Minecraft Xbox Lan glitching

I want to play on the Xbox and join my world on the computer, but, when I try to join the world, it has the little 1 friend online thing, and when I go onto the tab, it says that my friends aren't playing Minecraft, even though the 1 up the top is still there. But, when I go into a world on the Xbox, anyone can join the world. This started happening with 1.16.2, and I don't know if there is more. They are the same version, because the computer can join the Xbox