Cannot connect to Realms, Servers,or any multiplayer games since 1.16.100 update

I have been unable to join ANY multiplayer games, realms, servers or friends games since the update. i continiously get the "Cannot connect to server:SERVER OUTDATED update pending in 48 hours" it's been 48 hours and i'm still recieving this message on my xbox, also recieving it on my PE of Minecraft with the same account. not ammused by this in the least. please fix it. 11/19/2020