Minecraft Multiplayer realms and servers not working.

for 5 months now my minecraft multiplayer has just not been working. It says i need to check my privacy setting which i DID many MANY times but everything seems alright. All my other multiplayer games work just fine but minecraft just doesnt let me do anything on multiplayer servers and worlds. ive tried so many things, reinstalling minecraft, going in and out of the beta and simply just waiting. please i was looking forward to playing 1.17 with my friends in hope that this issue would be fixed. ive contacted microsoft and many other people, and no one helps at all.