ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:11:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"The only stupid question is the one not asked"- Thanks Dad
Dettak ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:01:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also I heard there are no stupid questions, only stupid answers
StreetCountdown ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:22:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was in cadets I remember the room we waited in before flying had that on a poster with a picture of a flaming wreck.
aerisycloud ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:20:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This has always been so difficult for me! How do you deal with the social anxious feeling to ask anyway?
MikeyHatesLife ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:18:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get a lot of twenty-somethings on their first real job at my work, and I always tell them to ask any questions they canโt figure out, because in my field (animal care) I would rather someone feel stupid for thirty seconds than possibly risk injuring an animal or some related mistake.
10RndsDown ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:48:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You'll be surprised how much shit this has gotten me in at work. They see me as a dumbass.
theedjman ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:28:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love this. I ask a lot of โstupid questionsโ but thatโs because the times that I havenโt, the resulting error is far worse than whatever Iโll get from asking and maybe looking a little dumb.
xylvera ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:18:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's an expression I like that goes something like: Ask a stupid question and be an idiot for a moment, don't ask the stupid question and you'll be an idiot forever. Or something like that. I like it, and I ask stupid questions all the time.
elaerna ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:26:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is like 90% of one of my jobs. I work with doctors who make you feel stupid if you ask a stupid question but also it directly negatively affects the doctor and patient if you guess wrong. Sometimes it takes new hires a long time to realize the docs will like you even less if you never ask your stupid question.
Klime22 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:09:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Almost every time I tell myself this, and ask the stupid question, Iโm told โyou should know thatโ, โI shouldnโt have to tell you thatโ, or some variation of โitโs dumb to ask thatโ. :(
McMyn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:37:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be sure to hear those โanswersโ for what they really mean in >90% of cases: โI wish you hadnโt asked because I donโt have a good enough answerโ.
Edit: the other 10% itโs โ... because I donโt have time/energy to get into the answer right nowโ.
Digable_knowledge ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:45:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"A closed mouth never gets fed"
Pikiinuu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:17:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This, I like this. If there is a problem and I can fix it, you better tell me about it or I would be none the wiser and the problem will still exist.
Digable_knowledge ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:24:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So true. You can tell so much about a person if they ask questions. Saves time, money, and sanity.
TheKev100 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:06:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So true
Hughesy1997 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:24:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My uncle always said โthereโs no such thing as a stupid question only stupid answersโ ๐ he was right though
bloohens ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:21:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I kind of disagree with this, but I understand the sentiment. Personally, the only way I can make sure that I donโt fuck up is if I make a really stupid mistake and feel utterly embarrassed for it. That embarrassment makes sure I NEVER make that mistake again.
franzee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:11:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great thing to say when someone say "That's a stupid question"!
fritosqwert ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:25:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is no such thing as a stupid question.
Kasp914y ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:36:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Si
HawkEyesVI ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:51:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs better to ask something stupid but giving evidence that you want to know things than never asking anything but still remain ignorant
s00perguy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:47:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like this one. As much as it drives me bonkers when my wife asks basic stuff, I'll always answer.
FutureDwight76 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:35:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fucking thank you, my parents and other people around me always berate me for asking so many questions when I do tasks, I do it though because I would much rather ask the 10 second question rather than fuck up on something small then have to do damage control
Crystal_Snow_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:58:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reminds me of a proverb I heard somewhere: "He who asks his question is a fool for a moment; he who remains silent is a fool forever."
DudeCome0n ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:23:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is true until Karen asks the same stupid question for the 10th time. I am all for stupid questions until that person has been educated and should know the answer. At that point if you have to keep asking then you aren't making an effort to know and your wasting everyone else's time.
DarkNFullOfSpoilers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:27:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hahaha! I'm laughing because I worked at a horrible company that constantly punished me for asking "stupid questions." They were always making stupid mistakes because they were afraid of asking questions.
Lextauph12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:35:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is gold. The amount of times i stress at work... "When in doubt, ask me." Its so much easier guiding someone than coming into a clusterfuck, trying to understand what happened, and then fix it.
Rellling ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:11:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Better to ask a stupid question and look stupid for 10 seconds than to wonder and be stupid forever.
0rangeJEWlious ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:58:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You must have forgotten that it's 2019
Pikiinuu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:11:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can you elaborate on that? What I meant is that it's better to make sure that what you're doing is correct rather than winging it and fucking it up so you have to clean up the mess. I feel that it applies to all time periods.
0rangeJEWlious ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:28:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know what you meant and i agree with it. It was just a joke about all the people constantly on pc watch, saying words equals violence even when they're taken out of context
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:08:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. When I start a job and am in training, I straight up tell whoever I'm working with that I may ask "stupid" questions because in the past when I assumed something, sometimes it was wrong. Even if it seemed obvious.
I'd rather ask a stupid question than fuck up.
ppffrr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:40:42 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Better looking stupid then being stupid
Dragonsheepling ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 20:41:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah until that Stupid Question is just Rational Thought you ask away at another less Rational thought made by an Empath. Resulting in Physical Conflict because Empaths & Political Correctness ... guys ... are Irrational. And i talk from experience.
Pikiinuu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:16:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What the fuck does that even mean? I think you took me in the wrong context.
If I were to elaborate, "It's better to ask questions that may seem obvious to make sure that you are doing something correctly rather than winging it and fucking up majorly" Like the captain of that one German submarine in WWII that fucked the entire thing over because he flushed the toilet wrong.
danperson1 ยท 103 points ยท Posted at 05:34:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another version of this:
"The answer is always No if you don't ask"
Abell370 ยท 65 points ยท Posted at 07:46:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In Dutch we have the saying: "A no is what you have, a yes is what you can get." that means something similar.
buckus69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:12:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like that way of phrasing.
darkjanggo ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 06:35:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or "You miss every shot you don't take."
-Donald Trump, The Art of the Deal
StudyTheHidden ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 06:45:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty sure Donald Trump says โyou canโt grab them by the pussy if donโt tryโ but ok..oh wait..
Edit: words
HunterTV ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 07:38:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Art of the Feel
tobaknowsss ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:08:15 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good to hear Donald Trump has repurposed Wayne Gretzky's quote!
darkjanggo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:25:13 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
-Donald Trump, The Art of the Deal
Gr1pp717 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:36:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless do first and ask forgiveness later.
ttv_overrideNA ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:29:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've found that the better you are at telling the difference between when to apply these two sayings, the further your will get in life.
tossingmyracoons ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 07:46:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For real. I was a super scared, super anxious little kid who couldnโt do anything. I couldnโt even order my own meal at restaurants, I couldnโt go up to a counter and pay for my own meal. Then one day I was like โok whatโs the worst that can happen, theyโre not gonna cut my head off.โ And it was like a breakthrough moment. I am still super scared and anxious but I get a lot of comments on how confident I am, because I push through it. Because I know the result will never be terrible.
And itโs fun to just go for something and see what the result will be. Thatโs how I ended up with a wonderful boyfriend.
Slimydoge ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 05:34:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I asked for a raise at my job the other day (thinking I would heed this amazing advice) and I got laid off... Iโm at a much better job now though!
Ndvorsky ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 09:35:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apparently, they CAN do something worse than say no.
NewSuperKirby ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 06:16:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At least it ended positively
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 12:16:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Slimydoge ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:28:07 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He looked at his budget apparently and decided there wasnโt enough to keep paying me :/
HollyDunmer ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:30:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If they're in an at-will state you can get fired for no reason.
bestoboy ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 07:00:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Semi unethical lpt: just ask people to do stuff for you. You'll be surprised how much simple shit people are willing to do for you if you just tell them to
[deleted] ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 08:40:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I canโt remember the comedian, but I heard a hilarious joke based on this once.
โGo ask her out man, the worst thing she can say is no.โ
Goes to ask her out....
โDo you wanna go out?โ
โGet away from me you fucking creep!โ
RevolsinX ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 07:45:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad wants me to ask questions and simultaneously will insult me for not knowing the answer to many of them.
Needless to say I was a socially wrecked person for a very long time.
name225 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:06:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for this dude. This will definitely help me. Here is a fake gold. ๐ ๐
FuckingSeaWarrior ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:15:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And with buying things, particularly used things. Just ask, not in a rude way, but asking, "Is this the best we can do on this price?" works more often than not. It's saved me money a few times.
Keinichn ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 15:49:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. I got $1500 knocked off the price of a car just by asking that same question.
tropicalunicorn ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:36:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you donโt ask you donโt get
okaymoose ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:59:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My parents call this the "Chad rule" after their old friend Chad who used to always say "if you don't ask, you won't get".
NewSuperKirby ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:15:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I swear to you, if I ever have gold to give, you're getting the first one
redditiswhatimon ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:04:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always give this advice! Except I phrase it โHey, the answer is always no until you ask.โ
It doesnโt hurt to ask, the worst they can say is no, but more often than not they say yes and you would have never known.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:51:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad says something similar:"If you ask, you might not get what you want. But, if you don't ask, you're guaranteed not to get it." I find that encouraging.
eddyathome ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:55:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you ask for something, the answer might be no. If you don't ask for something, the answer is already no.
Tier161 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:52:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is partially a very shitty advice. Don't lowball. It's just disrespectful.
noah123103 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:58:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm going into a new job today after many months of searching for one, I got training today and even though I know the tech I havenโt touched it in a while so Iโm afraid of sounding like an idiot, gonna try to remember this
oneofmetwo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:36:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes when you ask anyway you get into really big trouble you didn't expect haha.
Keinichn ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:53:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yea. There's many cases where they can do a lot worse than say no.
prwn1090 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:43:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tell this to my husband almost every day because he'd never heard it and I'm just waiting for him to finally find the courage to try it
voetbalfiets ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:11:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In Dutch we say: "nee heb je, ja kun je krijgen" which loosely translates to: "a no is what you got, a yes is what you can get"
alphahydra ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:36:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
If it's a big ask, the worst that can happen is they say "yes" out of politeness, or because they can't think of an excuse fast enough. They're annoyed you asked, do the thing while feeling bitter about it, and hold it against you thereafter.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:55:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not really your problem though is it?
"You should have said no then. Noted though I won't ask you in the future."
winniebluestoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:32:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sounds like they need to work on their assertiveness then. You arent a mind reader
chuc999 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:51:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have always said "it never hurts to ask".
frillytotes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:02:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It can hurt to ask if it creates the impression you are demanding or lazy.
black02ep3 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 13:13:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not asking can create the impression that youโre weak or doesnโt have your own thoughts.
frillytotes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:26:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Surely you mean asking can create that impression?
yanikins ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:14:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I scored a used macbook pro retina two weeks ago for a third off asking price because of just this. Still stoked.
Ropett ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:25:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best dating advice too
My mom always said to just ask pretty girls out, they're not all taken mostly because a lot of people are afraid to ask
mchammerofthegods ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:02:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandma has told me my entire life โYou never get anything you donโt ask for.โ And itโs great advice.
EyesForStriking4 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:25:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad always says this, too! I remember being petrified to ask for my first raise. High school cashier job, and in the job description it mentioned that after a year of working you would get a raise. Thanks to my dad, I went in (still nervous, mind you) and asked, because "The worst they can say is no". The woman was like, "Wow, you've been here for a year already? OK, I will check into this and correct it". WOW! Thanks Dad! (And nice boss lady!).
MJIndian ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:55:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But what if it slightly changes their view on you for even asking such a question? That's been my fear in the past
astrocanyounaut ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:17:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That says more about them, and give you insight into their character for the future
double-you ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:50:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is good advice but it is also what runs /r/choosingbeggars.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 13:51:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Choosing beggars is more entitled people who can't take no for an answer. There's a difference between feeling entitled to something and asking for something.
Comms ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:05:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's the Wayne Gretzky principle.
Timmerman73 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:44:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Here in the Netherlands we have proverb that goes like this "Niet geschoten is altijd mis" it means if you don't shoot your always going to miss. (translated literally) it's saying that you always need to try since if you don't try you know you will not get what you want.
chilly_anus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:55:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's my go to advice. I always tell people, just ask, asking questions is free, the worst you could get is a no, if you don't ask, you'll get a no anyway. So if in doubt, ask!
Distefanor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:31:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh yeah my wife just got an upgrade to first class from Chicago to London today, bc she asked!!
ali_sez_so ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:32:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saved a lot pf money doing that
LoveThatChin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:43:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do the same however for me it is: the answer is no unless you ask.
unihorngurl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:42:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I say this to myself so much ,it helps when youโre an anxious person i think.
ppqia ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:43:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gonna be my wedding vows โme love you long timeโ
ravnefjaes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:03:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here, I was often scared to ask for things I wanted. But I started to think "the worst that can happen is they say no which will get me the same as if I didn't ask at all" so you can only gain or the same place so why not ask?
redditer_888 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:30:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are no stupid questions, only stupid answers
katietheplantlady ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:30:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad similarly said "You're already at 'no' before you ask...you might as well".
FrontDeskGuy95 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:36:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works well with airlines. Always dress decently or nicely if you can and ask for an upgrade politely. If they have it available and you're nice to them, chances are they'll give you an upgraded seat.
Source: have been on an aeroplane
blinkdmb ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:48:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I often ask the clerks if they have any coupons laying around back there when I make a major purchase. You would be surprised how often it works.
Odd_so_Star_so_Odd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:05:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Indeed: "There's no stupid questions only stupid answers"
rex_the_ex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:20:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As my mother always told me... "Yes is an answer and No is answer"
just_hating ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:56:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife has a hard time talking to people in public. I don't. She'll walk out to the street to have a smoke when we are out. I'll ask the bartender if there is a preferred place to smoke and they'll tell me where the place is that has Ash trays and chairs.
XiaoMin4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:18:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Corrolary rule: if you don't ask the answer is already no, so you've got nothing to lose
morrowgirl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:43:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My Mom always said this too!
EggyBr3ad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:55:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is actually known as the Benjamin Franklin technique (coined by.....Benjamin Franklin) as a way of befriending your enemies.
If Franklin ever had to build some kind of relationship with one of his enemies, he would simply ask a small favour of them. For whatever reason people warm to others they don't like if they do a small favour for them at their request, and Franklin apparently made many friends of for enemies this way.
scw55 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:14:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ask anyway has helped with friendship with a mate I was very fond of. We hung out more doing unexpected things, which we wouldn't have done as much if I hadn't being forward with inclusion.
MustachioNuts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:37:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Apparently we are siblings....
Edit: To correct my gender-bias. Thank you u/astrocanyounaut.
astrocanyounaut ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:10:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or sisters
MustachioNuts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:43:30 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for kindly pointing out and correcting my sub-conscious gender-bias. Your correction will serve as a reminder of a small way I can ever-so-slightly better citizen of this planet.
tvsjdobcej ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:53:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Closed mouths donโt get fed
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:55:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you don't ask, the answer is no.
If you ask, you've only improved your odds!
buhzain ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:44:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โMake someone say no instead of doing it yourselfโ
dreamingdarling ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:58:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad used to tell me the same thing!! I use this in everyday life and also tell my friends/boyfriend, which seems to help them be a little less fearful of asking people for things
SonicSubculture ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:01:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually for some questions, the worst they could say is "You're under arrest!"
So always ask if they're a cop first...
mmat7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:07:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah except when the though of hearing a "no" is so terrifying to you that you can't bring yourself to ask anything.
Propanedog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:21:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or you just get blue double checked.
slycooper459 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:25:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandfather always used to say this, and it's helped me so much throughout my life. You might as well ask, it can lead to surprising things.
snopuppy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:34:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You have no clue how cocky and mostly wrong about anything I was until I humbled myself a little and asked questions. I would go around spouting my opinion as fact and I had nothing to back it up. Once I got schooled hard in front of a lot of people in my late teens I decided to actually research, which led to asking questions. I now never hold a belief unless I have asked enough people how they feel about it or have done enough research to actually hold an opinion. Some people get annoyed but anyone who gives a damn loves it, it shows maturaty and a willingness to learn and be wrong.
Goetre ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:35:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm.
My university put me on a graduate scheme for a month because I hadn't found a job. It's just a boost to your CV essentially.
1 week in asked my boss at the time would he ever consider me for a PhD candidate. Am now doing a Mphil and starting a PhD with him in November.
FoofieLeGoogoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:41:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Very few raises are handed out to people who don't ask for one. Always ask about pay increases whenever you have a performance review.
augur42 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:44:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only downside is when you're asking for free stuff from someone who's already been asked for free stuff by twenty other people that day. Then you're responsible for making their day just that little bit worse.
CarryingTheMeme ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:50:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Helped me get free cream cheese once
xisnotx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:54:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate when people ask me for things that put me in an uncomfortable position. I'm not saying this is bad advice...but I'd say you shouldn't just ask willy nilly for everything just because you can. Some people have a hard time saying no and it will get to a point where you'll come off as being a user, and you'll end up losing a relationship because it's easier to avoid you then to constantly say no to you ..
Bobby2Swagg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:00:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well also this could become a problem when it comes to asking for favors... people around you will generally say yes anyway and you might find yourself over relying on your friends. I guess this could be specific to where I am from (France and maybe a specific social group) where it seems the implicit rule is : always help when asked to but be careful not to ask too much or too frequently. That way everybody gets to be a good person easily.
know_limits ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:04:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used this to get some of the most important projects in my career - I just asked.
positivepeoplehater ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:10:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve gotten so many discounts and free things from asking. People are wonderfully kind and generous
Chinkie_Winkie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:13:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Hey, honey, do you mind terribly if I bring another woman into the relationship?"
Duckbilling ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:30:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"The answer is always NO.... until you ask"
mm2222 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:46:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You donโt ask you donโt get
BucksBrew ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:29:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In a previous job I asked for a $5000 raise since I had taken on a lot more responsibilities than what they originally hired me to do. They gave it to me without any negotiation. It never hurts to ask!
Hallucion ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:58:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The worst isn't that they say no... the worst that can happen is they hit you.
ricarleite1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:38:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you ask women out, the worst is no longer a "no", though.
somedk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:19:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, this is absolutely not true. You still have to read the situation. People can refuse to continue to engage with you because they are annoyed with your request.
This is the choosing beggars mantra
CantChooseUsernames ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:21:35 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Regret is more painful than rejection.
Incomplete-Sentenc ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:07:55 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Questions are never silly, answers may be."
KatieSykerd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:07:56 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
'Shy bairns get nowt'
who_likes_fridays ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:31:16 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom told me that when I was too afraid to ask the waitress if there were free refills
Dan4t ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:34:48 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well they could get annoyed or offended and retaliate to make your life harder in other ways.
My boss got annoyed by one coworker calling to much to ask questions, and came to the conclusion that he was too stupid for the job and eventually he was fired.
ireallylovegoats ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:06:22 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom always had something similar! Hers was โno wonโt knock you downโ and somehow that ripples through my life. Iโve been told on several occasions that a person applauds my straight forward attitude and the fact that I just ask for what I want or need.
I just think back to โwell...no wonโt knock my down so I might as well askโ
Brandwein ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:43:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Crappy advice. They can start ridiculing and harassing you for even asking, then spread around word to others.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:54:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Care less. Apologize less.
I'm assuming you're talking about girls?
"Yeah I thought she was interesting and cute so I asked her out. What of it?"
If you're not talking about girls the same rule still applies.
"Yeah I didn't know so I asked. Now I know. That's what questions are for."
Brandwein ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:37:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not just girls. Just normal people at work that spread word about you being dumb etc. Beeing snarky doesnt help against consequences. Not living "yolo" style, sorry. You first need to learn where its socially acceptable to ask questions.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:06:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We must be living completely different lives because that has never once happened to me.
It's also not snarky it's not letting people shame you for doing normal things. Like we're all adults here. I'm not going to stay ignorant just because someone isn't able to grow past their high school mentality.
Brandwein ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:33:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Didn't happen to me personally, but seen enough around me who were socially outcast, reprimanded or fired because they asked too many or the wrong questions. Social power games are real everywhere, going bright eyed with "we are all adults and can talk openly" is just naive imo.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:58:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No that's fair. I wouldn't ask certain questions of my boss.
I still think day to day though it's a lot better to ask than to remain ignorant.
Usually there aren't that many social consequences or they're nothing you can't smooth over but you're right that they should be considered before asking.
Ekscalliber ยท 7839 points ยท Posted at 23:52:12 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"There's what you need, there's what you want, and there's what you can't afford."
My Dad says this all the time, and I never though of it as useless--I just never used it. Now I have, and my money is far easier to manage.
EggsAndBeerKegs ยท 7043 points ยท Posted at 02:53:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can't buy it twice, you can't afford it - Jay Z
BananaNutJob ยท 1577 points ยท Posted at 05:34:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My philosophy playing RPG's as a kid.
Sayakai ยท 349 points ยท Posted at 09:11:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, that's "If I can't buy 20, it's too precious to ever use"
GamingNeil ยท 147 points ยท Posted at 09:58:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Better save those potions either way. Just in case.
ShadowReaperT ยท 63 points ยท Posted at 10:03:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And can't forget to not use your ultimate up, just in case you need it in a few minutes for a harder fight..
DM_R34_Stuff ยท 57 points ยท Posted at 10:30:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And then you finish the last fight and still didn't use your ultimate.
Dabnician ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 10:51:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then it wasn't a hard fight. ๐
DM_R34_Stuff ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 10:52:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or you are skilled enough to not need it
Randomn355 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 11:28:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Easy game easy life.
entropylaser ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:41:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I leveled all my FF3 characters to L99 back in the day and still ended up doing this...
svenson_26 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 16:12:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Right before the fight with the last boss and I'm at 30% health?
I should be good. Better not use any of my 200 potions just yet.
altiuscitiusfortius ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:13:41 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I end every game with 40000 potions in the bank, and Ive only ever used 1 (by accident), and I spend a solid 12 hours of play time over the playthrough running back and forth to the free healer in town.
Ulkreghz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:06:33 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a Guild in WoW just for all my ALTs so I could do just this with the guild bank system. They're probably still there five years on.
[deleted] ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 13:49:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sets a high bar for home ownership
Skithiryx ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 15:30:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโd take it as โif you canโt pay the mortgage payments twice a monthโ for home ownership. Which is a pretty good policy in general - The common advice is paying rent / mortgage shouldnโt be more than 30% of your income.
mcbeef89 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 16:14:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*cries in Londoner*
Sayakai ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 15:33:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a shame that in some cities that just straight-up doesn't exist.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:01:37 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's literally impossible for me. My rent is 70-75% of my income depending on electricity usage, and the place I'm renting is an illegal apartment that's nearly 40% below average market rate in my area.
Keinichn ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 15:54:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And is also unobtainable in many parts of the country if you want to live in a relatively safe area.
dufkm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:33:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Which country?
Ekudar ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 19:50:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Any.
BananaNutJob ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:30:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I more used it for stuff like expensive weapons and armor in games like Baldur's Gate.
shaggy_macdoogle ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 13:49:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In all seriousness, I feel like managing money in RPGs as a kid is the reason I never buy anything unless I can afford it. Learned from blowing all my gold on a cool looking weapon only to find out there was a better one later, but had no money left.
KrazyKeylime ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 14:42:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use the cool weapon to farm more easily for the next weapon. Always going to be another weapon.
BananaNutJob ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:04:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm awesome at managing money...though spending most of my adult life in poverty has been a pretty effective teacher...
Sayakai ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:08:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're the exception then. Many, many people who are used to living in poverty have awful money making skills once they do get more.
BananaNutJob ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:21:41 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, see I beat that by cleverly avoiding the part where I get more!
Sayakai ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 16:57:49 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, be clear about your skillset: You're awesome at getting by with little money. Don't confuse it with being awesome with money in general once you get more.
BabyProofToilets ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 14:13:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've made better financial decisions in pokemon than in real life
XG_SiNGH ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:51:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
HA!
So true!
O_O
G_man252 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 13:44:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
New thread ' What's a comment you thought looked immature and goofy until you realize you perfectly relate to it?'
Juta01 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 12:32:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always got mine in sets of 4. Wouldn't buy one item at a time.
RobboBanano ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 15:50:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A friend of mine would always have like 56 high potions but always refrain from using any of them for that same reason.
Ekscalliber ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:30:22 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I played DnD, my buddy Scott, a healer taking a vow of poverty, saw I was saving money for better stuff. Then he told me a piece of advice that never left me...
"I see you're saving your gold to get better weapons, armor and such. This is a great mindset that works well in the real world, where we have air conditioning and the number to 911, but here--we fight monsters, skeletons, douchebag warlocks...you name it--and if you don't spend all of your current paycheck, you might not live to see your next paycheck."
Spend that gold, fellow adventurers!
_Dreamer_Deceiver_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:58:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
cool sword... buy... shit can't afford potions.
ALLST6R ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:53:33 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I followed that logic when I played Runescape and traded at the GE, I wouldn't have made my hundeds of millions. I yolo'd a lot. Just saying.
run_bike_run ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 09:57:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Known in bike racing circles as "don't race what you can't replace".
Keinichn ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 15:55:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A similar saying exists in EVE Online.
burger_meanie ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:00:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt fly without a rebuy
Masterlumberjack ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 11:32:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A similar quote my dad always says: You can have anything you want but not everything you want.
XG_SiNGH ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:52:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sage advice.
Your father is wise.
O_O
Number5is_ALIVE ยท 77 points ยท Posted at 09:24:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs actually pretty fucking decent advice. Technically youโd only ever live at 50% of your means this way.
SenchaLeaf ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 11:11:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sadly, sometimes the first part ("what you need") could take more than 100%.
deweydecimaldog ยท 63 points ยท Posted at 10:23:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless you forgo all large purchases and buy bubblegum one pack at a time until you have less than $2 remaining.
Bridalhat ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 13:32:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A lot of things end up being way more expensive than you think. Imagine a vacation you take on the cheap: you have to add in Ubers or parking at the airport, checked bags, food eaten in transit (there is a point where you will pay just about anything for a sandwich). And that is just getting there.
SirNoodlehe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:26 on May 14, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's assuming you only make one purchase and that you have no access to money apart from your pay check.
You could spend half of your bank account balance every week and you'd probably be way above your income in spending.
rreighe2 ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 12:02:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can't afford a house twice you can't afford it.
Shit. I can't even afford it once
nerevisigoth ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 15:48:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You shouldn't buy a house if you can't afford double the mortgage payment. Triple, really.
Pantaleon26 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 12:09:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shit I can't afford a car then
Pope_Landlord ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 17:11:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is why I ride my bike home from work.
Gishgashgosh ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 11:38:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs just jay z saying he is twice as rich as he seems
pencilneckgeekster ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 09:37:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
that dude is so much more intelligent than I originally thought. check out his episode on Lettermanโs new Netflix show.
[deleted] ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 11:21:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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BizzyM ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 12:48:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You'd be amazed at how "successful" stupid people can become.
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 13:07:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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DAMunzy_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:31:42 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
MC Hammer....
TON-OF-CLAY0429 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 13:21:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ehh the internet makes it pretty easy just look at 6ix 9ne
Bridalhat ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 13:34:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have found this: usually stupid doesnโt stay successful. Lindsey Lohan is talented but stupid whereas Kim Kardashian is not particularly talented but is quite astute.
pencilneckgeekster ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:09:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โso much more intelligentโ
hatsnatcher23 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:26:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Idk 50 cent made it pretty far
cookingwithmayo ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 14:17:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Agree. People always call Trump an idiot. While I agree hes has many negative attributes you dont become a billionaire being stupid. Millionaire maybe, billionaire no.
SatoruFujinuma ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 15:12:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a lot easier when you start out already being a millionaire.
cookingwithmayo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:21:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Easier, yes. Easy, no.
BiglyComics ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 16:06:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How many millionaires are there vs how many billionaires?
Itโs hard.
SatoruFujinuma ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:12:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How many people start out their life with 10 million dollars?
BiglyComics ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 16:29:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Since you avoided the question Iโm going to answer it: there are 20โ000โ000 millionaires and only around 2โ000 billionaires.
If you think the billionaire is an idiot, you are the idiot.
silvermember ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:25 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
His net work is unknown and his name is set to be worth 4 billions by him. So I doubt it.
but_why7767 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:31:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And yet, his net worth would be higher if he'd just taken the millions he started with and invested in an index fund such as the S$P 500.
cookingwithmayo ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 20:57:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Genius, you should write a book. Better yet he should have invested in apple from day one and he'd even have more money. Or since were talking about knowing the future he should have won the lottery a couple times. Please tell me where to invest my net worth so I too can become rich.
borkborkyupyup ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:05:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shit I just spent all my money.
CMSteffen ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:28:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Never fly without rebuy." -- A common saying among space-sim enthusiasts, relating to games like Elite: Dangerous and Eve Online.
If you can't afford to replace it, you can't afford to fly it.
sparklybeast ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 09:27:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I couldnโt afford a second house - doesnโt mean I canโt afford the first one. Surely this only works for relatively small purchases?
EggsAndBeerKegs ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 11:11:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah. It's not a one-size-fits-all policy, but think about all the people out there that buy jet skis on credit and then default. Its catered more towards reckless spenders
tastytastytastes ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 09:34:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No you're rent/mortgage should only be 1/3 of your total income. This always works - for smaller purchases it's if you can't buy 6, then don't buy it.
sparklybeast ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 10:08:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mortgage is approximately a quarter of my total income. But with bills, household expenses and debt payments, thereโs no way in hell I could afford to spend half of my take home pay on mortgage.
BizzyM ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 12:52:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The way I approached it was if we (wife and I) can afford it with one income and no frivolous bills.
We also lucked out and bought a house that cost $212k to build at the peak of the housing bubble for only $98k at its lowest point in the recession.
GrandmaPoses ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:26:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mortgage is 1/3 of my total income but I checked using Jay Z's logic and that makes it 2/6, so I'm all good.
Jonatc87 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 09:42:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's actually an eve online saying 10 years or more ago.
"Don't fly what you can't afford to lose (replace)"
Because in Eve Online, it was sorta permadeath where something destroyed was lost forever. So you'd have to buy (player manufactured) a brand new one.
AlterEgoCat ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:51:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well I guess I won't be needing this anymore burns down house
kattbug989 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:38:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This has just solidified an idea Iโve been having in my head for a long time and Iโm starting literally right now.
Every time I go out for fast food, Iโm going to match the total in my savings account. (I just spent $12 at Taco Bell, so $12 is going into savings).
If I canโt afford to do that, I canโt afford eating out.
And maybe Iโll be less fucking fat ๐คค
Raiquo ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:01:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This sounds like half-way good advice. Iโd extend that with; if itโs an impulse purchase that you couldnโt buy twice, you canโt afford it. Still very generalized but a bit better.
ZannX ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:41:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great now we have to be able to buy two houses?
PM_me_Aardvarks_too ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 14:33:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Insurance corollary.
Insure the shit you canโt afford to lose.
Takka-Tukka-Ultra ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:30:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does this also apply to student loans?
cynicalandsarcastic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:00:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I could've afforded two of my house, I would've just bought a bigger house.
Bultokki ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:31:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if it's chemo
orangealoha ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:31:15 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My life has been changed by this comment
19cocaine95 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:32:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dumb ass will buy it twice
Crunch_Captain465 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:48:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been living by this rule for years now and for the life of me could not remember who said it. Thanks.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:38:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate instaghandi quotes, but a Jay Z qoute in the Reddit comments? Screenshot and save
The_Flying_Nacho ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:44:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That works until you want to buy a house or car.
RelativeStranger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:43:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This does not work.
I can't but my house twice but I can afford the mortgage.
After the mortgage I can't buy my car twice but i can buy it after saving up.
I can buy that cup of coffee twice but buying it every day is what causes the issues
WoddleWang ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:43:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
It works as a general rule. If you have ยฃ500 then think twice about spending ยฃ300 on a new graphics card.
It doesn't have to apply to every single purchase you make to be useful.
RelativeStranger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:51:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What? That rule says if you have 500 quid you should buy a 250 graphics card
WoddleWang ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:57:47 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True, though it would be literally exactly twice so cutting it a bit close in that case. Changed it to ยฃ300 card anyway.
mike_d85 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:49:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He's bought a Jaguar, hasn't he?
kevin_hall ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:24:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exception being a house. There are some things that are worth getting a loan for.
That being said, you still need to be careful about what house you buy. Perhaps for houses it should be "if you can't afford a loan for a house twice as expensive as the one you're buying, you can't really afford it."
acornstu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:28:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn. Thats solid advice.
Alamander81 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:39:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is REALLY good advise
fool_spells ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:05:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if Jay Z is the reason I could finally stop being broke all the damn time. That would be a weird timeline.
Sultan_of_Satire ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:27:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My with my real estate agent.. "well sir this house is well above my price range."
biglawson ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:50:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not everyone can buy 2 houses Jay.
lactatingskol ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:35:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck Jay-Z! - Nas
Vanes-Of-Fire ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:49:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh no, I was just thinking of buying a house....!
MC2402 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:55:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn guess I'm never getting a house.
elaerna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:35:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jay Z hitting Beyonce making money.
Yelonade ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:20:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So I can't castrate my dog?
notyetcomitteds2 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 11:16:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You'd just purchase 2 castrations up front. If the first one is sucessful, you can save the second or just use it on a random dog.
WhatsUpDoc44 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:22:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't give that credit to him. That's been said for years before. Plus you don't have to purchase it you stole it
SandbagsSteve ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:57:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When the heck did Jay Z say that?
ubspirit ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 13:26:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well that's just stupid advice
paladin400 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 13:46:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So I need to be able to buy 2 houses if I just want one? The fuck?
WoddleWang ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:41:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Obvious exception, smartass. It's a general rule, it doesn't have to apply to every single scenario.
Des0lus ยท -9 points ยท Posted at 09:54:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bullshit.
Think about houses. Better to go in debt and repay it over the years than to pay for nothing for years.
apleima2 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 11:49:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In that instance i think it's more you can afford to pay the mortgage payments twice a month, then you're ok.
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 10:05:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If your mortgage is only like 1/3 of your income, you could technically buy two so the advice still stands
Artanis_neravar ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 12:47:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That depends. Does "can't buy it twice" assume no other purchases? Like based soley on my take home pay, I can afford to pay my rent twice. But if we factor in all the other things I need to put money towards (student loans, groceries, car payment, insurance, gas, electricity) I couldn't affor to pay all of those twice
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:49:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well actually I think in the case of rent or a mortgage, you should strive to keep that payment low enough that you could double the payment and still meet all your other needs. In that scenario you would be able to quickly pay off your mortgage, or save/invest more money if youโre renting.
PeterVanCyka ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 12:54:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's easy to say when you're freakin rich.
[deleted] ยท -12 points ยท Posted at 11:20:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
While heโs rapping about buying artwork and such. Proper nobhead!
BoobAssistant ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 11:45:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He could afford all of that more than twice.
[deleted] ยท -9 points ยท Posted at 11:49:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How nice of him to remind us
WoddleWang ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:46:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're not a blunt cunt, just stupid.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:46:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
๐๐ป
EggsAndBeerKegs ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:09:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The price of artwork usually always goes up, so it's more of an investment, which I don't think applies to that theory
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:32:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why does it go up? Why do so many mafioso and dodgy cunts buy it?
Not saying Jay Z is dodgy, but itโs a shit brag
dejaime ยท 60 points ยท Posted at 02:17:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like your dad. In the not romantic way, just in the financial philosophy way.
MedjoolStudent ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 04:30:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm glad you specified there haha
VislorTurlough ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:07:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like your dad in the romantic way, not the financial
LemonstealinwhoreNo2 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 11:33:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Now kiss.
Redpatiofurniture ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:52:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This username, there's..........two of you?
ElijahPrince ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:51:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ummmmwaaaaa
MedjoolStudent ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 11:10:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like your financial in the romantic way, not the dad.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:59:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Accountant-zoning is real, people.
silentGoose76 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:52:19 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not too fond of OPs dad, but I do like OPs mom. In the not romantic way, just in the booty call way.
SinlinBreeze ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 02:57:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've heard that one with the added "50/30/20", as in 50% of your income for needs, 30% for wants and 20% for savings (for the things you can't currently afford).
macgruder1 ยท 50 points ยท Posted at 03:38:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sort of hard when a lot of the country is living paycheck to paycheck.
lionbryce ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 05:35:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Adjust the ratios. Check how everything is being spent. Dont waste on pointless things. Stretch every dollar. Rice is an awesome food. COUPONS. Of course, off-brands. Goodwill and similar. Make your own food.
That's most of the tips I've learned from when my paycheck to paycheck single mother raised me. (Except the rice part)
enakcm ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 09:57:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
60% is rent right now. 50% needs :( I want a haircut.
jlking3 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 10:50:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See if there's a barber school nearby.
dumbchikan ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:38:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
try cutting your own hair with scissors in a mirror, not actually that hard. and if you screw it up, hair grows back :D
realcooltime ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 14:02:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A decent haircut is kinda worth it for the self esteem, tbh I'd rather skip a couple meals and get an ok cut that makes me feel better about myself, but I also earn a decent amount so I'm not in a place to talk. I'm sure if you get a friend to do it you might be able to get a semi decent undercut or something
dryroast ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:59:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When your barely making it financial responsibility should trump things like self-esteem. It's much easier to deal with your emotions later once your not homeless or living in a house without the bare basics (like AC if you live in Florida).
realcooltime ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:05:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True. I don't have experience struggling paycheck to paycheck, I just saw it as one of those things where the less you have the more important it is to care about some things that don't seem important, staying clean and looking good and taking care of yourself contribute to a feeling of self worth and you should try to maintain that even when things are bad. It's why we find those stories about barbers giving the homeless haircuts so inspiring, it's just one of those things that keep you feeling human.
silentGoose76 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 22:51:35 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bye!
driftwood89 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 07:33:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad always said just cause you have the money to buy something doesn't mean that it's a good idea to buy it, always make sure that you have money to replace the things you actually need.
Orangebeardo ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 09:31:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just woke up, still a bit dazed, and read that as
"Tell her what you need, tell her what you want, and tell her what you can't afford".
Seems good relationship advice too.
silentGoose76 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:53:48 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another good piece if relationship advice. "DON'T LET HER INTO THE FUCKING BANK ACCOUNT!!!"
Mysterious_Lesions ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:34:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Corollary: But don't reach a bit out of your range once in a while to treat yourself.
LePoopsmith ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:59:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can't save money by spending money (when it seems like a good deal but you don't need it)
eldest_gruff ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:24:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This actually reminded me I needed to pay my gas bill. It wasn't due for a little bit but I like to get it out of the way as soon as I can. A lot less stress, and it usually means means I have more money for what I want later.
AdministrativeMoment ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:34:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We call it the needs, wants and wishes :) Made it real easy to decide what to do and dont do for our new house.
ThatGuyMikeO ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:59:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is your dad Dave Ramsey? Lol
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:56:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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ThatGuyMikeO ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:11:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm just kidding haha but Dave Ramsey says stuff like it, but anyone with an ounce of finance knowledge essentially knows this. Whether they have the wisdom to follow through (not buying 'wants' you can't afford) is a different story haha
LitterTreasure ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:30:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad always said โwant in one hand, shit in the other and see which one fills up fasterโ. Stuck with me like dingleberries to my butt wig.
Chris142 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:02:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the reason I buy so many things second hand, do I really need a stereo amplifier for my hifi? Well no I don't, but If I buy one second hand I can probably afford one.
Do I really need a power washer for the garden? Nah I can get the same results with a hard brush and a ton of elbow grease, but if I buy one used then I can probably justify it.
AtTheFirePit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:41:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad was famous for "separate your wants from your needs".
vicaphit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:01:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have to go through this mantra so much since I'm saving to buy my first house. I'm actually thinking that un-subbing from the subreddit that keeps urging me to build a new computer is the way to go.
JohnBrennansCoup ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:37:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Along this line, I've noticed younger people complaining about not being able to buy a home are trying to buy homes in the most desirable areas rather than starting with a "starter home" in a less desirable area in order to build some equity. My first house was 850 sq ft in a not desirable area, don't be scared to take a step back in order to take 2 steps forward.
vicaphit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:45:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My parents have been urging me to buy in the nicer neighborhood. The difference in house prices are 100k vs 250-300k, and for really not that much more space. I'm almost ready to just buy in the less desirable neighborhood. I could put 20% down on a house there immediately.
Mushu_Pork ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:06:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The phrase you're looking for his "house poor"
https://www.investopedia.com/terms/h/housepoor.asp
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:40:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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JohnBrennansCoup ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:48:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buying a home in general will build equity since your payments go towards your home instead of to a landlord. Buying in a less desirable area is, by definition - less desirable. So of course your buyers are not the same as those looking to live in more desirable areas, but everybody needs to live somewhere and not everyone is wealthy enough to live in desirable areas. So that's who your future potential buyers are.
By buying something more affordable, you are able to put more money towards your payment each month, and anything above your payment all go towards principal <---this significantly increases your equity much quicker. This also results in being able to cut your interest payments over the course of your loan by half or more. That's just wasted money, might as well reduce it. Then when you sell, you owe far less on the mortgage which means you'll end up with more in your bank account which you can then use to put down on a home in a more desirable area.
Any homeowner who isn't wealthy and doesn't start with a "starter home" is very likely being financially irresponsible. If you're in your 20's and buying a dream home, you're probably making a really bad decision.
imhoots ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:42:25 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was fortunate enough to find a small house like yours in a neighborhood of similar, smaller, tract homes. It didn't have central air or things like that, but it was a solid little house. Our street was OK - homes were well maintained on the whole. A few streets over there was a little run down area and some rental areas but like I said, we were OK.
Our house had been a rental and I fixed it up, remodeling the kitchen and bathroom and landscaping the yard substantially - a lot of sweat equity. We sold it 6 years later to buy another house and it had grown in value a bit - I used some of the $$ we earned on it to pay off one of my student loans.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:05:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad had this same concept, but heโd say โnever stretch your feet out further than you have a blanket to cover.โ It sounds better in his language lol
1longtime ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:23:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't get it...
mcguire ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:17:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometime, you just might find you can get what you need.
konakanoodle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:46:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad had that, and added "Afford it first, justify it second."
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:50:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trouble is, so much time passes before the โwhat you wantโ spending, that it becomes a โwhat I canโt affordโ or my life passes entirely by.
glumunicorn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:58:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Huh. My dad always said โwant in one hand, shit in the other, see which one fills up first.โ
The_Calico_Jack ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:16:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am far better at managing money in video games than real life lol.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 16:42:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jr iyer UK
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 16:43:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Y ttyl try 4
DownvoteDarren ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 12:59:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just get a job you lazy piece of crap
Alcoholitron ยท 3451 points ยท Posted at 02:42:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can tell that someone is going to hit you, tilt your head down. Teeth don't grow back. Your jaw is lights out. If they punch the top of your skull, they will probably break their hand. Always be drunk.
Satins_receptionist ยท 231 points ยท Posted at 02:51:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I heard this before and I can confirm it does work but why? How does getting hit in your jaw KO you?
Pikiinuu ยท 200 points ยท Posted at 04:02:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Watch a slow-mo vid of a professional boxer hitting another boxer in the jaw. You'll see why.
Satins_receptionist ยท 633 points ยท Posted at 04:59:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Ok I got it. A hit to the jaw causes the head and neck to rotate very quickly whipping the brain around inside the skull. All that movement damages the brain usually causing a concussion and the now overly active neurones override the brains usual activity forcing it to shut down for repairs. This causes temporary paralysis and loss of consciousness otherwise called a KO
Edit: first gold! Thank you so much :)
ILikeToLift95020 ยท 112 points ยท Posted at 05:17:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for doing this
Satins_receptionist ยท 62 points ยท Posted at 05:17:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The research?
ILikeToLift95020 ยท 129 points ยท Posted at 05:29:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Posting what you found. Its kinda like when you google a problem youโre having and find a forum post of the same problem, and then OP finds the solution and posts it.
Satins_receptionist ยท 65 points ยท Posted at 05:30:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I always post what I find
Exidrial ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 13:41:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You'd deserve a gold for that if I could give you any.
erdbeertee ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:12:43 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or finding dozens of threads that where either locked ("Use the search, duh!") or OP posted "nevermind found the solution myself thanks!"
Primetime0146 ยท 104 points ยท Posted at 09:12:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can also do this with several other techniques. If someone is trying to provoke you, a fast, hard jab to where the ribs meet will knock the wind out of them. A slap to the neck will do the same thing, because it triggers the same reaction. A kick to the groin will do the same thing. Remember. A street fight is never a fair fight. Use any force necessary. Run when possible.
re_Claire ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 09:56:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To add to this, hit the side of their neck with the side of your hand. Easy to do, it really knocks the wind out of you and hurts if you're the one being hit, and if you're the one doing the hitting, the side of your hand is harder and a smaller surface area so requires less force for a greater result.
distressedweedle ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 20:01:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This feels trolly. Your advising people to karate chop the neck. I've seen at least a few fight videos online with this failing miserably.
re_Claire ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 22:35:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha no. Not trolly. I used to be a police officer in the UK. We don't have guns. We have to learn to defend ourselves. I'm a small woman. If I slapped someone's neck it wouldn't have much of an impact.
astraladventures ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:31:17 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
With increase in violence against police officers in the UK, is there a discussion they should begin arming themselves with revolvers?
re_Claire ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 19:34:08 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Speaking from personal experience I know the discussion is much more aimed around arming them with tasers. At the moment only a few have tasers but I know they've discussed arming a lot more with them in the Met at least.
fudgiepuppie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:21:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What'd you expect from a neckbeard giving fighting advice over the internet?
re_Claire ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 22:36:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm very much the opposite of a neckbeard I'm afraid.
Oneadventurer2020 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:47:27 on May 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A footstache?
konspirator01 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:44:07 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do I practice this without hurting my friends? lol
Slick_Grimes ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:54:28 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hammer fist down on collar bones and they snap like a twig. Your opponent won't be able to lift his arms until it's fixed.
S_Steiner_Accounting ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 17:50:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i have a pre-teen daughter, 2 twin baby girls, and a wife who only weighs 3 digits if we go to a seafood buffet. I've been into muay thai for a while now, and when it came time to teach them self defense i didn't show them how to get into a proper stance, jab, or how to defend themselves from punches.
I taught them to shove their fingers into eyes, grab a handful of trachea, headbutt the nose/eye/cheek, and frame using elbows/forearms/knees to create enough space to break free and run away from the situation. I'm not saying my 10 year old is going to beat up a grown man, but she is going to hurt him bad enough to either get away or make him think this isn't worth losing an eye over and run off himself.
ElvisCuredMyRoids ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 15:42:11 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My pops used to say "You gotta be able to do three things to fight: breathe, see, and stand. Take away one of those and you'll win. There's no such thing as a fair fight where I'm from."
SrWiggelz ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:08:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Perfect, people dont understand enough of this. Imo the fingers/( or anything really) in the eyes is the most effective. But everything else you mentioned is great advice too.
One thing i always hated to hear is to go for a kick in the groin. It sounds like it should drop a man but it most people could fight through the pain. And thats if you get a hit on target.
octopusnado ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:41:35 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kick to the groin forces the guy to double up. Even if you don't connect, the reflex still kicks in. That gives you a good few seconds (more if you do connect) where the eyes, nose, trachea are easily accessible.
wetastelikejesus ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:30:38 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a petite female I have used some of these. The easiest for me are finger locks or wrist locks. Works like a charm.
astraladventures ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:34:40 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A small petite female who successfully evades attacks with finger and wrist locks... hahaha...
wetastelikejesus ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 12:26:25 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What is funny about protecting oneโs self with finger and wrist locks? As a smaller person Iโm greatly limited in my reach and strength. A man my size is still usually stronger than me.
Iโm limited to either running away (preferable) or using their weak points to my advantage. Thereโs no way I could win a slug fest. If their hands are on me, I can probably reach their fingers and hands, which compared to an arm are weak.
Itโs not fool proof and you can still be hurt, but I have found it to be a very strong deterrent to strangers touching me without permission.
h3lme7 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 20:03:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I sure hope she only weighs 3 digits..
Edit: I am stupid.
Danbradford7 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 20:34:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, the solar plexus. Punching it is like kicking someone in the nuts, but it's a much easier target
dumbchikan ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 14:40:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if you punch someone in the sternum it's fairly easy to accidentally kill them.
HotDangThoseMuffins ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 18:08:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If i didnt start the fight thats not really my problem now is it
ElvisCuredMyRoids ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:44:19 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just ask Houdini
Wait you can't because he died getting punched in the stomach
__-inserttexthere ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:35:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What's the full form of KO?
__-inserttexthere ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 09:35:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Right. Knocked out.
justanothermanbun ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 13:55:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Death...
EFCpepperJack ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:08:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Huh..cool...always thought it was a pinched nerve thing / pressure pt
SupersonicAnalSounds ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 12:48:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes and no itโs that plus there is a artery behind your jaw. You get punched in the jaw it kind chokes that artery down n u pass out from lack of blood flow to the brain. Head tilted down means you jaw is also setting on neck muscles instead of holding itself.
Slick_Grimes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:53:04 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup. It also severs a few connections. That's why people can develop a "glass jaw" after being knocked out once. It's easier to sever connections after they've been severed at some point, and even easier after repeated events.
CatFiggy ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 23:29:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, the kind of informative comment everyone comes to the comment section for.
Pikiinuu ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 23:44:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah the kind of sarcastic comment that would make me lose sleep. But seriously, how else would I explain that?
slaeha ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 16:21:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Enough rotational force to spin the brain and sort of turn it of for a second. I think KO speed is the brain moving 180 RPM.
I mean a straight back and forth shake from a punch something sucks too but only leaves you concussed compared to completely knocked out AND then concussed upon bouncing off the floor
Cameron_Black ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 17:25:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, there are a lot of nerves that run from the shoulder up to the base of the skull behind the jaw. A sharp blow to the neck area or jaw can overload those nerves and you lose consciousness for a short period of time.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DcaOr1TBA1w
ElTreceAlternitivo ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 21:53:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
KOs happen two ways. First way is a massive blood pressure spike, causing you brain to shut down for protection. This can happen if you get hit in the jaw causing your head to sharply rotate or by getting hit directly in the jugular vein. Second way is literally brain trauma, you get hit hard enough (by a fist or pavement) that your brain slams into your skull... again causing preventative shutdown or shutdown from the damage itself (this is the most dangerous, can easily cause coma or death).
exxxtraCredit ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 12:07:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
jaw bone hits brain stem
cantCme ยท 104 points ยท Posted at 08:23:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All I'll take away from this is the "always be drunk."
janej0nes ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 17:15:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
reading through the replies, I was starting to wonder if anyone else saw that last sentence lol
Toastedtoast18 ยท 71 points ยท Posted at 10:07:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a boxer, this is good advice. One of the first things they teach you in boxing is to keep your chin down and keep your hands up. You are much more likely to be knocked out by a punch to the jaw than the top of your head. Also, it hurts a lot more to punch someone in the top of the head than anywhere else
Heath776 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 18:07:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The hardest part of the skull in the top of the head right?
Toastedtoast18 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 18:14:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah man, about where most people hairline start
Dazius06 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 18:23:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What about the back of the head?
Toastedtoast18 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 18:29:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, I assume the back of your head is still pretty hard. However, getting hit on the back of your head can cause a lot more damage to your brain I believe as the back of your brain is responsible for vision. In boxing youโre not actually allowed to punch your opponent on the back of their head.
tmed1 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:29:40 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The brainstem is there and controls involuntary functions like breathing. Fuck it up bad enough= you ded
santiagodelavega ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 11:39:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's some great advice, u/Alcoholitron.
CosmicChris217 ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 06:47:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What about an uppercut? And doesn't this stop your line of vision seeing the attacker?
Whatacheaptentshow ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 07:48:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Don't see too many altercations open with an uppercut lol. You'd have to be standing pretty close for that, so just don't stand real close
Edit: typo. Well played
Gravesnear ยท 59 points ยท Posted at 09:07:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All my alterations start with a hem. I try to get the proper waist size do I don't have to get the upper cut. Unfortunately you have to be standing quite close when they're measuring.
ChuckOTay ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 09:32:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice. Did you come up with that off the cuff?
ChargeYourBattery ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 11:35:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put a pin in it, the both of you
DaGrza ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 12:21:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This seams ridiculous.
prayingmantras ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 14:07:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am leaving this thread.
dontdoitdoitdoit ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:18:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That joke was tailored to fit here
Zayin-Ba-Ayin ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 12:32:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pants
billyjack669 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 12:57:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In my experience, you can't start a fight with an uppercut. You have to get a STAR first with normal punches (A or B button, head or body blows) timed correctly, then you push the START BUTTON (again, timed correctly) and you can knock your opponent down or take their power bar down quite a bit.
Primetime0146 ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 09:19:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's not how uppercuts work. It's more of a right hand that comes from the legs. They usually start with feeling someone out. A good uppercut is more of a jab that starts with the legs. Sometimes they land in the sternum, sometimes you wake up dizzying. Watch Mike Tyson and you'll understand.
Whatacheaptentshow ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:24:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know what an uppercut is. Thanks for the underhanded comment buddy, but I've seen plenty of Mike Tyson. 'A good uppercut is more of a jab that starts with the legs'. Near most movements in boxing come from the legs but you made yourself sound silly. You go watch some Mike Tyson :)
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:31:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also (amateur but have been around) a really effective uppercut is a short range uppercut, not a jab right?
Primetime0146 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:41:03 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes. A Chinese uppercut is kind of a short range shot but with inflection on the legs and shoulders. It's more of a defense to set up a kick or knees.
Primetime0146 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:54:02 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depends on where you hit the opponent. Correct me if I'm wrong but the chest wouldn't hurt at all. Neither would the head. The chin though, that could hurt and let you open them up. Forehead hurts as well.
Primetime0146 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:27:17 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, there's more than one type of uppercut. Sorry if I offended you. But as you said, " don't you have to be really close to start a fight with an uppercut?". How do you think a fight starts? No pushing or shoving, what happens after that. Do people just run at each other and start swinging? As I said, an uppercut is usually set by testing the opponent. It's not some huge overly complex haymaker. Just a simple test of gauge. I really hope the " underhanded comment was a pun.
CosmicChris217 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 07:46:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To clarify I'm not trolling or disagreeing with anything. I'm legit asking?
Laoleng ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 08:18:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A punch to your face (nose, jaw, cheek, eye...) is more dangerous than a punch to the upper part of your head because the bones of the face are waaaaay thinner and fragile than the frontal bone for example. To put it simply, your head was designed so that you have more bone resistance above the eyes than lower.
Source: Studied it this semester
bladiebloe767 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:13:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I havent ever seen anyone throw an uppercut in street/barfights. Youโre pretty right though.
zbeezle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:48:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
an uppercut with any power to it is gonna be in real tight, meaning youve already fucked up by letting someone whos aggressive towards you get super close. Most people toss a haymaker to start. And if the haymaker has to hit your head, it should hit the hard part of your skull. Haymakers have very little structure behind them meaning that the thrower is pretty likely to damage their own hand impacting a hard surface. But in all reality, its better to block the hit, or, even better, dodge it.
As for vision, tucking your head does restrict your vision a bit, but youll still be able to see all or at least most of your attackers body. At least the parts that matter (hands and feet).
And don't stick around longer than you have to. If you get an opportunity to run away, fuckin run. Your honor aint worth your life, brother.
CosmicChris217 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:25:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good advice. Not a tough guy here but was in several altercation in my younger and wilder 20s (dealing with drunks at bars mostly.) And had never thought to put my head down. I mean I knew to tuck it in and just keep my hands up to defend any strikes but you're dead on with the mostly throwing haymakers. Most wouldn't even connect or would throw them off balance enough to get punches in or decide to flee. I think it would be hard to make this an instinct to put my head down and fight. Hopefully don't have to find out anytime soon.
Jacross ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:54:32 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Head tilted down, eyes up. You aren't bowing from the waist.
If you're going to eat an uppercut, you definitely dont want to eat it under your jaw, which is what will happen if your head isn't tileted down.
I want to put that uppercut under your jaw. That's like Christmas morning.
billgatesnowhammies ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 12:45:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best advice right here
rockefeller22 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 12:21:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
tl;dr always be drunk
jetjodh ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 09:09:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Username checks out.
Not_A_Unique_Name ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:27:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So you want me to use my head as a shield?
RE4V3R036 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 11:12:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chin down, hands up is like one of the first things you'll be taught boxing. Problem being that the second you get hit chin comes up and hands go down as you flinch away from the damage. If you're really worried about this happening go train boxing, bjj, muay thai or wrestling. One off self defence classes are worse than nothing.
The_Man_Downstairs ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 12:40:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/UsernameChecksOut
TribeIn5 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 10:47:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can tell someone is going to hit you, hit them first, hit them hard.
_Random_Thoughts_ ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 15:07:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is that legal?
klopnyyt ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 15:16:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nope
TummySpuds ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:54:03 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know about other countries but in the UK it can be a valid legal defence if you can show you were genuinely in reasonable danger of physical injury and the best way to prevent it was to attack first.
_Random_Thoughts_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:59:39 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for sharing
Freevoulous ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 08:55:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
can confirm, broke my hand like this fighting a particularly vicious manlet.
LeagueOfSoyboys ยท -38 points ยท Posted at 09:37:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
5โ9โ king of manlets using the term manlet rofl. The only thing more comical is the 5โx4โ baby dick and the bitch hips
[deleted] ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 12:32:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow, you're an upset guy huh?
WoddleWang ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 16:54:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He's probably a manlet
LeagueOfSoyboys ยท -16 points ยท Posted at 12:47:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Na just thought it was ironic
salamander423 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 18:07:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
God this must be embarrassing for you to have written.
LeagueOfSoyboys ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 18:17:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Embarrassing like your fat ass body? I can see why you replied to this
salamander423 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:25:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ooooo sick burn there brah. I'm literally shaking, and all my fatness is quivering for you.
LeagueOfSoyboys ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 18:39:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're that pathetic to pretend you're happy being fat then okay
salamander423 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 18:46:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm super happy with myself, thank you for asking. I don't have to pretend anything. :)
Also, if all you can attack is my weight, then I don't think that I'm the one that's pathetic.
LeagueOfSoyboys ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 18:49:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yea deep down you obviously know thatโs a lie. I would attack you for being a loser but you canโt change that
salamander423 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 18:51:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, I don't think that's true.
Calling me a loser is a little bit worse than calling me fat, fyi. That's the go-to insult for middle schoolers.
FullMetalFiddlestick ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:12:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree with this guy and disagree with the other guy btw
LeagueOfSoyboys ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 19:42:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We all appreciate your virtue signalling weeb
FullMetalFiddlestick ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:30:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
hey thanks, maybe youre not so bad
LeagueOfSoyboys ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 19:07:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre the stereotypical Redditor Iโm sure itโll bother you at some point. If your iq was higher than 85 you would understand the only insults that matter are the ones that are true
salamander423 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:12:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yikes. You've hit all three of the simple ones now. >_<
I'll stop responding after this reply. That way you won't have to keep typing comments that make people pity you.
LeagueOfSoyboys ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 19:18:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Let me know when you start accepting reality
FullMetalFiddlestick ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 19:12:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I guess that's why he feels it doesnt matter, huh?
Dazius06 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 18:26:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow I didn't even know having negative karma was even possible, you are the first I have come across.
LeagueOfSoyboys ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 18:29:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's quite common when you don't care about fake internet points
Dazius06 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 18:32:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It isn't common at all, you kinda have to try somewhat hard to be unlikable because people would usually upvote a lot more than downvote. On average karma tends to go up, even if you don't get voted tlyour karma goes up because of your own automatic upvotes.
christorino ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:28:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Though isn't a hit to the side of your temple normally a fatal blow?
Butt_Putnam ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 15:27:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are a lot of myths about fighting, and thats one of them. Just like the old "you can drive someone's nose into their brain and kill them!"
I'll put it this way. If there were places on your head you could punch that just kill you outright, there would be a lot of boxers dying in the ring. I've been training for a while, fought a little. Been punched there. You don't want to get punched in the temple, it's pretty fucking unpleasant. But it won't kill you unless it's a one in a million shot.
mtg-Moonkeeper ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:32:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Username checks out
ledow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:21:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1) If they know how to strike, it won't make a difference (you don't punch the jaw, you heel-of-palm it from below, and pull to the side late to dislocate).
2) If they catch your temple, you're in for a world of hurt far worse than a broken jaw.
3) Someone accustomed to punching won't be put off by hitting a solid object, they positively expect it, but they also wouldn't aim for anything solid on you (heads are a bad idea, there are much better targets).
It'll work against amateur street-brawlers, but it wouldn't work against anyone who seriously meant you harm and knew how to do so.
Generally, you're "correct" but boxers and martial artists cover their solar plexus and kidneys for a reason - and they can only deliver head-strikes because of boxing gloves and padding.
Legiitsushii ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:21:42 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can't really block your kidney's but your liver is definitely something you want to keep covered.
DalinarxBlackthorn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:34:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Million Dollar Baby that shit.
segonz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:53:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This guy fight
nomadedigital ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:49:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Raise your hands in a defense too... Or better, hit first
anonaiii ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:52:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This, if you're in a fight, always lean into their punch, make sure they hit the forehead or top of the skull
DJ21384 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:56:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Truest advise is always in the comments..
Teufel1986 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:01:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lol, โalways be drunkโ. Username is gold itself
lambocinnialfredo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:33:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The real advice is always in the last sentence
CaptainBaratheon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:43:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks man thatโs worked for me. I felt a bit dizzy and he didnโt break his hand but he did hurt himself and I walked away pretty much fine.
fudgiepuppie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:19:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"always be drunk"
Already on it, dad
kplatinum777 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:21:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I can tell someone's going to hit me, I'm going to make sure their fist connects with thin air, by moving.
CatFiggy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:28:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ABD! Always be drinking!
TheBorgerKing ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:42:07 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I once gave this advice and felt pretty stupid after... but it works even in 16oz boxing gloves according to Bas Rutten.
Conversely. Dont punch the head.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:01:27 on May 11, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
His advice was to always be drunk?
PM_ME_ENORMOUS_TITS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:49:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
But then you could get a concussion, which is arguably worse than knocked-out teeth or a broken jaw, no?
Satins_receptionist ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:13:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If they hit you in the jaw you will probably get a concussion either way
greenspark808 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 10:32:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโll admit. They had us in the first half. TBH I donโt know the phrase for the actual meme, but I am drunk.
no_self_control22 ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 12:49:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like a good way to get a good ole uppercut.
jonneygee ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 12:42:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
FTFY
VHStape89 ยท 13349 points ยท Posted at 02:05:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting cold water on freshly shaved skin will make it so you don't get ingrown hairs.
Some of the best advice I've ever received.
Wile-E-Coyote ยท 3725 points ยท Posted at 02:08:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How is this not common knowledge?!?! I've struggled with ingrown hairs from shaving for years and no one ever recommended this, not even my doctor. So much aggravation I could have avoided with 1 tip.
Kolo_ToureHH ยท 1794 points ยท Posted at 08:03:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was part of the process when my dad taught me how to shave.
Shave immediately after you've come out the shower, your pores will be more open. Alternatively fill the sink up with warm water and splash it on your face. Pat dry.
Shave.
Wash face with cold water.
Moisturise.
PRSouthern ยท 258 points ยท Posted at 08:49:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Let the boy watch. He needs to learn. The way I learned from my father. The way he learned from his father.
rsn1990 ยท 280 points ยท Posted at 09:00:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some of us didnโt have dads to watch, unfortunately.
emyouth ยท 153 points ยท Posted at 09:11:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We don't need dad anymore because now we have the internet.
DoitmyFself ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 13:34:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This sums up a lot of peopleโs lives here, sad but true.
emyouth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:05:13 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My first silver! Wow it really DOES come when you least expect it. Thanks Reddit stranger!
[deleted] ยท -26 points ยท Posted at 11:06:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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spytez ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 11:52:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Internets been a better father than my real father ever could have been.
Moblin81 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:47:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
F
[deleted] ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 14:38:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Ranger4878 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 15:12:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just want to say that his phrasing implies his father wasnโt there at all
Cheeseiswhite ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:26:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just be a bigot instead. BeCauSe tHAtS hEAlthY.
emyouth ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:17:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Here have a downvote from me too.
TheM0hawkMan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:29:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We're talking about learning skills and tricks right? That's definitely healthy to do your own research over taking one person's word for it..
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 16:43:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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TheM0hawkMan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:55:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What are you implying isn't healthy then? The dad not being there, forcing the kid to learn from the internet? No shit, Sherlock ๐คท.
But what's healthier: seeking information to learn something, or doing nothing about it?
IdRatherBeTweeting ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 12:10:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learned by watching the Cosby show. Cliff Huxtable taught me how to shave and inspired me to become a doctor. He was a more positive influence than my own father. Still hard to accept what he did.
OvechkinCrosby ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 12:22:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At first I was going to write something snarky but as I thought about it if I found out that James Avery (Uncle Phil from The Fresh Prince) had done what Cosby did I'd feel the same way. So, I feel you man.
Levitlame ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 12:43:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I donโt want to destroy your image of your hero but I feel you should know... He ran a criminal organization (a cult really) that took advantage of young children in New York. He broke many laws. He was also infatuated with turning 4 overgrown mutants into turtle soup and was mortal enemies with a 4-5 foot tall rat.
ShadowedNexus ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 15:55:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Had me till that last one
Xenodad ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 19:46:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm poor, would give you gold... take this honey instead!
๐ฏ
You made my life sweeter today!
RoelofSetsFire ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 18:06:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TIL Uncle Phil was Shredder o_O
Levitlame ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:08:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you watched the cartoon when you were a kid (if you were a kid that watched 1990โs turtles) and think back you can probably hear it. Itโs just Uncle Phil using a nasally voice hahaha blew my mind when I read it
19CrimsonKing19 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 12:43:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
IM THE BASTARD SON OF CLAIRE HUXTABLE!!!!
Veni_Vidi_Legi ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:35:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He played a good person.
IdRatherBeTweeting ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:53:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, it is insane to me that he could act out how to be moral without absorbing the message.
[deleted] ยท 76 points ยท Posted at 09:05:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
... son?
Waffle_qwaffle ยท 61 points ยท Posted at 09:33:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did you finally get those cigarettes?
[deleted] ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 11:52:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, sorry, I remember now it was a daughter.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:33:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:01:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
... nephew?
rsn1990 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 11:52:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless youโre back from the dead, I think not
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:54:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well I had a visit to Winterfell, not sure what you remember but it really cleared my head and I think I'm ready to see you again.
d1x1e1a ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:03:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For those of us like yourself and myself with absent fathers i found the best tip is to ensure you inherit a straight ginger hair gene this ensures that ingrowing hairs dont occur because the fuckers are like welding rods and simply burst through the skin.
Down side is that shaving using water that is anything less than near boiling is like trying to cut welding rods with a butter knife.
SERPMarketing ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 11:00:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No excuses. The internet is your new dad.
Pm_me_sexyrobots ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 12:19:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Move over TV, step dad internet is here now.
Fishydeals ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 12:10:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or dads who never taught anything and justed watched tv and drank beer.
Bigtowelie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:06:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But i got Reddit to learn and watch
Nilosyrtis ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:50:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learned from my older brother
CheeseIsForClosers ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 09:24:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can feel it... in my plummmmmmsss
Cazberry ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 09:37:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gettin' ready to take 'em to the farmer's market... special two plums for one
ImHereToFuckShit ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 10:33:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't think I've laughed harder than I did while watching the blooper reel for this scene. So damn funny.
DiscoStu83 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:31:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can I have a plum? No these are my plums!
itsWEDNESDAYmydoodes ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 15:57:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Heat turned up to bout 82 degrees
kc10crewchief ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 09:16:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some of us don't shave our face.
DiscoStu83 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 10:31:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hot sultry night. Heat turned up to 90.
ElTreceAlternitivo ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:31:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to have a plastic โshaving setโ that was really just a soap dish and a Roxie shaped chunk of plastic. I would โshaveโ with my dad every morning and heโd teach me how to do it properly.
altitude_vagabond ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:32:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"I was makin' love ... to my wife Donna. All the windows closed and heat turned up to bout 82, so it gets hot....and schweaty"
PRSouthern ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:46:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some of the best improv Iโve ever seen.
amosnahoy ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 09:13:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/unexpectedeastbound And an under-appreciated comment sir. Tip of the cap to you.
DiscoStu83 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:32:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for putting me on to this sub lol
Edit: nvm lol
amosnahoy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:29:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never say never. Which one of us shall take the initiative?
MastaShake1138 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:19:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your father helped me like that too!
PRSouthern ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:51:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
HIT THE BREAKS!!! Use the boost to get through!!!
toobeyboobey ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:13:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can feel it down in my plums.
umrfc8 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:50:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
that's my name up there on the billboard isn't it
TheYoungGriffin ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 10:07:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just shave while I'm in the shower. Easy peasy.
svenson_26 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:18:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same. People think I'm crazy. They ask how I don't miss spots. I go by feel and not by sight, I have lighter-coloured facial hair, so it is hard to see when it is very short. But you can feel it.
rf_king ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 16:52:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a mirror in the shower for this reason.
TheYoungGriffin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:06:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I keep a small mirror in there too, but I also shower in the dark most mornings and do it by feel.
themilkman42069 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:00:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As long as you are shaving everything. If you keep a beard Iโve always struggled with maintenance without a mirror.
Shower mirror solves all these problems of course
ilovebaconmore ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:54:06 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
put away the mirror,,, use the force luke (R.I.P. Chewy )
ilovebaconmore ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:52:55 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
me too! i was beginning to think i was the only one who did. it heightens the senses ;D
TheYoungGriffin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:31:28 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are dozens of us. DOZENS!
viriiu ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 13:42:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pores don't open or close. Pores don't have muscles/ are not muscles. It's an old myth that just refuse to die. Heat does warm up the sebum in your pore tho, which when picking on pimples makes it easier to pop. Idk how it affects hair removal but I can imagine it helps.
nicehats ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 08:57:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can vouch this works.
Also, always shave in the direction of the hair. The cut angle across the hair makes it difficult for the hair to "catch" under the skin. Don't use electric shavers!
Untreated, it's a frustrating affliction underserved by us lovely curly boys.
[deleted] ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 09:07:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait wait wait.... why "don't use electric shavers?" I like my electric razor.
nicehats ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 09:17:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Well, everyone's hair is different.
Ingrowing hairs are more common with curly or thick wavey hair. The hairs have a stronger growing direction and will often grow in sporadic directions. Following the direction of the hair while shaving greatly minimised the chance of it ingrowing.
This is almost impossible when using an electric shaver as the blades can cut at many angles, loosing control over cutting them in the most effective way to avoid ingrowing hairs.
Again, everyone's hair is different, so it's definitely worth experimenting with a rasor instead of an electric shaver.
I'm now 98% blemish free and I can show my neck without embarrassment :)
I'm no dermatologist! But I did study this heavily and experiment, as I was determined to get rid of that hideous rash and spots that made me look dirty or unwashed.
I also got a great cheap USB microscope from eBay to take a real good look! Plucked the real bad ones out with a sterilised pin. Please don't try this, especially if you're on meth.
w0nd3rj4m ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 10:20:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That ending was unexpected. Props to you for solving that prob diligently ๐
PlayingWithFire42 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 12:23:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you still get a close shave if you shave with the hair? Iโve noticed if I donโt shave against the grain I have a much worse shave. Dunno if itโs me or the razor
nicehats ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 13:08:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You are right in thinking the shave is not so close.
But it's worth "training" your hair growth for a couple of months, especially if you have been suffering from ingrowing hair for years.
For occasions I need to be dapper, I shave against the grain. My face handles it well as long as I don't always shave this way.
SinistralGuy ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:06:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I normally shave with the hair the first time around and do a round two of going against the grain. I don't know if it'll help you, but I've found it to be a much smoother shave for me.
ilovebaconmore ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:55:21 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
same
Rambles_Off_Topics ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:26:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone is different for sure - electric razor and dry shaving helped my acne in high school. Now I don't shave ever...trimming is where it's at lol
Catshit-Dogfart ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:30:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I have this one place on my neck where the hair grows in a different direction, no idea why.
But that spot looks like shit when I use an electric shaver, hard to shave around anyway, but much worse with the electric shaver. I got a really nice one too, hoped it would do better, it does but still not great.
bigcomee22 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:54:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hair on the neck isn't really like on the face it doesn't all grow in one direction so where on your face you would shave with the hair, On your neck it's best to shave in every direction a few times if your looking for a clean shave
rootb33r ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 09:14:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm guessing because electric shavers have circular rotating blades, so the chances of the blades cutting a hair against the grain are pretty high.
The chances of ingrown hair problems increases with electric razors.
But that said, everyone is different. If you don't have that problem then keep on keepin' on. Electric razors are convenient at the very least.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 11:49:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One equally game-chamging thing that I found out was about them, that you are essentially not supposed to press them into your face, only to keep them lightly on your skin. That changed them for me.
nicehats ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:21:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Precisely.
JackKingQueen ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:53:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/wicked_edge
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:37:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Electric shavers are the only things that don't give me ingrown hairs
NashvilleHot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:45:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use a Norelco electric shaver and it changed my shaving lifeโ no more nicks and cuts! Plus, easier clean up, less expensive (have used the same shaver for 10 years and changed the blades once), maybe less consumable waste generated too.
I donโt have curly or wavy facial hair so never had an ingrown hair problem though.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:47:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I imagine you also disassemble and clean it often?
NashvilleHot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:13:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I rinse after every use and every so often use rubbing alcohol or hydrogen peroxide to disinfect the part that contacts skin, and use the little brush it came with to clean out crevices inside.
Very occasionally I will take out all the blade parts and clean them with the brush and rubbing alcohol.
DieofBeetes ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:23:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
since you got the tips.. I havent shaved my face in years and have a big beard simply because i could never give my self proper side burns. how do you guys get normal looking sideburns??
SixSamuraiStorm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:39:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You pick a spot just above your earlobes, and hack down everything below it.
rf_king ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:53:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A small trimmer works for me, along with ear and nose hairs.
pencilneckgeekster ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:10:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Electric shavers are the worst invention in human history. Looking back, I canโt believe I actually used to use one.
My problem with shaving in the direction of the hair is that the direction โflipsโ as you go across my face/neck. I inevitably catch a few spots going the wrong way.
shervinion ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 12:50:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me too. My neck hair grow upward toward my face. My face hair grows downward towards my neck. At the jaw bone is where things get a bit blurry. Most of my jawline hair, except for the chin area is actually pointing toward my chin! But on the chin area itself my hair is growing downward towards my neck. I learned this over the years of shaving with a razor. Now i have muscle memory when the razor touches my face I automatically shave towards the correct direction. And for the bulrry areas, I don't go against the grain but rather at 90 degree angle.
nicehats ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:55:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me too. It just takes longer, but well worth the extra couple of minutes.
led0n12331 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:14:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Been shaving upwards for about 5 years and still hadn't any ingrown hair. Guess I'm lucky
JustJoeWiard ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:59:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do you moisturize with?
Ittybittytimtam ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 11:17:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whatever free sample I can get from Sephora that week.
TCAkula ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:33:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use a homemade mixture of equal parts tea tree oil, eucalyptus oil, and lavender, with a splash of witch hazel. It keeps the razor burn away, and keeps my skin conditioned.
chwq ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:31:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bold of you to assume Iโm using this tip to shave my face
s4lty-f0x ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 13:40:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good sentiment, but that's not how pores work
Blktealemonade ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:07:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wellll no one really teaches women how to shave their girly bits... Thanks for explaining the process!
CaptainAwesome06 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 09:32:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using shave oil helps a lot. And a badger hair brush with real shaving cream/soap. Nothing from a can. Also, ditch the cartridge razor. Safety razors are better and the blades are dirt cheap. These things changed my life.
anakaine ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 09:46:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried a number of these, specifically the safety razor, shaving cream, and brush. I went back to the cartridge razor after not too long. Still got a decent shave, less risk of a painful cut that took ages to heal, and the can stuff I use works quite well as it is.
To each their own.
ElevatorMusicFanboy ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 09:51:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Peopleโs skin generally improve with age and they attribute this improvement with changes theyโve made to their shaving routine when in reality their skin is just better than it was.
CaptainAwesome06 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:03:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For sure. I noticed the biggest difference after I had been using real shaving cream and a safety razor for a while. Then I went on vacation and figured I'd just bring along a Mach 3 and some Gillette shave gel. Big mistake. I had the worst razor burn of my life. Didn't shave the rest of the vacation. I find that I get less nicks with a safety razor since I have don't need to work as hard.
10RndsDown ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 09:45:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My roomate showed me the way of the safety razor. Never went back. Damn thing cuts like a 6 blade at the fraction of the cost. The damn 99 cent store carries safety razor blades now. Dollar shave club to the max haha.
CaptainAwesome06 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 12:00:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I laugh when I hear people go on about Dollar Shave Club. I'm over here like, "you guys are still overpaying".
10RndsDown ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:26:16 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
haha my 99 cent store is my go too "Dollar Shave". Pretty damn good blades. But I only do single use, I never really reuse blades because I always end up getting cut.
Xenosystems ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:50:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Synthetic brushes have come a long way, nowadays they are much better than badger hair.
CaptainAwesome06 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:05:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting. I've used a synthetic brush before but it was pretty cheap and I didn't like it. I've stuck with badger ever since. I didn't like boar hair, either.
Xenosystems ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:31:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They are softer, don't need soaking, dry faster, and don't need to be maintained at the very least. You get a better lather faster. And they are much cheaper despite being better. Most people who are into straight shaving prefer them nowadays if you hang around forums. And for those who care, you don't help animal cruelty (badger hair comes from china since badgers are a protected specie in the EU and US, there are articles and horrific videos about what is going on there but i know many people don't care). You can try Tuxedo Knots and Yaki ones, they're the ones most often recommended.
TacticalGod ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:17:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yaqi brushes are auch a good value, I own 4 brushes from them.
TacticalGod ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:17:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yaqi brushes are auch a good value, I own 4 brushes from them.
fraterdiligo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:56:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Up until about 6 months ago (Iโm 22 and didnโt start legitimately growing facial hair until about a year ago) I tried everything except shave butter. My face would shave fine with whatever I used, but my neck is a bastard. Shave butter + cold water and peroxide has done miracles.
CaptainAwesome06 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:04:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My neck was the hardest thing, too (except I've been shaving on the regular since I was 14). I have the devil's curly hair.
fraterdiligo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:06:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt have curly hair, but my face is definitely a cult member of the devilโs curly hair.
Mkuziak ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:05:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, and if you're shaving before your shower, which I prefer, put a warm washcloth on your face and neck to open the pores before hand.
Fauxally ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:41:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shaving after a warm shower also softens the hairs so they can be shaved with ease
Conanjamus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:07:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pores don't open and close like that, but it does make the hair softer for the razor.
JustinWendell ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:56:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like a damn savage. I literally just shave and run out the door every morning.
Human_After ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:20:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad never taught me how to shave. This is nice.
NachoTranny ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:29:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cold water acts as an astringent by making your body โseize upโ (closes up the pours). Heat to open them pre-shave (shower or like a hot towel in a barber shop) then shave, but a super cheap astringent that isnโt โnamed branded expensive bsโ is just witch hazel. https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/witch-hazel-benefits-uses
I have sensitive skin and itโs what has worked best for me. And moisturize your skin always, avoid the fragrance crap. Think of it like flowery body armor versus functional body armor. Go with functional.
viriiu ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 13:39:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pores don't close or open. Pores aren't muscles. Heat however does warm up the sebum in the pore
Captain_Taggart ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 14:10:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can you imagine if pores had tiny muscles around them that allowed them to open and close? Tiny sphincters all over our face? Yuck
viriiu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:42:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pidgeapodge ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:41:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do you reccomend for moistorizing? Like, vasaline, or Aveno lotion? Iโd like to know which lotions/moosturizers are most effective.
GetouttheGrill ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 13:16:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cetaphil
Pidgeapodge ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:04:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you!
NachoTranny ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:35:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I second cetaphil for best over the counter stuff out there. They also make a great cleanser as well.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:25:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doctor's hate him! 4 quick shaving trips that will save you a trip to the dermatologist.
SnavlerAce ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:24:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes indeed! Also, a straight razor works very well.
nuublarg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:37:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shaving immediately after a shower also means you can shave without shaving cream.
Blixten_rs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:55:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pores don't open or close with hot/cold water.
sirtoppuskekkus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:20:15 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This might be unpopular but I have my best shaves dry+pre shower. Never cut myself dry shaving, lather up with foam and I have a lot more accidents. The hot shower after helps sooth the dryness that tends to occur after shaving.
silentGoose76 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:03:39 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm glad your dad felt safe enough to come out of the closet to you.
watdafug ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:15:29 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At what step are we supposed to hit the gym and delete facebook?
Tha_shnizzler ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:21:38 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Filling a sink with water and throwing that water on my face sounds like a great recipe for me to break out (bacteria from the sink basin would quite enjoy growing in my pores).
So I would just let the faucet run hot and use the water as it pours :)
Good advice overall, though! Especially #4
Galahead ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:33:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad taught me to put a bit of rubbing alcohol on your hands and pass it on your face to clean after shaving. I never did because it seemed like and awful idea and like it really wouldnt be good for the skin. Appearently my grandad taught him thats how you should shave.
How bad is it to put alcohol on your face after shaving? does it do any cleaning or is it just bad?
pjgpv ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:51:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alum block works better for the same process, is less aggressive on your face and actually works a little like an antiperspirant for your face.
Elvthee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:06:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bad, the alcohol is going to dehydrate your skin as it evaporates.
This post by a chemist goes in depth about humectants and mention ethanol and how it dehydrates your skin.
antbrit ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:37:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup. And if you want to make it even easier, get a small beard comb and use it in the shower. You can really, really tell the difference.
eatwatermellonseeds ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 13:41:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem with that is if your dad doesn't have a beard, you've got 2 mums. My boys won't be able to learn by watching.
VHStape89 ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 02:13:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's seriously a game changer! I haven't had one ingrown hair ever since I started this. The colder the better!
Wile-E-Coyote ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 02:18:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was just thinking about using ice water, fuck ingrown hairs!
KyoshiroTasya ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 07:14:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I will test this out.
Yeah_Nah_Cunt ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 08:51:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me it was
Trying a double edge blade, a shaving brush, soap and use witch hazel as an aftershave
I'll never touch those cartridge razors ever again.
My skin was better for it and never got an ingrown hair again after that.
TurboTertle ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:13:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Plus you can get those double sided blades for super cheap.
CaptainAwesome06 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 09:35:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I bought 3 sleeves of Derby blades for 8 dollars six years ago and I'm just now nearing the end of them.
10RndsDown ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:46:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My local 99 cent store carries a 5 pack of double sided blades for 99 cents.
CaptainAwesome06 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:01:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And they are double sided! That's like 10 blades for a dollar!
XFMR ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:31:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That depends. I have really thick and curly facial hair coupled with sensitive skin so i dull blades easily and I can really feel the difference as they dull. So I only get two or three comfortable shaves out of safety razors blades. Thereโs this one generic brand of blades they sell at military exchanges that the general consensus among everyone Iโve talked to seems to be that brand is terrible and you get one good shave out of their blades if they even made them well enough for that.
CaptainAwesome06 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:01:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, I'm pretty sure that's still like 10 blades for a dollar.
I have thick and curly hair, as well.
The trick is, don't buy the shitty blades at the commissary. There are plenty of good blades out there that are the fraction of the price of a cartridge blade. I find that a good safety razor blade lasts me the same as a cartridge (or more) but only costs around 30 cents per blade.
XFMR ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:43:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh I know not to buy those, ran out of my derbyโs on an underway once and had to settle for them when we pulled into port. Iโll agree they are a significantly better deal than disposables and cartridge razors and I havenโt used one of those in about 4-5 years now, itโs not even a cost reason for me. Itโs that I get significantly less irritation. If the cartridge stuff produced the same results or better Iโd pay more for them but they never will.
kristencredible ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:28:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am all about the safety or straight razors.
pencilneckgeekster ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:12:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
recommendations on a double edge blade?
Locksul ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:14:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/wicked_edge
XFMR ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:49:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
If youโre just looking to get into it and see if you like it without wasting a bunch of money the holder doesnโt matter much. I use that Van Der Hagen one that you can buy at Walmart and I started with their blades cuz thatโs what I could find out in town when I started out. Iโve seen guys on wicked edge shit on that one before but itโs lasted 5 years with no problems and I havenโt had to break it down yet for cleaning... Iโm really just biding my time on that. So really just pay what youโre willing to pay into it and get something you like the look of and call it a day. Derby makes good blades in my opinion.
If you want to get into straight razors a great brand is Dovo. Theyโre German and they still use Swedish steel which is great for straight razors. You can snag a starter blade for like $80 but you gotta get a good 3โ strop with it. So initial cost can get you into like well over $150 but if you take care of the stuff well the strop will last years and the blade will last til you die with only occasional honing.
For more info on the whole she-bang I recommend r/wetshaving since itโs a bit more approachable of a sub and tailors more to beginner wet shavers. Wicked_Edge is great, donโt get me wrong, but itโs a bit more intimidating if youโre new and just looking for a jumping off point as a lot of guys there are hobbyists and you see shave of the day posts more than anything. Wetshaving has a stickied thread for questions.
Edit: I got my dovo 4 years ago for $80 and itโs been great. I think I had found a deal that was going on when I got it so it may be more pricey now. It wasnโt their top of the line but even their lowest priced ones are basically considered what you shoot for when youโre making a quality straight razor and having used a few other brands I can absolutely agree.
pencilneckgeekster ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:12:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
thanks!
CaptainAwesome06 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:35:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone has a preference. But a variety pack from Amazon and figure out which one you like. I like Derby and Feather
Yeah_Nah_Cunt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:39:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best bet read the FAQS at r/wicked_edge
Personally I use Merkur just because I like the weight of the head and length of the handle.
Blade wise I recommend buying a test pack that has a few different brands first to see which works best for you. Same for soaps and brushes etc.
cqm ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:07:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
> How is this not common knowledge?!?!
Many people don't have fathers. Many people with fathers also did not know this.
Youtube is helping fill in these gaps alot, but you still have to know you have an issue to solve.
DuckWithBrokenWings ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:15:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But men aren't the only one to shave.
cqm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:22:41 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yeah I was thinking about the primary audience for facial hair when I wrote that, and what I could relate to
but you're right, this would apply to a lot of people for different parts of their body
OG_Lesh ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:55:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doctors hate him
Leifbron ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:49:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1 tip the doctors hate.
WutangCND ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:47:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had a full beard for 2.5 years because I cannot handle the burn and ingrown hairs anymore.
N1LEredd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:05:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get proper gear. Most importantly a safety razer with interchangeable single blades (so you can get really good,sharp ones) and a good shaving cream with plenty of fats and a brush to apply. Once I researched into it shaving stopped being a dreaded chore. Cartridge razers suck big time.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:36:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's far from a sure thing.
Jonaxg7 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:38:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
11 h 230 reply excuse me what
MrPestilence ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:44:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
thats not how you sell aftershaves.
bffsfavoritegelato ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:07:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Neither of my parents told me to use shaving cream after seeing me shave. I didnt realize it was important until I tried it months later. I thought it was normal for skin to sting and get inflamed after shaving.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:00:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did too. Cold water helped but wasnโt/isnโt enough on its own. I ended up adding Bump Stopper to the mix and my face looks so much better.
snaapshot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:05:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You sir need a better barber.
seaotter63 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:18:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doctor don't want you to know this 1 simple trick
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:36:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
unfortunitly it all about the money.
OnTheHill250 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:20:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Safety razor, shave brush, cold water and after shave = perfect shave EVERY time with no irritation
EDIT: Also noticing your hair pattern. Part of my neck I actually have to shave up to avoid going against the grain
youngmazino ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:34:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never get ingrown hairs... What does it feel like?
blindgorgon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:57:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A lot like a zit. Instead of emulsified oils blocking your pore itโs just the hair. Problem is as the hair keeps growing it gets worse because it has nowhere to go.
Extreme case. Not for the faint-hearted.
youngmazino ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:06:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That was .... awful
blindgorgon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:06:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah. Sorry.
Aether-Ore ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:42:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ingrowns hate him!
DunkenRage ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:59:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That and soap
Mulcch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:10:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to get bad bumps too. Other tips that helped me:
Shave with the grain of hair.
Use a very sharp razor and a single stroke if possible.
Shave in or after a shower so the hair is warm and your skin is moist.
Wash the soap/cream off with warm or hot water. Rinse with very cold water to close pores.
Let your skin dry before going to bed or laying down.
Moisturize, but not immediately after shaving as it can clog pores.
Biffabin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:56:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doesn't always work. I just grew a beard instead.
smooth-sailin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:12:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learned it during an interview with pharrell on how he looks 25 when heโs actually 45
Parmick ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:36:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is how I learned: https://youtu.be/WqntP9WTZuk
bluePMAknight ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:08:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously.
Step 1) Hot shower Step 2) Shave Step 3) COLD AF WATER Step 4) Dab dry Step 5) Aftershave
I have crazy sensitive skin on my neck and using this method I never get razor burn or Ingrown hairs.
GullibleDetective ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:37:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I NEVER get ingrown hairs, and thusly never do this; guess I'm lucky.
eye_need_money ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:19:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
science and stuff says that Hot water Opens pores & Cold water Closes pores
Krampus1313 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:03:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use castor oil instead of shaving cream worked for me
stcypdx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:29:26 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So it's been 23 days and I'm curious if the cold water trick is working for you
PM_ME_UR_LESBO_DREAM ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:36:51 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This single mom from Arkansas has changed the shaving industry with this one weird tip. Doctors hate her!
antbrit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:36:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Agreed. You use warm water to open the pores and soften the hair, and cold water to make your skin tense up. Then you apply after shave or moisturiser, and off you go.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:03:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What is aftershave? What is it for?
antbrit ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:05:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know if you're being serious or not, but it's a lotion or balm you put on your face to moisture the skin after shaving. It helps with cuts, dry skin, etc.
adamdoesmusic ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:42:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A lot of people (including myself) didn't know what it was actually for, and therefore never bothered using it!
antbrit ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:45:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really?! Well give it a go, my man. It'll make your face feel soft and you'll look fresh. When I don't use it, my face feels the same way as running your hand over a wall lol
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:11:20 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How does moisture "help" with cuts?
antbrit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:47:56 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Shaving can be quite aggressive on the skin, especially if your exposed to very cold or very hot weather. When you shave, you are removing the hair but you are also exfoliating in the most extreme way. If you don't moisturise it, it's going to stay dry, which is going to make your face look dry, tight, rough, and even a bit swollen. However, if you moisturise it, your skin is going to be full of all the stuff it needs to be healthy.
If you get a cut and don't put anything on it, you're having a bit of your skin cut open when all the surrounding area is also dry, tight, etc. Not only is an open cut that could get infected, but it's going to take a few days to heal. If you put something on it, first of all, your skin is going to be healthy. So it'll have all it need to heal the cuts and the aggressive process that it is to constantly slide a razor over it, but also, it's going to be this protective layer that is going to stop the filth in the air and in your hands to get into the cut.
I'd say, give it a go. Get some Nivea moisturiser/aftershave (one with no alcohol). You'll go from, like a said, feeling your face is like a wall (i.e. hairless but rough) to looking and feeling like the face of guys who never gets any facial hair and have a very smooth beard area.
For better results, make sure your beard/stubble is really, really wet. Ideally do this in the shower. Run your fingers across your beard to untangle it. Once you are out of the shower, run hot water and put the razor under the tap for like 10 seconds. Shave always following the grain, never against. Stretch your skin if you need to pulling from areas where you dont get hair like the cheeks or the side of the neck. Once your down, run the cold tap, rinse all the hairs and shaving gel still in the direction in which the hair grows. And then put on the moisturiser/after shave. Put on enough to see it shine a little bit. Cover all the areas you've shaved, and let it dry on you. Once it dries, you'll feel how it feel way smoother than it normally would. You can put on some more at the start of every day.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:35:02 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting. I'd be interested if it does help cuts heal. But I'm also actively trying to cut down on this kinda thing. All that plastic waste etc. I already stopped using shampoo. Maybe if there was one of those refill shops doing it... Or if there was a homemade solution.
Ytinifni999 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:20:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
24 hours after you shave, also try a gentle DIY scrub. Olive oil, coffee grounds and sugar is the best scrub I've used. It helps prevent ingrown hair. Also, try scrubbing your skin with this about 20 minutes before you shave (maybe save this for weekends).
Rikolas ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:51:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you not wash your face with cold water after a shave anyway??? How else do you get the residue off??
OzzieSmithNumba1 ยท 64 points ยท Posted at 05:30:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Goosebumps after shaving (legs) is torture, though. And gets ya bumpy.
[deleted] ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 10:29:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Bananapanda123 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 14:30:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For legs, the most important thing is to exfoliate first. I use the cheap Italy towels from amazon (I think theyโre actually Korean, I donโt know why theyโre called that). And I read something on here a couple years ago about using rubbing alcohol immediately after shaving. I donโt know why or how it works, but exfoliating, shaving, then spraying with alcohol has honestly fully eliminated razor burn and ingrown hairs for me. Itโs a life-changer.
locnessmnstr ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 11:30:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See now I'm confused because I have been shaving my face for 10+ years and cold water on my face would cause Razer burn almost immediately. Hot water is way better I thought
jwthaparc ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 11:44:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In my experience the opposite is my experience. Everyone's skin is a bit different though.
VHStape89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:39:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It works for the face, but I'm a lady and use it on my bits. So it's diverse!
atleast6people ยท 67 points ยท Posted at 04:11:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh my God. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
creedforpresident ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 05:33:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why does this work??
NerdLevel18 ยท 67 points ยท Posted at 07:06:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Probably Piloerections
Ninja Edit: thats thr name for hairs standing on end, and is also fun to say. Thanks, GCSE Science!
AlexioLucio ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 10:59:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did gcse science and didnt get taught about piloerections :(
NerdLevel18 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:05:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did you definitely do Biology?
AlexioLucio ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:03:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yeah I did all three 2 years ago
NerdLevel18 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:44:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, mine was 2013, so 6 years ago haha
Theycallmelizardboy ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 09:12:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My balls say thank you.
stinkybumbum ยท 58 points ยท Posted at 08:49:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How to Shave: 1. Splash warm to hot water on skin (opens up the pores and lifts hairs from skin) 2. Use a shaving brush to add shaving cream or balm to skin (softens and lifts the hair from the skin, making it easier to shave) 3. Shave, but going the same direction your hair grows.. DO NOT shave against the grain/flow. Try to only shave once on the area 4. Wash off the remaining cream/balm with fresh/COLD water 5. apply a moisturiser to the shaved area 6. Done
I've done this since I start shaving and my wife says I still have a faceas soft as a babies bottom....apart from the wrinkles
alltheothersrtaken ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 09:25:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm sure I read somewhere that the whole pores opening and closing thing was a myth.
Captain_Taggart ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 14:12:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is. I mentioned in a different comment that we donโt have tiny muscles around each pore that would allow them to open or close. Warm water or steam can loosen the shit that is clogging your pores, making it easier to remove, but your pores themselves donโt have anything about them that would allow them to react to temperature.
positivespadewonder ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 23:41:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then what causes your hairs to stand up when you get goosebumps?
PunkTyrant ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:31:49 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spidey senses
EeveeDinah ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:46:04 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thereโs a single little muscle at the base of each of your hairs. Thatโs the little white bit you see at the end of a strand if you pull it out. That muscle can tighten and straighten out your hair just a little.
adm_akbar ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:26:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, most of what is on reddit is total crap
stinkybumbum ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:56:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It could be but it all works for me.
stealthdawg ยท 70 points ยท Posted at 09:10:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve never understood the โwith the grainโ advice though. Maybe you can elaborate on why?
If I do only with the grain I have hair remaining clear as day both visibly and by feel. I go against the grain, multiple passes, havenโt had any trouble.
penguininfidel ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 09:29:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depends on the person. Going with ensures enough hair is left to not grow under the skin
dodgienum1 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 11:33:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going against the grain is more efficient, but more likely to cause cuts, ingrown hairs and irritated skin. Some people never have that problem but alot people do.
WitteValk ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:17:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would like to know this as well
jwthaparc ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:47:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you use a single blade razor, you can go against the grain. Multi-blade razors tend to cut the hair to short like someone else mentioned.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:36:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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jwthaparc ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:53:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's unfortunate. I guess I'm lucky. I usually shower/splash warm water, shave with a shaving soap, and brush. Use an old school safety razor, and do 3 passes (one with the grain, one across it, and one against it, to make sure the hair gets cut shorter each pass instead of all at once.) With little to no, pressure on my face with the razor. Followed by cold water, and a moisturizing aftershave balm.
That's been my routine for a while now, and I haven't had an ingrown hair since. I understand that there is no, magic solution to everyone's skin problems though. So what works for me may not be true for everyone.
stinkybumbum ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:58:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apparently it stops the hair follicles from damaging, also helps not to get ingrown hairs. Iโm not an expert but its advice worth noting.
Thundernerd ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 09:39:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I don't shave against the flow I look like I haven't properly shaved :(
doublehyphen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:40:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here, fortunately I have never had any ingrown hairs on my face.
Des0lus ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 09:51:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you don't use a 5blade fucking something which is way too expensive, you can't get a close shave with the grain.
You can't open the pores with warm water as described.
There is no study saying that it helps to use cold water afterwards. It might help, it might not, ymmw.
stinkybumbum ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 10:54:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It works for me. Also the cold water is meant to close the pores again. It seems to work ok for me unless Im just blessed with a baby face under my beard
Des0lus ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 11:28:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is no opening or closing of pores. Its a myth. Please don't give a how-to packed with myths and lies.
stinkybumbum ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 11:32:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
maybe, but it still cleans your face better than cold water. Plus I was just showing what I do for shaving, I'm not an expert and never said I was. Calm down, its just advice that works for me.
Des0lus ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 13:12:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its not 'maybe'. Its a myth, and it was proven to be false. And no one was talking about cleaning the face, you were talking about opening pores. If you want to clean your face use a cleanser.
You didn't say you were an expert but you worded it like that. Funny how everyone complains about fake news and the such, but random people giving 'how-to-advives' is okay.
You can state your experiences, but don't wird it call it how-to if its only your opinion!
stinkybumbum ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 14:48:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fucking calm down you plonker. I never said it was expert information at all. I was just giving an account on how to shave. Fuck me sideways eh ! Plus warm water does wash your face better than cold. Why don't you fuck off back to your dark dingy room and do something better with your life. ta ta
Des0lus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:24:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take your own advice.
I won't repeat myself about your original comment, since you don't seem to care.
But I will add that I never said anything different about the cleaning aspect of cold vs warm water.
penguininfidel ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:29:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Between 4 and 5: use an alum block
pencilneckgeekster ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:16:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm jealous. I feel like my facial skin has aged 5 years in the last year alone.
DutchSupremacy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:32:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All your tips are good except for number 3.
Plenty of people (like me) will still end up with a light stubble if they only shave with the grain. Going against the grain is necessary for a clean shaven look.
doublehyphen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:37:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or do it like me: dry and against the grain, with a dull razor. :P I sometimes use water or soap and water, but it is usually not necessary. I must have been blessed with good skin since shaving is never a hassle for me.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:40:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow. I literally take a dry razor to my legs. This sounds much nicer.
cosyrosie ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 07:23:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you. So much. So freaking goddamn much. I'm going to try this tonight and if it works I night actually cry to have finally solved it
FrancoisTruser ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 05:55:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought everyone knew that. Warm water to loosen the skin (if you donโt use electric razor). Cold water at the end to tight back the skin and protect it.
Jygantic ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:09:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learned this the first time I shaved when I taught myself with a wikihow lol
djdean93 ยท -9 points ยท Posted at 10:30:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Insert (possibly racial) absent father joke here.
Jygantic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:55:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Am white, and my father is still present in my life.
bushaisl ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 09:17:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does it also work if you epilate your hair?
Vcent ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 12:30:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Note, this is all anecdotal.
It probably won't do much, seeing as the point of the cold water is to make your hair stand slightly straighter, hopefully preserving the canal that it originally grew out of, and keeping it growing out of that canal, or at the very least keep it growing out of the skin.
When epilating, you're removing the hair much deeper(comparatively), so there's no real way of preserving the canal it came out of. You might want to try some gentle exfoliation a few days after epilating, wait a day or two and exfoliate again, adding in skin care if you need it.
This is all conjecture though, I ain't got no PhD in ingrown hairs.
DuckWithBrokenWings ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:17:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I need to know this, too!
Schmoopster ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:45:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me three. Never had problems with ingrown hair until I started using epilators. Went thru the pain of getting used to the pain, only to find out that shit gives you ingrown hairs thru the wazoo. Lol.
WillieEener ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 07:01:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you serious?!? I gonne give this a try. No doctor could help me. If this Works, i'll Tell everybody!
amosnahoy ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 09:19:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sadly, Willie was in a tragic accident while cleaning a handgun Willie did not own in a field Willie had never been to before. Big Derma sends its condolences and a portion of its most recent check from Gillette to loved ones.
alamaias ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:08:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To add to this, I have found putting a bit of disinfectant in the water you rinse the blade off in will greatly reduce irritation
callMike2813348004 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:48:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So out of all the tips about shaving not one person suggested this or adding after shave. It's like you're literally saving off the top layer of skin with a blade that's been sitting out. Why wouldn't you disinfect it? Also I've been out of aftershave and used hydrogen peroxide to clean my face after. Standard 1st aid. Get a cut, clean it.
vidar_97 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:10:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been puttning cold water on my face after shaving beacause i like the feeling, but I didn't know it helped against ingrown hairs.
vezokpiraka ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:48:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not a surefire way to fix it though.
VHStape89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:28:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sure, but it was all the difference I needed!
Flappybird11 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:48:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You may not know it now, but you may have just helped end a neckbeard, will DEFINITELY try this
Rej_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:09:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know you can just "trim" the neck beard at the minimum size possible, if you don't want to shave it, right?
Flappybird11 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:10:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh I desperately want to shave more often, however my neck gets an intense rash from ingrown hair because my neck hair grows in a different direction
Rej_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:35:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's what I mean, use the trimmer at the minimum 'height' / 'size' won't shave under the skin
Sir_Cunt99 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:47:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Does this also work if you (edit: also) shave against the grain? I tried recently just to see if my skin could handle it, but sure enough i got a shit ton of ingrown hairs. This is lovely advice though, sure hope i remember it lol
b11haf1 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 09:10:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is a halfway house. Going across the grain is far gentler on the skin. You can also then go across in the other direction to get even closer.
Sir_Cunt99 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:12:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's exactly what i did
pencilneckgeekster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:17:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
no, always shave with the grain.
lil-sesamesnap ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:55:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you! I get the all the time and my showers are a bit hotter than I'd like otherwise the hot water trips out and suddenly all you get is cold until you turn the water off. Definitely going to pay more attention when I do this (requirement for fake tanning to stop the black dots in your pores is to run some cool water over it after a shower).
Roy-van-der-Lee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:59:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also it feels soo nice
de_sipher ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:14:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For a solid 5 minute, I was like "freshly shaved skin" so like you cut it with a knife just enough so it doesn't bleed? Like you remove the top layer? Must be painful but I am going to try it out.
I FACEPALMED so hard when I realized what it meant.
Learning new things every day after starting to use Reddit. Now I know what ingrown hair is and how to deal with it. Thnx
red-hooded9 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:14:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what is ingrown hair?
proxypixie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:19:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When a hair is shaved close but grows out at an angle, sometimes causing a pimple-like sore/clog because the hair curls into the pore.
brandoroofwalker ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:23:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My junk thanks you
braedizzle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:37:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My pubic region thanks you.
Gofishyex ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:55:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to start my showers off ice cold, work it up to hot, clean out my pores with an exfoliating brush and soap, manscape, then switch to cold quickly and all my pores would seal and my skin was really clean.
Its pretty painful jumping into a cold shower so the habit eventually disintegrated.
djdean93 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 10:31:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't see how starting warm loses anything from the process.
MagicLuna ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:48:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So this is why my dad said to use cold water at the end
Mcinfopopup ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:31:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And like that, my life was changed. Seriously, this is the most underrated thing Iโve ever read. I and everyone in the โholy shit how do I get so many ingrown hairsโ club would like to honor you with this award.
LukariBRo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:45:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cold water is great because it's free, but wouldn't a toner like Witch Hazel (which is almost as cheap as water) do an even better job?
pencilneckgeekster ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:19:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it hasnโt in my experience.
Freevoulous ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:53:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
how does that work exactly?
slimeyslime123 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:00:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hot water to prepare the hair, cold water to seal the deal.
ChefOfScotland ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:08:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love u
Relay2134 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:08:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What. I'm always digging out ingrown hairs.
the-ape-of-death ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:14:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Huh I've been doing this my whole shaving career anyway as just the way I was taught, and to wake me up. I guess there was a good reason for it then.
actschp1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:30:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish this worked for me. I have hair on my face/chin/neck that will grow out of the hair follicle sideways and will always lead to painful ingrown hairs. Haven't touch a straight razor for years because of this.
bigoltubercle2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:38:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting, I found a straight razor almost completely got rid of my I ingrown hairs. I always have used cold water and had lots of ingrowns
amwad_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:33:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No way...
VHStape89 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:32:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes way, Ted!
amwad_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:33:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How log do you put the cold water on the area for? Just rinse it or?
VHStape89 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:05:02 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just splash the area, so the skin is a little cold from the water. Then pat dry.
dARKf3n1Xx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:35:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Love u
SirWalterMitty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:43:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh reallyyyyyyy.
SarcasticNut ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:43:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this after shaving my legs, itโs perfect advice
george_reeves_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:54:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cheers, Iโll remember this next time I shave
EllipsisIA ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:58:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh wow thank you for this
chump3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:07:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow, I wish I knew this before now!
ssacrist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:15:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If this is true it'll change mi life
unpainfulflork ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:21:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What exactly are the requirements of this? Do I just have to wet my hands and wipe them on my face for example? Or would I have to soak in cold water?
VHStape89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:30:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Right after shaving, I just splash the area with the coldest water that comes out of the tap, until your skin is cold. Then pay dry.
unpainfulflork ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:48:16 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay thank you ๐
DarkPlagus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:51:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fucking WHAT?! I switched to a beard trimmer over this shit.
fjordefiesta ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:02:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ofc Im reading this having shaved 3 hours ago and not used cold water
retundamonkey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:08:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just have up and stopped shaving.
ArcticWyvernRL ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:43:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've always done this without even knowing. Amazing if it actually works
the-salty-potato ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:47:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How about getting rid of the little bump things?
Some-Internet-Cafe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:48:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow! I didnโt even know this... what the fuck!
Definitely going to try even thought I donโt get many ingrowns if any.
jwthaparc ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:49:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use a single blade razor too. I feel like that was the best thing I've started doing for my face so far.
tuxman05 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:51:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just started shaving, so cheers.
yehaw_we_cornbread ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:07:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn if only I knew this yesterday when I shaved my whole body.
Melonbark ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:08:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh my god I'm gonna remember this thanks for this
dunkedyretvalnoed ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:10:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait does this actually work??
AXLPendergast ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:15:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Who knew?
Ytinifni999 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:18:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same case with waxing. Hehe. I usually request the lady at the salon to give me ice cubes for this.
purplepeoplefirefly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:19:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What. Really, does this work?
VHStape89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:26:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In my experience it has helped tremendously!
swinefish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:29:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
WHAT!? WHY DID NOBODY TELL ME!?
insistent_librarian ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:29:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Could you keep it down please? This is a public forum.
swinefish ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:10:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ooh, sorry, I forgot where I was. Um, while you're here, can you help me find a book?
bob669 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:29:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As hot as you can stand then nice cold tap! Struggled with razor burn till I was 19. Was told this by a mortician friend very useful, also told me not to cough so hard as you could irreversibly damage your lungs...
grapesofap ยท 14317 points ยท Posted at 02:07:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Directly expressing my needs instead of hinting.
TelcaCat ยท 5201 points ยท Posted at 05:13:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
That's secret #1 for a successful, long lasting marriage. #2 is: Marriage is work (but it's worth it)
Edit: thanks for all the comments, upvotes, and silver!
Source: am old, married long time
gettheetoanunnery ยท 70 points ยท Posted at 09:49:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Three top pieces of advice (from a comment I read on Reddit before, don't remember where) are be honest, communicate, and touch each other's butt.
ToBeReadOutLoud ยท 51 points ยท Posted at 10:19:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I pinch my husbandโs butt because heโs super ticklish so he squeals and runs away and it makes me laugh. 10/10 strongly recommend.
gettheetoanunnery ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 10:32:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whenever my husband and I hug, butts are in perfect reach and it's a battle of who can stand the tickling longest.
ToBeReadOutLoud ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 10:40:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am way less ticklish. I would win that battle easily.
Jarvicious ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:47:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife tries this occasionally. The only hard and fast rule I gave her is not to do it on the stairs. I have a hard time controlling my reaction sometimes and I'd rather not have a police investigation into my wife's new bruises.
kurisubaek ยท 148 points ยท Posted at 08:18:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Today I asked my not quite but living as married husband if he wanted me to get him a pie from the deli. He made a non-committal noise, I have no idea what it meant. It meant yes. Guess who didnโt get a pie. This is an ongoing problem that Iโm slowly training out of him.
SewnVagina ยท 120 points ยท Posted at 09:14:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you tell me you want pie, you get pie. If you don't tell me you want pie, you don't get pie. It would only take me one missed pie to get with the program.
ElTreceAlternitivo ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 10:33:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The secret to life right here... pielife.
TorontoGeyser ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 11:46:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Life of Pie
lithid ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 09:08:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good girl.
or boy
GuerrillaChicken ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 12:20:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't train him. Communicate with him. Training is manipulation. How would you feel if you found out he was training you into someone he wanted you to be? My wife and I are trying to dig our selves out of a 10 year hole that started over this very issue.
Communicate and create space for each other. Don't train and manipulate.
kurisubaek ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 12:23:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry, the whole training comment was a poorly made joke, he isnโt a dog or a child, and Iโm not his owner or mother. We are equals, and we do communicate. Iโm just really awkward, and not very funny, as Iโve learned from other replies. Thank you for the advice though.
krink0v ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:07:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I find it funny that you put dogs and children in the same level. Would never want to be your dog. (It's a joke you guys)
marianlibrarian13 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 16:48:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have both a dog and a child and the similarities are startling. Dog is acting up, when did he last get a good walk. Kid is acting up, when did we last go outside and run around.
Dog acting antsy? Itโs dinner time. Kid acting antsy? Itโs dinner time.
Dog nervous around new people, guess we need to socialize him more. Kid nervous around new people, time to socialize more.
kurisubaek ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:45:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think we both would have benefitted from using a โ/sโ, though we shouldnโt have to.
krink0v ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:37:55 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep, lol
GuerrillaChicken ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:05:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, I'm glad you brought it up. It's something that's common and needs to be addressed. ๐
Roolerk ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:27:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
While if they were serious youโd be right but this is also a common affectionate joke
reddit_is_phun ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:53:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife and I deal with this. Her response would be something along the lines of, "I didn't want it when you asked, but then I thought about it more and you should have gotten the pie anyway." Then we fight about how a simple phone call (communication) while I'm at the store would have netted some pie and I wouldn't be in trouble for saying I was getting pie then not delivering.
Lavanthus ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 09:46:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Express your feeling. Dropping hints like that is stupid.
You're an adult. Use communication and tell him.
kurisubaek ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 09:50:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I absolutely did. I said I didnโt realise he wanted one, I thought he said no. I realise now I didnโt actually finish the story. I took his non committal noise for a no. Itโs up to him to communicate properly to me, and not just all on my side. I canโt tell you how many times Iโve had to ask โis that a yes or a no?โ so Iโm well within my right to guess and blame him when I get it wrong. Communication works both ways.
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kurisubaek ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 12:20:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm under the impression that you think I planned this. As in, I woke up this morning and thought โIโm going to offer him something and heโll make an indecipherable noise and then I wonโt get him that thing just to teach him a lessonโ. No, that didnโt happen, Iโm not a manipulative person, and Iโm actually feeling a little strange that you care more about the situation than even he was? So I think Iโd rather end this conversation now, thank you.
HappyMcHappyPants ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 12:25:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think you were being messed with. You presented it very clearly to context. Good luck!
Lavanthus ยท -43 points ยท Posted at 09:59:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
> Itโs up to him to communicate properly to me, and not just all on my side
Correct, but how is he supposed to know if you didn't tell him?
How about next time you don't play that petty game of "Oh haha I'll just do something that will upset him because I didn't like the way he answered" and instead communicated that you are annoyed by his lack of a valid answer.
Too many times relationships are put into this position of pettiness where people will do something they know will piss off the other person, just to 'get back' at them. If you're doing this, your relationship is doomed. I stopped tolerating behavior like that, and my happiness has increased massively these past few years since I have.
You're also coming off as snarky, which makes this even worst.
The man isn't innocent either, but I'm not speaking to the man. I'm speaking to you. If I was talking to him, I'd be scolding him too.
Saying "is that a yes or a no" is not communication. It's coming off as attitude, and he will retaliate by doing exactly what he's been doing. THAT'S why it's unhealthy. It doesn't express why it upsets you, it doesn't express how it upsets you, and it doesn't express your feelings accurately to him, so he can get a better picture of how he's treating someone he cares about. You share blame in this, and stop trying to deflect it.
kurisubaek ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 10:14:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I started with โpardonโ, I moved onto โis that a yes or a no?โ, I didnโt deliberately fail to get him a pie because I knew it would upset him. Iโm not playing petty games, and that was the point of the post. I donโt play games, I ask for things directly and expect the same in return. Iโve told him I need proper yes or no answers, I have communicated to him properly about all of this and now the ball is in his court. He didnโt get a pie because he didnโt properly tell me that yes, he would like a pie, and thatโs on him, not me. Iโve told him I donโt understand what โughโ means, because with him, it could literally mean both. Sometimes it has meant yes, and sometimes it has said no, and I canโt tell the difference. Itโs a small quirk of our relationship that isnโt detrimental at all because neither of us are that frivolous that it matters (also, I made him dinner as soon as I told him โsorry, I didnโt think you wanted oneโ).
ElTreceAlternitivo ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 10:36:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt feel the need to defend yourself, that person is on an island by themself in their own head.
heptothejive ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 10:32:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think it might help to re-read the original comment. They asked someone a direct question, got a vague answer, and accidentally came to the wrong conclusion based on that vague answer. She then said she is working on the issue, implying there is already communication on the subject.
Also, if someone replies to a question with a noise instead of using words, it is absolutely appropriate to ask "was that a yes or a no?" How else are you going to understand exactly what that person meant?
CannedCaveman ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 11:22:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude.. you might be the one with issues here ;)
Lavanthus ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 11:43:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alright
icydeadppl37 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:30:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean you still have some pie that I'm sure he would love.
Makanly ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 11:06:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe specify the type of pie?
"I'm in the mood for a creampie."
low_key_little ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 14:36:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not to be a dick, but it sounds like whether or not he wants a pie isn't the only thing he has trouble committing to.
kurisubaek ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:47:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We actually just canโt afford to get married. Weโve been together going on 9 years, have 3 kids, weโre just not married on paper.
low_key_little ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:30:13 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can't afford to marry, or can't afford a wedding?
kurisubaek ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:14:37 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Both
low_key_little ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:16:15 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A marriage license was $75 in my state. Unless you're in a country that respects common law marriage, "basically a husband" doesn't mean much to hospitals or lawyers.
I'm not trying to beat up on you, and I don't know your life. I do know a lot of good people with live-in baby daddies who need to man up.
kurisubaek ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:29:16 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs okay, I get youโre not trying to beat up on me or hassle me about it.
In my country and state, it costs almost $300 for everything needed for a civil marriage ($297). Itโs not a whole lot, but itโs more than we can spend on something like that. As for hospitals and lawyers, Iโm not too sure, if you mean medical decisions and what happens in the event that I, or he, dies? Iโd have to look up hospitals, but because of the length of our relationship, itโs recognised by the state and all areas of the law.
xiroir ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 08:26:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im still young and the amount of people in my agegroup who dont yet realise this... i honestly blame education for not teaching us communication skills. Both me and my SO are social workers and thats helped a lot. And even then its hard work! (But worth it!)
Porsher12345 ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 08:44:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well I mean to be fair this shit you can't teach in schools, and even if it WAS, who would listen? Only the sensible students who already thought the same or similar things that they were being taught about communication (which is sorta ironic really). The idiots at the back would merely scoff and tune out like they normally would.
Mya__ ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 10:43:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You absolutely can teach socialization skills...
That's how anyone ever learns them, by being taught, by self or others. Saying you can't teach something in school is just an incompetent persons excuse to not try.
runasaur ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:12:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Somewhere between "no kid left behind" and "common core" and "standardized testing", a lot of the group projects and social skills got shelved.
My wife went to a small private school and it worked a lot easier when there's 10-12 kids per grade, before the year is over you worked with every one. I had just over 20 classmates 15 years ago at a public school, compared to my freshman nephew who has 37 classmates being taught by a 2-year new teacher who has to have good tests scores if she hopes to get tenured.
Porsher12345 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:53:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah that's what I'm sorta saying, only the people who would want to listen will listen. It's just the way it is, you unfortunately can't get everyone to tune in to what you're saying, especially if it's as 'unimportant' as learning to socialise or communicate. I took a course last year on it for I.T., can firmly backup my claims, everyone thought the class was bullshit.
Mya__ ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:01:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's how it is for all learning though.
So it means nothing in this context. You can still teach it in schools, but it's not currently being done or given emphasis.
xiroir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:30:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only People who want to understand math will understand math. Its just the way it is. Especially since how 'unimportant' math is. I took statistics in college, can firmly backup my claims, everyone thought the class was bullshit. You only need basic math, just enough to know how to pay for groceries. So lets not teach anything beyond that.
Porsher12345 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:37:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree with what you're saying. I completely wholeheartedly agree that communication is important (in fact it's probably the most important skill that anyone can learn). However, what I meant to get across is that the way communication class is taught is not effective enough to BE taught. As another user mentioned earlier, it needs to be engaging in order for students to want to listen and learn.
xiroir ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:48:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Who says communication class wouldnt be engaging? If anything it would be a DO class. Not a memorise class. And from what i remember kids love those more cause they are more chill. Ive had many classes like this in highschool and collage cause i went for social sciences. From my perspective you just dont know/see how such a class would work or be engaging. For me they were the most engaging classes ive ever taken. That will be different for everybody ofcourse. But i fail to see how thats any different with any other kind of class. My point is, these communication classes exist, but only in social degrees. When i think they should be for everbody.
theslyder ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 12:23:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Communication skills is the kind of thing that should be taught at younger ages by activities that help exercise those muscles. It wouldn't be taught in a lecture format in high school.
xiroir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:25:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So if i get this right. Because some kids wouldnt pay attention/wouldnt find it usefull, we shouldnt do it? In my experience if you make it fun kids will learn. Communication class would be a pretty chill class if you ask me. Also please dont get me started on how schools treat kids who are behind/ uninterested or slow. Thats an other huge problem in my opinion.
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 09:29:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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xiroir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:21:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha! Thats awesome! Keep it up! When they grow up they will appreciate it! At least their partners will!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:22:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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xiroir ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:33:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy poop you reply fast! Hey its good you working on you while working on them, you are helping them but also gettin used to it yourself. Lead by example we are all works in progress. You can only do your best! And doing your best is always good enough for me!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:34:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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xiroir ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:36:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, you are a superhero. ...Speedymessageperson ... ... its a name in progress.
liltank1218 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:58:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Social workers unite!
xiroir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:22:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lets all come together and bake a cake or something,
TelcaCat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:50:53 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I blame the entertainment industry, myself. Everyone is set up with really unrealistic expectations and no good examples! Glad you are able to talk with your SO!
Angus_McFife13 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:16:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You've only been in a classroom for 15% of your life by the time you graduate high school. You can't learn everything you need in school.
xiroir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:20:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ofcourse not but id rather learn about how to communicate with people (something we all need to do and would increase happyness of all) than learn how to do logarithms.
jimdalebob ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:34:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Heart surgeon numbah one!
hanimal3 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 13:20:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People always say "marriage is hard" but shouldn't it be "marriage is hard SOMETIMES" because my relationship is very easy and we do talk about "hard" stuff. I think of the whole marriage is hard then maybe it's not quite right??
I could be wrong: am young.
Rambles_Off_Topics ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 15:34:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My marriage hasn't been hard at all. We are straight up with each other and super honest. We are best friends and when there are issues expressed we try to work on those issues.Those issues are generally "hey when you empty out the egg carton throw it in the trash instead of leaving it in the fridge" type of issues lol.
hanimal3 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 15:46:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This makes me feel better. My boyfriend and I have similar "arguments" like
one person: "why did you put the knife like that in the dishwasher, it gets more clean this way" moves knife
other person: "ah yes ok that makes sense"
Rambles_Off_Topics ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:52:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly (hehe) honesty is the biggest part of a relationship. That is earned though..but I trust my wife 100% and I know she trusts me. The biggest issues I see with couples now in my late 20's are trust and their future expectations. Future expectations like: marrying someone who isn't religious and doesn't want kids versus someone who is religious and wants kids. Get those big life details worked out before you get married.
hanimal3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:16:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I literally asked him about kids and religion within a month of starting to date him bc that's a pretty big deal for me. Then we mostly agree on how to spend money and are both saving, so I think those are some of the biggest things.
Then of course, potential in-laws. I love his family so much! And my family lives pretty far away so I think it will work well.
Rambles_Off_Topics ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:20:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Definitely another thing to consider is the in-laws. Another thing I didn't (and possibly should have, but I really love their daughter) think about was their family. They are all nice and fine to be around but we aren't best friends. Sounds like you have a good BF!
jcpianiste ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:46:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"If you're just going to follow me around and tell me I'm doing things wrong then why should I even bother!" sighhhh
hanimal3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:29:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol as common as that is I don't think the tone of voice was conveyed. It was more of a learning experience than and antagonizing experience
imhoots ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:49:15 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In our house I can pack a dishwasher like nobody's business - therefore I load the dishwasher. My wife will just leave stuff in sink or if motivated will stick stuff randomly in the dishwasher knowing I will rearrange it.
Thinking about our marriage/partnership, I would say rather than share everything equally, we go with our strengths - she usually makes dinner, (although I can and do cook, especially on weekends) because she's a good cook and she's home while I am at work and commuting and I don't have time. I clean the kitchen and prep things for the next day because I'm good at that and she hates cleaning the kitchen.
Although I think everyone should be able to do everything in the kitchen, clearly some people are better, or enjoy it more, or just have more opportunity. The same foes for all facets of our life. She pays the bills and watches the money - she's better at it and has the opportunity and I trust her and let her do it her way. I'd say we pretty much do that for all things in our life.
hanimal3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:42:36 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sounds like an awesome partnership!
Did you guys discuss who does what? Or was it more of an unspoken understanding?
TelcaCat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:44:36 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, I did say โwork,โ not โhard.โ Itโs like when you do something really taxing but at the end you feel GREAT and you have accomplished something. Youโre already doing the work with the hard conversations. I did things like hide the mail because I was too scared to talk about money and bills. I was not doing the work then.
hanimal3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:28:01 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for the clarification!
I think you're completely right
Gunnerz03 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 17:13:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a discussion with my girlfriend about love and lasting relationships. Long story short: I believe love is that can start on it's own, but can only last when both parties make conscious, determined decisions to stay in love. Which is why "Marriage is work" is true.
Failed_to_Lunch ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:55:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if I don't like sex?
Agent223 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:40:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you sure? My girlfriend of twelve years has been telling me that I'm not intuitive enough. It's been stressful, not being able to read minds.
seedlesssoul ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:29:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm younger and married a short time. This is sound advice.
WutangCND ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:48:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Married 5.5 years, talking is CRUCIAL
wordlesser ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 12:39:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My husband and I have this saying: "word sounds are good sounds"
It just means we're not allowed to grump at each other, unless we expressed ourselves clearly, because we aren't mind readers. Even jokingly saying "word sounds, not grump sounds" kept us from many a fight.
DaughterEarth ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:43:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alright any tips for getting my husband to stop hinting everything? I've asked him not to, both when exasperated and when calm. I've tried ignoring hints.
He gets it from his mom but I doubt "you're acting like your mom" is a good approach lol
sacca7 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:54:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously, go to a marriage counselor. When one person doesn't "get it," a third party can often convey what is needed to help the marriage function.
My in-laws (in their 90s) hint at every f***ing thing, and it drives me nuts. Thankfully, hubby and I did get marriage counseling decades ago (yeah, I'm old) and it payed off! He never hints, always is clear regarding wants and not-wants.
In-laws are too old to change, it's weird how stuck people in old age are. So, best resolve the communication skills early on!
DaughterEarth ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:06:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No doubt! We'll be doing that when we move back home.
HenMeck ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:44:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Am old, married long time ๐๐
LaPiscinaDeLaMuerte ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:44:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really not sure why, but I totally read that in an old, wise Asian man's voice.
Let_you_down ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:57:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Divorce can be expensive.
It can also be worth it.
Source: Divorced.
John_Q_Deist ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:51:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Something that goes hand-in-hand with this is: never let it be you against them, always make it us against the problem.
toilet_scum ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:34:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Absolutely love how source was phrased ๐
morningride2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:16:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me love you long time
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:58:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was married. It was all work and no play. Divorced and much happier.
justavault ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:53:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*relationship
That's the easy way to make relationship work. Bad thing tho is if you start too late to communicate yourself, that will be a hard test.
TelcaCat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:13:48 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, excellent correction. Relationship, not just marriage.
CeilDeAlta ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:17:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My secret is that no one wants to marry me. Or date me.
greybush80 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:43:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Steps unclear
Satherian ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:27:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most of the best things take work
PM_ME-AMAZONGIFTCARD ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:53:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Love you long time
DAMunzy_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:29:07 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
#3 your spouse has to give a damn.
TelcaCat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:35:30 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Offda. Yeah, true that.
yolojop ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:47:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
how old if i may ask noble sir?
PM_ME_YOUR_DEAD_KIDS ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:28:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
72.
lIIlIIlllIllllIIllIl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:49:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whatโs the secret to being married to one person without being tempted by new or younger people?
PM_ME_YOUR_DEAD_KIDS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:52:52 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is none, you either cheat. Or you have a open relationship after speaking to one another.
lIIlIIlllIllllIIllIl ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:36:45 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So thereโs no such thing as sticking with one person forever?
PM_ME_YOUR_DEAD_KIDS ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:36:11 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nope. Love is a lie.
TelcaCat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:15:48 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Old enough that yโall should probably stay off my lawn. :D
arktik21 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:14:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thought this said massage, guess it still applies
Bob_Loblaw007 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 16:54:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If your marriage is hard work, you married the wrong person.
TelcaCat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:56:31 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmmm. Yeah, if itโs all hard work, probably.
Bultokki ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:32:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Very hard to do though when you've been taught not to be annoying
prettyoddpotato ยท 152 points ยท Posted at 05:45:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
More people need to do this. I like to ask when someone tells me about a problem, "Do you need me to give advice, just listen, or offer support?" That helps them be direct, so it's very clear what they need and it avoids the whole "I don't want you to help, I just want you to listen!" argument.
SteamyBlizz ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 07:46:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's a really good idea. I'm the "always give advice" guy and my gf sometimes gets a bit mad if she was just looking for support and someone to vent to.
xiroir ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:29:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im in the same boat. Im gonna do that guys suggestion next time
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:40:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've always had this problem. At some level I find it hard to get my head around people wanting to just talk when the solution is actually quite easy. Though in some cases I think that says as much about me as them
monocle_and_a_tophat ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 08:41:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do you do if you say this to your partner, and then they freak out because you're making it so 'clinical' and unnatural by asking, which makes them feel even worse?
yokcos700 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 08:59:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
get a better partner, or no partner
FieryLizard ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 10:22:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think tgere are ways to ask it like a human, not an "emotion machine 2000".
Don't ask it like: "Hi, I noticed you're feeling down. Do you want me to a- listen, b- offer advice or c- leave you be".
Just say something like. "Hey, I noticed you're not feeling well. Hope it's all good. If you want to talk about it or something, I'm always here. You know where to find me." And then act accordingly depending on response.
monocle_and_a_tophat ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 11:52:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ya that could be a good piece of advice, thanks
prettyoddpotato ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 13:58:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd recommend being just slightly more specific in how you phrase it, like "What could I do to help?" It informs the person that you want to help and gives them the opportunity for them to answer the question right then and there.
Shu088 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:07:19 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This just helped me a lot! Thank you
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:36:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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prettyoddpotato ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:55:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd say this. It gives the other person an opportunity to say exactly what they want without sounding a little on the robotic side. I do find, however, that sending the exact message is best when texting/emailing/messaging someone.
rofex ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:42:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn good idea. Will definitely use in the future.
LookingForBearFacts ยท 449 points ยท Posted at 06:10:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People always say this about romantic relationships, but it works in any type of relationship. Making the active choice (with the help of a modicum of alcohol) to just tell my friends that I often feel like an outcast in our group and that I'd just like to be more included was the best decision I've ever made. Turns out they thought I wasn't ever asking to hang out because I didn't want to, and now they invite me over a lot more. My friends actually like me, who knew?
Theaisyah ยท 60 points ยท Posted at 08:22:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That must have felt such a relief
NotThrowAwayAccount9 ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 08:47:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think that is often the issue, someone wants to be included and the other party times they don't want to be included. I remember my brother once telling me I never wanted to come to family occasions, I wanted to come, but I worked a night job for minimum wage where taking a day off was basically forbidden, for several years. I certainly WANTED to go, I just didn't have that option.
Magikarp_King ยท 62 points ยท Posted at 06:49:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Wait you can do that? Just tell someone exactly what you need without making them guess for hours after you have been mopey for a week.
Sorry this just triggers me. Had to deal with it too much.
silver_quinn ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:51:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man that is way too familiar.
Abell370 ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 08:12:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People often say I'm a bit direct, I never understood why this would be considered something bad. People always know what I want, what I think and what I mean. No second guessing, no implying, no doubt.
I have yet to experience any downsides as well, so I see no reason to stop.
DurianExecutioner ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 10:28:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly, just give people a way of saying no without it being awkward and you're fine.
Some people are socialised to be inappropriately responsible for other people's feelings, and not to "upset" people by refusing a direct request/suggestion - to the point that doing so was almost unthinkable.
However, making an honest, sincere attempt to work together towards more openness is a good thing. It's not an excuse to be socially unintelligent or willfully ignorant, but it's an opportunity for healthier, less co-dependent relationships in the long run IMO.
buckus69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:14:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's people who use the "I'm direct and to the point" to mean "I'm a selfish asshole."
There's ways to express yourself without being an asshole.
Abell370 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:17:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you implying you think Iโm secretly just an asshole?
Because if so, assuming someone is an asshole based on a single 2 sentence post is kind of an asshole thing to do.
buckus69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:25:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not calling you an asshole, just also relating that there are people who use the phrase, "sorry, I'm really direct" to mean "sorry, I'm an asshole."
Abell370 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:27:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My apologies, it sounded like you did.
buckus69 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:10:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
NP. Sometimes it can be hard to determine intent here on THE INTERNET
interbission2 ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 08:26:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I started consciously doing this as a new yearsโ resolution this year and it completely changed my life for the better. Silently stewing about not getting what you want when you havenโt even said what you want helps no one and hurts everyone.
spinana ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 07:55:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think of this same thing but another way 'figure out what you want then ask nicely for it'. Works wonders when you take the time to do it.
xiroir ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:32:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When something starts bothering me about someone i try to think of all the other good things they do. Puts them into perspective, cheers me up enough to tell them in a neutral way that thing you doing is bothering me. Doesnt always work because heat of the moment. But it works wonders when i do, do it.
s00perguy ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 06:48:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
are you my wife? we've been working on this for the almost 5 years we've been together. she's better than when we started, but every now and then she forgets how to be an adult (I am certainly not blameless either.)
wackawacka2 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 07:54:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
With me it's my husband. It doesn't happen unless he's frustrated with something else, but sometimes I have to remind him that I'm not fucking clairvoyant.
DjangoHawkins ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 06:35:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best advice in the entire thread.
The-True-Kehlder ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 08:30:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hinting is fine so long as you can take them not figuring it out. It can be fun to just hint and play those games, but again, they're just for play and no one should be getting upset over it.
UnacceptableUse ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 08:50:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"who just says exactly what they're thinking? What kind of game is that?"
nouganouga ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 08:27:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clear communication is one of the most important things in any relation
SOwED ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 08:39:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh shit there's a sniper get d
Kaldenar ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 09:09:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not being direct with your wishes and is pretty much the single worst move you can make in a relationship. This should be the top post.
22ndsol ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:32:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deadass got sucked into a sexually and emotionally abusive relationship because I couldn't do this when I was young.
Y'all. It's magic. Even if you can't do it completely, saying
"Hey, I have trouble asking for things directly. If I'm talking around something or seem weird, asking me directly if I need or want anything lets me actually make my needs known"
will help a lot.
Do iiiiiit.
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22ndsol ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:26:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
your username isn't though! that's a hell of a name. how'd you pick it?
[deleted] ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 17:06:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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ManicScumCat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:33:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
filthy fucking casual
TimX24968B ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 04:26:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"tried, girl i like now thinks im a creep"
(/s)
silver_quinn ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 07:51:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's what happens when the only need you express is 'me want the butt sex' (/s...obviously)
SOwED ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 08:38:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah the advice is about needs. I need butt sex
3_Slice ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:54:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt know? Thatโs kinda why I like Fetlife. Everyone is very direct about what our needs are sexually. So far, Iโve had the best sex and exactly how I wanted it.
buckus69 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 16:15:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait, what is this fetlife? Asking...for a friend.
Like_to_wear_pants ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:47:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife needs to do that.
tioomeow ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:51:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
directly express that to her!
inept_timelord ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:21:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Last night I got home real late from school. I got myself some mcdonalds and my gf said she didn't want anything. So I wanted to be extra fat and got a burger aaaaanddddd chicken nuggets. When I got home her eyes lit up and she said, "you got me chicken nuggets even though I said I wasn't hungry?" So of course I immediately said, "yep," with a smirk and gave them too her. She is none the wiser and i'm not a total fatass lol. win win.
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 07:00:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're a woman and you're actually following that advice in your day-to-day, you're a goddess.
ToBeReadOutLoud ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 10:22:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learned this very early in my relationship with my husband. He does not pick up on subtle hints, so I stopped giving subtle hints. I donโt know why people continue to give subtle hints for years when the solution is so easy.
Pac_Eddy ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 12:42:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife uses hinting, hoping and implying ALL the time. It is so frustrating.
Sometimes I miss the hints. Other times I catch them, but I feel like I'm being manipulated, so I am angered, and I ignore the hints.
On the flip side, it feels like she's dissecting all my words and actions for hints. I'm pretty straightforward, so again, it doesn't go over well.
We are working on it though. Just a lot harder than I thought it would be.
tiredofbeingyelledat ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:29:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I feel you. Have you and your wife checked out the โlove languageโ and apology language assessments to help you figure out your emotional needs? Made by a therapist. They made a HUGE difference for my husband and I. Going on 15 years together and these helped me know what I need and just ask
https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/
https://bfm.familyfed.org/wp-content/uploads/5-Love-Languages-Quiz.pdf
Or
https://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/apology/
(These are the apology one)
Pac_Eddy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:31:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, we did just recently take the quiz from The 5 Love Languages. As expected, we are polar opposites. Knowing that helps, but changing how we operate is tough.
Thanks for the comment and the links.
mercuryminded ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:28:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Subtle hints are a game, and games are just for fun. It's funny when a guy gets a hint after the 28th try.
1quirkyquokka ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 08:26:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Recently started doing this to better my relationships, now know it was REALLY my path to being a goddess. Thanks!
tumblr_gremlin ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:48:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I met my husband, he affectionately called me after a few dates his โbrick through a windowโ and was thrilled that I am not subtle about what I want. (Although he mainly meant if itโs regarding sex or food, lmao) I do think there are areas I could work on being more open and expressive with him. I struggle with doing that with my emotions, but have no qualms about telling him if I want a kiss, to snuggle, to fuck, to have a snack with him, etc. The emotional stuff is harder.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:24:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How does "I need to see your testicles, right now." sound?
2mg1ml ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:16:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll just close the door
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 11:27:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck, my plan has been foiled. Now I'll never find love.
Zjoee ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:40:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless they're closing the door so you two can have privacy.
2mg1ml ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:29:59 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, that was just one big failed RP haha should've chosen better wording
Zjoee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:04:22 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll just hang my head in shame over here in the corner haha
TheRedBow ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:29:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This feels like a personal attack
-Flurgles ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 11:52:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried. He calls it nagging. Worst part is, I'm disabled and he promised the ss administration to be my caretaker.
grapesofap ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:53:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
can you request a different caretaker?
-Flurgles ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:45:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No. Hes someone who volunteered, who was already my boyfriend.
Bren12310 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:18:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate this. Iโve had people get mad at me before because I wasnโt doing what they wanted me to do when they never explicitly asked. Theyโve even gone behind my back and talked shut about me for not doing it.
If you want something done, just grow up and ask.
Gr1pp717 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:26:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No no. Do neither. Instead, try to manipulate people into giving you what you want!
Source: I have a mother.
ParanoidQ ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 11:56:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This, everytime this. Nothing infuriates me more when my partner infers she wants something rather than just coming out and saying it. Then gets angry at me for not picking up on what she wanted. This builds up a lot of resentment and latent irritation that takes quite a long time to go away.
Also puts you on edge. Constantly re-reading things to make sure you haven't missed out on some far away meaning of an intonation.
MercuryMadHatter ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:46:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Adding to this because someone said it was the answer to marriage. Sometimes admitting how you feel, and even saying "I know you didn't mean for it to come off like this, but it made me feel like this" is amazing. Always directly express yourself and your feelings. My husband and I found that our communication got a lot better. We also stopped taking that honesty from the other personally. Because we're not criticizing the other person, we're trying to rework the way we behave to be better.
XTravellingAccountX ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:48:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Story of my ex girlfriends.
Wexzuz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:38:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you! I have always believed this - great to have it confirmed.
utterlyjames ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:19:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Babe, I need sex!
beccafawn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:30:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This seems so simple, but it's so hard sometimes.
blanketytank0808 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:45:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True. This is something that comes with age, Iโve realized.
PureMitten ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:00:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve been working on this, I was raised with hinting being the norm for all requests so I sometimes realize I was hinting when I thought I was making a straightforward request.
The worst is working hard to be upfront, honest, and clear with someone who doesnโt realize theyโre not being clear. Someone once communicated all her issues with me through a mutual friend and Iโd come around and talk to her directly. She had a tendency to freak out with no warning so on one sensitive topic, I tried to communicate through the mutual friend (mutual friend was much closer to both of us than we were to each other so I thought he could be more delicate than I could) and the mutual friend was afraid to talk to her, too. When it became clear that he hadnโt said anything I went to her to talk. At that point she was offended Iโd tried to go through our friend so she told me I should try to be upfront like she had always been. Thatโs some high grade bullshit so between that and just how many problems she had with me for barely knowing each other I uninvited her from the regular hang outs at my house and stopped talking to her.
jennifer_lori_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:24:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
THIS! It took me SO long to figure out I need to ask the questions I want answered... not pussyfoot around them and wait for the other person to guess what I really want to know.
Echospite ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:44:41 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I will kick you out of my life if you hint at me and get mad I ignore/don't get it. Fuck that shit.
fromRonnie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:08:09 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Considering how men and women interpret hints so differently, this is gold, and what so many men have been wanting.
covfefe15 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:08:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I kept reading weeds ;)
xiroir ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:22:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a bullshit radar and i cannot stand people who do this. But nearly everyone does. My friends find out real quick not to do that.
toomanyrougneds ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:13:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And its corollaries: the other person directly expressing their needs is not attacking you, and that neither your nor their โneedsโ might actually be needs.
You need food, water, shelter, clothing, protection from harm, and respect: you donโt and could never and will never โneedโ a certain specific sex act or a certain food or a certain level of wealth.
Exsces95 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:50:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice try Greg
FennFinder4k ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:31:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's early and i read this as "instead of hitting"
Linkinbird ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:43:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you by chance... a female?
grapesofap ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:46:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lol yes
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:57:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Men and women both need to learn this for improving their relationships.
Subtle hints donโt work.
Strong hints donโt work.
OBVIOUS hints donโt work!
Just say what you want and youโll probably get it!
PolyDipsoManiac ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:47:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doing the work of gods here.
FozzyLove ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:14:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty solid advice.
rehab_baby ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:36:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. I literally went through a breakup yesterday because my partner couldnโt express their needs. Itโs so important to healthy relationships, romantic or not.
mnyc86 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:09:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This should be at the top, and especially for people in relationships
RykerRando ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:51:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This comment needs all the love!
canIbeMichael ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:05:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife didn't get her brakes fixed in 1 day(me changing them) due to not having a tool and it being late on Sunday.
She flipped out and 5 minutes later she apologized.
That was perfect. Couldn't have asked for much more than that.
BearerBear ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:06:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My boyfriend always quotes his dad, โclosed mouth donโt get fedโ.
ImNotBoringYouAre ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:23:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I need to work on this so bad. I never got what I asked for growing up, only what my dad decided I needed. I never learned to express my wants and needs properly, now I just automatically put myself last in line for everything and automatically assume what I want, need, or desire, isn't important.
shh--bby ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:04:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is so true. And I agree. And I can't follow through with it.
LSDLACEDBUD ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:12:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Idk man i have. Afetish for just getting what i want while mildy hinting and than if at any moment i hint to much its over and i no longer want to do anything
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:52:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A lot of people discuss relationship issues with me (I hate it, I must have a pheromone or something) and 99% of the time my response, after hearing everything out is "well have you told them this?"
You already know they haven't.
Like, I get that it's not easy to express your wants and needs, but not doing that is clearly making you miserable. Maybe, just maybe, express some wants and needs to your partner?!
cantthinkatall ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:48:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hear that women?
oxygenmoron ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 16:31:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But that sounds so needy & wimpy and a little bit gay.
'you're ignoring me and I feel hurt.'
It's like saying LOL instead of actually laughing. The way to express some feelings is to express them, not articulate them. If you are sad, you cry, you don't tell the other person 'I'm feeling sad and am going to cry'. If you do that, it means you're not sad enough to cry.
salamander423 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:02:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You've taken the wrong message. No one is saying to tell your partner "I'm sad and I plan on crying in 10 minutes".
The idea is if you want or need something, you need to communicate it. How will you partner know they hurt your feelings or upset you if you don't tell them? People aren't psychic.
Also, your first sentence is incredibly immature.
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salamander423 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:28:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why not? If your partner doesn't do it, and it upsets you, you should tell them. You can say "My birthday is important to me, so I'd like to be treated to a night out as my gift." I did, and it turned out a hell of a lot better than if I just wished really hard and made passive noises at my partner. You don't have to express yourself like a robot.
lIIlIIlllIllllIIllIl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:00:51 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But sometimes the importance to people of being treated well on their birthday is that their partner/friend thought to do/get something for them of their own accord. It can be more important than the gift or treatment itself.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 18:36:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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salamander423 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:44:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please stop construing what I'm saying in an emotionally-blind manner. No one is saying, and I'm not advocating saying, anything like "Oh hey wife, I would like to kiss you, and would like it if you didn't push me away cos that hurts my feelings. If you accept these conditions, please sign here." People don't speak like that, and that is absolutely not what I'm saying. You would say something like "I've noticed that we haven't been intimate or kissed in a while, and I miss you. Can we plan some time together?"
If your partner doesn't know what you want or need, how are they going to give it to you? People can't read minds, and if you and your partner are so incompatible that you can't express or get what you need, then you need to separate.
[deleted] ยท -10 points ยท Posted at 09:02:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wants or needs?
Needs are food, water, and shelter.
DurianExecutioner ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:31:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Young children, working in the Welsh coal pits just last century, opening and closing doors for ventilation purposes, had to sit in the pitch dark for twelve hours a day, six days a week, in silence.
They had food, water and shelter.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:32:21 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then their needs were met.
smityhasnwrth43 ยท 14191 points ยท Posted at 01:43:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Your gums bleed when you floss because you don't floss enough"
Turns out if you floss enough, your gums won't be inflamed so they don't bleed when you floss
exactly_wrong ยท 4337 points ยท Posted at 02:20:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs true. Or at least get an electric toothbrush.
Source: am dental hygienist
TeaPartyInTheGarden ยท 162 points ยท Posted at 04:43:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh! Can I ask some advice please?
I got an electric toothbrush (after wanting one for years). On advice from my dentist I used the softest brush head and โgentleโ setting. It still felt very harsh on my gums. I was also told my gums have receded slightly, probably due to poor brushing technique, so Iโve been a bit worried about what the electric brush was doing. (Iโm 31, if that has any bearing). So because I was being careful of my gums I ended up not cleaning my teeth around the gum line properly.
I brought it up with my dentist and was advised to just go back to a manual brush. My question, as I see advise to use an electric brush all the time, is: are my gums in danger and what can I do to use the electric brush more effectively?
yikmonster ยท 181 points ยท Posted at 08:12:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My husband used to brush too hard. He got an electric toothbrush that lights up red to let him know when he needs to ease up, it's been super effective.
kaynpayn ยท 63 points ยท Posted at 09:50:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Any oralB I think. Mine lights up to warn you and if you ignore and push harder it stops until you ease up. I think mine is the Oral B Oxyjet + PRO 3000
At least the image looks the same as mine. It has an extra tool that shoots pressurized water to clean between your teeth. It's not a substitute to those tiny brushes that clean between your teeth or dental floss but it does remove a ton of gunk that would remain otherwise.
If feels awesome, use it with warm water and it's like a Jacuzzi for your mouth/teeth. Your dentist uses something similar except his is a much higher powered version, usually to remove plaque. This one isn't meant to do the same, just to clean in hard to reach places.
Bac2Zac ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 13:47:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm broke as fuck. The most expensive thing I've bought all year is this toothbrush. I regret not a cent.
redlightsaber ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 10:00:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I thought it was a gimmick until my GF (who turns brush heads into war zones within a matter of days due to how hard she pushes), stopped doing it, on account of how disturbing the red light is, lol.
It really is effective.
TheYoungGriffin ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 10:02:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Girlfriend used toothbrush. It's super effective.
Contension ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:57:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah but what is the benefit of brushing gently? Whenever I use my electric brush it feels like itโs barely doing anything
redlightsaber ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 11:08:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When push the bristles right up to your teeth to the point they're bent, they aren't really able to clean much at all (especially in the tiny crevices around and between teeth), even if the pressure is making you feel like it is.
Think of a long-bristled broom, and you trying to sweep with it my pushing down on it until the bristles are almost parallel to the floor. How effective is that?
Contension ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 11:10:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if youโre vigorously brushing side to side whilst you smash it against your teeth? I guess my question is, how is it better than a regular tooth brush?
redlightsaber ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 11:19:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Again think of the broom. The force you're applying is ironically impeding an effective cleaning.
When used correctly, electric brushes have more variations in movement (they "brush" with circular heads in a half-circle movement in the case of oral-b), and just plainly do it so quickly that you end up brushing a total many more times than you could possibly do with a manual brush, even if used correctly.
In your example, if you brush side to side, you're not really getting any/many bristles in the space between your teeth and close to your gums, where it's even more important to clean. And if you only brush up-down (as you're told), you also miss some crevasses that are around your irregular molars. Electrics just. Get tons of bristles inside everywhere, and move them around so many times that it's just that much of a superior clean, even with "soft" brushes.
That's the mechanism, but if you want actual evidence that they're that much more effective, that's just unquestionable as well. I could attempt to dig some up for you, if you're really interested.
Schnoofles ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 13:59:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What finally got me to realize I had been doing it wrong by applying too much pressure was to consider what a toothbrush + paste really is. Toothpaste is an abrasive cream. The brush, besides some mechanical removal of bits of food is only there to facilitate the paste doing its job. If you've ever done any bodywork on a car you're basically dealing with the same scenario. Too much pressure just makes the bristles lie down flat and so when they're going one direction they're just sliding over the surface of the teeth without actually grinding the paste against the teeth effectively. Then when the brush head reverses you end up with the tips of the bristles stabbing into your gums and ruining your day. Light, but steady pressure keeps the bristles straight and they work in all directions.
sydneySW ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:49:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs spinning so fast!
Ucla_The_Mok ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 10:25:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So you're the guy sticking his dick in crazy.
redlightsaber ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:26:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not really. She's the healthiest, most stable woman I've ever been with. She just brushed too hard. Also, that saying (and related ones) is something I don't really agree with. I'm also having the best sex in my life, without question.
Crazy is overrated.
Ucla_The_Mok ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:44:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Brushing too hard is a sign of mental illness.
https://mental-health-matters.com/oral-health-and-mental-illness-yes-they-are-related/
janej0nes ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:01:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
well ok this explains my brushing habits through various stages of my life. this gonna be my new zodiac or MBTI for screening potential dates lol
redlightsaber ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:31:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cool?
3_Slice ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 08:47:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm gonna need the link to this brush
jonathansson ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 08:54:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A lot of the Oral-b models have them. Ive had one for years and they are great!
DionysusMan ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:25:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I still have a real nice e-brush, but a pack of heads are so expensive (more than the brush itself), I ended up switching to manual anyways.
EDIT: Itโs what you get when you buy an As-Seen-On-Tv product with disposable/consumable parts.
teh_fizz ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:34:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My hygienist said to just use the normal brush that comes with. The others arenโt necessarily better for normal cleaning. I bought a bundle when they were in sale (I go through one every 3-4 months) and it costs me a bit more than buying 4 regular soft bristle toothbrushes.
My last hygienist appointment was filled with compliments over how good a job Iโm doing, plus I feel cleaning in the mouth, so itโs worth it.
DionysusMan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:58:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I mean, the thingโs nice and all, but $99 for a 4-pack of proprietary brush heads built specifically for a $50 e-brush I found in Wal-Mart clearance for $10 is a tad on the ridiculous side.
EDIT: Itโs what you get when you buy an As-Seen-On-Tv product with disposable/consumable parts.
janej0nes ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:02:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yeah just go oral-b at that point. was $25 for four brush heads, and I go through one brush head in about 4 months.
edit to agree with above comment, too: my dentist is so impressed with my teeth now that I switched to electric
teh_fizz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:12:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs an insane price. I got 4 heads for โฌ15. What kind of ripoff is that man?
DionysusMan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:28:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs an โAs-Seen-On-TVโ kind of rip-off. One that I canโt even find where they aired theyโre infomercials.
Littlebrownfoxx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:50:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Amazon or China. No excuses, so cheap lol
dahshad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:32:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
buy cheap generic brushheads on amazon
DionysusMan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:46:14 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trust me, I tried that.
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 10:06:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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fannymcslap ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:13:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How does warm water and tea tree oil rebuild the bristles?
Kokoro87 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:25:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Got me and my wife one too, they are great!
yikmonster ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:13:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He got his a few years ago, I don't think the exact model is available anymore. However, it is an Oral B and many of these have the same pressure sensor as his.
https://oralb.com/en-us/products/compare/electric-toothbrushes
TheYoungGriffin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:00:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Husband used toothbrush. It's super effective.
yikmonster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:12:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Precisely.
TheFlyingNapkin ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 08:52:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When switching to an electric it's totally normal for gums to bleed and to have sensitivity problems for up to 2 weeks. Remember that forcefully pushing the brush head against your teeth won't result in a better clean. Simply hold the brush against the teeth gently and cover all surfaces. Flossing and mouthwash will get the hard to reach places a tooth brush can't.
Try flossing before you brush! You'll open up your gums to get a deeper clean with your toothbrush. Always remember your teeth are hard, but your gums aren't! Quality dental care is all about healthy gums.
ilski ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 10:27:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate flossing with dental floss:/ it uncomfortable and it sucks. Any techniques to make it not suck ?
flash_falcon ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 10:49:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate flossing but the floss sticks changed that for me. It took me a while to get used to flossing but the sticks made a difference after lots of dental work and reminders to take care of my teeth.
As for getting stuck, just keep at it and rock the floss back and forth as you pull it out. Don't just yank it.
40044327 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:55:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What about a waterpik? I hate flossing with actual floss but a waterpik works well for me. I am not sure the benefits of floss vs waterpik is on gum health though.. But I'm sure it massages the gums as the water pressure is pretty high
LadyK8TheGr8 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:17:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
RDA here, waterpik is great! Itโs like an electric flosser. We recommend it to all of our patients any my work. Pour some mouthwash in there too for maximum results.
shoedepotca ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:21:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why do some dental office people recommend against WaterPik?
LadyK8TheGr8 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:28:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Idk, we see all kinds of patients. All five dentists and 5 hygienists at work recommend it. Itโs great if you have fragile tooth structure or braces.
40044327 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:30:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for the advice! That's great to know it is recommended. I wasn't sure if it had the same effect on the gums as floss. I like the waterpik because my teeth are so close together so when I use actual floss it really hits the bottom of my gum hard when the floss finally gets through the tooth gap
justonemorethang ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:05:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learn to love it. I legitimately love flossing now. Use those little picks. Every night I watch Friends and pick the gunk out of my teeth. Good times.
BurtSpangle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:42:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interdental brushes are good.
teh_fizz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:02:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My hygienist recommended I donโt floss. But she did recommend dental sticks. Basically theyโre pieces of wood that you push between the gaps to get any stuck food out. Maybe that works for you?
janej0nes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:05:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
the more you floss and the better your oral health gets, the less flossing sucks. it used to be a chore for me, too, and sometimes painful, but now it's so quick and barely any effort. just gotta do it until it's part of your routine.
OffWithMyHead4Real ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:53:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interdental brushes! A revelation.
baklazhan ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 05:27:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe try pushing on it less? You could try holding it with two or three fingers, so that you aren't able to put much force on it.
overcatastrophe ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:16:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apparently you dont do captain of crush or other grip strength training
pm_me_book_vouchers ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 08:27:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You could try brushing avoiding the gum line like you described, then turn it off and brush the teeth and gums manually. I always turn the brush off to do the gums, tongue etc
THE_W4RH4MM3R ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:17:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I personally use oral B haven't had a tooth problem in ages. I say get an electric toothbrush from oral b (I own the "genius") and make sure it has a pressure light that let's you know if you are brushing too hard.
Even with an electric toothbrush and soft head people tend to push in their teeth too hard. Brush along the gum line because that brush head will reach the entire tooth. Also that dentist doesn't care IF they didn't sit you down to explain the use of the brush for at least one minute which is all it takes.
The oral B has a quadrant timer which let's you know to mive on from a section of your mouth after 30seconds so brushing properly with that electronic brush should have helped you I say try again after learning a bit about brushing with the oral B brush.
I should just make honest dental youtube videos.
Yokiboy ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:46:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sonicare has all the same technology. As long as you have a pressure sensor, you should be fine. And donโt scrub... especially not with an power brush! Guide it around and let the brush do the work. 30k+ strokes a minute doesnโt need you to do much more than guide it around your mouth.
THE_W4RH4MM3R ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:16:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd like to agree with Sonicare but I'm not a fan of the ultra sonic vibration vs oscillation. The pressure sensor is definitely the key IMO and Yesss no scrubbing.
TeaPartyInTheGarden ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:56:18 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think thatโs the one I have. I felt like I was brushing too hard before the โtoo hardโ sensor went off, although that may be due to unhealthy gums.
Yeah, the dentist doesnโt care about electric brushes and acknowledged as much. Sheโs great at getting my young kids to sit in the chair and open their mouths so weโll keep seeing her otherwise.
THE_W4RH4MM3R ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:14:47 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ahh I get why she didn't instruct, sensitive gums will definitely make you feel like things are going wrong but keep flossing despite all that and your gums should improve. No ribbon floss though as it contains Teflon known to be harmful.
TeaPartyInTheGarden ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:39:29 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Um, whatโs the alternative to ribbon floss and how will I know what Iโve got?
Ps. I recharged my brush and have used it these past two days, gums are doing great! Poor flossing prior to last time may have been the culprit.
LadyK8TheGr8 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:14:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Registered dental assistant here, I have a sonic care electric brush which can get intense. I keep it on the lowest setting. You may want use it every other day without turning it on. Just move it around in gentle circles. You can do this after the electric part ends. I still keep on brushing if I feel like I missed an area after my brush cycle ends.
Are you a flosser? Flossing is the only action that removes the acid around your gumline. The acid will erode little pockets of the enamel at the gumline. If you brush, floss, and finish with mouthwash, then you shouldnโt experience any problem if you have healthy teeth. Use your 6 month check up to check your oral hygiene habits. Good luck!
TeaPartyInTheGarden ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:52:58 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you! I am a flosser, realistically probably five days a week? Iโll give your tips a go.
LadyK8TheGr8 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:00:23 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Five days a week is a good amount! As you get older, your gums will recede. Patients with gum disease or recession need to floss every day to keep debris out.
keelyab96 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:37:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you use the electric toothbrush enough your gums will eventually adjust, unhealthy gums are tender and not attached to the teeth properly due to build up underneath the gums, and if you use a good electric toothbrush such as an oral b- the only one that is ada approved it usually has adjustable settings so you can show it down and will turn red whenever you are brushing to hard. Keep n mind to let the brush do the work for you so no"teeth brushing" method, just hold it on the tooth for a second and move to the next. Once fun health is in check the Ligaments around the teeth will harden up and adhear back to the teeth causing no pain
TeaPartyInTheGarden ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:51:39 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay, cool. Thanks. I used it for a week or so then went back to manual. Iโll give it another go!
Blokey1 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:14:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dentist tells me to hold my electronic toothbrush like a flute. Hold it lightly in your hand. Don't press it down hard against your teeth or gums. I didn't know this either. Give it a try.
TeaPartyInTheGarden ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:09 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Will try. Cheers.
NashvilleHot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:00:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Which model/brand electric toothbrush did you get?
I also have receding gums. The only one I really think does a good job and doesnโt require much pressure at all is the Sonicare. You just sort of make contact at an angle from your gum line and move down your tooth and the brush does the rest. Very effective. It seems to have helped halt further recision of my gums (along with 2x daily flossing).
I donโt see how circular brushes can do better, but thatโs just me.
TeaPartyInTheGarden ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:53:54 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs an Oral B. Iโm at work so I canโt check the model right now.
Picasso320 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:22:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/dentistry
TeaPartyInTheGarden ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:49:50 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didnโt know that was a thing. Of course itโs a thing, everything is a thing here.
FinancialRaise ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:10:04 on May 27, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
gums recede from many reasons. if its receding from abrasion, then its really the method of toothbrushing rather than the toothbrush itself. A gentle setting and gentle bristles in a non motion (so the let the toothbrush spin) or a downward stroke without hitting the gums should work.
However if you dont really hit the gums and they still recede, it can be from a lot of reasons which may later lead to bone loss ---> and teeth may fall out.
Sullygirl21 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 08:05:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Idk if OP intended for it to sound like using electric toothbrushes are an alternative to flossing or if itโs just crossed wires, but my mom is a dental hygienist and I think I can explain this.
Flossing can be a pain, but switching to a new kind of toothbrush wonโt take away the necessity. You need to take care of your gums.
shoedepotca ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 04:44:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lots of people are missing out on this information.
Electric toothbrush is an acceptable substitute to not flossing?
Any more add on information would be helpful.
What about waterpik flosser?
Stormageddons872 ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 07:43:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I could be wrong, but I think they mean that flossing is best, but if you're only going to brush, at least use an electric. It's not a replacement for flossing, but if you're only brushing anyways, may as well do the best you can.
sigmaco ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 08:12:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really? The waterpiks advertise themselves as X% more effective than flossing as a selling point.
HawkkeTV ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 08:28:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lots of baby wipes say they are flushable as well. Doesn't mean you should flush em and absolutely don't believe waterpik.
TiTaak ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 09:07:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously though, no wipe is flushable.
sigmaco ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 09:35:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really?
I dunno, if there are clinical studies on baby wipes being flushable I might start to believe it.
Yokiboy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:42:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs as affective as string floss. Thereโs studies done to show that, same with the AirFlossPro.
Theyโre better than not flossing at all. Although they donโt really get between the contact points (where your teeth touch) as well as regular floss.
sigmaco ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:46:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, I just linked a study to the other guy that showed it was superior to wax flossing.
Yokiboy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:55:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thereโs a few out there. I read a few saying itโs as effective. Either way, itโs not detrimental to use haha.
nicocacolaaa ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 06:13:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I recently purchased a Waterpik while at the dentist for a cleaning and was told they are NOT a substitute for real flossing.
Honestly though, theyโre nice to use during the middle of the day when you have a bad taste in your mouth, or just ate like Oreos or something that will make your mouth visibly dirty.
kinzer13 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 07:22:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I floss but I also used to have a water pik. How is it not a substitute? It is literally a thread like stream of water shot between teeth.
I mean, it's doing the same thing.
tbex93 ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 07:36:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When youโre flossing youโre meant to use the floss to scrape the gum line where a brush/waterpik wonโt get too. Not just run it up and down between your teeth.
Porsher12345 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:27:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So IS there a point in getting a Waterpik then?
I sell the things, so it'll be good to know some advice
meech7607 ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 09:09:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Here's your pitch line
"Sure... It's not really a substitute for flossing... But it's a whole helluva lot better than NOT flossing... And let's be real... are you really gonna start flossing?"
Porsher12345 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:11:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
LOL love the meme. But yeah that's brilliant actually, thanks for that!
meech7607 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:14:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you a blue shirt?
Porsher12345 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:17:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Blue shirt?
meech7607 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:18:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best Buy sales staff. You mentioned in another comment about some lame facts from a training video and it sounded like typical BBY stuff.
Porsher12345 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:48:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh right! I work at a Shaver Shop in NZ. But yeah it basically is that BBY crap.
herrored ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:58:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Years ago my dentist told me that I was getting early stages of gingivitis and I needed to floss more, so I was like "Yes! Definitely will do!" The snarky hygienist goes "Didn't you say that last time?" And I replied "Well yeah, but I lied that time. This time you told me I have gum disease."
TiTaak ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 09:06:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can use it to spray water at people, that's a bonus
Porsher12345 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:12:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, I see you are a man of culture as well.
Lol even for training your cat!
sittstav ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:59:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They are great for dispensing dishsoap!
Miss-Squirrel ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:09:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol. Water pik means something funny in Dutch. Just translate it, I can't post it on Reddit I guess haha
Every3Years ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:41:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can't post it on Reddit, the website that brought the cumbox, jolly ranchers, and a mother having sex with a broken armed son? Really?
Jilliejill ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:06:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
... and coconut boy.
ooogabooga1234 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 08:16:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You need to scratch and destroy the network and connections of biofilm thatโs built up around your teeth as a layer of bacteria. You canโt scrape that off with water streams.
kinzer13 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:53:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ever pressure wash something? You can totally destroy the biofilm. I had one for years. Your gums will bleed just like flossing if you don't use it often.
I just floss now because it's easier.
LadyK8TheGr8 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:23:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you have a lot of gum loss?
Zilverhaar ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 08:49:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, an electric toothbrush is great, much better than manual, but it's not enough. Source: brushed electrically, got gum problems anyway. Now I use interdental brushes to get between my teeth, and my dentist is happy with my oral hygiene.
BrushThoseTeeth ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:29:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like other people already said, a waterpik is not succesfull in really disturbing the biofilm of bacteria on the teeth.
Toothpicks can be a good alternative to flossing though, when used correctly. Also, those round sticks that you see a lot at restaurants are NOT toothpicks, don't use those. You need to use a proper flat toothpick, and maybe look up some youtube videos for technique.
nat_rdh ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:50:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are many options for flossing and your teeth can sometimes dictate what you can use. Traditional string floss- for tighter contacts Floss piks- some issues with manual dexterity Reach flosser-same (this one has a long handle) Proxy brush- bigger spaces between teeth (they look like little pipe cleaners) Water pik- for people who hate floss, better than nothing (good with braces or people with bridges) Air flosser- same (made by sonicare) Tooth picks- I have no idea why people use these, very harsh on gums.
I regularly recommend the Reach Flosser (Johnson and Johnson makes one too). Really helps for people who struggle with string floss. Hopefully I've answered some questions.
Dental hygienist 9 years. Also, Sonicare and Oral B electric brushes are worth every penny!!! Don't scrub, let them do all the work.
LadyK8TheGr8 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:22:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Floss! Itโs the only way to combat acid buildup! Waterpiks work better that manual flossing bc user error is removed. Proper flossing hits the distal surface of one tooth and then focuses on the medial surface of the other tooth. In other words, remember to floss two surfaces when your floss goes between two teeth. Donโt just go down and up but rub one tooth and then rub the tooth next to it before you come up with the floss. Waterpik takes away this worry and does both actions so you donโt need to think about it.
drmcfc_89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:12:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
No not even close. Brushing is used to clean every proximal surface of our teeth I.e not interproximal/in between. Flossing and using interproximal brushes is used only for clearing plaque and food debris from the interproximal surfaces, where the brushes bristles cannot navigate to....so in the long run you need to do both for adequate dental hygiene.
Gum inflammation and gingivitis/bleeding gums is just the body's response to external bacteria/plaque. So if you are cleaning well both proximally and interproximally you should be able to have healthy gingival tissue...that Dental hygienist who just said use an electric toothbrush in response to OPs flossing comment is missing the whole point
*my opinion on waterpik flossing is that it's fine. It's just a more expensive way to physically remove plaque and debris from in between your teeth
thambassador ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:02:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hello can I ask for advice?
My teeth are very close to each other that the floss canโt get between them without using force. Also, getting it out is also difficult and breaks into many strands as I pull it out.
Thanks!
digg_survivor ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 08:08:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dentist said to still get it down there and floss but Don't bring it back up, just pull the floss through.
thambassador ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:10:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Should I slide it back and forth first before pulling it through?
digg_survivor ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 08:41:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You should be using it to scrape the side of your teeth up and down, above and below the gumline. Then pull through. Just saying, I had horrible teeth and we found out I didn't know how to floss properly so my dentist had to teach me this at 28 years old, so don't feel bad. https://youtu.be/vfLOgPzwny4 this lady explains pretty well. (Just in your situation, pull through after you have flossed, instead of breaking it by pulling up)
slvhwke ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:25:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The link I've been waiting for! Pretty sure I've been flossing wrong. ๐
mynamesnotmolly ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:12:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was hoping she would explain how to not snap the floss into your gums. All of my wisdom teeth grew in literally sideways, and pushed my teeth together really bad (after like 5 years of braces.....awesome). I literally donโt know how to get floss in between my teeth without forcing it.
thambassador ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:15:39 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I guess you have to โsawโ it. Just slide until it fits inside. Or use the brands they recommend in this thread.
My wisdom teeth are also growing sideways! My dentist recommends to have it removed. But I donโt have the money right now
mynamesnotmolly ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:17:36 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do it is soon as youโre able to! I kept putting it off because they werenโt bothering me, not realizing how much they were pushing on my teeth.
thambassador ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:19:20 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I will do this. Iโm going to save money first. Iโll just think of it as an investment for the long run
thambassador ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:12:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Helpful video. โDo not snap the floss to your gum lineโ Now I wonโt force it in.
I now just have to put flossing in my everyday ritual.
Thanks guys!
digg_survivor ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:21:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had to learn that too! I have an app that reminds me along with my medication. Or I suppose you could just set an alarm...
thambassador ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:35:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs a nice tip. I usually just floss at night before sleeping.
One more thing, brush before floss or the other way around?
digg_survivor ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:41:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dentist says to brush, then floss, then use my rinse. It's a good method but sometimes I'm lazy and don't want to use my fluoride rinse (I also have a large ish gap or two and crowns) and so I prefer getting the larger chunks of food out first and then brushing. I think the most important thing is to just get it done. Basically, don't let the plaque have a chance to harden and really stick to the teeth and cause tooth or gum decay.
FishOnHead ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:35:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Definitely floss before you brush. You want to break apart the bacteria between your teeth and then brush. Otherwise you're just leaving that in your mouth after you've brushed your teeth, and getting what you can out with fluoride rinse. Keep doing what you're doing.
digg_survivor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:03:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you!!
thambassador ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:08:12 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is what Iโll be doing from now on. Thanks! It makes sense too
zCourge_iDX ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:49:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Floss first, you open up the space between the teeth to enable your toothbrush to possibly clean "leftovers" after the flossing.
FishOnHead ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:33:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My periodontist recommended doing it during a shower before brushing my teeth, after I've eaten, in a 24 hour period. Has worked wonders for my oral health.
thambassador ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:10:24 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can you elaborate on the โwondersโ for your oral health? Iโm interested on the noticeable benefits coming firsthand from you. Thanks!
FishOnHead ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:22:25 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd be happy to elaborate! Before I started flossing I brushed, had a waterpik, did all the things. I was pretty diligent. Despite that I'm predisposed to large calcium deposits around my gumline, so my back molars would become calcified, and my bottom front teeth would discolor despite the fact that no other teeth would and I was focusing on those teeth.
I ultimately had to have a pretty expensive deep cleaning done so they could start fresh, but their main advice to me was "FLOSS, FLOSS, FLOSS" which is something I've basically never done my entire life. I'm 28. They recommended that I floss once every 24 hours, and to make it routine; she suggested adding it to something I already do, like showering.
Since I've started flossing daily, on top of the other things I was already doing, I've had much better dental health. The calcium deposits accumulate much more slowly, my gingivitis is gone completely, and my bottom teeth are sparkling white. I've even had people tell me my teeth look great which...well it's not a compliment I'm used to hearing.
My periodontist goes through and presses the gums above each of my teeth and lists a number for sensitivity. 1-5. 1 is bad, 5 is good, I believe (may be reversed). Before I had a lot of 1s, and now I have only had 1 or 2 ones mostly in difficult places in my mouth to reach.
Additionally, this has all been in the span of 3 months! I don't know how to extol the virtues of flossing more than that. It's been great.
thambassador ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:21:06 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow thatโs really in depth and I enjoyed reading it all. Thank you for taking your time writing this. In just 3 months a big difference is already noticeable and you dental health really showed a big improvement.
Iโm on a two-day streak now and it feels better everytime. Hoping I could do this for three months!
iKnoMyCalculus ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:23:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, flossing is supposed to get under the gumline
ooogabooga1234 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:24:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have the same problem. Normal floss is impossible to use for me. Use the floss with the handles. The floss piks.
Frustrated_Barnacle ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:04:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh no I tried doing this and it got stuck in my teeth. I had to run to the kitchen to get the scissors and hope no one saw me.
beah22 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:18:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to the pharmacy and get some interdental brushes, the different colours are for different sizes of the floss. You should be able to get a mixed bag with different sizes
Frustrated_Barnacle ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:26:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually couldn't find a size that would fit but I will have to go and have a look. To be honest this incident made me stop flossing, it was such a panic and I always cut my tongue on the slight gap at the back of my teeth, not a good combination.
_notapotato_ ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:48:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I struggle with this too and have had no luck with the floss pick things or the interdental cleaners (even the smallest size is too thick!). I now buy floss that is called 'dental tape' and is more flat than round, and as long as I put it through at the right angle it slides through even my tightest teeth.
thambassador ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:17:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you use floss piks like sawing between your teeth to get it in?
I tried floss piks but I canโt get it in by โsawingโ. The plastic bends before I can get it in
nolongerwellrested ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:58:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You might need a dental hygienist clean, calcified plaque can block access to the gum line. Even with flossing and an electric brush I still get calcified spots.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:13:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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thambassador ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:14 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโll take note of Meijer brand extra comfort. Hope I can find one
Zilverhaar ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:57:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have that same problem, and I use interdental brushes to get between my teeth instead. I asked my dentist, and he said it's OK; and he is happy with my oral hygiene now.
fribbas ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:28:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try glide floss!
Instead of a string, it's more of a thin ribbon. My posterior teeth have tight contacts and it works great.
thambassador ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:23:55 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People here recommend flat floss and thin ribbon like floss. Maybe this is the real game changer
Penderyn ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:00:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do you think about water flossers? I got one and I think they are FAB! However, my dentist didn't even know you could buy them!
However, I am not a dentist/hygienist.
ooogabooga1234 ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 08:21:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The bacteria in your mouth slowly build very powerful and sticky networks around your teeth after 12 hours. It just becomes one giant biofilm that attaches itself to your teeth as one entity.
You brush your teeth to constantly ruin that network that takes them 12 hours to rebuild (which is why you brush your teeth twice a day). Water canโt break it apart. You need to scrape it off to ruin all the billions of connections that hold it all together with floss. itโs like bacteria glue.
Porsher12345 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:29:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is there a point in a water flosser then?
ooogabooga1234 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:32:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
From everything that Iโve read, no. I bought an expensive one and was proud of it, did some research and asked my dentist...and another dentist and itโs just a gimmick thing.
Itโs no substitute for flossing (which even the companies admit) so whatโs the point of it? If it canโt replace flossing, why would you add it to your routine? They try to give you the impression that itโs like a power washer you use on cement and on your deck, but itโll never have that type of power and the highest settings on my water flossed just hurt my gums and have water splashing all over the place after youโre done.
Porsher12345 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:36:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn what a shame, I've always told my customers that "it's the same as flossing but it wears away at the teeth 90% less than regular flossing." (because that's what our training video said). And the customers even say that THEIR dentists recommend Waterpik and other such water flossers as well.
Are neither of these things accurate?
ooogabooga1234 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:40:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm not an expert. I just asked my dentist and another dentist and both said the same thing. And when I looked it up on my own, some Waterpik companies were careful with their advertising and mentioned that โit was not a substitute for flossingโ. Iโm guessing they would absolutely not say that if there wasnโt some research standing in their way. Biofilms are very powerful. Iโm guessing youโd need similar pressure to what you use to clean dirt off cement to get water to scrape that film off your teeth and that just seems unhealthy.
Iโm in Canada so maybe these companies can be more ballsy in other parts of the world but advertising here is a bit different.
Porsher12345 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:14:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ahhhhhh right well that makes sense. Well thanks for your input, it's much appreciated!
ef_you_see_potassium ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:00:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Definitely not the same as flossing, general consensus is that its only good for removing larger debris not the biofilms as mentioned. Floss does not appreciably wear away at teeth
Penderyn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:04:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting! I use it before I brush my teeth to get rid of bits of food that have got stuck between the teeth (a big issue for me and the cause of 100% of my fillings). I find it does this very effectively, so maybe its good for that but doesn't do some other things that flossing does do.
thatguyfromvienna ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:19:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What's your stance on Oral B versus Sonicare?
I switched from Oral B to Sonicare about a year ago and I now think Oral B is entirely overrated.
LadyK8TheGr8 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:25:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love my sonicare so does every hygienist at my work.
fribbas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:34:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have both a sonicare and a oral b and I love my sonicare. I feel like the sonicare is gentler and cleans better than oral b. The oral b felt like taking a jackhammer to my teeth and felt like I was tearing up my gums. Ended up giving it to someone.
Full disclosure: I didn't pay for either of them
Kleiran ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:06:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes but actually no, the electric toothbrush won't be of any help if you keep avoiding the junction of the gums and the teeth. Source: have an electric toothbrush and just had a gingivitis
isthisonetaken25 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:01:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if I brush(electric toothbrush) floss, and mouthwash daily, but my gums still bleed?
ooogabooga1234 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 08:23:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then you need to keep doing it until your gums start healing. And if you have that problem, stop using mouth wash and pour some salt in a warm glass of water and start using that instead of mouth wash. Itโll kill any bacteria under your gums so they can heal better (itโs what dentists recommend after oral surgery to help your gums heal faster)
isthisonetaken25 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:29:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you my man, Iโll give it a crack
jackplaysdrums ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:18:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just went through this with my dentist. Floss, then 30 second salt rinse, then brush. I had to do this twice a day for a week.
slimeyslime123 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:58:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
After buying an electric tooth brush I felt like my whole life had been a lie
dramallama1986 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:39:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Could you please tell me why an electric toothbrush is better than manual? And can you use an electric one for 3 year old too?
veganjamesdean ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 10:14:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm not OP but I am a dental hygienist as well. There are several reasons why electric is better than manual, but this is what I usually tell my patients:
An electric brush like Sonicare uses ultrasonic waves to break up the plaque and debris.
An electric toothbrush has a built in two minute timer to make sure you are brushing for the full time, instead of just 30-45 seconds of vigorous brushing. Most new ones also have a sensor that lights up if youโre pressing too hard as well, so no damage to the teeth/gums.
Technique becomes less important with an electric brush so itโs easier to handle, because it basically does the work for you. You just have to move it to different areas of the mouth and make sure to get every surface.
All in all I think 2 minutes of electric brushing is equivalent to something like ~6 minutes of manual brushing, and that is if the manual technique is perfect.
You can use electric toothbrushes specifically designed for kids for a 3 year old. Just be sure to be gentle and use soft or extra soft bristles.
dramallama1986 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:48:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Excellent! Tha ks for that! I will be moving over to electric for both of us!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:41:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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veganjamesdean ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:50:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unfortunately, not really. Alcohol makes cells more permeable, making it easier for the carcinogens to penetrate them, so avoiding drinking is definitely better for any tobacco user. But the only real way to prevent oral cancer is quitting.
positivespadewonder ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:06:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is there a risk of an electric toothbrush wearing your enamel more over time than a manual one will?
veganjamesdean ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:28:42 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
If anything, an electric brush will keep your enamel strong and healthy longer!
Manual brushes are very technique sensitive, so most people donโt do a perfect job. This can include not brushing for long enough, pressing too hard, not reaching all the surfaces, and a lot more.
With this you risk damage to you gums (gingivitis, periodontitis) and your teeth (wearing away the enamel causing your teeth to be weaker, more sensitive, and more prone to cavities.)
An electric toothbrush pretty much eliminates technique all together. It does the work for you, you just have to make sure you cover all surfaces of your teeth. Youโre no longer scrubbing or brushing, just holding the brush to your teeth.
Most of the new ones have sensors telling when youโre using too much pressure, so wearing away enamel really isnโt a concern as long as youโre listening to your toothbrush.
EmergencyHost ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:25:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do I floss my back teeth?? I can barely fit my big hands in my mouth lol
fribbas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:38:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Floss picks or, if your fingers are of similar cocktail weenie proportion to mine, floss holders.
It's basically a tooth brush handle with a floss pick stuck to the end. Can shove it way back there and my fingers don't go near my mouth
Motazxp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:03:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get yourself some floss picks, they're perfect for that and its all i use.
Number5is_ALIVE ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:16:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude I just bought my first one 4 days ago after remembering a dental professional saying too. My mouth has never been cleaner. I donโt wake up with morning breath, my mouth never gets s mid day funk, and my teeth are way shinier.
Is there a proper technique for using a electric vs manual? Like should you still do two minutes, make the circular, up/down and side to side motions all over in series or just like the thing do itโs thing. Because Iโm doing the former, but donโt want to over do it.
MyDiary141 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:05:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have an electric toothbrush and it ran out of charge yesterday when brushing so i had to use a normal toothbrush like a peasant.
ozaku7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:54:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I used an electric toothbrush, even correctly (my mom is a assistant dentist), they would feel all fine. Until I switched to a regular toothbrush and I would bleed like a slaughtered pig and my gums hurt.
I stopped using my electric toothbrush and my gums are fine now.
rooohooo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:06:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if both flossing and brushing with an electric toothbrush (one, the other, or both in tandem) cause bleeding of the gums?
Chrysaries ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:21:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My toothbrush routinely get black mold on the inside of the brush head while my GFโs never does. We have the same brand and all.
Is it possible that the inside of my handle is infected and keeps supplying mold to my brush head? I have to clean out mold every month or so
bushondrugs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:45:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sounds dangerous. Do you shake off or pat dry the brush head on a towel when you're done brushing so that the toothbrush dries quickly? I'd lysol-wipe all of the surfaces in my bathroom and dunk my toothbrush in a high-alcohol mouthwash (or vodka) to sanitize it, and then watch for any sources of mold. Some brands of electric toothbrushes have a case with a UV sanitizer.
Chrysaries ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:38:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I shake it a little and then place it in my own shot glass, brush up, and she does the same (we live in the same apartment).
Iโve cleaned different brush heads with Listerine and/or 12% vinegar but the black doesnโt disappear, I still have to brush it off afterwards (maybe I should do the physical cleaning first?)
You donโt think the handle could be the source, then? That and the mouth it brushes is the only difference I can think of and Iโm the only one getting mold over and over again.
Thanks a lot for the reply!
Fuzzy_Review ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:22:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just made the switch these things are amazing!
I_Hate_Usernames_Too ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:23:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
OMG my dentist is on reddit!!
Garu94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:23:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
May I ask you which do you think ia the better electric brush? Never had one before but I'm thinking of getting one now
munchmills ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:47:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You meant to say toothpick didnt you?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:00:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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b00ty_water ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:49:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You still need to floss.
TheMexicanJuan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:03:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm. Bought an electric toothbrush 2 years ago, my gums haven't bled ever since.
THE_W4RH4MM3R ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:09:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup, 10yrs as an assistant giving the same advice and always good results when people comply. Also oral b ribbon floss contains Teflon if you didn't know (don't use it)
BOBBYTURKAL1NO ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:14:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or use more vigorous strokes until it bleeds.
Source: Brushing teeth long time
yellow-dartt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:19:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I got myself a water flosser and that thing is amazing. So much more food comes out.
Clayman8 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:23:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you one of the 9 that recommends the brush, or the single one that doesnt?
Also, why you all afraid of apples?
methodinsane ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:26:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are they that good?
tehserver ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:29:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Had an electric toothbrush, gums still bled until I started flossing.
Source: previous gum bleeder.
legotechnic420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:43:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do the floss
MyOtherAcctsAPorsche ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:44:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do they do the same thing? And with electric brush you mean the one that vibrates right? Not the fancy water jet one or the ones with ultrasound...
Jenkinsguteater ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:58:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So you are an assistant
fribbas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:42:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
? A hygienist isn't an assistant.
chanderpaul83 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:31:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But a dentist once told me that electric toothbrushes are just a hype and itโd better to use a manual toothbrush the right way
Afrodizzle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:41:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We just got an Oral B rechargeable spinning electric toothbrush, and it makes the old toothbrushes we were using (vibrating non rechargeable) seem like we were just chewing on sticks. It is incredible how much cleaner my mouth feels!
Rhymezboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:42:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People say, Electric Toothbrush> Traditional toothbrushes, Why?
Macho_Mans_Ghost ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:57:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if my gums have bleed my entire life and am currently using said electric toothbrush?
SilentSaboteur ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:07:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is using an electric toothbrush equivalent to flossing?
MePirate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:07:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I floss everyday without fail. I will still bleed 2 to 3 times a week from flossing. It's very little but enough to notice.
MichaelBluthANiceKid ยท 70 points ยท Posted at 06:03:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learned this was true after being told I have gum disease. Only 26. When I flossed it looked like I had just lost a fight. Flossed after that you better believe and would you belive it? No blood.
TheCollective01 ยท 59 points ยท Posted at 08:25:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have flossed after every meal for years and my gums feel invincible. I never bleed after flossing and my teeth feel great, and my gums are a nice shiny pink. My dentist told me years ago that your gums are made of the exact same skin as your face, so you wouldn't want your face to start bleeding if you scratched it would you? Floss daily people!
WooRankDown ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 15:27:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didnโt start flossing daily until about 10 years ago, when I went over to my childhood friendโs parents house after the town fair. They saw me and threw an extra steak on the BBQ, and made me an amazing dinner.
After dinner, Mom disappeared briefly. She returned with a bag of floss sticks, and handed at least one to everyone. Between the steak and the corn, I was grateful.
Iโd always hated flossing because I hated wrapping the floss around my fingertips. But with floss sticks you donโt have to do that! It was thin, and smooth, and easily fit between my tiny teeth.
I bought my own floss sticks immediately afterwards. I found out, through trial, error, and advice from my dentist, that I should stick to the super thin ones, due to the small spaces between my teeth.
I floss at least once a day now. My gums feel amazing. My dentist is never disappointed in me. I recommend it to everyone.
Togii ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:01:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, I love those things! I was introduced to them when a friend lost a hand and his physical therapist had him start using those. I keep them in my bathroom and my purse and my cubicle.....
accentadroite_bitch ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 11:19:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A) If you scratch your face, it DOES bleed. B) Are you saying that if our face was wet all the time, it would look like our gums do, because itโs the same skin?
ChemStack ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 12:14:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think they meant scratch as in scratch an itch not cut your face.
TheCollective01 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:32:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Correct. Scratch as in move your finger nail lightly across your skin haha
TheCollective01 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 16:31:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Precisely. And a light scratch should absolutely not make skin bleed, but if it does then you have real problems. Many people have very unhealthy gums, simply because they don't floss.
Miss-Impossible ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 06:00:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Flossing and masturbating are the answer to all problems.
CosmicChris217 ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 06:41:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If only I had more hands!!
[deleted] ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 07:19:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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QuitLookingAtMe ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:38:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Um... which service will your hands be providing?
Bonus points if you can coordinate one of each. Double bonus points if you don't send me the video.
CosmicChris217 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:40:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just know there will be hands. Lots of hands!!
Hughgurgle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:05:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not necessarily, we have tools for both problems-- you can floss one handed with the little plastic tooth flossers, and masturbate with the other using a vibrator (or fleshlight).
Problem solved and you only need 2 hands total!
ClicksAndASmell ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:40:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Give me hands, lots of hands, 'neath the starry sky above...
CosmicChris217 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:29:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please don't stop....
jedi_lion-o ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:17:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do both everyday and I still have problems.
fribbas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:56:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh yeah, I'm going to tell all my patients this from now on
Tomorrow: fired
Miss-Impossible ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:35:53 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That awkward moment when no one gets an old obscure Reddit reference. ๐คฃ
Dragonfez ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 06:13:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. I was shocked after I started flossing for a few days continuously. Blood became lesser.
TheEarlOfZinger ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 07:30:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought that dance would just be a fad - You must be exhausted.
Dragonfez ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 07:31:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just as Iโm getting ready to sleep. I hear my phone vibrate and decided whether to pick it up or not and check.
Worth it.
Thank you for the laugh. Youโre ~
awesome~ amazing.TheEarlOfZinger ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:36:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pleasure! Hope you're ok.
destraight ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 16:49:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But it's been 3 days for me and my gums are still bleeding. So your method fucking sucks and I hate flossing and I'll never do it again
Dragonfez ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:51:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
:(
Poesvliegtuig ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 08:38:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turns out you can actually have sensitive gums that keep bleeding after years of flossing, and teeth that are too close together to properly get floss in between. So I have to use one of those electric power rinser things or an electric toothbrush, I'm no longer allowed to use actual floss says my dentist.
colorfoulhouses ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:42:33 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel you! Same here. So happy to know I'm not alone. I'm really thankful for modern technology and being able to take care of them in my home, my actual teeth are of good quality but they're too close, and my gums are way too sensitive and weird (I got small tumours during my pregnancy for example). Ten years ago I had to visit my dentist almost every month, now What brands you use? My braun is about to crap out and I'm looking for new ones.
Poesvliegtuig ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:32:45 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also use a Braun! They're also the easiest to find new heads for in my area so :)
Snickerdoodle94 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 08:04:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not sure if Iโm a weirdo, but once I got a full time grown up job with dental insurance, dental cleanings were my favorite and totally underrated ๐ If your insurance covers it definitely do a deep clean, my gums are in the best condition they have ever been! Thought it sounded scammy but definitely worth it.
Heath776 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 17:58:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dental cleanings are important. They remove plaque that you can't get with floss and a toothbrush alone. That scraping they do is getting crap off your teeth that stays there.
fribbas ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:01:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yo, just want to share do people don't get the wrong impression. "Deep cleaning" aka SRP isn't for everybody, just people with periodontal issues. If you don't have much bleeding (<30% at my office) and your numbers are good (<4), you only need a "regular" cleaning, or prophy.
Insurance usually covers regular cleaning but not deep cleaning, and those are a crap ton of money. Like, hundreds
Snickerdoodle94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:43:41 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting, my gums were at a 2 when I went for a normal cleaning and they still recommended it. I honestly thought my gums were already pretty decent. However they kept suggesting I do the deep clean and said my insurance had approved it. So not sure what happened with that ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ anyways I enjoyed the results of it though!
Nathaniel820 ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 11:15:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dentist: Have you been flossing
Me: Yes
Dentist: Starts to floss
Me: Bleeding profusely
Dentist:
Me:
Dentist:
Me:
Dentist:
adm_akbar ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 15:30:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dentist: So what do you do for work?
Me: Uahggghu uahhghghh
Dentist: See game of thrones last night?
Me: <grunt>
Dentist: What did you think?
Me: Arggrgllll ahughghlll
CLOUD_STALLION ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:12:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha made me laugh :)
fribbas ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:06:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hygienist: how often do you brush and floss?
Patient: every day! I floss and brush my teeth at least 4 times a day! Floss, floss, floss that's all I do!
Hygienist: well, your gum measurements are all 7s-10s, you have heavy calculus build up, and your bleeding is at 75%....
Patient: is that bad? :D
Hygienist: :|
Patient: :D?
Hygienist: :|
TennaTelwan ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 08:32:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also if you're apt to not floss often, buy a bag of flossers (those plastic things with the floss threaded through them) and keep them somewhere you sit often. I have a bag in my desk drawer by my computer and find that I end up flossing now multiple times a day, and because of it, my gums not only don't bleed anymore, but there's been improvements at the dentist. All because of changing one little behavior in my life of where the floss was kept, and what kind I was using. While regular floss is better, I wasn't really using it ever. So what's better in that case? Never using something that is 100% or using something daily that is only 80%?
HelloPanda22 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 09:28:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The exception is pregnancy. I floss daily and now suddenly, my gums are bleeding. :(
veganjamesdean ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 10:18:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs called gestational gingivitis! Donโt let that discourage you, just make sure you keep flossing and your gums will be back to normal after you have the baby :)
TimX24968B ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 04:16:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"...but you're stabbing me with a pointy metal thing, not flossing..."
Rangsk ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 07:29:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The pointy metal thing used to hurt my gums and make them bleed. Then I started flossing every day. It doesn't hurt or make me bleed anymore.
1sockthieves ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 06:47:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just realized my gums haven't bled for a while now since i have been flossing regularly.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:38:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've put off flossing for a good 30 years.
Am I glad my dentist kept persisting through the years. It works wonders and my teeth look, feel, taste(?) much better.
yungcheeselet ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:38:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How often should you floss?
[deleted] ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 07:45:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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IndicaPhoenix ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 09:16:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another dentist told me 3-4 times a week, if your gums always bleed, so that you give enough time to recover,
Brushing is the most important, and doing that regularly is more important, - but If you get your angles right your brushing can be as effective as flossing,
P.s. Brushing your tongue - is the most satisfactory way of eliminating previous food tastes/smells.
I can't stop tongue brushing. Flex Abs. No gag reflexes ever
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:42:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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IndicaPhoenix ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:44:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
to prevent the gag reflex, yes,
There are also muscles below the jaw/ neck area that get used to flexing,
but if you do the abdominal flex you prevent them from automatically going up, thereby preventing the reflex reaction.
Try it :)
KillNyetheSilenceGuy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:24:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always floss before I brush to scrub any of the crap I've knocked loose flossing out of my mout. Floss>brush>mouthwash. I also only floss before bed because I feel like if I floss before I go to sleep there is no real point in doing it again when I wake up, I haven't eaten since the last time I flossed so there is nothing new stuck in there.
VicVinegar-Bodyguard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:29:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have always heard to floss before you brush. You break up the stuff with floss and brushing gets rid of it.
mahade ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:50:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Floss first to get rid of bits between your teeth. Then brush as your dentist would. You can ask them to show you how to brush, they love showing off. If you rinse with water you lose most of the fluoride from your toothpaste, so you should then also rinse with mouth water (find the ones WITH fluoride!)
Get a tongue scraper to clean your tongue every other day. It will lead to less plaque.
concat-e-nate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:26:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
According to my dentist, you should do it daily, but you can get away with doing it every other day.
krakistophales ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:44:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can attest to this. After a couple days/week of flossing they actually dont bleed. Hilarious!
Skilet7x ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:15:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turns out if you floss enough, you will bleed so much that after couple of days you'll have no more blood left to bleed.
Toiletwands ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:02:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dentist told me that when theres foreign substances in your gums, bloodflow to that area is increased to fight infection. This brings the blood vessels or something to the surface and makes it them bleed when you irritate them with flossing. No foreign debris for long periods of time, no blood.
perfectday4bananafsh ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:07:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also swishing a salt water mix help.
Stevotonin ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:09:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But if your gums never get inflamed or have any problems when you don't floss, is flossing really important? It sounds to me like saying your hands only bleed when you slice into them with a knife because you don't slice into them with a knife often enough, so they haven't calloused properly.
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 08:14:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought it was more of a preventative thing. You may not have issues now but your risk of gingivitis is increased or may be subclinical. AFAIK flossing helps to reduce that risk.
wgel1000 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 10:13:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Plus, when you floss you remove the remainings of food between in your teeth, it helps preventing bad breath. It surprises me people don't know that.
Keinichn ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:59:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Genetics and diet are big as well. My girlfriend, as attested by her parents, has never had a cavity in her life. No dental issues, no gingivitis, etc. She never flosses. Ever. Doesn't even own a roll of it.
Or you could be like me and have both shit genetics and bad diet, which results in bad teeth health no matter what you do.
Stevotonin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:20:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fair enough. It's possibly just subjective to me because I have zero gap between any of my teeth, but the only time I've ever had gum problems was during the 6 month period when I was forcing floss in there. Half the time, as well as the bleeding gum problem, I'd also get the frayed strands of floss caught in between my teeth and need to use more floss to get it out. I'm unlikely to ever go through it again, regardless of how indignant my dentist gets.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:16:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had the same issue so I just switched to the tiniest possible interdental brushes, much more comfortable. Ribbon floss rather than the regular stuff also helps.
adm_akbar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:31:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Flossing is to remove shit on the sides of your teeth. Bleeding or not is just incidental.
username_created ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:51:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Just because you don't know there is a problem there, doesn't mean there isn't one. You might not know you have cancer until you have a scan done but you can still be dying of a disease. Flossing has a purpose other than just not bleeding when you go to the dentist.
TL;DR just floss your teeth it's not that bad
Stevotonin ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 16:58:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can't say I've ever had it. I think I've got it covered with brushing, thanks. Other people may need more care, but I'm fine. Thanks for your concern.
username_created ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:19:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't think you understand what ginvigits is. It literally means "inflammation of the gingiva". If your gingiva is bleeding when you floss, then yes you have gingivitis.
Stevotonin ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 18:39:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bleeding and inflammation are not the same thing
username_created ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 14:27:45 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not sure why you're fighting so hard on this. I'm a dental hygienist and I deal with gingivitis everyday. Take your oral hygiene seriously or enjoy your gum disease, dude. It's your gingiva, not mine.
NexusDarkshade ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:11:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How long does it take to reduce swelling enough for gums to no longer bleed? I've been brushing/flossing every day for almost a year and I still have bleeding gums.
Arkon_the_Noble ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:28:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When was the last time you went and saw the hygienist ?
NexusDarkshade ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:29:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A year and a half ago? I can't remember exactly, but it's been at least a year.
Arkon_the_Noble ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:30:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs likely there is some plaque buildup under the gum line that is causing the bleeding and the floss isnโt taking care of it. A good thorough cleaning st the hygienist should take care of it.
NautiBoppi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:48:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My Dental Hygienists told me she learned in school that you do not need to floss all of your teeth... Only the ones you want to keep.
pupsnpogonas ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:57:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've flossed every day for over five years (as a kid and college student I didn't care). My gums never bleed and I went three years without going to the dentist and my teeth were fine. Flossing seriously helps.
Real_Atomsk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:22:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That reminds me,I should floss
LongestNeck ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:43:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Didnโt they do a massive study that concluded flossing is next to useless?
M1NNESNOWTA ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 12:18:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If we're thinking of the same study, yes... But no. It showed that flossing does nothing for preventing cavities. However, the purpose of flossing is for gum health, not cavity prevention. Flossing removes the biofilm (and food gunk!) in areas where brushing cannot reach such as beneath the gum line.
Also, if you haven't flossed in a while, floss and then smell the gunk that comes out - it's fucking gross and even if there wasn't a benefit to flossing, I'd do it just to get those nasties out.
adm_akbar ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:32:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like to wipe off the white shit that comes out with the floss and save it in a little vial. I use it as a smelling salt.
M1NNESNOWTA ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:40:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do they taste though?
adm_akbar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:45:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
like death
LongestNeck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:42:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks! I learnt something!
M1NNESNOWTA ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:54:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're welcome!
positivespadewonder ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:27:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But what can help prevent interdental cavities if not flossing?
M1NNESNOWTA ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:30:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Application of fluoride though toothpaste and mouthwash.
yellouder ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:58:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sauce?
mufllepud ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:14:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh shit, fortnite kids gonna have the healthiest gums on the block
maesteral ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:59:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
can confirm this one
Grab_B_tea ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:05:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think my right gums broken, it never not bleed
RandomZombiesZ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:26:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything my parents told me
MosquitoRevenge ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:12:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's also because your flossing technique gets better every time so you're less likely to hurt yourself accidentally.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:12:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't wrap my head around this.
TheWolvenOne ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:26:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No wonder all these kids be flossing smh Iโd be a terrible father
timmeh83 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:27:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I recently bought a waterpik from amazon. Game changer!
El_John_Nada ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:20:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm using an electric toothbrush and I floss every day and it's still bleeding every time: it still sounds like a terrible advice to me, from my personal experience.
M1NNESNOWTA ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:20:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When's the last time you went to a dentist? The same was happening for me and it turns out I had gingivitis. Got that fixed up and now no more bleeding.
El_John_Nada ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:44:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every 6 months for a routine check up.
M1NNESNOWTA ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:41:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My buddy was in the same boat and the dentist recommended that he get a water flosser. I dunno the effectiveness between the two but I would assume they are similar.
Bedangu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:20:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You mean the dance?
root66 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:21:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I clicked the wrong comments link for a thread about "13 reasons why" causing more suicides and thought you were just making a really dark analogy.
linkjn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:36:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs just what Big Floss wants you to believe!
Avinse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:57:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Arenโt you supposed to go like two millimeters into your gum when you do it to, or is that just false
_CertifiedMemer_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:05:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its because you dont floss
KeksGaming ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:28:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Didn't know that a Fortnite dance can have such a big effect on my health
ClicksAndASmell ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:43:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My gums bleed because of the extremely tight space between two of my teeth. I floss every day.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:50:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Corsodyl made a fortune off "implying" that bleeding gums when you brush/floss "could" be a sign of gum disease. Your gums are meant to bleed slightly if you haven't brushed or flossed in a while. The number of people buying this mouthwash who didn't know this was astronomical. I kept telling my friends: dude, it's perfectly normal if you've never flossed. And now they are all throwing money at corsodyl mouthwash.
impressivepineapple ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:07:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is this really true in all cases? I have super sensitive gums that bleed like a LOT, enough that when I was a kid my dentist had me gently brush my gums for a half hour sometimes to try to get them stronger.
It didnt work, and when I floss all of my teeth it looks like a massacre occurred so I just brush really well, use mouthwash, and only floss the front terth that I can do without my gums bleeding.
ravensage72 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:16:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I must be a weirdo because I love flossing. The first thing I do when I come home from work is brush and floss.
jdeurt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:32:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
shut up dentist
Zombiefoetus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:45:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Next level pro tip. Rinse w very hot water and tea tree oil. Totally cured my bleeding gums after years of prescription stuff not working.
lichtmlm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:43:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's true.
Source: flosses
inc_mplete ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:45:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I floss after every meal, the only time i haven't in my life was when i had braces cuz it was a pain. Now i'm a floss snob... not just any floss will do for me.
myles1221 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:58:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i noticed this a few months ago and now iโm addicted to flossing
markiv199 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:00:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So DONT floss?
RogueAmericanX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:11:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the best advice, and also any small teeth/tooth/gum pain go away. My teeth are in good condition, rarely ever get cavities but eating apples used to give me pain until I started flossing a lot.
Player13 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:14:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To add to this, the water pick / flosser (recommended on Askreddit about purchases everyone should get) has been great for oral hygiene.
Its actually fun and quick to floss
positivespadewonder ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:29:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is it really faster than flossing?
Player13 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:00:00 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yes but according to the comments it lacks the same effectiveness
BNMcNasty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:16:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I automatically wanna whine about how the floss really snaps down on my gums, but I also know that it still probably wouldn't hurt as much if I actually flossed... *shame face*
Captainx23 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:46:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was gonna come here and say flossing
destraight ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:47:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When are your gums supposed to stop bleeding then. I have been flossing for 3 days so far and my gums still bleed got an answer for that Einstein?
Heath776 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:56:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup if I go even a day without flossing I notice blood the next time I floss.
FatSputnik ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:42:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this doesn't take weeks either
literally 2, maybe 3 'sessions' of flossing and you'll be a flosser and it won't hurt at all. The amount of shit you get out from between your teeth is so gross that you'll never NOT floss, and is actually quite satisfying in that "pressure washing a dirty deck" kind of way
GiveYourselfAFry ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:20:30 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See I have been flossing much more & I was told it is likely making my gums recede :(
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:09:11 on August 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to floss and use an electric toothbrush. My gums would bleed when flossing. I would develop tons of canker sores in my mouth that would then become infected (redness around the outside).
I then started using mouthwash after brushing. I rarely have a canker sore unless I do not use mouthwash. If one develops, it does not hurt and it goes away quickly. My gums would still bleed when flossing.
I then started using a waterpik. My gums do not bleed when flossing.
sabyflowers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:32:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
u/pableezy1
JonerrBonerr ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:04:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I be flossin' (Yeah)
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XCXCHARLI ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:45:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
delete your account
Zumvault ยท 888 points ยท Posted at 00:55:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For gamers, play games that have a beneficial afk element (in-game), then whenever you need to do some afk stuff spend the time it takes cleaning your house.
Started playing Black Desert Online on xbox, my house has never been cleaner and I'm doing it so regularly that It's becoming a habit and when I'm all caught up I nap.
It's like a tricked myself into taking care of me and my place with games. Easily the best life change I've made this year. I'm productive in-game, at home, and I'm well rested. 10/10 highly recommend.
Rishnixx ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 02:08:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Punch Club.
That game is a lot of choosing what to do and then watching the results. Considering it's a game about training and boxing, basically Rocky the game, it motivated me to lift weights while I played it.
Rising_Swell ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 05:54:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Minecraft works great for me due to the fact that if I unplug my mouse while one of the buttons is held down it's effectively an autoclicker. As long as I don't click again once it's plugged back in, it doesn't stop. Any reason you need to click a lot in the same spot? Well, I can AFK that.
RegularGoat ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:45:48 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude if you had auto-run forward on too, you could do branch mining!
Tremor00 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:13:41 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Until you hit lava
TCMinnesotENT ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 15:24:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is why I love Runescape.
Roonage ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 09:05:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Along a similar line, games with definite break points can be good to manage your time playing.
Rogue-likes like Binding of Isaac or FTL, MOBAs like Dota2 or League of Legends, sport games. There are so many types of games that are good for this.
The end of every run, match, round, floor, whatever is an opportunity to check in with yourself.
Do you need to eat, drink, go to the bathroom? Do you have time to play another round? What time do you want to stop playing?
The more often you check in on yourself, the easier it gets to prioritise things over gaming.
stupidasks ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 10:57:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is so weird to see it all together. I would never recommend MOBAs to someone who wants to prioritise things over gaming.
Roonage ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 12:22:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know right.
I wouldnt say i would recommend MOBAs, but if your already playing them the breaks are there if you look for them. Definitely harder if your playing with a group though.
Salsa_hashbrowns87 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:53:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I play league alot, and I take breaks in between games to do stuff like clean
Zumvault ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 14:09:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nier Automata was super good about this as well
Emanuel179 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 16:27:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That game was super good about everything tbh
Zumvault ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 16:52:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never made it very far, I did a lot of fishing and when trying to do combat I'd always get distracted by the... ahem... character design.
It's innovations in gameplay changes were astonishing to me, I loved that it would swap from intense combat to a side scroller bullet hell and then swap off to galaga style bullet hell and back again, it was awesome.
Emanuel179 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:26:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly. Soundtrack was one of the best Iโve ever heard, but you do gotta play through the game properly to experience the various endings. Itโs actually quite amazing when you play ending D etc. I just speedran the part where you play as 9S
Zumvault ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:27:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The music was great but incredibly distracting, it was constantly stealing my attention to the point of dying a couple times, I didn't make it far enough to figure out if that was intentional or not.
Emanuel179 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 20:41:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hahaha. You sure you werenโt looking at the โcharacter designโ again ? ;)
Resistance camp music and the fairground music was especially great IMO. The ending song for the final ending though.... speechless...
Zumvault ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:49:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The parts that caught me were in mid-combat in the early areas when all of a sudden female vocals would drown out the sounds of combat and just rip my attention from the fight. I loved the music though, and straight up sat by the jukebox in that one camp with the bots playing outside in the water, I napped to that a few times, it was great shit!
Raithwall ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:27:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My last comment before bed. Absolutely this. It helps me feel I can progress in a hobby while staying deeply in the work game. Sometimes I get time off and can log over to enjoy the fruits of my labor :)
[deleted] ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 06:43:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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_Der_SteppenWolf ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 06:54:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Away From Keyboard usually it's used when you are not using the computer
ilyemco ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 18:58:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What does that mean though? When you leave the keyboard does something happen in the game?
unchainedzulu33 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 16:10:31 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It just means you're not at the keyboard. Some games, if you get up, the character will just stop until you return.
Like pacman or sonic the hedgehog. Nothing can happen unless you're there.
OP was talking about games that have something useful happening for the game that you just sit and watch. You can click it to start and then go do something else (vacuum, hang laundry) and come back to continue.
It's about maximising your in-game time and your real life time, I stead of sacrificing one for the other.
FredrickTheFish ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 23:07:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For example in Minecraft you could make a farm that works automatically, but only when you're playing the game. So you leave the game running while you do something else.
50m4ra ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:11:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its also used as "non-present" due to its use outside of computer games
Kiwiboer1559 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:43:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is BDO worth getting? Apparently itโs a massive p2w
Rysilk ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:29:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
BDO is only somewhat p2w if you care about being in the top 1%.
If you don't care about that, then BDO is the best bang for free of any mmo out there.
I play BDO, but I don't PvP. I can log in, and have a hundred different things I can do, on my own time, without having to "race" progress. It's awesome. I've been the same lvl for 8 months now, and I play about 12 hours a week. And I am having a blast.
MoGe_SgS ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:54:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here, I usually like to just run around and explore (trying to glitch myself into places)
I used to have a guild and have fun without focusing on pvp progression, sadly they all abandoned the game.
Zumvault ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:08:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Paying definitely gives you some peripheral advantages but the game itself is worth playing despite that.
Also the primary recommendation players give is purchase the game, then purchase 4 pets. It's nearly mandatory to have 4 pets by the time you reach level 50 or so.
mayflowercompact ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:16:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Value Packs and Artisans are definitely not "peripheral advantages". Basically if you're able to pay you just straight up get better gear 4x more easily. It's a great game, but I quit because there's no way you can keep up with endgame grind for TET or PEN without paying or a crazy amount of time.
Zumvault ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:24:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's fair, this game definitely requires a pretty large time investment. Just getting a piece of gear to TET can take a few weeks of effort. And Artisan Memories definitely make that process faster.
ALLST6R ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:58:49 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have Xbox, it's going free on Games with Gold this month
Kiwiboer1559 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:55:26 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm on ps4 so no luck here
t4th ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:18:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For good times you have to spend some money for pets and costume. But then it is so much fun! Learning and discovering the world is awesome, but I gotta agree than getting to the top tier pvp is time and money sink - luckily for me I do pvp sparsely and still have a blast.
AllegoricalSleeping ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 19:50:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this with old school runescape. So many afk skills to grind xp for, no better time to do some work
Kmon_Son ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:24:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this all the time with Factorio
dropped_donut ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:12:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I immediately thought of BDO reading your first paragraph lol
darkslayer114 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:17:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
OMG, I need to try this. Mortal Kombat 11 has some pretty grindy elements. I just started having the AI run some of the harder towers, gonna do this while I clean and shit now
Zumvault ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:46:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Highly recommend it, I know I already said it but my house is so clean, and I'm well rested from napping when I'm all caught up around the house!
n0nMS009 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:28:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I play total war games a lot, in the campaign map after a turn I'll get a set of 25 push ups in, curls, squats, basically a full at home workout while playing.
Jellyka ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:35:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I stopped playing BDO when I noticed I'd play pokemon tcg in another window at the same time, and still had enough down time between my turns that I'd browse reddit too at the same time..
At some point I went, what am i even doing ? These games aren't really good I guess lol
Zumvault ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:50:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you spend all of your active time in BDO performing afk or semi afk activities then you're your own enemy tbh.
Afk activities are far less efficient and engaging than active ones. But some people can't overcome the desire to get rewards for as little effort as possible.
The game gives you the option to do next to nothing for minor rewards or be active for significantly better rewards.
Folseit ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:48:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I played an Asian MMO game when I was in my teens that had a built-in afk bot system. From what I remember, you controlled a party of 3 and you could set up a series of actions for them to perform when grinding. The game was so grindy that you had to do the afk bot thing to get anywhere though.
Zumvault ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:07:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Introducing afk or bot mechanics can be great but adding grind do that they are necessary is poor design, It's my biggest issue with Korean MMOs tbh.
The worst aspect of BDO in my opinion is the fact that you don't have an option to process materials in bulk. The worst aspect for someone who spends $ on the game is that Costumes are class or character specific and cost $20-$30.
Ominouse-Egg ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:49:51 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also. Do some type of small exercise during loading screens (leg lifts, squat, plank, ect). It helps get the blood going and gets easier over time.
diodenkn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:18:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is one of the reasons why xenoblade chronicles 2 is my favourite game.
ShadowExcalibur- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:58:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do u do exactly? Auto farm that one super boss that drops legendary cores or just the expeditions?
diodenkn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:02:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Expeditions, specifically Ursulaโs ones. They are too short to get properly stuck into something else in the game, but you can pretty realistically do some quick things around the house in those ten minutes.
ShadowExcalibur- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:15:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, expeditions dont run if your switch is off right?
diodenkn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:27:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I believe so.
Lissmels ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:49:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. I play smite and have to wait for a few minutes while the game finds a match for me. There's also deadtime while the game is launching. I spend this time lifting weights and it works wonders, I finally feel fit without having to spend any time in the gym!
AgentElman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:58:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Games used to take time to process. You would take a turn in civ and then have a few minutes while the computer did its thing. I got a lot done in those short breaks
-Benjamin_Dover- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:25:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do you do in the game? Does it have a Auto-Play mode? I only played it for 30 minutes to an hour before I never played it again.
Zumvault ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:49:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is a ton to do ranging from your basic questing and mob grinding to exploring complex subsystems! You can build a node network and a worker empire to work in it as well as crafting loads of goods from processed materials.
Processing materials is the bulk of my semi-afk time and when I lay down for the night or go to work I set my character to fish.
Fishing is the closest to autoplay I'd say because once you hook a fish you can either hit "A" and play the minigame (button combinations) or wait 3 minutes and you'll just reel it in.
-Benjamin_Dover- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:30:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Huh... Is the rewards worth it? Some games, either require ALOT of time to get a decent item or they require you to whip out your credit card and "Smite down thy Broke noobs"
Zumvault ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:46:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is the rewards from what worth what?
BDO can require a ton of time to get the best weapon and gear available due to RNG and low drop rates.
The best weapons in the game atm are Kzarka weapons, they drop from the only World boss Kzarka. He spawns at scheduled times and his health is shared across all servers, the top 20 damage dealers per server have a higher chances at getting a drop, I believe it's 4%. For anyone who hits him they have a .3% [fact check needed] to get a drop.
I'm in a guild of 4 people, one of ours got a Kzarka on his 12th time, I'm on my 80th and still have not recieved a good drop, good meaning either a Kzarka or a Liverto, Liverto is also a weapon type and so far as I am aware Liverto weapons are the second strongest in the game.
For reference a +15 Liverto Blade [weapons are class specific, Blades are for a Samurai type class named Musa] costs about 75.5m, I earned the money to purchase one from another player in about a week, then waited about two days before someone sold one and I recieved it.
A Kzarka is usually 200m+ though for most players you will be able to buy one before you get one to drop.
As for the P2W aspects of the game they aren't too bad in my opinion, people can't outright buy the best gear or buy skill points to cap out their skills. No matter how much money you spend there is still a ton of legwork and time you have to put in to be good.
There are a fair number of purchases you can make that will meaningfully impact your gameplay and allow you to earn more in-game money than other players but nothing game breaking as far as I'm concerned. Once you reach level 56 and have full TRI gear It's primarily about skill at that point.
You can completely avoid PvP by staying at level 49, and ignoring the quest that allows you to go higher until you get fully geared and get your skill points up.
Emanuel179 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:32:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds great, but how the heck can I get into BDO? I bought the game, but it comes across as simply so confusing to me. The graphics are incredible, but It feels poorly translated, and my attacks feel pretty spammy (not sure if using any specific combos has real advantages). Generally knowing what quests are best to do as well
Zumvault ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:56:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Quests are actually not very beneficial if your goal is to get leveled asap, but they do provide general tours through cities and regions as well as helping you discover new nodes.
It has a high barrier of entry for the reasons you stated it is somewhat poorly translated when it comes to explaining mechanics and definitely lacks on tutorials, my main recommendation would be to check out some YouTubers to get an understanding of the broad concepts and the dive in and learn as you go. It's fantastic though that learning curve is hard to swallow unless You're really interested in the game and willing to Google a fair amount.
Goal #1 should be to learn what you can as the game teaches you and work towards getting a +15 weapon via enhancing all while questing so the game will introduce you to new concepts.
MoGe_SgS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:05:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do the main quests first, they give you decent gold, gear and something called "advice of valks" (save them they will be very usefull around lvls 56 onwards) also you get to lvl 56 extremely quick after that is the grindfest
Also the "inventory expansion quests, those will give you 16 or more slots
What console do you use to play?
Emanuel179 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:27:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for the tips!
Iโm on PC
MoGe_SgS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:03:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what region?, i can help you around if you are interested.
Emanuel179 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:40:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm based in the UK so I would assume Iโm in the EU region. Always down to play with others on the off chance you are too! :)
MoGe_SgS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:50:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sadly I play on NA, feelsbad, however I'm always open to help :D
ImLittleBoy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:24:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Easy, just play league of legends.
doominabox1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:36:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Any game with afk elements is a bad game
Zumvault ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:45:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I disagree. The ability to have the non-mandatory option to gain unnecessary but useful resources at a slower rate when not actively playing a game is a nice bonus.
The keywords being non-mandatory and unnecessary.
The game is entirely playable without utilizing afk or semi-afk activities when you aren't actively playing. They exist so you can perform them while planning your next move and exploring the node network via the map. They just have the ability for specific ones to be extended for up to 8 hours at a time.
Any game that hinges or relies on afk activities is poorly designed for sure, this game doesn't and isn't.
0nlyhalfjewish ยท 3042 points ยท Posted at 01:43:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't suffer future pain. In other words, worrying about all the stuff that could happen stops you from doing things and worse, turns potential pain into actual worry and mental pain.
tionanny ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 07:09:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worry is interest paid on a debt you may never have.
I can't remember where that's from
soberdude ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 05:04:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I still sometimes do this, because I like to have contingency plans. But I've gotten better at seeing the difference between planning and obsessing.
I'll pick the most likely outcomes and plan accordingly now. So, I'll spend 5 minutes on "If A happens, I do C, if B happens, I do D"
Then, I have a plan, and limit the amount of time I stress over something. If I'm spending more than 5-10 minutes, I'm obsessing
InerwebsRwise ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 05:56:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Been doing this for months in a long distance relationship. Creates hell for your mind. A very deep and dark place when it goes unchecked. Take heed with this advice people!
GayDude18 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 10:36:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have my final exams and I am acting like I'm not scared but I actually am horribly scared I might mess up. Which is why I keep going on the internet to distract myself. But you are right. One should never fear the future or suffer for something that didn't even happen (yet). So I will go off now as hard as it is and study as long as I can! And I want you, person who reads this to stop for a moment too and think about this: Is there anything you have to do but are distracting yourself instead of doing it? Yes? Then GO and make a CHANGE. Don't hide but go out there and proof to yourself and everyone else that you are a fighter- not a coward. Now GO
LWY007 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 13:12:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You got this. Go forth and kick ass.
GayDude18 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:20:09 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you ๐ I will!
Eiikare ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:22:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks friend! I was putting a crochet project off because I am down in the dumps today, but youโre right, I will feel better once I start working on it again. ๐
GayDude18 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:20:27 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm proud of you
Eiikare ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:02:14 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yo dude, Iโm proud of you, too!
suncourt ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:48:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is what I think when people say they're afraid to get another pet/date someone because they could lose them too. So you're going to suffer years of being alone because being alone in the future will hurt?
[deleted] ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 05:37:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if they dont suffer being alone?
ElysianFlowers ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 10:43:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then you have an awesome advantage in life and you probably achieve all your dreams because you're not spending 50% of your resources on someone else. So the advice doesn't apply to you.
My mom is always afraid of a new pet because losing them always hurts. I know this pain but animals bring so much life to a home. They change your life. They make you feel good. You have less existential angst when you take care of them. Rescuing a shelter animal is an amazing thing to do even if you know you'll outlive them.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:45:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dont have dreams in life, I am a lazy guy :)
nakao7888544 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:21:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Than your dream is to live a life where you can be lazy whenever you want. Still things you can do that will move you closer or farther from the goal. There are also factors you cant control. You do have a dream, and that alone is a thing. If our dreams were all the same we'd be a boring bunch, dont you think. Your easygoing nature and want to relish the gifts of this magnificant earth is the yin to a workaholics yang.
Instead of saying lazy I'd say you're someone who and appreciates the that is the beautiful stillness and peace we are able to bathe in in a chaotic and ever moving universe, and who appreciates the gifts and pleasures and joy of our being that we feel out of simply living in and witnessing conciousness and often feel through the worldly pleasure of existing and experiencing.
Eh but what do I know lol :P I enjoyed writing that though
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:27:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its not a dream of mine, its just my current functioning. I dont make a dream or something to strive towards out of it. I dont have anything I strive towards in my life apart from everything I do, whatever I do I strive to do it or get it done.
I dont have any long term goal. I might have some goals sometimes like I boiled some water for the goal of making tea which is now done as I am drinking it.
I dont have a dream in the sense that people mean by dream, something the are working towards with their life. Unless everything we do is a goal such as I go to the toilet for the goal of relieving myself or I go to the bar for the goal of meeting friends and drinking a few beers.
suncourt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:22:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's a lot to be said for being able to enjoy your life as it is.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:33:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone wants to be happy all the time expect some people who are not happy all the time.
suncourt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:22:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think that's a whole different statement and situation then. It changes from "I'm afraid to get another ______ because it hurts to lose them", to "I'm happy by myself" Which is great. There's also the related statement of " I'm not ready yet because it still hurts to much" Which is also entirely valid and should in no means be argued with. I'm specifically talking about the people who are interested and denying themselves having something specifically because they won't always have it.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:24:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah you are right.
Birdbraned ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:18:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Quote by Newt Scamander: โMy philosophy is if you worry, you suffer twice.โ
illuminati_Bob ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:36:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Time to fuck a blender
Whulum ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:41:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is this a reference to the tinder girl?
illuminati_Bob ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:43:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To the what?
Whulum ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:12:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cant find the post but some tinder girl stated in her bio "My jaw is wired shut so go fuck a blender first if you want me to suck your dick" or something like that.
Maybe far fetched but I'm keeping my hopes up for OPs response!
illuminati_Bob ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:15:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I.. wha... Ok
BurnHerBurnHer ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:04:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the number one thing I learned in therapy after seeking treatment for crippling anxiety. It helped completely turn my life back around!
Eagleassassin3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:14:12 on May 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What's the biggest advice you would give for someone in such a situation? I worry about my future or about myself quite frequently.
BurnHerBurnHer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:14:34 on May 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take a mindfulness class or alternatively look into mindfulness online. Force yourself to be in the moment while you go through the exercises too. It's difficult at first and you will catch yourself thinking about what you need to do immediately after it's finished, but just keep bringing your focus back to right this moment as you notice it trying to get away. Also pay attention to sensory things like 'What can I hear right now?' or 'How many people that I can see right now are smiling?' or 'What 3 things can I smell right this second?' 'How many things can I feel touching my skin right this second.' especially when you find yourself going through countless imaginary future scenarios that most likely won't ever happen.
boomtoonblues ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:01:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is something I needed to read
moosecatoe ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:28:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWorrying is like praying for what you donโt want.โ
Press-A ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:33:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My internship that was great the first few days got turned around completely the next week. They cut me from the agenda and deleted my name from their website she had just put me on. They did not talk to me unless they needed me to do something. My anxiety is at a peak because I don't know why they treat me like this. I have to go again tomorrow and I won't even be able to talk to the owner the day after tomorrow. My depression is rising again and with my social anxiety, ASS and ADD I just can't cope with this stress.
I need this internship to get my degree even though I've passed all my classes without any re-do's and it's the best achievement of my life. I just don't know why I'm such a failure as an intern.
My point is, I don't know yet why they treat me the way they do but I cant keep my feelings and body in check. Sorry I just had to vent.
JohnGenericDoe ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:41:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Don't borrow trouble"
NarcAwayBeach ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:08:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So much truth in this, yet so difficult for some people, including myself to go through with. Anxiety is a bitch.
bee_vomit ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:51:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find that while it is important to not worry about the bad stuff that could happen, it is still beneficial to recognize that it could happen (premeditatio malorum) and to plan accordingly.
ilovebaconmore ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:01:07 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
plan for the worst- hope for the best
GooglyEyes2000 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:45:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone who hasnโt flown since before 9/11, this struck a chord.
Ariscia ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 12:51:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not such good advice for travel to certain countries, actually.
turdferguson3541 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:59:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty much the same thing, but the version given to me was "don't worry about things until you absolutely have to." It saved me so much unnecessary stress.
ShoutmonXHeart ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:09:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My brain needs to learn this, too much time and mental effort spent on overthinking and losing focus from what I need to do.
Voldemortsawkwardhug ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:08:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โMy philosophy is that worrying means you suffer twice.โ - Newt Scamander
Afox42 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:02:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you stress too much about something before it happens, you basically put yourself through it twice.
CloakedSnipers ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:30:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yea isn't it something like "Dont worry about what could happen because worrying makes you suffer twice" That's how I heard it at least.
shadowrangerfs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:44:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck. I'm doing this right now.
RentalBrain ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:04:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife does this all the time. She worries about stuff that isnโt even a problem yet (and might not even become a problem). She worries all day every day and I feel like I canโt get her to live in the moment and enjoy what we have going on.
SurelyFurious ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:50:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/wowthanksimcured
PoiLethe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:29:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Weirdly enough theres been two occasions where it helped future me. One was graduating highschool. Senior year was a lot of processing that life was going to change from then on and be very different and I would not know how. I want sure I wanted to know or live it. I realize school was home to me in a lot of ways and that made me sad. So when graduation actually came i wasnt emotional at all the way a lot of kids were, or it was only then sinking that that they would never see these people and this place again in the same fashion. It didnt help after for me but that was a whole other can of worms and depression.
The second was my cat. I had plenty of pets before but this one...he wasnt my fur baby, he was something better, like my familiar. Just so much respect and love going both ways. I dont know how to explain it without it sounding weird. All I can say is I learned a lot more about boundaries and animals from that cat. I just knew that when he was gone I'd would be devastated. Shattered. Cried about it before it could happen. Then with only four years with this amazing boi he went missing. And i skipped some grief stages and landed on angry rather than mentally gone.
I was weirdly emotionally prepared for things I thought were going the decimate me because I let it do its thing before it happened. But I guess part of it was those were inevitable. I'd have to process them at some point and no matter what it would be emotionally impactful to do so. For other things that you dont know are inevitable, or you just worry about, it's never going to be worth it.
lemoncakeisgud ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:52:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I needed this one.
EmotionalRangeOfTsp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:59:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worrying means you suffer twice.
tigzee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:58:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's hard when you know the pain is inevitable.
Source: Cardiff City fan.
Lick-It-Twice ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:00:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can you explain this to my girlfriend please?
melovetaco ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:12:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I needed this THANK YOU.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:23:59 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Took me a year with a therapist to even start getting better at that.
lytele ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:15:45 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if you worry about something in the future then you're just going to end up worrying twice.
PaterP ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:38:25 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My biggest struggle in life and often keeps me back from finding happiness...
Huehnerhabichtsen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:52:52 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Easier said than done
mike2R ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:43:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
"Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof" Matthew 6:34
edit in response to downvotes: it's literally this exact thought, from nineteen hundred years ago (or whenever Matthew was written), you don't find that even a little interesting?
Anonener ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:07:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hard to believe you're getting down voted, honestly what's wrong with people?
Take my up vote good friend
[deleted] ยท 646 points ยท Posted at 01:50:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercising helping with depression and anxiety. It's not a cure all and I needed to be on meds to get to the point where I could do it, but it really does help me. I've been off my meds now for over a year (under doctors supervision don't stop taking your meds unless you run it by your doctor) and when I can't exercise for a few days, I can feel the depression and anxiety coming back. Now instead of going through a million things I did wrong in my head, I run for 3 miles or lift some heavy shit.
pupsnpogonas ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 12:16:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I go running, I am ALWAYS in a better mood, especially if I'm outside.
fatty_buddha ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 10:40:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's great man, exercise can really solve a lot of issues. For me is the physical discomfort - I work a sedentary job, and if I don't go to the gym for a few days I feel like my ass becomes numb, my lower back hurts and I'm sooo bloated.
acer34p3r ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 12:51:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise really helped me as well back in college. Run a mile, lift some weights, bike 5 miles or run another 2. About an hour and a half a day including travel to the gym, but it was well worth it. I didn't have to go every day either, I would usually go every other day, or do harder workouts on my days off. Fast forward a couple years, I've stopped doing that. Between an office job and 2 other much simpler jobs, I find myself craving the time to get back into the gym again because adulting is depressing as shit.
UnvoicedAztec ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 13:55:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even running a single mile on the harder days leaves me feeling better for the rest of the day
Andalusian_Dawn ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 16:49:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My husband read this book called Spark (something about mind and depression and exercise) and started doing this too. He wakes up easier in the morning and is more cheerful since he has constant low level depression. He was always a weight lifter, but adding running/aerobics was the game changer.
CHAD_J_THUNDERCOCK ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:04:22 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks, I needed motivation for cardio and this was it.
Ivegotthatboomboom ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 11:08:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And keeping a regular sleep schedule
tayylorlyynn ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 19:36:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I kept reading through all the comments just to find this! Iโve been told for years that exercise can help with depression but I never would have believed it until I experienced it for myself. Iโm 11 weeks into a regular exercise routine and going to the gym has easily become my favorite part of the day (after I got past the initial dread of it the first few weeks). My mood is so much better and Iโve actually started to lose some weight which was my main goal initially but all these other great things are happening too. Iโm just so excited to be genuinely happy again.
WanderingFaerie ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:21:39 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man I'm on medication and I still can't find the drive, kudos to youโค๏ธ
kchow81 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:30:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also find that exercising helps me sleep better, which also helps with my anxiety, since Iโm not strung out on gallons of coffee to get through my day. Iโm with you, when I donโt exercise for a few days, things start to go south quickly.
Beck83 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:27:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me personally, I feel like this is the advice that can potentially help me the most.
Horrorito ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:16:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can more than recommend that! It's hard to start when you're at your lowest point, but is great for maintenance at least.
Pollyhotpocketposts ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:51:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/eood
Catsinspaceship ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:58:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs disappointing that some of these comments are gilded, with thousands of upvotes, while youโre over here with a little over a hundred.
Hydrangea666 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:15:17 on May 18, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes. Nordic walking and yoga help me so much with my anxiety.
La_Lechuga ยท 36919 points ยท Posted at 01:08:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Compliment people behind their backs. Sounds stupid but works wonders.
LuminaryClock ยท 23382 points ยท Posted at 03:37:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โI'd never say this to her face, but she's a wonderful person and a gifted artist.โ
terminbee ยท 9791 points ยท Posted at 03:49:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"I'm not a racist but I think everyone should be treated equally."
v____v ยท 406 points ยท Posted at 04:21:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
someone's gotta say it [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ccTy5Z4WaB4]
SeaofBloodRedRoses ยท 54 points ยท Posted at 05:16:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really wish these videos would be available outside the US. I don't really see the purpose in blocking them.
Steinrik ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 06:01:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Norwegian here. Not blocked for me..
SeaofBloodRedRoses ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 06:05:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe they just have a thing out for Canada then... I've heard it's blocked globally outside of the US though.
Matthew205 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 06:55:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, itโs blocked in Australia too.
smurfy12 ยท 54 points ยท Posted at 07:16:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's literally available everywhere except Canada and Australia, lmao
https://polsy.org.uk/stuff/ytrestrict.cgi?ytid=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DccTy5Z4WaB4
SeaofBloodRedRoses ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 08:07:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel so attacked
Key and Peele are a bunch of racists
Galahead ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:41:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tell it like it is!
stabby_joe ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 15:08:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A Norwegian literally just told you this is not true.
Cthulhus_Trilby ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 15:15:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not racist but...can you really trust a Norwegian?
bingealting ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:02:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can't. They'll just get you drunk and then steal your oil.
SeaofBloodRedRoses ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:54:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes. Thank you for telling me what I literally just read. Instead of using your brain. To see that that's obviously not what I was saying.
joshi38 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 12:09:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's all about who owns the distribution rights in other countries. It's not so much that Comedy Central randomly decided "fuck Canada", but more that some network in Canada bought the rights to air the show and got Comedy Central to geo-block their Youtube videos in Canada so Canadians would be forced to watch the show on said Network instead of watching the clips online.
SeaofBloodRedRoses ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:56:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Uh, alright. Do you know what network this is? Because I can't find it anywhere. Kinda counterproductive.
joshi38 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:39:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No clue, I'm not in Canada. It may well be that some Network has it and just isn't airing it right now, but may in the future. Either way, they want exclusivity in your area, so no more watching on Youtube.
SeaofBloodRedRoses ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:32:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's been blocked for 3 years...
Ent-Turner ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:50:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It didn't block the video for me and I'm in Asia. I do get videos blocked on occasion but this one played without issue.
kinkyaboutjewelry ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:37:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Available in Ireland.
elliomitch ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:03:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the UK works too ๐
_decipher ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 07:56:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For now
Carbon_FWB ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:41:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
DUNT
DUNT
DUHHHHH!
pm_me_your_bra_plz ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:06:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
VPN my guy
Ididturnitoffandon ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:56:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He is not your guy, friend.
skinnyanglerguy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:39:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Heโs not your friend, dude.
maalefty ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:18:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He's not your dude fella
takeDrei ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:21:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Germany here, not blocked for me
ForeverAnUglyLoser ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:03:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Likely because nobody wants to fuck with Canada's moronic speech laws. I'm surprised the UK isn't on the list instead of Australia though.
SeaofBloodRedRoses ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 19:55:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Canada has some of the most liberating freedom of speech laws in the world. The US is basically North Korea in comparison.
ForeverAnUglyLoser ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 23:17:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's probably the silliest claim I've ever heard. The US only has one exception to freedom of speech, and that is calls to action.
Canada has no free speech and you can be arrested or fined for something so stupid as not using the right gender for someone.
SeaofBloodRedRoses ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:31:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's... very very very very very very false. Like, incomprehensibly false.
ForeverAnUglyLoser ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 23:42:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its not false in the slightest. Not using someone's pronouns violates your "human rights" code, thanks to C-16, which results in fines or jail time if you refuse to pay said fines. They also have entire categories of "hate speech" and numbers of "reasonable limits" that they impose on speech.
Which means your speech isn't free or protected, what you can say is at the whims of whoever is in power.
SeaofBloodRedRoses ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:50:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I literally live in Canada. I'm Canadian. I know my own country's laws and I know what I'm talking about. C-16 prohibits discrimination against different gender identities, meaning you can't refuse to hire someone because they're a girl with a penis. Under no circumstances does it mean that accidentally calling someone the wrong gender/sex is illegal. That's not at all what the law says, and it never has had any chance of meaning that.
Americans have straight up been arrested for saying fuck the police.
The United States is the least free western developed country out there. You keep screaming for freedom but you might as well be North Korea compared to any other western country.
ForeverAnUglyLoser ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 00:47:12 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your issue is you've included the word "accidentally" where I never used it. You absolutely can be arrested or fined for using the pronoun. Accidental or not doesn't matter in the slightest. You guys have already fined one man $55,000 for using the wrong pronoun on someone
No American has been arrested for saying fuck the police, because that's a legal statement. They may have been arrested for disorderly conduct or something similar, but that is easily overturned in a court if inapplicable. I'm talking about the end result of your system, not morons who go outside of the system.
Fact of the matter is you can't point to a single piece of legislation to support your assertions. Whereas I can and have already.
robincat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:00:36 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Could you link me to the case of the person who was fined?
Accidental or not does matter. Using the wrong pronoun accidentally has absolutely nothing to do with C-16. Deliberately using the wrong pronoun as a pattern of harassment or discrimination might. Just like it's not illegal to use racial slurs while hanging out with your friends, but if you call your employee racial slurs all the time that's a problem.
ForeverAnUglyLoser ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:34:17 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I told you a very specific amount, two seconds of Google would have gotten you a source you prefer so that we don't have to go through this idiotic source shopping bit. Here if you want a different source then find it yourself.
You don't seem to understand, that is exactly the problem. I don't give a shit if it's intentional or accidental free speech is free speech, it doesn't come with a bullshit tag like that.
Fact of the matter is there's no line that you can give me that you can say in Canada but I'd be arrested for in the US. But I can give you an endless number of lines that you would be arrested for in Canada and not in the US.
You guys don't have freedom, you have privileges your government gave you and can take back or limit any time they wish to do so. Our founders were much better in framing the bill of Rights. They don't grant us those rights, they view them as intrinsic to being human and recognize that they should only ever be infringed upon in very specific circumstances. Hurt feelings is not one of them.
robincat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:12:52 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I haven't said anything about that. I asked you to link me to the case you're talking about and I clarified what C-16 means because I think you are confused. The case you're talking about has nothing to do with C-16 at all, so of course it would not come up in a search.
Edit. And, of course, the case you're talking about wasn't about someone using the wrong pronoun. It was about someone distributing flyers attacking someone running for public office because they are trans. That's quite different.
ForeverAnUglyLoser ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:50:17 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're incorrect about what C16 means, I've read through the wording in it's entirety. It classifies misgendering as a form of discrimination
Incorrect. The bulk sum of the money was awarded because the flyer said that the person was "male." The only real "difference" is that the statement really isn't about pronouns specifically, as "male" isn't a pronoun. But that would actually make it more damning, your speech is so limited that you actually fined someone for stating a biological fact.
robincat ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:37:24 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
You may want to read this to understand what C-16 really means:
http://sds.utoronto.ca/blog/bill-c-16-no-its-not-about-criminalizing-pronoun-misuse/
In the Vancouver case, $35,000 was rewarded based on "injury to her dignity, feelings, and selfโrespect." Gender pronouns were a minor part of a campaign of discrimination, humiliation, and attempting to incite hatred, which would pretty clearly injury someone's dignity and feelings. Far more important than gender pronouns is the fact that the campaign questioned Oger's morality, integrity, and fitness for office based solely on the fact that she is trans and strongly implied that trans peopleโsuch as Ogerโare associated with criminality (including, but not limited to, sexual violence against women). Significantly, he not only expressed his own clear hatred and contempt for her, but encouraged others to discriminate against her and prevent her from being elected due to her gender identity.
The campaign also compromised her personal safety, as evidenced by the police advising her to "not to park her car in front of her home, to avoid a person tampering with it. She had to advise the police hate crimes division when she was going to appear at a public event and follow complex security arrangements as a result." She feared for her family's safety as well.
Overall, the tribunal found:
"The vilification of Ms. Oger in this complaint drew on the very stereotypes that would see transgender people treated as inferior and inherently unworthy to hold public office. The Flyer was disseminated at a time when Ms. Oger was in the public eye and targeted to those people in her riding who would be assessing her merit as a candidate. It referred to her genitals โ something that Ms. Oger rightly points out that no person would want discussed publicly โ and associated her directly with disease and social ills. The intent was to generate an immediate negative impact on her campaign, on the basis that she was inherently untrustworthy and not worthy of due regard or respect."
So, no, the $35,000 was not awarded solely or even primarily on either gender pronouns or the word "male".
When it comes to costs: they awarded $20,000 based on conduct that happened in the tribunal process itself, not due to the originating complaint. So, that money was not rewarded based on the flyer. This is part of the reasoning:
"Participants in the Tribunal's process are entitled to be treated with respect, and a costs award is available to sanction parties who engage in conduct that is inflammatory, derogatory, disrespectful and inappropriate."
Misuse of pronouns was found to be disrespectful, inflammatory, derogatory, and inappropriate due to their intent. But misuse of pronouns was not the only issue or, again, even the primary one. This was all the conduct that was found the have occurred during the hearing:
a. attending the hearing, and giving his testimony, wearing a tโshirt that denigrated Ms. Oger based on her gender identity, in the face of the panelโs clear statement that it was improper;
b. throughout the process, referring to Ms. Oger as a man, in violation of the Tribunalโs direct, and repeated, orders to stop;
c. testifying in a manner that demonstrated contempt for the Tribunal and its process;
d. filing a response to the complaint that denigrated Ms. Oger based on her gender identity, in terms very similar to the Flyer which I have found violated s. 7 of the Code;
e. publicly posting a photograph of the inside of the hearing room, in violation of the Tribunalโs "Public Access & Media Policyโ;
f. repeatedly reโarguing issues that had already been decided by the Tribunal; 99 g. repeatedly denigrating Ms. Oger in connection with her gender identity and this complaint, in his public posts through social media, his website, a printed flyer, and on a podcast; and
h. denigrating Ms. Quail in connection with her sexual orientation in his public communications about this complaint.
You can read the full decision here:
https://www.citynews1130.com/wp-content/blogs.dir/sites/9/2019/03/28/58_Oger_v_Whatcott_No_7_2019_BCHRT_58.pdf
ForeverAnUglyLoser ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:31:42 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your link literally backs up exactly what I've claimed. It even says it gives tribunals the ability to include misuse pronouns in their considerations.
That in itself is absolutely stupid. She wasn't injured in any way, hurt feelings are a moronic excuse to infringe on free speech.
Your dignity and feelings shouldn't be protected under anything. Its nobody's responsibility but your own to preserve them.
You're not making a good argument for Canada being "more free" than the US. You're literally fining people for campaigning against people they don't like, because it hurts her feelings.
That's complete bullshit, there were no threats issued at all and no reason for her to fear for her safety. This is like saying racist white people should be able to sue black people because they feel unsafe around them. Its moronic.
Do you not understand that nothing you've said is an argument in your favor? Every single thing about that case proves your laws and system is far more draconian than anything the US has.
You're too busy focusing on being correct on minor details to see that your corrections make no difference to my argument. Its still an abhorrent infringement on the concept of free speech.
In other words $20,000 was due to using the wrong pronouns during the trial. Absolutely moronic.
Very "free" isn't it?
Such free speech
Much deserved, your tribunals are a kangaroo court that mocks the idea of Justice.
Again, no free speech.
Wow you guys really have no freedoms there.
As anyone in their right mind should. Your tribunals are disgusting to anyone who has experienced actual freedom.
So again, no free speech.
And again, no free speech.
Why would I need to? You've more than made my point for me. The vast majority of the issues they took were based on his pronoun usage, even the ones that weren't infringed on various freedoms.
Canada may as well be North Korea, you guys have basically no freedom.
robincat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:15:18 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have made no argument about Canada vs. the US. Perhaps you are confusing me with a different poster. I really have no interest in that argument.
My argument is that, no, C-16 doesn't simply penalize people for using the wrong pronoun. It has to be something far bigger than that, of which pronoun misuse can be one part. My argument is that the Vancouver case is not an example of C-16 in action and that the award was not given solely or primarily due to improper pronoun use. You seem to think "denigrating Ms. Oger" = "using the wrong pronoun", but that is not the case. He did far more than that. You have clearly not read the decision and your repeated claim that "the vast majority of the issues they took were based on his pronoun use" is absurd to anyone who has read it.
You can claim that the US has greater free speech protections (I really don't care), but your claims about what C-16 means and what happened in the Vancouver case are incorrect. Now you say they are "minor details" but they started as your evidence for your assertions.
At this point I'm just going to assume you're trolling.
ForeverAnUglyLoser ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:26:07 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never claimed it was only for wrong pronoun use, only that pronoun use was covered under it. And you absolutely can be fined for only using the wrong pronoun, your own link said as much.
robincat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:30:19 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can be fined if it's part of a greater claim of harassment or discrimination. Your previous posts implied that it could be used as the sole basis and you specifically said that someone was fined $55,000 for using the wrong pronoun, which is clearly not the case.
ForeverAnUglyLoser ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:52:18 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your own link has people saying it can be used as the soul basis. They put forward the argument that
Which means they're considering a constant misuse of pronouns as harassment. That's the point I was getting at.
Part of the fine is for using the wrong pronoun. Whether it's the full amount or just a chunk doesn't make a single difference to my argument. And the entirety of the case reinforces the original argument I presented.
robincat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:34:38 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We're just going in circles. Yes, misusing a gender pronoun will likely be interpreted as part of harassment. But would have to be part of harassment. It has to have a particular malicious intent. And that quote is from an OHRC document, not from anything to do with C-16 itself.
And, yes, as I have already said, using the wrong pronoun was taken into account in determining monetary compensation. But after reading the decision, it is crazy to come to the conclusion that it was a significant part of it. The overwhelming majority of the decision deals with issues not related to incorrect pronouns at all, particularly the most import sections.
Ultimately, if his whole campaign had been "I refuse to call him 'her!'" it's pretty obvious there would be no claim in the first place. So saying someone was fined $55,000 for using the wrong pronoun is either a wildly misinformed statement or a deeply misleading one that willfully ignores 98% of what actually happened.
ForeverAnUglyLoser ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:38:46 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The link that you, yourself, provided claims that it is harassment. Not that it's part of harassment.
In your listing you had several points dedicated to him misgendering her. Even had to where you flat out said it and didn't use general language to lump it in with general disrespect.
That's not obvious in the slightest.
robincat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:03:13 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It can be harassment in certain contexts. It does not mean that it inherently always is.
I'm done with this. I encourage you to read the actual decision. If you read it and still think this was mostly about pronouns I don't even know what to tell you - it would be absurd.
robincat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:45:48 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And, again, the Vancouver case has nothing to do with C-16, as C-16 applies to federal cases. The Oger case was not federal, it was provincial.
ElEffSee ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 07:43:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You have to put your title in brackets and then the link in parenthesis with no space between them:
[someoneโs gotta say it] immediately followed by (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ccTy5Z4WaB4)
Result is somebodyโs gotta say it
Edit. Iโm a moron and used parenthesis both times in my first example. Blind leading the blind
izzycachemeouside ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 16:45:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anyone else wondering why someone's turns into somebody's?
Kahalahili ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:17:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs an awesome skit man
xiroir ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:18:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If only it was like this in real life. We should be appriciatin' more than we should be hatin'
Nabs2099 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:58:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yo I have never seen this one before. Thanks lol
Kaz22475 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:05:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This video is unavailable in your country. fuck you Australia
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท -23 points ยท Posted at 06:41:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What's hilarious is if two white rednecks ever were heard having that conversation, they's still be called racist.
StudentHwale ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:41:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Uhh no?
ArnoldSchwarzeneggir ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:57:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok buddy
i_sigh_less ยท 56 points ยท Posted at 04:18:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That gave me a hearty chuckle.
Agent-65 ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 06:09:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Now I respect OP. I think heโs a good man. But quite frankly I agree with everything he said.
JonGinty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:49:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait a minute, they are clones!
ultranoobian ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:31:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn, all of them look the same, I cant tell who is more handsome.
ceo_greasyduck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:50:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is this a futurama reference?
[deleted] ยท 93 points ยท Posted at 04:18:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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Qhartb ยท 128 points ยท Posted at 04:33:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At least not for being gay. I mean, gay Hitler is still Hitler.
warflemin ยท 48 points ยท Posted at 05:03:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think I found my new favorite line. It's got so many uses and I will find them all.
mear-adia ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 04:43:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This one is funny
mrthomani ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:40:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Say what you will about Hitler, but he did kill Hitler.
SeenSoFar ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:28:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But he also killed the guy who killed Hitler.
mrthomani ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:41:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, but he also killed the guy who killed the guy who ...
No, I'm shutting this down. This is getting too silly.
Hitler__Official ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:48:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sure is
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:06:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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hat-of-sky ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:18:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My guess would be "Springtime For Hitler" from The Producers?
IMMAEATYA ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:04:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Didnโt he get banned from Twitter?
tombolger ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 04:41:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think you mean "not all gays" Some gays are absolute douchebags, just like anyone else.
bbhyun ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 04:50:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That still doesnโt mean they deserve to be hated for being gay.
tombolger ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:58:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree and also didn't say that they did. That is actually the opposite of the point I was making; they're just people who deserve no special treatment, good or bad.
Perthcrossfitter ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:01:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's racist.
KKlear ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 08:08:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/TIHI
tootthatthingupmami ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:35:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I want to say this to my coworker but I'm scared lol
FranklinVille ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:47:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
..fired.
[deleted] ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 04:43:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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betoelectrico ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:06:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am not racist, I hate everyone the same.
Alkirawr ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 05:35:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โNot to be racist or anything, but Asian people have a beautiful and amazing cultureโ
blasto_blastocyst ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 09:38:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But only one culture.
PM_TITS_FOR_KITTENS ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:21:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is why I use dark mode on Reddit
trouser_mouse ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:00:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah! Fucking people
Demonseedii ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:28:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love Miracle Whip but Kraft isnโt bad either...
kcshuffler ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:27:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/brandnewsentence
Thritu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:24:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would wear a t-shirt with this on it.
Arknell ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:00:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"He's got such integrity, every time I've asked him to steal things from his company's warehouse he's said no!"
adm_akbar ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:37:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As Abraham Lincoln said, "If you are a racist, I will attack you with the North."
thisismynameyouread ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:54:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why would you not say that to her face?
wild_briar_art ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:55:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
@terminbee another office fan here?
terminbee ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:37:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have never watched the office outside of a couple episodes. Don't get the appeal.
JJAB91 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:56:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its sad that there are actual people who would call you racist for saying that.
DurianExecutioner ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 11:16:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Certain liberal philosophers and politicians simultaneously claimed that all men are equal and entitled to freedom, whilst owning slaves.
Their ideals weren't wrong, and they weren't wrong to promote them, but at the same time there was a a disconnect between theory and reality.
I can't emphasise enough how helpful it is to realise that politics and philosophy cannot be reduced to the act of placing people on a moral hierarchy, no matter how much conservatives and some capital-L liberals alike seem to think so.
In calling for freedom without including racialised people, without acknowledging the economic reality of slavery and the ideological contortions which that economy generated, they were being racist. They were, like all of us at times, making a philosophical and an ethical error. What they were saying was worthwhile and I'm glad they said it, sowing the seeds for the destruction of their own class (slave owners) in their war against another class (monarchs and imperialists), but sooner or later the contradiction had to be acknowledged.
There came a time when that form of liberalism had to face up to its contradictions. It did so, slavery was abolished, and as a result enlightenment values(โข) remained viable, thank goodness.
Clearly, the modern-day question of whether some people use statutory equality as a smokescreen for de-facto systemic racism is a matter of debate. So why not allow that debate to take place? Why the kneejerk, unreasoned, out of hand rejection of that argument on principle and the recourse to liberal idealism?
If equality means screaming ALL LIVES MATTER over people attempting to start a sincere discussion over a specific perceived problem, then that "equality" is racist, even though the sentiment is perfectly correct. It's not the ideal that is wrong, it's the self-serving paranoia.
Context matters.
Also, I have to say, who are these people you're talking about? Commenters love to repeat this vague claim endlessly in the hope that people start believing it, but aside from a few idiots I don't see anyone on the left whose ideals are not fundamentally egalitarian.
RealityAsItIs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:47:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, they were pretty aware of the issue. They just couldn't figure a way to free the slaves. Slavery had robbed them of their ability to be self sufficient. (I'm not saying that's true, but the slave owning moral philosphers definitely knew slavery was an issue, but thought that it was better for the slaves to remain slaves then be set free with no land, no jobs, and no easy way of surviving by themselves. They would turn to outlawry and be hunted as a result)
Ravenousclaw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:30:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just want to say, I appreciate your post. There's too much binary/us vs them thinking out there these days.
JJAB91 ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 11:30:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you just not been paying attention to the people who claim that if you "don't see color" when speaking to someone that is racist?
Okay so you haven't been paying attention then.
DurianExecutioner ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:57:57 on May 24, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I exactly how "not seeing color" can be racist in my previous post. I am paying attention (though maybe not to TiA quite so much) - I'm afraid we just disagree.
JohnBrennansCoup ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 13:42:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Democrat Party no longer supports treating people equally regardless of race, and instead they seek to equalize outcomes. If you criticize programs like Affirmative Action which are literally by definition - institutional racism, then many on the left will call you racist for thinking we should treat people equally, and not use their skin color to determine how we treat them.
I'm sure many of them mean well, but treating people differently based on race never works out well, and yet there they go.
DumbassITGuy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:56:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How is this a compliment?
terminbee ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:36:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just a riff on the previous comment, since the setup made it sound like it would be an insult but it turned out to be a compliment.
DumbassITGuy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:59:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
right, and I'm wondering how yours relates since that's not what you did
terminbee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:18:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"I'm not a racist" is usually followed by a racist comment, as a justification. It's like how people say "no offense" then they say something insulting.
DumbassITGuy ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:16:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No offense, but you're an idiot and you're completely missing my point
terminbee ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:15:00 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I guess so.
DumbassITGuy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:59:54 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha you're a good sport I see what you were going for I just don't agree with it
elija_snow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:07:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They got us in the first half not gonna lie..
Thenderick ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:14:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"I'm not supposed to have an oppinion, BUT..."
GregTheCookie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:47:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"They had us in the first half I'm not gonna lie"
DurianExecutioner ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:34:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait for it...
cadavarsti ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:17:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"If you are a racist, i will attack you with the north."
shmukliwhooha ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:12:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Now you're ignoring the struggles of an oppressed minority you bigot nazi.
EyeAsimov ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:13:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm not a grammar nazi, but terminbee does not know how to use the word but.
rutroraggy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:25:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
With all due respect, I really do like you. (then stop talking)
betoelectrico ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:06:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am not racist, I hate everyone the same
Randomocity132 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:25:18 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been unironically called a racist for saying this
DancingBear2020 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:03:19 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Complement other people, not yourself.
Scientolojesus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:58:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Too far man.
AtotheCtotheG ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:06:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
New subcategory of anti-jokes, it seems.
ComicWriter2020 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:19:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is the only time youโll hear that beginning and it wonโt end with actual racism
oculasti95 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:34:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What
CaffeineSippingMan ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 04:28:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So you hate whites? /s
so-many-swears ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 12:28:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you know what racism means?
CaffeineSippingMan ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:11:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you know what /s means?
spacemanpants ยท 287 points ยท Posted at 04:05:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What... why wouldn't you say that to her face?
peanut_monkey_90 ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 07:18:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
celestite4 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 12:46:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
hecc987654321 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:07:18 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is Weiner Lover ur Meye Briggs type?
Mediocre__at__Best ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:28:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just in time
Raye_Chalar ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:53:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just... in case
[deleted] ยท -44 points ยท Posted at 04:37:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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Cp3thegod ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 04:42:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was a continuation of a quote from the office
peanut_monkey_90 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 07:18:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/2meirl4meirl
hulasamijo ยท 121 points ยท Posted at 04:12:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is truly one of my favorite Office lines!
coconut7272 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:18:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same lol. Who is he talking to again? Also happy cake day!
BrokenPro ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 04:22:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was the episode when they go to pams old high school and hes talking to oscar and the one dude who was interested
Longfellow-Deeds ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 05:16:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I'm trying to lure these kids into my booth. But, uhh, kids are very weary of being lured, these days. Thanks Dateline.
9mm_Subies ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:25:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Justin time. Justin case.
hulasamijo ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:35:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aww, thank you! Heโs talking to Oscar.
steezpak ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:41:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He's talking to a potential intern, Justin, but Oscar responds as a 3rd party.
mrpoopness ยท 58 points ยท Posted at 04:12:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And then Michael shows up to her art show and buys her art. Every time I watch that episode it turns out someone in my apartment is cutting onions.
realmattmoseley ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 04:18:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWhy wouldnโt you say that to her face?!โ
-Oscar Martinez
vidavancouver ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 04:40:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
-Michael Scott
realmattmoseley ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 04:41:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I see what you did there ;)
hasty_c ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:09:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy shit I read this comment while watching the office and Michael said this quote 30 seconds later
GladMax ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:18:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sometimes happens to many of us. Welcome to the club
Bro1999919 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:18:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs an Office quote right?
Sevnfold ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:28:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes.
Micheal said it about Pam, when she went to get a single sheet of paper.
JordanLCheek ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:29:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I came here to say
โDonโt be an idiot. Changed my life.โ
I see you also watch the office and therefore we are family.
TobylovesPam ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:10:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whenever I'm about to do something, I think, 'Would an idiot do that?' And if they would, I do not do that thing.
steezpak ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:42:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice username.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:19:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โYour art is the prettiest art of all the art.โ
kksnwbrd ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:53:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/expectedoffice
Steinrik ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:58:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's a special place in heaven for people like her..
Raiquo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:36:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How tho?
elegant_pun ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:46:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Pity she's such a bitch."
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:59:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dammit Roy. You blew it!
Sanctifyke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:09:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whereโs this from?
iamfrank75 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:29:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My god, these could be tracings!
Skeltzjones ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:47:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldn't you say that to her face?
BeginningBison ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:51:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Why wouldn't you say that to her face? "
Cichlidsaremyjam ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:01:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Why would you not say that to her face?"
Cyboth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:23:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"What? Why wouldn't you say that to her face?"
summer-fun-atx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:39:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldnโt you say that to her face?
adacmswtf1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:01:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good gas travels fast in a small town.
AaronWould ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:02:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Why wouldn't you say that to her face?!"
GraytScott ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:41:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Why wouldn't you say that to her face?"
GOBIGBLUE9 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:14:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Why wouldn't you say that to her face?"
MikeynLikey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:56:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
that'd get me moist tbh
Anilxe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:16:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually heard something similar to this when passing a coworker's office. They had their back turned and was talking about me to another fellow coworker.
I kept walking and tried my best to not cry.
kesht17 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:48:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWhy wouldnโt you say that to her face?โ
rosesarered69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:55:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldn't you say that to her face?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:09:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Why wouldn't you say that to her face?"
Ryanjadams ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:34:12 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldn't you say that to her face?
Shinto628 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh Michael
MindYourMouth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:37:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pam Pam and her pam-pams
fizzzingwhizbee ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/unexpectedoffice
Lwe12345 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:49:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You deserve every last upvote for this
eaturliver ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:01:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't tell her I said this, but man my wife is hot.
DrilldarkOP ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:49:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ayyyy
Unplgd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:55:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is way too low in the comments !!!
MyDiary141 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:08:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why thankyou.
becauseimbatman123 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:10:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldn't you say that to her face!?!
Kevin_Malone11 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:07:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Why wouldn't you say that to her face?"
LewisCampbell90 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:11:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha I love that you downvoted the 36 people who replied the next line Oscar says back to you, that must have been very annoying.
EthicalDinosaur ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:39:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just rewatched that episode today!
ThomasTheBadWriter ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:26:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/dundermifflin
Giffdev ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 05:45:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/unexpectedoffice
mrorang56 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:21:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldn't you say that to her face
Babybluechair ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:21:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldnโt you ever say that to her face?
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:36:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Why would you not say that to her?"
thogdontcare10 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:49:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldn't you say that to her face?!
Imnotcheryl ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:52:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldn't you say that to her face?
motherbunker ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 04:31:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I donโt know why you donโt have more upvotes.
Edit: damn, when I commented this individual had no karma for the comment. That was less than an hour ago too.
Virginity_Lost_Today ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 05:51:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/unexpectedoffice
Swaggy-P_ ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 04:27:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWhy wouldnโt you say that to her face?โ
esn97 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 04:28:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"What? Why wouldn't you say that to her face?"
dinowalks ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 04:29:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldn't you say that to her face?
ProCircuit ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 04:30:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldnโt you say that to her face?
CChenalds17 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 04:30:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldn't you say that to her face?
wrnich ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWhy wouldnโt you say that to her face?โ
MinnesotaNiceT23 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWhy wouldnโt you say that to her face?!โ
NaiveAnxiety ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 04:52:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWhat?! Why wouldnโt you say that to her face?!โ
awfunnyhmm ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 04:52:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldn't you say that to her face?
Aerorite ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 04:53:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldnโt you say that to her face?
connerxvx ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 05:15:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/unexpectedoffice
[deleted] ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 04:51:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Office, just finished watching the series yesterday. I was soo happy to see Micheal back in the Finale.
seeareuh ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 04:57:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldnโt you say that to her face??
Amlethoe ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 05:35:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/dundermifflin
Bopshebopshebop ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 04:54:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldnโt you say that to her face!
carpetcleanerkat ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 05:02:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/UnexpectedOffice
PissedBadger ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 06:15:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldnโt you that that to her face?
NeinsteinMandela ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 06:25:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldn't you say that to her??
adakati ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 06:42:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldnโt you say that to her face?
taureanrules ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 06:43:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Office fan spotted. r/DunderMifflin/
9PrincesinAmber ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 06:50:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWhy would you never say that to her face??โ
DaEffM8 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 06:56:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
"Why would you not say that to her face?"
DwardThinksYourDumb ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 07:00:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Michael why wouldn't you say that to her face?
Ishouldnt_haveposted ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 07:35:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Why wouldn't you say that to her face?"
MCKoleman ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 07:39:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/dundermifflin
blurryface_stressed ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 07:43:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What? Why wouldn't you say that to her face?
OhSheGlows ยท 406 points ยท Posted at 03:25:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I meant to text friend B about friend A but texted friend A instead. I was saying wonderful things about her. I canโt prove it but I think itโs done wonderful things.
SoJenniferSays ยท 59 points ยท Posted at 09:47:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had an awesome employee with the same name as my husband and I occasionally accidentally texted him instead of my husband, once when I was raving about how much that employee helped me that day. It was awkward but also probably best case scenario.
ElijahPrince ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 13:56:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmm
scarlettsarcasm ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 15:02:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My husbandโs name starts with M and my mother is โmomโ in my phone and I do this all the time on accident.
unchainedzulu33 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:52:40 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I get married, he will be listed as "husband: in my phone.
Lol
marino1310 ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 14:42:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One of my friends had confidence issues and I used to do this to him. He knew my phone was fucked up and would genuinely missend texts sometimes so I would randomly "talk behind his back" by texting compliments about him to him.
OhSheGlows ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 14:49:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lol You the real MVP. Honestly, thatโs incredibly sweet.
CypherDoubleShot ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:45:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Would friend a be a bit upset youโre werenโt talking about them?
OhSheGlows ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 11:38:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great question. I do not think so. The scenario was that friend A was going through a divorce and her husband was really awful to her. I was explaining the situation and saying that I hope the next person she is with treats her better. The reason why I texted that friend was because she had been through a nightmare divorce and she could relate. Friend A was not upset at all. She made jokes that I should do it more often. lol
martin_dc16gte ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:01:42 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The accidental text on purpose
trsam ยท 61 points ยท Posted at 03:49:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read this as a life-pro-tip on reddit a ways back. 'Always talk about folks as if they are in the room.. ' still bounces around my head a lot. Good tip indeed with the flavour of goodness.
mitzapper2 ยท 3696 points ยท Posted at 02:14:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Hey, I have a friend who does the opposite, does that count
To clarify I mean he insults them behind their back. It's not genuine hatred for the person as far as I'm aware as it never really further than "ya they're a bitch" but yea it still is rude nevertheless. I've begun mocking him everytime he does it so hopefully that will make him stop.
IllegalAlcoholic ยท 1017 points ยท Posted at 02:28:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Count as opposite
Carefreeme ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 04:18:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have questions about your username.
IllegalAlcoholic ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 04:24:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, its Illegal for me to drink alcohol since Iโm underage. This is my seven times getting asked this question in 11 days.
RadioactiveTentacles ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 04:55:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought you meant a Mexican alcoholic.
BaronMostaza ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 05:37:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being Mexican isn't illegal, dingus
RiceForever ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:55:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yet.
RadioactiveTentacles ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:12:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Texans seem to disagree.
BaronMostaza ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:23:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just the cuntiest dipshits
RadioactiveTentacles ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:30:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You speak truth. You'd be surprised how many there are though.
black_mage141 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:47:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I imagine it will be
PantShittinglyHonest ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 15:42:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think he meant illegal immigrant, which tend to be from Mexico in the United States. The US has a big problem with their southern border, if you've been living under a rock.
miller96greg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:51:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This little conversation was GOLLLD
MaleAryaStarksNoHomo ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:24:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have comments about yours.
Carefreeme ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:36:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm so carefree your username doesn't bother me. You still cute ๐
black_mage141 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:48:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But you're not carefree enough that u/IllegalAlcoholic 's name doesn't bother you?!
Carefreeme ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:56:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh it does. I just preach enough to teenagers on r/drugs that I get tired sometimes. Also I'm an alchy myself so it feels hypocritical sometimes.
miller96greg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:53:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try getting laid on drugs more often man...
Carefreeme ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:09:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You offering sweet cheeks?
miller96greg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:57:38 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah but no booze
messagemii ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:16:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
youโre damn right bud
xFrostyDog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:59:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Count yes
RamAir17 ยท 113 points ยท Posted at 03:31:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Talks shit to your face?
Mopar_or_Nocar20 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:48:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thats me and all my friends lol.
datsmn ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:01:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Talks face to your shit.
SilentS3AN ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:25:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your Shit... Face-talks to(o)?
FlamingJesusOnaStick ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:14:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eats shit in your house
FatGirlsCantJump206 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thems are fightin words
NerdyWeightLifter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:27:37 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mastering the single entendre.
Thumperkat ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 03:35:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Compliments people infront of their backs?
MaleAryaStarksNoHomo ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:26:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Insults immortals in front of their chests.
Yeschefheardchef ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:07:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to be timid but I was full of unresolved anger and hatred for other people. Once I started telling peolle what I thought of them to their face my life got alot better. Not to say I go out of my way to be a dick to people that dont deserve it, but if you're an asshole to me more than like 3 times in any given 30 day period, I'll probably tell you to go fuck yourself with a geode.
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:59:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
[deleted]
EmpathyInTheory ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 03:33:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you mean that they compliment people to their faces, then yeah, that counts.
If you mean that they insult people behind their backs, then drop them immediately, because a person like that is definitely talking about you that way to other people.
mybosspartieshard ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 03:47:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Took me 7 years to figure this out about who I thought was my โbest friend.โ
bananapiece123 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:09:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My best friend and i do it all the time though, we even insult eachother when we say something nice about the other because thats not what we do. It really depends on how people do it though ofcourse and if both parties are okay with that
mybosspartieshard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:11:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yaaaa... I bet you donโt spread false rape and sexual assault rumors about each other to every person you know out of jealousy though.
bananapiece123 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:12:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did not, but i did tell everyone at a party he was gay and when all the girls started talking to him because of that he thought it was because they thought he was hot, until someone asked him if he really was lmao
mybosspartieshard ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:13:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lmao! I go to the gay club with my girlfriend every weekend and she does it to me all the time there! Edit: (straight male)
bananapiece123 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:15:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha, thank god people never believe im gay for some reason. Point being that you can go as far as you want with insults etc as long as you know the other is okay with it, theres no specific line as to what is too far
[deleted] ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 04:30:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree that itโs toxic and people shouldnโt talk shit about everyone but acknowledging someone is a bitch is normal. I mean, obviously you wouldnโt say it to their face because duh but if others agree someoneโs a bitch then theyโre probably a bitch
LabMember0003 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:43:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He compliments people in front of their back?
mitzapper2 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:51:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yea but he does this thing where he basically tries to do it in front of their back, but not to their face, so he just starts saying compliments while facing away from them. He refuses to acknowledge what he is doing is strange. It's become a problem. We're seeking help.
PickThymes ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:56:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your friend seems possessed. I recommend yโall seek a higher authority.
MaleAryaStarksNoHomo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:28:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Valar Morghulis
cresomp ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:36:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Giving compliments openly? <3
mugu007 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:41:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So you mean insult people to their face ? I do it all the time.
jamila22 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:42:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Complimenting people to their faces?
Works too
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:11:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If they bitch about other people to you, they also bitch about you to other people.
Stupidquestionahead ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:23:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thing is if he's really your buddy he probably thinks they're something but can't quite articulate how yet/don't want to
Maybe question him if there's actually something under it
Not only will it encourage him to either realise your right and stop doing it or you may realise if he has valid points or not
reduxde ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:00:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you compliment someone in front of their backs?
sspine ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:36:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Insults to the face?
akaplan12345 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:36:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me too!
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:03:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
People can express they dislike someone or something someone does without doing wrong
paytatoe ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:31:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This made me giggle give this man a medal Iโm too poor
PM_ME_FINANCE_ADVICE ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:58:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So you mean he compliments them to their face, insults them behind their back, or insults them to their face? I'm not actually sure what the opposite would be.
330000 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:00:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
OMG you know Pat Robertson?
MoistDitto ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:30:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In my experience, people who talk shit about others to you, will also talk Shit about you to others.
gsnoob2019 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:34:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
sounds like every work place since the beginning of time. people love talking shit.
dervalient ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:36:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh he does it in front of their backs? What a nice dude
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:43:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a friend who does the opposite, so I still stick up for him.
jt004c ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:47:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rather than mocking him, just disagree openly with him and talk the person up instead.
Axeloy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:54:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone has done that
Woperelli87 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:11:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre not...SERIOUSLY asking if those are the same thing right? Like you donโt actually think that complimenting and insulting are the same thing? Please say you were being rhetorical
mitzapper2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:43:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes I was joking lol
Rappelling_Rapunzel ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:37:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I doubt this strategy will ever work the way you want it to. I'd guess that instead, it's more likely to fuel just how insulting he is when speaking about you, behind your back. Watch out, because even if others don't value his opinion very much, they'll still be influenced. They may not even consciously realize it, but they will tend to devalue you.
Alej915 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:14:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your friend is a bitch. Be rude when you don't like people. Don't fucking fake it. What do you gain from faking it? That person now likes you? Wonderful. Your friend. Is. A. Bitch.
improbablyhungryrn ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:31:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/suicidebywords
JayVanAndel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be direct. Just tell him to stop.
One reason to not speak negatively of others is that doing so kills the creativity. When he speaks that way around you he is killing your creativity, and everyone elseโs. Thatโs one thing to bring up to him to show that heโs being very unethical
Talanic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:54:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a coworker who would talk negatively about anyone who wasn't there.
I'm sure he was doing the same about me when I wasn't there, too.
IDunno_AskThatGuy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:09:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As long as you are mocking him behind his back, it's ok.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:10:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Other people talk. Eventually it will come back to to get him.
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:53:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hope you've realized already that he insults you behind your back, too.
davidhluther ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:04:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nothing makes me instantly dislike someone as much as hearing โIโd say this to their face, but...โ โ it really doesnโt matter whether or not they would, or even what they say, I just know that anyone whoโs aware that what theyโre about to say isnโt ok, but wants to assure me that theyโre aware of this yet not an asshole or coward because they would (not) say it directly, is not worth my time.
forestfluff ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:29:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A: if heโs your friend then just tell him heโs being an asshole. Donโt just mock him. Flat out address it as a friend to another friend. B: why be friends with someone whoโs doing this anyways? C: people who do this are usually talking about you behind your back as well
dphizler ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:42:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's toxic behavior
vryan144 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:10:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs not actually a friend.
redfoot62 ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 05:13:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One of comedic legend, Norm Macdonald's regular sayings after shitting on people is, "He's a great man though..." And I find myself doing that more as I get older, except I do it when other people shit on people. Such as any moment the people at work go in gossip mode.
Just some examples this past month.
"...And we all know what Matt's like..."
"Yeah, but he's a good man, always giving me rides home, and anyone else if they don't have a car. He'll go the opposite way from his home to do it and won't take no as an answer if it's raining. He's a good man."
"And you know fucking Carl is being fucking Carl..."
"Yeah, but Carl's a good man. And I'm sure if he heard anyone else talking shit about you and me, he'd speak up."
"Yeah, that Dan is such an unsocial asshole who has no good things to say about anybody."
"Yeah, but you know, he's had a real hard life. Vietnam veteran. Dude was a ranger. Bi-Polar, his friends are all in prison or killed themselves. And what's he got to show for it? He works here...Sure he's crotchety but he's alright. Yeah, he's a good man."
It usually really puts out the fire. The most I ever got as a push back was, "What? He's a good man!? He's a good man!?" And they just kinda shake their head. And I say, "Yeah, he's a good man." It's kinda fun.
iostefini ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:34:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lol I do this too and I didn't realise it was a thing. But yeah, I say "He's a good person" about pretty much everyone. Even people I don't like. (Even with people who have reeeeally fucked up, it's along the lines of "I'm sure he could be a good person but he's making some terrible mistakes and I hope he realises that soon.")
Shrieka1987 ยท 252 points ยท Posted at 02:16:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What work does it do exactly? I tire of the common workplace gossip that I'm surrounded by. I don't like talking bad about people if I can avoid it, but specifically, what good comes from your suggestion?
RexDraco ยท 526 points ยท Posted at 02:56:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're the guy that talks positively about someone behind their back, the people you're talking to will trust you're doing the same for them and they'll open more to you and shit. It's kinda like how you don't trust that one person that talks behind everyone's back, but you will trust that other person that's always positive.
BurgrMeistr ยท 86 points ยท Posted at 03:46:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learned this the hard way- When I was younger I had issues with my anger, so when I discovered that I couldn't really go to my friends with issues I had with them in a reasonable way I chose the easy way out and just talked about them behind their back to gauge if I even had the right to be upset with them in the first place or if it was just my anger.
I've since taken measures against it and worked on my own mental health and while my anger issues aren't "gone" you wouldn't really know about it unless you reaaally pissed me off or I told you. Being able to take control of my anger made it so I was able to calmly and rationally tell people when they upset me and my friendships began to mend and grow stronger and now that things are starting to fall into place it just became natural for me to refrain negative gossiping to the point where I've noticed a change in my own friends as well. Now when my buddies start up I just ask them if they've talked to the other person about it and if they say no I reassure them that if they talk to them and try to remember that they care about one another then it will all work out
Talanic ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:55:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Glad things are improving for you.
baby_got_camelbak ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:18:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone who isn't there yet, what did you find useful in changing your bad habits?
p1-o2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:05:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Remember that you care about each other and set your feelings aside to talk about it with them once you've taken time to cool down.
BurgrMeistr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:41:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hard brutally honest self reflection is the most important first step- it can bring you to some dangerously dark places though
baby_got_camelbak ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:20:57 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah that's the part I'm in right now. I also struggle with depression so what's getting me is that my "depression voice" aka critical and mean thoughts about myself, versus my "self reflection voice," which is actual self reflection and analytical thinking. I am struggling to tell the difference between the two.
How did you pull yourself out of the dark places it took you?
BurgrMeistr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:32:35 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
tough love I suppose, I would pretty regularly tell myself to "stop being a lil bitch and be the man you want to be"
that's not to say that I think people who struggle with anger or depression or anxiety are little bitches- but it helped me at least.
eventually though I learned that there's only so much you can give before you stop being yourself, and that''s not necessarily a bad thing; everyone should always strive to be better than they were the day before, and while no one is perfect, we can die trying. Change is an inevitable part of life, and you can choose to be swept up in it or create it, I don't know about you but I rather be at the reigns than Fate. Just don't forget that everyone's happiness is important, and that includes you.
baby_got_camelbak ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:28:40 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow holy shit dude. That last paragraph hit like a brick. Thanks for saying this, I really needed to hear that today.
I get what you mean and thanks for giving me some hope
BurgrMeistr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:47:18 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
anytime brother- feel free to hit me up if you ever wanna talk about junk
baby_got_camelbak ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:36:26 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Imma take you up on that dude thanks
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:02:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Angerโs a bitch. Iโm glad things are better for you.
InspiredHippie ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:54:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Brb, going to go apply this wisdom to my life!
FeelLikeAnAstronaut ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:51:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt know why but the inclusion of โand shitโ at the end of that sentence made me laugh.
Made me think of that scene from The Nice Guys where they talk about saying โand stuff.โ
leviathing ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:28:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are whores here and stuff
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:34:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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gotkate86 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:55:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What? ๐๐
SatNav ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:58:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"In Michigan..." is all you need to know.
ExplodingToasterOven ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:45:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Part of the reason I no longer live there. ๐คฃ
It cured a lifetime of boredom from living in Iowa, but end of the day, rust belt culture was too weird for me.
andybarkerswife ยท 91 points ยท Posted at 02:52:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you hate talking bad about people imagine the difference it can make talking good about them. Plus if youโre the one in the group only talking good about people 2 things could happen...
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:48:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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MadTouretter ยท 71 points ยท Posted at 04:09:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
This guy has never been friends with a nice person.
Toxicity isn't the only behavior that's genuine. There are actually decent people that can feel good about themselves without tearing other people down.
[deleted] ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 04:24:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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SatNav ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:59:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Becoming ostracized from a toxic person isn't so terrible though.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:49:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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SatNav ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:19:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeh, that is a tough situation, especially when the toxic person holds some sway over your career :/
Did you at least have a chance to respond to the "criticism"?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:25:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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SatNav ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:51:17 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think that's a pretty damn good response tbh. It's about as close as you can get to the truth, while remaining professional and not giving your mentor anything to hold against you. I doubt I could do better.
andybarkerswife ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:58:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I get your point. I will say though that I used to be super negative about a lot of things and gossip was really fun (albeit never constructive). It wasnโt until I started to hear my husband say the opposite that I realized I didnโt like it. Iโm still negative from time to time but he always offsets me and I realize I donโt like being negative nearly as much when itโs put in perspective.
Iโll give an example: we were riding in the car and this guy drives up next to us in this tiny little convertible and looked kind of silly to me. I voiced my opinion by saying โwow, what a gay ass carโ and my husband responded with โit looks like heโs having funโ and I realized... why did I say that? The guy does look like heโs having a lot of fun and my opinion doesnโt and didnโt matter to him anyway so why did I feel the need to say it?
My point is not just talking good about people all the time even though thatโs what I addressed in my first response. But talking good about everything, or at least as much as you can. Iโm just saying being more positive and having a better outlook can only make you feel better. Toxicity will almost guarantee you feeling worse. So thereโs that.
Edit: thank you for the platinum kind stranger! My first award ever!
MercSLSAMG ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 04:14:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's a huge difference between butt kissing and being realistic. You talk like someone walks on water then you're going to be disregarded, but you make a fair positive comment with reasoning and most people will take it at face value.
SpockAndRoll ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:05:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fair point. I think you also have to mean what you say. Obviously don't hand out compliments if it's not realistic. But delivering the thought with authenticity helps avoid the butt-kissing vibe.
HoraceAndPete ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:58:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People are generally pretty damn good at recognizing authenticity imo, they may not be 100% sure about your intent initially but that fades if your intent really isn't to butt kiss.
In your response below it seems you imagine an entire community all with a poisonous attitude to positivity, seems unrealistic.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:59:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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MadTouretter ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:11:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought she deserved a lot more screen time. Don't get me wrong, Catherine Tate was great, but I wanted a few more Martha episodes.
open_reading_frame ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 03:32:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It builds a better work environment. Having people say good things behind their back makes them feel good if they hear about it.
MasterEk ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 03:44:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Along with all the other stuff, people pass on what you say, one way or another. They find out what you've said about them.
Also: you often have no idea how other people feel about each other. If you goodmouth a colleague, there is a reasonable chance that the colleague you are talking to likes that colleague.
FrenchFoodieMom ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:00:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Upvote for "goodmouth." Using it from now on and crediting you.
chatnoirrrr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:30:14 on May 17, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I second this. Easy to remember too!
Mailman_Malone ยท 81 points ยท Posted at 02:24:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Let me answer your question with a question.
What good canโt come from it?
MaterialIndividual ยท 74 points ยท Posted at 03:36:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Chapter 6.
Boboar ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:43:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man, I gotta read that book again. I read it like twenty years ago and I still draw on some things from it. A reread can only do me good.
runs-with-scissors ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:33:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The children misbehaving on the bus still sticks with me. You never know what is going on in a person's life to make them act like they do. Give them the benefit of the doubt.
johnCreilly ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:51:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wasn't that 7 Habits of Highly Effective People? Where the guy's wife had just died?
runs-with-scissors ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:30:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh hey, you're right.
johnCreilly ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:38:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That was heartbreaking
runs-with-scissors ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:37:12 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was. And powerful. The whole scene.
meno123 ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 03:46:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That book sounds so desperate and cringy, but has a lot of really solid advice. I think I only read the first half, but the book started getting me to catalogue one thing from every conversation I had with someone so I could follow up on it the next time I talked.
Turns out people like it when they think you're invested in them (hint: by doing this, you technically are invested in them).
terminbee ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 03:48:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every time I hear about this book, it all seems like common sense (ie be nice, don't be a dick) but everyone raves about it. I wonder if I'm missing out.
meno123 ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 03:52:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Almost all of it is pretty basic when you really think about it, but it helps you become more cognizant of how you're interacting with other people. At that point, it's consciously forcing yourself to do them until they become habitual.
LessMidRange ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:03:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought it was all stuff Iโd heard before and a lot of it was but the way the author communicates it is what is special about the book. He says the obvious in very poetic and non-preachy ways. And then you add to the fact that he wrote the book in like the 30s or 40s where he wasnโt worried about his social media influence or when being a dick was generally more acceptable, it really makes you like the guy
MaterialIndividual ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:59:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
It was written in the like 1920s or something. I don't think it sounds cringy. I just imagine a guy from the 20s, enthusiastic about what he's talking about, talking to a crowd. In that way it seems to sound perfectly reasonable. I hadnt thought about it as a one on one conversation, which, for that, the books tone may come off as overly enthusiastic, or desperate like you said.
I think was very worthwhile. I've read it a good few times, and I've bought copies for my friends.
siht-fo-etisoppo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:26:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ah yes, simpler times
meno123 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:03:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually didn't know it was that old. The idea of reading a book to learn how to make friends definitely still sounds cringey to me, but good advice is still good advice.
MaterialIndividual ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:53:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sure. The title, in our more modern use of English, doesn't sound quite right. "how to influence people" sounds almost sociopathic, like I'm trying to get people to follow me down a path they would prefer not to. Well, to me that's what it sounded like.
But the other commenter was right, it's about winning people over.
To lots of people, some of the advice may be something they already do, possibly without being aware of it.
But to a great many people, theres a habit you have, with good intentions, that makes people dislike you. For example I was very quick to disagree with people, I still do it now, as I am with you, you say something I don't agree with and I love to get in an tell you so. But I was rude, I was intolerable. I was right, but I never won anyone to my own way of thinking by talking to them in that way. I didn't think twice, I was right and I knew it. It didn't matter how I told you, what I told you was more important.
Reading the book with a sceptical mind is a good idea, but you have to want to to deal well with people to want to read the whole thing.
My wife, bless her, was having trouble at work with some coworkers. She told me about the issue, and like any man I didn't listen to her without trying to solve the problem. I told her to read the book. She was making classic mistakes everyone makes. She didn't read it more than a chapter or so. She didn't want to get better at talking to this person, she wanted this person to do things her way. She put all the responsibility on the other person to realise their mistakes.
It's a challenge, to win over unfriendly, unhappy people, but I love it. Which is probably why I've read this book as many times as I have. I like to make people feel happy, and I don't do it enough, but I'm not good at planning and telling people what we're going to do. My wife likes things to get done, and doesn't care too much about how it makes you feel. We're a pair like that, either side of a sensible middle ground. She should read my book, and I should take a page out of hers.
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meno123 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:45:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would argue that the advice given in the book is absolutely good at learning how to make friends. Anything you can do to make an existing friendship better you can also do to make a new friendship.
Tal_Onarafel ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:45:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's painfully obvious I have a crush on those people : /
Close_But_No_Guitar ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:32:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Umm, the end of world hunger?
That โgoodโ canโt come from it.
Unfledged_fledgling ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:36:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/technicallythetruth
girthdearth ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:14:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Long term it can. If it makes your circle of friends into better people, and their friends into better people ad infinitum, at least some of those better people will turn their newly good hands towards ending world hunger, and one of them might just hit on the solution.
BooBooJebus ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:47:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Let me answer your comment with a statement. The first sentence of your comment was unnecessary
Babi_Gurrl ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 03:35:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Wasted time and energy. (assuming it does nothing else positive)
Edit: Am I wrong? (Don't respond with Lebowski, he's tired.)
theydonism ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:39:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is hilariously pessimistic I love it
Babi_Gurrl ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:01:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey thanks. I'm a pessimist working on my optimism, but they asked for negatives and that's my speciality, so here we are.
Goullet ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 03:46:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wasting god damn time or complimenting someone who doesnt deserve it?
rabboni ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:04:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Very few people are all good or all bad. Most likely if you can't find something to compliment it's not them that's the problem.
Mailman_Malone ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:13:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You sound like a fun person.
Goullet ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 04:18:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because i don't shove sunshine up peoples asses for no reason?
dancingkellanved ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:25:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes? Tact is sorely lacking in the world
Goullet ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 04:30:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't think you know what that word means
dancingkellanved ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:31:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know you dont
Goullet ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:37:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lmao, here ya go: aย keenย senseย ofย whatย toย sayย or do toย avoidgivingย offense;ย skillย inย dealingย withย difficultorย delicateย situations.
See the part where it only says dont be mean???
dancingkellanved ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See the part where it says to be sensitive when dealing with others. Reading isn't your strong suit is it
Goullet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:08:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And since when. Has not shoving sunshine up someone's ass been an insensitive thing to do? Like goodbye and leave me out of it. Jesus you don't know how to appreciate people.
dancingkellanved ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:13:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Viewing complimenting someone as shoving sunshine up their ass seems par for the course for a tactless individual.
ConorNutt ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:27:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That seems like quite an assumption.Not saying i agree with them overall (i think it can be healthy to push yourself to see the good in people) but surely there's a big difference between not feeling like complimenting someone unless you feel they deserve it and being actively rude?
dancingkellanved ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:31:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The entire point of this to my knowledge was trying to find the good in any person. I think it is a tactful act to do so. That's really the crux of my position
ConorNutt ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:37:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Perhaps i'm wrong but however healthy that practice may be i wouldn't view it as tact,to me they are very separate things.Have met plenty of people who were tactful without being friendly/positive and visa versa i know people with very little tact,who just blurt stuff out as it comes into their heads but are actually lovely.Tact (at least to me) really just implies awareness of when something is appropriate,whereas weather it is a compliment or a constructive criticism is different.
Goullet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:03:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They don't care, they just want to have what they think is the popular viewpoint. Youre correct though, tact is knowing how to avoid or how to approach things. This guy might be 12.
Autokrat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:19:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This word came to English directly from French (a Latin-based language), where it can also mean simply "sense of touch". Dealing with difficult situations involving other people can require the kind of extreme sensitivity that our fingertips possess. As Lincoln once said, "Tact is the ability to describe others as they see themselves", which doesn't usually come naturally. Someone tactful can soothe the feelings of the most difficult people; a tactless person will generally make a bad situation worse.
You both know how to use language better than Lincoln I guess. Idiots.
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/tact
Goullet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:17:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That has absolutely nothing to do with what were talking about. So the only idiot here is the one spouting off shit they think makes them smarter. And dont whore out someone like Lincoln just to talk down to others. Have fun being such a cool dude.
Autokrat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:21:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lincoln and Merriam-Webster would though.
This word came to English directly from French (a Latin-based language), where it can also mean simply "sense of touch". Dealing with difficult situations involving other people can require the kind of extreme sensitivity that our fingertips possess. As Lincoln once said, "Tact is the ability to describe others as they see themselves", which doesn't usually come naturally. Someone tactful can soothe the feelings of the most difficult people; a tactless person will generally make a bad situation worse.
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/tact#synonyms
Goullet ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 14:01:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fancy words that you have no idea how to use don't make you sound smart kiddo. They certainly don't make you anywhere close to right either. Have fun in make believe land
dancingkellanved ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:09:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read a book someday and you'll learn how to use words correctly
Goullet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:14:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol, rubber and glue suits you. Get a clue on how to be a person and not a lemming.
dancingkellanved ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:18:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think you need something better than lemming there to make it work but I like the concept.
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:38:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People love to talk about other people in their social circle/workplace/etc and most of the time itโs something negative (omg did u hear what so and so did/said the other day? What a prick/bitch/asshole) but if you go out of the way to talk positively you are just seen as a good human being that people wish they could be.
People will feel bad about talking about you negatively, people will be much more receptive to you in person, and most of all youโll just feel your own sense of being elevate. Itโs cliche but you receive the energy you put out and if you make a point to see the good stuff, youโll start to get it back.
rectangleLips ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 06:10:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The compliment can feel more genuine if you overhear someone saying it rather than someone saying it to your face.
Plus itโs a great way to make people feel nice, and if it doesnโt end up getting back to them, the people listening to the compliment will end up having a more positive day!
IKnowGuacIsExtraLady ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 22:31:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are three main reasons for me:
1) The compliment has a good chance to get back to them and can make them feel good about themselves to hear it. A compliment feels so much more genuine when it wasn't intended for you to hear it because the giver of said compliment isn't seen as trying to butter you up. As an example overhearing someone say "Hey did you see X's new tattoo? It looks awesome!" Is way more meaningful than "Thats a cool new tattoo you have" because you know that they actually mean it and aren't just being nice.
2) It creates positivity in the workplace which is better for everyone and makes going to work less of a drag. It isn't fun to be around negative people all the time.
3) In the more cynical sense in the off chance someone talks shit about you behind your back if you are civil and only say nice things it can be pretty clear who the real asshole is. Obviously don't let people walk all over you or claim credit for your work but keep it civil and keep it factual and you will be seen as the reasonable one in a dispute.
atle95 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:42:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The words you say about people may eventually be the words they say about themselves. If you give honest, clear insight into what you like about them, they are more likely to continue doing those things.
honest-miss ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:59:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It encourages others to do the same, and creates a safe environment for kindness and compliments.
markevens ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:32:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really, do you honestly not see any way that good can come from the suggestion?
Shrieka1987 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:09:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can clearly see good coming from this. The question wasn't asked because I'm ignorant. The question was asked to provoke people to respond differently because I can't see every way a thing is good
Thus "specifically" was thrown in
Dan4t ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:20:36 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because often times word eventually comes back to them that you said good things about, which is a bigger and more useful compliment. People often say nice things to people's face that are exaggerated or just lies, but if someone compliments you behind your back, it is perceived to be more true.
OttomusPrime ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 04:03:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read this as โcompliment people about their backsโ and was genuinely going to try to work that in somewhere.
Glad I reread it.
KuBratumo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:20:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โNice backsideโ
uwl ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 05:26:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've overhead people talking about me, completely unaware that I was on the other side of the wall or behind them... And I gotta say that shit hits you in the feels when you hear how proud the person is to be your friend.
Limmy92 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 06:33:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Nice ass." That sorta thing?
Ryachaz ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:01:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is more important than people realize in the workplace. You never know who will talk to who about what you said, and complimenting really helps you stay out of workplace drama. I am actually betting on a promotion because the shit talking has been getting so bad at work, someone is going to go soon.
bunnyrut ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:57:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i try to do this often.
"omg look at her shoes. they look so cute."
"i love that dress. it looks really good."
"i'm so glad coworker is here, it really makes my day better knowing i have someone here to really help."
Inevitable_Molasses ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:58:00 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i do this too. people love to think you're complimenting their baby, hair etc when you think they can't hear them. sometimes i do is as a cover up though... like elbowing my friend and gesturing at someone who notices. then i pretend i don't notice them noticing and say something like, "isn't that bag great?"
pulpvelvet ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:16:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh my god. This all day. I actually make it a point to talk up coworkers to other colleagues if the first coworker is having a rough day. Always where they can hear it. And (this is key) I NEVER acknowledge what I did. If they believe it was just you talking about them positively when they donโt think you notice them, it can really boost their morale.
Furmeres_Beard88 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:14:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom told me that my brother told her how proud he was of me for working hard in school. I feel more confident because of it to this day.
joejuga ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:45:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rather, compliment them for their good deeds directly.
It'll work wonders to their self-esteem too
Pinsalinj ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:29:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why not both?
fb3playhouse ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:03:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm at a festival the other day and I had a buddy that couldn't make it he'd been there the last few years with us so some of the people that I was with were talking s*** like he couldn't afford it and I jump right in and reminded them when he came last year he didn't have a job or his own place or his own car he has all of that this year motherfukers hustling and has his responsibilities straight and then I pointed out how these m************ didn't even have a job and somehow we're at a festival got to go home and try to figure out how to pay the bills lol some people want to hate for no reason I hope people talk good about me behind my back
[deleted] ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:38:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Polarbear36 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:06:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Came here for this
RDwelve ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:32:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
nothing personnel kid
malk500 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:20:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would never say it to their face, but La_Lechuga is an excellent redditor and a wonderful human being
Perxy-jackson_annatb ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:38:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/wholesomememes
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:42:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stick up for them when they're gone. What goes around comes around dude.
PartysaurusRexx ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:45:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, this is the best, most practical advice I've ever seen in a thread like this.
purpelpeepleeater ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:51:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. And i think my friends are the same way...we just donโt say shit behind each otherโs back. And if someone really fucks up like โjay got a duiโ...itโs โman, heโs been goin a little hard lately, ended up gettin a dui, hope heโs doin wellโ...itโs never like โyah that dude got a dui hahahโ it makes it so much easier to open up to your friends, knowing that if they talk about what you said...itโs because theyโre concerned and are tryin to see if they can help, not talk shit
Cant_Do_This12 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:08:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been doing this at work once in awhile and I realized the people I complemented behind their back would approach me more and attempt to be friends.
SpewsHate ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:38:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is! I try and spread that at work as much as I can, I tell fellow supervisors how hard-working people are and I hope they feel the love.
SealOfApoorval ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:34:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lmao I do that all the time. That's the only reason I can confidently talk shit about people to their faces because behind their back they know I'm praising them lol.
AshyBoneVR4 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:18:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've done this, and it's fuckin HILARIOUS! It's super common for people to say disrespectful things within earshot of their target. So people just expect it. They'll hear you talk in a low voice, react like you insulted them, think about what you said, then feel dumb, then really happy. It's really entertaining watching the wave of different emotions.
nikus1024 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:59:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is that literally complimenting someone behind them or like complimenting someone behind their back metaphorically
altitude11 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:10:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just make sure theyโre honest!
Instigate_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:22:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great advice. I do this all the time, I can't stand people who spread negativity.
ysstargirl ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:28:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Beautiful
VerbalThermodynamics ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:30:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please elaborate.
1-1-19MemeBrigade ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:01:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you and Jenny happen to be talking and the topic of Max comes up when Max isn't around, say good things about Max. This has two positive effects- first off, Jenny will probably be friendlier and more trusting of you because she'll assume you're also saying good things about her behind her back- and when the things you've said about Max make their way back to him (as secret gossip always does) he'll probably be flattered instead of offended.
People are more willing to trust someone who is not two-faced and who they know genuinely likes them instead of being "fake nice." This makes you a more befriendable person, thus eventually making you the kind of person people want to be friends with- leading to you having more friends.
VerbalThermodynamics ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:48:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if I don't like Max? What if Max is a reprehensible human being?
RegularPhil ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:05:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So, if I'm sticking to this advice not because I think Max deserves praise but because I want the benefits you talk about, does that make me a "fake nice"? Assuming my praises of Max sound real enough and not just like ass kissing.
iostefini ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:30:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, "fake nice" is indistinguishable from "real nice" as long as you don't drop it and start being mean. Being a nice person is about choosing things that make other people feel good so by making that choice, you ARE nice. It might not feel right to you (that's why it feels fake) but once you get used to it you do it out of habit and then you are being nice and it feels authentic to yourself too. During the transition stage it might seem fake to other people too (because they're used to you choosing the less-nice options) but once it becomes your normal behaviour it will only seem fake to people who just can't accept niceness.
RegularPhil ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 07:07:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So fake it till you make it? Fair enough. I have a tendency of dropping something really quickly if it feels fake, but it might work for others.
iostefini ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:36:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not really. More like it's not fake if you're actually being nice. No one has NO positives, you just focus on the positives.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:22:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the same way that talking shit behind someoneโs back, not because you think negatively of them at all, but because you want the benefits of talking shit about them (making them look worse and therefore you look better etc.) would make you โfake meanโ
So idk
wristoffender ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:43:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
elaborate?
Sir_Llama ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:35:14 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No
rainsunconure ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would never say this to her face, but she's a wonderful person and a gifted artist.
YesBunny ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whenever Iโve done this, like yeah people donโt fuck with me or try and ruin my life but I get some people thinking Iโm weird.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:13:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Alexk492 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:42:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Complimenting another person's achievements or personality is generally a good way to go. "Man, Sarah is such a great friend, she offered to help me cook the other day," or "Sarah is an amazing person, I can trust her with my deepest feelings."
lactatingskol ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:26:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe Im the wierd one but if someone kept complimenting someone else to me behind their back eventually it would be very off putting.
ChibiShiranui ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a fan of the ol' insult then to their face constantly and tell everyone how great they are behind their back.
MeanQueen420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do that
XanderBear03 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:35:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seen this a lot on Reddit over the last 6 months or so. It does indeed work.
Law_of_Matter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:38:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why?
phoenixmusicman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How is this ever useless advice though
Danish-butter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:52:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How did it help?
SquarerootGuy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:17:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm the kind of people that overpraise my peers. I'm not sure if it's because I'm genuine about that or I just want to make shit up.
seanisgeynt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:18:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is why male bonding works, we compliment people behind their backs but call them names to their face, it might be an Aussie thing but it's why is guys never have drama and why the girls do
mugbee0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:24:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works wonders to what?
Aggressica ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:30:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why? What does it do?
idgaf_about_yr_imgur ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:35:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works wonders how?
indecisive_maybe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:35:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What does it do?
v0tesax0n ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:41:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why? Wouldnโt you want to say it to their face? just curious
sizzlorr26 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:45:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait do you mean to literally go behind them and whisper compliments? or compliment them when they're not around?
Measuring_Words ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:54:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do you mean "it works wonders"? What's the effect?
ericdavis1990 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To their face. It works.
PatoLoco94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:16:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tell my friend all the time about how we talk about him behind his back, but itโs always like โremember when X said _? That was hilariousโ Iโm almost jealous because most of my work friends have nothing bad to say about him.
shanelynch185 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:31:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
idk why but when a compliment is said to my face it has no meaning to me but. on the other hand if i here a compliment being said to someone else about me it brightens my day
dasher11 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:35:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ha, I've always done this! When I'm in a group of people and one person leaves, I wait a few beats and then quietly say something really nice about them to the others.
The cool part is that eventually, everyone around you starts doing it, too. At least when you're there.
ElysianFlowers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:55:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I stood behind my husband and told him that he's beautiful. Every time he faces his back to me, I give him a new compliment.
swingthatwang ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:57:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What wonders??
lacquerqueen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:08:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works amazing. I do it often. I also like to send emails to companies when their employees are nice or helpful. โEmily helped me at your store today, she is really an employee you should value! She was so helpful and kindโ. Itโs fun to spread joy and i like to think it helps people have a nicer day!
Gendrytargarian ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:28:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People trust you more and think subconciusly that you also talk good behind their back. So they like you more.
RevolsinX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:34:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do both front and back! Being nice feels nice.
Dire87 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:41:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How "does" it work? I've never had anyone come up and tell me so and so has said something nice about me...mean things on the other hand...unless girl groups do that...but then they might get jelly...oh boy. I'd rather just make a compliment to the person I'm complimenting. Seems easier.
EdVolpe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:50:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh I thought you meant saying people had nice backs and I was slightly confused.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:32:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People just think Iโm into them if I do this
Javop ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:20:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It works! I was complimenting everyone on their talks without them being in the room and in the end my talk scored the highest because everyone liked how nice I was too everyone else. Won hand selected wines and a self written book from my professor.
randomchic123 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:21:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And?
amwad_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:34:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
100% agree with you, itโs never failed me.
I_am_depressed_lol ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:51:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wouldn't dare to say it to her face but I really like OP's mom!
Kunoxa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:12:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
she's the coolest fucking chick ive ever known
MrSnow30 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:25:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes. Also works well for your self image. From the perspective of someone else, it is a true measure of character and integrity. It is in fact a leadership trait.
To up the game. Try complimenting people other people know you had a rough time with, argued with or dont like. That one is a killer.
Neugda3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:54:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. Went to see my nan in the hospital the other day, when leaving another lady on the ward said to her daughter how my outfit (cutesy/lolita style) was gorgeous and it really warmed my heart to hear. When people come up to me to compliment my outfit i just feel really awkward, but its lovely to overhear them say it to their friend instead.
SmashingPanda ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:57:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What does it so for you/them?
clahws ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:12:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The ass on her though
barelysentient- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:16:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read "Compliment people about their backs."
Mighty fine back you got there buddy.
billgatesnowhammies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:42:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What does this mean? Why/how does it work?
shadowrangerfs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:35:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because they'll believe it more when someone tells them that you said it.
appleeverywhere ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:58:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโd never say this to his face, but Dennis has great thighs.
sugarsodasofa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:51:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay not exactly related but Iโve also heard donโt talk poorly about people (behind their back or otherwise). 2 questions: 1 what about people like who literally donโt do their job and everyone knows it? They just donโt do anything but they canโt get fired because they always show up. 2 what about when people are venting to you about them? Do you just mmhmm? Or that must have sucked but overall theyโre pretty chill
IronyIntended2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:25:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear...
commented nice ass and got slapped.
Sarsmi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:21:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pass along compliments as well. I was with a friend who said she thought another friend has the perfect figure for clothes/fashion, and when I relayed it later to the second friend she was over the moon.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:37:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I look at strangers and wish them happiness. Same thing I suppose.
KPokey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:44:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read this as "compliment people on their back" and I was like, yeah it's nice when people say I have a nice strong back.
babeek007 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:20:49 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I met my best friends buissiness partner for the first time when he wasn't with my friend and he started telling me about how much my buddy respects me and tells everyone how great of a guy I am man that felt fucking great.
Dan4t ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:17:31 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ya, because it often gets around back to them, and it makes them much happier to learn that you say good things about them to others. Plus, it benefits them more, because you're basically influencing others to like them more.
K-Jonatan-B ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:36:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make sure you speak just loud enough where it doesn't sound like you want them to hear, but they hear anyway. Or maybe leave a text conversation displayed talking good about a specific person. It's a win-win
ivanoski-007 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:42:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't want to say nice things to that asshole, he's an asshole for a reason
desynchronize ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:48:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a popular comment on reddit now
TheHandThatWipes ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:12:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're right it does sound stupid, I'm not gonna go walk around someone every time I want to compliment them. Get a job.
Pilot_Scott ยท 15438 points ยท Posted at 00:29:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
If you have a clogged nose, doing 8-10 pushups will temporarily clear it up.
Edit: Hey thanks for the silver! (And the gold)
DynamonRuler ยท 8504 points ยท Posted at 01:47:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is this just to get me to try to actually do a pushup?????
Pilot_Scott ยท 3241 points ยท Posted at 01:58:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha, one would assume. But no, it legit works
RexDraco ยท 165 points ยท Posted at 02:59:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if you can't do a single push up?
Jag94 ยท 324 points ยท Posted at 03:30:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Attempt one pushup.
If you fail, start over.
Repeat 10 times.
Tomorrow, do it again.
By the emd of the week, youโll be able to do one push up.
Do that every week.
In a month youโll be able to do 4.
At the end of the year youโll be able to do 48.
First step is to try. You will fail. I promise you that. But when you succeed after multiple failures, your brain will be wired to handle adversity just a little bit differently.
If youโre lucky, you just might start to understand how someone can be really good at the thing they do really well.
zaffle ยท 90 points ยท Posted at 06:47:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can tell ya now, within a year youโll be able to do way more than 48. Itโs not linear. I couldnโt do one and three times a week within 3 months I could do 50 easily.
Shadefeaster ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 07:41:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I started out like that till I started injuring myself from my 50 pushups. Looked up online how to do them correctly and went back down to 20. The handicap is real with them and I learned your not doing yourself any favors by cheating them for that "50" count. 48 is considered excellent for 20-29 year olds. I know I wasnt anywhere close to being an athlete at the time. It was obvious I was doing something wrong. 0 to 50 in three months? I was kidding myself.
TiTaak ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 09:09:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Proper form is extremely important and I see a ton of people that give up form to increase load.
If you're working your arms, there's no point in increasing the weight if your back ends up doing the work.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:06:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. Also wouldnโt it be better to just do knee pushups if you canโt do standard pushups anyway? Itโd allow you to increase time under tension and actually focus on form, especially if you canโt already do a single pushup.
TiTaak ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:45:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly, I replied on a thread not so long ago about exactly this, it's perfectly fine to do knee pushups and you shouldn't feel ashamed for doing so.
Zicopo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:51:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Athleanx?
sylvainmirouf ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:42:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You went from 0 to 50 in 3 months?
That sounds enormous, but I'm not a pushup expert.
stanky-kenneth ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 07:47:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pushup expert here, enormous
KSHProductions ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:27:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs really quick, I dotbmenan to be rude but youโre likely cheating yourself such reps in such a short period of time. Your chest has to touch the floor when you hold a plank position and typically it should be done 2/2sec
zaffle ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 10:35:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmm. Youโre flat out saying Iโm likely doing it wrong. Next time try removing the accusations of cheating and, if you must, simply inform me that Iโm doing push-ups wrong.
notyetcomitteds2 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:09:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the workout world, not doing the full range of motion or out of proper form is called " cheating."
Hes not calling you a cheater. Sometimes you're recommended to do a few cheat reps.... it's a term.
zaffle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:10:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good to know. Thanks
notyetcomitteds2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:33:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No problem. Informative to me. Words have a tone, implicit context can be a bitch. I'd probably throw cheat around myself without realizing someone could take it negatively.
KSHProductions ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:59:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because progressing that quickly is unheard of. Itโs like saying someone got their bench scores up 100 pounds within 3 weeks or something. From not even being a single push-up to 50 in a week isnโt something commonly done, probability dictates you likely are doing it wrong. You technically arenโt even supposed to progress the push-up that quickly either, itโs not that kind of exercise unless youโre heavily compensating. Of course if you want then post a form check.
zaffle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:01:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, I see the misunderstanding. I said I worked out 3 times a week for 3 months. At the end of 3 months I could do 50.
KSHProductions ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:05:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs still unheard of though, I work with a personal trainer/physical therapist and literally nobody has gotten up that quickly. Weโve some people who within 3 months said they got to 30-40 but after making them actually go down all the way and use proper eccentric/concentric contractions go down to >25 unless they were previously athletic
zaffle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:08:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok, well, thanks. Good to know.
vicaphit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:28:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There was a "100 push-up challenge" floating around about a decade ago that I attempted. After about 10 weeks I could do close to 100 without breaks. Unfortunately an old elbow injury came back and I never made it to 100.
It's all in the technique if you want to get to 100.
TimX24968B ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 04:09:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
or progress onto the Russian push-up challenge
Shogun110 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 07:02:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/getmotivated
InterestingNarwhal7 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:25:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm that this works. I was in okay shape due to a background in gymnastics, so I started with pullups rather than pushups, but the principle is the same. At the start I struggled with 3x3 (3 sets of 3) , but ended up with 10x3 within a few months (Don't worry if you can't do pull ups at the start, I had a solid foundation in gymnastics, even if it had been a few years. Find your starting position and work from there). I ended up stalling due to poor nutrition, but if you eat right you'll keep progressing. Seriously, don't stop eating if you want to get in shape, just do your best to cut down on unnecessary sugar. (That said, a bit of chocolate on the weekend wont kill you as long as you're good during the week. Don't starve yourself!)
A lot of us try to go from 0 to 100 all at once. Cutting out all the 'unhealthy' stuff at once only to crash and burn later on. The truth is it's all about averages. If you can maintain a good caloric deficit during the week you can get a way with a hamburger during the weekend and still loose a bit of weight.
On the other hand, if your goal is to bulk up, make sure you eat enough to allow yourself to grow. Yes, your body fat % will increase as you bulk up, that's unavoidable and can be remedied later if you so choose. but without a caloric surplus you wont build any muscle.
Running yourself into the ground wont help anyone, take your time and set realistic goals. You'll be surprised at what you can achieve. (Take it from someone who accidental caused all his friends/family to worry, increasing your workouts without adding to your caloric intake will slim you down way too fast and alarm your friends/family at an astonishing rate. (Sorry Mom!)
Finally: Something is going to mess up your exorcise plan. For me it's a medical condition, but for you it might be something else. Don't worry about it. If something gets in the way of your exorcise for a day/week/month/year, just dial it back a bit and keep going and gradually scale it up. Life isn't perfect, the important thing is that you don't give up. Good luck! :)
adimapamida ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:36:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sound advice. I tried this with a friend and she just did not believe me. I then told her that she was willfully choosing to not be able to do a push up and we kind of had a fight. I haven't seen her since then. It would be rough to have lost a friend over this.
kidnapalm ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:01:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This reminds me of the guy whose relationship collapsed because he pretended he didn't know what a potato was during dinner with his GF's parents.
Ucla_The_Mok ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:40:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This reminds me of the people who believed that story.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:46:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Real_Atomsk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:27:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This reminds
0bel1sk ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:23:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
by then, your nose should be cleared up
tranquil21 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:37:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gotta be the fool before the master
tnttrooper215 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:19:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But that requires effort and the Pringles are right next to me.
ReCursing ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:23:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if you can't do one push up because you have no arms?
Jag94 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:16:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I believe reddit has the answer to that question.
bruin97 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:28:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do 100 pushups a day to become like Saitama!
bobbyhillybilly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:50:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Till your bald!!!!!
401kisfun ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:20:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pssh Iโve done 300 in a day.
pua6384 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 07:22:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It doesnโt work like that. You need to build strength to do push-ups.
If you keep attempting a pushup you wonโt magically be able to do one a couple days later.
kindasortablue ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:39:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's actually exactly how it works; through attempting it again and again you're forcing your body to realise that it needs to grow a little in the strength department and thus you gain some strength over time which will then allow you to do the pushups.
Now thats a really basic explanation of how hypertrophy (muscle growth) can occur and i know its a bit of a clichรฉ but if you keep trying very soon you will be able to do pushups from not being able to do one at all.
pua6384 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:24:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You need to actually do it with full range of motion with lower resistance first, then build up to it. If someone lacks muscles to do a push-up, they need to start small with resistance they can handle, then gradually increase the tension while keeping full ROM.
kindasortablue ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:37:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We actually do agree here - of course itll be much harder to do a push up if they continually keep trying a full push up, what I was thinking of was starting with push ups on the knees, focusing on creating a slow, concentric motion downwards which helps activate hypertrophy as well as getting used to the act of pushing themselves up off the ground. This is where the resistance comes from while the progressive overload (increasing the stress/tension on the muscles) comes from adding more reps and transitioning from push ups on the knees to full push ups.
PhotoJer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:19:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not true at all about the full range of motion. Here's an example. Take an untrained person, give them a weight that will allow them to do bicep curls only half of the way. Eventually they will be able to do the full range of motion. Sure you're not incorporating every single muscle fiber by not doing the full range but you are incorporating fibers, and those fibers don't need every single other fiber in the muscle to be exerting itself before it will grow.
pua6384 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:48:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Obviously full ROM is ideal, 1/2 ROM is not as ideal.
If you give someone a 500 lb dumbbell and tell them to curl it everyday for a week, theyโll get nowhere. This is essentially what happens when you tell someone to do push-ups everyday when they canโt at all.
PhotoJer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:09:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well yeah when you take an example that hyperbolic. But isometrics can and will work for someone who can't even do a pushup just fighting against that one single rep over time. How fat they are is going to play a big role in how fast it would happen. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15075307
Honj_The_Breatharian ยท 70 points ยท Posted at 03:58:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do them from your knees or do reverse pushups where you lower yourself down as slow as you can while in the pushup position!
ex_nihilo ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 07:01:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
The eccentric motion of an exercise should typically be done slower than the concentric. Releasing slowly is how you create myofascial tears and stimulate eutrophy/hypertrophy.
ConstantProperty ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 07:07:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is that a good thing
tempogod ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 07:11:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yes
lysianth ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 07:10:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes
ex_nihilo ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 07:13:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes very good. Translation: that is how you grow muscles.
ConstantProperty ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 07:22:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ha nice try you won't get me to destroy my own muscles
dinasaurusRektz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:36:10 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm curious how lowering yourself down slowly will help to build the muscles that eventually allow you to be able to push yourself up in proper form. Because one movement is actively pushing up (exerting force) and the other is just resisting gravity.
Are the muscles being โtorn upโ the same muscles that are activated in the push up? I heard this is the same for pull ups as well.
ex_nihilo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:48:17 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, try it. You will get sore. Thatโs good. Best remedy for a sore muscle is to work it some more. Just donโt overdo it.
Jaerivus ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:28:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know Google exists and all, but would you help me learn which is which (eccentric/concentric)? Say, with regard to a pushup?
ex_nihilo ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 07:31:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Well I am not using the terms entirely correctly, but basically on the movement where you are exerting effort you can do it quickly, but you want to pause and do the motion where you then let the weight down slowly. So on a push up you would push yourself up as quickly as you would like (not like exaggeratedly, don't jump off the floor), and then slowly lower your body back down on the reverse motion. If you put your hands far apart, slightly outside shoulder width, your pecs will do most of the work. If you put your hands close together in front of your chest, your triceps do a lot of the work. Your core does a bit of work to stabilize your body and keep it straight if you are using proper form too.
A good rule of thumb I have heard is that it should take about twice as long to lower/release the weight as it does to raise it. Exceptions to this are things like deadlifts when you're going for your max.
Jaerivus ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:40:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for the informative and prompt reply! 5 stars. Would choose you over Google again.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:40:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you contract your muscles, it's the concentric. When you slowly release them to get back to the starting position it's the eccentric.
Jaerivus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:54:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you very much!
TaohRihze ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 07:13:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is the trick, when you hit 10, you flu has passed naturally.
andreasbeer1981 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:27:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
by them time you find out how to do 8-10, you're clogged nose will be free
azzaisme ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:26:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then you won't unblock your nose
pepsterOC ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:30:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You'll have to resort to picking.... like me.
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 05:37:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
jumping jacks works too, fatty. Don't break an ankle.
R____I____G____H___T ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:36:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then you've got some extreme issues to deal with. 30 pushups in one go should be a piece of cake.
RexDraco ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:28:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do have extreme issues, my arm muscle is the least of my concern tho.
Vouros ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 07:16:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i dont have a blocked nose so im taking this on good faith but i swear to fuck if i get a cold and do useless pushups ima be mad at you!
Miss_Minus ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 07:39:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a clogged nose, I'll try it out for you.
Edit: y'all better do your push-ups, it works.
Vouros ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:00:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
alrighty then, thank you op and thank you for live testing.
Miss_Minus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:53:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're welcome. It's nice to not have a blocked nose, however I did pull a muscle in the process so proceed with caution.
Vouros ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:28:17 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
last time i did pushups i retore my stomach muscle, a recouring problem since the initial tear, thats why im hesitant.
ihatethesidebar ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:34:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well?
Vouros ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:02:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
well what, did i spontaneously catch a cold in the three hours ive been sitting here at home? no.
ElTreceAlternitivo ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 10:28:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because a clogged nose is usually from swelling of blood vessels, not boogers. The pushups draw the blood to your arms/core muscles, reducing the swelling in the sinuses, allowing air to pass through again.
Serisu ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:57:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because of the crying?
jackthedad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:21:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How does that work
DavidRempel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:31:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do jumping jacks, then my neti pot. Works wonders.
im_in_hiding ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:12:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah so get to pushing, fatty.
Xgio ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:59:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My nose is clogged due to medical reasons, but atleast i did pushups
LifeTooShort_Smile ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:16:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pilot... Thanks for this I'm clogged for week can't seem to enjoy a thing. Also my ears are blocked. hugs and sneezes
lysanderate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:28:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm, just tried it.
Chuckles4U2 ยท 71 points ยท Posted at 04:44:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The face smack on the floor clears the nasal passages temporarily.
SeductiveButters ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 07:19:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your body will prioritize oxygen needs over defending your body of the dangers of pollen.
OfferChakon ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 07:53:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly though. Do some. I started really trying about a year and a half ago. Couldn't really do 3 without struggling. Now I can belt out multiple sets of fifty throughout the day. My chest is tighter and more pronounced too. Seriously, start with five in the morning and five at night. Try it. You'll surprise yourself:)
Gotbn ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:00:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Modern problems require modern solutions
Crystaldolphinx ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:04:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ive never done a pushup so idk
Nathaniel820 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 11:17:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You could also just plug your nose a exhale all of your breath. The whole idea is that your brain/body opens its airway the most it possible can because youโre โsuffocating.โ Doing push-ups has the same result, because your body is trying to get in more oxygen.
GO_DO_TWENTY_PUSHUPS ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:02:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, I would never...
DothrakAndRoll ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:04:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your time to shine
J_hoff ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:45:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damnit guys he figured out. New plan next week.
ABirdOfParadise ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:06:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have the hiccups run a triathlon to get rid of them?
gaddhaffihussain ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:31:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Push ups- adrenaline- vasoconstriction- relieves congestion
XenosHg ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:04:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Squats work, too. Anything to make your blood flow.
XFiraga001 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:57:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worst case scenario your nose is still plugged, but you're a little bit stronger!
Nonpareil090 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:10:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
By raising your heart rate, your body prioritizes oxygen intake.
DaSaw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:13:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It doesn't even have to be a "real" pushup, just whatever you can get 8-10 reps out of (but not too many more). If that's knee pushups, so be it.
Hartknockz ยท 7255 points ยท Posted at 04:22:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want your nose to not clog ever again do 100 PUSH-UPS, 100 SIT-UPS, 100 SQUATS, 10 KM RUNNING! EVERY SINGLE DAY for three years then punch yourself in the face once.
douchebert ยท 1526 points ยท Posted at 06:42:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But what if I don't want to go bald?
TheLozzy ยท 495 points ยท Posted at 06:50:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't worry. The fans in your nose will start working again, and your head will start looking cool!
Federal_Status ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 07:28:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ya got me.
Houseton ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 14:59:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Too meta, too soon!
learningamap ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:11:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh my gosh, I just burst out laughing
BitchLasagna97 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 10:38:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I see you are not the only man of culture here
gen3stang ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 09:32:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just buy a wig but be careful you don't want to get robbed while shopping.
SchwarzWulf_ ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 10:02:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy Cake day brother
sbwh ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 08:50:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why wouldn't you? It's clearly the most efficient hairstyle
---Help--- ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 09:27:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No A/C
Bc_I_Want2Upvote_U ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:53:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then your push-ups werenโt at 90 degrees. Do it again
anally_raped_walrus ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:54:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
too bad you can at least become saitama he is the real chad
MyDiary141 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:06:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then you need to do training montages of you climbong mountains in the russian winter.
inept_timelord ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:17:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
then buy a wig.
nescent78 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:43:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then keep the AC on
Typhoon_Montalban ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:48:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Two words: Nose-Hair Combover. Get ahead of the trend.
Fuzz557 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:53:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Embrace it you can't run from that one.
Rust_Dawg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:11:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Baldness is a treasure. It naturally decreases wind resistance.
opakq ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:19:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As long as you keep the a/c and heater on, you should be fine
eipeidwep2buS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:00:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
P U S H - U P S
mydreamrobot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:26:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then you have to do it twice, also works for shortness.
walle-freddy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:37:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then you didnโt do it right
Edit: misread what you said. In that case just donโt
gautham0880 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:25:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Captain?
My guess would be one punch man reference, but I haven't seen it yet.
Hartknockz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:31:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Correct.
emlgsh ยท 102 points ยท Posted at 07:37:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear; lost all hair, gained absolute power.
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 09:49:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And now you have no one of equal power and forever will never have a challenge in your life.
bulksalty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:50:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You weren't supposed to do situps, squats and a 10km run, too. Just pushups.
Enjoy the enuii of never having anything challenge you again, though.
eddyathome ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 06:54:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can I just punch myself in the face 100 times and not get so sweaty and tired?
Styxal ยท 112 points ยท Posted at 07:00:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You only need to do One Punch, man
trumpishoradmirable ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 08:00:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Subtle
MovinPerera ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 08:05:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah here, have an upvote.
samdiatmh ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 07:37:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
do I punch myself in the face after the 3 years, or once per day?
alexREVOLUTION1 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 07:38:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes.
CrazyKraken ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 07:50:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/inclusiveOR
Hartknockz ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:40:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
After the 3 years for maximum results!
thomerow ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 07:35:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All jokes aside, for me a 5 km run really frees the nose.
lithid ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 09:07:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love when a good jog frees my bowels.
... Not while jogging, but for some reason it does helps me shit so much better.
TheYoungGriffin ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:04:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It shakes loose all the poo lining your insides.
Epoch_Unreason ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 07:34:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saitama?
Hartknockz ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 07:35:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Caped Baldy.
ActuallyDoesntExist ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:15:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
(o_o)
Shame_L1zard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:20:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're the baldy!
lukeluck101 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 08:16:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A banana in the morning is fine.
Hartknockz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:02:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bout to eat one rn actually lol.
Fufubear ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:49:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So happy for season 2
beaslythebeast ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 11:55:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt forget the banana! And no AC in the summer!
RIPTonyStark ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:26:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve heard whispers that of a man in Norway who can also clear you up for life. The rumour goes that he possess a certain set of skills learned through years and years of mastering the โI got your noseโ game.
Mc_Squeebs ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:40:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One punch man?
TheYoungGriffin ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:04:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ONE PUUUUUUUUUUUUUNCH
TheHeroSaitama ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:17:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
These are facts
Dat-1-Guy-from ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:27:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Name checks out
DrilldarkOP ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:45:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"you are so ......... FULL OF SHIT"
samuraihulkz ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:16:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You forgot that you have to turn off the aircon in your room
WorgRider ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:37:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't forget to not use heat or AC otherwise it won't work.
Hartknockz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:01:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha fuck yeah in hindsight I wish I would have included all the other stuff too, but itโs been funny seeing everyone else add it in.
Chumpybunz ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:53:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/unexpectedonepunchman
remiright ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:23:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never ever use the air conditioner in the summer or heat in the winter to strengthen your mind.
RedactedVirus ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:10:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im on day 16
I hate this stupid challenge
deebusmeebus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:21:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
down side you will go bald
Pizza_Delivery_Dog ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:40:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
AND NO AIRCO
TypicalLuxMain ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:58:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay, now my mind just wants to be a hero for fun.
ki11bunny ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:06:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude I'm only trying to unblock my nose, not create a black hole
b4ck_5t4Bb3r ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:16:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear. Gained big dick energy!!!
sadowsentry ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:37:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone give this man a banana!
Hartknockz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:02:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh I got like 5 Iโm about to eat one.
tranquil21 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:36:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Need more u/Hartnockz facts
meetchu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:52:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you do that you'd better record it to settle the internet debate - can one punch man no-sell one punch from one punch man?
_Giraffacake ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:03:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't be the only one who read this in the Powerthirst voice.
covfefe15 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:09:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
;)
AlexJMercer24K ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:13:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't know Saitama was on reddit !!!! And no, he won't get hurt if he punches himself.
SimpleCoalMiner ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:45:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well not one ordinary punch.
Dat-1-Guy-from ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:26:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But consecutive normal punches maybe
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:35:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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Hartknockz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:35:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly, your nose will never get clogged again!
9989989 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:38:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice try, dad
xbox_overwatch_squad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:52:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have had my nose broken, can confirm this is INCORRECT. My nose clogs way worse and in more fucked up ways than ever before since then.
DenzelRobinsoniii ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:53:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy shit it worked
tzheihoh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:08:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:20:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The nose-be-gone trick keeps me from cutting my nose.
mackafat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:32:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cunt. Just tried it. I'm coming to fite you.
Hyper2070 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:34:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah a man of culture I see
AVeryNeatChap ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:37:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It spawned in a hyrda jet
artem_delirium ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:58:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The punch activates the cheat code.
PhilomathMango ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:13:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Death.
TheWolvenOne ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:27:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Of course your nose wonโt be a problem any more when your head explodes
Tato269 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:29:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Baldy
spooklordpoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:36:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lmaooo
coastal_diff ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:54:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly you probably would never get sick cause youโd be pretty dang fit. The healthier your body, the less likely you are to get sick!
Kelly_the_tailor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:59:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha, the famous "One Punch Man" workout.
grammar_nazi_zombie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:03:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Calm down, Chris Traeger
MarodRamby ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:17:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
100 push ups, situps, and squats is cakewalk. 10 km run though...
MrrpyMoth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:44:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pro tip you're going to go bald
DeaTHly_HallOW17 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:57:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this sounds like one-punch mans excercise
Hartknockz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:21:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
;)
Bigtowelie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:08:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Which arm should I use?
gucci_ghost ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:23:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But only once
MalevolentMartyr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:37:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In that order?
JacksGallbladder ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:43:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
FERTA
ChillBusta ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:11:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wonโt do those other things but I will punch myself in the face.
lilasdara ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:14:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is this a lookism reference? Vasco is probably my favorite character.
Hartknockz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:14:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One punch man!
Azfik ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:40:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And if it hurts, am i too strong, or too weak?
quantumphysical ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:43:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What would happen if One Punch Man punched himself?
Hartknockz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:55:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good question, I bet it would cancel out his powers and he'd be normal.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:58:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, NEVER turn on the AC in the summer or the Heat in the winter
dresden_for_prez ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:24:37 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont forget to eat a banana for breakfast.
rithiklodha ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 09:47:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saitama san?
Rishnixx ยท 59 points ยท Posted at 01:58:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm really tempted to call bull on this one, but there's not really anything at stake, so I'll give it a shot next time it happens. Worst thing that happens is you got me to do some extra pushups which is never a bad thing.
alexnik2000 ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 06:34:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The pushups raise your heart rate and this causes your nose stop swelling. It doesnt have to be pushups,anything to get your pulse going will work.
Milkarius ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 06:44:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always used to jog a little and notice my nose clear a bit. Push ups also worked!
kopiledon ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:29:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well essentially it's adrenaline and noradrenalin (or epinephrine and norepinephrine) that does the trick. It doesn't last long, so if you stop working out it ends fairly quickly.
DaLeoJaTo ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 08:43:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to sniff loads of drugs and would jog on the spot or do push ups to unclog my nose.
sloanewashere ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:24:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As long as the drugs get your heart rate up! ๐
infecthead ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:14:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you've ever worked out with a cold you'll notice it there too, any physical activity helps clear your nose up (tho you shouldn't really be working out if your sick as it'll weaken your immune system)
eliteHaxxxor ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:14:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it will clear for about 5 seconds. Holding my breath is far more effective.
Elitmentary ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 06:41:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bold of you to assume I can do anything over 0 push-ups
Gluttony4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:34:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I too have noodles for arms.
Cowboy7220 ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 04:59:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Allergies = Buff
snowskelly ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 06:19:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also masturbating.
aplagueofsemen ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 07:25:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah this is my go-to
lulxD69420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:01:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In public?
0DMATH0 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:44:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice try drill sargent
ArtisticWaste ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 06:22:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An orgasm clears up sinuses too sometimes. In case anyone doesnt feel like exercising or cant. ๐
Silver_Yuki ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 06:26:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Masturbating, or even just edging will also do this...
darkr0b ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:19:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fapping also works
thewurstunicorn ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:34:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if you have a clogged nose, jerk off.
cfryant ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:36:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I do, what? And don't call me jerk off.
V3D4N7 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:52:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just jumping around the house like I'm crazy also works for me
kmmck ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:44:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A better move is to actually just exhale and then just hold your breath for about 10 to 20 seconds.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:19:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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skwuchiethrostoomf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:28:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here. I've started working out recently and I've only recently been able to more than half a pushup. I can do 3 whole push-ups as of now.
I'm not fat or anything, I'm just very very weak.
loonygecko ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:43:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chomping a bunch of wasabi can also do it!
xVonDrake ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:43:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Been almost 20 years with a clogged nose, what should i do?
chickensoupnipples ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 06:55:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop sniffing cocaine
xVonDrake ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:57:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh if only. But no, it all started when I was like 12 13
AS14K ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 07:06:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Start sniffing cocaine
igor_mortis ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 08:18:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i can't. i have a clogged nose.
TheBoyWhoCriedTapir ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:20:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to an ear-nose-throat specialist and get checked for nasal polyps. Did anyone in your household smoke when you were a child?
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:25:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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SttPoD ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:01:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get tested for allergies
joelmartinez ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:43:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep! I canโt tell you how many times Iโve woken up in the middle of the night unable to breathe, only to start doing jumping jacks, or air squats, or something to get the heart pumping ... it feels like bliss when the airways open up for a short time
bobbyhillybilly ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:51:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I believe this. Actually after i get high sometimes i get allergies and a stuffy nose before bed. Then when i get up and walk up stairs to get water it clears up when i get a lil blood moving i guess. Then i lay down and its back.
DonaldsOrangeBeanBag ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:33:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can the average Reddit user even do a pushup?
NorthSack ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:08:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh my god i love you
sfenderbender ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:37:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We need more body hacks.
Ultimatedeathfart ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:18:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah let me just do 8-10 whole goddamn push ups because that's totally in the realm of possibilities for me.
AS14K ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 07:06:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can't do 8-10 pushups, you should be doing more pushups
Malgaras ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:30:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not allowed to do pushups, doctor's orders. Should I amputate my nose?
Ultimatedeathfart ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:29:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kinda hard to do more than two when you only have one arm bro.
AFrostNova ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:39:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How into 8 pushups?
abcdeabcdabc ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:42:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can also put tape over your mouth and your nose will unclog.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:46:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Riddarinn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:55:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True.. me and my ex used this all the time.
HotsuSama ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:30:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just tried this. You're a goddamn wizard.
Elmer_adkins ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:49:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jerking it clears the nose, as well. Probably a similar reaction
umblegar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:51:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have pushed 8 dongs up nose, feel worse, please advise
sandieeeee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:56:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha, eat that hay fever, ima be ripped by the time ur gone.
Zombikittie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:57:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh wow.... just tried it.
mitharas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:57:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bold of you to assume I can do 10 pushups.
jjbugman2468 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:03:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also try lying on your side with the clogged side towards the air.
dknynyc4000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:08:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
3-4 works too
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:08:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A hot shower will too.
KSredneck69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:10:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wired... Can confirm my sickly nose is far less stuffy and my stick arms are now soar.
existSnowman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:11:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So the effect is, that excess blood in the nasal mucosa causes the swelling. Ever Kind of blood redistribution or vagal Stimulation Works. Exercise, masturbation, taking a dump... But of you wake up from a clogged nose standing up really quickly should to the trick Long enough to Fall asleep again.
_Codrut_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:13:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Handstands also work
LordCephious ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:14:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So will running up and down a flight of stairs. And I mean a super stuffed up nose from copious amounts of poorly cut cocaine...
back in the day
HashPram ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:21:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife has a cold and a blocked nose. I will suggest this to her immediately!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:21:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
how tf are you supposed to do 8?
flufftruff ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:22:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
actually, lying on your left if your right nose is clogged for few minutes and vice versa also works. it's what i always do if i want to breathe.
AngBuc ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:24:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its the little amount of adrenalin I guess
Federal_Status ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:25:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If mental strength is more your suitor than letting out all your breath and holding it until you cannot stand it should also help remediate it. I believe this is like Chinese homeopathic technique.
LeoLaDawg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:25:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just use breathe right strips, afrin, and water sucked up nose.
bandananaan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:29:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holding your breath as long as you can also works for those too lazy to do push ups
RevolsinX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:31:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True, specifically any movement at all will solve the issue. At least temporarily.
Noticed it myself when my several hour clogged nose immediately got freed up when I got up to get something. And then clogged back up right soon when I got back and sat down again.
adimapamida ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:34:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just did 16 pushups and my nose is STILL clogged! Did I do too many?
my_jellyfish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:35:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
also an orgasm helps relieve a stuffy nose
tranquil21 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:35:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think you just made people around the world do at least over 9,000 push-ups
MattDelVideos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:36:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow thanks
Nyaschi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:40:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lel, you got that as a advice? I figured it out myself in the time i did a few push ups per day Btw. the explanation why this does work is blood pressure
Pufley ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:40:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This advice would have been helpful like 1 day ago...
awawe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:42:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, it's still useless because pushups are impossible.
Devairen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:42:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually have a very specific way of clearing my clogged nose but noone ever wants to try it because they don't believe in it or whatever :(
xSickBoyx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:03:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop baiting and share with fellow sufferers
Devairen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:25:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gotta start pacing the room and grab a glass of water. Take a mouthful and take little sips of the water in your mouth, alternating with breathing. So it goes like this: little sip - breath in - little sip - breathe out - repeat.
You obviously (try to) breathe through your nose and that together with the swallowing will sort of massage your sinuses open, in my experience. It always works for me extremely fast and efficiently.
SL__ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:45:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy shit it works.
goo_goo_gajoob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:49:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just did it and while it doesnt completely clear you out it does help some. Also try jerking off I've found it works well.
kaepppp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:52:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bold of you to assume I can actually do a pushup
cheese_grated_face ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:54:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am currently sick, tried it, it works! A couple minutes of breathing!
stinkybumbum ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:56:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
any exercise does this. Just getting up and walking about helps
Crymson831 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:03:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I literally just told this to someone today... Joie?
digg_survivor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:05:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always have a spoonful of Louisiana hot sauce.
porgy_tirebiter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:15:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice try, Sarg
the_itchy_beard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:16:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How long is 'temporary'? A few hours or few minutes?
Mandown1985 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:19:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah most exercise does it I assume to prevent you from passing out from lack of oxygen.
vonFumatore ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:23:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sex works also. Uno, duo, trio...doesnt matter.
oCinzento ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:32:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're seated doing kegels also works
_Wizou_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:39:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or pick a single nose hair with tweezers.
Works perfectly for me.
TheStargrazer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:40:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Better yet, just jack off. The trick is to accelerate your heart rate.
Vindex101 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:44:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bold to assume that I can even do 8
DoranMoonblade ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:46:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd rather have my stupid clogged nose, thank you.
Zuldwyn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:47:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I see how it is, only the fit people get to unclog their noses huh?
Noe_33 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:51:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
A lazier method that also works. Lay your body on your right arm. Your left nostril will clear up.
Go on I know some of you are laying on your bed. Give me my upvote if it works.
Lord_Twigger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:54:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bold of you to assume I can do even a single push up
TypicalLuxMain ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:55:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did two pushups, it works.
FunKun24 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:57:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just did 10 push-ups and my left nostril is still clogged
TheL1oness ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:00:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know what clears your nose just as well? Arousal caused by sexual stimulation.
Serpian ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:03:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm. My nose easily clogs up no matter if I have a cold or not, if it's allergy season or not. Often it's not even clogged with snot and boogers, it's just the mucous membranes that seem to swell shut for no reason. Usually one nostril at a time.
I got hooked on a nose clearing spray that you're only supposed to use for a week at a time. I used it every night for almost a year, because my stupid brain wouldn't let me fall asleep breathing through my mouth. I built up a tolerance to the spray so I had to stop using it, and pushups before bed were often enough to let me fall asleep.
Saturnwithasunroof ยท 27415 points ยท Posted at 01:47:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cleanining your house before leaving for more than 5 days. Nothing is better than coming to a clean house.
Jag94 ยท 5888 points ยท Posted at 03:04:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I travel a lot for work and can sometimes be gone for two to three weeks at a time. There is nothing worse than finally coming home and remembering how bad you left the place. I learned this real quick and make a point to clean up before i leave.
dweicl ยท 186 points ยท Posted at 05:17:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I forgot chicken on the counter one time and left on a 2 week vacation. I have ptsd and clean everything now. Even weekend trips. I pray no one ever comes to that smell.
[deleted] ยท 55 points ยท Posted at 06:51:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Good Lord you made me remember the burrito maggot incident. About 100 maggots fell on to the carpet after I dropped the four day old carne asada burrito on the floor, I had no vacuum cleaner. Had to pick em up one by one with toilet paper. They kept crawling out of the trash and back on to the floor. I sprayed an entire god damn can of raid in the bag and on the maggots and sprayed one individual maggot for 5 seconds at close range. not a single one was affected in the slightest. I had to resort to squishing each maggot with the small amount of tp I could spare in order to kill them and prevent them from crawling out of the trash bag. Threw up a lot that day, I've been a much cleaner person since then, and I immediately throw up at the sight of maggots.
KernelTaint ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:34:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm always forgetting to put my trash bags on the curb on rubbish day. So often I've forgotten and had to leave them on my deck for next week and had hundreds of maggots crawling along my deck and into my house under the door.
prettyaveragesw ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:51:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt get maggots (and Iโll never google for fear of seeing images) - where do they come from? How do they sense something rotting? How do they know where to go? Itโs amazing in a terrifying way and I donโt know if I want to know. But I need to know.
got_whooshed ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 15:11:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty sure theyโre just fly babies
prettyaveragesw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:59:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And I used to be cool with flies :( no more.
RegularGoat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:01:02 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah nah flies are filthy little buggers.
ThaSaxDerp ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 15:19:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
flies lay eggs. Maggots are the larval stage. then they turn into a lil brown pupa that looks like a fat dark grain of rice. then a housefly emerges from that.
prettyaveragesw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:58:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do they lay their eggs on rotting stuff specifically, or anywhere and they just prefer purification? And does this mean if I ever get maggots and let them be, theyโll turn into flies? Sorry, still not gonna google.
ThaSaxDerp ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:05:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The larva, maggots, eating the rotting materials. It's their food source.
And yes if the maggots have enough food to consume and are left alive and don't die from say heat or something they'll eventually pupate and then emerge as flies lol.
That's typically why they're in dark moist places with rotting materials. They're decomposers and needed for the world to function, but you can murk em in your house lol. Don't need em there if you clean
prettyaveragesw ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:29:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just learned so much, thank you! Maggots are still super gross but maybe not as disgusting and useless as I thought before today. Big maybe.
ThaSaxDerp ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:18:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
gross and disgusting? yes.
useless? not at all.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:38:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's like a repulsive mini alien invasion right? Maggots are absolutely revolting to me for some reason.
Galahead ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 09:45:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
thats also one of those moments where if you live alone it finally hits you that you HAVE to do these gross things and clean up or else no one would and maggots would be all around the house
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:39:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep haha. The thought of just moving out and living in my car briefly crossed my mind as I realized I would have to individually pick up and squish 100+ maggots.
Galahead ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 19:58:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Must have been brutal, you came out a different man. Last week I was cleaning my bathroom sink because it was kind of clogged, I opened the bottom part of the tubes and unbeknownst to me it disconnected. Like a fool I turned on the water to clean the gunk inside. I don't know why I didn't expect it but water sprayed all the disgusting clogged drain gunk in liquid form all over my little "closet" under the sink, getting all my towels, bags with bathroom supplies, rugs, nail cutters, etc dirty in the process.
It took me about one hour to fully clean everything, these experiences are grim reminders for sure lol
Hopefully we've paid our dues and done enough disgusting cleanup for the rest of our lives?
pquince ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:32:22 on May 15, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That would legit give me PTSD. You poor thing.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:33:07 on May 15, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not quite at the level of PTSD, but good Lord I can't handle the sight of maggots.
vSTekk ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 07:53:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, chicken risotto left on the cooker for two weeks. Covered by glass lid and with window right behind it.
Completely forgot about it, so when I came back I was pleasantly surprised someone remembered and cooked sth for me. Up goes the lid to smell what they cooked. I imediately violently vomited into the sink. That shit was totally rancid.
iseedoors ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 05:31:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tiny leftovers from prep, left in the trash for one day are smelling terrible. I cannot imagine two weeks. Traumatic indeed.
jalif ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:05:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is worse.
sophielady ยท 55 points ยท Posted at 06:25:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone once told me that the state of your home is a reflection of your headspace. I thought that was dumb. I started to really keep on top of things, and noticed my headspace was a lot clearer, and at peace.
AnbuAntt ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 06:46:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I relate to this 100% . I thought it was just me. I know Iโm off when my room gets messy. Thanks.
ramsay_baggins ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:55:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm currently pregnant and had a pretty rough first trimester and couldn't do much. Our kitchen got really cluttered and it was at the point where I was too ill and overwhelmed to tackle it. My husband did his best to keep on top of it but he works full time and was doing all the other chores so it never really got back to normal. My mum came over to visit for a weekend and I ended up basically having a breakdown about the kitchen because it was stressing me out so badly. Bless her she rolled up her sleeves and deep cleaned the whole room (I helped where I could) and it was like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders. The stress melted away and I was so happy to have it clean and organised. It can definitely make a huge difference to your mind!
ElectrolyteLiz ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 09:20:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for posting this. My headspace isnโt amazing and my bedroom/bathroom have really reflected that. I spent an hour cleaning when I got home instead of plonking myself down on the couch. Bathroom, bedroom are now clean, clothes are away or the dirties are ready to wash. Gonna try think back on this post every time I start sliding โค๏ธ
Jag94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:24:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is so true. The difference it makes is remarkable.
Parobolla ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 05:30:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Stop reminding me, we have been in Japan for a month and my wifes staying here for another 2 months. It was such a rush for us to leave in time that the house is a tip and now you all have me dreading the 20 hours of flights to come home to a mess >.<
Flip__Side ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:45:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shit I hope you didnโt leave food in the fridge
Parobolla ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:47:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Luckily that was the one thing we addressed! We made that mistake before.
belbites ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:31:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, not sure if you can arrange for someone to be let in, but I'd definitely hire a cleaning service.
Jag94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:29:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah its probably going to suck, but youโll survive. Hopefully youโll learn a lesson for next time.
sumonebetter ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 06:16:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even, when I go to work, coming home to a made bed can be a nice reprieve from a hard days work.
The_Funky_Stink ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:35:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I started doing this for that reason and also because sliding into a fresh bed is kinda awesome
angiewhite77 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:53:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also I change my sheets. It's is the best, coming back to your bed and the sheets are fresh.
Jag94 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:27:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup, fresh clean sheets on a made bed. Its such a stress reliever.
Quiz07 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:02:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going away for two weeks, I'll take your word for it
Jag94 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:27:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, try it once. That feeling when you come home to a clean house is hard to explain.
jaisaiquai ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:02:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It really bring home (heh) the idea that you've returned to your haven or sanctuary. And you know that when you arrive, things are already taken care of the way you like it, so you can really just relax and unwind without needing to stay on and keep getting stuff done.
gayjenjen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:25:37 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, do try it once, but first try it the messy way. Leave food on the counter/in the fridge to rot, cloths all over, and a dirty bathroom.
Then try the clean way.
WhiskeyPixie24 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:50:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Last fall, I went on a week-long trip while my roommate was still around. The place wasn't completely spotless when I left, but I did a bit of cleaning and made sure it wasn't too bad. I came back a week later, getting in at 1am after a stop on the runway that was-- I shit thee not-- longer than the flight itself, and the place was fucking disgusting. I honestly sobbed.
Jag94 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:13:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would have too. That sounds awful.
quietconclusion ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:02:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is nothing worse than leaving your apartment for 3 months and returning to realise that you switched your fridge (and freezer) off by mistake before you left. And yes. There was food in it.
Not_a_pace_abuser ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:04:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do you do for work? If I may ask
Jag94 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:13:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work for a fitness company. We have many locations across the country which i visit frequently.
jaisaiquai ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:02:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Off topic, but are you fit?
Jag94 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:09:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I play ice hockey 2-3 times a week, i am the drummer in 4 rock bands, and when im not traveling for work, im working on my house. So to answer your question... ... ... no, Iโm not, and its getting worse every month. Getting old sucks.
Hazmat616 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:43:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It will also make it easier to tell if you had a squatter or break in while you were away.
PM_ME-AMAZONGIFTCARD ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 19:58:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whatโs your address and next trip? Asking for a friend.
Dire87 ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 07:44:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean after 3 weeks...there's gonna be dust everywhere anyway, whether you cleaned before or not...
Jag94 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:16:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean more along the lines of laundry done, folded and put away, dishes done and put away, sheets clean and bed made, house in generally good order, shower and toilet clean, etc. yes, dust will accumulate, but if thats the only thing you have to worry, your life is much easier.
NotKay ยท 83 points ยท Posted at 04:35:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
YES! Also, make sure theres a day or two between coming home and going back to work.
My husband and I take two vacations every year. One for 4ish days, the other for 2 weeks. I make sure the house is deep cleaned and all the laundry is done. It's incredible to come home and unpack, throw dirties in the wash and relax in a perfectly clean house for 2 days before going back to work.
lolsociety ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:27:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is seriously the way to do it. I see thing up this way as often as possible. I did the exact opposite of this today, woke up at 1:40am MDT to catch a 4am flight, get to home state with barely enough time to run home and shower and rush to work. It sucks and it was a rough day. I'm on reddit because I came home and crashed out immediately, only waking up at like 10am to eat. Looking forward to sleeping more
NotKay ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:25:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh that sounds awful! I'm sorry!
molodyets ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:53:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did this after our honeymoon. We also worked for a week before we left.
I moved most of my stuff in a few weeks before the wedding. Got married, worked for 4 days, left Friday on our honeymoon. Took two days to rest when we got back.
Having 4 normal days after running out of gas with the final wedding odds and ends was great. I can't imagine getting up early the next day to get on a plane, I would've been exhausted the whole trip
NotKay ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:26:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We waited two days after our wedding to start the trip. It was nice to relax after that chaos. Got to visit with some out of town family, open gifts and return what we didnt want for extra cash for the trip.
Starshitlord ยท 87 points ยท Posted at 03:41:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also make sure to have an empty garbage can inside the house. Made the mistake of leaving garbage inside before leaving. Kitchen was smelly for a day but I could of avoided the smell
takingtacet ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 03:58:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And set the roomba to vacuum the living room the day you return. Itโs freshly vacuumed from pet hair/dust. Having a freshly vacuumed floor is such a good feeling.
jeckles ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 05:08:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look at mister fancy pants here with the robot vacuum.
Sfork ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 05:22:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
$100 for a vac you use once a month or an automatic one that runs every day for $250
lolsociety ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 05:24:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Once a month? You must not have pets. And even if you don't that seems a bit too seldom.
flapperfapper ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:32:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How you underestimate me, my darling.
Onechange072 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:56:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or kids.
AlesanaAddict ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:38:50 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I run my Eufy every day and it does a pretty good job of keeping up with my corgis hair!
ShortHopStop ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:22:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I see your robot vacuum and raise you to robot lawn mower
anakinmcfly ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:37:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I see your robot lawn mower and raise you to robot overlord.
Now you are our robot overlord.
takingtacet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:32:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it was a wedding gift
aero_girl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:56:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have professional movers come, clear out your trash before they get there. Trust me. So many stories of it getting packed on the truck!
Obi_Wan_Benobi ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 04:18:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh man, I left banana out on the counter before leaving for two weeks. Apartment full of fruit flies.
BTW apple cider vinegar works to kill them. Put plastic wrap over the top of a bowl and poke holes in it. Fruit flies get trapped and drown in the vinegar.
anomalous_cowherd ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:47:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fruit flies like a banana.
juneburger ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:22:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Poor flies...
Iwilldieonmars ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 05:03:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tangentially related: Clean up before going out for the night. If you're single and looking for company a clean house will always make a positive impression. Got unlucky? At least you wake up in a clean house and won't have to spend a hangover doing any chores at all.
phoenix7700 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:11:15 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Plus you can always just get off to the clean house like OP said
epic-sax-woman ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 04:24:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And nothing is worse than potentially coming home to drain flies, a smelly trashcan, food gone bad in the fridge, etc.
hurryupand_wait ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 04:54:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fresh sheets fresh home fresh shower.... oh heaven is that you
HugACactusForLove ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 03:02:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Let's be real. Coming back home after 5 days, all I care about is getting a glass of my water. Not bottled water. But like the fridges water.
It has such a special homey taste.
itsalwaysf0ggyinsf ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 05:06:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/hydrohomies
VisualBasic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:13:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The people on that sub are some real waternaggas.
SpiderMonkeyKungFu ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:07:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom alway cleaned the house before we went on vacation. I never got it until I went to a festival and came home to a dirty bedroom. What an eye awakening thing.
Nytfire333 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:27:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife and I always do this before trips, on our most recent trip we had a really early flight (like 4am) and the week before had been crazy and we did not get a chance to clean. Coming home to the mess made us realized how much we value coming home to a clean place.
badanas ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:04:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn off your water supply too. My dad had his toilet crack while he was on vacation. He had a lovely water fountain down his stairs when he came home
XGPHero ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:24:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My buddy asked me to house/dog sit for him on short notice due to a family emergency. He didnt really have time to properly clean before he left. I picked him up from the airport a few hours ago and his house is like a nice hotel. I even turned down the bed for him. He is super stoked as he has been travelling for 18 hours today.
jbrunton4 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:49:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Laughs in no life
KidsTryThisAtHome ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:00:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
redrimmedjack ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:05:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Came home to a clean af house after a cold and wet camping trip. Almost cried when I walked inside. So nice.
trickedouttransam ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:04:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even for 2 or 3 days. I do t want to walk in and see a bunch of dishes or get into bed with not fresh sheets.
my_cement_butthead ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:21:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes and make sure you put freshly laundered sheets and pillowcases on too! Bed feels so great after being away and Witt clean sheets too!! Yesss!
nelsonmavrick ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:06:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At least get rid of any perishable food in your refrigerator, then empty the trash. If something spoils in my fridge, subconsciously feel like everything is affect.
Damaskediva ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:26:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always deep clean before a trip. Once I decided to surprise my kids with a trip to Disney World. I picked them up from school and was going to spring it on them as soon as we got home. My youngest walked into our house and said loudly, โIt smells like we are going on vacation! Where are we going?โ
So much for a surprise.
tapanojum ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:19:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Went on vacation with the wife, cleaned the whole house for this very reason. Came home to a shit covered house. The cat went crazy and literally shit everywhere. On the bed, on the kitchen table, on the counters etc.
Came home at 10pm after flying/layover for 24 hours. Exhausted and starving, we stayed up till 2am cleaning everything followed by work in the morning. God damn nightmare.
_StingraySam_ ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:08:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wash your sheets too. Nothing better than getting home and falling asleep in your own perfectly fresh bed after a trip.
Fist2nuts ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:02:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also having your bills paid before vacation. That way when you get home, you dont have to clean or worry about money
Kiesa5 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:06:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cleanining?
Margotsgirls ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:19:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My parents were messy people and I subsequently grew up in a messy house. BUT, if we were going on any sort of trip away, my mother would clean like a madwoman. This has been drilled into my brain and now as an adult if I am going away even just for the weekend I clean my house top to bottom. Iโm generally a clean person anyway but more so when Iโm going away. I also have a lot of issues with clutter and mess in general due to my childhood.
MC_McStutter ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:33:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to hate when my parents made me clean before vacation. Now that Iโve moved out and have my own place, I appreciate their words of wisdom
PlasticFannyTastic ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:48:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes!! Weโre not massive clean freaks but just ensuring the trash/food waste is out, wiping down surfaces, pouring boiling water down all the sinks/toilets followed by a spray of bleach/cleaning fluid/disinfectant means the place smells fine when we get back after a week away.
xeladra ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:57:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This one is so true. I spend half my year in Australia and half in the UK. I cleaned my house in australia to perfection before I left. Felt so good to come back to a clean house. Unfortunately the Australian summer had been extremely hot where my house was so it smelt like death, but still, I couldnโt imagine how much worse it would of been if I hadnโt of cleaned it
BatmanPicksLocks ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:04:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah my wife hates cleaning so our house is pretty regularly cluttered and just overall not clean. Not super messy but not clean. I always make her help me clean before a trip because coming home to a nice clean and non-cluttered house is so relaxing.
konq ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:23:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is honestly why I make my bed in the morning. It's always a better feeling getting into a made bed when going to sleep. Also builds good sleep hygiene
melig1991 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:45:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also; new sheets on your bed before leaving for a music festival. Enjoy coming home exhausted to a newly made bed
viener_schnitzel ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:15:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always done this out of habit, I hate coming back to a mess.
Cotton_Candy_Grapes ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:09:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is so true. I always deep clean before I go anywhere.
kerelberel ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:25:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Isn't clean the default anyway?
rayoflight110 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:06:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's a saying we have in Scotland. "Wan thing a hate is coming in tae dishes, I can come in tae anything but dishes".
alcoholiccheerwine ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:27:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
100% this. I am not a bed maker at all. Sorta thought I would become one magically when I became an adult but that didn't happen. Still, any time I go away on a trip I always tidy my room and make my bed. Nothing better to come home to (except maybe a dog).
aerodynamicvomit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:46:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I once had a dog sitter who got bored and cleaned my house while I was gone. Other than being horrified of what she may have found, it was like a damn dream walking into my house that was cleaner than I'd ever seen it. I told her this was a genius business plan and people would pay more if it were dogs+cleaning.
jackandjill22 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:19:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes. That's why I feel terrible for people who work shitty jobs & live in squalor.
Magikarp_King ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:35:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tried this and then my father in law came over to take care of the pets and trashed the place. He is a messy person.
Wizcrack ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:24:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't really get this. Messy or clean doesn't make much difference, and messy is less work.
h3lme7 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:11:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Makes a huge difference to my mental health.
trentblase ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:49:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm much less stressed cleaning the house after coming back from a trip. Before the trip just makes everything more stressful. Plus, I have to unpack and dust settles so I pretty much have to clean the house when I come back either way. I don't leave it filthy, with dirty dishes, full trash, etc., but I think vacuuming that kind of thing can wait.
LadyKhrest ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:17:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually do this before going back home from college..
monmonn26 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:37:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually left my work car in a mess and I regretted it after 3 weeks of travel
Not_Logik ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโll do this even if Iโm gone for a weekend.
Technopool ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:57:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And a fresh made bed.
rekabis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:57:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And in general, front-loading as much as is reasonably possible.
NotMuchOfACaramelGuy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:10:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mum?
thedestroyer27 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:13:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love this feeling
soupflie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:17:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Beating cancer is.
6_023x1023 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:22:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whatever floats your boat!
shanelynch185 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:26:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i have tried this multiple times and it never worked for me.
katabeta ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:26:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I clean my house before leaving, but it doesn't stay that way because I have roommates :(
NewHere1212 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:59:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And dishes. clean dishes ah.. else the house will stink with the dirty dishes and good luck getting the solidified gunk off them!
sn00gan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:06:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Threesomes. Threesomes are just one of the many things that are better than coming (home) to a clean house.
Pachuko_pinyata ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:10:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mines dusty after 1 day but dust I can handle. Dirt and dust no way.
abstaaaa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:23:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also cleaning as you go. Instead of letting mess build up and putting it off, tidy up here and there. Itโs so much better living without piles of washing and dishes and other stuff just building up. A tidy living space does wonders for the head in my opinion.
andreasbeer1981 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:28:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
especially make your bed.
Kekerin0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:30:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My GF taught me this, its so much easier to get back from vacation to a nice clean house
RevolsinX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:32:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is why I tend to make up my bed often. A better feeling than seeing a mess.
Every3Years ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:32:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
CleanHouse 2: The Cleanining.
scrupus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:38:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I go away for a long time, I leave a bottle of wine and a glass on my table)
chmod--777 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:40:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not that nothing is better IMO, it's that nothing is worse than coming home to a dirty house
_virgin4life_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:46:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why would t you believe this initially?
Daedalus871 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:16:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this, but it doesn't feel like home when I come back.
6thMagrathea ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:36:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not to mention how gross a full bin is that has been left to itself for a few days
GodTierJungler ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:04:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My roommates did the same thing before they went on vacation this week, but their trick was living it has filthy as possible so that I would clean it while they are gone
nsqrd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:08:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless you get robbed lmao
JvN_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:09:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm leaving for a big trip soon... I was planning to clean today... but watching Friends for the millionth time seems like the better option right now.
cmap1992 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:14:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always make sure to change my sheets before I go away! Clean house as well, but fresh sheets helps me get back into work mode after unpacking.
Gr1pp717 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:46:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Especially since there's apparently a high chance that your refrigerator will go out while you're gone....
SariSama ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:56:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oooh god yes. I was raised in messy appartment and even messier house. I didn't want that in my home. Well, I am being messy, so I can't help it. But man, nothing is better than freshly cleaned home. Aaand comming back into freshly, sparkly, nice smelling home
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:02:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife makes fun of me because Iโm always cleaning before we leave, but it beats coming back to a mess.
TheYoungGriffin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:25:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I clean my house if I'm going out of town at all, even for a day or two.
contrejo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:52:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is something I discovered and it is so true. Clean your house and do all the laundry. I sometimes do a deep clean if it's a trip I'm excited about and can't sleep
WWabadmomD ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:15:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this. My husband doesnt understand
armo511 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:16:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Egyptian people always do this. This pissed me off when I was a kid, since I hated cleaning (I still do btw) I thought "Do you like cleaning it for any theft breaking in to think wow these folks are clean while we are away"
jburna_dnm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:24:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1000% true.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:53:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nothing like a clean home and clean sheets to come back to!
pupsnpogonas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:08:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't leave dishes in the sink. Just rinse them off right away and put them in the dishwasher, or wash them right then. I notice that if I leave dishes in the sink, other clutter starts to pile up as well.
boneybat777 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:12:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wouldn't work for me
Have 2 dogs and a cat
Oburcuk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:24:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! I travel a lot and a tidy house plus clean sheets and pajamas when you get back is such a comfort.
damt382 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:38:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup, run the dishwasher, take out the trash, make the bed, and a quick clean up. Hate coming home to a dirty house. You can relax when you get home.
normal3catsago ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:18:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cries in cat hair
MissusMcFeely ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:44:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reddit is such a fickle place. I posted this exact same thing as an LPT (and deleted it) and got downvoted and told off to no end. People saying to keep your house clean in the first place. Such assholes I swear. I LOVE this tip and swear by it. Now my adult kids do the same thing. Thereโs nothing like coming home to a sparkling clean home. Itโs more of an incentive to deal with all the dirty clothes immediately and put things away. You feel more organized heading back into normal work/home schedule.
fml12345613 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:53:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean your house before going to bed, nothing is better than waking up to a clean house.
mike_d85 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:54:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom always did this for our family vacations. Just logistically it makes great sense. You strain yourself cleaning up before you go relax for a week and when you get home you're free to catch up on laundry and get back into the groove of daily life without any added chores (exception for lawns).
Ashavara ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:04:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I forgot to take the bin out before a weekend retreat, came back to fruit flies, fruit flies every where!
Ciellon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:08:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is why you should always make your bed in the morning when you wake up.
It's your first success and accomplishment of the day and, even if your day is shit and you get nothing else done, you can always come home and be satisfied that your bed is made and crisp and clean.
US Navy ADM McRaven, commander of the US Navy SEALs for a number of years, made a highly motivational speech at his alumni university and suggested this. It instills a sense of confidence and changes your perspective on the day. I highly recommend it.
TheBeads ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:10:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We usually get rude house sitters who just trash the place while we are gone.
MissAcedia ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:17:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Along the same line: when moving the first thing you should set up is your bed with all the sheets, covers and pillows. My mom told me this when I moved away for school and I have done it every time since. Moving is tiring, frustrating work and there is NOTHING better than flopping into your own bed with your own sheets, pillows and blankets.
mst3k_42 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:54:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My husband thinks I'm weird for doing this. But it is such a relief to come home and find it tidy.
rolandofgilead41089 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:13:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cleaning at night after a house party before you go to sleep is my clutch move. I don't mind the cleaning as I'm usually buzzed/drunk and not waking up to a mess or empties when I'm not feeling 100% the next day is so satisfying.
svenson_26 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:22:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tend to tear apart my house looking for that one thing I forgot to pack 5 minutes before I have to leave.
B191 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:29:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me and my SO do this everytime when we travel for more than 2-3 days. Its the best feeling when you get back from a long trip or vacation and your home is clean and tidy and you can just relax.
sexdefender69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:55:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always clean if my roommates leave for more than a day so they come back to a clean house. Wish they did the same...
Mckavity ยท 29553 points ยท Posted at 00:43:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fans on my old MacBook died. Saw a YouTube video that said to simply take your fist and bang on the part of the computer that housed the fans.
Thinking it was a troll, I gave it a shot out of pure frustration, and lo and behold, they purred back to life and I never had another issue with them for the rest of the time that I owned that computer.
kloiberin_time ยท 3514 points ยท Posted at 02:06:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Back when iPods were all the rage, mine got an error, I googled the error, and the "fix" was to drop it from about 6 inches. I did so thinking at worst my broken iPod will be more broken, but it started right up.
LordoftheScheisse ยท 493 points ยท Posted at 04:01:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Screen was all fucky? iPad 2s had the same problem. I fixed a few of them that way.
Kitty-Litterer ยท 84 points ยท Posted at 06:33:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I completely forgot about that, I worked in IT at a school with iPad 2s and we had to do that all the time with them lol
xtlhogciao ยท 53 points ยท Posted at 07:10:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here. Forgot about that. Thought my ipad2 was finally officially done for after dropping it, otherwise I probably wouldnโt have tried it, and I gave it a solid knock on the back of it with my knuckles, and...fixed
Trakkah ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 07:36:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I believe that is called a punch haha
cainthefallen ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 09:35:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depends on which set of knuckles you use. In this case I'd suspect they're using the mid finger set.
xtlhogciao ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 09:58:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
This. I gave it a โknockโ - as in knocking on a door...I probably wouldโve punched it if that didnโt work, though.
I wouldโve shoryukenโd the sh** out of it.
Reborn4122 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:44:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the internet you can swear here.
lesking72 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 12:49:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My friend dropped his iPhone so many times that the screen would randomly stop working, and he would slam it against the table to make it come back
Danbradford7 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:40:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same thing with one of the old Macintoshes (I think it was the 3). Rumor has it Jobs himself was so pissed off that he just picked it up a few inches and dropped it. That was the fix
Psych0panda2k13 ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 06:51:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to have a Sony Ericsson play and there was a flexi ribbon wire that connected the base of the phone to the screen which could slide up to reveal a PlayStation controller. The flex strip would often come loose fucking the screen up and the drop 6 inches fix was a regular one for it. Did it about 3-4 times in the two years of owning it before it stopped working for good. Legit think it was just kinda bumping the wire back into place
skylarmt ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 08:10:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://www.ifixit.com/Guide/Sony+Ericsson+Xperia+Play+Main+Flex+Cable+Replacement/29507
...in case anyone was curious.
Cobra800089 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:03:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol "difficult". This looks way easier than any modern smartphone repair. I guess that guide was written in simpler times.
skylarmt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:51:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup, no glue.
nachog2003 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:47:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy shit. I bought one a month ago for emulation and I'm waiting on a flex cable to replace. Might give that a try.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 11:34:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I believe this was a disk error. I remember having to do the same thing to my iPod to get it working again.
plexnewbie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:21:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If he's talking about the classic iPod, then I think it was to reset the read/write needle that would get effed up over time.
cemgorey ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:53:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lmao, this happened all the time to my ipad 2. solution was to drop it again...
PM_ME_UR_XYLOPHONES ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:41:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I worked in electronics repair when the ipad2 came out, it always made me feel like a wizard when I โrepairedโ one in front of the customer by smacking it. Percussive maintenance!
nice_disguise ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:23:26 on May 15, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you say smack do you mean like a slap to the back? And how firm should i smack it? I dropped my ipad 2 in 2013 and the screen colors are messed might as well give it a try :(
PM_ME_UR_XYLOPHONES ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:47:25 on May 15, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup, With the screen on give the back housing a good open palm whack.
dualtohex ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:09:28 on May 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have an iPad 2, I'll be thanking you if this happens!
axen999 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:48:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had same issue with my MacBook and dropped it from 2feet to make it work.
Whulum ยท 78 points ยท Posted at 05:14:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here. The CD slot on my ps3 was not working so out of frustration and lack of ideas I smacked on the unit on the side and it must've realized my dominance from that as that little fucker worked as good as new again!
ShermanLiu ยท 69 points ยท Posted at 06:27:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
PS3: HIT ME DADDY UWU
StrongBuffaloAss69 ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 06:45:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
iPods are still in use bucko, I have 2 iPod shoffles
[deleted] ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 07:06:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have 1 iPod Touchรฉ.
PsyAyeAyeDuck ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:26:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I still have my iPod Nano 6th Gen! Still going strong (minus the down volume button). It is perfect for me.
SuperdorkJones ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 14:33:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah but who needs the down volume button??? Rock n Roll forever! ๐ค๐ป๐๐ค๐ป
ponzLL ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:04:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But he said when they were all the rage not when they were still in use.
Slick_Grimes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:43:58 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I bought a "new' (as in never opened old stock at Best Buy) 120 gb ipod video. I hate the touch screen crap. With a case I have I don't have to take it out of my pocket to do most things cause I can feel the wheel.
EwDontTouchThat ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 06:52:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This use of percussive maintenance isn't new for Apple...
Sir_Mitchell15 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:42:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt even have to clock this to know itโs the oooold apple PC trick
NoThorNoWay ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:35:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This reminded me of the same thing! The fix was to hold it upright and bang the bottom on something hard a couple times. Worked for a little while until my iPod gave out for good.
peanut88 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 09:43:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to work on the Genius bar in 2007. We'd get gen 3 and gen 4 iPods in that were apparently broken in all the time. You'd tell the customer you had to use a tool in the back room, go and hit the iPod hard against the sole of your shoe, and come out with a magically working device.
I assume the hard drive read heads were getting stuck somehow and a sharp impact knocked them loose.
blorbschploble ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 11:46:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Former apple genius too. Same story except weโd reboot it and just as the disk was trying and failing to spin, slam it on its side into the steel genius bench.
This was of course just for out of warranty repairs. Weโd do a swap if in warranty.
SPAGHETTlOS ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:59:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did this with my iPhone 7! It kept saying no service. Banged it on my knee and it bruised my knee up..:
frameworkautoco ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:28:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My iPod from 2008 is still going after 11(!) years, I drop it regularly
randomUser7744 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 11:03:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussive Maintenance. (Other people almost got the phrase correct)
Falcon_Glen ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:45:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When my apple mouse gets a little wonky I just have to Fonzie that shit and smack it against the desk lightly. Works every time. I donโt know what it is about apple but their high tech is susceptible the most Neanderthal fixes sometimes.
D8-42 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 12:46:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I remember having to wrap my xbox in a towel and putting it in the oven to fix it.
It was out of warranty so I figured "why not", and then it actually worked.
Found out years later it was apparently because some units had bad soldering or something? and that a bit of heat could be enough to get it working again or something like that.
Definitely one of the weirdest tech fixes I've done.
joshr2d2 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:20:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dropping fixed my old iPod. The reason that fixed it iirc was that the harddrive arm could get stuck in the wrong spot and you could hear a clicking sound. By using a bit of force it would be able to move properly again.
just4cat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:03:38 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was this a classic? My hearty old 160gb has always clicked but it's just atarted giving me start/stop/off grief, maybe a big ol smack is in order.
joshr2d2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:14:00 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was either the video or photo, but the classic still uses a mechanical hard drive. It may be that the drive is just too old, as mechanical hard drives will fail eventually. It is possible however to replace the hard drive with an SD card.
Zerschmetterding ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:01:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If the fix stated the height needed then it even made sure that the proper amount of force is used.
smith_s2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:23:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've still got an iPod, and my husband still has an MP3. I'm terrified of the day it breaks, as I can't back it up ๐
Stealthy_Wolf ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:24:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Theres many a ways to backup the ipod with non apple software. 3rd party programs. The best thing I've do e is upgrade a ipod mini to use CF cards. You can also upgrade a classic to use SD cards instead of the spindle disk for longer battery life and better capacity
smith_s2 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:14:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks Stealthy-Wolf, I'm gonna look into that
amberdowny ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:31:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This explains why back in the day when I accidentally dropped my 'broken' ipod it started working again.
dogmom9230 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:27:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to sell phones and tablets. We had an iPad come in with a messed up screen, all the colours were wrong. Told the customer I was taking it in the back to have a look. Debated with myself for a moment as it wasn't my tablet to break but figured we had a policy where we'd replace it if it was damaged in our care. Held it out screen faced down at arms length, dropped it flat onto the carpeted floor.
Fixed it ๐
19cocaine95 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:34:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
10 years ago that's how you'd repair all the electronics
TriforceUnleashed ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:38:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Now I want to go charge my old iPod, drop it, and see if it works. My first was a second or third gen and I was devastated when it stopped working about a decade ago.
the-meatsmith ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:47:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup, my friend will back me up that i once threw my ipod at a radiator and somehow that managed to fix it
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:23:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I smacked mine against the wall in frustration and it worked for years after lol
Skywalker-LsC ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:01:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just recently had "auto movement" issue with my new PS4 controller (already past the 30day warranty). YouTube video said to place my mouth around the joystick and blow... Or suck. It seriously fucking worked!!!!
just4cat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:04:34 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So which did you do?
Skywalker-LsC ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:36:21 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I blew... There's really no right answer
Kalzert ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:45:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or how about cutting you sim card with average scissors making sure to cut a slim piece or the metal off. Couldn't believe it was that easy. Didn't need a trace or anything.
dellaint ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:42:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My g502 acts up every once in a while and hitting it lightly on the desk fixes it every time
goblinmarketeer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:39:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
that was a fix all the way back to the commodore 64, it reseats lose chips or something.
TheDrunkHispanic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:06:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ahh yes the classic xbox 360 red ring of death fix
Roolerk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:30:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt try it until you knock it?
jalif ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:02:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iirc that was an official fix too.
YourFuckedUpFriend ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:01:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you know if this works on babies? Asking for a friend.
KaloCheyna ยท 13543 points ยท Posted at 01:47:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussion adjustment is a magical tool that works more often than you'd think it would.
Forever-Tilted ยท 7681 points ยท Posted at 02:30:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TIL: Percussion Adjustment. Knock it till it works
CommonModeReject ยท 4101 points ยท Posted at 03:28:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I've always heard it referenced as 'Percussive Maintenance' in reference to The Fonz, and to Han Solo fixing the Millennium Falcon
TinyCatCrafts ยท 325 points ยท Posted at 03:54:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its called Manual Agitation in E-School in the Navy.
666moist ยท 166 points ยท Posted at 04:31:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also like kinetic recalibration
[deleted] ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 09:53:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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gorgewall ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 12:27:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Applying jitter".
What-The-Pho ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 07:32:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
concussive motivation
666moist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:29:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh that's a good one
Voyager87 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:36:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When in doubt, give it a clout.
_thirdeyeopener_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:17:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This one is new to me, love it!
PM_me_ur_navel_girl ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:35:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Monkey Mechanics
clockradio ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:29:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Vibrational synthesis.
meowtiger ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:53:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
percussive maintenance
osirisfrost42 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:55:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like this one. Makes for a hilarious euphemism.
biscuitsandgravybaby ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:31:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Manuel Agitation is going to be my new stripper name
theSchmoozer ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:19:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We always referred to it as a technical tap.
skallskitar ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:12:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wierd. You are all describing what we call re-coupling the ignition primer aboard the Enterprise.
CelticGaelic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:01:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The term I learned was "percussive recalibration:
F_A_F ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:05:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
RAF....."pass me that 'Attitude Adjuster'....."
Also known as a hammer
Joe_Kinincha ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:10:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well I guess sailors are away from home a lot, get a bit lonely and you take what comfort you can get...
conejo454 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:12:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โMechanical agitationโ for us a-gangers
SeenSoFar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:32:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When Apple made the Apple /// it had horrible overheating problems (due to Steve Jobs' insistence that the case act as a heatsink despite not being designed to do so) that caused the motherboard to warp. Their solution was to tell people to lift it 2 inches off the desk and drop it to reseat all the chips that had come loose due to warping.
TotalMelancholy ยท 83 points ยท Posted at 03:30:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I missed the episode where Fonzie fixed the Millennium Falcon
Pons__Aelius ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 04:16:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was three episodes after he jumped the shark.
Jaerivus ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:30:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That was no shark. That was a space station.
Snuggle_Fist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:50:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Sit on it, Fonz."
CommonModeReject ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:35:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think I would have needed another comma, for that reading of my sentence to be valid?
TotalMelancholy ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:39:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
is a joke
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:21:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Like that?
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:24:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:26:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've always, heard it referenced as 'Percussive Maintenance' in reference to The Fonz, and Han: Solo; fixing the Millennium Falcon&
MaleAryaStarksNoHomo ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:33:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm thinking itโs the comma between the Fonz and Han Solo. If you eliminate that, the Fonz AND Han Solo fixed the Millenium Falcon.
Gusherwreck ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:30:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love your dedication to correcting this very minor grammatical error :)
KimuraBucko ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:44:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...despite making it even more wrong.
scrilldaddy1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:21:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No commas would be necessary. No need for a comma when only listing two nouns together and no need for a comma between "Han Solo" and "fixing."
elRorro19 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:47:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deep breath** โThe Fonz and Han Solo fixing the Millenium falconโ written with no comas has them both fixing the Millenium falcon together.
averagejoe280370 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:17:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Swap them around?
Han solo fixing the Millennium Falcon and The Fonz hitting the juicebox.
Justification for both nouns and context?
Jaerivus ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:35:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm old enough to remember when most diners had juice boxes. Juice Box Hero, they called me.
averagejoe280370 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:39:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damned Autocorrect.
You know what, I'm not gonna fix it. I like the thought of Winkler jabbing a straw into a juicebox to get a drink.
Jaerivus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:53:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha ditto. I just felt like ribbing you.
licklickRickmyballs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:10:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Han Solo fixing the Millennium Falcon and The Fonz hitting your mom
elRorro19 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:15 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Makes sense to me!
elRorro19 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:30:50 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm not sure what you mean, sorry
averagejoe280370 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:55:05 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They've put 3 nouns and a verb into the list so it looks like the verb applies to 1 noun against the other 2.
Han Solo (noun) fixing (verb) the millennium falcon (noun) and the Fonz (noun)
The confusion comes from the fact that unless you have context for the Fonz you could treat it as an object or a person.
Now most people understand the Fonz reference as a person hiiting a jukebox and therefore the context is implied.
But if we are being pedantic (this is Reddit after all) you would need to add a verb and further noun to the Fonz noun in order to clarify that there were in fact 2 parties acting on 2 different objects using the same technique
Therefore
Han Solo fixing the Millennium Falcon and The Fonz fixing the jukebox.
Jaerivus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:33:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I respectfully disagree. When in doubt, Tres Comas!
MandatoryPenetration ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:33:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I call it Percussive Persuasion. Because alliteration always applies.
TheGamingSponge ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:53:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apparently.
biese28 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:37:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work with a guy we call crack head John because he is exactly that a crack head. And one day one of our company cars wonโt start. We have fuel battery and pump is all good but the thing wonโt work. So low and behold crack head decides its a great idea to beat on the gas tank with a big ass hammer to โprime the fuel pumpโ well the jackass hit the tank so hard so many times that he cracked the tank and we lost all the gas. So yeah lesson here is donโt always use the knock it till it works because soon enough things are gonna be worse than how they started
CommonModeReject ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 04:40:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like that advice only applies to crackheads =/
biese28 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:40:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean crack heads have special powers so sometimes u gotta lettem do there thing
PatrickMcBride49 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:56:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gonna need the story behind this.
biese28 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:01:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Idk dog they just got that thing to em where there all jumpy and weird and stuff but for some reason they talented as hell crackhead John (mentioned in hammer story above) can drive a bus really well and can sometimes fix things with a hammer and should not have been fixed with a hammer. Kinda like the old saying goes literally everything is a nail to this guy. Just beat the shit out of it and it may work. Come to think of it thatโs Prolly why he doesnโt have a wife
PatrickMcBride49 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:03:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doesnโt have a wife?
Or doesnโt have a wife anymore? :(
biese28 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:04:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wonโt go in depth. Kinda donโt like talkin to the crackhead heโs a goofy fucker
VikingTeddy ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:08:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some tweakers are idiot savants at diy engineering. I sold speed in my youth and some of those fuckers could fix anything.
I always had some broken bit of kit on the table for them. That or a bowl of marbles. If you didn't give them something to fiddle with they would open up your shit when you turned your back. Many of them carried screw drivers (for car locks and steteos)
bender-b_rodriguez ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 04:07:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've legit been trying to remember this phrase for years, I always tell people, "there's a smart-sounding phrase for this but I can't remember it" and they're always so impressed by my knowledge. Will likely forget again by the next time it comes up but thanks
SeeYouNextTyrsday ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:30:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also known as a Technical Knock.
graememacfarlane ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:43:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See and in my family we say โpercussive recalibrationโ
R3DNano ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:52:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mi wife has a 2013 nexus 7 tablet that stops responding from time to time until you apply some percussion adjustment. Going to tell her now we can drop the term "torture the tablet until it talks again"
sol- ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:25:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Russian Method a la Armageddon
PrinceSolomom ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:26:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve also heard โpercussion therapyโ
plasticarmyman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:49:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup! Percussive Maintenance is a thing
Besieger13 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:06:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never saw the episode where The Fonz helped Han Solo fix the Millennium Falcon.
Jaerivus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:37:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He really was a stellar mechanic.
CuntCrusherCaleb ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:10:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was percussive maintenance when they did it. I feel percussive recalibration is more along what the OP did?
thisonetimeinithaca ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:29:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I think it would technically be โpercussive adjustmentโ. But...as the one punching a computer, call it whatever you want ๐
daedalus655 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:31:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt forget about Lev in Armageddon. Heโs the only reason they made it off the asteroid. โFinally! We can go home!โ
passcork ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:42:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the correct answer
dotancohen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:47:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The term actually dates at least to Pete Conrad's pounding of things with his fist to make them work. Google his name if you don't recognize it.
s00perguy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:44:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
same dude. IMHO in the scenarios I use it in, it can't get 110% fucked, and it'll make me feel better to hit something.
SarcasmCupcakes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:01:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only Connect?
MasochistCoder ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:03:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
percussive maintenance is when you whack it even though it's running. You maintain its state.
percussive adjustment is when you whack it because it's not running. You adjust its state.
actualtttony ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:17:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shock therapy
D8-42 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:44:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worked wonders on a lot of the older CRT screen TV's.
My parents had one that would bug out and it needed 2 hits in just the right places (first hit on middle of the right side, second hit on the leftmost part of the top) and then it'd work again for a random amount of time.
uconnprosparent ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:29:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Samsonite Slam (it's American Tourister, but whatever) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8C-e96m4730
SilynJaguar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:08:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Wookie repair"
oversized_hoodie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:55:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I prefer "kinetic recalibration"
takanishi79 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:45:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In college I worked for the IT department at my school. For some reason, all of the Mac images for setting up computers were in one hard drive, with no backup. One day it stopped rebuilding all the images was going to take hours upon hours, so my boss was desperate to get it working. Tried everything short of opening it up and moving the physical platters. This included putting it in a freezer to try and flex the components back into place. Nothing was working.
So my boss turns around, grabs a rubber mallet and gives it a good thomp. Up it spools. "Quick, make a copy!" He tells at me, and we start backing it up. A couple minutes later things have settled down while it was transferring, and he looks at me "never do that to a hard drive. Just because it worked this time doesn't mean it will ever work again."
SethlordX7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:31:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also the doctor and the tardis
THEmajicCARPET ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:14:47 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or like Jeremy Clarkson and his hammer collection
SunnyVision ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:02:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tyreek Hill tried the Percussion Adjustment and look at the shit heโs in.
argylesweater ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 02:47:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey, donโt knock it til youโve tried it! Wait...
HerrGene ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:50:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You just blew my mind
pennomi ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:00:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just give your head a decisive smack and it'll fix that blown mind right up.
sanciscoyo ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:06:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...don't try it 'til you've knocked it?
l8n- ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:10:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always referred to this as "percussive maintenance"
SpaceCowboy58 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:11:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you do it frequently enough it's called percussive maintenance.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:26:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Rambozo77 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:58:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs called a precordial thump. Basically you thump (punch) someone in the chest the moment you witness them go into ventricular fibrillation or pulseless ventricular tachycardia. Itโs basically a low level defibrillation that can get a patient out of those rhythms. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Precordial_thump
Varyx ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:12:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โDonโt try it until youโve knocked itโ.
TheAmazingHanowski ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:11:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't knock it till you try it
Matt_Messih ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:06:02 on June 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good bot
Pareeeee ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:05:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't try it 'til you knock it
ninjalord25 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:15:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just like the old saying "don't try it till you knock it"
sammysunny ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:12:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't knock it until you try it
DomQuixote99 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:31:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me, it's always been called Mechanical Agitation
Mioriti ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:52:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try it with your wife too!
mydadisindianajones ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:57:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Funny enough this works on humans too, especially little humans.
Whenever my son gets chest congestion or what we have coined "gooey lungs" I'll flip my son over on my legs, cup my hand, and lightly snack his back. I do it to the left and the right for about a minute, sit him up and ask him to cough. It loosens up the mucous so they can cough it up easier.
We call them "chest percussions" and use them a lot for kids who have cystic fibrosis.
anneihilate ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:27:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That also works well in more of a grid. Start going left to right on his back near his diaphragm and work your way up twards the shoulders. It helps get a little more out of the bottom of the lungs when he is super sick. On an adult same thing but make a fist and hit with the side of the hand near the pinky. Like the part you hit if you are hitting a desk. Gentle but increasing in pressure until you get it right.
thesketchyvibe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just don't try it on your kids
Hartknockz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll keep this in mind when I'm older and maybe get ED.
mrMooshon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs exactly what I used to do. It always worked. Until I broke my screen.
oogalog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:27:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt knock it until youโve tried it!
shygetslowww ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:33:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussion Adjustment: don't knock it til you try it
HydroponicGirrafe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:37:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt knock it till you try it
Obinego ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
can't try it till you knock it
kimiakhaz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:49:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reading those comments in reverse is what makes it work
melperz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:53:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussion Adjustment. Don't knock it til you tried it.
GovtCheese1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:54:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm: tried it on OP's mom
Sarveshgandhi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:55:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This happens in Asian countries. ALL. THE. TIME
genocideofnoobs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:58:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But don't knock it until you try it.
EMT_2_FNP ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:00:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt knock it til you try it!
northcyning ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:00:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussion Adjust a.k.a. โIf in doubt, give it a clout.โ
superaeromach ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:02:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt knock it till you try it. Wait.
kyuba_kid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:03:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussive maintenance*
kyletheheroman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:03:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How come when I slam my baby on the ground it stops working? I tried hitting it with a hammer once, it just didnโt do anything.
GorillaJuiceOfficial ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yea, don't knock it till you try it.
i6uuaq ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't try it till you knock it.
TheJackal927 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussion adjustment: If you knock it, you've tried it
r3dsleeves ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:05:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It works! Don't knock it. Well yes, knock it... But don't...
Nevermind
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:07:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussion adjustment. Don't knock it til you've knocked it.
AtotheCtotheG ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:07:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt try it โtil you knock it?
ShaoLimper ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:15:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does it work on children?
foxthatruns ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:17:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussion Adjustment: Don't knock it till you...knock it?
bkk-bos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:21:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And if at first you don't succeed, get a bigger hammer.
Jean_Lua_Picard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:25:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Knock Knock Knock Penny
Holyshit
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:28:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussion adjustment: donโt knock it until you try it
ziksy9 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:29:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussion Adjustment: Don't knock it until you try it.
Vactory ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:32:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussion adjustment: donโt knock it till you try it
Throwawaypoops22 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:37:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I prefer the term percussive maintenance.
lightingdave ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:39:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I worked on a job and there was a light we couldn't replace hanging about 25 meters above the audience so we put someone in safety gear and tell him to wait up there and hit the lamp with a rubber mullet every time the light goes off.
Worked perfectly for the 90 min show and nobody noticed.
dubbuffet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:43:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
According to movies like The Avengers, this also works on mind-controlled friends.
"Cognitive Recalibration", she called it
harryagamez ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:50:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good for spoiled kids.
thebodymullet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:01:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't knock it 'til you've tried it?
TheOrbit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:01:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt knock it โtil youโve tried it
TheHotze ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:03:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't knock it till you try it... Or do.
Xenjael ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:14:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, the Russian method. Works like a charm.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:19:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussion adjustment: Donโt knock it till you try it!
Schmendrick-_- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:20:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or, don't knock it till you try it.
shtuffit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:22:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
That's my motto, knock it til it twerks
doingabadjob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:27:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt knock it til you knock it
Expecto_nihilus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:34:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TIL: Marty banging his head on the steering wheel was percussion adjustment, and allowed him to get back to the future.
YeahIMaDJ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:34:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt knock it til you try it. Heard.
athazagor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:43:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought you were talking about the latest Nicki Minaj track.
Knock it till it works,
Knock knock it til it twerks, yeah
iambiglucas_2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:58:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bonus points if you use Paradiddles or flam accents.
Vulcanized-Homeboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:05:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt knock it till you try it, then keep knocking because it works
greyspot00 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:07:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't try it till you knock it?
Parcus43 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:14:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't try it 'til you've knocked it!
RabidZoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:18:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TYL: Military Vacation
KnotFunnyAtAll ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:18:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs a good strategy, donโt knock til you knock it.
Willch4000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:30:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't knock it til you've tried it.
Dathiks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:33:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use domestic violence on your technology if it doesnt work.
perpetualnotion ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:34:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't knock it until you've tr... oh.
Mr-Yoghurt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:38:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jeremy Clarksons toolbox is full of hammers.
bobbabalooza ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:45:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โDonโt knock it till you try itโ
kalsky3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:53:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like punching the old televisions till they got reception.
ThePr1d3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:04:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Brb will try on my kid
Thefarrquad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:09:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If in doubt, give it a clout!
puheenix ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:17:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussion Adjustment: don't knock it 'til you try it.
Hewhoiswooshed ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:26:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Knock it when you try it.
WhyIsTheMoonThere ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:43:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
morodersmaptomordor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:01:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't knock it 'til you try it!
IlIIllIIIllIllIllIll ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:26:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This should not be applied to people.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:34:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont knock it until youve tried it
Steepi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:38:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't knock it until you've knocked it!
oarabbus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:49:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works on people too
PsyduckSexTape ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:04:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
impact calibration
xnupa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:08:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it canโt be fixed with a hammer, itโs electrical
niteman555 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:09:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It works because they're all made in Taiwan
deepsleeppeeps ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:22:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussion Adjustment. Don't knock it till you've tried it.
calllery ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:42:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussion adjustment: knock it til you try it.
Blurryface_87 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:12:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In my family we call that the Russian method.
Rudirs ยท 95 points ยท Posted at 02:58:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've always called it percussive maintenance
meno123 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:38:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Old CRT TV went off colour? WHAM fixed.
oneEYErD ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:50:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a CRT that a power surge had messed up. The screen was out of alignment and had all these funky lines. My parents used to get drunk and fight and the TV was knocked off the dresser. It worked great after that until another drunken fight saw it take another plunge and it reverted to its previous state.
etennui ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:25:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm so sorry. That sounds terrible. I can't imagine not having a TV.
oneEYErD ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:34:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have one now. This was like 15-20 years ago.
qaisjp ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:41:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://youtu.be/insM7oUYNOE
GettinMoney ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:17:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha beat me to it! I looked so fucking long for this video too. Such a great video, a classic! The exact embodiment of what this little thread is about. I thought this video deserved more recognition than it got.
PancakeParty98 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:34:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think I read that in Calvin and Hobbes as a kid.
TheShroomHermit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:39:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, unless this is a regional saying, I've always heard it that way too
TaxExempt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:50:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had an old TV that I had to hit on the side for the picture to turn on. Over the years it got progressively harder to turn on.
DirtySingh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:36:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the right one.
hellohungryimdad ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 03:35:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work in aircraft maintenance and I've seen a mallet hammer with the label "hard reset" on it.
pmoney757 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:34:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like my friend having to hammer the starter on his car.
smakinelmo ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:38:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had to hammer the starter on an airplane before I flew it. Felt weird lol
TheTrueHapHazard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:42:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had to do that on my old Subaru everytime I started it for 4 months while I saved for a new starter back when I was poor.
Estoeric ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm lucky,,, my old Suby only needs it about once in twenty.
Fyrestar333 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:54:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just did this on my moms truck, still have a grease mark on my ankle from crawling under there almost 2 weeks ago. It won't come off.
nitekroller ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:48:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you tried washing it off? Lol
Fyrestar333 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:49:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nope, tried this stuff called dawn it's supposed to cut grease but it didn't do anything.
TheMuon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:14:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your friend is Jeremy Clarkson?!
MedjoolStudent ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:23:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some times work on people, too! :D
-Gwynbleidd ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:16:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What was that movie? It was that Russian actor (itโs always the same one in all the American movies) and he was yelling you stupid machine hitting it with a wrench and it fired up? Reminds me of him.
greenlanternxxx ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:15:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Armageddon, the Russian cosmonaut when the ship to leave the asteroid wouldn't start.
-Gwynbleidd ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:11:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ahh yes, you beautiful bastard thatโs the one.
peanutbuttahcups ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:27:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"American components, Russian components...all made in TAIWAN!"
thedude37 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:55:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is how you fix RUSSIAN Space Station! wham wham
07arigjac ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:56:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My design/technology teacher in school used to call a hammer his "fine adjuster"
whitecloud197 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:10:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Paramedic in an ambulance.
AC died while driving around town. The truck wasnt even that old. My partner and I looked at eachother and said "fuck its warm in here"
Smashed the dash with my fist.
BAM. The AC came back to life.
ollieollieoxinfree ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:12:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aka, "percussive maintenance"
qaisjp ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:41:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://youtu.be/insM7oUYNOE
Kolipe ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:41:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jeremy Clarkson taught me that
inpleted ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:10:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussion maintenance
MrHorseHead ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:44:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
About a month or so ago one of my headlights didnt turn on, got out of the truck and gave it a Fonz style elbow tap, its worked fine since.
Jed566 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:17:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Today my wireless mouse died. I picked it up, turned it around and gave it a good smackin' and it was up and running again.
theurbantrex ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:31:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...so that's what asian parents have been doing so far. 'Percussion Adjustment' to their kids!
OtherwiseJello ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:38:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Arthur Fonzarelli was an expert at percussive adjustment.
Noxinal ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:15:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://youtu.be/insM7oUYNOE
skeetbuddy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:09:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussion adjustment is a beautiful term to describe how I used to pound the hell out of my old TV to get the vert hold to straighten itself back out. Thank you for this.
ShortSomeCash ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:14:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I build stuff that could catch fire and/or explode, a good smack is often a finishing touch to get it just right
TheTrueHapHazard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:41:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The speaker for playing music stopped working properly on my phone. Fixed it by applying gently increasing pressure on the screen right above where the speaker is located. Haven't had an issue since.
ConnivingBoat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always called it concussive maintenance, but percussion adjustment works too
Cheeze187 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have 2 drawers in my toolbox with mallets and hammers for percussive maintenance.
The4ker ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:01:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"percussion adjustment" that's the most IT way I've seen to say 'just hit it'
1-1-19MemeBrigade ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:02:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The hard case for my musical instrument never closes right when I try to put my instrument away. I just give it a good smack and it latches perfectly every time.
NeverTrustAName ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:13:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ayyy Fonzarelli here!
diMario ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:13:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works on malfunctioning people too!
bibbleskit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:19:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I prefer "percussive maintenance."
qaisjp ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:41:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://youtu.be/insM7oUYNOE
malk500 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:22:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It has a history of working really well with badly designed apple computers
dylanc1322 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works in people in cardiac arrest too. Call it the precordial thump
CaptianRipass ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:28:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kenetic maintenance
Skank-Hunt-40-2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:30:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Who says violence is never a solution
motivatedidiot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:30:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly! Just this morning my car window wouldnโt move whenever I would press the button. Two punches to the car door and what do you know, it started working perfectly again
JuanSellsWhite ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought it was percussive maintenance?
Big_Papppi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've always called it parenting, the right way.
1370055 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:36:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just beat it
did-it-for-the-KARMA ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:36:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you know that 007 goldeneye (the vidya) where if you pushed down on the processor of a controller you could beat the game faster? Yeah they banned the speedrun strat cuz it was OP
Zavetro ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:37:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I swapped the engine in my subaru and when we started it there was a problem with the temperature gauge. It spiked all the way to the opposite side of the meter. One good thwump and it's worked stellar since lol.
TheGoldenSneaker ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:42:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Y'know what they say,
Don't knock it till you knock it
eddyathome ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
With hard drives that refuse to spin up, a good solid thump often does the trick to get rid of "stiction". Get your data off it ASAP though.
KaliLineaux ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:49:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had it work quite well with a docking station that sometimes wouldn't connect.
corroded ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:50:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this with my head. Should I call it Concussion Adjustment instead?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:50:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, the olโ Percussive Maintenance. We had a TV growing up that required regular attention, haha.
keigo199013 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:55:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
IT professional here. Use this on our shitty HP desktops sometimes. Works quite well and I get to hit something.
basshead1234 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:56:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Agreed, I use my handy dandy hammer to fix everything
justmetryingagain ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:00:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't knock it til you knock it?
trouser_mouse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:01:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't knock it ...no, wait ..
BroskiMcBroski ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:02:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussive Maintenance also works.
hkrob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:03:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Close cousin of the one inch drop
Canadian-55 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:07:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can I use this method if my computer has deleted a sys 32 file? Asking for uhhhh a friend
im_a_realgirl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:08:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always called it concussive maintenance, but so close
XxRandomRedhead ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:12:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
PC vibrates loudly.
S L A P the monitor.
Shut up PC
It works every time.
preciousavocado ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:17:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just donโt tell my mom this or iโm in for it
UnobjectionableJug ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:19:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs basically what CPR is.
LucasPequito ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:19:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
fancy word for: beat the shit out of your electronics...
CocaCola_Death_Squad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:23:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt try it till you knock it.
xtense ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:28:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When in doubt use a bigger hammer.
have-a-goo-day ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:31:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont knock it till you knock it
CrazyKoopa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:41:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If a Casio calculator ever dies, dropping it on the floor will generally bring it back to life.
acatlin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:45:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussive maintenance
DorisMaricadie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:46:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We will, we will, percussive shock you!
LeO-_-_- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:47:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to have an old probably less than 13" TV that whenever it stopped working properly you could just smash that shit with a punch and it magically would work again.
BadBoyJH ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:53:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've always heard it as "Percussive Maintenance", but yes it can definitely work on a lot of things.
sinister_compliment ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In fishing we also have the "percussion lure" aka stick of dynamite.
apoundofpickles ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:04:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We always called it "percussive maintenance"
Steinrik ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:05:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussive maintenance. FTFY.
GoOdG3rMs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:05:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also called percussive engineering
RedditPoster05 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:08:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See what you do here is get one of those Soft face mallets from Harbor freight and then youโll have an easier time. Percussion the parts you need and not the ones you donโt
pinkham ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:12:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A while ago I had a safe that I lost the keys to which had some fragile / important stuff within. Was about to force it with a crowbar or something drastic when I just typed the name of the safe into YouTube. One of the first results was this adolescent kid who demonstrated whacking the tip of it while turning the latch and the door just effortlessly swinging open. I tried it and did it within five attempts.
Yes, I have since upgraded the safe
Woooferine ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:14:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah.... So that's why the old man kept knocking my head...
Childish_Brandino ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:17:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! Pretty much anything that has moving parts in it, this is the first thing I try. Obviously you can't just hit it as hard as you can, but try a level appropriate for the object. I would say 7/10 this will usually fix the problem or make it better. At the very least, temporarily. Computer making a strange high pitch buzzing noise? Give it a light smack.
Though, if it doesn't work on the first few tries, don't keep going.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:28:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always knew it as, โpercussive maintenanceโ
Online_Host ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:29:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ask the Fonz
fapsicle90 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:31:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Impact management
MFLBlunts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:33:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The ol' hard reset.
Beachbatt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:36:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs one of the biggest lessons I learned in the army. There was not a single problem I ran in to that couldnโt be fixed by beat the hell out something.
NowImUnknown ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:37:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did a short stint as a welder making cranes. There was alot of percussion adjustment.
maulr4t ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:38:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just don't try this on a hard drive. Scratched the disc when it just had a tiny soldering fix. Now it's a grand to fix.
Ed-Zero ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:40:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saying percussion always makes me think of sound, not beating the hell out of something with force
Kaiserhawk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:44:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
aka the fonzie trick
punisher1005 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:45:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We call it the "technical tap".
OverAster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:47:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One of my hobbies is fixing things, so when something breaks in my family they just give it to me and I get back to them with what I need to get it to work. I get to keep the tools when Iโm done and they get to cut costs on professionals that would charge them $200 to do something I could do with $10 and a 0000 screwdriver.
My little brother came into my room with his iPad this morning. There was a purple line running down the screen. As he was asking me if I could fix it I noticed if pressure was put on the part of the screen in front of the contact pad the line would flicker away, but as soon as contact was removed the line came back. I flicked above the contact pad and the line went away.
Percussion adjustment is no joke. That shit works.
RandomSplitter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:48:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My parents called it "spare the rod, spoil the child"
brutallamas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:49:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use that for my job. Before we call maintenance, I tell my guys to try percussive maintenance. Doesn't always work but it helps vent frustrations.
Count2Zero ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:00:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A million years ago, I was a computer technician repairing Atari computers (yes, this was the early 1980s). The Atari repair manual included the recommendation to pick up the entire computer, hold it about 10" above the bench, and let it drop. This actually worked to re-seat a lot of the ICs that were installed in sockets. I used this procedure several times :-)
Parcus43 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:13:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad, an auto electrician, used to charge $50 to hit an alternator with a hammer.
Nowadays we have YouTube to tell us these tricks.
Dynasty2201 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:15:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
American components, Russian components. All made in Taiwan!
This is how we fix problem on Russian Space Station! hits with spanner Because I don't wanna stay here any more! Ah! FINALLY! We can go home!
magnoliamarauder ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:18:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussion adjustment: donโt knock it til you try it. Then knock it til it works.
Electrorocket ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:27:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My Sixth grade science teacher Mrs Liu taught me that one with a jammed stapler.
CarouselConductor ยท 2807 points ยท Posted at 01:51:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In mechanical circles, we refer to this as a calibrated tap.
MagusOTB ยท 175 points ยท Posted at 02:17:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alternatively, "percussive maintainance"
cammy511 ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 02:34:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm partial to "concussive shock therapy"
nobutternoparm ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 02:52:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always heard it as "gentle persuasion," especially when it is, in fact, not gentle at all.
343WheatleySpark ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 03:16:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"dynamic recalibration"
willwirth ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:52:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ooh, I like that.
TinyCatCrafts ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:55:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We called it "Manual Agitation" for the circuit board testing things at ESchool in the Navy. You would pick it up about 6-8 inches off the table and just drop it.
willwirth ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:02:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love this so much, "don't force it" "fuck it, use manual agitation" drops supposedly delicate circuits and works "good job!" Salutes
TinyCatCrafts ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:22:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was in the manual!! xD
galacticschralper ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:07:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gentle persuasion is usually about the time the oxy torch joins the fight.
Charle_Brown ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:46:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ahh, the Blue Tip Wrench. This always works!
galacticschralper ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:33:29 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes. The blue tip of love never loses.
rreighe2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:20:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're from the south like Texas Oklahoma Louisiana area? That's how people say it here I think
nobutternoparm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:35:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tennessee. I definitely hear it from the more country type lol
RustyMK1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:18:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Attitude adjustment
qaisjp ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:42:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://youtu.be/insM7oUYNOE
Tossaway_handle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:57:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's classic. And sad because it made me realize I have zero artistic talent.
XLXAXPX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:48:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was just about to say this
jimmbabbit ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 02:22:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I worked as an instrument technician in a large primary plant for a few years. It's amazing how many times the 'calibrated tap' will kick the loop back into life
CarouselConductor ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:23:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here. I'm an excitation field engineer. Calibrated tap is in the toolbox behind turning it off and on again.
Toyo_altezza ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 03:28:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's the knowing where to tap that costs the most money-
"Then they brought in an old man who had been fixing ships since he was a young. He carried a large bag of tools with him, and when he arrived, he immediately went to work. He inspected the engine very carefully, top to bottom.
Two of the shipโs owners were there, watching this man, hoping he would know what to do. After looking things over, the old man reached into his bag and pulled out a small hammer. He gently tapped something. Instantly, the engine lurched into life. He carefully put his hammer away. The engine was fixed!
A week later, the owners received a bill from the old man for ten thousand dollars.
โWhat?!โ the owners exclaimed. โHe hardly did anything!โ
So they wrote the old man a note saying, โPlease send us an itemized bill.
The man sent a bill that read:
Tapping with a hammerโฆโฆโฆโฆโฆโฆโฆ.. $ 2.00
Knowing where to tapโฆโฆโฆโฆโฆโฆโฆโฆ.. $ 9,998.00"
scalyblue ยท 64 points ยท Posted at 04:04:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a corruption of a true story
Toyo_altezza ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 05:15:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Now I know the proper story. Where did you first learn about it?
scalyblue ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:18:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was before that article was rritten, I was doing research on tesla for a school report and read about him too, I forget where.
FalconTurbo ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:42:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using the three pound swing press
uncanneyvalley ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:16:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/skookum is leaking again
0OKM9IJN8UHB7 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:42:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The schmoo is coming out?
Carbon_FWB ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:47:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did you release it?
sdcar1985 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:50:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm using that term for when I slap our touch screens at work because they stop working. After the slap, just fine.
Wormbo2 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:05:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Electronic device required a physical recalibration!
tjhart85 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:39:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At my IT job we call it a technical tap
MasterExcellence ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:19:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Give it a Fonzie
Stabby_McBarkbark ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:07:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We call it Fonzie Magic
syntaxvorlon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:40:51 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most people just refer to mechanical circles as "gears."
CarouselConductor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:06:43 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take your upvote, you fiend.
be_an_adult ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:07:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Concussive calibration?
TheSinningRobot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussive maintenance
Idiot_Savant_Tinker ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussive maintenance.
I-amthegump ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Proper application of force
too_small_to_reach ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:08:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mechanical agitation.
mulymule ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:19:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TAP test for Development Engines that power the biggest aircraft in the world. Literally just hitting bits of an engine to listen for anything rattling about.
Meekswel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:42:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm.
Am Arcade Technician.
umblegar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:52:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
using Special Tool #1
Amblychromatic_Jess ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:00:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gently, with a lot of force
eightslipsandagully ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:38:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like the term 'percussive maintenance'
Csquared6 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:41:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also known as the โhit it with a hammerโ technique. My personal go-to-solves-most-problems secret that works.
MemeMischief ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:16:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the world of electrical engineering we call this "solder readjustment therapy"
LordFrogberry ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:18:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Calibration tap. It's a calibration tap, you muppet.
noodlenugget ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:18:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Way back in my army days, we called it the "12 inch drop test"
FCCRULES1234 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:35:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This reminds me of the engine mechanic and his piece of chalk story
Klaus_Goldfish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:45:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's related to the manual torque wrench. Using normal wrench, turn the fastener until something that feels kinda like the right torque (no knowledge of correct torque required) is achieved, then say "click".
heyitslola ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:46:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The rest of us call it the โFonziโ
strife584 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:04:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Calibrated tap with a one lb sledge ๐
TheFourthWaIl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:11:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My favorites that Iโve heard a hammer called are swing press and a yewlbe...as in yewlbe sorry if I gotta ask again
RustyMK1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:19:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like to use "Attitude adjustment"
thunderbear64 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:45:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mech. Maintenance phrases Iโve heard: โPut down your purse and hit it!โ โCome bleed or blister itโs coming out.โ โDo you want me to call your Mom so she can do it for you?โ โI got it 2 grunt tight.โ โItโs t-I-t, tight. Itโs d-u-n done .โ โYou just had to twist your tongue the right way.โ
Raunien ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:09:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TECHNICAL KNOCK
Prerequisites: Intelligence 30
Either through the ease of long practice, or the proper ritual to appease a weaponโs machine spirit, the Explorer can clear stoppages in weapons. He may un-jam any gun as a Half Action, but may only perform this rite on one weapon per Round. He must touch the weapon to enact this rite.
PM_ME_YOUR_PLECTRUMS ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 01:52:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Something similar happened to me, the headphone jack on a phone I used to have was not working, saw a forum that said to put your mouth in it and blow hard.
I thought "well, I have nothing to lose". It worked.
trunghung03 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:04:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same goes with those computer mice that keep double clicking, just blow the button with your mouth.
PM_ME_YOUR_PLECTRUMS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:08:55 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, so that is why it didn't work for me! I was blowing it with my anus
trunghung03 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:28:01 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well the main reason that you have to blow with your mouth is the moisture in your breath, so if you can just mix in a bit of MOISTURE in there it will work just as well.
stuffeh ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:19:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I usually just lick the tip on the headphone.
xSTSxZerglingOne ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 02:08:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussive maintenance is ALWAYS worth a shot.
047032495 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:39:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless you're a glazier.
Dovahkiin47 ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 02:24:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have an xbox 360 that sometimes refuses to open the disc thingy, and any time it gets stuck i can just give it one solid wack in a specific spot and it opens immediately. i feel like the fonz every time.
skittlesdabawse ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 05:07:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They're called disc trays my guy.
medicmotheclipse ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 01:58:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I believe that is called percussive maintenance
nor312 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:06:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was a kid, I had a digital watch that just stopped one day. I took it off and smacked it as hard as I could against a wooden dresser. It's worked perfectly ever since.
RagingAardvark ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:57:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just like pounding on the side of an old TV set!
Tak7ics ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:55:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Except your just unjamming all the dust in the fans
TristeroDiesIrae ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:59:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Other generations of Apple users will remember the Three Inch Drop.
eunonymouse ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:15:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Manufacturer prescribed
JayDude132 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:10:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you posted this exact comment before?
This may sound strange but i feel like i remember reading exactly this just a few weeks ago.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:23:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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JayDude132 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:15:23 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe this is r/blackmagicfuckery material
Suicidal_Narcissist ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:26:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh my God. Me too. So glad I'm not going crazy.
techguy1231 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:22:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, me too!
truemeliorist ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 02:09:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I have fixed computers before by kicking them. A swift smack is usually on my troubleshooting list after reboot and google.
In my first "real" job in IT, we got a server in, and it wouldn't boot. All kinds of weird bios errors. It was hard to see, but during shipping, a riser card had popped up slightly. It couldn't fully pop back down because there were small metal guides on either side of it, and it was stuck on one of them. Smacking it off the guide, it snapped back down and suddenly the server was bootable.
Sometimes, smacking things can fix them.
SirBackspace ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:01:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is why machines can never take over. Only humans know the art of violently smashing it till it works.
hydrowifehydrokids ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:07:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I once fixed an issue with my phone by putting it in the freezer. My brother laughed his ass off at me, but I was desperate
RealJyrone ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 04:33:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would laugh too. The frost could possibly damage your device. I hope you waited till after it thawed and the water could evaporate before turning it on.
DEVOmay97 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:30:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be real cairful doing shit like this to laptop though. I had a laptop that would sometimes freeze up, only unfreezing when I hit it. No idea why. One time I hit it a bit to hard because I was really fucking frustrated and pissed off from various forms of bullshit that day and the hard drive platters literally shattered in to pieces. Computer no worked no more lol. I replaced the hard drive and installed Linux mint on it to get me by until I could get a new laptop since that one was outdated as shit anyway. If the laptop wasn't a peice of crap beforehand I probably would have fucked with Linux for a while honestly, it was quite a pleasant experience.
RealJyrone ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:35:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Linux has only gotten better! And itโs great that itโs now receiving even more support
israphial ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:15:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Linux is amazing now, recommend it
canIbeMichael ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:09:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Linux Desktop is not Linux Server.
Love Ubuntu Server, HATE every linux desktop distro I've tried. And I've tried A LOT. Windows is just a different level of quality.
doizernasty ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:03:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I fixed my Wii remote by throwing it on the ground. This was after I bought the trihead screwdriver and unsuccessfully tried to fix it.
1337GameDev ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 01:42:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly... Those fans are like $6 online and like 5 minutes to replace.
Considering they cool your expensive laptop .... Is probably just replace them.
UniqueUsername171 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:16:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had to read through way too many "ahh yeah percussive maintenance" comments to find this. It's super simple even with no computer knowledge.
1337GameDev ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:18:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah. Most PC components (less and less nowadays work apple) are user serviceable.
Fans, minor cables, and other items not soldered to the mainboard are quite easy to replace, just never racking if you've never done it.
MalHeartsNutmeg ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:47:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nothings soldered anymore, except components of the motherboard but you just replace the motherboard. You can also transfer a windows license after swapping the mother board these days. Everything else just clips in. The only โhardโ part is putting in the cpu if youโre a Neanderthal. Anyone can watch a video on YouTube and build a pc though. My friend did it with no prior knowledge which prompted me to do it then my brother. Hell Youtube applies to more than just computer building. Thereโs a guide for everything.
1337GameDev ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:10:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree with this. There really is a guide for almost anything.
Really hard finding guides for obscure stuff, like a project 1985 Corvette I have, and reassembling the doors. Most "guides" show basics and not anything step by step (there's a lot to them).
1337GameDev ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:20:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, for a pc, I was thinking of mobile / laptops (everything is soldered to the motherboard to reduce space).
1337GameDev ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:20:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And percussive maintenance pisses me off. Things aren't working for a reason. If you wack it and it loosens up, it's likely a stuck bearing, or dirt buildup (which could easily have burned through a few turns off the motor or inductor coils for that fan when it's seized and drawing stationary current).
MalHeartsNutmeg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:44:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโd guess they were shitty bearings if it was enough of a wide spread issue to have a forum post.
0OKM9IJN8UHB7 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 06:33:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Simple to change the fan. A little more complicated to do the job right and pull the cooler out to apply new thermal compound. The old dried up shit in there probably being what caused the fan to run excessively and wear out in the first place.
lasweatshirt ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:43:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My father in laws iPhone mic stopped working. I looked it up and saw advice that said push really hard on the mic part. Tried it and the phone still works great 4 years later.
K-Jonatan-B ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:37:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This worked with my PS2. I slammed it in a fit of rage, and if freakin read the disc! Later on, my dad followed a tutorial video to permanently fix the problem, so all good.
youngminii ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:11:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man have you ever tried โburpingโ an iPad?
I work in IT and I tell ya, everyone thinks Iโm a loony but smacking an iPad while itโs wrapped in a towel helps tighten loose connections.
Still the weirdest method Iโve ever used.
sidewinderaw11 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:08:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Had a similar issue with my old MR2! Electrics and solder points wear our on a 30 y/o car so I heard banging on the dashboard when the dash lights go dark get them back on again.
True enough, that worked for a while until I resoldered the faulty wiring!
schoolyjul ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:17:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandpa's TV repair technique lives on in a new century!
cautiondrypaint ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:20:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I too have watched Happy Days
ButtsexEurope ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:18:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussive maintenance.
ghostguy1223 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:03:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My PS3 just gave me a dirty look. Been down this road before
TheRune ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:12:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had something similar but with my car! My first car was a VW Golf Manhattan, 18 y/o when I got it (both me and the car) - it was a smooth ride and with normal older-car issues. One day I would not start. Asked for advice at some car forum. A dude told me to take a rubber-hammer and gently smash the starter engine a few times.
I went out, expecting nothing to change. Located the starter and gave it a few wacks - it worked and never had any issues again till i sold it 4 years later.
PM_ME_MAMMARY_GLANDS ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:19:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And you owned that computer for a whole week.
Shelbelle4 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:34:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Caveman method
Lobster70 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:17:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not unlike the "bake" method of fixing early Xbox 360. They would overheat and cause the processor to have a bad connection with the motherboard. Advice was to cover with a blanket and let it run until it shut off, then remove the blanket, let it cool, and make sure it was well-ventilated and the fans were clean. It would soften the solder and allow for a better connection when it cooled. We did this, and it worked. No more Red Ring of Death!
MattDamonsRectum ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:24:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's called percussive therapy and it works half the time on anything mechanical.
_banjostan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:30:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussive maintenance ๐
rube ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:36:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have a Nintendo DSi and the L button isn't working? Blow into the bottom really hard.
Didn't think it would work... It did!
Maroon-Spoon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:07:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I smashed in my power button on my iPhone, looked it up on YouTube on how to fix it, and I was told to brush he smashed in button with a toothbrush and it worked.
Beserked2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:44:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When the screen of my old flip phone used to black out I'd (gently) throw it down the stairs and then it'd work fine for a few weeks. No YouTube videos, found out in a moment of clumsiness.
Ramalamahamjam ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:04:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had an old air conditioning unit and it's fan stopped. I got mad and kicked it. It started up and never had another problem with it for the next ten years I lived there.
FinnaDabOnThemHaters ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:24:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey I remember reading this like a year-ish ago
Mckavity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:17:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yea, I told this story here once before in a similar thread.
Slick_Grimes ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:42:05 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There was actually some section of an old PC manual that suggested picking the unit up about 2 inches and dropping it when other things failed. They called it "Percussive Maintenance".
ilovebaconmore ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:48:36 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
same thing if your automatic window sticks in your car- bang on the inside of the door in the area that you think
covers the motor.. its worked for me with my van and two friends cars as well
PM_ME_FEET_N_ASS ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:35:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah yes, percussive maintenance!
alumpoflard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:39:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussive maintenance,, my dude
MeiNeedsMoreBuffs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:10:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They probably just got clogged with something. So hitting it dislodged it and let them keep spinning
buckeyenation101 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:37:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Improvise, adapt, overcome
OfficialPope ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:38:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussive maintenance for the win!
InsaneFails ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One side of my Apple earbuds wasnโt working so I went to Google for a solution. Turns out that 95% of the time, there is just ear wax in your earbuds that you can clear out with a pencil. After you clean it up a little bit with a pencil, suck on it, sounds crazy but it works.
CjBoomstick ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:07:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good ol' percussive maintenance. It even has it's place in IT.
Obizues ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is not a good thing to do, you will very likely damage parts in the are you are banging.
The issue is likely needing to open it up and blow out the dust or cleaning whatever is stuck.
The banging will clear it up, but I wouldnโt punch my windpipe to make sure I dislodge the mucus instead of coughing.
frix86 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the 2000s I worked on Navy jets that were made in the 60s and 70s. This was our go to fix if something wasnt working. Worked more often than not.
ReasonableApartment ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:18:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude my MacBook keyboard jammed once and I tried so many gentle manoeuvres to get it working, ended up Googling it, the answer was to blow super hard directly onto the stuck key while clicking it furiously, and it WORKED. Incredible
-Gwynbleidd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:19:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I remember when I was about 18 I had to get into the fuel tank in my car. Had a big screw lid on the top and a friend and I spent half the fukn day trying to get this stupid thing to come off. Went and bought special tools for unscrewing it the whole deal. Finally about to admit defeat and just get a mechanic. The old boy from across the road came over and asked about what was happening. He then just picks up a screw driver and a hammer and whacks it and wouldnโt you know it, fucking thing came straight off.
NotObviouslyARobot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:19:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's called a bad electrical connection
lifeinrednblack ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A common problem with the model of car I own is the windows not going down. I seen a similar tip and had a similar disbelief. And sure enough, knocking on the door fixes the problem.
Saved having to spend hundreds of dollars on a new motor and is now the manufacturer reccomended way of fixing the problem.
Ep1cFac3pa1m ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We always called it "percussive maintenance."
blink0r ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had this exact same problem with my Keurig coffee maker!
It would make the sound like it's going to brew but it would only cycle the water back into the reservoir. I was so confused so I looked into how to fix it. Turns out I just had to drop it a few times down a small flight of stairs.
It still works!
DontSteelMyYams ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:26:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, good old percussive maintenance
The_Original_Gronkie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:26:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussive calibration is always worth a shot if all else fails.
Grunge_bob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:27:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is that video still online? My old macbook (late 08) died a couple months ago. Figure it won't do the trick but why not at this point.
MrTurleWrangler ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:29:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And they say violence solves nothing
AccountDeleteBot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:29:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey, donโt... Knock it till you try it.
Ahehehehehehehe
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:30:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had some issue with my iPad screen and the fix was to drop it on the floor. Worked like charm!
Algaean ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:30:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey, don't try it 'till you've knocked it!
Thoughtsonrocks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:30:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a similar thing where my laptop fan died. I watched a 62 second youtube video where the dude blows super hard into the fan exhaust as the computer is booting up.
Tried it, got a bunch of dust in my mouth, but the computer booted up and the fan stopped having problems. That was....2 years ago and it's still fine.
SufficientRoutine8 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Had a galaxy s3. The GPS kept getting worse and worse, so I looked up a solution. First website: Tighten all the screws on the back. Me: pft no. Second website: Tighten screws on the back. Me: That's so dumb. Third website: This is going to sound dumb, but tighten all the screws on the back.
It worked. GPS worked better than it ever had after that.
Edit: punctuation
worosei ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Something similar happened to my iPad 2. Screen died/had weird colours, went to apple shop who quoted a hundred or two to fix and said it was a dead screen.
Read online of someone giving it a solid thump
I tried it, it didn't work.
I figured I'd have to buy a new one, so gave it a super solid thud in exasperation
And it's still working today...
Gonzotiki ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:35:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You are the Fonz now
el_smurfo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:37:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nexus 5, bang it on the side to fix the stuck power button.
bmoney831 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a MacBook that I got at the beginning of college. Midway through my grad year, it kept restarting when you put too much pressure on a certain area. I decided to punch that area because it happened like 10 times in a row. Didn't have a problem for like 2 months, then the next punch gave me 1 month, and this lasted until I was punching it everyday. Lasted 3 months after I graduated, then it became a brick.
wtf_lol_okay ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:40:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is also called as jugaad
Bearded4Glory ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:43:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another 13 hours of bliss!
TreesAreGreat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This one of the easiest parts to replace btw. Pretty cheap too! Look it up in ifixit.
nnkkmmuu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alabama tune-up.
Frigginkillya ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:52:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shit I may have to try this Pretty sure mine have crapped out cause it overheats so quickly
BlackSheep3108 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:52:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was taught how to use โCommo FMโ (commo fucking magic) during radio operator training at Ft. Gordon back in โ09. The army was literally teaching soldiers to bang the shit out of equipment until it worked.
sexyboobooboo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:54:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same time happened to my lawn mower. Damn thing wonโt start. Took the top off where the string goes caused it was hard to pull. Cleaned the rope and bam, the lawn mower worked.
bogues3000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:55:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
OP: donโt knock it til you try it.
You: try knocking it.
PhoenixJDM ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:56:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm sure Iโve seen what must have been you comment this somewhere before. Possibly on another website
KGB_cutony ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:57:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Usually work for older electronics and mechanicals because they were mostly hand built, and there could be a loose wire or something. Banging it will actually repair it
MXXlV ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:58:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's called percussive maintenance. My microwave needs it every other use
MijK7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:58:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's also working with your gf if she's talking to much. But now she's not working anymore. WELP
cyberm3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:59:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can take it to apple n they can clean it for free
Voltegeist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:05:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Inb4 my MacBook only lasted 15 more minutes after the banging
Axel003 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:05:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And if that doesn't work, you can also use the particle accelerator to adjust it.
37-pieces-of-flair ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:05:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Percussive persuasion
CEtro569 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:11:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was in high school, if you had a problem with your laptop IT would usually just replace the part and do a full wipe of your computer, like every time. There was a problem that happened frequently, at least for me, where it would just not boot no matter what. Eventually we figured out that if you just slap the bottom a few times it would start working for a few days again. After a few weeks of doing this it just started working for good and I never needed to do it again.
AtotheCtotheG ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:11:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fan is one of the simplest circuits in existence. Computer fans probably have added complications, what with most computers being able to control fan speeds, but if bashinโ it worked, that implies a loose or dirty connection somewhere. If Appleโs usb/wall adapters are anything to go by, they tend to skimp on some electronics.
LiesInRuin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:12:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah good ol percussive maintenance.
Bambisaysbird ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:12:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't knock it until you've knocked it!
Ibex89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:15:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't knock it till you try it.
pat1122 ยท 10708 points ยท Posted at 01:31:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spend an extra $5-$10 on wiper blades
nobutternoparm ยท 3401 points ยท Posted at 03:04:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Rockauto commonly does closeouts on high quality wiper blades for like $2-3 a piece. The type you normally pay $20-30 for. I buy like 5 sets at a time to save on shipping, spend less than $40 on enough really nice wipers to last me a couple/few years.
Edit: I have no affiliation with Rockauto. Just a customer.
I_am_a_Dan ยท 179 points ยท Posted at 05:07:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man they better give you extra magnets on your next order lol
JamesTBagg ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 09:19:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Within the last week I've gotten three boxes from Rockauto. Not one fucking sticker. Not one.
ngram11 ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 11:07:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They spent all their sticker money on those god-awful commercials
I_am_a_Dan ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 16:20:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sucks those magnets are like 10% of the reason I order from them!
nuclearseaweed ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 19:41:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just ordered from them a week ago and got 3 magnets
JamesTBagg ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:43:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Give me my magnets!
nuclearseaweed ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:03:22 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never!
garepottamus ยท 55 points ยท Posted at 04:51:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Silicon wiper blades. You pay more up front but they can last for years and years.
raddits ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 06:03:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In Florida even those gotta be replaced at least every 6 months
LaserBeamsCattleProd ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 12:10:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Florida is a death sentence for wipers. If it's not raining buckets, they're getting cooked.
teebob21 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:09:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also true in Phoenix, except it only rains buckets in July and August (and sometimes January).
FinalBossXD ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:08:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Laughs in Texas.
teebob21 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:24:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yee-haw-ha-ha-ha-ha
Lokifin ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 06:43:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Will that stop my wiper blades from screeching across my windshield in light rain?
JamesTBagg ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 09:17:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most often, new wipers will fix that. As wipers age the soft rubber that squeegees your windshield becomes dry and rigid, and squeaky against the glass.
Colin0705 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 09:25:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes cleaning them with a wet microfiber cloth will help. Every time I think Iโm ready for new blades I wipe mine clean and they work like new.
KernelTaint ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 08:26:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My rear windscreen hasn't had a blade in its wiper for months. You should hear the metal arm scraping the glass when I forget and turn it on.
Lokifin ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:44:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mine got ripped clean off and it wasn't worth the money to get it repaired. I don't even know how to turn it on.
Real_Bug ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 07:10:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If only you knew how many bugs I kill driving on the autobahn..
iLgsmh ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:32:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
^ THIS ^ Real life pro tip
ZMeson ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:04:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd expect silicon blades to be really bad for your windows. ;-)
sessimon ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 05:00:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Uhhh...that site looks amazing! Thanks kind stranger! ๐ฌ
eldiablojefe ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 05:08:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rockauto is one of the best sites I've ever discovered. Used it extensively while working at an auto parts store.
hotdoggos ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 05:33:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm, I worked at Napa for quite a while and interchanging part numbers from RockAuto found me parts in NAPA's system that I otherwise wouldn't have found on more than a few occasions.
eldiablojefe ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 05:44:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh yes, when you learn to cross reference the cross references, aka "part number hopscotch".
hotdoggos ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 05:51:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And next thing you know you're 45 minutes in with 7 tabs open, 3 catalogues on the counter, and 3 of your fellow partsmen trying to find an axle seal for a 1989 Suzuki Grand Vitara.
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 11:00:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rear stub axle for a 92 Toyota Paseo. I spent 2 full days searching every catalogue, forum, EPC I could lay my hands on. Apparently theyโre part of the whole rear beam assembly. Customer was expecting $150/$200 part. $1477 direct from Toyota. Plus freight.
eldiablojefe ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 12:59:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And if you're talking seals, at least one of your fellow partsmen has got a set of calipers out, trying to get an accurate diameter from a seal that hasn't been a proper circle since it got shredded lol.
teebob21 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:11:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know this drill. Dad has a 1958 Farmall tractor that (up until he rolled it), was getting daily use. Finding parts technically designed for other makes and models that will fit and work is some black magic fuckery reserved for the ancient dudes down at the local John Deere dealership.
hkd001 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:58:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rockauto was the only site where I could find parts for my Dodge Stratus RT (2 door). Other sites and stores thought I was looking for the sedan model. I don't think they used the same part for anything.
peabody624 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:44:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it's THE car parts site
BillBurrns ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:07:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What are some high quality wiper blades?
nobutternoparm ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 05:29:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's been a while since i bought any from them, but they separate by category. Look for beam style, teflon coated, and get whichever category they list as best. There's various brands, but my experience is they're essentially name brand quality wipers in off-brand wholesaler packaging.
Colin0705 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 09:28:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always buy Bosch icon I love how good they work and they usually last me a couple years and I live in an area where it snows a lot. Theyโre expensive though it costs about $50 a pair for my truck.
carolinecadaver ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 12:05:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The quality of the Bosch Icons have dropped significantly in recent years, I used to sell tons of them, until they started coming back with complains, I think they're made somewhere else now, I never sell them anymore!
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:08:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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Durania ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:00:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I found those to be the worst wipers I ever bought. Just skipped and bounced when swiping the windshield. Took them back.
Colin0705 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:11:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh no shit. I just bought a set a few months ago and mine are holding up pretty good even after winter.
HigherThanIT ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:54:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
PIAA wiper blades are good.
chadiusmaximu5 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:46:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This guy! Rockauto if you know how to do basic repairs on your car. It'll save you a Fortune
pat1122 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 04:50:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never heard of that company, thanks for the advice!
OfferChakon ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:56:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Dude, I love rockauto. They consistently have low priced quality parts. I just got my radiator from them for $80. Pretty good deal all things considered.
ozaku7 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:56:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fun fact, according to spectroscopic study, all wiper blades rubber is made from the same material.
nobutternoparm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:36:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I could believe that.
ozaku7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:03:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like the same as in atomic composition. Only silicone is different. What you really pay for is the wiper blade structure design that allows for aerodynamics and such so your wiper blade doesn't lift. It also includes the warranty of say 2 years, so if it wears down within 2 years you might get a second set for free under certain but not impossible conditions.
LaPiscinaDeLaMuerte ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:49:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy shit, how have I never herd of Rockauto? I have a money pit of a car and Rockauto's prices seem much better than retty much anywhere else! Guess I'm only going there from now on for anything I don't need OEM for.
QenefGomari ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:36:16 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
RA also has OEM parts...ACDelco, Motorcraft, Mopar, Denso, AISIN, etc...
Shalamster ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:21:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only works if you donโt swap vehicles every year lol. Luckily for me I just buy them and never sell them
sidjo86 ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 04:47:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you live in the desert even the nice blades have to be swapped once a year.
county_22 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:59:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol I'm in the Northeast and I change mine every 6 months cause the slightest streak drives me nuts.
DeaddyRuxpin ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 05:23:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah Iโm in NJ and they are pretty much toast after every winter from all the rock salt filth and ice that adheres to the windshield.
I used to spend decent money on wiper blades and Iโd get a year out of them. Now I spend almost nothing on Walmart blades and I get a year out of them.
PapayaSF ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 06:15:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a windshield wiper blade sharpener that I bought years ago, and it works well. Or try this: fold a small piece of fine sandpaper into a V, get it wet, and pull it along the edge of the blade 8-10 times. (Careful, it will make black water.) This will remove the cracked edge that causes streaks. I get years out of blades this way.
teebob21 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 15:12:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
BRB doing this as soon as it stops raining. What grit do you recommend?
Look4theHelpers ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:44:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eh, try 400 grit
PapayaSF ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:16:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know grits. Just something not too coarse.
CubeBrute ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:57:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just wash your windshield and your wipers with the windshield squeegee at the gas station while the attendant is filling you up.
DeaddyRuxpin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:29:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That can help but when your daily commute is traveling major roads like I-80 and it is barely raining or even not at all but is just above freezing after a snow storm, you end up getting that brown salty mist thrown all over your windshield that instantly dries into a salty dirty rough layer. You canโt travel more than a few miles before you canโt see and need to run the wipers and washer to clear it which wears down the blades. By the end of the season the blades are pitted enough that they leave streaks all over and do a poor job of clearing the windshield.
Yes better blades resist this longer, but relatively speaking on the cost difference vs the slightly longer life of the blades, Iโll exhaust the life of the car before I cross the savings threshold of having been buying good blades every 13 months instead of crappy blades every 11 months. (Plus even good blades sometimes have issues like you donโt realize they are frozen to the windshield when you turn the wipers on and it rips the rubber destroying the blade. Thatโs far more annoying on $20 blades than $3 ones)
BlueBullBell44 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:25:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I saw this tool the other day that just barely takes the worn bit off and creates a new seal between the rubber blade and your window. Might be worth looking at
soggymittens ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:51:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I live in the mid-Atlantic, near Washington DC, and mine do too. They get extremely streaky by month 14 or so.
Apophis90 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:59:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
cuts you off on 66 and gives you the finger
soggymittens ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:32:16 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You say that like itโs a bad thing...
Shalamster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:28:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I live in the middle of the desert and they just rot out all summer and then once it starts raining again in the fall I get reminded that I need to change them out lol
nobutternoparm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:32:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did make the mistake of re-upping with several sets right before buying a different car. For the price, I don't mind too much.
mjewbank ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:29:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How does RockAuto compare to buying the same things through Amazon?
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 07:27:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Varies. Check both
The_Funky_Stink ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:32:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
literally doing this right now, lol
duffman13jws ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:55:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
in my experience they generally beat amazon. They always have a functional 5% off coupon on slickdeals as well.
nobutternoparm ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:39:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone else said, it varies. If it's all the same, though, Amazon may have prime which helps
cheeeesewiz ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:07:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even if j was affiliated, fuck yes to everything rockauto
wildcat2015 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:38:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Better still (if you drive a European car) is FCP Euro because they will literally replace your wipers (actually anything you buy from them!), for free, forever
nobutternoparm ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:31:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am a VW/Audi enthusiast. You have no idea how much I recommend FCP Euro!!!
nostinkinbadges ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:40:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Between two BMW and one Volvo, I am a forever loyal FCPEuro customer.
Edit: I actually started by buying some parts for BMW from RockAuto, but quickly realized how some brands work better for euro cars than others. Because FCPEuro has lifetime guarantee on all parts, they only carry brands that are not likely to fail quickly or have poor fitment.
ASAPJeep ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:01:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How have I never seen this company before? Thank you!!
nobutternoparm ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:31:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No problem! I always check their site before ordering from other places. The selection of OEM quality parts isn't as great as other places, but when they have the brand I want, it's usually the cheapest price.
ShadowReaperT ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:24:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you have any other site recommendations for if this site doesn't have what you need?
nobutternoparm ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:33:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really just depends on what kind of car you drive. Rockauto is really the only universal one I'd recommend
ShadowReaperT ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:50:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I drive a 2016 Honda Civic (5 Dr)
nobutternoparm ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:14:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish i could help, but I'm not entrenched in the Honda world enough to have a good connection there :(
ShadowReaperT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:51:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No worries, thanks anyway. I don't need anything yet, I was just curious for the future.
aws4k3 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:32:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate their commercials way too much to use them
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:01:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Commercials are weird. Makes it look like a scam or something. But itโs literally another parts store online. They carry all the major brands as your local store and usually cheaper even with shipping.
patx35 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:05:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, they got to cut costs somewhere to get their competitive pricing. Cheap parts, strong catalog, reasonable shipping rates, and easy returns makes me a returning customer.
mrvas ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:06:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you watch for these sales? I love RockAuto
nobutternoparm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:07:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you buy something from them and set up an account with your car info, they will start sending you closeout deals for your specific car in emails
Cky_vick ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:45:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get the Goodyear wipers at Costco, when they are on sale it's like 14$ for two
plev20 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:50:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude I bought them at Costco a few days ago. They were on sale for less than $5 each. I almost didnโt believe it.
Cky_vick ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:42:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh yeah, normally they are like 7-8$ which is already a deal. Usually 20$+ wipers at places like Walmart are total shit
nostinkinbadges ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:37:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought those were a good deal at first, but I had several of them fail on me. The plastic end clips break very easily, causing the rubber blade to slide out. The first couple of times I fixed it with a zip tie, but now I changed to calling them 'Bad Year' wipers.
Michelin wipers at Costco have a different design, but time will tell how long they will last. They looked very cheaply made, which was only apparent after I took them out of the box. I'm starting to think that maybe I should be looking elsewhere for the windshield wipers, and up the budget for those things.
digg_survivor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:12:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey they just sent me a 5% off coupon an hour ago and was wondering what I could buy with it.... Thanks!
teebob21 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:13:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All the things
i_am_icarus_falling ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:24:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
can also confirm rockauto has had crazy good prices and saved me hundreds of dollars on auto parts.
AlJazeeraisbiased ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:55:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I too have no affiliation with Rockauto, the best place for all your automotive needs. Their prices are Rock Bottom! Guess you can say they deserve a lot of "karma"!
-Anustar- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:28:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rockauto really kicks ass when it comes to prices... brakes for a fifth of what they retail in town, oil filters for 2$... ect ect, this site is just so awesome (p.s. I am canadian, bought there a few times, changed my life)
nobutternoparm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:34:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I do the same thing with oil filters! But them 5 at a time and have 25k miles worth of oil filters for $15-20 shipped
mspStu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:29:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How have I never heard of this site before? you should do a thread of on just this someplace.
IgnoringHisAge ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:36:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would give you fake internet medals that cost real money if I had real money. I will have some extra leftover real money because of this website, though.
nobutternoparm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:36:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I appreciate the thought anyway :)
adultinglikewhoa ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:46:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love Rock Auto! I got a full front suspension for $300 LESS than retail. I always order my parts from them (if I can wait for shipping)
adiverges ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:09:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
thank you! I just looked and they have a front bumper for my car for $50! What?! Thank you!
hkd001 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:03:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They were the only place I could find a front bumper cover for my old car.
IratePuddle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:33:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Which wiper blades are good?
nobutternoparm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:39:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They separate them by quality, the best ones ive found are the beam style with teflon coating.
funkybum ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:34:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a feeling the rubber will dry out even if you keep it indoors in good conditions.
nobutternoparm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:57:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haven't had an issue so far
VdogameSndwchDimonds ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:51:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think that anyone who's used rockauto.com is going to sound like a paid shill because there's really nothing bad to say about them. I even like their terrible commercials.
nobutternoparm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:01:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only thing to hate is their primitive website design, but people who work on cars are used to these catalog type systems
QenefGomari ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:41:53 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I kinda like the design. Refreshing to not be assaulted with extra crap you find on other sites. How else would you display 100+ options for something like F-15- brake pads?
Project2r ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:20:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you sound like a guy with a large garage space.
nobutternoparm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:22:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ugh. I wish. I have 3 cars and no garage. I have a 10x15 storage unit but i can't even fit a car in it at the moment
PaulBunyan69 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:54:20 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is one of those comments I save for later, but by the time I need new blades, it's lost in the sea of saved stuff that I never go back to.
Thank you though!
nobutternoparm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:56:06 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol. I've got a lot of those in my list, too. Glad I could (maybe) help!
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:18:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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nobutternoparm ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:26:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am not. Just a repeat customer.
MsMoneypennyLane ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:42:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol. I spent at least 30 seconds going roc-kau-to? Maybe a Japanese parts distribution site?
In my defense, Iโm pretty stupid.
nobutternoparm ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:59:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
LOL. I'm imagining an anime character advertising for these guys now.
ROC KAU TOOOOOOOOO
InterdimensionalTV ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:29:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes people just really like a company and the service they provide.
cheeeesewiz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:08:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone who would love to be sponspored by Rock Auto, shop there, buy their shit. They have everything, it's the best
roberthidalgo34 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:09:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Which company type do you usually buy? I see trico, motorcraft, anco, and bosch
JumboShirmp ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:26:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I recently bought Trico blades and returned them because they were streaking out of the box. I exchanged them for RainX blades, but out of that list Iโd go Bosch.
carolinecadaver ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:07:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Trico winter ones are good, I've had a set on my shit saturn for about two years now, and I live in Canadarr
JumboShirmp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:32:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmm, I had the Trico Onyx which are supposed to be their top of the line. Maybe I got a defective pair?
carolinecadaver ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:49:10 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most blades have warranty on them, if they're not up to your standards, bring em back!
JumboShirmp ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:40:26 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look back at my first comment, I already exchanged them for RainX blades. But thank you.
carolinecadaver ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:14:08 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh sorry about that, I replied to a few comments here, and just replied via my inbox!
Jacob_C ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 02:44:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Which ones? I paid more for my current pair and they suck.
ShadynastyS14 ยท 58 points ยท Posted at 03:58:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I now religiously use Bosch icon's, consistently the best wiper blade. Buy through rock auto instead of the parts store though, way cheaper on there.
ppqpp ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:50:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was at the parts store and was looking for wipers. The guy goes these are $2 cheaper and fit the same as those Bosch ones. Guess what...... they dont. Ended up finding the Bosch ones a few months later cheaper and haven't looked back (they fit perfectly too).
SweatySteak ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:04:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was a manager at an autozone for a few years and the Bosch Icons were by far the best we carried. Skip the rain-x, when they wear out the water repellent can leave streaks in your windshield that are a pain in the ass to remove. It's also much much cheaper to buy your wiper blades online than it is at the parts store. $50+ for a pair in store compared to $25-30 online.
lobotomyandtights ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:52:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also use Bosch but i spent a little more than $50 at the auto store for the set and havenโt needed to replace them. Good to note the rock auto place if itโs cheaper for same quality though!
ChunkyLaFunga ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:08:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything Bosch is usually a good shout. I'll be immensely sad if they sell out their quality.
LePoopsmith ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:50:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm giving them a shot. Only 13 bucks there.
43556_96753 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:30:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I bought some Goodyear blades from Costco for like $8. Figured if they only work for a year it's still cheap enough. 30+ minutes trying to figure out adapters I need I gave up and ordered new Icons. Never again.
ManintheMT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:38:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless I need a part right now I order it, Rock Auto is a great option. I am done buying crap parts for full pop at the national chain store down the street.
dontthink19 ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 03:40:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm an automotive mechanic and I always get the dealership blades. Although I do get them for $7 a piece. I'll get about 6 months out of them, but $28 a year for wipers blades is still cheaper that $25 per blades.
Shalamster ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:23:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I buy the expensive ones because I canโt stand my windshield being dirty. The only issue is that I live in the desert and itโs get to 115 for a month or so here so I end up buying wipers every winter after they get all sun baked and donโt work right
nonono12321 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:40:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait youโre supposed to replace them? That explains a lot...
laik72 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:13:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was shocked when I finally realized that the reason my blades stopped cleaning my windshield properly was because the blades require replacement.
I grew up with my dad taking care of the car, and we lived in a place with consistently high humidity.
When I moved to the desert things just didn't work the way I was used to.
HaroldSax ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:19:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I knew that they needed replacement, but I didn't realize they were even as frequent as a couple of times a year.
weinerschnitzelboy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:30:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have some Michelin branded ones from Costco that last me a few years. I live in SoCal where it gets hot (not as hot as that though, but maybe around 95-100 for a month), and I haven't had to change it for approx 2 years and it held up pretty well in today's rain.
cwmtw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:50:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to deliver to mechanics and 99% of the time you guys are buying the cheapest shit on the shelves.
dontthink19 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:46:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's the point. Wiper blades cost pocket change. I'm okay with replacing them every 6 months for 7 dollars a blade. It's still cheaper than spending 28 dollars per wiper.
pat1122 ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 03:01:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I buy the premium rain-x ones, $25 each blade as opposed to the $15 ones I used to buy. The quality is great and I always get mad that I used to cheap out on them before.
FreeMarketAnarchy ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:47:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unfortunately I had some bad luck with rain-x in the past, I'll have to give them another go. I usually run Michelin, no sound and they leave my windshield very clean.
Hydrottle ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:12:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve never liked the Rain-X blades personally. Rain-X itself is a fantastic product. I love the window spray and the windshield wiper fluid additive. But I do not like the blades. Way too expensive for the quality of blades, plus you can get the same application benefits from the wiper fluid or the wiper fluid additive for much less. I get Bosch wipers and have good luck with them.
Rockefeller69 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:47:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I bought the high end rain-x blade for driver side, cheap ones for passenger, and the rain/x wore out quicker than the cheap ones.
ponzLL ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:05:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why has my cheap ass never thought of doing this before
communistjack ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:00:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
COUNTER POINT
paid $30 for 2 x rainx latitude blades
first month was great
the rainx in the blades ran out in month 2 , wipers still worked great
month 5 it started streaking
so if you're going to spend that much on a blade, i would get another brand( i hear good things about bosch icon and silicon blades )
kristiiiyeee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:50:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
how do you know what size to order?
secretcurse ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:53:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Automotive websites usually have a way to filter by the make and model of your car.
MikeODeath ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:52:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Measure your wiper blades.
aheraldr ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:52:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your car manual should tell you what sizes to buy for your particular vehicle
Imafuckingmechanic ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:30:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://www.rainx.com/blade-size-finder/
You dont have to buy rain x, but thatll tell you what sizes you need.
charlietango13 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:54:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Either A.) measure the current ones on your car,
Or B.) look the, upon your ownerโs manual.
chemisus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:54:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Google, or any auto parts store should have a book with sizes, or an employee can probably help look it up for you as well.
doublethump ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:59:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Google year make and model of the car + wiper blade size
laewin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:52:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I buy the Latitudes also but they don't last. Oregon breaks them.
2called_chaos ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:20:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you have an old car (old windshield)? I recently got a new windshield due to a rockfall(?) on it and my wipers not only work a thousand times better but they also last way longer.
4411WH07RY ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:53:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your old windshield was filthy.
Butter_mah_bisqits ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:23:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love my PIAA silicone wipers.
XxturboEJ20xX ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:48:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Beat blades I've ever used, even if they were very pricey. Been a year and they still work great even after a harsh winter.
Butter_mah_bisqits ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:02:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mine are almost six years old and still work like the day I put them on! We donโt have harsh winters in Texas, but the intense heat can really chew up cheap wiper blades.
predictablePosts ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:45:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just switched to silicone blades. I believe any will do, but you're not going to find it in an auto supply shop. They're supposed to last a long time and they want to sell you more stuff.
On top of their enduring quality they also leave a small layer of silicone on your windshield as they wipe. The silicone layer they leave behind is hydrophobic and water will clear off even quicker.
The only catch is that you have to clean your windshield before you swap to them.
Swapped to mine today and it's so nice.
MisterPersonality ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:06:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This, I have been using the same pair of PIAA blades for three years. Iโll never gone back.
Guccimane1738 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 04:09:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try bosch or anything german.
bamboo_boogie_boots_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:37:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Absolutely bosh
minuteman_d ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 04:26:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Years ago, I found a local AutoZone that offered premium wiper blades that had a "lifetime warranty". I asked about what counted as "going bad", and they said that it was pretty much any kind of performance degradation. I paid like $25 each for them for my old Accord.
I would take those suckers back every few months and get them warrantied. They started to grumble about it, but they always swapped them out. I don't think they did that anymore after my (and others, I'm sure) shenanigans.
IAmMisterPickle ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 06:12:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's crazy. I don't see how anyone would consider offering a lifetime warranty on a consumable product
4411WH07RY ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:54:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Figuring people forget or don't swap them.
Makanly ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:04:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They still offer lifetime warranty on shocks. You can just keep replacing them.
Brake pads had lifetime warranty on them for awhile as well.
TehNoff ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:54:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Brake pads still do. They're hoping you'll buy rotors occasional is my guess.
cnwillie ยท 73 points ยท Posted at 02:04:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
crazy how cheap people are, i buy expensive wiper blades and they last forever and work 10x better
Ibex89 ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 05:16:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Plenty of people are just regular poor.
soggymittens ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:54:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Which ones last forever (or at least a couple years)? In my experience, the blades need to be replaced about every year regardless of how much I spend on them. I still buy decent quality (from Costco), but Iโm not spending $20-30+ on a blade.
Roku6Kaemon ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:16:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is definitely how it is. Summer heat and winter freezes are not great for blades, so going much longer than a year is really pushing it for even the best blades.
Bflmps77 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:10:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly. For me there was never much difference between blade for ยฃ5 and blade for ยฃ18, they need to be changed every year and they damage usually at same speed.
jared875 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:35:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
None last forever. Buy cheap ones and just replace them every 6 months or so. They'll last longer in beautiful 70f all the time California but in the north where it get really cold and then really hot they won't last nearly as long.
Keinichn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:04:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being cheap isn't always a choice.
cnwillie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:07:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I totally understand that, i worked in an auto parts store for a few years, some people legit couldnโt afford, which we helped out, but mostly people were just cheap on the parts they got for their $60k cars
FelineManagement ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:27:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just get the $9 ones at Costco. Iโve accepted that I will always be tempted to try to use the windshield wipers as ice scrapers. It never works. I know it will rip them up. but I canโt stop.
vreten ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:51:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know there is special winter blades? They are softer and have a heavier metal to move the snow. Rockauto like 5 bucks.
Narkova ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:55:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bosch Icons + the orange Rain X washer fluid does great on getting ice off my windshield.
FelineManagement ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:27:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy smokes. Youโre not kidding. Iโm going to give those a go. Thanks!
Muhen ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:43:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem with this is if you live somewhere that has harsh sunlight, like Florida, because it kills the rubber quick no matter how much you spend.
pat1122 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:52:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Agreed, Iโm in TX so I normally change them out once a year after the first big storms once summer passes as it reminds itโs time for new ones. I hate driving with blurry windscreen and not worth the risk for a few bucks since I normally have the kids in the truck.
maxxed713 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:56:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This or buy silicone blades online. Autopart storea dont carry them because they last 3x the length of normal blades.
jmar5106 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:49:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wiper motor went out before I had to deliver pizza in the rain...
Rain X is miracle shit if you haven't tired. Survived comfortably in the moderate rain.
nova46 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:33:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is pretty awesome. One time we had an Uber pick us up in an absolute downpour late at night and when we got on the highway I was like you use rain x don't you? The wipers literally didn't even help, because the water just beaded right up the windshield with the force of the air at that speed. He kept the rest of his vehicle very clean as well, we had a nice chat about the importance of taking care of your cars.
junior7389 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:55:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've gotten the expensive ones and super expensive ones. I get the cheap ones now because I didn't notice any difference.
FusioNdotexe ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:21:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or just get them at Costco. :).
soggymittens ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:57:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly this. I get Michelins or Bosch for ~$7 a blade. Costco is amazing.
canIbeMichael ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:11:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Check the competition, I've not found Costco lowest cost for almost anything.
soggymittens ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:57:26 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wonโt argue that you might be able to find a lower price on lots of items Costco carries; but I can tell you why it doesnโt make sense to me to do so.
They are ALWAYS reasonably priced. So even if you do find a particular item for a lower price, you had to go looking for it. I spent zero effort trusting that Costco was going to charge me a reasonable markup to purchase an item from them. My time is worth a lot more than the few dollars I could save if I spent plenty of time searching for the lowest price on every item I bought.
Their executive membership rebate (I think itโs like 1% of my purchases throughout the year) means I get my dues back every year, PLUS whatever additional rebate Iโve earned.
They have the lowest price gas in my town. And yes, they may be tied with someone else or even a couple pennies more every once in a while, but again- Iโm saving loads of time not looking for the cheapest gas and just getting it at the (almost always) cheapest place in town.
They have an amazing return policy. Iโve had an item break about a year after I bought it, and the next time I was in I asked a coworker about it. They told me to just bring it back- so I did. No issues what so ever. They didnโt even give me a hard time about it and they trusted I was being honest with them. If I had done that at Walmart, Target, Loweโs, et cetera (heck, even Amazon), I would have never gotten past the comment that my item is a year old.
They take excellent care of their employees and pay them a fair wage. And yes, as important as this is to me, I recognize that itโs last on my list for a reason. There are very few people who will actually pay considerably more for an item because of their morals; with Costco I donโt have that struggle. Their prices are very low and, even if they are a little more than a competitor on some items, generally speaking- they are making less profit to take care of their employees.
canIbeMichael ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 13:21:16 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe compared to Kroger, they are sometimes 2x the price of Walmart.
The rest is pretty much non-cares.
soggymittens ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:30:23 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would bet theyโre not, got any real world examples?
Also, the rebate for the executive membership makes every item cost even less in the end.
canIbeMichael ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:07:00 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
let me know if this link doesnt work
http://goeie.co/grocer-comparison-aldi-walmart-costco-kroger/
This is marketing/sales, not value.
soggymittens ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:44:28 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for the link- it seems to work okay. Iโll check it out when I get back in a couple weeks.
Violet_Plum_Tea ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:34:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please tell me this is legit.
Last time I bought wiper blades I was lazy and just went to the auto supply store instead of shopping around. It was like $60 for the 3 blades. I felt like I was ripped off!
Behemothokun ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:32:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I bought Bosch wiper blades 5 years ago, they are still fine and since they are 5 years old, they actually did last longer than the original ones the car came with.
AMarriedSpartan ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:41:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trico all the way
duck_novacain ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:04:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is one auto parts store in my town that carried the Trico refills. They were awesome and like $3 a blade. Unfortunately that store burned down. It was a small brand auto parts store - Auto Value, or something? - and they never built back.
BatmanPicksLocks ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:02:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I live in a desert. It rains every winter atleast a couple times but the heat makes it necessary to replace the wipers every season. It's really not worth spending more for us.
But in rain heavy areas? Hell yeah. Driving in the rain is dangerous enough without not being able to see well.
Lothgar818 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:55:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look into silicone blades. I live in the desert too and I've had my set of PIAA blades for 4 years and they just recently started leaving two little lines on the driver side. Worth it if you ask me.
BatmanPicksLocks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:25:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Huh, touche. I will definetly check that out. Thank you.
cmmdrshepard2 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:04:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I bought Silblade on Amazon. A pair lasts me a few years. They are much better than the Goodyear I got from Costco that I have to replace every few months.
somerandomrubbish ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:42:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can I add, clean your wiper blades.
When you next wash your car, wet the blades when they're up, then run a cloth down them.
This will remove the dust/dirt buildup between the blades and your windscreen.
jared875 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:33:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I believe I read in consumer reports that there was a negligible difference between cheap and expensive blades. The best thing you can do is just get new ones. Remember that wiper blades have zero protection from all the elements and the hot and cool cycles and moisture can greatly deteriorate them. Better to spend 20 bucks every 6 months than 40 a year. Also if you're having trouble with streaking, you can try wiping the actual blades with some isopropyl alcohol to clean them
SkydivingCats ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:34:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Serious q...does it make an actual difference? I am someone who needs a clean windshield, and my solution is to change my blades about every 6 months or so, buying the cheapest blades possible.
I haven't had any issue and the reason I started doing is because I found even with the expensive blades they all seemed to have about a 6-8 month life before they don't work to my satisfaction anymore.
How often do you change yours?
pat1122 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:08:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey bud, Iโm not sure how often you use them so that may make all the difference. Iโm in Dallas so we see rain with transition into spring/summer then again summer/fall so I honestly donโt use the wipers all the often. They do however sit in the 100-110 degree sun during summer which bakes them. I change mine once every 12-18 months. Honestly, I just really hate to have a blurry shield, if it gets blurry and the wipers donโt do their job properly I get super annoyed for some reason. Plus, I will almost always have the kids with me and to spend an extra few bucks on wipers that do their job is worth it to me. However, I havenโt tried to find a pair of cheaper ones that do the trick, so if you found a brand that work perfectly for the 6 months you use them then you may have a winner.
Also, I saw a few posts mentioning rockauto.com is a good source to buy from so you can check them out too, wipers a few bucks each on that site.
chefmonkey002 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:49:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I apply this with other things too. The difference in cost between the most expensive rake and the cheapest rake in the hardware store is $12. That extra $12 is worth the risk of it not actually being marginally better. (Hint: it was way fucking better.)
WreakingHavoc640 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:32:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So much this.
Cheap vs good thereโs a crazy amount of performance difference.
ItsRobbyy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:48:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And wiper fluid.
Wozman101 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:21:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i just did this when i went in to get my car checked! worth it 200%
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:25:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I second this. We went cheap and got the Goodyear ones at Costco. Big mistake. Theyโre crap.
Lothgar818 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:51:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
PIAA or any other good quality silicone wiper. Desert dweller here. Can't tell you how make sets of conventional rubber sets I've thrown away between monsoon seasons due to heat. Silicone just keeps working. Even when they get worn they still work better than a slightly old set of rubber wipers that have seen a summer.
StantonMcBride ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:37:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That and a 6$ 16oz spray bottle of rain-x that will last years changed my life.
monthos ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:19:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Never buy the cheapest products when safety is on the line."
This does not mean to buy the most expensive, but paying a little more moves you out of the "we're making this for bottom dollor and don't care how well it works" category manufacturers have.
bAZtARd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just put some glycerine on mine. Now they are nice & smooth again.
NotAThrowAway454 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:08:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually disagree. I find that the high quality ones have been too stiff for the curvature of my windshield. Maybe Iโve just had bad luck.
honz_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:17:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tires too!
Timedoutsob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:39:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You actually want to buy some aftermarket silicone wiper blades.
Diarrhea_Eruptions ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:46:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Replacing the wiper insert for my Honda blades is like 8 dollars a piece or so..compared to the 25 dollar whole arm aftermarket part. No thanks
JuFo2707 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:49:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, get a blade cutter. They only cost about 5-10โฌ and most have 2 or 3 settings, effectively tripling the time you can use a single wiper blade.
paperpaste ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:07:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also clean your wiper blades when you clean your car. It's the dirt that's stopping your wiper blades from clearing your window
notthefoodie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:15:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did this, got my ass beat by my dad, and the wipers are still good after almost a year and a half.
A1000eisn1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:26:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It would be amazing advice if the motor for the wipers didn't go out on every fucking car I've owned (4).
EggShellBuddyPal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:27:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Second that! Also try some silicon wiper blade refills, since some blade designs are easier than others just to swap out the blades instead. Way cheaper in some cases.
kr2c ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:30:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My advice would be the exact opposite. I've had cheap blades last years and expensive brands (Rain X) fail within hours every time I've installed them. For what it's worth the Rain-x water repellent makes wipers basically unnecessary in anything less than a monsoon, but their blades are overpriced trash and anyone who pays extra for them is throwing money away.
PIotTwist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:09:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm. Bought the cheepest ones as mine looked like a comb. Was so exited to see all the water go away I almost ignored the sound of it's people. It's now all I can hear every time I use them, horrible, just loud enough screetching....
ThanklessTask ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:55:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Living that dream (of not doing it) right now. Sound advice.
Hondatech12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:47:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you drive a Honda you can just replace the rubber portions at the dealer for cheap. Change mine once a year and it's something like 12$ for both and they last through Canadian winters
TSW-760 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:29:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I disagree with this one, could you give your reasons?
My experience has been that I can either buy expensive blades at Auto zone for $15-20 each, and replace them every other year, or I can buy dirt cheap ones at the bargain store for $3-4 each, and replace them once a year.
mmbc168 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:43:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This can not be overstated. Best extra money you will ever spend.
deviant324 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:25:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
not on my car you don't
momoo111222 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:44:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not if you live in Saudi Arabia where it can reaches 120โขF plus
NoMaans ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:45:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. Just bought some rainx ones and omfg have I been missing out.
Luckrider ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:43:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The key is just to find good ones, they don't have to be expensive. For a long time, I was cutting down 15" wipers for my 2004 Wrangler because finding 13" blades is impossible and they are almost always junk in 2 weeks. That led me to only buying beam style wipers because I needed to be able to remove the end caps to cut them down (and I was also cutting them to a custom size for better windshield coverage). I came to like the Michelin wipers, and more recently the Rain-X Latitude with rain repel. Both last for 6+ Months and I regularly get a full year from them as long as I clean the windshield and wipers every month or so. I believe the Rain-X wipers are ~$13 each at Walmart so they are a pretty good value.
Zombiefoetus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:48:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm dealing w this shit right now. Listen to this man.
Bmxergreg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:32:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
no way. I just continually buy the cheap $4 ones from walmart. as soon as it starts streaking a bit swap it over to the passenger and get a fresh one for the driver.
I tried the $15 latitude RAINX blades side by side with walmart's supertech and it left a giant streak in middle of the window where the middle of the blade wouldn't contact the windshield.
Maybe my car was rather old and the springs didn't hold the wiper hard enough to the window, but I get better performance and can replace with new blades for a lot cheaper than the expensive ones.
i haven't tried the Bosch or michelem brands though.
blue1324 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:10:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would also add, don't go cheap on tires. I've had cheap tires and they can be really bad to the point of being dangerous.
glumunicorn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:00:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also wipe off your wipers every time you fill up your tank, itโll make any last longer.
bone420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:18:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I live in the desert. Ive had a broken balde for over a year. It rained 1 day (one) so i had to take the rubber off the pasanger wiper and wrap it around the driver side.
Should be good for another year or so....
I will NOT be spending extra on useless gadgets, thank you
edestron ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:33:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You should purchase silicone wipers on Amazon. Its a secret that manufacteurs dont want you yo know for they last up to 5 years so u never need replace ur wipers , just a tiny bit more expensive is the beauty part
HelloBeautifulChild ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:38:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom told me to always get the rain-x ones/nice ones and I have never regretted it.
zorro1701e ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:11:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
is it me or are wipes getting crappier? when i was 17 and had a crappy job i would get the cheapest wipers, they would last for 2 years easily and work well for that time, now i spend more and they dont last a year.
Chaslain ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:19:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is a razor you can buy that lets you slice the worn out rubber off of a rubber wiper and it will work like new.
Also, Silicon wiper blades last about a decade.
Duckbilling ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:33:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also.... Wipe your wiper blades off when your getting gas. Spray with silicone spray and they'll last you find years with perfect clear windshield when you use them
hopsandhorns ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:34:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you get yours from an Advanced Auto Parts store, check online first. It's usually cheaper and you can just pick up at the store that you were going to visit anyway. This happened to me last week and got 2 wiper blades for $17 each, instead of their $25 per each price at the store.
thatbluegti ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:54:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To add on this, keeping your windows clean (inside and out). I also recommend using rainx or any other hydrophobic coating. You can almost drive in heavy rain without turning on your wipers.
cususici ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:11:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why is that?
ChemicalLadder1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:26:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use RainX and you don't need wiper blades.
Speedy-McLeadfoot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:15:44 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get the RainX ones, and use RainX washer fluid. Not only does it extend the life of the blade by acting as a slight lubricant to minimize chatter, but RainX does its job well, so, spraying the washer fluid once in a blue moon, you may not have to have your wipers on quite as fast as you normally would, so less use means longer life. Also, I clean the blade when I notice any streaks, and that usually makes it streak-free again. My RainX beam-type blades are closing in on 2 years old now, and, while they look like they have aged a bit, they still donโt streak, chatter, or show any signs of failure. Itโs great really.
Plus, life tip for any wiper blade: if your wipers are on a higher setting and are skipping/chattering loudly, turn it down a notch. I see plenty of people, where, what was a regular rain, lightened up to a light-ish rain, hey I hear the car next to me has their wipers on high, and they are jumping and skipping all over. That will wear them out quickly.
sunmonkey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:25:00 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually if you can, keep your original wiper blades from the dealership and just replace the inserts. You'll save money and be using a blade specifically designed for your vehicle.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
noooo! The expensive ones are a scam. The cheapest metal ones from Crappy Tire work best.
Online_Host ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 07:09:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rain-X... if you're poor.
And if you're a rich car fanatic, there's a special ceramic coating you can apply to the whole car. It's extremely pricey but your driver will be the happiest driver in the world. She/He will never ever have to dust it, ever; let alone, wash it... Ever. If you don't believe me, ask Jay Leno or look for your local bourgeoisie auto detailer and ask.
Tehsyr ยท 24407 points ยท Posted at 01:46:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unclench your jaw, open your hands, drop your shoulders, and breathe in.
[deleted] ยท 7001 points ยท Posted at 03:11:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This made me realize how tense I am rn
newsensequeen ยท 5460 points ยท Posted at 04:53:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're probably clenching your butthole,too. Relax your ass.
Don't worry you won't shit yourself.
Unless you really need to go to number two right now...
short_insults ยท 218 points ยท Posted at 05:13:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
thanks jerk, now i need a new pair of pants
[deleted] ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 05:20:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Kahalahili ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 05:18:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for doing that. Laughed super god damned hard
FrostyGovernment ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:39:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Relevant https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CA_0rWc-mZg
Song is Eric Prydz - Opus
short_insults ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:26:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TIHI
andreasbeer1981 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:32:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You did have to say that while I'm eating mรผsli, did you?
NolanZelda ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:31:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Usernames check out.
francozzz ยท 44 points ยท Posted at 05:57:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Underrated comment. I have some patients that suffer severe damage to at least two nerves because they clench their butthole too much
spamandeggs1212 ยท 48 points ยท Posted at 06:45:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Omg how do I know if Iโm clenching my butthole too much
5D_Chessmaster ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 06:49:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You'll know
ChironiusShinpachi ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 06:53:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had super diarrhea for a few years. The first few months was a lot of bathroom trips but with so many trips being a no show from the brown team I got tired of that quickly and started holding it. Let me tell you, that's some serious work. My butthole would be sweating all day until one day that mother fucker was so yoked out I can hold that shit for hours no sweat, literally. Could probably smash a watermelon if I could fit it (I don't want to try.)
DANKKrish ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:55:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chrons disease?
ChironiusShinpachi ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:04:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never been checked out. There's a position I wake up in often that makes me vomit untill everything is back where it's supposed to be. Also it tends to give me diarrhea. Like I'll be good then get into that position and it's everyone out. Runners diarrhea is an option, which when I properly adjust my abdomen it goes away, same with the vomiting. I usually just end up puking cuz it takes too long to adjust it all, I only caught it once so far. I'm one of those people who's every part of my body hurts weekly or bi weekly. Went to ER once cuz my appendix was in horrible pain. Your illeocecal valve is right in there, that's in your intestines and that thing can give you the runs or constipate you. Well in all my self adjustment there's like 5 spots on the body that pull on that spot. Also kind of a bitch to fix, I have it right now. It was my hip this time. Feels good man.
redlightsaber ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 10:13:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Uhm, dude, you should really consider getting a thorough check-up by a gastroenterologist.
ChironiusShinpachi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:35:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do turn 35 soon. It is about time to start getting checked up regularly. Then again, would be interesting to one day just drop lol. No I notice something is wrong with my body pretty quickly. So far there's no pain I haven't been able to get rid of, and with being able to both stop from having to puke and stop from having the runs by moving my body in certain ways, I'm not too concerned. By the end of the day I usually have my body back in tune. It's the sleeping part that messes me up. I'm pretty fit, used to being on my feet all day, tons of energy, fast physical recovery, great metabolism, reflexes, flexibility. Just, my body hurts from being out of whack often because, honestly probably hip damage. One leg has been shorter than the other most of my life. Chiropractor puts it back in, I put it back in, but it goes out all the time. Talking too much. Off work now with a bowl and a beer. Thanks KS for the concern anyway.
redlightsaber ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:42:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, it doesn't really explain the periodic vomiting and diarrhea, and for all your hypotheses, they shouldn't be happening at all, and there's no discernible mechanism by which they should be going away "by making adjustments".
It's not only concern for a stranger on the internet, but as another commenters said, it could be an inflammatory bowel disease (wouldn't dare to attempt to diagnose you, just an example).
Imagine for a second that you have such a thing, which causes more damage over time if left untreated; but on the other side of a coin for a vast majority of cases can be managed by taking a pill a day.
Doesn't not having periodic diarrhea and vomiting like at all, sound appealing to you, all else aside? This is a likely outcome, and in the absolute worst case scenario, they are able to find nothing and you can carry on as usual making weird body movements to manage it.
ChironiusShinpachi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:51:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean I get constipation the same way, then adjust myself and suddenly have to poo. Mostly to do with which guts are being pulled on by what. When I say adjust myself, I'd like it to popping your back. It eases the tension of muscles and such pulling abnormally on the surrounding tissues. An aggravated ileocecal valve can do all that too, and my hip pulls on it all the time. I popped it in earlier but it hurts again right now, and popped back in. Also I should mention I have beers daily, so having less solid poo isn't all that irregular. Used to drink more, just not digging the drunk lately. Not currently in the 10%.
redlightsaber ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:52:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take care, man. In all senses of the word.
ChironiusShinpachi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:57:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you, you do the same. I can honestly say I am currently better than any other time in my life. Never been better has never been so accurate.
Vasoir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:44:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone's different so take this with a grain of salt
Make sure you don't drink alcohol and eat right before you sleep and eat enough, it may also be partially psychological.
I have awful nausea and constipation problems daily if I A. Don't eat enough, B. Eat right before I sleep, C. Drink alcohol right before I sleep, or D. Get really excited/ anxious when I wake up.
I was really convinced, when I hit this constant nausea and constipation spell in 2016, that I had something wrong with me, took all sorts of medication, changed up my diet (though didn't eat enough), etc. Even got a colonoscopy done to check. And I was clean as a whistle.
I noticed that after that I mentally started to feel less anxious and in turn, better and more comfortable with eating and therefore better overall.
I eventually found out that I have bad acid reflux and anxiety that creates a majority of my issues and it's super bad when I'm sleeping.
Omeprazole may be a drug you'd look into trying. As well as either an antidepressant or benzo for anxiety.
And trust me I already smoke weed and drink, weed sorta helps but it's temporary for me.
ChironiusShinpachi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:52:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh yeah, anxiety can be a bitch on the guts for sure. I know that one.
Vasoir ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:57:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For sure man, good luck with everything though and take it easy.
Mijari ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:10:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do you mean by adjustments
ChironiusShinpachi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:15:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm documenting them and am going to record a how to. Should work for others. Every headache/migraine I get, every pain in my hands, arms, legs, body, head, and joints. There's well over 1000 so it's not easy to just explain.
DANKKrish ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:17:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd say go to a doctor but it sounds like you are american because you would have done it already if not for that
ChironiusShinpachi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:39:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well yes, but I've been dealing with pain all my life. Head smashed in an orbatron when I was about 10. Basically downhill from there. Didn't know my one leg was over an inch shorter than the other til I was like 13 when I was getting church pants hemmed up and the legs weren't the same size. Been to the chiropractor a lot, to the ER for some pains, but realistically I can't get looked at every time I hurt, and it's like a headache, just different parts of my body. I adjust it and it doesn't hurt anymore. Actually I've learned a ton from it. No more sore back for weeks and shit like that. If I wake up with a stiff neck or sciatica, actually the last time I had sciatica I was just stepping out of my car to go to work. BAM! But I had figured that out and it took me a few hours to be good.
Wh1teCr0w ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:54:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put some coal in there. If you end up with a diamond, you'll know.
francozzz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:58:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My strategy to check with patients is to ask them to clench, then to relax. With a maximum clench, they can really feel the difference when they relax.
Another way is to lay on your back on the bed, then bend your knees and put the feet on the bed. In this position, with a finger, you can check the area surrounding your anus. This area should be soft. If it's tense, try to clench as much as you can, keep the tension for about 4-5 seconds, then relax. If you check again with your finger, you should feel that it's now much softer.
redlightsaber ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:12:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait, is this a thing? Nerve damage you say? I thought at worst the consequences would be anal fissures.
francozzz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:46:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Analisi fissures can damage the pudendal nerve, and a suffering pudendal nerve can lead to sciatic nerve suffering, and can mimic low back pain in certain cases
redlightsaber ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:49:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you neuro? Or gastro? This is both fascinating and terrifying.
Faenn_11 ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 06:00:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
since I do most reddit lurking on the toilet this applies to me in so many ways right now.
KernelTaint ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:37:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same. I'm pooping and typing.
Faenn_11 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:31:33 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
and people wonder why my spelling is so bad. I am obviously typooing, that why there are so many typoos in my comments and things.
HailSquishface ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:58:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a Liverpool fan.
Never Unclench.
WeeklyPlane6 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:55:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you do fellow red
DRAXX_THEM_SKLOWNTZ ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 06:17:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pelvic tension is a bitch. I didnt realize how bad it was till i tried CBD. Now when I relax for bed i make a point to take my tongue off of the roof of my mouth and relax my sphincter, then typically the rest of the relaxation happens on it's own.
Good advice.
Moralio ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 06:42:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice try Ant-Man.
DurianLongan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:07:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks spotted
sexaddic ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:57:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Words I live by
FPSHero007 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 06:02:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damnit I shit myself... wait I'm on the shitter
Leitoso ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:44:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I almost shit myself man
omioppa ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:03:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Laughed at first, but then realised how tense I was.
TheGreatAgnostic ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:51:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs oddly specific.
quinoa_rex ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:04:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's for real, though! Lots of people (me included) hold tons of tension in their glutes and PC muscles. Consciously unclenching is weirdly relaxing.
trolltruth6661123 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:07:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I AM READY FOR YOU
Fizzyliftingdranks ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:22:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bold if you to assume I'm not pooping right now.
dunkdrunkdump ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:56:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*Thanus FIFY
YronArchibald ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:59:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ULPT
sillyaviator ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:03:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i need to chanfe my underwear
Annnable ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:37:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was 100% clenching my butthole.
LOLatCommentAbove ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:47:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โRelax your assโ worst chat up line ever
tionanny ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:52:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
AKSHULLYY...
If you clench your butt hole repetitively (say 40/50 times) it has a relaxing effect. It has worked for everyone I know that has tried it. Just takes a while to admit what you just did.
lostmau5 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:02:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Now stroke the taint.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:02:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks I'm currently shitting, this advice helped .
jaycell ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:03:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice try Ant-Man
DannieWatts ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:10:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have Ulcerative Colitis.
My secret... my asshole is always angry (clenched).
Alargestomach ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:52:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I call it number 1 because itโs my first priority. I only get this enjoyment once a day if Iโm lucky.
Vrigoth ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:13:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone just pooped my pants
arthurdentstowels ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:34:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks a lot. Now I need to hire an upholstery steamer.
porno_ninja ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:36:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Shit Whisperer strikes once again
Guy0130 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:41:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im reading this on the toilet so it actually helped
DrilldarkOP ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:50:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if I told you I'm already shitting rn
slimeyslime123 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:03:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This nearly caused me to burst blood vessels in my face.
Skdslams ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:09:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The best advice is in the replies.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:11:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what is this magic?
TballZBear ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:28:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*reads while sitting on the toilet
Peeche94 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:41:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Got Crohns, the bank now stinks, thanks.
Engelshatz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:33:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy hell I just thought I was weird as hell to always be clenched. Thanks for comforting my anus kind stranger.
FishesNBitches ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:55:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's actually the best piece of advice I ever received for freediving (breathold diving). Clenching uses your muscles uses oxygen, so you cant stay down for as long ๐คท๐ฝโโ๏ธ
Fried_Cheesee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:03:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was all silent here until a laughed loud and now my mom is staring at me help
milo_mb ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:35:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I laughed out loud in the office and tried to stop myself laughing, and somehow inhaled my saliva and now I'm just choking and coughing instead. Thanks mate.
Foxiferous ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:30:36 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well shit -
This is what I get for never reading the fine print.
:(
MitteeNZ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:50:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Currently pooping, so my asshole is at it's most relaxed
j0hnb3n1c3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:28:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/cursedcomments
Hewhoiswooshed ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:28:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clenching me butt is how I poop. Am I pooping wrong?
MostNeed ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:28:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How about a DETROIT SMASH
LordFrogberry ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:19:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Joke's on you! I'm sitting on a toilet!
Juggernaut78 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:23:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was thinking about how big my tongue feels in my mouth.
AmeerFarooq ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:51:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont worry im in the toilet now.
Ahefp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:22:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, that partโs fun.
superchiewy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:48:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
relaxed my front and released I need to pee
SamsonHunk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:54:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jokes on you, I'm already shitting on the toilet
teh_fizz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:17:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clench your ass, relax your butthole. Though that might result in some worming...
CherokeeCyclist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:34:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People read Reddit off of the pooper??
IshouldGetBack2Work ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:28:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Antman would like to know your location.
fishyBoii_dreamMeme ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:18:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Didn't see the last text. Gotta go
thetresking ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:08:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
READ THE FINE PRINT! that's how they get ya.
Crema5ter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:09:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โRelax your ass.โ This is the funniest comment i have ever fucking read
dingbattt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:12:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd like to believe that someone was sitting on the can for half an hour, read your comment, and then did the deed.
smelly_v2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:11:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Things said by my uncle for $200, Alex"
nborders ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:21:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Promise?
Here goes...
kesht17 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:50:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Problem averted if youโre already on the toilet
Creepy_OldMan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:16:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I bleed out of my butthole what do i do?
_Ross- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:27:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear, just shit in my hands
JollyTurbo1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:23:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice try Antman
thebross9 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:53:13 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Paul Rudd is staring at me though
DancingBear2020 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:08:11 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for putting that in the small print. ๐
GiverOfZeroShits ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:43:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You canโt clench your ass without flexing your penis
AnAussieWeasley ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:51:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can
GiverOfZeroShits ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:52:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve seen this raw strength only once before
AnAussieWeasley ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:57:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No one give away that I don't have a penis.
urixl ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:55:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is it possible to learn this power?
GiverOfZeroShits ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:04:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not from a Jedi
AnAussieWeasley ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:59:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also nice
sadimaginaryfriend ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 04:50:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
GOT really messed us up last night.
Tr3Way_fu ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:01:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It diiiiid.
VikingTeddy ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:10:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And your stomach. For God's sake unclench your stomach.
Also, if like me you clench your jaw a lot, getting in to the habit of pushing your tongue between yOur teeth will help you notice and unlearn it.
WaffleOnAKite ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:03:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do all those things when I'm anxious and it makes me really uncomfortable to not do them at that point. I feel vulnerable and just... wrong.
averageuhbear ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:30:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do body scan meditations, really makes you aware of how much tension you hold in different spots of your body.
happyunicyclehappy ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:55:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hi tense rn Iโm dad
potterheadsahil ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:14:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, you're not.
fromsoft_bestsoft ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:16:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doesnโt really work with what he said lol
happyunicyclehappy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:28:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Plz
MyDiary141 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:23:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just let your tongue rest, there is no need to be holding it up uncomfortably
alexbetke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:50:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take your tongue off the roof of your mouth too.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:26:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ditto
Sully1102 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:51:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to commute 90 minutes each way. At the end of the day, when I was finally home, I would realize how badly my jaw hurt from clenching.
Ahem_ak_achem_ACHOO ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 04:48:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like heโs describing Beavis
TenGHz ยท 9703 points ยท Posted at 04:26:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just dropped my phone. :(
LePontif11 ยท 3433 points ยท Posted at 04:58:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop holding it with your mouth then.
FlashpointSynergy ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 07:23:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do what I want
ShreyGoyal ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 12:23:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, the ol' Reddit relaxaroo!
Shadilay_Were_Off ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:41:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hold my phone, I'm going in!
TheRealPixeLink ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:36:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hello, future people!
brainburger ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 15:03:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmm. Not actually a switcheroo, this one.
0VY3a6h3VR1K1X9cY862 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 08:46:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
he just did, that's why he dropped it
giraffecause ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:32:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This somehow ends up with a series of demonstrative pictures.
xinaaa ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:29:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
or in between your shoulderblades
PoIIux ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:00:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or your butthole
ecodesiac ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:37:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://youtube.com/watch?v=GPzcutS8_bI
Whos_Sayin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:52:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck this reminded me of all those zeze tiktoks
Project2r ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:22:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're not the boss of me.
SkeetDavidson ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 04:56:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Me too. It felt good.
Edit: I rarely leave my bed. Phone is safe.
Edit 2: I had an overwhelming day. This just hit me like a wall of comforting bricks.
ChadleyDooRight ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:43:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
By comforting bricks, I believe you mean pillows
QualityCabbage1 ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 04:37:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
๐
trouser_mouse ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:59:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That made me clench my teeth
Shaggyninja ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:01:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, drop your shoulders silly
Just-Call-Me-J ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:10:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*surprised Pikachu meme*
Eren03eren ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:01:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
F
Hotkoin ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:01:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then the advice works
smellslikefeetinhere ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:12:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, severing your connection to the electronic world is the next step to true harmony. Quick learner, this one.
Preparingtocode ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:54:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
F
qdust ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 05:03:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
F? F what? The letter before G? The letter after E? Did you know that in Fu the F stands for โfuck?โ So your reply is โfuck?โ or F as in Flourine? Do you need some Special F for breakfast? F as in I can fuck you? Can I fuck you and feed you to hungry falcons? Falcons have an f in it. "Fโ? Are you fucking kidding me? I spent a decent portion of my life writing all of that and your response to me is "Fโ?Are you so mentally handicapped that the only letter you can comprehend is "Fโ - or are you just some fucking asshole who thinks that with such a short response, he can make a statement about how meaningless what was written was? Well, I'll have you know that what I wrote was NOT meaningless, in fact, I even had my written work proof-read by several professors of literature. Don't believe me? I doubt you would, and your response to this will probably be "Fโ once again. Do I give a fuck? No, does it look like I give even the slightest fuck about a single letter? I bet you took the time to type that one letter too, I bet you sat there and chuckled to yourself for 20 hearty seconds before pressing "send". You're so fucking pathetic. I'm honestly considering directing you to a psychiatrist, but I'm simply far too nice to do something like that. You, however, will go out of your way to make a fool out of someone by responding to a well-thought-out, intelligent, or humorous statement that probably took longer to write than you can last in bed with a chimpanzee. What do I have to say to you? Absolutely nothing. I couldn't be bothered to respond to such a worthless attempt at a response. Do you want "Fโ on your gravestone? Do you want people to remember you as the asshat who one day decided to respond to someone with a single letter? "Hey, look, everybody! It's that "fโ guy!" That's who you are. You're going to be known as the "Fโ guy. How does it feel? Do you feel happy? Quite honestly, I don't care, which is why I'm not even going to respond to you. Goodbye, and good luck with your future as that guy who said "Fโ. Alright listen up motherfucker, and get your comfy seat because we're gonna be here a while. Do you really think you can just get away with "f" as a message? What if someone did that to you, huh? Do you think you would like it? Making an entire paragraph to get a fuckin' one letter response of the sixth letter in the alphabet, you think that's fuckin' funny, jackass? Do you want your crush to respond back with "fโ after you spill your feelings out like this? (Take me back, Emma.) Huh? What if I did it to you? F. Did you fuckin' like that? What, did you just jizz in your pants because someone disregarded your entire effort of writing this ENTIRE paragraph FROM HAND in about fifteen minutes? That just makes me feel fucking rejected just like my ex. (Take me back, Roxanne.) f. What're you, fuckin' gay? Can I have a response that actually MEANS something instead of just shitfacing our "conversation" with the spam of "f?โ. Now occasionally with questions or something it's reasonable, but doing it to any fucking response they say. "We're having a nuclear crisis, you have fifteen minutes to evacuate." You're the type of person that would fuckin' say "fโ to that, you limp dick hypocrite. You think you can get away with this, right? You think it's SOOOOOO funny to do this shit, but I can guarantee that you'll be taken out back and shot soon. You're fucking dead, "fโucker.
Munoobinater ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 05:07:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Press f to pay respects
tynsax ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:19:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
F
CuriousClimate ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:22:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
WTF
Wolfmilf ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:24:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
F
orkamcclurg07 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:32:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you feel better now
Preparingtocode ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:52:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
F
m0tta ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:31:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You took the words right out of my keyboard!
lemon_whirl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:23:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If this isn't a copypasta, it's one of my favorite comments f all time.
DeGrav ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 05:09:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wat? Oh, btw, it's not cool to copy paste a comment.
Azuron1798 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:28:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is this a woooosh?
StWav_ ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:00:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wosh
an_old ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:07:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worsh
SymbioticCarnage ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:37:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/WOSH
konq ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:24:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Speech to text is getting pretty good.
Aluption ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:27:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This made my day, thank you!
MonseiurCat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:09:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm in a car and wouldโve dropped my phone on my dick if I had opened my hands. Iโm glad I didnโt.
randelkorgan ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:04:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/foundthemobileuser
StWav_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:59:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
F
looking_for_insight ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:06:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you
sample-name ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:38:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just apply some percussion adjustment
NeoNuatica ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:46:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well at least food didn't fall out of your mouth...
liltootofficial ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:02:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
From your butthole?
Rakorsteel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:32:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/foundamobileuser
Jonatc87 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:40:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See how much more relaxed you are without it?
cylante ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:23:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trying out the percussive maintenance?
Gishgashgosh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:44:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At least it still works
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:46:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At least you didn't drop your shoulders :I
WhatAmIDonigHere ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:27:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you had it easy bro... I dropped my best friends with whom i was making a human pyramid
MrMiyamoto ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:46:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just dropped my pants. :)
edictive ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:09:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just dropped my pants!
okovko ยท 131 points ยท Posted at 04:32:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, release your brow. We are constantly holding our faces to keep up appearances. Just let your face go dope-y and enjoy. I learned to do that when I noticed myself doing it all night, unable to sleep, replaying memories.
doctorfunkerton ยท 52 points ยท Posted at 04:52:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My brow will remain furrowed.
I'm actually going to furrow even further now that you mentioned it.
๐คจ
warmglory ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 05:01:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ha this was my reaction when i was a younger, more belligerent type. anytime i saw a post online pointing out the mental benefit of relaxing i would tense right up and hunch/furrow even deeper as some kind of rebelious fuck you to the ether and whoever it was daring to offer me unsolicited good advice on the internet, i wasnt online to chill! serious fuckery was afoot and damned if i wasnt going to fuckerize along with it.
w_actual ยท 48 points ยท Posted at 04:44:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think I just had a stroke
okovko ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:08:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm glad you relieved that tension! I get a tingly feeling in behind my eyes after I'm particularly stressed and I remind myself to relax. I think I know what you mean, it's like a feeling of blood rushing. It's weird.
uglygoose123 ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 05:20:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tried this, coworkers asked if I was having a stroke since my face went slack.
okovko ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:45:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not in public xd
handcuffed_ ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:49:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do people do this?
okovko ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 05:06:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, when you totally relax your face, you look kind of like an imbecile. So, yes. You are doing it now and you haven't even realized it yet. I mean, IDK, maybe you go around everywhere looking like an imbecile. In that case, I recommend that you furrow!
Bonk_Bonk_Bonk_Bonk ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:13:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll stick with lazy and looking like a dumbass to people I don't care about in the slightest
ztikmaenn ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:09:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn I just tried this looking in the mirror and can't stop laughing
okovko ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:18:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol I just tried it by the mirror. Yeah, better when no one is looking!
FoursGirl ยท 68 points ยท Posted at 02:16:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you watching me?
TheLoveliestKaren ยท 97 points ยท Posted at 05:00:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy fuck, how long had I been clenching my jaw?!
dotheSAFETYsplat ยท 52 points ยท Posted at 05:02:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Probably most of your life
tehsma ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:03:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe years.
FreeMarketAnarchy ยท 61 points ยท Posted at 04:42:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I almost nutted
keepoffmylawn ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 04:48:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When taking a relaxing deep breath, try to feel like you're breathing into/expanding the space behind your lungs. Makes for a nice full diaphragm stretch.
Yuucliwood ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:55:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That felt surprisingly good.
telleisnotreal ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:35:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And try and push your belly out at the same time.. I went through this with my psychologist and felt like a complete potato because the lady had to teach me how to breathe in, but just the act of fully inflating my lungs cut my base level anxiety by half.
Snukii ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:23:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know what that means
Lgfenixlol ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 04:40:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did this at the wrong time and started choking on my drink
f0reign_Lawns ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 04:46:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought this was blowjob advice at first
MikeyToxin ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 08:45:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It isn't not blowjob advice.
f0reign_Lawns ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:04:44 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh well. I'll keep my palms open next time anyway.
TokemonMaster ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 04:53:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy fucking shit dude
I have asthma and that is no doubt the deepest I've breathed in my whole life. Actually a little light headed.
roecocoa ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:39:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! Also, release the tension your forehead and ears.
dekayzerart ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:43:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But how?!
DC1029 ยท 64 points ยท Posted at 04:50:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unclench your ears and open your forehead!
Iamkracken ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:06:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sounds disgusting.
GoodKidMaadSuburb ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:07:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear, now have bullet in brain.
the_leprechauns_anus ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:44:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathe through your vagina.
nhillen ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:16:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This seems backwards.... chin down, hands up, light on your toes, flex and exhale as the punches come in. Remember you won't knock them out with one punch, throw combinations, and the worst thing you can do when you get hit is just stand there and let them keep hitting you.
ebwax24 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:19:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't even realize I was doing that
joeyydoesntsharefood ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:43:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
wow. i was biting the inside of my cheeks when i read this. thanks, needed this.
Onbeskofte ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:28:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can we breath out yet?
BatmanPicksLocks ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:01:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I am constantly tense. CONSTANTLY. Like almost every part of my body. I've had to recently start teaching myself how to relax and it isnt easy for some reason.
But when i do actually remember to do this, and can actually get my body to do it, it feels amazing.
mvanvoorden ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:47:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do yoga. It helps you become a lot more aware of your posture, while you also get to stretch your muscles and learn to relax your mind.
Dank_Schnitzel ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:01:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am doing this on the toilet and the smell is killing me
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:03:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's a dank schnitzel.
Dank_Schnitzel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:51:45 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's a dick waffle
likeanaughtyavocado ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:14:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I need a constant reminder to unclench my jaw. Thanks.
Dace88 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:40:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm screenshotting that shit
SirBackspace ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:04:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you unclench it?
ClassicBooks ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:13:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lie down on floor (soft mat under preferably) and just let your jaw and tongue drop as much as possible. Preferabbly a few big breaths and some sighs help with that.If you can do that, you can probably do it consciously at some point by breathing in through nose, and out through open mouth.
ellefemme35 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:45:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always close my eyes with this one.
jw60888 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:09:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I bet 90% of the people did as well
ellefemme35 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:09:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It just cuts down on the sensory overload!!!
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:34:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your comment probably made the world a better place by 6500 happier peeps and counting, nice!
Tehsyr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:23:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been on reddit to know the only reason why my inbox would go well past a 100 notifications would either be that I finally made that one comment that got a crap ton of upvotes and replies, or I did something to piss off a user, which is usually the latter. I'm glad this time it's the former, and it makes me happy knowing I was able to help people from so far away with just a simple sentence.
JohnTDouche ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:05:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just can't believe this is actually a thing. People actually go about their day with every with their jaws clenched, hands in fists, all tensed up. It must be exhausting. That shit must shorten your lifespan.
jhryjm ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:09:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
On my third hour of breathing in, i think my lungs have rup
Richzorb1999 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:49:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't get this advice til I accidentally cracked a tooth
doctorfunkerton ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:52:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But I'm high on cocaine, dewey
Hunnilisa ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:24:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for this, I just unclenched my jaw. I need a buzzer that goes off every 10 min to remind me to unclench my Jaw.
RizeofaDJ ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:11:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I literally did this and these two dogs outside stopped fighting.
Nebu-Den ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:10:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I... I hurt my shoulder doing this. What the fuck.
ClassicBooks ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:16:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was probably too tense already, and what you feel is the release. A professional massage might be a good idea for the short term, and doing yoga or similar stretching exercises to prevent it in the future.
Urmomgay-jpg ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:44:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't not yawn by trying
derekpearcy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:46:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In through the nose, out through the mouth.
terribletoiny ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:07:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck that felt delicious
sirshakespeare ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:18:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation in general.
I had 0 confidence in it but gave it a try out of frustration and what do you know? It works.
MysterJumper ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:37:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I need someone to help me pick my shoulders back up
IdontknowPItothe40th ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:56:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use an app that frequently reminds me of this. You never realize how tense you are until you you drop it all and take a deep breath.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:11:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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IdontknowPItothe40th ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:13:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Headspace. The voice is calming. You can do 1-30 min (I think) sessions. Never used Breathe.
Legaato ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:34:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why do we do this? I feel like humans are just constantly waiting for a predator to come and devour them and that's why we're so tense.
s00perguy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:46:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
thanks. I clench my jaw unconsciously to the point I've worn my teeth down pretty bad. this is helpful :)
Ishouldnotbe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:09:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That may be bruxism. You may want to check with your dentist.
Krilati_Voin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:34:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, yes, opposite problem- believes my dad, and yes.
plasticinaymanjar ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:46:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you
emiliogsa ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:57:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
:0
KenPC ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:03:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought this was more sexual than what it was.
EhrHD ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:33:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dropped my phone, thanks.
TheSonsofAtreus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:35:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks dude :) got a job interview in a bit and that really helped me relax
Danger_Dave_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:38:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, that was more relaxing than I imagined before doing it.
Hviterev ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:38:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oweeee nice! What about your short-game?
keepthisjesse ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:50:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learned this and a golden aura meditation in rehab from someone who was super proud of his job. Got him through prison. He was the first murderer to be let out on parole in my state. It was pretty much aggravated manslaughter these days. Back then I was a murder charge. His winking at me made me feel like a piece of meat though. Dude scared me in a legit sence.
BassPlayer1976 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:58:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The fact that my body shook and my breath quivered scares me.
SteinKrieger ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:15:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
God damn why am I so angry
Mattregataco ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:59:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I might just get this tatooed on my self.
Thanks stranger.
freedomowns ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:55:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I FUCKING DROPPED MY PHONE
DankkPesticides ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:55:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thx
fromarun ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:54:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unclench...your...jaw?
When I read the first word, my mind automatically filled up the next word
Scientolojesus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:57:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What's supposed to happen?
BudzMcKenze ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:54:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I canโt upvote this enough
AbstractBug ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:57:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for the reminder
shitpost90000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:01:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:17:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Zen
notProfCharles ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:18:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks. I needed that...
ysstargirl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:27:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I needed this rn
MechanicalTurkish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:35:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My bubble gum fell out. Five second rule to the rescue!
unholymanserpent ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:39:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ahhhhhh, thanks
ShadyNite ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:40:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm always clenching my jaw, holding my breath, got tongue on the roof of the mouth, and I can't do anything about it
coffeeandstets ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:41:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Felt good.
xcamilleon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:03:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
also: unclench your butt!
blargiman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:07:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
how does this help me as a mouth breather who slouches around?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:07:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre a hero.
ThePsychoKnot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:09:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me it's unclench my butthole and unstick my tongue from the roof of my mouth
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:09:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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ToBeReadOutLoud ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:29:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People tend to hold a lot of tension in their bodies. You may clench your jaw, tense your shoulders or squish your facial muscles. This is just a reminder to let go of that tension and relax.
Iโve been actively reminding myself to do this over the last month or so and it actually really helps.
ellequin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:13:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe skip that last one if you're redditing while pooping, like me.
oooiiiaaasss ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:19:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you unclench ur jaw it makes ur head look long
ThePeaceDoctot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:31:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks man, I dropped my coffee!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:34:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
horrible advice if youre in the middle of a boxing match or a fight
alfrilling ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:41:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you sing
Darth_Gram_Gram ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:04:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow. This... is pretty revealing and relaxing.
gecked ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:06:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just did that and I think my left ear popped.
KSredneck69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:14:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm literally laying here in bed trying to fall asleep and this helped me realize I'm still not as relaxed as I thought I was
Kalapuya ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:17:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also unclench your butthole. Seriously.
OraDr8 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:23:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always have to consciously relax my face when I'm trying to rest, I think I'm relaxed but until I make sure my face relaxes I realise I was actually still tense.
Luhnok ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:25:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Elliot Hulse?
Sylfaein ยท 6795 points ยท Posted at 01:02:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
As someone with a phobia of needles my entire life, I finally (30 years in) had a nurse tell me to ask for a spare alcohol pad and sniff it right as Iโm about to get jabbed. She said the harsh smell is enough of a distraction to keep your mind off the needle. I was there for a flu shot, so I got to try it out right away; I wasnโt expecting much, but it worked! Ive been doing it ever since, and have no trouble with shots or blood draws now, which is huge for someone theyโve triggered panic attacks and near fainting in, before.
Edit: Thank you for the silver!
Hoping this helps everyone as much as it helped me. Explain it to the nurse whoโs doing your shot/blood draw, too! I always do, in hopes that theyโll remember and use it next time they have someone who struggles with needles, and pass the knowledge along.
MidnightDragon99 ยท 247 points ยท Posted at 03:48:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Man I wish this would work for me.
For some reason I associate the smell of rubbing alcohol with shots, and so just the smell makes me dizzy. Itโs awful because my dad is diabetic and I can smell the alcohol prep pads and nearly vomit.
Iโve gotten better over the years, mostly because I need regular blood draws.
But sadly it doesnโt work if the smell triggers the phobia.
Edit: So this blew up a bit! I get blood work done about every 6 months due to a thyroid disorder so hereโs what I do.
If itโs not fasting labs, be sure to drink plenty of water! When youโre dehydrated your veins shrink and collapse some. If youโre hydrated itโll make it easier on you and the phlebotomist!
Close your eyes and take really deep breaths and exhale. Focus on your breathing, feel the air fill your lungs, feel the air leave your lungs as you exhale, DONT LOOK!
If you canโt close your eyes, focus on something in the room. Analyze the object, think in depth about it.
The alcohol has painkillers in it! It numbs your skin. ;) Remember this.
Maybe this sounds kinda bitchy, but donโt worry. Ask the nurse or doctor for their โbest stickโ or best phlebotomist. Some people are just really good at drawing blood.
Tell then beforehand you have a phobia. They get it. Theyโll do their best to help you.
Ask if they have a stress ball or someoneโs hand you can squeeze. That really helps.
This one is silly: Do it for your favorite person! Real or fictional, human or otherwise. Just imagine they need you to do this. Itโs kinda silly, but it works.
These are things that work for me and have made it easier. Iโm also lucky that Iโve had really good people in the past. I still go to the childrenโs center because where I live you can go until youโre 21. So theyโre really good because they work with kids so they have โnumbing sprayโ which is just cold spray, tbqh. It works in some weird way.
Foxdude28 ยท 48 points ยท Posted at 04:18:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck, now I don't know if I want to try this, since I spend most of my job cleaning electronics with isopropyl alcohol and don't want to associate the two.
miles_dallas ยท 63 points ยท Posted at 07:00:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A nurse about to draw blood told me to imagine my dream vacation and tell it to her. Was it the beach or the mountains? What excursions would you want to sign up for, etc. Before I knew it, she had finished. Before that I would sometimes have to lie down and/or get lightheaded.
I now ask nurses as they get started if they have any vacations planned, and as they talk I listen, and I haven't had any problems in years.
grayconverse ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 08:54:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm the exact same way. Last time I had to get blood drawn the nurse said to cough just as the needle goes in. The brain canโt process the pain at the same time so itโs not as bad. You could try it next time, but just tell them beforehand so they donโt get startled by the noise :)
2mg1ml ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 10:24:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But don't you have to be adequately still for needle insertions? Coughing sounds counterintuitive.
1sarcasmpro ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 14:29:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless you are trying to cough up a lung , a little cough that doesnโt really move your body should be ok. Better if you can just give the person using the needle a heads up about what you are going to do so they can just give a touch more stabilization to the limb they are working on as well as the vein they are about to access. Source: EMT/Nurse for forever. Been starting IVs for 25+ years. Well, in between card playing and all.
grayconverse ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:48:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve only tried it once, while laying down and the nurse was holding my arm onto the bed. With that support I didnโt move enough for it to be a problem. Might not work if youโre sitting up
chefe57 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:08:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This entire reply makes perfect sense if you were talking about shots of alcohol
Drinkaholik ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:33:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lmao that's what I thought he meant
intubator ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 15:03:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking water is acceptable before fasting labs.
etihw_retsim ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:18:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Encouraged, even. A little black coffee is also usually allowed, but I just stick to water for fasting tests.
1quirkyquokka ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:30:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can try a strong essential oil like mandarin or eucalyptus!
[deleted] ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 13:54:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
do me a favor take all the essential oils, and stick them so far up your ass , until you cant stop sniffing them.
thanks, have a great day.
1quirkyquokka ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 13:58:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey man, I use them for anxiety not as a vaccine like some of the crazies out there. But hey, maybe shoving them up my ass will have a more direct impact.
jenflu ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:01:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chill my guy. They were saying to use essential oil's for aromatherapy essentially, their intended use. I would get if they were trying to sell them to you or telling you that they heal broken bones.
Fauxally ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:44:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly. And just like how people can associate certain smells with bad memories (like the one person above who gets nauseous at the smell of alcohol) some smells can have positive associations and help a person relax, such as in some essential oils. Itโs a thing.
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:38:06 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You have friends over in r/antiMLM if you're feeling lonely over here.
Fenbob ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:51:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It gets better for you? Itโs got nothing but worse for me. My veins have stopped working in my arms, and now Iโm having to have blood work done from my wrists and itโs incredibly painful. Iโve gone hyper sensitive to it I think. I absolutely hate having blood done. And itโs a regular occurrence.
mizzvicious ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:07:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you tried having them rub and rub and rub some more, the spot they are going to poke? Wrists are painful anyway but once they identify the vein, have them rub briskly with the alcohol or chlorhexidine and the stimulation of the rub makes the poke hurt less
Fenbob ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:13:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think Iโve got a mental thing going on, but I really canโt deal with them rubbing or tapping my arm where theyโre about to dig. It kinda hurts but also feels really weird for me. I just think my heads trying to reject everything to do with needles now.
Which is annoying cause I never used to be like this, I was typically good with needles. But as itโs just got worse and worse, and my veins are getting just as bad(steroids).
Got one tomorrow, so Iโll ask them to rub me vigorously and see how it goes!
MonsieurMacAndCheese ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:58:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My daughter is 8 and has huge needle phobia to the point that during an emergency at the hospital, it took 5 nurses to pin her down while she screamed, fought and broke two fingers of a male nurse while trying to pry off his grip. After comforting her and reassuring her that she wasnโt a bad girl, the male nurse thankfully told her the same and that he wasnโt mad at her, explaining the fight or flight response to her, etc. She was crying hysterically that she hurt someone and didnโt mean to, that sheโs going to get arrested, etc. It was horribly traumatizing. After she went to sleep, I cried and cried because I know that whole experience had made her phobia even worse.
I warned and warned them, I warn every doctor, nurse or tech about her phobia and ask what I can do to help, that I donโt want her to have every experience reaffirm that fear for her.. and they always, always resort to pinning her down. This has created huge trust issues and more.
I recently read about something called a Buzzy which is basically a vibrating bee that you place on the arm thatโs supposed to help distract from the poke and reduce fear and anxiety. It may seem childish for an adult to try but I figure, if it works, why not have a needle phobic adult try it?? I bought one for my daughter to try next time she needs blood drawn, but in her case I hope itโs not too late for it to be effective. The second I even mention a shot or needle, she gets that wild look in her eye and starts looking for an exit, even if weโre at home. If an exit canโt be found, she immediately starts to fight. It sucks so much and I worry about the future, when sheโs too old for me to make her do what she has to do; will she avoid doctors and hospitals, even in an emergency, because of her experiences?
Iโve tried distraction, reward incentives, books, videos, meditation, and a hundred other โlittle tricks,โ to no avail.
pquince ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:51:23 on May 15, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A therapist can help her get past this. Poor kid.
kittycatpuddytat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:47:22 on May 15, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Poor girl, I can definitely understand how she feels Iโm just as upset about the needle as she is. Only that Iโm an adult and I donโt wanna make a scene at the clinic. Over the past year I had GDM during my pregnancy so had to have a lot of blood work done.
Only one method truly worked for me. And that is to apply a numbing cream. Iโm hyper sensitive to the moment before the sting so the numbing cream when applied for an hour before the poke makes me feel so much better knowing that Iโm not gonna be feeling it at all. Even though I begin moping and dreading weeks and days leading up to that blood work appointment, and the drive to the clinic and wait for my turn makes me super nauseous.
The topical numbing cream that Iโm using is called Emla and itโs not cheap where I am in Asia. But I would gladly pay an arm for whatever helps with my phobia for needles. You maybe able to get it cheaper or even free in your country please check with the doctors or pharmacists!
arsonisfun ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:32:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Crush some smelling salts instead? :D
honeyydo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:28:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try wiggling your toes!!
fitch2711 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:30:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The most painful part is when they clean the spot it seems
voidptr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:15:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe some other very strong smell? Cinnamon? Mint?
heatherayn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:58 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also ask the nurses not to count, the anticipation makes it worse. That, or they count and stick early, which just makes them a liar.
Luthemor ยท 48 points ยท Posted at 04:32:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโll have to try this next time. I have fainted every single time I get a needle in me my entire life. And I have two tattoos.
alarumba ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 06:09:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm an almost fainter, have been all my life. Tattoo was fine though. Something about not having the syringe attached I think.
Sylfaein ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:44:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm the same way. Iโve never fainted, but I almost would every. Single. Time. That, and the nervous laughter. Pissed off many a nurse.
This gives me hope though, because Iโve always wanted a tattoo, but figured Iโd freak out about the needle too much to sit through it. And I canโt possible do the sniff thing all the way through!
jen_kelley ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:39:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some places have a recliner that you can lay back in or a medical bed you can lay on. I ask for this and being able to recline when they do it greatly decreases the fainting for me. Will still feel a bit woozy but I donโt faint now.
kurogomatora ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:35:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So where you just passed out for the duration of the tattoo?
Luthemor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:43:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No normally they wake me up and continue
hkd001 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:42:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a few tattoos, too. I think getting my ears gauged is what made me not scared of needles. It might have been both.
ThePrincessInsomniac ยท 69 points ยท Posted at 04:57:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was told by a nurse to sniff an alcohol pad while I was in labor and feeling very nauseous. Thought for sure I was going to puke but something about that acrid smell made my nausea pass. It was like magic.
happyeggplant_ ยท 72 points ยท Posted at 05:23:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nurse here, was gonna comment this! I used to work a floor with lots of postop patients and nausea is real bad in that population. I've shoved an alcohol wipe under many a nose before running to get antiemetics lol it can take someone from dry heaving misery to pleasant conversation in like 30 seconds.
VenflonBandit ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 11:31:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll have to dig it out if you want, but I found some papers comparing alcohol rubs and either metoclopramide or ondanstron for nausea. There was very little difference.
[deleted] ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 13:56:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you can compare jesus christ and spiderman, doesnt make them the same. and its Ondansetron not ondanstron, and metoclopramide is for gastroparesis not nausea.
VenflonBandit ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:17:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Metoclopramide is most definitely for treatment on nausea and vomiting - sorry I missed an e from the drug name.
https://bnf.nice.org.uk/drug/metoclopramide-hydrochloride.html
FermentedPangolin ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:30:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Who shat in your cornflakes?
Drthingy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:36:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is a very closed critical response one might say condescending when you discuss spelling of a drug.
There are papers going back 20 years discussing nasal isopropyl wipes as a treatment for nausea. A quick literature search will reveal that it appears to have a quicker onset of action than ondansetron and more recently its use in Paeds ER has been commended.
Further, Metoclopramide is used as a treatment for nausea yes it is used for motility of the gut but from experience it is more frequently used for treatment of nausea and vomiting.
mizzvicious ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:04:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ditto
fluteitup ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 09:38:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I threw up 12 times in my 36 hour labor... I'm jealous.
ThePrincessInsomniac ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 11:56:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was jealous of me too... I was pretty miserable when I had my first baby, didn't learn this gem till baby number 2. I was like crap how did I miss something so simple for relief. You can bet when I had my third I asked for some and had to explain the trick I had been taught to the nurses. Hopefully they passed the wisdom on, they might have thought me weird though.
rdizzy1223 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:42:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The smell of rubbing alcohol makes me nauseous to begin with, have to be careful not to vomit if I have to use it.
Sylfaein ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:42:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish someone had told me about that when I was in labor!
grodon909 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:06:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learned about this recently as well. Supposedly, it works better than meds like Zofran.
DorkasaurusBBQ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:37:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
THATโS why the suggestion sounded familiar to me! Turns out that fentynol makes me sick and loopy as fuck, and the nurse had me use the alcohol pad trick until the anti nausea meds we brought and had time to kick in.
atriptolalaland ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 03:45:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or breathe out the whole time the needle goes in. (Years of shots/piercing experience)
ChrisGoatToast ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 08:52:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This made me pass out
atriptolalaland ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 09:01:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shouldโve inhaled beforehand. You canโt just hold your breath.
zdelarosa00 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:37:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear
poopies_monkey ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 06:07:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had this fear my whole life until diagnosed with cancer. Needles are everywhere. Counting ceiling tiles or floor tiles always works for me. As soon as they start prepping...start counting.
Sylfaein ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:53:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm sorry about your diagnosis. Hugs if itโs ongoing, congrats if itโs past.
I canโt look away if I know the needle is there. I have tried.
avacynangelofhope ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:20:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me neither. I feel incredibly trapped and have to really suppress the urge to fight.
Megalocerus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:06:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had this fear until I got cancer. Eventually, just gave it up due to overexposure. But I still shut my eyes when I get a shot or an IV.
beans4eva ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 06:10:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate you for making me read this. I'm squirming right thinking about needles.
Sylfaein ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:54:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm sorry! :(
If itโs any consolation, maybe this will help in the future?
rumblemumbles ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 06:32:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Recently when I had to have some needles, which Iโve had previously and knew theyโd hurt like a MF, the nurse started drumming her fingers on my shoulder and the sensation took away SOOO much of the pain. Weird. But totally worked - not sure if it would help with your needle phobia, but pain wise, can recommend.
Sylfaein ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 10:49:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Funny thing about mine is that I know it doesnโt hurt, and itโs not pain thatโs bothering me. Itโs something about the needle itself that wigs me out. I have to be completely distracted, because if I see or think about that needle, my eyes roll up into the back of my head, and I scare people.
RoarEatSleep ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:35:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs real. I bought a piece of plastic called a shot blocker after reading about the effect. Something about the way your nerves transmit pain signals to the brain and you can disrupt the flow if thereโs too much information.
Cost me like $3 and you canโt even feel the shot (you can feel the medicine though if itโs one that burns). Got it for the kids who donโt even care about shots at all now and I used it all the way through pregnancy since I got jabbed like 80 times. Itโs awesome.
rumblemumbles ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:41:49 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs awesome - Iโm at the tail end of my pregnancy so wish I had have known about it earlier! Might look into it for the shots for the baby. Thanks for sharing
Firyali ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:19:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm notorious for having panic attacks over getting my blood taken. It got so bad once that they brought in an ultrasound to find a good vein. Will definitely try this. Thank you!!
Sylfaein ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:51:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I hope it works for you! Itโs been life changing for me.
Man, I wish theyโd tried that on me when I was getting the IV before my daughterโs birth. I was so freaked out, they stuck me 7 times trying to get the IV in, because my veins kept shredding (BECAUSE I was freaked out). They brought in an anesthesiologist to finally get it in.
Edit: Thank you for the silver!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:40:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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jowolfe7216 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:50:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If they require an ultrasound they shouldn't be practicing medicine. You can most often find a vein somewhere. If a patient is really difficult and options are non existent for a surgical team will place a port. This is common for cancer or dialysis patients. There's also a neat tool called a vein finder that shines a red light through the skin. I find it amazingly helpful. Source: I am a lab tech
Stratty88 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:29:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
10 years of medical school and expensive ultrasound machines or your index finger.
Belutak ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:30:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i got dizzy just by reading that
Firyali ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:53:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think it was mostly because I was freaking out so bad. The first person tried a few times, and after the third time I basically told him to fuck off, I was so worked up. So the doctor came and did it with the machine.
Slothetta ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:33:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
That is definitely not true. Source: Have had blood drawn in Germany, by nurses, with no ultrasound
ETA: Do you mean giving blood? Like a blood donation? Because I've never done that here, but I have had samples taken.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:26:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Slothetta ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:54:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That seems a strange hospital policy - I would imagine that doctors are too busy for routine blood draws. But I don't know what hospital policies are like outside of where I live.
AnUndercoverAlien ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:25:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That, to me, is a good enough reason to move there
20211401 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:56:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is not true at all
Zuphixavex ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:26:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do any other nurses learn of this trick from you? What are their reactions when you ask for an alcohol pad?
Sylfaein ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:47:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I ask for it every time, and explain the whole thingโhow I would nearly faint every time Iโd get a shot/blood draw before, and then they get to see how this works for me. My hope is that they do use this information later for others who struggle with needles.
That said, Iโve gotten some very weird looks when asking for the alcohol pad.
nlarita ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:20:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I will have to try this. I instantly turn into a scared child when I have to give blood. Itโs embarrassing.
Sylfaein ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:57:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is, and it feels like hardly anyone understands, when it happens. Youโre obviously just trying to make their job harder!
The rational part of my brain knows it doesnโt hurt, and is embarrassed to be acting that way, but thatโs how phobias work, I guess. :(
jackdontletmego ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 09:08:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fun fact: alcohol pads also work as an anti-emetic. They actually work better than a medication called zofran which is used to treat vomiting. This trick has worked on tons of patients in the ambulance.
Uno_Mas_Cerveza ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:45:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been informed that you're more likely to pass out if you have a full bladder so I always ensure it's empty when I go to any medical facility
SH-ELDOR ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:14:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did that once on accident and then the doctor asked me to pee in a cup. I spent about 10 minutes straight in the waiting room drinking water.
Maverick8787 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:37:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait you emptied your bladder by accident?
SH-ELDOR ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:22:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No I didnโt know that I would have to pee at the doctorโs
Inkthief ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:08:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well done for facing your fear! I'll be using that trick in future.
cindyscool ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:11:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a nurse, toates gonna try it on some patients!
Sylfaein ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:58:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please do! The nurse who taught me is a saint, in my book.
WineStainedDress13 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:10:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good advice!
You could also do what I did. Get appendicities but be hard to diagonise. The pain from your appendix almost bursting combined with sepsis will make you completely forget that someoneโs drawing six huge vials of blood from you every three hours. I used to be terrified of needles, but those five days in the hospital almost cured me from my fear. I still canโt look at the needle going into my skin without feeling like Iโm about to faint, but I no longer have that crippling fair that would leave me crying at the doctorโs office or with the school nurse before a vaccination.
Sylfaein ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:06:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Crap, man! Glad youโre ok now, but DAMN!
People told me being pregnant would cure my needle phobia. And I had a complicated pregnancy. I think they drew enough blood off me for another whole person. Still phobic. :(
WineStainedDress13 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:13:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, that sucks! I think the reason I'm okay-ish with needles now is that I was in too much pain to care and realized that it needles weren't that bad after all. My phobia started when a nurse's hand slipped as she was drawing blood from me when I was 5, and the memory of the pain as my skin sliced open stuck with me, but once I realized the pain wasn't so bad after all (at 23, that took a while...) I'm okay with needles. Still won't ever get a tattoo though.
Congratulations by the way! Hope you and baby are fine now :)
Sylfaein ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:24:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, that would definitely do it! Canโt blame you for hating needles after that.
We are, thank you!
HoboWithACup ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:38:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I need to try this as soon as i can my phobia of needles is so so bad i kicked a doctor in the face and broke his glasses when i was 6
gudistuff ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:32:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was told to do some push-ups right before getting jabbed and then getting the shot while lying down, itโs worked wonders! No more fainting episodes at the vaccination centre ๐
redlightsaber ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:11:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alternatively, administer about 30cc's of 43% alcoholic solution (tequila should suffice), orally, about 20 minutes prior to getting jabbed.
Just as anxyolitic, and the nice warm feeling will last you for a couple of hours.
karmapuhlease ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:23:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's only one shot!
BlazerStoner ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 11:08:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works with Chloroform as well. Here, smell this cloth to try!
Sylfaein ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:23:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whatโs it supposed to sme.......
Wafflem0use ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:39:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also have a fear of needles, i unfortunately also have kidney disease so im getting stuck several times a month. Here's some things ive learned:
don't drink caffeine before, it makes me hyper sensitive to the needle and shakey.
Watch it happen, the surprise always made me jump and sometimes that led to a second poke. Also it helped me get used to what's happening eventually.
For IVs request a numbing agent first then dont watch. Always struggled with IVs, cant even feel it this way it made a HUGE difference.
Try sour candies like warheads, similar to sniffing alcohol.
For renal panels do NOT squeeze your first. This will show artificially high potassium and you'll get another poke.
A glove filled with hot water on your vein just prior to a draw might make the vein expand and a little easier to get, making it less painful.
Box breathing during. Inhale through nose, hold breath, exhale slowly, hold breath, start over. This will give you something else to focus on and breathing will calm you.
Hope these help.
Sylfaein ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:40:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
These are great! Iโll give the sour candy a try, in the future.
bernyzilla ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:12:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate getting my blood drawn, I'm not as bad as I used to be, but I still hate it. When I was 23 I got my blood drawn and almost passed out, the lady broke open a smelly tube to keep me awake. Maybe ammonia?
Thank you for the good advice, I will try the alcohol pad trick. Usually I just turn my body, look away, and focus on my breathing.
Sylfaein ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:55:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man, I have a hard time turning away! If I know the needle is there, itโs all I can think about, and I canโt not look. I donโt want too, but I canโt help it. :(
Abdico ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:34:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone who blacked out before while seeing a needle at the doctor's I will definitely try this!
The_Jinx_Effect ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:46:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't really have a fear of needles, I just don't like them. I just tell the nurse to get everything ready behind my back while I look the other way and tell her to just get it over with as fast as possible.
notyetcomitteds2 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:21:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I grew up in a doctors office and my parents had to keep yelling at me to stop sniffing the alcohol pads. I sniffed too deep once and got lighted and thought I had brain damage. They didn't tell me I didn't.
Sylfaein ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:27:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha! Yeah, that was probably too much.
ceruzatarto ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:20:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man I just cry no matter what when a needle comes near me. I don't move i'm just sobbing without a single change in my posture so I don't make anyones job harder it's just weird
Blottyblott ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:13:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It might also sounds dumb bur just going on your phone will really help. The distraction makes a massive difference.
dragon-blue ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:48:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I jab my thumbnail into my finger really hard. It hurts more than the needle, and helps distract me.
cinnamonsprite ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:59:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're afraid of fainting during a blood draw, focus on tensing your trunk and legs (while keeping the arm the needle is in relaxed ofc) it helps keep your blood pressure up and stops the blood pooling in your legs (stopping you feeling light-headed) and gives your mind something to focus on instead of the needle.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:53:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think this an actual technique. Where you regularly exercise on keep BP high so when you feel low. You just flex like a fighter pilot
MissionProvision ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:06:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I went in for surgery they had this cold spray they they used while putting the needle in and I could hardly tell it was going in, which helped because they usually have to try a few time before they find my veins.
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MissionProvision ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:21:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs great, especially since I hate needles lol.
twinings91 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:45:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd like to try that as I'm giving blood tomorrow and hate the whole thing, but decided that wasn't a good enough excuse not to donate. Think I might get some weird looks if I ask to huff an alcohol pad though ๐
Sylfaein ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:08:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, I get weird looks, until they see it works! Itโs worth it to not nearly pass out just seeing the needle.
Hirschulat ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:42:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
holy shit, i have to try this.
i have been struggling with a crippling fear of needles for the past 22 years. if that works it would help me out big time
Sylfaein ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:26:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hope it works for you like it does for me. Itโs made it so much easier!
Youโre going to get weird looks from the nurses when you ask, but itโs worth it, and those looks disappear when they see that it works. Iโm always hopeful that they learn and apply it next time they have someone whoโs having a hard time with the needle. This needs to be more known.
kellykittybot ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:51:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a pathology collection student I'm definitely going to remember this for future clients/patients! Thank you!
mugg_shot ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:01:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm in nursing school and Iโll definitely be bringing this up to my class!!!
Sylfaein ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:06:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please do! This makes such a difference for folks with a phobia. The nurse who told me is a saint, in my book.
mugg_shot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:18:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes for sure! Even though it may not work for everyone it might just work for some and thatโs worth it in my books โบ๏ธ
Megalocerus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:10:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't wipe it. Fan it, so you don't accidentally spread germs. Just takes a moment's delay for it to dry. My nurse did this, and it works.
prettyoddpotato ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:32:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been looking for a solution to this for years. Thanks. I'll try that next time.
Sylfaein ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:09:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hope it works for you! Itโs been life changing for me.
Comms ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:18:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've never had a fear of needles but I had to get digital blocks twice over a very short period of time on two different fingers.
Jesus H Christ
TimTam4545 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:26:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm the same, had multiple seisures and fainted multiple time from needles or related, will definitely keep this in mind.
MrYannKee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:30:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow. I gotta try that next time. Thanks!
HydroHomo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:23:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I fainted a couple of times because of my fear of needles as a kid but now I try to give blood as much as I can. And those are big-ass needles so it's still scary
Sylfaein ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:18:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre awesome for giving blood!
I tried once when we had a blood drive at school. It was Carter. Saw a number of classmates and staff walking around with bandages on both arms, so by the time it was my turn, I was freaking out. Walked in, and found them digging around with the needle in one girlโs arm to find the vein, and her nearly passing out... By the time I made it to the chair, my nervous laughing had taken a turn toward hysterical, and I pissed off a nurse who obviously didnโt understand how phobias work. I havenโt been able to try since, but at least Iโm AB+, so itโs not like Iโve got great donor bloodโmy people can take anything. LOL
Ennviious ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:34:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I throw up basically every time I get needled and my doctor prescribes me a combination of meds to be able to calm down enough to do the actual thing, I'll try doing this next time it's needed
Paul_The_Great ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:40:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you me? Iโve had this exact problem since I can remember with pretty much identical symptoms. Definitely gonna try this out the next time I have to endure that much dreaded moment.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:47:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for this!
AntiTankBlitz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:49:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was in a motorcycle accident. The nurse from a nearby clinic had me sniff a cotton bud soaked in ammonia to keep me conscious until the paramedics arrived.
Behn00 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:58:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs great that instead of refusing needles and putting yourself at risk you would still power through them
jreeves231 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:11:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That trick works for nasaue as well. If you're nauseous simply smell some rubbing alcohol and it will temporarily go away.
BouncyCastleofDoom ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:18:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I need to try this on my next blood draw. Shots donโt bother me but I get that clammy, cold face, about-to-puke-or-pass-our thing every time I get blood drawn. Iโve had 2 kids and both pregnancies required a lot of blood tests so you would think I had gotten used to it, but nope.
Sylfaein ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:22:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same! I had a complicated pregnancy, and Iโm sure they took enough blood for another whole person. Prepping for delivery, they still had to stick me 7 times for the IV, because I was so freaked out that my veins kept shredding when theyโd get a needle into them.
BouncyCastleofDoom ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:16:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ugh! I feel you there. They had to start using my feet when I was in for my first kid. I had severe preeclampsia. Iโm glad Iโm done having babies because the needle part alone was horrifying.
Sylfaein ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:27:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me too (eclampsia, not the feet)! They went all up both my arms, and finally got it into the side of my left arm. Had bruises all over my arms for weeks...I looked like a domestic violence case.
epicsperience ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:23:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
trypanophobia - can cause lightheadedness as your body responds negatively to being โstuckโ
BredByMe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:30:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sending this to gf
okmostofthetime ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:41:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a doctor once tell me to cough lightly and I never felt a thing. Try that one.
philchoc14 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:31:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
After 30 years of fainting from injections, my dentist said "Breathe...your holding your breath" I never realised I was doing this and I haven't passed out since!
cayballs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:26:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve used this trick on patients with severe needle phobias! Or I get them to focus on wriggling their toes, and as the needle is about to go in, I say something really random like, โhey do you like pineapplesโ, โwhy arenโt cows blue?โ. They almost always go ummm wtf and by that point they have had the injection or blood test.
aliteralsquid ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:39:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish I would have read this about 3 minutes sooner.
PureMitten ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:45:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Needles make me feel faint, I donโt have a conscious fear of needles but I get really light headed anyway. Had a nurse hand me an alcohol swab for the same reason and it worked well. Asked for it the next time and the nurse was like โ...? Ok?โ But I didnโt faint on her sooooo
yehaw_we_cornbread ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:14:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saving this
ravensage72 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:18:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a fainter. I'm going to try this next time I get a needle. Thanks!
moosecatoe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:26:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thats what we do at the vet to distract the animals when pulling blood!
Sylfaein ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:31:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man, and I bet the vet gives treats after. :(
moosecatoe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:32:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yea, but people get stickers and sometimes lollipops!
Sylfaein ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:34:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not at 30.
moosecatoe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:49:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do...
Russian_Interference ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:02:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I still can't deal with drawing blood. I almost pass out every time. It terrifies me
alexa-m ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:16:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does this work if you don't have a phobia, but often almost faint and have to ask to lie down?
Sylfaein ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:31:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would think of that as phobia, if itโs a reaction to needles. I would almost faint, too. Never quite fainted, but scared many a nurse. If you can get to the point where theyโre about to stick you and sniff as it happens, it works. At least it has for me. Hope it does the same for you!
DieofBeetes ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:49:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i have a genuine question. why do shots bother you? you have had them before and know that they dont hurt THAT much, so what about the process troubles you?
Sylfaein ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:54:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, itโs a phobiaโan irrational fear. I know Iโve had shots. I know it doesnโt hurt really hurt. But thereโs something about seeing that needle, or even knowing thereโs one near me that sets it off. The rational side of the brain is reminding me itโs not that bad, and that Iโm embarrassing myself, but the louder part of the brain is screaming โNEEDLENEEDLENEEDLE!!!โ
DieofBeetes ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:01:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
so interesting to me, i guess because i dont really have any phobias myself. thanks for the reply!
Sylfaein ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:02:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sure thing! And lucky! Yeah, a phobia basically triggers a fight, flight, freeze response. Not fun.
buckus69 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:56:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a nurse take some blood one time and I didn't even feel the needle. She said the pain associated with the needle jab is actually the alcohol from the wipe coating the needle then irritating the hole. So she wipes the alcohol away before jabbing the needle. No other nurse has done that since.
Sylfaein ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:58:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If believe it! And they really donโt hurt all that much anyway to begin with, itโs just something about the needle itself that bugs me.
Barrel_Titor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:21:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not something that would work if you knew before hand but I remember being nervous about a shot when I was about 9 and the nurse said "Tell you what, I'll count down from 10 and do the injection when I get to zero so you have time to prepare", started counting, then did the shot on 8 when I was off guard and it was over before I knew what had happened.
AJValentine ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:46:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Last time I had a needle, I cried like a hyperventilating toddler for about half an hour (I was 25yrs old at the time)
If this works, Iโm going to come back to this one day and buy you dinner!
Sylfaein ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:32:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aaaaw, no dinner required! Just pass the info along so it can help more people, and weโre square. ;)
Hope it works for you as well as it does for me!
girl_idioteque ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:18:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a nursing student these kind of tips are invaluable! Canโt wait to try it. Thank you for sharing
mekareami ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:46:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Omg I am not alone! Nurses think I am weird but the alcohol sniff works wonders for blood draws
Fauxally ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:39:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nurse here, thanks for the tip!! It makes sense tbh. Iโll be suggesting this for my patients in the future.
Fearless_Ingenuity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:52:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It works with nausea too. When I came out of surgery, I felt great and tried walking around while still under a lot of medication and immediately got super nauseous and the nurse saw me about to throw up so she ripped open an alcohol swab and stuck it under my nose. My nausea went away immediately.
mlink461 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:43:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just went in for surgery and hate needles too. They tried to talk to me and ask questions to help but I just zoned out. Right before they handed me an alcohol pad to sniff just in case. If never been given one before but just having a task to do as simple as holding a little wipe distracted me more than anything in my life.
all_in_this_together ยท 8406 points ยท Posted at 01:44:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pay bills, SAVE, then spend.
Cowboy7220 ยท 1781 points ยท Posted at 04:57:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In regards to saving I was always told โPay your bills, Pay yourself, then spendโ
piximelon ยท 60 points ยท Posted at 07:05:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's actually genius. I would much rather "pay myself" than "set money aside".
Disrupter52 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 14:31:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do it, pay yourself first. My paycheck auto deposits money into a savings account each month. Then I wait and cobble together the mortgage payment. I have never paid on the first, but I always pay by the 15th. Never impacted me negatively.
Since I'm saving so much in my check, I need my check and my wife's to pay the mortgage each month.
thedonutman ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 15:34:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Treat savings like a bill. You HAVE to pay it each month. Transfer that dollar amount every month on the same date to your savings. Budget your savings into your monthly cash flow.
Disrupter52 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 15:42:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See, that phrasing has never occurred to me. We are saying the same thing, but that resonates differently. Treating it like a bill makes it "mandatory" and not a "luxury". Good stuff!
raikmond ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 06:41:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is extremely good advice that's consistent with several personal finance books I have read.
Shilvahfang ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 15:37:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like this. Here's how I think about it, as someone who is very comfortable despite not making much money.
I'm not just a single person who gets a paycheck and then spends it. I'm actually three people: Basic needs, no joke me, who takes what he needs from my paycheck and pays the bills. Responsible me who takes what is left over and puts as much as he can into retirement and savings (usually it's a predetermined amount). Then there is day-to-day, fun me who likes to go out to eat and do fun stuff, he gets what is left over.
Here's the best part. When something comes up, say I have an unexpected $700 dentist bill. Fun me doesn't give a shit, because it doesn't change my life at all, I don't have to pay for it. Responsible me has to pay for it, that's what he's been saving up for. Once my savings hit a certain level, like 5 digits, a multi hundred dollar unexpected expense doesn't even change the look of my savings account balance and doesn't stress me out at all. I decided to replumb my house last summer, didn't even think about. Responsible me paid.
And once you're really into it, fun me starts to like responsible me, so he even gives anything left over back, and even tries to have some left over.
Neither of us like no joke me, but we don't fuck with him at all.
marleylovestrees ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:20:38 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love this. Especially the last line
ikalwewe ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:15:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a good advice.i never paid myself.just paid the bills
Tobyey ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 06:43:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pay yourself = Saving
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:02:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In business I always paid Government, Employees, Credit Card, myself in that order.
lambocinnialfredo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:31:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always pay yourself first
[deleted] ยท 58 points ยท Posted at 05:26:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find that the anticipation of getting something you want is sometimes more fun than actually acquiring it.
dombrogia ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 05:51:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs financial foreplay
username4206942069 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:23:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ow my, my credit nipples
DutchNDutch ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:57:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm the type that can be searching for months for a certain item or car even, but the moment I own it, the fun is over.
Starshitlord ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 03:43:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Save your empty credit card for spending !!
eaturliver ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:00:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Especially if you've got cash back rewards
Meb112 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 06:00:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol. Insinuating that I have any money left after bills. College loans are a bitch.
GretaVanFleek ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:10:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same. Not student loans but just regular old crippling debt. I always laugh at the "pay yourself" folks, like I'm supposed to just poof extra money out of thin air to do it with.
And of course 78% of the US population live paycheck to paycheck, so there's that too.
ogunther ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 05:30:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This SNL video is great and speaks to what your saying. https://vimeo.com/199334296 โDonโt Buy Stuff You Cannot Affordโ
IronSinew ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 05:58:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hah, immediately thought of this, too.. sigh, when SNL was funny..
Rya1243 ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 05:45:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look at this rich guy. Must be nice to have more money after you pay bills.
takes_bloody_poops ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:35:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy drugs, beg your parents for rent money, spend that on drugs too
potatoslasher ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:48:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if you pay more than 50% of your money for bills, then you have too much bills my friend.
imforit ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:42:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
... thanks for contributing?
FortyPoundBaby ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:54:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ya huh... So should he shut off his water? Maybe electricity? Stop buying food? I bet that one will save a LOT of money.
potatoslasher ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:34:18 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
he should look for a different place to live, or a different job. But yea those options and hard and scary, so let's rather bitch and make fun of the person who is telling you unforgettable truth about your life choices.
FortyPoundBaby ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:46:44 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh I'm doing fine with my bills, I'm just not in denial that some people don't have that option. Not everyone is privileged enough to be able to just "look for a different place to live, or a different job". If it means abandoning family members, risking homelessness for months to years. Sometimes there just are no jobs where you live, and you need a job that pays well to move. But if you are naรฏve enough to say that, I don't expect you to understand anyway.
potatoslasher ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:08:27 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
well thats a mayor exaggeration . Changing your place of living doesn't mean emigrating to Africa and not seeing your mom and brother for the next 40 years or something, and I think you understand that.
But it would mean you wouldnt be able to hang our with your buddies like you can now, and changing your current environment which is a scary experience. If you dont want that its understandable, however dont try to portray that as the end of the World and ''madness'' as if its not a alternative to a position where you struggle to even pay bills and have anything left afterwards. If you are too afraid to do it, just say so. Rather than making some excuses
I would say that there are far more of those who can, than those who cant. And many of them dont, not because they cant, but because they are too afraid of changing stuff.
If you live in a place where you literally can't save up any money for anything, you are already in a desperate spot and need to make major changes already. Asking your parents or friends or bank to loan money to you so you can move, or whatever like that. If you are in a shit position like that, staying put and thinking things will get better if you change nothing is even more stupid than risking. Complacency is its own stupidity if there is no future.
FortyPoundBaby ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:24:21 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Again all said from a privileded perspective. "Asking your parents or friends or bank to loan you money", there's really no point to trying to continue with someone who says that.
potatoslasher ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:29:46 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...where do you think I am from friend? I give you a clue, I am not American, and I am not from a first World country either, nor are my parents wealthy or even middle class.
slumpapan ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:59:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Which part of this sounded useless?
capitalistsanta ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:01:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Had a professor in college give me amazing advice, pay yourself first. Obviously you have bills and stuff, but the basic concept makes sense
BobFredIII ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:07:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the book rich dad pot dad it says pay yourself first then pay bills cuz u will feel more pressure to pay bills , pay yourself mess make investments
nevermindthisrepost ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:53:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have separate accounts for each. A checking account for bills, a savings account for saving, and a checking account for spending. I have the amounts direct deposited according to my need so I always have the amount I need.
Also retirement savings in a fourth account. And then a fifth account that holds money for paying taxes because my wife is a realtor, and we have to pay taxes out of her comission checks.
dubdub2809 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:57:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But dont these accounts have individual fees and minimums to maintain?
imforit ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 10:43:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If this is a problem in your life, I recommend you investigate switching to a credit Union
nevermindthisrepost ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:27:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nope. Many banks have a free checking option.
UnsignedRealityCheck ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:25:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just because you can buy it, doesn't mean you can afford it.
Smithy566 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:23:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โIf you canโt afford to buy it twice, then you canโt afford itโ.
Doesnโt apply to everything, obviously, but itโs a good rule of thumb.
Carvtographer ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:49:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Literally the only reason I have a really great savings account that I'm fortunate about. Pay all of your bills, going through everything for the month, and then set aside X amount of dollars, and THEN when you spend money, only think, "I now have Y amount of dollars to spend for the pay-period."; don't think that you can pull money from savings. You can't.
If you're not used to it, it starts off kinda shitty, but it actually becomes something where you're like, "I really need to be setting aside more money into savings."
Smithy566 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:16:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The YNAB approach. โGive every dollar a jobโ.
bellehaust ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:01:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know what feels good? 10% of my income in savings, all my bills paid, and enough money left over for almost anything i want. You know what feels bad? Enough money for literally anything i want and then a call from my credit card company.
potatoslasher ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:49:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it does surprise me quite a bit when I come across fully grown adults who do the opposite.....and then complain on how their life is hard
otherMeme ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:29:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is common sense.
Beretot ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:49:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You'd be surprised
fnord_happy ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:26:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But who thinks this is useless? It makes no sense in context of the question
Mystic_printer ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:50:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It should be but way to many pay bills, spend, save whatever is left at the end of the month which often isnโt much if anything.
otherMeme ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:53:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What I do is put money in my savings as if it was a bill. If I know I can afford it I will increase the amount. I do this every time my paycheck clears.
grantrules ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:58:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have direct deposit set up for two accounts, a fixed amount goes into my checking, whatever's left goes into savings. Raises, bonuses.. goes into savings.
otherMeme ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:59:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'ma do this next time I'm working.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:47:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was hoping to see this. I can't tell if he's trolling or not. But this should be common knowledge.
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:53:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
There's a reason most of America is in credit card debt
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:07:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is, but not realistic for many people. It's useful advice if you are on a consistent income and actually have money left over after bills, though.
Horror_Risk ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:07:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually itโs pay yourself first then bills
raikmond ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:42:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is but honestly not very realistic for people living close to poverty.
Horror_Risk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:47:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I disagree with this here. You know how much you make, you know how much you spend. Pay yourself the difference first
Tobyey ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 06:48:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You just have to pay yourself less? It's about planning ahead and how much money you're going to spend etc, so you won't spend more.
rlcute ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:37:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i feel attacked
Orangebeardo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:20:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never spend more than you have coming in. If your paycheck is 1000/month, spend no more than 900 if you can.
Save the 100 for a rainy day or to invest in more income.
pkchang23 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:45:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How is that useless advice???
fnord_happy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:26:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This thread has just become general advice
youbetterbeblue ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:08:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Underrated comment
redditkulous ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:53:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As if most aren't in debt
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:09:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate you for calling me out.
GocoZwei ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:28:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Save, give, then live.
Mr_Highways ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:39:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or pay yourself first and then pay your bills.
WhiteLotusOfKugane ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:59:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This so much. Theres a pretty little item I have my eyes on rn and the wife says "they have layaway..."
No thanks.
Ill follow this model instead.
Looks like im picking up some shifts brfore im picking up my Browning 1911 380.
barelyconsciouswtf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:09:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can add that when you have saved money and feel the impulse to buy something cool, wait a couple of days and think about it first. Often you realize you dont really need that thing or wont use it much and its not really worth it.
TaohRihze ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:24:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hi I am Bill, pay me!
chmod--777 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:44:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy pills, RAVE, then bills
the70sdiscoking ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:25:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Bills! Pills! Bills! Pills!
The signs of the times, that rhymes, Amanda Bynds!"
chubbybunny0000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:30:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh shit. I avoid bills as long as I can lol. Spend first. Never have enough to save. no wonder living broke life.
antbrit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:43:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And if you've got debt, put it right at the front, the rest remains the same.
Phoenx2480 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:10:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i thought this was basic knowledge in adults
shavin47 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:15:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
its pay yourself, pay your bills and then spend
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:55:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We factor a certain amount into our budget for saving. We act like itโs a bill each payday and transfer it into savings. Makes saving easier.
prep04 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:48:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not sure how this felt useless before you tried it?
ssntf7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:04:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having a rainy day fund is the most important thing. Also, "if you can't pay for it with cash, don't buy it with a credit card". This has saved me countless times from being broke AND in debt.
singingbatman27 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:06:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can, Pay bills, SAVE, GIVE, then spend
Master_Broshi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:13:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Rich Dad, Poor Dad method switches the first two. Pay yourself (save), then pay your debts, then spend. But, this may work better on a larger scale. If you owe the bank $10,000 you have a problem. If you owe the bank $10,000,000 the bank has a problem.
mangist ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 14:55:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No. Save first, pay bills last. Bills can wait until their due date.
millre01 ยท 1054 points ยท Posted at 01:44:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bribe yourself with fun things to do the not so fun things.
Today I was tired after work but got a little care package in the mail, so I made myself go on the 2.5 mile run I didn't want to do before I could open the package. Now I'm refreshed and happy that I did the thing I was pseudo dreading, and I have a fun care package to open.
MadamoftheStrange ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 03:02:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve done this with video games. If I do my homework and clean up the house then I can spend the evening playing. I feel like a teenager but it really works for me.
TimX24968B ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:20:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i was told to do this as a teenager, but what ended up happening was it felt like a trap since by the time evening would come, i would spend the whole evening doing more work, and then realize i just wasted a whole day doing shit for my dad that seemed super pointless. Thats when i switched it the other way around. you can argue staying up late to do homework at that age, but not staying up late to do video games.
now, about the habits it's created 10 years later...
bamaja ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:49:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/i87Zg9L2MrpYMYpdeX-_0wBPxyPoXqXIRRIAKQsVC1MtIhmEQpVDUwgNhdGx6IC941muJJI2w2jh=s0
acer34p3r ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 12:45:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As an adult (LOL) between degrees working 3 jobs, I still do this. Dishes need done? Gotta do them before video games. SO's car needs an oil change or brakes changed? Guess what.
MadamoftheStrange ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:00:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
aside from it helping me, I think it teaches my kids something. They donโt get games or phones until their room is cleaned. Or whatever it is they have to do that day. Some days, their room doesnโt get cleaned until itโs supper time. But then Iโm like โsorry. Itโs dinner time now. Then bath time and bedtime. Maybe we will try again tomorrow.โ Lol
RavagerHughesy ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 07:40:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me: If you do the dishes, you can go get ice cream after dinner.
Also me: Or I could just go get ice cream now and not have to wait OR deal with the dishes
Still me: Can't argue with that logic
It's a vicious cycle
bakedlayz ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 08:46:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i ask myself, would future bakedlayz be grateful the dishes are done?
i read a tip on reddit about doing 3 things each day, 1 for my past self, one for my present self and one for my future self. when i do things for my future self, like pack lunch the night before, i make sure to thank my past self for being smart and practical and looking out for me lol because it really makes it easier to take care of myself
Eeveelover14 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:44:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reward systems don't work for me.. Why bother with something I don't want to do, just to do something I want to do and can do without doing the unpleasant thing? I can see how it could work, but I don't see the logic in it so my brain doesn't like it.
HappyNarwhal ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:48:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a bunch of pennies and two jars. The next time you're hanging out at home and do something that is "good for you" or has delayed gratification, add a penny to one jar. Every time you do something that has immediate gratification that you know might not be ideal in the long run, add a penny to the other jar. It's a dumb little trick to see how well you're taking care of yourself vs. spoiling yourself.
Eeveelover14 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:41:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's good advice, and I'm thankful for it, but honestly unless these pennies are gonna give me motivation to live that's not gonna do much in the long run. If anything it would make it worse because I would feel guilty.
MrchntMariner86 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:30:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think that is the point. Your guilt will hopefully give you the drive to change something.
I kept saying I would start eating better and smaller, but never following through.
Fattening out of my wardrobe guilted me to start dling something different.
Eeveelover14 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 23:11:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It does not help, it makes it far worse. I've tried using guilt to push me into things before, but all it does is make it worse and make me resent whatever made me guilty.
Like walking the dog, he needs walked, I'm the only one who does it. So I feel guilty when I don't walk him that day. Only the guilt opens the floodgates and any progress I made is destroyed. I hate having to say it, but my mental health is more important than the dog getting a walk.
cruznick06 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:52:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I honestly give myself pokemon stickers. Its stupid and childish but if I get enough stickers doing crap I DON'T want to do I get to do something I enjoy.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:15:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Negotiate and make deals with yourself :)
01011223 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:48:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have been wanting to do this for a couple years but nothing is fun.
darkslayer114 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:12:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried doing this. "If you clean the dishes, you can play xbox" and then when I get home I realize theres no one stopping me from just playing xbox.
Sir_Cunt99 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:23:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mentally i totally make this descision
And then i cheat/procrastinate
Therealslimshamop ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:53:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But who has this kind of self restraint.
Zaxeiler ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:10:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is specifically known as "temptation bundling." So to those saying the negotiating and bribing doesn't work - you could think about it a little differently. Instead of "rewarding" yourself with a positive if you do a negative, Pair them up so they have to be done at the same time.
โ
Love watching a TV show? Only allow yourself to watch it while you walk on the treadmill.
โ
More info (in an easy to consume way) from Freakonomics Podcast:
http://freakonomics.com/podcast/when-willpower-isnt-enough-a-new-freakonomics-radio-podcast/
L6fty ยท 12468 points ยท Posted at 01:16:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Life is really much easier if you clean your workplace/room. I clean my room often and it makes me feel calm and clears my head.
HarvMan53 ยท 1734 points ยท Posted at 01:53:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No greater feeling then coming home to a clean bedroom after working late
L6fty ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 01:55:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Absolutely, I love that feeling
eyekunt ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 05:55:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No better feeling than to have a job to go to, so that i can go back to a clean house
mr_intentional ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 06:35:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I felt that on a spiritual level. I went on a 10 month streak unemployed and ended up in extreme poverty. I'll never complain about having a job again.
Here's some Great Value Silver ๐ฅ
eyekunt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:44:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Thank you, you generous human.
Bard_17 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 06:39:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The reason I love cleaning is because of the satisfaction you get from delayed gratification. Nothing beats on the weekend putting on some tunes, eating a healthy breakfast and going to town on cleaning. I feel like I can do anything afterwards, haha
u-a-everything-bagel ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:07:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please teach me this superpower
Bard_17 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 07:14:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tbh a little sativa helps, haha. If that doesn't work for you, just change hotel priorities. Make a list of things you have to get down by the end of the week or day and stick to that. Getting rid of little things day by days makes a huge difference imo for keeping a clean living space :)
Fuzzycactus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:22:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oatmeal for breakfast dude, trust me. You'll feel great the whole morning ๐
u-a-everything-bagel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:01:16 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish I liked oatmeal ๐ฉ lol
MLIA2345 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:26:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Although on advocating for the devil.. Your mess, your fucking hard work and stress, piled in the places you took your last steps before surrendering to the day and readying for the next one. All in moderation.. I go a couple days of working and sleeping before I snap and clean it topside down.
Topotu ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:06:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And freshly washed sheets
ZonTeeN ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:01:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read that as "No greater feeling then coming home to clean a bedroom after working late" and thought you were a psychopath for a second.
L6fty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:59:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No lol clean on your free time :)
Lillslim_the_second ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:13:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn, gotta try this then. Just do a bit of spring clearing etc
SpeedingTourist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:41:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No greater feeling than working late from home, in a clean bedroom
Volesprit31 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:18:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And then you see that your cat went to the kitchen sink and put little paw traces everywhere =(
I_want_to_like_you ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:42:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, but you had to work late since you got there late because you were at home cleaning before leaving for work!
AsukaHiji ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:16:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Except not working late.
kamitopher ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:52:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
than*
Blurrel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:08:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Could name a few if I really thought about it for an hour or two.
Coolfuckingname ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 07:43:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...Maybe watching your first born enter the world is a better feeling?...
Captain-Sugar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:54:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
meth isgood too
PeachWorms ยท 67 points ยท Posted at 02:49:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's so true. When i used to be very depressed as a teenager I'd never clean my room, like ever! These days when I'm getting into a depressive rut it might take a couple weeks before i even notice my room is starting to get really messy. Once i realise i clean it then & there, even if i realllyyyyy don't want to & it really does help me feel a hell of a lot better then beforehand.
gtjack9 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 05:56:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The condition of your bedroom tells a lot about the person and their mood. I noticed my room is much tidier when I've been in a good mood.
CodyLeeTheTree ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 06:18:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can totally relate. Iโve been in a rut lately and Iโve been totally neglecting my room, kitchen, and vehicle. I feel awful every time I come home to the same mess. But when I get it all cleaned up it really is a great relief and such a good feeling.
I agree with the guy below me(or above?), a persons room kind of represents a persons mind. Feeling like Iโve been doing okay because I made my bed today but yet my dresser is piled with junk. Just like Iโve been feeling better because I got back in the gym and exercising but Iโve still got financial and health stuff I need to still take care of that I shouldnโt be putting off.
L6fty ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:24:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im so happy for you!
E72M ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:46:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I'm getting depressed I normally start doing my weights to relieve stress.
I've noticed whenever I start getting really stressed I start slipping back a little into depression.
Final month of my course with 7 more exams to go...
AdvancePlays ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 03:24:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah but if I follow the other advice of cleaning up messes right away, I won't get a chance to "clean my room" really. So what I do is live like a pig for a couple weeks until my room is in squalor, then spend a whole day cleaning it inside out until it looks as good as the day I moved in.
That way I get to live out my innermost desire of hedonism and laziness, AND get to pat myself on the back for doing a good job cleaning up and taking positive steps. Faultless logic!
L6fty ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:29:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find myself doing the same thing but in shorter time periods. I dont think I could go weeks in a mess
SassyChickenNugget ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 02:47:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I sleep so much better when my space is clean and tidy
Z_Rig18 ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 04:57:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jordan Peterson has entered the chat
WutangCND ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:53:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chat quality has increased significantly.
kokoromelody ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:28:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a teenager, I'd get annoyed whenever my mom would scold me for not cleaning up after myself.
Ten years later, and I now religiously stick to a cleaning schedule and can't get anything else done unless the apartment's clean.
Soul-Burn ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 05:24:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
More important than clean is decluttered.
Remove stuff you don't use from your visible environment, and put the rest in their place.
Every item should have a home. If it doesn't have a home, it shouldn't be in your home.
TheRebuttoning ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:40:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm trying but it's so overwhelming I tend to give up.
MonininS2 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:23:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish my SO understood that.... They said our house "isn't a priority right now".... It's so stressful having to clean alone (when I'm able) when they just trows trash under the bed.....
BaronMostaza ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 05:48:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like you two need a talk about reducing pointless distress
gidikh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:12:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can afford it, a cleaning service is the cheapest form of couple counseling. I pay $125 every other week and it is so worth it.
redfoot62 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:16:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you do music? Podcast? Or audiobook as you do it?
Imstillwatchingyou ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:20:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whatever you're in the mood for. Sometimes the news, sometimes Ted talks or an audiobook, sometimes music, sometimes silence.
L6fty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:01:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Music is really good for me. I feel energized if im listening
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:20:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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eyekunt ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:56:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love when someone washes my balls.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:23:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/holup
condensedpun ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:26:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ignoring this tip will get you in big trouble, bucko!
Dr_Vegetable ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:05:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
jordan peterson noises
L6fty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:43:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Type beat xD
yunggoldensmile ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:48:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
On god. I remember when I was at my lowest point I always remembered that if I can wake up every morning and clean my room I knew my day would be better
sreiches ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:42:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unfortunately, a tip that is effective, but difficult to reconcile with ADHD.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:26:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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sreiches ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:32:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can generally manage if I put something on in the background, yeah. Definitely helps with stuff like folding clothes.
My physical restlessness doesnโt usually come out unless Iโm deep in thought or on the phone; in either case I wander around and walk in patterns.
screkox ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:35:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. Everyone always assume cleaning is a chore, but when you get into it it's like meditating. And clean house gives good vibes.
cdw2468 ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 02:00:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok Jordan Peterson
L6fty ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:02:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol I was thinking Marie Kondo
Hero_of_4-4_Time ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:22:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Collab when?
NimbaNineNine ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:31:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kermit voice:
Clean your pp young man womp womp
whatacyat ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:33:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Truth
BallsOutKrunked ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:49:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad used to say "an organized room is an organized mind."
Stockinglegs ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:44:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm reading a book about this. Itโs called โA Monkโs Guide to a Clean House and Mindโ.
themagicmagic ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:54:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm reading that book too. So far it's really good.
aleqqqs ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:08:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To calm you and clear your head even further, you can clean my room too.
L6fty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:45:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually had a girl in my highschool who asked me out of the blue to clean my room. Apparently she had already done her own and her boyfriend's.
vonis22 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:34:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How about a house? Where do I begin?
asknanners12 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:11:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Flylady.net
https://www.unfuckyourhabitat.com
r/declutter
r/icleanedmyroom
vonis22 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:13:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow, thanks a bunch I'll check these after work.
heysharlea ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:35:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Amen! I felt so unmotivated for way too long and finally had the energy on the weekend to clean my long overdue for a clean bathroom. Instantly felt better. 2 birds 1 stone!
chalinaa456 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:35:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I study in another room because I am too lazy to fix my own
Lawnmower-Deathmunch ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:36:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would love to but I have a 9 week old puppy
Cameltoezors ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:39:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even the small act of making my bed as soon as I get up has improved my outlook so much.
steve8steve ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:39:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wash dishes/clean kitchens for a living. This dramatically makes my job easier: clean up the space you are working in before you start work, maintain that area clean it as you go. When you finish and your dead tired you have nothing to clean.
gama3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:47:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Explains why everyone's first reaction to getting super pissed is wanting to wipe everything off your desk with your arms in a fit of rage.
Grime_Dubbin_Beats ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:02:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean everyday! It will only take 1 minute to tidy up compared 1 hour or more! I got sick of cleaning being an event and deep cleaned and kept it clean and its improved every aspect of life!
Nowabo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:12:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I tidy up my room, I can't find my shit, so when I find my shit I leave it out in the open so I can find it easily. Then it all accumulates and it looks like chaos, but more like... organised chaos. Then I tidy up again and the cycle repeats itself.
L6fty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:04:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get rid of stuff you dont need and you will be more efficient :)
binkerfluid ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:44:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I kind of hate a barren empty room it feels sterile but im a fucking weirdo so whatever.
AdministrativeMoment ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:27:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know you are right, but i wanna disagree with you because otherwise i have to clean my workspace on this already way to busy day
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:22:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What about unboxing a package from the mail
L6fty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:43:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True thats like mini christmas
hahaverypunny ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:35:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I totally get this later in life. Organising things calms me down.
basedgodsenpai ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:40:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always keep my room spotless and itโs way more relaxing and home-y feeling (granted I live in an apartment).
MasochistCoder ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:02:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
After about... 20 years I managed to finally discipline myself to brush every time i eat something (anything)
but for the life of me, i simply can not discipline myself
i've tried doing it bit by bit. I've tried putting on music. I've tried inviting friends to force myself to clean (lol fail all my friends have no prob with my place being a mess). I've tried assigning time periods.
it's not that they fail as methods, it's that apparently i am unable to keep consistent.
plus, the apartment complex must have a serious issue with roaches... and the roaches are downright trolling me: One day i go and hoover the 6-7 dead roaches on the floor... Next day there are 6-7 different roaches at pretty much the same spots. And, fuck me, I can't stand roaches >_< Sometimes i think of just finding half a dozen house centipedes and let them hunt down the disgusting fuckers...
(btw, i know the roaches aren't trolling me, they are just avoiding places where they can sense existing dead roaches)
VulcanXIV ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:05:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apparently the reason for the calmness is because having a dirty room and constantly having it on your mind ( particularly when you find excuses to not clean it) is actually tiring for the brain over time
DanKibi_Dango12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:06:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's a good lobster.
greyspot00 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:06:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My ex wife kept a horrible house, no excuse for a housewife. Now that she's gone, the house stays clean because I clean it. Coming home and having to tiptoe around crap all over the floor and sit around filth, gnats everywhere, filled me with so much anxiety and anger. I was in a state of constant irritation.
kmjar2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:06:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cleaning in bulk is slightly more efficient, but everything is messy 90% of the time. Cleaning as you go is slightly less efficient, but everything is nice and clean 90% of the time. Easy decision to make.
blackletterday ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:17:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I start my work days cleaning my office/desk. 1, I immediately accomplish something which gives me momentum, and 2, it is satisfying and reduces stress etc.
tossingmyracoons ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:32:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm a little bit nuts and keep my spaces tidy. Not obsessively but probably verging on it. Part of my weekend is me looking forward to cleaning. Saturday is my day and Iโll do all my errands in the morning then come home and top to bottom clean my bedroom, then my bathroom and every fortnight my car.
Lying down to relax on my bed after cleaning and showering feels so good. Iโll go through my paperwork and make sure itโs all sorted as well. Waking up Sunday to completely neat and tidy spaces is almost like a drug.
LavaTheif ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:36:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, problem is that my room is a mess so im not really motivated. Suddenly I get motivation to do homework/ coursework. I think "I'll tidy my room, then start it, so that its nicer to work", then tidy my room. After tidying up, I'm now too tired to do homework and dont to it xD
Truedatspam ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:37:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I guess it depends on the person. For me, I need to have some mess in my room on my desk to be able to feel comfortable. If it's tidy, I make sure that I mess it up a little.
thatswhatisaidman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:45:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Absolutely! Outer Order Inner Peace
Poisonxcupcake ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:16:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stress cleaning and anxiety cleaning are productive ways to channel those emotions. It takes your mind off of what you were originally freaked out about.
It's finals week and my house is spotless.
8igby ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:19:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This isn't universal though. It works for my GF, for me it's just wasted time. I'm first annoyed I have to spend time tidying up something that isn't very messy, and them I'm annoyed when I have to go find that thing that I usually leave lying on my desk. But sure, for a lot of people this is great advice :)
Brandwein ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:50:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If i put away everything orderly into boards and drawers, it always takes longer to take it out again than just leaving what i need everyday laying on the table.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:54:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean ya room bucko
RuleEmAll ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:56:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice try mom
Dotard007 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:57:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually to me my dirty room feels more homely than my room when clean.
seemesometime ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:02:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read a quote once โYour home is a map of your brainโ; true that.
Carbon9990 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:55:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If there's one thing I do everyday it's this. When you wake up make your bed and make sure all your dirty clothes are away. Even if all else fails in the day you've accomplished something.
Fixthe_Firnback ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:07:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I believe Jordan Peterson said "If you want to clean up the world, clean your room first."
ichtheology ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:40:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I clean my aquariums and it gives the same feeling. My room is messy though, I don't have the energy to clean in after I'm done fiddling with my tanks.
niks_15 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:54:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. This is me
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:17:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this religiously on a Saturday morning. Gets me up after a good 8 hours sleep and means the start of my weekend is productive. Much recommend!
Teman2001 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:42:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel the same way! I love coming home after school to a clean room lol
myfavouritescar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:04:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Outer order, inner calm.
Ixidorim ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:28:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not if you live with the mess, aka gf.
NixieStyx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:21:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love this advice. I clean my room/remote workplace the day before I work remote and it helps wonders. I am too easily distracted if there is any type of mess in my general vicinity.
FutureDwight76 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:41:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See, everyone already tell me this, but I feel most at home in a somewhat messy room
Bacon-muffin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:41:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've always been on the opposite end of this, every once in a blue moon I get the urge to completely clean my room and every single time my room feels uncomfortable and alien afterwards until I slowly but surely clutter it up again.
My sister on the other hand got my mothers OCD and can't function in a cluttered environment. Different strokes.
Chinateapott ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:54:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Our bedroom is a mess at the moment as weโre in the middle of decorating. It is genuinely causing my depression at the moment. I know once we get it done that Iโll feel better but god damn.
Life_of_Salt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:03:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always thought it was a nervous tick with me. Before practicing for an interview, I would clean my office. I guess I was just trying to clear my head.
moal09 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:22:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Better watch out. Giving the same advice as Jordan Peterson is likely to get you lynched on this site.
beeftony ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:29:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just did did yesterday (on my birthday lol) and its true, felt much more comfortable in a room without stuff and dust laying everywhere.
DinoDipShit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:13:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try telling this to my four year old.
Livvylove ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:29:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the last few months I've been making an effort to make my bed when I wake up. It feels so nice to come in my room and see it tidy
RubixRube ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:45:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I swear my organized space, organized mind.
Mess is distracting, it reminds you of all the things you "should" be doing instead of all the things you can do.
guyhabit ยท 14198 points ยท Posted at 22:39:29 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One day at a time. It's been helping me stay focus in the NOW.
ProvidedCone ยท 14096 points ยท Posted at 00:18:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
My grandma, rest her soul, gave me a similar piece of advice, but with a variant. If you feel like you canโt survive a week, focus on getting through one day. One day too much? One hour. Too much? One minute. Whatever it takes, if you can survive one, you can survive another.
EDIT: Reddit gold?! Whoa dude! Really all I can think is Grandma would have been so happy to know that a lesson she taught me is being shared and hopefully heard by so many people.
Caboose127 ยท 2924 points ยท Posted at 00:43:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is your grandma Kimmy Schmidt?
danishcoffee ยท 1243 points ยท Posted at 01:40:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"That's 24 hours on the crank."
"That's what she said!"
BluerIvy12 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:25:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Crank you for being a crank!
IThinkThings ยท 523 points ยท Posted at 01:58:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
UnBREAKABLE
tekina7 ยท 96 points ยท Posted at 05:38:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
She's alive, dammit!
(It's a miracle!)
Woofles85 ยท 58 points ยท Posted at 05:59:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But females are strong as hell!
Loesje2303 ยท 58 points ยท Posted at 06:06:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs gonโ be uuuh... a fascinating transition (dammit)
Amarasteve ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 07:51:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dammit!
Tsuki_xo ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 09:04:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/redditsings
smost15 ยท 57 points ยท Posted at 04:32:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
OooooooooooooooDAMMIT
MichaelWMills ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:50:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dammit!
fox-eyes ยท 61 points ยท Posted at 02:17:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had to get painful dental work done the other day and I literally was imagining Kimmy cranking as I counted to 10 over and over lol
fuckyoubarry ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:55:57 on May 13, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think the crank was a metaphor for sex
profanejusticecats ยท 56 points ยท Posted at 02:12:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They alive, Dammit!
Mephil79 ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 01:44:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs a miracle!
achellray ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 04:45:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not joking, but I sing her โ10 seconds at a timeโ song almost daily. Sometimes I have to go through it a few times before I feel better, but it definitely helps. And itโs true- when I am feeling anxious or sad or stressed, it calms me down a little and I can continue on with my day for a bit longer.
Karmago ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 03:29:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Crank you for being a crank.
Amsterdom ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 02:57:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Females are strong as hell.
mohit2695 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:24:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Although I have seen the show, and know who you're talking about... Kimmy Schmidt always sounds like a pornstar I have seen before.
coffeesunrise1983 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:29:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
10 seconds at a time
notclevermax ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:30:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lolll!!! my first thought! thank you for posting it ๐
fuckthisimdone02 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:35:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is something taught in AA as well
MondoMino ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:37:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, she's granny Smith
AtotheCtotheG ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:19:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Right?
Alkirawr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:38:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
MY FIRST THOUGHT! YES
Brookiekathy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:13:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ten seconds at a time!
random_side_note ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:58:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For real, I've been taking life 10 seconds at a time the last month, and it's really the only thing helping me keep my shit together and not just break down and give up.
ghostnuggets ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:41:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They've been saying that in drug and alcohol rehabs for 50+ years
klop422 ยท 292 points ยท Posted at 00:48:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I remember sitting in a double period of English in what's so far been the least fun year of my life - not as bad as others' worst years, sure, and I'm still young, but I got a little caught up in pining after someone who I'd stopped talking to, the same year the most important school exams were happening. Anyway, we were supposed to write some essay, and no ideas were flowing at all - I'm horrendously bad at practice essays in 'exam conditions' (under real exam conditions it's actually alright. I don't know what it is), so I looked at the clock and said "5 minutes is no time at all. It's over very quickly. I have an hour left in this class. That's just 12 times 5 minutes, and 5 minutes is no time at all." It was longer than no time at all, but each individual 5 minute span went by surprisingly quickly. I did have to take one toilet break, to be fair, complete with sloooow walk to and from the toilets :P.
I've been using the same trick since, though. It really helped me then.
(If you were wondering, I got over my cowardice, finally talked to her again, was good friends for the last year and a bit of school, and am now currently back out of touch a couple years after school)
goldendaysgirl ยท 72 points ยท Posted at 01:16:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ooh the counting time in class thing does really help. I have a 3 and a half hour class three times a week and the only way I get through it is counting the amount of 5 minutes's left.
Okay_that_is_awesome ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:29:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My entire life motto is I can do anything for five minutes.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:47:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A variant of this also works for doing long packets/other multiple choice things: oh Iโll just get to 25, oops, I did 26, better go to 30. And so on. I did this on a 150 question packet just this morning and it made it 10x more bearable.
Bstew278 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:13:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve always used fractions and percents to help break up time it really helps for those slow agonizing moment. Only downside is that Iโm 25% to death
whatsername_09 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:31:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to do basically the same thing on the more unbearable conditioning runs in when I played sports in middle and high school. Essentially, I would find a landmark about 10-20 meters ahead of me and tell myself that I would hold my pace until I got there, and only then could I ease up a bit- though I rarely actually did so. Repeat this after each landmark, and you can hold a decent pace and the run is over in no time! Same idea for timed runs, as well as set distance runs. Tbh, I think this made me a better, more confident runner in the end.
TinyCatCrafts ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:50:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also if you look at a clock and its 11:25, and you can leave at 12, tell yourself there are 35 minutes left, not "only a half an hour". Because when you look again in 5-10minutes it will still feel like a half hour and feel like its dragging.
LauraMcCabeMoon ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:02:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone else may have already chimed in with this, but what you came up with that day is remarkably similar to the Pomodoro Method. Also a time management method created by a student who was working under pressure. It's pretty cool you can check it out online sometime. I like your version a lot.
guyhabit ยท 60 points ยท Posted at 00:24:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, it helps me with my anxiety and depression when it becomes too much. Having running thought, or intrusive thoughts can really ruin a day, but once I put my mind on just getting through the day it really helps.
nahomboy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:40:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude can you please help me out with intrusive thoughts? Sometimes they tear me up inside and I just want to explode :(
ragnar_longbong ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:25:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
there's a great podcast called invisiblia with an episode on it, it rly helped me & my gf put intrusive thoughts into perspective
Sportiva ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:12:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another one that can sound dumb but really isn't is taking a breath. Not gonna solve everything but it can really help to pause and take a breath.
Also life is pretty crazy and cool even if it feels like it sucks or does suck. Still impressive that we're all here.
E72M ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:54:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude DM me, let me know what's up
mmmolives ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:41:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt know if this will help you but some things that Iโve learned that help me with intrusive thoughts and ugly uncontrollable feelings is instead of fighting and judging myself when that happens, is taking a step back and remembering that those horrible thoughts and feelings are not me they are just thoughts and feelings. As long as I donโt take any actions based on them they are completely powerless. Thoughts and feelings come and go, I get to choose which ones I act on. If I just wait it out, and donโt make them worse by hating myself and others and taking destructive and self-destructive actions, the bad ones will drift away like they drifted in.
I visualize it like sharks in the water. Some of us attract sharks, maybe we attract more because we are hurt from things that happened to us or things we ourselves did. If we fight and rage, the sharks just hurt us more but if we sit calmly they swim away and nice fishies can swim up to us and we can follow them to more peaceful waters. But the most important thing is remembering that you are not your thoughts and feelings - you are the person who chooses what to do with your thoughts and feelings. Donโt judge yourself for having intrusive thoughts - just donโt feed them, donโt fight them, identify them as irrational and wait them out. Anyways that helps me. Also the right combination of antidepressants and mood stabilizers and meditation. Best wishes friend.
guyhabit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:30:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not going to lie it took a while to grasp and understand when people say certain key statements or words to get above the intrusive thoughts. It will take a moment to gain mental clarity of what it means (like an epiphany), but once you fully absorb its idea then it becomes clearer.
With the "one day at a time" I never really thought of or even cared what it meant when I was younger. I just thought it was for alcoholics and drug addicts to follow, but in reality it is something we should all follow within our everyday struggle. When the true meaning is found you kinda look at it and say, "ohhhhhh, so that's what it means" Once it's found though, it is up to you to keep that idea going. Fight against the negative and only remember the positive, and remember to live in your present self.
Another thing I heard that helped was: "thoughts are not facts."
Driveshaft1982 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:48:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whatever it takes.
PolarDorsai ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:31:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whatever it takes.
darklotus_26 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:36:47 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whatever it takes. * sobs *
enddream ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:06:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is what recently is recommended for people who are quitting drugs and/or alcohol. Itโs great advice to anyone going through really hard times.
pollodustino ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:21:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your track record for surviving bad days is currently 100%. Do you really want to break the streak?
Tuugeboi ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:24:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please don't do r/awardspeechedits
Kitty42 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:28:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup I do the same, if i have a really busy day and it feels overwhelming, i take it one thing at a time. Ok I've done this.. now let's concentrate on doing the next and so on.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:29:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This has literally got me through life and kept me alive. Sometimes it has to be down to surviving for just a minute
BallpointBastard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:03:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is wonderful. And so is your username.
I'll be using that in the future.
millero ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:08:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs kind of how I run. If I feel like I canโt go the next mile, I choose mini goals to run past. Eventually, I finish that mile.
PM_Me_PolydactylCats ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:13:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is how I think of it. My survival rate up to this point is 100%. Surely I can keep that going.
trgrz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:03:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I apply this theory to running and it helps me get there every time. Some days itโs one mile, some days itโs a 400 and some days itโs just one more step. But it really helps me to not give up :)
wabojabo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:09:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whatever it takes. I wish my grandma was also Steve Rogers.
laxt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:24:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for sharing this advice. Your grandma sounds like a person of firm character.
kkgray00 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:44:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your grandma sounds awesome. Sorry sheโs not with us anymore
borgchupacabras ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:59:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've saved your comment. I've been having a really really difficult time going to my job everyday and this helps.
the_shittymaintainer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:03:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks I needed that. Thank you.
maneshx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:44:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is exactly what I needed. You and your Grandma are awesome.
TaylorTano ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:56:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is kinda how I get through my exercise routine. 30 minutes sounds like too much? Then I just have to think of it as doing 5 minutes 6 times..
abrads ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:01:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Beautiful.
Pakislav ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:09:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did she have any advice for thriving, rather than just surviving? It's the surviving and suffering part that's not enjoyable.
Fredbearhunter ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:09:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Live in the largest increment of time you can. It works wonders. This is how I describe it
wnwentland ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been having a really hard time with depression lately and this really helped. Thank you so much.
temporaryalpha ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:41:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great advice for /r/divorce.
inthea215 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:58:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was your grandma an alcoholic by any chance this is a super common saying in aa
fibonaccdeeznuts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:03:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm about to cry eating a burrito in public this helped me so much. God bless your grandma
cadabra04 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:17:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This mentality is how I got through my pregnancies with HG. Nine months was devastingly overwhelming. One hour was doable. "One little hour at a time" was my mantra.
takethebluepill ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:21:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is true. I've had health problems that have very seriously made we wish I could die to be released from the hell. It just takes making it one second at a time in those moments
asstalos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:31:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
On that note, something that really struck me was the thought of going "If it's worth doing it's worth half-assing", on the notion that doing even a poor job at something is better than doing nothing when one is feeling incredibly dejected and unmotivated.
Sure, it seems like an absolute chore to go clean up a room while down in the doldrums, but cleaning it half-assedly is going to be so much better than not doing it at all.
BetaHH ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:56:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So I dated your grandma, huh?
yumameda ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What is the most important step a man can take?
Next one.
judgingyoujudgingme ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:47:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mama has the same outlook. Iโm greatful for her.
RyanTheCubsSTH ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:55:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is 100% how I survived everytime I was somewhere I didnt want to be while in the military. Count the hours, count the days, if there are too many days count a specific day. For example, how many Saturdays until you're done. How many times will you wake up before youre done. Makes it all easier.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:55:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reminds me of very similiar advice in the book Infinite Jest. The book talks about using similiar methods to deal with pain and drug withdrawal.
Ashrxven ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:01:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWhatever it takes.โ
keigo199013 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:03:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn, I need this right now...
Malawi_no ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:19:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Living life one nanosecond at the time.
seanisgeynt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:24:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Woah, I survived a minute without air...
CuriousClimate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:34:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am trying to quit smoking and it seems impossible. I will try this as my new mantra.
kwinrodriguez ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:35:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always have something to look forward to.
maora34 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:41:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is exactly how we all got through basic training in the Army.
akg720 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:46:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve had to do that. It started as Get through this week. But life got harder and my mind and heart kept sinking to darker places. A week turned into Just one more day, then One more hour. Finally it dropped to silently repeating all day long, Just one more minute, Just get through this minute then weโll deal with the next, Just one more minute. Then I attempted suicide when even the single minutes became too much to bear. That was 7 months ago. I can safely say Iโm at least back up to One more month now.
tofupicklebum ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:53:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is exactly how I got through my first real struggle with anxiety a year and a half ago. I thought I was at my breaking point, but thinking about things in those terms absolutely helped keep me going
Lizaderp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:03:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's how I rolled at boot camp. One day at a time became a bit overwhelming, so I went with chow. Wake up, chow. Cool. Now two things before next chow. Now another 2 things and then chow. So much easier that way. Graduated, no problem.
KverEU ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:11:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this when I hurt (or hungover), works ridiculously well.
mynoserunsmorethanme ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:43:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A Company Sergeant Major in the army used to say about tough physical exertion: โabsolutely everyone can work for 10 seconds. Once youโre done, just do it for another 10 seconds.โ Now I apply that to way more than just hard physical work.
trendsetter56578 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:02:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love this comment because people often forget how wise the older generation is. Just try to ask your grand parents. My grandfather, rest his soul, used to say the same thing and he survived WW2, nazis staying in their house and killing his brother, communist uprise and years of non-stop bullying from communist party and much more. So i always remember this saying because if he survived all of this, i sure can survive my pitty troubles.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:33:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1 step at a time. if too much, baby steps.
PlatThreshMain ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:39:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love a good proof by induction
Drops-of-Q ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:09:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Skam?
killerbanshee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:12:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is also great advice for alcoholics or drug addicts trying to quit.
WolfySamGJ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:44:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A variant of this really helped me once, I was doing a 50km walk and had hit a point where I didn't think I could carry on but I kept telling myself that if the finish was five metres up the track I would make it, so I could always get five metres further on
effa94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:54:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i do this for when im really sick or hangover or in pain, not for any depression related stuff
CelticGaelic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:05:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandma used to say "Just eat that elephant one bite at a time."
harsh183 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:33:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's great! I needed this right now thanks.
SariSama ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:59:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this at work. I divide it into several parts and then I just live through
Frankensteins_Friend ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:23:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This has been my go to for much of my professional career. It is amazing how much easier it is to manage times of extreme workload when you stop focusing on how much you have to do over a multi week period of time when you stay focused on just TODAY.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:29:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
great advice by dj khaled
fuckwitsabound ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:20:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
New parents- remember this ^
ghengiscant ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:34:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
good advice, but still kind of ironic advice considering she's dead
KanosKohli ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:04:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And that's how grandma discovered mathematical induction
PiquantBlueberryPie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:44:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is exactly what I kept repeating to myself during natural labor and delivery.
Not_quite_a ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:15:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learned this from my dad who used it when he was first getting sober. Definitely helps.
AlecTheSmart ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:54:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Grandma: if youโre choking a little bit on something like water down the wrong pipe, raise your arms while youโre coughing. Big difference.
SuicideBonger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:05:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We have this saying in drug addiction recovery circles. "I won't use just for this next minute, hour, day, week, month, etc.." "One day at a time". "I won't use today" etc.. It's very applicable to life, too.
zeddwillbedeadsoon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:56:11 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm sorry but for some reason focusing like that just really makes me want to kill myself more then usual. Something about repeating that time over and over and over.
fair_child123 ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 01:47:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah im in A.A. too. Hahaha. Jk .. I am..but it works for everything, I find.
liljaz ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:24:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
~ 6500 one day at a time here :)
fair_child123 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:28:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whoa! Congrats! 618 here!
gabe1108 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:08:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"It gets easierโฆ Every day it gets a little easierโฆ But you gotta do it every dayโโโthatโs the hard part. But it does get easier" -Jogging Baboon
Wyliecody ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:04:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The past is history, the future is a mystery but right now is a gift thatโs why they call it the present.
Not mine originally but I say it like Iโm getting paid to say it.
13frodo ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:40:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm probably miss understanding the advice because it sounds similar to what I do now.
โAssignment for school due tomorrow. Shouldnโt worry about that todayโ
nimassiah ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:26:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dropped out of school because the first time I tried college , I did stuff like this. Eventually, the assignments piled up and I couldnโt do them well. There simply wasnโt enough time to turn in a good assignment, let alone keep up with the studying I had to do. I ended up getting so overwhelmed by all the work, my grades tanked. Eventually they got so bad that I ended up getting kicked out of school.
Now, there were other things going on that also influenced why I dropped out. But, Iโm not gonna get into that.
Iโm at my second attempt at college. I started keeping one of those agendas in my backpack. Anytime I get an assignment, I immediately write it down in that agenda. When I have a gap between my classes, I use it to knock out some of the work I need to do, even if it isnโt due for another week. This made school 1746266362x easier for me. Somehow, my days got easier because Iโm not always scrambling to get the work done the day itโs due. In my opinion, writing down what needs to be done and applying a little โapply ass to chairโ mentality can really make life easier.
Now, I know this is some unsolicited advice. Maybe what you are doing works for you, maybe it doesnโt. All I know is that it didnโt work for me. Hopefully, you take this into consideration because what I have mentioned before was a game changer when it came to school.
Twat_The_Douche ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:41:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can eat an entire elephant, one bite at a time.
cuzimclearlybetter ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:35:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't think about getting through the future. It's yet to come. Get through the present, one second at a time, and that'll lead you into the future.
squirrupulous ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:06:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad always says โyou can only do one day at a time; nobodyโs ever been able to do two.โ
Fr13d_P0t4t0 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:23:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But Netflix cancelled it /s
TheUncommonOne ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:57:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best advice my best friend gave me was to take it one day at a time. The past has already been written. The future is distant. The only thing that matters is NOW
I_have_Rockstar_Hair ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:45:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm not a huge religious person at all, but one thing I once read and then heard again was something one prophet said, โDon't be worried for tomorrow, for tomorrow will be worried for itself. Each day's own evil/trouble is sufficient.โ This has actually helped me focus on resting when I was up at 3am worried about the mortgage, bills, work, relationships, etc. It would always work out, even with me giving myself anxiety, depression, and probably close to ulcers in my early 20โs. Itโs been many many years and Iโm still here without anyone dying or going to jail because I didnโt pay the mortgage on time when things were bad! Things change very quickly, good and bad.
Morgana81 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:40:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Matthew 6:34
Even for non religious people Bible has amazing life advices which makes your life better.
Guest2424 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:45:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used this to get by some tough days in college. It's still my stand by when I have to do something I don't want to.
elaerna ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:50:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
00:45 https://youtu.be/LhBMz75y0xo
throwitaway488 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:09:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also putting things off until tomorrow/later is easy until you realize today is yesterday's "tomorrow" so you might as well just do it now. I've been so much more productive when I realized that I'll feel the exact same way tomorrow as I do today, so I might as well do those things now.
fibonaccdeeznuts ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:50:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"The best thing about the future is that it comes a day at a time" - Wise Abe Lincoln
guyhabit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:54:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is my favorite so far.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:53:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mindfulness
jadenthesatanist ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:55:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the premise of programs like NA. โJust for today.โ Then the next day, โjust for today.โ Soon enough, youโve wracked up a year or five clean (or whatever it is that weโre talking about).
angrymonkey ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:04:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never look back dahling, it distracts from the now.
ButtsexEurope ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:10:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really hate that idea of living in the now to the exclusion of thinking about the future. Because itโs fucked me over so many times that I end up procrastinating and hurting others.
mus0u ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:35:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/NonZeroDay
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:48:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Life life in day tight compartments.
pheret87 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:03:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
davidb88 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:05:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also works with bigger tasks. Break it up and work on it one smaller task at a time
crewchief0206 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:31:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I went through basic training some kid in my flight had a countdown of days until graduation. My brother (also prior military) told me in a letter to stop counting the days (after I wrote him a letter saying the days drag) and to live chow to chow. You get three square meals a day, pretty much at equal hours between each meal so knowing you have two hours to lunch or dinner or a lot better than saying there is 14 hours until bed time.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:34:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Animal crossing taught me this!
broussegris ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:45:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How does an ant eat an elephant? One bite at a time.
cheetocity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have been using this through my entire high school year. Last year it was "get through the week and you'll soon be on break." This year it has been "get through the day and you'll soon be through the week." Its been a really tough year for me but this mindset has been getting me through it
Eloping_Llamas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My father used to listen to this irish song when I was little and you saying those words brought back the lyrics
โYesterdayโs gone, sweet Jesus And tomorrow may never been mine Lord help me today, Show me the way One day at a timeโ
It was a tacky old irish tape he would play a lot. If you care to hear the song, it starts around the 50:30 mark:
https://youtu.be/ZRuU_sVXSp4
_xephia ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:00:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't even begin to explain how helpful this mindset is. It allows me to ease my anxiety and get things done faster. As a student who worries too much, I always get stressed every Monday while thinking about everything I have to do for the rest of the week. By taking it day by day, I get to solve problems when I meet them, which keeps my mind at rest for everything in the far future.
nayiro ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:24:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In a similar vein, one thing at a time
Electron625 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:32:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Won't you afraid there's something big enough that entire day won't be enough? Wherever I plan, I can't get those out of my head and I keep worrying until they are all done.
Scrumpilump2000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:42:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So while you're here enjoy the view. Keep on doing what you do. So hold on tight, we'll muddle through, one day at a time.
iceporter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
need more context, I want to have lasered focus habit too
EloquentGrl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:27:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was going through the hardest point of my life, I read somewhere to just keep saying to yourself what you are doing right then. "Right now, I am driving down the street. Right now, I am looking at a bird. Right now, I am listening to music." When I was at my worst moments, this helped me survive the next few minutes.
FurySh0ck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've learned this one the hard way
TheStooner ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:03:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't go too far though. It's important to remember the long term can be important too.
BatmanPicksLocks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:09:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always have and still currently struggle with this. Life flies by and I rarely enjoy the moment. How do I fix this... lol
jojo-_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:11:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Carpe diem
jd7509 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โThe most important step a man can take. Itโs not the first one, is it? Itโs the next one. Always the next stepโ - Brandon Sanderson
Autistic_boi_666 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:38:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great for school, I use this all the time
a-piece-of-me ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:27:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My version of this is along the lines of "If you always make today the best it can be then you never have to worry about tomorrow". This is for people (like me) who tend to try to orchestrate things with a view to the future. Can really get in the way of the present.
TypeOneAuthor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:27:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just read that as โone time at a day.โ
I think I need a nap.
Denncity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:29:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every time I've toasted someone (as in "Cheers!" when drinking, not got someone stoned) I've always said "Happy Tuesday 30th April", or whatever day and date it is. It's always reminded me that today only happens once - make the most of it, do something you've never done before.
Someone told me a while ago that they started copying me when they heard me do this and it really helped them live more in the moment. That made me happy.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:32:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i know right. i cannot like this comment enough.
TheHancock ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:39:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/nonzeroday
elegant_pun ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:48:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What's gone has happened, what's coming isn't here yet. They're not your problems.
One minute, one moment at a time.
lattestcarrot159 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:22:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You learn that when you enlist lol.
yamatotaichou ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:31:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Were in Now, now. Everything that's happening now, is happening now.
fnord_happy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:58:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually this sounds very useful to me. Why did you think it was useless?
pm-me-duck5 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:42:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Odaat!
adultinglikewhoa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:51:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandmother use to ramble that, all the time. She was always saying "there's nothing you can do. What're you gonna do? Just take it one day at a time, that's all you can do." When I was younger, it was just a quirky thing Grandma muttered. Now that I'm all grown up (HA!), I find myself muttering the same thing, to myself, on occasion. It was probably a coping mechanism she developed, as a single mother with 13 children, and just continued it as a means to deal with the stresses of getting older. But, yeah, one day at a time...
cumuloedipus_complex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:53:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This has worked wonders for me through sobriety. Over 18 months strong!
tcinternet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:30:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An old boss of mine was an alcoholic in recovery... not sure if it was AA or another 12 step program, he wasn't as open about that part because it was still an uncomfortable thing back when he started the program... but a piece of advice/command that he would often give me when I was overwhelmed was "The war is already won, I just need you to win the day".
Any time I got overwhelmed by a professional or personal problem, I would think about that... I don't have to save the world, I just have to get through the day. It gave me a lot of comfort.
smokedogseadog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:56:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! When I started being a vet tech, there was one super difficult day and my supervisor said just know that the day will end. It really helped getting through super long days.
jsauce28 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:13:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use a similar mindset to help break bad habits: "If you can quit for a day, you can quit for a lifetime."
wetastelikejesus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:47:34 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to go to bed every night telling myself I just had to make it through the night and tomorrow it will be okay, I can give up then if I want. Then repeat the next night, etc
about33ninjas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:49:16 on May 25, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another way to think about this is that many people are always living in their heads, the past, or future. Rather than living there and occasionally visiting the present, live in the present and visit the past and future as you practically need to.
If you ever need to visit the present, focus on every detail of a situation, from the colors on the walls, to the temperature of the room, to the sounds in the air
SilliestOfGeese ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 05:11:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*stay focused on the NOW.
Mr_Impossibro ยท 6966 points ยท Posted at 00:36:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not taking your cellphone into bed with you. After awhile you will sleep much easier without the distraction and blue light shining straight into your eyes before bed.
Whaty0urname ยท 11486 points ยท Posted at 01:50:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Sounds like a good idea." - me on my phone in bed at 10pm.
chowdwn ยท 3583 points ยท Posted at 02:54:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Sounds like a good idea for tomorrow." - me on my phone in bed at 2am every night
Sandrine2709 ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 05:26:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me on my phone in bed at 1:30am right now... sigh
ThePortalsOfFrenzy ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 06:02:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
2am in bed, checking in!
zerotohero- ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 06:06:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Here to fulfill my prophecy
[deleted] ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 06:06:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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MrDecryption ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 06:17:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
2:16 am.. cannot seem to put phone down.
rachellel ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 06:31:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
2:30 am signing in
_no_na_me_ ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 06:32:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
2:31am here. Itโs strange to think that we must all be relatively close to each other, geographically.
tulipaie ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 06:37:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
2:37 am... hello neighbour!
Jessiebeller ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 06:57:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
2:57 am, still going strong!
-pippo- ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:04:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
3:04 checking in )โ:
lokunomad ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:10:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
2:10 am cst checking in
blargiman ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:13:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
fucking casuals. (met the dawn at 6am on more than one occasion) @_@
luckily it was also my day off so i just slept till 2pm. :D
DespritCookie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:30:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
2:30 am what's good
xLakai ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:16:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yea itโs 4am...
iVelocityKappa ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:20:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
5:20 am. i might as well not sleep
Rinat1234567890 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:34:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
4:34 pm, guess I made through the day
alpacabowlkehd ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:02:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
7:02 am, still cannot put my phone down.
StormInMyDreams ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:44:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
2:45pm in bed, I think I fucked up
ThePortalsOfFrenzy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:15:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds to me like you're doing it right!
[deleted] ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 05:21:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Jam3z01 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:02:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No sleep gang
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:05:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just last week I passed out in the office. I'm in my 20s. Thankfully someone caught me or I would have been concussed and that can paralyze you or kill you. The most embarrassing thing ever as I lay on the floor waiting for the ambulance with everyone in the office sees me there, weak, vulnerable.
The doctor did full checkups. Everything is fine. I had just been chronically sleep deprived. I learned it the hard way.
If it takes work to sleep, if it's not easy, you fucking put that work in and make sure you get your sleep hours. It might happen at school or home, it might be next time you're drinking or skip a meal. The longer you are sleep deprived, the more inevitable that embarrassing moment becomes, but you might not be that lucky, and end up dead.
DENNISREYN0LDS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:43:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
5am got off a kitchen shift at 2 at a bar, open at 8am gang
Alice1985ds ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:16:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
later today*
EyeofEnderG38 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:56:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Now this is the relatable one
squaremomisbestmom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:44:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me on my phone in bed at 4:45
ThePromisedMango ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:39:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โSounds like a good idea for tomorrowโ-me in my bed next morning
PortalWhovian ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:31:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
get out of my head
CoRe0412 ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 02:42:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me in bed at 4 am
Firewolf420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:24:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me in bed
rikyy ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:17:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's 6:17 right now. I have no sleep.
Pls send of help
willwirth ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:54:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can use concussive maintenance for you.
GivesCredit ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:45:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
meta
SvampeJunior ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:09:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
7:09 here, I feel you.
J_E_S_U_S__ ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:47:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well shit im here at 5am
noveltymoocher ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:03:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1am checking in!
5downFour2go ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:33:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1:30am and alarm for work goes off in 3.5 hours!
jm4182849 ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 02:33:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
excuse me sir this is a personal attack
jaguarnick ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:46:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also doing this lol
cheesywink ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:02:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You're right." - me on my phone in bed at 11:02pm.
bkaybee ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:04:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oof. I mean, I have my night filter on, so this totes doesn't apply to me.
/s :(
LoneWolf2711 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:44:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
11:45pm . . .
iammaxhailme ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:20:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's only ten. You can still browse for interesting threads until 1 or 2, no problem.
masdar1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:32:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โSounds like a good idea.โ - me on my phone in bed at 12:32 AM.
maggot-rag ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:16:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow at 10 pm?Apsolute mad lad
externalhost ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:15:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People really go to bed at 10??
IllegalAlcoholic ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:23:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you from New York?
thejedipokewizard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:30:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*Literally me right now, except 11:30pm
Apods10 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:33:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1230, still here
Devilheart ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:40:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Oh no" - me on my phone in bed at 11 pm.
Ethanxiaorox ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:47:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โSounds like something Iโll never doโ - me on my iPad at 2 am
theaverage_redditor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:57:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've got reddit on amoled mode so I can hide in the darkness.
AtotheCtotheG ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:23:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You fool, now I know what time zone youโre in. Youโve given me all the tools I need to beat you to Blackbeardโs gold!
To anyone else reading this: no, different Blackbeard. Still gold, though.
giratinaswrath ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:41:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turns Twilight back on
LeO-_-_- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:50:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"It does, doesn't it?" - me on my phone at 3am.
Virginity_Lost_Today ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:53:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โ4 Hours Laterโ
lt13jimmy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:56:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*2AM
timmyfinnegan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:05:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well if you didnโt have your phone in bed you wouldโve missed this great tip
FarhanAxiq ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:07:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/me_irl
ever_the_unpopular ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:53:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
10 pm? Atleast you're sleeping early. Give yourself some credit, man.
Dathiks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:42:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You right. Sounds like a great idea
Me, on my phone at 12:43 am
TheHancock ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:52:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Those are rookie numbers!
russian_20 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:17:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me on my phone rn at 4:16 am est.
PM_PICS_OF_ME_NAKED ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:29:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
- me at 1:30am.
human-potato_hybrid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:58:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โSounds like a good idea.โ - me at 3:58 AM
PoIIux ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:04:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oversleeps because alarm is in the living room
LordFrogberry ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:22:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me at 5am still awake
Juvv ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:36:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"sounds like a good idea to me" - me on phone in bed at 8:37 pm
Guy_Fieris_Hair ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:56:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
5 am for me.
smala017 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:28:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs ok, bedtime isnโt for 5 hours then.
Jokkitch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:00:41 on May 9, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
10pm?? Try 2am
Kahye ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
10pm. Lol. Itโs 12:40am and I work at 7am. Hahahah. Loser.
Not_floridaman ยท 1510 points ยท Posted at 02:15:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But I have the blue light filter on. -me, in bed with my phone at 10:15.
EliteDaMyth ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 03:56:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He should have went for the head
MrGeneralWicked ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 06:02:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can go for my head if you want
purelyirrelephant ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:22:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm here, too.
jimboslice29 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:13:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you turn that on?
polymetric_ ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 05:56:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it's called night shift on iOS, not sure about android. For PCs use LightBulb
Shunpaw ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 06:11:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Twilight for android, f.lux for pc
Eriasuu95 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 06:20:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Windows 10 has a night mode built-in.
EddoWagt ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 09:20:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
F.lux is more customizable and works better imo
Bacon-muffin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:46:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is that automatically on? Because something within the last year was screwing up my settings and made it so I had to uninstall f.lux because it was screwing everything up. I wonder if they were fighting each other and that's what caused it.
Where would I find that?
Eriasuu95 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:02:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll link a tutorial showing how you can activate night mode. You should have the option because it comes with newer Win10 builds. Hope it helps!
lemon_battery ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:28:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I prefer dimly for android
Zawaken ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:46:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Redshift for Linux, and I think Mac has a built in blue light filter (probably the same as on iOS). Definitely agree on LightBulb for Windows.
bigclivedotcom ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:33:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
F.lux is better
polymetric_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:11:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
How so? Lightbulb does what I need and itโs free. Genuinely curious what flux does better, just to be clear.
EDIT: F.lux is free and has more features. Not sure why I thought F.lux cost money
Bacon-muffin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:46:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never used lightbulb, dunno if ones better than the other but F.lux works well and is also free.
polymetric_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:23:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For some reason I was under the impression flux wasn't free
Bacon-muffin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:31:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It happens
LowKeyNotAttractive ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:21:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's called Eye Comfort for the Android folk.
Eliongw2 ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 06:02:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
on my samsung it's an option in the quick bar thingy on top. swipe down on the screen. and it's in the settings app. It's called blue filter
mossenmeisje ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:56:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Either in your settings (night mode), or with a separate app if it's not a pre-installed function. I have mine set automatically with a timer.
Not_floridaman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:21:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It seems that other people have answered it, on the Samsung and Google phone, it's an option on the quick bar or the display settings. I have mine set to come on at sunset through sunrise.
Finnick420 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:16:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
how do you manage to go to bed so early, i canโt fall asleep until 1 am
Eliongw2 ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 06:04:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if you have to wake up every day at 5 am and come home at 6 pm you will fall alsleep at 10 pm quite fast... never happend to me before my first job either, was always awake until 1
Lolicon_des ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:35:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm in my first full-time job, still awake too late every night
- sent from the workplace toilet
MrBojangles528 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:18:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's also nice to get up with enough time to relax in the morning before you go to work. I get up an hour before I need to, so I can slowly drink coffee and wake up before I have to actually get ready to go.
LeO-_-_- ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:54:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also don't go to sleep early, but I think routine and not using your phone in bed are probably your best shots.
On the other hand, if you've already tried that and it's impossible to sleep early, you should probably see a doctor. You could have some condition.
MrBojangles528 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:20:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you are like me and can't resist using your phone in bed, install an app like Twilight that lets you turn your phone to a way more warm color than the standard 'night mode' will allow. Mine makes the reddit dark mode look like a dark red at night.
munit_1 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:53:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude they are browsing and stuff, i can go to bed too at 10pm and shure i wont sleep before midnight.
Sweatymawe ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:25:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Routine
myxomatosissrsly ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:09:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1 pm?
Finnick420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:48:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yee usually get 5 hours of sleep
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:11:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Finnick420 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:36:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
01:00 european time is what i meant
grapecity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:29:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Zzzquil
Not_floridaman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:20:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, don't get the wrong idea. I was in bed at 10:15. I wasn't asleep, even with the Benadryl, until 1:15.
MrBojangles528 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:17:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get up at 6:30 to get ready for work where I am standing and working physically for eight hours. Some days I can barely stay awake until 10pm.
lapislazuli135791214 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:39:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is currently 3:38 am. What am i doing with my life?
Not_floridaman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:18:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I fell asleep at 1:15am, I'm obviously doing great things.
MosquitoRevenge ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:48:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Already in bed at 22.15 huh. Well done!
fritosqwert ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:34:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What is blue light?
Not_floridaman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:36:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not a tech savvy person so I don't know how to properly explain, so here's my best attempt: Your phone has a very clear picture and it's bright. They also subliminally keep your brain alert and tire your eyes. Part of what makes your picture so crisp is the blue tones. Most phones have the ability to turn that off so the picture becomes softer, with a yellow hue and can aide in going to sleep (as opposed to keeping your awake with the blue lights that stimulate).
SoundPon3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:40:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As far as I know it messes with the secretion of melatonin which helps you sleep.
Not_floridaman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:54:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks!
lucky_fin ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 01:54:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโll have to try this tomorrow, because Iโm already doing it today
bud_420_tender ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 04:53:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve got something really important to tell you in 24 hours. Reddit is my only means to contact you, so I need you to be here in 24 hours.
bud_420_tender ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:27:45 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I forgot what I wanted to tell you.
lucky_fin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:32:32 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry. I was staying off my phone before bed
hydrowifehydrokids ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 02:08:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ok but what if i use Night Mode
Paranoidas ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 03:37:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Part of the goal is to disassociate your brain from laying in bed and playing with your phone. This goes for reading, watching tv, or whatever else you may do while laying in bed before you sleep. If you do these activities in a separate room and only go to bed once you're truly ready to commit to sleeping, then your brain will start to identify your bedroom with only sleeping. It sounds silly, but it's made a world of difference for me. I fall asleep much faster now.
hydrowifehydrokids ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:46:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do want to try this stuff, but I live in about an 11x9" box and my only furniture is one wooden desk chair and my bed. So I use my bed as my couch. I know mentally separating spaces is important, it's hard to sleep three steps from where I just worked for 5 hours in a row
Paranoidas ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:48:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aww man, that's rough. Maybe get one of those bunk beds with a futon on the bottom?
hydrowifehydrokids ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:55:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hahaha that would be great. It's a rooming house though and I don't own the furniture!
Perfectionary ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:57:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well if I didnt bring my phone to bed, I wouldnt have seen this advice
grasshopperson ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:16:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's an unsolvable quandry
horsenbuggy ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:56:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have Do Not Disturb set to come on every night from 10pm to 7am. I get phone calls, but no messaging alerts. Hardly anyone ever calls.
workstuff28 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:33:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i have mine set for 8:30pm-8am (i get too many work calls/txts at like 9pm), you can also set it so a immediate call back will go through for like emergencies.
Isoldael ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:38:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interestingly, it's the opposite for me. Reading a little Reddit in bed will make me super sleepy and will make it easier to actually fall asleep. The only downside is I sometimes forget to put my phone on its charger before passing out.
dlawnro ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:06:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to charge my phone overnight, but I started noticing the battery life degrading pretty quickly, so I decided to switch it up. Now I charge my phone in the evening, so it's fully charged by the time I go to bed. Then I plug it back in first thing in the morning and top it off while I'm getting ready for work.
I feel like it's helped a lot with maintaining battery health since it's not sitting on the charger all night long. Plus, I don't have to worry about forgetting to charge it or it coming unplugged overnight.
kmeyer63 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:32:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This! My wife and I charge are phones downstairs so we don't take it in the room with us. Helps keep the bedroom for it's best two uses.
PM_ME_YOUR_GOOD_NEW5 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 03:25:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sleeping and reading?
MaleAryaStarksNoHomo ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:51:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Obviously not uploading sex tapes to Reddit :(
StumpNuts ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:32:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stingy fuckers.
pirateninjamonkey ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:25:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No problem (I say as I surf and watch movies on my full sized laptop I take to bed with me).
Kambers_ ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:26:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mines got a blue light filter I set so it turns on at 9pm each night. Not having that blue light helps a lot
superbabe69 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:37:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Personally I have it set to follow the sunrise/sunset. It works a treat for me
Kambers_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:36:42 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ooo never thought of that! Will try
KGBXSKILLZZ ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:01:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reading this 3 feet away from my bed at 11pm as I'm planning on going to bed.
Pareeeee ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:12:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow. Currently reading this on my phone while laying in bed
Smuggykitten ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:13:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Since I use it for my alarm, I put a little black cloth over the light. It helps greatly!
anonomotopoeia ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:20:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The twilight app is great for reducing that blue light, times itself to the sun or you can set your own time for the filter to come on. I have bad anxiety, if I'm left alone with my thoughts before bed I work myself into a tizzy, heart racing and wide awake, feeling like I need to jump out of bed and tackle that thing I'd forgotten about. Instead, I will read and fall asleep, either to a reddit thread going through the most mundane comments or reading a book I've read before.
qaisjp ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:52:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think this will solve the inverse problem for me where I spend too much time on the phone in bed when I wake up.
ShaoLimper ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:50:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's funny, I take mine to bed sobi can fall asleep. I tried leaving it out but I couldn't distract myself to sleep. Before I knew it, it was 4 am. Grabbedy phone, started playing some stupid word game and passed out.
Missed my alarm because my phone died.
Glad it works for you though
unique_reddit_name_ ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:51:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So, genuine question, do you not worry that friends or family wouldn't be able to get a hold of you at night (thinking for emergency things)? Do you not worry about not having a phone nearby to call for help if something happens or someone breaks into your house? Or even something as silly but useful as using the flashlight on your phone?
I'm on call 24/7 for work so I always have at least one phone with me, usually two. I don't consider it a burden at all.
Edit: just realized maybe you meant just 'into bed' I was thinking you didn't even bring phones into the bedroom. I know some who leave phones in another room or at work/school or in a car, just baffling to me.
Uncreativeinjune ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:59:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
OMG I started having my husband plug my phone in on his side of the bed every night and it has changed my life so much! He has never had a problem going to sleep but I would stay on my phone until 3 or 4am. Now when he goes to bed he takes my phone and plugs it in on his side and it's great! Sometimes I have a hard time sleeping but since my phone isn't within arms reach I don't look at it. I sleep way better now.
InterdimensionalTV ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:34:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly I hear this a lot when I tell people I have sleeping problems but it just seems like I'm the exact opposite. I can not fall asleep when it's quiet and just the noise from a fan or something does not work. I have to be focused on something like my phone and allow myself to drift off slowly, even if it's off to the side and it's just someone narrating a YouTube documentary. I even went and bought a wireless charger so I could set my phone elsewhere and let it charge up but I haven't been able to use it effectively yet.
TheRealFeels9 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:39:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This sounds so good in theory, but what to do to fall asleep then? On days when I'm not that physically tired, I end up tossing and turning for hours - very frustrating. Better than that is to let something on Netflix wear me out until I fall asleep. At least I'm entertained.
Luxtenebris3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:15:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read a book for a bit.
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JakeDogFinnHuman ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:32:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you tried using a sound machine? Sounds better than phone speakers (deeper richer tone). Donโt even notice my tinnitus with it on.
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ToBeReadOutLoud ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:32:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can get a white noise machine for about $30 or a fan for $15 on amazon.
The actual mechanical white noise is a lot more effective for me than sounds from a speaker.
_Pure_Insanity_ ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:22:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ugh. My wife does this. Goes to bed at 10pm, I come in at midnight.
Me: You're not asleep yet?
Wife: I can't sleep 'goes back to staring at phone'
Mantequilla_Stotch ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:24:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can set your phone to night mode to stop the blue lights. But having control and putting the phone down at the appropriate time is key.
lord_tommy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:11:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a caveat I like to keep my phone next to me to help me wake up in the morning. It sounds silly but the screen does wake up my brain more quickly plus I get to do something I enjoy.
nettlesome-fiend ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:15:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's all fun and games until you're very very sick and you need to make a phone call.
tinypurplepiggy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:29:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My phone has a blue light filter function. I keep it on all the time.. This started accidentally because I forgot to turn it off one morning. My eyes/head hurt less overall with it on though. Also, it makes you realize how damn blue the "white" is
VilleOlento ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:41:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My alarm clock is on my phone. Should I get a new alarm clock?
DuckWithBrokenWings ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:11:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a really old alarm clock. One that goes BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP until you want to hit not just the clock but yourself. It's effective because I hate it so much that I've activated my inner clock, almost always waking up naturally before that fucker goes off.
VilleOlento ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:28:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice lmao Maybe I should get one then xd
Barrel_Titor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:36:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My tactic, which I hate myself for doing but works perfectly, Is having one of those kind of alarm clocks on the other side of the room where I can't reach it. Actually have to get out of bed and take a few steps to turn it off at which point the hardest part is already over.
YtDonaldGlover ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:55:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
sets blue light filter
Noootella ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:10:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My phone helps me sleep
Schnabulation ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:25:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did try it but did not notice any difference. So I changed it back - itโs my ritual to watch one (or max two) YouTube vids before sleeping. Had no problem falling asleep.
Hoedoor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:42:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This works, i don't do it anymore, but when I did do it, i slept easier
Especially combined with not drinking caffeine past a certain time
reddit887799 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:46:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โ put my smartphone on the bed side table โ
MrHorseHead ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:46:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a baby step towards this, use the built in blue light blocker or download an app that adds that feature if you dont have one.
Also get Flux for your computer.
avhope ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:48:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if I said Iโm on my phone in bed right now?
herminipper ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:08:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I'm on my phone while in bed, I've already lost
Bbkobeman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:25:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Too late.....
Golden_Kappa123 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:28:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
NIGHT MODE
DuskyJam ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:37:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me literally reading this at midnight
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In fairness though you can get an app or sometimes there's a setting built in to remove the blue light.
GENITAL_MUTILATOR ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lmao Iโm staring at my phone now
soberdude ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:41:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oops
mista_masta ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:42:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You didnโt have to call us out like that
chicklette ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:02:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn off blue light filter at a certain time, then do not disturb filter. My phone goes to blue light off at 9 and dnd at 1030. Helps me get off work he phone on time and get to bed, but then I also get a few minutes when my alarm goes off to wake up and read the headlines.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have the cellphone thing down. Now if only I could just leave the laptop out of the bed.
Asphyxiatinglaughter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:07:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've started reading books again before bed and have found I sleep a lot better now
Random_182f2565 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:27:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So, do you want me to delete Reddit?
Rising_Swell ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:28:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't use my phone in bed! - me with one of those hospital table things that slides over your bed so i can laptop and lie down without making it lose all air flow.
OpinionProhibited ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:34:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Laughs in yellow eye protection screen
kevin_with_rice ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:35:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
100%. I stopped when I got to college and I'm much happier for it ever since. I've suggested it to my roommate, but she ignores it, even though he talks about how hard it is for her to sleep
AlexTraner ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:37:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alternatively, use a blue light filter near bed time.
Some of us fall asleep on reddit.
okaymoose ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:38:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reading a book before bed is the best thing. Keeps you occupied but I often find that I read two pages then pass out immediately. It's less strain on your eyes and just enough stimulation to slow down your brain for sleep.
BrandonVout ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:41:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I sleep with my phone on a different floor of the house. Sounds like a joke but I just leave it plugged in with my workstation.
pretendpersonithink ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:42:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It does work and I was doing so well with this for a while. Then some horrible life stuff happened and I fell out the habit. Going to try again. Soon.
Dhars_Live ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:45:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I usually spend up to 10+ hours a day in front of my computer (2 monitors) + there's a bunch of RGB lights sinse its a gaming system. I don't think I've ever had trouble sleeping besides when ai get woken up by loud noises. Guess I'm lucky?
Bl4ckj4ck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:48:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I stopped looking at screens the last hour before I go to sleep and read a book, either physical or on my e-reader. Did wonders for my sleep.
Woody_Harryishson ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:48:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't understand people who do this. When I'm up, I'm up, when I'm in bed, I'm either fucking or sleeping.
I can understand staying up late into the night till you realize it's 3am and you're surfing reddit on the couch.
But once I meet the bed it's bye bye world and hello sweet sweet sleep. I use a regular alarm so the phone just ends up on my charger by the bed, un-used.
I can't imagine the neck, back, and eye strain from using a phone in your bedroom at night while laying down.
streetsworth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:54:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Currently 153am in nyc
bunnyrut ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:02:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
impossible when you work for a 24 hour job and are on call all day every day.
i can't wait to leave this place, it's exhausting. (currently working an overnight because of a call out, and have to be back in at my regular scheduled time tomorrow.)
hunturtle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:02:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love my sleep, but I have to keep my phone on loud because I work from my phone now.
kickash92 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:22:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn... You caught me.
the-holy-one23 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:25:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Blue light ha, my screen goes yellow after 7pm. I win!
Iโm just kidding, I donโt use my phone in bed, I value sleep too much!
Arachnophobicloser ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:59:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like turning on an audio book or podcast before I go to sleep. Knocks me right out.
Vercetor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:09:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have my phone but flip it upside down. So I never hear it or see it, but your point is still well made.
yehei38eijdjdn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:19:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Blue light filter lulls.
Ahmrael ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:29:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's a nice idea and all, but my ambient noise app is on my phone. I need to look at the screen to start it, and it needs to be near my bed to be the most effective it can be.
legitttz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:35:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
im not quite that disciplined yet, but i have made the rule that if the light is off, the phone is off. the second i decide to turn off my bedside lamp i put my phone down. ive been falling asleep much faster and more easily.
ryans_privatess ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:49:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Blue light filter. My phone looks alcohol brown but it works a treat
MikeyTnaig ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:33:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is an alternative to this actually. What I do is listen to podcasts and it keeps you occupied as you fall asleep as well as spares your eyes
Pteetsa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:34:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if I'm too anxious to just lie in the darkness without my precious phone though, lol
nightwica ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:43:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, install blue light filter apps/programs! F.lux for the computer and Night owl for the phone, they work SO WELL.
NintendoTheGuy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:09:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem is the handheld gaming systems I use before bed. My phone at least has a less blue night mode.
Number5is_ALIVE ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:25:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Solid advice.
palex00 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:46:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
laughs in blue light filter
DapperPerformance ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:53:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Opposite effect for me.
Watching random shit in bed lets my brain engage with it enough so I don't think of other things.
I realize that's more of a 'me' issue though.
More on topic - definitely do get blue light killers for your PC (either natively in windows 10 display settings or by f.lux program).
It helps to prevent pushing your sleep schedule forward by staying up too late.
rit96 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:01:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is it weird that i can sleep easier with my phone? Because i'm doing something and that would make me tired
MoncefReadsMemes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:13:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yea, right Mom.
Phoenx2480 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:15:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But itโs so addictive
thedankbank1021 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:27:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also my phone has a "bedtime mode" where it shuts off all the blue lights. A lot of stuff doesn't look right, but you can still read just fine and it doesn't leave you wired.
grapecity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:28:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also turn on the sleep mode or whatever itโs called which turns your phone yellow-ish (rather than using blue light) after the certain hour of your choice.
snuggie_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:39:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or you can turn the blue light filter on. Not as good as just not using a phone at all, but definitely helps
twaslol ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:52:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have been wondering why I have trouble falling asleep while beaming a bright light of endless information into my face
FIR3W0RKS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:03:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone who has done a lot of research into this kind of things effect on sleeping etc, this is true, HOWEVER what I will say is that if you can make your phone's screen dim (literally turn down the brightness to 0) then it will have little to no effect on you getting to sleep.
Yrrebbor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:19:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Night mode for the win!
iamafish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:15:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But how else can you watch porn in bed?
SanderTheSleepless ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:18:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My phone has what is called "night light" and basically what it does is that it applies a red filter that is easier on your eyes. I first thought it was kinda weird, but now I feel like I sleep way better and my eyes don't hurt when I look at the screen.
BurningDemon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:09:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ive never taken my phone to bed and always sleep around 10 pm, my friend sleeps next to his pc and ends and starts the day with his phone yet he can manage on going to bed at 11:30
Kazu2002 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:09:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Got the new S10e which naturally decreases blue light by 60% ๐ฏ
sparrow_one ยท 12666 points ยท Posted at 23:44:33 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stick to the same sleep schedule on your days off that you follow on days when you have to be somewhere at a specific time (like school or work days).
I spent my whole life sleeping until noon on weekends, thinking I was storing sleep in some imaginary sleep bank. I recently started waking up early on weekends, and now I don't have trouble waking up when my alarm goes off during the week. Plus I have all this extra time to do stuff because I'm not sleeping all day.
[deleted] ยท 4173 points ยท Posted at 01:31:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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UmbrellaUser69 ยท 2232 points ยท Posted at 02:11:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I loved working the swing shift, 2-10 PM. I'd sleep from 1-9 and got the best sleep of my life. Had several hours in the morning to use how I wished, I actually ate breakfast and exercised before work. I've given up on exercising before 7 AM, I just can't bring myself to do it.
katasian ยท 688 points ยท Posted at 02:25:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I honestly wish I could work swing shift sometimes. That sounds like it would fit me just right. But thereโs not a lot out there that isnโt 7-4 or 8-5 if I want to keep a govt desk job.
PoeticGopher ยท 370 points ยท Posted at 03:36:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My hack was working remotely from two time zones over. I start work at 10am but to my client it's 8am!
This_old_username ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 16:11:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is brilliant.
endlesslyanoptimist ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:36:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dispatching! And then there was a shift of 2-12 so you were four on three off
FiveChairs ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:13:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Heyyo, I just started dispatching. I do miss being behind the wheel sometimes though
endlesslyanoptimist ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:36:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best of luck to you! Iโve seen it be a difficult adjustment for some officers doing radios. Usually when the adrenaline of a call comes in you get to act on it in a way that involves physically moving. When some switch to dispatching they seem to have trouble adjusting to the new way of handling that adrenaline.
Iโve also seen a prior officer become one of the best dispatchers Iโve seen. So it really can go either way.
I would recommend going on ridealongs! Good luck and thank you!
FiveChairs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:04:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha thanks but actually I was a bus driver and will be a transit dispatcher
angry_plasma_cutter ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 06:35:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Afternoon, or 2nd shift, generally 3pm to 11pm, is my least favourite due to the heat (I'm a welder) but I love being able to sleep in and go in refreshed. My favourite Aare nights, usually 11pm to 7am, its so much more laid back, the heat dies down, I get home, shower, sleep till 3, have the rest of the afternoon to chill, run errands. I sleep lesx (6ish hours) when i work overnights and feel thd best before and after.
Day shift can fuck right off, the only good thing is I can jump into the pool after work on the hottest part of the day. It gets hot where I am, southern Ontario, Canada.
Fortunatelyin the construction and i dustrial sectors wd rotate shifts weekly, people hate it, I love it. Dentist appointment? Schedule it in the morning after a night shift or before afternoons, for example, rather than straight days. Plus, when you rotate, they pay shift premiums. On midnights, i was making $2/hour more than days. I'd take nights as my favourite, rotating next.
PM_ME_UR_NUDES_4RATE ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:13:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn your shift premiums are rough. I get 30% for an "afternoon" shift rate and something obscene like 65% on a night shift.
judith_escaped ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:30:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
On the flip side, I have my kids all day and don't have the benefit of daycare until my husband gets off work at 430. But, I find there just isn't a lot out there from 4 or 5 to midnight or later that pays enough to make it worth it. Oh, just noticed you mentioned govt job. Disregard everything I said. Y'all are special.
EwDontTouchThat ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:14:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reading this thread made me realise that the job fields I want are typical 9-to-5s. I work nights and absolutely love it. For whatever reason, I am alert and happy when the sun isn't overhead.
But it's retail work and barely pays the bills. The only positions I know of with overnight/swing shift hours that aren't retail are manufacturing (still pretty menial) or doctor/nurse (which is not for everyone and I can't afford).
immapsycho ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:15:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try being an emt you can work any time because people always have emergencies and the cost of entry into the field is much lower than being a RN or MD if you find out you like it you can transition into being a medic. It was also said above you could try dispatching which is less hands on but if that's more your speed it makes decent money and you could be either a glorified call taker or you could be running the operations behind the scenes calling for other units and making sure people on scene have the tools they need.
katasian ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:04:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What about security?
chevymonza ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 18:41:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We had a cool manager at my last job that allowed us some flex time, so I chose 10am-6pm. I could bike into work, and have the gym showers to myself since everybody else was at their desks by 9am.
Take the train home, after the worst of the rush hour, and be done with my workout by the time I got home. Next day, train in after the worst of rush hour, ride home, workout done.
I really miss that.
rocsNaviars ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:38:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also the grass is always greener. I work 2-10 and wish I had a 9-5. When I had a 9-5 I wished I had a 2-10.
pbm9 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:50:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work at a medical Examiner office. It has the swing schedule and night shift.
theskipscramble ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 02:29:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here. Most of my work week is the swing shift, and I love it for all the reasons you do. I love waking up when my body is ready to wake up, not when an alarm tells me to. But then I get to the weekend where i do early mornings and it throws everything out of whack for me. Especially working till 10 on a friday night and having to be in for 9 the next morning. I think consistency is the key for all schedules, and working either all nights or all days makes a big difference in how functional people are.
moosecatoe ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 02:40:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Right! Its rather scary to think that those who are in charge of our lives (doctors, nurses, medics, police, firefighters) can start their shifts at any time of day/night and work for up to 12-24 hours at a time. Pulling all-nighters and then having to be awake & coherent in the morning should be for college students, not surgeons.
techknowAthena ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 02:54:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're absolutely right. My above comment I was working on an oncology floor. Who wants a sleep deprived, hysterical nurse? No one. But apparently 12 hour shifts improve "continuity of care."
IDK about you but I'd rather have three well rested people than two hysterical people.
moosecatoe ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:13:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh geeze โcontinuity of careโ my ass! Lol I bet any patient would rather 3 well rested nurses. On the plus side though, 12 hour shifts instead of 8 means working one less day, so one less time you have to put on a bra & make up & deal with traffic. Right? (Also thank you for all that you do!)
blalala543 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:16:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep.
Best friends fiancรฉ is a firefighter. Starts his shift at 8am and ends it at 8am. So all of the night EMT and Fire calls are run by people who have been up all day and may or may not have been up all night.
After shift, heโll sleep during the day if hes able to, but sometimes he has stuff to do and thereโs been times where he literally wonโt sleep until the following night.
I have so much respect for first responders and doctors who do this for years as their living. Crazy shit, man.
moosecatoe ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:24:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. Can confirm as my ex husband is a ff and works 7am-7am. He can go to sleep at work at 9pm but obviously has to wake up & go to every call throughout the night. If he canโt fall back asleep when he gets home at 7am the next day, he is a zombie. Its nice that he is available to get the kids ready & bring them to school, but most of the time I would prefer he would change into his pjs, close the blackout curtains, turn on the fan, close the door, and sleep until dinner. He doesnโt have to work for 72 hours, so itโs not like he has to worry about messing with his work sleep schedule. But he feels like heโll miss out on the day and pushes himself to stay awake most days. Poor first responders man...
Attackcamel8432 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:01:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jeez... more power to all you guys! I had to work a swing shift and I absolutely hated it! I'm a mess if I'm not asleep by 10 at the latest, weekends included. It's too bad more people couldn't schedule their work hours how they want to!
lonely_nipple ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:36:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See, everyone thinks my claims of hating mornings are because I dont get enough sleep. U get plenty. My brain just reacts to being awake in the morning the way yours does if you're up too late - everything feels wrong and I'm a cranky mess. I'd rather sleep from 4am-noon and work late.
Attackcamel8432 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:32:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some people are just wired different, nothing wrong with it!
lonely_nipple ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:38:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I remind myself that there are studies showing that 'night people' were important to early civilizations as someone had to be awake at night to watch for dangers. This means that we arent weird or wrong! :)
techknowAthena ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 02:53:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I will be an evening shifter the rest of my life. Waking up early makes me panic, because I can't make myself go to bed earlier. I literally drove myself insane to the point I had to go in and get a shot of Ativan trying to work at 6am with a 30 minute commute.
Some people are not cut out for mornings. I am those people.
Rhynosaurus ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:14:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same. It was the best. Non-packed gym, non- rush hour commute, running errands in the morning; and hey staying up late asf if I felt like it. Now I have a diff gig and get paid more but I still long for those days.
kilometres_davis_ ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:25:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The downside of swings is Friday evenings. I miss those.
lonely_nipple ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:37:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wouldn't carr about working Friday nights if I didnt have to be back to work Saturday at 830. Fuckin weekend call center hours.
Magnum256 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:20:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ya I think some people just have a much easier time on unorthodox schedules. It has never been about the number of hours of sleep I get, but about when I wake up specifically.
If I have to wake up at 4-6AM even if I had 8+ hours of sleep, I still feel terrible, and it can take 1-2 hours for me to really feel awake and energetic, whereas if I'm working a swing shift or graveyard shift, waking up for work at like 1PM or 10PM or w/e, even if I only had 6 hours of sleep I generally feel amazing and full of energy immediately.
technoteapot ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:06:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I naturally sleep for almost 12 hours
residentchubbychaser ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:25:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was like that until my mid 20s. Now I'm fully rested after 7-8.
tasbridge ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:20:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This was my best shift ever until my son happened.
chynnese ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:19:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There were two options for shifts at my first job: 6AM-3PM and 3PM-12MN. Really wish I got the first one so Iโd have had afternoons and evenings free, but the great thing about the night shift was I could go to sleep as soon as I got home (around 1:30-2:00) and never needed an alarm to wake up.
flyomtet ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:51:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thats not a swing shift. I work a real swing shift and it fucking sucks. Its called a 6-7-7. 6 days on day shift, 2 days off, 7 days on after noons, 1.5 days off, 7 days on midnights, long weekend. 28 day cycle. It has ruined my life.
UmbrellaUser69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:51 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sounds fucking terrible and unhealthy. Can I ask what type of work you do?
grapecity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:40:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This sounds great, but I donโt think I could do it because it gives me anxiety to have to work at the END of the day. Iโm always worried Iโm going to forget to go in and be late, and I have to plan activities knowing I have to go to work later. For example, if friends want to go to the beach or pool and day drink, I canโt day drink (or at least have to be VERY careful).
ForeverInaDaze ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:48:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
God yeah, same deal except 2-10 (I know I know, yours is definitely smarter).
Worked out everyday, grocery shopping was a breeze.. had Wednesday/Thursday off.. the city is dead on those days.
PM_Me-Thigh_Highs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:22:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ahh you're one of them swingers eh?
shralpy39 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:52:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had that shift at a video store before they all went over and it was amazing. To have my current job with those hours... Thank you for reminding me about how good that was.
TennaTelwan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:30:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have been mocked at so many job interviews when asked what shift I wanted to work and my reply was third. In fact I'm sitting here at 4:30 am typing this because I cannot sleep at night. I usually sleep well when I sleep at my natural sleep times, but sleeping outside of them? Nope! So why should I slave in an effort to try to get up for work to punch in at 7 am when my natural sleep cycle is telling me that is bedtime?
Ariscia ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:37:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TIL I have been working the swing shift because I can only get up for work at noon.
Semantiks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:10:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Swings is a great shift. You can get all your errands done any day of the week, and since it's before work you're never burned out and far less likely to procrastinate it (at least I am). Plus you can have a nice lunch at a leisurely pace. Sometimes it sucks to get home so late when all your buddies are going to bed for work in the morning, but you still get weekends.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:06:08 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm late to post, but I currently work 1-9 and yaaas. It's so nice. I never need an alarm anymore :)
bentnotbroken96 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:31:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
swing shift was the best! Never used and alarm clock. Never stressed about having to got to the bank, or the DMV.
Dman5156 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:41:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Working overnights is much the same for me. Working from 9pm to 6-7am and then shopping from 9-5 in the day everyday, I get into a rhythm that feels weird compared to the rest of the world but honestly I hate working during the day since it's about 100% more stressful.
lu-cy-inthesky ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:15:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep my favourite shift is 1- 930. Fits my daytime routine perfectly. I am not a morning person and I find if I finish at 3 I get stuck in afternoon traffic and am too tired to do anything anyways.
baconcoveredumbrella ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 03:47:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But that's the equivalent of working 8am-5pm and going to bed at 8pm.
UmbrellaUser69 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:03:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No it isnโt.
baconcoveredumbrella ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:47:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you go to bed 3 hours after you finish an 8 hour work day, it is. The mistake people make is working 8-5, stay up until midnight, then try to get up at 6am and get burned out.
I understand it's probably easier to go to bed earlier on your schedule and you have more hours in the morning when other businesses are open so you can get things done.
ihrable ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:29:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't even crack the sheets before 11am! And at my age, why should I:)
analogkid01 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:56:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I recently started working from home for a company based in L.A., and it's glorious. I wake up pretty naturally around 7am, start working, take a lunch, end my day at 4pm, sleep for an hour, then I'm up until midnight. I can't think of how I could improve on that.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:12:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same. Night shift Tech Director for life!
ryebread91 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:52:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm sure thereโs people that it doesnโt affect or matter to but this is why I think night shifts shouldnโt exist. How can you function when youโre throwing your rhythm off like that? How do you enjoy weekends if you keep your same work sleep schedule?
95Milk ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 02:04:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Back when I worked 10 pm to 7 am, I felt like I had the best sleep. I would sleep right when I get home and wake up in the afternoon. Hang out with friends or whatever until I had to go to work then repeat. I wish I could still work that schedule but I'm glad I don't work in a warehouse anymore.
Glatoams ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:16:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try bartending brk
95Milk ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:35:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe when I'm old enough to work I'm a bar. Or maybe when I get over my crippling social anxiety.
FrostyBeav ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:41:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I loved working graveyard (9pm - 6am). The key was sleeping the same schedule on the weekends and it was no problem. The people I worked with over the years that couldn't do it always tried to sleep a different schedule on weekends and that will dick you up in a hurry.
taintedthrowaway91 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:15:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work a very similar schedule and love it. My graveyard is 6:00pm to 6:30am, so I get 4 days (nights?) on, 3 days off, then the next week is 3 on and 4 off, and it repeats. Unless I'm asked to work more overtime, which I normally do. That sleep schedule is hard to keep up with when I have the 4 days off though, but it's getting better.
yaminokaabii ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:14:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is really encouraging, it's exactly the schedule I'm hoping to have eventually.
ryebread91 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:40:42 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt think thatโs ever work for me. Iโm a โget things done so you can relax laterโ kinda guy. When I worked at a movie theater there were some days I couldnโt get myself to do anything cause the feeling was as soon as Iโd start Iโd have to stop to go to work. It was easier if I didnโt have to go in til 4 or later but anything before that I couldnโt accomplish anything
moosecatoe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:41:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did you have a crash day where you slept all day? It sounds like you were barely getting 6 hours a day?
95Milk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:33:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, that's just all I sleep
moosecatoe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:46:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gotcha. I remember those days. But Iโd always have a crash day where Iโd sleep like 16 hours. I guess that was what messed me up in the long run.
Dooshshadow ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:25:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work nights and don't mind it. People need to be at 911 centers, network operations center, doctors and nurses, police and fire. So while yes, it's nice if you can be on a normal sleep schedule, be appreciative for those that can't so you can enjoy your life in relative peace.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:25:03 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh Iโm aware and thankful for them thereโs no doubt some are necessary. Iโm talking more for factory and store workers.
RMR808 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:26:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It sucks but it has to be done. I work in health care and if we donโt have night shifts people will die. Our night shift people are heroes for sure!
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:33:55 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes. Thereโs necessities. Iโm talking more about factory and store workers.
MeiNeedsMoreBuffs ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 02:06:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like the people at r/DSPD would be pretty upset if you abolished night shift
trash_baby_666 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:20:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We might be lol. DSPD is rare, though, so there are likely far more morning people suffering through night shift than anything. I feel for them since I know how miserable it is having a job that clashes with your natural sleep/wake cycle.
Also a lot of people with DSPD don't work 2nd or 3rd shift. The variety of jobs is limited, they can clash with school, child care, maintaining relationships, etc., and the hours might still fuck with you (though maybe not as much as someone who didn't have DSPD!).
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:42:20 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh Iโm still a night owl when I can be but for day in day out life I would be miserable. ESP when 98% of the people I know work fragility 9-5ish jobs.
IcedBanana ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 02:06:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They should be soley for night owls. My best friend works at a casino and has literally an opposite schedule, but her natural rhythm works with it.
Flabpack221 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:33:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Night owl here. My body just feels more natural and rested when I'm up between the hours of 4pm to about 6am or 7am. I don't know what it is, but I have a much harder time now that I'm on a first shift schedule. Everybody has a differentlp rhythm. Night owls feel the same about you guys and day shift.
On weekends I would just fall asleep about an hour after I got home from work and wake up at about 5pm. I have no "morning" routine aside from hygienic stuff. So I'd just go meet with friends about an hour after I woke up to hang out, party and whatnot. We're probably the friends you have who are making more plans at 4am after you had a night out with the boys/girls.
It's a different lifestyle for sure, but I prefer it way more than the one I have now. I felt more alive.
tasoula ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:07:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm the same way! I'm such a night owl. I work second shift now (1-9), so it's not terrible for me, but I absolutely feel better during night time hours.
Flobarooner ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:13:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The biggest advantage really is that you don't stay up late because you've lost track of time or wanted to watch some TV or play a game. You get home and go straight to bed, and your downtime is whenever you wake up.
You're not waking up for work so there's not really any time you have to wake up. You only lose social hours if you sleep in, even on a work day.
P3ccavi ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:35:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I loved night shift when I was single, because I'm a night owl and I always had friday-sunday off. Once my fiancรจe and I started dating and after she moved in, it started to suck because if we had the same days off she would be awake when I was asleep and vice versa (she works Mon-Fri).
So I started doing my normal 10pm-6am shift on my work days and then on Friday I would stay awake once I got off work at 6am until 10pm that night and completely rearrange my sleep schedule. I would start sleeping at night until Monday morning when I would stay awake until I went to bed Tuesday morning. So in essence, 2 days a week I would be up about 25 hours each day.
It.....sucked! I was constantly exhausted, I'll never do night shift again
Jon_Cake ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:33:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone who works a night shift: it's alright if you don't mind it gradually turning you into a vampire. And not all night shifts can just stop existing; in my case, the place I work has to be staffed 24 hours. But at least I get a consistent 4x10 schedule, same nights every week. Much better than the last place I was at, where it was shiftwork and you had to pick up whatever you could get, day or night, which drove you batshit much quicker
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:41:32 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah. Thatโs the worst. I would work opening night at the theater and get out after 3am just to drive home 30 minutes and then have to be there to open up at 9am. I think places like that shouldnโt be able to schedule you within 8 hours of your last shift so you can at least get some sleep.
Jon_Cake ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:58:59 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depending where you are, they can't... Should I take a wild stab and guess you're American? How long were those shifts?
ryebread91 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:06:41 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Guessing they canโt in Europe? (Youโre right. America) theyโd typically be between 6 to 8 hour shifts as I was out of school by then but 3am is 3 am regardless of the shift length.
Jon_Cake ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:39:42 on May 8, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not super clear cut but I'm pretty sure here in Alberta, you have to have 8 hours between shifts. I know you can have split shifts, I think to be considered a "split" the total hours have to be 12 or under.
Ontario has a similar rule, but with a 13-hour limit. Also seems like your can agree to waive that ahead of time in writing, so I could see employers pressuring employees into that...
Anyway, yeah, no surprise American labour laws would give you the short end of the stick
Edit: also, as far as these Canadian labour laws, i have a hunch you couldn't try to sell a closing shift followed by an opening shift the next calendar day as a "split shift" but I could be wrong
drunk_injun ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:52:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work 12 hour shifts. 6a-6p Friday Saturday and Sunday. I fucking love it and will stay on this shift for as long as I can.
_Z_E_R_O ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:04:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For some of us our rhythm is the night shift. My natural sleep cycle is 2am-11am and has been for decades.
I tried a morning job for years and was stressed, depressed and miserable. I never got enough sleep, and no amount of forcing myself to bed early ever helped. Ditching that schedule and being awake at night was like coming into my own as a new, happy person.
kelce ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:14:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You don't. I work nights and "flip" on my days off. If I didn't flip back to a regular schedule I'd never see the sun or get anything done. The first day I flip is incredibly hard but then after that i start to feel normal again.
Ratdrake ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:12:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work 3 7:30 to 7:30 nights. I flip my schedule on my off days as well. I just get lots of extra sleep the first night off: sleep until the afternoon and then sleep again at night.
superhole ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:04:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I got a job that changes our start time every other day, so long as we have 8 hours from the end of the shift. Shit sucks
Chazdanger ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:17:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or move to a different time zone
Pm-me-gift-cardz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:24:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Praise be to overnights
BlossumButtDixie ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:08:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hubs loves his third shift. I did it for 6 years and while I was able to manage it ok, I am really not a third shift girl. I followed him to second shift and I love it. Now suddenly he's back on 3rd for the foreseeable. I miss being home together every day after work but I don't miss third shift. For the moment I don't have to decide if I miss him more than I miss my comfortable time table as there aren't any openings available on third. I'm kind of glad. He doesn't hate 2nd shift as much as I hate 3rd so I'm hopeful he'll rejoin me in a few months.
Kwestionable ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:52:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here. I don't get up till nearly 2pm in the afternoon for work. I'll stay up till around 6am. It works out for both work and the fact I don't want to be doing anything when it's 120f out here in hell.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:56:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is your job to sleep then?
vagina_fang ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I too am a street Walker.
jseego ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:34:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So underrated
jbOOgi3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:34:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stripper?
baker2002 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:43:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have to wake up at 3:30 to get to my job at 5:30. I need a new job! Problem is it pays too well to quit it
freakinidiotatwork ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn. I have to be at work at 7 am every day. I've been at it over a year and I feel like I'm still not used to it.
ThinkAllTheTime ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What job is that, and what's your sleep cycle like?
ZeMoose ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:54:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unfortunately my natural sleep cycle is "don't", and that's just not functional.
Condawg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:34:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My natural sleep cycle is just fucked and all over the place, so I work for myself. Most work days are like, 3pm-midnight, but that's from home, with a break now and then to listen to an album and unwind, eat, pet the dog, smoke some weed, etc. Usually short breaks, like 20-30 minutes, once or twice a day, depending on the workload.
It's dope! I just don't make enough money yet. Gettin there.
MsMoneypennyLane ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:52:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes. Iโm at my best 11am to 9 pm. Now I work those hours and everything makes better sense in my life.
as_kostek ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:36:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My recent shift hours completely deny my natural sleep cycle and I have no idea how to overcome it.
Inb4 "change your job" - it isn't really an option here, the job itself and salary are fine, just these hours kill me.
Does anyone have an advice?
cruznick06 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:40:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
god i wish i could find an employer that would work with me on this. I've got a circadian rhythm disorder, my body seems to think a day is 28-30 hours long, not 24. So it's a weird cycle of being synced up to what's considered a normal schedule then slipping into a nocturnal schedule then slipping back to a normal schedule. Its so frustrating.
mitharas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:56:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah well, I noticed that my natural sleep cycle is sleeping from 8am to 4 pm. That's not very compatible with society.
0ttr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:26:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had one like that and I lost 30 pounds. Went back to normal office hours and gained it all back. :(
Untakenusernamemaybe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:10:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is your job sleeping?
TheYoungGriffin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:32:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I got a sleep cycle to match my job and am ready to die.
Lovecraftenberg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:36:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same, now that I can work from home and set my own start time, it's done wonders for sleep and happiness. Of course, I have friends who act like I'm committing some grave sin by not waking up at 7 am.
wagedomain ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:09:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ditto. I achieved this by working from home and making sure to do a kickass 8-9 hours a day. My natural sleep schedule is like, sleep at 2 wake up at 10. I unfortunately do have 9AM meetings but it sure beats getting up at 5:30 to commute in to the areas near me that have tech jobs.
MissRepresent ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That too! Ill be damned if im getting up at the crack of dawn to work. Hell no! Give me night shift only!!
Rindan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I miss working the night shift for this reason. I have a backwards ass sleep cycle. My life was misery with 3 hours of sleep being perfectly normal. I was always sick because I was so sleep deprived.
Then I started working the night shift. It was fucking awesome. I'd come home and fall asleep without any effort. I'd wake up without an alarm clock. I'd wander into work every single day feeling fully rested. It was glorious.
Alas, night shift demands its dues. The night shift job was a career dead end and murderous on my social life. I had to go back onto day shift.
That said, I did find something that works almost as good as night shift. Marijuana. It isn't as good as an alarm free life on night shift, but it knocks me out at night early enough to get 6-8 hours of sleep.
Mrs_Plague ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:22:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same. My happiness overall increased like crazy when I gave up trying to work an early shift. I work 2-11 now and it fits my natural cycle perfectly.
iheartzigg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:14:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here, I finally feel like I am accomplishing something. 01-06 six days a week with school 09-15.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:55:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am naturally a night owl. However I work an office 9-5 job. Its terrible for me haha
abitdark ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:52:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same. Itโs everyone else that wonโt let me sleep my normal schedule of 4 am to noon. But Iโm so much more functional and happy.
Gl33m ยท 90 points ยท Posted at 02:30:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can't "bank sleep," but sleep debt is a real thing, and you can indeed "recover sleep". What you say is absolute true for general purpose sleep hygiene. Sticking to a schedule 100% of the time is a major boost to adequate sleep. But, at the same time, if you're one of those people sleeping 3 hours a night during the week or less, you're better off sleeping in on the weekend. Yeah, your best bet is to simply tell people to stop having such a devastatingly unhethy sleep habit, but I've found people are gonna power through anyway. So sleeping in on the weekends to recover can at least counteract some of the damage they're doing all week.
frogbound ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 04:08:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Matthew Walker - Why we sleep
CoffeeCannon ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:56:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He wasn't saying it's a good strategy, just that getting some extra sleep when you can (in the context of not sleeping enough during the week) will still be better than not doing so.
moal09 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 16:26:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem is that current work schedules aren't conducive to 8+ hours of sleep.
Most people barely have 3-4 hours of free-time as it is. Getting a full 8 hours would reduce a lot of people's free time to almost 0. At that point, what are we even working for? Just to keep breathing?
Gl33m ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:23:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So, yeah, I was saying... The same thing as your quote. I didn't say it just fixes all your problems, and noted explicitly how damaging and unhealthy living like that was. And I continued that sleeping in on the weekend fan help mitigate that damage, but not fix it. And said explicitly that the right answer was to just sleep more in general.
thingpaint ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:49:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just got old, now I wake up at 7 am every day automatically.
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:05:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In bed by 9.30.
BasicDesignAdvice ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:08:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And it's awesome. I love a good nights sleep.
CaptainFeather ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:15:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love good night sleeps but I also love being up late help ;_;
KernelTaint ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:42:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me too. And ita fucking my life up. My relationship and my career.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:12:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love it so much.
GastricallyStretched ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:48:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I'm also usually in bed by 9.30...
am.
Sometimes I'll even be in bed by 4am.
Barrel_Titor ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:47:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah. I'm in my late 20's so not even that old but when I was about 19 I'd be up until the early hours of the morning then struggle to get up at 10am the next morning, now I start getting too tired to do anything somewhere between 11PM and midnight then wake up on my own at about 6:30-7:00 and have no desire to sleep in.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:10:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me too! Can't get used to it. I need more sleep but I can't get it :(
not_thrilled ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:11:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shit, I'd love to wake up at 7am. My weekday alarm is set for 4am. I know my sleep schedule is really messed up if it wakes me up; most days, I wake up anywhere from 2:45am to 3:30am. I can go months without the alarm waking me. On weekends, I know I stayed up late (ie, 10pm or later) if I'm still in bed at 6:30.
Pikesmakker ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 02:04:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Waking up early on Saturday/Sunday is amazing, itโs like you double your weekend.
K-chub ยท 53 points ยท Posted at 01:48:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doesnt work if you work night shifts and want a regular social life.
Omegastar19 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:19:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Luckily I have no interest in a regular social life.
IshTing ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:12:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup, I'm on a night shift now (UK). I work 7pm till 7am, sleep 8am till about 3pm, which would be horrible on my days off.
Catsrecliner1 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:22:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just make everyone adapt to my schedule. Oh, you want to get breakfast? See you at eleven.
companion_2_the_wind ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:47:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Amen!
You wouldn't think it but weekends are definitely the hardest part of working nights. The way it works out for me is that if I want to spend time with my family on the weekends I end up pulling two days of being awake for over 24 hours.
I get off work at 08:00 Friday morning and end up staying awake all day Friday and crash around 21:00 after getting up for work at 20:00 Thursday night.
Sunday morning I'll wake up bright and early and then if I can't catch an afternoon nap I'll end up being up until I get home at 09:00 Monday morning.
Bad times; especially since my employer doesn't accept see fit to pay more for working nights.
superfly_penguin ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:53:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre fucking your health over big time with this dude. Itโs not worth it, believe me. Your life span, cognitive abilities, endocrin system, generell mood etc gets drastically reduced through this.
ciestaconquistador ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:33:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or if you work nights and day shifts. There is no normal sleep schedule. Only insomnia.
im_twelve_ ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 01:56:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kind of on the same subject, please stop telling pregnant women to "sleep while you can, you'll need it!!" It's not like my sleep accumulates and I can save it up to spend when I'm awake with a newborn every hour around the clock. Babies are fucking exhausting no matter how much I slept while pregnant!
That was the one piece of advice that people gave me all the time and it drove me bonkers. In fact, I wish I would've slept less while pregnant. I didn't have a baby yet, there was no need to follow anyone else's schedule and I had the energy of 3 people in the second trimester. I could've accomplished so much more.
kwijibo44 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:19:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Almost as bad as โsleep when the baby sleeps!โ
Right, and eat when the baby eats. And shower when the baby showers. And cook when the baby cooks. And do laundry when the baby does laundry . . .
Ridley200 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:11:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do your taxes when the baby does taxes. Saves on accounting.
boxman32123 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:19:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There actually is such thing as "sleep debt" though
Sparcrypt ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:03:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes thatโs because it does work the other way around where cumulative amounts of missed sleep add up.
Unfortunately you canโt sleep for 18 hours and make up for it, you only get things back on track by getting enough sleep every night for a solid period of time.
JojenCopyPaste ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:51:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to sleep in on the weekends. Then I got a dog. She doesn't know when the weekend is. So, I no longer sleep in on the weekends.
Fabbyfubz ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:22:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck that. I'm getting drunk and staying up until 3
empirebuilder1 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:37:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yeah fuck getting up at 5:45 on the weekends kthx
Volesprit31 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:20:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hahaha same.
nettlesome-fiend ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:20:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If i don't sleep in on weekends i literally pass out. Once i slept for ~30 hours and went right back to sleep for another 10 after a water break
Asmor ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:58:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whoa. Look at Mr. Richie Rich here, talking about storing his excess sleep. I sleep in on the weekends to pay back-sleep owed, and I'm behind!
rare_comments ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:21:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But alcohol.
Triabolical_ ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:57:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't learn this until I got older and found that it was a huge PITA to do anything else.
chocolateco0kie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:27:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always hear this one and I do believe it works but on weekdays I sleep 4 hours a day, 5 if I'm too lucky, and am exhausted, worn out and anxious from Monday to Friday. On weekends instead of waking up at 4am I usually wake up around 9 or 10. I feel way better on weekends.
frogbound ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:11:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
chocolateco0kie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:13:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm aware of all the risks, however I can't do much until I'm done with school. I'm in medical school (so unfortunately I know the risks) and live two hours away and commute back and forth everyday. Get home late and need to be up early. I'm not proud of sleeping less, I was simply venting. I would love sleeping more hours a day, but I can't.
frogbound ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:38:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think the book touches on med school too. Was an interesting read.
chocolateco0kie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:45 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh I'm gonna take a look in it! :)
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:19:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Too late for me.
I can go to bed at 12am, wake up at 7am no prob on weekdays.
Weekends, I go to bed at 12am, and wake up at 11am or later. I sleep through my alarms on weekends.
It's like my body knows I ain't got shit to do so it just keeps sleeping.
TylerStubs ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:45:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is exactly why I gotta get out of retail. I wake up at the same time every day but when I close that means like 5 hours of sleep.
BillyPotion ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:54:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sounds like advice to make your life extremely boring.
sleep_water_sugar ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:13:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because sleeping in is so exciting?
BillyPotion ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:14:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No but exciting things usually lead to staying up late.
Watertor ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:31:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is my issue, and thus leads to a very confusing thread.
I mean how? If you go to bed at 4 am and wake up at noon, then decide to stop that and go to bed at 11 pm to wake up at 7, you don't have any extra time in the weekend you're just giving yourself more Sun. Which if you want that, great. There is no "extra stuff" to be done though, unless waking up early somehow means you get more time in the day. If that was the case I'd be all aboard, but this sounds like typical morning person propaganda. I can understand some people aren't very lively in the night and thus do more in the morning, but again that's called being a morning person. Some of us are more lively at night and thus this makes no sense on an "advice" thread.
droppedforgiveness ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:40:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It depends on what kind of things you do. If you want to do exciting things like rock climbing and kayaking or shopping and visiting museums, you'll have more time for that by waking up early. If you want to do exciting things like going out to bars and nightclubs, you'll have more time by staying up late. If you want to exciting things like video gaming or reading books, the time of day isn't as important.
KernelTaint ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:48:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if you want to do exciting things like ignoring your partner and kid bu staying up late watching videos, coding and or jerking off in secret, thereby slowly but surely ruining your relationship, but feeling like you cant fix it because you've been like that for years even before you had them in your life and everytime you try and change your patterns you've failed, literally dozens of times?
BillyPotion ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:27:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then sleeping in is fine.
moal09 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:27:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Videogames are often a social hobby, so time can be very important if you're trying to play with friends.
droppedforgiveness ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:36:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True, but it's dependent on what kind of video games you're playing and who you're playing with. It doesn't fit neatly into a daytime or nighttime category, but you're right.
uQinisela ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:37:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I would love to have a regular sleep schedule, but that would mean sacrificing any kind social life on weekends...
luckychance5480 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:51:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is so hard for me since I work grave shift. I have to totally reverse my sleep schedule if I want to have any kind of life on my weekends.
Bnal ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:38:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work rotating 12s in periods of 2 and 3 days. There's no good way to do shift work.
ImGrompy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:56:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get up at 5:30 but habitually wake up at 5 every day. I normally just sleep in on weekends until 10, but make sure I'm exhausted for bed sunday, and then go to bed an hour early sleeping like a rock.
will_ww ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:01:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a class teach me you do have a bank but staying up pulls from it and you are tired you are eventually able to catch up to it. Like sleeping 12 hours one day trying to refill it. But you don't overfill it
ghostdate ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:14:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, I can't even sleep in on weekends anymore. This would've maybe been my problem when I was 20-24, but as I got older I just couldn't sleep in as much. Now I get up at 7am on Saturday even though I wish I could sleep in until noon.
elmonoenano ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:15:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty much any advice about good sleep habits fits this. You always think the advice is obvious but you're too busy to follow it but actually sleeping on a good schedule, and having good sleep, and getting enough of it makes you so much more efficient. You make less mistakes that you then don't have to correct. You can think clearly and find solutions to problems quickly. You can concentrate. Being well rested makes everything else half as difficult. You literally free up twice the amount of time you freed up by skimping on sleep.
bunk_bro ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:46:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually get up a bit earlier on the weekends than weekdays. It's nice but definitely lengthens the day.
pogtheawesome ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:08:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I started taking work shifts on weekends when my classes start and it had such a massive effect on my well-being that when I got promoted and no longer was needed on weekends I was high key upset
cynicaesura ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:14:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had to start doing this since I started seeing a psychiatrist. It's been working wonders
LaitdePoule999 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:20:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This also actually helps a lot with insomnia! Bedtime routines are super important, as is waking up within an hour of the same time every day. Then your brain knows what to expect every day - routine can be a beautiful thing for mental health.
-Tom- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:45:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bingo. Its so nice being able to get laundry done and some cleaning around the house, then go to the grocery store while stuff dries by 9AM on a weekend morning and having the whole weekend free to do whatever.
mayseek ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:57:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is great advice! I used to just wake up naturally at about 10-11 AM, but since my boyfriend goes to work at 9:00, I began waking up earlier to talk to him on his car ride.
Waking up at the same time every single day has been one of the best changes I made last year :)
Niladnep ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:46:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is incredibly important.
You don't need less sleep when you got more earlier. All you actually do is change the cycle in which your body naturally wants to be awake and go to sleep.
On top of that, pretty much everyone has a phone -I gotchu blizzard- so even if you don't want to get up and out of bed when you wake up on your day off, just browse YouTube or twitter or reddit or wherever you fancy instead of going back to sleep.
OlePuddinHead ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:47:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So much more time for activities
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:59:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whats funny is we kind of do have a "sleep bank". Studies have shown that we need a certain amount of sleep over about a week, not daily. So sleeping 5 hours one night and 9 the next is the same as sleeping 7 and 7.
droppedforgiveness ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:37:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sleep debt is (supposedly, I'm not a scientist) real, but I have never heard of a sleep BANK, where if you sleep extra one day you need less sleep the next day.
SheetShitter ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:33:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I need to practice this
stupv ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:45:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I mean, unless you're severely sleep deprived you shouldn't just be able to sleep until noon on a whim. I get up at 7 for work during the week, but sleep in until 9 or so on weekends. It's nice and doesn't involve any alarms, and i feel better for it...but i couldn't just casually sleep for an extra 5 hours because my alarm didn't go off
edit: the unspoken qualifier on my original statement was 'healthy individuals with roughly a standard 9-5 work day'. If you are on medication that will cause this, or have a work routine that makes 12-noon a totally normal time to be asleep this obviously doesn't apply - and for good reason. Mostly an observation of my own sleeping pattern, and those of my friends, that when we were staying up late playing games, going out.etc it became pretty easy to sleep until 12 because we simply weren't getting enough sleep. Now that i'm a bit older and more sensible, go to bed by 10pm every night, sleep for a good 8-9 hours.etc....sleeping an extra 4-5 hours just isn't possible, and most of my friends have made that same transition. Plenty of people just dont realise that getting 5-7 hours each night isn't enough, so it isn't surprising that they are able to sleep until 12 on a saturday.
mpyne ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 01:59:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For some of us it's easier than you think.
stupv ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 02:02:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dont suppose you have a sleeping pattern that is something like 1am (or later)-8am do you?
mpyne ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:47:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had different sleep patterns based on work. At the time I was referring to I had a highly different pattern, typically I could go 18-21 hours awake and then sleep 10-12 hours or so.
Lovecraftenberg ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:39:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Some people's natural sleep cycle wants them waking up at noon and going to bed at 3-4 am. For those people going to bed at the nice early hour of 10 to wake up at 6 is true hell and they often revert back almost immediately. While you may feel great doing it, others may not. Sadly the world has taught us that to be a "functioning adult" you need to fit your square peg of sleep into the round hole of society because fuck you I guess.
I've never been more depressed and unhappy then when I had a job making me wake up at 7:30 every morning and going to bed at 11 every night for years. Now that I set my own hours I wake up at 10 to 10:30 am naturally (not quite noon, though) and it's done wonders for my overall alertness and happiness.
KriosDaNarwal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:04:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work night shift and I can sleep till noon or anywhere on a whim
stupv ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:05:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Working night shift i would expect you to sleep until mid afternoon :) Both myself and my wife work shifts, and it certainly makes sleep schedules a bit fucky, but that would be a 'special case'. The unspoken qualifier on my original statement was 'healthy individuals with roughly a standard 9-5 work day'. Personally i work 8-4:30 but it's close enough
KriosDaNarwal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:10:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I sleep at work and in the bus to and from work. My bed rarely sees me. In the days I go out and chill really or do business, not sleep
suidazai ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:12:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Theres many reasons why someone could, i take quetiapine every night for panic disorder. But if i dont set at least 3 alarms, i will not wake up for an extra 4 hours or so, it doesnt matter if i sleep earlier or on time since it is such a heavy sedative.
stupv ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:14:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah there are obviously medical or work-related reasons that 12-noon is a relevant time, i mentioned elsewhere that the unspoken qualifier on my original statement was 'healthy individuals with roughly a standard 9-5 work day'. I should probably edit that into the original...
suidazai ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:18:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh ok I understand you. However, i think there might be some people who can just sleep until you let them. A good friend of mine who is perfectly healthy, on no medication, can sleep till 2 pm if you dont wake her. I think it may have to do with some peopleโs brain chemistry, like melatonin production and what not, but im no neurologist.
mrglumdaddy ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 02:07:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What an incredibly myopic world view. Congrats.
texican1911 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:50:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pfft. I sleep 4 hours later on Sunday and am ready for bed at the same time as every other day.
leshake ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:32:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What's a sleep schedule?
CFM5680 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:35:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That would mean I only get 4 and a half hours of sleep every night.
thescrapplekid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:37:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is nearly impossible for 3rd shift
AdamTheAntagonizer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:44:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah but people don't usually get as much sleep when they have to wake up at a certain time vs being able to wake up whenever you want. You'll have more time during the day, but unless you were going to sleep at 9pm and waking up at noon, you will have the same amount of time overall, because if you're waking up at noon, then you probably went to sleep at like 3am or later
slothywaffle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I start a job with regular, non retail, hours in 2 weeks and I'm so excited to have a normal sleep schedule!
MajesticFlapFlap ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to sleep til noon on the weekends because I had too much homework to get enough hours on weeknights. Thanks overachieving school
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:55:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cannot catch up on sleep no matter how hard you try to store it up in the bank. You're right that's not how it works physiologically. I think I owe myself a few years worth..
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh my god this killed me when I worked nights. Worked from midnight to 8:30, ended up being so exhausted on my days off that I fell asleep around 10 pm or so. Completely screwed me over every week.
Crashtag ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:17:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This became much easier once I had kids
koyo4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See. That's fine if you're not drinking heavily on a Friday night at the clubs or some shit.
I really need to stop spending this money every weekend...
parlonida ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a lot easier if you donโt drink alcohol
KingSlurpee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:21:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But whoโs going to do all my blow over the weekend?
_AxeOfKindness_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:26:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've found you can't bank sleep, only go into debt.
donkeyhustler ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:28:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This doesn't work for overnight shifts. My sleep is all over the place.
literal-hitler ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:30:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This still only works if you have enough time to get enough sleep on the weekdays.
Ash_ash ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:31:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But I rotate day shift and night shift ๐
snikrz70 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:34:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I worked 6p-6a for a few years and loved it. It suited me because I'd always been a night owl and the older I get, the more I dislike being around people.
The problem with sticking to the same sleep schedule is that a lot of regular errands can't be done at say, 10 pm. Doctor visits, in person banking, even most phone calls to businesses would have to be done in the daytime.
But the absolute worst part was that the same job that had me working 12 hour night shifts would also schedule mandatory meetings for 2pm. And would sometimes write you up if you didn't show. We got paid for them, but there are times that 30-60 minutes of pay wasn't worth losing sleep.
I've just started a new job working 6a-2p, with every weekend off, which is great. But I'm having a real hard time making the sleep switch. Which is why I'm still up browsing reddit.
VerneAsimov ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:37:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I want to live alone for this reason. I dread waking up because my siblings irritate me (all adults). I stay up longer because they don't.
shurp_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:37:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have kids, you will never sleep in again!
Casen_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:43:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would do this... But I need to be up at 2am on my work days, which gives me a 730pm or so bed time.
I have a wife and kid. My days off I stay up later and sleep about 5 more hours because I fucking need it.
StarsAndSpikes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:45:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If only my job didnt require me to wake up at 330am I would do this!
im_okay_too ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:52:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't convince myself to do that. I wanna try so bad but it's just hard
Anivair ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:55:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mostly do this. I basically pick one day a week to sleep as late as I want. I usually end up waking up close to the time I usually do oh, but I get to doze and roll around in bed and cuddle with my phone. It's not a bad way to wake up.
sailor_the_revelator ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work 12+ hours a day for 14 days and then I'm off for 14 days. I get what you're saying but I'm not ruining the vacation half of every month getting up at 0430 in the morning.
xtenyia ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes yes 100x yes. I type this as I'm lacking sleep :/
Ethanxiaorox ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:48:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait wtf Iโm not storing my weekend sleep in a sleep bank?
But I had like a years worth of sleep saved..
Scrapbookee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:01:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work night shift, so I definitely do this. Nights off I still stay up all night, but maybe go to bed a little earlier in the morning than I can on work days.
My coworkers all sleep during the night when they're off and I can't understand how they do it! I don't sleep well anyway, so I can't switch my sleep schedule around like that
If I need to run errands I just do it after work when I don't work the next day so I can stay up a little late.
Yelov ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:07:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I sleep 12 hours during weekends and 4-5 hours on work days. Fuk. I just naturally like to go to bed late and wake up late.
tinypepsforlife ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:18:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hard to do when you work nights and have a toddler and husband and non-nurse family and friends you want to spend time with. Some day!
perfecttoastedcheese ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:45:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work nights, varying start and end times but usually finishing around 5-6am. Even on my days off I will go to bed at around the same time, maybe a bit earlier if I'm super tided and I rarely wake up early unless I have shit I need to do during the day.
I'm naturally a night owl, so it doesn't bother me much, although I also have a sleep disorder called Delayed Sleep Phase Disorder so my circadian rhythm doesn't match to 24/hrs - I find it's around 28-30 hours.
n1c0_ds ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm on a long trip now, which means I wake up whenever I want to. Apparently, that means 8:30 AM anyway.
PM_ME_UR_BOOOOTY ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:25:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work overnights and sleep from 8am to 430pm. I stick to it on my weekends. I feel so much better now that Iโve stopped trying to change my sleep schedule every weekend
Bflmps77 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:31:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a kid and you will never wake up late :D
InterdimensionalTV ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:36:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being on night shift and my girlfriend being on day shift makes this impossible come the weekend. It makes the work week tougher and the weekend tougher but I want to spend time with her. It kinda really blows. I wish there was a happy median.
gabz09 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:36:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol I work shift work so I can only wish ๐คฃ๐คฃ but otherwise this is very good advice
Carnivorous_George ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:05:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Advice for an alcoholic, please.
rozeboos ยท 14806 points ยท Posted at 23:43:01 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to the bathroom first thing after having sex.
JonSnow1101 ยท 4310 points ยท Posted at 02:58:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bold of you to assume I have sex
[deleted] ยท 44 points ยท Posted at 05:41:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True of masturbating too. Always good to clean out the pipes with a power spray.
Cialis-in-Wonderland ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:52:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oooh, so that's what they mean when they talk about powerwashing porn!
Yes-nt ยท 111 points ยท Posted at 04:30:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nobody did. We didnโt know you were listening.
jemfulke ยท 58 points ยท Posted at 05:06:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
With your aunt, apparently.
JonSnow1101 ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 05:07:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In my defence, I wasn't aware
Chigleagle ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 07:11:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just binge watched the first three episodes of season 8 and Iโm absolutely reeling
WordMan626 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 06:14:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/iDONThavesex
Aoimiruki ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 04:04:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/suicidebywords
Javondog ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:37:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know nothing Jon Snow
OverallNerve ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:59:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He knows where to stick it.
Jaerivus ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:57:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, did you just assume a gender would want me in their bed?
the-color-yellow ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:40:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know nothing, Jon Snow
myles1221 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:03:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/suicidebywords
manju45 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:03:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then what was all that in the cave with the wildling girl ?
FrigidFlames ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:30:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds useless? Then it fits the question
Barbarichealer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:47:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, bold of him to assume i DONT want to pee in stereo
MalteseCorto ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:53:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ikr, this is Reddit
Project2r ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:26:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I Assume You Have Sex
Now that's Bold
mitharas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:41:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not with that attitude!
JonSnow1101 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 07:03:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're right! Now all I need is someone to do sex with me
Doomedperson ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 07:15:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Real-Raxo ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 09:04:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're pretty much encouraging rape
mitharas ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:05:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, I don't think I do.
And I am not responsible for what you understand, only for what I write.
jpatil1982 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 06:50:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You are John Snow for Christ's sake.
FermentedPangolin ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:52:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs even in his username and you spelled it wrong. How?
LordFrogberry ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:23:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/suicidebywords
ReversDeath ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:46:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hopz the silver was worth it
twows995 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 14:37:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well what else would you do with your pet cat?
birdnerd ยท 16424 points ยท Posted at 00:04:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I suggest walking to the toilet first.
fluffyxsama ยท 3061 points ยท Posted at 01:00:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Where is the toilet, usually
Marius_Nightfire ยท 4518 points ยท Posted at 01:17:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Down the hall, First door on your left.
Incinirmatt ยท 3136 points ยท Posted at 01:26:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My roommate is now screaming at me for pissing in his room.
Why did you lie to me, Marius? I thought we had something special.
SeriousPomegranate ยท 1395 points ยท Posted at 01:35:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Second. Second door on the left!
CaptainBlobTheSuprem ยท 86 points ยท Posted at 01:43:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why are you making me walk into a wall
IllegalAlcoholic ยท 128 points ยท Posted at 02:08:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait, you guys get laid?
johnnybiggles ยท 79 points ยท Posted at 02:12:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's piss on the floor and in someone else's bed at the directional advice of someone on Reddit. Not for long.
iogame ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 03:09:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't fuck up someone's day today.
Later, virgins
SaberToothMC ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:19:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This entire fucking thread is amazing
Logpile98 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:32:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, we know
KrazyKatz3 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:57:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/ihavesex
Talanic ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:58:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is like Twitch Plays Pokemon...
munit_1 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:57:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Imagine Reddit plays op, reddit posts and op delivers. Cant go well.
Zerschmetterding ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:05:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like a normal game of gta
artyhedgehog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:11:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
From their dialog I think they rather got high.
ShutUpHeExplained ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:48:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Of course not. I'm married.
GokuMoto ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 03:17:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not your left my left
CaptainBlobTheSuprem ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:24:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My sister just yelled at me for walking into her room
nastynash2k ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:20:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Complete the story! Usually it never ends with just yelling..
MaleAryaStarksNoHomo ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:46:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWhoa, what are you doing step bro!?โ
nastynash2k ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:47:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Well, what should i be doing step sis? ;)"
SinkTube ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:54:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i think OP said you're supposed to be peeing
CaptainBlobTheSuprem ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:06:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What is wrong with us?
SinkTube ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:21:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
nothing that can't be solved by peeing on your sister
Beidah ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:01:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've seen enough hentai to know where this is going.
Heres20BucksKillMe ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 04:35:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Piss closet. Nice.
mai_cake ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:33:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And straight on til morning.
creativityonly ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:16:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm in the basement. Now what?
adamqadams ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:48:32 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Now pee.
OneMathyBoi ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:38:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seventh?
Wrkncacnter112 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:46:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Twenty-third door on the left.
andreasbeer1981 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:33:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's no more left left.
pruwyben ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:36:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://youtu.be/SN9Z8TZqf6g?t=39
MekiMeks ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:17:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Which ways second?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:16:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Steve told me to say hi!
icewithatee ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:15:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, Eponine, he has something special with Cosette.
naakedbushman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:28:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Russel Peters intensifies
Mariusfuul ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:45:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Must've been traumatized by Captain America... "On your left"
AtotheCtotheG ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:21:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You may also accept instructions from people who arenโt authorities on the relevant subject too easily.
Dr-Autist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:17:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tssssk, like you would get laid. This is Reddit, getting laid is a mythological concept here.
corroded ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:52:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He meant the other left!
Pineappleasks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:46:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
haha. silly, but just made me laugh.(:
Hewhoiswooshed ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:34:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having intercourse. Pfft what an excellent joke you made Incinirmatt.
Theycallmelizardboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:19:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donald Trump here.
Go on...
Klaus_Goldfish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:47:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
usually
_Anon_E_Moose ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:06:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually, thereโs a bathroom on the right. The song says so.
Yolanter ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:25:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am thinking about it and all of the bathrooms in my house are down a hall and to the left. Wack.
goten100 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:08:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maga
LNDN91 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:48:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Down the hall and grab em by the pussy...
PM_ME_YOUR_GOOD_NEW5 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:24:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Up your ass and to the left*
Butte_Rat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:03:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get out of my house!
Blue_Pizza2001 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:23:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy Smokes, Great Directions found it
eldosoa ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:53:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*On your left.
FTFY
brasilkid16 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:59:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It blows my mind how generally true this is.
captainfactoid386 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:21:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, itโs to the right obviously
IAMNOTELLEN ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:44:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...fuck
SuperKettle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:36:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://youtu.be/lCTDB6JyBr0
lilmorrris ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:24:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
wtf how you know how my house looks like?
gayattheweekend ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:45:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is, in fact, exactly where my bathroom is
DogInMyRisotto ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:42:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear. Now wrestling under the name "Purple Squirrel" in Bolivia.
Slyrunner ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I peed on cat
fogelmensch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
brb, cleaning up
MaxZenks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:56:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mine is ๐ณ
ComfortableRepeat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:32:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes it is a the kitchen. I think it does that whenever it's hungry.
Joecracko ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:04:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Up your butt and around the corner.
DaKingslayerxx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:24:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Up your ass and to the left
FTFY
kmosdell ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:10:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Up your ass and to the left?
elegant_pun ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:49:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
First on your right.
comet4taily ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:54:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You'd be an idiot not to find it on your own.
itsmuddy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:04:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stay to the right. Stay to the right!
Tryndamere93 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:05:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if all houses were built that way somehow no matter what ๐ง
WeedIronMoneyNTheUSA ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:46:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Right.
morris1022 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:48:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's the one with the toilet
ISO-8859-1 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:32:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do I do when I get to the bathroom?
Trufflex ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:30:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ยฟDonde esta la biblioteca?
FermentedPangolin ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:51:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me llama T-Bone, la araรฑa discoteca
Trufflex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:53:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
female tbone oooooo iโd rather be disco spodor
Stinkbuttpoobrain ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:37:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In Australia most toilets have their own room, the bathroom has a sink, shower and/or bath.
soberdude ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:36:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Credence Clearwater Revival told us:
"THERE'S A BATHROOM ON THE RIGHT!"
Accidental caps lock on my phone. I'm keeping it
Haha_oh_wait ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:52:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hopefully not in your dreams...
miakittycatmeow ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:27:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the vagina?
Randy_____Marsh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:38:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
depends on the person but usually right above or below the shoulders
VaylPone ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:54:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Up your ass and to the left
StumpNuts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:36:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depends on how kinky your partner is.
Galanor1177 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:25:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depends on how kinky your partner is
basmania75 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:05:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Up your ass and to the left.
logangrey123 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:04:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In my mouth. Number 1 only.
texican1911 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:57:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Who is the toilet?
imaKami ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 01:54:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You just had sex with her.
Turbin42 ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 01:40:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But that's what my mouth is for
AlkalineTea2751 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 01:45:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/cursedcomments
yinyin123 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:58:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/hotcomments?
Edit:nope, not applicable.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:47:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yea baby
CaptainFeather ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:21:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just have sex in the bathroom.
yecart89 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:40:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
LPT : Save the walk and have sex on the toilet !
trumpishoradmirable ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:05:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt understand the joke
Teekoo ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:53:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't understand this joke. Doesn't bathroom mean toilet in every English dialect?
adamqadams ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:50:56 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Going to the bathroom" does not mean literally walking to the bathroom (at least in American English), rather it means peeing/pooping. So you could "go to the bathroom" while not being in the actual bathroom.
Teekoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:42:44 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you. I never knew that.
pmoney757 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:31:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some people are into that.
increasingly-verbose ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:24:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt you need to go to the bathroom to be able to use the toilet?
LocusofZen ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:43:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
LPT
the_ocalhoun ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:11:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You don't have sex on the toilet?
FemaleSquirtingIsPee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:38:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is highly apt device. Unless you're a squirter.
chewbecca108 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:42:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some people would say otherwise
johnnyringoh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:57:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not a problem as my love life is already in the toilet.
AlbertDumblestein ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:55:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I read this I imagined someone walking to the toilet, giving it a stare, then releasing their bowels all over the bathroom floor. Thanks.
HybridPacman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:43:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try walking with sex legs.. Fucking limping away like a defeated sex goblin.
C_hustle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:09:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Prude
DingJones ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:27:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have all my sex on the toilet. Makes things easier.
woobboomooboo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Prude
kil_e ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:03:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pshh.. Everyone has a couch toilet though
anubis29821212 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:23:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whoa. Don't you judge my journey.
blthecamera ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:44:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What an aristocrat.
SmallTowneBoy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:08:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait, other people can walk after sex? Doesnโt everyoneโs legs stop working for a little bit?
xf- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:39:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I suggest using the the toilet.
XTravellingAccountX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:43:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I suggest pulling out first
CurrentResistance ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:37:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please clarify, because I asked where the bathroom was in a restaurant and the waiter said we do t have a bathroom, but we have a toilet. I was under the impression that a bathroom had a toilet and is more polite to ask. This was in the UK.
jawnlobotomy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:47:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm right here thougg
dysfunctional_vet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:51:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless you're in to the kinky stuff.
Parrek ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:22:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless they're into that
Rezindez ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:05:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bold of you to assume I have a toilet.
PM_ME_THE_BEST_STORY ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 03:52:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do you do if you can't pee on command?
BlueRoller ยท 98 points ยท Posted at 05:20:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try peeing on something else.
prayingmantras ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:30:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe the Shift key?
rohdawg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:50:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for the advice, dad.
runs-with-scissors ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:22:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn the faucet on a little and watch the stream. That sometimes helps.
Hunnilisa ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:34:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It takes me like 5 minutes to be able to pee after sex. I think i am lucky with the uti's. I never pee after sex and no uti's since I was a kid.
Butt_Stuff_Pirate ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 04:30:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Who thinks this is useless? UTIs are no joke
Shabbalooobiedoobie ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 06:03:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They are the absolute worst! The most uncomfortable and weird pain/discomfort.
HanBan30 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:39:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Us lucky ducks who don't get UTIs!
Nah I know it's not useless as my friend gets awful one's but I do like that I can just fall asleep in an amazingly sticky cuddle.
harry_cane69 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:06:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah sometimes you gotta go with the flow but it doesnโt hurt
Miss_Torture ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:12:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The few times I've had utis was when i peed after sex so now I'm more worried about peeing than not tbh
GaySwordfish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:12:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well it's not at all proven to work. But I see what you're saying.
Itchycoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:47:36 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know it's been a few days but FYI, it IS supported by scientific research and used by millions of women who have found it effective. I'd say it's a practice with some pretty solid evidence behind it.
Truly-Blues ยท 232 points ยท Posted at 02:00:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ALWAYS pee before, during, and after sex.
J5892 ยท 77 points ยท Posted at 04:10:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's why I always wear my camelbak during sex.
[deleted] ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 06:22:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
A. B. P.
A - Always
B - Be
P - Pissing
ALWAYS BE PISSING
animeman59 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:59:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
During?
SecretPotatoChip ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:28:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't kink shame me!
B-Knight ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:39:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you hold so much piss?
GreatBabu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:05:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hi, I'd like to have sex with you. Thanks.
SpewsHate ยท 104 points ยท Posted at 05:46:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For real! I waited an hour or so after I lost my virginity because he and I were cuddling and it was a new relationship, and within 2 days I was feeling dizzy and sick. I went to my school clinic (college) because I suspected a UTI because it hurt when I stopped peeing and it smelled gross. They said I likely had a virus.
The next day, I had a fever of 103.4ยฐ. My urging was dark brown and bloody and it fucking hurt to pee. Turns out, I had a kidney infection and I was going into septic shock. Thankfully, after antibiotics and a med for bladder spasms, I felt a lot better.
The doctors at the ER were very impressed I wasnโt in more pain in my kidneys. They said my urine sample was the worst theyโve seen.
lyssaNwonderland ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 06:42:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How did you get septic so quickly?
SpewsHate ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 07:17:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have no idea, it only got to my kidneys but I was close to sepsis. Iโve never had one that bad since then.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 16:41:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is definitely not the norm.
sha_man ยท 79 points ยท Posted at 03:36:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rule of thumb: always pee after you cum.
Faucker420 ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 04:29:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That shit hurts immediately after
CreamyRedSoup ยท 113 points ยท Posted at 04:44:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You might wanna get that checked out.
Thecakeisalie25 ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 05:00:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
wait is that not normal
TheDarkGamerTdG ยท 72 points ยท Posted at 05:05:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No. Not at all.
XIIIJinx ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 10:03:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Male here. When I first discovered masturbating around 11, 12, whenever, there were times I'd finish and pee immediately it was painful or at least uncomfortable. And I dont think I had an STD or anything. Hasn't happened in a long time since I started waiting a few mins before peeing
Faucker420 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 14:21:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is exactly right. It's fun to see how many people just assume the worst.
pb4000 ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 05:11:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read somewhere that a mild pain or burn right after finishing had something to do with acidity levels of pee and cum or something like that. Is that not true?
CSPmyHart ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 05:40:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That as well as stationary cum thickens, takes a bit of pressure from the urine to expel. That being said if it's more than slightly uncomfortable I'd for sure get a test done.
x-BrettBrown ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 05:49:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lmao ITT people find out they have STDs
Mr-Will ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:08:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Definitely not. Get that checked out.
caesar15 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:48:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depends how much it hurts
ScepticTanker ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:27:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nope. I used to dizzy out every time I did that. Got it checked, might have a condition called micturition syncope. My BP drops after urinating only after sex though. Untreatable. Asked what to do?
DOn't pee after sex.
Still didn't explain what to do about the pain right above my groin after peeing.
Also, keep forgetting to thank my ex for solving that problem for me.
Swanh ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:46:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're probably not squeezing the last drops of semen out, try that and it shouldn't hurt to pee anymore.
GentleChemicals ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 06:43:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
It happens to me too. I went to a urologist and had several STD tests done with negative results every time. I have no idea why this is the case and have never been able to find information on this that doesn't turn into talk about STDs. The urologist couldn't tell me anything either.
Generally what happens for me is that it'll hurt to pee after I ejaculate for a while. I'll have a feeling like I still have to pee but nothing more than a trickle comes out during this time, but the feeling in my urinary tract is a mild to moderate pain for 30 minutes to an hour. When the pain subsides I always have to pee. This never happens after sex and only when I masturbate. I've tried using lube and being gentler with my grip, but it doesn't seem to make a difference. Also, it's only about 50-60% chance of it happening after I masturbate. Usually it happens, but not always.
Hope you can find some info because I sure as hell haven't. It's a pain in the ass (or penis, rather).
edit: forgot to add that it only seems to happen if I pee soon after ejaculating.
blasstula ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:03:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if you're ejaculating with your dick pointing upward at all, you are likely not getting full emission and the lazy spunk is hanging around in your urethra. try finishing from a standing position (dick horizontal) or pointed downward
netok ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:28:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Retrograde ejaculation
Find another urologist and ask to be tested for this.
SlyPhi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:05:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This happens to me to... but only if I've been drinking alcohol. No alcohol - no problem.
ghvcdfjbv ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:54:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Glad i am not the only one
Glvsschvsm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:06:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have this exact same experience, you described it perfectly
Anen-o-me ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:19:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Narrow urethra.
Drinkaholik ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:43:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've got the exact same thing, but I'd say it only happens about 20% of the time for me
3927729 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:48:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs possible to get infections that arenโt STIโs?
ContingencyProbe ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:22:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A urinary track infection, fairly common in both sexes, majority being female. Week of antibiotics if itโs bad and all gone.
Bobsagit-jesus ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:39:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Idk lowkey feels good to me...
CroMedo7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:57:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not even lowkey, feels good
prayingmantras ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:32:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not even feels, just good.
Gregoriansamek ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 04:49:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I need this one first
Swiggityswagity ยท 74 points ยท Posted at 02:25:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Girls always say this but does this also apply to guys?
[deleted] ยท 80 points ยท Posted at 04:37:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Plus it acts as a good pipe cleaner. No sticky seconds in your undies.
Grizknot ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 06:02:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
and no possibilities of split streams
dark_roast ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 06:56:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, lower possibility of split streams, anyway.
PegLegJenkins ยท 104 points ยท Posted at 02:30:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It does. Likelihood of getting UTI is lower for men but it can still happen.
not26 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 06:28:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, piss after you cum. And don't have sex in hot tubs.
Swiggityswagity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:54:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why? Iโve done it before and neither me or my girlfriend had any issues, potential uti?
suddenimpulse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:42:11 on May 14, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hot tubs are perfect incubators for bacteria is why. They are hot beds for it and it does very much increase the chance of one.
KyloRen3 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 07:19:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Especially if you had anal sex.
ColorblindGiraffe ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 03:26:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel really sleepy after sex, though
pb4000 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:09:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm going to assume you're a male as that happens to me and seemingly other men too. I recently realized that drinking Gatorade legitimately energizes me and helps get me up and moving again.
CSPmyHart ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 05:39:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
2 sex in 1 night? Fascinating
pb4000 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:40:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not usually haha. Meant more moving on with my day . Unless you're having sex at night, in which case sleepiness is perfect
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:51:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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CSPmyHart ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:57:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was said tongue in cheek.
PsychicFoxWithSpoons ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 06:43:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This might be a little graphic, but if I go to the bathroom RIGHT after sex, I end up feeling the urge to pee for hours. Literal hours. Like, I'm stuck on the toilet feeling pee dribble out the entire time. It's miserable. Is this because of a urinary problem? Or is there such a thing as TOO fast?
harry_cane69 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:08:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know that feeling I get it very rarely. Iโm a dude though
Edit: itโs also like my balls hurt a little. Or more like a slight burning sensation when I try to hold it
fascist___hag ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:32:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sounds like the symptoms of an already present UTI or other urinary problem. I would talk to a doctor about it, to be safe.
letsdothid ยท 76 points ยท Posted at 01:26:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even better if you go during sex.
Slacker5001 ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 01:50:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
( อกยฐ อส อกยฐ)
Private_Donuts ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 01:54:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/holup
Slamah ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:39:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/madlads
GreatBabu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:06:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Preach!
Kwanzaa246 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:37:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wish I took this more seriously. I got epididymitis twice from it and the second time it won't go away. It's been almost 6 months and multiple courses of antibiotics for it to go away and now it's just.. there
amitoughenouss ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 06:02:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always pee, ladies. Even if itโs just a drop. You can get bacteria up in your pee hole if you donโt and that can be itchy.
banadger ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 02:45:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Am I the only one who has to poop after sex?
PatmanTheBanproof ยท 56 points ยท Posted at 03:00:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes? Are you one of those people who poop 3-4 times a day and dont realize you have IBS and just think everything makes you want to poop?
Friend is like that. No dude, pooping more than most people pee is actually not normal. Yes once a day is normal. No, its not unbelievable
TheLonelyGentleman ยท 57 points ยท Posted at 03:49:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually, normal/healthy pooping is a range. For some people it's 3 times a day, for others it's 3 times a week.
bobmcbob1 ยท 124 points ยท Posted at 04:33:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to poop once a month when I was a kid. I always felt I had stomach pain, but doctors always said it was just constipation and to take laxatives, which never actually helped.
My grandma eventually took me to this Indian homeopathic doctor who said my 'bellybutton" wasn't in the right spot, whatever that meant. I think he could tell I wasn't buying it so he made me take off my shirt and then measured the distance between my left nipple and bellybutton and then my right nope l nipple and bellybutton -- turns out he wasn't wrong
Anyways, my grandma told him to "fix it" so this guy pulled hard on my big toes and strongly punched the soles of my feet. I'd be lying if I didn't feel like my bellybutton came back into place and my stomach pain instantly went away. The guy charged 40 bucks and sent me home, where I took one of the best poops of my life.
Long story short, if you have poop problems, just get an Indian guy to measure your nipples and bellybutton and punch your feet. You'll be better in no time
aj3x ยท 169 points ยท Posted at 04:37:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey quick question, what the fuck?
fullup72 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 04:59:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes.
vinayachandran ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:38:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmmm. As an Indian guy, I hope this works if I do the measurements myself :D
bobmcbob1 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:17:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is this a well known procedure in India or something? What does it mean for the bellybutton not to be in the proper place?;
vinayachandran ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:45:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have no idea, sorry! This is the first time I heard such a thing. It's hard to believe there is any truth or logic behind it. If I had a medical condition, like any sane person, my first choice would be to see a doctor. However, I can totally understand the frustration if multiple doctors can't fix it, and the frustration leading to search for alternatives. Glad you were able to find something that worked for you! Like they say, a clean colon is one less thing to worry about :D
skaggldrynk ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:41:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What the hell
raw__shark ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:41:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like you weren't the only one producing s**t that day.
011101000011101101 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:55:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Imma just assume this is fake
Thecakeisalie25 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:00:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/nothingeverhappens
cave18 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 05:17:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not really sure this applies in this situation ngl
bobmcbob1 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 12:15:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not, but you're free to believe whatever you want. I'm still not sure exactly what he did or how he fixed the issue
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:39:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whoa
mothmeetflame ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:30:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
3 times a week is not healthy for anyone. You should be pooping once/day, to minimize colon cancer risk
Jordaneer ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 04:36:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've gone 5 days without pooping, and not for a lack of trying (I was on vacation)
that is unhealthy. I normally poop about once-twice a day
tropsyq ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:03:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can sometimes go a couple days without pooping on vacation too. Sometime just not being at home makes me unable to
puehlong ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:07:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Na, healthy range is between three times a week and three times a day.
woopdada ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:56:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The medical community disagrees. 3 times a week is still in the normal range.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:48:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I went a whole week once. It was dire circumstances
ShaoLimper ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:14:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never realized this was not just the normal natural thing to do... Gotta clear the shaft, yo
isthatbroken77 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:41:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And check the medicine cabinet you might find something you should know before you get naked.
EndearingFreak ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:16:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why?
PegLegJenkins ยท 81 points ยท Posted at 02:29:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To avoid UTI.
EndearingFreak ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 03:41:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, I didn't know that, just googled it, thanks for the tip
skaggldrynk ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 04:40:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Much more important for women. Damn guys and their long urethras...
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:22:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just the tip?
Virus4762 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:44:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why?
rozeboos ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 07:43:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To pee out bacteria so you don't get an UTI
Kittenpuncher5000 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:24:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also pee before as well. The amount of times me and my partner have had to stop and go pee right as things are getting good.
okaymoose ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:39:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And if you can take a shower too.
rozeboos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:45:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So true.
BubbaBlues18 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:43:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
THIS. This isn't spoken about enough!
yeathatshouldvework ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:40:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Except if you are scatophile
011101000011101101 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:03:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a guy and I've found it better to wait ~10 minutes before going.
aircraftinspector ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:14:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kind of hard to do when you are prone to passing out after finishing.
Flogboggfog ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:33:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At least wait a few minutes to sink into the fluids and high five your partner.
DrifterD2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:07:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
unless you have sex in an actual bathroom then you're all set
VioletBroregarde ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:33:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
HNNNNNNNNNGGGGGG poops
A1000eisn1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:31:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is esp important for women.
Gnostromo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:53:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some people into doing it during so plan accordingly
kevin_tanjaya ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:40:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And before having sex
Tiodichia ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:56:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never had sex. Thought this was common practice. Surprised itโs not.
lyssaNwonderland ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 06:48:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your username sounds like a painful std.
big-vomica ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:55:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do I do after I get to the bathroom?
roberthidalgo34 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:14:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why?
sirLUL ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:33:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read comments like this a lot and I donโt understand why you should do this? Am virgin, be gentle.
rozeboos ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:33:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's to pee out bacteria so you don't get an UTI
sirLUL ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:34:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Noted.
crambosho ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:37:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a male, I was unlucky enough to get a UTI. I donโt blame women when they say itโs the worst feeling, but my girlfriend explained that the pain the I exuded and that the way I was while urinating or even getting morning wood never compared to how she experienced it.
A longer urethra opens more length for pain. This is the best advice.
Drops-of-Q ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:09:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do this. Unless you want a urinary tract infection.
cheeeesewiz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:10:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Snuggle first, don't be selfish
rozeboos ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:14:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can snuggle after peeing. And it's not selfish. I wouldn't want any sex while in pain because of an UTI.
Embarrassed_Cow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:55:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So many of my friends are sexually active while ive been a virgin and they always tell me how they get UTIs one day i just mentioned peeing after sex for some reason and they had no idea what i was talking about. Realized that none of my friends knew they were supposed to do that. They all went to the gyno and confirmed it. I dont actually remember anyone telling me that you had to. Must have seen it in a movie or something.
NintendoTheGuy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:08:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is especially important for girls. Guys donโt typically get UTIs, but girls can easily get them after sex. Clearing out the small pipe is an insurance policy against them.
whattoucantfind ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:24:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only finally learned this 2 years into being sexually active and after a trip to an immediate med for a UTI that took 3 hours and the only thing on the TV was fox news. The doctor was a fucking moron and prescribed me meds that cost over $100 even with insurance. Had to call my GP the next day and ask for something cheaper.
Number5is_ALIVE ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:26:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear, what are we supposed to do in here before we have sex?
lathe_of_heaven ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:12:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didnโt realize everyone didnโt do this for years. I would watch tv shows and think โThey just go to sleep? How unrealistic and icky.โ
IamLukeDaniel ยท 7342 points ยท Posted at 02:07:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're not hungry you're thirsty!
I would eat a big meal and wonder why I still felt hungry.. It is because I wasn't drinking a glass of water with my meal. Now if I notice I am hungry after eating normal portions I have a glass of water and wait 5 minutes before I continue eating.
209JustBreathe ยท 254 points ยท Posted at 05:46:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I started intermittent fasting and therefore increased my water intake- holy hell! I went from being hungry ALL the time to content with 1 meal and a snack in a 6 hour window. Guess this bitch was just thirsty?
KlausVonChiliPowder ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 08:31:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is there a specific plan you're following? Or do you just drink water during a fasting period?
SirFiesty ยท 48 points ยท Posted at 08:35:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know about this guy but there are mutiple types- day on day off, long fast then normal eating etc. The method I think is easiest and works best is just 8 hours on, 16 off. Pick 8 hours you'll eat in and 16 you won't (adjust a bit if needed) and eat whatever. After not even very long you'll become hungry less often and later in the day and will feel like you naturally need to eat less. Pretty cool for not that much effort
trumpeting_in_corrid ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 09:19:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do the 16 hours you don't eat include when you're sleeping?
HonoraryMancunian ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 09:23:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes.
trumpeting_in_corrid ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 09:24:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sounds manageable.
AnAnalChemist ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 09:58:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not just doable, it becomes normal and amazing. I stop eating at 9pm, breakfast is water and a half decaf coffee. Light lunch at noon, then go crazy at supper.
Ha_omer ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:20:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can I drink a cup of caffeinated black coffee in those 16 hours?
bleedMINERred ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 10:29:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes
noahch26 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:33:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Coffee is a natural appetite suppressant. There are lots of people who do intermittent fasting who will only have water and coffee in the mornings to hold them over until the next meal time. I donโt do it anymore but I did fasting for a few months a while back. Iโd wake up in the morning and have coffee for breakfast. Then Iโd have a decent sized lunch around 3 when I go on break at work. Then Iโd go back to work and get off around 10, which is when Iโd go home and have a decent sized dinner. Then Iโd go to sleep, wake up around 7 or 8 in the morning, and start over. For me I was only going 7 hours between lunch and dinner so I wasnโt getting hungry enough to need coffee during that time. Iโd have roughly 17 hours between dinner and lunch the following day though, so Iโd definitely need that coffee in the morning. As for your question though, I donโt think drinking a cup or a half cup of back coffee in your fasting window will hurt.
stay_cranky ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:28:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, you can drink anything that doesn't have calories.
Scarflame ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:45:13 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs not entirely true, some ingredients will break a fast even if theres no sugar or calories.
the-chronic-diarrhea ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:13:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything without calories goes in those 16 hours. So water, tea, coffee and (in moderation of course) diet soda's are fair game.
Christian_Baal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:23:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem with diet soda is that it will make you hungry. I'd avoid it while fasting.
the-chronic-diarrhea ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:33:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I personally struggle the most with missing sweetness, so it tends to keep me going longer than it making me eat sooner. But everyone is different and I think avoiding it is the better advice in general indeed.
GraytScott ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:48:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I started doing this by accident. I got busy in the morning so just coffee, I'd eat lunch at noon or one, dinner at six, snack at maybe 8. Rinse and repeat. I lost 40 pounds. My portion sizes dropped drastically, I drink a lot of fluids. It actually gave my energy to exercise. So I do that now too I guess.
trumpeting_in_corrid ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:00:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm usually ravenous as soon as I wake up so I don't see it becoming normal any time soon!
SirFiesty ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 10:15:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trust me dude. It'll take longer if you're not used to it and starting is definitely the hardest part, but once it does become routine a bit it's just... easier. You spend less on food, eat less food AND get less hungry. Worth it. Only issue I found is it takes longer to get used to no midnight snacks haha
roaminghart11 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 10:45:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can do it the other way around so you can start eating early in the day and stop eating early in the evening.
woopdada ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 10:45:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You don't have to put your window in the evening. If it works better for you to eat breakfast and skip dinner that's just as fine.
HyperSpaceSurfer ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:55:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You get less hungry from drinking coffee, disregard if you've got heart problems or something. You can also eat dinner earlier and/or go for 10 or 12 hour fasting.
Skipping breacfast is just a suggestion and works for many people. Some might need a specific scedule and some don't. However, no matter what you do you need discipline and don't give up when you slip up.
trumpeting_in_corrid ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:25:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you /u/HyperSpaceSurfer; /u/woopdada; /u/roaminghart11; /u/SirFiesty; /u/AnAnalChemist and /u/HonoraryMancunian for your helpful comments.
HonoraryMancunian ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:41:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another thing you learn the difference between is mental hunger, physical hunger and REAL hunger.
Mental hunger: when you have a craving (like when you smell nice food) but if you really think about your stomach, it's not actually hungry.
Physical (not real) hunger: when your stomach wants food (regulated by hormones and follows your circadian rhythm) but you realise your body has plenty of energy and can do normal physical activities without needing to intake calories.
trumpeting_in_corrid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:43:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I probably never allow myself to experience REAL hunger :(
HonoraryMancunian ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:18:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like all things, it takes practice and persistence. But once you've IF'd for a while you learn to listen to your body and its needs.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:44:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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trumpeting_in_corrid ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:47:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really want to try this. I might try increasing the 'window' gradually - delaying breakfast by an hour, then by two etc.
INRtoolow ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:51:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
basically skip breakfast
falfu ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:06:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, thankfully it works for intermittent fasting.. however Ramadan is coming up and Iโll be switching the fasting hours all to waking and I just know itโs gonna be hellish in the heat :(
GingerSnappless ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:34:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
good luck, friend
falfu ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:55:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you, I need it ๐ญ
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:45:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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falfu ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 13:20:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you, kind Redditor! However Iโm pretty sure I have it way better than a lot of the worldโs population of Muslims, many of whom donโt even have proper food or water to break their fasts, so it puts my complaining into perspective :) thank you once again for the kind thoughts!
randacts13 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:29:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/omad
HyperSpaceSurfer ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 11:42:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I somehow accidentally began intermittent fasting last year. I was playing too much Stellaris and couldn't be bothered to eat what was available. When I realised I had lost weight I just put in a more conscious effort and already lost over 20 kg (50 lb).
Just got to be ok with being hungry between meals and not have a large pizza and a 2l coke for dinner.
209JustBreathe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:05:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs awesome!
GreatBabu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:29:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I DO love a thirsty bitch....
209JustBreathe ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:04:13 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because you are a water salesman?
M1NNESNOWTA ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 12:22:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To all that are reading this comment and are curious, check out /r/intermittentfasting.
DanJohnB ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 07:53:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This always amazed me, I won't generalise where you're all from my as a kid I watched a program about food problems in America. One section was how there's an increasing amount of the population that confuse being thirsty and hungry, I thought it must have been fibbing.
Who knew! To me they're fundamentally different sensations.
HyperSpaceSurfer ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 11:00:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fun fact, cats have a symilar thing. They can get dehydrated from eating only dry food because they evolved from desert cats that got most of their water from their food.
Angel_Hunter_D ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:56:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Autism spectrum can also have sensory issues that confuse the two
ilovealec22 ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 05:18:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! I always overeat/over-snack if Iโm thirsty and donโt recognize it. Hydration really makes a difference.
Flacid_Monkey ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 08:07:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to drink coffee most of the day and evening because I was tired.
I tried one week of one coffee in the morning and 7-10 pints of water the rest of the day. More if I exercise.
That was 2 years ago, I still continue and the only time I'm now tired is if I've had a late night.
Water is the best thing ever and it'll increase your taste, health and happiness.
If anyone gets bad hangovers, drink plenty of water the days leading up and day of drinking and a pint before you leave to go home, you'll wake up feeling so much better. Especially once you cross the 30 years barrier.
cricketbones ยท 48 points ยท Posted at 08:14:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It astounds me that people just don't drink water. This isn't meant to be a slight to the OP or anything, but I drink loads of water. My boss bitches at me because I have to take a piss every hour or two.... Like a regular fucking human with a bladder and urinary tract.
lilapense ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 09:11:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I kinda of got trained out of drinking water during grade school.
Our teachers wouldn't let us go during class because "you have plenty of time between class." Between class, it was physically impossible to get from one side of the school to your class on the other side before the bell if you even swung by your locker. There weren't any bathrooms in the cafeteria, we weren't allowed in the halls during lunch, and the lunch monitors would only allow 2 students at a time have bathed passes, out of 700 students who had lunch in the same block. Then at the end of the day there wasn't time to go to the bathroom and still make your bus.
I didn't notice I was dehydrated because I'd been dehydrated for like a decade.
johnnyfortycoats ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:42:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You couldn't have a bottle of water on your desk?
JDllamallama ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 11:01:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think the point they're making was that if they did drink more water, they wouldn't be able to go pee when they needed to at school
HyperSpaceSurfer ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 11:02:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An empty one would probably be more useful.
[deleted] ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 08:40:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
a fellow r/hydrohomies
Ludon0 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 08:52:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*waternigga
DeskbotKnight ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:07:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
RIP
ElTreceAlternitivo ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:49:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
F
ElTreceAlternitivo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:49:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs all but dead ๐
The bastards quarantined it.
Angel_Hunter_D ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:59:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We can still get into it, I don't see how is a death sentence
ElTreceAlternitivo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:09:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
SSJGodFloridaMan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:34:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
glug glug, brothers
theCanMan777 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:21:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
just not the same
MercuryMadHatter ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 11:47:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People ask me how I lost weight. They get mad when I tell them I made lasting changes, like drinking more water! You'd be surprised how little you actually get hungry.
wolfcede ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 08:51:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try waiting 30 minutes before and after a meal as water can speed digestion of food and nutrients and you can adequately hydrate outside of these food digestion windows. Exception being of course if youโre thirsty, then by all means drink up at dinner. If you can feel thirst in your mouth you are likely experiencing pretty severe dehydration already. An 8 oz glass of water was shown to be an appetite suppressant when used 30 min before and 30 minutes after a meal.
DenSem ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 17:30:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What are the signs that you are thirsty before that point?
wolfcede ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:14:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm just a hardcore bro scientist but Iโll point you in the right direction: โ The bodyโs many cries for waterโ was written in โ92 by a dr who had been assigned to a prison in Iraq but was given no budget for research so he started doing research just on water intake of the prisoners... an example would be back pain. Back pain can be a sign you are chronically dehydrated ;)
SaidNoOneEver- ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:57:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This needs more attention. Really shouldn't be drinking water with meals. Also should never drink ice water. Room temperature water is best for digestive tract
Angel_Hunter_D ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:58:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eww, if it's not cool I still feel thirsty
zmajoslava ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:19:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yess! This!
Nixxxy279 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 07:11:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink the water first, my dude
timothymh ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 07:10:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/waterbros
[deleted] ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 08:13:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/HydroHomies
ItMightBeABrainTumor ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 08:20:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why do the admins suck so hard? They took a lovely community of 300k and shattered it into a bunch of shards like it's a Sanderson novel.
SOwED ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 08:36:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because they're running a business, not a free speech platform. The free speech thing was just marketing.
gacdeuce ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:56:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm a simple man. I see Adonalsium, I upvote.
ThunderVag4 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:20:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/Waterniggas2
ElTreceAlternitivo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:51:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only a matter of time before they get this one too.
DuckWithBrokenWings ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:18:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What happened with the first one?
Graupel ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:31:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
AdvertisersReddit mods didn't like the name[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 07:09:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm, ever since I started drinking 2 liters of water per day a few months ago I always feel hungry after a meal if I didn't drink any water with it
plantsonmysill ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:32:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I still don't understand why so many people have a problem with that. For me, the sensations of thirst and hunger are very different. If I'm thirsty, my upper stomach (roughly) and chest feel kinda tight and my lips feel dry. If I'm hungry, my lower stomach rumbles and just feels .. empty. Isn't it like that for everybody?
ipsum629 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:21:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm trying to gain weight so should I just not drink?
E72M ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:35:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you are trying to gain weight wouldn't it be better to do it through muscle than fat? You would be surprised how quickly you can see results after begging a new exercise.
FunnyUzerName ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:50:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True, but you still need to take in some excess calories in order to build muscle bulk.
E72M ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:59:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True but for starting out depending on what you are doing, so say just getting toned I found eating lots of protein helped even though my calorie intake didn't really change too drastically I don't think.
Honestly I don't know how many calories I take in cause I've always just eaten and been thin and without much muscle until I started working out and trying to have a bit more protein.
SaidNoOneEver- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:47:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No you should drink plenty of water. Just dont drink with meals. Drink a glass about a half hour before. Eat standing up to not get as full as fast either. Make sure you are working out too. Will make you more hungry and your body with crave healthy foods
KingFunk420 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:19:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Randy Santel disagrees
rodral ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:24:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
u/gloria_borga told you so
gloria_borga ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:05:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nnanann I told you so don't you remember yesterday???
DarkLordBogi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:00:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oof I wasn't allowed to drink while eating.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:05:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learnt this one from a book (assassins apprentice). Burich tells Fitz to drink more when he is a boy.
infinite-bliss ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:14:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad would say,
"You're not hungry, you're bored"
LightWarrior04 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:26:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink coffee and a glass of water 30 minutes before eating. The caffeine in coffee reduces your appetite and the water makes you feel full faster.
SaidNoOneEver- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:45:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make sure it room temperature water if your drinking with a meal.
a-curious-guy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:30:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always drink one glass of water before your main meals. Works wonders.
Darth_Punk ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:00:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah it's not the water, there's just a 10-20 minute delay to realize it's full.
BlackShirt ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:21:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I have this Muslim friend who told me that in their religion it's recommended to fill once stomach 1/3 with food, 1/3 with water, 1/3 with air.
EDIT: after some googling around, I found this :
Source : https://islamqa.info/en/answers/145160/ruling-on-eating-ones-fill-and-is-it-regarded-as-extravagance
NeotericLeaf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:58:10 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yeah let me swallow this air real quick lil homie
kickasssun ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:49:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its more healthy it you drink your water 30 min before eating.
SOwED ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:37:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have heard this but I don't really buy it. Maybe if you're dehydrated to start out with.
Lupin_AAGL ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:01:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My acid reflux would like to disagree
kickasssun ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:27:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i think it preps your stomach for food and your stomach gets less tired? Im not sure.
walnuts223 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:50:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
False, i am just fat. I think im addicted to that stuffed feeling. I usually drink water but i still out eat people while drinking pop
HyperSpaceSurfer ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:24:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking pop is the problem. Sugar expands the stomach, probably a revolutionary trait to always have room for such a valuable resource.
I cut out soda a couple of years ago. I started with sodas with less sugar, then sweetened carbonated water and now I'm at carbonated water for my hurty bubbly addiction.
You can still stuff yourself and lose weight as long as you aren't stuffing yourself 3-5 times a day. Skip breakfast, just have a coffee and more before lunch, have a stuffed lunch and wait for dinner to stuff yourself again and don't stuff yourself until next lunch.
You have to cut out your snacks for this to work and be ready to be hungry between meals. When hungry, especially at first, have some water or coffe and decide to wait 15 minutes, without setting a timer or constantly looking at the time, until you do something about it, it's just 15 minutes after all. If that doesn't work have a single handful of something that isn't just sugar and keep the packaging in another room. You can wait as you know you're going to have a big dinner/lunch.
You can also go for an 8, 10 or 12 hour eating period if sticking to a schedule is more your thing.
Went on a bit of a tangent but I stopped gaining weight from not drinking loads of soda and lost over 20 kg in less han a year from eating less frequently.
FunnyUzerName ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:51:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No. You're just not trying hard enough. I know, because I was the same for over 20 years. Lost 35kg/77lbs about 2 years ago in just over 7 months simply by drinking more, eating smaller portions and walking about 20 mins a day. Not a lot of effort and the weight just fell off. I assure you, you get addicted to that feeling pretty quickly!
walnuts223 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:30:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sry, im not actually fat. I just over eat. I drink soda so i dont eat to much. Fuller faster
Bernard_PT ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:44:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/waterniggas gotchu
Kipdid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:20:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Huh, guess thatโs why Iโve ended up not being as hungry for lunch as I thought after mid-morning coffee
towca ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:39:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Coffee is also an appetite suppressant itself!
Machobots ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:20:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
are you overweight?
lordbeecee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:22:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oak kills HungryThirsty Dead. First thing I thought of when I started reading this. https://youtu.be/67yUZX5HKsY
cqm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:10:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes I always remember to ask myself this. Its like I'm hitting refresh on my own self-diagnostics. The mere idea of thinking about what signal your body is broadcasting to you helps alot. If you are just on autopilot then it is back to the fridge, or back to an unnecessary restuarant. If you think about it "but do I need sustenance? did I drink enough water today?" leads me to an outcome more in-line with supporting my desired physique.
PackOfVelociraptors ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:32:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This advice is actually too effective.
I give it a significant amount of credit for why I'm underweight, with good water intake its far too easy for me to go way too long without eating
mitsuhazuki ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:39:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its probably not the drinking and more the waiting 5 minutes that makes you not hungry anymore but either way drinking is not a bad thing
monxas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:02:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
before you start eating have a full glass of water 5 minutes before.
amithirsty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:25:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Very true, this is where I got my username lol
caseyweederman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:37:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This advice made me doubt every bit of information that my body gave me. :(
thumbsuccer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:44:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow, this is really good advice. Thank you!
Airsoftpieceofcake ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:24:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dont understand how people can eat and not have a dring with it. If i dont have water or smth when im eating i just cant eat it all
dcwinger12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:13:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, in times you think you need a snack, try slamming a half glass of water and see if that helps!
Taterdude ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:54:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gum is a miracle worker when it comes to driving off hunger cravings.
Bacon-muffin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:43:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't do the water thing, but I definitely learned the same lesson that you should wait a bit before grabbing another serving after eating an amount that should have been enough. I'll usually feel hungry still for about 5-10 minutes and then my stomach settles out and I feel full.
Sarsmi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:28:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm trying to drink a glass of water when I wake up and before I go to bed at night, every day. I don't always remember but I feel better the days that I do.
BulletproofVendetta ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:24:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also on this note: You may be eating too fast. Almost no one chews as much as they're supposed to and it can take your stomach 10-15 minutes to register that it's actually full.
rajikaru ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:40:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
there are thousands of reasons somebody could feel hungry lmao. eating too fast for your stomach's brain to process the satiation, eating food low in calories or things like fat, just generally not eating enough...
By that logic you should never be hungry if you drink seltzer water, because the carbonation makes you feel even more satiated for longer.
KaizokuShojo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:12:36 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've found that usually when someone is craving a sweet, it's their body asking for water.
Oishii-Caramel-Slice ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:22:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I drink meals and sometimes snacks with water too, but still find my hungry. But I do think it does helps.
HyperSpaceSurfer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:28:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's ok to be hungry sometimes. Still gotta eat sometimes, though.
jared875 ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 07:46:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So there's no actual evidence that people mistake thirst for hunger. They aren't even the same sensation.
stoopslife ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:03:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They go down the same tubes mate
SOwED ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:37:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So do other things
Raichu7 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:46:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I still donโt understand this, hungry and thirsty feel very different. Iโve never once felt hungry, had a drink and then felt fine unless it was a smoothie or soda or something filling like that and Iโve been made to try multiple times. Iโm not stupid, I do know what thirty is.
bombshellpumps ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 11:13:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or horny. Same chemical receptors!
Eeveelover14 ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 07:49:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Until water changes it's texture that's not gonna happen.
SOwED ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:37:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat ice then
Eeveelover14 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:38:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's actually a good suggestion, but I don't like chewing ice.
AbysmalVixen ยท 35070 points ยท Posted at 22:17:08 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn it off and turn it back on
TheTarasenkshow ยท 8741 points ยท Posted at 00:19:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This applies to everything that has a computer or any sort of electronic. People laugh at me when I ask them โhave you tried turning it off and back on again?โ
ancilot1 ยท 4873 points ยท Posted at 00:46:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, but when thatโs all your IT office knows how to do...
MrVeazey ยท 2698 points ยท Posted at 01:13:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You work at Reynholm Industries?
Johnny-Elbows ยท 1817 points ยท Posted at 01:29:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn these electric sex pants!
sgtxsarge ยท 731 points ยท Posted at 01:47:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
bzzzt
Damn it! That's not even sexy!
AccountDeleteBot ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:33:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
These pants are broken.
punch. punch.
Halmagha ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:26:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Windows 98 boot sound
D1ngusXD ยท 57 points ยท Posted at 02:10:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/unexpecteditcrowd
Sgtkeeg ยท 58 points ยท Posted at 02:16:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's always expected. It's Reddit
D1ngusXD ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 02:24:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good point. What don't you expect on here?
[deleted] ยท 53 points ยท Posted at 02:31:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nobody expects the Spanish Inquisition
Sgtkeeg ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:36:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's always the same on Reddit. The office, the OT crowd, and Monty Python.
DisabledFeature ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:42:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean those are three popular pieces of English language fictional entertainment.
Johnny-Elbows ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:35:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No love for black adder though unfortunately.
D1ngusXD ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:35:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait so they're like Hitler before Hitler? Huh, didn't expect that, to be honest.
Kraken-X ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:10:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/unexpectedspanishinquisition
theemptyqueue ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:48:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unfortunately, Reddit has a cap the amount of charachers in a subreddit name too r/21CharactersAndNoMore, but there are the following Monty Python related subs you might be interested in:
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actually-dehrk ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:08:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good bot
rnilbog ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 02:17:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You there, computer man! Fix my pants!
Mistah_J618 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:12:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pull down my pants and do your job!
recentbobcat ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 02:46:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wonder if this gun is loaded?
dry fires directly into mouth
Nope!
CupcakePotato ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 02:52:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn that desert gypsy. ยฃ50 and I'm wankered on rohypnol!
LegendaryGary74 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:09:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm in my happy place Iโm in my happy place
prisonertrog ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 01:31:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
FUCK OFF!
Grimmbeard ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:41:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best moment of the show.
squeakim ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:19:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Theres the r/unexpectedITcrowd well, I guess it was somewhat expected.
Smurphy115 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:45:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My second one today!
dafckingman ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:35:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
WTF are electric sex pants? I need to know about these
unaetheral ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:46:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ask Reynholm.
Osric250 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:28:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://youtu.be/Vdmy5CPCL1o
dafckingman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:11:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's my Risky click of the day. Whew
nocturnalchemist ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:57:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I smoke crack
Vexing ยท 617 points ยท Posted at 01:52:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did you see that ludicrous display last night?
achesst ยท 114 points ยท Posted at 02:01:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What was Wenger thinkin sendin Walcott on tha early?
ksleepwalker ยท 119 points ยท Posted at 02:13:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The trouble with Arsenal is that they always try to walk it in.
Jindabyne1 ยท 63 points ยท Posted at 02:56:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm sorry for your loss. Move on.
ChappyBirthday ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 04:17:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm disabled!
Jindabyne1 ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 04:21:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How are you disabled?
Exoticwombat ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:24:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Leg disabled.
ChappyBirthday ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:28:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you have a wheelchair or something?
blurplethenurple ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:03:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes...
ChappyBirthday ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:10:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But... where is it?
Stalthdan ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 05:33:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stolen.
Mistah_J618 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:09:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But how did they get in?
Stalthdan ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 09:49:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't knoww :(
TheApprenticeLife ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 03:06:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They're 'avin a lawf.
Crazy_Melon ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 07:56:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
well they're winning?
TheApprenticeLife ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:25:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pffft. They're'avin a lawf...
IchBinEineFrage ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:51:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ooh yeah, whaddagame!
Chahk ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 02:41:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
FATHAAAAAAAAAAAR!!!
ChappyBirthday ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:24:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are some policemen here. They say they need to speak with you about irregularities in the pension fund.
I see.
xaogypsie ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 03:05:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please, I think I know my way around a sexual harassment lawsuit.
bungopony ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:13:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Leg Disabled
icanttinkofaname ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:32:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aym dizeybl'd.
johnnysivilian ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:19:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im disabled!
tomfooly ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:44:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know the whole "turn it off and on again" thing is mainly from the IT Crowd, but I can't help but think of This, long but well worth the read anytime I hear it.
morgecroc ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:31:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Disappoint ended at day 24 I need to know if IT boy got the divorced cougar in the end.
TheXMarkSpot ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:05:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/unexpecteditcrowd
corran450 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:15:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/totallyexpectedITcrowd
MrsDiscoB ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:54:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"I'm not settin it to 10, Moss! It'll blow my cock off!"
elisha_gunhaus ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:59:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly what I was thinking when I saw this advice. Great show.
PiercedGeek ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:14:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Who works?
Halmagha ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:26:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can you shut the fuck up? We're filming secret millionaire.
writers_block19 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:39:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
0118999881999119725
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elushinz ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:16:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm the Assistant to the Regional Manager.
BillyTheWrist ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:28:53 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually do. Well, I work in the building they used for the external shots.
MrVeazey ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:23:16 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, that's pretty cool. I hope your boss doesn't often throw himself out the window.
Sarveshgandhi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:01:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lmao I read that as Raymond Holt industries
MrVeazey ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:06:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That would be an entirely different kind of work environment. Bingpot.
aygomyownroad ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:33:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
FAAATTTHHHHHEEEEEERRRR
timeforaroast ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:26:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The internet seems to be controlled by a button
lunixss ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 01:52:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Sometimes your IT department changes things on the back end, and will have you reboot once again to flush your DNS/DHCP/Group Policy/ect. When you log back in, "woah it works!" "I swear I rebooted it before!!"
Edit: Since people are reading this: Don't lie to your IT about rebooting. They can and will check if it was rebooted quite easily, including how long it has been. It's really awkward to convince you guys to "Reboot again", I know that you didn't.
[deleted] ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 05:35:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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lunixss ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:28:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But then you'll boot them into Recovery :P Easier to just fix the issue than explain that they are in BIOS/Windows recovery menu and what that is
ancilot1 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:55:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like that calls for an alert that an update was made, although itโs probably conditional.
Schwifty_5 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:11:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, but even then, forced group policy updates don't get pushed to everyone or somehow admin privileges are lost and need system requires a fresh authentication.
ancilot1 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:20:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, which is why I conceded that itโs conditional.
Schwifty_5 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:42:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, I thought you were talking about the alerts being conditional! My bad!
ancilot1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:48:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs good, I should have split that sentence up.
Wisdomlost ยท 246 points ยท Posted at 01:16:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
IT guys aka google experts.
JDude1205 ยท 185 points ยท Posted at 01:26:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah imagine if Google had massive amounts of information on just about anything. Weird right?
shalafi71 ยท 168 points ยท Posted at 01:38:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
IT guy here. Ninja on Google-fu when it's IT. Can't figure out shit when it comes to cars.
Splickity-Lit ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 01:51:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use google for cars more than for IT....but just because computers and cars are a big part of my every day life. Not out of a deep interest of either one, though over about the past year and half Iโve learned a ton through google/YouTube about computers in my journey toward becoming a PC gamer.
bestjakeisbest ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:17:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eh start out small, do your oil, or change your battery, or break pads, or rotate your tires then maybe a radiator flush, or a drive belt replacement keep going until you need to use Google or a car guide.
Gilthoniel_Elbereth ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:30:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would need google to be able to do any of those lol
bestjakeisbest ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:41:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
well then do that
darthicer ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:34:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its all really about knowing enough to know how to frame the question when asking google. It is why those with training can search and those without have trouble. The most helpful answers on a topic are often filled with jargon in my experience which you need the jargon to search properly for in a keyword search, among other reasons.
Expolaris ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:20:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Computer Science Teacher / the IT guy on campus.
My wife has changed my tire before. I bear no shame about that fact. She's tough and is willing to get her hands dirty. I like it.
Idliketothank__Devil ยท -13 points ยท Posted at 02:54:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A healthy adult that can't change a tire is pretty fucking sorry. It's not "not being mechanical". It's being fucking stupid, lazy, or both. It's like claiming doorknobs are too complicated.
KamikazeSnark ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:59:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People who make sweeping judgements about other people like this based on a single arbitrary data point are toxic.
Idliketothank__Devil ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 03:10:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not a single data point. It's screaming to those around you that you are useless.
KamikazeSnark ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:20:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah it is. You arbitrarily picked this one specific task and decided to make someone's ability to perform that task a measurement of their complete worth. It'd be like if I decided that people who couldn't reinstall an operating system on their computer were "lazy" and "stupid."
You know what is lazy? Your mental schema for interpreting the world around you. You're a lazy thinker.
WhyIsSoHardToSignUp ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:00:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Too harsh maybe?
Idliketothank__Devil ยท -10 points ยท Posted at 03:08:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nope. Operating a jack and a tire wrench is so basic that there is something wrong to the point of a lever being magic to those that can't understand it.
wizardwes ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:02:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Until you account for the fact that someone might not know where to place the jack, which could result in much worse damage to the car, or maybe they have a car where the spare is hard to access, such as trucks I've seen where you have to find a specific rod to put in a hole to blindly turn something to release the wheel. To you those things are simple, but if you haven't been taught, then it's not your fault for not knowing necessarily.
Idliketothank__Devil ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 04:10:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like I said, fucking basic. Even if you lost the manual, this is rock chucker level complicated
ochaos ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:04:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
car's you need to find the correct niche on the internet for the automotive knowledge you need. Usually a 20 year old forum where most of the image links are broken. (as an I.T. guy with a '47 lincoln I've learned this the hard way.)
Fairlybludgeoned ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:31:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
seriously. grassroots motorsports forum or classic motorsports forun
DEVOmay97 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:05:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Check out Chrisfix and Ericthecarguy on YouTube, they're fantastic channels for learning about cars.
Rungi500 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:19:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
WD-40 or Duct tape. Simple.
Thatjuicyjuice ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:37:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does it move and it shouldn't. Duct tape. Should it move and doesn't. WD-40.
siht-fo-etisoppo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:31:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
4/5 rapists agree
Idliketothank__Devil ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:51:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's cause your base knowledge in IT is high enough to weed out the youtube n google idiots either incompetent or trolling. I the opposite, with the cars and not the IT. And, fuck me, every second car problem solve is wrong and shockingly ignorant online.
mitchdude1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work on both frequently and am the exact opposite. I'll teach you if you teach me.
Slaves2Darkness ยท -8 points ยท Posted at 01:34:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not the amount of information that is the problem, but if all you know is how to Google then you don't know how to apply it. Too many junior IT guys all they know is Google and god help you if the exact problem with a solution can not be found with a simple search.
Schwifty_5 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:02:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Bullshit. All IT is about is utilizing resources. its about knowing what to google, when the average user doesn't. If the problem's solution cannot be found then you utilize other resources, meaning those who know more. Or you reimage. Not that difficult, so quit being so condescending towards the junior IT. It makes you sound like an elitist neckbeard douche.
budlightguy ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:37:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ahem. It's about knowing what to google, how to sift through a ton of irrelevant or only partially relevant info and figure out which info is what applies to this individual circumstance, and then apply said info. It's also about being able to learn from these experiences so you 1 - don't need to google it in the future and retain the info if it's likely to be a problem you'll run into again, and 2 - so you get better at finding solutions.
Nevermind being able to actually identify the problem, not just the symptoms which can sometimes be terrifically misleading, in the first place.
All IT is about utilizing resources. GOOD IT is about becoming the resource that others utilize.
Schwifty_5 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:45:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you! You put that way more eloquently than I could. If you're a senior tech, you should be a role model and teacher for the junior techs, not be condescending towards them. You deserve to be gilded.
Slaves2Darkness ยท -17 points ยท Posted at 02:09:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did I hit too close to home? Gotten fired a time or two because you are incompetent?
Schwifty_5 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:40:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Negative, u/Slaves2Darkness. Did the neckbeard comment come across as a personal attack? I was just saying what your condescension made you look like.
eno_one ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:03:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
u/Slaves2Darkness isn't wrong though. I still consider myself junior IT, but there are a lot of my peers who think that what they google or what they find in a book is the answer and the only correct answer. But when it isn't the answer they don't know what to do.
I remember this guy who complained about how the certification test was nothing like the questions or examples taught in the recommended book. He failed to understand the principle behind the examples and adapt his understanding. But that's why there are junior techs. They are still figuring things out. And the ones who can't adapt have to find something else that is more suitable to them.
So what I am saying is you are both right in your own way, so stop bitching at each other. Yes there are a lot of Junior IT people who cannot adapt. If they can't adapt then how can they utilize other resources which as you mentioned is what IT is all about? We can try to help others adapt but if they are unwilling or unable to let their preconceived notions go, its gonna be tough. You can't teach those who don't want to be taught, and its hard to learn if there is nothing/no one to learn from.
Schwifty_5 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:46:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You should read /u/budlightguy 's comment. He explains what I was trying to say in fewer words.
Sure, there may be some Junior IT people who are just there for the paycheck, but most people in my area actually want to be in IT. As such, they put in effort. Yes, you may have those few who would make better software developers than service techs because they're too booksmart or lack common sense, and I agree that in general there are some junior IT techs who are just lost causes and found themselves in the wrong field. But, that doesn't mean that you have to be condescending towards them and sound all elitist because you have the experience that they dont. And again, if you're junior IT, there's always an option to reimage. If you're junior IT and handling equipment that can't be fixed with a reimage or engaging a higher tier while you perform hands and eyes, then your HR failed the company when they filled your spot with someone inexperienced.
The way he sounded so definite about how a Junior tech would be lost without a google result to tell them what to do is just condescending.
I'm by no means saying all techs are competent, just that being a junior tech is indicative that they aren't 100% competent and that they need help.
doomgiver98 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:14:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah you're just wrong and living in the 90s.
Guywithacattattoo ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:59:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't give away our secrets.
brch2 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:17:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People who don't already know how to use Google to fix tech problems are not going to suddenly figure out how just because you tell them that's all you do.
__FilthyFingers__ ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:35:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In an ideal world we'd all be IT guys.
Sparcrypt ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:41:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eh, thereโs a lot more in the IT profession than level one helpdesk. For example my job I sometimes have to google two things!
But yeah I do wish people would learn to google basic troubleshooting steps, make my life easier. Then again, if people want to pay my rates to reboot things then theyโre most welcome.
blamb211 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:57:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd be out of a job if we were all IT guys, but my life would also be SO much less stressful in that case.
siht-fo-etisoppo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:32:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
and when you're all IT guys evil laugh none of you will be.
blamb211 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:57:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm, am IT guy with strong Google-fu.
sharfpang ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:04:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You also need a decent knowledge on basic network repair. No net = no Google.
lifetimeofnot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:30:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anyone can Google something, the expertise is knowing what to Google and how to follow instructions. It seems simple but you would be amazed at the number of people in my office who cant follow basic instructions when it comes to doing something simple on a PC.
imdungrowinup ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:56:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You wish they googled. In my workplace they will reimage the laptop and you can go back crying about lost work.
Zakaru99 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:34:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why would they not backup your data before reimaging?
imdungrowinup ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:45:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because who the fuck knows.
speaklastthinkfirst ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:19:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ha, as an IT guy I somewhat agree here. Problem is when you google things and the answer is right there for you. Except you have absolutely no fucking idea how to implement or test it. Then whatcha gonna do? Of course we arenโt talking about desktop and laptop/printer issues here. Lmao. Unless youโre immersed in the software and server configuration everyday you arenโt googling your way out of these issues.
rblue ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:53:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We usually make fun of the users who are too lazy to attempt any research of their own. We google the easy stuff that the complainer should have done prior to calling.
Snortallthethings ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:53:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's what they tell you to do because 95% of the time it fixes the issue for minimal effort.
Schwifty_5 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:14:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The more a user escalates a ticket, the more likely it is to be a simple fix like they need a reboot or their network cable is plugged into the wrong port on their IP phone.
justincase_2008 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:43:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or they have something sitting on top of their keyboard holding down the Esc key...
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:19:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Rammite ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:14:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or when they don't know how to turn it off. Physically closing a laptop confuses the ever-living shit out of people.
justincase_2008 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:44:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a lady ask me how do i turn it back on then? The power button on the front? Didn't you just tell me you turn your pc off for the weekend that rebooting wouldn't help since you don't let the PC stay on for to long????
eno_one ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:11:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes it takes multiple power cycles to fix something like printers. Fuck printers. Sometimes restarting it once works. Other times you got to pleasure it, fingering the power button until it wakes up. Some times you have to make an animal sacrifice to make the damn things work.
ButtButters ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:06:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh you did restart it? Weird.. our management software still shows it was last rebooted a millennia ago.
WUSM ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:18:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
to be fair, 60% of the time, it works all the time
mustardseedyellow ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:21:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trust me, my father works in IT. Most people, especially the 55+ crowd, donโt know basic troubleshooting so he has to start from the very beginning. Most IT people know what theyโre doing or can at least figure out how to fix the problem, but some just suck at explaining.
eddyathome ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:49:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes but if 80% of the time it works, then yes I'm telling you to reboot.
Muff_420 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:41:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
its called troubleshooting, you need a process of elimination to determine the source of the issue, rebooting the system is everyones first step.
Rammite ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:12:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I guarantee you, your IT office only knows how to google stuff. And it works.
You might be thinking "But, I can google stuff too!"
Yes, it's quite easy to find useful answers to fix computer problems. And yet, there are tons of people that fuck it up.
Friend of mine is part of a 10-person IT group for a company of 2,000. She regularly gets tickets where the computer doesn't work, and it's because someone unplugged the monitor.
When you're faced with people like this, being able to spout "turn it off and on again" is still worlds smarter.
ancilot1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:38:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I understand. Iโve helped people like that myself. Itโs just that back at my school, the IT there literally knew nothing else. If they couldnโt hard reset it, theyโd try to force wipe the whole device. I hated that.
GokuMoto ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:57:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well that and Adobe reader
EntSoldier ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:46:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Work in IT, know a bit more than that thankfully, but you'd be surprised by how many people don't understand how to turn things off and on again.
intheskywithlucy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:24:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The requirements for IT are 1. Know to tell people to turn it off and then on again. 2. Use google efficiently.
Bingeljell ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:54:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"oh looks like we'll have to format..." That's the other thing.
0Nyxee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shit you caught me
EMAW2008 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And google the error.
MaoZeNong ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:09:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I worked in Thailand for a while, and the computers they provided us with were ancient pieces of shit. The IT guy was a fat useless guy whose only English word was "leesatat", a broken-ass Thaiglish variation of restart. He'd say that, then disappear while the computer restarted. It rarely fixed the computer issue, but did solve the problems, according to Thai culture, by allowing him a minute or two so he could get out and pretend the problem didn't exist.
graebot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:02:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
95% percent of the time, it works every time!
Rodo20 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:03:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No thats whats People is getting hired at support. Imagine you having super good education in the it world. Would you want to work at phone support or chat support and have minimum wage?. When you can have a really good job somewhere else.
Lelentos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:19:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't forget about installing adobe reader.
solreaper ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:54:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its a valid troubleshooting step. If the problem happen more than three times in a week then it's time for triage and root cause analysis.
Finding a root cause for something that happens once and is fixed by a Raytheon reset is a waste of time (and therefore money for the business).
I've had to do it on Navy equipment that had embedded computers as well and I still do it now in IT.
atle95 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:43:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worked in an IT office, this is frequently all the customer knows how to do as well
Gl33m ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:20:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My IT guy can also install Adobe Reader and the Google Ultron. He's a top notch kid.
rlc327 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:44:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs how I got ransomware on my work computer this morning.
imdungrowinup ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:55:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work in a software company. If something goes wrong with our laptops the IT department will reimage it straight away. They doesnโt know shit and they wonโt give us admin privileges to try. We have all learnt to back up our data properly as a result. But any open document at that time is just gone.
r192g255b51 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:26:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To be fair giving people admin privileges (even developers) is just bad practice. Then again I'd give developers two machines so that they have one proper pc in the domain for documents and email and then another one where they can test with admin privileges and that can be quickly reinstalled in case something breaks
noelle549 ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:47:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, naps! Same thing! Sad? Try turning it off and back on. Headache? Try turning it off and back on. Need to make a big decision? Try turning it off and back on.
Enovara ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:17:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This! Sometimes I'm just having a bad day and need to turn it off and back on. 90% of the time I feel better after a nap.
frost_knight ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:39:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Napping always makes me feel worse. :(
If I end up taking a nap during the day, without fail I feel sluggish and foggy the entire rest of the day. Perhaps I'm napping wrong.
Anrikay ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:19:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're probably tired because of either dehydration or low blood sugar!
Drink a couple glasses of water and eat a small snack (apple with peanut butter or an orange with a handful of almonds are my go-tos). If that doesn't help, try a short walk. Sometimes just getting your blood pumping a little bit will wake you up.
Your body's response to not having needs met is pretty much always...sleep. Dehydrated? Sleep. Hungry? Sleep. Haven't moved around enough? Sleep. Need sleep? Sleep.
Since I don't like to spend all day sleeping, I knock out the other three before resorting to a nap. At the very least, I wake up having eaten, hydrated, and walked, and it usually means I wake up rested rather than groggy.
toobadsooosad ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:01:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dehydrated? Believe it or not, sleep. Overhydrated, also sleep. We have the best hydrated people in the world because of sleep.
BossHoggsWadeBoggs1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:37:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Viva Chavez!
patton3 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 01:38:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"I press the power button on the computer screen every night since forever"
Last shut down: 169 days ago
PM_ME_YOUR_LUKEWARM ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:31:08 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My task manager runtime clock doesn't reset until I do a full restart, despite powering down everyday.
confused-duck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:27:56 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
because the system is hibernating
DV_Jellyfish ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:40:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did this with a Chevy 5500 today 3 times. Solenoid in trans sticks, if not babied, and doesn't shift. Motor revs over 3k and ecu interprets it as an over-rev and puts it into low power mode. Vehicle now has a max speed of 55mph and won't rev over 1500rpm. Shut off the vehicle for 5 mins, any less won't work. Solenoid resets and code is cleared from ecu. Really damn annoying.
PM_ME_YOUR_LUKEWARM ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:32:01 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I heard with some cars you not only gotta shut them down but also disconnect the battery and touch metal contacts to discharge everything.
kidbeer ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:01:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And humans. Try taking a nap and then go back to whatever you were doing.
mr_chanderson ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:19:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And humans ahaha... Oh naps. Right. Naps.
scaredallthetime ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:53:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Any time I have to put in a help desk with IT, regardless of what I'm asking for help with, the last sentence is always "I already tried turning it on and off again." I know IT has to get soooo many stupid requests, but I genuinely try to figure something out before I ask for help. It's always annoying when I get a snippy "turn it on and off and update me" :(
Schwifty_5 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:20:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look, we understand that you have probably tried turning it off and on or other troubleshooting steps. We just have a sequence that we have to do things. You never know exactly how knowledgeable a user is and they may think closing the lid on their laptop is turning it off. It may come off as condescending, but even we make the same mistakes sometimes and it just helps to go through troubleshooting from bottom up, meaning physical connections and buttons, etc.
PM_ME_YOUR_LUKEWARM ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:32:57 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish there was a tech-competency rating that users could announce to technicians before a convo.
DoctorSumter2You ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Including some cars.
For Example, my moon-roof kept stalling in my Nissan Rogue. Turned the car off then on maybe 15 mins later... moon roof has been fine since then.
Fenrir101 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works for organics too in some cases, a defibrillator is a machine for turning a heart off and back on again.
benigntugboat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:01:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It works on things with engines too.
XBacklash ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We do this with commercial airplanes.
TheFirebeard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:17:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work in a lab and someone was struggling with a mechanical pump and asked me for help and I told them to turn it off and turn it back on. They were mad at me at first, but about 10min later they apologized and said it worked after they turned it off and on again and it worked.
Catfisher4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:19:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There should be a easier way to say this. Like, โHave you tried the _______ method?โ
Rammite ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:14:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TOTO method.
Turn Off, Turn On
Source: I made it up just now.
drrhythm2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It applies to my $8 million airplane (I don't own it, just fly it). Just yesterday the #1 Nav radio broke in flight. Landed, turned it off, turned it back on, and it has been fine ever since. There is even a joke that the name of the manufacturer is an acronym for needing to reset it all the time.
ablindelephant ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:26:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This also applies to human beings.... feel shitty or like the world is awful... turn yourself off and back on, either with a nap or a proper sleep.
I spend all day working with computers. When everything starts sucking I try to remember this and make sure to reboot myself regularly.
drdookie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:32:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
$20 million plane. Turn it off, turn it on. 90% of the time it works all the time.
areyaarya ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:33:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works with brains too. Power naps are critical when you can't get your mind right.
Threeedaaawwwg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:37:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But the problem is that I can't turn my wife on!
LawnTurd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:40:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've even used this method to fix my car, had a check engine light that never came back after I turned my car off but now it makes me nervous sometimes lmao
PhoenixGamer36 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:41:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One time someone in a discord server posted a picture of a computer they used to use. They said that they had tried to fix it to no avail. It was also physically roughed up. I couldnโt resist.
I asked them โHave you tried turning it off and then on again?โ
There was a series of sarcastic replies that followed.
SpaceS4t4n ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:45:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And people lol who doesn't function better after a nap?
a_freezerburn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:46:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It can also apply to people.
pantsmessiah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:54:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've literally had to "reboot" my car at a red light because the Bluetooth/stereo will randomly die on me.
r6raff ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:55:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously lol, my wife and kids are constantly asking for help with an assortment is electronics and devices, I always ask if they tried a reboot (spoiler alert, they never do) so I reboot and walk away, 99% of the time that's all it takes.
vault114 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:56:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or, my personal alternate brand, "have you tried kicking/hitting it", which has actually worked for me in the past.
Alex-Melnik1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:56:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just need to... turn off my Dora watch and... turn it back on...
KILLALLEXTREMISTS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:04:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also applies to my girlfriend.
AutumnWind02 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It also applies to humans. โGo to sleep and youโll feel better in the morning.โ
Legs11 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:12:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm, that advice applies all the way up to $250 million military aircraft. I end up doing it more than you would imagine.
navyp3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:12:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
LGB &T
zebozebo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I administrate Salesforce for my company and some people follow this too closely. "The report didn't show all the opportunities so I restarted my computer." Ok, maybe we ought to check the report filters first next time.
Blue_Mando ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:21:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even modern stoves/ovens can benefit from this! Went to my in-laws once, their oven had stopped working though the stove was fine, I pulled it out and unplugged it for 30 seconds or so and plugged it back in and all was good.
neewom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm the resident in-office nerd, and often act as the hands for the guys that do the bulk of our actual technical work. I'm not a computer idiot, but these guys put me to shame. Mostly, I'm the person that deals with the day-to-day stuff that crops up like "my [remote desktop app] is doing weird things" and "my internet's not working" issues (or replace a fan in one of the enterprise routers, then call the actual nerd who then walks me through what I've already done and listen patiently because I know he has to do that with everyone, and why). It's scary how many of them think that I'm the genius when all I do is basically turn shit on and off, maybe reset a setting. I'm sure our actually-credentialed nerds think the same about me.
tyranicalteabagger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:24:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it has an OS, it has a memory leak or other error in the software.
hereforcat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:26:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This works with humans, too. Itโs amazing what a short power down can do.
nborders ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:27:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sadly this worked on my iPhone last week. I thought those days were over in this age.
chicky-nugnug ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:28:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And with sewing machines, unthread and rethread. Almost always fixes the problem
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:28:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That was the advice the lab gave me for the very expensive microscope. And it was the solution 100% of the time.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:29:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It even works on skyscrapers.
Inigomntoya ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:31:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to have a 1993 4Runner. The cruise control would just stop working on road trips. So I would push in the clutch, completely shutoff the engine, start it back up, release the clutch, and the cruise would work fine.
_lablover_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:32:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work on one of the detectors at CERN. We have the largest manmade detector (basically a MASSIVE camera) ever made with over a dozen subsystems that have to work together to run. It's essentially the most complicated and I would say sophisticated electronic device humans have made. When something doesn't work or stops working, our first response is still to turn off that system and turn it back on. 90%+ of the time that fixes it.
Atomsdebomb ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:33:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or unplug it, and plug it back it in. So many times something wasn't working, and the plug was just loose.
Msbok ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:33:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try turning them off and back on again.
Rubywulf2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:36:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works for self checking on hurt feelings for me. If I sleepon it, and I am not still upset then I was just tired and needed a nap. Saves so many arguements
brissie_gurl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:37:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I literally have a t shirt with that printed on it.
dafckingman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:40:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And the look on their face when your seemingly stupid advice worked like a charm.
The uncomfortable thank you that they give is less than satisfying. At least they know to not question your advice next time
willwirth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then they don't like you when you laugh at them for being wrong... Feels bad man.
hereappleapple ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:47:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can anyone ELI5 why this works?
1Dunya ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:49:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs my advice to all my friends and family when Iโm asked for tech help, works 99% of the time.
RedditTab ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It works for toddlers too
cofeeholik ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
tossters...
fillinthe___ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:58:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And the human body, for some reason.
emperorpollux ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:08:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They're probably fans of The IT Crowd
SirRogers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think I've finally got my mom trained to do that first before asking me to fix it.
Thepsycoman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:18:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the new multi million dollar lab I am in. We were having trouble with this new machine that was meant to streamline an experiment and just no one could get it working. Everyone looked at me like I was insane when I suggested turning it off and on again... Guess what, it worked.
BananaNutJob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fixed a TV once by unplugging it and plugging it back in. Made me so mad, I honestly didn't think it would work.
Apparently anything with firmware might need this at some point. I'd bitch about TVs with firmware but it makes me feel old.
Br0metheus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:37:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Memory leaks are a thing.
did-it-for-the-KARMA ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:38:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom worked tech support and she said that most of the time it isnt plugged in, and people are really embarrassed when shes right about it
VoTBaC ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even applies to automobiles.
brisk0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:45:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had a games console power supply cable / converter crash before and require a "reboot" (replug)
Uberzwerg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:49:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It even used to work with 90% of the minor physical problems in the youth (before 30ish).
Headache? sleep it away.
Leg hurts? sleep it away.
Becomes less efficient with age though.
jms07e ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:49:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unplug them as well. Most devices donโt turn off completely when you power them down i.e. smart tvโs.
Skeegle04 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's a Pepsi machine that is a twisted mother fucker outside my lab. When I showed my lab mate that it works perfectly after unplugging/replugging, she simply couldn't believe it, until I told her it was just an innocent computer.
ImGCS3fromETOH ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:35:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I even do it with people sometimes if they break down.
RedBomberSupra ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:14:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The equipment I run at work was mostly a prototype. Cost something crazy like 5-6 million. Something goes wrong we can't figure out pretty quick? Flip the big power switch, leave it off about 10 minutes, kick it back on and 90% of the time it's resolved itself. Blows my mind that with something that big and expensive that our go to fix is the ol "cycle the power".
squigs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:20:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A friend of mine found this worked for a sewing machine. Given that the electronics in it consisted of a motor and a foot pedal, there's no way this should work but it did.
Dilatorix ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:25:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does not seem the work as well with women though.
Pardonme23 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:46:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The best way to think about it is that if an orchestra is off its easier to start the whole thing over again than for the instruments that are behind to try and catch up to the other instruments as the piece is being played.
jpatil1982 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:47:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True story : my laptop wouldn't boot for some reason. I called up the tech support at my office to raise a IT ticket. The guy asked me this exactly, "have you tried restarting your laptop"
I can't even...
Cravatitude ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:08:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
and even Jesus last week according to the western church, this week according to east orthodox
ruse7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:40:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do they laugh at you
Camboo91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:40:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to work in 1st line tech support so you can imagine how often I had to say that, I never got many approving responses when I'd say it, and I'd have to remind them that its a clichรฉ for a reason. Then the problem was resolved 90% of the time.
Some computers I seen with run times of over 6 months, and you "turn it off every night", good one. We know you don't.
RamblingLogbook ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:48:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not gonna lie, this works on airplanes too. I've had to shut everything off because a damn radio was acting up. Magically works after reboot.
coolreg214 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:59:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Literally did this with my router 1hr ago. The second time I've had to in 5 years.
AtheistMessiah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:01:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This hides systematic issues. Correcting the root cause is more important long-term.
barsoap ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:27:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Suggest to reinitialise the primary power coupling, then.
rblue ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:51:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I fixed a transmission by doing this. It was stuck in second gear. No issues for the rest of the ownership.
Jake63 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:33:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
only if it doesn't have batch / background processes that aren't restartable - a PC, perhaps, but a server that does long batch jobs - NO, Never, until you check that all jobs are finished.
erm4gundr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:49:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh this applies to your brain fam. Sometimes you just need a reboot, you've been going too long and your mental RAM is cluttered and your PC is running slow but you don't know why. Just turn it off and back on again.
Doorknob11 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:55:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The amount of times Iโve fixed my computer doing something funky by just restarting it, is really high.
deadstarsunburn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:00:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, unplugging/taking battery out and holding down the power button for 10 second to drain the capacitors/residual electric is the advanced version of this if things are still acting wonky :) That one has earned me some really rotten responses at work but they go real quiet when it works.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:36:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've rebooted my refrigerator to kick start the ice maker! It worked
hansnicolaim ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:21:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My teacher had a long talk with us today about why huge multi-million dollar companies use PLCs (Programmable Logic Controllers) instead of computers, and that is the very reason. Computers hang up and may lock the system up, while PLCs are simple, cheap, and stable.
Riresurmort ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:43:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol even people
NeededANewName ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:08:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This applies to people too. Stuck on something you canโt solve? Walk away for a bit. Having a strained relationship at home or work? Some time away can bring new perspective and opportunity to improve.
Bamith ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:14:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean this technically doesn't fix the "problem" it just resets the situation, if you do the exact same thing again where all the 0 and 1s align, you'll probably get the same outcome.
Though most situations that is fairly unlikely, unless whatever it is is just poorly coded and optimized making it more unpredictable.
watdafug ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:27:45 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Applies to some people too ;-)
neatbuilding ยท 1112 points ยท Posted at 00:18:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear. Deleted System32.
Apprehensive_Focus ยท 1803 points ยท Posted at 01:44:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Who needs 32 systems anyway
H0tSquid ยท 64 points ยท Posted at 02:14:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Windows. Windows needs 32 systems.
Edit: I guess I exceeded the believable limit for sarcasm.
Opset ยท 66 points ยท Posted at 02:24:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My Windows is 64-bit, though. I've got system64. Its twice as good.
Heckin_Gecker ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 02:35:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mine's only 32. Do I have to download another one to get 64?
mdntfox ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 02:57:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You need a Nintendo for 64.
Heckin_Gecker ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:28:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aw heck that's so complicated. Where could I possibly find a Nintendo
WhackTheSquirbos ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:59:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Let alone 64 of them!
vtx3000 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:06:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is getting out of hand! Now there's 64 of them!
plasticarmyman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:53:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's better than 360 Xboxes though
qweasdqwas ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:39:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You need to download another 32 copies of windows
Max_TwoSteppen ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:38:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just make a copy of the one you have, no need to involve the internet in all of this!
0Nyxee ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:21:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes and you can also download more RAM for improved speeds!
theWhoHa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:07:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can't just download a Windows.
PM_ME_YOUR_NACHOS ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:34:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your system so wow
siht-fo-etisoppo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:37:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
SysWHOLLLYSHIT64
DaveTheDalek ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:47:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
4,294,967,296 times better.
LarryTehLoon ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:51:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/linuxmasterrace lol
frostbyte650 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:44:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/dualbootforboth
felixworks ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:54:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Who needs d systems anyway?
[deleted] ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 04:38:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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DatGunBoi ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:33:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/woooosh (to you)
Canine8_YT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:40:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Add me in the screenshot and replace my url with a Minecraft wolf!
DatGunBoi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:39:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://www.reddit.com/r/woooosh/comments/bj37mn/my_first_post_so_sorry_for_bad_editing/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share done
Canine8_YT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:52:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks, upvoted :)
Skar-Lath ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:37:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There aren't actually 32 of them, they just named it that to confuse the Soviets.
BlancoPeligro ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:40:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man lately the soviets confuse us
Ardub23 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:51:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can make your computer run more efficiently by renaming it to System1. This lets it bypass the 31 checks that are still present as a carryover from when they were reserved for floppy disk drives.
_Funwingz_ ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:51:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, obviously deleting system 32 will make your compute run faster
Apprehensive_Focus ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:53:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Of course, it would be so much lighter without that extra system
_Funwingz_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:54:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Might as well give you computer viruses aswell, itโll help its immune system.
Apprehensive_Focus ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:57:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll take it to one of those Measles parties I'm hearing about.
_Funwingz_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:57:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
coughs in general direction
9212017 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll just download some ram
_Funwingz_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:37:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Random Access Measles
fizzguy47 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:09:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I deleted the first 31, and nothing bad happened so far
melperz ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:18:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I put all my porn in System32 folder, in my mac
Zerotan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:19:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...when 31 will do.
siht-fo-etisoppo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:37:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I got 32 systems and they all bitches
eweboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:19:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The night king
Apprehensive_Focus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:32:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well that's just begging for a spoiler comment there.
eweboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:04:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I guess?
doublehyphen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:23:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, everything is 64 bits these days.
dylanatsea ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:56:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
31 systems ought to be enough for anybody.
intheskywithlucy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:25:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why the fuck would they make it deletable?
raptor102888 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:41:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's like asking, "Why would they make a car crashable?" It's your computer; you can do what you want with it, including following bad advice.
Madmaxisgod ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:10:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm pretty sure you would need delete capabilities for update purposes. I may be wrong, but I feel like that would be the main reason to keep system32 deletable
nlfo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:26:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Windows is in the recycling bin. Would you like to delete all items in the recycling bin?
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:53:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh boy back when we got the family computer for the very first time, I wanted to clean our hard drive and saw this unfamiliar system32 folder with so many weird files I've never seen before so I just dragged it to the trashcan.
Yup. Had to reinstall.
Ashdown-2728 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:53:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear: Penis stuck in Systems 32
VigilantMike ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:57:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best thing is someone actually fell for that. They made fun of him but I donโt blame him, I wouldnโt even know what system 32 is if it wasnโt for the joke.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:19:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Windows is 64bit these days anyway, don't need 32
/jk
OGC- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:58:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
rm -rf /
Cabbage_Vendor ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 02:27:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You see, that's actually not a problem in modern systems. Windows 7 and up are 64bit machines, so you'd just be deleting hold-over data from the previous build.
Rocknrollmonkeys ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 01:51:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There can be hundreds of services running in the background that are responsible for endless functions on your computer, phone, smart TV. In a lot of these circumstances it may be that one of these services is failing and needs a restart. 2 options, check through hundreds of services restarting each one until you find the culprit, or turn your device off and on again which starts all services cleanly, eliminating the problem.
Turning a device โoff and on againโ is actually the most efficient and effective routine in many scenarios for this reason.
Anrikay ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:22:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's why I always restart daily. Phone, laptop, and PC. Prevents obnoxious slowdowns from some program or other that's hogging your RAM.
el_seano ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:05:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, it's about re-initializing state. If you reboot any electronic system, it'll power on and run through a pre-determined series of instructions to arrive at a "okay, I'm ready to go" state. Or it won't, which is fantastically easier to troubleshoot than whatever fuckery you were getting up to to get it to the point where you're calling somebody for assistance.
professorhazard ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:45:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the first time I have heard the rationale for rebooting explained in such a way that it made sense to me. Every other time it's something obtuse and I'm like "buildup of crystallized internet in the router, got it"
daedrin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:32:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, most issues that are fixed by restarting tend to have to do with a broken cache somewhere. Easiest way to restart 100 daemons and clean every cache? Just reboot.
fataldarkness ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:34:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What I tell my users is I could probably fix the issue without a restart but it will take the both of us at least another 30-60 mins which wastes everyone's time.
superking75 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:29:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People always get so offended when I say to try it first... Yet it works over half the time.
Lurkerking211 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:42:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me: โHave you rebooted yet?โ
User: โI already rebooted it.โ
Me: *reboots it anyway.
User: โI donโt know what you did but it works now.โ
Me: ยฏ\_(ใ)_/ยฏ
_Simulon_ ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:55:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itยดs always like that. Just tell them itยดs magic IT-powers and after you hang up or walk away you can laugh about it with your colleagues
Robbie-R ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 01:45:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop giving away the I.T. departments secrets. They get paid very well to turn shit off and on.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:14:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please, no matter how many times you spell this out to people, they still wont do it and come crawling when the next problem comes about.
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A_Smol_Toaster ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 23:25:55 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works best on humans!
tamalthor ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:52:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well it is the actual treatment for certain heart arrhythmias like SVT, V-tach or V-Vfib lol.
passwordsarehard_3 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:59:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did it to my mother in law and designed this shirt for her. She didnโt understand why it was so funny to me. https://i.imgur.com/3COsfNv.jpg
lars1216 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:50:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is HILARIOUS! If she didn't laugh at that she doesn't deserve you.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:58:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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rj4001 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:30:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turning yourself off is easy. Turning back on again is a bit more complicated. Apparently there's this one guy that figured it out a while back and now he's got like a bunch of churches named after him or some shit.
Hammy5910 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:00:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait, people think that's useless? Thats just common sense mi as far as I'm concerned
Circa923 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:36:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being in IT people often think your less smart because you use this. This is the optimal answer and it is because... all of the processes of software that launch from scratch upon a restart is the most efficent solution to one off problems.
Tik3lness ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:40:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I put my oven on the self clean cycle and the oven door locked... permanently. I tried everything, looked up old Kenmore ovens in forums, texted my landlady, even debated taking apart the door. I turned it back on clean and pressed a button, turned it off clean then CLICK I never thought it would apply to 1970 ovens
heatinupinaz ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:06:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If this doesnโt work, thereโs a high likelihood itโs an ID10T error.
married4love ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:46:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Back in my day we called them pebkac errors ๐
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:12:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Brother, I've had to explain pebkac to many people working in IT.
If I told you the number of people who didn't pick up on it, after explaining it to them... you'd be sad.
TheFlashFrame ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:48:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I fix computers for a living and like 15-20% of computers that come in exhibit none of the issues that we're described because they were turned off before being brought in.
Lt_Col_Ingus ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:53:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't tell you how many times in an industrial setting this has fixed a lot of drive and plc issues.
jokerkat ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:04:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also "check to see if it's plugged in". Amazing how often the case is that it is not (frigging cats).
simon_C ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:21:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This isn't even a meme. I work in tech support, there's a REASON we tell people this. It has a 60% chance of working to solve the problem.
[deleted] ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 23:06:38 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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AbysmalVixen ยท 196 points ยท Posted at 23:08:06 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most electronic devices actually
[deleted] ยท 219 points ยท Posted at 23:13:40 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It releases the blocked chakras in their components. Trust me, I'm a crystal scientist
Victor_Zsasz ยท 54 points ยท Posted at 23:38:06 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get the professional certification, it's well worth it: https://warhammer40k.fandom.com/wiki/Tech-Priest
blamb211 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:59:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not even a 40k fan (the lore kinda scares me with how much there is, and I have a family to support, I can' afford to play), but if I could take a test or fill out a form or something to get a "Tech Priest" certificate or diploma or something, I would frame that shit so fast.
hydrowifehydrokids ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:58:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's actually to drain the electric juice and then let fresh juice flow in
mlhradio ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:32:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Um, I believe the technical scientific term is "midichlorians".
theghostofRBG ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:27:39 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a crystal purveyor, I can attest that even the finest crystals can cause a chakra backup.
Flipperziper ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 23:23:12 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or a naruto fan. Pretty sure a naruto fan but not judging.
AbysmalVixen ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 23:27:05 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chakras are more of a Hindu/buddha thing.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 23:30:58 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Naruto fans are not recommended for electronic cooling, as they impart a counter force onto the chakra microstructure.
Opheltes ยท 59 points ยท Posted at 00:45:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work on supercomputers professionally and you'd be shocked how often this advice works for me.
2nd_City ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:43:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the first troubleshooting step
SweetBearCub ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:47:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apollo guidance computers as well. That was their main failure mode - drop all low priority tasks, and if necessary, restart. Quite a sophisticated failsafe OS design for the time.
Polymarchos ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:43:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything with memory anyway. Doing the restart clears memory
fwubglubbel ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 00:19:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Girlfriend.
kentonk ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 01:26:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unfortunately it's not so easy to turn her on again once I've turned her off.
5_Star_Hero ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:48:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yikes
Xylitolisbadforyou ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 23:29:44 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And Mac, android, iOS etc
kloiberin_time ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:55:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've worked testing cell phones that were built with Java, android, and iOS. I've worked on wireline backbone equipment ranging from a fractionalized T1 circuit to SONET rings and DWDM, and I currently service automated key cutting kiosks with a Linux OS and lots of tiny little motors, switches, relays, and what have you.
Reset, reseat, replace or some variation is the gold standard on so much of this crap. Doesn't work? Turn it off and on again. That didn't work? Pull the battery, reseat the card, unplug the sensor and plug it back in again. Clean the component is also listed here, but it doesn't start with R so it's lumped into this R. Finally, if that doesn't work replace the component if possible.
If fixes so so much more than just a windows machine.
DnDYetti ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:58:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, his girlfriend.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:56:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Skyscraper.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:25:05 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:57:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We Aray We We Aray!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My girlfriend.
CaptSkunk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:53:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It works on just about all operating systems. I use MacOS, Linux and Windows and I canโt even begin to count how many times a reboot has helped fix things. Sometimes all your computer needs is a fresh start in the morning.
wiinintendontcare ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:45:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/linuxmasterrace
i_do_fucking_know ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:32:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This din't work on my grandad tho
55gure3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:33:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oof
nightsofdoom ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:24:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Literally did this just a few days ago with my CAR of all things. I was stopped at an intersection in my town and when I tried to go it just wouldnโt. After a moment of panicking I was able to get it into park and turned it off. Turned back on, boom, it was like nothing even happened.
When my dad and I looked under the hood, everything looked fine, so I have NO IDEA what happened to make it just not go like that, but Iโll be damned if turning it off then back on didnโt work like a charm.
mysticpawn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:22:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What kind of car do you have?
nightsofdoom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:41:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
2004 Pontiac Sunfire. I havenโt had any problems with it since, everything seems to be running and sounding fine ๐คท๐พโโ๏ธ I just hope it doesnโt take a shit, I just got new tires and brake pads like a month ago
MutleyRulz ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:25:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My manager at work put an emergency call out to have our walk in fridge fixed since it was about 10degrees over what itโs meant to be and wouldnโt go lower.
I asked if heโd tried turning it off and back on.
Call out cancelled.
usernametiger ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:10:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
read a story on reddit about an Amish guy who joined the navy and became an electronics tech.
If there was a problem with equipment most techs. say to turn it off and back on. This guy didn't know this and would come and trouble shoot the problem without trying to reset it 1st.
Turns out he became the ships best electrician because he would find the problem
fireshaper ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:17:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work for a software company and had a call from a customer who uses our software with his airplane. Now this is a legit airplane, not a model or RC plane. He says he's having some weird problems and I troubleshoot the best I can given the circumstances (no remote access, not familiar with the airplane systems at all) and his battery just died on the plane even though he has direct power.
So he tries powering down the airplane and starting it up again. And what do you know? Our software starts to play nice with his airplane after the "reboot".
Funniest instance of "have you tried turning it off and on again" I've ever had.
celticwhisper ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:59:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like a lightswitch? It's a cool little Mormon trick!
Marius_Nightfire ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:13:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear, Dick stuck in the monitor.
LateralusNYC ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:58:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a bartender. Whenever someone complains about their cocktail... This is what I tell them,
themodestman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:31:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to sleep, wake up.
ExLibrisMortis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:31:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The moment you realize that this doesn't only apply to machines and that naps/sleep is essentially the human version of this.
Sir_Shronk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you learn why it works, it actually makes a lot of sense
cvmn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:38:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I recently moved to tech support and knew of the old adage but wasnโt prepared for how often it really is just that simple. I donโt mind helping people but it does waste a lot of my time.
CarAlarmConversation ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:45:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also percussive maintenance
rW0HgFyxoJhYka ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:48:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It feels useless because most people dont understand shit about hardware/software and what happens on a reset.
Raticait ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:52:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This Also works with many adults and most toddlers
aRoseBy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:04:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, unplug the device after you've turned it off. Some components are still powered, even if it's turned off.
I had a router problem that wouldn't go away until I disconnected the power cord for a minute.
bjm5295 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:05:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work at an tiny accounting firm where Iโve become the pseudo-IT department. Since starting, I have realized how much this actually works.
twonightsonly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:11:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The reset button
Kcswang ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And also, unplug it, wait 30 seconds, plug it back in
CreepyEntrepreneur ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alternatively, clearing out your cache and cookies also does the trick.
Not-Snake ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
actually we go new trucks at work and it has spooky wiring/computer faults that if you disconnect the battery let it sit and then hook it back it if fixes it. thats fucked up
HeathenMama541 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:27:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sleeping is the human equivalent of this
thereareno_usernames ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:28:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This even worked on a propane grill for me a number of years back. Couldn't get a sizable flame... Turned it off and back on... Worked perfect
cXs808 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:29:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
slap the side of it and blow into any crevices
lstan6_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:30:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works well when my kiddo somehow brings up the keyboard on my phone screen and it wonโt go away.
Fryboy11 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:31:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
non volatile memory.
Surfinonluck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:32:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is it worrisome this works on aircraft equally well?
_no_one234 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:33:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yes, it clears cache and memory leaks
(I could give a really nerdy explanation, but yes it does help )
danyelviana ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:34:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's what she said...
kharmatika ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:34:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work IT, and we recently did a policy update for one of our clients that fucked with their settings pretty hard, until you rebooted. So for a couple days meow Iโve just answered half the questions with โhave you tried turning it off and back on again?โ
singlerainbow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:36:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to work at a satellite company. And the protocol for a lot of errors while in space is to power cycle the unit.
StewofPuppies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:40:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This was a South Park episode too where the world goes crazy when the global Internet router goes down. And one of the boys just pull the plug and put it back in.
poopjustpoopthatsall ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:42:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've taught my 5 year old thus when anything stops working. It really works and he's already qualified for level 1 IT
boredbugs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:43:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It applies to humans too .. "Sleep it off and you'll feel Better in the morning"
nizzy2k11 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:48:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
its always those pesky capacitors...
MrKrazybones ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im IT at my place of work, most people now try turning it off and on again before asking for help. That also can suck because if its an issue ive never delt with before Im like "fuck, they've done what I would have done, now I have to make it seem like i know what im doing"
SongbirdNews ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But is it plugged in?
Lotus-Bean ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, if turn off-turn back on doesn't work don't forget to try just re-installing it, if its a program.
underbrightskies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:55:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For a different viewpoint- to me this doesn't seem useless at all. I understand the reasoning behind doing it so to me it's totally logical.
BayesianProtoss ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:58:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look up the term "powercycling" This is literally what it means.
See example: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Power_cycling
holliisneat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:01:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was in the navy not too long ago, just finished my contract. I worked on two CIWS guns and theyโd always break. Before we started to troubleshoot anything, weโd just turn off and on the entire mount and system. 9/10 it would fix the issue.
Urvh_Uxahqkag ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:09:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So is water when washing plates
annemonroe95 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:11:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Including humans.
the_purple_flowerpot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly works for people too. If I'm upset or having a really hard time in the evening, rather than fret about it for hours I go to bed. Usually it looks better in the morning.
squirrel_in_recovery ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:16:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oilfield instrumentation tech. This is seriously a big part of what we do.
urbandesignerd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:16:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works on people too
Skeetdeedee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:16:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
NO.
Irrational anger intensifies
mr_chanderson ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:20:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't appreciate repeatedly being turned off and on again.
octagonathan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you tell people theyโre โrestartingโ it or, even better, โrebooting the systemsโ, you get more tech god points.
VerbalThermodynamics ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:25:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife struggled with the printer yesterday for like an hour.
She gives up and says โI canโt do it. Make it work. Please.โ
I walked in. Tried to print. No luck. Turned off the printer.
And turned it back on. Done!
woody29 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:27:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If that doesnโt work unplug the damn thing. Then plug it back in a couple of minutes later.
alphalegend91 ยท 8866 points ยท Posted at 01:27:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Its better to lose a second of your life than to lose your life in a second.
People on the road need to just slow down a little. Itโll save your life
Edit: Thank you for the silvers and gold kind strangers!
MyS0ul4AGoat ยท 2477 points ยท Posted at 01:58:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And stay off your goddamned phone!
alphalegend91 ยท 88 points ยท Posted at 02:10:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
SERIOUSLY
takingtacet ยท 52 points ยท Posted at 03:54:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It amazes me that literally every smartphone has voice control and Bluetooth, but dumbasses will still try to physically text or look something up.
โHey Siri, text my husbandโ โHey Siri, whatโs the weather likeโ โOk google, call momโ
Technology is wonderful. You donโt even need your hands or eyes to use it sometimes.
ST34MYN1CKS ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 04:11:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But all the tech in the cars themselves has caused drivers on the whole to get lazy. Adaptive cruise control, blind spot monitors, parking sensors, and back up cameras have caused drivers to rely on them too much.
Then they blame the tech for accidents.
There's a fine line between helpful features and features that make it easier to look away from the road
Just my 2ยข
Wormbo2 ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 04:18:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I personally find that I'm WAYYY more attentive in my old bunky work car, with no cruise, no aircon, no cameras. It requires me to actually drive the thing.
Then I get in a nice new Euro or Japanese flash mobile, and I'm distracted by adjusting the heated ball fondlers and eyebrow pluckers installed on that model.
YukarinVal ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 10:50:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm willing to compromise on the other things, but this is going too far.
takingtacet ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:15:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh I donโt mean all that fancy shitโI personally am amazed and in love with the fact that my car has Bluetooth and I can just yell at my phone to get it to do things. The car I had before this one had a cassette player, so.
DontforgetElk ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:10:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most accidents are attributable to human error. Complacency is a swine
Henry_B_Irate ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:44:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There have always been shitty inattentive drivers. The difference between now and then is a head-on collision isn't a 100% death sentence anymore.
ST34MYN1CKS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:28:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My point is the features make it easier to be less attentive, I'm in favor of some if them. But it's case-by-case
Henry_B_Irate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:32:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah it's not to the point of being able to set cruise control and take a nap (doesn't stop some people from trying though)
I was going to post a story about the old person who set cruise control and went in the back, but found a snopes link debunking it instead lol https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/cruise-uncontrol/
ShadowReaperT ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:15:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have front+rear sensors, reversing camera and regular cruise control.
In regards to the cruise control, I like it because I find by not worrying about my speed, I can remain more attentive of the road and my surroundings.
In regarding to my parking assistance, I still keep an eye out all around, but it makes me more confident in my choices and helps prevent any potential collisions (as rare as they may be).
Overall, I prefer the tech. It helps, and it may make me a bit lazy, but it's also better overall. There's shit drivers all around, so the more stuff to help them avoid collisions (especially when parking) the better imo
ST34MYN1CKS ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:32:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me too. Dad and sisters cars have backup sensors. I use them generally at the very end of my parallel park or a glance before pulling out of the driveway. Still trust the mirrors and window more.
It comes down to responsibility. These features are useful if you can be responsible, and a lot of people can. But it makes anyone who can't much more dangerous
ShadowReaperT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:50:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I disagree about that last part. If someone can't be bothered to listen to their sensors, check the camera etc. then chances are they're a lazy driver anyway who's risking themselves. The sensors might give them a prod if they can't be arsed checking their mirrors one time.
Not sure how it can make them more dangerous though.
ST34MYN1CKS ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:08:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It can make them more dangerous if the driver now only uses the camera or only checks the blind spot monitors. Instead of using the windows and actually checking their blindspots. Not that they can't help, but it can make certain drivers less safe
ShadowReaperT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:10:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fair enough. But I'd hazard a guess that anyone lazy enough to think the camera is enough probably wasn't properly checking their surroundings when reversing anyway.
the_hesitation ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:12:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My backup camera has made my experience nothing but better. I like not having to angle mirrors when parallel parking, and having a wide angle view behind me as I'm backing out of a busy parking lot is comforting.
Isoldael ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:41:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish I could use this, but Dutch Siri never understands anything. It's really frustrating. Instead, I just don't use my phone on the road at all, but it would be convenient to be able to use it sometimes.
(I'd turn Siri English if I could, but the language is forced to Dutch by my company as it's a work phone)
lowbrightness ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:45:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As far as I know Siri's language can be set independently from system. Isn't it allowed too?
ShadowReaperT ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 11:12:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use ok Google, and loved it for when I needed to text on the go.
Now they've updated it to be "more secure" and there's no voice match unlock option, which means you can no longer text from the lock screen, which means you can't use it to text while driving.
Thanks, Google. You've just made your mediocre "AI" worse. I understand there's risks with voice unlock, but I accept those risks. Why do you force this choice upon us, instead of before when you informed us there was a risk but let us to ahead ahead?..
LeRedditArmieX3 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:25:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think you light be able to work around this by enabling Bluetooth unlock with your car. Mine always stays unlocked I'm the car so I would imagine Google Assistant would work
ShadowReaperT ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:28:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That only works if you have a Bluetooth device in the car that it can connect to.
Fortunately, I do. But not everyone does.
I also have it set to not require unlocking in my home. That only works about 25% of the time.
LeRedditArmieX3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:02:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never knew about home unlocking. I wonder how that works (maybe certain wifi networks?).
Not everyone has car Bluetooth BUT an easy workaround would be to buy any cheap Bluetooth device and leave it plugged into your car. For example, you could leave an old Smartwatch in the car and enable Bluetooth unlocking for it.
ShadowReaperT ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:49:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's based on GPS. You set an area (or multiple areas) where you consider your phone "safe", and are happy for it to not require unlocking. However, so often do I find that it doesn't bloody work.
Still a stupid workaround. Seriously, just let their users know of the risks (as they already did) but then let us decide what we want to do. Don't nanny us.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:26:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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ShadowReaperT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:12:13 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It worked fine for me (most of the time) and all my friends that used it it worked for. Perhaps it was your accent?
tawnidilly69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:56:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Amen!
chewitupandleave ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 13:20:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was explained to me that both texting and driving a car both require executive capacity brain function. Your brain can only handle one executive function at a time. So it is physically impossible to be doing both at the same time.
Rnbaisdumb ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:49:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But i gotta play duel links
ethertrace ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 04:59:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You are driving a car, not a telephone booth.
MyS0ul4AGoat ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:59:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This should be a bumper sticker. Or a telephone booth sticker..
TimelordJace ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 06:40:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shout out to my family for calling me โthe grandma driverโ because I donโt touch my phone while Iโm driving. Ever.
For context: Iโm a 19 year old man and I donโt give a flying fuck what they call me because Iโve never been in an accident because of my phone, and most of them have.
tawnidilly69 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 07:57:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good for you!! ๐๐ป๐๐ป most all texts and calls can wait
eleven_good_reasons ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:18:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for saying this! A man does whatever the F he wants as long as it's reasonable. I've been using one of those grandma groceries carts for ages. Now that I have a baby girl to carry around, my back says "thank you for taking care of me me all these years".
gristmill ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:09:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have one of those carts because where I park my car is two buildings away from my apartment. That cart is tge best thing I ever bought! Keep on cartin', brother!
stranglingisfun ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:07:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some people i know calls me a "grandpa driver" because i like to have at least 1-2 cars distance with other vehicles. Well guys, i dont like dying.
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:42:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I swear people act like they have to pay $10 every time they hit the signal lights. WTF.
ShiningLightsx ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 08:50:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, THIS.
I just got home from work, and on the drive home the car in front of me came to a sudden stop at a set of green lights. I stopped suddenly too assuming something was happening instead of beeping or anything, and as we started going again changed lanes and drove past the car.
The bitch was on her fucking phone.
I was furious. She wasnโt doing the speed limit, kept suddenly stopping and was just an all round nuance.
All to be on the fucking phone like a dumbass.
thebumm ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:10:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's no such thing as texting and driving. They are separate activities that render the other impossible. When you're driving, drive and do not try to text!
El_Profesore ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:34:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I created a habit where I NEVER EVER look at my phone while crossing the street. Just keep my head up for those 10 seconds or so, look at the cars, maybe smile to a driver, then resume scrolling facebook.
So many times I saw people walk on the street looking at their phones like the world around didn't exist, and cars having to brake hard to not cause a collision. And there are LOTS of distracted or just plain crazy people. Blindly trusting that they won't kill me just to look at my phone for 5 seconds doesn't seem worth it.
ReliableSource ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 13:01:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't believe the amount of people I've seen on reddit saying things like "yeah but I only use my phone responsibly when I'm driving." I had someone tell me they only send very quick texts. What the fuck
MyS0ul4AGoat ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:15:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apparently getting mangled in a steel ball doesnโt sound too much of a risk.
ReliableSource ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:22:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
These people don't think they're taking a risk; it's some Dunning Kruger shit. Someone once replied to me with:
EckEck704 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 16:46:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm. A guy was on his phone, ran a red light and I hit him. I was going approximately 55-60mph. The last thing I remember was a little kids face peering out the rear drivers side window of the truck. I woke up in the middle of getting a cat scan. Everyone in the guys truck walked away from the accident. The cop that responded to the accident said he was sure I was dead. The engine of my work van was in the seat next to me. Turned out to be a lengthy court ordeal but worked out in my favor thanks to witnesses who saw the whole thing. I never could find the off duty nurse who kept me stable until the ambulance arrived. I have a dash cam now because too many damn people are too concerned with their phones instead of driving safely.
jrep_ ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:40:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cell no!
FrickinPunjabi ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 04:51:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not gonna lie, I definitely drive too fast. I do not drive like an asshole, though (there is a difference). I'm a 21 year old who is definitely on my phone way too much but won't touch it while I'm driving unless I'm at a red light and need to change the song.
It amazes me the amount of "responsible" adults are on their phones while driving a car. THEY'RE the ones driving like assholes and not paying attention to the road. Frustrating as hell.
MyS0ul4AGoat ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:54:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs no joke.. Over 1000 people died in vehicle related accidents in S.C.
It has nothing to do with you being a great driver. Itโs that you canโt pay attention to the rest of the dickheads hat populate the pavement, the asses littering the asphalt, or even the bitches on the blacktop.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:25:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Werner Herzog made a film about texting and driving some years ago. The same applies to making calls or doing anything else on your phone while driving. You do NOT want to be one of those people in the film.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_BqFkRwdFZ0
And here's a truck driver who killed a family on the highway while searching for tunes on his phone:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lsmeq7f9moM
I used to live in a city where thieves would steal things out of the passenger or back seat while the driver was still in the car (and would even smash a window to do so). The safest place for all things was in the trunk/boot of the car. It's a habit now to put my bag and phone in the trunk before I get behind the wheel.
hvnshlpr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:41:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I started honking at people that are on their phones while driving and waving like we know each other.
TheSeaOfThySoul ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:07:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And fucking signal at roundabouts!
I swear the entire fucking population of my city never signal to go right at this one specific roundabout & I've almost been t-boned a hundred times.
TimX24968B ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:54:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
only time you should be allowed to be on your phone is when the vehicle is stopped. and even then, you should be looking up constantly every couple seconds to see if you should be moving.
codetrasher ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:12:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've tried this and I have still managed to cause a small halt because I did't check fast enough if the car in front of me started moving. So I stopped using the phone altogether and it sits in the holder. If I have a really urgent message, I send a voice message while the phone is still in its holder.
I_Like_Turtles_- ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:53:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Um...no. The only time to be on your phone in the car is if you are parked, or you are a passenger.
TimX24968B ยท -11 points ยท Posted at 05:54:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
technically you can consider being stopped "parked"
also keep in mind i mentioned you should still be looking up every couple of seconds to see if you should be moving.
DrSecretan ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 07:25:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You canโt legally park right in front of a set of traffic lights.
TimX24968B ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 12:42:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you can if you move when the light turns green
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 11:04:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Um, no. The car is parked when it is in park. Hence why there's a special setting for it and all with a label that says PARK.
Justforthisreplyok ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:20:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It takes a minute to pull over, get the whole thing over with, and continue without having to worry about getting to the next lights to finish your text. I prefer this approach.
TimX24968B ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:23:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
but then you gotta pull over every 5 minutes to respond to some random fuck on reddit about how his opinion is wrong. (/s kinda)
MyS0ul4AGoat ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:35:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I drive, at least, 4 hours a day. Sometimes 2-3 hours at a time. If I can make it that long without looking at my phone. People can last 10 or so minutes.
The threat of death is lost upon convenience. Something that only takes you a few seconds canโt possibly cause death, right?
StumpNuts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:36:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use your turn light and don't make sudden lane changes.
gurutar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:02:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude yes!! had to drive an hour and a half yesterday to Ann Arbor and saw 2 accidents, one was 2 cars and the other was 3, roads were clear so what happened..? ๐ค cops still there and everything within half an hour! then 5 minutes after the last one someone in front of us had their tire fly off and roll away. I'll agree last guy not his fault but still crazy to see them all so close together!!!
raddits ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:12:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I usually just put on a movie because I'm too lazy to rotate the screen to answer the text and not to mention interrupt the movie.
Joe_Kinincha ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:21:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes!
Iโve had to pull someone out of an upside down car because they lost control when texting and driving. (I know you shouldnโt move people in these circumstances until the ambulance turns up but she was going batshit crazy thrashing about in the car and I reckoned she was better off out than in)
She had almost hit several people at a bus stop when she veered off the road.
And yet I notice that when I tap on the window of cars pulled up at a junction and do the little pinky-and-thumb out putting-a-phone-down mime to the driver , people rarely thank me.
Pandafiish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:21:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, I'm doing fi
MyS0ul4AGoat ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:43:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โAllegedly hit the fire hydrant.โ
_TRE45ON_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:17:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
easiet said thab don
hussco ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:13:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
but I'm at my desk :(
Whos_Sayin ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 11:08:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I genuinely believe that allowing phones on the road will save many more lives. Everyone already uses their phone but tries to hide it so it's in their lap. If they stopped trying to hide it and used it on to of the wheel, the road would be a lot more easily visible and easier to pay attention to both at the same time.
SevenFingerStud ยท -9 points ยท Posted at 07:18:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have work and traffic is slow
moipaslui ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:04:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is not an excuse for being a danger to yourself and other drivers.
madlegos3 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:09:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well turn on music or a podcast then.
Nemesis_Falcon ยท 79 points ยท Posted at 02:39:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In addition to this, if someone is going fast, just let them pass you, donโt be the asshole that drives aggressively to combat that because it makes everything worse
p_velocity ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 03:34:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
THANK YOU!!
Just because someone is driving fast does not mean that they are the bad driver in the situation. If the speed limit is 65 but traffic is going 80, you are not the good driver for going the speed limit in the fast lane.
As someone with several decades commuting experience in northern and southern California, I can tell you that a person going 10 miles slower than everyone else on the road is more dangerous than a person going 10 miles faster than everyone else. Hundreds of people have to make the decision and action to avoid the slow driver, but only one person has to avoid a collision if that person is going fast (assuming the fast person is not an idiot.)
Isoldael ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:49:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's all great, but with the speed cameras everywhere going 15 miles (~24km) per hour over the speed limit is still going to land you a nice โฌ241 fine here, not including administration costs.
I might not drive on the left, but I'm certainly not going to rake up fines just because people decide the speed limit isn't for them.
Jonsnowdontknowshit ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 06:40:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know how roadways are in other countries or even out in California where the person you responded to lives, but the places I've been, you absolutely must follow flow of traffic. Shooting down the interstate in Atlanta, GA and everyone is doing 75 mph+ in a 55 zone. 6 lanes and were doing 90 in the left. Suddenly we're all having to make some quick ass decisions because some dumbass is going 55 in the far left. Police seem to be pulling over only people trying to do the speed limit. Certain areas of America, the driving is super aggressive and the numbers on the signs mean absolutely nothing.
notyetcomitteds2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:48:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I joined a caravan of 8 vehicles once doing 90 in a 65. Cop was on the side of the road motioning us to slow down a bit, but never pulled anyone over. Speeding is one thing, but maintaining the flow of traffic is another. It was 430, so when people were started to get off work.
Keinichn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:12:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've driven through a speed trap going 10 over before and they didn't do anything. Likely because the flow of traffic on that road is 15 over.
Siniroth ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:38:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've always been taught to go with the flow of traffic, but living in Canada was also told (and this is typically true outside of an occasional asshole driver) that if you're going the limit and traffic catches up to you, you're under no obligation to speed up to accommodate them
p_velocity ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:59:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you are obligated to get out of the fast/passing lane though.
Siniroth ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:37:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've embraced my cruise control and will happily putter along at like 3-10 km/h (depending on base speed) over the limit, and that's mostly because even cops around here will tailgate you and pass pretty aggressively if you're doing exactly the limit. On the plus side lights around here are timed pretty well and nothing feels better than puttering along, having someone scream by you and stop at a red light, and I watch the light go green and not need to press the brake at all, just putter along, this time 'screaming' by him because he's at a dead stop
Slick_Grimes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:08:29 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We're not advocating that you speed, were advocating for anyone who isn't to stay out of the way.
gremlinguy ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:41:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was once told as a young driver who was speeding up to accommodate a tailgater: "They aren't driving your car. Drive how you need to. Fuck them." Thanks, Dave
electric_emu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:02:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a friend like this. He's the super aggressive where nothing is ever his fault. If he thinks someone is trying to 'angry pass' him he'll intentionally cut them off.
I will not get in the car with him if I can avoid it. Every time I say something he gets defensive and reminds me I've been in more accidents than him (I have been in two, neither of which were at all my fault and were caused by drivers like him).
FriendofTwo ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 03:42:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My great grandma said "Better to be FriendofTwo that's late than the late FriendofTwo."
MoonDoodlez ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:24:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish more people followed this advice. Driving is one of the most dangerous things a lot of people do in their day-to-day life and they donโt even realize it.
omg_im_so_random ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:30:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The speed is not really the root cause. It is the lack of awareness and focus while driving. You can easily drive fast on the German autobahns if you're just focused while doing it.
mixtwitch ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:16:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Agree, but the Autobahns are designed for fast driving (I'm Irish, but I did my Fรผhrerschein in Germany) with big, long, almost-straight bits (and limits at the junctions). Irish motorways can have bendier bends and I wouldn't feel as safe when driving over the speed limit on them.
So "obey the local speed limits" is probably a better one.
Although there are many 80 or 100kmh speed limits on tiny Irish country roads (one lane, grass in the middle, nothing but blind bends), so maybe "drive the road that's in front of you and ignore the tailgating jerks" would be better again.
Edit: autocorrect fail
canIbeMichael ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:15:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was going to say, speed isnt the problem. Its attention and being a defensive driver.
Lets just get everyone home.
stonner8848 ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 04:18:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Speed isn't the danger. Like previously said, Its the person not paying attention to the road and their surroundings. Its the driver who thinks it is their duty to put hamper that aggressive driver.
What I do while driving is, monitor not just in front of me, but all around me. And I then ok, what is the dumbest thing that driver can do and mentally prepare for that scenario. I've avoided a lot accidents (Orlando) just because of that thinking. And most crashes Ive witnessed have involved a slower driver.
Isoldael ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 05:55:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Speed isn't the danger, but you can't always account for everything, and if you do get into a crash speeding is going to make everything much worse (not only for you, but also the other party involved).
At one point last year, I was overtaking a lorry on the highway and going ~130kmph. From in front of the lorry, a car suddenly pops out going in my direction. I think the guy must have hit something on the other side of the lorry and out of my sight that spun him right around and caused him to go against traffic. I managed to swerve around him and avoid a head-on collision, but had I been going any faster, it would have been a terrible accident. Even if you're a great driver, you can't always predict everything.
stonner8848 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:36:06 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just go on YouTube, that type of accident happens at every speed with almost identical results.
stonner8848 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:38:10 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And also thats why you drive with an out, because you can't predict everything
KingCrazzzzy ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:38:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom is always scrolling through Facebook or texting clients when I'm in the car with her and that shit gives me MAJOR anxiety every time I notice. She says she'll stop but it's been going on for years...
soberdude ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:51:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously, I'm going to drive near the speed limit (maybe 5-10 over). Honking at me, flashing your highbeams, or tailgating me will not make me move faster. If there's a right lane, I'm there.
My boss speeds everywhere. We went from one job site to another about 20 miles away. He was there more than 5 minutes before me and yelled at me for it. 2 days later, between the same two job sites, I was there 2 hours before him. He's fine (so is the other driver), but he got into an accident while weaving in and out of lanes. Any time he mentions that I take longer than him now, I just say "Yup. Until I don't"
crazypoppycorn ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:38:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use a commuter train in my city. The number of people that cross the tracks when a train is approaching to try to get work is maddening!
I've stopped several people that are about to cross not realizing an express train flys through before the train they want. It's completely safe to cross and catch their train after.
goldeneag ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:15:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is so true. On my 1 hr trafficy commute, too often I see people driving aggressively and constantly changing lanes to find the fastest one. I just stay steady in my lane till my exit comes and very often I pass those aggressive drivers along the way.
alphalegend91 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:44:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I generally go 70-75 on the 65 mph speed limit highway where I live, but I NEVER do that kind of driving. Iโll chill in the left lane with the rest of the cars going my speed (which a ton do). If they happen to be going slower Iโll follow the flow. If theyโre going faster I move over.
goldeneag ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:12:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish I had that luxury everyday. My commute is mostly going 45mph on a 65mph 4 lane highway. People still try to swerve through the traffic which is absolutely pointless because they're risking a collision, slowing traffic further, and not going anywhere any faster.
Jonsnowdontknowshit ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:44:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I drive through traffic jams on the interstate a lot. And let me just say, I love driving fast. But you have to recognize that when everyone is jammed up, there's nothing you can do other than make the situation better/worse. I just stay in my lane, don't tailgate, and let cars merge on and off. I feel like if we just used our brakes less, traffic jams wouldn't be so bad.
Not_dM ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:32:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I got this advice once, phrased like this: it's better to be five minutes late than dead on time.
AX_ZonE ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:41:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My brother gave me his version of this advice once:
Better 10 minutes late than 10 years too early in hell
ArielRR ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:58:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wrong. I would love to lose my life in a second
themushroombeast ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:08:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad always says โbetter to be 10 minutes late in this life than 10 minutes early in the nextโ whenever weโd get frustrated when driving
Shrieka1987 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:08:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to be a speed demon teenager. Thankfully it never turned into a bad thing, now I go a bit under the speed limit and let most people pass while looking at sidestreets and such.
People complain about bad drivers all the time (they're obviously out there) but I avoid potentially dangerous situations by allowing myself extra distance for stopping abruptly, etc.
If someone is tailing me, I slow down just a bit more to get them off my ass. Defensive driving is something everyone should know and practice
_StingraySam_ ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:06:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Life spent driving like a grandma is not worth living.
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:22:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
life in general is not worth living
potatoslasher ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:56:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yes, better spent it in a wheelchair from age 25 because you were a goddom moron at the wheel
alphalegend91 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:08:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Until you yeet yourself over a bridge from going too fast
_StingraySam_ ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:12:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You mean yeet myself into eternal shiny and chrome.
AnOldMoth ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:27:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, depends on how fast.
I find that the speed limits in my area (PA) are weirdly low. Like, I've been all over, and for some reason they tell you to drive 20 mph even though it's a straight road with no stop signs, and plenty of room on both sides.
Meanwhile when I lived back in NC all the speed limits GENERALLY made sense, and that exact same road would have been a 40-50 limit.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:50:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have never heard of someone yeeting himself over a bridge because he went 20mph too fast
Frostodian ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:28:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And injuries hurt! Source - rode a motorbike for ten years and now have a false testicle. Funny now, sure. But when your sack is the size of your fist and dark purple it is not funny.
Symotix ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:46:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh lol I thought you meant the road of life and that genuinely helped confirm a difficult decision that I have to make
Throwaway021614 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:15:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This needs to be the top comment. Slow down people, stop tail gating and weaving, relax (no one is personally attacking you when they change lanes in front of you).
Magnus_Helgisson ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:25:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hell yeah, people on the road are so stupid. And I mean pedestrians. Drivers at least have read the traffic rules once in their life. I always wonder why people stand at the red traffic light then (if the light has a countdown) they just rush to cross the road when it's 10 seconds left until green light. What the fuck? Will 10 seconds save you more than your life?
Madcowe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:57:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work at a gas station, one time this woman with huge pink headphones drives in... She was the driver... With huge headphones.
I dont know about other countries however in pretty sure that should be unanimously illegal
athena94 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:14:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Watch out. Redditors get extremely defensive over their right to drive excessively over the speed limit for no good reason.
Personally, Iโve seen and heard of a lot of fatal speed related crashes and think itโs better to go a reasonable speed and stay safe. 5-10 over maybe if traffic is moving crazy fast for some reason, but thatโs IT.
a-r-c ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:10:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
driving is prob the most dangerous thing you'll ever do
so treat it that way
Krilati_Voin ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:30:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like to watch people cut me off, just to get to the off-ramp first.
Joke's on you, this ain't my exit!
Also I walk fast, so even if they get to their destination first, I can beat them to the door.
70 miles an hour, or 80 miles an hour- congrats; you could have just left about 5 minutes earlier.
okaymoose ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:41:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They also need to learn to stop at stop signs. Pedestrians have the right of way!!!
bamthejake ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:54:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dont need to arrive right frikkin now, i Just need to arrive
Insane_alex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:02:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its all about choosing the right time to have a little fun.
wishnana ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:38:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And use the goddamn blinkers.
B-Knight ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:43:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ha, jokes on you because I aim for a slow, hour long death!
celebral_x ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:14:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My driving teacher always said โThe most important thing is to arrive in one piece, so take your time, you will arrive, this one or two minutes wonโt make a differenceโ
hansonhols ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:34:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When i was an apprentice, an old timer told me,
"Better to be a bit late, than DEAD on time"
Chill people.
__fruitloop__ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:16:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And someone else's
ChaqPlexebo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:17:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wake up early so I can have a relaxed shit, shower, and drive to work. Everyone else can try to weave through traffic all they want, I'm gonna be cruising steady in the right lane drinking my coffee and listening to music. I'm not gonna get my panties all in a bunch before I even get to the Stress Creation Factory that is work.
SenorToasty2000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:28:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
IM A SPEED DEMON YEE HAAA!!!!!
TheYoungGriffin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:34:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone who walks everywhere he goes, I'm certain my death will be at the hands of some jackass on a cell phone.
LaPiscinaDeLaMuerte ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:56:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, I don't understand why people speed? There are a good amount of safe ways to get the adrenaline rush of driving fast. Most states have race tracks that allow for track days (and europe loves their race tracks so go to pretty much any track) where you can bring your own car and have good, safe and fast fun. Only thing is, you gotta pay a track fee and bring a helmet.
Hell, if you don't want to do that, find a go-kart racing track. Usually something like 30 bucks that includes track fee, helmet rental, and firesuit (if required). Basically, people, slow the fuck down when on the road. If you wanna go fast, do it safe and legally.
jcpianiste ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 18:03:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It has nothing to do with an "adrenaline rush" and everything to do with the fact that when I am in the car, I am going somewhere, and I want to get there as quickly as possible, because driving is super boring. We're all dying from the time we're born, and there are so many books to read, languages to learn, friends and family members to catch up with, foods to eat, places to visit, and hobbies to take up - I don't want to fritter away my limited time on this earth sitting uselessly in my vehicle trapped behind some unbearably slow twatwaffle!
LaPiscinaDeLaMuerte ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:01:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just gotta ask...did you for a /s on the end of this? Because if your reason to put other people in mortal danger is because you're too impatient, than you can fuck right off.
jcpianiste ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 19:48:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think a lot of people would disagree that going 5-10mph over the speed limit (which in most places is way lower than road studies suggest is actually necessary for safety) is "putting other people in mortal danger", my dude.
purplepeoplefirefly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:26:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For most of us...you're not really in that much of a hurry to get home.
bigmangarrett ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:32:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If anyone in Florida reads this. Please follow it. Iโve almost been hit so many times because of this happening
Guntir- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:51:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
shit you caught me, i'm willing to sacrifice my speed if others sacrifice their phones lmao
logatwork ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:57:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The nun at my (catholic) school used to say this!
buhzain ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:47:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt think of the road as a line you are waiting in for your turn. Helps change the perspective when people โcut you offโ
greg1998 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:29:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It makes me so mad when I see someone swerving and when I drive by theyโre on their phone, and what makes me even more mad is when people literally have their phone in their lap and theyโre looking straight down while driving
acornstu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:34:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Used to drive a truck. I went from one of the worlds most unsafe drivers to one of the worlds safest overnight. Once you understand how little control semis have in braking you learn to not be a dipshit reap quick.
Also, always have a car gun. There's a million holsters made to mount in you car and although i only drove for a year i was in 4 instances where i wished I'd had one. Fuck the DOT. Carry one.
Cire101 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:35:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think people overestimate their ability to drive at that fast of a speed and it's really unfortunate they think like that
Diecollector ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:07:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't do it cause I'm late, I do it cause it's fun
chevymonza ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:38:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe it's just me getting old, but it seems like people are more aggressive than ever while driving. Like they just NEED to cut in front after ignoring the giant flashing arrow that let them know a mile back that their lane was about to end. WTF.
hdillon96 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:50 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Better to be in late in this life then early for the next
AtotheCtotheG ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:34:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some dickhead driving a loud shiny chunk of Godโs disappointment in humanity tailgated me for at least half a mile on a 45mph road, passed me literally the instant the dotted line appeared (at least he was following half the law, right?), and then accelerated to speeds which suggested he was A) trying to keep a bomb from exploding, or B) in hot (albeit belated) pursuit of Doc Brown.
Had he been alone in the car, and we not in the suburbs, I would have wished for him to collide with something less inclined to move than he was. Unfortunately, there was someone in the passenger seat who I presume he was trying to impress, and we were, in fact, approaching a residential area. So I just hope he got/gets pulled over and tased, a lot.
Keinichn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:10:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Some people need to speed up as well. If everyone is going 70 and you're going 55, you're the hazard and any accident you get involved in is going to be worse than if you got in one going the speed of traffic.
Yea speeding sucks, but in some areas it's required to be safe, as unintuitive as it sounds. And my 70 in a 55 example is an every day occurrence on a stretch of highway near me. Speed limit is 55, but you'll get passed like you're not moving if you go anything slower than 65.
alphalegend91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:54:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
YES. Also when getting on a freeway it is crucial to speed up to freeway speeds. I canโt tell you how many dipshit tourists in my town donโt get this and we start merging on the freeway going 35/40 when itโs 65. I feel like I might die every time that happens
butIguessifyousayso ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:08:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Speeding doesn't kill people, bad drivers do.
Kfey93 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:00:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
However, people who are driving 10mph under the speed limit, staring out their side windows, smoking, on the phone, not signaling need to STAY OFF THE ROAD FOREVER BECAUSE YOU CAUSE MORE ACCIDENTS THAN PEOPLE WHO SLIGHTLY SPEED!
thundirbird ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 05:56:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to get in fatal accidents all the time, people would say "slow down" I was like pshhhhh whatever.
Then one day I tried it, havent died since!
MinimalistFan ยท 14807 points ยท Posted at 00:13:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try killing roaches with soapy water in a spray bottle.
It sounds useless, but it works better than any insecticide Iโve ever tried, and itโs non-toxic and really easy to clean up.
EvilAfter8am ยท 26446 points ยท Posted at 02:04:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Cheap and extremely effective. :)
Edited for spelling it โsweet & condensedโ. Hey I thought it was funny!
a few more edits: Thanks for the precious metals guys!
Iโm reading a ton of folks say it works on ants too! Score! Also, yes you can sprinkle the boric acid (some are saying borax works too), on the floor but I like the balls because thereโs no dealing with a dust layer. To hide them, drop them behind a refrigerator, in a hole under the sink, above a kitchen cabinet. Is it toxic to kids/pets - I was assuming so - many say no, but Iโd rather just keep them up and away and not have to find out! Donโt need any diarrhea or vomiting in my life at the moment. I have no idea why it works for years, but Iโm guessing itโs because roaches feed on each other when they die so the dead ones become poison to the living ones, so the ratio of dead ones continues to increase!
Oh, and Iโm not a man. :)
Tyrana-suarez_Rex ยท 6928 points ยท Posted at 02:36:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please don't ever delete this because one day if I have roaches I will dig through my saved comments looking for this
iCanon ยท 5132 points ยท Posted at 03:39:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Saving in case op deletes
hisher account and someone finds this on Google in 8 years.Edit: got my pronouns mixed up.
BarfReali ยท 1012 points ยท Posted at 03:51:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
sweet, you're my backup now
XangoldMan ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 04:14:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Let's hope he never give up on us
[deleted] ยท -12 points ยท Posted at 04:26:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Jordaneer ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 04:28:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Need to try harder to rickroll
Cellessen ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:41:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I shall keep trying. I rickrolled at least 4 people tonight so I'd say it's been a productive night
Jordaneer ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:46:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just know that it has XcQ at the end of the video ID, so that's how I know it was never gonna give you up
td_brokeit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:54:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like your style.
CaffeineSippingMan ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 04:32:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if Reddit goes the way of Myspace? I will send a message to myself on Hangouts.
xARCTIC_ ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:40:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait a minute...
Natanael_L ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:43:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Archive.org
not-a-painting ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 09:38:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://i.imgur.com/FXHb5VM.png
I saved a picture with your names so when you all don't have accounts in the year 3019 you will be remembered for preserving the sanctity of future kitchens in some historic photo archive. Doing invaluable work, folks.
FivesG ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 05:32:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
also in the URL if you replace โredditโ with โremovedditโ you can see deleted/removed comments.
iamprogrammar10 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 07:40:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Two backups in a row. Wild start to the day
smellslikefeetinhere ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:15:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This comment takes me back to so many conversations with girls in school.
Hewhoiswooshed ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:30:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Triple back up just in case.
My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Cheap and extremely effective. :)
Edited for something spelled poorly, albeit hilariously.
atomicbomb75 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:02:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just screenshot on my phone
comp-sci-fi2 ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 04:01:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please don't ever delete this because one day if I have roaches I will dig through my saved comments looking for this
[deleted] ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 04:05:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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Slapbox ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:12:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please don't ever delete this because one day if I have roaches I will dig through my saved comments looking for this
sorryrian ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:14:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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The-Lemons ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:23:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Cheap and extremely effective. :)
Edited for something spelled poorly, albeit hilariously.
Nottan_Asian ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:30:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, I think we're covered now unless Reddit or /r/askreddit goes to shit.
relative ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:51:58 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Polar_Reflection ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:23:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
BurntRussian ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:30:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
LiquidBeagle ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:20:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pls delete this
A3thern ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:52:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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RealLifeMorty ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 04:07:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A seven dollar tube of combat gel does the same thing. We lived in an apartment that was heavily infested and when we moved we brought a bunch of the little fuckers with us despite our best efforts to leave them behind. We tried all manner of products including boric acid (without the luring properties of the sweetened condensed milk, that seems like a game changer) but nothing worked until we found the combat gel. Just squirt it in places like OP said away from pets and kids and I swear it was I snapped my fingers and the roaches were just gone one night.
WreakingHavoc640 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 04:21:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What, pray tell, is combat gel?
siht-fo-etisoppo ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:29:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it's gel designed for combat. duh
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:30:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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MaleAryaStarksNoHomo ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:36:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously though, itโs gel thatโs used for fighting.
RealLifeMorty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:54:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Combat is a brand name of pest control products, and they make a gel that comes in a big syringe you can just squirt it strategically around your home and put the cap back on and save it for next time. Though to be fair I just used the entire tube and I've never had to reapply.
WreakingHavoc640 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:09:23 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks!
randompenis007 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:43:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep some roaches ain't that bad to get rid of with the right tools, I used a combo of igr, some sort of gel I can't remember the name strategically placed, and a mix of Ortho homedefense with igr added. Spiders in the back yard though? What a pain, this one jerk made a web across the main entrance I would use to the backyard multiple times a day. I ended up leaving a broom handle to swing around when I walk through.
EvilAfter8am ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:25:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
With spiders you have to just burn the whole yard down.
randompenis007 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:36:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I ended up cutting back a lot of bushes, trees, plants and basically just went to war with them on every front
CherryBrownies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:54:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what is igr?
randompenis007 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:35:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A growth inhibitor thingy that prevents all the babies that are in already laid eggs from maturing enough to reproduce. Most insecticides don't kill anything in eggs.
CherryBrownies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:31:04 on May 14, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ok. I had not heard of that.
speaks_in_subreddits ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:21:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey, sorry, but what did /u/EvilAfter8am spell poorly albeit hilariously? I don't see it...
And the text you saved seems to include the OP's edit, so... I'm lost here...
crying_icosahedron ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:34:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd love to know too
EvilAfter8am ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:26:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, someone commented and I edited it. I had written โsweet & condensedโ. Just had surgery and running on lack of sleep along with some pain so my brain wasnโt working at the moment.
speaks_in_subreddits ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:03:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
LOOOLLL... Thanks for explaining!
And I hope you're recovering well from your surgery!
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:13:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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MaleAryaStarksNoHomo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:38:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless the thread gets deleted :/
iTzHard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:04:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No?
Phobos613 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:05:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cockroach comment
calantus ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:10:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best way to kill roaches:
My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Cheap and extremely effective. :)
MaleAryaStarksNoHomo ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:37:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Niiiiccceeeee. r/lifeprotips
Greedy_Kaiser ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:13:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was actually thinking of sending this to you. It seems super useful
EvilAfter8am ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:24:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Plot twist: Iโm a woman! I canโt ever see myself deleting my account. I hardly know anyone who Redditโs (poor suckers) so itโs my late-night place to read because Fakebook newsfeed is too much of an eye roll. Yโall know what Iโm saying. ;)
prayingmantras ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:19:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hold on, going to get my house infested with roaches so that I can use your above advice, in the off chance that your account or this thread and everyone else's comments are deleted.
JosephND ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:04:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saving in case op deletes his account and someone finds this on Google in 8 years.
My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Cheap and extremely effective. :)
Edited for something spelled poorly, albeit hilariously.
w_actual ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:46:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hi people of the future!
Not-Mike1400a ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:16:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait, how does copy the comment?
stonedEngineering97 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:25:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Commenting so I can quickly find my way back
_jerkalert_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:47:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Commenting for future reference, upvoting for internet friendship.
lauren__95 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:12:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But what if they both delete their comments?
HSP95 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:31:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey! Can I send you all my girlfriend's nudes and a few company files? For safekeeping?
Seringol ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:00:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
> Sharing to help in the future hellscape where /u/iCanon 's account is deleted for copyright infringement
rreighe2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:28:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me too
tallguysaul ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:07:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In eight years we'll have roach rights.
SandCracka ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:13:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't worry they will get taken out by incredibly expensive Medicare/Medicaid costs
m0ev ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saving this great piece of advice.
LiesInRuin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:13:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
๐๐พ I'll be back for this one
TaurineIsMagic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saved
Random-boiii ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:01:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making a backup of a backup, 'cause you can never be too sure...
My dad once had a customer in a very run down apartment complex. He went into a unit that, typically in this apartment building, is crawling with roaches. A little old lady lived there and he didnโt notice a single roach! The secret? Boric Acid mixed with sweetened condensed milk. Mix until itโs dough-like. Stick small balls in places where kids and animals cannot reach. The roaches take it back to their nests and it destroys them all. I grew up in a very old home and I can only recall roaches once - my dad did this trick and I never saw another for about 7 years!
Cheap and extremely effective. :)
Edited for something spelled poorly, albeit hilariously.
Jviv308 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:03:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Looking forward to tomorrow's BuzzFeed article: Most Effective Insecticide That You're Not Using!
this_is_my_alt_act ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:09:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
BuzzFeedโข thanks you
maxijazz666 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:16:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Remember this....
wombRaider121 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:25:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You better not delete that account, mister
zzzthelastuser ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:45:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
good bot
steve_n_doug_boutabi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:34:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saved
iamprogrammar10 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:39:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keeping this for future reference
siv_yoda ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:09:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doesn't matter will still get taken down by Big Pesticide
comet4taily ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:51:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
reply or that reason [ roaches ]
NotAToasterEXE ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:11:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll be using this, thank you
StrikerXYZ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:32:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aye, cure for cockroach, remind myself in the future.
Kolyei ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:37:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I will save this forever
TheOuts1der ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:45:53 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You da real MVP
nessabessa34 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:26:08 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
hey thanks I hate roaches
2Tall2Fail ยท 1211 points ยท Posted at 03:19:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been on Reddit for years and into this moment thought I could only save posts not comments. Thanks!
TanglingPuma ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 04:00:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy crap! You can save comments? I just learned this too!
valegalvez ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 04:38:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Imma save this comment
Tossaway_handle ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 05:02:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And I just saved yours. Save mine back.
WreakingHavoc640 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:22:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait what?
Omg I didnโt know that until now either thank you.
naggar05 ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 05:19:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait what you can save a comment! That would have saved me so many screeshots! ๐
Jaerivus ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 07:49:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Screenshots"..? That would have saved me so much paper!
naggar05 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:51:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Paper? that would have saved me so much cave drawing and carving! ๐๐
Dilong-paradoxus ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:18:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That used to be true for a while. I think only people with gold (or RES) could save comments, and then it was rolled out to everyone.
howlingchief ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:44:22 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah a couple of years now, but definitely not when I first started on here.
gentleman339 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:14:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a whole neew woooorld
2Tall2Fail ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:40:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
With new comments to save and view
superrosie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:15:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Omg. Thanks.
not26 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:02:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is super useful when you are trying to save that reply to an image or gif post that you just had to know the source of. And someone replies with a gallery...
flyingfiec ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:21:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whaaaat? Im going to save this so I dont forget
Rygar82 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:03:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I found this out after a comment just like that one a few months ago and was overjoyed.
kbsb0830 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:16:39 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me too!
The-Faceless-Ones ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:03:44 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can save posts? Edit: Just saw the "save post" button.
meno123 ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 03:30:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mixing borax and sugar together to form a homogeneous powder is also really good for ants. They smell the sugar and take all the powder.
ClearNightSkies ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:15:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I screenshot things from Reddit and actually keep a folder, "Life Tips". I have them broken into legal stuff, financial tips, technology, food/cooking, cleaning/household hacks, and more. Reddit is fucking amazing
Gonehadbetter ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 03:29:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I took a screen shot.
electroze ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:02:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My roaches are so smart they are reading this thread right now planning what bait not to take.
happydactyl ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:17:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same.
flee_market ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:18:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just pick up 20 Mule Team Borax (it's a white powder) from the store and sprinkle it around, you don't need to go through all that trouble in the comment above.
It's a laundry booster, you're supposed to use it in the washing machine, but you literally just sprinkle it along your baseboards and every kind of insect will fuck right off.
It sucks up moisture, and insects need a thin layer of oil on their exoskeleton to stay moisturized or they die.
Imadoctor2yadingus ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:31:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can save comments!? I had no idea. Thanks!
fackfackmafack ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:12:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You need RES, I believe.
chesterthechessist ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:34:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah you don't
fackfackmafack ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:47:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, it used to be that way, I haven't used reddit without RES in a loooong time.
annonymousquackers28 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:55:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use snipping tool (Win 10), Grab (OS X) or screenshot it to be extra sure, and save it into Dropbox or your cloud storage. Then label the folder you save it in โCOCKROACHES OMG AHHHโ or something like that
killingspeerx ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:45:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would just like to say that you can save up to 1000 comment/post, anymore will get the oldest ones deleted.
In case you save lots of things (like me) you can always create a private sub for you where you post whatever you like there (comments, posts, pics...etc) and not fear them being removed or deleted.
chaosfire235 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:24:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
D:
I'm a chronic saver that saves any remotely interesting comment I find to come back to later (and never do...) since I joined reddit. Fuck.
killingspeerx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:48:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know the feeling man and I really didn't want to believe it because I am just like you. Sad truth D':
Ryanm715 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:06:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't worry, this will get ripped off by Buzzfeed and someone on Pinterest and you'll be able to find it again!
CastinEndac ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:31:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you donโt have condensed milk, I use flour and karo syrup with the boric. Mix to a peanut butter consistency and dab around the house. Donโt have to worry tooooo much about leaning it out of reach of pets as it isnโt fatal to mammals in such small amounts.
ikalwewe ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:02:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hello. Stupid here. I didn't know you could save a comment. Always saved a screenshot. Thank you so much.
reduxde ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:03:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Isnโt borax a chief ingredient in floam/ gak / some Nickelodeon substance?
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:14:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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reduxde ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:03:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That'd be an easier thing to remember than "Borax". Roach killer is "sweet slime".
boomboom4132 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:03:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works for ants too
Nikkinap ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:42:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because you never know when someone will delete a comment, I now share comments I want to save to Evernote. Works great, as I can save in searchable topic-based notebooks (home tips, travel, etc.).
LordCommanderFang ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:46:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you ever need boric acid, get it from the laundry section of the store. Same thing as the roach stuff and it's cheaper
bigd203 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:05:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its two ingredients....
c0ld-- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:29:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
IamRasters ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:58:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Coackroach following. Eew.
TylerHobbit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:10:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just learned you can save comments.
jljphan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've screenshotted it for future reference.
JstABit5150 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:19:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha... just screenshot it.
reallyiamahuman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Psst take a screenshot... And frame it maybe or put it in a filing cabinet.
fackfackmafack ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:28:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Back tattoo, amirite?
Siiimo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:26:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same.
throwaway987654231 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:29:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just screenshot it
trulymadlybigly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:56:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy shit, you can save comments?? I just have a whole file of screenshots!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You are T-Rex. Why would any roach bother you!
supkianna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:15:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Screenshot it
zetabur ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:26:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you save a comment? (Did this just to likewise save a comment)
zertify ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:28:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TIL we can save comments, damn. I've missed out a hell lot
jiggywolf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:33:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually probably type in roach infestation solution and Reddit in the same google search and boric acid comes up often. Same with lacing a sweet treat with it too
n0n0nsense ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:34:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it's archived forever
xErth_x ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:57:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Screenshot it
fackfackmafack ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:10:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's called Borax, and if you go to a hardware store and ask for something to kill roaches, that's the first thing they'll suggest. No need to save this, it's a pretty common thing.
EvilAfter8am ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:34:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs what makes it so mind-blowing...so many people spend endless energy trying to spray/bomb/professionally exterminate roaches, yet the solution is so simple...everyone needs to know!
sozzerly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:23:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TIL you can save comments! I was just screen shotting for later!
dostoi88 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:28:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How to kill roaches. Remind me when roached
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:36:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Til you can save comments instead of a screenshot.
RedditIsNeat0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:37:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want to save a comment forever, try copying it and pasting it into a text file on your computer. If all of your saved Reddit comments are in one text file, or several text files in one directory, it's really easy to search and you don't have to worry about someone else deleting it.
kate__8 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:42:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol
savor_today ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:49:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another tip: make a notes section on phone. Just search roach and youโre good to go :-)
cara2727 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:50:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can screenshot it too. I did that because Iโm still new to Reddit & didnโt realize you could save comments until I got to yours.
bralinho ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:55:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me too roaches need to be exterminated
lpaladindromel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:07:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just screenshot it silly.
t3chg3n13 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:27:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same thing works with ants. Powdered sugar+water+borax. Put that shit on paper and ants will bring it home to kill their families.
0galaxy0candy0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:03:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
6 years on reddit and I didn't know you could save a comment. Thank you.
Eric1600 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:13:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mixing it with anything is unnecessary and shortens the duration the acid is effective. It should be a very fine dust like coating. Too heavy and they avoid it. You can read about it and other methods from this entomologist.
https://entomology.ca.uky.edu/ef614
Theaisyah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:26:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same
dry_bucko ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:07:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah same ahahahahaha
Targaryen-ish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:29:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take a screenshot.
whatyoufancy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:50:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take a screenshot
Delsincameback ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:12:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy shit, I never knew you could save comments and not just posts.
lauradora1122 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:59:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just take a picture of the advice you like and put it in a photo folder you name for things you might want to look back on. Thatโs what I do.
TheShroomHermit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:23:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saved roach post
Originalusername519 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:34:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Comment for future justice
intimate_existence ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:08:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Copy the text and send it to Google notes or Evernote.
AlecTheSmart ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:08:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just take a screenshot of the comments and save a folder just for Reddit screenshots protips.
Heffersonn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:08:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Screen shot it
PM_ME_YOUR_LUKEWARM ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:50 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't forget to try that sweet condensed milk.
It's my favorite.
K_cutt08 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:18:56 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know this is 6 days old, but why rely solely on the comment not being deleted?
Copy-paste the entire text to notepad, save it as a text file, use snipping-tool (built into Windows) to save it as an image, save it in OneDrive, GoogleDrive, iCloud, print it out, put it in a folder in your fire safe, have it tattooed on your back, carve it into the wall.
It's free information. These websites can go down, comments can be archived, subreddits can be removed (unlikely for AskReddit, aka Reddit's honeypot for gilding monies), but if you have multiple places for it, or at a minimum in some kind of cloud storage then you've got it for basically forever.
CorporateCuster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:41:20 on May 22, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Indeed
themage1028 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:37:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also saving this...
xPhoenixJusticex ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:33:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seconded. ;-;
JusticeReddit ยท 68 points ยท Posted at 02:58:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This works, I did the same thing in my apartment except I used boric acid and peanut butter. You really gotta be careful if you have pets though because they WILL find them.
[deleted] ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 03:21:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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ssseltzer ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 03:50:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good lord, Iโm so sorry. Do you have a mattress/box spring right on the floor? When I did, I saw more awful shit on my bed. When I got a bed frame with small metal legs, and pulled it away from the wall a little, this decreased drastically.
Pillars-In-The-Trees ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 05:00:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only reason you saw a roach is because all of the hiding places are full.
janet_snake_hole ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 06:00:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Delete this.
JusticeReddit ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:57:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I doubt it, if more roaches get attracted to it then it's just gonna kill more roaches
EvilAfter8am ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:54:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Correct. Roaches feed on decaying stuff and will each another dead roach, therefore when they bring the poison to the nest, they will also feed on the dead ones who are also full of poison.
EvilAfter8am ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:52:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would just put one in your room. Jam it up under a dresser where a pet or kid canโt get it. If there are any in your room theyโll find it. Because youโre hiding them well you never see them take the bait, you just suddenly realize that you never have roaches anymore!
Tursiart ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 03:43:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, but the best part is that boric acid isn't really that poisonous if you eat it. It's about as bad as the equivalent in table salt. So like table salt, you can technically overdose on it, but it tastes terrible in significant quantity so no kid/animal/etc would ever eat enough to cause serious harm.
[deleted] ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 03:48:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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JusticeReddit ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:59:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did that across doorways that led outside. Seemed to keep things like spiders out as well.
garnett8 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:55:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Where would you place it? In the cupboards?
EvilAfter8am ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:57:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The sweetened condensed milk is to avoid having to sprinkle dust particles everywhere that later have to be cleaned. You can stick a ball behind the refrigerator and not only will you not have to not clean up but your pet canโt find that. If your pet can move the fridge out to eat something behind it, you have bigger issues.
Dee-j ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:49:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is this dangerous for pets tho? That's what I am trying to figure out...
Eeveelover14 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:38:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, which is why you should only put them where they can't reach. Children too. a small amount isn't deadly (Maybe if you have a SUPER small animal?) but it can give very nasty side effects if consumed.
EvilAfter8am ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:51:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The peanut butter sounds like a nice upgrade!
I remember my dad putting them up above cabinets, behind the fridge/stove. He dropped one behind a hole where the sink was. Basically his goal was to put them where kids or pets couldnโt access at all and if they did (like pulling the refrigerator out), it would be him or my mom doing it and theyโd know to toss the ball of poison. I donโt think he put many - 8 or so? He also didnโt put them in most other rooms. Maybe one in the bathroom and a few in the laundry room. I grew up not really knowing what roaches looked like because of this trick. I would see a bug and ask if it was a cockroach! Clearly the days before google!
redlightsaber ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:17:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thankfully boric acid, while not completely inert, is not very toxic at all to mammals, and certainly not at quantities used for these baits.
[deleted] ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 03:50:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Muffinkite_ ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 06:15:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
No it's an actual poison, just a relatively mild one, it takes a ton to kill anything but insects. Boric acid is extremely effective as a bait type insecticide because when you mix it with any sweet food that attracts bugs (or just straight sugar) they will carry it back to their nest and it will kill them all. I use ~10/1 sugar to boric acid mix with enough water added to make it a paste to deal with ants. Just spoon it into a small container (like a lid or something) and cover it up with a can or something with holes it in for the bugs to go through. After a few days there will be dead bugs all up in the container and if you mixed it right their nest will be mostly dead too.
Sparkism ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 06:33:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem with reddit is that you guys are always giving me solutions to issues I don't have; which is fine by itself, but then y'all put it in such interesting ways that I feel like I NEED to try it out or i'd be missing out on the science fair or something.
EvilAfter8am ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:59:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre adorable.
lizard_overlady ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:38:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
sweetened condensed milk?
EvilAfter8am ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:39:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah yes! Hilarious what the mind does when itโs exhausted. Iโve just had surgery and running on empty between lack of sleep and pain! Itโs funny to me that I typed it that way. But, alas, I must correct it now. :)
cyclopsdrummer ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 03:19:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is that not what itโs called?
beholdbenefit ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:29:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
let me know if you get an answer
Rengiil ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:48:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Condensed milk is already sweet. So sweetened condensed milk is being redundant.
Neato ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 04:06:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's what it's called in the stores in the us. Probably to differentiate it from evaporated milk.
beholdbenefit ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:18:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah but it says 'sweetened condensed milk' on the label. Did he ever edit his OP?
Rengiil ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:28:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't think so, maybe he forgot. And it says that on the label? Guess the guy who originally pointed it out has some explaining to do. This thread is a mess.
beholdbenefit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:48:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i know its hilarious
EvilAfter8am ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:00:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes she did. :) I was tired and wrote sweet & condensed milk. I thought it was pretty funny!
beholdbenefit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:04:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ah i see. interesting and hilarious how that all played out
HabseligkeitDerLiebe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:43:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is condensed milk, sweetened condensed milk and even caramellized sweetened consensed milk. The latter two usually are available at Eastern European/Russian stores.
Iminlesbian ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:45:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Condensed milk is sweet. The other podter is pointing out that its redundant.
beholdbenefit ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:48:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yes but its still called 'sweetened condensed milk' nonetheless. look it up
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EvilAfter8am ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:01:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! Once the swelling goes down I think Iโll be able to breathe again! (Sinus surgery!)
cheeseybacon11 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:29:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's still spelt the same.
thebirdsandthebrees ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 04:13:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
While were on the topic of non toxic insecticides, I have one for ants. Get some warm water in a bowl, mix borax and some sugar in the bowl, place tiny bits of cotton balls in the mixture and put it where you have a trail of ants inside. The ants can't tell the difference between borax and sugar so they carry it back the their nest so everyone can enjoy it. The ants eat the borax and it kills them but the sugar is there to lure them in. You'll kill the whole nest of ants in a few days.
hqtitan ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:27:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And if, for some reason, your ants are ignoring the sugar mixture, try peanut butter instead. It works the same way, but some ants seem more partial to protein than sugar.
VersatileFaerie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:41:08 on May 13, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depends on what they need at the moment in the nest. They need both sugar and protein to make the eggs. Bigger ants also eat more protein so they will look more for protein than the smaller ants.
DuganTheMan ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 03:20:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt know what time zone you are in, so I am only hoping itโs before 8am. I want to use this trick, but your user name makes me think otherwise.
ZenGrinder ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:52:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've done a lot of work on run-down rentals, and Harris' "Famous Roach Tablets" are essentially the same thing and come prepackaged, are cheap, are available pretty much everywhere and are extremely effective.
ssseltzer ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:46:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How big are โsmallโ balls?
ChafedBass ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 04:03:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ask your dad.
EvilAfter8am ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:04:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just asked my ex-husband to measure...
But seriously, they were about the size of grapes. I suppose you could do whatever size you wanted. A great big basketball sized one on the dining room table could make for nice conversation?
ImTechnicallyCorrect ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:46:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look in your pants.
ssseltzer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:15:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt have balls! Thank you, though!
ImTechnicallyCorrect ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:48:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then definitely bigger than what you found.
emm479 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:41:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just lived through a roach-plagued rental for 6 months and man I really wish I had this advice then. Thanks!!
CherryBrownies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:36:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same lol. I definitely wish we knew about this tip when we lived in our old apt. The trouble with apt living is that you get neighbors always moving in and out and you never know what kind of people might move in. We had new people move in right next door to us and then the entire building got very heavily infested with roaches (like lift up the edge of the carpet and find them swarming under the rug even UGH!). We ended up having to move to get away from them but stowaways just made a nest in our new place and we struggled for years to get rid of them, eventually moving yet again. When we moved the 2nd time we put Combat traps with egg baits all over and that eventually killed off the stowaways. The ones without the egg baits didn't kill them off. This was all before the internet was invented and so we didn't have access to so much good advice back then.
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:42:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, wait a minute, how many parts boric acid to the sweet condensed milk?
AsgardianPOS ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 03:58:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Until it forms a paste. More borax if it's runny, more condensed milk if it's solid.
Retro_munky ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:32:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You cant buy straight boric acid in Canada... I went to the hardware store and they laughed at me and said that it's used to make meth.
Devilsinthed3tails ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:49:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're on a list
Retro_munky ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:42:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You mean Canada in general? :P
EvilAfter8am ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 11:02:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bwhahahahahah!!! Well everyone is saying you can use borax which is a laundry additive, so maybe try that? I havenโt googled it. Good luck with the meth-making!
dontdoxmebro2 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:57:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Secrets out..... bitch!
wei-long ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 23:46:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes you can
https://www.canadiantire.ca/en/pdp/20-mule-team-borax-multi-purpose-cleaner-1-84-kg-0533125p.html
Retro_munky ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:53:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's borax, it's not the same as boric acid.
wei-long ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:59:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They are different things, but in this application, it's a distinction without a difference. You can use either mixed with sweet paste of choice to remove insects. Boric acid is made from borax.
Retro_munky ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:06:26 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought it was the other way around
I've read about using borax instead and it doesn't work as well as pure boric acid, but it's still somewhat effective
Cupric_Sulfate ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:49:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I saw the first roach in my life ever yesterday. I'm doing this this weekend, everywhere.
EvilAfter8am ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:05:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Right because you see one which means thereโs likely 100* you donโt see!
*made up statistic
CherryBrownies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:38:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
definitely! they multiply fast so I'd get right on that
code_Synacks ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:07:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I buy a roach bait/poison that looks like altoids mints, it's just sugar and boric acid. Just have a few in different corners of my apartment. It's very effective.
mousemovedfalse ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:01:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My local hardware store sells this, and it's very effective.
gtmog ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:58:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Searching Amazon for boric acid results in about 50% roach kill powder, 50% vaginal suppositories...
AltoNat ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:00:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does it work on ants?
jason_steakums ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:46:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've used a liquid version, like a DIY Terro, and it's worked great on ants - 1/2 cup sugar, 1 1/2 tbsp Borax, 1 1/2 cups warm water.
plethoralaura ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:05:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wanted to give this an award but have no points T.T
EvilAfter8am ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:07:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I still love you anyway.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:13:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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spideybiggestfan ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:13:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
the trojan milk ball
ObiWanUrHomie ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:17:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you. It's roach season in TX. They're my biggest fear ๐ข
rmachenw ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:01:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โฆmixed in what ratio?
EvilAfter8am ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:06:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pasty enough to form a dough-like ball.
ozmega ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:09:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
srsly no one is gonna ask what happened after 7 years? did they run out condensed milk? did roaches evolve into surviving these? did they die?
so many questions..
78523965412369874123 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:33:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They evolved and took over the house. The roach is OP
EvilAfter8am ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:09:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So my guess is that because they take it back to the nest and they all die, and they all eat each other that it just takes several years for the process to start all over again. I never really thought about the why. I mean I suppose they could have been regrouping and forming a militia. Not sure...
MaximumTrip ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:12:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is absolute gold
NaveenFromCanada ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:15:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Where were u when I needed this in my old apartment??
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:16:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for the tip! Currently living in roach- infested apartment complex.
EvilAfter8am ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:10:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go get em!!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:25:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Where does one find boric acid? Asking for a friend.
CherryBrownies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:51:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would try Home Depot or a hardware store but not sure if it is still available or not. Another person said they don't sell it where they live because you can use it to make meth (who knew?) so get 20 Mule Team Borax if you can't find it. That's in the grocery store in the laundry detergent aisle, sold in a boxes like those that are common for dishwasher detergent. I buy it all the time and use a tbsp of it in my dishwasher with every load to help the dishes rinse better now that they removed phosphorous from the dish detergent. It's a useful product :)
CherryBrownies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:47:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
make sure to tell the neighbors too so you can completely get rid of the roaches out of the entire building
equil101 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:20:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instruction unclear, dick burns.
Gusherwreck ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:32:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes this is beautiful advice for the future
while-true-do ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:34:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like a good way to end up with walls full of rotting roaches, though I suppose thatโs not any worse than living roaches everywhere .
Youreanincel ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:44:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You. You will go to valhalla for this.
EMAW2008 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:50:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ive used grape jelly and borax to kill ants. Works great.
5redrb ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:00:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And boric acid is about the safest poison possible. For comparison, in rats it takes about 40% more boric acid than salt to kill one. But it kicks ass on roaches.
deelwheez23 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:00:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Handy piece of advice that I will save. Thank you!
froz3ncat ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:08:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll try this. The spray bottle thing will never work on the roaches we have here in Malaysia unless I can flip them over on their backs; those things are armored beasts.
I gotta figure out where to get Boric Acid here though.
SaigonNoseBiter ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:15:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love you
EvilAfter8am ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:21:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love you too.
redlightsaber ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:15:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm, my family uses this trick, and they live in a subtropical country where roaches are just a fact of life.
Phanastacoria ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:55:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really, really wished I knew this at my last apartment.
katcostin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:01:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm going to buy sweetened condensed milk tonight to do this omg
EvilAfter8am ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:07:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The makers of it are going to see a surge in sales. I think they probably only sell this during thanksgiving when folks are making pies!
7355135061550 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:20:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm going to try this. The duplex I live in has had roaches since I moved in
MoonShibe23 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:22:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually got an infestation of roaches killed that way and I mean infestation.
lunargrover ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:23:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Boric acid works great for killing ants too. Buy these little triangular shaped ant bait traps (search โant cafeโ on Amazon. You get a bunch, so they last for years). Fill one with equal parts peanut butter, jelly and boric acid. Mix it up. Maybe start with a tablespoon of each. Fill the station and set it out where you see ants in your house. It takes a week or two because they take the bait to share with the colony. Eventually they will all die off. Problem solved! Just make sure itโs covered so a dog or cat canโt get ahold of it. Cheap and very effective.
PurpleSailor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:39:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Borax and Soapy water (use a dish detergent) works because it dissolves the waxy seams on the roaches exoskeleton and they dehydrate and die.
Pope_Khajiit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:43:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My friend's Nan also does this for ant infestations! It probably works for any pest infestation provided they're eating the paste.
derekpearcy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:48:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I once did the same thing once with borax and powered chocolate milk. Did the trick.
Death_is_real ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:49:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well it's pretty common to use boric acid to kill bugs , it's even on Wikipedia and professional bug hunters use it too....
bucketman1986 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:53:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've done this with sugar water and borox for ants and it works wonders
IntrovertishSag ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:11:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad did this too!! He swore by it and sure enough, I've never had to deal with roaches.
Thatniqqarylan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:12:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. Boric acid actually makes them explode from the inside out
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:12:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Metal
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:17:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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EvilAfter8am ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:19:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They arenโt exactly the same, borax is a mineral and boric acid is what is produced when itโs refined. Many people commenting that it works the same, so thatโs a plus.
donoteatthatfrog ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:20:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
does this work against ants too?
i tried recently.
sugar + boric acid + flour.
[a] i made dough-like small balls, and the ants took them all to their home.
[b] i made a bit more watery, batter-like. and the ants waited till it fully dried and took the sugar+flour, leaving behind boric acid.
[c] i just kept the mix , as dry powder. ants took sugar & flour, leaving behind boric acid.
DeaddyRuxpin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:33:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
From what I understand they canโt tell the difference between the boric acid and the sugar so they eat both. The boric acid is supposedly their equivalent of eating glass so it rips them apart from the inside.
Also works on ants. You can mix it with powdered sugar and sprinkle it around where you see trails of ants.
And it is for the most part non toxic and harmless to humans and pets so if you spread it around there is little need to worry about a cat or dog licking it up. (It is toxic but only in reasonably high doses, higher than a pet is likely to ingest by licking up the boric acid sugar combo. I believe it is actually less toxic than table salt).
DarthGandalf86 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:42:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use boric, powdered sugar, and cornmeal. Spoon the powder behind furniture, back of cabinets. Only roaches I ever see are dead. The cornmeal works as a declumping agent
Born2wyn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:22:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
roaches, ants (could save me in the future)
tommy762 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:42:19 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks
Ndosbeos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Screenshotted and saved.
happydactyl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:17:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Commenting for recall omg thank you
throwawaycape ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saving to use later
suckitsarcasm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:06:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Exterminators hate him!"
TheSinningRobot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How small?
EvilAfter8am ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:07:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs what she said.
msacch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just saved this for later!
TheBombStop ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:10:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saving this
Dyna82 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Would be nice if mice were so easily handled, yes they can die but their bodies stay behind which is problematic.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:10:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a cat
PocketGachnar ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:20:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My cat: "Omg a mouse! It touched me! It touched me! Ew!"
Dyna82 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:23:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah when I was a kid we had a bunch of farm cats and a couple inside, never had problems with mice.
Nochamier ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Theres a limit to how many comments you can save
speaks_in_subreddits ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey, sorry, but what was spelled poorly albeit hilariously? I don't see it...
EvilAfter8am ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:11:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, I had written โsweet & condensedโ milk. Just had surgery and Iโm exhausted and in some pain so my brain didnโt want to work. :)
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 4266 points ยท Posted at 01:24:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can just squirt dish-washer detergent at them. Kills them instantly.
How does it work? Roaches are hardy as fuck and hard to kill, but lots of insects breathe through their skin, roaches included. Water beads up from surface tension and won't drown them, but detergent has very little surface tension and clogs up their breathing holes (membranes?) instantly. It's really incredible to watch-- sometimes they don't even squirm.
MinimalistFan ยท 1016 points ยท Posted at 01:48:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. It seems unreal that it happens so fast, but it does. And I use dishwashing soap.
tjoh127 ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 03:57:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like dawn soap right?
Fanrific ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 04:38:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you put a light over a shallow dish of water with a squirt of Dawn fleas jump into it
DoJax ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 04:49:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How the hell do I get rid of wasps with no money and just household supplies? I have three nests on my back porch, two out front, two one my she'd, and a ton of red ones in my wood pile, and then I have to check my van when I run through the ones out front or back, because they keep finding ways inside and wait on the inside of my windows. Like, I have a can of gas, a bug pump spraying backpack, and a bunch of lighters, I'm about to risk burning down my house in an attempt to use a homemade flamethrower to stop getting stung.
Any help will be tried on a different group of wasps.
yazyazyazyaz ยท 74 points ยท Posted at 05:18:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you tried ASKING them to leave like a grown-up?
tjoh127 ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 04:53:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think someone else also posted that a cup of the soapy dawn and water kills them almost instantly like the roaches
DoJax ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:35:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is good.
rreighe2 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:31:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use simple green. It can be like 10% simple green and 90% water and it'll still work.
You can spray whole nests too. They drop like flies
Fanrific ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 05:33:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sounds hair raising. Wouldn't know where to start with actual nests so did a google and found this article You can hose them down with soapy water using a hose
Or put a cotton bag over the nest and drown them in a bucket
Once you've got rid of them you can keep them away with peppermint oil
Good luck!
DoJax ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:42:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is useful, but my problem is that they are in areas I cannot reach easily, as in under patches of the roof, there is one that is underneath the house siding, that I'm getting ready to wear 12 layers of clothes and go out and fuck up tomorrow. I've had it with them, I can't take much more of it, I have spray bottles, I'm going to try to start picking them off with soapy water, it's just there are easily over two hundred wasps in total. I'm sick of getting stung while trying to mow, and it's time for them to die. Unfortunately a water pipe busted, so I don't have a faucet on the outside of my house, nor a hose, if I could even reduce the numbers of them, I could spray foam shut all the gaps, but when there are 20 in an area buzzing around in the air, it makes it a hazard trying to do anything.
CrazyIvanIII ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 07:16:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Short of running a garden hose off a laundry faucet, not sure what you can do about the water supply. However if you want a real weapon of mass wasp destruction.... pressure washer.
Rent an electric pressure washer, get one with the soap dispensing bottle that attaches to the end and you have a foam cannon! Best thing ever for cleaning and you can fill the dispenser with dawn dish soap, I never dilute it as it does that for you. It is my favourite thing for cleaning and no hoard of wasps could stand up to that glorious high velocity fan of cleansing suds.
Fanrific ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:45:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wonder if using insulating foam over the whole nest and sealing it would work
DoJax ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:02:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have to decrease their numbers first, wasps can dig, but maybe if I the a flea bomb up there it'd end them/send them into a murderous rage.
Berdiiie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:47:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it's possible, paint the areas with a light blue paint. Down here it's called Haint Blue. It supposedly confuses them into thinking it's the sky so they won't build their hive there. We did it for our front porch and the little gazebo out back and haven't had wasp nests there for 3 years. They did try to make one in the storm drain.
Tomble ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:23:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can get poison wasp dust it works really well. A good puff of it into where they are coming and going, and they will track it back into the nest. Do it late at night while covered up to prevent stings.
CherryBrownies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:23:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I'd get one of those misting spray bottles like they sell for gardeners https://www.walmart.com/ip/Raindrops-24-oz-Mister-Spray-Bottle/19583001
or use an empty Windex bottle and mix the dish soap and water to spray at them to see if that does work to kill them. they seem to like making nests in rotting wood
I've seen videos where you can make your own wasp traps
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q48u2jOx_iY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GVLqEb6ANig
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L4fvHzxsbuo
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b9b3-hIiGY8
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L4fvHzxsbuo
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or you could try something like this with a shop Vac
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ytMcIpIRL3w
rreighe2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:31:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You don't even need a hose. Just simple green / degreaser or soap and a spray bottle
teh_fizz ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:56:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A cup of gasoline and a match.
DoJax ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:36:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Since peeing on the ones on the woodpile did not work, I will try this on those tomorrow.
bewalsh ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:10:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
instructions unclear urethra inflamed
OriginalLetig ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:45:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
FTFY
Janiko- ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:53:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone further down said it works on wasps and their nests too.
DoJax ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:36:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Those fuckers are gonna get it in the morning. Any idea how to keep the spray bottle from foaming up at the nozzle?
TheMoonMoth ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:50:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, do it near sunrise or sunset. That's when they are leaving/returning to the nest and you can destroy them all at once. Don't want to have any vengeance driven wasps repopulating the same spot
DoJax ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:04:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think these are descendants of the ones I killed last year back for revenge.
neccoguy21 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:53:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jesus Christ dude, don't spritz a wasps nest with a soapy spray bottle. Just spend the few bucks on a can of wasp spray. It's not that expensive, and you can stand really far away to use it. It's like pressurized shaving cream.
DoJax ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:09:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gonna buy one of those auto air fresheners that sprays every 5 five minutes and fill it with raid. They actually live under siding and in the roof where I can't spray.
Labiosdepiedra ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:43:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Less soap.
DoJax ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:59:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worth a shot, hope I don't get stung
carolinejg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:54:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've done it. It works great. I was told to use laundry soap like a1/4 cup and water. Maybe 2 cups? We were living in FL at the time. Someone told me try it early in the morning. They are less active. I sprayed the nest and they started dropping right out. They could barely move. It was waaaay better than spray which seemed to just tick them off.
011101000011101101 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:52:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try peeing on them
DoJax ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:35:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm this does not work, makes the red wasps angry.
011101000011101101 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:14:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did you take a video?
rreighe2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:30:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What the fuck. Like... Can someone draw a picture I don't believe it
KaizokuShojo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:15:02 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like...off an animal? Or just..in a house?
Fanrific ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:26 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Both
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:43:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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redditingatwork23 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:46:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Palmolive?
TheRedmanCometh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:41:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Super thin cheap soap brand
pokedan999 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:13:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jijj
DecepticonLaptop ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:35:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, they hate it when light shows up.
IAmNotRyan ยท 1479 points ยท Posted at 02:04:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This also works with wasps too.
Take a cup if soapy water, splash it on the nest. It sounds like a terrible idea, but they all die literally instantly.
Call_Me_ZG ยท 1638 points ยท Posted at 02:13:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can any one try this and report back with results.
Preferably with high quality video evidence
IAmNotRyan ยท 1211 points ยท Posted at 02:19:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just look it up on Youtube!
I live in the middle of nowhere in South Carolina. Every summer nature makes a solid attempt to reclaim my house with me still living inside.
I deal with tons of wasps, and dish-soapy water really helps when one wanders into the house, and I want to kill him quickly without the risk of failing and pissing him off.
Garfield-1-23-23 ยท 82 points ยท Posted at 04:11:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
LPT: if you use a port-a-potty, look up to see if there is a wasp's or hornet's nest on the ceiling first. I just encountered one of these recently - it really makes you feel more in touch with Nature to look up and see an angry swarm in the middle of your deuce droppage.
Apoplectic1 ยท 51 points ยท Posted at 04:24:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I call it a Florida time bomb. It's only a matter of time before the fumes from the aftermath of some guys fish taco and margarita night yesterday puts them on the defence.
Garfield-1-23-23 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:30:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe it just mellows them out. These guys were actually pretty chill as hornets go, although that didn't stop me from sending them all to Hell with the spray next time around.
handcuffed_ ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:59:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was shaking a tit in one with like a hard plastic grate floor and saw TWO black widows right next to my feet.
RndmRanger ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:41:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a kid I once counted 6 on the porch. I didn't go outside much after that.
Original_DILLIGAF ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:35:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shaking a tit?
Edit: got it immediately after typing it out
bjhww95 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:03:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I literally cant imagine anything worse
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 10:22:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And you mother fuckers go on about Australia being deadly. Man fuck this. All we have is the occasional spider hiding- super easy to deal with. Never seen a god damn wasp nest in the dunny. Fuck me.
greyspot00 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:13:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like an unorthodox form of laxative.
Xclusive198 ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 04:32:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I saw some video of ground wasp/hornets or some shit and some dude made a trap with a plastic tub, filled it with water and soap/detegerent, put a small wooden board across it about 1-2 cm from the water, put some meat or something underneath the board and it was literally trapping and killing hundreds and hundreds of of them. I can't seem to find the video but it was fascinating!
YoYoPop ยท 51 points ยท Posted at 05:14:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your comment made me curious so I looked it up. Here's probably the video you're thinking of. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7FhifTGKtUQ
Xclusive198 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 05:19:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. That's the one. Damn thing works like a charm and can massacre a colony.
marionsunshine ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:30:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow. that's so great to know! Thank you!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:10:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Tossaway_handle ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:13:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you attach the meat under the board? Staple gun?
cloudsitter ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 05:45:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He nailed some cooked chicken breasts onto the bottom side of the board. A staple gun would probably work great too
Xclusive198 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:15:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
He used some nylon string or some type of string I think? But yeah, you could get creative on how you want to do it. He showed a different type of trap but I don't know how to explain that one...
DemonFremin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:50:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shawn Woods is a wonderful person for his videos. Found him randomly trying to deal with a rat problem and it worked amazingly. Plus, seeing all the weird mouse traps he finds is oddly interesting.
killerbeeeez ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 04:26:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish I knew this two weeks ago. Moved to NC and this is my first real summer here. Was home alone when a wasp wandered into my kitchen. I secured the baby in another room and started playing music to amp myself up as I entered the kitchen with wasp spray and a broom. I didnโt get stung... but EVERYTHING in that kitchen was coated in wasp spray. Not ideal.
HalobenderFWT ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 05:46:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know you can use like...a shoe, and just mash on the fucker. Wasps/hornets generally seem a bit more docile when theyโre inside. Just pound it into wasp pulp, pick it up with a towel/oven mitt/tongs/whatever, and toss it in the drain.
No need to start shooting chemicals around.
prayingmantras ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:25:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am imagining you were listening to "Master of Puppets" to pump yourself up and it's hilarious
killerbeeeez ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:27:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs fucking perfect! It wasnโt far off. I typed in โbattle musicโ into YouTube.
prayingmantras ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:57:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is amazing. Sounds like something I would do and no one would find it funny haha
sawchukles ยท 51 points ยท Posted at 02:22:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
do you just use a spray bottle and spray him or what?
thelawgiver321 ยท 249 points ยท Posted at 02:34:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty sure she means by sipping some in her mouth and then catching the wasp in her mouth. The spray bottle is just too risky
sawchukles ยท 54 points ยท Posted at 02:37:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
that makes sense. canโt believe i thought otherwise! lol
IAmNotRyan ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:40:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Finally someone gets it.
Call_Me_ZG ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:36:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Naah, you're thinking of Ryan,
thelawgiver321 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:37:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, damnit
IAmNotRyan ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 02:40:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Literally a cup of water with dish soap in it. Throw it on the wasp and it dies.
Bigger cup with more soap if you want to kill a nest.
fullup72 ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 04:16:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you wanted to give them a concussion you could have just used your chancla.
logangrey123 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:01:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But doesn't it mess up your floor?
[deleted] ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 03:05:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
spray bottle works too. they generally can't figure out what's attacking them as long as you are a few feet back and not moving
skaggldrynk ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 04:07:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It cleans the floor
theunnoanprojec ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 03:43:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, it's soap you fool, if anything it's do the opposite lol do j not no how soap works lmao
Call_Me_ZG ยท 50 points ยท Posted at 03:49:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You alright there buddy
IAmNotRyan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:56:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have tile floor throughout the house.
If I had carpet, i would use a different method, honestky.
Hades2788 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:01:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
jokes on you they're already pissed, if anything your gonna make it mad that you missed and it'll sting you for inconveniencing it.
reddittyranitar ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:58:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every summer nature makes a solid attempt to reclaim my house with me still living inside
Good line bro :)
Peak8u ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:48:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes Officer, here he is confessing to the crime
mjewbank ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:44:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A decently good vacuum cleaner with hose and wand(s) works well inside for those little solo bastards that make it inside and don't want to leave.
Have a nice ride through the Kirby, little fucking hellspawn!
bellewallace ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:10:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What up fellow South Carolinian?
IAmNotRyan ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:24:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wasps and abject poverty my fellow Palmetto state brethren!
neosomaliana ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:20:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Funny you refer to wasps as him. Is that bc bees are hers? I imagine wasps are bee MGTOWs. And they're just mad bc they got nothing to do and no honey and no honeys
eggsonpizza ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:29:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But you can just let them out with a cup and sheet of paper?
ilovebaconmore ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:58:31 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
they are obviously not buddhist
Jay_Stone ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 04:32:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, it works. Central Texas wasps are dicks. Came across two nests and each was the size of a cantaloupe. Spray poison just made them mad, and I had to get the job done quick. I went to the closest Wal Mart and bought the largest Super Soaker I could find and saw one that had a โshotgunโ feature where it would empty most of the tank in one shot. Nice.
The next day I added a 20/80 mixture of soap and water to the tank, pumped it up, and blasted the first nest. It was incredible. Every single wasp that was visible fell to the ground because they couldnโt fly with soap-stuck wings and died in seconds. The ones that didnโt fall immediately did within 30 seconds and landed dead. The second nest had the same results.
I have pets and kids so I donโt like using poisons around the house if I can help it, and a spray bottle with soapy water is my weapon of choice to keep wasps in check.
teh_fizz ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 04:59:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One of the most American sentences Iโve read on Reddit.
Jay_Stone ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:03:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yuppers!
ArbyMelt ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:25:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Noice!
HaungryHaungryFlippo ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 03:09:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I came here to say this same thing. I have used it on wasps but I do not have video...
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That's all I got
sfgisz ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:17:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bees take a shower and after some time they die. Y u kill bees? :(
[deleted] ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:08:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://youtu.be/7FhifTGKtUQ
Decimate an entire colony with just some chicken, water and dish soap.
swingbaby ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:52:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why would I want to only kill one in ten?
lNTERLINKED ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:35:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Here's a video of a better technique:
https://youtu.be/eKd0So_d4GA
i_likebeefjerky ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:52:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck yo nest fools.
raccoon_tail ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:34:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a squirt bottle filled with soapy water to spray the gas line of my oven one time (will bubble if there is a leak). My dad's suggestion. I got a wasp problem, he asked for the bottle and sqirted the little shits on stream mode with surprising accuracy and they dropped dead from the air.
In short, I've first hand seen this work.
Jack_of_all_offs ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:54:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never thrown soap directly on a nest, BUT:
I had a nest in a piece of soffit, so the nest was technically outside my house, but an ASSLOAD of yellow jackets were in my attic.
By the time I noticed they were up there, there were dozens banging on the window, trying to get out. But the window ALSO had a few hundred banging to get in, so fuck opening it.
The 2 shooty-jet-stream cans of yellow jacket killer I bought emptied quickly, so I grabbed a spray bottle and put soapy water into it.
I then grabbed a scrap of wood, and proceeded to spray them, one or two at a time, and slice them in half.
It was a slaughter, and an easy at that. 66 was my count. The nest abandoned soon after.
jgnodado18 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:41:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://youtu.be/T_6rJKbWmWU Here you go man glad to help.
Tossaway_handle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:05:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
HFR super slo-mo, please.
MalHeartsNutmeg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:52:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It should work on all insects and some spiders (not all spiders have spiracles).
jareths_tight_pants ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:07:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have done this and it does work. Put dish soap in a bucket, fill with water, slosh it so it's soapy, throw it on the whole nest.
obsolete_filmmaker ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:10:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
get Nate to do it
rpmc83 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:32:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a pump sprayer which I fill with water and dish soap. I shake it up after sealing it, pump it to pressurize it, then use it like a super soaker on wasp nests. Typically the wasps begin to climb out but can't fly, they just drop to the ground and die in seconds. The sprayer can got them from a good 10 feet away.
TheAgreeableCow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:14:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
These are wasp traps we use on our property - bucket with chicken carcass lure and plain old soapy water.
http://imgur.com/a/NkHryrV
Theaisyah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:26:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes please!
Rochesters-1stWife ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:29:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve done it! Recommended by a bee keeper (these were yellow jackets- nasty buggers that donโt pollinate much). Get a bucket of super soapy water, wait until dusk when they slow down, and dump on the nest. If they donโt drown, the soap clings to their wings and they canโt fly. Depending on the size of the n st, you might need to repeat the next day. Works very well! We had a nest by our front door that was so bad Iโd be bringing groceries around to the back. .. finally got stung and was done with these @ssholes.
slutboy3000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:23:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just tried it. They did not die instantly.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 06:05:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried it. I died.
1-1-19MemeBrigade ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:52:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Air freshener sprays like Febreeze and Glade work well for this too. Even if it doesn't kill them right away, it sticks to their wings and prevents them from flying, so you can squish them without retaliation. This is an excellent way to kill a wasp if it gets in your house and you don't want to spray toxic insecticides around indoors.
Source: had a wasp invade my apartment. I won.
Logpile98 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:28:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting, I've never heard of that but I've seen firsthand how gasoline kills them very quickly. Probs not the best to try indoors though
jo_mo_yo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:55:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does it work with other insects? Spiders?
stufff ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:35:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah but then you get their honey all soap tasting
Delta9ine ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:51:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Uh... you were lied to.
Qqqqpppzzzmmm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:07:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Super soaker.
I shoot those fuckers out of the sky.
bravo6960 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:36:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Helps with ants as well. Make sure the water is tap hot not nessisarily boiling. The ones that live wonโt stay around. Ps there are always two mounds.
Ratataton ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:23:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why would you do that though? It's illegal where I'm from and usually not necessary.
Thatspellsgeraffes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:51:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/fuckwasps
Wormbo2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:52:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But.... then I can't kill them with fire...!!
starmaster00 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Brake or carburetor cleaner kills them instantly. You can also use it do burn the nest later.
BricksInTheWall1991 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You are a godsend. We've been dealing with wasps for years and we hate having to use those sprays because we have pets and small children. They literally invade our house, we never get to go outside in our yard or porch during warm because the wasps are everywhere and I have an admittedly severe phobia, plus I don't want my kids/pets getting stung. I want to call an exterminator but they're so expensive and again, bad chemicals.
AMarriedSpartan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can I do this with a bubble gun?
EDTA2009 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:55:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a kid I preferred the tried and true method of fire and running like hell.
Sure you'll get stung a few times but nothing can beat those MEMORIES
killerzizi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:00:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also with maple bug infestations
soberdude ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:17:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use Pine Sol in a bug sprayer. It will keep them from building another nest there.
Both kill them quickly, but do it as the sun is setting and they're calming down for the night.
Peak8u ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:49:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wonder if Insects could read it.. How would they feel?
IMIndyJones ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:52:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I sit on my balcony in the summer with a spray bottle of soapy water. I squirt the shit out of those bastards. They fall and die almost instantly. It's crazy.
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:05:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It will work with any insect, because they all have similar breathing systems.
ITpuzzlejunkie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:14:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
WD40 also works on wasp nests.
Twoflappylips ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:15:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
soapy water...the dragonglass of the insect world
Cpt_Tsundere_Sharks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:26:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hear hairspray is really good too cause it just glues everything together, including their wings so they can't fly.
daisymuddlehead ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:28:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You should know that wasps carry out a lot of pollination along with bees.
PIotTwist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:15:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I've found the nest I'd much rather splash some gazoline at that thing ...
Qtsan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:50:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works on horse flies too. When I was a kid we got horrible horse flies by our pool so my dad would always arm himself with a squirt gun full of soapy water and just take them out one by one while we played in the pool.
Hallucion ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:16:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use a cleaning solvent. Dead in moments.
Howwasitforyou ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 07:50:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A deodorant can and lighter are more fun, burn their wings, and stomp on them.
Altaroa ยท 212 points ยท Posted at 01:43:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is amazing
UmbrellaUser69 ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 02:14:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thats fantastic! When you spray them with Raid the little fuckers run around for a few minutes and usually make it under the fridge or something before dying. And raid smells awful.
alumpoflard ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:28:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No need for pure detergent either
One drop of soap is enough to make a whole bucket of water lose its surface tension properties, so you can just put a squirt of detergent with water
SehSehh ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:20:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Those poor, yet disgusting creatures.
Mancinoz ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:48:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So suffocate them to death? I'd rather make it quick and stamp them out.
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:59:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Roaches are wet inside. That's a horrible idea. xD
nvrndngstry ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:16:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
( อกเฒฅ อส อกเฒฅ)
teh_fizz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:06:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/dontputyourdickinthat
amolad ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:55:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Find some old Aqua Net hair spray.
It freezes any bug you spray it at.
In the 60s it was invented to hold ladies' hairdos in hurricane force winds.
Herollit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:33:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seems practical
BlossumButtDixie ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:12:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh wow. I was always told to use orange oil as a cleaner because it kills bugs or at least makes them uncomfortable enough they won't cross an area freshly cleaned with it. Orange oil is a really great cleaner for oil and grease with just a little in some warm water working extremely well. I bet this clogging breathing is probably why spraying a little on ants and roaches does them in almost instantly! Thanks for teaching me something today!
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:18:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I got you, fam.
xenophilique ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:15:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Their breathing holes are called spiracles, iirc.
nvrndngstry ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:14:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can we reverse engineer other legitimate names for insect body parts so they sound as ridiculous as "breathing holes"? Antennae becomes "feeling wands", etc.
cherrymasterlou ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:19:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish I knew this when I stayed in China. Those mother fuckers fly...
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:30:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And when they run they go SHAKKATA SHAKKATA SHAKKATA!!!
cherrymasterlou ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:32:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yah!! Absolutely disgusting. I remember they would all come out at night and when I had to use the washroom, I they would all run away and that's all I heard... Ugghh
SpeakItLoud ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:00:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh god. I loved and hated your comment.
SchleppyJ4 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:36:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They have them in the American South too :(
cherrymasterlou ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:37:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ew.. They fly too??? Omg
elephant-cuddle ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:55:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cockroaches have wings.
Herollit ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:30:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's the worst when you think you're gonna smash it and it flies at you.
craniumchina ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:15:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was in Hunan myself. Scariest day of my life was having one fly at me from the wall when I was just about to smack it with a flip flop.
Bought a dog and dog ate them until they stopped coming lol.
jedikaa ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:56:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow this is good to know. I hate using insecticides because Iโm concerned about other animals ingesting them after theyโre dead. Thanks for this
john_jdm ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:09:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, so that's why! I used to do this years ago when living in Florida but was worried because whatever was killing those roaches so efficiently was what I was using to wash my dishes. Never realized it was about physics and not about chemistry.
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:35:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's an elegant way of putting it.
Detergent washes your dishes because it associates nicely with water, but also forms bubbles called micelles which themselves can dissolve oils. Your gallbladder also produces detergent of a sort (bile) which helps you get all the energy out of oil and fat.
I'm no toxologist, but I imagine the perfume they put in it to make it smell like apples is more toxic to your body than the detergent itself. This is Reddit, so someone who knows is going to correct me in 3... 2... 1...
SharpenedStinger ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:28:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
hoping I'll remember this next week when I go down to my parent's house
Mr_Yeet123 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:44:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Theyll be amazed they finally have a superweapon
Anti_was_here ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:09:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rubbing alcohol works for the same reason and it's easier to squirt
audible_narrator ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:04:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also works on wasps
daraul ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:57:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't find any roaches to experiment on :(
superflippy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:24:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you! Iโll definitely try this.
And for the record, neither hairspray nor Endust work all that well.
beepborpimajorp ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:03:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is also how I kill stinkbugs. Grab them and put them in a cup of soapy water. Kills them, and prevents them from stinking the place up when they die.
ogasdd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:07:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doesn't work fast enough for me though...So i kinda draw mutation circle around the roach with detergent first....And than proceed to dump more detergent on it.Come back with paper tower and wipe and rag after a while for that corpse.
Mizzet ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:57:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Squirt bottle with dishwashing liquid has been my go-to bug killing solution for some time too. It's been a great leveler against nasty bugs I don't care to get up close to. It's got great range, great spread, and even leaves the place smelling nice to boot.
AndoMacster ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:03:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for the tip
motie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:21:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What did the asshole who threw soap on a wasp nest say to the wasp?
KevPat23 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:41:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What?
JustthatITguy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:03:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for the advice
motie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:36:04 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice.
JustthatITguy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:46:50 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Right? I was proud of that one
NameTripping ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:43:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One of the few situation where that sentence isn't a red flag
missydesparado ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:45:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A video link is greatly appreciated.
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:05:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Couldn't find one without gay music, but here you go.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4NxFKqD5CIo
octopusgreenhouse ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:31:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...gay music?
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 03:35:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, were not allowed to say that anymore. It's bad music.
octopusgreenhouse ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:50:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, you see why that's shitty, right?
No one is disallowing you from saying it, it's just an unnecessarily bigoted thing that has zero bearing on the subject at hand
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:28:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I were gay I'm 100% sure I wouldn't care about mildly flippant usage if the word, but yeah I've conceded the point.
ChafedBass ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:12:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Techno
Herollit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:33:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I underestimated that music
Idiot_Savant_Tinker ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:10:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spiracles!
awesomeevan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:29:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like I'm more horrified than curious, but this is super interesting.
khc15 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
how do you squirt dish-washer detergent on roaches tho? You would have to be pretty close and the roach would have to be still? Do you mix it with water and use a spray bottle?
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:18:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, man just fart noise it out of the bottle like ketchup onto fries. You can buy it at a dollar store, it's cheap!!
Tossaway_handle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just saved your comment!
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:22:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can save comments?? Woah, you just increased my redditing powers!!
xandarthegreat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:05:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a roach and literally only had windex on hand and after spraying the mofo it died in like a minute
mmefury ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:12:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing holes = Spiracles
atlas_nodded_off ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:12:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It contains a surfactant, reduces surface tension. Also will keep teenagers out of the kitchen.
man2112 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:23:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It works on many insects.
Ermin0s ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:36:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One of the few things i remembered from highschool biology is that this membrane is called a tracheae
Masterloverofwomen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:59:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does this work with spiders?
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:13:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe, but spiders breathe through their mouths like people. In fact, on average a spider swallows 8 humans a year by breathing them in while sleeping.
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:05:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spiracles -- tiny valves on the surface of the exoskeleton that admit air to the trachea. Water has a surface tension too high to allow it to infiltrate the tiny spiracles. But soap reduces the surface tension of water, allowing it to infiltrate the spiracles, causing asphyxiation.
julieinreallife ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:11:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learned the hard way that roaches can swim. I use dish soap now, I have dogs and donโt want to use chemical roach spray around them.
Disclaimer: I live in LA where getting rid of roaches is a full time job.
CommanderVinegar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:16:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My girlfriend and I have a dish soap, water, and peppermint mix for killing all sorts of bugs.
NotARobotSpider ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:21:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can report Windex also works wonders on them. (It was just what I happened to have handy)
ZoddImmortal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:27:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use 50% isopropyl alcohol to kill ants. Works great and cleans dirt as I wipe them up.
A1000eisn1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:29:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty much all insects breathe through their skin so this works on everything.
Fleas? Yep. Ants? Yup. Cat has ear mites? Olive oil does the same thing.
CherryBrownies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:01:58 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I used coconut oil for my cat's ear mites. Oil does work. I learned about it here, though this vet used a different type of oil (I used what I had on hand).
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=261A9mv7t1I
mitharas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:36:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not to be taken seriously, I hate those buggers as well.
Yudine ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:41:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What brand of dish washer detergent did you use?
oscarwildeflower ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:53:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really wish I had seen this last night when I found a roach in my Airbnb ๐
RosaFFXI ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:55:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The breathing holes are called spiracles. You just seemed like you were searching for that word.
Speoder ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:58:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Insects breathe through their bodies not mouths. Warm soapy water will coat the body suffocating the insect. As mentioned, works great on wasps.
rastheraz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:20:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can I mix it with water or should it be pure dish-washer detergent?
UnknownParentage ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:21:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So it should work for spiders too right?
Deadmeat5 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:28:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instantly? Well, I guess stinkbugs are tougher than roaches, then. Cause I remembered this and tried it on those fuckers. Merrily running along after the fact.
At least they didn't start flying which was a plus.
oundhakar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:44:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They're called spiracles. They're holes in the exoskeleton though which the insect breathes. The soap forms a film over them, preventing the insect from breathing.
Emilia_S ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:00:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Would this work for spiders?
lu-cy-inthesky ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:10:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep any surfactant will do this.
frleon22 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:13:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have no detergent you can kill them with a dishwasher, too.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:15:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is this a ploy to get me to wash my dishes?
rodeBaksteen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:21:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One simple trick, roaches hate him
Bloody-August ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:22:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use shampoo or shower gel. Works like a charm
exclusivelybold ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:42:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I should not have read this thread naked
Zallun ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:45:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had good results (at least flys die quickly, havenโt tried on roaches) with glass cleaner. The good thing is that glass cleaner evaporates without residues and usually comes in a handy spray bottle.
Avairion ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:06:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing holes on insecta and arachnida are called tracheoles.
blue_november ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:47:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spiracle
FenrirApalis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:03:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bruh needed this like two months ago
billgatesnowhammies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:47:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
works on wasps too. my guess is anything with a similar type of exoskeleton.
sharks_cant_do_that ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:51:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holes.
They're "spiracles," but that's a word that means, essentially, holes in a bug body.
Hazmat616 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:56:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is this also why they say if your flower pots are full with bugs water them with soapy water? They say itโs harmless to the plant.
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:01:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I haven't heard that, but probably.
Hazmat616 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:35:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve heard about it a long time ago and itโs probably the same principle.
niida ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:40:28 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always wondered how you can simply kill them with some spray while they seem so resilient. Now it all makes sense!
howlingchief ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:54:53 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was in entomology class we had a bunch of leftover German cockroaches from an event where they were 'racing' one another. They're a different family from American roaches so we got more points for having them in our collections.
Trouble was, these leftover insects were alive, and they are very fast. Like nearly as fast as a house centipede. Mine led me on a chase through half the entom lab room, escaping all attempts to place it in the kill jar. After 2 escapes, I had learnt my lesson, and instead of trying to place it in the jar I kept it caged in my hand and directly sprayed ethyl acetate all over it and my hand. My professor told me that I shouldn't do that again.
Have_you_read_it ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:04:10 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This makes me incredibly sad.
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:07 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You sound like you might be someone who's never met a cockroach.
Have_you_read_it ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:33:39 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or someone who can't bring themselves to kill a bug because they have a family waiting for them back home like the rest of us ๐ญ๐ฌ
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:43:07 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For most people, it's very hard to feel empathy for a cockroach.
knittingkate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:17:09 on May 12, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you so much! I had a cockroach in my kitchen earlier, and I remembered your advice. Killed it instantly
jeremyserious ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:05:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Similar effect happens to children eating tide pods. They definitely squirm though
NickDanger3di ยท 1001 points ยท Posted at 01:21:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They drown, as the soap allows the water to enter their breathing holes (spiracles?). Normally surface tension prevents this.
aRoseBy ยท 767 points ยท Posted at 02:18:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, that's it - little holes in their sides. Insects have a pretty inefficient respiratory scheme.
This limits their size, which is why insects were much larger during the Carboniferous period, when there was more oxygen in the air.
KingClam2 ยท 102 points ยท Posted at 03:08:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is that because of square-cube law? Surface area doesn't increase proportionally to volume, so the larger the bug is the more difficult it is for it's surface area to provide sufficient oxygen?
Doom_Shark ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 03:26:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, exactly
Dragoarms ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 05:58:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
brb, growing a giant roach in a 40% oxygen environment.
quinoa_rex ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 06:06:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
just because you can doesn't mean you should
MichaelCat99 ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 06:07:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/10/101029
They tried, roaches don't work.
Dragonflys do though.
Dragoarms ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 06:09:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Brb, growing a giant dragonfly in a 40% oxygen environment, i'll give it a scuba tank and we can take over the world.
LandsOnAnything ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 06:21:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
10 years from now, we'll trace back the evidence to Mothra to this comment right here.
W00DERS0N ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:46:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mothra is a good guy, though.
LandsOnAnything ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:16:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He is. Never said he's not.
Bernard_PT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:12:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Relevant username
Tongan_Ninja ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:39:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your link is missing a bit at the end.
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/10/101029132924.htm
thewhizzle ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 03:43:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This guys sciences
Idiot_Savant_Tinker ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:11:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He maths.
Which is I suppose the same thing.
_Damnyell_ ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:29:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
He biologys
Xzanium ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:36:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*biologies
LordRyloth ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:53:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No
wolves_hunt_in_packs ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 05:12:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Which is great, because fuck cat-sized mosquitoes.
DatAdra ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 05:52:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There were also eagle sized dragonflies and crocodile-sized centipedes
smpsnfn13 ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 06:33:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Centipedes are dicks they are fast and aggressive and fuck em. Millipedes they cool doh.
robotkittenjam ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:04:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a person with pet milipedes I agree with this wholeheartedly
smpsnfn13 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:06:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They just chill and I think they're kind of cute.
pencilneckgeekster ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:30:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
is this a joke?
DatAdra ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:38:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nope-
Crocodile-sized Millipede (I know I wrote centipede above. I was wrong)- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arthropleura
Dragonflies- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Meganeura
SHIVER_ME_WHISKERS ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 11:17:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks I hate it
Meauxlala ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:31:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not mosquitoes but there were cat sized spiders once upon a time.
Ragequit_Mcgee ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 06:08:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Note to self:
Don't go back to the Carboniferous period when the time machine is ready
mildiii ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 06:32:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everybody wants to go back and kill Hitler. But not everyone can. If you're assigned to find out what it sounds like when a tall tree collapses on a sea of fallen tall trees before bacteria exists to eat them. Well, that's the job.
MrBojangles528 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:19:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One thing I never understood about this period is how the trees kept continuing to grow if there was nothing to break down the ones which had fallen over? It seems like the ground would be quickly covered by massive trees, sticks, leaves, etc. How can seeds grow without these breaking down?
Randomguy8566732 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:58:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Better idea than killing Hitler - save Franz Ferdinand from being assassinated. Stops World War One, and means no Treaty of Versailles is needed, so you don't create the conditions in Germany that prompted the rise of Nazism. All killing Hitler would do would rob the Nazi part of a charismatic speaker - but that doesn't really solve anything because right-wing charismatic speakers are and always were dime-a-dozen. Also, you deal a hard blow to Communism as well, so that's a bonus.
Wobbelblob ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 10:21:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wouldn't be so sure about that. Europe at that time was a powder keg ready to explode. And Austria just looked for an excuse to go to war. So it would maybe have delayed it by a few months, but not more.
DaSaw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:23:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's just a shame so few in positions of power watched the World War 1 previews the Japanese and the Russians staged.
might_not_be_a_dog ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:43:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That and fiercer competition with other large predators and bird ancestors forced insects into more niche areas
pencilneckgeekster ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:32:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
now we got them boutique insects.
yeetomato ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:46:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i juuust learned that in biology class.
queenmachine7753 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:11:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
oh fuck, so that's another reason the insect populations will collapse
redlightsaber ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:19:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wouldn't say that at all. Inefficient isn't the word you're looking for, but they're certainly constrained in size and metabolic capacity due to it. In exchange for that, they don't really need to grow and maintain an extremely expensive organ and set of muscles that takes up 80% of your thoracic cavity.
Tossaway_handle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:15:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait...is the earth running out of oxygen?
MichaelCat99 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:09:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, we just have a lot lower of a plants to animal ratio.
165110512042019 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:37:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is this is a real question?
ExoticSpecific ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:24:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Would this work on spiders as well?
Doomedperson ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:11:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It works on any invertebrates.
Jtktomb ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:08:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nope, many invertebrates have lungs, including some arachnids
Doomedperson ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:33:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spiders use book lungs, which still get royally screwed by soapy water. I think.
Jtktomb ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:37:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yeah
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:27:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is all the extra carbon in the air the reason bees are dying off?
EnviroguyTy ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:52:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's mostly from pesticide use.
Factual_Discord ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:33:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This kills the bee
Jtktomb ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:07:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wouldn't be so sure about that dawg
Wannabe_Madgirl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:36:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
OMG thank you! I've always wondered this!
phoenixguy86 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:22:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learned this from Mimic
niida ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:43:47 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So that is why we don't cat-sized roaches? Hallelujah!
badmeets3vil ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:03:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions not clear enough. Roach said "Choke me harder, daddy"
BESSIES_TITS ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:44:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does it work on ants as well?
Khufuu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:56:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
poor little roaches
skaggldrynk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:10:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So I thought soap increased the surface tension? When I had fleas invade my apartment I used bowls of water with a few drops and dish soap stirred in and was told it increased the surface tension so they canโt jump out. Now Iโm confused.
NickDanger3di ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:22:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nope, it eliminates surface tension. The fleas would be able to float on the surface otherwise.
tipofmybrain ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:26:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No it decreases it, but the effect is still what youโre describing. Normally the flea could sit on the surface and therefore jump off but the soap causes the surface tension to decrease so the flea breaks the surface and sinks.
skaggldrynk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:15:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aha, I understand now thanks!
SergeantSeymourbutts ยท 2275 points ยท Posted at 01:57:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I usually just berate them, call them names, just really make them feel worthless until they just give up and kill themselves. It takes longer but they tend to bring down the other roaches around them, a bit of a domino effect.
10ksquibble ยท 50 points ยท Posted at 04:07:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I lived in NY, I stomped on a roach, and left it in the hall to serve as a warning to its stupid roach friends. But, as the exterminator explained the next day, it turns out that they are attracted to their dead friend and will come from miles around just to snack on his carcass.
SergeantSeymourbutts ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:52:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At least you learned something in the end.
Tzayad ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 02:07:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
/u/SergeantSeymourbutts used cutting words. Rolls a Nat 20
drphungky ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 03:55:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
pushes up glasses
Um, cutting words is a D12 at most. Guys, please read your character sheets!
Tzayad ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:49:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ya got me
TheSeaOfThySoul ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:55:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're probably looking for the cantrip "Vicious Mockery" & the target makes a Wisdom saving throw, so there's no attack roll & you certainly wouldn't want the target to roll a Natural 20. "Cutting Words" is a reaction Lore Bards can take to roll one of their Bardic Inspiration die & subtract that number from the targets attack roll, ability check or damage roll.
Tzayad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:25:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Double got me, vicious mockery is what I was thinking
Woodbean ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:06:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Must be Dire Roaches... Plain Roaches should definitely have less HP than a standard cat (1d4 HP). =)
Thencewasit ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:39:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dad?
SergeantSeymourbutts ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 02:49:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh great, you found me.
smoshrabbit ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 04:51:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I usually radicalise the roaches to commit crimes in the name of religion, gets a little messy, but really brings the population down and those who survive migrate to safer apartments.
[deleted] ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:56:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get them hooked on reality TV and junk food, they're too preoccupied with superficial nonsense to bother me now.
theolhonkandwhistle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:14:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you told them about the two party system yet?
Kongorian ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 04:06:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha funniest thing Iโve read all day
franztam ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:41:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha. Yeah he's funny.
justuselotion ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:01:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have the flu right now and laughed out loud at this. Made my head hurt more but dammit it was worth it
SergeantSeymourbutts ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:27:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hope you feel better soon.
Peak8u ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:50:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey, my school tried the same thing on me!
trouser_mouse ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:03:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"stupid roach, you don't even understand math(s)"
alumpoflard ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:29:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like an ex wife
u_PM_me_nihilism ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:30:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man if you could induce tantrum spirals in pest colonies being an exterminator would be a lot more entertaining
gumlessdish ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:30:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As long as you don't practice on humans...
LePontif11 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:02:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah call them something mean like...insect or worthless cokroach that always works.
37-pieces-of-flair ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:07:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So....a roach bucket effect?
Gigablah ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:54:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just play 13 Reasons Why on Netflix.
Twirlingbarbie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:41:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey that's what my mom does to me and it's sure working
SergeantSeymourbutts ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:54:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same with me, high five!
We should seek counseling.
rauwlypts ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:15:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Roaches arenโt supposed to know that theyโre roaches. Giving them this type of self awareness is cruel and unusual.
LWY007 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:50:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I see you have also take the Dale Sturdevant Dissing Your Dog training course.
Hello, fellow alum!
Jabburwocky ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:52:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You sound like my youth group from my high school years
ssquared94 ยท 564 points ยท Posted at 01:37:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I usually just throw my bug killing boot at them and hope for the best. This sounds like a much better idea.
suze_smith ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:25:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Glad I'm not the only one with a dedicated roach killing shoe. Fellow Floridian?
ssquared94 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:38:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, but I am from the south.
moosecatoe ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:08:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does anyone remember when an exterminator company (I think) was sued because they made a commercial with realistic looking cockroaches crawling across the screen? Apparently people were throwing boots, remotes, house phones, etc, at the tvs, thinking the bugs were real, and broke their tv screens. This was back when tvs were absolute units. I doubt the dumbass screen crackers won their case, but I never saw the commercial again.
toktobis ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:58:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I remember that commercial. It scared the crap out of me because I was a kid and we didn't have roaches, or any bug approaching that size, where we lived. So there was a big element of WTF KS THAT going on. Thought it was a mutant earwig.
moosecatoe ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:11:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh good, I didnt dream it up cuz someone else remembers!! The reason I knew they were cockroaches was because MIB came out around that time. And that dude from Law & Order was like made of cockroaches.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:23:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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moosecatoe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:30:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Heh heh heh heh. That brings back so much old anxiety. Thank you for taking the time to find that. Im going to see if I can use it to get my mom to break her ancient tv.
MissingVanSushi ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:23:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Before I smash them I always say โIn the name of Robert of the House Baratheon, First of His Name, King of the Andals and the First Men....etc.โ
My wife caught me last week and called me a huge nerd, but fuck it, I got bugs to kill.
BossHoover ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:30:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smashing roaches is a bad idea. One reason is because they may be pregnant and after smashing you have baby roaches running around. Other reason is because they secrete a scent that attracts other roaches because roaches eat dead roaches
thaSuperior21Lake8 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:20:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Witnessed my friend step on a spider, instantly a hundred babies scattered in a million different directions. Very traumatizing. I, myself donโt step on insects or arachnids anymore due to this.
SavageSlacker ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:40:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't worry Rachel, this is a made-up memory in your replicant brain.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:41:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Say yes.
CherryBrownies ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:35:07 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it was probably a wolf spider. they carry the babies on their butt
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4rorJCGF1aM
ย
(warning: there is a closeup)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hmr-B_JZTnE
thaSuperior21Lake8 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:42:01 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am in Minnesota, we have wolf spiders
MyBFFCrackers ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:30:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And actually the most organic and non-toxic way.
kizzyjenks ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:15:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I usually point my cat at them
blondetailedsquirrel ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:57:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And self cleaning!
Grunge_bob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:30:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man, you know I had a much more boring childhood than kids today, cause I used to shoot nerf guns at insects in my house for sport.... or maybe I had a more exciting childhood....
Nabs2099 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:01:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read this in a southern American accent.
passa117 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:01:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Any piece of footwear is a bug killer in our house. Except Havaianas. Those are utterly useless.
Joeypants35 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:07:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spray bottle of rubbing alcohol will also kill roaches pretty Damn quick. You know, in case you wanted a choice in ammo. Will evaporate=minimal cleanup except for the corpse. Perfect murder.
MalHeartsNutmeg ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:53:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1 spray for you, 1 spray for me.
niida ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:48:02 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks! As summer approaches so will the dark army.
Monoplex ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 01:56:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad would use brake cleaner to kill wasps. I think it dissolves their exoskeleton.
BotherSquidwardDay15 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:14:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Brake cleaner is so versatile.
bearybear90 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:10:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Febreze does something like that too
BotherSquidwardDay15 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:03:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good. Those fuckers deserve to die everytime. Their sheer sight is cringeworthy.
Slick_Grimes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:27:32 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Metal as fuck
kloiberin_time ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:02:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not just roaches. My wife and I had a problem with paper wasps building nests in our mailbox. Some water and down dish soap in a spray bottle will kill them damn near on contact (like someone else said, they breath through their exoskeleton, so this suffocates them.)
Get your mail out, and spray down the inside of the mailbox, let it dry, and they will stay away for a little while. We respray once a week when we see them flying around and they've never come back.
MondayMorningEssay ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:12:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was reading a comment chain about sleep techniques and forgot that that wasnโt the whole topic of the post.
HalobenderFWT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:49:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/lostredditors
SheetShitter ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 01:36:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, put used coffee grounds at the bottom of a mason jar, line the rim of the jar with Pam cooking spray. Put a tiny bit of hot water in the bottom, then lean the jar against a wall outside.
The roaches will roast in the sun during the day and youโll be left with a Jar full of dead roaches
puppylust ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 01:53:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do the roaches absorb the coffee flavor as they cook?
MsRoyal ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 01:59:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Of course! Then just salt & pepper to taste!
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:00:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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SheetShitter ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:58:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, a hint of espresso with you roach goes nice crumbled over vanilla ice cream
puppylust ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:18:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keto high protein sprinkles
MinimalistFan ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:49:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting. Coffee grounds repel ants, but apparently attract roaches.
SheetShitter ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:51:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Very much so
ryebread91 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:01:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why warm water if youโre leaving it outside?
SheetShitter ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:03:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dono, thatโs what it said on the news when I saw the method.
Maybe it helps make the coffee aromatic and draws them in?
theDoctorAteMyBaby ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:46:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Should you refresh the hot water ever?
SheetShitter ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:51:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can yeah, especially at night. Get some water hot enough that it steams, I have literally caught THOUSANDS of roaches in an apartment complex that had them everywhere. I had two 5 gallon buckets full of dead roaches in 3 weeks.
They crawl in at night and then roast in the sun during the day
rrrrrivers ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:55:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good lawd that's a lot of roaches.
SheetShitter ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 01:57:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah man it was bananas. My girl lived in this complex and you had to literally jump around them on the sidewalk. I had it, so I bought a 24 pack of jars and went to a bunch of Starbucks for used coffee grounds.
Obliterated the roach population lol. I was very proud
plznobamboozle ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:00:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok man I'm gonna try this and report back. You convinced me
SheetShitter ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:16:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please do! Let me know if you have good results!
theDoctorAteMyBaby ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:07:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait, so grounds then Pam, or either way?
MusicTravelWild ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:25:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
they can survive nuclear apocalypse but not soap suds. If God exists it has a unique sense of humor
slothywaffle ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:54:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I live in Florida and we have these giant palmetto bugs. Essentially giant roaches. I'm terrified of them. I feel a lot better now knowing how to kill them without getting near them. Thank you so much. Every room will now have a spray bottle of soapy water!
dreamtofalligators ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:26:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
When I moved into my apartment, there were dead cockroaches all over the place, and multiple roach baits in literally every corner (of the rooms, cabinets, places where the furniture meets the floor, everywhere). I wash my dishes as I go, take my trash out every other day, and do not keep food in my cabinets unless it is canned or in a jar that is still vacuum-sealed. Not even pasta in cardboard boxes or flour or sugar in unopened bags stays in the cabinets - there's room for all of it to go in the fridge, since it's just me in the apartment. I Clorox all my work surfaces in my kitchen after using them. I threw out all except 3 of the roach baits and I've only seen maybe one live cockroach per week since I moved in - all at the cost of a little basic food hygiene and 10 minutes of cleaning per day.
Edit: For clarification, I'm in Florida. The cockroaches live here and we are only guests in their world.
horsenbuggy ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:53:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is what I do with ants. When they have found a way into my house to get to the sink, i spray the trail all the way back to the entrance with some kind of cleaning solution. It kills them and if you leave the soapy stuff on the wall, they won't use that trail again.
Grinch420 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:08:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
WD-40 on carpenter bees... way better than any bug/bee spray I've used.. spray that shit right in their holes and they will crawl out dead
labdweller ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:58:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Crawl out dead?
Grinch420 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:47:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep.. they crawl out and fall instantly and they are all black no more yellow on them.. never to fly again... they crawl out dead.. if they get that far
loxias44 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:38:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Zombees!
geckofrey ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:40:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Diatomaceous Earth
Anotherface95 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:06:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This saved my ass when I had roaches in a 100+ year old house. 3 kinds of poison and a squirt bottle of dish soap. I got to be quite a sharp shooter. They slow down until they are running in slow motion in the bead of soap, and then they just stop. Can be wiped up and tossed, and as a perk, your kitchen smells so clean!
VetPetManager ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:12:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Vinegar does similar. Had an ant problem and vinegar would kill instantly.
TheDragonLake ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:29:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also windex. It's amazing. It'll kill ants immediatly and knock out large bees. Sadistic child me also found it effective in gassing flies. Windex makes it so they cant fly, A good puff, put a jar over them, RIP within a minute.
mataeka ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:48:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My husband used absolutely useless alternatives (like wood polish or perfume) that just stain the carpet or make the vinyl too slippery. I'll give this a go. Thanks!
bbbright ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:09:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you know if this work for ants, by any chance? I have a roommate who keeps dirty food containers and stuff in her room and we have a nasty infestation right now that wonโt go away no matter how clean I keep the common spaces. We have cats so Iโm hesitant to use anything super toxic.
TinyCatCrafts ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:47:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had an exterminator tell me to mix 4tbsp of salt into blue windex, and spray around doors and windows. Has to be the blue kind. He said that blue dawn works too.
Mrpotatoeface ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:51:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I name them all Larry and we make agreements that they are not to come out of hiding until I've been asleep for at least an hour. They only then come out to die and say farewell.
elaerna ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:05:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you just fill up a spray bottle with soap and water every time you see a roach feels like you'd lose it they move so fast
Airazz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:15:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Set it to spray at a wide angle.
gamma_centauri ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:25:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep one around for this purpose
gtrell1991 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:07:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Recipe 1 cup of water per 1 tbsp Dawn dish soap. Mix in a spray bottle.
RealisticTowel ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:39:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I let my cats play with them for a few days and then ask my boyfriend to pick up their dead bodies.
GeenMachine ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:52:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make a thick paste of talcum powder and running alcohol. Place it around door and window frames and ants won't cross it.
karenfartsmarie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:58:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This information would've been really useful when I found a half dead roach in my bathtub last week. I will not forget this advice forever now, thank you.
underbrightskies ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:59:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the type of thing I wanted to read more of in this thread. Nice!
ashemm ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:00:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rubbing alcohol is also super effective. Buy a bottle for a couple bucks and put a spray bottle top on it. Sterilizes, and doesn't leave any residue behind, just death! Yay!
MildGonolini ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:55:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love how roaches can survive nuclear fallout but not soap and water
pdxhawaiigirl ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:10:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Literally just found a giant roach in my bedroom and ran to get my spray bottle to fill with soap! Thanks! It totally worked and my room doesnt smell like nasty cockroach spray!
Jwin227 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:36:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also got the same advice from my vet for fleas.
Recently adopted a stray kitten who was covered in fleas. Poor thing had basically given up. Gave her 3-4 baths (one each day) with Dawn dish soap, the fleas die quickly or scramble to the dry areas, like the face, and then you just comb them out and drown them in soapy water just to make sure they stay dead. It's been a week now since she joined the family and she's a happy addition :)
brogers02 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:27:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same with ants!
diasfordays ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:58:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Huh, TIL. I just used fire last time I needed to kill a roach. Now I know.
alaskapipline ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:18:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It works just as good against wasps, you can take out a whole nest with just a bottle of soapy water.
SatonariKazushi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:22:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this is awesome... thanks for the tip!
VerbalThermodynamics ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:28:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do I get rid of sugar ants?
newNonThrowAway ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:41:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This was a game changer for me when I discovered it. Iโve used it for crawling bugs but I discovered it by using the method on flies. Instead of chasing them with a newspaper, simply spray them with a cleaning solution. The canโt fly away and then you pick it up and clean the area all in one
flee_market ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:17:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck that weak shit, put down 20 Mule Team Borax (or diatomaceous earth) along your baseboards and under your major appliances.
One single solitary application will work for years.
SuperN0VA3ngineer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:40:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True Story, once killed one in my dorm room in college by spraying body mist at it. Crawled into a Walmart bag and died.
gnapster ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:41:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fastest way to kill a wasp or errant angry bee and avoid inhaling/using insecticide is to just use hairspray. Clogs their wings, they fall, you stomp. Learned this by accident when the nearest thing within reach with a yellow jacket dive bombing me was aqua-net.
weirdbees ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:41:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
peppermint and cedar essential oils diluted in water work wonders for keeping them out of the house too!
like, actually, not in an โessential oils cure depressionโ way, but in a โroaches canโt stand the smell and will run awayโ type of way.
it works for other bugs, like ants, too.
Fgdhsjsh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:48:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works on boxelder bugs too.
Besieger13 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:08:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Marauders or Immortals are also very efficient against Roaches.
iamanundertaker ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:38:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To get rid of ants, soak cotton balls in a mixture of warm water, sugar, and Borax. Set them close to the source and they'll take the borax back to the colony and kill it. Make sure not to allow pets or kids to access the cotton balls. We did this recently and it worked like stink. You just have to deal with a trail of ants for a day or two.
MakeupandFlipcup ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:42:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i killed a wasp with soapy water in a spray bottle! โ๐ฝ
Recon718 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:03:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Hereโs an excellent roach and mouse repellant, and it apparently works for spiders although I canโt vouch for that, just read it online. I had some roaches in the past and occasional mice and since using this havenโt had any signs at all.
Try mixing 2 parts water, one part white vinegar, and peppermint oil in a spray bottle (10 drops or more depending in the strength you want). Spray problem areas nightly.
Iโve tried a few โhome remediesโ and can swear that this works like a charm! And the best part is the smell goes away by morning so it can be applied daily. Your place will smell like a candy factory but itโs better than disgusting bugs and critters running around.
Edit: grammar
MickeyWallace ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:09:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But I like to watch them harlem shake over suffocate...
emissaryofwinds ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:29:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The little shits can survive nuclear apocalypse but can't handle a squirt of dish soap
n3m37h ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:00:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lysol Antibacterial spray alcohol kills insects almost instantly, works well for wasps
DiMoess ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:18:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
killing roaches with toxins doesn't work because before they die they feel the toxin and release eggs, neither smash them, you going to release the eggs, a good way to kill them is a toxic gum or something, that they eat and die slowly, when they are dead, grab a paper, place them in the middle of it, "close" the paper so the eggs won't accidentally go to the ground, and fucking destroy those with your fingers strength
source: a roaches killer that came for the restaurant i worked at
ps: roaches ain't the restaurant fault, most of the time, it's the suppliers fault, cardboard is like roaches home so we gotta deal with it but i assure you, we cleaned every single day, after lunch time and after we closed the kitchen but they just come
Flatscreens ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:00:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I usually just swallow them.
whatup_pips ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:17:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or just masturbate in front of them and aim your cum at them!
Fubar904 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:56:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
NEPHEW
a38c16c5293d690d686b ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:55:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if one of them is a fertile female and you impregnate her with cockroach-human hybrids?
whatup_pips ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:56:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then you just created a new species and are officially a genetic engineer
MrHorseHead ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:43:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What about bird shot?
ProceedOrRun ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:52:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And they're edible afterwards!
Donttakethisname_35 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:01:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Similarly, killing ants with glass cleaner. Works like a charm
EloquentGrl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work around pets alot, and I use this on ants. Works wonders, but doesn't keep them away. Still, good in a pinch and doesn't hurt the pets!
JusticeReddit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used this and the boric acid trick when I found out my new apartment had a heavy roach infestation. In less than 2 weeks they were all gone.
bigbagofno ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did this for ants also and it worked great.
hayleybass ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:06:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to kill them with shaving cream that goes from gel to a mousse-like texture. It first encapsulates them enough so that they canโt breathe and then kills them, and a while later you can just scoop the whole thing up with a piece of paper or magazine since itโs all foamed up now. Worked wonders for me :)
spacemanpants ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:07:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This was a refreshing change of pace after all of the squishy positivity in the โcomplement peopleโ chain
FiniteWorm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:10:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the same vein, 50/50 solution of vinegar and water in a spray bottle for ants. Spray their trail, kills them and doesnโt allow other ants to find the trail again. Smells weird if you donโt like vinegar but itโs safe to spray in your kitchen where you make food, so win-win
dick_in ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This my go to advice for people with this problem.
Tossed_Away_1776 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy crap this bug killing thread is a goldmine, THANK YOU ALL.
Changsta ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:14:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I lived in Taiwan for three years which has a roach problem everywhere. My first boss showed me this and it blew my mind how quickly the roach slows down and dies. Now I tell everyone the same thing, and they have the same skeptical look they had. And after I show them, they have that same astonishment on their face.
Do it. It works.
Ghetto_Farnsworth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:16:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can also mix Tobasco and water in a spray bottle to make pepper spray, and spray it along baseboards and thresholds. My grandparents did this to keep ants out, and I never saw any insects in their house, roaches or otherwise.
cygnus2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโd try this if I werenโt terrified of roaches. Even the word makes me shudder.
ZippyDan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use isopropyl alcohol in a bottle. Also relatively non-toxic, disinfects and cleans, and even easier to clean up (no need, it just evaporates after a few seconds).
easymak1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One came out of my bathroom drain once, I put bleach on it. Never saw one again.
DanielSaysSo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Vinegar for ants
purpleyogamat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:25:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's similar to how I unclog drains by making baking soda and vinegar volcanos. Works a thousand times better than drano and costs a fraction of the price.
Screwotherpeople ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:30:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works for wasps too.
rml23 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:30:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm having an ant problem in the kitchen. I may try this.
voiceofgromit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My policy is to kill the ones I see. Eventually they'll evolve into roaches that don't let me see them. Then I won't be so bothered.
cephalopodes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to pour soap directly on house centipedes (like a cockroach and centipede had a baby with super long legs and super-speed). I could never smash them because theyโd hide in corners and run super quickly, but if I dribbled soap from directly above the soap would slow them down enough
meacrom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice one
tinkrman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:38:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To add to your point, don't spray at them from the top. Their wings are pretty hardy, so they will withstand the spray. Spray at a low angle from both sides. That's where they breathe through. Soapy water clogs up the little holes, and they suffocate and die.
KidouSenshiGundam00 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:42:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What kind of soap?
vec5008 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Got anything for ants?
BumperBabyAngel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:48:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think this will also work on ants too
AshesToProveIt ยท 3058 points ยท Posted at 00:04:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Give up caffeine to help with anxiety. I gave it up to help with my vertigo years after this was first suggested to me, but it did help. I'm still anxious as fuck but I'm not reacting to it like a hummingbird on cocaine anymore.
im_twelve_ ยท 212 points ยท Posted at 02:09:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm just going to keep pretending like this advice is bullshit because I don't want to imagine a world without coffee. It's my last vice. I quit smoking 5 years ago and quit drinking 3.5 years ago, I don't want to have to give up caffeine... But I also don't want to be stuck with anxiety forever.
blueshift9 ยท 117 points ยท Posted at 02:24:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do what I do - I have a full cup of normal coffee in the morning, but everything after that I either do half caff or just decaf - and I NEVER half caff past maybe lunchtime. It's helped a ton with my anxiety and panic.
im_twelve_ ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 03:55:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's what I did while I was pregnant and I contributed the lack of anxiety to hormones, but I'm now wondering if it was the lowered caffeine. Maybe I'll try that again!
Skyblacker ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:44:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think that pregnancy makes me more creative, but maybe that's just because I'm not drinking for a few months?
CompassionateHypeMan ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 05:16:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Look, the writers block has gone on long enough. Take your pants off and get in here, Momma needs a best seller"
Tank_Prod1gee ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:39:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Something something broken arms
Wikider ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 02:52:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know this pain all too well....canโt live life with this much anxiety all the time. Iโm not living, just existing most days. Itโs insane how good I am at hiding it from everyone not because i donโt want to bother anyone with my issues, so Iโd rather suffer alone. Hope all is well and I genuinely hope you find the strength to fight back
PrisonMiguel ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:31:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have been there before friend. It will get better. It doesn't feel like it while you're trapped in a panic for months or years, but some day it will be easier. Do the work, see a therapist if you can afford it. Share your pain with a friend or family member. You can get better.
Mekanimal ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 02:18:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try swapping to a morning and a late-afternoon/evening cup. I used to power through coffee like a champ, now I actually savour it and can feel the little boost without depending on it.
k-tax ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:38:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why would you drink coffee in the late afternoon or evening? My schedule is: one coffee around 1-2 h into work and another one after lunch (around 5 h after I start). I try to avoid caffeine on weekends or when my work schedule allows me to be slower.
Mekanimal ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:59:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ADHD and aspergers, one in the evening helps me sync up my body and mind enough to relax.
k-tax ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:13:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seems legit
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Mekanimal ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:36:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stimulants in general have a different effect on ADHD brains, rather than the "buzz" that others encounter it allows the body to catch up with the brains thought processes and the harmony achieved can bring about a state of calm.
In my earlier years I was confused about why cocaine, mdma etc would send my friends bouncing whilst I sat in the corner chilling and wanting a nice nap. Once I found out why it started making a lot of sense.
Were you often called lazy as a child when faced with something you just weren't interested in, something that no matter how hard you tried you just couldn't make it happen?
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Mekanimal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:53:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's still a great pick me up in the morning, but once I'm at the right speed I stop now.
If you haven't done coke I recommend keeping it that way, It's an expensive habit to be trapped by, have seen plenty of friends with less discipline lose themselves to it. LSD though, give it a go at least once, it helps you find your inner calm :)
I'm glad you've got a plan, good luck!
hereforcat ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 04:40:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I switched from coffee to tea, which gives me the morning caffeine I need without the anxiety. I actually dislike drinking coffee now because tea is a much smoother ride.
nihilistictablelamp ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:01:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can do it. I work at a coffee shop and having CPTSD/panic disorder. I realized a few months ago that I don't even like coffee. Drink water when you wake up instead.
0ttr ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:35:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I gave up caffeine. While it works for me, this advice is not a panacea. I get tired more. But my anxiety and blood pressure seem a bit more normal.
I think the best advice is don't drink caffeine after lunch as it can still interrupt your sleep patterns 6 - 9 hours later.
BekBek000000 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:52:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Question! Did quitting alcohol help with your anxiety?
dxxxwnfvll ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:05:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not OP but I have anxiety issues and used to drink heavily. I quit drinking nearly 6 months ago, it has helped tremendously. Anxiety is tough and the severity can come in waves but I find it's much easier to manage it with a clear(er) head.
nptown ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:13:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tobacco is same way, you think its helping but itโs actually making it a lot worse. Trust me on that, done both
dxxxwnfvll ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:15:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Agreed, I quit both around the same time. I thought dropping alcohol would be harder than it was but it was the tobacco that kicked my ass for a few weeks before I was finally able to ween off of it for good.
devilsonlyadvocate ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:30:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It helps incredibly. Alcohol is a depressant. Also, hangovers can be very similar to anxiety which can be confusing. A lot of people self-medicate with alcohol which can help in the short-term but exacerbates anxiety in the long-term.
im_twelve_ ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:49:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It did until I had a baby! The alcohol withdrawals were probably the worst anxiety I've ever experienced, but I think a lot of that was from all the heart palpitations and sweating. Plus knowing that withdrawals can be deadly, it just made a perfect panic storm.
But it was so worth it. I had so much more time and energy, not to mention money. My skin looked way better and I wasn't so puffy all the time. I haven't embarrassed myself or forgotten anything I've done in the past 3.5 years either!
I got pregnant on my 1 year soberversary and since having my son, the anxiety has been ramping up again, especially if I'm tired. Parenthood has taken away my time, energy, and money, so that's why I used past tense above. But still worth it!
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:04:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me, my anxiety got way worse after I quit drinking because I was using alcohol to run away from my feelings & anxiety. It was pretty rough at first but it eventually got better. It wasn't an immediate positive outcome though. But everyone is different!
AshesToProveIt ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:21:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tell people that I'm the most boring person on Earth now: I quit caffeine two years ago, stopped smoking almost a year ago, and can't drink because of the medication I started taking almost a decade ago now. I live in a state where pot is legal but I had a bad reaction to it so I abstain from that as well. I feel like I need to develop a new addiction or vice just to be interesting.
SomewhatSapien ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 04:28:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, nothing wrong with being clean as a whistle.
TheNakedBass ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:03:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know anyone that doesn't have some sort of crutch or vice. I believe being clean is more interesting than you think.
hahastonedem ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 02:23:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
CBD has been amazing for my anxiety, try that and maybe reduce your caffeine intake a bit?
im_twelve_ ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:53:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Will CBD make me less alert though? Like unable to properly care for a toddler? I've got some CBD honey sticks, but I've been too scared to try them in case they turn me into a zombie.
chibilaharl ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 03:55:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
THC is what causes that
im_twelve_ ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:58:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's what the guy at the smoke shop told me when he gave me the sticks, and said that they would just lessen my anxiety. I think I just cant imagine that feeling because I've got nothing to compare it to. I'll have to give it a go this weekend!
Milhouse242 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:07:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try it out when you have another adult with you and the kids. That way you can find out how it will affect you, and the kids are safe.
ThreeNips ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:17:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're safe with CBD. I can't guarantee it will lower your anxiety, but I can guarantee it will not raise it in the same way THC would.
I get heavy anxiety with THC, I get none of that with CBD. I am an anxious person, and I can't say that CBD helps in the way that ice water does, but it does chill me out a bit. Give it a shot, a little at a time. No rush.
Fyrestar333 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:59:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thc is the active ingredient that would make you a "zombie" CBD isn't going to make you less alert. If you aren't comfy taking it with a toddler around wait until they are in bed.
047032495 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:37:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What brand do you use and what's the thc/cbd content? My wife suffers from anxiety and is having a tough time finding cbd that works for her.
dmt267 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:29:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tell her to try Valerian root or ashwagandha instead
047032495 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:58:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your username and me misreading ashwagandha as ayahuasca had me going "Yeah, I don't think 8 hours of intense hallucinations is going to help." haha. I'll give these a try. Thanks a lot.
dmt267 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:01:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lmao yeah definitely wouldn't want that . Sure thing~
rkent27 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:32:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was really hopeful about ashwagandha, but it did not help me at all. Actually it makes me break down in tears for no reason. Heard a lot of good about it though, worth trying.
Gooderstuffs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:48:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can I take both together?
dmt267 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:01:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can but it's best to cycle between them,like say 2 weeks of Valerian then switch to ashwagandha. Noticed Valerian isn't working as well as it did back in December so I've switched to ashwagandha for now
prayingmantras ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 17:15:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's best to cycle between Valerian steel and dragon glass if you really want to kill anxiety I find.
hahastonedem ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:33:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Giving multiple things a try is fine too, ashwaganda didnโt effect me as well as CBD
hahastonedem ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:32:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I got a battery less vape from select cbd while I was in NYC I think it was like 250mg. It worked so well I bought a tincture from Lazarus Naturals 750mg. Check out the CBD subreddit too!
TheKingofMars_ ยท -8 points ยท Posted at 02:55:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
CBD is literally worthless
patricia-the-mono ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:19:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly if it helps people, or those people think it helps them, what's the problem here?
TheKingofMars_ ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 05:44:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its snake oil.
ickystickydicky ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:51:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Got any sources on that?
I'm genuinely curious as someone who enjoys high TCH weed for recreational purposes, but hasn't ever tried any of these new cbd products or CBD dominant strains that keep coming out.
TheKingofMars_ ยท -8 points ยท Posted at 05:44:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anecdotal evidence
TweektheGeek ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 02:58:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Careful with that. You're going to anger the hivemind.
dmt267 ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 03:29:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a waste of money. Try actual herbs that would.help with that like Valerian root or ashwagandha
CommutesByChevrolegs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pass. I eat valerian steel for breakfast.
flippiej ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:18:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My anxiety is mostly during the day, so what I do is drink decaf in the morning and afternoon. In the evening if my schedule is clear and I don't have to go anywhere I can drink coffee with caffeine.
Works wonders for not having my anxiety shoot through the roof for a couple of hours. I should have started doing this years ago.
Reeditor ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:59:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try working your way down to a cup a day, if you feel better try switching to two cups of green tea a day, if you feel better try one cup of green tea โ it doesnโt have to be all or nothing, you can do experiments.
For what itโs worth, Iโve got pretty rough anxiety and reducing my caffeine intake made a dramatic difference โ in addition to therapy, exercise, meds and reading about the affliction.
frolicking_elephants ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:03:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just drink decaf. It tastes just as good.
im_twelve_ ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:45:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But the caffeine headaches are the absolute worst! None of the regular OTC pain relievers touch them and they just throb.
Whocket_Pale ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:30:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I gave it up after drinking 5-6 cups of strong coffee a day. The withdrawal headache was murder, but you only go through the withdrawal once, maybe 36 hours after your last cup, and never again.
You only get them over and over if you keep relapsing lol
Or maybe I just have a different biology
frolicking_elephants ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:49:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wean yourself off slowly!
CheesestCrust31q ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:04:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try Excedrin migraine. It works wonders for caffeine headaches. It has caffeine
mnemosandai ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:35:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try guarana. Gives you the energy without anxieties and is much milder on the stomach
miss_memologist ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:54:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try gradually less coffee+decaf as a replacement. Life without coffee is so much less jittery. Source: Coffee addict for 10 years. Quit in November. Flat whte decafs taste like a real deal.
Mrsbear19 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:55:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youโve had a full life at 12 years old
the_last_hairbender ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:41:34 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/decaf welcomes you
Skyblacker ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:47:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smoking cigarettes and drinking coffee reduce your odds of getting Parkinson's disease. Guess what happened to my dad a few years after he went cold turkey. My Keurig is a goddamn life raft.
MadMrCrazy ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 02:10:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I will say to others to be cautious about going cold turkey on caffeine.
AshesToProveIt ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:10:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I didn't. I figured out I could live without it after drinking mostly water at a convention one weekend (I disliked coffee, but I was addicted to Pepsi). To ween myself off, I switched to iced tea which had a fraction of the caffeine Pepsi has, and alternated that with water or juice. Eventually I cut out the iced tea. I also lost a lot of weight giving up soda, but I gained it back and more when I quit smoking.
MadMrCrazy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:48 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh nicely done!
GeekyKirby ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 02:17:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Caffeine typically decreases my anxiety in moderate doses. However, large doses will increase my anxiety. It's all about balance.
dxxxwnfvll ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:05:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As all things should be
MajesticFlapFlap ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 02:54:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"hummingbird on cocaine" is the best expression haha
miss_memologist ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:59:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always wondered what I looked like after a couple of double espressos, this is spot on
ladyhawk16 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:26:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My God. Hummingbird on cocaine is 100% the most accurate way to describe how I feel 90% of the time
PM_ME_UR_PIG_GIFS ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:39:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jesus, yes. It can make such a huge difference. I was one of those people who could not imagine life without caffeine. Then I kind of quit by accident, and I felt SO MUCH BETTER. But when I tell my friends with anxiety that, they just laugh because "What is life without caffeine?"
Zukazuk ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:59:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tell people I don't drink caffeine because I have anxiety and I'm really sensitive to it and I get a lot of weird looks. The only time I drink coffee is when I have a migraine. I also feel like not being acclimated to it makes it more effective for treating my migraines as well. I can tell though when I do drink it my anxiety skyrockets, but then I usually pass out and try to sleep off the migraine.
AshesToProveIt ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:19:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Medications like Midol (recommended not just for period pain) and Excederin actually have caffeine right in it because in small doses, it CAN help, especially with headaches and migraines. It's like any drug: in small doses it can be helpful, but if you develop a dependency on it it's not going to work right and you'll need more.
namenumberdate ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:01:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just gave up caffeine this past December. I canโt believe how less anxious I am. I donโt even miss coffee anymore. I used to drink a trenta iced coffee (light or no ice) with 3 espresso shots from Starbucks.
BasicDesignAdvice ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:26:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am in week two. All I've had is since green tea a couple mornings.
The withdrawal is no joke.
AshesToProveIt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:17:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used ice tea to help me ween off of it. I'd switch it up with water or juice and drink less and less of it until it was cut out of my life. I didn't think I could stand the withdrawal but doing it that way made it manageable.
Sizlemyburger ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:44:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've got a case of vertigo once. It was like riding the gravatron at six flags for a week straight. Worst feeling ever. Can't imagine what it is like to get it on a regular basis
no_salt_just_lime ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:20:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
9 months. I had it for 9 months last year. Now I've found the right meds, and I'm just grateful every day I wake up and don't feel drunk.
MirandaCozzette ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:15:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I should do this but it makes me so unproductive. Iโve definitely learned the hard way that it increases my anxiety, so Iโve taught myself to cope better.
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:34:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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prayingmantras ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:56:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah...all or nothing bro. /s
Rodgers4 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:20:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try a 15-20oz glass of water with electrolyte tablets added. Itโs amazing what that will do to you. You may quit coffee on that alone.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:48:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
According to the ADHD thread the other day this isn't good advice for people with ADHD who seem to become less agitated with more caffeine. Not an expect though so I'm not sure how true it is.
PoliteDebater ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:03:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have ADHD, can confirm it does.
CamHC ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:53:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow I finally found a spirit animal that encapsulates my being
InerwebsRwise ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:48:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm. Was consuming 200+ mg of caffeine every day for a few years straight with maybe a few days here and there with 100 mg or none at all. Never noticed withdrawal symptoms when I stopped or when I had less. This winter I slipped into a depression and eventually had a major anxiety break. Had sleepless nights on end, but quit caffeine and it took a couple weeks, but symptoms began to subside. When I would feel normal again, Iโd try caffeine. It would feel good, but after a few days straight of 100 mg, anxiety would begin to return. Unsure if I went sober long enough to break the association and the cycle, but itโs a work in progress, and Iโve noticed I really donโt need the caffeine the way I thought I did. (Also reduced alcohol intake, appears to help a lot as well).
_DirtyYoungMan_ ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:16:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to drink a pot of coffee every morning and after a few years I started to have random anxiety attacks for no reason (I'm not a nervous or anxious person so it was very weird for me to be having them). I quit coffee and haven't had one since.
mayseek ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:05:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I had a decently low caffeine consumption until a few weeks ago, when I began to drink the new green Monsters. I felt exhausted without having one or a cup of coffee.
I quit caffeine a few days ago and now that the withdrawal headache is gone, I'm already feeling better!
EDIT: dunno how to spell
nadnerb811 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:03:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm surprised no one has suggested tea as an alternative to coffee. Green and black (though, less so) tea contain L-Theanine, which "counteracts" the caffeine in a way. It is the supposed reason that tea doesn't give you a "buzz and crash", but instead makes the caffeine effect milder and over a longer period of time. It has also been shown to reduce anxiety and depression in some studies. And green tea is pretty good for you as well, for other reasons.
spunkychickpea ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:19:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I switched to half-caf a week ago, and Iโm amazed at the difference. I sleep better, my mood has drastically improved, and I manage to get a little bit more stuff done each day. 10/10 Highly recommended
dmt267 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:28:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm the opposite, caffeine actually helps with my anxiety specially social anxiety
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:53:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me it helps too. It could be that it stops the withdrawal symptoms which can include anxiety but it could be something else.
jaanders ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:22:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same goes for adderal
DreamLogic89 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:59:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for this beautiful analogy! It made my day :)
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:24:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to get vertigo and/or hearing loss, crippling at times (had to leave my students in the care of another so I could lay down for a couple hours). I finally recognized caffeine and salt were two certain triggers. By cutting back, my symptoms went away. Now I can feel the vertigo or hearing loss sensations building up and either drink a ton of water or prepare to lay down. I also went to an ent doctor who recognized Meneireโs Disease as a likely culprit.
K-Jonatan-B ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:40:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am 15. Those around me, younger, and peers, have mostly all tried coffee. I have not, and I don't plan to. My sister likes it, and my friend posts pictures of his Starbucks on Insta occasionally. I just need a better sleep schedule
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:00:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt start.
I didnโt drink coffee (or even tea) until i was 19, and I was doing absolutely fine before that.
Now I have this voice in my head that says that coffee makes me more fun and extroverted (it most likely doesnโt), which makes it hard for me to quit.
K-Jonatan-B ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:32:25 on May 9, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aaah okay. I'll avoid it as long as I can.
AshesToProveIt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:16:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was never a big fan of coffee, although it's what go me started on caffeine when I was REALLY young (I used to finish the sugary remains of my grandmother's coffee before she went to work from the age of three on). I was also fortunate to have never gotten into energy drinks. Part of it is my age and where I live: I grew up in a mostly rural area where things like Starbucks and energy drinks didn't reach (and I'm in my 30s, so I grew up before energy drinks were a huge thing). Soda was my huge vice. I'd say stay the course and don't let your friends and peers get to you for your decision not to touch caffeine. The short term benefits aren't usually worth the addiction and long-term issues. For when you get to college, there are herbal teas and such with no caffeine that can help you with energy if you need it to study.
K-Jonatan-B ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:16:36 on May 15, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks!
MrsAlecHardy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:53:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You may feel like youโre missing out at times, but youโre not. If weโre all honest it doesnโt taste good, it eats up your money, and itโs addictive so fast itโs nuts. The habit and ritual around drinking coffee is just there to make it more socially acceptable (excusing cultural differences) and enjoying a hot chocolate or a nice herbal tea is just as nice.
(This message has been brought to you by a 35 year old coffee addict with anxiety)
K-Jonatan-B ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:31:45 on May 9, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay thank you for your message.
WreakingHavoc640 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:47:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If your blood pressure is wonky it can cause anxiety by causing a fight or flight response in your body. Learned that little tidbit from my rheumatologist and fixed mine and my anxiety disappeared.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:26:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How did you fix it?
WreakingHavoc640 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:30:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Started taking a medication for the autoimmune disorder I have.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:17:30 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Which autoimmune disorder is that?
WreakingHavoc640 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:46:29 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Joint Hypermobility Syndrome
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:27:05 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay. Thank you.
WreakingHavoc640 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:06:31 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No problem. For some people itโs just nothing much, but for some people it really can cause some weird issues. Connective tissue is in everything and itโs basically defective connective tissue ๐
dume- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:48:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm on day 10 caffeine free and I wish I had stopped drinking coffee a long time ago. Itโs done a lot to help reduce my anxiety. I can manage it easier now.
lifeisdeadly ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:45:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I quit caffeine a few months ago suddenly. I drank/ate 200-300 mgs a day. Funny thing that i feel nothing really changed, I still work like before. What is changed though that i yawning much less and having fewer and less painful headaches.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:56:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drugs (yeah even CAFFEINE) + anxiety = more... Anxiety.
mckatli ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:04:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have anxiety and IBS so I absolutely cannot deal with coffee. Lack of caffeine makes some mornings hard, but it does force me to get a solid 8 hours of sleep every night so I can actually function the next day
Lyzzzzzy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:25:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was your vertigo physical or anxiety induced?
AshesToProveIt ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:30:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Physical. It was actually a rare side effect of a medication I took, but after I stopped taking it the effect was permanent. The "attacks" I got would last weeks and render me unable to stand, walk, or even watch things without getting sick. I gave up gaming for a while because sometimes bright, flashing colors would trigger the attacks. I still get them occasionally, but not as often or for nearly as long. Hoping the imbalance in my head that caused it is finally correcting itself.
Lyzzzzzy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, that sounds awful. I hope it gets better. I was asking because I was diagnosed with panic disorder and I get the sensation of falling or walking on a boat quite a lot. I was never an anxious person, all of this hit me out of nowhere. I'm on zoloft now, but the vertigo hasn't gone away, and I'm wondering if it's something else. I get heart palpitations all the time too.
okaymoose ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:47:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also quit smoking. Smoking causes anxiety and depression.
Sassy-nach ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:14:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I started to pee blood and my drs were freaking, had to have tests and it ended up being a reaction to caffeine. I was literally being checked for cancer etc, I had to give up decaf for the most part too because if a coffee shop gives me caffeine instead of decaf by accident I end up being ill again.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:36:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At various points I have taken breaks from caffeine and alcohol. Although reducing caffeine certainly helps ease anxiety, Iโve found (for me at least) that the reduction is MUCH more substantial when you cut out alcohol.
kchow81 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:19:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Upvoting for the advice- witching I could upvote a second time for the imagery of a hummingbird on cocaine. ๐
countdogula789 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:41:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You what, I don't what no hangover, I can't get no hangover.
beatsvaper ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:55:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This.
I was having panic attacks (which i didnt know were attacks) where everything went blury and i felt like i was falling. After seeing like 6 doctors thinking something might've been wrong with my brain, turns out it was anxiety that was triggered, sometimes, by my caffeine intake.
FarBlueShore ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:37:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ditching habitual caffeine was one of the best things I've ever done for my mental health.
thebunz21 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:55:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Currently laying in bed with what I believe to be my fourth vertigo attack since having my baby in January. I actually fell down this time. The room spins like Iโm drunk, I have a headache, and I want to vomit. Any tips you can share on how to deal with this?
AshesToProveIt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:28:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cutting out caffeine did help, but if you had a baby I assume you already did that. For me, avoiding things like flashing lights and colors helped for a while. And just closing my eyes and waiting it out, which might be hard with a little one.
thebunz21 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:01:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I still have some espresso every morning, but will eliminate. I am wondering, too, if this can be a side effect of Zoloft now that I think of it. Will call my doctor this morning. Thanks for your reply!!
paladin400 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:10:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I recently switched coffee for matcha tea for the same reason. Not as strong as coffee, but it lasts way longer and there is no crash or anxiety Itโs more expensive, and itโs a pain to prepare, but Iโve never been more relaxed in my life. Ironically, I feel more awake now
Pixikr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:23:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Strange enough caffeine actually helps me with my anxiety. I feel more confident and put together after a coffee. I stutter less and stand my ground more often.
EatABowlOfSpiderwebs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:51:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did it help the vertigo??
AshesToProveIt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:12:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, it did, although it may have been other factors. I don't get "attacks" as frequently or last nearly as long as they did before.
EatABowlOfSpiderwebs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:14:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt exactly have traditional vertigo. Itโs just a โvestibular disorderโ which sucks because you canโt count on vertigo treatments for the most part. But Iโll try anything so maybe the coffee is an issue. I do drink a ton of coffee.
the_last_hairbender ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:42:54 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
greetings from /r/decaf !
Hydrangea666 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:21:35 on May 18, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Genius! ๐คฃ
[deleted] ยท 21737 points ยท Posted at 23:14:15 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practice gratitude. Grateful people are happy people.
klop422 ยท 5743 points ยท Posted at 00:42:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This includes just saying 'thank you' any time someone does something. Everyone likes to be acknowledged for something, even if it's something small, and just making other people a little happier makes you happier
And I imagine even just noticing how much others do for you is bound to help
FlorenceCattleya ยท 2243 points ยท Posted at 02:05:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So I usually cook dinner, but tonight I was in the middle of something when dinner needed to get started, so my husband did it.
When I got my plate, I thanked him for cooking dinner.
He said, โIโm sorry the pork chops are overseasoned.โ
I said, โI havenโt even tried them yet, but theyโre delicious. You know what the best spice is?โ
โFood somebody else cooked for you?โ
โAbsolutely!โ
I know heโs not a gourmet chef, but I appreciate the hell out of somebody else cooking for me.
bentnotbroken96 ยท 77 points ยท Posted at 03:38:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So much this.
I'm a good cook... my wife is better. She likes to cook for me. She likes to put food in my hands that she made for me.
Every time... EVERY TIME, I make sure to thank her for the food that she has put into my hands, for me to eat. Also, I always say after, "Thank you for my dinner, that was delicious."
RangaSpartan ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 10:06:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've just started dating a guy who is an incredible cook, everything he's made me has been the sort of good that you have to put your fork down after the first mouthful because it's just so DAMN GOOD. I make sure to thank him each and every time because I never ever ever want him to stop cooking food for me. I'm also unbelievably embarrassed when he comes to mine and I cook for him, I'm so much worse than him!
jdman929 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 17:52:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is he single?
RangaSpartan ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 18:40:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not for long, Iโm locking that down!
jiasss ยท 78 points ยท Posted at 02:15:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Awww you and your husband are so cute. It's always the effort that counts anyway!
finnknit ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 05:16:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's the same with putting away the dishes at our house. My husband doesn't always know where they belong, and sometimes looking for certain items after he put them away is like an Easter egg hunt, but somebody else put away the dishes and I'm grateful.
tinypurplepiggy ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 05:39:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been trying to beat this into my husband's head. His mom loses her crap over everything. It HAS to be done this way or that way or god forbid something end up somewhere beside where she keeps it. She gets angry and pissy over it and generally made him afraid to mess the smallest things up.
He loaded the dish washer by himself for the first time the other day the whole time saying "Sorry, I hope I'm doing this right." or when he peeled and cut potatoes for me "are they okay, did I do it right?" like dude..im going to boil them then mash them, you can't eff them up.
It makes me so angry that she made him this way. But it's also been a really good reminder to have patience with my own children when they aren't doing something "right"
Sometimes I need to go back and fix things because I am super picky about things to a degree.. But I'm not a jerk about it and I'm so grateful I don't have to do all of it
hamburger_2 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:08:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs crazy how lazy parenting can really mess someone up like that. He sounds very insecure and I hope you thank him for his efforts when he does something nice for you.
tinypurplepiggy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:57:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thank him for everything, sometimes just for being him. He's an amazing and kind individual (sometimes too kind). I constantly reassure him as well. He's more assertive and confident now, but he still needs some work. We've talked about therapy but unfortunately can't afford it right now.
She wasn't a lazy parent, just too much of an involved parent, what people now call helicopter parenting. She takes her children's failings as her own personal failings.
We've butted heads multiple times because she doesn't want my 5 yr old to do pretty much anything because "he'll get hurt." No running, no jumping, no being loud.. Basically don't be a 5 yr old boy. I'm more of a "if it won't kill him and he won't listen, I guess he has to learn the hard way" type of parent. I'll watch him get hurt after multiple warnings, comfort and clean him up, and then have a discussion about thinking things through before you do them...
Maybe you aren't wrong, maybe being a helicopter parent IS lazy parenting
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:08:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im a bit conflicted here because my mum is exactly the same. Never wanted me to do anything that was even slightly risky and its hard to please her at times. Ive turned out to be a very anxious person and its partly because of that but she is also the most kind and loving mum i could ever possibly ask for
tinypurplepiggy ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 16:49:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
She's very kind and loving too. I love her as much as I can't stand her. It's a strange balance. I know she seriously means well, she isn't trying to be mean, hateful, or disrespectful.. It's just the way she is. She also does make an effort to not do things you don't like.
She experienced a lot of trauma growing up and holds a lot of anger because of it still. She also isn't handling aging and being less able-bodied as well,or the death of her husband of 50 years. I guess she's always been like this to a degree, but it's exacerbated quite a bit now.
I know from personal experience that attempting control everything you can is an anxiety reaction to coping with things you have no control over. I'm very guilty of it myself and have spent years training myself to deal with it and not allow it to spill onto others.
bambinone ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 05:04:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife and I thank each other for everything. Cleaning, cooking, shopping, feeding dear daughter, etc. I thought it was weird at first but you know what... there's something to it.
Snuggles_m ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:31:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I second that. We thank for things we do for each other all the time.
Godzilla453 ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 03:22:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
False. Turmeric is the best spice.
Timothahh ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 05:33:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Paprika
SilverRock75 ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 05:48:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smoked Paprika
Timothahh ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:08:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/madlads
paprikashi ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:15:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So good
millyfoo ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 07:23:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hunger is the best spice
Ragnar_D ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:30:32 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worcestershire
ThisAfricanboy ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:10:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a full tube of tumeric and I've no idea what to cook it with. Any suggestions?
WhyIsTheMoonThere ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:59:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Curried chicken wings my friend. Put some olive oil in a dish, add your tumeric and other spices you like and mix it all together. Put some chicken wings in the dish and let it marinate for 24 hours. Then, throw those suckers in the oven and let them get nice and crispy. You'll want to eat them all the damn time.
ThisAfricanboy ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:20:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmm it's a good thing I already have some curry powder. I'm getting wings! Thanks for this I'll try it out
WhyIsTheMoonThere ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:27:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No problem! Hope you enjoy them. Don't be afraid to experiment with different spices too, it takes a bit of trial and error to get the blend you like.
ThisAfricanboy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:35:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learnt this with pilau masala! Absolutely divine
WhyIsTheMoonThere ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:37:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Experimenting with cooking is the best. Adding or taking away what seem like such minor elements can be a real game changer!
ThisAfricanboy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:54:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Right?? When I first started cooking adding a dash of ketchup made such a difference I was stunned!
mercuryminded ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:37:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Literally anything, but careful what you're wearing when you use it
ThisAfricanboy ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 11:23:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ice cream?
ChargeYourBattery ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 11:30:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, you don't want to cook with turmeric while you're wearing ice cream
helpmewatson ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 11:44:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
THIS so much this! I grew up listening to my dad constantly critique every meal my mom made, which was 100% every meal. One day my dad said something about a specific meal my mom had made the previous week, which he of course bashed the week before. I couldn't take it anymore. So I instigated the following conversation...
Me: "Dad, since you're such a better cook, why don't you ever cook?"
Dad: "That's your mothers job"
Me: " ok, so if her job is to come home from work and cook dinner, then your job is to come home from work, watch tv, and then complain about dinner."
Dad: "I have a hard and stressful job"
Me: "so does mom, when she gets home"
Family: *awkward silence
Me: "Mom, I appreciate dinner tonight. It is delicious. Thank you"
Dad: *up and leaves table.
Me: "You didn't ask to be excused."
Dad: "I didn't raise a brat."
Me: "No, you didn't do that either, Mom did. Im sure you'll complain about that too."
Dad: *slams door as he leaves the house.
Me: "I guess I'm doing dishes tonight for punishement."
Mom: "No, you're doing dishes tonight because it's your assigned chore. We're making popcorn and watching whatever movie you want as your reward."
Me: "But I made dad mad"
Mom: "you just told the truth about how you feel. Telling the truth is not always easy."
Side note, my Mom was a terrible cook. All her meals were awful. I ate everyone happily though. I was a shit teenage daughter in many other ways. I did always appreciate her meals though. Even as an adult when I visit her, her cooking is terrible. No I don't want to eat smashed, low fat grilled cheese with split pea soup sans salt, unless my mom makes it.
I've turned out to be a very good cook myself. On the level of friends invite themselves over and bring specific foods for me to cook for their meal preps.
100% the best meals I've ever had are the ones made for me. I can stomach anything (so far) that someone else put their time and pasion into. I ALWAYS praise them and thank them, its not even fake. Seriously, you did this! You did this for me! Best seasoning... Even better than hunger.
Also, parents now long divorced. Mom is living a great life, has a long term partner that adores her. She smiles now, something I never saw before.
flordemaga ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:47:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No such thing as over seasoned :P
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:46:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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CompassionateHypeMan ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:09:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Past a certain point, you're just peeling off a seasoning shell and BAM, less seasoning.
MrCrash2U ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 13:29:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a former chef...no one EVER cooks for me. I remember the exact moment I fell in love with a ex. She told me to sit down and she was going to cook for me because she bet no one ever does.
She made a curry fish stew that was out of this world. Coupled with the fact that she made it for me it was still one of the best things Iโve ever eaten.
The thing that really stood out was how unapologetic she was. The gesture was nice, the food was spectacular, but that level of confidence just did it for me.
hurryupand_wait ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:51:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
great couple!
AncientSwordRage ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:28:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And the award for most adorable couple goes to.....
/u/FlorenceCattleya and their husband
PM_ME_YOUR_DEAD_KIDS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:34:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
can i get an award? I want something
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:10:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
pm sent
VerySmartandHandsome ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:49:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good for you! I've switched 'shit I have to cook dinner for the family' to 'I get to cook a meal for my family, then sit with them and enjoy it, to talk and laugh and see my children enjoy something I made.' It really does make a difference.
Birddawg65 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:36:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That anecdote made me cry a little ๐ข
Natenator77 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:34:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hunger is the best spice ;)
flogenerals ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:50:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
SusanTheBattleDoge ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:25:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a guy in college, cooking has become a huge outlet for me. I really enjoy cooking different things. I've been watching a lot of binging with babish on YouTube, as he gives a lot of great tips on how to elevate your cooking skills.
Cooking is an integral skill in my mind, and I'm not going to have my future wife cook dinner every night, that's not fair to her, plus I enjoy cooking.
FlorenceCattleya ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:21:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's great if that's what works for you.
In my family, I am the dinner-cooker, and he's the breakfast maestro. I'm better at dinner, but that man makes melt-in-your-mouth crepes, waffles that make angels sing, fluffy omelets, and crispy bacon.
Just because I cook dinner doesn't mean that the division of labor in my household is uneven.
SusanTheBattleDoge ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:23:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You should show him the moon waffles episode from binging with babish. My goodness I want to make babish's version of them. They look so good.
And I suppose I made an assumption, however that is kind of because I've forgotten breakfast is even a thing haha.
[deleted] ยท 51 points ยท Posted at 01:47:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But make sure it's sincere appreciation. I know you're saying that, but the distinction matters.
KriosDaNarwal ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:00:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alternatively, make them think it's sincere. That's what matters
whatififififif ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 02:07:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well... no. The point is to be sincerely grateful for what people do for you, because that frame of mind is good for your mental health. The fact that people like you for your gratitude is only a very nice side effect.
JackLyo17 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:52:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Agreed, I am not totally appreciative of the person making my sandwich at Subway, they're being paid to do it and I am paying for it. But you're damn-well sure I am saying thank you when they hand me it.
KriosDaNarwal ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:07:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly. I may not give a fuck, I really don't most times but it's polite, it doesn't hurt and it's in everyone's best interest. So, I do it.
[deleted] ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:04:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, because that's being manipulative. Don't do this.
[deleted] ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:10:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:17:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks booboo
KriosDaNarwal ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:07:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's polite, it doesn't hurt and it's in everyone's best interest. So, I do it. What's wrong exactly?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:39:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because that's called being fake as shit. Mean what you say and say what you mean.
KriosDaNarwal ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 16:28:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Humans do not work like that, you can't magically force yourself to care about every little thing out there. Let me know the peer reviewed science that says you can if I'm wrong, I'm waiting. I do sales and I'm sure the legion of people who work customer service, sales, tech support and every other call center and remote support jobs can agree with me when I say there is hardly anyone going through anything unique.
Most costumers make the same stupid joke when I read a particular part of my disclaimers, most respond the same a little family joke I tend to make when wrapping up, everyone just lost a job, got divorced, lost their mom or some other tragic shit. After a few few years or months of this even the most empathetic human will be numbed and I wasn't very emotional from the get go.
Now you say, "that's called being fake as shit", as if it's a bad thing to let someone believe you did feel appreciative for the help/assistance/purchase or whatever? Care to state exactly what would make it so?
Being appreciative is polite. Politeness breeds politeness and a polite interaction is a nice interaction. It helps everyone, I like it and I'm paid for it, it doesn't hurt. So even tho I don't feel like being polite inside, where's the harm in simply pretending? It solves more problems. Same with being appreciative. You'd have to be an idiot to not see that laughing at the joke a guy who just lost his mom made(as lame as it is) and sharing a few light-hearted anecdotes hurts no one and is a damn decent thing to do. Vs what you seem to be suggesting and just being blasรฉ and going, "I'm sorry to hear that your mom died", in a monotonous 'I-Heard-This-A-Million-Times-before-just-pay-your-bill-on-time-next-time-pls' voice.
So what exactly is wrong with being fake here?
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:09:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone should do this.
AsleepEfficiency ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:59:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good advice, u/HitlerBeautyPageant
klop422 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:59:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes even just thanking people to be polite will start to show how much others do for you
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:40:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is this like a "fake it til you make it" scenario?
klop422 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:59:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd say so
SomeBroadYouDontKnow ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:57:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think this goes double in a relationship too. If you notice the dishwasher is suddenly clean, laundry is folded, or you have a bit more groceries than you did yesterday, say "thank you for doing this," to your partner. It costs you nothing, makes them happy that their efforts were noticed, while also helping you recognize when you might be slacking a bit, if you ever notice you've been saying "thanks" a lot but haven't done much yourself.
WenatcheeValley ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:39:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Such fucking good and under appreciated LTR advice. Itโs so easy to stop acknowledging, which leads to not noticing, which leads to taking for granted.
SomeBroadYouDontKnow ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:04:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep! My parents were very much of the mindset that you don't get praise for things you're supposed to do, but I've happily bucked that trend in adulthood, as I think a lack of praise (even for things that we, yes should probably do anyway) contributes a lot to negative feelings. I think it not only makes people take their partner's work for granted, but that it also leads to resentment. If you overlook your partner's contributions while tallying up your own, you'll eventually have a (possibly incorrect) perception of imbalance-- or maybe the imbalance is correct, but you'll be more likely to be okay with letting your partner lean on you if you know you can lean on them too.
Also, at the end of a long or particularly stressful day, sometimes just acknowledging that someone took something off your plate can be a huge relief!
throwitaway488 ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 02:05:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also "thank you" is a whole lot better than "I'm sorry" when someone is being patient with you. (Obviously apologize when you do something wrong, but this is more towards people who endlessly say I'm sorry).
sirfiggynewton ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:04:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is my anxiety at restaurants. I literally say thank you to everything. Waiter brings water: thank you. Howโs the food? Thank you.
professorhazard ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:46:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm sure they prefer too many thanks to not enough thanks.
Also you can make it up to them by tipping and all sins will be forgiven in their eyes.
JackLyo17 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:58:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes if the waiter brings over food/drinks I'll say "awesome" or "great" or something to that effect. I feel like it breaks up the monotony of saying thank you to everything while also showing appreciation for the action.
Timothahh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:38:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm in the habit of saying โthank you so muchโ but I also really mean it. Restaurant workers work their asses off
Dorwytch ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:02:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am a fucking "thank you" machine.
Also I'm Canadian, no correlation ;)
EdselFordsRevenge ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:58:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Canadian โthank-youโ game is no fucking joke. Phone calls with clients can get insane:
โHey just getting back to you about that job you wanted done. Thanks again for your interest.โ
โNo problem, thanks for getting back so soon.โ
โSo this is the price and this is when we can do it.โ
โSounds great, thanks!โ
โOkay, see you then. Thanks again.โ
โThank you, bye.โ
I have that exact conversation about a dozen times a day.
Dorwytch ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:01:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't think I've sent a single email in the past two years without "thank you" or "thanks" somewhere in there. I've been trained from birth, like the Spartans, except in thanking people rather than slapping invading persians upside the head.
klop422 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:09:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just use it as my greeting at the end at this point. Sounds less weird than telling the recipient I'm 'theirs'
djfl ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:28:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I volunteered at my daughter's school today. I worked in the cafeteria for a few hours. Two things to validate your statements. 1) The cafeteria lady was so grateful and appreciative for the (I'm pretty sure substandard) work I was doing. I'm a 40 year old dude, and it made me feel useful. People naturally feel good when they're contributing to the group. Saying thanks just does help this. 2) I noticed on the cafeteria lady's bulletin board that she had 2 pictures. One was of her kids...standard. Another was from a girl who graduated last year, and a note that said "thanks for feeding us and the great conversation! Angela". I don't know how close these two were, but I remember doing stuff like that when I was a kid and thinking not much of it. Now, I see that a similar photo/card in one of two on this lady's bulletin board 9ish months later.
So, you're right. Gratitude is a really good thing that makes people feel better and perpetuates itself.
ausernametoforget ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:05:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is something I actually practice, especially when I receive good service from someone who works in a job that's regularly shit on, such as (fast) food service workers, call centre workers, etc. I also try to show my gratitude to people who work in call centres who can't actually do what I'm requesting, even though I'm pissed off at the policies or circumstances, I want them to know I'm not pissed at them.
kyzasmad ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:52:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm learning to say thank you, I struggle with it bc I always got shouted at when I didnt say it fast enough. Or i always say thanks after I eat bc it feels weird to say it before for some reason and I always feel extremely rude the entire time I'm eating at someones if it's the first time and they dont know me that well.
megggie ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:07:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, there's "thanks for cooking!" and "thanks, that was delicious!" The first always applies; the second may or may not (but in 90% of cases you should say thank you anyway).
Food I don't have to cook is ALWAYS worth a thank you.
Bsharpes ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:05:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Canadian checking in. I feel Weird when i thank everyone all the time for minimal things. Its a reflex
klop422 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:11:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a Brit (though I hear Canadians do it too) I have the apology reflex. It's a weird one
PopeTheReal ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:20:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel weird not telling Siri thank you. So sometimes I do
klop422 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:12:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I sometimes tell the self-serve checkout...
AsleepEfficiency ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:58:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a cart pusher/grocery bagger, just hearing someone say thank you can turn your day around. (Also when people actually put small carts and big carts in different lanes of the cart chorale.)
mchrristinee ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:05:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My favorite thing to do to praise my fiancรฉ is to thank him for asking me to help him. He knows Iโll do what I can to ease his load, but he still has a hard time letting me help. So when he asks, itโs a big deal.
Thanking someone for things that they arenโt used to doing or have a hard time doing reassures them that thereโs nothing wrong with doing the thing. Help people do the thing. Itโll help you, too.
Gratefulgirl13 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:45:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โI appreciate youโ followed by exactly what you appreciate can be huge.
SpewsHate ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:51:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was at a Starbucks once and thanked the barista and she literally stopped the line to thank me for my gratitude. I was a tourist so she laughed and said not a lot of people thanked her where she was.
GelatinArmor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:55:27 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What country were you in, if I may ask? And what country is your home in?
SpewsHate ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:52:10 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
USA! I am from Minnesota and this happened I. California.
Lady_Jeanne ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:41:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So a little while ago I went through some intense shit (long and hard story) but I walked away from it with a promise that I made - I call it my "2 x philosophy" just so I can explain it.
Basically, I promised to make 2 people smile a day - help 2 people a month in any way possible and to change 2 peoples lives during my lifetime.
2 is such a small number that it is always achievable and I hope that some of those people that I reach will pay it forward and create a ripple effect.
Its my small way of trying to change the world with a little bit of kindness.
ChaptainAhab ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:57:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am an American wrapping up a couple weeks in Vietnam. My buddy has been my translator but I made sure to learn Thank You in Vietnamese. Even just that little gesture turns their impression of you right around. It makes their whole day, year even hahaha. I make sure to say it to my hosts when I leave all the way to when a waiter brings me a tea. It's so simple and yet so rewarding.
klop422 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:16:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hear also that if you're in a foreign country, even trying to speak their language really improves their opinion of you
megggie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:03:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I live in the South-- "yes ma'am/sir" and "thank you" are ingrained. I think we should think about what we're saying (showing respect, being grateful) more than just saying it.
However if this is new to someone, saying it is a great start :)
Mr_Mandingo93 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:04:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
well also being grateful to people that do something for you and expressing how much you appreciate it gives them gratification and makes them want to do more things for you. its a great manipulation tactic. trust me.
klop422 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:21:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, I use it to manipulate people to be happier, but I'll keep it in mind if I ever become a cultist
Thanks for the manipulation tricks
davidhluther ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:12:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is good advice. My girlfriend has a thing about gratitude and thank you, like borderline obsessive. It feels odd to say that her wanting me to say thank you is a burden, but she had a childhood thing that makes her want me to say thank you for stuff that I just normally donโt... just a difference in approaches.
Regardless, I figured that it wasnโt worth picking a fight over saying thank you, because thatโs really not a battle I can justify. So I do now, I thank her for everything and it spilled over into the rest of my life and people notice. You can see it in peopleโs faces at work, they kind of stop and look at you a second and you can tell they appreciate it... and thatโs kind of gratifying in its own way.
It started out as a mindless thing, like saying bless you after every sneeze, but I love started realizing that Iโm genuinely more aware of what people do for me, in my work life and just going around town. And thatโs spilled over to genuine gratitude, where Iโm appreciative of most of the things in my life, not just my girlfriend bringing me a glass of water when she gets one for herself.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:38:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learned to say โthank youโ for whatever someone does. Just because I thought itโs nice thing to do. Later I discovered I think about every โthank youโ I say. I realized those words, said without much thinking in the beginning, led me to appreciate everything I was thanking for. (Kind of โfake it till you make it.โ)
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:52:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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Dorwytch ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:04:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just like the way "no worries" or "of course" sounds though
jiasss ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:13:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmm doesn't feel much different when someone tells me "no problem" vs when they tell me "you're welcome" though
klop422 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:05:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, to me those are interchangeable responses. I use them interchangeably
Kambers_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:07:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've got a bad habit of saying Thank You. I say it anytime someone gives me more work to do at work....I never realized it until someone at my last job pointed it out bc they handed me something to do knowing I was drowning in other work and I still said "thank you." I was one of those ppl who was good at my job and instead of hiring when someone left, I would have to do their job (took over 2 positions on top of my own and no raise...).
ToxicJaeger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:08:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know i always say thank you but I never really mean it you know? Itโs just something I say almost under my breathe as i walk through a door someoneโs holding for me or when someone picks up a pencil I dropped. I am only now realizing that and Iโm definitely going to put a conscious effort in to stopping that. So thank you.
ThiccMongoose2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've even low-key started saying please and thank you to my Google Home and my roommates have started to be more courteous as a result. It's wild.
klop422 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:19:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As I said elsewhere, I'm a bit too polite to self-service checkouts
K-Jonatan-B ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:24:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I feel like my peaceful and friendly personality has been disturbed, and I want to restore it. I very much say "Thank You" Frequently.
mrfatso111 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:29:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is the same reason why I type good morning in group chat and good morning at work.
It is the easiest thing to do and likely will help brighten someone's else day.
booklover13 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:10:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually donโt have thank you as my default work signature for this reason. It means I have to type it out for every email. I do it so I get a constant reminder to actually thank people with every email I send.
It also helps me mentally de-escalate and remember often the person has to deal with me as much as I have to deal with them. A little consideration and acknowledgement go a long way internally and externally.
Jennifra ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:58:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Welcome to Canada!
BatmanPicksLocks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:11:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But dont over do it. My boss is too nice. Says thank you for the same thing 10 times in a convo. Asks 6 times if something is okay even after you've expressed it's perfectly okay. Etc.
klop422 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:23:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll agree I do it a bit too much - it took some time to stop confirming plans with someone so much, assuming I have any
BatmanPicksLocks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:39:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I was more or less the same way. But I realized how annoying it can be and started working on it
Cant_Do_This12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:19:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"be right back I have to take a dump"
"thank you"
klop422 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:24:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Better or worse than "enjoy yourself"?
dimlink ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:32:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I say Please and Thank You to any Alexa or Google device I ask something from. My friends say I'm just trying to earn points with Skynet. But honestly it just helps me appreciate what a wonderful resource they are. I don't need a response (though Google now offers an acknowledgement). I do it in traffic, on the bus, to animals, to people I am just thinking about - anytime I can. It makes a huge difference on my inner dialogue and orientation of appreciation.
succubusprime ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:53:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My (future) husband is a great cook. I always say thank you when he cooks for me. Even when he is rewarming leftovers I am grateful because he is doing me a huge favor because I just dont feel like it! I appreciate him
gabz09 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:35:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because of my mother's advice I go out of my way to compliment workers if they do a good job, because most of the time they only hear the complaints and when they do a good job it goes unnoticed. I personally know that hearing a compliment about the work you do makes you feel valuable and good and will make you strive to continue to be as good as you can.
loooosing ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:13:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saying thank you and being intentional is so underrated. It even works when youโre fucking up: โThank you for your patience with meโ
Theycallmelizardboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:21:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wholeheartedly agree. Except the cold reality is that most people don't give a flying fuck about anyone but themselves.
klop422 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:30:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eh, even so. Many people care about other people in at least the moment they're doing things, and even if not, if they're doing something for you mindlessly, letting them know still makes them notice it and feel good
strategicallusionary ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:27:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a Canadian, this is hard to wrap my brain around, cause we say 'thanks' (and 'sorry') ago much it's ingrained in everything.
RibNizzla ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:24:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i agree! being british, we say thank you even when we do something for someone else lol
agentredfishbluefish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:27:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mother raised me with really good manners. It's hard for me to not say thank you and have a good day to someone even if they are rude to me.
The number of times I've seen a smile and those words make others perk up.... even the rude ones.
kittyy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:23:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I make a point of thanking my fiancรฉ everytime he drives me to work. He doesn't have to, I don't ask him to, and he knows I am A-OK with walking. But everyday he brings me there because he "wants to spend more time" with me. I don't ever want him to think I take that for granted. Practice gratitude, it can only help you.
potatorootvegetable ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:42:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always say thank you to people after they finish their shift, even though many supervisors and managers take the stance of "it's their job to do it, we shouldn't have to thank them." People respond to it so much and they're much more likely to go above and beyond for you if they know they'll get praise from it.
joshi38 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:26:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's also one of those things that we all crave and almost never get. We want to be acknowledged for the things we do but rarely are. So when we're thanked, it does mean something.
itsreybecca ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:19:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Level up by saying WHY you appreciate it. "Thank you for taking out the garbage - it was really nice to not worry about it last night." "Thank you for cooking, I love your meals!" "Thank you for handling that problem for me, it was stressing me out and I appreciate the help."
I find so many people say thank you because it's automatic and polite, even if they are being genuine. Add WHY you're thankful and the other person feels even better.
_zzr_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:32:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im a waiter and always notice how often people thank me. Sometimes i get through the whole meal without hearing thank you once, and sometimes people thank me for everything i bring and remove from their table. Wonder which table gets the priority service hmmmm
RallyTheRed ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:18:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this all the time. its surprising to me how often people look at me confused at first.
EltaninAntenna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:36:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And even if youโre an atheist, as I am, a generic โthank youโ to the universe, good fortune or serendipity (or your deity of choice if religious) when something does go your way leaves you in a better frame of mind, simply from the fact of having acknowledged it.
mike_d85 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:00:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. My email signature at work is "Thanks," and plenty of people get the email:
Thanks.
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Thanks,
u/mike_d85
bee_vomit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:56:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always thank the husband for a solid bone sesh. He seems to appreciate it. lol
mynamesnotmolly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:57:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve been doing this since having my son, and I can attest to the fact that it has a really positive impact on your life.
We taught my son sign language before he could talk, including โpleaseโ and โthank you.โ We would always say/sign those things to each other and him, and would always make sure he was doing the same. People would get weirded out by it, surprisingly...like if someone gave him something, weโd remind him to say thank you, and they would be like โno no itโs ok donโt worry.โ Which struck me as odd. But anyway....now heโs four, and trying to model that behavior for him has turned it into a habit in my own life.
Lately weโve been working teaching him to say โIโm sorryโ and โI was wrong.โ Iโm starting to notice that creeping into my life as well, and I think itโs a great thing.
ExStepper ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:42:16 on May 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs true. And so simple and easy. Iโm crazy busy with really thanking people in svc industries and throwing in an actual, observable compliments that I go out of my way to notice, ie telling the cab driver heโs a great driver, telling a server they did a great job at x, y, &/or z, or when a man holds the door for us, I say TY Chivalry lives! My notices are always met with smiles, and sometimes conversation!
And whatโs more, my kid notices! She once wrote a paper about empathy and how you can express it in little everyday moments, โlike when my mommy noticed a blind man struggling to get around people (and a pole) one day, she asked if she could help out. Iโll never forget how helpful my mommy was and how happy the old blind man was for a little help. They made friends.โ ๐ญ
Biermoese ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 11:21:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
> This includes just saying 'thank you' any time someone does something.
GF: *Coughs*
Me: "Thank you"
GF: *Rolls her eyes*
Me: "Thank you"
GF: "What the fuck are you doing?"
Me: "Thank you!"
GF: "Thank me for what??"
Me: "Thank... you?"
GF: *stares at me* "Jesus Gary, you've been on reddit again for too long, am I right?"
Me: "Thank you!!!"
GF: "STOP SAYING THANK YOU!"
Me: "THANK YOU!"
...2 hours later...
GF: "GO FUCK YOURSELF GARY I AM NOT DOING THIS AGAIN, THIS IS THE BANANA SUIT ALL OVER!!!"
Me: "ThhaaAaaaAnNnkKK yyyyyeeeeeeeeaaaaaaahhhhh!!!!!"
GF: "WE'RE DONE!! I'M STAYING AT JENNIFER'S TONIGHT! TOMORROW I AM PICKING UP MY STUFF!!" *leaves*
Me: ....
Me: *sobbing in fetus position* "thank you...hooo...hoooooo"
klop422 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:56:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*"does something for you"
Oops :P
tinydeathclaw ยท 1619 points ยท Posted at 00:22:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This should be at the top. Practice gratitude every day, even if it's for the smallest thing. Be grateful for waking up on time, or that your lunch was extra good, or that you got off work when you were supposed to, or that it wasn't a bleary day. Grateful people ARE happy people and if you can find at least one thing in your day to be grateful for, it makes an impact. It really is the little things.
tinkerbal1a ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 02:30:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It takes not a lot of concerted effort to be kind to others, and once it's started it gets easier. And smiling at people (even just once in a while) does really help your mood, especially if they smile back. There are plenty of grumps in the world and I try my best to not be one of them unless I need to.
andrude01 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 03:28:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm the office grump and one day I tried smiling and being positive and I was told that I was making everyone uncomfortable
TheNakedBass ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:52:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only because it's an unusual change of character. I'm sure if it was a more frequent thing they would warm up to it.
Need_More_Whiskey ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 09:38:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The best thing Iโve ever learned was to also show MYSELF gratitude. I did the dishes tonight even though Iโm exhausted? Tomorrow morning I say a quick โthank you, Last Night Me!โ because I was happy to wake up to a clean kitchen. Knowing I can make Future Me happy is a pretty good incentive to keep doing nice things.
tinydeathclaw ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:17:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is very important!
kea5223 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 03:22:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I read "practice gratitude," I have always thought of things or people to be grateful for. Your comment made me realize I can be grateful to myself and my actions. Like leaving for work 10 minutes early so I don't have to jog to my building. Good comment, I will try to remember I can be thankful to myself.
tinydeathclaw ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 13:35:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Woke up this morning and the first thing I thought was how grateful I was that I made a useful comment!
JulioJones4Mvp ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 13:29:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this times 100x. I always start my mornings off with: "Theres a lot to be grateful for" and i'll proceed by saying three things i'm grateful for on that particular day.
Show gratitude really puts things in perspective!
tinydeathclaw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:16:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It really does!
coffeematt1321 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:22:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This should be at the top. Practice gratitude every day, even if it's for the smallest thing. Be grateful for waking up xx xxxx, or that your lunch was extra good, or that you got off work when you were supposed to, or that it wasn't a bleary day. Grateful people ARE happy people and if you can find at least one thing in your day to be grateful for, it makes an impact. It really is the little things.
(I didnโt have strike through on the mobile)
tinydeathclaw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:20:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
:)
Ophelia_AO ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:09:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like on my worst days, days where I'm just feeling awful or something is going on in my life I tend to practice gratitude even more. It actually makes me feel better and when it doesnt I think, well, I feel like shit but maybe I can make someone else feel good.
CraftyMuthafucka ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:43:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This should be at the bottom. How does this sound like useless advice?
tinydeathclaw ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:23:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It sounded like a piece of useless advice until I tried it :)
MAGA-Godzilla ยท -15 points ยท Posted at 01:31:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is life really so bleak that the things we have to be thankful for are 'not being coerced into working extra hours' and 'waking up on time to get to work'. If that was me I would end it right then and there.
mamajt ยท 52 points ยท Posted at 01:48:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The idea is that your life is going to happen, and you can either find things to complain about, or you can instead choose to find something to be grateful for. It's about attitude. The more you choose to practice gratitude, the brighter life will seem.
As someone with lifelong (medicated) clinical depression, this is something I believe in strongly. I'm already bombarded with feelings of negativity. I can either dwell on the little things that go wrong or I can choose to find pleasure in little things. Eventually the little things merge into one big feeling. Some days my big feeling is horrible misery. But as many days as I can manage, the feeling is gratitude for what I have. Many have far less.
Tvayumat ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:14:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I try to be specifically grateful for the things it's easy to take for granted.
Running water today? A miracle of modern engineering! Imagine life without it.
Sure is great having roads all the way from my house to a grocery store, and a car to drive on them. Most of the historic human experience hasn't had that and much of it still doesn't.
Taking the time to appreciate the things I've had most of my life through little effort of my own has made me a more positive person most of the time, I think. I could be wrong.
eiggaMAD ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:52:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โค๏ธ
Demp_Rock ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:50:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes. Yes, it is for millions of us.
Unnatural-One ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:24:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think thatโd be a very big mistake. Lots of people do have very bleak lives if not for accepting the little positive things as big blessings. I donโt think they should kill themselves.
tinydeathclaw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:18:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're obviously missing the entire point.
MosquitoRevenge ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 11:40:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's starting to sound like something a cult leader would say.
tinydeathclaw ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 13:30:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh no. You found me out. -_-
eyeball-papercut ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 01:48:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's done wonders improving my mental health. I spent a few minutes each morning and at night listing at least five events that were positive and that I was grateful for. I started to notice I felt more positively after a few weeks. You start looking for and sometimes creating positive interactions to add to your list.
It helps.
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:54:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's awesome to hear!
"Just because your life is worse off than someone else's doesn't mean that good things aren't happening to you at the same time."
Relative privation certainly works in more than one way!
BasicDesignAdvice ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:05:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did this by keeping a journal where I write three good things every morning. Had a similar effect of teaching you to look for those things.
sgtxsarge ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:03:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! Whenever someone compliments you the correct response is "thank you". And optionally: An affirmation to reinforce that compliment.
Ex: "I love your hair"
"Thanks! I did it myself"
or
"You've got a great voice"
"Thanks. I've been working on it."
You don't need to use those responses but affirm the compliment back. Don't say something that will negate someone's kindness, because it's like saying "Thanks, but I don't agree with you". As I said; it's optional, so use your own judgment.
One last piece of advice: Take any advice you find with a side of salt. That includes everything I just said.
EvilGnome01 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:40:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Once in a while, you get shown the light in the strangest of places if you look at it right...
palmettolibertypost ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 01:33:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Entitlement is the enemy of happiness. Gratitude is the cure for entitlement.
hereforcat ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:42:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. I used to think that being โgratefulโ meant I could regurgitate a laundry list of things I liked about my day. Now that Iโm practicing gratitude, though, Iโve realized that itโs all about making time more often to think about the things that make you happy. Itโs also about noticing the small things that happen throughout the day that make you think โthat was nice.โ
IminPeru ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:26:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This TEDx talk talks about gratitude. https://youtu.be/EwNj4AHKXDk
He had Stage 4 cancer and fought through it (as a 21 year old) and talks about "consicous gratitude" and appreciating the little things.
Jag94 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:34:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mother used to fake gratitude thinking she was being nice and that it would get her free stuff. Even as a child i would see the bullshit and felt embarrassed. I have vowed to never be that person, and when i say thank you to someone, i make it a point to look in their eyes and mean it when i say it. I like to think they feel my sincerity, not because i expect anything from it, but simply because I genuinely mean it.
milkstatue ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:20:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A few years back, I decided to start thanking everyone, smiling at people. When I went out to eat, I would thank the waiters, anyone who held open doors, cab drivers, bartenders, cleaning staff I would see in public toilets, and now it's just become a habit.
I don't know if it's made me happier as a person, but I learned that there are so many people it can make happy. People who just go unnoticed, invisible because we take them for granted. So many times when I smile at someone, like the security personnel at airports, or metro stations, or thank people, so many of them are taken aback because they don't know how to respond. Sometimes it makes me sad, but it only encourages me to keep doing it.
coffeematt1321 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:30:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I go out of the way to thank folks who are working on holidays. Most really seem happy and taken aback after being yelled at by unhappy holiday folks searching for a last minute item.
ThatGuyMikeO ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:19:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learned from a positive psychology class to write down 3 things every night that I am thankful for from that day, doesn't have to be big things. This helped me out of a depression, and also reqired me to actively look for something good during bad situations. For example, even if I had a day of misery, I might just say, man I'm so thankful I had a cup of coffee in the morning, or enough gas in my car to get me to work, or just the fact I have a car...etc. etc.
My girlfriend is in graduate school right now, and I started asking her to tell me just ONE good thing from her day (started about a year or two ago) and now when I talk to her, I often just say, "ok, what's your one good thing?" and I like to think it helps her get off a bad train of thought when she feels lost or frustrated.
merewautt ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:56:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
This is a really good answer because it so often comes off as a veiled way of saying "you're being a brat", and then people get defensive and classify it as "useless advice" before even trying it. But that's not the implication AT ALL, it just feels really really good to actively focus on the random little things that we're glad exist (that actually aren't a given, despite how much it feels like they are), so people want to give it as advice.
I finally got convinced to keep a "gratitude journal" (really just a dated list in spiral) and it's so fun to write in and look back on. I've gotten to the point where I try actively to write down the TINIEST things I can because I get a kick out of it. Yeah "having a roof above my head" is a super real answer, and I'll be sure to put it on the list on a day it storms or I feel particularly cozy, but stuff like "wore a white shirt all day and didn't get a stain on it" is what I've learned really keeps me going apparently lol.
It also helps me realize what I really need to change in life. If I've been avoiding writing in my journal because "how am I supposed to be grateful for anything when I hate my job and had a horrible day", then I need to change jobs. Hypothetically, we should all be able to be grateful for some things while struggling with others, but I've found there are some things that are so basic to quality of life that they can really dampen one's ability to find joy in even the big things, let alone the small stuff. And funnily enough, once I can finally admit to myself that I'm job searching now (or working on whatever other huge problem), it's like I feel like I "deserve" to be grateful for stuff and to make myself feel better.
It 100% keeps me in the most productive and stable state of mind---but I get why people brush it off and get defensive, it was probably recommended to me by at least 3 different mental health professionals before I actually lost the ego and gave it a shot.
esev12345678 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:09:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People brush it off because they're caught up in foishness and stupidity. I used to be far more grateful when I was a child before I let adult tards get into my head. It increased by fascination. Ever think about a lighter? Fire helped build all this around us. It helped build civilization. And now I have it in my pocket. I find it incredible how far humans have come.
shawn77 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:51:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It really helps to think of things in this matter. My MIL grew up on a farm in rural Wisconsin. She remembers when they got indoor plumbing. I am grateful I donโt have to shit in an outhouse in North Central Wisconsin in February. Iโm grateful for indoor plumbing.
As the second youngest of 9, she was second to last to take a bath. In the same, now cold, water as her siblings. I am incredibly grateful that I get to turn a handle and get nearly instant hot water for a shower.
married4love ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:02:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want to go further with it, make it a goal to add at least one thing a day that was bad or went wrong. Don't write it until you're actually grateful though, that's the challenge and the fun part ๐
PluckyProtagonist ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:51:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This has been my goal this year โ to be mindful about gratitude.
Unnatural-One ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:25:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm grateful youโve picked such a helpful yet attainable goal! You can do it, dude!
PluckyProtagonist ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:00:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you!
NoNeedForAName ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:21:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also be conscientious. I think that's even more important, honestly. Care about doing what's right and doing things well. Be that guy that picks up some random trash or puts up an abandoned cart at Walmart or catches that part defect that most people aren't looking for or whatever. People, including bosses, notice that stuff.
johnny_moist ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:30:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
someone tell this to our president
TennaTelwan ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:21:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This has gone a LONG way to stop a lot of fights in my family.
I take care of my parents and because of my own health issues, I get support too. And food has always been a very unhealthy power play in my family. And I don't even remember a lot of why it was, but I know that once I started making an effort to just thank others for cooking, even if it was a crappy meal, not only did the meal taste better, but the fighting stopped. And soon if I didn't want to eat something, it wasn't forced to have to eat it because someone else cooked it anymore.
totheswimahead ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:48:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โIf youโre looking for joy, you will find it in gratitude.โ
esev12345678 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:06:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup. I found not in thought. I like to think about life and where it all comes from. Now the little things
fuelnerd ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:59:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im trying this shit every day this week. I'm grateful for getting on Reddit and seeing this post!
themeatbridge ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:23:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you! For everything you do, thank you!
justme_allthetime ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:37:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One day youโll look back and realize the little things were really the big things.
jumblepuzz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:13:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Came here to say this!
At first I thought "I'm grateful for a short list of things: family, close friends, and good health. Won't constant gratitude cheapen that?"
No. Maybe? Doesn't matter. Finding things to be grateful for, even absurd things, has immediate utility. "Hey, I'm not being stabbed right now! Hey, I still have both my legs!"
Being good at meditation is hard to access. It takes serious practice and it can atrophy without maintaining that practice. But thinking of things to be grateful for is easy to do, and it has similar benefits.
Trickmaahtrick ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:30:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hm I like the sentiment but I'm always trying to express gratitude because I don't want people to feel as bad as I do. Even if they probably deserve a degree of "reality shock," I don't want people to feel alone, discarded, or ignored. Sometimes people are grateful because they are unhappy.
comp-sci-fi2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:10:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks
PharaohsOfOld ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:05:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
my wife and her family are fucking excellent at this. it boggles my mind. a few years ago their house got broken in to while they were sleeping in it. it was our engagement party earlier that night (talk about bad omens) and i guess they were really tired and slept heavy because they got fucked. whoever it was made off with literally a suitcase worth of stuff.
She called me early the next morning to let know, so i stop by a local bakery then i drive over to be with them at what i thought would be a difficult time and they were making this lavish breakfast and just talking and laughing like nothing happened. they were just grateful that they were not hurt.
it's like this with everything!
car totaled - thank god we're ok
got hurt - thank god its not worse
fired - hey i get to try out something new
cancer scare - thank god i have such a supportive family
business failed and almost went bankrupt - hey at least we got to enjoy for a little while
i try to be like them but im just too fucking bitter.
Gr1pp717 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:02:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've recently had something of an epiphany on this topic.
When I was happy I never really thought in terms of positive and negative. The notion was even bizarre to me - how does me analyzing a mistake or problem translate into me complaining? I wasn't complaining, I was just trying to learn. ... But now that I'm depressed I find focusing on the positive to be helpful. Important, even.
Which makes me wonder - are we effectively promoting depression? I mean, when I was happy people were always bashing me for being negative, even though I wasn't. I just wasn't mindful of the whole positive/negative thing that so many are sensitive to. Now that I'm depressed people seem to think that I'm doing better. The feedback that I've gotten throughout my life effectively paints the picture that I ought to be depressed (or else they'll make me depressed).
Is this done on purpose? Caused by envy of those who don't loath their life? Or simply an inherent flaw in the positive thinking movement?
TwentyTwoTwelve ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:04:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I pretty much live this but damn if it's starting to make me a little bitter.
All I seem to notice are entitled asses who take stuff for granted and act like the world owes them merely for existing.
The worst part is I see them getting away with it constantly, and people caving to their adult tantrums just to avoid dealing with the hassle.
So yeah, it makes me more appreciative of what I have, but it makes those who aren't stand out tenfold.
pupsnpogonas ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:10:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gratitude is an action, which doesn't always include words. If you're grateful for being invited to an event, you can help clean up. If you're grateful to a friend, help them out next time they need it.
golden_fli ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:09:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the same vain ACCEPT gratitude. Someone says "thank you" then tell them "you're welcome". Ever feel like people don't appreciate you and what you do? Well is it because YOU DON'T LET THEM? Stop and take the time to say you're welcome and you might notice people really do thank you, people are grateful for what you do. I admit I had that problem myself and decided to start accepting that people really were thanking me and did appreciate what I did, that they were just saying it and yeah turned around that issue.
Hardmeat_McLargehuge ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:55:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Start by thanking the bus driver
Khmera ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:02:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I say "thank you" to the universe when I find something I'm looking for and I always say "thank you" to people. Learned it from one of the audiobooks by Deepak Chopra, although I'm sure he's not the only one who has said it, by any means. Thank you notes are a rare and special treat these days too. People don't even know how to react to them nowadays.
petit_cochon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:27:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes yes yes yes yes.
sfitzer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:18:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
AJ Jacobs kicks gratitude up a notch.
wolfavino ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:40:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tell my kids on the way to school every day to look for little ways to make other people feel better.
drdookie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:40:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And to add to that, having perspective. Appreciating being disease-free or having food or having a home.
onizuka11 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt hate. Appreciate.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Write down 3 things everyday you are thankful for and it literally tricks your brain chemistry into being happier.
GramsUpaTreeCall999 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:54:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! Holds hand in hand with networking. Appreciate your fellows, appreciate your colleagues. Never forget what kindness brought you to where you are, but never forget the strength of lending a hand or a kind word. It is easy being cruel, but kindness can be ever harder. What is right is never easy
coswoofster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless surrounded by a bunch of ungrateful energy sucks constantly. Then sorry, it can be hard to cultivate gratitude without feeling like a total doormat.
Hylas7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because a thankful heart Is a happy heart I'm glad for what I have That's an easy way to start
Veggie tales. Always relevant.
stariach ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:10:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve always been like this and i remember starting at my job, i was always saying thanks even if what that person did was all of our responsibility. At the beginning, my co-workers said โyou dont have to say thanks all the timeโ, then after a while they used to mimic me (in a harmless mocking way), specifically the way i say โaw thanksโ like the avocado kid, and now itโs just a thing that EVERYONE says โaw thanksโ for everything, and honestly it has changed the workplace in a way that i never saw coming!! The kindness!!! I LOVE!!!
reidchabot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tell you what the idiots that slammed in their brakes this morning because they almost missed their turn followed it with rolling down the window extending an apology wavy and screaming "sorry". I instantly went from wtf asshole to you're and idiot but acknowledged it and did your best, thanks. Sometimes the smallest of guestures makes a huge difference, and most of the time they take little to no time.
breakingb0b ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:16:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"And the days that I keep my gratitude higher than my expectations Well, I have really good days" Mother Blues ~ Ray Wylie Hubbard
Handbag_Lady ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:29:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank the people you work with and/or who work for you. I try to thank each person on my crew at least once a week, but it has to be in earnest and not just to check a box.
afganposter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:37:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll practice it when things go well.
kliman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Canadian here. Can confirm.
mAhfackAh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:27:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm extremely gracious and thank people even for the smallest stuff ordinary people typically look past. It really brightens up peoplesโ days. Iโm still fucking miserable. I need to work on that. Might be the Ritalin tho.
OrderAlwaysMatters ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it takes observance to be grateful, and when you start to be observant you start to realize just how big and rich with nuance the world is. It makes you happy the same way you are happy when you see a high def tv for the first time or put your first pair of glasses. It doesnt matter what you're looking at, its the resolution itself that is amazing.
This extends to internalizing any experience, not just your eyesight. It's easy to become depressed when you lower the resolution of your experience so much that you cant even see the detail anymore. If you find that over a length of time of you actively trying to improve your resolution and being unable to, then you might need some chemical support
Grunge_bob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:35:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've heard the write down things you're thankful for tip. A lot of the people I know said, "it sounded so dumb to me but it did help."
jordo716 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This made me smile.
infernoofihw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:46:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you.
theoriginalj ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Number 1 LPT
TonyDungyHatesOP ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:24:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You arenโt grateful because you are happy. Youโre happy because you are grateful.
sentient_salami ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:08:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But at the same time, donโt expect gratitude from others. I donโt mean this in a bitter way, but people who help out others and are then disappointed not to be lavished in thanks are negative people. Do something for other people because you want to help them or the situation, because it makes you feel good that you made the world a little better, not because you want to be admired for being so kind or helpful. Donโt open tabs with people. Just like being grateful, helping freely makes you a happy person.
Celanis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:21:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This sparks joy.
Kelliebell1219 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:29:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's a Ray Wylie Hubbard line that resonates with me along those lines. "The days I keep my gratitude higher than my expectations, well, I have very good days."
Lady_Jeanne ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:35:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have 3 gratitude alarms on my phone that goes off during the day. One in the morning, one at lunch and one before bed.
I have to say something I am thankful for out loud. It has to be specific, not something like "I have a house". More like " I am great full for my home that I share with my husband and pets who love me and who I adore".
Or even being great full for how the sunlight falls on a flower petal that I was fortunate enough to notice.
It really has pulled my life into a more positive direction and I find myself complaining less. Even when I do complain, I try to find something in the situation that might be positive.
meltedwhitechocolate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:53:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You know what the best currency is and I just thought about this yesterday, the best currency, the most valuable of all, is gratitude. when you're dead you're dead, but you're not quite so dead, if you contribute something." John Dunsworth
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:04:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A guy insulted me yesterday and I reflexively said ty lol
SunfishWithGlasses ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:23:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I grateful and depressed, what do?
0ttr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:27:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Corollary to this: when a driver cuts you off, don't flip out, just realize you've probably pissed other people off in your life, so let it go. We're all human.
CHUBBL3S ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:34:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Forgiveness and gratitude is my motto! You're living the good life!
nicer_abhas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:42:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for the great advice.
ghpkhg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:21:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am grateful for my life, but I honestly do not deserve anything I have. It depresses me, but I am grateful.
ReleaseTheKr4cken ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:26:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every night my girlfriend and I do our 3 gratitudes, then once a week we have a meeting, on meeting night we do a mass gratitudes to catch things we missed, and our goals etc. It's surprising how good it makes you feel.
Markthenuke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:24:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My girlfriend and I have this ritual, where every day we ask each other what we are grateful for. It really helps you keep a positive light on things in your life!
VerySmartandHandsome ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:44:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am grateful for your post. May good things come your way friend.
Gregorofthehillpeopl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:41:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey, thank you for this.
erm4gundr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:46:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm going through a rough patch but as soon as I read this Junior Asparagus started singing in my head
I thank God for this day
For the sun in the sky
For my mom and my dad
And my piece of apple pie
I'm gonna be okay. I think. I will be. I'll work for what I want and if not I'll be happy regardless.
rabbitsmashr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:12:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read this first as 'practice genocide' and was concerned.
Cichlidsaremyjam ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:03:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for this advice.
MrDirectorAgent ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:29:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gratitude is the attitude that sets the altitude for living- James Macdonald
getpossessed ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:52:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is not true for me. Im always on my A-game when it comes to manners and politeness. Iโm severely depressed also. Although I think the reason I am so good to others is because I wanted to be treated the same way and I donโt want anyone to feel like I do.
~typed from my bed where Iโve been daydreaming about suicide since I woke up.
NK1337 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:45:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never understood what this meant until my father used his old broken down care as an example. For years he saved up to buy a car, and when he finally had enough he got a junker. He spent some time to restore it but he knew it was a crap shoot at best. And yet every time he got into that broken down car he was grateful that it turned on. He said he always cheered and was just happy that it worked, because up until that point he would have to walk everywhere he went. And it didn't even matter if the car stopped working, because he was grateful that it was even able to give him a small reprieve. Compare that to someone who just expects their car to work and the stress and frustration they feel when the car doesn't start up, its enough to ruin their entire day. It's far better to be grateful for the things you have.
wfsulliv ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:57:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone once told me
โGratitude is the cheat code to happinessโ
I find that I agree. Love this.
ValiantFucker ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:43:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doing this in videogames/sports makes the whole team feel better about working together too :>
ilyemco ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:02:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do this instead of apologising. Instead of "sorry I'm late", say "thank you for waiting for me".
Blumpkinhead ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:51:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you.
CNHphoto ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:55:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is super underrated
kittlesnboots ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes. My life became much more peaceful and I feel generally happier because of gratitude.
Mi_sono_perso ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy people donโt hate and Haters arenโt happy.
ThreeLeggedTranny ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:07:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im not a religious person, but my SO is so I go to church with her, and this is one or the first things I noticed once I really got to know people from church. They are always grateful, for literally everything, and I noticed they are always in good moods. I adopted the mentality and it is amazing what it does to your overall mindset.
split41 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:12:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Psychologically proven to make you happier
urbanek2525 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:59:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wise men count their blessings. Fools count their problems.
TechnoL33T ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:21:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No. Happy people are grateful people. This is absurd abuse of causality.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:05:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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catsilo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:42:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey there! I'm grateful to be able to speak to this a little bit, and for your comment! I hope that my words can convey what gratitude means to me, as it is certainly not grounded in any god-like entity.
I feel gratitude is a gift you give to yourself.
I'm pretty much an atheist. I started a gratitude journal because I was depressed, and I thought it would help me to look past the stuff in my life I didn't like. Every morning, I would write down one thing I was grateful for, and one thing I was looking forward to. As I did this, I found I wasn't ignoring the things that were wrong or unpleasant, but instead was giving myself perspective on the wonder of (my) life.
I went from feeling like everything was stuck or decaying, to feeling like although my life doesn't have a purpose, exactly, I could be happy for the experience all the same. Everything that exists must exist. But we're some of the rarest of the rare things that exist and know we exist!
Because of that perspective, gratitude transformed from a medication to a practice to a true joy. I practice gratitude daily, publicly, because I know that my joy can bring others joy - and that's one of the only things you can give away and get back more in return.
Anyway, TL;DR God or not gratitude feels good, costs nothing, and gets easier with practice. It's basically calisthenics for my own psyche, not a worship to someone else for who I am and what's around me <3
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:47:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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catsilo ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:01:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've read that "comparison is the thief of joy." That's where at least some of my depression came from. I will cop to not having any severe disabilities of my own, but we all look to people who lead "normal" lives and think "why isn't my life like that? Why do I deserve less?" I would say, for me, the greatest difference between "feeling happy" and "being grateful" is mindfulness. When I am grateful, I am naming a thing, thinking about that thing, and really feeling how that thing makes me feel. To wax poetic, the difference between happiness and gratefulness is the difference between tasting food and savoring it. You don't savor food for anyone but yourself, and you don't have to be grateful for anyone but yourself :D
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:50:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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catsilo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:31:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes that's great! I love my Google Play Music for the same reason! I'm grateful to be able to hear music I...acquired...years and years ago and sometimes I really like listening to it and sometimes I can't believe I used to like some stuff lol I'm grateful you took the time and energy to try! I hope you'll keep it up, it's hard and seemingly impossible some days, but on those days I try to look more closely, and I'm never worse off for trying, when when I fail - good luck and please feel free to bug me about this stuff!!
married4love ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:58:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gratitude doesn't have to be directed towards anything...for me it's more just a feeling of being happy with what you have and not letting the absence of what you don't have make you unhappy. Alternatively, you can be grateful to yourself for having done all the things you've done to be where you are with whatever you're feeling grateful for
xford ยท 7710 points ยท Posted at 02:11:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Never take I-90 through Chicago" my sister said to me in 2002. 'Yeah, ok, thanks' was my reply.
In 2004, just over the border of Wisconsin we stopped for gas. We were on day 3 of our drive back from Yellowstone and had been on the road for almost two weeks in total. Funds were low, there was nothing left for another hotel that night. It was 11am, our calculations (pre-gps) had us home at about 1am. We looked at the map, saw the upcoming highway split and were debating between heading straight for I-80, or staying on I-90. 'Well, the last sign said 90 minutes to Chicago, may as well have a deep dish pizza for lunch. Plus, it looks like a more direct route."
Mistakes were made.
At 3pm we had admitted defeat. There would be no lunch. The infinite traffic wouldn't allow for it. By 4pm my will was broken, I pulled the e-brake, opened my door, and walked from the middle lane to the ditch just after a bridge to relieve the pressure in my bladder. Shortly after we would say 'fuck this, lets just get off here', that too was a mistake. The signs were in Spanish, the route back to the highway eluded us, we weren't even sure what time zone we were in. We asked a guy at the corner at a red light, 'hey man, what time is it?'. I'll never forget his response. "Your mother."
At 630pm we finally drove past what is now Guaranteed Rate Park, fully immersed in Chicago rush hour. An hour later we crossed into Indiana, broken people. We had an utterly forgettable pizza, got back on the road, and endured a drive home that lasted well past dawn.
"I told you to never take I-90 through Chicago" my sister said to me when I told her our tale of that day. She was right, I should have remembered that.
CasaNovascape ยท 1557 points ยท Posted at 05:11:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A fellow Chicagoan here. Can confirm. This advice definitely helps.
TheJewelOfJool ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 08:27:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone who is planning on going to Chicago, anything I should know about what to do?
LloydTheWonderDog ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 10:13:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use the Waze App. Adjusts routes based on traffic to save time.
Public transit will be your friend as well. Apple Maps (and most likely other maps but I actually like the way Apple Maps does it so I stick with that) will actually give you step by step directions for taking busses/trains/walking all in one. Use the โtransitโ option at the bottom of the route. Helped me figure out the train/bus schedules very very quickly.
People will sell you on other deep dish pizzas but Giordanos is as big of a chain as it is for a reason. Simply cannot be beat.
Navy Pier is touristy nonsense. Itโs cool to see, but donโt plan your day around it. Maybe package that in with Magnificent Mile if you like shopping.
Avoid being in the Central Loop at any point during rush hour. The amount of people walking/driving/shouting is astounding.
Visit the Lincoln Park Zoo. Itโs free, and itโs actually one of the better zoos Iโve been to!
Portillos
The Logan square bar district is a great place to drink a lot of alcohol for a long time. (Pretty sure a bar there stays open till 4-5AM
Thatโs about all I can think of now but if any more come to mind, Iโll edit this.
Source: Am touring musician who goes through Chicago about every 2 months.
PS: I-90 is the devil
WASE1449 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 16:30:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Definitely don't go to Giordano's. It is the worst of the deep dish options in Chicago. Pequod's is the best and a more traditional option with more locations is Lou Malnati's.
Sure, Giordano's is a huge chain but so is McDonalds. Having a ton of locations doesn't make it the best.
Rhooster31313 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:45:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mmmmmm...portillo's
LloydTheWonderDog ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:12:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I live in Greenwood, Indiana now and SOMEHOW we ended up with a Portilloโs and Iโm the happiest boy in the universe because of it.
Rhooster31313 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:14:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's like hitting the lottery
welcome2me ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 08:53:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use Google Maps to judge arrival times instead of random heuristics from Reddit.
And go to Portillo's!
CoachHouseStudio ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 08:57:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I forgot, Google maps uses feedback from other people moving on the same road to give accurate times.
I thought you were going to say- go to Chicago and multiply all estimated times by 100
Nwburbs99 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 12:08:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The second biggest traffic jam after 90 is a Portillos drive-thru at lunch.
Rhooster31313 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:43:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The best Italian beef sandwich in the world!
space_moron ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 10:17:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Visit the neighborhoods. Wicker Park, Lincoln Park, Wrigleyville, Old Town, are all tame and safe places but with a lot of unique character and accessible by the L. If you're going in the summer, you're likely to encounter a neighborhood festival or block party, which are great. Wicker Park fest is an incredible music show with three stages for bands playing music late into the night. Old Town has art festivals that take over long stretches of the street to display and sell art. Google the "barcades" like Headquarters or Emporium for good craft beer and old arcade games. If you're into dark music and burlesque shows, Debonair in Wicker Park can deliver.
I'd skip Navy Pier but if you've never been it won't hurt. It's just a tourist trap, but the old building and pier itself might interest you. I got to ride the ferris wheel for free by completing a survey and found that enjoyable with a great view of the city. But I don't know if I'd otherwise pay for it.
Chicagoans are super friendly and proud of their city so feel free to ask nearly anyone for directions. It's also a grid with the streets lining up north/south and east/west, so if you know something is X blocks west and Y blocks north, you can just zig zag your way in that direction as you please. Be wise and don't stare at your phone when entering or exiting a train, thieves use your distraction and the crowds to steal from you then. Keep your legs closed when seated on a train or bus to share the space with those around you.
nothing_to_feel_here ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 09:43:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
South Chicago is a well known touristy area. Feel free to visit, show off your latest set of wheels, your newest, most expensive jewellry, etc for appraisal.
oldmancuntington ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 09:57:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just like in Australia we encourage you to cuddle every animal you see because they are all friendly!
nomadedigital ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:52:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go somewhere else
redcaravan9 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:41:26 on May 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pizza: Lou Malnatiโs. Trust. (I know this is an old-ish thread but this is evergreen advice)
Stexen ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 13:13:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lou Malnati's is the worst deep dish. Don't be fooled
thatcrazylady ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:18:08 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So true. I have no idea why it's popular. The sausage layer thing sounds good, but it's just barfy.
jumpingwitjohnny ยท 57 points ยท Posted at 07:13:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait, whatโs wrong with I-90??
skribbez ยท 310 points ยท Posted at 07:15:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your mother.
jumpingwitjohnny ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 15:01:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hahahaha
sam_sam_01 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 08:15:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ohhh, someone passed their reading comprehension exams in school!
Osric250 ยท 218 points ยท Posted at 07:15:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a parking lot advertised as a highway.
Exsces95 ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 08:47:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I found this comment so amusing I am gonna start saying this
nothing_to_feel_here ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:17:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
but there's only like 50 people in chicago
Speedy-McLeadfoot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:19:19 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Underrated comment
gigihadidisnotamodel ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 07:15:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thereโs a lil quicksand in the middle
danidecaf ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 07:36:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/unexpectedmulaney
iknowwhatyoudid1234 ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 08:47:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's been under construction since the day its opened. They keep promising more lanes less traffic all I've ver seen is those satanic ass orange cones and one construction worker. The only poor fucker out there is some dick with the slow/go sign for no damn reason. The only thing worse than being stuck in that traffic is being the poor worker the people in traffic are yelling at, they have so much time to sit and analyze you all the sudden everything that went wrong in their lives is your fault fuck you chicago.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:36:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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jumpingwitjohnny ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:09:14 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did, I wanted a further explanation
manju45 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:42:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your mother
thealmightyzfactor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:57:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going in or out of the city not during rush hour is usually OK, once you leave the downtownish part.
Doing either of those during rush hour is terrible. Going through Chicago via I-90 is terrible.
Xpdcion ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 07:39:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Whatโs I-90? Is that like the name of a highway or something? And why would you not take it
Edit: downvoted for being a Canadian. BUILD THE WALL
SJHSparkplug ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 07:52:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a trucker and when I was over the road went through Chicago very often. It's pretty much bad traffic, only highway in the Midwest that reminded me of downtown Atlanta at rush hour. 294 around the city gets congested too and costs a bit more but is a lot better.
gtg930r ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 09:03:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone from Atlanta I just thought that's how roads were supposed to be. But not just one, all of them.
The_Royal_Oyster ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 11:45:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Id never build a wall. I need you in my life
paddyspubofficial ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:30:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its a highway, yes. People will refer to highways as "I-whatever", the "I" stands for "interstate"
mynameisevan ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:06:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interstate highways are usually called I-Number (unless youโre in California, the itโs just โthe Number). If the number is even it runs east-west, if itโs odd it runs north-south. If itโs a three digit number itโs an auxiliary highway that branches off of the main interstate. Thereโs more to the numbering system, but thatโs the basics. For more information consult your local public library.
Giovanni_Bertuccio ยท 172 points ยท Posted at 06:55:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Welcome to Chicago, asshole.
Actually I'm slightly surprised; Midwesterners usually are pretty polite.
adimapamida ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 07:05:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I don't know if Chicago counts as midwestern.
Giovanni_Bertuccio ยท -28 points ยท Posted at 07:08:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We're really going to r/gatekeeping geography...
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Midwestern_United_States
oreoscar ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 07:20:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He didn't mean literally
Lookupthencielingfan ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 08:11:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
*Culturally Midwestern was implied. Just like thereโs cultural exceptions to the geographical โSouthโ, Chicago isnโt midwestern, itโs in the Rust Belt
birdiering ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 07:04:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Chicagoans arenโt midwesterns.
Edited to add r/sarcasm.
Giovanni_Bertuccio ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 07:05:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
They're Grecian urns?
scothc ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:32:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worse. They're FIBs
Seanbikes ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:22:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You shut up or we won't come buy your cheese anymore
Giovanni_Bertuccio ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:19:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's only hurting yourself!
Seanbikes ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:41:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn it, you're right.
I can't boycott all that wonderful Wisconsin Cheese.
iamonly1M ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:32:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They're Byzantines.
TriloBlitz ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 07:15:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chicago is in Illinois, which is Midwest...
Jiktten ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 07:29:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think the point is that Chicago and Chicagoans are a law unto themselves regardless of where they happen to be located geographically.
birdiering ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:35:56 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, thank you for clarifying. This is what I was going for.
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 08:55:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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oldmancuntington ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:58:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always associated Miami with jacked up trucks and meth labs so yes to both.
CanHeWrite ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:13:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/woosh
TypeOneAuthor ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:23:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do any of yโall know what sarcasm is?
Giovanni_Bertuccio ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 13:03:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
There's another nearly identical post that got upvoted, and I was downvoted for calling it gatekeeping.
Where this is downvoted and everyone is upvoted for calling it gatekeeping.
Yours and theirs were posted at almost the same time...
show-me-your-cats ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 06:57:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Took I-90 through Chicago on Saturday. GPS recommended the toll because itโs faster. I took the toll and am rejoicing because itโs nearly empty (though getting through main Chicago wasnโt bad). After 2 tolls and โincidentโ occurred and everyone had to exit the toll road. This is where Iโm full of regret. I was backed up in rerouted traffic on a two lane for an hour. Roads got bad and I almost slid in to the person in front of me. After that (and 14 hours on the road) I decided I was done for the night and got a hotel at the next town.
steeelo47 ยท 54 points ยท Posted at 06:53:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Your mother" had me literally LOLing. I'm still laughing as I write this.
StringFartet ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 09:48:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandparents, aunt and uncle lived in that part of Chicago, it was really rough when I was a kid. They told me not to look people in the eye and don't look up at signs and buildings, they'll know you're not from there. When we went to Blockbuster there were always hookers sometimes doing Johns right up against the wall as you exited. One offered me a $10 blowjob, I was ten years old. Now it's gentrified.
blabbermouth4 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:55:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This was at North and Ashland.
StringFartet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:22:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep, North and Ashland. My family lives closer to Chicago and Ashland. Both Chicago and Ashland and North/Damen/Milwaukee were crazy but a lot of fun back then, too.
RyanTheTechie ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 07:53:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly thought that it was ingrained in all wisconsinites at birth that you should never drive through Chicago unless you're actually trying to go to Chicago
drunken-serval ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 14:46:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Born and raised in Wisconsin. My parents still live there. I moved to Ohio. Chicago is the only fast way to get to my parents. Get yourself an IPass, hit Chicago between 10am and 11am or 1am and 4am. 60% of the time, it works every time.
Driving in Chicago is easy. Imagine yourself as a fighter pilot in a vicious dog fight. Be constantly aware of what's happening. Then, drive like an asshole. Your following distance should be 1 second and you signal after you start moving, not before. A turn signal is not suggestion. It is a demand. You are claiming that space. Be assertive.
Stay in the left two lanes, switch to pass people that didn't get the memo the fast lane is minimum 75 mph. Important! Do not exceed 85 mph. You are aiming for fast and alive, not reckless. If anyone rides you really close, get out of their way. This isn't a contest. Do not attempt to pass slow drivers in the right lanes, you can't see past the trucks and they weave around people going 45 mph.
Obviously, if the weather is bad, stay in the inner left lane. Go your best possible speed, moving right occasionally to let the crazies pass. If you can't maintain speed of traffic, use the inner right lane and hide between the trucks. Whatever you do, don't ever use the rightmost lane. That's for trucks, cars going under 55, and cars going above 95 mph.
Follow this guide, and you too can rocket a Prius from Gary, IN to Pleasant Prairie, WI in under 90 minutes. *tips tiny fedora*
Just in case you're wondering, Priuses aren't slow. I hit 109 mph in an empty stretch of highway during my last speed run through Chicago on a Sunday morning.
SolidLab ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:21:31 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I saw a cool bumper sticker on a Prius recently. "Cool Prius" - Nobody
drunken-serval ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:34:43 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is pretty awesome. My goal is to drive fast enough that no one has time to read any bumper stickers. :)
xford ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:42:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sadly, as a Pennsylvanian, the only warning I had was from my sister.
Annales-NF ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 07:55:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's currently 10 am western european time which makes it 3 am at Chicago now. It's red in some areas and orange the rest through the city. Madness!
TheGreedyCarrot ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 08:18:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I-90 was rated the most congested highway in the country a few years ago. I'm sure others like around d Atlanta or LA get equally as bad or worse depending on the day. But Chicago's I-90 ain't nothing to fuck with. I avoid it at nearly all costs
StringFartet ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:56:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't forget Silicon Valley that shit is torturous.
IgnoringHisAge ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 12:24:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This might get buried, but of you're the tenacious type and got this far, here's the "avoid downtown" options from a trucker that's been through the windy city many times. (Reverse all of these routes if coming from the east or southeast.)
Reliably smooth: coming from the Madison area in Wisconsin on I90/I39, when you get into Illinois you'll come to the 39/90 split. Take I39. This will take you straight south to I80. Go east from there across the south side of town. There's a brief toll section concurrent with I294 (the Tri-State Tollway), but that's fairly cheap. Off and on congestion occurs at Joliet and on the stretch of concurrent I80/I94 near and across the Indiana border.
Shorter route, slightly more of a gamble: Again from Madison, see above but take I90 east (toll road). When you get to I290, take that south and east. Then get on I294 (Tri-state tollway) and pay to scoot south to I80. Regular congestion at the junction of I290 and I294, spotty elsewhere. Reliably lower speeds during rush hour, but generally not stop and go more than a few junctions.
Alternate to I290 to I294 (Tri-state): if, for some reason 290 is really hosed (as suggested, use google maps or waze for traffic conditions), you can go a little farther east on I90 (toll) directly to I294 (Tri-state tollway). A bit more money, but cheap at twice the price when 290 is having trouble.
In the event that I294 is really messed up (which does happen from time to time) take I290 south to I355. Then proceed down to I80 and on east from there. I355 is a tollway. There's also the brief toll section of I294/I80 on this route.
Coming from Milwaukee: take I94 south (technically eastbound) to I294 (Tri-state tollway). Bite the bullet, pay the tolls, and breath deeply in any traffic. There are rush hour slowdowns near the junctions of I90 and then I290, and intermittent choke points here and there. But it's faster than going right up the gut.
Going the direct route through downtown works reliably between 11pm and 2-3am, but does get screwed up on occasion for events or serious accidents (wrecks will occasional bork any of these routes). Watch out for drunk/impaired drivers during these hours, though.
In general, don't take I94 south of I294 (Tri-state tollway), I90 east of I294 (Tri-state), I290 east of I294 (Tri-state) [see the pattern?], or I94 north of I80 (if you're coming from the east or southeast. Take these routes only if you specifically need to get to a destination inside the I294 loop (Tri-state tollway).
One special case: if you're coming from the east or southeast, it can be tempting to take I90 west of I65 into Chicago. It's almost always wide open and green. There's a reason for that. It's called the Chicago Skyway, and it's uncomfortably expensive. It will also dump you directly into the throat of the worst traffic bound for the north side. If you've got extra cash and a destination in town, ok fine. It's your wallet.
Congrats you made it through the list.
Schmoopster ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:49:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you!
thev3ntu5 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 06:54:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I-90 is a beast you never quite tame. You pray and pray that you can catch it while it still sleeping. Otherwise that hour long commute can take 3
FullSend28 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:54:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's always the most fun in winter. While I miss Chicago greatly, I don't miss my daily commute to Gurnee every morning, that was truly miserable.
liarlyre ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:51:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well at least an inch of snow doesn't shut it down for 2 or 3 days like it did in atlanta
Smuggykitten ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 04:30:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why would you eat pizza in Indiana?
Plus if you wanted original Lou malnatis deep dish pizza you would have gone to Lincolnwood, which is right off of i94, which isn't a very long trek off of i90. The original store is there, and would have saved you much of your traffic trouble.
D00Dy_BuTT ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 07:49:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude it was 2002 though.
Smuggykitten ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:49:18 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Lou malnatis I'm talking about has been there since at least the 1970s. I'm talking before they chained out, if that's what you mean by 2002. I ate at that Lou's before 2002. I could easily say as early as 1997 I ate there, and maybe even other times before then.
Zerowantuthri ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:52:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or Pizzeria Uno/Due which is a few blocks off the highway in downtown Chicago.
Smuggykitten ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:17:28 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My only argument would be that the parking would be pricey, but good point on location.
xford ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:41:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes when the mission is an utter failure, obtaining any semblance of the goal becomes a victory. Plus, we were hungry, short on cash, and just wanted to get back to PA.
It took until 2016, but I finally got back to Chicago and had a deep dish pie at Pizano's on State St.
Smuggykitten ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:19:06 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Pizano's was rated by Oprah for best thin crust pizza (had to be 10 or more years ago now)
I haven't tried their deep dish but I know the flavors!
xford ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:44:16 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We had two or three meals there since it was walking distance from my cousin's apartment. Wasn't disappointed in anything our party of four had the entire trip!
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 07:12:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did the same thing trying to get to Taos, NM. Brother told me don't take the eastern route through the mountain. He said take the longer route to the west. Of course, we took the eastern route because "It's so much shorter!" Big fuckin mistake. It added 2 hours to our trip, because it was a steady 30 mph the entire route and the constant swerves and turns made us nauseous.
Luxsteren ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:34:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This story made me think of Finding Nemo, where they were told to swim through and not over the abyss.
potatoboat ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:50:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
awww iโm sorry guys. you only use i90 for getting off on streets that lead you directly downtown for job interviews. we should put signs up at the entrances to the state.
sween64 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:02:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt have plans to drive near or through Chicago (I live in Australia) but Iโm worried Iโm going to forget this advice.
TennaTelwan ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:04:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've often gone from Wisconsin to Michigan via the I-90/I-94 or I-294 route, and you honestly have to time it right. Most people I know who would travel through Chicago timed it so that someone was driving it overnight to bypass most the traffic. But, I also have had family stuck on there with a flat tire once. I was home and my mother called, they were stuck and waiting to try to get help so she called me to look up numbers of tow trucks in Chicago when a Minuteman arrived. I heard the guy there and the entire interaction over the phone and it was a godsend in their case. And I think had they taken a different route, they would not have gotten that help.
Healy_ ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:31:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm a Chicago resident and I havenโt seen it posted yet so I will.
294 / 290 will take you around the city and some of the metropolitan area. Itโs a toll road, have cash on you. Coins are best.
I also once saw a bumper sticker that said โF**k the wall, fix i90.โ Regardless of political beliefs, I think all Chicagoans would agree that about sums up the i90 situation very well.
Mistaken_Stranger ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 17:03:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This sounds like Homer's trip to New York City.
xford ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:15:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"we'll see kids...we'll see"
garbage hits face
damackisback ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:20:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Funny story, but a few things don't add up. First, at 11 a.m. you were at a split which could've taken you to I-80, or stay on I-90 and you're 90 minutes away from Chicago. So you were in the Rockford area. Fast forward 90 minutes and you're near O'hare Airport, just inside the city limits. It's 1:30 p.m. now and Guaranteed Rate Field is roughly 20 miles away. With no traffic, it'd take you less than 30 minutes to get there. At this time of day it should've been relatively smooth sailing. Even during a blizzard and traffic down to one lane it wouldn't take 5 hours to get to the stadium. In fact, Google says it would only take 7 hours to walk there from O'hare.
Secondly, Chicago has its share of strange street names, however, there is no area where the signs are all in Spanish. Maybe you're just talking about signs above storefronts?
Thirdly, nobody drives through Chicago and ends up buying pizza in Indiana. Nobody.
xford ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:48:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was nearly 15 years ago and well before I could rely on Google to tell me where I was at any moment in the past. I'm sure some details have faded. Rockford area seems to be about right as far as the starting point. I believe there were signs for the upcoming 90/39 split indicating that 39 would take us to i80.
By the time we hit the second toll booth it was already a shit show. I'm not sure what happened but eventually it was a total parking lot, l literally got out of the driver's seat in thr middle lane, walked to the side of the road to relieve myself, walked back to the car and traffic hadn't moved an inch. When I said signs I was referring to the billboards on the sides of buildings.
As far as the pizza in Indiana,well we come to the from northeast PA, where we have the highest density of pizza places to people. Pizza is literally the answer to nearly any food related question.
Zombikittie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:04:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh no, I'm sorry our traffic sucks. It's literally the worst expressway. I used to take it everyday for work.
ali_sez_so ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:18:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lived on Chicago for 3 years. Can conform
F4cetious ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:24:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm just imagining this like that south park parody of those "I Shouldn't Be Alive" type shows.
"We thought we could take a shortcut, just have a nice pizza and enjoy the scenery, you know? We should have listened. WE SHOULD HAVE LISTENED!"
FistMyKitten ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:07:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Funny my girl friend and I just did that exact drive, we both live in big sky, Montana and stopped through Chicago on our way to Georgia. It was raining today and only had about 40 min worth of traffic, never stopped once except merging on the on-ramp for the I-90. Guess we got lucky ๐คทโโ๏ธ
xford ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:08:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You dueled with the devil and won, congratulations.
djfrey ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:59:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I drove from Rapid City, SD to Buffalo, NY in a day and a half, I-90 the entire way, about 23 years ago. The part through Chicago stands out as one of the most terrifying driving experiences of my life. Massive construction. No shoulder, just concrete barriers. Everyone driving 90 MPH, mere feet between you and the person in front of you and behind you. White-knuckle, bug-eyed fear for the duration.
On the plus side, traffic zipped right along. Must've been the right time of day.
24-7booty ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:01:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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TheNotorious53 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:09:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good Lord, I hope you didn't stop in Gary after all of that excitement!
xford ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:15:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've avoided Gary up to this point, but we stop in Terre Haute on my drives back from Arkansas.
TheNotorious53 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 15:20:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And now, off to Google Terre Haute I go! Lol
CurrentlyNobody ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:15:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This made me laugh. Thank you!
I'm not sure if it was 90, but I drove my Navy nephew's parents through Chicago (from New Hampshire) for my 'phews boot camp graduation at Great Lakes. All I remember is sorta going up and rounding a curve on a highway only to be dumped into 7 Levels of Hell. The GPS was telling me to take the next right exit. I was entering that road from the farthest left lane, the fast lane, and there was no way I had time to move over that fast, even after shouting at my uptight sister-in-law/backseat driver to "Close your eyes and shut your mouth, Darlene!" And flooring it! Ended up passing that exit and working back. Memorable :)
ade-the-tog ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:37:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What why would the signs be Spanish in America?
catfishdeity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:18:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because there are a lot of areas where the majority of the population speaks spanish. I used to live in Corpus Christi TX and signs in Spanish were pretty common, especially on the west side.
ade-the-tog ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 13:27:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I highly doubt this.
catfishdeity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:15:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you ever lived in a Spanish speaking majority area?
ade-the-tog ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 14:44:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No I live in the UK. But I highly doubt there are any non english speaking areas in an English speaking country. Otherwise, why would there be use for the word "minority"?
catfishdeity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:54:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because it's a national term, not a localized term? There are a lot of areas in the US, especially along the border in which the dominant language is Spanish. Where I lived in TX non-Hispanic whites were not the majority, and only made up 1/3 of the population.
Notice I didn't say "non-English speaking". Most people in these areas know English to some degree. If like 90% of the neighborhood speaks Spanish though, business are going to advertise in Spanish there because it works better.
Both El Paso, TX and Miami, FL are US cities where a majority of people speak Spanish as their primary language. There are others, those are just the largest.
Also, if you want to get *really* technical: Puerto Rico is an entirely Spanish speaking area that is part of the US.
ade-the-tog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:16:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh. I thought Puerto Rico was south of Mexico. My confusion was that the original post mentioned near Chicago, which is northern US? So what would a Spanish speaking area be doing there?
catfishdeity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:13:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, Puerto Rico is a US territory in the Caribbean.
Chicago is a) huge and b) has a very large immigrant population. I mean my step-grandpa grew up in a Chicago suburb in a Finnish speaking household.
Individual ethnicities tend to form enclaves, and by far the largest immigrant group in the US is Mexicans, both legal and illegal. Nearly every large city in the US has a neighborhood where a lot of Spanish speakers congregate.
Also distance from the host country doesn't matter. Remember, Chinatown in New York City is way further from China than Chicago is in from Mexico.
Are there seriously no ethnic enclaves where you live?
ade-the-tog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:20:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree with you. Where I live in the north east of England is 95% white British. There is a significant Jewish population in Gateshead and there is a Chinatown in Newcastle. But nowhere near enough people of minority to have signposts of different languages, let alone billboards.
catfishdeity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:33:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And if the Jewish population over there is much like the one here, they're probably speaking English anyway...every Jew I've known stateside speaks English both in public and private. I wonder if there are any areas like that in England at all? I mean I know London is pretty immigrant-filled.
I suppose it is just a matter of density: I mean even Nashville TN (which is big, but not Chicago big) has a neighborhood with Spanish-language billboards on the southeastern side.
xford ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:16:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was referring to billboard advertisements, not the physical street sighs.
fuckeveryeverything ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:13:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really want to know where you bought your pizza.
xford ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:07:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh man, I wouldn't even be able to make a guess. It was unremarkable other than the fact that we hadn't eaten since breakfast and were just happy to be out of Illinois.
san_serifs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:25:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I commute to the suburbs from Chicago on I-90 everyday. At least itโs only three days a week.
starbucksordunkin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:48:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drove I-90 to get to target faster yesterday (5 exits through the loop, which is the worst part) & reminded myself why I hate I-90.
dimlink ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:01:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There will be people who don't heed this advice. They are fools.
Jcashman317 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:25:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I COMMUTE THROUGH THAT SHIT DAILY.
- a murderous chicagoan
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:54:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This ain't a TIFU thread
xford ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:48:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you not entertained?
autarchex ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:05:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The signs were in... Spanish? As an Oregonian, closer, technically, to the border with Mexico, with absolutely no Spanish signage here, despite our high Spanish speaking population, am confused.
xford ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:49:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I meant billboards, not street signs.
FrybreadForever ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:56:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah the stop signs and street signs are in espanol in some areas. Thought I glitched the first time I drove through a neighborhood like that.
ranxarox ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:23:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just NEVER drive in Chicago WORST drivers in the country !!!!! And I say that as a 25 year 48 state truck driver
TaisharCatuli ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 07:39:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You made me curious, apparently it's South Carolina by a not insignificant margin.
SJHSparkplug ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:57:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's not accurate. There's only more deaths there because they are horrible drivers and the highways are usually pretty good so they're going about 70mph. The drivers in Chicagoland are much much worse and do their worst when the traffic is flowing maybe 20mph, nobody is going to get killed!
StringFartet ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:54:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In Chicago if there's room between bumpers you're wasting space and making me late, you fucking asshole! No matter the speed.
ranxarox ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:15:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually enjoyed driving in south Carolina the drivers were very nice to truckers
DiavoloJustWorks ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:08:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Couldn't have been that forgettable if you remember you had pizza that day
littlewine42 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:08:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โYour motherโ
efg1342 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:20:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kinda waiting on a National Lampoons reference still
Prosthemadera ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:25:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The amount of oil that gets burned on a daily basis just by sitting in a car in traffic jams almost breaks my heart.
masterxak ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:40:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never ever drive through a major city. Should be universal advice unless its past midnight.
wgc123 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:04:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wonder if thatโs still true with GPS/traffic reports.
We used to say the same about the cross-Bronx expressway: from Boston, it looks like the most direct route to points south. After consistently being stuck many hours on it, never again: going around, NY Thruway to Garden State is only like 30 miles longer and much faster. However for the last couple of years, now that GPS has good traffic data, weโve let it take the lead, and it works. Iโve even been on the cross-Bronx without spending the whole afternoon there!
A_RAND0M_J3W ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:12:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd strongly recommend avoiding it in Albany as well.
xford ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:06:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Albany is always i87 except for getting off to get some BBQ at Dinosaur in Troy.
Rhooster31313 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:41:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shoulda stopped at Portillo's
SilkyGazelleWatkins ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:02:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is I-90 worse than Boston traffic? I dont fucking believe it.
Schmoopster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:50:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thereโs nothing worse than Boston Traffic. I travel to both cities quite frequently and Boston wins.
THEREALCABEZAGRANDE ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:21:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have to go through Midway for work every once in a while. I live in a city where I can get to the airport and on my plane in an hour. I'd heard about how bad it could be at Midway, so I left for my flight about 3 and a half hours before my boarding time, from about 30 miles from the airport. I made my flight with 2 minutes to spare. What would have taken 70 minutes in my home city took more than 200. I have never seen such traffic. How THE FUCK can it take an hour to go 10 goddamn miles?!? ON AN INTERSTATE?!?? Chicago traffic is amazingly terrible.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:32:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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xford ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:38:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd rather stand in line at the airport on a major holiday than drive inside of St. Louis ever again.
thatcrazylady ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:12:28 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If we change Los Angeles for Chicago, we can change I-90 for the 405.
I grew up in Chicago and have lived in LA for 35 years now.
ShowWisdom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:53:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chicago person here. Always take I-80 over I-90.. Glad you know now:)
PoIIux ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 08:58:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
FTFY. That was the biggest mistake you made tbh
xford ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:09:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was certainly a less enlightened time.
TheElementalDj ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 07:02:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yellowstone monkaW
inspektorkemp ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:24:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This reads like a creepypasta.
[deleted] ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 06:36:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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thev3ntu5 ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 06:55:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWhat is now Guaranteed Rate Fieldโ
xford ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:18:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This guy, this guy reads.
eventstranspired ยท 15160 points ยท Posted at 23:34:04 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Flip a coin and choose the one you're hoping for. I don't even have to flip a coin now and I'm way more decisive!
SkaiHaiPunch ยท 4475 points ยท Posted at 01:40:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this a lot and it works amazingly well. You donโt know what you really want unless youโre put under pressure, even if said pressure is as small as a coin flip.
BTW I didnโt know what to call it, so I said pressure
ryebread91 ยท 459 points ยท Posted at 01:55:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโd say pressure works. Kind of in a short time limit kind of way.
eventstranspired ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 01:58:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I definitely think of it as pressure. Time ticking by during a long decision makes me feel pressured.
canadiancarlin ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 03:46:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So like a seven page essay due in an hour kind of pressure and not a my parents expect grandchildren but I'm not even financially stable enough to support myself pressure?
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:38:04 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pressure is pressure, the question is not what kind but how much.
GerbilJibberJabber ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:58:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sense of immediacy.
dungeonpost ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:19:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ordering food at restaurants I always panic and choose while I am speaking. I should try this before I have to order.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:24:02 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Definitely. I also always have the issue of โshould I try something new or something I know Iโll love?โ
Kylynara ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 03:23:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think pressure is a good word for it, in the "oh shit what am I gonna be stuck with" sort of way. But I think the trick works because when you're trying to decide between two things there's a pressure to have a reason. Once you decide to pick at random it frees you to listen to your instincts, to go with your gut, because that's a "more valid" basis than random.
eventstranspired ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:44:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great articulation!
Largonaut ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 03:00:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Freddy Mercury appreciates you.
BlueDogXL ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 03:17:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Undah preshha
fighterace00 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:04:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ice ice baby
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:37:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pushing down on me!
davy_li ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 04:24:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My girlfriend has a similar process. She asks me to pick between two choices (like do I prefer the red or yellow dress). I usually just blurt one of the choices back. At that point, she suddenly realizes the choice she actually wanted and ignores anything that I say, even though that yellow dress objectively looks worse on her.
fuchsiaring ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:39:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My gf and I do the same thing when we canโt decide where to eat (weโre both women this happens a lot). We call the unrealized preferences โsecret opinionsโ lol
DaneOak ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:30:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To me the feeling of โpressureโ is like suddenly being confronted with being forced to choose the one you donโt want and realizing you want the other thing
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:36:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah fam. Pressure is a homeless man who doesn't know where his next meal is coming from.
rattlemebones ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:40:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Found Damian Lillard
ThisAfricanboy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:04:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually pressure is the force acting perpendicularly on a unit area.
DaneOak ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:53:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Context bro
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:56:56 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm memeing
eskwild ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:22:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Abide by the toss to learn what you wanted.
meowmix67 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:02:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instinct
Peak8u ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:52:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But what happens, when you are choosing between short term pleasure and long term goals? Like, skipping school for the day?
McGobs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:27:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or how I won't really proofread my comment until I hit send.
UndeadNyx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:53:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did you flip on what to call it?
preciousavocado ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:20:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
UNDER PRESSURE ๐ค๐ค๐ค
Oklahom0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:43:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did you ask the coin if you should give love one more chance?
OhNoMellon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:33:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've done this since I was a kid. I did it at first because I thought flipping a coin made me look cool, and then realized it's easier to do what the above comment said. Funny that so many others do it too.
GaySwordfish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:25:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learned this from the Hannah Montana movie.
Apatomoose ยท 1593 points ยท Posted at 02:09:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And if you still can't decide, go with whatever the coin said. If the two choices are that neck and neck it's better to just pick something than spend time agonizing trying to pick the 'right' thing.
Also, if you just pick something, and it turns out wrong, that's a great learning opportunity. Then you'll have more information next time you make a similar choice.
yonewredditwhodis ยท 71 points ยท Posted at 03:27:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A quote I heard some time ago that stuck with me was "The road of life is filled with indecisive squirrels. "
BelgarathTheSorcerer ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 03:41:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shit, I live for the coinflips that I'd be fine with either outcome - live that Chaotic life bay bee, all hail the Lords of Chaos
Apatomoose ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:36:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hell yeah!
Mjolnirsbear ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:12:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone said that's a trick to show you're psychic. You don't know which option you really want, but if you flip a coin and get an answer. Either you're disappointed with the result (and thus change your mind knowing it's the one you want most) or you're fine with it (and have thus confirmed it was the best choice for you).
birdnerd ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:31:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
http://freakonomics.com/podcast/would-you-let-a-coin-toss-decide-your-future-a-new-freakonomics-radio-podcast-3/
mynoserunsmorethanme ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:46:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve heard a similar one to this. Flip a coin, go with what it says. If youโre disappointed by the choice then change it to the other one, and choice made. If not, great, choice made for you.
Wannabe_Madgirl ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:38:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As Gretchen Rubin says, "Most decisions don't require a lot of thinking."
You can go to the other restaurant tomorrow. You can try the other dish next week. The baby monitor you choose will probably be fine.
benevolentpotato ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:24:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is something my dad and I have discussed. People who have grown up in the information age seem to find themselves constantly experiencing overchoice/choice paralysis/the paradox of choice/whatever you want to call it.
When my dad was young, he says it was easy to buy a house, or a car, or marry someone, or get a job - you looked at the half dozen places your realtor showed you, the two dozen cars on the lot, the handful of girls you liked at church or school, and the few dozen ads in the paper. There was usually one, maybe two standout options, you picked the best one, and ran with it. If it was a lemon, eh, how were you supposed to know? You did the best with what you had. Chalk it up to experience and move on.
Now, with the internet, I can see thousands of houses for sale on Zillow. I can thousands of cars for sale on Autotrader. Thousands of single girls on Tinder or Bumble or whatever. Thousands of jobs on Indeed. And I can research every single one to death. Does this girl have an Instagram? Is this a good furnace? What do people think of VW infotainment systems? What's the Glassdoor reviews for this place?
Not only is it more to sift through, but it shifts the blame onto you for what really is just bad luck. Got a crappy job? You should've put more stock in that 1-star review on Indeed. Girlfriend cheated on you? Should've scrolled back down her Twitter and seen that she did that 3 years ago when she lived in Maine. Uncomfortable seats in your car? Just ONE more YouTube review would've told you that.
So we end up agonizing over these decisions, sifting through blog posts and YouTube videos and review sites and Facebook profiles trying to find that ONE golden nugget that tells us what to do. But of course, it never comes. You're panning for gold in a garbage dump. The internet isn't a library full of all the answers, it's a back alley full of graffiti, folks yelling at each other, and cats. You can find someone there who will tell you anything about anything. The Cruze is the best/worst car ever made! This school district is the best/worst district! This company is great/horrible to work for! There's rarely enough data to cancel the noise.
Honestly, the best answer is often to just pick something and move on. Your gut feeling is probably good enough, and doing something is better than doing nothing. Often times online research is little more than reading tea leaves or looking for shapes in the clouds, so might as well just buckle up and do it.
Paleork ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:09:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Frank talked about this.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:08:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've only used this technique for whether I should order Pizza or Burgers and sides.
I order whichever I get based on the coin and then kind of at the end of eating, I go I mean, the other would've been nicer.
Slacker5001 ยท 953 points ยท Posted at 01:49:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was stuck, I used to ask my family to decide. And if I was happy with the answer, I knew that they picked what I wanted. And if I was disappointed, clearly I didn't want what they picked.
DesultoryMooncalf ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 03:20:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this sometimes but then people sometimes get frustrated if i change to the one they didnโt pick when i realized i wanted the other one. Like even if it was a decision that didnโt effect them at all.
Falcon_Pimpslap ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 03:53:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The second you involved them, it affected them. That's why flipping a coin is better advice.
DesultoryMooncalf ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:55:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
true. but what if i donโt have a coin?! haha, i sometimes just try and imagine me choosing one/flipping a coin and then gauge my reaction by that if i have no other options.
Falcon_Pimpslap ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:57:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol, the Imaginary Buddhist Coin Technique. I like it.
diablette ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:43:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In that case, you can type "random number between 1 and 2" into Google. 1=heads, 2=tails.
BlackDeath3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:24:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find looking at the least-significant digit of a clock to be a pretty quick, lightweight method of choosing a random-ish seed. It usually works pretty well if I haven't been following the time very closely.
nachog2003 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:41:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can ask her to flip a coin.
DesultoryMooncalf ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:45:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i also can ask siri to flip a coin. or just ask a person to pick either one or two. so many solutions! in most situations i wouldnโt have google super readily available as i probably wouldnโt be near my computer and i donโt use google as my phone browser, but that is a good option.
SocksTheFox ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:59:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Google isn't browser specific by the way. it's google.com...a website that can be accessed from any browser
DesultoryMooncalf ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 14:31:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
right. okay, google isnโt my default search engine. i would have to go to the extra effort of searching for it.
SinkTube ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:44:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
flip the person you're talking to
DesultoryMooncalf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:31:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
iโll have to try this.
Falcon_Pimpslap ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 03:52:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Far worse advice. Not only are you subconsciously abdicating responsibility ("well I didn't pick it, I knew it was a bad idea"), you're setting your family up for disappointment if you decide against their human coin flip.
Flip a coin. You get the same emotional feedback while owning your decision and never running a risk of disappointing other people.
Slacker5001 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:20:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was something my mom and sister were on board with. And I'd tell them ahead of time that it was to help me make a decision. Usually not on things that impacted them in any way.
Nor was it meant as advice. Just sharing a personal anecdote of what I do sometimes to see if I connect with other human beings on the matter. Nothing more.
So slow down your judgy McJudge pants there buddy. You don't know the whole situation.
Falcon_Pimpslap ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:36:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Absolutely stand by it, despite that very specific set of unmentioned details.
Not judging, simply stating facts. Anyone not in your exact situation who thinks "hey, that's a good idea" is making a poor decision based on your anecdote, and should be fully informed when reading this.
[deleted] ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 03:06:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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KoldProduct ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 03:34:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the worst and i get it but fuck
fauxcrow ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:39:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I don't like it. You need to own your decisions as your own. You can't give someone else the credit or blame. Own it, stand tall and work with your decisions.
WalleyeSushi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:20:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I literally just got off the phone with a mentor... late night call to have him make a decision for me. The conversation brought me to an opposite conclusion than what I started with, and I liked his final answer.... so your comment helped me know I did the right thing!! Thanks!!!
plethoralaura ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
SAME and I hate when they refuse to answer me now because I very rarely ask them anything its only like once a year when I truly cant decide because I either hate both or love both
Firewolf420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:23:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if you're disappointed with both answers
Slacker5001 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:44:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmm... then probably your between a rock and a hard place and neither option is going to make you truly happy. So it becomes a decision of which is the lesser of two evils. Or at least that is what I think.
NarvusSchleibs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:43:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My husband does this for me
mckatli ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:51:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's exactly what I did when I was deciding which university to go to!
wtimkey2016 ยท 98 points ยท Posted at 01:54:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I figured this out on my own. I'd flip a coin to decide between doing two different things, and if I was sad about the outcome, I realized that I had already made my decision long before the coin flip.
altech6983 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 02:38:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah I see because you realized the coin was metal.
twofiddle ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:51:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/CoinsAreMetal
Ron_Mexico_99 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you immediatley know the candlelight is fire then the meal was cooked long ago.
Firethesky ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:47:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me too and I have this same reaction. Otherwise if I feel indifferent about the outcome I just go with what the flip was. Decision made no matter what.
Broom_Broom_ ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 02:16:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can u elaborate on this? I donโt really understand ๐
TheMaddMan1 ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 02:28:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do it slightly different. Flip a coin, and if you want to flip it again then you know what the answer is.
[deleted] ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 02:30:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Broom_Broom_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:32:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mmm gotcha, thank you
wormbreath ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 03:14:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read it over and over, and I couldnโt figure out what it meant either. Youโre not alone. Lol
DiabloSSSSSS ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:44:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you need to make a decision but don't know which choice is better, flip a coin. Then, rather than deciding based on the outcome of the coin toss, decide based on how you feel about the outcome. Even if you didn't realise it before tossing the coin you'll most likely prefer one outcome over the other, and the feeling of relief or disappointment you get from seeing the other outcome will make you realise which it it.
Supposedly.
eventstranspired ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:50:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I replied above. Sorry it wasn't clear the first time.
wormbreath ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:26:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get it now. Thanks for explaining!
eventstranspired ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:50:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh sorry! So you have two choices which you assign to Heads and Tails. Flip the coin, and while it's in the air, pay attention to what result you want.
u/TheMaddMan1's method is also a great way of doing it.
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Basically, it informs you of the choice you actually want or are hoping for.
ttocskcaj ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:09:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I understand what you're saying, but I can't think of a single situation where I've been stuck trying to make a decision. I understand if it's truly 50/50, but if you already want one of the options, then what's the hold up?
Is it really that common to not recognize what you want?
eventstranspired ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:37:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, yeah. I used to overanalyse everything. Even the tiniest things like "bus or train today" or "left or right to my lecture theatre." You're definitely one of the lucky ones!
fistymonkey1337 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:59:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This has helped me tremendously in the past. I just started flipping a coin and wouldnt look at the result. Knew what I wanted immediately.
snpods ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:32:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad used to call this the โGeorge Bush deciderโ approach, because he was (sarcastically) convinced thatโs how we wound up in Iraq hunting for weapons of mass destruction.
lusciouslucias ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:22:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a wise twitter user once said; โyou looking for a sign to do something IS a signโ
ShiraCheshire ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:17:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love this one.
If it wasn't really important to you either way, now you don't need to spend any more time worrying over a meaningless decision.
If it was important, now you know which one would make you sad not to do.
barelyreal7 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:11:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, and for certain situations, I'll pick based on my reaction.
If it lands on heads and I'm like "dammit!" I'll choose whatever tails was because that's the one I truely wanted.
ThePhotoGuyUpstairs ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:20:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My daughter does this, without even realising she's doing it.
She can't make a choice, so she "flips" a coin (by turning it over and over and over in her hand as she raises it over her head and back down).
On the way down, she stares at in intently, and then, confidently sticks it down on the side she wants.
mattyisbatty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:39:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be sure to remind her of this later in life when the real emotions come so she can better know how to make herself happy.
ndgrey ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:19:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But what If what you want is wrong?
Loebb ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:29:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think the advice only comes into play with trivial things, or the ones in which the consequences doesn't come into the decision or are meaningless.
More "blue or black shirt?" not "should i call my ex?" or "should i buy a house?".
ndgrey ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:32:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know a guy who based life changing decisions on a coin toss. Broke up with a girlfriend because of a coin toss, and accepted another job in a different state because of a coin toss. He said if you do it right without flipping again or going against it then you live life without any stress because you dont have to worry about what could be. You just flip a coin. Not sure if I could live like that.
Loebb ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:41:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If someone is so sure about the outcome of doing something or not, , why do a coin toss?. The part about going against it seems weird though, because if you decide to go against it just mean that you already make your mind about a choice, so why go for a coin toss in the first place?
But yeah, im overthinking this and probably thats why i wouldn't go for that either.
Vandelay_Latex_Sales ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:57:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This
killsknocks back the Batman.ollieollieoxinfree ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:16:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is actually a research project which is two lengthy for me to type out because I'm lazy but the upshot was: people who make a decision are happier with a decision they made then people who take a long time to analyze or agonize over their decisions. This was done by testing a group of students in having them pick their favorite pictures and decide whether or not they were going to submit which ones. The ones who had to make the decision right away always rated their choices highly compared to people who had a couple weeks to decide and the option to change their mind. Ironically when people were given a choice whether they like to take the class where they had to decide right away or the one where they would have time to decide people almost always picked the one that would give them more time to decide and they actually chose (albeit unknowingly) to be less satisfied...
unknown1893 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:57:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm a huge fan of this one, and use it all the time. The coin flip doesnโt decide for you, itโs how you feel about the coin flip that does it!
somecatgirl ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:33:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They did this on an episode of Frasier :)
daddypusspuss ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:07:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this but with hands and numbers, mentally I assign an option to either hand, or if thereโs more than two options I use number (ex: pick left or right or pick 1, 2, or 3) or itโs not in person I assign numbers, then have someone choose one and if youโre disappointed you know what you wanted and if youโre not, hey, a decisions been made!
nicko0409 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:08:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gonna try this over the weekend to decide between my wife and my girlfriend
fuckthehumanity ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:18:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Done this for years. Helps focus on a decision. And if you still can't decide, well... there's the coin.
StumpNuts ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:34:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I bought a tv doing this. That was bad timing.
threefragsleft ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:44:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWhenever you're called on to make up your mind,
and you're hampered by not having any,
the best way to solve the dilemma, you'll find,
is simply by spinning a penny.
No - not so that chance shall decide the affair
while you're passively standing there moping;
but the moment the penny is up in the air,
you suddenly know what you're hoping. โ
- Piet Hein
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:58:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. Flip the coin, and you'll immediately be able to tell if you're really disappointed in the result. If you can't tell, then do what the coin says.
poopspeedstream ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:12:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whenever you're called on to make up your mind, and you're hampered by not having any, the best way to solve the dilemma, you'll find, is simply by spinning a penny. No - not so that chance shall decide the affair while you're passively standing there moping; but the moment the penny is up in the air, you suddenly know what you're hoping.
WooperSlim ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:40:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think you missed the first half of the explanation there...
Like, "When you can't decide something, flip a coin..."
hitzesushi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:44:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this all of the time and tell everyone! I have a hard time choosing and this really helps me figure out what I actually want!
VexbaneAramori ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:55:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. Its more so that the choice is out of your hands and you're on a time limit. once that power is gone you're free to chose without consequence
blaciet100 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:59:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's my philosophy too. Whenever someone asks me about two things they're trying to decide, I tell them to flip a coin for it. If they hesitate with the result, pick the other one.
Elion119 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:21:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah this also works if you have lots of different-sides dice(like I do) for more than 2 options.
IAmASuperFurry ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:22:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did that once and i realised what i really wanted instantly.
findingprotein ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:29:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does this remind anyone else of TVF Pitchers?
BelgarathTheSorcerer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:38:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Been using this for years, and I live for the moments where I really am fine with either option - the bigger the choice the better, too. Gimme the Lords of Chaos any day of the week!
aceshighsays ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:43:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I flip online coins.
dafckingman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:17:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh wow. I do this too but I go with what coin decides. Going with what I immediately hope for in the moment sounds so much better and makes so much more sense. Thanks eventstranspired!
eventstranspired ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:20:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's merit to your way too! But yeah this has really helped me, hope it helps you too!
nixtxt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:55:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do you mean? When trying to make a decision on something?
Danagrams ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:59:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is amazing I'm going to carry change now
Spartle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:45:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://www.random.org/coins/
In case you donโt have any coins.
Danagrams ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:54:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
thanks!
I wish I had euros or some other foreign currency, quarters are so boring
Zenketski ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:04:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've come to find out that when you flip a coin indecisive or not, you've made your decision
isaacseaman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:06:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anyone PITCHERS ?
todaywegrow ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:15:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can u explain this
Morug ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:36:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The version I was taught was to flip a coin if you can't decide. Then check and see if you are disappointed. If not, go with the flip. If yes, then go with the other.
Dsnake1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:37:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to carry a d20 for the same reason. Real easy to do ranges for a handful of choices.
After a few months, I started disobeying the die with what i wanted to do, and now, I just do what I want.
I should start carrying one for my wife, though.
siht-fo-etisoppo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:38:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
alright Mr. Dent
eventstranspired ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:46:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The scene in the car is still one of my all time faves haha
carterrice ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:38:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't even know other people did this. I always suggest this to my friends thinking I came up with it. And I can second this, it's my favorite piece of advice.
akg720 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:41:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My husband carries with him at all times 2 things. A little 1 inch glass turtle named Franklin that says โThinking of Youโ I bought for him 3 years ago and a half dollar coin. Any time we canโt decided something we let the coin choose. No arguing with the coin. Made our lives much easier.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:41:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if what you want is stupid and you cant decide because you know its stupid.
pretendpersonithink ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:44:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think I need to try this!
plasticarmyman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:51:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use rock paper scissors, it's more fun
AngryAmericanNeoNazi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:57:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do "eenie meenie miney mo" or however you'd write that and if I'm disappointed with the outcome then I know the other thing is actually my choice.
xErth_x ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:58:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tried this when i was choosing beetwen 2 motorcycles, didn't work...
SecretBeat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:23:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only issue is that sometimes what you're hoping for is the path of least resistance. The comfortable, safe option. Not always the best path for long term happiness.
brherbst ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:24:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I flip a coin and if Iโm disappointed with what the coin gods chose for me, i just take the other option because i clearly wang it more
skost-type ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:29:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Used to carry a die around for a similar reason. I find that even holding it helps me make decisions now. Used to not know what I really wanted until I rerolled it a few times to try and feel satisfied, and totally missed the point of the advice. It feels kinda nice, to have this little item I can go to for advice to tell me what I really want when I'm unsure
Doofuhs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:50:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like this one
Tsorovar ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:05:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That requires figuring out which I'm hoping for. Which was precisely the problem in the first place
riseanlux ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:22:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I saw this on hannah Montana when I was little.
Wierd. Only other thing I remember from that show was the dish episode.
secretbetta ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:27:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey! I do this too! My friends always ask but I find it such a useful trick.
PERMANENTLY__BANNED ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:59:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you place the coin on your thumb to flip, then flip it and catch it, then flip it over to show it to someone, it's always the opposite of what was sitting on your flipping thumb. Always. That's why the NFL let the coin fall on the ground.
KeplersTriangle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:38:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This works for me all the time, but the wife isn't always so pleased to see me flipping a coin to decide on things so I find random things in the environment that could be the decider and it becomes a little more interesting to me with the process.
For example, driving down the highway I'll look away from the mile markers or what have you(odometer), then peer back and if it's even or odd there's my choice. Also if it's a 3 option choice, it becomes (1)1,5,or 7; (2)2, 4, or 8; (3)3, 6 or 9. If it's a zero then I'll just delay, then roll it again or just make it a 2 if time is a bit of a contraint. Option 2 is usually what I may think my wife might enjoy more. Random colors work great too.
Takes the pressure off, and it's decided.
Ur_mothers_keeper ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:43:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is brilliant advice.
helpdebian ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:01:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish this worked for me but it just confuses me a bit.
Do I want apples or bananas?
Ok let's flip a coin. Heads is apples.
Flips coin. Tails
I feel disappointed, so I guess I want the apple.
And then I eat the apple and am regretting it. I should have ate the banana.
And this happens every single time. I have settled on the fact that I am just indecisive and unhappy in general. I probably didn't want either one, who knows.
eventstranspired ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:08:21 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I guess the thing to remember is that you can always have the banana next time! Cause ultimately what's it going to change if you choose one or the other?
I mean for big decisions, sure. But for small ones, just go with the flow it's not going to be significant 30 minutes down the line. Plus you know next time what you're gonna hit up: the banana!
JADW27 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:11:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always do the opposite of what the coin tells me to do because I've found coin flips to be unlucky. If I have trouble following through with the opposite, I know what I really wanted to do.
Explaining this process to others is pretty difficult, but effective.
"Heads. That means we go with the blue one."
"Wait, you said tails was the blue one."
"Yes, but you should always do the opposite of what the coin tells you."
"But I really wanted the red one."
"OK, screw the coin, let's get the red one."
AskMeAboutPodracing ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:58:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One time, I had a friend who could just not make up his mind about something. So I pulled out a quarter to let the fates decide. "heads you pick A, tails you pick B. Call it." And I flipped. He chose heads. Without knowing what the result was, I pocketed the quarter. When he asked what it was, I said, "it was heads."
It took him a moment, but watching the realization of what I did dawn on him was one of the most satisfying moments of my life.
Turnip701 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:56:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve flipped coins to make wild decisions. Itโs made me move across the world on more than one occasion. Iโve now lived in 4 different countries and Iโve been on some incredible adventures. Live and die by the coin.
BooBooJebus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if I always call heads
leewoodlegend ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:52:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I'm with someone and they can't decide between two things I'll say "Okay let's just flip for it. Heads is...?"
Whatever they say is what we do. Go with the gut.
mikerichh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:56:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great tip. I HATE making decisions sometimes and put off making a final call. This might help :)
stillwantthekidsmenu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me it's rock paper scissors where each person represents an option and after I determine whether or not I'm disappointed by the result
radpandaparty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this a lot. If I can't decide what I want to watch or what I want to eat this is my go to. If you google "coin flip" one will pop up.
LaddieLuck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:28:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My friends and I do something similar. If we flip a coin and we're disappointed even somewhat by the results, then we go do the other option
goomy-toons ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:55:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do a similar thing with eenie-minie-mo when thereโs multiple choices. Go through it, and if I donโt feel satisfied, I eliminate that one and do it again
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:44:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
100% works. I use a list randomizer usually, and I either pick the one I actually wanted all along or just whatever the randomizer says.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:55:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do the coin flipping thing all the time. Its not about leaving it up to chance, its about figuring out which option I want more. If it comes up heads and I'm like "oh", then probably I actually wanted the other option more. Helps me make decisions based on intuition instead of what I think I should do.
BadlyFed ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:55:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When my wife and I can't pick what to have for dinner we will come up with a list of options, we each get one veto. Then we put them in brackets and flip coins. The winner is where we eat (or more accurately where we order takeout from)
jtn19120 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:08:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Found Two-Face
cuttlefish_tastegood ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:10:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this with my wife and rock paper scissors. I assign a restaurant yo her and me and whoever wins we go to that restaurant. Normally that let's us know where she really wanted to go.
kitty_hampsted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:19:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! We have a designated coin for this that we call the zen coin. Your gut reaction to the outcome tells you everything you need to know.
nocturnate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:50:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a friend who chose which girl he actually wanted to pursue by flipping a coin
WutangCND ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:00:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife just and my opinion then chooses the opposite. She has really figured it all out.
PeytonBrees ยท 8174 points ยท Posted at 01:30:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you feel like quitting then just tell yourself that the story doesn't end this way. Sounds cliche, but you decide when your story ends when you stop trying. You may fail, but you will not fail today. Don't let the story end this way.
ArhezOwl ยท 57 points ยท Posted at 02:55:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Imagining my life as a story is what has helped me through some pretty dark days. Ending it all would be a pretty crappy way to end the story.
InsaneLeader13 ยท 385 points ยท Posted at 02:04:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
What if I was never interested in the story in the first place though?
Edit: I didn't imagine everyone would immediately jump to this being some sort of cry for help. The idea was more on the lines of not really caring about the end result of a project one might have been working on, not something as important as a life. The massive outpouring is appreciated though.
PatoLoco94 ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 06:20:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Solid question. OP motivates me to quit smoking but like, my story isnโt that interesting and I really donโt want it to drag on, pun intended
klopnyyt ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 15:21:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Who knows what is going to happen in your story? The only thing that you will know for sure are the detrimental effects of being a long-time smoker.
PatoLoco94 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:43:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good point, my Grandma was a smoker, my dad buried her today.
But she was 98 so idk. Also he has COPD and idk want to do with all this info
PuroMichoacan ยท 82 points ยท Posted at 03:06:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Plenty of RPGs out there buddy.
1SweetChuck ยท 96 points ยท Posted at 03:20:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Somebody has to be the NPC.
Sucsynct ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 05:59:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oof 100
PsychicFoxWithSpoons ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 07:03:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
The answer is kind of silly, actually: read more books.
As humans we're culturally designed to learn from people who came before us. We model ourselves after other people, real or fictional, and apply the lessons they learned from their experiences to the way we process our own lives. It can be tough to see the way out of your depressive funk if you have never "met" anyone who managed it.
I don't think movies and shows are an acceptable substitute. The format and consumption is totally different. Read books. Go to the library and wander through, I dunno, the scifi aisle. That one always brought me joy.
Some books that really inspired me as a kid which continue to get me revved up as an adult:
These are books with strong, intelligent heroes who overcame many different kinds of adversity. They offer pointed philosophical questions and really get into political intrigue. It's kind of my aesthetic to be a conniving but brilliant little shit, and I really identified with characters who shared a personality type with me. Fuck John Galt though. I'm not giving Ayn Rand the time of day. Insufferable. Runs away from "communism" to create a nice little communist utopia in the middle of nowhere, and then refuses to share with anyone who isn't independently wealthy. Disgusting.
Other books that may strike your fancy with interesting and heroic protags are:
I would avoid anything involving themes of suicide (hamlet, the awakening) if you're feeling depressed. It's not cathartic at all. I got moodier and way more withdrawn, and it really intensified my self-harming and suicidal urges in an unpleasant way.
Corvado ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 09:46:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also recommend anything by Kurt Vonnegut, although that might not be for everyone. His books can be bleak, but they always offer me so much insight into the human condition. They remind me that we all have struggles, and teach me to laugh them off because everything really is absurd if you think enough about it.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:17:56 on May 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can you recomend a particular book to start off with?
HypnoticProposal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:23:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've read all of the books in this list except these two. I'll have to look them up! Have you read the other books by Asimov?
PsychicFoxWithSpoons ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:49:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sure have!
I do admit that part of the inclusion of these two is because the protagonists are female. It wouldn't be very cash money of me to only include books with male heroes.
Pmang6 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:30:14 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Red mars series by kim stanley robinson. Basically game of thrones but its hard scifi about colonizing mars. Lots of flawed characters that are doing incredible things.
pistachio-pie ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 02:53:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then that's almost more inspiring - to get through it, and change the story.
CryptMonkey ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:25:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's a song about exactly this in the Matilda musical
Condawg ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 06:13:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's your story. If you don't like it, change it. (Keeping in mind that characters never change their circumstances without adversity. Easier said than done, but it's in your power to do it.)
Edores ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:50:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Something someone once said to me when I was expressing that I didn't want to grow old:
"I don't feel that way. I want to know how history turns out!"
And I was like damn. Yeah. My life isn't very interesting, but you know what is? The totality of human existence and where it is heading.
We live in crazy times. It's hard to realize sometimes, but think back to 50 years ago and think about how unrecognizable the year 2020 would be to someone in 1970. The same differential is going to apply to 2020 and 2070.
So yeah. Even of my story sucks, mine isn't the only one to enioy.
I, too, want to watch history unfold.
Pmang6 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:31:17 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This and empathy for my family is keeping me alive right now.
RedeRules770 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:05:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Change it to something you are interested in
falafel_eater ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:04:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The story is also something that you get to write; it is not served to you on a platter. If you passively wait for the "good part", you're going to be bored and have a miserable time. I know I did.
But once you are able to engage more, it's actually pretty cool. Be the change you want to see in the world, as they say. And I realize this is way easier said than done. But on the other hand, you've got nothing to lose.
amarooso ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:47:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Find something good about the story and focus on that.
liliangoose ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:13:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just think of all the sequels that were better, or the shows that really picked up after the first few seasons as the show found its feet. You got this.
Hotdoganddonut ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:55:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah. Asking for a friend
JoelMB98 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:42:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
make one that does interest you.. wont be easy, nothing that's worth doing ever is.
B-Knight ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 06:45:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
New Game+ or Reload Last Checkpoint
AnimaLepton ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 05:45:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Conversely, quitting isn't failing. Sometimes quitting is the best step for you, you shouldn't try and force yourself through something terrible just hoping that it gets better, and you'll be happier once you quit.
So many people stick with things that are harmful for them because they've been conditioned not to quit, socialized to think that quitting is failure. I know people who saw the warning signs, tried to stick it out, and 5 years later almost ended up worse than where they started off.
duke838 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 07:56:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup was looking for this. If you are fantasizing about car crash, serious injury, or anything like that just so you dont have to go to your job then quiting is probably the best decision you'll ever make.
grasshopperson ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 08:09:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Quitting is a power move. You give yourself control that you lost. Courage is not within writing the letter, giving it to your boss, and facing coworkers questions in the last two weeks - courage is found within being honest with yourself about what you actually want versus what you will admit.
FabianRo ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:44:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I first read it as "quitting your job" as well, but I think they meant suicide.
AnimaLepton ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:05:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ahh, I can see that. I was definitely reading it more from the perspective of depression rather than suicidal ideation, within the context of people quitting a job or a PhD program or something.
Stegaosaurus ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 16:17:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, if you ignore society's taboo on suicide, all of his advice about quitting a job applies to quitting life too. You shouldn't have to force yourself through something terrible hoping that it will get better, because it very well might not.
FabianRo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:42:56 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But if there's even the tiniest chance that you can experience any happiness in the future, it's better than death. And you never know what happens, everything is evolving so rapidly nowadays, maybe a superintelligent AI will take over in one or two decades and solve all your problems. Or any of the other thousands of ways your life your could improve.
Stegaosaurus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:51:14 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A lifetime of suffering isn't worth a miniscule chance that it won't be suffering at some point.
klassykitty ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:46:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Quitting is OK as long as it still brings you to the next (hopefully brighter) chapter in your life. :)
Mackem101 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:20:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think of it like gambling, if someone was losing every bet, would you tell them to keep on plowing money in as they may win big on the next one? Nope you'd advise quitting.
bricked_machine ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 02:56:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is Game Of Thrones-level advice.
microsnail ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 03:05:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do we say to the god of death?
forgotmypassword14 ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 03:34:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Any day now...
siskomencetic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:40:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oof
HymenTroubleNow ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 03:06:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do we say to the God of Death?
manzana1912 ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 03:15:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not today
p_velocity ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:28:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
but next Thursday works. Have my people call your people and pencil me in.
Yewnicorns ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:51:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Scrolled for this comment. ๐
Poonurse13 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:58:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was hoping for a GoT comment to this. Not today.
CapintheHat ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:06:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know what we say to quitting, Not today
braidedtainthair ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was about to bring up GOT
somewhitekid93 ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 03:02:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is only one god, and his name is Death. And there is only one thing we say to Death. โNot todayโ
hamburger_2 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:15:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm an idiot. I thought you were talking about some guy named Death (Dee-th) like Keith but with a D and was very confused.
KuBratumo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:01:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, you said it yourself.
esesci ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 03:08:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah man, Iโll keep smoking! The story doesnโt end this way!
[deleted] ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:14:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thinking of your life as a story is actually a really great way to contextualise the ups and downs of your life and progress. Whenever I feel down or hopeless about my current circumstances u always remember the trajectory of my life so far and the story it tells about who I am as a person and how great it will feel when I rise out of the rut. It works Evey time.
casualflipper ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:35:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Makes me think of Final Fantasy X. โThis is my storyโ
Luxtaposition ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:53:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a game changer for me.
seoul_chaser ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:15:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do we say to the God of Death?
DrBeansPhD ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 04:55:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please hurry.
FataMorgana7 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:17:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/me_irl
vinhdiagram ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:03:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not today...
ICanHazTehCookie ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:35:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"I didn't come this far, to only come this far"
hankemer ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:36:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This has gotten me through many times where I almost quit tobacco
Molerus ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:06:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
'It'll be alright in the end. If it's not alright, it's not the end.'
-John Lennon (possibly)
Corvado ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:53:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read this on a Dove chocolate wrapper I got on Easter and it actually helped me through the day. It wasn't attributed to John Lennon though, just some lady who sent it to Dove.
bamhm182 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:01:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do we tell defeat?
Not today.
pandegato ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:42:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is beautiful. I will enter this quote in my bullet journal so I look it up in these times of need.
ShanoonPlantoid ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:52:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This reminds me of playing prince and Persia and whenever you die the voiceover goes โthis is not how the story was supposed to endโ and you go back to your last save.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:57:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you
Stabbable ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:26:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what if i want to end my story?
mvanvoorden ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:59:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nobody is stopping you but yourself, BUT, instead of ending your story, you can also change it, add in a major plot twist by leaving all behind and go on a backpacking trip, or volunteering somewhere abroad, to just name something that changed my life into something worth living.
It's your story, you don't have to justify your choices to anyone, and anyone who does not support you, is not worth your time. Those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter.
You've got nothing to lose.
GaijinPlzAddTheSkink ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:53:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if my story is set in stone?
mvanvoorden ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:47:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then you have no choice but to sit back and watch the show.
Bstew278 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:28:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Obviously some judgment necessary but this mentality can actually do harm if youโre unwilling to accept failing. Sometimes you need to fail to move on
Ragegasm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:01:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just tell myself that the universe is never going to let me out of my contract that easily.
Lady_Jeanne ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:51:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I went to culinary school a few years ago and I worked a placement at a restaurant that I swear almost killed me. Working from 6am till 1pm, driving 30 minutes home, eating for the first time that day and getting into bed at 2am only to get back up at 5am and do it all over again. This was my life 6days a week for 3 months. I was so tired that I cried myself to sleep most nights and usually had a few cries at work in the walk in during the day too. I was busting my ass daily too my absolute limit.
The only thing that got me through those 3 months was promising myself that if I wanted to quit, I would ONLY do it first thing in the morning before shift starts. And somehow every morning when I got to work, the previous day didn't feel that bad and I had a little strength to get started and somehow keep going. In the mornings things never seemed as bad as at the end of the day.
Always sleep on a big decision - sometimes life seems a little less dark in the morning.
LadyKnope ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:37:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People fail all the time. Why would I be any different?
morgichor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:20:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do we tell to the god of hopelessness and despair ? Not today.
YesAndAlsoThat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:21:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, but that's also how you end up looking back on the last 6 years thinking, "man, I still hate this and I just wasted 6 years trying to tough it out"
SnortingGfuel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:50:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Story still being written 6 years in.
YesAndAlsoThat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:23:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
On the other hand, this can neither be proven or disproven.
1) At any given point, you can always say, "there's more to the story".
2) anyone who eventually quits will always say, "it was terrible, but the experience led me to be who I am today", because... well, we all want to think things aren't for waste, so at least we got experience out of it. The same applies for the quitters. otherwise, too much cognitive dissonance.
and
3) No one can ever live two lives, so it's not like anyone can say it really would have been better the "other way".... so we're back to #2.
etmhpe ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:09:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
or you might quit and the next thing you try is the thing you were always meant to do
pencilneckgeekster ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:48:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Quitting is not failing. Sometimes, quitting is the best option - itโs about not forcing yourself to continue on a path for the sake of continuing.
TuesGirl ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:06:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you. I needed this
spottyottydopalicius ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:51:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
not today
DankkPesticides ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:56:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No need to get caught in the "story"
AtotheCtotheG ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:26:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Without un-collapsing the chain of 27 (currently) replies to your comment, Iโm just gonna assume that at least one of them is โdonโt let your dreams be dreams!โ
themagicmagic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like Kubo and the Two Strings.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:10:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do we tell the god of death?
Riddarinn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:16:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks
RobertSacre4MVP ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:21:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do we say to the god of death?
77percent_fake ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:32:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The current situation is not the final destination
DannyC-147 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:40:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWhat do we say to the god of death?โ
HypnoticProposal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:26:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Are we there yet?"
sm_ar_ta_ss ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:57:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
While thinking of my life as a story makes it all seem worthless, not wanting it to end like this is as good a reason as any to keep breathing....
Iโll try.
vengiegoesvroom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:58:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"To all the underdogs in the world. A day may come where we lose. But it is Not Today. Today! We! Fight!"
Mikester245 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:28:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you. I really needed to read this. Thankyou
Scott49 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:33:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you feel like quitting remind yourself why you started
wifebeatsme ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:40:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This could be a poem.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:45:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks. This comment made me successfully continue smoking!
Kaldenar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:59:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Within limits, its okay to walk away from a toxic workplace for example.
Tenno90 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:42:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do we say to the god of death?
Trufflex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:46:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/AryaWinsTheThrone
thatGuyFromReddit867 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:48:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks Auron.
itsdavid2103 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:59:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
classic anime comeback
snoopswoop ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:20:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Quit tomorrow.
Ariscia ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:36:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But it sounds cool to let it end at a cliffhanger.
BlackbeltBread ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:41:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jesus christ. Thank you.
beagleboy167 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:43:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like this one
Tucker_Bio ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:51:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really need to read that today, thank you.
3_sleepy_owls ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:03:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โEverything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end.โ - John Lennon
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:16:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice try, boss.
gerryj12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:03:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is MY story!
Treemags ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:28:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do we say to the god of death?
stellarspacer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:51:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
AKF
MrHelsted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:58:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I knew i could do this cigarette thing. The story doesnโt end here!
Mcstalker01 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:03:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre right, i will not quit my nicotine addiction ^ this guy is the man. Thank you sir
darkslayer114 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:13:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just cause you failed doesn't mean the story is over either.
kikipklis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:44:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One of my life philosophies!
Floating_Burning ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:18:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ahh, the ole "Fuck It, Let's Do It" method.
SnortingGfuel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:47:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for this. I think I'm gonna try to quit smoking today. Powerful stuff.
immapsycho ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:17:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://youtu.be/fGOTzMAAZUw
chaser1236 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:02:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do we say to the god of death?
Story doesnโt end this way
movingtarget4616 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:07:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"But the future refused to change"
DinoDipShit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:16:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do we say to the God of Death?
Strawberry_Taffy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:20:12 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I needed to read this today. Thank you
Bluelabel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:17:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
'There is only one thing we say to Death: 'Not today.'"
jblessing ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow, that's really good.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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MsMoneypennyLane ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:50:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah. Thatโs desperation talking. Iโve heard that voice. Now I tell that voice to fuck off. Antidepressants, therapy, something outside myself to live for all helped. But what really did is it the idea that the timeline canโt end that way. Iโm the protagonist, goddammit. I deserve better than that shit. So I keep putting one foot in front of the other until I donโt see shit anymore. Some of those slogs took years.
Thatโs ok. Iโm the protagonist.
DudeWithTheNose ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 06:48:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depression doesn't make you any more broken than someone with the flu.
EquanimousThanos ยท 14536 points ยท Posted at 23:21:52 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't half ass two things. Whole ass one thing.
eventstranspired ยท 3048 points ยท Posted at 23:35:18 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty much everything Ron says has helped me at one point or another
WitnessMeIRL ยท 2447 points ยท Posted at 00:16:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I once worked with a guy for three years and never learned his name. Best friend I ever had. We still never talk sometimes.
NgArclite ยท 107 points ยท Posted at 01:57:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tbh that's how I feel about most coworkers. If I dont end up hating you then that's a good thing
123456777A ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:17:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is hilarious when someone thinks their lack of consideration is important
CaptainBlobTheSuprem ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 01:38:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is only two times you cry at birth and the death of lil Sebastian (donโt know if he said this but it seems like he would)
MyCatCanSpeakFrench ยท 126 points ยท Posted at 01:45:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"I have only cried twice in my life, once when I was seven and was hit by a school bus. And today, when I learned that Li'l Sebastian died."
analogkid01 ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 02:43:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And seeing the Grand Canyon.
EWVGL ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 13:44:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reminds me of this line from The English Patient:
leintic ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:03:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it makes you feel better I worked at a place for 8 years and still don't know my bosses name
[deleted] ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 04:07:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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handcuffed_ ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:05:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wooooosh
bloodysimpson ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:11:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a reference from the show parks and recration
extrasauce_ ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:36:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me today itโs โhalf mast is too high, show some respectโ
faco_fuesday ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 02:51:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know what I'm about, son.
Swicket ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 02:37:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"There has never been a sadness that can't be cured by breakfast food."
RavioliGale ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:12:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Waffles can serve many purposes.
smaug777000 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 01:33:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Let me tell you about my cholesterol, though
Scienceinwonderland ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:59:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/unexpectedpawnee
MacAndRich ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:29:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/expectedunexpectedsub
nrossj ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:53:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/subsifellfor
MagicalMuffinDruide ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:52:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ron Weasley?
smakmahara ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:11:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
(Swanson probably)
merkin-fitter ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:24:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ron Jeremy.
duaneap ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:45:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dunno the whole โcrying is reserved for funerals and the Grand Canyonโ thing is like some bullshit my fucking asshole uncle would say to me when I was 8 and broke my finger. Ronโs idea of manliness was fairly archaic.
erm4gundr ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 10:53:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Of course it was but he had a point. If you let yourself get too worked up about small things you'll stress yourself out. He didn't say crying is unacceptable, he said it's reserved for things that he deems momentous enough to illicit tears.
duaneap ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:48:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That was not his point, youโre reaching a lot with that interpretation considering thatโs not what he actually said. Ron is an old school macho man, Offerman (who I actually think is a great dude) has said in plenty of interviews that he and Ron would disagree on many things and would only really get along over outdoor activities.
erm4gundr ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:50:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Again. I said of course Ron is an old school macho man, but that's the positive message I take away from what he said
duaneap ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:15:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Infer what you want, I guarantee that wasnโt the implication.
erm4gundr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:50:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ron can be scary but he can also be the sweetest person ever
Nateinthe90s ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:31:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Especially "I like saying no"
5t3v0esque ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:14:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even when he said income tax was illegal?
BigR0n75 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:07:34 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're welcome.
_BonBonBunny ยท 697 points ยท Posted at 00:03:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I remind myself of this line CONSTANTLY!! I am the type of person, while cleaning, who will pick up one item to put it where it goes in the other room, then, while walking up the stairs, will see that the little stair mats are crooked on a few of the stairs, and struggle to straighten them while holding the first thing that hasn't been put back yet.
I consciously stop myself, sometimes saying out loud "One thing. ONE thing," and then I'm able to focus and remind myself to put the first thing away, and THEN come back to the stairs, and to put blinders on the other little things that I notice in between those two things, too, lol.
iixsephirothvii ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 01:52:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you Bryan Cranston? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AbSehcT19u0
Snake-N-Roses ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:05:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
FML I feel personally attacked and have the same middle middle class issues I grew up watching and laughing about because my parents had the same problems. This show has become my life for better and worse.
residentchubbychaser ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:22:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't click the link at first, and it took me a bit to realize that you were comparing your life to Malcolm in the Middle rather than Breaking Bad.
Snake-N-Roses ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:27:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish I was a multi millionaire meth making guru just for the financial stability- everything else about WW- well fuck that.
badlands_94 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:52:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Beat me to it
KoalaBear27 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:56:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm the type of person who goes to put something away in one room, and then start cleaning that room until I find something that belongs in a different room, then I take that item to its room and then I clean that room. So, I clean the whole house in a matter of about 4 and half hours. But, it's not half assing.
MissFix8ed ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:12:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The intersection of OCD & ADD is a roundabout. Uuuuugh, I feel ya. Gonna have to try this.
MufinMcFlufin ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:40:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And then someone complains that you're not cleaning stuff and just walking past it. -_-
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:53:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I pickup a thing to go elsewhere. Then another thing to go else elsewhere. And another. As I head to elsewhere I drop off things and pick up things. Then I get to elsewhere and I drop off the thing and have other things in my hand and no recollection of where I grabbed them or where they were destined. So I have to backtrack until some thing looks familiar then start the process over again.
AfroTriffid ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:22:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a container handy when cleaning to put all my 'migrated' items into. That way I clean a room and then walk around afterwards with my migration box and put all those items where they belong.
Laundry basket works great for kids toys.
Iamjimmym ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:34:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow. I've followed this advice for years now. Well, at least been conscious of my efforts. But I'd never thought to apply it to something g as small as cleaning! I do the same thing you did with the mats, constantly holding something in one hand whilst attempting to fix another thing because I just happened to see it. Thanks!
idontknopez ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:27:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I too suffer from adhd
User_225846 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:12:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't discount yourself, you can do it all, all right now!
Rungi500 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:27:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You forgot something.
fadednyshirt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:40:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โฆ have you heard of Marie Kondo? She will change your life.
wildebeesting ยท 56 points ยท Posted at 01:33:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
However, I recently heard this piece of advice: โanything worth doing is worth doing half-assed.โ I have depression and this has helped me immensely on my worst days. There is a lot of stuff worth doing, but I just donโt have the energy or motivation for it. But I can half-ass it and still feel like Iโve accomplished something.
Runs4Rum ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:54:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Fuck it, that'll do" is my motto when it comes to half-assing housework. It's still better than it was before. Depression is exhausting - give yourself whatever victories you can.
Slick_Grimes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:33:05 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Looks good from my house" is a very common term where I work.
killerwhaletales ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 01:46:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree with this a lot too. If you are unable to whole ass something, half assing it is better than not doing it at all.
doomgiver98 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:23:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Half-assing one thing is better than not-assing anything.
I_RESUME_THE_PUN ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:55:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
true, I find this a MUCH MORE sound advice than the original.
I think it's because the scenario contemplated in this one is much more likely than the one in the original. that scenario where you really don't want to do anything at all, but have time to do so, as opposed to only having time to do 1 thing.
Gishnu ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:57:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup, as good as the other one sounds, it's bad advice.
skippieelove ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:49:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโd heard โAnything worth doing is worth doing poorlyโ, and on days when itโs Hard to do anything at all that advice had been so motivating. Effort takes energy and when you donโt have it the things you may do may not be pretty but at least theyโre off the list!
JohnTDouche ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:42:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also there are a lot of things that you have to do that aren't worth whole assing. Often whole assing something is of no benefit to you at all.
In fact I'm pretty sure all these idioms about working hard must have been just made up by employers post unionisation.
nomadfarmer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:18:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I heard it as "anything worth doing is worth doing poorly" as a complement to the more common "worth doing well."
harsh183 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:47:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They don't conflict. Different ideas for different things.
Half ass two things << Half ass one thing (actually doing this better) << Whole ass one thing.
DonViaje ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 01:35:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
my Aunt, a very sweet lady who would never say the word "ass," refers to half-assing as "doing a one cheek job."
iamalongdoggo ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:12:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love this
youpeoplestolemyname ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:02:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's both adorable and something I'm absolutely going to use in the future
AthousandLittlePies ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:39:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Half assing three things, however, is superior to whole assing one thing. Thatโs been the secret to my success.
murraybee ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:51:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
On the flip side, one of the most important lessons I learned is that itโs okay not to give 100% on everything I do. I used to put things off if I wasnโt prepared to complete them perfectly (like organizing all my crap after a move), or I would shoulder enormous anxiety if the task was unavoidable (school work). But itโs okay to operate at 80%, hell even 50% as long as the job gets done. Itโs better to do it halfway than not at all.
findingatlas ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:21:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โJack of all trades, master of none, is oft times better than master of one.โ Well. That doesnโt work so good with career things, but it is important to know how to do a lot of basics. I.e. Learn how to change and tire and your oil. Learn how to basic troubleshoot your computer. Learn how to snake a drain. Learn how to swallow your pride. It seems silly, but will save you a lot of money in the long run.
montyburnz258 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:11:16 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I reckon, master of one, but jack of a few other related trades.
Saxophone is my main instrument, that I intend to master. I still practice drums and keys just about every day though, often half-assed.
c_mancuso311 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:04:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Username checks out
WonkyTelescope ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:11:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alternatively, if it's worth doing, it's worth doing poorly (as opposed to not at all.)
abraksis747 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:25:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll will work all night if it meant nothing got done.
BattlefieldNinja ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:09:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No half measures, Walt
ferrettt55 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:50:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use the whole toilet seat.
AgoraiosBum ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:39:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait...is there some other way?
skippieelove ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:51:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is this why the seat is always wet?
SickPajamuhhs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:37:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But then my boss says Iโm not working fast enough
Task_wizard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:40:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A reasonable motto. If you grab your girlโs ass with two hands there are two happy people. If you grab two asses with one hand each, there are about to be 3 unhappy people.
nizzy2k11 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:52:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
idk 2 Cs are better than an A and a D.
MomoGajo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:55:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone with chronic illness I like the variant, โAnything worth doing is worth doing badly.โ In to much pain to take a shower, try just washing your face; too tired to make that sandwich just eat the pieces separately. This also works for overachievers who get to overwhelmed due to the need to make things perfect.
FemaleThanos ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:14:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, another Thanos.
Wondrous_Fairy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:43:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep, best advice I ever got professionally. Multitasking needs to die as an idea.
AristaAchaion ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:08:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I frequently remind my students that they canโt really multitask. Like, you canโt be having a conversation about your friends via text AND reading a story (in another language, no less) at the same time.
RonDankSwanson ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:35:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey!
trontrontronmega ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wash the dishes to wash the dishes
Attention_Bear_Fuckr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:51:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can do whatever I want.
krispykremedonuts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:01:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can I get a whole sno-cone for a half game?
clenched_buttwhole ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:17:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree
CanadianCircadian ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:20:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha I started re watching this today.
Thameus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:27:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The essence of mindfulness.
Gibbenz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:28:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yo, this is good
anavolimilovana ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:32:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The world runs on half ass though
nlfo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:33:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's like my grandma always said "if you half-ass everything, you'll never completely fuck anything up."
lilacsweetener ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:39:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put yo whole ass into it
LookAtTheFlowers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:45:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/Anal???
i_izzie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:46:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I shall counter that with half ass is better than no ass
Mancinoz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:47:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What about if something's worth doing, it's worth half-assing tho?
The_Nifty_Reject ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But if you whole ass one of those two things aren't you technically still half assing?
SinkTube ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:37:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you are, and in many situations are more likely to be called out for ignoring one thing than for neglecting both
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:54:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just have too much ass to give.
godofallcows ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:57:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My ass is sore.
SeaOfDeadFaces ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:01:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tell this to my boss, who has me working two jobs for one check.
Brandon4466 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:03:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"what are you going to do, submit a half-assed project?"
"what are you going to do, submit a whole-assed project?"
MugillacuttyHOF37 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:03:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop...collaborate...and listen.
thebrownkid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No half measures.
ComradeGibbon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:10:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read an essay about business management, it was aimed at startups but really it's more general than that.
tl;dr: The biggest obstacle to getting projects finished is starting new ones. The more projects you start the slower you will finish them.
You'll notice highly ineffective people have dozens of unfinished to abandoned projects going all at once. And they spend 90% of their time trying to figure out which one is more important. Effective people will have like three tasks total.
SoDoesYourFace ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:31:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have two kids. How do choose which one to abandon in the woods?
itachixsasuke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:34:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Now thatโs Americaโs ass
softbum ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:38:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a perfectionist, half assing things is necessary for the survival of my sanity.
Nem985 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:41:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I accidentally the whole ass.
dafckingman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:53:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
but then it wouldn't be balanced. :O
AmoebaWizard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:58:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Half asking something is okay. At least you've started, and something is better then nothing.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:00:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But two half asses makea whole ass.
Bidoof_is_God ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:07:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I remember kind of an inverse of this saying.
"Anything worth doing is worth doing half-assed."
An example would be if it's worth doing a full workout then it's also worth it to just go for a walk or do a few pushups.
stagnified ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:10:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah. A job worth doing at all is worth doing poorly.
theonlykelc ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My parents always called me Princess Half Ass. Now sometimes my husband does to
nedonedonedo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:02:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"I'll have you know I've half assed my whole life up until this moment. but now I'm pissed, and you're going to find out what quadruple assing whooping your ass looks like"
keigo199013 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:06:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/unexpectedparksandrec
StumbleNZ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:12:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"I used to work in a sheet metal factory, but then a job came along at the tannery. The hours were better and I would get paid. Also, I had the chance to work with leather both before and after it was on the cow which had always been a dream of mine. I didn't want to give up my sheet metal job so I tried doing both jobs, and finish middle school. I was 11 years old.
The point is, I was so I tired I tried to puncture an 8 gauge aluminum foil with a leather awl... Hahahahhahaah ๐๐๐
I learned a lesson. Never half ass two things. Whole ass one thing."
shittybowels88 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:45:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Username checks out
acatlin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:48:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything worth doing is worth half-assing. As a perpetual procrastinator, I find it way more productive to do something half way than not at all.
skysinsane ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:59:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never whistle while you're pissing
nozyouraverageuser ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:01:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've never dedicated my self/attention in this way. What does it feel like?
MaaiWah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:26:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Username checks out
Marshmallowtwirl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:32:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But if you absolutely have to do a thing that you know youre going to half ass, its better to try and do a half assed job than nothing at all. I learned this especially helps with people with depression who have trouble with cleaning/eating/self care/working out/etc.
xSuperZer0x ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:41:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kind of the opposite, anything worth doing is worth half assing. Brushing your teeth for 30 seconds instead of 2 minutes. Don't want to go to the gym do some push ups and sit ups.
BagelsAndJewce ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:48:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt do this during finals week. An โAโ in one class does not make up for a โDโ in another. A โBโ and a โCโ are better.
TheNumberTo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:47:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I literally half ass everything
oggi-llc ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:26:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
eg: Don't put half your eggs in two baskets. Put all your eggs in the same basket. :P
Doedel51 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:07:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not necessarily. There's the 20-80 rule which means in 20% of your time, you will achieve 80% of the result. That means if you have to juggle multiple tasks, it's best to spend 20% of your total time on all the tasks individually. You won't get a superb result that way, but it will be better than spending all your time and effort on one task.
DarkLordBogi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:12:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not sure being penetrated by a pencil is the way to go
redlightsaber ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:23:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Applies surprisingly well to anal sex.
Lemawnjello ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:52:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why half ass something, when you can be a complete ass.
Bird_Puncher ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:54:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
u/EquanimousThanos ah yes balance in all things
ernieballer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:29:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's better to be fast than half-fast.
vbullinger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:20:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've found that 3/4 assing things is the best. You start to reach diminishing returns after that.
flabflabtheflabbin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:09:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's worth pointing out though, that even though you are whole assing one thing oh, don't expect it to be perfect. Be okay with something you pour yourself into having flaws.
Pondwater29 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:40:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or have two people half ass one thing. Then itโs a whole ass.
shadowrangerfs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:49:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a quarter ass-er myself.
zerohm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:55:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the military, a Colonel once told me, "the eagle that chases 2 rabbits catches none." I use it as motivation to finish a project instead of start a new one. :P
morris1022 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:53:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buddy at the gym used to say "you only have one ass, so don't try to ride two horses"
johneyt54 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:34:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why half ass two things when you can ass all of it?
LeviAEthan512 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It worked great for me since I was little. One tiny problem though, now the world expects me to whole ass two things and I have no idea how to do that. Meanwhile, everyone else who half assed two things, just needs to get better at those two things, while I need to learn something from the ground up. I'm typing this for all the younger redditors (I'm only 23, but I fucked up early). Make your mistakes. Learn from them. Don't take older people's wisdom before you can understand it and understand why it be like it do. Have someone tell you the right way, then do it how you were going to anyway and see exactly how it goes wrong. It was my life's mission to do everything right, to not make mistakes. Now I don't know how to deal with mistakes.
What I did by just following the great advice I received was like someone who constantly disinfects his room. Clean is better than dirty right? Well is better than sick, right? And he never got sick in his life. Life was good. He might have even looked down on all the peasants with their fevers and diarrhea that he was comfortably above. Maybe he even took pride in how he did it himself, not being some sheltered mama's boy. But one day he has to go into the real world and it's impossible to sanitise an entire planet. Everyone else knows how to deal with sickness, but this guy gets ravaged by disease like a native American facing Europeans in the 16th century.
evil_mom79 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:06:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have no idea what you're trying to say here. What is the problem you think you are having?
LeviAEthan512 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:14:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know how to adapt to problems because I either ignored or crushed any problem small enough to do so. Now that the problems are too big to ignore or crush, I don't have any experience with actually dealing with problems to do anything effective about them. It's like suddenly everything is like banging my head against a wall. Well, not fun things, but anything I might be able to make a living off of that won't disappoint my parents. So basically any intellectual endeavour.
evil_mom79 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:33:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, got it. So, what do you plan to do now?
LeviAEthan512 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know. Maybe change course (I'm in college btw), maybe give up and be a leech on society. I have the option of moving to America and being a landlord using my parents' money (and having that backup makes my problems feel less valid) but I don't want to be useless, but I don't have any skills or abilities to live a life I can be proud of. If I could do anything I wanted, I'd go to trade school or something, but if I did, I still wouldn't deserve any of the cool stuff I'd have in my life. It would all have come from my parents.
FeistySprinkles ยท 873 points ยท Posted at 01:23:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I suffered severe insomnia for years. Someone told me I should get up an hour earlier, go for a 30 minute run in the morning, then do yoga for 15 minutes before showering and getting ready for work. Seemed ridiculous, but I decided to try it for a month.
Haven't suffered insomnia since. Have way more energy, sleep better, feel better. It's amazing.
huxysmom ยท 126 points ยท Posted at 04:42:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I went to a sleep doctor today.
He gave me the following advice to start improving my sleep habits:
1.) Donโt go to bed unless you are tired. Donโt set a specific time in which you need to go. Doesnโt matter if its 1 am, etc.
2.) If you havenโt fallen asleep within 20 minutes of being in bed. Get out, go to another room, and read or clean or do something else until you are tired.
3.) Wake up at the same time every single day. Doesnโt matter the day or the plans. Same time.
4.) Within 30 minutes of waking up, go outside without sunglasses for 30 minutes. (If you live in a place with minimal light, you can get a light box.) My dog is going to be super stoked on this.
He also gave some other advice but I wanted to keep this somewhat short.
Day 1 for me is tomorrow.
I hope this can help others!!!
โโโ
Additional instructions in no particular order:
Your bed is only for two things, sleep and sex. Keep it that way. This means when you wake up in the morning, get out of bed. Donโt chill and โwake upโ or read the morning news. Donโt get in bed before itโs time to sleep to do work or read.
Only take naps between 12 pm and 2 pm. Try to limit them to 40 minutes. Set an alarm to get yourself up.
If you wake up in the middle of the night and canโt go back to sleep within 20 minutes, same as above, get out of bed and do something until youโre tired.
Pick up blue light blocking sunglasses. At the very least, put them on when you wake up in the middle of the night and canโt fall back asleep, regardless of activity. Ideally, wear them an hour or two before bed especially if youโre watching TV or on the computer.
You can order custom frames (with or without prescription) from a retailer and it will be $300-400 US or you can find whatever style without prescription for $40-$50 US.
I donโt drink caffeine, I am overly active with exercise, and I donโt keep screens in my bedroom. We didnโt touch on these topics as it doesnโt apply to me.
For me in particular, I struggle with sleep due to several factors such as ADHD, bladder urgency, and nightmares. We are ruling out sleep apnea. Based on my history, itโs highly unlikely I have it but we want to be sure I donโt.
The whole process is designed to learn positive sleep behavior. I am on short term prescription anti-anxiety meds to aid sleep. The goal is to get me off those, find the root of my issues, and correct.
Under his practice he is not opposed to supplements or prescriptions, however he wants to follow a process that corrects behavior first before medication. In his professional opinion he does not feel medicated sleep is as beneficial for the body, particularly because the majority of any prescription drug used for sleep causes memory loss. Behavior changes are much more difficult but are better for your health long term!
For my case specifically, weโre trying to avoid medication for the nightmares but realize it may be necessary. The bladder issues just throw another obstacle in the sleep process.
Good luck everyone!!
Edit: Added more instructions from doctor and information about my sleep issues
CardInAWell ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 05:34:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have class at 9am everyday and used to wake up at 8 and always feel tired. I changed it to waking up at 7 and going for an hour run or 7 miles whatever comes first and when i wake up in the morning i feel energized and ready for the day regardless of how much sleep i got the night before.
Chellamour ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:50:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ooh, more advice please! Maybe tomorrow afternoon though, go sleep if youโre tired.
huxysmom ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 16:21:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sure thing!
Iโm taking my 30 minute walk and then I will edit the most with more of the instructions/tips he provided.
Of course itโs raining...
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:43:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is so much better advice than "go to bed at the same time every night". I just can't do that. If i realise sleep isn't imminent i get up and have a potter around, maybe watch slightly more TV, maybe read more of my book, and return back to bed when i am ready.
My ability to fall asleep has improved significantly.
Waanie ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 11:03:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Getting up at the same time every morning" is way more useful for me as well. It is self-limiting, in the sense that you are tired and want to go to bed early if you got a couple of short nights as well.
insideoutduck ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:16:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work essentially a random mixture of early/mid/late shifts, different shift lengths, different days off each week... no wonder I'm so tired all the time, my sleep pattern is completely fucked and I wouldn't be able to follow any of these rules around my current schedule... I need a new job
huxysmom ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:38:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It definitely seems like it would be a challenge for you.
Maybe some of the other instructions Iโm about to update the comment with will help in the slightest?
insideoutduck ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:41:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll have a look, thank you!
Beck83 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:32:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt want to harass you but Iโm a freaking insomniac and would love if you could keep me updated on how you go. No pressure though, wish you all the best!
huxysmom ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:39:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Absolutely! PM me (and anyone else who is interested) and I can keep you up to date.
There is r/sleepbetter but it doesnโt seem to be too active..
Vanes-Of-Fire ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:12:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They're sleeping
SymmetricColoration ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:57:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can say that I also had terrible insomnia and saw a psychologist who gave me basically the same advice, and it worked very well. Sometimes I let my habits slip and it gets worse again, but I know how to get back to sleeping well which is good
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:44:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if I can't run for 30 mns SMH
FeistySprinkles ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:03:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then do it over time. For the first two weeks, walk for 20 minutes and jog for 10. Then walk for 15 minutes and jog for 15 minutes. Then walk for 10 minutes and jog for 20 minutes, then jog for 30 minutes until that feels comfortable. Then start increasing the pace of your run until you find a happy medium.
Like most things in life, nothing will be easy or come quickly. But if you have the discipline to work at it, you'll get there and it will feel fucking awesome.
The basic level of fitness should not be 'not being able to run for 30 minutes'.
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:10:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually commented that to joke around, but once again you deliver solid advice. Might try it out ! Thanks
FeistySprinkles ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:17:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aha, I wasn't sure if you were joking or not, so figured I'd give the advice on the off chance you weren't!
guareber ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:04:21 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, as someone that went through it, just google any "couch to 5K" program and follow it. It starts with something like "run 90s, walk 5 minutes" if memory serves.
ovie_a ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:08:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I need to try this. My insomnia is draining my life energies
TheDemonator ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:09:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh god. I need to get out of the habit of waking up, cleaning up and basically leaving after getting dressed.
20 minutes from bed to car, basically. I find when I get up an hour or two before, I'm way more alert and happier.
cornflakesbamba ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:21:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is there any science to why this works
FeistySprinkles ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:16:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No idea. Never looked into it. I just assumed a lot of 'insomnia' is really just people not burning enough energy during the day, or not waking up at a time early enough to ensure they are ready to fall asleep at a normal time.
If you have issues sleeping, I'd definitely recommend it, though.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:16:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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FeistySprinkles ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:40:02 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, but if I get issues again with sleep I will look into it, thanks.
RedSpecial22 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What time do you go to sleep?
FeistySprinkles ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:07:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I go to sleep around 10ish, sometimes a bit earlier. Wake up at 6am.
RedSpecial22 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:08:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not sure I could get in bed at 10, but I definitely want to try getting up early for a run.
FeistySprinkles ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:00:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting up early and going for a run/doing yoga will ensure you fall asleep earlier at night. I used to be the same as you. Could never go to sleep early. Now it feels natural to.
NaCheezIt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:21:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I normally get home from work around 11 or 12 at night and I find myself going to sleep at 4 am and never having time to do things. I wonder what a reasonable time to go to sleep is?
Ephemeral_Halcyon ยท 2169 points ยท Posted at 01:45:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Teacher here.
When you're texting/emailing between colleagues, friends, etc. don't put anything you wouldn't say to their face in writing. If you have it in writing they've got something physical they can hold against you or gossip about.
Even if the door is closed, speak quietly if you're going to vent. Your coworkers can probably hear you clear down the hallway if you're bitching after-hours. Take it down to a whisper.
CC your admin on every email asking a professional question to anybody else or in any conversation in which the slightest bit of conflict could arise.
If you don't trust one of your coworkers, don't say a word to them beyond basic greetings. Trust your gut. Sit quietly in the lounge at lunch.
If you think something is wrong, speak up. You probably aren't the only one to notice and your voice does make a difference.
[deleted] ยท 76 points ยท Posted at 06:02:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Talking about conflict with my manager at my last job got me identified as trouble. Everyone else just kept their mouths shut.
Ephemeral_Halcyon ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:53:27 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If that identifies you as trouble, you're working in a toxic environment. Keeping your mouth shut until things inevitably explode is unhealthy af.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:31:59 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're right but the damage was done by the time I realised. I went from a favourite to enemy over night because I told them about conflict and problems I foresaw the company facing. I was right. A year on they're hitting the exact problems I predicted. Maybe they did too but for whatever reason they disliked me openly talking about it.
The CEO had a verbal tirade about how bad the engineering team was only a few weeks before I left too. I was the only team leader there with a working product on the market too. Really the whole situation was bonkers. They also got angry at the employees who would go to the pub after work to unwind calling us toxic, never asking why we would do this or why we weren't happy. The only thing they did was send down a mole to report back to them. Not kidding either. Super unprofessional company.
Ephemeral_Halcyon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:19:48 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's horrible :( Hope you're better off now
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:44:28 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks! I'm between that job and my next one now on a 5 week break from working. I needed to reset between. I didn't want to bring my defensive and unhappy mentality from my old job into my new. Also need to undo some burnout. I haven't touched a single line of code in ages and it's refreshing.
shralpy39 ยท 122 points ยท Posted at 06:05:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sounds like a pretty uncomfortable place to work. Jeez!
sweaterspaghetti376 ยท 59 points ยท Posted at 06:26:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wasnโt a teacher but a para-associate for a while and this still rings true; school faculty tend to be gossipy as hell and word travels fast, this definitely isnโt limited to a couple of schools
SimpleRegret ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 08:44:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Retail, warehouse, where ever people get bored they talk shit.
Dont give them ammo or a target. Head down, do your job. Moan to someone outside of the circle.
allgreentome ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 13:33:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs every professional work environment. People are bitches.
serg06 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:55:32 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not mine. You've just gotten unlucky.
bikesbeardsbeers94 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 14:08:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like all office politics. Itโs better at some and worse at others.
Indaleciox ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:44:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's an odd balance. Some days I hate all my coworkers and other days I hate them slightly less :) In all seriousness, you find a couple of gems who you get close to and it makes the whole environment so much more tolerable. I lucked out and have a great, flexible boss, who gives me the space I need to be productive.
Ephemeral_Halcyon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:52:47 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is, but I love it. When you have so many people that need to work cohesively, things get a little dramatic at times. It's difficult to keep everyone on the same page and happy.
Djones0823 ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 06:50:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trainee teacher here. I was prepared for the long hours and insane work load. Was not prepared for the gossip, rumours and general atmosphere.
Creepy_OldMan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:34:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Where are you going for your teacher training? I'm thinking about quitting my job and becoming a teacher. Curious about the whole steps that I need to take.
Djones0823 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:31:20 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yo.
I applied through my uni as I have good relationships with the department. There's a ton of different potential routes.
Are you UK based?
tasbridge ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 06:23:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was a paraprofessional the last 4 years. Best advice on day 1 by my co-teach? Stay out of the lounge. PERIOD.
Ephemeral_Halcyon ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:51:54 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Finally aligned my lunch period with another teacher whom I enjoy and we've never been happier than we are now never setting foot in the lounge.
CommanderDinosaur ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 05:54:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You must work at my school
Orangebeardo ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 09:43:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This, it was at uni, but we were working in a group of 5 in one of the little almost-sound-proof work rooms they have. Another guy was working in an room 2 over. It was a hot day so we all had the doors open. We had a bit of a casual friends group going so one of our guys was burping loudly, why I don't remember, don't think I knew in the first place.
I didn't really bother me so I didn't say anything but the guy two doors over came to ask to stop as it was bothering him. He just asked nicely and wanted to leave when the guy burping said something insulting, I don't remember what exactly. It obviously pissed him off but I could see he was trying to be the bigger man and stayed calm, he said to grow up or something similar and left.
Then after a minute or so had passed burp guy started laying on on the other guy, 'I'm thinking shut up he can hear you the doors are open', and try to make him aware, but he's laying in so hard on the guy with things like 'who the fuck does that asshole think he is', he doesn't see or hear me.
Other guy obviously came back hearing everything and that started a pretty loud argument that took a few teachers to intervene, in the single most childish thing I've seen in university in my time there..
moal09 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 17:37:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't think he cared if the other dude heard him. Not everyone wants to avoid conflict.
burtybob92 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 06:42:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโd add to this by saying if you have colleagues on social media be careful what you share as well
allgreentome ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 13:35:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt have colleagues on social media should be on this list too.
burtybob92 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:57:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I partially disagree, Iโve got a few colleagues and ex colleagues on mine but the only ones on my allowed list for updates are ones that have proven I can trust.
Most colleagues Iโve added/accepted are ones I actually have common interests with which means I sometimes see events etc that interest me that I may not have seen if it wasnโt for them
allgreentome ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:52:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a hard and fast rule: if we work together, you will not be on my social media. Too many outside issues become inside issues.
lookin4points ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:42:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So true, why should you or me or anyone have to live a โEaster Sundayโ life every minute watching everything we say or do?
Creepy_OldMan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:36:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So many colleagues have added me on facebook. It's like their go-to place for connecting with me outside of work.
allgreentome ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:37:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt want to connect with co-workers outside of work. I want to go to work and then be left alone afterwards. If I want to connect with co-workers, LinkedIn is right there.
Creepy_OldMan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:04:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I don't want to connect with them either, but then I feel weird about not accepting their friend request. I hardly use Facebook anyways.
allgreentome ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:11:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just say โNothing personal, I just donโt mix my work and my social life. Youโre a valued part of my work team.โ
Krypta ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 06:25:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah the good old teacher whisper. Everyone can hear what they're whispering and they know it but they keep doing it anyways
bjoynow ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 13:25:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The CC thing is too much . Everyone will feel like your an asshole for doing this . The email itself is a personal record of conversation. Even managers complain about employees who CC them on everything. That shit is annoying
Chasim ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:10:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not too much especially when it comes to working as an educator of any sorts. I think originally they were talking about CCing on things that SHOULD have your advisor looking over. Like deciding on a learning path for a student with a disability and accommodations required. You would want to discuss this with your team, and ultimately get it finalized by your admin. By CCing your admin it kind of removes the extra work of getting it approved finally. If the admin sees nothing wrong with how whatever is resolved you won't hear anything and proceed as usual, if the admin has an issue you can bet you'll hear from it then some way or another. It's a nice thing to have all parties plus your boss know what's going on in case the parents had an issue down the road. You have no idea how much you have to watch yourself based off parents alone
Ephemeral_Halcyon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:47:36 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I beg to differ. Teaching staff is pure drama. Between admin, sped team, gen-ed team, and specialists, I CC everyone that is involved in the issue. That way there's no excuse for not being on the same page.
Jaktor16 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:52:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I cant be the only one reading this with a quiet Voice in my head
FenrirApalis ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:15:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hope more teachers are like you
Had a teacher last year that did drugs and didn't teach. Spoke up about it many times but it took until the end of the semester for her to leave (relatively sure she got deported for theft)
Flextt ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:22:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most of that is just basic office etiquette?
Ephemeral_Halcyon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:30 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You would think. Unfortunately it's rarely the case. Or we end up with 1-2 people that can make the entire team of 15 or so that generally works together miserable.
kiriyamamarchson ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:54:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Super good advice to give yourself a chance at reflecting on your emotions!
NotAToasterEXE ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:25:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is so incredibly true, I don't work but I had the exact same problem with a class of mine. Don't forget how important this comment is ^
Pondwater29 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:44:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If everyone is bothered by something, but no one speaks up, itโs not gonna get fixed.
Rewind_timee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:24:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I swear, the teaching life is where all the worst politics are.
lookin4points ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:52:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, large churchโs beat schools any day or the week!
TitanWet ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:40:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This advice can apply to when texting a girl/guy or anyone you're interested in: text or message them as if all their friends will see it. Cause most likely they'll see it anyway.
Chris142 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:17:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Literally don't say anything about anyone at work unless it is to do with your job and do it in a professional manner. Never gossip, gossip will get you sacked like hot shit. Plus if you don't gossip people get to know you don't talk and will actually come to you with the best gossip lol
midarist ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:24:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Who hurt you?
goosebird1210 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:05:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What does โcc your admin mean?โ
DitzyDresses ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 11:44:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you send an mean, there are always the options "to" and "cc" (and sometimes there is "bcc").
The "to" field is meant to be where you put the email address of the intended recipient. Normally this is who you would want to answer your email, for example.
The "cc" (carbon copy) field is where you can put an email address if you just want them to have a copy of your email. Perhaps it's for their records, or they just want to have some oversight on the email your sending.
The "bcc" (blind carbon copy) field is like the cc field, but the recipient (the to field people) cant see who you bcc in an email.
Ephemeral_Halcyon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:49:05 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you write an email there's a recipient line, a cc line (means the recipient can see who you sent copies of the email to), and a bcc line (means the recipient cannot see who you sent copies of the email to).
CCing those that are involved in the issue helps ensure everybody is on the same page.
Creepy_OldMan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:32:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What kind of school do you work for? Sounds like a tv drama.
Therealslimshamop ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 16:50:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah i dont have this issue bc i dont spend my time badmouthing people
[deleted] ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 11:31:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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marmoset95 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 12:18:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would recommend not saying any of this in a work capacity period.
LarryfromFinance ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:18:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly it's just idiotic to admit you'd even think of sending these.
tkkana ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:08:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So very tempting
Stormygeddon ยท 7559 points ยท Posted at 00:45:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
From a youtube video dictated by a heavily accented doctor: Unclog your nose by sitting up straight, holding your breath and tapping your nose, untapping and breathing in to about 80% of what you'd normally breathe in, exhale, and repeat for a period of about 40 seconds to a minute. The point is to get a response to where your body almost feels like it's drowning. It's tough but it clears your sniffles right up for a long while and works 90% of the time.
Then I went on to suggest it to so many people but they won't believe me or try it even if they're desperate.
EDIT: My native spanish was showing through. Used a false cognate. What I meant by "Tapping" was "tapar" which means to cover.
BackwoodHyperChicken ยท 1423 points ยท Posted at 01:50:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just want to ask a serious question because I need this. When you say โuntappingโ what do you mean?
Spiffy87 ยท 2815 points ยท Posted at 02:35:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn your nose sideways to tap it for two nostril mana. Turn it right side up at the beginning of your turn to untap it.
Llamaman007 ยท 386 points ยท Posted at 02:43:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing reflex triggers at the beginning of upkeep. Any responses?
Cruuncher ยท 64 points ยท Posted at 02:45:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Resolves.
YogUhBU ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 03:37:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whose turn is it?
thephotoman ยท 52 points ยท Posted at 03:45:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I led on Leyline of Anticipation and have Seedborne Muse out. It's always my turn.
DetaxMRA ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 04:14:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I miss the days of good ol' Prophet of Kruphix.
snowskelly ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:29:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can still play it in proper formats. I actually had the snot beat out of me in Modern by someone playing a Prophet deck.
kirmaster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:34:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sadly, you can't attack on other people's turns without controlling their turn. I checked, because orerry+seize the day came up.
thephotoman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:36:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm a control player. I donโt attack anyway.
SquirrelKnuckle ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 03:57:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've played MTG like.. 4 times.
I do remember being at a friends place and they got super trashed while playing. One dude fell asleep under the table, but he did so with his next moves in mind.
So the game proceeded and the night wound down. His roommate tells him people are leaving and its time to move to his bed.
"SHUT UP AND SACRIFICE TWO CREATURES!" from his sleep.
Pretty much the only thing I remember of the game.
OctagonalButthole ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 04:10:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yah that's how its properly played.
Theandercm ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:11:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
heavy sigh Resolves....
derivative_of_life ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:08:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Disallow.
Floating_Burning ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:20:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What's the upkeep?
YOUR LIFE
BubTheSkrub ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:21:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
uhhhhh
i set a monster face down
i end my turn
Knave7575 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:55:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Usually I can't spend the nostril mana and I get burned.
cubitoaequet ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:27:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nostril mana burn hasn't been a thing for about a decade. The rule change really helped cards like Runny Nose.
Rough_Cut ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:53:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then your opponent faithless lootings out 2 Phoenixโs then hits you with the double gut shot
aso217 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:52:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put a -1/-1 counter on nasal congestion for each nostril mana used in this way.
DullestOrphan ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:43:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My nose has vigilance so this won't work for me.
tupidrebirts ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:20:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
no one:
absolutely no one:
one person: so uh does my one spell resolve?
blue players: R E E E E E E E E E E
Zambycat ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:46:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nicole Bolas, Dragon God says no
InterdimensionalTV ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:37:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm super glad this was the top reply.
Phloozie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:45:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I cast sniffle... I mean stifle
mathwizard44 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:22:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nostril of Ugin
2
Legendary Land
Spells that cause you to gain life cost 2 less to cast.
Tap: Add 1 colorless mana.
Tap: proliferate.
biggsbro ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:36:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In response, crack my fetch
LabMember0003 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:45:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/brandnewsentence
TheHancock ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:51:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/magicthegathering
fullup72 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:52:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If nose remains clogged for 3 turns, send it to the graveyard.
Trufflex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:34:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate you.
Hamstersparadise ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:25:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you, my nose is unblocked! And also broken to all hell
kirmaster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:32:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So, does that cost two life or does it stop being a nose when you add another?
Shadi211 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:22:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Brilliant
watdafug ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:49:00 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is nostril mana green or brown?
hate_picking_names ยท 85 points ยท Posted at 02:05:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wonder if they mean pinch it closed (tapping) and release it (untapping).
elbenji ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:58:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's the one its Spanish. My abuela taught me this
imadnsn ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 04:19:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was just tapping my finger on my nose like an idiot
QuaggaSwagger ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:45:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bingo! I posted some easier steps to follow.
I love this trick
gablerr ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:01:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also confused by the untapping
Keakee ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 02:06:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tapping as in stopping up, not tapping as in tap-tap-tapping on the door.
dharmadhatu ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:53:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I must be weird or dumb, because that didn't bring it much closer for me o[-_-]o.
Edit: I see below now. "Tapping" as in "stopping up" as in "pinching it closed."
Flugmerkur ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:43:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It costs two blue mana to untap it.
danyxeleven ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:54:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
best just to wait til your next turn, two blue mana can do so much more
Flugmerkur ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:56:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Could go infinite with the untap ability though.
desitola ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:02:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's the opposite of tapping. Duh.
summerset ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:46:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hereโs an easier way without all the tapping and 80% business...
Just exhale all the way out, then DONโT breathe in for as long as you can stand it.
When you finally gasp a big lungful if air, it will clear the blocked nostril in a second or two. If not, repeat.
Mind you, this is for when you have one blocked nostril, not just a generally stuffy nose.
YELLOWSUPERCAR87 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:39:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
based on the edit, my best guess is replace every tap/untap with cover/uncover and it makes a bit more sense
CabaBom ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:55:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Destapar obvioulamente!
CarbyMcBagel ยท 622 points ยท Posted at 01:49:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Where do I tap my nose and for how long?
JayDude132 ยท 965 points ยท Posted at 02:21:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the most critical thing ive read in this thread and the instructions are unclear!
JohnDoeNuts ยท 210 points ยท Posted at 02:40:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Same, now how do I get my dick out of this ceiling fan?
Edit: Also per OP's edit I think I found the video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5zHK12LkUB4
throwawayee24 ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 03:28:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My right nostril has been blocked all day so I tried the video you linked. I almost passed out on the part where you only breathe on that side.
JohnDoeNuts ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 03:36:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well he did say your body was supposed to feel like it was drowning.
bender-b_rodriguez ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:02:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same, I took cheater breaths
Jackie_Rompana ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:49:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try laying/lying(?) in bed on your side with the "open" side down and the blocked side up. Move your head up, so away from the bed, a couple of centimeters. Tap on your clogged side of the nose, just on the egde between the hard and the soft part. After a while the "clog" starts kind of moving to the other side. Stop before the clog is stuck in the other side, stop when it is kind of in the middle, so it is not annoying. Immediately sit upright.
Maybe that works?
0Nyxee ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:19:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh wow thanks for that and here I was breathing and tapping my nose like a maniac. This makes much more sense and looks much less idiotic than my interpretation.
thiswildadventure ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:11:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It totally worked!
Demonwithj ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:14:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cut it off
JayDude132 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:45:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude im afraid youre out of luck, im sorry.
scriblerslibrary ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:30:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The technique in this video is one of the first things they teach in Yoga. It's called Pranayam. It is good for your health, do it 10 mins everyday.
sassyrogue ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:12:43 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for sharing, I was curious about the video. Unfortunately that did not work at all for me. My left was totally blocked now theyre both totally blocked.
JayDude132 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:33:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You are a god amongst men
kingcheesedonkey ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:44:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nose has caught fire, please advise!
p_velocity ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:16:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
uh oh. what did you get your dick stuck in this time?
ZorglubDK ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:27:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a similar method that isn't based on trying to make yourself suffocate.
ihavecrabhands ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:13:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oooh this worked, thanks:)
QuaggaSwagger ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:44:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I replied with easier instructions
SleepinGriffin ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:59:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instruction unclear, I am drowning...
toiletfuzz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:23:36 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear, I'm literally drowning in my own snot
kbsb0830 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:24:51 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They actually mean cover your nose. Hold your breath then breath in just a little and exhale and repeat fpr about a minute
soobviouslyfake ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:49:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear: drowned.
CappyWomack ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:41:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Where do I put my feet?
syntaxvorlon ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:45:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How embarrassing, by which I mean you are now pregnant.
Stupid_Idiot413 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:55:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hit yourself on the nose and repeat till you start to feel funny
FantaToTheKnees ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:06:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It should say "cover" instead of "tap". OP explained it in his edit :)
monkey15162 ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 02:43:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok i have no clue what these instructions are. Post the video
elbenji ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 03:00:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pinch your nostrils closed for 10 seconds then open it and breathe normally
etskinner ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 02:44:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A suggestion: go ahead and change it in your post, then use your "EDIT" comment to say you changed it. That way people won't be confused reading through it the first time.
QuaggaSwagger ยท 44 points ยท Posted at 02:44:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
There's an easier/faster/more reliable way to get this result.
simply exhale all of the air in your lungs as far as possible. Empty empty empty.
Then plug your nose tight. You can just pinch with your fingers, ala cannon ball.
While continuing to hold your nose, move your eyes up as far as you can towards the ceiling and hold for 2 seconds, then move your eyes and head down to floor and hold for 2 seconds, repeat. Looking up and hold, looking down and hold. Repeat this up-and-down process for as long as you can (you look funny doing it, so maybe do it in private)
When you think you can take no more, release the grip on your nose, take a deep breath in through the mouth, and on the exhale blow your nose.
this provides temporary relief I usually find for 15 to 30 minutes, but then I can simply repeat the process.
Never had it not work.
omnomdumplings ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:36:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Movie rise up?
GreatArkleseizure ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:39:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Move your eyes" I'm guessing.
QuaggaSwagger ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:37:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
?
Rengiil ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:00:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your comment says movie rise up
QuaggaSwagger ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:01:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I found it.
There was just zero context
Rengiil ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:30:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, maybe the guy thought it was just a weird phrase. I thought it meant like "dramatically rise to the ceiling"
ClassiestRobin ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:28:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just tried this. At least for me, doesnโt work. Thanks for the tip anyways though! Hope it helps someone else
QuaggaSwagger ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:32:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You really have to go until you can't anymore. Not just to discomfort - nigh panic. (And really rock your head)
At any rate, I hope you find what works for you.
patternofpi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:42:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've heard of this way too and it works for me. Did you learn it from this thing called 'buteyko' or something.
WoddleWang ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:04:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I now look like a psychopath at work
bourkey01 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:43:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude youโve got half this thread tapping their nose until itโs red for no reason. Well played
Photon_Torpedophile ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:10:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
elaborate on tapping/untapping please
LocalBathrobe ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:35:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As in to open and close a valve not to actually tap-tap-tap on the nose I think. Not sure though !
Photon_Torpedophile ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 02:40:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
cool. Now i just need to find my nosevalve
elbenji ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:59:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its Spanish. It means close your nostrils with your fingers with a tissue and them open them. Then shit is gonna fly
Grande_Yarbles ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:47:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So is it just an elaborate way of saying โblow your noseโ?
elbenji ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:08:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
but very hard
epalla ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:53:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A lot of people are replying to this with other tips and tricks and I feel like all of them (this one included) boil down to: hold your breath.
That's all it takes.
Hold your breath until it's pretty uncomfortable and your nostrils will open right up.
Admiringcone ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:25:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So..waterboard myself?
Got it.
Monsoon_Storm ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:01:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Technically you could do this also.
Neti pots are a thing (and surprisingly effective)
https://www.webmd.com/allergies/neti-pots
FlyingPhotog ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:42:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just make sure to use distilled water to avoid brain parasites.
brad218 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:53:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
More prevalent in warm areas with stagnate water reservoirs.
jansskon ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:21:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In a similar vein. If you have a stitch, lie as flat as you can (doesnโt really need to be perfectly flat but it works best the flatter you are). Then pull your knee up on the side you have a stitch. Then hug your calf so your knee and thigh are pressed against your rib whilst your other leg is out straight and hold for 11-30 secs. Should clear up your stitch. Works around 80% of the times Iโve tried it. Yet no one Iโve told it to will do it. They can sit in pain then I guess
chiBROpractor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:11:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you think the position is particularly important or is it the 30 seconds of rest?
jansskon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:46 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No idea, I saw it on an episode of Brainiac (I think it was that or it couldโve been Mythbusters) and I didnโt believe it so the next time I got a stitch I tried it and it worked, but I canโt remember if the show explained why it does.
Disco5005 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:43:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
a stitch..?
Eloping_Llamas ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:45:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you run and get that pain in your side. They are called stitches and they are pretty painful and super annoying.
Rengiil ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:59:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What are they even for?
ccjjallday ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:58:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A cramp?
patternofpi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:44:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A cramp is where the muscle tightens/spasms. A stitch is different and doesn't involve muscle movement.
ccjjallday ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:36:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You've defined nothing. What's the difference between a stitch and a cramp? I'm pretty sure they're interchangeable terms
patternofpi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:54:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do not need to give definition to clear up a misunderstanding of supposedly interchangeable words. All I need to do is give a distinguishing feature of one or the other. A cramp involves muscle spasms. Let me spell it out to you now. The obvious implication is that stitches do not. I am not trying to show you what one or the other is, but show their difference and thus show they are not the same or interchangeable. Nonetheless, here are the definitions:
Cramp - painful involuntary contraction of a muscle or muscles, typically caused by fatigue or strain
Stitch - a sudden sharp pain in the side of the body, caused by strenuous exercise
There they are defined differently, they are not interchangeable and I can distinguish between them by noting the involvement of muscle contractions.
ccjjallday ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:52:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I honestly think you don't know what either of them are and how to differentiate the two.
Monoplex ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:10:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're trying to simulate the diving reflex it might be easier and more effective to put a cold wet rag on your face while holding your breath.
jello_kitty ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:10:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Link please?
elbenji ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:00:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's just an old abuela trick. Look up sonandon
JOEBO4T ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:30:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was literally sitting here with one blocked nostril decided to give this a shot and holy hell it worked.
What is this witchcraft?
PunkThug ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:41:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How the hell did you know what to do?!?!
VapesOutForKingJames ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:43:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same. unclogged my right nostril there.
KuroBlood ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:00:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Now the other one is clogged.
Aisem ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:43:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy shit dude my nose has been clogged for hours till I read this comment. This is nuts! I feel so refreshed now
Das_Maechtig_Fuehrer ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:51:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
wow that's kind of nuts, what's the sci behind this?
H00ston ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 02:05:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your body slows down your breathing because of a most likely fake problem and when it realizes that maybe you need air it opens it back up again
backcountry8591 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 01:38:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm replying so I can come back to this. Of all the awful symptoms of cold/flu, nothing is worse than stuffy nose
GreatArkleseizure ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:42:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can save individual comments instead of replying-to-save.
nobruh420 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:26:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah i hate this. It makes a reddit thread turn into facebook where many of the comments are just people saying "following" or tagging their friend. It's annoying and fills a thread with useless comments.
Think about how awful reddit would be if everyone did this instead of using the more convenient saving feature or hitting share and shooting it thru a pm to their friend
ccjjallday ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:49:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Imagine reddit turns into a place where people that aren't as experienced or unaware of a feature are chastised for their lack of knowledge... there is also a hide feature to hide those atrocities you speak of
Phanastacoria ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:49:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, but now you have a backlog of saved comments that you never remember to get back to.
GreatArkleseizure ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:12:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As opposed to ... replies somewhere in your extensive backlog of comments that are somehow intended to "save" them? That you're still never gonna get back to, because it's impossible to locate them?
ยฏ\_(ใ)_/ยฏ
The_Mexigore ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:40:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Y yo aquรญ dรกndote golpecitos a mรญ nariz sin entender porque. D:
spanky2088 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:44:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Link the video
elbenji ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:57:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
OMG! Sonandon!!!!
Yes do this. It's an old abuela thing but that shit works
lord_of_avernus ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:49:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was laughing so hard once I read your note, because I was sitting there tapping my nose! That's what I get for not reading all the way through before starting, lol
Spax_ ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:26:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An easier method is to take a mouthful of water and hold it in your mouth then try to breathe through your blocked nose. It should just clear.
DearyDairy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:57:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Similar to a (probably dangerous, I dunno, not a doctor) method I used where I would just cover my mouth with my hand and try to suck in my hand like I was suffocating until my nose/sinuses eventually made a high pitched suction noise and suddenly I can breathe through my nose again.
Immersi0nn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:01:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait wait is the high pitched noise coming from the roof of your mouth?
DearyDairy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:51:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, it's like inside my face - around my cheeks and the bridge of my nose, almost feels like its echoing through my cheeks into my ear.
It happens sometimes even if I don't do my suffocation method, On the last few days of a bad head cold If I bend over or move my head quickly my sinuses make this "pffffffft" noise, like slowly opening a bottle of soda (only its a suction noise, not pressure escaping), and I can feel my sinuses draining and opening, and I can breathe easy for a while.
I do have chronic post-nasal drip so sometimes I get the sensation right at the top of my mouth but that's only when I blow my nose really hard and I also have a phlegmy throat.
Also sometimes I feel congested in my nose but i'm not congested, i'm mechanically blocked by what I describe as "a collapsed passage", I usually insert my pinky finger into my nostrils, and press on what I assume is a nasal turbinate to push it outwards, It's usually very floppy and pushing on my septum, I press it outwards and it makes a pop noise and feels more secure/firm, and my nasal passage is open again for a few hours to a few days. I have a connective tissue disorder and my GP joked that "even your nose subluxates" but obviously that's not what's actually happening, My CTD specialist said it's probably related to floppy collagen structures in the nasal passage being made apparent by inflammation from mast cell allergies, I need to see an ENT but I have so many other health stuff going on because of the CTD that I've been told to wait until other stuff is sorted before adding another specialist into the mix.
Immersi0nn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:56:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah okay, I thought you had a hole in the roof of your mouth that leads to your nasal passages like I do. Apparently it causes your nose to be normally stuffy, and it only clears out if the tube clears out, when it's clear it makes a high pitch sound when I put suction in my mouth.
Also that CTD sounds like it sucks hope you're able to get your health stuff sorted out.
cofeeholik ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:57:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm sitting on the front porch reading this and tapping my nose... neighbors walking dog are looking at me strangely... I am now in the bathroom tapping... my cats are staring at me... MAKE IT STOP!!!
fulaghee ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:05:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
More like shutting or clogging. Naive spanish here too.
paparazzi_informer ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:22:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This does actually work. I had sinus infections 1-2 times a year my whole life until I learned this method. The method I learned was this:
-Breathe out all air out through your nose.
-Hold your nose closed with your fingers or just don't breathe in for as long as you can possibly stand it.
-Once you can't hold your breath out anymore very slowly breathe in through your mouth.
And yes, it kind of feels like you are drowning... this tricks your nose into clearing up because your body believes it needs more air and opens your airways. It works for a while, usually about half an hour to and hour, and then you can repeat. The trick is to not breathe in too much through your nose. Breathe out fully and breathe in slowly and shallowly.
If your nose is extremely clogged and you want to sleep you can try this method and then plug your nose with your fingers and try to suck your snot down your throat or blow it out. Sounds gross, but it always works for me. Haven't had a sinus infection in YEARS now.
noodleparty ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:08:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What method of tapping should be used? Like where do you tap it?
LocalBathrobe ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:36:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think it means to cover or stop the flow rather than hit the nose. Maybe pinching it ?!
ccjjallday ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:00:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tap to the Beegees- Stayin' alive
Jaqueso ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:28:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear, got a sweet nose tattoo
logangrey123 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:03:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can just exhale and hold for as long as you can. Your body will unblock it.
idontswallow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:47:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is what I do. Taking the next deep inhalation through the nose also seems to assist.
dieterschaumer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:25:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alternatively, go for a jog.
PM_meyourGradyWhite ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:02:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This sounds like pretending youโre drowning without the adrenaline rush. With that in mind, what works for me is to get caught off guard such as called on in a meeting when Iโm not paying attention. The sudden burst of panic clears my sinuses immediately. Too bad I canโt plan this.
Nemesis_Bucket ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:05:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have an alternative method!
Pull your earlobes laterally and slightly downward which may take some figuring out for the proper angle. My left and right ear are different I've come to notice
Open your mouth as wide as you can and hold for about 20 seconds.
Close your mouth but force and exaggerated underbite and hold for about 20 seconds.
Repeat the process above until you literally feel your eustachian tubes drain and your sinuses (most noticeably all but the frontal sinus for me, which is the set between your eye brows)
The above was suggested by someone with decent production value on YouTube who claimed to be a doctor. What I've noticed after and on my own is that if I pull those angles that work just hard enough, there is a noticeable crack/pop that is distinctly different from the feeling of "popping" your ears. When I do this, it bypasses the need for doing the mouth thing from above for extended periods of time. I crack each side separately, then maybe 20 seconds later I start to feel my sinuses drain to my throat and my ears feel much better.
Idk if this is safe long term
Babladoosker ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:05:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I spent a minute tapping my nose like an idiot
ediblewildplants ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:37:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How embarazada.
r-mitage ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:06:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the Buteyko technique.
https://youtu.be/tgmKIwUqhkg
ImmediateVariety ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:44:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is useless advice because it's unintelligible.
Lil_Audi14 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:40:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ive heard of this too haha people think youre messing
jospence ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:42:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Where should we tap?
elbenji ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:00:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He means close your nose then open.it with a tissue
Idliketothank__Devil ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:57:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like you're vacuuming all your mucous into your lungs and trying to get pneumonia
ButtsexEurope ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I usually just make myself sneeze. That works.
dancenickydance ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:28:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or just pull a nose hair.
UM_Decoy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:38:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can you link the video?
Sunnysidhe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:39:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am sure I read a story where it said you just need to hold your breathe and your body will react by clearing your nose, the tapping may not be needed.
Joel0802 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:43:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tell them about yoga. That's process is a basic thing in Yoga class.
BardicKnowledgeCheck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:47:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alright people, How well does this work?
John_Tacos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:47:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saving this for next time my nose is clogged. Thank you.
fakenitav ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:49:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think the doctor was explaining Pranayama which is a breathing exercise in Yoga. As a lot of you are confused I have attached a link -
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=395ZloN4Rr8
GeenMachine ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:51:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please post the link if you still have it.
anona-mama ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:53:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually tapped my nose and it still worked! Power of suggestion. ...
FloridaStateWins ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:56:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Literally just recovered from a 3 week allergy run. Will be giving this a go next time
KING_NOSYT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:58:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doing push ups works.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:01:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you have advice for fluid behind the eardrum? Cuz it seems I probably have that rn. Ear's been ringing for days and it started poping(which is a good sign but yaknow more advice is nice)
redskinsc432 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:01:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tttt
I_AM_ASA ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:02:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ยฟPor quรฉ no se usa โcubrirโ?
phymathnerd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just tried this and it works
technowizarddave ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:04:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I found simply holding your breath for as long as you can also works well.
shennyovoxo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you're a lifesaver. I woke up just now not able to breathe thru my nose, saw this, tried it and it worked instantly. now I'll always try this whenever I'm sick or stuffed up! thanks, friend.
Nug_Pug ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:06:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have super bad allergies and I was super lucky to figure this out on my own and since then I've told people this same trick
IcyFinds ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:07:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is legit. 10/10 would tapar my nose again.
Ryanm715 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like a lot of work when the pharmacy has Pseudoephedrine instead that works fine
hectromo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can also just remember the time when your nose was not clogged and gave it for granted.
oddnarcissist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve found that trying to inhale sharply through my nose also works.
SpawnBX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ยฟPuedes pasarlo en espaรฑol?
LaloBeltran69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:13:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Escribelo en espaรฑol jeje
ScreemingGoat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear, got my penis caught in a tap.
cuchurru ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I speak Spanish and completely understood it, have to look back after the tapping comment... I didnโt notice at the first time
genthegreater ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:21:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Commenting to check on this later
kjzavala ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol I just tapped my nose for a while
BigBastian ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:27:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do a pushup, much easier...
SweetestDreams ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:35:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
... why dont you just edit it into your actual instructions? That is way less confusing.
PyrZern ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:40:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
... Imma need a video instruction of this ~!!
BeefSupreme9769 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:45:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In relation to the nose and sinus, if youโre feeling the need to sneeze but youโre in a place where sneezing would be inconvenient, take your tongue and press it against the roof of your mouth very hard. The feeling of having to sneeze will go away 100$% of the time.
Lilluminato ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:46:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well okay then edit the post
Olive767 ยท 40131 points ยท Posted at 00:20:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean as you cook, dishes right away, and 10 minutes every day walking through the house picking things up/organizing.
So much better than hours of cleaning on one day
[deleted] ยท 7045 points ยท Posted at 01:47:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Kungfinehow ยท 2570 points ยท Posted at 02:17:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're literally better off than every roommate I've ever had. Things have places they go, not just wherever it was used last. It's such a simple concept to keeping a space tidy.
Mr_Ted_Stickle ยท 87 points ยท Posted at 02:57:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
My roommate gets so bugged out on adderall, he will literally scrub baseboards at midnight randomly. I'll hear him sweeping and everything. Its great.
Edit: ayyy thanks for the gold
The_Borg- ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 06:59:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So basically instead of hiring a cleaner, get an adderall addicted roommate. You get a cleaner that actually PAYS you instead of the other way around!
schlubadubdub ยท 92 points ยท Posted at 02:43:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a flatmate who liked to drink 6 beers every night while we're all on the couch eating dinner, watching tv/movies. He would slam his empty bottle down on the coffee table, get up, walk to the kitchen, grab a beer, come back and sit down. We'd have 6 bottles on the coffee table every single night/morning. Apparently it's inappropriate to suggest he carries the empty bottle with him to the kitchen to chuck it in the bin that was there, practically next to the fridge.
MasturScape ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 03:02:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs also fun to collect empty beer bottles tbh. However after a certain point(I.e. he table becoming crowded it becomes ridiculous)
rihanoa ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 04:52:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Assuming he at least takes care of them at the end of the night, I think youโre being a little too nit picky. To be fair itโs a lot easier to keep track of how many youโve had (especially after youโve had a few) if the empties are staring you in the face.
schlubadubdub ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 05:03:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Counting drinks wasn't an issue as he only bought a 6-pack per day because was an alcoholic and didn't trust himself to stop at 6 even though it's cheaper to buy a carton. And no, the bottles were sometimes left until the following evening... which stank because he always left the last few sips in the bottom as didn't like drinking the "dregs" - in a commercial beer without any dregs. Is it really "nit picky" to ask someone to throw out their rubbish when they're on the way to the room with the bin in it? This was every single day when we all had day jobs and girlfriends that might come over unexpectedly in the evening. Anyway, that was over a decade ago so thankfully I don't have to live with someone like that again.
FiveOhFive91 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:45:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My roommate is extremely clean, I probably drive him nuts...our common area is kept neat, but my room is a pit. At least it's contained and not on a shared table. There's 3 old beer bottles right now, but it's in my room where I can have depression and he doesn't have to see it.
Hitchie_Rawtin ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:48:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just cleaned 50+ wine, gin, whiskey and beer bottles out of my room the other day, you're doing fine with 3.
Edit: but clean them up anyway, you'll feel better about it.
schlubadubdub ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:57:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah we never shared a bedroom (3 bdrm townhouse) so he could keep it as messy or as clean as he liked. I didn't think it was too much to ask to at least keep the common areas somewhat presentable. I mean 3 dudes living in a place is asking for trouble, but I just wanted it to not smell like rotten food, stale beer, or stinky socks haha
hughranass ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 02:44:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You are vastly underestimating the power of extreme laziness.
Kungfinehow ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 02:49:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I guess I just prefer to be an efficient lazy person.
dis_bean ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:23:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm a very lazy person, so I like efficiency. I like a clean house so that I know where things are and am not scrambling to find stuff. Plus small time invested upfront leaves more time later for laziness (sleep).
hughranass ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:25:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You may be very lazy, but you are not vastly lazy. It defies your silly logic and facts!
crazy_dog_lady519 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 03:00:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Upvoting so my husband will see this comment.
jdman929 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:12:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I saw. Thanks, hunny.
nerbovig ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:28:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ahem
Uzrukai ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:06:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hold on a second...
DrFloyd5 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:25:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks honey! See you tonight.
jpark28 ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 02:48:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a roommate who would leave everything exactly where it was when he finished using it.
At one point he finished using the vacuum in the kitchen and literally just left it in the middle of the kitchen. That was also probably the only time he ever vacuumed.
a9a1m8 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:42:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think you're in my house right now...
There's been a vacuum sitting in the kitchen, plugged in right next to the table because he didn't put it back since Saturday.
Mr_CoryTrevor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:30:51 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going to need an update on this. Is it still there? Please donโt move it yourself...for science. Letโs see how long it takes.
a9a1m8 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:29:20 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gah, I already moved it when I cleaned the kitchen. Things generally don't move unless me and one other roommate move them (there's 5 of us total).
Our go-to tactic is piling things in front of roommates doors, or on their desks once the item has been sitting a week in a common space
Mr_CoryTrevor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:58:16 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You could always start taking selfies with said items and tagging them on the item on Facebook, too.
โHaha so-and-so just left the vacuum in the middle of the kitchen again and left. What a goofball!โ
โThis guy keeps forgetting his empty beer bottles in the living room each time he goes to get more from the fridge...and the trash/recycle bin is right next to the fridge!! Lmao heโs so silly...Update: He fell asleep, ate and went to work, completely forgetting theyโre still on the table. Someone had one too many hahaโ
Mr_CoryTrevor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:29:19 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How long until the vacuum was put away and who did it?
jpark28 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:47:16 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did immediately after I saw it, I tried to teach that dude how to be a good roommate and eventually I just gave up and didn't renew our lease
ClusterChuk ยท -13 points ยท Posted at 03:28:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck your kitchen carpet. The fucks wrong with you?
Slayer_Of_Anubis ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 03:39:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You've never vacuumed hardwood or tile?
lucid_scheming ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:40:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is weird to me as well. Hardwood or tile get swept and scrubbed in my apartment, the vacuum is for carpet.
The-Crimson-Fuckr ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:53:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sweeping for me just throws sand and dirt everywhere you sweep, youll never get it all. A vacuum on the other hand, well its better. Not all vacuums are big and clunky, they make them pretty small now. Try using a small vacuum on hardwood/tile and then try to sweep. You'll find that our way is better, faster, and more effective.
ClusterChuk ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 06:24:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Right! Thank you.
ClusterChuk ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 05:19:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
About as often as I sweep my carpet. Or mop the leafs in my yard. Or snort herion or shoot coke.
TheSpinsterJones ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:57:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think itโs actually not uncommon to snort heroin
seventhaccount7 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:46:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or shoot coke
TheSpinsterJones ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:56:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh yeah, wasnโt that one of Sherlock Holmesโ habits?
ClusterChuk ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 06:16:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU ANIMALS!
jpark28 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:35:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He had a cat, vacuuming the kitchen tile was the easiest way to get rid of the litter she tracked around all over the apartment
ClusterChuk ยท -19 points ยท Posted at 03:37:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Fuck cats as much as kitchen carpet.
Edit: Fuck not fucks. A little s changes things.
Australienz ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:23:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Frist of all how darey ou.
ClusterChuk ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 04:48:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And fuck your compunction.
The-Crimson-Fuckr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:56:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Poke....be edgy.... Do it some more..
ClusterChuk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:17:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You fuck one crimson, and no one shuts up about eh?
xbroodmetalx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:49:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lmao kitchen carpet.
Vigilante17 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 03:06:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife always says โeverything has its placeโ and I guess if it doesnโt than itโs not something you really need. Iโve learned to understand what that means and everything I like or cherish or want to keep quickly finds a permanent spot to live when itโs not being used.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Vigilante17 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:43:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nope. Just a neatnik.
Caligula- ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:12:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is my roommate. Fucking slob. Drives me insane.
AlbelNoxroxursox ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:31:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It may seem simple but isn't always to people with depression and executive functioning issues, of which I have both.
I'm working on being better, but being around roommates who get upset because there are a couple of plates on the counter when they don't even bother cleaning up the disgusting mess they make of the stove and sink doesn't help me get my head into a place where I can get better.
Shakenbake130457 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:49:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait is this a thing? I have semi controlled depression and i think maybe add. Its not that I'm lazy and don't put stuff away, its that I literally forget about it as soon as I'm done. My mind is already racing to the next thing. That's if i even finish the one thing. It is so incredibly frustrating to me and has greatly affected my quality of life.
AlbelNoxroxursox ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:50:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I've heard people with depression, anxiety, and executive functioning issues alike talk about it and it resonates with me. But it's so hard to explain to other people that I'm not just lazy, it's that for some reason these simple tasks can drain me of energy that I'm already low on.
chelstar ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:35:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This sounds like adult adhd, itโs real, Iโve got it
seemesometime ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:17:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depression kills motivation.
Sparling ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:36:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
By the same token, if you are always using the same thing in one place but store it in another consider finding a way to store it close by that place in a tidy way.
This also applies to helping others become tidy people... If you provide them an easy way to do something and be clean they are much more likely to take advantage.
ppaannggwwiinn ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:50:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why would I move things from one table to another table?
/s
PKMNTrainerDiamond ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:48:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My current roommate drinks close to 10 cans of orange crush a day. He never throws them out. When he's done he just places them on the closest flat surface, even if they still have liquid in them.
He even puts them on the stove. Like, walk literally 5 paces to the recycling bin.
Mysoadhilldrop ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:29:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How is he not dead from diabetes?
PKMNTrainerDiamond ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:12:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He's only had these bad habits for about a year now.
He also smokes cigarettes in the back room and uses the windowsill as an ashtray.
nu1stunna ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:57:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is probably the biggest argument I have with my wife. She NEVER cleans up after she's done pretty much anything. I end up doing it because otherwise I get anxiety. Then she claims that the kitchen (or wherever else) is clean and to go look. I'm like...fucking really BRO???
Her not cleaning is the reason I don't want her to cook. If you're gonna do something, do it right and not such that the work you're doing creates more work for others. When I cook, I put everything back and clean what I can. When she cooks, pots stay dirty for days because she claims she's letting them soak to clean easier later. One time, I shit you not, a pot was soaking for a fucking month. I just left it there to see when it would actually get cleaned, before I caved.
The_Borg- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:01:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ummm I hope youโre working out these issues in constructive way with your wife...
nu1stunna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:45:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried, but now I just bitch about it on Reddit.
basedgodsenpai ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:32:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please tell this to one of my roommates. He leaves his shit everywhere and doesnโt pick up after himself. Just this morning there were 3 empty beer cans on the counter right next to the trash can. Like within 1 feet of it.....
Allieareyouokay ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:11:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have multiple coworkers that canโt grasp this either. Put things back where you got them, and it eliminates so much clutter!
hennell ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:49:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What about the things that have no where to go?
Kungfinehow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:57:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dedicated miscellaneous box/drawer. But generally tend to keep like things together.
Eshmam14 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 06:49:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your first sentence implies you're the shitty roommate.
politeassbitch ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:58:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this because I naturally prefer clean spaces but also because Iโve worked in so many restaurants and bars. When Iโm at work, I pick up glasses on the way to get an order, and pick up glasses on my way back to the POS to put in the order. I canโt stand still anyway, might as well move my body and have a spotless section!
Immersi0nn ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:52:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Random question, do you also call your Point of Sale a piece of shit? Cause ever since I was introduced to one that's all I can ever think of when it's mentioned lol
politeassbitch ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:53:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol actually more the other way around. Whenever I talk about a piece of shit and abbreviate it to POS I think of my Point of Sale @ work
Immersi0nn ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:54:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah you've been blessed with a functional POS then :)
politeassbitch ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:57:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or Iโve just used too many in my life...I used to call myself the โPOS Whispererโ because I hated asking managers to do shit for me, so I figured out backwards ways around the system. I make a POS my /bitch/
Immersi0nn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:59:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"why is this not in here... Oh well Open Food it is!"
politeassbitch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:10:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hahaha #JustVigilanteServerThings
m0_n0n_0n0_0m ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:37:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most of the POS or worked with were not POS. They were fairly functional machines.
Chapstickie ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:54:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My husband takes his boots and socks off every day after work. He throws the socks under the table and then goes to use the bathroom where the hamper is. He literally goes straight from the table to the room with the hamper and still leaves his socks under the table every day. I love him dearly but some day I am going to end up ax murdering him.
KareemAbuJafar ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 02:23:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I prefer the "do nothing ever and learn to suppress the anxiety" method.
HaungryHaungryFlippo ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:03:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's actually I think a two minute rule. It something takes less than two minutes to do, do it now. It'll save an hour down the line somewhere and a lot of stress
kuhanluke ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:40:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom does this to a fault. I'll be sitting on the couch with my phone next to me and she'll come try to grab it.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:55:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pro-tip: surprise her by tidying the whole house for Mother's Day! Sounds like she is the type to be over the moon for that work to be done for her. :)
DietCokeYummie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:47:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! Sometimes I'll be hanging out in the living room chatting with my mom while visiting, and she will get up like as if she was going use the restroom or something. Comes back a few seconds later and I'll ask where she went so quickly. She's like, "Oh, just went to wipe down the kitchen counter".
Nobody was in the kitchen or using it! Hahahaha. She has been this way my entire life though. Her house is immaculately clean and that's why. If she finds herself bored, she will just get up and clean something. It is amazing. But my parents have never dedicated a day to cleaning each week because of it. They prefer to enjoy their time off.
kuhanluke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:00:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom still finds something to clean on her days off.
koph1909 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:23:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then eventually you actually learn to put things where they belong to begin with. It's a habit that improves on itself over time.
erremermberderrnit ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:31:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I realized years ago that this was a way better way to keep things clean. Hopefully one day I'll start doing it.
Mister-Horse ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:27:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't put it down, put it away.
summerset ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:39:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a term for that.
โDrive by cleaning.โ
somethingpunful ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:18:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can you teach my wife? Please and thank you.
buddabuddayoyo ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:30:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My last roommate would make huge meals and leave the dishes in the sink. I talked to him NUMEROUS times about cleaning up after himself. When I confronted him about it the final time he said, "I try to get to them within 24 hrs." Well, that's great dude but I have to use the kitchen too and adults should clean up after themselves. I continued to clean up his messes for a month while I found a sublet. He also turned up the heat while I wasn't home and refused to pay extra for the personal space heater he used in his room. Meanwhile, I just bundled up none-the-wiser because I'm trying to budget. It wasn't until I came home early from work one day that I found out he was turning up the heat. Sorry to rant, but fuck him. He was a total douchebag.
Yoshi_Yoshisaur ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:56:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You have no idea how much I love this.
My husband calls this "putzing" :| And I hate it.
dreadfulbones ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:10:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the best way to do it! Sometimes I put all of the things that need to go upstairs on the first step. My personal rule is โdonโt go upstairs empty handedโ because it keeps everything so clean
teetoc ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:23:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do that when looking for my keys!
CharZero ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:59:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never waste a trip!
ComradeGibbon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:03:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Procrastinate about any and everything but opening mail and throwing crap out.
ran0ma ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:08:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually actively look for things that need to be put in a room Iโm going to. If thereโs a glass on my nightstand and Iโm going to the kitchen, it comes with. If Iโm leaving the kitchen to go to my room, I look around first to see what I can bring with me. It definitely makes a difference!
Its_Curse ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:11:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting things back where they belong instead of just dropping them wherever might take you two seconds longer now, but those 2 seconds will be worth it when you're not living in a mess for a week waiting for time to clean.
Changed my life.
ert-iop ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:48:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this, always have full hands. But my wife and children? Never. "I'll put it away later" they say. Two days later muggins here is putting it away. Makes me sooooooooo mad.
ShowWisdom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:28:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same. I feel like I finally reached adult level for doing it. It's a good start anyways.
Idliketothank__Devil ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:46:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It spread from my mechanic hobby and anal about my tools to my whole life. I'm happy but people whine. Fuck them though.
Immersi0nn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:54:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ooh boy yeah as a mechanic if you aren't cleaning as you go you end up spending countless minutes going "now where the hell did I leave the 10mm...."
Idliketothank__Devil ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:20:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
EXACTLY. And at some point I turned into the guy who buys the high end tool once, and I'll fucking flatten you if I find you in my toolbox
Immersi0nn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:03:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel you on that, "Don't touch my expensive things I see how you handle your tools as it is"
Polymersion ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:17:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My only issue now is dishes because I never cook at home anymore. Yeah I only use like two bowls and three cups a week (I eat at work on weekdays and eat out on Sundays).
clay_crun ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:27:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a habit of keeping a lot of bottles in my room. I maintain it by making sure I bring a couple of bottles downstairs to the recycling each time I go
SuuperNoob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:00:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also applies to people. I'm in such a better mood and a better person to be around after I nap.
howverysmooth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:20:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just tidier, in my experience.
erikpdx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:28:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! My goal is for my living space is for each room to always be 15 minutes of cleaning away from decent guest readiness. That requires that every thing has a place.
EventHorizonn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:00:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish I had you guys as roommates.
SameYouth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:17:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A domesticated lizard.
It's not that hard.
esr360 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:55:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But then youโre just in a constant state of tidying; never fully clean, never fully messy.
Orangebeardo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:06:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I cannot do this out of principle.
My parents used to do this growing up. I couldn't even read a book and put it down for a minute to grab a drink without finding that the book had been put back in its place.
It seriously grinded my gears to have my stuff moved every damn time. It didn't even make sense a lot of the time, I think my parents are just obsessively putting things where they 'belong'.
DietCokeYummie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:55:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My parents were the same way, but I've been out on my own for 10 years now and I see the light. I always considered my parents' home, certain relatives' homes, my SO's parents' home to be "adult-clean". Just a totally different level of clean than my place or the place of other people my age.
But I'm finally getting really into the habit of putting things up immediately and it has totally changed my house. I'm still not on the level of parents, especially since certain things I need out all the time can look out of place (laptop on the table, for example), but I am finally at a point where people can drop in at pretty much any time and it is okay.
NickelN9nee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:58:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You just.. repeated what he said.. are you retarded?
whatever133567 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:39:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great way to scramble my brain
Cyborg_rat ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:24:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Step 1 :Get rid of the kids Step 2 just pick up after my self Step 3: ???
captainabbydail ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 03:12:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You all sound like my mom.
Br0ba_Fett ยท 2360 points ยท Posted at 02:09:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Biggest game changer here. Prep your food. Start baking / cooking / boiling? Get on those dishes while it's cooking. Serve up the food, immediately toss leftovers into storage containers before eating and get in soaking those pots and pans. Enjoy the meal, rinse plates immediately before food cakes on, and clean the remaining dishes. Clears up so much more time waiting for things to soak and scrubbing harder.
SharkSheppard ยท 821 points ยท Posted at 02:45:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've got young kids and grad school after work. This is the only way I can cook now and keep on top of dishes. Slack even one night and I pay for it severely the next day.
[deleted] ยท 370 points ยท Posted at 02:54:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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SharkSheppard ยท 52 points ยท Posted at 03:11:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you. at times I think it is the dumbest thing I ever did to go to grad school. But long term it should help me get to the next level I am aiming for. So i tolerate a ton of relatively short term pain for that goal.
zebozebo ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 03:23:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Still making time for Reddit and hockey games. Good on you!!
kayakguy429 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:57:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
100% agree, grad school is both the stupidest and smartest thing I've ever done! 373 days, 8 hours, and 3 minutes until I'm done... Not that I'm counting or anything...
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:47:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
INDEED!!
nerbovig ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:30:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I just finished grad school and my youngest turned two. I have a combined two-three hours of me time each week now. Relatively speaking, it's amazing. You'll get there soon!
kacihall ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:19:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've got one toddler, a small house, and my husband and I only work slightly more than 40 hours a week. I still can't keep on top of dishes. (Though today I spent an extra half hour picking up the kids from my in-laws with the promise that my husband would start the dishes that piled up while we were sick over the weekend - he did them all. It's amazing how much better that made me feel walking into the house.)
CNoTe820 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:01:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Single pot dinners are where it's at. Less cleanup and cooking is so much easier.
Alternatively slow cookers and use one of the plastic liners, cleanup is just throwing away the liner. So much faster.
pukesonyourshoes ยท 53 points ยท Posted at 03:14:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ugh no.
1) chemicals migrate out of plastics. I'd rather they weren't in my food.
2) it's incredibly wasteful and damaging to our planet. Every piece of plastic you buy is going to be around for a long, long time. We really, really need to stop using it for trivial things. Soak that pot, wash it out right after dinner and it'll clean out really easily.
pestgirl ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:07:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What are some of your favorite single pot dinners?
hryfrcnsnnts ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:32:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use a casserole dish for this:
Chicken breast down one side. Split the other side with green beans and cut red potatoes. I drizzle evoo over the potatoes and then use a few packets of the ranch dressing powder onto it all. Cover with foil and cook until appropriate temp.
CNoTe820 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:33:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://tasty.co/recipe/one-pot-creamy-chicken-marsala-pasta#.gerxxjD9q
KimchiKimKam ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:19:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait hold up you can use plastic wrap in a slow cooker, doesn't that stuff melt?
Z1rith ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 03:30:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
id say go for it if ur ok with 10 types of cancer in your 40-50s
OobaDooba72 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:59:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are specific slow cooker liners you can buy. They're the same plastic material as oven bags I believe.
Weep2D2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:52:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What is grad school?
lt13jimmy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:00:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You brave soul.
blahrawr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:17:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly how is anyone able to do this? I'm single, no kids, didnt finish college, I work full time and yet I cant muster enough will power to cook a meal most days. The thought of having one kid is a literal nightmare to me
JagoFleming ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:43:39 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And the unofficial parent of the year award goes to...
bcoug ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:47:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My roommate lets so many things "soak" that don't need to soak. It drives me nuts, especially because most of the dishes are mine, so I end up having to use a different pot/pan than the one I want to use because the one I want is dirty (and I'm stubborn and refuse to wash his dishes). It really just feels like an excuse to not do dishes at that time. Also, he doesn't rinse things before he fills them up with soap and water... what's the point of putting soap and water into a saucy pot when you could rinse most of it out in the first place? AhhhhhhHHH /endrant
fashionably_l8 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:52:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, I think in the posted case โsoakingโ a lot of times is more โstopping from dryingโ so itโs still easy to clean off after the meal and so everything can be โsoakedโ. But yeah, it is an easy way of deferring the dishes for later if they arenโt washed after the meal. Roommates are tough to deal with!
bcoug ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:54:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just keep telling myself: 5 more days until he moves out. Then I get 3 whole weeks to live on my own.
Then I move into a house with 3 other people and 4 children.
Fuck.
fashionably_l8 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:58:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
:D .... D: whelp. Hope you have good ground rules established! Or if your moving back in with family...good luck haha! Transitioning from living on your own back to under someone elseโs rules is tough (if thatโs what it is). But if those are your biggest problems life canโt be too bad!
bcoug ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:59:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Internship in a group home situation! So some shared general rules but hopefully there will be wiggle room. It will be nice because we'll all have the same position so no one person is really "in charge". I would potentially cry if I had to move back in with family right now. Thanks for the well wishes though! :)
OobaDooba72 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:00:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good luck!
sour_cereal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you say group home I think of a halfway house.
bcoug ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:37:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a gated community with homes for children from backgrounds of abuse and neglect. From there, they are either returned to their families if they get their shit together, or are adopted. I will be one of the adults taking care of them.
sour_cereal ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:14:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh shit I live right by a place that does this. I didn't know it was called a group home all this time.
livin4donuts ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:20:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And filling the fucking sink so full I can't even wash anything in it. Ugh. I actually like doing the dishes, but not if I have to reorganize the kitchen first. My kitchen is tiny already, I don't need that crap clogging up the spot I'm trying to work in.
And of course, once it's in the sink it gets soaked so even if you take it out to make room, you get dirty dishwater all over the fucking place. I may have gotten a bit grouchy about it and said next time anything that's clogging up the sink is not getting washed, it's going in the trashcan and getting replaced.
daggerxdarling ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:53:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, this is so useful for a clean kitchen! Kitchen procrastination was overwhelming when I was younger. I'm glad I learned to heed this advice.
gopaddle ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:55:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Empty the dishwasher before dinner while the food is cooking. Anything used for food prep goes in the dishwasher before dinner.
MrBleak ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:08:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this when I cook and my fiancee seems amazed at how easy cleanup is. Refuses to do it herself but still amazed
BarkingTurnip ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:50:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But how do you know what's leftover until you have eaten?
secretraisinman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:22:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Portion it out on the plate and put the leftover hot food into an open storage container so that it has time to steam off before getting the lid on and going into the fridge. It can do that while you eat. Cold stuff can stay in the bowl while you eat unless youโre planning to have a really long meal. Then it should go to the fridge.
CassandraVindicated ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:33:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's even easier than that if you have a dog. They are nature's pre wash.
ChrisAwakeReddit ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:20:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
THIS. I always say Cleaning Dishes is part of Cooking (process). Clean EVERYTHING (you can) before eating - usually the food is too hot at the start anyways. And clean up the dishes straight away after the meal. Unless you burned something or you had been making dough mixture there's no reason to soak your pots/pans/dishes over night - stop lying to urself - life sucks when u wake up and the sink is full with shit.
runs-with-scissors ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:04:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even if you can't clean them right away (really tired, or just swamped), getting those dishes rinsed and soaking is just a game changer.
uteboi81 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:13:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ummm thatโs wine time!! What if I sober up before dinner?
missskyrim ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:00:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Now if only my roommates could understand that instead of leaving nasty dishes on the stove and in the sink for hours/days ๐
Farghobbles ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:49:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just wait til they're old enough to do the dishes and all the other chores.
CasuConsuIto ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I def cleats as my food cooks because thereโs that down time where you donโt need to stir or flip, so I clean in between those times.
Cooked yesterday and husband promised heโd do the dishes but I got bored and did them myself. All of the dishes I prepped with were done, it was just the ricer cooker pop, the wok and the cooking utensils that needed washing,
partylion ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:05:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have to agree to everything you said except soaking a (cast iron) pan right after cooking. If you put cold water in it while it's still hot it might bend the bottom of the pan.
Soak your pan after you have finished eating and it cooled down a bit.
Sombradeti ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:13:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You all not have a dishwasher? Saves me tons of time.
chupamichalupa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:52:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow can you come do a seminar for my roommates? After telling them this multiple times I donโt think theyโll ever get it ๐
frydchiken333 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:42:59 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meanwhile every single bachelor is plugging their ears and drowning out this advice just screaming the word dishwasher as loud as they can.
guitar_vigilante ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 12:26:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
sounds like a great way to get warped pots and pans
Idliketothank__Devil ยท -20 points ยท Posted at 02:47:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate you. Your guests food is getting cold while you fuck around
Criterion515 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:07:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
WTF are you on about? Guests? What does normal dinner routine have to do with guests?
Idliketothank__Devil ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 03:09:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Who are you serving, then?
Criterion515 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:18:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My family.
POSVT ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:35:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're a bad guest. Taking <2 min to set dishes in the sink/wipe down pans/utensils saves your host a ton of after dinner work with minimal, if any change in your free food.
Get over yourself.
Idliketothank__Devil ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 04:22:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Guests help clean after the meal. Not before. Wtf? You're exactly the type I'm talking bout.
POSVT ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:28:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When did I say you should help clean before? Read shit before you post.
Cleaning while you cook, and taking a minute or two to clean after finishing does not require you to do a god damn thing other than wait two minutes for your meal. It's not getting cold, get the fuck over yourself.
I'll say again - you're a bad guest, and I feel bad for anyone who's home you inflict yourself on.
Idliketothank__Devil ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 04:31:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fucking hell, read what you write, and I'm speaking as a horrified host at your BS, not a guest
POSVT ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:23:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Again - responding to posts without reading doesn't help anyone, and just outs you as the massive tool you are.
Please don't have guests, or visit anyone until you figure out the values needed to socialize as an adult.
Turning off replies, you're clearly not interested in anything other than jerking your outrage boner over things you're wrong about.
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 02:52:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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termiAurthur ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:57:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really, the food will not get cold in the time it takes you to do that.
OobaDooba72 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:02:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's a little much, but I agree that the food isn't getting cold that fast, and if someone wanted to speed things up they could help in the prep and cleanup.
OhMaGoshNess ยท -12 points ยท Posted at 03:05:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless you're constantly cooking more than you should this is really bad advice. If you're cooking more than you need then you need to step back and examine what a portion for you or your family members is
Syd_Jester ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:14:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cook more than you eat, then you get to eat later, but without the cooking.
OhMaGoshNess ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 12:06:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then you're clogging up your fridge space. Add in that 3-4 nights a week and you're most likely wasting a fuck load. Eat what you're going to do. Then put it away. You may not even need storage containers that night
Syd_Jester ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:44:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It really depends on what you have more available to you, space or time.
nerbovig ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:41:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I call that lunch. Who the hell pays for lunch 6 days a week?
OhMaGoshNess ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 12:08:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, it's breakfast. Who the hell eats lunch 6 days a week? I got other stuff to do.
Still very stupid to put everything away before you even start eating. It's wasteful and you might just be creating more of a mess than you think you're preventing.
nerbovig ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:19:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're complaining about portions and eating too much and then you're complaining about putting away food before you eat ...
petruchito ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:25:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I cook for 3-4 days, just finished Dahl Makhani that I made on Saturday, I know this is considered strange in UK and probably lots of other countries too. But there are dishes that get better being stored for some time, Thai Tom Yum and Russian Schi soup definitely are one of those. And it also saves time and money, large packs are cheaper.
nerbovig ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:42:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's curiously a lost art. It's not like stew and chili is exotic...
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:56:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lmao I often cook and put it all straight into the fridge/freezer without eating a bite
ryebread91 ยท 747 points ยท Posted at 02:03:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That works as well but we also use the rule โif you make the meal you donโt do the dishesโ it just seems such a obstacle if I made the food to clean them afterwards but nothing if I didnโt make it. Also do it right away or that evening. 3 dishes is easier than 20 that weekend.
WhoriaEstafan ยท 730 points ยท Posted at 02:19:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My ex always used every single pot and plate cooking one meal and never completed the cleaning. Heโd wash but leave them on the bench, heโd dry but not the big items - I could never understand it. And it would mean Iโd do it because why have clean dishes on the bench?
Then I noticed his sister did it, his brother, older sister etc etc etc (big family) because yes, there was one kid for each job - cooking, washing, drying. So doing all of it like I did seemed like this enormous job.
luzzy91 ยท 350 points ยท Posted at 02:38:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just picture your ex being an old man, scrubbing his dishes and trying to hand them over to his brother who has passed away and imagining his ghost makes him happy, but dishes still never get done.
HaungryHaungryFlippo ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 03:05:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well this thread took a turn
imjustbrowsingthx ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:07:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck man
OnlyUpvotesPlease ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:55:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh my god
WhoriaEstafan ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 03:13:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hahaha! I love it. They are all alive and well and he has found a new girlfriend to be his maid.
luzzy91 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:35:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey, not saying anything about you! I'm sure I'd get extremely frustrated too, that's just what popped into my head
WhoriaEstafan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:48:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No no you made me laugh! It was a hilarious picture
siht-fo-etisoppo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:29:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
willwirth ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:41:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for the time traveling second hand depression.
CineGory ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:05:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't have to be old to have a dead brother
SlickStretch ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:41:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, that was fucking sad.
ReedMarie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:09:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or "handing them off" as they drop onto the ground in an unnoticed pile of broken glass.
needofheadhelp ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:29:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's really... specific and odd
luzzy91 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:33:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was going to add a disclaimer that these are the weird, random thoughts my wife has to deal with on a daily basis. She tends to enjoy them though!
roboninja ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:24:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And for some reason putting the dishes on a bench he is sitting on, not the countertop.
robotco ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 02:38:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i don't see the harm. cooking is tough. in my home, if my wife cooks, i wash every dish and vice versa
WhoriaEstafan ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:19:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah but I clean as I go and he just got new stuff out. So me cooking meant him washing a couple of plates and cutlery at the end.
Him cooking? I should have just hosed down the whole kitchen.
hufflelepuffle ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:23:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same. My husband uses everything in the kitchen. I reuse & clean as I go. He just piles everything in the sink.
WhoriaEstafan ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:49:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then the magic sink fairy comes! Genius.
MyBlackTights ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:45:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Those dishes gotta soak. /s
Mr_Ted_Stickle ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:05:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes they just gotta soak for a week, ya know.
WhoriaEstafan ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:17:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha yes. The easy dishes done but the pots and pans. They definitely need to soak. Soak right on in to a new day and another persons problem.
ReedMarie ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:14:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I'd love to do the "you cook, i clean" thing, but I am conscious to use as few dishes as possible, I clean as I cook, and have most of the dishes in the dishwasher and the counters wiped down before we sit down to eat. My bf is like your ex, using every dish, food all over the stove and counters, the kitchen is a crazy mess. Id rather cook AND clean than have to clean after he cooks.
likeafuckingninja ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:11:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Our arrangement at home was one sibling washed up (this included cleaning down all the work surfaces, hob etc) and the other dried up and put away.
Tbh I just assumed that made sense.
But when I ask my husband to do the washing up he'll literally just wash dishes. And leave the general mess of the kitchen. Or if he does drying he'll put away obvious things like cutlery and then just leave dishes out.
I'm trying to accommodate the fact we obviously were raised with different ideas of what these tasks means but it's so endlessly frustrating to be 'husband is washing up tonight' then walk into the kitchen to find the dishes washed but everything else dirty. Or 'he's doing the drying up' but then you down in the morning and everything's been left on the side and needs re washing now.
It took a while to bring him round to the concept of doing it daily - when we first moved in he'd leave it all week then complain about much there was. Made more sense after he mother said they'd had a maid for most of his life...
We have a dishwasher now and when he empties it and doesn't know where something goes he just shoves it in a random cupboard. I lost a spatula and set of measuring cups for 3 months.
amikinart ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:28:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait... Why do you need to re-wash dishes if they were left to dry overnight? That's literally how everyone I know does dishes where I live- wash them, put them on a dish rack, put them away when dry (usually the next day).
taversham ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:48:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If they're left on a rack to air dry they should be fine, if they just get left in a random pile then the water pools between them and can get a bit rancid.
amikinart ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:56:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah yeah ok that makes sense.
likeafuckingninja ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:22:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad has raised with me with an incredible sense of paranoia. Mostly. So I've always just been told they could have got germs on them since they're left exposed. I know by and large this is mostly not a big deal so I don't need 400 comments telling me I'm crazy thanks.
But also legitimately if they're left over night flies etc could have landed on them especially during summer when houses are often open for cooling, I've also traditionally had pets who roam the house and could have stepped on them, licked them etc.
And yeah I know plenty of people see no issues with cats and dogs touching things and don't agree theyre dirty.
But my personal preference is not to put my dinner on a plate my cats arse may or not have been on.
WhoriaEstafan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:22:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How you were raised made sense to me!
Itโs funny how those little things from childhood can become โthingsโ in relationships.
Him half doing things became a huge drama in our relationship.
likeafuckingninja ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:25:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I moved out from my parents for about 2 to 3 years before we moved in together.
He had a maid then lived with mates for like 10 years.
Our cleaning habits are.... Fairly different XD
He's seeing the value of things now we've renovated our own house - he saw the cost of everything and now he sees the point in keeping them nice!
CharZero ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:04:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is very interesting and I am impressed you actually solved the puzzle. What do you mean by 'bench'? Is that like a dish drainer?
WhoriaEstafan ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:16:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, dish drainer/rack but usually just loose straight on the bench top. I guess his siblings would be ready with a tea towel so it made sense to him?
There was a lot about him that didnโt make sense.
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:40:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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4RJ56NJ5j2oEtcxyVkOo ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 02:54:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Until 1 person is terrible and uses everything in the kitchen and makes a big mess. There is plenty of time while making food to clean as well for 1 person. It helps drive accountability in both pairs. Whining about too many dishes? Why'd you use 2x the amount of tools than you needed?
CharZero ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 03:07:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is exactly why I prefer to clean up after myself when I cook. I am aware that I use way more utensils and bowls and cutting boards than I should. But I like my cooking style, it works for me, but that means I do the extra clean up required.
WhoriaEstafan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:13:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same. I clean as I go, hardly any cleanup at the end.
TheLionHobo ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:00:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is no need to look like Gordon Ramsey when cooking. Leave stuff on the cutting board. Only bring out a bowl when it is absolutely needed. And for the love of God do not bring out every measuring tool for putting spices/salt into a dish. Use your common sense and taste.
PhillyFrenetic78 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:45:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre single
kekiev15 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:38:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This sounds a lot like my mom and I. She would wash; I would rinse, dry, and put away. Nowadays, I can slowly scrub up a dish and ensure it gets done, but when my wife gets that part of the job, I'm like the Flash.
hart99011 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:52:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife does this, drives me nuts!
mallegally-blonde ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:54:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get leaving stuff on the draining rack/side, donโt see the point in drying if itโs all going to air dry over night anyway
ryebread91 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:21:38 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only use multiple dishes if itโs for sanitary reasons. But if Iโm cutting for a salad itโs all going into one bowl.
typesett ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 02:34:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I will clean as a I cook even though my wife washes dishes. My reasoning is we always say โI love youโ but do you actually mean it? Do you show it? We say weโd jump in front of a bus for you but would we clean a dish? So I will do nice things for her for no reason
SorrowFloats91 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:39:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's genuinely sweet. It's the little tiny things that add up I think. I hope I find a husband like that someday :)
Icandothemove ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:48:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And here I was, thinking Iโd just like a wife who called me names and smacked my butt when she walked past.
I might have to adjust my standards.
SorrowFloats91 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:49:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll smack your butt too, I'm multi purpose
Icandothemove ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You make a compelling argument.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:37:11 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hope you two end up together now.
Icandothemove ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:41:53 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That seems unlikely at this point. /u/SorrowFloats91 and I had a romance that burned bright, but fast.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:03 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And arenโt those moments always the best memories?
typesett ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:59:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
she still gotta do the dishes but i try to minimize
bruteneighbors ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:03:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My rule is, โif you cook, you clean.โ But i end up cleaning most of time, no matter who cooks.
I also like to joke, โ look at me, i cook, i clean, and the best part, i dont even say anything about it.โ
Shieya ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 02:34:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My husband and I don't use this rule because it ended up breeding some resentment. I'm very much a "clean as you go" cook who rinses dishes rather than using several different bowls/pots, and he uses a lot of dishes and utensils to cook. So if we followed the rule of "one lesson cooks, the other cleans up" I would almost always end up doing more cleanup. Instead we clean up after ourselves and that pushes us both to be conscientious about how much mess/dishes we're making.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:38:59 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Utensils all just go in the dishwasher but the pots and pans and that canโt see what the non-cooker does.
sawbones84 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 02:25:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me I figured out that I absolutely hate having to do dishes before I start cooking, so if I don't clean the pan after I use it, I'll have to clean it before I use it next time. When I decide to start cooking I want to start cooking, damnit. That's been all the motivation I need.
livin4donuts ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:24:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What about when i get home to make dinner and my wife has the sink loaded up with shit but it was empty this morning, maybe a plate or two on the side. It drives me nuts, you cant even wash anything because the pots and pans are full of water, stacked up until they touch the faucet!
...Tonight was rough.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:57 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What was your wife making all day?
livin4donuts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:46:16 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meal prep stuff mostly.
I don't even care that there are a lot of dishes to do, I actually like doing them. I just put in my headphones and zone out. But for God's sake, stack the dishes to the right or left of the sink (right in my case, as my drying rack just barely fits on the left side and there's more room for dishes on the right). I don't care about a cup or two, a plate, or some silverware in the sink but when I have to disassemble my entire workload first to even have room to work I get a bit frustrated.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:03:25 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah thatโs annoying. When I brew I do the dishes myself as she never touches them in the first place and I know what needs care and what can be tossed around and I just pop the headphones in and zone out as well.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:32 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs makes sense. Then youโre only cleaning it to immediately dirty it again.
DSJustice ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:40:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That rule exists in my house. I compulsively clean as I go. Wife compulsively gets out a new knife to cut each broccoli florette.
I can't say I'm a huge fan of that rule.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:38:19 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh thereโs limits for things like that but thatโs also when a dishwasher is handy.
technon ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:51:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's why that rule is bad and it shouldn't be used. Cooking and cleaning are so inextricably linked that it's ridiculous to suggest someone should clean the kitchen after someone else made a mess. Different people make different levels of mess when cooking, the cleaner person will just end up hating the messier person.
It makes way more sense to just switch off cooking and cleaning.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:54:48 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only if someone uses way more dishes than they need. Neither of us do so it works. Never said it was a fix all for everyone.
remlu ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:45:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is totally the wrong way to go. My family used to to this and it turns dishes into a separate chore. The person cooking does the dishes as they cook, wait for something to boil, etc. What you find is that the person cooking dirties a lot less dishes if they are cleaning them. One hour to cook and one hour to clean up miraculously turns into 1.5 hours to do both.
TSPhoenix ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:32:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem is some people take this to extremes. ie. Why make a sauce if that involves and extra pot? Salads? Just one will do. Etc...
People just end up doing stuff like omlettes all the time because it creates like a total of 3 dishes.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:51:41 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs just ridiculous in itself. To me it was just always common sense to reuse the dish unless it had raw meat on it.
S100p ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:17:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
100% disagree. Cooks who donโt have to clean up after themselves leave huge messes. Itโs way better to clean as you go. Especially when different people have different cooking/cleaning strategies. If youโre worried about it being fair then simply trade off who cooks.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:01:48 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not if youโre considerate of the other and they you when cooking.
spicy-mayo ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:28:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We've given up on that rule. Somehow I use twice as many dishes and make a bigger mess when cooking than my GF. We've switched to I do the dishes and she does the laundry. I'm okay with this.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:38:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I disagree w this one. Cooking is fun, cleaning is not.
Icandothemove ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:49:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man Iโd do the dishes every night if it meant I never have to cook.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:55:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this. iโd rather scrub toilets than cook
Icandothemove ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:00:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is naturally assuming I get home cooked meals. Iโm not doing the dishes because someone threw some frozen shit in the microwave.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:35:25 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs what paper plates are for. To put that in perspective we have a bottle of dish soap thatโs still in use from when we got married in 2013
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:27 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A never said cooking wasnโt fun.
TheseWereThePlaces ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:18:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We do the opposite - if you cook you clean. It's your incentive to clean as you go and be efficient. Someone who doesn't have to clean tends to use every bowl.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:03:01 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve only seen two people like this in my life who use every dish imaginable.
NovelTAcct ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:31:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
่ฐๅ้ฅญไธๅท็ข
ryebread91 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:36:09 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve no clue what this says but I feel it in my soul.
TheLesserWombat ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:05:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works great until the person who's supposed to do the washing up does a few plates and bowls then declares that the rest "has to soak" and leaves it. You tell yourself you're not going to do it and leave the dishes to sit in the sink, a passive aggressive monument to their sloth, until three days later you want to cook something and have to do the dishes. So you fire up the hot water and resign yourself to the task and, right when you've gotten into a dishwashing groove, you hear from the couch "Oh hey, I was just about to do those!"
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:59:10 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then I would ask them to finish the dishes so I can cook them dinner. Otherwise Iโll just make something for myself cause thatโs what dishes are available.
Vigilante17 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:08:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In college my buddies and I had an agreement. If you didnโt do your dishes and they were left for more than 24 hours not cleaned and put away, you could put those dishes on their pillow for them to take care of when they wanted to. Our place ended up being fairly immaculate.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:00:37 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good plan. My friends dad would wipe the toilet seat with their pillow case f they didnโt wipe up their drips. Theyโd come home to bed and boom face of urine stench. They learned quickly to clean up after themselves after a few times.
DietCokeYummie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:45:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know this works for some people, but didn't work for me and an ex. He was lazier/had a much less strict demand for cleanliness so it never got done. He'd put it off until later, which turned to tomorrow, which turned to the next night. I'd either have to complain for him to finally do it, or I'd have to do it myself, or I'd have to live with a disgusting kitchen. So it just didn't work.
For my SO and I currently, tag-teaming the cleanup turns a 20 minute task into a 5 minute task. It is a lot less daunting when you can clean an entire kitchen so quickly.
entropicexplosion ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:47:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never understood how people cooked in those teeny tiny kitchens, my family all had big counters and would use every inch of them when baking or canning. Then I learned from a friend that to an extent being able to let your dishes pile up, or even to wash your dishes all at once after you cook, is a privilege. Limited counter space means you physically donโt have room to have everything dirty stacked up at once or everything clean air drying at once. Limited kitchen tools and utensils means you donโt have four different forks or three different bowls or two different pots, and if you are preparing something that requires more than you have, you might even be washing dishes in order to reuse them immediately. Hand drying becomes necessary because things have to be used or put away as soon as theyโre washed. It made me feel better about not currently having a dishwasher. I put a bowl of soapy water in the sink to collect dirty dishes as I go and typically wash them all at the end, myself.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:20 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Very true that space is a factor but Iโd expect a lot of space to be used when canning or large baking projects.
timtamtammy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:52:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We use both -I clean as I go and then my partner cleans (he rarely cooks but Iโm fine with that since he cleans). He didnโt realise I clean as I go until following a minor tiff I decided to show him how much worse he could have it. The next few days I didnโt clean as I went resulting in triple the dishes. I won that fight.
Smauler ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:53:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I think that's a silly rule. Sometimes I do the meal and dishes, sometimes other people do the meal and dishes.
Sometimes people have been out all day and are proper tired, and you don't mind doing both. Sometimes you've been out all day and would appreciate someone else doing the dishes.
edit : And yes, I have done the meals for my family the last 4 days in a row, and have done the dishes too (though most of the dishes just get put in the dishwasher). This is not torture, it's just a little bit out of your time.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:57:31 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It doesnโt work for everyone but for us it does as itโs just me and my wife and we both work full time so doesnโt matter whoโs more tired for us.
Bibbityboo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:11:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We started with this rule, but I clean as I go, so the actual clean up was quite manageable. My husband dirties more dishes than I would have thought possible. So it never felt like a fair rule so we scrapped it. Now whoever isnโt putting a kid to bed does the kitchen clean up/packs lunches. If the kid is asleep before that is done, the other parent starts to chip. We just generally have a list of what must get done each night, and both work towards that goal.
GalateaJackson ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:20:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No no no! In our house, we also have that rule but Iโm about to start a rebellion. I clean while I cook and by the time we eat thereโs basically just the dishes weโre eating off to clean. But when my partner cooks thereโs a billion pots and measuring spoons and bowls and knives and chopping boards and EVERY GODDAMN INGREDIENT we own flamboyantly strewn over every kitchen surface. Things are about to change: you cook, you clean.
ryebread91 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:05:22 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why are people like this? Iโve got so many replies stating someone uses every dish. Iโve only seen two people like this in my life. Itโs just common sense to reuse the dishes.
Hardcorex ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:54:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I miss having this lol, I usually don't have the energy to cook, if I know I have to do the dishes after. So either I've optimized my cooking to use as little dishes, or I just microwave up some shit.
Gr1ml0ck ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:23:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve been doing this with the wife for over 10 years. It works well. Once in a while, Iโll try to do the dishes while I cook as a โnice thing to doโ, but it has caused me to burn food and/or get dinner on the table late. If you value your meals, focus on cooking - and make the other person clean up.
madhad1121 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:24:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We do this too, but the difference is that I make sure the dishwasher and the sink are empty before I start cooking and I still try to clean a bit as I go. I canโt stand cooking with dirty dishes piled in the sink. My husband just throws things in the sink as he goes and doesnโt worry about anything. His biggest sin...even if the dishwasher is 90% full, he wonโt start it before he starts cooking. So Iโm left with a dishwasher AND a sink full of dirty dishes. Luckily he works later than me so he only cooks once or twice a week. He is a great cook though (better than me) so I guess it works out.
sweetlew07 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:34:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Edit: I don't think your situation is like this, I just want to share so maybe you don't wind up being awful like my narcissistic mother lol
Yeah, that's nice, until the double standard kicks in. I am 30 and living back with my parents, who seem to be under the impression that they can do whatever they want with dishes (or food) and I'll follow them around and clean it up. Yet, when I cook a meal for everyone, I clean up the whole kitchen and they eat the food. I remind them that growing up, the rule was, whoever cooked didn't wash the dishes, but it was just a farce so my mom didn't have to do everything. Now, she washes her dishes only, and I wash for myself, my dad and my brother, regardless of who cooks.
ryebread91 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:10:02 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow. I washed the dishes after my mom cooked as my way of thanks for the meal. Then learning to cook from her I realized how much easier it is if you just rinse your measuring cup right away after using it. One less item to wash later and to use the same bowel for plate for prep.
Mysterious_Lesions ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:07:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy crap, that would not work in our house! It's hard enough to get my daughter to use fewer pots and make less mess when she's cooking. How does cooking one meal take so many dirty areas, utensils, and pots?!!
Our rule is that you cook, clean as you go, and others will set the table, clear the table, and your dishes that you ate from.
flyingsqueak ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:18:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Except when every person you've ever dated used a minimum of 20 dishes and pots and pans to cook a single meal. Then they also insist on cooking because that's just how our schedules worked out, and of course they won't rinse them because they cooked, the dishes are my job. I was always left with a million dishes to wash and no help. And somehow on the days when I cooked I was still left with the dishes. Every time.
No, you cook, you clean up after yourself. Or at least be respectful about the number of dishes used and rinse that shit over you're done with it!
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:42:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use the โif you make the meal you donโt do the dishesโ rule even though I live alone.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:11:28 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That one made me laugh.
Grunge_bob ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:44:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe the rule should be, "if you ate off it, you clean it?"
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:11:55 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That would involve bathing my wife.
Grunge_bob ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:33:17 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i'm for after-sex bathing
dx__dt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:06:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Well, looking at this from the viewpoint of an economist: If one of you cooks and the other one does the dishes you run in to the risk of suffering from market failure; i.e. the cook does not bear the external costs of hir choices and isn't incentivized to properly calculate the cost/benefit of hir actions during the cooking process.
Here is a link to a comment about this from economist David Friedman in one of his talks about market failure:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bpn645huKUg&t=2185
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:27 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As in they use more dishes then needed cause itโs not their problem?
ComradeGibbon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:04:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to do this trick. Do the dishes then cook.
Chorizote420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:07:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah i live by "you make the mess you clean it."
amazondrone ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:43:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried that rule but I live alone and the dishes just started piling up!
rachhach ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:11:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can still follow that rule. I cook and my partner cleans the dishes as I go. We're in the kitchen together chatting and catching up on the day, the dishes get done, and no one has to eat his cooking!
Whales96 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:14:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Passing the task onto someone else is the quickest way for a system to fail. The only thing that is actually an obstacle is all the thinking you do about a thing instead of just doing the nearest work to be done.
metachronos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:12:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a friend that would cook for our "movie night" group that would say that all the time. Except he often cooked at my place and made a huge fucking mess every time that would take hours to clean up. I would have to wipe down counters, mop, and run several loads of dishes every fucking time. I eventually talked them into just ordering takeout or eating before they came. Plus everyone was appreciative of the people that cooked but it seemed like they rarely thanked me for cleaning up since I would do it after people would leave or the next day. Sorry, just venting, I hate that fucking rule. People that cook ostensibly enjoy it, I don't know a single person that enjoys doing the dishes.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:15 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs when you move the location or have everyone else help clean up as well. Thatโs just part of being considerate. And using every dish you can just never made sense to me.
metachronos ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:19:11 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For various reasons, my place was the only viable location. Some people tried to help but they kinda half-assed it so I'd still end up doing most of the work. I moved apartments after a few years and used that to say I was pretty burnt out on hosting so my friend that took over my old lease took up the mantle. But soon after a lot of people started getting busy with work, new relationships, etc. We still hang out and get lunch and stuff pretty regularly but that particular tradition has kinda fallen by the wayside.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:06 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Growing up sucks donโt it?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:01:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have that rule too. Problem is, I live alone.
jasmineearlgrey ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 12:25:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop living in the 18th century and get a dishwasher.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:20:06 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We have a dishwasher. Are you recommending I put non dishwasher items in it?
jasmineearlgrey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:56:49 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I recommend you get rid of non dishwasher items.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:52:20 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So pots, pizza stones, and dishes that are too big for for it should all go?
jasmineearlgrey ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:11:00 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have no idea what a pizza stone is, but everything else easily fits in.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:13:34 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty much just a stone circle you put in your oven when you preheat it. Cooks the crust like it was in a stone oven. (Side note: you wouldnโt use detergent or dish soap on it as itโs a porous stone and can absorb the suds and flavor your food weird at least for a bit. So no dishwasher for that either.)
jasmineearlgrey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:45:03 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I'd get rid of that. I've never had any problems using a normal baking tray.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:07:19 on May 8, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All depend how you like your pizza. Itโs even less maintenance than a baking tray. Just water and wipe off any crumbs/cheese on there and dry.
otacon239 ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 02:01:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This works well without roommates.
JohnDoeNuts ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:35:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not my experience, had roommates who never did their dishes where as I would always wash mine right away. They always blamed me for never doing dishes. Because they wouldn't see me spending 30 minutes laboring through the overcrowded neglected stinking dish mess they made every week or so because I always washed mine right away.
Glad to be rid of them, gaslighting ass couple who always had eachothers backs and would manipulate like you wouldn't believe. I warned some folks who ended up rooming with them after me, and guess what? Same shit with the dishes lol.
EDIT: OHHH "without" roommates. Your point stands, I misread as with.
jasmineearlgrey ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 12:26:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why the hell would you not have a dishwasher?
Sirrwinn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:40:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I have a roommate and her and I both complete 100% of our own dishes every single day. Never a dish left in the sink after we cook or overnight, or an uncleaned kitchen. Luckily we both are just clean people and are also cousins so itโs been good.
Look for people who have the same living standards as you, it will cause less frustration for both parties.
otacon239 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:51:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's in next year's plan. Finally living in my own. Used to live on my own and kept the place spotless. I miss those days.
donoteatthatfrog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:34:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i have roommates, and we have our separate set of dishes.
I use mine, I wash mine.
UndeadBread ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:28:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And children. My house used to be so clean...
[deleted] ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 02:13:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've always done that. People think I'm clean. Im just lazy and that way is much easier.
User_225846 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:06:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This exactly. I don't like doing dishes. In fact I dislike it so much I've found ways to make it easier, like rinsing dishes when they are fresh and not dried like concrete.
They say lazy people find a better way. They don't talk about the lazy people who are too lazy to make it easy.
wolfgeist ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:12:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*efficient
mdp928 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:24:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Somewhere in a thread on here I saw a comment that recommended the same, because 'at some point you're just waiting for the food to cook anyway' and I swear that random little phrase blew my mind. If you make a little game out of speed-cleaning before dinner is ready it feels like it frees up damn near your whole night. Magical.
olivesandcoleslaw ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:53:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I try to live by a โtouch it onceโ rule. Instead of changing into pajamas and putting the day clothes on the ground to grab later, place them straight into the laundry bin right then and there. Instead of leaving the trash from lunch on the table, put it straight into the garbage bin. Instead of throwing your coat on the couch after a long day, hang it right on the hanger instead of having to go pick it up later. Saves you so much time taking out the steps in between and just doing it right then and there. Touch it once and youโre done.
Olive767 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:33:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The clothes part was hard for me for a long time. Id always think "i cant put this in the dirty bin! Its clean enough to wear again". Honestly the hamper is probably a cleaner spot to keep clothes to wear again than on the floor, where youre walking all over them and kicking them around.
Absent_Source ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:11:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I recently just broke up with my girlfriend and its been a real rough experience. Doing exactly this has made my life just a little easier/less draining.
in-my-50s ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 02:16:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is that because she did most or all of the cleaning?
Absent_Source ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:19:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No. We were both depressed and let the cleaning go undone for way to long. We took turns doing bits and pieces of but many times never finished. It was 50/50. But the first week after we broke up I lived in a shithole because I didnt care.
EmilioTextivez ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:16:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This works on so many levels. Eating right, working out, cardio, etc. There's a limit in time and energy in a day, but this one is it. It truly is.
It's easier to stay in shape than it is to get in shape.
-Dakia ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:27:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife and I do this, but we also do what we call night jobs. I picked it up from my parents who did the same. No matter how exhausted you are, you both (and I do mean both, not just one) go through the house and pick up anything you can or get backpacks and lunches ready for the morning for 15 minutes. At 15 minutes you stop.
You have to both do it to avoid resentment of one doing all the cleaning, but it also just helps get a start on the morning to come.
furlonium1 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:11:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've made it a point to pick something up as I'm walking around the house.
Like if I'm in my basement I'll make sure I bring up one or two things from the laundry area that I'm trying to empty out.
wolfgeist ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:13:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's a saying: Never leave a room empty handed.
furlonium1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:14:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good advice
Rongeong ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:34:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad always said that it was easier to keep up than to catch up.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:00:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Problem with cleaning as you go is that people you live with never see you cleaning and accuse you of not doing your part.
wolfgeist ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:20:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lol. God this is so true. "Why don't you ever clean the kitchen!?!?"
Because I clean all of my dishes when i'm done and don't make a mess so I don't have to.
_Malenx_ ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:26:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve found cooking is so much more enjoyable if I have a completely clean kitchen first. Then I rinse and load the dishwasher with pans as I finish things.
Double sense of accomplishment and bonus points for the pregnant wife not having to clean.
themeatbridge ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:22:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean up, pick up, put away. Clean up every day.
bestjakeisbest ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:14:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That and if you make something semi regularly stream line the process, reduce dishes ect, I can make fettuccine alfredo with 2 large dishes and 2 utensils, while making the sauce from at home, and I can make the whole thing in 20 minutes or less
donaldtrumpincarnate ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:15:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Better than hours of cleaning on one day AND better than living in a mess in the meantime.
chem_equals ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:19:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can you teach my roommates this?
vanillalabrador ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:41:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My kids and I do โ10-minute tidyโ and itโs amazing how much better the house feels if we all take a few minutes to put shit away in its space!
NoHacksJustTacos ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:46:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How the hell does that seem like useless when you heard it lol
PM_ME_YOUR_GOOD_NEW5 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:18:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I knew coming into this thread it would basically just be โWhat good advice have you received?โ
limarien ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:27:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have too much on my mind when I'm cooking so I cook sit down to eat cause I'm tired and then my gran walks in and starts asking me why I didnt clean up and I say that I'm going to but I wanted to eat first and then she cleans it herself and complains about it a week later in a completely separate convo, my grandmas are the worst.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:43:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean as you go and everything in its place has been a staple of mine for a long time.
There's nothing better than serving/eating dinner and only needing to wash the plates afterwards.
Is also very easy to prepare a meal or do any task when everything is in its proper place.
OrchidTostada ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:08:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes yes yes! I keep a small spray bottle of hydrogen peroxide/Dawn detergent in the shower, and a small grout brush. Little bit, every day. Always clean.
Porkchop_Sandwichess ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:12:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If only my family had this mindset.
Audios_Pantalones ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:14:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
10 minutes...EVERY DAY?
imnotagringo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:17:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hope my brother understood this.
He always makes a mess when he cooks and doesn't clean in like an hour late after he eats.
zen_life_ftw ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:20:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ever since i've been cleaning while i eat off the plates, I don't use the dishwasher. what's this box for again O.o
callalilykeith ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:25:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do the 10 min of cleaning a million times a day with a 3.5 year old. I also always end up with 2 loads of dishes & 2 drying racks every day. Vacuum every other day. Deep cleaning different areas on the weekend when dad is playing with our son.
Part of it is because my son โhelpsโ me and it takes us a lot longer.
bj_good ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:26:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have found the same is true with laundry. Small loads of laundry are very easy to manage and when they come out of the dryer don't take that long to fold or even put away. also, you don't need urgency in getting the laundry done because you're out of shirts or pants or whatever. Makes everything feel easier
duncecap_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:34:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean as you cook or while your food cools is the win
SMACKDIDDLE ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:34:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This goes for cleaning up the yard as well. Pull weeds as you walk around then itโs not an overhaul job.
KingOfCar ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:35:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. This is what my mom used to do before she became a hoarder.
supermicromainboard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:40:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hope my girlfriend reads this
bcoug ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:42:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me, I try to do the dishes as I'm cooking, but if they don't all get finished, I have a rule: No going to bed with dishes in the sink. I follow this about 90% of the time. Now I need to adopt this mentality for clothes in my room, because I tend to throw them on my desk if they're clean instead of hanging them back up, then they pile up until I have to spend more time at once putting all of it away. No more going to sleep with clothes not put away!
Justkiddingimnotkid ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:48:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TELL THIS TO MY WIFE! She makes amazing dinners but I have to clean up twice as long as it takes her to make them. Sometimes I think I would rather just fast than to eat great and have to clean for an hour.
20somethinghipster ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:49:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My problem is I time everything to all finish at once. I might be able to clean my cutting board, knife, and a few mise en place bowls, but once the cooking starts everything is in use until I suddenly have 2 pots, 2 sauce pans, a baking sheet, spatula, and 2 spoons all dirty at once.
handyman_84 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:53:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah yes, my wife and I call it the โcagโ method.. Clean As you Go.
EnviousCipher ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:56:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
This is something I learned during my time as a Domino's manager, but it was absolutely one of the hardest things to teach because kids who didn't close didn't see the value in it as they never had to deal with closing super late after doing all the cleaning.
Since then it's become force of habit. I'm really glad this is the top response, it's probably the best lesson you could teach kids.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:57:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh god yes. It took me 2 weeks of working my butt off to get my house decluttered and tidy and clean after years of just leaving things until they were bad enough to make me actually clean
Now it's so much easier to keep it nice by just having a quick tidy morning and evening and spending 10 minutes each day vacuuming or cleaning the bathroom or kitchen.
Conclusion: my mother was right all along. Much better to do a little every day than leave it and do it all at once
le_dankest_memez ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:58:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish I could tell my mom this
I don't like cooking with her
patiencezoro ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:59:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โClean as you go is the sign of a proโ โif youโve got time to lean youโve got time to cleanโ are a couple Iโve heard around the kitchen
User_225846 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:01:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Almost 10k upvotes. Safe to assume my wife isnt one of them.
garciawork ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:02:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Watching people cook that don't clean as they go stresses me out beyond belief. I hate cooking, but I hate watching others pile stuff up even more.
jkwolly ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:05:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love cleaning while I cook. Then I can sit and relax while eating.
Drag0n_no ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:09:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
THIS. I just started cooking recently and have always wondered how my parents always have like 30+dishes out after I ate dinner. While I cook, I clean while the food is sitting on the pan and I have nothing else to do (it has only burned once), and when everything is done before I eat I put the last few dishes away or in the dishwasher, and leave the pan to cool. Then when Iโm finished eating I only have one thing left out.
drivealone ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:09:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why did you think this was useless advice?
Olive767 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:21:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My crippling laziness lol
Sometimesialways ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:10:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is important to let your pots and pans cool before cleaning them under water; They will get warped if you run cold water over a hot pan
parlonida ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:15:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Current roommate lives like this and it bothered me a ton for the first couple weeks. Now that itโs become habit I truly appreciate it.
chaseazt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:17:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's called "the economy of motion".
A_Little_Off_Center ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:19:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do the 2 minute rule. If a task or chore will take less than 2 minutes to do, do it now.
Failgan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:23:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I resented my roommates for this one. I'd lived on my own for a bit and got into the habit of cleaning dishes while I cooked, or at least before I ate. It made the kitchen so much more organized.
My roommates would leave dishes in the sink that'd pile up so I couldn't even rinse my stuff off. I'm also a minimalist, trying to use a few dishes as possible, and in contrast they'd pull out half the kitchen to make a sandwich and leave a mess all over the counter space.
I stopped using the kitchen after a month or so...
WhosGotTheBugle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:05:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always keep a damp cloth or towel under your chopping board.
A) for stability and non slip.
B) you can lift the board and wipe down the surface as you go.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:06:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can you message my wife this please ? I am a huge proponent of this and she isnโt so it makes everything i do null and void.
phillijw ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:03:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pro tip: Pay someone else to clean your house once every week or two
iaminfamy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:35:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sounds expensive.
phillijw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:41:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not too bad. I think it's around 80 bucks
Hiitsmichael ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:28:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This completely changed my life, I donโt understand how or why people to decide to devote a whole day to it weekly or biweekly, once a season maybe
DietCokeYummie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:49:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would be miserable if I had to devote an entire day off to chores. I'm with ya.
Munger88 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:57:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same, which is why I just never do chores instead!
BoomerKeith ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
YES!
I never realized just how much time this saves until I started doing it. It takes about 3 seconds to put my dirty clothes in the hamper when I take them off which beats the 20 minutes of attacking the giant pile of dirty clothes every weekend.
evil-lemon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wash dishes I just used while cooking. Saves me so much time that by the time I'm done I just need to clean the pot/pan and whatever utensil I used.
wolfgeist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:17:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Greasy pan? Let it sit and and harden and it will take 20 minutes to clean. Alternatively, wipe it with some paper towels while it's still hot and you'll only need to rinse it with some hot water and soap and it will be ready to go.
abclucid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:33:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always clean the stuff before I eat what I made. More for my accountability
givemethekeyblade ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:37:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't eat unless the kitchen is clean, so sometimes this really sucks when the food is ready but I still need to clean the pots and pans and etc. before sitting down to eat. On the bright side, the only cleaning left after eating is just putting the plates in the dishwasher!
Jag94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:38:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I live this mentality, but im in the middle of remodeling my house, and itโs SO difficult to keep things cleaned and organized. Im going mad because of it!
i42054069 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:40:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I give you a silver, not because it's advice I live by, but advice by which I try to convince myself everyday to follow & just seem to screw up every time.
lowey2002 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:41:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
> Clean as you cook
A chef trick I still use it to bring the trash bin to you when prepping food instead of moving the waste to the bin. You can also use a small plastic bag, jar or tin that one of your ingredients came in. It keeps your workstation clean while you are using it and prevents making mess elsewhere.
> 10 minutes every day walking through the house picking things up/organizing
Ideally you make this part of your daily routine. I spend 10 minutes as soon as I get home.
foxynews ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:42:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Much easier to clean a pan when it is still warm and the stuff is loose than it is to wait a couple of hours and it has hardedededed.
Frosty_bibble ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:45:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this. My two roommates do not. Itโs great.
IncorrectConfection ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:46:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rule #3 mise en place
JohnsonD96 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:47:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
THIS! Cleaning as I cook is something I started doing because of my mom and it makes SUCH a difference. No having to do all the dishes and wipe everything down after dinner because 90% of them are already done, it takes like ten minutes afterwards for clean up max!
uns0licited_advice ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:48:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you my wife?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This!
The minute i'm done cooking i soak everything up, and then i wash it when i'm done.
TheDanMonster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:01:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Couple this with working from home and it's great to free up time on the weekends.
CptBeetle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:02:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That never sounded like useless advice, my not doing this has never been about not thinking it is a good idea
LeadHero ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If only my roommates understood this.
be-more-daria ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:09:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is my favorite way to keep things tidy.
derivative_of_life ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:10:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See, the problem with this is that anything which increases the difficulty of cooking decreases the likelihood that I'll actually bother cooking, and then I just end up stuffing my face with junk food instead while all the "healthy" options I bought rot in the refrigerator.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:27:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Personally I find it easier to cook if you prep and clean as you go. It's less chaotic and organized.
wolfgeist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:11:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You learn this very quickly if you ever work as a dishwasher. The difference is leaving on time/early or staying 1+ hours late and being super stressed.
Venne1139 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or just pay someone to do it.
Olive767 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:20:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good point.
Source: am housekeeper
Coombs117 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:19:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve been trying to tell my parents this for years. Theyโre too stubborn to listen. If you get it done as you go, since youโre already up and around, you wonโt have to worry about it afterwards. Then right after you can proceed to relax.
Skeetdeedee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:20:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dammit, I have to wash these dishes before I put them in the dishwasher. Next time Iโm rinsing my dishes after I use them!
-me every day telling blatant lies to myself
teerude ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:20:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was having a conversation with a friend last night. It sucks to both cook and clean (we had a cooking party and it was easy and it was split up). But the lesson that I learned from my dad, if I do it all myself, I will never even start cooking until the sink is filled with dish water
idejmcd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean as you cook I learned working in restaurants. Couldn't be more grateful for that tip, 15 years later
Cheeze187 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:25:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learned to meal prep on the day my maid comes so I don't have to do dishes
onairmastering ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:26:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can lean, you can clean!
young_buck_la_flare ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:27:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
2 minute rule. If it takes 2 minutes or less do it now instead of later.
ThisIsNotTuna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:29:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this constantly. Unfortunately, absolutely no one else in my household does.
Once_An_Optimist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:29:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Adding to this do one extra small thing a night like clean the top of the fridge or clean out the vanity drawers, takes a couple of minutes.
aronij ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:29:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This deserves best comment ( for me at least). This simple thing has been dramatically changing my life.
opie2 ยท 2535 points ยท Posted at 02:38:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just don't drink today. Surely you can do that. Then just repeat.
It's been 19+ years.
Luthemor ยท 62 points ยท Posted at 04:44:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As an addict of sorts this logic has helped me stay clean for over 2 years.
TimX24968B ยท 249 points ยท Posted at 04:32:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lasted for almost 3 days. nearly killed myself of dehydration.
andrewman447 ยท 55 points ยท Posted at 05:06:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
weak
abraders ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 06:32:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
40 days and counting here.
CiB0rG ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 07:17:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You've got this, champ!
RangaSpartan ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 10:43:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Amazing!! How do you feel?
abraders ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 10:54:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty good thank you! It's probably the longest time I've been sober in years. I thought I'd miss it more than I have been. Found myself with more money and time to do things like reading, seeing family and going out for coffee. And the sleep is better!!
RangaSpartan ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 15:42:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
eyy nice! I'm so glad you feel better, that must make it easier to stay sober! Proud of you :)
abraders ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:46:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you! Appreciate your kind words.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:15:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The energy boost and quality of sleep are the biggest game changers. Even one every so often causes me brain fog for a week or so after until I get back into a rhythm.
Luthemor ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:17:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you attend any support groups?
abraders ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:19:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No but I do have a mental health counsellor.
Luthemor ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:43:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs awesome! Iโm glad youโve been able to reach out for some assistance. It just keeps getting better from here.
abraders ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:47:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah definitely. It should all start coming together from here on out!
[deleted] ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 07:54:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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KatieMcKaterson ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:25:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel bad for the moms out there who are constantly barraged with messages like "Mommy needs her juice!" when talking about wine etc. It's considered not only acceptable, but normal and even entertaining to need alcohol just to get through looking after their kids.
okaymoose ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:54:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe this could work for cigarettes.... I really need to quit. For financial reasons more than health at this point :/
telleisnotreal ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:22:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Australian?
okaymoose ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:58:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Canadian.
fogfall ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:04:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read Allen Carr's book! I was skeptical, but it helped me a lot.
loflower ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:29:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I started wellbutrin a month ago and quit in 2 days.
okaymoose ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:44:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I've heard good things about it but I don't really want to take a depression medication to stop smoking....
loflower ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:49:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me, I think there was an underlying depression that contributed to drinking and smoking, so overall it was a good choice for me and allowed me the wherewithal to make choices to benefit my wellbeing. It's definitely something that I researched before jumping into though. Totally understand your point.
okaymoose ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:49:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think for my S.O. this would be a good option. For me it's just a good old oral fixation. I'm trying to deal with my overeating habit first and then do something about smoking.
I've found that knitting helps keep me distracted from eating or smoking as much so it's just about baby steps for me.
adab1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:24:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same but over 13 years ago. I've been off cigarettes almost twice as long as I smoked.
CHAD_J_THUNDERCOCK ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:48:22 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/stopsmoking
okaymoose ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:00:17 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks! Subscribed. Hopefully someday soon I'll make a post but for now I'll be lurking and getting some motivation
CHAD_J_THUNDERCOCK ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:46:19 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Subreddits are amazing for identity change. Humans learn habits through others by osmosis and having hundreds of people in your pocket who also are quitting is such a powerful tool.
There's a guy in that sub who draws a new pokemon on a whiteboard for every day since he quit. Feels like yesterday when he did ivysaur and he is getting close to mewtwo. Best of luck to you when you are ready.
okaymoose ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:00:29 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah subreddits are amazing. I'm in r/loseit everyday trying to get to a healthy weight. I think I have to take one step at a time though and losing weight is easier than quitting smoking for me right now. I'll definitely quit soon though. I'm about 30lbs from a healthy BMI and I'll tackle quitting smoking when I hit that goal (or sooner if my bf wants to quit together before then).
mcnugsss ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:22:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm at about three months using this technique. Just a day at a time.
fartloud ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 07:48:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try tabex
TeaPartyInTheGarden ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:50:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well done you!
Orangebeardo ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:34:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I sort of do the opposite. I can't stop for a day, my mind's basically already thinking about how to sabotage my plans for tomorrow so I can consume.
Instead I pretend the stuff doesn't exist anymore. Throw all I have away and when going to the store pretend the section of booze doesn't exist. Even if I get hungry for a drink, I can tell myself 'There is no booze'.
abrads ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:16:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you. I needed this.
Jannes351 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:16:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll try, today.
lipstick-warrior ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:10:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you can do it!
legitttz ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:42:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
im at 29 days. i struggled to quit for a long time, could only do a few days or a week tops. then i adopted this mantra and it seems to be working this time around. which, as a bartender, is saying a lot.
Raspb_rry ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:14:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going to try this today, thanks :)
cumuloedipus_complex ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:03:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Amen brother/sister. Been almost 19 months for me.
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 06:00:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm okay thanks. Not going cold turkey on something I enjoy
nevermindthisrepost ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 08:00:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I see you getting downvoted, but I agree with you. Surely one beer in the shower at the end of my shift isn't going to kill me, and I enjoy it. Not everyone who drinks is an alcoholic, and not every alcoholic drinks.
verci0222 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:05:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can't go a day without your beer, that's a problem, and drinking every day is probably not that great for your health. Of course, until it interferes with your life, it's by and large harmless
harris_kid ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:14:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can go a day without a beer... And chocolate, and any other treat. It's no big deal for some people.
nevermindthisrepost ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:35:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like beer, but some days I don't drink it. I like coffee, but some days I dont drink it. I really dont try to overthink these things. If it makes me happy, awesome. If it doesn't, then no thanks. That's why I don't over drink booze. I hate feeling like shit. I also don't over drink coffee because the caffeine makes me feel anxious.
I just had a physical yesterday, and the doc said I'm good to go. So I guess I'm not doing too much damage yet. Time for a shower beer.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:26:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I drink pretty heavily at home in the UK but as soon as I go on holiday I have like, one on each long flight and then one or two to taste local beers.
Not everyone who drinks regularly has a problem. It's bad for our health sure, it can cause weight gain primarily at lower levels of drinking and much worse at higher levels. But the majority of people having a casual drink aren't alcoholics and going cold turkey is not for everyone. It's bad advice. It'd be like telling people to cut out cake permenantly because it's not perfectly healthy, or telling people to cut out hobbies with risks attached. People don't live to live in a perfectly healthy safe bubble. It's fine to accept risk for enjoyment.
verci0222 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:27:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything is an addiction if it's both detrimental to your health and you cannot quit it for a few days
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:43:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice tangential platitude but most people aren't addicted. My post was addressing the majority, not actual alcoholics.
fuckmoralskickbabies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:18:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey man. You mind me using your comment as the cover art for a song that's spewing in my head? Shit you said was hard af, hit me really hard. Was wondering what I could do for pops, this line of thought kicks a train of thought like Hulk kicked it.
verci0222 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:27:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sure thing!
PokWangpanmang ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:58:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can repeat this for 3 days before dying
Riddarinn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:42:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cangrads... i wish.
ribeyeguy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:39:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Easy for you to say, you've still got most of two years until they sell to you anyway!
morris1022 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:57:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If someone has a serious tolerance to alcohol, stopping cold turkey can be fatal. If you think you have a high tolerance (e.g., you can drink a bottle of liquor or a 12 pack in one go by yourself) consider talking to a doctor first.
opie2 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 17:53:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're absolutely right and this needs to be emphasized - it's one of the only substances where sudden withdrawal can be extremely dangerous, and possibly fatal. This happens when there is an actual physical addiction to alcohol, which was not the case for me, but you are right, and it bears repeating.
KatieMcKaterson ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:26:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
IWNDWYT
LongestNeck ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:59:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
AA BS. Thatโs no way to live. Youโre not over an addiction doing โone day at a timeโ, youโre still suffering. Years of NA 12-step cult bullshit and I only got clean when I did it by myself- contrary to thier dogma. One day at a time is hell, and not the answer
[deleted] ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 09:35:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saying you'll "never" do something again is the best way to set yourself up for failure. Never within someone's life means that all they have to do is once slip and they're now instantly back in the old mindset they had before they decided to "never" do it again.
The person who changes their mindset over time, gradually, and changes their relationship with the problem to a healthy/healthier one is most likely to actually recover. It's not some looming problem in their life, it's a story they now have about a person they used to be.
There are certain behaviours you need to say "no" to in order to actually change but that's not the same as saying "never". If you're the kind of person who can't stop drinking after the first pint when drinking with a certain group of people that you have no power over then you change your behaviour instead to stop drinking with them. It doesn't mean you can't have a glass of champagne with friends over a celebration. You're welcome not to as well, it's up to you of course, but if you want to be able to be a more flexible person that can enjoy the occasional simple pleasure instead of having the guillotine of your alcoholism hanging over your neck until death then you don't go to AA or cold turkey.
helloiamtrash- ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:18:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Different things work for different people.
fudgiepuppie ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 20:52:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah rubbing my dick on a tree hard enough will start a fire, too.
fudgiepuppie ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 20:51:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
AA and NA are shit.
Bone_Dice_in_Aspic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:42:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I quit drinkin' and it's been better. I thought I was gonna have a big awful battle with drama and relapses but instead I just stopped and never went back.
fuckmoralskickbabies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:06:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm extremely proud of you. Wish I knew these words before pops passed away, poor guy could've used it. Pitiful how he went out. You have my support bruv.
ZoPoRkOz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:15:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did you drink a lot on vacations? How did sober living change your experiences?
Kolyei ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:43:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm 22 and I have never started drinking. Never wil
Johnnyocean ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:52:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whoops
fudgiepuppie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:53:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Useful advice for everyone that doesn't actually need it. Stopping cold turkey kills alcoholics.
TheSoulOfTheRose ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:11:00 on May 17, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean from pot for nearly 3 years after smoking daily for 20+ years doing this. I'm so much happier.
ossansasha ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:23:51 on May 25, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Challenge accepted
AevHolm ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 09:04:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a Muslim, it helps if you haven't tried it before.
Real-Raxo ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:09:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
no thanks
arno911 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:29:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't have a friend circle who drinks or smokes coz i distant myself from them just to avoid it and i am down to my little 4 clean ass people group lmao
Yea i am a retard
Meliflunky ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:17:53 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like you got that backwards!
Your friends were retards so you got better friends.
Solipsisticurge ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 16:42:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear, it's been 19 minutes, am grabbing beer.
(Congrats on your sobriety, best wishes.)
YuzuFan ยท 1669 points ยท Posted at 00:42:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do the practice problems in the textbook.
You think it's a total waste until you actually try it haha
Sarahlorien ยท 57 points ยท Posted at 05:28:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Once you start doing that regularly, whether they are math problems or study questions, you'd be surprised how many pop up on tests.
ThisAfricanboy ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 09:52:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was writing my Maths O levels when I see a question my friend and I had done like a couple of times for fun but they changed the numbers a bit. I looked up and across to my friends and we start laughing. Everyone looked at us like we're crazy.
monsterjammo ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 12:50:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly, I had a professor who stressed the importance of practice problems, assigned specific problems, but told us he didn't collect homework. Exams were basically exactly those problems with one digit changed. He didn't collect homework because he didn't need to. Grades were split between 96 and 60-70. Students went the entire semester without figuring out why they were in the bottom half . . .
FourO40 ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 05:33:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do practice problems in general.
Just reading notes is useful for remembering things but for trying to solve test problems? Nothing beats getting actual repetitions in.
Sparrow50 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 07:59:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You don't learn to use a knife by looking at a knife. You use it.
Don't learn abstract stuff by looking at a textbook. Use it. That's what the practice problems are for.
betoelectrico ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:08:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same with chess
did-it-for-the-KARMA ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 04:51:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hahahahahaha smart!
not happening
the_e_user ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:38:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Professors are getting creative with the subliminal message teaching!
illini02 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:16:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was a math teacher. I know there is this big "no homework" movement, and I just can't get behind it. Math is about practicing and repetition. Trying to do things with increasingly difficult numbers until you master the concept. Often, there isn't enough class time to do it. But by practicing at night, you learn.
the_e_user ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:01:47 on May 18, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am late to this but I TOTALLY agree with this.
Bananapanda123 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:46:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
YES! Iโm a tutor, and every time one of my students says something like โI donโt learn anything in that classโ I say โof course you donโt, the lecture is literally the very first step.โ You donโt learn by listening to someone explain something once. Thatโs the introduction. You have to do the work to learn after that. You read the textbook. You follow along with the example problems. You use your notes and your book to work through some practice problems. You ask questions about what you donโt understand. Then you do more practice problems. Repeat until youโve learned it. There are very few things that you can learn, as an absolute beginner, from a 60 minute lecture. You have to do the work.
People seem to have the impression that a teacherโs job is to funnel information directly into a studentโs passive brain. It is not.
lemon_battery ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:34:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Should have read this months ago. Have a real analysis and Dif Eq final tomorrow
rainydaymaebee ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:54:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You think it's not really going to pay off until one of them turns out to be the extra credit question on the exam! (Happened to me a couple times in college chemistry classes! I got those bonus points!)
abrads ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:13:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That hahaha hurts my soul
roblox_boi69 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:27:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yeah that's how I got only As or Bs in math
am_only_paid_so_much ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:16:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Very true. You don't realize how helpful it is till you do it
erm4gundr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:10:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have a physics exam in about 8 days thanks for this
DJSnaek ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:21:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is actually great advice; it gives you an idea of what you do and don't know of the subject, and lots of times where you can read up on those things.
Patrikiwi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:11:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Definitely true as an Accounting student
nopropulsion ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:26:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I taught college chemistry classes, and would assign practice problems. I had weekly quizzes, most of those problems came directly from those practice problems.
NicoFalcon ยท -8 points ยท Posted at 05:55:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean I know they will help, I'm just too lazy haha (In reality I have 100% in the test category for AP Calc so, for now, I'm chillin).
EmotionalRangeOfTsp ยท 5217 points ยท Posted at 01:24:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Before I do anything I ask myself, โWould an idiot do that?โ And if the answer is yes, I do not do that thing.
skeletorcares ยท 84 points ยท Posted at 04:36:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't think that's foolproof. I do something similar though for motivation. I say "can an idiot do this?" If yes, then surely I can too.
fibonaccicolours ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 06:20:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is quite inspirational
Paper_Drop ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:59:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
happy cake day!
fibonaccicolours ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:13:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks! :)
Captain-Moroni ยท 137 points ยท Posted at 03:46:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was talking with my wife and said "What would Hitler do?" Then you just do the opposite. Like annexing France instead of Poland first.
FactsOverYourFeels ยท 68 points ยท Posted at 04:59:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kill Hitler
david_ranch_dressing ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 08:50:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Hitler wasn't all that bad. He did kill Hitler, after all."
tired_obsession ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 08:23:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Promise to invade Poland, then invade Poland.
Snikum ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 11:14:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I had a gun with 2 bullets and I was in a room with Hitler, Bin Ladin and Toby I would shoot Toby twice!!
gablerr ยท 268 points ยท Posted at 02:03:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โYou miss 100% of the shots you donโt takeโ -Wayne Gretzky -Michael Scott
II_Confused ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 14:10:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah but if you miss all the shots you do take, you eventually get discouraged enough to stop taking the shots.
[deleted] ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 03:38:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
From the play The Foreigner:
โIn my country, when you need to have solution to a problem, ask a stupid person. Then do something else.โ
ThoseAreBlueToo ยท 72 points ยท Posted at 03:06:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
KISS - keep it simple, stupid
m4cktheknife ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 04:40:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great advice, hurts my feelings every time.
0DMATH0 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 05:41:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great advice. Hurts my feelings every time.
Tokiseong ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:43:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great advice. Hurts my feelings every time.
did-it-for-the-KARMA ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:45:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great advice, hurts my feelings every time.
0DMATH0 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:41:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great advice. Hurts my feelings every time.
did-it-for-the-KARMA ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:45:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great advice, hurts my feelings every time.
did-it-for-the-KARMA ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:46:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great advice, hurts my feelings every time.
Gr1pp717 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:32:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not a fan of this. There are often benefits to doing things the "hard" way. And others being too lazy/stupid to take the time and figure out how it was done shouldn't be made into your problem.
NotBatman17 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 04:50:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, but the problem I face with this is idk what an idiot would do. And I end up being an idiot who doesn't know what he's gonna do :(
anomalous_cowherd ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:51:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Would NotBatman17 do it?
If yes, so something else.
NotBatman17 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:53:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But he doesn't know what he's gonna do.
anomalous_cowherd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:56:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apparently something idiotic.
Patchpen ยท 53 points ยท Posted at 01:58:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Would an idiot breath?
TNS72 ยท 48 points ยท Posted at 02:01:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No
Source: am dead idiot
DEVOmay97 ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 03:36:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Would an idiot have mitochondria as the powerhouse of their cells?
willwirth ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:56:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, they use jumper cables.
fackfackmafack ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 03:26:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Should I run for president?
(would an idiot do that?)
Yea, sounded stupid anyways. I don't know what I was thinking...
0Nyxee ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:30:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, guess we'll not be calling you Mr. President in the future. There goes that idea
fackfackmafack ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:03:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aww.. Can you at least give me a sexy lap dance?
DesignerChemist ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:08:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Would an idiot do that?
tacokingyo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:30:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please rise for the 46th President of the United States of America, fackfackmafack
Longfellow-Deeds ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:26:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dwight, you ignorant slut.
Dgallow2 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:54:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/unexpectedoffice
Radasscupcake ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 03:30:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You should always expect the office tbh
Uvtha- ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:22:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Changed my life.
willwirth ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:59:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me it's kinda like, "would a weird/crazy person do that?" If yes then do it.
I think this works best for creative stuff. Working on maus tank covered in ahegao body pillow cover for myself at the moment.
moltenshrimp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:53:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Girls und panzer?
willwirth ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:18:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well I do like the show (nothing sexual) I thought "hey, the German maus is pretty cool, it also may be considered 'thicc' so what if I put it on a body pillow as a joke" then I thought "hey, I should put ahegao on the tank just because" so I went with that. My favorite character is the driver with low blood pressure because she doesn't exaggerate and stuff that the rest of them do.
moltenshrimp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:40:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay, then. Only low levels of judgement here. Lol Interesting insight, BTW.
I haven't watched the series yet, but I'll keep an eye out for that character. :)
willwirth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:12:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude, there's barely anything lewd in it, this is one of the more cleaner animes out there in my opinion.
Edit: lewd is probably not the best word, but I think you get what I mean.
moltenshrimp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:27:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was only judging you on thinking the Maus is thicc and putting ahegao (a pretty sexual thing) on a tank, but, honestly, you do you and don't even worry about what I think. :)
willwirth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:34:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean you can't have an anime style body pillow without something sexual originating from Japan. Wait until it's complete...
moltenshrimp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:31:51 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would be interested in seeing what you come up with haha
willwirth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:33:14 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll send you a link to the front and back of the tank once I complete it if you want.
moltenshrimp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:37:11 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds good!
yazyazyazyaz ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:44:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only problem is an idiot will do just about anything...
DesignerChemist ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:09:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Would ONLY an idiot do that?
Samaj22 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:30:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a different one. What would make a better story?
OCoelacanth1995 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:39:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Conversely, for anxiety, I ask myself would mom/my manager/my friend do this? If yes I do it and the anxiety subsides. I second guess myself and run through too many scenarios so I watch people who can do stuff seemingly with no forethought and I pretend to be them for a minute.
19Winner93 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:34:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dwight Shrute for president lmao
DrJoe418 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:21:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wish I had this tip a week ago before I had to get stitches...
terminbee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:19:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ehh. Sometimes, the memories are worth more. Is it idiotic to get raging drunk with your friends? Yes. But is it fun? Hell yes. And you can look back fondly on those times when you're older and can't do it anymore.
FionaNJ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:01:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really need to do this....
mskittyjones ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:20:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the greatest!
StrangeShark408 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:52:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Idiots seem to have the most fun, though.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:27:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whoโs an idiot to you?
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:02:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought that's how you determined if something would be fun.
Untakenusernamemaybe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:14:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So ask myself โIs this something I would normally do?โ And then do the opposite?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:51:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is actually great advice.
cava2699 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:01:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One time I was going on a ladder because one of my lights was broken and after 1 step on it my brain pinged a subtle sensation of "I feel samething stupid in what I am doing" so after that I looked around for the think triggering it and I noticed that the light was on. So yeah, look around before you do things
Madcowe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:02:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here, except I'll do it if the answer is Yes
BravestCashew ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:25:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm an assassin sent to kill you.
Would an idiot be alive right now if he or she has no reason to be dead? Yes. Checkmate, youโre dead.
Odd_so_Star_so_Odd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:03:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read The Idiot and start taking matters into your own hands instead of leaving it up to other people.
StaticDet5 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:16:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why is this not voted higher?
Granted, I do the idiot thing a fair amount, for the stories. But I also frequently stop and say "What would make this safer, idiot?" Then do THAT thing as well.
poparyfists ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:17:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
stops breathing
silentreader ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:14:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
do you own a beet farm?
MosquitoTerminator ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:22:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Narrator: 'He never drank water ever again'
learningamap ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:36:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha! Simple yet effective question
AsheThrasher ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:12:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Would an idiot wipe his ass? Eh guess I better not.
Butt_Slut_Jack ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:56:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you have fun?
cashcapone96 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:33:33 on May 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
thanks for this, I use this a lot now and its made my design making better lmao
noTalentnoFriends ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:02:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really? You do that before you do anything? Must take you a long time to get out of the house in the morning.
happysri ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:01:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
OP is just quoting The Office.
Cheeze187 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:48:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Guess you will never be the President.
EmotionalRangeOfTsp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:01:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When me president, they see.
losernameismine ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:07:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Would an idiot breathe?"
"Yes."
"Well, stop breathing."
Drewdru ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:59:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
breathe
"Would an idiot do that?" "yes"
Holds breath until i die
BitterJim ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:32:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...but holding your breath until you die sounds like something an idiot would do
[deleted] ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 02:26:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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ccjjallday ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:07:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeesh
mallykv ยท 10645 points ยท Posted at 23:46:16 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fill your tank all the way up instead of a little at a time.
KAFKA-SLAYER-99 ยท 8422 points ยท Posted at 23:56:39 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
the less fuel in my motorcycle the easier she'll wheelie
agustin_m ยท 6454 points ยท Posted at 02:25:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yee haw brother
oMGLU ยท 116 points ยท Posted at 03:31:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just pictured a biker on a horse. Thanks for the laugh! I'm too high. Goodnight Reddit.
thokk2 ยท 60 points ยท Posted at 03:32:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You shouldn't be putting gas in your horse.
oMGLU ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 03:36:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
LOOK AT MY HORSE! MY HIRSE IS AMAZIN'!
KazCloud25 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 04:27:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
GIVE IT A LICK! OOO, IT TASTES JUST LIKE RAISINS!
chefjoshie ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 04:44:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
WITH A STROKE OF ITS MANE IT TURNS INTO A PLANE AND TRANSFORMS BACK AGAIN WHEN YOU TUG ON ITS WINKEE
[deleted] ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:51:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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chefjoshie ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:53:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
DO YOU THINK SO?
Dankus319 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:23:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
NEVERMIND TRY MY MM SWEET LEMONADE
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:56:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/redditsings
tekina7 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:36:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Looks who's horsin' around!
smootyman69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:55:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What is this, a cross-over episode?
theglovedfox ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:22:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shit, now I'm gonna have that song stuck in my head for the next week !
topoftheworldIAM ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:44:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You should see my blunt
Dill_Thrill ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:39:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gas in your ass on the other hand...
PaxTheHunter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:47:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TOOK MY HORSE TO THE GAS STATION ๐ค๐จโ๐พ
SyncronizdSquirt ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:07:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can whip your porche
MaybeImTheNanny ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:37:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I recommend a visit to Texas if you want to see that IRL.
thosearecoolbeans ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 05:33:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yee
(and I cannot stress this enough)
haw
Pkel03 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:16:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Badjur subscrib.
TheAntiochStallion ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 05:05:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
CRANK THAT M'FING HOG BROTHER
AROOOOOOOOOOO!!!!1!!1!
LilFunyunz ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 05:12:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
THE_PACK IS EVERYWHERE
AAARRROOOOOOOO
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:58:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Waylon Jennings: Boy I tell you, the day they passed out good luck, Bo and Luke must have been out fishing.
xmotorboatmygoatx ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:38:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuuck yeah, brother! Hail Saban!
SelfishMentor ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:48:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Roll damn tide!
shmuffbub707 ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 04:01:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wheelies to drown the feelies
๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฆ
Muad_Dib_of_Arrakis ยท 57 points ยท Posted at 02:44:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/calamariraceteam is leaking
I can't say the same tho, my tank is under my seat
-GIRTHQUAKE- ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:27:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ktm 690?
peachfesttt ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:29:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My friends rattled the plastics off
Muad_Dib_of_Arrakis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:35:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
BMW F650GS
chief_memeologist ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:40:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
๐ฆ
peachfesttt ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:29:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Need more braaaap
foot-long ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:41:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bbbbbbrrrrrraaaaaapppppp
Mr_JGuy44 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:33:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
R/calamariraceteam
topher4263 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:37:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/ ๐ here you go, you dropped this
[deleted] ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:30:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
God I love this squid shit
Oryan_18 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:54:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/calamariraceteam
morganinhd ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 03:23:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hell yeah brother. Dank nooners all day.
foot-long ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:41:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Signalling aircraft with the headlight! Brrrrrraaap
urohpls ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:06:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hell yeah brother
Chris98198 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:06:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Full send brother!
The_Lobotomite ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:11:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/CalamariRaceTeam
xyiro ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:46:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/calamariraceteam
leroyjenkinsdayz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:32:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/calamariraceteam
Ashybuttons ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:59:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
cries in cruiser
battleman227 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:36:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/calamariraceteam
expatginger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:45:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Roll tide
Penderyn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:03:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Calamari race team is leaking!
Just-Dewitt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:18:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The real LPT is always in the comments^
1127pilot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:23:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also the easier it'll starve for fuel while up on one.
Guy_Fieris_Hair ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:49:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/calamariraceteam
canincm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:36:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This Africa Twin rider fully agrees!
IceViper777 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:45:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/calamariraceteam
officialpalmtree ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:21:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/calamariracingteam
NancyPelosisDildo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:59:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone who will probably need a new liver someday, I thank you.
MeOfAllTrades ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:11:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This advice doesnโt apply to those planning to donate their organs before the gas runs out.
KAFKA-SLAYER-99 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:11:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Huh
MeOfAllTrades ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:12:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That was fast. It was a joke. About doing wheelies on a motorcycle.
kaleluvr ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 04:35:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is stupid donโt do that
UchihaDivergent ยท -21 points ยท Posted at 03:34:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you an organ donor? Please sign up for the program if you continue riding motorcycles. Your dangerous past time will save lives.
PM_ME_YOUR_EVO ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 03:53:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/moto is leaking
KAFKA-SLAYER-99 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:53:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lmao shut up dude doing 15mph wheelies wont kill me and if it does i dont think my organs are gonna be harvestable
free_dead_puppy ยท -9 points ยท Posted at 04:34:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They totally will most likely be! My friends in the ER have harvested many organs from motorcycle riders. Usually the head that's either gone / damaged too much.
Colgate2in1 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 04:45:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you an opinion donor? Because we didn't sign up to receive yours.
LashingFanatic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:24:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
nice haha
UchihaDivergent ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:59:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I quit riding on the streets completely after like my twentieth brush with death at the hands of idiot drivers.
KAFKA-SLAYER-99 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:06:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe you were the problem
geltoupee ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:05:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dunno man, you could be the best driver or motorcyclist in the world and you'll still be at the mercy of everybody else on the road, the difference is that if they're in a car and you're on a bike it's probably gonna end much worse for you than for them.
(I'd really like to ride a motorbike because they're cool as hell but I'm a coward and also really clumsy and would probably die)
KAFKA-SLAYER-99 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:14:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not really dude the whole "omg cars are all gonna kill me" thing is ridiculously exaggerated
foot-long ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:44:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone with a tile floor in their bathroom should as well, guess which one claims the most souls
SinkTube ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:51:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
do you think this is a counter-argument? because they definitely should
[deleted] ยท -12 points ยท Posted at 03:32:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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BurberryYogurt ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:23:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't. He's dead.
KAFKA-SLAYER-99 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:53:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay so
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 779 points ยท Posted at 01:29:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can afford it at all, I can't see why you wouldn't do this-- save you a trip to the gas station.
I guess you could argue you're carrying an extra hundred pounds around, but I think saving the trip is probable more efficient.
stuffeh ยท 182 points ยท Posted at 02:25:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gas serves as lube and coolant for the fuel pump. So keeping the gas tank on empty will shorten its life in most vehicles. It also allows more gas to evaporate, but that's what the evap system is for.
ValkyrX ยท 84 points ยท Posted at 03:27:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try to tell my wife this but nooooo she like to play a game to see how low she can get before getting the next fill up.
cphcider ยท 58 points ยท Posted at 04:15:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Filling up before you're close to empty is just being inefficient from the other direction.
runs-with-scissors ยท 59 points ยท Posted at 04:39:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously, why make extra trips? Fill all the way up, run almost all the way down. Rinse, repeat.
stuckInForLoop ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 05:13:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Finally. A man of culture.
[deleted] ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:24:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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KonigSteve ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:43:58 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But you still have to spend twice as much time at a gas station as the rest of us.
DarkNinjaPenguin ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 10:29:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good lord do NOT rinse your fuel tank!
Bones_MD ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 08:11:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
because i have a 36 gallon tank and donโt feel like seeing how much it costs to fill it from empty
KonigSteve ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:44:28 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It costs the same amount and just costs you extra time filling it halfway.
Bones_MD ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 16:25:52 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
costs fluctuate rapidly so...taking advantage of suddenly lower prices is what I do.
Also Iโd rather spend $40-55 at a time than $80-110, since I go 3ish weeks between fill ups.
And I want my gas filter to survive as long as it can.
PickledNoodle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:43:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes the gas station is just right there.
Im_a_shitty_Trans_Am ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:21:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, you see that you're on a quarter full and you're next to the gas station so you make sure you don't get caught out.
jakpuch ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:48:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
She'll like this chart.
the_ginger_fox ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:14:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel so validated by this chart. I drive a Honda Accord and whenever the light comes on my friends freak out when I don't immediately go get gas. I have a minimum of 70 more miles left in the tank avcording to this chart. That will cover me for at least 2 more days. Maybe driving to practically empty isn't the best for the car but I definitly am not going to run out of gas.
PeverseRolarity ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 09:29:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sheer hubris. Why do you tempt the gods like that??
jakpuch ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:10:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You'll also enjoy Tankonempty.com
RogueThrax ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:51:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They should really specify year and at least engine lol. My Civic is helluva lot different from most others. At 1.9 gallons remaining I've got 40 miles left tops.
SinkTube ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:54:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
why does it randomly switch between fractional tanks and gallons?
Natho74 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:52:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Probably based on how the manufacturer is deciding when to turn the light on, which means every manufacturer is gonna do whatever
SinkTube ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:51:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
but the light doesn't indicate how much is left, it only indicates that it's not much. the chart must have gotten its measurements another way
KonigSteve ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:45:50 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nobody should like that chart, it's so unorganized!
Bridgeboy777 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:57:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think I won that game.
[deleted] ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 05:08:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I ran out waiting for the pump once
nobutternoparm ยท 50 points ยท Posted at 02:55:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All of this. Especially the fuel pump, and ESPECIALLY for cars with HPFPs. But another thing is that the less air you have in your tank, the less moisture the ethanol has to absorb. Very important when flying planes, as finding out you have bad gas mid flight is, as you can imagine, not ideal.
scuba156 ยท 103 points ยท Posted at 03:42:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having bad gas while driving isn't ideal either but at least you can open the window.
cowbear42 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 05:14:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Child lock windows are to ensure you can share your bad gas with the passengers though
nobutternoparm ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:34:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was hoping someone would come in with a fart joke. You didn't let me down.
Have a silver--it ain't much, but it's all I gots.
[deleted] ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 03:42:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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PM_ME_ALIEN_STUFF ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 04:32:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Right?! I had no fucking clue, this whole time, that there was anything to consider. No wonder my car seems to run a little better after I fill it up. I just thought it was happy after a big meal!
(Last bit was a joke, the rest was true -why don't they tell us!)
Call_Me_ZG ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:59:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My car runs better when it's almost empty.
I figured less weight
ZeroKelvin ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:03:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A lot of this stuff is actually in the manual that comes with the car. Best practices, when and how to maintain the vehicle, etc.
BattlestarCatlactica ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:49:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But my manual is in Japanese...
zzuil93 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:34:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had two cars and just found out you're supposed to replace the cabin air filter on the car. No one in my family told me about this before. Doubt they know it exists.
It was easy to replace and really cheap. The filter was disgusting and now my car smells so much better :)
SourCreamWater ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:13:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That has nothing to do with how your car runs though, just in case you didn't know. It just filters the air into the "cabin". So if you turn your fan or A/C on and it smells dusty, change that shit.
Undead_Kau ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:15:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That should be in your ownerโs manual though
HengaHox ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 11:07:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Am I the only one who enjoys reading the manual and knowing every damn thing about my vehicle?
zzuil93 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:29:17 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean if you have the manual chances are your car is pretty new. And that filter will get changed during dealership maintenance.
I've only had used cars and the only things I cared about were main car maintenance stuff: oil type and change intervals, tires size, air intake filter
RelativeStranger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:27:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did not know that was a thing
NoxBizkit ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 06:16:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
2 reasons.
1.) It's self-explainatory if you think about it for a while.
2.) If #1 doesn't work, there's a back-up plan. The manual of your car, which you probably never read a single page of.
Siniroth ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:31:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not, especially in context of an engine where you explicitly need another fluid to lubricate it, it would be easy for a random person who doesn't particularly care about the specifics to think the oil also lubricates the fuel pump
The manual in all of the three cars I've owned (I still have two of them) says absolutely nothing about gas serving dual purpose as also lubricating or cooling the fuel pump, because it doesn't extend the life of the pump enough to make a large difference in expected service timelines, and will always recommend having the fuel pump either replaced or at least checked at the same time regardless of how full you keep your gas tank
NoxBizkit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:49:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This happens to be also the type of person that won't think about it for a while, given that they even know that they have fuel-pump.
I guess manuals being explainotary has too many variables to be a reliable argument. Mine specifically states to not go as far as you can without filling up to prevent damages in the fuel systems.
HeyLookWhatICanDo ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:26:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! I always fill up at a half tank the fuel pump runs cooler if its submerged.
InjectedCumInMyBack ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:32:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can you explain how having low gas means less coolant and lube for the pump? Why?
zhetay ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:05:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, if gas serves as lube and coolant, having less gas would mean less lube and coolant...
InjectedCumInMyBack ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:43:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah but the gas that's not being used is not going through the fuel pump?
Big_D_Squirrels ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:54:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's surrounding the fuel pump tho
InjectedCumInMyBack ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:27:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't know this. I figured the pump would be in line and a pipe from the tank goes to the pump.
asswhorl ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:32:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seems pretty insignificant compared to the mass of the car.
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:37:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well they say 100 pounds of cargo (or a passenger) reduces duel efficiency by 1%, but I don't believe that. Once you're up to highway speed, it doesn't matter if you're one pound or a million, wind resistance doesn't change.
asswhorl ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 04:12:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1% seems in the right ballpark. There's still some small effect of weight even when cruising; it affects the rolling friction.
TheSinningRobot ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:13:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A ten gallon tank isnt even a hundred pounds either
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:28:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My SUV takes 70 liters. That's probably something like 120 pounds off the top of my head.
grobend ยท -12 points ยท Posted at 04:38:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Penis
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
....vagina
lexicats ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:22:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also in my town which was prone to natural disasters, you do DO NOT wanna be stuck without petrol.
[deleted] ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 02:05:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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bllinker ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 02:10:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah! I noticed this too! Do you know why?
xSTSxZerglingOne ยท 50 points ยท Posted at 02:17:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gas is absurdly volatile (as in evaporates super fast) and nearly all systems that are meant to keep vapor from escaping while also allowing them to be filled up have some amount of leakage.
The more air space in the tank, the more gas can evaporate into the tank and eventually escape.
That's one reason anyway.
furlonium1 ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 02:25:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always figured that the less fuel you have the better the mpg simply because the vehicle would weigh less.
mmmmmmBacon12345 ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 03:15:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not much. For a 10 gallon tank you're only talking about ~65 pounds. When a midsized sedan weighs over 3000 pounds the fuel is just 2%. The weight of the car impacts fuel use due to acceleration and losses from rolling resistance but at any reasonable speed your fuel usage is dominated by air resistance which isn't impacted by weight.
saltymotherfker ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:44:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A single passenger is literally using more fuel than the full gas tank.
slayer_of_idiots ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:56:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What? No they don't.
psi- ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:51:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the long run the price of gas is not going down. So you "save" a little by buying gas while it's "still cheap". Micro fluctuations might change the situation day to day, but year on year this holds.
Also keep an eye when "your" station has cheaper gas. My local is usually cheaper after workday and expensive in the morning.
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:29:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What! That's ridiculous! Gas used to be 60 cents when I was a kid, then in my teens it was a buck fifty, and it's been going above and below a dollar for the last decade.
Mukor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:09:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some people find little-and-often expenses easier. If youโre paid weekly for example.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:43:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, this. I knew no one growing up who only added a little gas. It's a poverty issue not a choice.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:27:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
According to google, the average weight of a mid-sized sedan is about 3300lbs. The extra 100lbs amounts to 3.03% of the car....comparable to a 180lbs human carrying around an extra 5.4lbs. Most people's clothes and shoes probably weigh about that. Perhaps in a laboratory setting, the extra poundage would amount to slightly higher fuel consumption, but considering how many additional times someone makes a trip to the gas station, any savings would probably be more than eaten up by driving more often at lower speeds.
Artanis_neravar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:03:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because if I need gas to get the rest of the way home, and the only gas station on the trip is $0.50 more per gallon than the station my my place is, I'm only going to put a little in
vicaphit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:14:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But you're also spending more time driving around the gas station rather than driving to your destination.
Therealslimshamop ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:52:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think there was also an episode on mythbusters... That a more than half filled tank will save you gas. Not sure why this is but I try to keep my tank above half.
equestrienneM ยท 2391 points ยท Posted at 02:11:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Caveat: If youโre broke AF and driving a POS, DONโT do this.
Filling your tank and then having a break down does not equal fun times.
Demetrius3D ยท 714 points ยท Posted at 02:40:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had to replace a fuel pump on at least two cars. And, I've never had to do it on a car with an empty tank! :( Those things are HEAVY when they are full!
Just like every time I've had to fix the washing machine, it's had a full load of wet towels in it.
benhadhundredsshapow ยท 238 points ยท Posted at 03:32:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The paradox being of course, is that if you run too often on low fuel you'll burn out the fuel pump. Lol. Can't win.
silphred43 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 03:55:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just fill it to half when it's on a quarter tank.
grobend ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:31:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No
f15k13 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:14:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Y?
silphred43 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:26:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
E.
grandboyman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:48:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
F
SouledSoul ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:55:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife doesn't put gas in her car until 20+ miles after the fuel light has come on...
drod004 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:18:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm saving this for when people ask why I dont let my tank go below half
SachaTheHippo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:33:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sucking air is a good way to kill the pump, so don't drive all the way to E if you don't have to.
If the car is going to sit for a long time, filling the tank will keep the seals from failing by drying out.
RobotArtichoke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:18:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah but less gas means a lighter vehicle, which means better gas mileage!
tourette_unicorn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:33:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/technicallythetruth
glugglugbiggulp ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:41:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The washing machine breaking down with wet towels in it might be because you overfilled it and the machine couldnโt take it.
teh_fizz ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:53:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs what she said.
Demetrius3D ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:30:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah. There was a trick I could do with the old machine where the water would keep filling as long as you held the knob on "reset". So, you could do EXTRA large loads. I KNOW I pushed it too hard sometimes. I had to replace the belt every few years. And, I replaced the wig-wag twice. It was always towels, though. But, I guess wet towels weigh more than anything else.
glugglugbiggulp ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:34:56 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My comment was from personal experience, since thatโs how I happened to break my parentsโ washing machine, heh. Wet towels are heavy as shit!
[deleted] ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 03:46:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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Vetinery ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:33:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being submerged in fuel keeps it cool. You let it get real hot and then you splash cold gas on it... what you think is gonna happen...
Allidoischill420 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:21:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What's Fonzie like Yolanda?
saltymotherfker ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:39:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The pump uses the gas it's pumping to cool itself. If it sucking in air it cannot cool itself.
scarf_prank_hikers ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:28:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Might be worth buying a siphon for a couple bucks if you ever have to do it again.
youtheotube2 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:43:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How about the good olโ garden hose and mouth suction siphon?
scarf_prank_hikers ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:52:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha, I've never tried it but I bet it's worth spending $4 at Walmart for the tool.
Bunktavious ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:21:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having tried it in the past (and it does work) - yes, the $4 for a proper tool is worth it. A mouth full of gasoline is unpleasant and unhealthy.
trentblase ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:03:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Theoretically you already have a new fuel pump, so just stick that guy in, power her up, and pump the fuel out of the tank!
Seriously, though, how long would that take? Days?
Demetrius3D ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:48:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Once I have access to the tank it doesn't take long to drain it. The trick is finding someplace to put 16-20 gallons of gas. With any luck, the other car is close to empty. But, if one car is full, the other one was probably double pumped for fuel points and is also full.
Demetrius3D ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:39:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've always found it tricky to get a hose into the tank thru the fuel filler. I just braced the tank with a couple of boards while I unstrapped it. Then, I slid it down the boards like a ramp to the ground and drained the fuel. It won't ever be a problem again, though ...because I am WAY beyond ever wanting to do that myself. I'll just pay someone.
DEVOmay97 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:21:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol when my fuel pump went bad in my mustang I only had a couple gallons of gas in her. That job would have sucked if the tank was full.
Nanonaned ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:53:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
weird flex
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:16:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Lattergassen ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:21:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
please
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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saltymotherfker ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:39:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a Ford Flex.
arentiawful ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:09:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had an old crown vic, did the front pads and rotors, figured I might as well buy the new battery I had been putting off.. get new battery, fry my fuel pump. Apparently it's pretty common if you've been running an old fuel pump on a low battery for a new battery to kill the pump. The kicker? I had just filled my tank the night before. Another fun fact, gasoline fucks up asphalt lol.
thejoester ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:16:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The catch is that running your vehicle on less than half a tank often will wear out the fuel pump much faster.
ThanklessTask ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:20:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Mind you, I don't suppose you use the washing machine when it's empty so unlikely to break then!
Bit like the "it's in the last place you look". That's because you don't keep looking after you find it....
scalyblue ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:56:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve been lucky enough to have two fuel pumps on sedans where you just needed to unbolt the back seat and itโs right there.
WreakingHavoc640 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:29:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Newer cars are crazy to me. Drop the tank on a truck or take the bed off, because the fuel pump is inside the damn tank. My classics I like that the fuel pump is right the hell next to my engine right where I can see and reach it lol.
saltymotherfker ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:41:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes you can access the fuel pump by removing the seats, there's usually a cutout for accessing the fuel pump from inside the car under the seat and carpet.
Demetrius3D ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:32:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah. My old Plymouth van was like that. Fuel pump mounted right on the engine.
SpantaX ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:00:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not that hard to empty though. Just use a tube with a check valve at the end. Stick it down in the tank and jerk it until fluid comes out.
Technomen08 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:06:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm. Fixed fuel system on an old bronco.... shits heavy and I smelled like gas the rest of the day
RustyRovers ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:28:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I bet your windscreen wipers only break down when it's raining, as well!
fuckyoubarry ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:57:45 on May 13, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well yeah the washing machines not gonna break on the easy stuff
dustinsmusings ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:36:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your fuel pump is cooled by the fuel in the tank. Running on empty all the time ruins them.
mooch_the_cat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:32:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well of course you have. If you weren't driving (gas in the tank) you wouldn't know the pump's gone bad. And if you weren't doing laundry, you wouldn't know the washer died. Much the same as always finding stuff in the last place you look for it :)
fudgiepuppie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:48:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Average tank is like 15 gallons. So like 125lbs. Who can't just pick up an average woman? Yeah. Lizard people. I know you're an alien Jew. Go away, you stinky lizner jerk.
Demetrius3D ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:22:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What the fuck is wrong with you?
Diagonalizer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:19 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
maybe you're putting too many towels in the washer?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:10:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just like every time I had to haul a dresser up 3 flights of stairs with full drawers full of heavy shit.
tjoh127 ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 03:50:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me. Right now. Iโm literally on the side of I-12
DetectiveBeluga ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:31:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sucks bro. Been there. Good luck.
Demetrius3D ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:51:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sucks! How'd it turn out?
tjoh127 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:13:56 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a floor jack I was gonna jack up the rest end and see if my rear brakes seized up on me. But it seemed like my parking break cable broke and was stuck on. I was going 80 on the freeway though. Weird. I just floored it and it started rolling again fine when I made it to my destination it did it again but when I made it home 80 miles later (I know Iโm stupid) it is just fine. Also my roommate is a mechanic and of course when we go looking for the problem. It wonโt be broken.
Itโs a 01 GMC Sierra so I know itโll have issues but no clue whatโs wrong. Iโm glad she is running again i made it work and back today. I was wore out and fell asleep when I made it home so Iโll check it tomorrow. Thanks for asking how it turned out
Demetrius3D ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:07:03 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been on the side of the road with a busted car often enough that I will always stop and offer someone a hand if they are! Glad you've got a handle on it.
PENGAmurungu ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:36:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I literally had a car refuse to start when I tried to turn it on AT THE PUMP after filling the tank right up.
EmeryMarie ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:53:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We had the gas tank drop out of the bottom of car after filling up.... While driving down the road. It stayed attached and dragged for a moment before we realised what happened. We actually jacked it up and put it back in place with rachet straps to get home. Then, not more than a month later we filled up our truck to just find the gas tank had a crack half way down. Emptied half the tank in a giant puddle around our truck while we were in the store. We drive older vehicles so its a sucky gamble filling all the way up.
U2SpyPlane ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:31:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've lucked out in that the pumps that failed on me were in cars with easy access cutouts. Then I bought an Astro van. Just the fact that there are multiple videos on Youtube telling you how to cut a hole in your floor to access the pump should tell you just how damn hard it is to get to that thing, and god forbid it goes out on you with a full tank.
TweektheGeek ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:01:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Every time I've had a clunker, it has decided to shit the bed on me right after putting some money into it.
silphred43 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:04:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
The Black Hole of Automotive Metaphysics.
TweektheGeek ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:22:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Perfect
SuperSMT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:07:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aww, shit the bed
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:20:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is why I don't drive clunkers. I bought my car new when I had more money. Babied it for 15 years. Got routine maintenance done. Still runs great and still looks new with 85,000 miles.
Demetrius3D ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:54:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's around where I've BOUGHT most of my cars.
Slashxl ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:41:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs ALWAYS how it works for me. Iโll fill โer up & it will break down within hours or a day. I also narrowly avoided a wasted repair within the last month. My mechanic cousin ordered the wrong size pipe for my broken exhaust & had he ordered the right size, wouldโve cost me $100+. Well later that day thereโs antifreeze in my oil. Head gasket blown. Close call. I have a new POS now lol
Not_An_NSA_Employee ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:42:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just filled all the way up the ither day using the last of my money on gas. Not even 5 minutes after filling up got rear ended leaving my car undriveable. So now i have no car and no money. ๐
bottledry ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:33:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
siphon it out and sell it to your neighbors
Kdouglas89 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:20:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I filled up a junker with $70 worth of gas and the motor blew the next day :(
xdemenchuk ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:43:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, when I have a full tank Iโll drive way riskier and waste gas, and thatโs when Iโm driving all over the place. If itโs only quarter full I would be more conscious of that and drive more economically
Plus prices fluctuate so much, you really want to bet on that price with your full tank?
isnotaweed ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:43:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup...I almost never fill my car past 3/4's full, for the simple reason that I've had a lot of junkers and several times filling the tank completely was met by the demise of the vehicle within 24 hours.
toilettv123 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:49:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I suggest driving a 90's toyota in that case, they never break down
fitz_y ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:04:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My car wasn't a POS but I filled up the tank and then was in a car crash 30 minutes later... everyone came out uninjured but couldn't help feel sad for the wasted petrol money lmao
delaranta ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:42:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs just as easy to keep the top half of your tank full as the bottom half
support_support ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:27:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I worked for retail companies. I was initially wondering why someone need gas for a cash register (POS = Point Of Sale)
I_TensE_I ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:39:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm. Have a broken car with full tank of gas. Newer ish car so can't siphon it :(
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:04:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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dronehot ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:16:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rethink your life decisions
Rueff54 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:26:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Back in the day, it seemed like on the rare occasion I did have enough money to fill my tank, my car would all of a sudden quit working and you leave half a tank of gas on the side of the road. Every damn time... smh
acer34p3r ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:37:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Totaled my 03 grand am just short of 200,000 miles.... 3 miles after filling the tank, filling the washer fluid, and topping off the coolant. Working a minimum wage job at the time, I was more upset about having dumped a sizable portion of my check into the vehicle than anything, since I already had another vehicle i was fixing up to replace it.
Lelentos ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:39:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it makes you feel better, I sprung for brand new tires(albiet, the cheapest ones I could) on my last car because the technician said, and I quote: "Well she's just hit 200,000 miles but everything is in perfect condition. You can get another 50,000 out of her easy."
The engine exploded a week later, and I had to scrap it because I was not going to spend 5,000$ to fix a 3,000$ car.
I paid $500 for the tires, I got $70 back from them.
The_15_Doc ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:46:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happened to me once as a teen. Cashed my paycheck and filled the tank on my old explorer. Later that day, transmission went.
Grunge_bob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So, then what's the sweet spot for an old, run-down car?
Sevnfold ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:35:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One time I got in a motorcycle accident and it wasnt until hours later, after I left the hospital and was back home, that I realized I had literally just left the gas station before the wreck.
Madmanmelvin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:50:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If $30 can break you, you are hosed anyways.
chrisannunzio ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 04:17:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No one should be driving a Point of Sale machine, i repeat, Point of Sales should not be driven. Instead, try using them for transactions
benichols89 ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 02:19:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, if I can. I have a 68 litre tank. $1.30+/L.. 100$ or so to fill? Food for the family comes first
Toaster_In_Bathtub ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 02:50:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just huff the gas. Really kills the appetite.
TheTrueHapHazard ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:27:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The 98 litre tank in my truck sucks to fill. Gas is at $1.40 where I'm at already and it only ever goes up until the end of summer.
majaroo ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:53:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Woo Canadian gas prices, and our dollar is worth less!
LastNightManderley ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:44:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have to admit the first time I drove across the border to Canada I got all excited to see prices were amazingly cheap at $0.98 - didnโt realize that was for liters. Iโll have $10 on pump #2. Wait, why did I only get a quarter tank? Duh.
EnderWillEndUs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:56:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
$0.98?? When's the last time you were in Canada? 20 years ago?
Edit: just read that you said "first time". Nevermind.
DudeWithTheNose ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:39:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think that was probably closer to 15. i remember prices hitting a dollar growing up, and wondering why people cared about a dollar for a tank of gas because Im a dumbass
CannonFodder64 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:02:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You clearly havenโt been to Vancouver recently. Regular gas was 172.9/L last week.
Undead_Kau ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:18:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I filled up yesterday at 162/L and it felt so cheap. Yet two month ago we had it at 120/L :(
Dominant88 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:37:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow thatโs above Australian prices! Iโm paying 167.9 for premium at the moment, but have had it higher.
jsanc623 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:54:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
25.8 gallons...gas here in NJ is $2.49 a gallon...it'd be $64 US to fill versus $137 where you're at - yikes!
TheTrueHapHazard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:09:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup, its real fun when I have to go fill up.
Theycallmetheherald ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:36:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
7.75$ a gallon. Greetings from Europe.
It's been higher lol.
Drejan74 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:54:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Last time gas was as cheap as $1.40 in Sweden was in 2005.
TheTrueHapHazard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Winter prices are usually around $1.22 where I'm at and $1.55 in the summer. Last summer Alberta got into a trade war with BC which caused a gas shortage. The gas stations that actually had fuel in my town were charging over $2 which majorly sucked. Especially since my truck was getting 9 MPG due to the incredibly thick smoke from the wildfires.
missrubysunday ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:29:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Here in Australia at the moment fuel prices are awful. Premium fuel is up around $1.80/L AUD and cheap fuel (we call it e10 as it has 10% ethanol) is $1.60/L AUD. That said, I don't actually know anyone that uses e10 because it's rubbish.
ttocskcaj ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:19:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Here in NZ our premium is around 2.30 AUD..
missrubysunday ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:59:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ouch!
SoundPon3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:37:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
E85 on the other hand... My wallet is sad :( car loves it though
holdmybeer87 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:47:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
172.9 here. Fml
AggregateMelons ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:56:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Already at $1.72 here in Vancouver! Glad I don't drive a big truck!
Djoke1 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:34:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wtf im here buying almost 3.50 and your complaining about 1.40...!
bored-canadian ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:47:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude's talking in dollars per litre. So about 5.60 per gallon.
TheTrueHapHazard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:07:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
$5.92
rrrrea ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:43:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
per litre
TheTrueHapHazard ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:05:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
$1.40 per litre, not gallons.
mein_account ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:16:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Liters vs. gallons.
terminbee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:52:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait it's already at 4 here.
WannaCry67 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:04:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Here in Italy you pay 2 dollars for 1 liter
Slayer_Of_Anubis ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:42:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
$1.40 is ridiculously cheap, I'm not sure what he's talking about. Alabama has the cheapest average price at $2.51
BrainOnBlue ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 03:44:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty sure they're talking 1.40/liter, not gallon.
Slayer_Of_Anubis ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:46:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know, that makes a lot more sense. It was the $ that made me think gallon
ttocskcaj ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:17:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To be fair, more countries use $ and metric than those that don't.
NBB7 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:48:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
$1.40 for a liter vs a gallon, they are in another country.
orismology ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:47:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Per litre or per gallon?
TheTrueHapHazard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:07:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Litre.
TheTrueHapHazard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:06:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
$1.40 per litre, not per gallon mate.
Theycallmetheherald ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:34:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like you have other advice to look at if this is the case. Also 1.30, gimme those prices. I pay 1.87 converted to dollar.
HowTheyGetcha ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:46:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
$1.30/L is $3.66/gallon USD. Horrendous.
Theycallmetheherald ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:21:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As said in other comment, currently the price is 5 ct below record Heights. It's 7,70$ a gallon.
HowTheyGetcha ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:31:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jesus, here I thought $2.79/gal was outrageous.
benichols89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:39:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, our awesome Prime Minister and his idea on fixing the enviroment by taxing the hell out of middle class Canadians... I bet all across Canada will be $2/L by the end of the summer
BlueShift42 ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 03:31:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait. What? You used to just kinda get bored part of the way through and quit pumping?
JamesE9327 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 03:45:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Found the rich kid
BlueShift42 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:14:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The post implies that filling it up was always an option, but they didnโt realize how much better it was until they tried it.
skaggldrynk ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:22:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No it just says fill your tank rather than get a little gas at a time. For instance, if someone is particularly broke, and they have a bill to pay in a day or two, they might get $10 of gas just in case an extra $20 or so would cut it too close and they wouldnโt have enough for that bill. Pretty common thing that poor people have to consider.
OrangeCarton ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:30:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The post is saying "instead of only putting a little bit of gas fill the whole thing up!"...
Implying that filling it up was always an option...
kaapie ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:28:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TIL. Im poor
daguito81 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:50:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have to juggle 10-20$ between gas an a bill you need to pay. You are not in the best financial situation.
Source: am not in the best financial situation.
BlueShift42 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:05:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Been there, but the post this was replying to was โWhat felt like useless advice until you actually tried it.โ
TheMekar ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:10:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You donโt have to be rich to fill up a tank of gas...
stillshaded ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:27:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But you might have to be rich to not be able to conceive of why someone would only fill their tank up halfway.
cjsolx ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:39:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean I didn't really get why other than perceived benefits, and I'm far, far from rich.
FreeRadical5 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:46:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean I'm literally coming from third world poverty and I couldn't conceive it. If someone is so poor that filling a gas tank might break the bank, how do they pay for the car, insurance and maintenance? Sounds like a problem drug addicts or severely short sighted people in self inflicted poverty would have rather than real poverty.
JamesE9327 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:50:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some people can't spend that extra 30
JamesE9327 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 18:49:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah but there are lots of people who have to decide between spending $50 or $20 on gas.
Noah-R ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 05:21:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously. I get it that it's impossible for a not poor person to understand what it's like to be poor, but certainly if you can afford a car, you should be able to afford a tank of gas.
Literally all you need to do is set aside an extra $50 one time. Use it to advance your regular gas expense if you need to, replenish it when you get paid, and you'll never need to make extra trips to the gas station or worry about evaporation and the like ever again.
Vendetta425 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:07:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not in this position anymore, but is it too hard to imagine that $50 is a lot to set aside for someone who can't afford a full tank of gas.
It's a sad world when we can't even imagine the notion that someone might not have an extra $20 for gas or doesn't want to spend it because of a potential emergency.
Noah-R ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:34:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can totally imagine that $20 or $50 could be a lot for someone, I just canโt imagine that amount being the make-or-break point for someone who can afford to have a car and buy gas regularly.
Vendetta425 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:00:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It seems ridiculous but easily the situation many people in America face. Cycle of poverty is vicious. That's why cash advance places exist and the poor perpetually get poorer.
sharr_zeor ยท 67 points ยท Posted at 01:43:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol. I'm broke as fuck, living paycheck to paycheck. I fill up whatever I can afford but that tank hasn't been full for a long time
Food comes first
doggy_lipschtick ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 02:24:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Food definitely comes first, but this advice will save you money in the long run.
A full tank is more efficient.
Still, don't know if it's efficient enough to prioritize over the other necessities. Good luck! I can't really help you, but I have faith in you that you'll get out of this situation.
sharr_zeor ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:58:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm doing better and better as time goes on.
I'm managing to put a little money aside each month, to go toward any unexpected expenses or christmas etc, and I'm working my ass off at my job which has led to a couple of pay rises and bonuses over the few years I've worked there
I only really use the car to get to and from work though, so its no huge worry if I can't fill the tank, which is why it isn't my priority
But as long as my kids have clothes, food, and a roof over their heads, that's what matters to me.
If all goes to plan, I'll have successfully paid off one of my big debts in a couple of months which will help immensely, amd then I'll be able to start filling my car properly haha
doggy_lipschtick ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 03:15:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you. You may not hear that enough, but thank you for grinding for your family. We're all the better for it.
sharr_zeor ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:51:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That means a lot more to me than you could know. Thank you
My kids are still quite young so thankfully they don't really know that we struggle sometimes or anything like that, which is nice in a way.
They're happy. So I'm happy. :)
Thank you for your kind words
emmathegreedycat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:18:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is so wholesome
narcotique158 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:24:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why is a full tank more efficient wouldnโt it just weigh more decreasing mpg?
doggy_lipschtick ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:57:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Others explained better in the main thread, but basically the fuel is less volatile when full. More air in the tank allows for more evaporation (?).
Also, I believe cars are produced and calibrated to the weight of a full tank of gas. Too many variables otherwise. So the engineers are maximizing efficiency with the full weight of fuel accounted for.
I don't have time right now to double check this info, so don't take it as fact until you check for yourself. I'll update with some sources if I remember to find some later.
superbabe69 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:33:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs expensive to be poor. You donโt have access to the money you can spend to save money. Things like having a full tank, buying better quality shit so you have to buy less of it, buying in bulk is often difficult
If you can manage to scrounge together enough to start doing this sort of thing it can help a lot on a monthly/yearly basis. But that can be hard to manage as well.
Itโs the biggest problem with escaping poverty in the world IMO. Itโs such a trap that leaves you spending more money just so you have to spend less at a time and thus afford things.
Superfly724 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:56:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel that. My buddy's used to say it was stupid because I'm going to buy the gas eventually anyways. But if I have $30 to last until I get paid in 2 days, I'd rather put $10 in my car to get to and from work for those 2 days and have $20 left for food.
mortenmhp ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:04:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like you just need to budget.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:51:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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BaconBrownE ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:28:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
good for you i hope it works out well :)
saffir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
real talk: if you're broke as fuck, maybe you should be using mass transportation and a bike
sharr_zeor ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:32:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
These are things I have considered but they just aren't feasible for me
I work night shift, so public transportation isn't really running at the times I would need, and my journey already takes me half an hour by car, so a bike would take much longer, in the dark
I would have to wake up much earlier than I do in order to get to work on time, so I would get even less sleep than I currently do, which is an unhealthy amount at the moment
I did initially look at the costs of the local bus/trains I would need, but it worked out costing more per week than I use for fuel, and unfortunately i would get home too late to get my kids to school/nursery on time
basementdiplomat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:11:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I ride my bike to work every day, it saves about $6k a year that I'd have to spend on public transport, the 1 hour commute is about ten minutes quicker each way than it would be using the train (although I do have to take showers and get ready AT work) plus exercise!
BooBooJebus ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:49:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But I only have $3 and most of it is in dimes
MorleyDotes ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:49:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My father told me "it's as easy to keep your tank full as it is to keep it half full". I didn't understand it then but I do now. Miss you Pop!
aquotaco ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:25:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fill up every paycheck no matter where your tank is at. Some people may have to do it more often than that, but itโs nice to get paid and have that expense out of the way before it costs more a week later.
cewcewcaroo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:38:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How many people only fill up every 2 weeks though
Bio2018 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:52:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I haven't bought gas in 5 months...saying that out loud makes me think I should sell my car.
GVPN ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:30:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
wtf how?
daguito81 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:55:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not OP but maybe he's using public transportation, etc.
I personally moved to Madrid Spain earli last year and don't have a car, so I walk and use public transportation everywhere I go. It helps that Madrid is a very connected city through public trans. The bad is that it's not that cheap either . My wife and I pay about 110โฌ per month in public trans.
GVPN ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:03:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doesn't that also require you to be on time everyday?
daguito81 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:23:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Emm yeah I guess? Metro passes like every 5 minjutes in the morning and like every 7-8 minutes in the afternoon so not that much of a problem.
Besides that I try to always be on time or a bit early to everywhere I go. I personally find it disrespectful to be late to an appointment.
VigilantMike ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:55:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get payed weekly and have to fill up twice per paycheck every once in a while. I donโt drive a gas guzzler, but driving 5 cities away for morning classes, then 5 cities back in the afternoon, then driving 2 cities away to get to work takes up some gas.
cewcewcaroo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, mine is every 4 days and I don't have like, horrendous gas milage. Just driving 75 miles a day hurts lol.
AbhorAWhore ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:12:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How many people get paid bi weekly vs weekly though
Shepards_Conscience ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:27:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Right here. I know I'm just one example, but I live 5 minutes from work. And I drive a Jeep, which has all the aerodynamics of a cinder block, and about as much fuel economy.
LATER4LUS ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 03:28:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve heard this advice before, but it never made sense to me why someone wouldnโt fill the tank all the way up. Do some people have poor self control and drive more if they have a full tank? Not having money is not a reason because it literally costs the same to fill up all the way less often than to give yourself a partial tank more often.
cewcewcaroo ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 03:39:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It hurts less to spend $10 at a time than $40 all at once tbh
lightspeedx ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 03:58:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The thing is, if you have to take a detour to fill up your tank, you are spending more than $10 per trip to the gas station. And I'm not just talking about gas itself. Tires, brakes, battery, lights, and also the risk of something happening to you or your car on the way.
cewcewcaroo ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:07:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But if it's not a detour then it doesn't really matter. If I know I can find $10 rn but don't know if I can afford another $30 then I'm not gonna risk having gas but not being able to pay for whatever else. And even though going to a gas station is technically a detour even if it's along the way it'll take a looong time for that 30 ft to add up.
or you have a really sketchy car that breaks down a lot and filling it up seems wasteful when it'll end up sittingcuriouswizard ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 04:48:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Poverty Economics Lesson 101: Being Poor is Expensive
Butts_On_Fire ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:54:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shit, that actually sounds really insightful.
Do you have any other resources related to enomomics of poverty? Like online articles, ebooks, podcast episodes or YouTube videos?
skaggldrynk ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:27:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work for tips, so if I need gas but also am broke and have a bill to pay, I might get less gas now and get more gas in a few days, you feel me? Iโm always passing gas stations so the extra stop later is a negligible cost.
It makes more sense for people who get paid small amounts every day versus twice a month or whatever.
Frostfalls ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:25:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Money is a reason. For some people cash flow is a very real dilemma, and the timing of purchases matters very much.
tarahrahboom12 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:49:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me its because i want to wait for gas to go down in price. So if i spend 20 bucks on expensive gas and then fill up when its cheap then ive spent less.
holdmybeer87 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whenever I fill my tank, I swear to God gas drops 10c/L 2 days later.
I usually throw 25 bucks in unless the price drops
ModsDontLift ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 03:58:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It doesn't affect you though
LATER4LUS ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:04:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What doesnโt affect me? The advice?
Iโve lived paycheck to paycheck for several years. I just always made it a priority to put gas in the car. I knew it would hit my account right away, and I might be eating ramen and eggs for a couple days. But it meant I didnโt have to put gas in my car for almost a month. Iโve always done the same thing with car insurance: paid 6 months in full.
It isnโt always easy to do that stuff, but itโs never impossible. Even the $800 for car insurance is really only 2-3 weeks of shit pay.
ModsDontLift ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:15:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How much gas other people put in their tank doesn't affect you, obviously.
Hakaan256 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:27:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to try to put off filling up my gas because I figured "gas has been expensive recently, I'll wait for it to go down" and then when I HAVE to fill it, that's when gas is even more expensive.
fergalopolis ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:44:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was poor for a long time and I'd put fuel in >$10 at a time. Any time id have enough money and fill it up it would break down. Now that I have money I still only put it in $25 at a time because I'm superstitious
idejmcd ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:24:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Easier when you're not in highschool hahaha. I remember being like "$5 is enough".
ComfortablyOmNomNom ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:31:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You could cruise all night on 5 bucks. I pawned my cds for gas money back then lol
Verdahn ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:10:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought having less petrol in the tank meant less weight, therefore less petrol consumed as there is less to push around?
Garblin ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:33:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People don't do this?
Noukkis ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:11:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I never heard of people not doing it, I guess it's an american thing
Gsgshap ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:41:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just because you donโt do this and have never heard anyone do this doesnโt mean itโs an American thing. People say this all the time, and itโs kinda annoying. Iโve never heard of anyone do this, but I donโt automatically think itโs a European thing or an Asian thing or whatever.
Noukkis ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:25:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I assumed it because when you read this treqd it seems like a common thing and reddit is 70% american so it's not a stupid thing to do
KingNewbie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:57:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also donโt let it get below a quarter tank.
mikedelfino ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:25:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why is that?
KingNewbie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:42:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Traffic, emergency situations, not needing to get gas for a minor side trip.
mikedelfino ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:08:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, I see. I thought it was something mechanic related.
SecretPotatoChip ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:38:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is. Gas lubricates and cools the fuel pump. If gas is low, the fuel pump will run hot and eventually burn out. It's a huge pain to change that.
mikedelfino ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:50:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is there more fuel cooling the pump than actually being pumped? Honest question, I have no idea. I mean as long as there is some fuel that can be pumped isn't it enough for cooling it?
SecretPotatoChip ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:31:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The pump is submerged in gas. So in addition to the pumped gas cooing it, the gas that surrounds the pump cools it. Just pumping the fuel isn't quite enough.
mikedelfino ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:52:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Got it. Thank you.
SecretPotatoChip ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:04:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy cake day
crazydressagelady ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:39:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
.who doesnโt do that? My dad said if you have less than 3/4 of a tank you have to fill it up. I feel rebellious when it gets to 1/4 of a tank
pagliacci323 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:30:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why do people do a little at a time? Why would you wanna go to fuel up more frequently?
harleyqueenzel ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:58:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lack of money
mortenmhp ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 05:07:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Which is a terrible reason. Either you truly can't afford the amount of fuel you need(to go to work or whatever) in which case you should really reconsider your options in general, or you can and you just don't budget it properly. Splitting it does not save you money.
curiouswizard ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:58:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The logic is: I have $53 in my bank account. $10 of gas will last me until payday, and I can use $20 for food and $11 to get some toiletries that I ran out of including toilet paper and $2 to get a candy bar at the checkout because I'm hungry and sad.
So it doesn't matter that $50 will fill the tank, you just need to survive until the next paycheck, at which point you'll pay for electricity and rent (and maybe some late fees) and then squeeze out some more miles until another paycheck comes around. Rinse and repeat.
Panda50223 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:03:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because the prices fluctuate, and when it's a few weeks of being really expensive I dont want to spend 60 euros on a full tank instead of 40 a few weeks later. So i buy less for the more expensive price and wait for the price to drop.
Demetrius3D ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:44:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've found there's almost no situation where it makes sense for me to put less than five gallons in. If I get "a couple gallons to hold me until the next time I pass the cheap gas station", I always end up doing that at least once more before I make it there.
NintendoDestroyer89 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:24:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And wage war on my gas mileage??
cnc_theft_auto ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:48:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only time I don't fill up all the way is if the servo is way overcharging but I'll run out if I wait any longer. I'll get maybe a quarter of a tanks worth and then try to find a cheaper place
subm3g ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:50:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only reason I don't fill up entirely is due to watching the price cycle. If I know the price will fall in a few days, I will add a little and then fill up when cheaper.
The station I go to is on my way to work, so not going out of my way to fill up.
dicemonkey ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:54:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
the less fuel in your tank the more you run the risk of water and rust forming in it and causing all kinds of havoc
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:56:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a truck with two gas tanks...my version of this is filling them both.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:11:38 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:30:59 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Huh?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:52:18 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:15:14 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah yeah, back in the early 90s they didn't care too much about fuel efficiencies. To combat the lack in distance per fill up they just doubled the amount you could fill up! They are both 60 liters so I guess it's extra weight even when empty. Nowhere near 200 pounds however, I just replaced one last summer and it didn't weigh that much. Still, extra mass. Same with the fact that everything including the bumpers is made of steal. Vehicles used to be heavy!
StraitRogue ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:14:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True.. my grandfather told me years ago That it costs just as much to keep it full as it does to fill it from empty.
xerxerxex ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:29:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My car is currently on the side of the interstate out of gas....listen to this man. Fortunately when we started walking a nice individual picked us up. Still I gotta find a way to get gas and get to my car........
ListCrayon ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:33:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why in the world would anyone not fill up to full? ๐คจ makes sense if you maybe rarely drive the hint but for a daily vehicle thatโs weird.
OrangeCarton ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:34:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
$
ListCrayon ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:56:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I guess if money is so tight you canโt afford to fill your tank in one shot but need to do it in small parts it makes sense.
ModsDontLift ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:59:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hardly drive. When I bought my car, it had 65k miles on it. It took me 7 years to hit 100k. I can fill the tank to about 1/3 and easily go a week.
LuckyRedPanda ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:17:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah and if you filled it up, you can go 3 weeks
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ListCrayon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:16:32 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Technically yes the weight is a detriment. Itโs why track cars run with low amounts of fuel. Thatโs because even 1 second is massive on a lap. But daily driving impacts of a full tank vs low tank are gonna be negligible.
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ListCrayon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:56:36 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well think of how much the vehicle will weigh when on low tank vs full tank. A small sedan like a civic, corolla, etc hole no more than 50 litres IIRC. This can be googled. So 50L of gasoline vs say 5L of gasoline.
Apparently a litre weighs about 0.75kg. So that means 37.5kg (full tank) vs 3.75kg. It's a solid difference on a racetrack I know that much. And since physics exists of course it will affect in daily driving especially over time. But then you can offset this be looking at the amount of trips to a gas station, weigh that against the average time of human life spent filling gas, and by the end of it all, running a full tank just seems like a better decision to me lol.
frozenpyromaniac ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:28:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seems weird not to?
MrHalberd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:28:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandma always told me dont fill it up all the way unless you're going on a road trip, just in case it gets stolen. She is a paranoid woman but I get her philosophy behind it
TheUncomfySilence ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:24:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve heard a similar thing from a friend. But itโs more if you think you can fill it up, you think life is going a little too well for yourself and the universe will put you into line. He says that the few times heโs filled up all the way, he had a huge bill come his way unexpectedly.
Makes no sense logically but itโs fun to be superstitious and I just time it that I fill up once a week. That way I clean up my windshield too.
vferrero14 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:10:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't over fill it though, then you can damage evap coil and you will get a check engine light and will fail emissions testing.
iusuallylurknopost ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have this stupid irrational fear of filling my tank up because the only time I've been in an accident and totalled my car was right after filling it up.
SoulWager ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:26:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless you use the vehicle in question infrequently enough that the gas will go bad before you use it all. In that case you should be buying ethanol free fuel, and only enough to last a few months.
grizznuggets ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:28:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Genuine question: why is this good advice? Am I doing damage to my clunker by only filling it up a bit at a time?
FirstMiddleLass ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:30:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This saves time but I don't see any other advantage (unless price raises). You actually get slightly worse fuel mileage with a full tank because fuel has weight.
SamoaSnow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In college I went like 4 years never filling my truck up. When I finally started filling it up all the way, rust from the top of the tank got into the fuel system and effed all kinds of stuff up.
Sevnfold ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this anyway. But why is it better?
bigmangina ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why would you not fill it all the way up? (Other than no cash)
moonsnakejane ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:33:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nope, E stands for eventually, needle def can go past that E for a few more mile.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why?
paige-in-a-book ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you keep running your car empty it will ruin the fuel pump. Try not letting it go below quarter tank.
kaapie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:41:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So does a car with a full tank of gas not use more fuel because of the extra weight and drag?
Dreaming-of-Tomorrow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:43:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait, this isn't something everybody does anyway?
iwantdiscipline ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:43:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only time I donโt always fill it up is when Iโm on empty and I had to go to an expensive station to keep me going until I can go to the cheap place.
NinsAndPeedles ยท 129 points ยท Posted at 03:00:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pull up your socks. Literally. When youโre feeling flagged and weary and still have two hours left before you can go home, sit down, take off your shoes, and literally pull your socks up.
I belittled this forever until I tried it. Itโs actually a nice little pick-me-up
sandiota ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 22:12:46 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also fresh socks. Keep extra socks in your car and in your desk, your backpack and your purse. Putting on fresh socks is very refreshing.
deadsoul1234 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:44:29 on July 25, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Support the socks that support you. Always pull mine up.
-eDgAR- ยท 7261 points ยท Posted at 23:55:23 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wash your dishes immediately after using them.
It really helps avoid unnecessary clutter and you ending up like this
MagikarpOfDeath ยท 1758 points ยท Posted at 01:32:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why are you personally attacking me right now?
christonabike_ ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 03:09:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It needs to soak, okay? ๐ค
SoulMechanic ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 03:24:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Give yourself one plate, bowl, cup, and utensil to use for you if single. Put the rest of your dishes on the top shelf, hard to get to, and only bring out for guests.
MagikarpOfDeath ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 03:26:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm tall, I can reach the top shelf
SoulMechanic ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:49:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So can I, we adults now.
clumsycoucal ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 10:08:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't. But I have a chair.
acidfinland ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 15:49:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be carefull clumsycoucal!
SoulMechanic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:30:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take my axe, to be safe.
Diflicated ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:04:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do your dishes.
texican1911 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:49:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I saw it! Iโm a witness!
IllegalAlcoholic ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:05:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Witness No.2 here
JerkKazzaz ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:35:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He's usually always so nice too. This is a shock.
mataeka ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:45:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Isn't splash like, your only move?
MagikarpOfDeath ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:12:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's more to washing than just splashing you know
_FTP_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:24:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't forget tackle, flail, bounce (move tutor), and some event moves
Emma_JM ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:54:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah I struggle too, on a daily basis
BlueDragonGirl_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:25:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I definitely feel personally attacked.
Kambers_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:18:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me too, I feel youu
EchoGamer16 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:29:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/suicidebywords
Towel_of_Babel ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 05:58:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a box of disposable utensils?
iWillNeverBeHere ยท 691 points ยท Posted at 01:32:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I've got stuff going on the stove or something, I start washing dishes. Anything in the oven doesn't need my eye on it if there's a timer, so might as well get some of the little stuff out of the way.
Everyone in my family is always in awe of how clean the kitchen looks when I've just been the equivalent of a cooking typhoon in there.
mamajt ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 01:52:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously my wife has no idea why I get so upset that she leaves everything out when she's cooking until long after dinner. You're just standing there poking hamburger meat and stirring something! PUT AWAY THE INGREDIENTS YOU'RE DONE WITH AND THROW AWAY PACKAGING.
bhuddimaan ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 03:44:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For some people it is equivalent of "poop time reflection"
Mindlessly stir and simultaneously reflect on why is my life like this?
Just telling you to not be so harsh on "efficient way is the only way"of doing thing. Though, in this thread that context fits.
My parents are like that. And i hate it.
skaggldrynk ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:52:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs a good point :)
EnviroguyTy ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:32:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I definitely notice that I'll stand there and reflect as I stir/poke meat/etc. Definitely similar to poop time.
biologicaltypo ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:56:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had this conversation with a friend. I always take quick showers and he was surprised (I am a woman) as he said he always contemplates life in the shower. Tbh I'd rather be in bed 5 min longer than standing around in the shower but I do a lot of driving and walking around for work so I have loads of thinking time. Everyone is different.
mamajt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:55:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am actually not generally a super efficient person. We have a big clutter/hoardy problem, and when things get left out it makes it all worse and sometimes food spoils. I just don't get why it's so hard to put a lid on a jar and put it back in the fridge 3 feet away, if you're standing around anyway.
mike_d85 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:30:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not just efficiency. Pooping is passive, cooking is active. You shouldn't be daydreaming about life and philosophy you should be paying attention to the food and the environment you're making it in. By not cleaning you create a risk for food poisoning, extend the amount of time doing chores instead of doing things you enjoy (like being with your friends and family you're eating with), and not focusing leaves more room for error.
IAmSteeleBallz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:06:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes!
Saepod ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:01:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
A buddy of mine is the son of a fairly successful restaurateur. He told me once: "the secret to great cooking is to wash while you cook." My cooking improved so much from such a simple change of mindset.
hushawahka ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:16:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mise en place.
TheMeiguoren ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:02:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mise en place is different, and something I donโt really agree with. Set up what you need beforehand, sure, and err on the side of caution if itโs your first time through a recipe. But itโs going to go a lot faster if you can time out cutting up/measuring things right before you need them. Saves on dishes too, since you can reuse cutting boards and temporary holding glassware.
mike_d85 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:23:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm willing to go to bat for mise en place (you're right, it is different).
I find it helps me react to the unexpected better. Like if the recipe calls for a sliced lemon for a pan sauce I don't realize I'm out after having cooked everything else and forcing me to figure out what to do before dinner gets cold. Or if I mis-estimated the size pan I need (which happens shamefully frequently) my time to prep veggies isn't affected. Also I find having all the bowls filled with prepped stuff doesn't take all that much time to clean since nothing really cooks or dries onto them.
tripperfunster ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:36:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this when I boil water for tea. For years, I just stood there waiting ... Now I empty the dishwasher.
loljetfuel ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:08:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learned this a little growing up, but really learned it working in food service. CLEAN AS YOU GO. It saves so much time and stress at the end. Even if the clean-as-you-go is just wiping things off or rinsing them out, it makes it easier to do the dishes and such. Every bit helps.
hunter006 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:53:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this too. The place is usually cleaner when I'm done than before I started making dinner.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:02:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I do the same. No point standing there just staring at the oven for 20 minutes when there are dishes in the sink.
passa117 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:51:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been doing this for years. After a nice meal, the last thing you want is a pile of dishes, pots and pans. I also pack away left overs once food is plated, and wash those pots right away. Takes a quick second and then all that's left after a meal is the things we ate from.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:12:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"the first step in cooking is cleaning," I say. When I'm fixin' to cook the first thing I do is get a load of dishes soaking while I pre-heat the oven or cookware, melting butter, toast takes 3 minutes, eggs on, all this once the fries are nearly done; dovetail, dovetail. Presentation. There's random forks and knives dirty at the end, and that is the start of the next load of dishes, which starts at the beginning of cooking again. I am kinda organized, lol.
DullestOrphan ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:49:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use that time to open and drink beer.
arwenundomiel90 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:13:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this as well. I clean as I go and it makes cooking so easy. It also had helped to set out ingredients of stuff I'm getting ready to cook and put them back as I use them. I've saved myself the headache of realizing halfway through making something that I don't have the ingredient I need.
iWillNeverBeHere ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:50:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This this this!! I picked this up from Ro's YouTube channel, tbh. XD
mike_d85 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:16:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"If there's time to lean there's time to clean." I worked in pizza kitchens all through college and high school and it drilled into me the importance of cleaning whenever you have a free moment from work. If you don't, the end of your night is a nightmarish state where you sweep and do dishes until the wee hours of the morning. Now I can meal prep breakfast and lunch for a week and have a sparkling kitchen by the time everything is cool enough to go in the fridge.
FallenInHoops ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:37:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's the best use of downtime in the kitchen. My friends are always confused by it, but by the end of the meal they get it.
Putting your plate into an empty sink kinda drives the point home.
IntriguinglyRandom ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:37:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
YES - clean as you go, just don't get too ambitious if it's a quick stir fry or a sauce that you have to watch like a hawk haha.
DesignerChemist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:06:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you run out of clean plates you can make some more with aluminium foil.
461weavile ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:20:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look, somebody knows how to use "awe" in a written sentence. I never thought I'd see the day.
iWillNeverBeHere ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:49:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lol. probably helps that I have a Bachelor's in English and am a tutor for the subject. XD
Ivegotthatboomboom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:04:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me too! My roomate thought I never cooked for myself and my kid and would be shocked when I would tell her there was dinner in the fridge if she was hungry. I had to explain that I clean as I cook, by the time we sit down to eat I just have one or two pans and my plate to wash, which I do right after I finish eating. My four year old puts his own plate in the dishwasher immediately after too. I couldn't deal with a sink full of dirty dishes 3 times a day.
re_nonsequiturs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:39:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And this is why it makes more sense to trade off nights of doing both cooking and dishes.
obscureferences ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 02:05:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I've spent the last hour cooking I'm not going to spend another second in that kitchen when the food's ready. Get it while it's hot. You're just going to have to wash up when the crockery and cutlery is done with anyway.
skaggldrynk ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:55:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No one is saying to clean after the food is ready to be eaten, just if thereโs downtime during the cooking process. But if you have a routine that works for you then keep on keeping on!
battraman ยท 351 points ยท Posted at 01:04:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put on a YouTube video or a podcast while doing dishes. I do this with RedLetterMedia stuff. It's amazing how much it actually makes the chore that much more bearable.
IlikeJG ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:27:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wireless headphones have revolutionized chores for me. You can still hear it even over the clinking and water.
dismayhurta ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:41:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I listen to some podcast or show I know by heart during chores. They became so much more bearable.
StormTrooperQ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:52:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this with tasks at work where I typically don't have to communicate with anyone. Bluetooth noise cancelling earbuds and a very loud playlist on shuffle make me much more productive.
RobotsSuck28 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:59:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Due to my schedule I sometimes do all the dishes for the week on the weekend. It's gonna take me 40 minutes anyway, and watching YouTube with it makes the time fly by. I sometimes look forward to it now!
Star0net ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:03:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would like to add some suggestions because I do this all the time.
On YouTube, The right Opinion is a good commentary channel that is actually more open and agreeable than you'd think. I listen to him while cleaning. Want to hear a guy shit on books or praise them? KrimsonRouge, he goes into detail and is a very good reviewer. The best are his reviews of Onisons books, he absolutely destroys them and its hilarious.
Wait Wait don't tell me I'd an NPR classic and is extremely funny, Doctor Death is a great mini series about a quack doctor and the health system. I like crime podcasts so more of my suggestions are those.
madhad1121 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:33:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I listen to A LOT of podcasts and I think Dr Death is probably the scariest/most disturbing. Just thinking about what he did...and his best friend!! Ugh. Sorry, off topic, but I have to vent about it whenever someone brings it up.
Star0net ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:35:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know what you mean! I was absolutely shocked and disturbed. I almost cried listening to his friends story, it's truly heart breaking, I don't want to spoil it just in case but damn it's such a good podcast about a terrible story.
insideoutduck ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:57:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All of KrimsonRogue's 'the book was better' videos are great, I'm a fan of the Eragon one because he shares the same annoyance/disappointment as me about that terrible movie
Star0net ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:34:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was never allowed to read or see the movie so I actually haven't watched that one yet, I do agree though the same frustrations with writing he and I share.
squatwaddle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:40:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do the same. With Bill Burrs Monday Morning Podcast.
Introdictus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:17:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rich Evans is the most positive, motivating force in my life.
sezzyg ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:27:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this! I watch an episode of 600lb life or kath and Kim they are all on YouTube
throwitaway488 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:10:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this at the gym. I watch a youtube video or listen to a podcast and it makes my run go so much faster.
married4love ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:39:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this with Alan watts set to chillstep on YouTube...the music is usually low enough so that you can hear him talking and it provides stuff to think about, and his voice is just great background sound if I stop paying attention or get distracted
Skeetdeedee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:24:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Audiobooks are my shit when Iโm cleaning these days.
madhad1121 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:34:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I canโt do any type of cleaning anymore without listening to a podcast or audiobook.
yaminokaabii ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:13:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not a podcast person, but music does it for me. Especially if no one's in the house and I can practice karaoke...
dafckingman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:16:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this. It usually takes me an hour to clean the entire kitchen, that's about the length of an episode of SYSK or Stuff to blow your mind, or Foodstuff (Savor now ugh.)
xf- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:44:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm old fashioned. I just turn on the Radio.
baconnmeggs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:55:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just discovered this little tip a week ago and it's amazing how now I actually look forward to doing the dishes. Usually I watch episodes of Mystery Inc or something educational/informative
officerkondo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:52:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What wrong with your plaaaaace?
AgoraiosBum ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:41:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also so much easier to clean them when there is still moisture on the plate or pan vs calcified carbon
skaggldrynk ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:02:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes itโs infinitely harder to clean dishes with dried food! So I got in the habit of rinsing dishes immediately, at that point it only takes a few extra seconds to run some soap over them so why not. I never used to care about future me, but Iโm trying to look out for her more now. I see you, future me. I got you.
amethyst-emerald ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:35:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But I just hate doing them so much
evil_mom79 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:08:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, seriously. Every piece of cutlery I own is currently dirty.
Namika ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:09:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One trick (albeit a wasteful one) is to get some disposable utensils made from renewable resources. Like bamboo chopsticks cost just a few cents, and you can eat most meals with just chopsticks. No washing necessary, just put them in with your compost when you're done with the meal. It ends up being like just $20 a year to use two pairs of chopsticks every single day. However realistically that's kinda wasteful even if you are composting.
The more practical advice is to only own a single set of silverware. One fork, one knife, one spoon, one plate, and even just one cup. When it's dirty, you have to wash it. It's just 1 item so it's not a big deal, and since you only have 1 set you'll never end up with a bunch to wash.
bodman54 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:38:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't always wash my dishes right after I use them. But I'll always force myself to do them before I go to bed.
fistymonkey1337 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:56:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But then how will I let them soak for 3 days??
Monster-_- ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:23:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, there's no need to have 8 of every kind of dish/cup if there aren't 8 people in your household. When I had to get an apartment with my younger brother (who was notorious for never doing dishes) i just got two of everything and put everything else in storage. Two cups, two plates, two bowls, two of each utensil. Also one large frying pan, and one large and one small pot.
This also made it impossible to overfill the sink, so doing the dishes never became a daunting task.
lurkerfox ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:48:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bruh I've gotten to the point where I basically use only one of every dish. It's been so much better.
Finchalot ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:58:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also put the same type of cutlery in the same holder in the dish washer if you have one (all knives in one shot, all forks in another). You'll be grateful when it comes to putting them away again. So many people at our workplace don't do this... And it's infuriating.
hushawahka ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:17:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt all the spoons wind up...spooning and not getting clean?
Finchalot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:44:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I haven't run into that problem, haha
skaggldrynk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha spooning.
bkaybee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:59:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whoa. I honestly don't know how I've never thought to do this
mdp928 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:14:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been on a kick doing this for the past week and I feel like I could conquer the world.
MarjorineStotch ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:37:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It used to bug me how much the dishes piled up and Iโd be the only one to wash them. Didnโt realize how much more relieving it is to do this while cooking or doing immediately after eating. Itโs ended up being quite therapeutic and much more satisfying feeling to leave the kitchen clean after a meal.
My SO started noticing and has even started washing the dishes more without me having to ask. Now heโs gotten into that habit, too.
Espa89 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:18:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve seen this mentioned before and I also often see people doing dishes on TV. Donโt Americans (statistically I guess you are American) have dishwashers?
Yucares ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:54:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I only have one plate and didn't feel like washing it yesterday so I ate from a pot lid.
skaggldrynk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:06:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude
Yucares ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:11:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm also the kind of person that stirs coffee with a for or knife because I only have one spoon and it's been lying dirty in my sink for like a month or so. I wash the dishes every day anyway but I just don't feel like washing that spoon and sometimes I leave something else dirty, like that plate and then I have to improvise.
DJ_Apex ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:55:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I worked in kitchens for a lot of my early adult life. Clean as you go is basically hard wired into my psyche now and it gives me anxiety when people start cooking when there's already a huge stack of dishes.
ilicksalads ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:00:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've started doing this recently, and I feel so much better once it's done. Definitely worth the initial pain.
libertybellcurve ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:04:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My fiance does not get that, she always says doing the dishes right after using them or when stuff is cooking is pointless since there will be more anyways. However, there is no bigger struggle than trying to do dishes when the sink is full. THAT ALONE is why I do dishes immediately.
yagsuomynona ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:26:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
but food coma
I just own less dishes, they accumulate in a tolerably small pile and they all go in the dishwasher every couple of days. Only really works if you're a bachelor though
Teddy_Man ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:33:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah but then I have to use the dirty sponge that I use to clean all the things I cook my food in.
RealisticTowel ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:37:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also buy nice smelling dish soap like Mrs. Meyers or Caldrea. It helps you enjoy washing dishes. I do it for my cleaners and laundry too. Makes cleaning delightful because it smells like heaven.
am0x ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:38:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean everything when done with it. What I do. Never a mess, never time to clean up
glidingdoe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:46:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whenever all the cups in my house are dirty my roommates use mugs for water rather than cleaning a cup. It drives me crazy
GastricallyStretched ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:53:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or, if you're lazy, just rinse them straight after use. It makes cleaning them later much easier.
Murricaman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:02:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not only that the dishes are so much easier to clean immediately after use then they are after having sat for even just a few minutes
Kisua ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:18:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank's for the giggle.
jenilynne ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:19:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This was 100% me in my 20s!
nonlinearsaxophone ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:25:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm triggered. Except in college I used a measuring cup when it got desperate instead of a food processor.
Jjkkllzz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:26:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel attacked. I just got finished eating pancakes out of a cake pan. Brb, going to do my dishes.
Captain-Moroni ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:29:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey, someone drew a comic of my kids!
Darth_Leena ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:37:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take my upvote for that amazing cartoon!
kaflonk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:40:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Who makes this comic?
BlankCatOne ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:43:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Florkofcows
HKZSquared ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:56:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My god, my ex-roommates would use as many dishes as possible until I couldnโt clean the dish I wanted to use until after I had cleared the sink of all the ones they had already used to get to the one I was looking for.
I miss making enough money to safely spend $3.24-$4.78 (depending on my order) on one meal a day at a โfamous Taco Place, that perhaps should have something to ring every hour or so... perhaps like a bell?โ ...that said, I like my homemade tacos more, now, so fakkโem lol
hogue9733 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:02:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can't wash them, at least rinse them off right away
dafckingman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:15:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh my fuck Yes. I've drank out of a plate like a cat because I didn't have any clean cups left before.
KeenanAXQuinn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:21:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This might be to late to add but if you have a dishwasher Know How To Use It.
Three things.
You CAN put you dishes in with all small (no large chunks) food stuffs still on them (even crusted on)
Now-a-days dishwashers run on CHEMICAL clean not water pressure or scrubbing or anything else you think is going on in there. The best thing to use is pods because the manufacturer knows how much detergent is needed for a load of dishes (instead of you guessing what's enough)
ALWAYS run your tap to hot before starting the washer. The chemicals need two things to activated fully HEAT and FOOD.
Bonus: if you ever foam out you fish washer just use some coffee creamer and itll take care of itself.
Edit: came back to say that if your are washing by hand you'll basically be wasting water by then putting the dishes in the machine. It's there to do all of the hard work for you.
moose256 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:44:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always did that cause I didn't want to do it later and I don't want my roommates complaining about it. I wish my roommates thought the same way.
okaymoose ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:45:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For real though.......
eleanor_dashwood ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:01:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bonus: itโs so much easier before everything congeals! Also rinse the baked bean tin as soon as you empty it.
bigassdotcom ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:01:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To add to the solution of this, only have as many plates/cutlery/cups etc as there are people in the house. Put the rest away for when you have guests. That way, the dishwashing is minimised and so much easier.
IceeIvy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:36:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If only my siblings know how to clean their own dishes after using plates n forks. Itโs always a never ending pile for me to clean
Buffalo__Buffalo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:18:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If people are really struggling with this situation, especially bachelors or people with roommates, you can step it up and try the "just one" method:
Pick out your favorite mug, a good glass which is a decent size, one dinner plate, one side plate, a soup bowl, a cereal bowl (if you're a cereal-eater), one of each piece of cutlery. (Two chopstick if you want to nitpick me on this, you smartasses.)
It works even better if they are different to the rest of your set. Go to a thrift shop and pick out something cool or interesting if you like.
That's it. That is all you are going to use from here on, except under unusual situations like a dinner party or hosting guests.
Soon, you will get into the habit of returning your "just one" set to the sink when you're done with it because it's more convenient for you. You'll probably give your side plate a quick clean while you're waiting for your toast and things like that.
A little later you'll probably start finding that you clean up your "just one" set once you're done with them and you'll leave them on the rack to dry and await your next use of them. If you have fussy people in the house then stake out a small place for your "just one" set to live.
Some tips to help:
Have a dish brush on hand at the sink to help with cleaning up as you go.
You can get a small spray bottle and put a squirt of dishwashing liquid mixed with water by the sink. Just spray your dish down, scrub, and rinse or (if you're feeling lazy) spray and soak so it's ready to be cleaned later.
Don't use a huge bottle; this mix doesn't last forever. Try to have a turnaround of a week or less with the mixture, so use a small bottle to ensure that you aren't "cleaning" dishes with month-old dishwater which probably is more unhygienic than your dishes are.
If you live in a sharehouse or whatever and leaving your dishes in the drying rack means that people will use your stuff or tell you off, get a small container with high sides and put a dish drying mat in the bottom. Put your "just one" set in that. Maybe leave the container in your room or somewhere else out of the way.
Roman_von_Cassow ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:59:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wise advice
shaka_bruh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:18:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
or have just two of everything so you have no choice but to do your dishes if you don't want to eat off a crusty plate
Sounder10 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:22:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice try MOM!
MyOtherAcctsAPorsche ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:32:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, I see a guy being happy and solving his problems, and another meddling into other's affairs and worrying about a cup. The lesson of the story is clear.
Aether-Ore ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:58:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My current apartment has the drying rack inside the cabinet, two wire shelves with a plastic catch pan on the bottom. Saves the visual clutter as they dry and saves a step of having to put dishes away. Brilliant!
klassykitty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:04:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt know why, but I feel like I always end up seeing most of your posts around.
Just wanted to say thanks for sharing, you seem like a cool dude.
thespaceghetto ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:34:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My first step when cooking is always to fill one sink with some hot soapy water. That way it's super fast to just turn to the sink, wash and rinse whatever items you're done with and you'll likely have some soap water leftover at the end of the meal for the rest
smidgit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:36:06 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mum only let me bake stuff as a kid if I cleaned as I went, but I wasn't allowed to do the dishwasher, everything must be cleaned by hand. I still clean as I go now, 15 years later, and my kitchen is a happy place to be even if I've been knocking up a 3-course meal with numerous parts.
It's ironic, really, because my mum is shit at that kind of thing, she'll leave her cooking utensils and pots out and crusted in food until she's good and ready to clean up (usually a few hours after she's eaten)
ADHD-Mastermind ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:19:41 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Could you tell this to my roommates
pupperjax ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:29:10 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know this is days late but I have to comment. During my first read through I thought you said dildos. Not dishes.
ThreeLeggedTranny ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:08:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just went to disposable only. Aside from the pot/pan used to cook with, Im off dishes.
Namika ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:10:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same, bamboo chopsticks are just pennies and they can be composted afterwards so it's not even going to a landfill. I'll gladly pay a few cents a day for disposable chopsticks and never have to wash shit.
Unfortunatly cups are still moderatly expensive in the long run, and incredibly wasteful since they are usually plastic. So I'm stuck having to wash cups. Not having to wash utensils is a godsend though.
did-it-for-the-KARMA ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:42:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's our man edgar, back at it again.
GladAnalyst ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:35:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's also easier to clean if you do them right away.
Raaqu ยท 24850 points ยท Posted at 22:51:09 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Faking confidence to become more confident.
Edit: thanks for the gold and the silver kind strangers.
Gmen9256 ยท 7449 points ยท Posted at 00:18:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I 100% agree with this but where I have seen people go wrong with this is thinking that exuding confidence = being an asshole. There is a very major distinction between them.
Raaqu ยท 1863 points ยท Posted at 00:30:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't even think about that. I've seen quite a bit of that too. I'm not sure how to explain the line between the two well, though.
AnatomicalHeart ยท 4929 points ยท Posted at 01:34:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confidence is trusting that you are as good as everyone else.
Assholery is believing you are better than everyone else.
guardiansolis ยท 504 points ยท Posted at 02:00:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confidence is about knowing you are the best you can be and not giving a fuck about how good other people are.
victornielsendane ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 06:08:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you are confident, other people's happiness/confidence/success will never affect you negatively, because you know that you are doing fine regardless of what they are doing.
secret759 ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 05:37:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's more about knowing that you're the shit, but understanding that everyone else is the shit too.
Bones_MD ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 07:58:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This requires other people being the shit for real tho.
Confidence is definitely a โI know Iโm the shit, and I donโt care what anyone else is unless they prove theyโre as good as meโข
[deleted] ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 08:32:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry bud, bad news. You're describing assholery not confidence.
Bones_MD ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:03:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโd argue the difference is in how you express that. If you still respect people, donโt treat them like shit, regardless of how you feel about their skills and abilities, youโre not an asshole.
IAmCortney ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 18:23:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think it's more that you should flip the second half, and say you don't care what anyone else is unless they prove they're a bad person, in which case forget them and move on with your confident self.
howverysmooth ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 05:22:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is a thin line between this and assholeness.
tubbana ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 06:31:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*Assholery. It was created above.
Hamstersparadise ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:21:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
assholeage
tragedyinwisco ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:26:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It sucks when coworkers are incompetent though ๐๐
Whales96 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:18:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You need to have bad employees for there to be good ones. They only exist in comparison.
blasto_blastocyst ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:42:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make them better then.
tragedyinwisco ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:43:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've tried. I've always been a "lead by example" type but no one wants to follow. Thankfully I got a new job lined up that I start next week!
vbullinger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:15:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the correct definition, IMHO. You are confident in your capabilities. Others may be as good or better than you, but you don't care because you're putting your best foot forward and you know you can do it.
Malak77 ยท -27 points ยท Posted at 02:55:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Along the same lines, never worry about how much a coworker makes. It will do nothing but cause problems. Just worry about yourself!
guardiansolis ยท 98 points ยท Posted at 03:00:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually, I disagree with this. If no one knows how much everyone else is being paid they don't know how much they are worth and maybe getting fucked by their employer
Niku-Man ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 03:11:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, fair and transparent pay makes a company run better. But it requires a competent and confident manager who can explain to people why someone else is worth more
jay212127 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:03:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I work for the military, if you tell someone you've been a Corporal for 2 years, or that you just got promoted to Captain they will know exactly how much you make. Perfect transparency, near zero favouritism.
I get an extra allowance that my coworker does not which at the end of the day probably gives me about $200 more than him a month. We have a pretty good working relationship but it does bug him as he brings it up every now and then. There's nothing that any of us can do about it but him bringing it up creates unneeded friction.
Malak77 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:20:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
And this proves my point. It causes him issues just knowing that.
jay212127 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:40:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I agreed with you, surprised so many else didn't.
SirDukeIII ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 02:36:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The real useless piece of advice is always in the comments
jamesfpants ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:15:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Useful right?
anotoman123 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:31:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
nop. The point of confidence is knowing you can offer something others can't. The actual fine line between confidence and assholery is whether or not you step on others or pull them up along the way to the top.
jamesfpants ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:42:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't think confidence can be described as 'being able to offer something someone else can't'. If I'd follow this rule I would be confident a lot less of the time. Take learning a second language for example. I'll never speak it like a native, but when I do I'll do it with confidence.
In my mind confidence is believing in yourself that you aren't any less than others. E.g. you can do things just as well as everyone else.
I might even go as far as to say that comparison doesn't play a role in confidence. Just believing that you can do good is in my opinion the basic of being confident.
anotoman123 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:49:58 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My bad. Confidence by definition is being "sure". E.g. you can be confident that you're useless.
I confused confidence with pride. Confidence takes root from prior experience and your assessment in the subject/skill. Confidence is bad and turns you into an asshole when you are steadfast in a belief in a way that blinds you to other factors, especially other people's opinions.
blasto_blastocyst ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:44:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confidence is judging yourself, not on how you think others will judge you.
jamesfpants ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:50:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly.
NahDawgDatAintMe ยท 59 points ยท Posted at 02:04:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But sometimes you are better than someone else. You become an ass when you start demeaning other people because you are better.
998757748 ยท 71 points ยท Posted at 02:16:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
being better AT something doesn't make you a better person than anyone else
TheNimbleBanana ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:31:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
but if someone think they're better than someone and ergo is an asshole and I think I'm better than the asshole by virtue of not thinking I'm better than anyone else do I suddenly become an asshole for thinking I'm better than the asshole?????????????
I_have_Rockstar_Hair ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 03:00:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You just acknowledge the asshole, and be a better human. If the asshole challenges you and your virtue, do not become an equal asshole to show them youโre better. Remember to be humble. You do not know what has made them the asshole they are in their walk of life. Perhaps they donโt even realize. If they wonโt take your hand in friendship and equality, shake the dirt from your sandals and walk away. Remember them in your prayers and donโt anger yourself trying to change them or reach them. Arguing to make your point to them probably wonโt be heard. Let a higher source reach them. Leave it in the universes hands.
skeeeee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:40:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can understand that the path they are on is not as good as the more virtuous one that you are on and feel sorry for them that they are bringing the negativity of assholeness into their life without placing yourself above them. It's a lot harder than just calling them an asshole and moving on though lol
Whales96 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:22:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The trick is to not take part in the one upmanship at all. Be better than someone else at a thing, but realize that better only exists because of the comparison. Someone has to be at the bottom of the list, every time.
Could you ever truly think or accept that every single person is important? From the best, most effective employee to the rudest, pettiest, most difficult manager in the place?
logangrey123 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:56:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No you just confuse yourself.
Niku-Man ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:12:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meh, some things it does
hmd27 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:17:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The thing to remember is no matter how great you think you are, one needs to be able to talk to everyone the same, and treat everyone the same, regardless of if it's the clerk behind the counter, school janitor, CEO of a company, doctor, etc. Treat everyone equally and with respect.
terminbee ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:56:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think that's going away from confidence and moving towards respect. Shy people don't treat others badly because they're in a lower position. Insecure people might though.
hmd27 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:15:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not depending on how you carry yourself. We've all met the confident guy that always has time to say hello to everyone. Not just respectful but genuine. It's the "never met a stranger" personality.
terminbee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:35:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I keep saying I'll do this but then I get tired of doing it. Sometimes people want to talk but I just don't want to. My friends feel the need to go clubbing and party but I'd be happy just playing games at home. I do enjoy parties but I've never felt the NEED for social interaction.
hmd27 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:51:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I relate. I'm very outgoing, and only because I force myself. I take my downtime, and I run hot and cold on socializing. I prefer to just be home, reading, watching movies, and doing my thing.
I push myself to have dinners every week, or to go to friend's homes. I'm too old for clubs, and I rarely go to bars anymore. I wish I would have been like this when I was around 26-38. I remember a time when not going out at night felt like something was missing. I don't know how the hell I did it for so long.
Jackie_Rompana ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:31:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy cake day!
hmd27 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:17:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well honk my hooters! There is no alert on my cellphone! Thanks for the wishes! I had no clue it was my reddit cake day!
Theycallmelizardboy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:26:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unfortunately, lots of people suck. Lot of great ones too, but the shitty ones outweigh the good ones in my experience.
AmbroseMalachai ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:25:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd say confidence is walking into a room and believing that everyone likes you. Being an asshole is walking into a room thinking that everyone should like you.
mnmacaro ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:55:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confidence isnโt walking into a room and comparing yourself to everyone else. Confidence is walking in a room and knowing you donโt have to.
Theycallmelizardboy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:28:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confidence is realizing the best version of yourself at any point in time.
ThatSquareChick ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:28:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My husband was the first person I think Iโve ever met with true confidence. Heโs willing to learn new things but the things he knows, he doesnโt do until he can do well. He wonโt join a conversation until heโs sure about what heโs saying and wonโt attempt to do something seriously without tons of practice. So, heโs very confident in his current self, his current self is exactly how he likes it and isnโt offensive to 90% of the world and so that makes me want to like him too. If he has that much fun liking himself and is t an asshole, I want to like him too.
terminbee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:08:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm the opposite. I have a small amount of knowledge on a lot of topics but I was never really a confident person. After some time I've managed to make it seem like I might but I'm still not down to dance in public or something.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:52:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, I was raised that you're no different from anyone else. You're not better or worse. People are people
Theycallmelizardboy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:32:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean I would say treating people equally is an important moral virtue to uphold, but the truth is more complicated than that. I mean, woukd you say Jeffrey Dahmer and Terry Crews aren't different people?
Some people suck and are going to be shitty until they are dead for whatever reason. Some are amazing.
nostril_extension ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:48:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's an impossible though to have. This implies that you think that everyone else is equal. If you are as good as Suzy who's better than Nathan then how can you be as good as both of them?
If you're as good as Suzy you're obviously better than Nathan.
No person thinks that everyone they know is doing equally well.
Koovin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:14:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you measure how good someone is?
nostril_extension ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:30:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's irrelevant how you measure it, it's only important that everyone does it.
Cpont ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:51:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't like that because it's a difference in mindset, not behavior.
mp3max ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:05:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You need a different mindset to change your behaviour.
Cpont ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Obviously, but talking about lacking confidence out of fear of being an asshole
IllegalAlcoholic ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:02:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mindset can reflect behaviors
[deleted] ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:01:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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Polar_Reflection ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:17:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
meh, you don't have to believe you're the best to be confident imo
Violent_Milk ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:43:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Those are both assholery.
Cpont ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:54:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, that makes much more sense
-Mountain-King- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:52:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Similarly, patriotism is believing that your country is great, nationalism is believe that your country is better than others.
Itscommonsensebro ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:39:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes but what if your intentions are good and you actually are better than everyone else?
Nitre003on ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:44:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can still be confident while thinking you are better than most. You just dont have to show it the way an asshole would.
razydreams ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:44:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Confidence is believing your worth but itโs hard to fake if you feel like piece of shit all the time though
santlaurentdon ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:14:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're only as good as everyone else, then you're only average though.
TheVioletLily ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:20:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm pretty sure he means acknowledging that everyone has different strengths and weaknesses and that no one is better or worse for it.
_FTP_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:11:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone wants to be above average, but this is impossible.
Gibbenz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:26:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude, this is the realest comment ever. I wish I could've given you gold for this.
jseego ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:30:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well said
superjar30 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:02:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But if youโre competing for something confidence isnโt being as good as the other people, itโs thinking that youโre better than the competition.
Cameltotem ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:04:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Uhm no? Confidence is knowing your above but you dont need to show it to anyone, your just humble and looked up to
Stonelocomotief ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Assholery is walking into a room and thinking you are better than everyone else there. Confidence is knowing you will be fine if youโre not.
Bstew278 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:18:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like to keep myself grounded. Iโm still a piece of shit everyone else is just slightly larger pieces of shit.
EroticBulbasaur ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:27:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TIL I'm an asshole
esketitskit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:29:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But what if you know you are :/
goatpunchtheater ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:50:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To me, confidence is a by product of resilience. You don't even have to be good at something. If you show that failing didn't affect your overall well being very much, that comes across as confidence. It's a lack of insecurity, self doubt, and/or second guessing
youhavebeenindicted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:14:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another one that means the same but said differently I like is: Cockiness is knowing you'll get the girl, confidence is not caring if you do.
TooneyLoonnz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:28:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. This needs to be understood and practiced.
Pakislav ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:05:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People aren't necessarily being assholes when they make you feel inferior.
sprouting_broccoli ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:49:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Close but I define it as:
Confidence is knowing you are probably equal or better to or equally or more informed than everyone else in the room.
Projected confidence is picturing how a confident person would appear and mirroring that while being willing to concede that you're wrong.
Assholery/arrogance is refusing to entertain the thought that there's someone better or that you could make a mistake.
I know that I'm probably better than most people in the office at chess so I play confidently, but if I play dangerously and arrogantly under the assumption noone is better than me, eventually I'll lose because there will be someone better than me.
Similarly in meetings or presentations there are areas where I am the subject matter expert because I know more than the people in the room - this is factually accurate, but that doesn't mean the others there can't contribute or spot mistakes I make - to assume that would be arrogant.
Arrogance can also work out but it's riskier. Having arrogance when pushing a business idea can force others to take you seriously when you're dogmatic that it will be the best and it will succeed, although those who are arrogant and don't succeed topically fade into history.
Theycallmelizardboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:24:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn, that is a very accurate description.
Zambeezi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:29:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What about knowing you're not better than anyone, but also knowing you're better than some?
WarriorsWithThe3-1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:58:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confidence is knowing how good you are and not bragging about it. Assholery is thinking that everybody around you is bad and that you need to point out how much better you are,even if you're not.
evilpeter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:13:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt necessarily agree with this. If youโre successful or skilled at something, you are necessarily and by definition better than others at it. I think the distinction is being insecure about this and going out of your way to โproveโ to everybody else that youโre better than them.
I think this is where truly exceptional people shine- by being humble and giving credit to everybody else. Take Wayne Gretzky for example- in every interview heโs ever given he attributes his success to his teammates. come on- it would take some serious lack of self-awareness on his part to not recognize that he is clearly the best hockey player to have ever lived. But heโs not an asshole. Not because he doesnโt think heโs better than everybody else- but because he never rubbed it in everybodyโs face.
Then you have seemingly opposite examples like Mohammed Ali. he went out of his way to point out that he was better than everybody else - but still not an asshole. paradoxically- he did it in a loveable way. here, I think the distinction is that he never said negative things or resorted to personal insults against his opponents other than in a playful manner- and even then he would almost always focus on himself (Iโm am the greatest) as opposed to focusing on the opponent (never would he say something like โhe sucksโ- rather heโd say things with a smile like โI feel sorry for him having to face meโ, which still has a flavour of respect in it).
To me, being an asshole is simply putting others down. You can most certainly think youโre better than everybody else and it might be true but itโs picking on others that is assholery- and this is particularly true when you ARE better than everybody else because then it counts as picking on somebody weaker than you.
staledumpling ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:18:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you know most people are incompetent, you better believe you're better than them if you are confident.
Otherwise it just doesn't work.
CurryThighs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:53:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The line is between knowing you have just as much value as everyone else and having to prove you are. Confident people don't spend all their time proving how confident they are. Take the back seat once in a while.
MeAnIntellectual_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:24:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fam, thank you
Brookenium ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:35:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confidence is knowing you're the best. Assholery is trying to convince everyone that you're the better than everyone else.
RelativeStranger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:29:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is not it like. Confidence us knowing what you're good at. Assholery is believing that others are stupid for not being that good. I'm confident I'm better at accounts software than everyone in my office. I also know who to go ask with the difficult vatvquestion. And because I show and don't treat people like idiots when they ask about accountancy software they do the same when I ask questions. But I'm still better at the software, it's not being an arsehole to know that
fradd13 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:42:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
someone call Oxford
DancingPianos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not sure I agree with this.
Im more inclined to say that confidence is knowing that you're better than average.
Arrogance is constantly making sure to let people know.
blindsniperx ยท 378 points ยท Posted at 01:25:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being confident is being 100% sure of what you think.
Being an asshole is being 100% sure of what others think.
sloppybuttmustard ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:52:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah? Well thatโs just like, your opinion, man.
MailmetotheMoon ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:53:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
being confident is actimwithout fear, being an asshole is acting without consideration, being brave is acting despite fear
rtj777 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:41:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True, though you can still be an asshole and self assured.
Knowing you have full control over your actions and how they affect other people is a great next step. Although personally I don't think there are "good" and "bad" things and that morals should be decided in the moment, based on logic.
Seven_Xilents ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:33:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I almost always think I know what others think, mostly because I have really bad social anxiety and self esteem issues so I end up thinking others must be judging me in a, "he's so fucking awkward" kind of way. I'm highly critical of myself.. It's crippling but I don't know how to stop doing it.
vivek1hk ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:48:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practice talking to strangers and try to be as genuine as possible with them. Tell your mind that a stranger has no reason to judge you, that person barely knows you. Happy cake day!
Seven_Xilents ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:52:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you :)
TheCylonsAreHere ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:02:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love this one, thanks!
mrducci ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:21:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having an opinion v being opinionated.
WinterOfFire ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:28:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True experts know that they donโt know everything. But they know enough to get the job done.
Assholes think they know it all.
kitsunevremya ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:44:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Emilia Clarke is a great example of... well, kind of the perfect person tbh. She's utterly charming and charismatic to boot and a huge part of that is she's confident without bing an asshole. She definitely comes across as being sure of herself, but not ever at the expense of others.
IllegalAlcoholic ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:03:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
More clarification?
logangrey123 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:58:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe not so perfect in her acting though. She has three emotions, stern, slight shock, and anger. Even her sobbing doesnt sound real.
BeatnikConspiracy ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 02:22:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
With this reasoning I must be an asshole, but I'm an asshole who ends up being proven right when I call out what other people are up to.
ijizz ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:12:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt like all these other definitions so Iโll write what made the most sense to me.
Being confident is believing that you have the capability to do it.
Being cocky is believing you will never fail.
plaj ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:42:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confidence is the food of the wise man, but the liquor of the fool
SilkSk1 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:47:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confident = "I am/can do this better."
Asshole = "I am/can do this better than you."
Smugcrab ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:38:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're being an asshole to exude confidence it's because you're trying to convince other people you're confident. A truly confident person doesn't care how others perceive them.
WarmerClimates ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:59:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"I can do this!"
vs
"I can do this BETTER THAN YOU!"
LastBaron ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:02:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confident: "I am smart and capable."
Asshole: "I am smarter and more capable than you."
catchinthevibe_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:24:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confidence = Knowing you'll be okay if you don't get what you want
Arrogance = Assuming you'll get everything you want
demalition90 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:50:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a very subtle line, but anecdotally I think confidence is more "I am good at things and I look good and I'm comfortable" and being a dick is "I'm better than others, I'm more attractive than you, and I'm going to make you uncomfortable"
Um__Actually ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:20:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confidence is the practice of staying true to what's inside you, and letting that out for the world to see.
When what comes out is shit, you've got yourself an asshole.
NixyVixy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:02:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is how your explain the difference between the two... https://youtu.be/kVQEGHoqE9g
PickyPanda ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:51:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confidence isn't having everyone always like you; it's being okay if they don't.
mikerichh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:56:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I guess being energetic/excitable instead of arrogant or demanding
gtrmtx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:58:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cockiness != confidence
everythingsleeps ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:07:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One of my professors described it perfectly: be confident and knowledgeable without being arrogant.
Difficult for some
probation_420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:41:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think asshole-ish thoughts all the time.
"I bet I could do that better."
"You obviously approached it wrong."
I just don't say them out loud. Boom, instant cure for being a douche.
cttttt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:50:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True confidence is a contagion that spreads through mentoring, coaching, trust, and sharing. It both amplifies and is amplified by like company.
Assholery is a parasite that consumes lives slowly and individually. It protects its host by offending others, and in so doing starves itself.
Semantiks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:13:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Humble in victory, gracious in defeat."
I feel like this was the biggest internalization that made me feel less like an asshole. When I win, I don't boast. When I lose, I don't whine or make excuses. (or at least I try)
dactyif ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:31:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just talk to people like I've known them my entire life. My tables absolutely love me at the bar I work at.
NotSoSubtle1247 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:35:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You cross the line when when your confidence outweighs your respect for others around you.
Abell370 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:28:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confidence is knowing that it's alright to fail.
Arrogance is thinking you'll never fail.
joshi38 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:17:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confident people smack a jukebox knowing it will turn on.
Assholes jump over sharks on water skis.
IONaut ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:26:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People tend to confuse "Commanding Respect" with "Demanding Respect."
Cameltotem ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:03:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confidence = don draper
Cocky= guy from suits
convolvulusflowers ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 01:35:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup. That, and that in being actually confident, some people recognize it as just being confidence, and others just think you're just an arrogant bitch. So, while there is a line between them, it clearly either varies between individuals, or individuals change the line because they don't like you.
BerkShtHouse ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:35:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Real confidence, or even faking real confidence enables you to elevate the people around you. It's in being so secure with oneself that you are able to recognize the talents, attributes, and beauty in others. Especially, without feeling that you somehow don't measure up.
It creates an atmosphere where people seek you out. Obviously, constantly showering your peers with compliments will completely diminish the value of a compliment, so there has to be a happy medium. Like that "Wrinkle in Time" movie.
JitteryBug ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:07:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Weirdly I find that what works best for me is visualizing "dialing down" my own feelings of hyper-awareness
Like turning a knob on all of my internal noise
When I remember to do this, it works because I'm just at peace with myself and the rest happens naturally, rather than actively trying to be anything
ToTiffinityAndBeyond ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:46:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like to simplify it to confidence without cockiness. Being confident is sexy, but putting off the vibe of 'knowing' you are better then others (whether it's true or not) is not a positive quality.
KingGorilla ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:21:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spongebob taught me to be aggressively nice.
Rimbosity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:59:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've experienced both of these. I used to fake self-esteem; the result was arrogance. But having self-esteem isn't about having something you didn't have before. It's about giving up the insecurities you have. We're born with self-esteem.
On the other hand, playing the game like you've already won does help you to win.
MustB4TheKilo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:21:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do I stop being an ass hole, I'm pretty sure my confidence comes across as being cocky or rude but I'm not really sure on how I can change this
waiting4op2deliver ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:48:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Plot twist, they are only 25% in agreement
Philosopher_1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:04:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean my brother is a confident asshole
gandlen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:07:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you think youโre just as good as everyone else, youโre confident. When you think youโre better than everyone else, youโre an asshole.
BurneyXM ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I disagree that there's a major distinction (to them). The asshole portion is typically related to arrogance and in my opinion there is a fine line between arrogance and confidence that takes time to learn how to walk.
expresidentmasks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:42:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some of us are both confident and an asshole.
Lewan72 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:57:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Arrogance is thinking everyone should like you/agree with you.
Confidence is being okay if they don't.
Monstermage ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:03:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree with this as well as over confident is an issue. If you don't know how to fly a plane, simply don't..
sussinmysussness ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:11:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
maybe the assholes who try to be confident just look like assholes because they are.
onewilybobkat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:20:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The way I've always explained it is "Act like I know what I'm doing" and it works amazingly well
kea5223 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Difference between walking with your chin up and walking with your nose in the air.
dropEleven ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:43:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is why I unsubscribed from /r/howtonotgiveafuck. I donโt know what itโs like in there now, but it just got frustrating to read. You should absolutely care if everyone thinks youโre a jerk.
wtph ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't you know that real alpha men use all their strength in their handshakes that betas just hand their testosterone over in fear?
ebbomega ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:42:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The key there is understanding the difference between confidence and arrogance.
lIamachemist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:03:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
PREACH SISTER
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:24:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find that real confidence is the most attractive trait in a person, and arrogance is the biggest turn-off.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:42:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some people are also arseholes already and just show more of that as they get more confident. I speak from experience.
sweetmyassfish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:45:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried that and I think I crossed the line into assholery.
SplitArrow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:30:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exude confidence! Holy shit I have been doing it wrong. I thought it was extrude confidence. That explains why I have been shitting on everything.
Ishouldnt_haveposted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:36:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've always associated assholiness as incredible insecurity & lack of confidence. No one has come from a position of confidence and attacked someone elses self-esteem.
saggyeggy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:38:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Especiallly when it's still noticable they're still insecure. Bothers me a lot
brashalex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:53:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find this is where you can call the bluff of the fakers. People who have real confidence won't need to rub it in other's faces to get approval
BravestCashew ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:32:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem is, they hold these unrealistic expectations of what confidence is and believe that they just have to sound like theyโre tough and anything they do is suddenly correct, when in reality confidence is just making decisions, believing in those decisions and yourself, and following through on those decisions completely.
Trust me, I used to think confident people were assholes just because they were โluckierโ than me. Now Iโm pretty sure people who are similar to who I used to be see me as the same kind of person as the people I used to be irrationally bitter at (it wasnโt actually bad, more like I just had that โthis is unfairโ mentality until I realized I was the only one limiting myself).
Nateinthe90s ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:22:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I think a lot of people without "real" confidence think being arrogant or showing off is the same thing as being confident.
Sysiphus_Love ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:33:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In order to successfully toe that line a basic respect for other people is a prerequisite.
mynamesnotmolly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:48:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being an asshole is the opposite of confidence, usually. Especially in this context.
If youโre actively trying the โfake it til you make itโ method for confidence, but youโre being an asshole instead, youโre probably acting more insecure than if you didnโt try to fake it in the first place.
Itโs really hard for people to realize theyโre doing that, though.
NauticalFork ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:58:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think it's because in most observations, people tend to note that confident people are either legitimately awesome, or act like asses. Since I'm not legitimately awesome, the only options are to have no confidence or be an ass.
KingGorilla ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:20:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What helped me avoid being an asshole but still wanting to exude confidence is to act like a good host even if it's not my own home. Be hospitable, attentive and entertaining. Might have to tweak it for professional settings.
chipotlemcnuggies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:26:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You've described every nice guy ever. They think girls wanting to be with confident guys = girls like assholes.
nastymcoutplay ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 01:38:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being an asshole> having no confidence
punriffer5 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:55:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sure, but the two groups probably don't overlap much. People that are too shy in life and need to find confidence don't generally go straight to the ahole side I wouldn't think.
Gmen9256 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:57:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโd disagree, I think they are exactly the type of people who try to over correct and move into the asshole phase.
I knew a guy who was a late bloomer, at 18 he looked 12, by 19 he looked his age, got into the gym and became a great looking guy.
He went from shy and reserved to a total asshole. He felt the need to put down everyone around him, try to show people how strong he was and became generally unlikable.
smaug777000 ยท 1374 points ยท Posted at 01:32:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smile, make eye contact, introduce yourself, push yourself a little bit. For me it was like jumping into a pool, you get used to the temperature more quickly and painlessly than if you take the stairs
LaitdePoule999 ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 03:04:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do exposure therapy with people with anxiety (itโs super effective, btw), but I love this analogy for doing things that youโre scared of/dreading! Thank you, Iโm going to steal this :)
ItsMeChad99 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:39:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What is exposure therapy?
LaitdePoule999 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:58:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a form of therapy in which the client and therapist work together to come up with situations or things that provoke anxiety for the client. Then, you work on systematically and intentionally exposing the client to those situations with the goal of making them anxious (knowing that the anxiety will come down). It's the most consistently effective first-line treatment for any anxiety-related problems so long as it's done intentionally and correctly.
It works on the principle of conditioning: a person with anxiety generally has a mental connection between "feared situation/thing" (example: dogs) and "danger/catastrophe" that produces the fear response (tension, heart racing, breathing fast, etc.). By having the client repeatedly confront the feared thing and see that the result isn't dangerous or catastrophic, that association gets much weaker. Over time, the brain/body stop producing the fear/anxiety response (or much much less of it). An added bonus is that the client starts to see that they can do a lot more than they think they can - even if you do it scared, you're still doing it!
If anyone is interested in doing it - look for therapists that have expertise in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). It's a core part of the therapy (though not the only part).
ItsMeChad99 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:27:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So I have extreme anxiety before and during exams. By doing exposure therapy I am exposed to the exam environment to bring down the anxiety? Is that correct, so would this fall in line with practice makes better?
LaitdePoule999 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:51:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ideally, you would want a therapist to guide you through to process bc there's a particular way to making it most effective & each person has a different constellation of feared situations. There are also workbooks you can buy to help guide you through it (the Treatments that Work series is a good, research-based option). This is generally what's done:
First, the therapist helps the client identify if it's just exams that make them anxious, or if it's generally about being evaluated. Second, the therapist/client would make a hierarchy of situations that make the client anxious, going from 1 (very low intensity) to 10 (the most anxiety you can imagine).
Third, the therapist helps the client practice some healthy coping skills (like progressive muscle relaxation and "belly" breathing) that bring down the intensity of anxiety as they go into the exposure situations. The therapist and client might also identify together what they client is thinking about the exam that makes it so scary and evaluate how likely or unlikely those feared outcomes are.
Finally, the therapist walks the client through "exposure" exercises where they face those feared situations in a specific order (working up from the bottom of the hierarchy toward the top), then (and this is important) debrief with the therapist about each exposure afterward. It's important to recognize that through exposure, people have done a really important (and fucking hard) thing for improving their own health, even if it didn't go "perfectly". So it's similar to "practice makes better," but also greater than that!
poopjustpoopthatsall ยท 72 points ยท Posted at 02:45:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I panicked just reading this.
KobayashiDragonSlave ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:01:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same, dude
LongestNeck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:54:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And me
Lskdidit ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:38:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is me now, I used to talk with my small group, now Iโm the guy to talk to at work, and i talk with random people all the time because I did this. Never have to worry about not having friends because of this.
Aeolun ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 04:49:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can do all of these things, but theyโll never not be exhausting to me.
LongestNeck ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:55:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Until you have a total mind blank and canโt think of anything to say
miss_memologist ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:41:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have social anxiety and used to be really afraid of water.
I learned to swim in the past two years, and did a lot of things including talking to strangers on numerous occasions,acting in front of large audiences, working on inbound calls.(I get double stressed as Iโm non-native English speaker so thereโs always accent thing, sometimes I say something and realise thatโs not a correct way of saying it etc.)
My advice? Jump in. Do it. Itโs alright once youโre in and your mind plays tricks on you, feeding you the most dramatic / anxiety inducing scenarios that 99% of the time donโt happen.
zorro1701e ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:00:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
do this and there will be a buzzfeed video about you saying Europeans dont understand why Americans smile so much and make eye contact. If you're an American
Truegold43 ยท 1447 points ยท Posted at 00:57:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This works, seriously. I'm in my twenties now and ever since high school I learned to walk with purpose, been friendly to everyone I meet, and I always dress up as opposed to dressing down. I've made and kept a lot of friends, gotten a few job offers, and have stayed relatively happy by doing these things.
But don't overdo it! People can smell a fake from a mile away.
throwitaway488 ยท 414 points ยท Posted at 02:07:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's more fake confidence and learn as you go until you are actually capable at something. It's not good if you fake confidence forever without making an effort to improve as you go. "Fake it till you make it" still includes the "make it" part.
LessMidRange ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:08:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So many popular pieces of wisdom have a second half that we always forget about and your answer is definitely that for OPs response
UberMcwinsauce ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:25:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, fake it til you make it basically boils down to "practice it". Most people aren't willing to make mistakes while practicing but if you're "faking it" its ok to make mistakes that you may learn a lot from.
CompassionateHypeMan ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:07:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Hey, can you help me with this?" ~ Manager/superior/people on my team.
Internal monologue "I got trained on that six months ago and did it for one day on my own. I'm barely keeping up with my own workload and I slept for four hours. I don't even know if I can help myself, much less make my quota"
My response, "Yeah, what do you need?"
I've gotten a lot faster at some things. Necessity is the mother of adrenaline.
Jake63 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:19:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you're part of a team. If you haven't slept enough and it's due to work, you have to make sure that supervisor is aware of that and takes care of you. that's what teams do. They take care of each other - or they should
eXpatWanders ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:55:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instead of 'fake confidence', I like to say 'confidence in training'. Smiling and being polite gets you going in the right direction, and seeing other people's smiles and politeness creates good feelings and a good experience for everyone. Experience is the best teacher, and class is always in session.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:02:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
fake, fake it until you can fake it for real!
MrSocialClub ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 02:02:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Walking with a purpose is a big one for sure.
Bacon_Devil ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 02:17:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting your shoulders back and chin up increases attractiveness like 25%
petra-o ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:59:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
dem angles doh
Truegold43 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:15:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously though. I'm a small chick but I walk tall and its helped me many a times. It makes you seem more reliable too (not in a fake way) but as an "oh hey, I kind of trust this person" kind of way.
_actually_no ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:12:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To take a small point from this, the always dress up part makes a huge difference. Everyone has a first impression. One of my coworkers looks like sheโs going somewhere important all the time, makeup done and nice clothing. I was talking to her one day and she said โthereโs no such thing as being overdressedโ and it really changed the way I thought about the way fashion influences things.
chocolateco0kie ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:25:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same for me! I consider myself to be a bit on the introspective side, sometimes I need time without social interactions to recharge, if I don't have that I burn out.
So I got pretty surprised when I heard people telling me they "wanted to be just as outgoing/sociable" as me. It's hard sometimes forcing myself to socialize and to take initiatives in conversations but it has lead me to quit a few good friendships and fun life situations.
p_velocity ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:53:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I realized in high school that everyone was looking at everyone else to try to determine what was cool. So I decided that I would just tell everyone that I was cool, and then act like me. Folks bought in to it so there were a ton of dorks in high school who thought I was cool, even though I was really just as dorky as them.
It didn't work on the *actual* cool kids though...
Truegold43 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:11:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confidence is one of the biggest and most important traits that anyone can develop. A confident dork is infinitely more times more likable than a cool kid who fakes it and is dishonest with themselves. Props to you.
youngminii ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:16:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake confidence is like fake tits.
Everyone can tell, but it still turns people on.
WenatcheeValley ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:37:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And youโll find some scars if you really look
HalfSoul30 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:06:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learning this never seemed fake to me, i just had to do what a confident me would want to do, and then i got used to it. 2015 is when I truly gained my confidence, and it has paid off greatly.
Truegold43 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:07:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You got the right idea! I'm glad that it paid off for you and it continues to do so.
Aeolun ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:46:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The trick is to make yourself believe it.
CharlieBluu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:22:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm rather curious about the dress up/dress down thing. What do you mean by that?
Truegold43 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 22:06:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It can mean a few things-- I got you!
So dressing "up" doesn't mean dresses, suits, formal, red bottom Louboutin heels. It just means putting in a little more effort into your appearance because you never know who you're going to meet. For guys, it can mean shaving and keeping you hair combed, not wearing sandals or slides to bigger events, and wearing nicer shirts. /u/sirgentlemanlordly the guy who wears suits all the time does a bit much, but wearing a business shirt on a busy day never hurts.
For ladies it could mean improved makeup (not a must), wearing better shoes, switching out basic studs for pearls, wearing dresses or skirts. Anything that makes you look a bit more polished every so often until it becomes habit.
This can also go for events- if an event says business casual and I know that I'm going to network with some heavier hitters, then instead of wearing basic sandals, pants, a plain tank top and a cardigan, (I'm a chick) I'll wear professional shoes, nicer pants like slacks and the same top combo. Alternatively I personally would probably wear a dress that's a bit nicer, maybe even professional. You want people to remember you.
...for the right reasons.
sirgentlemanlordly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:27:01 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Basic grooming and washing aside, if I see a person overdressing, I remember the fact that they overdressed and probably don't have very great judgement.
Dress appropriately. Otherwise, you just seem awkward / trying too hard. Your actions are what counts. Don't draw attention to yourself by such shallow means.
sirgentlemanlordly ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:42:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All of that but the dressing up part.
There's a dude I know that always wears suits and that's just weird
Zambeezi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:32:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just wish that were 100% true. People are surprisingly transparent, but also surprisingly gullible.
Jake63 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:17:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
and this great pice of advice from Vinnie that I'll never forget "it's not tipping I believe in, it's OVER-tipping!":
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L_RyHZ1OzXk
iamblckhwk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:17:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish I could give you gold for this
Truegold43 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:12:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You saying this feels just as valuable as gold. Much appreciated :)
AlreadyShrugging ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 01:35:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have struggled to try this for years with no success. I just can't fake things. In my head, it will always be a fake veneer easily peeled off. I don't know why to be honest. I also cannot "suspend disbelief" in other situations and suspect its the same or a similar issue.
If I could somehow figure out how to believe my own fakery, I could perhaps "fake it till I make it".
elementary_penguins ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 01:54:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate "fake it until you make it". It always implied to me that I'm pretending to be something I'm not. Like I'm trying to deceive others. Instead I found more success "practicing confidence". Try a couple of things people consider confident, practice them around others. If you fail that's ok, it's just practice. Eventually you get better at it, it gets easier to be confident. No faking, no deception, no thin veneer of lies. Just someone honestly practicing their confidence. You can't be faulted for practicing something.
MrSkrifle ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:40:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For confidence I fake that they're my friend, and then I find it a lot easier to just be myself and not act nervous or awkward. Making eye contact, smiling, standing up straight with shoulders up, dressing well makes you feel well, working out are all things that helped me be less shy and more confident
I still get nervous, and blush harddddd when I feel the slightest bit embarrassed at anything. but Im either in a position to drink some alcohol to loosen up or take a beta blocker which helps with anxiety and flushed face
InjectedCumInMyBack ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:41:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What is this?
MrSkrifle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:56:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a life saver. Beta blockers reduce your blood pressure, and blocks the hormone adrenaline, which treata stuff like high blood pressure, anxiety and my face flushing. I personally take metoprolol for dates, presentations, or other kinds of social events
Typical_Whiteboy ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:09:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most people are bad actors. Fake confidence is easy to see.
Cajbaj ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:22:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually disagree on the grounds that A. I can't think of anyone I've ever met as having obviously fake confidence, and B. I've gotten to know a lot of confident people and found out later they felt like it was an act.
Maybe I'm just oblivious, but I'm pretty sure that fake confidence is just confidence.
Typical_Whiteboy ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:26:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well by it being fake that means it canโt be the thing itโs pretending to be. Or it wouldnโt be fake. Fake confidence is cubic zirconia. When your girl figures out what it really is she is gonna have a choice to make.
Cajbaj ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:33:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The thing is that conventions like "confidence" only exist in the human mind and in society, two things that are extremely hard to understand fully. What exactly "Fake" confidence is isn't as clear as something with a defined molecular structure. I think it's hard enough to tell the difference between fake confidence and real confidence that they are the same thing.
If someone gets to know you well enough that they know that you don't feel confident and they reject you for that, that's on them. That's a shitty thing to do.
Typical_Whiteboy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:57:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, confidence is a thing in animals too. Thatโs why they tell you to not act like prey towards certain predators. Make yourself big and loud. So yeah, I guess if you fake it well enough then whatโs the difference. Just hope no one calls you on your bluff.
And yeah it might be on them but if it happens enough youโll learn not to own up to being insecure.
mmat7 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:59:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As much as it doesn't work for me a "fake it till I make it" is an actual thing
Its called cognitive behavioural therapy, to put it short its basically the idea is that if you do stuff like acting confident or do things that used to bring you joy (that don't any more) even if you have to force it at the beginning it will eventually learn how to be confident (or how to enjoy those things that you don't any more)
Again it didn't work for me but a lot of people say it helps them a lot
AlreadyShrugging ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:54:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes it is an actual thing. An actual thing that has never worked for me. It requires a suspension of disbelief (especially initially) that I am incapable of.
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AlreadyShrugging ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:04:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That just makes the suspension of disbelief more difficult and me more willing to call it out.
testsubject23 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:07:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hereโs an easy one. Stand up straight, shoulders back, head up. Do the superman pose, hands on hips, hold it for a few seconds.
Pretty sure I heard this releases whatever chemicals or whatever that help you feel confident. It feels a bit silly, but I find it works a little. I guess the connection between body language and confidence goes both ways, so faking a confident stance helps to fake a bit of confidence. Which then feels less fake because your behaviour follows actions.
And other than the hands on hips thing, thatโs a good way to get used to carrying yourself. Posture is important
fluffy_assassins ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:18:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
40 years old.
Literally has never worked for me. Ever.
RevolsinX ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:53:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay so this seems true at first, and is to an extent.
I built up a lot of fake confidence to do stuff and eventually ended up with the thought
"Hey, I can be genuine now. There's nothing to fear with how I am now".
Wrong. When you finally let down the facade entirely and go fully genuine, you'll realize there's there a good 100 different fears you never actually overcame, you simply ignored them. Maybe even super stupid ones that shouldn't even be fears.
If at all possible whatsoever, start overcoming your confidence issues one by one while staying genuine. Faking it will make it easier for a while of course, but you're leaving a lot of shit on the table that goes completely unsolved.
After starting this 'proper growth', I've noticed an insane difference. So many things I never even considered doing, all of a sudden opened up and it was like my mind viewed the world as a completely different place. A place with far more freedom than I ever knew.
Thornum ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:07:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haven't read every single comment, but I feel this is an important caveat to what OP said.
Faking confidence can generate positive outcomes and responses from your environment, which in turn can actually boost your confidence. However, a lack of confidence is always caused by fear. Recognizing, accepting and overcoming that fear is the key to real confidence. For some people acting confident can confirm that your fear was unfounded and help you overcome it. For others, acting confident is merely masking that fear, meaning it is not a lasting solution as that fear will still be there when you let your guard down.
wyzapped ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 01:34:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I admire the spirit of this comment, but ultimately think it's kind of dangerous. I don't want to deal with someone who's confident because they're faking it, I want to deal with someone who's confident because they are competent.
adescuentechable ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 02:28:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think the comment is geared more towards social situations, not situations where your over-confidence could actually harm people.
Mr2mrcityzen ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:28:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
just keep pretending to be happy and eventually you will forget you are pretending..?
Gr1pp717 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:39:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To be fair, that is actually possible.
Try smiling right now. There's a good chance that you'll start to feel happier.
Cajbaj ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:25:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To some extent, yeah. Happiness is unfortunately more abstract so it's hard to say how to fake it, but the principle of "fake it till you make it" really does work.
Xesequor ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:13:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
how do you even fake confidence? isnt that being confident by itself?
Un4tunately ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:42:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unfortunately, confidence isn't everything. See: confident douchebags.
insquire ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:15:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've never been able to fake confidence. I can only become confident by learning and getting better. Until I get to that point I'm cautious, but if I want it, I can get there. For me, I'm confident about actions and things I do, it's not an all encompassing feeling on it's own.
freakicho ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:16:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Listen OP... Don't forget. Believe in yourself. Not in the you who believes in me. Not the me who believes in you. Believe in the you who believes in yourself.
idejmcd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:26:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good advice but not the best for some people. As a professional in a hiring position I've hired a lot of confident idiots.
thegrimm54321 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:57:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only problem I've had wi tf h this for over a decade is this:
If I knew how to fake confidence, then I'd already be confident...
EDIT: Speaking of confidence, I'm confident that I typed "with" and my phone changed it to "wi tf h"
zdiddy27 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:41:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So this may sound silly, but I can force myself into a better mood in the morning by just repeating aloud โtoday is a good dayโ over and over again. Usually incorporate stretching, just some light easy blood flow mixing with the mantra works wonders.
Niladnep ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:43:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How much confidence you have is derived almost 100% from how much you portray yourself as having.
When you walk into a room, do it with a cheeky smile on your face. Say hello to people, keep your shoulders back and your chin up.
All of these things are minor, insignificant things. When you start doing them all however, you'll realise how easy it is to act and say things with confidence. Then you'll realise that you have literally faked it until you made it.
maselsy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:41:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or this could induce Imposter Syndrome.
thogdontcare10 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:49:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do I put this to the test to start doing this?
Namelessgoldfish ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:00:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
my only problem with this is that it never lasts for me
UniQue1992 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:01:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How does one fake confidence lol?
Spasay ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:04:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's what got me through teaching. I also used the "I'm not nervous, I'm excited" technique of trying to turn my anxious energy into enthusiasm. I still made mistakes, but answering questions and presenting things slowly got easier.
uthrewmeaway4hydros ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:06:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did this last year and got a lot of ass because of it (I'm ugly), until I got destroyed by my childhood crush lmao. It's been 7 months since she moved away but she comes to town now and then and thats when we hook up. (Silver lining)
Moral of the story. Use it for only good, not to get laid lmao
Horkrine ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:48:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sadly, I have learned that you have to be good at faking it. There's a very cringey difference between the beta guy pretending to confident to get a girls number and the actual alpha guy who gets the girls number
Carlwelsh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:58:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is exactly what I did. Worked really well.
silverionmox ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:49:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only works for light cases.
mmat7 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:52:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Except when you lack confidence so much that you are physically unable to even fake it.
IHaveSlysdexia ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:26:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Used to hate myself. One day in high school I just started in my mind "lying" out loud about how good looking I was. I was genuinely surprised that people didn't bust out laughing. That got me thinking that maybe people didn't think as negatively about me as I do. So I kept doing that until I realized that people don't give a fuck about me and that some of what I was saying was true! it helped me believe that my worth is based on what I tell myself not what I think other people are thinking about me
Potethode123 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:11:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Faking confidence = practising confidence
laxt ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:20:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is terrible advice. When it works it's a fluke.
Fake confidence only works around people who also not confident with themselves.
The praise of this advice speaks volumes. Are you all in high school?
AlaWyrm ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:35:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Fake it 'till you make it is real.
Source- once shy, apprehensive teenager with no education,no direction in life, and no desire for responsibility (though I was a "know it all") that is now a director of a multi million dollar per year project that impacts hundreds of millions of people and requires know how and managing client and vendor relationships on a national scale.
Edit: I've been with the same project for 20 years. Started as a green kid, now seen as the "expert". Don't know how I got here other than faking it for years until I "made it".
Edit #2: Like I teach my kids and try my best to adhere to, there is a fine line between arrogance and confidence. Confidence just means you can back up your words with your actual (not percieved) actions/skills/knowledge and also treating people right regardless of your skils/experience/knowledge etc. In a nut shell, everyone has something to offer. Arrogant people live and act as if they always know best, regardless of what other people can bring to the table. After doing my job for so long, I no longer try to be the best at everything, I have too much to do for that to be possible. I now look for the best people to do it. They will do it better than me anyway and I can focus on what I am best at. My best attribute now is identifying who is best to assign to what project, not trying to impress anyone by doing it myself.
Edit #3: For those that inquired, confidence is trusting what you know and standing up for when your are right, but also admitting when you are wrong, learning from it, and not worrying about the consequences of being wrong. Arrogance is always assuming you are right and defending it no matter what.
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AlaWyrm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:02:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Faking confidence is what makes you an eventual professional, so I agree with you. Lol.
solarspeed ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:37:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought that skills and competence make a professional, no?
blackbeaniebud ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:31:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hi, for someone that has been told that I need to show more confidence, I'm trying to learn the difference between arrogance and confidence.
For me personally, while I agree with the points you made, I feel the way you wrote it is cocky. I don't care if you run multi-million dollar budgets, or your "best attribute is identifying who is best to assign to what project". I feel you can get your point across without including those things.
Can you maybe explain how adding those pieces of information help perceive confidence, and not arrogance?
Cause I'm confident in myself, it seems like nobody else in the workplace sees it, and hopefully you can give some perspective
AlaWyrm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:58:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No worries. I was often called "cocky" when I was younger. Most of it was projection back then. Maybe I am, who knows. I try not to be. I see it in my son as well and try to guide him away from it while at the same time not kill his drive and self confidence. It is a tricky endeavor.
That said, I only mentioned those things you referenced to give perspective on where I came from to where I am now. Am I Warren Buffet? Hell no. Could I have ended up barely supporting myself and doing enough in life just to get by? Hell yes. I started out in my adult life with almost everything stacked against me. I strived to not be a statistic. I won't go into details here for fear of sounding cocky again, but I made a personal choice to, as Dave Matthew's once sang, "Make the Best of What's Around". In other words, I chose not to care what others "thought" I was or what I should/could be, but to be the best best me. In all honesty, my greatest motivation in life was to prove all of them wrong and I have. If that means I'm perceived as arrogant or cocky, that is thier problem. If I needed to exude confidence to get ahead, even if internally I was severely self conscious, then so be it. Thier opinion of me was less important than my and my family's well being. Yeah, I understand that sounds selfish in the grand scheme of things, but my family is what matters to me.
To answer your question directly, be the best you. No one can ask for more and if you do that, you will be successful in what ever you decide to set your mind to.
blackbeaniebud ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:10:24 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cool, thanks for your insight!
dank_doobs ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:47:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practically speaking, there is no difference in faking it or not.
Jaz_the_Nagai ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:12:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hahahaha. No. No no no no.
No, the shell cracks eventually. When you look in the mirror and realize you are lying to yourself and everyone else. Better to have not started faking at all.
TheRealMrNarwhal ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:57:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Confident actions come first, feelings of confidence come second". This is what I remind myself. It's the same sentiment but sometimes taking confident actions are easier than faking feelings.
PetaPotter ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:08:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is how I lost my virginity.
dplagueis125 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:13:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone is faking it, the more confident-seeming people have been faking for longer.
CardinalNYC ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:42:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This one doesn't work for me as my confidence is fairly circumstantial.
Say I'm at a party full of total strangers. If I've got one friend with me who I know? I can be the life of the party.
If I'm totally alone? The social anxiety wins every time.
Gr1pp717 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:30:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless people inherently think that you're smug. Then it just reinforces the notion. It's like trying to be stern while also having a resting bitch face...
Source: am fucked
enokonot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:26:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe its courage what you're looking for? I used to think about confidence a lot back in the day. Now I understand that im just a tired, overworked pussy overall.
simat8 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:26:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People also seem to confuse intense apathy with confidence!
SoSquish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:41:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it till you make it
erm4gundr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:56:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it till you make it has become something of a mantra for me but sometimes it doesn't 100% work. Like with feelings. When feelings are involved it's all about keeping your focus. You have to know what you want long term and don't let in-the-moment decisions ruin that long term goal. But yeah fake it till you make it. With enough time it can actually help you get over someone.
Tigress2020 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:24:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use similar phase all the time. "Fake it till you make it" can work for many things.
ComicSys ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:50:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Robert Downey, Jr. said this as well. It really does work.
Redwoodsilouette ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:05:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can you give an example, I have no idea how to fake it.
is_not_robot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:38:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confidence or shyness is just the way you think; when you reframe your thoughts and "fake" confidence, you're teaching your brain to see see the world that way! It's great. Same trick got me (almost) out of my depression.
SCB360 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:39:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a firm believer of "Fake it til you Make it" just know when you've "Made" it to stop faking
micmea1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:18:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The trick to mastering the adult world. It's a weirdly scary and comforting truth all at once. No one knows what the fuck we're doing. Not you, not your parents, not your grandparents, not your teachers, not your government. I'm sure there were people working on sending the Mars rover to space who have had that imposter syndrome panic attack of, "What the hell am I doing here?! Why are people trusting me to do this?!" But the rovers got up there, right?
forcenuggets ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:38:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confidence is often mistaken for competence. Pretend in the wrong situation and you could get yourself in trouble.
Stegaosaurus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:03:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I were confident enough to fake confidence, I wouldn't need to fake confidence.
HaricotsDeLiam ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:04:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Relevant TED talk
DS_H ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:12:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm.
GenesisProTech ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:40:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having confident friends to encourage you with this helps wonders too.
jay_rod109 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:53:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have an unfortunate side effect of this. It seems like everybody thinks I know what I'm doing. Apparently I exude confidence, and this has lead to me being put in charge of things. Things I have no business being in charge of.
influbit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:42:10 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Note: this does not mean to be more confident than your actual abilities. Iโm sorry but I review thousands of resumes and lying is not how you become โconfidentโ. Be yourself 1000% youโll be surprised how much better it comes off and if it doesnโt work out it wasnโt meant to be.
Upsetti-Spaghetti13 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:14:13 on May 13, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this frequently it works very well. Sometimes I even make other people more confident I'm what I'm saying
tmd430 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:25:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it til you make it
cashtoria ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:32:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it til ya make it
SpermWhale ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:49:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Secret Service Anti Counterfeiting Task Force wants to know your location.
cashtoria ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:00:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I knew it
failoutboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:08:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I, like many other teens, am a tragically insecure kid. I was so insecure about myself that I would skip school almost every day because I didnโt want people to look at me. Iโm almost sixteen now and over a year later of just โfakeโ confidence has turned it all real. Iโm way happier than I used to be and I havenโt skipped a single day of school since.
Meevex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:55:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Precisely so. I asked advice from an experienced colleague before teaching my first lecture. He simply said 'It's all an act, act the part of the teacher/lecturer, even if you've no idea what to say, confidence will make anything you say sound legitimate'.
ThatSquareChick ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:25:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was in HS theater. I was a ham so I ended up as trees and mannequins and other shit that didnโt talk. I had no issues being up in front of tons of people and just clowning it up.
Iโm a stripper now and people ask me all the time what it was like to be naked in front of people all the time. I say that when I was in theater, theyโd tell me to imagine the audience in their underwear to get rid of stage fright. It works pretty good but it works even better the other way around where Iโm in my underwear and the audience isnโt.
HorseSteroids ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:26:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It baffles me that this works. I personally think I'm ugly but I tell girls that I'm cute and for some reason, they agree with me more times than not.
mitharas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:59:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are areas where this is VERY bad advice. I met engineers who work like this (or the similar "fake it till you make it"). In that profession it's horrendous advice and can topple whole projects.
matt88 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:01:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Beware the Dunning Kruger effect
superking75 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:30:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it till you make it
liamemsa ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:50:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It worked for the POTUS
WakingTheCadaver ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:54:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
100% accurate. Ever since i picked up playing drums, Iโve become more confident in myself from performing for people
GSG2150 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I once read something about a โSuperman stanceโ, you stand feet shoulder length apart, fist your hands and place them on your hips, stick out your chest and take deep breaths. I did this in the bathroom before a job interview and nailed it. Iโve tried it again when I went into the interview for the job I am at now. It makes you feel strong and confident. Try it now in the mirror.
cuzimclearlybetter ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:34:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup. I've been doing this for years, ever since I was young. Slowly, my confidence has improved.
iixsephirothvii ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:36:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Faking acting "I'll just pretend to be a teacher, doctor, lawyer, king etc" is what we all do before we actually learn the routine of every occupation ever.
surfdad67 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:38:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it till ya make it. You can do this, but you have to have SOME idea of what should be happening and you better be a fast learner.
loleonii ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:41:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this really helped me in job interviews. I went in with my internal voice screaming "YOU GOT THIS YOU GOT THIS THIS IS EASY YOU GOT THIS!" drowning out all the doubt and anxiety
perksofbeingcrafty ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:49:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did this when I moved schools at thirteen, and quite honestly I think I have a completely different and completely better personality now than I did before thirteen.
old_gold_mountain ยท 23284 points ยท Posted at 22:33:11 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you're trying to fall asleep and your mind is racing thinking about a million things at once, making it impossible to fall asleep, do this:
You'll distract your brain and bore it to sleep.
Poobyrd ยท 10357 points ยท Posted at 23:30:31 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
When I can't sleep I pick a subject and come up with an example for every letter of the alphabet. Repeat as necessary.
Albania, Bahamas, Cambodia, Denmark, England, France, Guyana.... Etc.
Apple, blueberry, cantaloupe, durian, elderberry, fig, grape.... Etc.
Anchovie, barracuda, carp, damselfish, flounder, grouper... Etc.
Insomnia is a bitch.
Edit: eel
the_red_phone ยท 3718 points ยท Posted at 00:04:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I have had trouble sleeping in hotels, and I travel a lot for work. Iโve gotten in to these songs on YouTube that use โdelta wavesโ and itโs working miracles on me. I donโt care if itโs science or bullshit and I donโt even want to look it up because itโs going so well for me.
Edit: so tempted to Rick Roll the fuck out of you guys but this sleep track literally fucks me up:
https://youtu.be/xQ6xgDI7Whc
Edit2: seriously Iโm pretty stoked that this helped so many people. Anyone reading this i highly recommend you look through the responses to this comment and see all the different apps, websites, and tactics. Good luck and happy sleeping everyone!!!!! โค๏ธ
Suddenly_Something ยท 1336 points ยท Posted at 00:50:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
2 of the top 5 songs on my most played list for 2018 on spotify were "box fan noise" for any time I went somewhere without a fan.
Maurkov ยท 2472 points ยท Posted at 01:15:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Two?
Did you get tired of one and switch, or do you (ehem) oscillate?
quantum-mechanic ยท 1767 points ยท Posted at 01:26:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh the oscillate one is garbage. Its too realistic. It used a defective model that was recorded so after about 20 minutes into the track the fan got stock on one end of its sweep and kept going CLICK CLICK CLICK CLICK CLICK CLICK
Flatulatory ยท 751 points ยท Posted at 01:40:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That used to mean itโs time to flip the cassette over.
241079 ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 03:07:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Right into my nostolgia! I haven't thought of flipping tapes to the other side in (literally) 2 decades!!
BOTCharles ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:29:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My fancy car has auto rewind so I still donโt have to think about it ๐
MaleAryaStarksNoHomo ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:56:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well if isnโt Mr. Robin fucking Leach
catfishdeity ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 12:30:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My neighbor gave my son a mid 80s Fisher-Price cassette player. It comes up more often than usual at our house.
Gotdanutsdou ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:11:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks dad!
djfl ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:23:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
DAD??!! Oh ya...I guess that makes sense. Thanks kid...
MechanicalTurkish ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:42:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a cassette deck with auto-reverse. It's the future, dude
russellvt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:44:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn ... I suddenly feel old. LOL
Sysiphus_Love ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:34:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rich kids had auto-reverse. The wave of the future
Alexgonebananas ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:51:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck man I could hear the fan clicking in my head as soon as I read that. Fuck shitty oscillating fans
EnviroguyTy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:36:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This was truly beautiful, thank you.
dcunited456 ยท 95 points ยท Posted at 01:29:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This may be the most underrated comment Iโve ever seen
heatherkatmeow ยท 244 points ยท Posted at 01:33:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Iโm a fan of it.
Edit: obligatory first gold! Thanks, kind stranger!
steeb2er ยท 138 points ยท Posted at 01:36:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I go back and forth about it.
armorgeddonxx ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:52:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd give it a whirl.
Gotdanutsdou ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:12:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eh, just blow it off.
Virge23 ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 01:40:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dat delivery, It took my breath away. I'm dead.
Ryguythescienceguy ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:56:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Personally I think it blows.
knucklehead27 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It really blew me away.
4rp4n3t ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:21:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you titalate an ocelot? Oscillate its tits a lot!
toasterinBflat ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:13:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting tired of one is the point, isn't it?
TheGardiner ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:01:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There was a remix
forgotthelastonetoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:34:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Made me cackle with this comment
philipalanoneal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm slow clapping this masterpiece.
Handbag_Lady ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:32:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn you, have an up-vote!
engunneer2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:39:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe he's Korean and thinks if it runs all night he'll die. So he switches to a backup halfway through.
Cav3tr0ll ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:45:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
(Sunglasses)
Samurai-Salty ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:21:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
that or "white Noises" or "storms sounds(my fav)" make me fall distracted and fall asleep easier.
setsuwa ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:40:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Brown noise is my favorite. It's less harsh than white noise.
hordak666 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:43:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
shartstorm sounds
nuocmam ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:44:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried brown and white. I think pink is my favorite. I guess our ears are tuned different and/or our brains are programmed differently.
tatorface ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:27:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alexa, play rain sounds.
nuocmam ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:43:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't have an Alexa, and I'm still expecting rain sounds to play from somewhere near me.
tatorface ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:35:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs perfect. It comes on for an hour and turns itself off. Perfect for falling asleep.
AquilaSol ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:23:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You guys need https://mynoise.net/noiseMachines.php :)
One gigantic constantly updated collection of ambient noise generators that are fully customizable, don't have loops and don't repeat patterns. And is developed by a professional sound engineer.
Francis-Hates-You ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:07:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Those are nice but it really bugs me that none of them seem to loop properly. They always fade in or something and itโs jarring when it repeats.
HITMAN616 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:19:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use the Rain Rain app. Bunch of different sounds you can choose from (forest rain, thunderstorm, ocean waves, crackling fire, etc.) and you can set it to fade out at a certain time. I just set it to end one minute before my alarm clock and Iโve slept like a baby ever since
Smiff89 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:28:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for telling me this is a thing. Every time I go to a hotel I have to try to fall asleep while the air conditioner is running really loud because I miss my box fan. Iโm going to start using this.
flushkz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:03:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you might have tinnitus
LordMajicus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:16:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually just have a box fan running in my room almost every day of the year because I like it cool when I sleep and I like the white noise it makes.
SingerOfSongs__ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:40:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My top artist on Spotify this past year was Brian Eno for the same reason. Ambient music is 10/10 for my sleep.
maux_zaikq ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:54:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for this game changer.
essveeaye ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:28:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a google home in my bedroom for one purpose. "hey google, play the sound of the ocean" - it was for the newborn but I can't sleep without it either now.
Popadige ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:53:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Went on camping trip and in middle of night downloaded a box fan noise track out of desperation. Next morning awoke to discover I had actually purchased the entire album of baby sleep tracks which had 99 tracks. This was before I got on an unlimited plan. Oof.
Natenator77 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:32:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rain ambience does it for me. I try to trick myself into believing it's actually raining. I feel so much more comfy under the blankets this way! Plus, if I wake up in the middle of the night, it's still going, and you get that sort of warm buzzed vibe before going back to sleep.
MBncsa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:56:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Totally get it. Hair dryer sound videos on youtube help me cancle out any noisy environment I try to work in. Also: mynoise.net is one of the few online services that I ever paid for. tabletopaudio.com is a lovely website with tons of genre-specific 10 min loops...I like not listening to my colleagues.
InfamousBLT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:26:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm sure someone told you, but you can buy a machine that makes fan noises. I have one, it was like 50 bucks, it has 10 different fan noises and 10 different variations of generic white noise. I use it at home. I use it when I travel. I always use the same noise.
After only a week or so you condition your brain that when you hear that sound, it's sleep time. It works WONDERS. Well worth the investment.
NibblesMcGiblet ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:01:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Such a spotify fan boy.
Arsemiel03 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:36:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spotifan
allozzieadventures ยท 249 points ยท Posted at 00:38:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nothing wrong with a placebo effect anyway.
terribledirty ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 01:32:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the most placebo effect shattering thing you could have said
ipu42 ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 02:19:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Placebo effect often still works even when people know it's a placebo.
petemitchell-33 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:36:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs incredible... and itโs all about the power our minds actually have over our bodies. In every way imaginable.
Hayman68 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:07:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not necessarily. A lot of studies have found that the placebo effect works even when people know it's a placebo.
[deleted] ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:10:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, placebo from the Latin "placibi" meaning "I shall please"
Paddy_Tanninger ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 01:30:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I finally understand your mom's nickname!
Soulger11 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:32:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Heh. Got em.
chronicbro ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:31:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stupid science bitch couldn't even make I more smarter.
[deleted] ยท -14 points ยท Posted at 01:31:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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TimeWizard333 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:34:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But interesting nevertheless.
nsqrd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:06:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly, all I want is to fall asleep. I don't care if it happens through placebo or if it actually works.
TocTheEternal ยท 894 points ยท Posted at 00:41:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I take the smallest dose melatonin tablets I can find sometimes. I doubt it really makes much of a difference chemically, but at the very least the routine and placebo effect definitely help.
Edit: So perhaps I was wrong. I know that melatonin is definitely not a placebo, but I was unaware of its baseline active dosage. It definitely does work for me chemically, it is my go-to solution for when I may have ingested certain other chemicals a little bit too late at night.
Also I think I may have crossed 50k comment karma today.
Faux-pa5 ยท 338 points ยท Posted at 01:16:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find that larger dose melatonin pills keep me awake, but smaller dose (2-3mg) is ideal for sleep. Research backs this up.
MordecaiThirdEye ยท 305 points ยท Posted at 01:31:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're actually only supposed to take about 1.5 mg, no idea why the fuck they have stuff out there that's 10 MG per dose or more
Regilppo ยท 141 points ยท Posted at 01:34:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah fuck I've been using 10mg a night recently. They are gummies that come in 5mg doses. I feel it helps me get a good sleep so idk if it's bad to take that much.
gusmwolf33 ยท 117 points ยท Posted at 01:37:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yikes. I take two 10mg tablets every night.. my preworkout doesn't really wear off soon enough
TexLH ยท 336 points ยท Posted at 01:40:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like you have your foot on the gas and on the brakes at the same time. That's not good
Juicedupmonkeyman ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:56:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Melatonin isn't really a traditional depressant or anything like that.
Monbey ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:47:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not even a depressant lol
Juicedupmonkeyman ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:15:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exsctly. It's a hormone that helps regulates sleep.
PatmanTheBanproof ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 02:57:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The "dont mix upper and downer" theort is a myth
TexLH ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:16:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm just repeating the analogy my pharmacist used
Rocket_hamster ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 01:51:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you tried caffeine free pre-workout? If you already sleep 7 to 8 hours I find I don't need the caffeine, plus I usually have coffee in the morning anyways. The hardest part of my day is falling asleep, and getting moving in the morning. but even with 6 hours of sleep and 1 cup of coffee I don't run out of energy.
Joy2b ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:03:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre probably going to need to work your way down gradually on both.
You can probably drop both around 10-30% tomorrow with little impact, and do the same again next week with equally controllable impact, but persuading your body to make and want a reasonable amount of melatonin again wonโt be instant.
Donโt be afraid to talk to your doc.
[deleted] ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:39:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You build up a tolerance to it and it turns ineffective. Someone in this thread said they take 1.5 but Iโve read in many places itโs better to take .5 mg.
Itโs done my insomnia wonders.
eiggaMAD ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 01:50:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I believe there is also evidence to suggest taking a โmicroโ dose after lunch time is even more effective
djfl ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:18:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even more effective for sleeping at night, or for having an efficient afternoon nap?
badlands_94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe whichever one you choose??? Though I think he meant sleep at night
Ulti ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:59:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
From what I've read about it, the sweet spot for dosages varies pretty widely between people, which explains the whacky range in dosages you see sometimes, ranging from .5mg to 5 per dose.
Staerke ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:13:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The half life of caffeine is 6-8 hours, meaning if you had 120 mg of caffeine at 4 pm, you still have 60 mg (6 oz of coffee) worth of caffeine in your system at 10 pm. And your body can acclimate to melatonin and you'll stop making your own. It's a really bad cycle to get into.
I'd find a new preworkout.
djfl ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:21:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This seemed wrong, so I looked it up. Google says 5-6 hours in healthy adults fwiw, but this is still depressingly higher than I thought it was. No wonder I feel like crap the morning after a dozen Jagerbombs.
mission42 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:35:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is a really great podcast episode of Stuff You Should Know about caffeine that is well worth the listen. I worked 3rd shift for about 4 years and drank more than my fair share of coffee and energy drinks and after that podcast I decided to cut back a bit.
https://www.stuffyoushouldknow.com/podcasts/the-duality-of-caffeine.htm
I'm completely off energy drinks now and only about 3 cups of coffee a day and none after noon. Working on getting that down to 2 cups and the last one a couple hours sooner.
djfl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for the info. I will look into that. By "third shifts", do you mean midnight/overnight shifts? I do rotating shift work, so rotate through all 24 hours at different times. Good on you for getting off them if so. They take years off your life. According to the studies I've come across, if you work for 25 years...working all midnight shifts takes 1-3 years off your life, and working rotating shift work with midnights takes 3-5 years off your life. I'm not sure how much of that is direct and how much indirect (you eat worse, you exercise less, etc). Either way, cheers.
mission42 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:26:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes I worked overnights. I did some research on it as well and found the same kind of results. Higher risk for many diseases and cancers also worried me. Many days it was hard to get more than a couple hours of sleep without waking up and then taking a couple hours to fall back asleep again. Even with blackout curtains and melatonin and a solid routine I still often had trouble sleeping more than 4-5 hours.
I got to the point without an energy drink I'd get a headache and they would last for hours until I had one. Once I had a few sips from it I could feel my headache go away almost instantly. That's when I knew I had to quit drinking those things.
Malgidus ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:11:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have had more benefit from 0.5 mg than 20 mg.
slimjoel14 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:43:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're not supposed to take them every night, every other night is the minimum frequency you should be taking
Olivepearls ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:46:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Melatonin eventually slows, or even stops itโs own production with enough replacement. Itโs not recommended to take it often or much of it due to your body being tricked to slow down natural production over time.
0Nyxee ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:27:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This so much. A lot of people don't realize it when they're taking melatonin.
Olivepearls ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:45:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know! I hate being so preachy but it makes me cringe when people say they use it nightly and in high doses.
Durpn_Hard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just in case you haven't checked, the brand I have is 5mg for 2 gummies, so taking one is a pretty reasonable (little heavy) dose
KickANoodle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:37:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My doctor said you can go up to 15mg.
Phrenzy ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 01:36:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My doc suggested .5 mg 4 hours before bedtime. Works great for me.
permtron99 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:47:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Four hours before? What's the trick with that?
goatcoat ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 01:56:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You take the time you want to go to bed, subtract four hours, and that's the time you take the melatonin.
Phrenzy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:11:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All this math is making me sleepy.
DonnyTheWalrus ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:16:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Melatonin is a hormone that's part of the body's circadian cycle. Your body starts releasing it hours before you're actually sleepy. It's not a sleeping pill. The idea is to boost your body's natural production.
herman_gill ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:07:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
sun down
drinkingbathwater ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:56:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
MIT owns the patent on sub-1mg doses
HiramNinja ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:40:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...oh good Lord...I got the most messed up dreams on 3mg...10 I cannot even imagine.
samuelspark ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:55:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, sometimes I take it to try and fall asleep faster but it leaves me with some WEIRD dreams.
djfl ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:21:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm considering getting back into melatonin. I rarely remember my dreams. Anything you felt like sharing would be appreciated. Thanks.
RealStumbleweed ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:59:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That happened to me a lot when I first started taking melatonin and I donโt know if this is accurate or not but I felt like maybe it was just the first time in a long time that I had had any decent amount of REM sleep so I was dreaming like crazy. No idea if that is accurate or not. I do know that on melatonin I would wake up feeling better than I ever had in probably years.
ChickenNoodle519 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:37:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Something about patents, I think. Regulation around supplements is super fucked up, even for an already-fucked-up area of US healthcare. Assuming you're in the US.
StrangerGeek ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:32:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's some folks who actually recommend only taking 0.3mg - you can find it online, and it works better for me
LauraMcCabeMoon ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:12:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously? Thank God. Thank you.
Anything more than 1 to 1.5 fucks my ass up the whole next day. Like I might as well have just gotten drunk and had a deep hangover.
Oh boy I got great sleep the night before! But I'm completely useless and unproductive.
It's like bargaining with the devil. get no sleep tonight and be fucking useless? I'll get all the sleep and be useless? Which form of useless is least worst.
I have a really hard time finding Melatonin at that low of a dosage. Usually I have to buy the gummies that have a recommended dosage of two gummies and only use one gummy, or one half of one gummy.
I tell this to other people and I think I'm crazy. I've told it to doctors and they tell me that low of a dose doesn't work and I must be wrong.
Welp! I'm not. And I'm so glad to finally find some other evidence of this experience.
angelofmusic9 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:30:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm perscribed 10-20mg because I have severe insomnia to the point where some nights my brain doesn't produce ANY melatonin. However, once I took 2 10mg when I was having a particularly anxious and anticipating night, by 11 I forgot because it wasn't working like normal and I took 2 more. It wasn't until 2am when I had given up trying to sleep that I realized "oh shit. I took waaay too much."
She_just_wildcattin ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:03:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm usually in the "more works better" mindset, so I immediately went out and got 10mg, maybe I should scale mine back down
digitaldeadstar ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:13:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
10mg tends to work pretty good for me - less doesn't do much. Haven't tried more since 10 does it. I don't know if working graveyard shift has anything to do with it or not, but it helps, so whatever.
alexm42 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:28:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
10 mg is what they give nursing home patients who don't get enough sun to establish a proper circadian rhythm. I'm of the opinion that such a large dose shouldn't be available OTC, even though it's not that bad for you, just because of all the people who don't take the time to properly inform themselves about what a reasonable dose is or consult their doctor.
Wryel ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:31:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've heard of people taking Jess than 0.5mg and getting good results. I have 5mg tablets and chew a little chunk. Works and I don't feel groggy in the morning.
tiorzol ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:13:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How much do you chew?
Wryel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:56:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't take it with water, so I chew it until it's completely dissolved. Usually because I'm taking it later than I'd planned and assume that will make it work faster.
Nederalles ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:38:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The /r/luciddreaming crowd uses them.
buffalopantry ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:13:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So if I'm trying to avoid lucid dreaming is it a bad idea to try melatonin?
SlightFresnel ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:02:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Huh... So the 2x 10mg I take every night probably isn't helpful?
ThatGuyMikeO ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:26:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait really? Damn...I take like 10mg sometimes 20mg haha I've taken melatonin for the past like 11 years haha
NibblesMcGiblet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The 10mg works better for me than the 5mg.
Juicedupmonkeyman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:55:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's also a pretty strong antioxidant and has other effects at high doses. Not good for sleep though lol
syco54645 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:45:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well that explains why I can't sleep...
AVeryHeavyBurtation ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:48:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think that by weight, melatonin is one of the most potent psychoactive drugs I've ever taken.
I took half of a 3mg pill and I was absolutely useless for days!
I took a tiny nibble off of a 3mg, like less than 1/4 pill, and I still wasn't right the whole next day.
tiberiusrussell ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:03:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No wonder I can't sleep lol
1tsn0tme ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:48:23 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sarasha ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:32:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah hell after 2 hours taking melatonin I wake right back up and wide awake for 24 hours.
xX_bbychubby_Xx ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:44:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find that magnesium is much more helpful
citcpitw ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:38:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They have time-releasing melatonin. They worked better for me because I have a HARD time going to sleep and I have bad back issues. On regular melatonin it takes a few hours to kick in and Iโm up every 1-2 hours.
Sarasha ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:46:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've tried it. I grow a tolerance to it. I've tried just about every kind of sleeping medication since I was a teenager and within a week or two it stops working.
Plummets ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:32:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is good to know.. my 5mg was good the first few times and now it feels counter productive.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:37:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only time I got insomnia was from melatonin. It fucked me up and I kept needing more and more and my sleep even with it was horrible but worse without. Unisom does wonders though
BigxBossx77 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:31:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does it give you weird dreams?
Unidan_nadinU ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:22:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I take 5mg, it seems to trigger my sleep paralysis for some reason. I cut mine in half and it works fine.
teamsacrifice ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:40:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah youโre not supposed to take large doses. I had to go to the doctor over sleep issues. She asked me if I take melatonin and I said โyeah about 20 mg a nightโ. She said higher doses actually have a reverse effect. Youโre only supposed to take 10 mg at the most
Tfapone ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:42:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shiet so I've been doing it wrong. I took 10 of those zzzquil gummies and was hyper as shit. Also 12 hrs later when I was able to sleep I dreamt I got shot.
djfl ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:17:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
whaaaaaat? I tried high-dose melatonin when I was young and having some trouble sleeping. The melatonin had the opposite effect. I had no idea that less is more...
HeathenMama541 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:37:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Larger doses of melatonin give me wicked restless legs
oliviathecf ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:38:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom has melatonin that she takes and she encouraged me to take one once. After I did, I googled it to see how long it should take me to get to sleep, and then I noticed that like 1.5mg is how much you should take.
So I go to see how much I've taken and it was a 10mg pill. I had a terrible night, didn't sleep at all, I'm pretty sure I had some auditory hallucinations, not to mention weird half-dreams that I only seem to have when I'm on anti-anxiety medication. I have no clue why they sell 10mg pills when that's way too much.
pornfgggggg ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:39:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have overdosed on melatonin before, only had the 10mg pills, popped 5 and stayed up all night sweating and gritting my teeth said fuck it and bought the 3mg can confirm works much better
slimjoel14 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:42:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mine are 10mg, I had 3mg as a child
SilverNightingale ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:07:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I could also only find doses in 5mg.
They tend to knock me out in like ten minutes, but I have a small stature and work/commute a lot so maybe it's just all those factors combined and not solely because of the quantity of the dosage itself...?
cel-kali ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:51:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It might just have the opposite effect on you. My mom tried giving me Benadryl when I was younger to sleep. I was bouncing off the walls the whole night.
AnotherOneIsHere177 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:56:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Personally I just grab the 3mg and bite chunks out of it. Helps me sleep much better than even a full 3
MermaidZombie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:47:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lately I've been taking 10 mg and it makes me really sleepy, but it puts me in this weird half-awake half-asleep fog where my brain is still really active all night. I didn't know larger doses could do that, but it lines up with my experience recently.
xX_bbychubby_Xx ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:43:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just a small thing that probably doesnโt mean much but melatonin can be detrimental to your brain. Itโs better to take magnesium as it calms you instead.
source: my nurse practitioner mom (sheโs always been right so i donโt question her)
kayelar ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:25:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve read that the therapeutic dose of melatonin is actually a fraction of the smallest dose you can buy so Iโm sure itโs helping.
dopaminetract ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:38:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is accurate. The MIT scientists that discovered melatonin patented all of the doses they believed would be clinically effective. Since it's tolerable at very high doses the supplement industry just started putting out significantly higher doses so they could sell it.
300 mcg is the recommended dose. I've seen 10mg doses on the shelves before ~33x higher. I sometimes take 1/4 or half of one and still get the sleep cuing effect. I also highly recommend the long acting stuff. There's a 300 mcg long acting one you can get on Amazon that will give you some rull good sleep.
elfchica ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:59:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you happen to have a link?
dopaminetract ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:42:14 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"scientists led by Professor Richard Wurtman, principal investigator for the current study, showed that only a small dose of melatonin (about 0.3 milligrams) is necessary for a restful effect."
"The researchers also found, however, that commercially available melatonin pills contain 10 times the effective amount. And at that dose, 'after a few days it stops working,' said Wurtman,"
"When Wurtman first discovered the efficacy of small doses of melatonin, he and MIT patented its use for dosages up to one milligram. Because the FDA defined the hormone as a dietary supplement, however, manufacturers were free to sell it in much higher dosages, 'even though we knew they wouldn't work,' Wurtman said."
http://news.mit.edu/2005/melatonin
CyberPhang ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 01:07:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy cake day!
HiramNinja ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:40:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...happy Cake Day indeed!
G00bernaculum ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:35:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man, I'm a shift worker where I switch nights and days pretty regularly. Melatonin is awesome. 90% sure its total effect on me is placebo since for some reason it knocks me out in like 10 minutes, but I'll take it.
Anxiousrabbit23 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:40:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep I take it for the placebo effect as well! And Iโm really good at forgetting I took it and freaking myself out that I wonโt be able to sleep (anxiety ftw!) I told my neuroscience professor I take melatonin and he said it was not a good idea... two years later and Iโm still taking it lol
RealStumbleweed ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:04:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would forget if I had taken melatonin, etc. at night from time to time so I started using an old lady mediset. It is been really helpful.
IcarianSkies ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:00:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I have medication-induced insomnia (thanks Lexapro) and take 3mg melatonin, 500mg magnesium, and 25mg doxylamine. My doc didn't want to prescribe benzos since they're addictive, so that's what he recommended instead. Individually they don't do much for me, but all together it's an effective cocktail.
ChevandtheChevtones ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:23:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Melatonin is no joke that stuff knocks me out
Juswantedtono ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:33:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It doesnโt make me fall asleep, but it gives me intense dreams
ememtiny ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:48:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I found that ambien works well for me
TocTheEternal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:49:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, yeah. But people avoid that for a whole bunch of reasons that don't apply to melatonin.
ememtiny ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol yeah I have to take the hard stuff to sleep.
FecesThrowingMonkey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:08:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like the others said, melatonin as sold is in a crazy high dosage. I have a bunch of the 3mg tablets and I'll nibble off a third of one. Yes, it tastes chalky but not bad. This sounds weird, but chew that bit, mix it with your saliva and try to keep it between your gum and lips. That gets the small amount in the bloodstream way faster than taking a pill. It works great and my dreams aren't too weird, which is a common side effect from taking higher doses.
_no_na_me_ ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:07:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if I grind it up and snort it
ExpressionlessWeed ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:34:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Boof it
PoorlyTimedPun ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:28:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wtf are these other chemicals?
TocTheEternal ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:56:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The fun ones.
Jayhawk11 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:56:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Blow? It's blow isn't it?
TocTheEternal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:30:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not usually lol.
slimjoel14 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:42:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I take 10mg melatonin when I need to sleep and can't
Hallucion ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Speaking of Melatonin, I was trying that when I was having trouble sleeping (think prince of bel-air but without the rich uncle). Gave it a shot with the thought of 'no idea if this will work, but it can't hurt', and what I found out is it was pretty potent for me. Put me out in a half hour and if I woke up with less than seven hours' sleep, I was a zombie for the day. So I keep it around if shit gets bonkers and I can't sleep well.
Shooter-MaGavin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:37:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Melatonin = weird nightmares for me
TocTheEternal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:53:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get those all the time anyway, doesn't really matter at this point.
woody29 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:39:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find that melatonin works better in a combination with other sleepy time herbs.
ExpressionlessWeed ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:22:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I see this discussion about melatonin and my experience with it was that i felt my heart slow down a scary amount and had palpitations when laying in bed also breathing was a bit harder. I only took 1,5mg
PrettyBelowAverage ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:29:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It probably does because most melatonin tablets have way too much in them. 0.5 mg give or take is all you need since melatonin is already being produced, I see the most well-branded products dosing at 5 mg which is quite a bit more.
Happy Cake Day!
robotawata ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:50:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy cake day!
awesomem8112 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:35:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
happy cake day!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a_Aej8hAVE4
Stupeetdoonoo ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 01:26:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy Cake Day!
Matt13647 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 01:44:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy Cake Day!
fhjjfgh ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 01:56:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy Cake day!
kenji-benji ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 01:59:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stand your ground. Melatonin is a total placebo.
Glad it works for you.
69fatboy420 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 01:30:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn this reminded me of this program called iDoser that was going around in 2006 or so. Basically it played a noise for 30 minutes and when you were done, it was supposed to get you high. Me and a friend did it in 9h grade and he swore he got high. I obviously did not.
lmao
Even has a wikipedia page
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I-Doser
Corprustie ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:53:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried the โHand of Godโ dose once, and oddly enough it did make my eyelids flutter, which I saw afterwards was reported by others too. Didnโt do anything else but I did find that strange!
Ulti ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:00:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bahahaha, I remember this.
zachwad22 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:03:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmm, I'll have to try this "6 hour lucid sex dream" one.
Hugo154 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:25:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eh, don't worry about it. The placebo effect works whether or not you know it's the placebo effect.
Mighty_Cthulhu ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:48:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man the placebo effect blows my fuckin' mind.
NeedHelpWithExcel ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:56:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That feeling of your mind being blown is actually just a placebo mind blow
Hugo154 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:54:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It really is a strange and incredible phenomenon. Really demonstrates the power of "mind over matter."
Tyler2Tall ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like we are reaching placebo inception
StarTrippy ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:18:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I saw the letters "xQ" and got very worried lmao
BookbumMC ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:24:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really like using delta waves too- thereโs an App called โsimple habitโ that has that as a option for falling asleep- you pick the length of time and I love it because no ads and it shuts off once itโs cycled through the 30 minutes or so. :)
TMRtrashCD ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:30:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs a 100 year subscription to use...
briar_angel ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:33:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's this playlist I used on spotify "Space Music for Sleeping" that works so well for me when I stay at hotels.
Madmaxisgod ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:27:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Followed. Thank you. Iโm interested to see what my personal results will be in testing this out.
briar_angel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Personally, I just like how dreamy it is. Makes it easy for my imagination to go to fantasy land instead of serious shit.
TheSeaOfThySoul ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:49:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is certainly different from the kind of space music I listen to.
briar_angel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:38:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, clearly ๐
SharingMyStorys ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:44:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs the nicest comment section on a video Iโve ever seen. I feel so beautiful!
Tornado_Hunter24 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:07:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How can I listen to this while my phone automaticslly locks after a few minutes? The usual lock after doesn't work because itms a video and I don't want my phone to stay on throughout the night
Bspammer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:01:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are ways to download youtube videos. I'm not gonna link any in case it's bannable, but just google it
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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CantSayIReallyTried ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:53:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think he went thataway
OhBestThing ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:40:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Link us an example!
nlfo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:30:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You should check out Marconi Union's album Weightless.
-Aeowyn- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:33:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sounds a lot like the music we play at my massage studio....
themage1028 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:33:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude, that comment section is the most un-YouTube-ish comment section I've ever seen on YouTube.
toxicshocktaco ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:40:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The comments on that video are the most wholesome comments I have ever read on YT. I'm honestly amazed.
Loved the music, too. I saved it for next time I'm stressed out :) Thanks, friend!
0Nyxee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:25:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone has the nicest comments in this video too I feel so loved ๐ญ
SausageOnToast ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:06:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always wake up very early in the morning and struggle getting back to sleep and this morning whilst reading reddit at 4am I noticed this comment, played the video you shared and fell nicely back to sleep. How can I repay the favour?
russellvt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:33:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Another good one to sleep by ... SomaFM - Drone Zone
They have a lot of other good channels, too... including Black Rock FM (from Burning Man). I like it because it "follows the sun" (PST8PDT) and the tempo of the music changes appreciably with the time of day. Though, the techno and dubstep (?) / high-voltage party music goes until about 3am on the weekends.
Edit: Linkage
Edit 2: Another "odd pleasure" is their SF1033, which is a mix of ambient music with a reverberated backdrop of the San Francisco Public Safety scanners, in the background. It's weirdly soothing (coming from a person who uses Live ATC radio to fall asleep to on cross country redeyes)
Daddy_fat_tats ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:31:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This like asmr? Time for some googlin
edophx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:34:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did you try hookertin also known as prostitunol availible at the bar of hotels, I heard it tires you out when you travel, but then you sleep well. Side effects may include ghonoherpasyphilaids. :)
forgotthelastonetoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I listen to that stuff too. Knocks me out. Who cares if it's bullshit if it works for you. It's not like it's hurting anything.
Sophie_King_Awesome ยท 205 points ยท Posted at 00:06:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this same thing! Sometimes it back fires when I canโt think of one letter and have to google it.
a_fpoon ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 01:47:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And then you end up on Reddit
PharmerDale ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 01:08:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And then have to wiki it.
SomeBroadYouDontKnow ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:43:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can't think of one, do 3 for the previous letter and 3 for the next letter. Looking at your phone will only work against you, so it's better to have a system in place to "make up" for when that happens.
ButtsexEurope ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:09:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs because thereโs no country that starts with X. The only one I can think of is Xia Dynasty China.
Sophie_King_Awesome ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:48:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup, you get it
MelAlton ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:31:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think if you can't think of a letter of the alphabet then you're tired enough to fall asleep.
you_sick ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 01:43:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Until its 4am and you realize you're still up googling fruits
Greenville_Gent ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:03:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gold for "Edit: eel"
Poobyrd ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:12:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha thanks
doingmybest64 ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 00:39:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do something similar but I start with the last letters of a word then go through the alphabet and skip over letters that donโt work: at. Aat (nope), bat, cat, dat, eat, fat, gat, hat, etc.
Gingerpants1517 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:54:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I struggled to pronounce "eat" in my head correctly because it doesn't work with the other words.
MalfaitReiToei ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 00:48:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i do this!
i also pick random words from whatever nature documentary i have playing and 'draw' them out in cursive with my big toe. like literally moving my foot around and tracing it in the air.
buserr0r ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:00:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just wash NyQuil down with hard liquor, but your way is probably better.
skepsis420 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:37:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I can't sleep I just smoke a bowl, jerk off, and magically wake up 8 hours later. The alphabet thing seems like to much work.
Conman3880 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:37:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This gives me so much anxiety as a person with ADHD.
Iโd get three letters into the alphabet for any given category before I my brain was suddenly buzzing with a thousand different thoughts about
are anchovies good or bad? That Barracuda song is good. I liked anchovies that one time, why are they salty? Carp carp magikarp. Damselfish like damsel in distress like Daphne from Scooby Doo. Are they salty? What is the flavor of an anchovy? Oooooh, Barra-cuda! What is Sarah Michelle Gellar up to? Does magikarp evolve at level 20 or 21? I think anchovies would be good on like a foccacia. That one episode of Buffy was actually scary but I donโt really remember what happened. Ooh, flounder! dum-ta-da-dum ta-da-dum ta-da dum ta-da dum ta-da dum ta-da dum DOO-DOO-DOOOOOO Where is my DS?
all at the same time
CustomerComplaintDep ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:12:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apnea, Bruxism, Circadian, Depression, Excitement, Fitful, Grinding, Hypersomnia, Insomnia, FUCK!
rockrolla ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:12:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโd end up googling a fruit that starts with a D and two hours later come up for air from the rabbit hole Iโve been down and then spend the next hour trying to remember what started me down the rabbit hole, and then Iโd end up back on Reddit and rinse and repeat until 3am. Any advice for this sort of issue?
_no_na_me_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:25:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The same thing happened to me.....aaaaaand itโs 2:24am now. Shucks.
FriskyTurtle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:35:27 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, my brain would be frantically trying to remember every item in my list and afraid of forgetting them. It sounds like a way to keep me awake.
doingmybest64 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 00:40:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do something similar but I start with the last letters of a word then go through the alphabet and skip over letters that donโt work: at. Aat (nope), bat, cat, dat, eat, fat, gat, hat, etc.
AllThatAndABagOf ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:37:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I still pronounce the ones that don't work. It makes me smile. :)
BearRedWood ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:14:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, this sounds too hard for me.
SuzieSnoo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:15:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a game my daughter's pre-k teacher taught her class to help learn the alphabet. She enjoyed it so much, we played for years afterward around the campfire.
Mackin-N-Cheese ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:33:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You must kick ass at Scattergories.
Poobyrd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:41:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do lmao.
panjialang ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:33:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
S E R O Q E U L
pgh_donkey_punch ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:01:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
๐ต๐ตAlbaniaaa,.... Albaniaaaaa. ๐ต๐ต
It borders on the Adriatic. ๐ต๐ต๐ต"(Cheers)
Caty907 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:05:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every time I meet someone from Albania, I mention the Adriatic. That's all I know about it, and it's from Cheers.
imExportedStarfish ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 00:53:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Funny, my girlfriend and her sister do this as a form of entertainment on long car/plane trips
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:38:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Poobyrd ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:51:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Indubitably ;)
Robbie-R ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:41:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I play a game like that with my wife and kids in the car on road trips. One person says a food that starts with the letter A, "Apple" for example. The next person has to say a food that starts with the last letter of the previous food, in this case E, so egg would work. It's not the greatest car game but it gets the passengers off their phones for half an hour and mildly entertains the driver.
hypo11 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:51:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to try to name all of the teams in the NFL, NHL, MLB and NBA.
Fatalstryke ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:58:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Arch Enemy, Behemoth, Cannibal Corpse, DevilDriver, Ensiferum...
Mommyshidingplace ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:00:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Omg I do the exact same thing! I thought I was original.
mattw310 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:01:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's half of Marshall's fist list right there. Always thought those names sounded funny...
GreekHeroBofades ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:04:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wtf is a durian
kryantastic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:13:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anal, butt sex, cunnilingus, etc
a_stitch_in_lime ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:15:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I might have to try that. Mine is getting old. I count backwards from 700, starting over anytime I make a mistake.
AirBreather5000 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:20:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anal, blowjob, cfnm, doggystyle, ebony.. etc
Am I doing it right daddy?
miakittycatmeow ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:22:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow youโre smart for real
saltheartedbarmaid ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:22:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this same trick. I like doing breakfast cereal and things in specific video games (Zelda, Skyrim, etc)
wanderingnightt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:28:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jesus. No wonder yall canโt sleep.
EasterWhorshiper ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:32:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for multiple examples.
Eventually do you start coming up with entire categories of things to make lists of, alphabetically?
Poobyrd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:18:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Artists, birds, celebrities, dog breeds, emotions, foods.....
Livstrom ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:41:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Durian and Denmark? I like you. I finally solved my insomnia with a weighted blanket.
Penetrative ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:50:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd be googling in no time, "c'mon there has to be a fruit that starts with H, Harrisa? Why do I know that word, wtf is that?"...
Poobyrd ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:13:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honeydew duh ;)
Penetrative ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:38:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lol right! I thought "melon" and eliminated all the different kinds!
owmyballz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:52:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great, now I have that Animaniacs song partially stuck in my head.
..something something Albania something Guyana Peru!
Edit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x88Z5txBc7w#t=13s
surreallife8 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:53:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But what happens when you can't come up with an example for a letter and end up opening Google and then Reddit and then.. bye bye sleep. FML.
Lovesnyc ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:12:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh wow, I do this too! Animals, colors, dog breeds - you name it. Itโs fun to do with your SO too if you want to bore each other to sleep.
Itโs almost nostalgic to do it now that we live in the age โphones before bedโ - shutting off electronics and being alone with your thoughts is relaxing in and of itself.
emilyllewellyn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:14:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! Iโve been doing The Alphabet Game since I was a kid to help me lull myself to sleep; my favorite categories are authors, book titles, people I know, land mammals, and celebrities I would sleep with ๐
pulsar512b ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:48:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You see, I try to do that, but with pokemon, but I always manage to miss SOMETHING.
tah4349 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:15:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do that too! It's boring enough I'll fall asleep but interesting enough to keep my mind from racing about things that are stressing me out.
NewsFromYourBed ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:33:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this too, but all together! โAdam eats apples from Austin with aardvarks. Billy eats berries from Boston with bears. Charlie eats cantaloupe from Cincinnati with cats...โ
banannafreckle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:33:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this exact thing!!!! Produce, countries, breeds of dogs, household items, art supplies, medical afflictions...๐
cwcail ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:34:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would be like Albania. Baham-zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
EshHunt69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:35:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
good luck thinking of a country which starts with X
meanderthaler ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:35:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The pure thought of Durian will haunt me and keep me awake
WyckedMystic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:35:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You must really know your fish
CancerSaLipunan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find that thinking and fantasizing (in a non-sexual way) helps me fall asleep. //wrist
nameless88 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:39:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been using some guided meditation to fall asleep to, it's been doing great for me, might help you out, too
Idrkmanduck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:47:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just watch asmr and I knock out instantly.
texican1911 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:47:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I noticed you skipped the โeโ fish. I was just going to say that now I have to get my phone and find a fish that starts with e.
Poobyrd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:53:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eel
SenseiKrystal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me too! I thought I was the only one! I am a master at Scattergories. I never thought about doing countries or fish...I usually do video game-related categories.
theferlyone369 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:57:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You forgot an e-fish.
Poobyrd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:59:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eel
teddygonow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:57:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I can't sleep I drink till I pass out works every time.
Acountisnotmine ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:02:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Insomnia is the biggest bitch, i fucking hate it.
KnitBrewTimeTravel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:03:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Ooh, Barracuda!
Zuck,ducka-duck,ducka-duck,ducka-duck,ducka-duck,ducka-duck,ducka-duck-da da dahhh..
Thanks, asshole. Now I'm never falling asleep thanks to you and Nancy Fucking Wilson..
Edit: Winking smiley emoji. Also, I hope you sleep well
animal_crackers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:08:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jesus christ I fell asleep mid comment and just woke up
Danulas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:11:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do the same thing on occasion. Works very well.
furlonium1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:14:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
United States, Canada, Mexico, Panama...
Swicket ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:35:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haiti, Jamaica, Peru!
KrypticFade ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:18:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I can't sleep I down an entire bottle of NyQuil and get the best sleep i've ever gotten!
J1z03 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:34:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Upvote strictly for the edit lololol
mash3735 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:37:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
๐ ๐ Anchovies...
AlbanianDad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pick me pick me!
Kajiic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:59:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You must kick ass at Scattergories
Ndtphoto ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:03:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This person Scattergories.
Silverbullets24 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:04:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I canโt fall asleep, I replay my last round of golf in my head. I typically make it to about hole 12 before Iโm out. Turns out replaying golf in your mind is just as effective at making one sleep as watching it on TV.
ButtsexEurope ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:07:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But thereโs no country that starts with X...
cjog210 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:10:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll definitely try these out next time. I usually stick to counting down from a thousand in intervals of 7 or some other prime prime numbers (e.g., 1,000, 993, 986, ...)
ArmMeForSleep709 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:10:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just count to 100 over and over again
TimeForANewIdentity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:11:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This would absolutely not work for me. As soon as I get to a letter I can't find anything for I'm going to have to get out my phone and Google "countries starting with the letter H"
Poobyrd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:11:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hungary
Wants_to_be_accepted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:11:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is my strategy.
codyish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:12:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I had nightmares as a kid my parents taught me to play a singing version of this in my head.
"A my name is Adam I come from Alabama and I like to eat Apples! B my name is Brian I come from Baltimore I like to eat Berries!" (Where you tried to think of different names/places/foods every time). I don't think I ever made it past "F".
YayTheRedHead ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh my gosh thank God itโs not just me. Now we need to collaborate on the lists where we canโt some up with something in that category for that letter. What you got, Iโm ready.
kea5223 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The fuck is a durian.
ClumsyBadger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:19:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You seem to be very consistent in falling asleep at the letter G.
Spr0ckets ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:21:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is why I take ambien.
Then wake up wondering who charged my account for a plane ticket to Albania via the Bahamas with a half eaten apple in my bed and an uneaten anchovie pizza.
hickgorilla ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:33:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Coloring is amazing for insomnia because you are required to focus but you are focusing on a thing that is not also stimulating you in a way that keeps your brain active.
Poobyrd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:12:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I already draw and paint all day, it would just feel like more work haha.
oneEYErD ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:33:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smoke weed make brain go sleep
toxicshocktaco ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:34:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"A" is for "ambien", my dude.
Concumber ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:34:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The alphabet game is too much fun...it would just keep me awake.
ThisIsNotTuna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:35:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just listen to ASMR tracks on YouTube.
HKZSquared ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:46:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I canโt sleep, I sleep on a carpeted floor. When I canโt sleep while on the floor... itโs SOL time.
shartnado3 ยท 240 points ยท Posted at 23:19:37 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this, sort of. I like to pretend im playing in the World Series of Poker. I run through my hand, and what all the other players do at my table. Usually I am passed the ass out by the flop.
Alkuimista ยท 131 points ยท Posted at 23:47:02 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did that and hit the nuts on the flop with the 4 final players of the event fighting the hand. I m the Big Stack and now I'll have insomnia thinking about what to do with the prize money! 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 elephant help!
shartnado3 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 00:34:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Play it out, you usually fall asleep right when you are about to do the sex to multiple women.
Tobacconist ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:32:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And then you dream about the cards in Alice in Wonderland gangbanging you and getting multiple papercuts in sensitive places...
Uevoli ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:24:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It would have costed you $0.00 to not say that.
canadeken ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:00:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I laffed
Phloozie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:52:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
dunununuh gurl shake dat laffy taffy
Wallace_II ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:33:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is close to what I do. I have been doing this for probably 20 or more years.
I have on going stories about space, and the universe and galaxies where humans have the technology to cross vast distances in the blink of an eye, and in this universe.. stuff happens. There is a one universe government, but very little other intelligent life in this universe. There are different groups, like a system where AI can be given freedom, but free AI do not live and work with humans, they have their own place to live, and they have issues that people have with debt and poverty and will at times sell themselves back to servitude to humans. There is also magic and shit because it's my fucking universe so whatever.
lNTERLINKED ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:07:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That sounds awesome.
Phloozie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:53:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wallaceโs Odyssey
ElderBrotherWu ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:44:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read something like /r/history. Doesn't matter that I find it interesting. Out cold.
jmrsplatt ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:26:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
tl;dr - fold pre
Bbng2 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:27:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am going to start using this at random
ExhibitionistVoyeurP ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:03:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also look in to sleep hygiene and white noise generators. Saved my sanity:
http://www.howtofallasleep.com/
YoureNotOP ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:14:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it's weird to think there are people on this planet that do the same exact shit that you do when trying to sleep. Especially because it feels so random lol
Insectshelf3 ยท 298 points ยท Posted at 00:13:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I canโt sleep I actively try and stay awake in bed, reverse psychology
Psychrozen ยท 61 points ยท Posted at 01:08:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This tends to help me a lot too! Shutting my eyes and trying to not open them rarely helps for me, instead I just stare at the ceiling until my eyes are too heavy to keep open.
Miserable_Fuck ยท 75 points ยท Posted at 01:16:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah...I don't feel like playing chicken with my asshole brain though.
Johnny_Gage ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 01:52:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try playing chicken with your head brain instead of your asshole brain!
the_leprechauns_anus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:38:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't play chicken with your asshole either, you'll always lose.
ShiraCheshire ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:01:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait. Do most people go to bed and not just close their eyes immediately?
Psychrozen ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:02:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i try, but they always end up open until they just do it naturally
ShiraCheshire ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:26:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When that happens I'll get a spare blanket and lay the corner over my eyes. That way it's uncomfortable to try to open them.
Nosfermarki ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:59:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My brain will keep itself occupied and it takes a lot of effort to go to sleep. Laying in darkness. Eyes closed. Tired and relaxed. But my mind just goes.
ShiraCheshire ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:16:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep, that's how I fall asleep. I can't sleep when my mind isn't going. Usually I try to focus it away from "hey remember that dumb thing you did in 3rd grade" by thinking up dumb stories.
Usually I start with something interesting (magical kingdom fantasy adventure) and then move to something relaxing (tired from the adventure, the characters get ready for bed) or boring (the characters have to sit around and listen to fantasy politics for forever) to actually fall asleep.
the_leprechauns_anus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:39:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I probably do after spending hours thinking about all the dumb things I did as a kid, eyes wide open.
[deleted] ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 01:36:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly! I just give up and tell myself "well I'm going to stay up all night then, who needs sleep any way, I've done loads of productive things on no sleep before" and that's pretty much the only thing that'll do it. Actively trying to fall asleep out of an anxiety that lacking sleep is a big problem, using whatever technique, is way too stressful to fall asleep doing.
Elcium12 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:50:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mine is similar. I sometimes close on eye and try to concentrate to leave the other only halfway open. A lot of times my body gives up easily and closes it, and I falk asleep quickly. Weird, but it works for me.
sosila ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:41:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read once that if you canโt fall asleep itโs better to do something else until you end up tired enough to sleep. Sometimes I reread books Iโve read a million times or manuals until Iโm tired.
YoshiAndHisRightFoot ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:28:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If only that worked for my little brother. It's actually quite a problem when he goes in to the hospital to do a sleep study. One time in particular he wound up with triple the recommended dose of sedatives in his system, and he was still up, still reading, still claiming to not be tired.
Condawg ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:11:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is generally what I try to do, just stay up until I'm tired enough to pass out, but I can stay awake for so long. I think I should do a sleep study or something, but I really don't want to.
I can easily stay awake for 20 hours after each sleep, but if I get less than 6-8 hours of sleep, I'm pretty useless. This results in my sleep/wake time being pushed back, and back, and back, until I'm waking up at 8pm and just staying up into the next night to "reset."
I'm fortunate that I've found work I can do from home in my own time, because trying to hold a regular sleep schedule together for a regular job is nearly impossible. I end up not sleeping enough and hating my life. Sleep just doesn't happen when I want it to. School sucked.
ColumW ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:36:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You have to be very careful with this, though. For example, it's NOT better to scroll through your phone until you get tired enough to sleep...It won't work at all. Things like this actually keep you awake.
Not_floridaman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:59:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! I used to go to a 24 hour fun and when I'd be lying in bed at 2 am, if say "may as well go to the gym" and would be out like a light.
beatle_mania ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:30:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why not take it the extra mile and add some coffee into the mix. See what that brain of yours is made of.
Insectshelf3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
NG+
kea5223 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:19:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love crosswords. When I can't sleep I try to do them and realize I can't focus or even keep my eyes open. Usually works well.
MassaF1Ferrari ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:30:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey, I do this too! I just turn on my light, cross my arms, and stare at a wall refusing to sleep until I fall asleep!
AnticitizenPrime ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:40:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This might be the only strategy I've never tried. Brb
Insectshelf3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:41:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The trick is that you canโt be on your phone or anything.
danceswithwool ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:49:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do something very similar. I tell myself that Iโm not trying to go to sleep so it doesnโt matter. Then I fall asleep.
B_Blunder ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:33:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
OUTSTANDING MOVE
Estraxior ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:26:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This honestly works for me too, it's so weird lmao
C4ptainoodles ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 01:11:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My brain would stay up because I ain't no quitter
HapaDis ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 01:40:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve always struggled with insomnia. Growing my my dad told me โyou donโt have to fall asleep, you just have to keep your eyes closed.โ
Whenever I remember this at night, it takes the pressure off trying to fall asleep and Iโm out within five minutes. Every time.
Syphe ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:35:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yeah this is what helped me, I remember reading somewhere that more important than sleep is just to be resting with your eyes closed, since I read that I can probably count the number of sleepless nights I've had on one hand.
jb2386 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:51:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also just cycle through the muscles in your body tense them then relax. Then slow your breath. Basically if you act like you do when youโre asleep (closed eyes, relaxed body, slow breathing) you trick you mind into falling asleep.
Itโs like the if you force yourself to smile, youโll become happy thing.
HapaDis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:44:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even if itโs just a trick to get me to stop freaking out about not being able to sleep, I totally stand by it. It helps me surrender.
debtblag ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:40:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Plot twist: You read about it on Saturday
Slick_Grimes ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:06:38 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was young I figured out how your breathing slows when you're asleep and if I wanted my parents to think I was sleeping I would fake it when they checked on me. 2/3s of the time I ended up falling asleep while pretending to be asleep because I was trying to stay awake.
modern_messiah43 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:27:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This requires too much thinking. I'll keep myself awake trying to think of things. I just start counting backwards from 1000. I can check out from that enough to fall asleep. And I half to count backwards, because if I go forward, I'll keep myself awake trying to see how high I can go.
old_gold_mountain ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:08:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I do something that simple my brain just counts while also thinking of other things. I need to make myself think enough that I don't get distracted.
bgwinup ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:42:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I pretend Iโm an eagle sitting on top of a mountain looking over a gorge. I then walk toward the edge and get my wings ready to jump off into the gorge. I dive down into the gorge piercing the air with almost complete silence. I then slowly tilt upwards until I am level with with the trees, river, and rocks about 100ft below me.
Thatโs always about as far as I get before I fall asleep. Iโve been doing this for 10 years!
redditor1983 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:47:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have always had a hard time falling asleep.
The thing that Iโve found helps me the most, by far, is thinking about a really intense fantasy situation. My go-to is surviving a zombie apocalypse.
So Iโll imagine fortifying an old building and doing patrols around the perimeter, etc.
I know this sounds totally insane because it seems like that would stress a person out and actually prevent sleep.
But it works for me because it prevents me from thinking about real life. If I think about real life Iโll be up until 3 AM (even if itโs positive thoughts).
Carmany ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:00:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do the same thing, currently have a group of survivors hanging out in an apartment complex with an underground parking garage.
GrapesHatePeople ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:24:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My go to use to one of being stranded on a desert island or deep in some impossibly vast mountains. Every time it would always be the earliest stages of setting up a living space, hunting for food, etc.
For a little while it was a scenario where I wake up and almost everybody in the world has disappeared, forcing me to team up with an odd group of the few "survivors" left in my town and trying to make a new life out of the ashes of our old ones.
For some reason those survival scenarios are just an easy go to, and it's also kind of a fun distraction while waiting for my brain to fall asleep. I'd always end up getting too wrapped up in the details and never really advancing the "story" very far before I konk out for the night.
HighGuyTim ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:01:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, fantasy does wonders for me. If Iโm watching a show I usually try and imagine myself doing something in that show. For the duration of that show, during the night, I try and continue the โmini-saga.โ Then Iโll jump to a different time period and do something similar. Iโve been doing it since I was a kid, and still do it well into my 20s. Like right Iโm watching GoT and rewatching Avatar, so I go wild with that.
greeneyeded ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:00:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do something similar but thereโs science behind it. You imagine an animal in an unnatural color ie a pink giraffe. You imagine every detail you can and then when youโve gone from head to toe imagining every detail in a different shade of the unnatural color you picked you move on to an orange alligator or a blue rhino etc. Imagining a familiar animal in an unnatural color distracts both sides of your brain- the memory (the animal) and the creative (the unnatural color).
sshrimpp ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 23:04:22 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So when you say count you mean go through the letters tight?
old_gold_mountain ยท 126 points ยท Posted at 23:05:26 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean
"One"
"Two"
"Three"
"Four"
"Five"
"Six"
"Seven"
"Eight"
"Elephant"
"One"
"Two"
"Three"
"Four"
"Five"
"Six"
"Seven"
"Eight"
"Emporium"
"One"
"Two"
"Three"
"Four"
"Five"
"Six"
"Seven"
"Eight"
"Elasticity"
Tanvaal ยท 125 points ยท Posted at 23:34:14 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ad Nauseum
Ad Nauseum
Ad Nauseum
Ad Nauseum
Ad Nauseum
Ad Nauseum
Ad Nauseum
Ad Nauseum
Ad Nauseum
Ad Nauzzzzzzzzz...
GnarlsGnarlington ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:28:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had to install an Ad nauseum blocker to Chrome now. Thanks.
NectarineOverPeach ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:52:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ooooh, I was imagining picking a random letter (let's say K), say a word starting with K, then count 8 letters from that - L,M,N,O,P,Q,R,S, then say a word starting with S, etc.
sshrimpp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:50:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aaaah gotcha! That's why I'm still up.
DabbingTRex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:48:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You should learn mindful meditation, you're sort of doing a basic exercise for it now. Check out insight timer and headspace for apps to use.
goatcoat ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 23:05:16 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Found the hexadecimal user.
GrimThor3 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 00:03:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
fffffff
bidet_enthusiast ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:05:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, need to be nasty, you ffffffffilthy animal.
robisodd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:57:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are 10 kinds of people in the world:
Those who understand hexadecimal and F the rest.
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 01:52:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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BushyWeen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:07:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But what if my penis is raw from already doing that 5 times a day?
atle95 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:55:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gotta save up all 5 for bedtime
cyber06 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:18:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only 5?
Uevoli ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:40:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's rookie numbers
ChronicNull ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:26:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, blinking your eyes really fast for a really long time also works. It tires out your eyes and it gives you something to focus on.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:26:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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swapripper ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:46:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. Count in decrements of 3.
gravy_boot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:10:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
With your breaths
pantsuitofarmor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is basically what I do too. If I'm really tired but my brain won't shut up, i can usually just count backwards from 100 and force my body to relax slowly from toes to head. If I'm kinda tired but need to sleep because I have to wake up in 5 hours or my day will be dogshit, I start at 1000. I occasionally reach zero and have to start over, but it's rare.
Namika ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:56:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do the tried and true "count sheep". I just imagine a sheep (or horse, whatever) slowly walking up to a fence and hopping over it. Repeat.
Having to wait for the animal to walk over to the fence and then jump is a pretty effective way to pace your counting (you end up counting about once every 3 to 5 seconds). The only other trick to it is just the fairly obvious advice to remain perfectly still. Flip your pillow, get nice and comfy, and just go totally numb and start counting.
I don't think I've ever had to counnt past 40. It's remarkable how quickly it works.
Yakstein ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:13:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I can't sleep I just pretend to be asleep and then I wake up.
dabeanery55 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:17:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I usually just imagine floating in space or the ocean
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:41:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*saves for later*
jeeps350 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:05:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ChefSqueaky ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:46:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It amazed me how few people think of this.
Rub one out and wake up the next morning.
The answer is at hand.
wine_faucet ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:12:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I can't sleep I pretend I just hit my snooze button and it somehow puts me right to sleep
TypingWithIntent ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:15:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When your mind is racing you gotta fill it with something so it can't go off on it's own. Years ago when unemployed I had this trouble nightly. Eventually I started watching the western channel. Not the cool Clint spaghetti westerns around midnight but the hokey old ones from the 50's that came on way way later. It was just a good guy, bad guy, the girl, the horse, and maybe the poker game or something benign like that. Their problems seemed so simplistic and insignificant compared to what I had on my mind.
I started by picturing myself out in that time period. Eventually believe it or not it somehow turned from westerns to RV's. Taking an RV ride out indefinitely by myself. I love my wife and kids but they can cause stress. Are they learning as well as they should, am I as good a father as I need to be, as good a husband, etc. In this world I'm magically on my own and independently wealthy so no money issues. Just cruising around small town midwest with no goals in sight. At this point, by the time I get going anywhere I'm snoozzzzzing.
sgtxsarge ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:50:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alternatively:
Choose a single word. I'll use the last word in your username: "mountain"
Mountain has eight letters, "eight" has five letters, "five" has four letters, and "four" has four letters...four is cosmic.
Try this with any word. You will always end up with four.
rydubb ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:30:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's just a function of the length of the number words themselves, as opposed to what word you choose no? One, two, six, and ten all have 3 letters, three points to five, which points to four. Seven and eight point to five, which as stated above points to four. And five, nine and four itself all point to four. The longest word in English is forty-five letters, which is reduced to 9 and then 4.
Perhaps finding the most number of steps you can take would be an interesting alternative, but I'd imagine it will be hard to go past 6 steps.
sgtxsarge ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:44:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like I should address this: I say "four is cosmic" because the person who taught me that said those exact words.
And yeah, it's just a function, but it's still very cool nonetheless.
MonsieurLeDrole ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:24:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do something similar to this. I close my eyes and visualize colours. I start with red, which is easier for some reason, and then once I get red, I try to do other colours. Just sort transitioning from one to another. If i lose my way I go back to red. But then sometimes those colours turn into imagery. And then sometimes that imagery transitions me into a lucid dream. When it works, it's a beauty way to go.
ProbablyNotDestiny ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:27:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is one of those things where if you want to sleep you gotta keep your mind focused on something. Usually for me I focus on my breathing, taking long deep breaths and breathing out slowly. Eventually I fall asleep.
smaug777000 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:31:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think I'd get too competitive with myself
lisaemc2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:32:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I imagine my dream house. I compose it from the trees to the kitchen hardware. Iโm usually asleep before I get out of the foyer.
Mary_Jayni ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:35:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love the โsleep with me โ podcast. That guy can lull anyone to sleep!
Flaccid_Ego ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:37:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In Saving Private Ryan, theres a scene where a character mentions the trick to fall asleep is to just try to focus on staying awake. I've found it to actually be very effective, I think you're right about using your brain as you fall asleep. It really helps.
I_AM_STARBURNS_AMA ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:40:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I picture myself in one of those endless white rooms. In front of me is a giant wall of light switches. If I switch the very last switch, it turns off the lights alllllll the way at the back of the room. Then I switch the next switch and the next row of lights goes out. And on and on and on. I have never made it to the last row of lights before falling asleep.
Guest2424 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:43:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I can't sleep, I pick up one of my old textbooks. I'm out before I finish the page.
sivadon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:43:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think of a destination and then try to get there by any method. Walk, drive, fly, whatever. Then I think of every detail I can that I would pass along the way. Iโm out in no time. Also, I never make it to the destination. Worked for years.
PopInACup ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:46:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My go to trick is to focus on seeing the darkness and listening to the nothing. It's hard to explain, but trying to do both at once forces my mind to clear and I normally am out shortly after.
McMackMadWack ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:49:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs some terrible advi...........
CJRedbeard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:58:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like to think I'm a time traveler and go back in time and need to explain something like a smartphone.
You see, it's a small pc that runs on electricity....oh yeah, electricity is....wait, how do I explain this invisible juice that runs things....rinse and repeat until we can finally find common ground....all while trying not to get hung as a witch.
PGSylphir ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:32:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
doesnt work with depression thoughts. Fucking sucks.
DabbingTRex ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:46:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learn mindfulness meditation, it takes a while for it to work well but it's a skill and it helps change the relation ship with those thoughts so you can clear your mind push them to the side which is what this is trying to do. Check out headspace and insight timer apps.
PGSylphir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:52:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
will try, thank you
alakani ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:19:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have PTSD, sometimes just repeating "don't think, don't think" in my head helps me fall asleep
catjuggler ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:52:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do a similar thing with math/ going through squares until it becomes too hard to multiply them
gotmoorecake ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:10:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The way I distract my brain is by turning on a YouTube video/channel that I've watched to death and put it on loop. I know it's not good but I also get nightmares if I sleep in silence and it helps distract my brain while I sleep as well
stupidbuttholes69 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:43:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My husband does this too!! I can never tell if heโs watching a video or trying to go to sleep. He picks channels who he thinks have soothing voices, like Shaun. I definitely had no idea other people did his.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:11:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always just replay forest gump in my head.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:19:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I found that opening my eyes in complete darkness makes me feel tired
Small_chip ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:23:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just use cinematic music, works like a charm.
zhuzhubi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:30:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look up โcognitive shufflingโ
There are apps, etc. that help with this and Iโve found it to be pretty effective
kearan-took-them ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:31:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm going to use this tonight, I'll update you tomorrow
surkh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:36:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm sorry, could you repeat that? I fell asleep before I finished reading that.
mittenfists ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:36:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I usually only have to think up two letters; benadryl and whiskey. I haven't noticed whether counting to 8 in between helps.
Raevin_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:38:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I usually make a story in my head. If nothing happens fast enough in the story I fall right to sleep. I resume the story the next night.
famitslit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:38:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Almost fell asleep trying this
jbhilt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:38:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try ASMR videos. They works great. I have a hard time falling sleep, but these videos put me out within minutes. Look up TingTing, she's amazing. Her videos are so relaxing.
holysitkit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:39:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My trick is to imagine you are teaching someone the rules of a somewhat complex game (baseball, starcraft, poker, etc.) and try to describe it as clearly as you can. It puts me out in minutes.
waka_flocculonodular ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:40:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried running the other day without headphones. This was my boredom strategy:
Count to 50, back down to zero.
Count to 100, back down to zero.
Count to 150, back down to zero
I drove myself insane and put headphones in after 10 minutes.
Gay_Diesel_Mechanic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:40:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just think about sex and then my thoughts get all warped and I fall asleep lol
kahuna08 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:41:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah the most effective is imagining you have superpowers
fewkillallama ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or you'll wake yourself up playing this game.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
In that case I choose "X"
1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8
Xylophone. Easy
1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8
Umm.....Xenophobe
Aww shit, can I get some help?
seag ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
how fast do you count?
Namika ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:00:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think of the old "counting sheep" thing you always hear about. Just imagine a short fence in a field somewhere, and a sheep walks over and jumps the fence. Count. Then another sheep trots over, and he jumps the fence. Count. Then another little sheep shuffles over and he jumps the fence. Count...
It ends up being a really relaxing way to pace your counting. It ends up being like one "count" every three to five seconds. If you ignore the sheep thing and just count abstractly you can end up counting way too fast, or get too worried about keeping the right counting speed. By counting sheep you are naturally pacing yourself.
seag ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:08:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was just joking but thank you
ann_no_aku ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:43:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone with OCD, I do that subconsciously anyway. I can't control it. And I don't sleep well!
shimbers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:45:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always listen to an ambient music playlist quietly (general ambient stuff and pink noise) and start counting backwards from 1000 by 7s when I canโt get my brain to shut up.
Cute_nerd79 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:47:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm just replying to this so I can find all the suggestions next time I canโt sleep, i.e. tonight lol
Lauris024 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:48:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried this a few times, it triggers sleep paralysis for me.
EvrythingISayIsRight ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:48:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I think of things while I sleep then my thoughts just keep me awake.
I found the best way is to just think of nothing, just like you're meditating. If you feel a thought come on, just stop and let it go. Try to keep your head completely empty and not 'holding on' to anything. Works like a charm!
Floc_Trumpet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like that would give me anxiety
SolidFlow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I count backwards from 300 by 3's. Just enough concentration to distract you from your thoughts, but not so much that you can't fall asleep. Never made it to less than 200.
IndependentEmu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:51:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's so weird how your thoughts are controlled by your brain in the first place, yet you can purposefully think of certain things and bore it to sleep.
wired89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:52:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I rearrange furniture in my mind.. works pretty well
ERR404gaming ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:53:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I WISH that worked for me. About the only way to get my asshole brain to shut off is to take Ambien. I keep a journal. Normally, an entry takes up one page. When I'm unable to sleep, an entry can take up 10 pages or more. Hand-written, mind you. I write down every fleeting thought, anxiety-induced what-if scenario, just in an attempt to wear my brain out. Doesn't work a lot of the time.
NapTimeLass ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:29:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Allowing my brain to think those anxiety-induced thoughts just keeps me up. I cast a mental net over an unpleasant subject I donโt want to dwell on, visualize the net being caught up and tightened closed around the subject, and thrown away or buried, or some other method of containment. If I start thinking of another negative thing, I trap that one too and visualize disposing of it. I usually fall asleep pretty quickly if I do that.
ERR404gaming ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:31:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like this idea.
NapTimeLass ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:47:01 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It usually works for me, sometimes I have to do it a second time, but rarely a third. Itโs a way of refusing to allow myself to dwell on stressful thoughts.
TheOneTrueTrench ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:53:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I must be alone in being able to go to sleep in under 30 seconds no matter what
wewew84 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:53:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Blink really fast for as long as you can and make your eyelids heavy! Surprised it worked my first time
kindadirty1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:54:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mentally recite the times tables when I can't sleep, skipping the ones. Two times two is four, two times three is six, etc....
timRAR ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:54:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation is good too
Star0net ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:55:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I found making up a story in my head helps, anything I want an incorporate what I am thinking about into it.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:55:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I lay absolutely still and count backwards starting from 100 and counting by my breaths. If I shift my position at all, I start over. It helps so much
hinton2014 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:56:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ive had sleeping issues my whole life. Runs in my family. My go to is counting down from 100 and repeating as needed
Kougeru ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:57:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this doesn't work. It just leads me to thinking about all sorts of topics in incomplete detail so that I have to google shit or I'll go crazy
pumpumpgone ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't. My brain knows that I'm just trying to trick myself with useless crap and blocks me from thinking about random stuff. r/iamsmart
mamacrocker ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I try to name book characters with similarities (5 letter names, long hair, died in the series, etc.). It pretty much always works.
trianuddah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just put on an episode of BBC Radio 4's In Our Time.
amnesiacrobat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:04:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read an article once about โ4-7-8 breathingโ and itโs helped me a lot on sleepless nights. Basically you slowly breath in 4 for seconds through the nose, hold your breath for 7 seconds and release it slowly through your mouth for 8 seconds (then repeat of course).
Your mileage may vary but it works well for me.
mistermajik2000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:04:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Count down from 200 by 7s.
thingalinga ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:05:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear. Ended up playing a word game. I didnโt realize I knew so many words starting with the letter โxโ
millero ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:05:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I count... usually get pat 1000 and my ADD kicks in and Iโm off to thinking about something else.
fiddlesdevil ยท 22172 points ยท Posted at 00:25:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.
Massimo53 ยท 4382 points ยท Posted at 02:03:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My old boss always said "Experience is what you get just after you needed it." Now when I screw something up, I just think "well I know what not to do next time!"
BronxCobra ยท 85 points ยท Posted at 02:21:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always tell my team that experience isnโt just knowing what to do, itโs also knowing what not to do.
jeffthedrumguy ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 03:13:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For sure, ruling out poor choices is super important. That's happened at work and home many times in the past where one of us will say "well what if we do this?"
"because that has electricity running through it and doing that would make us die." (or something else equally important)
"so what do we do instead?"
"iunno, but not that."
ObieUno ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:47:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So deep, so inspiring.
9212017 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:32:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can only get so erect
Rough_Cut ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:23:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My old boss would say โyou are allowed to make every mistake _once_โ
Iโve heard the other version but for some reason this wording of it really stuck with me.
FrozenChaoz ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:02:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My old boss gave me depression.
Yoshi_Yoshisaur ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 02:58:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This.
This is actually how I learned how to do my job. By messing everything up first.
PuroMichoacan ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 03:11:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or watching other people messing everything up. My old manager never reported anything to HR or LP. He got into so much shit. Now that I have his job is like "report all the things!" Cover your ass at all times.
mischifus ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:51:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's much better to learn from other people's mistakes than your own.
gardvar ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:44:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Life is too short to make all mistakes yourself
lolKonan ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:44:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My boss found out about my girlfriend who left me and said, โSometimes you win, sometimes you learn. You never lose.โ
gardvar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:50:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's... stupid
It's just bullshit wrapped up in nice phrasing.
If you loose a finger when operating heavy machinery. You may have learned not to be stupid with heavy machinery, but you still lost a finger.
Whoopteedoodoo ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:25:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โExperience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, the lesson afterward.โ - Vernon Law
plethorial ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:55:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom's version: "Experience is a comb you get once you go bald".
snowskelly ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:28:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandfather always referred to it as โBuying yourself an education,โ whenever a mistake cost time or money.
Zerogummi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:08:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a fun lesson I learned when replacing the top element in a water heater. Open the pressure vent while filling it. If you don't the top element won't be submerged and will fry when power is applied.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:21:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I Love this, but also think its stupid. Its another way of saying you cant predict the future.
jcrosby454 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:40:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im not sure i see that perspective...what i was thinkin was when i have a task i dont know hiw to do, thats the time i would need the experience, but dont have it. Once i stumble my way through the task, i now have the experience. So i got it, just after needing it. (I know i just like repeated the damn thing but it sounded like an explanation in my head! Anyway i was trying to think.of it as cant predict the future, i couldnt get there
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:00:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Experience is your minds way of predicting future outcomes based on past outcomes. You cant predict the future based on the future.
cgello ยท 5100 points ยท Posted at 01:51:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought depression is what you get when you don't get what you want.
IllegalAlcoholic ยท 2630 points ยท Posted at 02:01:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depression = Experience
BillNyeCreampieGuy ยท 2986 points ยท Posted at 02:06:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then call me Gandalf.
natorgator29 ยท 1007 points ยท Posted at 02:09:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think Iโll stick with Bill Nye Creampie Guy
[deleted] ยท 70 points ยท Posted at 02:35:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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Malorem ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 02:54:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Username checks out
elliottsmithereens ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 03:28:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm both amazed and disgusted
canadiancarlin ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:48:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Out of genuine curiosity; how long did it take you to decide on that username?
[deleted] ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:59:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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canadiancarlin ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 04:08:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The best kind of pranks! I tricked my friend into letting me suck his dick and we all laughed at him for hours. He fell for it like five more times! We laughed all day.
dblink ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 05:23:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bro Job! Bro Job!
burntsalmon ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:41:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
BILL BILL BILL BILL BILL BILL BILL
HaungryHaungryFlippo ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:06:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gandaaaaaalf
modi13 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:45:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I saw it on their search history. Only two words came up. "Asians..." and "cream pies."
thekingdom195 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:56:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
C R E A M P I E S R U L E
wisabis ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:58:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/rimjob_steve
sixtyninetailedfox ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:29:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/cursedcomments
AmNotSatan ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:47:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
BILL! BILL! BILL! BILL!
Kisua ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:16:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This, this, this?!? *spluttering noises*
Dantien ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:59:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude you are going to get in alottta trouble.
fusfeimyol ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:47:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/brandnewsentence
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:08:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bill! Bill! Bill? Bill!? BILL!!??
LifeIsBizarre ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:18:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Galdalf the everything-in-my-life-is-Grey
iborobotosis23 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:18:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gandalf the Grey-hearted.
Gandalf-Grey ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:15:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oye!
JafarOffAgrabah ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:44:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Name checks out
spaceklods ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:45:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Conjurer of Cheap Tricks himself.
CakeShitFeet ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:36:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm the goddamn three eyed raven.
DownvoteDaemon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:17:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Weird username lol
jimjambanx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:54:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can I be in the screenshot?
billnyedaflyguy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:35:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your username is mine on a Saturday night.
SpaceAnatomy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:18:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would gold you but I'm poor
married4love ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Experience doesn't become wisdom unless you grow from it
pm_me_your_taintt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:25:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then call me miles Davis.
Patsfan618 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:07:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I should be able to land every job then with my experience
meow_meow666 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:09:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No experience = No depression. So, dont ever do anything. Holy fuck I am about to get a nobel prize.
Phanastacoria ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:58:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can I undo experience?
FeedUsFetusFeetPus ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:07:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have so much experience.
overcorrection ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:08:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm not having any experience because of depression
HippieHippo450 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:09:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then I must be the most experienced person in the world
adityamaanas ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:13:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Guess I have a lot of experience.
firewolf8385 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:07:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Name checks out
DownvoteDaemon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:18:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This mf's need AA
__set ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:23:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In most programming languages, a single = means youโre setting something. So you just caused Depression to equal experience and I just realized that I donโt know where Iโm going with this. Okay, good night, internet friend.
IllegalAlcoholic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:31:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm also a CS student. Are we friend yet?
the_vent ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:20:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"This position requires five years of experience"
jm4182849 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:22:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
in this case i have like 4 years of experience under my belt ๐ค ๐ค
velvetpinches ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:31:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/2meirl4meirl
EssenceOfDepression ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:49:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does this Experience come in the form of points? In that case, I can enchant everyone's armor
vendetta2115 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:54:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be right back, I need to add 32 years of experience to my resume.
Straesim ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:37:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have crippling experience
PM_ME_TROMBONE ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:07:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Quick mafs
Edgyboisamachan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm max level and can't gain more exp. How do I prestige?
LordLoganX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:16:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm max level
Kass_Ch28 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:29:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lvl 99 Bitch
Theoreticallity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:31:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They called me a madman
Lock-out ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:35:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hell yeah I got 10 years experience.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then what is anxiety?
fishslayer1995 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can finally get whatever job I want!
โYes, I do have 10 years of depression prior to applying!โ
JadasDePen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:03:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn, I'm super experienced
LadyWidebottom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:33:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sad experience.
JohnDoe1994 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:42:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No one ever said it would be a good experience
GlyphedArchitect ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:13:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm level 99!
HailToTheThief225 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:41:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is very important to consider. People see depression as a monster to escape from and never look back at it ever again. But the more you try to deny your depression and kill it off, the stronger it comes back because you thought you got rid of it. Instead you have to accept that depression has taken up a part of your life, whether youโre still in it or have come out of it.
I was depressed for 5 years. I still have days where I feel like Iโm going back down again but now I have the energy to fight it and go to bed in peace. I know itโs going to be a part of me for a long time, but I know I have the power to say โfuck you, depressionโ because Iโve fought it long enough.
youhavebeenindicted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:16:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"If you consider failure experience."
"I consider experience experience.
savor_today ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:47:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depressed = DeepRest
Millsey ยท 73 points ยท Posted at 02:03:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah you can get depression even when you get what you want. Depression doesnโt care how happy you should be.
[deleted] ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:24:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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coop3345 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:34:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In what way?
[deleted] ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 02:37:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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coop3345 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:43:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Totally understand where you're coming from and hope you find sustained happiness.
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:49:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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predictablePosts ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:23:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me depression was caused by trying to fit into how I thought others saw me, and how I should be. Sometimes I think that a lot of depressed people do this without realizing they are. When you're not the person who you truly are then who are you? It throws out your sense of self and it can really mess with you trying to live up to others' expectations of you, whether real or imagined.
Pmang6 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:22:26 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh look its me.
rad1enc3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:17:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is it weird if I want to be friends and possibly fall in love with you because of a mere two sentences?
runs-with-scissors ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:28:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get like this when someone says something that resonates deeply with a problem I'm having.
rad1enc3 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:06:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hm what you just said also resonates deeply with how I am feeling.
Polygamy time! (No)
Darktigr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:01:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They have the truth, you have the proof.
zxcv6 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:26:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I ship this
Tsorovar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:13:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can, but the chances greatly increase depending on your circumstances
Millsey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:17:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True but Iโm responding to the idea that depression is what you get when you donโt get what you want.
A_Tricky_one ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:21:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's frustration. I know it because my psychiatrist told me that was my problem.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:40:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man, the real mindfuck is when you DO get something you wanted for a long time, and feel depressed afterward. It's like oh? Oh.
DisMaTA ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:58:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, that's not depression, that's a tantrum.
Br0metheus ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:42:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depression is what you have when you don't even know what you want. Or maybe you got what you wanted, but it still doesn't make you happy. Or maybe you have every reason to be happy, but you're still not.
Darktigr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:24:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you got what you wanted, but still don't feel satisfied, only part of you wanted that. It appears the part of you that wanted it does not have control over your emotions. So why are you listening to that part of you anyways? Is it because you can't distinguish between the part of you that control your wants from the part that controls your actual desires? You need to be able to identify the different emotions that pop up in your head. Find out what you really want, not what others think you should want.
But let's suppose you did take this advice, but you're still struggling. Consider this example of a concept you might relate to: Your dad's cancer just went into remission, but you still don't feel relieved. You feel nothing despite knowing the fact of the matter. What have you in this scenario? Well for starters, sometimes reality takes its time to set into your head. It may not have set in that your dad has been saved, or it may not have set in that your dad was in danger in the first place. If you haven't been thinking about his situation too deeply, this could also be the case. Whatever the scenario though, it probably comes down to a lack of mindfulness on your part. Be aware of yourself, no one actually knows themselves with 100% accuracy.
thot_slayerlv99 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:12:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depression is hell of a experience.
Modorox ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:00:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know you were making a joke but I think mental health is taken more seriously when we don't equate feelings to things like depression.
To anyone interested - Being sad, upset, or frustrated sometimes is fine. It is part of the human experience. Depression is an extended period (2 weeks, generally) of low mood often accompanied by feelings of helplessness and isolation. Many patients describe it as a black mist that takes the rest of the world away. If you are feeling like this, help is out there. Therapy is a great place to start, whether through a professional or self-help if you are able. Medication may be useful, too, to support you in therapy if needed. You are not a freak or weak for having depression but it will help take your life back.
intheskywithlucy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:26:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, you get to experience depression.
DownshiftedRare ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:34:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depression is what you get when you get experience.
TFW you realize you've been grinding depression this whole time.
TheBigHairy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:40:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thoughtful people do what needs to be done.
Selfish people only find the energy to do what they want to do.
Depressed people can't do either.
It's not something caused by things that happen to you.
EastOfHope ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:53:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"If I did what I wanted, why do I feel so bad?"
CliffordTBRD ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:17:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, you still have the depression even when you do get what you want.
DeadArtist617 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:01:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
too real. r/suddenlysad
ManThatIsFucked ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:03:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only when you repeatedly donโt get what you want
UmbrellaUser69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:03:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depression is what you get when you want.
married4love ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:23:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happiness is what you get when you want what you have
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
depression is anger turned inward -dr. melfi
BEEF_WIENERS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depression is the process of not getting the feeling you want when you get what you want
Tyfyter2002 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:29:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's mostly only true when what you want is to not get depression, getting everything you want could possibly even cause depression.
bungopony ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:16:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can't get what you want till you know what you want
- Joe Jackson
reidchabot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:20:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aw too close to home... Hope you're not in a bad place, or if you're working towards a better one.
m1sta ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:38:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depression is about the future not the past.
rhymes_with_chicken ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:51:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs what you get when you stop getting back up after life knocks you down.
Cameltotem ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:01:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No thats isolating yourself
MaRmARk0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:19:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hell I've never seen or heard of someone with depression until I registered on Reddit. There are so many depressed people. I feel like people here in central/east Europe doesn't even know depression.
maselsy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depression is what you get when you get what you want but still feel empty -- prompting you to question if you really even wanted that. You should want it, but you don't, probably because you don't deserve it. Does it matter then? Not really. Probably not. You don't really care either way. Except that you should, which engulfs you in guilt.
hitdrumhard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:58:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds more like selfishness leads to depression then?
Drackir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:11:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depression is when you don't want to get anything
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:12:42 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're conflating depression with sadness. Which may be good for some pointless virtual karma, but is dismissive of the extremely serious reality of depression, which kills a lot of people -- probably including people you care about.
Ha ha.
themeatbridge ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's OK to feel sad some times. Little by little, you'll feel better again.
2morereps ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:25:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depression is what you get when you target to reach Jupiter and realize you'll never complete. Make reasonable targets and you'll be happier in life.
Rysinor ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:03:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you get depressed everytime you don't get what you want then you've probably got a long ways to go before being an adult
ciargd ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 02:07:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If thats a mindset people take when adversity hits im not surprised
meanderen ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:07:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good judgment comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgment. Not sure who that's attributed to.
UTX_Shadow ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 01:44:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you, Randy Pausch.
Magicturbo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:47:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Last Lecture taught me so much. This one in particular helped bring my confidence out of the dirt with regards to my job when I realized I have far more experience than I gave myself credit for. Really helped me realize how to market myself in a job interview.
Thank You Randy Pausch
UTX_Shadow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:48:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use it to teach empathy and goal setting to my kids every year. Sadly, this year it didn't resonate with them.
KrunchyKale ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 01:58:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How much experience until level-up?
Trapped_Mechanic ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:03:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
5 experience points which you gain on rolls of 1 to 6
KrunchyKale ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:21:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oooo, well, I rolled a 2, and my act under pressure is a 1, so I'm gonna go ahead and mark experience
cjdeck1 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:01:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you sure you donโt want to burn a luck point here?
KrunchyKale ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:16:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I already used so many!
bogidyboy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:14:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What? KrunchyKale is evolving!
knitro ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:05:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
'Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes.'
-Oscar Wilde
lexrp ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:56:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Got this in a fortune cookie tonight.
Starstance ยท 96 points ยท Posted at 01:40:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Underrated comment right here.
MrPringles23 ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 02:24:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Useless comment right here.
TimX24968B ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:38:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
hypocritical comment right here
cheesywink ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:42:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smartass comment right here.
a_lost_spark ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:06:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I t s l i t e r a l l y t h e t o p c o m m e n t.
Like I get that when you saw it it wasnโt the top comment or maybe not anywhere near but if you think itโs so good it will probably get more upvotes.
derpdee63 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:09:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The moment I tried that, I started leveling up way faster. Itโs seriously such an easy XP farming tactic and I hope it doesnโt get patched out
elmonoenano ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:12:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad used to always say that wisdom comes from experience and experience comes from bad judgment.
Namika ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:53:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Humans only really learn from mistakes.
If everything is working fine and you're getting everything you need, why change anything? There's nothing to improve or learn.
Thatnewaccount436 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:12:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is what playing Monster of the Week is like.
"Oh, you rolled a two, Duck Newton? Mark experience."
PotatoCheeseburger ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:16:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I needed this today. I was the top candidate for a promotion I applied for in a different area of the department. I really want out of my current job, which I hate Rather than give me the promotion, my boss eliminated the position and split the work amongst my coworkers.
She says I'm too valuable in my current position. So now I'm studying for a certification that will hopefully earn me a position in a different department entirely.
I_eat_concreet ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:59:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Perhaps you are valuable enough to get a raise then.
DrGiggleFr1tz ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:39:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a pretty big one. With my job, you will literally never learn much of anything until something goes wrong. You can train just about every scenario but you'll still go into panic mode when something goes wrong. The stakes are high too. You either learn, quickly, or you just made a $500,000 mistake.
jbmaun ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:43:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Randy Pausch!
MrJosePP ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:36:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sure, if you consider failure experience
Inasign ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:42:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โI consider experience, experience.โ
wanker7171 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:03:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
scrolled down to upvote this comment
cheeseburgerwaffles ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:01:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This shit is too damn true
Aperture_Kubi ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:02:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I believe I saw that one on a sign in a Jimmy John's.
08rs4 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:29:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You did
HomininofSeattle ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:30:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have so much experience with woman then
wolfgeist ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:24:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*women
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:45:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This isn't really advice. It's more of a maxim.
On the other hand, it's probably the most valuable maxim in this thread.
frogglesmash ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:05:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How is this advice?
TiyoPepe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:04:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Amen to this.
dasienova ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:16:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a great way to think
HeathenMama541 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:27:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oooh I like this
ingen-eer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:11:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I remember a fantastically old physics professor I had in college telling us something similar. โI wan not going to touch the terminals on the capacitor. Thatโs called good judgement.
Good judgement comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgementโ.
EltaninAntenna ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:10:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โA bad day for the ego is a good day for the soulโ.
mpedno ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:33:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you consider failure experience..
DollCrying ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:59:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs amazing.
SethlordX7 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:39:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But only if it's what you need and you try sometimes
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:56:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was always told that experience is what you get when you don't get paid.
Override9636 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:03:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I want experience.
Universe Implodes
emperoroftexas ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:33:53 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I see someone's played Dungeon World
Jaqueso ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:18:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you call failure experience...
...I call experience experience.
LecheQuemada ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:43:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was looking for this haha
xwhy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:44:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good judgment comes from experience.
Experience comes from poor judgment.
notsiouxnorblue ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:47:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good decisions come from wisdom.
Wisdom comes from experience.
Experience comes from bad decisions.
Uh_October ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:56:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well crap, I have a ton of that.
CrotchMcAwesome ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:19:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
According to Calvin and Hobbes, it is building character.
GSturges ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have so much experience... I dont want anymore....
Evilsj ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I believe Monster of the Week has that same rule.
SirChedge ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:25:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Appreciate what you what, be are the make you appreciate what you dad.
andrefoxd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:26:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like to think experience is this what you said plus added when you get what you want. The difference is the second one happens way less in general.
imdungrowinup ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:57:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whatโs the point of that experience if you arenโt doing that thing anyway?
MugillacuttyHOF37 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:58:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But when you try sometimes...you just might find...you get what you need.
knightowl55 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:00:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No you get experience from killing movs smelting and mining and breeding
Dark_Irish_Beard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:02:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like your version more than the version I've heard, which is:
"Experience is what you get after you needed it."
ahmam18 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:03:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dont understand. Is this a joke for college interns because they get paid with experience?
elgskred ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also think it's useful to have the mindset that you're gonna get some experience with something, learn about it, not succeed in it. If you succeed, that's great, but if you fail and get experience that's great too, because that's what you set out to do in the first place.
This doesn't apply all the time I guess, but you can mostly apply such a mindset successfully.
poonpundit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Marriage is the death of hope.
kanelon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is this say where i am from: "Experience is a hair comb that the life gives you once you get bald".
ArgiePig ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:20:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In Argentina we have a saying that could be translated as "experience is a comb you are given when you go bald".
speaklastthinkfirst ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:20:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you seen my red stapler?
ContinuouslyDrunk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:21:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just got a ton of experience in not getting jobs I want!
ilrosewood ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find that sometimes I get what I need.
Skeetdeedee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All the salty people commenting after the last game of thrones episode are real experienced right now.
HadManySons ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:30:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've heard it differently. "Good judgement comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgement".
Krunchy1736 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:30:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My uncle always told me that experience is something you get after you need it. Always stuck with me. I like yours just as much.
cant-find-user-name ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:31:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is such a nice quote
Scimitar24 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:38:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if experience is what I want?
Null_zero ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:41:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You win or you learn
Holland19XX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt get it. ๐ค๐
ItsBarney01 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if you want experience? ๐ค
intrsectionalfascism ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โYou start with an empty bag of experience and a full bag of luck. The key is to fill the bag with experience before you run out of luckโ
SaberToothMC ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:18:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear: got depression.
KingOfNZ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:19:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've always heard that experience is something you gain after you needed it.
Twisted_Kingdom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You don't pay for experience, it just costs ya.
splashMiller ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:47:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the context of an internship. You WANT the internship for the experience. If not experience what word would I use to describe what I got from the internship?
xbwtyz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being awful at something is the first step to being really good at it.
000ttafvgvah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:54:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Issac Green and the Skalars?
goldeneag ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:00:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a horrible habit of holding onto every little mistake I do for too long. If it's a relatively major mistake, I find ways to punish myself for it.
This is the advice my dad gave to me last year when I broke down with him on the phone and it has really helped me stay optimistic about life. Yes, you fucked up, but you're lucky you fucked up now and learned a great lesson so you won't fuck up later when the consequences would be much larger.
Not_The_Pretender ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:08:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Good judgement comes from experience. And experience comes from bad judgement."
I_saw_your_dog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:13:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs life changing.
idsan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My father's by-line for life. Damned if it isn't true.
elushinz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:19:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You get what you need.
Cant_Do_This12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:21:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And if that fails, teach gym.
StinkMartini ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:48:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good judgement is the product of experience. Experience is the product of bad judgment.
tongmaster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:50:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok thanks alfred
CaptHayes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:21:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Experience is what you get when you kill a monster.
latte_overdose ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:49:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you. I didn't know I need to read this.
philippah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:55:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy moly, this is a game-changing way to think of it! Thank you!
dark_roast ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:02:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you don't get what you want, you'll find sometimes, you get what you need.
gearjammer93 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:10:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making Good decisions comes from experience and experience generally comes from making poor decisions
Tsorovar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:12:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's not even a piece of advice. It's just a useless platitude to make you feel better.
Clown_Will_Eat_Me ยท 2429 points ยท Posted at 00:20:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink Water. Drink more water. Never stop drinking water
AFrostNova ยท 636 points ยท Posted at 01:37:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I swim. Let me tell you that drinking water during practice is vital. Just donโt do it during a lap. That is probably pool water, and will not taste nice.
Source: frequently consume people soup well traversing it.
oneEYErD ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 04:11:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're telling me drinking pool water is bad? I've been bottling it from my neighbors for fifteen years...
takingtacet ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 04:00:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What, so Iโm just supposed to do butterfly with my mouth closed now? Psh
WreakingHavoc640 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 04:53:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I recently learned that thereโs a parasite that can live in chlorinated water for an hour to two weeks depending I guess on the temp of the water. Nasty little buggers too.
I always thought chlorine killed everything in its path, but apparently not...
Although there are some germs that are only killed by peroxide, so...just try not to think about it day to day lol.
fliengineer ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:56:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks I have to swim today....
WreakingHavoc640 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:32:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well I read itโs mostly in really unclean water like lakes and ponds especially in less developed countries. So I think youโre probably fine ๐๐ป. Unless youโre doing laps in a stagnant pond somewhere remote full of grossness ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ
[deleted] ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:31:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
the soup is made of People!
"sir, I must ask you to stop drinking the pool water."
Lolsebca ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:42:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sleeping soup of people ? Frequently ? It's good ?
Fething-Idiot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:23:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Could have went so much longer with out thinking of pool water as people soup. Youโve ruined me.
LeftOfCenter15 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:51:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No
ilumEmma ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:33:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People soup made me cry but not cry laughing
tsukiii ยท 59 points ยท Posted at 00:50:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just don't get to the water intoxication level...
Chakylin ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 02:00:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Came here to say this. Twice, I've had to go to the ER because of overhydration. It gets 110ยฐF here with 100% humidity, so I thought I was doing well. No, in fact I was diluting my blood so much that I started uncontrollably vomiting with added dizziness. Nearly fainted in class because of it.
Gauge how much you need to drink based on your urine. You want it to be barely yellow, but not clear.
not_old_redditor ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:21:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Other complicating medical factors? It's really hard to get to that point for a normal person.
Chakylin ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:31:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nothing that effects my water retention, sweating, or urinating. I have an oral fixation, so having a cup with a straw is really addicting for me. But in the back of my head, I always hears "never stop drinking" and fucked myself over.
Granted, I had SO much. But still, I thought I was doing good since it was summer and I was sweating and walking across my college campus.
suidazai ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:52:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hope you dont mind me asking, but where is โhereโ?
Chakylin ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:55:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
South United States
SharkSheppard ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:21:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like Houston.
Macadelic72 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:10:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was thinking more of Mississippi or Louisiana.
Fallenangel152 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:02:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is why the '8 pints a day' myth has stopped being circulated.
Proper advice is 'drink when you feel thirsty'.
OriolesFan83 ยท 113 points ยท Posted at 01:48:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/HydroHomies
Private_Donuts ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 02:04:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh I thought it was r/waternibbas
OriolesFan83 ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 02:05:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
reddit removed it because it said nibbas in it
Lochacho99 ยท 64 points ยท Posted at 02:27:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/waterniggas for life
Bone_Dice_in_Aspic ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:08:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Speed and pace of fuller hydration
not creed race color or nation
funkyaccountname ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:16:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Team Rocket, is that you?
lana_del_rey_lover ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:35:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh damn, is it still quarantined?? :/
IllegalAlcoholic ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 02:12:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh for fuck sakes, fuck reddit!
c0mplexx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:34:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not removed tho
Artemis8213 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:01:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Quarantined
Juswantedtono ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 01:38:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Especially if you want to win a Wii
TravieWhite ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:06:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always think of this when I drank a lot of water really fast
Maera420 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:23:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did this once. Several hours later, threw up mostly water. A lot of water. Cannot stress how much water came out of me. Very unpleasant. 10/10 ould not recommend.
tangerinelibrarian ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 01:48:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fun fact: babies shouldnโt drink a lot of water (like, a 10 month old shouldnโt really have more than 3 oz pure water a day) because it can be toxic to them. So yes never stop drinking water, except you babies. None for you.
betaich ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:16:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Water can also be toxic to adults. The levels for babies are just easier reached, because they are smaller and have less blood.
MajesticFlapFlap ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:00:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I see this advice alot. Are more people dehydrated or do you mean drink water instead of soda? How do I know if I'm already drinking enough water or I'm in denial of your advice?
_vatonage_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:54:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
PEE GANG PEE GANG
Bill_Ender_Belichick ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:26:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/waterniggas is leaking.
PotatoWHummus ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:43:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/waterniggas
Moving_Shit ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 01:55:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am guessing you're one of us, the r/waterniggas
None_yo_bidness ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:05:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never forget
soucy666 ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 02:02:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So pissed that /r/waterniggas got banned.
Enmyriala ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:37:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/hydrohomies now
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:39:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Technically it was only quarantined and the mods locked it.
Clutchking14 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:35:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A real r/hydrohomie
therealkingmixer ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:07:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/waterniggas
ShiraCheshire ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:24:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink soda, juice, or other sweet drinks when you want a dessert.
Drink water when you are thirsty.
sdcar1985 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:01:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if I want dessert all the time?
mercuryminded ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:48:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Something is wrong
sdcar1985 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:57:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then I don't wanna be right
akiramari ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 12:00:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
like what? this is actually a problem I have lol
_new-user_ ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:22:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instruction unclear. When do I stop? I wanna pee. So bad.
Elcium12 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:01:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never?
matlydy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:36:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Veteran?
DodgyBollocks ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:24:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me it was key to find a water I liked.
I hated drinking water because our well water is horrific and I didnโt like the bottled water my parents always bought. I bought a bottle of everything affordable at the store and tried them all till I found one that quenched my thirst and tasted good. Now after a good 5 years I actually CRAVE water, something I never thought would happen to me. It makes such a difference. That and carrying a water bottle 24/7 so I have instant access no matter where I am.
bellewallace ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:01:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I liked the water that came out of my fancy filter pitcher i got for my wedding, but it got lost in a recent move. Our new apartment's water is DISGUSTING. Unfortunately, the only bottled waters i like the taste of are Evian and Fiji. RIP my wallet.
coconutjuices ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:37:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
R/hydrohommies
tangerine29 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:28:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/HydroHomies gang
LonelyLokly ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:14:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you think you're hungry - drink water, if it doesn't help and it is not the time to eat - take the lightest snack you can find. Lost around 60 pounds doing just that and bare minimum of exercise.
LastStar007 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:07:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/waterniggas
Photon_Torpedophile ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:08:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/waterniggas
say592 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:51:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It helps!
I found the easiest way is to not try to drink more throughout the day (though you should), but rather pack it in a couple times. I have a cup that holds about 20oz, and a couple hours before bed I drink at least one, just down it. Then, about 30 minutes before bed I do it again. 30 minutes later I can pee some of it out and finally sleep. Even I wake up, down another 20oz before I start on something with caffeine.
Hydration is important, and water also helps flush our body out. Our kidneys rely on it to dilute all the shit they have been filtering all day.
tommytomtommctom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:05:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Except don't drink too much, it feels very weird
DieIsaac ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:20:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whats the deal with the hydration stuff? I am 31 so i guess i am to old and its not my generation. How did people survive without \hydrohomies or stuff like that? Is it really that much better to stay hydrated? Will you live longer? Tell me your secret?
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:34:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you asking if people drank water in older generations? Yeah... and they didn't need the help of a reddit support group to do it. I'm also 31 and I pretty much drink tea, coffee, and water. I've had maybe 5 sodas in the last year. I'll drink milk as well when there are cookies around.
DieIsaac ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:19:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No i mean this excessive water drinking. That its "in" to stay hydrated.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:19:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or you might die -mick jenkins
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:28:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, I see you've been to an Army doctor as well!
Downjumper ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:32:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/waterniggas
Marv_the_MassHole ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:40:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What am I, a camel?
akiramari ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:01:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what if drinking water makes your mouth and throat super dry
bellewallace ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:02:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try some different water. Sounds stupid but im serious. The fancy shit that is super basic ph makes my mouth feel weird.
akiramari ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:16:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
but tap water is free
bellewallace ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:17:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But mine smells like sulfur and is repulsive
akiramari ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:24:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
:( the water that comes up from my kitchen drain when someone in my building does laundry (I'm guessing) smells like sulfur, are you getting drain water in your taps? D:
bellewallace ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:34:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have called and called the office, and they do nothing. I have had so many issues with apartments, im just dealing until we move into a house.
bellewallace ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:18:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
SO SORRY i replied to the wrong thing. A water filter might help.
akiramari ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:22:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ooh, could do. I'm having a hard time finding just a glass water bottle, maybe ill add "with filter" to make the search impossible :P
bellewallace ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:32:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha i know that feeling! I like the Brita pitchers, but they take up alot of space and are no good on the go.
Bernard_PT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:08:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Adding to this, always carrying a water bottle is very helpful and assuredly you'll be carrying your water with you, therefore making you a true r/waterniggas member
Tempso ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:38:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
[r/waterniggas](reddit.com/r/waterniggas)
mchickenl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:59:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if youre dinking lots of water daily and get a headache that normally you'd associate with dehydration DO NOT drink more!! your actually over hydrated and could die!
_sarcasm_orgasm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:06:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/waterniggas
Sralladah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:12:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Found the real r/waterniggas brother
Edit: it's a sad day for
r/waterniggasr/waterbroscs399 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:43:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/waterniggas
ryguyflyhighwifi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:48:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/waterniggas
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r\waterniggas
p_velocity ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:27:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whenever you are at home you should have a glass of water nearby. When you visit someone else's house ask for a glass of water. When you are going for a drive make sure to fill your water bottle first.
You don't have to be always physically drinking water, but always be in the middle of drinking a glass of water.
MrsBox ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 07:43:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/nightvale seems like it's leaking again
theycallmetangerine ยท 2651 points ยท Posted at 23:29:51 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a problem looking at peopleโs shoulders while they were speaking instead of their face. I told a coworker my problem who said โwell just look at their ears, nobody can tell the differenceโ. Life changing, seriously, no one can tell the difference.
pickledrushes ยท 1694 points ยท Posted at 00:12:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if they do notice the difference but it's just too awkward to talk about the ear staring guy?
theycallmetangerine ยท 104 points ยท Posted at 00:26:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People asked why I was staring at their shoulders pretty frequently so I donโt think theyโd have a problem asking why Iโm looking at the ears if they noticed.
Trappedinacar ยท 84 points ยท Posted at 01:04:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe as they're about to ask they go "eh close enough, eyes ears whatever"
_Pure_Insanity_ ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 02:13:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They all wind up the same color in the end
tired_obsession ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:31:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the end?
fabmarques21 ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 09:05:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it doesn't even matter..
Almost_not_small ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 06:02:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wouldn't be so sure about that I can easily tell if someone looks at my eyes or somewhere else like my nose, wouldn't ask them about it though
AngryAmericanNeoNazi ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 07:07:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then you start to think there's something on your face
miakittycatmeow ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 02:55:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was about to say: I would probably notice them looking at my ears
Unskinny-Mop ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:40:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No one wants to be the ear staring guy.
hydr0n1um ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:40:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This made me chuckle. Thanks!
Creepy_OldMan ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:40:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can definitely notice when someone is not looking me in the eyes. I've noticed people looking at my mouth, my eyebrow, my nose, my dick, you name it! Puts me in a weird situation because then I can't tell if they are listening to me.
-evadne- ยท 468 points ยท Posted at 00:45:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've heard the nose is a good target.
100Nips ยท 599 points ยท Posted at 01:02:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think the space between the eyebrows is easier
rtj777 ยท 71 points ยท Posted at 01:47:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, no, no. The best method, if you're comfortable with it, is to spend about 2 seconds on the right eye, then move on to the left for another 2, then toward the forhead for the final two (or the lips, if you're flirting with them)
Staring at one place on someone looks creepy, and cam come across weird after a while
meno123 ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 03:47:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eh, studies have shown that you should aim for ~75% eye contact time. More takes you into the creepy/flirty zone, less takes you into the uninterested zone.
BananaNutJob ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 04:51:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I naturally maintain 100% eye contact if I'm not being mindful. So many people thought I was intentionally staring daggers at them. Pairs great with my RBF.
rtj777 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:59:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What's RBF?
Zenode ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 06:00:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Resting Bitch Face
ilovebaconmore ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:07:50 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
RBF is hot
rtj777 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:00:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Agreed, I forgot to mention you should look away every 10 seconds or so
prayingmantras ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 18:44:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Did you hear me"
"What? Sorry I was counting."
rtj777 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:13:39 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It becomes unconscious after a while, but yeah for the first few times that's pretty much it lol
terminbee ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:26:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My eyes start watering when I do eye contact. No idea why.
MillingGears ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:44:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Guessing general anxiety.
GalerionTheAnnoyed ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:32:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mmm...too hot for you?
redredditar ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:13:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
:( If I look into the eyes I don't pay attention/listen. It becomes very hard for me I don't know why.
MachineGunTeacher ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:18:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a lazy eye and when people do this I think it's because they're weirded by the eye.
BananaNutJob ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:48:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just crossing the T's and dotting the...lower case j's.
akeetlebeetle4664 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:10:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you...uh, my doctor?
rtj777 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:17:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your doctor?
akeetlebeetle4664 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:05:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like something my doctor would do during an exam.
rtj777 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:14:21 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
..Maybe if you had eye problems lol
vicaphit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:17:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I change eyes too. Though I get uncomfortable talking to someone with a lazy eye, because I don't know if they want me to look at it or not.
kitsunevremya ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 01:48:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Terrible if they have a unibrow tho
100Nips ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:49:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, definitely
jospence ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:40:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So this explains why no one talks to me!
100Nips ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:40:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No wonder
prayingmantras ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:47:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In this case you just trace your eyes around the perimeter of the brow in a loop.
MCCGuy ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:01:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
or the lips while licking your lips
100Nips ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:22:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's certainly one way to do it
Sir_Wheat_Thins ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:43:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this only because I dont know which eye to look at and I tend to flick my eyes between them and then they just look at me like I'm crazy
BakinToast ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:28:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The point is to focus on their third eye.
100Nips ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:29:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is mildly horrifying when you dont know where that is
BakinToast ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:31:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They probably just brought a potato, no worries.
BananaNutJob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:52:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pineal gland, traditionally.
SpiralArc ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:55:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
( อกยฐ อส อกยฐ)
AntsPantsPlants ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:37:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whoa now. We're getting way too close to the eyes
100Nips ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:38:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a very dangerous tactic
Sevy3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:35:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a co-worker with two wonky eyes, so a split the difference and look between her eyes.
Cky_vick ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:09:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But I can't see the third eye, I'm blind to it
prayingmantras ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:49:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I understand.
lil-sesamesnap ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:50:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was reading something on body language and I remember being surprised to find that if you stare above someone's eyes it can be a power move, but not in a good way. Like, don't do it to your boss because they won't feel respected. But to put that ass hole who won't stop shoving their opinions down your throat? Stare away. They actually shut up quicker.
BananaNutJob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:53:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stare at their hairline, it makes them think something is wrong.
Jakob_W_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:25:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hahaha "between" the brows
ABM_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:31:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The centre of the unibrow.
CrimsonMarshal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:04:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's an old sales trick. Works for Dwight. Works for me.
halborn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:48:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is starting to sound like eye contact with extra steps.
II_Confused ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:09:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tend to go for the forehead.
prayingmantras ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:43:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've heard the area between the balls and the butt hole is ideal.
JagoFleming ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:09 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless they have a unibrow. From a guy who has to tidy my eyebrows once a week people get very self-conscious when they think you've noticed they have one...
thirstyross ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:04:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not, people think they have something in their nose but you aren't telling them...
Garfield-1-23-23 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:17:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I flick back and forth between the person's eyes because I can't decide which eye I should be looking at. This is why I mainly socialize with pirates.
PiercedGeek ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:25:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Careful, that can be hazardous. Once I realized the tip of Sarah Michelle Gellar's nose would bob up and down as she speaks, I was never able to unsee it.
ilovebaconmore ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:10:25 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ever see her whole her head bob up and down ?
hodgepodgeaustralia ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:00:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A little off topic, but looking at someoneโs nose instead of in the eye is a great way to win a staring competition as well.
ilovebaconmore ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:10:53 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you'd be disqualified - thats a violation
did-it-for-the-KARMA ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:47:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's where i aim
Rosie4491 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:30:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But I'm always self conscious of my fat nose so I can't stare are others' noses
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just stare intensely into people's eyes.
That's a lie. I usually get distracted by things in the room or distance and speak to people while looking around. If it's an important conversation I can force myself to look at them for a short period. But it becomes agonising after a while.
telleisnotreal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:16:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless they have visible nose hair.
ilovebaconmore ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:07:16 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
eyes,, breasts,,, then back to eyes,,,, chicks love this approach
chanandlerbong420 ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 02:22:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's a world of difference between staring at someone's nose and looking then right in the pupil. It's very easy to tell the difference; I'm not sure who's perpetuating this.
[deleted] ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 07:29:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ye looking at someones ear is 100% noticeable, sorry to say OP, but they most likely know. Maybe try and look at the space between the eyes, I am not sure someone would always notice that.
[deleted] ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 01:44:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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theycallmetangerine ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:54:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can see this has come across as me as limited social skills however this is not the case, looking at their ears helped me break my self confidence issues with looking at people directly. However I work with VERY direct people who give great constructive criticism and if they thought I was looking at them funny they wouldnโt hesitate to tell me.
Felgh01 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:47:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I've literally seen a comment on Reddit that suggested looking at a person's ears in response to "what is a good way to subtly freak someone out".
It worked when tried on me, also people can definitely tell when you look at their mouths too
dwmfives ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 02:31:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, we can. It's super obvious.
MajesticFlapFlap ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:59:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Um I can tell which eye you're looking at if we're within arm distance.
FrostyAutumnMoss ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:36:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One of my biggest internal cringes is when I'm speaking with someone whose eyes look in two different places and I look at the wrong eye.
natural_distortion ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:48:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what the fuck is happening behind me?
stargate-command ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:06:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can absolutely tell if someone is looking at my ear instead of my eyes. Your friend must have been shitting you.
TheCylonsAreHere ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:11:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a problem with this, and now Iโm able to look right into peopleโs eyes while talking to them without breaking contact. The trick is to study their eyes โ what color are they exactly? Do they have flecks of other colors in there? How dilated are their pupils? What about their eyelashes? How long? What color?
Eventually it stopped being a problem, and people respond really well to direct eye contact.
theycallmetangerine ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:17:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt have this Issue anymore and Iโm very social but hopefully this helps someone else!
punchyredpanda ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:04:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just tried. This is BS. Lol
nor312 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:08:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practice staring at strangers until they look away, that will normalize you to how much time people are willing to look someone else in the eye. Then warm up to people you know.
CiDevant ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:54:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I watch the mouth, I have a hard time hearing.
matlydy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:34:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like to look over someone's shoulder while they're speaking. It makes them uncomfortable and they always turn around confused thinking someone is behind them. When they look back at me I'm looking at their eyes like I normally do and act confused as to why they turned around.
icallshenannigans ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:48:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you met that cockeyed kid from accounting?
mycatisreallyfat ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:19:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh shit I stare at people's mouths while they talk. When I mentioned it to my boyfriend, he said he could always tell something was off but couldn't tell where I was looking. I'm going to have to try this!
ScaredyCatUK ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:31:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this not because "something's a little off", but because I'm a little bit deaf. So I'm listening *and* watching what they are saying.
princessgama ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:06:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Between the eyes is pretty useful to
bossycloud ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:13:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always stare at one of their eyes. Never both, just one. Not really sure why.
ilovebaconmore ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:12:43 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
the brown eye ?
tightcats ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:15:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tbh, as someone who also struggles with eye contact, direct eye contact is way better. I can tell if someone isn't looking right at my eyes. I try to figure out people's eye color as my trick to make eye contact.
moose256 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:50:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did people think you were staring at their chest?
Guest2424 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:53:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had this for years as a teenager. I had trouble looking at people's faces too. I would focus on a point behind their head while I'm talking to them. Which means I can look like I'm looking at them in the eyes, but I'm really not. It helped for me to get used to looking at their faces for real.
moosecatoe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I suggest looking at their nose, especially if they have a lazy eye or something that you dont want to subconsciously stare at.
RavenMoonRose ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a really hard time looking people in the eyes, so I pick a spot on their forehead, or between the brows to stare at. No one has ever called me on it.
ogresaregoodpeople ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:43:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another variation is to pick one eye.
apetoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:46:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chin works, too.
DStevie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:59:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look at their forehead.
Kataphractoi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:26:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Now this is a real LPT.
FrostyAutumnMoss ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:39:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So like Newt Scarmander in Fantastic Beasts and where to Find Them?
mortimereredann ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:47:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm the kind of person who just can't stare at the face of the person (especially not the eyes) when they're talking and being talked to (I'd have to try the ears I guess), it makes me feel anxious and uneasy. What do people usually think of this?
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:20:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this too.
I don't know if this is accurate, its just my perception based on knowing myself, understanding my c-ptsd and gaining the knowledge that I've probably been on the Autism spectrum my whole life... but I think people perceive it as being sketchy or a sign of being dishonest/manipulative because when I'm talking, I look everywhere except for at the person with the exception of glancing to intentionally make eye contact so that they won't think I'm fabricating or manipulating. I can't win for losing because that is still manipulation. Social interaction is exhausting!!
plethoralaura ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:06:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a hard time looking at people's eyes without basically brain dissecting them noticing every little color til I am tuning the person out and making them and me uncomfortable by staring too intensely, so I look back and forth between cheeks and eyebrows. not a problem anymore
timmyhunter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:10:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Funny, I was taught to use this trick to intentionally make people feel uncomfortable when talking to them because it seems like you're looking through the person
cruznick06 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:43:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I look at the bridge of the nose or the forehead. Ears is a great suggestion.
Yteburk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:51:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think Id notice
RubberDuckHuh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:14:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eyebrows are always a good spot too.
LorenzOhhhh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:23:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
people can't tell that you're not looking them in the eye as you're staring at their ears? what lol
ThreeNips ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:23:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not really right... I have a scar above one of my eyes. I notice every single time when new people's eyes drift to it. Maybe if you were looking at my ears when I'm talking to you I'd notice it wasn't my eyes? but that is kinda weird tbh.
wizardkoer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:57:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But if you wanna look them in the eye, which eye do you look at?
brian_lopes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:14:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lol they can definitely tell the difference. You can tell if someone is looking at your eyebrows or your eyes and thatโs a much smaller distance than eyes to ears
Ur_mothers_keeper ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:50:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They can, they just think you're Cross-eyed and don't want to say anything.
ShiningLightsx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:05:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, you can tell straight away when people arenโt looking at your eyes. Even when people look at your brows you can tell.
Iโd say the only safe-ish place would be the nose in between the eyes.
SinkTube ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:43:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what's with the obsession with staring at eyes anyway? i've never done it or noticed anyone else do it IRL. just look at the face in general, hyperfocusing on any one feature is weird
same with the public speaking advice to pick a spot on the wall behind your audience. that's fucking weird. let your gaze move over the crowd so everyone feels like they're being addressed
ShiningLightsx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:25:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, but when you look at someoneโs face it should be in the general direction of their eyes, not just some random spot or behind them.
Itโs not so much an obsession, just more so considered rude if you canโt look at someone while talking. It could come off as not paying attention to whatโs being said, or somewhat implying that whatโs being said is not deemed important enough to hold your attention.
No ones saying stare at them intently, you can break it here or there to look elsewhere so itโs not tense. But you canโt just get away with not ever doing it imho.
SinkTube ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:00:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
that's mainly because the eyes are in the middle of the face. there's nothing wrong with giving equal attention to the rest of it. but the advice is always phrased like the intention is to appear to be focusing specifically on the eyes
ShiningLightsx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:25:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, not really. My point was that itโs actually extremely noticeable when someone looks anywhere on your face but your eyes.
Itโs kinda distracting and rude. Imagine trying to have a conversation with someone who is just staring intently at your chin.
I looked at my friends forehead for a split second once. She was all over it, demanding that I tell her what was on her face or why was I staring.
p0ddie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:25:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If someone is cross eyed and you are unsure which eye to look into, look at the bridge of their nose.
jorg2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:42:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bridge of the nose van also work. anywhere on the face really, people don't notice a small divergence from looking them in the eyes.
__fruitloop__ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:01:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lemme try this. I have trouble keeping eye contact
L_S_Ml_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:38:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey man, trust me, people know. Or at least suspect something is off. But don't worry.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:18:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hear that looking just above their head works too. Maybe that's just if you're far away, though, like on a stage.
hogwashnola ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:31:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a similar problem staring at peopleโs mouths when theyโre talking close to me. Especially if theyโre wearing sunglasses. Iโm sure it looks super weird haha.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:33:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I usually focus on looking at the middle of their face, right above the eyes. It looks like you're looking right at them so they can't even tell
Riggor_Mortis01 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:41:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm sorry, but when people look at my ears I assume I have visible ear wax and it makes me feel self-unconscious.
Gulquan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:43:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Here's some science to back you up.
New research debunks importance of eye contact https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2019/02/190205102532.htm
PixieQuirks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:37:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This may be a golden trick for keeping the eyes level in acting
Thluks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:02:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why not the eyes?
Extizy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:35:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
You could also look on the top of their nose, between the eyes. I do this everytime when I get uncomfortable, and it helps a lot
petergerling ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:01:39 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just now signed up for reddit just to comment on this nonsense!!!! That is how you LITERALLY try to drive someone crazy!!!! Not being able to hold eye contact is bad enough but looking past the eyes and focusing on the ear is something Iโve done to prove how insane that is!!!! If you honestly think that is an option you should be in a mental institution kept away from society... it would be the best for all of us!!!! Seriously, you are disturbed and should be locked up if you really think that is a good idea!!!! That is how insane your post is!!!! It is soooo amazingly insane to think you can stare at peopleโs ears to avoid eye contact I really feel like I should report someone like you to, well, somebody that can help!
JagoFleming ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:44:07 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I focus on eyebrows
SubaruOtter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:42:39 on September 16, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I heard somewhere (no pun) that looking just past someone (or ears) helps you to hear as the ears are angled better to receive the sound. Double win!
ShiraCheshire ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. Nose, forehead, ears, just about anywhere on the head and people can't tell the difference. I'm autistic and just can't make eye contact, I can't do it. But once I started looking at other parts of the head instead of shoulders, people starting thinking I had learned to tolerate eye contact.
Almost_not_small ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:08:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is simply wrong, some people maybe can't, but a lot of people can for sure and just don't say anything
ShiraCheshire ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:41:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eh maybe. I have had several people at least act surprised when I mention I don't make eye contact, as they hadn't noticed. So it works sometimes at least, and isn't so bad for anyone who might notice that they bring it up.
Before I started doing that I had people like aggressively staring at me trying to get me to meet their eyes, or stopping in the middle of conversation to tell me to look at them.
ryebread91 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:00:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if you run into someone without ears?
Specter1125 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:44:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I look at their nose
Binksyboo ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:07:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Right above their eyes is a good spot, like on their forehead. Also random weird fact, if you are looking directly at them and then change suddenly to look over their shoulder, it will really freak them out. Our primitive instincts kick in and we wonder what is right behind us!
KalePanic- ยท 1212 points ยท Posted at 01:43:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom told me to spend good money on the things that separate you from the ground: tires, shoes, mattress. I finally bought good not cheap shoes and life was SIGNIFICANTLY better. They last so much longer and my back and posture improved too. Sheโs not wrong about tires and a mattress either
thebakerWeld ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 04:39:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Work Boots!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't tell you how many people work 40hr a week in the cheapest work Boots from Walmart and complain of hip and back pain.
acer34p3r ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:30:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had the same pair of hiking/combat boots (5.11 atacs storms) going on 6 years now. 7 states, 30+ trips, even use them in the winter if it gets bad enough out because they're leather and waterproof with great traction in the soles (imo). Very happy I dished the extra $$ over the cheaper option (Bates) I was considering.
KR21980 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:04:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you figured out how to prevent the heels inside the work boots from wearing out? Is there something you can buy to possibly even glue to it? I find that area wears out after a year or so from me just putting my foot inside or pulling it out of the boot. Any tips?
aDIYkindOFguy88 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:17:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look up a shoe horn
TinyCatCrafts ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 04:42:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I upgraded from $20 store brand shoes to $60 name brand. Feet felt so much better.
Couple years have gone by and I started having hip pain. After a checkup with a doctor, I was advised to get better shoes.
So now I have $120 shoes that were chosen for me by a shoe specialist at a local small business.
My hip doesnt hurt nearly as much anymore and it's probably the best $120 I've ever spent.
InjuredAtWork ยท 55 points ยท Posted at 06:12:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The reason that the rich were so rich, Vimes reasoned, was because they managed to spend less money.
Take boots, for example. He earned thirty-eight dollars a month plus allowances. A really good pair of leather boots cost fifty dollars. But an affordable pair of boots, which were sort of OK for a season or two and then leaked like hell when the cardboard gave out, cost about ten dollars. Those were the kind of boots Vimes always bought, and wore until the soles were so thin that he could tell where he was in Ankh-Morpork on a foggy night by the feel of the cobbles.
But the thing was that good boots lasted for years and years. A man who could afford fifty dollars had a pair of boots that'd still be keeping his feet dry in ten years' time, while the poor man who could only afford cheap boots would have spent a hundred dollars on boots in the same time and would still have wet feet.
This was the Captain Samuel Vimes 'Boots' theory of socioeconomic unfairness.
sluggernate ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:44:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good words from Mom!
vile_doe_nuts ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:28:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just wait till you buy a new mattress! Purple Bed was a life changer for me
HeyZeus_Christ ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:38:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Absolutely agreed! High quality shoes and mattresses are great for your posture and your back. Plus as an added benefit, they'll most likely last longer. With that being said, "expensive" doesn't always mean good. Be sure to do your research before buying and don't immediately go for the most expensive item. Lots of times there are cheaper options that are close to the same quality or in some cases even better. Allen Edmonds is a good example of that in the shoe world. They're expensive but not designer brand expensive, can be found on sale (especially factory seconds which often have practically unnoticeable damage), and will last you a lot longer than shoes from DSW while also looking a lot better.
Noctec ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 07:14:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is true. I spent a bit over 1200 swiss francs for my mattress. If people call me crazy for it I usually tell them. "A mattress will be good for around ten years. Which makes this mattress cost me 120 francs a year and 10 francs a month and you really want to tell me a good sleep isn't worth less than a franc a day?"
Ndosbeos ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:21:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My 400 dollar chair is so much better than my dad's 20 dollar chair.
acer34p3r ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:32:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never hesitate to dish more $$ on a quality chair. Really helped the office job suck less.
BananaNutJob ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:19:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mattress is one of my most important possessions. I don't have chronic pain, but I am definitely at an elevated risk of changing that and have had some previews of how it feels. Never skimp on protecting your body if you have any choice at all in the matter.
Rikolas ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:58:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good tires are the difference between crashing and not crashing. Don't scrimp on tyres ever. Shoes wont make you crash but will hurt your feet
Protton6 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:46:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My friends laugh at me for spending so much money for my matress while these dumbasses... one lives in a dorm on a matress so bad and dirty I could vomit, the other has mama-hotel still.
So what I spent 500 dollars for a matress? It was 50% off, it is HUGE, I love it, my GF loves it, it has smart foam on top and it will serve me for at least 6 years. I can spend 500 dollars every 6 years, and it will probably last even more.
Mrs_Doyles_Tea ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:48:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thats what I told my daughter's also. And a good coat. It's cold here.
wastingmypotential1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:30:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like a sales pitch for yeezys.
brian_lopes ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:18:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is your mom /r/circlejerk?
Grunge_bob ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:40:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow, this is really really smart.
DijonAndPorridge ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't forget a chair.
rauwlypts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:39:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is also good advice for eating healthy.
seems_fishy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:29:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's honestly some really good mattresses on Amazon for cheap. You don't have to spend 2-3,000 for a mattress got a good night sleep. Most of the ones online have a 90 day return. Take advantage of that. Buy a decent one online, listening to the reviews, and if you don't like it, don't feel guilty returning it. Sleep is very important to how your entire life goes, you just don't have to spend thousands to get a good night rest though
simat8 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:42:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha cool,I sorta arrived to this conclusion at age of 30 lol! Anything you spend a large amount of time using should always be good quality. Shoes, Seat & Matress were big ones!
FlippingPossum ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:57:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I went to a running store to get fitted for sneakers. Amazing experience and I love my shoes.
I had Morton's Nueroma in my left foot. So many podiatrist visits could possibly have been avoided by wearing good shoes.
ThePenultimateOne ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:53:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously, this advice has saved my feet. This is the first time I have had a pair of shoes last more than a year since I was like 8 years old. And I put lots of miles on them.
JADW27 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:14:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When buying nice shoes, ask the salesman what he wears. He's on his feet all day, paid to look good, and forgot more about shoes this morning than you will ever know.
uncoveringlight ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:09:26 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I disagree on tires. Iโve used the same tires for 6 years and they were the cheapest POS tires they had. Just donโt drive like a maniac and your treads should stay good for quite awhile.
YourDadsUsername ยท 2814 points ยท Posted at 01:42:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When it comes to smoking cigarettes or weed it's easy to do it all the time, easy to never do it, damn hard to only do it once in a while.
Mailman_Malone ยท 723 points ยท Posted at 02:25:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I needed to hear this. Thank you, papa.
Fakecar ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:38:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/petioles
Suicidal_Narcissist ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 06:35:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Took me a second to figure out why you called them "papa."
da_dum_dum ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 08:59:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ha! It took me 0.5 seconds to figure it out! I'm the better son.
DEADMANJOSHUA ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:34:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You'll never be like your Grandfather though; he could do it in 0.35 seconds!
You bring nothing but dishonour to the family name!
onngh_yanngh ยท 209 points ยท Posted at 03:00:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Incidentally, the same is true of heroin. ๐ฌ
(/ 5.5 years clean)
ajisawwsome ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 03:24:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Congratulations!!!
HehTheUrr ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 03:33:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In my experience, never doing heroin (again) is not easy at all.
Though I do congratulate you because that's fucking amazing!
MaleAryaStarksNoHomo ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:04:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im in the middle of trying to help a family member get help now. Iโm really her only family thatโs trying to help and I donโt know what to do. I applaud you for getting the help you need!!
MrBojangles528 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:20 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe help her get with an addiction specialist who can get her on some medication-assistance, like Suboxone. Even if she just maintains with that forever it's a miracle compared to continuing to use heroin. It's probably one of the most important medications to come out recently.
aJcubed ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:30:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
6.5 years clean here, keep up the good work! You are in my thoughts!
onngh_yanngh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:40 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getttttt itttttt! :)
AtariDump ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:25:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look up the tale of /u/SpontaneousH
https://www.reddit.com/user/SpontaneousH
SilkyGazelleWatkins ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:10:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake af to anybody whos actually done heroin
AtariDump ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:42:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How so (just curious - not disbelieving you)?
LeDolceVita ยท 56 points ยท Posted at 02:49:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
well put. can verify this one as i like to smoke both casually on weekends but always end up doing it by myself on a weeknight for no reason
Wafflexboy ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 05:34:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Occasionally smoking by yourself isn't necissarily a bad thing. Sometimes it's nice to just chill by myself. I don't always get alone time without something on my mind
nobutternoparm ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 03:06:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not impossible, but yes, hard to keep it under control. I've had times where i found myself smoking every night for weeks, but I find as long as I make a conscious effort to keep it under control and do stuff OTHER than smoke weed, it evens itself out.
TheVeryAngryHippo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:16:11 on May 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it's the self control where most fall short (myself included)
I used to always put rules in place but you can always find a reason to allow yourself a cheat day which turns into smoking every day before you realise you've allowed it to get that far.
EmperorsarusRex ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 05:27:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being poor and liking food more than weed helps
joe_beardon ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 06:47:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Especially a double whammy because when you do smoke the problem becomes โI ate the rest of my groceries for the week while stoned, now what?โ
[deleted] ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 05:05:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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jonmcconn ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 05:27:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, it might just be me being bad at weed but I have to basically plan a whole night around it. It's just almost never practical and becomes a once or twice a year thing.
Fireproofjeans ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 08:22:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I prefer edibles personally, and they very much have this problem.
But I can do it pretty much every friday. Have a few friends over, we get absolutely ripped, and just have a good time. It's replaced drinking for me entirely.
Crookmeister ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 08:28:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Once you get a tolerance for weed you become able to do your normal things. This is when it's hard to do occasionally.
tiellekelle ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 03:34:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I quit smoking weed at the beginning of April for this reason. Prior years had been a cycle of stopping and slowly getting back to a point where I smoked every day again.
Cold turkey baby. No desire to go back. Makes me a loser.
twincityraider ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:06:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
doesnโt make you a loser at all! i quit cigs cold turkey in january and weed a month ago. your lungs, brain, and family will thank you in the long run
tiellekelle ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 04:09:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I meant being baked all the time made me a loser. Not doing well in classes, lying to girlfriend and family... You get the picture.
Brain is already thanking me. Memory already working better.
Beardy_Will ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:29:23 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I quit smoking it about 3 weeks ago, as it got to the point where I would come home from work and the first thing I would do is smoke a joint. Everything else was secondary. I smoked it almost every day for 15 years.
I'll still have a toke if I'm out with friends, but I'll never get stoned on my own at home again.
Good on you.
pooterification ยท 50 points ยท Posted at 02:36:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love my relationship with weed which is only smoking occasionally. Too much makes me a glutton and a sloth, not enough makes me too out of touch.
deepthot42 ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 02:45:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im a regular โTwo puff McGruffโ
pooterification ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:48:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha! I love that nickname almost as much as I love having to take 2 puffs to get high!
Wafflexboy ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:36:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The guy who introduced me used this all the time when I'd smoke his stuff. I was really disappointed when I later learned that I wasn't one, he just had really nice weed. Shits expensive.
drinksriracha ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:23:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I smoke it every other day or so when I get home from work. I'm really productive the rest of my day so I don't see smoking as an issue in smoking to unwind and relax.
Orangebeardo ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 09:29:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My body wants that amazing high you get when you haven't smoked for a few weeks, but every day.
I'm not very good at saying no to my body.
ickystickydicky ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:13:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cigs, sure. Weed really depends on the person. I have friends who definitely smoke too much, but I have always been fine just being an occasional - couple a week with friends or after work - weed smoker.
hansonhols ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 07:37:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This.
I can't just be a weekend smoker.
Its either everyday or not at all.
They say weed is not addictive, but it is. The night sweats when i stop smoking confirm this.
TheVeryAngryHippo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:19:25 on May 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this! the insomnia was real and then once you actually do get to sleep you wake up soaking wet. Nearly 2 years without smoking dope for me. If you'd asked me if I'd ever stop smoking a 5 years ago I'd have said 100% no.
cruisecontrol34 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:07:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, I honestly only smoke either when Iโm drunk. Have no interest when Iโm sober.
OffBrand_Soda ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:36:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I smoke weed about once a week, but cigarettes only sound good when I'm drunk.
SwipySwoopShowYoBoob ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:49:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Personally, I'm a kind of guy that smokes when has it, cigarettes or weed. I buy the former to roll the blunts and find myself working out what is left in the pack for the next couple of weeks. If it comes to weed, I usually get myself something for the weekend, but if I don't finish it I catch myself smoking almost every night till it's gone. Now I'm close to two weeks without weed and don't crave it at all.
loonygecko ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:39:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never had a prob smoking weed only rarely, in college is was once every few months, now it is more like once every few years. Last time I did, I noticed it really screwed up my sports abilities for a few days afterwards so not sure if I will do it again any time soon. Now nicotine, that stuff is WAY more addictive. I took one inhalation of my friend's vape and I could already feel the addiction trying to take hold, a part of my brain was already saying that was interesting, do it again! (I didn't though).
Edited to add: I HAVE known peeps much more susceptible to weed than me though, so it's probably a bit of a Russian Roulette situation.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:01:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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loonygecko ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:14:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The thing with vapes is they don't smell nasty at all if the flavor is good. That's why I was interested to try it although I had never wanted to touch stinky cigarettes. I can totally see why vapes make it easier to get addicted, but on the flip side, I've known peeps that got off their nicotine addiction using vapes as well, by slowly cutting back nicotine content in the juice.
mimosabloom ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:37:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They do smell nasty, just not as gross as cigs. Had someone staying with us (who would not stop vaping inside) for a short time and I had fake-sweet coconut-cherry-toffee-vanilla-retch flavor stuck to and irritating the back of my throat the whole time. It smells fucking gross and people who don't think they have to follow the same rules that cig smokers have to, are wrong and probably assholes.
loonygecko ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:44:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think a lot depends on the quality and flavor of the juice, a lot of the low quality ones smell bad, some of the better quality ones smell quite good actually at least IMO.
StrahansToothGap ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:32:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I could do it in moderation I'd do it all the time!
ali_sez_so ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:40:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You are damn right. It is easy for me to quit smoking cold turkey but when I buy a pack hoping to do it once in a while, i finish the whole pack in a day
FookingBlinders ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:12:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For anyone who is struggeling: r/leaves
moose256 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:46:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same with alcohol. At least for me it is.
TheTrueHapHazard ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:55:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never smoke cigarettes amd smoke weed maybe once every 3-4 months. I only ever smoke it when offered and not even close to everytime as pretty much everyone I know is a daily smoker. I've never found myself craving it. I do drink though but not crazy amounts. I love craft beers but sometimes I just decide not to drink for a couple months. I also never drink coffee which most people find weird when they offer me some and I tell them. Addictive substances are what you make of them and willpower goes a long way.
Nicolay77 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:41:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can only do the hard version. Or, I have tried a few times and went for the never do it.
Zuphixavex ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:25:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That must be my superpower
DormeDwayne ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:17:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is true for most things - sugar, meat, processed food, porn, swearing, using (or not using) a seat belt, flossing - itโs always hrdest to do sth โin moderationโ because it reuires conscious effort and we are lazy. What you always or never do doesnโt require any effort, itโs just autopilot.
Misslondony ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:18:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same with phones/tv
NotAToasterEXE ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:24:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is probably the one I've related to the most on here, you're damn right Dad
getpossessed ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:19:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I needed this too. Currently smoke 2 packs a day and an oz. a month. Iโm literally always smoking and Iโm in my 30โs and I can tell a major difference in my breathing abilities. You know, the thing thatโs supposed to come to us without thinking about it.
Cky_vick ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:08:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Quit weed back in November, those fucking dreams are still insane
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brad218 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 12:09:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In terms of general population i suspect you may be right, but framed towards person who has addiction issues it's a very sound piece of advice.
drinksriracha ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:26:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, I'd equate weed to chocolate cake. It's really hard not to have a slice of chocolate cake for dessert every day if it's just sitting in your fridge.
Moderatlystoned ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:02:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I never smoke weed
terminbee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:11:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't say about cigarettes but I only smoke weed once in a while. Used to do it more regularly in high school but now I only do it once or twice a year maybe, whenever someone is feeling it.
Masterloverofwomen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:13:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly doesnt apply to me with weed. I'm a very occasional smoker of it. But I could see it happening with people that have addiction issues
secretbetta ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:40:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does this apply to drinking? Iโve always wanted to try wine but Iโve never drank before. I like the smell of red wine but Iโve always been out of the house or the driver so I refrain from drinking anything.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:37:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
6 months clean here. Yes, MUCH MUCH easier to cut out alcohol entirely than futile attempts at moderation.
hogey74 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:57:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always figured that but now the damn hard one is how I am. I reckon I am still in column A but there are too many other things I'd rather be doing!
jpfalk1997 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:10:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I seemed to have mastered this. Had an issue toking up too much at one point but after 4 months of a t-break I was able to just do it once a week give or take. It does get harder tho if I smoke two days in a row, but overall just keeping it to social settings or when I truly just wanna unwind works wonders.
badmadcat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:11:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think it depends on the person, I used to smoke weed every day, but then it got boring and I didn't feel like being high all the time, so now I only smoke occasionally, with friends. I don't remember the last time I smoked it up alone, for no reason.
QuentinTarzantino ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:47:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Word
paddi980 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:15:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me this is really easy actually. I think it would be way harder for me to do something all the time or never at all. I just like being conscious and having control over myself too much to be constantly stoned/drunk/on drugs. Once in a while its like a nice vacation but I dont like doing it regularly.
LordOfSun55 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:32:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dunno, I have no problems smoking weed only once a month or so.
stuber_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:51:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im managing that right now though
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:54:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
for like the past year or 2 I've been smoking like a ciggy a week/every 2 weeks just to relax me at the weekend. Will I eventually become a chain smoker?
S2G ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:48:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ive not found that for weed, I smoke once every few months, casually with friends, and dont really feel like smoking more, and my friends are the same.
lewright ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:05:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Weed is easy to smoke all the time if you have nothing else to do. I went from smoking an ounce every 2 weeks to making a quarter last that long just by getting busy with fixing my house and not having a job that makes me super depressed and pissed off. Obviously this is anecdotal but it is possible to smoke less weed but not stop
Dread-Ted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:36:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really not true lol.
SoraDevin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:16:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've not found this to be the case with weed, personally
Cameltotem ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:07:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ive tried, overrated, unhealthy. Why would i try it again
Yteburk ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 06:50:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No not so hard to do it once in a while
PretzelStikz ยท 4411 points ยท Posted at 23:12:59 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't stop or change what you are doing when giving oral sex to a female
ndhlpplse ยท 2689 points ยท Posted at 23:34:44 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Specifically, at least for me, when Iโm about to cum donโt suddenly go SUPER HARD. Itโs probably different for everyone but man, the number of times Iโve lost an orgasm because of this
refreshing_username ยท 1444 points ยท Posted at 23:53:52 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So very true, for both genders I think. That thing you're doing that feels so good? DONT CHANGE IT when I get close.
Tofon ยท 63 points ยท Posted at 03:46:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is not true for most men, and itโs why we naturally want to go harder/faster as you get closer. Because thatโs what works for us.
Jordaneer ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 04:57:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My ex was going down on me, and when I told her I was close, she'd try to speed up, which half the time made me lose my erection, whereas if I was going down on her, even if my jaw was on fire, I'd keep going if she seemed like she was close.
nicoliest_of_nicoles ยท 65 points ยท Posted at 02:12:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So hard as a woman with a small mouth, my jaw needs a break. The last thing my husband wants is a biter LOL
Bone_Dice_in_Aspic ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 08:45:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's no way anyone could comfortably fellate me as long as it would take to give me an orgasm. It wouldn't be a reasonable request. Bless those who have tried, I appreciated it.
nicoliest_of_nicoles ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 17:02:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If he wants me to give him a bj with a happy ending, we have to prep for like a week so heโs quick to cum, by prep I mean withhold sex. Otherwise itโs a 20min ordeal and I just canโt.
anniewolfe ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:59:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. I hear ya.
Parodelia12501 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:36:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Still makes good foreplay though right?
Skeedamida ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:47:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs nothing to LOL about...
nicoliest_of_nicoles ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:03:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre correct, I redact my LOL
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 07:09:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, for most guys we pick up the pace the closer we get. However, that's a super useful piece of information about women. It's very counter-intuitive from our perspective.
Not_The_Real_Odin ยท 67 points ยท Posted at 01:13:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But what if my goal is to edge you for a while and then let you "arrive" when I want you to? :P
refreshing_username ยท 58 points ยท Posted at 02:15:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds delightful!...and what you're describing is intentionally not having me cum, which is different from suddenly getting harder/faster amd wondering why I don't :-)
Zaudi133 ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 01:30:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes
fox_ontherun ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 02:26:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No thank you. That would just piss me off and I'd probably lose the mood. If I've come once, it's gonna happen again more easily, and it's likely to happen again when you're coming.
[deleted] ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 03:12:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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moosecatoe ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:33:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly! I nearly punched a hole in the wall when my ex did this. He didnt understand why I was so frustrated. It HURT!
[deleted] ยท -9 points ยท Posted at 05:00:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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matt1579 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 05:49:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah accident
moosecatoe ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:02:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We dont need therapy because were not talking about accidental anal. Were talking about edging.
ClassiestRobin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:35:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup
762Rifleman ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 02:34:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For guys we normally want the same motion, more intensity. It's hard for us to break that habit after decades of masturbation and sex with that being true.
nobutternoparm ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 02:56:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've actually found going just a tiny bit slower to delay but not lose the orgasm makes it that much more intense ๐
Fyrestar333 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:03:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ugh losing an orgasm sucks especially if you were right there
ImGrompy ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:00:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read this all the time yet get a different experience and hear the opposite from friends. I'm sure there's people who like it both ways.
NotTheHeroWeNeed ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:00:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop squeezing my head between your thighs then, because I have to adjust when you do that shit!!!
hogey74 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:59:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I told a friend the other day that sex is really just like dancing only better. We riff off each other's vibes, especially when getting close! She semi agreed :-)
[deleted] ยท 510 points ยท Posted at 23:15:19 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Am female, can confirm.
TheLightningCount1 ยท 775 points ยท Posted at 23:35:15 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Am guy can confirm. Ex Girlfriend of mine basically pulled a card I was not expecting and my only response to that was "Well damn. Guess I gotta eat." It was the most lazy I had ever been, just drawing circles with my tongue inside.
She told me it was the best, and that she came several times. She was not the type of person to fake an orgasm. More like the type to say "Well that was... almost fun. When do I get mine?"
My new lazy technique extended the relationship for a long time.
[deleted] ยท 814 points ยท Posted at 23:59:04 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've gone down on both genders and it's so much easier with women. Much less physically demanding, and you don't have to worry about gagging. I don't know why guys pretend like it's so hard.
loljetfuel ยท 57 points ยท Posted at 03:11:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every guy I've met who thought oral was complicated just had uncommunicative partners (and often were themselves poor communicators). Turns out the biggest secret to good sex is to talk about your likes and dislikes openly with your partners.
BananaNutJob ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 04:59:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's the only secret IMO. That's why I never really liked casual hookups very much. Sex is 1000 times better taking your time to get to know each other's bodies.
moosecatoe ยท 56 points ยท Posted at 03:36:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously! My ex always complained about how pushing his tongue hard against my clit and turning left to right hurt his neck. Like ahem, I just gagged on your dick for 20 minutes. You can give me a few minutes of shaking your head. Jfc.
VisualBasic ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 05:23:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
20 minutes. What a lucky guy!
BeardyMcBeardyBeard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:18:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
My gf blows 5 mins tops...
Gotchowsh ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 17:14:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Am I your girlfriend?
BeardyMcBeardyBeard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:39:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe? Lol
Jul2702 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 11:57:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cause you suck (No offense)
BeardyMcBeardyBeard ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 12:09:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I should've never given you my Reddit name
Jul2702 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:12:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A shut up Those where the best 5 minutes of you life and you know it
im_twelve_ ยท 77 points ยท Posted at 02:05:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My theory is that a lot of guys think they need to go ham down there. They really don't, unless she prefers it that way, I suppose. I guess I can really only speak for myself, but I'd prefer if a guy just went slow and "lazy" and maybe picked up the pressure a bit towards the end, but no need to do tongue Olympics. I feel like that's got to be easier than having a dick shoved down your throat repeatedly. It takes me like 2 full days to not have a sore throat!
LaizureBoy ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 06:01:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, my first sexual partner I was with tried to tell me what she liked. But, she didn't really know, because the guys she had been with before would "act like a dog" and lick her clit, her labia, stuff like that. So, I experimented. Literally spent an hour or so going down on her and asking "Does this feel better than x?"
Discovered that slightly suctioning her clit with my mouth, and alternating between broad strokes with my tongue on her clit and more concentrated, harder strokes are what got her going. Combine that with a finger or two stimulating her gspot and fingering, and she told me I was the only guy to get her off with his mouth. I'm sure the clit suction will vary girl to girl, but after I figured it out I really enjoyed it. I enjoy it so much now that I honestly wish I had someone to go down on most of the time ๐
As for blowjobs, I'll never understand why guys want to shove their entire dick down someone's throat. I always enjoyed the slower blowjobs, with tongue and hands involved. Different strokes for different folks I guess ๐คทโโ๏ธ
sagemaniac ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:36:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Different strokes absolutely. Been with enough guys, gals and other to have found out that you can't go by gender. You got to listen to the person you are having sex with.
Real_Bug ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:15:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No hands >
caesar15 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:57:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What about when it comes to touching and fingers?
im_twelve_ ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 12:09:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like during oral or just fingers? Oral can be taken up a notch (or ten) by inserting a finger or two and pushing up toward the belly to hit the g-spot, but in my case, I'm often happy just to have the clit stimulation.
As far as just using fingers, I feel that one varies way more per person. Probably because we're used to using our own hands, so it's hard to finish with a different technique. My husband has been the only guy to ever be able to get me off using his hands, and that was one time when we were 16 (we're 27 now). It's not that it doesn't feel good or that I don't enjoy it; it'll get me very close, but I can't get over the edge without using my own hand.
caesar15 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:26:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just fingers, was just wondering how agressive thst should be, since you said oral isnโt. Just as foreplay too, so not worrying about orgasm.
VadertheSavage ยท 591 points ยท Posted at 00:50:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unwillingness to learn the intricacies of female anatomy and gratification.
infyjtid ยท 96 points ยท Posted at 03:54:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I skimmed the last word and was so utterly baffled as to what gentrification had to do with a dude eating a girl out.
VadertheSavage ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 04:05:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lmfao, gotta get in there and renovate!
infyjtid ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:31:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
REALLY get in there and leave your mark, you know?
chotskyIdontknowwhy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:40:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gotta regenerate the area. Soon there will be students and hipsters living there too. Plus several artisan coffee shops, small micro brewery pubs, world food cafes and pushy ladies selling bespoke hand knitted cardigans made from the finest Himalayan mountain goatโs pubic hair.
Hedgehogz_Mom ยท 44 points ยท Posted at 01:59:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is not specific to men. Women can suck at same gender love.
Why-So-Serious-Black ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:06:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My doesn't wash her vagina or shower regularly and it smells so bad! Like fishy and musky. It's really unpleasant.
KillaCallie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:05:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Preach
SoulMechanic ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 03:35:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Personally this is BS to me, I've asked every gf what they like/don't like, and every single one except for one, gave vague unhelpful answers, so frustrating.
I finally learned thru slow trial and error, what each girl would like. Yet I had no problem telling what I liked and didn't like.
FairyFuckingPrincess ยท 55 points ยท Posted at 03:55:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, I'm a woman who has never gone down on another woman, and I'm not sure it's all that easy to describe what's going on down there from our perspective. I'm in my 40s now so obviously I'm old and wise, but in my younger days I think I would have had a hard time explaining exactly what I like. Sometimes it feels like the other person's tongue is really broad and in five different places at once, and then it'll feel very pinpointed on one spot. There are a lot of nooks and crannies down there, and I can't say exactly what spot you're in or precisely what's going on, just that it feels good.
Maybe you should play 'optometrist' with your current/next girlfriend, and figure out what she likes best.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:58:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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FairyFuckingPrincess ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:04:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As long as it's consensual, sure
anonomotopoeia ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:37:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Obstetrician?
Moikepdx ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 05:00:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I assumed she was referring to โIs this one better.... or this one?โ
anonomotopoeia ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:06:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh, that's actually really clever!
FairyFuckingPrincess ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:45:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
u/moikepdx is correct, but I've heard it said that 'you shouldn't have to explain a joke in order for it to be funny' so I'll have to take a penalty on that one
mein_account ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:47:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, she's just got a strange relationship with her eye doc.
FairyFuckingPrincess ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:37:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey man, don't judge my kink
santikara ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:32:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you know, i've always wondered about this. i'm generally articulate and well aware of myself/how i'm feeling/what effect something is having on me, but i cannot, for the life of me, do better than "no, no, a little to the left.. not that left.. no, kind of up, but from the down.." and vague nonsense.
i wonder if it has to do with not being able to visually map it out while learning yourself.
PhlightYagami ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:01:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think giving affirmations is more useful than directions. Tell him you want to explore what works best and you'd like him to change things up a few times so you can let him know what works and what doesn't. Then all you have to say is "yes," "keep going," "try something else," etc.
rotospoon ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:43:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's like a gooey Rubik's cube.
A Goobik's Cube.
chotskyIdontknowwhy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:43:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eurrrggggghhhhh!!! boke
ToxicJaeger ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 04:42:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It doesnโt happen in porn so why should it happen in real life? /s
Paranoidas ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 03:45:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not all of us do! Some men really enjoy giving oral.
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:46:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And we appreciate you greatly!
nootnoottoottoot ยท 150 points ยท Posted at 00:59:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
because it doesnโt immediately gratify them so why would they bother lmao
I had an ex who never went down on me bc he just wasnโt as โintoโ giving oral sex as I was. even after I told him it was basically the only way to get me off. gotta be a special kind of rude to hear โthis exact commonly done thing gets me offโ and respond with, essentially, โIโm not โintoโ giving you orgasms.โ
edit: โbUt WhY aRe YoU mAkiNg tHiS a gEnDeReD iSsUeโ headass
Hedgehogz_Mom ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:00:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have more than one female ex who was the same. I am female. Yeah it is a special kind of rude!
BloodyFartOnaBun ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 04:25:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gay females that wonโt perform oral? Hoooo boy เฒ _เฒ
Hedgehogz_Mom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:14:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Selfish people are selfish my dood. They come in all stripes.
[deleted] ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 01:20:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not uncommon for guys to receive little to no oral in a relationship either you know.
There are always going to be people like that on both genders, no need to try and make it into an us vs. them thing. You just have to learn to navigate around/through it.
monachopsiss ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 01:32:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please tell me you ACTUALLY believe the numbers of guys vs girls who don't give oral to their partners is equal....
Things can be said in a gendered way when they're LITERALLY gendered. If it doesn't apply to you, great and more power to you, but that doesn't make it not true.
baker2795 ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 02:15:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/oral-sex-survey-results/
If you actually care.
TheyreAllTakenFuckMe ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 01:47:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have re-read the 2nd part of your comment several times and I donโt understand what youโre saying. What are you trying to say?
monachopsiss ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:29:35 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If something is a gendered issue, it's allowed to be framed in a gendered way. Because that is literally the point being made. Someone saying "DON'T BRING GENDER INTO THIS!" when it's an issue split on gender is ridiculous.
TheyreAllTakenFuckMe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:00:52 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like the debate here comes down to if a person is more inclined to give oral sex. So perhaps that could be what the person meant. Itโs more of a personality trait of someone who enjoys sexually pleasuring the other partner, rather than whether or not the type of pleasure is a blow job or eating out.
However, I see your point as well which I believe is: sucking a dick is literally, by gender, different than eating out.
Does that make sense?
[deleted] ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:04:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I never said it was equal.
If you're going to choose to treat this as a gender issue, then you're honestly just feeding into gender division. The most productive way to treat this would be to treat this as a human issue, related to selfish emotions and the lack of desire to put forth mutual effort. Because that's what it is, and that's not something one gender has more than another.
Hyper-focusing on the gender aspect and trying to frame the problem in a vacuum where context never matters doesn't help anyone. What's your goal exactly, by defining even more borders and sides to a problem than necessary? If this is a gender problem to you, then do you think girls who don't give oral do it for a completely different reason than guys?
Reaper_Messiah ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:00:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre entirely right, I donโt know why there is even any disagreement really. There are selfish people. Not selfish boys and selfish girls, but selfish people that happen to be boys and girls. Boys may be selfish more than girls, but thatโs not BECAUSE theyโre boys. I thought the biggest movement these days was about gender equality due to the fact that weโre really not all that different? How is this an argument?
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:15:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having dated someone who visited a lot of self-labeled feminist websites, I find that a lot of vocal feminists care less about the movement and to them it's more about having an outlet to express frustration at gender inequality.
So a lot of divisive rhetoric gets channeled as feminism leading to a lot of guys misunderstanding what feminism is about and increasing the feedback loop of frustration -> divisive rhetoric for women.
I find that a lot of feminists are more than happy to stereotype men and frame them in the same ways that women are unhappy being framed. If you take issue with this, the response usually tends to be something along the lines of "deal with it" or this attitude that men deserve it.
It's frustrating to engage with, because if I try too hard to empathize then I'm accused of being a superficial poser by those feminists, but if I don't try hard enough I'm accused of being apathetic fuel for the patriarchy instead.
Ultimately, that's how you know this is just a human issue at heart. It's no different from any other social conflict in human history. Injustice is part of it, but part of it is also that people as a whole are selfish and want happy lives for themselves above all others. What a lot of people who identify as feminists want isn't something that works for the greater good, what a lot of them want are better conditions for themselves and social reparations from men.
Feminism itself is actually a hugely diverse school of thought. Feminists disagree with each other all the time but gets incorrectly framed as a singular movement all the time because honestly it's kind of impossible to have a general discussion about feminism without doing that.
Whether it's racism, sexism, classism, or any other form of discrimination, the population that experiences the discrimination doesn't automatically become altruistic. A very human response to receiving injustice is to want the other side to experience it too. You just need to penetrate the toxic idea that women are above men in terms of behavior, because women really aren't.
evil_mom79 ยท -11 points ยท Posted at 02:21:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tone policing isn't helpful, my dude.
[deleted] ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:24:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Tone policing"
At this point, what you're really saying is "if you're disagreeing with me then you're infringing on me."
Grow up and learn to deal with adversity like an adult, or don't and stay mentally and emotionally immature forever. Using meaningless fad words to complain every time someone argues in a way you don't like isn't going to get you anywhere in life.
BindaB ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:10:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn that 2nd paragraph is just so right
evil_mom79 ยท -14 points ยท Posted at 02:32:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay, so you're just being a condescending asshole for fun. Gotcha.
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:17:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If your only response to someone making calm discussion is to use buzz words to control their argument, then my tone held the exact amount of respect that you deserved.
Here's another lesson to you, respect is earned. Just because you exist doesn't mean you deserve to be treated as if you have the same level of maturity as everyone else, because it's abundantly clear you don't from your complete inability to handle criticism in a mature way.
[deleted] ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 05:16:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:47:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thinking you're cooler than someone because you spend less time on a website than them is just a projection of your own insecurities.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:18:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:42:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trying to use my own insult against me is pretty lazy and ineffective. Not only does it make it obvious I hit the mark, it shows you're too stupid to reply with anything besides "no u".
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:44:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:58:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like I said, your insecurity bleeds through your comments. Only someone woefully self-conscious of themselves would think something ridiculous like that was an effective insult.
I applaud that you tried something different after I called out your "no u". Keep dancing monkey, what will you try next?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:01:20 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:03:49 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Very predictably, you realized that changing your insult would be playing into my "dance monkey" statement, so out of fear you just stuck with the same one.
This is hilarious.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:04:14 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:05:26 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
LOL. Poor guy broke from his inability to handle this argument. Never seen someone go that fast.
I hope your life gets better soon buddy, it's abundantly obvious you've got some issues to sort.
Jordaneer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:02:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In my sample size of one partner, I went down on her probably 10 times as much as she went down on me.
Granted I like giving oral and she really didn't
[deleted] ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 01:47:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:22:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Just because someone has an opinion you disagree with doesn't make someone a troll.
It's not really realistic or sustainable to try and get 10k upvotes on all your comments. Unlike most of this site, I don't really give two shits about my internet points and don't spend every comment pandering for them.
Hedgehogz_Mom ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 02:01:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Except you are incorrect.
Tw161 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:20:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Difference is:
A) usually after a guy orgasms he is physically unable to continue PIV and/or mentally not willing to continue anything sexual while most women can continue after orgasm
B) men usually orgasm from PIV while most women canโt. BJs are like a supplement but oral for a girl is a little more necessary
Hedgehogz_Mom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:02:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is correct.
Monster-_- ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 02:30:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Women are like combination locks. Every one has a different combination, and it takes some time to find the right one for that specific lock. But once you've got the combo it'll be easier to open that one up in the future.
Men are like basic key locks. Once you learn how to pick a few you can use those same methods to open pretty much all of them.
moosecatoe ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:15:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Brilliant.
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:17:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please keep your picks out of my keyhole.
[deleted] ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:48:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Depends on the woman, sometimes hair, or thick thighs can make it harder, there are also less positions that you can breathe well. I've gone down on many of each gender and I don't think females are easier, they're both difficult in different ways, guys with small-average dicks are super fucking easy, same with fit, shaved and flexible women. As a large person (193cm/6'4), when you go down on guys you can position your body more comfortably like 90% of the time. If a woman lying down takes roughly 1m from head to genitals, that leaves like 90cm to fit the whole body on most beds. You can have her legs over the edge of the bed but you get sore knees or a stiff neck. I'm general from my experience guys are much much easier to give oral to, and I don't mean to orgasm, I mean in comfort, either gender cums from the same basic principles.
[deleted] ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:51:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I have a small mouth and quite a gag reflex so that may sway my opinion a bit. Smaller dicks are pretty easy for me though, average is not.
I'm also quite a bit shorter than you, so I'm sure that's a factor as well!
This is actually why I prefer the slightly smaller side when it comes to dicks. I don't orgasm from penetration anyway, so as long as I can feel it in there I don't really care. And I don't feel like a hamster eating a banana.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:46:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ahh yes being large goes make it rather easy to deep-throat most dicks with little to no difficulty. I love large dicks ๐คทโโ๏ธ makes me feel like a pornstar
sagemaniac ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:49:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Comfort is a huge factor. If the person giving oral is uncomfortable and tense, what they are doing will not feel nearly as good.
firelock_ny ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 01:01:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe because many guys have trouble figuring out what to do and their partners don't tell them?
ineedcoffeeprobably ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:33:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then ask? Not open ended like โwhat do you likeโ but just do something and ask โdo you like this?โ Take your time to experiment. Think of the questions youโd like your partner to ask you. Pay attention to small sounds and movements to point you in the right direction.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:37:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think it's full in the Internet (not the prono thing but the academy thing) isn't it? Or am I wrong all the time?
InsaneLeader13 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:55:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alot of misinformation, some guys are just assholes, some women don't taste the best, and probably the biggest thing is that people fail to realize that there is going to be alot of differences between women in what they want.
Heimdall2061 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:41:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My jaw always hurts after just a bit. I'm tongue-tied, maybe that makes a difference? I try, though.
BananaNutJob ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:10:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It does make it harder, though lips and fingers can do a lot of the work and make it easier on the tongue and jaw. Many women can come from a single finger massaging the clit; learn to do that and oral will be much easier.
Hedgehogz_Mom ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:59:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not just guys. Women can be lazy ass pillow queens.
Why-So-Serious-Black ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:06:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My doesn't wash her vagina or shower regularly and it smells so bad! Like fishy and musky. It's really unpleasant.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:10:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well that's a problem, maybe it's time for a hygiene discussion...
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:16:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because guys try to impress by doing a really good job, but since women don't generally tell guys what a "good job" is, they try everything. Hard and fast, smooth and slow. And then they wear themselves out doing these crazy things that apparently aren't even pleasurable.
Banaan75 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:56:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shit hurts like hell after a while though
AskMeAboutPodracing ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:43:19 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Personally, I found it extremely difficult because I was focused on the vaginal part. The second I switched to focusing on the clit, it became super easy. And don't even get me started on how lazy I can get when she's riding my face.
nvrndngstry ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:19:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is your username how I should use my tongue?
howlinggale ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 04:56:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly depends on the woman in my opinion. A lot of it is in their head. Some will come at a drop of a hat and others are hard work. Men, in general, seem to be much more reliable when it comes to making them orgasm.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:45:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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allgreentome ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:14:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Death grip syndrome
howlinggale ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:56:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not super uncommon to be fair. It could be on your side but it could be those performing on you. I take it you think the experience pleasant even if it doesn't finish you? Or you just don't enjoy the entire experience?
mrsexlegs ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 01:48:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have no idea what I'm doing down there i just float between different rhythms until I get a response and stick to that one. My GF says I'm the best she's had and apparently it keeps getting better.
REO_Jerkwagon ยท 182 points ยท Posted at 01:15:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, but there is some kind of pheromone or something ladies give off when they're close to orgasm that causes my muscles (face and/or hands) to just cramp up right then and there. You're close? Good, I'm dyin here!
moosecatoe ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 03:59:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its gotta be anxiety induced. Imagine your licking and flicking away and you feel her get tighter. She tells you sheโs getting close, then all of a sudden youโre super focused on how fast your arm is moving and how your fingers are wiggling and what your tongue is doing.... wait, what was it doing? Shit, shit maybe that one thing? And then you feel like youโre in grade school again where you pat your head and rub your belly in a circle - hey, youโve been trained to multitask on the body your whole life! And then she finally fucking cums and you can relax your muscles and have a juicy reward for all of your hard work. (Thanks for coming to my nsfw Ted Talk no one asked for.)
[deleted] ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 01:51:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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iamalongdoggo ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:18:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is this actually a thing? The only problem I have is my partner starts trying to crush my head like a watermelon between her thighs. This also sometimes pushes me away slightly making it more difficult but usually no problem
Tipper_Gorey ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:59:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Omfg is this true?!?!
pv10 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 03:20:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No hahaha it's confirmation bias. It sure seems like it's true though!
Tipper_Gorey ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:23:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol donโt scare me like that man. Thatโs a lot of pressure to orgasm if you know itโs hurting your dude.
moosecatoe ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:39:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Heโll let you know if heโs struggling by asking how youre doing or if youre close (after heโs been trying the same thing for a while). Or you can always casually ask him (not during sex obv) if anything ever hurts or aches during play time. Thats how I found out my nails are a bit sharper than I thought.... now I keep em super short and smooth and everyones happy.
Tipper_Gorey ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:44:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs a good idea to ask actually. Sometimes I worry my nails are too long. Wouldnโt hurt to ask.
Thanks!
moosecatoe ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:48:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Of course! And while youre back there, you can never have too much lube!! No sharp pressure, only easy gliding!!
Tipper_Gorey ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:54:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So with you on the lube! Wish I had used it more when I was younger.
moosecatoe ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:08:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I accidentally purchased an embarrassingly large bottle of Astroglide online. So I cleaned out a SoftSoap pump container, removed the labels, & filled it with lube. Now itโs in my nightstand in a cute lil box with a washcloth (to prevent lube drips) & my 2 favorite toys in cute lil silk drawstrings. That little box gives me so much joy, in a dirty Konmari way.
EatsPeanutButter ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:13:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm the opposite with lube! I donโt like it. Iโm very petite and my husband is large. Lube makes it glide in way too easily, and I really need that slow warm up where my own moisture is letting him in little by little. Even so, he canโt always go all the way in. We only use lube if we really need it.
moosecatoe ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:56:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh noo! That could be very scary! Glad you know your body!! I always enjoy the physical pressure during the first couple of minutes when hes working his way inside. Just doing that or rubbing his tip in quick circles around the opening of my lady bits will get me wet enough to get going. I usually only use lube for anal or when we were having sex for a long time or with the fan on (that inc airflow dries ya right up)!
EatsPeanutButter ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:57:25 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same! Thatโs exactly how we do it and when we use it. Lol.
alblaster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:08:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Of course it is. No one on the internet lies.
Rush_nj ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:36:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like this should have the caveat of โwhen sheโs close to cummingโ. Just keeping the same movement going the entire time will just cause your tongue to tire out. Switch it up, lick different areas, different directions, suck, use fingers etc to build her towards a climax but when the train is leaving the station just keep going with the same thing.
PretzelStikz ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:41:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah lol
texican1911 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 01:54:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Guys, too. Had a gf who just liked to play down there. One time I told her โwhen youโre ready to be done, pick a beat and donโt stop.โ
zushiba ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:24:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know how when youโre walking down the street and you see someone you know or someone who looks like they are judging you and you suddenly become acutely aware that you walk like some kind of dodo bird with an umbrella stuck up your ass, so you try to โwalk normallyโ but that just makes you look even more like a super villain?
Yeah, same thing goes through the head of a guy whoโs told by his girl that sheโs about to cum. He becomes hyper focused on doing whatever ancient Chinese king fu he was accidentally doing and ends up screwing it up.
The fix is to rid him of this anxiety by practicing over and over again the ability to just zen their way through to the other side.
littlest_ginger ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 00:48:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
... a female what?
JameisGOATston ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 00:59:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs a mythical creature. I wouldnโt worry about it.
hordak666 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:46:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
horse
atriptolalaland ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:38:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mother.
OctagonalButthole ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 04:14:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Literally everyone in the thread understood that the person posting meant a woman.
Super goddamn weird how people perceive it as demeaning
meradorm ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:48:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another tip: if you don't know what to do with your girl watch the way she masturbates, it'll give you a starting point about area and technique.
OCV_E ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 06:32:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Didn't work for me. The only response I got was:
Who the fuck are you and why are you naked in my room?!
PretzelStikz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:49:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Agreed
mikeeyboy22 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:41:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep jousting w my tongue. Got it.
PretzelStikz ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:50:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're in the ball park lol
Monster-_- ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:25:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The best advice I ever got about givinf a female oral sex was "stop, collaborate and listen."
mechanical_banana42 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 01:07:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I sometimes stop on purpose when theyโre about to climax in order to painstakingly draw it out, is this allowed?
[deleted] ยท 74 points ยท Posted at 01:10:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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requiem516 ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 01:38:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I second this.
mechanical_banana42 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:12:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good to know, I donโt have a ton of experience and just wanted to know if this was my particular partners preference or a universal thing
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:19:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Edging is not always fun. Plus, if you do it wrong, it really sucks because you end up ruining an orgasm.
monachopsiss ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 01:34:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd discuss beforehand for sure. Orgasm denial can be extremely enjoyable for some, while others will want to murder you. Definitely a kink to discuss and see where your partner stands!
AudaciosThick ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:56:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Edging is allowed, when the one receiving knows whatโs up. But itโs not great as a surprise..
dustbin3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, you don't want to Doakes this.
Hedgehogz_Mom ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:03:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No you've gone too far at that point. Try going slower on you way there rather than backing down from a climax.
vixen_reddevil ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:15:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I could upvote this a million times, I would!
quitespiffyx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:54:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Am so lucky to not have experienced this thus far, how frustrating it must be lmao
Seanerator ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:04:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
๐
quitespiffyx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:05:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
HAHAHAHA omg stop, thatโll boost the ego ๐
Seanerator ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:08:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You bet ๐
quitespiffyx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:09:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Forever grateful for your service mโlord
Empyrking ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:21:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Am dog,what are you doing?
LukeTheGeek ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:11:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See, my person actually prefers a ramping up right before the big moment. She likes it better than just a consistent, unchanging tempo.
Njdevils11 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:06:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is very good advice and almost always true. But damn if cramping isn't a serious problem.
PretzelStikz ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:49:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah lol, my jaw was sore for a couple days, but she couldn't walk either sooo, worth it?
moniker5000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:17:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless what you are doing is the wrong thing.
cocaineandcrawfish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:45:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bless you.
stendhal_project ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:52:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tell that to my wife, when she clenches me between her thighs and then she expects me to keep doing what I was doing.
https://imgflip.com/s/meme/Jackie-Chan-WTF.jpg
This_n_that01 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:58:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Omgyes.com was such an eye opener for me as a girl. A one time payment and a half a day later I was able to give myself my first orgasm without using toys. I was so happy I cried.
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:05:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't stop... like... ever?
vaderwalker ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:54:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
HELL YEAH.
fwubglubbel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:33:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even when she's screaming for you to stop?
erm4gundr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:05:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A lot of guys hear "just like that" and it gets them even more pumped so they go harder. "Just like that" means just that.
keatonatron ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:13:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...unless she tells you to stop or change, right?
PretzelStikz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:01:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:52:30 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear, SO wants a rest after six hours, and so do I.
ilovebaconmore ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:13:48 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
did she say "keep doing that" to you too ?
PretzelStikz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:08:26 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
She didn't have to, but yes
bricked_machine ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:54:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...human, right?
PretzelStikz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:39:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean.... I only have experience with humans sooo
OctagonalButthole ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 04:13:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did you notice how literally everyone understood what they meant by "female"?
JackWorthing ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:44:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait, really? Gonna have to try that
PretzelStikz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, they'll love it.
AudaciosThick ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:55:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*starts slow clap
BallisticAmbition ยท 247 points ยท Posted at 02:38:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whenever meeting a new person always assume that they know something you donโt
TGeniune ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 13:34:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes this!!! You gain a fresh perspective if you listen to their daily routine, family habits, decisions made...great advice
Jaxlee2018 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 13:48:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really like that, good one.
Deuce232 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 20:06:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like to say "There's something you can learn/take from almost anyone. If you can't find it then teach/give them something you have."
YepThatLooksInfected ยท 7616 points ยท Posted at 23:58:27 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going to therapy.
I'm a guy. I'm emotionally stable, so I thought it was a pointless idea. Went with my ex-gf, in order to work out problems in our relationship (mostly on her end). I learned so much about myself and got some amazing life advice. 10/10
HumidCanine ยท 934 points ยท Posted at 01:50:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also make sure you find the right therapist because it's really hard to discuss actual problems when you can't feel like you can truly talk to them.
Also unrelated but I like your username.
InedibleSolutions ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 04:40:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is helping me so much right now. It's not that the past two therapists weren't good, they just weren't good for me. My current therapist is more conversational and laid back, and actually listens to me. I don't get to see him as often as I need to (Thanks, VA!) but my short visits have so far had much more impact than my weekly hour long sessions before.
NoPantsJake ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 05:11:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you find a good one?
InedibleSolutions ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 11:42:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I go through the VA, so it's just luck for me.
Just go, and if you don't click with your therapist, then go to another. Which can be really hard, because it can take a lot of effort to go in the first place. I had to take months off in between therapists just to find the will to do it again. But if you can find the energy, it can be worth it to keep trying until you find the right person.
DrejmeisterDrej ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 03:17:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
truth. I've been with mine for 3 years and he is so insanely kick ass. I moved out of state, hated it, and came back. I'm guessing largely because of him
EwDontTouchThat ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 08:28:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. I went through so many mental health professionals as a kid and young adult, but none of them were helpful. I don't know if we just didn't click or if I was just resistant to all help because of my issues, but it all ended terribly and I was soured against the idea of psychotherapy.
Then, years later, an abusive roommate demanded I see a therapist. He forced me to call places on speaker and get an appointment. I'm incredibly lucky that the one lady with an available spot clicked. She helped me see the abuse for what it was and get me out of there, and after that continues to make sense of the rest of my mental health.
It was a shitty situation and I was incredibly lucky to find someone whom I like and want to divulge my issues to, but it was worth it. I would have probably killed myself if I hadn't been forced to seek help.
NauticalFork ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:09:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's honestly why I haven't reached out to find a therapist. You need to find the right fit, and... being the right fit for people is what causes my problems. I haven't found a right fit for me in anything(which leads me to believe I'm the problem, but then people say believing that I am the problem is the problem, hence considering therapy).
Also, I'm worried that calling my insurance's number for mental health would set off a red flag for them or my employer and cause problems, and mental health is not worth risking my job for.
terminbee ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:18:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jokes on you(me?), I don't trust anybody enough to talk to them.
WilliamWolff ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:04:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like your name, but for a second there I read it as HumidCocaine, and I gotta say I'm a little disappointed in you now
belbites ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:06:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not a guy and am emotionally unstable.
But I agree with finding the right therapist. My last one was falling asleep during our sessions. Made me feel like absolute shit.
Gotchowsh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:57:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Falling asleep?! Oh my god. I feel like thatโs a reportable offense for a therapist! Jeez. I am so sorry! I recently just went to my first therapy session and I would cry if he fell asleep. Or walk out!
brtrobs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:33:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do I find a good therapist?
Gotchowsh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:58:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Google and look at reviews. And try one โ if you donโt like that therapist, then try the next one!
cynthiadangus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:39:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The search is so taxing, though. Especially if you see more than one person who seems like they either come off as judgmental/aloof or trying to diagnose and fix the problem like an auto mechanic rather than talk with me like a human being. I've had way more success with a local nonprofit walk-in counseling center than I've ever had with a conventional long-term therapist. It's free, too!
nameless88 ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 01:43:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Therapy has been helping me out a lot, too, I wish I did it 10 years ago.
If you don't think you can afford it, check anyway, they'll usually work with you if money is tight. I thought my anxiety was something I could control and I had a handle on it, but I never realized how much it affected the rest of my life until I got on meds for it and started therapy.
Quelklef ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 01:47:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Absolutely. I started therapy because I was in a tough spot, but I am definitely interested in continuing even once I get better. If I ever have kids, I might get them therapists, tooโregardless of if they're struggling or not. Itโs so valuable to have someone else that understands humansโand therefore youโto the degree that therapists do.
BasicDesignAdvice ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:16:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just the fact your can say things without feeling like a burden. Like sure I could call my best friend and talk about my life, but I'll hold back. There are things in not going to say to my wife.
At therapy, I can just let it all out. My therapist will just listen if I want.
SuspiciouslyEvil ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:54:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also the impartial advice. When I am in conflict with someone, everyone I go to for advice will have some kind of emotional involvement with the outcome. A good therapist can cut through your narrative and give you advice that you don't question the motive.
Fire42uck ยท 53 points ยท Posted at 01:55:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
While not enough people go to their doctors for routine physical exams, almost nobody goes to a therapist for a routine mental check-up, which I wish would change.
LucasLeArtist ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 04:05:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would totally do both of those things if they weren't astronomically expensive.
vampire_kitty ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 05:43:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was in grad school for psychology, a common thing teachers would share: "If people waited to see a doctor as long as they do to see a therapist, doctors would be morticians."
fwubglubbel ยท 1334 points ยท Posted at 00:23:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Umm....
fiestykittycat ยท 2448 points ยท Posted at 00:39:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just because relationships arenโt always end game doesnโt mean that they are failures
BattlefieldNinja ยท 646 points ยท Posted at 01:12:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Part of the journey is the end
[deleted] ยท 203 points ยท Posted at 01:38:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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caler733 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:23:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're more in the 6- to 900 range
Elcrelvin ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:14:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wasnโt expecting to shed tears on this thread...
CautiousDavid ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:20:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same tbh...
TheBloodkill ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 01:57:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck u
CautiousDavid ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:04:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
??
TheBloodkill ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:05:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sad scene ๐ญ
CautiousDavid ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:21:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh I gotcha, tru :(
theamazingsteve1 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:05:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Endgame spoilers bad
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:21:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:22:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And itโs a spoiler that doesnโt really spoil anything lol
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:24:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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TheFukAmIDoing ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:33:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That jet did though
CautiousDavid ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:23:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's an out of context quote! Only makes sense if you've seen the movie. Also seen it all over online so I didn't think anything of it
Ekiiku ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:57:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what is this referencing hmm
theamazingsteve1 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:05:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
These are mild spoilers, quotes from endgame.
GUYS SHUT IT, SOME PEOPLE AIN'T SEEN IT YET
nivat_iracsam ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:21:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I got goosebumps immediately after I read this
CautiousDavid ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:26:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I think I might need to rewatch this weekend.
SnazzySwampert ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:03:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
cheeseburger
MasterKongQiu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:14:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eddy
corran450 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:19:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lebowski
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:07:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
build a bear
slide_in_my_pms ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:58:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fortnite
CautiousDavid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:25:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
:(
MadMrCrazy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:09:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not that it's a competition
Unnatural-One ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:31:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm going to drown you in my tears.
tripperfunster ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:37:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
SHUT THE FUCK UP! *runs away crying*
AndyTheXtreme ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:58:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
N o s p o i l e r s , g o d d a m n i t
CautiousDavid ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:25:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't think this out of context quote counts as a real spoiler, it should only make sense if you've seen the movie.
AndyTheXtreme ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:29:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I know.
CautiousDavid ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:30:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kay, we cool
AndyTheXtreme ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:35:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yay lol
furlonium1 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:21:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not a spoiler
AndyTheXtreme ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 02:29:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is with context.
Nickonator22 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:40:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
thats ok
AndyTheXtreme ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:15:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eh.
centwhore ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:27:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deadpool does the snap.
AndyTheXtreme ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:15:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lol
BEEF_WIENERS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:26:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay first of all how dare you
CautiousDavid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:27:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm sorry!!!
Centor111 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:49:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Life before death Strength before weakness Journey before destination
nocfenix ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:55:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Journey before destination.
AfifAfifAfif ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 01:38:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spoiler: Thanos actually turns out to be a Titan.
4Thanatosx ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 01:53:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eren Yaeger wants to know your location
HannibalDarko ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:13:02 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
[incoherent yelling]
InsanePsycologist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:55:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah fuck
Ulti ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:10:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Plot twist, even if it Thanos, nobody wants a Titan on their raid fireteam!
ImNeworsomething ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:25:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And part of cumming is going
Kisua ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank u, next.
bleedingfingaz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:28:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah but a lot have New Game+ now.
R3X15013Gaming ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:42:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love you 3000...
MrVeazey ยท 90 points ยท Posted at 01:29:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah. Sometimes you have to learn what you don't want to help narrow down what you do want.
spacecase25 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 03:36:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Currently learning this. Ended things with a girl I was madly in love with because I wanted her to give me things in a partner she just didnโt have. Itโs okay for her not to have those things because sheโs not that person. Weโre not exactly on good terms right now, Iโll admit. But I loved her, and learned a lot from her about what I TRULY want in somebody to be with for the rest of my life.
There are days I want to call her because something small in my routine reminds me that I miss her. But then I remember that although those small compatibilities were there and even some big onesโ the overwhelming picture was that we werenโt right for each other.
MrVeazey ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:18:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Been there. Probably stayed there a little bit longer than I should have, but it was several very important lessons and sometimes two people just don't work out together. It's sad for them, but beauty often comes from sadness.
bigheyzeus ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:40:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is why you just need to date around. Most of the dates that don't make it past date #1 teach you way more than you realize.
thelawgiver321 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:37:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People that think a failed relationship is failed are the real failures mate. I did it for years and when I met my wife I knew she was the one instantaneously
bigheyzeus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:09:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly, me too. Not to mention how people are stuck in high school when it comes to this sort of thing. Just because you go on one date doesn't mean you're marrying this person. Stop making it out to be a bigger deal than it really is.
[deleted] ยท 109 points ยท Posted at 01:12:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No spoilers.
OGMcSwaggerdick ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 01:50:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanos pulls a tactical pants crap to block Antman.
meno123 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:37:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanos forgot to remove his squat plug after his last workout, saving him from Ant Man's rectal assault.
OGMcSwaggerdick ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:00:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rookie miscalculation.
shrubs311 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:13:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanos spends a full 10 minutes eating spaghetti when the avengers try to fight him.
Nickonator22 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:43:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
the noises on that part were so well done it sounded like he was really eating spaghetti right beside me.
p_pal2000 ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 01:40:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanos gets oofed by Minecraft steve
ThisHunterHasAC ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:57:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
HEAD shoulders knees and TOES
p_velocity ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:57:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Goku beats superman. But then Batman beats Goku. Robin wins the iron throne.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:58:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Batman isn't in the MCU. He's from The Incredibles. How can someone be so dumb?
Jordaneer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He's not from the Incredibles, he's from star wars
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Right, sorry.
EuphemisticHug ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:44:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanos's last words are, "My only regret is the wrong half got snapped!"
Spikemountain ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:40:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Yeaaah that's staying blue
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:41:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They're all jokes except one. But I guess that's too big of a risk.
B-Knight ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:41:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Darth Vader gets snapped.
vonnillips ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:46:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jack Sparrow kills the Night King
AristaAchaion ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:16:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Agreed. In the words of sex columnist (and asshole) Dan Savage, โevery relationship you're ever going to be in is going to fail - until one doesn't.โ
tycoonking1 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:40:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Needed to hear this, thanks.
SnazzySwampert ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:03:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
whatever it takes
zanyyy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:48:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's only a failure if you haven't learned from it.
pmoney757 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:30:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Woah. End game spoilers!
Not_Blitzcrank ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:54:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some things are just inevitable.
gharbadder ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:59:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tels315 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:40:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Let's just hope I don't have to go through 14,000,605 on the way there.
isaacseaman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:10:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How dare you :< /s
watdafug ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:50:51 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey! no end game spoilers
Rarefindofthemind ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:21:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is so absolutely true.
SpicyReptile ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 02:26:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My ex husband and I went to therapy to try to save our marriage. While we ended up divorcing a couple years later, I am still so happy I went through that process. I learned how to communicate better, a skill I've brought into relationships of all varieties. I also learned what I want for myself and my future - part of what we learned together in therapy was that our future goals were not the same.
While we did divorce in the end, therapy helped us come to the realization that that was the best option for us. We didn't stay stuck in relationship for decades that would ultimately make us unhappy. We worked through our problems together and realized that some of those problems were irreconcilable. I consider this to be a success!
dejaime ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:03:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It means it worked.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:30:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes what you get out of therapy is a better ending to a relationship.
rolfraikou ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:29:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes as people grow they discover they just weren't meant to be. This is especially true of younger couples.
loljetfuel ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:03:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Working out the problems doesn't always mean keeping the relationship alive. Sometimes you work out the problems and discover that you're just no good together, and the best thing for it is to end the relationship.
Having worked out the problems to come to that conclusion tends to lead to much more amicable breakups, too.
DrejmeisterDrej ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:16:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
any reason to do a good thing for yourself is a good reason
baron_von_marrone ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:23:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
he probably meant they went while they were dating.
chenxi0636 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:28:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was mostly her problem, so...
flee_market ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:16:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
She's not yours, it's just your turn
HiramNinja ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 01:45:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...sounds like you dated my ex...wanted to go to couple's therapy while we were dating; she was actually revenging her ex-husband, using me as a surrogate.
baker2002 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 02:41:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Heโs right at least he didnโt end up with crazy
poplockitsquatit ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 02:19:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know what dude? Thank you for writing this, Iโve been thinking about going a lot lately but always makes excuses for myself. Iโm gonna treat your post as a sign that I should ๐
TSOD ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:17:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish I would have started therapy years ago, itโs so helpful. You wonโt regret it.
cuzimmathug ยท 55 points ยท Posted at 01:38:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seconded.
Whenever I tell people I'm in therapy theyre like "for what?" You dont need some crazy traumatic reason to start, and with the right therapist everyone can improve their mental state.
loljetfuel ยท 44 points ยท Posted at 03:06:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really wish more people would understand that. If you have a pattern of thought or behavior you don't like, and can't seem to make good progress on your own, a therapist can help with that.
Santi871 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:15:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Where I live it's quite common for people to go to therapy just to cope with daily adult life, nothing wrong with it and there's not much of a stigma attached to therapists
Ethical_Hunter ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 16:10:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Y'all ever heard of, friends?
Santi871 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:53:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not the same
lynx_and_nutmeg ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:31:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I'd love to go to therapy for every little problem in my life, but it's not exactly feasible when it costs ยฃ40 per session...
kivinkujata ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:41:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
$265/hr is the going rate where I live.
loljetfuel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:29:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For once, I feel better about the US healthcare situation, since therapy sessions with my insurance are only $20/session.
I take issue with "for every little problem", though, because that's not what anyone here is saying. The point isn't "go for every little thing", but rather "it doesn't have to be a huge issue". There are points in between...
TheFlashFrame ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:55:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Been thinking a lot about this lately.
BasicDesignAdvice ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:17:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go for it. It's helped me a lot. We all need a little help sometimes.
Apptubrutae ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:02:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Amen to this. I was in group therapy having been pulled in due to issues my ex had. My most serious problem was procrastination, which is generally not something people go to group therapy for.
So I'd tell people why I was there (the ex, plus procrastination), and they'd be like "yeah, right" implying I had a more serious reason I was hiding. Which I didn't. But obviously plenty of people in the group certainly did.
Still, doing that group therapy was one of the most enjoyable and meaningful experiences of my life.
Pokabrows ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:05:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! In my opinion everyone could benefit from a therapist at some point in your life. I'm so happy that people are fighting the stigma.
After all you might not 'need' a therapist but they might still be able to help you deal with things better that will result in you having a happier and better overall life.
I feel like a lot of people could benefit from better mental health support. I really wish it was more accessible in general.
etds3 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:43:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs like a physical check up. You go because youโre doing well and want to keep it that way. You want to discover the increasing cholesterol level and deal with it before itโs a big thing. Or even just deal with the patch of eczema thatโs just annoying.
I wish mental health checkups were a thing for the same reason. โI get super irrational when this topic comes up in my relationship. Whatโs that all about?โ Or, โWhat are some strategies I can use to put a bad day at work behind me and not be mad all evening?โ
LaitdePoule999 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:33:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yessss more men need to talk about going to therapy! As soon as people find out Iโm a therapist, they often tell me about their/their brother/ex/friendโs mental health issues out of nowhere (plz donโt do this, people). Itโs really sad when I hear about highly upsetting or relationship-ending issues that we actually know how to treat really well, but they refused to get help for!
Also, I often tell people that Iโm a therapist and I have my own therapist, as does pretty much everyone else in my grad school cohort. You might know something about managing emotions, but you just canโt be your own therapist, period.
Jackal_6 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:28:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's the best investment you can possibly make.
DaBearsMan_72 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:37:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To play devil's advocate, I have been through 15 therapists in life as a man. I have no doubt it works for some, but I have given my most honest hardest effort with them, and it still doesn't work. Not like working out my own problems have. Therapy can be amazing, but it isn't for everyone.
redditdesam ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:28:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm in a similar boat, Iโve gone through 2 therapists already, I need to find a new one but for whatever reason I feel bad about the fact that this will be the third therapist Iโve gone through, like I feel like a failure for some reason, like Iโm the problem. Iโve just had so much trouble connecting with the therapists Iโve had:/ Iโm really hoping I eventually find a good one.
DaBearsMan_72 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:52:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, first off, don't feel bad, yes I know that's REALLY hard when you're in the wrong headspace, but you should never EVER feel bad for trying to find the right person to help with getting to the correct headspace.
Secondly, you aren't failing at anything therapy related. You literally can't. You aren't failing to get the help you need. You aren't failing to get better. It's a long process for anyone. Me, after four years of some SERIOUS reworking my life am now just getting to the point where I feel like I'm normalized again. Look it, I haven't found the magical formula that makes the thoughts of being an abject absolute failure go away. I'm not sure if it ever fully goes away, honestly, but you need to know you're stronger than that voice. I know you're stronger than it, and I (probably) haven't ever met you in person. Just by looking to get better, you're already winning, not being a failure. Keep your head up, dude or chica. You're awesome in my book.
redditdesam ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:24:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you, this means a lot to me and made me feel a bit better about my situation.
Bagpiper513 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:51:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Finally going to therapy and seeking the help I so desperately needed was the best decision of my life. I remember where I was 6 months ago and I'm in such a better place since then. I'm glad you took the leap too.
Ehrre ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:08:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Basically this. I got my ass some counseling 8 years ago and it really helped me see a lot of things I was ignoring were causing me a lot of pain
LastStar007 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 01:48:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
hmm
Kougeru ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:58:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this only works for ppl with money
Raibean ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:36:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some additional advice for those considering therapy!
If you donโt want to spend your time talking about your past and your relationships, you donโt need to!
Talk to your therapist about your symptoms. Your therapist has a whole degree in learning how to manage your symptoms. Ask for coping skills.
And if you want to know how your symptoms might relate to your disorder (if you have a diagnosis), ask that too.
Jordaneer ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:53:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know Im somewhere on the autism spectrum (high level functioning though (maybe Asperger's)) but it's a total pain to get a diagnosis. There is a place at a local hospital (in another state, but it's 15 miles away) that will diagnose and treat you, but they don't accept my insurance as I have an Obamacare plan, so I tried to make an appointment with the one psychiatrist in the area that is covered and they don't do testing, so they recommended me to go to a university psychiatrist in another state about 15 miles away, but since I'm not a student, it would be almost $2500 to get tested, do I'll probably end up going back to my university to get tested and it may be like 6 months to a year before I can get a fucking appointment since they rarely test at my university
Idk, I'm just really frustrated with trying to get a diagnosis
Raibean ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:11:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry, I totally didnโt mean to downplay the struggle of getting diagnosed or to exclude people who are still working on getting one, but have one in mind. I tried to choose my wording to imply that some people might know something is wrong but donโt yet have a diagnosis because they donโt know whatโs wrong, or to imply that this was advice for people with a mental illness or other disability, rather than people who go to therapy for other reasons, like an impartial advisor, coupleโs counseling, or trauma/abuse counseling.
Jordaneer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:23:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No worries ๐. I honestly just had to vent about the clusterfuck I'm trying to deal with to get a diagnosis in a mildly related thread as it's getting real annoying
Raibean ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:24:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It sounds very frustrating. I hope that everything can be resolved for you soon.
Jordaneer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:45:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, I can't say everything is bad. I lost a really awesome internship due to something that wasn't really my fault due to essentially miscommunication between me and a coworker last fall, and that spiraled into some pretty bad depression, but I've been seeing a therapist and I'd say I'm having 80+% fewer depressive episodes and tendencies and I really like the guy I'm going to and I actually have an interview with the same company for a potential job this Thursday for something very similar to my internship
meowzik ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:01:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can do this, but I would say it's only a good first step toward healing for most people. Reducing symptoms is a good first stage or primary goal because in the short term it gives tangible improvements in daily living and improved mood. For a small portion of people this is all that's needed to get through a tough spot. But for most people, especially with longer term issues like anxiety or depression, you gotta dig deeper eventually to figure out why the symptoms are there in the first place. This takes more time and effort and can be really scary for a lot of folks, but the real long term growth comes from understanding your issues and their origins more deeply and making sense of them in the narrative of your development.
Raibean ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:56:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I disagree, I think itโs the other way around. Most of us, are symptoms are symptoms of our disorder and donโt exist because of a specific event in our history or even a pattern of events in our history.
etds3 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:30:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
YES!!! I only went to a handful of personal therapy sessions, but they changed my life. I struggle with anxiety, and having tools to unravel whatโs behind it and/or calm myself down has made my life so much better.
Oburcuk ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:34:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm training to be a therapist and this makes me really pleased to hear.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:37:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait, are you my boyfriend? He REALLY needed it, but thought he was fine. Now heโs hit the rough patch between accepting he could use help and feeling well thatโs filled with... emotions.
apetoo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:45:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't agree more. Just because you can continue through life in your current state doesn't mean it'll be awesome doing things the same way. Everyone can benefit from a little hard self-reflection.
AbsentAcres ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:58:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like this a lot. Kind of straying off talking to a therapist, but I've been a very independent person my whole life. Always felt strong enough to handle mental problems on my own. But I've learned that there's a natural relief/release, one that you can almost feel physically, that comes with simply talking things through with...anyone really. Isolation is almost never good. Humans were meant to be social. No matter how much you think most people suck. I had to learn this the hard way
Sethger ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:22:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hear this often but I am not really sure if I know what this means. Which kind of therapist do I have to go to? Psychotherapist? Psychologist? What do I say? I cant say I just want to come to a sesson because I want to find my self can I?
PM_ME_MY_FRIEND ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:25:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Therapy is such a good investment into yourself. I'm in a stable place because of it.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:13:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I kinda feel like a dick because a looong time ago someone on facebook was talking about going to couple's therapy even though they weren't having problems. I was like why the fuck would you do that? Never thought about it, and it just seemed stupid. Just talk to the person.
Years later I was watching an interview with Dax Shepard and Kristin Bell and they were talking about how they went to couple's therapy at like the beginning of their relationship. Then they actually talked about how much it helped them because they figured out all the issues that would probably arise in the future right away instead of finding out later and having it be major.
The more I thought about it, the more sense it made.
TL;DR: Couple's therapy is a good idea even if you don't need it yet.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:29:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish I did this when my ex-partner cheated on me. I went into depression for years just coz of her. It was such a heavy blow for me. I hope my son never noticed.
kittenandkettlebells ยท 537 points ยท Posted at 01:44:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have those annoying, tiny grey balls that get stuck to clothing, use a dry razor to shave it off.
Saved so many items of clothing!
Yakuza_Matata ยท 73 points ยท Posted at 07:43:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*Shaved
B00Mshakal0l0 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 06:27:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also running a shaving razor on jeans can help sharpen the blade
akiramari ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 11:54:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
backwards though, right?
Karlociraptor ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 12:01:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, run the blades opposite the direction youโd shave in.
akiramari ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 11:55:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've tried to take off pilling this way and it didn't work :( I don't know if it's cuz they were disposable razors or because it was funny material or what
ClariceReinsdyr ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 13:16:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can get a fabric shaver on amazon for $15 or less! This technique tends to work best with natural fibers; some synthetics do ok but some are just lost to pilling forever.
myaltacctt ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:33:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Different materials respond to different blades. I got a shaver on amazon that has 3 different blades with it and a guide for which one to use for what fabric
akiramari ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:17:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
cool! I feel like if I wanted to buy something I'd just get one of those electric pill removers, I can't imagine they're expensive
myaltacctt ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:41:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They arenโt expensive. Just be sure to test it on an area of the fabric thatโs not visible. And itโs super easy to overdo it. I just repaired a big basket of clothes, so I feel like an quasi expert now :)
Also, after I moved, a bunch of my clothes started pilling. I realized the washer and dryer in my unit are hard on my clothes. I wash most clothes inside out now, I got fabric bags for the delicate things (dollar tree has them and amazon), and air dry now. Just in case anyone needs to hear it
Cher9969 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 05:24:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also a good birth control.
Leon-Saint-James ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:39:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I recently heard this tip forms a friend and also found out that pilling is the term for that annoying stuff. The more you know!
scourfi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:10:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also washing clothes inside out helps stop them from appearing - at least on the outside
anaximander ยท 964 points ยท Posted at 02:00:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put on your own oxygen mask first.
You canโt help anyone effectively if youโre not OK yourself. I was always self sacrificing - to the point of being hospitalized for exhaustion. Iโd always been told to give till it hurts and then push through the pain to give more, and so thatโs what feels natural, and anything else is pure selfishness.
A great therapist told me that Iโm good at helping but I have to be at least at a baseline before Iโm effective, and, oh, it makes everything so much better.
xilix2 ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 05:33:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's good therapist advice. I once had someone tell me, "You know, at your funeral, no one is going to be standing around saying 'if only he was able to give a little more...' "
Flamywolfie ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:59:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Irrelevant but, happy cake day!
xilix2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:12:52 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks! I forgot.
eddyathome ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 06:59:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a fire marshal at work, they told me outright that my first responsibility was to get myself out. I can't help anyone if I'm unconscious from smoke inhalation.
bootilove ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:00:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep excellent advice. Spent the last 2 years recalibrating after self sacrificing for 20 plus years. Thing is you don't know how bad you are getting giving all the time and putting yourself second.
Technodisney ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:27:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have been working on exactly this. I still sometimes work myself too hard trying to make sure my friends are happy. (But not enough to be hospitalised).
And after taking on this advice finally that many people have told me (But I ignored for ages). I have been able to take care of my friends better and feel better in myself. Itโs a win win all around.
I still sometimes slip and get caught up though. But Iโm working on it.
QueensAnat ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:27:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One of my favorite quotes was given to me by a therapist: "Don't light yourself on fire to keep others warm."
Helping others is great, but not at the expense of your own wellbeing.
PoiLethe ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:55:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always reminds me of this quote from Neil Gaiman in Trigger Warnings
"Secure your own mask before helping others. And I think of us, all the people, and the masks we wear, the masks we hide behind and the masks that reveal. I imagine people pretending to be what they truly are, and discovering that other people are so much more and so much less than they imagined themselves to be or present themselves as. And then, I think about the need to help others, and how we mask ourselves to do it, and how unmasking makes us vulnerable . . . "
Sometimes you help others so you dont have to help yourself.
Thornum ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:51:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was expecting a story about an oxygen mask and maybe a plane crash, got good life advice applicable to many more situations instead!
SexThrowaway1126 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:35:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A friend of mine puts everyoneโs wants before her needs and at that point itโs simply destructive.
ThatAilurophile ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:08:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a similar saying I've taught myself while going through therapy: be selfish before you are selfless. I also used to give my everything when helping others that I never got around to doing stuff for myself. Being selfless can be very exhausting at times.
AsmodeusWilde ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:49:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tell my ex husband this all the time! Before we can adequately take care of the people who depend on us, we need to be dependable. I can't help my daughter if I neglect helping myself.
dragon_rapide ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:20:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Put your own mask on first" is because when an airplane has a loss of cabin pressure at 35,000 ft you have 15 to 30 seconds of useful consciousness.
bleedingfingaz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:46:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt mean to be a dick here but everyone Iโve ever met who talks about being overly giving also has some serious complex about not being thanked enough/appreciated, and/or โhelpโ when it is neither requested nor desired.
Do you feel like either have ever been an issue youโve had to work through?
anaximander ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:29:47 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know, Iโve been thinking about this, and your other comment below, all day. While Iโm not like this, I do know people who are - who use โhelpingโ as a form of manipulation and forcible involvement in othersโ lives, and are hard done by no matter what. My dad was a narcissist, so Iโve some familiarity with the behavior.
For others, though, we just never learned healthy boundaries for ourselves, and have such a screwed up perception of them that we donโt know how to say no, and feel awful if we even try. We donโt tend to complain about it except extremely privately, either - only my partner and my therapist ever knew when I was at the end of my rope. In my experience, itโs only the narcissists who bitch, or grandstand- because they like the feedback loop.
There are a few things that are key in not feeling hard done by:
Thanks for bringing that up - I think itโs an important point to make and I hope some of what Iโve said makes sense!
Dromeo ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:55:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've seen the same thing; maybe it's because of this oxygen-mask analogy?
They put other people so far ahead that they keep getting hurt from it, but eventually they start noticing other people don't even particularly acknowledge the help they bent over backwards to give.
People don't expect the help offered to them to cause damage to the one offering, because then it's a bit nuts to even offer. At that point, they payoff for helping - the thanks - can never match up to the amount of effort put in.
bleedingfingaz ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 13:28:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This was not my point at all. Iโm saying a shitload of โgiversโ are closet narcissists.
baladibt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:54:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Destin?
9thChord ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:31:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also solid advice for RPGs- if the whole party takes a big hit, heal the healer first.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:00:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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tsaoutofourpants ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:51:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
OP is using a metaphor.
JustJeff236 ยท 3845 points ยท Posted at 23:47:31 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Leftie loosie, rightie tightie
PenguinWITTaSunburn ยท 1011 points ยท Posted at 00:49:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I say this under my breath every time I'm tightening or loosening something.
NippleSalsa ยท 72 points ยท Posted at 01:03:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had my oldest son helping me change tires on the lawnmower. I didn't realize that this isn't common knowledge until he was having a hard time removing a bolt. Poor guy, I told him this and it blew his mind. I should tech my kids more.
Ramady ยท 55 points ยท Posted at 02:40:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's common knowledge because our parents taught us.
SpriggitySprite ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:14:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate it because pipefitting I would often be removing a nut from the other side. I've always done clockwise counterclockwise. Plus half the nut is going left and half is going right. Like I get where righty tighty leftie loosie comes from, but it's still dumb.
NippleSalsa ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:26:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a machinist. So I get to make left or right handed threads. It's a pain when a job comes in needing both, but on the same but or sane hole.
Wormbo2 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:12:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is there a little symbol that could be stamped to signify the opposite thread?
Obviously provided there's a flat space near the machined part to stamp it?
FakeNathanDrake ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:40:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you look at the threads you can tell. If it spirals to the right itโs right handed and vice versa.
Or, make a fist with each hand with your thumbs pointing out as an easy but daft way of remembering, if it matches up with your left hand itโs a left handed thread etc.
ThirteenMatt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:10:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is a norm for marking left handed threads, it's a slot on the side of nut/head of the screw. You can see it on This document.
A picture of what it looks like
Wormbo2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:18:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep, I've seen that before. It makes perfect sense now that it's in context!
Thanks:)
My_Pen_is_out_of_Ink ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:55:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works 99 times out of 100. But that one time you will spend longer than you should screaming at a god-fucking-damn shit-ass cock-bitch screw.
CanadianCircadian ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:27:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I say this to co workers when they tell me the screw I got them doesnโt fit.
mustg3tbuck ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:57:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same, and I still start turning the wrong way.
Colonel_Potoo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:17:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I say it as well and I'm not even from an english speaking country... but we don't have the saying in my language, so it helps.
icp727 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:40:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same
Mana_Maori ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:30:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me too!! Sometimes I say it out loud lol. I sadly learnt this in my late 20s lol.
FalconTurbo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:02:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And it's all well and good until you're undoing a bolt that's upside down, with your left hand. Then you have to stop, think, double check with hand gestures, and then try.
Source: had to do exactly that yesterday on a 30 ton excavator.
nvrndngstry ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:19:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get out of my head, Magneto!!!
461weavile ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:30:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
C'mon, I say it loud and proud.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:51:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm glad it's not just me.
grapecity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:03:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I say righty righty lefty loosey
scullingby ยท 273 points ยท Posted at 00:13:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wise advice that has served me well for many years.
[deleted] ยท 59 points ยท Posted at 01:14:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless there are flammable gases.
Teledildonic ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:19:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And stealing lights from the NYC subway system.
AverageAussie ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:53:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And when assembling a fan.
Piscator629 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:01:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or a power tool head.
pm_me_your_taintt ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:34:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Except for the outer threads of a propane tank. True of the inner threads though.
mikedufty ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:00:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
left over or left under?
NatoBoram ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:42:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Counter-clockwise
2OldMaster ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:04:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've always had trouble with "Leftie loosie, rightie tightie" so CCW/CW is how I remember it.
Fallenangel152 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:56:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here, drives me nuts (quite literally). When you're dealing with a circular action there is no clear left and right!
Far easier to remember clockwise/anticlockwise.
OhDearBee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:44:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โClock to lockโ is easier for me to actually comprehend (clockwise locks it in or tightens it)
GrowthPortfolio ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:38:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find it much easier to use a right hand screw rule.
DameonKormar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:41:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I usually just turn it one way until it's too tight, then realize I've been turning it the wrong way the whole time, then go the other way. Works every time.
KrazyieK ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:59:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use the right hand rule, turn your fingers the way you clench them and the way your thumb points is the way the screw goes
This but with screws:
https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-15p1JFHnI2Y/V4CHANvY3XI/AAAAAAAAAq4/Givz8NnAnJwHvc2ft7cHzxkhkvrCGf_ewCLcB/s1600/Screen+Shot+2016-07-09+at+10.38.08+am.png
mikedufty ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:23:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, thats what I use, works great, whereas lefty loosy righty tighty doesn't help at all for me.
Samblir ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:06:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Grab the bolt/nut with the corresponding hand and snap. Works from any angle.
toxygen ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:34:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Violets are blue,
Roses are red,
You said it backwards,
It fucks with my head
Things_About_Stuff ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:44:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you
Mybugsbunny20 ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 01:47:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clockwise tighten, counter loosen
fistymonkey1337 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 02:04:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you. I always managed to get the angle where lefty tightened and righty loosened. The clock is the only thing that helps my struggling brain.
Mybugsbunny20 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:13:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The lefty loosey bothers me because it requires you to have a top down view on the bolt in question. Staring from the side and pushing the wrench to your right now loosens it.
Spiffy87 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:39:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Grab the bolt with your right hand and snap your fingers. That is the motion that will tighten. It helps when you have to adjust something blind, or through a mirror.
047032495 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:43:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for this.
Mybugsbunny20 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:05:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's really smart.
probablymade_thatup ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:41:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clockwise lockwise
TimX24968B ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:46:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
unless they used left hand threads.
Freevoulous ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:41:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
say it very fast and with a nasal accent and it sounds German
KlockweistieitenKounterLoosen!
732 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:27:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This isn't the case for bike pedals! There are a few other things specifically designed like that as well.
MJOLNIRdragoon ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:30:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup, anything where its typically encountered force would rotate it counterclockwise benefits from lefthanded screws/bolts. My dad had a motorcycle whose left mirror attached with a lefthanded bolt so the wind force would tighten it instead of loosen it.
MrUnderscoreCool ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:43:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drive side of the bottom bracket, too
myothercarisaboson ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:21:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is for the left ones!
b6passat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:49:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Toilet flush handles. Took me a bit to figure that one out recently.
razzytrazza ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:45:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
just experienced the exact same thing not long ago with my toilet flusher
b6passat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:18:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tightened mine so hard going the wrong way, then had to break out the pliers to go back the other way. Thank god for google.
matt5565 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:52:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You have it wrong it's right tightie leftie loosie
Robotmassacre538 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:54:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's this meat slicer at work that I have to clean, the first time I had to this really fucked with me because the screw is leftie tightie, rightie loosie, then you put this cover on it and thats when you rightie tightie, leftie loosie.
VortexLine ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:50:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This never meant anything to me (maybe because Iโm left handed), so for anyone in a similar boat:
Wrap your right hand around the screwdriver with your fingers pointing in the direction you want to turn the screwdriver. Your thumb will point the direction that the screw will go when you turn. So - if you want to remove the screw, make sure your thumb is pointing away from the screw.
If youโre left handed/using your left hand, your thumb will be pointing the opposite direction.
TimX24968B ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:45:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
laughs in left handed threads
nor312 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:05:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clockwise makes things go on. Counterclockwise undoes things.
WarriorsMustang17 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:39:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought that worked until I was facing the wrong way and ended breaking a tv-in port on my cable box clean off of the motherboard.
MintakaEK ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:56:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a better one: "time is tight" (clockwise tights; because left and right can be ambiguous, especially if you are not in a good position with respect to the screw).
MyHeroBob ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:38:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"So lang das Deutsche Reich besteht wird die Schraub(e) nach rechts gedreht." German version of it. Meaning as long as the German empire stands, the screw will be turned to the right
EnkiDamu402 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:58:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trying to choose between the Olsen twins
Ethanxiaorox ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:53:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I saw this comment for a BRIEF second scrolling down and it only registered like a second later and I had to come back just to upvote it
Typical_mann ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:04:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only time this fails me is for a clamp in my lab that can be screwed tight 2 ways. I have to do mental gymnastics each time to open it without accidentally tightening it to oblivion.
frogglesmash ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:10:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lefty righty, tighty loosey.
MagusOTB ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm dyslexic and people kept telling me this and it drove me nuts.
Make a thumbs up fist with the hand your watch isn't on, turn the direction your fingers point, and the bolt goes in the direction your thumb points.
(Modify if left handed, I'm not)
eegs14 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:41:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use this and pretend Iโm opening a bottle
047032495 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:42:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clockwise tighty, counter clockwise loosie.
Lunavalve ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clockwise is lockwise is my go to.
Asiatic_Static ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it's a suppressor its the lefty Jeffrey
23569072358345672 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Australian here. This helped me with driving when I went to America.
CaptBranBran ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:29:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I said this to myself last weekend, kept turning right, and snapped a bolt on the bottom of my lawnmower. Only $40 replace the part I ruined, but damn do I feel like an idiot.
Pikiinuu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:34:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Port is left cuz you left port.
lekaik ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:43:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just recreate the action of opening a bottle. My muscle memory helps with that dilemma.
Cheeze187 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:46:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Propellers and GPS connectors are usually reverse threaded.
ScrubKaiser ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just curious where everyone initially heard this for the first time.
I believe I remember it from a Scooby-Doo episode.
oneEYErD ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:51:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I still remember where I was the moment I learned this useful rhyme.
thisnameisfineiguess ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:27:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...yeah, but is rightie tightie lefty loosie
Bravot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:30:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah except for that one fucking faucet...
hereforcat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless youโre swapping out the pedals on a bike.
PyrZern ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:45:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use 'clockwise, lock-wise'
did-it-for-the-KARMA ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:47:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lefty locky righty relaxy
M33PB4T ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:56:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use mostly brass fittings in my work so everything is opposite for me.
1friendswithsalad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also good advice: donโt say it out loud to someone that youโre working alongside- it usually comes off as incredibly condescending. My old landlord said it to my boyfriend while he was trying to help him fix some things around the house. My boyfriend was... displeased.
hogarenio ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:14:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know why but I thought it was leftie loosie rightie screwie.
Foxfox105 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:20:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, itโs rightie tightie, lefty loosie
KeenanAXQuinn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:26:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Personally I like my own 'Clockwise cocked tight, and the other way.'
EddieUniverse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:31:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I got this from Regular Show, lol. I use this all the time
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:42:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works the same way for rugby scrums and knowing the right names for the props, cool way for young players to learn the difference quickly
Suepremee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:06:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been playing violin for almost 10 years and I STILL tell myself this when tightening/loosening my bow.
PMYOUR_HIGH_HEELS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:09:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're undoing something in a weird spot, say reaching around a pipe or part of an engine bay, click your fingers.
Clicking right hand: direction of thumb tightens
Clicking left hand: direction of thumb loosens
Lysrac ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:11:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clog-wise, counter clog-wise
venlaren ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:21:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
however if you are trying to run a bolt into a hole and you hear a faint click about once every turn, check to make sure it is not a left handed thread. This is usually only the case on an object the turns clockwise most of the time. I watched someone try to reattach a drill chuck to a motor for like 3 minutes hearing click click click. Took the bolt from him and really looked at it, it was a left handed thread.
ballerduckling ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:28:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ledt for loose right for tight
B-Knight ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:46:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless it's a fan because the spin would otherwise loosen the nail.
Fusselfuiletton ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:12:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So lang das deutsche Reich besteht, wird die Schraube rechts gedreht.
Tsorovar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:16:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is what way did that seem useless to you initially?
Galanor1177 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:33:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless it's a natural gas bottle, then it's the opposite!
HokieHigh79 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:45:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But your turning in a circle!!! It literally goes left and then right no matter how you turn!!!! Aahhhhhh! Sorry this has always bothered me
Freevoulous ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:39:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
except for gas tanks (natural gas, propane, etc)
Nanukimo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:06:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this to under my breath too. Im glad I'm not the only one, cause I feel kinda stupid doing it considering I feel like I am fairly smart.
BouncyKnight89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:13:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless you are changing a gas bottle... (or Propane if your from America)
TheNewHobbes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:25:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's my testicular cancer check done for today
Nextran ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:24:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Solang das deutsche Reich besteht wird die Schraube rechts rum reingedreht.
This is like the same thing but in german, i just love it cos it sounds cool
Muzer0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:20:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was little I came up with "anticlockwise: undo, clockwise: do (up)", which I remembered as AU CD. CDs exist so this made it easier for my young mind to remember.
theSatiatedAfrican ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:24:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Time's always tight!
EthanSpears ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:45:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never heard someone say it in that order. Always righty tighty lefty loosey
rose-ramos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:47:16 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This wouldn't work at my job. All the locks lock by turning them to the left.
God damn it, job.
Neroflux ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never understood this. It depends what side you're looking at and it depends what side the wrench starts on.
mitch13815 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 01:10:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...Is awful advice. Screws are circular, so going left to right on the top suddenly becomes right to left on the bottom.
kmrst ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:03:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clockwise lockwise.
jerzeypipedreamz ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:58:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You are correct and it's why that saying messed me up for the longest time when screwing in something.
LtDenali ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:43:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had this too, but that's just from over thinking. If you still can't get it, just add "from the top" to the end of the saying
akimbocorndogs ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:55:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. I'm always getting mixed up when turning something upside down or whatever. The better way to think of it is "counterclockwise loosens, clockwise tightens".
slightly_freckled ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I could never figure out which way to move things untill I started pretending the screw was a soda bottle. Now I just think of what motIon I need to open (loosen) it or close (tighten) it. You have to make sure the head of the screw is the cap though so sometimes I picture my bottle upside down or on its side.
i_like_sushi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:21:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take your right hand with your thumb up and curl your fingers. Your fingers curl toward which direction to turn to move the screw or whatever in the direction of your thumb.
clefairy ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 03:41:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Steering wheels are also circular and not much (I hope) people get confused. Treat the screw as a steering wheel.
Cocoapuff2470 ยท 2063 points ยท Posted at 22:28:03 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smiling at people. You can get a lot just from a simple smile.
majeric ยท 94 points ยท Posted at 02:23:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just don't tell someone else to smile... That's an asshole thing to do.
TimX24968B ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 03:55:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
or physically make them smile. that's even worse.
Mysterious_Lesions ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:29:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We have a saying in our religion that every smile is charity. I constantly have to remind myself and my kids how true that is.
This behaviour is instantly disarming and more than half the time contagious. Even if I was down, seeing someone smile back at me after I smiled at them was very uplifting. So it is charity, but one that can give back.
[Sorry for the Reader's Digest corny point to ponder but I regret nothing!]
[deleted] ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 02:59:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best life hack. It's universal and so kind. I read a post where someone was thinking about killing themselves because no one, not a stranger not anyone, hadn't even looked at them. They changed their mind when someone smiled at them because it made them recognize their humanity. You never know what someone is going through and sometimes a reassuring smile is just it.
princessgama ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:05:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. Be nice and people will be nice back. I have befriended the Starbucks baristas at the one I frequent, and they will often give extras for free. Whether that be putting the whip cream in the bottom of my cup or just adding extra cookie pieces to my java chip frap. Be nice.
Emperor_Cartagia ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 03:04:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I smiled once, I have seven kids now.
Cocoapuff2470 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:05:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thats rough buddy
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:35:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't even care if those two statements were related, I'm not chancing it. I'm never smiling again.
Emperor_Cartagia ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:39:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tbf, I don't think I can remember Liam Neeson ever smiling to begin with.
betaich ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:23:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In my country that would be seen as weird as fuck.
FlixFlix ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:48:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What country is that?
betaich ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:07:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Germany
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:40:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well yeah, that's obviously the exception.
betaich ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:10:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As are Austria, Switzerland, Sweden, Norway, Finland, Estonia, Latvia, Lithuania, Russia, Belarus, Ukraine, Poland, Hungary, Czech Republick and many many more.
BiggestFlower ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:50:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That explains why so many tourists look confused when I smile at them or say hello.
deepfriedtwix ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:43:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love smiling at people. It confuses the fuck out them half the time. It leads to a bigger more genuine smile.
PikpikTurnip ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:12:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd probably just creep people out if I did that.
ButtsexEurope ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:19:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thereโs another post on the front page that forcing a fake smile at work makes you more depressed and more likely to drink later.
fj333 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:58:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can get a lot just by smiling to yourself. When you're unhappy you can literally change your emotions by forcing a smile. Obviously there are limits to this, but it's still something I'd never have believed until I tried it.
EmergencyAdvance ยท 75 points ยท Posted at 23:25:58 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Found the American.
Most people find that weird and creepy
404NinjaNotFound ยท 105 points ยท Posted at 00:20:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Where I live people actually enjoy being smiled at or given a nod. And it's not America.
GamerKormai ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:50:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's Canada isn't it? We smile at each other...and apologize.
404NinjaNotFound ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:49:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wish it was :( it's the UK.
Wishyouamerry ยท 215 points ยท Posted at 23:56:31 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not everybodyโs from Robotville, the Land With No Human Emotions.
NSA_Chatbot ยท 54 points ยท Posted at 01:32:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
-Master-Builder- ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 01:33:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You mean Germany?
DisMaTA ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:14:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It works in Germany, too.
Green2Black ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:06:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, I found very little success with this as an American married to a German woman that lived in Germany for 8 months.
They have their smiles for their friends and family. This is not to say they aren't friendly, or helpful, to strangers but they hold you at arms length unless your in their inner circle for the most part.
DisMaTA ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:24:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True. Smiles are usually genuine.
That's why you can do quite a lot with one.
Just don't smile all the time, it will come across as fake/untrustworthy.
mmmagnetic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:41:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a super friendly German who loves to smile at people, that's not my experience at all. Maybe it depends on where you live? Here in Hamburg people won't react weird if you smile at them during conversations.
OhBestThing ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 01:45:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt talk about Eastern Europe like that!
EmergencyAdvance ยท -60 points ยท Posted at 23:58:32 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smiling at random people is the fastest way for them to be creeped out
insulation_crawford ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 00:38:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Found the non-Texan. Aren't you just special? Bless your heart.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:14:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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insulation_crawford ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:34:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ain't that just special? Bless their little hearts.
Tawptuan ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:14:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Found the non-Thai.
On a two hour cycling trip through little villages this morning, I was the happy recipient of 2-3 dozen big smiles. Of course, I reciprocated.
The whole world isnโt a glum dungeon, people.
th3saxman ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 01:08:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
WE SMILE BECAUSE FREEDOM
Strider08000 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 00:40:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think if you force a smile this is true.
If you somehow find a reason to smile, even one so simple as just to show friendliness, and itโs coming from a genuine pla e, people will appreciate it even if they donโt outwardly show that they do.
How to find a reason to just be happy? Now that takes some self-discovery...
ImplosiveKiwi56 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 00:49:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People really donโt do that in other countries??
cuzimmathug ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 01:46:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd just advise women to be careful about it in Europe. I smile at everyone out of habit, a homeless man and an economic refugee (separate occasions) in Germany took it as an invitation to follow me on my walk and try to marry me.
In Italy, where older men and younger women are semi common pairings, an older gentleman took it as an invite to, again, come try to date me.
Just be careful lol
ZigiZigenbein ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 13:22:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was raised to smile, it was considered to be polite. It works in rural America near the Canadian border, where people understand that it just means you were raised to be polite. However, life taught me that this does not work so well in big cities. When a guy smiles at me, I think, "His mother raised him to be polite." But when I smiled at men, they somehow turn that into "SHE WANTS ME" and that can lead to unwanted sexual advances. So guys, when you see that older woman at work who frowns all the time, there's a reason. She learned to do that, in order to reduce the number of embarassing and sometimes terrifying sexual advances on the job. It just becomes a habit that persists long after we've reached the "age of invisibility" and are no longer the target of sexual advances/assaults on the job. I've noticed female bartenders who aren't trying for tips tend to frown at all of the men, it probably makes their lives easier/less terrifying, not being followed out to their car after work...
kackygreen ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:05:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They do in some, not in some others. In much of Europe people will think you're crazy or trying to scam them if you smile until they learn that you're American since it's pretty well known that Americans smile a lot (there are theories that we, in the US, use it to diffuse any potential conflicts since we have a lot of people who won't speak a common language in bigger cities).
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:22:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's a pretty terrible theory given how cosmopolitan the larger EU cities are compared to the US. We just like to be neighborly to everybody until they prove they don't deserve it. "Everybody" means something different in different communities though. There are a lot of places where "outsiders" are certainly not getting a smile and a nod.
Gerrymanderingsucks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's just not true, in both historical and modern times; the US has one of the highest rates of immigration population (people whose relatives/ancestors came from another country) overall, and from very diverse countries. Check out the data underlying the analysis, linked in this article. https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2017/05/why-americans-smile-so-much/524967/
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:10:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No idea why you got downvoted. Still disagree with the theory. Really seems to be more about national ideals. The US models "good neighbors" after Mayberry and Lake Wobegone. Smile. Put on a happy face for the public. Be dead and judgemental on the inside. Would assume the German stereotype comes from Protestant "life is suffering" ideology coupled with the idea that what happens in public is business and therefore should be serious by default.
Toralar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not in Ukraine
Warpato ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:44:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
like most body lanaguage/expressions it varies culture to culture
extralyfe ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 23:52:38 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
most people just spend all day looking like this? :|
calling bullshit on that one.
betaich ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 02:26:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Germany, Switzerland, Czech Republic, Poland, Ukraine, Russia, Austria, Sweden, Norway, Denmark, Finland and a lot of others would like to have a word with you.
Green2Black ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:07:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This guy gets it.
It's not personal, they just don't know you.
betaich ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:28:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly and if you seem to friendly we at least in Germany are thinking you will sell us something or even worse fraud us out of our money.
AMViquel ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:35:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People happy in public just isn't right, they are up to something. High at best, insane at worst. Probably both. Stupid happy people. I hate them.
extralyfe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:34:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
so, if I go to any of these countries and someone needs my help, they would just request it and not smile once at the beginning or end of our meeting? just a gruff thanks? not even that?
none of the people in the countries you listed engage in social niceties?
like, say I see someone struggling with pushing their broken down car down the road. I offer to help, we easily get it down to the place they need it. they don't smile once as we go our separate ways?
Jaz_the_Nagai ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:17:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Czech Republic.....
fraseyboy ยท -8 points ยท Posted at 00:42:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you ever left America?
extralyfe ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:44:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yes, have you?
smiling at people isn't weird or creepy, everyone smiles.
I feel like people are missing OP's point and assuming they mean "smiling at everyone all the goddamn time." yeah, that's weird, even here in the States.
quick smiles are basic social niceties, and they're not restricted to America. I can't stop you from thinking every other country in the world looks like Charlie's house in the Willy Wonka movie, but, I assure you they don't.
fraseyboy ยท -12 points ยท Posted at 02:05:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smiling is much less common in many countries than it is in America. American's in general are perceived as too friendly outside of America to the point that they're obnoxious, smiling and staring incessantly is one of the reasons why. Maybe you don't notice because you're so used to it.
Rengas ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:12:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That perception sounds like a you problem, not a them problem.
fraseyboy ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 02:20:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not saying I necessarily perceive Americans that way but that's a commonly held sentiment...
When you're a foreigner in someone else's culture and your behaviour is perceived as weird it always your problem. Maybe that's the issue... Americans go to other countries, do something they think is totally normal but is weird in that culture, then blame the culture they're in for not being like America.
Rengas ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:26:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Funny. I've traveled across four different continents and not once did anyone ever react with hostility when I smiled at them. Your prejudice definitely isn't as common as you think.
miakittycatmeow ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:50:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like you kinda hate Americans
fraseyboy ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 02:50:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah lol who doesn't
dustbin3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:50:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hulkamania brother!
extralyfe ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:39:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
did... did you just ignore the part where I said people here do that too and we think they're weird? it's not a national quirk, the vast majority of people here don't smile and stare incessantly.
it just seems like you're turning this into an America vs. the World thing. guess what? tourists from other countries come here and smile. I've seen people smile when in other countries.
you sound like a character out of Papers, Please.
Crookmeister ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:51:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you pay attention. Almosy every default thread ends up as America vs. the world. Usually ham fisted in by a European that hates us.
extralyfe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:28:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish the world would realize that their version of stereotypical Americans are people we generally make fun of, too.
christ, it's the "French chicks have hairy pits" thing all over again.
fraseyboy ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:45:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What I'm saying is what's considered "incessantly" varies. The level at which you think it's normal and friendly might be weird to other cultures.
And I'm not saying every country is anti-smiles, I'm saying not every country is pro-smiles.
matane ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:17:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh fuck off. Hope that wasnโt too obnoxious
fraseyboy ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 02:32:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ITT: Americans offended that the world doesn't love them as much as they love themselves :O
matane ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:34:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Na we just donโt like sour shits
fraseyboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:37:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why'd you eat so much taco bell then
extralyfe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:50:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yanno the "america is one big happy sappy nation" circlejerk is beyond outdated, right? that shit stopped being a thing like 17-19 years ago.
people here are meming about wanting to cannibalize the rich on a daily basis, our political system has failed us, we've been at war or in conflict for something like 20 years straight, the youth are realizing exactly how fucked the boomers and dumb white people have left them, we have terrible education, corporations have long since been selling every detail about us because we don't have anything like GDPR, we have the worst prison system, and, most sadly, this country is extremely full of hate.
you can make fun of us all you'd like, but, please trust and believe we aren't walking around grinning like saps as a nation. you see the people that can AFFORD to leave their jobs and blow money on a trip across the ocean for a vacation. these are primarily the folks who are above the issues the majority of the nation is dealing with. the rest of us barely make ends meet because livable wage is a joke and cost of living just keeps going up.
tl;dr: nuh-uh
fraseyboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:05:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yet most of you still voted for an elderly TV personality to be your president ๐ค
extralyfe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:24:19 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lol, no, it's a well known fact that the country voted for someone else.
it's just that due to the failed political system I mentioned above, popular vote doesn't matter and a far smaller group of knuckleheads basically decide the election without needing to consider the whims of the public.
man, people say Americans don't know shit about other countries, but, looks like that's something we share with folks around the world.
fraseyboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:30:15 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only if you define "the country" as "half the country"... Regardless of how shitty the electoral roll and all that is, the idea that HALF of your population went into a voting booth and put down vote for that ridiculous idiot is still mind boggling.
In my country I've yet to meet anyone who supports him. In your country I could probably find someone pretty easily. That's incredible to me.
extralyfe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:14:54 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it's incredible to me, too. I still haven't met a Trump supporter in real life and we're three years in.
TheyreAllTakenFuckMe ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:49:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eastern European? Found this true when I lived there a little. Seemed to stem mostly from older generations when they lived under Russian influence as a satellite.
klop422 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 00:49:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I disagree. Many smile back, and others are likely just a bit shy.
And even if not, doing it just means you're smiling more than you would otherwise, and smiling improves the mood
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 00:47:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Am not American, can confirm, I don't like interact with complete stranges unless is for a totally necessary reason (Work, asking for a direction, ect), but out of the blue? not thanks
The4ker ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:58:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Found the Frenchman
Jokes aside in the UK we smile at each other all the time, especially the north, it's considered ANTI social to not smile at the random person you accidentally made eye contact with
SexyAppelsin ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:05:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I live in Scandinavia and even herr the occasional smile will be appreciated. Always smile, even if you dont live in America.
Admiringcone ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:23:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Visit Australia - Most people do this and we are happier than you.
Tawptuan ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:19:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thailand. Ditto.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:30:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only if you smile like ( อกยฐ อส อกยฐ)
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:30:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most people don't seem to experience the pain it causes Northern European and Asian nations to smile until they get a few drinks in them.
DisMaTA ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not if it's a genuine or really well acted smile.
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:36:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Found Zuckerberg.
nokanjaijo ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 01:18:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
By American you mean the two continents?
Edit: you're downvoting an honest question. Can I recommend Valium?
EmergencyAdvance ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:02:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't actually downvote you, I was sleeping.
Everyone knows that 'America' is shorthand for the United States. Don't pretend like this is news to you
nokanjaijo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:27:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I was talking to whoever was downvoting me, there were a few.
But I've also had people tell me that 'American' refers to people on those continents. Since I know first hand how much Canadians and Mexicans smile, I wondered if you were using it that way.
Now I know you weren't.
And I also remember why I stay away from the larger subreddits.
Mavs1balla ยท -9 points ยท Posted at 00:19:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People only find it weird or creepy if the person smiling is unattractive, unfortunate truth.
EverydayEverynight01 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 23:12:31 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what if you're asian and smiling only makes your eyes even smaller?
auto_pHIGHlot ยท 80 points ยท Posted at 23:54:59 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just enjoy the view in widescreen.
IllegalAlcoholic ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:19:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm, Iโm an asian.
Warpato ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:45:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
straight up, asian smiles are the best they always seem more genuine and just so happy
MajesticFlapFlap ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:57:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tell that to Billie Eilish
Kisua ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:23:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I smile at people all the time because I can't turn off my "customer service face" and it makes people uncomfortable.
someghostcalledi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:54:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm definitely not a smiler, but one day I was walking and a guy and a girl was in front of me. The guy was wearing a magikarp beanie that got me smiling and the girl glanced back at me then fully turned her head to smile back at me. I donโt get a lot of attention from girls so it kind of surprised me and made me wish I could smile genuinely on command.
officerkondo ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:54:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never smile if I can help it. Showing one's teeth is a submission signal in primates. When someone smiles at me, all I see is a chimpanzee begging for its life.
Jukebox_Villain ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:53:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To people downvoting him, it's an Office reference.
Tawptuan ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:34:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We found the Radical Behaviorist
HaroldFlower ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:44:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this
Khotaman ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:03:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Showing vulnerability to someone is a signal of trust in humans. We are evolving, always. What was will not always be.
K-Jonatan-B ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not in the UK
fiery_devi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:21:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. I am always smiling, whether it's to other people or to myself. I have lost count the number of times people have come up to me and say how I'm always smiling and seem happy, and how it has made them smile/cheered them up as well. When they ask me why I am always smiling, I usually reply that there is always at least one thing worth smiling about, whether it's the nice weather, a good cup of coffee, or just being alive.
I have also suffered depression most of my life, so this has also helped me change my negative thought processes into more positive ones, since I am focusing on things to be happy about, vs ruminating on what is making me miserable.
That, and the joy of seeing others smile back, and sometimes sparking conversations with strangers is a gift unto itself.
zorro1701e ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:56:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
youll have a buzzfeed video made about this saying how Americans smile a lot.
chu100 ยท 3776 points ยท Posted at 22:51:29 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop chasing girls. Most times now they notice me as an individual, not as someone begging for a girlfriend.
Teoshen ยท 1650 points ยท Posted at 00:24:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This seems really counterintuitive, but I can confirm it works. They can smell the desperation coming off you. When I gave up and worked on personal projects, I found a lot more success with women.
That said, you still have to be in an environment that leads to talking with people. Giving up doesn't mean to sit in your apartment and mope, it means to not have getting a girl as the goal for the day while you're out and about.
Yoshi_XD ยท 147 points ยท Posted at 01:44:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Biggest piece of advice I gave to a friend who was looking really hard for a girlfriend: Don't go out specifically looking to meet women, just go meet people.
If you're that guy at the party that can get along and have fun with everybody you talk to, people will take notice, and also take interest.
Y6Y1Y9 ยท 69 points ยท Posted at 01:55:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only thing i don't understand about this is that at a certain point, someone has to be the one to say hey i like you we should go on a date. By the logic of the don't pursue, don't go looking specifically for dating, that would never happen. It has to happen at some point does it not? I'm not trying to be facetious, i really don't understand it because it seems like such a catch 22. Everyone always says don't pursue and don't be desperate obviously, but everyone then also says "well are you trying? did you go out and talk to people" and all that. And just going out and being social doesn't get you to a relationship, that just expands a platonic friend circle. I'm struggling to see where that step to a romantic relationship comes into play.
meriendaselgato ยท 71 points ยท Posted at 02:05:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If thereโs a good connection between two people, even in the context of a platonic friend group, if itโs worth pursuing IMO it makes itself apparent without anyone having to โtry.โ Like yeah maybe at some point someone has to initiate a date or something but if thereโs chemistry I donโt think it needs to be like a big scary thing? The whole thing with not trying is that youโre doing your own thing until someone comes along that admires that thing and is compatible with you. Itโs not about never pursuing a specific person you like, Iโd say itโs more about changing your focus away from searching for a mate.
AvgGuy100 ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 03:59:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, all of my previous relationships have been from approaching people in this way. Just being in the same situation, and then having a chemistry with some of them, then one day having dinner, and another one, and another... On and on until you're official.
If you like a person, and that person likes you in return, you'll likely notice if you're put in the same situations.
Even if you aren't you can always create a situation, ask out on a date, but if they don't want to or if they "don't see you that way" don't get disheartened, desperate, and pushy, just treat them as a friend and move on. Many people would like you.
howlinggale ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 04:36:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or not like you. I do not like many people. So it would be odd to assume that many people would like me. People do like me, but the world is full of all sorts of weirdos.
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Y6Y1Y9 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:00:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I see what you mean for the most part. There needs to be a degree of familiarity between you and the person before someone makes a move. Doesn't naturally wanting to spend more one on one time together inherently involve asking someone out somewhat before rapport is fully established, specifically so you can further build on the rapport? Isn't that the dating process before you're exclusive? I guess i'm seeing the distinction with a lot more crossover/grey area than the people who have this figured out do. Fuck, i think i'm the guy who can't read the room.
dongtouch ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:02:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes you will have to guess, and you will guess incorrectly. One type of dude will go on reddit ranting how he doesn't get women and dating and how is this ever supposed to work?? Other type of dude will let it roll right off him and go on with his life, happy to look for the next opportunity. It's frequently a matter of perspective.
Y6Y1Y9 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:31:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True. I can at least say I'm the latter. When I get rejected I'm never angry or bitter, but I do over think how I misinterpreted the signs or lack there of and got it wrong a lot and how I can avoid that the next time/person.
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jaakacht ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:46:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've got in that exact situation.
DifferentThrows ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 03:04:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Psychology students are always fucked up.
They get into psych thinking they will understand themselves, and instead come out more confused with a truly worthless degree.
Ivegotthatboomboom ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 11:26:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am a psych student and I can confirm that a ton of people in my classes have spoken openly about their mental illness or past trauma. A lot of psych people first become interested while being treated it seems. I've had my struggles same as anyone else in any other field, but I majored in psychology because I love science, and I believe the knowledge gained through psychological experiments is important and meaningful. It's not a useless degree it just requires a graduate degree to work in the field. I'm also doing a minor in stats to make myself more marketable.
superfly_penguin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:11:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree with the first part, wouldnโt call it a worthless degree though.
howlinggale ยท -11 points ยท Posted at 04:48:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But why would I try and build rapport with a stranger? Unless I want something? And if they read that I want something then I should already be coming across as desperate by your logic.
I date women (including those half my age) so I'm not lashing out about it not working. More that my experience is that you are wrong. I'm not saying your method doesn't work, but I've not needed to do it that way.
superfly_penguin ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 09:13:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you asking why you should talk to people if you donโt intend to date them? lol Thereโs much more you can get out off getting to know knew people. Friendships, life experience, fun stories to tell, Networking for your career...
howlinggale ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 16:51:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But in the end you're still trying to get something out of them, so why should they be receptive? And I guess you're going to target specific people to try and make progress in your career rather than women you don't know.
InferniumK ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 02:17:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What I would say is it's a gradual process. You start off by just being friendly and having fun, but as you progress through new conversations/interactions with the same person, your appreciation, attraction, feelings towards the person, etc., begin to develop and your relationship grows from there. If you go into it pursuing them right off the bat, it's like you're skipping the buildup steps where you learn about each other, and to the other person it seems like you could like them just as much as you like a stranger, which conveys desperation and neediness. Eventually, and gradually, you get to the point where one or both of you realize that you like each other, and then someone makes a move; but I would say that the pursuit comes later, not at the start.
howlinggale ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:43:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But that's a problem if you don't really get to interact with someone much. That's the point of dating. I don't mean being in a relationship, I mean going out on dates... That's how you get to know someone. I might take part in 9 recreational activities a week that involve groups. But most of those groups focus on doing what they are doing and then go their own separate ways. It's hard to develop relationships (non-romantic) that way.
None of my relationships have come from dating friends or co-workers. But it's really easy to tell if I like someone quickly because I don't like most people at all.
Durpurp ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 05:45:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This so much.
I went to a friends 18th birthday. There's a few guys from his school and his gf who brought a few of her girlfriends from out of town. Have a few drinks, chat for a bit, go home at 2 am.
A few years later, he celebrates his 25th at the same venue (different gf, same friends from his school) and we reminisce about the first party. Offhand, he tells me how after I went home, the girls mentioned that it was great to have someone actually talk to them instead of hitting on them constantly like the other guys there. It's nice to hear that, but all the other guys are there with their SO's and I'm the one who's never been in a relationship.
I know it's not as simple as that and me being eternally single is probably because I'm just too fucked up, but it still stung like hell.
Yteburk ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:59:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oof
dustbin3 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:42:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hello fellow INTP.
heedthecallofcthulhu ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 07:47:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We out here!
Jon_Cake ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:45:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
there's always the ol'
outerdrive313 ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 05:39:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And that has always proven to be a crock of shit. There are a lot of "ugly" people in relationships and a lot of awkward attractive people who are single.
The people who say shit like "be attractive; don't be unattractive" are usually "ugly" people who don't want to date other "ugly" people.
Felgh01 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:05:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Just want to say this tip is the opposite of 'rules 1 & 2', if you start chasing girls they have nothing to judge you on but your looks, but if you actually get to know them looks don't matter.
Which is the problem with dating apps; for most of us, there is no way we'd be picked out of hundreds of others based solely off of profiles.
Edit: I mean the original tip. Also I'm not saying they have to be ugly, they'd just have to be good looking to not be rejected with that many choices
Bourbone ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:27:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Part of the issue is that men tend to be goal oriented, as youโre exhibiting here.
Thatโs great for most things, not for this.
Going to the party with any conscious goal about meeting girls or getting laid will be read plainly in your actions and body language. Instead, have the goal to be fun.
Of course, someone has to make a move eventually, but thatโs not the issue for 99% of guys. The issue is seeming low-status by seeming desperate by seeming to be at a party only to get laid.
Iโve been very successful with women my whole life and I almost never โmake a moveโ. I have fun and eventually they make a move or they send signals so obviously that Iโd have to be an idiot not to make a move. And my โmoveโ aligns with everything weโve been doing.
I disagree also with your premise about it crossing some sort of Disney movie line between โwant to go on a date?โ and simply hanging out more.
If youโre out with people and have fun, youโll want to do it again. If you and a particular person have fun, youโll both want to do it again. Plan that next thing openly and without fear and, again, not as cover to get laid. And it will be read as โthis guy is fun and doing that thing will be funโ. Which is mostly the issue with guysโ โgameโ anyway - making it like a proposal makes it too intense and on the nose and comes off creepy or desperate unless they already see you as a cool fun guy they want to be with.
insultanidiot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
a relationship can go from plutonic to romantic and back again in an no time so I wouldnโt worry too much about how it begins. there is nothing wrong with โpursuingโ someone but it might be easier to foster levity and attraction in your relationships by not focusing too much on romantic expectations to start. if youre approachable enough women may even ask you out though for the most part you need to accept the possibility of rejection. With experience it becomes easier to tell when people are attracted to you but I wonโt lie and say I havenโt gotten it wrong before.
[deleted] ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 02:19:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep, following this advice is a good way to watch many years go by being alone.
PatmanTheBanproof ยท -13 points ยท Posted at 03:08:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They will give you the signals that tell you they want to have sex, from you not seeming like you want them. You will know because they will make it obvious.
Its not all about dating. The sex is usually going to come first
Magnus_Helgisson ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:37:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turned out I'm super easy with getting along with the guys but not with the girls. I can't approach a random girl at some event and start casually talking. Because a)women these days often feel like prey in such cases and I can't blame them, b)girls mostly go to events with their boyfriends. And in case b I have way less problems with smiling to their boyfriend than to them.
akimbocorndogs ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 01:53:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a current apartment moper with too much time on his hands, any suggestions? I've been meaning to meet more people in general lately. I don't think bars are a good idea for me because I don't drink, and I'm not in college, and I live in a fairly small town... Ack.
wareagle3 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 03:21:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
While itโs my opinion that bars are probably the most efficient way to meet new people (since thatโs where a lot of people go for the express purpose of meeting new people), the best ways to meet more would be in any club or other social thing/event you could join. A club for your favorite hobby (or even a new hobby), you could meet someone at a concert or sports game, or maybe even church if thatโs your thing. Anywhere other people are out and about.
howlinggale ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 04:51:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
First don't try and date. Go spend sometime doing things for yourself first. How are you going to come across to women if you describe yourself as an apartment moper? There must be something you want to do in life.
awesomeaviator ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:32:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this but I inevitably get surrounded by other guys (not a bad thing as I've made some friends), but it's incredibly frustrating. I'm at my wits end since I have no way of meeting women and literally none of my friends have single mutual friends.
Tried online dating, turns out it's significantly harder for men of colour where I live.
howlinggale ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:37:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything that interests you that might appeal to women more? My experience of yoga and dancing (not things I'm really into) has been that those classes were mainly populated by women.
awesomeaviator ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:48:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmm, I do enjoy cooking. I'm pretty active within my little circle of other photographers as well, and I know many women do photography but my particular circle is pretty much fully male.
Houseton ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:22:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Counchsurfing app. They regularly put on events and stuff you can go to. It's great to just meet and be social. No pressure on you for anything and it can be fun.
SirSeizureSalad ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 01:40:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or everytime I get a GF, I ignore other girls and then have them climbing over fences and crawling through windows like an episode of the walking dead.
droid_mike ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 02:57:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's because you've been validated. Once that girlfriend goes away, so does the pre-validation and you are toast with the other women again.
SirSeizureSalad ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:05:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't trust Valet guys, I saw the new Death Wish.
drizzitdude ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 05:42:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It also makes you more interesting as a person.l which gives you better luck. When a girl says โso what have you been up toโ talking about a project or goal you have is interesting. Saying nothing is not. Saying chasing girls is not.
inferno1170 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:34:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tried many different ways, never been able to make it work with even one girl. I'm 26. Not really sure what to do at this point. I pretty much am done putting in any effort at this point. Maybe that will work! Haha
But really, I've tried not coming off desperate but out of every time I've asked a girl out, I've had I think two go on a date with me? One I found out was in a relationship.
I've tried not being weird about it too. I try to ask for just getting dinner a night. I always set a specific date so that I don't corner them with a "What day works for you?" That way if they are interested they can say "Oh I can't that day, but what about this other day". If they give a response that just seems like a deflect I leave them alone and don't pester them with it. I mean, that's the right thing to do, right? I don't just ignore them, I've stayed really good friends with girls after asking them out, so I think I'm doing that right. But still, I'm not really sure what I need to improve on. It just gets really discouraging to keep trying. Rejection is frustrating.
Teoshen ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:47:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So I don't know your numbers, but between conversations with general people, and active attempts on tinder and okcupid, I averaged a success rate of around 2% for first dates. The women who I found attractive, who found me attractive, in each of our acceptable age ranges, single, and in a good spot to pursue some kind of relationship, was a pretty low number. And after that, not many first dates turned into second and third dates because of personalities not meshing and other life happening.
All in all, it is a lot of luck that I found my lovely wife, but a lot of that luck was manipulated by how many people I've collided with over the last decade. I wouldn't have met her or someone like her if I didn't meet a lot of people.
PoiLethe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:47:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The more you do, the more you have to talk about, the more interesting people will find you and want to interact and participate in things with you.
beardedheathen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:59:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want proof that it works as a guy you'll notice you get a lot more attention from women after getting in a relationship. That's cause you aren't acting like a predator out hunting anymore and are just relaxed and yourself.
FlannanLight ยท 2821 points ยท Posted at 23:55:33 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Women want to feel like people, not prey.
the_red_phone ยท 2599 points ยท Posted at 00:07:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always did so poorly at bars and parties and my cool friend told me โgirls want to be with the guy who is having the most funโ
It seriously was a night and day difference, I started just having fun and getting games going and being funny and it worked wonders.
dimhearted ยท 790 points ยท Posted at 01:33:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes ...there is a song called girls just want to have fun. It is a how to for picking up girls
dwmfives ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 02:29:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You don't actually know the lyrics, do you?
Lovecraftenberg ยท 66 points ยท Posted at 02:50:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are there more lyrics than "GIRL'S JUST WANT TO HAVE FUN"?
dwmfives ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 02:54:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One about coming home late, and one about getting a late phone call. The rest is girls just wanna have fun.
Generationalgap ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:50:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Something about when you gonna get your life right
BananaNutJob ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 05:39:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really the whole thing is phrased as a kind of apology to the protagonist's father for being wild and breaking the rules. Cuz girls, they wanna have fun.
ArrrGaming ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 06:01:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs all they really waAAAaaAaant.
BananaNutJob ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 06:24:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
OhhhOHHHohhhOHOHHHH
zelda0934 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:18:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read somewhere that the song was originally intended to be from a guy's perspective explaining to his father his philandering ways and that girls just want to have fun.
thatcrazylady ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:25:25 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, right. It's a feminist statement about girls in the 80s, when we were still dealing with "girls are subject to different rules than boys." cyndi Lauper tried to say that girls also got to reach out and be themselves. She threw in a verse about oppressive men. Cyndi Lauper was a leader in female freedom.
howlinggale ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:26:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's a song about girls not wanting relationships.
[deleted] ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 02:37:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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puckallday ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:03:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this is my philosophy
nicoliest_of_nicoles ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 02:11:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Am a girl and can confirm, fun guy always wins over overly eager guy.
Clowns_Sniffing_Glue ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 06:03:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a friend who recently learned this tidbit. So, now he is always "having fun, laughing and enjoying himself", while his eyes still dart around the room scanning if the prey has noticed him having fun.
He is a good person but now is also 25% creepier.
nicoliest_of_nicoles ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 15:16:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh dear, Iโm gonna need you to intervene STAT
thewhitedragonfly ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:11:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone wants to be with people who are having the most fun. (Except if you are an introvert or other such exceptions)
Lucky_Knight1 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:40:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So how do I be fun and funny?
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:00:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
CONFIRMED
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:01:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This explains so much to me wow thank u!! I always look like I'm having the most fun too as a woman. Does it go the same the same both ways? That explains everything to be honest
1-1-19MemeBrigade ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:15:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes. I never had much success with clubs because my standard method was "awkwardly shuffle in the corner for a while."
Then someone said "just put yourself out there and have a good time, girls want to dance with a guy who's already having a good time." And lo and behold, the same night I started focusing less on finding a partner and more on just enjoying myself, a girl came up to me and started dancing with me.
Of course, I fucked that up by accidentally repeatedly kneeing her between the legs to the beat of an EDM song, but that's a different story for another time.
howlinggale ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:32:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And girls (strangers) would come up to me while I was sitting alone in the corners of bars/clubs and try to drag me to the dance floor.
I also seem to have been super popular with gay men as well.
atree496 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 06:21:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think you might just be attractive
howlinggale ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 16:53:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Physically? I wouldn't say so. I have been described as a walking corpse.
CarismoCarlander ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:11:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For sure.
Arktuos ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:39:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always wondered how I managed to find girls way out of my league. Back in college I decided that I was more important to me than finding a girlfriend. I suppose I agree. It works.
Lucifer_Hirsch ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:37:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rules 1 and 2 still apply.
p_velocity ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 03:04:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rule #1: Be attractive
Rule #2: don't be unattractive.
This applies to personality as well as physical appearance.
TinyCatCrafts ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:07:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dated a couple guys I didnt find attractive in the least when we first met.
People become more attractive the more you like them as a person.
howlinggale ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:28:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes, sometimes not. People certainly become less attractive if I dislike them. Although I think in theory I could get behind a hate fuck in some cases.
1-1-19MemeBrigade ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:11:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But here's the secret they don't tell you- people look at the guy having fun and think "man, he looks like he's already having so much fun. I wanna have fun too, let's go hang out with him and we can have fun together."
On the flip side, they see the guy awkwardly standing in the corner not being social and they think "he doesn't look fun and I want to have fun, better move on."
You gotta be comfortable having fun by yourself without relying on other people to provide fun for you. People don't want to be saddled with entertainment duty, they want to have fun with someone who is also fun.
In other words, having a good time makes you more attractive.
howlinggale ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:30:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Women used to come up to me all the time when I was sitting alone in the corner of a bar. People do all sorts of weird shit. But it's about identifying what is most likely to appeal to the kind of women you are interested in. But do it for you, not for them.
thatcrazylady ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:48:56 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am female, and used to attract men by studying at the bar in college. Appearing to be engrossed in something made them want to know what was so interesting that I could ignore the bar life.
howlinggale ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:18:44 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So many things could make me ignore bar life. I'm pretty sure I've only been in bars at the request of others or to kill time while waiting.
centwhore ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:33:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Looks get you in the door, personality keeps you in.
Lucifer_Hirsch ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:38:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yes. but it's an "and" not an "or".
howlinggale ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:25:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some girls do. Women still approach me when I'm sitting alone in a dark corner with my usual grim face on. Their definition of fun must be somewhat different to the norm. It takes all kinds I guess. But I also guess that by sitting in the corner I'm also not chasing them.
pekes86 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:00:22 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So, so many men do not understand this. You can SMELL the preying vibes coming off them when they approach you and try super super hard to impress you. It is super tiring and boring to talk to. I will happily chat to anyone, literally anyone, if they're just chill and being themselves and having a good time.
The other thing is that sometimes men try this, and even though they get better at conversations etc, they still think it's unfair or something when they don't get a girlfriend in like a week. It isn't about being "friendzoned" because you're the worst, it's the fact that not everyone will be your perfect bloody match. Think about how many people you meet and either think are just okay, or don't like that much. Then apply that same statistic to finding a partner, and heighten it a bit because you have to REALLY like someone and click with them to want to put your face close to their face (maybe unless drunk idk). It is NORMAL to struggle to find a good partner, and women struggle with this too, everyone does.
Oh yeah also being "nice" and "respectful" is literally the bare fucking minimum for being a good partner. Like, that's great, but it doesn't mean the universe owes you a partner. Everyone in my life who I choose to associate with on any reasonable level is "nice" and "respectful." Doesn't mean they are automatically my dream person. I hope people search for a lot more than just those two things in a life partner!
Orangebeardo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:28:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's the thing for me. I'm a guy but basically have resting bitchface syndrome. I never look happy unless I'm already engaging with someone. When someone approaches and talks to me/us, my mind goes into overdrive from social anxiety and the smile fades instantly. I usually don't initiate a conversation either, so it's really difficult to talk to new people for me.
I've never had a girlfriend :(
03slampig ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 00:48:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yet so many still need to be told its okay for them to ask guys out.
throwitaway488 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:12:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean part of the concept of waiting for the guy to ask first is so you know he is actually interested in you. A lot (not all) of guys will say yes to any girl who asks; so letting the guy ask is a way to pre-filter for interest. Obviously this is a huge generalization, can work both ways, and isn't for everyone, but its a thing.
03slampig ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:41:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hope you are never shocked men play games or abide by arbitrary idiotic rules.
You know what would solve 90% of women's dating woes? Actually taking some charge of their dating life and pursuing men.
droid_mike ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:59:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It would be so easy for them, too. Outside of the 10% of guys who look like Brad Pitt, most guys almost never get asked out. They'll say yes just out of reflex if they are asked.
dragoono ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:21:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Definitely a filter for interest. I always thought waiting for the guy to ask first was strange, and the only time I haven't followed this rule I turned out to be a rebound before getting dumped so he could go back to his ex.
anickster ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:20:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice. I heard another way of thinking about it: Women want to go on an adventure, not be your adventure. They would rather go to an exciting, fun destination... not be the destination. Except some of them. And those are the ones you probably want to avoid.
sidekickbananaduck ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:16:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you calling Vince Vaughn a liar?
eazolan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:07:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As long as that leads to guys getting dates, they'll be happy to help.
dudinax ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:44:06 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But women also want to be wanted.
flee_market ยท -12 points ยท Posted at 04:20:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Women want to feel like people first, then prey (in the bedroom). Then people again during post-coital cuddling.
FlannanLight ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 11:50:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some women want to feel like bedroom prey, some never do, and some like it intermittently.
Which is exactly how men are: some of them like to feel like bedroom prey, some never do, and some like it intermittently.
Stop making stupid blanket (and sexist) statements like that.
flee_market ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 13:03:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, I'll say whatever I like on the internet, and you can get as mad as you need to about it. Don't care.
the_leprechauns_anus ยท -9 points ยท Posted at 05:55:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Women want to get stretched out." -Joe Rogan
Krystaaaan ยท 614 points ยท Posted at 23:38:29 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Solid truth for any gender. Valuing yourself & independence suddenly makes you far more dateable & happier in general.
ImmodestPolitician ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 01:38:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This only works if you are around the same women for weeks at a time. Otherwise you have to approach. Never Chase but create opportunity.
Virtute-the-cat ยท 149 points ยท Posted at 23:46:16 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See, I did this and just wound up getting utterly ignored.
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doctor_7 ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 00:27:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
FWIW I lost a lot of weight and I am now better looking. Have been with ladies that I would've considered so far out of my league it's not even funny.
Being better looking gets your foot in the door but they'll shut the door if you're still undesirable to them. All the bros that hook up with chicks really just do it the Boomhauer method, they don't give a shit if they strike out. These guys go 1/25 but that 1 still goes for it.
MrVeazey ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:25:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tellyouwhatman.
Mysterious_Lesions ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:21:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1/25 doesn't sound too bad actually. I had a pretty plain looking acquaintance that seemed to hit paydirt almost every evening he wanted to. He went totally statistical and just increased his odds by frequenting places with a lot of women and just propositioning like crazy till he got a hit.
I was (and still am) happily married, but I still have to admire his technique.
morecks87 ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 01:44:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Imagine that, women will "shut the door" on men they don't like? Being a good looking guy doesn't entitle him to women. Women are people too and aren't obligated to like every guy that's nice to them. The guys that don't give a shit understand not everyone will like them.
resuwreckoning ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:07:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your response is insanely over the top compared to what OP said. Nobody suggested women โwerenโt peopleโ.
[deleted] ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 01:40:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being good looking only gets you so far, as a man. If your personality is terrible, girls notice it.. at least the girls you want will notice it and walk away pretty quickly. Reminds me of a guy I briefly dated. I'll be fair and say he had a really good looking face, and I could see him being successful (in the short term) with a lot of girls, but he was honest and said most girls who showed interest in him weren't attractive to him, and that I was basically the most attractive girl he'd dated. But the problem was, he kept trying these tricks on me that he would try on the girls he assumed had low self esteem. He was mean enough to have a nickname for those girls. I picked up on these cues pretty quickly and lost real interest in him after a whole week lol. He kept trying, but just kept failing.
Even being really pretty has its limits, ESPECIALLY for men. I can see men putting up with shit a lot more from a "hot" girl because guys often value that too much over other qualities... but as a girl who has various good looking options most times, I'm not settling for the guy who's nasty on the inside, no matter how pretty he is.
WhatTHeFckIsgoingON ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:24:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It might only get you so far, but it at least gets you started
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:01:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It has damaging impacts too though. The false starts are probably pretty psychologically damaging and I can see how a good looking guy - who lacks the right personality or the skills to develop something - can become really insecure and even more insecure than a guy who's average looking. I see it the same way for women as well. Being above average in terms of looks can lead a lot of crazy men to pursue you and you deal with a lot more psychological warfare than the girl who's more plain does.
In short, what I was trying to say is... being good looking doesn't give you a free pass to be a bad human.
howlinggale ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:11:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You don't need a pass to be a bad human. Most people are shit anyway so you just blend in with the crowd.
WhatTHeFckIsgoingON ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:19:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A hundred percent, but it does make life a lot easier.
tercoil ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:37:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt show off that youโre interesting. Just be interesting. Have hobbies and passions that you can talk to others about and even if they donโt share the similar interest if youโre passionate about something chances are people will at least enjoy hearing you talk about it (to an extent of course)
aristocreon ยท 209 points ยท Posted at 00:17:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Here's what you do: you forget about them entirely.
You decide what you want to learn next and you give yourself a purpose. It could be cooking, or rock climbing or whatever. And you go out and learn it.
Thursday cooking class is Italian, so you made some fancy pasta. You have a good time and talk to your classmates. These are your new cool friends from cooking class.
Or maybe you decide on the weekends to learn a new language and now you've made some friends from Japanese class? They probably like games so hey; now you're playing Mario Kart next week after class.
Get out of your comfort zone. Define who you are, you don't need anyone but yourself. Mold your tastes and interests exactly how you want them to be. When you least expect it; someone will probably say: "Hey rick_blatchman! pasta and Mario Kart?".
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Tonikupe ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 01:04:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I go shoot hoops by myself, its been a miracle change for me. people come out the cuts and notice me. Ive always been ignored and now that im making healthy decisions and making myself the best I can be I get more attention than I could have ever imagined. good attention too
aristocreon ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:10:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also don't like doing some of the things I love the most when it involves a group of people. As an introvert I recharge my batteries doing the things I like the most by myself too.
But there are some things that I want to learn or get better at; where I don't mind when others are involved. These aren't necessarily my favourite things to do, but it's more about me developing a skill or finding meaning in something outside of what I do everyday.
I surprised myself one day when out of pure boredom I struck a casual conversation with someone at the grocery store. I wasn't even thinking about it, it just happened.
Ultimately, I won't lie that it's a very conscious effort. The first time I went by myself to a class I just sat there, didn't ask any questions and left after the class was done. It sometimes feels like you are wasting your time, but I guarantee it starts getting easier the more you push through it.
okaiokaiokaiokaiokai ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:42:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm painfully introverted and have always had a problem with this. What I've found is often times, there are still people who will want to do that stuff with you! (some platonically, some as an so).
I really like to read, so lately I've been inviting a friend or two at a time to come read with me somewhere cool! Last week an old coworker and I went to a gorgeous indoor garden to read, and after just walked and chatted, and it was really wonderful.
I waste a lot of time watching TV so a friend and I are watching a show together and then talking about it. It's fun and I get to see how she thinks.
Most things you like to do, even if they're solo, other people like to do as well and you can find cool ways to do them together. It often opens up opportunities to genuinely get to know that person and build a relationship of whatever kind.
And if you don't have any ideas, next time someone suggests something in the vein of what you like (a book, a game, a show, anything you're into) give it a shot! As long as you dont hate it, you can ask them about it! If someone likes something enough to share you, it means something to them and gives you the chance to learn about them, which is usually super fun.
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okaiokaiokaiokaiokai ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:29:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel that! I was homeschooled and ended up with both social and general anxiety, it's hard. Don't give up on yourself yet, I bet you're more capable and interesting than you ever imagined! It just takes some time, I didnt figure it out till I was 28 and it's still rough a lot of the time (I often have to take multiple days to talk to literally no one to recuperate), but its doable and worth it!
boatplugs ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 00:59:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then you stop looking for reasons to not do something and just do it instead. Find a way to meet people that you want to meet.
Plamore ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:01:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Say yes to the next thing that comes up. Not necessarily to someone inviting you, even just like an ad for something. Just go and explore different parts of the life you could choose to pursue. There have probably been plenty of things you like that you found by accident, so go looking for accidents. Not the best way to phrase it but hopefully that makes sense.
MorningFrog ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 01:24:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A couple days ago some guy on the street asked me if I wanted any "flack"
I said no
Plamore ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:49:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good call.
howlinggale ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:22:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Would you like to join ISIS?
Plamore ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:07:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
She's my favorite faction in age of mythology.
Gramergency ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:53:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm veering a little off topic here, but your post was timely for me. My wife and I have been happily married for over 20 years now. Together for 27 all in. I havenโt had to think about dating for the majority of my life.
We had a very close friend who just recently got divorced after 20 years together. Heโs in the dating pool now and itโs an entirely different world today than it was two decades ago. We have watched him figure out tinder and other dating apps, and all of the weirdness that comes with it. He had a date not show up once because she thought she was being catfished. That sentence did not exist the last time he was dating.
So naturally my wife and I started talking about how we would go about dating if we were suddenly single in 2019. Your answer would have easily been the best answer given because we both came to the realization that we had no idea how to go about dating after nearly 30 years. Your answer is rock solid.
[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:27:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
still didn't work. Many years went by and then I realized I was far behind.
Cpont ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:58:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm confused. You say "forgot about them entirely," but that's not clear. Is forgetting about them not talking to them at all (if that's the case, who's going to ask you out?). Is it stop feeling attraction to people? That doesn't seem viable.
suidazai ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:49:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think it means โdont make dating or finding someone the goal.โ I think it means, get into something for yourself, and then the rest will follow. And i kinda get it now. Because lets look at where most everyone in America usually finds their first relationship(usually) : Highschool.
You dont go to school for dating, you go for education and life preparation. I mean of course some kids only ever focus on fucking around, but the main purpose of school itself is education, youโre going there for yourself. And through those 4 years, you potentially find someone to be with.
Another example can be work. You go there for yourself; to make money, further you career, put money and achievement into the things you want. And there you often find some of your friends. You dont go there solely to find friends and have the income as a benefit, its the opposite. So the advice โforget about themโ seems to be calling back to this, at least to my understanding. Do the things you want, and find people through that.
Holland19XX ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:03:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
EXACTLY THIS!๐๐พ Iโm doing something similar and building myself up. Because of it -and the added peace that comes from knowing myself, people seem to notice that Iโm a person of some value. Hereโs a silver๐๐พ
Bone_Dice_in_Aspic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:00:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am living my best life doing what I really want to do as far as I can given my situation, and it's definitely making me Way less dateable than if I led a random normal life.
Grimpaw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:43:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've seem to unlearn and relearn this multiple times in my life. Currently my VBA course is the highlight of my week and i'm exited about meeting new people. I was much more depressed and miserable before it started. I almost unsigned when the start was postponed due to not enough students.
needlepenus ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:29:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it is not at all that binary. I am not good looking and got zero girls in high school. In college, I made friends with a group of guys who were all really cool and I wanted to impress when I went out with them the first time. I walked up to a very good looking girl and said that her eye makeup is perfect and she laughed in my face, that fucking hurt. But I kept up my fake confident face and smiled back and just said I am serious and I went back over to my new friends who were laughing about it. I tried to ignore that it happened since I was pretty embarrassed and she ended up literally jumping into my lap an hour later asking for a ride home. I am by no means "good at getting girls" but the one time I made a solid effort I accidentally did the perfect thing and figured it out.
Show interest in a genuine way, then give her space cause its all up to her
notenoughpigeon ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 00:41:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My understanding of what OP means is "don't act desperate," not "don't put in any effort." If you're interested in someone, show it in a respectful, thoughtful way. This could mean as little as smiling more around her, wholesome compliments, etc. Make her feel special when you're around her and that you're thinking of her without over-the-top expressions of affection. Treat her like an equal and that her independence is important. In the same vein, make yourself desirable. By desirable, I mean projecting confidence and self-worth. When you walk, hold your head high. When you talk, speak clearly and intelligently. Don't be afraid to express emotions and show a sense of adventure. Make it clear that I'm rick_blatchman and I'm freaking awesome. Show some style in your appearance. Dress cleanly, but not over the top. Wear clothes that fit you well and roll up long sleeve shirts. I don't know why, but I've learned that it's something girls really like. Find a hairstyle that works for you. Definitely don't wear a fedora. Over the past year, I've payed a lot more attention to the way in which I dress and holy shit has it made a difference. This is something that takes time and to be honest, I'm still working on it.
The only way in which you'll be labeled a creep is if you try chasing every girl that comes by---this is the spirit of chu100's message. Don't show exaggerated displays of affection, keep it simple and wholesome.
Here's an example of exaggerated affection:
A coworker of mine started at the same time as me two years ago (we're all college-aged). He used to be a very positive influence and fun to be around until he started hitting on just about every girl on our staff---regardless of their relationship status. The way in which he's done so has ranged from pestering girls and showering them with affection whenever she's near (way too much) to flexing his wealth by buying expensive presents when he comes back from exotic vacations. By going around to every girl and getting shot down by each of them, it devalues the self worth of the next girl he pursues. How must it feel to be the sixth girl this guy has hit on in the past three months? Definitely not special. Definitely not like an equal.
Don't get me wrong, dating is complicated and really fucking hard. As humans, we're really bad at showing intimacy. It's easy to get jaded and fall into a hole of frustration at girls, yourself or whatever, but keep in mind that it's difficult for just about everyone. Very few people hit it off with the exact right person right away, and while it's easy to think of these people, I'd encourage you to think of everyone else you know who hasn't yet, but keeps their chin up.
I may not know you personally, but there are definitely aspects of your looks/personality that others will find attractive.
Mysterious_Lesions ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:24:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had a friend who would answer this with the phrase "you don't hunt in your backyard". What he meant that even if he was successful initially, there was too much to lose if a relationship went south.
LastStar007 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:03:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn, and here's me running around trying to be disrespectful and thoughtless!
centwhore ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:54:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Grab em by the pussy.
Concept_Art ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:00:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for this! I almost got shut down for showing too much affection.
-Phinocio ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 00:23:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Show a little interest
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:23:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If that's your problem, then you need to look at other explanations, like the possibility that you're not attractive.
I don't mean just physically, I mean as a package. If you're being ignored when you keep to yourself and you're being perceived as a creep when you show interest, it's because people don't want you. That's just the harsh truth.
The good news is you can do something about it. Work out, start eating healthier, dress better, take care of personal hygiene and learn to start liking yourself and going out to have fun. People can see/sense desperation, so if all you can do is think about getting a girl or meeting someone when you're out, that's part of what can make you unattractive too.
petit_cochon ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:25:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learn social cues, enjoy living your life, be confident, date with purpose rather than at random.
MOGicantbewitty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:39:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be interesting.
Itโs not about showing interest or not. Itโs about being interesting yourself. Thatโs why being confident and fun works. And why ignoring doesnโt.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:40:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, you still need to be interacting with your gender of interest regularly.
Bone_Dice_in_Aspic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:04:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it's 90% showing up, like most things. But let's hyperfocus on the 10% and how to optimize it
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:59:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not about showing interest. It's about being an interesting person. Don't show them you want them. Just be a desirable person. That doesn't mean be hot and an insane athlete. Just show that you're an interesting person. Talk about something your working on, personal projects, something you've learned, and be a fun person. Don't be a desperate creep who chases women. Be an interesting person who has fun.
walphin45 ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 00:14:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Die on the inside and just hope
intermaniax1 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:42:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find the right balance is necessary. Show that you're interested but be ready to walk away.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:37:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah honestly this advice doesn't work for most guys. I think it only works for guys who are normally overly eager (as in, don't value themselves at all) or guys who go for girls who are kinda beyond their reach.
vahntitrio ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:38:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It doesn't mean ignore them or avoid them. It means stop trying to bring a girl home from the bar and just hang out as if they were another guy at the bar. Eventually you start to pick up on which girls are interested in you. Plus because you aren't targeting a single girl, but rather just hanging out with whoever, you cast a pretty broad net.
derivative_of_life ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:03:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Were you following rules 1 and 2, tho?
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[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:11:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Howโd u break ur back.
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[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
....seems suspicious. They couldnโt tell you the cause?
quasiix ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:31:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
How to not be creepy
vioshislov ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 01:59:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How it worked best for me was using the "lost keys" mentality. Let me explain... You are trying to go hang with friends, you're super excited and ready to go, but you can't find your keys. You look everywhere, for like an hour, but can't find them. You give up, decide to just stay in and watch a movie. You make some popcorn, pop a beer, have a seat on the couch, then boom, you feel them poke you, in the same spot you looked ten times when you were actively searching. When you look hard, you miss stuff. You miss the details and the nuance. When you know what you're looking for, but can wait, you will remember what you want, but can take your time.
BotherSquidwardDay15 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:27:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is a great new outlook and I love it.
RobotsSuck28 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:01:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Those that go searching for love only manifest their own lovelessness. And the loveless never find love; only the loving have love. And they never have to search for it." -D.H. Lawrence
fistymonkey1337 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:02:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I became much better talking to women after I got married. Turns out its much easier to get to know someone when you arnt trying to fuck em. Made some cool friends that way.
IHeartmyshihtzu ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 22:52:41 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
must have been good cardio tho.
fuckingPresto ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:42:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried that, they thought I was gay.
loljetfuel ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:15:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This (and stop chasing boys too, btw, it's not gendered). But it doesn't mean do nothing and hope a relationship happens either. Put the effort you currently spend chasing into bettering yourself and making friends, and keep your eyes open for sparks of interest -- it's amazing how much easier finding a relationship becomes when you're interesting and like yourself.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:04:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I stopped chasing women and know they dont know i exist.
NaturesMayhem ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:24:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This, itโs obvious when youโre just thirsty, people arenโt stupid. And so youโre likely to just a get in a relationship with another thirsty person if any relationship at all. Which is fine if thatโs what youโre looking for, but those relationships usually come with their own issues.
Wisdomlost ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:22:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The best piece of advice I ever heard was dont try to get a girl. Work on becoming someone girls want to be around.
gamedriscool ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:44:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can you expand exactly what you mean?
max49464 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:07:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
100% this. Was way more fun for my wife to do the leg work on setting up our first couple dates. And thank god she did because it wasnโt even until the second or third one that I was like, โOh.... shit, didnโt even realize we havenโt been in a group setting the past few times.โ
Probably best weโre not likely having kids.
switchNat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:05:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
thereโs this weird subreddit full of wackos who think chasing women even if they rejected them is okay because itโs their โtwin flame.โ
no wonder nobody wants to date them.
for those curious, itโs r/twinflames. i tried to talk some sense into them but i donโt think itโs possible.
DidItForTheStory ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:02:54 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy shit what the hell is going on in there
switchNat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:18:22 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried to figure out bit I just can't.
It's like Facebook antivaxx groups but on Reddit. It doesn't make an ounce of sense.
morbidangel27 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:16:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm this works. But also luck helps. Not only did the search for comfort drive me nuts, it drove many lovely women away. It was only when I said "fuck it treat yoself" did it change. I stopped active pursuit and did my own thing. Got laid a few times along the way. Met my fiance and now have a kid.
I think a lot of it comes down to confidence. Especially after a long term relationship and all that stuff. We're all a bit broken and confused and seeking comfort after a breakup. Women can sense that urgency I think. It's pretty obvious looking in hindsight. Once you start focusing on yourself and enjoying the things you love your confidence shines.
findingatlas ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:45:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Am female, can confirm. Met the love of my life happenstance at a bar. Nothing special, he was just talking to his friends and I was invited to join. No showboating. Nothing.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:59:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't think it works the same way with men
catch_these_hands ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:29:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chase a check, never chase a bitch.
In all seriousness though, this is good advice. Never chase a girl.
Mildad ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 11:05:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Girls want what they canโt have, Iโve been told that many times. They love the chase.
CitizenToxie2014 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:04:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Very true. I've been very focused on my own dreams and goals for the past few years with no desire to date. I was outside for a workout and a girl walks by and compliments my tattoo. Next day I'm in her apartment and have a FWB situation currently. Dating should never be the primary goal.
rockidol ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:16:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I want a girlfriend though but none of my hobbies (few that there are) has me meeting new women around my age. What else should I do?
Freevoulous ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:37:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instead of chasing girls, spend time, effort and money into becoming the guy women chase.
It is easier, cheaper, faster, and more sustainable this way.
BolligneseSauce52 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:02:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actively looking for a girlfriend is how you find the wrong girl.
I found a girl about 8 months ago completely by luck (ended up working together all summer, just her and I from 9-5) we're still together and very happy
My buddy decides every few months "I'm gonna get a girlfriend" and he either dates someone bitchy or he strikes out and then gets depressed for way too long
barrensman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:12:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fanning the flames of passion with the bellows of indifference.
anonymousinsomniac ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:52:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have never seen this actually work in practice. I do not get when people suggest this. Granted, I cant say I myself know exactly what it is women want in a partner. For example:
Roomate is about 30, and has has zero hobbies. He works 40 hours a week at a typical office job, comes home, eats pizza and hot pockets almost exclusively. Spends all his free time watching Netflix or playing Counter Strike while lying in bed. When hes not doing that, he is watching porn-without headphones. Never works out or goes out for any hobbies. Trash and dirty clothes all over his floor. Moldy rotten food around his bed. His room always stinks. He is neon-white and a huge Trump fan. Loves to rant about political nonsense off of infowars. He's also an "aspiring rapper" and tries to show everyone - especially girls - he meets the song he wrote, by literally pulling out his phone to play beats while he raps to them as part of his "standard introduction conversation." You know, in addition to telling then how much he likes Trump. He is also the epitome of the nice guy, and always feels sorry for himself and mopes around when something doesnt go his way. I have literally seen him collapse onto his knees in the rain and beg a girl he had just met an hour before to "give him a second chance". When this didn't work, he basically cried on the couch back at our place. Like his long time girlfriend had just broken up with him.
And I've seen how he acts around these girls too. Hes always very awkward whenever we go out together. I dont mean shy, as hes very bold about talking to girls. I mean more like creepy. When we first started going out to bars together I'd even have to regularly give him a nudge and be like "hey, ease up a bit, you're coming on way too strong, shes obviously really uncomfortable"
But now, I dont even bother, because he is constantly bringing these girls over and getting laid. On top of that, he is a Tinder pro and gets girls to respond to him and come over on the regular. He is always bringing home girls and getting laid. Like, at minimum once or twice a week. Usually more. I mean, I live with the guy, so I can verify it happens. Fuck, he even brought home 2 girls at once one time. And I should add that because I see these girls that he brings home, I can also say that they are all always at minimum an 8. So, they're all hot. It's not like hes just bringing home ugly or fat girls. Nope. Smoke shows. All of them.
I do not. Fucking. Get it.
StretsilWagon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:58:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are they escorts?
anonymousinsomniac ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:08:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought so, but I can usually hear him talking to them on the phone prior, because he loves giving his whole life story to everyone he meets. He's a very loud person. I'm not familiar with them myself but I would've thought escorts would be more...down to business? They usually stay over for a while, and it always seems like they're on a date or something. Like, one girl he brought in he walks past with her as I'm sitting on the couch and he literally asks her if she wants to go to Waffle House after they finish watching a documentary together. Heard them going at it like 20 minutes later. And she was still there in the morning when I got back from the gym and made breakfast, walking around in her underwear.
So, doesnt seem it, no.
I also seriously doubt he has the disposable income to pay for that many women. Or that there are even that many attractive young women in our area moonlighting as escorts.
syntaxvorlon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:51:10 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, shut up about the friend zone. Friends are good, they are human beings you enjoy spending time around.
If you think you've been friend zoned it means that you were rejected in a way meant to turn you down easy because women have to worry that saying no to the wrong asshole will literally get them assaulted or murdered.
No is fine. No is what you had with that person your entire life up to that point. No is no loss. Let it be.
Echospite ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:25:15 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm, quickest way to get me to turn you down is to be desperate. I want you to want me because I'm me, not because you want a girlfriend.
superking75 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:31:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly. If you're desperate for a partner, people aren't going to want to get with you.
loonygecko ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:44:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Acting needy/greedy is a turnoff for many. Instead just be cool nice person that seems satisfied with life already and the chicks will come to you. ;-P
hogey74 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:02:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There it is. If you're living well, positive energy is just coming out of you. I've never asked a girl out. Never had to. You turn around and awesome ones are right there :-). When they haven't been around, it's because I've been living shitty.
outerdrive313 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:34:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This advice could end the incel phenomenon forever. If they focus on themselves and stop thinking about fucking a 10/10 virgin every five seconds.
762Rifleman ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:35:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I did this after breaking up with my last GF. I have meaningful friendship with women now, and I have friends who know people looking for a date...
bradorsomething ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:42:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chase your passions and the right girls will chase you.
da_waffles ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:11:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I got a date and I be the big happy
KatKume ยท 6251 points ยท Posted at 22:34:28 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you are sad eat healthy, do a lot of sport and try to take fresh air under the sun. It sounds like the tipicial piece of shit, but it works incredibly well. It probably is something purely chemical, so it is definetly worth a try.
KatiushK ยท 2021 points ยท Posted at 23:51:05 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was doing that, was feeling well.
Had a few rough weeks at work, currently not doing these things anymore and I feel like shit, no energy, depressed.
Thanks to remind me the answer was right in front of me.
the_red_phone ยท 639 points ยท Posted at 00:05:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In addition to those, force yourself to watch funny things- like movies and shows. I always go to specific ones that I know I will laugh at and it really helps snap me out of it.
Gmen9256 ยท 580 points ยท Posted at 00:13:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me, it's The Office.
Then again, I watch The Office no matter what my mood is. My Netflix subscription is just a The Office Streaming subscription.
[deleted] ยท 132 points ยท Posted at 00:28:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Office got me through a really rough breakup because I was able to laugh the whole time. It's one of the main things I recommend watching to brighten your mood. lol
saltyjohnson ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:38:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Until you get to Scott's Tots. Oof.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:43:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shhh, let's pretend that never happened.
breadfag ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:28:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
obligatory /r/cantwatchscottstots
rat_queen_ ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:21:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same! Itโs such a comfort show. A friend is going through a divorce right now and my advice was โgive yourself permission to sit on the couch, watch The Office, and just breathe for a while.โ
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:23:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It really is a comfort show. I'm a counseling intern and I even recommend it to some of my clients (usually adding "or another show you like" to the end of my statement lol). I used to use it for study breaks in undergrad too, because the 20 minute length was absolute perfection.
rurounijosie ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:05:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Office got me through my family's bankruptcy. Almost 10 years ago or so now. Not knowing if we could keep the house, having to eat really basic, just trying to make it through. I'd play the dvds non stop for the first couple of seasons. I can basically re-enact those now.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:10:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My parents went through bankruptcy and they're only just now starting to climb out of the hole. If only they'd watch The Office, haha. Hope your situation is better now!
rurounijosie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:53:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's better but they are still climbing as well. I'm glad your family is starting to climb out. You and I can watch Office anytime bud!
alumpoflard ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:37:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Look pomelo, we need to talk"
*The Office playing in the background
"HAHAHAHAHAHAHA"
"Can you stop that show for a minute for fuck sake I need to talk to you"
"HAHAHAHAHAHAHA"
"I loved you pomelo but now I'm pouring bleach on your clothes and setting you house on fire"
"HAHAHAHAHAHAHA"
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:41:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
10/10 depiction of my breakup. Have you been stalking me?
SummerEmCat ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:44:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh this hits so close to home. Going through a miserable breakup, could barely smile or talk. But started watching The Office and I'm pretty sure the show kept me from falling into a deep deep depression.
Unmatched85 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:07:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really like the comedy in the office but the camera work is all over the place!!!
Nesteabottle ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:30:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always thought the camera work was integral to the sort of comedy that The Office had. Rough cringy sloppy comedy
AndoMacster ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 02:25:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The American version of The Office is one of the lamest things I've seen, tbh.
briefcasewankr ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:29:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's just like, your opinion man
AndoMacster ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 08:45:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Indeed
spikedmo ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:38:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you watched get smart and pretended it's threat level midnight?
Creepy_OldMan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:55:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have not, but I might need to now.
lonelylittletrees ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:55:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha same here but with parks and rec
anita_username ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:44:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know why, but this is the comment that finally made me add the Office to My List on Netflix. I've never seen it before and never really had an interest in watching it, despite the many, many gifs and memes I've seen that have made me chuckle. But this comment... I'm gonna make my boyfriend's month and say it's time we finally watch it. He's been trying to get me to for years.
Gmen9256 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:47:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy to show you the light! Youโre in for a treat!
Be warned...Season 1 is so-so, they tried to recreate the UK version and it didnโt really translate right. After that itโs wonderful.
moresnowplease ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:17:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also recommended the office to my dear friend who was suffering depression and anxiety cause she hadnโt seen it- she loved it and binge watched the whole thing and then I recommended parks and rec next! :)
Wisdomlost ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:18:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didnt care for the office that much. However the guy spilling chilli all over the office floor and trying to scoop it back into the giant pot with the lid has me absolutely dying everytime I see the gif.
Gmen9256 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:35:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How much of it did you watch? Season 1 really isnโt that good because they tried to re-create the UK version. Once it became its own show in Season 2 it get wayyyyy better
Wisdomlost ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:39:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I got like halfway into season 3 or 4. It was ok and parts of the show are very funny but overall it's just not really my flavor. I can see why people love it though.
VespineWings ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:14:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
According to Netflix's data, that's actually the norm. Their highest grossing shows by FAR are Friends and The Office. Nothing else even comes close =P
WhatTHeFckIsgoingON ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:20:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried that show but never really found it funny at all
fortunafelidae ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:15:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You just have to rotate between Friends and The Office.
SirSeizureSalad ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:30:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Office, Arrested Development, Psych, or Chuck.
Large_Dr_Pepper ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love the office but New Girl and Parks and Rec always makes me laugh out loud more often.
cerofox ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:29:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My boyfriend has been deployed for 9 months and The Office was such a strong source of comfort that it gave me something to look forward to when I came home. Plus cuddling with my dog while watching it.
djfl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:31:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Schrutes produce thirsty babies.
drysart ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fun fact: The Office accounts for 7.19% of all Netflix streams.
erm4gundr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:07:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This and Parks and Rec.
Slick_Grimes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:20:09 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My most watched thing on Netflix for sure.
The DVDs would be s much cheaper in the long run but the convenience......THE CONVENIENCE!!
garvony ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
then I'm sure you will be devastated to learn that Netflix is losing The Office very soon.
Gmen9256 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:49:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs false. They just announced its extended until 2021. Barstool posted that they were losing it and everyone took it as gospel.
garvony ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:53:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for the correction.
They were just talking about it on the radio this morning on my way to work. I don't really follow the office that closely as I've seen it a few time through already. I've moved on to Supernatural myself.
Unnatural-One ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:41:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Parks and Rec got me through severe anxiety and depression stemming from work until I found a better gig. It was transformative to my attitude.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:04:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
brooklyn nine nine is my current antidote
BaboonAstronaut ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:58:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yea boy. Rewatched the whole series after breaking up with a crazy ex. It really helped !
suxxass ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:50:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Office and Top Gear/The Grand Tour for me. Mostly their specials.
Quix_Optic ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:46:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I often accidentally go to Bojack because it's my favorite show and it IS funny...but then it hits you with the Depression Truck.
Arrested Development is always a solid choice though.
ladyflyer88 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:43:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also find having orgasms daily when depressed really do wonders. You may not be in the mood but the release of chemicals is really a great mood booster.
ashadowwolf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:08:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Agree with this. It can really boost your mood and make you forget about whatever it is making you feel terrible. Makes you feel something at least and something positive at that. For me, it's Jenna Marbles. Probably not funny to a lot of people but whatever works for you. I don't really have time to just sit and watch a movie but than again, I haven't really found a movie that's consistently funny, especially if it's meant to be a comedy.
SpeakItLoud ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:17:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not exactly a comedy but my go-to palate cleanser is Bolt. It's just perfectly balanced between silly and meaningful.
turnpikenorth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:52:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me the key is to make sure I only listen to upbeat music. Sad songs just keep me spiraling to darker places and never help anything, conversely, happy tunes can usually snap me out of a funk pretty quick.
AllSugaredUp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:52:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You mean those murder documentaries won't help me??
SexyAppelsin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:58:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anyone that watches anime and would like something funny to watch should 100% go see โGrand Blueโ itโs a masterpiece.
TheFatality1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:35:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's Always Sunny got me through some particularly dark days
kittytoes21 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:49:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/eyebleach
ThatOneEnemy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:06:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me itโs (Old) Top Gear and The Grand Tour because the hosts make me laugh like 99% of the time
The_Foe_Hammer ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:18:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best advice I ever heard was keep starting.
Depression is a bitch. Comes up suddenly, and you feel like all your amazing work is in the shitter. You can't continue it, so you get in that rut where you keep putting it off.
Nah it's cool. Just keep starting. Maybe you missed a workout, no biggie, your new streak starts now. Forgot to wipe down the counters? Start on them now. Forgot a homework assignment and failed? Start the next one.
milesdizzy ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:34:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do that sometimes, and when I feel like exercising the least, thatโs when I know I need it the most. I also force myself to go out with friends. Even if Iโm down, most of the time, theyโll lift me right back up, just with their presence alone.
wasteymclife ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:51:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the middle of this myself, committed to the gym at the start of the year and made it 4 months 4 times a week. Got drunk one night and said fuck it I'm too hung over to go. It's been 2 weeks since I've been back. I'm just tired, and don't feel like it and I know it's because I stopped.
KatiushK ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:57:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Replace the alcohol by a few shit days at work in a row that drained me. I'll be fine but fuck it's annoying.
cuzimclearlybetter ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:37:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Though this is good, don't discount therapy! It's incredibly helpful and controlling diet and lifestyle can only do so much.
sloggo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:35:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its so hard to connect the dots when your stressed and/or anxious and/or depressed, but so so obvious when you're feeling good. Good Diet. Plenty of Sleep. Exercise.
wont_start_thumbing ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:18:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You've reminded me of this thing I had bookmarked:
http://philome.la/jace_harr/you-feel-like-shit-an-interactive-self-care-guide/play
otepp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same boat, bud. It's amazing how we can know what will make us feel better, but still find it so hard to do sometimes. I saved this whole post for that same reminder.
Unnatural-One ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:40:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โIt worked so well, I quit doing itโ is the tagline of my autobiography.
FriscoHusky ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:45:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This too shall pass, my friend! Hold tight and hang in there!
allothernamestaken ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:28:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes you're just going to feel shitty, even when you're eating healthy and getting plenty of exercise and sleep. Just remember that it's temporary.
Smuggykitten ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And drink water!
cruznick06 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:47:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just getting outside on a sunny day can help. Remember, if things seem like too much, focus on one thing. For me it's "get out of bed and feed my cats". This leads to, "well I fed them so I guess I should eat too.." A bowl of cereal later and wow! I got out of bed and ate! Depression is a bitch.
Trufflex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:41:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Climate change?
KatiushK ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:45:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What you mean ? Like the change of season ? Probably, I always feel weird at the start of spring. I'm kind of sensible to pollen and my building cut the collective heating way too early this year and it's pretty cold / uncomfortable at home since early April.
I'm not too worried, it was just a pretty mediocre period. I'll be fine, but it was good to stop and realize that I was not really helping myself with not going outside much and eating worse than before.
Trufflex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:47:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was just trying to slide in a bad joke to ease the tension.
Forgive me, iโm sorry for your allergies.
KatiushK ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:55:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No biggie dude, I'm fine really. A little blues never killed anyone. Got a decent job, a cool fiancee and I'm healthy. Just got bummed out by work and lower energy than usual.
Care to "explain" the joke ? I don't get it. Even if it kills it, I'm curious to understand.
Trufflex ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:58:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like, thereโs so many things thatโs right under your nose that you donโt notice.
Climate change was just a bit unrelated and also farfetchedly related ๐ซ
KatiushK ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:00:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ho ok, phew that was a stretch lol
Trufflex ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:01:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol can i have my upvotes now?
Googleboots ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:07:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't give up! It's easy to be a shitty lump(speaking from experience). The hard, worthwhile part of living is not giving in to the easy way, and pushing to make yourself better, wether your brain wants you to or not! Today is the best day to start being a better you!
Veritas3333 ยท 408 points ยท Posted at 00:07:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Vitamin D deficiency can make you depressed, so getting sun definitely helps!
Xtrasloppy ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 01:37:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just found this out. They want you anywhere from 30 to 100 of whatever they measure it in. I'm at 9.
PM_ME_ALIEN_STUFF ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:27:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was a 14 and got the prescription 50,000 IU weekly pill. OMG I didn't know I could feel like this!! I still get tired, chronically fatigued, and have other health issues, but gosh it's like that feeling just after turning on a light after it's gotten just too dark to see well. Everything is a slowly-worsening dimness that you hardly notice, until you do, and turn on the lamp with relief at what a huge difference it made. Vitamin D.
Athena0219 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:35:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same, except 18. Lost an entire semester of college to "not leaving the bed for 14 hours" depression. And then I got a blood draw, and got I think that same exact amount, and boom. World changed in an week.
CapOnFoam ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:26:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was at 12 when I got tested a couple years ago. I take vitamin D daily now (1000iu) and it makes all the difference in the world! Sometimes I forget to take it and can tell a difference. So be sure to take it - I hope it does for you what it has done for me :)
ZukoButMoreQueer ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:34:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for reminding me to take the D.
lekaik ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs so cold in the D
Xtrasloppy ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:19:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I had gold, sir...
Lord_of_Womba ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:32:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you get tested?
I assume you go to the doctor and they somehow measure your vitamin levels?
CapOnFoam ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:34:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep, I went to the doctor and got blood drawn. It's pretty easy/straightforward.
Nosfermarki ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:01:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You'll feel so much better after you start taking a supplement.
Xtrasloppy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:19:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm on my second pill of the weekly one. No huge improvement yet, but I'm hoping.
WorstNameEU ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:39:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cries in finnish
Emfx ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:26:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The worst part is it snowballs in depressed people as they typically will leave the house less and less as their depression gets more severe. Forcing yourself out into the sun really helps.
Galyndean ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:52:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't like sun, but vitamin D pills are good.
CaptBranBran ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:26:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife had bad Seasonal Affective Disorder, but drinks TONS of milk, like, all the time. We switched to Vitamin D milk, and it actually did make a difference for her.
She still gets sad from SAD, but it's better now.
Not_An_NSA_Employee ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:54:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All my PNW peeps need to supplement, we don't get enough sunlight up here!
AshesToProveIt ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:12:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually have solar urticaria. I am literally allergic to sunlight. I take vitamin D supplements with a doctor checking my levels to make sure I get enough, though. I also take B12 on my doctor's advice, which helps with depression.
miss_memologist ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:07:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
These two vitamins make a world of the difference! Anyone feeling incredibly tired & depressed should get blood work done to check B and D levels. Source:I had B12 and D deficiency,felt like shit.
globewithwords ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:26:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I second this. I was very depressed at uni for the first half because winter here was more grey and dark than back home. When I got back after a couple of weeks of spring break, I was so happy and I went outside. Now I make it a rule to either walk outside or play frisbee every day unless it's raining. It's honestly been the best experience I've had at uni
acidfinland ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:46:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. August to march depression every year :/
easwaran ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:10:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The sun is likely relevant, but it seems that Vitamin D might not be the relevant mechanism!
https://www.outsideonline.com/2380751/sunscreen-sun-exposure-skin-cancer-science
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:26:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
also electrolyte imbalance. It's like many people wake up with a 'hangover' just from regular life. I started eating pickles in the morning, then drinking brine shots (eww, I know) and finally I just bought Pedialyte electrolyte supplement at the pharmacy and mix it into my remineralized water. I take supplements too, potassium, magnesium, calcium, all the ums are electrolytes.
I guess I needed it because it really changed my mood and thinking.
wintervenom123 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:03:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mate just think about for a few minutes. Norway, Sweden and Finland get about the same hours of sunlight yet have about the same rate as Bulgaria and Romania who get tenfold the amount. Now look at this double blind studyย http://bjp.rcpsych.org/content/201/5/360.short.
Low levels of serum 25(OH)D are associated with depressive symptoms, but no effect was found with vitamin D supplementation.
Another meta studyย https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4008710/
Says :The overall reduction in depressive symptoms associated with vitamin D supplementation was small and nonsignificantย (SMD, โ0.14; 95% CI, โ0.33 to 0.05; P = 0.16) (Figure). Analyses of heterogeneity revealed substantial variation among intervention effects (Q6 = 20.2, P = 0.003, I2 = 70.3), and SMDs ranged from โ0.96 (P = 0.004) in favor of vitamin D supplementation to 0.15 (P = 0.49) in favor of control.
Subgroup analyses were conducted to identify potential sources of heterogeneity among intervention effects (Figure). The 4 studies of participants whose baseline vitamin D status was sufficient (>50 nmol/L) showed a larger reduction in depressive symptoms (SMD, โ0.22; 95% CI, โ0.53 to 0.08; P = 0.15) than the 3 studies of participants whose baseline vitamin D status was insufficient (SMD, โ0.05; 95% CI, โ0.31 to 0.20; P = 0.69);ย however, the difference in intervention effects between these 2 subgroups of studies was not significantย (Q1 = 0.70, P = 0.40)ย and neither subgroup of studies had a statistically significant intervention effect.
This systematic review and meta-analysis report is the first to examine the effect of vitamin D supplementation on depressive symptoms. We found that vitamin D supplementation neither worsened nor improved depressive symptoms across 7 randomized controlled trials.
Notwithstanding the biological plausibility of a causal role for vitamin D deficiency in depression (33), the results of this review suggest that the use of vitamin D supplementation to reduce depressive symptoms for individuals without clinicallysignificant depression may not be warranted
Although trials of nonclinically depressed individuals differed considerably in the type of participants they included, their study locations and designs, and characteristics of their intervention and control conditions, 4 of these 5 trials had nonsignificant intervention effects (15, 27-29). These null findings are not entirely surprising given that the association of vitamin D with depressive symptoms has not clearly been established in nondepressed individuals.
In particular, cross-sectional studies cannot rule out the possibility of reverse causation in which patients with subthreshold depressive symptoms or depressive disorders have less exposure to sunlight and thus lower vitamin D levels
**Omega 3 deficiency is also found in depressed individuals and supplementing it has had greater or equal success as vit D. The only people that are affected by supplements are clinically depressed individuals, which BTW is not associated with weather mood swings but genetic factors and brain deficiencies. **
Vitamin D deficiency is observed in depressive cases, treating these deficiencies does not seem to help. This means that the likelihood of the depression being caused by the deficiency is low. But the chance the deficiency being a symptom, aka depressed individuals stopping interactions and staying indoors, rises.
A link between depressive moods and vitamin d has not been established, meaning there is not enough proof that vitamin d causes bad moods.
We've only found that a lot of,not all, depressed individuals have lower levels of vitamin D. Which means depression is associated with low levels of vitamin D.This does not prove the cause relationship with depression.
Low vitamin D has be correlated with depression and cause effect relationship may be reverse. Most papers studying this mechanism notice depressed people have less vit. D but it could just as easily be that depressed people go out less and that causes the lov vit d. No paper I've read confirms vit d ~>depression but most point out how the relationship is not yet determined.
In conclusion to sum it up. Vid D deficiency does not explain sinilar suicide rates in different countries with different light levels, supplements have failed to help people whi have it, no study has actually shown a relationship beyond corelation, you need a little time outside to actually get your fix, depressed people simply stay indoors is a more likely explanation.
ManOfNinetyNine ยท 79 points ยท Posted at 23:54:21 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can agree 100%. I'm pulling myself out of a long depressed period. I'm getting more exercise, spending more time outside, eating better, went to the doc for antidepressants, and I'm feeling better than I have in a long time.
kittycatsupreme ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:19:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My appointment is tomorrow. It took a few months of mulling over the last few years and one recent qualifying event to realize little things shouldn't require so much effort and life doesn't have to feel like so much work. I look forward to joining your ranks.
ManOfNinetyNine ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:11:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It'll make your life so much easier. The medicine I'm taking is supposed to help with anxiety, headaches, and sleep also so everything will be easier. I did and still kinda feel like everything is difficult, but I can tell a very clear difference. Glad you're getting some help!
Gotchowsh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:32:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What kind of medicine are you taking, if you donโt mind me asking? Suffering from anxiety, depression and some insomnia here and there.
ManOfNinetyNine ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:01:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am taking Amitriptyline. I just started taking it last Thursday and they say it takes about 4 weeks to start working because it has to get built up in your system. I'm hoping it will work for me. I've already been feeling better because I've been doing some quality of life improvements, but I'm sure the medicine will help even more.
Gotchowsh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:02:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you :)
ManOfNinetyNine ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:47:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're welcome! Glad to help.
tsukiii ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 00:55:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great for body image (which is often connected to depression), too. I feel so much happier about my body when I'm exercising regularly, even if I'm the exact same weight and size as when I'm more sedentary.
snorlz ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:26:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
the endorphins released by exercising play a huge part in that as well. exercise helps even people who dont have body image issues feel happier
tojoso ยท 106 points ยท Posted at 01:04:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some people get aggressively angry at this advice. Even if they notice you giving it to somebody else, they'll flip out in a blind /r/wowthanksimcured rage. It didn't work for them (or they didn't bother trying) and you're an asshole for even suggesting it as an option.
ghostmeatloaf ยท 147 points ยท Posted at 01:25:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For some people, living a healthier lifestyle is literally all they need for a massive improvement to mental health.
For other people, literally the only thing that will help them is therapy and medication, which they may or may not be in a position to obtain.
Taking the steps to a healthy lifestyle requires a willpower entirely inaccessible to some people. "You really gonna tell me to go shopping for food, prepare it, and go jogging when I haven't showered, brushed my teeth, or gone to class in three days?"
However, I've totally witnessed the sort of takedown /r/destroyedbywords hypersensitivity you're talking about, and it's also annoying.
LastStar007 ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 01:57:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worth mentioning that this is often through no fault of their own. Lack of motivation and energy are hallmark symptoms of depression. It's a vicious cycle. If you're one of these people, don't take your lack of willpower as a personal failing.
dongtouch ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:50:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was high on life, tackling tough shit, emotionally regulating like a boss, decided I was ready to go off my meds with doc's help... Nothing changed in the following 2 weeks except I fell into such a deep hole, it felt like there were 10 lb weights strapped to my limbs and nothing brought me joy. I could look into the face of husband, dog, friends, and feel nothing. I was back in my "old" brain and it was terrifying.
All these habits work great on me... As long as I'm medicated.._. I'm very much a proponent of a holistic approach. If you need medication, don't be afraid to ask for it, but do all these other things also!
Gotchowsh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:35:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What medication helps you, if you donโt mind me asking? Have been suffering from anxiety and most recently really bad depression. Started going to therapy and hopefully can get out of this. But trying to see what medication helps people with the least amount of side effects.
dongtouch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:57:39 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's different for everyone... But for me it's Wellbutrin. I think it targets not just the proper chemicals in my brain, but is used as a way to cut down on smoking, overeating, any reward seeking behavior. In my case I was frequently trying to distract myself from depression by "treating" myself to booze/food/shopping so it was a double whammy good thing. couple things to be cautious of: it's slightly stimulating so not a good match if you're super anxious, and it can cause dry mouth and teeth grinding so messes up your teeth. Have regular dentist checkups.
mcribb_runner ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:05:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm definitely somewhere in between. When I'm exercising regularly and eating well, I feel so good for 80% of the day, and the other 20% is still depressed/anxious. But when I'm not doing one or both of those things, the whole day just sucks.
globewithwords ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:31:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd suggest balancing it out with therapy (if you can access it, of course).
King_Of_Regret ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:10:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And for some people neither works. Love that treatment resistant shit.
notepad20 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 02:31:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Still, there's a good chance a shot of b12, vitimin D, or something else is what's needed rather than an SSRI.
warmglory ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:36:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
gah i wish you weren't downvoted for this. ssri's can work for a very select very small portion of humanity. anyone else they mess with heeeaaavilyy
mathemastitchin ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 01:47:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think that reaction comes from those who are (or have been) in a debilitating state of depression. The "Get out and exercise!" advice is great...when you can drag yourself out of bed. From my own experience, there are times when that advice is helpful, but it was very demoralizing when I was struggling to put one foot in front of the other. At those moments, that kind of thing made me feel like even more of a useless failure than I did to begin with. I know I feel protective of someone who is going through that because those well-intentioned comments could be pretty hurtful, and in those moments I didn't feel like I could stand up for myself. I was definitely met with the notion that I just hadn't bothered trying, and it truly hurts. Certainly it doesn't help anyone to flip out on someone suggesting it, but I do my best to kindly talk to people about how that can affect a person in the throes of depression.
madogvelkor ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:07:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, there's a difference between real depression and just being a bit mopey. If you're not depressed but just sad or lethargic or bored the advice works great.
AlreadyShrugging ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:39:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is one of many options. The only time I ever get irked by this advice is if it is given and presented as an "end-all be-all".
I view it as one of several things to try. If something doesn't work, I try the next option.
jseego ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:32:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's the difference between
"this can help"
and
"all you need to do is..."
tojoso ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:10:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For sure. But for many people, there's no difference between those two. They refuse to believe it can help depression. Just read some of the replies to my comment.
ParabolicTrajectory ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:55:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My best response to those people is: Living a healthier lifestyle can't hurt. It can only help. It may not be enough by itself, but that doesn't make it worthless. You may still be depressed, but now you're healthier and depressed - which is going to go a long way towards preventing relapse when do start feeling better. You've lost nothing.
And if it is enough by itself, you've just saved yourself a lot of money and saved your body unnecessary side effects - and you're healthier.
It's a no-lose situation.
weredditforthreedays ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:15:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I went to a therapist who basically said there was nothing wrong with me and that I just needed to eat better. She literally used the phrase "I bet if you could get a few sardines down every day you'd be a new girl."
legenddairybard ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:59:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The main reason why people get "aggressively angry" at that advice is because people get told that usually in an aggressive tone and you sound like you're just assuming that they're not trying or doing anything to better themselves when you don't know what they're doing. The other thing is is that when people say this it comes off as being told "all your problems are gone when you do this." Sure, all that is good for you but it can't make your problems go away. Last - just about everyone knows this anyways so there's no point in saying it to someone. It's better to just listen to what people have to say instead of giving advice.
tojoso ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:15:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not just that, though. Some people refuse to believe that "clinical depression" can ever be made better by making positive changes in lifestyle. That if it's cured or relieved by positive life changes, then it wasn't really depression. These people are gatekeepers who cause more harm than good because they refuse to accept that their situation is in any way a result of their own (in)action. They believe chemicals are the only solution for "real" depression.
k_nasty ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:20:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Today I went to the grocery store for the first time in a long time so I could actually cook myself a meal and nearly got overwhelmed and quit. Taking that advice is so so so so so so so far easier said than done for people who need it the most
tojoso ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:11:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nobody said it was easy. And it doesn't work for everybody, either.
pantsuitofarmor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:20:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being sad is very different than being depressed. Most of the posts on that sub are about advice like that given to people with depression.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:59:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find that if I stay up watching TV or on the computer before bed (even if I don't stay up too late), I feel like crap the next day. And this effect compounds so if I do it for a few days in a row i'll feel really crap by the end of the week. Whereas if I do other things like go meet friends, go to a quiz night, go to the gym, etc in the evening, I start feeling great.
I've had friends that always complain about how crap they feel in the morning, so i've suggested reducing their evening screen time and trying to do other stuff, and my god did they flip out at me for it. Like they will get unreasonably angry at just a simple suggestion, like i'm attacking their religion or something. It's crazy. But at the end of the day it's their problem, if they don't even want to try changing things then they will keep on feeling like crap and struggling to get up every morning.
LittleRedLamps ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a pretty negative reaction to that advice because I've tried all of that and it would either do nothing or make me feel worse
After hearing several times it just gets annoying
MyMostGuardedSecret ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:21:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem is people take this advice, which is incredibly effective when you are sad, and try to apply it to people who are depressed, because they don't understand the difference.
Sadness is an emotion, which is fleeting, and can be cured with fresh air, exercise, sunshine, and just your generic "good" things, because they make you focus on all the good around you that can change your emotional state. Depression is a state of being, a chemical imbalance in the brain, and cannot be cured by those things. You can be happy and depressed at the same time. Depression requires professional help and usually pharmaceuticals.
Zilverhaar ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:21:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually, it can help people who are depressed too. It may not be enough for them, they'll probably need therapy and/or medicines too, but getting physically healthier is good for anyone. (People who say 'just' do this and you'll be cured are annoying as heck, though.)
tojoso ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:08:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See, you're wrong though. That's the problem. You're creating your own personal definition of depression and gatekeeping it. That harms people.
GreenieMcWoozie ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:55:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's one of the things I hate about r/wowthanksimcured half of it is actually good advice that they play off as bad advice because it requires actual work to improve themselves and fix their problems and that's too hard for them
trickman01 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 01:37:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise releases endorphins, endorphins make you happy. And happy people just don't kill their husbands.
BlackisCat ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:40:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Both fortunately and unfortunately, I tend to not eat at all when I get into depressed states. But I'd try to force myself to not eat junk food or frozen/microwavable meals. Even making ramen with some spinach and egg is better than those foods.
Since moving in with my SO, it's become my responsibility to feed us. Since then I haven't gone into a vicious cycle of: depression -> don't eat -> weak from hunger -> more depressed . Now it's just feeling deep sadness. ๐
Pennwisedom ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:28:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this, well I've been doing it for awhile. But this just means I am both the saddest and most physically fit I've ever been in my life.
TheHollowJester ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:01:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
OP forgot to add "and if that doesn't work, go to therapy and/or to a shrink for some pills". Been in the same boat as you, pills did wonders - some 18 months between taking the first and the last one, it's not like you have to be on meds for your whole life.
x_ray ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:25:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thereโs always a strong positive correlation of how fit I am to how sad I am. Kinda sucks when Iโm happy lol.
Asciana ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:30:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also make sure you arent dehydrated. It plays havoc with my mood if i've not been taking in enough water.
Firestarness ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:41:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find jogging helps a lot when I wanna think about things or when I'm feeling down. Helps you just be in the zone.
akimbocorndogs ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:49:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The questions I ask myself when I'm feeling a little depressed are:
Have I eaten a good meal and gotten some good sleep lately?
Have I spent time listening to music or playing it lately? (Replace this with whatever you're passionate about)
Is my home clean and organized?
Have I talked to a loved one recently?
Usually making sure all of those questions are answered will cheer me up, and if they don't, trying something new and exciting usually does!
globewithwords ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:47:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I screenshotted this. When I get depressed, it's so easy to get into my own head and stay there and fail to look at myself and my surroundings. When I finally ask myself these questions, I can pick out what's bothering me and then I can usually take a step towards making myself feel better. It's usually sleep or having untidy surroundings but a couple of months ago, I couldn't figure out why I was spending all day in bed, not eating and wasting time on my phone. Turns out I had some emotional burdens weighing me down and when i went home, I talked to the people that were causing me to feel down (I had to clear up some things and apologise for other things). And now I feel very happy. I'm not 100% there yet but I go outside every day and I'm way more productive.
Tl;dr: screenshotted this because it always helps me. Sometimes asking yourself whether there is an emotional burden also helps
akimbocorndogs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:11:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Glad to help, Iโll admit Iโve never had serious depression, and Iโd see a professional if it was severe enough to be beyond me, but this is my way of โbeating the bluesโ.
CommodoreBelmont ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:30:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Also, accomplish something. Just... something. Doesn't have to be a big thing. Doesn't have to be an important thing. Just so long as it's your thing, something that you either want to do or think you need to do. Set yourself a task and complete it, no matter how small.
Clean the bathroom. Or just clean the bathroom counter. Read that book. Or a third of it. Take a walk around the block. Shred your 8 year old tax documents. Organize your spice rack. Doesn't matter, so long as in some small part it matters to you, and you can do it. Give yourself something every day that you can point to and say "Because I got up, this good thing happened."
I started taking that attitude when I was unemployed and freezing in my house after my father died, and it helped. It's not a cure, just like aspirin won't cure a wound. But like aspirin, it'll take a little bit of the edge off.
Tonikupe ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:01:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love this. Shooting and dribbling the basketball and soccer ball and jogging outside has helped me through so much. even just yesterday I was super sad and shooting which usually is impossible because I am so happy while shooting. I thought it had finally lost its sheen bc I do it so much. slowly but surely I kept picking up the pace, hitting more shots, feeling more of a workout and just feeling so happy and one with myself. it never fails. on top of that some of the little neighbor kids came by and shot around with me which made my day :)
NinjaShira ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:12:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just being outside makes so much of a difference. I have a yard for the first time in nearly a decade, and when I let my dog out, I sit outside with him while he does his business, and I had forgotten how much I enjoy just being outside for twenty minutes a day.
I_throw_socks_at_cat ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 00:52:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It worked incredibly well for me. I asked my doctor about it and he said "yeah, you're about the right age to develop a chemical sensitivity to artificial food colourings, preservatives and alcohol. Eat better."
cliticalmiss ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 01:16:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Out of curiosity, what age (or age range) is this? I want to be prepared
I_throw_socks_at_cat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:14:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm mid-40s, but it can happen to different people at different times. My SO is younger than me, and she started developing new sensitivities before I did.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:32:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, to completely fail to answer your question I'd say most people should avoid these things at all ages whenever possible, but I am curious about this as well.
Shrieka1987 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:32:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just curious, how old are you? Im in my early thirties now and I think this is starting to become to case
I_throw_socks_at_cat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:13:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mid-40s.
Kitty5254 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:51:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When my hubby hit 31 he noticed a sensitivity to dairy and certain oils and preservatives that he'd never before experienced. We asked a friend who's a dietitian and she said that's pretty normal and those sensitivities are likely permanent, but easily manageable and just to watch out for any major reaction that would imply a true allergy has developed.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:38:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alternatively, rub one out, same rush of dopamine.
elaerna ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:58:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay but after I lay here wallowing for 12 hours
pm_me_n0Od ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:16:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If we're getting scientific, all of your feelings are just chemicals in your brain. That doesn't make them any less real or valid.
jigokusabre ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:37:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great... now I've got diarrhea, a twisted ankle, sunburn AND I'm sad.
warmglory ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:32:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
also gotta remember that these things sometimes won't work immediately in the case of eating well and being in the sun or the good adrenaline feelings will taper off after you've done the exercise. this doesn't mean that you aren't helping yourself and the brain you live in, you sort of have to let the effects build up with time. also just because you feel great after a little dose of health positive food or exercise don't think you can go back to trash living, this isn't a one time magic pill but an accumulated set of services to yourself. build these things into your everyday life and watch as directionless sadness slips away.
DaFunkBoy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:26:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandmother died a little more than a week ago. When it happened, my girlfriend rushed to my house, brought me orange juice, chocolate and fresh strawberries, and said โcome with me, letโs have a walk in the sunโ (it was a beautiful sunny day). Despite the sadness of losing my lovely grandma, everything my girlfriend did for me made me feel infinitely better. This is really good advice.
glittermerkin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:03:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never believed working out could actually help with depression until i started working out, then had to take time off for an extra job. I'm just getting back into it and I'm amazed at how much it effects my moods.
Cpont ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:53:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree to an extent. It is definitely worth a try and works wonders for a lot of people, but I think that it's super important to note that it really doesn't work for some people.
BabyCat6 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:31:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
The only reason this advice would be a "piece of shit" is when used on the clinically depressed. This advice always helps when you are down in the dumps or sad. Making sure your physical health is good will make your mental health good.
The only reason this advice would not work is if you have major depression.
I had depression and all this did not work. I was on top of a rollercoaster at a theme park and all I could think was, "why can't I feel the joy I should be feeling?".
Currently I am stable on antidepressants and I recently had a little sad period, I could still feel happy when I did something fun but I was acting depressed. I got myself up, atehealthy, I'm going to the gym and I'm not as sad.
This advice will cure your sad, it will not help you if you are unable to be happy.
patrickkellyf3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:12:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to go to the gym at least once a week, aiming for 3 times.
Since starting school, I haven't gone. That's almost 4 months of gym membership wasted. But I'm not sure if I miss going, or having the time to go.
Probably both but still
aubgur ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:15:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is similar to behavior activation: identifying healthy activities to engage in that are easy and pleasurable. It has to do with replacing a negative avoidant behavior with a positive one to basically suck you out of a depression. It is a (3rd generation) behavioral approach to depression. I use this with teens, and this seems to help pull them out of ruts.
BearModeCosplay ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:47:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can't agree more with the eat healthy thing (especially b/c I'm mega prone to emotional eating). If I find myself in a depressive husk, I'll eventually have to climb out of that AND the 10lbs I put on.
jennybella ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:52:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this. When I am feeling down I'd just go for a run and would feel so much better immediately.
rabindrenath ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:54:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This makes such a huge difference, your daily activities really matter
ShiraCheshire ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you feel really awful, try just taking a short walk. Walk just around the block or the street if that's all you can do. Don't need to get ready or do anything to prepare, as long as you're wearing some form of clothing you're good to go.
If you don't have the energy to do sports or whatever, a walk can do similar for you. And if it doesn't? A short walk is low effort enough for most people that you didn't lost anything trying.
WeAreAllCousins ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:18:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating healthy and working out provide a consistent release serotonin and dopamine, which regulate your mood and motivation. However, eating or working out excessively eventually causes you to become desensitized and can have the opposite effect.
Pylgrim ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, avoid being in the dark.
ButtsexEurope ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:11:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*typical
dairyfairy44 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:35:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Felt sad when I got home from work, planned on taking a walk but took a nap instead, felt more sad so I ate like crap. Thank you for the reminder that I knew I needed. I have been looking for motivation all day.
tearfultyrant ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:54:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interestingly, there has been a lot of recent research suggesting that gut bacteria and one's diet are heavily related to serotonin and norepinephrine levels which are the main neurotransmitters that are imbalanced in psychiatric conditions like depression.
dafckingman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:04:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is very true. Though, you feel the urge to just spoil yourself and live extremely unhealthily, living well will get you out of your slump and improve your mood immensely.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:19:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Vitamin D deficiency can actually cause or exacerbate depression... It's because we need vit D to make serotonin. Get that sunshine, people. Or take supplements (under doctor supervision so you don't overdose the D which is possible)
johannes101 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:22:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It honestly works really well 90% of the time, but that last 10% of the time i just feel buff and sad :(
cepeshi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:03:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I believe endorphines are the culprits here ;)
nadine-me ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:34:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
8 hours of sleep a day changed me from grumpy person to happy person... So stupid so easy so true
Supahtrupah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:14:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works well with procrastination too. If you are avoiding certain tasks (homework, studying, chores etc.) It's stil better to get some excerise and time in the sun instead of just wasting time on the internet or staring at the wall. You are still procrastinating but you are more likely to eventually get back to the task refreshed and more motivated.
nightwingbjj ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:37:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Advice like this stopped me from suicide
hoofhearted89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:41:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone one told me you need three things to be happy: healthy food, a decent sleep and a bit of social time.
It doesnโt cure everything but goes a hell of a long way.
hashedram ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:05:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But for heaven's sake, don't tell a depressed person to just eat healthy, do sports and get sun, unless they ask for it. They likely already know that.
Part of depression is a reduced dopamine response to happy activities. Which means although doing sports and getting sun give a dopamine rush to a normal person, a depressed person will not get the same intensity of rush. It's incredibly hard to go out for a run, if you're feeling like shit and you know for a fact that you'll still feel like shit after the run, even if it's relatively better than staying at home.
Marv_the_MassHole ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:39:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly just getting out is a huge boost. I was pretty down the past month or so and one day I decided to stop laying in bed and go be social and active. Ended up having one great day that changed my mood entirely
GrumpyKitten1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:01:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandmother was not in shape to do sports when my grandfather died, she took herself out to the movies to see a comedy each week and watched a comedy on tv every day. Laughter is the best medicine has a basis in fact. She always ate healthy but you will always feel better to some degree when you do.
LonelyLokly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:08:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hardest part is to actually do this and to remember that it does work.
Satirical-Intent ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:18:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Typical
Satirical-Intent ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:18:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Definitely
Satirical-Intent ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:19:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do a lot of sport?
gudbote ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:02:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I happen to be a person for whom exercise causes anger and more depression.
foxiver7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:36:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll actually try this because this thread.
deanimate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:02:32 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
DJ_Apex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:57:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depression is cyclical. You feel sad so you eat shitty comfort food, that makes you feel even worse, ad nauseum.
tenpercentofnothing ยท 2166 points ยท Posted at 00:01:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want to write a novel, just start writing. Donโt plan, just get words on paper.
darbyisadoll ยท 95 points ยท Posted at 02:26:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โYou canโt edit a blank page.โ Is the best writing advice Iโve ever gotten.
klassykitty ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 15:22:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โIf you leave your pen in one spot for too long, all you have is a big puddle of ink!โ
Itโs much better to get something down and tidy it up later.
Thank you for this, Iโm going to get back into writing lol.
Avalon9 ยท 195 points ยท Posted at 00:52:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been planning on writing one for years, but my fear of ditching it when I get bored and fail my chance at ever writing one stops me. Not that easy!
FaithCPR ยท 237 points ยท Posted at 01:41:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
By not starting, you've already ditched it.
Start now. You can start as many times as you like. But it's never going to happen if you don't start at least once.
beard_meat ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 07:10:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, you can always add more words whenever you want, and every word takes you closer to completion.
Moebius2 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:25:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Assuming the book is of finite length
FaithCPR ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:36:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I need a book of infinite length. I have too many books and they just keep coming.
halborn ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 12:06:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If anyone writes a book of infinite length, they'd better call it "A Piece of String".
Hanspiel ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:07:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just a single page, with a sentence that forms a mobius loop back to the beginning, has no capital letters, and can naturally continue from the last word back to the first.
godbois ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 02:05:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Check out the Writing Excuses podcast. It's great for learning about the process and getting motivated.
I feel your pain. But get writing.
Do it.
Shit is hard. But you can always edit. No one will see a thing unless you show it to them.
CarbyMcBagel ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 01:44:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So what? If you get bored with it, you can pick it up later or start another story. ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ
[deleted] ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 01:43:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It really is. Just start writing.
Ditching one 3 pages in is still infinitely closer to a full book than never starting at all. Plus it's experience for the next time you manage to write 10 pages before ditching it.
SHeePMaN11 ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:30:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One small page a day. Do it every morning. In six months you'll have 180 pages of a book written. It's really super doable.
Gil_Demoono ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 01:53:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you ditch it, you won't be any closer, but you also won't be any farther away. Go for it! There's no risk!
vonkillbot ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:19:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I got major headway on my script by waking up early and knocking out a mandatory 4 or 5 pages M-F for a while. You can always rewrite, edit, take pieces, etc. You tend to over plan and underwrite waiting for perfection. Almost every single screenwriting panel has someone ask โwhatโs the best way to write a script?โ, and the answer is almost always โjust writeโ.
EugeneRougon ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:51:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Treat it like a job. Pick a reasonable word count and keep writing until it's finished. The real work is in the drafts.
Issa19071999 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:08:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You just @ me. I've got close to 200 unfinished stories saved because I get bored with them. I'll work obsessively on a single story for a few weeks and start a new one. Write it, save it, come back to it. I always jump between each one. They're not finished but they're closer than they were before I started writing
BasicDesignAdvice ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:23:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything creative requires a mountain of failure. Get over it.
Also lots of writers and artists start something and then throw it away. It's part of the creative process.
Not only that, but you think your first shot without any practice will be any good? That's not how this works my dude.
If you're scared start with a short story. You need the practice anyway. In the very least get a good book on the art of storytelling.
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:08:31 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. People think the Beatles were naturally great. But what they really were was very industrious. Their great collection of tunes seems like it must have been divinely inspired, until you learn that they only recorded one out of every two hundred songs they wrote. Most creative work, even for those at the top, is just noodling around with whatever comes to you, and then sorting the wheat from the chaff.
To put it another way, the visible success of great artists is often only the very tip of the iceberg of their real body of work, most of which no one else will ever know about, because it was discarded or redone. You see the bullseye, but not the countless shots that missed the board. Getting the occasional bullseye is a product of many throws.
Daeurth ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:52:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/nanowrimo
youngatbeingold ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:02:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Some other advice if you havenโt gotten it yet. I wrote two long stories maybe 100-200 pages each over maybe 5-8 years, just chipped away, it was a good outlet. I kinda accidentally moved on to other things once the story ended but even though theyโre โdoneโ theyโre in desperate need of editing. Iโm trying to get back into it when I have time but looking back this is what I think wouldโve helped.
Begin with a summary or draft of what you want. Itโs a lot less work, you get a feel if you like the story youโre writing and you skip a lot of the slower moving parts. Start with a setting and tone of what world youโre in. Is it a dark post apocalyptic world, well how did the world get that way and how does this impact how/why/when/etc. your characters start things off? Then work through your beginning, middle, and end summaries. Start VERY basic; no dialog or lengthy descriptions for each step just try to get down your who, what, when, where, why, and how. Also write down your character bios; their personality traits, past, how they meet, flaws, skills, goals and possible archโs. Take your time on the layout cause ideas might pop in later that effect the start of the story.
The thing I wrote has a lot of depth, at least to me. I honestly spent so much time and want to continue that even though I rarely touch it, I think about it constantly, which makes me happy in its own way. BUT because I didnโt have a crystal clear plan from the beginning of where it was going and all my characters fleshed out it ended up a little sloppy, which just means I have to go back and fix it. And lemme tell you going back and editing to me is more like pulling teeth than writing.
tway15q1 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:11:14 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Indeed. You have a lot of bad mechanical habits, such as rampant comma splices. You need editing very badly. And you should work on being a better writer technically. But you're right that they main struggle is just getting things down.
youngatbeingold ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:59:57 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol Iโm a little less stringent on the technicalities when on reddit and in no way a professional writer. I just do it for fun. I was more so referring to general plot structure, character motivations, themes, etc. You can probably hire someone to clean up sentence structure but problems with the overall story is another issue.
snarkdiva ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:00:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just go for it. I never thought I could finish one book, but now I've written six and have ideas for many more.
anon33249038 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:25:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My best advice for that, be prepared to write a bad book especially if it's your first. You will write a bad book but the object is to finish. After you finish you put that one on the shelf and you begin to write your second book. After you write your second book, put it on the Shelf, grab your first book and edit. After the first book has been edited perfectly, put it off to the side as a maybe. Then write your third book. After you finish your third book, put it on the shelf and begin to edit your second book, etc ad infinitum.
It all begins with you finishing the first one. If you don't finish the first one, you can't move to the second.
Theoriginalgw1 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:34:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nanowrimo my man. It got me out of that situation and I've written 3 now. 1 is absolute gash. But the other 2 are not bad.
cuzimmathug ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:47:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're already failing by not starting. What do you have to lose?
Pheonixi3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:59:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
your story is as long as you want it to be. if you get bored and ditch it, boom, that's all there is to it. what's wrong with that?
ShiraCheshire ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:19:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get this. I have a writing folder with hundreds and hundreds of dumb stories I started and like immediately lost interest in. Really trying to figure out how to not do that.
akiramari ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:13:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what if you did like a short story compilation, or found a way to get some of your favorites to be part of one same, larger story?
ShiraCheshire ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:11:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not good at finishing short stuff either, haha. Usually I'll get all excited about one scene, write it, and then not know what to do.
The only thing I've ever finished was only because I was really excited about writing all the scenes. Maybe I just need to figure out have to have better ideas where I'm super eager to write all of it. But my brain is always going off in a million directions, I don't know how to force it to do anything in particular.
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:01:30 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is is, though. Overcoming the fear is most of the struggle. Just write. It doesn't matter what is, or if you like it. It doesn't matter if you get bored and ditch it. What matters is doing it. If you start and then stop, no problem. Just start again on something else. Maybe all you have is some fragments or vignettes, or even just character sketches, or some random details that you haven't attached to anything else. That's fine. Write those down. Maybe they'll never come back to you. Or maybe they will, you can't know for now. Just get it down while you can, and worry about it later. The important thing is to develop the habit of writing. If you do it enough, you'll eventually finish something even despite your fears or whatever else might stand in the way. It might not be something you like, but even an ugly dog is better than no dog at all. Just keep at it. Every writer started as a noodler who didn't stop noodling. Even Douglas Adams, who hated writing, just stuck with it until something came out, and what came out happened to be brilliant. That won't be most people's experience, but there's still a satisfaction in the act itself, and you should focus on that instead of the more abstract idea of completion.
klop422 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 00:55:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Goes for all creative endeavours
libertybellcurve ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:09:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Write drunk, edit sober. I think that is a fake quote attributed to Mark Twain
-uzo- ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:09:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually did this. Drunkenly got up to a 200k word novel ... then once I'd sobered up I trimmed about 60k of fat out of it.
Editing is far harder than writing, as you have to 'kill your babies.' Lots of people can write expansive, detailed stories ... writing them well is the hard part. Giving the reader enough information that they can follow it all, but no so much they get overwhelmed (or worse, bored!).
You want to make a name writing The Hobbit, not The Silmarillion.
Know what's even harder than editing? Getting the damned thing published!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:05:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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yazyazyazyaz ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:55:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think what he meant was that you don't need to worry about fleshing everything out right away, or getting down all of your ideas/the entire scope of what you're trying to achieve all at once. Just start somewhere and then you can add the rest as you go.
BananaNutJob ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:22:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's an analogy aimed at aspiring (i.e., inexperienced) authors, not a critique of Tolkien.
And Tolkien didn't make his name with The Silmarillion either. It wasn't even published until after his death. AND it abso-fucking-lutely has epic stories that could make great films. Now that I've typed this, I'm really not sure what you're on about.
[deleted] ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 05:42:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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BananaNutJob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:31:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't think it's implying that at all, but feel free to take it that way I guess. The Silmarillion is amazing but accessibility is something it lacks entirely. No problem when there's already four beloved novels in the setting, but no one would have read it if it had been published first.
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:28:54 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Silmarillion is a poor example here. It was not an intentional composition by Tolkien, and wasn't even his idea. It is incomplete and not even entirely consistent with itself.
A common nickname given to The Silmarillion by fans, "the Tolkien Bible", is very apt. Like the real Bible that it's compared to in that jocular association, it's not one story, or even fully cohesive, but instead a collection of tales and related works of disparate origin (all coming out of the same mind, but at different times and with different reason or inspiration). The work was the idea of Tolkien's son, Christopher, who understood that all the writings people were familiar with all grew out of a great legendarium that existed in a disparate collection of many papers his father had, as well as things that existed only in his father's head. (Especially, how they all connected to each other.) In trying to compile it, he realized that only the great man himself could bring it all together, but that he never had any intention to. His published works were his paintings, and the legendarium merely his paintbox. But Christopher understood the enormous cultural value of what Tolkien considered merely noodlings and background notes and incomplete historical accounts, and convinced his father to help him compile an anthology of this work, in part to preserve it in clearer form, and in part so that people could better appreciate the sweeping majesty of the over-arching mythology behind Tolkien's better-known works. What came out of that effort is the work we know as The Silmarillion.
It is not an epic, or a great novel. It doesn't even have what might be considered a coherent throughline. It was never expected to. It's what it looks like, a loosely connected collection of disparate tales related to Middle Earth. (Specifically, for those who've never read it, it's sort of Tolkien's Old Testament of Middle-Earth, if the stories you know could be said to make up a companion New Testament of Middle-Earth. It tells everything up to the point where The Lord of the Rings starts, and covers a vastly longer stretch of time. It's like if Tolstoy put out a later work providing the background for War and Peace which starts with the creation of the world and key events that happened between then and 1812, and important persons associated with those events.
jseego ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:38:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hemingway. But possibly apocryphal?
drakonite ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:21:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get the impression he was more of a write drunk, edit drunk, drink drunk, type of person.
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:00:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Akioness ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:13:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I disagree. I'm currently writing something and I've redone everything multiple times, slowly refining it until it's on a plotline I like. My first drafts were just basic ideas for two characters, no plotline or story in mind, just some dumb scene of their normal lives. As the years went on, I developed a decently structured plotline that's constantly changing every so slightly the more I write it.
I highly recommend, if you've an idea, to just start writing something down, it doesn't even have to be good. I honestly doubt anyone has ever been too successful in writing a first draft and publishing it. Take inspiration from different sources, take a creative writing class, or read. Reading is one of the best ways to "study" creative writing. And dont just read the stuff that goes along with your idea, pick a few to make the styles vary. Writing is never a waste of time because if you write something down that you dont like, then you know you dont like it and you can slowly sculpt it, chipping away the imperfections, until it's something you like.
poop-trap ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:36:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What you're describing is architecting or outlining a story. That's one way to do it. The other is gardening or discovery writing. You build the story as you go and fix things that don't quite work. Either can work. Just get writing!
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:33:52 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would have agreed with you up to the year I did Nanowrimo for the first time. And this extremely common view is discussed in the explanatory pages of that challenge, which I strongly encourage you to take on. I was skeptical, having written my whole life, but it completely changed my understanding of the process and was very helpful. I believe it could be for just about anyone.
Just write. Don't worry about anything else. Don't worry about it making sense. Don't worry about it being good. (It won't be, but that's okay. Every great chef started by making a lot of messes. There is no other way.) Don't worry about where the story's going (or if it is at all), or how it will end up, or what might or might not happen along the way. Don't let it bother you if something you think you planned changes along the way. Once you get it flowing, characters come alive and start doing things on their own, often things that will surprise you. Let them do that, and go with it.
You will have the rest of your life to revise. But you can't revise anything that you haven't written yet.
dacoobobswife2 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:59:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did this last year and it was really great! I had been mulling on a YA novel idea for years but never got more than a couple pages down. I have no desire to become a professional writer, it's just a hobby, so I had it edited through an online service and self published it on amazon. My friends and family read it and now I have a book on the shelf with my name on it. Planning a collection of short horror stories next. You don't have to be Stephen King or JK Rawling you be a writer...just have fun with it
capgun_bandit ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:56:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I recently read โSalemโs Lot by Stephen King and he wrote this in the forward:
โOf course, the writer can impose control; itโs just a really shitty idea. Writing controlled fiction is called โplotting.โ Buckling your seatbelt and letting the story take over, however...that is called โstorytelling.โโ
Completely changed how I thought about writing novels. I always feel like I need the whole story before I start writing and so I never start anything.
crotchrocket616 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:33:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tell that to JM Coetzee...
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:52:14 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Who?
I think you may have just proven King right.
SUPERARME ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:39:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
200 word a day, and you will have a book in a year.
nokanjaijo ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 01:25:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thus works for some but for many it's disastrous.
ViSsrsbusiness ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:51:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The trick is to start planning AFTER you have something on paper.
BananaNutJob ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:29:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The importance of editing cannot be overstated. I've read a lot of legitimately very good novels that still made me want to scream due to poor or non-existent editing (looking at you, Wheel of Time and ASOIAF).
nokanjaijo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:58:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I couldn't agree more. It is the hardest part, I find. It's one of the hardest lessons to learn, how to be severely critical of your own work without throwing yourself down an, "I suck, I can't write, who am I kidding" well.
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:39:13 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The trick I learned is to put it down and walk away from it until I'm sufficiently distant from it that it no longer seems like my creation, but someone else's.
Anyone who's gone back and read stuff they wrote many years ago can appreciate this. You might cringe at something you wrote as a little kid, but the point is, you now feel that the person who wrote that was someone other than the person you are now, and that makes it easier to approach it objectively and critically.
It's going to be different for every person. Stephen King said that he needs to complete anything he's working on within about three months, because otherwise he loses interest. But I think he's only talking about the creation phase, because he's also talked about going back over works he set aside years earlier and redoing them.
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:36:15 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. Great works aren't written. They're RE-written.
I read the Hunger Games trilogy, and it was clear that by the third book, her editors had thrown in the towel. I don't know why, but that book either needed to be a lot shorter, or split into two books. But either way, it needed a lot more attention than it got from anyone, including the author.
Fire42uck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:01:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The hardest part is always starting. Once you get past that, you can (and should!) revise as much as you'd like.
nokanjaijo ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:32:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's just not true. A large numbers of us have no trouble starting. It's our favorite part, but we don't finish because we don't know where we're going and the middle is the hardest part.
I can't count how many writers i know who start projects they never finish.
I always outline.
DrafiMara ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:39:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Outlining does wonders after you learn how to write. If you've never written creatively, your outline will have countless flaws that you won't notice until you actually start writing, and after you get ~20 pages in you realize you might as well not have written one at all.
Don't get me wrong, once you have a handle on basic pacing and story structure, an outline is fantastic, but you can't learn the fundamentals just by thinking about it a lot.
Ratdrake ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:20:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Outlines can be revised. When I tried writing without an outline, I had to abandon the story because the plot laid there like a unrolled a ball of yarn and dropped it in a pile. I then outlined a new story and finished writing a book (it was only mediocre, oh well).
I think the key is outline as much as you need to. Don't try to tell the entire story with your outline but giving yourself direction is key for some folks. Other people discover as they write. Different creative process for different people.
BananaNutJob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:25:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's why people are advised to start with the concept for the end.
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:40:43 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem is, outlining is an expository tool, and the expository skills we're taught in the Western world are a vocational method that's anathema to creative writing. You're better off with no plan at all. Trust me on this.
youngatbeingold ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:07:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously. 100% start with a draft of some kind. I wrote this long story and it really evolved while I was working through it. Itโs not a mess by any means but I needs a lot of work, especially in the details, so now I need to go back and edit the whole thing to the point where I might as well just be rewriting it.
nokanjaijo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:29:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're saying 100% of writers start with a draft of some kind? That's just completely false.
youngatbeingold ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:06:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not at all. 100% is just a strong recommendation, itโs just slang, like saying โtotallyโ or โdefinitelyโ. By no means does every writer do that.
Twinge ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:56:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You want to write, but you're afraid:
What if they laugh at what you have made?
You've grown weary and anxious over the years.
But it's time to reflect- time to reject those fears.
How to improve, the only way to grow:
Just move your pen, and let the ink flow.
AgoraiosBum ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 01:43:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But after you've written a few, stop and make sure your writing is actually moving the story forward and isn't just its own form of procrastination.
George.
Lorewick09 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:32:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
2 kinds of writers ploters and pantsers
r/writing
intrsectionalfascism ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:09:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โIf the muse doesnโt show up for work, start without herโ
TheRedCap ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:10:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is how you end up with an unfinished Song of Ice and Fire series though.
poop-trap ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:37:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wouldn't you rather that than George having never wrote a thing?
smileysocks ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:57:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes I'll start a sentence, and I don't even know where it's going. I just hope I find it along the way. Like an improv conversation. An improversation.
Shinibisho ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:17:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs what Iโve been doing for my book Somehow I Manage.
icallshenannigans ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:44:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does it have a picture of you on the cover shrugging?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:21:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
full tuxedo and beautiful women in front of his mansion, shrugging.
icallshenannigans ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:11:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because: classy?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:03:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
juxtaposition of opposites. "somehow I manage" sounds like a poor person title, but the photograph would be the opposite: a rich person. Therein lies the humor.
muertoyote ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:22:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this is how haruki murakami came to fame. he just had the thought of "what if i just write a novel?" and now he has many hits. if you want something, yolo and do it
UlrichZauber ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:45:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, novels are long, so expect it to take time to complete. Write every day, even if it's just a few hundred words. It adds up eventually.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:09:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wrote a novel a year ago. Getting it published is something I just can't do.
DrafiMara ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:42:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's always self-publishing. If you do Amazon's self publishing it's very fast and easy
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tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:58:15 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Better yet, have someone else read it. I've never seen any written work that couldn't use improvement.
jimmyerthesecond ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:45:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like that could be how the Dark Tower series started. "The man... in black... fled... across the desert... and... the... gunslinger followed." I haven't finished it but I like it so far!!!
bungopony ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:25:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
First draft is Draft Zero. You can't edit a blank page. Once something is there, you can start adding/taking away/changing.
K-Jonatan-B ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:42:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I DO THISS!!! But so that I don't forget what I was writing, I write down bullet points of events on a seperate sheet of paper after a sitting or two.
TypeOneAuthor ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:38:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a writer....this.
Get the first draft out, and get into the detail. It makes it easier to get out the basic concept of a story without forgetting what you wanted to say. After that, flesh out the plot, build your world, develop characters, make words sound pretty.
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tenpercentofnothing ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:29:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm on my second draft and Iโm doing this now! It has improved things far more than I could have imagined.
SomeGuyInSanJoseCa ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:35:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
NanoWrimo.
Look it up.
ryebread91 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:54:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This always helped with any paper or report I had to weight. Just start writing/typing and then the rest just came or was much easier to think of.
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:58:57 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, that's not how the expository method works. But the expository method is not how creative writing works.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:27:27 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt understand when where we talking about that?
abcdariu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:26:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read this just as im Writing on a doc file the general Idea of a story ive been thinking on. Must be DESTINY!!1
Issa19071999 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:05:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
While this is really good advice I will add After you start writing make dot points for major plots and character development or your story will be never ending with no depth
CoffeeCannon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:04:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Goes for a fair amount of 'project'-ey things, honestly. I've been talking about making a game for like three years and I just fucking started doing it the other day on a whim - something completely different to all my complex plans and concepts, just something I thought of on a whim.
Guess who stuck with it three days in a row? Yea, just fucking do the thing you're saying you will. Just do it. Thats all it takes, as dumb as it sounds.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:34:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know, i'm gonna do this. Thanks, kind stranger.
NoopGhoul ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:41:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs basically what Iโm doing and itโs going all right.
tway15q1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:55:13 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. I don't do Nanowrimo anymore, but it had a huge benefit for me. I'd been writing pretty much my whole life when I found out about it, and originally did it as a lark and didn't tell anyone, figuring it would be an amusing writing exercise or maybe garbage. When I was done, I told people, I learned more about writing in the last thirty days that I had in the previous ten years.
The most important lesson of all is to just do it.
IlluminAnarchy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:17:07 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can't edit a blank page. Heard that advice so long ago and it still helps me get out of my head and just start writing
elaerna ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:59:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always get stuck on conversations. He said she retorted he replied she said sounds so dumb
E-sharp ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:11:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Skip most of that. If the conversation is just between two people, you can just go back and forth without most of those
DrafiMara ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:39:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seconded. If it's clear who's saying what from context, skip the dialogue tags
jonmcconn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:37:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or just literally skip the conversations. When I read Hundred Years of Solitude, realizing just how much of it was told in summary opened up a while world for my own writing, like a get out of jail free card for the bits I worried were getting boring.
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tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:13:39 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
King. In On Writing. Meaning is imparted by content, not context. If the content is clear, the reader will supply all necessary details on their own.
akiramari ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:43:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
grain of salt, but I like interspersing other actions that really aren't about how the speaker is speaking, if that makes sense. Like...
Adds some characterization, a way I think "show, don't tell" can be applied (maybe he's nervous or otherwise uncomfortable) and doesn't weigh it down. Everything in moderation, of course.
Plus, I've read that you should only put dialogue in that has a purpose. Maybe you're just putting in too much. Does it advance the plot? Develop a character? Create a mood? Is it foreshadowing? I've even seen "conversations" where it'll have parts that aren't actually dialogue, just a summary of what was explained, mixed with dialogue bits, and that works pretty well too. Experiment with what you like - it never hurts to practice :)
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:12:22 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just use said and don't worry about it. The content of the conversation should impart those details on its own. An example from my own writing:
"Are you okay?"
"No. I am not okay."
The tension is immediately apparent. There's no need to add anything to clarify it for the reader.
spaceadventurer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:37:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've heard outline, outline, outline and draft. Then by the time you're done it's almost already written.
snarkdiva ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:10:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not all writers are outliners. I've tried, but what works for me is to imagine scenes of my book in my head first and then write them, especially dialogue. Too much outlining takes me away from immersing myself in the world I've created. That said, some people have to outline to keep things straight. Whatever works for you.
richarizard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you written a novel?
tenpercentofnothing ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:20:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes. Sort of. I started in October and Iโm about 80% through with my second draft. I donโt think Iโll feel like Iโve โwritten a novelโ until I get it to where Iโm ready to let friends read the whole thing for feedback and not just random excerpts.
I_DONT_READ_ANYTHING ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:41:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
George RR Martin go on reddit
wulv8022 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:45:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Words. Words. Words. I know a lot of words. Bank. I go to the bank. No. Uhhh he goes to the bank. Yes that sounds better.
UshankaBear ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:55:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't know writers for Game of Thrones were giving advice in this thread.
jyssrocks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:04:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And then once that initial burst of inspiration is over, take the time to plan. Write an outline for your book.
Outlines are so helpful! They help you remember everything you wanted to include, can guard against writers block, gives you an overall snapshot of your book, and can serve basically as a first draft.
I'm an author, ghostwriter, and book coach for new authors. Outlines are hugely helpful when writing an entire book and in breaking down there writing process so it doesn't seem so big, this idea of 'im going to write a whole book.'
QueenWeirf ยท 4226 points ยท Posted at 22:57:13 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
My doctor told me when I feel anxious or something like that to wiggle my toes and count them for every wiggle. It is something that distracts your mind and you can do it anywhere cause it just means moving your toes.
Edit: I am fairly new to reddit and I just got a sliver thanks guys
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Astramancer_ ยท 520 points ยท Posted at 23:29:25 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make little fists with your toes.
TheBause ยท 325 points ยท Posted at 00:45:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I felt like an idiot when I realized that the only purpose of this is a plot device just to get McClane's shoes off. I still do it after flying just as a joke, but boy did I feel stupid.
BasicDesignAdvice ยท 69 points ยท Posted at 02:13:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Movies never really waste any time. Anything they spend more than ten seconds on is coming back later. Oh hey that innocuous statement in the first act? Yea that's how they figure out whatever. That random gun on the wall they brought attention to? They're gonna use it.
TheBause ยท 62 points ยท Posted at 02:15:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is the owner of that gun Chekhov?
Rush_nj ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:29:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, do not say the Chekhov gun Cyril. That, sir, is a facile argument.
Jukebox_Villain ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:41:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love when they slip stuff like that in every once in a while to remind you that Sterling is well read.
MachoManShark ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 02:21:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ChekhovsGun
Just for anyone who doesn't get it.
Pons__Aelius ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:25:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
no, but he hung it on the wall.
dalek_999 ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:40:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good movies, you mean.
BananaNutJob ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:45:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
WHERE'S MY MONEY, DENNY?
ithcy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:52:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I feel like David Mamet would have thought that Birdemic wasted a little time here and there.
altiuscitiusfortius ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:47:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I fucking love the rifftax of birdemic. Its so amazing. I cant watch the movie without it anymore.
461weavile ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 07:26:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, you assume I watch well-written movies.
forgotmymainagain ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:16:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What about the casino planet subplot then?
Fallenangel152 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:52:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I've given up trying to explain Last Jedi. I'm half expecting Rian Johnson to reveal that the entire movie was a giant troll because it's so badly made. Almost everything about it seems deliberately bad.
MrBojangles528 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:41:26 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He has effectively said as much, without openly referring to it as a troll. It fits the description perfectly.
BasicDesignAdvice ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:50:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Jedi storyline was good. As in between Kylo, Rey, and Luke.
The rest was hot trash.
Fallenangel152 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:50:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doubly so in an Edgar Wright film. Every line of dialogue and little detail is crafted. In every film he openly explains the plot of the end of the film in the first half.
ShotFromGuns ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:10:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What kind of monster doesn't enjoy making little fists with their toes? :(
DingJones ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:29:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol I still make little fists with my toes. Never put this together. Oh well, I am still going to do it.
BatFish123 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:01:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Heh, TIL I guess
p_velocity ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:01:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
such a great movie...I notice new shit every time I watch. I can't wait until Christmas so that I can watch again. (last year I watched "Trading Places" as my Christmas movie, this year I'm going to add Gremlins part 1 to the rotation also)
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:43:40 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nevertheless, exercise related to flying is real, and in some cases or for some people can be important. Flying (especially these days) puts a lot of stress on the human body, and it's a good idea to have some way to counteract that.
mutteringInsano ยท 48 points ยท Posted at 00:43:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shoot... the glass!
Cansurfer ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:35:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My brother made all of the fake cabinets in that scene while working at Control Data (long since bankrupt). It was simply known as the "Hollywood project".
mashtato ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:33:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"hat cuppa cawffee"
jaktyp ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:44:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When possible, I always have my toes curled under my feet. I have no idea why I do this, but I continue to do it until itโs pointed out, and then go back to it after I forget.
Edit: the big toes kinda flip flop. Sometimes they go under, sometimes they point out.
bricked_machine ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:50:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I knew I'd find this somewhere in this thread.
chung_my_wang ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:59:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Guess I shoulda ctrl f'ed before I commented.
AverageAussie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:44:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...And punch someone in the dick?
bigpoppaotis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get insane toe cramps if i do that
Nataliewassmart ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 01:33:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a CBT technique called grounding, and I personally find it highly effective. I've taught it to many people, and it's been a useful tool to them as well.
interactiveztj ยท 50 points ยท Posted at 01:48:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
cock and ball torture?
bicyclegeek ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 01:50:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cognitive behavior therapy.
aluxeterna ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:07:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Y not both
droid_mike ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:17:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's probably very useful as a method to distract from the cock and ball torture as well!
woobboomooboo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:18:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Y not? Iโll tell you why. Because thatโs exactly how you end up 35 years old and banned from every psychotherapist in the state.
Even those pet therapists that are basically dog walkers
razzytrazza ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:36:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
wow i didnโt know this was a thing . iโve been doing this since i was a kid
FallenInHoops ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 02:26:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had the hygienist at my dental office tell me to alternately squeeze my hands into fists. It's a legitimate EMDR therapy practice, and it totally works.
It's more visible than your toes though, and if you have resting bitch face (like me), people might think you're going to go postal when you're just concentrating. But it has helped a lot with the low-key panic attacks over the past few months, so, whatever. Judge not, judgey pants.
chickenpatch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:44:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So Arthur was prob just heeding the advice of his dental hygienist in that meme then interesting
NatoBoram ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:32:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Careful new Redditor, you'll end up in r/AwardSpeechEdits :)
QueenWeirf ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:33:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eh too late welp
yeathatshouldvework ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:39:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I count To 4 while taking long comfortable breath. I used to count to ten but my mind got lost in my anxious thoughs. I learned that listening a weird tv show. The girl said everything was tolerable for short amount of time. She said she holds the pain for 10 second at the time because pain is tolerable on short period. Wash rinse repeats. So basicly I do that with anxiety. 4 seconds at the time.
UselessOpinion ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:18:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do kegals, same idea but then you also get yolked sex organs.
Conpen ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:54:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I distinctly remember not being able to curl my toes when in ski boots and it was quite distressing
CmdrQuaalude ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:17:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dentist taught me this trick when I was 12. That was a long time ago and it still works.
Also if you are getting a shot if the person injecting will tap their finger near the injection site you can't feel the pain. The nerves that register pain are the same ones that register motion and they can't do both at the same time.
cam_bagels ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:53:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs great! Thanks! Iโll take all the tips and tricks!
QueenWeirf ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:05:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another thing I have an app called Calm Harm and it has many different suggestions for things to do. My favorite distraction it suggests is counting odd numbers from like 523 - 627 or something like that cause it takes the brain a second to count odd so it makes you think about it instead of what you are panicking over.
Kajin-Strife ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:07:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this when I have to sit in a dentist chair and get a cavity filled in. It helps distract from the drilling.
vamplosion ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:40:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was a kid I watched some show about people with social anxiety and they gave the advice to focus on rubbing your thumb with your middle finger to distract yourself. Iโve done it so much that I unconsciously do it when I get nervous.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:42:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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QueenWeirf ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:47:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone has their ups and downs and itโs sad that it doesnโt work for you and hopefully things get better for you and it sounds like your anxiety is more intense it might be something else entirely but I canโt say considering Iโm not a professional. I do know panic attacks are more extreme then anxiety attacks. Both very bad mentally but panic attacks are more extreme. I did experience that before and during those times grounding wasnโt working. Nothing did. I didnโt know how to fix it and well maybe other do. But for small anxiety that bothering you In the moment this helps enough.
Zanpie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:28:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a really great mindfulness technique! As an explanation, doing something in the present moment that focuses on your body takes your mind out of either fortune telling (future events) or ruminating on past events. You can kick yourself back into the present by focusing on your breathing, entering into the moment by focusing completely on the sensual experiance (smelling coffee, listening to bird calls, touching a surface). Counting, making lists, rhyming - all those things redirect your mind away from anxious thoughts. Progressive body relaxation meditation which is like what the op described is probably my favorite. Starting from your toes, and going up your body, tense each group of muscles for 5 seconds and then release.
ColdasIce203 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:02:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your account is a year old though
QueenWeirf ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:04:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Before today my karma was legit under 50 and now itโs over a thousand so again I wasnโt using this for as long as I had the account
QueenWeirf ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:03:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just started posting a few months ago I had it but never used it
positivepeoplehater ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:12:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read toes as nose and was wondering how to do it without being noticed.
anthony0322 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:13:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/awardspeechedits
txPeach ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's a great one! One of go-to's is Counting Fives. Find 5 things you can currently see, smell, hear, touch. Also, describing objects or surroundings in detail.
AirBreather5000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:18:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I'm trying to be professional or seem focused I move my toes around like crazy instead of fidgeting with my hands or doing anything they can see. I am always fidgety so this has helped a ton
kleinePfoten ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:04:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like to count - out loud- down from 5:
5 things you can see
4 things you can touch
3 things you can hear
2 things you can smell
1 thing you can taste
In between each item, take a slow, deep breath in through the nose and out through the mouth - three beats in, three beats out. Repeat with new answers until you feel calm. I like this because you very quickly run out of smells and taste and can use this as an opportunity to get up and move to another part of the house, hydrate, maybe grab a snack, etc. The point of it is to remove yourself from your inner mind, bring your senses back to the world around you.
Chiparoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Omg, I wiggle my toes when I'm getting a shot or getting blood drawn, I didn't know it was an actual THING though. I just needed a part of my body moving and for my brain to focus on a part of myself that's far away from wherever the needle is.
oliver_clozov ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:17:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Funny that you mention this. Iโve been doing this subconsciously for years. When I notice Iโm wiggling my toes is when I realize Iโm feeling anxious and am then enabled to do something about it
TheLostCynic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:56:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nothing beats violently shaking your legs when you're anxious
jcling ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:28:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow I thought I was the only person that did this. But instead of anxiety I use it to help me get out of bed in the morning.
phuntastikbobby ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dentist suggested I wiggle my toes when the work they're doing triggers my gag reflex (cue jokes). I was skeptical, but it really works.
lizzyhuerta ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:42:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's very helpful for physical pain as well. One of my nurses suggested it when I was having a very painful procedure performed during my induction of labor for my 2nd child (foley bulb insertion failure, 5 times). It helped! Also squeezing her hand. That nurse was amazing, seriously.
dubsnipe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:56:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just do /r/curledfeetsies
bigapplesnapple ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:58:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just did this and a cat attacked my feet
vinoprosim ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:01:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dentist told me about this. To distract me during dental procedures. Totally works !
Ghitit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:36:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ahhh... I see you saw the comment on gratitude.
Nice work!
femalenerdish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:48:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thinking through your senses helps too. What can you feel? From your fingers to your toes. What can you smell? What can you hear? What can you see?
If you have specific triggers, like there's something you see that's making you anxious, skip that sense.
patata66 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:10:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a thing I do automatically when I'm anxious, like a reflex. Now it makes sense.
dostoi88 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:40:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can feel an extreme cheerfull toe wiggling in the air
Riddarinn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:38:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to do this everytime i was being interrogated by the police. Made me look cool and innocent.
Howwasitforyou ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:00:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A bit more of an eli5 here.
Your brain sort of has 2 things that control it, emotion and logic (going back to caveman days, the emotional side was fear, which would help you get away from a sabre tooth tiger), anxiety is obviously emotion. So when you are freaking out, your emotional side is in charge. If you start using logic or memory (counting something, or trying to remember details of an event, like what colour your shirt was, or what your mom's phone number is), your emotional part of the brain thinks that if you are trying to count something, then you are not in danger, so it lets the logical side take over ......calming you down.
WolfSilverMoon05 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:30:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But what if you gave a metal leg?
towers_of_ilium ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:26:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My doctor told me this when I was four or five and having some vaccinations. Iโm now 40 and I still do it every time I need to get a needle for something.
TheSoulOfTheRose ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:26:08 on May 17, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Since you're new, I might as well tell you, everyone of us HATES those stupid edits about getting silver and gold.
CracklyCactus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:11:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/awardspeechedit
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That doesn't wor-
PatmanTheBanproof ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 02:59:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Used to sext a really cute girl. One days she keyboard smashed after an orgasm. Your keyboard smash reminded me of it. Thank you for the memory of her orgasm
QueenWeirf ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:00:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well alright not the plan but hey you do you buddy
janfleury ยท 498 points ยท Posted at 03:56:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
On my wedding day my Grandmother said to me "Never do anything around the house that you don't plan on doing for life". At the time I thought it was a terrible advice. When I was mowing the lawn at 7 1/2 months pregnant I got what she meant.
chotskyIdontknowwhy ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 10:57:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish I could stop doing this. Whether itโs with boyfriends or flat mates, I always end up doing the house โworkโ.
Iโm a huge perfectionist though and quite honestly, even their best efforts are like pigs living in shit. Iโve started giving my boyfriend non-detailed jobs like taking out the rubbish, checking the recycling bins, hoovering. The rest of it (as in the bits that actually take a bit of time and care), I have to do myself.
Bernard_PT ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 12:43:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sit down with him.
Explain to him what you are feeling and the stress it puts on you to not be able to trust him with tasks that take care
ZigiZigenbein ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 13:51:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That would work if there wasn't a real passive-agressive reason that they perform household tasks like shit. They KNOW that we'll scurry to do the tasks ourselves to prevent property from being destroyed. E.g., don't like doing the laundry? Just mix everything together. The sane member of the household will flip out when she sees the whites turned pink or grey, the passive-agressive slacker will whine "you're such a perfectionist, you don't even appreciate that I did the laundry" and he gets to be the victim AND knows that he'll never have to do laundry again. I'm far from a perfectionist, but I do expect adults to perform household tasks without destroying valuable items. I do all of the cooking and cleaning because if my spouse cooks, there will be food splattered on the walls, floors, ceilings, etc. which he NEVER cleans. It takes like an hour and a half to clean up the stains after he "cooks." If the stains can't be cleaned, then I have to pay for paint, a new countertop, etc. I can cook and clean up after myself in like 20 minutes. So having my spouse "share" household tasks just creates a longer day of cleaning for me. It's a net loss of time, and thousands of dollars to repair the damage to the house. The point is, dude doesn't care that he's stressing her out. He's intentionally stressing her out so she'll do everything herself. There's method to the madness.
jesusonice ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 14:56:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like you made a poor choice in a partner.
FloobLord ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 15:41:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Uhhh, yeah. My wife told me "You're doing the laundry wrong" and I do it right now. Usually. We still disagree about what exactly a "light" piece of clothing is.
pinkfrogcupcake ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 16:21:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same thing here. I noticed the dishes would be still oily after my bf washed up. I asked him to be a bit more thorough, so he watched what I did a few times and copied. Problem solved.
0nmute ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:24:01 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
wow i can relate to this
[deleted] ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 13:19:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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Available_Answer ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 15:25:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My husband and I are like this - we have assigned chores based on what we hate doing/don't mind doing.
Me: Bills, budget, all cooking, all meal planning, a lot of the "mental" tasks like getting gifts for relatives birthdays, planning holidays, remembering where he put his lost XYZ, remembering to remind him to schedule dentist appts, etc. (we count mental load as work in our house even if it's invisible).
Him: All trash/recycling, all yardwork and snow shoveling, all dishes, car and house repairs, negotiating with and overseeing contracters, dealing with the cat's litterbox.
We share general tidying and care of the pups/cats.
It really helps us feel like we're doing equal shares and we get to do things we (mostly) don't mind doing.
Andalusian_Dawn ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:44:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow, you're me!
Except my husband also does laundry. In return, I do all the things you do, as well as plan (and pay for) epic international vacations. I am a terrible housekeeper and we both know it. Best marriage ever. I think my husband agrees, lol.
FloobLord ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:54:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha, this is exactly my wife and I minus the cats.
aintnothin_in_gatlin ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 10:22:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm gonna say it and get crucified. Were you with the father at the time? Your partner should have stepped it up. Not because you couldnโt cut the grass but, while growing an entire New human, sometimes you need to rest and NOT cut the lawn. This comment made me angry. Sorry.
that-short-girl ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 13:13:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think thatโs their point though? If youโre sharing a house with someone and do a task a few times they get so used to not having to do that task that youโre stuck with it for life, even when you clearly canโt do it, not because the others are mean or anything but because they simply forget that task was even a thing in the first place.
janfleury ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:12:55 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes I was and am still with him. He was working 2 jobs at the time and the lawn needed mowing again. We have worked out the mowing and I only mow when I want now.
okiedokedudedamn ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 09:22:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
jesus christ. i stopped doing my bf's laundry over a month ago and he's acting like a baby about it
ludololl ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 13:30:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/relationships representing hard in this comment thread.
FenrirApalis ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 12:26:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a dude I recommend you find someone else. No matter if it's a guy or girl, if they bitch about having to wash their own clothes they deserve to be single
chrisannunzio ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 13:14:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You literally put them in 2 machines and they come out clean... who doesnt do their own laundry?? Lol
okiedokedudedamn ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 15:07:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
his mom did it for him growing up and he claims he doesn't know how ... even though he's been taught on multiple occasions. i didn't mind to do it cause i was raised that way (my mom would scream at me if i did my laundry and not hers...) but he doesn't even appreciate it or reciprocate in any way so i'm done lol. he won't even put them away or keep them folded nicely
knobtremor ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:24:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless of course, i work 12 shifts, and she is unemployed. Then doing housework for half the pay check is just fine.
Sanctifyke ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 11:44:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love doing my boyfriends laundry lol.
Dishes on the other hand...fuck dishes.
bamaja ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 13:47:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this is how my wife and i operate. she does the laundry, for dishes, the hot water is enjoyable and i am weird.
i used to do my own laundry, and would do the loads after we moved in together. but i have since been effectively banned. who knew that women's clothes need specific temperatures and drying instructions??
needless to say, after several shrunken blouses, we arrived at our current agreement. everyone seems happier.
Available_Answer ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 15:19:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This was us when we first got married! Now, my husband does his laundry, I do my laundry, and we both do sheets and towels whenever they need it. I don't want him touching my laundry with a ten foot pole though he doesn't mind doing it.
Sanctifyke ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 13:54:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Omg no!! RIP to her shrunken blouses :(
thatโs the same way my man learned not to touch my clothes lol.
aintnothin_in_gatlin ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 10:22:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dear God why were you doing his laundry???!!!
swgmuffin ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:14:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You do your boyfriends laundry? Lmao
SherlockedHufflepuff ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 12:40:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well...not anymore
TheExaltedTwelve ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:35:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reading through this thread like "wat", where's my laundry washer and run around? /s
Been doing my own laundry since I was thirteen, sounds like I've been missing out.
Cher9969 ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 06:01:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
God bless your grandmother. I could have used her advice years ago.
janfleury ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:10:50 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
She has been gone 17 years now and I miss her and her advice every damn day.
scw55 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 13:37:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've realised that I love living with a lawn. However, I don't actually enjoy cutting it. The machinary is bulky and heavy. The bag must be emptied during the job. I end up feeling itchy.
I'm OK if I don't have a lawn in the future.
ApprehensiveLecture ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:19:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is why I love living in an apartment! There are these guys in overalls that come every now and then and keep the courtyard looking neat. And I don't have to do anything about it.
whitey-ofwgkta ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:52:57 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lawn and snow care are the main reasons why I have reservations about owning a house of my own
Fufu-le-fu ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 13:16:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hopefully not a push mower? I can see how this could happen, though. Just like in a job, make sure your husband is cross-trained with you so that if either of you is out of action the other can step in.
janfleury ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:06:24 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes a push mower with the bag you had to empty.
confusedlooks ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 11:10:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Who did you marry that was ok with this?
rosesaintshit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:16:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Six years and I've only made dinner maybe 3 times.
Echospite ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:33:50 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This goes for all kinds of relationships - if someone wants you to do something, assume they'll always do it. They want to borrow money? Now won't be the only time. They want you to run an errand for them? They'll get you to do it whenever they feel like it.
The only exception is if you've known and trusted them for years. Relationship precedents get set very, very early.
SaucyMoonbeams ยท 1691 points ยท Posted at 23:56:00 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Giving small compliments to people right when you think it makes both them and you happy. Think that girls skirt is cute? Tell her!
LoversAlibis ยท 125 points ยท Posted at 03:11:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve actually made a couple of friends doing this!
For those of yโall in comments above me wondering how to compliment girls without coming off as creepy, PRO TIP, super simple solution: identify WHAT about that skirt is cute, and compliment that specifically!
โI like that pattern on your skirt!โ โThatโs a cool color!โ
That way youโre complimenting the personโs TASTES, not their FORM.
SaucyMoonbeams ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 03:14:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Great tip!
seems_fishy ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 10:31:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've wanted to tell people they look nice or I like what they're wearing, but I think I'm going to come off as creepy. So I just never do. I'm going to have to try this. Thank you!
DeltaKaze ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:51:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks, this is very useful!
ItsMeTK ยท 366 points ยท Posted at 01:21:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or it weirds them out and you become the creepy skirt guy.
Or you like the skirt, but itโs mistaken as flirting.
eukomos ยท 313 points ยท Posted at 01:37:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs all about phrasing it in a way that implies โyou have great taste for choosing that skirtโ and not โyour ass looks great in that skirt.โ
Photon_Torpedophile ยท 163 points ยท Posted at 01:49:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
avoid also: "Daaaaaaaaayummmmm!!!!!"
[deleted] ยท 96 points ยท Posted at 03:29:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
AYYY GURL U SHIT WIT DAT ASS
outerdrive313 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 05:40:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This never fails to make me laugh
IllegalAlcoholic ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 02:20:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Imagine saying that to some girl with cute skirts.
BenderDeLorean ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:35:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read this as Netflix intro sound
ThisAfricanboy ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:00:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Surely it's more of a
DEEEEEEEHDUUUUUUUUUHM
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weeeeeeeeeeeeeee
meno123 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:48:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You could get away with that after it becomes known that you dole out compliments.
Hexipo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:29:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Naw. Trust. That works - 8 out of 10 times - though I think I get away with it for being gay
jack93885 ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 01:55:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if it's more ambiguous like, "I really like that [skirt]" and/or "that [skirt] looks great on you"?
deltenksavestheday ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 02:00:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd go with I like the skirt. Makes you more ambiguous and maybe fashionable Girls dig it
jack93885 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:01:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's true but not all styles lend themselves to everyone, I think it can be nice to recognise that
eukomos ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:11:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
True, but thatโs best saved for a different situation due to this dynamic. Many compliments that would be fine to offer a woman you clearly have no sexual interest in can come off slightly unnerving to a stranger youโre flirting with. Remember, strangers have no way of knowing youโre not a date rapist yet, so you have to go the extra mile to assure them youโre not.
jack93885 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:30:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tend to avoid compliments altogether, I don't want it to be seen as flirting or rapey. If I do, I might mention something before leaving cause then I don't have to deal with the aftermath of how it's interpreted and everyone can go about their day
TinyCatCrafts ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:11:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Compliment things that arent able to be seen that way. "Wow, cool teeshirt!" Or "that's a neat lanyard!" (I get that one at work a lot, always leads to a convo about pokemon.)
That kind of compliment is about the item/object, and not the person wearing it or even how they look in it.
ThisAfricanboy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:04:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It always seems so simple but it really isn't. Case in point, I tried the "Woah, I really like your Reddit account!" And she just went on saying "Sir, this is a funeral parlor" "I'm going to have to ask you to leave" "Hey is that famous Hollywood Actor Ben Stiller?" And I don't think those were positive responses
SneakersInTheDryer ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 02:46:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Compliment the person, not the object. "You make that [blank] look good."
I have always thought that complimenting clothes / possessions is weird. I guess the message is supposed to be, "I think that you have good taste in [blank]". When someone says to me, "I like your shoes," my thought is always, "Thanks, but all I did is buy them; I didn't design them or anything. "
WhiteHeather ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 05:48:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly I would be supremely uncomfortable if a stranger told me I made my dress look good rather than telling me they liked my dress.
SneakersInTheDryer ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:00:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting how differently we interpret it. If someone told me they liked my dress, I would think it is a compliment for whoever designed the dress, not for me.
TricornerHat ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:55:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does that really matter though? They think the designer did a good job and, since you're wearing it, so do you, I guess. Worst case scenario that's just you and another person mutually admiring someone else's work. It may not be a big compliment to you, but it never trots into creepy territory. Saying something like "You make that look good" sounds SUPER creepy to me. I get that it can be meant well, but it just doesn't come across that way at all. It sounds lewd.
WhiteHeather ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:10:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's also complimenting your taste in clothes. And half the time I am the person who designed/made my dress anyway so it's still a compliment to me in that regard as well.
DisMaTA ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 03:22:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You: You make that skirt look good
My thoughts: Oh, so you think I bought an ugly ass skirt but somehow it pleases you on my body? Or do you just think it looks good because the ugly skirt fits me? I don't need to "make" it look good, it's a nice skirt and I like it, you ruiner of good moods. Ugh, go bother someone else.
Me: Thanks.
Nope, that phrasing wouldn't come across to me as you meant it.
SpantasticFoonerism ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:09:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep this is always how I imagine it'd go
Johanjas ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:02:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or saying "I like your skirt" with a diferent expression on your face and voice tone also regards in what you're holding on your hand.
ReactiveAmoeba ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 03:47:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This expression works pretty well, I've found.
finna_wesome ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:48:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So which hand is supposed to be on my dick?
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:10:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Usually a simple โI like your skirtโ or whatever Iโm wearing at the time is enough to make my day.
bungopony ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:28:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think phrasing it like "I like your skirt" or "you look good today, is that a new skirt" work in a reasonably neutral way
SneakersInTheDryer ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:48:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, be sure you know the difference between a skirt and a dress. Girls may be impressed by your knowledge
Rengiil ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:04:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait what's the difference
TinyCatCrafts ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:12:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Skirts dont cover your breasts.
....unless you get creative and wear one as a top in a desperate moment of fashion crises.
BananaNutJob ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:08:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shh, that's supposed to be a secret! ;)
Rengiil ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:44:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks, I'll remember in the future by thinking of the phrase, dress for success. Dress being both a top and bottom, nobody is successful just putting on pants, or a skirt.
TinyCatCrafts ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:21:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wearing a dress, you're fully dressed.
Rengiil ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:31:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is why they pay you the big bucks.
revive_kevin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:46:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
meredith... is that you?
TinyCatCrafts ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:25:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nope. Just a 31yo having Jurassic Park level terror flashbacks to some very.... bold decisions in Middle School.
SneakersInTheDryer ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:11:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A dress covers both top and bottom. A skirt is just a bottom - waist down, like pants
Rengiil ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:29:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah thanks.
obscureferences ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:07:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then you're back to complimenting the person instead of the accessory.
Xxvvbbnn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:29:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But I usually only mean the second one.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:55:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy cake day friend ๐
PatmanTheBanproof ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 03:10:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It actually depends on your looks. If you look attractive, your flirting/compliments will be accepted. If she isnt attracted to you it will seem creepy. You have less leeway if you have less looks. Its just how it.
Think of the extreme. Girl at a party. Two guys walk up to her and tell her they think she is cute and if she would like to go in another room. One guy makes her wet. One guy isnt really her type. One guy gets sex or a joking turndown. The other is labeled a creeper she tells her friends about.
BananaNutJob ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:09:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
None of this applies to real people.
eukomos ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:13:42 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Looks somewhat play into it? But so does, like, what you actually say and how you say it. Being hot and saying something creepy will still creep a woman out. Weโre pretty likely to get hurt on dates, so we get very sensitive to these signs.
Lord_Edmure ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 01:39:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't linger afterward.
dejaime ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:09:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
On the contrary, quickly break up contact. Lost count of how many times I was chased after a compliment to a passer-by.
Real_Bug ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:41:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I learned this from Drake & Josh lmao
SwagSandwichSY ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 01:35:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah maybe a little less strong on the compliments toward the girls but I see what he was going for.
morecks87 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 01:54:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This might depend on tone and wording. "Your skirt is hot" feels way different than "your skirt is cute!" Also "you're cute in that skirt" is different than "that skirt is cute." Compliment the item instead of the person, that makes it a little less threatening for someone who might take it the wrong way.
cuzimmathug ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 01:42:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its not creepy if you just say "that skirt is really pretty" and they say thank you and you walk away. Its the staring, or the further commentary, or anything else weird that makes guys creepy.
To the second part, who cares if they think youre flirting?
false_tautology ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 02:11:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
HR? Her husband? My wife if she flirts back.
But, it's probably fine.
cuzimmathug ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:28:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If anyone says anything you literally just say "I wasnt flirting I just thought the skirt looked cool."
As long as you complimented the person in a normal way, no one can dispute that.
If your wife or their husband doesnt believe that someone can just like a piece of clothing, theres a bigger problem there. I'd suggest couples therapy.
Circle_2_Circle ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:01:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Totally agreed. I've given compliments to other females out of the blue and then, holy smack they just OPEN UP. For someone with social anxiety it's amazing to have a positive experience where the one little thing you said hit just the right nerve and now they're engaging you in a bluster with almost no effort on your part. Love it!
King_Of_Regret ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:16:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Girl to girl is a lot different though. Im a transwoman so I've seen both sides and let me tell you, guys giving compliments out of the blue is a bad idea. Does not go well.
odd_ender ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:43:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have complimented many girls and they've responded positively. It's all in the delivery. A lot of guys don't realize how their tones can be.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:26:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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ThisAfricanboy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:10:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ugh at that point it's their problem not yours. So long as you didn't suddenly turn around stalk her for 3 weeks, Google her, follow her on Facebook and like all her pictures, download all her profile pictures and create a mosaic on your bathroom wall with quotes from her tweets written in gold paint (actual gold not gold coloured) then no you're not a creep. You're just a normal guy complimenting someone's shirt.
TinyCatCrafts ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:17:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, and someone telling me "I love your hair." Or "You look good in those pants" is way different from "Hey, cool belt/shirt/lanyard/pin."
Complimenting something that's part of my body, or something that has to do with my looks just says the person is only talking to me because they're attracted to me. I'd rather someone compliment something that speaks to my interests.
passa117 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:58:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What about "that's an interesting pattern on that dress, it's pretty cool"? Or would any compliment get mistaken as you being hit on?
TinyCatCrafts ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:20:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That would be good. So long as it's not "that's an... interesting pattern."
Interesting is usually code for "shits weird, yo."
Loki0891 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:53:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm sorry for stopping you, can we have a five minute conversation about your interests so I have enough background information to pay you a compliment without you being creeped out at my attempt to be a mildly decent human being?
Unless youโre REALLY interested in lanyards and belts.
TinyCatCrafts ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:14:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol, I wear a pokemon themed lanyard and belt. I also have a couple of pins on the lanyard.
...I am also very much a fan of these belts. They're from Buckle Down, and they fasten like a seatbelt, and are made of the same material. I've worn the same one to work for like 5 years and it still looks as new as the day I bought it. Theyve got them in just about every Fandom you can imagine, from Pokemon to Disney, Walking Dead to My Little Pony. And more standard ones that are themed around car brands, etc. They're super sturdy, and dont do that annoying rolling thing that some thinner belts do after a while.
Loki0891 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:47:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, shit son. I like yo lanyard!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:58:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think overall it's best just to not make a comment. Odds are someone at some point is going to be offended and then you're in HR or getting yelled at in the street.
ThisAfricanboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:08:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hope you don't report me to /u/spez but I'm really liking your username.
ThisAfricanboy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:06:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gotta FedEx those compliments
_Pure_Insanity_ ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:18:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I've seen women wearing dresses that look really good on them, but I won't say anything because I don't want to come off as creepy. Same with dresses I know my wife would like, can't just go up and be like "Hey, your dress looks great, where'd you get it?"
TinyCatCrafts ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:21:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Immediately mentioning the wife would be the best way to go.
"My wife has been looking for a dress like that, whered you find it? It looks great!"
_Pure_Insanity_ ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:24:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Probably a good way to do it. Can I flash my ring for insurance?
Such_a_sweet_sorrow ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:43:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think the person who wrote the comment is a girl though. In which case I think the compliment would be a confidence booster.
scaredallthetime ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:02:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's all in how you say it if you're a guy talking to a woman. I'm a girl and work mostly with men. I've had guys make my day with "you look nice today!" I've had guys ruin my day with "you look nice today!" Suggestion, dont look a girl up and down while saying it haha.
Lucky_Knight1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:43:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doesn't that compliment imply that some (most) days you don't look nice?
scaredallthetime ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:44:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most days I dont look nice, but I clean up good!
adrianmonk ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:03:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All true, but you know what, there is no technique you can use that will give a 100% success rate when interacting with another human who has their own thoughts, preferences, free will, etc.
So I find it's best to just do stuff that might work, and if it doesn't, it doesn't necessarily mean you did it wrong. Obviously there are better and worse ways of doing things, but there is no perfect way.
sosila ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:46:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe it depends on how you word it. If someone said โcool skirtโ I wouldnโt think it was as creepy as โhot skirtโ lol
Superfly724 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:17:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think most guys have a problem finding the right way to compliment. The intention is there, but a lot of guys are missing that bit of tact or finesse. Like you said "hot skirt" is just brash. But saying something like "I like that skirt. It suits you" tends to have more success for me. It compliments the choice of piece, while also acknowledging that it works with their style. It works for me and I'm not even very good looking. It seems to only get easier to compliment women the more attractive you are.
TinyCatCrafts ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:20:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As girl can confirm that "that suits you" is an excellent compliment and much better than "You look good in that". I dunno why.
Saying it suits you is like saying "Hey, you look put together and confident and on top of the world today." I guess? And "you look good in that" is like "Hey, I find you sexually attractive and want to put my dick in you." Even though that's a huge leap, it's where the brain goes, because social norms have taught us that guys always want sex.
Shrieka1987 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:47:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know what, I've been talking to alot of my female co-workers about this. Many of whom are 10 years younger than me (32) The general consensus is (according to them) as long as you don't act creepy, it's a good thing. Some people have a wierd way of going about it though, which is kinda why I asked about it in the first place. I can see both sides
wayfaring_stranger_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:40:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, we have a 6th sense and can tell when it's out of sexual interest or you just genuinely like the skirt.
SevenFingerStud ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:22:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mistaken flirting never hurt anyone
Grimreap32 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:23:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless a person they're with is both angry and possessive. Then you may get punched.
bunnihun ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:35:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom raised me to do this, I think I compliment someone everyday and I've gotten into some pretty cool conversations because of it.
SaucyMoonbeams ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:06:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What was the most interesting conversation?
i_likebeefjerky ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 05:02:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โIโm sorry we have to let you go, please turn in your badge and computer. โ
commodorecliche ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:16:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I started doing this and it actually began to brighten my own day. If I think something is nice about someone, I'll tell them. 9/10 you'll get a genuine smile and a thank you from them. Half the time, they might even compliment you back. Feels good to be a bright spot in someone's day and it feels good to be nice. Positivity breeds positivity.
tanktankjeep ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:06:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anytime i see someone wearing something i like, or that looks good on them i compliment it, if i notice theyve gotten a haircut i mention it and compliment them. looking extra nice that day? BOOM. complimented. New glasses? BOOM. complimented. Nice makeup? BOOM. complimented.
Personally i remember compliments people give me, and it brightens my day, so i want other people to feel that way too.
HotSauceHigh ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:33:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Old men, don't do this to young women.
TinyCatCrafts ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:25:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Theres an older guy that comes into my work and he always compliments my hair (it's really long). Then he continues to talk about how his wife has really long hair, and how much he likes long hair, and that hes a 'hair guy' the same way that some dudes are 'ass/boob guys'.
Likes thanks, now I know you're thinking sexual fetish thoughts about my hair, and I want to shave it off.
JamesKirk122 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:38:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Story started like an example of what's not creepy but went 180 real quick
hawaii_funk ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:21:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Adding to this, if you notice a person making an effort to change/improve their appearance, complimenting them works wonders since it shows that you're mindful and validates any new style they're trying to pull off. Hell of a confidence booster to the person you're complimenting.
paulvs88 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:40:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Recently we had a meeting at work and a girl had made/brought some food. My parents always taught me to be polite. I didn't like the food but I instinctively said "thanks, it was good" to her. By her reaction I could tell me saying that kind of made her day. Her whole attitude changed. It's a shame that food actually sucked.
holliisneat ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:11:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Random compliments boost my confidence. I try to dish them out often too.
Magg5788 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:23:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try to go farther with the compliment, if possible (works better with actions than with physical appearance). Follow through with an impact. As in, *why* are you paying the compliment, or why should they care? It's a way of encouraging them to repeat the action, but will make everyone (yourself included) feel good in the process.
For example: "Your face lights up when you talk about your job. It's clear how happy it makes you. Did you know people who are happy with their jobs live longer?"
SuperLuigi9624 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:41:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have received one random compliment from someone I don't know. It was a girl behind me in a lunch line saying "you smell nice". I'll never forget. It's the only random, completely out of the blue compliment I can think of I've ever received. And it felt really really good
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:01:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Guys, don't tell random girls in line they smell nice. Not if you value your external plumbing staying on the outside.
SuperLuigi9624 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:02:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yeah reverse the genders and it's a little strange
horsenbuggy ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:51:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I try to do this. I missed a chance with someone today and I was really annoyed with myself. She's someone I'm not crazy about but her hair looked great today. Maybe I'll see her again tomorrow.
SaucyMoonbeams ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:05:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go for it! I hope you see her again!
thephotoman ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:56:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only time I ever did this, there was a woman wearing this really pretty headdress--it was absolutely gorgeous. I don't know why she was wearing it: she was judging at a major Magic tournament and not in cosplay. (In fact, I've had a lot of encounters with judges at tournaments, and she's one of two I remember: the other one was the guy who patiently explained how Banding worked.)
chongmc ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:04:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always do this, especially to another female. If I like their hair, make up, clothes, jewelry, Iโll tell them. Makes them and myself happy.
AnastasiaSheppard ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:32:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes I am about to compliment some one's clothing, and I think to myself "what I am wearing looks terrible, if I compliment that person looking like this, they're going to never wear it again because they'll think it's crazy-person-chic"
WreakingHavoc640 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:50:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There arenโt enough people who do this. Anytime a compliment pops into my head I say it! Itโs so amazing seeing someoneโs grin of happiness or shy smile at being complimented.
A compliment might make someoneโs day, or it might be someone who is struggling to find the will to live and you complimenting them might just be what gets them through the day. You just never know.
Either way, you can never go wrong by spreading kindness throughout this world.
Spicymemeboi420 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:05:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you take a compliment like this? โThanks, I got it at so-and-soโsโ, โThanks, I like it too.โ, or just a โThank you!โ? I guess Iโm a little awkward...
SaucyMoonbeams ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:15:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just like those two responses! With a big smile
Spicymemeboi420 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:14:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you! ๐
Wattsy2020 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:37:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a good way to get to know the HR people better
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pupsnpogonas ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:17:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know, creepy comments from attractive males don't make them any less creepy. They're not exempt from being creepy just because they're good looking.
Inevitable_Molasses ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:56:13 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
and when doing so use terms like, "that skirt is great!" rather than, "I like your skirt." puts the emphasis on HER not YOU
NarwhalsAndKittens ยท 1149 points ยท Posted at 22:40:49 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Drink less caffeine. I didnt realize how much it affects my mental disorders (anxiety, depression, ADD) until I started drinking less, and realized I function way better when I don't have a soda or two every other day.
Edit: alot of people are saying it could be the sugar, but I always have diet soda. I will admit that sugar and soda, diet or not, arent healthy, but there shouldn't be sugar in diet soda.
Edit 2: my parents both have caffeine sensitivity, so I probably have really high sensitivity. Like, even if it's one soda for 3 days, the first day I stop having soda, I get a headache.
the_red_phone ยท 175 points ยท Posted at 00:09:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn, Iโve never heard that. I have a buddy battling depression and he seriously cannot function socially without it.
NarwhalsAndKittens ยท 102 points ยท Posted at 00:12:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everybody is different. Maybe the way his brain chemistry works is different than mine, and he reacts to caffeine different than me. My parents also have issues with caffeine, so that doesn't help.
BrisklyBrusque ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:07:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What are you drinking other than soda? Water? It could be that more water intake also leads to better sleep and related benefits
sheikonfleek ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:36:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah dude, Iโm the same way, too much caffeine is instant anxiety and makes me flighty af
Gravemonera ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:44:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel you, my anxiety spikes like crazy after even a single cup of coffee
FoggyDonkey ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:17:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or you can be like me and have half a gram and continue feeling dead inside and exhausted, but now with added chest pain.
SirDukeOfEarl ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:48:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you still want to drink coffee for energy and don't want that flighty feeling(I used to get that too) you could look into Ltheanine pills. It's what gives green tea that calming feeling. I take one before my morning coffee and I don't get any bad affects from the caffeine anymore.
alkaloid_android ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:57:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another thing that works for me is espresso rather than regular coffee. Espresso has less caffeine while still tasting great!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:33:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think there needs to be an instruction manual that we each fill out for ourselves, I mean a car is simpler than a human and it comes with a whole maintenance schedule and monthly/quarterly/yearly checks.
we truly are what we eat, for good or for bad.
manamachine ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:55:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Caffeine is a stimulant. In OP's case, they're already stimulated by anxiety. This is a huge oversimplification, but someone with depression alone will be more likely to benefit from stims.
loonygecko ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:49:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not always the simple, those with ADHD find stimulants actually lessen their anxiety.
youhavebeenindicted ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:23:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep, caffeine works wonders on my ADHD brain and calms me down so much, allows me to think clearly and focus way better.
ThisAfricanboy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:54:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey ho stop spying on me
manamachine ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:23:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Precisely why I said it was a "huge oversimplification". Also have ADHD and take prescription stims. But I have personally noticed when I have too much. And a stim come-down can feel a lot like sudden-onset depression.
loonygecko ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:29:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, good point, too much and it starts to feel more stimulant like and less relaxing.
HugACactusForLove ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:59:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is me.
I drink coffee literally until 9 PM.
Without it, I break.
loonygecko ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:49:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Possibly your catacholamine system is a bit weak. That type person does well on stimulants.
MoreGoodHabits ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:27:36 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can you please elaborate? Sounds like me
loonygecko ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:45:19 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am not an expert but certain neurotransmitters like those when sort of on the low side or not well regulated have been implicated in problems like ADHD and narcolepsy. Narcolepsy in a mild form can yield daytime sleepiness and/or muscle weakness, and/or disregulated sleep but not the more extreme forms of suddenly falling asleep. ADHD in mild form may show as not being good at concentrating and staying on task, your mind wanders or you are impulsive. Stimulants during daytime can help alleviate those symptoms because they stimulate the neurotransmitters than help with those problems. You may notice that peeps with ADHD often enjoy big doses of caffeine for instance without feeling jittery, a dose that would make a normal person very very jittery and uncomfortable. Since i am not a doc, this may not be a perfect explanation but you get the general idea.
MoreGoodHabits ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:15:44 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for your reply.
yaminokaabii ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:19:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If not addiction like the other guy said, your friend might have ADHD? Stimulant effects are flipped for people with ADHD, calms them down.
theyarealltakenwth ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 04:40:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm to tired to explain why but this is incorrect.
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ThisAfricanboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:56:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
65% and we've known this since 2006? I was told all of a will most likely go away in adulthood? Grrrrrr
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ThisAfricanboy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:11:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You won't believe it but my psychologist at the time.
Yes this is verifiably true on my part. I'm not as jumpy jumpy and fidgety as I used to be (but I still can be sometimes) but everything else is still there. Impulsiveness, lack of maintained focus, etc. Scariest part I only began to realize it like recently. Like this week recently. Ugh
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ThisAfricanboy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:32:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can really relate to this. I've had the same problems but it kinda scares me that in your 30s you still face the same challenges. I thought by then I'd have sorted them out.
Hmm again I eerily have the same problems haha. I find myself excitedly jumping into challenges (ooh let's learn about this, let's make this) go the full 100 yards prepare and even start but the momentum dithers very quickly. Then I get deflated and you know the cycle. My main strategy right now is essentially to focus on the passion and pleasure (that's a possible name for a sexy podcast ( อกยฐ อส อกยฐ) ) of what I'm doing. So if I'm writing, instead of trying to create the next 1984, I just write about topics that interests me. Same with every other thing. It's difficult but it's slowly helping. I haven't had the chance to get therapy and get back on track with treating the ADHD but I will soon so I'm just trying to manage the conditions best I can right now.
theyarealltakenwth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:45:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, stimulants help symptoms of ADD but I've never seen evidence of their effects being "flipped"
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theyarealltakenwth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:40:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I understand. At best their statement was a oversimplification. Also I forgot we were not in r/science
loonygecko ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:51:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At least on a simple subjective level, I say it's correct, my brother has ADHD and the stimulants calm him down. I was never diagnosed but may have a milder form. If i take mild stimulants, I feel more mentally balanced and less stressed.
theyarealltakenwth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:48:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I should have been more clear. Stimulants help, their effects are not flipped
loonygecko ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:27:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I still disagree, I sleep better even on stimulants, and I feel more relaxed, so it's close enough to a flip. The one thing that is sort of stimulantlike is my mind is more clear and organized instead of fuzzy. But normal peeps that take stimulants seem to get a jumpy anxious mind so maybe that is still a flip.
Rishnixx ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:53:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Caffeine is a drug. That feeling you have without it is your body going through withdrawals.
BasicDesignAdvice ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:33:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What about alcohol and marijuana? All if these things contribute to depression and anxiety. They may feel like a crutch but they can weigh you down.
loonygecko ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:53:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A number of peeps i know use marijuana at night to calm down and sleep. I am not a huge marijuana person myself but one time something really stressful happened and then I smoked some and my stress was instantly gone. Some peeps get paranoid though so it may not work for them.
youhavebeenindicted ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:23:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem here is dependency. Do it long enough and you won't sleep without it.
loonygecko ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:12:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep but I think people decide they were already not sleeping for many years, so the dependency but getting sleep is the obvious preference in many cases.
youhavebeenindicted ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:07:23 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It still can be the preference and done without weed, there are so many ways to fix insomnia that don't include marijuana.
loonygecko ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:47:46 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe for normal people but she's bipolar and on a lot of meds, doc wanted to give her more meds with bad side effects, she opted for a few puffs of marijuana per night instead, less side effects. Actually I think it's is a bit condescending to imply that you know how to fix everyone's insomnia in a better way, you do not know everyone's issues and how complex they are.
youhavebeenindicted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:18 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not implying I know how to fix everyones insominia wtf lol
I just said that there are more effective long term results with other methods that don't include weed.
Don't you think you're being a bit hostile?
loonygecko ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:23 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe you did not mean it that way but that's the way it sounded to me. You did not know anything about her but said "there are so many ways to fix insomnia that don't include marijuana." as if to imply she should try those, as if to imply she has never tried any other ways.
youhavebeenindicted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:46 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah man I'm just saying that there are alternatives, I'm not trying to imply I know who she is or anything, if it works for her then all the power to her :)
BasicDesignAdvice ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:46:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm more talking about daily users. Weed used to calm me down but eventually if you abuse it you will become habitually dependent. That's when things are no good.
To anytime reading this, is you feel you can't enjoy things without being high, you are habitually dependent and should check yourself.
loonygecko ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:31:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Peeps I know use it just for sleep, not really for 'fun.' I do agree that it has its dangerous and can be addictive, just for some I think they could not function without it, it's like self medicating. Obviously it is best if you do not require drugs as a crutch though.
okaymoose ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:57:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Caffeine is usually linked to having less sleep and causing insomnia. Also I read somewhere recently that if you drink caffeine 8 or less hours before sleeping then your brain won't sleep as well because you still have caffeine in your system. This is why it leads to depression.
Less sleep makes depression and anxiety worse (source: watching my bf be worse on days where he gets 5 hours of sleep vs 10 hours and seeing the relation in his caffeine intake).
guruscotty ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 01:50:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ex- hyperactive kid, here. Caffeine calms me down more often that not.
I realize that makes me an exception.
MyBFFCrackers ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:35:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same. Caffeine does nothing to me. My friend who is a psychiatrist told me this is common with people who have ADHD, which I do.
ShadowReaperT ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:34:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't have ADHD, but caffeine doesn't have a noticeable effect on me. Whenever I see advice about drinking a cup of coffee, go for a nap and you'll wake up in 20-30 minutes, I just scoff because I always though it was bs. I could never do that. But I can drink a coffee, energy drink etc. Right before bed and still go to sleep just the same.
My mum has previously pondered if I have ADD, but other than that yeah, definitely not ADHD.
guruscotty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:19:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was weird to find out just last year that they think caffeine/Ritalin gives energy to the part of your brain that helps with self-control
K1CKPUNCH3R ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:52:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Caffeine is a stimulant, so if you (like me) have ADD/ADHD it can calm you down and/or help you focus. I've been drinking coffee pretty much my entire adult life as a means of self-medicating. Sometimes I contemplate quitting but withdrawal is a bitch.
harsh183 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:12:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meds can help you get rid of caffeine dependence quite well, and going off meds is generally easier than off caffeine (because it's more stable and step by step)
guruscotty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:17:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Likewise, though I didnโt know it until just a few years ago. Have you tried bulletproof coffee?
youhavebeenindicted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:24:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I urge you to get diagnosed, it will change you life as it has mine.
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youhavebeenindicted ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:06:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Allow me to get a prescription for drugs that combat my adhd lol
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youhavebeenindicted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:06:15 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's why you need to try a few, each person reacts differently to the drugs prescribed, it's not one drug fits all unfortunately.
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youhavebeenindicted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:14:22 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is true, I can sympathise with taking drugs that don't agree with you and wanting to just be unmedicated because of it. Fair call.
Kaiserhawk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:38:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm already diagnosed, but I do not want to go back on medication for it. It's either too weak to help, or too strong and the side effects are awful.
K1CKPUNCH3R ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:38:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh I've been diagnosed since middle school, took Ritalin for a couple years before I was able to wrangle it in enough but in hindsight I should have probably stayed on something through college and early adulthood. Finally went on back on Adderall about five years ago, but as with coffee I often weigh the pros and cons of coming off it.
MissBlue2018 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:34:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Still hyperactive adult here and caffeine also calms me down. Does the same with both of my daughters with ADHD as well.
guruscotty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:21:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought he teacher was out of her mind when she suggested coke or coffee before school, but her take was โif it those pear-shaped, it will be me who takes the brunt of it.โ
My mom was likewise gobsmacked, and wished sheโd known when I was a kid.
DifferentThrows ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:07:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Caffeine affects me so paradoxically my mom used to give me caffeinated soda when weโd get in the car because it puts me to sleep.
guruscotty ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:16:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My 9-year-old hyperactive daughter is currently downing her morning coffee. It was a real game-changer for her to have a cup of joe before school.
murrietta ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:43:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've kept the caffeine but dropped sugar and had incredible results for my mental state overall. Also lost a some weight.
JeffK3 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:03:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me caffeine helps me focus. But I also have ADHD so stimulants in general help
MyBFFCrackers ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:37:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It doesnโt help me focus, but it has zero affect on me. I also have ADHD. Weird how different brains are wired.
acksydoosy ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:23:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was it sugary soda? Not arguing on caffeine but just curious.
NarwhalsAndKittens ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:29:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, I always have diet soda cause I like the taste better.
bterrik ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:51:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If too much caffeine is one or two soda every other day, I'm in trouble with my daily 3 cups of coffee!
But seriously, I'm glad you've found something that works for you!
NarwhalsAndKittens ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:56:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My parents are both really sensitive to caffeine, so you can imagine how sensitive I am! I get awful headaches when I drink soda for a few days straight and then stop.
isthatevenarealthing ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:36:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is my problem! I drink soda almost every day and I can feel it making me anxious!! I need to quit it!!!
HarvMan53 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 01:49:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like a joke but i was browsing r/waterbros and started drinking more water first as a joke but now, i can:t help but crave the thirst quenching nature of H2O
wayfaring_stranger_ ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:43:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/hydrohomies
BasicDesignAdvice ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:33:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just drink water. It is literally the healthiest thing you can drink.
JayLapse ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:12:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you were getting your caffeine from soda, I would wager that the bigger effect on your mental wellbeing was your sugar intake. I've recently cut out all sugar from my diet, and haven't had a suicidal thought since the beginning of the diet
blueshift9 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:22:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It seems like not everybody is like this, but DAMN if that wasn't a major contributor to my anxiety and panic. I now cut my coffee at home to be half normal, half decaf and I have cut out soda completely. It's done wonders for my head.
banterbandit ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:22:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! I quit when I had post partum depression and it helped me with a ton of issues. I haven't had caffeine since (maybe with a handful of exceptikns) and find my energy and mood way more consistent.
okovko ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:37:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I function so much better when Iโm hyped on various stimulants. I think this is different when you tend to have a dopamine deficiency. Itโs like, you know how when you get depressed you never get excited about anything? Except youโre not depressed, thatโs just you your entire life. But if you have some coffee and a couple drags off the vape suddenly you feel motivated. Iโm just noting that this is not universally good advice.
rdizzy1223 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:46:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Soda has barely any caffeine whatsoever. (In comparison to other sources, about 30mg in a 12 ounce can of coke, compared to 120 in a 12 ounce coffee). It's insane that a soda or two has that effect on you. An entire 12 pack of coke has the same caffeine as 3 cups of coffee. Must have some type of sensitivity to caffeine.
NarwhalsAndKittens ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:16:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Definitely a caffeine sensitivity. My parents both are a bit sensitive, and I think I got a bad hand and got double the sensitivity. Luckily, I hate coffee, so my only caffeine intake comes from soda and tea, but tea doesn't affect me much at all.
rdizzy1223 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:41:11 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Which is another odd thing as certain tea's have more caffeine than soda as well, ounce for ounce.
Foreventure ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:53:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think you would feel much better if it was black coffee or caffeine pills rather than Soda.
I agree, being dependent on caffeine is real bad for your mental health and leads to crashes. BUT, I've found that sugar is way worse, PLUS it's addictive.
I struggle to keep it this way (e.g today I ate a brownie and yesterday I had a small cone of ice cream), but cutting out added sugar has made me feel more emotionally and energetically stable, more productive, and just all around healthier.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:12:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I canโt drink large amounts of caffeine, like in coffee, for this reason. Sets off a panic attack, every time. The problem is I also have depression so Iโm sleepy all the time, and canโt get a quick pick-me-up like most others.
scottb84 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:24:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Theanine can really help take the edge off caffeine.
TimX24968B ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:59:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
or just drink water more. its one of the healthiest things to drink out there (unless you're somewhere like flint, Michigan). so much stuff today has so much sugar it might as well be the equivalent of a caffeine free coke.
MasterKingdomKey ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:56:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve given up on soda for the past 5 months. Just decided to stop one day and keep the streak going. Now I donโt think Iโll ever be going back to drinks like that ever again.
ThisisUrie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:52:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wonder if it's sugar or caffeine?
freebog ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:52:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The trick with coffee is to blend it with a tablespoon of butter instead of cream so that it absorbs slower. You don't get the jitters this way.
CannaBarista ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:51:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You are correct. Also, sugar is also a huuuuuge breeding ground for depression, so if youโre drinking soda this might also be stimulating that!
mitzapper2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:55:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmm I should try this. I've been drinking a coffee everyday since about 5th grade, so I dont really know too much what it's like to go without it for extend periods of time. I probably have a minor dependence on it, by now, as I'm ending my junior year in high school without skipping more than a few days so idk if my routine will go down without a fight.
NarwhalsAndKittens ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:56:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem with caffeine is it's literally a drug. You will get withdrawl for a few days, but once you get through that in my experience you feel alot better.
psych_and_coffee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:06:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโd like to do this, but my meds for said mental disorders make me so tired :(
majeric ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're probably among the % of people who are sensitive to caffeine. It's not universally true... but important to know.
pirateninjamonkey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:29:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol. Yeah, I didn't realize soda effected me. I was drinking 6-7 caffeinated sodas (diet) a day. I went off and felt like crap for like 2 weeks. Now I drink maybe a caffeinated soda a day and it is great.
amarooso ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:45:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I got depressed and started drinking coffee and it was almost magical how my mood brightened. Also anti depressants and sleep made a huge difference but coffee just makes me feel good in the moment.
Joyful_Desecration ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:58:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I need caffeine to be confident lol
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:03:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wonder if quitting other drugs would do the same for me. Hmm, maybe the bottom of this whiskey glass'll tell me. Hmm. /s you're right! So many people view vices as cheap therapy. Turns out you're actually doing more harm by trying to escape than just riding the flow with your body and treating it nicely
themage1028 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:39:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
WHAT DID YOU SAY????
imranov ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:53:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to drink wayyy too much coffee and one night i got a panic attack. Worst experience of my life, now i still take coffee but in a non-addictive manner
Foxfox105 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:23:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does caffeine affect ADD?
NarwhalsAndKittens ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:59:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep, at least in my case. Caffeine can practically reverse my meds effects.
Foxfox105 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:32:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmm, I have ADD, and I donโt drink caffeine very often, maybe once or twice per month, but I havenโt really noticed anything when I do. Iโll pay more attention
NarwhalsAndKittens ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:12:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everybody is different. My parents have caffeine sensitivity, and it definitely passed down to me, so that could be why it affects me so much.
Kaiserhawk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:43:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a brain altering chemical, so it may have an affect. I personally don't notice, but my ADHD attention span is pretty bad with or without caffine.
loonygecko ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:47:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Defends on the person and your personal balance. I do great on mild stimulants, it actually makes me feel more alert but also more mentally calm. I think it's that ADHD runs in my family and I probably have low levels of catacholamines and stimulants help counterbalance that.
Roonage ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:40:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve been told caffeine competes with Ritalin uptake.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:42:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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NarwhalsAndKittens ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:01:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I drink diet soda, so there shouldn't be sugar. Though I do agree that diet or not, soda is not healthy.
zerox3001 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:07:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a job sitting behind a desk most of the shift and was drinking 5 or 6 cups of tea each shift. I've switched to hot chocolate instead and have found im more awake and more cheerful by the end of the shift
oskarstenlund ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:40:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's more about the sugar than the caffeine though.
frostmourne7570 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:08:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jesus, every other day? I'm up to 3 redbulls a day. I need at least two to stop me from killing everyone and everything at 6am.
roachbanano ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:32:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Caffeine free Zevia flavors, your're welcome.
DingGratz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:57:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was able to get off daily migraine medication in part by eliminating caffeine.
ashowofhands ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:06:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jeez, that's nothing. Some people have had 2-3 cups of coffee (or equivalent) by lunchtime. Most sodas are relatively low in caffeine content compared to energy drinks or hot drinks too.
NarwhalsAndKittens ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:06:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My parents both have caffeine sensitivity, so I probably got the bad end of it.
dudinax ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:45:20 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Caffeine is a hell of a drug and it doesn't get acknowledged enough.
PM_ME_UR_BERNER ยท 479 points ยท Posted at 00:41:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learning all the scale positions on the fretboard. Felt pointless to learn more than one way to play the same thing. Then 10 years later, I sat down and decided to learn them and it blew my mind. Everything clicked and all of the sudden I had a frame of reference for all the theory I've heard over the last decade. My perspective changed from "I have to memorize all this boring stuff and I don't know why I'm doing it instead of just playing, why do I have to do it the way theory tells me to? " to "learning these things isn't meant as a punishment, it's just the standard most people have agreed upon to communicate about musical ideas. It's like everyone agreeing to use the alphabet and grammar in order to facilitate communication."
Shrieka1987 ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 02:12:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
After playing guitar for a decade and never really caring to learn the theory, I think I needed to read this. Do you have any suggestions on websites/books to look into to start practicing these scales?
Thanks!
richardrichard190 ยท 56 points ยท Posted at 02:37:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i always remember this piece of advice from John Mayer: โfor everything you learn, learn the building blocks for that thingโ - i.e. learnt a song you really like? learn how the guitarist wrote that song (in terms of scales and keys etc). you can then apply those building blocks in an infinite number of ways in your own playing. Really opened things up for me, as it forces you to teach yourself theory without feeling like youโre giving yourself homework
The_Drunken_Jedi ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:52:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
John Mayer is the fucking man.
regionaljames ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 03:56:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look up Stitch method on youtube. It changed my whole way of thinking when playing guitar.
Shrieka1987 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:07:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just did this, the intro alone sold me. I'll be going through his playlists and trying to tackle things. Thanks for the cool suggestion!
pureshred ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:42:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stitch is the man!
mountainsbythesea ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:54:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously, I could just be bad at googling, but it's surprisingly hard to find this information. Scales are so fundamental, it feels like it should be easy to find a straightforward tutorial, but I haven't managed it. It's basically CAGED tutorials, blogs about why CAGED is bad and endless single scale examples without explanation or any kind of comprehensive system you could follow.
I really hope someone chimes in with some useful information.
takingtacet ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 04:11:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instruments like guitar and ukulele are often not learned to be played in a fingerpicking style nearly as often as chord progressions. Especially the types of people that go to learn from YouTube videosโthe goal is not very often to get an in depth understanding of theory, itโs to play Freebird. Not that thatโs a bad thing, I think itโs just a more catered to audience.
When most people want to learn guitar, theyโre after accompanying themselves and not theory. Because theory isnโt 100% necessary to have a good time playing guitar.
Instead of tutorials on blogs and things, I would recommend getting an actual fundamentals book. Theyโre not expensive and theyโre indispensable if you get the right kind. The one I had for my class strings course in college was really well put together and mixed theory and practice together. I havenโt found that people who blog about playing guitar are exactly authorities on theory/education.
It doesnโt have a lot of specific guitar examples, but musictheory. net is one of my favorite resources for teaching, and my husband uses it for his guitar classes to make sure students can read music before getting the guitars in their hands. There are some specific fretboard exercises but I havenโt done them myself.
I hope this helps some, Iโm not totally sure what youโre looking for but maybe this can point you in the right direction?
mozakplesa ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:36:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I recommend the advancing guitarist. It really is a small, yet magical book.
takingtacet ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:12:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
musictheory . net is an amazing free resource. I use it to teach all the time.
randomusename ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:37:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a keyboard and start there. A keyboard just lays all the notes out in front of you in one line, and makes it easy to get the theory. I'm not much of a musician so maybe it only works for noobs like me, but after taking guitar lessons and just kind of getting things, I had an into to music class using keyboards and even simple shit like 'o middle C is the C in the middle of the keyboard' blew my mind.
_War-lock_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:34:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also need to know.
lainbeeze ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:21:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have a look at "fretjam" channel on YouTube.
This guy has also theory lessons on his website
JohnGenericDoe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:57:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a book of scales and arpeggios
BananaNutJob ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:23:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Related: do the circle of fourths until it's second nature. That should seriously be one of the first things people are taught.
bladiebloe767 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 11:58:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What does that even mean? Coming from a starting guitar player
silverskull39 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 15:22:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Also called the circle of fifths.
It's a quick reference tool for scales and chord progression.
Here's a more readable and usable explanation: link
Edit: in short, if you memorize it and how it applies to guitar in particular, you'll be able to pretty much instantly put together chord progressions, scales, and chords.
BananaNutJob ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:28:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's a method of using it to go through each note one by one playing every place they appear on the fretboard. My brain is super foggy atm, it's more than that but it's a really useful way to practice memorizing where all the notes are.
someghostcalledi ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:05:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kinda in the same place right now. I went with a friend to jam with his bandmates and they were playing in a couple keys i havenโt played in too often so i felt kinda paralyzed even though iโve been playing for over 10 years.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:43:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
every song is a blues song.
Phineas and Ferb explains the history of rock, lol.
KingNewbie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:06:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you referring to left, center, right, or the modes or CAGED? Iโd say yes to all, but Iโm not sure what youโre referencing.
DaulDrums ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Goes for all musical instruments, pretty much all skills ever actually. Do the boring, tedious stuff now, and you'll have all the more fun later!
[deleted] ยท 12446 points ยท Posted at 01:29:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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lench232 ยท 2808 points ยท Posted at 02:19:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I second this. Thought Iโd miss it.. not even a little
[deleted] ยท 234 points ยท Posted at 02:28:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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ramenandrawegg ยท 209 points ยท Posted at 04:04:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I exported my whole Facebook birthday calendar to my Google Calendar before deactivating my account. Everyday I have been deleting the entries in my Google Calendar if I don't recognise their name or actually talk to them.
doctorpaulproteus ยท 61 points ยท Posted at 04:47:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only thing I miss are local concert updates and invites
handcuffed_ ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 04:53:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shows are what's keeping me around too I think. EDMtrain is useless for smaller events and I have a bunch of people on there I've met at festivals around the country I would lose touch with. My unprofessional opinion is that moderation is key.
hparadiz ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 06:19:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This has been the biggest problem for me too. But I'm a coder so.... I've been thinking that what we really need is an event feed format sort of like RSS that people can host themselves. Then you'd just subscribe to the feed.
The monopoly Facebook has on events needs to end.
reverbrace ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 06:25:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
FTFY
BigPegs ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 06:24:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's the only reason I signed back up to it - tried subscribing to bands' email lists but they don't use them as much as Facebook. I'm also in a band too, so it's helpful for that.
Whaines ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:41:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For shows Iโve been using songkick and itโs been pretty good. Synced it with Spotify and it puts shows on my google calendar.
Dread-Ted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:06:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just use it only for that. Don't see a reason to completely delete it.
[deleted] ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 04:36:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did that too! Thatโs literally the only thing from Facebook I cared to keep.
Throwaway422427 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:31:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was it difficult to do?
Adam95x ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 03:09:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think there is a way to have birthday notifications sent to your sms, so you dont need the app
IkariSupa ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:10:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
how
Adam95x ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:16:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Settings>text messaging>notifications (I think)
VeryMuchDutch101 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:26:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've put all those in my Google calendar
Paranoidas ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 03:41:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just want to be able to use the marketplace, but every time I go to make an new account for that I get reminded how obnoxious the rest of the app is.
Wormbo2 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:10:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
YES!!
And Craigslist and Gumtree aren't always easy to post on, so you miss SO MANY possible bargains and items, because FB is just... easier!
Paranoidas ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:15:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I find that Craigslist is now like 80% bullshitters who will waste your time or just insane assholes. I don't have a problem with posting on there, it's just not usually worth the effort. I think the lack of anonymity on FB marketplace helps keep potential buyers a little more in line. Never tried Gumtree though.
KaliLineaux ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:52:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried looking for cars on both Facebook and Craigslist and it seemed like nothing but scams. Not sure what they get out of it but I've never seen so many shady car ads, like photos of the same cars repeated, a Range Rover parked in front of a mansion that's obviously not anywhere near where I live and they are selling it for $3,000.
greyspot00 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:28:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's so hard to find a car on Craigslist now. Why yes, I'm a private seller. This is my personal car. So are these other 50 cars!
Wormbo2 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:45:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good points!
If I want an item, but not sure 100%, I can do a quick raid on the sellers FB profile in 2 clicks, and make a judgement on the item based on that.
tangledwire ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:25:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep Iโve done the same. If I feel I look at a person and decide canโt trust them, then I donโt pursue the item. It does save time. Like the market place , hate Facebook social.
dcgong93 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:48:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt forget bots! I never fail to get a bot or two saying the exact same thing
kernowgringo ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:26:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I left FB for 7 years but when I came back I unfollowed pretty much every friend and left the majority of groups, so all I see on my feed is things for sale, as they're the only groups I joined. Facebook, to me, is just another gumtree/Craigslist.
Swampfoxx89 ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 04:39:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man that is what reddit is. You can post things and not have to worry about offending someone if your opinion differs. Who cares about a few downvotes?
Plus there are way more useful thing here.
iTzHard ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:08:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like my axe!
VictorEightman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:17:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And my bow!
alexbayside ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:46:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And it makes you feel good too. Not seeing all the fakeness of it.
ohorange ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:45:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My husband and I just did this today... I was kinda anxious about it (no idea why) but this is a reassuring comment. :)
VeryMuchDutch101 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 05:28:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because that is their business model.. assholes
mbcoder_ ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:46:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same! Hadn't thought about it till this post, that was three years ago.
RedderBarron ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:49:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same.
It's still there so I can use the messenger, but otherwise its untouched.
Easiest addiction to break... EVER
r0ll1n4 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:00:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to think this way, but after committing to deleting, I got a phone call from one of my best friends, we talked for hours, caught up on some real life stuff. Considering the theory that we're only really capable of maintaining up to 150ish strong relationships apiece, I see no need to be connected so much in a quality over quantity kinda way. In the future, I might hire a Social Media Specialist to advertise my services, and extend a professional network, but as far as my private life goes, I love all the extra free time.
Yewnicorns ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:50:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Christ, I re-uploaded the damn app recently to unload some tickets from an event... Got sucked into a few groups I once frequented & came fleeing back to Reddit. That place is a cesspool of nonsense. I want to rid myself of the whole damn thing, but I'm logged into so many apps with it & too lazy to remedy the situation...
alexbayside ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:04:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thereโs an option where you can still deactivate it. You just tick or untick a box regarding whether or not you want Facebook to still log in to apps using it. Itโs just taking your profile down from Facebook. And you can choose to still be invited to events etc. Thereโs different ways you can do it.
rockidol ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:07:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Remedy them one at a time.
scapeity ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:47:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I deleted it... But kept messenger because I use it more than anything else to communicate.
sdh68k ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:19:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
a few of my friends have deleted their Facebook and as such have lost out on knowing when one of their friend's husband died. the problem is is the people that are still using Facebook also assume that everybody else is still using Facebook.
it is quite possible to set it up to never notify you on anything so that you use it on your own terms.
DrStrangerlover ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:46:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually liked it. I liked posting stuff about movies for my friends to read and I enjoyed posting about politics, but Facebook is a shit company and the bullshit theyโve been under the spotlight over the last few years convinced me to delete it.
katiejill127 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:49:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude exactly, not even a little. Who knew?
Tsuki_xo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:23:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought the same, but now I just have more time for reddit ๐
penelopeann ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:06:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didnโt miss it at all until I wanted to look up somebody random from high school..
Pedantichrist ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:50:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did to start with, but not for long.
scuczu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:50:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But it's better than craigslist in my town.
otherMeme ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:31:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What is Facebook?
Magikarp_King ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:40:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I only have mine for my wife and for family members. I don't ever use it but my family sure is happy that I finally friended Uncle Joe.
Cat_ate_the_kids ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:20:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Been out of the facebook game for about 5 years now.
Dont miss a single part of it.
fuckwitsabound ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:50:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same. Deleted it one night and haven't regretted it for a millisecond. My partner thinks I should miss it and I dont understand why...I couldn't give two flying fucks that so and so checked into McDonalds or someone put up an attention seeking status. If we are mates you have my number and know where to find me.
It really does wonders for your mental health too
Ethanxiaorox ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:43:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I still use mine to play Tetris battles like once a year though
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:45:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Now that you left, how disgusting was it?
Texburrito03 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:45:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ditto
bunnyrut ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:59:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
the only reason i keep using it is to stay connected with my mom. we share things back and forth. once she stops using it i have no further use for it.
davidhluther ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:06:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just more time on Reddit.
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:48:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You have Reddit instead!
Rambo7112 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:24:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I deleted the app at least and check it a lot less. I only keep it because that's how one of my friends messages me, but deleting it would be neat.
blob420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:28:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I only deleted it from my phone. It did wonders. I realized how much time I spent mindlessly scrolling. Now I donโt got to Facebook for hours and sometimes days.
DarkLordBogi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:16:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't even use it anymore but I still got an account. It's not my fault cosplayers I know only use that and instagram, and I will never use Instagram.
rohdawg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:00:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why won't you use Instagram?
DarkLordBogi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:08:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's just as bad as Facebook but you don't have text posts from anti vaxx karen
rohdawg ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 16:30:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So you like seeing anti-vax posts? Seems like IG is the lesser evil if you have to use one (you don't).
Dread-Ted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:05:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What about events, like concerts, festivals, potlucks, movienights etc.?
There's so many things I would have never even known about if not for fb
PM_ME_YOUR_LUKEWARM ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:19 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I deleted mine too, about 3 weeks ago. I hate FB but I do miss the hobby-forum aspect of it.
I have had a couple instances where I had a question and missed my facebook group for motorcycles.
I mean, I hate the way FB organizes everything, but unfortunately it has the most users so if one has a hobby question you can reach more people.
So anything, FB isn't totally bad is what I'm saying.
MCMXCVI- ยท -25 points ยท Posted at 04:34:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That means you have no friends lmao
VeryMuchDutch101 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:30:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That means OP has real life friends who she speaks to... Not those lame ass "Facebook friends" lmao
Bezzle16 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:41:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why are people using lmao in a passive aggressive way lmao?
MCMXCVI- ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 16:22:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean if that makes you feel better for being a literal loser, keep telling yourself that!
Dialga236 ยท 201 points ยท Posted at 02:37:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would delete it but its really the only way I have contact with 70% of my family
SilkySallyJupiter ยท 77 points ยท Posted at 03:57:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I deleted my entire fb account but opened an account just on the messenger app, without its facebook counterpart. That way my grandpa can still send me his favorite dad-jokes easily, as he'll use messenger but not text for some reason.
Edit: added words for clarity.
Imabum ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 05:05:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How can you do that
AzzaaR ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 05:20:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can deactivate your account but still use messenger
SilkySallyJupiter ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 06:10:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you download the messenger app but dont have a fb account (i didnt just deactivate mine, I had them delete the entire account) then messenger will just have you create a login for it. I havent figured out how to use messenger on my laptop since my fb account is gone, but I can still use it on my phone.
MissMissyMarcela ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:13:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
messenger dot com will probably do the trick
SilkySallyJupiter ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:16:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is how to get to it, I used it on my laptop before I deleted my account, but for some reason it wont let me login. It acts like the login doesnt exist, but it works fine on my phone.
Nbd anymore as my laptop has slowly turned itself into a paperweight over the last few months, but it was annoying when I did use it more.
RoddyBoy999 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:14:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have windows 10 there's a Facebook Messenger App on the Windows Store.
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:50:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This and also I use it to keep track of local events (free food warehouse, they let you know if/when they'll be open) and people selling things or advertising services locally.
0range_julius ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 05:31:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I deleted mine in my senior year of high school last year. I figured I knew who my friends were and anyone I wanted to stay in contact with I could text or call. It was absolutely fine for a year, and I didn't really use Facebook anyway so I didn't miss it.
Then I went to college. Turns out that most people at my college use Facebook for a lot of social things. Most group chats are on Messenger, there are pages for barter & trade and lost and found, several great meme pages, a page specifically for students from my state (which people use to set up rides home), and I'm realizing as the end of the year approaches that it's the easiest way to stay in some contact with graduating acquaintances whom I don't know well enough to have the phone numbers of.
Unfortunately, Facebook has decided not to let me open a new account. I've tried twice and each time it flags me for some reason, asks me to upload a picture of my face to prove I'm a human, and then tells me I failed the test and deletes my account. I appeal it and submit a photo of my ID. They still don't believe I'm human.
If anyone made it to the end, sorry for ranting. I'm so frustrated.
Dialga236 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:42:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They let Zuckerberg past the captcha they cant make that mistake again
myothercarisaboson ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 03:13:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did you not have any contact with 70% of your family 10 years ago?
[Not being facetious... But it's important to be reminded that there are lots of ways to communicate besides facebook, and people who genuinely want you to be a part of their life will still be in contact with you]
1SweetChuck ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 03:28:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs pretty accurate for me. Even more so now that I live way out of state from most of my family. People that I would see weekly or monthly when I lived in state, I now see once a decade. So where we used to keep up in person we now do on Facebook.
squanto1357 ยท 55 points ยท Posted at 04:28:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I uh. Lived with my family before Facebook because I was like 10.
[deleted] ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 06:25:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Goddamn millenials moving out of their homes and trying to kill Facebook.
The_RTV ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:45:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My parents retired overseas and my bro is in the military stationed overseas as well. Along with messenger, the picture and status update is just the easiest way to keep in touch.
We've tried a lot of the other methods prior to social media and this works the best. Plus all my parents friends are on Facebook and they call them through messenger as well.
Personally I haven't had an issue with Facebook and other people's drama or whatever. If I did I just unfriended them or unfollowed.
myothercarisaboson ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:37:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah that's cool. I mean it's a good product, which is why it has caught on so well. I mainly don't like the fact that it has become a de-facto communication standard, however, which I feel keeps many using it more than they otherwise would. ["I use it because everyone else I know uses it" etc...].
With an open communication platform [email, telephone/sms, XMPP, for example], I can move between providers [or run my own] and am able to communicate with anyone else regardless of their provider. Facebook being a closed environment doesn't sit well with me personally. It is hugely convenient now that most people are on it. However that convenience comes with a price I am personally not willing to pay.
I guess it's just that there's this feeling of impending doom of life without facebook, when in reality everything was perfectly fine in the decades before it. People lived interstate/overseas from family. Maybe it's a quantity vs quality thing. In my time with facebook, I never felt like the communication was of great quality even though there was more than I could literally give my full attention to.
When not using facebook, communication is a lot more deliberate and more focused. I'm taking the time to write an email, include some photos, and address it to specific people whom I want to share my life with.
fackfackmafack ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:20:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Facebook has been around for more than 10 years.
Dialga236 ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 03:25:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
15 actually
xninjapumkinx ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:11:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why did you go and do this?... Remind me how old Iโm becoming.
fackfackmafack ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:27:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, it's not like facebook reminds you.
You'd never age if no one told you you were aging..
myothercarisaboson ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:33:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sure, but it hasn't been a de-facto communication medium for family for more than 10 years.
gizamo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:42:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It definitely still is for many (probably most) families. Perhaps it's not for your family, and perhaps you don't like that other families use it, but that's the reality we're in.
myothercarisaboson ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:50:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know it is now, I am saying that it wasn't that way more than 10 years ago.
gizamo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:57:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I see. I'd bet you're right. There's
probablydefinitely more families using it now than ever before.E: probs to defs.
its_annalise ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:39:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, I have almost no contact with my (extended) family except through Facebook. Iโve never kept up with them- I have a huge family. But now itโs so easy to keep up! I didnโt even know my cousin was dating someone, let alone married with 2 kids. Now Iโm in the loop. Itโs not all bad :)
myothercarisaboson ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:27:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I guess from my perspective, I don't feel the need to keep up. If the only way for me to know that my cousin is married with 2 kids is on facebook, then in reality I probably don't really need to know that [as we're probably not really involved in each others lives].
I know it may come across as cold, but it's not. I'm more than happy to be involved in anyone's life who wants it, I just see facebook as a little too low-effort and with too high of a social cost to be worth it. I keep up with many people close in my life, whom I talk/interact with regularly. I don't think it is at all necessary to keep up to date with every aspect of everyone's life if you're not interacting with them on a regular basis.
its_annalise ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:46:31 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So for context I'm one of 9 kids, and my mother was one of 10 kids. I have more siblings and cousins than I know what to do with! They're all over the country, and a lot of them are 15+ years older or younger than me, so I never really got to know them.
But, it feels really nice to be able to congratulate them for a wedding, wish them the best when their kids are at home with the flu, and be able to interact with the little things :)
myothercarisaboson ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:55:34 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's great you're able to have such great connections from the service, and that it's providing genuine improvement to your life :-)
I guess my initial reply is just in the context of people who wish to leave, but are worried that they'll suddenly lose communication with everyone. For those people, I just like to remind that it isn't the only game in town, and generally speaking the world keeps spinning ;-)
KaliLineaux ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:56:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like communication via the internet and I have lots of people I keep in touch with on Facebook. I hate talking on the phone. Unfortunately Facebook has become inundated with political shit and trolls and is downright depressing these days, but I still go on occasionally to interact with people I know that live all over and am in a few groups too.
system637 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:47:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
10 years ago I was 10.
Labick ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:39:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Family and friends change address/phone numbers without us knowning. Facebook is the web they all used and agreed it' the easiest way to keep in touch. I would probably delete mine soon but i have to weight wether its worth it to cut communication for less privacy intrusion.
ThePsychoKnot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:15:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I solved this problem by simply gutting my facebook of all posts, photos, and personal info. I also changed my privacy settings so that pretty much everything is hidden, even from friends.
Now I still have direct contact with everyone on my friends list through messenger, but I don't have to worry about people digging up weird shit I said when I was 14.
It also helps to turn off notifications and refrain from browsing your feed.
GryphShot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:31:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
delete family
Oscar_Cunningham ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:19:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Set it to email you when you get a message. Then don't delete it but just stop using it.
SevenFingerStud ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:13:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's actually why it feels better to delete it.
Manolo_Ribera ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:21:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never even created a Facebook account. When my family complained that I should get one so we can stay in touch, I told them they can always text me (also using various messenger apps) or (gasp) call me when they want to talk to me.
I prefer direct communication over the "speak into a megaphone for everyone to hear but not talking to anyone directly" style of communication.
SulliverVittles ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:12:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What I did was that I went in and I've blocked nearly all news outlets on it. BBC, FOX, CNN, NPR, etc. All blocked. Facebook at this point is for family, friends, and meme pages.
gizamo ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:37:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't buy the delete it hype. If you block/unfriend the toxic people, FB is great. It's the horrible people who make it bad, and unfortunately, we all know a few of them.
Ax6644 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:04:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Too bad you can't block the adds.
FB lost me when I could no longer sort straight by most recent. I don't care that Carrie has 400 likes on her mommy power post.
gizamo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:51:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chronological order was nice. I miss that. Ads are just the cost of the phone being free. I'd rather have ads than pay monthly.
Not sure who Carrie is, but whatever... feminists gonna feminise. Imo, that's a dumb reason to not use a useful platform.
ihopethisisvalid ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 03:30:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
where thereโs a will thereโs a way.
just seems you donโt have the will.
[deleted] ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 04:27:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
now this... is epic
[deleted] ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 04:11:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Dialga236 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:36:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dont regularly use Facebook, and yea I got most on SMS. But I really only keep it to be up to date on important family matters like deaths and such
shitposterguru ยท -11 points ยท Posted at 04:29:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So you're telling me that 70% of the family doesn't bother emailing, texting, calling, writing letters, dropping by, sending care packages, or even organize future get-togethers while already in person for unrelated reasons?
Sound like a family of convenience. Well, get what you give, afterall.
Alpha-Trion ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 04:56:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's kinda harsh and judgemental. You don't know his situation or family dynamic.
Dialga236 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:38:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dont use email, dont keep many contacts on my phone, writing letters takes too long, care packages I get every now and then, and we rarely do family get togethers since we're all scattered across the country, some in Alaska, Massachusetts, Iowa, North Dakota, Arizona, etc.
blue-vi ยท 56 points ยท Posted at 03:10:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you had balls you'd delete reddit
Otakeb ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:23:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is true, but I don't like that it is. I have a problem.
Captain-Moroni ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 03:39:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
-sudo delete reddit.com
Pareeeee ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:16:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...sudo apt-get reddit.com
tacokingyo ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:23:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Error: "reddit.com" is an unrecognized command
Excal2 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:27:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck this I'm going back to windows
CommutesByChevrolegs ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:39:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know these words
bradbull ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:02:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
-susussudio fill "::"
Shermix ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:33:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
-pseudo delete reddit.com
gizamo ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:45:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Imo, Reddit is much worse than FB is nearly every respect, but I'm good at keeping my Fb limited. I'll friends people I meet, but I alwaya unfollow or unfriend them if they say/do things that annoy me. Fb figures it out and shows me less of them. On Reddit, I block one bot, 100 take it's place, especially with elections coming up.
animal_time ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:37:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What are these bots? How do you know they're bots? Genuine questions here.
gizamo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:45:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been a programmer for 20 years and I'm on Reddit way, way too much. ยฏ\_(ใ)_/ยฏ
There are many give aways, but some commons ones are that they're always triggered by the same text; their grammar is all mixed up; they're often out of context or off topic; and their post/comment histories are usually non-existent or had drastic shifts (when the account was likely bought).
They're also nearly always saying some dumb political nonsense that is way too passionate (usually angry) given the context. For example, if someone says, "I think Elizabeth Warren's hair is nice for an older lady" and someone else responds with an 8-paragraph tirade/tantrum about all her policy proposals, maybe claiming something absurd like she'll start world war III, that's probably a bot.
randomlygeneratename ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:34:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just deleted it. Thanks, I feel better already!
Not_An_NSA_Employee ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 04:44:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
After I deleted my FB my reddit usage went theough the roof lol
squirrel_rider ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:56:48 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Currently experiencing this. I just put a time use tracker on my phone to try and find out how much exactly and then I'll probably try to cull it using the metrics on the app to measure success.
blepcate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:50:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
similar to me.
i thought uninstalling fb and 9gag could stop me from spending more time on the phone. I've never been wrong my whole life
[deleted] ยท 64 points ยท Posted at 02:46:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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hereforcat ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 04:30:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I keep my phone permanently on silent (no vibrate). Iโve also turned off pop-up notifications for everything except phone calls and texts. That way, I can still have access to my productivity apps, Google Maps, etc but am not tempted to use my phone when I donโt need to. Only pulling out my phone intentionally (instead of every time I would get a notification) changes everything. To limit my screen time even more, Iโve deleted almost all non-critical apps and use Appleโs App Limit feature for the few that squeaked through (like Reddit).
n1c0_ds ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:48:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turning off most notifications is liberating. Turns out you don't need to know about new emails, tweets etc as they arrive.
GODDZILLA24 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:35:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's really odd. As someone with ADHD, you would think that this would be worse for me, but it's not much of an issue at all for me. Maybe I just get way less notifications than most people (Or I'm alienated from society...)
Slick_Grimes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:26:37 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I catch shit for it but mine is always on silent too. My phone is for googling things, texting the few people I actually want to hear from and emergency calls should something happen while I'm out and about.
TheRealSaerileth ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:57:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I spend 2h a day on public transport. I'd be bored out of my mind without my phone.
Dread-Ted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:09:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
(Audio)books? Puzzles? A hobby like knitting or drawing?
idontneedjug ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:03:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Glad im not the only one. I started with just leaving it home when I went to work and Ive slowly phased it out of leaving the house unless im on a date with gf. Its crazy how much time people spend engrossed in their phones nowdays. Just thankful this would never have been possible with my old job or previous lifestyle.
VelourFogDoesKaraoke ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:27:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this too. It kind of scares me now when people answer a message right away. It will usually take me several hours (or days.... Or weeks....) to get back to someone.
ashiex94 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:34:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People can get so shitty when you donโt reply instantly. Even professional people.
โDID YOU RECEIVE MY MESSAGE?โ
Calm down it hasnโt even been 12 hours.
VelourFogDoesKaraoke ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:21:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maintaining contact with these people feels like a second job where i'm constantly on call. It doesn't help that these types of people are usually the kind to send/ask crap that kill conversations before they've even begun.
SleepyWaves ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:55:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or just join a bunch of groups. Your facebook feed starts to look more like a forum than a place for social comparison.
blepcate ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:53:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
did this.
now my feed is filled by GoT and LoTR loreposting and shitposting.
I'm not complaining yet.
Valjean_The_Dark_One ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:34:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is how people need to use Facebook more. I started muting my friends and just joined a bunch (10+) of groups that fit my interests and now I actually like Facebook.
Union_of_Onion ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:17:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, my feed is all dogs, plants, hippies, and my friend's posts. I hit that 'hide post" all the time.
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 06:20:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Kitty-Litterer ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:41:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here, thereโs so many groups for specific interests that you canโt get anywhere else. I just donโt add people as friends that I donโt want to.
atastyfire ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 07:39:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Way too many idiots are just deleting their shit instead of removing things they donโt want to see. Like hey, this one guy keeps posting random shit and I think heโs a moron. Instead of deleting my Facebook and thinking about how it freed me, I just removed him.
imenotu ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:24:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or maybe they just don't like Facebook??
jonbristow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:48:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
because reddit hates facebook
Override9636 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:09:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Facebook's privacy/security is a joke. Every other week you hear about how your data has been leaked or sold off. The platform is nothing but an advertisement scheme disguised as a social media device.
Dread-Ted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:10:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's an addiction I guess. Similar to how alcoholics can't have a single drink.
MondoCalrissian77 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:39:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Problem is all my university events and opportunities are advertised through Facebook. Without it I would miss out on many campus events or networking opportunities
RoundOSquareCorners ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 03:15:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you absolutely can't delete your account, uninstalling it from your phone is a big improvement. I don't miss having the app, and I check it on a PC maybe once a month.
_mizzar ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:09:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is what I did just because I don't care if the account exists or anything, I just don't want to constantly compare my life to other's and constantly have to try to think of meaningful things to post and getting all stressed out if certain people don't engage.
Got a new phone, didn't install the app (or Instagram/Twitter), and over 6 months later I haven't had the urge to check it once. Love the feeling and it's been great keeping up with real friends/family by FaceTime/texts.
unsane_sandwiches ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 03:06:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for this! I deleted your Facebook just now hopefully this will work.
biezpienmaize ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:26:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TBH FB is kind of useful if you unfollow all people that share personal or useless information. Great for discovering new events, music, trading stuff, hobby groups, etc. Also, a good way to contact small businesses. At least where I'm from.
OldSchoolIsh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:37:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I unfollow all the individuals on my FB, so it is a useful address book for messenger and that is about it in that regards. I have notifications when certain people post (close friends, family, particularly interesting folk I know who share good stuff). The rest is bands, groups and interest stuff, so that is what my feed is. On desktop I have the chrome plug in to remove the feed so I just use desktop for maintaining my various FB pages. Phone app for distraction scrolling and discovery.
I detest the platform and what it has done to the web, but at least you can make it useful for find good stuff sometimes (still doesn't show me a lot of shit I'd like to see though because algorithms).
bjb406 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:11:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't want to delete it just because there are so many people I don't want to completely lose touch with, and there is no way I will otherwise. I just don't use it at all.
savageronald ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:55:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought this too - turns out either I sought them out or they sought me out by other means - I just donโt need to know every detail of their lives and vice versa. Iโm so much happier not having it despite me wanting to share things sometimes - I find I just share the same things I would with people I actually care to know such things.
anor_wondo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:24:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't even get personal stuff on my feed these days. Most of my news feed is filled with posts from groups. So I've redditified my facebook
AllSugaredUp ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:51:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ask them for their phone number, email, or address?
anor_wondo ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:22:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't think most of the older people in my family even know their email address. At this point fb has become sort of an address book for me. I don't get what I'd gain from deleting it, I just never use it unless I have to contact/look up someone.
Override9636 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:07:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't know why you're being downvoted. After I stopped using facebook, I just had my parents text me/call me, if they needed anything.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:55:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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n1c0_ds ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:52:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Miss out on what? Maybe it will encourage you to catch up on person
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:54:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Ax6644 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 06:02:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you care you'll find their phone number, if they care they'll find yours.
Hell strip the dumb stuff from your FB and put your phone# in the contacts.
If it matters they'll find you.
As I've gotten older, (I'm 34 had Facebook when you had to have a .org (college email) deleted the app about 2 years ago) " I don't do Facebook" is a valid answer.
[deleted] ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 03:12:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To everyone reading this who is on the fence about deleting their account: No, you don't actually need Facebook. You don't need Facebook to keep in touch with relatives or old friends. You don't need it so that they can keep in touch with you.
Deleting my Facebook is probably the only reason I decided not kill myself.
Captain-Moroni ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 03:45:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
However, if you do want to use it to keep in touch. What I did was just not go on it for a while. Purged all of my friends except people that I really care about, started using the FB purity extension, and only see actual posts or pictures that people I care about post. I don't see if they posted something for sale or if they shared a political post. I ignore the number of likes. I only post things that are meaningful to me. I'm much happier for it and I found my balance, but for some it is way better to just be off of it for good.
CommutesByChevrolegs ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:38:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
+1 for fb purity. Really trimmed down any fb time i had to little to none.
I still keep it only for setting up events though.. still havenโt found a good alternative. people are hit or miss with email contact for some reason.
0range_julius ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:36:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
THIS. I deleted my Facebook then decided I wanted to have it again to stay in touch with people. Problem is, it was months later so I couldn't recover my account and for some reason they are making it impossible for me to open a new account (keep getting flagged for not being human or something. After submitting photos of my ID twice to prove I'm a human and getting rejected, I gave up) and I know others have had this problem.
JazzHandsNinja ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:33:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I video chat with my son. Only reason mine exists. My friends that still use it think I'm dead.
emm479 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:52:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm usually more of a lurker on here but I just wanted to say thanks for the suggestion (I deleted mine earlier last week and although I still look for the app and feel like I may have missed out on something, I find out I really haven't which is making it easier.) I'm definitely more attached to it than I would like to be even though I don't post or comment much hence the break. Also I'm glad you decided life was worth living and glad you made the choice to help yourself by deleting it :)
atastyfire ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:37:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did having a Facebook make you want to kill yourself?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:15:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It wasn't the sole factor, but it made my depression WAY worse.
lapishelper ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:39:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use it mainly for groups though.
PM_ME_YOUR_LUKEWARM ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:44:21 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I deleted mine a few weeks ago, but I miss my forums.
I've had a couple motorcycle questions since then, and FB was the best for that.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:57:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
DAE?!!!!
Aloeofthevera ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:46:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did you also lawyer up?
termiAurthur ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 03:05:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And hit the gym!
quitespiffyx ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:35:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Big yes - I was addicted but now I donโt even care
bunk999j ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 03:20:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did this 4 years ago, best thing ever. Shows true friendship when people will text you invites vs assuming your on Facebook. My SIL texts me photos of my nephew when she posts them. My mom on the other hand "oh you didn't know that? It's because you're not on Facebook " Thanks for reconfirming my decision mom!
idontneedjug ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:07:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was the first in my family to drop fb two out of my other four brothers have since dropped it and the other two are on there but log in maybe 3 or 4 times a year according to them. Was a weird turn of events seeing each of us embrace social media then slowly dial it back to where most the family just doesnt use it anymore.
BatmanPicksLocks ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:05:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I kept mine just for easy game syncing. I never check it though
PumpkinPox ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:27:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Yep, same here I wish mobile developers would step away from using Facebook as account backups. One of my favorite games has two ways to sign in, as a guest (which doesn't save to a cloud so if the game crashes I'm screwed) or from Facebook.... ugh.
Saptilladerky ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:26:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ramping towards this right now.
wikkdone ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:30:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This was one of the best decisions I ever made for my quality of life.
kevin_with_rice ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:33:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Social media in general fucked with me. I'm so glad I don't use it anymore (beside Reddit of course). Not being focused on people I don't really care about and general bullshit online has gotten rid of a ton of stress for me.
WhiteLotusOfKugane ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:56:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Life is so much better
iamreea ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:42:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve never had Facebook but deleting instagram has done wonders for my mental health.
KaliLineaux ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:02:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm the opposite and love Instagram, but maybe it's in what accounts you follow. I mostly look at dog pics on Instagram so it's a happy thing 99% of the time. Anything crappy I ignore.
iamreea ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:15:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean I use to only follow friends and like thedodo and meme accounts. I just find the explore page to be so toxic. all the news articles that just caused anxiety because they make you feel like the world is literally ending. It literally made me not want to leave my house. Or feeling fomo from seeing other people traveling and stuff. Idk it just wasnโt for me. So now I feel great. Only social media I use is reddit and I love it. I donโt feel the need to compare everything Iโm doing with someone else.
VelourFogDoesKaraoke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:52:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instagram really fascinates me. It makes you believe that weight lifting and cardio means you'll lose fat (but somehow maintain your giant boobs/bum), that everyone can do yoga, and everyone has such amazing lives (and suitably made-up, nice clothes, etc.) and has huge friendship circles who all drink cocktails with sparklers in and get their nails done. Lol. Then I met/saw the people behind their Instagram accounts. D: Dayum.
Turns out the 'candid' photos were all staged, groups of friends sit in silence to update their stories (and not actually drinking the cocktail until everyone has updated), Instagram-ready make up is really really shite, people are struggling for money because their money goes on new clothes to show off on social media, holiday photos are a bunch of throwback reposts from like two years ago. Naaahhh. That's too much stress.
anonomotopoeia ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:28:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I deleted my Facebook 6 years ago, didn't miss it at all. However, I just rejoined. My kid's school puts so much information on there, from pictures of the kids to important meetings, and I was missing out on so much stuff. I have email and text notifications, we get bulletins and letters, but there is always something my kid was missing out on because they only posted the information on Facebook. I finally gave in and rejoined, but I keep my friends list short and I've unfollowed many of the friends I do have so I don't have to see their bullshit posts.
Facebook marketplace is really nice, though, since craigslist is basically 100% a scam anymore.
TojoGojo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:35:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I second this, then delete reddit
Tonyhawkproskater ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:25:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Delete instagram while youre at it.
011101000011101101 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:49:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know you can just stop using it, right?
I mostly just use the messenger app to talk to people. I rarely open the fb app or go to the web page.
shlam16 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:57:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah this exactly.
I feel like these are the people who were literally addicted to it and couldn't go a second without checking it.
I haven't posted anything in years, haven't read anyone's feed in even longer - but I keep it for Messenger and because it's literally the default mode of keeping in touch in this day and age.
The people who pat themselves on the back for deleting it are akin to people 30 years ago saying "I don't need a telephone, I have a mailbox".
011101000011101101 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:17:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah i get the feeling people who delete the account wouldn't be able to stop themselves from using it if the account was still open. That's fine, self control can be difficult.
JohnBayani ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:52:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only use it for school stuff. I'm only there once a month or so to say happy bithday to friends
xBlenderman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:08:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I cant stand social media, but I'm in acting, so you basically have to have thousands of followers to make a good impression on casting directors and modelling agencies. Its annoying as heck.
The_Slavinator ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:10:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I deleted all social media apps except snapchat back in July, since I use that to text people. But even on that, I muted all stories. It helped to completely shift my mood in a positively, I can't recommend it enough!
clawedbuffalo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:25:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt have the app and havenโt logged in for over a year. Only reason I havenโt deletedโฆ โSign in with Facebookโ
Freddit- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:43:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've effectively done the same. It's still there, I just don't go on Facebook. Since I deleted the app from my phone and stopped using it roughly six years ago, I can only remember using it twice. I'm sure I've used it a couple more times than that, but it's so infrequent that I can only remember the two most recent occasions which occurred sometime in the last year.
Occasionally my wife will tell me about something she saw on Facebook and it just reminds me of why I will never engage with that platform again. The toxicity, vanity and stupidity is overwhelming.
jpp01 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:44:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I still have my account as it's the only online platform my mother and Aunt are willing to use. But I only use messenger to talk to them. I haven't seen my "facebook feed" in something like 5 years.
Honestly it, and other "social media" are just trash that's looking to hoover up your time though repetitive boredom. I also only have a charger for my phone in my bedroom, so when I get home and put it on charge I don't have to look at it and it's little flashing screen when I have free time.
bruhmoment3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:49:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
protip: don't make a facebook in the first place
myxomatosissrsly ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:07:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did this as well, I am so much better off now. That thing is poison to the mind. I encourage everyone to do this. Dont worry, you'll still talk to the people that matter. And you'll ACTUALLY talk instead of just 'liking' stuff.
Thierry_Ennui ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:15:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same. Great decision.
LordRyloth ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:23:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And Instagram! It's a child of Facebook. Literally and metaphorically
KunoStarScream ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:27:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I deleted Facebook a year ago. Itโs such a sense of relief. It was just memes, peopleโs children and peoples fake happy lives. Reddit for memes now. Itโs changed my life, as I didnโt notice but it stressed me out seeing everyoneโs fake shit. Good for you - go do that, I donโt wanna see your children 17 times a day, and good luck with your broken relationship.
TooTallTrey ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:38:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For anyone that doesnโt want to do this but wants to cut down on Facebook use, do what I did: Delete the app off of your phone. You wonโt see notifications until you log in through Safari. Doing this made me realize Iโll have 12 notifications and only 1-2 actually matter. I check Facebook a lot less frequently now.
DazednConfusedNerd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:48:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Got rid of it, feels great.
hansonhols ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:31:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Agree.
Facebook HAD its uses (it was a free alternative to Friends Reunited) but now it is a platform for posturizing, vulgarity, shameless boasting and its a huge waste of time.
Reality is the way forward.
socioanxiety ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:00:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deleted mine and never looked back. No regrets.
ljubaay ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:10:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I knew it was time to delete fb when I took a buzzfeed quiz to see which non-dairy milk I am.
I got oatmilk, when CLEARLY im such a hazelnut milk.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:11:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...Wait what? I'm gonna deactivate y account right now then
unforeseen_tangent ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:51:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really wish I could do this, but part of my job is managing the company's business page and replying to messages there. I pretty much never use it otherwise anymore.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:38:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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unforeseen_tangent ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:42:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's a great idea, I just might do that too.
CelticGaelic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:10:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That helped make up my mind. Thank you.
glumauig21 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:26:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude. Been off my facebook for over a year and a half now and itโs been wonderful. No hesitation as well!
RaynoVox ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:59:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dont miss it at all. It's been a year, best thing I've ever done.
justessforall1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:00:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same. I deleted mine on New Yearโs Day, and I thought for sure I would have caved and I havenโt thought for a second of bringing it back. Iโve noticed so many improvements in my life and habits that I realize just how toxic Facebook is. I donโt care how many people that are deleted or groups unfollowed, FB is toxic as fuck.
I decreased my screen time by over 40% (I get those weekly screentime things). I noticed who my real friends were I started reading about things I really enjoy (through Reddit and Pinterest) and focusing on me instead of other people and their problems/drama
No drama at all from THOSE friends/family members. None of the โwell Justessforall said this on Facebook and then aunt XYZ Said this and now Aunt XYZ isnโt talking to Justessforall and...โ. Nope. None of it.
Feels DAMN good and Iโm never going back. I made it past my birthday (last week) and I didnโt even miss the birthday notifications. I seriously recommend it to every single person that will listen. My mental health has improved (I also noticed I actually have really bad anxiety that I ignored because of Facebook).
Seriously. If you keep telling yourself youโre too addicted and โcould never do itโ... thatโs when you need to do it the most. The world is a huge place and Iโm glad Iโm not living it through a screen or trying to be better than other people or post my accomplishments to brag about.
Guccimane1738 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:07:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just deleted the app from my phone and stopped using it for the most part cause iโm too lazy to browse it on my computer. I just receive the birthday alerts via mail.
LaPorting4Duty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:15:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tbh Iโm not surprised this isnโt bumped up higher or something since Facebook and Reddit are competitors.
But yeah I got in trouble a lot in high school because of Facebook (24 now, turning 25 in a couple of weeks), and my dad suggested I delete it first when I was 16. I did, and have been back on a couple of times for college, never going on again, now HEโS the one addicted to the site. He and my mom both.
Tech06 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:18:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ha! I never signed up at all! I skipped all the un-necessary bullshit.
ambisinister_sloth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:22:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never had it.
AdministrativeMoment ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:26:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wish i could do that, but it is literally where all my clients find me
Myfourcats1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:34:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didnโt delete yet. I still have photos I need to download. I quit visiting though. Iโm much happier.
okaymoose ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:35:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! I don't even remember how long it's been. The only issue is that my extended family don't realize they can email me so they just don't contact me anymore but maybe it's for the best.
Fatal-Funnel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:37:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just did this last night. It feels great.
binsz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:08:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't delete my social medias but I cut them all off. I just login to facebook to accept friend requests or add someone. Less toxicity.
scarycajun337 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:18:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I recently redownload it to look for a truck and literally nothing has changed on it. It's still bullshit facts and people over sharing personal problems.
MayumiWorld ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:22:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I deleted mine.
sevenonone ยท 456 points ยท Posted at 01:49:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not great at this one, but "don't look for a happy life, look for happy moments".
shr3dthegnarbrah ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 03:57:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you
Im_Evil_Like_Lucifer ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:53:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really like this one.
SL-jones ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 07:08:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whatโs the logic for this? Sounds like it would enable people to be short-termist and hedonistic.
Should be โlook for happiness in the minutes and seconds as you are in them. Work for the future but live in the presentโ
Whitey_josh ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 13:13:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think it is trying to say that no matter where you are in life you are going to to have to struggle for happiness. So you should not seek out some idealized conception of what would make you โhappyโ and just be happy.
SL-jones ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:43:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Totally agree. I was sort of splitting hairs on the difference between โseeking happinessโ and simply โbeing happyโ but also recognising the need to give gifts to tomorrowโs version of yourself and use the gift of your agency in life to achieve something worthwhile.
Although in the end I guess contentment and ambition are at odds and am not sure how to reconcile that beyond some conceptually Ill-defined โbalanceโ.
Also stunned at the downvotes but only one reply
selbrat ยท 256 points ยท Posted at 02:39:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have body image issues, find one even very small thing you like about yourself. My starting point was a freckle in the middle of my left hand. Whenever youโre feeling bad about yourself, remember you like that ONE thing. Find a new small thing to like about once a month if you can. It becomes easier to find things, and eventually easier to like yourself, in my experience. Thanks for that advice, Mom.
Salty_Seamen69 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:29:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a freckle in the middle or so on my right hand.
Freaky
LoveTheBombDiggy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:27:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a fetish for freckled hands
Salty_Seamen69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:09:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well now this may have just been an interesting development.
*Edit: Said something twice
Shmarrt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:26:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey me too
selbrat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:28:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You complete me!
zhxwn ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:46:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hated the gap between my top front two teeth. Until I became a Tyler the Creator fan and heard him rap about his gap.
So my extra tip would be: Find someone you admire who has the same โflawโ and it does wonders.
selbrat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:30:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey, me too! Hated my gap until I started this process and now I love it! Thatโs an excellent extra tip tho, big fan of that.
WyattDT04 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:22:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if I dont like anything about myself?
SanderTheSleepless ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:50:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a tiny brown dot on my right eye and an indent on my left eye and I am quite fond of them. This really does help quite a bit.
swinefish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:43:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whoa... I think I need to do this...
[deleted] ยท 3010 points ยท Posted at 23:16:24 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
In regards to dating: "You'll find someone when you're not looking".
Sounds like total bs, but it's proven true for me a few times.
Edit: This also assumes that you go do social things sometimes. This absolutely will not work if you just sit at work/home all day.
Regdren ยท 1876 points ยท Posted at 23:52:06 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Should probably add that you need to be interacting with people in general for this to work. Extreme introverts shouldn't use this as an excuse not to go outside.
ajisawwsome ยท 463 points ยท Posted at 00:47:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aww man!
Incinirmatt ยท 260 points ยท Posted at 01:22:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well NOW what am I supposed to use as an excuse?!
Shadybeach ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:53:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The sun is trying to kill you?
Flash_Baggins ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:02:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hip hip hip hooray
The Sun is trying to kill you and heโs coming out to play
Moving_Shit ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:44:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nothing
MadMrCrazy ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:15:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well they could say some crazy guy on reddit told them to
Moving_Shit ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:20:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm actually saying he doesn't have an excuse to do that, so he shouldn't do it
MadMrCrazy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:47 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/woosh
Berninz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:42:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reddit
gloobnib ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:25:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Swiper?
[deleted] ยท 80 points ยท Posted at 23:54:51 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good point!
sanders_gabbard_2020 ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 01:39:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
You also need to have hobbies that aren't male centric, or get super lucky.
Skateboarding, cars, and video games are bad hobbies for meeting girls.
And you still need to ask out girls along the way. "Not looking" shouldn't mean "sabotaging yourself by doing nothing."
TheOneShorter ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:15:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sooooo everything I'm doing, got it
sanders_gabbard_2020 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:16:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
see my edit.
SeriousPomegranate ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 01:21:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I see where I've gone wrong.
PM_ME_FEET_N_ASS ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:38:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Uhh oh
basedgodsenpai ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:42:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt feel so good
SelfShine ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:44:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've got this advice several time. People have to see you or know you exist in order to be in a relationship.
linuxfiend ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:49:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So... I'm fucked.
TypeOneAuthor ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:41:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As an extreme introvert...what advice WOULD you give?
McWeiner ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:44:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well now youโve done fucked me up
pixelatedpixelmousse ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:58:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dammit!
waawftutki ยท 489 points ยท Posted at 00:25:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This sounds like good advice for the general population, and bad advice for most people browsing /r/askreddit, to whom ''not looking'' means literally going straight home from school/work.
Yoshi_XD ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 02:20:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My advice is always "don't go looking to meet somebody to date, just go meet people in general".
I'm no Adonis but nearly every relationship I've been in was when the woman made the first move because I was "interesting and fun to be around".
SanderTheSleepless ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:46:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eh, I'm neither interesting nor fun to be around. Might explain why I've been single all my life.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:36:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"not looking" means being happy to be single, forever. Suddenly a wild date appears.
Magnus_Helgisson ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:48:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What should it mean though? I never ever succeeded with finding a girl at any events. Not a single time. All my relations were originating either from the friends I used to have when I was younger, or from "targeted search" in internet. Now internet dating is broken, the crews fell apart and I have no idea where to start interacting with people. Say, i've been at a concert yesterday, met a few guys, had a few fun conversations, but I didn't see any boyfriendless girls there.
ScrubKaiser ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:57:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really feel like Work/School has just taken over my life and would really like to get out more. Do you have any ideas for good places to meet people? Especially when everyone already seems to have their own group.
waawftutki ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:12:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah. I'm sitting here observing my existential dread grow as I get older and nothing really changes, like everyone else.
[deleted] ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 00:28:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fair enough, I do tend to be pretty social for an introvert.
TheyreAllTakenFuckMe ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:48:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be involved in clubs and hobbies that you find interesting simply because you enjoy it, and people will find you.
CaptainFeather ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 02:27:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
DnD, video games, card games
Ah, shit.
Bone_Dice_in_Aspic ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:46:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
She seemed perfect. I couldn't believe my luck, meeting someone so accomplished and interesting and attractive. We clicked so well that we never really got around to talking about D&D, despite it being the thing we first connected over in that brief chat in the waiting room. I remember watching her, puzzling out her ethnicity, watching the movement of her lips as she flicked through whatever on her phone. I almost never approached women, but she seemed approachable, somehow. By our fourth date, my ears were straining for the sound of a shoe dropping, even as we laughed, even as we sat and straight faced our way through a conversation about what we wanted and what our futures might look like, even as we laid bare our mistakes, exes, old addictions now turned to pale scars , even at home, as our bodies curled against each other, as gentle and insistent as the thin root that wears through stone, the climbing vines of her fingertips up my spine, my lark-tongue flicking against her cardinal feather lips. Black father, Ghana by way of France, redheaded English mother. Her copper coils came free with the butterfly clip spring twist and bounced, and my column rose, swollen with the salt river of my pulse, the Tigris and Ganges and Nile in me. My palms eclipsed the blood moons of her areolae. When it was done and we lay together, casually and messily interlinked, she giggled a bit.
"I think I need a healing surge."
A What.
"A healing surge, like in D&D...?" She reached behind her pillow and slid out a well-thumbed 4E PHB.
Goodbye, Adonna. I'm sorry about breaking your front door in my haste, i'll send you something to cover the locksmith's fee.
E72M ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:40:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What did I just read?
Bone_Dice_in_Aspic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:56:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
love comes just once or twice in this life, unheralded, as an abrasive aunt or a footpad does. Love demands sacrifice and compromise, but there are some lines a man does Not cross.
TheyreAllTakenFuckMe ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:38:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, just gotta do some leg work to find social groups that do those things. You certainly arenโt the only one with those interests, and not the first one to think maybe doing them in person could be fun!
CaptainFeather ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:46:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This was a joke, but I appreciate the advice nonetheless :)
LinceAssassino ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 02:05:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
MFW my hobbies include drawing and writting, for which I do not need to leave the house.
TheyreAllTakenFuckMe ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:09:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I believe there are writers groups where people share their stories and get constructive criticism or just discuss it and the origin or where it is leading. Might not sound intriguing, but maybe give it a few tries before definitely saying itโs not for you!
Drawing is a bit more intimate I think. Iโm not sure what group outlets there are for that haha
Any hobbies you think look like fun, but havenโt had the courage to try?
theonlycanvas ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:28:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are all sorts of drawing groups out there. I also like to take my sketchbook to random places (the zoo, the museum, bars) and people will just kind of gravitate towards me. It's bizarre, but nice. A lot of social media has groups and clubs for these exact hobbies, too! Check Facebook and Meetup.
CaptainAnon ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:29:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That was me for two years. I only found my boyfriend because we share a major and several classes. He's gradually teaching me to go out more
waawftutki ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:34:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How much is he charging for those classes? /s
TurangaLeeIa42 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:54:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not necessarily (: I met my spouse on Facebook via the suggested friends (and therefore from the privacy and comfort of my own home).
SprungMS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:42:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey I found my wife that way. To be fair a roommate had her and a couple of her friends over one night before they went downtown.
kvnklly ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 01:37:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can tell you for a fact it has never happened to me
elaerna ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:05:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me dos
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:04:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tres.
Hammy5910 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:07:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"a few times" doesn't make it sound like a very successful tip
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry I haven't had a proper sample size of relationships lol
Hammy5910 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:28:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol
kpstormie ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:08:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This was exactly how I was, I gave up after trying really hard to land a few dates. I eventually got a new job and gave up dating and chasing girls and just decided to focus on finishing school and my hobbies.
First week on the job I met this awesome girl who was a customer, and we just clicked. After being friends for a while and on/off communication we decided to hang out outside of my work; it was one of the best nights of my life! I didn't feel depressed afterwards and nothing that night felt like a chore. At that point, we started chatting almost every day.
Fast forward 2 years and she's my fiance now.
It won't work for everyone, but it worked for me.
TequilaBeans ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 23:46:26 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This theory can be related to conceiving a child as well. "Stop trying / planning for it and you'll get pregnant a lot quicker if you just have fun and don't think about it."
If you want children, that is........
rtj777 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:38:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well thanks for making this thread terrifying
hippo_canoe ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 01:51:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unfortunately there is a bias at work on this one. That is, you hear all about the stories of people who stopped trying so hard and then eventually conceived. What you don't hear about are all the ones who stopped trying and then never conceived. Therefore you hear many more success stories, leading people to belive this actually works. Oh, it does work to relieve some of the stress, but it's only a minor factor. (Soruce: Used to work infertility.)
tangerinix ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:47:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve heard this happens for exactly that reason when a family is close to completing the adoption process. I babysat for a family with two kids in the same grade because the mom got pregnant after a long time trying when their adopted son was already coming to them.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:45:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think that's kinda different. Stress is a huge reason why a lot of women don't get pregnant, and being too focused on getting pregnant = super stressful. Your body literally shuts down.
On the other hand, with dating, you need to be proactive to a certain extent. And proactive might even mean just saying yes to dates, but there's still some level of it.
morbidangel27 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:19:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not for me. We planned our first. We fucked twice and she was pregnant.
I was quite disappointed it was so fast. I wanted to make her my Twinkie for a few months. But nah. Twice.
xpwnx4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:38:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
fuck thats unfortunate
Jonnypan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:19:30 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why stop? Can't get pregnant if she's already pregnant
WomanOfEld ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:28:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, I was sitting at my first appointment at a fertility clinic, thinking, "maybe I'm already pregnant and don't have to go through with all of this," and it turned out I was right- we had stopped "trying" and I guess I'd opened my mind to the possibility that we just had to try something else
SeriousPomegranate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:22:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is so true. For people trying to get pregnant, the stress of trying and failing can be counterproductive.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:12:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Stopped looking, FIVE YEARS GOING STRONGof being single
mookyvon ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 02:02:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is complete bullshit advice that gets parroted everywhere. This advice will only work if youโre a girl or hot guy. The average guy should never follow this.
Have hobbies and interests and have a passion. But also approach women and ask them out.
Unidan_nadinU ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:59:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What's weird is that's how it's been for me with every serious relationship I've been in. I'll be single for a while and be trying like crazy to find someone, then after so long, it gets old. I give up and just do my own thing, and sure enough someone came along.
wtfatyou ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:57:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
wow I've been concentrating on myself for 11 years and only ever had one gf for 6 months. This advice kinda just sucks for me. Like I don't think it works. Maybe for the average person it works or maybe its just survival bias but i think it takes a specific type of personality to make it work. I just don't have that personality and this type of personality seems to be very common too.
Nobody ever comes along =(
butyourenice ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:04:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just wondering, do ugly or unattractive women just not exist in your world?
blue_nebula ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:54:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean props to him right? Everyone is beautiful
taylorxo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:21:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He has a point though. This topic always reminds me of the tidbit for dating apps like Tinder that "the top 80% of women (regarding attractiveness) get to choose between the top 20% of men" and I think that holds a lot of weight in the real world too. Men are so much less selective about their partner than women are.
waffletrampler ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:03:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like the other guy who replied to you, this worked for me and I'm maybe a 6/10? Might be higher and she thinks I'm hot but eh, I know where I stand lol
But I found my current long term gf this way when I was doing my job and she thought I was cute and ended up getting my number weeks later. This was when I stopped trying to hit on girls and just do my stinking job well and it worked.
suckmydictation ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:20:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Of course this gets 2k upvotes on one of the most introvert encouraging social media*
GL jerking off for the rest of your lives
Seriously, my rude comment aside, this is horrible advice unless youโre actively interacting with people already (doesnโt have to be dating, just interacting in person on a regular basis)
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:09:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Top reply already addressed this, maybe I should've edited this?
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:44:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes and no lol. I've "met" people when not looking at all, but I didn't pursue them because I was too closed off. The moment I opened up, there were tons of options. And there usually is at least one option. Whether it's quality or not is debatable.
You have to be open to it, just not overly focused on it or the outcome.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Very well said!!
ImmodestPolitician ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:39:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This only works for better than average looking women. If you are a man your gonna have to work.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:44:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
False. I'm a pretty damn average looking woman.
King_Of_Regret ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:21:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It works for most women. Above average or not.
ImmodestPolitician ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:02:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Average women are always complaining about how difficult dating is. I guess they are wrong. They just need to do nothing.
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 02:20:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, as long as they're relatively social and have a good personality, it's not that hard. Maybe they're lacking one of those.
elaerna ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 02:06:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seconded
Yoshi_XD ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:24:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm an average looking man and it's worked for me. All I did was be social and have fun with friends. Don't go looking for a partner, just go have a good time. A partner will find you if you seem fun to be around.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 00:51:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Weirdly worked for me. I was wondering why it was that all my close female friends were all in relationships, and I realised itโs because I tried too hard with single women and it sort of pushed them away. With women with whom I had no romantic aspirations whatsoever I was able to just be myself and so proper friendships were able to form. So, by not specifically looking for a romantic partner I was able to weirdly build much stronger and better relationships with women and ended up finding a girlfriend that way
joshmoffitt ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:42:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Truth!!!!! I got divorced a couple years ago. After an off and on type of terrible relationship that left me so unhappy. I tried online dating, going to singles shit. Whatever cause I WANTED a girlfriend. I WANTED real love.
Then. I got annoyed. I quit that nonsense. Started just doing my own thing. In January. A young lady Iโve known about 5 years reached out to me for a lunch cause she owed me for helping her with some tech stuff. I wasnโt looking for a girlfriend. Friendship was fine. Sheโs my girlfriend now.
Iโm very happy.
Lorrena ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:03:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same thing happened to me. I had a 5-year long relationship, got my apartment, moved in with my then bf. Some time later we break up. After that I had a few pretty bad relationships, the last one horrible, guy just emotionally tortured me. When Iโd finally broken up with him, I decided that it was enough, I didnโt want to date anymore, and I even moved back with my parents and decided to put my apartment under lease. The same day I leased my apartment, a guy that Iโve played WoW with for couple of years asks me out to coffee, because Iโve helpled him something in the game. I said sure, why not, Iโve been talking with him every day in game for years, he was nice. So in a year we got married :) 8 years now, and I love him more than I ever thought I could love someone.
pm_me_n0Od ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:11:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My experience has been that you don't find an SO as soon as you stop looking; you just stop worrying about it and keeping track of the time you've been single. Which helps.
K-Jonatan-B ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:54:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is what I think but when looking for lost possessions.
Finnick420 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:35:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
doesnโt work for me :(
abitdark ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:58:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Single for 12 years. Havenโt looked for 10 of them. Still nothing.
Fudgms ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:51:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In my phase of looking for only flings i met my fiancee.
It sounds dumb as fuck but during that phase i kept telling myself that i will find "the one" when i least expect it and sure enough i am now engaged and so excited for my future
Esleeezy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:43:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Found my now GF at a taco truck in DTLA. She was cute and I started talking to her. She was blabbing about god knows what and then I asked if she had a food truck number. She thought I meant phone number and started to put it in my phone. That was 4 years ago and I really donโt know, or really care to think, about where Iโd be if I didnโt find her. She is an amazing person and Iโm very lucky.
P3ccavi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:47:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was looking for someone for years (dated a lot of women that were the opposite of what I wanted), finally just said fuck it I'm just destined to be a bachelor. Not long after, the woman who would become my fiancรจe started working at my job. I just knew I was destined to marry her but she was a lesbian so I figured I'll at least get a great friend out of this. 5 years later she's asleep in our bed while I'm in the living room looking up wedding stuff on Pinterest and scrolling on reddit
Aeolun ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, naturally, at some point this has to be true.
AdministrativeMoment ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:38:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yip me too!
blue_nebula ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:52:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This happened to me! She was recently out of a relationship, I hadn't had one for a few years, we started talking, I expressed I was interested. We had a great few weeks together, and a couple not so great, and we split because of compatibility reasons - I started having anxiety attacks and she didn't feel like she could handle it or support me in the way I needed. We split yesterday, I'm still quite sad about it. I just hope we can remain friends.
OnI_BArIX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:17:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can vouch for this. Had 0 interest in a relationship. Same did my now wife. We meet in school & became friends. It's been almost 3 years now and we couldn't be happier
Indya89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:23:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm. That's how I found my husband
akcentfan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:43:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But how can you not look when a relationship is the thing you want? Or you mean donโt be desperate?
b3avis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:55:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd rather describe this as: 'not searching actively'
Hexipo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:32:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I believe it to be the desperation - some people say you can smell the desperation on someone. And when you are looking you give off unattractive qualities whereas if youโre comfortable with yourself and more chilled you will naturally attract.
Think on how easy it is to play flirt with friends then it is with a person of genuine interest to you :)
Bone_Dice_in_Aspic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:12:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am Totally not looking. I live alone in the woods and work nights. Sometimes I go a day or two without seeing a human. Prettty sure looking works better than not looking
j4kefr0mstat3farm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:59:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The advice is predicated on assuming you actually have a social life. It means go do things with people and meet people without expecting an activity to turn into a date.
Bone_Dice_in_Aspic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:32:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
right, I understand that, but that's no longer a safe assumption, which is why it's not good advice.
trashacc192837 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:17:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
This is true. Five years ago, a cashier at my local supermarket asked me if I fancied going for a ride on my bike with her sometime. I wasn't looking for a girlfriend or anything at the time but I had nothing better to do, so I said OK sure.
We're getting married in a few months. I found the soulmate I wasn't even looking for.
LonelyLokly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:12:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you live for yourself and enjoy what you're doing and do more stuff for yourself - it will most likely happen with little to no effort. Chances increase with your social circle.
Gridrider1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:52:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can say that this has definitely worked for me
Stalked_Like_Corn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:35:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I heard this too and thought it was bullshit, too. I went from relationship to relationship to relationship with little to no breaks. Typically, I had a female friend who would become a girlfriend. Then, I had enough. I realized i was just a serial relationship person and i had 2 long distance relationships and I surely was NOT FUCKING DOING THAT AGAIN!
I was single for a year and met this girl. Online. She was hot but I wasn't interested. 6 months later i was asking her out. 5.5 years we were long distance. I will NEVER date someone long distance again. Ever. Mostly because my Wife would be upset with it.
Slick_Grimes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:28:25 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not only this but I would add "someone worthwhile".
Two people looking make sacrifices to be in a relationship. Two people not looking don't have to make sacrifices and it's a much better match.
Nataliewassmart ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:31:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Truth. There's a sort of shift that happens when you can find love for yourself without the validation or permission of someone else. People can sense it and gravitate towards it. I think it's because it's something that we all want, but few actually work to get. Sometimes, it's easier to try to gain the love and approval of others than working on yourself so that you can get that love and approval from yourself.
1melly1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is my bf. He was desperate pretty much all of high school, then senior year just didnโt care anymore and was having fun. We met and became friends and eventually started dating
texican1911 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:02:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Greg Behrendt said when you are happy alone and getting on with life, someone will come and fuck your shit up with their love.
chelseajaayne ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:09:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this has always led to my best relationships- every time i chased a guy i was always left disappointed but every time i decided to relax and just be me a good guy came along and i had a happy relationship! of course this only works if youโre in an environment when people can actually notice you
p_velocity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's only a small part of it...while it's true that it is tougher to get laid (as a guy) when you try to meet people for the solve purpose of fucking them, It is easier to meet people and get to know them on a deeper level if you go in to it with no expectations.
But you still have to be willing to try to meet people.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:17:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought the second part would be understood, but I forgot for a second that this was Reddit...
ryebread91 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:56:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cause youโre not trying to impress or hide other likes/dislikes to seem more compatible youโre just being yourself. If I was trying to impress my now wife or hide other interests probably wouldnโt have had much really in common and not worked.
LillianaBones ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:24:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is how I met my husband!
People think it's the stupidest advice, but it rings true for most couples in my life. They stopped actively looking for someone and started working on themselves.
The whole thing about loving yourself before you love someone else plays into this concept as well. If you love yourself, you aren't looking for a partner for validation. Then partners come naturally!
SwagSandwichSY ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:34:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Agreed
legenddairybard ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:02:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's how I got mine so I believe this too
sophia1020 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:54:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happened to me and my current boyfriend. He was in a relo for 18 months. Gave up on love and said he was gonna full hoe it. The first night he went clubbing he met me, this saying is really a thing. (Weโre both 18)
itachixsasuke ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:38:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doesnโt work. I donโt have the confidence to look a single woman in the eye and Iโm 30. Am I doing something wrong. Where are my damn instructions?
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:45:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You just answered your own question. Confidence is important. Just start a casual conversation with a random woman at the grocery store, coffee shop, etc. without the outright intention of asking them out, and that will help build confidence. Work your way up from there.
Death_is_real ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:05:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
8 years now ...fuck off...I just stay with ons ....
justinbieberismymans ยท 370 points ยท Posted at 00:56:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Changing something about your appearance to gain confidence/self-esteem (getting a haircut, going to the gym). I thought it was a cop out piece of advice and then I got a haircut and I felt so comfortable in my skin and at peace that I remember the exact moment it happened.
atriptolalaland ยท 95 points ยท Posted at 03:46:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also donโt ever cut your hair in a time of personal crisis.
Chocy_Milk ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 07:41:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a bit of a weird one for me because I had a personal crisis, cut my hair and instantly felt better. I had been meaning to do it for a while and the stress just made me think "fuck it, it's coming off" and I love it!
PoiLethe ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 15:00:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yea I think if its something you were seriously considering before you got freaked out about something it's going to be fine. If it's one of those crazy ideas, like buying a really risque dress or something you bought because it looked good on the model but its not a style you've ever worn before than it's better not to attempt it when you're in freak out mode.
Chocy_Milk ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:11:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah that's a really good point - if it's something your rational mind thought was a good idea then it'll probably be fine, but don't make an impulsive decision in that moment.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:53:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:02:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm a dude with PTSD. I buzz my head a lot due to freak outs. I always regret it, but then I just do it again lol.
Chocy_Milk ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:04:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've definitely made some mistakes during a panic while changing my hair - dyed it lime green once which uuuh didn't suit me
steponme34 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 03:58:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or, dye it red!
justinbieberismymans ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:20:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or else itโll look like you came out of a blender lmao ๐
atriptolalaland ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:27:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bangs. Need I say more?
loflower ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:44:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wholeheartedly disagree with this. In the few times that something in my life made me feel offbalance and totally crushed, a new cut or color instantly turned a page for me.
DannyKidd ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:17:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok Britney
atriptolalaland ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:03:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Idk why youโve gotten downvoted. Thatโs a prime example!
akiramari ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:03:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless you've never been able to find a hairdresser to call your own and everytime you go (even when you aren't feeling shitty) makes you cry for an hour D:
Sunbiscuit ยท 81 points ยท Posted at 01:43:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When the processing time on my husbandโs permanent resident status went way overdue I was freaking out that they would make it our fault his green card and status were no longer valid. That and his driverโs license expired and they wouldnโt renew it because of his out of date papers. Getting immigration to tell you anything helpful is a shit show and our only office in the state is open 4 days a month and wouldnโt do shit and it is wildly impossible to get an unscheduled appointment at the Denver office. My grandmother told me to contact my senator and make them deal with it. I thought she was just a dingus but I was desperate so I did. I just filled out a form for both of us stating we give them the right to discuss our private case and their office harassed the ever loving shit out of USCIS and lit up our state DoT. They would call me just to see how I was doing. They got shit done and I think they pushed his case to the front. They really came through. Heโs applying for citizenship now and the processing time was almost two years when we submitted the application in February and we already have an appointment for the final interview and test in the next two weeks. I am positive there is a flag or something on his case/account now that they did that for us because everything else had been slower than molasses in winter. Fuckin bless you Pam, you are a badass!
Ella1570 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 08:29:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slower than molasses in winter made me laugh, you write well.
Echospite ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:08:05 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same happened with my mother. Even though her mother was born here, she couldn't get a visa. Her aunt went to her MP and they cralwed up immigration's arse, and I was born five years later.
04chri2t0ph3r ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:53:57 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is awesome advice! That would be the last place I would go to solve a problem...just because it never crossed my mind
velour_manure ยท 953 points ยท Posted at 23:26:10 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be yourself
The less you care what people think and the more real you are, the more people start to like you.
internetlover22 ยท 249 points ยท Posted at 00:08:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why is this so hard to do though?
crumstick22 ยท 421 points ยท Posted at 00:35:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depends on your past but it boils down to shame
JoeBensDonut ยท 149 points ยท Posted at 00:40:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yea that hit me right in the feels
JC_Frost ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:14:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here. I've had a rough few months and started going to therapy/counseling. One of the first things that got me to really stop and think was my reaction to my therapist's use of the word "shame" to describe my feelings. It felt like a dirty word. I thought I liked who I am but was just falling victim to some evil boogeyman called Depression. It's jarring to discover that you only thought you had a decent self-esteem but it's actually pretty poor due to feeling great shame about yourself, and that's what causes most of your Depression. Especially when there's not much to be ashamed about, but you feel it anyway. I suspect many people think of shame as a dirty word for "other people", much like I did.
AlreadyShrugging ยท 48 points ยท Posted at 01:48:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup. It is hard to care less about what other people think if you don't like yourself. I hated myself all through my adolescence and childhood. I am still trying to figure out why and how to not hate myself.
ScratchBomb ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:58:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude me too. I've recently become aware of it and I'm trying like hell to to reach the next step.
crumstick22 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:01:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My goodness. Im going thru the same journey as well. You are right about caring less. When we realize our value, other peoples thoughts dont hold as much power against us.
TworkinForTheWeekend ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:27:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"It's hard to do your best when nobody hates you more than your reflection."
Atmospheres' song Painting hit me like a ton of bricks in the feels after my divorce.
I've always had very low self esteem, but I have been using the "How long would you stay friends with someone that spoke to you like you speak to yourself?" mentality a lot lately. It really helps.
inferno1170 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:45:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, similar problem. I don't like myself much. And I guess I just don't think others can really like me either. Even though I have a good group of friends who seem to really like me, I just struggle a lot with new people and can't really be myself.
CeilDeAlta ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:37:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you find out, pass that info along please.
Hixt ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:56:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At first I wanted to downvote you, but you have a point...
Say you want to do something, act out, whatever... then this thing kicks in and keeps you from doing it. I suppose that thing could be seen as shame. As in, "I would be shamed if I did that." You second guess yourself, and end up just receding within yourself, and hide that you were about to do whatever. Well that sucks.
So given that, yeah, my advise would be to be free with yourself and express yourself however you want. Never be ashamed to be yourself!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shame-less
_Pure_Insanity_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:20:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Boils down to survival instincts. You are less likely to do something that your brain will perceive as threat inducing.
Gibberwatt ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:07:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TBH it was hard for me to do for a while. I was isolated for a long time in grade school (homeschooled in the country, no one around), and when I got back to school I was terrified of doing something strange. I made no friends, except in Latin class, but that's because we were all oddballs, and the had no social boundary awareness.
I probably would have stayed that way, but I met a person who showed me that if a person cannot handle or doesn't like the way that I am, they can suck my nuts cause that's who I am.
I don't know if such an aggressive pose is the best pose for everyone, but really, be yourself.
There's no point to your life if isn't yours, is there?
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:46:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because not everyone's going to like it, and it takes courage to accept that.
mitzapper2 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:58:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Embrace the power of the yolo
paulvs88 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:42:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because everybody likes the fake you better.
Darktigr ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:49:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because you only interact with people who like the fake you better.
Swiftblue ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:59:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because most of us don't like ourselves, and worry that everyone else thinks like we do.
Thatniqqarylan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:21:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's just insecurity
Darktigr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:52:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because A. You're not perfect, and B. You won't explain yourself accurately every time. But it's not about being perfect. It's about being as accurate as reasonably possible.
someperson1423 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:46:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah but the real me is smelly, spends too much time alone at home, and is terrible at holding conversations.
Freevoulous ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:48:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
be the BEST VERSION of yourself. Just "being yourself" simply means devolving into your most base and immature instincts. This is how we get incel neckbeards to exist; its the ultimate self-expression not tempered by self-improvement.
PatHeist ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:06:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What a nice thing for people who aren't assholes to tell themselves
makinlovetomyvibes ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:20:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
how am I supposed to know who I am though
Cpont ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:15:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People always say "be yourself." Other people always say "fake confidence to be confident." Which one am I supposed to do dammit!
Also, being myself = being an asshole
TheRebuttoning ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:39:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be the you you want to be?
terminbee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:31:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretend to be confident enough to be yourself.
Freevoulous ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:50:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
be the BEST VERSION of yourself. Just "being yourself" simply means devolving into your most base and immature instincts. This is how we get incel neckbeards to exist; its the ultimate self-expression not tempered by self-improvement.
The way I think of it is that my "real self" is the idealised perfect version of me that I wish I was. Then I bust ass to get there.
StarMarch ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:53:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if you're socially awkward
What if you're just an asshole
Beltox2pointO ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:04:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But, personal hygiene is still important.
swannygod ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:50:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I found the exact opposite to be true I used to "be myself" and was never liked but I started going out of my way to act cool and "hip" I was liked a lot more
noTalentnoFriends ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:05:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be yourself. No - not like that. Like that guy.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:42:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To thine own self be true
Shrieka1987 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:55:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree 100%. Early twenties was socially awkward, scared to voice opinions. Wouldn't talk to girls. Early thirties, I can talk to anyone. The ones I can't I simply move on. Can get a laugh out of almost anybody with my antics, because I mostly just care about enjoying myself. Those that share a sense of humor or opinion are right there by my side for the ride.
Being yourself is one of the most freeing things you can do.
Spikearoonie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:39:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or the more people that like the actual you you will attract
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Those who mindย don't matter, and those who matterย dont't mindโ TIL Dr Seuss didn't even say this but still an excellent quote
HomiesTrismegistus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:10:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if I don't like who I am
Cheeze187 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:52:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless you can be Batman. Always be Batman.
TimX24968B ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:00:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
or the more of an asshole you start to seem like
FusioNdotexe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:27:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The more I loosen up, the more the internet concludes I'm an asshole and needs therapy. Working on the not caring part still lol. :') I feel 1000% better from doing though forsure. I hope others pick this up. It's so sad when you only catch glimpses of someone's true self.
CrazedCollie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:03:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And the funny thing is, people are often too busy thinking what you think about them to actually think about you.
Either that, or too busy staring at their smartphones to even interact, but that's a different thing...
Freevoulous ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:47:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
nah, be the BEST VERSION of yourself. Just "being yourself" simply means devolving into your most base and immature instincts. This is how we get incel neckbeards to exist; its the ultimate self-expression not tempered by self-improvement.
BadLuckShui ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:09:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a caveat to this, take the time to get to know yourself first. If you can say "I would like who I am if I was someone else," then you're probably on the right track. If you look at yourself and don't think that, figure out what particular traits make you think that.
If those traits are legitimately something you should/could improve on, focus on that. (Also, from personal experience, I wasn't really able to be myself until I was diagnosed with ADHD and was able to separate symptoms from what I thought was an unfixable, crappy personality; I had a lot of coping mechanisms in place to make me functional, but medication and new self awareness have done wonders for interpersonal relationships.)
TL;DR? Basically, be yourself...but be your best self.
meiematt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:33:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Frank Ocean intensifies
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:43:00 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay, but what if you're an asshole?
Slick_Grimes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:32:36 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And the ones that don't aren't worth caring about anyway.
Mantequilla_Stotch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:31:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. I tend to be the "weird" one because I just do what I like. If I want to sing spice girls, you'll be sure to hear me singing it.. if I want to learn to juggle, I will practice and won't care who's around to see it. The cool thing though is I own my weird so people tend to gravitate towards me and always seem interested in my interests because I make it seem completely natural and ok to do.
Eep1337 ยท 82 points ยท Posted at 04:51:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trying to lose weight?
When going somewhere in your car, try and park as far from your destination as you can, when you can.
I read this tip somewhere else when I was at my heaviest and really trying to lose.
Every morning instead of taking the first spot available at work, I'd take the farthest one back. I had to trek a bit to just get to the door, then through the office and upstairs to my cube.
It felt good whenever I did it, and it put me in this mode where I wanted to do other healthier things throughout the day.
I went from 385+ to 220 in about a year and a half after I started adapting those baby steps (among many other baby steps, of course!)
vannana ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:20:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good job! It helped to get a step counter to motivate myself to walk more. I really should start exercising more though (on top of a daily step goal).
Eep1337 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:41:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you! Yeah, it's the same for me. After I lost the weight I am not so good on daily exercise now lol. I do way better in the summer.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 16:37:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good job! I lost 60 lb, all baby steps. Add a new baby step every week or two and ta-da!
Eep1337 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:43:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep! I initially started out with cutting out all calorie filled drinks (soda, sweet tea, etc), walking after work, and the parking lot thing I believe. Then just added more things over time.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 19:34:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! Just in case someone is reading and needs more small ideas: Getting better/more sleep, add some strength training a day or two a week (even just body weight exercises, you can get free apps for guidance), take your vitamins if you need them, switch your snacks to only fruit/nuts/veggies.
ArmyOfGroundhogs ยท 334 points ยท Posted at 01:42:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I got one of those keloid scars on one of my ear piercings. A really big, hard bump on the back of my ear. I heard that tea tree oil would make it go away but it seemed so outlandish that oil would do anything; I assumed it was MLM essential oil nonsense. Went to the dermatologist, had it cut off, it grew back in a few weeks. Got it cut off again, grew back again. Dermatologist then does a cortisol injection. It went away for about a year then reappeared one day.
Tried putting tea tree oil on it every morning... gone in two weeks! Whole thing basically peeled off in layers, which was disgusting but very satisfying. My mom was not thrilled about having paid for all of those appointments when the TTO was $10.
MissBlue2018 ยท 91 points ยท Posted at 02:43:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Super cheap basic aspirin crushed up with a few drops of water to form a paste applied to the keloid allowed to dry them washed off also works wonders.
It also doesnโt smell as bad as the tea tree oil if your on the โthat shit stinksโ end of the spectrum.
Tipper_Gorey ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 02:11:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs a fucking persistent scar.
TinyCatCrafts ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:30:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's what keloids do. They form from trauma, and getting them removed just further traumatizes the skin, so they just come back again.
Enderkai-kun ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:26:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
.. I have one in the middle of my chest, and now I think I am going to try tto to remove it..
Pidgetha ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:35:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get hypertrophic scars any time i get a cut that breaks the skin and a few drops of tea tree oil in a tablespoon of coconut or lavender oil is like magic to make them go away, just wait until theyre fully healed first or else itll burn like a mother fucker
CollieJoe ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:14:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for that reminder! I use tea tree oil all the time for various little things (acne, mixed w/ natural deodorant, etc) so I'm accustomed to the "tingle". Sometimes I forget that mother can outright BURN!!!
Edit: Spelling
Alldressedwarmpotato ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:12:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No way?? I have to try that now ! Thank you
ArmyOfGroundhogs ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:47:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I basically just soaked a bandaid in the oil and kept it on all day and did a new one each morning! It makes the skin around it very dry also so definitely put some lotion on it overnight. Good luck!!
TinyCatCrafts ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:32:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And DONT USE BODY/HAND LOTION ON YOUR FACE.
I know it seems like skin is skin, but moisturizing your body is very different. You WILL get acne, it WILL take ages to go away, and it WILL be horrible.
I learned this lesson two months ago. My face is only just now starting to get back to the point that I dont have to hide every inch of it under makeup to feel like a human.
hipopotiumsesneat ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:54:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love TTO and the smell too lol.I grew up with it as a low income household child. Helps with lots of stuff. My brother got earaches a lot, my mom used it to help clear it up. Definitely helped him.
motherisaclownwhore ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:47:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did the same thing with a mole. I just put a bandaid on it overnight with the tea tree oil. Then the next day it was dried up and fell off. That was 2 years ago.
Andalusian_Dawn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:52:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am going to try this since I have a giant mole right by my eye that is hanging on by a thread. Don't want it cut off in case of scarring.
motherisaclownwhore ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:01:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You won't regret it. No scars at all. At worst the skin around it will get dry or it might take a little more than one night.
JohnGenericDoe ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 10:55:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
LPT - essential oils are not any kind of nonsense. They have amazing properties and many can be had for quite cheap from the supermarket or other normal outlets.
the list goes on
oh: clove for tooth pain.
coolturnipjuice ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 12:43:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah all the essential oil hate bothers me. Theyโre really effective for a lot of mild issues, they smell nice and theyโre not toxic (some are for pets though). MLMs come around and say ridiculous things about them, and everyone just doubled down into two camps: theyโre either absolute poison! or the cure for everything! In reality theyโre pretty benign and donโt require an extreme position either way.
Echospite ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:28:01 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oils come from herbs, herbs are where your medicine comes from.
vannana ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:14:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was kid, whenever I got a toothache, my mom would give me this horrible-smelling ointment. I HATED that ointment and hated that smell and would gag whenever I smelled something similarโ despite the fact that it was totally effective and would make the toothache go away. It was only as an adult that I realized that what she was giving me wasnโt a medical concoction for toothaches but clove.
The_Jinx_Effect ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:44:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My wife has never of these from having a mole removed. I'm gonna try it. Hers is about 2cm long and 4mm wide. How big was yours?
EldestTurtle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:16:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For anyone out there planning on using this method on recent piercings, please reconsider and wait it out until itโs properly healed. You donโt want to get anything like that into a fresh piercing
81525 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:19:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow. Glad that worked for you. I had a keloid on my ear and tried TTO for about 3-4 days but felt like it wasn't working. Then got it surgically removed and it was gone for good. Maybe if I stuck with the TTO more consistently it would have worked, not sure.
learningamap ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:47:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same type of thing here but with warts, take 3 apple cider vinegar tablets a day for a week or so ($10 a bottle) and the 2 warts I had for 6 years disappeared without a trace!
teenagejeepster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:36:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used antiseptic wipes meant for wounds for like ยฃ1 and mine went in a week
antennniotva ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:56:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Omg, I have a scar on my chest from a staph infection and I didn't know that this was what the scar was called. I'm trying this now. Thank you!
[deleted] ยท 28281 points ยท Posted at 23:44:35 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
If it takes less than 5 minutes, do it immediately
I do so much less housework on weekends because of this
Edited to add: Thank you for the GOLDs! And the SILVERs!
This is my first gold and Iโm stoked it was for this comment :)
I hope this has helped motivate others who are in the same boat I was a few years ago...strive for progression not perfection
somefredkid ยท 5748 points ยท Posted at 01:15:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
the fact that it takes less than 5 minutes is what makes me spend a lot more than 5 minutes on it
I_lenny_face_you ยท 3091 points ยท Posted at 01:24:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't think masturbating counts
MelAlton ยท 818 points ยท Posted at 01:30:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cleaning the ol' pipes.
proudlyinappropriate ยท 447 points ยท Posted at 01:31:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oiling the olโ nuts.
iamanaccident ยท 590 points ยท Posted at 01:34:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stroking the penis
Tripolite ยท 427 points ยท Posted at 01:40:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Private Johnsonโs Dishonorable Discharge
cheekybint ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 02:05:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Play a little 5 on 1?
Koozey ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 02:08:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Distribute some free literature?
Headflight ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:11:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take Palmela out on a date
Koozey ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:17:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mix a batch
cwf82 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:22:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hoisting your own petard
toomuchnormal ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:49:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Punchin the clown
Tuggernuts1891 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:53:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hitting the sack, then hitting the sack
otabagel ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:09:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Retrofit the pudding hatch
FinalBossXD ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:25:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ticklin' the pickle.
cwf82 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:41:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Waxing the ol' carrot
UsuallyInappropriate ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:51:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stroking the salami.
Pounding the olโ pud.
Being Eugene Levy and not doing it with baked goods.
PrestigeW0rldW1de ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:13:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Feed the ducks
MiamiPower ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:04:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bad Chicken Dinner
RaisinHider ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:56:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dwyane "The Cock" Johnson
civgarth ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:59:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Roger "Chow Tong" Lee
tayezz ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:10:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jacking the beanstalk
Tripolite ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:44:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hand-to-gland combat
whatshisfaceboy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:23:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depends on what you're drilling it to.
Hallucion ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:03:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Private Johnson's PT results.
HKZSquared ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:40:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I might have just woke the neighbors laughing. Dammit aha Edit: work > woke *
Tripolite ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:43:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha glad you liked it
Kahalahili ยท 211 points ยท Posted at 01:36:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dildoing the vagina
Th4t_0n3_Fr13nd ยท 186 points ยท Posted at 01:46:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One of these things is not like the other
Chicken-Nugget321 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:49:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Suicide takes less than 5 minutes
evil_mom79 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:51:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Depends on the method.
Chicken-Nugget321 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:52:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well Iโm not looking for anything exotic
evil_mom79 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:53:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So rope or bullet? Yep, both under 5 minutes.
Chicken-Nugget321 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:54:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think Iโll just spoil Endgame in public
evil_mom79 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:55:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
o o f
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:48:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
[deleted]
Th4t_0n3_Fr13nd ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:10:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice bringing in sex about this i meant all but the last two were innuendos
very_large_bird ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:51:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean maybe not the nuts one...
proudlyinappropriate ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:53:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
!actually pretty much the same thing!
Th4t_0n3_Fr13nd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:11:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I meant the fact that the last 2 weren't innuendos
alpha_doggo45 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:01:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Laughed too hard at this.
Kahalahili ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:12:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like a job well done then
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:58:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey-oh
Kusy214 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:55:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Girls donโt poop
33drea33 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:06:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Makin the kitty purr
clickwhistle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Double clicking the mouse.
ZanXBarz ยท 105 points ยท Posted at 01:36:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slapping the ham
diegoenriquesc ยท 169 points ยท Posted at 01:41:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Burping the worm
wodha ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:57:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking grandma to Applebeeโs!
HKZSquared ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:41:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy shit, Mate lol... I donโt want to know if/how this fits with the topic in these comments
VelvetHorse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:08:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wringing out Old Faithful
AxeOfWyndham ยท 59 points ยท Posted at 01:43:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shootin some pool
8547anonymous ยท 97 points ยท Posted at 01:46:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mรฉnage a moi
cosmicsans ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 01:55:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Distributing some free literature
prappl93 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:35:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Playing a little 5 on 1
cosmicsans ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:04:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to the kitchen and mix a batch
ebbomega ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:13:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck you Jonesy. Tell your mom to top up the cell phone she got me so I can FaceTime her late night.
CoolGuy7755 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:56:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
beat your meat
hemeny123 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:10:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spanking your monkey
CanemAureum ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:11:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bopping the Bishop
niceboy4431 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:19:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Beating your cock so god damn hard
willob56 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:23:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
manhandle the ham candle
GuacaGuaca ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:28:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Punching the clown
Publicks ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:35:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
honking the horn
BakonNigiri ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:29:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Grounding the power surge.
HeathenMama541 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:22:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve never heard this and itโs now my favorite thing
cwf82 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:23:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Still love this one!!
One-eyed-snake ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Brown chicken moi moi
naakedbushman ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:15:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slingin rope
thrustmaster30001 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:01:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man handle the Ham candle
cosmicsans ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:56:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Play a little 5 on 1
D1cky3squire ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:57:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pulling your goalie
EndlesslyPondering ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:07:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Choking the snake
O00coolzero00O ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:34:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Which ham? Not the one I just bought."
largeman12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not the one I just bought!
Flatulatory ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 01:37:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stabbing the Snake
Splickity-Lit ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 01:41:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not sure youโre doing it right...but I guess I could take a stab at it.
TSM_Prius ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 01:41:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Polishin the olโ trophy
Tru-Queer ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:47:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tickling the pickle
290mg ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:37:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Accurate
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:58:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jerkin the Gherkin
ExtremeBlueDream ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:35:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Masturbating the olโ genitalia.
tayezz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:12:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Havin a threesome with a couple no-shows
Volkov07 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:17:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shaking hands with the unemployed
tros_tros ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:56:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pedro
Raknarg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:37:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, you got it!
JackIsBackWithCrack ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:40:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Self sex
therealtedpro ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:45:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Flippin' the flopper.
reverend-mayhem ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:48:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
FTFY
ValveShims ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Polishing the grapple
proudlyinappropriate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:54:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*olโ *penis
Zambeezi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:21:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I think we need a link to that AskReddit thread from a few days ago. There were some hilarious euphemisms in there.
Here it is. Some honorable mentions:
Mรฉnage ร moi (Me-some)
Ringing Satan's doorbell
Manhandle the Ham Candle
SaladFork812 ยท 44 points ยท Posted at 01:43:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Feedin' the ducks.
JSRambo ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:05:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Playing a little five-on-one.
IAmRedBeard ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:16:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Distributing free literature
SaladFork812 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:16:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mixin' a batch
sum1namedpowpow ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:34:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/expectedletterkenny
How many times you pull your horn today bud?
UtopianCabbage ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:02:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ballpark 6 to 8? Your'e a fuckin animal.
HeathenMama541 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:23:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Distributing some free literature
ProstateKaraoke ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:13:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Feedin the geese -Bubbles
HeathenMama541 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:23:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/Unexpectedletterkenny
ProfessorBear56 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:09:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No stop
DRT_99 ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 01:38:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shining the olโ shaft.
ltrain228 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:49:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Little bit o' hand to gland combat
proudlyinappropriate ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:51:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Upvoting the olโ masturbation references.
Ozymandias_III ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:52:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This made me laugh out loud dude
ardendrake ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:58:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I spit water all over my keyboard because of this comment.
lagooned ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:04:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
that's not water
ardendrake ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:07:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know it
HeathenMama541 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:21:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Feeding the ducks, distributing free literature
PURSUTE ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:00:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Manhandle the ham candle
shortsonapanda ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:58:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
hold the sausage hostage
31nigrhcdrh ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:09:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hand to gland combat
Tballs51 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:18:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lil five on one. Distributing free literature.
Flopmind ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:10:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You have more than one?
MiamiPower ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:03:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
๐Oh Danny Boy The Pipes The Pipes are calling๐ต๐ถ๐ค
Oh Danny Boy - Irish Traditional
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6ppdB6JX99Q
tayezz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:12:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man handle the ham candle
limprichard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rotating the mayonnaise
One-eyed-snake ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 01:32:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm the best Iโve ever had
MiamiPower ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:05:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
High Five ๐
One-eyed-snake ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:48:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You may not want to touch this hand for a minute or two
MiamiPower ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
5 min waiting time baiting tackle box sinkers
One-eyed-snake ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:26:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At least wait for me to give it a good wipe
MiamiPower ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:49:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Username checks out Jake.
squiddthekidd ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 01:30:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You have ended this man's whole career with one single reddit reply. Now he won't be able to get a job or feed his family.
Congratulations.
Mcdrogon ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:44:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
baitinโ aways counts
TheTimbalaya ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:51:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Play a little five on one?
Go to the kitchen and mix a batch
MrSanfrinsisco ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:52:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/murderedbywords
routin3 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:39:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
that escalated quickly
MiamiPower ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:08:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Highway to Heaven great series.
Hbeast7 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:30:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Masturbating takes longer than 5 minutes
[deleted] ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:35:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You obviously havenโt gone pro
bl4mm0 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:57:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You too, have a masterbatorium?
MiamiPower ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:06:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
SlippySmithsonian.
MiamiPower ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:05:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
MW2 COD Ninja Pro
Doorknob11 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:57:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre not a pro unless you can do it in 2 minutes if you donโt got time or you can do it in 2 hours if you do got time.
Hbeast7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:35:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean but you have to take longer than 5 minutes
salami_inferno ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:46:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I'm already hard and pretty aroused and I'm in a hurry I can do 5 minutes but it's a squeeze.
Hbeast7 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:48:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same but youโll want more time on pornhub you donโt need but want
EdgyMemes101 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:51:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
God has left the server
Hbeast7 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:52:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why is god on pornhub
EdgyMemes101 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:55:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why not
Hbeast7 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:56:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He can just look at random naked chicks from heaven
MiamiPower ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:08:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
God*๐๐
MiamiPower ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:07:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He has risen in 3,2,1
Ryans_At_Work ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:51:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Distributing some free literature
bcmdrummer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:53:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whipping up some baby batter.
bigChungus42069 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:39:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shit and cum
Raherin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:39:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They didn't say 3 seconds, they said more than 5 minutes.
isitcauseimwhite ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pulling ya pud
31nigrhcdrh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:09:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A little 5 on 1ski
AresThaGod ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:14:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pulling your goalie.
theentirewhiterace ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:19:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Feeling up the Franks
HeathenMama541 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok that was funny
drc84 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Firing the surgeon general
tearsinmyweave ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How many times have you pulled your horn today, bud? 6-8, you're an animal.
MasterSleezy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:27:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait, that's supposed to last 5 minutes?
--Merc ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:32:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look at Mr. Stamina over here
gemmaskye__ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:56:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Masturbating always counts
tayezz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hand to gland combat
K-Jonatan-B ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:34:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think it counts.
tway15q1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:51:20 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ho ho, look at this endurance athlete over here.
all-thing ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:56:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It takes you less than five minutes? Rookie.
Bucky508 ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 01:49:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This right here. Sweep the floor, itโll take 2 minutes.....an hour later and Iโve got a green pad, wash cloth, and Murphyโs oil soap out scrubbing myself into a corner.
GodOfAllMinge ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 01:58:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah this is why I just leave it and do it all at once, otherwise every day I spend hours cleaning lmao
MiamiPower ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:10:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
๐That's me in the corner losing my Religion ๐ถ๐ต
Moskau50 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 03:00:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
FTFY
MiamiPower ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:01:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
๐๐ถ๐ตโฉ๐ถ๐ตโฉ๐ถ๐ต๐ต๐โ๐
Cookie0927 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:43:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always loved the mandolin.
DietCokeYummie ยท 589 points ยท Posted at 01:33:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A great example of this is cleaning the kitchen after cooking/eating. If my SO and I hit the kitchen cleanup together, it takes about 5 minutes to get it back into perfect condition (and I use a lot of dishes, we just have a super efficient cleaning system).
I used to live with someone who would want to wait to do the dishes until later in the evening, and then push it to the next morning, and then the next evening we'd be cleaning disgusting old food off of the dishes so that the kitchen/sink would be usable again.
Demp_Rock ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 01:39:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I must know this super efficient cleaning system you use? Iโm all about new tricks to streamline my life.
DietCokeYummie ยท 73 points ยท Posted at 01:44:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is nothing magical, unfortunately. We just play well off of each other's strengths. I do the cooking, so he will often grab things I'm finished with while I'm finishing up cooking and rinse them/get them into the washer prior to us sitting down to eat. I eat less than him, so I'll start getting things rinsed and loaded up while he's finishing up his plate. Then he hops on sink duty and I bring everything over to him as he washes/loads the washer. As he finishes up rinsing/loading the washer (and washing anything that is hand wash only), I spray the countertops/stove/table with cleaner and get it all cleaned off.
We finish at the same time and the kitchen is back in clean condition. I love to cook and typically use numerous dishes, as I'm not much of a one pot meal type of person. And we still finish in 5 minutes.
nwkegan ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 01:48:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hahaha, wow, cool relationship. Demons.
sugardustexplosion ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 02:31:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
probably always efficiently climax at the same time too, dontcha?
redhandsblackfuture ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:33:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So in short, a dishwasher lol
DietCokeYummie ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:39:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
He is a bit neurotic about the dishes so they've often been soaped and rinsed in hot water before he loads them into the washer.. so he essentially hand washes. It shouldn't take you any longer to hand wash than it does us :)
essenoh2you ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:27:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm the same way. I absolutely hate when dishes come out of the dishwasher still dirty so I usually at least scrub anything visible off first, though not necessarily with soap.
flavorjunction ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:34:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shit you not, my wife, my former roommate, and my sister in law all believed that the damn dishwasher fills completely with liquid to wash everything. And somehow just by filling the thing up the dishes become clean.
So since they thought a dishwasher is supposed to get all the stuff off, none of them ever wiped food off their plates before placing them inside. Except bones or other large things, they just left pieces of chicken and bread with full on half servings of veggies.
I felt like a crazy person trying to explain to them how a dishwasher works.
NYIJY22 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:21:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I do the same. I don't scrub endlessly or anything, but i always take a soap and hot water to everything and basically make them look clean before running them through the washer. I don't think I've ever put an item with visible dirt on it into the washer, lol.
andrefoxd ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:23:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, its not exactly a system that would work for everyone but is great. I do this similarly with my gf.
xzElmozx ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:50:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To be fair, they never said it would work for everyone, just that they devised a system that worked for them
andrefoxd ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:27:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry for not express myself right. I said that not with the intention to imply that they said. When they said "system" in the first comment I thought it was the way their kitchen was designed or some revolutionary kitchenware that make their "system" efficient.
rozzy1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:35:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait are you my girlfriend? This is exactly how it works for us too
Minicakex ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:16:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was with you until you said dishwasher, my wife is against them.
semajay ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:52:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We have a dishwasher and we only use it as a drying rack.
DietCokeYummie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:17:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We hand wash a lot of stuff these days, honestly.
virusporn ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:47:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean as you go. Makes for a couple of minutes of cleaning when the meal is done.
xzElmozx ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:52:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bingo. Done with the pot? Clean it. Don't stand there waiting for the water to boil, just wash stuff you already used. Then by the time you're done eating, it's rinse the dishes, put them in the dishwasher, clean 1 or 2 pots, and presto, dishes done in 5 minutes or less.
Clean while you cook people
BruceJi ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:24:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh man, even just rinsing the plates and pans as soon as they have been used is much better than that.
A lot of cooking mess is oil-based and heat makes cleaning oil-based dirt off pans and dishes so much easier.
It is well worth doing the washing up immediately after cooking or eating.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:40:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. I donโt have a dishwasher, so I would let clean dishes pile up in the drainer...
Now I either dry them after Iโm done washing, or go back and put them away as soon as I see most are dry.
It really doesnโt take long to do most tasks at home, but we condition ourselves to think it does and put them off.
[deleted] ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:41:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think it's different than that. At the end of the day, you've worked 8 hours or so, you are just getting home from an hour in traffic, been up since 5:30 am. All you want to do is get home and veg. That's if you aren't active in the evenings too. Sometimes you leave home and don't get back until 8 or 9 that night. You see these chores as work, and after working all day you don't want to do that shit. Unfortunately it still has to get done whether you want it to or not, but I can definitely still see it as feeling like more work piled on your work and therefore avoided.
DietCokeYummie ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:45:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Definitely. I have a dishwasher, but I actually hand wash a lot of things that don't even need it because it is just so simple to get them knocked out while you're standing there already.
passa117 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:30:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this. I don't have a dishwasher though. I bought a few bar mops and rotate them through the week. Dishes get washed as we're cooking and whatever we eat from gets washes as soon as we're done eating. Piles of dishes to wash by hand is so demoralizing.
CoolHandMike ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:05:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Consider me triggered.
My wife follows the philosophy of your second example. We've gotten into heated arguments about the state of the kitchen after she's been in it. Our current "system" is that I agree to do the dishes when she cooks, which is most of the time (and she is really good in the kitchen at least, and I do not mind this one bit--you cook, I clean). But then she'll make some soup for lunch and then leave the pot on the stove. She's always going to "get it later, my soup will cool down if I wash it now." And somehow I still have to wash the dishes when I cook, which is only maybe a couple of times a week, but still. I feel like I have to gently ask her to help me, for fear of reprisal, that sometimes I don't even bother.
I'm the exact opposite. I'm no neat freak, but this is something that's just ingrained in me. For example, I'll cook some eggs, plate them, and then immediately start scrubbing the pan. My eggs are still hot when I'm finished cleaning since it only takes seconds to soap, scrub and rinse. Soup that has just come off the boil is not going to become ice cold in the time it takes to wash out one pot, but somehow I can't get her to understand this. And somehow I always become the bad guy for wanting a clean kitchen for fuck's sake.
The other thing that drives me mad is dirty dishes in the sink. I've stopped being merely passive aggressive: "Hey babe, the dishwasher is empty" and now just plainly say "Are you going to put that in the dishwasher?". Sometimes even that doesn't work: "nah, I'll get it later." It'll still be there the next day, and she will slowly fill the sink with dirty dishes until one of us (usually me) is forced to clean up in order to be able to use the sink. The dishwasher, I might add, is RIGHT FUCKING THERE. The only way it could be closer to the sink was if the sink was right on top of it.
I love my wife, I really do. We've been together for almost 20 years, but I swear to the gods that if I ever become single again, this will be in the top five deal-breakers for new relationships. Maybe the top two.
/rant
DietCokeYummie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:42:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rant on, man. I totally understand. It is really difficult for some people to wrap their head around how much easier it is to just do it right away, and sometimes I wish I could just shake them and say "SPEND A MONTH DOING IT AND IT WILL BE A HABIT AND YOU WON'T EVER BELIEVE YOU LIVED ANY DIFFERENTLY!".
The thing about leaving stuff for later is that your house is a lesser level of clean even when you do finally clean it. Hard to explain. I guess I see it as "layers". If you sweep or vacuum (I use a little lightweight hard floor vacuum in the place of sweeping because animal hair) every day, you never need to spend a day rounding up dirt from the past 3 weeks. It never gets bad enough to need that. Or, if you clean dishes (or rinse and put them in the washer) right after using them, you never have this long 30 minute process of doing dishes piled in the sink. Or if you clean your laundry as soon as it hits 1 load worth, you don't spend 4 hours on Sunday doing 5 loads of laundry.
My brother always puts stuff off, so anytime we end up at his house unplanned, he refuses to let us go inside because of how it looks. And when he does have people over that he planned, he has to spend a FULL DAY cleaning it. And you know it isn't 100% clean because he is dedicating so much time to picking up stuff, doing dishes, etc. that you know he isn't getting around to dusting, disinfecting surfaces, etc. You never truly live in a clean home when you have to spend all your time on a cleaning day just tidying.
It may seem like putting something off is the easier option for people who put it off, but they're forcing themselves to waste precious time on a chore that wouldn't even exist if they did it as they go. And a nice clean house at all times just makes you feel like you are just OWNING at life. You don't have to scramble when someone says they're coming over in an hour. It is freeing.
jfk_sfa ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:39:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The key is to clean during cooking. Then after, all thatโs left are the plates, utensils, and glasses.
anoxy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:44:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. I clean the kitchen after I cook every night and leave it the way I started. Itโs a nice peace of mind.
ShortSomeCash ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:46:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is my landlord. I come from a house where dishes left in the sink, even if they weren't mine, were broken in a fit by the other occupant the next morning. Somebody please buy me a sink
HeathenMama541 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:25:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh god, Iโm one of those who likes dishes in the sink, but Iโll clean my work area as I go.
My SOs (bless their souls) are amazing at cleaning the kitchen after I cook. Iโm a lucky girl
NJM_Spartan ยท 153 points ยท Posted at 01:30:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did you see this on a LPT by chance? I have actually utilized this train of thought as well!
[deleted] ยท 136 points ยท Posted at 01:35:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, I started doing this a few years ago...before I found Reddit.
Having a child increases your work load, especially for parents who also work a full time job. I got overwhelmed and someone shared this with me.
Iโm glad this has helped you as well!
muichuchu ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:37:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here! Saw it on LPT. It changed how I clean the house in particular.
KidneyBloodstones ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:36:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's actually a now-trademarked book/concept called "getting things done" but it's usually do it if 2 minutes or less
I_GIVE_KIDS_MDMA ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:55:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're absolutely correct. Idea being it takes you more than two minutes to get out the right list, work out the next action, write it all down, etc.
Yet I find in practice the "Two-Minute Rule" in GTD works better when applied to thinking tasks as part of processing your work.
For physical tasks walking around the house or garden, doing something directly for five or even ten minutes is probably more beneficial.
JCongo ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 01:25:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem is when you have a lot of tasks that take 5 minutes each.
But good advice is simply make your bed. After you spend the effort doing that, it kind of kicks off doing everything else you need to do no matter how big or small that day.
Djeheuty ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:52:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The key to not having a ton of little things to do is to do whatever it is when you're done with the task at hand.
Just finished eating a meal and have a dirty plate and a fork? Wash them now. It takes like 3 minutes if you have to wait for the water to warm up.
Just finished using a pair of scissors and a pen to cut out labels to ship stuff (I had to do this today for an Amazon return)? It takes 30 seconds at most to put the scissors and pen back in their place.
If you do things right away they don't get the opportunity to pile up for later.
KidneyBloodstones ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:37:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if your SO doesn't wake up so you can't make the bed
InnocuousUserName ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:51:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But making your bed is possibly the most useless thing you can do. Unless you don't plan on using it again.
levibevi ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:05:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually really disagree with this. The bed takes up a pretty high percentage of a room's surface area. Depending on how messy your bed is, that's a big portion of the room which is untidy or messy. And making the bed is actually super easy. Like, what. Spread out a blanket. Big deal.
But, it is a big deal. With not much time at all, suddenly a fairly vast percentage of your room is clean. Then for the whole day, your room is considerably more clean, and it took sheer moments. You don't even have to do a good job. Just spread the blanket out, you know? Mission accomplished.
It's possibly the highest possible yield on time invested to cleanliness ratio of ANY chore. Sure, you'll make it messy again within 24 hours, so what's the point? Well, you spent a tiny amount of time for a huge return on tidy surface area, for a whole day.
For me, I dunno man. It's like, why would you possibly pass that up?
allanbc ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:05:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I leave my bedroom, I generally don't see it again until I'm just about to go back to bed. So this argument doesn't work for everybody. Still, I think the accomplishment one sort of does. You made your bed, finished the first task of the day. That was easy, might as well get to the next one.
Houdiniman111 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:06:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know about you, but I hate myself every time I get into a bed I didn't make.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually, itโs better to NOT make your bed...
Pulling your duvet/comforter/top sheet back to the end of your bed allows your fitted sheet and pillowcases to โbreatheโ...air out.
But I get what youโre saying, do something as soon as you wake up to start your day on the right foot :)
Try opening your blinds/curtains to let sunlight in? Thatโs a simple task that makes your space look good and you feel good in return
--------sam ยท 135 points ยท Posted at 01:12:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The problem is all of my homework takes a minimum of 30 minutes :/
Cole444Train ยท 181 points ยท Posted at 01:33:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They said โhouseworkโ
--------sam ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 01:33:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow how did I not recognize that, but anyways I think itโs the same principle
hecc987654321 ยท 53 points ยท Posted at 01:39:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Homework benefits from being done in one continuous session, but housework is made up of little things here and there that add up on the time. What that means is that if it takes you a minute to put your cups back or fold cloths, then do it.
krafty_koko ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:42:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is there a way you can break it down into smaller chunks?
I was really bad with school work so I used to trick myself by saying, โIโm just going to get everything ready, I donโt have to start now.โ
After I set everything up, computer, books, whatever else, I usually sat down and got started.
--------sam ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:44:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think the hardest part for me isnโt the homework, Iโm a very good student, I just donโt want to get started on it. I think if I tell myself Iโll only do a bit Iโll end up pushing through, thank you for the inspiration.
RedheadsAreNinjas ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:43:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Written comprehension, check. ;)
PassiveAgressiveGunt ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:50:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cool name!
bumbleluv ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:52:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha, I read it as "homework" too until I got to your comment. Agreed, same principle either way!
TheRetardedGoat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:19:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow I read it as homework too. Dyslexics unite
Osethme ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:59:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, English: Where homework and housework seem like they'd mean the same thing.
They don't.
famigacom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:17:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well there wouldn't really be any point in having them mean the same thing, eh?
MiamiPower ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:11:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm in the studio who Dis?
DietCokeYummie ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:37:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not sure what your housework entails, but sweeping/vacuuming the floors in a quicker casual manner every day will mean you never need to spend 30 minutes doing a "deep" sweep/vacuum. Running the laundry when you have just enough to fill the machine means only needing to do 1 load rather than do multiple in a row. Giving the toilets an easy scrub each week keeps it from building up and becoming tougher to clean.
Basically, a lot of chores that take people 30+ minutes each only take that long because they were left to get bad for too long. In fact, I can't think of many chores that take a minimum of 30 minutes besides cooking, mowing the lawn, etc. That's a longer than average chore time.
EDIT - I see you said homework. Are you referring to schoolwork and possibly misread the comment?
--------sam ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:39:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Understandable. In my case for homework assignments, I think if I did one assignment at a time or at least a piece of an assignment at a time it would be beneficial, but that first push to do even a little bit is excruciating.
doritoboi ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:23:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
just do it for 5-10 min, then take a break
plipyplop ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:30:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do homework 2 minutes at a time and then take 2 minute breaks reading about US tax codes. The 2 minutes on and 2 minutes off method is shit.
Xynoklae ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:39:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thought it said homework at first too lol
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:57:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read homework too.
r_u_ranga ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
30 minutes i get about 6 hours a week
ckowkay ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
only around an hour a day? dang i'm jealous
nicehuman16 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:40:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When doing papers, do random paragraphs with available citations. Later on, put them together in a logical order. This way, you can get things done when you have little available time.
--------sam ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:46:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Personally for writing papers Iโm a pretty fast typer so getting it done in one go isnโt that painstaking however, for a recent research paper similar to your suggestion I found evidence for my claims separately and then synthesized it later which did actually help.
MiamiPower ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you ever used https://www.nuance.com/dragon/dragon-for-pc/home-edition.html
nicehuman16 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:12:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not me. And luckily I have graduated.
WiggleBooks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:52:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Break down the tasks! Also you have other aspects of your life than school and homework. How about your life goals or chores or housework or friends? Sending a text to someone you've been been meaning to catch up with takes less than 5 mins
ToxicJaeger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:03:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If a few of your teachers gives you some time at the end of class to relax that time adds up. Your half hour of some assignment can be turned into a 10 minute assignment by the end of the day (assuming youโre on a 4 block schedule like me)
ckowkay ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even then, compared to the hours you could spend procrastinating, 30 minutes is nothing
kid_blitz ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:36:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a major ADD procrastinator, you may have saved me major pain
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:41:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was in the same boat!
You can do it :)
sheffy4 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:49:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also love this tip, but at the same time it can also be counter productive because Iโll start a never ending series of small tasks without ever sitting down to freakin relax or play with my kids, or do other โdown timeโ self care like yoga etc. For instance, Iโll see a few dishes in the sink, then when I go to put them in the dishwasher, I see it needs to be unloaded, then Iโll do that and realize the dish rag I was using to clean the pots is really dirty, so I throw it in the towel laundry basket, which I see is full, so I run upstairs to throw it in the laundry, and if Iโm doing a few dish towels I might as well throw in some of the bathroom towels also, and then I see the counter is dirty, so I get a Lysol wipe to wipe down the surfaces, and since I have those out I might as well wipe down the toilet, and oh yeah I was trying to start laundry so I go back to finish that, and then I realize there are clothes in the dryer that I left from a few days ago, so I need to fold those and put them away, and then I realize itโs never gonna end and I fall asleep exhausted in my toddlerโs bed at 9pm to avoid doing the million other small tasks I know I will see when I leave the bedroom.
passa117 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:46:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think you're doing it backwards and you need to be a bit more proactive. I am work from home parent with a toddler, and also the anal retentive one about cleaning and straightening up. If you devote a rolling 30 minutes a day to the small stuff, it never piles up to where you're swamped.
I don't use Lysol, but I do have a few spray bottles under kitchen and bathroom sinks: vinegar+soap, bleach+soap, rubbing alcohol. And lots of microfiber cloths all over. Takes less than 5 to wipe down the vanity and mirror once teeth are brushed. 5 for the toilet bowl whenever it starts to smell gnarly. 5 minute morning and another at night to put away stray toys so we're never living in a pile of blocks and balls and paw patrol paraphernalia.
Cleaning isn't ever done. Make your peace with that. But if you're always knocking out smaller stuff day to day, there's never the soul sucking "chore day" that really eats all your down time. Also, it helps if everyone who lives in the house is on board and held accountable. So, aside from teeny, tiny humans, no one is allowed to leave even a spoon in the sink, which I find is the single biggest issue. The other things tend to be easier to keep in check.
reneemonet ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:33:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I often use this tactic at work. Youโd be surprised how many things just take 5 minutes to set up.
titations ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:40:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this....Instead of arguing with the wife, I basically follow the 5 minute rule.
allthebad ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:54:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Related: Time how long it takes you to actually do things. I used to dread emptying the dishwasher because in my head it took FOREVER. One day I timed it, and turns out it was only seven minutes. Now I don't hate it because I know it's such a comparatively small percentage of my day!
Hacky03 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:01:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
unzips
DrJoe418 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:09:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate you so much. I was just peacefully procrastinating on laundry and because of this, I am going to do it now.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:12:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol youโll thank yourself tomorrow!
If thereโs something I want to watch on tv and I have clothes to fold, I wonโt let myself watch it unless Iโm folding/hanging clothes.
I NEVER have hours of laundry to do anymore and itโs glorious
iixsephirothvii ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:34:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if it takes longer than 5 minutes, estimate how long EX: 30mins , then set that time aside for when your pumped (after gym, run, intense gaming, fav song etc) then finish it while excited to build a routine.
ultimatedebate ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:06:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I started doing this thing, when I'm going into my living room, I pick up 3 things. Clothes, the remote, what ever is out of place. So far, it's looking way better...
Hollapenos ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:15:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read this exact advice on Reddit a few years ago and I applied it to my day to day. This has helped me tremendously! I don't like when things pile up because then I have a huge to-do list and I get so anxious that I have so much shit to do. This is really good advice!
omiwrench ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:25:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/AwardSpeechEdits
AOLchatparty1999 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:39:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I apply this for everything.
Emails at work = done
Presentations = done slide by slide
Housework = done, one section of one room at a time.
Small errands = done
It frees up so much time and stress, because I spend less time worrying about when I can do somethng. It also makes me look more efficient which is a nice bonus!
Djeheuty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:46:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Been doing this for about four years now.
It really helps keep things organized, too, because you're constantly putting things back where they came from. Once you have a clean room it also stays clean.
So much free time at the end of the week that I can game for hours without putting anything off. Or if it's nice out, I can go out on a hike without having to worry about what has to be done once I get home.
Devanismyname ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:49:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every time I go to the kitchen, I just take a dish up with me. Never have any dirty dishes down stairs anymore.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:52:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Right on!
Such a great feeling to have an uncluttered space
Homunculus_I_am_ill ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:12:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can see how that would work if you were able to do each 5 minute task as they coe up. The problem is how do you even start that? There are hundreds of things in here that would each only take 5 minutes to do right now. It's obviously not realistic to do them all. And it's not like I'm slacking, I've already done laundry, dishes, and cooked tonight. So what? Do I need to do X 5 minutes task a day? Ok but then the schedule is doing the work, not the "If it takes less than 5 minutes, do it immediately" advice.
[deleted] ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:19:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Been there dude
Donโt think too hard about it, look at the room youโre in and go for the simplest thing.
Ex. Bathroom TP needs replaced, place your toiletries standing upright. 5 mins. Boom, you feel better, donโt do anything else or youโll get overwhelmed.
Tomorrow, wipe down your sink and counters in there. Thatโs it.
If you try to do too much at first youโll overwhelm yourself and not have motivation to do more the next day.
Strive for progression, not perfection.
In a few months your cleaning tasks will be so minuscule and youโll have so much more free time with no guilt. Youโll get there :)
Edited: a word
kittynaed ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:33:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A thing each time you enter or exit a room. In the kitchen? Put away that cup and wipe off the counter while you're there. Put stuff back on the shelves when you go in the bathroom or fix that shower curtain clip real quick.
When you actually do it, it's awesome and you wind.up with a clean house without really noticing.
...I suck at actually doing it though. I admit it
Nomekop777 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:22:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But what if you have a bunch of small, repetitive tasks, each taking about 5 minutes to complete?
notevenbro ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:24:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I opened this on the couch when I was procrastinating doing the dishes. Now I have to go do them. Thanks.
K3R3G3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:26:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Picking up around the house is all about small, consistent steps. Much like managing one's cuticles."
- Dr Niles Crane
ToxicJaeger ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:02:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs crazy how much it helps. And once you start thinking like this itโs a much smaller step to โwell it will only take 5 minutes to get some part of this big project done so I might as well do It nowโ Whenever my teacher lets us relax at the end of class Iโm doing a problem or two of my math homework, or reading a few pages of a book for English, or working on some project for history. There is always something you can be working on and Iโve started realizing that Iโm at school to work so I might as well get some work done.
Dark_Irish_Beard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:06:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
After years of stressing myself out with procrastination, I started doing something like that with my work and daily habits, and it has lessened the amount of stress in my life. At the very least, I've reduced the avoidable stress, and that alone makes a huge difference.
Caty907 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:00:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Props on correct use of "less" vs. "fewer."
missmka ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:45:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if it takes less than five minutes, it may not be a priority. this is great when it comes to, yes homework, housework and stuff but at actual work- if I stopped my major work flow to attend to every email or issue because it'd only take 5minutes I would never meet my major deadlines.
sometimes also equally important to slot time in day (or two) to attending to all your "5-minute" tasks which built up during the day.
sephsplace ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:43:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can't stop playing rocket league
Gothamtonian ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or just commit to doing half the job. Youโll usually finish
benfranklyblog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:49:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless you have two toddlers and then it never ends... I sometimes get in cycles where each five minute thing chains together for several hours T.T
Pokabrows ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:54:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd also like to add, if it takes more than 5 minutes write it down somewhere so you don't forget later
the_killerwhalen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This definitely gets my first domino of productiveness pushed and before I know it Iโm looking for more chores to do
GiraffeOnWheels ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:01:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy crap I saw this on Reddit last month or something and it is actually amazing.
spicypineappleface ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:01:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
YES the five minute rule changed my life!
kierak_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:02:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I need to start doing this
HOSSY95 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:07:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought you said do less homework on the weekends. You had thinking you were a God for a second there.
SlaveMaster72 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Of course I see this as I have basic geometry homework that would probably take 2 minutes to do. But here I am...7 hours later..on Reddit..
mksound ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:17:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
YES. My girlfriend will leave stuff all over the place and always eventually clean it up, but for me the end result is 1. We live with stuff all over the place until the cleanup, and then once it's clean things accumulate again. The only time its actually clutter free is right around the big clean up.
TrashJuice59 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:19:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read this as homework but still true I bet
thephartmacist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Almost everything in my work can take less than 5 minutes. I try, but this kind of makes my day hell.
nickjaa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:26:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Excellent advice
Ex_Reddit_Lurker ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:38:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Love this one. I gained it over a year ago from an AMA with a farmer right here on Reddit! He said it was the best advice he ever got from his Dad I believe.
AliveAndThenSome ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:39:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup. Cooking fried eggs on the stove talks like 5-8 minutes. Empty (or fill) the dishwasher. Clean the coffee pot. Fold some laundry. Play with the dogs.
I feel this potential everytime I'm standing still.
mootmath ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:39:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't remember where I saw this variation but I like it rather much:
Progress is perfection.
supermicromainboard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:41:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hope my girlfriend reads this
briar5278 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:42:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
15 minutes is also effective and still holds true.
Some helpful internal monologues:
"The next 5 minutes will happen no matter what. Whether or not I spend that time being productive is up to me."
"I'm going to have to do it at some point."
"What would a disciplined person do?"
"I'll just do a little bit and come back to it later."
onizuka11 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a good cure for procrastination.
ShootEly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:56:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Today I took the 5 minutes to walk to the bus stop I transfer at instead of hopping on the bus around the corner from work.
ScrapMinotaur ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:01:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thereโs so many posts about how editing your comment like this ruins it, and you sir have just made your comment so fucking repulsive
Skeetdeedee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:14:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also if you notice something small you need to clean just do it. Right then. Otherwise it has a chance of becoming invisible to you. Went on a cleaning spree recently and found a bunch of small areas Iโd โbeen meaning to cleanโ that really added up. Took me way longer to deal with than it would have if Iโd just wiped something down or dusted when I noticed them individually. Like the spot where a candle dripped wax onto the wall. That shit became dirty cement basically. Lost a bit of paint. So stupid that I didnโt just wipe it off before it got super stuck.
stealmyrecords ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:16:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I started doing this recently without even realizing it. Quick scrub of the sink, quick wipe of the table, quick trash bag swap. My place is tidy because I just do a little bit here and there over the course of a week. It's pretty good stuff.
kea5223 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:17:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use this ALL THE TIME. and read it on Reddit.
It has genuinely helped my relationship, as I can be messy. I like to leave messes for a few days, then binge-deep-clean. Now, instead of saying I'll do the dishes tomorrow, I take 5 or less minutes to wash them which means my partner doesn't have do to it when they get home from work. Same for writing thank you notes, starting laundry, cleaning out my car, etc.
dafckingman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:34:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes. Holy shit thank you for this. I already know this is going to help me so much. I have this bad habits of piling the little quick & easy stuff down the line just because I felt like procrastinating. About time I fix that
Skrappyross ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But sweeping and laundry take more than 5 minutes...
gloryday23 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:00:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, I'd amend that to 15, though 5 is a good place to start. You'd be amazed how much cleaner you place can be with 15 focused minutes of cleaning.
iusuallylurknopost ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:29:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm constantly asked to do things that would take less than five minutes, and I mean constantly. This is why I can never get actual tasks done, and people wonder why I am so frustrated at work. It's not even like "Hey, when you're done with that, can you help me?" They walk right into wherever I am and just start asking things.
But household chores? Hell yeah, I'll do them. There's something soothing about it. Maybe because the little feelings of accomplishment add up and make up for lost productivity at work.
ghettofab ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:13:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I heard what sounded like "useless advice" at a convention conference once. The speaker said you can manage your time best in a general office setting with these 3 tips:
MiasmaFate ยท 74 points ยท Posted at 08:50:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Show up. You donโt have to be the best worker or friend. Just being the one that shows up it will mean a lot to everyone.
I got this advice from a Redditor on a post similar to this. It has help me a lot. I never participated in shit because I felt like wasnโt wanted or needed. Turns out a lot of people are self absorbed or flaky and the simple act of just being the one who shows up is monumental.
Show up to the moving party Show up to your kids events Show up to your company picnic Show up to the HOA meeting Show up to your awkward friends open mic night.
When you show up for other people they will start showing up for you.
djdogood ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:33:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I will use this thank you :3
_vestica ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:19:55 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, looking at you, mom. :(
PureEnerG ยท 316 points ยท Posted at 00:35:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you make your bed in the morning, it will help you to get started on your day and make you feel better when you get ready to go to bed at night.
Jag94 ยท 163 points ยท Posted at 03:33:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I saw a video of a Navy Commander talk about why making your bed as soon as you get out of it is so important.
The first thing you do when you wake up is stand up and get out of bed. If you make the bed, you have accomplished a task. You have succeeded. The first thing you did today was succeed at a task. Take that with you and use that success to fuel everything else you have to do for the rest of the day.
Repeat tomorrow.
Le_Graf ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 07:01:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, if I'm up, I already succeeded in my task of getting up, arguably one of the hardest task of the day!
Grunge_bob ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:39:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like a lot of people do the bed making because of that video.
gizmo777 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:54:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Admiral McRaven, commencement speech at UT Austin, class of 2014:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pxBQLFLei70
name225 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:02:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes I have also watched the video. Starting the day with a successful task makes us very motivated to complete a more difficult task
YorkshireWitch ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:35:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never make the bed AS SOON as I get out of it, I pull the covers back and open the window to air my room off. After I've had a coffee and start to get ready, THAT'S when I make my bed.
Jag94 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:17:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You do you, boo.
umfum ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:32:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If my bed is unmade, it's ready for me to hop into when I'm ready to go to sleep. Mission accomplished!
Jag94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:30:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A fellow calvin and hobbes fan, i see?
umfum ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:01:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
:D
wtfatyou ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:28:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yeah but what if you suck at making beds? Fuck hospital corners? It actually makes me feel like shit.
Jag94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:11:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get better at making beds. Its not hard to do.
wtfatyou ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:50:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
nah i'm good. I'd rather put my efforts into something else.
bdubs629 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:57:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless you have a dog that will do anything to get under the covers as soon as you make the bed.
Iโve given up
Averant ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:31:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then you have successfully given your dog a warm place to sleep and made it happier.
Kristeninmyskin ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:02:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Of I donโt make my bed first thing in the morning, there will be cat hair on my sheets!
bratschegirl17 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:41:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I don't make my bed I crawl right back in every chance I get. If I make it, I don't want to mess it up. I end up being productive instead of napping all day.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:50:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs so weird how this doesnโt apply to me. I am perfectly happy diving into a messy bed! I do like my house to appear tidy generally, so I usually make the bed, but I stopped using a top sheet so itโs insanely easy.
iwanttobelievv ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:15:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Came here for this. It instantly makes your bedroom feel cleaner and less chaotic. It also discourages me from laying back down, and it makes me feel more "together" and accomplished to prevent me from falling into the dolessness that I so desperately crave in the height of a bout of depression.
DanielFH84 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:50:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is actually bad advice for people with dust allergies. Making the bed stirs up allergens which is a bad start to the day. Although for most people it's probably good advice lol.
Grunge_bob ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:39:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What should those people do instead? Just leave it alone or fold them and put them somewhere?
Alfred_Smith ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:51:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So, the point of making your bed is to stand up, move about, and accomplish something. Find something that ticks those three boxes.
Find what cloths you want or have to wear for the day. Make breakfast. Make your lunch for the day. Get a shower. Make a deposit in the bank of porcelain.
Get up, and do something. Rather than waking as late as possible to make sure you get where you need to on time, get up slightly earlier, and get something done.
If you still feel the need to do something with your bed cloths, neaten them up. Just pull the comforter up enough to mostly cover the sheets, stack your pillows, and leave it at that.
tropicalunicorn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:23:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To be fair the alternative is to then later get into said bed that now contains accumulated allergens... Iโd rather shake the dust off in the morning and suffer the sneezing fit than have a shitty nights sleep due to a blocked nose and itchy eyes.
Also rotate pillows/change pillow cases every other day. Absolute game changer.
rdizzy1223 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:52:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck that, even at the age of 36, I will never do something as useless as making my bed. No one sees it but me and my wife anyway, and I will just mess it up with my nap/ later that day anyway.
bstump104 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:21:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like to sleep in an unkempt bed. I only make it because it looks good. If the bed is made I have to unmake it to sleep.
Finnick420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:24:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
making ur bed only takes about 15 seconds so i do it without even thinking
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:52:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
woah what, do people just leave their beds as they are after waking??
missmeliss95 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've started doing this just to see what would happen. I'm not sure how fulfilled I feel after doing a chore, but it becomes mindless and I definitely feel better in a room with a made bed. Going strong for probably a few years now.
GnuGnome ยท 368 points ยท Posted at 00:48:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slow is smooth. Smooth is fast
Dark_Irish_Beard ยท 210 points ยท Posted at 03:10:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was younger, I learned that one from an old co-worker who was former military.
Another one I like:
Amateurs practice until they get it right. Professionals until they can't get it wrong.
fazer0702 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:42:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practice doesnโt make perfect. Perfect practice makes perfect.
GuessImNotLurking ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 10:06:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practice makes permanent.
oliverrjr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:03:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have heard this before from a interview prep video
RedEagle2000 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:42:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Professionals have standards
JanusKaisar ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:08:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be polite.
RedEagle2000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:43:06 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be efficient.
Iconoclastics ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 02:03:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This advice is so smooth it's too fast.
clahey ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:40:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just posted this, but with steady instead of smooth
4tehrofl ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:52:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I heard this as "first get good, then get fast" as in, once you become proficient at a thing then you can increase the speed at which you do said thing. Prior to sufficient proficiency, any attempt at increasing your speed, usually ends in some form of disaster.
clahey ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:40:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, did/do you work on gnome?
GnuGnome ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:41:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was an enthusiast once upon a time
SpriggitySprite ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:20:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think "less haste more speed" is better.
dtal25 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:46:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My baseball coach would always say this
taylor_justinee ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:58:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad used to tell me this when I was learning to drive stick
Grunge_bob ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:42:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What does this mean?
s0getinspired ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:20:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Phil dunphy-ism
GnuGnome ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:20:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drill seargeantism, but close enough. He sounded like dr Phil
Bbzk001 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:31:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Phil dunphy is a genius
RedSpecial22 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:42:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/discgolf
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:54:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smooth is far lol. MVP for life!
RedSpecial22 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:06:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm so used to seeing it I completely misread it!
AnInfiniteRick ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:16:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice.
M0b1us0ne ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:39:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And fast is slow.
If you have to do it twice, you're doing it too fast.
denverpilot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:24:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is so good for flight students who get it... works for all sorts of physical activities that require precision, but thatโs the one I specialize in.
Well, shooting too... works there also.
LininOhio ยท 911 points ยท Posted at 01:32:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shop at Aldi's.
My mother-in-law has been all over me for years about this. I finally buckled tonight -- and spend about half as much as I usually do on groceries. Damn it.
I'm not telling her. Ever.
TrickiNicki92 ยท 212 points ยท Posted at 03:02:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Growing up, my mom would bring us kids with when she went to ALDI. I hated it. It was looked at as a "poor person's store."
Fast forward 15 years later and guess who knows all the employees and skips her happy, money-saving ass to ALDI twice a month?
They've made leaps and bounds the past few years, but there are a few things I still prefer to buy elsewhere.
However.
Those chocolate-dipped, crushed candy cane coated mint patties I can only find at Christmas?
Oh yeah. I'll be ALDI's bitch for those.
witnge ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 06:14:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How is Aldi a poor person's store? You need a coin to even get a trolley to shop there.
I love aldi but they don't do online shopping for home delivery which is what my time poor self tends to use a lot these days.
I'm always keeping an eye on the special buys though and I'll make a specific trip for the right sale. I'm gettonga sewing cabinet this weekend!
Edit: typos on mobile
TrickiNicki92 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:52:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ALDI has changed its image a lot recently, but nearly 20 years ago, that's just how it was seen in my area. Once GM left, a lot of people changed their tune and it's really popular now.
saladninja ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:02:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Samesies on the sewing cabinet! I was totally bummed I couldn't get one when I got my sewing machine there last year.
BoksmantheMighty ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 06:17:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aldi is the only place anywhere near me I can buy Jaffa Cakes. They only have them at certain times in the year, but I make sure to stick up on them.
ileisen ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:39:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude. Where do you live where you can only get Jaffa cakes certain times of the year? That sounds like a special kind of hell
BoksmantheMighty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:11:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ohio
alltheseusernamesare ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:00:14 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Find any Polish store/deli and go get yourself some Delicje. They have them year round.
rick_ts ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:32:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ALDI is the best store ever. Even as a kid in those stores i loved the 'vibe' that they had. so relaxing.
RottenLB ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:56:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sadly we don't have ALDI here. It sucks, because when I was visiting my girlfriend in Dresden, I used to shop there all the time.
TrickiNicki92 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 12:56:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would drop dead without an ALDI. Are you okay? Do you need Life Alert?
RottenLB ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:00:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, I'm making due with Lidl now :) Not that good, but not bad either.
TrickiNicki92 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:00:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What in the world is Lidl?
alltheseusernamesare ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:02:24 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a European grocery store. Very similar to Aldi.
PennyLaneinaChevyVan ยท 52 points ยท Posted at 02:44:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aldi has saved me so much money and over all the products are good quality in my experience.
mechlinoid ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 02:57:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Check out the non-food items there too. My husband and I have gotten some nice items there. My work-mom calls them zingers.
Monsoon_Storm ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 04:16:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That aisle is designed to suck you dry of all of the money you saved...
โOh! A sleeping bag for ยฃ10! That will be handy if I fancy a spot of wild camping this summer!โ (Even though you bloody hate camping)
tropicalunicorn ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:49:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Their camping stuff is awesome! Affordable quality, and their cast iron pots and pans are a steal compared to camping stores.
Naltoc ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:59:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most of it is worse quality than the brand named stuff, but better than regular offbrand stuff. I love their stuff for unannounced guests (air mattresses, sleeping bags etc) and their non-powertools are better than harbor freight for the same price or lower.
And the amount of flower buds, seeds ec I have bought through the years is ridiculous xD
CubLeo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:30:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ooh, i came in for eggs and milk amd came away woth a circular saw!! Thanks Aldi
WhatAGoodDoggy ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 04:52:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
'The Middle Aisle of Mystery!'
Rising_Swell ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:43:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They built an Aldi near me, and first time in that aisle I lost it. Want to know where to buy ceiling fans in Aldi? Chances are, inbetween the wheel chairs and the 60 inch TV. Also just across from the lawn mower.
Shielder ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 11:02:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
First time I went in they had scaffolding and a band saw next to furry slippers
wordsalad1 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 12:36:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
the Aisle of Temptation
GMY0da ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 04:05:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trader Joe's is an Aldi company iirc
Mc_Robit ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 05:00:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You are correct
Trader Joe's is a subsidiary of German supermarket chain ALDI Nord
We don't have Aldi where I live, but we do have Trader Joe's. I started going there and cut my food bill way down. And their Orange Chicken is the shit!
damnatio_memoriae ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:31:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
trader joeโs is fucking great. but i donโt think anyone would view it as a poor personโs store. at least not where i live.
alltheseusernamesare ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:06:00 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aldi Nord (North) owns Trader Joe's, but all the actual Aldi stores in the US are owned by Aldi Sud (South). They are owned by brothers and for all intents and purposes are independent companies.
zayap18 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:52:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aldi in the US is owned by Aldi Sud. Totally different merchandise, company, and shopping experience.
zayap18 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:52:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a different Aldi. Aldi broke up into Aldi Nord and Aldi Sud. One owns Aldi in the US, the other Trade Joe's.
ken-4 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 02:54:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You should tell her before she finds out herself and bullies you about it for the rest of your days
LininOhio ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 03:16:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm planning "Oh, yeah, I've been shopping there a while. Didn't you recommend them? I think I remember that."
FondSteam39 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:44:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or the old "have you heard how cheap Aldi is?
Garfield-1-23-23 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:23:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like goat cheese but it is too friggogin expensive at $5 for a little log of it. $2 a log at Aldi's.
LPT, though: soak some chopped herbs in a little rice vinegar and mix it into a bar of neuchatel cheese instead of using goat cheese. $1 for twice as much and I actually prefer this to goat cheese now.
plzstap ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:08:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude! I'm so trying this! Thank you!
lexrhino92 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:25:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to make fun of one of my relatives for only shopping at Aldi and being cheap. Now itโs me, since Iโve been out of college, I have been a HUGE Aldi advocate. I recommend it to anyone and everyone. I love saving money and we donโt need much else from other stores.
ALDI. IS. THE. BEST.
Rhapsodos7 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:14:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aldi has been a life saver for my girlfriend and I. We go once every 2 weeks and buy enough essentials till our next payday. We walk out of there spending between $125-$150 and that's being SET on food and supplies. Love that store.
beaplagg ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:19:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aldi saves you so much money and there's really no disadvantage. My mom is so sad that there isn't one near where we live now, we used it all the time where we used to be.
holyfark ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:16:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Huh, I've been meaning to check out our local Aldi's for ages. It's grocery shopping weekend and now I'm more motivated to try it. Thanks!
APenNameAndThatA ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:41:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is so fucking true. Everyone is short of cash but shops at Woolies and Coles. WTF?
AdministrativeMoment ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:38:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hello fellow aldi shopper :) same goes for Lidl though, both way cheaper then AH, Spar, Jumbo, etc.
bewareamascara ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:44:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you from Michigan? Adding an apostrophe and s to the end of grocery stores (e.g. "Kroger's") is a very upper midwest thing to do. I love it.
8one6 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:31:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Other than pre-sliced olives (I'm willing to spend the extra $.50 a can) I get as many of my groceries as I can at ALDI.
RinnelSpinel ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 03:02:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone tells me this but the Aldi here is so awful. Everything is so close to the expiration date it's basically going bad before you even get it home. The selection is so ridiculously small compared to other stores. It may be a great place somewhere else but man ours is crap, never again.
LininOhio ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 03:15:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We have two in our area and the first one I went to was awful -- which is mostly why I was so resistant. But the other one, that I checked out tonight, is pretty nice. I mostly needed staples -- ingredients for 10 batches of chocolate chip cookies for the high school play concession stand -- and I saved a ton.
nopropulsion ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:23:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My Aldi used to be like that. The selection was terrible and I'd never get produce unless I was using it right away.
Then they remodeled, now it is amazing. I get most of my shopping done there.
CardboardMice ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:53:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We use our regular grocery store for meat and some produce. Itโs nice to buy the bulk of our food for a fraction of the price. They carry a lot more organic items now as well.
Kunphen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:11:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is what I've been wondering - organics. The one time I tried Aldi there was very little so not worth it to me.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:23:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We don't have those in my state ๐
Permtacular ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 06:21:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me neither, but we do have WinCo and theyโre not too bad.
Ohmannothankyou ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:43:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See also: Grocery Outlet
rockidol ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:19:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is it a pride thing or a "she'll never stop saying I told you so" thing?
Either way you could tell about it and act like it was your idea.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:35:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs just โALDIโ
obscureferences ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:26:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah but some things are worse quality. You pay for it somewhere.
gretzkyandlemieux ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 02:57:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to feel this way but I'm finding they've upped their game. Organic veggies and meat for less than the price of non-organic down the street. Better diapers at 1/3 the cost. Better fizzy water than LaCroix at half the price. Better high protein ice creamthan Halo Top for $3/pint.
Total Aldi devotee.
Edit: where you pay for it is in returning your own cart, bagging your own groceries, and the shelves being somewhat disorganized because they have such a small staff.
AD1066 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 03:23:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't forget the pseudo Girl Scout cookies. At $1.35 a box, the Samoas are threatening to ruin my life.
SpeakItLoud ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:26:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait. Do they have tagalongs? Because tagalongs are the shit.
AD1066 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 15:12:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah! Theyโre not as good as the real thing, but much cheaper and available year-round. I think the brand is called Bentonโs.
The Samoas are pretty close though and I canโt stop buying the damn things.
SpeakItLoud ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:01:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh hell yes.
gretzkyandlemieux ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:26:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The one near me has started carrying vinyl records occasionally. Got Pearl Jam Ten remastered and ACDC Back in Black for $8.
2called_chaos ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:41:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well we have to do this with every grocery market so no loss in that regard. But the shelves here are organized, way much more so than in other markets it feels like. Also the ALDI employees here are FAST at the cash register. And I really appreciate this because one of the biggest markets in Germany (ReWe) seemingly only employs people like this and it makes my blood boil every time I need to get something from there.
I also remember back in the days ALDI was like the last super market to introduce scanners at the cash register and they hit the keys so fast, I'm still jealous that I'm nowhere near as fast let alone be able to remember the codes for everything. Unfortunately I can't find a video because I guess it was before the era of YouTube.
gretzkyandlemieux ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:25:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah the speed of the Aldi checkers is impressive. It seems like they have their registers better set up to weigh things quickly and to input multiples of the same item faster than other places.
Or they just hire for speed.
2called_chaos ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:14:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
From what I've heard they have quotas (900something scans per day, depends on the location I guess) and one said they got fired for being too slow.
Rising_Swell ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:46:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cut the price of my shampoo and condition down by 75% because the Aldi knockoff brand just happens to be imitating the stuff i was using before, and it imitates it damn well.
Monsoon_Storm ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:19:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You donโt normally bag your own groceries and return your own cart? What kind of supermarket utopia do you live near?
gretzkyandlemieux ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:22:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chicago. I've never been anywhere in the States that didn't have baggers and someone corraling carts in the parking lot at your average grocery store.
Monsoon_Storm ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:28:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah, in the UK we do that shit ourselves.
We have to return the trolley to get our ยฃ1 back. (You need to insert ยฃ1 to unlock a trolley). This was mostly down to young idiots or drunk idiots chucking trolleys in rivers for a laugh, or stealing them for random reasons like using them to transport drunken mates home.
gretzkyandlemieux ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:39:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
At Aldi you deposit a quarter... Just enough to bother to return the cart.
Most grocery stores without this system have wheels that lock if you take them off premises.
WhatAGoodDoggy ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 04:53:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Half the produce goes bad while you're waiting in the line to purchase your groceries. Never enough registers open.
B34ND1P ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:50:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So youโre a big fan of Aldiโs?
Aldiโs nuts on your chin
smackjack ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:29:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If only the people that worked there knew anything about customer service. The people that work at my local Aldi are rude and not helpful at all.
Kunphen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:10:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do they have organic anything?
highsociety69 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:18:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
๐so me.... i walked in there two weeks ago and couldnโt believe how ๐ dead wrong I have been ๐คฆ๐ปโโ๏ธMy bad!
FreddoSavage ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 07:21:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt do this! Their meat and produce has large amounts of plastic in them. Consume at your own risk, there has been a scandal about it
ShrikeGFX ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 08:56:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The one thing I would not cheap out on is food. Many things in Aldis are as good as the others but 30% is definitely not. I wouldnt get cheap meat, you really don't know what happens behind the curtains. Especially chicken. Double that if you live in america with way less regulations and control of goods.
TheOne-SidedCoin ยท 1267 points ยท Posted at 01:52:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instead of saying, "I'm sorry for being late," or something,
say, "thank you for being patient"
Didn't realize the effect that could have on people, and instead of putting yourself down, you bring another up.
[deleted] ยท 119 points ยท Posted at 03:56:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
This seems presumptuous... What if they were super annoyed and were not being patient at all because you should have been on time? Then it just sounds passive aggressive.
EDIT: Please stop replying to this. I've had so many different people explain this to me in so many different ways. I get it. I understand now. Thanks.
[deleted] ยท 80 points ยท Posted at 04:22:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Say "Thank you so much for waiting for me" in an apologetic tone. It's also alright to say sorry AND thank you. "I'm really sorry for being late, and thank you for waiting for me."
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MiddleAgeMulaBaby ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:49:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would disagree. I remember reading somewhere, whenever you use the phrase โthank you for waitingโ in the other persons mind their first thought isnโt โwow what a nice guyโ but actually โyes I was waitingโ which increases their frustration they had to wait on you at any point because it reminds them they were waiting. I said this before but again, thatโs why itโs best to simply say โthank you for your time.โ Phrasing can lead to a negative experience in the other persons head. Kind of weird but it makes sense.
PhlightYagami ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:12:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for your patience.
It's basically a compliment that deflects their attention away from your lack of punctuality.
ThisAfricanboy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:16:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man and woman
Man and woman marry
Man cheats
Woman: Why would you do this?
Man:
I'm so sorry honey I messed upThank you for uhh... Thanks.Timmichanga1 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:47:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a lawyer. Was five minutes late to a status hearing before a Judge once. Tried this. Judge responded, "you assume I was being patient or waiting for you."
This is one of those things Reddit likes to push that just doesn't work in real life. Just admit you screwed up and apologize for being late. If they actually waited for you or dismiss it as not a big deal, then you can thank them for their patience or understanding.
LessMidRange ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:15:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Say the thank you part and then your excuse will sound that much more okay to them instead of โsorry Iโm lateโ hereโs why. The latter sounds like you are trying to cover your tracks and the former sounds like you are taking responsibility and respecting their time. Subtle but it has worked many times for me.
WreakingHavoc640 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:05:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also validate their probable feelings about/reaction to you being late.
โIโm so sorry Iโm late. There was a huge accident on the freeway and the police detoured everyone a half mile out of the way. I know how frustrating it is though when a meeting doesnโt start on time, so I really appreciate your patience. Thank you so much.โ
I always end with for example thanking them for their patience. If you know them well and they arenโt too perturbed you can throw in a โyou guys are amazingโ or โyou guys are the bestโ at the end.
To add to what you said, it doesnโt matter if they were patient. You say that and show gratitude and that makes them the good guys. People are funny, they could have been disgruntled and impatient but people want to think of themselves in a good light, so they might end up downplaying negative emotions afterward and remembering more โhey I was patientโ. Especially since people might be crabby but those feelings can fizzle out quickly, and leaving them with a good taste in their mouths about themselves is a great way to put out any smoldering embers of crabbiness.
MiddleAgeMulaBaby ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:15:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree. Thatโs why I was taught to say โThank you for your timeโ when you have someone waiting for a long period on you. You are not thanking them for a positive gesture that you tried forcing on them, youโre thanking them for the their very time which is extremely valuable.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:38:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah i like that better
Mysterious_Lesions ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:40:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not. It's about turning your bad thing into a virtue for them.
I used to be a serial apologizer (yes, I'm Canadian, but that's besides the point) until I realized that this was actually impacting other's perception of the quality of my work.
ZebraEqualsZebra ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:29:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โthank you for waitingโ also works
Gets_overly_excited ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for not punching me
BadLuckShui ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:20:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The idea behind this is that you aren't waiting for them to complain. You're entering, late, and immediately thanking them for their patience. If you can be sincere about apologizing for being late, then I should hope you can be sincere about thanking them for waiting.
It's more likely to put them into a better mood than just apologizing. An apology focuses on what you did wrong; thanking them for what they did (wait [patiently or not]) or apologizing and thanking them focuses on what they did "right".
spicewoman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:25:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You'd think so, but people love to have positive attributes applied to themselves. The trick is to be really sincere with your apology, but also like you truly think they are an awesome person for not flipping out about the situation. As a server of many, many years, I've seen so many tables getting visibly annoyed and worked up about waiting for something, only to smile and relax when I come over to thank them for being "so patient." As long as you catch them before they've started to verbally express their impatience to you, they'll almost always try to adjust to meet the "good" attributes you've ascribed to them, and are reluctant to prove you wrong by acting "impatient" about it now. There's a limit to it, of course, but used sparingly it's magic. It's not even about them hiding/not expressing their feelings, it literally shifts their focus to what good people they are and how nice it feels to be acknowledged, and they generally have a much better overall experience!
Keplz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:57:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I say thank you for your patience. Rather than assuming someone was being patient the whole time then it's thanking whatever patience they did have while waiting even if they got impatient.
SUPERARME ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 04:05:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe I am kind if an ass, but It has the opoosite effect on me. โI am not being patient, I am stuck here until you showed upโ
But that is because I have this thing with people who is late.
TheOne-SidedCoin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:13:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It depends on the situation. Sometimes, yeah. Be a little aggressive so they learn their lesson. Other times, like with friends, be more uplifting of others. It'll improve relations with that person.
[deleted] ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 04:46:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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TheOne-SidedCoin ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:52:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is certainly a view on it. And I respect it. I said before to another person. It's situational. With friends, maybe you use this advice. When in more serious situations, definitely apologize.
BI1nky ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:35:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A meaningless sorry and move on doesn't show that it respects your time. Recognizing that they wasted at least part of your time shows that they at least consider it.
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:04:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This phrase infuriates me. Probably because it's most often uttered by companies leaving me on hold for an hour who most definitely do not value my patience or time.
engunneer2 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:45:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Related, be true to yourself too. For me, it changed from: "I'm sorry, traffic was bad" to "I'm so didn't plan for traffic". The seem like the same thing but they're actually quite different. Spend enough time admitting to yourself why you're actually late and you'll be motivated to fix it. Spend time blaming others and it won't change.
yaminokaabii ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:32:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ever since I first read this piece of advice, I noticed how damn often I start with the sorrys. I do at least follow up with a "thanks for X", still trying to put that first.
TheOne-SidedCoin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:33:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Knowing is half the battle. And everyone starts somewhere.
kaeladurden ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:41:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think you would like this book if you haven't already read it.
ovie_a ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:06:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmmm. This is a good advise. Thank you
CCriscal ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:17:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am not buying that. Sounds to me like "thank you for your understanding" after a very long stretch of a construction site in the highway with no workers working on it currently - a big presumptuous expectation.
brian_lopes ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:17:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This one is a no go. You are trying to turn your disrespect for someoneโs time (being late) on them. There is a reason phrases like this are used in customer service - itโs to deflect from the company. If you are good with people you wonโt say this
WhatAGoodDoggy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:50:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe I'm missing the point. I don't think you should be trying to make others feel better about your lateness. You shouldn't be late in the first place.
Maybe you should make this thinking a pair: saying thanks for being patient while at the same time, internally make a note to really not be late next time.
If someone said 'thanks for being patient' multiple times it would make me think that they're doing nothing to correct their selfish behaviour.
As you might guess, I really don't like lateness. I would much rather be 15 minutes early than 2 minutes late.
TheOne-SidedCoin ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:53:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I meant it as a generalization. Not just with lateness, but with other things as well. But yes, that is a good point.
EastOfHope ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:26:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Small tip but use "waiting" instead of "being patient".
Thanking someone for being patient implies they are otherwise impatient.
TheOne-SidedCoin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:29:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you. That's a good point.
PhlightYagami ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:16:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Thank you for waiting" reminds them of the negative experience. "Thank you for your patience" deflects from your punctuality while complimenting a positive trait of theirs.
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WhyIsTheMoonThere ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:24:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Highly depends on context. If I said this to my supervisor when I'm late she'd be fuming.
stiveooo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:35 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this is a standard in Japan every service worker says it "omataseshimashita"
discoverysol ยท 296 points ยท Posted at 01:25:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be vulnerable! My therapist encouraged me to watch this this ted talk by Brene Brown. When I first heard that I thought something along the lines of โwell thatโs stupid... thatโs how you get hurtโ
Now, a year later, I feel much closer to the people important to me, and rather than being hurt, Iโve become much more open and happy in all areas of my life.
TheNakedBass ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:40:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for posting this. It's given me some food for thought. Now I'm gonna gonna go have a drink and a banana nut muffin.
Concumber ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:56:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lmao my therapist made me watch this too.
richardrichard190 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:41:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i found this same ted talk through Tessa Violet and it honestly helped me so much
wibblywobblyrebel ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:21:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We were just talking about Brene at group therapy tonight. She has some really good videos about blame and empathy on YouTube, and I think she has a show on Netflix now.
christyb27 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:00:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Netflix just put up a Brene Brown special on vulnerability. Good stuff.
This_n_that01 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:03:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
She's so amazing, I love her stuff. I'm looking forward to watching the Netflox special when I finish my assignment.
Ipee_when_I_Sneeze ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:51:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for sharing this
The1LJM ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:22:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That was great, thanks for sharing.
lokowoko ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:48:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being vulnerable is a risk/reward sort of thing, if you're vulnerable to the wrong person they will use that against you.
discoverysol ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:47:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, but not being vulnerable to the right person means there are a lot of relationships you miss out on
PM_ME_UR_LESBIAN_OTP ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:20:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also follow ed this advice and am much happier. My life changed and not all people are still close to me and yet nobody hurt me because i opened up
yarnbending ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just finished reading Daring Greatly by her and it focuses on this. Fantastic read!
jmorelan9 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:27:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow thank you that was great!!!!
kittytoes21 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:58:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love her, she has several good tedtalks
dudeleburger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:09:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm literally heading in the absolute opposite direction to this. I am vulnerable and open and it fucks me in every possible way.
ehmergerdthrowaway ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:07:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, 'be vulnerable' blanket advice sucks. It's situational. But people like catchy short phrases, so...
TheSoulOfTheRose ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:36:00 on May 17, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nope. Trust no one. Never. Ever.
lolyboi ยท 395 points ยท Posted at 01:30:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mine was. Pretend to be sleeping untill you eventually do
eldest_gruff ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 03:34:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom would tell me a version of this when I was kid. When I couldn't sleep, and sometimes when I just wanted to stay up late, she would tell me to go lie in bed with my eyes closed. Worked every damn time, and I still use it to this day when I have trouble sleeping.
Eruskakkell ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 06:36:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But don't you normally lie in bed with eyes closed when you're trying to sleep anyways?
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Eruskakkell ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:45:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting.
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:45:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Our mother always told us: it's okay if you can't sleep, just close your eyes and open them again in the morning.
fugnuggetino ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:10:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My brother offered that as a solution when he was small too.
"You know how I fall to sleep? I just shut my eyes for a reaaaaally long time!"
Cheemps ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:41:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, I try to pretend sleeping in case my parents sleep so I can use my phone... but I slept.
Mybuttfelloff ยท 182 points ยท Posted at 01:46:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When youโre stressed, make a to do list. I was always like, I KNOW WHAT NEEDS TO GET DONE I JUST CANT DO IT ALL. But if you write it down it doesnโt have to all live in your brain and you can focus
[deleted] ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:15:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So much satisfaction in crossing things off that list!
Spasay ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:16:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh man, it's so true and I realize it now because I stopped doing it for a while. I need to start doing this again: I have a notebook on my desk. I write the date and the week number at the top and what needs to be accomplished short term (that day or week) and long term (that month or term). Crossing out stuff on that list felt good and also kept me from spiraling into stress. Since I stopped doing that, I've been forgetting things and letting work pile up. Bad me. So bad.
Hexipo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:33:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This literally does the opposite to me - I guess people are different. A list stresses me the fuck out.
I just pick one, say : โright thatโs just one thingโ
Do it. Then repeat. And all your jobs are gone.
hfuga ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:31:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lists help me SO MUCH and it took me until I was 26 to finally figure it out.
Even if I have 100 things to do (literally), writing it all down and crossing it out as it's done is so satisfying and decreases me stress by at least half.
Buildingscience101 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:10:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes you populate the list too much and arenโt able to complete it. You should mark the tasks that are high priority, medium, and low. So you donโt waste all day working on things that donโt matter right now and avoid pressing problems.
F1U3C5K-You ยท 324 points ยท Posted at 23:55:46 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think before you speak
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[deleted] ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:01:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"The jerk store called....."
DullestOrphan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:01:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They want you to work there or something?
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:04:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They're all out of you you filthy casual
Grunge_bob ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:42:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
same and i tend to kick myself for not dropping the jokes during the conversation / meeting cause i tend to obsess about being the funny guy.
F1U3C5K-You ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:26:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same for me and Iโm like dammit I could have said that specific word
YellowRedBetter ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:37:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read before you think.
TimX24968B ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:02:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
fuck, spent too much time thinking, they changed topic. my thoughts can't keep up with the conversation, what do i do
calsosta ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:53:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You never thought to think before?
I guess that makes sense.
Stargate525 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:17:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mentally saying the entire sentence I'm going to say before I start has saved me so many times.
PeachWorms ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:53:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Remembering to think about thinking is sometimes actually pretty hard in the moment
PeachWorms ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:55:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And then when you do remember to slow down the speaking the ol' social anxiety will take over & it's a million thoughts in a split second & then the wrong thing will come outta your mouth anyway. Being human is weird.
uselessbirb ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:16:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My brain read both your username and your comment at the same time and ended up with "Fuck before you speak".
F1U3C5K-You ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:18:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol you made me Laugh take 1 upvote
IllegalAlcoholic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:25:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always have to do that since Iโve been living in the United States just for two years and English is not my first language.
MrPoints ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is that you, John?
2called_chaos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:26:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do I know what I think before I hear what I say?
5aligia ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:22:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No you
PAL6000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:52:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for your helpful comment u/F1U3C5K-You
F1U3C5K-You ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:53:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your welcome
rwraae ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 03:46:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thinking before speaking is like wiping before taking a shit.
ShesFunnyThatWay ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:25:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
remember when Heather Heyer's mother said that to trump way back in 2017? yeah.
willcorrectu ยท 121 points ยท Posted at 01:47:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have nausea, suck on an ice cube. The nausea will go down. Source :Mom Always listen to your mom people.
atriptolalaland ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:51:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Peppermint candy works too!
Mattturley ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:16:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Came to say this. Prescription Zofran is amazing, but I only get about half of what I need a month. Peppermints everywhere!
satansbukkake ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:17:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh my god zofran is an absolute life saver
professorwlovesme ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:47:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Especially the ODT kind!
KarmaKarnan ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:25:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
FTFY
TinyCatCrafts ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:01:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This helps if you're feeling faint, too. I donated blood and got really dizzy and ended up being given ice chips to chew on and it helped a lot.
Zefrem23 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:54:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sniff an alcohol swab, that also works well
YorkshireWitch ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:42:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, if you feel you're about to vomit, apparently humming helps to suppress the immediate need.
Direktorius ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:55:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Humming a song to yourself helps too. Especially with motion sickness
willcorrectu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:32:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did not know this.. I'm pregnant so it won't be long before I would have to try this.
Direktorius ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:17:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
disclaimer: it helps me with motion sickness in cars/planes/trains. Cant really get pregnant, so no idea on effects on that
hfuga ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:32:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It hurts my teef :(
willcorrectu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:41:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep on spitting it out after about 2-3 seconds then try again.. The little trickle of cool water down your throat feels great, trust me.
LooseLeaf24 ยท 61 points ยท Posted at 02:10:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a curved shower curtain rod
wryan18 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:56:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im curious, why?
CaesarsMilkyGoat ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 09:45:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Makes your shower feel MUCH larger.
wryan18 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:45:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting. Will have to give this a try
LooseLeaf24 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:45:18 on May 16, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You wont regret it.
Mine was less thab 40 dollars on amazon. Will never go back
LooseLeaf24 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:44:39 on May 16, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im 6 ft 185lb, the extra inches arw amazing and the curtain doesnt get close to you and stick to your body.
skynetempire ยท 575 points ยท Posted at 01:32:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad, " dont marry that women because she has mental issues". i listened. About 3 years later i found out she was on trial for murdering her husband.
Jlacosse6082 ยท 106 points ยท Posted at 04:07:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well shit.
DancingBear2020 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:41:32 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So, sheโs available?
elpresidente-4 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:21:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What kind of issues/signs was he seeing?
skynetempire ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 21:03:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't know it at that time but he saw how manipulative she was. He heard us arguing one time, he said how cruel she was and how there was no compromising with her. He also said she flips everything back on me. One time she threaten to hurt her self if i didn't do what she wanted. I was 18 at the time and i thought i was in love. So one day she said wanted to get married asap to stop my family from getting in the middle of things. My dad forbid it. I told him he had no fucking idea what he was talking about. We argued but In the end i listened and broke it off with her. I resented my dad for a few months, untill i found she was with someone else getting married. 3 years later, my father calls me says " hey i saved your life". I was like what are you talking. He told me she was on trial for murder. I looked it up and yeah. She stabbed him in his sleep because he was going to file divorce.
SanderTheSleepless ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:58:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tldr: Dad dadding daddily, saving kiddo from crazy.
cashcapone96 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:13:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Woah.
bjoe1443 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 10:16:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That can be read 2 ways. Was it "don't marry her just because she has mental issues" or was it more like "She has mental issues. Don't marry her"?
ovie_a ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:07:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn! You dodged a bullet
Jaxlee2018 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:46:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโll add to that : Donโt fk crazy. Youโll never be able to leave.
Grimreap32 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:24:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did you dodge a bullet, a knife or other?
UniqueUsername718 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:52:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. Listen to your family and friends who you know, from years of experience, have your back over a person newer to your life-especially a romantic interest. If I had listened it would have saved me so much pain. But I learned that lesson well.
stiveooo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:48:15 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
love can make you blind and hinder your crazy radar
Freevoulous ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 08:57:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
honestly, if you are a dude, there is no reason to marry at all. The downsides outweigh the upsides many times over.
cashcapone96 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:53:59 on May 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You sir, are correct.
tempski ยท -49 points ยท Posted at 05:47:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I follow the same rule.
Once I find out someone has mental issues be it depression, anxiety, bipolar issues or anything like that, I run the other way.
vevmx3 ยท 42 points ยท Posted at 06:07:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think thatโs a little unfair. If they are seeking treatment and putting forth an effort to treat their illness, itโs no reason to dip out on someone. They are actively trying to make their lives better, which is admirable.
If they use you as a crutch or start to say things along to lines of โI canโt live without youโ, tell them it is unacceptable and then if no progress is made thatโs when you should go.
I think itโs unfair to leave someone because of an illness. Mental illness can actually be a good thing, if they are seeking treatment. They may end up helping you to become a happier person along with them.
aVarangian ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:43:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
honestly, imo if someone has their life being a total mess, be it from mental issues or none at all, that someone is in no condition to have a partner and shouldn't even be trying before having fixed their own life
greyspot00 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:17:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Harsh but true. You need to be your own person and have the big issues sorted out before you consider joining up with another person, complete with their own set of struggles.
I'm not saying be perfect first, but be stable and have a good record for being consistent.
tempski ยท -30 points ยท Posted at 06:56:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Life is unfair.
I'm not a therapist and I don't want the burden of guiding someone through their issues. I feel bad for them, but I don't want to end up in prison because some crazy chick thinks it's funny to call the cops at 3 am because I didn't want to go get her some ice cream in the middle of the night.
Trust me, bipolar chicks are not worth it.
Best sex I ever had though. The crazier they are, the better they are in bed.
ev710 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 08:14:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That last line solidifies you as a troll. Bravo, you fooled us all
tempski ยท -10 points ยท Posted at 08:25:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not sure how old you are, but I speak from years of experience. Loony girls will do things in bed that normal chicks will never do.
If you believe I'm trolling you obviously haven't been with some crazy girls yourself.
ev710 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:27:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
havent been with a girl at all, but if you wont be with a girl because of anxiety thats enough evidence even if thats unrelate
tempski ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 08:55:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I say "be with", I'm talking about a relationship.
Booty calls or a ONS are a whole different story.
If you're a virgin, what do you know about girls exactly?
ev710 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:57:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bro I never said I knew anything about girls but that line kinda rocketed you to the troll line, the way it was said combined with the other things you said
TheDudeMachine ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 06:32:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, fuck that noise. Tried that one time with a girl who was fucking nuts. Only lasted 2 months until I couldn't handle all the insane gaslighting and using depression as a crutch to make me feel like shit. Never again.
[deleted] ยท 57 points ยท Posted at 02:18:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think positive thoughts before you go to bed.
Seems like inane horseshit but damn if it doesn't positively influence sleep, which influences life. Now I have a whole post-sleep relaxation routine and the shit that has improved in my life is amazing.
problike30thacct ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:23:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please elaborate on the routine if you dont mind, I'm interested.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:19:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always make sure to have really clean pillows, blankets and sheets. Clear your room of all pointless clutter.
When laying down to bed, budget a solid 5 minutes where you do nothing but close your eyes and visualize good, uplifting things. Either things that have happened, or things you want to happen.
Then, you'll go to sleep but what you're really doing is training your brain towards happiness and away from involuntary negative thoughts.
Go to youtube and browse 'sleep' or 'meditation' or 'soundscape' videos, find one that you like and use that to start with. I also use a white noise machine.
Lt_H_Anderson ยท 116 points ยท Posted at 01:50:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using a stool to lift my feet into a squatting position to poo. What a difference!
Mysterious_Lesions ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 04:45:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Squatty potty.
Also, the last time I bought a toilet, I looked for a high one thinking I'm aging and it would be easier to get on and off.
Seriously regret it. Lower is better for the obvious reason (alluded to above), but also cause I avoid getting numb in my legs from sitting where the seat is pushing up into my thighs.
kevlar-vest ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 15:21:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A stool stool, if you will
Mr-Yoghurt ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:15:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does it give you extra torque?
JohnGenericDoe ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 11:01:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Straightens out the poop-chute
SanderTheSleepless ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:07:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You have a muscle near your poop chute which restricts the movement of your poop. Squatting will relax this muscle and allow for smooth poop chuting.
Ziffinon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:10:47 on May 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
>poop chuting
poetry
Slick_Grimes ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 21:41:11 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Squatty potty is amazing but you want next level? Get a $20 bidet off Amazon too. God tier defecation experience.
Lt_H_Anderson ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:50:31 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've definitely been interested in bidets after reading about them on reddit. Never thought of Amazon though, of course!
4x4taco ยท 587 points ยท Posted at 01:31:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tide TO GO Pen. Thought they were stupid. Tried one yesterday after spilling on my t-shirt. Mother fucker worked like a charm. WOW. Changed man.
CeramicLicker ยท 73 points ยท Posted at 02:18:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I bought one when I spilled coffee on a new white sweater, and wow! It sounds very hail corporate, but for someone whoโs a mess itโs really saved a lot of clothes.
343WheatleySpark ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 03:25:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was literally a cheap college student, and one time there was a Tide bottle that was at the laundromat lost and found for weeks, I happened to have run out of my el-cheapo wash liquid and borrowed a cup. (I put a dollar under the bottle)
That wash was the freshest laundry I've ever smelled. I've bought tide and Tide pods ever since. It's more expensive, but immediately worth it.
terminbee ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:31:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tide pods are pretty expensive compared to just powder. My mom swears by ride though. I don't get it. They should all be just soap but apparently tide is the best.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:05:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have been a wife and Mom for a long time and Tide is the best, hands down.
TehGogglesDoNothing ยท 64 points ยท Posted at 03:48:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a Tide ad.
CNWDI_Sigma_1 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 12:16:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it works, no problem โ the Tide SMM guy or girl found the right place and time to place this, so weโll forgive them.
If it doesnโt, there will be negative comments and the comment will be downvoted, so no big deal.
theawkwarddev ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:55:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I knew this thread was a Tide Ad
/s
4x4taco ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:03:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Heh.
jakkofclubs121 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 03:50:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just broke down and got this bottle of stain remover that was on some BuzzFeed shopping list and I shit you not, after soaking a dried in grease stain with it for a couple of days it actually got it out. It's also gotten like car oil out of shirts and pants that had been set as well as old blood stains. I've already got a refill pouch in my cart for my next order. Anything that helps me feel less like a disgusting slob is a win in my book.
dorkvader_ ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:44:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what's it called?
jakkofclubs121 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:48:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Puracy natural stain remover. It's an enzyme thing
dorkvader_ ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:43:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
thanks, will check it out.
Pavomuticus ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:07:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I absolutely relied on these when I made gelato and led a coffee stand during my downtime at the same job. Eventually when I was given my chef jacket I was able to ditch the white shirts, but everyone had to wear these white long-sleeve button downs and that originally included me. The fucking stains were out of this world - between coffee and all the add-ons for that, and the ingredients that went into the gelato, it was the worst idea to give us white shirts. I always had a Tide pen and lent it out all day long to panicking coworkers. Seriously good item to have.
phuntastikbobby ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:40:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't use one that you've had for years, though. They smell way worse than whatever you spilled looks like.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:10:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You just reminded me I spilled on my sweater today and I need to get out of bed and wash it so it doesn't stain.
bananasplz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:05:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what is a Tide TO GO Pen?
OGMcSwaggerdick ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:21:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs shaped like a marker and contains detergent or spot removing solution or something and the felt tip is rather sturdy so you can really work it in. They do tend to get the job done too. Keep one in your car and you might save a shirt or two. This is a tide ad /s
4x4taco ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:03:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's a "pen" that has a bit of Tide in it that you can use to scratch out/remove stains on the fly.
https://tide.ca/en-ca/shop/type/stain-removers/tide-to-go
bananasplz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:32:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ah cool. I am not familiar with Tide, so couldnโt figure it out haha
th3guitarman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:31:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Didnโt have to change, man.
4x4taco ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:02:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Improved man?
katietheplantlady ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:34:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
keep one in your work brieface/backpack....you never know.
most people carry around something at a conference. ;-)
4x4taco ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:00:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly. In my work bag already.
Berninz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:47:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't go into the sun after using it on white clothes. It will permanently turn yellow
whitey-ofwgkta ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:38 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
smells funny, takes a bit to dry, but can confirm it does work
UchihaDivergent ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:57:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cool
[deleted] ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 02:03:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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4x4taco ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:05:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This guy. Heh.
Arrowstar ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:01:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does it work well for taco stains?
4x4taco ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:03:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll let you know after Taco Night.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:05:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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4x4taco ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:08:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wife's purse.
taps head
Pavomuticus ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:09:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone who doesn't want stains on all their clothes maybe
[deleted] ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 08:26:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Pavomuticus ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:57:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I kept it in my back pocket - you don't need a "bottomless purse" to carry something the size of a pen. If you aren't in a situation that doesn't lead to stains often, then of course you wouldn't need to bother with it. If you are, then it's worth having. Why are you seemingly so affronted about a recommendation that doesn't apply to you? Nobody is saying to carry one if you have literally zero reasons to ever use it. Besides which, your example is terrible - people who routinely use medicine DO generally carry it on them in case they need it, since that's what it is for and you can't take it if you don't have it, rendering it purposeless. I don't really get your need to complain about something that doesn't apply to you as if you're being imposed upon. If you don't need it, don't do it. That easy.
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 10:20:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Pavomuticus ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 10:21:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe I mistook your tone, then. Easy to do over the internet. It seemed like you felt inconvenienced by proxy.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:22:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Pavomuticus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:24:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some people do, but I get where you're coming from now.
shinypretty ยท 114 points ยท Posted at 01:42:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spend a lot of money on a mattress, they said
It'll be great, they said.
Couldn't afford it until I bought the house, but damn if they weren't all absolutely right. 10/10 would splurge again, and will in a few years.
berto0311 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:27:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What kind of mattress?
andybarkerswife ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:55:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We bought a Leesa and I love it. Depends on your preferences though. Good thing there is a mattress store on every corner and never anybody in them besides the employees wanting to help!
shinypretty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:28:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd have to dig back a ways in my Amazon order list. The brand starts with an L. 12" memory foam, 4" pillow top.
soproductive ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:47:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every ~8 years
CNWDI_Sigma_1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:21:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I live in Europe (Switzerland, where landfills are strictly forbidden), and while this is a great advice, thereโs always a problem of getting rid of the old mattress. Canโt be recycled, and large items disposal is expensive here, and have to be planned well in advance.
shinypretty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:25:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aaaah, I see. I'm in the US, and most mattress / furniture sellers will haul your old one off after they drop off the new one.
UmbrellaWitch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:10:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are a few companies in the US that strip the stuff off and send all the springs to metal scrap and I believe they end up reprocessing all the fabric and stuffing for other use, I suppose people could theoretically do that themselves where itโs difficult to get rid of them
RedBanana99 ยท 59 points ยท Posted at 03:50:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Frying last nights pizza in a frying pan.
Holy moly how did I get to be 48 without knowing this?
DirkBabypunch ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 09:48:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I sometimes order an extra pizza just so I have a cold one in the morning.
RedBanana99 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 11:48:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always the MVP in the comments. Noted with thanks
curlyquinn02 ยท 156 points ยท Posted at 02:09:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just shut up and listen. Actually listen.
Too many people don't know how to just listen without thinking that they have to add to the conversation. No just stop. You don't have to add anything. You are not helping. You aren't even paying attention to wait is being said because you are thinking of what you can say.
tawnidilly69 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:18:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listen with the intent to listen. Not to reply
TimX24968B ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:31:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
but now they are wondering what i am even doing here and walking away from me...
curlyquinn02 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:54:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Well it all depends if somebody just wants to talk or have a conversation. If somebody wants a conversation; then yes talk all you want. If somebody wants to talk; listen and wait until they are waiting for input. Don't just jump in without paying attention to what they are saying
TimX24968B ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:02:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
no shit, but the way you phrased it at first said otherwise.
Bigmac7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:02:59 on May 21, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How about shut up and JAM!
curlyquinn02 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:50:14 on May 21, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm like Jimin and am lacking any of the jams
cheachxo ยท 162 points ยท Posted at 02:26:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get dressed up when you feel shitty about yourself. You don't even have to go anywhere. It's an easy way to practice some self care. When my depression is bad, I will just sit around the house with a full face of makeup on and a fancy house dress and since I took the time to do it, I feel like I did something just for me and it feels like a huge victory.
ernieballer ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 13:10:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh god damn I did this by accident yesterday and wondered why it felt so good. In my case, it was because I was bored. Did a bunch of laundry and threw on a nice dress shirt from the mix. Went to a bar, had a beer, and decided to talk with the bartender instead of looking at my phone aimlessly. I was there alone while everyone was in groups, but still feel happier today for some reason.
cheachxo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:08:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It makes such a difference and it's such a small thing. Even when I am in a hurry, I brush on some mascara and do my eyebrows and I'm gonna have a better day
MultiverseWolf ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:26:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm gonna start doing this.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:31:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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cheachxo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:08:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even just doing my eyebrows makes me feel better. It's amazing.
gamrin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:16:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's okay dude. People will accept you outside as well.
cheachxo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:07:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My first silver! Thanks whoever!!
KFelts910 ยท 101 points ยท Posted at 01:32:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kegles. After having a baby, I stopped laughing at that advice.
samlir ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:51:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
cause you were peeing a little?
KFelts910 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:49:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. Crossing my legs to sneeze, or when I got morning sickness with baby 2, was a real eye opener as to what those crotch goblins do to your downstairs mix up.
Ipee_when_I_Sneeze ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 08:03:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tell me about it! Lol
KFelts910 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 08:50:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Username checks out ๐
maimeddivinity ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:33:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, a doctor once told me kegels is good for men too
KansanLesbian ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:28:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What does it do?
Alfred_Smith ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 05:03:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its an exercise for.the muscles of your pelvic floor.
From what I know of, for women, it tightens the vagina, after giving birth all of those muscles in the pelvic area are stretch to their limits, even if they are meant to do it.
Sexually, for women, it tightens the vagina and helps in muscle control. Which can make sex more pleasurable on both ends,and again on both ends allows for more "powerful" orgasms. For men, it supposedly can allow for orgasms without ejaculation, thus increasing endurance.
Lastly, for both men and women, it solves incontinence issues, since many of them are due to relaxation, and weakening of those muscles.
Valiantheart ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:09:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apparently it makes it a bit easier to orgasm too
umfum ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:37:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's Kegel (capital K) after the person who first published their description.
kevin129 ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 05:51:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"It's better to look retarded than to be retarded" - my dad on wearing a bike helmet
aintnothin_in_gatlin ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:39:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm going to use this moving forward. Even though itโs technically not a nice word to say. Still using it.
kevin129 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:42:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I only say it quietly to my close friends haha. It's definitely dated, but it's poignant.
Slick_Grimes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:52:51 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's fine to say it unless you are using it to describe someone who is actually mentally disabled. It's the equivalent to making fun of Amish people on tv.
NikkiRex ยท 855 points ยท Posted at 22:19:16 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it till you make it
Ohioisapoopyflorida ยท 137 points ยท Posted at 23:41:44 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Confidence is key
Rodot ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:02:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can just fake that too
Ohioisapoopyflorida ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:10:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake confidence is the real confidence
itachixsasuke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:40:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Helps in interviews and if youโre lucky...
hawonkafuckit ยท 180 points ยท Posted at 00:20:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A psychologist with 30+ years experience told me this was something she recommended regularly. Really does work, just got to stick with it through the initial awkward stage.
GatorGladiator ยท 225 points ยท Posted at 00:31:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I hate to break it to you, but I don't think that psychologist started out licensed.
nampafh ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 00:57:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But the psych made it so it's all good.
SneakersInTheDryer ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:50:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't think any psychologist started out licensed
Concumber ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:52:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/wooof
hawonkafuckit ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:18:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know how licensing worked 30+ years ago, nor do I much care, but having gotten her masters and APAC accreditation makes me think she's somewhat qualified now.
TweektheGeek ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:56:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They were joking...
Can psychologists teach the inner nuances of sarcasm?
ctrl-all-alts ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:42:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Recently connected the dots on this oneโ the dunning-Krueger curve means that people with less knowledge are more confident. Then they get more knowledge and know enough to accurately judge how much they actually suck. Itโs good advice to get through that stage.
Anti_was_here ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:24:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Got the same exact advise from a psychologist it help not a cure but it can help
ViolentSkyWizard ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:23:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly I spent five years in a decent job but I wasn't happy. Coworkers and pay were okay. More than most and enough to get by. I quit caring entirely and one day my director pulled me into his office and said why don't I just quit. He liked me too much to fire me but he saw my decline in happiness and engagement. He said if it got too bad he would let me go to give me the push I needed. Well I decided it was time to look. Went and found a job I had no business in (same job but skipped levels in seniority) and nailed my interview. Figured most of it out along the way. And got a 40k annual increase. Well after about a year and a half I started feeling the same as before, I actually wans't being challenged anymore and knew what I had to do. I applied for a job at a different company several levels above my current position and white lied my way through and nailed all of the interviews and just accepted the offer last week. More than double my salary. I honestly have no clue how to do the job, but honestly, fuck it. I'll figure it out.
normal_gouy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:04:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude, what! That's crazy!! Good for you though :) All the best bro
ViolentSkyWizard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:43:22 on May 12, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks man!
Thegoldengnome ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:29:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was driving and seen a trailer that said faith it till you make it lol
Muad_Dib_of_Arrakis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:37:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or break it
FusioNdotexe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:28:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm feeling it now mr.krabs!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:47:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What they don't tell you is that that second part never comes.
jimmbabbit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:27:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am doing that in my job right now, been here two years and I feel like I can almost see the light at the end of the tunnel. Duck and dive beneath the radar whilst you learn. This step up was worth 10's of dollars to my family; definitely worth the stress.
proc89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you know when to stop faking it though? 2 and a half years at my job, most people bring their questions to me (high turnover rate), and it still feels like I'm faking it
[deleted] ยท -57 points ยท Posted at 23:26:01 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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extralyfe ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 23:51:16 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
that strategy is also known as affirmations, and they can be incredibly helpful.
it feels like you're lying to yourself because you've spent so long feeling negative towards yourself. after a while, you really do feel what you've been telling yourself.
it's hard to call it fraud when it improves people's lives and self worth.
[deleted] ยท -17 points ยท Posted at 00:05:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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PencilMan ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 00:37:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're being really cynical about this and purposely misunderstanding. Every time we start something new, we're being frauds. You have to give yourself a confidence boost and say "I may not feel comfortable doing this right now [new job, new school, new hobby, new town] but if I just go out and do it, pretend like it's no big deal, it'll get better."
I know what you mean by being a fraud, or a con man. That's being purposely deceitful. But sometimes you just have to start doing something to convince yourself you can do it.
[deleted] ยท -10 points ยท Posted at 00:54:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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SeriousPomegranate ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:29:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It doesn't mean be an unlicensed doctor until everyone believes you or pretending to be a good person when you're a psychopath. It means if you're unhappy, give a smile. That fake smile can become a real smile. If you have low self-confidence, fake confidence. You'll slowly begin to feel confident.
DoingItLeft ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:55:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You should fake being nice on the internet.
extralyfe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:58:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what?
that shit literally made me into a friendly and outgoing person who strives to be a ray of unrelenting positivity in the lives of all he meets. I was not anything like that before I told myself I was.
the only person I deceived was the old me, and fuck that loser. my friends and loved ones love the person I am now, and so do I.
cocoabeach ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:30:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just curious. How old are you? I'm thinking your age might have something to do with your expressed opinion. I've been wrong before though.
klop422 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:51:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, an alternative way of stating the same strategy is "accept and ignore the insecurities you have with what you're doing"
TehNibby ยท 98 points ยท Posted at 01:16:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt text your ex back and take time for yourself before going out into the world again.
cries in sad
aintnothin_in_gatlin ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:26:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A warm hug to you from the universe. Take time for yourself. Drop the ex. Ex for a reason. Move forward and remember you are worth loving.
SamSamSammmmm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:19:39 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm sorry you're going through a heartbreak. :(
I kept listening to this while taking power walk
https://youtu.be/ZBR2G-iI3-I
when went through mine. Hope that helps. hug
๐๏ธ 5000Castillo ยท 220 points ยท Posted at 02:24:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just watch me read all of these and think that they're useless and never really try them
even tho i really need some of these
deathindream ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:53:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me saving every comment knowing that Iโll probably never look at it again :/
Pavomuticus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:20:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been saving some to add to a planner and just pepper in some useful tips so that I end up retaining them from seeing them so often. Might work?
DitaVonThese ยท 96 points ยท Posted at 02:03:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
If you dont have anything nice to say, dont say nothing at all.
People dont wanna hear "Eww, yuck, you like that?" When referring to someone's food for example.
donkeyspongecake ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:37:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As the good brothers from โMy Brother, My Brother, and Meโ have taught me: donโt yuck other peopleโs yumms.
SocraticBadger ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:54:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So... I should say something?
ladyjane143 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:41:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
correcting grammar coz i love this sayingโ donโt say anythingโ if you donโt say nothing then your saying somethingโ
SanderTheSleepless ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 23:10:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not to be that guy but... "You're"
ladyjane143 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:45:45 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lol thank you :)
SanderTheSleepless ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:09:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is basically my personal mantra.
vannana ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:26:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So very true. People seem to just spew word vomit for the sake of having an opinion about everything
FattyMcSlimm ยท 273 points ยท Posted at 01:26:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Choose your reaction. Itโs a thing from โ7 Habits of a Highly Effective Peopleโ. What it boils down to is, nobody can actually โpiss you offโ. You have to react in a pissed off manner to the situation. It doesnโt always work because things like a death in the family are going to make you sad or whatever. It has helped me at work though to realize that no matter how stupid the person I am dealing with is, or how nasty they are being, I can choose to not go to that level. I can choose to stay factual and deal in logic. What do I know though?
kiriyamamarchson ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 07:00:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt think you get to choose how you feel but I think you do have a chance to decide how to express how you feel. People can piss you off, sure, but how you react to that feeling of anger is up to you alone
joe_beardon ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 06:56:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know Iโm about 5 hours late but I couldnโt resist sharing one of my favorite passages from the Tao which goes hand in hand with what youโre saying; and hey, you know at least as much as Lao Tzu:
People are born soft and weak. They die hard and stiff. All things such as grass and trees Are soft and supple in life. At their death they are withered and dry.
So, the hard and stiff are death's companions. The soft and weak are life's companions.
Therefore: The unyielding army will not win. The rigid tree will be felled. The rigid and big belong below. The soft and weak belong above.
fvvx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:07:14 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't get the last bit, can you explain it
joe_beardon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:19:55 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sure, Lao Tzu was a general and statesman on top of being a philosopher, so his writing was intended as a guide to leaders primarily. The metaphor about the tree and the unyielding army is just a different way of phrasing OPโs and Steven Coveyโs idea: shit is gonna happen that you canโt control, but you can control your reaction and should be like the supple tree: Rooted enough not to be blown along by any breeze, but soft enough to bend and move with the wind as required (this idea is the core of Taoism), and that anyone who wishes to govern or lead people should follow this philosophy.
fvvx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:43:43 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for that. Resonates with the observation of the behaviors of the young and old. Great advice.
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:26:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a great philosophy to apply to your own reactions to events. It, however, is a terrible cop out that is often used by people to deny responsibility in damage that they do to others.
So you can use this in one direction but not the other. If a person provokes you to make you angry, you need to remember that you have control over your reactions, not them, and that anger is a choice. This will help you not fall into that trap of doing something rash. On the other hand, if you are intentionally provoking someone to try to get them to do something out of anger, you are still responsible for that anger and have partial responsibility of whatever happens from it.
harswv ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 07:09:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad always said โYour response is your responsibility.โ
YorkshireWitch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:37:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm currently teaching my son this.
calm-watermelon ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:46:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This! It took me 33 years to understand this! I think once you learn and understand that only you can control how someone makes you feel youโll see the world differently.
ShadyNite ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:41:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
YorkshireWitch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:36:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had this book for years, I really should read it :/
whileImworking ยท 732 points ยท Posted at 23:42:13 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dress for success. Started wearing a suit at work and got treated with more respect as well as promotions.
[deleted] ยท 137 points ยท Posted at 02:05:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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korc ยท 49 points ยท Posted at 05:05:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just start doing it every day. Eventually your boss will start to feel under-dressed.
oorakhhye ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 08:17:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So much this. Im an engineer and work for a pretty large medical device company. About a couple years into working for my current position, I woke up one day and decided i wanted to dress in dress shirt, dress shoes and slacks M-Th (Friday Iโd keep as Hawaiian shirt day). Many of my direct superiors made jokes about me going for an interview but after a while, they stopped. The one who didnโt was my lead who he himself would dress up every day and come to work (a discipline that had been taught to him by his dad).
I have been consistent with my work attire now for about 3 years. I make sure to set everything up in the evening before so that Iโm ready to hit the ground running in the morning. Itโs actually pushed many of my colleagues and leads to step it up with their attire as well. Even the ones who originally made the jokes about my dressing up.
Iโm guessing my lead (one who dresses up for work everyday) took notice to it because he became my manager about a year ago and gave me a huge bonus and raise in my yearly review. I have this gut feeling that my attire was a significant contributing factor. Itโs not that huge of a change but itโs def noticeable.
Naltoc ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:08:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup.
I always dress nicely. My workplace (developers, tech support, booking and finance) is fairly casual except the CFO and one of the finance guys, I always have, at a minimum, nice jeans, nice shoes, colared shirt and a blazer. My boss will dress nice chest up and totally casual (old sneakers and baggy pants with paint flecs) down. Often a blazer from the 90's over a rock'n roll t-shirt. I blodoy love him for not giving a fuck, but whenever he comments, I spit back and now he actually managed to find a matching set for the days when he's meeting clients and whatever. Still need to see him wear a tie, then again, whow ants to voluntarily strangle themselves on a daily basis?
bakawolf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:35:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
agh, no. we've spent enough effort getting away from that shit, don't undo that.
teh_fizz ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 07:02:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My supervisor once said, โYou dressed very fancy today.โ
โWell one of us has to.โ
He meant it in a very joking manner as well.
gamrin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:49:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just reply with "yes"
GreatBabu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:48:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"No, but you do."
HxCMurph ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:37:45 on May 17, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup, I work in Tech and our dress-code is extremely casual. Anything fancier than a polo leads to that joke. Same 5 people too. Never fails.
NotYourSnowBunny ยท 342 points ยท Posted at 00:36:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I wore a suit to work I would get fired and then get frostbite.
I work outside at elevation in blizzards.
petit_cochon ยท 273 points ยท Posted at 01:29:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dress for success in your case means dressing for survival, doofus.
Shrieka1987 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:49:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So blunt, I loved it. Haha
PikpikTurnip ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:14:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Upvoted for "doofus".
NotYourSnowBunny ยท -13 points ยท Posted at 01:29:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, it means wearing most of my uniform.
FaithCPR ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 01:32:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dress for success doesn't always mean wear a suit. This is a good reminder of that.
Famixofpower ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:09:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I wore a suit, it would get ruined from oil. I had a nice white sweater that I had to throw out due to oil stains
NooneKnowsImaCollie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:38:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well that's intriguing. What's your job?
InsaneLeader13 ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 01:58:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wonder how my supervisors and commanding officer would react if I started showing up to my maintenance job in Air Force Blues.
Cheeze187 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:54:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Would probably assume you have to see the commander๐
Landowl ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:01:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm. As a woman, wearing nail polish got me treated with more respect (in a workplace where nail polish is not the norm). People often (unconsciously) respect others who dress up compared to the norm. I notice this in myself too!
nosiriamadreamer ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 01:31:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have to wear scrubs but Iโve noticed putting in extra effort in my hair and skincare helps me receive more respect. Stuff like a sleek ballerina bun, a cool braided hairstyle, or taking time to moisturize my skin to make it all glowy and awake. Maybe a little concealer, mascara, and tinted lip balm.
Z_T_O ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:45:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do the ladies do?
nosiriamadreamer ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:45:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clinical research technicians or also called medical research associates.
qatts ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:51:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/woosh
nosiriamadreamer ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:55:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol Iโm deaf so there are a lot of comments and jokes that I sometimes donโt get nor understand.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:32:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yo I'm not sure deafness works as an excuse if you're reading lol
qatts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thats fair
WilIyTheGamer ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 04:06:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No. Being deaf doesn't change this. This person clearly didn't get the fact that you were implying they were a man who has an extremely effeminate routine. Being able to hear wouldn't change that. Disabilities can suck in a lot of varied ways, but they aren't an end-all be-all for scapegoats.
qatts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:57:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know bro
nosiriamadreamer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:33:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you disabled?
p_velocity ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:22:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried that at a job where I was the new guy...the old guard got really offended like I was trying to upstage them. I stopped wearing a tie after I found out that folks were taking hella shit behind my back.
[deleted] ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:34:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The guys on the construction site will probably be really confused, but Iโll give it a shot.
notsiouxnorblue ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:11:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If anyone where I work (other than CEO or sales director) wore a suit people would think they were going to interview for a different job on their lunch break.
Stevepac9 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:57:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, you need to be careful with this advice. It doesn't work everything. My last employer(an investment firm in the US) would tell employees who wore suits to work to stop.
[deleted] ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 00:48:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't chose my career to dress a suit, in fact, I hate formal clothes
DrewB4435 ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:42:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same with me. I'm luckily at a company that cares more about what you do rather than how you look. I mostly wear a silly graphic tshirt and jeans and have been promoted twice. I've only been there for a year.
b6passat ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:50:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I had a big test in college I would shower, shave, have coffee, read the paper, and wear a collared shirt and dress pants. Typical business man morning. Would keep me focused and feel confident.
satansbukkake ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:02:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh yeah big time. I always dress sharply on an exam day. It really puts me into the right mind set.
Beltox2pointO ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:02:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was it the suit, or the confidence it gave you though.
whileImworking ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:05:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I dressed nice before the suits and always had confidence. I seriously noticed a changed in how people responded to me.
tropicalunicorn ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:35:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I once had an interview where I wore a pant suit. Iโm a nurse so Iโm always in scrubs in work, but the way I presented myself that day got me the job. I didnโt find out until months later when someone mentioned theyโd bought a suit for an interview because theyโd heard when I got the job it was down to me and one other person, and Iโd got it because Iโd made an impression by wearing a suit. When interviewing for a job that requires a uniform, everyone will dress smart (shirt and pants/skirt), but the super smart will stand out.
TimX24968B ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:03:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
more like "dress for the job you want, not the job you have"
elaerna ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:08:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only kind of related because just came from class but my prof dresses like a hobo most days but then sometimes randomly dresses in a suit and tie. What does he want to succeed only some of the time or something? You confuse me dr. C.
tgrote555 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:39:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I sometimes wear a suit after being depressed for a couple days in a row. The routine and attention to detail tends to lift my mood and help me find purpose in the minutia.
elaerna ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:46:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm sorry depression is terrible
tgrote555 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:30:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It certainly is.
teh_fizz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:13:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a casual dress code for work, but I dress up in business casual (chinos and buttoned shirt) when I have to meet people from outside (I work as a recruiter). I just like how it feels and how I look. Plus it makes me stand out in the hierarchy of my team and others take me more seriously. Sometimes I just enjoy looking good when I go out.
elaerna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:23:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks Dr C.
dryj ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:33:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My advice would be to look for jobs that value people for reasons other than dress.
comoestatucaca ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:31:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just a regular tree shaker and a deal maker ainโt ya junior.
Kaldenar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:14:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its useful advice I will take, but really it just highlights that promotions are not based on merit at all if the suit brings them in.
FlickMasher ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:45:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dress how you want to be addressed
grapecity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:30:20 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! Iโve heard โdress for the job you want, not the job you haveโ
pirateninjamonkey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:31:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe not if you are in lawn care...
bkmaracas ยท 153 points ยท Posted at 23:48:52 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Marge Simpson: Slow, then fast.
dejaime ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:18:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I usually don't last long enough, so I go straight to fast.
Geoffy-G ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:49:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy cake day
bkmaracas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:18:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had to look up what that meant .. ๐๐๐
HiramNinja ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:53:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...happy Cake Day!
megaslushboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:34:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slow is smooth. Smooth is fast. ๐
ravaraven ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:13:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can you explain this to me? I donโt get it.
megaslushboy ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 15:14:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โSlow is smooth, smooth is fastโ is comprised of two separate and distinct statements. Truly fast, repeatable actions must be smooth, but you cannot perform a smooth action fast if you cannot first perform a slow action smoothly.
ravaraven ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:34:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you! Iโll need to re-read this a few times to get it but thank you!
megaslushboy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:34:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sure thing! Have a nice day, internet stranger! ๐
Raspb_rry ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:33:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
happy cake day!!
Cratonis ยท 45 points ยท Posted at 02:12:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Focus on only what you can control not the things you canโt.
famigacom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:36:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How has this helped you?
Cratonis ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:51:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting upset and crazy over inconveniences or losing your cool because things donโt go as planned accomplished nothing. Many times I have either at work or on trips had successful outcomes because of focusing on the problem at hand and what I can do about it.
Also while others get worked up and fly off the handle when nothing can be done. I make my piece and focus on relaxing or staying productive.
Ziffinon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:13:33 on May 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible."
-St. Francis of Assisi
piscespost ยท 303 points ยท Posted at 22:41:01 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To meditate more often and visualize my dream life.
11001010jesuS ยท 141 points ยท Posted at 00:08:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read that as medicate more often. Iโm like yea! Get high and visualize my dream life. I can do that.
piscespost ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 00:11:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol, medication can help as well.
209JustBreathe ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:49:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same!
SeriousPomegranate ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:41:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation has taught me to be more aware of my body while I try to sleep and I can relax my body quickly. I'm not so good at this outside of trying to sleep. Meditation works wonders!
Ghettoblaster96 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:00:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
how do you meditate? (I suppose you as in "you specifically" and "you in general")
NorthRiseFall ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:25:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stsrt by getting in a confortable position and then set a timer for how long you want to meditate. If you've never done it before start with 5 or 10 minutes. Then you just focus on your breathe and simply observe your thoughts. If a thought arises simply observe it and then let it go while trying to maintain focus on your breathe. This is a rather simple explanation and there are plenty of more in depth methods online. You can also use guided meditations. There are plenty of them on YouTube.
Ghettoblaster96 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:58:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel like I do this at night a bit while I'm trying to fall asleep. I'll calm myself down and just process everything that happened today and everything I need to do tomorrow and I think it's very relaxing.
SeriousPomegranate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:39:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are many different ways to meditate. I learned Yoga Nidra in high school. It's a form of guided meditation. Parts of it resemble things like mindfulness and other meditation/relaxation techniques. I haven't meditated in years but can still apply the practice to relax.
In a very brief description:
It goes through each part of your body to relax which brings awareness of your body. I visualise each part of the body, take note of tension and try to relax it. When the body is relaxed the process is repeated in the mind. You bring awareness to your thoughts. This is probably the hardest part as you have to silence your thoughts and it takes a lot of practice. The last part is about bringing awareness of your surroundings(without sight). Like the sounds you can hear and where your body meets the ground. When it ends you are gently roused from it.
The more it's practiced, the easier it becomes. Basically, you practice mental and physical control to put yourself into a different state of consciousness.
tallmin22 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:20:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://www.livingwell.org.au/mindfulness-exercises-3/
BasicDesignAdvice ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:36:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really wish I could get everyone to meditate. It's so good for you.
piscespost ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:26:43 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, how about telling people to either meditate for 5 minutes or tell people to meditate while doing other tasks (i.e. practicing mindfulness while driving, meditating in the shower, ect..)?
abcq02 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:06:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
is "dream life" a specific religious thing like rainbow body? or it's a figure of speech I don't know?
piscespost ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:22:41 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's more or less a figure of speech. Basically, it's imagining the type of life you would like to live (the job you would like to have, the type of house you like to live, the hobbies you like to have, the family you like to have, ect..)
ButtsexEurope ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:26:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Visualizing my dream life just makes me more depressed because I know itโs impossible.
corner-case ยท 147 points ยท Posted at 02:01:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ask your brain to work on a hard problem while you sleep.
Over several years as a programmer, this has had an amazing success rate. The nastiest, most confounding problems I've been under pressure to resolve, I have always gone back to this technique. It has never let me down.
I spend a few minutes before falling asleep, relaxing and focusing on the problem, and reviewing whatever facts I know for sure. Inevitably, in the morning I'll wake up with an epiphany that helps me resolve the problem first thing when I get to work.
thephotoman ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:11:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't usually wake up with the epiphany, but I certainly do solve the problem in my dreams, wake up, and actually do the same thing I did in the dream to solve it and it works. Because of course it will. I knew everything I needed to know about the problem, it was just a function of thinking about it.
Zaxora ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:09:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
It's because your brain attains information during the day and processes while sleeping. Same reason you can play a game and failfailfail, then wake up the next day and beat that boss in a single try.
steponme34 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:06:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is awesome
Shelbelle4 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:14:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thereโs an episode of nova all about exactly this.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:03:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Shelbelle4 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:08:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://youtu.be/qY6b4znzwIU
chotskyIdontknowwhy ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 11:28:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another good one is to think through a hard problem while going swimming. Swimming laps can be insanely boring but itโs also perfect for allowing your brain to wander a bit. The repetitive motion helps keep you focused, while the exercise keeps oxygen flowing through your body.
Itโs excellent for working out a problem or for planning for something (like an interview or speech, for example).
I imagine you can do the same while running/jogging/cycling, but I find swimming to be the best exercise for it.
corner-case ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:58:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've definitely tried working certain problems while running distance. The fun part was being able to watch as my brain went to mush...
[deleted] ยท 78 points ยท Posted at 01:32:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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chefmeow ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 07:45:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am a restaurant manager. It is my dream to do this!
SanderTheSleepless ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:54:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or (and this assumes you're not working in the service industry) reply with uncomfortably kind words. It's hard for a normal person to be angry or rude to someone kind.
immadirtydirtygirl ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:51:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if it's your family and you have nowhere to go?
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:35:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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immadirtydirtygirl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:39:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm 23 and scared of leaving when my dad's voice rises. But this advice is pretty great, it's helped in many situations.
lowey2002 ยท 81 points ยท Posted at 02:44:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Leave your shoes by the door.
Sounds obvious to people from certain cultures or climates but it was never part of my routine growing up. I had some asian room mates and was astonished at the knock on effects this little habit has for cleanliness and comfort.
DirkBabypunch ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:44:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Plus, now I always know where both my shoes are.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:44:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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YetiGuy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:49:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
U use them all the time? We all have multi pair of shoes, doesn't mean we leave then all by the door. Use the one that u use most by the door. Rest in the shoe rack.
djdogood ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:31:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This! Especally in climats with lots of mud and rock salt.
I never get mud outside my foyer, little bugs around the apt, my carpet stays clean and stain free, and it helps people feel more at home.
I keep about 3 pairs of shoes at the door (slides, work shoes, bang around shoes)
tambor333 ยท 112 points ยท Posted at 01:55:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
If you get water "stuck" in your ear. tilt your head so the filled ear is aimed towards the ground and hop on one foot landing on your heal. It usually clears in a hop or two... the longest for me was 5.
Thank you, James Clavell, tip is taken from Shogun.
Fyrestar333 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:44:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hop on the side is clogged?
tambor333 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:36:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have tried both, and it works either way. You do you for comfort level.
Mysterious_Lesions ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:47:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Feels like you're setting me up to look silly so you can record it.
tambor333 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:38:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, it looks silly, no I don't have drones following you waiting on capturing your silliness... at least not yet =)
headbanger_chef ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:25:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Upvoting for the Shogun reference- that and Tai-Pan are 2 of my absolute favorite books!
speccynerd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:12:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Domo arigato, Anjin-san!
billjackson0987 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:33:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Loved that book
Rising_Swell ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:52:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I try to hop with my head tilted, I'm gonna fall over.
theoriginalj ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:03:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This works, guys.
lil-sesamesnap ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:12:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh dude I was shaking my head after swimming and as I've gotten older it started hurting my neck. Can't believe I didn't think about hopping ๐
npfrnr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:16:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just donโt try it on NBCโs private plane while in the air.
B00Mshakal0l0 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:29:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Isnโt that how Kramer almost crashed a plane? Is your name Kramer IRL??
Mumofalltrades63 ยท 75 points ยท Posted at 00:20:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Polish rust off chrome on your bicycle with crumpled tinfoil.
ShiftShock95 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:11:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Crumpled tinfoil is also great for scrubbing dishes with burnt food!
fordprobegt ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:52:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Steel wool works too
LilSis279 ยท 163 points ยท Posted at 01:34:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smiling at a bully in grade school, and make it as genuinely kind as you can muster.
I had serious doubt until I did it, and watching her face become confused and horrified at the same time was priceless. She never bothered me again.
TinyCatCrafts ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 04:46:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kill em with kindness.
My friend made a point to go out of her way to be polite and nice to a coworker who hated her for some reason. She would always make sure to offer her cupcakes or cookies at the staff events, or compliment her hair/etc.
Eventually the girl got really confused about why she didnt like my friend in the first place because she was always so nice, and it drove her crazy, because she had absolutely zero validation for her negative feelings.
arctic92 ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 06:11:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was your friend Patrice and her coworker Robin?
TBamaboni ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 06:02:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โStop punching me youโre making me hornyโ
laundmo ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:23:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
wow okay i shoulda used this instead of the "ignore them / dont let it bother you advice"
but that worked too so whatever
Like_The_Spice ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:59:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I try to teach this to my boys about bullies at school. Luckily there have only been a few occurrences. We watched this video together and tried to practice it.
Iโm glad you took the high road and also your tactic worked to stop the bully! Kind of curious how long it took for it to work and what exactly you did.
ilivetofly ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 01:43:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That app on the Apple watch that has you breathing slowly.
Most of the time I lowers my heart rate - aka basic human anatomy but can be handy. But twice so far it has spiked up to 120+ when I tried it.
Turns out I couldn't breathe properly. I was struggling to get to sleep and figured I was at the point I would give it a go. Until I focused on it I couldn't realise one of my nostrils was totally broken and I was struggling to breathe. Adjusting my pillow fixed it. I have some allergies and some other medical shit being addressed so it's not just a quick fix for a potentially serious problem that is getting ignored but holy moly having it track my heart rate while I did it was so helpful. I probably wouldn't have gotten to sleep without it.
Nothing big but you know I figured it was just one of those things that lowered your heart rate while you do it but not much else.
-greetings ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:20:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do you mean by broken nostril? Cause i feel like one of my nostrils gets less air than the other, not sure what it is tho
ilivetofly ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:13:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's common. Your body will prioritise one nostril for a while and then swap to the next one. IIRC Scishow on YouTube did a video about it.
What happened to me was as if there was a total airtight seal on one nostril. And somehow I wasn't able to notice it. It was a mix of the nostril just turning off but I didn't have a load of mucous or a partial use of it that was saying "hey blockage here" it just was not working my and my brain never realise there was a nose issue - adjusting my pillow I guess shimmied whatever was causing the problem.
patstoddard ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 01:57:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stoping drinking really is easier if you take it one day at a time
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:17:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs why โone day at a timeโ is the AA slogan it really does work
TimX24968B ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:34:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
isn't that how you get dehydrated?
addysol ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 04:03:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
From the mind of Bill Burr
"Rub one out first!"
Don't let your dick make your decisions
ObnoxiousOldBastard ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 04:06:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
On the same principle; never shop while you're hungry.
WaifuCannon ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 06:14:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You get three fucks a day. When sonething comes up, decide if you want to give a fuck. If you do, you've got two fucks left for the day. If you don't, then clearly that thing wasn't important enough for you to worry about.
Helps you figure out what's important for you and what isn't. Thought it was kind of petty and shallow, but prioritizing in that way has helped my mental health a good bit.
Origami_Butterfly ยท 491 points ยท Posted at 23:56:18 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Mashing your face into your pillow and sobbing uncontrollably is a good way to spend your weekends."
โMy Brain
EngrProf42 ยท 156 points ยท Posted at 00:52:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Been there. You have someone to talk to?
lowenbailey ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 01:45:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm there right now
Lupin_AAGL ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 02:14:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do find someone to talk to. It really helps just letting it out. My inbox is here in fact if you want it.
EngrProf42 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 03:13:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Feel free to DM me, as well. I'm not always on but I get to Reddit a few times a day.
H00ston ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:04:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly just beating up your pillow or making up a goofy scream into it really helps me
lll1863 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 01:35:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Crying helps me slow down and obsess over the weight of lifes problems"
-Sadness
Notth3polic3 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:51:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you are anxious, feel stressed, or just plain old and remember the rule of 7s
Will this matter in 7 seconds? If not it is unimportant
Will this matter in 7 minutes? If not it is of little importance.
Will this matter in 7 hours? If not it is small potatoes compared to a day
Will this matter in 7 days? If not it is less than 1percent of your time here
Will this matter in 7 weeks? If not it is just another step on the journey of life
Will this matter in 7 months? If not it is just a fad, quickly coming and quickly leaving
Will this matter in 7 years? If not then it is footnote in your own story. If it is then perhaps it is just a paragraph
Reflect on all of these things. See the truth in the situation and remember, if you do not appreciate the present, then the future will surprise you for the last time.
extrasauce_ ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:43:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes you need a good soul-wretching brain-clearing cry.
Raithwall ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:22:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey. Sometimes youโve gotta release the stress and thatโs okey. Weโve been there and almost there myself due to being cut hours at work. I hope once you de-steam you get some good healthy food with a multi-vitamin, some sleep/exercise and sunlight. Thatโs my plan as I figure out what to do before my money runs out. Goodnight.
Cortexaphantom ยท 74 points ยท Posted at 00:29:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holding my breath for 30 seconds while covering my ears to get rid of hiccups. Works. Every. Time. I have no idea how or why it works for me (and doesnโt seem to work for others), but it does.
RedPandaBeebs ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:57:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read somewhere that hiccups are the result of over-stimulation of the diaphragm, and removing sensory stimulation may help calm it. I havenโt tried it, but Iโm glad to hear itโs working for you!
Power-of-Erised ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:28:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My personal hiccup cure is to take a deep breath into the lungs, fill 'em up so your chest rises, then hold that breath. After 4 or 5 seconds, while still holding the breath, forcefully drop your chest. I think this pushes the pressure from your chest into your diaphragm, but it's just a guess. What I do know is that it works every time, and it's quicker than most 'cures'.
Slick_Grimes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:18:55 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't even do that much. Huge deep gulping breath and hold it until I can't anymore. Hiccups gone.
nothesearenotmykids ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:16:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom taught us to cure hiccups by taking 6 slow small sips of water (tiny small super slow) it always works
hiddenproverb ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:23:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always hold my breath and take about 10 Gulps of water. Sometimes if itโs a really bad case, I have to do it twice. But it always works for me and I get the hiccups often. My husband, on the other hand, never gets the hiccups. Iโve never seen him have the hiccups in the past 7 years ๐คจ
_vestica ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:25:08 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same, I get them all the damn time, while I've never seen my husband get them.
Jlacosse6082 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:05:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I suffer from hiccups a LOT. Someone once came up to me, placed there hand on my shoulder (cupping around it and putting some pressure on it) and said " do you want me to get rid of your hiccups for you" my response was yes and they said " your hiccups are gone" and walked away. And it worked! Ive since repeated this on many people! I think the weirdness of it all startles people's and disrupts their breathing in a way to get rid of them.
drkdarling ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:25:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When someone has hiccups I always say, โIโll give you a million dollars if you hiccup again.โ & it works almost every time!
maimeddivinity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:35:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I drink a cup of water while holding my breath. Seems to work too.
atriptolalaland ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Itโs a lot easier to just swallow twice without breathing. It resets your diaphragm.
JacksMotives ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:56:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is more of a way to help others cure hiccups, but every friend of mine canโt have any hiccups around me because of this trick Iโve been using since I was a kid. You simply wait for them to hiccup, and then right after theyโve hiccuped, tell them to hiccup again, when they say โwhat?โ Or โI cantโ just tell them to hiccup again, they wonโt be able to from that point onwards
xpwnx4 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 19:27:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
so, when i was in high school i met this guy, he told me that he hasnt had hiccups in years one day when i was hiccup-ing non stop, he said
"I did a essay on hiccups in middle school, i found out that hiccups are all mental and that hiccups only happen because your brain gets tricked into thinking it cant breathe its a reflex from birth and its why newborns get burped as they are pushed out of the womb is to force air through the lungs of the baby"
Now, i dont know how much of that is true cause i never looked it up, but the basis is, since its all mental, you can basically tell your brain that there is no actual problem and breathe accodingly almost of a monkey see monkey do scenario, you take a deep breathe and exhale while simultaniously thinking of some abstract random thing and at the end you kind of think to your self "see?" as to say "thats how its done" and your hiccups should be cured. thought this was not true until 3 years later when i finally tried it, very hard to master to do it on command, but once you can, youll get a hiccup once in a blue moon and when you do its only the 1
Cortexaphantom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:59:13 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hiccups arenโt mental. >.> itโs a bubble/irritation in your diaphragm trying to correct itself.
xpwnx4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:07:23 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
well just by a quick google search, the irritation in the diaphram hiccups only occur in certain scenarios such as eating food/eating too quickly, which those are solved by just taking a sip of water usually, they can be caused due to nervousness as well, the main reason for hiccups is actually because of the nerve that connects the diaphragm to the brain getting irritated..
[deleted] ยท 126 points ยท Posted at 01:30:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was complaining about my wife for the 700th time my friend said "if she's so awful why not just divorce her." It was good advice.
[deleted] ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 13:42:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:48:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because I married for life so I had never even considered divorce.
DeltaKaze ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:30:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And...you actually did? monkaS
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:01:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep
idontknopez ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:57:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A good marriage has never ended in divorce
notyourmatebuddy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:50:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always get a prenup
WolfeXXVII ยท 97 points ยท Posted at 02:41:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Finish nice hot shower with 30 seconds in cold. It closes up your pores and reduces acne build up. 14 year old me really should have listened.
Edit: silver... Really thank you kind stanger for my first silver.
Since I'm editing in more I'll add if you have a sunburn a warm/hot(whatever you can handle) shower will reduce the sting and help keep it from peeling. But it hurts like a bitch while your in it so be forewarned on this front.
RobinFox12 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:52:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a 14 year old I will take this advice.
TinyCatCrafts ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 05:05:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, never use any moisturizer/lotion/product on your face that isnt specially made for your face. I'm 31 and I have only just learned this the hard way. It's been 2 months and I'm only JUST able to not hide my whole face under makeup.
YorkshireWitch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:50:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It also helps to seal the hair folicules, making your hair smoother and shinier.
hp3155 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 13:40:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wonโt I catch a cold?
Manolo_Ribera ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:55:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You don't get a cold from being cold. You get a cold from viral/bacterial infections. It is true that the cold can lower your immune system, but not from 30 seconds of a cold shower. Just don't stay long enough to become hypothermic.
The reason things like the flue are associated with the winter season is mostly because people spend more time in badly ventilated rooms with lots of other people, who may then infect you.
hp3155 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 17:05:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for your response. Just for clarification, you meant ice cold water or just colder than the rest of the shower?
WolfeXXVII ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:26:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The colder the better but no need to push yourself
Blazic24 ยท 143 points ยท Posted at 02:33:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Removing self deprecating or suicidal jokes from your vernacular.
Even though you know 'I'll just kill myself then' and 'yeah I'm a terrible person' aren't said seriously, your brain internalizes it, takes 'you're terrible' as something that you repeat so much it must be true, says 'killing yourself then' is your solution to so many issues, it might as well be your first proposed actual solution.
Changing one's common language is hard, but god does it help.
PM_ME_UR_PERIODPICS ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 03:43:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you make a word? You spell it. It's called "spelling" for a reason. Every word you say is an attempt to manifest it. Choose your words wisely, cast spells with intention.
Blazic24 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:45:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you, user DM_ME_UR_PERIODPICS
no but honestly this was very,,, fantasy and wonderful in wordage
UmbrellaWitch ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:14:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This just changed my life, I swear.
PM_ME_UR_PERIODPICS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:05:46 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Glad to hear it! โฅ๏ธ
DeltaKaze ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:27:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But for me, I had to make them to cope with my depression...which is kinda weird
Blazic24 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:10:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It defenitely feels like coping with depression - I've done it, and many people that I know have, or still do. But it really only hurts oneself in the long run, from what I've seen.
DeltaKaze ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:27:14 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's fair, I haven't made any of that kind of jokes anymore since I got better from depression
and my mental health state is wayy better now
hope you're good too
Blazic24 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:33:53 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm super happy for you! N thanks for the well wishes!
TimX24968B ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 04:29:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if someone still does it, threaten to report them to the police for that shit. a lot of times, they stop making them pretty quickly and sometimes start getting help
TinyCatCrafts ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:51:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I live with a therapist and sometimes get name-redacted stories about how to respond to different situations.
One was a girl who repeatedly threatened to kill/hurt herself to manipulate her parents. They tried all manner of other solutions first, but eventually it came down to "Call her on it. Next time it happens, call the police."
So they did. And she got herself taken seriously for the threats, and was on a psych hold for 24hrs.
Next time she started the same behavior, they reminded her they took those comments seriously, and did she want to try again to express her frustrations.
That's all it took.
jcheezyinchicity ยท 65 points ยท Posted at 02:43:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty much everything my therapist has said to me. 1. Holding ice cubes and feeling them melt in your hand to combat anxiety. A way to make yourself present 2. Writing down 3 things youโre grateful for, โwinsโ if you will on a daily basis, helps you realize even on the worst days there is still something good that has happened. 3. Finding something that youโre passionate about and making it a point to incorporate it into your life on a regular basis. Seems obvious but idk 4. No one cares after a certain age, so just be yourself and even if they do care why does it matter?
RobinFox12 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:50:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have some anxiety issues. I have always enjoyed the feeling of ice melting in my hands but my friends give me weird looks when I do it. Now I know why I probably like it so much.
akashannon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:41:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Would you mind elaborating about โno one cares after a certain ageโ?
jcheezyinchicity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:37:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I just think growing up our society puts pressure on people to fit in, and it makes individuals care a lot about others opinions. I noticed in my early 20โs that no one really cares if youโre different. People become more inclined to live their own lives without worrying what others think. Some people do care, but if itโs not hurting anyone or ruining your life then itโs their problem and it shouldnโt impact how you chose to live your life
akashannon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:46:01 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you!
amos_wheeler ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 02:13:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yoga as silly as it sounds. It makes my joints feel so much better and I donโt feel so old when I wake up in the mornings. Plus Iโm almost as flexible as I was when I was younger.
kiddhpla ยท 32 points ยท Posted at 04:08:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Talk to women like theyโre regular people.
OMGEntitlement ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 11:41:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When my son was 15 or 16 he came to me saying he didn't know how to talk to girls.
Me: Pretend they're people.
Him: But they.....oh. OH.
Me: Yeah, you dingbat.
He hasn't had trouble since.
Juulhelmus ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 09:52:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They are regular people as far as I know.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:42:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean, I sure feel like a regular person.
ExistentialistJesus ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:08:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It sounds crazy; does it really work?
Newtothis1400 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:38:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
PSA: We really are!
PageFault ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 04:59:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know how common this is, but I almost never feel thirsty. I once complained of a mild headache and was told that drinking water would help. Now I know how to tell if I haven't had water for too long.
daonlyrealsimon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:24:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
More in general: feel shitty/upset/have negative thoughts? Ask yourself if you didnt eat/drink for a while or if you are tired. Everytime its one of those three. (Insert harry potter meme)
Meh_McSadsterson ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 22:47:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or you're a teenager.
daonlyrealsimon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:46:53 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even as a teenager this was true quite often for me.
Meh_McSadsterson ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:19:38 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same here, but sometimes with mood swings and all that, you will still feel awful regardless of how much (and what) you've eaten, how much exercise you've gotten, how much you've slept, and how hydrated you are.
I took much better care of myself as a teen than I do today and yet I still feel so much better. Sometimes feeling badly isn't within your control.
tinypurplepiggy ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 06:13:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Accept that you aren't for everyone, just like everyone isn't for you.
I spent a long time constantly worrying about what people thought of me. If they secretly hated me, were talking crap about me to others.. Then I realized one day it doesn't matter. Knowing about it doesn't change anything, does it? I don't like everyone so why should (or would) everyone like me? It's made me more confident and it's easier for me to talk to people I don't know
shitstickdotcom ยท 87 points ยท Posted at 00:38:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unpack your suitcase the second you get home.
Tipper_Gorey ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:10:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Omg how is the possible? Iโm always horribly, miserably exhausted when I get home (with a suitcase).
Jag94 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:53:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unpacking takes about a total of 5-6 minutes. In your brain you think its this half day extravaganza of shit to do. But in reality, your dirty clothes go in the hamper, any extra/clean clothes go back in the closet/dresser, and your toiletries go back in the bathroom. Literally 5 minutes worth of shit and youโre done. Try it. Youโll be amazed at how much better youโll feel when youโre done.
It also helps if you clean up before you leave. I.e laundry done and put away, bed made, dishes done, wtc. When you come home to a clean house it is FAR less stressful to readjust to normal life again.
Tipper_Gorey ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:55:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is something wrong with me? That would take me way longer than 5 minutes.
Jag94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:57:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How so? How long could it possibly take you to take dirty clothes from your suitcase and put them in a hamper? 30 seconds? A minute tops? Thats most of your suitcase!!!
Tipper_Gorey ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:05:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Idk. I have a lot of toiletries and makeup. And like stuff. Idk how but Iโve become an overpacker. Oh plus all my meds.
Jag94 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:10:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok. Fine. 10 minutes. I promise you. Next time you travel (for work or pleasure), time it. Put your phone on โstopwatchโ mode and time how long it takes to unpack your suitcase, and nothing else. If it takes you more than 10 minutes, its likely because youโre doing 73 other things including dumb shit on your phone.
Tipper_Gorey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:33:01 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I will definitely try it. Iโm an over-packer, something else I need to work on lol. Thanks for the advice.
shitstickdotcom ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:06:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even better; use that exhaustion and know your reward will be to rest in a nice clean room and you wonโt have to stare at your luggage with guilt the whole time!
Jag94 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:48:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I travel for work and am sometimes gone for weeks at a time. It was a game changer when i started unpacking as soon as i got home. It makes the next day or so of adjust back to normal life that much easier.
TimX24968B ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:26:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
or just take the clothes out of it every day so its less wasted energy
Marsdreamer ยท 543 points ยท Posted at 01:22:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
TL;DR: Homeopathic MIL gives me a home remedy for a cough, actually works surprisingly well.
Oh, I have a good one for this.
My MIL is a pretty hilariously stereotypical old German woman who somehow manages to be insanely well educated (two law degrees) and also very much into charms and homeopathy stuff. She was staying over the holidays a few years back when I had caught a nasty head/chest cold that was just destroying me. Couldn't sleep, coughed all day and night to the point where I could barely talk and was basically coughing up red from my throat being so raw, etc etc.
Well she says that back in Germany, they do a "Hot Neck Wrap" for curing bad chest coughs. What they do is they boil a scarf in some salt, garlic, and lavender water -- Then you wrap the scarf around your neck and go to sleep with it. I am a pretty science-y minded person (my wife and I are both researchers) and so I immediately am like "Ok, this is a crock of shit," but I was so fucking miserable that I opted to try it. Really I would have tried just about anything at that point.
Hooooly crap did I feel fucking fantastic in the morning. Like. 100% turn-around the painful cough was basically gone all night and only came back a bit towards the mid-afternoon and evening. It was such a massive 180 that I could hardly believe it. I wore it for another night and after that the cough was completely over the day after that.
I've since used it (albeit without the salt, garlic, and lavender) whenever I get a nasty cough and it works like a charm. Best I can guess is the heat allows your larynx to relax and keeps down some of the inflation, letting you cough less, which lets you heal faster since you're not tearing up your throat all night.
I should also add that my MIL is not homeopathy for like cancer or essential oils any of that stuff, just like for the little annoyances kind of ailments. Perfectly harmless and she's a super awesome lady.
Edit: I've been informed by a few people that this isn't actually homeopathy and is just home remedy type stuff. Sorry for the confusion :)
Lindbjorg ยท 91 points ยท Posted at 01:52:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What kind of scarf? What kind of material was it? How long did you boil it for? Inquiring minds want to know.
Marsdreamer ยท 92 points ยท Posted at 02:03:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An old ratty winter scarf, probably some kind of cotton? Not 100% sure on that. Just long enough for the water to boil. She put the scarf in with all the "ingredients" and once it boiled, she pulled it out, wrung it slightly, and then rolled it in another (ratty) scarf so that you weren't putting boiling water directly onto your skin.
Lindbjorg ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:16:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Awesome! Thanks!
Marsdreamer ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:18:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Of course! I hope you don't ever have to use it, but if you do, I hope it works for you :)
FriscoHusky ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:53:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So you donโt use the garlic/lavender when youโre doing it for yourself? Do you still boil the scarf? Or just wrap a scarf around your neck?
Marsdreamer ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:02:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
These days I just take a long hand-towel and wet it really good and then microwave it until it's really hot. I'll say it never worked quite as well as the first night I tried it. Maybe somethin to do with the Lavender or whatever, maybe because I was expecting nothing and got something, so it felt like it was more effective.
snpods ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:40:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok, dumb question time! After wringing it out, Iโm thinking the scarf would still be damp. Did it get cold wearing the damp scarf overnight?
I get crazy bad coughs any time I have a cold because of my asthma. :( might have to try this ...
Marsdreamer ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 02:45:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I haven't used it in quite some time, but yeah it does get colder as the night goes on, but I don't remember it getting super cold. Could be that I keep my bedroom warmer than most -- But I do also remember taking it off in the middle of the night once the heat ran it's course. Sometimes I'll get up and take it to the microwave and re-heat it in the middle of the night if I really need to though.
snpods ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:49:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gotcha - Iโll keep this in mind next winter! Thanks, human. :)
Marsdreamer ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:51:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good luck with it :) Hopefully you have a sickness free next few seasons!
damnatio_memoriae ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:23:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i feel like the scarf wouldโve had to be wool. wool still keeps you warm even if it gets wet. cotton and other materials donโt. if it were a cotton scarf you wouldโve probably woken up wet cold and miserable.
underbrightskies ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:07:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This sounds like a jury-rigged version of those red rubber hot water bottles that I feel like everyone had in their house before the 90's. You could fill them with hot water to rest on your chest or on a sore muscle.
mimi7878 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:42:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So you go to bed with a hot wet scarf on??
Marsdreamer ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:59:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeeeeap. Well I mean, not every night.
Weird though, eh?
[deleted] ยท 38 points ยท Posted at 03:31:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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Jlacosse6082 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:58:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alternatively hot chocolate and buttershots. My mil who hardly drinks showed me this one and it works miracles!
Brilliantcoffeecat ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:23:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are buttershots a thing or are you mixing butter in with hot chocolate and taking shots of it
zuklei ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 04:50:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think buttershots refers to a drink called butterscotch schnapps . Thatโs what we used to call it. Damn it was good. Now that Iโve been reminded it exists Iโm going to have to get some.
Edit: schnapps not snails. Never butterscotch snails.
Brilliantcoffeecat ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:28:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh that actually sounds good. I was picturing a shotglass filled with melted butter.
arminrulez88 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:45:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Paula Deen's nightcap ;)
Jlacosse6082 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:59:25 on June 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Indeed a butterscotch flavored schnapps. Buttershots is just the brand name but you could use any brand.
cleocatra922 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:10:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hot toddies solve everything
Marsdreamer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:01:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Yeah, but can it still work if I pour it with 3/4ths whiskey ;)
Or maybe just 4/4ths...
Shunpaw ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 07:07:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, hot water destroys all vitamine C which is the reason for puttig lemon juice in there.
Use cold water, it actually helps then (doesnt taste as good tho :( )
Mekanimal ยท 62 points ยท Posted at 02:31:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not to nitpick but what you described is categorically not homeopathy. Homeopathy and Chemistry as we know it are pretty much mutually exclusive.
It's a home/alternative remedy though, those things work better than over the counter medicines in some situations (my mama taught me similar techniques).
Marsdreamer ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:33:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Huh, TIL about the definition. I always thought Homeopathy was just kind of a catch-all phrase for a lot of the "home based" mumbo-jumbo type remedies for ailments.
Mekanimal ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 02:40:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Awesome! I'm really glad to have clarified then :)
Spread the awareness to those you know who assume the same, working alternative remedies should be kept alive for their inherent value. Whilst I hate using the phrase "big pharma", promoting alternative remedies is not profitable when a customer buys garlic instead of their own special formula of cough medicine. Hence why as a community we must endeavour to maintain the provably beneficial and destroy superstitious nonsense like "ground rhino horn tincture".
Homeopathy can jump off a bridge with all the other hokum "new-age" spiritualists buy into to support their intellectual posturing.
Edit: just in case, none of that was directed at your lovely sounding mother. no offense intended
SexThrowaway1126 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:38:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I for one wish you had nitpicked.
scalyblue ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:13:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs โfolk medicineโ or โa folk remedyโ , not homeopathic
Homeopathy refers to the specific belief that water โremembersโ its interactions with compounds after being absurdly diluted ( think, grain of rice in a sphere of water the size of earthโs orbit around the sun dilute ) and will cure things caused by those compounds, like diluting caffeine will create a sleep aid.
KerberusIV ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 02:14:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My daughter, 3 yo, got a nasty cough and the doc told me to use the medicine prescribed at the times indicated. If she was still coughing to give her a spoonful of honey every hour. Couldn't believe how well it worked for her or that a freaking doctor prescribed a spoonful of honey. It was great and inexpensive.
Gazboolean ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:29:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I believe honey has a number of anti-bacterial properties due to certain chemical compounds in it. Itโs been used for a long time as treatments for burns and wounds.
That_man_Boris ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:20:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's medical grade honey that's used to pack wounds. My grandfather had to use it on his leg like last year.
Marsdreamer ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:15:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes our ancestors had shit figured out
Most of the times they didn't, but sometimes.. Sometimes it really does work.
phuntastikbobby ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:44:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Plus, no vampires!
bigthink ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:41:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
๐ถYou're tearin' up my throat when I'm with flu,
Without the antidote I feel it too,
But no matter what I do I feel the pain,
Need a scarf or two๐ถ
findthejoyhere ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:25:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wonder if it is related to the wet sock treatment I was prescribed by a naturopath? https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-11994/a-strange-but-effective-athome-cure-for-the-cold-flu.html
kerill333 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:41:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fascinating. Thanks. I am trying this and the wet scarf trick next time.
XenomP1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:28:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It has been so long ago and I forget why I was sick (probably sore throat), but my mom brought me to a traditional Chinese medicine doctor to be checked out. The guy inspected one of my hands and mouth, and prescribed some really odd things like the skull of some animal, other gross things, and some spices.
Went home and had it all boiled in a pot and poured into a cup. It tasted strange. Anyway, by evening of the same day I started feeling better, and by morning, I was essentially all good.
Strange stuff but it works.
centwhore ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:14:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just to clarify: the scarf is still hot & wet when you wrap it around your neck?
Thanks :D
Marsdreamer ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:21:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Yeap. My MIL wrapped it up into another scarf after wringing it slightly so that you weren't putting boiling water right on your skin. I think the idea is to get it as hot as you can without it actually being painful in any way, so as to help relax your throat.
breggman1210 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fucking Germans have answers to everything!
Thefar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is no perfectly harmless in telling people to take any kind of placebo for their illnesses. Either you need medicine or you need therapy. But sure as he'll you don't need 10 euros a spoon of sugar and water.
As for the scarf. Salt and lavendel will probably do the effect without the garlic. At least you won't smell like the anti Dracula. And these are old house remedies. Nothing to do with homeopathy.
Ricardo1184 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:33:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So the scarf is wet when you put it on? Doesn't it get cold as time passes during the night?
stiveooo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:28:28 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
im bafled how you couldnt see the science behind it at 1st sight
swannygod ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:53:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Placibo possibly?
Marsdreamer ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:59:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doubt it. I was expecting it to not work and it's hard to placebo away a bloodied cough.
But then again, I didn't run a double blind study so who knows xD
kneepolez ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 00:56:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink some more water
FlumrTheLordOfMoist ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 01:05:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting lotion on your feet when you are hot, you get cold!
SMHorcrux ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 04:41:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
When you are in the desert (or any very hot place), put wipes on your wrists and leg-wrist things, it cools the circulating blood and makes you feel very cold.
jec_9 ยท 72 points ยท Posted at 04:42:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Leg-wrist.... do you mean ankles?
AllYourBas ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 04:55:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry, did you just say "Leg Wrists"???
Nanukimo ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 09:22:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't forget about your kneebows
wryan18 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:07:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/brandnewsentence
dorsei ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:41:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://www.gettyimages.com/detail/video/red-kangaroo-licks-forearms-to-keep-cool-in-stock-video-footage/1B06578_0013
imnotaloneyouare ยท 71 points ยท Posted at 01:55:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When my first was born my aunt told me "if you don't know what to do, if they won't stop crying, if you're falling apart, if you're losing your sanity, dance like a pineapple". Made ZERO sense until he was about 4-5 months old, I had a broken arm, he had gastrointestinalitis (explosive diarrhea), neither of us had slept much, he wouldn't stop crying... my aunts words sang in my head like some goddamn epiphany... worked!!!
You, yeah you thinking this is crazy talk... just you wait and see.
TinyCatCrafts ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 05:03:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breaking through hysteria with hysterics. :)
enchantedbaby ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 05:03:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
but how does a pineapple dance?
imnotaloneyouare ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:19:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
EXACTLY!!!! Go try.
Thisfoxhere ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:50:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The one on my table sits perfectly still. Perhaps means to not move but dance in your head?
Could also mean a fifty dollar note (green and gold note, often referred to as tge pineapple) but unlikely.
stiveooo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:53:44 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
wha? is this suppose to help the baby stop crying or yourself?
imnotaloneyouare ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:20:05 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Either, or, both.
[deleted] ยท 162 points ยท Posted at 00:16:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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poppiesinred ยท 252 points ยท Posted at 01:24:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pee on them. Got it.
Shrieka1987 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:59:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
R Kelly, is that you?
ToadSausages ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:24:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ya missed court bud. But i guess ya cant read this
poppiesinred ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:02:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sure, why not
TNS72 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:57:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait
demontrain ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:43:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get off the internet R Kelly you can't even read!
_Pure_Insanity_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:24:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Brings new meaning to showering them in gold/riches.
rad1enc3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instructions unclear. Peed on manager. She liked it and wants me to do it again in exchange for a raise.
laundmo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:20:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Golden_Rule
poppiesinred ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:20:47 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone was seriously trolling this wiki page
ZestyWaffles1 ยท 36 points ยท Posted at 02:27:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs not gay when itโs in a three way
tropicalunicorn ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:45:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs ok when itโs in a three way
evorm ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:52:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When there's a honey in the middle there's some leeway
tropicalunicorn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:48:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The areaโs grey in a one two three way
laundmo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:20:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Golden_Rule
sharr_zeor ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 01:40:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The people with the all the gold make all the rules?
SneakersInTheDryer ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:52:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1:1.618
Got it, thank you!
irsquats ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:48:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The platinum rule.
xilopryce ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:31:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's ok, when it's in a 3 way?
fcukliberals ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:26:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs not gay if itโs in a three way
laundmo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:20:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Golden_Rule
fcukliberals ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:23:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://youtu.be/Pi7gwX7rjOw
laundmo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:27:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
can you just explain, cant watch video right now
rlambert0419 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:42:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even better: treat others the way THEY want to be treated.
thipeto ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:04:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Which is? (im not american)
laundmo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:20:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Golden_Rule
thipeto ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:45:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank u
kuynhxchi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But... but... whatโs the golden rule?
MaleAryaStarksNoHomo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:06:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never talk about fight club
Edit: Shit!
kuynhxchi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shit!
laundmo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:19:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Golden_Rule
wryan18 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:46:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I see that you have posted this many times. I think you belong to r/woooosh now
laundmo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:28:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
idk maybe. but personally i think its important to know this
wryan18 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:30:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get that. Everyone knows the golden rule, most comments are a joke referring to a song by Lonely Island. The link that was a reply to you would show that
laundmo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:41:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
there was some confusion + i didnt know the song or the joke, so at first i thought the golden rule i know was wrong (maybe cause i didnt look up if it was called golden rule in english, so i assumed that what i know as a golden rule in my language isnt the golden rule)
wryan18 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:45:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gotcha. When you get time watch this video. It will clear everything up: https://youtu.be/Pi7gwX7rjOw
14PenceOreos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:50:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
okay jafar
[deleted] ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 04:44:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
My father bought me my first car and told me this is not a present you are going to pay me back every cent I have lent you, I am going to be your bank manager instead of you having to take out a bank loan.
I was 17 at the time and he was as strict as strict could be with my on time payments of the car, If I missed any he was going to take the car off me at intervals that increased for each time I missed a payment and at the time not only did I think his advice was useless I started to resent what he was doing.
Fast forward roughly 20 years and the advice and what he taught me along the way with the car helped me pay off my home loan by the age of 40 and set myself up for early retirement. I never did miss a payment with the car or the home loan.
My father is no longer with us but it still makes me smile the way he guided me with financial advice without me ever realizing at the time what he was doing.
AdjutantStormy ยท 678 points ยท Posted at 00:56:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Befriend those little people, the janitor, the delivery guy, the server, and the dishwasher.
You never know when they might pull your ass out of the fire.
LininOhio ยท 269 points ยท Posted at 01:29:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also the receptionist/admin assistant. They get shit done.
girr0ckss ยท 75 points ยท Posted at 02:02:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Befriending anyone in admin like receptionists is your best bet for anything. You can learn so much from people who's job is to organize everything. Obviously don't try and be a dick about it, but small favors can add up if you need them
Mysterious_Lesions ยท 66 points ยท Posted at 04:32:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And maybe stop calling them little people.
Sam_Porgins ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 04:36:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Treat admins with nothing but respect and kindness. They make any company run, they are the gatekeepers, they know everything, and they can make shit happen. If they like you, theyโll make things happen for you. You cross them, they can destroy you.
LininOhio ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 12:41:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup. Every time something comes out of the White House with a typo in it -- which happens ALL THE TIME -- I know that someone there was a jerk to the support staff and they are getting their revenge. (And I smile and raise a fist in solidarity.)
iWillNeverBeHere ยท 113 points ยท Posted at 01:37:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, they're just really fun people to talk to. They have fun stories and they're p happy to chat with someone who will treat them like an actual human being instead of a servant.
MadMrCrazy ยท 62 points ยท Posted at 02:34:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
to be fair I think a lot of people would like being treated like an actual human being instead of a servant
IllegalAlcoholic ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:27:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm, I work as a delivery guy.
AdjutantStormy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:27:58 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me too
Extranzia ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:35:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The best part about befriending them too is often times you get the office tea either directly or though their body language and it can help you be aware of who to avoid and who to rely on based on that intel alone. Helped me learn who to stay away from and who to listen to and within months I got promoted due to this.
G1lv ยท 176 points ยท Posted at 01:58:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
First things first: change your mentality. Don't consider them "little people", because they are equal to you.
Edit: a comma for syntax reasons.
bkaybee ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 03:15:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, that was suuper egotistical
JohnGenericDoe ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 11:16:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And it's not only useful to maintain a relationship with them, it's an end in itself
okiedokedudedamn ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:26:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
came here to say this
miss_memologist ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:15:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Double that
IMR800X ยท 125 points ยท Posted at 02:17:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The even better LPT is to pull your head out of your ass and stop thinking of them as "those little people."
You're not the fucking Queen of Sheba. You're no better than the guy scraping turds out of the bathroom, and probably contribute less actual value to society as a whole.
lolinyourdreams ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:45:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Agree
gopaddle ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 03:06:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They are not little people. Maybe phrase this as, โBefriend everyone.โ
Kaldenar ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:20:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tried that, it has its downsides (ending up living with a secret racist for a year at college being one such downside). Maybe "be willing to befriend everybody."?
tooloudalex ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:18:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The way Iโve heard it is pretty similar, never shit on the support. They have more power to help and hurt you than you realize. And try to give at least as much if not more than you take from the relationship
cheaptrainride ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:14:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/dota2
RedEyedFreak ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:05:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do you mean by little?
jumblemybawbag ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 01:41:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not a fan of this tbh. Befriending people only because you might get something out of it is rough. Be polite to everyone unless they don't deserve it, but don't use people.
[deleted] ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:08:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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kflyer ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:36:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also it's just the right way to live...
jumblemybawbag ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:27:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That isn't how it came across. To me at least.
AdjutantStormy ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:44:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's... not the point
TheRainStopped ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 03:44:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your.... advice is literally being friendly to others because they might help you in return. Not because itโs the cool thing to do regardless of reward. And โlittle peopleโ? Wtf?
jumblemybawbag ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:26:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's how it sounded. ยฏ\_(ใ)_/ยฏ
RagingAardvark ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:56:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a licensed real estate agent with a fair amount of experience, and I have a side gig answering calls and emails for one of the top agents in my area. The number of other agents who won't talk to me on the phone ("Just have her call me back, okay?!") is astounding and insulting. There's about a 75% chance that I can answer their questions, and an even greater chance that I can at least find the answer before Herself is done with her appointment. But the person on the phone won't talk to me because I'm "the help."
A couple of days ago I was able to play a small part in a big deal coming together because the other agent spoke frankly to me and treated me like an actual human, a professional with knowledge and experience, rather than an answering machine. Felt good on many levels! And as a bonus to that other agent, it left our whole team with a favorable impression of him, making us more willing to work with him in the future.
intrsectionalfascism ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:21:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh hell yeah. Working on a job site for a week? You march straight in and befriend the cook.
maianajewel ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:33:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In general being nice to people who are performing some sort of service for you. Barista? Mailman? Trash collector? Waiter? Bus/metro/Uber driver? Be nice. I work in retail, luckily it's in a niche business that 99.5% of the time people are at least generally nice if not awesome and friendly but I know what it's like to be treated as if what I do is something to be looked down upon simply because I do it in a store and I function as a salesperson/cashier sometimes while also offering services that require varying degree of skills and knowledge that I have built over a 25 year period (jewelry repair) including intensive consultation. So I take my experiences with customers to heart and when I deal with others in service positions I live by the rule: Do I want to be the person my Barista or Waitperson or Mailman or Uber Driver or Trash Collector goes home and complains about to their family (or on social media) or do I want to be the type of person that a person would go home and say "I met the nicest person at work today!"?
dragonturds554 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:05:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom was in a MASH unit in the Army during the first Gulf War (1991). She told me always be friends with the cooks. She said they used to give her hot waters for showers. Plus it doesn't hurt to just be a nice person in general, no matter their position on the totem pole.
nevermindthisrepost ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:05:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
GavinZac ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:53:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Found the smarmy fuck who's going to be first up against the wall when the revolution comes
MedjoolStudent ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:35:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, those background job employees know all the ins and outs of the places they work and the people who hang around them. People don't suspect the janitor to hear everything you say in the break room, but they do. ..I mean, not that you need any of the secrets these people carry about, but ehm.. ahem could make for good story telling?
badanas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:50:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Treat the Prime Minister and the Janitor the same way
Mr-Yoghurt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:14:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I go visit my old employers it's those people who are the happiest to see me.
eklatea ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:54:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm currently graduating and a few days ago I met the cleaning lady from my school. She was so excited to see me and introduced me to the person she was in the store with (maybe her husband). I don't even know her name (shame on me, I never asked her, just always said hello).
Once I had cupcakes over (because no one wanted my cupcakes ...) and I gave her one and she gave me a few days later a bread roll.
Kinda wholesome now that I think of it, but it's mostly caused by the fact that I wasn't ever really able to connect to people my age and talked to adults instead.
Hold_on_to_ur_butts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:12 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What a strange thing to say. So not only are you putting yourself above anyone that serves you. You're only befriending them to get something out of them. 'Little people' wtf man?
AdjutantStormy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:25:00 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tone deaf and looking for a fight. K. I'm the delivery guy.
craigboyce ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Befriend IT and HR folks usually got the newest equipment quickly (pizza and dounts and being somewhat computer literate helps) and never got questioned on hiring or firing employees (keep good records helps).
TacosTexasStars ยท 149 points ยท Posted at 00:28:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listen to your instincts.
Saved my son from a hospital trip today.๐คท๐ผโโ๏ธ
hatsuneriku ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:05:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Context?
TacosTexasStars ยท 225 points ยท Posted at 01:12:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
That lizard part of your brain that gives you feelings in your subconscious. When you start feeling uncomfortable in a situation and you donโt know why.
My kid was playing with an older kid on a playground and I started getting so many uncomfortable feelings. I was sitting on a bench 10 feet away and just had an urge l to go stand near my son while the other boy was around,even though weโve played together before.
Iโm the opposite of a helicopter mom but I started hovering over my kid for probably the first time ever this afternoon when that feeling kicked in.
My son was standing with his back to the opening to the slide on a playground set. All of a sudden this other kid ran up, screamed RAWR and fucking shoved my 1 year old son backwards into the opening.
He didnโt fall backwards down the slide, he tripped over the side of the slide and would have landed 5 ft below on his head/neck but mama was there to catch him. ๐ข
#Curate the fuck out of your lizard brain, inner voice, fear instincts. We notice so many things subconsciously and you have the ability to listen to it and turn up the volume on it.
Edit because a word thanks for gold!!! I just hope people listen to their alarm signals!
Edit again to add the dog story below
Ok so I mentioned my gut saved my dog and actually that is the first time I can confidently say I really felt that gut instinct go into overdrive.
My husband and I had just adopted a Belgian Malinois. We met the whole little and adopt the one dog that was not acting like a total spazz ball, she was soooo sweet. She just laid with us and let us pet her. I knew this was my dog!! I was 7 months pregnant and a low key puppy sounded great.
Her first night with us was rough. She was very timid (not like her breed at all) and I noticed poop in her blood. I called the person we adopted from and he insisted it was just stress but it would go away. โYeah rightโ I thought.
We were set to leave town the next day and rather than leave her at the boarder we dearly love with our other dog, I knew I better keep her close or I would worry constantly about whether her state of health was improving. So we drove a brand new puppy from Oklahoma City to San Antonio and she was so sweet but the whole time she was at my feet I couldnโt stop looking into her little puppy eyes and thinking โsomething is wrong with youโ.
The night we got San Antonio she exploded diarrhea all over her crate and again I thought something was wrong even though itโs not considered abnormal puppy behavior.
The next day I skipped work to hang with her. She started pooping her intestines out. We took her to the vet, they said she is stressed and it will stop, give her these antibiotics. 2 hours later I called my husband sobbing, saying โthis just isnโt right- something is wrong, we need to take her to another vetโ
Another vet told us the same thing! More antibiotics. I am not a vet, I know nothing about dogs. We got in the car and I remember holding he puppy and consciously thinking โyou are dyingโ and I told my husband we were going to the animal hospital.
again the doctor said she was probably totally fine but they would observe her tonight and do an ultrasound because there is a small chance she could have something in her intestines. I shoved my dog at them and left.
They called me at about 9 that evening and said the ultrasound didnโt show anything so I could get her in the morning. I insisted something is wrong with her, and the doctor said the only choice they have is to do exploratory surgery($$$$$$) and I begged him to do it. At this point in be story, I hope you realize I would have to have so many alarm bells going off in my head above and beyond normal anxiety to pay $5k for exploratory surgery on a dog that had been cleared by 3 doctors.
I got a call around midnight from the doctor. They opened the dog up and found she was suffering from a giant intestine issue I canโt spell and they fixed it and would monitor her for 3 days to see if she was going to pull through. :(((
Long story fast forward she lived, was on insane meds for a month and thank god I listened to my gut and saved her guts.
People will doubt your gut because itโs not your own gut, donโt listen to people.
**also want to add my mom is the person who always told me to trust my gut because she dated a guy one time and her gut told her to stop seeing him and it turned out to be a serial killer. Please donโt ask for that story because itโs not mine to tell.
TinyCatCrafts ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 04:57:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My friend and I were driving on the highway once, and out of nowhere and for no apparent reason she changed lanes.
It wasnt to speed up and pass the truck ahead of us, it wasnt because a space opened up, or a car was tailgating... there was very light traffic on the road and we were cruising at a comfortable speed.
She just said afterward that she'd just had the sudden, irresistible urge to change lanes.
About 2 seconds after the car had gotten into the other lane, the back left tire on the truck ahead of us shredded into pieces, and sent a chunk the size of a small child flying through the air at exactly the height of our windshield. It would have hit us, probably shattered the window and caused us to wreck at about 70mph.
littlemermaidmadi ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 03:00:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My gut saved my kid too! She was complaining of leg pain but I brushed it off as growing pains. Until her school called and asked me to come get her. My instincts said this was doctor-worthy so I took her in. She ended up being diagnosed with a fatal tick-borne illness, but surpassed all of the symptoms because I took her in so early!
Concumber ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:01:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yikes. What illness was it?
littlemermaidmadi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:03:13 on May 9, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rocky Mountain Spotted Fever.
TacosTexasStars ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:11:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A mamaโs heart knows more than a wise mind some times. I think once we have a living reason to listen to our gut we are more tuned into it.
Itโs saved my kids, my dog (oh lord that is a whole story) and a million other things. Iโve never regretted listening to that gut.
lamprabbit ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:03:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im interested in the dog story
TacosTexasStars ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:54:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Added it to the post
lamprabbit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:59:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
thanks for letting me know :)
sdf222234 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:38:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe these "gut" feelings are part of a wise mind ๐ค
TacosTexasStars ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 03:44:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol probably. Sometimes a mamaโs heart says not to vax their kids and they would be wrong in that instance.
ThatsNotPossibleMan ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:09:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's interesting. Now that you say it, when i was suffering from panic attacks i always had this feeling in the back of my head like "you're not going to die here today".
TacosTexasStars ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:37:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your gut is trying to talk you out of listening to your runaway brain. Very interesting.
TeaPartyInTheGarden ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:48:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
God damn, the number of times I can look back on and think, yeah I knew that wasnโt a good idea. From dangerous situations to unhealthy relationships to shitty haircuts. I had a gut feeling and I ignored it.
gudbote ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:10:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm struggling to get a good grasp on my 'sixth sense' but I can confirm it can work in ways that would be worth its own episode of X-Files.
prettyoddpotato ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:00:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My "instincts" are usually my anxiety trying to trick me into hiding under the covers on my bed all day haha
Yungsleepboat ยท -17 points ยท Posted at 01:42:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Although it might have saved you today, listening to your instinct is usually terrible advice.
TacosTexasStars ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 01:49:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
here is a link to a pdf for a book that disproves your point
I believe this thread is for advice you thought was useless until it wasnโt
KaseyKade ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:08:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This book honestly changed everything for me. I can not recommend it enough.
Voltronstarlord ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:13:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please explain how you figure
Yungsleepboat ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 02:17:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your instinct kills your rationality. Do you know how often at night my instinct tells me to run, arm up, fight, or hide when I am at unease for some reason? Quite frequently. Though there is never anything actually wrong.
It also plays into (underlaying) mental disorders of some, including but not limited to: autistic spectrum disorders, schizofrenia, psychosis, DID, ADD, and ADHD. These are disorders that are fought by rationalizing. Blindly following instincts in day to day life would be very counter intuitive for people who either have one of these disorders or for people susceptible to it.
Voltronstarlord ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:23:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Obviously it needs to be paired with logic and rationality. Im not implying one needs to โme hungry go hunt nowโ but I cant even begin to explain how often my gut instinct allows me to make a correct or better decision. Once i started going with it instead over thinking iv had a much better time, and the times i dont listen i really wish i had.
Maera420 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:43:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your instinct is just your brain subconsciously picking up on lots of little signs you may not notice, and then feeding that information to you. It's your subconscious understanding your surroundings in a way that your conscious brain may not.
So don't go blindly following anything, but allowing your instinct to guide you, while still using your rational mind to think it through as best you can in the moment, is a very smart thing to do in most circumstances, for most people.
Yungsleepboat ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:51:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Although that's true, our brain still has many instincts that are not at all useful in our time. A lot of people instinctually wake up after 4 hours of sleep, before falling asleep after an hour or shorter. This is due to the fact that many many generations before us, humans were reliant on waking up in the middle of the night to restart the fire they were sleeping around.
Many of our instincts are fear driven and primal, whereas we as a society no longer are. It would suprise you how many people today experience anxiety due to their instincts telling them something is wrong when there isn't anything wrong. If one of these people were to blindly follow their instinct, he/she would go home where it feels safe, learning that the only way to prevent anxiety is to stay isolated, leading to even more anxiety and a smaller safespace. That's just an example.
TheRealSilverBlade ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 03:58:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spend more to save more.
Itโs better to buy a higher priced, quality item one time versus a cheaper item many times over because it keeps breaking
Cher9969 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:14:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless youโre buying an Apple, this does not apply to technology (computers, american cars, TVs, etc). It changes too fast to worry about quality. Go for the cheap, upgradable, biodegradable advanced crap.
Margotsgirls ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:04:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy cheap, buy twice. Since being a home owner and earning enough to actually buy some better quality things I have learnt that I was wasting so much money doing things cheaply. Iโd end up spending more money eventually anyway. This goes for most things, cheap clothes for example wonโt last long and youโll just replace it anyway.
SpaghettiSouIs ยท 217 points ยท Posted at 23:25:28 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dipping my fries into my milkshake.
Bigboss_26 ยท 101 points ยท Posted at 00:58:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or Chocolate Frosty from Wendyโs
imanastartafight ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:22:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oreo mcflurry
Moving_Shit ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:52:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ogre Mc'Furry
HiramNinja ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:53:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
MC Furry Ogre
buttersauce ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:34:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is the good stuff right here. Don't even have to dip it just eating fries then mcflurry back and forth.
scrambledpotus ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:28:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is gonna sound totally disgusting (it isnโt), but try dipping chicken nuggets into a chocolate frosty. Itโs mind blowing.
Bigboss_26 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:33:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I could see this. There are lots of weird sweet/savory combos that just oddly work. Chicken and waffles. Salt in your coffee. Anything dipped in a frosty is winning imo though
prettymuchzoinks ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:05:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
THIS!!!
mathemastitchin ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:58:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What I don't understand is why we have to specify a chocolate frosty. That's what a frosty is. What the hell is a vanilla frosty?! Kids these days... Ugh
jsprgrey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:07:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fries, nuggets, even the goddamn burgers. There's nothing a frosty doesn't improve
LuchoMucho ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I lived on fries and Frostys in HS.
alle0441 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:31:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Frosties are a 50/50 chocolate/vanilla mixture.
NickDanger3di ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:43:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A coworker and friend bought me chocolate covered potato chips for my B-day. They were wonderful. The store that carried them closed right after that, never found them anywhere else.
ssseltzer ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:02:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you know how to melt chocolate? Thatโs step 1.
Fyrestar333 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:34:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Utz chips has them around xmas time
Private_Donuts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:08:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oof
RexDraco ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:57:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Amazon, brooooo
gesunheit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:48:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Excuse me what the fuck?
SpaghettiSouIs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:47:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No u should try it, itโs really not bad
kj9219 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:10:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In n out fries into a neopolitan
coffcat ยท 43 points ยท Posted at 02:00:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I use visual imagery to fall back asleep when I start thinking about stupid crap in the middle of the night. Just picture a large white board filled with all of your thoughts, then picture your hand with an eraser slowly wiping it all away. The thoughts have to stay on the board and get erased, if you start thinking of them again, you refill the empty section with thoughts again and slowly erase them. No thinking, just erasing. It works surprisingly well.
OzManCumeth ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:40:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do this but with a broom, Iโm shocked to see it somewhere! This is awesome.
Usuri91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:01:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmmm. Iโve never heard of this method. I might try this.
Bluebybirth ยท 66 points ยท Posted at 02:08:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
After breakup. Instantly remove the "so " from the social media.
Nez_bit ยท 147 points ยท Posted at 03:47:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
cial media
Jacob_Dovahkiin ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:38:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Delete all photos with them, block them, and mute all of their content so mutual friends can't share their tweets or pictures with you.
Freevoulous ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:59:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
also, ditch all the stuff of theirs/gifts from them, unless they are super expensive, then sell those.
Mountainofstress ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 01:52:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get up the first time your alarm goes off.
I thought, no way I can do that! I snooze a million times. Well I feel so much better if I just force myself to get up at the first alarm.
Liam_Neesons_Oscar ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 06:48:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was a kid, I was getting bullied by an older kid on the playground. The teacher asked me "well, have you asked him to stop?" I thought it was the most asinine thing I'd heard in my six long years on the planet.
But, in a move I still use today when talking to tech support, I went ahead and did the thing they asked even though I knew it wouldn't work, just so we could move on to the next step quicker. So I saw him one day playing tetherball with his friends, and I walked down to him. I then asked, in front of the other kids in his grade, "hey, can you stop chasing me and my friend? We don't like that." He shrugged and said "okay."
He never picked on us again. No more wrist locks, no more having dirt thrown at us, no more being chased around the playground. I actually missed it once I realized I wasn't going to be bullied any more.
[deleted] ยท 147 points ยท Posted at 00:49:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You need to push yourself to break through your anxiety.
Me: What the fuck do you mean, push myself? What do you think I've been doing? It makes me miserable!
That's what you need to push through.
It's the truth. Push through it. Fight as hard as you fucking can, and don't give up. Cry your eyes out when you need to. Scream when you need to. Just push. Fight.
Also:
If life seems pointless, just devote yourself to *anything*
Stop_LyingToYourself ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 01:33:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For the most part yes. But I think it's also important to know that sometimes it's okay to give up/ quit.
For example I was enrolled on a postgrad cause that was causing me so much stress and anxiety on top of my other life pressures that it was making me ill. I eventually decided it wasn't worth it and left the course. No regrets since. It was the best decision I could have made for my health at the time. But I was so afraid of being a "quitter" and giving up it took me far too long to get there.
OverlySexualPenguin ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:33:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i've devoted myself to being in bed.
gmwholeman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:36:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. Iโve been anxious my whole life and finally went to therapy and really, honestly did the work, and it has made an incredible difference in my life. I had been to therapy before but didnโt really push myself. I wish I had just listened when people told me it would be hard work but worth it.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:13:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If life seems pointless devote yourself to anything... so true. Just pick something. Anything. Also, if you canโt do it for yourself, do it for someone else... helping other people is the only thing that has gotten me out of really bad ruts
LaneyRW ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:35:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree with this because I have anxiety and I have to push myself to do certain things. I'm always glad I pushed through it. Sometimes it's a bit easier the next time too. And yet I've tried to encourage other friends with anxiety to do this, but sometimes I get accused of being insensitive. I'm not trying to be insensitive, I honestly believe sometimes you have to find a way to push through and do what's most important.
DefiantWarlord ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 02:26:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you are trying to catch a fly or mosquito, hold your hand right in front of your face and approach it slowly. It wonโt fly away! I have no idea how this works but itโs freakin magic.
stiveooo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:55:27 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what? you can catch flies with your barehand? (i can too) or you meant killing them?
DefiantWarlord ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:56:33 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Either way the trick works. Bonus points if you do it with chopsticks.
Kritorion ยท 74 points ยท Posted at 01:08:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put a piece of toilet paper in the water before you start pooping
flitterbug78 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:16:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is how I got over my stage fright in public restrooms!
lookin4points ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 11:17:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or flush as soon as you poo, if you time it exactly the flush will cover the chaos coming from your anus.
flitterbug78 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:39:17 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I made that rhyme in my head when I read it. Not sure you meant for that to happen, but it happened. Well done.
TimX24968B ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
the real question is why do you care? the other person is someone else you likely wont see again, wont care about, and if they are, they likely wont care enough about how disgusting you sound while taking a shit to notice.
FriscoHusky ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:59:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What does that do? Help muffle the splashes?
tinysinner ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 05:27:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Prevents Poseidonโs kiss.
QuentinTarzantino ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:27:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or Neptunes smooch
benichols89 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:25:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why?
uttplug ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:20:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why?
Cher9969 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:31:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No splash back
tallmin22 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:28:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It also makes you check the amount of toilet paper left, haven't been caught out since
uttplug ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:49:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Intriguing
[deleted] ยท 261 points ยท Posted at 23:03:21 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Waking up early
Going to a dermatologist
NoFap
Talking to girls instead of staring at their asses
NippleSalsa ยท 109 points ยท Posted at 01:05:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Talk to their asses while stairing at them got it.
IllegalAlcoholic ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 02:26:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
NoFap really helps in that case. You will talk to more asses while staring at them.
[deleted] ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 03:08:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Imagine a cafe where girls put their asses in a window sort deal and horny men just start talking to them as if theyโre people
TheLightningCount1 ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 23:31:57 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bro that's what mirror's are for.
Laruik ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:44:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read this as a series of related events and got very confused.
ButtsexEurope ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 03:24:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gonna have to disagree on nofap. Masturbation is normal and healthy. If youโre taking it to an extreme, you need to learn self discipline and probably get therapy, not quit masturbating forever. Because thereโs some underlying issue where youโre masturbating constantly.
[deleted] ยท -11 points ยท Posted at 06:37:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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kensomniac ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 06:47:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most people fap because it feels good.
WhyIsTheMoonThere ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:26:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can't say I've ever found it humiliating. Lots of people do it and it's perfectly healthy as long as you're not letting it run your life.
paulvs88 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:43:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like a busy day.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:03:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep
petit_cochon ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 01:31:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nothing wrong with enjoying your own body, but yeah, please don't stare at us.
howlinggale ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:53:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'll stare at whatever I want.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:07:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oops, I guess it kind of read like Iโm a pervert that mentally fucks girls with his eyes but really it was my attempt at a humorous way of describing the fact that I sometimes tend to look at girls instead of talk to them but I donโt do this as much anymore.
CaptainObivous ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:52:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop wearing yoga pants then, unless your ass is doing yoga. Until then, I'm going to stare without shame.
Laeryken ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:07:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn, all of this sounds... damn.
cashcapone96 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:10:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
nofap literally changed my life forever
PM_ME_YOUR_PLECTRUMS ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:48:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't have anything against dermatologists, but I hate having to take medicine and use creams or products for my face.
I refused to go to one but I did change my diet, and my skin is better than ever.
I'm not suggesting not to go to one, but changing your diet a little bit is easy to do and results come in little time (a few weeks).
If this doesn't work obviously you should see a dermatologist.
PseudonymIncognito ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:10:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you spend much time in the sun, it's probably a good idea to go to a dermatologist anyway to get a periodic skin check. Due to my family history I'm on an annual schedule now.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs true I have to take antibiotics and apply two creams a day and you must be regular too but diet helps a lot too especially cutting out junk food and eating lots of foods high in vitamin A like liver and kale
PM_ME_YOUR_PLECTRUMS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:52:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me the thing that made a change was reducing dairy products and drinking more water
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:12:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah cutting out dairy helps for some people
Mysterious_Lesions ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:37:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not really me, but for other's I have to ask why not both?
SinkTube ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:33:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
probably because they prefer face-to-face interaction, but i know a little trick to get around that: talk to her in front of a mirror, so you can peek over her shoulder to stare at her ass
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:11:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
R/lifeprotip
Whitecastle56 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:08:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Definitely agree with the Dermatologist. I didn't want to go for a long time because I didn't want to take any medication for same reason. After finally going, my skin did a 180 and made me wish I went years earlier. Although it's important to note that if you do have to stick with the routine and watch your diet (for me it was cutting down on sugar significantly) otherwise it's totally pointless.
shortasalways ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 03:46:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deleting Facebook. Actually don't miss it or the need to be connected to everyone all the time. I spend more time with my family and I don't feel the pressure to be perfect or living up to others expectations. I also don't have to deal with all the military wife/base drama.
jow97 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 05:06:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Relationship advice I got once, donโt just act like your in a relationship,
โAct like your on the same teamโ
Works a charm! Everything seems easier to accomplish and more fun too. feelings get hurt less and we communicate more. Sadly I often only remember this advice slightly too late.
Rue9X ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 05:06:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People love to hear their own name.
feral-phoenix ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 11:47:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not sure if itโs just me, but I actually hate hearing my own name.
kerill333 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:50:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, I hate people using my name repeatedly in conversation. It feels so obviously try-hard.
Huni_Bear ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 01:13:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey, this is my first post here, so sorry if I somehow mess up--
My mom has all sorts of weird tricks on how to make yourself feel better. For example, today my stomach hurt like somebody had put a knife in it, so I remembered my mom's trick to pinch the skin and muscle-thing in between my index finger and thumb, and I suddenly hadn't hurt so much. Sure, the skin I was pinching hurt a little, but it was sure of a better trade than silently dying in Spanish class. Another trick for my eyes feeling better was to pull on my index finger, which actually worked from what I remember, but nowadays my vision is starting to worsen, so it doesn't Mozart-Magic it's way into your brain. Still, gotta thank my mom for these random tricks.
PMBoobiesPlease ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 05:44:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slow becomes smooth, and smooth becomes fast. If you donโt learn the fundamentals of something, you will not have a solid base to build your knowledge from.
You must walk before you can run.
CryptidCrisis ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 02:24:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Poking the side of your head to hit the โsave buttonโ to remember important information. It triggers muscle memory....I think?
given_gaussian_curve ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:54:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not sure that's what muscle memory is
TinyCatCrafts ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:10:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saying a phrase that's really out of place helps too! Because you remember you said that weird phrase for some reason, why was that-OH that thing you have to remember to do!
Mine for a while was "4011 is the code for Bananas."
Bubonic_Batt ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:53:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Now Iโve got to start reading from the top again.
titanlink789 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:52:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Poke the side of your head to check.
[deleted] ยท 59 points ยท Posted at 23:37:29 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditating
GatorGladiator ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 00:37:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been managing anger quite literally since the first grade. (Never got violent, just was becoming a problem with interaction so they sent me to the school therapist every Monday and Wednesday.) I found out that the whole stereotypical crossed-legs-closed-eyes-and-deep-breathing thing really soothed me and helped me manage it.
horror- ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 01:55:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Done is better than perfect."
I started applying this to my hobbies and it sorta bled over into everything else I do.
When I first heard it I thought that dude must just suck at everything. I was wrong.
daperson1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:06:49 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is doubly important if you work in software...
libertybellcurve ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:07:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you are anxious and feel adrenaline coursing through you due to something stressful that you are doing or about to do, I was told to open and close your fist since it uses the tendons all up your arm so it quickly expends the energy from the adrenaline.
Idk if this has any scientific backing but it works for me
sexykristinith ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:16:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gonna try this next time Iโm road raging. I donโt let it come out in my driving, Iโve been a passenger to aggressive drivers- wonโt ever do that, but I swear like a sailor and get worked up. I recently missed my turn because I was too busy spewing rage over being cut off. Hopefully this will help. Thanks.
IAmNotAMeatPopsicle ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:07:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you hit that point in your run when you feel like you have to stop, don't. Your second wind is in there. My buddy forced me to keep going and I was genuinely astonished at what I was capable of. It's stuck with me ever since.
(Obviously, this doesn't count if you're injured. Never try to push through an injury.)
PM_ME_YOUR_FI_TIPS ยท 29 points ยท Posted at 02:08:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone told me about the importance of networking when looking for a job when I was younger and it felt useless. When I thought of networking I thought about schmoozing people at a wine and cheese event and it just wasn't me.
Turns out networking can be as simple as building and more importantly maintaining relationships as you get older and it's been extremely important in my career development. I now won't even consider applying for a job if I don't have some sort of connection through my network.
aintnothin_in_gatlin ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:35:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep in mind that building worthwhile and lasting a network in your industry is not easy. It does take work, so for anyone reading this...work at it. It only takes a few minutes each month to reach out to folks and say hello. Write peopleโs kids names down and a fact about them, even if just their age. Use that as a way to catch up. โHey how is sally doing? Is she applying for colleges or taking some time off?โ Works miracles, Iโm telling you.
YemshiFata ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:21:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you Michael Scott?
_gravy_train_ ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 02:14:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Peel a banana from the bottom, not the stem.
Cher9969 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:39:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Break it in half. Then u have 2 easy peel bananas
TequilaBeans ยท 102 points ยท Posted at 23:52:21 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hit a tree or the ground with a stick / yell out your anger.
It really works to let out steam by hitting things with sticks and yelling at the top of your lungs. Throwing big boulders at the ground works too.
0721217114 ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 01:59:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Throw ice at the garage. It breaks in a satisfying way and doesn't hurt the garage.
The_Holy_Bison ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:52:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I love freezing a big block of ice and shattering it. takes out my anger and satisfies the need to break something.
TimX24968B ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:10:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
as long as you don't hit the garage window
Spiffy87 ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 02:47:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hitting things when angry just conditions yourself to hit things when you're angry. Then you end up in a situation where you are angry and can not hit a thing, which will cause frustration and intensify the anger.
There's a reason anger management teaches breathing and thought exercises, instead of carrying around a plank of wood to judo chop.
Dovahkiin47 ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 02:36:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually, this isn't very good advice. It does give momentary relief, but it also increases your predisposition towards aggressive action. Essentially it creates a cycle that causes you to become more and more easily frustrateded over little things.
It may not be as fun, but it is far better for you to learn how to breathe and let things go.
gullgum ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:23:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can I suplex a boulder?
ultronthedestroyer ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:52:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, and I dare you to prove me wrong.
confused_ape ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:00:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to /r/Blacksmith and do something constructive with all that hitting.
_Pure_Insanity_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:29:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm, I felt better when Auggie was wacking the sign with his sword.
Edit: Just so we are clear this is not a euphemism, but a scene in Role Models
voidptr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:11:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is only helpful in the short term. There's evidence that expressing anger like this regularly is bad in the long term, because it habituates you to violent expressions, making angry outbursts more likely. It's better to figure out what it is that is making you angry in the first place, and dealing with that.
Squirrels_of_Fury ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:11:18 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is why I love pound exercise classes!
livewirenexie ยท 58 points ยท Posted at 02:08:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saying "you're welcome" instead of "no prob" or any slang version of it. It's more of a subconscious thing that makes people feel like you put in extra effort making them more grateful towards you and generally boosting their opinion of you
lauren__95 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 05:53:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not necessarily. Sometimes โyouโre welcomeโ can make it sound like you feel entitled to receiving thanks; whereas no problem shows that helping out wasnโt a burden.
https://www.reddit.com/r/tumblr/comments/842egi/no_problem_vs_youre_welcome/
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:54:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take note, cultists of Chick-fil-A.
KeithMyArthe ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 01:51:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Run your slice of cold pizza under the tap before you nuke it !
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:39:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Laeryken ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:30:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wet paper towel, checking in!
Fyrestar333 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:49:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or heat it up in a frying pan
wryan18 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 08:03:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My frying pan is too big for the microwave tho :(
Fyrestar333 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:48:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But the colors they make together are beautiful
wryan18 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:53:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Better go invest in a smaller pan then
NorikoMorishima ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:52:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What?!
KeithMyArthe ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:00:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trust me, lol, it works. I use a low pressure filtered water tap. Wet the top and bottom of the pizza before nuking. Something to do with the way microwaves heat the food, vibrating the water molecules.
dbenz09 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:05:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Alternatively put a glass of water in the microwave with your pizza slice
NorikoMorishima ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:49:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hope I remember to try this next time I have pizza to heat up.
Huckdog ยท 39 points ยท Posted at 01:17:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This will get buried but I hope it helps whoever does see it: when you burn your finger, whether on a joint or whatever, grab your earlobe. I'm guessing the cartilage sucks the heat out of your finger but I'm not sure. All I know is that it works.
smallsam1268 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:34:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An ex told me this years ago, I was so surprised when it actually worked.
Juulhelmus ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:53:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Professional cooks trick.
socioanxiety ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:49:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, there's no cartilage in the lobe, so that's not why. But idk, if it works, it works.
wzl46 ยท 50 points ยท Posted at 01:31:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
After 60 years old, don't trust a fart, and don't waste a boner.
Miss-Impossible ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:18:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And never pass an opportunity to go to the bathroom ๐๐ป
Metacane ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:33:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't understand either
wzl46 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:34:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just wait until you're 60... You'll understand.
Cher9969 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:51:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youngins (shaking my head)
Patch_ ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:09:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try mindfulness. Suffered with anxiety all my life and just relaxing sometimes and clearing my mind works wonders.
Dfekoso ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:55:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Righty tighty, lefty loosey.
Xenjael ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 06:13:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When fighting clap your hands once loudly. The sudden noise will shock and confuse attacker long enough to hit or get away.
Do martial arts, people laugh at me when I mention it. Then they try it. Don't laugh after.
Clever fighter has better chance.
propoach ยท 63 points ยท Posted at 01:49:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
shower before bed, instead of in the morning. looking back, it's gross that i would get into bed dirty.
Jag94 ยท 40 points ยท Posted at 03:39:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An argument against this is that when you sleep you sweat (as well as excrete other bodily fluids), so when you wake up, your skin is covered in a layer of dried sweat which could clog your pours. Thats why showering in the morning will keep you clean and feeling refreshed throughout the day.
lookin4points ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 11:10:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
So what you both are saying is, SHOWER BEFORE BED AND WHEN YOU WAKE UP! Now the only issue is if I wake up in the middle of the night and have to pee, do I shower before I pee or after I pee or both? Or do I just say fuck it and pee in the shower? I mean I want to stay clean and refreshed. Also if I take a nap ever in the afternoon do I shower before and after the nap, or just sleep dirty. Like is there a guideline, such as โnap over an hour take a shower, nap under thirty stay dirtyโ. This really sounds like I should invest in 55 gallon drums of body wash or very large bars of soap. I better stock up on more towels too. Oh and canโt forget lotion cause my skin is going to dry out losing all these oils.
Jag94 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:50:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hahahaha. Love it. Actually research suggests we already shower too often, and its bad for our skin/hair. So really, just find what works best for you. If you feel better showering before bed? Great! If you feel better showering when you wake up? Great! You do you, boo.
stiveooo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:57:22 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yeah you sweat a lot sleeping 300 ml
Laeryken ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:13:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I prefer to show when I get home from work/my day, not riiiiight before bed! But I feel you on this. I am a sometimes-2x-day-showerer, too.
Cher9969 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:32:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Both before and after bed. Clean for sex, clean after.
hellguy333 ยท 56 points ยท Posted at 00:46:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So this actually came about super recently. Waiting in line for Avengers Endgwme with about 30 people ahead of us. My mum tells me and my brother to go to the far set of steps instead, we thought it was dumb anad couldnt see it being worth it but it actually worked, everyone files up the first set and most stopped near the middle so that side of the seats got real full we went to the far steps and just went to the top row and sat slightly off center. Because the left hand side was empty and the right hand side all full.
tisnolie ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:21:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In big crowds go left. Concerts, leaving or entering a stadium, airports. If thereโs more than one path, go to the one farther away.
klop422 ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 00:58:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't know about useless, but one of my favourite bits of advice is a bit of meta-advice:
Listen to all advice. Think about it. Try to apply it. If it works, great. If not, then you know it was bad advice.
For some advice, that of course doesn't mean literally try it out. Someone tells you "best way to hide the body is in front of the police station", then you can logic your way out of it. But be open-minded about advice.
This works for any and every kind of advice. Personal advice, advice about your work, about your creative endeavours.
akashannon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:20:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Yes! I used to be stubborn and thought no one knew more about my life than me. Once I got out of that, and started taking advice, my life improved so much. My internal thought process even changed for the better.
daonlyrealsimon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:50:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im stubborn about managing my own affairs, but I see seeking advice as part of it. Prevents ignorance while also not depending on others too much.
EvilAfter8am ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 01:57:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get up and try to walk soon after having a c-section and it makes recovery easier. Worked. First c-section I struggled, next one I pushed myself to walk sooner. It was heaps earlier the second time and that was even after being gutted vertically like a fish. :)
codeacab ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:30:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a surgical nurse, and this applies to pretty much any surgery. Do laps of the ward 3 times a day from the day after your operation. Although definitely speak to staff before getting up the first time.
EvilAfter8am ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:32:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! 8 months after my last baby I had to have a massive abdominal repair (incisional hernias), but I was up and walking 3 days afterward whereas so many others said they were โstuckโ in a recliner from pain. I truly believe the longer you lay in bed, the harder it becomes!
codeacab ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:35:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The pain sucks, but if that's the case you need stronger pain killers. You need to put the repairing muscle under stress to stimulate it. You're trying to grow muscle, you don't do that by lying down lol.
EvilAfter8am ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:36:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always wondered why it helps! It seems counterintuitive to get up and walk after surgery as itโs been all sliced and diced! Thanks for commenting!!
mallclerks ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 02:01:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Google it.
[deleted] ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:19:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy cake day!
Subception ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:13:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah seriously, I've had so many friends and family asking me about stuff that they can figure out themselves from a 5 second Google search. I mean I appreciate conversations but still..
mallclerks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:57:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People think I am a wizard because I know the answer to everything.
Thanks Google.
dayumnlookatthat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:38:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy cake day!
GhoulKitty ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 04:35:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you feel like killing yourself, make a promise to yourself that you can do it next week if nothing good happens. Any time something good happens, no matter how small the good thing is, could be a cute animal picture or a good happy doggo you walk past, a pretty sunset, a funny cat video, glitter, anything that makes you smile or laugh or go "aww", but it counts and you have to live for another week. Keep doing this. Eventually, the time will increase to two weeks. To a month. To several months. Then one day, you will be able to look back like I did and can confidently say I beat being a suicide statistic. Sounds lame and stupid but it worked for me after twelve years of being suicidal and two failed attempts. As I always say. You can't get any lower than your lowest. What have you got to lose trying it?
longtimefraidycat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:36:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Proud of you.
Hope you're doing okay now x
GhoulKitty ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:39:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you so much. Proud of you too. :)
I love being able to tell my story in the hopes that it might help somebody else. Might sound selfish but no body should ever feel like they are alone and if me going through something can help stop somebody else going through it then great. I'd do it again.
ffadicted ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 05:12:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stand up straight with your shoulders back
Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping
Make friends with people who want the best for you
Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today
Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them
Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world
Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient)
Tell the truth โ or, at least, don't lie
Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don't
Be precise in your speech
Do not bother children when they are skateboarding
Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street
Thanks JP
ObtuseSage ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:52:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop using your phone so much!
Such a cliche until I installed an app to prevent me from using my worst time wasters in excess. It's like I finally figured out why there are some humans who get everything done while I never could before.
globetrotterBat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:22:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What's the app? Because I really need it right now!
ObtuseSage ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:44:04 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Forest: Focus something. It's cute and so sneakily good
Hivac-TLB ยท 22 points ยท Posted at 02:02:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doing squats felt useless for a long time. But then I started doing something like a 100-300 body weight squats everyday. (That I wasn't sore) and guess who has legs Now! I mean tree trunks. Too bad I never got to do a before pic.
pumpkinspiee ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 10:26:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
100-300 broken up into multiple sets? And if so how many?
Hivac-TLB ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:13:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Usually 50. But I've been pushing myself to do 100 at a time to get it over with
WowzerzzWow ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 01:49:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs a chef saying but it applies to regular life as well: prior preparation prevents piss poor performance.
chefmeow ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:52:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aaand: Lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part.
BadLuckShui ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:21:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually, that's a variation of a very widespread adage credited to the British Army. The original, typically known as "The 7 Ps," was: Proper Planning and Preparation Prevents Piss Poor Performance.
Growing up, I often heard one of the common variations "Proper Prior Preparation Prevents Piss Poor Performance" from my Dad (former USN pilot).
WowzerzzWow ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:24:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didnโt know that! It makes sense that itโs a military saying.
BadLuckShui ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:31:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Definitely follows through to a ton of professions, though!
filipinofishboy ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 03:44:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've read it here in r/Askreddit "If you are afraid to do something just do it being afraid"
Dharmabum805 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 05:58:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is no path to happiness. Happiness is the path.
Batmansbastardkid ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 06:05:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wear a condom.
Jaxlee2018 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:07:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And always take used condom with you
Cher9969 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 07:16:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you always do what youโve always done, youโll always get what you always got.
Jaxlee2018 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:08:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good one
saimunsakibovi ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 08:26:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Directly expressing my needs instead of hinting.
coolturnipjuice ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 12:48:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never stay up late to do something you wouldnโt get up early to do.
So I will never stay up late on reddit because thereโs no way in hell Iโd set an alarm for 6:30 to get up and read.
I finally have a normal schedule now and I sleep great!
[deleted] ยท 31 points ยท Posted at 02:34:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That if you lead others will follow, even if you aren't in a leadership role.
If you want your roommates to clean the apartment, do it yourself. If they are decent people, they will see you making the effort and you wont even need to ask for their help.
The same goes for the opposite. If you're always late to work and lets say your boss makes no attempt to penalize you for it, other people will see this and they will get lazy and show up late as well.
The point is that you should always try to be the first to act if you want to make things happen with people around you. Throw out the resentment and take ownership over the things you want to happen. Others will follow.
MikeyHatesLife ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:49:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, Iโve changed a few things about my workplaceโs culture by doing things repeatedly, to the point where new people donโt know something isnโt actually a policy, just a safety thing Iโve implemented, and the older employees just wound up following suit.
For example, I work for a doggy daycare, and right after Group Play is over, Private Walks (single dogs who donโt play well with others, family groups who donโt share the same schedule, medical restrictions) go out. I donโt consider Park empty until the last dog is secure in their room, and I was having a problem with the Walks people putting their dogs out while I was still in the hallway. So I reverted back to my zookeeping days and started calling out on the radio โLarge Park is clearโ to let them know I was done. It took a few months, but now itโs something that everyone participates in.
(I wish this worked at home. Iโm moving houses today/tomorrow, and one of the biggest reasons Iโm getting a place by myself is because my roommate has never cleaned the bathroom once in the last two years. He cleaned the tub/shower a couple weeks ago when the new landlord came by to inspect things. It still doesnโt count. Nothing could get him to do anything about it: no conversations, no notes, no schedule on the mirror, not waiting a few weeks, not even doing it by example.)
yukine-sunu ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:45:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not procrastinating for a test/project. I usually cram for a project last minute and ace it (I am one of those laid back students who can ace a test that wasn't studied for and remembers vital information easily.). When I don't wait until the period before the test or the day before a project is due, it's amazing how much free time you'll have to do other things.
ashrae9 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:00:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you feel like crying, pick a random word and think of as many words as you can that rhyme with it.
Distracts your brain while you get your emotions back in check. Works for me every time.
Savetheturtles01 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 05:24:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Work to live, not live to work
Cher9969 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:47:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt share this Moto at work
dezdance ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 23:05:35 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
study smart, not hard
Shrieka1987 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:14:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Could you possibly elaborate on this? I'm intending on going back to university as an adult. Haven't been back to school in a decade and this simple thing makes sense, but what is smart studying exactly?
BigNoisyChrisCooke ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 02:35:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read the recommend text books but donโt waste time trying to memorise it all and write pages of notes, just enjoy it, find people to talk about it with, even if theyโre not on your course. What was interesting about what you studied, what was surprising?
Disagree with your lecturers, have a controversial opinion youโre not there to be a yes man.
Befriend the nerds and hang with their study group the month before the exams.
A week before the exam, split the text book between three friends and take turns explaining the summary. Youโll spend half the time studying and will all have something interesting to say in an exam.
Donโt get nervous in exams, sleep well the night before and plan on winging it. Calm beats panicked every time.
Write some of an essay drunk and high, write it early enough before the deadline that itโs a fun exercise rather than a stressful chore to be resented.
Socialise, take breaks, donโt waste too much time staring at books. Hang out with smart interesting people, no one cares what grade you get, just learn for the sake of it.
clenched_buttwhole ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:29:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doing your homework right after class would be a good one. Its not technically "studying" but you will retain the information far better than if you do it last minute andddddd if you retain the information better, less studying for you pimp
dezdance ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:09:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smart studying, or studying efficiently is a way that studying should be done. Reviewing/organizing topics and taking breaks (like a good nightโs rest) is much more efficient than trying to study hard. Studying hard is the incorrect way to study that takes longer, and forces yourself to study. Studying hard could lead to all-nighters, which will most likely slower time to learn topics, and makes you even more tired than you were in the first place. People study hard by forcing themself to study whatever they can in a short amount of time, but takes so much more effort and time. Trying to force yourself to study just to get a good grade is why many people dislike studying. (Studying is not for improving that grade in science, but itโs to improve your growth and understanding on the topics included.) Smart studying, on the other hand, will help you study to learn the topic. (You know youโre studying smart if you donโt realize youโre remembering topics just for grades.) Forcing yourself to remember something is harder than learning something. I study smart by first reading all my notes, organizing the topic into sections, taking the main bullet points and rewriting it. I then elaborate on those points, and reread it over. I take small, short breaks, and try to review those points again. I distract myself by taking those short breaks, and trying to see if I remember the topics still. That way, I know that Iโm studying smart. This method makes me learn rather than remember topics easily, and I can relate the topics to real life situations. Smart studying is efficient, fast, and the right way to study. Some real life situations could be learning a new recipe to bake a cake, and trying to braid hair for the first time. If this is even more confusing, please let me know because I honestly have no idea if any of this makes sense.
Also, the best way to study smart is rereading new notes, or think about what youโve learned after class every day. A teacher once recommended that tip to me, and Iโm not having as much trouble as I did before in learning in class. Wowzers, that was a lot! -w- time to take a snack break
Shrieka1987 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:23:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I think I can see the distinction between the two. One method (smart) you genuinely learn for potentially the rest of your life while the other (hard) you remember the information to simply regurgitate it for a grade.
How feasible is this for maintaining a high GPA? The way you've described it, while definitely seeming beneficial for life, seems kind of relaxed for university. I'm not saying this to discount your methods.
They seem like how I would want to study for my career path as it reveals a genuine curiousity for more than a singular topic. I am typically a curious person, usually unable to maintain long-term focus and so feel like I need to "study hard".
EDIT: I also could have just read it too quickly and missed a few points
dezdance ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:50:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay, so I asked a scholar. He told me to brag about how he has 5 college degrees. His advice was to โstudy what you believe is on the test, and donโt study everything. And donโt study โwhat ifโ is on the test.โ
Shrieka1987 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:52:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I guess then it comes down to understanding your professors methods as much as it is your knowledge as well. Cool
ledgerdemaine ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:58:23 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
https://collegeinfogeek.com/feynman-technique/
Also reading technique:
https://www.studyright.net/blog/4-steps-to-reading-a-textbook-quickly-and-effectively/
Find your concentration threshold, usually half hour for most people, then reward yourself with a ten minute break.
Find your mental peak in the day, for some it is late evening others early morning, study most then.
Always start an assignment when you get it, your can recall most then. Also you have some basis of an answer when you return to finish it.
Shrieka1987 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:00:33 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would make sweet love to you under the stars for this. Thanks! I'll look into it right away!
Midwest_Traveller ยท 30 points ยท Posted at 00:41:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking water. I used to get sick a lot. Usually blamed it on allergies and stuff. My recent ladyfriend told me I'm never drinking enough water. My new goal is a gallon a day. I feel so much better now
FriscoHusky ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:04:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs awesome! I can never manage to drink enough and I pay for it with headaches. Just donโt go too crazy. 128oz is a lot and there is such a thing as too much water. It fucks with your electrolytes or some shit.
Midwest_Traveller ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:20:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I never get all the way to a gallon. But it's technically half your weight in fluid ounces. So for me that's 80 ounces or so. That's only if you're not moving or sweating at all. I'm pretty active, and drink a lot of caffeine. That's why I go for the extra.
FriscoHusky ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:43:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Awesome! I wish I could get into that habit! Itโs a struggle for me to drink 60oz/day.
HLtheWilkinson ยท 27 points ยท Posted at 01:30:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have to think about it for more than five minutes donโt do it.
Kept me from going to a party where there was a fight around the time I would have arrived.
w00tersauce ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 01:30:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When using a key fob to locate your car, pushing it to the bottom of your chin to extend the range. This actually does work.
Fyrestar333 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:46:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or if you're too far away to lock it, it works
bigcat00 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:48:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm!
Thisfoxhere ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:55:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Because your skull works as a reflector.
you-a-hoe ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 03:52:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop drinking soda
MillerMan118 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:14:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left
JamieAubrey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:16:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drift King
alexholt00 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:15:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Building and maintaining a personal network. I've always been shy and not suave in social situations but 3 years into my professional career I've known people that have new job opportunities with excellent promotions from knowing people.
ChopsNewBag ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:21:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you are trying to pee at the urinal and you get stage fright - recite your social security number backwards in your head. I usually donโt even get 4 numbers in before the floodgates open.
DarthTechnicus ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 03:58:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When driving, use your turn signal, even when no one is around. It's better to have that habit all the time than forget to do it and cause an accident.
harshit54 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 04:06:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My PS4 controller was not charging. Looked at the internet for a solution and found an answer saying I should blow air to the charging port on the controller.
Thought this was stupid and ordered another one. After it arrived, I said why not try the solution anyways.
Now I have two working controllers.
ladylauren92 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:39:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you never experienced the frustrating joys of playing a Nintendo or an N64?
harshit54 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:27:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah. The console is older than me.
In early 2000's, we used to have NES clones available in the market for less than 15 USD. Nintendo does not have an official presence here.
Kherus1 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 06:04:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
WAIT. Why Am I Talking?
As a manager, and from NUMEROUS seminars, training courses, development days, motivational talks that you do as you progress through the ranks, the most valuable one was when someone comes up to you with a problem or wanting to get something off their chest and it can be a normal reaction to just start saying shit like โoh, Iโve been through that. What happened to ME was...โ
But almost always, they arenโt there to hear you talk about YOUR problem but need someone to bounce or vent off of and so itโs important to stop and use WAIT, and ask yourself WHY are you about to say something and is it really valuable or applicable in this context or is it just a way to fill the gap where itโs your turn to talk? Are you LISTENING or just WAITING for your turn to speak?
Iโm not saying just stand there and not talk, but to identify when itโs best to assess the severity of a situation and how to be mindful of your words. Youโd be surprised at how often theyโll solve their own problem just by saying it out loud at you without ANY input and youโll gain respect for being available and actively listening.
ZzLy__ ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 08:38:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never borrow money for anything except a house. Everything else you can just save up for.
kittenkin ยท 46 points ยท Posted at 00:57:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat within two hours of waking up. You next meal should be no more than six hours after that and then your final meal should be no more than six hours after that. It sounds stupid but it made a huge difference for me.
OzManCumeth ยท 28 points ยท Posted at 02:42:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Intermittent fasting did wonders for me. I donโt eat for 8 hours after waking up.
gretzkyandlemieux ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:08:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, just a cuppa black coffee for breakfast and I feel so much better than I ever did when I tried to eat breakfast. I don't even get hungry until 1pm and the energy all morning is great.
whatacyat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:39:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Difference in what?
kittenkin ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:11:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So I was eating at weird times and although I was watching calories and stuff I wasnโt losing weight but once I started following this I started losing weight and wasnโt as lethargic and stuff.
[deleted] ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 23:02:19 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat a spoonful of sugar, then wash it down with water to get rid of hiccups.
TheLightningCount1 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 23:36:52 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But what if diabetic?
Mr_A ยท 35 points ยท Posted at 23:51:36 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, right, no more hiccups.
Wishyouamerry ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:00:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take some insulin.
WitnessMeIRL ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 00:17:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do I mix it with the sugar?
Yungsleepboat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:43:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's just speedball at this point
JJ82DMC ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:50:03 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If we die, we die...
megwolff ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:33:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Teaspoon of vinegar works just as well.
xSTSxZerglingOne ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:09:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not nearly as pleasant.
I'm partial to honey though.
Jmartinr0223 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:38:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
youโll definitely never have them again
BoxBopChallenge ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:05:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spoonful of Splenda?
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:15:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd rather not have cancer.
xSTSxZerglingOne ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:10:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe not cancer, but probably diarrhea.
jansskon ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:37:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gasp and hold your breath. Thatโs what people mean when they say โhold your breathโ or when they try to scare you. But really you just need to gasp (as big as you can) and hold. Itโs like 60/40 but itโs great if youโve not got sugar
requiem516 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:35:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I let a spoonful of sugar dissolve under my tounge. Ill be damned if it doesnt work every time. People look at me like im NUTS when i tell them to do it though.
goodtimetribe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learned this a couple decades ago and it's amazing how well it works.
mongocyclops ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 01:15:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Don't take things too personally"
Incraigulous ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:53:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You should check out Reddit"
Raiko99 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 02:50:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not useless but felt like a hassle and I'd screw it up anyway. Open a separate bank account and every paycheck save whatever you can. Even if you deposit 5$, it creates the habit.
06EXTN ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:46:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When backing up a trailer, put your hand on the bottom of the steering wheel. Then just turn the wheel in the direction you want the trailer to go. BOOM - MIND BLOWN.
QuentinTarzantino ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:40:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Took me way to long to understnd. Now I get why dad was shouting at me hands at bottom when I was backing out of the drive way when I was younger.
mydogfakesinjuries ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:25:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was planning to move into my first apartment, my dad gave me advice for how to handle sticky money situations with roommates.
Instead of buying things for the house on a rotation, or paying each other back, avoid the problem from the beginning by setting up a house fund. The way he suggested doing it was getting a jar or something and each putting a certain amount of money into it ($20 each to start, for example). Then, whenever someone had to go buy toilet paper or soap or anything that everyone would be using, they could just take the money out of the jar (and, hopefully, remember to bring back a receipt). When the money ran out, everyone would put in another $20, or however much you decided on.
I never actually used the advice (I only ended up living with one other person, and we split everything evenly anyway), but I thought it was a pretty clever way to avoid conflict with friends over money!
Cmen6636 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:26:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If suffering from allergies, buy local honey and eat it by the spoonful.
I had moved to Tennessee and had NEVER had allergies before, and once I got there, it hit me hard. A friend of mine said to go get some local honey, normally I would have just ignored the advice because I needed a guarantee fix, but I was desperate. LET ME TELL YOU SUMTHIN. Best best thing of my life. My allergies were cleared in less than 72 hours. Years later, Iโm now flying weekly for work to different states. My tradition is to always pick up local honey if Iโm in a new place and add to my ever growing โlocalโ collection. That way I can just down some honey from the town Iโm about to travel to before I fly out, and not even Georgia in spring affects me.
vtv43ketz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:27:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Now that's going to be very helpful for me. Thank you
Cmen6636 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:28:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yay Iโm so glad! Thereโs usually a local bottle that can be found in any Walmart, I usually hit up Whole Foods first so I can buy a small size to fly back with :)
DamuBob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for this. Allergies have been hitting me harswr than usual this year;a lot of things are blooming early in the PNW.
Phalter ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:54:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Win the day. Once I started focusing on the things I needed to accomplish THAT DAY and said fuck tomorrow next week and next month I realized that all that was taken care of by winning the day.
ilovevoat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:01:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
this is a good one it help me dig out of depression. Tomorrow is tomorrow live for the day.
PeanutQuest ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:04:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was at the height of my highschool depression I would take forever to get ready to leave the house because I was always so afraid I wouldn't look perfect (eating disorders are a bitch). One day my mom told me "no one cares," and I was initially offended, until she explained that everyone else is so caught up worrying that other people are judging them, they don't have time to care if your hair is messy. It was something that stuck with me as I started to get better.
LawnyJ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:41:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I say this to people that are too scared to go to the gym. Everyone else is caught up in worrying about how they look that they don't care how you look.
KingKrabz ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 14:33:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you get a money as a present or a bonus (and you're in the position to do so), spend it on an experience, not material goods or consumables. You will make memories that can last you you're entire life.
I was given this advice on my birthday by my family, I ended up going on a trip with the help some money I had saved myself and the amount of fond memories and wonderful people I met while I was away is something that will never leave me.
animatorsglory ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:36:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What was the trip?
KingKrabz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:45:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Went traveling around the USA, mainly mid-west went on road trips, camping, generally experiencing the different culture and things to do. Was my first time leaving Europe.
angrypeanutt ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 16:22:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Switching to Android
AllyN071 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 18:22:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My best friend told me "If you're drowning, curl into a ball, you'll float to the surface". Me, who doesn't know how to swim at 14, remembered this as I was thrown in a pool. Saved my life. Thanks Bestie.
grovethrone ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:35:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait, is this legit?
buddyboyfriendo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:52:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
can confirm
AllyN071 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:33:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, it actually works. There's a "Magic School Bus" episode (Original) that touches briefly on it. I'll see if I can find it.
AllyN071 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:37:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The episode is called "Ups and Downs" or something very similar.
Pizzamaker18 ยท 165 points ยท Posted at 23:15:06 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just start doing the alphabet with your tongue
EnglishTeachers ยท 137 points ยท Posted at 01:35:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So I teach high schoolers, and occasionally I overhear things on this topic.
One day I overheard a girl say, โHeโs doing it (the alphabet) but itโs not really, like, working all the way.โ
Her friend rolls her eyes: โTell him to try it in CURSIVE.โ
Made me laugh, anyway.
petit_cochon ยท 173 points ยท Posted at 01:30:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, as a woman, no. Rhythm, not random, is the key.
Noromac ยท 61 points ยท Posted at 01:56:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As an experienced man, do NOT use the alphabet please for the love of god. Find her spot, find her pace, STICK TO IT
kygroar ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 03:25:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think the alphabet thing has a place, but it should be more about trying to find different patterns that work well for a new partner than getting from A to Z. It gets people involved in their partners pleasure - but only if theyโre paying attention - and helps you find that spot and rhythm. Because the most important part, and what is often left out, is once you find a letter they like, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD STAY ON THAT LETTER!!
p_velocity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:37:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup. This is great advice for noobs.
Also for both genders, enthusiasm is worth as much as talent.
Cher9969 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:34:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone has been lying to you
p_velocity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:00:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
that would mean dozens of women have lied to me...I don't think so.
Cher9969 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:48:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That like saying oh baby your dick is so big. Come out on ladies night. How many women tell their guys that one. A gal knows when youโre bad at oral, we just wont say so, not to your face.
p_velocity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:00:24 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
so you have experience going down on lots of women?
Cher9969 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:32:56 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha. Iโm a whore, an addict, a shooter, a guru and Iโve been on this side of the clit my entire life. if you donโt think Iโm a woman with experience enough to know what Iโm talking about you donโt know women. I know men and the male ego is a huge part of his performance. If I want the best sex a man can give I donโt tell a guy heโs bad at oral. I have no investment in you, Iโm sure you have your strengths. If you thinks youโre good at it, Iโll moan and move like itโs the best I ever had. When itโs my turn to get what I need you are built up with confidence thinking you rocked my world and you are as hard as a rock and ready to put out your best. If youโre a great guy and suck in bed weโll play with toys and have great passionate sex but if a guy thinks he has to recite the alphabet, count or resemble any kind of systematic, methodical, sterile lover, heโs boring, Iโm going to take what I want in that moment, if possible, and get out of there.
p_velocity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:51:21 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think you misread my post. I never said "stick with the alphabet", I said that starting with the alphabet is a good place for noobs, because for young boys who have no experience, you don't know to try different things and places to find out what your partner likes. Once you understand them better you evolve to different techniques.
My next post said that enthusiasm can be just as important as skill, because you need both to please your partner, and a lot of one can compensate for a lack of the other. Even if you don't have a lot of experience, It can be a turn on to know your partner is in to your body and working to please you.
I'm not inexperienced myself...i don't have a clit but I have dealt with several dozen of them so I've got a good idea of what is specific to some women and what is universal for most all women. It's not about "male ego of knowing I can please a woman"...I'm not sure why you assume that I can't actually accomplish that task.
Cher9969 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:06 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
(Smiling)
Cher9969 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:34:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I want to upvote you a thousand times
Fenrir101 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 02:14:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I first heard the advice it was if you don't know what she likes start doing the alphabet until you find one she likes then keep doing that.
ShotFromGuns ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:20:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ehhhh. As with all oral sex advice (especially on people with vulvas), it's very, very situational. If nothing else, it can be a good way to run through a variety of different motions to see what gets a good reaction.
kula_shakur ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:26:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So just LMNOPLMNOPLMNOPLMNOPLMNOP then
Laruik ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 01:43:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So start with the alphabet and then once it starts working, don't stop or change what you are doing.
ABCDEFGHIJJJJJJJJJJJJJJJJ
mathaiser ยท 147 points ยท Posted at 00:30:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some girl called me out on that once. โHey, are you doing the alphabet?โ
Said yes.
Continued.
obscureferences ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:13:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A is for Alfred, B is for bat.
_War-lock_ ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:31:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The order will surprise you.
Ralmaelvonkzar ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:10:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do the Greek alphabet
Close_But_No_Guitar ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 03:36:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
/r/thathappened
CarbyMcBagel ยท 44 points ยท Posted at 01:46:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whoever came up with this advice was 100% a person who did not possess a clitoris.
Cher9969 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:36:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Amen sista
zerbey ยท 37 points ยท Posted at 01:38:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried this with my wife "Oh that feels nice what are you doing?". "I'm spelling my name with my tongue". "Dork. No don't stop...".
laustcozz ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:15:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is your name Xoxxooo?
buttersauce ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:36:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone who has been told I'm a good kisser but have never really known what I'm doing, I've found that girls are appreciative if you are just tender. Don't just mouth fuck them with your tongue.
klop422 ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 00:54:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have no idea whether you meant what I did or not, but I just went through all the tongue motions for the alphabet.
Also, I am now acutely aware of where my tongue is and how my saliva tastes. Fantastic.
Breathing manually too.
Fjordmist ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:41:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
blinking manually now.
TweektheGeek ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:02:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Suddenly an itch
mattesse ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:22:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a friend in high school with a stutter; He was very popular because someone started a rumour that he always stutters, a few girls wanted to find out for themselves.....
its_all_4_lulz ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 23:31:46 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only the skilled will know what you mean
Mr_A ยท 25 points ยท Posted at 23:50:37 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or anybody who has seen Sam Kinison's 1987 stand up special "Breaking The Rules".
ecksate ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:29:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or anyone who wasnโt home schooled
Gederix ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:01:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
more T! more T!
jns012003 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:19:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm confused
llinglong ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:09:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"...when performing oral sex on a female"
epic_fortnite_gamer1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:31:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Explain
kmrst ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:04:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Vagina.
epic_fortnite_gamer1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:58:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
oh
ccjjww999 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:01:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not sure I understand, what do you mean by this?
Edit: got it. Took a minute.
fwubglubbel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:46:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But not until you've at least left the restaurant.
Jaxlee2018 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:04:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm quite sure they meant the Chinese characters
KJS123 ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 01:07:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
"She'll think you're some kind of goddamn 'lick-master' from the Orient!"
EDIT: For those unaware, that's the quote from the Sam Kinison sketch, about this.
fatrabbit61614 ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 00:58:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Believe it or not, its the classic "have you tried turning it off and on again?"
Metalbass5 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:42:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have used this successfully in a professional IT capacity way more than I care to admit. Moss and Roy speaketh the holy truth.
Cher9969 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:02:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reboot
RepTexas ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 01:35:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Bite the head off the frog.
My boss would say this ALL the time..so much so that I say it All of the time now.
It means to do that which you don't WANT to do but HAVE to do immediately. The early grind makes the rest of your time YOUR time.
I routinely do everything I hate first thing every morning, work out at 4am, get to work do all my reporting and communications, knock out any high priority projects....this gives me the rest of the day to slack off. :)
Cher9969 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:27:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or do more work.
LOOKSLIKEAMAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:14:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I heard "If you need to eat a toad, do it in the morning"
SpookySpring ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 22:29:23 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try putting cheese on it.
goatcoat ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 23:03:24 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried it, but a bandaid is still better.
Nez_bit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:50:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But she still got pregnant?
Cher9969 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:16:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try Gouda
Nez_bit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:48:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok
rolypolypenguins ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:03:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The 5 minute rule. If you have something you need to do and it will take less then 5 minutes do it right away. See a book that needs to be put away upstairs? It will take less then 5 minutes so do it. It is shocking how quickly this will make your house tidy.
GamerDad08 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:05:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whoever came up with this rule does not have children.
CJPsalm139 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:14:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
username checks out
MichiePark61 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:49:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Before you open a can of drink (especially one that is super carbonated), tap the top of the can a few times beforehand so that it doesn't spill at all when you open it. Seriously, no matter how much you shake it, you just gotta tap and it won't explode at all when you open it.
You're welcome ;)
last_second_cramming ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 05:08:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it till you make it. I thought it was stupid but one day I decided to act really confident and people were complimenting me all day and I started marking more friends, but the whole time I was literally freaking out.
too_toked ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:09:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
opening a banana from the other end..
SteadfastEnd ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:15:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Aim while shooting" for FPS computer games like Counter-Strike. Sounded like the lamest, most Captain Obvious advice ever, until I actually started purposefully aiming the cross-hairs with care, even in the midst of a hectic firefight. My kills jumped 3x or 4x.
holyestsht ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 05:30:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
be your self when talking to people
OneZoroBoi ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:52:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
SWITCHING TO YOUR WEAPON IS FASTER THAN RELOADING
DirkBabypunch ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:58:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
By the time you've emptied your sidearm, you should have time to reload.
GamingNomad ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:22:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Changing into your "going out" clothes instead of staying in pajamas at home will keep you more energetic.
Dear lord it works. Game changer.
man_bear_pig_2 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 15:06:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Go to bed at a decent time, sleep for about 7-9 hours and wake up early.
This is especially helpful for athletes and as per Joe Rogan's podcast with the neuroscientist:
Boofer_C ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 15:08:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When single, "date yourself."
I always perceived this as a way to selfishly indulge yourself, until I realized that what it means is I should be treating myself the way I would treat the person I'm dating.
So, yes this does somewhat mean indulge yourself a bit, as in go to a movie you want to, or go out to a nice dinner once in a while. But also, it means treat yourself nicer in the way you think about yourself. Forgive yourself for mistakes and learn from them. Be patient with yourself. Think about the stuff you do, and if it's something that you'd give someone else a break for, then give yourself a break for it. Also, think about things you'd be hesitant to do, like learn to dance or go for a trip somewhere, and do that. Invest time in yourself and you will begin to attract people who see you doing so.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:23:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting
Joneser858 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 16:02:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Love is a choice.
The hormones, newness, and infatuation of "love" is great, but it doesn't last and it only works on the few people you "love." Choosing to love my wife, my kids, my neighbors, my coworkers, and the random people I meet (even when I often don't like them) makes life so much better. I treat others so much better and I like myself so much more when I choose to love people because they are worthy of love rather than try to "love" myself and be a crappy person.
mdhunter99 ยท 41 points ยท Posted at 23:22:55 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Collecting cargo using the Oppressor MK2 in GTA Online, ramped up my cargo collection by 20-25% I was already using the buzzard, a pretty fast chopper already with good weapons, the OPMK2 is a godsend in comparison.
MemezNDremez ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:48:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol what
mdhunter99 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:49:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You donโt play gta online do ya?
MemezNDremez ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:51:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do, I know exactly what youโre talking about, itโs just that this is so weirdly out of place.
mdhunter99 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:55:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh well someone on r/gtaonline said this was a good way to collect cargo faster.
Boring_Teenager-uwu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:58:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I see, you are a man of culture aswell.
yoboi42069 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:29:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But the thing is, you have to have an oppressor.
Salty_Seamen69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:40:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
\Cries in poor*)
imawizardslp87 ยท 34 points ยท Posted at 23:57:59 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Raw garlic for colds.... It works like a fucking miracle cure.
KittyGirl3 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:53:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like just chew up a clove?!
imawizardslp87 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:46:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes
BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:26:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What, do you just chomp on a clove? You'll taste your own breath all night! If it works, next time I'll try it.
wat_the_frenchtoast ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:46:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cut it into tiny pieces and swallow it with orange juice, just like you would swallow pills.
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 01:54:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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BlueKnightBrownHorse ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:59:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Crush it up and rub the paste on your pecker.
Sak63 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:45:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat it raw? Chew and swallow?
imawizardslp87 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:47:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes
lnfx ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:23:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Crush the garlic and release the allicin! It's like a two-part epoxy
ell98584 ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 01:50:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed every morning. From an admiral speaking at UT I believe. It means no matter how shitty a day I'm having at least I've accomplished one thing
FreezingPyro36 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:55:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep my elbow uncomfortable up when batting
TheOne-SidedCoin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:55:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I relax my back elbow when I'm batting.
FreezingPyro36 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:56:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmm. I always keep my back elbow by my ear
TheOne-SidedCoin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's certainly a way to, but I do it because then I can get the bat faster to the ball. Then I just have to extend instead of relaxing my elbow, then extending it.
FreezingPyro36 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:02:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ahh, I am not really looking for power as I am contact. So that might be why coach told me.
TheOne-SidedCoin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:05:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm not that strong. So i don't go too much for power as I do location. I go for the gaps because I'm pretty fast. But your coach is a smart one.
eyemacwgrl ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:37:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Dishes don't end there. You have to wipe down the counters, stove, and tables." - My Mom
LeeKinanus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:53:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And the sink! the sink is the last big dish.
eyemacwgrl ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:10:21 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes! I clean it before and after dishes. I'm weird. I don't want my clean dishes laying on the side to be rinsed in a dirty basin.
CosmicPube ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:03:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You keep making mistakes they're going to start costing you money" Told to me by my father when I was a teenager. He knew that in adulthood, I wouldn't have my parents to bail me out every time I fucked up. That advice has helped me be very cautious when making decisions, especially decisions that involve money or prison. I'd say it half worked. Though I haven't had any super expensive mistakes, I still don't have great credit but I am the only person in my family that doesn't have a mugshot.
sweadle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:16:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Credit is easier to fix than a felony record, so congrats.
theviewfromhere9 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:34:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instead of cramming for tests and exams, review your notes at the end of every day and add more notes. I did this in College and never had to pull an all nighter
jimmybabytaco ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:35:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read books/Readers are leaders. Eight years ago, I was an aimless underachiever dropping out of college and joining the navy as a last resort. Started heavily reading nonfiction books across a broad range of interests and cultivated an interest in domestic policy. Getting ready to graduate with my bachelor's and I'm starting a Master's program at an Ivy League school this fall, fully funded. There is no better way to find internal motivation and realize your options than reading. Also makes you way more interesting to talk to.
VioletBroregarde ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:36:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Don't get hit"
it's amazing how many games of Smash Bros you can win by prioritizing avoiding getting hit.
Virtual_Shadow ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:17:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
karate kid: โhit him, donโt let him hit youโ
AlphaBoner ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:53:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Save this thread, it might actually give you good advice.
litereally_everyone_ ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:54:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Steer into the skid - Ted Mosby This actually saved my life once at midnight on a dirt road
Cher9969 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:15:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cars
chefmeow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:49:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep in snow, this great advice
raizel_234 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:56:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandfather gave me a piece of worldly wisdom when I was 13 or so. He said it in a joking way but as I've gotten older it's rang true. He said "Son, 3 things will give a man problems in his life: money, women, and whiskey. If you'd don't have a problem with one of those things then you don't have a problem." I wish that onery old cuss was still around.
Wafflexboy ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:29:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As infuriating as it sounds, the whole 'just be happy' thing really changed my view on life. Being depressed or down isn't something that is always under your control but your own attitude is. I heard someone say happiness is a choice almost every day for over a year before one day I said fuck it lets give it a shot. It wasn't an over night change but it worked out for me
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:29:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking pills with tea or hot cocoa is a lot better than taking it with water. I've always been really bad at taking pills, So when I need to take one now I make myself a cup of tea and it makes the pills go down without me even noticing :)
Rhurabarber ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:19:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The instructions say so, "Rinse rice before cooking", but why bother? It's going to get wet anyway, right?
Rinsing the rice washes away starch and makes it fluffier, tastier.
MacAttack264984 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 08:32:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you work in a place with a lot of oil/grease, use dawn dish soap when you take a shower.
I do machining/manufacturing of cabinet components, and every day I am surrounded by a lot of gross oil and coolant to keep it all from burning down or jamming, and it gets in and all over EVERYTHING. I come home stained black from the stuff, and it seems like it takes a whole bar of soap to cut through it. Once my coworker casually mentioned that he uses dawn in the shower, and I thought to give it a try. Cut right through all that crap. Dawn and hot water washed it all away, easy.
ianrobbie ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:44:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Admit it when you're wrong. Initially it's tough but you receive a ton of respect and goodwill back, especially if you compliment the person who was right.
Swallow your pride and do it. Nobody likes pigheadedness but someone who can admit they're wrong and listen to a different point of view will go far.
MangleBadger ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:14:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop saying "You don't have time for xxx"
Instead say "xxx is not a priority"
Puts it into perspective and makes it harder to for it off
MoonShadeMan ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 12:51:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Assumption is the mother of all fuck ups."
Hermioneofrivendell ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 13:31:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stress costs money. If you have a stressful job, for example, you will spend more money on mental health care, shopping, massages, junk food, whatever you need to relieve your stress. It's worth it to switch jobs even if you make less money, because it will likely balance out. I didn't think this made any sense until I left a bad relationship and found that it was suddenly a lot easier to manage my budget. In reverse I also left a good job for a stressful one and found that even though I was making the same salary it was a lot harder to manage. Now I constantly evaluate the cost of stress in my life and what I can do with my money to try to avoid stress, because the benefits will compound.
JesterBarelyKnowHer ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:34:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"If it costs me more in scotch to deal with the problem than to solve the problem, it's cheaper to just solve the problem."
kbsb0830 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:12:07 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ty this is good advice
Zelyrun ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:04:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do everything you have to do ASAP so you don't have to worry about it later. I've been doing this in my adult years and it's such a sigh of relief. Sometimes I just do whatever I'm supposed to do out of this habit, then later on I realize "oh fk, i gotta do ***" then I see that I already did "***" and it's literally the best feeling ever. Feels like you're the best partner for your future self lol
CaptainWisconsin ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:20:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Save your money."
chevymonza ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 16:03:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a kid, I had a Garfield poster (back when the comic was fairly new and not horrible) that said, "I might as well exercise, I'm in a bad mood anyway."
This has been in the back of my mind for decades. I could be depressed and on the couch, or translate that mental pain into physical, but productive, pain.
This advice comes up a lot on here as "exercise helps depression," but to a depressed person, that might not hit home. Instead of "I'm too depressed to do X," think of it as "I might as well be depressed while doing X." Chores aren't usually fun even for non-depressed people, so it's not like it'll take anything away from your day!
Maybe it's just a personal mental game that only works for me, but I find it effective.
Hawkdojo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:59:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It really does, whenever I feel like Iโm useless I go on a run or lift some weights, after you feel 10x better than you did before
MadMich ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 16:04:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Knowing when to shut up
AidanDatBoi ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 17:35:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whispering โbeep boopโ when youโre sad
thatweirdkiid ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:41:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha this one is a keeper
gur_bah ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:20:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Guess what just happened hahahahaha
I am sitting in a truck w a friend and I was like yo I just read whispering beep boop helps when ur sad.
She was relentlessly looking for her one hitter when I heard her whisper beep boop out of sadness and
She found the hitter at that very moment.
IT WORKS YALL
captaincarot ยท 18 points ยท Posted at 01:43:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating one less meal a day would lead to dramatic weight loss and improved energy.
Daevir ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:40:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
how long have you been doing that. Do you eat breakfast?
captaincarot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:24:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am an idiot and replied to myself if you want to see my reply lol
SinceInktober ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:35:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look into "Intermittent Fasting 16/8)" :)
captaincarot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:24:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do the 16/8 mentioned and did that from June til September and lost 30 pounds. No other changes same food and beer just in the window instead of whenever I wanted. I'm down to the last stubborn 20 pounds but the 50 to this point was cake. Ran into a female friend this weekend who I convinced to start at New year's and she's lost 40 pounds and is almost wearing her high school clothes again at 32.
I do longer fasts now for health reasons (a lot is still speculation but the evidence is getting stronger and exciting) it taught me how addicting food is and the difference between hungry and bored. A year ago this sounded impossible but never going back now. Feel like shit if I eat all day now.
alleyway7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:52:18 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See this doesn't benefit me because I'm a stick.
rapidmoose83 ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 04:02:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't loan anybody money. Doesn't matter who it is or the reason. Even if it's just a dollar, the next time that person needs money, they're coming to you. If somebody asks you for money, (they will usually try to guilt you into it) tell them you have a personal policy of not loaning money to anyone.
Cher9969 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 06:43:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can afford to give them money do it instead of loaning it. You know how hard it mustโve been for them to ask. If it was easy for them to ask for money, default to the first guys answer.
aintnothin_in_gatlin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:38:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
See, I agree with this BUT... I still do it. Selfishly. I do it because I would want that kindness done for me if I was in a rough spot. Right or wrong, it makes me feel good. Youโre prob way more right than me, I realize this. But Iโm writing this for all the people out there that do loan money....
engieyasser ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:34:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Enjoy being a child.
Jaxlee2018 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:09:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโll add : enjoy your childrenโs childhood - especially if you were deprived of your own
RobinFox12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:57:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm trying but I get overwhelmed thinking about not being a child
engieyasser ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:09:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's olay to think about growing up. Just don't get too caught up in your thoughts and enjoy being a kid. Enjoy everything about it. Don't miss on being a kid, ever.
RobinFox12 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:11:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To be honest people in my generation seem to be growing up too fast around me. Iโm only 14 and I hear stories at school of people having sex in the all gender bathroom. I still play with sticks in the woods with my friends on weekends.
engieyasser ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:51:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel you. You might be feeling like you're torn between two worlds, but you got to do you. If you feel like playing with sticks then do it!
Sex will always be talked about. let the talk be just... Talk. Stick to what your 14 year old self wants to do ๐.
RobinFox12 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:17:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks dude
Conplications ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 02:27:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy wife happy life
Fyrestar333 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 04:47:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy spouse happy house, women should make an effort to keep their men happy too.
celenei ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:00:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't understand why this is downvoted. I'm not a very physically affectionate person, but my partner is. If I remind myself to just give him a hug at least once a day, our relationship is noticeably better.
hapibun ยท 23 points ยท Posted at 23:53:39 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To ignore bullies and not give them a reaction.
zerbey ยท 21 points ยท Posted at 01:40:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This didn't work for me. What did work was just calmly stating they were boring me. My daughter was bullied too and I gave her the same advice, just calmly dismiss them. Bullies want a reaction, ignoring them sometimes works unless they're persistent. Being totally nonchalant works for the persistent ones, they simply don't know how to deal with it and move onto the next victim.
hapibun ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:57:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good advice!!
RagingAardvark ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 02:03:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Currently trying this with my middle child who "bullies" the entire household with epic tantrums. We have started just walking away when she fires up. No reaction, no talking, just leaving the room. It's been very effective! With no audience, she winds down a lot more quickly, and once she's done, she serves her time-out without much push-back and the whole incident is over.
I could definitely see it being effective with bullies IF their peers are able to do the zero-reaction thing. It's hard for kids, when someone is pushing their buttons. It's hard for ME when my kindergartener is pushing my buttons!
Moving_Shit ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:54:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really depends on the bully
obscureferences ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:25:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some of them might think you're willing to participate in their punching games, so they continue, others might think you're willing to resort to violence and could bring a gun to school, so they stop.
Moving_Shit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:26:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I think the advice should be "bring a gun to school lol"
obscureferences ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:30:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly it's the administration who need the advice, not the victims.
hapibun ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:57:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs true
LastStar007 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:13:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never worked for me. They still trod over me. Limited success in speaking their language and fighting back: became the "uh oh, we got a badass over here" instead of "the loser", but at least the most physical aspects stopped.
Rishnixx ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:56:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're a female aren't you?
theredditid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:42:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For some reason I read "ignore bullets..."
cygnus2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:47:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And if that doesnโt work, punch them in the throat.
McFeely_Smackup ยท 24 points ยท Posted at 01:16:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nothing gets you over the last girl like getting onto a new one.
It's really true, heartache evaporate like a fart in the wind when you meet someone new.
Cher9969 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:42:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just stay in 3 month relationships. Always happy until you get old and flabby and no one wants u.
Cannabilistichokie ยท 47 points ยท Posted at 22:23:57 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting peanut butter on a burger.
spiritrain ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 00:03:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's a town an hour away from me that has a peanut butter and jelly bacon cheeseburger. My fiance and I both tried it and it was actually pretty good.
battraman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:06:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You aren't Elvis by any chance are you?
spiritrain ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:59:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ha I wish
SweetBearCub ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:49:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If he was, he'd be dead on the toilet for many years.
soproductive ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:44:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had this a few times. The peanut butter really overpowers a lot of the other flavors, but it's still pretty damn good. They called it the "peanut butter and jealousy" at Slaters 50/50.
sr71pav ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 00:27:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
PB and jalapeรฑo on a burger is just awesome
Residentevilfan32 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 23:26:07 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or peanut butter on a blt. Its actually quite good
Leff_hook ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 23:42:17 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay this is fucking me up. I've heard of peanut butter on a burger, and I don't think that's for me, but for some reason peanut butter on a BLT sounds amazing! Probably substitute the Mayo for PB, yeah?
Residentevilfan32 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:46:45 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No. A thin line for both. Haha
Leff_hook ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:52:09 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holy shit you madman! Does the Mayo and the PB work well together? I mean, I would try it without Mayo for sure but if you say it's good with it, I'll give it a shot.
Residentevilfan32 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 00:05:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As long as its a thin line both work well together.
Cher9969 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:56:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My son would eat peanut butter and tomato sandwiches with my dad. I never could. Good huh? Not just weird?
Residentevilfan32 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:35:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It doesnt sound all that appealing cos i am not a big fan of tomato slices. I usually take them out. I dont think thats a weird combination though
Claud6568 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:29:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And a hot dog!!
RedPandaBeebs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thereโs a brewery in my town (they make the best beer!) that has a large selection of hot dogs. One of them is the PB & J dog. I was skeptical, but itโs pretty dope!
Claud6568 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:16:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was skeptical at first too, and everyone I introduce it to cannot believe how good it is. For me itโs PB and ketchup.
kei9tha ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 00:50:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fried egg, yellow American cheese, white toast and peanut butter it's a great sandwich also
goatcoat ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 23:05:52 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like a human flesh burger, or a beef burger?
Cannabilistichokie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:47:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No way, human flesh doesn't go good with peanut butter. I prefer a siracha-mayo sauce mixed with cayenne pepper and Colby Jack cheese.
gesunheit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:49:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
wat
goatcoat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:51:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
His username.
DolanDBplZ ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 01:44:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes
-IzTheWiz- ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:50:20 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eww...
NotSoTinyUrl ยท 17 points ยท Posted at 22:54:19 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs actually pretty good.
Drbillionairehungsly ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 00:58:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs what I thought too, till I tried it on a burger at a restaurant in town. I was shocked at how good it was.
mikepictor ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:50:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
duuuuude, you are lucky, you get to try PB on a burger for the first time!
Cannabilistichokie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:53:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought the same exact thing until I tried it. I did a burger with peanut butter, bacon, and maple syrup and it was really good. Everyone who I have cooked them for likes it too. Don't knock it until you try it.
jack3308 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:36:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So I'm gonna add one thing to this. Add some Sriracha on there too! The oily peanut butter mixes ssssoooo well with the Sriracha! It's my favorite way to eat burgers now. Give it a try some time!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:58:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dude, peanuts are GREAT with savoury things. That's why so many asian dishes feature peanut sauce. It goes great with fat and salt, which a burger is primarily a lump of.
wanderforward ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:20:12 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I second this. There's a place I've been to that sells peanut butter and jelly burgers. It's pretty decent.
C_N1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:21:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only know of the Krusty Krab, but they only have the jelly burgers
NSA_Chatbot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:40:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought "yeah right" until I tried it and I'd have it again.
I have to be careful though, too much peanut butter can give me kidney stones.
whitebishop ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:41:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
With some sliced pickled jalepeno
LaneyRW ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:45:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There's a hamburger festival once each year near where I live, and they have all kinds of unusual burgers. One of the best sellers is the donut burger, a hamburger on a donut cut in half as a bun. My dad tried it and said it was good! I haven't tried it yet.
Cher9969 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:54:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have trust issues with you, my friend. Bacon, yes. Peanut butter, idk.
Insolent_villager ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:59:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is what White Castle does and it's disgusting.
dleon0430 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:32:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When passing a blade to another person, do it handle forward, instead of blade forward.
Cher9969 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:28:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lose less friends that way, huh?
Dylan_C2001 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:10:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listening to my mom
aintnothin_in_gatlin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:36:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...or anyone older than you with experience, for those who donโt have moms. I canโt tell you how many things wise older people told me while growing up just went in one ear and out the other without a thought until...I grew older and realized....they knew what they were talking about.
lautenal ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:10:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Baby sign language - we taught our 10 month old some basic symbol (more, finished) and it made life heaps easier
quarkibus ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:14:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learn to say no.
SaaSyPaaS ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:18:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be a little bit nicer than you need to be.
otherBrandon ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:34:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Close your heart off
socioanxiety ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:37:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
25 and I wish I would have learned this earlier.
otherBrandon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:03:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel your pain friend
Sirius_Bizniss ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:40:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stretching. Yes, am dumb.
ladyjane143 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:28:36 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
your not dum,,90% of the worlds population donโt stretch and then complain about pain
Seeksherowntruth ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:05:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just don't drink or use one day at a time 6 years 9 months later still clean and sober. Living a life I never dreamed of.
glenndamarie82211 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:17:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Congrats!!!! One day at a time turned into 5 minutes at a time and got me through those first 6 months I hit 2 years next month! It really is a whole different life I never know ever existed and better than anything I could have hoped for.
IsAMoofan ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:56:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When cleaning, take care of the biggest items first. Didn't realize how it would make the tasks go faster, but it's merely to make the mess seem less daunting... And it worked. Put away the biggest three items, and the room already looks 90% finished.
YungHitso ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:01:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm and avid tennis player and when my dad told me that once you didnโt worry about the losing, then I would do better. Currently 12-0 after he told me that.
FOURoz_LOAD ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:27:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tie your shoes properly. If you have to tie your shoes more than once in a day, you're doing it wrong. It has to do with the way you tie your first knot. you can tell that you did it right if the bow when you're done is horizontal, not vertical. I've been doing it wrong for 30 years and when someone pointed it out to me I just brushed it off and said something like "I just double knot it".
Great_Battoman ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:00:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cook your own food.
Thatniqqarylan ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:24:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dress your best when you feel your worst. I made this one up but it works wonders when you're depressed.
Eliyanef ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:28:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, "Just do it" when I hesitate talking to girls. "What's the worst that could happen? You get a no and move on" might sound dumb and simplistic but after you convince yourself of that and do it once, the other times won't seem so scary
sharadmhta ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:29:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad always says this about eating in moderation - "If you eat only small amounts of something in one sitting, you'll be able to eat it for longer in your life" Such a good advice which I follow everytime I am offered anything sweat, salty or fried.
HyRanity ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:32:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sleep early
rrk99 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:34:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keeping a water bottle beside your bed to drink as soon as you wake up in the morning helps to decrease the drowsiness. It works wonders and help me to wake up in a chilly Monday morning. ๐โโ๏ธ you guys should try it.
SmugAnomaly ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:34:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โMan is not worried by real problems so much as by his imagined anxieties about real problems.โ
Whenever I find myself dreading something in the future, it helps to put that thing in perspective and take a step back. You can get out of touch with reality if you spend too much time in your own head.
YeakThom ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:38:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An extra few minutes spent now will save hours in the future.
Better known as do it properly the first time.
sacredmelon ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:39:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
PAYING OFF YOUR CREDIT CARD STATEMENT IN FULL EVERY MONTH
PacificGlacier ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:19:10 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I LOVE DOING THAT! people ask my interest rate and I'm like I haven't paid it but for 3 months
luthfudeen ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:46:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretend to be incompetent at menial tasks at work so people donโt flock to you for favours.
randomprodigy ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 05:47:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Live wit her before yall get married to see her true colors
FrancoisTruser ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 05:49:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Consider those 3 qualities in a thing:
You can only have 2 of those 3 qualities. Never the 3 at the same time.
This advice apply at work, when shopping, when writing the scope of a project, etc.
For the purpose of this post, thing = something you buy or that you make or that you hire someone to make.
TomFazio ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 06:53:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take you trousers right off when you go for a poop. Thereโs a freedom
el1f ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:00:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Talk to her. You have nothing to lose
daonlyrealsimon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:35:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only applies to people you don't know already.
broken-neurons ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:06:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never washing my face with soap. Water only. No more acne problems.
FatnDrunknStupid ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:27:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hidden gem here folks...
Kovi2144 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:07:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instead of apologizing when you mess up or do something wrong, thank the other person. For example, instead of saying โSorry I was running lateโ, replace it with โThank you for waiting for me!โ
zepolarbearkhan ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:29:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When in a heightened emotional state that you need to calm down. Like anger, anxiety or something. Take 3 deep breaths. If you are standing, sit. If you are sitting, lie down. If none of that works. Wash your face with cold water and try again.
Alejandro4891 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:29:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
work smarter, not harder.
Soapchrome ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:30:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting up early will make more out of your day.
JohnIan101 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:33:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only if you get enough sleep the night before.
Soapchrome ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:31:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ye ofc :)
FightTheFallen ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 07:45:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To use my nose when eating pussy.
WoollyMittens ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:39:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't worry about things you have no control over.
Stuff like a delayed train used to cause me a lot of anxiety, but it's completely pointless.
kokudum ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:43:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you're depressed, exercise.
arepera ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:01:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed, bro.
Midwest_genxer ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:10:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking water
BeardyMike ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:26:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting a present for your partner, but have no idea what to get?
Move ยฃ50 (or however much you're hoping to spend) into your PayPal. Tell partner you got them a present that you paid for with PayPal, and say if they can guess what it is you'll give it to then as soon as it arrives.
They'll now give you a list of the things they would like to get as a gift.
Buy one of those items using the PayPal money.
You're welcome.
mrwho995 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 11:09:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Remedies for depression.
Exercise. Getting out of the house. Eating more healthily.
They all sound like dumb advice, and I think a lot of depressed people will try them once or twice, notice it does fuck all, and think 'ugh, what shitty, condescending, overly-simplistic advice'. The key is doing that stuff consistently, though. And it does help if you stick to it.
The problem of course is the sticking to it, when you're depressed...
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:50:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reading is fundamental.
Seriously grown ass adults will go out of their way to ask questions with the answer literally in front of them.
Paperwork at work, how do I do this? Did you read the instructions at the top of the page? No.. mmk.
Get in trouble with the boss about something? Did you look at the policy handbook? No? Well you're both technically in the wrong.
New house hold item? What do you mean you don't see why the can opener has a magnet on the side?
Didn't know you had that option in your car? You mean you didn't glance through the manual for the $30,000 purchase you just made? Bet you put the wrong gas in it too.
Fucking read it's not hard to tell genuine information from legal BS, and safety warnings.
This turned in to a bit of a rant.
Satanne27 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:00:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My Dad has said this particular piece of advice for years, "your health is your wealth." I quit a job that made me utterly miserable last Summer to travel, I saved for months to do it. My savings were low when I came back but I felt better than ever. Money will return, time will not.
fuckysomething ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:04:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are two ways to get rich:
lil_locomotor ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 13:06:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Whenever you want to feel what someone is feeling or know what he is going to do, think from his side."- My Grandma
"No shit, grandma"-Me
Jokes aside, this got me through bullies, interviews, relationship and the best part is that it works most of the time(unless the person is a psychopath) and can be used in any scenario.
Thanks Grammy.
lil_locomotor ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:11:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh shit gold that too in 2 mins. Fuck.
Clever-Innuendo ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 13:35:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is going to sound so dumb, so I guess Iโll share. I used to work in outside sales, going business to business trying to get them to change their business phone service. I was fresh out of college with basically no sales experience, so I was looking to pick up some tricks on how to avoid the typical โfuck off, get out of my shopโ that I was getting regularly.
I had this guy Keith training me at the time, who was a total slimeball aka great at sales. One day he told me โYou gotta not talk to people straight on when youโre trying to sell something to someone. Too intimidating. If you feel some push back, turn your body a little and relax. Lean your elbow on the counter and just talk to them. Theyโll forget youโre trying to sell something.โ
I spent 4 years of college learning business tactics and etiquette, and nothing has helped me more in face-to-face sales than the olโ โturn โn lean.โ Literally makes no sense, but store owners stopped looking at me like a sales person and more like just another dude.
tomhauptman ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 13:40:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't go to bed/leave the house with dishes in the sink. I thought this was dumb until I lived alone. I never had to do dishes in order to eat or cook because I had already done them. Thanks, dad.
thierryanm ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:11:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking water regularly.
I don't really "see" the effects, but I've not been sick in two years.
AtopMountEmotion ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:13:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Men, stop cursing all the time. Itโs not funny or endearing. Those words lose their impact if you use them all the time. If they become a placeholder, like -ya know, um or er... then you just seem dumb and coarse. You donโt need to say fuck, fuckinโ or fucker six times during dinner, at her Momโs house.
Diglett_digg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:29:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, sounds good. Doesnโt work.
William9603 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:17:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you need to include your age in a comment/post donโt say โIโm ___ years old and....โ, say โWhen I was ___ years old...โ, regardless if itโs your current age or not.
There are weird people out there. Could save yourself from a number of situations.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:46:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting. I always lie about my age and location. I kind of pick someone in my life who is fairly similar to me but not exactly the same and pretend to be them online. I pick a second person to model my romantic life. I pick and choose what to share about each individual. This helps me keep the lies consistent and straight and the weirdos at Bay.
The worst case scenario... These people I don't know are discovered and something bad happens to them. I take it as a cautionary tale and disappear.
MrSpitfire11 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:19:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt set yourself on fire to keep other people warm
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:41:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is such underrated advice. Get rid of needy selfish motherfuckers ASAP. Your life will improve
ratpoison987 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:46:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Proverb. Nice.
cowboydan317 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:20:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Counting down from ten and taking deep breaths when stressed or angry or deciding if you want to punch someone.
pretendlikeyoucare ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:21:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lose thirty pounds and see if that helps.
Efraim_Longstocking ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:26:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt use tinder, you Will get herpes
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:40:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/oddlyspecific
ratpoison987 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:45:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This explains everything.
WalrusInSocks ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:28:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
2 related ones:
If you get up early you'll feel better across the day. Thought this was bollocks because sleeping in feels so nice, but all it needs is a little kick of unpleasantness to have a better day.
Not using your phone at night will improve your sleep. It's just true. You feel more refreshed in the morning.
ratpoison987 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:43:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When Iโm on a workout grind. These two things make my life so much better.
You attain this state you become accustomed to - and any deviation makes you feel like garbage.
10 hours a night. Early to bed. Early up. ~8:30pm to 6am. Sometimes I wake up at 5-5:30 and Iโm wide wake. I just get up.
Go drinking or to bed late, and I feel like a sack of shit. For two days. (Could be because Iโm an old fuck now. Omg)
WalrusInSocks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:32:08 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I try to go for a run three times a week, and I can say with almost 100% accuracy that if I plan to go for a run on a specific day, if I get up before 7:30am on that day I will go for the run and if I don't get up that early I won't. Simple as that.
ratpoison987 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:38:58 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you feel like something is missing if you donโt?
WalrusInSocks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:15:56 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sort of. I think also I'm just naturally quite lazy, so if I don't do something at 'The Right Time' I probably won't do it. I think by also forcing myself up at an early time I just feel refreshed once I'm up, maybe in a part because there's a prevalent idea in internet culture that Productive People Wake Up Early, because every single blog/video/comment etc. of someone talking about improving productivity seems to include the tip "wake up early".
ratpoison987 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:44:20 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making your life better isnโt easy.
But whatโs harder is waking up one day 300 pounds and a slob - and turning your life around.
Harder than that is being hospitalized because of diabetes.
Itโs a daily grind. Suffer a little now. Or a lot later.
TinPep ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:31:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The rolling clothes for packing. It really does add so much more space. I was able to pack double clothes.
Diglett_digg ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:31:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Floss. Itโll save you thousands in dental work.
ojs-work ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:35:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apple pie and cheddar cheese, both on the same fork. Your welcome in advance.
CriticalEscapeBike ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:40:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"If you had that amount of money in your wallet right next to your credit card, ....would you still buy it if you had to pay cash for it?"
If not....you don't need it.
thy_mom_gay ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 14:41:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When cleaning mirrora you must use a circular motion.
kingfoam ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:24:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โGet reddit to improve your quality of memesโ
CapnMarlin ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 15:25:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to sleep early, you'll feel better. Took me until my early 20's to realize how true this was.
Trailblazerman ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 15:26:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To combat joint pain, stop eating dairy. Following that suggestion has changed my life.
icomeinpizza ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 15:27:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have some bad anxiety, so here goes this old gem: "stop caring so much what others think about you." I always thought this was useless, bad advice. Until I started to actually embrace what it meant. It sounds easy to do, and it isn't, but it became one if my mantras I'd repeat to myself A LOT. Wound up making me really realize what other people think of you doesn't really matter, or define you. Wish I had been able to believe it sooner than I did!
VermillionSoul ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 15:43:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have super low confidence and self esteem you can start off the day with this bullshit sounding technique. It takes a few weeks to start working though.
Every morning you say with the most conviction you can muster "I like myself." You repeat it 5-10 times as loud as you want. What really matters is sounding commanding about it.
I thought it was a load of shit until I started doing it and eventually my inner monologue changed. Now my brain just compliments me a lot of the time.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 15:45:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This. What also helps is to think about 10 things you like about yourself. They have to be 100% true things you genuinely fancy about yourself. Write them down. Read them each day and think of more and more.
FireyShitBucket ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 15:43:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The App Down Dog. I'm at the height of finals right now and I tend to spent my time "off" studying on reddit or gaming. So I made a point of just doing a 30min yoga practice during my study breaks instead of going straight to my computer/my phone and it helps me clear my head way more than being focused during my off time.
J_Degiu ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 16:38:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If one day you will be in the position to have a gun poited at you , try to smile at the man who is holding It
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:49:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why?
HabitualLineStepping ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:59:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Disarms them?
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:36:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
interesting. I thought maybe there was some psychological thing you were going to cite -_-.
J_Degiu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:57:45 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well to create empaty, and to male belive the aggressor if Is a soldier that you are from his side , I get this lesson from a journalist who was in war territory, and he actually save his life
hungryisthebaseline ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:46:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
TINITUS. A friend showed me this. Cover your ears with your hands, and flick the first two fingers of each hand off each other so one hits the back of your head. It instantly reduces the noise.
Incredible.
bSad42 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 16:46:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ceyenne pepper will stop you bleeding
HabitualLineStepping ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:58:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
More info please
bSad42 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:03:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you cut yourself, sprinkle it on the wound. It'll pucker your capillaries and the bleeding stops.
Can-barely-adult ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 17:28:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bacon on a cream cheese bagel
EmmyLooX2 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 17:38:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom and I are quite poor (not like homeless poor, canโt pay bills but more like canโt afford some stuff sometimes or running out of money). She always used to say โHappiness does not come from money but from people around you that love you. You will find out when you are older.โ I was 6 at that time. This came from a mom who had a bad background, became a teen mom, lost that child a few hours after it was born, had another child a year later that was extremely disabled and epileptic, had an autistic child 8 yesrs later (me), had a tiny house with my dad, got evicted, moved into my nans house, got physically abused by my other nan when she found out about all this, got cheated on, had to move into a special home, having to look after two disabled children and having severe anxiety and depression and always seemed happy even with all the shit thats happened in her life. I never took that seriously because all my friends were rich and bitchy and caused me to be lie them. Once I was about 8 we went into the Disney shop and I saw something that was ยฃ100. She said we canโt afford it and I was really annoyed at her, had a tantrum and screamed โAll my friends are rich and have money! Why canโt you be more like their parents and actually have a job instead of sitting at home all day doing nothing!โ I stormed out of the shop and when we got home shut myself in my room. I didnโt talk to my mom for 2 weeks. Iโm now 12 years old and now Iโm realising money really isnโt everything and Iโve stopped talking to those โfriendsโ. I have new friends that love me for me and a mom that loves me no matter what and I love her as well. I now accept that me and my mom canโt afford everything and accept the things I have instead of the things I want. The reason my mom doesnโt have a job is because she needed to take care of my disabled brother and I and she wouldnโt have time to do that with a job. She didnโt actually sit at home doing nothing I just thought that because most of the time I saw her she was sitting down. It was because my brother or I didnโt need her at that time. Just remember money isnโt everything.
buddyboyfriendo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:09:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is so inspirational to here from someone in your position, and it is amazing to see how you have overcome the problems you and your mom face.
Beanz2424 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 17:55:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad always told me to โbe smartโ when dropping me off at elementary and middle school. It wasnโt until I thought about it as an adult that a realized my dad, although educated with bachelors from a university, felt bad about his education and didnโt want me to experience his regret. Growing up on a farm his family didnโt emphasize education. In moments where he needed to spell, reading, etc.. we would laugh at him. My mom was a highly educated medical doctor and Iโm sure him felt inadequate
Grim_Sleeper_ ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 18:14:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One minute rule. If you can do it in less than one minute, do it now. You'll never have an empty toilet paper roll again.
AntiMacro ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 18:16:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To stop drinking pop/soda. I didn't think it would make much of a difference but when Andrea gave up smoking for New Years I said I'd stop drinking Coke. I've lost ~25 lbs without changing anything else I do.
AT1787 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 18:29:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was young and dating challenged, I heard from other guys that it was simply "a numbers" game. That you need to put yourself out there and try. Reeling from repeated rejections, I scoffed at it, particularly since I passed it off as some machismo alpha male PUA advice.
What I realized was that it was good advice delivered terribly. Yes, technically it can be summed up as being as numbers game, but it really meant to undergo trial and error. You need to put yourself out there and at times even be hurt to learn and build confidence. Dating itself requires vulnerability.
What is actually a useless advice that I didn't know until I tried it was the idea that someone will come along when you least expect it, that you should just trod along as you are, minding your own. Right, sure, I get that it probably was meant to quell acts of desperation but after following that advice up until I was 29, I realize that in and itself is terrible advice in the most literal sense. At least for a single straight male with a gender norm expectation that you should be the one to initiate for dates.
grovethrone ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 18:32:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah the whole "right person will materialized out of thin air" is bs. You gotta throw yourself into the fire so many times until it just stops burning you.
AT1787 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:45:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like that analogy. Getting burned seems like my kind of thing.
dmizzl ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 18:45:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You often need the advice that you give to others. (If you struggle with something and need advice, then what advice would you give someone else struggling with the same issue?)
buddyboyfriendo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:19:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I say this to my friends that think about/try to hurt themselves...
acewednesday ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 19:45:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want to stop those horrible robocalls, pick them up and immediately mute your phone so they only hear silence.
I read this in a reddit comment about six months ago when I was averaging 5 calls a day, sometimes getting into the double digits. It was the worst, and this advice seemed really counterintuitive and stupid. But I was desperate and I tried it and now, six months later, I am down to one call every week or so. I have no idea why it works but it does.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:18:10 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting.... I'm going to screen shot this and try it
anadorableshermen ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 19:56:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spice your eggs AFTER cooking them
Caydeisbae ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 20:06:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mines a bit flipped, my dad would always walk in on me studying and give me like a small wrapped sweet. He knew I hated revision but those sweets kept me sane during exam prep.
He said recently that his dad had told him to try it but he never wanted to. Only realised how much more motivated me and my brother are when we do revision or homework.
outdooroverthinker ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 20:09:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad always said "the man who cares the least, stands to get the most."
I've applied it to dating, buying things, and my social life. All in all it has saved me quite a bit financially and emotionally.
ic0nforhire ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 20:10:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โAlways have a second pen.โ
When I first began working at a bank branch I had this old, quirky man who would come in and tell me corny jokes. He worked for an office supply company and used to talk to me about his sales endeavorsโhe didnโt seem to be much of a sales man. He randomly told me one day โa great piece of sales advice? Always have a second pen.โ So I took him up on that.
When I did loan documentation work sometimes a clientโs pen would die and needed a new one. I always made sure I had a duplicate. That came in handy for other things too. I gave someone my number once for networking purposesโhe later helped me get a jobโand my first pen died halfway through him scratching my number down. Itโs good thing I had a second pen. But his advice wasnโt really literal, I know.
Always have a backup plan, even for pens.
brown_banda ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 20:20:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I started balding real fast and I asked my dad what he did, (because if he doesnโt share our genes idk who does) he told me to rub almond oil in my roots and itโll make the scalp tougher or something. Turns out that shot works and my hair is thick af too
yourcleverusername9 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:48:53 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Which brand/type of oil did you use?
brown_banda ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:01:18 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Any tbh
FatSputnik ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 20:45:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if you still want something in a week, then get it. If the desire for it wanes, then you never really wanted it at all
Dudukf ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 20:52:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you find something you were looking for, use it then put it in the first place you looked for it.
carsann ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:38:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be nice to yourself. I think people just donโt like it bc they donโt know how. The key is talk to yourself like you would talk to a friend. Really helped my mental health
girlfrommacashew ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 21:53:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Moisturize your face! Specially if your skin is oily. Don't take this for granted...
Prestigious_Pringle ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 22:20:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be more positive. I've dealt with low self-esteem and just being sad in general. Went to the dentist today (Am deathly afraid) and it went good because I just talked and had a good time.
SapphicGarnet ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:51:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't spend time doing things other than sleeping in bed. I used to be constantly on my laptop, watching TV or studying in bed since it was the comfiest place to be. Apparently your brain associates it with being active and tested so you sleep worse. I thought it was bullshit until I tried it. Not only that but I focus better watching stuff / scrolling through stuff on the sofa, and working / looking stuff up online at a desk.
FatherAb ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 02:58:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
French fries + mayonnaise (not the American, sour, gross kind though, but the normal, amazing, Dutch kind).
socioanxiety ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:35:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I like fries and mayo, but idk what you mean about it being sour. Maybe I don't know the difference, being from the US.
swgmuffin ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:52:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eww
majeric ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 02:28:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be specific when describing yourself in a dating app. Be specific in your interests.
People cast a wide net thinking it will catch the most fish, but there's a greater risk of incompatibility. Don't be "I like ot hang out with my friends. I like movies and long walks. I like to laugh".
Casting a narrower net means that you are more likely to get what you want. "I'm a Doctor Who fan. I love heavy metal and going for High Tea. I play soccer with a local intermural league. "
Northernapples ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:33:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Heavy metal + high tea, followed by soccer or an episode of Dr. Who, actually sounds like an amazing date. Topscore!
MoistPanda253 ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:42:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If youโre in a bad mood, smile. My dad would always tell me this and I thought it was the most annoying thing until I tried it and it helps me at least
world_famous_dredd ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:59:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't put soap on your vagina. That's what causes the smell. Sounds so counter intuitive, but damn it, that's the trick for fresh tilapia every time.
sweadle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In your vagina. You can put soap on your labia (and should).
world_famous_dredd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:31:34 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, honey. You should not put soap on your labia. I know how it sounds, but soap will fuck up you vaginal PH, and as a self cleaning organ, does not need much in terms of outside intervention. Just rinse it with warm water, look it up. Soap actually ends up irritating the sensitive skin, which causes stronger odours. Try it for like a week, you'll notice a difference.
sweadle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:07:31 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well, honey, my gyno says no scented soap, gels, perfumes, a regular unscented soap on the labia and vulva is recommended by her.
It's fine if you don't want to. The point is the consensus is that no cleaning product should ever go IN anywhere.
world_famous_dredd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:02:26 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I get the part about not shoving it inside your lady bits, I hope that's not an issue for a lot of people. My point is, most soaps are scented. unless you go out of your way to get a specific kind of soap, most people will just use what they have on hand, and you really don't need any soap at all.
pianistonstrike ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 03:32:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wash your hands when you come home!
Thomsa ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 06:51:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop smoking pot. My life got so much more value afterwards. It feels like waking up from a coma. People please stop telling yourselves that weed makes everything better. It does for a little while and itโs al very relaxed and funny but after a while you start to turn into a moronic zombie and you donโt even realize it.
CHUBBL3S ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:15:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Got me off the brink of suicide. Getting better meant getting off it, I'd probably dead if not for weed, but it only goes so far.
DirkBabypunch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:15:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Helps with my anxiety, but I rarely partake, and I never go full brainmelt.
There's a difference between "calming your mind" and "......what?".
the_salivation_army ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:36:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Totally. It really isnโt very good for ya.
AlexEC1 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:41:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to school.
Covergeist ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:50:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Brush your teeth
aintnothin_in_gatlin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:39:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And learn the right way to do it.
jay2puggle ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:05:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What got you here, wonโt get your there.
topex24 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:33:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having a towel with you, it's surprisingly versatile. Thank you hitchikers guide to the galaxy.
Eftgenie ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:42:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't be a whiny cunt.
taymclean789 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:10:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making pros and cons lists when making complex decisions
Juulhelmus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:19:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also when in doubt over the dicision: at night before bed make the dicision and first thing in the morning feel how your body likes the decision. You will feel relaxed or stressed. Then you know what the dicision should be.
thetigg ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:23:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going to the gym to feel better physically and mentally. It seemed useless because I thought Id hate it the whole time and it would be a struggle forever but I now look forward to it at the end of every day!
idioticname ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:09:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using a straw to more evenly dispense butter at the movies
rrrrrrrat ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:17:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thinking more positively and optimistically
Kronk_fan ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:22:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditate
jasson-Roy ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:24:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never say โI canโt take it anymore.โ Say โBring it on!โ .........
Tr0ld ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:24:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you burn your fingertips, hold your earlobe with them, the pain will fade very quickly.
elmeroguerro ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:25:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Life is alot better if you get out of your own head!
Comms ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:26:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spend money on experiences not stuff.
Our largest discretionary expense is travel. And it's not always some big deal overseas trip. It's frequent short trips with one big trip a year.
TyrionIsPurple ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:27:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't think about it.
menthalillnes ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:11:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Time is more valuable than money.
LWASucy ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 11:59:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โFake it til you make itโ
Jokker_is_the_name ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:47:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you feel like you are starting to get anxious in a social situation, look around and name a few things you see in your head.
When in a conversation it's easy (especially for people with anxiety) to get stressed or forget what to say. When that happens just look around and say the name of an object you are looking at.
For example: "garbage bin, glasses, banana, wooden door, clock".
It's sounds stupid but it can do wonders
An_Uncommon_Dabfish ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:11:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The expression โItโs easier to ask for forgiveness then to ask for permissionโ My dad used it very jokingly from time to time so thatโs how I always took it. As Iโve gotten older Iโve realized a lot of the time itโs easier to take initiative(for me itโs usually at work) and if I fuck up own up to my mistake, than to try to talk to one of my bosses or a family member.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:56:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting... Very VERY interesting
[deleted] ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 14:13:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shoot first, ask questions later.
On a more serious note, much as I hate the fact that itโs true, starting my day early makes the most significant impact to my productivity.
TURBO__KILLER ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:32:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop thinking about it
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:43:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honesty lasts the longest, or as we say in the Netherlands: eerlijkheid duurt het langst.
Being an honest and open person to everyone you meet creates better and stronger relationships, usually with other honest people and that's the people you want by your side.
6070924 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 16:46:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try on clothes that you think will look terrible on you.
AidanDatBoi ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:59:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whispering โbeep boopโ when youโre sad
lostaussie69 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 18:24:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listen to your wife, and she is always right.
Truth.
TeamTweety ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:52:24 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then I need to get me a wife. Think my husband will mind?
lostaussie69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:57:02 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only.if you don't let him join in or watch
TeamTweety ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:50:49 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Makes sense.
cade841 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 18:57:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
On relationships, don't be in a hurry to get into one. If you are you rush into one that is not good for you and will make you miserable.
and for those who are afraid to go out to find someone, my advice is to go out with a group of friends every now and then, you never know who you will meet.
vitrucid ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:03:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To add on to this, obviously be respectful and mature about it, but if you're into one of your friends, don't be afraid to say something. If you're good enough friends, then you can stay friends if they turn you down, and who knows? Maybe they're into you too. I was best friends with my husband before we started dating and he confessed he was into me, and at first I said no, but he was very mature about it and we stayed best friends. And then I fell for him, luckily before he moved on. I'm not saying every declaration of love for your best friend will end up in you marrying them or anything, but dating a friend does away with the shitty "getting to know you" part where people so often hide the worst of themselves to impress you.
nervousentity ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 20:20:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every time I was feeling depressed, my roommate told me to take a shower and clean myself and put on clean clothes. I always thought "how is that gonna help me feel better I just wanna wallow in my sorrow alone" but one day I tried it because I had nothing better to do. When I got out I felt refreshed and better about myself and whatever situation I was in. I don't know much about why it does make you feel better, but it does.
Athyriel ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 21:05:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've never been so invested into a thread
rowbain ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 14:45:26 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If someone doesn't hear you the first time, don't repeat the same words, rephrase it.
Using the same phrase doesn't add any new auditory information for the listener to clarify what you said. Even a more vague follow up can often avoid confusion.
Frustrating way:
etc.
Instead try:
or even:
If they're in the other room or hard of hearing, changing up the sound pattern or adding more context is usually enough for them to figure out what you said in the first place.
TeamTweety ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:12:55 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
OMG I have to show this to my family. I have hearing loss and I'm constantly saying What? And then the people in my house repeat the same words AT THE SAME VOLUME. So of course I have to say What? AGAIN. I can't get them to understand I CAN'T HEAR THEM. Maybe if I can get them to do this it will help.
VeronicaTeaches ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 17:37:30 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mother taught me both of these: 1. When in doubt, throw it out. This has kept me from becoming a hoarder. 2. You donโt ask, you donโt get. Self-explanatory, but Iโll explain anyways. If you want something, ask for it. You might get it. Iโm always surprised at the things I get just for asking.
miseryqueen285 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 21:00:37 on May 8, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
to drink water to help acne. i used to think it was not that simple to get rid of acne like that until i started drinking six bottles of water a day and now my acne has completely vanished.
InterestingFeedback ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:11:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a couple:
Brush teeth daily. I didnโt buy it, and my teeth were initially fine; though they were beginning to yellow as I changed my ways. Finally started brushing regularly because I read that it might help my sinuses to be less swollen (allergies) and it worked well for that purpose. Within 2 months my teeth became very white and smooth and I now consider them a bonus to my general appearance. Now, I am slightly addicted to the feeling of smooth clean teeth - if I gunk them up with soda or something I often do an extra brush just to keep them feeling nice. Full convert.
Eat breakfast. I take add medication (kills appetite) and have just never been a breakfast person, so I never used to bother eating in the morning; often I would not eat at all until the evening, then Iโd eat lots. I tried forcing breakfast on myself many times on the advice of medical professionals but it could never stick well enough to become a habit, because it was just so revolting to eat anything when I was so whole-heartedly not hungry. However, I escaped this situation using a milk-powder-based nutrient-fortified โmeal replacerโ drink. Many such meal replacements exist, I used one called โcomplanโ . After only about a month of drinking a complan each morning, something triggered in my body and I began to distinctly crave my โbreakfastโ drink - no longer did I force myself to drink it because I told my therapist I would, I drank it because I very clearly wanted it. As a side effect of actually breakfasting, I am also hungry (in a healthy, normal way) for lunch. My daytime energy levels are somewhat improved and I feel slightly more emotionally stable. More or less exactly what people told me about breakfast since I was a child, but I thought I was an exception until I found a way (drinking breakfast) to make the habit tolerable enough to entrain. I get so hungry for breakfast now that think I could eat non-liquid breakfast food, though I have not tried
Wake up at the same time every morning. Again. I started this on blind faith because my therapist told me to, and it has been a magnificent boon to my happiness and productivity. My body seems to enjoy the regularity of my wake-up alarm, as I find myself sleepy at night and relatively well-rested in the morning; neither of which have been generally true in my life.
This will be the hardest of all to accept: eat LOTS of vegetable matter; it should be 80% of your diet, not too processed, and slanted away from starchy stuff like potato and toward leafy green fibre-y stuff. You know, the stuff that does not give you a dopamine hit. My stomach/gut was beginning to show signs of problems such as bloating, constipation, acid reflux, as a result of poor diet. I have found that consistently eating a large proportion of vegetable matter prevents these problems entirely, even though Iโm still poor as fuck and eating cheaply.
It has often occurred to me that itโs a bit stupid the way I tend to automatically ignore societyโs wisdom until such time as I get bitten in the ass and learn it the hard way. I have never found a way to reliably tell between the wisdom society dispenses and the goo that plops out of its collective ass - maybe the answers in this thread will be a good source
whatacyat ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 01:36:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok, brushing your teeth daily (twice a day actually) isn't a trick., this is a normal practice for most people.
InterestingFeedback ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:13:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes but the question in the thread was about advice you found useless until you tried it
imanastartafight ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:33:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Where are you from lol? Brushing your teeth daily is more than ordinary where I'm from, it's absolutely necessary to be a "normal" human being. Also, you didn't veggies were healthy ?
InterestingFeedback ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:12:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm from New Zealand and it is definitely considered a social necessity to brush oneโs teeth, I just didnโt.
I knew veggies were healthy, and I was always told to eat them, I just didnโt actually do it
thirstynurse ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:41:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just don't brush too soon after drinking soda or juice. The acid makes your teeth weaker and brushing right after can erode the enamel more than usual.
crazycrayola ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:42:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop wearing pantiliners. Took me about ten years to take that advice. I have less discharge, spend less money, and make less waste.
cinnamaroll ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:06:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why do you suppose this is? Does this apply to unscented ones too?
theycallmesomebody ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:42:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pantyliners don't let your bits breathe properly, which makes you anaerobically produce all kinds of nasty stuff down there and you'll also sweat more. Without them your bits are better "ventilated" and there's less nastyness.
crazycrayola ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:33:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This! And I never used the scented ones so it wasn't that.
Jag94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:59:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What are panty liners, and why would they cause dishcharge? And what kind of discharge?!
crazycrayola ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:37:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pantiliners are like thin, mini pads. They are a little sheet that goes in your underwear so that nothing that comes out of a vagina gets on your undies. Vaginas naturally make discharge. It's usually cervical mucus made by the cervix that comes out periodically. I believe it serves the purpose of self cleaning. They may cause more discharge by not allowing the vagina and vulva to breath as well (they have plastic backings) and therefore throwing off the pH balance and stuff.
oh_kaythen ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:47:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do what you need to do to make yourself happy even if it means cutting off certain people in your life
Cher9969 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 07:12:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Come on, no one is happy. Being in some sort of problem is how you know youโre alive and living right. Being happy is crazy and cutting people out of your life because they donโt make you happy is ludicrous unless you live in the circus. Those miserable people were put in your life to make you a better person.
oh_kaythen ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:14:53 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom was a pretty toxic person in my life. Between drugs and abuse she made me who I am but even though shes my mother I'm glad I left her in the past with the rest of it and I can honestly say I'm a happier person without it. Now I'm not saying itll fix all your problems but it can definitely build on your character and you start realizing who you are and what you can do.
Cher9969 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:33:16 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm a nobody. When I say something Iโm not always right. You used the negative in your life and used it as a springboard to throw youโre life forward. Perhaps sometimes leaving the past in the past is necessary. Just remembering where you came from is enough?
terrible-punmaster69 ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 02:09:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be yourself.
I thought it was completely useless but then I realized that it actually made everyone hate me and not want to be my friend, so now I have more time for myself.
socioanxiety ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:43:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hahaha, but same.
helann10 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:13:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The power of positive thinking.
tangeaux ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:35:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worrying means you suffer twice.
Anytime I start to worry, I repeat this to myself.
Pacificii ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 23:02:33 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gonna sound weird
Massaging your tits makes them bigger
JJ82DMC ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 23:45:32 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a guy, I'm definitely not trying this one...
C_N1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But then you'd have two more things you could play with ;)
DangerousPuhson ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 23:18:35 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is true, because breasts swell during sexual arousal (I think by about 25% or so?), and they are also an erogenous area.
Pacificii ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 23:19:30 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But do they stay swollen
DangerousPuhson ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 23:22:19 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nope
Pacificii ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 23:22:35 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...fuck
msherretz ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:03:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doesn't mean you can't keep trying to confirm
SinkTube ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:30:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
that's a myth
socioanxiety ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:36:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh no. Better not do that then.
britsumm ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:41:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt eat too much food or youโll get fat.
hidden_gent ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 00:05:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep your eye on the ball.
Jag94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:54:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is so underrated. It is literally the key to everything.
macsharoniandcheese ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 00:52:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you fall off the horse, just get back on. This meant nothing until I actually fell off, and got back on a horse. Losing a battle doesnโt have to be losing the war, even if itโs hard to keep going.
ravelfanatic ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:44:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Did anybody say meditation yet? It is not bogus since it does produce good results.
Cher9969 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 05:47:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You mean prayer right
RewardKristy ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 01:03:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditate, just five minutes a day can make a difference. You would be surprised.
TheDharmaDude ยท 20 points ยท Posted at 01:25:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That if you tilt your head back and stick your tongue out and pretend youโre shaking a salt shaker onto your tongue you can taste the salt
hughra ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:41:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It took me wayyy to long to get this one... see what I did there?
i-smell-pennies ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:49:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yeah you choked on a pretend penis
Thekraken412 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:53:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah I know the whole penis joke but I actually taste salt when I do this.
rjaylaf ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:41:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat a kiwi with the skin on!
Becoming-me ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:25:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never
Juulhelmus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:11:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why? What is the benefit?
rjaylaf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:42:00 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Convenience, and it adds a little crunch
shdhit ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:48:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make a list.
Shwingbatta ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:50:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth when working out or do anything really. More so when working out though. Itโs hard to get used to at first and still sometimes end up forgetting.
GenericNameNumber46 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:53:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dip your fries in a milkshake
Youspinmerightround8 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:03:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything my mother said...
crazylighter ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:19:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Just do 5 minutes of a boring or hard task". Turns out I make mountains out of mole hills and one of my biggest problems with ADHD is initiating tasks that either bore me or challenge me. I'll spend days, weeks or longer procrastinating a job that wouldn't take long to do if I just started it. I'm still working on it but I like not wanting most of my time feeling shitty and anxiety ridden
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:32:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โJust remember that this too will pass.โ Meaning that what youโre currently going through might seem like the end of the world, but in time, things will get better. Have told myself this many times over the years and have overcome many seemingly insurmountable obstacles.
Bo7a ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:00:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another great piece of advice that is also part of a great song:
Puscifer - Momma sed (with lyrics)
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:18:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never seen this video or heard of this band. Really cool! โLike a kidney stoneโ. ;)
Bo7a ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:30:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am happy you enjoyed it.
I hope I have helped you into a rabbithole of the greatness that is Maynard James Keenan. He is the singer for Puscifer, A perfect Circle, and Tool.
Cheers!
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:57:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tool. Yes, I love Schism! Never knew the lead singer had other projects. Thanks!
DJBeachCops ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:44:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All of it.
Lgphillips08 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:54:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything my parents said. Especially "don't spend 5 minutes worrying about something that wont matter in 5 years."
MamaLlama2u ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:59:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercising helps anxiety. I thought my doctor was nuts because the anxiety was so bad and I didnt know how I'd make myself actually do the exercising. I told her at my next checkup that she was definitely onto something and thanked her.
tycoontroy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:59:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Minimalisim
osuna004 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:57:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you eat something spicy, get rid of the burn by drinking milk, or an otherwise dairy product. Also works well if you dip your fingers in a dairy product when your fingers are burning from chopping jalapeรฑos without gloves. Nobody ever believes me when I tell them.
Papitz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought this was a well known fact.
osuna004 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:38:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And yet whenever I give this advice to someone they look at me like Iโm crazy hah
Papitz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:41:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Next time you can tell them it works because the fat in the milk helps dissolve the capsaicin (spice making chemical) and wash it away.
ObnoxiousOldBastard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's because capsaicin isn't water soluble, but is fat/oil soluble, so fatty drinks will pick it up & wash it away. This trick works best with full fat drinks.
purpleeliz ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:59:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Time heals heartache. It really does. And another stupid saying thatโs related and also true - you just need to take it one day at time. Thatโs literally the only way to move through grief. It always sucks to hear it though.
Flyinryans35 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:00:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ice cubes in the dryer will get wrinkles out of a shirt
ObnoxiousOldBastard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is true, but you have to take the shirt out of the dryer while it's still hot. If you leave it there to cool, you'll get new wrinkles. (Although not as bad as the old ones.) The same trick works for freshly washed shirts to cut way down on your ironing. Take them out hot, & either put them on hangers straight away, or lay them out flat, & they'll need little or no ironing.
nickwayman99 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:02:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โEnjoy your childhood while you still canโ
Wish I would have listened to that sooner, I didnโt know how good I had it man
kiDDarknessssS ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:08:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get up early and go to bed early. Seems stupid but you really are more productive and get better sleep. Now I like getting up at 5am and going running, then coming home, taking a cold shower and making breakfast. You feel like Superman after.
audiophilistine ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:28:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wrap your celery in tinfoil to keep it fresh longer. Celery goes limp in my fridge in about a week, which is inedible to me because I like the crunch. Wrap it in foil and it stays fresh and crispy for over a month.
NewRelm ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:32:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks for passing that tip along. I'll have to give it a try.
Celery has to have a crunch if you're going to eat it raw. Limp celery can still be sauteed with onions and peppers in a range of dishes. Even when it dries out, I still add chopped celery to soups and stews.
Celery is too good to waste.
shitpissfartwoods ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:42:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can tell yourself you can or you can't, but either way you'll be right.
Not exactly advice but someone told it to me a while back and it's always stuck with me and has helped me through lots of challenges.
RedSalCaliPK ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:45:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"A bird in hand is better than two in the bush"
Something my father told me a long time ago. I've found this advice to be extremely helpful and numerous times it has, for example helped advance my career.
While others were too greedy to realize the opportunity front of them, I availed them all, made myself indispensable and quickly climbed the corporate ladder.
Thanks Dad. You're the best!!!
avaani ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:50:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
not to let the world harden you, despite its best efforts
ilovevoat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:43:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
but its so good at it :(
skylarwildwood ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:16:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating a peppermint to help heartburn. I did it because my grandma recommended it, and I wanted to appease her. Go figure it worked.
Lozzdog91 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:20:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone once told me: "you can never be sad when you're listening to Africa by Toto". Now, when I'm sad or upset I listen to it and it brightens my day...even for a little while.
OptionalPrawn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:23:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sound logic!
jdarce007 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:21:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt date crazy
s4ge_sid ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:23:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was fighting with depression (I still am on some level) a friend of mine told me to get direct sunlight, preferably in the morning as much as I can and that helped her in some degree. I used to think this is clear bs but I felt the difference myself. It really creates positive vibes and lifts up your mood.
katkula ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:38:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think I heard a doctor say that mood is to a certain extent regulated with vitamin D, which we get from sunlight. If you don't get enough sunlight (like in winter), you should supplement vitamin D. It could improve your mood.
s4ge_sid ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:01:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't know that. I thought it has something to do with warmth. Because when you're depressed it kinda feels cold, like tip of your toes and fingers and your ears. Thanks for the info though!
smellslikefeetinhere ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:23:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have trouble falling asleep, visualize yourself doing something mundane like walking through a store you know well. The familiarity and monotony help ease you into a dreamlike state pretty quickly once you practice enough. I can fall asleep in under a minute now using that technique, and oftentimes even quicker.
Phlosky ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:23:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you get the hiccups:
When I first heard it, I thought it was just gonna be bullshit. I've been using it about 5 years now and it's worked every damn time.
Alkirawr ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:49:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise to help with depression. Itโs easy to be depressed laying in bed all day, but honestly thereโs no downside to exercising. It gets your heart pumping and pumps hormones. Also you might end up getting fit/lose weight
Picker-Rick ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:58:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Calm down.
It always seems stupid when someone says it to you, but remaining calm really is the best way to make good decisions and handle situations rationally to achieve the best outcome.
chasewa ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:04:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If your PS4 keeps beeping, remove the piece of rubber underneath the eject button
ghostcarver101 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:25:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what is this about now?
chasewa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:39:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought it was garbage advice. But it works. As PS4s heat up, the rubber pad underneath expands, causing it to put pressure on the eject button. This leads to the phantom triple beep and disc ejects. Removing the rubber pad under your PS4 solves it.
Dangerous_Nitwit ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:05:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a sneeze that you can feel is there, but you can't get out... look up.
socioanxiety ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:40:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Does it make you sneeze or make the feeling it go away?
Dangerous_Nitwit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:43:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
helps get the sneeze out.
granakthefighter ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:13:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking deep breaths when ever i feel stressed
self-curation ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:13:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting off reddit.
just kidding not in a million years
bobbzorzen ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:15:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Break tasks up into smaller pieces...
If you ever have a hard time starting a daunting task then just try breaking it up into smaller more manageble pieces.
Cleaning the entire house is alot of work but if you start by just emptying the dishwasher then you've done something!
Works for work tasks as well.
datassclap ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:18:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fold up some toilet paper and lay it down in the toilet bowl water before pooping to prevent Poseidon's Kiss.
MasturbatingMiles ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:23:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you and an ex broke up, their was a reason for it and you shouldn't get back together.
walls-of-jericho ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:26:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some safes can easily be unlocked by slamming it on a bed or sofa then twisting the knob just as it bounces.
aussiegingerguy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:37:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"When In Doubt, Chuck It Out"
I do trampoline gymnastics, and sometimes I nearly shit myself cause some skills I perform are actually scary as hell. My Coach gave me that advice, meaning if I'm scared of it, just "chuck it" (at least just go for it, no matter what) This advice still gets me through skills and routines all the time. Aiming for world champs this year.
musicandstuffyo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:40:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't like flying? After you get where you're going, take offย your shoes andย yourย socks then walk around onย the rug bare foot and makeย fists with your toes.
I know, I know, it sounds crazy. Trust me, I've been doing it for nine years. Yes sir, better than a shower and a hot cup of coffee.
mymemesnow ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:07:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just remember that no good story ends with somebody giving up
klendool ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:30:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sit at the front of the lecture theater. I wish I'd done this the first 3 years at University
NicoleforYou ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:35:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"It is easier to ask for forgiveness then to ask for permission." Ironically my dad is the one that drilled that into me.
ali_sez_so ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:23:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont save what you have left after spending. Soend what you have left after saving
Isuckonteabags ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:37:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going outside more. I woke up early the other day and walked around for a bit. When I came back inside I felt much more inclined to be productive and actually got tons of work done that day.
fpotenza ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 08:51:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Something worth doing is worth doing poorly. Especially helpful when you can't get motivated or are struggling with mental health.
darthsmuse ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:00:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything my mother told me in my late teens and early twenties. Like, everything.
Hazmainian_devil ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:01:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mum tells me "you need an early night" in response to pretty much any problem I have, turns out a early night does make a big difference with most things
789DidYouHear ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:01:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it until you make it
southerngoaway ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:06:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using a cup of vinegar in your washing machine to get rid of smelly towels/clothes.
Yep , worked like a damn charm!
vomitandthrowaway ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:07:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean your living space if you have a low mood.
I hated hearing it, and still do, but it always works so I keep going.
the_bad_idea_book ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:12:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed every morning.
Turns out starting your day with a quick win helps get you on the right track emotionally. Huge help to beat depression. Coming home to a nicely-made bed is just the sugar on top.
ItsAlwaysZero ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:20:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โ If it wonโt matter in 5 years, donโt waste more than 5 minutes being upset by it โ
The realest and most influential truth that I think every human should abide by.
gilbertelf ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 09:30:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Write email content first, then review it and then add the email address.
IsekOnMushrooms ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:04:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I really wanted to play a gamecube game on the wii but in order to do that you have to click it with the wii remote. However my sensor broke and i googled on how i could play the game anyway, turns out you can light 2 candles and it works as a sensor. Didn't believe it at first until i tried
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:05:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
save your money.... we all hear it.. ignore it... but it works
jaffa1987 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:12:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learn to take a compliment.
Saying this as i caught myself always deflecting it when someone said i did a good job. And as much as it feels to you're sharing spotlight with those that helped you do your great job. At some point it comes across as you're not acknowledging the compliment (and subconscious you even kind of do)
So for both your own confidence and the one giving you praise, just say thanks in stead of 'well it wasn't just me' even if it wasn't all you (the one complimenting you probably knows it wasn't all you but goes out of their way to say you did your part well)
z71kea ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:19:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I need to do better at this. Thank you.
DuckDipDive ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:13:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's better to be late in this life, than early in the next.
My dad always told me this and now my wife complains when I don't get stressed by deadlines.
allowmetodisappointu ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:42:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Replace apologies with gratitude, "sorry" with "thank you".
For example if you're late for a meeting instead of "I'm sorry for being late", use "something like "thanks a lot for waiting". It works really well in most situations and creates a positive and likeable image, notice how the message of your response remains same. It switches the opposite party's mood from getting mad to actually forgiving with a positive atmosphere.
FJapples ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:49:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really good advise. Thanks
anally_raped_walrus ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:53:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
don't do drugs
Konsta64 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:00:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How else are grandmas gonna have hip replacements then?
murtemus ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:10:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put coffee beans in your shoes to remove the smell.
Momar8 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:17:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ask yourself "Would an idiot do that?" And if they would I do not do that thing
OohWhatchuSay ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:25:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Changed my life.
groovyMysterioso ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:39:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean up your room! It's the first step to getting your life together. :)
tboy1492 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:05:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But that makes sense
groovyMysterioso ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:10:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It doesn't to the people who regularly keep their rooms filthy. Most folks who get told to clean up their room seem to assume that it's for the sake of some authoritarian power play, or orders for the sake of giving orders.
tboy1492 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:15:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I try to clean it so I can find my stuff, problem is tiny room and Iโm sharing space with my kid so yeah... never stays organized more than a few minutes
groovyMysterioso ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:28:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds like it would be a good time to instilling this wisdom. Make it a fun part of your day together. Because the benefits of this are far beyond being able to find your things. Teaching them to be ok with a period of organizing leads to regular reflection and strengthens ones motivation for self improvement.
Inkl1ng6 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:42:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doctor: drink more water, you'll loose weight easier.
deansquash ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:54:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only a rich man can afford cheap tools. Iโve waisted a fortune on cheap tools that break far too easily.
salmonycoral1 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:58:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're lightly choking and need to cough it out, lift your arm straight up above your head like you're asking a question like the know it all in class. It will open your airway and make it easier to cough harder and relieve you quicker.
Trust me on this one
Valve_Lapper ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:11:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sleep when the baby sleeps (before you can get them on a schedule)- itโs giving up your freedom of schedule, but Iโm a happier person with rest and have more patience for baby shenanigans
SweatyK ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:13:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If youโre ready to have a bowel movement, but you just canโt get it out - rock back and forth on the toilet to stimulate your bowels.
I thought it was crazy...
pinkmochiboi ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:16:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Loud heels make you feel invincible.
I have social anxiety and borderline agoraphobic. But when I'm pounding down the pavement with my heels bossily click clacking away, I feel like a bad bitch on a mission. It helps loads.
spookyspiderlady ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:17:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Running just your wrists under cold water when you're too hot can cool you down.
Running just your wrists under warm/hot water when you're cold can help you warm up.
I know it sounds pretty obvious but it works better than I thought it would.
DeepRoot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:26:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We used to put an ice cube on the baby's wrist to break her fever. It really does work better than expected!
spookyspiderlady ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:17:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also, eating fruit to get rid of period cramps.
keekeeos ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:21:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt tell a patient itโs your first time doing a procedure. Or say oops. Or oh no.
(Am ER nurse. Have to be confident)
Michinai ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:22:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Browsing Reddit. One day my friend told me to go on Reddit because I was an anti-social piece of fucking shit and needed to the internet to be happy. He was right. But I wasn't expecting this.
MadLad51 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:27:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was a high schooler. My father told me that the g rass isnโt always greener on the other side. I left my girlfriend for a different girl. The new girlfriend cheated on me. Lesson learned.
regrettablyerect ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:33:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tidy room, tidy mind.
Having a good old clean is an easy serotonin dump. Definitely helps clear the mind
fatnoah ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:35:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This was my life in college. I had to clean my entire apartment before studying, otherwise I couldn't concentrate. I'm in my forties now and a disorganized room makes me very uncomfortable.
MrMxylptlyk ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:36:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol, only yesterday I was trying to dissolve some powder in cold water and it just wouldn't dissolve for like 30mins and mom told me to do it in hot water. Instant dissolve
atatuaca ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:39:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Solubility increases with temperature!
MrMxylptlyk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:40:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yea.. Middle school chem. I just didn't expect it to work SO Well because in the cold water, powder sat there for like 30m,even with stirring
iceag ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:39:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's common sense
MrMxylptlyk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:40:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yea I fked up
DeepRoot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:22:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes, but if I say your name backwards, will I go back to the dimension whence I came?
MrMxylptlyk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:23:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only works if I say it!!
Beyond_Insemination ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:51:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Our credit card readers at work suck, and I spend a lot of time typing in the individual card numbers. My boss saw me do this a few weeks ago and told me to rub the magnetic strips on my shirt to clean them off before swiping and it would work better. Brushed it off and ignored it because I thought it wouldn't have any measurable difference, but I tried it when he wasn't watching once, and haven't had to type a number in since
stylophonics ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:51:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stomach pains, cramps, gas pain? Work out! You know... the LAST thing you want to do when you're having pain to the point of doubling over.
I always thought it was stupid, but it worked... ugh. Yes. It worked. Worked for a headache a couple of times too. Guess I can't use that as an excuse not to go to the gym anymore...
Pizza__Pants ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:53:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โIf you ever travel back in time, donโt step on anything because even the tiniest change can alter the future in ways you canโt imagine"
MoroseTraveller ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:55:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doc?
Tunaversity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:01:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Homer?
redpanda2314 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:57:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you are criticizing someone (even just mentally) give the person a (non-sarcastic) compliment. It helps you reframe your thoughts into something positive and helps with relationships.
e.g. Ugh... I can't believe he couldn't put the dishes away in the right place! It's just not that hard and... "Thank you for putting the dishes away."
Catsinspaceship ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:02:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get enough sleep.
(This next part is directed towards myself. ) And donโt confuse relaxing with sleep. Sitting on the couch watching tv and flipping through Instagram isnโt sleep. Close ya damn eyes.
squid_squirt ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:06:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every time you walk out of a room, take something that doesn't belong. Crazy how much cleaner everything gets.
bubedibapi ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:32:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it till you make
GPAD9 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:32:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My aunt told me to inhale as I get injected by needles instead of holding my breath and bracing for it.
I had (and still go to) appointments where I get jabbed like a dozen times so that ended up being helpful. Had to stop at like 2/3 the first few appointments because I couldn't bear it until I just accepted her advice. It was almost painless that the shock of it got me laughing.
Can't be bothered to check if it's an actual thing but if it does turn out to be placebo, I'll take it anyway.
Narcann ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:33:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt spend money on things you donโt need wish I listened sooner ๐๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ
MiserEnoch ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:34:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Don't use flea medications, powders, shots, or expensive dips to get fleas off a dog. Just use dawn soap. It'll wipe out the fleas and give your pup a shiny, healthy coat. No need to worry about poison either."
I thought this was one of the dumbest things I'd ever heard when my spouse and I were dog hunting and happened to be talking to a breeder. Why in the world would a two dollar bottle of dawn soap work better than a thirty dollar powder, dip, collar or shot? But we did stumble across a mutt pup from an unwanted litter, and he was brutally flea bitten. To the point it looked like his skin was crawling beneath his fur.
So we tried it.
It absolutely murdered the fleas. We had to put him through the wash a few times, and thrice empty out the kiddie pool we were using to wash him - there was literally a tide of dead fleas so thick you could barely see the water - but it worked wonders. The fleas seemed dead the moment the dawn laced bubbles touched them, or at the very least immobilized. They couldn't jump on us either, though we made sure to check one another and scrub down afterwards.
And yes, that coat was shiny and fresh by the time we were done. Used dawn soap every warm month ever since, with a flea collar for the in-between times, and I've yet to see another flea or tick.
For those of you outside of the United States, dawn is a type of liquid dish soap best known for emulsifying oils and grease off dishes. It's also, if I remember correctly, used to clean animals who get caught in oil spills because it's non-toxic. I use it as an fine clean after I've finished working on our house vehicle, after I've used a heavier texture soap to scrape off the majority of oil, grease, or so forth.
Lou_Mannati ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:37:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reading
Thomas_2006 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:38:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a tennis player and a view weeks ago had to play an important mach against a good player. A little old man who always is on the tennis court told me to just hit the ball hard and make sure it lands on the other side. I followed his advice and it actually worked. (I won BTW.)
Direktorius ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:45:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Noone really told me this, but i found it out myself.
If you have motion sickness on vehicles, put on headphones (ones that cover your ears), listen to music that makes you beat to the rhythm, and focus on beating to the rhythm to yourself.
I spent 15 years afraid to get into a car for 5 min ride because i would throw up midway. Now i regularly go hours traveling by car no problem
cornnobber ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:45:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lift my knees. There's a game in xbox 360. It's a sports game. There is a mode where we have to run (well not run but pretend to run). My character was so slow. I was running it my way so my knees isn't high at all. Until my friend told me to lift my knees and i lifted it so high it almost smacked my face and my character ran. I didn't get first but at least i got 3rd
justtopost0 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:47:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"To solve all your problems... Just die"
poleshar ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:53:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Release your tongue from the roof of your mouth. Itโs a subtle way we hold onto stress without even realizing it.
AtopMountEmotion ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:55:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Respect your bedroom. Your bedroom is your sanctuary. Its for sleeping and fucking,Itโs not a second TV room. Intimacy is limited by the idiot box. People (married especially) that watch TV in their bedroom, quit fucking. Donโt replace your quiet space with just another place to stare at a screen.
Srirachasaucy ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 13:55:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practicing gratitude.
I struggled with depression for years and I assumed that gratitude was just something happy morons without real problems told me to do. I've done a lot of work and I'm on medication, I'm happy to say I'm no longer depressed. Some of that was from therapy and meds, but a large part of that came when I hit rock bottom and was suddenly grateful for the smallest comforts and kindnesses. It saved my life. It changed my world. Slowly, things got better and better. Gratitude gave me the strength to continue treatment even when it stalled. The more I practice gratitude, the more I have to be grateful for. I have become a kinder more patient person, the kind of person I want to be. I have a loving partner and a good career. I am not afraid of change or challenge. I have done things that I would have never believed possible in the depths of my depression. Gratitude and kindness saved my life.
AtopMountEmotion ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:05:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy good shoes and especially work boots. Best money youโve ever spent.
Stroikah1 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:07:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't buy a boat unless you can afford 10 boats... I still don't own a boat.
Reb_452 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:19:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What's that saying - "It's better to do something for 30 seconds than not do it at all"?
joshua-the-legend ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:34:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left
poppy810 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:39:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listen twice as much as you speak. People always come to me if they need to talk cos they say I'm a great listener. I never give advice if they have a problem I just ask how they are gonna deal with it because they usually already know.
Zelyrun ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:42:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take a break every hour to stand up, stretch, and/or take a small walk. Your body and mind will thank you for it!
Seancrab ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:43:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โBetter to ask for forgiveness than permission.โ
Advice from my dad who still regrets telling me to this day.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:48:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Very VERY interesting
D3ADW07F ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:54:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rinsing my spoon
runningboi123 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:05:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you do not know the answer in an exam just try it because you do not lose marks for getting a question wrong. My teacher is amazing and this advice helped me squeeze in some extra marks to make my grade that little bit better.
doctorleggs ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:09:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Underlining/marking books as you read. Helps me remember stuff, pay attention better, just feels like a much more active experience (I read all the time now).
Silbhe94 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:09:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โJust Be yourselfโ
Silent_Bobert ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:12:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You chose to be angry. You intentionally go out of your way to be mad. Since then I've let a lot of stuff go.
hansnicolaim ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:18:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tightening every muscle in your body and holding them flexed for one minute if you struggle with getting settled in in bed. I thought it wouldn't work, but it does.
And also drinking from the opposite side of the glass if you have hiccups. Hiccups are really easy to cure if you focus on something else.
Quo210 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:19:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to believe eye contact, smiles and lightly using physical contact, such as hand shaking or tapping a shoulder were over rated and unnecesary for people to open up.
It turns out people don't open up, they melt in your hands and stare up friendly like you have years knowing each other.
As a socially awkward guy all my life, lifting, fixing my wardrobe and doing that has made me look at people completely different.
ami719 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:22:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thin mints in the freezer
BowlOfYeetios ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:25:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I second this. Cold chocolate is the bomb
Lemon-Difficult- ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:23:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put your antiperspirant on at night before you go to sleep. Gives the aluminum time to settle into your pores and block the sweat glands and won't wash off even if you shower in the morning.
(Also, there's no clinical evidence to suggest you need to be worried about heavy metals in antiperspirants. The existing studies indicate that the amount you might absorb through the skin is negligible. Way, way lower than what you get in your regular diet and other exposure, etc.)
amywokz ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:32:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1- If you have laryngitis, put a teaspoon of white vinegar in 6 oz. water and gargle. No more laryngitis!
2- To avoid "brain freeze" when eating something real cold (like ice cream), place the cold bowl of ice cream in the palm of one hand. It works!
3- To keep a dog from digging in the same spot over and over, bury dog shit in it.
4- To score a "home run" with a woman, buy her flowers. 'Nuff said. ;-)
otastco ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:32:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
a fool and their money are soon parted.
thatweirdkiid ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:34:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed as soon as you wake up. Even if you're feeling depressed, sick, angry... just do it. Coming home from work or school to a made bed is actually super nice. Even looking into your room and seeing a made bed can give you a 1% boost.
If you want to +1 that, wash your sheets once a week and pillow covers once every 2 weeks. Clean + made bed = the good feelings
ProfSaguaro ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:36:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Got a flash drive, external hard drive, or something that you cant access but has no obvious problems? Try popping it in the freezer...it could be stuck in an overheat protection safemode. Saved my passport this way. Source: college finals panic.
foxysnow ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:38:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting braces
GongasMP ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:40:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Strike First
Strike Hard
No Mercy
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:50:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad taught me something similar. Avoid being an asshole as much as possible but understand that some people are just aggressive, hostile, nasty, and they DGAF about consequences. This is especially true for low-lifes and losers.
They're going to try and fuck with you at some point in your life. Go for the jugular when they do. Make it as miserable as possible for them to fuck with you. Make it as painful, humiliating, and miserable as you can for them. They're going to begin fucking off after that. It's been true so far. Punish them for shitty behavior. Reward them for fucking off
Zero_protocol ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:44:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Wash your pillowcase more often" in my 20s I'd still experience acne and tried all kind of expensive creams etc. After my girlfriend told me to clean my pillowcase more often the acne disappeared within days!
exgerex ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:44:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed everyday.
Psychological victory to start the day.
SuperHans1888 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:50:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โThink positively and positive things will happenโ. / Law of attraction.
Yeah Yeah. Bullshit. Next.
Oh how wrong I was! Just simple changes to your mindset will do you wonders.Start off small then dream big, brother.
UmbottCobsuffer ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:55:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gargling with salt water for canker sores and sore throats.
Dubica_Mapper ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:06:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having children
MrPostie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:07:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The percent chance something will happen does not depend on what just happened...If the coin just landed on heads, it is not more likely to land on tails next time.
Cap-n_Crunk ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:08:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad used to tell us growing up that it's easier to do things the right way. Do it the wrong way and you still have to do it the right way later, but you've spent more effort doing it twice. It's always stuck and helps me reason out why I'm doing myself a favor not half assing things.
Lankience ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:17:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For my engineering thesis in undergrad we had a class to go along with it since most of us are writing-challenged. I remember the teacher going over the components of a good argument and one of them was โacknowledgement and responseโ, where you mention potential counter arguments to your point and go over why they arenโt correct or donโt matter. Learning all of that Iโd roll my eyes and be like โpsh, I know what an argument isโ
Fast forward and itโs insane how many people donโt use A&R. Often times it will be about points that everyone has some surface level knowledge about, so just bring up common comebacks and dispelling them outright can add so much integrity to your argument, and when people donโt do this it just makes me think they donโt know what theyโre talking about.
LawngClaw17 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:19:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โItโs better to have it and not need it, than to need it and not have it.โ
Basically realized this to be true after years of my mom telling me to bring a jacket when I thought I wouldnโt need one
Haylit ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:36:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โPeople come Into your life for a reason, a season, or forever.โ My dad told me this after I had to give away a dog I had grown really attached to. At the time it didnโt help and I was still sad but looking back itโs really good to keep in the back of your head.
Alaylaria ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:36:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It doesnโt work all the time, but demanding someone who has hiccups prove to you that they have them will get them to stop. If youโre lucky, you can even do it to yourself!
the-holy-shit ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:36:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought that talking about your problems would just make your problems worse. Kinda saw it as a waste of time. Wasnโt until I actually brought up what was bothering me and I felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. Nothing had been solved but just having that support from someone else really helped. Iโm never afraid or hesitant to ask for consolidation as I know that itโll make me feel better once Iโve discussed things
BierBerg1k ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:53:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drying myself with the towel while I'm still in the shower where it's warm and not when I'm outside where it's way colder.
HabitualLineStepping ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:57:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes!! So much more comfortable and toasty, I love it.
GlassPudding ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:53:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't be too proud to say you're sorry
SlytherinAhri ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:55:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad was studying psychology when I was little and one time he explained in depth to us how to tell if someone is lying, obviously brought on because we'd lied and he called us out lol.
I took it all with a grain of salt until my first live-in relationship took a turn for the worst when he was cheating, but being so sneaky about it that the only evidence I had was him acting weird. His eyes got darty and his voice octave would go up ever so slightly when he talked about her (or any chick he had a thing for) so I kept sleuthing around. Eventually I found out for sure because I found where she worked and bullied her into asking him out to lunch and I "coincidentally" showed up at the restaurant. He told me he was going to eat lunch with his dad when he left the apartment lol. Got to see all the messages after that. Thanks, dad.
lyraViola ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:20:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"If a kid throws a tantrum. Ask them to look at they're shoes, they will immediately stop to look at they're shoes."
I never used this knowledge until I started working in a kindergarten. A boy was throwing a big tantrum, screaming, crying, you name it. I couldn't get him to calm down no matter what I said. Then I remembered this and used it out of pure frustration and Boom, he gets quite immediately and slowly looks at his shows. Doesn't even answer my question, just looks quietly. After a few seconds he's ready to talk again. I used it a couple of times since then and it never fails.
stumpfucker69 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:23:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty much everything about CBT/DBT. Being depressed and cynical, the idea that I could make myself better by simply changing the way I thought about things seemed naive at best and kind of insulting at worst. The thing is, although CBT does seem simplistic (which is what irritated me about it initially), that doesn't mean to say it's easy - it's not a matter of just waking up one day and deciding not to be depressed any more and being like "oh wow, i'm cured!". It's about coping strategies, not cures, and it's like training โ something you have to work at constantly, every day, even when you don't feel like it, ESPECIALLY when you don't feel like it. And if you get good enough at it, it does get easier, and it is worth it.
donttrusttheaardvark ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:25:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ny baby niece was crying my mother told me to may her on her stomach hold her little ankles and firmly rub her back. I did and after 5 minutes she was a sleep. It works each time.
johnny_no_smiles ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:35:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink more water.
ChillWisdom ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:38:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do not take no for an answer from someone who's not qualified to give you a yes.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:40:04 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This was so well put. Thank you for this.
overtt ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:40:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs sometimes okay to fail.
PapADoseYo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:51:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont have the same day everyday.
timmyboy24 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:56:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shoot. Your. Shot.
jumpin-jimbeen ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:17:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buddy once told me, 'Never do two illegal things at once'. A good rule to have really.
lavalampmaster ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:22:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spend a couple minutes stretching in the morning
otimano96 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:24:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My ma always told me whenever I'm sad to smile to make yourself feel just a little better. I didn't believe her but now I do and it works everytime
takeallten ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:32:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If a friend of mine ever burnt himself he would cover it in mustard even though we always had burn gel in the first aid box. I thought he was daft until I tried it myself but the stuff works great!
Skootertotheankle ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:40:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shake the Galaxy S8 to fix its camera focus
grovethrone ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 18:40:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tell people (your boss, your friends your family) that you failed when you do. Don't try to cover up just throw it at them and don't apologize if you learned something valuable from it.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:09:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandfather uses to say โDrink the drink, donโt let the drink drink youโ Thought it was useless until I was most of the way through college when I realized the importance of it.
Negativefalsehoods ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:20:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look for a mate who shares your values, not by how hot they are.
generic_von_erich ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:25:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Truth. No one doesn't like having their ass kissed.
furious_dads ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 19:45:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have stomach cramps and are trying to poop but its super painful.... lift one buttcheek.
bingingwithboobish ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 21:23:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Dont cheap out on your shoes or tires, that's what keep you upright" -Grandmas advice
SlimThikkCeliac ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:09:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're not confident, fake it till you make it. I heard this all throughout the first half of high school and blew it off as a massive load of stupid BS perpetrated by preppy kids that wanted to seem nice by talking to the nerds, but halfway through my sophomore year, I decided I was done being a loser and started putting myself in situations where I would either have to be confident and social, or look like a total idiot reject not worthy of oxygen. In two years, I went from being the shy drama/ band nerd, to someone that wins state titles and school beauty pageants put on by the pretty popular kids. Just try it.
SHASTACOUNTY ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:10:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
to avoid stress and anxiety...do what you can do today..today.......that way you can go to sleep knowing you did all that you could.
DownWithTheShip ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:54:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"If you start cleaning you'll probably find what you're looking for."
My wife tells me this, and I often dismiss it. I gotta admit, probably 90% of the time when I clean, I find what i'm looking for. I can find it eventually if I don't clean, but it takes a lot longer.
CorpseApocalypse ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:06:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Don't trust anyone. All you get in return is pain and misery." It seems shitty advice but personally in my case I wish I used it earlier.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:09:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
faking confidence. iโve heard people say that, to get confidence, you can fake it and soon enough itโll become real. i always thought that was a dumb piece of advice but now itโs been 2 years and shit iโm more confident that i ever was before
DragonQueenLaur ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:18:31 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop making self-deprecating jokes
Many people claim self deprecating jokes are their way to deal with their depression/anxiety/other mental health issues, and I was one of those people too. Honestly, your brain believes what you say. When I was saying "Lol, no one likes me" "Haha, I'm just fat" "I'm trash" etc, I was literally feeding my anxiety and depression and just making everything so much worse in my head. I was talking to my therapist one day about this (I apologise, but I can't quite remember the conversation word for word, as my memory of that time is still very messed up), and she told me "DragonQueenLaur, every day when you wake up, after you brush your teeth, give yourself a compliment. And whenever you try to make a self-deprecating joke, say to yourself "No" and give yourself a compliment, or rephrase what you said to be positive instead." Seriously, this change in my mindset helped me more than words can express. Loving yourself and being kind to yourself are such important and powerful things, I'm so glad, and lucky, I was able to learn this (fairly) early on, before things got too bad. I recommend this technique to everyone, and almost every time, I am brushed off with a "Jokes are how I deal with things." At the end of the day, I have to just shrug and remind myself that I'm only responsible for myself and my happiness. But, if you make jokes like these, I urge you to try and compliment yourself (even if it's only in your head), instead. Be kind to yourself!
ThePlagueDocor10 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:39:13 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Half done is better than not done at all.
ratu1988 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:18:43 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a trade and not a degree
mutedcolors ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:26:42 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs easier to ask forgiveness than permission.
Be careful using it, but you can accomplish more and push the limits of whatโs possible by using it.
orinoco77 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:14:12 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Walk like youโre wearing a cape. Itโs weird, but it works. You might not feel particularly Super, but just imagine that cape and all sorts of subconscious things start to happen. Itโs another bit of advice that opens your chest and pushes your shoulders back, which always helps to project confidence. It straightens you up, generally. You look forward instead of at the floor. If you tell someone to imagine themselves as Superman all sorts of baggage gets in the way. If theyโre feeling down thereโs a resistance to imagining themselves as a powerful, in-control superhero, but imagining a cape? Thatโs a piece of cake.
PsyBomb ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:40:56 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What you take in becomes how you think. How you think becomes what you put out. This works in both directions.
Trying to get better at speaking clearly? Listen to music that is enunciated fully, read books where the characters talk without an accent, and when you catch yourself thinking with a stutter or slang, stop and correct your thoughts. It doesnโt take long to generate noticeable effect.
I did this to get myself used to thinking and speaking the right way for work, Iโve used it to get people on track in English classes. Consciously adjust your intake to adjust your output.
Total-Fiasco ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 15:41:16 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you're done using something, put it back. Used to have a couple of hours every couple weeks dedicated to tidying and cleaning my room. Now I got more free time.
who_likes_fridays ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 22:30:29 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Emotions can influence our decisions and judgments, so keep them in check. Don't completely destroy them, just keep an eye on them when deciding or judging on things.
Learned this in my critical thinking class in 6th grade. At the time, it was too boring to me.
[deleted] ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:46:45 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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tak1997 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:06:40 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Funny
ilovebaconmore ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:56:38 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont cry over milk that hasn't been spilled yet
ObviousNegotiation ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:04:46 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You will be ok.
It sounds cold when you hear it, because you don't want the advice. It always comes from someone your grandparent's age too, so it is really hard to hear.
I was told this advice when I lost my husband and it felt like my whole world shattered. When my Nan told me I'd be ok, I was mad. The advice was not what I wanted to hear and it felt like she was minimizing my pain. Well, she was 100% right, she had enough wisdom to know that I was not going to listen no matter how she sugar coated the truth and so she just said it.
I appreciate her bluntness now (9 years later) because it made me actually pull myself out of grief and look around. When you pay attention to your life and take care of yourself....well, you realize you actually will be ok.
Thanks Nan!!!
sneakybabe7 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:47:03 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โThere are plenty of fish in the sea. Just throw your hook back in.โ This statement is so overused that it seemed useless when people would say that after my now-ex and I broke up. He cheated on me with the girl he left for me, right after I got out of the mental hospital, and talked me into trying to kill myself again. I was found before I succeeded, obviously, and went back to the hospital for a week. I never wanted to be with anyone again until one day I found out that a super sweet guy liked me, so I thought โWhat the hell, why not?โ I โthrew my hook back inโ and gave him a chance. Been together for almost two years now.
HiZombies ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 20:20:35 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If youโre ever angry at someone take a deep breath and count down from 5, throw a punch on 2 no one expects it.
TOASTINATER111 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 04:05:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everytime you yell at your kid put a penny in the yelling sock and soon you'll have a weapon to beat them with
prolificity ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:46:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake confidence and security in your everyday life and social interactions until you feel it for real. This seriously turned my life around, made me like myself, and helped me show people what I had to offer.
Cher9969 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 06:37:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop giving a fuck works the same way as having confidence and security.
ferbz20 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:08:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont stress over something that hasn't happened. If it happens you stressed over it twice as much. If it doesn't happen, you didn't bother to stress over it anyway.
plethoralaura ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:27:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretend to be the person you want to be for long enough and soon enough you will be that person (talking about personality)
I was a super depressed emo kid and I wanted to be that wholesome girly happy person. I started dressing in tanktops meeting everyone with a smile and fake giggling and pretending to have fun with everything, soon enough I actually enjoyed life and wasn't faking it. I also actually liked those clothes
rebexca16ansell ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:32:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You should see a therapist." I hated any time it was suggested. My depression had shoved me so far up my own ass that i got so so angry when therapy was mentioned. I was very ignorant. Till one day i had a moment of clarity, fog cleared type shit, and i reached out. Its the best decision ive made for myself, ive been thankful ever since
kainaible ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 04:34:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise really does make you happier.
SadRobot111 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 07:26:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want to stop smoking, just stop putting cigarettes in your mouth and lighting them up.
If you want to stop eating junk food, stop buying it.
If you want to control some of your habits, break them down to the simplest element, so that it doesn't require any brain activity to manage. Make it so that it doesn't require any evaluation, just make a decision on how you want to go about it and accept it unconditionally. As soon as you let yourself judge the calls, you will surely find argument to do that bad thing again. Just don't let yourself think.
[deleted] ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 22:57:34 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
everything is better with a finger in the butt
InsaneLeader13 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:06:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I drive a manual. I need a hand on the wheel and one ready to go on the shifter at any moment. This ain't possible for me.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:53:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
get a frend
SinkTube ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:26:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
or sit on the shifter
goatcoat ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 23:04:40 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Since I started following this advice, it's completely eliminated my fear that I wasn't getting any benefit out of my prostate exams.
fwubglubbel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:22:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Except popcorn.
Jsweebs ยท 16 points ยท Posted at 01:43:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt be a dummy, cum on her tummy
boomheadshot7 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 01:09:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best replacement for confidence is fake confidence.
Cher9969 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:02:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Disagree. Itโs not giving a fuck.
milchtee ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:42:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt trust anyone but yourself.
Believe me, even your super close soulmate is still a separated individual you canโt control. Had to learn this very hard life lesson when my ex-boyfriend cheated on me with my ex-best friend I ran a business with who was our roommate too.
i-smell-pennies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:57:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ouch im sorry
JCHABS ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:29:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't work/study with your phone in the same room.
Seriously, it makes it so much easier to get stuff done. While working, I would convince myself I deserved a "break" and check Twitter, Reddit, etc. I would end up spending more time on my phone than on-task. Just try it, you'll find you are getting stuff done much quicker if you try and eliminate potential distractions.
bevardimus ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 04:50:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice try, Don from HR
habloconleche ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 03:16:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As I was leaving an Alice Cooper concert a security guard gave me a very detailed description of Frank Sharp's travel itinerary, which felt completely useless at the time. However, it ended up being extremely helpful a few days later and I was able to score a record deal for my girlfriend's band.
burton1826 ยท 15 points ยท Posted at 23:35:13 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Acid
battraman ยท 9 points ยท Posted at 01:07:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah vinegar will clean a lot of stuff.
NippleSalsa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:05:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, the time knife. What else?
Mossparkafterdark ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 22:42:05 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stick with the opposite
Wishyouamerry ยท 26 points ยท Posted at 23:59:28 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a tragically bad sense of direction. Recently I decided to stop fighting it. When I have to decide which way to go, I figure out which way I am 100% sure is the right way and then I go the other way. So far this method is actually working out really well!
angeliqu ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 00:08:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do something similar when I choose which Tupperware to put leftovers in. I decide which one I think will fit everything, and then choose one size smaller. Works every time. Know your own limitations, I say.
DirkBabypunch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:21:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Similar idea when seasoning food. If you think that's the right amount of salt, then you should probably add more.
weevil_season ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 00:58:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom is directionally dyslexic and Iโve told her the same thing .... it works remarkably well!
GrammerPants ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:30:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did this. Ended up with a new girlfriend, a job with the Yankees and a pretty nice apartment.
Cher9969 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:24:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You think itโs working? Or do you just think you are always wrong? If youโre always wrong, how do you know this is right? Stop betting against yourself. Fuck! Practice being right. Let everyone else tell you, you suck if they want but always be on your side.
pileofboats ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:43:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can do everything one thing at a time. I would get so overwhelmed with my endless lists of things to do. This mind set helped.
akashdas323 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:08:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never hesitate to ask a girl out.
DirkBabypunch ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:23:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
May as well, it's not like she can date you any less than she is now.
CDeats ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:13:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed each morning. just makes the day way easier to get started, makes coming home nicer and going to bed easy and relaxing.
renemarieeee ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:06:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking a second to breathe when Iโm anxious / overwhelmed.
Take a deep breath and count to 7. Exhale and hold for 10. Repeat until you feel calm. I swear by it. I know it sounds so clichรฉ and like โeh just relaxโ but it truly works for me.
velezaraptor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:11:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We were seeded from a planet with 30% more oxygen, so until we evolve a bit more, we actually need to absorb more O than whatโs normal. /s
Juggaliath ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fuck yeah it works ๐ช
Azuenz ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:11:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Start exercising if you're depressed. Didn't do it for years thinking it was bullshit but after I started and stuck with it I can handle life's problems so much better. Seriously, if you are depressed, just go on a jog a couple times a week. If you feel up to it, maybe even go lift some weight. After a week or two you will start feeling better. Just don't quit due to the initial soreness you get. That will go away eventually.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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satansbukkake ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:37:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm. I usually go every other day, and it makes me so much calmer
Melanie8740 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:51:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Vests. They changed my life. I used to think they were a sham (if you can wear a whole coat why not, right). But no. Vests are magical and keep me so warm.
chefmeow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:48:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I want to love vests. But my arms get so cold :(
Mysterious_Lesions ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 04:04:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't apologize at work for being late for a meeting or delivering a wrong result. Thank the others for their virtue of being patient. Turn your apology into their virtue.
Bodhamilla ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 07:51:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Salt and curry powder.
Always wondered how mum's cooking tasted so much better than mine. Turn out that's all cooking is.
In other news my blueberry muffins taste shit.
periander ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:36:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I reckon curried blueberries might actually go alright.
jaminalina ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:33:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listen to your body. If you want to cry:cry. If you need to lie down: lie down. If your leg hurts: dont use it.
I had a undiagnosed chronic disease and all my doctors kept telling me it was psychological and that I needed to exercise more. (This put me in a wheelchair.) It was only after I listened to my body and took things slowly that I noticed an improvement. I now hardly ever need to use my stick and can usually walk up stairs by myself!
Pizzacanzone ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:31:47 on May 17, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It makes me so angry that doctors take chronic fatigue so not seriously. I'm glad to hear you have found a way to improve your quality of life!
AdamHLG ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 01:26:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listening to your mother.
Xyberfaust ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:03:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gotta disagree vehemently.
LookinAssMuthafucka ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 06:03:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a buttplug. Trust me, I thought it was kinda gay at first. but my dad convinced me and now, I wonโt leave the house without one.
alucardleashed ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:08:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why? What's the benefit?
Toxiic115 ยท 10 points ยท Posted at 01:34:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It doesnโt matter what you do, you die in the end and no one remembers you.
signlounge ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:42:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can remember at least one person who has died, therefore, you are wrong.
HeavyPettingBlackout ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:02:50 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But when you die, the memory of the dead person dies with you.
signlounge ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:40:10 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I also remember people like St Bartholomew
ailqche ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:17:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Working out.
I_POWER_BOTTOM ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:22:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buttplugging reduces anxiety and stress
boatplugs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:02:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What about Boatplugging?
L6fty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:38:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Username checks out
crumstick22 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:38:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lmao
probably-a-weeb ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:44:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
smiling.
godofimagination ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:45:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything my mother says.
Digict ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:53:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Save money.
Alex3324 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:05:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reboot the computer when you have an issue with something.
Jdpjonatthan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:06:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rubbing urine on your face gets rid of acne. For those who are willing to try anything to get rid of acne like I was. An old man told me that rubbing a wet baby diaper was an old cure for acne. I put two and two together. For more specific directions get in shower, pee on hands, rub face with hands, wait 30-60 seconds rinse off. Wash with regular soap. Had no acne in a week doing it everyday. Then just used as needed. It worked for me when nothing else would. For those that need it your welcome in advance.
i-smell-pennies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:21:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That doesn't sound right. My motto is if it goes out of the body it stays out of the body.
L6fty ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 01:40:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm genuinely scared to try this
Vine969 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:10:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going to AA
Excendence ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:19:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Opening the back of a beer/soda can box and pushing all of the cans through :)
EasyRider78 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:37:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm rarely ever successful with that method. I find that the cans tend to fall over as I'm pushing them out.
I tend to open the front and back of the box and then hold the cans in place with my hand while pulling the box out of the fridge. Works every time.
Excendence ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:50:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That's what I do, and more what I meant to type! Didn't think anyone would end up reading my comment haha~
SilvanaMM ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:26:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Saitama's exercise rutine, i started it two weeks ago and i actually lost a lot of weight
crisken ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:26:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How hard is it?
SilvanaMM ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:29:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really fucking hard, i don't even do the correct rutine but still works pretty well. The original rutine is to do 100 push-ups, 100 sit-ups, 100 squats and to run 10 km every single day. I do half the rutine and remove the running part because my neighborhood is pretty dangerous
minus9 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:26:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try jiggling the handle.
JGTalks ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:32:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holding your finger right above your nose to help clear your nose. I never thought I would use it until I was in the allergy season. I'm not particularly allergic to pollen but this year was horrible. I had to blow my noselike a trumpet and do other things. I remembered the video I had saw and decided to try it. After about 30-50 seconds I could breath. It felt great ๐.
MoonStarRaven ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:40:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holding your finger right above your nose? Where, how? You don't happen to remember where you saw the video do you? Asking as someone with a perpetually stuffy nose.
JGTalks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This may seem odd, but Ive seen it on a youtube video. I'm not the person to believe in everything on the internet, so I was pretty skeptical about this. I apolagise for not knowing the title but if I see the video I will let you know. Though, if you can, search up how to treat a stuffy nose. Just thought this may help.
JiveTurkeyMFer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:34:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat a teaspoon of sugar to instantly get rid of the hiccups.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:35:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Listen to your gut. Especially if your gut keeps shouting at you, over and over, and you're ignoring it".
Helps me stay full and sane.
Revircs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:36:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're feeling down, clean your room or car. Feels a lot less shitty being sad in a clean environment.
datadamage ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:40:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When trying to find the true cause of a problem, ask why seven times.
meatshieldjim ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:42:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just go open your mouth and see what comes out
InsaneLeader13 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:09:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Air. Air came out. I guess I can push my tongue out also.
No like seriously. I don't get what this is supposed to mean and I'm sick of looking like an idiot in the bathroom mirror. Please elaborate.
Cher9969 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:14:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt be shy? Maybe?
DirkBabypunch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:26:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jimmy Carr jokes at work. Got lucky that it wasn't Frankie Boyle.
gab3zila ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:52:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"keep your hands off your face and stop picking" when i came to pimples. i had a horrible acne problem from middle school to my sophomore year in college, but once I kept my hands off my face everything started to clear up
FlipNog ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:05:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To procrastinate less, you can give yourself small rewards for 10, 20, 30 minutes of work, it actually helped.
Wile-E-Coyote ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:11:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do something similar for housework. I'll set 1 task and then give myself 15-30 mins to do whatever depending on how long it took, then do another one. This house gets to be a mess with 3 working adults living here so it can seem daunting if done all in 1 go but breaking it up on a day off I can get it all done it it still seemed like a rather relaxing day off.
jay2puggle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:07:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go 24 hours without complaining.
dedzip ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:35:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No
jay2puggle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:36:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
failed
i-smell-pennies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:17:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
heheh complainers
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:07:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it till you make it.
wish_to_conquer_pain ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:07:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The best way to start feeling like you want to do something is to just do it. Build the habit and the feeling comes with it.
Indaflow ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:08:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reddit
dedzip ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:34:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Y e e s
faithisokay ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:08:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake smile until you're actually happy
surachinen ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:08:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it till you make it
naoihe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:09:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake your confidence until itโs real.
As it turns out, pretending to know what Iโm doing is a huge confidence booster.
dedzip ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:33:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I did this on a plane once after the pilot passed out
once
MightHaveSharted ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:10:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing in your nose and out your mouth to avoid throwing up when you feel queasy.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:10:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left
BadMoodJones ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:11:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
eating hot food in hot weather.
I thought it was stupid at first but it actually kinda makes sense
makzter ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:11:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turning it on and off again.
Sherirk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:20:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being an student of telecommunications, I have to say, it's way too good of an advice. Most times it should not work, and everytime it works you feel relieved and stressed for not knowing what solved it.
AltSpRkBunny ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:12:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When youโre aiming at something, take a breath as you get set, then let it out as you release.
Works for billiards, shooting guns or arrows, throwing a ball, shooting marbles, bowling, darts, all kinds of things that required accurate hand-eye coordination.
I thought it was stupid as a kid, because of course I have to breathe! But that wasnโt the point of the exercise.
Anandya ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:13:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you wake up? Make your bed...
Like it makes you move around so you are less likely to stay in bed, your room looks good so you want to keep it clean and you are up and about and not fucking about sleeping.
LeMeGetUh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:13:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โ why donโt you take your own advice ?โ
omegalps ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:13:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it till you make it
Jibbajabberwocky ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:14:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt buy cheap shoes.
NO_SPACE_B4_COMMA ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:14:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't push when you poop
be-ar_boi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:14:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting outside, talking to others, eating right, and exercising. To think that I could've been so much happier if I just stopped being a little shit and actually listened to others.
iHookaLab ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:15:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never argue with a moron.
DukeNukem111111 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:15:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Washing your face at night. I thought it was unnecessary as i would shower in the mornings.
LOLitsSpAcEjEsUs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:18:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy Cake day and washing your face is always a good thing to do.
henryriver ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:17:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If youโre sad or depressed, go volunteer - meals on wheels, soup kitchen, sit with an elder at a rehab center....it will take your mind off your troubles and give you perspective about your own issues.
faousa ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:17:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mother has always been pestering me to eat better. Teenage me would roll my eyes because she kept saying it like it would solve most of my problems.
Adult me came to realize she was absolutely correct when a nutrition switch to healthy foods eliminated most of my physical and mental health issues...
8-bit-eyes ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:17:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In all honesty, clean my room
xthatguy339x ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:18:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking water when you feel dizzy and sick to your stomach.
moby323 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:19:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When using the fob for your car, if you are out of range put the fob up against your head then push the button.
It actually works, i think mythbusters even proved it.
sweet_feet90 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:19:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listen more, talk less.
H0n3yb4dg3r69 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:19:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWatch Game of Thronesโ
msfjarvis ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:19:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read the instructions
HeathenMama541 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:20:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โDrink more waterโ
Anthoz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:23:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Let go.
Florgio ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:24:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you wake up in the middle of the night, before you turn on the light, cover up one of your eyes. That way, when you turn the light back off you uncover your eye and itโs already adjusted and can see perfectly.
chicagotim1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:24:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trying to lose weight? Trying eating a little less
garbatater ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:25:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking the shells off hard boiled eggs by shaking them in a jar half filled with water.
GreyJeanix ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:25:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise really does help manage depression, (along with all its other benefits).
Also, you are 100% responsible for your own feelings. That was probably the hardest piece of advice to follow but it did help me to get better control over how I react to things instead of being at the whim of every negative emotion.
tylikesfries ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:25:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was depressed my I ended up kinda half venting to my old man (super fricken nice and sweet) bus driver about how I hated myself (in a self hurting jokish way) and about how i didn't like my body. He told me to look in the mirror EVERY morning and tell myself that i'm good, and everything will be ok.
I'm SUPER pessimist and actually hate looking at myself since I don't think my face is me. So I got up the next morning and sarcastically and in a dead tone say "its gonna be ok... i guess"
However it started working out. I had a moment of realization some day close to then that i WANT to get better. So that was my start. I didn't look at my face but I told myself I look good. Its gonna be ok. I started having better days and am actually doing a lot better now. I wanna thank him a lot but a bit too nervous to admit it after telling him it "wouldn't help" hehe.
IISinII ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:25:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer.
Ingury ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:27:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having trouble landing a solid high-five with your pals? Look at each otherโs elbows while swinging and youโll never miss.
Sounded like baloney to me but I tried it with a friend we made very satisfying contact.
Will3chols ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:28:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm sure Iโm the 80 millionth person to say it, but talking to โherโ is so much easier after you just say โhiโ for the fist time
natralala ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:30:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Fake it Till You Become It". My interpersonal communication professor showed us an Amy Cuddy TED talk about power posing, and how posing in a confident way can actually affect your mood. I thought it was all BS until I had a huge presentation in another class. I power posed in the bathroom beforehand and the professor told me I had the best presentation when class was over (I have pretty bad social anxiety, especially when it comes to public speaking). Body language affects way more than most people think.
TDE00 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:30:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keeping a diary.
I know itโs well known to have positive effects, but it actually is a ton more fun to do than I ever thought it wouldโve been. I give myself about half an hour every night to just talk about my day, and itโs really nice. Plus itโs nice to look back at past entries and be reminded of how I felt when writing it.
RobinFox12 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:03:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hell yeah. Gotta endorse diaries here. Iโve been keeping one since February of this year and itโs been great so far. The toughest part is getting myself to write, even if Iโm super tired.
TDE00 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:06:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What the heck. I started mine in February of this year too. Feb 8th to be precise. And often I make my entries late at night. So Iโve fallen asleep while making an entry a few times. Lol
RobinFox12 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:07:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt remember the exact date for me. Iโll have to look but I know it was later. Any advice for someone having trouble committing to writing entries consistently?
TDE00 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:11:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The main thing I really do is just write what I want to. Just write what comes to mind. That just happens to be writing about my day, mostly, but if you get off track and start rambling just go with it. Thatโs what makes it nice, you literally donโt have to follow any rules with it.
And I tend to do it at around the same time every night. I just look at the clock and see that itโs 12:30, and stop what Iโm doing and just write. I give myself half an hour usually.
RobinFox12 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:14:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I canโt agree with you more. Writing with no lens or plan ahead of time makes for some great trains of thought. Writing without limitations makes a sort of conversational connection between the reader and writer (both are usually past me and present me). Iโll take your advice and set aside a designated writing time. I usually do it whenever I like and sometimes I forget or slack off.
TDE00 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:20:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yep. One thing Iโm often told is I can convey emotion into text very easily, and itโs super interesting rereading my past entries and being able to feel exactly how I felt.
I actually have my diary on my phone, and I use this app called PenCake. I think itโs nice for a lot of reasons, but whatโs especially great is you can make it password protected. Like it literally takes a password to open the app. Itโs free too.
RobinFox12 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:21:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think Iโm only good at conveying emotion to myself lol. Thanks for the suggestion. I had just been using a google drive folder and documents.
BoniBoy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:31:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Late to this party but my dad told me don't eat at your computer or your keyboard will start to look like your dinner plate.
dustinthewind55 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:31:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Work smarter, not harder.
alamperwira89 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:32:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
don't put it down. put it away.
ghostbuster83 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:33:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mix hot sauce with syrup for waffles.
RobinFox12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:00:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The second option would be not doing that
clahey ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:34:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slow is steady. Steady is fast.
Whenever I find myself rushing through something and making mistakes I slow down and get it done faster than I would have otherwise.
OatmealGoth ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:34:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink water. Do it.
Dialga236 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:34:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Tell the girl your talking to online to send a pic of them touching their ear with their pinky finger"
RobinFox12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:59:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mix it up though. The cybergirls could catch on to the secret code and take these pictures of themselves.
MadDogFargo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:34:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Vote.
RobinFox12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:58:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
You thought that was useless advice?
Edit: Oops I wrote this when I was tired. I originally had useful.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:34:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dust everything at least once a week
Didnโt learn this lesson throughout high school and the first year of college. Iโm leaving my apartment this week and Iโm having the worst allergies because of dust all over the room
NarWarMonkey ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:34:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Complete a task every morning. Doing little things like making your bed starts you off productively and puts you on a roll
jstucco ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:34:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep your eye on the ball. Literally, it makes hitting and catching a ball so much easier if you are watching the ball as it approaches. Itโs like your body just knows how to swing your arms to intercept what you are looking at.
mrfitzmonster ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:35:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had knee surgery and my knee was pretty painful afterwards. I was up to 6 oxy a shot and it was doing next to nothing for the knee pain. Went to the Dr. and he says "try taking an anti-inflammatory, like Aleve". I thought, yeah right. Took two and the pain went away like magic. Stopped the oxy that day.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:36:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation has changed my life
hikingmutherfucker ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:39:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh shit it sounds so full of shit new wave right? But do it every day just to get your head straight before your day or after a stressful fuck you day and suddenly you go why in the fuck isn't this part of everyone's routine.
Purple_bastard69 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:36:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saying โHelloโ can open so many doors
NicholasClarke ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:36:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Way too late to this but establishing a routine when you're depressed. I didn't see how making my bed or waking up at the same time every day would actually make an impact on my mood but the consistency of a routine added stability to my life that was desperately needed.
GoldenWoomy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:37:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breath in through your nose and out your mouth. When I was a young tornado, my mom would always tell me to do that breathing technique. But of course, as a stubborn the brat I was, I never did it. But now, with anxiety increased from school and general life, I now do that technique and damn it does it work.
4doppleganger_fanger ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:38:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Move your wrists around more if you have a desk job! My yoga teacher told me to do wrist circles daily because I was telling her how sore my wrists were. I thought she was crazy and that was too simplistic for this very serious medical problem I had. Nope, just needed to move them!
TheArchitect_7 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:39:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only do one illegal thing at a time. Never two at once.
garyzxcv ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:39:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you get out what you put in
brylikestrees ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:39:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Positive thinking. I was an extremely pessimistic person for YEARS and only recently have discovered how different my subjective experience interacting with my environment is with positive framing.
teethfreak1992 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:39:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cut out dairy to clear my acne.
I'm 27 and was still breaking out a lot 2 years ago. I was annoyed because I'm an adult and I thought my skin would clear up. My coworker told me to cut out dairy and I thought was just another "no greasy foods, no chocolate" but I tried it (no milk, ice cream, yogurt. I still have a little cheese and things cooked with dairy) and bam, my skin really improved. It's been 2 years and still going strong. Whenever I slip up, my face breaks out.
StewofPuppies ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:39:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking a few deep breaths
dejaime ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:40:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Workout. 7y in, and regret not starting a bit sooner.
zchisawesome ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:40:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โGet a lifeโ
ehtcollective ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:40:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โEnjoy life while youโre youngโ
Satins_receptionist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:52:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trying but this crippling anxiety and health condition is making that kinda hard chief
ehtcollective ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:28:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I meant like child young lol
Satins_receptionist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:29:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well legally Iโm still a child ๐
tnegocsole ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:40:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds really off topic maybe , but actually putting a timer for two minutes when brushing my teeth. I always felt that the timer was โuselessโ , but more just being a timer for other things I guess... I sound like a idiot.
RobinFox12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always brush my teeth for too short a time. I need to remember to do this.
Vozz27 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:41:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When losing weight, just make little changes to your diet.
It helped me so much, first I added a banana to my lunch at work, then I've started drinking a protein shake in the morning. It helped me so much & I didn't get tired of eating/drinking those healthy things.
ofqueensandbitches ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:41:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Grow a thick skin
Tikao ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:42:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Growing the fuck up.
BigOlSasauge ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:42:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โAlways give a day to yourself if possibleโ- My Uncle. It really helps my mental health just having that day where Iโm not doing any work and I donโt have to worry about anything for just that day
not_old_redditor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:43:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stretching. Night and day for an athlete.
Unyielding_River ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:43:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Love yo'self
Ivoboo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:44:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation- itโs wild how much it actually grounds & calms me.
Nalasmama ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:45:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learn to have healthy coping mechanisms. Instead of going into a downward spiral focus your energy on things that are good for you like cleaning your space, getting out to do some exercise or spending time with people you love. I always thought I could only soothe myself through isolation and self sabotage until I started focusing on working out and cleaning and masking healthy meals when I could feel my depression getting bad and the results have been incredible. Anytime I feel sad I can look at how much weight Iโve lost (20 lbs) how cute and nicely decorated my room is now and how Iโve been able to open up more and I feel more motivated to keep going.
nnnalorac ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:45:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking deep breaths to calm down
Orrn990 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:45:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Throw ice cubes in the dryer and your clothes come out wrinkle-free! It works!
blueasian0682 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:45:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had throat inflammation, i could not stop coughing for days and probably a week to the point that i started wheezing hard, my housemate suggests that i try leaning to the left when sleeping on the bed, then i tried that for 3 days straight and it got better, something about your stomach acid not reaching your throat if you lean to your left? Idk.
RaisingCain2016 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:35:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is actually advice I got when I was pregnant. The esophagus comes out of the right side of the stomach and up your throat. If you lay on the left, there's less of a chance for stomach acid to breach the opening and travel up the esophagus. Saved me many nights of unneeded heartburn.
Elitedongwaffle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:45:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Twirling my spaghetti anti-clockwise on the fork. I thought what the fuck you talking about, but she was right. It stays on the fork better. Ex-wife now though.
FingolfinKing ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:45:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat an orange in the shower.
ScruffyJeezus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:45:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Control your breathing. I use to swim and I guess I heard this a lot but was like whatever, I'll get better as I practice. I was always gassed just from warming up though until one day it was pretty intense and I tried to focus on my breathing, then bam, I wasn't tired anymore from things like just warming up.
imawizardslp87 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:45:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is definitely gross but it almost always stops a cold in its tracks and yes whole raw cloves.
llamaloverx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:46:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Prepare for the worst, and hope for the best. I was told this at such a young age but it stuck with me. Whenever my mother made plans with me, I would be so excited, but then she would bail last minute. I learned to always expect something to go wrong, but always enjoy the moment when it went accordingly. It has made me into a more positive person that can enjoy life and whatever it may bring.
dragoonts ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:46:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deep. Breaths. In for a count of 5. Out for a count of 8. Slow. Down.
oniwuff ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:46:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An ex of mine didn't believe "squinting" would improve your vision slightly.. needless to say, at some point in our relationship did he finally attempt it and felt dumb for making other ppl feel dumb about it.
jschreifels20 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:46:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wank before spank
jillyy666 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:46:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always expect the worst. That way, if the worst thing that could happen actually happens, you're mentally prepared for it. And if anything better than the worst happens, you're instantly in a better mood because you were expecting the worst.
bisteot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A better for me is hope for the best, plan for the worst
hdheepoo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:48:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being comfortable with being uncomfortable
MrChucklz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:49:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deep breaths
DementedMK ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:50:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you need to do something, tell yourself โin 6 seconds Iโll do itโ and count down from 6. I donโt know why it works but it really does in my experience
WonderThot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:50:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Either put left contact in first then right or vice versa. Don't switch because then you'll mess up your contact prescription if your eyes are different.
This work wonders when I was learning how to use contacts in high school and couldn't see where I put my contacts.
Never mixed them up since.
bishdoe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:50:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just take a second and look at nature sometimes.
My buddy told me this when we talked about my depression at the time and my first response was basically โthanks Iโm curedโ but then I actually did it when I would be walking to a lecture or something and holy shit that actually helped a lot in the long run. Initially I felt like a fool for just looking up at the trees when everyone else either looked straight forward or at the ground but after a little bit I started getting into it and now Iโve got a real love of nature and a distinct lack of depression. Sometimes I just go outside and look at plants now and itโs pretty much the highlight of my week
niconicotrash ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:51:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When youโve lost something and canโt find it no matter how much you try and think, look in the places you donโt think itโll be.
Looking where you think it may be and retracing your steps is a good start, but if youโve already done that a couple of times itโs more likely to be somewhere you wonโt have thought of. Do the silly thing of checking the fridge for your keys or under the bath mat for your wallet.
Even if itโs not there by taking your mindset away from being caught up in how you canโt find it, youโre more likely to remember bits of information that will help you.
Shawaii ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:51:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never trust a fart.
Never waste an erection.
Never pass a urinal without using it.
Told to me by my 80+ year old manager many years ago. I didn't realise, then, how valuable these words of wisdom were. The older I get, the more I relate.
redstone851 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:52:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If something takes less than 2 minutes to do, do it right away. Really helped me complete the smaller tasks so I could move onto the big ones.
ludanto ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:52:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try new things.
I used to get so annoyed when people would tell me this. "I don't want to try new things, I like the things I already know." Thing is, every thing I like was once a new thing. Since I've started trying new things, I've discovered many new foods and activities that I love. You don't have to continue to do the new thing, you just have to try it.
MichuV5 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:52:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean your own room.
Like, I feel physicaly better but also my mimdset is a lot healthier when I have some order around.
Drink water after you are done with vodka.
I have pretty weak stomach so I was sure that it would cause me to throw up. But I had almost no hangover after I tried
YourRoyalBadness ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:53:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always let a cooler head prevail. Nobody does their best thinking in a state of high emotions
Peaceful_tea ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:53:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not my business of what others think of me.
Schnitzngigglez ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:53:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holding your keyfob to your tooth will increase its signal to work from farther away.
balderdashone ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:54:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worrying just means you suffer twice
thisguyknowswhtsup ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:55:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smell it before you fuck it.
demalition90 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:55:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't be afraid of breaking something. Trust that there's enough talent in your body or information online or smart people to turn to that whatever you break can be fixed.
You can learn so much by just poking around and exploring, but too often people will leave it be because they don't want to mess anything up. This applies to computers, cars, relationships, houses, anything really.
ThankYouMrBen ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:56:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it โtil you make it.
As a clinically diagnosed depressed person, I hated this advice. I canโt just will myself better.
But then, as a last resort, I tried it. It made a huge difference.
Rimbosity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:56:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Give your son ADD medication."
Fellow parents, let me give you some hard-earned learning.
ADD is both over-diagnosed and under-diagnosed, because people -- including yours truly, as of ten years ago -- don't really understand it.
The key point is that people with ADD don't have a problem with focusing, but they have a problem with being able to direct their focus. Being so focused that they don't notice that the building is on fire is as much a symptom as not being able to focus on their schoolwork.
And it's a truly devastating disability.
Its cause is physical, which is why treating the body with a good diet, healthy exercise and yes, medication, works. Stimulants raise the amount of two chemicals in the body that ADD people don't have enough of.
If you have ADD, don't be afraid to medicate.
Build68 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:57:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do a sleep study. Sleep apnea, and now that i have the magic breathing machine, so much more energy.
NotUrJes ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:57:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put it in rice ...I dropped my phone on water my mom said put it in rice and it fuckin worked
MeFromNowhere ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:58:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smile, it will make you happier.
C_Circuit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:58:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have seen Things on making your bed before you leave your house makes you feel better when you get home.I tried it and after a long day just laid on my bed not worrying about getting my mattress covers dirty is pretty nice.
engineer399 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:58:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always use the smaller Tupperware.
Thanks Aunt Francis.
rikketakera ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:58:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โHealthy eating, proper sleep and exercise will help your anxiety and depressionโ.
Annoying. But yes, yes it did.
TheyCallMeShitHead ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:58:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know if this applies to trying it, but my dad is a very talented and smart man when it comes to hands on things. Electrical, carpentry, mechanical, etc. He does it all and is well known for it in my home town. I remember once when I was about 13 I was helping him with a job, and I wired everything backwards. So as soon as we threw the breaker it tripped. I was so embarrassed. He told me, "If you never make mistakes you never learn anything ". And that has stuck with me to this day. Anytime I go to do something new and I start worrying about making a mistake I remember that.
It's not useless, but it's so simple and true.
ozzie5335 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:59:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
On a life hack thing it said if you close one eye then look at your nose itll not feel like it's there anymore and I thought this was fake but when I got something in my eye and di that it worked
genuinefaker ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:01:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't knock until you try it.
Reager11 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:01:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a cramp, eat a drop of mustard. I didn't believe my grandma when she said it, but I tried it and it worked.
mermadeline ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:01:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Have you tried turning it off and on?"
shirethea ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:03:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Paying attention to my breathing
Hallucion ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:06:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Treat a fuck up as a learning experience
Odd_craving ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:06:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wipe until the poo is gone.
your-robot-overlord ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:07:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slowing your breathing and practicing deep breathing when youโre anxious, having an anxiety attack or are otherwise worked up. I used to roll my eyes all the time about it (apparently so did my therapist) until I (same for my therapist) found out that there is actually a scientific basis for it.
Juggaliath ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:12:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
4-7-8 is a beautiful breathing exercise, look it up by Dr.Andrew Weil.
It's helped my recovery ten fold.
sweadle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:15:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also try washing your face with cold water. We have a reflex to hold our breath and then breath normally when our face hits water. It can resume normal breathing.
A cold shower does the same trick. Cold enough that it makes you catch your breath.
NJ_state_of_mind ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:07:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it until you make it
eotabby ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:08:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To retry foods that I didnโt like when I was younger. I used to hate avocado, crab, coffee, and burgers that had anything on them except ketchup. All the wasted years...
jlk422 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:08:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โDonโt sweat the small stuff.โ Easier said than done, but lovely advice from my favorite high school teacher.
Mac_N_Choices ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:09:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Washing the windows with newspaper and windex. Idk who showed me, but my first reaction was "wtf." It cleans it with ZERO streaks!
CwTano ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:10:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mayonnaise on a Philly cheesesteak
moosecatoe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:10:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ladies, always wipe front to back. (Even if twisting hurts your back. Itโs better than a UTI!)
Valasta_Bloodrunner ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:11:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking a large glass of water first thing every day, holy hell it makes a huge difference in my mood and energy levels.
nutjoke ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:12:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise and sunlight will help with depression.
TrickiNicki92 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:13:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop fighting your hair. Hear me out.
I spent up until about a year ago doing everything I could to take what is commonly referred to as "my hair", but is actually a biologically independent being that gets smarter the more you mess with it. It can and will retaliate at every opportunity. I finally went to a stylist who GETS IT. She helped me find a low-maintenance style and cut I could work with, not against. No more blow dryers or straighteners or frizzballs on my head.
It's just so much easier and I'm SO much more confident. Feeling better about myself has made me kinder and more approachable, as well.
Not to mention the money and time I save on products and doing battle on the daily. Spritz of leave in conditioner, and I'm good to go. (I know not everyone can afford a stylist-I go maybe twice a year since budgets are a thing. But her daughter is a friend of ours and has given me a cut as a gift for birthdays/Christmas so we've been really lucky. A typical cut and color for me clocks in around $140 with a big tip because I love Jenny and I have A TON of hair.)
Thank you, Jenny. I OWE MY SANITY TO YOU.
P.S. Tip your stylist. Be good to your stylist. Love your stylist. They will always take care of you.
by_whom ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:15:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A bit late, but someone once told me if I'm in a tough situation that's getting to me, I should loudly and fabulously declare:
Bow chicka wow wow
Which is advice I ignored for a long time. Until a tried it. And it does an excellent job of reminding me not to take myself too seriously.
notanumbrellaistaken ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:15:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat a good breakfast. Sure it takes an extra twenty minutes in the morning, but fuck it will change your whole day
DingJones ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:16:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The high five elbow technique. It works.
beaplagg ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:16:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not drinking coffee (any coffee, including decaf) or highly caffeinated drinks, like energy drinks or sodas, in excess or at all. Personally, I don't drink coffee or energy drinks period, and then soda only occasionally, but even just cutting down on these things helps you so much. I know lots of people say they rely on coffee to wake themselves up, but that's honestly really not healthy. I would even venter to say that it could be addictive...but that's not for me to determine.
I thought that it wasn't a big deal, but I can honestly tell the difference in how I act and feel after drinking caffeine as opposed to how I felt before.
sullythered ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:16:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditate daily.
Eli1026 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:17:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I have trouble relaxing I listen to "weightless" by Marconi union. It plays for a solid 10 hours when using YouTube. I usually end up calling asleep.
Another thing that helps me fall asleep is turning on Forensic Files. That narrators voice just does the trick.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:19:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Stop spending your money and save it."
sheevzzz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:22:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Networking
Doodie_Whompus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:24:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โYou can use a plunger to pop a dent out of your carโ.... turns out, it works !
My_Name_Is_Not_Ryan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:25:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your grilled cheese with mayo in place of butter. Life changing.
Avlonnic2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So the mayo side goes in the pan?
My_Name_Is_Not_Ryan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:48:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly.
inlandaussie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:25:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keto
nateg452 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:26:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"If they're crabby put them in water." Never really paid attention to it till one day my firstborn wouldn't stop crying because he was sick. Only thing that could give him some peace (and me.). It's worked miracles for my other 2 ever since.
StvnPdx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:27:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking a spoon to ginger. I thought they were messing with me at first. Peeled away like a dream....then I felt dumb
spunkychickpea ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:27:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is going to sound dumb, but here it goes:
First thing in the morning, say out loud something that you like about yourself. You have to actually say it, and it canโt be something youโve said in the last week. As an example, this morning I said โI like that making people laugh comes naturally to me.โ
I donโt know if thereโs any science to it, but being that itโs the first thing I say and the first thing I hear every morning, it kinda sets the tone for the day. Youโd be amazed how such a little thing makes your day significantly better.
Almost_Mature ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:29:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you donโt already, drink more water. Not kidding and not trying to make a slot for someone to reference waterniggas. Being hydrated affects all aspects of your life. If youโve gotten used to living life partially dehydrated, you will be a new person. Especially how much better your sleep is.
doughnutholio ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:31:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dad: "Can't fall asleep? Try closing your eyes even though you're not sleepy."
You: "Pshh... that sounds dumb. Ugh, fine."
[20 seconds later]
ZZzZZzZZZzZzz
NotaSquirrel3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:32:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never procrastinate. You will have more free time
quicknerd___ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:32:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do your work.
poodlepalooza ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:34:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was exceedingly self deprecating. A defense mechanism for sure. But a "cool' friend once said "do you think I'm cool and would I hang out with you if you were such a loser? Stop it." So the advice is not to downgrade yourself to others. Be real, but realize your strengths along with your weaknesses.
gaykravitzz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:34:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it โtil you make it. Itโs done amazing things for my self-esteem.
goldfishpaws ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:40:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Acting like a confident person makes people react to you as a confident person, making you become a confident person.
katch_22 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:34:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
watch your breath for extended periods of time.
GoofusGoaT ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:34:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When opening tight bottles of like salsa or something hit the top edges on the counter and then slap the bottom.
Jeyonhunter ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:35:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
clean little things throughout the day instead of everything at once
teethandteeth ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:36:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A. Tape a piece of paper over your graphics tablet to get used to the texture, makes it feel so much better and
B. Write out answers to math problems like essays, with your reasoning worded out and stuff. Sounds weird and laborious (it is), but it got my math grades from C's to A's like magic. My math teacher told us to do that in 9th grade and it took me until almost 12th to try it...
Avlonnic2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:39:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs a marked improvement. Thanks.
MordSithVictoria ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:37:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat a banana when you're ridiculously hung over.
NormalDAHL ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:37:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
dont stick your dick in crazy
AnimaTori ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:37:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Find the shapes in your artwork.
I've always had issues drawing people, and never really managed to "find the shapes" for some reason. People always use boxes and hourglasses, but I found a thing on Google that was literally just body shapes drawn a specific way. I started by copying one of the easier body shapes down, and realized holy shit this is how to do it and now I can draw people (albeit not the best people, but at least semi-realistic)
Next, the unconventional way to learn to shade!
Jacopotato ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:37:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Socializing is good for you.
EvilBiscuitt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:38:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep a journal and write down major events in my life. I have a tendency to get embarrassed over things I shouldn't and to bottle up all my other emotions until I explode. I've learned that writing things down helps me to release my emotions at a more convenient time than waiting until I explode, and with embarrassing things, I feel like reading what I wrote really helps me to see how ridiculous it is that I feel embarrassed and move on.
Requiem2247 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:38:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad told me that I decide whether or not I'm happy. That sounded so stupid because there's all these outside factors that really fuck with me and will turn my whole day to shit. Once I grew the fuck up, I realized I was letting little shit get to me and keep me from appreciating the fact that I'm living life. All I needed to do was decide that no matter what, I was going to have a good day. Some days it's harder than others, but I always go to bed happy and wake up ready for the day.
Serer_vermilion ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:38:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sorting by new on Reddit, At first thought, it would be useless along with the sorting by new meme until I realized I kept getting the same threads over and over again. Now I found a lot of interesting post from my favorite boards.
P.S. This thread was on the top of my list when I got on.
chiggywiggy90 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:39:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
time heals everything and desperation for love is not a good thing at all.
yayraeyae ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:39:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going to bed and waking up at the same time each day. It was really hard at first, just laying there unable to sleep but once my body adjusted it helped reduce my stress and also my nights sleep leaves me feeling fully rested.
lolitasmile ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:41:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Squeeze your thumbs when you put something in your mouth that touches your uvula. (e.g, toothbrush, footlong sandwiches) No gag reflex!
Madiposa ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:42:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lay the baby down when sheโs still awake
shazam99301 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:42:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can get rid of hiccups by drinking a glass of water upside down. No, dumbass you don't need to do a handstand, just bend over and with your head upside down, drink from the opposite side of the cup.
itachixsasuke ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:42:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Form a habit or many (whatever) and stick to it
SFWmmnuc3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:42:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking more water. I always thought it was b.s... as I drank tons of Mtn Dew to try and stay awake.
Water really does help. I currently drink about 4 liters of water per day on gym days, and 2.5-3 on my off days.
Juulhelmus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:52:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please notice that you can drink to much water. Consult your doctor about a healthy amount of water.
SFWmmnuc3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:17:29 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In my experience, doctors are the worst people to ask for dietary advice. They get minimal dietary education, but being smart, are quite cocky about it.
You can drink too much water, but the main issue is too rapid of water intake.
I would recommend talking to a registered dietitian for any information regarding food and drinks.
Clarence__Boddicker ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:43:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"After you get where you're going, take off your shoes and your socks then walk around on the rug bare foot and make fists with your toes."
DannyMBeatz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:44:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apologize and own up to something bad that you did without making any excuses. Makes you seem mature and people will be more forgiving to whatever bad thing you did.
Pikiinuu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:44:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you are sick and you can't breathe through your nose, find the spiciest pepper you can and take a big bite and chew thoroughly. It's like a nuke but for your sinuses. I never thought it was useless but I never really liked spicy things. One day I decided that being able to breathe was worth more than mouth pain.
oatea ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:44:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trying to be happy
I mean it means a lot more than just pretend you're happy but I'm recovering from depression and it's because I tried really hard to be happy
I love life now
Villageidiot1984 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:45:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Consistent cardiovascular exercise will help combat the symptoms of depression.
Have since tried it. It does in fact work.
augmentthinereality ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:45:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the wise words of a good doctor I once knew, "If you're going hard enough left, you'll find yourself turning right".
trsam ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:45:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Washing pot resin off my hands with vegetable oil. Once you try it, you will never do it another way.
Bullet-is_female- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:45:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drawing to vent. It works for me, but might not for others. I used to live my life from the age of 12 wanting to kill myself and on my first day of highschool someone told me they could tell I wasn't alright and told me to try venting in a non-harmful way like drawing, writing, or making a video diary. Drawing was what worked for me. If you are going through a ruff time try venting or talk to someone.
Alternative_Arachnid ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:46:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having patience not just with people but with life. I am a teen when I was younger though i always thought that everything for me needs to happen now due to social peer pressure like being mature or being an responsible adult to society and not just having fun with the people around me in the moment. I learnt this the hard way, I when through high school not learning much social cues with people around my age the trends and etc and ending up being the quiet one not understanding anyone around me.
oneinch ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:46:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You reach your bottom when you quit digging." - made me mad as hell when I was told that, but he was 100% right.
Godredd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:48:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking deep breaths to calm you down, stabilize your mood, or give you the ability to press forward with something you're uncertain about.
I though that was the dumbest fucking thing I've ever heard in my life. Like REALLY just doing an exaggerated version of what I ALREADY do is somehow gonna fix things? No, get that the fuck outta here.
Then, one day, I just found myself shit outta luck, having nothing else to console me, no weed, no sex, no money, it was just me and some really nerve-wracking social situation/career advancement opportunity.
I said, fuck it, what have I got to lose, and after 10 slow, long, CORRECT breaths (those who play wind instruments will know what I'm talking about), I felt like a new man. I was completely calm and collected and felt, for some weird, undeserved reason like I could take on the world, and I did, for sure that day.
Hasn't failed me since, I just don't remember to apply it all the time as much as I should.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:48:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I'm in a bad mood I'll compliment a stranger. I don't know why but it makes me happy for the rest of the day
xubax ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:41:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A few weeks ago i was on a commuter train. Two women were standing in the aisle waiting to disembark. One of them (she had white hair) mentioned that a hairdresser or someone said, "are you thinking of doing something with your hair? You know it's going gray? "
I said without thinking, "you're rocking it". She asked if i meant it and i said i did. She told me she really appreciated that and thanked me.
I was happier for the next 24 hours or so than i ever remember being. I'm 55. I know I've been depressed at least since the age of 12 and probably earlier than that. I'm on meds. I've had therapy. I'm on my second marriage and have two kids. And this 90 second interaction profoundly changed my life. For a day. I tried to hold onto it. I've tried to find her just to have a cup of coffee or something, but i was on a train i don't usually take.
sigh
ShinyAeon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:49:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saying affirmations.
They seem lame as all get-out, but they really do work.
ethan52695 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:49:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One time I read on Reddit somewhere that if your ever homeless, get a cheap gym membership so you always have access to water and showering and you clean your clothes there. Never thought Iโd ever be homeless.
Well several years later gotta a little down on my luck and was having trouble finding some good paying work. I mean I had enough money in my savings to have a place, but I wasnโt trying to blow all my money on rent so I just lived in my truck and got a gym membership for a few months till I started getting a steady paycheck again. So moral of the story, donโt blow some advice just because youโll never think itโd happen to you
hermeslyre ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:49:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just today I fixed my wireless mouses (g403) double click issues by breathing into it. It's been having issues for months. I was researching either RMA or replacing the switches themselves today and came upon a reddit post that explained the issue with static buildup in the clickers, and how to discharge it with moisture.
https://www.reddit.com/r/MouseReview/comments/a9ihgm/the_real_cause_of_doubleclicking_on_the_g_pro/
smokesholy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:49:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That you can really control wether youโre happy or not and the sooner you choose to be happy or change your mindset the easier things will be. If you never try to enjoy things and always have a negative out look things will always be negative. I kept myself from being happy for years because I never realized I could be happy I was always holding myself back with negative and pessimistic. Be positive and opened minded looking for that growth and you will receive it.
Rager_Doltrey ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:49:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When using an electric razor, be as gentle as you can, lightly gliding almost hovering, rather than pushing it onto you face. Changed my life.
07arigjac ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:51:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat an orange while you shower
nightcrawlerCRD ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:51:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โCalm downโ
thateege82 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:52:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clipping my nails AFTER the shower. Much softer. Cleaner cut. Learned from a doctor/cellmate.
BeguiledBF ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:52:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Compliment coworkers to leadership. They almost always hear complaints about people, it makes them happy to know things are going well and they usually treat the staff better.
DoctorTempus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:53:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Force your tongue to the palate (Is it right? The inside top of your mounth? Like in portuguese is Mouth's Sky) but anyway, force your tongue into there when having your brain get frozen by a ice cream.
Plus look straight to the place you wanna go and people will oppen a path for you to pass.
Gmonkey2k ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:54:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have patience in both people and things. Not everyone is going your speed, whether it be faster or slower.
BloopityBlue ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:55:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it til you make it
Garudaxd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:59:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
doesn't it make you feel sad though?
you-a-hoe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:55:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having a schedule. I used to go to bed at 6am and wake up at 3 and watch tv all day. My therapist recently put me on a schedule. I wake up around 8 and shower everyday then eat breakfast etc etc etc. It helps a lot. Like, really.
theultimateusername ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:55:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
With alcohol or smoking cigarettes, it's easy to do it all the time, easy to never do it, damn hard to only do it once in a while.
Garudaxd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:58:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
that is a perfectly on point fact.
theultimateusername ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:17:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's crazy how difficult moderation is
WilIyTheGamer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:56:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chewing gum while cutting onions stops tears
Shiney79 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:56:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make fists wit'ya toes.
deferredmomentum ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:57:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If something takes fewer than five minutes, just do it
ksweetpea ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:57:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Therapy. I had no idea how much baggage I was carrying until I started going to therapy
ayysic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:57:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Storing the ice cream container in a ziploc bag after opening it is the best way to keep the ice cream soft. It's like magic.
LtLwormonabigfknhook ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:58:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I hate to say this because I feel like I know how people will react (like I used to upon hearing this) but faking it till you make it actually helps somewhat. It doesn't cure anxiety or social awkwardness or shyness but it can really help you navigate your way to possibly getting over those. I'm a strange mix of outgoing and anxious/shy because, due to work, I had to fake it and it helped me a little.
I'm sure there are others but that one came to my head immediately.
Edit: and now I see someone already said this and they were gilded. Why am I always 5-10 hours late to threads?!
ObnoxiousOldBastard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:13:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That method worked for me as an Aspie teen who was nervous around girls.
radartemisia ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:59:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Add a tiny bit of white chocolate to cream cheese icing... it's godly.
basedmattnigga7 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:01:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โIf it costs less than ten bucks and itโs gonna make me happy, just buy itโ
Problem is I got addicted to pills and heroine for a few years.
CrossOffTheDaysGone ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:02:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad had taught me that I donโt owe anyone. Itโs important to learn how to say NO to people (I still canโt sometimes)
P_Lights ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:03:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop planning and do what you can when you can. I realized I spent so much time trying to theoretically make time for everything that I never did the things I wanted or planned. So I just started doing whatever I could whenever I could and little by little it became so easy that now I have to force myself to stop the tasks to get enough sleep haha. I hope that made sense.
GenerikDavis ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:03:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stick them with the pointy end.
chris10623 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:04:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
peeling ginger with a spoon
MasonMZN ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:05:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That the little stuff matters. Like, instead of a whole meal, have an apple or something like that. Drink water and if you donโt want to hardcore exercise, walk outside. Yes even in a hoodie because you sweat more then which means more weight lost.
CthulhuJankinx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:06:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was told while working drive through that you should smile, bc even if they cant see you, they can hear it, which I thought was creepy but interactions between customers became much easier
stare_at_the_sun ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:06:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt show any interest and people will be interested.
jmanland ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:07:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating foods that actually have flavor. Not just plain cheeseburgers
themantidman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:07:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"It's not always about the grades that you make, but the hands that you shake"
Meet as many people as you can professionally, you never know when they may come in to speak well of you, or lift you up.
Dragoner1027 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:08:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Developing things called triggers that people used to tell me to do in door to door sales. I/E Donโt put on your hat until you get to location/throw in a piece of gum as soon as you start knocking. Surprisingly really helps switch gear back into salesman mode if you do it consistently.
JMDeutsch ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:09:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buying Bear spray while hiking was how I learned this piece of advice, but now it is the crux of how I plan.
Itโs better to have it and not need it than need it and not have it.
CJPsalm139 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:10:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yep.
aerorich ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:09:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stuff toothpicks into stripped out screw holes in wood before you put the screw back in. I thought this was one of those silly grandpa repairs until I tried it and it's now holding in most of the hinge screws on a door.
lalala253 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:09:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My always joking dad once told me that if I had a hiccup, drink water without breathing for at least 7 seconds.
It works 8/10 times
baconslapu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:10:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always tell people exactly what youโre trying to do, be upfront, assertive and nice as fuck.
MassiveMav ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:11:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Mind over matter"
PablanoPato ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:11:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No matter how fast you run at a automatic sliding door it will always open in time.
sailfist ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:12:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I heard a YouTube Ted Talk, the speaker said she couldnโt get out of bed in the morning, miserable, indecisive, going nowhere, marriage was failing, etc. She could not be asked to deal with her life.
Fed up she tried this stupid thing she heard about, count down from 5 when youโre laying in bed in the morning. When you get to 1, jump out of bed. Oddly, she would jump out of bed.
Itโs so effective that I have to catch myself, I donโt count down from 5 any more. Lol
mikalarenee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:12:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If youโre feeling anxious focus on something you can see, something you can smell, something you can hear and something you can touch. It grounds your body and calms it down.
Shayneros ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:13:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Laying down on your left side stops heart burn. Sounded like complete BS. Tried it one time, went away instantly. Although it comes back once you sit back up lol
lifeinrednblack ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:14:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use a can opener with the blade part on the side of the can instead of the top. Works the first time everytime.
moosey124 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:15:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make lists of everything you have to get done, from the most menial tasks like "throw out the trash" to "work on essay." Something about seeing items crossed off is so damnรฉd pleasing
pcy623 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:15:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bit late to the party but here's my contribution:
If you start getting tinnitus in an ear, cover it with the palm of your hand, get a good air tight seal, and pump 5-7x times until it hurts a little. The ringing usually goes away for me.
baatteryPack ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:15:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stick 'em with the pointy end
Tossed_Away_1776 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:15:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"We never fail, we learn." Can't tell you how many times that's helped me through a rough spot.
hokeywebb22 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:17:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My car has a push to start button. I was on a road trip hundreds of miles and from home and 1 day my car won't start. I just get nothing pressing the button. Had no idea what was wrong. I googled possible solutions and nothing seemed quite right and then I found 1 post that sounded like mine and the comment to fix it was to push the push to start button with the top of the key fob. I thought that's the stupidest thing I've ever heard but had no other choices so tried it and sure enough the car started. I guess the battery in the key fob died and if you use the fob itself to push the button it works.
zowezaally ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:17:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it til you make it. I thought that saying was so stupid until I tried applying it to my life. Now it's my life motto.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:17:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
breathe to relieve stress, anger, panic, etc
babydoll17448 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:18:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can be right, or you can be married.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:22:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Try turning it off and on again"
hypmoden ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:23:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't put your dick in crazy
teacupTarte ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:25:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Create a vision board. It seems like such a cute waste of time but when finally got around to doing it changed my life. Also, ask for what you want in life. Be clear what you want. Do the prep work first by figuring out this one thing and vision board the heck out of it. This is key.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:26:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed every morning. I used to think this was pointless as a kid, but it isnโt. It makes your life feel much more put together. Iโm not saying the sheets need to be pressed and everything look perfect. Just pull up your comforter and prop up the pillows. It will make your space feel much neater than it actually and takes less than a minute to do.
OnePunchFan8 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:26:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apply something hot to a mosquito bite. Instant relief.
lounginaddict ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:26:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making lists
yojothobodoflo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:27:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smiling when youโre unhappy to trick your brain into thinking youโre happy.
enikeji ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:27:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Call the people iโm obligated to talk to when iโm in the bathroom, specifically while doing the #2.
I.e Calling the people iโm not too crazy about Returning missed calls
I have the time and already have my phone with me so i just maximize my poop time and donโt feel the dread of putting it off.
macnessamae ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:28:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink water.
Still struggle with this myself but by golly, just drinking more water each day will miraculously solve everything
ThreeHourRiverMan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:28:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ask for help when you aren't in a good place mentally. Growing up I thought I was bulletproof, and that it was my family that was 'weak.'
Mental health doesn't give a shit about your ego. Fast forward and I was a 27 year old in a disaster of a messy apartment (I'm usually pretty neat), drinking every day, routinely breaking down and crying alone to myself, and wondering if my ex from 2 years prior would ever want me back (she didn't, and our breakup was actually initiated by me, but in my mind she was the last girl who would ever show interest).
Asked for, and got, help, and happy to say I'm in a much, much better place. Mental health is no joke. Good therapists are as close as we have to miracle workers, IMO.
gjaho ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:28:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Believing in God. Changed my psyche for the better!
visceralfeels ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:29:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
freedom comes when you learn to let go
bunnymorty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:29:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything can change with just a little bit of a shift in your perspective.
Thanks, dad. Took me long enough but thatโs hands down the best advice I have ever received.
Doto_bird ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:31:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you go to the toilet and you leave behind a floater, take some hand soap and squirt a little bit in there (bonus points if you hit the poop) and flush again. Works 98% of the time. Sounds completely stupid until you're sharing a place with people and cannot afford leaving a piece of poop floating around - then this advice will save you.
Brokonjesuit79 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:34:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/dontputyourdickinthat
ddDunderDighs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:34:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using notecards while presenting. All throughout high school I thought it would make you seem unnatural and scripted but after I was forced to in a public speaking class Iโve used them ever since.
Alive_Bench ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:34:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ripping the bottom of the cupcake off and putting it on the top to make a sandwich
Nyxiaus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:35:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going to tell someone off? Stop. Count to 10. Do you really need to say it? Is it constructive?
squidwadd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:35:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Flexing for one minute is like instant boner-b-gone
Not-That-Other-Guy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:35:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kinda benign but drywall anchors. Idk why I just always would toss a nail in the wall for a picture frame so what was the point of the little plastic deals and getting out a drill? I shrugged them off for way too long and made so many unnecessary weak and broken holes when I started actually mounting shelves orb larger items. They are truly amazing.
pretentiouspast ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:36:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That washing/moisturizing your face every morning and night is essential self care.
StinkyBalloon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:36:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting mustard on a burn.
It keeps it from scarring and it feels amazing
jackscockrocks ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:37:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I had anxiety/depression I thought really low of myself, my therapist told me to say those things out loud to a mirror, tried it one day and realised how stupid those thoughts were. Was a real help to me tbh.
MNArmyBoy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:37:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Vick's for a cold or just sick.
If you have a runny nose or heavy cough. Before you go to bed, rub a bunch Vick's on the bottom of your feet. Put a pair of socks on. Go to sleep. It feels weird at first, but you will wake up feeling amazing.
Didn't believe it when my wife first told me, now I do it every time I feel something coming. Doesn't work every time, I would say 90% of the time.
Bearded-and-Bored ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:37:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Got Hiccups? Stand up. Sip a mouthful of water into your mouth and hold it there. Lean over so the top of your head points directly at the floor. Swallow the water. Stand up slowly. No more hiccups. Repeat if necessary, but has always worked on the first try for me.
Stimulates the epiglottis and shuts down the spasms.
Panda_BearCat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:45:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just holding your breath until it gets uncomfortable works, too. Repeat if needed. Got rid of every hiccup within five tries. I think all the tricks with holding water etc in the end are actually about holding your breath.
Bearded-and-Bored ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:16:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never concentrated on holding my breath. Maybe like 2 seconds to swallow the water. Maybe it's the same mechanism though.
ICrackedANut ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:38:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do not debate on the Internet!
carpononn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:38:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop playing tanks, it takes a lot of time, and it's useless.
LethamSmurf ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:39:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't ever, for any reason, do anything, to anyone, for any reason, ever, no matter what, no matter where, or who, or who you are with, or where you are going, or where you've been, ever, for any reason whatsoever
Maahkuss ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:39:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deadpool has been out for a few years now and I still say "Maximum Effort!" before I do anything I don't want to do. It's surprisingly effective.
mcjon77 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:41:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
EASY. There was this kind of scruffy looking guy in college, who all of a sudden was going out with these BEAUTIFUL girls. It made no sense whatsoever. Me and some other nerds asked him how he did it, what was is secret.
He said "I found out that if you just ask a girl out, she will usually say yes." That was it. No master class in "game", just ask girls out. Complete bullshit.
I dismissed it. While back home on break, I was talking to a friend (or should I say, a girl who had friendzoned me for 6 years) about what he said, and the girl flat out said that she would go out with any guy who asked her, at least to give him a shot. 3 other girls in the room agreed. I was shocked.
I got back to school from break and tried it out. I'll be damned if it didn't work like a charm. From then on, I was asking girls out all the time. I was going out 1-3 times a week. It was heaven. Not every girl said yes, but MOST did. The other weird part is that there was ZERO correlation between how attractive a girl was and whether or not she said yes.
And if anyone thinks that I am some hunk who just didn't realize he was hot, I am tall (6'4"), but I was also overweight (300lbs+) and a total geek with no fashion sense. I had no business going out with the quantity and quality of women I went out with back then, but it happened.
maytheforcebewithew ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:42:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Before doing anything, ask yourself "Would Tony Stark do this?" If the answer is yes ,do it.
Donut_2_Ninja ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:45:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worrying is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but doesn't get you anywhere.
librarypunk1974 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:45:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat that avocado ASAP
moe87b ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:46:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had an iPhone 4s that refused to connect to WI-FI, searching on the Internet, people said that if I put it int the freezer for 15 minutes it will work, I did it, it worked for a few days and then it became a routine, every couple of days, I put my phone in the freezer for 15 minutes
GardenLeaves ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:47:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slow down when youโre talking. It allows people to have more to absorb what youโre going so say, and if you donโt know what to say next donโt say filler words such as โahโ or โum.โ Just donโt use them and pause instead. Itโll make the silence seem intentional when in reality youโre looking for your last train of thought.
Alternatively you could repeat what you last said to make it seem like your emphasizing a point before leading into what you want to say next.
It saves you from seeming like you didnโt prepare well during a presentation/at a loss for words.
CanibalCows ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:47:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Have you tried turning it off and on again? "
SweatilyClicking ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:47:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breath into your mouse to fix double-clicking.
Blade1hunter ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:48:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smile over the phone while talking. You don't think it works but it actually makes a huge difference in your tone.
JaceVen ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:48:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you smile at the world, it smiles right back.
vanschmak ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:49:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Call your mom
Runi1050 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:49:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Physically writing down college notes to improve memory retention. I thought typing things was more efficient and a better use of my time. When I started writing things down, my memory retention of the subject matter increased higher than I thought it would. I'll still type things out, but then I'll go back over my notes and physically write the important bits a few times.
realJussieSmollet ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:50:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
sweep the leg!
TheFalseProphett ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:50:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wed-nes-day
deeahnab ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:50:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Latino music when you clean! Try not to shake your booty its impossible.
mingren0315 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:50:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Delete and reinstall the app/software
Lenno007 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:51:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trust your gut. You'll experience way less "I should have".
Crayfishpdx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:52:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Father used to say 10% of your check into your savings will surprise you quickly.
straightkiwi100 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:53:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If someone doesn't like you, ask for their advice. Dunno why but works every time. Especially at work.
AromaticGoat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:53:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To chew my food longer. Not only it helps with breaking down the food better, but it helps with overeating issues as well!
ilovevoat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:02:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i have no idea how to do this :( i eat like a dog that just got out of the pound.
HerambeMcHerambeFace ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:53:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If I wanted to overcome chronic back pain, first I needed to stop taking painkillers. Doesnโt make any sense, but it works!
slavchooooooo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:53:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just don't give shitt
WhatAGoodDoggy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:53:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes (a lot of times) the best thing to say is absolutely nothing.
clashbuster ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:54:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Compliment people behind their backs, buy new clothes, put effort into your look, put effort into your home, work on yourself, play less video games.
Anthr0pwnagist ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:55:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pedicures, fellas. Pedicures.
fatopinion ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:56:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Man, so much good advise here, ama save this and never read it later.
drafh74 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:56:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do the right thing the first time.
hailfreya000 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:57:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read the text book.
GETURHANDOFFMYPENIS ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:58:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting a few tea bags in my workout shoes to remove the stink.
purplehairedpagan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:58:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worry about that which you can charge.
Basically, fretting over past mistakes or issues doesn't make the outcome any different. You can only change your present and your future.
This has helped immensely with my anxiety and my depression. It's not a cure, but it takes some weight off your shoulders.
Norwegian_potato ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:59:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
turn off the light when you sleep so the room will be completly dark. i havent slept so well in years. and waking up is better
Wahum13 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:59:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dry yourself before going out of the shower box.
KILLROZE ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:00:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad always told me to take initiative.
A_wild_so-and-so ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:00:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always carry a knife.
I swear I am not an aggro person and I have never use my knife to harm anyone. But blades have this violent stigma that prevents people from realizing a fantastic tool.
I was gifted a few knives (2+) in quick succession, and decided to start carrying them around. To my great surprise, I found myself using the knives almost every day. You would be surprised how many seconds you save opening packages or scraping surfaces or separating two very closely aligned objects with a blade instead of your fingers.
SheepPoop ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:00:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you tried turning it off and on? Log out and log back in... Extremely felt useless but works
gregdbowen ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:05:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy a brush to wash dishes
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:06:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spend 10 minutes learning about calories/macros, then start tracking them, and you can forget about 95% of fitness advice you've ever heard and immediately start seeing results for the first time in your life.
It's easy af with apps now. I put it off for years cause I thought it was unrealistic. Then I finally committed to it half a year ago and I've made more progress in 6 months than I had in the previous 6 years.
Add lifting heavy weight and you can look like whatever you want within 12-24 months.
CaptnChlamydia ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:06:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Study in advance for college exams. I am now able to sleep well and preform like a regular human being.
razvanstoian99 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:07:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spend time with those friends who say good things behind your back and bad things to your face.
temporarystudentacc ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:08:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
try it before you judge it
penumbrette ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:08:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation. Sounded boring and a little bit silly to my skeptical self. Turns out itโs the cheapest, easiest way Iโve found to cope with stress and anxiety.
tanman_tanner17 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:09:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it only takes a minute. Just do it
dewusername ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:09:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Love is a choice, not something that happens to you. You are not an object to be acted upon, quit acting like you are. Own your choices, once you understand this you will never "fall in or out of love" but you will choose who you love and be happy about it.
5AM-inBuffalo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:10:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wiping my ass with baby wipes
C0LT0GRAPHY ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:10:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking off your socks and making fists with your toes.
Pcphorse118 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:15:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what does this do?
ontherise88 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:43:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Watch Die Hard.
javon27 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:11:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never make yourself irreplaceable. At work, donโt make it hard for someone to promote you. Make it easier for the next person to take on your job.
sidharths5 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:12:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doc Hudson: turn left to turn right Me: hahahahaha, thatโs never gonna work (Lightning McQueen turns left to go tight) Me: (Mind Blown...)
TheOldAssGamer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:12:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't ask why something is happening to you, ask why it is happening for you.
Hyperduck096 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:13:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always spend good money on socks and jocks, donโt stint out and buy cheap shit
jcollins052 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:13:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Dont feel good? Try drinking some water." A lot of times that was exactly what i needed to do
cashcapone96 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:14:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be grateful for the little things.
Ricky_Bobby_67 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:14:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put a teaspoon of soy sauce in a bowl of vanilla ice cream and mix it up. I swear it tastes like butterscotch. I learned that trick from another navy guy and I was dead sure it was a prank until I watched him do it and let me try some.
TKD_and_puns ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:14:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ask for help. No matter how smart you are. Learn to ask people so you know how to do it when you actually need it. I was a cocky POS back then and it surely came back to bite me until I learnt this lesson.
ohboyohboy84 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:15:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation.
paintthedaytimeblack ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:16:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Start with yourself. If you fully love yourself then everything else starts to fall into place.
Balbuto ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:18:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stay away from mmorpgs, they will take up too much of your time......
ToasterCoaster191204 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:18:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being told to eat a mouldy strawberry to get a day off school. I tried it. The regrets man, the regrets
Shocksterr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:19:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Don't chug a cup of ranch dressing and mayonnaise for 5 bucks bro, you're gonna puke"
Skywalker5262 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:19:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smoking on the toilet
SillyGayBoy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:19:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you always do what you've always done, then you'll always be who you've always been.
pressuredtoday ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:19:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deliberately saying happy/positive statements, even if Iโm in a terrible mood. It surprisingly helps me feel better.
Fake it til you make it?
Mahoujin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:19:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get burned by the fryer? Take a piece of lemon and rub it on the burn. Sounds crazy but makes you feel better instantly.
donoteatthatfrog ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:26:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
cut the lemon ?
Thatniqqarylan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:19:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A polite nod goes a long way
SplatonTo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:20:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually closing your eyes when trying to sleep
Boopy7 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:20:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting up early and getting going, but I can't do it very well because I am lazy. Plus I dread each day. I only get up for breakfast and then want to go back to bed.
TheLastSamurai101 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:20:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You seemed stressed out, you should try meditation."
This really used to annoy me in the past. Like, I'm stressed because of specific things, and as long as those things stay the same, meditation isn't going to help me.
I started mindfulness meditation a few weeks ago on a whim, because a monk was offering free group sessions at my university. It's already helping me so much, and I can feel that my emotional responses to adverse events in my life have become a lot healthier.
DyingDeadResurected ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:20:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do as I say, not as I do.
BestestFluffyPyjamas ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:21:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can't poop? Lift your arms up above your head and hold them there, push your chest out a little so that you're not hunched. Lift up your knees a little as well.
Now you can poop!
KingCrazzzzy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:21:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instead of fixing a fuck up after the fact, take action to prevent said fuck up from happening in the first place.
SaggyChops1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:21:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think about what you can achieve in years and decades not days and months.
SuttySonofMan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:22:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You get out what you put in.
It tends to work best with outside-the-box thinking, put the right thoughts in, the right attention, and you'll get out what you want and probably more. Be smart with it.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:22:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed every morning. Makes such a difference in your room looking clean. Plus, itโs super satisfying to jump into a nice neat bed.
goatnxtinline ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:22:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wiping front to back.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:22:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cutting oven pizza with scissors
babybopp ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:23:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you r constipated or think you are done taking a shit, reach around to your left side as though you are reaching around to scratch to your left rib with your right hand then turn and face your left. Then push out a loogie..
BroImHereNow ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:23:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
go right now and thank someone. just call them and tell them you appreciate them. you will feel happier
Not_The_Pretender ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:23:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every day, make at least one person glad that you're around.
Roxxso ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:24:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Had some guy tell me that a great way too get over flying anxiety was to, once you get where you're going, take your shoes and socks off and make fists with your toes. I thought he was crazy, but I tried it and it totally worked.
Of course, a bunch of thieves masquerading as terrorists came and screwed things up, but my flying fears were all gone!
AnnaLikeSauna ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:24:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink water as the solution to literally everything. โIโm feeling kinda down and I donโt know why.โ Try some water. You might just be dehydrated. โIโm so anxious rn.โ Drink some water. โI have a terrible headache.โ Water again. โI just ate but Iโm feeling snacky.โ Drink a glass of water. โMy skin is terrible!โ Water, again!
It sounds dismissive but water seriously cures SO MANY OF LIFEโS PROBLEMS!
ChanandlerBongUrie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:25:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being sober.
denverpilot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:25:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do not buy anything you canโt afford. By afford, the person giving the advice meant cash. Not credit.
Absolutely life changing.
TheNunchuckSeal ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:27:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Overnight oats. Mix equal parts of milk and oats in a bowl, and let it rest in the fridge overnight. When you wake up you'll have this nutritious pudding, to which you can add jam, muesli or whatever else you'd like. Because of how the food is built, you'll have energy that stays with you for the entire day
danutzvv ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:27:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it takes less than 5 minutes, do it now! Following this, i always clean the dishes.
dancingfusion ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:28:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think twice, speak once.
Saves you from saying something youโll regret. I preach it to my students as they reach the age where the โdramaโ begins and as they mature into young adults.
If you genuinely take a second to think twice about what youโre about to say, not only can it save you from saying something youโll regret, it allows you to process whatever you want to say and possibly say it more effectively, helpfully, carefully, clearly, etc.
SovArya ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:28:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you never know until you try.
having thought of every counter argument, upon trying - i was able to succeed in it. it's very powerful but got to temper the doubt barrier.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:28:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โItโs either two minutes now or two grand later.โ My dad on cleaning your teeth
monicaacinomhow ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:29:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting your car key/alarm to your chin (or any body part really) will increase the signal range. Handy when youre at a big parking lot and not sure where your car is!
YeloPartyHat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:46:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am surprised that actually works. Do you know how?
monicaacinomhow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:50:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Something to do with the fact that our bodies are mostly water and the water is a better signal conductor than air. I felt stupid the first time I tried it but it def works!
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:31:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be yourself. Iโm was in sales and my sales manager saw that I was a different guy when I was working compared to who I was at sales meetings and social events. He just said โyour a funny guy, just be that guy and people will like you, be yourselfโ. I gave it a shot and it changes everything.
ArishaSmile ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:31:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chewing gum when chopping onions to stop the tears and stinging. I donโt even like gum. I donโt understand why it works and I didnโt expect that it would, so Iโm pretty sure itโs not psychological
sirclicksal0t ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:33:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Telling yourself that you're worthy as a human, no matter what you've got going on.
YeloPartyHat ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:38:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have no idea why but I read that as "Telling yourself that you're worthless as a human, no matter what you've got going on."
sirclicksal0t ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:54:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me neither. But then again, I've actually tried it, and it was a pretty big perception shift. Not saying anything, scanning things on Reddit tend to lead to misinterpretations. But at this point, if I got 5 words in, I'd be all like NOPE.
masseffectin2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:34:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont give a fuck
CrazySD93 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:34:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learning what the object at the end of my shoelace that stops the lace from fraying is called.
Turning_Pages ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:34:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sleep when the baby sleeps.
I was beyond sleep deprived in the beginning. But these little cat naps really did help! All the house work can wait, you need to take care of yourself so you have the energy to take care of the baby. 9 months in, my house is still a mess, but my family is well taken care of.
Kandikate ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:34:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt let other people control your happiness. Learn to take control of yourself and mood.
phuture-collective ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:35:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
thinking of 3 things we are grateful for to remain positive and not depressed
WebDevLikeNoOther ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:35:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Advice on Reddit.
corbsalice ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:35:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone who wasn't big on using computers for a while, I always thought it was stupid how much pressure teachers put on learning to type fast through school. Now I'm at about 70 wpm and wow I cannot imagine ever going back to 35 wpm I would struggle so much.
Take the time to become a quicker typer! Do a couple typing tests a day! It's worth it!
ontherise88 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:37:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You make fists with your toes.
yazyazyazyaz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:37:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want to incorporate a behavior into your daily routine, try and pair it with something you already do regularly, as a reminder, and for 3 weeks push yourself to do the thing each time it comes up and you will find that you no longer need to think about doing the thing, it will have become part of your daily routine.
SidOfBee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:37:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stretch daily
goodboyeoz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:37:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation.
theinevitable22 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:37:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This thread is the ultimate compilation of good LPTs.
OdysseyZZZ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:38:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kept a calendar
thisninjanerd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:38:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For adhd and losing things - look once but look really thoroughly. Never realized how hard assed I looked for things. This saved me tons of time.
Iamsocoolplsloveme ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:40:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stand up with your back straight and your shoulders back. I started doing this a couple months ago because I read it on a Jordan Peterson thing. I didnโt really think it would do anything but for a month now I have been getting complimented on my posture which has been cool.
ManBearTree ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:40:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't eat so much.
116rip ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:41:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
go for a half an hour walk every day
i_roh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:41:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't attack peoples opinions or comments on reddit(any platform.)
When you wanna reply to a comment just type it, wait for a while(5mins max?) Then check it for typos and/or mind change and then most of the times you'll just delete the reply rather than sending it in the heat of the moment. Will save you a lot of agruing and make you more calmer to send a better reply.
I do this most of the times and 90% I never reply to anything just ponder about it and let it.
sudorobo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:41:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I spilled coffee on my keyboard, and it stopped working after that. My co-worker suggested that I dunk it underwater. I had nothing to lose, so I figured I'd try it.
It freakin' works! (a guide)
alfredhospital ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:42:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look after your tradies and they will look after you. People who pay on time. You need a plumber at 2am and I'll be there.
chngminxo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:42:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise to benefit mental health. I went through a really rough time with anxiety and depression, people told me exercise would make me feel better. I thought it sounded like totally useless information and of course, they were right. Nothing works as well as medication, or professional help, but it sure does help me pull out of a slump.
CubenSocks ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:42:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed
drewkk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:42:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating rice with a spoon instead of a fork.
mikevampm323 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:43:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink A LOT of water while drinking alcohol. Youโll thank me in the morning.
Dunbvcx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:43:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt let dreams be dreams, do what you love everyday no matter what people around you say.
Sask2Ont ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:43:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is ALWAYS a way around things
zlig123 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:43:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using cherry juice for recurring bouts of gout.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:43:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Therapy
PacificGlacier ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:18 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hell yeah!
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:43:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Self talk in various forms.
One day I was just a huge ball of stress and focusing on all the negatives in life like crazy. At some point, I just got fed up with myself and decided I was over feeling like shit. I did some deep breathing and started saying positive mantras to myself. I framed everything as if it already is. For eg. "I feel happy" vs. "I want to feel happy". I did it for about 5 mins and when I stopped I felt a million times better. I legit feel like I averted a panic attack by repeating a bunch of positive shit to myself.
Another one I sometimes use when I feel stuck in a state of procrastination is a One Step at a Time method. Say I'm lying in bed and really don't want to get up. I say each step out loud for the process of getting up. For eg. 1) Wiggle my right foot. 2) Move my right leg closer to the edge. 3) Wiggle my left foot. It may take like 20 steps to get up but eventually, I'm standing next to my bed and all the resistance just leaves me and I get going with my day.
CanIFeelMyFeelings ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:44:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking my vitamins regularly. I was one of those "yeah yeah yeah, when it becomes an emergency I'll take some tablets," people. Well my doctor nagged atme so much that I was like okAY!! and now I'm not a cranky tired bitch with no appetite all of the time.
BiiGxNasty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:45:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're early you're on time. If you're on time you're late.
sophus00 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:46:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fists with your toes... son of a bitch!
ThaSexyToast ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:47:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink more water.
DangeruslyAnomonys ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:47:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fill a bowl with ginger or apple ginger and place Duran wrap around it. Then poke holes in the Duran wrap. This attracts baby flying roaches. I thought I never use it till I forgot to clean dishes Defoeโs I left town for a trip. That damn thing caught like 50 in a few days. The bugs go in and find them selves trapped and then later die.
JuFo2707 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:47:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When driving, don't look where you're going, look where you want to go. Nobody believed this when we were taught it in driving school, including me. Until I tested it more out of spite, and suddenly I could take corners easily with speeds that would have me lowside previously.
Potatokoke ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:47:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My Nintendo DSI back trigger buttons broke several years before. Advice said to shake the DS, then blow in at the side of the button. I have now fixed both mine and a friend's DS.
the_gypsy_in_boots ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:47:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating mustard to get rid of heartburn. Once I tried it out of desperation. Now, I stopped taking prescription medication and just eat a TBSP of mustard instead.
AimerCoal ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:48:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do one thing at a time.
sunnycyde3103 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:48:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I struggled with alcohol addiction for several years and the piece of advice that really helped me get sober was when my dad (completely unrelated to the addiction) said โmake sure you live in the lightโ as in natural light. Being outside in the sun made me just want to be more active, more positive and just be a nicer and better person. When he said it the more I thought about how much more โgoodโ happens in the sun vs how much easier it is to make poor decisions at night. I started walking more often, and going on hikes, even just laying out in the grass looking up at clouds alone affected me in positive way.
So if anyone here struggles with addiction, try living in the light. It certainly helped me
oi_piglet ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:49:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going to shopping on a full or partially full stomach.
I did go on an empty stomach and oh boy, I bought all unnecessary, useless food items that 2err unhealthy and rocketed the bill.
g_hi3 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:49:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I told my friend to drink sparkling water to keep awake (he was trying to drink less coffee). the reason I told him that is that I tried to use the placebo effect to make him believe it was true and I didn't really believe drinking water would help him
the same week I noticed that when I drink water after waking up, I would feel noticeably more awake
g_hi3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:57:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
also, be yourself
not only does it make you more attractive, but it costs a lot of energy going out of your way to appeal to someone (applies to relationships, work and other kinds of relationship)
jpipson ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:54:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Love yourself
ZenoRodrigo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:55:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Try fixing your sleep schedule"
"Just go for a walk, you'll feel better after that"
"Have you ever tried counting calories?"
"Maybe you should see a therapist"
"Oh you should at a bit off sweetness to this!"
newbziez ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:57:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't pretend to be something you're not. A pig in a suit will still oik
help1on ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:57:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
If you turn right. You will go left
Archivemod ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:22:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what does this even mean
what kinda fortune cookie nonsense is this
help1on ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:13:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is from cars. When doc tells this to McQueen
uberlux ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:57:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smiling at people who try to bully/exclude you.
Works wonders! Makes them think there is something wrong with them and makes them even grumpier.
Eat-It-Harvey- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:57:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The rule of thumb:
If it's bigger than your thumb, don't stick it up your bum.
Bugazug ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:58:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly. I actually got it from reddit, my apologies that I can't link the source
But basically it means like if you're depressed and don't want to brush your teeth, even doing a poor job is better than not doing it at all. Even if you don't feel like going outside, getting dressed is still a step in the right direction.
TehGoobz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:58:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Opening bananas from the bottom. It cuts down on those extra string things so much, not even kidding.
AbsentAcres ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:59:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read the actual food label, not the marketing
kiiroiXsenko ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:59:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use Dark Mode.
MentalFest ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:59:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"It get easier with time" it sounds like a way to get you to calm down about things you don't want to but eventually you realize that all you have to do is start, whether that's breaking a habit, cutting off ties with toxic people, moving, or just generally trying to improve mental health. It sounds cheesey but "the first step's the hardest" is true, imo tho it's also actually the easiest.
Also clean your room over time so you don't have to haul 2 garbage bags of shame out the front door
vishpaan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:00:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I put both my feets on the top of my inverted bucket while sitting on the bathroom comard, it squeezes everything out very quickly.
EquivalentLandscape5 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:00:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Forgiving people and letting it go, because I have seen piece of shits in my life and if you don't forget it will stay in your mid, so just let them go and don't think about them
Reevak05 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:00:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make a list of stuff you need to get done. I thought it was stupid but it helps to clear the mind and prioritize enormously.
abaggins ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:01:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation
lukaman13 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:01:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right and you will go left. -doc. Hudson
ahleehah ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:01:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If someone offered to pay for a meal/drink, ask once โare you sure?โ If they say yes, then just say โThank youโ Then move on.
Grampa taught me this.
garblearble ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:01:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hiccups can be cured by drinking out of the opposite side of the glass. For real. It sort of curls your chest and diaphragm as you swallow and relieves the cramping.
sonoftathrowaway ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:01:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Used dryer sheets to remove stubborn splattered bugs from your car.
panjandrumbello ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:02:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Before you leave work take 5 minutes to organise your work for the next day. Make a list of what you need to do and when you walk in the next morning youโll have a plan and structure. Works wonders and also stops you thinking about work stuff all evening.
Edited for typo
stephlestrange ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:08:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Organize my what?
panjandrumbello ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:14:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your work - my bad...Iโll edit !
TheSiIverQueen ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:03:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking water upside down to stop a hiccup
dontlookforit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:03:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making your bed. Itโs actually quite nice.
Demon_Lord_Will ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:03:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not killing myself seems uselss but is actuslly w pretty stable peice of advice
RugRat4806 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:03:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just breathe
RugRat4806 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:04:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds stupid but works
jerkmanj ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:04:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink more water. I feel a bit better.
Nayib_Ozzy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:04:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go for it right now.
k4y133n ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:04:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
brushing your hair before it turns into a mop
HoraceMaples ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:04:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An old therapist said "Do things that make you happy".
arre___yarr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:06:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best advice on internet I found... If it is not gonna matter in 5 years then don't spend more than 5 minutes being upset about it... Helps you focus on work and develop more confidence and have good sleep(cause these type of shit keeps you awake at night๐) Have a nice day!!!
antio_ow ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:06:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having patience, especially when it comes to emotional issues/wounds (losing someone, breakup etc.).
Always sounds shitty when you hear it in the moment, but time and new experiences really do work wonders.
eatavacado ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:07:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If your depressed talk to someone and ask for help.
When I was younger and heard that I thought to myself โwell obviouslyโ. But you donโt realize how much effort it really takes to tell someone you feel low and ashamed of something in you/your life. You really do have to force yourself to do the right thing and reach out in the moment of just wanting to hide from the world and not exist.
Silver_Yuki ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:07:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating mint or ginger to get rid of nausea.
This saved my sanity when pregnant and still regularly helps now four years later! It genuinely works, the nausea is just gone and often stays gone longer than tums or rennie works for.
Just a polo or mentos or a ginger tea and you are good to go again without throwing up!
Jokosmash ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:08:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seeing a therapist.
kwonlity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:09:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
watching movies on illegal websites, saved hundreds loading them up on the sites then watching it on the big screen with overpriced food.
ahowlett ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:10:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy a dishwasher. You'll save on water, energy and time.
n1c0_ds ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:11:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You are responsible for having your needs met. If you need something, ask. If you have been wronged, say it.
If you have social anxiety, this is a lot more difficult. It became easier when I figured out that nobody would hate me because I asked for a glass of water or said that I didn't understand something. Brooding until I'm asked what's wrong is a lot more damaging than just saying it.
MrSwiergiwits ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:12:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't care about what others think.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:13:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Don't take Latin. Take Spanish."
"Whatever Dad, it's not like we live on the border of Mexico."
Lives in Texas.
chironomidae ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:13:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop taking caffeine. I had terrible anxiety throughout most of my 20s, but cutting all caffeine drastically improved it.
hammyisgood ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:13:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When doing an assignment or quiz or any kind of school work, anything is better than nothing.
If you canโt figure out a question, just write what you know, or take a completely random guess. The worst that can happen is youโll get a 0, which will happen anyways if you leave it blank. Also if you put down what you think you should do, even if itโs completely wrong, it may help you understand why you got it wrong retrospectively.
quotemycode ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:14:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When looking for something you lost, ask yourself what sequence of events happened when you last had it. Your brain stores events better than locations so you're more likely to find it.
mac_n ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:15:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The secret to surviving air travel:
After you get to where youโre going, take off your shoes and your socks, then you walk around on the rug barefoot, and make fists with your toes.
dejaaurora ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:15:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rubbing your tongue on the back of the roof of your mouth when you have a brain freeze.
Ggoossee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:24:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This totally makes sense because a brain freeze is actually rapid constriction of sinus blood vessels near the roof of your mouth typically in the back. And the quick constriction of these blood vessels cause the nearby nerves to react causing the brain freeze.
dejaaurora ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:20:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It absolutely does! I was just unaware what was happening to my body when I got a brain freeze. Therefore, rubbing my tongue on the roof of my mouth seemed completely useless and silly.
taos_shadow ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:15:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Had a bad case of hiccups one day, you know the type when you can barely finish a sentence!
This guy I was with said for me to breath in as much as I could then to place the palm of my hand just under my ribcage (just under the base of your sternum though), push in firmly and hold it there and your breath for as long as you can then exhale slowly.
I called bullshit when he told me but dam it works well
ArtisticWaste ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:18:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Pay attention to the teacher" as a kid I hated listening to the teacher. One day, for whatever reason, I watched the teacher's face and eyes as she spoke and really listened to each word, it felt like an epiphany. "Oh my god" I thought, "if I just watch her when she's talking about shit I'll get it." Guess I just didnt feel like looking at a wall or my desk or drawing so I watched her for a second and the information hooked me.
ZackyGood ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:18:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Work smarter not harder.
Jefferheffer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:19:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be kind to yourself.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:20:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take care of your health and get enough sleep.
sleepdeprivedtho ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:22:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink more water
dougwingate ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:24:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thinking positively
TheN473 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:25:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My great grandmother taught me "look after the pennies, because pennies turn into pounds".
WhoEverIAmNow ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:26:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just trying to ignore someone. I used to complain but if I tried, it was better.
MaaiWah ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:29:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you are planning on doing something exciting like performing, don't forget to enjoy. Being nervous can ruin a whole experience while you can also enjoy it. I have stage fright and this thought of just enjoying it has helped me a lot.
If you can't enjoy it, try to smile, smiling even fake smiling can help you feel happier
drexbus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:29:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn left to go right
xman77_77 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:29:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have sex
privateninja ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:30:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't lie/be authentic.
It's sooooo much less hassle than trying to remember all the lies. Plus, people respect you more for being real with them.
mgebremichael ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:30:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Time heals almost everything!
PlasticPadraigh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:31:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Don't waste money daily on pointlessly expensive little treats. I used to "treat myself" to a coffees and cookies or sconces from overpriced coffee shops, usually at least twice a day, maybe a third time while I was doing evening classes, for about fifteen years. That's about an average of 8 dollars a day times roughly 365 days times 15 years: I spent something like $43,800 on coffees and pastries. When I think about what I could have done with that much money, it makes me fucking insane.
Now that I'm making my own coffee at home and buying pastries from the grocery store, I have a little bit of extra money that I can use to try to build the life and career I should have had. Once in a while, on special occasions or to reward myself for accomplishing something, I get a coffee and pastry out like old times; But half the time tasting it just reminds me of how much money I wasted on it, and how stupidly.
cariboudan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:44:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take my upvote while I sip on the coffee I just bought. Maybe tomorrow..
-r4zi3l- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:32:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't ingest tide pods. Works wonders for your health.
IceeIvy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:33:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you ever wanted to quit something midway then ask yourself why u started.
Bunty99 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:33:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You dont ask - you dont get
burlblur ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:35:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Weed
antemasque1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:36:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I can move my balls and butthole at the same time.
Ikko28 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:38:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listen to your mum. Seriously though, once I started to listen to my mum and consider her advice as an option, life went so much smoother.
Overscrub ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:40:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My motherboard had died in my old laptop after 3 years of use. Went on YouTube to find a fix and ended up finding a video saying that you should put it in the oven. Out of pure desperation, I tried it, and the computer started working, and kept working for the next 2 years.
Aanguratoku ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:40:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean up the kitchen before bed.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:40:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Probably late to the party, but as an art major a lot of beginner artists forget to practice from references or forget the basics and are unhappy with the results.
Learned this the hard way myself by jumping into things that were way over my head way too early.
Learn the basics (composition, color theory, drawing from life). It seems silly but itโll make you a better artist.
ThomasT101 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:42:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"just turn it off and on again"
60Dan06 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:43:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use a heat gun (or a fan or even the oven) on your dead graphic card.
I had a laptop for quite a long time and it finally decided to die. I tested it around and found out that graphic card is the problem. Since repair shop told me that to repair it it would cost about as much as a new laptop (which wouldn't as I later found out, liars) I had nothing else to lose. I opened it up, aimed the heat gun on the GPU and heat it up for a few seconds. After that leave it to cool down (DO NOT TOUCH THAT) and after that it magically starts to work!
The theory is that some wire connections are burnt and not properly connected. Heating it will melt it and reconnect it back together (that's why you need to cool it down and don't touch it, because you would move with the whole melted thing and kill it)
Hematophagian ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:44:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deliberately smiling makes you happier. No shit it's scientifically proven that the causation does go both ways.
shllaqzaneh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:44:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you gotta suck a cock fto know you don't like sucking cock.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:45:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't live in the past. I used to think it was impossible to truly live in the past and people were exaggerating. As I grew up I was diagnosed GAD and depression, and actively go to therapy now. I'm in a way better place mentally and am slowly rebuilding myself. A huge part of that was learning to focus on the now. Not what I said, what I did, what everyone else must be thinking, what I've done wrong, etc. Just focus on my goals and take it day by day.
Edited for grammar.
AWanderingMage ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:46:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it till you make it.
johnwickedwierd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:46:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To Check out reddit
jandersonjones ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:47:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone once said this on Reddit and it stuck: stop worrying about a bad thing happening which is out of your control. If it does happen youโll have gone through that bad thing twice. And if it doesnโt, you wonโt have gone through it at all.
Somehow it feels like better logic than just โstop worryingโ.
pickledickle12 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:49:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Delete Instagram and install reddit. No more reposts and shitty accounts
midnightjoker ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:59:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The denial is real. Wow.
pickledickle12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:27:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wdym denial?
Your_Local_Insomniac ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:50:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That you should try looking at and appreciating the little things in life. It doesn't sound like it's gonna have a huge impact on your everyday life but trust me. It's worth it.
moonjok ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:51:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't be an idiot, changed my life.
wowifuckupalot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:52:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Check yourself before you wreck yourself.
kiriyamamarchson ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:52:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think about how much you get paid per hour to do something.
Think about how much you are willing to pay someone to do that thing for you.
This helps me respect others and myself. It helps me respect the only valuable thing, your time
rogue_ger ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:52:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just breathe.
Serriffein ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:53:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Follow your heart
xlayer_cake ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:54:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wiping. Who knew?
RealisticBurn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:13:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Hahahaha
Pseudeenym ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:55:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Writing down your goals.
EricaCalledIt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:58:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My uncle told me that if someone faints, hold their legs up high. Thought is was crap until a girl at my acting club fainted and no one had any idea what to do so I thought "screw it" and held her legs up. When paramedics got there they gave me a pat on the back and said it made blood go to her head.
Kawai_Oppai ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:37:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
And then it turns out it was a stroke and you assisted in the clot remaining in the brain.
Honestly donโt help people if you arenโt the paramedic or doctor. Even if the intentions are well, they can unfortunately sue you and usually win. Worlds fucked up like that.
Example:
Save someone from choking to death but bruise their rib?
EricaCalledIt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:07:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The paramedics said she collapsed from exhaustion and she thanked me afterwards. We were also 10 so I don't think she would have sued me.
MR_FUMMBLES ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:58:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โCommit and then figure it outโ
RealisticBurn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:08:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But what if I'm taking the advice of "don't stick your dick in crazy"?
MR_FUMMBLES ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:43:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best advice there is ๐๐ป.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:59:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt stick your dick in crazy
sanjuhunk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:59:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Give up processed sugar all together.
paul_park ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:01:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Undecided on whether to make a purchase (on what you want but not necessarily what you need) will only delay your delivery date.
jusstakidd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:01:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slowly sketching while drawing, instead of drawing a straight line
Kawai_Oppai ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:33:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs actually bad advice. Single, intentional strokes are what you should aim for.
jusstakidd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:21:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ill try. Thanks (:
InflateLynn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:02:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Love yourself
Poorlyhunger ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:04:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never put your dick in crazy. Ever.
cloverskull ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:07:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Adventure starts where comfort ends. Dare to be uncomfortable and the world becomes much more interesting.
Pizzacanzone ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:07:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just ask for help. It will never be "bad enough", but right now, it isn't "good enough" either so just get help.
LeoGin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:07:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A lot of people like to think about how they would go back in time to either experience something again or do something differently. I like to give the advice of living your day as if youโre already coming back to this very moment, enjoy every second. Make use of all the little things that we usually take for granted. It goes by quicker than we all think, so take as much in as you can. Itโs made me enjoy life a lot more, and Iโm way less worried about what the future holds and instead just grateful for what Iโve got in this very moment.
Le_Derp_Session ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:08:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you are ever stuck on a hard part in a video game then take a nap and or sleep on it and you'll find yourself pushing past that obstacle much easier after.
Zcracte412 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:08:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandfather once told me " you don't shit and wipe your ass at the same time" It helped me alot to organize my priorities
RAIJJINN ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:08:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep your tongue on the roof of your mouth aka mewing
Pachuko_pinyata ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:08:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink this vinegar it will cure your hiccups
bon1701 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:09:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Delete all my social media(reddit doesnโt count right??).
Then the person who told me to stay away from it all signed for them one by one and is kinda addicted to it all.
So now whoโs the bitch, Bitch?
wefolas ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:10:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holding your key fob to your chin extends the range.
onedeadnazi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:10:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
meditation
Slimfictiv ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:11:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A kick in the butt is a step forward. It proved to be true, who thought!
genstuck ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:11:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dipping fries in a milkshake
Rushilg7 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:11:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have water in your phone speaker play 2-3 heavy metal songs and the water will clear out.
GeeSpee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:12:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going to bed early consistently. You actually feel good when you wake up and donโt really feel the need to โsleep inโ more. Who wouldโve thought?!
domdomdeoh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:13:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pooping cures hangovers
BitCrasher17 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:13:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat less fast food and stuff like chips to decrease the amount of pimples on my face lmao
mochigames59 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:14:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
while something is in the microwave, do a small task while its cooking
what else are you gonna do? look at your phone and accomplish nothing? sometimes i will get home and put something on in the microwave immediately before unpacking my shit
wipe down the bench, fix the cushions etc, anything is better than nothing!
polineanne ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:14:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Delete the instagram app.
I now have time to lay down and stare into the ceiling. But really, you dont have to watch those videos of funny kangaroos. Read a book.
Dakuon_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:15:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My GPU didn't work so I read an article online about baking it. Apparently it melts some kind of connections and they are reconnected. So I put it in the oven and it worked perfectly. Article here: https://www.instructables.com/id/How-to-repair-your-Graphics-Card-by-baking-it/
TheMrFoulds ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:57:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This works but not for long, the temperature in your oven won't melt and reflow the solder for a proper fix and you risk warping the board.
Dakuon_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:06:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But if it is defect anyway you can give it a try๐
TheMrFoulds ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:51:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Might be worth it if you're out of warranty and need to buy some time to save for a new card, but that's about the only situation I'd recommend it.
other than what belongs on r/unethicallifeprotips
AbsoluteGrief ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:15:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making your bed. It was the first step in becoming a tidy person for me. Previously my room always had clothes and junk thrown around it, and these days itโs always nice and organized. Makes me feel so much more relaxed and comfortable. Just taking that first step of making my bed every day gradually led to the rest.
Carsizzle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:15:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ctrl + E
Baysara ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:17:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
calm down
Cher9969 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:18:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt stay up all night reading Reddit.
treasureberry ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:19:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it's not a "HELL YES" it's a "HELL NO"
Cher9969 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:22:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt eat the whole jar of pickles!
Nayk0_x ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:23:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spend your money on life experiences instead of stuff (traveling, good restaurant, theater, concert ...)
bluesigma ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:23:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink more water. Like I know I need to drink water but the difference in being properly hydrated is staggering.
Cher9969 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:23:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Love hurts.
Konstipoo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:23:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone told me to drink a shit tob of water in my post 1 year ago (on my other account), his advice made me not kill myself
Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/Advice/comments/7m1qir/farting_is_destroying_my_life/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
MatthewApex ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:23:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've never been a fan of diets and none really worked for me except one simple approach... Count calories.
Cher9969 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:25:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt share a towel.
Whatโs the last thing they dry and the first thing you dry....
SevenFingerStud ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:26:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just take a deep breath.
Honestly if you can convince yourself to chill for like 3 seconds, you will realize you're okay.
cndce ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:26:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The further down you get in the comment section the less people answer the actual question. It becomes just lame ass advice
monkeypowah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:41:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I see what you did there.
mexicanleprican ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:28:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone once taught me how to face myself and I honestly took the advice but didn't know how to apply it. Now that its hitting me in the face I wish I had understood sooner.
abhay_44 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:28:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My friend gave me a advice to hit the gym and after 1 1/2 year I actually tried. Now it's a part of my daily routine ;)
DudeOfGuys ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:30:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathe
mrmesmg ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:31:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My old iPhone lost the ability to connect to wifi out of nowhere. Tried dozens of solutions, took it apart and put it back together countless times, then resorted to the most outlandish solution I found: putting it in the fridge for 5-10 minutes. Somehow, that fixed it for about a day at a time, just had to keep throwin it in the fridge every morning.
Amukoo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:32:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Watching jojo's
oggi-llc ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:36:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The willpower needed to quit smoking cold turkey successfully is less than the willpower needed to quit smoking by tapering- with or without vaping industry merch. They're just trying to fuck up your quit by feeding your addiction to their merch. Cold turkey is the easy way out.
Blxckdust ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:36:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you feel alone at home, watch a horror movie. You wonโt feel alone anymore.
Duarsxhloch ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:36:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To get friends
Ryyalpha ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:38:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Believe in karma (reddit included)
nytehawk86 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:38:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Advise that myself and my wife tell our children: When youโre thinking of buying something you โwantโ, wait 3 days. Think about if you actually want the item for those 3 days and if by the 3rd day you still want it, and can afford it, then go ahead and buy it. Usually by the 3rd day, the urge to just by random things you think youโll want has gone away. If it hasnโt, then it is something you actually want so go for it.
ausaur ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:39:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get used to black coffee
Daniito21 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:39:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Positive attitude leads to positive results
vaderwalker ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:40:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ask yourself what is the most important thing you should be doing. If you're not doing it, start right away.
madmaori69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:44:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So simple yet so bang on
Lvndris91 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:43:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Pain isn't normal" Growing up around working people, all my pains, physical and mental, were quickly dismissed. "Oh, wait till you're my age" "You're young, you'll bounce back" "Welcome to the working world" This mentality made me ignore my depression, my anxiety, severe nerve impingement, poor vision, scoliosis, and more until I met people who had never been around it. Seriously, if there's a way for you to afford it, talk to a doctor about any pain you have, anything you're feeling. Make a list so you remember. Hand them the list. Do not be embarrassed, this is their job. And fuck anyone who tries to degrade you for working to be and feel better.
x_YC ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:44:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make sure it's plugged in
gabraww ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:46:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pull out
nathanadams194 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:48:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saying โ1,2,3, GO!โ To get myself up and do something rather than just telling myself Iโll do it soon. I have never failed it once. Got it from Steve-O.
Jam-Jar_Jack ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:51:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it until you make it. Honestly I thought there was no way you could be confident by pretending to have confidence but it really works so well!
Goseki1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:52:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercising is actually good for your mental wellbeing.
Ggie33 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:54:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You die when injected with poison because you don't take non lethal dosage on daily basis.
IsNOTlam ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:55:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Don't be a bitch"
Its true, it works. People who play victim and cant overcome adversity are destined to grow weary of failing before those who persevere through their failures and lifes challenges.
Natural selection in the 21st century.
Ape-Monkey-Hybrid ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:56:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โJust do itโ
TheGamercologist ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:58:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you canโt afford to buy it twice... you canโt afford it.
amnekian ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:59:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reminding myself that overconfidence is a slow and insidious killer.
MrMarisc0 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:02:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left
Orin__ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:02:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put butter in your coffee
periander ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:32:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Salted butter?
Thickened cream is good. Even the whipped stuff from a can.
Condensed milk too if you like sweet stuff.
LinoliuMKnifE ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:03:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Write your goals down and hang it up in a visible place. That shit has got me over the hump in so many situation where my laziness would fuck me
endemolash ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:03:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lower back pain. This Video. If you workout or just have lower back pain in general just try this.
p0rcup1ne ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:04:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean my room. I've always had a problem actually getting to work on my studies and having a clear desk and room really helps getting up and just getting on with studying.
abhinandkr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:06:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be kind to yourself.
I mean, this is silly. Of course, you're kind to yourself. Why wouldn't you be? Turns out, you're going through a bad breakup and the only guy you have for yourself is you? Yes, be nice and kind and patient to yourself, and you'll be so much better.
Euphemism999 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:06:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When browning cut up meat don't brown it all at once or you get too much liquid in the pan. Brown it a handful at a time and you get a nice crisp browning, plus more extra good stuff stuck to the pan to deglaze for sauce/gravy.
carolinejg ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:08:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't worry about pooping when giving birth. Especially the final hurrah. The doctors, midwives, nurses have seen it all before. You won't be the first Mom to poop when pushing. Seven deliveries later- THAT advice I pass on to my friends. Did I poop? My sweetheart of a husband claims they cleared something away really quick when having baby#2 (pun intended) and my last baby (1st water birth) he claims something may or may not have floated up, but a quick nurse scooped it out of the water like scooping a goldfish from a tank.
TheMiniManCan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:11:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink a glass of water when you wake up, before lunch and dinner, and a glass of water before bed. Sounds like something your mom would say but it has helped me immensely. I work out a bit and always felt stiffer during and then exhausted after. Really does help. Oh, and your shit comes out without having ton strain.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:11:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt stick your dick in crazy.
yenrab23 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:22:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Swim parallel to the shore when caught in a riptide.
There weren't really any riptides in the placid Long Island Sound beachtown I grew up and took swimming lessons in. Fast forward to a few years later I am enjoying the comparatively massive waves of the Northern California and after tiring myself and letting my body temp drop a bit too far notice I am way farther out than I meant to be and I can't swim back in. I start to panic then remember an even more seemingly useless piece of advice which was 'if you think you are drowning, don't panic.' I treaded water for a bit then swam along parallel to the shore for a bit until I had some energy and the conditions seemed more favorable and doggy paddled my exhausted self in. Stood up on shore and tried to walk up the beach and immediately toppled over. Not sure if it was actually a riptide or if I just needed some time not fighting the surf to regroup. But either way that advice saved my life. Swim instructors of the world, you do important workโก
bloodybargain ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:23:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Pick up the phone and call".
This is advice given to me by one of my supervisors at the company I work
This is situation dependent but in my profession (procurement at a construction company) it works well when negotating contracts. I used to rely on email A LOT when making offers. But calling someone and making an offer works so well for many reasons: you often get an immediate yes or no; any doubts or clarifications can be discussed; and you get real time feedback instead of back and forth emails which can sometimes span an entire day, so it is a huge time saver
InYourPantss ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:25:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes pretending to be courageous is just as good as being courageous.
kasim0n ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:26:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting as much uninterrupted sleep as humanly possible before having children.
Hexipo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:26:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If youโre trying to diet and/or lose weight.
Spend a two days a week preparing meals for the rest f the week.
I prepare on weds and sundays.
4 small meals a day - the small and often can boost your metabolism.
And the fact that you have calculated your calories in advance psychologically doesnโt let you feel hungry.
Honestly. Weight loss has never been easier I canโt believe it.
Manolo_Ribera ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:27:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There was lots of advice my therapist gave me for my anxiety/panic attacks (hypochondria) that just didn't work. There was one thing, however, that sounded really dumb to me but ended up doing the trick:
Make up an alternative theory, say it out loud. Then create triggers around the house (e.g. post-it notes) and whenever you see a trigger, you think of your alternative theory.
Took only two days to get from "I am sure I have cancer" to accepting "It's probably just muscle tension", something that would otherwise take me months...
Puggymon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:31:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
You are still here. Don't worry about things that happened or be scared of the future. You waded through all those problems, soldiered through so much crap to get right here. Yes it sucked, yes it was terrible but despite all the things the world has thrown into your way, you are still here. You are still alive.
My grandfather used to say that when I was a stupid, moody teenager and he was an ill man. Never really knew what he meant but as I grew older it slowly dawned on me. Life is bad at times. But it only is bad, because you can take it. It is a challenge you face and overcome, until it has nothing left it can throw at you. And at that point you are the winner.
nonnoncroissant ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:33:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
a bit late but, eating healthy. I kind of thought it was overrated and a waste, as long as you do exercise you're fine, but oh damn was I wrong.
Whatwouldjjdo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:35:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โFake it til you make itโ depression to confidence even addiction all can be beat with that lil blip of advice. Idk if it was already said.
YU5AKU ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:35:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
The cashier literally doesn't care about your social awkwardness.
She just wants to do her job and go home. Luckily, the world doesn't revolve around you. That's not a negative thing. Just say that to yourself whenever you're scared about messing up an interaction with a stranger. There's less spotlight on you than you think. And also people will judge you or notice and care less about mistakes or your imperfections than you think. Stop thinking in other people's place.
Hexipo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:35:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt chase some idyllic โhappinessโ look around yourself and appreciate the happiness that is around you - it is there. Somewhere. Somehow
lelamiku ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:37:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look into the light when you need to sneeze... works 9/10 times. I have no idea how it works but I hate it when I need to sneeze but it doesn't come, only that tickling feeling, but when I look into the light (sun, lamp, whatever) then it does come and I can finally sneeze.
grilld-cheez ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:38:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An orgasm clears your sinuses. Never noticed that until I heard someone on the radio say it.
PM_ME_UR_DENIAL ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:40:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stretching regularly
PeeEssDoubleYou ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:40:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pinch of salt in hot chocolate.
cayenne-bee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:42:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being told (while obviously pregnant) - โHaving children will change your lifeโ - well, thanks Captain Obvious, but Iโm going to be the parent that will champion self-help books for the next century. Now I realise they were only trying to warn me! Entrepreneurial idea for free: get some friends to join you and write down exactly how you will parent before having kids (serious references as to how you will incorporate your child into your existing life are comedy gold) then a review 5 years later. This would be an amazing book and has potential for a reality TV series.
SirMatches ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:42:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Be the change you want to see in the world"
tomjimnick12 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:46:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Fake it until you make it." Always thought it was really cheesy but in reality everyone is doing it. And it works wonders.
PrimeTime21335 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:47:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was in highschool/college I had mildly bad acne. Id try all these different washes and scrubs but it wouldnt go away. I even tried prescription face cremes.
My Mom would ALWAYS tell me to stop touching my face. Id ignore her and keep popping and zapping those blackheads.
The end of freshman year of college almost on a whim I decided to listen to her. I stopped touching my face almost completely (a big white head needs to go).
Within a few months my acne problem all but disappeared.
heck600 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:48:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn all the notifications off for apps like facebook and instagram
emmett__1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:49:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation clears your mind. I used to be so stressed all the time skipping meals and loosing sleep, my friend kept telling me to meditate and obviously I blew it off thinking only hippies and yobbos meditate, but I tried it in desperation and didn't like it, but after watching videos on how meditation effects your psychological side rather than the spiritual, I tried it, and kept at it since and it's something I wish I done years ago
jusredit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:51:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Count to 5. If Iโm stuck on something trivial, like which brand of pasta to buy or sth, I count to 5 in my head a sa countdown
Hafronix ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:51:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"just because you make more money doesn't mean you need to spend more money".
Background: My dad came to the US with little to no money and worked his ass off to care for our family. He's an engineer and managed to do well for himself (currently VP at a company). When I was younger I always asked why he didnt want a nice car or a bigger house or etc.. he always said "just because you make more money doesn't mean you need to spend more money".
I didn't realize how important that would be until I recently started my first career and I'm saving a ton of money. It also makes for a great reply to friends who egg me on about not wanting to eat out or get drinks all the time.
pooperscooper1980 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:54:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Finish your course of medicine. Donโt stop when you think you are better.
DameChiChi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:56:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My Mum had her cling wrap in the fridge, thinking she was just having a moment I put it in the pantry for her, until she saw me and said put it back in the fridge it works better!! I was like Uhm righto... until I went home, put ours in the fridge, and what do ya know!! It works so much better, itโs less โstickyโ and fly away-ee.
tha_nut ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:56:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't know if it's been posted yet but: Measure twice, cut once. It's an old saying that you may have heard thousands of times but it will save you money, time and sanity in the long run.
Also, a bit of my own advice. Don't buy cheap drill bits or painting equipment. If you spend good money on these, any work you do around the place will look a lot cleaner, better and usually take you less time.
moliver777 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:59:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to therapy
Mot0Mot0 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:03:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Delete social media. Iโve deleted Facebook and Snapchat which Iโd spend hours on. Only thing is, Iโve discovered this new thing called Reddit...
VANSH_senpai ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:03:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left
D14B0L1C4L ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:03:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not useless, but I was told it and didnโt think it was too important till I had to deal with end results.
Do not flush your tampons at home, and try not to flush the โflushableโ wet wipes. Plumbers can be expensive especially if your sewer system isnโt easy to work with.
Source - I did plumbing for a few years.
Umnya ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:04:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i agree with you
FishyLesbian ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:06:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didn't have to use it and I was the one that gave the advice, but I told a work colleague of mine that the easiest way to keep an even pace during CPR is to sing the song Stayin' Alive by the Bee Gees. The song's consistent beat proved helpful when he found himself administering CPR on a patient in the midst of cardiac arrest.
kinglau66 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:06:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"squeegee the body using the hand after shower, before using towel to fully dry the body."
It actually keeps the towel less wet and towel dries faster. I live in a humid place so towel dries faster is a nice thing to have.
ShrekNut ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:07:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt cross the road without seeing left and right. And now Iโm writing this laying in the hospital bed watching Netflix.
surecharley ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:10:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making your bed every morning will help you overall in life.
It really does set an intention for your day and shows that you care about yourself/ your home. Tiny things like keeping one specific area clean or just taking a few minutes to tidy up really helps you feel less stressed on the bad days. Plus itโs always a nice treat to come home to.
curlyblanky ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:11:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Study hard"
Wellwood396 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:11:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using A mcnugget as an edible spoon for mc flurries.
Best Thing Ever.
Eu4n5 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:12:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Opening bananas up side down
jpfalk1997 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:15:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When faced with a situation that makes you nervous tell yourself it doesnโt matter.
This helped me gain confidence with girls and in important areas such as job interviews. Additionally, considering the long term consequences of an action puts things into perspective. Oh I failed that test and it feels like the end of the world, well there is usually more than one test for my one class of many for only that single semester of all of my years at this school.
CookieQuartz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:21:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation tbh.
Its_a_phase_mom ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:24:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Singing to yourself can help you with mental breakdowns/anxiety attacks
Markthenuke ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:32:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to the gym to help with mental health. Humans are meant to DO and when you get a chance to propel yourself past physical limits, its often easier to conquer mental limits :)
It took me way too many years to lug my depressed self into a gym and I wish I had done it sooner!
RSCyka ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:32:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you ask nicely people will do things against their interest. I read it on reddit somewhere.
I tried it yesterday, four times.
My friend was packing for his flight home. I asked if he could buy me lunch. He said no. But ended up doing so because "fuck it man you took your time today what's 20$ worth if it can't keep you full"
We arrived at the airport. His flight delayed so we had to rebook his connections. He always wanted to go to ฤฐstanbul. I asked nicely to the guy if there's any connection from there. He said yeah but it'll take me some time. I said please man my friend and I are pretty sad we missed the flight, he'll already be late, might as well see a city while he's on a trip. The guy hooked him up with a nice layover so he can go out and explore a bit when he's there.
I asked if he could hook us up with any "Sorry we fucked up" money for the delay. He said I can do 15$. I said what are we going to get? Coffee? Could you bump it up a bit we are 2 people. He got it to 35$ and said look you're 3kg over I'll pretend I didn't see that either. Deal.
So we go to the food place and they charge exactly 35.80$ for a 2 guy meal. (We went all out, we aren't paying anyways) I said hey man could you waive that 80 cents. He looked at me. I said we don't have any change and I don't want to break a 100. He said yeah okay and took it out the tip jar.
Quumpher ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:38:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never stick your dick in crazy.
YU5AKU ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:38:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop caring so much about your first x or your last y or your continuous perfect streak of z.
Your first experience with something is likely to suck. So what. Maybe the next one will be better. The first is not much more valuable than the fifth. Stop fixating on the thought that it must be perfect. And don't feel bad for screwing up something for the first time that you had a perfect streak in up until now and asking yourself what happened. You were bound to screw up one day. So what. Just get back up and continue. It doesn't make your past or future achievements any less valuable.
DeadSilence227 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:39:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use a condom
bumping-pump-gum ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:42:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โIf you be nasty, Santa wonโt come with your Christmas giftsโ, mother told me as a little child. Surely, surely I thought, Santa isnโt real. I wanted to try it out, turns out, the year after, I was given no gift. Coincidentally though, my dad died the same year.
codeinesprite ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:43:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deleting toxic social media apps
Cav3tr0ll ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:43:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a dash cam. Mine has bailed me out of trouble with the police twice in 6 months. Both times because the other people said I did/said things I did not do. Make sure the dash cam records audio, and know how to pull video off the cam.
The police will thank you for providing incontrovertable evidence. Makes their jobs easier.
flatchest666 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:54:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing
NotGenie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:56:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Let the silence do the talking.
boomklever69 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:58:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
'Just talk about how you feel about something' sounds like bullshit but it's actually quite useful.
Hugoapelsin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:58:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Waking up early, even on weekends. Same time everyday, as early as possible.
brose2456 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:02:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Real socialism hasn't been tried.
LuchBeagBan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:39:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Neither has real capatilism, but neither are possible cause we're all just human.
calvincambridge23 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:02:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking a glass of water with a butter knife in it, handle end pressed against the bridge of your nose will cure your hiccups
cur50r ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:03:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating bread / eating a pickle right after a shot of spirit prevents the burning/sick feeling.
dragonheart112 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:04:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Somebody told me once that when you try and make your back straight by "putting your shoulders back" you should try in to put each shoulder blade into your opposite back pocket, it's worked wonders.
migzara ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:04:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Good deeds never go in vain."
MistahTowel ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:04:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't drop the soap.
lokwong522 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:05:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right when you want to go left
0jcis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:09:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How does that work?
avisho ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:06:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wear sunscreen.
XXevilmarketsXX ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:06:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pay yourself first. Always
MikeDeri ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:07:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"always expect the worst so you wont get dissapointed"
my dad always told me this when i was getting my card
de_sipher ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:07:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Just do it"
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:08:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thereโs always money in the banana stand.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:13:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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EvieAnnie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:14:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its better to half arse something that not arse it at all. In other word a job only 50-60% done than is better than just not doing it at all. I know this seems obvious but I'm perfectionist I would rather not do something than do something poorly. Its alway better to get 60% than 0%
Gr1pp717 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:16:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good posture.
It's amazing to me that clenching your shoulder blades together, rolling your shoulders back, pulling your head back and chin down, and squeezing your stomach muscles until your hips align makes you appear relaxed, healthy and confident. While actually relaxing makes you appear stressed, lazy and sloppy.
But, well, it is what it is.
inept_timelord ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:16:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking a cup of water before you go to sleep and when you wake up makes a big difference to your body. Even if you are a person that drinks a lot of water already drinking water or ice water at these times has really good benefits for people. I can personally vouch for them.
intolerantidiot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:16:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practice forgiveness. Even if the other doesn't return it to you. You will be better, free.
Sometimes it is really really hard to do, but liberating.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:22:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't whiz on the electric fence
Bemfic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:02:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Been there; done that!
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:04:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It hurts!
Cranky_Historian ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:33:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe it seems a bit obvious, but I had phase where like many I guess, I was in the "I'm a nice guy, why don't girls like me phase?" And after feeling bumbed about it for a couple of years I watched this YouTube clip by Hank Green where he explained the friend zone and stuff like that, and his conclusion that just being a nice guy, or claiming that you are one presents in no way shape or form an obligation for anyone to sleep with you, cause being nice is basically what you're supposed to be. And as blindingly obvious that piece of advice is to me now, I never saw it that way up until then. So that moment is now also a few years back and basically every day is a struggle to keep doing the right thing, for its own sake, what will happen on the relationship front, I have no idea, we'll see I guess.
opticalshadow ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:40:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The best way to win an argument, is to agree.
fergaliciaart ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:45:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad told me once, when I was looking for my car keys, "check where you found them last time they got lost" I rolled my eyes and went to check under my bed and... there. they. were.
grapecity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:48:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every experience is a good experience. Either itโs actually good, or you learn from it, which is good!
fergaliciaart ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:49:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you put pop tarts in a toaster they taste better... And they do.
madmes ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:54:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Studying for electronics quizzes . Everyone said DO NOT STUDY EXTRA, i studied extra, solved 10x the number of problems as my colleagues and got suoer confused with the questions. However those who only reviewed the course material aced every quiz. So much for "tests test you knowledge"
626bluestitch ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:57:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you have an issue with your computer, restart it. Most of the time when IT says that people get angry or lie and said they have already (am IT) but it actually fixes a LOT of issues
Jenkinsguteater ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:57:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"If you are looking for content with quality use reddit."
Konsta64 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:58:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Where do you find this content? I'm sure not finding
tboy1492 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:24:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just keep stumbling about avd you can find subreddits related to your interests
mysfull ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:58:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ever had the problem with one of your iPhone earbud/Airpod loosing most of it's sound? Well of course you have, happens to me like clockwork. Anyways i read somewhere that the problem could be earwax that has entered into the earbud (so cleaning it with an ear swab wouldn't work), so all you had to do was to suck the earwax out with your mouth, gross right? Well i tried it on my Airpod, and lord and behold it actually worked, have done it twice now and works every time.
10/10 would eat earwax again
Crazypabz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:58:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whenever Iโm gonna buy something i ask myself; is it worth it? Let me work it. I put my thing down, flip it, and reverse it.
Daauwe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:00:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep the blue light filter on your phone on at all times. You will get used to it, i promise.
CharlieApples ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:00:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โTake the high roadโ.
Itโs by no means a guarantee that people wonโt continue to try and screw you over. But youโll come out of a bad situation squeaky clean, with you and everyone else involved knowing that you made the integrity move.
VWessels ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:02:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rest when you are sick.
tboy1492 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:23:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is wealthy person luxury talk
VWessels ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:36:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not I. The least. Iโve been hospitalized 3 times in the last 2 years because I didnโt take time out to heal and my body couldnโt cope.
Your comment sir, is rude and unnecessary. No one said you had to follow the advice. They asked what the best advice you received but didnโt think to follow.
tboy1492 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:56:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Then you didnโt understand. Iโm saying you are blessed as fuck if you have the ability to take time to rest when sick or hurt. Even Moreau if you can afford doctors and hospitals
I got sick recently and still havenโt had time to rest, itโs been months and i seem to no longer be sick but Iโm still fatigued from it, to the point it seems to maybe be a permanent change to the negative. Maybe one day I can take a few extra hours to rest but thatโs a fucking pipe dream.
Just the slowdown I had from that nearly cost me my home, and my daughter.
Little_Barnabus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:03:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When youโre on the phone you should smile. It makes a huge difference in how you sound.
hanamishi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:03:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do what you don't like before doing anything else.
My father told me this early in my life and I didn't appreciate it much until starting my adult life.
alexab33 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:05:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you desperately need to prevent a sneeze, press your tongue to the roof of your mouth!
GroknikTheGreat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:06:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you tried turning it off and turning it back on again?
tboy1492 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:22:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You deal with IT a lot donโt you? Your the guy who keeps me employed lol
GroknikTheGreat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:06:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Usually I'm on the helping side. But there was one time I was having internet troubles that were fixed by turn off\on. Now its my go-to step 1, and more often than not it works.
tboy1492 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:10:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup! Confucius setting doesnโt load right, temp change causing an issue, file partly loaded, new update to a setting of whatever, corrupted or didnโt open right, etc
Good stuff your the guy we skip the basics with then :)
Drl12345 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:07:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use winter tires in the winter (all-seasons donโt count) if you are in a place that has cold, snow OR ice.
Yasurata ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:08:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
*If there's a problem and you can fix it, don't worry
If there's a problem and you can't fix it, don't worry*
The way we think affects the way we feel
insomniac203 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:09:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Fuck your ideas get to work"~MyFather i get ideas regarding technology and spend alot of time on that and ended up slacking in school, my father said that to me and boom got a good balance of both, in that im shipping to college next year to learn programming wich sticks to the stuff that u like to make
kickme2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:12:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation
Jellycatfish ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:12:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was a bit stressed out at work because the work was piling up and we couldn't keep up with it. When I told my colleague that I wish I could do more, she replied to me: "There is no need to stress yourself out with this, we aren't saving lives, you know? No one will die because a bit of work is left at the end of the day." Since that day I've started to see things differently. Obviously that advice only works if your job doesn't revolve around saving other people's life.
akuzin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:13:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating 5 or 6 times a day to speed up metabolism.
PinaColadaPopsickle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:15:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you know you want to do something, just go do it instead of thinking about it while doing something else you're telling yourself you'd rather be doing and thus making yourself miserable.
I find myself wanting to study, but for some reason I convince myself that I want to watch stupid time-wasting vids on YouTube. In the meantime, I'm not enjoying the vids because I keep thinking about how I actually want to study, so I'm literally just wasting my time in every single way. I want to clean my room but I tell myself that I'd rather be staring at the ceiling, or I tell myself that I want to watch another tutorial while I actually just want to try out what I've learnt already first.
This advice is valid whether you're procastinating being productive or trying to be productive while your mind is elsewhere.
If you really, really just want to watch that movie so badly that you're not taking in anything you're learning, maybe you should just take a break and get that out of your system. If you want to be productive but convince yourself that you're having more fun by being lazy, you're just lying to yourself.
tboy1492 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:19:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I want to study more than I do but instead an working, cleaning, cooking, driving kids around, eventually crashing hopefully on my bed for just long enough to most likely be able to get up and do it again.
I also desperately long for dnd or gaming or something, closest I can get these days is browsing reddit during slow moments at work. Would study but canโt effectively study like that, too many interruptions
Monty-the-Dawg ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:15:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To avoid slipping in a shower/bathtub, place a towel on the tub floor. No need for rubber or silicon non-slip thingies. Works fine and is particularly useful if you are in a hotel that has not installed non-slip surfaces on the tub. Not practical for everyday use, perhaps. Got this advice from a hotel receptionist, when my uncle complained about the slippery tub surface.
beley ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:21:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making fists with your toes after a long flight. Try it.
Just donโt get caught barefoot by terrorists trying to take over the building...
Vortonet ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:24:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Realising that I was not as important as I believed I was
rotcelloC_ehT ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:27:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practice to a metronome! Got on stage for the first time and when I watched the video of it, we were all over the place with tempo.
Swoley_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:36:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why use many word when few do trick?
ZGTI61 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:37:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Life is to short and the pain is not worth it to wear cheap shoes.
anand2nigam ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:41:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No one is going to be with you for your work. Don't rely on anyone for your work.
srober38 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:42:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learn how to tell time in analog and military. They are both used way more than you think.
tboy1492 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:04:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always suggest learning the phenotypic alphabet as well, so much better than d as in dee e as in Eddy, p as in pterodactyl etc
srober38 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:44:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Definitely. It comes in super handy when giving instructions or when you have to spell something out over the phone.
xXKaren_SlayerXx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:44:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try turning off and back on
616mushroomcloud ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:46:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doing what I wanted to do.
PotentialGrass7 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:49:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All that advice about acting confident will make you confident
Lipsovertits ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:50:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Quitting nicotine and meditation.
Edit: a word
GrievingWilson ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:51:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Forgiving is only partly for the other person. The person that gets healed the most... is you
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:56:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try going gluten free because I might have celiac disease.
I said why?? I eat bread and beer all the time and Iโm fine. Turns out itโs a complex and slow reaction totally different from food allergies and my self diagnosis was useless. Turns out yep, I have celiac disease and it was the cause of what seemed to be literally a dozen other health problems.
Ididnotpostthat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:56:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
If you have a trail of ants in the house, douse the trail and ants with Windex and leave for a day or so, then clean it up. This seems to send a message to the ants and they stop coming in. It is even better if the trail leads to the source of entrance into the house.
Edited: a word (windex WAS winded )
DeepRoot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:44:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm sorry but douse the ants w/ what? I'm not sure what "winded" is, was that a typo?
Ididnotpostthat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:52:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Haha. Yes. It is a typo. I meant Windex. Thanks for the catch!
DeepRoot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:12:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aye, gotcha... I thought it might have been Windex but I certainly didn't want to assume. I have also lost bouts w/ the all-knowing auto-correct.
ComicSys ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:57:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wake up early. Having that extra time to get stuff done really helps.
DJSnaek ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:58:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was really young my dad said "Ask lots of questions. It's better to ask and know, than not ask and not know". I ask lots of questions now, and it's gotten me far.
todayIsinlgehandedly ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:58:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
meditate and drink more water will help your anxiety. So glad I tried it.
Stinkynelson ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:59:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pregnancy test kit? Be sure to only go #1 on it.
JDJ5050 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:59:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It doesnโt matter how much money you make in life the real winner is the money you can save.
throwawaylife82 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:02:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't give up
Merica-First ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:03:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was a kid, I had to go on an airplane with an ear infection. It was one of the worst pains I had ever felt. The flight attendant saw me crying and my mom explained that she has an ear infection and the elevation was hurting my ears. The flight attendant said โIโll be right backโ...
She came back with two styrofoam cups that had small paper towels soaked in warm water. She told me to cover my ears with the cups.. I thought it was a joke...but I covered my ears with the cups and bam.... pain totally gone
mike870436 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:05:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Flushable wipes
iamaashik ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:05:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The advice from my dad: "Never Get Distracted by others' opinions. They will point out your mistakes even in your greatest success." First I neglected that advice, but now that I look back, I feel its the truest thing that I ever heard in my life. Love you dad!!
guppy2019 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:08:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt touch your face during cold and flu season
ArtOkinawa ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:10:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being sober.
viishu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:11:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saying 'you're Okey, you're fine, everything is fine' over and over again until you've calmed down after a panic attack, I've only tried it recently and well it actually did help, a lot
2-before-1-for-1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:12:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โIf a task has begun never stop until itโs done. Be the task great or small, do it right or not at allโ
Zippywendy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:12:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you are trying to make a change or break bad habits work on one change at a time. Commit to the change for 30 days diligently. After doing something consistently for 30 days it becomes a habit. This has helped me make many changes in my self care because after 30 days I can see benefits of the habit I have formed. Then I move on to the next desired change. Things like using my electric toothbrush(rather than a quicker brush with a manual), flossing, facial care and taking vitamins are all things that are now second nature where before I would skip over some things and never was consistent.
drizzie1771 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:18:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For anything you havenโt been able to do for a long time (year, month), break it down into parts that you can actually tackle. Similarly, when your to-do list seems impossible, break down each step into small micro steps. Makes it so much easier to tackle and a lot less overwhelming.
โBuy a carโ seems like a huge undertaking, but breaking it down into bits - read 1 article today about cars, speak to 1 dealer tomorrow, talk to friend who recently purchased this weekend - makes it a lot easier to tackle and check off each thing from your to-do list.
zalforce1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:18:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every action has an equal and opposite reaction.
I didn't realise how useful this was outside of the Physics classroom. It applies to life choices such as relationships and career moves as well.
GardenStateGatsby ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:20:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed in the morning. Itโs so relaxing after a hectic day to come to a clean made bed.
TJWakula ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:21:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Wipe down your new wipers before you put them on your car. They always have a thick black residue on them from the manufacturing process!
MadeInHB ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:24:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Damn. Seriously?
TJWakula ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:25:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
100%. Itโs a preservative to stop them from drying out and causes streaks on the window.
MadeInHB ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:26:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well shit, going to have to try this next time
PROperS_real ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:26:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bury the body vertically rather than horizontal. They look for horizontal.
AbductingTacos1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:28:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can confirm itโs a great idea
goroyo9090 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:38:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
FBI open up
AbductingTacos1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:38:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Come on in just donโt check up under the floor
estiatoras ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:27:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put some garlic over my eye lid to cure my 2 month old chalazion. "What am I? A vampire?"
LeadingLeather ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:28:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting a pineapple upside down in the fridge for a while before you eat it. It tastes waayyyyy sweeter.
lesserphoenix ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:28:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wikihow article on how to reduce anxiety. Step one: cut out caffeine.
I've been caffeine free for about three years. I don't get evening panic attacks anymore. Whenever I have even a cup of black tea I'll get a flare up.
FoxEvans ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:32:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Forgive yourself"
First reaction? "emo-cheesy-sh*t? Sry, we don't do that here.."
But then I noticed I was holding back a lot of regrets, it kept me from being happy with myself (which is one of the main steps to be confident). Also, I wouldn't blame a kid for a common mistake, cause I know he's just a kid and he got to learn, but I can be ruthless with the kid I was.
So I sat for a minute, I tried to remember the thing I regret the most: the things I've done, the things I didn't do or not enough.. and for each I stick a thought to it saying "You did your best with what you had at that time. You didn't know [this] or [that], there's no moral issue with not knowing something and it could've been worst. I'm still here and now I know".
And since then, I stopped being obsessed with the things I missed, it really helped :)
arisian_largechair ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:36:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're going to sneeze, try biting your young just to the point it hurts and generally it stops the sneeze. Learned this from a scuba diving instructor, he also said try not to vomit...
jettzypher ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:39:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What if you don't have any young to bite? ๐ค
arisian_largechair ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:55:57 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
... I hate myself more than anyone else possibly can. Well in that circumstance go for an old?
howyegettinon1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:39:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
using your earwax for cold sores, if you time it right you can stop it from ever surfacing. you need to put it on when your lip starts getting soar, or if it does surface it dries it and cures it better than any cream out there
Jjlongbong ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:26:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thats kinda fucking gross though
howyegettinon1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:47:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yeah but not as gross as having those rotten things hanging of your lips for days
billgatesnowhammies ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:40:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Just ignore them and they'll leave you alone" as a method for dealing with bullies. It was useless up to and including after I tried it. Still useless to this day. Thanks teach.
v-tree ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:42:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you are dreading doing something, always ask the question, is it a life or death situation? More than likely, it isn't which means you can walk right out of there if things don't turn out the way you want them to. Gets me through job interviews, exams, presentations etc. when I'm stressing out for no reason.
Magnivore703 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:42:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Walk with your head up, looking straight instead of down.
My dad's perpetually drunk friend Paul told me that when I was in high school. I was reluctant to believe him because of the nature of who he was and my thoughts of him but I figured I'd give it a shot. I nervously tried it, saw the positive results, kept doing it, and slowly became comfortable with doing it. I've never looked back down since. #sorrynotsorry for the pun
sozimdrunk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:43:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Just do it"
Ask her out, ask for a pay rise, whatever. Obviously don't go leaving your job on a whim, but if you've wanted to do something for ages but feared rejection then just do it. If she knocks you back, you can move on instead of wondering "what if" etc
The_Man_Downstairs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:44:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Write down five things you are grateful for every night"/"Write down the happiest moment of the day"
Didn't think it worked, thought it was stupid, it works really well. You realize that there is happiness in every day.
BizzyM ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:45:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go slow to go fast.
My dad gave me this advice when I was racing RC cars. When Disney Pixar's Cars came out and Doc was trying to teach McQueen how to drive on dirt, it was exactly how it was with my dad trying to teach me driving techniques with an RC car. "Whatever, old man." Until I actually tried slowing down a little and driving clean.
jum_p ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:46:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just stop being sad and then your depressi- Haha jk but can you imagine?
no_self_control22 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:50:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practice the golden rule, treat others how you would like to be treated.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:52:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Forcing yourself to fake smile and fake laugh can actually improve your mood and is an excellent way of getting yourself out of a temporary funk. It sounds dumb, but it works!
J0rdeau ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:57:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using birthcontrol.....
Learned how to use it the hard way.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:58:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use beard oil and always brush your beard.
abryce_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:03:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being confident when you want something. Always thought it was BS but it worked like magic.
Tunaversity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:04:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be quick but don't hurry.
Snergverkumferin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:05:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Me (guy, married 26 years now) at my bachelor party. I got lots of advice, but my buddy's dad said to do things her way and go along with her decisions 99% of the time. Pick my battles to win 1% of the time and win them and make sure she knows my plan. This has worked like a charm. To this day, when we disagree and I actually give a crap about my position, it tell her "you are going to lose this argument" and she literally stops arguing. I probably only use it 0.5% of the time.
RandomStrategy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:10:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
(Yoda voice)
Battles you must pick to win can you
hibmiester ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:10:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
HE NEED SOME MILK!
BrutalDudeist77 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:14:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pinch of salt to the coffee grounds cuts the bitterness
Gonces ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:15:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you have hiccups hold your breath, tilt your head upwards and rub you eyes in a circular motion.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:17:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pinch your banana's black nipple for best results
SixFootStranger ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:20:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Don't ever, for any reason, do anything for anyone, for any reason, ever, no matter what. No matter where. Or who, or who you are with, or where you are going or... or where you've been... ever. For any reason, whatsoever."
โย Michael Scottย (Steve Carell), The Office, Season 5: The Duel
JonnyFuze ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:22:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking a large amount of water as soon as you wake up I drink 24 oz + of water I have prepped next to my bed every morning changed mornings forever for me. Used to hate mornings but I'm awake and alert alot faster and also seem to need less caffeine during the day by alot
FinalOneUp ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:26:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Adopt a kitten. Cats are not vicious animals if you raised them up to be friendly.
IngebjorgF ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:28:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always be really nice to the janitors, lunch staff, secretaries, phone operators and cleaners. They can all make your life miserable if you are unpleasant. (And itโs the decent thing to do.)
zezhf ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:30:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You could actualy try to study for the exam"
Who would say it actualy works???
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:46:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is going to sound fucked up but hang out or study with really intelligent people. You will pick up their habits and copy their tendencies and this will help you by leaps and bounds
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:30:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy a cheap $1 plunger only to be used for your shower. Makes unclogging the drain so much easier and less disgusting.
ColKilgoreTroutman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:30:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Protect your credit. You'll need it to buy life stuff.
drviet0888 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:31:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt spoil the endgame or you will not survive out of the theater
Typical_Boshwack ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:32:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only thing better than a completed collection is an almost-completed collection.
Another way of saying the journey is as good or better than the destination.
ScienceUnicorn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:32:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm late to this party, so I doubt anyone will see this, but learn to accept a compliment. A simple yet genuine โthanksโ is all you need to say. Donโt deflect or come up with excuses for why you donโt deserve the compliment. You do deserve it and youโll feel much better about it if you accept it.
The-dragon-bait ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:32:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To put toothpaste on your phone to fix minor cracks
Kinda works
AustinMiniMan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:45:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Scratches*
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:35:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think before you speak. If you watch skilled orators like Obama, they always pause before responding. It's to make sure dumb unfiltered shit doesn't come pouring out.
Xero_day ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:36:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You go to an outdoor swimming pool and its freezing, someone will tell you "its alright once you're in". After a few min of feeling like you're freezing, it becomes bareable and then enjoyable
elitegoodguy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:37:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You want to know the secret to surviving air travel? After you get to where youโre going, take off your shoes and your socks, then you walk around on the rug barefoot, and make fists with your toes.
It sounds crazy. Trust me, Iโve been doing it for nine years. Yes, sir better than a shower and a hot cup of coffee!
pulsehead ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:56:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Works great until you need to throw Hans Grover off of Nakatomi Plaza.
Ghaenor ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:37:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting cold water on your feet when they hurt from the cold.
Sounds stupid, is actually awesome. Your feet warm up gently and pain slowly goes away.
rreqyu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:37:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โFree time isnโt always game timeโ โ my dad
case117 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:37:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Once a day make a mental list of 10 things you are grateful for.
OwensDad2017 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:38:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using white wine to get red wine out of a carpet.
MrDrProfEvil ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:38:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just taking a minute too breath and realize that you are alive, and what a miracle that is.
Tunaversity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:39:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ask yourself "is this the hill I want to die on?"
odynous ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:39:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing but with the lower part of your upper body, as though you are breathing from your stomach or something. It helps with anxiety
jack104 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:39:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep your eye on the ball. It's my dad's go to advice for everything. It started in baseball but I swear he said it once when I was learning to change my oil and I dropped the filter. But I used to be a horrible golfer. Just hit worm burners all day long and had no control and it all finally turned around when I finally got lessons and the pro basically told me what my dad said, "Stop trying to kill it and keep your eye on the ball through contact." I'm still not a great golfer but I am lightyears beyond where I was just a couple years ago and it's all because of that.
bezerko888 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:39:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean your nose with salt water when getting stuffy. Almost never get any flu or cold since then. Same for my son. He got sick 2 or 3 times in the winter.
kemen01 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:41:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read the requirements/technical spec before coding.
btbt0202 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:41:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never put your thumb inside your fist when hitting something. It can easily break your finger.
Whitefuck99 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:42:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They say killing yourself
kaydeng3083 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:42:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No amount of money can buy a second of time- Howard Potts
mild_smoker ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:42:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hit the gym
xapajoy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:45:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWhat Is Important Is Seldom Urgent and What Is Urgent Is Seldom Importantโ - This really helps me keep things in perspective when Iโm anxious. It has also helped me realize that I donโt have to give my answers/opinions on a topic or situation right away. Thereโs nothing wrong with saying you need more time to think or mull something over.
senthil_reddit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:46:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
track your time using a time tracking app. not one of them automatic ones which can't account for time away from computer. just good old manual entry time keeping using an app. (eg.toggl) blew my mind.
Sidzejs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:46:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandma's favorite was - if you can do it in the next 5 minutes - do it now! And it really does wonders if you don't put off those small things that has to be done.
project606 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:47:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a bad case of gagging over so many things, things I don't like, If I try taking medicine, ect, so I was given advice that if you squeeze/ push your Thumb hard enough you don't get a gag reflex, which works for me.
if you don't understand how that works lemme Just Give a small guide
Put your hand in a fist but your thumb is under your other fingers and then start to squeeze hard, it work for me like a charm.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:18:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me it was "hold your breath or close your nose until it all went down the hatch". It will lessen the taste
project606 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:24:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Closing your nose is good too, usually the smell of it Will Also cause gagging, Those are some good advice as well but I prefer the one I have cause I can test it out to see if it works easily without having to take something I don't like.
chrisman17 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:47:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cheap, good, and fast. Pick two.
I thought it was BS until I had done some hiring for my job. Since then it has proven to be true pretty much 100% of the time.
For those who donโt know this one. You have it good and fast but it wonโt be cheap, Cheap and good but it wonโt be fast, and you can have it cheap and fast but it wonโt be good.
el-ammo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:47:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seeing is believing and believing is seeing.
salzberry27 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:47:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you build it, they will come.
Seemed silly to me at time, but itโs true. The Dennyโs around the corner is now an integral part of our community.
Zigerot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:47:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating mustard stops leg cramps.
Talk_nerdy_2_me_gurl ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:48:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve totally changed all my screens to red lighting and havenโt had a panic attack since. Iโm an N of one but i suspect the blue light is acting on my serotonin release.
Also warms my heart to see so many โmy Dad/grandma/mom, etc says,โ posts. Alot of good parents/family with good advice out there. As it should be.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:16:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting.
Rocket9011 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:49:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try to be more positive, it's really hard to do at first but it's worth it, changed my life
86overMe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:49:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eye contact helps to keep you grounded in the reality of a conversation & moment.
apexx1992 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:49:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation to help with depression. After a few weeks I felt more in control of my life.
flexthompson ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:49:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just keep livin'.
i_am_ldr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:51:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just do it.
TheRedditor25 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:52:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Act less gay so you won't get bullied
SprinklerLord ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:52:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Park your car facing North. South if your in the southern hemisphere. Not really life changing, but I appreciate a cooler car when I have to leave it out on the sun.
richg0404 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:31:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Conversely in colder areas in winter, park so that your windshield will be facing the sun in the morning and you should have less frost to scrape in the morning
vmusic111 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:53:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Come first to the girl I liked. Fortunately, everything went fine ...
prometheusforthew ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:53:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Fake it until you make it" in reference to having confidence. I didn't have a ton of confidence in high school and started to use the tip after reading about in Mens Health. It ended up working really well!
kluthage421 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:54:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't waste time pre-rinsing dishes. Scrape bulk food off then set your dishwasher to pots and pans. Be amazed.
poleshar ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:54:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To get rid of hiccups: eat a spoonful of peanut butter or, if you cant get any, do a headstand. Both work.
anaxtogrind ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:55:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Love doesn't keep the marriage alive. Marriage keeps the love alive.
Thanks Dad.
illletyouoffthistime ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:56:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lather, rinse, repeat.
flabflabtheflabbin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:57:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're spending more time stressing about something that's solvable than the time it would take to solve it, just do it.
Jabburwocky ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:58:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
From my dad: โEat your broccoli first, then eat what you like.โ At the time, he told me that because I despised broccoli and would put it off until the very end, at which point it would be even nastier.
When I was a little older, he explained that the principle extends to everything in life - do the stuff you dislike or donโt like as much first, then save the stuff you enjoy for the end. I thought he was full of shit until I got into college and had to start triaging assignments.
Do the hard shit first, do it fast, and do it well. It will make your workload way lighter.
tigerzenmaster ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:58:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am saving this post and I am going to read it first thing every morning.
Human3715x ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:59:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smile and fake being happy even if you're not. You fake it so much that your lying makes you actually feel nice.
Kinder_Fleisch ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:59:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting lotion around ur butthole after a shower gives you one free wipe for the next time you poop
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:01:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
LMAO WTF.
The person who discovered this has a lot of explaining to do
Kinder_Fleisch ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:54:01 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah my cousin is weird as shit lol
hereforfantasyadvice ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:03:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
CICO. Burning more calories than you consume. I know it's simple math but I was CONVINCED that I must have bad genetics, big bones etc. In July I decided to try it out on a whim and lost nearly 50lbs in 3 months
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:59:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is true. Splurge on a "smart" scale and it will tell you your BMR. Then you have a baseline calorie budget to start with
notnaturalcas ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:04:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have two.
wasunique_once ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 14:21:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you have three hands to cover both ears and nose at the same time? .... asking for a friend
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:58:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I actually tried this and LoL that's exactly what I was thinking
notnaturalcas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:16:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thumbs in the ears, pinkies covering the nostrils. Don't worry, I was confused when he told me to do that too, he showed me how.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:06:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always wash your butt and genitals after using the bathroom. At first I wondered why not just wipe, now I know that washing makes wiping easier and washing is 10x more effective
chandelizards ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:06:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stay positive and be grateful for what you have in your life instead of focusing on what you donโt have.
Once a day, around the time of day I know is always the most difficult part of my day. I stop and mentally (started by physically writing it down) make a list of the people and opportunities you are thankful to have. It really helps. It sounded like nonsense to me but putting positivity or into the world brings it back to you. I make a point to ask how everyoneโs day is going when I greet them, if they want to talk more about it we talk more about it. You never know how your small interaction with someone could impact their whole day, so why not make it a positive one. Like I said I was so skeptical, but this new point of view has changed my life.
Gunner_McCloud ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:07:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When high-fiving someone, focus on lining your elbow up with theirs.
bulldogzxz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:07:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not about what you accomplish it's about the person you become.
minnesotafrozen ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:08:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
wrap lettuce (romaine and iceberg) in foil to make it last longer.
elpique ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:09:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Loosening my grip to increase power/speed/flexibility. Tennis, golf, wrench, whateva!
jelambed ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:09:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always go for the first item you had in mind when going to the shops. You will save bags of time and are unlikely to regret the decision.
Mega_Nidoking ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:12:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just put $20 a paycheck in your savings every payday.
DeDe129 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:12:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Witch hazel makes a bruise go away.
I once was getting a black eye shortly before a weekend away, so I kept a bottle of witch hazel and cotton near my desk as I worked and applied some every half hour. Never got the black eye. This is cosmetic only, though, the pain was still there--the bruise just wasn't visible.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:12:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
DON'T PUT TINFOIL IN THE MICROWAVE! Who knew!
BrilliantGamer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:13:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Brainstorming more before I write anything.
Daywreck ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:14:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad always says..."If you're going to do something, do it right the first time. Otherwise, don't do it at all." It's easy to make decisions using this advice.
karmanisman123 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:14:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Commenting for future uses.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:54:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do that too! I also do placeholder comments on mobile so I can edit later on desktop
Paddedpanties ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:14:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you suspect malware damage in windows.
Open the command prompt as admin and type: sfc /scannow
Might save you from reinstalling windows
Run it until it is succesful if it fails. Failing just means it is so messed up it cannot do it in 1 or even 5 passes.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:53:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shit. I learned something new
Wadz34 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:50:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gonna try this
Paddedpanties ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:09:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It looks at all your .dll files and replaces oncs the malware might have intentionally damaged or overwritten some of the code of.
Scuffed_Rayven ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:15:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
to read the directions on a test.
miked4o7 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:15:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"if you want to do stuff, just try to du it over and over". i had a catastrophic stroke a little over 2 years ago. i was told that when i was in the hospital, and thougght "yeah of course, practice something to get better at it, that's the same if you didn't have a stroke". i was wrong and neuroplasticity is more impactful than i thought possible.
the first 7 months i was in a wheelchair. the next 5 i was on a walker. the next 5 i used a cane. since then i've been walking unassisted. it's the same for everything. my vision is still improving, my speech is improving, and my coordination is improving even though my stroke was jan. 10th, 2017.
if somebody you know has a stroke, the most important thing you can tell them is to keep doing things
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:47:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting.
viggomort ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:17:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use conditioner to fap instead of moisturizer
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:43:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
WTF
nic-feine ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:17:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWhether you think youโre right or wrong, youโre right.โ
My mom always said this to me growing up.. it wasnโt until I read a book about psycho cybernetics, that I realized however you think about something is what you become. Any sort of change in mindset is possible with enough willpower and effort.
simonpunishment ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:17:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When doing any kind of contracting job for somebody, say to them:
โGood. Cheap. Fast.
You can only pick two. โ
iWOCuplikethis ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:18:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When maneuvering your car in a tight space and your brain starts telling you โI think I can make itโ stop, reverse your direction, and do it again the right way.
I learned that the hard way too many times.
kreios007 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:26:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Flexing your abs when you stand up quickly and get light headed. Flexing your abs stops the head rush dead in its tracks. Try it. It works beautifully.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:27:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Studying
Miraxes1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:29:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
30 mins of good-exertion exercise every morning can help reduce the frequency of migraine headaches.
HumbrolUser ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:29:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Driving a car: Look far ahead and plan your driving.
Fire_Cuber ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:30:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want to ask somebody out, do it right now, don't wait.
Crass_Gentleman ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:30:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Remember to blink!
Staring at a screen intently causes your eyes to dry out due to the lack of blinking and may potentially cause future damage. I was told this by my optometrist.
x8xSeraphimx8x ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:33:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Live in the present. Don't focus so much on the past or future.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:39:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This
bubblegummustard ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:35:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slow breathing IN TO YOUR STOMACH and not your chest for anxiety.
kikipklis ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:35:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Idk man dads and pops are really wise
justinknechtel ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:37:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sleeping
Th3_unkn0wn_m4n ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:38:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making the most of my life
likkwid ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:39:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shaving with handsoap instead of shaving cream
PotatoAmulet ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:39:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To get rid of mice, try asking nicely. My sister suggested it as a joke, and it seems to have actually worked
Smooth_Yak2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:40:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone suggested that I should stay instead of 12 hours playing, I should play 11.9 hours. Seemed useless, but then you get more bed time
Mohammedredha11 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:40:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ุดุนุฑุช ุจุฎุฌู
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:50:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why?
Translation: "I felt ashamed"
UIClurker ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:41:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you always do just what you did youโll always get just what you got.
cmkla ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:41:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating a kiwi with the skin still on.
Saves time. Doesnโt taste like anything. Honestly changed my life.
mchickenl ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:42:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if you are prone to headaches, wear a hat in winter and youre less likely to get one.
BananaBoy5 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:42:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Grabbing dry grass and rubbing it over your hands to get rid of grease.
thy_mom_gay ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:42:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you act retarded enough people will start to pity you than bully you, works in school.
RabidMofo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:44:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cut out cream and sugar from your coffee and force yourself to drink it black or just a few drops of milk for a few weeks. Then go back to the cream and sugar and it will be disgusting and then much easier to drink coffee black.
ratpoison987 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:47:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt half ass two things - whole ass one.
-Ron Swanson
And - if a things worth doing - itโs worth doing right.
-Hunter Thompson
So basically. Donโt have fuckarounditis. Take the time to do something correctly so you donโt revisit it... thus wasting time
Reginald_Davidson ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:48:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sitting on your hand until it goes numb and then it feels like someone else is doing it.
pirateclownpunx ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:49:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"fake it til you make it"
if you act confident you'll eventually start to feel more confident. if you act tough you'll start to feel tougher. it's actually really interesting psychology
Pondwater29 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:49:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fold the laundry AS you take it out of the dryer. My parents always used to just take it out and throw it i a laundry basket and throw it on the couch to fold later. Being the half-kid (this was my dads and stepmoms house) Iโd have to move laundry baskets (sometimes three or four) just to sit on a couch that seats 5 or 6. On top of that, my clothes would always be wrinkly and full of dog hair because the dog and I shared a spot on the couch. Just fold them before you put them in the basket. Takes a bit longer, but then when you put them in your room to be put away, you donโt have to fold them.
HoneyJalapeno ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:50:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always keep your eyes about 10 seconds ahead of you when driving. I have avoided so many close call accidents using this trick.
cramiz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:51:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bend your knees
ambrizzzle11 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:52:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
adding PB to a BLT. Mayo on one piece of bread and peanut butter on the other. Good stuff.
EngineerItAll ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:53:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you are having a bad patch in life, โjust batten down the hatches and weather the stormโ. It will pass and life will get better. This sentiment saw me through some tough months and now all that shit is just a distant memory.
mvato122 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:54:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
noFaqs app could find some more useful advises there.
alexkwa ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:55:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Swallow water slowly while holding your breath to rid your hiccups.
It works everytime.
TAVulpix ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:55:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"If would have done this you could've gotten what you wanted".
Parents, while they sound stupid. They are smarter than we think.
FaPaDa ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:56:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know it sounds stupid afterwards but i always used to get off a bike on the right sidem however my stand was on the left side, so i used to bend over my seat and setting it up. However my father, when i was younger, got actually pretty angry all the time "Why do you need to make everything so complicated, just sit down on the left side" i refused his advice for years, until i was around 15 and realized how much more easier it was.
nanikaniks ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:56:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was ice skating and someone told me that if I was gonna fall, I need to force myself to fall forward. I thought it was dumb cause to prevent yourself from falling, I was taught to hold onto my knees (which work BTW). I was like : if I could make myself fall forward , why can't I just reach for my knees?
Then I saw my friend fall backwards and she almost broke her spine. She had to stay in the clinic for hours.
I was so traumatized so I forced myself to fall forward. My knees hurt but at least I have a lower chance of breaking my spine.
goatofredditt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:57:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Realizing that while in High School literally none of the drama matters because you wonโt talk to or see 90%+ of those people again. Just live your life and do what you want and donโt care about others opinions or youโll hate your high school years.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:03:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes but .. unfortunately you will run into the same people in different bodies. There will be bullies, shitty people, jealous motherfuckers, and garbage individuals in your life. Learn to deal with them ASAP or you'll end up 29 years old and struggling to figure out a jealousy problem you could've worked out at 16.
goatofredditt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:24:15 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exactly!!
klassykitty ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:57:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Replace saying โSorryโ with โThank youโ. People will feel more appreciative of receiving gratitude than having to give forgiveness. Also just puts an overall positive light to what could be a bad time.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:33:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting.... Interesting
AtopMountEmotion ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:59:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make her orgasm once before she even gets to see your cock. Putting actual EFFORT into giving a woman orgasms with your hands is an incredibly important, LEARNED skill that will reward you tenfold.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:33:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
THIS. Women's orgasms help turn her on.
We have multiple orgasms
benedictstardis ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:59:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything worth doing is worth doing badly. Helps me a lot when Iโm depressed.
Donโt have the energy to brush your teeth - fine, mouthwash is better than nothing. Canโt bring yourself to shower? Baby wipes and deodorant. Etc etc
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:32:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can try the "hooker's bath" where you moisturize a wash cloth and wipe down the hot spots. Armpits, ass crack, and the vajayjay.
cannabiscrusader710 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:03:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Am I here?
thetresking ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:03:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going to bed early. Teenage me would stay up til 1 every night then wonder why I was always tired and sluggish.
Ectomorpheus_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:03:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โItโs better to go into a corner slow and come out fast, than to go in fast and come out deadโ -Stirling Moss
ktbars ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:04:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never refuse a drink.
rockingchairnyc ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:04:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stretch
Nissisaures ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:04:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When youโre stressed or angry, stop and breathe slowly in and out for ten breaths.
Spec-Tre ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:05:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have an erection and need to dismiss it, do a few pull-ups. Pushups may work too but pull-ups always worked for me
Creepy-Spaghet ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:06:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all people always told me this then as soon as I kept my mouth shut when I really wanted to yell at somebody they thought they would win an argument, so I punched them in the gut. I feel like it's better to just say something.
hilomania ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:07:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Piece of paper around the magnetic strip of your credit card...
ryanalloway262 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:08:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not necessarily useless but I've done this every day and when I go to bed I feel better than want I did before. "Do one thing today that makes tomorrow better than yesterday" Matt Carriker
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:24:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a good one
BulletBeall ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:10:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation
Deergutter824 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:10:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking deep breaths....Yep thatโs it. I know, not very special :P
blue1324 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:10:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I would also add, don't go cheap on tires. I've had cheap tires and they can be really bad to the point of being dangerous.
murphthesurferbr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:10:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holding my mouth right while fishing . It's got to be perfect ..thank you Cap.
yingyangtoiletgang ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:11:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Focusing on my diet more than my exercise routine.
Matty_moo24 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:11:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Life is hard, at first when youโre a kid youโre like nah itโs not that bad and then 18 years later you realize how true it is.
BakerD09 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:13:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
dont cheap out when buying trash bags.
its totally worth the extra dollars
Kronkinstine ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:13:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clenching your asscheeks when you walk reduces the pressure on your knees
profodinson ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:16:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn your commute into your daily exercise. Walk, run, cycle, swim, whatever. Even if it's just 2 or 3 times a week. Before long you'll be doing it everyday. Fitter, better mood, no rush hour traffic, takes less time than you think when compared to sitting in your car, a bus etc
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:21:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is amazing advice. I force myself to read cognitive behavioral therapy audiobooks during my 1.5 hour commute to work and 1.5 hour commute back and it's changed the way I think and experience my moods.
A_Half_Ounce ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:16:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yoga
Lantana_24 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:16:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting my chin on my chest and swallow a bit of water to get rid of hickups. It actually works
owozer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:17:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Somebody told me once that if I unzipped my jacket zipper my handwriting would be more legible, which I thought was total BS until I tried it, and it actually worked, It's easier to write when your clothes are looser.
intimate_existence ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:17:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nasal congestion? Drop and gimme ten pushups!
megaprime257 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:17:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To smile when your feeling bad. It really helps. :]
Walking_Planet ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:17:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking water upside down to stop hiccups.
Flogging_My_Box ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:17:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When there is doubt, there's no doubt.
SaillorGoon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:18:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was starting to wake up feeling hung over even though I hadn't had anything to drink. Someone told me "you know, sugar is as bad for you as alcohol is."
I thought it was bullshit, but I tried cutting back on sugar and now a year later here I am, 80lbs lighter and haven't had any Advil in months.
vivavidivinci ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:18:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stay in school
trcoelho ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:18:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If something takes less than 5min to do, then do it right away. You get so used to it that you become more productive naturally.
lirmy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:18:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've had troubles with eczema since I was about 12. In high school a girl told me I needed to use lotion. At the time I said that wouldn't work, I needed something medicinal.
Then I'm in my late 20s and the skin is literally falling off my hands and I'm on sick leave from work. Dermatologist tells me I need lotion, I listen this time, I've been eczema free for about 5 years now, the longest I've gone without an eczema rash since first getting them.
BowlOfYeetios ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:29:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aloe Lotion (make sure aloe is the first ingredient) heals my eczema quick
wasunique_once ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:22:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well shit... that is a very useful technique for making my head airtight... this has lead somewhere I never expected hahaha
Sinnombre124 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:23:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My hard drive died and after testing all the cables and the drive in other computers and so forth I read a thing online that was like "plug in the power but leave the sata cord out and boot to bios for 30 minutes, then plug in again and run it" and wtf that worked?
sbalunavar ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:25:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was studying and dong my Bachelors (was in 1st year), one of my neighbor suggested I should think about studying abroad. Did not think about it until I finished my final semester (4th year) and then gave it a shot. That was 2009. Now I have spent a decade in US, have my own house and family and sincerely thank my neighbor every time I meet him for opening my mind to this idea. New culture , new experience and wonderful memories so far !
Radthereptile ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:25:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If someone uses permanent marker on a dry erase board writing over it with a dry erase marker will remove it. I was amazed when this worked.
reumpapai ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:26:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything. You are told by your relatives or friedns crucial and necessary advices. But if you act ferociously and fiercely anything comes to your mind. You aren't taking these advices to your heart. And in majority you would not have been succeeded if you won't listen to their advices. You remain their advices when you will be down. That's surely. I acted similarly. Nothing to me was to follow or listen to. But when I eventually opened my mind and let myself help I felt gargantuan relief. They advices were to help me and give me a hand, but my brain tried telling me I did not need help, go live your solitary life and do not listen to anyone. When I leapt from my mental breakdown to life fulfiled with happiness I realized one fucking important issue: If people take you the hand, don't you miss it and try to listen to what they have to say.
JustaRandomOldGuy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:26:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You have more energy if you exercise. Doesn't need to be much, go walk a mile. Amazing how a little exercise stops you from feeling like a slug. In the winter I slack off exercising, and feel like a slug.
Miraxes1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:26:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn off your night filter while editing photos.
MoheeMagee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:26:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Don't touch the fuckin' thermostat!"
I never knew how cold I was willing to be until I started paying a gas/electric bill.
Acryas ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:28:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Green tea bags, brew them in hot water for a minute. Let them cool and put them on your eyes for 15 min. I'm not into herbal remedies but it instantly wakes me up and significantly reduced the bags under my eyes.
Usually I would dismiss something like this, but as it was so cheap to try it I thought I would. Felt so much better ever since.
VidaGeek ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:28:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything in moderation, including moderation. That was what my Grandmother used to say!
SamanthaLee1979 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:29:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Brush your hair while itโs dry before you wash it and it wonโt tangle as much.
baroque-af ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:29:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad always said this and it annoyed the shit out of me: youโll learn when youโre sick and tired when you get sick and tired. Didnโt make any sense to me from childhood to young adult but once I hit college it finally clicked. Was in a bad relationship and woke up one day and was sick and tired of all the fighting and loneliness that I left them that day and never looked back. Now I know that when Iโve had it, itโs time to leave.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:57:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This.
Mine would say "you'll know when you've had enough"
"It doesn't look like you're finished learning... "
IONaut ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:29:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
White Vinager cleans all. It removes rust and other oxidation. It gets rid of lingering smells. It's super useful and cheap.
somegreatusernameyay ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:29:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My old maths teacher used to say all the time "To pass your GCSE, you will have to THINK". Nobody knew why he was saying something so fucking obvious until we got in front of that paper and then it all made sense. The only way to answer those questions was to stop and THINK.
jefe6661 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:30:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
God looks out for baby and fools.
My grandpa use to say this and more times than I can count (especially lately) it has proven true. Whether you believe in God or not I'm sure you all know one person who is a damn fool and always ends up ok lol
Skystrike92 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:30:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Do you want it done right, or right now?" Really helped me at the lumber company I work for, and in my writing and art education
violetbokoblin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:30:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Write down little moments that make you super happy. I use my Notes app on my phone.
It helps me remember the way my daughter used to mispronounce my sonโs name. The cute little thoughtful things my husband does. The first โpicnicโ we had as a family the day we closed on our house. Song lyrics that my son makes up.
Super helpful when Iโm going through a depressive cycle. I read all those little memories and feel a little better.
Also have a document for writing negative feelings. Feels like I empty them out somehow. Do not recommend reading those during a depressive cycle though. Haha.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:41:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm going to try this. Thank you for sharing!!
I do something similar to this.
I take a lot of selfies on days where I feel pretty and log my weight for that day. Whenever I feel "fat" , I look back at the photos I recently took and feel better. I log my weight too. Sometimes having objective data about perceived weight gained dispells your cognitive distortions and helps you think objectively and feel better
cheesyandmoist ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:31:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some guy at CCSU told me to keep a thing of wet wipes in my pack wherever I went to use instead of toilet paper. Changed my life.
ProfessChaos47 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:31:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Accepting life as it is, rather than what you want it to be.
Yes it can be rough sometimes, but you can relieve a lot of stress in your life if you stop trying to change what is out of your control. If it happened, it happened. Learn from your mistakes and experiences so you can prevent something happening, but life is a mystery. Some things just happen and we canโt do anything about it, so just be happy with what you have because at least you have that, right?
Ach301uz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:31:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Pay Yourself First" If you have a 401k make sure you put money in that before you spend money on anything else.
unbalanced_breakfast ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:31:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The power windows on my โ04 Mustang stopped working. I read a blog post that said โhold down the button and slam the door.โ I still do it at every drive through window to this very day. It looks dumb, but less dumb than stepping all the way out of the car.
NontransferableDamn ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:32:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing in four's during an anxiety/panic attack.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:32:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting divorced.
Cs626 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:32:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're trying to not sneeze, pinch your upper lip and you won't feel like you have to sneeze anymore
amercedes93 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:34:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I had a bad dream as a kid, my mom would tell me to tilt my head to the side, and 'tap' the bad dream out of my head and onto my hand, and then blow the bad dream away. I obviously know it was all in my head, but it works for my 5 year old now too.
LahTrey ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:34:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not giving people advice when they vent to me, but just listen.
Thylocine ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:34:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We should start saying "don't not be yourself" instead of "just be yourself" as dating advice
pencilandthread ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:35:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Something I was taught recently, which is pretty Jedi like is controlling emotions.
Try to look at the things that emotionally effect you in a perspective of observation. In other words if someone says something that stirs an emotional reaction in you, try to see it as information, not the feeling. Youโre feelings have huge effects on your body and can effect your health. I have found if youโre able to control the way you feel, you become more clear in situations rather then reactive. This helps immensely in situations you need to swallow your pride or bite your tongue.
EX. Your boss says to you, youโre not good enough and youโre lazy. Instead of reacting, breathe, and observe. Control the emotions you are feelings, and focus on your power/self belief. Ask questions, listen, and feel out the best way to navigate the situation. Youโre intuition is always with you, though it can be clouded by emotions.
This takes much practice but has a huge payoff and has changed my life.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:55:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is actually the basis of a cognitive therapy technique called" the empathy technique" and "the disarming technique"
Iwanek ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:35:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you never get hypet you wont get disapointed
learningamap ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:35:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't buy a gym membership until you've worked out with enough day passes to cover the cost of 2 months of a membership.
My husband and I have regrettably paid for over a year+ of memberships for only a month or 2 of true motivation. Even more embarrassingly is that we've done this twice ๐ถ
Dubito_Ergo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:36:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stuck on a problem? Open a window and let the sunshine and air in.
OleBeefCurtains ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:37:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anal
swigfrick ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:37:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
walking away from situations when you're angry. I was taught it was supposed to be a moment of cooldown and gave you time to think of the situation. I was like wow this is actually dumb. But I myself have never experienced anger issues so I guess it's more for people who REALLY need to walk away for a moment. I did use this method once while arguing with my brother and I genuinely thought about the issue and I was like 'wow why am I even fighting about this?' and then I went back to solve the problem and it wasn't that bad honestly.
Cs626 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:37:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you fake a smile long enough, eventually you'll actually feel happier
ItsOk_ImYourDad ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:37:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Asking friends and family for financial help when I needed it
nfordhk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:38:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop waiting for people to do the things you want to do.
If you want to travel, go for it! Eat at that restaurant, indulge! Watch that movie.
It gave me the courage to travel Europe for 3 weeks solo. Was incredible.
Quekksilber ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:39:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trying not to procrastinate.
Fun fact: I write this to do not so.
ignite426 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:39:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look both ways before crossing a road... I know it sounds stupid, but you'll be surprised how many pedestrians get hit by a vehicle because they assume the driver can see them.
Cs626 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:39:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Set keyboard shortcuts like eml1, eml2 to enter email addresses faster
Bata_El ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:40:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't drink and drive, because the person texting in the other car will blame you for the accident.
GustavoAlex7789 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:40:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cover all the little lights in your room. You will sleep better the more dark it is and will wake up earlier.
imswagforsale ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:42:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drugs are bad mmkay
Sexpunuwu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:44:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take your tongue off the roof of your mouth to calm down and lower stress.
I realized how often - like ALL the time - my tongue was pressed up against the roof of my mouth and my jaw was clenched aggressively. Itโs like being ready to start an argument at any moment (at least with your mouth body language.)
acornstu ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:46:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dad taught me out of the work truck gloves on unless you have to take them off to work on something small. In the truck gloves off.
Nothing is worse than a lazy shitbag that gets paid the same as you to stand there and watch you work. And if the bosses drive by and see you moving around with gloves on you should be fine while lazy ass gets chewed out.
And greasing up a stearing wheel or dash with gloves on is a quick way to piss anyone off.
Never though much of it but it's an extremely good habbit to have. Served me well for over 20 years until i got crippled up. Now I'm mostly the lazy ass watching people work no matter how hard i try and help.
Wear your fall protection kids.
dingdally1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:46:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean your kitchen sink every night before bed. It really does make you feel more organised and prepared for the day when you come down to the kitchen in the morning.
slaab9k ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:46:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A dull knife is a dangerous knife. I now use a 8" Miyabi chef's knife and cooking has turned from a chore into some type of therapy.
Life_of_Salt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:50:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Networking at work. I am introvert so I skip the happy hours, team building events, and don't speak up in meetings.
For past 5 years I've been trying to get promotion and it happens for me when I start getting involved and making an effort to show my name.
You could be amazing at your job, but it's a popularity contest.
12thtry ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:54:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"The Perfect High Five".
The High Five. We greet each other with it, celebrate together with it, it is a simple and common bonding experience that transcends race, gender, religion, age, and sexual orientation. What's worse than a bad high five? Almost nothing. It's worth mastering.
When you go to high-five someone, keep your eyes on their elbow.
Pro: You'll never miss a high five again.
Con: your palm will hurt from the sheer perfection of the connection.
iWOCuplikethis ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:14:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A friend taught me this 7 years ago and it does work amazingly if you both know to do it. But if one person doesnโt know how to do it then itโs just an OK five.
Ulrich_Jackson ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:54:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think about the future. Did not see that coming.
SpicySpicySpicyFries ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:54:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't waste your time trying to please people you don't actually care about.
Also delete Instagram or any other social media, the worlds a better place without it
rhet17 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:55:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just quit!
thereisapinkfolder ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:55:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I once heard Have just 20 seconds of insane courage and i promise you something good will come out of it
anieke_S ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:56:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Saying random numbers when I get a panic attack. It actually helps to calm me down. For anyone who needs this advice, whenever you have high levels of anxiety just recite random numbers. (It can also be letters, book names, vocabulary words, animals, whatever you desire. I also like to recite my favourite authors when I can't sleep. ) Numbers work perfectly though. E.g. 73, 45, 66, 180, 406, 53, 1122, 11, 8, 99 Saying the numbers out of order forces your brain to think of a new number instead of just reciting an order that you already know.
HabitualLineStepping ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 17:05:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to get these and would find touching things and naming them would help. This is a couch, this is a cushion, this is a wall, this is a picture frame, etc Don't know why it worked but it did.
sluskilusk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:57:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Coca-cola can remove rust, so I never have to replace something because its rusty.
trackman69 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:58:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This video: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=aiItGUmoTjc&list=LLVFyeFQPZKFX185R_M-6Aow&index=2
HostilePride ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:58:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If something is worth doing, do it with confidence.
Even if you have never done said thing before, your own reassurance and confidence can help pull you through doing it.
My favorite motto is "Do it once, do it right". I am currently renovating and every time I come up to a job I need to do, I remind myself to do it right the first time. Even if it's that little bit more expensive (time or money wise), it will be well worth not having to fix it in a few years/decades.
PKLYT ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:59:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holding your breath and eating really does take the taste away, thought that was a myth made up by some parents trying to get their kids to eat broccoli or something
moonoverrumhammy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:59:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can do anything, but you can't do everything
yax01 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:59:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a smartphone. People were telling me to get one and I resisted because I was too cheap to dish out extra for data. Then I finally got one and never looked back.
trfyuh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:02:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When my mom tells me to check somewhere to find something.
doginafancysuit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:03:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My aunt (R.I.P) said: "Always try, even if you can't win" at first, i tought it was just useless (I was an 10 yo). But it really helped me trough some situations, like in school, i thought i messed up the semester, but i did my best and got a B, it's a really good advice that you, redditor who's reading this, should try, no matter wichhat are your odds, no matter what you think it's gonna happen, always give your best, and i ensure you that it will make a change in your life.
DOYOUKNOWDAWAYOFDANK ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:03:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you actually work hard at something, you can accomplish it. I thought it was just some fake motivational quote that was over-used but with hard work, you can genuinely accomplish anything.
curvedy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:03:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking water while upside down to get rid of hiccups. It's a weird feeling to expect a hiccup and then nothing. Works everytime for me!
cip43r ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:03:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can lie to others, but not yourself
milkakotek ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:04:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always treat people how you wish they'd treat you when you were at your lowest point. If someone asks for space, give it to them. If someone reaches out to you out of nowhere asking to hang out, make time for them. In doing so, don't sacrifice your own wellbeing by using all of your energy worrying about others.
ko3ak26 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:07:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Every place is what you make of it."
spoongunk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:08:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok this ones already not as cool as some of the other posts but One of my friends had shown me an article about displaying your thumbs. Apparently itโs supposed to make you seem more confident and if thereโs anything I need a bit more of its confidence. I ended up trying it at school and the first day I had like 3 random people compliment me. The change was very noticeable because usually I blend in with the background. So I guess it actually ended up being kickass advice.
schwebkn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:01:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I had to look that up myself. Interesting!
IWillFindUinRealLife ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:09:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Save anything you can and donโt touch it. It doesnโt matter how little or how much it is, saving it over time will add up.
I spent so many years after college making decent money and I always figured out how to spend it.
Once I started saving, a big part of my stress went away. I no longer had to worry about the main โwhat ifโ scenarios about needing money but having no way to produce it.
So many times, my savings have literally saved me from going completely broke or maxing out a credit card.
helloiamtrash- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:10:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hiccups donโt exist.
An old friend: Hiccups donโt exist. One time someone told me that and I believed them and I havenโt had hiccups since.
Same dude. Same.
Evmechanic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:11:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not using a holesaw on high speed
BAndrey04 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:12:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My best friend, 2.5 years ago saying "dude, I know your ex Bree fucked you up, she was a cunt, said some mean shit about you. But you gotta get back in the game." He then proceeded to install hot or not on my phone and told me to talk to some girls. Needless to say, Ive been with my current girlfriend for a bit over 2.2 years and that was the best piece of advice my boy has ever given me. I'm proposing next summer :)
davefarrellcb ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:12:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Answer emails and texts as soon as you get them. Even if you have to reply with something like "I'll figure that out as soon as I can." People really appreciate a response! It also takes away the stress of realizing you didn't get back to someone when you see them in person.
arsenicmouth ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:12:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"see a therapist."
KuraiHan ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:13:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My parents have always said that poor cannot afford to buy cheap. Meaning if you buy something cheap (machines, appliances, clothes, shoes, etc.), they'll break easier and you end up having to buy a new one. And eventually you'll end up paying more for many cheap ones than you would've spent on a good, more expensive item.
Oberst_Reziik ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:16:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't fuck people if you don't like them.
jimmyboy111 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:18:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
SUMMARY OF THE ENTIRE THREAD BEST ADVICE
SaiphSDC ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:21:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When tightening or listening a bolt/ screw that's upside down, or at an odd angle I get turned around with "rightie tightie, left loosie".
So I use the right hand rule. Curl your fingers around the bolt head with your right hand. The way your thumb points is the direction the bolt will move, if you rotate the direction your fingers are curled.
Really helps when I'm bent over half upside down to loosen a bolt I can't see.
Savage14455 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:23:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Letting people in when your driving traffic makes it so ur less likely to get cutoff and pissed off and u might make the other persons day.
KP_Official ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:27:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be honest.
It seems like such an easy thing to do, but even be honest about the little things. Be honest that you don't actually want to go to this expensive dinner. Be honest about how you feel. Be honest about your passions and the direction you want to take your life.
Not only will it make you feel better but it will make your life much easier.
LiquidSoCrates ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:29:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look where youโre sitting before you sit down.
jlvjlvjlv ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:31:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Before doing something ask yourself if youโll be glad you did. Trying to develop better/happier habits for future me. For example, will I be glad I sat and watched another episode or will I be glad I changed the cat litter and did the dishes?
mariov94 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:32:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My sister would always tell me i should get on reddit. Now Iโm here and I love it!
MyOtherSide1984 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:36:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chick in a check out line looked in my basket and noticed I was buying razors. She said to put them back and get the $1 cheap ass POS 3 bladed ones instead of the $20 "fancy" ones. I said I'd give it a shot...haven't looked back, best fucking advice ever. $7 lasts me 4 months instead of $20 for one or two months. Never get razor burn or anything.
iWOCuplikethis ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:54:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Even better to buy an old school safety razor with a double edged replaceable blade and you can get a pack of 20 blades for like four dollars. I shave all my lady parts with those. Thereโs no plastic waste either.
MyOtherSide1984 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:03:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice! Might check into this. I try to make those cheap ones go for months if I can. As a male, it's not half bad
GullibleDetective ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:36:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's better to look the fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.
The_Sherpa ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:36:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To get rid of hiccups, take three deep breaths and hold the third one for as long as you can.
ElCarneBlanco ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:37:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pour salt on a napkin so your beer glass wonโt stick to it!
displeasedkale ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:37:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not using the clutch when shifting a dirt bike to take advantage of engine braking.
GullibleDetective ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:39:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spend good money on a good bed, your back and sleep will thank you; plus any partner you have over will love it as well.
Spend good money on shoes/boots, your feet, posture, and ankles will thank you.
Spend good money on proper summer/winter tires for your cars/bikes/motorized vehicles. They are safer, lower the stopping distance, increase traction and can save the life of others around you and yourself.
RATIONAL_27 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:39:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Engaging in activities more often. I thought it was bs but in practice it makes life a bit more interesting.
T4N5K1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:39:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make bedrooms for sleeping and sex only, keep other rooms for other things -tv and the like- and you'll be surprised how much better you sleep.
adulthoodisanalplay ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:40:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If the river is red, use the dirt road
XthrowawayyX ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:40:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โStop using the toilet water to brush your teeth inโ
hungryhippie30 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:40:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You should try meditation"
T4N5K1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:40:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saying "I'm sorry for -" less and saying "thank you for -" more. Ex. I'm sorry for not doing the dishes, try, thank you for doing them!
spabt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:41:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
meditation in general
asierfreestyler ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:41:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We don't know if one advice is useless, if the person that gives you the advice had a history that demonstrate the advice is useful you can try. Because we don't know how the people can reaction to the action.
Japots ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:44:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Calm down
Eliza_Douchecanoe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:47:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
KISS. keep it simple stupid.
Vaganger ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:48:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The come hither.
citygrrrl03 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:48:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it til you make it.
Iโve had low self esteem my whole life. Living life the way I know I should be acting has helped me to raise my standards a lot.
mmosta ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:48:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is one advice that my grandma gave me when I was a kid. It translates from Spanish like this: โlook, hear, and donโt say nothing if you want to live a happy lifeโ. Itโs more about following rumors or not get your plans ruined before even start them.
ThisTimeImTheAsshole ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:48:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do not have a reason to be happy. Do not have a reason to be unhappy. Just be happy.
"Fuck that." was my initial thought. I was so pissed when I heard this phrase because it seemed like nonsense. It stuck with me because of that anger. I didn't understand it until I realized reasons can change which will thus change being happy/unhappy. Simply being happy, having peace of mind, is the only way because it is a choice and choices are purely in our own control. It doesn't mean I won't have problems. It doesn't mean sometimes I'll be sad or angry. It just means I try to be happy regardless of what is going on by seeing/finding/discovering/etc the pleasure or gratitude or something positive in a given situation. There is a calming underlying power to view everything as OK or will be OK. And if I think about it enough I have no answer for the question... Why not?
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:52:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practicing gratitude and daily affirmations in the mirror. Every morning I talk to myself in the mirror for ~5 minutes. I say out loud what Iโm grateful for and it puts me in a good mood for the day. I then go through my goals for the day/ year/ life and talk (to myself) about how Iโm going to achieve them. Hearing these things out loud coupled with seeing myself in the mirror makes it feel more real.
Iโm embarrassed to say I got this from an episode of Keeping up with the Kardashianโs. They did a segment about how Khloe does this every morning and it sets the tone for the day. Personally, this has 100% worked. I feel good about myself and my life. I start every day with a plan and feelings of gratitude.
terradactyl17 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:53:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a problem with carpenter ants, sprinkle dry grits around the outside of your house and around the yard. The ants eat the grits, which puff up in their stomach, and in turn kill them. Pet and child safe and super simple. My mom uses this every year to get rid of them when they start coming into our house (Its a log house up in the mountains) and after about two days they completely disappear.
helloiamtrash- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:55:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
ABORT MAKEUP WIPES. Cold cream changed my life.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:37:59 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What's that?
shaedubyuh ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:56:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When giving gifts for things like baby showers, write what you gave inside of the card. That way, if the recipient wants to write thank you notes, they can just look at your card.
Being on the receiving end of this tip has made life easier. I just had a baby shower a couple of weeks ago, and relying on the gift log didnโt produce entirely accurate results that I felt confident about while trying to personalize each thank you note.
U-GO-GURL- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:38:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
also your address
Ben-A-Flick ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:59:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake smiling when you suffer from depression. The fake it until you make it approach.
IKNOIK_BACH ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:02:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if your ears are blocked just hold your nose tightly and exhale from your nose
idk if this is common sense so...
Kyle-2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:07:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pull out...
Crayon_Angels ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:09:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise. Seems stupidly obvious but for a person who never played sports and literally never thought about it...well I started one day when I was 22 and I never looked back. For me it's not about having a perfect body or 6 pack abs (I don't have those lol) but just how I feel and my energy/happiness.
THEFakechowda ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:09:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Have not read through everything, but "sit up straight!" Or "stop slouching" is good for anyone.
Edit: Posture has be covered. Thats good, also it's very important to take care of your feet, if you have trouble walking its certainly best to look after your feet.
cyama ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:11:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practice empathy over sympathy.
wendywilliamsdid911 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:18:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
make a fist with your hand but tuck your thumb under your fingers if you're taking a pill and have a terrible gag reflix- it helps
ZealousidealRepair6 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:18:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything has a place and everything has to be in its place.
Works wonders You never lose anything! Only downside being you think something is gone if it isn't in place where as it's probably just a shelf under.
ontauk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:23:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You'll understand when you're older"
JovanisReddit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:39:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smiling in front of a mirror in the morning to give me energy. Now it helps me get through the day!
Wontoncube ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:41:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation. I've always been told by people to try out meditation and I've always ignored it. I've tried once a long time ago and what I did was sitting still for 10 minutes and closed my eyes, but that wasn't meditation, that was just sitting and closing my eyes. After reading more on meditation, I decided to do it properly and it really helped as far as making you grounded.
Dman2244 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:02:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"The pain is temporary, the result is permanent"
Fatkoalaho ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:11:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Restarting the computer
gudbote ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:15:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Vodka with pepper for nausea / indigestion.
I thought it sounded stupid but apparently in Eastern Europe it's a common remedy in some countries. A small shot of vodka with a medium pinch of ground black pepper.
My Russian neighbor recommended it to me once and it helped me many times.
CuriousCosmo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:18:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Moisturizing.
SirDanks- ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:20:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking a breath when angry. It sound really dumb and stupid, but when actually practised in the moment, it genuinely does help with controlling yourself and keeping your cool in the situation, which leads to rational choices and decisions on your end :)
Rosie_system ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:34:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yoga believe it or not
buddyboyfriendo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:42:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ever since I could remember my mom always said, "stupid hurts", so every time I go to a party, or hang out with my friends I remember, "stupid hurts". I can say it is extremely effective...
Sorry if my grammar is wrong :)
Pupper_Wolf ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:48:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont count your money till it's in your hands.
Goldisaur ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:52:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
From my mother: "Knowledge is never a burden" - and she's right. Learning something is almost never a waste of time. So, learn!
mylocker17 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:55:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make ranch dressing yourself and it will taste like the kind found in restaurants. I like ranch served in restaurants so much better than the bottled kind but I never believed it was because it was freshly made. I assumed restaurants had some secret restaurant only brand in the back. From Sysco or something. It was years until I finally actually made homemade and it was so much better and does taste like restaurant ranch. Only downsides are you need to go get buttermilk, which you will only use for the dressing and probably nothing else, and they don't sell half cartons. Plus your homemade batch will not last too long so you are going to have to have to eat a lot of salads and chicken fingers for a couple of days.
yourcleverusername9 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:56:09 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can you please share your recipe? I thought I was the only one and Iโve been on a quest to find restaurant quality ranch
mylocker17 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:04:24 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've used a few different ones from the web. The ones that use the hidden valley packet turn out good, you can also find a diy for the hidden valley packet itself look up diy dry dip mix. This one is also good if you want a lighter ranch https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/162925/low-fat-buttermilk-ranch-dressing
sidd332 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:03:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My math teacher used to say "attempt the question till the dead end and does not leave it by just looking at it or solving small part of it " usually answer comes out on it's own
throwawayaccount5618 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:16:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you canโt sleep without your phone in the room then turn night shift on and put it on minimum brightness. Sounds dumb but it doesnโt produce blue wave length light so it wonโt hurt your sleep
ghutterbaby ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:21:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't pee in the wind.
Juice_Stanton ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:21:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bacon grease will clean tree sap off your hands as good or better than gasoline. Then it washes right off and you smell a little bacony instead of terribly gasoliney.
LPT: Always have some bacon grease around.
BrxkenVolume ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:31:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spraying perfume on a whiteboard pen that is running out of ink.
Makes it last a few minutes longer
redditalready411 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:43:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If your dog has bad breath, it could lead to medical problems later. Smear doggy toothpaste on a crunchy treat they like before bed. My dog's love chicken flavor toothpaste. Has antibacterial action. Do NOT use human toothpaste. Our Vet says their teeth looked brushed. No more doggy breath.
SamFeuerstelle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:44:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone telling me โbreatheโ in the middle of a panic attack.
Sounds stupid- I am breathing, Iโve got more important things to worry about than breathing, etc.- but taking the time to actually concentrate on a nice, deep breath means Iโm not focusing on the source of my anxiety. It slows me down, forces me to actually think, rather than just get dragged along for the horrible, horrible ride.
Itโs my go-to solution to calm down now. Might not work for everyone, but it sure as hell does for me.
RoutineRecipe ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:50:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Vanilla on burns
TigOlYak ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:54:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Something on your computer or phone isnt working
1) Turn it off and back on
If it works now, you did it! congrats! if not continue to #2)
2) clear the cache and the temp folder
3) restart it
NoWifiAccess ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:06:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was about 10, my mum told me: "It's not illegal if you don't get caught."
Later that same week in class, I went up and stole someone's roughly $3 earbuds. They were broken to shit and had one earbud missing. The teacher didn't see me and also didn't notice that I stole them. I still have them to this day, and that's been roughly 2 years ago. Thanks, mum.
Pikaguy324 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:07:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting over the person that dumped me but then kept trying to drag me along. My parents, and friends all told me to try to move on and Iโd be happier. I didnโt listen and my attitude got so bad, I was depressed all the time. Then one day I woke up and said itโs time to move on. Best decision I ever made, in the happiest Iโve ever been. I have an amazing family and amazing friends. Glad I took the advice
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:23:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fun and failure both start out the same way
Cigarette-Butt ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:30:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My friends telling me not to use Reddit
BATZmanz719 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:38:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pushing my shoulder blades together and using my back muscles when shooting a bow
Batatta ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:56:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take notes in lectures
Dudukf ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:00:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditate.
I was always really skeptical about this kind of thing, so I never got the effects of it when I tried because I was not putting in the effort. When I decided to give it a judgement free shot, it metaphysically blew my mind. 5-10min a day is enough. Try guided meditations or apps like Calm, Insight Timer and Headspace.
idontknowmyusernane ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:05:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always be positive
hypernovapulsar ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:14:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Literally "just try it".
So many things we avoid as children and even adults. Food, activities, whatever.
flower_milk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:23:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know I'll get shit for it because I know I hate hearing it from other people, but "just stop being depressed". I went to therapy and the TL;DR is essentially just recognizing that you're digging yourself into a hole of depression and to combat it by saying to yourself "no, I don't want to be depressed" and doing something else to make you feel better or take your mind off it. Like it really is that simple of a solution and I felt like a total idiot afterwards, but it genuinely helped me deal with my depression. The hardest part is recognizing when you start digging yourself into that hole of depression, and caring about yourself enough to want to dig yourself out, that's what people get wrong the most when offering advice about dealing with depression. But once you've done those things, the solution really is just to change your way of thinking to combat it whenever it starts creeping back up again.
Pasjaz ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:44:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom use to tell me and my siblings that when it came to adult conversations they were having in front of us we could listen, watch but keep to ourselves. As in keep what was being said to ourselves. Never understood it until I had my own kids and realized they will repeat everything that me and my husband say about others. Makes total sense now.
Grethmare ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 21:49:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look at a bright light when you sneeze. Thought it was a myth, found out my mom has light sensitivity and sneezes whenever she sees bright lights, and it really helps me to sneeze when I can't.
Bokimane ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:19:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To wipe my ass sitting down used to do it standing up
Lazarlaz3r ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:29:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually saving up my money for a phone. Now I can write this
k0ntemplat0r ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:34:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I lost wifi connectivity on my Macbook whenever I used an hdmi to USB-c converter I bought on Amazon (don't ask me why). I Googled this issue and the first thing I found was a video with a guy saying that the solution is to wrap the converter's cable in aluminum foil. I thought it was a troll until I tried it and it worked (don't ask me why)
Rocket5454 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:37:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My parents always told me to 'buck up'. And i feel dumb for the fact that i used to never do that. And then when someone tried to boss me around i yelled at them and they cried. I still feel bad for doing that, yet dont. Its like discovering you have a super power except instead of a power its making people feel bad.
cyphonismus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:43:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make sure that any object you put up your ass has a flared base.
honestGeryon ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:46:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lift weights to improve mood
andreaioj ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:21:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a stomach ache, poop and itโll go away
janejanexoxo ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:30:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Play dumb games, win dumb prizes
IcySmooth ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:37:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting chest rub on your lip when you have a stuffy nose, so that you always breath it in cause it helps,...and it really does!
kamealh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:40:31 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thats like shitlers mustache except withchest rub instead of poop on ur friends upper lip while he sleeps
pipi-sama ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:53:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it's always better to regret knowing than wondering
DoYouEvenTIG ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:57:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can't stay mad if you skip. Thought it was bullshit till I tried it, felt so stupid it made me laugh.
HyperbolicLogic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:09:55 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"If you want to lose some weight, drink more water" You would be surprised as to how much you being hungry is actually just being thirsty. Lost 30 lbs just from this trick over 6 months.
Wesley_dellinger ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:30:41 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Don't lie" Even if it's about something super small, it normally just causes more problems
AlRedux ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:34:28 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doubt yourself. Don't believe all this 'believe in yourself' crap you see. Re-evaluate your life, don't just think you're right and fine and okay. Take everything back to the bare bones, start from the absolute minimum you have. Disavow all this 'you're a star' shit. Don't own a t-shirt that says 'hope', own one that says 'doubt'.
Valds00 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:28:32 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get good sleep lol
saltybucketsspams ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:31:26 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
After you bust a nut/half bust one you can pinch the base of your dick and get the rest out like itโs a yogurt tube.
midwest_vanilla ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:43:52 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If youโre getting a shot in the ass, turn your toes in. You canโt tighten your glutes if youโre pigeon toed. My GP taught me this many years ago when I was a kid.
KahlKitchenGuy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:18:49 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use your hand as a make shift sqeedgy in the shower and push of the majority of the water so your towel doesnโt get as wet
420buttbabies69 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:05:22 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jacking off briefly clears congested sinuses
iam_xtopher ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:59:03 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Got liquid stuck in your ears? Tilt your head to any side and jump twice..
This worked everytime.
DezzaDee ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:38:46 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been playing drums ofr 6-7 years now and a piece of advice is got was to "beatbox the sheet music while playing". I thought this was complete Llamashit until I actually tried it.
And then I played Drums for 6-7 years
argielurker ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:01:22 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wash your feet with cold water. If youโre having a long day at work, and you have access to a private sink/bathroom, take of your shoes and socks, wash your feet and put them back on. Itโll clear your head and make you more comfortable. It sounds dumb but damn if it doesnโt work wonders.
(Be careful not to make a mess though, thatโs just bad etiquette.)
IlzyDot ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:15:38 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
donโt worry about things you have no control over.
I struggle with anxiety a lot and I always thought this advice was stupid because having no control made me even more anxious. Of course Iโm gonna worry about it!
Then, after a breakup from a very toxic relationship and the start of my final, very difficult, year of my degree, I said to myself, โokay, letโs put all my energy into things I control. I control my money, I control how hard I work, I control who I do and donโt have relationships with. Letโs work to make that as good as possible and think less about what I have no say in whatsoever.โ
I still have my moments, but after doing this I am so much happier as a person and feel so much more accomplished. Of course hints happen that are out of our control and that make life sad and difficult, but Iโve learned to deal with those things when they happen and, for now, concentrate on whatโs in front of me.
gijsonreddit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:15:31 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wearing a condom during sex
spike_right ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:09:25 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Invest in good shoes and a good matris cause if your not in one your probably in the other.
OLd_uiE ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:24:32 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People will pay you two things, stuff they can do, and stuff they don't want to do, and you don't what to do the latter
savage_traveler ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:15:05 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting lemon in water to make it taste less like the pipes/chlorine.
Sudo_Nim88 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:00:45 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deleting cookies before buying plane tickets or hotel rooms online
TinktheChi ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 22:34:27 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always pay yourself first. Doesn't seem important at age 20, but if you start early with small amounts you will quickly gather a small fortune.
fiddlesdevil ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:30:51 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you for the reddit gold , my first time for gold!
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:56:13 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
CALM DOWN
GluDeusMaximus ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:31:53 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
watching game of thrones
darakpop ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 18:11:07 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have hiccups and it REALLY doesn't pass, try sticking an ice cube up your bellybutton.
It works weirdly well.
Seabass62907 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:19:08 on May 15, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So I was struggling in math and my teacher really cared about me and wanted me to succeed we will call her mrs d. Mrs d knew I was a really good student and she knew I can do better. So she suggested staying after every day in order to get me grade up and I did. The she suggested that I should actually try in the first few weeks in the quarter (which is 9 weeks) and I did and look at me now a b honor roll and I really want to give mrs d all the credit.
sugarmango_senpai ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:02:07 on May 17, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A little late but here it goes: Student-athlete here, fight in taekwondo tournaments representing my school as a varsity. Been doing taekwondo for a little under 6 years. (Iโm 14) My coach and some of my teammates told me that whenever I fight, I should just be chill and focus on the opponentโs movements. While I do agree with the latter, I didnโt believe that being chill and relaxed while fighting an opponent was the way to go. Instead, I would fight with rage and have the intention to hurt the enemy, making me kinda seem like a war freak to the others. I just liked fighting like I wanted to kill. (nowadays taekwondo is a sport based on points, so even if you break a few bones and your enemy being unscathed, if you have more points you still win) When I did this, Iโd lose a lot, and I didnโt know why. I trained my hardest, I worked my hardest, and I put my best effort into becoming strongest. However, I still kept losing. Then I remembered what my coach said about relaxing and being chill, and I tried it on one fight. I felt like I could see through his moves. When he got exhausted from fighting, I still felt like I could go all day. The best part was that I could focus better on what I needed to do and when I had to kick. All-in-all, I felt completely different and felt like fucking Bruce Lee. From that point on, I started winning more often. Iโll take this chance to say that whenever you fight someone, itโs best to relax and keep your composure, and not act like the goddamn hulk.
Ace9825 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:27:47 on May 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
sleep more
N0tFrpmI0wa ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:43:01 on May 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When learning something there are 3 steps to success: 1) Accuracy 2) Speed 3) Complexity.
Master it accurately, then do it faster, then add complexity to the task. You canโt skip a level (I love to jump to complexity & speed). This was the #1 rule from my Occupation Brain therapist and it rebuilt my life after a severe traumatic brain injury (TBI).
irishcreamcoffee94 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:02:41 on May 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a headache, imagine your brain is covered in a black, tar like substance. Now imagine your favorite scent of soap. While thinking of your soap, imagine it cleaning off the tar, especially in the area your headache is localized.
Thought this was absolute bullshit until I tried it. It works. Until you stop thinking about the soap.
Gamerboy531 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:23:26 on May 21, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You should study for your final exams."
Ab_bearbear ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 13:05:32 on May 21, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My sister once told me that dating a friends ex was something I should never do. I thought it was common sense, at least until I accidentally fell for my friends ex. I didnโt even know they dated, but after him and I went out for a while we split up (mainly cause I felt guilty).
23DumbShit32 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:58:02 on May 22, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt ever go to the store and buy groceries when you hungry. Youโll end up buying so much useless shit
john_sixta ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:19:08 on May 24, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"slow is smooth, and smooth is fast"
So many applications to this advice I don't even know where to start
lukepedia ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:25:47 on May 26, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're ever tired, or just feel like you don't want to do anything, change your clothes, preferably into a pair of clothes particularly suited to the activity you want to complete. It's an incredible boost.
darth_vaper_86 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 19:26:36 on May 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Flexing a muscle for 30 seconds gets rid of an unintended boner
MisViolence ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:12:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Run away from a damaged girl
peteandroger ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 00:03:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretty much everything thing my parents told me through high school
quavo11 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 00:41:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be happy
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:16:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks Iโm cured
Jk Iโm sorry I feel bad leaving a salty comment
kraftsmacandcheese ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:21:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was little, around 2nd grade, we learned about the golden rule: Treat others how you want to be treated. I thought it was so stupid because I always thought of how other people are so unpredictable. You never know if someone will act like how you act towards them. Anyways, fast forward a couple of years later, I met this family friend. I forgot her name. She was an absolute bitch to me for no reason. I kept trying to be her friend and asked her how she was doing, shit like that. Nothing worked. Then, I acted like a bitch to her and she started to stop. I guess the advice kinda worked.
[deleted] ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:26:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Latinboy714 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:27:36 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Paper or plastic sir? Hold on maโam!
Unassuminglocalgirl ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 02:45:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise to relieve stress
RobinFox12 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:47:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom gave me this piece of advice for relieving homework stress when I was younger and I ignored her. It actually does wonders though.
STINKYnobCHEESE ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:26:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont cum in the bath.
ever since I took this advice I haven't had to peel off scabs of cum from my leg hair, and the water drains a lot quicker now
Cher9969 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 06:46:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yuk
seedster5 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 03:56:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gargling with salt. Like why when there medicine. Then I learned gargling with salt is better than medicine
ObnoxiousOldBastard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:18:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandmother taught me this one, & it works really well. Good for unclogging your sinuses too.
Apps4Life ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 01:44:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gargling then Drinking a shot of apple cider vinegar cures hiccups. First thought was nothing cures hiccups this is just another one of those stupid things you try that doesn't work. It has worked literally every time, instantly, and without fail, not only on me but on the people I make try it (who are always reluctant to). I don't know how this isn't one of the most well-known solutions by now because it really does work.
facepalmforever ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:13:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a Charlie horse cramp in your leg, don't try to remain motionless or massage it out - get up as fast as you can and put all your weight on it. Instant relief.
tevansalim ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:06:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stretching in the opposite direction helps me a bunch.
chefmeow ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:47:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get up and drink some pickle juice. Source: I am a commercial pickle producer and Blue Belt MMA.
BeyondAddiction ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:27:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad has spent years in the 12 step program so the Serenity prayer (it should say "God, grant me..." but it works just as well as a secular mantra):
Grant me the serenity,
To accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
Kolazar ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:35:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was doing physical training with a fellow solider and there was one particular exercise he hated. So he'd say "I love pull ups they're my favorite." I thought it was funny as shit cause of the up beat enthusiasm and how blatant the lie was. ( considering were doing this at 6 am and pretty much no one wants to be there) When I got out and started going to the gym with a friend I'd repeat the phrase when ever I was doing sets of an exercise either him or I were bad at for shit n giggles. I didn't expected it to be so radically motivating and cause me to actually like the workout. I was just doing it to harass my friend a little and cause it was funny.
Avlonnic2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:41:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This worked?
Kolazar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:19:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well for me it does, then again I was with a friend, love the suffering of others and relish in certain levels of dark humor.
Kolazar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:22:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you should try it to see if it works on potentially non-psychopaths.
BastionUnity ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:39:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listen to instrumental music while you work. It actually puts your mind at ease and gives you some nice noises to listen to without being distracted by lyrics. I've been listening to Lofi playlists recently while doing homework and it helps a ton rather than listening to my usual music.
bsash ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:54:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try classical, most people like it more than they expect once they give it a try as background music
ClickClack_Bam ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:24:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your can stop hiccups by focusing on the next hiccup.
You say it's gonna happen now, it's gonna happen now. It'll never happen. You do that for about 10 seconds. I just did this this week for the hundredth time.
I've more than once made people think it was "real magic" by having them do this lol.
It doesn't work on drunk hiccups.
kdu3142 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:53:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being creative is not about having an idea just pop into your mind from an absolute vaccum...
Creativity is studying and researching and learning, and being able to get all your research to fit what you need to create.
I was an egotistical designer.
kidazuria ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 04:59:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Warm Gatorade.
Haven't tried it yet, but have a feeling it will work as an alternative to tea for common cold
nach00 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 05:05:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sweet talking your printer before using it actually helps.
Rentacop123 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 05:06:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly. Better than not at all. Eventually every thing gets a little easier.
SmallTowneBoy ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:11:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If youโre a guy, especially 14-24, jerk off in privacy before going to the pool/beach. Youโre less likely to get a awkward erection when you see the ladies.
ADDITIONALLY: If you need an erection to go away pronto, flex your arm (or any muscle really) as hard as you can and hold it. The flexed muscle will begin to demand the extra blood flow, and the erection will go down.
OnlyGoodRedditorHere ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:40:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happiness is a choice
inb4 r/wowthanksimcured
NuclearMoose92 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:14:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A bit late to the party here, but if you're having trouble sleeping due to an overactive mind or that, hold on to a piece of string while you're trying to sleep and concentrate on holding the string, eventually you'll drift off
GerryKatzman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:27:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
@nuclearmoose92 Iโm fascinated. I canโt find anything about this online. Where does this come from? Could you expound? Thanks
NuclearMoose92 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:30:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I do it a lot, basically grab a piece of string( or something like that) and just hold it while trying to sleep, I find that I'm concentrating so hard on holding the string that I forget what I'm thinking about and I'll just wake up the next morning
Spooki ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 07:31:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take your empty glasses back to the bar. Bartenders appreciate it a lot
Ugly_Patootie ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 01:57:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The best way to get over someone is to get under someone.
This was told to me when I was 17 by a friendโs mother. While I still think it was horrifically inappropriate to say to a teenage girl, after my most recent break up it came to mind and actually helped me. I had been in a 5+ year relationship and I was afraid that maybe I would never meet a good person again. Dating/sleeping around more than I normally would actually helped remind me what it was like when someone put in effort into pleasing and impressing me.
svenson_26 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 16:38:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not for me.
For me, the best way to get over someone is to work yourself to the bone. Take on extra shifts at work. Take on more difficult tasks. Hit up the gym every day and go hard. Cook elaborate healthy meals. Clean up your place. Tackle jobs you were meaning to get to.
When your head finally hits the pillow, you have 5 seconds to look back on a super productive day that you can be proud of before you pass out from exhaustion. You have no time to be sad.
Ugly_Patootie ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:51:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting because it ended up being kind of similar for me. Itโs hard for me to do things for the sake of myself so my dating life became a motivator. For example I would keep my apartment clean just in case someone came over, Iโd spend time randomly researching various topics so I could hold a conversation about almost anything, Iโd wake up early to make sure Iโd finish my errands in the afternoon so Iโd have time to go out in the evening, and Iโd treat my body extra nice with good food and exercise because I wanted to live up to my dating profile pics. On top of that meeting new people is exhausting for me mentally, so Iโd end my day content but fully spent this completely unable to be sad.
That being said, I do genuinely admire your ability to do these things without external motivation!
svenson_26 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:18:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I definitely had external motivation, especially in the beginning. My family and friends were a big help.
sawyerph0 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 03:48:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I agree with this. Though the stigma associated with this can fuck people who are sensitive to their own perceived social status.
The_Im_ge ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:18:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I needed this, thanks!
ISellRX7sFor20MCr ยท -16 points ยท Posted at 06:20:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
you disgust me deeply
Sorcha16 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:35:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why ?
Bhubbuuhbbh ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 16:36:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slut.
Pizzamaker18 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 00:32:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tell her โ60% of the time it works every time.โ
ketzo ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:38:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a pair of Apple earbuds/AirPods, and you've used them heavily for a while, likely you hit a point where they get really quiet and seem not to really work.
You might have noticed that they still play sound out of the little side vents, just not out of the main vents.
Suck on the earbud. Pretty hard, until you can feel/hear air flowing through the earbud. I've never not seen it work.
The first time I heard this, I genuinely thought I was being pranked. Nope. Works a charm.
ArchiPellagio ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 02:48:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ew. What's coming out into your mouth after sucking?
Giggity
jinxtoyou ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:29:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ask that girl to dance! If she says no, tell her you donโt want to fuck just dance and have a good time.
I did it, sweated my ass off getting up the courage. It worked. Girl gave me a funny ass look when I said it to her, because at first she said no. I told her I donโt want to have sex I just wanted to dance and have a good time. We did and she stayed on my arm the whole time. It cut right through all the bullshit.
MildlyCute ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:38:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I came here to say put toilet paper in the toilet so the water doesn't splash your butt after a poop but I guess it was the other type of advice lol
Couch_monster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:55:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why would you deny yourself Poseidonโs Kiss??
Omega142 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:45:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apple cider vinegar on sunburns
Satins_receptionist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:47:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Really?
Stardustchaser ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:00:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
White vinegar is good too.
brazthemad ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 16:20:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Swallow the toad." Basically, do the thing you don't want to do first, and then everything else you have to do doesn't seem that bad.
juwannamann1 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 02:09:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Masturbate with a nice pair of salad tongs.
puddud4 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:04:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you a guy?
i-like-m ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:36:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is sin
tew13til ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:18:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shoot yer load n hit the road
ILikeToLift95020 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:28:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nail and bail
lukwsk ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 00:57:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When wakesboarding, lean back like you are faliing. So counter-intuitive until you try.
motu147 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:35:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
After a long flight, when you get back to the hotel, take off your shoes and socks and make fists with your toes.
peligant ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:41:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be yourself
prjohan493 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:42:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learning to enjoy life and have fun
sean_hates_onions ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:43:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
pay attention
HardKase ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:47:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just be yourself.
Bagpiper513 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:49:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't care about what other people think. It's such a simple thing to hear, but only recently have I started practicing it. I used to care a lot about what other people thought of me, but now I have so much less anxiety. Sometimes it's good to listen to what people have to say, but don't get so worked up about it. It's just not worth the mental energy.
the_fenixdown ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:54:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using the back of a spoon to spread stuff onto bread/toast instead of a butter knife. Makes it much easier to spread stuff onto untoasted bread without damaging it.
skidr0jr ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:01:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A bit on the weirder side but my RA in college said these words. "You can be stupid. Just don't be fucking stupid." Like, have fun! Try new things, maybe do something legitimately stupid, just exercise a little caution ya know?
Not like super sage or anything, but that mindset definitely helped me loosen up and enjoy my first years of college A LOT more.
DomHaynie ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:03:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rocking back and forth on the toilet makes you shit faster.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:05:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Youโre not drinking enough water.
goofusthegreat ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:05:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To tell yourself to shut up when your overthinking...literally having a fight with the negative thoughts in your head. Works like a charm
pm_ur_uterine_cake ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:23:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instead of apologizing for something, offer thanks... (especially when the apology will often come across as empty or insincere).
For example โ I tend to run a little late for things, particularly client appointments during the day. Sometimes because of the kind of person I am, but also because I get caught up spending a bit too much time with one client, which snowballs into the next, then the next, etc... itโs good client care, but pisspoor time management. Anyway, rather than routinely entering a room and immediately spitting out, โsorry to keep you waiting!โ , Iโve started walking in, smiling, and thanking the client for waiting, and 9 times out of ten I get a sincere smile and nod in return.
Itโs astounding how a simple wording change can improve the mood in the room. Everyone appreciates being thanked.
fairiefire ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:24:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nothing good happens after midnight.
the_salivation_army ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:34:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But thatโs like Gremlins, technically itโs always after midnight.
HappyMaskMajora ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:29:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make a list of all the activities you need to do in a day or a week.
Seems useless right, you already know what you have to do. But if you procrastinate like me you'll probably never end up doing it. Its actually pretty helpful to not forget about a said activity too and it's satisfying to check off your list of things to do. Very satisfying when you finish it with nothing left on your mind.
trisara-tops ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:33:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When youโre overwhelmed or stressed out taking 3 deep breaths
coldrejection ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:35:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn the soda tab around to hold the straw
turtleonarock ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:43:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just drink from the can.
nadsulpia ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:37:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom always made me try on clothing as a kid that I was sure I wouldnโt like. Most of the time it was those items that I left the store with. Basically just be open to trying new looks and you will be surprised what you might look really good in.
Inathosca ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:41:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Two in the pink, one in the stink!
mrazeksbigballs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:44:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use wetnaps to finish cleaning your ass after a shit.
Satins_receptionist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Been doing this since I could even wipe my own ass
mrazeksbigballs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:50:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So for a year now? Congrats.
Satins_receptionist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
?
baneOfFarm ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:44:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just be yourself. You donโt even know what it means until late 20s early 30s.
theebrycer ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:44:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Swim with socks on
Bonus: Wear a lifejacket diaper style
RobinFox12 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:48:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What
theebrycer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It feels amazing
RobinFox12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:54:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That just sounds restricting honestly.
opaul11 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:57:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. Being nice to awful people sucks but it makes them much easier to work with.
yoursolace ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:00:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How to whistle by saying the word "quest" (stopping at the qu, and blowing)
ohpee8 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:17:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Writing down your to do list gets you to do them somehow. It works lol
crunchiponies ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:27:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wear a helmet.
eminemondrugs ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:35:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
donโt just wrap yourself in a towel, rub that shit on your body. no one gave me this advice, so i had to discover myself as an adult. pants go on so much easier now!
t7jw ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:48:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This old video of a guy with a thick accent teaching you how to get rid of a headache. Should be one of the first if you look it up on YouTube
The basic technique involved him (or yourself) asking a series of questions, and you were supposed to close your eyes and visualize the response.
Where is your headache? What color is it? What shape is it?
And repeat these until itโs gone. Sounds BS but itโs gotten rid of even the most splitting headaches Iโve had.
_gracielou_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:56:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise helps with anxiety in depression. I mean, it is obvious now that I think about it, but at the time it wasn't. I tried and it didn't work, but it wasn't until I started jogging that I felt happy/normal. Turns out regular stretching doesn't help lmfao
prettyoddpotato ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:55:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm sure this'll be lost, but cry. Go to a quiet, calm, and comfortable place and just cry. Don't think "this is so immature" or "I'm just being shitty, I shouldn't cry. I'm in the wrong." Just ignore it and cry for a while. After I cry I can always think much more clearly and figure out what's going on and why I'm upset, and if I need to apologize for something.
haydenwolfe888 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:15:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt be an idiotโchanged my life
_walkerland ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:23:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When people show you who they are, believe them.
The amount of times Iโve let people through on who they used to be, or who I believed the could be etc etc...
Iโm pretty great these days. Chop chop, muthafahhhh.
bobjohnsonmilw ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:56:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The adults around you are lying. They have no clue what the fuck they are doing.
I was 10 years old when I first learned it. I was 20 years old when I was fully convinced they were full of shit.
Prove me wrong.
RobeD96 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:33:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When youโre nervous, tense your stomach muscles and the โbutterfliesโ disappear.
As someone who works a lot with clients and public speaking this has been invaluable.
Maun04 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:24:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Please downvote me I have to lose karma ๐ค๐ค๐ค
flabflabtheflabbin ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:03:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you're thinking of something you don't want to be thinking of, try blinking slowly whenever you start thinking of it again.
ty758 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:16:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Poor people spend their money.
Middle Class People save their money.
Rich people invest their money.
Crowfooted ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 20:17:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you are down in the dumps and having trouble taking care of your body and mind (eating well, sleeping well, washing regularly, etc), pretend you're a demon possessing someone else's body.
Sounds really dumb, I know, but someone gave me this advice and it works really well. It makes your body seem like a valuable asset to maintain.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:11:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you have hiccups, plug your ears and drink water from a straw. Sounds stupid. Looks stupid. Was told to me by someone who is stupid. Damn if it donโt work.
Octopus_in_Boots_ ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 00:38:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Melting cheddar cheese on top of apple pie. I've never wanted apple pie without cheese on top since.
zerotheliger ยท 8 points ยท Posted at 03:24:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i dont believe you.
Octopus_in_Boots_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:27:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you know you don't like it until you've tried it tho.
rice-paper ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:05:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Are you Travis Bickle?
YaBoiiBeeKay ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:46:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An apple pie without the cheese
is like a hug without the squeeze!
Octopus_in_Boots_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:05:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm using this from now on when people look at me like I'm insane whenever apple pie and cheese comes up!
AneriphtoKubos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:08:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To meditate
FreakingWiffle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:26:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โJUST DO ITโ
No, really. It works without fail.
prettygood--notgreat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:35:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When stressed or nervous, take five deep breaths, counting to five on the inhale and on the exhale. It always helps me--at least for a little while--to settle down and focus.
alabaster49 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:40:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Quit smoking cigarettes cold turkey but now I don't regret a single day of quitting cold turkey. I'm happy about it thanks to my boyfriend
cplank92 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:40:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn left to go right
SolveigTheViking ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:57:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you don't know, fake it.
avocados-from-mexico ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:59:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditating
intangible-tangerine ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:00:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having a bed time. Turns out if you have to get up at 7am, going to bed at 11pm rather than 3am is actually beneficial. Who knew?
haleyg2002 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:01:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep yourself busy to avoid snacking. Weird, but it works.
thelobear ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:07:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practice makes perfect.
mahlifeizzzzperf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:07:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The more you smile the happier you are. Originally I was kind of offended that I should smile more but I tried it and it makes socialization and random chit chat much easier.
Howmuchissome ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:08:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink raspberry leaf tea. Seemed silly but it's life changing
Claud6568 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 01:31:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok Iโll bite. How is it life changing?
Howmuchissome ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:11:41 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Monthly cycle went from 10 days bleeding down to 4. No more cramps. No major symptoms at all.
Total cycle went from 26 or 27 or occasionally 24!!! days to usually 28 sometimes only 27.
I'll drink a cup a day till I die... Or menopause.
chumchumchurum ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:09:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
meditate
Tkauley234 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:12:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This chromebook im using
m7md29 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:12:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was advised not to attend lectures at college because i won't understand anyway , i didn't care about that .. I actually was wrong . They are useless.
Shrieka1987 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:24:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As someone intending to go back after a decade of no schooling. Why are they useless?
I've heard from many people you're basically teaching yourself the course, but aren't lectures a good resource to use?
m7md29 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:41:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually , for me , they aren't absolutely. Only few professors are brilliant in the academic teaching way. Colleges in their staff-choosing process depend on the people with highest marks not on the people who can teach. You tube has been a better source. In a 5-minute video I can learn more than a 3-hour lecture.
Shrieka1987 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:48:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That does make sense. I've heard things like this before and can recall a few high school teachers being smart, but just awful at explaining things
rafaelcisco ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:13:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have hiccups, hold your finger sideways under your nose and it makes the hiccups go away.
spank-memommy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:14:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going out of my mind
NonfunctionalSoy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:15:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I count backwards from 3000
Matrix10011 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:15:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use your own saliva to masturbate if u dont have any lub
keamacaroni ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:15:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"love yourself"
Dinomite72 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:19:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
a straw in the middle of your movie theater popcorn. on god it works like a charm
Thisfoxhere ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:02:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What does it do?
RobboBobboTakenWhy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:20:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Study for exams
imaginary_leg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:20:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're feeling bad or nervous, exercise.*
idontgetitmanwtf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:20:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shave your balls with the grain
mkomaha ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:21:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dip your chicken tendies in coke. Itโs awesome.
Random_act_of_Random ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:21:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Had leg cramps all the time. Thought I had some problems with my body, doctor told me to stretch my calves right before bed. Haven't had a cramp since.
sahil206 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:22:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put it in Wumbo.
ArtJDM ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:23:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Brush your teeth
SolarAustin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:38:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
& Floss picks!
mguerin03 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:24:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left, Doc Hudson to Lightning McQueen original Cars.
nynaeve_mondragoran ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:25:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Irrigating my sinuses
Bohemian_Jacksody ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:25:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Get Reddit"
HammerBruh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:27:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sleeping naked
kitycat22 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:27:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being happy.
soapydadballs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:29:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jerk off youโll like it.
AngryGothBoi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:29:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deep breathing for stress
weeniehutjr6969 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:30:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yoga and meditation
Creepz69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:30:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't eat yellow snow
mookietaco3000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:31:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The hardest part of the day is getting up.
bungboi086 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:31:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
don't knock it till you try it
Conansriver ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:32:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Swish warm water with salt around your mouth to get rid of tooth pain and rebuild your teeth. Some kind of mineral reaction going on. Do it daily,
Shrieka1987 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:31:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have started oil pulling in the last couple weeks. It seems to have a nice overall affect. Whiter teeth, better breathe. Helps alleviate inflammation.
I've read that overtime it can help with disease
xXPizzaPillowXx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:32:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink water.
SCAR-HAMR ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:32:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Check your freaking tests and work
FunkyRiffRaff ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:32:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rinsing rice before you cook it.
SwagSandwichSY ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:32:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise helps with depression and anxiety, actually does work like a charm
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:32:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making your bed every morning. Worked wonders for my mental health.
the_walrus0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:33:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting my outfit ready the night before.
Ranapaese ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:33:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Have you tried turning it off then back on again?"
EridanusVoid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:33:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have pee shyness do math in your head...it helps.
Swartz12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:33:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can put your foot there, you can also put your hand
chickens_beans ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:33:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Quit drinking coffee and you'll sleep better
so1boi_2001 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:33:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking a jog can help you relax.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:34:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Inkd_Bella ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A good warm up and a crap load of water with a banana before, works like a charm for me, I hope it helps!
CatOfGrey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:33:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You don't have to respond to the bullies."
I was a target child. Bullied, a lot. The bullying didn't stop, but it dropped, when I let go of the need for responding to every insult that someone gave me.
rafeyboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:33:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i hear stop being anxious is very affective
KAOSBlackfalcon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:34:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"No one cares, work harder"-Cameron hanes
Never thought of this as useless advice but the past couple of months I've really changed myself for the better
Dj_Woomy2005 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:34:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sleep
millenial_simulacra ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:34:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take care of yourself
LilMeatBigYeet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:34:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad says cleaning your asshole with a jet of water rather than using toilet paper. He had a little shower handle installed next to his toilet for precisely this. A habit he picked up in India.
aurKINR ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:47:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
gotta watch out in india might have a huntsman spider crawl up u like antman
smallcurtis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:35:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You better get up off your rump, if you want to make it
zerbey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:35:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a shy bladder, start doing sums in your head. It switches on a different part of the brain and you can pee with confidence.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:35:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes you fuck up so bad your parents donโt have to punish you. When I asked my friends dad why my parents gave nary a shit about my being arrested.
superloginator ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:35:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to AA meetings.
BergHeimDorf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:35:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
drinking water when hungry
jbhilt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:35:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My car was overheating. My mom told me to boil the thermostat. Yeah right, mom.
That shit worked perfectly.
bigheyzeus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:36:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
With bare feet, make fists with your toes on carpet. Thanks Die Hard!
RJRubin24 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:36:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
make sure to get at least 8 hours of sleep , tried this when i was 9. changed my life
redamou ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:36:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slow down and pace yourself, you will actually finish your race faster.
wigglyreddog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:36:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ok, so not quite till I tried it, but rather till not doing it bit me in the ass. My mom always told me to pack a change of clothes in my carry-on, but nooooo, I'm the experienced traveler who flies around the country for work, with status and everything. Till I got stuck overnight in Atlanta and they wouldn't give me luggage. Moms are usually right.
skiingineer2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pouring a pot of coffee into a new pair of leather work boots and then wearing them dry to break them in.
Sounded like bullshit, worked great.
trippingchilly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can shit in one hand and wish in the other, see which fills up first
Thief-of-Hope ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When falling asleep, I imagine moving water. I focus on visualizing the way it moves (be it ocean lake or river), the sound of it, and the smell. It makes my brain slow down and relax.
Mick0331 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just ask people how they're doing and take it to at least a third step. Don't say anything about yourself during those steps.
I do it with cashiers all the time and they treat me differently than other people. It's made my day to day easier, especially when I'm having a shitty day and they reciprocate.
AbdussamiT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making drinking water a habit.
For so many years, my parents told me to drink water whenever I felt sick (like headache, metabolism issue etc.). And every time I said hey it sounds silly how can water fix it.
But last year, when I had uric acid levels, I made water a habit and since then I have fallen less ill, have been happier, and have been fitter.
ThatGuyWithAnI ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To improve your mood all you have to do is fake smile at yourself in a mirror; you trick your brain into releasing more happiness chemicals which in turn makes you happier
DerpyDerpers526 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
in dirt turn left to go right
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed immediately when you wake up. You've accomplished something first thing, and probably won't go back to sleep.
massassi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"stop being depressed"
It's so easy to stay in the loop of downturns. It's so easy to dismiss my right to happiness. It's so easy to dismiss this advice as... Dismissive. But taking my life and my ability to manage my own... satisfaction in my own hands is actually possible too
CyborgsDontHaveNames ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:37:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using pepper in an open wound.
RamThe3rd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:42:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What?
CyborgsDontHaveNames ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:38:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can pack pepper into an open wound to act as a coagulant in a emergency. It doesnโt sting like you think it would.
RamThe3rd ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:09:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh wow. Thatโs really interesting!
LowerTale ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:38:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not looking at the time while at work.
I hate my job and dread it so much that looking at the time makes me dread it even more. This advice works wonders. I also been really good at my job since then.
SolHS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:38:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Write down your lists, don't just keep them in your head.
EnterTheAnorak ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:39:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise
Carrotpurse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:39:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sit up straight while youโre doing your homework.
danishcoffee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:39:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nobody ever gives me advice. Surprised I haven't died yet
Racc00nMusicDud3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:39:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You just gotta take it nice and fast
It was really nice when i was taking medicine
juicecan_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:39:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left.
sporks_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:40:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I perform dances on stage a few times a month, and I also love dancing at weddings. I was told I should get ballroom dancing shoes about 5 times and never listened because what a waste of money - I already have heels. Finally was told NO REALLY, GET BALLROOM DANCING SHOES!!! Life changer. Weddings are way more fun when you can dance in heels all night and NOT feel miserable because nobody else is going barefoot so you have to leave on your painful heels. Also, much easier to do cool choreography when your soles bend and move with your feet. 10/10 would recommend.
ExoticTadpole ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:40:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, taking medication the doc prescribed. Seems dumb now, but for a long time I refused to take certain meds cause I didnโt want to admit I was at the point I needed them.
PurpleCok3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:40:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Studying
Fizzicul ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:41:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using receipt paper on a credit card with a bad strip will make it go through on the machine.
Puffessor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:41:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make my bed, every morning. Somehow, I'm working out, doing great at work and waking up at 630 now, I don't know how or when it happened... But it can all be traced back to the day I started making my bed in the nothing.
LimaBean27 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:41:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have the hiccups to get rid of it instantly take a tiny spoonful of vinegar
metanoiamw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:41:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โJust think positiveโ. It sounds like BS until you actually give it a genuine try, and realize positive thinking really does impact not only your mental health but the way you approach day to day challenges
Incalculably ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:41:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tomorrow will be better. Somehow that small bit of advice gets me through my worst days, even though the first time I heard it it sounded straight up fake
cranktheguy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:41:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Crashed hard drive in the freezer. Sounds crazy, but I saved my kid's baby pictures.
kaoticgirl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:43:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hold on, what? My kid's baby pictures are locked in a crashed external drive.
cranktheguy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put it in the freezer. Like overnight. Then try it out. Mine crashed about halfway though recovery, but another night in the freezer let me get about 90% of everything off.
I learned my lesson and keep multiple copies of everything now.
kaoticgirl ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:01:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow I am going to try, thank you!
cranktheguy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:02:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good luck.
vivisectioned ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:41:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
proper diaphragm breathing. geez how it greatly improves my posture in a matter of days.
decomposingtrashbag ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:41:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having a kid. Kid what from feeling like a waste to being an actual waste ๐
roonerspize ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Time Management - schedule your meetings, estimate the time for your tasks, know your typical waste time in a work day. Those three added together for a given day should not exceed the amount of work time you have for that day or you're going to get behind.
XFidelacchiusX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hookers like being slapped
LadyDeadpool89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting fake toy snakes around your plants to keep squirrels away because they tear plants out by the root. Astonishing how well it worked. I haven't seen a squirrel on my deck since.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Positivity and self forgiveness
montyleak ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You canโt kiss your elbow.
Lukeaf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fists with your toes ...
roraima_is_very_tall ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
fists with your toes.
randylikecandy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep your eye on the ball. It changed my little league career.
Karinrinkashi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:43:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If ain't broke, don't fix it. Now i don't do anything at work.
Roivas7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:43:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Writing down notes and reminders.
At first I thought I'd be able to keep it in my head and that writing notes took too long. Fourteen-year-old me was like, "Writing? Pffft. I can use that time to take care of important stuff instead."
Fast-forward to now, where I'm constantly forgetting about important stuff due to memory problems I ignored since I was fourteen. Thanks, me.
girl_has_no_name95 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:43:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fear the outsiders
Inkd_Bella ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:43:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nobody actually thinks about you as much as you think, people really don't care as much as you believe they do so stop trying to impress anyone other then yourself!
davethemacguy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:43:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercising
AlmightySD ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:44:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't rewear socks before washing and your shoes shouldn't smell bad. Mismatch socks if you have to
jack_johnsonfandude ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:44:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pressing your gooch after you pee
Changed my freaking life
leah_amelia ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:44:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
'If you never shoot, you never know'. Not literally speaking by the way, but if you have a big or important question to ask someone or you need to tell someone news but you're not sure in the moment if you should say it, just say it. It's harder to hold on to whatever information it is, especially when an opportune moment might not present itself again.
That being said, there's always an element of tact that you should still employ. Don't be a dick and just blurt it out if it's a very sensitive issue. That works on a case by case basis though so just kinda read the situation and base your delivery of said news or information on that situational reading.
Virginiafisher ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:44:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If nothing changes, nothing changes.
butsbutts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:44:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
dont shower before you poo
just_let_go_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:44:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Setting realistic goals. Example:
Don't make it your goal to become a rockstar,
Make it your goal to play guitar every day for at least 15 minutes.
This keeps you present, makes every day a potential success and you'll get a lot more enjoyment out of your craft. Much better than placing all your happiness and fulfilment far into a future that may never come into fruition.
nannerb123 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:44:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't kill yourself ๐
Plank_710 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:45:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look into a bright light when you feel a sneeze coming on. I hate the feeling of needing to sneeze and it going away. Looking into a bright light actually helps a lot and I've never been blue balled by a sneeze since.
Zdravstvuyte94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:45:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a self employed computer hardware & networking technician I always ask people: "Have you tried googling it?"
The average response: "No"
---After they Google it---
The new average response: "I found this video that showed me how to fix my issue"
intermaniax1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:45:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditate
sgtxsarge ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Check if it's plugged in
DreavusX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Quit drinking.
eatmytuna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turning it off then back on again.
howtobegoodagain ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
try to stutter, you won't... HAAAAAAAA.
actually works if you stutter involuntarily.
pmscott3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking a Mind Based Stressed Reduction course.
mbrooks9 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use baking powder on electric fires, not water
acetek ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wow. I was surprised to see I'm the only other person outside of the give minute people! Respect your elders was my advice! Never understood until I was an 'elder'!
Galaxey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you travel take off your shoes and socks and make fists with your toes on the carpet.
Reddit2vkrdf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:46:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left
linkhandford ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:47:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read the manual first
WEEBERMAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:47:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I overheard two men talking on an airplane in the row in front of me when I flew into Century City, CA back in the 80's.
It seemed that one was nervous about flying but probably had other things on his mind. Anyway the older gentleman said that when you get where you're going you take off your shoes and your socks and you walk around the rug barefoot and make fists with your toes.
Son of a bitch...fists with your toes. Seemed to work out for me.
HiramNinja ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:47:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...(HALT) never get too hungry, angry, lonely or tired.
I would add, dehydrated, off your supplement stack, or out of the reach of a bolt of caffeine.
HgThatoneguy37 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:47:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not sure if this counts but, eating roast beef tacos.
1_2_3_4_5__ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:47:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Guided meditation. It actually really works to relax.
Shoryuken44 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:47:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using a spoon to shell amd egg
khaki53 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:48:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
to be honest probably anything anybody's ever told me ever. I really like making all my own mistakes, apparently
ZoiSarah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:48:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink water. I didn't realize I was dehydrated every day off my life only drinking coffee, tea, juice. Making sure I drink several glasses of unadulterated water every day was a game changer. More energy, more focused
sheeprsexy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:48:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I started a software business 18 years ago, my dad insisted on giving me a license to a full scale CRM system. Frankly, I would have rather had the cash at the time and implementing it while trying to get my first customers felt beyond pointless. But he was my dad, I didnt want to tell him he was wasting my time and his money. Roll forward a couple of years, I was obliterating competitors in the market... almost entirely due to the planning and forethought of that damn CRM system. That's dad! God bless your soul... RIP.
theawesomefactory ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:48:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't argue with your children.
wasdeeznuts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:48:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We ain't got no ticket so quit you bitching
favoritemusic1982 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:48:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The "fuck it adjustment"
Is something annoying, upsetting or just not working out the way you thought?
"Fuck it!"
That's essentially the "fuck it adjustment." Thank you Dan Avidan.
SidneyHopchas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:48:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you tightly grab the base of your dick with your index and middle finger, and move up, it will get rid of all the extra piss, making it not go into your shorts when you're "done".
mangha7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:49:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yoga, always found it to be slow and ineffective.
Now that I've tried it, I can't imagine a life without the benefits of yoga.
Dropbear666 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:49:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always thought fake it till you make it is the most useless advice. Until I got two exclusive contracts from the manufacturer. Fake it but be prepare and do your research!!
DailyDoseOfErik ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:49:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doing well in school.
I hated high school, being told what i had to learn and why this or that is important. I thought that was dumb. It took 4 years of the marines beating sense into me and then when i went to college afterwards it turns out im smart when i apply myself and i liked going to school.
vampirejunkieee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:49:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wet it before u shove it
dmurawsky ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mindfulness Meditation
Thorhees ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it til you make it. Hard to fake confidence when you're in a self esteem deficit during puberty but once I got to 16-17 years old, that false confidence shielded me from a lot of potential bullying cause I no longer seemed like an easy target. Helped me build real confidence cause no one was constantly trying to tear me down anymore.
prettitea ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doing the dishes before they pile up that goes for house cleaning to if u straiten as you go saves time and the stress of trying to do a quick clean before company comes over
xXtechnogodXx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If your trying your best try harder
Once I finally decided to push myself I graduated high school
whywelive ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wish I could say this about my own advice, I give out great advice when it's for others, but I can never follow through with my own.
R-Bacon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:51:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If the dick aint deep enough, pull it out and tug start it
Gingerpants1517 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:51:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When cutting corn off the cob, put the end of the cob in the hole of an angel food cake or bundt cake pan. It holds the corn up right and the pan catches the kernels so they don't fly all over. Why would I ever need to know that? Because a local farmer gave away a TON of corn last year. I froze 18 quart sized bags.
qualitykitkat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:51:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake confidence until you have confidence
Dutch_Windmill ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:52:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait for all the facts to come out before you form an opinion. I've dodged more than my fair share of bullets with this in mind
dennysinnoh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:52:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โDonโt let it bother youโ
wildwildride ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:52:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
10% of paycheck into savings at a twenty years old. So important to start young
AudaciosThick ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:52:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yoga. Changed my life. I now pay more attention to what my body wants, and have learned ways to make it feel better, without popping a pill.
CuratorOfYourDreams ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:53:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Something on r/lifeprotips
logic-n-reason ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:53:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't use credit unless you're buying a home. Keeps money in yo pockets big time
purplgurl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:53:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saying something nice when I don't have a thing to say at all is actually a good piece of advice. It makes me feel far better saying something complimentary than me knowing I'm saying something that I don't necessarily believe to someone I don't necessarily like. I get way more from the deal. I feel like I've done a simple good and I get the whole butterfly effect thing- well I hope it has the whole butterfly effect thing for something postive for someone, somewhere, somehow...
IvoTailefer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:53:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hit on as many women as you can and u will get good results
VexedDeath ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:53:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you pretend to be happy long enough youโll no longer be pretending.
Made my old job more bearable. instead of sulking there in my chair all day I would interact with the guests and put on a smile, it made the days go by faster and helped lessen the mental tax.
SolarMatter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:53:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop fucking up.
any_means_necessary ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:54:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use mayo instead of butter on the outside of the bread when making grilled cheese sandwiches.
I know. Gross right? Wrong, try it.
FishSpecies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:54:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking neutral spirits to minimise the hangover
Epic_Evan_-_- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:54:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doing all of your homework as fast and as soon as you can. You get it over with and the rest of your day/week is just free. Feels pretty good
FlaccoIsPlayoffGoat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:54:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Friend recommended those nasal strips for when you have a cold. I didn't buy it, but I tried them anyway. They're godsends.
shrimp_top_ramen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:54:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How to tie that one knot in boy scouts. Works great as a noose.
D3adlyR3d ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:55:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's always better to have too much than not enough.
Was told to me in relation to pulling network cable, but it applies in a lot of places in life. But especially when pulling network cable, you can always cut off the extra but it's a bitch to add more.
jumbled_joe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:55:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bringing tissues to watch the endgame
Madfatter115 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:55:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Download reddit.
bolognabullshit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:55:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly... I feel like all Advice is useless until you use it.
ZeeDubyah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:55:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โPracticeโ
kittenmitten89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:56:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When drinking beer try to hold your pee as long as you can cuz if you go to toilet immediately, you'll open a secret pipe that will leak entire night.
shitler1234567890 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:56:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Athletic shorts under jeans, it's the way to go
BappoWappo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:56:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How to vape
junebaby621 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:56:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fold your clothes as you get them out of the dryer.
CaptainDilan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:56:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In life always read the fine print.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:56:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Birth Control but its too late
heyteej ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:56:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditate
theshankdude ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:57:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If youโre early you are on time, if youโre on time you are late.
altcoinage ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:57:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put the salt on your ketchup, not the fries. Sticks better!
tofu118 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:57:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The rub your finger on your nose then clear the foam off the top of your beer trick.
MyNewPhilosophy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:57:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โIf you just ignore him, he will stop pestering youโ -mom, regarding my older brother
Hakunamatata_420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Im reading through these like โpffft no way that works...โ guess ill have to try them to prove myself wrong haha
keein ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'd say talk to girls but i haven't tried that yet
MrSh3rlock ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take the word "just" out of your vocab. Your sentence will be more concise. Unless you're speaking about something judicial.
MyS0ul4AGoat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was told to use Knox Unflavored Gelatin to keep my tall ass Mohawk up.
Itโs works, flawlessly.
carlover1995 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
1 making my bed in the morning. it honestly made me able to sleep better 2 I enrolled in the navy and during bmq a master Corporal asked me if I really wanted to be there. when I said yes he didnโt believe me. I ended up having to leave because of health reasons. I may have wanted to be there but i wasnโt able to and him asking that helped me realize that i wasnโt able to.
possiblydefinitely ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The 5 minute productivity rule. โJust start and do it for at least five minutes.โ
Put that rule into play this past weekend and got SO much done. Literally more housework and cleaning than I usually get done over the course of months. My wife is thrilled and I feel incredibly accomplished.
Cantholdmymud ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Too much lube is almost enough lube" --discussing anal sex.
couchcatog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation. I always thought it was BS until I tried it one day while freaking out from anxiety. It clears the mind and calmed me down from my stress.
myoclonicdork ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't pee in the wind.
lolawyles ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
meditation
delionmem ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stay positive
Zhalorous ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:59:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditating
Assclown4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:59:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Basically everything I've ever been told. I have a terrible habit of not believing anyone's advice at first.
Fb62 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:59:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For FPS games, I knew a pro UT99 player who when I asked how to get better at aiming, she said "just click on people". Of course it doesn't really make sense, but I think it helps simplify aiming. Most people just think too much. Aiming is a simple concept, understanding and getting used to game mechanics and prediction are what is hard about it.
dantethescribe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:59:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want to do or learn something big, do a little bit everyday.
Iโve learned more in a year doing something an hour a day than I ever thought I would. Time waits for no man, and before you know it youโve spent it waiting for that big thing to pan out.
cam_monster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:59:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation
JakeRidesAgain ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:59:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you have the hiccups, think about marshmallows. I'm still not sure how or why this works.
IntersectingIDs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:06:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never heard of this before. Next time I get hiccups I will inevitably be trying this.
yikes_bos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:59:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Networking Works!
metaconcept ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't try too hard to get a girlfriend. Just maintain good friendships with girls.
MiamiPower ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Forgive and forget.
gdvr282 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Condems
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Therapy.
KnitBrewTimeTravel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Keep your eye on the ball"
No shit, Sherlock! What do you think I'm doing here holding this bat, standing the batter's box and
Ah, dang... ; )
patb2015 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat less, excercise more
DubbsyUbbsy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating kiwis with the rind on actually tastes pretty good and is faster, cleaner and more convenient than messing around with spoons and knives.
oguz279 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
All sorts of motivational bullshit that claims happiness. Source: tried most of them in the book; quit my 9-to-5 job, got my dream remote job (which I'm really happy with), traveled 40+ countries (and counting), met so many people, made so many friends, seen most beautiful places and experienced many different cultures. I'm really happy I did all these, but did these make me a happy person (whatever that means), not so much.
dahecksman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I didnโt take my advice but I told someone online that ketchup is good for mosquito bites. He messages me and tells me he thinks itโs not working I almost died laughing . I told him it takes a few hours ๐คฃ
itsmebutnotme ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:00:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just listen to your wife. No need to explain, don't tell a story tha tutu relates all the time and you think will make her feel better. Just. Listen. Best advice ever.
moonchild2998 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:01:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Join a gym after a major break up. Yes, it really does help
SuttonScowl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:01:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your first reaction is always your knee jerk reaction. Not reacting so quickly was a game changer.
Reckoner08 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:01:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The silverware divider thing in the silverware bins in the dishwasher always seemed like a bougie and unnecessary addition. Until we tried it. And life is so much better and will never be the same.
MouldyDog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:01:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
don't put your fingers where you wouldn't put your penis
Denahda ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:01:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation.
I've been struggling with my mental health, anxiety, motivation and concentration for a while now and it's amazing what 20 minutes a day does for your mindset and mood!
thedude0117 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:02:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathe...just take a minute to breathe
Cyrodiil_Guard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:02:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it 'til you make it
pheret87 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:02:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Find a girl that'll lick your asshole and marry her."
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:03:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
After 2 or 3 dates with a girl, let her do most of the texting and when she does reach out, you as the man set up the date. Letting the girl come to you will keep her attracted. Women don't like bad boys because they are bad boys, it's just that bad boys are often the only ones willing to take a step back and let a woman do the pursuing. To add to this, if a girl is acting a little distant, cancels a date, or says maybe to a date. Tell her, "ok i'd love to see you so let me know when your schedule opens up." And you do just that, wait for her to reach back out, then you as the man set the date up when she reaches out. You might wait a couple days, you might wait a week. Either way, you wait. She either reaches out and wants to see you or she doesn't want to see you. Attraction is not negotiated so you over pursuing won't make her attracted to you. Give her the time and space to miss you, as I've said, even if it's a week. Especially early on in the dating process. Most guys start chasing in this scenario and that is the worst thing that you can do.
Women need to do 70%-80% of the pursuing to feel fully attracted to a guy, whether they admit it or not. My dating game has improved dramatically after developing this mindset.
spicypineappleface ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:03:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you smile, the world smiles back.
As cheesy as it sounds, just trying my best to think positively wherever possible has really changed the way I live my life for the better.
Milkassassins34 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:03:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You canโt always plan ahead, you just gotta go with the flow
SpicyYeetle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:03:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Die
fvelloso ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:03:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you're upset about something, imagine crumpling that emotion into a tight small dark sphere. Then visualize yourself throwing it away/destroying it. Repeat a few times.
kasskar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:03:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Choosing to change certain things like:
I became a morning person by forcing myself to wake up early.
I forced myself to drink a ton or water instead of soda or sweet teas and now I mostly prefer water.
I am now trying to be more outgoing by going to social events Iโm usually avoiding and talking to people when I usually be too nervous to introduce myself.
zabuzabuzah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:04:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chase your tequila shot with water. Wash the taste right out.
Callmecruel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:04:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathe when you're anxious.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:04:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lemon juice on topical jalapeรฑo pepper burns
mysterybert ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:04:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Move your To Do list to your calendar. Parkinsonโs Law states โwork expands so as to fill the time available for its completionโ. You will get a lot more done when you block off your calendar with 15 minute To Do work blocks.
Fizzinja ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:04:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes looking on the positive side is imagining something worse and then being thankful it didn't happen.
Rather_Read_A_Book ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:05:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sleep more
Tyrania210 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:05:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
drinking from the opposite side of a cup to kill hiccups
Artist552001 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:05:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Set a time to do your work each night and stick to it. This seemed impossible to me, as someone who procrastinated often, but as soon as I made it habit, I was much less stressed.
K3yst0ner ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:05:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have a great day!
aDumbCollegeStudent ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:06:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never believed my friends on this, but if you can't find your car in the parking lot, putting the remote to your head and pressing the button can reach farther than just pointing the remote around the lot.
TheBurbs666 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:06:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being a self motivator as far as the hardest part is getting started. Meaning like sometimes you have to do a small minimal task to motivate you to work on something you actually want to do.
I like to draw/paint a lot so on days when I know I want to but just canโt find the motivation Iโll force myself to go do dishes or clean the cat littler box, set a timer for 10 minutes and clean up as much as I can. This is much better than just looking at the internet for an hour and just saying fuck it.
Then when youโre done with any of those things itโs much easier Transition into something you want to do
s_gmitchell88 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:06:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn left to go right.
ryebread91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:06:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt worry about your outfit. If you like it, like it and feel confident. People will see that your feeling good. If youโre self conscious about it theyโll see that.
This happened when I(male) bought a bracelet cause I liked it then later said I wasnโt sure about it. He asked โdo you like it?โ Then where it cause you like it no one will noticeโ โtheyโll notice you if youโre feeling uncomfortable though.โ
MinteeMiz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:06:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is gonna be interesting
Sima_Hui ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:06:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop trying to hit the golf ball. Just get in a good stance and focus on doing a nice smooth pendulum with the club.
Also, stop trying to hit that billiard ball. Line up your shot, then forget about that ball and just focus on a nice consistent stroke that hits the cue ball clean, centered, and straight.
Two simple examples of over-focusing on the goal and losing sight of the process.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:06:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You have to love yourself before you can love someone else
fucknite69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:06:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Squatting through period cramps. Works.
mikebellman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:07:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wear good shoes. Comfortable with support in the right places. Ironically, itโs not so much for your feet. Your feet are really resilient and can take a lot of abuse. But your lower legs and eventually your lower back can suffer when you wear flats, sandals, high heels, etc.
-SLOTHLIFE ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:07:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
tap the 57 on a Heinz ketchup glass bottle and it globs right out
DeafMoth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:07:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it until you make it. Itโs the easiest way to get speaking marks in French.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:07:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Closing your eyes helps when trying to fall asleep.
ARealBroOfSimiValley ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:07:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking time to plan. Seems like time wasted in truth it's probably one of the best ways to spend your time.
GoofyHeartborn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:07:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn left to go right.
x_TheDementor_x ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:08:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't talk about Dungeons and Dragons in public with my friends, and I won't get looked at as if I'm some kind of deviant.
RimjobsfromRonald ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:08:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
putting vix vapour rub on my nipples
mbfernbaugh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:08:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When prioritizing- do what you want to do least, first! Get the dreaded stuff out of the way! You will feel less stressed and more accomplished the rest of the day!
rackfocus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:08:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
White chick here...
โDonโt give attitude to cops.โ
The cops were all business. They donโt take kindly to citizens disagreeing with them. Fucking scary how things could have gone if I didnโt take the advice. I felt I was justified.๐๐Naivety.
itsbryandude ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:08:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't let little things bother you.
H00ston ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:08:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if you want to roll around in your sleep stay completely still for 15 minutes. I know it sounds obvious but if you stay completely still for that long if feels like your floating and i fall asleep immediately
thicccque ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:09:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hold your tongue on the roof of your mouth. r/orthotropics gang.
ultimatedebate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:09:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wash your sinks...
My grandma told me this when I was a kid, I laughed it off.
Now, I can't finish my chores around my home without washing my sink. It makes me feel good...
Micordie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:09:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always look over your shoulder when you want to change lanes. Thought it was stupid until I almost crashed.
feint2021 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:09:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Separating my good & plenty candy.
ethelexpress ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:10:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
feel fear and do it anyway. it helps me so much, especially when I had to kill a wasp in my house all by myself https://youtu.be/r-CnhI8Ma5g
Slav_Vapor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:10:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Met a pro widow-maker in an overwatch game, I asked him for advice on how to improve, you know what this guy ****ing said to me!
"aim for the head"
and shockingly enough, it worked, im a decent hanzo now.
dullgenericusername ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:10:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Squeezing the skin between your thumb and pointer finger to stop a headache. It doesn't always work for really bad headaches, but it often helps relieve some of the pain when you don't have headache medicine.
dedzip ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:31:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Like how hard and for how long
robloxianfriendo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:10:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
reading music
captainjoshua77 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:10:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itch the back of your ear if you're gonna sneeze
Idk how it works but it does
Xyberfaust ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:03:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sneezing is good for you. It's expelling things that shouldn't be there.
toree-johns ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:11:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use peoples names more often. It makes your statement directed at someone thus avoiding possible confusion, it helps you be taken seriously, and youโd be surprised how nice servers/cashiers/anyone on the clock can be just by using their name that is most likely on their shirt.
fadgi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:11:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hitting something that doesn't work anymore. Still can't believe it works
dbradx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:11:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Take off your shoes and socks, walk barefoot on the carpet and make fists with your toes."
dedzip ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:29:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But why
Xyberfaust ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:13:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I still, to this day, wonder if this works.
Kuro_Nora ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:11:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Idk if someone said this already, but love yourself
clarkolas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:11:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy women's socks instead of mens. Women's are cheaper and fit way better.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:11:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The double goonch push
Men, you need to try it
MattThaDonn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:11:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting red light in the bathroom when you shower, makes it much easier to fall asleep if you go to bed right after not exposing yourself to any other light sources.
JohnTheGreyLord ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:11:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deep breaths. They help so much more than one expects
Mfboy16 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:12:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turns out you can fall asleep quicker if you close your eyes and roll them for a few seconds.
grahag ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How to dry my hands properly with paper towels.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2FMBSblpcrc
For some reason it has always bothered me that using more than one paper towel to dry your hands is so wasteful.
dedzip ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:29:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
h o l y s h I t hank you
grahag ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:39:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
haha... Glad to have helped. I was super excited to try it and people look at me and are like, WTF, when I use a half a sheet to dry my hands. It's almost a game now. :D
Trilla_Gorilla_420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking my therapy seriously.
R43N17 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
make yourself happy.
Donkey-Hell ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take deep breaths, doesnโt sound like it works. But it does
EntropyLadyofChaos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dumping my ex after we unofficially saw each other for 10 months. I thought we had agreed to be exclusive?
omning ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make fists with your toes.
hustler234 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left. Like in Disney Pixarโs Cars
CodfishBilly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To sit up straight and speak confidently.
onemanarmy52 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop running to doctors immediately when you don't feel well.
XxQuarterizexX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:14:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Blowing on your soup to cool it down.
nangke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:14:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If a container looks the same whether it's open/loose or closed, always make sure it's closed.
giacintam ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
using lemon in cooking.
redline-rider ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting the engine in neutral before starting it (manual)
PurpleStickie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gargle with salt water
gahoozegun ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can stop a panic attack by willing it to get worse. Source: had panic attacks daily - this shit works
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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LOLitsSpAcEjEsUs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:17:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait a minute...
daggarz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you feel you need to sneeze, look up at a light and you will
caimca ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Outlines for papers. During the 1st of college thought they were a worthless waste of time. Until the beginning of my 2nd year it was required and I can write much better essays now
aardvarkyardwork ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Easy cure for jetlag - take your shoes off, put your feet on the carpet and make fists with your toes.
IAmMunchy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When checking into a hotel, sandwich your ID and credit card with $20-$40. Chances are you'll get bumped up to a nicer room. Didn't believe it till I tried and got a nice suite.
dedzip ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kind of confused by what you mean by โsandwichโ. Could you elaborate?
IAmMunchy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:26:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put the money between the cards and hand it to the person checking you in. They take it as a tip and bump you up to a nicer room.
dedzip ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:08:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Huh. Interesting!
Cryhavok101 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Git gud, don't die.
XxQuarterizexX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:16:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Keep your eye on the ball"
9 year old me becomes a god at catching things.
Bringyourgreenhat99 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:16:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โDeep breaths.โ
Itโs almost a cliche to say in a stressful situation but when I tried it, it really helped.
Oh! Thatโs why they say it!
ao911 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:16:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How to test egg freshness.
LOLitsSpAcEjEsUs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:16:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That you should open bananas from the bottom, like Mario cart. My brother normally slips on our floor, so I decided why not just do it, and put the banana on the floor. My brother fell and then proceeded to chase me out of the house. (sorry for grammar, I'm on mobile.)
Flickthebean87 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:16:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pick up a little bit each day and it wonโt be as bad later.
Iโve kept everything picked up for many years and itโs awesome. Most things take no time to clean and everything has its place.
1ysand3r ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:16:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never loan money to a friend. Offer it as a gift instead.
FullBitGamer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:17:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always pre-fire your corners and never trust a Smoke or Capitรกo
CO_74 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:17:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To get rid of hiccups, place a folded paper towel over a glass of water and drink through the paper towel until you canโt breathe or the water is gone. Sounds so stupid. Somehow works every time for me.
dedzip ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve seen it work for everyone I know except for me and I hate it
mattesse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:17:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If the reply to an email takes more than five sentences you have selected the wrong protocol for communication; change the reply to change the protocol (โWe should really meet to discuss thisโ, or โCall me to discuss this...โ etc.)
Email wastes time
laustcozz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:17:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You arenโt rich enough to buy cheap things.
Tydecon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:17:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The sheer amount of things you can microwave instead of grill.
Grilling things takes so much more time than just bunging it in the microwave - eggs, bacon, mushrooms - all microwaveable! Amazing!
Lanceofalltrades ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:17:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Blow in the disk slot
CreativeThought88 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:18:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i was told to go suck dick by a hater.
little do they know...
rogersp188 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:18:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doing my homework in school.
dreams-of-clockwork ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:18:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Say โthank youโ instead of โIโm sorryโ. For almost every occasion where you might apologize, there is a deeper thank you.
Example: Iโm sorry Iโm late. Thank you for waiting for me.
My husband apologizes for everything out of habit. Trying this instead really changed the conversation.
guyonghao004 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:18:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โDonโt be an idiotโ, changed my life.
Whenever I'm about to do something, I think, "Would an idiot do that?" And if they would, I DO NOT do that thing.
Le-Bandicoot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:18:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smile more often. You'd be surprised how different your interactions with people are.
saltedcaramelmilk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:18:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Writing down thoughts. I have a terrible memory but a journal where I can jot down ideas and reminders has mad a huge difference for me.
dedzip ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:20:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Annual Cake
setsunaa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:18:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making lists/schedules
My life has greatly improved after making lists. I have a lot more inertia just getting reminded of tasks on a page.
Ginger_Chick ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:18:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a really hard time sleeping and my husband begged me to get a white noise machine for years when we were dating. I thought they were obnoxious and wouldnโt help me sleep. He finally just bought me a $20 one from Amazon, and now I have it on all night.
Karokesuperstar7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:19:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take a deep, slow breath when you're feeling a strong emotion. (Anxiety, anger, sadness, etc) Then take another. Then another. Sounds stupid-simple, but works like a charm!
BakuTheMad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:19:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Microwave pizza with a glass of water, stops it from drying out.
La__Chancla ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:19:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happiness is a choice.
AlwysSmtmsNvr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:19:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cooler heads prevail.
gein13 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:19:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Control what you can control
AudraGreenTea ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:20:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you feel a charley horse coming on, stand up and stretch your legs
Big_Orange566 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:20:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When eating in a fast food place donโt put ice in your cup when you get soda. It waters your drink down and the soda comes out cold anyways. (Also frees up room for more soda)
agaribay1010 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:20:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โDonโt love someone else is you canโt love yourselfโ Iโm only 17 but I finally figured out what that meant and itโs one of the best pieces of advice I could ever give someone. And for so long I thought it was stupid!
HomerAtTheBat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:20:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything you do is everything you do.
jumpyfrog2345 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:20:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat a green vegetable with every spicy/acidic meal. Cures chronic heartburn and acid reflux.
Why? Because the basic (as in chemistry, the opposite of acidic) pH of green veggies counters the acidity of the acidic/spicy food.
Kkkyle47 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rubbing your hands on the metal faucet to help get rid of the garlic smell.
I have a hard time with garlic. I love it but it stinks. Getting rid of the smell of hard.
The faucet works.
Foundinagarage88 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That the secret to surviving air travel is as soon as you get to where you are going take your shoes and socks off and walk barefoot on a rug and make fists with your toes.
Seriously Iโve been doing it for about nine years now.
Paincoast89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ask her, donโt be afraid
illbeinmyoffice ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So one day, after leaving the hospital, we were in the parking garage and completely forgot where we parked. So we did what any lost idiot does; pulled up the key fob and started pressing the alarm button.
Not a peep. We must have been out of range. This is gonna take a while...
Cue a little old man from stage left... he tells me "You know... if you hold the thing under your chin like that, I betcha you'll hear your car".
YEA RIGHT OLD MAN, GTF OUTTA HERE I GOT A CAR TO FIND...
...and then I tried it. And from like 3 floors away.... BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP BEEP.
Turns out its a thing.
pegasus13 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The advice: "don't knock it till you try it"
PlatonicMaleTouching ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apply pressure to the roof of your mouth to stop a brain freeze. It sounded silly, but it worked.
Infinite_L88P ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting adequate sleep. Ideally, 7-9 hours per night.
I used to place sleep on the backburner because I thought that by doing so, I would be able to get more work done. But it wasn't until I got an adequate amount of rest that I realized how much more productive I became and how much my mood improved.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cleaning a bit everyday instead of all in one day.
Vic_Freeze ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left.
TearingRaven ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:21:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a young child, I was told to never stop learning when at the time, I really didn't enjoy school much. I've really taken this to heart and over the winter, I taught myself to fish which I'm really enjoying.
Squid8867 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If something won't have an impact on you by tomorrow, don't spend any energy fretting about it
YogurtHasLives ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My counselor back in my middle school helped me with anxiety by making me focus on a pen, and only a pen, for 2 mins. It was wierd, and i thought I looked like a complete idiot (this was for anxiety "therapy" or "counseling" with other students), but it actually worked lmao.
And no I do not have anxiety problems I just ended up breaking my wrist so I had a LOT of catching up to do.
Chern889 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instead of making a mental reminder to do something, write it down, right away as soon as you think of it.
Having a constantly open list on my phone has saved me so many headaches and trips trying to remember the things I had to do, but coil t remember what it was!
thatgoodfeelin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
trying yoga
Lelouchis0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When learning games like Dark Souls:
Git gud.
Sounds elitist and jerkish but its literally how to progress. Just throw yourself at a problem until you become a goddamn master at it.
bananaoohnanahey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Crosswalks are for everyoneโs safety. Iโd always wander across the street staring at my phone and make cars stop for me. While driving, I nearly hit a pedestrian doing the same thing. I realized, โHey, these special crossing zones where people can walk and cars stop safely are a great idea!โ
Failed_Alchemist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My friend always told me to "do all the drugs". I'm enjoying myself. I think it is round advice.
TaterTotHotdish7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Choking the chicken
steventhetank4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It was looking in the fridge for the remote what can I say I get hungry watching tv.
therealjgreens ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Just read 10 pages, you can do that."
My sister told me this the other day, and now I'm addicted to the book I'm reading. I hate reading FWIW.
usernamealreadytaked ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:22:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My 14 focus has an issue with the horn. I found a crappy YouTube video that showed a fix of taking off the front panel and hitting the horn mechanism with a wrench and it magically started working again. In a vain attempt to try anything I did it and it started working like new! Have no idea how this percussive maintenance actually fixed it but it's my go to fix for the horn every time it decides to act up
fluffymuff6 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation for pain.
tyrone_badu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was first in the army, I got a nasty case of athletes foot. Like...REALLY bad. So bad that one day I went to sick call because of it. The medic gave me some anti-fungal cream and put me on profile to keep me out of boots for a few days while it cleared up.
Then he said,โ you know, you can piss on your feet and it will clear up faster.โ
I room this as Doc just fucking with the new guy but my squad leader also suggested it so I tried it and it fucking worked. How about that....
I now piss on my feet regularly. I donโt get athletes foot anymore.
MugglebornSlytherin2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you start to feel panicky and overwhelmed. Count the things you know to be true. The wall is blue My sheets are purple There are six empty soda cans on my table. Etc. It helps you to slow down and breathe. Start really simple like the color of your walls or shirt and move up from there. Breathe for each thing you count. It helps it really does.
SeeYourAnalrapist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want your dick sucked, try sucking a dick
boymadefrompaint ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anytime anyone says "Careful!"
easiertoremember ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You'll never know if you don't go, you'll never shine if you don't glow.
galacticaf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it โtill you make it.
Celidion ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just do it.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shaking hands with people when you first meet them. Enough strength so itโs firm while looking the other person in eyes.
Jisoy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having mint in your mouth while taking a quiz or test. Personally, it helps me relax and ever since Iโve been doing it Iโve gotten better scores.
liamthetank24 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Think with your brain, not your ass"
-My friend, today
wow i never thought of thatwhatcanitb ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We all die.
Novel_Amphibian ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercising when you are depressed. Just try it. And push yourself. You get a feeling of euphoria.
donutknow57 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:23:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you're feeling out of sorts, sad, kinda down...do something nice for someone. It doesn't have to cost anything or take copious amounts of time. You'll feel better making someone else happy.
tryingtoohardtm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
be positive
pUnqfUr5 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Let go and let gobble gobble
Davescash ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only fry rats in olive oil.
SharpenedStinger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretend to be happy until you actually are.
highlysensitivepanda ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you catch yourself randomly thinking about bad stuff, ask yourself why the heck you're thinking about it, and then focus on something happy.
I've started to become more aware of what I've been thinking since when I think about not so great stuff it just starts making me angry or really sad when I have no reason to be. So whenever I catch myself thinking bad things, I just focus on a little memory I had whilst taking the bus home of a little girl in these bright pink boots jumping in all the puddles. I dunno why, but that little image makes me feel all happy inside.
holycupcakess ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holding your car keys under your chin to lock/unlock it from a further distance. Couldnโt believe that shit until I did it.
samathor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Believe in yourself.
Like as a very pessimistic person, and just I try to stay grounded in reality this all seemed like idealistic hippie bullshit. But it really works. Helped me a lot when I was trying to get fit and get out of depression
NixonGottaRawDeal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:24:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No one knows what they are doing. We are all winging it. Just fake it till you think you know what your doing.
emthejedichic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:25:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โThink positivelyโ
I have/had chronic, treatment-resistant depression. I hated this advice. I had a condition, it couldnโt possibly be that simple.
Then I read this book by a psychiatrist that explained that what you actually have to do is retrain your brain to avoid negative thoughts, and counter them when you do think them.
My depression went away and has been gone a year.
ArborFox ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:25:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โGit goodโ then i grinded the game and got good
Individual_Space ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:25:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't overstudy for a test and get a good night's rest. Feels good when I'm not literally dying when I'm taking the test.
CaeciliusEstInPussy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:25:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try to think positive, clean up your surroundings. Obviously not gonna cure depression or solve your midlife crisis but It doesnโt hurt.
BakonNigiri ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:25:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When in Japan, if the locals don't understand what you are saying and you don't know how to say it in Japanese just say it in English with a Japanese accent.
RoyTheReaper91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:25:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't talk bad about your hometown. Didn't make sense when I first heard it, but now it does.
formerexpatintheus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:25:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Some people might not like kids. But they bring so much positivity and innocence, they always lift my spirits. Granted, I have worked as a teacher before. So I may be a little biased.
ph3nixdown ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:26:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you like her, ask her out, even if you are sure sheโll say no.
briesneeze ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:26:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you donโt want to do a certain work related task, just take a few minutes to prepare to do the task. Most of the time youโll end up just doing the task anyway.
Iโve also extended this mentality to the gym. When I donโt want to go to the gym I just tell myself, โAll I have to do is drive to the gymโ. Once Iโm there I always end up working out.
AleksNightmare ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:26:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have a lot of trust issues, and so did an old friend of mine. They told me the way they got through their issues was to find just one person, one singular person, to talk to. That person doesn't have to be a paid therapist. Just a friend or family member could work. But just someone to listen. They don't have to give advice or tell you how to fix anything. They just have to be an ear so you can vent.
That seemed like such stupid advice to me years ago, because I felt that if I trusted someone they'd only end up using that trust against me in the future. But then I met my fiance, and realized... I was an idiot. I found the one person I can vent everything to, without feeling like he'll use it against me. I should have started looking for someone like that years ago, but I was too caught up in my own BS to even try.
So, if you're like me and have trust issues, don't be like me and push everyone away. Find at least one person you can lean on. This advice is honestly worth trying
Master_Tomatillo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:26:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Boil water before you put the eggs in. the shells come off really easy.
i_am_trippin_balls ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:26:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think before you act. Probably sounds like common sense to most of you but not for young me. So many mistakes
Mechapenguinicorn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:26:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you give a high five, look at the person's elbow and you'll never miss.
THEGOLDENTOMB ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:27:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trying new things, never did until I started eating the cherry on my sundae's.
IprobCopydSom1sName ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:27:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Basicly every single piece of advice my parents have given me over the years.
I guess wisdom does come with age.
KhaalexXB1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:27:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think ahead before you do something. Crazy how obvious bad situations can be avoided with a little thought.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:27:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it until you make it. - I never realized how true it was until I had reached the "make it" phase for some things. I thought it was silly until the moment that I realized that it works.
FERGERDERGERSON ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:28:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathe.
Over worked? Breathe.
Stressed out? Breathe.
Anxious? Breathe.
I become myself again instead of a mess lol
ODG414 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:28:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Daily affirmations and mantras. Always sounded goofy until I actually started reciting them to myself.
Demetrius3D ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:28:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"A place for everything, and everything in its place."
lilbrownnigga ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:29:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop and take a deep breath. The breath brings us back to our center and a few deep breaths when your stressed or angry does wonders !
geoffrey1986 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:29:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise in the morning.
Finally started using my elliptical for just 20 minutes in the morning a few weeks ago and I feel more awake and in a better mood throughout the day. Amazing that they weren't lying!
kjoe51689 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:29:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wake up at 5am. I get so much done now.
TopSecretR35 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:29:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stretch before and after exercise..
elizacandle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:30:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Talking to your loved ones about your issues, what's bothering you, etc.
xisonc ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:30:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Migrane? Take an ibuprofen (I prefer the 200mg liquid gel caps) and a small (250mL) Rebull.
Migrane relief in 15 minutes or less for me.
judashpeters ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:30:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom: if you just picked up 10 or 20 minutes each day it wouldnt get overwhelming.
Me: (holding in curses because I pick up for an hour each day....)
bananahelium ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:31:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing exercises. At first I thought that they were complete bs, but when I finally gave it an actual shot I saw their potential.
Vpmo5sMetZok ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:31:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Epley maneuver for BPPV. BPPV is freaking annoying condition where you get extreme dizziness when you turn your head a certain direction. I literally thought I was dying.
Epley maneuver is a simple 'sit-this-way-tilt-your-head-that-way' thing that takes 2 minutes. Fixes it instantly and permanently.
razorsuKe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:31:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
After (or before) a strenuous workout or exercise, chug a Gatorade cause your body needs to replenish electrolytes. - I heard this a couple times and just thought my dumbass friends bought into some marketing gimmick.
So after a long hike, I'm used to feeling sore the next day. This time I actually take the advice and drink some Gatorade. Felt absolutely fine the next day.
Now I buy electrolyte tablets :o
thatgrl35 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:32:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Melatonin. Stuff is made of miracles for the sleepless.
sccnick ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look into 5htp . You may like it better.
zfriedman02 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:32:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pressing your tongue against the roof of your mouth to suppress a sneeze. Actually works
xxIronManDiesEndgame ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:33:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Remebering that what is today is yesterday's tomorrow
jofs37 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:33:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Marry someone you like. Sounds dumb until you realize how many people donโt do it.
knatel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:33:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation
FQSSIL ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:33:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holding your car keys up to your open mouth to increase the strength of the signal when locking/unlocking
Spicy_Disco_Tacos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:33:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop, Drop, and Roll
siikdUde ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:35:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
when you're on fire i dont think anything seems useless to try
tondracek ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:34:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to sleep around the same time of day every day and wake up around the same time everyday.
I wake up almost everyday feeling like goddamn Cinderella
MajinBuzz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:34:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be kind to others.
Today I see how much it could make someone's else day way better
Man_W_E_yo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:34:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink more water. I used to have a lot of diarrhea, now I think I was walking around dehydrated all the time. All the coffee and beer probly didn't help either.
Texas_Rockets ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:35:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All disappointment is rooted in poorly set expectations
Shadybeach ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:35:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Downloading the credit karma app. I used most of the advice it gave me and raised my score significantly within a year. It also has many useful features.
Kiaser21 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:35:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using cash instead of credit saves you money, even if you can find 5% rewards on a credit card. Read Dave Ramsey.
debspeak ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:36:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shut up and learn.
Caspiir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:36:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stretch in the early morning. Drink hot drinks. Every hour or so, remind yourself to release tension in your body. RELAX..
linkuei-teaparty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:36:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cross fit
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:37:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise
outta_my_element ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:37:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Microwaving brand new sneakers to stretch them out
Kudaja ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:37:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dryer sheets can take off paint scuffs on your car. If your car is hit with something and has a light paint scuff not deep, but just a different paint laying on it basically. Get a dryer sheet, damp it with water and rub the unwanted paint clean off. This WILL NOT hurt your cars original paint.
Azakhitt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:38:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whenever someone does something for you, say thank you. Even if it's something you don't necessarily want or like. The point is they thought of you and they love you.
Thank you for that lesson, Grandma. She taught me true gratitude
Keats81 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:38:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it till you make it.
Itโs amazing how something that starts out as pretend can turn into something real over time.
TheIconicCrab ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:38:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You see a lot by looking. This might seem obvious and/or a stupid thing to say, but if you look at the world around you more youโll start to notice more things going on. This is also some handy advice for when you need to find something.
Tigermarti ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:38:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โJust blowโ. It saved my original NES โMy Little Mermaidโ game and I was able to defeat Ursula, thus bringing me my crowning (and only) video game achievement until this year when, while recovering from surgery, I realized adults are more coordinated than kids. Still have to have fiancรฉ beat anything hard for me, just like my Dad had to do when I was little.
LogitechScripting ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:38:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My parents had said its better to take on a problem bit by bit if its too hard to take on. This I ignored and Id rather do a big problem in a day not day by day/bit by bit. Later I learned when I had a post test that had over 200 question and procrastinated till the last day and when I had to do it on one day... oh well it was hell..
Teddy_Schmoozevelt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:42:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How do you eat an elephant?
One bite at a time.
Bo7a ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is great advice.
And also the intro to a great song:
White Stripes - Little Acorns
ImaginaryCook ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:38:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking an antibiotic rectally..
dublozero ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:39:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Water.... Drink lots of water. I work in kitchens and staying hydrated with lots of water helps immensely. It also quenches thirst the best. I hate water but I force myself to drink at least a quart a day. I feel better overall because of it
Lumpiest_Princess ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:40:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have problems going to sleep (putting away your phone/computer, closing twitch/youtube) set a timer for five minutes and lay there with your eyes closed.
If you still want to hang out on your phone when the timer goes off, do it. But you won't want to, you'll want to go back to sleep.
limarien ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:40:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practice never really makes you perfect.
sjana1015 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:40:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wear a jacket/sweater or you'll catch a cold. I thought how can being cold makes you sick....sickness comes from germs. Once I moved out I found that colds can come from anywhere.
dinocasino19 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:40:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking Powerade/Gatorade when I get a headache. I thought it was just my parents trying to get me to quit complaining with a good drink, but it actually works
jaybird17 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:42:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breath
Wings-of-Perfection ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:43:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โOne day at a time.โ
Literally the last thing I tried, to quit smoking.
DONUT5S69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:43:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โAlways forwardโ
It reminds me that even in the toughest times, if you just keep going itโll all be better
elRanchero_chido ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:44:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
wear a jimmy hat
darkshape ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:44:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Goddamnit, I fully expect my wife to shove this whole thread in my face when I get home lmao.
To be fair though, most of this is good advice and had already started trying to do little things more effectively like cleaning as I cook and what have you.
squidy69_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:45:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instead of cutting up the sopophorous bean, crush it with flat side of dagger, releases juices better than cutting.
dantreetrunkman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:45:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you get blisters or hotspots while hiking, tie your shoes so loose you could almost kick them off.
PurpleSimple ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:45:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dialogue instead of debate. This is something my school encouraged us to do. Itโs helped me avoid so many arguments
BobCatsHotPants ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:46:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Babies come with everything they need.
RC2000RC ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:46:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditate daily...
d7vd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:46:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Masturbating. Itโs healthy and relieves stress.
irenebeesly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:46:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Working out actually can make you feel better.
akatheorigpncke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:47:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking more water
WatDeFark ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:47:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You don't tug on superman's cape
You don't spit into the wind
You don't pull the mask off that old lone ranger
And you don't mess around with Jim
mcompt20 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:47:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smiling more. Even if I have to force it. Found that I was happier overall and the little things didn't bother me as much and actually gave me a little chuckle. I didn't realize how angry I was at everyone and everything looking back.
xiaoshin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:47:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yoga for anxiety.
Xoxohopeann ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:47:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you get an injection in your arm in the deltoid muscle, move your fingers like youโre playing the piano. I guess it makes you relax so itโs less sore.
StMungosHeartHealer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:47:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Had an older friend of mine tell me to always approach a conflict with someone with the question โhow does this person perceive me?โ. He used to make me answer how I thought he thought of me. Makes you really want to be a better person when you have to think long and hard about what youโve said and done around just that person and how that may affect how they see you in comparison to who you really are.
captainechinoid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:47:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have a slice of bread in your mouth while chopping onions to stop/avoid your eyes from watering. It worked for me... somehow
7001man ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:47:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Measure twice, cut once.
aequusss ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:48:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if the world ends tomorrow would u regret not doing what youโre pondering to do?
made me confess to my 3 year long crush.
nothing ever happened between us but i felt like a million dollars.
CamAusome ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:48:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just cause you can, doesn't mean you should.
HojoExperiment ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:48:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cognitive behavioral therapy for depression. See "Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy" by David Burns. I had my doubts but became interested after reading that it was evidenced-based.
Mochii0105 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:48:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do your work before doing the thing you actually want to do.
VIRGIL_ARCHIEAL ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:48:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont just think of a favorite song. Try and "hear" the music. It'll help calm your mind and drift off to sleep. You'll know your doing it right when you actually hear the music.
raja777m ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:48:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it takes less than two mins, do it now.
While drifting, turn left to go right. -Cars
BlastingFern134 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:48:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you exercise, do everything in units of one. Don't think of that set of bench press as 10 reps. Just bench once, then if you can do it, again, and again, and again, and boom! You've done your set and have gotten just a tiny bit stronger. Now go again!
hallwaysoffat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:48:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it feels like more than two fingers, itโs probably a dick
FriscoHusky ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pretend like you belong somewhere and know what youโre doing and no one will question you.
Spectre195 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Downloading redit.
JojenCopyPaste ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Writing a letter to someone you never intend to send seems like BS. But actually doing it does help get out your feelings and it actually helps.
jansskon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Japanese have a phrase โshouganaiโ. I donโt know if this is one of those things where itโs just a regular word but people add a bunch of bullshit meaning or make it seem like a really common word when itโs archaic. You know the kind, in lists like โ10 words for emotions that English doesnโt haveโ and itโs sort of wrong. Anyway literally not the point. The point is that โshouganaiโ sort of translates to โit is what it isโ/โnothing can be doneโ. If theres nothing you can do about something then thereโs no point in worrying about it. Itโs really helpful.
This one is kind of gross but itโs only gross if youโre gross. When pouring beer or coke or anything that can fizz up. Stick your finger in the foam to speed up the... dissolving(?) of the foam. Maybe donโt do this for other peopleโs drinks
If youโre in a rage or having a panic attack/ anxiety attack then write down what youโre feeling. Preferably on paper because thatโs more physical but your phone works too. It just helps get your thoughts straight and you can kind of start to see how big the problem is by physically how much space it takes up on a page. And you can start to think clearly and might even find what caused you to feel that way.
Similarly, if youโre angry or panicking then look into a mirror, it just can help calm you down having a visual of what youโre putting out to the world.
Lord_Metalark ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you work somewhere, treat it as if you own it, like it is your business. If you want it to succeed then it will reflect in the way you work, treat customers, solve problems, all that noise. It doesn't matter what you do for a living or the size of the company, you get further and feel much happier.
If you do run your own business always remember that your customers talk, they'll caste you in a positive light if you get to know them a bit better. Always remember their names and don't forget to ask how they are doing, you never know how much that might help them.
shepbryan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look at the other personโs elbow when you go for a high five and youโll never miss. Messed me up the first time I actually tried it... like 100% accuracy high five
FreshSpence ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stay off the internet for an entire day.
MyGamertagBro ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not to piss in the wind
glowburn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Don't be an idiot" changed my life.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You power down any device. If youโre having trouble sleeping, try turning off your body parts one by one, starting with your feet, ending with your mind. Over and over again. And meditation is extremely helpful for anxiety, learned it all in yoga
Carlsinoc ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read the instructions.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โYou need an internshipโ
apachewarrior23 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Budgeting every penny. Wife and I went almost 10 years living paycheck to paycheck until we finally buckled down and made a budget. It has really relieved a lot of stress.
RiceHer0z ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do your homework the moment they are assigned. Trust me, you will realize how much free youโve been missing out on.
sWoods512 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โYou should go on Redditโ
Ivxnxlc07 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
None
Clinty76 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shave my pubes!
Carvinrawks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise helps depression.
Seriously. It's hard to ruminate when you're doing intense cardio stuff like running uphill until you physically can't anymore. You don't have any room to do anything but focus on your breathing. It forces you to sort of meditate.
It is also a lot easier to sleep after you have physically exhausted yourself.
arj1985 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:50:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smile.
TommyTomG ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:51:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes things just won't work... You can follow a tutorial steps by steps and it still won't work... Just go and come back to it later.
SnuffDied ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:51:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tie your hair up so you dont break out
ScrawnyCheeath ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:51:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Swallow pills looking down, it makes things so much easier, especially for big ones
VeggieHeathen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:51:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If your chips get stuck in a vending machine order from the next row up instead of the same item. Chips will come down!
nickrad7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:51:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Showing up to work on time. Doesnโt matter if ur mister Perfect once ur clocked in, if u show up late to ur shifts and not follow the policy whenever u canโt come to work then u being a good worker wonโt help u get promoted
BasedChill ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:51:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Clean up your room" -JBP
BariumSodiumNa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:52:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Play a game with google home while doing Dishes
FiftyOne151 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:52:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Health insurance. Two spinal cord operations later and and best care available, and Iโve definitely got my moneyโs worth
TrippySubie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:52:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apple cider vinegar, dish soap, a bowl and plastic wrap with tiny holes in it.
It becomes a fruit fly massacre.
hiro111 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In public speaking there is absolutely no difference between faking fearlessness and truly being fearless.
ganjaburga ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Closing my eyes and taking a deep breath when I am stressed or something ducks me off. I was a bit of a dick in school and would constantly ignore this advice from teachers. I think it triggers some primitive reflex in our brain that allows us to relax.
MudIsland ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to the left. It is a right-handed world and everyone goes to the right. Zoos, amusement parks, seating at movies- ic thereโs a choice, most choose right.
lickedTators ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
After you fly, take off your socks and make fists with your toes. Really helps out.
drifted13 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Following the phrase of "Just do it"
Goldenfoxbro1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This
The_Sleep ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lifting with your knees. I have to actively remember to do this while lifting heavy things. I've thrown my back out countless times.
Aggravating_Smell ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use hot water to brush your teeth. I never even considered it, until someone said it. Then I realized it's just like washing dishes, you always use hot water. Have never brushed with cold water since.
moosecatoe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:53:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep a notebook on your nightstand to write & forget your worries until morning.
tomhcrowe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:54:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was told to knee my apparently broken ipad 2 as hard as I could to fix it. Tried it as a last resort and it still works perfectly.
It knocked the digitiser back in place
gongerandcookie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:54:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Let people do nice things for you. This was very counterintuitive to me for a long time based on how I was raised. I never accepted help or favors. I do more nice things for others now, too. Itโs a much better way to live.
bleachedaardvark ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:54:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Touch mail once.
Deal with your mail right then and there. It creates less clutter.
Edgy_and_tired ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:54:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt use fragrant shampoo during summer. I didnโt listen, got followed around/ harassed by bees. One was even in my hair without me noticing. My friend pointed it out and I freaked out.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:54:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep trying, stay strong, and don't quit.
Those words have rung through me time and time again but they never really registered until recently. I'm still weak but I'm stronger now than ever before.
GhostArtistYT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:54:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The so-called โnoob comboโ on halo 2. Was having a tough time on legendary difficulty (on the first level yikes) and looked up tips for that difficulty. Now, the plasma pistol is my best friend. Also, anyone got tips for the first part of Gravemind?
kingofthelostboys ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:54:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You slip. You sip. You flip.
(Playing flippy cup with a slip and slide)
pantryfrank ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:56:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making your bed everyday to feel productive. I thought it was stupid but it was one of the biggest things that helped pull me out of a deep dark place.
hananahbanana27 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:56:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My parents always tell me to watch out for deer on this one road near my house. Always said โokayโ without thinking about it., since I had never seen any. This one night I could almost hear my momโs voice in my head saying โthereโs always deer on this road, keep your eye outโ so I slowed down a bit, and just like that, a deer ran across 10 feet ahead of me
Bicarious ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:56:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything in moderation, people don't fit into boxes, the world is very grey, and only Sith believe in absolutes!
Earpain ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:56:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Similar trick, count backwards from 300. You'll never make it to 0.
glitteryfart ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:56:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pulling out.
MrOwnageQc ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:56:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lightly wetting a paper towel and putting it over pastas before microwaving it gives them a fresher taste and texture.
Turns out it works very well, and not just with pasta !
SamR1878 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:56:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Basically any advice my parents gave me between the ages of 12-20. I hate getting older, realising your parents were right about most of your problems and you were just being a dick by not listening..
analfishlover ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:57:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be yourself and others will like you
tknice ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:57:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think fast and talk slow.
Colt_XLV ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:57:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That prison trick to see if batteries are used up or not
glenndamarie82211 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:27:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Which is?
Colt_XLV ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:46:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can tell if a battery is used up or not. Hold it positive side up and lift an inch or so. The empty ones tend to fall over and full ones stand up
glenndamarie82211 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:34:58 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh damn I didnโt know that!!
yerboiboba ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:57:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The first hiccup is the only hiccup. If you just focus on breathing normal after it, you won't keep hiccuping
wheel1234 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:57:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
affirmations to yourself.
FlyingFun567 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:00:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The phrase cold turkey which means u canโt just take something away then and there but take it away slowly so u can relax
Slipporn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:00:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom always told me, never put a fork in the toaster
wodha ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:00:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saving half your income. Itโs hard at first but once you figure it out itโs normal.
Tartaras1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:01:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed in the morning. It'll feel so much better climbing into a made bed at the end of the day, instead of having to pull sheets over you. Keep at it, and eventually you'll do it every morning without thinking about it, even on the weekends.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:01:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
(NSFW warning)
Foreplay before putting on the strap. Works wonders and it's not a distraction.
DabOnYourFlabs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:01:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every time you get an unwanted boner, flex your muscles and it will go away.
inthea215 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:01:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Working out will help you feel better.
I always was like yeah okay. But seriously itโs like my new high. I went from drinking every night to hitting the gym 4-5 nights a week. I get home and crave a good workout like I used to crave a beer after a stressful day.
66121830 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:01:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making yourself appear confident (body language) makes you more confident
jimmyjazz2000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:01:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When our kid were born, my wife's mom told us, "When you feel sleep-deprived, just pretend you're not tired."
That seemed almost mean-spirited at the time. But it absolutely saved us. Turns out the worst part of new parenthood sleep deprivation is dragging your sorry carcass around, bemoaning your fate. By pretending you're not tired, you actually torture yourself a lot less. She was a wise lady.
veekerz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:02:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing. So overrated.
slugk1ng ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:02:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oooh. My algebra 2 teacher said one of the best things: โYou do surprisingly well for doing no work whatsoever.โ
aquay ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:02:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smile if you're in a bad mood. Sounds so stupid but it totally works.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:02:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Time and patience heals all
jb-dom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:02:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do everything with pride even if you donโt want to do it or it unappealing do it with pride.
ebedebeds ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:02:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Just practice." I know it doesn't work for everything and everyone, but there have been a significant number of times that I somehow managed to stick with something and it just... worked.
I felt like an idiot with my awkward dance movements and couldn't get this one move. One day, I could do it. I couldn't believe it.
Another example, volleyball. I bought an outdoor net with zero prior experience. I simply wanted something both active and social to do with my friends. A year and three months later, I'm playing with those friends at a tournament and I (5'11" though I tell people I'm 6') stuff block a 6'7" dude who's starting in a college team.
ComplexCow3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:02:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Telling on the bully
Wasted_Time_40 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:02:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Quit being a little bitch and try it.
Me: Oh yeah?
YouWankItWeBankIt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:02:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Selling my children.
glenndamarie82211 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait. What.
bongteammember ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:03:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That my opinion matters
ZurekMorraff ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:03:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The best time to check on something, is when you're most affraid to do so, like your bank account.
oligri21 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:03:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop smoking
nick6ten ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:03:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When walking towards someone, walk as if you were driving (stay to your right) to avoid walking into them and doing that weird dance where you go left and they go right and you continue to block their way.
SquintyGuitar733 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:03:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If i do my homework my grades wint suck
RainbowsOfNight ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:04:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try for real.
My AP Calculus teacher says this all the time, every single day, and it honestly holds true. I'm sure we've all "tried" at something pretty hard, but didn't really try for real. As soon as you seriously start putting all of your effort into something, it makes a huge difference.
Trilliumn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:04:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The best and hardest to live by advice I was given hands down. "You are what you Eat".
In particular, taking care of your gut biome, and the tens of thousands of microbes living inside you. What you feed yourself correlates to how your body functions. Depression, Anxiety, obesity, diabetes, heck even controls brain function and how you make decisions. You body is composed of more bacteria and "other" organisms than you have of you. There is a direct link from your belly to brain.
So cut the Sugar, lessen the meats, and graze the greens and beans!
SteveSonOfTim ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:04:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using the dick flap in my boxers
butters991 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:04:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I cannot think of advice, but this bit piece of information:
Many, many moons ago before I was ten, which was 25+ years ago, I was at the bowling alley with a friend and I was getting mad because I lost my quarter in a gumball machine when an old grandpa-ish guy came up to us and said this exactly phrased statement: "That's like being screwed without ever getting a kiss." I had no idea what he meant, but if it meant feeling like this after losing a quarter ok. I eventually (I think) learned what that piece of advice meant and I knew then and there and all these years later...no sir I won't be getting screwed without ever getting a kiss.
(this story shows how one random sentence can stick with you the rest of your life)
glenndamarie82211 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:19:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm not sure I get it. Like does it mean donโt let something/someone screw you without getting something out of it?
butters991 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:09:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To be honest, I am not sure, but the saying always stuck with me, because it was so odd out of nowhere. I took it as dont let things run over you for no reason, but your right it seems more like make sure you get something out of life because sooner or later it will scream you. It was just such an odd saying and I took it as do not let something take advantage of you if your not benefiting from it. Just so odd that I remember that one specific meaningless words of advice.
glenndamarie82211 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 01:34:31 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well now I donโt think Iโll ever forget it either!
butters991 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:58:04 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ha ha ha ha that is too funny.
Hold_myy_beer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:04:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake enthusiasm turns into real enthusiasm
webweb6 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't think about your work, just do it. Makes pressing pants much more efficient and cleaner looking.
coreychichi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Blind spot mirrors
Seriously do yourself a favor
Frungy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stretching. Seemed like a waste of time when I could be doing other shit.
Holy crap my aging but now agile as a motherfucking fox body! A perfect 5/7, 11 with Rice would recommend to anyone over 30. Not even before exercise. Just fucking stretch.
Chxo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wipe from front to back, I no longer get shit on my balls.
nickjagg3r ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep water next to you when you sleep. Drinking water as soon as you wake up reduces grogginess immensely.
TuesGirl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Patience is a virtue
585Framing ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your body uses more energy to be angry. I though it was bull until I grew up and realized the difference it can make in 5 minutes or a whole day
Jacobmt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop drinking.
filledk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
coca cola mixed with softice, sounds really bad, tastes super nice
stonemite ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hold your car key remote to your head to get extra range when locking/unlocking the doors.
jrwahl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Given two choices you can't decide on, imagine one choice is taken away. Your reaction (unhappy, indifferent, etc.) can shed light on which choice you really want.
Tital_rs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The waterโs nicer once youโre in.
mikemoonman17 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every experience (even bad experiences) are good experiences, so long as you learn from them. This will make you not stress over anything that happens.
kingsalootski ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:06:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be present. Other people will really notice the change
LS_D ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:07:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"just Ignore them"
r-james16 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:07:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cabbage leaves in my bra when trying to stop breast feeding.
adadada00 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:07:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going to therapy
CaptainDickFarm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:07:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deleting Facebook.
TulipOnTop ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:08:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stretching.
MyDogLooksLikeABear ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:08:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Run a marathon
crigon559 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:08:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Treat everyone as you like to be treated
Xenton ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:08:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ginger beer to settle a stomach.
I've studied pharmacy for years and the scientific basis is virtually not there at all, especially given the low amount of ginger in most commercial ginger flavoured carbonated drinks, But ginger beer has worked better than any antacid or alluminium based heart burn remedy I've ever tried, despite the thousands of papers of evidence to the contrary.
sweadle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or if you don't want the beer part, try some fresh ginger in cold water. Sliced thin or grated in. It doesn't take much.
schnitzel_on_a_stick ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:09:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put hand sanitizer on sap in clothes and rub it against itself. After 30 seconds of rubbing and one run through the washing machine, it will look good as new. As a teenager who spends his free time splitting firewood, my mother was elated to hear about this one.
shambamish1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:09:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fists wicha toes.
Avlonnic2 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:11:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yippee-ki-yay.
quailquest ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:10:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop feeling entitled to anything from anyone. Peopleโs time, service, and reciprocation of gifts/money. Makes relationships of any kind way less stressful and makes you less of an angry person.
Entlogic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:10:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Old dude who had been working at the same place for 25 years told me if you see someone at work doing something difficult, Dont offer to help. Wait for them to ask.
He had more eloquent phrasing, but thats the gist of it.
Avlonnic2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But, why? If I see someone trying to lift something heavy, it makes sense to lend a hand rather than wait for a coworker to ask.
Entlogic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:12:31 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chances are they dont need your help, and you might learn a new, more efficient way of doing the thing.
Buy lets say they dont really know what they are doing and encountering issues. If you jump the gun and tell them what to do, it'll fall on deaf ears. People who swallow their pride first are more open to advice.
mrmorningstar138 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:11:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Lord helps those that help themselves. Used to think it was just a rude way of saying no. But in my experience the universe is more likely to cut you a brake when you've been trying on your own accord
TrapLolis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:11:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drawing sketch circles before sketching the object. I thought it was entirely useless, but I'm just dumb.
ShownMonk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:11:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get some sleep people
Rexotank ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:12:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oatmeal bath to help with itchy skin
annabelle58 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:12:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you lost something, retrace your steps.
CH33KC14PP3R96 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:12:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just smack it
Mantequilla_Stotch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Whenever you're at home, always have something in your hand when you go to a different room.
If you have a cup on your desk, take it with you to the kitchen. If you have your towel in your room, bring it with you to the bathroom. When put into action, the clutter seems to disappear and you never really need to clean that hard because everything is where it belongs. It makes life easier and makes you feel good about your home.
Also, stop complimenting on looks. For example, instead of saying "you look sexy in that dress", say "that dress is beautiful." It sounds silly because you're not complimenting the person, but it means so much more and you get a much better response and you gain a lot of respect doing this.
TryDelicious ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"It's not you versus me, it's us versus the problem."
Idk who told us or where we read it when we got engaged but at first it turned into an inside joke. Until we had a fight, and remembering that you both want the same thing and you're a team really helps shift your perspective . I can go from raging "i must win this fight" to what's really the best solution for us.
Youngest___ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dig straight down. I was 8
virus-Detected ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditate
caidicus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:13:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Growing up with depression, I would say most of the help adults tried to give me, advice, guidance, etc. It wasn't that it fell on deaf ears as much as I would automatically respond to it with an "I know" attitude.
When I had grown up, much of what was said to me started to come back to me and I would consider it deeply, often seeing it in a new understanding, and it became infinitely more useful in overcoming some of the worst bouts of depression I'd face.
ThatOneOutsider ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:14:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try and appreciate what you have in life. Once I did it, many things became better.
YouGetNOLove0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:14:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Medicine
slowbert915 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:14:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lefty loosey,righty tighty
fixITman1911 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I always have issues with this one because I have to remember it is from the top as you are looking at the tool... so if your wrench handle is pointing down, this is backwards...
bourbon78 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:14:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you need to calm down, or process the emotional cluster fuck that is your life...take a walk.
3-cheese ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:14:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pick out tomorrow's work clothes the night before. I didnt think anything of it until I tried it. This was like a pressure-release valve for my mornings.
wojar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:14:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
that the song, Ironic, has pretty good advice.
psykosoulja ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:14:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking water upside down to get rid of hiccups.
holliisneat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Investing my money into an IRA with my bank. Iโve invested $100 a month into one for only 6 years and itโs nice to see it grow.
Sjkxism ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โJust talk to her and stop acting like a bitchโ
goalstopper28 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I initially had trouble making friends in my new school. All the advice from my family is to be yourself. Which I always thought never really made sense. It seemed stupid to me because every action you make is who you are. Even your insecurities or even if you fake everything. It's all you. At the time, I had low self-esteem and because of that, I had a lot of social anxiety. It's not like people will instantly like you when you admit you have low self-esteem or social anxiety. If anything, it could make you a bigger target for bullies.
Then, eventually, I just started talking to people. I didn't really talk about myself and my issues. But I talked to other people and what was going on in their lives. It actually helped in that I was able to not be as self-conscious. Eventually, once I built the trust up. I was able to talk about my feelings and shit. I still get depressed and get anxiety from social situations but not as much as it used to be. I will say I did a lot better socializing in college.
swimzone ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Travelling alone is liberating.
Avlonnic2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It really is.
seeyoumatane ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:15:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want to go FAST, go alone.
If you want to go FAR, go with others.
4OrAnGe2JuIcE0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:16:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt ever do business with 3 people. Theyโll always get together and screw you over.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:16:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wear clothes when cooking.
cenTT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:16:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat an apple from the top. Saw it on reddit.
Avlonnic2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:02:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It makes a difference?
cenTT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:09:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, it feels better to eat the whole apple like that and less weird to eat the center. It's such a waste to throw the center away like we are tought.
skiiijigz1017 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:16:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mustard on tuna
therealelaska ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:16:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do you fix by being angry? Really helped me to realize alot of my anger was holding me back.
dopesav117 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:17:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do onto others lol feels pretty good lol
DabIMON ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be yourself.
MrOddYazz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyone has the power and know how to save someone. Itโs okay if that someone is yourself.
Phytogasm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put chips on your sandwiches
PastorJo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy a nice hose.
agentMICHAELscarnTLM ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mel Robbins 5,4,3,2,1 gimmick. Actually works for some shit.
iknowyoujelly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
stop jacking off
Crooksclan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:18:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What is the point to gain the whole world and lose your soul?
wormbreath ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:19:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be tough, but fair.
hotspark226 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:19:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look where you last left it. -Mom
tastysharts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:19:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
never touch an item twice. If you pick it up, put it back in it's home spot. Also used this advice with exes and it hasn't failed me once.
dontkillchicken ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:19:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Check your blind spot before merging into a different lane.
Learned this When I was only looking in the side view mirrors and almost hit a car.
I sounds really dumb but us Jersey drivers are shit at doing this.
ilrosewood ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:19:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That top step in the ladder that has a label that tells you it is not a step? They arenโt kidding. I found out the very hard way.
mbcfree ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:19:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just try the guacamole.
bhmurderino ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:20:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
never go grocery shopping on an empty stomach
pray4myu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:21:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thinking positively goes a long way. As a kid, I was afraid to think positive thoughts in fear of having the opposite outcome. So for a long time I only thought in a negative manner until I meet my now bf, he told me about if you think positively good things can manifest from it. I know I probably sound stupid but I REALLY believed that thinking negatively would stop bad things from happening but its the complete opposite now that I think back on it
Zedblade ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:21:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't half-ass two things when you can whole ass one.
beaplagg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:21:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...Make your bed.
thanksmomTimesRTuff ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:21:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink a beer in the shower. Holy crap. Life changing
thecrimsonchinwonder ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be yourself.
It sounds like a bs platitude but having moved countries and making the conscious decision to not pretend to like or dislike certain things to try and make friends. I realised quickly that people themselves are so diverse and have all their own quirks about them that whoever you meet will see you and like or dislike you on face value as who you show up as. If you show up unapologeticallly as yourself then the people who like you, truly you, will and you learn quickly who doesn't appreciate the real you.
fTwoEight ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This one is for small businesses. Early in my career as a freelance photographer, I was told "Don't mess around with low end clients. Only deal with the kind of clients you really want." This seemed cliche and impossible. How does one magically find high end clients? But after a year or two of working with whomever I could, I started booking higher-end clients, not all the time, but I'd get lucky here and there. Once I got busy enough, I trimmed off the lower end. Rinse and repeat. Now I only work with people I like and who are willing to pay me a fair wage. I donate a good bit of my time taking photos for non-profits but it's only for organizations who really appreciate it like a kids' theatre or local food bank and not some huge org like the Red Cross. NEVER do freebies unless you really want to. At first you might feel guilty about saying no. But remember 2 things. 1) All other professionals are getting paid at events (caterer, venue, DJ, videographer, MC, etc.) You should too. 2) Their CEO probably makes more in a week than you make all year. Why are they asking YOU to volunteer?
oillbak ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
spinning, that's a good trick
Avlonnic2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:57:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do you mean spinning as in bicycle exercise or spinning cloth or spinning on the dance floor or spinning items on a table for entertainment?
glenndamarie82211 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โThe best lessons in life are the ones you bought and paid for.โ
My dad says this all the time. Especially after I screw up like I did when I was using and almost cost me my children. But I got sober and got them back. But those 2 years without them were the hardest times of my life. But it taught me to appreciate and value what I have and to never ever go back to where I was. I paid dearly for my mistakes and almost paid the ultimate price but it taught me a very hard lesson.
Archbazar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Somebody I met a few weeks ago told me that centipedes are crunchier and juicier than millipedes, but millipedes are longer and mushier, sorta like pasta. I never made that comparison, and after that perspective shift I found a whole new way to enjoy them!
Lonely_Crouton ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
get a footstool for when you poop. raising up your legs straightens out your colon and makes pooping way easier and actually healthier
vbcarrier4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:22:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Break up with your boyfriend bc once a cheater, always a cheater. That took me a while.
thunderHAARP ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditate
rxFMS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never piss into the wind! figuratively and literally! always try to see the big picture!
devinwillow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happiness is a choice.
Cpolly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To cut back on soda, get a glass of water and a soda. Before you take a sip of soda, drink a sip of water.
I know it sounds stupid, I thought the same thing, but it works.
Also, cook more and bring food to work. You will save money.
Avlonnic2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:54:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I need to try this. Iโve fallen into the habit again. Itโs the carbonation more than anything.
reidchabot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never break more than one law at a time.
Seeksherowntruth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bad ass .
no_ledge ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it aint broken, break it.
MusicTravelWild ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was carrying something heavy as a child, my mum would say, take two trips, you daft lad. Me being a mentally challenged youngster would think to myself "Oh if you purposely trip yourself twice before you get going, then you get that out of the way and it is smooth sailing from then on out. I now know she meant divide it into two parts and be more efficent. It was good advice
Ex_fat_64 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:26:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cute. This was a surprisingly wholesome laughter moment! Thanks.
MusicTravelWild ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:47:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always enjoy making someone laugh at my past self's expense!
Lgm74 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fix your posture
NoncreativeScrub ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:23:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you're feeling sick, eat peanut butter.
dumbperson12789 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:24:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
sneezing in my nose plugged
sandy_biscut ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:24:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Move now so you can move later
xbr3wmast3rx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:24:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Happy wife, happy life.
Seriously, a longlasting marriage depends on making sure your spouse is happy as well.
ProfaneTank ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:24:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it until you make it. I was in a bad place and decided to do something to improve myself instead of staying down because fuck it what else did I have to lose. Started feigning confidence and better attitudes when lol and behold it worked. Obviously everyone's circumstance is unique but it did wonders for me.
mynameisautocorrect ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:24:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can't never did nothing. I hated to hear it growing up, but if you say I can't, you won't do anything. Turn can't into I can, and you'll go further than you'll ever expect.
RealityFan11 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:24:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt be afraid to try. I wish I listened.
AbandonedTimeline ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:24:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do it before you can even think about it.
Do whatever thing youโre putting off so your brain doesnโt process it until after youโre done.
donkeypunshhh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:25:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turning my computer off and back on again. Every. Time.
dusttailed86 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:25:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop caring about what you think people think about you.
ARETESEAL ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:25:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sleep 8+ hours a day.
Improved my ability to concentrate ten fold
Vekate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:25:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take life one day at a time. Sounded like the tritest of platitudes, until I actually started trying to follow it. Now it helps me keep going.
Major_Paint ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:25:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation
its_probably_a_tumor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:26:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't smoke crack inside the bathroom at a Burger King
young_buck_la_flare ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:26:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Force yourself to smile and it might just brighten your mood. Spent most of highschool moody and depressed and then I finally took this advice seriously and while it didn't solve all my problems it did make me feel slightly happier. Majorly helped with my anxiety.
SatonariKazushi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:26:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
watch a horror movie when you're really sad or depressed. the movie won't be that scary even with jumpscares, creepy stuff and whatevers
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:26:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you have the hiccups, take water in your mouth, stand up, touch your toes, then swallow. 98.3% of the time your hiccups will be gone!
Bobcatz7798 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:26:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sitting on my left hand before masturbating.
AbveAvrgeVeg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:26:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Toothpaste can buff the scratches out of a glass watchface. Made it 12x worse.
ziyuu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:27:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
instead of talking about yourself listen instead
crowjar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:27:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Praying.
DoingItWrongly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:28:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you're sad, anxious, overwhelmed, beating yourself up, etc...
Close your eyes, inhale deeply through your nose, force a big ol' smile, and slowly exhale out your nose.
ssgtgriggs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:28:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if you're trying to learn english (or any other language, really), but are an olympic procrastinator and a lazy piece of shit like me, just watch the movies and shows you were gonna watch anyway in the language you're trying to learn. Turn on the subtitles and read along. Got from an A2 level to a C2 (basically as well as my mother tongue) within 3 years or so. All I did was watch The Sopranos 18 times.
Avlonnic2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:46:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Impressive.
avidsdead ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:28:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Shut the fuck up"
dearestdeedee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:28:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditate. I disregarded the advice for many years, when I was suffering from debilitating anxiety and bouts of depression. I can't emphasize how much it helped me. Took some practice, sure, but I am super glad I tried and found the cure to that ugly infliction.
SheetMasksAndCats ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:29:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop drinking so much coke. It's been close to a year and I've lost over a stone and rarely get bouts of IBS anymore.
CMDR_Redd_Farjumper ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:29:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You should try meditation
kokkofuller ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:29:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tough times in life get easier over time
MrBabadookIsKnocking ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:29:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hot shower immediately after too much sun without enough sunscreen. No idea why it helps
Elephansion ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:29:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put it in rice
OhSheGlows ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:29:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nothing but water outside of the kitchen/dining area.
frateroiram ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:29:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
save your work every five minutes
DrMaalPractice ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:29:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think it, believe it, live it, and you'll be it.
FennecWF ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:30:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Confidence can sometimes be most important."
Felt dumb because I assumed a majority of people will scrutinize everything you do on every level, since my dad used to do it to me all the time.
You'd be surprised the things you can get away with with an air of confidence, especially when dealing with people like customers or managers in a work setting. I keep a shell of confidence that I know what I'm doing at all times and half the time, customers or managers will let me do whatever as long as it gets results.
rocafella888 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:30:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sucking on a stone makes you less thirsty
Avlonnic2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Any kind of stone?
_FTP_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:30:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To stop the hiccups:
Breathe in through your mouth and out through your nose. This requires effort, because it is very abnormal, but it is 100% effective. (from my experience)
Close_But_No_Guitar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:30:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Flossing
alienboy708 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:31:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't loose sleep over anything you can't fix right now. Have to wait till tomorrow or the weekend to do something that's frying your nerves? You can't fix it till then so don't worry about it till then. It seems impossible but if you can just think about anything else and fall asleep your mind will thank you endlessly and the problem will seem so much smaller when it's time to deal with it.
Your_Worship ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:31:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Match and mirror to create rapport.
Gapeman7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:31:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're falling asleep in Lectures or you're in a situation you shouldn't then hold your breath. It will wake you up fast af
Houllii ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:31:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You really donโt feel good until your mentality is good
PetersTheName ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:31:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Heel toe down shifting. My god does it help smooth my ride.
Elainya ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:31:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The whole "fists with your toes" thing from Die Hard actually works.
ThorDansLaCroix ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:32:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Favorable circumstances.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:32:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
DMT
BrentarTiger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:33:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Always suck before you fuck, especially if it's anal and a dog is the one topping you" didn't think it was important until... Ya know...
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:35:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat breakfast
Mostface ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:35:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep taking in breaths till you are beating capacity, hold it in 1-2 seconds then slowly exhale. Goodbye hiccups. I just learned it this year and I wish I knew 30 years ago.
InnocenceInASense ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:35:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Idk if this fits here but curing hiccups by bending forward at a 90 angle and drinking water whilst in that position. It looks really dumb and you should use a bottle or straw for the easiest way but it's always worked instantly for me.
cppr47 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:36:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use discipline, not motivation to complete tasks.
It took me far too long to realise this but itโs changed the game for my productivity.
ManishKrShukla ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:36:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A person who scolds you, is probably also the one who cares about you. If i wouldn't care about your existence, i won't critique your actions.
Sounds a bit too optimistic, but helped me avoid lot of unnecessary childish grudges.
AutoCompliant ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:37:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush."
I've been thinking about this a lot recently as I sit at a job that I actually don't mind, but don't make enough in salary. Sure you're giving me benefits which is great and all, but I haven't used any medical in 2 years aside from just checkups..
I would much more prefer that $250+ per week you're (the company) spending on that to use for myself, or to save for a house I can't afford.
Edit: spellding
Dantback ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:37:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating a tablespoon of local honey honey every morning. Helps so much with allergies. I thought it was bogus. Its great.
GGisDope ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:37:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
meditating
BioniKDragon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:37:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
HillKickMMA ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:38:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For example if an outlet isnโt working switch it to another hole in the outlet 60% of the time works everytime
Takoshi88 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:38:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oil-pulling.
Sounded pretty bullshit, but it solved a problem that the registered professionals couldn't, so that's a success in my books.
Putt-Blug ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:38:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stretch correctly everyday to easy back pain and build strength. Just started a few months ago and it is my number two life changing decision I have made.
Malkintent ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:39:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What is a good routine?
Putt-Blug ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:58:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs important to properly try to extend intended muscles and feel them out. Yoga helped me understand how to do this. I had back pain always especially in my hips and it all went away after starting a yoga based proper stretching regime at least 5 days a week.
I start on my hands and knees with my knees pointed out and my feet touching. I do a pretzel stretch and exaggerated cat cow rolls and finish with thread the needle. I move to down ward dog and walk out my calfโs and then extend each leg and circle my hips. Next I do lunges before moving to warrior pose where I side stretch and do shoulder movements. I stretch quads next while I balance on one leg then put feet together and bend over doing forward folds and hugging my arms to work hips as I rock side to side. Then I do full body yoga stretches from this stance and when Iโm upright I make sure to stretch neck muscles. Then I sit and do legs together quad stretches. Move to a back twist, then figure 4โs and then I roll back while pulling legs apart to stretch groin and extend lower back. Finally I do windshield wipers body stretches and work out remaining kinks.
Again learning to stretch out the body the right way is important. Going through motions is useless. Gotta actively try to work the target muscles. Yoga is a great place to start. If you are having pain or soreness in back/hips/neck this is 100% something to look into. You will not regret.
Malkintent ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:13:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thank you so much for taking the time to write this.
Putt-Blug ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:28:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No problem. I can do the entire routine in 10 minutes and itโs easy to do while watching tv or at lunch break on the floor. I should make a video and post it to show people how easy it is.
Worst part is my wife complains daily about her back and โnever had time to stretchโ but then spends $100 bucks on a massage. Meanwhile my dad is pushing 70 and has had 3 back surgeryโs and he plays golf 3 times a week. He does daily back stretches everyday when he wakes up.
zanyyy ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 03:42:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
there you go, buddy
Malkintent ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 03:47:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I feel better now knowing how best to stretch from internet friend.
Lairdy_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:39:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learning to be thankful, instead if apologetic has helped me communicate better. For example, rather than saying 'sorry for being late' i might say 'thank you for waiting' Using language that expresses gratitude makes me feel a lot better, and it acknowledges the other person for what they might have been doing. "Thank you for your patience " over "sorry for taking so long" ect ect
polscihis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:39:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed. A little regiment to start your day prevents you from slacking off
Blessing727 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:39:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jordan Petersonโs stand up straight with your shoulders back. I did what he saidโi walk with my back straight and tallโand I feel like a million bucks after taxes. I walked slumped over before and it made me feel like a bitch. Now I feel confident. It really, truly builds confidence, and it makes others think youโre confident too.
skeedkid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:39:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slow is smooth, and smooth is fast. If you aren't good at something new take it slow and once you get the basics you'll get better a lot faster as opposed to jumping in the deep end without knowing how to swim.
ITS_MAJOR_TOM_YO ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:40:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Count your calories
Aaron-Kline ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:40:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To keep my mouth shut if I donโt have anything worthwhile to say. I have enjoyed the power of listening more.
PoopingPoet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:40:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โYou should check on reddit!โ
mcnos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:40:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Living
BlackClamSlammer69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:40:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put at least $20 in your retirement account per month.
I remember a mentor specifically exclaiming โput fucking anything!?! Just put something in thereโ
Karomaga ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:40:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The No Zero Days thing. Just doing something, anything, is a step forward. Whether it be sweeping the house or reading a chapter in a book, whatever little thing you accomplish can be the start something bigger you want fot yourself. =]
m1sta ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:41:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If nobody can decide on dinner ask "what do you think I want for dinner?"
SpinelessChordate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:48:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm going to try that!
Asdrian_14 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:41:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you don't remember a word in English, say it but in Spanish (it can also be for some movie, book or song title), the people find it to be some cute stereotype or even funny.
ivanoski-007 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:41:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
sleep early, I used to think I was awesome for being able to sleep late but now I value sleep more than ever
mini_pandan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:41:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Adding group yoga/ vigorous exercise to my weekly routine to help my depression. It doesn't cure it, but it gives me a more immediate thing to focus on.
hotshotdegree ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:41:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn left to go right at high speeds Seemed stupid taking advice from a car in the cars movie but then when I tried it out it does kinda help at times
beard_meat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:42:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In regards to procrastinating on small tasks, as soon as you have the thought "I'll do it later", get up and do it now.
twelvebee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:43:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To prevent loose leaf lettuce or spinach from spoiling just put a paper towel inside the package.
The paper towel will absorb water and the greens will stay fresh for more than twice as long!
First time I heard it thought it was a troll to spoil my lettuce but it's saved me so much $$$
Spamkos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:43:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lifting with my legs.
Damien__ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:43:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Splashing cold water on your face when you're overheated. This works amazingly well.
maglen69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Before you go to sleep do the same thing every night (Play game X). Only use that thing for sleep time.
If you want to go to sleep any other time do that thing. Your brain associates that thing with sleep.
chung_my_wang ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jet lag? Get on the carpet, take off your shoes and socks, and make fists witcher toes.
ElectroManiac69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Into the sea I go. Over medium eggs on a waffle House waffle and bust it open. It is amazingly good.
lolzilla ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worrying doesn't take away tomorrow's troubles. It takes away todays peace.
Or
Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, it empties today if its strength.
jaronhog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
E before I, except after C
Edit: totally mis-read the topic. This^ advice sucks.
CrazedFlower ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using a stool to poop
hobopwnzor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use lube for anal
mytokhondria ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:44:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation
dman2316 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:45:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You don't think it be like it is, but it do. Oh but it do.
Jankus2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:45:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using voice commands on my remote or phone
EpilepticSquidly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:45:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To purchase a bidet wand for my toilet.
LuckofCaymo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:45:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Swing with your hips.
Or punch all the way through your target
TDragon21 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:45:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if one of your apple ear buds stops working, try sucking on it. thereโs probably just ear wax stuck in it, suck the headphone then wipe off what comes out.
bsash ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh no. I think I would just buy a new one!!!
TDragon21 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:16:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It happened on my airpods and ya boy canโt afford another set of those babies
zanyyy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:45:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
doing the hardest task of the day in the morning
ludicrouscuriosity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:45:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Open your mouth when cutting onions, most of the times they won't make you cry but if they are one of those your mouth will absorb the gases
jeremymeyers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:45:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is easier to eliminate temptation than to resist it. This is why I don't keep ice cream in the house. It's not there so I don't have to spend effort not eating it. Then when I want some it's a special treat.
wesleythememerman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:46:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If u want a girlfriend ask one of ur friends to tell them that u like he/she it works like a charm
ChefBraden ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:47:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do yoga. What is breathing anyways?
wickod124 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:47:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take tissues to endgame
Meeperr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:47:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That incest is best
Mermaidgem ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:48:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Therapy.
Dora_123 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:48:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be yourself
icescreamconnoisseur ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:48:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed first thing each day. I had always been against making my bed, but it works. It gives you a sense of accomplishment and helps you jump into action for the rest of the day. If you have a rough day, at the very least you know you did one thing right.
jiff111 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:48:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditating. It's amazing what 10 minutes a day does for your peace of mind.
BetaHH ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:48:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read the syllabus.
lekaik ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:48:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โNobody is obliged to do something for someoneโ
SoSunny808 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:49:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turning things off and on.
number1earner ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:49:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't be an idiot, changed my life. Everytime I'm about to do something I ask myself would an idiot do that and if that answer is yes I don't do that thing.
tinfoilempress ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:49:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWeโre too poor to buy cheapโ meaning, buy the more expensive good quality item that will last you several years rather than buying crappy quality items that will give out in a few months
OatSauce65 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:49:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt stick your dick in it
The_Man_Of_Atoms ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:49:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop drop and roll
Contene ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get eucalyptus scented cleaner or eucalyptus essential oil mixed with water in a stray bottle. Spray this around your house and the bugs will run away. Worked so well that I didn't have to use the clearer for several months and by then I had forgotten where it was!
(Note: I used this to get rid of Asian lady beatles, your results may vary)
1LtKaiser ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Vapor rub on the soles of your feet when youโre sick.
Bratar321 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:50:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That you have to want to get better for it to actually work, as in, if you want changes, you canยดt expect them to just magically happen, you gotta get out there and make change happen.
pondering_life01 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:51:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listening to people's advice
ASAD_CHATHA3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:51:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listen to your parents.
FrostyEmuLight ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:51:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not attempting to kill myself
candleisout ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:52:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing when you feel down seriously guys try it
kinarevex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:52:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That ringing in your ears?
Put your thumbs up against the little fold, wrap your habds around parallel to your thumbs and flick your pointer fingers against the space where they touch together at the back of your head. Ringing stops immediately.
SodiumKnuckles ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:52:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Quite simply, scratching the grain off of a bananna peal's innards before you fuck it.
ItchiUcha ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:52:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โEnjoy your teenage years while you can, because youโll miss it when youโre an adultโ
JDog902107 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:52:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly, positive mindset and positive words. Taking โhateโ โdonโt likeโ out your vocab helped me so much. Even โI canโtโ or โI wontโ. I know even jokingly saying โI want to dieโ is just so negative and removing it feels like removing the weight on your back.
BobsPineapplePants ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:52:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating or drinking sour things when you feel nauseous. Seriously if you're queasy drink some lemon water. Helps so much.
I_play_elin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:53:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to think the "shocker" was just a joke.
It's not a joke.
Okay it's not just a joke.
generaldream ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:53:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cleaning up as you work saving time.
TacoVelo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:54:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just do it
chilliophillio ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:54:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting any loose gas cap in your pocket while getting fuel. I've left one top of my car before and scoffed at this old man that gave me the advice but I got in my vehicle enough times with it still in my pocket to wish that I could thank him.
JennLostAndFound ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:54:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take it one day at a time.
wiggles0027 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:54:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy a squattypotty...
LostnSF ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:55:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One step at a time, one foot in front of the other, and you'll get whatever it is done.
obedient_muffin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:55:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use teeth
essiemc12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:55:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If someone offers your something, smile and say thank you.
quequotion ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:56:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat right and get exercise.
Nez_bit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:57:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take breaks when studying. Find out how long your match lasts then when it goes take a short break. Then get back to work.
iRamMyDogsHole ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:57:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always salt your party before boiling it
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:58:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Concentrating on a candle flame or on a spiraling, downwards staircase when trying to sleep.
liamawesome3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:58:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hiding in plain site in rainbow six siege
theseasskye ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:59:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
to take deep breaths.
DickUrkel69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:00:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Blow into the bottom of the cartridge.
Sounds weird, but you're actually blowing all the dust out of it so it works better.
FatherOfTheSkye ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:01:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tell her that you like her.
heids_25 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:01:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If youโre thirsty and donโt have a drink around but have a mint/minty gum, it helps.
cgriffeth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:02:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn on the shower before you get in. No more hiding from cold water!
ObnoxiousOldBastard ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 04:07:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doesn't everyone do that?
TheGingerBeardsman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:02:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Friend told me to start smoking weed. It's helped a lot with my anxiety and depression plus it's hella fun. I was also prescribed oxy recently but I didn't really want to fuck with that so I just smoked instead. Was a good pain killer.
Frosted_Roses ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:02:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wet mop then dry mop
DotaAndKush ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The saying "Look good, feel good"
ATMofMN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reach over your head and pull up on your ear to insert ear plug.
Actually works.
tecampanero ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
making fists with your feet on carpet
jnnnle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Killing a wasp or bees nest with soapy water. Throw the water and run like hell. Come back in 15 mins, theyโre all dead.
ReSpawn108 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Plugging your nose and covering your mouth then swallowing to unplug your ears.
SnoobyJS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:36:19 on May 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You
ReSpawn108 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:19:51 on May 31, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You
polomarksman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
breathing exercises. never felt more calm doing something so seemingly stupid.
sightalignment ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Touch the tip of your nose and it prevents an immediate sneeze.
bachelorettebetty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Things will look different in the morning. Itโs always true.
s1amantha ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:03:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eye contact
RSZephoria ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:04:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dogs have fleas? Wash them with mild dish soap like Dawn and then dry them and do the flea prevention stuff like normal.
Dish soap kills the fleas on contact.
cytPandora ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:04:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you're stressed, just take a shower, a long shower then lay down feeling really refreshed and cozy under your sheets.
CJPsalm139 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:13:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
mhm. it's amazing what a hot shower can do.
a_lejandro2020 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:04:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Watch where you walk cause I almost stepped on a rattlesnake today
cornplantation ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:04:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get rid of things you donโt need and that donโt add value to your life. This goes for people and objects
kogmawFanatic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:04:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking away your problems works , he was a bad influence but still my best friend
PillowTalk420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:04:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A few years ago, some nVidia GPUs had a bad solder point on the card. The solution was to bake the GPU in an oven at a certain, low temp (forget the exact numbers and model of GPU it was). It sounds incredibly stupid and like it would damage the card more, but it really would just remelt the solder and allow it to take a better hold, thus fixing the problem.
TacitWinter64 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
hot spoon on itchy bug bites
vhaztec515054 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cut a hole in your poket and wank off whenever you want
renee1231 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditate. When I was younger I thought it was a weird thing only hippies and monks did, as an adult it's the best thing I've ever done for my brain. Not meditating is like the brain equivalent of never getting off the couch/exercising.
(If you've never tried it, watch a YouTube video or download an app for guided meditation, headspace or calm are good ones)
cakehatesme ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn left to go right
Cobster105 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a life. I still donโt have one but Iโve heard itโs pretty nice.
ObnoxiousOldBastard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:05:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gargling warm salt water for a sore throat or a head cold. That was one of my grandmother's home remedies, & it works really well.
LethalDoseMLD50 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:06:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use the bathroom BEFORE doing anal to avoid any unnecessary embarrassment.
thehumantoothbrush ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:06:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drugs
Obizues ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:06:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I used to think that large meetings with very simple generic messages were a giant waste of time.
After holding them for a while, I realized that when I held them everyone goes to and from that meeting with a different context. The conversation that follows clears up things that couldโve been very problematic quickly.
I still hate them, but when Iโm on the receiving end I understand the purpose now.
Z3d_justZ3d ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:06:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unfolding a pandas to go box to make a plate?
CJPsalm139 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought this was a stroke until I re-read it
madhi19 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:07:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it floats, flies, or fuck rent it.
sSnowblind ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:07:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only read your emails once.
Email is not a time management system. If it requires a response, respond right away after reading it the first time, even if it's only to request more time for a more detailed response.
uberclaw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:07:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Managing expectations facilitates happiness. Nothing can't dissappoint you when it all you expect, and anything beyond is more than you hoped for.
sn1ped_u ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:08:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Found out on Reddit itself. If you have a blocked nose, try doing push-ups. Your nose will unlock.
Danuwa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:54:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am so going to try this.
PedroV100 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put your seemingly dead hard drive in a ziplock bag in the freezer overnight. Put it on the computer one last time and recover what appeared to be tons of lost data before it heats up again.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To get rid of hiccups. My friends dad was a neurologist, not that it makes him an expert but he swore by it. It does actually work. You hold your breath, tilt your head to the side and take 8 small sips of water without letting out your breath. He claimed it messages the diaphragm. IDK- it works.
phs125 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stay positive
right_ho ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yoga for stress and back pain. I was so sceptical my first class but it worked. Still not keen on the hippydippy stuff for sale outside the class but it's easy to ignore.
Smanroch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using a soc to masturbate
PsychoChamploo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop caring so much.
RealTurretguy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you donโt like needles, focus on wiggling your toes from left to right, and then from right to left and you probably wonโt even feel the needle!
Especially on your first attempt
hasbas127 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you tend to procrastinate but have to get something done, try the 25-5 minute approach with a friend/colleague where you work uninterruptedly for 25 minutes then break for 5 and check in with a short progress report. Change times to suit your needs, and do it with a friend who prioritizes their own work too. Works for me when I need to get a lot of writing done.
sszivos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you have the hiccups, chug a glass of water with a paper towel over the top of it. Works every time
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting an 1/8 tsp +/- sea salt on your tongue then swallowing will stop hiccups in their tracks 9 out of 10 times.
CaliBuddz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You will only get something if you ask for it.
Now I got this advice in college. It was a buddy of mine that told me it. It was initally in relation to hooking up with girls. Basically if you never ask them out or ask them to do anything (sexual or not) it will never happen. I took that advice to heart and got with a girl that weekend who ended up being my girlfriend for a while.
Going forward I realized that this applies to almost everything in life. Want a raise. Ask. Want something done differently. Ask.
You will be shocked what asking politely for things will get you in life. But the key is also to ask confidently. Not smugly. Just confident and with a smile.
nosaggio ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:10:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you cut yourself and need to stop the bleeding use paprika or cayenne pepper. Sounds crazy but it doesnโt hurt and coagulation pops off
readvida ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:10:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it til you make it.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:10:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop drop and roll. Sounds dumb, but holy crap when I was on fire did a great it it to good use.
Scipio229 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you are constantly distracted by social media, get rid of instagram first. Just delete the app. Youโd be shocked at how much you wonโt miss it.
BeautifulPainz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Vanilla extract for a toothache.
Buroda ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt compare yourself to others. Sounds like a very run-of-the mill advice, but at a certain point in my life I was so consumed by insecurity and jealousy towards others, understanding this was an eureka moment that probably saved my life. It honestly went downhill from there.
spacecourgette ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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scampiparameter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop drinking
BigBoyNestor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Working out if you're depressed or just in a bad mood, it really gets your mind off things and makes you feel good for being productive.
RedBombX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed every morning.
dton512 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's better to do something half assed than to not do anything at all.
unknouwnuser ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:11:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
cold showers
itotally_CAN_even ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Weights BEFORE cardio to lose fat and gain muscle.
Flerbaderb ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hold a pencil in your mouth (like a horse holds their bit) while cutting onions and you wonโt cry.
Dumb as fuck looking but I donโt have no bitch tears...from onions at least.
Alienwallbuilder ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:15:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To avoid crying from cutting onions put a piece of onion in your eye before you start cutting.
annie_dandy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cook the salmon before skinning it.
I used to skin it first, and it took me ages. I never believed my father-in-law when he told me to cook it first, and finally once I tried it. The skin peeled right off.
oneEYErD ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kill em all, let God sort em out.
youllfindmeinspace ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My reaction to seeing the first advertisement for sending pictures via your phone/text message was, "How useless. Nobody is ever going to use that." Not long after that thought it quickly became a daily activity!
danhalenforever ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make yourself smile when you feel sad/depressed. It really does help.
NeverTrustAName ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slow the fuck down.
1ofutookmy1stchoice ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:12:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You are what you eat.
Spent months running for minimal change. Swapped in salads for the daily shake shack and literally lost eight pounds in a week
Bum-Cigar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:13:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Giving zero fucks. All of a sudden I made the right friends and discarded the vampires in my life.
MY-DICK-FELL-OFF ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:13:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
try spreading some positivity. for some reason I've noticed that if I'm being nice to people through super low investment things like saying "nice shoes" and making them feel happy/better about their day I feel better about everything(also some people have hella cool shoes)
Caveman775 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:13:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smile, it makes you happy
TrippHippie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:13:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if you aren't confident just fake it until eventually you won't notice it's fake
cb7apache ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:13:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
writing things down; whether it be a list for the store or a list for serious changes you need to make in life; things are so much clearer and better remembered when you write them down
crownprinceofcoffee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:13:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just be happy lol
clever_username_eh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:13:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making fists with your toes...
greyestgray ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:14:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rub tomatoes on sunburn
SilentS3AN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:14:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Cure to Hiccups. I've had them for as many as 5 days straight (so I've heard it all). ** Deep Breath-- Hold and keep holding as you-- Swallow-- Inhale more air-- Swallow-- Continue repeating inhale/ swallow while still holding full(er) lungs. No exhale until necessary. Works for Me... (but don't hold Your breath..)
noobishcow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:14:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That taking even just a 10 minute walk in the morning can greatly boost your energy for the day. Been doing that every day for 3 years taking my dog for a walk around the block. Now I live in LA and my dogs are with my parents, so I haven't been talking the walk, and I definitely notice the difference.
SirMorgepie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:14:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Curling your toes on carpet. Worked like a charm.
RunRunRamses ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:14:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think happy thoughts
InjuredAexthetic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:14:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
HEY! U FINALLY GOT GOLD AWARD
saggypancaketiddies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
living completely in the moment. not trying to envision possible outcomes of any actions or any past events, just being aware of your surroundings and you
morningafternoon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Just try it on. It looks better off the hanger." My mom. She was always right.
Whotheheckknowsnow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bet more, fewer times.
zafabufu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:15:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Running in the mornings
lavasca ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:16:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wear yellow and orange...
Apparently this is the functional equivalent of Sex Panther [is supposed to do to women but does it to men].
rub_a_dub-dub ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:17:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Love yourself
LikeABossGaming64 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:17:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bought a capture card it never worked from the day i got it read a post on a forum saying to put it in the freezer tried it and it acctually worked. atlesst for about 20 mins anyway lol
Porcuspiney ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:17:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWhen youโre talking to girls, just be yourselfโ
bsully515 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:17:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read somewhere(maybe on one of the r/askreddit threads) that if a goose is trying to attack you donโt run away,Instead grab it by the neck and yeet that goose.
Thought it was useless until 3 days ago. I was walking to my class In college when a goose was blocking the door into the building. I tried to walk around it but it flew up a little and tried to bite me so I grabbed it and threw that goose away from me and ran into the building.
HelloweenCapital ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:17:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"A place for everything, and everything in it's place" RIP Lindy ๐
avacaaado ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:17:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have hiccups, you pull open your ears and drink water through a straw while your face is level with it.
It works.
The_Apex_Predditor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:17:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put the toilet paper cover with the tongue aimed at your butt and just sit. The curve of your butt rips it for easy use.
j1h15233 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:18:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shake your drink to make it colder.
Bearmay33 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:18:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
-ing over -en and -ed Focus on whatโs happening not whatโs happened or whatโs going to happen
TonyStarks_RoleModel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:18:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you thank someone, say "I appreciate it" or "I appreciate your help". Sounds way more sincere and they remember it.
tosh_pt_2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:18:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWhen you know, youโll know.โ
NotObviouslyARobot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:18:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gently rub your earlobes between two pinched fingers if you have a headache.
Beautychaos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:18:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tipping the keurig over the sink and giving it a good old slap to unclog it when I was descaling it. I never thought that would work but it did!
garconmeansboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:19:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listen to music that makes you feel how you want to feel versus music that reflects your current emotion.
Discorat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:19:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't be proud. If someone shows you a better way, accept it and think about changing your mind. Stupid are not those people who do not know but those who refuse to learn.
powaful3000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:19:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise
handmadeinsomerset ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:19:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Give up wheat
Whatayank ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Create a budget and stick to it.
Gory_Ghostie_Guts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt knock it till you try it
acapncuster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dirty martinis.
fluffyringtone ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A bit of moisturizer on your butt hole as part of your normal lotion ritual. It helps if it's sensitive and you sometimes see a bit of bright red blood when you wipe.
MyUserNameIsCool5 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting sliced tomatoes on a sunburn. Works wonders!
allyleitschuh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When youโre depressed and feel like isolating yourself/just crawling into bed, do NOT do that.
I used to wonder why I couldnโt just lay in bed all day and sleep if it seemingly helped my depression, but Iโve started getting up, opening my windows, and cleaning/organizing whenever I feel that way and it helps so much more.
Common_Appearance ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Clean as you cook". Seriously saves so much time. Then when you're done eating you have, at most, a few plates and pieces of silverware to clean. Amazing.
Selevtar13 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are plenty of fish in the sea. I actually made me reconsider dating
Whatayank ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:21:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt weigh yourself every day.
delphiina93 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:21:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I recently got a new Tab S4 and the pen wasnt working right so I asked my friend for help since i was coming up with nothing. His search results advised banging the tip a bit to get it to work. I blew it off as a joke till a few days later I was frustrated and voiced it and he asked if I had done it lol told him no cuz I thought he was joking. Turns out it was correct advice. A few good bangs got it working perfectly! Sometimes hits or bangs really do work lol
I word vomited what could have been said in a sentence or 2 ๐
Bengeva ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:21:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wiping while seated down
demonitise ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:21:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saying "watermelon" right before a sneeze.
mikeyxgee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:22:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โTry avocados theyโre goodโ
I always thought they were ugly and disgusting until my sister forced me to eat it and boy was it delicious.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:22:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't shit in a toilet you can't flush
Danuwa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:46:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is wisdom right here.
WhiskeyGirl13 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:22:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be careful what you wish for because you just might get it!
jchall310 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:22:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If having a hard time taking the browns to the super bowl, blow your nose. Itโll clear you out
dogsaybark ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:22:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Amazing advice
VespineOregon2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cleaning car windows with newspaper.
comp-sci-fi2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
\u\La_Lechuga is such a great redditor
GoodRastafarian ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking water whilst doing a handstand will cure hiccups 100%.
snarkywitchbitch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rocking back and forth on the toilet helps you go ๐ฉ
Woyaboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep cool but never freeze.
-Heinz Ketchup bottle
thenumber42 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:23:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Weightlifting.
squiddles97 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One side of my earbuds stoped working so like looked up how to fix it on YouTube and the person told me to put your mouth where it goes into your ear and blow into it. It seemed stupid but I tried it and now my earbuds work.
Shoopherd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep your eye on the ball.
Itโs almost as if, when you know where the thing is, itโs easier to catch the thing.
Crazy, I know.
LukeUpdyke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just putting my phone down and sleeping.
WontArnett ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going to counseling
Youkeyna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cinnamon on doorways and window to keep out ants. Thought it was crazy, but I tried it. Very few ant get in my house. Have to replace it only twice all summer last year. Note- I live on a small incline and have several ant hill on my tiny property. There used to be ants everywhere
psychonautika468 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can't change the way someone acts, but you can change the way that you react.
jamrockredditor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That putting some sugar on your tongue cures hiccups
darkpsycho_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:24:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sleep more.
capable_duck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:25:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you feel depressed, go outside.
himanhsu54 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:25:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stick'em with the pointy end.
brannanvitek ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:25:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โThis too, shall pass.โ
Good olโ Mama told me that during a 7am phone call from a sleepless night after the worst breakup of my life.
Canโt speak enough to what this phrase can get you through! Keep at it, friends. Weโre all gettin there at our own pace.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:25:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Aiming your car key at your head to amplify the signal and lock you car from farther away!
future_nurse19 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:25:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting rid of ants with black pepper or cinnamon. I was super doubtful it would work. It totally does. Supposedly it confuses their chemo receptors so they lose the trail they're following. I believe because they freak out if drop it near the line. I prefer pepper as its easier to clean up IMO but both have worked. It does take a bit of time so have to be patient, but once word gets back that the trail is messed up ants will stop coming
Rids85 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:26:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Moisturise my face to stop it going oily.
EveryRespect ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:26:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saving up coins/change. It goes a long way. It adds up over time and it is really satisfying. I suggest you try it.
BecomingSavior ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:26:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not me, but I remember telling a friend in college what to do if you skid out on black ice while driving. Years later I ran into him and he told me my tipped saved him one night when he skidded out taking an exit off a highway during a storm.
HostilePride ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:37:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Let us know what the trick is! Not that I'll need it in Australia, but it's good to know lmfao.
BecomingSavior ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 05:35:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
rabaruiz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:42:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What do u do
jcat910 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:27:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can't eat a elephant in one bite. Really helps to stay focused on one task and picking a place to start. Also really helps with big projects when you seem to be drowning in things to get done.
Acromins ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:28:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Surface pro 3 wouldn't turn on. Someone in an online forum said to try bending it a bit until I heard a crack. Did so and it works fantastic up this day!
sega702 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:28:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat rite, and exercise..
4thQTRzero ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:28:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wear underwear.
jerrycoyne ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:29:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink water
kikial ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:30:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smiling when youโre sad.
PhanisTheWriter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using ammonia for burns... Shit smells like piss but works wonders. No blisters.
Serendipstick ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using ice to get out blood stains
soundstesty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fists with your toes?
earthbooty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't hand write your uni lecture notes. Just switched over to typing after 2 months of stubborness and now it takes half as long. face palm ctrl-f saved my finger tips.
Gooddoggo76 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is useful information
RosePricksFan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cut dairy out of your diet to eliminate acne. LIFE CHANGING. I wish I had followed this advice 10 years ago when I first heard about it. (Yes I still miss real cheese but whatever Iโve got perfect clear skin when I used to have horrific cystic acne everywhere)
Mysterious_Lesions ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't even reply.
Especially on the Internet. I don't feed trolls and I alone can't cure stupidity.
77Mohammad77 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything my parents told me.
seesaw4640 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โShow up for yourself. Every dayโ. And โBe your own best friendโ Until I began doing it, it sounded totally stupid to me. One day, it just, clicked.
SneakersInTheDryer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go and use this knowledge well, my brother
MrAviationJayden ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:31:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
turn left to go right and right to go left.
Kachow
Yaveteransfakeit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Peanut butter on toast with spaghetti
MissAnthropoid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cheer up.
CtznK ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To avoid a severe hangover before bed drink plenty of water but also take panadol and neurofen.
crunchyshoulder00 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
stay hydrated during sex.
pissnachos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Facial bars prevent acne. Seemed dumb for the longest time. I got rid of my acne and was told Iโd have it again but never got it back because I prevented it. Cleaning your face helps grow facial hair and now I have it.
_Stalwart_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I never viewed it as a useless piece of advice but before he died my grandpa told me that if I ever find a lot of ants in the house I should spread some oregano (spice) everywhere. Tried it some times, ants always gone in less that two days.
atticus_grey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:33:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You think SFC /Scannow doesn't work ever...until that one time it does.
Eclipso369 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:33:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking it slow when learning how to swim
SharpMohit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:33:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything that followed by less no of people will make you feel like a useless piece of advice. Especially when it comes from your teachers.
- Play brain games to improve your focus instead of wasting time.
- Pop A Stocking Over The Head Of Your Vacuum Cleaner To Find Small, Missing Items.
CosmicSheOwl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do mindfulness practices. Iโm a psych student and I thought they sounded useless when I first learned about it but being present really does help anxiety, stress, plenty of issues.
goudulosa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:34:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take a deep breath when youโre having a panic attack. And then, slowly, breathe in and breathe out.
I thought it was bullshit, like the person who told me that had no idea of what a panic attack really feels like to say that breathing could defeat a monster called anxiety.
But yeah... focusing on my breathing had helped me a lot! Iโm not saying it was the answer to all of my problems, but sure helped a lot!
alonsorq100 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:35:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cleaning my iPhone lightning port.
Joal0503 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:35:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โbrown eyes, blue eyes, green eyesโฆ eyes youโll shut foreverโ
user--Nine- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:35:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reading self help and philosophically focused books
themustachieo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:36:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink a gallon of water a day. It sound hard but if you just drink it throughout the day believe it or not, you'll look better, feel better, and (for my fellow dudes out there) smell better.
pajamayorama ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:36:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe donโt cum first..?
imighthaveananswer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:36:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
who in the world is giving everyone gold and silvers in this thread
midgestickles98 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:36:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If youโre studying material that deals with a lot of equations i.e thermodynamics, physics, higher level math courses; donโt memorize the equations. Memorize the concepts behind them. The equations become secondary to the concept. If you understand how something works then itโs easier to apply the equations after.
I didnโt realize this until I got to college and started to see just how far down a rabbit hole you can go if you donโt understand the meaning of an equation.
jansolo76 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:36:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be yourself
Atencia ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:36:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slow And Steady Wins The Race.I For Real Should Have Laid Off Those Frozen Go-Gurts.
Anji_banano ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:37:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"be kind". Sounds stupid but I remind myself in times of stress/frustration... Makes me a better human being (hopefully!) :)
Super5ucc ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:38:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Einstein I think said if you ever have a hard decision to make flip a coin. Whichever side you're hoping for is already chosen.
TH3P3STO ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:38:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't do up a car. Buy a house. Never took that advice at 17... now I want to own a house
ijustwishiwasntborn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:38:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smile
TinyCatCrafts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont use lotion/moisturizer meant for your body or hands on your face.
I never really used it much anyway, but my hands were cracking a bit and I got lotion. It helped. Then I had some dry patches on my face, and figured what the heck.
Two months later and I am only just beginning to be able to not wear makeup over every inch of my face in order to feel like a human being.
Only use moisturizers and lotions that are SPECIFICALLY for your face on your face.
Anji_banano ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:48:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting... Why though??
TinyCatCrafts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:20:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Things made for your body are generally not formulated not to clog pores.
Using them on your face will clog your pores up and trap oil under your skin, causing acne. All over.
I never wear makeup or even do much of a skincare routine, but a couple dry patches got me to start using a moisturizer I had... suddenly acne all over my face.
Since then I've had to invest in an exfoliating sugar scrub, a proper moisturizer, and makeup remover, as I was covering the spots up with foundation/concealer during the day. My skin is really light, so they were just huge red angry spots you could see from miles away.
I also learned that proactive makes my skin worse. :|
Anji_banano ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:10:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thanks a lot for the info, I started using body lotion as a light moisturizer before my thick face moisturizer. I felt like it helped me spread the thick one more evenly and being absorbed better... I will stop now though!!
Have an awesome, acne free day!
TinyCatCrafts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:12:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah, I think some brands are alright, but other times they'll just clog up every pore on your face and break you out in dozens of tiny little pimples.
Mine was all over both temples and around my nose.
instantkarmas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Letting go.
thejedipokewizard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In regards to maintaining a steady sleep schedule, only use your bed for two things: sleep and sex.
xDanielFaraday ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt take everything personally
ShiftedFish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Blowing the N64 cartridge
Muff_420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
all of you who have admitted turning it off and turning it back on again, from all your collective IT guys
*WAVES HANDS TO SHOW FRUSTRATION*
MichaelMemeMachine31 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Money ACTUALLY isnโt the key to happiness. I used to think โahh thatโs just a platitude to make the unsuccessful content in their mediocrity.โ But itโs actually true.
ElFerritoNegro ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"There's nothing common about common sense." My old crew boss while fighting wildfire said this to me on multiple occasions. It wasn't until I had to train, manage, and organize groups of people that I finally realized the severity of the aforementioned comment. It may not be from a wise philosopher, but we're all wise in our own ways. Cheers to your wisdom and you're "common" sense.
ChickenDuckBird ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:40:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a messenger bag. The small packs that you wear around your shoulder. Keep your phone and wallet in it. It really helps me stop losing my things and I look really cool while wearing it.
BonkerzBananaz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:40:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The soup in my school tastes like shit. So a friend told my to try mixing it with salad dressing and to my surprise it got so much better.
hol42 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:40:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy the dip
botcomking ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:40:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have the urge to do something, like something productive, just do it right away, otherwise you'll lose the urge.
Detoxicman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:40:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
that i should get reddit
auberus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:40:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting mustard on a burn.
vardhanisation ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:40:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you feel the air pressure goes down in the airplane, take a gulp down. It protects your eardrums.
After every continuous use of screen, fill your mouth with water and then splash running water on your open eyes few (3-5) times. You won't believe how better your eyes will be.
jbotexas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:41:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Actually calling the doctor
tinkaspice ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:41:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tomorrow is another day
drakeXtheXsnake ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:41:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Looking at the sun or a bright light if I'm indoors to help out a sneeze. Works every time.
DarkMage316 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:42:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting your phone down
0001none ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:42:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using a food scale and logging all calories
Grunge_bob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:43:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Measure twice, cut once.
bibibethy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:43:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat your cheetos with chopsticks.
themightypooh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:43:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're gonna do something. Do it right the first time. So you or anybody else has to go back and do it again
Elmurico ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:43:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do homework
HistoricalNazi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:43:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A job worth doing is worth doing right.
My dad used to say this all the time and I would roll my eyes and do a half assed job of whatever chore he asked me to do and I would have to come back and do it again, or fix what I didn't finish. But as I grew up I learned that taking a little extra time and care, whether it is for a household chore or a work project, ends up saving you tons of time and effort on the back end and leads to better results.
austinpowerssr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:43:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything I ever heard about Psychology....
RojoLeader ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:43:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best thing a boss ever told me was, "people don't like you." Until then I never cared, that was when at least at work I started thinking through how I was perceived and trying to control my brand to others.
peon72 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:43:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The whole go no contact with someone who hurt you. I ended up having some problems with someone who was the best friend I've ever had. We were like family, I wanted her to be in my life forever when we were close. When I started noticing how it became a chore to talk to her, how every interaction only seemed to make my mental health worse, I refused to end the friendship no matter what everyone kept saying, I knew I was stronger than that...
After maybe 6 months of slogging through, I finally cut her off. It was really the best outcome of that friendship, for me at least. I don't regret it in the slightest.
notassmartasithinkia ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
swing your arms when you run. naturally i thought arm swing made no real difference when running. turns out that it helps you keep a rhythm and gives you a little extra oomph.
wojosmith ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Removing the bullets before cleaning my gun.
Cyshix ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everyday and continuous 5 minutes of exercise is better for me than having a day or two in a week dedicated to gym.
eriktheburrito ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
After a long flight, take off your shoes and socks and then walk around on the rug barefoot and make fists with your toes. I know, it sounds crazy. Trust me, Iโve been doing it for nine years.
WhyIsMeLikeThis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My old iPhone 4s refused to connect to WiFi for some reason and someone recommended i put it in the freezer. I thought it was some dumb meme but it actually fixed the phone (temporarily).
Puk-_-man ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:45:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Quit playing videogames when you have free time.
I used to think, โbut thatโs my hobbyโ. Nope. I now have plenty of time to read books, been playing the guitar more and am getting plenty of time for exercise.
I donโt even miss playing games much. I still play it every once in a while but there was a time when I spent every hour of free time playong videogames
almostgod-zilla ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:45:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go a day without complaining...about anything. Not the weather, your work, or your bank balance. Really lightens that weight on your shoulders.
xPhysalis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:45:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reddit
rojo_red12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:45:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Switch to Reddit.
tojikomoru ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:45:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating food when I feel sad or crummy. I donโt realize how much accidentally missing a meal affects me until I do. As well, if youโve missed a meal today, go eat! Your body is important. Keep it happy and healthy.
cnbarrett0429 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:45:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That leaving the lights on in the car was illegal. Bullshit
Krynja ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:45:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clenching the muscles in your arms or legs to get rid of boners.
ilovevoat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:48:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I don't mean to alarm anyone but theres a guy out there with his fist balled up and a huge boner.
ALAS_Bravo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:45:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If youโre in writerโs block, just write shit. It can be awful. But if you put at least something down, it will spark different ideas and end up helping you in the long run.
BKBaker ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:46:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Close your Tupperware before storing.
NotDarth1213 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:46:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cutting food behind my fork insert kind of a retard meme here
doctorpaulproteus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:46:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be yourself
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:46:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
being grateful and mindful
ak_doug ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:46:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take naps.
GlutenMakesMePoop69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:47:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you have brain freeze press your tongue to the roof of your mouth!
bevertonrayan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:48:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left.... Kachow
upforgrabs21 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:48:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clumsy people, when hammering a nail, should hold the nail with a clothes peg until they can hammer it in enough without support.
Saved a heap of sore digits, and kids don't hear me swear as much.
Matt1312020 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:48:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just be confident
Bignik79 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:48:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mediate, and practice the same breathing techniques you use for concentration during meditation for when youโre being productive or making decisions so you focus and so you can achieve flow states more consistently:
Colinpr007 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:49:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Complimenting a girl on her smile
ilovevoat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:44:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
:( I hate when people do this its weird..
Colinpr007 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:41:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
We had to give speeches yesterday in university and write anonymous critiques. I told one girl to smile more cause she has a great smile and she said it melted her heart. She loved it. She has no idea itโs me though lol
Octonaughty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:49:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Squish to condish from r/curlyhair. Amazingly it works. And all the other tips/pics help too.
Anchit_kumar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:49:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left
ilovevoat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:43:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
wtf does this mean ???
Anchit_kumar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:31:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Has no one seen Cars?
ilovevoat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:37:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i tried to watch it but i spilled my beans and had to leave.
1friendswithsalad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Feel tired/sick/shitty/hung over/gross/coming down? Take a hot shower. You will feel 40% better.
links311 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Literally anything someone advised me to do between the ages of 16-24.
megatron8899 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Networking
sandypatito ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Changing from yout PJโs into work clothes everyday. It changes your mentality from I just woke up to get things done.
firststreety ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wearing socks with your shoes will make your shoes smell less. Yeah. Being 10 was a wild ride lol
cliive ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:51:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To get rid of the hiccups:
Tilt your head back and have someone firmly pull your ears toward the ground. Drink a glass of water for 10 seconds while you stay like that. 99% of the time it works every time.
WKaiH ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:52:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Head-on, apply directly to the forehead.
ghostryder256 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:52:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My parents asking me to study hard to get good grades in school.
julbull73 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:52:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you get off a long flight and get to where you are going take off your shoes and make little fists with your toes. Works better than a hot shower and a cup of coffee...
River303 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:52:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My friend told me to turn the knife upside down when cutting pizza and I didn't believe her but my god it was easier???
DroppedMyPeaches ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:53:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you've got hiccups get someone to pull down gently but firmly on your ear lobes, enough that you slightly bend your knees, while you drink a glass of water.
60% off the time it works every time.
Bopshebopshebop ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:53:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stretching
evilbrent ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:53:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Consider, at least for the moment, that you might be wrong and the other person is right.
When if a person is telling you that the spade in their hand is a shovel, instead of just correcting them "No that's a spade", even if the evidence of your own eyes is clearly telling you that it's a spade, go through the mental process of asking yourself if it's a shovel. Why would this person think it's a shovel? Is there any benefit in correcting them? Is it in fact a type of spade and I'm lacking experience that my ego tells me I have? Have I seen it from the wrong angle?
This idea of at least considering that I might be wrong was so alien to me that I physically resisted it for a year. Possibly a sign of ASD in me that I have such a barrier between what I KNOW to be true and what I'm willing to accept as only almost true.
As an engineer I'm daily in the position of disagreeing with people to their face, and that disagreement is often genuinely because we're talking about something I have knowledge and experience with. I'm right. They're wrong. It's mostly a matter of educating the ignorant.
And I've found it so beneficial sometimes to just physically bite my tongue, blink a couple of times, and allow the person to carry on. At least consider that I might be wrong.
dumbwaeguk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:53:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stimulate your prostate
_phish_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:53:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Decalcify your pineal gland.
jeffdrafttech ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:54:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating organic and non-gmo and severely cutting gluten. I made so much fun of that stuff, then I tried it and I feel amazing.
bassjammer1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:55:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought it was useless to run the magnets over the HDD from my dad's computer to make sure I covered my tracks. Little did I know it was not at all useless. It was very useful for me to follow my dreams of being beaten by my father, then kicked out of the house. It was useful to make me homeless and quickly get addicted to drugs, frequently having to bend my morals for my fix. But I'd say that overall the most useful thing in the pursuit of life ruining was all the advice the internet gave me. Fuck you internet. Your advice wasn't useless at all. You life ruiners can go fucking fuck yourselves, you useful bastards
HotSauceHigh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:02:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Useful advice: you are responsible for all of your choices past, present, and future.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:56:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To stay away from Reddit, Users are Assholes but Learning that people on Reddit are Actually Caring, Thoughtful and Smarter than the average Internet User!
wishididntneedthisub ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:57:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Coconut oil for baby cradle cap. Was told by a public health nurse to try rubbing coconut oil into my baby's head where the cradle cap was, brush it in lightly, then wash out with baby shampoo. I never thought something like that would work so ignored the advice for months until I couldn't figure out what else to do. The cradle cap was gone after a couple rounds. Who knew.
quantumNes ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:58:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The nurse knew
Pkactus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:57:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mustard on first and second degree burns
I_xXAquaXx_I ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:59:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Life
ToFuuVEVO ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:59:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation. I went through a few mindfulness courses and thought that conscious breathing was such bs, but I ended up passing the 1 mile race test.
elScroggins ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:59:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Poison Oak/Ivy? HAIR DRYER.
I_xXAquaXx_I ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:00:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt worry about it
joy4jesus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:00:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you canโt decide between options, just choose one and make that the right choice.
chocolateandmermaids ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:00:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathe.
Ardchie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:00:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop gaming and go outside. Mental health went up by so much its almost ridiculous.
Hollyfrank001 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:01:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt expect so much out of people.
Itโs the one thing can I remember the time and place this conversation happened. Itโs stuck with me for almost 11 years.
lclhost ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:01:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learn coding :)
Confidante2k19 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:01:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look up the sky and stare at Moon for a minute or two.
Sounded like a useless piece of advice, until I tried. The way it brings calm and clarity.
thamystical1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:01:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Work smarter not harder."
jalajupadhyay ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:01:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Write it down. You're not gonna remember it.
amiable_red ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:01:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My daughter got an iPhone 3 from my mom that had busted wifi, the slider was just greyed out. Saw a website that said to heat it with a hairdryer then put it in the fridge. My daughter begged me to do it even though I thought it was silly. 6 months later and the wifi still works...
LitPenguin07 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:02:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a great tip to save money. Before you buy something such as expensive clothes, shoes, etc, ask yourself, Am I going to buy it because I WANT it or because I NEED it? This has easily saved me a few thousand dollars in these past few months.
Ingbo_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:02:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reading this post, then finding some legit advice.
jordvn123 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:02:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you are uncomfortable making eye contact with someone, look in the centre of their eyebrows just above the nose - they wonโt be able to tell the difference
I_xXAquaXx_I ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:02:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just Do It!
Jayyyy_Emmmm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:02:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat your vegetables
Michaelair ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:02:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stab with the pointy end
beardedheathen_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:03:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The only person that can cover your ass is you.
Xanza ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:03:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Traveling always seemed out of reach because it's always a huge deal to travel. Planning, saving money, etc.
Finally one long weekend (5 days) I was exhausted from working all the time I purchased a round trip ticket from JFK to Miami. Cost me $250 and another $200 for an airbnb. Had an amazing time and realized that traveling isn't so scary.
Just gotta get up and decide to do it whenever you can fit it in.
_GUAPO__KB312 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:03:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
my mom always said that if I were to sleep longer I would get more rest and it worked but instead of sleeping longer here I am on Reddit, 6 in the morning, because I couldn't sleep...
Kroliq29 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:03:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In sales, to never sell out of your own pocket.
calmro ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:03:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Live and let live
RoastedMocha ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:03:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never give up.
It really showed me what I am capable of.
sprucay ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have water in your ear, tilt your head to that side and hop to get rid of it
fishtardo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just in case anyone is still reading: if you feel light-headed or get a head rush, flex your thighs and butt a few times. It really helps. The idea is it gets blood back up to your head.
NotPimient ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:04:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always pick the expensive toilet paper, you and your asses are welcome to thank me.
MyWordsNow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:05:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone told me "don't pick your nose on a bumpy road", but i tried it. You can can get way up in there. It works
MehExpected ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:05:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gathering a classmate to gain motivation and learn better
Dantharo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:05:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Programming.
70snostalgia ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:05:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Looking up at a light to sneeze. Iโve been able to recover so many false sneezes that way.
darkassassin12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:06:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learning how to write a paper in Latex. It's really not that bad, and inserting equations is so much nicer than in Microsoft word.
Realmenbrowsememes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:06:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That if you have a cold you should keep your throat area warm by having a scarf on.
Only_on_the_Surface ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:06:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Duct tape
McShart112 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:07:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you or your a family member get car sick, put a band-aid over your belly button. It sounds stupid, but it works. Don't ask me how though.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:07:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont knock it till you try it.
RandomGamesMan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:08:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything your sports coach says lol
dose_of_your_meds ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:09:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just do it they said
rhgarton ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:09:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't make promises you can't keep or won't be important enough for you to remember to keep. Saves disappointing people even just little and often. Think seriously for a minute about whether you can keep it. And if you're worried about forgetting it (if it's something you deem little) make a reminder on your phone. Could save your relationships.
delaty1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:09:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Act enthusiastic and youโll be enthusiastic. -Dale Carnegie
KayleeN1992 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:09:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using scissors to cut your pizza instead of a knife
RajuTM ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:11:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My volume button was stuck on my phone. Saw a youtube video saying you should put saliva on your fingers and slide your fingers on volume up/down furiously. It worked.
DevilBanner ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:12:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Before doing something, asking myself: " Will older you thank you for this in the future? " It has proven utterly useful!
malYca ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:12:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Counting to 10 during an anxiety attack. Helps sometimes.
heben45 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:12:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't bother with trivial things too much
vvtroubledartist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:12:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a planner. I just thought making a pretty to do list would add more to what I had to do already but honestly it was a big help. Writing things down helped me remember and helped me organize! I also used it as a mood tracker, with homework, my work schedule, etc etc.
I honestly prefer a notebook planner, although some apps I tried were really cool and helpful! I got my planner from Barnes and Noble, it's one of those basic ones with the "you can do it" quotes through out it but honestly the cheesy positivity is nice sometimes :)
roadblocked ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:12:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never stick your finger where you wouldnโt stick your pecker.
Thought my metal shop teacher was just an old dumbass, the brilliance dawned on me a few years later.
paintthedaytimeblack ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:13:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise is good for mental health. Especially aerobic exercise.
LunarBaguette ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:13:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
go commit die
soberdude ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:13:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know I'm late to the game, but maybe someone will read it. Learn to Shave Like Your Grandpa
And I will add this, because it stopped me from getting "razor rash". Get a good razor, a safety razor. Before you shave, soak the blade in rubbing alcohol (normally while you shower, doesn't need to be for days). This will kill any bacteria on your blade that might be giving you "shaving bumps".
MatthewRHoenig ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:13:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Maybe only applicable to Filmmakers, but imagine Stanley Kubrick is watching you during every aspect of filmmaking. You WILL start to care about details.
Booney3721 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:14:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Ring of death on Xbix 360, the one where there wasn't a good connection to the corners of the machine. Googled how to try and fix the problem and seen where you wrap the Xbox in a towel and let it heat up so it expands and connects. So I did it fir a few hours and lord and behold it never happened again. The Xbox was fixed dor a long while till I got the full circle rings of death 2 years later.
LegalPlate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:14:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
read the subtle art of not giving an fuck.... the whole idea of not giving a fuck about the things that you shouldnt give a fuck about sounded stupid..... i tried it and holy shit its a great feeling.
Kjkubus44 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:14:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting a girlfriend
meowfacekillah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:14:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Most
wolfgang1337E ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:15:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Was playing Halo 2 Vista with my friend and he was sick and was drinking tea, he spilled the tea on his keyboard and so jokingly I told him to vacuum the keyboard, he did it and miraculously it somehow worked
PajamaStripes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:15:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make the bed. I sleep so much better when my bed is made.
Seinfeld101 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:15:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doing sleep therapy. If you cant fall asleep, squeeze the muscles in your feet for 5 seconds and release. Then repeat your legs, butt, stomach, arms, face. I go through periods of insomnia and a therapist told me to try this, I rolled me eyes and threw away her advise. Until one night I had enough and I tried it... it actually works! 60% of the time, works everytime
zeeainie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To study. I was a smart kid, I literally never had to study, now Iโm dumb and I completely recognize itโs importance now.
kpaddler ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it moves and isn't supposed to use duct tape. If it doesn't move and is supposed to use WD-40.
ajm_sj ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom always had three go-toโs for people: 1) Never trust someone who doesnโt keep sheets on their beds. 2) People who donโt sleep arenโt worth losing sleep over. 3) Punching a brick wall only hurts you...not the wall. And the wall isnโt going to budge.
I think 2 comes from some of her exes doing hard core drugs without her knowledge such as cocaine which keeps you up ๐คทโโ๏ธ
Theoost ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doing homework early
amitamit2134 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"DONT DO IT YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LIVE FOR BUT STILL!" my mum. idk what year.
817mkd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
when youre tired and you just woke up for school and work from an alarm, hitting snooze and any amount of extra rest wont do anything, you just need to get up and start moving.
My dad told me that, i thought it was the least helpful advice ive ever gotten but no,discipline like that helps
ZaynesWorld ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation
Winssi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Heating my old graphics card in the oven to fix it
theBest711 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:17:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Living
dumbhearted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:17:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink water.
EnXigma ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:17:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt remember the video but it was a Commander saying how you should tidy your bed, that way if your day ever goes bad you come home to a well made bed. He gave me a different outlook to things.
EDIT: Just found the video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3sK3wJAxGfs
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:17:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The system where you take 5 minute breaks after studying in 20 minute intervals. It's called the Pomeo method or something like that and it is the most efficient system for me.
zeeainie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:18:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Also if you have an ant infestation, sprinkle grits every where. When someone told me this I was like โyeah ok๐โ but I became desperate and tried it and oddly enough, I havenโt seen a single ant in my home since I did it about 2 weeks ago.
donoteatthatfrog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:28:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
what, does grits kill ants ?
zeeainie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:32:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apparently cause I have literally not seen a single ant since. Maybe they canโt digest it probably idk.
ROTMGMagum ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:19:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making your bed every day. I used to not care but once you start doing one good habit daily, it snowballs into more good habits. I'm eating healthier, I'm procrastinating less, and I'm exercising every morning and evening now. I've got a long way to go but it's a good start and makes me feel amazing.
SillyGayBoy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:19:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smile when you talk. It makes what you say sound nicer.
Waspen94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:19:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you get hiccups, stand still, hold your breath, close your eyes, check your pulse and focus solely on the rhythm of your pulse. If you do this quick enough after the hiccups started, it almost always cures it.
TrollGoat_Hs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:20:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't arch your back when you lift stuff, i got a lot of back pain by not listening to this
kuriositease ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:20:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
respond donโt react
fuzzylilbunnies ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:20:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The definition of worrying is punishing yourself for something that hasnโt happened.
eat_u_mom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:21:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I'm probably too late, bit here's a trick to stop your nosebleed:
Uptilt your head so you are looking right above you;
Hit the back of your head with your palm, not that hard, enough to make your head bob;
Wait about 1 minute.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:21:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
deep breathing
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:21:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jelqing. It fucking works.
htbs57 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:21:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If life is getting you down, focus on the little things! This really helped me out when I was going through a tough time - instead of thinking โin ten years time I could have a great jobโ, think about what you have to look forward to in the immediate future. For instance - I have to get up tomorrow because thereโs that chocolate in my fridge I want to eatโ or โthat movie is coming out in a few days and Iโd like to see itโ
why-can-i-taste-pee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:22:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I wanted help in a video game, I always asked my big brother. Sometimes, he would tell me to โjust keep your heart at 100, and the enemy at 0โ. I just thought it was something he said, when he didnโt have any tips to give, but then I was really focused about it, and I would get much better in the game.
Bossmaster_767 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:22:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trying to make omeletes in the microwave, trust me, it works
MarshelG ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:22:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you turn your motorcycles handlebars right, the bike goes left, and vice versa.
wrkitty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:24:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When youโre trying to talk to new people, remember that people like to talk about themselves. -my dad.
Poopmickgee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:24:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont do crack
nokmim ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:25:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take off your shoes and make fists with your toes
MightyFlyte ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:27:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take 3 deep breaths.
KDish87 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:27:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thinking of money as time. For example, if you make $10/ hour, and you see a cool sweater for $30. Instead of thinking about it as $30, think of it as 3 hours of your life working. Youโll have a whole new view on spending and be waaaay less likely to waste time of your life on frivolous items.
GrassKarate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:28:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Inducing a fever to get over ilness faster.
quitespiffyx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:28:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise makes you feel better for the rest of the day. No matter how bad Iโve been feeling it helps every single time
lilm303 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:28:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Appreciate how good you have it at the moment, you never know when things will turn around for the worse. Life is short. Every second of sadness is a second less of happiness. I feel a bit happier these days following this advice. We really gotta try to make the best of everything.
canntstopmeow ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:30:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shaking relish out of a relish squeeze bottle instead of trying to squeeze it and splooging relish everywhere
tftrav ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:30:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt do stupid shit.
AlreadyRedditFoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:30:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not useless but cool in my opinion. Actually watching the YouTube recommended videos can actually teach you something. Who knew that One in every five adults believe that aliens are hiding in our planet disguised as humans. ๐
Bee231 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:31:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting a bar of Irish Spring under your mattress sheer to prevent calf cramps. I thought it was ridiculous, but I was desperate. As long as it was under there, I never had another calf cramp at night.
krlchammejxjanqjcjan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:31:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathe in and hold for 5 seconds then breathe out
hsklmn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:32:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop a bloody nose right away by sticking your finger into your mouth where the gum and lip have a gap. Touch that little skin part near the roof and it should go away. My math teacher told me this and it worked for me.
YeloPartyHat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:39:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Askcience: why?
hlov4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:33:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Writing alpaca on Reddit
happypantz420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:33:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wiping your ass while sitting down
MachineMad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:34:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting an air fryer.
ara-xo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:36:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
peek in siege
Grahminator ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:36:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol
Ladycornus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:36:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wear sunscreen
Moosiemookmook ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:36:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting oil stop leak in my diesel engine motor when the electric fuel pump seals broke. Got me out of a fix in a remote area (I'm an Aussie). Thank you google /s
katattaq ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:37:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
make a gratitude list. being grateful will just become part of your nature, and you will begin to look for, recognize and acknowledge the good things that happen to you, and receive the gifts that you are asking for. I believe good things can only come to us, if we ask for it and are open to receiving it. when we are feeling good we are generally nicer to people, maybe more social, maybe more polite and that might cause you to meet someone you wouldn't have met if you were otherwise staring down at the ground and your cellphone, brushing by people never looking up at the beautiful world around you. Look for the good all around you, and be the good that someone else will begin to recognize, you never know who you may attract. <3 cheers
Zaffa_07 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:39:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never be in the Sunday school basement alone
v0tesax0n ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:39:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Changing how you talk to yourself and giving yourself positive affirmations. When you tell yourself youโre terrible all the time you really believe it. But when you force yourself to tell yourself positive things it has an insane positive effect over time.
Helterskkelter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:40:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Leaving the batter โslightly clumpyโ when making pancakes
calculus1996 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:40:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When she told me being rich is the way to get a girl. IDK im still single.
anrieck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:41:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just ignore the bully. It actually works!
WastedAmbition ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:41:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be sure to ask the people you care about if they are happy. Often times, we get distracted with the progression of professional and social lives, when what matters most is our mental state.
OneCrazyCook84 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:41:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Masturbate every morning
notaprettyblonde ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:41:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercising regularly to improve mental health. Never thought it would work; it did!
ADingoAteMyKid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:41:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being in the toilet bowl
voidCalamity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:41:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Towels are important. I didn' t really believe it at first, but you really do need them a shit ton of times. Douglas Adams was right. I live in one room and I need it basically everyday, and not just to clean up spilled things.
psyqqer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:42:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shot of pickle juice to help relieve constipation. Thought I was being trolled but tried it anyways bc I love pickles. Lo and behold 8ish hours later bowels were completely evacuated
carterrice ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:42:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Tell me when you're going to hiccup." Sounds real stupid to a person who has been struggling with hiccups but they'll be thanking you a second later when they can no longer hiccup.
PlasticSauce ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:42:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This comment
Suitable_Box ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:42:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Take a breath"
Vinnytor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:42:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking your shoes off when doinh squats or deadlifts
wastapunk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:43:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:43:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chopping up almonds into an almost paste consistency then mixing it to horse radish mustard and a small amount of olive oil to use as a topping for baked Chinook salmon..
hks2293 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:45:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Switching hands for masturbating.
abbyfla ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:45:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink at least the recommended amount of water.
my_apps_suck ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:45:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathe
IComposeEFlats ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:45:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left
ayotrey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:50:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wat???
BennyJayTheKing ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:46:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sparkling water for hard to swallow pills.
cosmiclou ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:50:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Carrying a positive attitude as often as you can. Your brain works like a muscle, so every time you meet stressful thoughts with positivity, your brain gets better at it and it becomes easier to fight the negativity. My depressed brain called that a lie until I started to truly lead with positivity.
Texas_Rockets ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:51:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
don't give more than you get.
SirTyreseV ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:51:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If your going to pass the kitchen, bring the dirty plate or whatever trash. Cleaning and picking up stuff while passing helps a lot. Makes you feel more efficient and your home will almost always be ready for guests.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:51:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you feel tired after a very stagnant day, it's not a sign you shouldn't exercise, it's a sign that you should exercise.
IggyRios ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:51:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Loving yourself haha
13D00 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:52:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Last Friday i was supposed to go out with friends. I was getting ready when I cut myself while shaving my beard. Now this was a very small cut but it didn't stop bleeding for like 30min so I started asking friends what to do.
Aah why not, I figured. I did not believe it at first, but I put some pepper on my hand and dabbed it on the cut.
It stopped bleeding within seconds!!!
I only got a kind of good/pepper stain on my chin. I let it sit for a couple of minutes and washed it off lol.
Doozerz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:52:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take cold showers,
But then Wim Hof showed how he could heal himself
Check out the under the skin podcast #70
TheHouseofReps ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:52:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be kind to people. Even strangers. It will never come back to bite you and even the small things can go a long way.
JazzPhobic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:52:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sit straight.
Your back will thank you in a couple years.
thirdeyemaxd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:53:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
banana and onion smoothies. I saw it on a cartoon when I was trippin acid and now I love them.
Jadienn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:53:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My truck wouldn't start at my sister's house. Her boyfriend got it running and showed me how to fix it if it happened again (he explained it was a temporary fix and I should have it serviced) anyway, he showed me this innocuous metal looking round mechanical something or other under the hood. Told me to bang on it a little bit. I shrugged it off.
Sure enough, my truck won't start a few weeks later. So I fished this bamboo stick from behind my seat and started poking the metal thing vigorously.
Y'all. My truck started right up and I sat there and immediately called my sister.
TassieDingo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:53:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learn to drive "dangerously". Learn how to make a car slide, do burnouts, donuts, stop on a dime and swerve left to right quickly like you're in a chicane, aswell as techniques like left foot braking and understanding concepts like weight transfer.
It might one day save your life (or your bank account if the crash wouldn't have been fatal).
When your car gets into one of these situations without you wanting it to, because you've done it before on purpose and know how to create these situations, you also know how to safely correct them. Or if you were to get into a situation where something like a quick use of left foot braking is all it takes to correct the vehicle.
Note: Not advice that I though was useless until I tried it, but I feel like many more people would be alive if they'd tried it.
yojiveturkey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:53:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't knock it
lilac-love28 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:53:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wash the top of a can before opening it
lordturbo801 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:54:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You cant change a problem until you admit you have one.
The power of saying "I have a _______ problem" out loud is tremendous.
FireAmethist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:54:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything worth doing is worth doing poorly.
It really sounds weird, but starting doing something, and not finishing, is usually better than doing nothing at all
Lainakalle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stopped playing Fortnite.
bleep_techno ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All the little catchphrases used by AA. Iโm a cynic and an anti-organisation type and at first dismissed all of them as trite, daft or even a bit cultish, but you know what? Theyโre all right, they all have meaning and work, and I use them all. Iโm still sober.
EDIT :
Examples are :
First things first
Keep it simple
One day at a time
This too will pass
Etc etc
og_clex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mine is in a youtube video the dude said you can clean the inside of the ps4 but you can lose some part of the ps4 at first i said fuck that but after month i said fuck it after i clean it my ps4 is not load anymore.
zekittenmittens ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt be afraid to fail, in fact, fail hard and fail fast.
Used to be constantly obsessed with perfection, but learning to fail and learn from my failures (big or small) has majorly helped me grow.
bigte1976 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:55:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never let someone you love guess how you feel about them.
chicagomatty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:56:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You want to know the secret to surviving air travel? After you get where you're going, take off your shoes and your socks then walk around on the rug bare foot and make fists with your toes.
_girlwithbluehair ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:57:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Minimalism.
Gladiator-class ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:58:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking deep breaths and/or counting to ten when I'm getting angry. I don't literally count to ten, but I stop what I'm doing as much as I reasonably can and try not to speak or look at whatever's making me angry. It's actually helped me lose my shit a lot less often, especially when I'm mad at a thing instead of a person.
AtLeastIHaveJob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:59:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left
ThoughTMusic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:59:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listen with your ears, not your mouth.
Shitmypantsday ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:59:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Storing your nylon wrap roll in the freezer.
Life changer. No more clingy film tares when trying to wrap things.
SiriusZcs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:01:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I read all my stuff for school exams be4 i go to bed. I remember everything and dream sometimes of it. (Pretty crazy right?)
Just read your stuff for exams one or two times before you go to sleep and it is miraculous.
an1h ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:02:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy Bitcoin. Made me rich.
MrPoletski ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:02:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can't piss because of a residual bonor, stand one foot on the toilet rim and try again.
you're welcome.
KvikerEz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:03:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't eat yellow snow. I was a kid.
RandomQuestionBot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:03:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You don't get to decide if you're good enough for someone (or at something)."
Someone told me that and it stopped me from being scared to try new things and talk to different people.
Trill2b ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:06:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
WimHof breathing makes exercise painless...
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:07:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you tried meditation?
Corporation_tshirt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:07:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Washing windows using vinegar and old newspaper. Windows never looked so clean.
Dvanquished ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:08:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slow down when you eat. Rather than eat as much as you feel you want, eat half that, then wait 10 minutes. If youโre still hungry, go right ahead! More often than not however, youโll realise that youโre actually full.
It takes quite a long time for the body to catch up to that fact, and thatโs why you can eat happily and all of a sudden you feel sick.
k4y133n ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:08:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
don't get social media at age 7. i deeply regret violating the terms of services because now i have 5 accounts i can't get rid of, which are vv embarrassing.
Thathappenedearlier ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:09:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When youโre hungry take a drink of water first. It might just be that youโre thirsty and not hungry.
SeattleStudent4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:09:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Floss every single night and never skip a night. It doesn't matter if you're buzzed or if you're traveling; no excuses.
Drackir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:09:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat while doing nothing else. Turn off the TV. Put down the book. Turn off your podcast. Just focus on the food. You'll eat less, you'll notice when you've had enough and you'll enjoy what you have more.
Especially with food you've been looking forward to. Just savour it!
Mind you, mindfulness improve nearly every aspect of your life.
cmcdonald1337 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:09:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breath easy, watch your side and never quit.
Ableith ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:10:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep extra clothes in school or your workplace.
jyggalagjr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:10:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise daily.
naman1901 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:10:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put a sizable chunk of your post taxes, bills and rent salary into some investments and keep your bank balance low but adequate. Too much money will get spent too easily and you'll have no savings.
thisClaudette ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:11:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink 500ml of water after waking up, before coffee or breakfast.
BoatznHoez580 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:11:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Those phone accessories that stuck to the back and pop out to make holding the phone easier.
7ha7_g ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:11:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Answering this question
the-dragon- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:12:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For me is taking more responsibility in my life, despite been something that anyone should avoid , it give you life meaning and make you more focused
MesotheliomaSurvivor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:12:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To NOT boil pasta.
Bring your salted water to a boil. Add pasta. Stir. Bring to boil. Stir again. Turn off heat. Cover. Leave 10 minutes.
Ggoossee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:28:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What are the effects vs boiling?
MesotheliomaSurvivor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:42:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You are conserving energy. Plus you can do other tasks, meal prep, instead of constantly stirring the pot. Does not want work well for spaghetti, linguini, etc.
_cudgel_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:13:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting duct tape on a wart. Seriously, duct tape is the wart destroyer.
kenschell31 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:13:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saying airplane when you have the hiccups. It works...i swear.
CrystalGris ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:14:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Skip your first marriage and wait for your second." Dad was joking talking about his 2 marriages, but it actually worked for me.
SoullessUnit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:14:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get rid of hiccups by closing your eyes and using both your little fingers (pinkies to you Americans) to touch your eyelids as lightly as physically possible. As lightly as you can imagine.
It sounds stupid, yet it has never failed to get rid of my hiccups on the first attempt. I'm guessing its just because it makes you focus really hard on something else.
fosquizmosquito ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:14:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sounds weird but my older brother said if it's getting hot and heavy with a friend over the internet, before you go too far relieve yourself sexually and you're whole perspective will change of the person, sounded really weird till I almost got with the wrong girl and stopped myself a day ahead ๐
Zuzechan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:16:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking away my sorrows.
Roxy_Drawz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:16:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To play roblox. My friend's advice was me to play roblox but i thought it was useless and i tried it and then.. yeah.
Xiphoid__Process ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:16:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed in the morning.
SapphireZephyr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:17:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth while running.
truefent ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:18:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always pee before you head out anywhere...been a habit now but saved me a lot of times going to the restrooms
GG379 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:18:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always accept compliments, even when you don't believe them.
xandraj11213 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:18:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cucumber Peel repels ants. Didn't believe it until I noticed that ants didn't go to areas with cucumber peel even if there's other food present.
that_one_shark ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:18:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
asking reddit
FPSHero007 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:19:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In a relationship the problem never exists between you and them, it's always around you both. Pushing against each other means the problem doesn't go away
Shyseaninabox ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:19:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you get blisters from new kicks, unwrap a dinger (condom) but keep it in that little circle shape. Put it over the blister and chuck a band-aid/plaster over the top. It won't rub at all and it'll let the blister heal.
ikyle117 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:19:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Just because you're a virgin doesn't mean you have to dress like a virgin".
EagleNait ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:19:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want to sneeze and just can't, you can look at a bright source of light and you'll sneeze easily. IIRC doesn't work for everyone because of science but hey, it's worth a shot.
Masterloverofwomen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:19:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There is never too much preparation to remove a rusted or corroded bolt on older vehicles (especially in areas that have winters) during automotive repair work.
Xtrearer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:19:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Blowing my nose....
Juxtys ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:19:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want to say or do something you might regret later, wait 24 hours before doing it. That might be enough time to realise what a mistake you were going to make.
politicalpug007 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:20:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smiling will make you happier, even when you are faking it.
Lolsebca ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:21:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Play more on osu!
SirSlipShot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:21:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stand up straight with good posture and relaxed shoulders. You automatically become more confident.
BlazerBattle66 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:21:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One of my friends told me on Mario Kart Wii that shaking your controller when a POW block appeared would cause you to spin around 1 time instead if 3. Man, I've won races alot easier with this trick
Muddcrabb ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:21:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation
grimmlig ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:21:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Jump up and down stretching your arms and count to 30" My primary school PE teacher told me to do it when I had an asthma attack. Didn't listen to him, but years later it saved my life.
micangelo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:22:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i was a shitty person and i read some books and decided to be better, and a few years later i realized what everyone meant by "networking." if you're good to people, they remember you and they just might do you a favor some day.
abaggins ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:22:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Rows go across like the rows of a theater. Columns go up/down like the columns of a building holding up the roof.
TheLadySinclair ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:22:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That when someone gives you advice you thank them for caring but that you don't have any obligation to use their advice.
heytonimae ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:22:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Blow your nose in the shower.
pepper-sprayed ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:22:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use a good lube no matter how juicy your woman is
Its_Curse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:23:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Nothing can happen until you swing the bat"
You have to move to change. Hate where you are? Then move. Just take that small first step.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:23:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Messaging the friend of my baby-in-my-bellyโs father. Itโs still a useless piece of advice. Seems like Iโll be fighting for child support with the 0 communication going on.
BassheadGamer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:23:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Respect money. My parents always told me to keep my dollars neat and organized. I always keep bills faced the same direction, keep the edges straight and highest value bills goes to the back.
Iโve always done it and it feels good
TheMrFoulds ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:37:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If they're not in order by serial number (within denominations) then I'll be disappointed.
BassheadGamer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:44:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt worry, I am great at disappointing people! :)
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:24:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it till you make it.
Hotboxed14 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:24:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
5 minute rule. If it can be done in 5 minutes go ahead and do it. Youโll be surprised at the extra work you accidentally get done.
TheMrFoulds ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:36:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This just makes me late for everything. I always think it will take five minutes but it never does.
maximusbrown2809 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:25:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Having proper sales training will change every aspect of your life". I thought what a load of wanky bullshit. But it's true, it allows you to be a better friend, have better relationships, solve problems more efficiently and self criticize.
ccbee_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:25:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have hiccups, drink water 'upside down'. Never failed me yet!
frozenvanillacoke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:25:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chin down when diving. Spent years frustrated cause I couldn't in the swimming lessons. Fast forward a few years and I ran home from the neighbour's pool to excitedly tell my mother that I'd finally done it.
bluexde ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:25:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take deep breathes to calm yourself down. dunno why but it works
FuzzySpaceGoat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:26:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try switching it off and on. Can't believe the amount of things for which this has worked!
8one6 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:27:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A former supervisor told me to write tickets/emails/anything business related "as if the CEO was going to read it." It's just a normal part of CYA/being thorough. "Write emails as if they'll be read in court someday" was also a useful variation on that advice.
mom_getthecamera ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:27:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You donโt make mistakes, you earn experience. (Except murder - thatโs not an experience, thatโs straight up just awful)
largolola ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:27:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't eat yellow snow
wonderfullyforgottte ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:27:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โYou probably not drinking enough waterโ.
Itscameronman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:27:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โBeing motivated and learning how to put yourself in that mindset is the key to success.โ
Yep. It actually is. Wtf.
Nebulae_Divinity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:27:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Halfassing it is better than not doing it at all.
innerbootes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:28:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Somatic therapy and inner child work.
lapsongsuchong ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:28:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Acting as though you are patient is being patient.
Conceitedreality ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:28:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to bed early and you can feel the difference and change in mood.
time31 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:29:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad told me to hook up with girlfriend in collage i regreat it by not doing it
PYRO_DROPS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:29:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Watch your step.
Ive had bad ankles all my life. This one doctor visit for a sprained ankle got me into a conversation about why I turn my feet over/roll my ankles so frequently. The doctor advised me to be more self-aware of foot placement, or in other words: watch your step especially when stepping down. Reduced my injury count quite a bit.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:30:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My friend said I need to move on over that guy.
ItalicHail ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:30:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do everything that you've ever been scared of just that one time. If it's still scary, you don't ever have to do it again, and now you can say that you've done it whenever anybody asks.
nicksona1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:30:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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chosenemperor5 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:30:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking a big glass of water when you wake up. Really changed my eating habits. Lost 12 pounds doing this.
languagetraveller ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:30:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The best tip my mum gave to me was to choose and lay your clothes out the night before. Honestly for an indecisive person like me it gives me an extra 10 minutes in bed!
Golfing_helmet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:30:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy more expensive tyres (or tires if, you know, you don't speak English).
IDontKnowHowToSpel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:30:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can't see them in your point of view they can't see you.
iKahuna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:31:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't pee into the wind!
Yerboogieman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:31:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wake up in the morning and make your bed. You will be in a much better mood when you get home from work and crawl into a nicely made bed.
TDeath21 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:32:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No way can this be true lol. Havenโt made my bed ever.
Yerboogieman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:37:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I sleep much better when my sheet isn't balled up under my blanket lol
MattVanAndel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:32:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For guys, a really great pair of underwear (e.g. Exofficio boxer briefs) is as life-changing as a great bra is for women. Yes, theyโre expensive, but you donโt realize how important it has always been until you finally try it.
3racksonanewchain ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:33:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slow is smooth, smooth is fast.
An old NCO told me this back on my first deployment. Thought he just assumed I was some rocket fuel powered gunner ready to dive into combat. Never gave it a second thought until we had our first mortar attack and I was moving at the speed of an F-5 tornado trying to get all my gear on and murder the mean boys who so rudely woke me up in the middle of the night. After I had fallen on my ass for about the 15th time trying to wiggle into my kit, I thought, "What if I try moving at a speed slower than my heartbeat to get my shit together?" Worked like a charm.
ayushr01 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:33:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My first smartphone was a shitty Motorola Moto E. The speaker stopped working suddenly and I freaked out, after hours of searching on the web a guy on some forum mentioned he hit the phone on his bed and it started working. I did the same and I have no clue how it fixed itself.
VERY_STABLE_DRAGON ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:34:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make fists with the toes
camohorse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:34:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It usually hurts less when you just rip the band-aid off versus slowly pulling it off.
grasshopperson ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:34:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Improving my vocabulary has been the catalyst of getting out of a boring office job and starting a business. A turning point for me was discovering my resistance and anxiety towards the word 'sales'.
hefaklummp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:35:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Watching Narcos
SL-jones ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:35:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โJust do itโ
Camminatore ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:35:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Punch it til it works. Works like a charm
ndbanana ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:36:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed once a day (even if itโs right before you get in it).
lynsey18790 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:36:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it til you make it.
ShutUpAndEatWithMe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:36:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation.
It was one of those things that was suggested to me by people who didn't deal with anxiety or depression. It turns out that it's really really hard to start meditation when your mind is a clusterfuck. I had to wait for it to be a little bit less of a flaming dumpster fire before I actually "got" it.
Oofb1tch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:36:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is late and IDK if someones already said it, But proper hydration is SO fucking underrated. I made it my new years resolution to drink more water at the beginning of 2019, Fast forward to now; I have a generally better mood, Skin is clearing up fast, My voice is less raspy. Even a single bottle a day helps a lot if its something you've been neglecting.
WesternEuropeanDude ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:36:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tapping your work piece after you've tightened in the vice of a metal mill with a hammer, when a teacher showed it to me i chuckled thinking he just tapped it with a hammer and nothing visibly happened. But actually if you don't do it your work piece is very likely to be launched around the room.
alternate_life ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:37:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cutting your toenails right after a shower.
takethecannoli4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:38:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you meet a girl you really like, take things slow.
rosetk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:38:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
opening your windows to let the sun in and keeping a tidy space ((once you finally have it clean)) really helps with depression I thought it was dumb But then I didnโt open my window for 3 months straight Got really depressed Let that sunlight in Got enough energy to clean I open the window every day now, it also helps me get out of bed in the morning so I feel even just slightly motivated to do things
a_nice_function ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:39:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you have a cold, I thought using a nasal spray was pointless but holy shit, after using I always slept better!
Annnable ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:39:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink 2L of water and sleep at least 8 hours
memejocelyn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:39:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cabbage leaves for mastitis
prashanth_007 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:39:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you are trying to fall asleep don't move a muscle till 2 minutes. Sounds stupid but it actually works.
Kitty145684 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:42:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reading anything that you have written out loud so you can see if it makes sense.
Yukisuna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:44:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink a lot of water. Replace soft drinks and other sugary goodness with water as much as you're able to.
Now to add a piece of advice of my own to make this easier to go through with, fill a large empty bottle with tap water and put it in the refrigerator. Pour that water into cups or glasses and refill it once it's empty. (If it's a soda bottle or similar, make sure you properly clean it beforehand.)
jgabrielsson ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:44:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
While young and wanted to learn how to backflip on trampoline my friends said that a way of learning is to kick me on the back of the knee while I jump on my back.
Obviously I didnโt trust them and obviously I tried. On the first try I had no expectations and tried to jump and land on my back. My friends then (one on each side of me) kicked me in the in the back of my knee and i flew like a guy in a Bollywood motorcycle-crash landing on my feet (and later fell).
We tried a few times until I felt safe enough to do it by myself. I later found out that this is actually a somewhat legitimate technique for learning backflips. But instead of kicking my friends should had swung me with their arms while grabbing my pants.
But I still (15yrs later) know how to backflip.
willcodejavaforfood ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:44:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sleeping in a pyjamas when itโs really hot.
Itโs still really hot but I donโt have to feel my sticky self.
MtotheBtotheU-R-R ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:45:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Boil water with some white vinegar and butter. 2 cups.
Add 1 cup of white rice.
Simmer at low for 20 m.
Sit covered, heat off for 10
Fluff with fork.
kated94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:45:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My boss would always say โNever ASSume. Youโll most likely make an ASS of yourselfโ.
faeriescales ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:46:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise... good for you???
Thedrawingboi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:46:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smile, it makes you feel even that little bit better
beautifulsouth00 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:47:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise to get rid of depression.
It really sucks ass to get up early and go work out for an hour before work, but God damn, I was Skinny, strong, hot and I could eat any damn thing I wanted. Life was great! I slept better without noticing, felt like there were more hours in a day, and someone said something about endorphins- I dunno what they are but I was happy as fuck all the time!
When people say to get regular exercize, you think they're saying to just get out of your house and do something when you don't feel like doing anything. Or maybe you think these simpletons assume that you're depressed cuz you're fat. Either way, you think it's just another moral platitude, but holy shit, go work out, an hour, three times a week, and come back in a month and tell me your depression hasn't gotten a tiny bit better. You can't. It's about hormones, not you being a lazy fatty. It just...helps your circadian rhythm.
The only better advice for depression is to discontinue all caffeine, nicotine, alcohol, drugs, medications and then start off with your brain on straight. You can't tell how you feel, biochemically, when you're altering your chemistry all day every day. But the working out thing is WAY easier to do. And easier to explain.
Manycare ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:49:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if there's water blocking your ear put a small drop of water and bend your head (the ear that is blocked)to let the it out.
You can tell because the water that came out of your ear is warm.
3927729 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:49:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise in before going to work
poppycatdiapers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:50:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
fucking op's mom
NadareQuiver ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:51:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
3 deep breathes can really help calm and level you
theanonwonder ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:51:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise is a great antidepressant.
trainpk85 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:52:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take salt baths after giving birth. It doesnโt hurt and your vagina will thank you.
natslouvre18 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:53:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meal prep
R3dark ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:53:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathe in through your nose, out through your mouth
Televators1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:54:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can suck your own dick by dislocating your rib cage.
roxadox ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:54:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โYour depression will be worse with a messy room.โ At first I was like โyeah okay depression is a little more serious than thatโ but... goddamn a clean space really does help a clean mind. Same with sometimes just putting on pants helps you get some motivation.
Samraajni ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:55:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have asthma and bronchitis. Now winter is here in my place, and my lungs were a little congested this morning.
I tried some Yoga breathing exercises[ specific name Kapalbhati Pranayam], i felt normal again. Interesting how it cleared my mind and my voice seems to be light too. (I am learning singing as well). My nose is not blocked and my phlegm reduced too(in nose and throat).
I would advise anyone out there to try it. Irrespective of your religion or views. It is just breathing exercises!
TabascoTwizzler ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:55:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A superstupid guy told me and my friends to put hash in a grinder with a little bit of tobacco and we were laughing because we thought that this will never work and that the whole hash would stick to the grinder. After we tried it though it was the best fucking thing to do with the hash we bought earlier on.
ohmydayzz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:55:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Neti pot to relieve hay fever. Refused to try it for years. Over the counter drugs weren't helping much so I gave in and got a neti pot. It's not nearly as nasty to use as you think and brings so much relief.
Dzioszyn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:55:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every 5-minute Crafts video
Shatazen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:55:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A ice cold shower before going to bed actually help you sleep. I have insomnia and this trick from my tattoo artist actually have making me sleep better.
crunchthenumbers01 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:55:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just ask the girl out...worked for me married almost 13 years.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:55:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting your arms above you're head when you're out of breath.
Windowmaker66 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:55:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
taking a fucking benadryl before sleeping during allergy season
cpt-ry ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:56:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
do it now, do every task you know you should do at the time u remember to do it! never say ill do that later
TheBleuxPotatoChef ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:56:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Do your laundry often. Don't wash your clothing in bulk."
I swear. This works wonders.
pvld ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:56:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When bartender says, you drink enough - go home.
MrMarshi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:56:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're trying to fall asleep but your eyes are dry and it stings when you close them, simply rub your toes together and pinch on your body somewhere and concentrate on that pain. After a while your eyes will relax and you can sleep in peace without your eyes stinging.
Works for me 90% of the time.
sikkwarrior ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:56:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you donโt ask you donโt get.
Be cheeky in life, ask for those pay rises, ask that guy with an expensive car how he maintains the cost of it, what he does etc. All this should be done within reason!
Successful people donโt mind talking about themselves / their journeys and are actually inclined to tell you how to get places in your life.
FaZe-Toaster ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:57:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean your room
chrisrk912 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:57:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want or need something but youโre not sure how to not feel like a burden about it, it never hurts to just ... ask. Since the worst that can happen is someone tells you no. Lol
rainydaymaebee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:59:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ask for what you want, and tell people what you need.
Even if you don't think your going to get it, it opens up the possibility. I'm not always good at doing this, but when I try it I'm usually surprised. It's transformed things for me in relationships and at work, and it's a great opener in negotiations. Don't over think it, just ask for what you want.
Tobakroger ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:00:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wiping my ass
theclasssy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:00:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take a deep breath
Swagamemn0n ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:00:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
when procrastinating for a task, try cleaning up your workspace. for me the hardest thing about doing something has always been the start. i have a huge assignment and am afraid to start it because i dont even know how/where to begin. i've found this advice on r/nonzeroday and it proved to be really effective. you trick your mind into thinking you've already begun your task, simply by cleaning up your workspace and not even having begun said task. really helped me a lot.
Xanaxcrement ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:00:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting sour cream on hot dogs.
RealisticBurn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:03:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ew...
Xanaxcrement ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:04:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its gรผd
nachiketa98 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:01:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
permanent marker can be erased with rubber eraser and spit
Kawai_Oppai ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:33:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Or a lighter.
Walutani ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:01:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Self Talk and the law of attraction : That you can actually improve traits about yourself and manifest things into your life by simply by telling yourself something over and over.
RunningOftimeout ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:01:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
awesome! This thread is gold!
mesterg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:02:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Watching death note
ortegasega ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:08:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The anime? Or the netflix adaptation? The answer matters.
mesterg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:28:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The anime. I allways thought it was overrated untill i saw it
LemonnMan23 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:02:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a bloody nose, hold your head back and pinch your bridge. Blood went down my throat and choked me
Grime_Dubbin_Beats ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:04:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Excersise will clear your mind and is a great thing to add to your life no matter what, it helpsnyou stay healthy physically and mentally and there is seriously no excuse for the overwhelming vast majority of us.
invalidusername119 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:04:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating a salad of dinner on weekdays when you are on a diet will help you lose a lot of weight
Rezerd_the_darkmage ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:04:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Just button mash to win"
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:05:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mantras help with self esteem. Always thought they were bullshit, but it helps.
Lleggss ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:05:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Give your children diluted juice by giving them mostly water instead of the whole juice box/pouring them a whole sippy cup. It will save you money and your child wonโt be hyped up on sugar. I donโt have children lol.
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 07:09:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you give your children water to begin with they will genuinely enjoy drinking it.
My kids only drink water and theyโre no problem at all
Lleggss ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:03:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh yes. My cousins all love water as well! :) They are 5 and under lol.
microgirlActual ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:06:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making a weekly schedule/timetable for studying, plus just a general plan of attack: what you want out of each session, overall, what the information targets are.
Basically planning your study rather than just randomly reading material ;-)
beDeadOrBeQuick ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:06:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do it! Just do it!
buzzkill-lightyear ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:06:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
smile (teacher) i didn't think the students actually care. but they won't participate well in class if they think you're strict or quick tempered. i started sniling, and things actually started getting livelier.
Kawai_Oppai ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:32:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I bet youโre and English teacher and spelled smiling wrong. Am I right?
buzzkill-lightyear ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:49:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
dis aint a test nor a english class. am i riget?
Kawai_Oppai ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:03:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
๐ง
whitestonenac ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:07:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
when I first started clubbing, I took my friend on his first time ever to the club, and he told me when asking the girl don't grab her hand instead whisper in her ear something like " you are charming", and then proceed to grab her, the soft words soften her up, didn't believe as he hasn't been to the club before until I tried it, and it worked 9/10 times.
odd_doggo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:07:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Belive that you can do it!
1ballbobby ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:12:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep watching Breaking Bad
wooghee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:13:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat kiwis whole.
Dahe420 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:15:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Watching Game of Thrones
scottythebody555 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:16:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If she smokes, she pokes.
This absolutely redefined high school for me.
Veoricica ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:16:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Every thing that my grandma said.
Mcdougall43 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:17:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sit on your hand before you beat yer meat and it feels like someone else is doing it
HammerMeLater ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:18:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Say something positive after something negative.
PresentRing ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:18:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How to get rid of a stomach cramp because you ate too much before exercising. What you do is exahle all of the air in your lungs and jam your thumb where the cramp is. Then inhale with you thumb still there.
lizardkingbeckons ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:19:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Dont drink a rip it"
I drank one and it's all true they're like crack
PhilNEvo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:19:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't chase women.
Cher9969 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:21:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt spit into the wind.
PugzyPug ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:22:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have no idea what to do, but I'm sure you'll figure it out
shgrizz2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:29:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat the skin on a kiwi.
zumurrudthegreat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:29:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting a good night's sleep
DudeOfGuys ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:30:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breath
facadexx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:30:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay so you know when your parents would turn down the music when looking for a house, restaurant etc in a car. I thought this was stupid when I was younger, now I find myself doing this everywhere I go.
im_a_bobz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:32:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
i was stung by a bee and my friend told me to slap myself to move the pain so i slapped my leg and it worked for about 5 seconds
JibbyX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:32:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Peeing on your socks for warmth
AbReVa-AdDiCt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:33:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shave with cold water
itsatea ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:33:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In order not to die, just simply live.
omninode ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:33:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sleep on it.
When I was a kid I thought it was just something old people say, meaning you should take time to think things through.
But there have been so many times in my life when I wanted to do some stupid impulsive thing, decided to wait a day or two just in case, then woke up in the morning wondering what the hell I was thinking.
JellyBeansBeam ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:34:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Flossing
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:34:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If your feeling low and clogged and just donโt feel clear headed, drink two - three glasses of water. The lack of water is usually a common factor in people feeling down or tired
Twerk_account ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:34:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try to get 8 hours of sleep every night. Does wonder to my mood.
Patrickbob_Starpants ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:34:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Avoid using the word โthenโ when writing a story or essay
Made my writing not sound like Iโm 9
drunk_portuguese ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:35:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're always overridden by not procrastination, but this weird unmovable feeling of just, 'I want to MOVE and DO stuff' but just can't, try telling yourself 'well then don't do it' in a way that sounds uncaring and annoyed. Made me go to the gym out of spite for myself instead of being lazy at home
haemess ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:35:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Point your toes as hard as you can when you get a charlie horse. Instantly stops it every time.
touch_my_shitter ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:35:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt wipe your ass forward
NEOLittle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:35:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People telling me to enjoy my son's early years. He's only six and I love that every year brings change. I love my second son who is.still a very young baby. Somehow, I also miss my eldest as a little baby and that sweet toddler anyway. I'm glad I really took in all those moments. They all mattered so much and I feel like there are 6 years of my life that I have no regrets about. It was good advice.
FollowupJiggle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:35:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you want to hi-5 someone, look at their elbow and you'll rarely miss connecting
bongasaur80000 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:36:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always pack a spare pair of underpants and socks in your carry on luggage.
YouDontKnowMe2017 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:36:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โDonโt allow people to live in your mind rent free.โ
I finally decided to act on this gem, and i have stronger relationships with everyone i care about and that cares about me!
aetherwyrm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:37:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spoken self affirmations. I always thought they were silly, telling myself that thinking an affirmation was enough. Actually hearing my spoken voice say something positive is immensely different, in a good way!
phillyFart ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:37:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smile. Pretend to be happy.
It just might work.
max_jesuddddgvev ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:38:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left
bobjohnsonmilw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:38:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"if your bowling ball makes almost no sound as it hits the lane, you will almost likely get a strike."
Holy fucking shit, ever since I tried that it on a couple of the main center stripes I SUCK WAY LESS!!!!
monkeypowah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:38:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
29 inch mtb wheels.
Begraben ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:39:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apologizing.
Change "I'm sorry." To "I apologize" or "Apologies." Why?
Saying "I'm sorry." Implies you are a sorry person, as in pitiful and insecure, ect. People pick up on this. We hear "Sorry" constantly probably everyday (maybe it's just Canada? Idk) and it doesn't have much back or substance to it. Changing this will make you sound more sincere as well.
MrJoshiko ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:39:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Check your bank account for direct debits. Are you still a member of that gym? Did you sign up for that free trial that is now 9.99 a month forever?
If you aren't using it cancel it.
If isn't a good tip, just a safe guard backstop if you forget to cancel things.
perpetualnotion ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:40:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't go grocery shopping while hungry. Ha.
Kankarii ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:40:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be gentle with yourself
vladpov ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:41:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be yourself, because people like you for who you are.
eipeif ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:41:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A poop stool: if you have trouble shitting, put a chair in front of the toilet and place your legs on it
thatbarberkid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:41:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have time to lean you have time to clean. If there is things to be done and your just sitting around doing nothing, just get the shit done it will ending up freeing up way more time for you.
994212 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:42:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tuck your legs in a foetal position when doing a front flip on a trampoline.
Brokentier29 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:43:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learn to be nice to people you don't like and things will be much smoother for you in life.
Chef_Chantier ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:43:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just force yourself to do the things you know you should be doing but don't actually want to. I call it autopilot mode.
I don't mean this as some /r/wowthanksimcured material. Obviously you first need to be somewhat confident that it is worth doing, but once you've got that part down but are still struggling to do it, just forcing yourself can also help you realise that it isn't as bad as you thought and makes it easier to do in the future.
jrwilson717 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:43:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honesty
zaffle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:44:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup, although I confess I did neglect to mention I was also doing other fitness enhancements too. So whilst pushups were my only arm muscle building exercise, I was improving my overall fitness too. That always helps.
miguelfllores ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:44:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
3:44AM...sigh
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:45:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a stomach sickness, even if it feels impossible, eat something. Yeah you might throw it back up, but you also might not and not having any calories in you doesn't help your body fight the illness.
MrSpectreson ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:45:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โRemember that you get what you INSPECT, not what EXPECT.โ
โHave fun, but not too much fun.โ
Strive to live such a story that leaves you not even the time to write about itโ someone will write it for you.
MyLifeIsNotNormal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:46:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Once I was told to believe in the power of logic. It was terrible. The world began to shatter.. People died. How does logic work when you live in a world devoid of purpose.
Well let me tell you. The world isn't devoid.
One day in my small village we had a large feast to celebrate the coming of the matron. This must have been about 200 years ago. Anyway, we talked. The elders asked a simple question:
"What is this world?"
Brant died from the mental strain of answering this. I truly didn't know. There was no logic...
isnotaweed ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:46:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you are too broke to fill your gas tank all the time, just start treating 1/4 tank like empty. Put in gas whenever it gets close to that low. Better for your engine ( empty tank means sediment from the bottom of the tank can get sucked up with the dregs of the gas) and it gives you a built in cushion of 1/4 tank if you ever need it for some reason.
licktheetruff ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:47:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is a little bit 'sensitive', but I was having 'bedroom trouble' and I'm not allowed to take those pills. I remembered some old gents speaking about stinging nettles, and hid some behind the toilet. I did the 'wringing a cloth' action, and walked out Proud, with 'junior' at his best. Mmmmmmm...
Pyrostark ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:48:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't be desperate when approaching girls
Reidy91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:48:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont drink and drive
wwaattttss ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:48:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My car would not start, no matter what I tried. While on the phone to my dad he told me to look under the bonnet for a silver thing (the starter motor) and hit it.
I thought he was joking because it seemed so stupid, but I whacked it with a metal pole and to my surprise the thing started.
skxvngr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:48:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When your heart feels heavy, breathe in through your nose and let out a deep breath through your mouth lmao works like a charm after/during running or being too baked.
ay_light ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:49:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Literally any advice of my mom.
BrokebackBrosie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:49:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating healthily and avoiding carbs to help alleviate my depression and anxiety. Never thought changing my eating habits would help my mental state quite as much as it did. Seems obvious now.
KingRiel99 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:50:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Studying
WindSquid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:51:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Squinting when drawing. I heard about it, and for a good few months couldn't get passed the idea that if I can't see my work as well how can it help?
Eventually I tried it and it sounds counterintuitive but it was an eye opener. Squinting at a drawing makes all the little details that distract the eye and draw your focus go away. Suddenly light and dark areas and proportions become so much easier to place and correct because you're not worrying about individual lines but the over all form of the subject.
Thanks for this amazing advice Peppo!
artieartichoke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:51:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spanking my Keurig. It wasnโt putting out as much coffee as it should so I googled it and was told to literally turn it over and spank it. So- I did and it worked perfectly after that
MarkMcCoy415 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:52:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're in an argument with someone try to sort it out as soon as you can. Nothing worse than having it in the back of your head. And leaving it longer usually makes things worse
louTPott ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:52:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink water. Useless when you're trying to fix a single issue (acne, trouble sleeping...) but it has tons of little benefits that are pretty neat. No, you won't clear your skin, cure your depression and lose all your extra weight by drinking 8 cups of water a day, but you definitely will help your body and mind by doing so. Being even slightly dehydrated will cause trouble focusing, increase the risk of cramps and other types of muscular pain and make your lips all dry, painful and crusty, which is terrible enough on it's own. Basically, drinking water doesn't fix your life, but not drinking water absolutely does make it worse, so please, drink water, right now if you can, even (especially) if that means you have to get up and clean a cup :)
winterjoey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:52:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Don't ask, don't get". Essentially, if you don't ask for something, then you definitely won't get it. If you ask, at least you've given yourself a chance.
woco2023 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:52:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thinking about people who have it worse then you when you are feeling down
sugarrat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:52:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When posing for a photo, unclench your butt
code_r3d ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:52:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt rush life or youโll mess it up. Cars, money, relationships will all come naturally at the right time, if you try and force it youโll mess it up.
globewithwords ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:53:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't do your work in bed.
My mum always says this because I used to refuse to work behind my desk. My bed was just too comfortable. But I've found that staying in bed all day won't just give me a backache, but it'll also make it less satisfying to go to bed after a long day. It's nice to get up from your desk, stretch a bit and get into bed. Oh and make your bed when you get up. It makes your room seem more tidy than it is.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:53:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Math
ciononostante ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:53:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โStop smokingโ
crocodilefacts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:53:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you hold a crocodiles mouth closed they canโt open it.
Alienaura ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:55:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Just hold on, it's going to be okay." This would piss me off whenever I heard it but once I thought about it, I decided to complain less and focus on actually trying to improve my situation more. Of course this doesn't work for everything, but you'd be surprised how far you can come.
cennaidax ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:55:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you're cooking or baking, measure out everything first. I never did it for many many many years and I tried it once and realized how much more convenient and efficient it is to have everything ready
WhiskeyPixie24 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:56:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get up early.
I had a really glorious phase as a morning person last fall. My roommate didn't have her current job and would just sleep in for however long, so I got up before 7 and basically had the world to myself. Ate breakfast outside, relaxed, got ready, and started my day super refreshed before 9 at the latest.
It's almost impossible for me to wake up without sunlight, so I got off the wagon in winter and by the time the sun was back my roommate started a 9-5, so my super-tranquil awesome mornings are now loud, crowded, and full of blender noises. I end up just avoiding it, then waking up at the last minute and feeling rushed and unprepared every morning. God... I miss it.
emersomnicetits ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:57:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Force yourself to sing and/or smile on your way to work or any other unpleasant event. As lame as it is, it helps.
sponge_bert ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:57:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Work hard
Daddymuncher ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:58:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"If you're going to eat ass, go all the way"
han_reddits ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:59:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โYou canโt edit a blank page.โ Still trying to live by this. I see this a lot in university students I teach. Itโs like you get scared of committing pen to paper when assignments are due. But the first draft doesnโt need to be perfect. Just get something down and then work on improving it.
YisDAT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:59:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The squatty potty !
RoderickFarva ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:59:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Never lick a knife." This advice is from George Carlin in one of his stand up shows. I once slightly cut my tongue while licking a knife. Should've listened to Carlin.
Mermen_have_rights ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:01:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't grow up. I did.
-Riddle-me-this- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:02:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat ice-cream with a fork. This advice changed my life
cronnyberg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:03:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have brain freeze, lick the roof of your mouth and it goes away instantly
badmancatcher ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:03:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you get hiccups, think of 5 bald men. They go
maciejastyyy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:04:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have something to do and it is not gonna take longer than 5 minutes, do it immediately. Don't put it on the "later" shelf. Do your bed straight after you get up - 3 minutes, put dishes in a dishwasher - 1 minute, etc. Small things but building up by the end of the day, and makes you angry.
JucaLebre ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:05:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it until you make it
Robert_Chirea ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:05:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a diesel anything don't let it run out of fuel trust me it's very bad. If you have a diesel car try to keep it 1/4 full all the times and if you have a generator make sure you know when you will run out and stop it 10/20 min before. We thought "well will just fill it up when it runs out" Nope diesel it's not gas and if it runs out you will have a bad day.
AtheistMessiah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:05:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I follow the fractals created by my eyes when I attempt to see through my closed eyes. It works very fast.
Lynne_InChina ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:05:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take a deep breath and calm down. Don't make decisions at late night and do it in the morning instead.
noreasontogetshirty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:06:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Soaking garlic overnight to make it easier to peel them.
letters-- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:06:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My razer mouseโs scroll click no longer worked, and when I searched it up, people were smacking it as hard as they could with spoons and shit on YouTube. I didnโt really believe it, but it somehow worked.
25554 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:08:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being yourself in high school.
ezPinZee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:08:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practice makes perfect
Said by everyone for everything every time you ask that task's variant of "How to git gud"
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:12:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you don't wanna look, wipe till it feels done, then wipe one more time
SlumberBalu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:12:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Only drinking water, i did it because i really had some problems, sure you go more to the toilet, but you actually feel good after a while :D
PrismSimon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:13:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pressing your tongue against the roof of your mouth can prevent a sneeze
Alassinwanderland ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:13:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drunk in PUBLIC
okay so that is not advice so much as my STATE of being as of LATE but I thought it was worth mentioning as I had always been like not okay with being DRUNK in public. I thought OMG people will know I am drunk and was worried people would care somehow.
Anyway someone DRUNK put their arm around my neck and said in a Very SAGE VOICE whispering this like advice.
Drunk *IN* Public
Like that was the answer to the life universe and everything.
That was the very drunk at the time Dwarf actor who played R2D2
He said some other memorable things. All a little Cryptic...
but to my unasked question of what is the point or bars /parties
was that it is to be done in public - to actually dance like you dont care etc.
That man - had no SHITS to GIVE
GlbdS ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 08:17:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why the random all caps words, makes it incredibly tedious to read
carrysense ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:14:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
"FEEL HAPPIER INSIDE" and not argue with people... People tend to respect the fact you are happier and listen to you, they accept your thoughts quicker then when you present then anger. I practice this alot and things have changed drastically over the output of the situation. My worker take orders smoothly and my business partner enjoy my thoughts more often. I complain in such a way that they get the joke and the message.
Edit: this is the most important lesson of my life that paid of
lofaszkapitany ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:15:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
think positively. Reminding yoursef of your past and problems won't make them disappear. This went over my had so bad. But at least I'm doing it now.
honeybuttered ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:15:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Don't trust anyone in this place, even me."
Sounded like a confusing advice then but now it makes more sense. Was given to me casually by a senior level researcher in our lab. Came to bite me in the ass when the other senior level researcher with whom I confided in about my project talked to my supervisor and said that I was "too dependent" on him. Bitch, he was the one who asked me for what he can help me with in the first place and even went on saying shit like "we're the same people; very private" so that made me feel like "he gets me". People.
Anyway, sounded more like a rant but yeah, be wary of who you trust. Sounds common sense but people can be cunning.
marconnected ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:15:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation
Thought it was something useless for yoga lovers and shit. Turns out it's really helpful, especially if you are the anxious type
Pm_Me_Gifs_For_Sauce ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:16:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything involving being social or confrontational, because obviously as an unsocial person, you can not imagine life socially, but hence the nature of the question: If you try out being social, you will literally find that it snowballs and does in fact become easier.
For me, it was forced, I had a job that required me to talk to people, but the thing I did, I think anyone can do. I just chose "intentionally" a phrase to say to new people. "Hi, how are you?" and as weird as it felt the first few times (working their for over a year and continuing) it became as easy as saying hi to a family member or friend. Then obviously I branched out and tried new phrases, until I eventually felt like I could just say whatever I thought (within reason).
Part of it is just repetition, but part of it is just becoming desensitized to interaction. You start to realize these small interactions don't mean a god damned thing. The over thinking of your small tip with the driver who delivered your pizza late, or how you had to cut back into line because the new cashier gave you the wrong cigs becomes smaller naturally, because it becomes a daily part of life.
skallskitar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:16:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation. Even when you remove all mysticism junk it still looked like junk. How would doing nothing help with anything? For me it doesn't help me to actually do stuff, but I feel so much better from just 10 minutes a day.
Yasuomidonly ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:17:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just trying it
TheOneAnd_Only ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:17:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put some toilet paper in the water and back of the bowl before you lay a log. Thought it was stupid and a waste of time.....that extra 20 seconds has probably saved me lifetimes of embarrassment
SonOfZaknafein ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:17:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My Grandmother once told me "If you don't want anyone to know something, don't tell anyone." So, when you have something that you want to stay a secret, but you feel like you just have to tell someone, don't. You're not even safe from your best of friends.
Boopable_Snootable ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:18:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you plug in the printer and it won't turn on, unplug it, rub the metal prods of the plug with your fingers, then plug it in again then turn on.
I don't know why it works. Maybe static?
Wulfrvm11 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:20:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if you have hiccups, deeply swallow 2-3 times.
0uestion ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:20:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That the first thing you should do each morning you wake up is to smile at yourself in the mirror, because it supposedly made you happy. Thought it was bullshit until I was feeling really blue and decided to try it, stood there for about 5 minutes fake smiling and I couldn't help but feel happy and relieved.
Raziel2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:20:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put a rubber band (not a hair tie, like the rubber band you get on produce) between the screw driver and the stripped screw to unscrew it.
YinminTarul ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:21:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
putting a rubberband tight around the pinkie finger when bleeding from the nose. Sounded like absolutely wierd to me until i tried it. It actually works like a charm and even is used by the ambulance guys here where i live.
ashy_ge ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:21:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking deep breaths when I'm feeling anxious, angry or scared. I put it down to being another bit of nonsense but man when I breath deeply and take a few moments to think all my worries fade away.
MorbidiaMoth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:22:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be grateful for the things you have and you will be happier.
So cheesy but so helpful.
Barb_67 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:25:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A clean coin is a happy coin. This applies to everything.
B-L-G-Y ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:25:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"If you don't like living here then you can get the fuck out."
We haven't spoken since. I'm doing great.
Paradox1604 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:27:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tidying up after the party or arranging a cleaning service for the next day. The absolute joy of not having g to deal with a dirty place he day after.
GeorgievP ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:28:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Blowing air into a toddlers mouth can dislodged an object that they have stuck up their nose.
rauwlypts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:29:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want to fall asleep, stop trying to sleep.
This is why itโs a lot easier to fall asleep for a lot of people on the couch than in bed. If the goal is not to sleep but hang out, you will feel more sleepy. The effort to sleep often raises stress and paradoxically makes it harder.
I thought this was a dumb idea but works wonders. I even pushed this concept by trying not to sleep- strangely still worked better than trying to sleep.
WolfGirrrl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:30:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you swallow a beverage and a bit goes down the wrong way, causing you to cough and choke, hold your arms over your head. It sounds funny, but it opens your airways and minimizes recovery time.
pidgeononachair ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:30:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smile and your mood will improve
IAmPrestige ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:31:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Revise
datbarricade ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:31:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You never know before you try." Sounded like the dumbest advice of all time to me, especially when asking a girl out. Well now I know that I have wasted way to many chances by convincing myself there is no chance she is going to say yes. Stupid me.
DMaynTrain ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:31:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โIf you have the hiccups, hold your breath for 30 seconds and theyโll go awayโ has worked for me every time.
Wei5252 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:33:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just say no and dont find excuses to get around something. Example: your friend asks you out, and you perhaps dont like to hangout so in this case just say no. Stop finding excuses like oh i got this and that
AlbinoRabe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:33:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For 50% of the people I support at work it would be "Restart your pc at least once in a while, don't let it up and running for several weeks"
thatfrenshdude ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:34:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do what you want to do in your life
Nition619 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:35:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Put ya fingers down her back til ya get to the dimples kid and just leave em there"
grafmec93 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:36:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mixing something really sweet with something really savory will taste good, feta cheese with watermelon for example..
radical_sin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:37:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you're having a stressful episode or you're feeling overwhelmed just take a deep breath and and say "fuck it"
cosmic_trout ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:39:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you are having trouble relaxing just think about your tongue. Consciously try to relax it. Take a breath and relax it a bit more. Do this 4 or 5 times. Now you are relaxed.
Willis2255 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:39:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
M.j m.j nVCbnb?
aldz1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:40:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smell the roses
krawcrates ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:42:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bluetooth headphones
tawnidilly69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:42:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Teach by example. Donโt be a โdo as I say, not as I doโ person.
DeepVeridian ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:43:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy cheap, buy twice.
Don't always get the cheapest, sometimes you save a little money by spending a little to begin with
Dexter_-_-_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:44:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you feel like sneezing press with your tongue on the top part of your mouth (English is not my main language so idk how it's called) and the "I am about to sneeze" sensation is going to disappear 9/10 times in my experience.
Firepickle ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:02:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But I like sneezing...
Dexter_-_-_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:03:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yea but sometimes it would be akward to let out a big ass sneeze
roboticliquids ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:06:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But why would you want that? Sneezes feel good.
Dexter_-_-_ ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:08:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its cooll but what if you want to sneeze when your crush is about to kiss u :))) just saying that there are times when this shit is usefull
Grumbling_Dwarf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:44:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Waking up on time.
jacobnazo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:46:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worry less ๐
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:46:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Be yourself"
Traitor115 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:47:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When my stomach was aching my boss said I should eat white bread and drink cola It helped the next time I tried it it didn't work but the third time it did work again so idk what I did wrong the second time
cmonmeow8 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:47:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn left to go right... itโs amazing
Kah-chowww
mattacular2001 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:49:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making lists of tasks to keep track and crossing off as you go
This made my job SO MUCH easier
saracofun74 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:49:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Running faster than my friend in the woods with a bear in pursuit. :)
Hurreh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:49:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Clean your pan while it is still piping hot. It makes it super easy to clean. If something gets stuck to your pan and won't scrub off just heat it until it is very hot and put it under cold water.
Edit: Heat it slowly. Don't put it on high heat immidietaly.
micah-007 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:49:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fans on my old MacBook died. Saw a YouTube video that said to simply take your fist and bang on the part of the computer that housed the fans.
Thinking it was a troll, I gave it a shot out of pure frustration, and lo and behold, they purred back to life and I never had another issue with them for the rest of the time that I owned that computer.
nerunas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:49:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Blow on the mouse switch if it double clicks or does not register every click. I was sceptical and sure that I needed to return my mouse, but it actually stopped double clicking and registers every click properly.
TheMightyDingo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:49:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do more of what works, do less of what doesn't.
IslaPirate ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:50:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you smoke the herb everyday, take a break and enjoy the new ride.
YellowTango ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:55:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Losing weight by exercising AND eating less. I only did the former not the latter. Turns out it really works. I'm not a really smart man.
BukanPokemon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:57:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop Masturbating
brucie5 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:58:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An exercise I call โpie faceโ for tension headaches. You kinda push your head backwards as though someone has shoved a pie in your face. Repeat a few times holding for a second or two. Really helps to release the muscles that are worsening the headache.
Toxilyn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:58:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use an app to count your kcalories to loose weight.
Original thought: Ugh counting kcalories is too complicated. Would be even on an app. Not going to bother. I can't do math in my head. Too much to remember. Nah.
Thought now: Easiest piss in the world. Scan the barcode of the food. App instantly knows how big your portion is. Eat with glee. Why the hell did I not do that sooner? Lost 44kg on counting my kcalories with Lifesum.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:00:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Being an ubermensch
Shull014 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:02:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Similar story to the guy with the Macbook somewhere in the top replies.
My Xbox One's disc try was refusing to spit out the disk and making these weird grindy noises. A piece of advice on the internet suggested turning it upside down, lifting it up maybe half a foot or so, and dropping it. So of course I took this sane sounding advice and did it. One horrifying crash later and it worked fine.
JusssssssstiN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:04:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt believe in love
MateyNumberThree ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:06:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left.
Kiwiboer1559 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:06:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chug a glass of water to stop hiccups instantly
bippetybio ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:07:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't remember where I heard it first, but "When you are afraid of doing something, then be afraid; and do it anyways"
Sounded impossible when I first heard it, but it has helped me many times since.
zilya221 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:08:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Study for exams
Beckys_Man ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:08:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going to sleep early in order to get up early.
Inkpiernofingla ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:10:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put your eye on the fan if thereโs an eyelash in it. I tried it once and the eyelash went out like an airplane.
filletri ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:13:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Elaborate lol, what kind of fan and how do u mean "on"?
Inkpiernofingla ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:50:41 on May 10, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I meant put a desk fan (The ones people who sleep on the floor with mattresses use) and put it near your eye
schlongbeano ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:11:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Start every day by making your bed, without exception.
piercy08 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:11:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if you have a "dead" phone, that seemingly died for no reason. Doesnt look like its charging or turning on. Hold it up to a bright light, for 30 seconds. Sometimes they get stuck in "pocket mode" and the bright light can help snap them out of it. Especially if a phone ran out of battery while in a pocket.
I had a samsung that died and i saw this tip, didnt believe it. Everyone said it worked.. i tried it, phone worked fine after that.
inventingalex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:13:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
all you need is a good sleep
BlackShirt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:13:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pull Post-its from the side instead of the bottom for a flat-laying note.
RedditiatorGuyMan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:14:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
get out of my lawnkittykattkyoooo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:14:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The 90-10 principle. Best way to tackle issues and problems to avoid overthinking.
wilx316 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:14:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dipping my ice cream in my popcorn at the movies. Its delicious!
buttnugchug ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:17:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make fists with your feet.
Kipdid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:17:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You know that trick you see characters in older cartoons do to stop themselves from sneezing (back if the finger up to bottom of nose)? Yeah, that shit actually works if you push up a little. am not a doctor so I havenโt the vaguest idea why, but I got curious and tried it one day and it worked pretty well. Does sometimes causes the sneeze to come back with a vengeance like in the cartoons as well though, but itโs great to give you a bit of extra time to grab a tissue.
New_Yorky ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:18:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
keep a fake gun in your house, i got a bb gun from somewhere for 3 euros. thought i would never use it. 1 month after someone tried to break into my house and i pointed it at him, he ran faster than flash.
Juulhelmus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:18:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take 3 seconds before you answer. It will let you make less insults and people will take you more serious and actually listen to you.
Random-Thoughts23 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:18:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you take shorter strides when you run up in high jumps you jump higher.
It works like made.
james_frankie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:20:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can be anything, or do anything if you change your mindset.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:21:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Trust me, she isnt the type to do that too you" hahaha ๐๐๐๐
rrnr357 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:21:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never miss a good opportunity to shut the hell up.
lacalema ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:21:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Feel the difference between grieving and depression. Itโs ok to do one as long as you need. Itโs never ok to do the other.
YourCatGod ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:22:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The truth will set you free.
Ask and you shall receive.
(love of/reliance on) Money is the root of all evil.
Everything is Backwards (my quote in 2019)
BabyEinstein2016 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:22:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The very last thing you should do when writing an email is add the recipients.
H3llcatx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:23:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You can do anything you set your mind to! It was like some fairy tail for me until I actually tried
LavenderPearlTea ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:23:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never trust HR. They either donโt care or are there to back the company.
my_dog_is_a_nazgul ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:24:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking a shower in the morning instead at night makes you feel better throughout the day.
JBCaptain ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:25:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That drinking milk while eating spicy food cools it down significantly.
ComradeJagrad ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:26:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Struggling with weight loss, I discovered that it turns out Nike's slogan is actually the best advice for how to make yourself go to the gym. "Just Do It".
Turns out there's no secret technique to gain motivation, you just have to stop making excuses and get in there.
PumpkinFairyLights ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:26:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Probably โIf it doesnโt work, hit it.โ That does actually seem to make it work again. That said, I work in an arcade now and am constantly having to tell customers to stop hitting the machines.
jiggyjerm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:27:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This ones probably silly but if you use a quick saw in construction to cut concrete or block, rock the saw back and forth. It cuts faster, smoother, and especially will drop the risk of breaking a block.
Captain_Ray-Holt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:27:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turning the eggs in a carton before purchasing.
heck600 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:28:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For youtube addicts, delete the youtube app and only use the browser version on your mobile device
AmericanInTaiwan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:28:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โI'm not sure how to meet people / make friends at my new college.โ
โYou could try joining clubs.โ
This seemed pathetic before I considered it, but doing so allowed me to meet people with similar interests. I made friends with some of those people that I'm still friends with today. I met some attractive people and got laid a few times because of this advice as well. Most of all, the best memories I have from this time of my life actually came as a direct result of following this advice.
SmartPriceCola ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:28:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kind of a specific one but when it came to passing a financial equations exam (and get my degree)
โDonโt just memorise all the formulae for the equations, learn WHY that formulae worksโ
justforkickssake ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:29:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try to have good rapport with all your colleagues even if they are shitbags
tullabulla1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:29:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For those trying to quit smoking: Big, deep, breaths in and out will help kill your craving and focusing on the your breathing will distract your mind.
Itโs all in your head, youโre not gonna die, you can do this!!
yzzyzz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:29:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
me myself
ExactPause ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:30:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandpa once told me, when i hasked him how to crave a head out of wood (He craved as his hobby) that it's simple 'Just cut away everything that doesn' t look like a head. As a kid the advice sounded like he made fun of me because I asked such a dumb question but it turned out that carving is actually cutting away wood until you get it to the desired form...
AngryArti ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:30:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it's wort doing it's worth doing half assed.
Brushing your teeth for a short time is better than none if you don't feel like you have energy or time. A short shower is better than none. Washing some dishes is better than none. Etc. Etc.
bewareofmicrowave ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:30:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slow is smooth, smooth is fast.
I heard this in the Army and always thought it was stupid, but it is so true
Zapyre ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:31:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Moving on.
CherryBlackEyes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:31:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use lube
FrankFatcat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:31:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Love yourself
ch3mp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:31:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything related to studying. I was terrible at it. Luckily I was strong enough to still pas most things. Now I'm a math teacher and I help guide students with their learning process. Everyone has different ways of studying and you just have to find your style. The key is trying out all kind of things.
I used to just write summaries and memorise them. But after years I learned that the best way for me is to make cheat sheets and use them during exercises. I'm bad at memorising and I pretend like I'm cheating a test. After enough exercises I memorised it without even trying.
IKanS ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:33:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You should enjoy childhood while it lasts."
Oh boy, do I regret scoffing at that now.
toyfelchen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:33:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think positive.
What was the most hates sentence during my therapy became my life motto. It frickin works, even when you force yourself to it.
JakeCats ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:34:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Think before you act, learnt this in primary school but it still helps me today lmfao
lil_win ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:34:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking deep breaths
Outdoor_Carpeting ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:35:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Look people in the eyes when talking to them and you will naturally feel more confident.
DrugsOnMars ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:35:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"If you sit on your hand long enough and then you masturbate it will feel like somebody else's hand is touching you"
This.
zappyguy111 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:36:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"The most important thing is life is getting by." -dad
Mum hated this, she interpreted as: "the most important thing in life is thing thing you stop at when you achieve it".
So, I never took it seriously until I failed university too many times for too long, ran out of money and got extremely depressed.
Remembered this and realised that my father meant: "the most important thing in life is a foundation to work off", so got a 'loan' from mum, got a truck driving licence, got a job, worked for 3 years, now I'm getting by, have a savings, have a fall back skill and I can more comfortably start reaching for my goals.
Margaritaa96 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:36:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honestly lip balm. I know it sounds stupid but Iโve always been a fairly lucky person never had chapped lips/ dry skin etc etc, until this year and god damn lip balm is awesome
Minimanjes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:37:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It better to do something at least a little bit rather than not at all
HiImJhon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:37:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Five second rule to go and talk to people. Waiting until the best moment makes you loose opportunities. And as a introvert I must say: works like a charm.
ImMadeOutOfStalinium ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:38:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deleting my facebook
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:38:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Delete social media !!
X3rvish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:38:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"There is no use worrying about that which is outside your control."
EngCraig ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:39:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you worry about something that hasnโt happened, youโre experiencing it twice.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:40:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you donโt want to do something count to 5 and then get started
levulolxd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:40:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Life hacks
brett_595 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:40:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When the Xbox 1 originally came out there was a design flaw with the disc drives that would cause them to malfunction and make a grinding sound. Found a YouTube video of a guy wrapping his in a towel and dropping it from a few feet upside down. Didnโt really want to take the possible months to send it back to be fixed so gave it a try assuming I was about to destroy my brand new Xbox. IT FUCKING WORKED. 6 years later and itโs still going strong!
ltosborne0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:41:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It is easier to gain weight than to lose it. Stay healthy and donโt let yourself go because itโs a long road back to being healthy once youโve gone too far.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:41:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you need to sneeze, but don't want to, press down on the indentation on your upper lip for a few seconds. Usually the sneeze goes away then.
Szukov ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:42:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed everytime you leave bed. No matter how bad your day is at least there is a fresh bed waiting.
BongusHo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:42:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If your soft drink is to fizzy, lick your finger and dip it into your drink and the fizz will dissipate twice as fast.
Need_More_Whiskey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:43:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When parallel parking on a hill, you need to turn your wheels (so if the car moves, you donโt roll into the street) a different direction if facing up hill or down. Which way is which? โUp, up and away!โ I still say it to myself every time I use it, which is multiple times a month haha
MahmoudZamel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:43:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A beer the next day after hangover
MartyrSaint ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:43:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Letting your wife relax after work does wonders for your relationship.
Xpiggie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:43:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You're not drinking enough water."
Having started actually drinking around eight 8oz glasses of water in a day (or more if I exercise!), I realize just how little water I was drinking. And I feel a billion times better, less hungry, and just more clear. Kind of amazing what being hydrated does.
Yeah_Nah_Cunt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:44:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yup I buy pack of 100 Astra blades for $10 lasts me over a year normally
itzaakthegreat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:44:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting enough sleep regularly instead of trying to be a sleep camel; it goes a long way for physical and mental health.
FineSpecimenOfCute ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:45:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How to stop hiccups: close your eyes and touch your eyelids as lightly as possible with your pointer fingers
TheRealFeels9 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:46:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wish people on their birthday. It always leads to a little conversation, a little catching up, and over many years, it helps you stay friends/ at least cordial acquaintances for a long time without a lot of effort.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:46:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn your burger upside down before eating it.
Life changing.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:47:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I've been wanting to try that, does that actually work?
[deleted] ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 09:48:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Almost always. If it's one of those huge stack burgers nothing will help, but for most it's a game changer.
I can't stand watching people struggling to contain the broken, sloppy contents of their burger when I know there's a simple solution.
Ipride362 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:47:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Show up to work.
I thought it was the stupidest advice ever. Because, duh.
I show up to work every day and notice how often people donโt show up.
Hevenlyclaw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:47:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reading books
Viskey123 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:47:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making my bed in the morning to feel like you've at least achieved something...
Thought it was a crock of shit, how can me flinging some sheets around making me feel better?
But it does, coming home and seeing a tidy bedroom is nice.
butt_chieftan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:48:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Can't force yourself to start a task such as cleaning? Tell yourself you'll do 5 minutes and then can do anything you want. Chances are, after the 5 minutes is up, you'll be in the swing of things and will just carry on. Or like me, you'll completely forget about the 5 minutes!
Gatos_sin_sapatillas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:48:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Swallowing a spoonfull of sugar as fast as i can to stop hiccups. Works everytime
jatadharius ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:48:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it is lower than you think
kajmere4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:49:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use Dawn dishwashing liquid to get bloodstains out. Iโve tried everything, nothing really worked well until a friend told me about Dawn. Super easy.
Boylebbb ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:49:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Diet and exercise helps with depression. Initially looked at doc like he was belittling how bad I felt. Turns out diet and exercise gives this really satisfying stability and progress that reeeaaaally helps with depression
aoyfas ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:49:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not caring what other people think.
It took me 33 years to truly embrace this concept...couldn't be happier.
QueenAslaug ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:49:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eat your meat to get strong and healthy. Now I actually eat lots of meat after years of being vegetarian and vegan and it's the first time I experience what health actually is.
SpaceCadetBob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:50:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mix your peas in your mashed potatoes and you wonโt taste them when you eat them.
Source: Five year old kid.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:50:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're in a situation where it'd be unacceptable to sneeze, hold your index finger under your nose like in cartoons. Works 99 of 100 times for me.
FranksBestToeKnife ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:51:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Milk in before the hot water when making coffee. Tastes great.
kyoto93 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:51:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using baby wipes as toilet paper
Purple_Monkey_42 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:51:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gargle with salt water to help a sore throat.
Jwtrs85 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:52:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take a spork camping
kkkanojo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:52:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
try getting a different hobby
even if it was fleeting, it always helped
invertedparadoxxx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:52:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a job loser!
Uffdathegreat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:53:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โDonโt spend money you donโt haveโ and โWhen all else fails, read the instructionsโ are two of my dadโs favoriteโs. Amazing how far they can get you.
badgunsmith ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:54:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking a jog every now and then will actually give you energy.
VisualTom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:54:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the past I would look for items in the fridge and when I couldn't find them she'd always reply, "did you move things around?".
jdjdjdw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:55:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This may be stupid but "eat breakfast" I went for a VERY long time on two meals and a snack cause I didn't have time for breakfast and then I would wonder why I was tired when I had a good 8 hours yeah that wasn't sleep deprivation it was low blood sugar.
SpiritualMayonnaise ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:56:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If something has put a dampener on or even ruined your day, ask yourself if youโll care about it a week from now, overwhelming majority of the time the answer is no, and you immediately donโt care about it anymore
ravnefjaes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:57:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"practice"
Other_Exercise ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:57:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One I read this morning here on Reddit from u/Tehsyr :
Unclench your jaw, open your hands, drop your shoulders, and breathe in.
TheRedAuror ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:58:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a problem with something a friend said or did, bring it up to them politely but firmly and give them a chance to clarify or apologise. Don't hold it in because you are either nervous or not sure. You'll resent them for something that might have imaginary.
LaTricksterYT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:58:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Back when I was a kid, but looking into light to help you sneeze
shikharv ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:58:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
iwantdiscipline ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:59:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Calisthenics / body weight exercise. I thought it was dumb shit you did in gym class because thereโs no equipment. When I lost 30 or so lbs a few years back half of what I did was calisthenics.
Samanuel_1234 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:00:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left
PM_ME_YOUR_MILF_BODY ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:00:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That quitting weed would improve my mental health.
A bit over 3 months sober and i feel great improvement!
OutrageousProjectHD ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:01:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Running makes you happy, thought it was useless advice until I started running.
Goodemi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:01:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything is temporary.
pronoke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:01:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nothing is expensive if you enjoy it. Not strictly true but it allows me to not be scared of spending money on things rather than trying to save everything.
harm0a ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:02:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Study for your test
finnyy04 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:06:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โJust let her go.โ
StormerWave ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:07:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting reddit
Ravaen769 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:07:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Posative self talk. Refers to the conversations or statements that run through your head. Changing it from negative to posative has really helped with my depression. Itโs a daily thing you have to monitor and actually actively correct. But after a couple of months it really did start to change my mood.
Fniley ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:08:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Masturbating will temporarily clear a blocked nose. Has helped me a lot whenever I get a cold. ๐คง
Manidix ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:09:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise, when i became more active my overall disposition changed. Dont be afraid to be adventurous with the activity you try.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:10:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
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nicolecealeste ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:11:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve been told that when you give in to your anxiety it makes it worse every time... I like the pep talk, it makes sense to me
The_Unknown_Variable ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:10:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
After shaving, avoid aftershave lotions. Use potassium alum. It is natural antiseptic and doesn't make your skin dark when you advance towards old age.
MessianicAge ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:10:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yoga can cure joint problems.
DirkBabypunch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:11:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As long as you keep working for it, things will get better. Keep making actual attempts to improve your situation, rather than waiting for opportunities to progress.
Nobody has ever climbed a mountain by sitting still, and even a couple XP at a time contribute to that level up.
ChaoticSerendipity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:11:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Masturbate using your other hand, it'll feel like someone else is doing it.. It'll also rewire your brain and increase productivity".
Diane_Degree ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:11:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Excerise helps with depression
DMCdante96 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:11:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Condoms
jdjdjdw ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:11:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fucking quit soda/monster it never seems like it affects you much but after like a week of just lemonade and water I have like 3 times the energy I used too anx I'm way less crabby
P3p3TehFrog ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:12:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Squeeze your thumb while brushing your tongue will prevent your gag reflex from activating momentarily
quitepenne ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:12:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Salt or bicarbonate Sosa piled on a red wine spill
ItGuyontheamazon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:13:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you need to just reduce speed in a downhill situation try downshifting and do not step on the gas when possible. Since the car is not burning fuel the Pistons will be pushing against a vacuum and the engine size itself will slow the car a little This will make your brakes last longer and save fuel
22smigra ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:14:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Whenever you have the hiccups you should inhale, swallow without exhaling, inhale again and then swallow.
coreyrude ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:14:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
when you need to remember something put an item out of place that would catch your attention. This seemed dumb but now I always hang my sunglasses on my steering wheel to remind me of anything I need to do before I get to work.
plmsw12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:14:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting effort into something
Miss_Management ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:14:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathe. Breathing exercises really do help to calm my ass down.
simat8 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:15:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Omg this whole thread is gold lol!! Some great advice here
Oofmo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:17:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stay hydrated!
zancronv ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:17:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Greet someone with a "Good Morning" or give small gesture of gratitude to people especially people working in the food service. It might mean a lot to them!
stior65vdy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:17:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ask yourself, "will i care about this in 7 hours? Days? Or a week?"
andrewads2001 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:17:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything is edible at least once
kari3z ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:17:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Watching Game of Thrones
Sithlordandsavior ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:18:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pressing down on the bone of your nose will postpone a sneeze.
LanternSenpai ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:20:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You should have gone for the head" this dude snapped
-clogwog- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:21:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
NEVER use hot water when trying to wash cum out of hair/clothing. All you'll do is make an even bigger mess by denaturing the protein in it. Use cold or barely warm water instead.
JamieTirrock ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:22:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Give people compliments on small things.
At my current job im noticing small things on people and i tell them nice shoes, beautiful new hair or nice shave on your beard etc.
Its so nice to see people confused and happy that someone notice these things and give that small smile and gratitude ๐๐ช
MoshCheese ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:22:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was 12/13ish my stepdad told me to put the guitar down because I was shit at playing it, so I practiced for about 3 weeks and got no where. He was just right about it I suppose.
R1pZone ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:23:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
floss
indigolight432 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:23:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To read faster you simply have to read faster. It seems like a troll advice but if you try youโll see that it works.
IuliaTania ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:24:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use sunscreen. I use SPF daily and it really helped with my hyperpigmentation problem. Moreover, it helps prevent wrinkles.
AfinaNevaeh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:24:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a headache look up but not into a light.
-TellMeYourSecret ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:24:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not so much "tried" but experienced.
"You have to love yourself before you can love someone else."โ
Natenator77 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:25:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was a kid, I went on a camping trip with a Scout troop. The campsite was based on a large field in a hilly area and after investigation of the location, we found a great little river with a natural waterfall on the other side of the field (maybe a 10 minute walk). Of course, we all had to go in for a swim, and so we did. I ended up heading back a bit early, but a rather brisk breeze had picked up. I was still soaking wet from the swim and I walked the ten minutes back to camp while being buffeted by the wind and getting chilled as heck.
I swapped out of my wet gear when I got back to the campsite, put on some regular clothes and I realised that I was shivering and couldn't seem to get warm. A leader noticed this and told me to go have a warm shower (there was a small public shower at this campsite). I was a bit shy at the time, I didn't want to have to shower unless it was necessary, so I just dismissed the advice. I rolled out my sleeping bag, got inside to try and get warm, but it didn't really seem to help. I did fall asleep there for a few hours, but I was feeling terrible - waking up intermittently, almost delerious towards the end.
Eventually, my friends who had now returned and had been back for a while were worried about me and notified a leader. Same leader, woke me up, walked me out of the tent and told me to go have a warm shower.
I was shivering uncrontrollably, I could barely walk and I felt like death. I ended up walking back across that field to the shower, knees knocking together and feeling like this was a huge waste of time (took me twice as long to go half the distance). The second I went under the warm water, it was like a switch just flicked and I was back to normal. I towelled off properly and walked back to the campsite perfectly fine.
It was useless advice to me at the time, but I will remember it forever.
cowboysplaya ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:26:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes the slow roads get you there quicker.
bleedMINERred ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:26:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listen to Dave Ramsey
BetYouWishYouKnew ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:26:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make a list.
It's amazing how much underlying stress and mental energy is taken up by worrying that you'll forget things.
I've slept so much better ever since.
RustyLoaf1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:28:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you cut a potato in half and rub it on a wart it gets rid of the wart.
Pupperito615 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:28:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have one glass of water for each alcoholic drink you have.
MrSnow30 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:29:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The law of accumulated effort. It is the most important one, and it applies to everything at 100% accuracy in life.
Papa-heph ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:29:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
If something worth doing, itโs worth doing right.
Basically donโt half ass your work, because youโll spend more time fixing it later.
DM_RENNIE_7900 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:31:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Post it on r/AskReddit. Surely ransoms on the internet couldnโt answer my questions effectively
SpaceMenSteelStars ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:32:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Talking about my feelings with others and writing them down.
Seriously, if anybody hasnโt done this, try it. Iโll be here if anybody wants to unload on me.
ladyluna_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:32:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
meditation. Tho I dont do it as much as I should, it really made a difference.
kurtsdead6794 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:32:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandfather used to say โbuy land, itโs the one thing they arenโt making any more of.โ I love having my own space even if it is only a few acres.
Monddo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:32:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chewing longer when eating
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:32:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A bobby pin is most effectively used with the wavy side being placed against your head and the flat side facing out.
doodleface69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:33:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Is it weird that I felt a sharp pain where I got some needles last week while I was reading this?
NiisanSein ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:33:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Do your schoolwork instead of leaving it for homework
SHINYFEESH ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:33:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If u have the hiccups, plug your nose, mouth, and ears. Then drink water from a straw while bending over. TRUST ME
chrisisit123321 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:33:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never start a fight with with a group of guys all wearing the same shirt.
xXOofOofOofXx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:35:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left
melpearce86 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:35:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Peel the fat end of the carrot first,it gives you more to grip when peeling the small end.
sirtrinity333 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:38:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Studying sets you up for life, it's your own enrichment etc. "
I was a very rebellious teenager. First few years of primary school I was acing everything but then you had to actually revise a little at home and that's when my grades started to drop. On top of that I was never liked by my teachers, all of which made me develop this hatred towards school and everything about it.
I was alright with highschool exams because they weren't so much about the material as they were just kinda checking if you're dumb. Once I finished highschool I moved to a different country with the idea of studying, but I thought 'you know what, I'm earning proper money now (I went to UK which is much wealthier than my home country), I'm just going to work and have fun, maybe studying and me weren't made for each other. After a year I realised that I really want to broaden my knowledge because I just felt so unhappy without it. One year turned into two because I applied too late, and after this second year I was as motivated as ever.
Studied a few different subjects trying to find out what I enjoyed and never felt so thankful for the opportunity- also I expect more from myself and I do better. Working really helps you realise that studying is not bad at all because you hardly ever study 8 hours straight, and you enrich yourself which means that after a day of lectures / revising you actually leave with raised market value. Sure, earning is fun, but you soon realise that money just by itself is not very satisfying if you're an ambitious person.
Warren Buffet gave a cool speech in one of the unis about how uni is the best investment that you can make and I totally agree, once you finish a degree, your marked value is elevated for ever.
groovieknave ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:38:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never keep your keys in the same pocket as your cash.
Boogerbrother ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:38:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When preparing instant noodles keep the crumbled little noodles at the bottom of the sack or cup dry and when your noodles are done mix them with the other noodles, this will make your noodles crunchy and more delicious.
zgendall ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:40:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wear a condom.
Colestralia ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:40:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it till you make it. I was a mediocre student in highschool and I wanted to do better in college. So I just did what I thought smart people did. I literally just pretended like I was a hardworking, smart student and did whatever I assumed they did. It worked.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:43:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"smile more"
Seemed like dumb "happy people" bullshit growing up but I decided to give it a try one week as part of a "let's make my life better" period I was going through.
It's like the entire world changed how they responded to me overnight. Everyone went from short and to the point and dismissive to helpful and positive and going out if their way for me.
A smile goes A LONG way with people, even if you fake it. After a few weeks of faking it I found myself doing it without thinking. It turned my life around and I started loving interacting with people for the first time in my life.
sizzlecube ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:43:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To get rid of hiccups, drink a full glass of water through a can facecloth.
grapecity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:44:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Find someone you donโt want to murder and marry them. - my second grade home room teacher to her students
LuneyCartuney ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:45:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I am cronically depressed (yes, cronically. According to symptoms, I've been depressed since the age of 6-7, and I'm 23, now), and someone once told me that if you cover your sadness with a smile on purpose, you'll start actually being happier, if just for some time. This has helped me go through hard situations on a badly depressing day.
I won't say it works for everyone, cause I am not everyone, but it certainly works for me.
tboy1492 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:28:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Doesnโt work for me. But neither does working out, havenโt been able to meditate or get adequate rest
LuneyCartuney ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:29:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sorry to hear that. Why haven't you been able to meditate?
tboy1492 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:32:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve tried and just canโt seem to. Donโt know if itโs focus or time or exhaustion or what
Edit: not likely focus, roommate said i an one of the most focused persons heโs ever met
LuneyCartuney ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:30:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Could very well be patience. A lot of people assume it's easy, but it's really not. It can take a lot of practice for some people (myself included). Another misconception is that it takes a lot of time to meditate. Sure, the ones who devote their life to meditation can go on for hours, but all it really takes is as little as 3-5 minutes a day of silence and focus on your body. I'd advise to download Headspace to get you started, if you feel like it. The app is free, and there are 10 free main courses, and you can set how long each course will take (between 3-20 minutes). Other courses are subscriptions, but it's a good way to get you started.
Edit: Not 10 courses, but 1 course with 10 sessions.
tboy1492 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:56:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโll give it a try
LuneyCartuney ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:07:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Best of luck!
nikhilarora001 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:45:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Telling your crush that you like them until it's too late
FlamingDragonSong ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:46:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When your nose is stuffy, drink pickle juice. It actually helped most times
antro2323 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:46:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โTurn off the computer and try to socializeโ
potato_king17 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:46:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listening to my brother
SardySardSard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:46:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you just woke up to an alarm, Don't take your phone and silence it, instead, stand up, look at something bright then turn of your alarm, this stops you from going back to bed for longer ;)
leopoopness125 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:47:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
using clothing in the trash to make a tent ~survival tip~
Kingtoke1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:47:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Treat them mean, keep em keen
ahmetcengiz26 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:47:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You can't spit upwards". When I was a kid I thought like.. "Why not?" Then figured out ofc.
jsjd7211 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:48:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its better to ask for forgiveness than permission
ExplosiveIronSNn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:48:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you feel scared, yawn. And to adleast try. This might depend on the personbut it always helps me
Source: psychologist
little_bookwolf96 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:48:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use a journal or diary to note down positive events and memories each and every Day. Even if your day has been uneventful, write down something that brought you even the smallest joy, like if you talked to a friend, bought that dress you've been eyeing for the last two weeks, you got paid, you found a penny on the pavement.... Anything! A long as it is positive.
I thought it was ridiculous to begin with when my therapist recommended it, and I would often just blow it off because I thought it wasn't worth it. But over time, I never realized how much it had impacted me. It has helped with my confidence so much that I haven't had a depressive stint in 3 months now. I'm happier. Every single day, I have been writing down things, even the stupid little things that seem insignificant, like watching my Betta decide it doesn't like something I set down in front of his tank for two seconds, and now he's trying to size it up, or I ordered some delicious food in, or I went out after work, or I did my laundry, or I talked to my mom today....
Writing down the good stuff helps reinforce the notion that you're good at things, and that you shouldn't take the little victories for granted. It helps condition you to stop thinking of the negativity in your life and is a great tool for those of you that have issues with PTSD, Anxiety disorders and Depression. Try it.
WildBlooper ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:48:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Old old lady I did lawn-mowing work for used vinegar for everything. She treated her sicknesses and wounds with vinegar. She cleaned her house with vinegar. She kept insects and critters out of her house, just by spraying some vinegar.
I thought it was just some old-timey remedy for a lack of anything better, but then one day I witnessed her -as she had claimed before- spraying ants with vinegar. The ants actually went away. A few days later I cut myself decently and she demanded I put a vinegar soaked rag on my arm. Burnt like hell, but worked just as good as peroxide.
MachiavellisWedding ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:48:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A wise ole gal once told me to "Live in your heart and do only what you ~feel~" At the time it seemed revoltingly simplistic and highly selfish.... I mean, really? Just make myself happy regardless of others and somehow, magically, everything will be "ok"? Suuuuure, whatever. But I get it now and maybe what she should have said was "do the things that make you, You" Over the past 5 years I've done exactly this... I have created time, daily, to do those things that are utterly inconsequential to anyone but me and me alone & in placing myself first, truly first, without worrying how it will affect others I've been able to drop the emotional bullshit, step past it to the core of my issues/fear/whatever to process and everything has become easier and I somehow got bigger, braver and so utterly satisfied with life. Funnily enough, by being "selfish" in this way I've also been able to love deeper because I have so much more to give and so in improving my relationship with myself, it got better for everyone around me.
Who knew?!?! /s
abhi1010 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:49:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything that you need to do, will down in a to-do list. They may be absolutely useless, maybe even a regular core. Your mind will be clutter free.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:49:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Counting to ten along with deep breaths l to alleviate anger , I never realised how much anger I was quietly carrying around with me until I legitimately tried this
demonkiller2123 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:50:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
In the mornings if you wipe your eyescwithca warm wet rag you'll feel instantly awake
jwc1995 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:51:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait until the water actually boils to add stuff to it.
jckson94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:53:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to the doctor bro, you have anxiety. I was like pfft, classic advice. Yeah I had anxiety. Life is better now.
whatyoufancy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:53:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Work smart, not hard. It has gotten me through years of healthcare and I wish I'd learned sooner. Could've easily saved my back.
twoleggedhorsie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:53:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Adequate exercise actually helps with Anxiety and depression. Ive suffered with severe anxiety for over a decade and never tried exercise despite recommendation from my doctor.
I recently started rollerblading and the difference in my anxiety is significantly noticeable.
Exercise doesnt have to be hitting a gym or running long distance. It can be anything that races your pulse and forces you to sweat. Find something fun and physical and reap the rewards.
NoMaans ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:53:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fixing the red ring of death by wrapping your xbox in towels. And or soldering pennies to the heat sink. The towel trick work wonders for a few months. Then I did the pennies trick and never had RROD again till after I got my ps4 when it launched.
DenisRivard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:54:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/lifeprotips
Feelisabett ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:54:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reading your questions
eeny_meeny_miney ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:55:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When clearing out closets or clutter: donโt think about how much you paid for it, think about how much itโs worth to you now. If you wouldnโt buy it today, donate it to someone who will use it.
tari101190 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:56:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Take it easy dude. But TAKE it!"
simplemethodical ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:57:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The 2 politicians that are television the most are the worst candidates for working class people.
When I end up vetting candidates it has always proven true for a few decades now.
vildmedkage ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:59:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To stop hiccups it helps to concentrate.
"Think of 7 bald men"
"Count down with random numbers" (The idea is to not just count down "100-90-80-70 etc." but for example changing the number substracting from the previous number - if that makes sense. Substract 10 from 100 (=90), then substrat 9 from 90 (=81), substrat 8 from 81 (=63) and so on.
"Breathe unregularly"
"Drink a glass of water slowly" (small sips)
"Sing a song" (remembering song lyrics)
And another one - when cutting onions stick you tongue out (looks ridiculous but helps for some reason - in my experience anyway).
Casey_White ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:00:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have a deodorant stain on your shirt... just use another part of the shirt and rub the fabric together to get rid of it.
fastworld555 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:01:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Treat people the way you want to be treated.
Amiller1776 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:24:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Unless you're a masochist. Then do not treat people the way you want to be treated.
red_signal ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:01:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
be happy
Berlinexit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:02:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cutting up an oven pizza with a scissors instead of a pizza slicer.
flojo2012 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:05:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Deep breathing. Nobody wants to try it, but it helps everyone.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:05:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating and drinking separately to slim down, really works.
areddituser156 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:05:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shoulder button on my Xbox controller stopped taking input as well as it used to. Somebody told my to blow really hard into it. Surprisingly worked
ahahrhejwhdhff ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:05:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shaving your pubes to look bigger
b_photography ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:06:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If youโre having a Charlie horse in your leg, stand up! It will go away. I didnโt receive this advise until I was in my twenties. For years, every time Iโd get one Iโd curl up into the fetal position hopelessly squeezing and massaging my calf until it passed. ๐คฆโโ๏ธ
RedCreep155890 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:06:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Slap your pita bread for it to cut better"Like that bread from kebabs and stuff.
Appearently if you slap it a couple times the knife cuts through better. No idea how.
parkweekachru ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:08:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Think positive!"
Turns out constantly putting yourself down and fearing the worst isn't very productive for your self-esteem. Who knew?
To be fair to me though, people kept saying it when I was suffering from depression, which is absurd. Like, I can't, that's the problem!
xDubstepDragon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:08:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When traveling anywhere that you'll be staying for at least a night, carry a power strip that has a long cord with you.
it lets you have all your electronics be able to plug into one outlet, and in the case if you need a special power adapter for a different country, you only have to use one.
Lavanthus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:10:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You don't have to be married to be happy.
Truth is, we push this agenda of "If you're single, you're not happy, and you have a hole in your life" which is just untrue.
You can get happiness and fulfillment from things/experiences other than a relationship, and I urge every single person to find that. Find your fulfillment that doesn't consist of having kids or a relationship, because then you will be much happier. If having kids is how you find your purpose, then let that be your purpose. But it's okay if it's not yours.
It is okay to not have children. You are not wrong, and do not listen to a single person who tries guilting you, or making you feel bad.
Shitroasted ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:11:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Knowing basic brain functions
CamJongUn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:12:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pulling Out
GingaNinja4014 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:13:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't brush your teeth too hard or your gums will retract. I thought this was fake then I tried it and it hasn't gotten worse.
dimschtunk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:14:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Flicking the back of your head in a certain way stops tinnitus for about 10 seconds. I โheardโ silence for the first time last year (when I was 23), pretty mental.
GutteralStoke ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:14:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Compliment everyone you encounter for a day
GavrielL_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:16:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Proposing
ashbertollini ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:18:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink a full cup of water when you wake up, it really does wonders for regulating the bowls.
PeterGallegos ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:18:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a job if you want to make money! (Sarcasm - I already believed in hard work)
Glenster118 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:19:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
People told me to make a list as an antidote to every example of me being disorganised.
But lists are for squares so I never did.
And then one day I did in order to prove that it was bullshit and it solved all my problems.
tboy1492 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:12:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I tried this but didnโt help my situation. Turns out there are three to five people rummaging through everything with no shits given to my organizational efforts. They still give me the list speech as Iโm showing it to them and pointing out they fucked up my organization.
_Moist_Nugget_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:20:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Try dinking water upside down to stop hickupping"
grapecity ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:21:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stretch before / after sports in high school. I thought this was pointless because I was already very flexible and never got injured, even when I didnโt stretch.
10+ years later my physical therapist is telling me that my bad posture, back pain, etc. is most likely due to not stretching overlooked muscles and tendons my entire life. KIDS - stretching isnโt just for NOW you - itโs for FUTURE you! DO IT!!
birdball_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:22:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Itโs better to be interested than interesting
invisabobble ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:22:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You canโt expect them to know youโre upset, unless you tell them.
orknea ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:23:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep water in your mouth while cutting onion. Really no tears.
applejack45 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:24:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting sober
UrDeAdPuPpYbOnEr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:25:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โUse a condom.โ โDonโt leave any dna behind.โ My phone just autocorrected โtapeโ into โrapeโ my phone is growing up. These are the moments you look forward to, you donโt understand how special they are when someone else tells you about them. You just canโt know.
BtecZorro ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:26:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just cry, you will feel less stress when you finish crying. I used to not cry when I needed to and when i decided to give it a go I felt so good afterwards.
-KaiserSoze ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:26:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
refrain from using girl logic to get my thoughts and wants across instead of literally using girl logic everytime i need to air out my thoughts
SamuelWI_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:26:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
School
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:26:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Kungfubunnyrabbit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 11:34:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That feature is called apple wallet.
BtecZorro ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:27:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just cry, you will feel less stress when you finish crying. I used to not cry when I needed to and when i decided to give it a go I felt so good afterwards.
nintenderswitch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:28:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Blowing into the cartridge
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:29:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โJust drink a bit of water when you have a headache, if it doesnโt clear up in 10 minutes, Iโll give you some Advilโ-mom Best. Advice. Ever.
purinnie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:29:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad would say, don't do anything you'll be ashamed of and if you did it, you have nothing to be ashamed of.
I thought it was stupid when I first heard about it but it actually made my life simpler and taught me how not to give a damn much. When I feel absolutely stupid for making a mistake, I remember this and leave it behind to get better. Thanks dad!
anuragsvss ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:31:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Wake up early in the morning"
tossaway657689 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:33:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandmother always told me that if โIf the day doesnโt keep getting better, go to sleep.โ Fixes most issues!
softforskz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:36:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Telling the truth about what youre actually doing is better than lying about it in the long run
jazzmcintyre ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:37:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
breathing
thatphotoguyRH ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:39:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Decide you want to be happy and kind and you will be
hannah_mw94 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:39:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Coconut oil.
BrattiestClub00 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:40:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My Cousin told me that if you cant sleep listen and focus on your breathing.
D-Angle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:40:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you don't think you're attractive, that doesn't mean you have to be unattractive.
It sounds counterintuitive, but it's true if you think about it. Think of all the things you can do that are attractive that don't involve being born with good looks: keep yourself clean, wear decent clothes that suit you and have been washed, take care of your teeth and hair, don't slouch, make an effort to smile and be pleasant, make an effort with diet and exercise, take pride in your home and your possessions etc.
There's lots more, but none of them involve being born with good looks.
redmaniacs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:42:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
50 jumping jacks to clear a stuffy nose.
Far1star ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:42:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just read about CBT. It will make your life so much better. "Nothing is good or bad, but thinking makes it so."
DaNick0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:43:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be yourself always
fritosqwert ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:43:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't drink any sodas. Saves on lot of money.
schumunu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:45:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"You should try meditating"
this advice always sounded stupid to me. After ten years give it a try, and turns out it legitemitly whiped out my addiction problems. Living a long mindful life by now
thygovn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:46:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go back to school.
WalkingOnSunshine_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:46:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation keeps the stress away. It seemed so pointless and taboo to me before I started trying but it has completely changed my life the past year. Meditating just 10 minutes twice a day helps keep you focused and stress-free throughout the day.
tboy1492 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:02:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโve tried to meditate but have never been able to do it successfully...
Polawola256 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:46:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tying my shoes
macbobs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:47:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just sit down and continue writing your thesis even if it's just for 30 minutes.
54DB01 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:49:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I almost failed every english test when I was in high school and before my finals my brothers friend just told me to actually just learn the material well enough to answer any question thrown at you for a topic. two years later a 92 atar is what I can thank him for. (92 is top 8%)
giant_bug ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:14:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Bart Simpson on studying:
"... so when the test came it was like the answers were stuck in my brain. It was like a whole new kind of cheating!"
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:50:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An old toothbrush and most common soaps/detergents can remove just about any stain (except wine) with a little bit of scrubbing.
jazznblues91 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:52:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using apple cider vinegar mixed with water as an toner for oily skin.
Works like a charm.
CoupleSnaps ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:53:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using your hips to hit a golf ball. So much time wasted trying to muscle it through.
TheLobsterBandit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:53:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making my hand fall asleep before masturbating.
OneHundredRooms ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:55:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The idea that warm water was better to cool off a burn than cold water...it just didnโt compute
Also, that you could put a certain cactus on your skin and it would help reduce the wrath of the sun
whimsichu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:55:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise can make you happier. Or course, it canโt โcureโ depression but it is insanely addictive and produces dopamine. Definitely used to scoff at people who suggested it to me when I was at a low point a while back, but once I started, it moved my recovery along at crazy fast speeds! It might not work for everyone, but even 7 minutes every day can make you feel SO much better.
Derf0293 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:56:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ditch social media and web services that farm your data, self host if you can. I got so much IT sysadmin experience doing this and I have a whole lot less distraction in my life. Replaced Facebook/insta with a WordPress, Google drive with a NAS + Owncloud, and a few others! Special thanks to /r/sysadmin
really_tired_jacob ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:56:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you are tired do 10 jumping jacks and then squats you will feel like you just got an adrenaline shot
ComicSys ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:57:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop drinking sugared drinks and start drinking more water. I realized that my body felt like sludge in the morning because I was drinking more Gatorade then I was water.
Macho_Mans_Ghost ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:58:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop, drop, and roll.
Lakshmitadipatri ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:00:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be yourself
ParanoidQ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:00:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My Dad told me this after he found a girlfriend had/was cheating on him.
"I'd rather be one in a million than one of a million". Works for quite a few things to be honest - don't be so keen for the first thing that comes along.
arielgolf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:01:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One day at a time... Realy helps with loosing weight and long journys
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:03:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When Samuel L Jackson says, "Hold on to your butts" in the original Jurrasic Park.
euphoricrealm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:03:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exfoliate your vuvu before shaving. I thought....how is scratching the hell out of my skin supposed to help? It does.
MySaltSucks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:04:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything worth doing is worth doing badly. Cant get yourself to brush your teeth for 2 minutes? 30 seconds is fine.
madrone1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:04:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cutting calories will cause weightloss. So simple and so true. And conversely, consuming extra calories over what you burn causes weigh gain. It's just math. Thanks r/loseit.
PHENOMEDOMtv ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:05:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
making your bed right away in the morning
FTCDean ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:06:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be yourself.
viktor045 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:06:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mom said that when I grow up, girls will run ... I didnโt really believe this moment)
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:07:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop Masturbating...seriously how is this not common knowledge. Every time you rub one out you lose seconds of your life doesn't seem like much but that shit adds up.
JLP122 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:07:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The world is fair
halfsolid85 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:08:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Self erotica asphyxiation
Oktapooose ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:09:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Take a few deep breaths a couple of times a day to reduce stress, and make it easier to sleep at night
FabioEnchalada ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:10:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
rubbing your anus cures hiccups
steelie34 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:10:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Working out when hungover. I always thought it was a dumb way to dehydrate yourself even more, until I tried it and realized how much better I feel afterwards. Maybe sweating all the evil out helps take pressure off your liver?
shafixium ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:10:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My PE teacher once said to me if written event clashes with one spoken, follow or attend the written one
LeftMyBrainAtHome ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:10:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you need to sneeze, but can't for some reason (for example during a job interview) press the tip of your pinky finger (arond the part where the nail starts) until the sneeze reflex goes away.
Don't do this too often since it's not healthy, none of my friends believe me when I say this but it works, for me and my step-dad who taught the trick to me.
Also if you want to sleep faster, but can't, try holding your mouth open, after a little while you'll automatically yawn, this might help you.
Darguel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:11:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Tinder is useless if you don't pay for it.
Andyman0406 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:12:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not being a failure
so-many-swears ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:12:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making fists with your toes.
julian5565 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:12:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mind muscle connection, it sounds stupid but once you really feel a contraction, your muscle blows up
jlietrb32 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:15:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't reply to texts and emails when angry
42jackwars ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:15:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reddit
SinthoAlb ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:15:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kind of the opposite: advice I followed and only got how important it is when I didn't.
"Don't borrow money if you can avoid it."
mameyn4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:15:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just sitting outside will improve your overall well being
fnpmike ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:16:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Commenting to review more later
cilliebarnes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:16:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smiling more.
Arya1960 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:17:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To think about my doing when l have the impression someone other than me ruins my life
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:18:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Happiness is a choice."
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:20:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My mom says Hi! Everytime she had her picture taken....Took me way to long to figure out it's because it's the closest to getting an authentic on forced or abnormal looking smile in a photo.
nightbreakerYT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:21:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Krispy Kreme donut Cheeseburgers
justdan7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:22:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Writing goals/thoughts down
iWOCuplikethis ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:23:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Squish a little soft sandwich bread around a pill to give to your dog. It completely molds around so the dog has no idea itโs in there.
216horrorworks ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:23:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Mr. Late-to-the-party here..... Putting stuff back where you got it from. My dad used to get.....well.....pissed when I didn't put a tool back in its home or left a mess after doing a project.
It took me years and having a workshop of my own to understand how big a time saver it is to not have to search for the tools and materials I need.
Thanks Padre, I get it now.
FirmMap ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:23:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you're making a sandwich that you're not going to eat for a few hours, dry off any wet ingredients like tomato or cucumber with paper towel to stop the bread going soggy.
harlee_kenn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:25:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Crying makes you feel better ! LET THAT SHIT OUT !
Brt654 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:25:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
StOp bEiNg SaD
stamatt45 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:26:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No amount of money ever bought a second of time
zestyzoe93 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:26:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Crushing garlic cloves makes the peel slide off. I am so embarrassed to admit how much time I have wasted peeling those little fuckers like oranges.
PaxsPonderances ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:28:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Always date a person who is smarter than you
XxHorrorPrincessxX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:28:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Life. Still useless
YakuzaaOkamii ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:30:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Enjoying my life.
hooks_n_ammo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:32:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go fuck yourself.
cminns ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:32:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The best revenge for getting over someone is to live a happy life.
Santak1ng ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:32:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know this wasnโt the question but Iโd like to give everyone a little bit of advice that feels useless but is actually awesome โ always bring a plastic bag. Iโve started having a plastic bag in my jacket pocket and Iโve used it so many times โ grocery shopping, storing used gym clothes, sitting outside when itโs wet etc etc. I highly recommend it!
OInkymoo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:35:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holding jump to jump lower in the last level of Celeste
CPTpurrfect ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:35:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Instead of goodbye say "Have a nice day!".
It sounds like nothing but you just thought about it and realized what I did and I totally can stop explaining this.
mameyn4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:36:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking 13 sips of water will instantly make your hiccups go away
JohnyUtah_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:38:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Fake it till you make it"
DutchSupremacy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:38:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not necessarily advice, but there's a working supplement that increases and activates beard growth. The substance is called "Minoxidil" and it can be found under brand names like Rogaine and Kirkland Signature.
Maybe this is more known in the US but I was really surprised when I learned that there's actually a product that can increase beard growth, and I don't think I'm alone. I just thought there was nothing you could do besides wait or get beard hair transplants.
Results may vary but for me it worked like a charm.
Mirakumi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:40:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I work in the back of a kitchen but was told to wear long sleeve shirts. I thought it was a bad idea because it can get very hot in the back and also messy but wearing long sleeves helps when the occasional splash may happen. The burn just gets deflected completely.
Saved myself from so many unnecessary boils.
rukittenme4 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:43:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Talk to pretty girls........they are more receptive than you think.
malbolge69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:44:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Point left inside of elbow toward the sky before you start your swing.
sicarioxx21 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:44:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
broke up with my gf
F1eur ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:44:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Perform tasks (projects) like its a loaf of bread: one slice at a time, cause you can't eat the whole thing at once." - My Dad
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:45:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Anything is a dildo if youโre brave enough
Pool_Boy_Q ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:45:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep your eye on the ball
hylogun1286 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:48:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Puting your thumb on the roof of your mouth while you have a brain freeze
LipsOnAnus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:50:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chase bank's spending advice
shizenmeister ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:51:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Writing down and outlining your goals.
dankflame_memestur ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:53:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"eat healthy and exercise it will make you feel better" it really does do wonders
"focus on / blame yourself" it may be someone elses fault something went wrong but you can still prevent it next time if you adult up and take responsibility and initiative. for example being lied to in a business deal its not fair but your the only who can / will fix it so just do it.
robeewankenobee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:55:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to school!
Wkoppen13 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:09:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The best way to be kind/ helpful is by helping with the little things. If someone has a hard time, just help them with something small rather than asking what is wrong. If they wanna talk, they will ask you, but most of the time they just need space and time.
Zappa9084 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:11:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Believe in yourself
Seph-Raz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:11:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be positive
open-aperture96 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:12:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting mint toothpaste on a bee sting to relieve pain.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:12:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making your bed is a keystone habit.
BocoCorwin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:13:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I'm trying to fall asleep but my nose is super clogged, I've found that masturbating helps clear my sinuses. I read it years ago but only recently found that it actually was effective.
GoaheadAMAita ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:14:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you just go to class and do your homework college is easy....
mrkaczor ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:14:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listen to your heart ...
Jammypackmang ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:14:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My old, hippy neighbor who has since passed away saw me moping around my house one day as a kid , having a rough day. She had a lot of advice and the best piece she ever gave me was โjust keep on smiling.โ That has stuck with me over any advice Iโve received from anyone in my life.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:14:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean your penis after you masturbate, or your dick will smell.
Ex-girlfriend found out the hard way. Don't do it to em boys.
Kellisandra ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:16:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Treating my duvet like a pillow case and using the inside out and flip method.
bluesquaresound ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:17:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a little bit of sun on every sunny day.
Lolstopper ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:17:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
All advice in general
StratPlyr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:18:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Attitude is paramount. I can accomplish anything if I go after it with a positive attitude. Walking around complaining how unfair life is gets you nowhere.
MSTRB8S949 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:18:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trying hard in school.
b-dev0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:19:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holding my ear (from its bottom part) and jumping in one leg would let the water out.
Sometimes when i swim, water gets inside the ear and i don't hear with it and that's annoying, but this little trick fixes it instantly.
audible_narrator ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:19:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having an MRI? Freaking out about putting your head in that narrow tube? Lay a washcloth over your face. Anxiety gone.
BroMech ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:19:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
breathing from the stomach (diaphragm)
FinalOneUp ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:21:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Know that if you have problems, then the person next to you likely has problems as well. It's hard to consider the other persons mental struggles if you are too focus on how you feel in the moment.
mandellianslip ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:22:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't sweat the petty. Pet the sweaty.
Worrying about the small stuff will cause undue stress and as for petting the sweaty, well guy, you can figure it out.
SonOfJohnRedcorn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:22:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you want to land the perfect high-five, stare at each otherโs elbows while doing it.
flingposse ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:22:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Say thank you to people instead of Iโm sorry.
Yoga and regular activity and eating healthy DO help depression + mental illness.
Itโs better to half ass something than to not do it at all.
itsreybecca ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:22:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Walk like you have a purpose."
Eventually, you start to believe it.
_SWALL1_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:23:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just have confidence, I didnโt think a change in mindset could make such a life difference until I tried it
cofffejoe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:23:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation. Always thought it was BS but after trying it a couple of times, itโs now my go to activity whenever Iโm stressed
toughcookie99 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:23:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Writing out to-do lists. Now I can't function without my planner.
beatscribe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:23:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stand up straight. Don't slouch. I slouched for 36 years before it caught up to me. Then I had to have physical therapy and basically learn how to stand like a normal human all over again. It still feels weird to stand up straight and put my shoulders back, but the pain immediately goes away.
mrmoonpie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:24:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Start a dedicated savings account for a car. I'm a well-paid professional with nice savings account and retirement and all that. I thought it was silly to start an account for a car--I keep enough in savings already. I started an account to save up for a new car two years ago, $200 a month, and saved up enough to make a 50% down payment on the car I just bought. Plus, I've already adjusted my spending habits around the $200 a month car payment I now have, so my daily economy hasn't changed.
Silver_Tongue64 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:25:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sometimes there is no happy so you 'fake it until you make it' which works surprisingly well.
Pandafawkes ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:26:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Never thought it to be useless just never really applied until lately. (Also I saw this somewhere and donโt know who said it first)
If youโre in a rut, or feel like life is getting the better of you and you start feeling like you canโt go on any longer, find something that needs you to live or itโll die. It can be as simple as a fish to feed or a plant to water. If you have a cat or a dog, they need you. It doesnโt have to be complex but if you are struggling living for you, live for something else until you get you under control.
PrepCoinVanCleef ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:26:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Write that down so you don't forget.
I'd think that I'd never check the notes or that I'd just remember.
Now I have a little pocket book full of random keywords and tasks that I never check, but I always take a moment to scribble thi gs down because the act of writing them creates a much more clear memory of the thing than simply thinking "I need to remember this."
bibbleboobleboo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:28:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pressing either side of your nose, in line with the gap between your tearduct and your pupil, will release pressure in your sinuses, so if you have a cold or flu and want temporary relief, give it a try!
HestiaLuv ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:29:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Strive for progress, not perfection.
MisterFoxSir ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:32:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Make your bed in the morning. That way you start your day off doing something right, and if nothing else goes right one day, you still get to come home to something you did right.
Linosgaming ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:34:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Be yourself when talking to girls
Queequegs_Harpoon ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:36:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Taking a bath with a very low concentration of bleach as an eczema remedy. When I saw "bleach bath" after Googling "eczema treatment," I was sure some malicious troll was just trying to fuck with desperate people. However, with some research, I found Mayo Clinic and the National Eczema Association endorsed it. Basically, it kills all the bad bacteria on your skin (Staphylococcus). I've been doing it like three times a week to treat a really bad flare-up and so far it's working like a charm.
ultimately_mediocre ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:36:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink water
MaXtHeMeMeMaStEr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:46:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Drink coffee it will keep you awake"
soumsoumyou ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:48:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you can't decide between two things, ask yourself : "If I choose either one of these choices, would they all make me happy the same way ?" If the answer is no choose the one that makes you the most happy, and if the answer is yes just take one at random (I usually just go for the first option).
Taking a decision at random is hard to do because your brain can't process randomness, and likes when everything has a reason. Don't listen to it and dedramatize.
son_of_early ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:48:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
PIIHB
Best-name-evahhhhh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:55:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To learn in a school :)
gameinggamer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:07:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
turn left to go right i thought it was fucking stupid but then i tryed it and i just about shit myself
Jobless_Idiot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:21:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
An apple a day keeps the doctor away.......
i hope his head is okay.
The_Real_QR_Coder ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:27:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Toothpaste on scratched DVDs
Area_Code_214 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:29:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
PEMDAS
ratpoison987 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:40:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So before this you were habitually shitting the bed with equations?
This isnโt advice.
Itโs โhow itโs doneโ
Area_Code_214 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:58:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"use the acronym pemdas to help you remember" Yes, this literally WAS advice.
ratpoison987 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:00:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You put it that way lol.
In my neck of the woods - they said BEDMAS
MajorSecretary ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:35:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
deep breaths
SimonYuTheChinese ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:43:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just be your self...
booiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:44:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Heydhdh
patdogs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:47:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wojack
Hds613 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:47:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you're nervous, Breathe.
I know everyone says it but I never actually properly tried it until right before my first race in the world championships last year. I'd always struggled with stress and nervousness and in the first race of any event, I'd always do badly which would affect my result as a whole. I was super stressed and shaking on the start line and, trying anything to calm myself down, took some deep breaths. I don't know how but it actually calmed me so much and when I repeated this technique for the rest of the event (it was 6 days) I did so much better than usual, becoming youth world champion and 7th overall.
Seriously, just try it next time you're in a stressful situation, even though it's the most obvious thing it's amazing how many people never do it.
XCoolCweepaX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:48:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jerking off with lotion. Felt so good
generalissimo_lim ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:56:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you get to you destination after a very long flight, remove your shoes/socks and clench your toes while resting your feet on a carpet... as if you're making a fist with your toes. Do that 15-20 times or as long as needed. Please note that this does nothing to help after running over a floor covered in broken glass.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:24:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Interesting... So does this relieve pain or something?
dogmeat-from-fallout ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:57:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Try to exist
myles1221 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:01:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you struggle with swallowing pills, then put them in applesauce or jello.
I struggled for 18 years of my life then one nurse told me about it during my last visit to the hospital and it helped me recover so much quicker.
Unpacer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:01:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
JP is controversial and all, but he got me to keep my room organized and clean, and it actually helps.
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:31:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What's JP?
Unpacer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:31:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jordan Peterson
SAVAGENothingman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:01:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking pickle juice and mustard during outdoor tournaments to avoid cramps and to avoid passing out. Originally I thought it was just a way to get me to look stupid but not only do I love drinking pickle juice now but it also has so many minerals and salt that it helps your body retain water on the hottest days so your muscles donโt get dehydrated.
learningamap ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:07:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The importance of when to use daylight vs warm bulbs!
Daylight: when you need clarity and light for precision work (workbench, reading light, bathroom vanity, garage, front door light)
Warm: when you want a comfortable or inviting feel (living room, bedrooms, hallways, patio lighting etc)
There are some exceptions but now it'll bug yah when you see the wrong use of bulb!
bones2880 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:08:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't do owt for nowt unless you do it for yourself !
inner-healing ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:11:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Chill the hell out.
makenoahgranagain ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:11:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โDonโt be stupidโ
plant_lady90 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:20:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Repot cacti with chopsticks.
SLY_STAR ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:28:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Study.
TomBradderz ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:30:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
trimming my pubes
IronMan_DiesEndgame ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:32:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink water
realistic_bastard ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:40:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink more water.
Lernboi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:41:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it till you make it.
20dollarportraits ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:45:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy containers for surfaces that get messy easily, bathroom sink, desk, kitchen.
I'm a messy person but when I have a box (no lid) where everything goes its a lot easier for me to pick up as I go.
quantumlyrandomuser ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:45:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
eat at least one fruit daily.
long story short : i have a really busy schedule.... heard from a lot of people about the 5fruits/5veggies variation a week for a good motion. i would just buy my lunch at the nearby joint and get back with work....
Until recently i started including a fruit in one meal (yes, started cooking the lunch myself). I used to feel constipated earlier. Not any more. Been a bit tiring though to shop and cook every other day. The benefits are extensivly visible.
toonvater1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:47:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't leave your work to the last minute. (I fluctuate between following this and relearning why that's good advice)
cmokelley213 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:48:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sleep with your fans off during allergy season. Now I never wake up in the middle of the night with a stuffy nose
Seannj222 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:50:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Squeeze your thumb in your fist to turn off your gag reflex.
Tried this at the dentist and it works.
theTapU ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:53:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Asking a girl how are you right after she asks you the same thing
Half-bred ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:53:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Put vinegar on a burn to sooth it." It actually works. Wouldn't try it if there was open skin, such as a popped blister, though. Alright for sunburns, or minor kitchen accidents.
JollyIndigestion ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:54:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Learn to drink and love black coffee.
Mortal2020 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:56:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"think on your actions as if you're going to be asked about it for later"
j4yw4lk ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:00:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating fiber
justtxm ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:03:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing without raising your shoulders. A drama instructor told me this, when babies breathe their stomachs rise, not their shoulders, and as we grow up and become more troubled by the world our shoulders rise when we breathe. Making sure the air goes down into your lungs can help you feel calmer and it improves your vocal quality. Iโve been doing that lately and itโs working well. I recommend it even if it seems useless.
Destinys_Other_Child ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:04:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lube
ethernegus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:05:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt try to suck your own dick
MythicalMisfit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:12:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Leave a few noodles uncooked and then sprinkle them on top afterwards like a garnish. Gives you an extra little fun bonus crunch.
Hyperhavoc5 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:12:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing. I figured Iโd been breathing for so long, that Iโd been an expert in it. Changed my life when I started to pay attention to how to breathe.
yebrian1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:14:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Writing down your plan for the day in order to stay on task. Really helped me get over reddit/ youtube addiction.
smilebreathe ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:14:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Smile, breathe, and go slowly.
IntrovertedViolinist ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:15:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
'Just try' it sounds so stupid to just tell someone to just try to do something, my violin teacher says it. If you try something youre morely likely to do it right than if you didn't try it at all
charolette_may ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:15:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Simply stop doing things you donโt enjoy or stop surrounding yourself with people whose company you donโt like. I thought about how obvious this seemed until I actually realized I wasnโt following this sentiment because I was too afraid of change. Some things are not meant to last forever, you donโt have to hold on to things just because youโre scared of the pain or inconveniences of letting go. Youโll be much happier doing things you actually enjoy, surrounded by people that you actually like. Really reevaluate your life and donโt be afraid or too stuck to not make these changes.
2ChaoticBrothers ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:15:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That trying to give some thing like a present, attention, love... is much more satisfying then just reserving it. Took me a while too understand that..
gakthat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:20:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"The problem is the solution."
SecretPotatoChip ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:23:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting vicks vaporub on your feet and wearing socks to stop yourself from coughing while you sleep. It sounds like bs, but it actually works.
yeahitstoner ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:24:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Looking back and forth at a light when you have to sneeze. It actually helps, to my surprise.
Majikhat89 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:29:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Owning up to my mistakes and not making excuses, sometimes even if my excuse is valid. Becoming more accountable for my actions required me to think more about potential outcomes.
MrADHD ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:32:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If it floats, flies, or fucks, rent it
EvanGoff ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:33:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Posting on r/AskReddit to get karma...
ThdButterMan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:33:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I saw a show that joked that if can't pee, (because your stressed or piss-shy), singing "happy birthday" actually helps, I guess maybe it distracts you.
kazmiller31 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:34:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Honey helps your throat in case of cold.
anonaiii ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:38:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Want to talk to somebody but don't know the most opportune time? Ask them, it'll make them feel good that somebody wants to talk to them, and you're able to get answers
swam3r ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:56:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I watched this video about how people in the military were taught to fall asleep anywhere. It boils down to essentially closing your eyes and relaxing your muscles, starting with the very top of your head. Thinking about each area you relax as you slowly move down your head and body. Then laying there imagining yourself laying in a boat, alone, looking up at a nice clear blue sky.
Works great for me. Hope someone else finds it useful too.
Anodracs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:58:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Exercise does help somewhat if youโve got depression. Itโs certainly not a cure-all, but it does help to lift your mood
LazyTomato1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:10:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont ever pay people out or put people down. Instead just put yourself up and let the haters do their thing.
AlyseBruxa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:10:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โJust breathโ it seems like a clichรฉ but when you need a reset it really helps.
ekesty13 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:12:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
writing down your feelings. I always thought it was good enough to just think about it
clockmelting ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:16:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
"Be patient." โ I used to not care for a guy giving me oral. Always just wanted to finish myself. I was 8 months into a relationship with a guy, and he was determined. So, I just laid back and let him do his things for a very, very long time. And then it happen โ it's become one of my favorite things!
HavidDill ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:16:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Talk about someone as if theyโre standing right beside you. Always thought this was dumb until I was about 18 and I realized how much shit talking had affected my relationships with people. (Not me blatantly ripping the person, but me chiming in when other people would)
Argol228 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:22:17 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jim Carrey "I am the eggman" Points to a Bunch of robots on display "They are the Egg-men"
Some military dude: "You look like the walrus"
...nah probably too smart for this movie
Rump_Ranger42 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:29:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Drink some water."
No0ther0ne ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:37:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hmm, I have a few.
โ
"Go out and get some sun every day" This was given to me as advice to help boost my mood. I thought it was just an old wive's tale. Turns out it is legit and works very well.
โ
"Self Help Days" Another thing that is bandied around that can sound sketchy, but really works. Now this also depends on what you believe is self help. But I have taken a day off of work now and then simply for the purpose of taking some time to relax and recharge. I also occasionally cancel plans for the same reason. Since I started this practice, it has greatly improved my overall outlook. This is especially important for those that are introverts and need some time away from too much noise/input. Now, I do think some people may use this as an excuse just to be lazy, and that is not a good idea.
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"Fake it til you make it" Not sure I ever considered this useless advice per se. Honestly, I was kind of living this advice before I ever heard the phrase and when I heard it, I did not recognize that what I was doing myself was related. At first I thought this was just advocating lying about stuff and getting rewarded for it. It wasn't until I realized the nuance of what was actually being implied in the statement. But today I am fairly confident in who I am and my abilities. This was not always the case, I had many years as a kid where I battled through anxiety and self-esteem issues. But early on I was pushed into situations I was not comfortable with and instead of resenting it, I decided to challenge myself and keep telling myself to be confident even when I wasn't. After faking it enough, it became real. This has also applied to my entire career. Now, to be fair, I do not fake what I know, but I do consistently reach beyond my immediate grasp knowing that I can do more and that I am the right person for the role. It took me awhile to figure that one out as early in my career I kept selling myself really short of my abilities. This is my favorite advice now in the proper context.
โ
"Dream Big, Aim Small" This is actually a combination of two sayings, "Dream Big, Aim High" and "Aim small, miss small". It also incorporates two different philosophies into a bigger concept. The idea being that you should dream big and not let anyone defuse your dreams. But to reach your dreams you should aim for smaller goals as steps towards the bigger dream. The two complement each other, without the big dream, the steps either don't lead to anywhere or are limited, and thus you limit yourself. Without the steps, the dream seems too unreal and out of reach so that it becomes more crushing than motivating. Make big dreams, but plan steps to get to that dream. Reaching and accomplishing those steps will help give you the confidence and motivation to continue towards the dream. The other advice here is don't let not reaching the dream by a certain point dissuade you, even if you never reach it, if you are constantly working towards it, you will still be a better person for it.
S2Pac ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:45:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lather Rinse Repeat Always repeat
CaptainAries01 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:48:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Record your gameplay and watch it back like youโre trying to critique it.
UniversalTruths ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:03:30 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The better notes you take the first time, the fewer times you'll have to go back to them.
Lejde ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:12:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt go on Reddit, you will get addicted
createmoreverything ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:20:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A
ProMech12E ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:22:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I thought it was stupid to throw pasta on the ceiling, so I threw the bowl at the ceiling and it killed my cat I had been trying to get rid of ๐ 10/10
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:52:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't spend more money than you have (credit cards)
ButlDC ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:53:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
A co-worker told me to put alcoholic aftershave on my lips every day to prevent cold sores. I would have them 2-3 times a year, since then maybe once every three years.
ENGINE_YT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:57:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The rubik's cube solving technique
BregBeffley ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:10:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Don't make a sound"
I became the class pet
FIREBALL07 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:10:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hi
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:14:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
its always good to never look back on the past or look foward to the future. only to live in the present moment and to only focus on the present moment.
Korzynn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:10:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โIf life gives you lemons make lemonadeโ
I just kept squirting the juice in my eyes to cover the pain of loneliness, turns out making lemonade is just as effective
kangroo22 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:11:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listen to your heart and not your brain my grandma use to say that to me before she passed away always thought I was one of those cheesy quotes but it was not until she passed away that I finally realised what she really went and why she said it
kamealh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:42:36 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Your heart is just a blood pump .... How about you think with your head but love with your heart...
fightshade ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:17:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Making a pros and cons list when making a decision.
TheBigBoopy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:18:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Trans dick feels different than regular man dick. Its genuinely a different mouth feel.
guacqueen ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:33:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
'make your bed every morning, it eases your mind'
even if it feels like your life is out of control and you can't handle anything and you're a total fuck up.... at least you made your bed this morning. It totally helps my anxiety throughout the day. I have no fucking idea why. Whatever mom, you were right.
basedmattnigga7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:39:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
RE: construction fields...
An old elevator electrician once told me something Iโve carried with me:
โIf it donโt fit, force itโ
And another one of my favorites when it comes to mechanical issues:
โIf it ainโt broke, donโt fucks with itโ
heylookitsdaniel ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:53:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Invest young
sirsaintsgirl ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:54:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When youโre away from home, always choose the gas station with the most lights. My dad was always saying this and heโs right. If they spend that much on electricity then they spend money on keeping it clean and well stocked. Plus well lit is always safer.
Pelecoid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:58:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a type 1 diabetic, so I have to have daily shots. My sister who also has type 1 diabetes always said to scratch near wherever I'm getting my shot as it distracts the pain. I thought it was the dumbest thing ever until I tried it myself recently and it works great. I also heard that sniffing alcohol pads also do the same, and they both work well.
jahdey ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:17:33 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saving a file in microsoft word as soon as you create it. Even if you havenโt really typed anything yet. This was something my high school IT teacher taught me and I have gotten in to the habit ever since learning it. This is great because of the auto save feature. If you start working and you are on a roll and forget to hit save the software will do it for you. Itโs also great for the recovery feature because if your computer crashes it will recover the document from the last save point.
Mongo16 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:18:16 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Edging. Iโve never had a stronger orgasm in my life than I did after edging for an hour.
kamealh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:36:35 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thats soo true.... I advise every dude to learn to edge
Ijsaw1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:23:26 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you arenโt sure if you should buy something you want, ask yourself โWhy do I want this?โ If you canโt think of a good answer, donโt buy it.
BillOnMyPoopButt69 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:25:52 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
3rd grade Friend:look up ass on youtube
Me: ok.. Why?
Friend: just do it
after school
Me: goes on youtube and searches ass
Also Me: what's this hard thing in my pants?
DeLong19 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:35:36 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just go up there and wing it donโt worry about memorizing it
Speedy-McLeadfoot ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:41:23 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clean the tip of your wiper blade if it streaks. Often that can fix the streaking. This along with using something like RainX or other water-repellent washer fluid, not only acts to reduce chattering of the blade by acting a bit as a lubricant, but also beads up water instead of water flattening into a sheet on the glass. It does help you to see easier without needing your wipers on quite as fast as you otherwise might have them set at. These things makes wipers last so much longer. And applying said RainX or other water-repellent is as easy as hitting the washer fluid switch. A gallon of the stuff is usually like $3 cheap as well, and so my beam-type wipers (RainX brand if it matters) are closing in on 2 years old now, and the plastic being slightly brighter than new ones, is the only thing showing their age. No streaking, chatter, or noise. No cracks in the blade either.
TL;DR: Buy a quality brand wiper blade, quality washer fluid (preferably rain-repellent ingredient based), clean them once in a fortnite, and be mindful of what speed you run them at. In the long run it saves you a lot of money, and annoyance of streaking or chattering blades.
Tip 2: check your oil every other fill up or sorts. By the time your oil light comes on, that means youโre already having oil pressure issues. Leaks have to start sometime. For whatever reason, if you lose oil and donโt know it yet, then this can save you. Iโve had โMalWartโ oil change places forget an oil cap once on my dadโs car a decade ago, and forgot to thread the cap down last year on another of his cars, lost a quart of oil over the 5k miles til the next oil change, was pretty low. Fact is, average cost of a quart of oil is around $5, compared to the average cost of an engine rebuild at sometimes around $5,000 or more, well, it doesnโt hurt.
TL;DR 2: Check your oil at the pump. Itโs probably fine. But if it isnโt, you want to find out early.
Edit: this advice given to me by a shop class teacher and a very wise friend. Saved me money and possibly an engine.
Mongrel06 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:52:19 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I remember reading something along the lines of, "You are a person as much as anyone else. Make sure your decisions also consider and respect the individual you see in the mirror."
Seemed like shallow r/GetMotivated advice at first but when I thought on it for a second it was like my self awareness expanded another dimension. The person you know most intimately is yourself, always consider that person's needs first before others.
Jupiter-Tank ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:01:27 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โDonโt stop till your idols ask you for advice.โ
It might be a pipe dream for some with lofty, top-of-the-world goals, but if you keep your idols close, and work diligently, youโll get to where your idols are. And when you do, and youโve come from a different road, theyโll ask how you did things differently. If they donโt, then maybe they werenโt as diligent as you in the first place.
I applied this mostly to sports in my life, but also to video games that I enjoy watching on twitch, until streamers I watch actively ask me questions on things Iโve seen that they may have not yet. As for sports, I practice jujitsu, and a few rounds outside class and some binge sessions on youtube will get you that attention from your teachers.
Et_tu_Biss ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:15:07 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Live for yourself before others
KaizokuShojo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:17:36 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't assume.
Life got way better after that.
I wish others would follow it, but oh welp.
Wyatt51997 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:02 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using reddit
prideradio ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:50:30 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโd suck his cock tbh
Lola_Montez ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:41:02 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When someone makes you mad, sing a song lyric/say a prayer immediately. Distracting yourself from the negative helps you let go faster and will prevent you from forming a negative opinion and carrying it with you.
Didn't believe but I did it at a job I really didn't like, never hated a single person I worked with. Even as frustrated as I was with all of them. Helps me send less time focused on negative.
themayan72 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:51:42 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just a joke. Lighten up peeps
js2589 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:39:47 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wash your eyelashes with baby shampoo and warm water if you have oily eyelids and/or wear makeup. My optha gave me this advice because for more than a year i kept on having styes (probably caused by stress too but can't really confirm)
CinnyRekt ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:34:35 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left
kamealh ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:32:25 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well if you did it 3 times sure....
Mystivic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:00:08 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Make you life simple, you wont be dependant on anything to be happy"- advice from my dad when I was 10
a_furry_yeet ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:38:08 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I havenโt tried it, but when my mom said some sort of oil (coconut oil?) or something like that is good for touching yourself (Iโm a girl). Uhhh Thanks mom.
AVeryVerySadPerson ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:15:19 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
There are no stupid questions
BraydonTheGorilla ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:28:16 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cheating at a test
Primetime0146 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:11:47 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
She's right, I'm wrong you do have to hit the side of their neck just below the ear and with the side of your palm opposite of your thumb. Also, point your fingers toward you so you have your wrist on the inside. Stay away from the inside of the neck as you could severely hurt them
sad_and_stupid ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:13:11 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keeping a dream journal
Callilunasa ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:34:31 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Everything happens for a reason. It may take years before you see a link but I can see positives that have come through all the shit I've lived through (obviously this gets easier as you get older) but it helps me when the chips are down.
IROCK2002 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:30:13 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Don't eat yellow snow.
SaturnRings987 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:22:47 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To try gluten-free diet. After 2 weeks my skin got better. Now I don't eat bread and other products with gluten.
petergerling ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:41:21 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Sorry but that is all nonsense!!! It will register on a subliminal level and confuse or irritate!!!! Worst advice ever!!!! I did that a few times to show people how amazingly horrible and uncomfortable it makes you feel to stare right past them... just learn to make eye contact you morons!!! It is not that hard!!!!! Just focus on one eye if you canโt focus... just donโt tell people nonsense like that!!!!! (Someone said if you have trouble making eye contact just stare at the personโs ear and nobody will notice it...)
PacificGlacier ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:43:12 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
What thread were you replying to?
petergerling ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:38:55 on May 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Someone said if you have trouble making eye contact just stare at the personโs ear and nobody will notice it...
yurt_993 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:09:07 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nani?
GrossG ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:10:55 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Put your boiled eggs straight into cold water. Makes them a lot easier to peel afterwards.
spiral534 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:26:23 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't eat laxatives and sleeping pills at the same time.
Whitesheep34 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:03:34 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Liquor before beer, you're in the clear. Beer before liquor never been sicker.
Lilblindboy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:14:16 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To wrap your xbox-360 with the red circle of death in a damped towel to fix it
iAmGarbag3 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:06:15 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you are digging up in minecraft place a torch at the bottom so you dont die by gravel
rosie-t_x ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:43:02 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To just let people go. as close as you may feel towards them it's not worth risking your mental health for a piece of garbage
Fire2xdxd ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:31:12 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Better late than never.
Got me through like all the assignments.
Go_Kauffy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:38:49 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you have trouble sleeping (especially waking up during the night), hide your clock (or phone).
A sleep specialist told me this, and I almost rolled my eyes, but I tried it and I "never woke up in the middle of the night again!"
My theory is that we all do little wakeups in the night, but checking the time seems to awaken an area that has to interpret numbers, and then creates internal thoughts about what time it is (e.g. "I have to be up in 3 hours").
With the clock hidden, none of that stuff happens, you go back to sleep, and then you don't remember even waking up.
Changed muh life.
BoxcutterLar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:55:30 on May 3, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You survived 100% of your bad days, your odds are looking pretty good for today
randika171 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:28:41 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My cousin used to say "Always thing negative until the girl you like says yes. Never hope that she will go out with you until you get confirmation" Worked likes a charm for me rejected 4 times and don't even care at all.
Wpbdan ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:06:22 on May 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shutting TF up! Best advice ever .
a_memerpersn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:49:03 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So I bite my nails and I have tried to stop but nothing would work so one of my friends said that I should put hot sauce in my nail polish that was 2 years ago I havenโt bit my nails since I tried it but it turns your nail polishes a different colour
byfo1061 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:00:28 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oof
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:01:52 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The library rents out video games
vicio907 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:07:45 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Practise, practise, practise makes perfect.
janfleury ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:08:42 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Same hubby I have now. We have worked out the mowing now. We have a riding mower and I only mow when I want to soooooo 2 times a yearish. lol
lifeincoloradomtn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:11:54 on May 5, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Xx
Lexa-Woods ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:12:48 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To get more friends. It really did change my life and made me felt than I am not that bad of a person.
Pang3tak0 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:16:21 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
(This is a useless advice)
I'm actually just here to get upvotes by posting a random comment so here's a heart for youโก
Ricooflol ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:22:30 on May 6, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My grandfather would always say "A good education is expensive". At first, I thought he was just commenting on tuition costs, but later I would learn the wisdom of that statement. The reason a good education is expensive is that you often don't learn until it costs you something. So, when I was feeling down about accidentally buying tickets to a 21+ concert when I was only 18, or failing Linear Algebra because I didn't attend class enough, I could always take comfort that I had bought myself a good education in the process
Darklights53 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:48:25 on May 9, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Caring about what I look like and then taking advice not to give a crap about it.
oopsyoulooked ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:51:22 on May 11, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When unsure it's better the remain silent and let them think you a fool than to speak up and remove all doubt
SoftDreamer ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:26:00 on May 13, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โBe yourselfโ
This is a clichรฉ piece of advice.However itโs very true.
Back when I was only 11,I use to try to be different than how I normally are.I tried to act more mature and extraverted.I wanted to fit in so badly that Iโve started losing my uniqueness.I only wanted to be like everyone else.Iโve had forced interests and I was being strict about it.
It continued like that until I became moodier than usual.These were the dark times I started engaging in self harm behaviors.It was terrible.But besides,the good side effects of that was learning to be true to myself.I became more individualistic and I felt way more open-minded.
Iโm never gonna force myself to socialize ever again.Not for an asocial person like me at least....
I am fine with loneliness
Emarges ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:33:07 on May 16, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When masturbate use your undominante hand
_mmm_febreeze_ ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:05:06 on May 16, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"you should smile more"
Lynn_Luv ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:13:37 on May 17, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathe.
Macpaper23 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:24:44 on May 17, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Spread your asshole before you sit on the toilet seat and you wonโt have to use as much toilet paper.
mipalko2 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:59:15 on May 19, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My father would tell me, "Never underestimate a man with a shovel and a wheelbarrow... 'cause he can move a mountain."
vanchesterrr ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:07:06 on May 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To get rid of hiccup: stand up, stretch your body straight, lean in the hips at 45 angle, head back, mouth up on the line of core body and slowly drink water. That's all.
Explanation AFAIK is easy: hiccup is a spasm of diaphragm and you need to stretch and relax your core body to end it.
SMelon12 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:28:31 on May 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Listening to my parents.
ThatArmi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:49:05 on May 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Start drinking and doing drugs
Responsible_Donut ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:04:54 on May 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
That fat girls give the best head and it really was true.
Deena_SOAR ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:44:14 on May 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Saying Pineapple before I sneeze. And you know, it fucking works
lu0101 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:24:25 on May 21, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To never use drugs
Aethermations ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:14:07 on May 21, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery
Domi_Marshall ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:58:46 on May 22, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it till you make it. We fake sleeping to fall asleep. We can fake a smile all day and actually feel better. I resented that notion, but then realized that all the nice people who made my day probably were also just being nice out of habit. Do why not do the same to spread the cool attitude to the world? Same goes for attracting people. If you start being active and kind even if you don't feel like it, it will become a helpful habit, and friends and potential partners will feel more drawn to you. Feel intimidated before an important job meeting? Doesn't matter how you feel, if your posture is confident, your speech prepared and your eye contact direct (I barely register people I stare at when giving a speech yet they don't have to know it), you will intimidate the listeners (who are just like you internally) , not the other way around, making you in turn feel more secure. This advise is not about being fake. It's at the core of all improvement and progress.
Graineth ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:36:00 on May 22, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Breathing, I always thought it was a load but turns out its quite enjoyable!
ShadyWarrior11_YT ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:13:51 on May 22, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
School Shooting
willsendnudesforfree ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:26:34 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont stick your dick in a toaster oven. By:god
cumisyumy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:01 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting your legs behind your head I still couldnโt reach :(
VamtX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:38:19 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
As a web developer. Try to clear your browser's cache and refresh again.
HarryDaGuy1K ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:04:10 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Had a friend tell me to drink milk if I was having a bad trip on shrooms. I tried shrooms and had a bad trip. Drank milk and felt 100 times better. Not sure if this works for everyone but I suggest if you have a bad trip to try it
zababs ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:07:52 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My brother told me that I shouldnt check the time during ramadan so often cuz that is how it takes longer. Obviously I thought that it wasent true bucause I would just still check the time anyway. Guess what, time goes faster that way
Reeman-noodle ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:09:58 on May 23, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To live my life out to the fullest. Have not tried it out yet but people have given pretty good reviews.
ScarletMoonWitch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:45:09 on May 24, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Put windex on your zit and itll clear up over night"..... absolutely fucking works.
whyisheinmyroom ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:02:41 on May 24, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going on nature walks actually helps. Big time. I was told this as a kid to go for a walk when i felt mad. A few weeks ago i started going on daily nature walks when i felt down and it worked, i started feeling much better and happier and i didnt have as many moodswings
xxMoonlightxxX ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:32:39 on May 25, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Well my 5th grade teacher was big on meditation and constantly told us that if we were ever stressed, all we needed to do was breathe in for 4 seconds, hold your breath for 7 seconds, and breathe out for 8 seconds. I never took that stuff seriously but recently Iโve been really stressed with school and other stuff so I finally decided to try it. It obviously didnโt completely help with all my stress but it actually helped a lot and I do it whenever I feel stressed now
Tytonic_7 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:15:08 on May 25, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To always speak loud and clearly, regardless of how uncertain you are of your wording. It shows self confidence and makes you a more enjoyable person to be around in general.
IcY_Clu7ch ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:33:43 on May 25, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt be an idiot, changed my life
GummyWormNation ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:22:15 on May 25, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When taking a shit to prop your legs up on a stool or squat. One time I had constipation and thought what the hell, tried it and the shit literally slid right out of me.
Ale-Is-Not-Human ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:35:38 on May 25, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drinking cold water before you go to sleep. Had sleeping problems one night and decided to try it, and it was the most relaxing thing I've ever done.
slimiJimmi ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 19:15:01 on May 25, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
stop drop and roll
redditriceman ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 21:06:16 on May 25, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Telling your brain a different outcome. If I already am on the verge of loss. Think that I won. I always thought it was bullshit but it actually is somewhat work.
lil-eep ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:59:53 on May 26, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was sad for a long moment in my life before I met my best friend. I met him in high school and always asked why I was sad. I shrugged him off until my birthday and I told him that my parents divorced last year. He told me that when he thought everyone was hopeless, he smiled. I thought he was fucking with me till the next day I was at a breaking point so I simply smiled. I looked outside and everything was brighter. Smiling was the cure I thought optimistic people were just being fake, but now I see life in ways I have never seen before.
Kayev5 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:56:42 on May 26, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't listen to yourself listen to the advice you'd give other people.
Its true we tend to be harsher on ourselves sometimes and when it comes to others we often give them the best advice despite not using it on ourselves.
i_slay_benchods ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:04:24 on May 26, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
To eat. Nearly died too!
the-weeaboo-fanatic ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:02:51 on May 26, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sleeping past 2am
Thanatophobic_r4bb1t ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:21:49 on May 27, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My therapist introduced me to something called tapping. I watched him do it and thought it was dumb as hell. I wasnt sure why in the middle of a ptsd attack, I should tap on my face. After doing it in the moment, it doesn't get rid of it, but it brings me down just enough to breathe. Which helps considerably.
goo-berry- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:53:13 on May 27, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Kilian may dob dor goodfs
oB-L1ght ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:16:14 on May 27, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I know this sounds really stupid, but I actually tried it while visiting my brother in college for his freshman year.
Stuck in a crappy hotel, or really just any place that smells bad? Peeling potatoes or something? Rub a tiny, tiny bit of stick deodorant right between your nose and upper mouth. If youโre trying to go to sleep, the scent will easily mask everything else long after you fall asleep.
cockutu ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:59:38 on May 27, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Using lube ๐โโ๏ธ
Squee-dee ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:58:36 on May 27, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โWrite down your goals.โ I always thought this was useless. It had always been my goal to complete a marathon, but had only ran 12 miles maximum before I stopped running altogether about 7 years ago. Then I read a book called Finding Ultra. Itโs about a man with a history of alcoholism and poor health turned ultramarathon runner. After the umpteeth time, there it was again. โWrite down your goals.โ In all fairness, the book made a good argument. By writing them down, you can break up a huge undertaking into small, digestible chunks. Additionally, the thinking portion is done for you. That way, you just have to do what is written down without second-guessing it. โFine,โ I told myself, โIโll give it a try.โ
I chose the most challenging but attainable goal I could imagine: I would run the Dopey Challenge at Disney World. This is a 4-day, 48.6 mile running event held every January. To complete it, you have to run a 5K on Day One, a 10K on Day Two, a half marathon on Day Three, and finish with a full marathon on Day Four, all in under a 16-minute mile pace. I had 5 months to train. Side note: I am 50 lbs overweight.
I followed the bookโs advice and wrote down a training plan. In a nutshell, I would run 4 days per week. Two smaller 3 mile runs during the weekdays, a Saturday run that would increase by 1/3 mile every week (initially about 4 miles), and a Sunday run that would increase by 1 mile every week (initially about 6 miles).
It worked like a charm. I ran all four days within the time limit, even after having caught the flu and taken two weeks off a month before the event. There is no way in the Seven Rings of Hell I could have accomplished this goal otherwise.
Fun fact: distance running causes you to gain weight because your body responds to the extreme caloric usage by increasing the glycogen your body stores.
tl;dr I ran a 48.6-mile race by following the โuselessโ advice of writing down my goals.
Sp1cy_Burr1to ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:49:04 on May 27, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting maccas chips in a mcspiders ice cream bit is an amazing sauce substitute
Theflowermambo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:58:30 on May 27, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The one that gets angry first looses the game
When you are in direct contact with dumb costumers or in a talk with you co-workers about their actitudes, think, make a point and talk slowly, if they get angry first everyone in the office/room/street will have a bad mood with the guy that is mad and no one is going to talk with them
Idk if i made my point, sorry for the misspelling
Anxiety_Goose ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:57:24 on May 27, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Positive thinking no matter what.
I have severe depression paired with severe anxiety that I need 3(or more) prescriptions to get through the day, anyway I felt like therapy of any kind of sort isnโt just helping and this has been going on for about 5 years ever since my first day in highschool since I rarely talk but when I do talk Iโm a bit loud(but I can control that now) and people always looked at me weird because I stood by everything I loved like videogames.
Fast forward I was getting worse and graduation was around the corner, my ex-girlfriend whom I was in a relationship for 3 years broke up with me accusing me of cheating when I was with my bestfriend( A guy I could never hurt ) and his cousin (not my type) when we went to a club to celebrate( my ex couldnโt come because she had strict parents ) and she was making me more and more depressed as time let on and now Iโm driving home a little tipsy and riddled with anxiety and I crash into a parked car. It was so bad my mom had to pick me up and now Iโm just fucked as I down as many pills I thought was enough. The next morning she knew my financial status out of the damage and left me telling me all the shit people had been saying other people behind my back, like how annoying I was, that I ruined a good time for people just for being there, and how people always used me because I always pay the tab.
A month after graduating I cut off 99% of the people who I knew and that was hard (I am a people pleaser) with how much anxiety was bottled in me so I couldnโt sleep at night and just became depressed everyday.
2 days ago I got a message from a childhood friend who is halfway around the world right now and congratulated me on graduating since I did the same for her, we got to talking about how our lives were now and reassured me with all kinds of things I would only ever hear a friend say in the movies, she told me to be positive because someday we would see each other again geeking over comics and play videogames, someday.
Yesterday I tried it and it turns out positive thinking isnโt just a plan or goal. It can always be someone or anyone. โน๏ธ
Today: not a single pill taken.
frogfrogegg ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:19:38 on May 27, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Live
OddballComics1 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:33:03 on May 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Eating an apple a day. It kept the doctor away.
the_jade_parade ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:27:31 on May 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"Stop playing on your phone, read a book or something." I used to think I should be able to reward myself after a day of school, not torture myself with blocks of sliced wood. Well guess what, I have a bigass book collection and finish a book almost everyday now and it had improved my life.
diablorobotica ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:24:12 on May 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditate everyday
puffer_fish_cousin ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:38:50 on May 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Apply yourself.
jwl- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:39:47 on May 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Adding the line across the 7. I don't understand how useful it actually is but I always criticised people for doing it but now I cannot stop
wolfofluna ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:06:56 on May 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Clenching my left fist and squeezing the thumb to cope with gag reflex. Stumbled actoss it in a NSFW thread and used it when i was having a tooth removed at the dentist lol.
CorbinMar ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:16:06 on May 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Playing fotnite
sunsdzera ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:09:14 on May 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting a peace of toilet paper in the toilet to prevent backsplash.
alreadyinuses ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 20:57:08 on May 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting a rubber band on the trigger of an Xbox controller
b0unceybois ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:01:04 on May 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Holding your thumb when giving a blowjob. Its probably not real just works because i think it does but dang i didnt gag once when i gave my first bj i tried it and havent since.
ksant_18 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:29:46 on May 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This is late and my comment is kinda stupid but oh well
My friend once told me to put the little broken crispy bits of ramen noodles on top of your ramen when youโre done and it changes everything, at first I didnโt really think about it until one time I actually tried it and trust me it was an emotional experience
Putting the crispy part on top CHANGES THE GAME
InevitableGo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:07:16 on May 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait 10 minutes after eating your plate before going for seconds / dessert. Apparently the logic behind it is that it takes time for your body to sense whether it had enough after eating or not (or how much room you really have for that chocolate cake) so you dont over stretch your stomach.
When I was younger I never had a problem with weight so it wasn't something to worry about. Now as I am getting a tad older I am noticing the changes (portion sizes getting bigger, feeling more hungry immediately after meals, etc.). So now I wait the 10 minutes to see if I am truly hungry or not and it has worked fairly well.
macaroneeboat ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:50:18 on May 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gotta go fast
andthecodinescene ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:15:33 on May 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm lactose intolerant and so is my mom. She told me to lay down with my butt slightly in the air when Iโm having tummy troubles due to my love of dairy. I didnโt believe her but one night I was having particularly bad cramps I did it and within minutes I erupted in the biggest fart followed soon after by a visit to the toilet and then it was instant relief
Sere101 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:32:06 on May 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go for the woman out of your league -dad
Two months after having an attractive girlfriend and all of a sudden the girls who curved me are the ones hitting on me, trust me, even my girlfriend notices
luisc86 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:59:19 on May 31, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โDo the things that make you feel good, you get to decide whatever this means to youโ
Error404Android ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:38:43 on June 7, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Having enough sleep
trippapotamus ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:03:47 on June 11, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One day at a time. If thatโs too hard, one hour at a time, or even one minute at a time.
Shadanwolf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:59:07 on July 20, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep this in mind......nothing that people say to you that could pull you down.....can do so until you enable it/give it the power to do so. Don't give negativity power by accepting it/ enabling it.
johnny-cash- ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:55:03 on July 28, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Follow your dreams
Meltedmotivation ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:10:37 on August 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it until you make it.
Confidence can be a learned habit.
recapitreddit ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:41:11 on October 4, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Watch a recap of this thread here.
[deleted] ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 03:15:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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RToribio914 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:54:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This takes the cake. An so will she when she blows you.
Sorcha16 ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 12:43:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ditto for fat men going downtown
johnsonsantidote ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:54:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When in trouble, pray.
themayan72 ยท -14 points ยท Posted at 02:40:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shitting in the shower;then waffle stomp that mess down the drain. Wash foot. Many minutes saved
dovahking55 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 09:32:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No.
Sorcha16 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 12:34:25 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just no
AtTheFirePit ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 12:40:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nice lack of respect for anyone in your home who may take baths. The drain closes below the thing you stomp your shit through. Your shit stays on the backside of said thing, then gets in the bath water of anyone filling the tub. Even animals show more care and intelligence in disposing of their bodily waste.
ILikeToLift95020 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:26:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its a meme
AtTheFirePit ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:05:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, it's not 'just a meme'. People do that and it's disgusting.
ILikeToLift95020 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 15:48:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Its a meme tho
[deleted] ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 01:50:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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_ndls ยท 11 points ยท Posted at 04:08:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/iamveryrandom
MrNotSpecified ยท -11 points ยท Posted at 04:10:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it's literally a quote from spongebob, you uncultured swine.
_ndls ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 04:23:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โHey look, an AskReddit post asking for useful advice. Let me just put a random SpongeBob quote hahaha XD ๐๐๐!!!โ
MrNotSpecified ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:32:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not really random. It's said in the context of mr krabs trying to recall a piece of important advice that spongebob had given him. But instead he remembers a completely unrelated piece of advice that spongebob told him. Yeah it's an inane joke post, but it's a reference, not just some random shit, people post references all the time. And I'm not sure why it offended you or so many people so much. It's not like this post is marked as serious or as though askreddit threads are known for their complete seriousness and qualified answers. You're just getting offended over literally nothing and doubling down on it because you don't want to look like the sperg you are.
DeliciousChicken1 ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 06:40:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Who hurt you?
[deleted] ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 07:08:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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DeliciousChicken1 ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 08:47:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
lol get a load of this guy
MrNotSpecified ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:19:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
hahahaha jesus christ. Someone takes the internet too seriously
darc_oso ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:38:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This guy licks doorknobs.
twintersx ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:29:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wiping bung hole sitting down instead of standing up
RobinFox12 ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 03:05:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait is standing up supposed to be the normal option here?
DaCorrie ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:54:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I have negative 4 karma lets get me more negative karma
elapid ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 01:19:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keep your genitals completely shaved while in a relationship and your partner will too.
Sorcha16 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:41:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
That is not universal at all
Tipper_Gorey ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 02:14:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol no
Der_papa ยท -12 points ยท Posted at 07:28:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Ugh you are gross
Tipper_Gorey ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 08:19:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
So are you
Der_papa ยท -8 points ยท Posted at 08:52:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
For shaving my balls ? Sorry if I want to have it clean down there you fucking hippie tale a shower
tioomeow ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 09:55:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
yikes some people just trim, get over it
Der_papa ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 11:46:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Oh nothing against a trim I was assuming letting it grow wild
Tipper_Gorey ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:58:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You were assuming a lot dumbass. Stfu unless you know how to articulate yourself properly, you idiot.
Tipper_Gorey ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 14:57:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt think all the shaving in the world is gonna get rid of your sores, honey.
Chief__Luongo ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 07:44:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Women. You canโt live with them, you canโt live without them.
sberg72 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:47:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It evens out
avantgardish ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:39:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
M E D I T A T E
LazyCounterculture ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:40:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditation or โmindfulnessโ. I thought it was BS until I forced myself to try it for 5 minutes.
Powerism ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Going to the chiropractor.
gabynavarrete15 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:42:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Meditate
palantir_swede ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 01:56:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Salt on a Grapefruit
iwishyoucansee ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 03:09:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Salt on watermelon
icedchailatte22 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:20:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Calm down.
sbawgj ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:41:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just breathe.
WishingTreeTop ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:50:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Calling someone when I feel like getting high
therealindiansniper ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:59:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Read the first line of every paragraph to get the gist of a scientific paper
whiskeytwn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:22:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if you are having hiccups, take a big spoonful of peanut butter, eat it, and use your tongue to clean it out of your mouth
and if you have no peanut butter - imaging taking a big spoonful and move your tongue like you're trying to clean it out of your mouth
weird advice but seemed to work
meshikhah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:34:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop watching porn
Lleggss ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:07:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Another children tip: Give your child/children activities to do at a restaurant like crayons and paper. I donโt understand why so many people give their children their cell phone at the table when they barely ate anything or they have 2 chicken wings and have a hissy fit for the cell phone. Let them use their imagination than some game unless itโs an educational game.
*once again I donโt have kids.
imdumbdontbother ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:52:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont do cocaine
sexyjesusshower ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:59:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fake it until you make it. Works with everything tbh need to seem confident - act like you are, Are you scared of something act like you are not. your brain will be confused for a moment but at the end it works out
douligah ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:19:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Keeping my mouth shut
Nelaryn ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:32:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When I was in grade and I dropped my rubber I used to try my best to retrieve them with my feet, dragging it close and picking it up.
One time I failed spectacularly trying it for a good minute, then I had to get up from my chair walk around my desk, bend down pick it up and walk back.
Then my teacher said with a smile: You see my dear, the lazy suffers twice!
Ever since, when I'm about to try and cut corners somewhere I actually think about the consequences of being lazy which would lead to alot more time wasted than if I had done it the right way (just think about leaving the dishes "I'll just wash them later").
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:14:56 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If there is a cow smell somewhere, you will be lucky for the next day. I did this when i was a kid when i wanted a new bike so i found a farm and took deep breaths just to be lucky. Didnโt happen ๐
imsohappyallthetime ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:55:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hey hey hheeyyy....smoke weed everyday
mikeh117 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 12:45:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I was told by a therapist that a gluten free paleo diet could improve my mental health. I didnโt believe it and was incredulous at the idea and avoided changing my diet for 5 years. However after a near death experience I gave it a go and incredibly after just 2 weeks following this diet I completely and permanently reversed my bipolar 1 disorder, never had another migraine, regained a functioning memory and basically got my life back. It turns out I had encephalitis due to a faulty immune system reacting to gluten. I donโt have celiac disease, itโs all in my head.
StellaLuna93 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:03:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wait for love. Donโt go looking for it.
M0LT0V ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:14:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
avoiding reddit before I watched endgame
BNMcNasty ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:15:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Getting out of the house for anxiety/depression. Obviously it's not an alternative to proper treatment--it's definitely not enough to just "get some fresh air"--but it makes me feel so much more normal and gets my brain active on other things.
umlaufbaboomlauf ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:16:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stay in the theatre till the end of the credits. A lot of people worked hard to make the movie. Watchi ng all the names scroll past gives you an appreciation for all their hard work and gives you time to digest whatever you just watched.
koincex ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:27:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"The best way to kick a habit is to not start one."
BlasI ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:56:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
I'm a NY cop but I get really nervous when flying.
I was on a flight one time and the guy sitting next to me noticed I was nervous, and he gave me some advice: "After you get where you're going, take off your shoes and your socks, and you walk around on the rug barefoot and make fists with your toes".
I was pretty incredulous, but he did say it was better than a shower and a hot cup of coffee.
So anyway, I land in LA and meet up with my wife (she works in the Nakatomi Plaza) and I try it, and lo and behold, it feels fucking fantastic.
iamsooldithurts ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:32:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Late to the party but WTH: peeing on your toes to cure athletes foot. Uric acid (urine) wipes that shit right out. I recommend in the shower and washing with soap and water after.
cybertiger45 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:41:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Fidget Spinners sound retarded and I agreed but my friend just told me to spin one and it was actually kinda relaxing, eventually I got one but after time I just stopped using it, tbh idk where it is
miketax ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:16:40 on May 18, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you ask, the worst thing someone can say is no. Best negotiating advice ever.
TrollingIsSleazy ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 02:05:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pray
100men ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 18:03:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
LOL
TrollingIsSleazy ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 20:48:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Have you actually tried it?
100men ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 23:41:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Iโm from 2019 not the dark & stupid ages
TrollingIsSleazy ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 00:03:37 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Billions of people in 2019 pray on a daily basis. More people than ever before, in fact.
Seems pretty stupid to me to claim to know something you haven't tested.
100men ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:12:10 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Funny how itโs never worked tho
TrollingIsSleazy ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 00:37:17 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
Yes it has. Billions of times. Miracles happen literally every single day.
Some have been witnessed by hundreds of thousands of people, captured on film, and officially recognized by non-Christian governments.
Some have been ongoing, uninterrupted, for a thousand years or more, and you can visit yourself, any time, at your leisure.
100men ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 17:32:06 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
LOL you religious nutjobz canโt be helped
TrollingIsSleazy ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 22:41:19 on May 2, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Okay. I'll pray for you. Hope you get to have what I have someday!
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i-like-m ยท 4 points ยท Posted at 10:30:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt try it honestly. We know what youโre up to when you start poorly treating us and it rarely works.
hrm0894 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:40:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah sure you do. Which is why you guys fuck all the "bad boys" in your 20s and then wonder why no respectable man wants you in your 30s.
i-like-m ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:47:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think this is a good learning experience for all of us. Donโt get all your knowledge about women from the internet.
hrm0894 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:55:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Lol I actually have a lot of experience. When I stumbled upon the internet knowledge I thought it was stupid (hence the title of this thread) until I tried it. Next thing I know women who would have rejected me become obsessed with me. It is what it is.
i-like-m ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:57:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โPfft I have a lot of sexes, yesterday I had twelve sexโ
I can tell you first hand that asshole men like you spread lies to make other men think itโs ok to be assholes. Itโs not fun
hrm0894 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 11:04:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not a lie. What I consider being an asshole is what you consider dominance. Women love to be dominated. Turns out assholes are dominant. Not a lie whatsoever but believe what you want.
i-like-m ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 11:06:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I donโt really like being dominated. I feel like relationships should be mutual beneficence and not one side dominating the other. Women donโt like to be dominated, thatโs just another example of the internet lying to you.
hrm0894 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:11:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
....
Maybe YOU don't, but nearly all women are programmed by nature to fall for a man that dominates them. Or else they end up on /r/niceguys and get made fun of.
i-like-m ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:43:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Seriously dude, women donโt like to get dominated and I think you need to understand that before you finally leave your parents basement and hurt someone. Youโre an abuser in the making and the internet is making you so.
hrm0894 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:40:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Idk why you're trying to change my mind. The question was what was useless advice until you tried it. I tried being a douche to women and saw positive results.
i-like-m ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:47:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No you didnโt. You posted in r/MGTOW an hour ago, clearly youโre still alone
hrm0894 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 14:56:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shaming language doesn't work. Enjoy your wine, cats, and antidepressant pills when you turn 40.
i-like-m ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:00:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean youโre 100% right that I will die alone but that doesnโt mean you should treat women like shit
hrm0894 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:14:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I already told you, what I define as "shit" is what women define as "attractive." I'm just playing by the rules. Women love a man that's puts himself first, and that's all I'm doing. Not like I beat women or anything.
i-like-m ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 15:19:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Again, stop believing everything you read on the internet. What youโre saying is absolutely not true, itโs a perpetuated myth by people like you because you want to believe that women donโt like you because your nice when in actuality itโs because of your awful personality.
I can tell you without a doubt that most women donโt like being treated like shit. I recommend changing yourself before you start blaming women for your lack of a sex life.
qwertx0815 ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 08:53:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
if that really works, how come you're still so bitter and alone?
slammander ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 12:54:07 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You probably cry in your cereal
swayemo ยท 19 points ยท Posted at 04:29:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
do you consider yourself a nice guy
RandyMarsh9001 ยท -15 points ยท Posted at 06:58:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
...No this is just commen sense. Have fun being opening the door for them and saying "m'lady" and hoping to get laid.
swayemo ยท 7 points ยท Posted at 07:07:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Thatโs not what iโm saying. The fact that youโre saying treat all women like shit, that is the furthest thing from the truth. Sure a lot of women will be attracted to you if you treat them not nicely but not everyone. Saying that is not true at all. Not all women want to be treated like shit.
hrm0894 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 11:02:37 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Not all, just most.
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RToribio914 ยท 6 points ยท Posted at 09:53:28 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sarah shut up.
[deleted] ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:52:06 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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ErogenousEwok ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 16:01:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pathetic.
puddud4 ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 03:02:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I legitimately didn't like this one girl, next thing I knew I had lost my virginity. Now I am a firm believer of this advice
hrm0894 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 10:57:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Awesome keep it up
Pinz809 ยท -9 points ยท Posted at 05:05:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
it's true
hrm0894 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 10:41:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yeah ik. Anyone doenvoting is either a woman or a man who doesn't want to accept the truth. Hard to blame them.
rachierachierache ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 07:48:00 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Why are you getting negative votes.. this is true..
hrm0894 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:58:35 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
By women or men in denial. I don't really blame them tbh.
Arkady93 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 06:04:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)*
My phone got the blue screen of death. I was devastated - I hadn't backed up any of my photos and it looked like I'd never get them back. I scoured the internet for advice and saw the most ridiculous thing repeated on multiple forums: bake the motherboard in the oven. Like, literally disassemble your phone, take out the motherboard, put it on a baking sheet or some aluminum foil, and bake it at 300-400ยฐ fahrenheit for 10-15 minutes. And I'll be damned, that shit worked. I got to backup everything I wanted, and the phone kept going for a couple weeks before I got a new one to replace it.
ghostcarver101 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:26:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
now way thats true...
BeefyPizzle ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:41:01 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Idk about for phones....but this is a pretty common thing for older Playstations. The solders crack and shit stops working. So you take out the board, bake it, it "reflows" and it works again. I got it to work once on an old PS3 but it's a temp fix. Tried it again a couple months later and it didn't work.
Arkady93 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:45:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I wouldn't believe it either, but it fucking worked. It was a temporary fix. Some people on the forums said their phone lasted 2-6 more months, but all I cared about was getting my photos and contacts off of it.
Darth_Yarras ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 09:21:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The heat causes the solder to melt which can fix a electronic device if the problem is due to the solder no longer making a connection. Wont fix every problem, but is a good last resort that can sometimes work. Of course it could do more damage as some other components can melt due to the heat, or it could theoretically lead to a short circuit if the solder melts and forms a connection to another wire.
Alassinwanderland ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:07:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
socks on during sex
hydraboyjk ยท -17 points ยท Posted at 00:17:12 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just be happy!
It actually cured my depression.
Claud6568 ยท 33 points ยท Posted at 01:33:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
r/wowthanksimcured
Redrainbowhatter ยท 13 points ยท Posted at 02:45:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
One of the worst things to tell someone suffering from depression.
LooseChangeATX8 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:45:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Solid advice when you offer them the right amount of alcohol and the keys to a small hatchback.
itsKOOZLE ยท -7 points ยท Posted at 01:28:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Beer liquor will make you sicker Liquor before beer youโre in the clear
HailToTheVic ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 04:46:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I think as long as you donโt mix to much sugar and gross stuff youโre fine. Like if you drink some beers and whiskey later youโll be fine. But if youโre mixing long islands, tequila, and beer youโll probably be sick.
Sorcha16 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 12:37:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's not true, it all depends on your personal tolerance level. All those rhymes are bullshit. How does the order do jack shit, it all mixes in your stomach and getting sick/ too drunk/ hungover in large part is about volume and sugar content and how fast your liver works.
ArchiPellagio ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:46:58 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I mean.. I never thought this was bad advice.
itsKOOZLE ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:25:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
18 yr old me thought I was tough and this rule was for pussies
Fizics ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 10:58:47 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Liquor before beer, you're in the clear. Beer before liquor, never been sicker.
DEPRESSED_RAINBOW ยท -13 points ยท Posted at 00:47:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Makeup. I always thought it was just a stupid thing that people wore because they thought they were ugly. Then I realised I was right.
manan_j19 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:24:11 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Turn right to go left.! Ka-chow!!โก
HeavyPettingBlackout ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 08:01:31 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Countersteering!
csgobobster ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:45:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt be a jerk, works like a charm.
Firstaltaccount ยท -12 points ยท Posted at 01:50:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use wet wipes for toilet paper
escapewit ยท 12 points ยท Posted at 01:54:20 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
No, no, no, no, no. No. They are wasteful and never flush them!!
Firstaltaccount ยท -11 points ยท Posted at 02:05:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They got flushable ones too!
NonSentientHuman ยท 14 points ยท Posted at 02:09:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It has been posted on Reddit before that those are, in fact, terrible for water treatment plants. They don't break down properly.
Melon423ahippo ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 03:48:38 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Pray to Satan
spleen_beef ยท -13 points ยท Posted at 00:08:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stick your dick in a garbage disposal
namynam ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 01:57:22 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Watch game of thrones.
[deleted] ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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Chicknorris3 ยท -9 points ยท Posted at 05:02:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
P.u.s.h., Pray Until Something Happens.
Pantsmanface ยท 5 points ยท Posted at 09:38:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Good ole "scream into the abyss until random chance comes to save you". Doing literally anything else is a better use of time.
rebelbaserec ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 02:09:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Cut before you boost
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pmmephotosh0prequest ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 04:44:40 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It definitely is stupid, you thought correctly.
SplintersCell ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 05:22:10 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Just do it.
Juisep ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 06:57:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Go to the gym regularly. Just do it trust me
kaggelpiep ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 07:11:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drive a Toyota Prius
Mononito ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 07:20:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This read like copypasta
NobodyNowhereEver ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 07:50:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
โGive Marvel movies a chance, they totally get betterโ
Octodad112 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 07:51:49 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Peeling potatoes to my side
bobbyhillybilly ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:07:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The next one is always worst
kazuma_ate_aqua ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:10:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Watching anime
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:18:57 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you do something, imagine potentially worst case scenario happening and โexpect itโ. It will take the pressure off performing well and actually make you perform your best.
[deleted] ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:19:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop using a VPN with Tor unless you have a good reason.
spec149 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:20:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
just saving this comment section fo later
mjalt96 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:21:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Power of Now
Dynamides ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:23:33 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
It's like an OPPORTUNITY.
Dougall780 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 08:25:50 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
The Seahawks should have ran the ball
Lapuzeke ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:13:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This post is useless piece of advice
who_owns_kwik_sak ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:36:59 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Suicide
MrConcrete04 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 09:52:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use pumps instead of tacs?
cuntwithlegs ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 10:43:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Gfuel at first i thought what how can that be better than normal energy drinks. With energy i only get hyped up for 10 minutes but with gfuel i get energized the whole day get 10 percent off with code
PHOENIX_THE_JEAN ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:15:46 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
"manage your money wisely. Remember that money is supposed to make your life easier not harder"
My dad. He was a budget genius.
BonkerzAlmighty ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 15:31:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Follow me on Twitter @demonslayer watch my porn vid
lumberjohn48 ยท 0 points ยท Posted at 18:19:27 on May 14, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Praying to God for a miracle.
BellybuttonHolee ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 01:58:02 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Jacking off.
chilled1000 ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 08:18:41 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My life
Bertry ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 01:40:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Buy 5 bean burritos every Friday instead of something bad that cost the same amount. Maybe not every Friday but 5 bean burritos equal around 7 dollars and a lot of useless items cost the same amount. Taco Bell is your best bet
kazuma_ate_aqua ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 08:10:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Sticking your thumb up your ass
suzeeq88 ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 01:41:45 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Get a life!
drcopperfield ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 02:03:51 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Wiping my ass from back to front while staying seated (hand under ballsack)
MisterMoot ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 02:06:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Uuhhh, do people normally wipe their ass, while standing up??
drcopperfield ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 02:09:24 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
They do the awkward side squat, reach in from the side and wipe front to back
wooops ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 02:38:23 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
monsters
D0tHack3r ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:12:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Dont kink shame me um I mean dont shame me
golden_fli ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 13:34:08 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Yes I stand up, and so do plenty of others.
wakeuparleen ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 04:55:26 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Masterbating in a fish tank is useless. My gold fish are giant now
Cher9969 ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 06:05:14 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Born once, die twice.
Born twice, die once.
Oh wait, still waiting to see how that one goes.
KhaosMagicc ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 07:34:04 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nofap
samplecovariance ยท -8 points ยท Posted at 02:41:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Reddit
samplecovariance ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 17:37:27 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
You're an idiot if you're downvoting, by the way.
sonyaethaniel ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 02:13:15 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
If you start choking and coughing after you hit the weed and your throat starts to burn, take another hit immediately. The new smoke will sooth your throat and stop the coughing.๐
SHEEN_Sells ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 06:00:32 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Running water over your asleep limbs to wake them up
stephlestrange ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 06:09:39 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
How am i gonna get to the shower if my legs are asleep?
deus_vult_for_hoi4 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 07:17:43 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
rebound sex, i am a fan 3 months after my big breakup haha
christianjensen123 ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 07:39:03 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink .5L (1.3 Gz) water when you wake up. Kind of cleanses your body from the day before. Feels way better than expected (and works really good for weight loss as well, talking personal experience)
Hippie_kev ยท -1 points ยท Posted at 17:32:09 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Donโt masterbate
SourBoBo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 05:21:42 on May 1, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
But do learn how to spell...
chumchumchurum ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 01:10:44 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
smoke meth
Boomiegirl ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 04:58:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop playing games.
futurekylebutnow ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 05:29:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Worst piece of advice I got is be an asshole to a female you like. Call me an Avenger, because I am thinking end game. Anyone worth being with, will be there at the finish line. Not at the snap of the beginning
MoroseObesityy ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 07:47:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
pee in her butt. it really washes the jizz away
HaighTailItDogs ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 02:37:42 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Hypnosis & EFT.
PrestonYatesPAY ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 03:07:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Shclamping your schlomp makes a tingle an the goo come out
CDhansma76 ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 03:59:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Had a buggy old iPad that I dropped and the screen just stopped working. I saw some video of a person hitting the back of their iPad and it turning on. My dad totally thought it was fake so he wouldnโt let me try it. Later I ended up doing it and it works. It would still turn off the odd time and people still thought I was crazy when I was playing a game, screen randomly turns off, me flipping the iPad over and smashing it with my fist until it started working again.
Edit: dad and time.
ericdavis1990 ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 06:01:48 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This whole deal is suck it up bitches. Learn and love. And live. No way am I and expert. I'm still wondering about the bots. We can love. Fuck those bots.
Lovemachine9089 ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 08:44:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
My dad's friend told me when I was 14 mever to bang fat chicks....i did anyways....i should have listened to him.
KillerKingULMS ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 15:54:54 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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InfinitePizzazz ยท -9 points ยท Posted at 23:16:27 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Orange juice on breakfast cereal.
jack3308 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 03:39:53 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
I'm a little skeptical but I just told people to put Sriracha and peanut butter on a hamburger.... Ssssoooo we'll see tomorrow morning
Stealthmonkey59 ยท -10 points ยท Posted at 02:46:52 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
When you're depressed, eat.
fattymcvaper42069 ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 01:32:21 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Heroine
RedneckAsian69 ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 01:39:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use a condom. I was running out of names for my kids
Whoozeon1st ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 01:54:16 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Amway
LazyinternetBoi ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 02:51:05 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Putting soap in your kids mouth for punishment.
TheOriginalSeith ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 02:57:29 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Don't get into a relationship in High School, it will always end in heartbreak. :/
ssaa6oo ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 06:21:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Nah, I'm with my girlfriend since I was 15, I'm 27 now.
sazicon ยท -3 points ยท Posted at 03:36:36 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Drink bleach! Solves all problems in life.
Bbkobeman ยท -2 points ยท Posted at 04:28:18 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Use your left (or whichever hand is not dominant) to jerk off. Feels like somebody else is giving you a handy.
appleraju ยท -4 points ยท Posted at 04:19:34 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
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LooseChangeATX8 ยท -5 points ยท Posted at 05:55:19 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Slashing the tires of those who have yard signs supporting Democrats for any elected office. It does affect their turnout, and can make a huge difference in saving your community from the spread of COMMUNISM!
Archivemod ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 06:24:55 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
man, I gotta wonder how many of you are deliberately trying to make the right look like sociopaths or if that's just how you always are
stop being a cancer, people won't be as afraid to agree with you on some things if you're not going about advocating shit like this
CHUBBL3S ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 07:19:13 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
CaN't TaKe A jOkE kEk
kalwolf9973 ยท -6 points ยท Posted at 23:16:00 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
when wanking, towards the end, when ur about to cum, go tighter on the tip of ur dick to get more cum out and a better orgasm. Still dont always do that but always works better for cumming.
TheLightningCount1 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:37:44 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
This can actually cause a negative side effect. The death grip can make it nearly impossible to cum from vaginal sex.
kalwolf9973 ยท 2 points ยท Posted at 23:44:01 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
.....the guy that told me this has fucked me up lmao, hope he's fucked too, time to go to death grip rehab.
TheLightningCount1 ยท 3 points ยท Posted at 23:53:13 on April 29, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
Stop squeezing it so hard and try moving it up towards your stomach a bit or down towards your balls.
I should stop redditing at work.
kalwolf9973 ยท 1 points ยท Posted at 00:00:31 on April 30, 2019 ยท (Permalink)
no need to worry, i dont do this all the time, just if im in a particular mood, i can still cum from vaginal sex and without doing it so hard, so im not effected from death grip (yet) mainly just been joking about but thanks for the advice anyways.