bedrock servers not loading.

every time i try to join a server, it loads for ages, then displays one of two messages, "could not connect: outdated client", which i know is not true, because i just updated my game less than 5 minutes ago, or "connection timed out. unable to connect to world." i have a relatively fast internet connection so i dont think it can actually be that. can somone help me with this?

i unfurtunately cannot provide screenshots, as i am unsure as to how to take one