unable to connect to realm and seeing myself as a joinable friend.

I am consistently unable to connect to a realm which I am a member of. Sometimes it says unable to connect after a long wait, but sometimes it eventually connects but I am invisible to other players and unable to interact with anything, or they simply see me as still being where \i spawned. When I try and rejoin, I see myself listed as a friend that I can join, but neither joining myself nor rejoining the realm will do anything.