Iron golems never forgive the player

Our realm has a massive village. Literally hundreds of villagers, just roaming about. Every once in a while we have a baby boom, and it results in disassociated villagers, and too many villagers vs. beds. I went over to the village to reduce the population, then allowed the golems to kill me. They were still upset, so I figured that my popularity was too low. I traded 300 emerald and 500 watermelons. Most of the emerald trades were for highest level trades, because I'm pretty sure that makes a difference. Yeah... they still hate me. This has happened once before with another player. We had to kill all the golems (around 30-40) and we started a raid for good measure. That was a while ago, and the village has doubled in size, now that isn't feasible anymore. 

 

I think this is a result of the village size. It spans 3 seperate biomes and around 8 single chunk maps.