constant crashing in realms after 15min

i have tried multiple ways to fix the issue. this includes uninstalling/reinstalling both the minecraft app and the xbox app. even trying with the xbox uninstalled. ive tried variations of logging into one and not the other, changed every app setting i could find clearing cache, running at the lowest visual settimgs, changing ui sizes. every time i play on a realm within 10-15 minutes of play.

this is very frustrating and any help would be greatly appreciated.